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parenting,pingachulo,2018/01/01,"Parents who don’t fully cover their kids in this weather (7 to 11 degrees F in NYC) is it because you were raised like that? Or are you trying to get your child accustomed to the temperature? I’ve tried with my son and he’s guaranteed to get sick if he isn’t bundled up. Im not throwing judgement just honestly questioning it. 

Edit: Just something interesting i came across [Does being cold make you sick? ](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RWiOhlqEDz4) ",5.714785714285719,8.363631050000002,5.239642857142859,77.85250000000003,69.75,8.071428571428571,30.17857142857143,8.841846274778883,2.708357142857144,364,15,60,7,7,111,65,80,0.095,0.7959999999999999,0.109,0.2869,1,0,1,0,0,0,20,0,4,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,1,0,10,10,3,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,7,3,9,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,3,1,34,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898240427323152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35615393845984145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725046395887785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253829976282654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363609942750213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213230140620124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078591729179144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457682818216686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488346602681712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397277676044576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228347340645681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rivsmama,2018/01/01,Help advice needed asap 4yo stomach ache/constipated/maybe having trouble peeing? My 4 yo son started complaining of stomach pain about 45 minutes ago. He pointed closer to his left side of his stomach when I asked where it hurt. He says he has to poop and has tried a few times with no luck. Another weird thing is he peed when he was trying but has said 2 times since that he has to pee and nothing is happening. Idk if he's just saying that so he can stay on the potty or if he's really having trouble. Every 30 seconds or so he will yell out or say ow so I think the pains are sharp/jabby. I called his dr  and Wil take him to urgent care if I have to but I just want to make the pain go away I feel so bad for him. Does anyone have any tips or things I can do to give him relief?,0.9929416167664656,2.8417865988024005,2.824337574850301,93.40381175149702,81.21556886227546,5.372604790419163,18.820733532934128,6.322622252153567,-0.14577814371257514,610,14,137,5,16,203,112,167,0.161,0.743,0.096,-0.9161,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,0,4,0,16,10,6,1,0,22,29,18,0,5,11,1,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,0,1,2,6,14,3,15,26,1,16,0,1,0,0,26,8,0,8,6,78,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650236349991733,0.1328970977170362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195232389675224,0.1572066325698354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482917740080468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015713837988078,0.0,0.14085696202240197,0.0,0.1251788813759196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530874589104396,0.0,0.15285580489712194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119803928553858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631602719051058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580523355081459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381915780752108,0.08520431379754898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325758192656187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048977603527603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049495257817364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289104772096896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007431791068512,0.0,0.15061712911260192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116550633616712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385451686284886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785837809723476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172505886236936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604408211000427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261046551739168,0.35767275730377857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401729873419992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611579519732812,0.1597972535357191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272293237211778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19920346560331986,0.09606417399667322,0.0,0.0,0.17484182985928792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357483870662832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842807323543259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,misterhamtastic,2018/01/01,"It will be 13 degrees (F) out in the morning. Should I have my kid stay home so they don't have to wait for the unreliable bus? She has only a winter coat and a hat(great for Temps to 30F).  Her bus sometimes takes an hour.  I have to be at work at 630a, 30 minutes away.  Her bus comes between 715 and 815.

Advice?  Wwyd?

Edit: I'm going to tell her to message me if she's out there and the bus is late.  Thanks for the advice.",-1.023937728937728,1.0385895274725279,1.2422252747252784,99.66319139194141,93.28571428571428,3.4728937728937725,16.374542124542124,4.7782277997778095,-1.0211326007326007,321,8,77,1,12,107,65,91,0.0,0.96,0.04,0.5329999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,16,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,15,12,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,3,49,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4943292916605745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376402694077824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178806575781328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374849347052165,0.0,0.0,0.278861156378922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537139057670749,0.0,0.2490895123516531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28532110971468105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236806918113067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501586675577165,0.0,0.0,0.26959450094353543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017525035848065,0.0,0.22107588345737356,0.23286808573171186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413931337443626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LadySerenity23,2018/01/01,"Just a rant about kids and social media... The biggest problem with social media, IMHO, is the block function. Instead of learning healthy coping skills, our kids can simply block the offending party without having to actually handle a negative interaction.
Fast forward to adulthood, this makes them unable to handle interpersonal relationships with any success. You can’t just block that coworker from contacting you, you can’t just block the jerk who stares at you sideways or calls you a name, you can’t just pretend assholes don’t exist.
It’s our responsibility as parents to ready our children for the reality that is this cold, hard world we live in. And we’ll never be able to do that if this safe space bubble of a block button is used as a way to handle the idiots.

End rant.",7.3306682206682225,8.323533846153849,7.357715617715616,70.6112742812743,63.68531468531469,9.152758352758351,33.37140637140637,9.150863307647796,3.0698040404040405,632,25,102,10,9,203,92,143,0.229,0.6809999999999999,0.09,-0.9639,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,5,6,1,2,6,6,3,0,11,0,12,0,0,2,1,24,14,6,0,2,7,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,5,0,6,1,1,0,1,7,4,0,0,0,3,12,2,18,12,0,10,0,0,1,0,24,6,0,2,4,71,20,2,0.2452380770585289,0.0,0.2393169871912117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677030197179388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250415495937527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21720814575617045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196851473770608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21654971501253267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369832074144525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891427234754287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723078626037567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346597196192652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632939169725806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49997867200378404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118069592583987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465857067617184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364007549432339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gimbleturren,2018/01/01,"Potty Training a Tyrannical Camel My daughter is 28 months old. For background, she was born very premature and spent over 100 days in the NICU. In spite of this, she has caught up developmentally and is doing amazing, with no long term issues other than a milk allergy and a speech therapist to help her eating skills. She is very smart and talks at a level way above her age according to our developmental pediatrician. She can be very sweet and loving but she has always been willful. My wife and I are fairly stubborn people and she has inherited that trait in spades.

We have been using the Oh Crap! Potty Training method by Jaime Glowacki. We are only potty training while she is awake and not trying to nighttime/naptime potty train her. We are on day 3 and it’s just not working. The first day went about as well as we could have hoped: some accidents but also some successes using the potty. Day 2 was a disaster. She turned into a camel. Despite voluntarily drinking (we didn’t push them) extra fluids she held her pee for hours yesterday. The two times (in the whole day!!!!!) she did go we just couldn’t get her to the potty in Times. It wasn’t all bad, we really learned what her cues were and learned that, when possible, she will try to go where we can’t see her. This is probably because she wants privacy. Considering her intellectual development the book we are using says this isn’t odd.

This brings us to today. We woke up ready to get through block one (the first step where the toddler is naked). No dice. She held her pee from 7 am to 12 pm, peed a small amount in her diaper, and hasn’t peed since then (it is currently 4:30). Clearly she has bladder control but there is no way she doesn’t need to go.

We finally decided that because the problem seems to behavioral that we would wait for her to show us her cues and then sit her on the potty, not allowing her to get up until she peed or pooped. As I write this she is still there...waiting us out. I have no idea what to do or how to get her to release into the potty when she clearly has to go. Help?

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parenting,MyCatterpitter,2018/01/01,"Car seat advice I am a Little anxious about the car seat placement in terms of safety for me little ones. We have a mid size suv. I have a 3 yr old in a forward facing convertible seat and an infant in a bucket seat. Husband Is tall so we had to move the convertible seat to the driver side and the bucket seat is behind the passenger. If placed in the driver or middle it pushes the chair too forward for him to fit


Now I know Middle is safest but that doesn’t work and there are no latches. Is one side safer than the other? I am now very nervous since my toddler is now on the driver side and that’s the side you merge onto the highway 

Are there any studies about safety? Anyone else had this worry? Or what car did you find works for long legs and multiple seats? 
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parenting,LikeSnowLikeGold,2018/01/01,"""I can't."" My niece is four, and she will not stop saying that she ""can't"" do anything. Literally anything... she ""can't"" velcro her shoes/take her boots off/zip her coat/get up off the couch/try a new thing/etc. 

Is this just a phase, or is she learning it from somewhere (it would not surprise me if her mother said this constantly..), or is there some growth-mindset technique that I can use? I try telling her that she can, and that nobody can do anything unless they try, and if she can't do it at first she just has to practice to be able to do it, etc. Nothing seems to work or get through to her. 

She has (and her family seems to encourage) such a fixed mindset, and I'm trying to influence her positively here lol. Any advice welcome! :)",1.2127600671140932,3.4759660604026874,2.4552978187919443,94.04589974832216,83.0268456375839,5.335738255033559,22.064177852348994,6.6274283507984215,0.3937949664429525,569,19,124,6,16,182,84,149,0.013,0.888,0.1,0.9112,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,0,1,2,5,3,0,0,4,1,20,0,0,2,0,23,26,11,0,3,10,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,10,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,2,22,3,13,22,2,7,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,8,4,90,32,2,0.16872977235487532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648807807401843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474203119175035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41655067781918775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233694156582425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763565957534191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906341281099254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435214581694128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630868398177646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629602655621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190076724162822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050065223856913,0.13418068729376906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072104954096312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106564490775164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747725810392198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209656332556152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458225758863268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572834874381538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228372838362391,0.0,0.0,0.11986078918723353,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,caa2,2018/01/01,"[Sleep advice] Almost 2 year old has started waking for the day at 4:30am and we can't break the habit! Oh wise ones, please help me! 😴 
We have been battling with our almost 2 year old for months in an attempt to get him to sleep past 4:30/4:45am. Here's a list of what we've tried:

- earlier bed time {6pm}
- later bed time {7:30pm}
- warmer pj's/room
- cooler pj's/room
- less sleep through the day
- more sleep through the day
- a snack right before bed
- white noise
- block out blinds
- exhausting him in the afternoon (swimming etc) 
- bigger nappies
- pain relief (in case it was teething)
- leaving him in his cot to see if he'll go back to sleep

I am at my wits end. I know he's not getting enough sleep because by 7/730am he is asking to go back to bed and if I let him, he will sleep for another 2 hours and then again after lunch 😒 leaving him to cry in his cot is not really an option because he wakes the 4 year old and in a few months I'm going to have a newborn to deal with also 😩 

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parenting,theboxsaidmild,2018/01/01,"Be sure to check up on your kids friends parents! So I feel like a shitty dad. My 10 yr old son has been playing PS4 with a group of kids from school for months. They play Fortnite. Well. Turns out one of the kids literally lives a half mile from us. Awesome, right? The kid comes over. Spends the night. Hes a cool little dude. Really mindful. A little hyper but we enjoyed his company. 

We met the dad. He seems like a normal dude. A little older than us (we are mid 30's, kids dad is 50ish) but that's no thing. Today my son ask to go over to his friends house. Sure, No problem. I take him over to his friends house, they live in a double wide on a shady looking dirt road. You know. Just seemed kind of trashy. I try not to judge. People live differently and because you don't make as much money or live in a nice house doesn't mean you're a drug dealer or whatever. Right?

Well. I go run a few quick errands. I come back home. Search this kids last name on the internet. His dads mug shot comes up front and center. 

**Distribution and Manufacturing of Meth.** 

By this time my blood pressure is sky the fuck high. I look at the guys Facebook. Hes talking like a gangster, posting the positions of road blocks that hes come across and posting things like fuck the police. Literally a thug life man child.  

I call my nurse wife as I'm about to go snatch my kid up. She talks me down. Hes only over there for a few hours then I'm to go pick him back up. 

How would you guys handle this? Do I just come out and ask the guy whats up with the drug charges? Do I just not mention it and only let the kids play over at our house? Obviously that's what I'm going to do. 

How would YOU handle this? The kid is really sweet and mindful - I dont want to punish the kids because his friends parent is a drug dealing man child. I think the kid may be in custody of his grand parents. I did notice a older women in their house when I went to the door. 

Then again. I dont want my kid hanging around at convicted meth dealers homes etc.. I get it tho. I'll might just need to cut personal contact between our kids. How would you approach this to your 10 year old child?

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parenting,rageagainsthepusheen,2018/01/01,"Five year-old was just diagnosed with Social Communications Disorder (and other things) - looking for more information We realized last spring that there was something really off with my son.  He would have crazy melt-downs and weird rigidity sometimes.  He had paralyzing anxiety sometimes and obvious sensory struggles.  A child psychologist we brought in to help us said that he might be autistic, but his teachers, occupational therapist and social emotional group therapist all said that he was not autistic.  

Turns out he's not autistic, but he has a diagnosis that is very close - Social Communications Disorder.  Well, that is just one of the diagnoses he got from the neuropsych.  He also got confirmation of SPD, ""unspecified anxiety disorder"", and ""unspecified disruptive, impulse-control, and conduct disorder"".  Basically, other than SPD (""coordination development disorder""), a lot of things that I hadn't heard of before.  From the way the diagnosing doctors described these conditions, they do perfectly describe the things that I have seen with my son for whatever that's work. 

Our recommendations from the neuropsych was to get him into more social-emotional group work over the summer and do only part-time kindergarten next year, so that he can go to social-emotional groups in the afternoon.  Get him into therapy with a social worker to work on emotional coping strategies, etc.  Get me and my husband into therapy for 6 - 8 weeks for a crash course in how to better parent a child that is so different and fights us tooth and nail when we try to have any structure.  

We learned a lot over the last year working with different professionals trying to help my son.  Things are much better now... but, now that we know more, I wonder what else might help.  

So... has anyone else been through this?  Do you have any tips?  Any books or anything else that might help?  It's a new diagnosis that came with the new DSM, so there isn't a lot of information on this, but I've seen it called ""autism lite.""  I want to know as much as I can to help my son...

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parenting,Falloutbitch21,2018/01/01,"Everyone expects me to take my newborn baby who was in the NICU out to meet them instead of coming over! What should I do about this? Why is it that everyone expects me to bring my NEWBORN BABY WHO WAS SICK IN THE NICU out to meet them? I don't know if she's going to have a shitty immune system now because of it and I'm not going to risk anything. No one except 2 people have come to my house to meet her I'm not dragging her out in this weather unnecessarily. Like if you want to meet her come over. If not I'll know how much you really care, sorry not sorry!

Even my supposed ""best friend"" wants me to bring my baby over to her house. Yet, when her son was born I always had to go to her house (which I understood) and her baby was 100% healthy so why do you want me to take my NICU grad out in this weather? It was -12 degrees last I checked! I feel like I'm going to lose my cool really soon and just snap on everyone.

How should I handle this situation?",2.1992179802955647,3.4459571576354726,4.006400862068968,88.9364978448276,75.94581280788177,6.651354679802957,22.539716748768484,7.1686216300943375,0.6127539408866989,745,20,166,8,16,252,101,203,0.073,0.792,0.136,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,3,2,2,11,8,0,1,3,1,14,2,0,2,0,32,36,10,0,10,9,1,1,2,1,2,2,0,0,2,12,10,0,0,4,0,1,9,6,2,0,1,7,2,31,6,31,27,2,28,0,1,0,0,23,12,0,3,8,115,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755267078965523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636798439526048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879422809082623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564786778502405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317867291647234,0.0,0.0,0.33403190964492463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537342016956075,0.0,0.0,0.37053350385069656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535652205000363,0.09234164923903956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986409460376183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938402721090277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4474377186195711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207318388924278,0.10536218890425864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629746036845813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460618214683402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501920236743797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758828925541927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961093894076735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561144596928434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529094859688366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893865825583553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943712450982936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22871842935660144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23326974330553246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mimimagblumen,2018/01/01,"Sleep trouble with toddler - help My son is 20 months and used to go to bed super easily. We have an established routine since he was 3 months old - it’s the same thing every single night, no matter where we are: we play a playlist of lullabies (the same playlist every night) while we change pjs and diaper, milk, brush teeth, read book, lay in bed, lights and music off, done. 

Recently he freaks out though when we put him in bed, comes up with millions of things/requests (water, pipi, kaka, water, light on/off, more milk, another book) before we do and it’s become a real struggle. He’s also more clingy during the day, it’s ‘mama, come’ non stop like a broken record all day, I can’t leave his side or he cries and I have no idea what the hell happened - and mostly, how to fix it. 

We moved in the beginning of December but he was totally fine for a while. Then we visited family over Christmas and there he started to be difficult about going to bed, as in, only my husband could put him to bed without meltdowns; and since we returned it’s 9/10 days war and tears and screaming until he’s finally asleep. If he cries a lot he vomits, so CIO is not really an option - we do let him cry for a bit but we know how he sounds when he’s about to vomit, so we have to go in. When we do, he acts like he’s not one bit tired, but right before bedtime he’s yawning, asking for milk and his stuffed animal and cuddles. He wakes up at 8am, naps from 1pm to ~2:30pm and goes to bed at 8pm (before the vacation it was all one hour earlier and will be again once I go back to work). 

I know it’s probably just a phase but I’m afraid of establishing bad habits (more milk/another hug/going in 2-4 times after light off/etc.). 

Can anyone give advice on how to deal with this? 

Tia!",3.830681818181816,4.336997774104681,4.969356060606064,86.3740340909091,71.25895316804406,8.253856749311295,25.042355371900825,8.344100000000001,1.3398504132231412,1364,36,296,20,24,451,206,363,0.119,0.8140000000000001,0.067,-0.9557,0,0,0,0,0,0,62,13,0,0,2,17,14,2,2,15,0,20,14,4,4,3,62,35,35,1,2,10,2,0,2,0,1,4,2,6,0,10,33,5,1,3,5,0,11,6,9,0,3,4,6,24,5,43,26,13,54,1,0,0,1,40,17,1,5,28,168,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818579085930608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035209930094943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21071957036660835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025644803494457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393322501867732,0.0,0.0,0.07726126352015243,0.0838948066990391,0.0,0.11096988974164083,0.2564977460924553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21939157448386007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629224103361627,0.17310553947059024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022338622720022,0.0,0.3311105961504514,0.19439970025265754,0.10358825003856746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282372438047648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205936141640173,0.0,0.0,0.16931384220177292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472157345153363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006857192857933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638750811046656,0.2855193846357827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885222976912957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734818399911814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895044124473652,0.0,0.0,0.11342726097257813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104399958416911,0.0,0.0,0.10639153391355352,0.0,0.10274540787470446,0.0,0.09817680308187117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542267383989792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604009204299178,0.1067920518018938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18858330889106567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543460001355852,0.107005629619545,0.13617278132783173,0.07641793163896149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833211515310988,0.0,0.0,0.20201598021603506,0.0,0.0,0.10050503942934252,0.1143657892171632,0.06436868275734146,0.0,0.09920975384981384,0.0,0.0,0.08580753378517855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662326295023781,0.0,0.10055041259717824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111873846403642,0.0,0.0,0.08400398061051875,0.0,0.10504126353745173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675301798864007,0.0,0.09871897619041524,0.0,0.058589441596388,0.11548450618798338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678060055149324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685706058304007,0.0,0.07314907053645911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GWindborn,2018/01/01,"I just opened a door into my 15 month old daughter's face.. Tell me about your parenting fails to help me feel better. I knew she was in the bedroom with my wife, I didn't realize the poor girl was right on the other side of the door..  I just opened the door to walk through and *bonk*, right into her little forehead.  Broke my heart.  I scooped her up and held her as she cried it out.  A few hours later, it doesn't look like there's a bruise, which is a relief..

So, what unintentionally terrible things have you guys done?",0.642677793904209,3.036035764150945,1.7277358490566073,97.19846879535558,87.58490566037734,4.770972423802613,16.644412191582006,6.297961479604792,-0.5183750362844703,405,9,92,4,13,127,77,106,0.126,0.7979999999999999,0.077,-0.6418,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,2,0,2,5,6,0,0,9,0,7,3,3,0,0,14,11,4,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,6,8,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,6,2,17,3,13,5,1,17,0,2,1,0,14,12,0,0,5,59,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22016046365676514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734405339709564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547442554816736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586769252252228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24648219645248154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949860726438597,0.16685412918339773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451482538329417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161578836669178,0.2494956448407871,0.0,0.0,0.20904050665755944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986954533094749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26121266122472603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764099523720516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4251737902031158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757787504773826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537961420019973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Worriedsickmama,2018/01/01,"My son was diagnosed with anxious and ambivalent attachment. Does It get better? I have posted to this sub a couple of times regarding my 3 year old son. I was concerned about him having mental disorders associated with his bio family. I recently found out that his issues steam from anxious and ambivalent attachment. 

I feel terrible for not knowing that this was happening to my baby boy and am scared for what the future may hold. I was told that I needed to stop using timeouts because kids with anxious attachment struggle with being alone and can't take the withdrawal of attention. It says that kids with anxious attachment often are good liars and manipulators when they get older. I am more scared about ambivalent attachment though. It is associated with intense rage which my son has. It is often misdiagnosed as ODD and the kids tend to take an interest in fire, gore, and death as they get older. 

We are going to start therapy as soon as we can. I am scared that it will make things worse but I feel like I am out of options. I wish I would have known what was going on sooner. He is struggling more and more each day and I know it's my fault. I'm hoping someone has some experience. Even if our lives won't ever be normal, does it get better. 

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parenting,Ladybugsrred,2018/01/01,"Any parents here that bought a home after your kids were a little older? I'm feeling bummed out atm. Well it's 2018 and my children are turning 6 and 4 this year. I still live with my one parent...I'm feeling bummed out because i always envisioned having my own home by now. My husband and i are working really hard to save what we need to move, but we just don't have enough yet. I feel bad my kids don't have a yard to play in or their own rooms. I feel like they're missing out on childhood experiences because we can't give them a home yet...We budgeted and save what we can and estimated, and we think we need one or two more years in order to have the down payment. I'm just really bummed out today, maybe its the holiday season...I just needed to vent.

edit: Thank you everyone for the kind words. I honestly wouldn't mind the upkeeping and mowing etc...I get jealous when i see everyone my age with their own homes for their kids. I made a lot of mistakes in my life and can't help but feel like my kids are paying the price. I will try for the rest of my life to make things right...",2.5623795476892823,3.9571708230088563,3.7694985250737454,90.39996066863328,75.28318584070797,6.969124877089479,22.73254670599804,7.594959193182576,0.7658818092428716,850,23,188,11,18,277,131,226,0.081,0.7659999999999999,0.153,0.9401,2,0,0,0,0,0,30,6,2,4,1,9,13,1,0,11,0,15,2,0,2,0,45,35,13,0,5,7,2,6,2,0,2,2,0,6,5,7,20,0,0,6,3,5,1,5,4,1,3,3,7,30,9,24,30,7,25,0,1,1,0,21,12,0,3,13,118,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817706055435203,0.0,0.0,0.08023718767395227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851664987986634,0.14385111305577222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219151220173048,0.13158994351133652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254888386491841,0.0,0.11541677653590447,0.0,0.0,0.2982962289924935,0.16858403649985246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616448602934024,0.11318667701776078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569578750450642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790861523394145,0.0,0.473414016839887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286833881831125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667953149211848,0.1152878243135885,0.11825689104889275,0.1041872558768898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031080565781468,0.0,0.11164490965300868,0.07875918390711836,0.0,0.11853672769399935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913617815588558,0.0,0.0,0.125404605973545,0.0,0.2624640789099986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990603887278826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620276730148972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117472062798926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076274200493583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402268537818864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422689786031001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862926051171476,0.0,0.0,0.07838725614092862,0.07560317276848083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184064242317716,0.0,0.0,0.08010740665185878,0.12833914494706228,0.11525900152722568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608710284702083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589806276006985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196327253283404
parenting,Falkarr,2018/01/01,"21 Month old daughter won't move her arm, cries when she is touched on her arm, literally just lets it hang. After X-rays and 4.5 hours of waiting emergency room told us to just call this doctor when he gets back in town. So Saturday my daughter was playing at this gym and her arm got yanked on too hard. She took a nap and her arm was still immobile, so she went to the ER. After 2 sets of x rays, trying to move it back into place, and 4.5 hours of waiting, they said they couldn't see what was wrong and to call this orthopedic doctor Tuesday if she still hurts.

Well it's now 2 days later and she still just lets the arm hang and cries when it's moved around. I really don't know what to do. The ER will probably just send us back home right? No doctor is open right now either. The orthopedic doctor won't be back until Wednesday.

When her arm isn't moved she doesn't cry or anything, and is playing, but can definitely be more ornery than usual.

I'm just worried I need to see a doctor but as far as I know the ER is the only place open still and they just told us to go home. What do I do? Just wait it out? Her arm isn't getting worse but it's not really improving much.",2.568896434634976,3.7447790645161305,3.7271392190152817,91.58899830220714,74.88709677419354,6.995246179966045,21.52037351443124,7.475848149327749,0.4686096774193546,920,21,212,11,19,299,122,248,0.078,0.8690000000000001,0.053,-0.6193,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,3,0,3,0,26,5,0,0,8,0,23,14,7,0,0,35,41,23,0,3,14,2,2,0,0,3,7,1,3,0,12,14,0,3,2,4,0,10,9,2,4,0,9,5,23,3,23,24,3,54,0,1,2,0,27,16,0,2,27,133,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964904866583564,0.07534488404445562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603225490862578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284770281328915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27890934762176506,0.054583870370107125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331478366335304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843869016235126,0.0,0.048101163918021834,0.0,0.06769194958402347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581813761995983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169795646200442,0.0,0.16670081438236467,0.0,0.09060567097953612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302857579816093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730941565424554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755645484494112,0.3598229938340237,0.06221794168145819,0.06275727136317469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881230576257793,0.0,0.0,0.06437026089718613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685532524083622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125301308723646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844127324131238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455909020913454,0.08050917931897937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488947984985222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703649058547499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174858245641865,0.09403483362780267,0.05746297487636168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054237101313918,0.0,0.09321571039514426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609883755315533,0.07845935731189026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595299323826296,0.08625234514128075,0.0,0.0925372851919191,0.0,0.0
parenting,hannaka,2018/01/01,"How do we tell our 4 1/2 year old we are separating? Hello, 

I'm looking for tips and ideas as to how and when to tell our 4 1/2 year old daughter that we are separating.  Daddy will be moving out in a month and mommy will be staying in the family home.  We will be splitting custody 50/50 with Mon, Tues with mom and Wed, Thurs with dad and then alternating weekends.

She is very bright and this will be difficult for her.  Thanks so much for your thoughts, suggestions and ideas!",5.078771929824561,5.5404638421052645,5.490263157894738,83.90100877192985,68.47368421052633,8.85964912280702,28.464912280701753,8.841846274778883,1.9134912280701748,375,12,79,6,6,120,63,95,0.026,0.907,0.067,0.5974,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,6,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,2,0,20,16,13,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,2,15,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,9,2,12,7,1,13,0,0,2,0,17,3,0,0,8,50,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327726400775944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056546006102919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462891606755062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216752880926695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24012024374584384,0.16364725539997296,0.21790680663266332,0.1507153597117546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4302739128969385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21852704230241984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35839795520497425,0.18875746294333887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276521433536775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916529461672164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26405594265065985
parenting,pcbzelephant,2018/01/01,What to do with 2 year old? It’s too cold to even leave the house! So the past week it’s been in the negatives with today being -25! It’s suppose to be like this for the next 2 weeks too(it’s already been 3 days). It’s never been this cold where I live usually it’s in the 30’s so I’m not used to it either! So anyone have any fun ideas to keep my 2 and half year old entertained? We can’t leave the house because my cars older and idk if it will run in the cold very well and I don’t want to get stuck somewhere in this cold weather plus there is ice all over the roads. We are going stir crazy and I’ve run out of ideas. ,-0.562340425531918,1.2349313475177333,1.3823829787234023,101.89400000000002,86.58865248226951,4.611063829787233,15.073758865248227,5.6839178017228535,-1.0778590070921985,484,8,126,3,15,159,86,141,0.06,0.841,0.099,0.8036,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,2,20,19,9,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,10,0,1,2,1,0,4,5,0,1,1,4,4,6,4,17,12,2,25,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,1,14,73,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822237211162388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229323672720926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546188633923005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006609750424263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649440595966617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906600553366264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627297504583391,0.0,0.09384649426075886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810728959747973,0.0,0.3728205988344862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467740518661903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496950825089559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067358367554943,0.0,0.1458117429998107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273574993349095,0.0,0.17561633684939462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34654976570784385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763411058342014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652278076324022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261825238222833,0.1818660281385188,0.13624854181983664,0.09739723609648636,0.0,0.2649127028150428,0.0,0.14847060944001186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267504795548373
parenting,AutoModerator,2018/01/01,"Weekly - Stories from the week/end - January 01, 2018 This weekly thread is meant as a place to share stories that happened to us as parents over the weekend.  Share good, bad, fun, not fun, etc. Also, if you ever wonder who we are, [click here to meet the mod team!](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/wiki/meetmodteam) 
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parenting,news_at_111111111111,2018/01/01,"Will my 8 week old ever sleep through the night? New dad here.  We had a kid 8 weeks ago. He sleeps in 1-3 hour chunks.

Can't manage to nap during the day (to catch up).

I haven't had a solid night of sleep since two days before he was born.  I feel tired all of the time, have all day headaches, and some old injuries feel sore again.  I want to cry sometimes over how tired I am.

I know it's a cliche but wtf how do people have children without going insane.

This part gets better right?  Real soon?

EDIT: *I* can't nap during the day.  He does.",-1.1735601023017883,0.8906294956521776,0.4899744245524325,103.59838874680307,97.52173913043478,2.7058823529411766,11.982097186700766,3.1291,-1.8822890025575445,412,6,99,0,17,131,82,115,0.129,0.8009999999999999,0.069,-0.698,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,7,0,11,6,3,2,3,15,17,4,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,2,0,2,4,0,0,1,3,2,8,1,10,13,4,24,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,18,51,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758770726780952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247617754757105,0.0,0.0,0.12729682958207916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810337821599138,0.3712988915661963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595652815620556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019542165826858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555345622735033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751989264552743,0.0,0.08180030439718697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174477547961567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910168068797216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901115643745565,0.0,0.2701422898342963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30206643889018325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586515285381825,0.0,0.09978485290746908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382699168608456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291779054079405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906266637014158,0.0,0.4321101193288883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423531799170629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392834978891847,0.3308590683391364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406013921988209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489527097304324,0.0,0.2309083562433417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874604431527826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gardan_mom,2018/01/01,"Mom of teen girl needs advice!!!! I’m a wreck. Five weeks ago my teen (15) daughter was hospitalized after an intentional med overdose. She has a history of cutting as well. A few weeks after getting out we let her go out with friends. She lied and tried to go somewhere else. We “tightened the reigns” and restricted her from going anywhere but 2 trusted friends houses. Well, we let her go to that friends house and we caught her sneaking out to a party. Again. 

This was all tonight. I’ve taken away all her electronics. She just started intensive outpatient therapy. (3 days a week for 3 hours each. Every other week includes a parent session.) She is on medication for anxiety and depression. She sees a counselor and we see the counselor together. 

I know that there are often other issues than just the teen’s issues and I’m looking critically at what we are doing as a family to contribute to these problems. I am so worried about things getting much worse. As of now she is not sexually active and not abusing substances. All liquor and sharps are locked away. 

I always thought we had a very good mother-daughter relationship but she’s lied to me. She played me. We’ve taken away her electronics and she is restricted to our supervision until further notice. I know there is one particular “friend” whom she gets in trouble with. 

I would appreciate advice. 
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parenting,edwoodscissorhands,2018/01/01,"Disciplining 2 year old My daughter is two years and two months and has a very strong will. Recently she has started getting angry of we ask her to do something she dosnt want to do ( which appears to be almost everything at times). In addition there have been a couple of instances where she has reached out to slap/hit her cousin while playing together. The first was over a toy and the second was because her cousin told her parents that she had done something that got the sticker book she was looking at taken away.

She also tries to push us away if we are carrying her and she is not happy. This can be with either her hands or her head ( not headbutting).

I want to nip this behaviour in the bud any advice?

In addition we are a bilingual household. We are in norway and my wife speaks norwegian to her an i try to speak just english to her. I am worried that trying to discipline her in english might be confusing for  her",4.2310714285714255,5.907354694444442,4.764285714285716,83.805,71.5,7.80952380952381,29.523809523809533,8.418075326091056,2.2012142857142862,735,30,139,12,14,234,112,180,0.057,0.8909999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.4597,1,0,2,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,2,5,4,0,1,9,0,24,2,2,0,0,27,34,9,0,3,6,5,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,6,13,0,2,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,4,9,4,28,3,25,20,1,23,0,0,1,0,33,12,0,6,9,111,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684937197502924,0.0,0.0,0.1607284582372308,0.0,0.0,0.12836049088089174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915290096742623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005600324471194,0.0,0.30161050652997506,0.0,0.0,0.09784594121889983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760223317502835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425835604177588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425682704773052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653047054820527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386030873987059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837521181960124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086681396626,0.0,0.0,0.16473046787769094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478871154439367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027667588310935,0.0,0.0,0.12811825119227366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684291652777134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822833446968567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848512752154162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471382309630969,0.0,0.0,0.11361042535904982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359518356306144,0.0,0.0,0.15337502215524734,0.0,0.3269290491795091,0.0,0.313591608679721,0.0,0.19307482265266745,0.0,0.0,0.13243828413588965,0.1893469486851974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16300658765625267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672748532594967
parenting,RiachArbiter,2018/01/01,"Need reassurance, I am terrified my toddler is going to grow up to be someone none of us like to be around I made this account just to post this. I feel so horrible even thinking it, but it seems like our almost 1.5 year old daughter is just cursed with a really obnoxious personality and I don't know how to just accept it and move on somehow. Ever since she was born, she has been EXTREMELY demanding, loud, obtrusive, and dramatic -- the exact opposite of the rest of us. We are all quiet, reserved, polite people who enjoy having our personal space and time to relax. She is nonstop shouting, yelling, tantruming, screeching, biting, scratching, demanding attention and in your face 24/7. And worse, the kid doesn't fucking SLEEP! I haven't had more than 4 or 5 hours sleep in a single night SINCE SHE WAS BORN. And that's not 4 or 5 hours in a stretch; that's broken up over the course of the night. We have tried every reputable sleep training method short of just shutting the door and refusing to open it until morning. We can't do that because she would likely scream the entire night and 1., we don't want to do that to her, and 2., we live in a condo and would have the cops called on us after a couple hours or so. But we've tested it out and she will cry for AT LEAST two hours STRAIGHT with no sign of stopping. She wakes up 4 - 10 times every night, whining, then fussing, then all out screaming until someone comes and rocks her back to sleep. She wants to be nursed to sleep even if she just ate a 7 course meal and then wants to nurse hourly after that, ALL NIGHT LONG. She used to take good naps though, which helped us maintain our sanity but not anymore. Now she'll sleep half an hour and wake up yelling, then act like you'd expect a sleep deprived toddler to act for the rest of the day. My spouse and I finally admitted to one another that we genuinely regret having had her. I wish on a daily basis that I could go back and NOT make that decision. The thing is, in spite of this, I do love her. I WANT to like her. I want to hold her and hug her and cuddle with her, I want to sit on the floor and read books with her like I did with her older sibling, and draw pictures and go for walks... but she makes everything miserable by constantly doing things that ruin it for everyone. Try to read her a book? She yanks it out of your hands and throws it. Or reaches out and tries to tear the pages. Try to draw a picture? It's not fun until you make Daddy or Mommy mad by trying to draw on them and then biting when they take the crayons away. Walks? Forget it, she will refuse to hold your hand and sit down on the sidewalk and scream when you insist. We can't take her places in the car; she screams the entire time. We can't go to the store because we have about 30 seconds before she starts yelling and throwing the items she can grab on the floor, or trying to get out of her seat, etc. There isn't a second of peace in our house until she falls asleep for a blissful few minutes before the battle begins again. I hate that I long for the times when she is sleeping so I don't have to deal with her. I cry often, thinking of the fun times we all had before she arrived. We are all cranky and totally overwhelmed by this tiny, obnoxious, high maintenance addition and I don't know what to do. 


I want to know if anyone had a baby like this who learned to fit in with their family eventually. I want to enjoy being around her like we did with our other child. I am sick of dreading every day because it's completely overwhelming and I'm barely clinging to sanity. I want to hear some stories that will give me a reason to keep trying with her, because I do love her. I know it sounds like I don't but I'm crying as I write this because admitting it is so hard. I kiss her and hug her and tell her she's wonderful all day, even though inside I'm dying for a moment of peace. ",5.3786086956521775,5.280739014012738,5.676390196621437,84.76068332871782,67.77707006369428,8.660481860980338,28.148019939075052,8.18289091462,1.6454763223483797,3046,87,638,36,46,972,341,785,0.17800000000000002,0.73,0.092,-0.9969,0,0,1,0,3,0,87,21,6,3,0,29,40,6,4,39,0,56,24,14,7,9,146,105,66,1,18,22,2,6,9,0,6,1,12,2,4,37,64,2,6,16,7,2,15,17,18,0,5,11,18,101,22,106,82,18,110,0,7,0,7,93,41,1,14,60,441,138,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052636620329481916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511936881004762,0.0,0.0,0.052130717675095126,0.03675492564629591,0.0,0.0,0.09358863930157822,0.0,0.0,0.04938689107615541,0.08083904254908061,0.0,0.1602167940638852,0.0,0.13418776282828232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053675115164934964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045280407778648855,0.05511378545348609,0.056804485736575226,0.0,0.04196916693551359,0.058162576931486076,0.17322175661595354,0.10170093604639313,0.05419258352064312,0.0,0.0,0.054554550214518216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058624277372841926,0.10415678413958784,0.04754838236745311,0.13286576225543495,0.05022845921470792,0.04724236092677368,0.0,0.04955394823802698,0.0,0.02657862812475813,0.0,0.0,0.057582788347294474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04859583322313658,0.027463233830928538,0.05042548823518442,0.11949643395173827,0.04408933449426417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04708824244818775,0.051897415624915504,0.0,0.0,0.05924498706442165,0.0,0.03523345635221162,0.05553819451289696,0.0,0.0,0.3105977781976264,0.060653374032975015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04672251194041405,0.0,0.0,0.11555420033530844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311270409018801,0.0,0.04641618063097538,0.09303738836784688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488458900342413,0.04973861965523221,0.1052633686091324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05586866449100419,0.0,0.038976552340925806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24664517244652084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05515850847053644,0.0,0.03561965195183466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03644220572500508,0.09179609893583797,0.054919618805047137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503430895797432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051591805343234,0.0,0.033674719045280334,0.05404595031132442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04785353438190352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696522679753467,0.0,0.4208266192877228,0.0,0.08907692693080183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03720603613498757,0.0,0.0,0.04394699913944968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856783866944172,0.0,0.04594444621310709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984418602027764,0.06736352721763235,0.10329040910102512,0.0,0.15325643622505236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498190280582589,0.0,0.05134872388380328,0.0,0.2529186491704036,0.04539959832903267,0.0,0.0,0.27903972955431466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06044757595280581,0.0,0.05700489641503169,0.0,0.0,0.05356859805889213,0.07468185471678453,0.0,0.0,0.03385037185110633
parenting,invertednipples,2018/01/01,"How do I deal with a bossy 3 year old? My daughter is SO bossy.   She'll ask me to sing, and then tell me not to.  She'll tell me that only she can be Elsa (from Frozen).  She'll make demands all day. She also says stop being so bossy to me.  Or nobody can teach me anything!  I try to curb the bossiness by getting her to ask nicely, use manners, etc. She usually catches on pretty quick but her go to behavior is bossiness, then ask nicely. Thoughts?  Is this just three? ",0.08531250000000057,2.366481906250001,1.788333333333334,96.49000000000002,89.3125,4.033333333333334,19.458333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.3050041666666665,357,11,78,2,12,116,66,96,0.017,0.892,0.092,0.7982,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,3,1,13,19,9,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,16,2,10,13,2,11,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,1,8,53,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491927380546034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970685459857018,0.0,0.5783818739419838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299904492264514,0.21261048709074787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22999708369384486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774484519005506,0.0,0.1172032839992242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765780369974745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21640004205838834,0.0,0.0,0.15684456163877636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20980651095451747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16399960629797072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241460521356947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605021371517532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372082142127375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400142702441175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781134998072775,0.22712937668724975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280311769460462
parenting,darth_scion,2018/01/01,"2 year old sleeping issue So me and my ex split up and we're going through a custody battle. As of right now, I get our daughter on one day from 4-8 and one overnight on 4pm to 4pm. 

Before we split a few months ago our daughter was sleeping in her crib in her room at my house every night. Now, my ex lives at her parents and our daughter apparently sleeps in my exs bed everynight with her. 

Now, when my daughter visits for an overnight she cries hysterically pleading to sleep in 'daddys bed' most of the time I convince her to let me rock her in her room until she falls asleep and I put her in her crib. 

Tonight, I allowed her to sleep in my bed but I'm just worried about her habits. 

Should I allow her to sleep in my bed or should I keep convincing her to sleep in her crib?? 

Advice? Thanks",3.078232931726909,4.021245759036148,3.8796987951807225,91.88573293172692,73.33734939759036,6.256224899598394,25.88152610441768,5.985473137389443,0.5924514056224903,620,20,140,3,12,198,92,166,0.04,0.888,0.07200000000000001,0.7461,3,0,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,4,0,4,8,8,2,0,16,9,11,0,2,3,8,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,1,0,35,3,29,5,2,34,0,0,0,0,29,17,0,2,13,89,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716332891349847,0.10628269742200608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202470753996074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170276250090415,0.07732454910923214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010195732492504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264196542171177,0.0,0.06814102382939917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834665583354974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251427791089817,0.0,0.1065712069964186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260423745453378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587248391771716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570175905232392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125165263416811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581320180995292,0.0,0.16249251778844825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331329842780705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053100824817957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239257856093477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8398949249463838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038633794242274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991372128837106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176264529562195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721063863284287
parenting,QuestioningESL,2018/01/01,"Son doesn't speak enough English to qualify for ESL services. Is there anything I can do? My 5 year ols son came to us from China in October. We started him in kindergarten in early November. He has no cognitive or developmental delays but his English is still coming along and he doesn't understand a lot in English. We have been fighting to get him into ESL since he came home. We had him in but were told that he can't stay in the program because he doesn't know enough English. I thought the point of ESL was to teach English to kids who don't know but I am now being told that he needs to be proficient enough to qualify for services. 

What can I do? My son needs help. We are working him him at home and he has come a long way since coming home. He speaks some English and understands even more. He is fluent in Mandarian. We do need some more help though. Is there anything we can do to convince the school to put him back in ESL?",2.520252100840338,4.497324455026458,3.5427077497665738,89.46487394957985,76.93650793650794,6.563460939931527,25.932461873638342,7.5105763829236425,1.2647171490818545,738,28,154,10,17,237,100,189,0.026,0.92,0.054000000000000006,0.7423,0,0,0,0,2,0,15,7,0,0,1,7,2,1,0,5,0,27,0,0,0,0,32,44,8,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,4,16,0,1,5,0,0,6,6,1,0,0,9,2,20,1,24,33,8,27,0,0,0,0,35,11,0,4,8,103,24,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20420255329440568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540426291134237,0.0,0.07563357833884755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28381227601582193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32063298566339626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846008585923547,0.0,0.08194886121616314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482287514008606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632665737280838,0.0,0.3733651624456234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363742439503333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980045260978513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054821894219442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759950486539012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728882398079699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472735243189507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556821628115958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20526847176595794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781930961530487,0.13224501081891746,0.0990846342381968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219008171714966,0.09849988039894764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371136014206111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583281537721789,0.14924420514991102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848314980254984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903264176537881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989876361459654
parenting,mommabamber915,2018/01/01,"Trouble with napping Hello all! I was hoping for some advice or tips. So I have a four-month-old daughter. EBF. She sleeps great at night, usually at least 8 hours without waking. However, she basically refuses to take naps during the day for more than ten minutes at a time. This means that she is fussy most of the time and it's very difficult to get anything done. She does get swaddled at night but seems to hate it during the day, but then wakes herself up if she isn't swaddled. It feels like a never ending battle. 

Thank you for any experience you may have with this! ",2.244880952380953,4.758528964285716,3.2214285714285715,88.59023809523809,80.78571428571429,5.8761904761904775,22.72619047619048,7.1686216300943375,0.8899083333333331,452,15,88,6,12,144,82,112,0.103,0.807,0.09,-0.3756,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,2,0,0,1,8,2,0,6,0,7,3,3,0,2,18,16,7,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,1,10,4,16,13,5,16,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,7,12,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18459154012846432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284589274751745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544914900535314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436505985648515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530824182618736,0.19331096158643324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730991737022938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478109410678287,0.0,0.0,0.09551385026597677,0.13495067029397534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197385598055256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20826364614191115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18650029497090345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762097969720334,0.18602910040140327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228732145031096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20576819846074268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077870576308278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569183547737707,0.0,0.0,0.35454094860431984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982194676948689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719680675840938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890370832625063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420297884434997,0.0,0.0,0.17391434947172596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22029898959700467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804739091809635,0.15586282898542336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209349671541364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MommaBee24,2018/01/01,Newborn Health Insurance.. Experienced mom needed! So I’m new to this mommy thing and could use the advice of an experienced mom! I am days from induction and want to know what my next steps should be for getting my newborn health insurance. I am and will continue to be on my parents health insurance plan after the baby but can’t add him on theirs since he is my son. Can he be on a plan of his own? I’ve applied for Medicaid in the past (with my current job) and wasn’t eligible. ,3.950117820324003,5.098499298969075,5.507069219440354,80.26072164948455,71.4742268041237,9.25419734904271,29.32106038291605,9.606745405546679,2.647172017673049,380,15,77,9,7,129,66,97,0.0,0.981,0.019,0.1862,3,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,12,3,0,1,0,13,18,6,0,4,1,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,10,0,14,11,1,12,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,7,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090613386808014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598119011320274,0.0,0.0,0.1259927560989205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206892845615606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6229841276430639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386729871077407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736621076238848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4576127809921856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485893965893054,0.0,0.1886824779268775,0.20777040912394795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169271183615043,0.0,0.18649576819207955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160601418640064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297902728766364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873061571378628,0.0,0.0,0.11522996068789987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peejsmom,2018/01/02,"5 YO and dinner... Dinner time is almost a nightmare. 
It’s always a struggle to get her to be quiet and eat. 
She’s pretty picky. 
Like she loves fries but nothing else made of potatoes. 
We’ve tried letting her eat in playroom, in a corner alone, put a robe tie around her waist to keep her sitting, we’ve tried letting her go to bed hungry. 
Today was just talking constantly. We are as a family as we do most nights and then left her to eat alone. And she will move around. Talk. If she sees us and we say not another word, she makes hand gestures. 
She ate tonight but slowly. Annoyingly. 
Our ped said just try feeding her what she wants or likes...but I’m afraid it’ll make it worse down the road.
A friends said try feeding her but I feel again, that’ll be bad down the road. 
I’m out of ideas. 
Help? 😥",0.3931818181818159,2.70684460606061,1.6444696969696968,97.96670454545456,87.78787878787878,4.2696969696969695,18.553030303030305,5.6839178017228535,-0.4449333333333336,620,17,139,4,20,196,106,165,0.092,0.8009999999999999,0.107,0.3919,0,2,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,0,0,5,7,1,2,8,0,11,11,2,3,0,29,26,13,0,2,8,0,2,1,1,3,0,4,1,0,5,11,9,1,2,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,5,7,21,3,16,14,1,22,0,0,1,1,28,11,0,4,8,75,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802835454040593,0.2648385260015237,0.0,0.0,0.10638563603449734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406715795739665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276361859567468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067536183939342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816587755529378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3924828767447237,0.10680648042237306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053035347221135,0.0,0.06464735014242946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987804872108511,0.0,0.06679898169227304,0.0,0.07266296599460041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569853864683462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433277827046329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136434346711894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891487571271402,0.2614808829188457,0.0,0.062463514630510135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539416593723632,0.12097953082302595,0.17068846482479685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588967415423106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998329446686015,0.0,0.12268035972699247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300745410088916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852962960403466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432388442441152,0.10167546001216296,0.0,0.0,0.10188391391176793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336618487425662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553007714581825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455330235794126,0.0,0.12119162879305675,0.0,0.0,0.3472207197734986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537938714680947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541221555685024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029520933499197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,geekpeek90,2018/01/02,"How to show my daughter support after she was assaulted? My daughter is 16, and was recently sexually assaulted by a boy at her school, while at a party. It was her first party that she’s ever been invited to, outside of birthday parties in elementary school, and she was so excited to go. She gets bullied at her current school (she doesn’t want to leave because she likes the teachers and friends she’s made), and when the invite came from one of the girls that hated her, seemingly extending the olive branch, she was so excited. I never questioned it. She called me 7 times that night, and I had left my phone in my living room while I slept. Her friend’s mom drove her to the hospital, they kept calling me, and when I woke up in the middle of the night, I realized I forgot my phone, went out and got it- to almost 30 missed calls. I’ve never felt like I failed her more. I went to get her, cried with her, and took her home to catch up on sleep and start to recover.

It’s been two weeks. She’s seeing a therapist, and I’ve been trying to make her feel safe, but it’s kind of weird and hard. Getting her to a new half-decent school is hard, because it’d be a long drive in the opposite direction of my work, and she’d need to be driven home after school, but would need to wait until I was off (6pm) and able to get to her, or until she made friends that have their own means of transportation. It would probably require a move just to get her close enough to school, and we don’t have that kind of money. Her guidance counselor wants her to try to do 3 half-days a week, then try to get up to 3 full days, then slowly get into a normal routine. But she’s terrified of seeing the people who invited her. The boy who assaulted her was expelled, but the people who facilitated and encouraged it are still there. She loves school and what she’s doing, but is so afraid of going she screams and hides when I even suggest it. We installed a new security system. I’ve added a lock on her window and door so she can feel extra safe.

I’m so lost. What support can I provide for her? How can I show that I’m on her team?",5.199792147806003,4.923980877598152,5.8807353348729805,83.74942632794458,68.16859122401847,9.145090069284064,28.867344110854503,8.726425361277474,1.910164969976905,1652,50,355,24,25,540,204,433,0.095,0.799,0.106,0.5411,1,0,0,0,0,0,54,2,0,2,7,15,26,4,1,21,0,30,3,2,5,3,61,74,40,0,7,7,3,5,2,3,2,0,1,5,3,20,25,0,7,7,3,1,12,4,10,0,3,26,8,62,16,54,42,5,62,0,3,2,1,64,21,0,4,30,238,82,12,0.0773362589227607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744109211168856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942869312602228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369069012167408,0.08845207759318256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849502489956982,0.09975097827221764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990902875232248,0.0,0.051079869642854485,0.06995507378001843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782070724118609,0.0,0.07425493651077207,0.0,0.0,0.06578218233245407,0.0,0.0,0.17924940540852022,0.0,0.2828350234553705,0.0,0.08790395632118232,0.0,0.06185287106223505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855619521092924,0.0763535447110881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155149146625311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610676256877947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188793172493873,0.08402607160241916,0.0,0.0,0.07556517940866765,0.0,0.06828933349474263,0.0684401555164996,0.0,0.0,0.08442166223034886,0.0,0.06979899308693137,0.14635487621045726,0.05162255335683507,0.0,0.0,0.08424185786807209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057529176122152,0.0,0.08219620420009333,0.0,0.11468771213409686,0.11929298102073145,0.14938368156066872,0.0,0.1451496801943122,0.07577311370178365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052405050524174976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723044878785816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338156733865784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663430922780843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636022577043211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5478789597095254,0.1232539712044877,0.07040402557652814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739211024405783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05473900211307022,0.0,0.0617608362750349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552054029883482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979335730096091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509539449958154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592342923318552,0.15751872996957905,0.0,0.07554628756960717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912298584520422,0.0,0.12406896411322366,0.0,0.0,0.14338297364044475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056301717566168134,0.0,0.0,0.1098749189061238,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Flewtea,2018/01/02,"Cold-weather parents, advice please! Nothing I do seems to keep little feet warm I’ve lived in MN my entire adult life and am no stranger to dressing for the cold. But this is the first year that my 3 and 5yo have been old enough to want to go out even on very cold days for winter fun. So for a couple zero-degree days this week I’ve bundled them up in many layers and double socks to go sledding. But despite the layers and their Bogs/Sorel boots, after half an hour they’re in tears because their feet (and hands) are ice cold. No snow is getting in anywhere so it’s definitely not that. Is there anything else I can do or are those days just too cold for their small bodies?",4.462318840579711,5.022057695652175,4.413188405797103,90.73253623188408,69.8695652173913,6.423188405797102,24.7536231884058,5.033348758259628,0.3494579710144934,534,13,114,1,9,164,97,138,0.046,0.868,0.086,0.6696,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,4,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,11,5,4,0,0,14,17,10,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,6,8,2,17,16,2,21,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,2,10,68,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948872615644551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641194333234054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157477775801262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152924405756272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206729452300483,0.0,0.38586057004398505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666037943611915,0.0,0.0,0.20607145193027865,0.0,0.13172607734149766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964077822053553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419745848179113,0.0,0.22668897610641225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640500276067646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726852664356027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408680584216783,0.0,0.19988799449954267,0.17610628391229965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021975384849412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19136491852634285,0.0,0.20927529626185773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214508837403609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21892163667141906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815597060660052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455618659185864,0.11763294889289802,0.0,0.15997611267146422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284307134863582
parenting,marcos_b,2018/01/02,"Person taking photos at public park...what to do, if anything? A few days ago I was at a medium sized public park in the late afternoon with my 21 month old daughter.  She was among the youngest of the 15 or so kids/adolescents there.  The park has a large play structure in an enclosure with a sand box, and swings, an open grass area, and other interactive features outside the enclosed area.  

Anyway, as we were getting ready to leave I noticed an older man in the enclosed section with a large telephoto lens, he was also wearing what appeared to be a hearing aide.  I had a bad gut feeling and tried to determine (but was unsuccessful) whether he was taking pictures of one particular child, or just children in general.  We're regulars at the park and I've come to recognize a few parents; I'm pretty sure I'd never seen him before.  I didn't hide that I was watching him, and I'm pretty sure he saw me giving him the ""side eye.""  I kept my eye on him as we exited the play area and I loaded my daughter in the stroller for our walk home.  He continued taking pictures and had moved to a different part of the enclosed area.  I considered taking a picture of him for future reference.

I felt strange about it the whole way home and talked with my wife later that night. I'll also share that I'm a slightly older dad, work with young people professionally, and am aware of the negative social stigma for men who show interest in children.  This man could have been a grandpa out with his grandchild, or something much less innocent.  

 I'm wondering what y'all would have done, if anything?  ",6.905637415621989,6.724931718032793,7.114599807135972,76.00962391513983,64.60655737704919,9.930568948891032,34.990356798457086,9.478462496947786,3.2024368370298952,1254,52,230,21,17,406,178,305,0.034,0.86,0.106,0.953,2,0,1,0,0,0,36,3,1,0,1,7,7,0,0,28,0,20,4,4,0,3,43,39,21,0,4,8,6,3,0,0,1,0,1,2,7,9,20,0,4,4,3,0,4,3,1,0,1,16,9,25,6,35,20,7,42,0,0,5,0,37,23,0,7,14,149,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918179704272733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503920450636846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22128175906960726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226011922356678,0.0,0.0,0.11440703221043355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158167547184472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107347370555261,0.0,0.0,0.0867091158005252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047161526168928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758901190835773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798195081028903,0.0,0.1290930675607507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024456652247317,0.1289766742172781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153490155566007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697285892149212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166543623988438,0.14236311818870268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731669312755364,0.1428990534588982,0.09883620698839964,0.0,0.10369611491216207,0.0,0.0,0.126172200477388,0.0,0.0,0.15307219595327856,0.14108263948055227,0.0,0.091106787585233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929079423831318,0.14559622875317746,0.0,0.09321068888081567,0.1173965385485702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273567935238036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705482524806145,0.0,0.10350616499030307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25343503429580666,0.0,0.4043586166686509,0.10806580288115764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128271243890793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106720137801631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010860372898038,0.0,0.0,0.14580527052946118,0.09788118839077138,0.0,0.0,0.0955094098526539,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamathrowaway92,2018/01/02,"Toddler Meltdowns We are getting over the flu here and it has brought the worst out of my kiddo. She already had the usual toddler behavioral issues before she got sick but now those have been critical. She is three years old.

My husband,myself,and our kiddo were living with my mom. We now have an apartment but me and kiddo are here at my mom's until everything is settled in the apartment (furniture,safety precautions,etc). But now I'm wondering if I could even move my little one over there. Me and her dad are scared someone would call the protective child services with the way that she screams and acts. To be honest,my paranoid,narcissitic mom has me paranoid about that now.

Kiddo screams. At the top of her lungs. About anything. She throws things. And while she's been sick,She's been hitting all of us and throwing things at us. I can understand she feels crappy but that's not the way to act. 

For the three years that we've been here,there has always been a mixture of discipline because my mother is stuck in her ways and thinks ""You young parents can't do anything right"". Her way is...dumb. Because it is rewarding and discipling at the same time,literally. Also,she likes to threaten to ""pop"" my child because she believes thag is the only way. But the way I handled her discipline and rewarding got a better result. However,no one listens here so now my child is all over the place. I know the first step is getting her away from my mom,that's already handled with the apartment. Because the issues with my mom are to the point where we most likely won't let my mom even talk about babysitting our next child. 

I want my kiddo in daycare or activity groups until she can start school later this year. But we have only one car that the dad has to use on his work days, I'll be giving birth in June,the dad works all day four days a week. My family will not help (they aren't fond of me for some reason) and his family lives an hour away. So we're stuck about that. 

I honestly just want her to stop this crazy screaming and the ""no mama no mama"" while she cries and screams like I'm about to do something horrible to her when all I'm doing is taking a toy away after she did something unacceptable. Kicking,throwing,crazy looks..I can handle and fix that. But this screaming has gone on for about a year and a half and it's getting worse. I'm needing to figure out how to get her in social activities so she can be around other children with the lack of transportation (there aren't even buses in this town,the only place nearby we can walk is a  gymnastics place but her class would only be once per week). I try activities with her,they don't catch her attention for long.

Tl;dr:We are in the process of moving to an apartment. My three year old is going through this phase of screaming,kicking,and throwing things and it's making us concerned that someone will call the police on us. It is that bad most of the time. I want her to feel like she can talk things out with me and her dad..instead of the negative way she's used to with my own mom.",4.178932966023872,5.576205795041325,4.495977961432512,86.77467401285584,71.21487603305786,7.229017447199267,26.83287419651056,7.635375032292933,1.3997375573921027,2426,81,482,28,45,761,251,605,0.14400000000000002,0.7979999999999999,0.058,-0.995,2,0,2,0,0,0,76,11,1,1,7,27,17,0,1,34,0,56,3,1,6,4,81,89,36,0,9,13,11,2,4,0,5,2,6,0,5,25,34,0,4,10,1,0,15,10,8,0,9,14,8,70,9,71,63,11,92,0,0,0,0,67,36,0,6,38,330,95,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123413624230632,0.047551212717610175,0.049476598855425435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786323401074748,0.052933199806733694,0.0,0.0,0.16759766095606285,0.0,0.04964773582712927,0.14498832569196118,0.0,0.050597221446359024,0.06699256902647062,0.0,0.05258872382167695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143335417109892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047475042178164006,0.0,0.06531549072802215,0.11504293701564247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631511283548898,0.11782096432284934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344001897966626,0.0,0.1121097202767767,0.0,0.060130880996491574,0.042479193715083456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05057778606890302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242643854690234,0.057040736226626684,0.03379325023722645,0.0,0.095113332194507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0398556833156564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05855744306700718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412438241020955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032678397829602114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060803249549324014,0.0,0.11619923033487745,0.05959588448950005,0.10501090653482467,0.05262141542738374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03969090667769475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4874828254667365,0.0,0.12639599004781438,0.0,0.04408983073664685,0.0,0.0,0.06323781046532037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247893492928722,0.06332438729401896,0.12087763009805705,0.18089211629402266,0.0,0.0,0.06602478213126728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637333615779064,0.0,0.056210186615685984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06113616156669335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050779660112058034,0.0,0.0,0.059531175208800385,0.0601780513317995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061334875476116,0.10076280212182627,0.09155249026029938,0.0,0.0,0.0420870430310154,0.0,0.0,0.049712343372335266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04470752819130749,0.09558554668386668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801389064057852,0.038100426210995735,0.0,0.0,0.0693447719373506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04037034722656261,0.0,0.0,0.06190135274097891,0.2860986865776643,0.10271101396195273,0.06548826620479596,0.0,0.10521551809950926,0.3303835121465413,0.0953926017990004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448328759595814,0.08657712849908175,0.0,0.06059618615205418,0.08447926088384422,0.0,0.0,0.19145576964239824
parenting,yusuo85,2018/01/02,"Breastfeeding, pump or formula Hi all, just wondering if anybody could help me on the breastfeeding pump recommendations?  Also  would you recommend breastfeeding in comparison to formula? Just looking online and feel slightly overwhelmed on which one to go for and what route to go on feeding our baby.",10.575034013605439,12.146975755102046,9.56367346938776,55.587278911564646,56.755102040816325,13.880272108843535,44.904761904761905,13.023866798666859,6.980219047619048,248,14,32,9,3,78,38,49,0.021,0.8740000000000001,0.106,0.667,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,11,7,5,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,8,5,1,6,0,1,1,0,4,4,0,3,0,25,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232879294905553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227700664418888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20440685846692888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459502472201017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27096809105728725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33947800584777577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739381852586191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384045609402709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871759075654029,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ilovestupidpeople,2018/01/02,"Getting Help To Avoid Neglect I’m so overwhelmed by life and have been for a long long time. When I was a kid I was pretty much ignored by my parents due to their depression/mental health issues. My mom was always sleeping and I only saw my dad on Sundays for a few hours for my weekly angry rants about my mom and her boyfriend.  I promised myself that I would be a better parent but instead of healing I have gone through three serious relationships that have all resulted in at least one child. Each time I’ve tried to have the family I didn’t have and each time I failed due to the combination of my own personal failures and unhealthy partners/relationships.

So, besides the obvious answer that it was a bad parent to even have a child in the first place, they are here now and I have to figure out how to clean up the mess I made.

I find myself fighting these demons all the time. I don’t want to be neglectful, but my plate is so full that I have to stay diligent to not fall into bad patterns.

I’m ready to make a change for the good in my life. But the loneliness has also become overwhelming. Sometimes I just cry for a good spell. Sometimes I’m just in a negative fog. I know I’m not giving the best I could to the kids. 

Part of my problem is that I’ve never had my needs met adequately and it’s harder than ever for me to do that now that I have 4 kids and a full time job.

Are there any resources available that I could look into? Lack of free time, money, and intense loneliness are some of my basic roadblocks. ",4.279375866851595,5.098897372168288,5.041775312066574,85.1233009708738,70.42394822006473,7.827461858529817,27.65926953305594,7.957251820313856,1.5896298659269532,1204,40,247,15,21,390,166,309,0.217,0.6920000000000001,0.091,-0.9932,4,1,0,0,2,0,23,0,0,2,4,16,19,1,3,20,0,29,5,1,4,5,46,44,18,0,7,7,6,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,6,11,14,0,4,4,0,2,2,6,13,0,3,11,2,35,7,39,28,14,35,1,5,2,0,20,13,0,1,19,182,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857596311947116,0.09216247378422876,0.0,0.0,0.07532164503363782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496251793639065,0.0,0.12232741828328585,0.0,0.0,0.11623740225915673,0.09795958074490553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171710223328078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686815308123802,0.0,0.1216663501772876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315695222144017,0.10019015369370736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441612191409401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123404048665316,0.09421370891440034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786833287372544,0.10625256138727338,0.0,0.18580304857047064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773433704323345,0.0,0.0,0.07424112517242919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109077805192398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560627048447668,0.10991373716580248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087164544357209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564683019105622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19604095398661225,0.09301179717173036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480524677494923,0.07393418769233343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25944515278322045,0.0,0.0,0.08142247591707064,0.08212827808336136,0.08542612749313902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505488569498593,0.08423914189431693,0.0,0.0,0.3689627456040305,0.11994395364305402,0.0,0.0,0.09671270401787388,0.11572223438339076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268430516165033,0.0,0.10598383462689097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378328841435929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084153015713473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21909198945741445,0.0,0.0,0.1180570638130504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875156664117738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519981474070743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533002572842735,0.0,0.08884622595218758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868181975552822,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jamespower1990,2018/01/02,"Ben and Holly removed from Netflix! I’m devastated, Ben and Holly, an institution in the Power Family household, has been removed from Netflix. I’m sure there’s plenty other British parents mourning the loss as much as I am.",4.487926829268293,7.270023097560973,5.963597560975611,70.56295731707318,74.12195121951221,7.0268292682926825,34.640243902439025,8.07648339933343,3.3444097560975603,181,10,26,3,4,61,30,41,0.212,0.737,0.051,-0.8016,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,5,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,4,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,17,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5003158272199347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39014045576467415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5893020410267443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001975632194524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kdwynning,2018/01/02,"Is this still normal? My daughter who just turned 5 loves to have us read to her. We have bookshelves full of books. So I go downstairs to their playroom and I see countless books in my kids play tent. The books are ripped to shreds. I have told my daughter to not get books down because my son, 2, doesn't understand yet and will mess them up. After I see all the books, some of her favorites to top it off, I lost my shit.  After losing my shit she admitted to me she helped rip them up. She is 5! Is it normal for her to still be wanting to rip paper and stuff? She has always wanted to do it. Every toy we have has the stickers ripped off. I'm so over it. She loves books and I can't understand how she doesn't put two and two together to realize,  hey ripped books are garbage thus I'll not have them. Ugh! At 5 shouldn't this be over? What's the obsession?  Help! 


Edit: Thanks everyone for the advice. I really appreciate it. This parenting thing is hard and sometimes I forgot they are still learning.",0.875,3.2577683627450966,2.127941176470589,94.94573529411768,85.9607843137255,5.3607843137254925,19.284313725490197,6.816661863887847,0.16845490196078486,782,22,170,10,24,249,112,204,0.085,0.784,0.132,0.8796,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,3,0,5,3,8,11,2,1,5,0,22,4,2,2,1,26,39,9,0,5,3,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,1,5,10,0,2,6,7,0,2,3,3,32,4,26,32,3,19,0,2,2,2,30,11,2,1,6,118,44,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932546188604628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863622437914348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691415708166474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012801985913488,0.1362392818950172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744910617235306,0.0,0.08103029938171499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772178237474274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191133905644438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950818650830909,0.15564060711517194,0.0,0.25736422081896265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793921159091546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583158715173113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433301575799946,0.0,0.0,0.14261647146514012,0.0,0.09133904588102602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272322340121627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292708305985783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101317680445474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415886562701994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321757014324814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126656320163113,0.0,0.0,0.09472241331621703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362392818950172,0.0,0.0,0.1550837997246615,0.2785557581310951,0.2968572190910003,0.1715036439478504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819226465553538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parent101_can,2018/01/02,"My wife and mother-in-law by default use a high-volume anxious tone with my toddler. I tried the opposite and it resulted in miracles. Anyone else experience something similar? Our toddler has become significantly more cooperative since I've actively tried to become more patient. My theory is that my wife and mother in-law make him more anxious.

We were at the point of taking parenting classes a few months ago and I wonder if speaking softly to toddlers is a key technique. I couldn't find anything about this online, but I wonder if you all have experienced or know if there's a credible source on using the technique. My wife is a wonderful person and logical person, she might not agree with my finding, but she'll definitely follow well-documented, empirical evidence.",8.60498201438849,9.146015352517992,9.26826438848921,59.560526079136714,60.94244604316546,12.129856115107913,39.677158273381295,11.698219412168324,5.264128776978417,630,31,92,18,8,213,97,139,0.043,0.878,0.078,0.7639,1,0,1,0,0,0,17,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,4,1,29,18,11,0,4,7,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,8,0,0,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,16,0,10,14,5,7,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,8,2,63,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323675485838561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.337389354606641,0.0,0.10441146925684824,0.15300104630821718,0.1228817014055702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298353263015003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474182549354025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606844345376466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729605778110078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577699964562054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206508123507554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967555624309757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841016254878726,0.0,0.0,0.11918974158719535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658076732336723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607695538326781,0.0,0.0,0.14116033334646486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352313253966148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495763332189675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227377033507864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276366313375085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579376060135094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426105327558865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858095793858089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ActualBradyBunch,2018/01/02,"Glasses vs. The active boy. How to prevent them from breaking so often? My 9 year old is a pretty typical boy. He loves sports and generally being active. He has sports glasses for his organized sports but wears his regular glasses otherwise. 

He got glasses in September and we are already on the third pair. He isn't being purposefully neglectful but he doesn't think about it when he is out playing. We made him use some of his allowance to help with the third pair and hoped it would help but he ended up breaking the arm off this weekend. It was an easy fix and we didn't have to replace them but it is frustrating to deal with this constantly. 

I don't want to prevent him from being a kid, but I can't keep replacing glasses. We thought about making him use his sports glasses to go out and play because those hold up better but it is impossible to enforce. What is a good solution for this problem? We can't be the only ones dealing with this.",3.184459203036049,5.39373146236559,4.220069576217586,84.29422201138522,75.7741935483871,7.1721695129664775,28.683111954459203,8.124751697461798,2.0938808349146107,756,33,143,13,17,245,105,186,0.042,0.745,0.213,0.9855,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,2,1,6,9,1,0,9,0,20,3,2,6,0,42,32,14,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,11,15,0,5,2,7,0,1,6,3,0,3,5,0,17,6,24,22,1,16,0,1,0,1,29,7,0,3,6,100,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191686297460912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210694624926526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565244638501246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214624459173626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40951181155929706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759075478395862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287338128983038,0.16658278740588506,0.15884478905066124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662452239944137,0.0,0.0,0.19726234392169067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653172502867956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17925128037607924,0.1879274885622881,0.1325722388856021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084054612202972,0.0,0.13458177531203222,0.15105017031098794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20205551841205213,0.0,0.1900408279406213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725984937315488,0.0,0.15767239680323275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34306671776784065,0.0,0.0,0.11714401750531027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410852723234209,0.0,0.0,0.1278969021048979
parenting,senshimars1776,2018/01/02,"Maybe pneumonia? Hello! I’m in need of some advice. My toddler (2) has been sick for a few weeks with a cold. He seemed to get a little worse so we took him to the doctor. His doctor listened to his chest and decided to treat him for pneumonia so we started him on antibiotics (amoxicillin) on Friday, 12/29. He is in much better spirits and has no fever. However, he still has a cough and the sound that his doctor hear in his chest on Friday is still present so he ordered a chest X-ray. I took him today and we’re waiting on the results. His pediatrician said if it is pneumonia, he will start a new antibiotic. My question is: what else could it be? What kinds of questions should I ask the pediatrician when we get the results back? If it’s something awful, can I ask another hospital to treat him? We live 45 minutes away from Children’s in Boston. 

I’m a very anxious first time mom who struggled with ppd and I honestly don’t think I could live with myself if something happened to him. 

Edit: thanks everyone for your responses. His doctor called and said the X-ray was clear and to just finish the antibiotics. ",3.0328440366972487,5.219944990825692,4.249990825688073,84.00636238532111,76.1559633027523,7.295779816513763,26.496330275229358,8.238735603445708,1.8555075229357807,880,34,169,16,20,288,122,218,0.073,0.845,0.08199999999999999,0.4682,1,0,2,0,0,0,30,4,1,0,2,8,7,0,1,14,1,16,10,3,2,1,32,36,14,0,7,4,1,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,1,7,14,0,1,5,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,6,6,25,6,25,25,3,26,1,0,0,0,35,10,0,7,13,110,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531399508478896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373947028823501,0.0,0.13331307258452005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206391648588629,0.0,0.11087042309947946,0.09073924937442224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436662469709863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049721289548496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843621025254886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831361364859189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857878329169154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275968993841612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003757542123033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330641950390275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435222344495522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300122034867215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228849806615576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827290829680676,0.20840273493962624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185527828442536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820707828731685,0.0,0.0,0.086747910937618,0.08749987607711247,0.0,0.11397082896917687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643872191851244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450125891274444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742813503984076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816934068124864,0.0,0.0,0.16705036005525026,0.0,0.18847932075463386,0.0,0.0,0.1233653835371606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864397374982628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561341280397117,0.0,0.0,0.06881018649579948,0.0,0.1118557906253721,0.0,0.2622177832350037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736722215448332,0.0,0.0,0.09465721115989784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202580887806244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dfiggsmeister,2018/01/02,"Daughter waking up in the middle of the night because of light from smoke detector About two months ago we had our master bathroom redone and had the final inspection at the beginning of December. Part of that inspection required us to have fire detectors in each bedroom. I installed them and got the final approval. Only issue is, since I installed it in my daughter's bedroom, she's been waking up in the middle of night scared of it since it has a random blinking light.  She's been doing that the past few nights since I finally installed it.

I'm contemplating either removing it from the ceiling and putting it out of her view so she doesn't see a blinking light in the middle of the night, covering up the light with electrical tape or buying a new one that doesn't have a blinking light on it. She's only 2 and a half years old so I don't want her freaking out every night. It's been affecting her sleep since I got it done.

Any advice on what I should do?

Edit: Thanks for the advice so far. I'm leaning towards either getting her used to it or covering it up temporarily with electrical tape. I'm hoping the lack of blinking light fixes her sleeping issues.",5.063970264317182,6.332518488986789,5.745768171806168,79.13777120044055,68.95594713656388,8.318171806167399,30.487059471365644,8.660442795831766,2.484154405286344,935,37,167,15,16,304,114,227,0.042,0.906,0.051,0.4645,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,3,4,4,0,1,18,0,16,4,4,2,0,22,28,9,0,4,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,15,10,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,3,8,9,20,2,32,19,6,36,0,0,2,0,15,19,0,4,15,119,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118183810659325,0.10032064892967477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696122390112545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898894416201856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581482493749225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535276567853904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719250338139457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05912799330246578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102887477358268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240589121231384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362455058743469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033326030218564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930276686450494,0.0,0.5310239207183098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118755567516122,0.0,0.07668865782558985,0.1721456682915488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255485747538855,0.10803601741872124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137696845949803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330547898331884,0.0,0.09018388045428632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744700554412599,0.0,0.2265085903569144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419409107941333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055314973404323,0.0,0.1361326590877908,0.09774475804486568,0.0,0.0,0.06675211003830822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287942026128537
parenting,Hyperrpolice5522,2018/01/02,"Child help Guys. First post. 

My 7.5 daughter is in need of some help and I’m not sure what to do. And by daughter I mean me. A couple of months ago my daughter consistently left the back door open. Dogs would get out, it was hot, bugs got in- you get the picture. Well now she leaves the front door open. Four times in one day. Dogs got out, it’s freezing, I’m mad. I don’t know what to do. How the HELL do you get it through their heads to be observant and think about what you’re actually doing!! I am so upset because how many times do you have to be nice, then upset, and then mad to get something through? 

Anyways. Some insight or help would be very much appreciated. ",-0.2663043478260896,2.0245370797101465,1.0386811594202892,99.90541304347828,94.86956521739133,3.919420289855073,17.769565217391303,5.6839178017228535,-0.6178417391304345,519,15,121,4,20,163,87,138,0.145,0.748,0.107,-0.7804,0,0,1,0,0,0,23,0,3,1,1,8,8,3,2,5,0,15,1,1,2,1,22,27,10,0,3,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,6,8,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,1,3,3,2,11,3,16,19,3,20,1,0,0,0,13,8,1,3,10,74,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.17052429574239308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489943016374194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436684450782904,0.0,0.1065219199866427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933501853632856,0.0,0.11269500008200173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863659829218745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651847378179511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795164290182016,0.0,0.0,0.17302338268398293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933708337858134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35138033815356035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960343713822072,0.0,0.0,0.18502796929515788,0.18985915346681426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716232275464291,0.0,0.1903467282985936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947846923767793,0.0,0.12845646333525373,0.12956997467318468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184106116133012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735581907710248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452596263239988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646935327794857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196847837052293,0.0,0.0,0.20378849710965388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418155858228365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711525119313818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482653144783093,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KiddoTwo,2018/01/02,"Potty Training - 3YO Hi parents, do you have any insight/experience into potty training regression and challenges.

My daughter is in daycare M-F, 9-6. They asked us to start potty training at home. I believe my daughter is ready as she knows what the potty is, has used it before ""for fun"", etc. 

We started the 3 day method. Day 1 was a pantless day at home, full on failures. She would sit on the potty but wouldn't go in it. Not even 5 minutes afte she'd finally get up, she'd pee all over the place.

Day 2 was a huge breakthrough. She only had 2 accidents, the rest she actually asked to go on the potty and she peed. Lots of praising and giving her what she wanted, playing all the games, reading all the books, playing on my phone. 

Day 3 - she FREAKED OUT. Everything was a no no no, refused to sit and pee and would just have accident after accident again. Total regression. No amount of bribing worked either. I read about regression, so stopped pushing her.

But, what's next? Everywhere it says to push past it, keep trying, but we can't just keep trying. We have work all day, she's in daycare and it's a large group they can't exactly have her run around pantless, etc. 

Should we revisit again when we have a full 3 days? Should we try again this weekend when it's only 2 days? 

Thank you",1.837967303240741,4.207607707031251,3.1343402777777776,89.47848379629629,81.3046875,5.823842592592592,25.10648148148148,7.0931098945946705,1.1520224537037045,1007,40,201,13,27,326,138,256,0.131,0.789,0.08,-0.939,1,0,1,0,0,0,45,7,2,2,4,13,7,0,0,13,0,23,2,2,1,6,41,37,13,0,6,7,3,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,0,10,15,0,4,1,7,0,5,8,1,0,0,4,1,29,6,24,26,13,46,1,0,0,0,37,18,0,1,21,132,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.1097369331818672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647121793981293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010612356011968,0.21025488513086865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568837176670393,0.12669489879809973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5801779102544484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508274165798018,0.07427348718472401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106460902734003,0.10999963643108936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318567228347925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05875153009502147,0.10787420767139218,0.12781812911735185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255970548509008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999050136106587,0.0,0.0,0.06180067977792545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956026713242742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195939805495658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104963058059244,0.0,0.0,0.12486464113627647,0.0,0.1073481607307916,0.0,0.0,0.11748840857182992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496486750122865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942634599354587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918821251410306,0.0,0.0,0.09401490947579222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035306956294131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290425847511175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526591332802945,0.09712242498282177,0.0,0.0,0.06632710468897822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373279444003894,0.0,0.0,0.15976535254212776,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dthibzz,2018/01/02,"Can we talk about Puffin Rock? This shit is Bob Ross level soothing. I love listening to Chris O'Dowd quietly narrating the lives of cute animals, I love the little nature facts they throw in, I love the artwork and animation. Thank you Netflix, you've given me a kids show that doesn't make me want to shove a pencil in my eyes and ears. Just try not to think too hard about the ecosystem of anthropomorphic animals that are supposed to be eating each other...",5.6886206896551705,6.962203321839082,6.0695977011494255,77.37267241379313,67.50574712643677,9.018390804597699,28.29310344827586,9.2995712137729,2.414572413793104,367,12,66,7,6,118,68,87,0.064,0.727,0.209,0.9449,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,1,0,4,6,1,0,6,0,5,7,3,1,1,10,14,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,4,1,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,5,9,5,10,12,1,5,0,0,1,3,9,4,1,0,0,40,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626545106037409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22994080753847154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572674433558867,0.22665900238009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6950091323458284,0.0,0.17134032279102568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26348514325501143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20631499496803107,0.0,0.2363225675697408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644744318510695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427337654829228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140042848425692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cheeky_lady,2018/01/02,"Did your tiny human(s) ever encounter any of your “grownup fun” items? What did you do? [NSFW] This happened 5-6 years ago when my kid was about 6. At the time my bf and I were long distance so I thought it would be a good idea to make him a short audio file so he could listen to me ehmmm... relax. Now, believe it or not I’ve always been very careful of deleting such stuff from my phone because kiddo will just take it at any time (still does it occasionally even though she has her own). I think that time it slipped my mind because it was the kind of thing I hadn’t done before - or since.

So we were together in the car going home, she was in the back seat and was playing with my phone and suddenly, in between the radio music I hear something weird, I had done the recording several days earlier so it wasn’t exactly fresh in my mind. She starts asking me “mommy what is this?” and I proceed to internally freak out and grab the phone faster than the speed of light (sorry Einstein, it IS possible in such cases). I don’t even remember what I told her it was, I probably said I had no idea, and luckily she was at an age when she didn’t question much so she forgot about it right away. Luckily it was just us!!

Did something similar happen to any of you? How did you react?",3.0666602316602294,4.412272220077224,4.221889961389961,87.8590897683398,73.9034749034749,7.187722007722008,25.691312741312746,7.7348632917899725,1.2626724324324328,991,33,210,13,20,324,152,259,0.026,0.884,0.09,0.9472,0,0,2,0,0,0,34,2,5,0,0,21,8,0,0,11,0,30,0,0,3,2,30,45,17,0,2,5,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,1,2,19,9,0,1,6,3,0,2,6,2,0,0,25,6,35,6,25,16,3,33,0,0,0,0,29,12,0,3,19,152,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106227021274732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038389342952498,0.0,0.0,0.2545934053800256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666591397690886,0.0,0.11724844274298635,0.09595918719704477,0.0,0.1521470106413237,0.0,0.10619083920144093,0.1406005492361537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723620352938572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963817035620676,0.0,0.0,0.08048206124547104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920841665402424,0.2554159889852139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485104279531185,0.11288367552707955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092353096582144,0.10467161828542304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071054396015188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065235373735854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251789540028864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817553654445905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995415924535486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043911314627404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330122817591554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520135295529132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173823986868808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068693045228334,0.0,0.0,0.13454946558979825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979828372617614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136772311761334,0.10657373206511143,0.11870804794233195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098214583156102,0.0,0.10323121371497483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214564542896526,0.0,0.13969710892151185,0.08833011559160009,0.0,0.09966096561166816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285972628200586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382985471425828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829078513253775,0.079963209789445,0.12260986016214677,0.0990728105186736,0.21830584711256967,0.0,0.0,0.11924639304026745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501122925016785,0.0,0.0,0.10296844598112813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865035818106598,0.0,0.0,0.08036349928755633
parenting,Duvetmole,2018/01/02,"My 11 year old daughter is like jeckyll and Hyde and I'm losing my patience with it all. I'm tearing my hair out and I don't know how much more I can take before I say something I'll regret. My daughter is 11. She's genuinely a lovely, caring, kind, funny and clever young lady and I know that side of her is still in there but right now she's got it buried deep. She's become very short tempered, snappy, rude, sullen, dismissive and argumentative and that's just to me. She has an older brother (12), a younger sister (8) and another brother (5) and she fights with them constantly (of course, they are pretty good at fighting amongst themselves without her so I can't blame her for all of it). She talks down to them and bosses them around as if she's in charge. She's not like it at school. At school she is a model student. She has good friends, her grades are fantastic,  she brings home lots of reward certificates and her teachers are always telling me how polite she is and always does the right thing. It all changes when she gets home. All it takes is a split second for a perfectly nice conversation with her to turn into a screaming meltdown, like a toddler. It's exhausting. We have always had a really good relationship but lately I can feel it splintering. In her calmer moments we have talked about it and she says she doesn't know why she loses her temper and she doesn't know how to stop it but she does want to. I know (and remember) enough to recognise it for what it is: puberty hormones. I just don't know how to handle this. How do I ride it out? Will I get my lovely girl back eventually? I feel like she hates me and if you asked her right now she'd probably tell you she does. I miss the closeness we used to have. Please tell me we'll get it back? :(",2.5491292134831447,4.530543280898879,3.3993117977528087,90.50604634831457,76.86516853932585,6.360112359550562,22.922752808988772,7.292943589461545,0.7571505617977525,1392,42,292,17,32,442,179,356,0.115,0.693,0.192,0.9861,0,0,1,0,3,0,47,4,2,4,4,17,28,6,0,11,0,27,4,1,7,5,61,53,29,0,4,9,5,3,4,1,2,1,3,2,1,19,27,0,1,9,0,0,2,7,12,0,1,2,6,61,16,32,48,8,34,0,4,0,2,61,18,0,3,18,194,80,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407875919271737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114682559405444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586993992659822,0.09017717255138072,0.0,0.0,0.14834372588845218,0.0,0.0,0.1065326022102392,0.0820804406670109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834750090521703,0.0,0.1020419958822397,0.0,0.0,0.10423910026179352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253238651212784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966906893965903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754624994813392,0.06891111487238145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452483415205004,0.0,0.15118926336685304,0.0,0.0,0.2427184666437809,0.07714795394554927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523437877319464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935146907974145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004483507012806,0.3180716905954109,0.0,0.10881119455687502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18850213032282173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582835722115465,0.0,0.08200692776309043,0.1741180130085852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090927250470108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121864884781696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588422361952904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813459995798453,0.10400030275842853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179481020437344,0.0,0.0,0.10356204845387956,0.10927048977901137,0.24712919562218505,0.0,0.15341788664325326,0.0,0.19524554236768454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425969776516603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770331606400427,0.08064496298313359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450519815190127,0.1550619494299028,0.25293113773567594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408380442905162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049208898266944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331055586017018,0.0,0.07958968480224254,0.0568946663060753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704023704171862,0.0,0.0,0.09298409442750044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062117141974485264
parenting,emkat92,2018/01/02,"Returning to work  I have been home with my son for about 7 months now (hes 9 months old). So this means we are living off one income. My husbands income covers bills but thats it. Theres no extra to set aside or to spoil my son like id like to. I left my job about a month after returning from maternity leave because I was miserable being away from the baby. I am also on my last few months of finishing my degree 
 So heres my thing.Im at a crossroad because I dont know if I should start looking for a job in my field that I have worked very long and hard to get a degree in or if I should still stay home with the baby. The thought of being away from him kills me but it is also very hard living on one income. If I went back to work I could have the possibility to make a good living and afford my family the luxury of living a comfortable life (nothing crazy but having enough money for saving plus fun things). But at the same time I know this time with my first born is so precious and I dont know any amount of money is worth being away from him (that is obviously an idealistic thought). 

Has any other parent been in this situation? What did you do and do you regret it? Also any other advice/words of wisdom would be helpful",3.47240017361111,4.3290588007812545,4.937135416666667,84.99710069444446,72.3203125,7.563888888888887,22.034722222222214,7.793537801064563,0.8047133680555558,967,20,205,12,18,325,138,256,0.087,0.765,0.14800000000000002,0.9667,8,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,2,0,4,13,11,1,1,13,0,28,1,0,1,1,33,39,20,1,8,9,4,2,2,0,3,1,0,2,0,13,9,0,0,6,0,4,1,3,3,0,3,7,3,29,8,37,24,5,34,0,2,1,0,11,12,0,5,21,151,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386322164618221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292380087004014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803587894822204,0.0764843180653404,0.0,0.1212688507947273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941665342917141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23315018699137874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277645009118168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376904572142968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846069497395059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051967629630255786,0.0,0.0,0.0834285656142234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820656944858956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667092526603631,0.0,0.19954789557321784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744189893117176,0.0,0.19741216311773735,0.0,0.1100459799450822,0.0,0.16399410359541014,0.08107923559393318,0.0,0.10532165212624553,0.1080716596014577,0.0,0.07025679122557782,0.09718952928583056,0.0,0.3513262711494783,0.08802555027262543,0.08352759422346533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639528550775836,0.0,0.0,0.10834919703006267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175758318509825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544168691925384,0.0,0.10437434123020206,0.0,0.13480341693096062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110446815835945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213458815833158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180556491339774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040356273322293,0.1060190515745388,0.079434822398918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216348858526827,0.0,0.0,0.15793206617679215,0.11600052295701785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414210255747064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220730913873164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724043287106934,0.0,0.0,0.07065881224904552,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littleliondragon,2018/01/02,"Thinking about changing daycares Hi,

Edit: Apologies. This post is confusing due to the fact I was freaking out from having to leave work and go pick up my child from the Day care.

To start, last week my son was sick so we kept him home from day care the whole week and today when we took him in they said we have to pay for the previous week despite him not being there and that we are always late with our payments. We are in a contract that states we are charged by the days my son is in their care.

 We aren't ever late. We pay online and then the next week by money order due to me being in the middle of a conversion at my work and going to salary with a different pay schedule. They also have been double charging us for weeks that we have been paying via money order via automatic payment despite them saying I am no longer enrolled in those payments. I'm freaking out cause I don't know what to do or where my son can go. 

TLDR; being a parent terrifies me when daycares act like this.

Edit: after an hour I got my head on straight and realized I'm really bad at explaining things when I'm having a panic. I am currently researching different daycares.",4.920014367816091,5.526843271551727,5.649758620689656,82.1044367816092,68.8706896551724,8.255632183908046,28.397701149425288,8.238735603445708,1.8801645977011496,917,30,178,12,15,299,131,232,0.127,0.816,0.057,-0.9168,5,0,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,4,2,9,9,0,2,13,0,23,2,1,2,2,31,40,13,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,8,19,0,1,4,0,6,5,4,5,0,0,8,2,31,4,30,29,2,48,0,0,0,0,29,14,0,2,26,125,39,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735842159919167,0.10130054094028762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165093422134436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723775575758657,0.1250643526052034,0.12878872991873955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355439141056902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543925843245383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012417906473236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20756931205990672,0.0,0.09736958708591877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494419608250187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211889346606924,0.0,0.11989305643464715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669071733664169,0.09923739366294526,0.2746644737151767,0.12890903789016567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059477839837799334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129475844261956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428400429030266,0.13518201129600455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659684589704075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799215463185569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580617185777425,0.09681550520828597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617084286810282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808811284944195,0.07800847015590989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539882649374048,0.0,0.1352617700967092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644272435394542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4882774072737493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592253339161942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726177936444898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jaxbrah,2018/01/02,"Slight fear of having a second child I have a 7 year old girl who is my world. we are joined at the hip and are THE dynamic duo. however, the wife wants more kids and so do I. The problem is, i have a fear that having a second kid will weaken the relationship I have with my daughter.

For anyone with multiple kids, does this actually happen? have you had to sacrifice a strong bomd with your first kid in order to form a new one with the second kid? its almost like I fear i wont have enough love to spread around.",4.0038814016172495,4.544376584905663,5.010053908355797,86.11405660377359,70.88679245283019,8.321293800539085,22.69002695417789,8.418075326091056,1.0163196765498648,402,8,88,6,7,132,71,106,0.17,0.757,0.073,-0.8938,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,2,0,2,2,8,0,3,12,0,15,2,1,0,0,11,18,3,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,7,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,5,1,0,11,4,12,15,3,9,1,0,0,1,15,4,0,1,5,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.1977639383578651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293165017024373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417024434053526,0.0,0.0,0.18040764102800375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773464525593955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093987910813913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6841361933740605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237988835787466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920886142773818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900794355208306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829057992483362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572733403534465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126543663857892,0.0,0.13732558632809735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19391532072388745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757770970333534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953231298552645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050442402309514
parenting,not-a-tapir,2018/01/02,"Finding a newborn babysitter (UK) So, I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my first child and that obviously means that I'm worrying about absolutely everything. I work from home, 3-4 hours a day (depending on what's required of me), Mon-Fri. I haven't spoken to my employer yet, since it's very early.

I think probably the most sensible way of managing having a baby and working from home for me is going to be having a babysitter. It is only 3-4 hours, but without family living in the country and all my friends being completely clueless about babies, I think it'll be pretty impossible to divide my time. It is the kind of work I can pick up and drop to some degree, but most of my work comes in after 9am and we have a soft deadline of 12-1pm, which doesn't leave much flexibility.

The problem is that I have no idea how to look for a babysitter for a very young baby. I really want to have some ideas on this well in advance, because the next 8 months are going to be completely hectic, since we're also buying a house (great timing, I know). Any advice would be hugely appreciated. As it says in the title, I'm in the UK.

As you can probably imagine, working part time, we also don't have a huge amount of spare income. We're comfortable enough and I don't forsee any financial issues going forward, even after buying a house, but I do need some indication of prices to decide if it's even feasible or if I need to think of an alternative.

Edit: Probably 'newborn' is the wrong phrasing, I just think of a 3-month-old as basically a newborn. On a scale of a human lifespan, it seems pretty new to me! I expect to take at least one month off work, but will obviously have to really think through how much I should realistically take off.",6.7867282150955655,5.977348102040818,7.941958211856175,72.06270732102368,65.06413994169097,10.770910268869452,33.34126984126984,10.125756701596842,3.2179402008422437,1361,49,259,27,18,468,182,343,0.071,0.8420000000000001,0.087,0.7917,2,0,0,0,0,0,47,2,1,0,9,12,7,0,0,23,0,29,0,0,4,3,52,50,21,0,9,9,0,1,0,1,4,0,1,2,5,13,10,0,1,13,0,3,6,6,2,1,2,0,3,25,5,49,41,12,39,0,0,1,0,10,15,0,10,18,175,38,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671851567661365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193529882267622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206964036196275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409683622345025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644413365167824,0.18609044343645828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723181635669185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169511794288407,0.0,0.11722767112902885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797563787490889,0.0,0.08365888974750561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110938499262806,0.07548464875240231,0.0,0.0,0.06856252927759594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130387207245355,0.0,0.0,0.09783933895484688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803268943038214,0.0,0.17478772264686052,0.20479473831895448,0.0,0.2003598203512068,0.0,0.09262451103612282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241205383686624,0.04877076625296189,0.0,0.0,0.09396589690622237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836158925732624,0.0,0.0745216690886969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666701264612776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21250116148848108,0.0,0.130472455993325,0.13160344275151634,0.0,0.08570842690319673,0.09437906009453828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931207248433206,0.0,0.06013447245756145,0.06749295946807131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609989156616768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805668260606091,0.28703950369908143,0.08491495157580782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370192317896735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057190038976824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078818538644726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681805545695606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13344720377880964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843142724689268,0.0,0.0,0.15524006167575274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644434050842578,0.05234285012148577,0.07043996783769299,0.0711841857862829,0.0,0.07979050709062724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554496992947519,0.0,0.3876352432177463,0.0901227027501932,0.0,0.06304039609397094,0.09702640865040478,0.0,0.0
parenting,ggk1,2018/01/02,"I see headlines against ""cry it out"" but can't find actual studies So far I'm only seeing blog posts (albeit from stuff like psychology today) that rail against CIO (particularly Ferber method) and talk about the flaws in the Flinders study that ""prove"" there are no issues with CIO


Do you know of actual studies showing Ferber to be harmful to the baby?

I'm totally good with CIO and just want my 4+ mo old son to get good rest do we can also get good rest. I just want to make sure if there's an ACTUAL reputable study out there saying CIO kills their brain or something that I respect that. As of right now it feels like everyone crying against CIO is akin to anti vaxxers",4.23706766917293,5.7150395112781975,4.679706766917295,85.20016165413537,71.18045112781955,7.4252631578947375,26.08195488721805,7.908726449838941,1.4188351879699246,537,17,106,7,10,170,93,133,0.106,0.7070000000000001,0.187,0.913,0,0,2,0,0,0,12,1,1,1,0,9,9,1,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,3,21,18,8,1,3,5,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,7,7,18,17,3,9,0,0,2,0,6,5,0,2,5,60,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.4546528262290165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419379999552214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336678352678994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411807408680973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839633827462376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852462830319316,0.11094674955089684,0.0,0.0,0.14194189635827087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227626335375187,0.0,0.0,0.3907762191915711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620934340325698,0.0,0.0,0.1718170575572388,0.0,0.08534912512800534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174401605218055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036643282863112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296181108658409,0.0,0.0,0.11811307234792467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873500537077347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262582784690927,0.0,0.12350123690176106,0.0,0.0,0.2475088755337946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195579567234543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778198339303955,0.0,0.0,0.14636893785690866,0.0,0.0,0.12482470571063285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720677001403398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320058542462656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,choicelesspawn,2018/01/02,"How do you find time to learn something I’m a parent of a 8 y.o. And I leave to work at 530 and am back by 5

I’m totally drained by the end of the day and I have zero enthusiasm to learn anything

Fellow parents - what do you do ? How do you allocate time ?
Thanks ! ",-1.4824137931034471,0.4949168793103453,1.6823275862068994,95.91418103448281,95.72413793103449,4.968965517241379,19.318965517241374,6.6274283507984215,0.14082068965517225,201,7,49,3,8,71,38,58,0.071,0.815,0.114,0.536,2,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,2,1,9,9,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,8,9,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,5,32,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102895710691154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21587533562505032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810570982378744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486564640013343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256595558580533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972680881055177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6234675039381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21613097665518372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258471989338431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32740897035434835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20438547641147134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pawnofanexpandinguni,2018/01/02,"Any other parents of teens on here, or is there another subreddit for that? I love reddit and am a single parent of a 19 year old (high functioning autism), a 17 year old (lives with her father and has high functioning autism), a 15 year old NT and a 5 year old NT.  Need some people to vent to that might understand as it is a particular niche not well understood by many.  When my oldest kids were little I was an internet pioneer and braved every autism and parenting forum in the universe.  Then, life happened, work happened, being single happened (twice) and here I am but I do remember what a group of internet peers can do for your sanity.  Just putting it out there and seeing if there are any similar folks here.",4.810072992700731,6.245642452554747,5.601175182481754,79.30614233576644,69.72992700729927,9.567591240875911,27.56861313868613,9.888512548439397,2.68556700729927,564,19,105,14,10,184,93,137,0.011,0.953,0.036000000000000004,0.4841,3,0,0,0,1,0,18,0,1,0,1,9,3,0,0,9,0,13,2,0,0,0,20,21,13,0,2,5,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,1,7,3,13,16,3,18,0,0,1,1,9,6,0,4,11,73,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252882288187538,0.13301646411691653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687915022105733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365271506267169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26805438512918656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960004768516203,0.0,0.12714006311663806,0.11201355092838046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448981366166912,0.0,0.0,0.12860906363770178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345710200735684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405991555753808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5324436706086736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225658385308754,0.0,0.0,0.08794391980188643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275223337666226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369975624407666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108544244103593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205847957303055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405610981481815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235051779263287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32675677315493395
parenting,bipolar2dad,2018/01/02,"Extreme guilt is keeping me awake at night Some background: I am the father of 2 beautiful boys (2 and 5). I was diagnosed with Bipolar II about 6 years ago (medicated).

I used to be a very social person, I had a lot of friends and would often organize get togethers. Since the second was born, I’ve felt so drained, lethargic, and moody that I feel like part of me has died inside. My wife has realized lately that she is married to the wrong man. She does not trust me (because of the personality changes with mood), and she is not attracted to me anymore. She wants to get a divorce (a “friendly one” where we live near each other), but we still live together right now.

I’ve always been exceedingly skeptical of my parenting skills. I question everything I say to the boys, and how I react to them. I am not a natural at all, I feel like I am screwing up constantly. The guilt and anxiety this brings on at night is getting unmanageable. To boot about 2 months ago I accidentally hurt my 5 year old when I overreacted when he was tormenting his brother. The look on his face was one of sheer betrayal, and the guilt from that is slowly eating away at me.

So, in my mind, I am failing miserably at everything around me. I have not been taking care of my mental health, I have failed as a husband, and I hurt one of the 2 people whom I would protect with my life. The guilt is growing and growing and causing a cycle where I am questioning everything and I’m sure my children are picking up on it all. With the divorce looming, I just think about the childhood my children will have, the memories of a unified family they will not get to experience, the magical feeling I had as a child of having 2 loving parents in the same home, and it breaks my heart.

I went from a happy, successful, active, social person to this shell of a man. I feel like I should never have been a father, that my boys deserve a better father than me. I almost want to run away to save them from this bumbling idiot they got as a dad. I feel so lost and alone, I have told no one about the divorce, and I don’t know how to even start talking to someone about everything else.

Anyways, I guess I just wanted to get this out into the world somehow. I look back on it and see how depressing it all is. My life is not turning out at all like I had hoped.",5.630312525106446,5.5903311475054265,6.452402988671969,79.21284084518359,67.24295010845987,9.606202297742428,32.47537559251225,9.348350401419415,2.7527352936450558,1813,71,362,32,27,601,225,461,0.179,0.693,0.128,-0.972,2,1,0,0,3,0,57,2,0,4,6,25,33,3,5,31,0,39,11,2,7,6,76,73,27,1,7,9,9,6,4,2,5,6,1,1,11,14,26,1,2,11,0,0,5,9,16,0,5,15,10,62,16,62,52,9,50,0,7,3,2,47,25,1,9,23,265,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629053166110015,0.0,0.08262764059118924,0.08546146913982218,0.0,0.0,0.06865974439708399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312435065803575,0.0,0.08183348734884313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345654416282854,0.0,0.0,0.1550525949505598,0.06344954626332705,0.0,0.05030085743999966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297850740136799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841303435139609,0.08476644254172007,0.08729076069453648,0.0,0.0,0.0891702507119395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107072582206543,0.08375178614311514,0.08563835860894768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221012064853759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443424946574139,0.06893135125285467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450089862120555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29663947228392423,0.08071627253194719,0.07778853959954443,0.0,0.20861230435698494,0.17684788264414142,0.0792280950439694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750298360047785,0.0,0.21555546312143786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599541225855382,0.0,0.09090044151306677,0.0,0.0,0.08783958888305561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877104222166815,0.0,0.0977816040544975,0.0,0.0,0.0827700615772372,0.08195679435255868,0.0,0.0,0.17666971171616713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334382222803472,0.0,0.0,0.04534851817205436,0.0,0.09308140107247724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656668028005307,0.1612521805963974,0.0,0.14572590211092312,0.0,0.13858495670755866,0.0,0.09007572820408592,0.07015197071334417,0.07447371876026755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312597358857499,0.08315650466266243,0.0,0.08331742154879541,0.0,0.06586331337206061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364126132555413,0.0,0.0,0.1548709513254846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658643706455482,0.0,0.22365932926821827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18324803118550934,0.08935655544998014,0.0,0.0572060565087108,0.2161488054247856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487313054462606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046803063510064,0.0,0.06561986520085597,0.0,0.0,0.06575439832016554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825791111566873,0.0,0.0,0.1682289053341771,0.06991535795169054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840509824417161,0.0,0.06589721352308542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777015204635457,0.0,0.062041602075563765,0.0663230633793875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052872784014741714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884736993871018,0.0,0.0,0.08975348048159705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126714576723261,0.0,0.0680841654434489,0.1460098459966575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649296058332862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723369417708625,0.09021805876557942,0.0,0.1062749219719462
parenting,thesnailandthewhale,2018/01/02,"I'm ready to go back to routine now Anyone else ready?

I thrive off of routine and predictability.. and as much as this holiday has been so much fun (baby's first Christmas!!) and it's great having my husband around daily. I'm beginning to get very tired at the later and later bedtimes because of the weird naps in the car or at others homes.

I know others go with the flow better than I do. But it jumbles my head and leaves me exhausted each day.

Hope everyone had a great Christmas and happy new year!",2.871355555555553,4.938147780000001,3.9653333333333336,86.42322222222224,76.2,6.4444444444444455,24.11111111111111,7.3871296695380915,1.1184777777777777,398,13,77,5,9,129,71,100,0.063,0.68,0.257,0.9747,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,2,4,8,0,0,5,0,5,3,1,0,0,13,13,11,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,9,0,0,1,2,0,4,0,2,0,1,2,0,6,6,14,11,3,18,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,9,50,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164991784565084,0.2075690131947463,0.0,0.18034076841739988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15577291389449913,0.0,0.12349199633834668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916715593840193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064851383848175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169231114731369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935756091508791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231599143485954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058406389762067,0.0,0.2302638320507364,0.0,0.0,0.4466943404250566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21565211292168093,0.0,0.0,0.20790739076703293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320608159440104,0.20120945572670296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133366954495444,0.0,0.0,0.2145048954201592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978418921067757,0.0,0.0,0.1956547827968333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328379995219368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715121645134803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045604928974094
parenting,RhythmOfFallingRain,2018/01/02,"How do you handle your daughter's first boyfriend? (pre-school) So, yesterday after picking-up my kids from pre-school, my daughter tells me SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND NOW. And, that his name is Jason. My son on the other hand, was too busy bragging about his new trading cards he won during recess. 

Personally, I'm okay with her dating at school. It's obviously not anything serious, they're just kids.... But, my husband wasn't too thrilled. Which was funny to me. I felt, the way how he perceived my daughter's ""relationship"" as if it was a high-school fling made it into a bigger deal than what it was already... I'm already dreading what dating is gonna be like for my kids and their father when they grow-up. My daughter was super confused when she was asked so many questions about the whole thing by her father.

I guess he overreacted a tiny bit. Which is understandable, I just hope he doesn't give the poor boy a full-on interrogation. How do you/did you handle the whole ""dating"" situation with your kids when they're still in the pre-school age? Apparently, this happens in life more often than what my husband would like.
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parenting,Juicy-Cakes24,2018/01/02,"Breastfeeding tips and tricks Anyone have and good breastfeeding tips and tricks? I had a horrible time trying to breastfeed my first. I want to breastfeed my next one a lot longer. So I’m just wondering what you did, used, or had that really helped. ",4.798260869565219,7.190958608695652,4.286304347826088,84.81467391304348,71.6086956521739,8.947826086956523,24.54347826086957,9.516144504307137,2.2125826086956524,200,6,37,5,4,60,34,46,0.139,0.7709999999999999,0.09,-0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,2,3,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,8,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,5,1,2,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447849516469749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977789346644349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936315452297316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346520842547561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976265619784008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723153837777894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372241169692211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22427101478996272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041351936986863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376821906119442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023578006580543,0.0,0.0,0.20648699310507396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796481850317822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,genevaduke,2018/01/02,"Feel bad for reading my son Wrinkle in Time My son is six and we read him various chapter books. He loves Magic Treehouse. We read him all the Little House books etc. He asked me what my favorite book was as a kid and it was Wrinkle in Time. He asked if I could read it to him and I had actually reread it recently and thought it would be okay. The vocabulary is a bit hard but I was reading it on my Kindle so I could always read definitons. 
Well, I misjudged and we got nearly through chapter 5 and he was sobbing. He said it was too sad (if familar with the story this is when they learn the Dark Thing is over earth).
I said we didn’t have to finish the book now and could try reading it again when he is older. He said he liked it but the sad parts were too much. 
I feel so bad for making him upset with a book. ",0.6542894056847537,2.707886651162795,2.2006201550387594,96.30471576227391,83.65116279069767,4.752454780361758,20.60206718346253,5.82211442006289,-0.15126459948320425,632,19,145,4,18,205,93,172,0.127,0.807,0.066,-0.9209,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,0,9,10,0,1,9,1,19,1,0,1,1,27,30,16,0,6,4,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,11,13,0,0,4,12,0,0,1,6,1,1,13,6,21,4,13,12,6,15,0,3,0,1,26,6,1,2,10,99,32,13,0.0,0.0,0.10494565672063903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894837106488663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20107484653514612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795864602620728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740820982584906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25759104519657394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993796069042242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875311724385907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601130730320466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633667185035773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240892394159978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052539678077361096,0.10778551895017537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706101819936078,0.0,0.07178524172440212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905587790900034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645770345752983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7529989927776833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618493097716193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30689172666853864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144624729511204,0.0,0.0,0.08537648012079514,0.1254174225917524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301408248719703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669333713127264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639488072785197,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,incredulousoptimist,2018/01/02,"Nephew sucks, parents are raising a sociopath https://imgur.com/gallery/6TIjX

13yo son's first girlfriend dumped him yesterday. Turns out my nephew has been abusing her over Instagram and that is part of the reason they split. Nephew then pretended to be someone else and abused my son. Asshole girl is now going out with son's asshole good friend. Son is pretty devastated and tomorrow I've got to go see my sister and try really hard not to knock the kid out and/or call the police on the abusive sack of shit.

On the plus side son showed me all the messages. He was consistently polite, rational and eloquent while nephew was all over the place and made himself sound pretty damned stupid.

Today has been ruff",7.135791776028,8.955322456692912,5.6156955380577465,79.9342694663167,64.59055118110237,8.479090113735781,29.85914260717411,8.841846274778883,2.374850218722659,580,20,98,9,9,169,91,127,0.203,0.715,0.08199999999999999,-0.9552,2,0,0,0,1,0,16,0,0,1,1,1,7,5,0,8,0,11,1,1,2,2,16,18,9,0,0,1,11,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,11,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,5,0,1,6,3,8,2,14,11,3,18,0,0,1,0,22,9,3,0,7,56,9,0,0.0,0.6088562204972142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490747639399906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309182592045458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570021528752,0.0,0.0,0.1323391635452858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469748352058386,0.14367093966331101,0.13699722797844524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534432786801322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207988406703902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19019861719000486,0.18549168767049934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896285644090335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348529480704216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097335349609968,0.17611589186574736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649691681539033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582796502003628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513448593937525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236403804052174,0.0,0.0,0.11629548739300292,0.1863156484154332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stephanieisateacher,2018/01/02,"First Week Potty Training Progress https://imgur.com/a/IP3w8 

Attached is a graph I made of my son's potty training progress. He is a very independent 2 and 3/4 year old. We took the time to start potty training the day after Christmas since he would be home from day care for two weeks. Here is the first week. I think he did very well. 

What is missing from the graph are annotations about whether he went to the bathroom using timed intervals with parent cues or whether he self-determined his own use. While the data was not recorded, towards the end of this week, we stopped reminding him to use the bathroom very 30-40 minutes and he increased his own determination on when he needed to pee. 

We used pull-ups when going out to stores and in the car. He also slept in a diaper throughout the week. 

He had one melt down in Target because I wouldn't let him lock me out of the bathroom. 

He also announced to me that he was a man now that he can use the potty. ",5.666451612903228,6.441985268817207,5.363602150537634,84.21540322580647,67.27956989247312,7.920430107526883,30.553763440860216,7.793537801064563,1.8818150537634408,764,28,149,8,12,235,113,186,0.022,0.8909999999999999,0.086,0.8977,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,0,4,8,3,0,0,16,0,14,2,2,7,0,25,29,11,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,9,0,1,1,0,1,5,2,1,1,4,8,0,13,2,23,17,3,34,0,1,0,0,22,8,0,1,21,91,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19641925038111896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748627022815177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521108346592652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840218127522335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877156065499144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20892108229894615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979469607806024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318657758609447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557964365850308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620403144687035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106067971548708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288664843797776,0.0,0.08321797396526982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636390610914353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811567348262762,0.0,0.0,0.10158816247428644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869242335837256,0.0,0.0,0.1026731040265004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869049733818262,0.0,0.0,0.1432208280645992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644436224015086,0.0,0.0,0.1199657080616722,0.0,0.0,0.5303340129330701,0.0,0.3039887310325666,0.0,0.0,0.4925464111855651,0.0,0.11041926652685828,0.11384437614432917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723937912003278,0.0,0.0,0.07908441573851416
parenting,000000000000000000oo,2018/01/02,"My daughter is turning 8 and I'd like to get her some ""big girl"" gifts that would make her feel little more distinguished and mature. Just looking for suggestions. She's become a little self-conscious about kid stuff and baby stuff lately, and I want to let her know that we see her as a growing, responsible, capable kid. For Christmas we got her this really nice leather-bound journal (something that I might pick out for myself) and she loved it. I'm kind of looking for similar ideas for her upcoming birthday. ",5.542767857142856,7.1536538125000035,5.491904761904763,80.11500000000002,68.16666666666666,8.402380952380952,31.42261904761905,8.841846274778883,2.6732369047619042,410,17,72,7,7,128,70,96,0.0,0.792,0.208,0.9549,0,0,1,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,2,0,19,16,6,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,8,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,14,4,11,12,2,6,0,0,3,1,16,4,0,2,2,46,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132026976908693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976091975934626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085788495086087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439547670169615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179239619624978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20102634220694185,0.10609231522729624,0.0,0.21776282318448872,0.0,0.0,0.1974012787183632,0.0,0.09431188638851888,0.3869629959509285,0.0,0.0,0.3242178467000051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423037323703092,0.0,0.12885883221278052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478991365635854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366937412143116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383162747891338,0.0,0.20138771724904936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861523669531013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4419799780157184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099771928130724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138627620936044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713341184277592,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Taysel10,2018/01/02,"Overwhelmed with responsibilities My LO turned eight weeks today and I am on my last week of maternity leave. When I think about getting ready to return to work, I get so overwhelmed with how I'll be able to accomplish everything AND work. 

When I think about working 50 hours a week, picking up and dropping off at day care, pumping 7 times a day, making dinners, keeping a clean house, taking care of our puppy, and trying to fit in exercise and oh maybe a few minutes to myself to unwind, I have no idea how to fit it all in. To top it off, my husband is starting a class tomorrow that will take up two evenings and a Saturday every week for the next five months. 

Veteran parents, how do you do it????",8.89542579075426,6.508643956204381,8.732518248175188,73.12340024330905,61.99270072992701,11.469099756690998,38.89172749391727,9.725611199111238,3.6014924574209246,550,22,107,8,6,179,93,137,0.024,0.7979999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.9616,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,1,0,5,9,4,0,2,7,0,7,2,0,5,1,18,19,12,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,4,8,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,11,2,23,17,2,30,0,2,0,0,4,11,0,0,18,71,15,5,0.151132430176326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081791700264595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949358291794648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982154476756737,0.0,0.12733559071181927,0.0,0.13582808316712813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792091401222014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14883500041394432,0.17438653299498605,0.0,0.17061011776644544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343334480564263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319310197045676,0.0,0.16002742175650694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088207070525093,0.0,0.1518328396914016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206324638792541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607310540525609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781467839353845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697231195315267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272655576591849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936791175938492,0.0,0.0,0.08812653541062432,0.0,0.14325587235593354,0.0,0.0,0.10260899949645998,0.16438868526202194,0.14763442388126738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4849172772791661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300786274407641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CanAgent,2018/01/02,"Sick kids again! 1 and 3 year old kids getting sick all the time, just basic colds (so obviously it could be worse) but It’s all the time... this means lack of sleep for all of us, from hearing them cough and cry all night. 

Work is difficult due to lack of sleep. Working out, forget it. My wife is at home everyone is always sick, that’s really hard on her. I have cleaned out the ducks bought a new furnace and AC unit. Cleaners vacuum3 and dust all the time. (I know the above doesn’t stop you from getting colds, but I’m trying whatever) doctor says it’s normal for young kids... but it’s like 2 weeks off 2 weeks on, over and over again...

When does this end?",0.8284444444444432,3.080936437037039,1.905185185185185,97.43333333333337,84.62962962962962,5.377777777777778,17.88888888888889,6.742157984588678,-0.1913111111111112,509,12,117,6,15,160,88,135,0.204,0.774,0.022,-0.9758,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,1,1,2,5,2,0,0,6,0,7,7,2,0,6,25,14,10,0,4,4,1,1,1,0,0,5,2,2,3,8,7,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,7,1,16,11,7,24,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,0,17,64,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455484505614109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966034426822133,0.0,0.1921427238945986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790392596508109,0.1530747203843881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549282633222331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714470212780216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182778214179924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669503665402926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971489046303176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546022521970078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613211661590196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545766242486638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19054046607365047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16893998440148011,0.0,0.16415169616734918,0.17138563614302188,0.0,0.0,0.18355037387692796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205899946086044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391043586005378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500950508337499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462419551667868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059938741800465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187600122761473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040866542136785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806224701790241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546894329563585,0.0,0.17825964614370765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264351740878716
parenting,2-3uv,2018/01/02,"Looking for ideas for encouraging appreciation and awareness Recently my 7 year old has done what I feel are fairly normal things for his age - exclaiming ""So-and-so gave me 4 gifts!"" and focusing on things he did not get for Christmas; nonetheless I would like to encourage him to be more appreciative of the abundance he has and that he received. Any suggestions welcome.",6.579090909090907,8.684330848484851,6.721636363636367,70.38245454545456,66.27272727272728,10.734545454545453,35.92727272727272,10.793553405168565,4.4906763636363625,300,15,49,9,5,96,53,66,0.0,0.733,0.267,0.9622,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,11,3,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,6,4,8,6,1,6,0,0,1,0,11,1,0,0,5,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152899135755867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239782631783197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600758232471435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540356198518785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573880174870161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466834302348936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26585321876160706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31018789431051186,0.0,0.0,0.33220464243152165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125913201089434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42065247023822144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489421424044326,0.0,0.0,0.20387155107679547
parenting,MisterMarbles1988,2018/01/03,"Baby is huge at 14 months old. Future professional athlete, or hogwash? My 14-month old son was at the doctor's office today and measured at 36"" and I believe my wife said 24lbs. This puts him, according to the physician, in the 97th percentile for kids his age.



Should we start contacting college scouts now, or is this information completely irrelevant to how large my son will grow up to be? 



EDIT: Thanks for the comments everyone. Not what I was wanting to hear but now I can temper my expectations a bit. 



EDIT2: It looks like 100% of the anecdotes shared by people here is concerning girls, not boys, stopping short after huge growth spurts earlier on. I wonder if gender is a factor. We all know that girls tend to grow faster than boys earlier on in general. ",4.2360556464811765,6.742139730496454,4.8754609929078025,79.42615384615388,73.68085106382979,7.742716857610475,27.86743044189853,8.617729084823388,2.381030114566285,606,24,104,12,13,194,104,141,0.025,0.851,0.124,0.9123,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,7,0,10,2,0,1,1,20,19,7,0,4,6,3,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,5,5,4,0,1,3,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,3,3,12,3,19,13,2,27,0,0,1,0,18,11,0,4,13,66,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240992402188009,0.0,0.0,0.23352373985201455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22427040639721746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189360319796676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20439091359993095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108119623082985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755401691640605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450088740340384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962238901996888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34146637492913784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4489047888532981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829154304516995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502889215734053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034681783825905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139974102242376,0.0,0.0,0.17883023776801976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19693066790075128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275248406455074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616394535856532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23196576283841144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mo9184,2018/01/03,"3 year old wont eat Anyone else have a toddler who just flat out won’t eat a proper days worth of food? My kid today has literally had 2 strawberries, 2 mini pancakes and 3 bites of French toast. This is normal behavior. Anybody have any tips or tricks to getting an unwilling toddler to eat? I’m feeling pretty frustrated with it ",3.116512820512824,5.349303446153846,4.610384615384618,81.30378205128206,76.07692307692308,7.410256410256411,27.756410256410252,8.344100000000001,2.2049487179487177,264,11,48,5,6,88,55,65,0.078,0.8109999999999999,0.111,0.264,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,3,0,7,4,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,6,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626407737731685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067348013909905,0.235445499907591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819458925704293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7053930862065007,0.19195882754649315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618798305359095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778611976045237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005502059650675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225143966630963,0.0,0.0,0.24112440331208254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23377754127814845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21781265405963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14797627674885444
parenting,Justinedaydream,2018/01/03,"My child had a panic attack Last night I was snuggled on the couch with my daughter (4f) and I gave her the 5 minutes till bedtime warning. She said okay and went back to her tablet. My husband walks in and asks her why she is crying. I look down and she was silently crying next to me, she said the unicorn video she was watching was so beautiful and then I thought she was over tired so I put her to bed. She started hyperventilating and it took several hours of me lying next to her and soothing her for her to fall asleep. I asked her several times what was wrong and she kept talking about the unicorn. I'm so worried, she has never had anything like this happen before. Is this normal?",2.541712521055586,4.739373401459853,3.3345985401459863,89.92532285233017,77.75912408759123,5.38326782706345,25.13700168444694,6.297961479604792,0.7437460976979224,544,20,109,4,13,172,84,137,0.191,0.7490000000000001,0.06,-0.9595,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,1,5,1,11,2,1,0,1,13,24,13,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,4,9,0,1,1,1,0,5,1,3,0,0,15,4,28,2,14,9,0,20,0,0,2,0,26,4,0,0,12,76,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756691521636387,0.0,0.28984251166662595,0.1763557821420603,0.0,0.11919956260825383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190922052958978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405608143749576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708223814493758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266187451347854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636066665524745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573414834578297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301763936582529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955972832903045,0.0,0.3297276035333995,0.14547424485990273,0.1518850951885524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181880663931928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15583628447487186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949159492931045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35025328182881194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972280457143643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459789882267225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306727500668108,0.0903924618049982,0.17817081935305426,0.0,0.0,0.17223111985830972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370358782869985,0.13987997298238616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15742868583353153,0.0,0.0,0.1694882592161016,0.0,0.0
parenting,bassampp,2018/01/03,"Seeking advice: daycare discipline My son is 4 now and has been going to the same daycare for 2 years. He has normal fit throwing toddler stuff going on, including stuff like kicking people (which is new) but which is no different than the stuff I've seen other kids do at the same daycare. Personally seen kids spit, punch, curse etc. I don't consider this stuff too crazy, though it's certainly not good behavior by any standard.

I try my best to discipline at home with time outs and the sort, even seen a therapist because when I deploy for my job, he gets worse.

Anyways, yesterday he came home and said there was a birthday at school in which they gave out cupcakes, but he said he didn't get one. I asked why and he said it was because he was being bad. He also said it was because he ""accidentally"" kicked the teacher.

I know this means he did it on purpose since he pulls that at home, and to take toddler stories with a grain of salt.

Today I picked him up and decided to ask the teacher what happened and she verified that he was being punished, but not for kicking anyone, she said ""there was no reason for his fit throwing"" and that she sat him in the classroom while everyone else had a cupcake.
 
Just watching them eat.

She didn't want to reward bad behavior.

I understand that I too don't reward bad behavior either, but this seemed a little much.

At running the risk of sounding like a snowflake millenial parent, I thought it was kind of fucked up. Just sitting him there, alone, watching his class have fun eating cupcakes.

He has complained about this specific teacher before, but now I'm wondering when they have done this sort of thing before.

They know he is going through a tough transition right now too. We're moving out of the country away from all friends and family, sold our home, just had a new baby. Pretty much anything that would increase acting out, we are doing.

I told them today that he would not be returning to daycare anymore in light of this. I am reaching out because I have seen this community help so many others. Am I crazy and overreacting? I just don't feel comfortable sending him back.

Edit: wasn't sure when toddler ended and pre schooler began.",6.259158653846152,6.929464290865386,6.165865384615383,79.35413461538462,65.94711538461539,8.803846153846154,33.30769230769231,8.730908602173464,2.731786538461538,1739,72,315,25,26,547,215,416,0.16,0.752,0.087,-0.9881,3,1,0,0,0,0,51,2,0,5,3,23,20,2,1,17,0,38,4,1,2,3,58,73,23,0,4,13,2,1,2,1,2,0,6,4,3,29,20,2,2,10,0,1,12,11,8,0,1,31,15,34,12,41,37,9,53,0,0,6,1,50,22,1,4,20,212,63,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055291962120854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537609429377901,0.0,0.06592192352618069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05605750757771998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175173680729611,0.05763931788806394,0.0,0.06783562668310272,0.0,0.15412811687859918,0.0,0.07744884975787149,0.06338616102904238,0.2064852223988784,0.20100243026850834,0.0,0.14028942574534378,0.0,0.08650871943977324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428179664401114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612531003485846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435794153802229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869980159638048,0.06886248976989641,0.0,0.07301148425532264,0.0,0.09193498014304392,0.05444645296428165,0.0,0.0,0.07876860248786735,0.0,0.0,0.07771082990581837,0.0,0.041680780700095364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368780492646704,0.07620830759226391,0.08613605045747927,0.0,0.1405463245113735,0.06914118643154378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289554282873588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05525333966183698,0.0,0.3307495016430653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180238431218331,0.0,0.0,0.08584165315411882,0.09060643123759246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054554592989385,0.08261987687092091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083574482674933,0.0,0.08979408882808906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761360976669827,0.1211960003974827,0.0,0.0,0.15922929421300805,0.0,0.0,0.08076718480229032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585897415958728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153248444656888,0.0,0.0,0.0571489084358269,0.0719776252353833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386435648966921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475521731523017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703976340303267,0.39206498419297053,0.0,0.0,0.08342695529992866,0.0,0.07504422963195151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818972239025382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774658739483368,0.0,0.0,0.07769246072154425,0.0,0.0619796233583853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571147771078173,0.05476505760611658,0.0,0.08099035190895769,0.06544287529490292,0.04806755171252984,0.0,0.15627436209780365,0.07876860248786735,0.0,0.05596683639593562,0.0,0.0,0.08581602883172551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04862132804837762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438328042644747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939545619712869,0.0,0.0,0.08400663035066093,0.11711657931009202,0.0,0.0,0.05308437738471438
parenting,iminlovewithboston,2018/01/03,"What should we feed our baby? Hello everyone, it's my first post on Reddit.

My wife just gave birth to our beautiful son 2 months ago. She has trouble producing breast milk, so we are (were) resorting to baby food powders found in places like CVS, Walgreens. But now that we are aware of the ingredients, we are sort of thoughtful about the whole situation.

I'm a health freak, so when I checked the ingredients of these powders I freaked out. I saw a trend of new parents making their own baby foods at home for their babies, but I was skeptical whether we can do a good job at it.

I looked into Organic options but those do not seem so reliable either...

- Did you ever have this problem? How did you solve it? Do you make your own formulas?

- Did you feed your baby with those pre-made powder solutions? Did you have any problems with it?

- Would these food powders cause any sort of growth problems for my child?

- Are there any specific nutrients I should be aware of when I'm making my own formulas? Should I be concerned about any specific preservatives when I'm making these formulas?

Sorry if I'm asking too many questions... I just want the best for my kid, just like all of us.

I know I may sound nutty, but I think it's essential to every parent to understand the marketplace.  Below, please find an example of a blogger (whom I'm not too sure about) that talks about the processing of formula:

https://wellnessmama.com/53999/organic-baby-formula-options/



I would really, really appreciate all inputs.

Thanks a lot for reading! I hope you have a great day!",4.882581300813008,7.108745369337977,5.231938153310106,78.8512986353078,70.91637630662021,8.685772357723577,27.289343786295014,9.2995712137729,2.45986887340302,1239,44,223,28,24,393,163,287,0.076,0.763,0.161,0.982,3,0,0,0,0,0,56,8,8,2,3,19,15,1,0,13,0,26,8,1,7,4,55,48,13,0,11,12,4,0,2,0,6,1,1,1,2,15,9,6,0,8,1,1,1,2,7,0,1,10,3,37,8,30,30,9,21,0,0,2,1,31,8,0,9,13,154,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981150812164799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010768695833275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347501376208453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615649520485083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370341333750808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138230963179483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012041632820996,0.09325641778218677,0.10576372944168444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116357652365958,0.09414813145382957,0.4015202068072429,0.12135977974651198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928368601708938,0.0,0.1220299901704657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765238804733633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102552190810183,0.10993462724945248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983723169915403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060829275729281575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081496568226433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294705630193628,0.0,0.0,0.09409995610626548,0.0,0.0,0.29553090317733915,0.11221665352285312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834726714448794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689972565483123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24580395270115976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564168591173116,0.1214982815077256,0.0,0.0,0.1060051012675963,0.0,0.0,0.31773019370777544,0.0,0.0,0.12399190851361258,0.0,0.11071439670087146,0.0,0.14181457802260708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076296072633607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441395246070618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390217309777304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431877849651787,0.0,0.0,0.08896396336940363,0.0,0.10190336503604876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092212242095793,0.0,0.08787108489886078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522640961563856,0.13313975781772555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528455275813821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357522886553952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725410653560926,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greenpotatoes9,2018/01/03,"Leapfrog reading systems...worth it? Kiddo just turned 3. He LOVES to ""read"". He knows all of his letters, and loves to point them out every time he sees them.

Lately he's been pointing at words in books and saying ""what's that word?"". I've been spelling them to him, sounding them out, and following along with the words with my finger as we read together.

He's extremely independent and wants to read by himself. I was wondering if the Leapfrog reading systems are any good/worth it? He does have an ipad and we have some education apps on there, like SuperWhy, some ebooks that read aloud, etc.",3.8510714285714314,6.126851964285716,3.7387142857142885,88.20628571428574,74.0,6.98,27.271428571428572,7.908726449838941,1.634604285714286,468,18,91,7,10,142,76,112,0.0,0.901,0.099,0.9037,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,2,0,4,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,6,3,1,1,1,24,14,7,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,12,0,0,2,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,11,3,15,11,4,11,0,0,1,2,19,7,0,4,3,52,16,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935286659952175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035799799905746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338812627647394,0.0,0.0,0.11587935483362165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153580173592859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558576014542191,0.0,0.1551457189575762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719276139984509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248261811863132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26003047673371066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8254346348873746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937352733398313,0.0,0.0,0.1095977637257692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019789290660256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959882530581642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811218362674406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491510794082189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coralea,2018/01/03,"Help with sleep training issues Help. I tried to sleep train my son at 12 months, starting 2 months ago, using the Ferber method. At first it went exactly like the book said it would. He cried off an on for a total of about 4 hours of crying the first night (an hour at initial bedtime, then 3 wake-ups with an hour of crying each).

The next night went much better, with about 40 minutes of fussing and only maybe 10-15 minutes of true crying, and a little light fussing overnight.

The next night, he fussed for about 10 minutes and then slept through the night.

Since then, though, his pattern has been to scream bloody murder for 10-30 minutes when I first put him down. I don't mean a little grumbling, I mean screaming so hard he chokes and coughs. Every single night for 2 months now. I stopped doing checks about 6 weeks ago and nothing has improved. 

He does the same thing at nap time as well, sometimes crying (alternate light fussing and full-on screaming) for a full hour before falling asleep.

He starts screaming as soon as we head toward his crib and he clings to me. Once I put him in his crib, he can't be soothed, and if I try to pick him up he thrashes and bites me.

I'm starting to feel like sleep training was the wrong choice. We used to nurse to sleep at night and nap, and as soon as we headed toward the nursing chair he started to giggle and almost pant like a puppy. Seeing his reaction to his crib now breaks my heart.

Also, he doesn't seem particularly well-rested. He still wakes often at night and even though he doesn't cry anymore, I think he has trouble falling back to sleep. Sometimes when I wake up I see him awake on the monitor and he looks bored and restless.

I want to move toward weaning him totally, but I almost feel like, if this is our new normal, I would rather go back to nursing to sleep. 

What am I doing wrong? How can I fix this?",4.9487353998203085,5.5668682345013485,4.687806603773588,88.98630110062894,68.81132075471697,6.830233602875112,26.779088050314463,5.985473137389443,0.8290403414195868,1469,42,302,6,24,448,189,371,0.115,0.8240000000000001,0.061,-0.928,0,0,1,0,0,0,49,4,0,0,4,22,18,1,1,18,0,17,14,13,4,4,49,39,33,1,7,4,1,3,4,0,2,1,5,0,0,6,22,0,1,6,3,1,8,4,10,1,3,6,13,33,8,52,30,7,69,0,0,3,0,32,19,0,6,45,175,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228744708380924,0.0,0.1268441192357807,0.0,0.0,0.05064993962185503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628124956279053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740326304972377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05389444484856688,0.0,0.0,0.0560157256593353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174310776962769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055425939116975714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04183296554096786,0.0,0.05336348371275696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404937577445481,0.09049479388176557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162122883029936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03599542443441978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05673679847142332,0.0,0.130002436024137,0.0,0.0,0.07505370693761004,0.08490584522056441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494936121497251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610654192999019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377148056179713,0.12695903126720212,0.0,0.0,0.05318645990350816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362973009070662,0.13798338805256338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166306180694866,0.06731636164975749,0.04655939764943982,0.0,0.0,0.0611705006963008,0.1347175434161152,0.4160571599550279,0.06205603257372401,0.06077279612379904,0.0,0.0,0.06745099041070725,0.0,0.048170037338336365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734075761068678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060247234045987565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094150917446706,0.05765890156887515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052392362618571706,0.0,0.38029166913921664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528225092717904,0.0,0.17931876531038593,0.0,0.05058037449467757,0.05295190272481135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0420777597612969,0.04058328225221474,0.12445499811644115,0.0,0.03693185000955152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600225031827471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940428978261968,0.0,0.0,0.03735733422594521,0.0,0.05080448263416927,0.0,0.1138937079094463,0.11742659167692884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998444452881449,0.13849639323359894,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrNoodleIncident,2018/01/03,"Education apps for 6 y/o? Looking for some iOS recommendations.  Free preferred, though willing to pay if it is really good. 

Much prefer apps that are educational (actually teach something) vs apps that are for just for kids (age appropriate, but no real value). 

Right now we allow Skylibrary (reading rainbow) and sometimes PBS kids if he has earned some “tv” time.   Most of my other apps are geared to awards little kids, so we need to upgrade. 
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parenting,RN_Mindbender,2018/01/03,"Traumatized our 2yr old toddler? We have a 2.5-year-old who's been described as a ""spirited child"". She's not rambunctious and getting into mischief, but she's very intelligent and has enormous willpower to get what she wants. We've struggled with sleep for the entirety of her life, but she's very sweet and compassionate. She is very sensitive and happy much of the time.

She has been enrolled in a pre-school for about three months and although she's fairly quiet, she does really well for her age. She doesn't seem to mind when we drop her off and is in good spirits when we pick her up. She also frequently gets dropped off at a daycare at the gym while my wife exercises. She doesn't have a problem with this either.

However, recently, we went on a trip to see my parents. During the trip, we decided to go to church on Christmas eve. At this church, there is a daycare specifically for her age group. We dropped her off, probably too hastily without enough explanation. After the hour, we went back and although she didn't cry during the time there, she burst out in tears when she saw my wife. We asked if she had fun and she said no. Clearly it was a scary experience.

After this event, she's been very clingy and yesterday when we dropper her off at the gym daycare, my wife had to be called back because she was crying for mommy. Also during the day, she constantly worries about where mommy is.

My wife is really upset that this one event at the church traumatized her and she beats herself up (and me) that we left her there against her intuition. However, I have a different perspective on it. I think our toddler is going through an extra clingy phase that was perhaps kicked off by this event. I think this clinginess and anxiety is due to a phase caused by a newly evolved sense of danger. I've read up on this and many experts agree that all toddlers go through a phase. I don't think this bad daycare experience was the cause, just the tipping point. 

What do you think? Did we mess up? Is this something normal that would have inevitably come? Is this just a necessary step to help our toddler find her own boundaries? And most importantly, what do we do now? She's really nervous about any sort of daycare and with pre-school starting back up next week, we're worried she'll cry the entire time.

Thanks in advance!",4.925075927817499,6.489046928089891,4.916281920326863,83.83327204630577,69.6067415730337,8.09056860742254,30.11406196799455,8.575989854853784,2.2470149812734093,1853,74,353,30,33,575,212,445,0.113,0.765,0.123,0.8374,5,0,1,0,0,0,57,15,1,0,2,21,14,1,3,26,0,35,3,1,3,2,60,56,28,0,5,8,5,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,21,33,0,0,7,4,0,10,7,7,1,2,15,5,60,7,57,38,7,74,5,0,2,0,63,29,0,4,32,248,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284939155365435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498866740338645,0.0,0.07310830248716242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893420110718108,0.0,0.0,0.22045479624915626,0.07979424476784051,0.058256604032393224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975843371734764,0.0,0.0,0.1963467554913168,0.0,0.08232229342119432,0.0,0.10327370648484764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149267635747151,0.0616326479754678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984691383413466,0.0,0.0,0.08363110729814281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874599977783126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869652394483881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734627853852531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978904815366698,0.0,0.1629383597865907,0.08015685611147348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017325828696334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640563783402429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411399869950186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103833553946723,0.0,0.06750162206027872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688968512274718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649517489752348,0.0,0.07628046841854376,0.0,0.0702525576037486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163632324386404,0.0,0.0936351246609845,0.0,0.0,0.2005624569983689,0.0,0.06475850336582921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611556676965003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034146904252464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303712056641694,0.09144447357232488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559261213147624,0.0,0.18366752232048264,0.0,0.09436063677276373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909058642070553,0.0,0.0,0.19343730696364905,0.07615432700914558,0.08700038033857617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956357675758074,0.0,0.0,0.07357195343582776,0.0,0.0,0.06764263782068353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990711729629226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879850239811366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449412593899576,0.0,0.0,0.1671772220773289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154103105972804,0.05636774544187605,0.0,0.07665788268265032,0.0,0.08592598572534542,0.1771826701476789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212293708932497,0.0,0.0,0.19410534792684134,0.0,0.06788787754836773,0.0,0.0,0.061541853986069935
parenting,happadadda,2018/01/03,What did you do for your kid's first birthday? Me and my wife are home bodies and not big on birthdays or celebrations. We have no idea what to do for our son's first birthday. I think some people are expecting something or to be invited but truly we have no idea what to do or how this could even be enjoyable for anyone.,5.017727272727272,5.123633651515153,5.684393939393942,83.69659090909094,68.54545454545455,9.024242424242424,28.62121212121212,8.841846274778883,1.95319393939394,255,8,54,4,4,83,46,66,0.062,0.83,0.108,0.6486,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,11,1,1,1,0,16,12,7,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,8,1,7,8,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,4,2,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188848430060246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048308927695144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191107637685091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125903840759305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668616109360633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752765945145332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6195982232284528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025585001684486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127033432178588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758442563498497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VanceVanceRebelution,2018/01/03,"Asking parent couples: How do you cope with differing parenting styles/philosophies? So my girlfriend (21f) and I (23m) have been together about 1.5 years now. She has a 3yo daughter from a previous relationship.  Bio-dad watches her almost every Thursday while my gf and I are at work, other than that the 3yo doesn’t interact much with her paternal family. On the flipside, she spends at least a day, sometimes 2, every week with her maternal family. Her “Papa & Mam-Mam” as she calls them try to spoil her every time they see her.

The 3 of us have been living together for about 6 months, at my grandmother’s house while we’re saving to buy our own house. It’s not perfect but it’s a stable living situation, we have a weekday routine, and all our basic needs are met without worry so I can’t complain too much.

The 3yo has always been a little bit of a “brat”, even before she learned to talk so well! She doesn’t always listen or is just plain rude towards me and her mom, commands others when she wants something rather than asking for it, and will enter fits where she refuses to make eye contact or will act shy with anyone that isn’t me or her mother, even towards my grandmother whom she’s very familiar with by now. We’ve made great progress the last few months in getting her to use manners and speak to others kindly. I think this is mostly due to my persistent discipline with her. I’m big on researching things and at least trying to educate myself when I encounter a situation that I’m not sure how to handle. Through methods such as a “cry chair”, using a calm tone of voice and getting down on her level when trying to effectively communicate, and keeping a balance to the reward/punishment behavior scale, we’ve been able to actually get her to use manners and be nice to us. She will do really well for a few days, we don’t have to remind her to ask for things or say thank you, but she always reverts to her old self after those few days of bliss. I’m positive her visiting her grandparents has something to do with it. “Mam-Mam” always gives her everything she wants without making her use manners or even ask for it, she doesn’t even make her pick up her toys before she leaves. No structure, no discipline. I try to pick up this slack at home, gf tells me she feels bad and doesn’t want to be so consistent with discipline. So I always end up being the bad guy... ugh.

According to my gf her parents have always been this way and she is unwilling to ask them to change. I don’t blame her, they seem to be very stubborn, borderline-ignorant, people. They treat me really well, but I’ve always recognized that I grew up with more structure and discipline and as I get even older I’m starting to realize how beneficial that has been for me.

Now for the drama:

Recently, we just had a cold hit our household. Everyone was feeling crappy for a good few days, very little sleep was had by all and tensions were quite high. Things have since calmed a little but now the 3yo refuses to use any manners or listen to me, only her mom. Her mom is anxious because of this and is verbally frustrated/annoyed whenever talking to her daughter. Literally anytime I try to communicate to the 3yo she just straight up ignores me. Idk if this is feeding some kind of cycle in the 3yo’s head or not but I can’t figure it out and I’m very frustrated. My gf doesn’t want to figure this out on her own, I feel like I’m having to drag her through every step of this and honestly it’s made me begin to question if this parenting thing is even right for me at this point in my life.

I don’t want to leave them, but I literally feel like I’m going crazy trying to figure out how to handle all this. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.

TL;DR
3 year old stepdaughter has taken her misbehavior to a new level and Mom (gf) is unwilling to help me keep her in line.

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parenting,OhHeyalNah,2018/01/03,"12 year old son struggling at school I emailed my 7th grade son’s teachers to try to figure out why he is doing so poorly in all of his classes and the main theme is that he’s daydreaming instead of working. Every year there is one class that he does poorly in but this year it is all of them.  

I remember being this way during class but I busted my ass and made up for it by studying at home. He is not stupid, just not interested. 

Can anyone here offer some advice because I would hate to see him have to repeat seventh grade. I am prepared to let him suffer the consequences of his bad grades so that he will learn that his inaction has consequences but i am afraid that holding him back would further his disinterest.

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parenting,pwnzasaurus_rex,2018/01/03,"Teacher Using 11 YO as Pawn for ""Social Justice""? Hi there,

Looking for a gut check on whether or not we're out of line/overreacting.

Some back story, first. I've tried to assemble all the details from talking to my son/his teacher, as fairly as possible.

Approximately 3 weeks ago, the class began organizing for a play. Students decided whether they wanted to be stage crew or actors. My son chose actor and (apparently) all of the acting roles except for the ""haughty princess"" were taken by the time it was his turn to select, as no one wanted the role (including the females in the class). He chose to accept this role after being informed most (all?) female roles during the Shakespearean era were played by males.

Supposedly, he changed his mind the following day and asked the teacher for a different role (such as backstage crew) but was told no, that he had already committed to the role.

We only found out about all of this yesterday, when he told us he didn't want to play the role when he found out the play would be performed in front of the entire elementary school (i.e. an 11 year old boy in a dress, playing a princess in front of the entire school).

Now, my concern is the ever-present problem of bullying. We are pretty progressive parents, and times have changed a bit, but when I was his age 2 decades ago, the situation would have been disastrous in that social climate. If he wanted to play that role, I would of course be fully supportive, but he's saying he doesn't.

The teacher responded to our concerns by claiming when she introduced the activity, that all of the students knew it would be in front of the entire school and that the play would be ruined if he backed out now. She claims he's not being bullied and has been enjoying playing the role. Further, she said backing out would affect his grade and he would be made to give an apology to the class.

My thoughts are that as a professional educator, she should have had the foresight to understand the volatility of the situation. I consider it not only extremely irresponsible, but also wonder if she's pushing an ideological agenda, as she mentions trying to make her class an ""example of social justice"". Additionally, saying he will be forced to give a public explanation as to why he backed out of the role is tantamount to bullying by a teacher, in my opinion.

I'm considering taking this to the principal, school board, and possibly legal action, but thought it would be prudent to get some unbiased opinions.",9.37993675889328,8.195334321739132,9.033241106719368,67.54009881422927,60.1304347826087,12.102766798418973,40.03952569169961,11.115808304768276,4.48695652173913,1988,88,341,43,22,642,224,460,0.071,0.825,0.105,0.8718,3,0,0,0,0,0,67,4,0,1,3,15,13,0,0,43,0,39,1,1,4,6,72,68,32,0,17,16,2,0,0,0,10,0,3,0,2,13,16,0,0,10,10,1,7,7,2,0,2,21,4,24,11,65,27,9,47,0,1,1,0,63,15,0,11,24,231,37,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010556975615458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343288419213308,0.06770870869812155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915284634995938,0.0,0.0,0.2604168618291717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243517180499104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913434614969942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05460364566253388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845969924360142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658675888985084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201828066662558,0.0,0.18566746985754756,0.0,0.0,0.044235365390361665,0.16244189674114204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109952247084364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011460077886365,0.056516330175720185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549021519156323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888444817388442,0.0,0.05737300744941596,0.1287871634386601,0.0,0.0,0.09401343277470868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090016286575454,0.0,0.08613746353228442,0.0,0.08101552986539959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053834714004586,0.13466226612826945,0.0,0.3427528270913212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034002712105635,0.0,0.2589240950652268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607987365115797,0.0,0.0,0.0636595541925525,0.06805266959860089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443335214423166,0.0987408037462082,0.0,0.0,0.16180718265270375,0.0,0.11496758648988348,0.09209411690770736,0.0,0.08814203510747504,0.10184478755274856,0.07312568625471713,0.0,0.0,0.1997567523062924,0.0,0.06791530139853219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639940701070151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918184813005828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811638937737106,0.0,0.0,0.05452320643124624
parenting,TheAznAssassinX,2018/01/03,"They are inducing my Fiancée tonight. Summarization of 2017:


* Had 4 night stand.

* Got pregnant.

* Bought a house.
 
* Moved into together.

* Got engaged.

* Binge read r/parenting


Wish me luck, my life in turbo mode has just began.

edit: Bought Ferber's book. :O
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parenting,greyghost6,2018/01/03,"Need help with a 2 y/o that scratches his classmates. I searched high and low, but couldn't find any related posts... 
My 2 year old son is a high energy kid. Big brother (5) has learned that he can out muscle him at home (for now, at least!), and I think it's having an effect on his behavior.
We keep receiving incident reports from daycare that he pushed, grabbed, hit, or scratched his classmates, and that daycare is running out of patience.
His teachers emailed us asking if we had any ideas (which is not a good sign) on how we can curb the behavior.
My gut tells me that positive reinforcement on days with good behavior is the right place to start, with maybe small bouts of isolation or time outs to remedy bad behavior.
Currently, teachers pull him aside and tell him not to hit and to use gentle touches and not make ""sad decisions.""
Anyone else have any ideas from their experience? Thanks.",6.69609467455621,7.011633905325443,6.292124260355031,80.05191420118345,64.97633136094674,10.310295857988166,34.651479289940816,10.125756701596842,3.3390231952662717,706,30,136,15,10,219,116,169,0.087,0.8009999999999999,0.112,0.6863,1,1,0,0,0,0,31,4,0,1,1,3,6,0,0,6,0,11,1,1,4,0,37,21,11,0,3,7,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,15,0,2,7,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,1,4,17,3,20,17,1,27,0,2,0,0,23,15,0,3,7,77,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291921356497779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282705310352628,0.16533295910477822,0.0,0.0,0.15085033849272295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347293248561968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406421008174102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347960398351291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578415871705243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474806255819057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27068315861413217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815657985890596,0.3409725750438073,0.16185779496175629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3643128554058192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434246769143578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077094246198041,0.0,0.16210836759420916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964680824229035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693207605480137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858743796607126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453880919445392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378010338104136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421183259003573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820724777181395,0.1485591211862989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339332931544916,0.0,0.0,0.09409063827157417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194096881975988,0.1393637125222901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391090813711876
parenting,therealme0929,2018/01/03,"Happy with one kid, but unexpectedly pregnant. Hey everyone! We have a little girl and we are very happy with having one kid. A happily one and done family. I was supposed to have Mirena inserted tomorrow, but realized I was late and took a test. I am pregnant. 

I really don’t want to be! We had one slip up where we didn’t use a condom, pulled out instead and I’m pregnant! It took 6 months to get pregnant with our first, including charting, and peeing on ovulation sticks! I’m in shock that i have an accidental pregnancy at 30 years old. 🙈

I don’t know what to do. I’m not even sure if this is the right subreddit. 

Honestly though, I hated being pregnant, child birth was awful. I don’t want to do the baby stage again! My kid is only 10 months and it’s already getting better, which i know the first 10 months would go quickly with the second one too.

I calculated my due date if I were to keep it and they would be 18 months apart.  

I am considering an abortion, but am afraid I would regret it. But I’m also afraid I would regret keeping it. The second would be much worse, if I regret having an abortion that only affects me, if I regret having it that can affect the kid as well. 

Anyone else get a surprise and keep it? How did it turn out? What was the age gap between them?

ETA: my husband fully supports either keeping or aborting. He too is happy with one child, but is open to having another if it’s what I want.",1.882336309523812,4.0049967673611135,3.8679563492063522,85.65125000000002,79.5902777777778,6.4753968253968255,22.785714285714285,7.5804360353943165,1.0989380952380947,1111,36,221,17,28,377,147,288,0.116,0.747,0.13699999999999998,0.7458,0,0,0,0,0,0,37,5,0,2,3,11,17,1,2,15,1,39,2,1,4,1,57,62,23,0,17,13,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,7,17,20,0,4,3,0,0,4,5,8,1,10,11,0,28,9,20,42,2,32,0,4,0,1,17,11,0,6,16,162,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886561150105788,0.07889245890354994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344586631804976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898020073559878,0.10108126015481038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725021920114552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009558744646369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241159926120918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515912041345008,0.0,0.0,0.0942667993023014,0.0,0.0,0.09300090359576214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782772429253878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462575553029748,0.0,0.056066553368268254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31505262264824463,0.0,0.09739903113710273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507479006799157,0.0,0.0,0.10843379213548304,0.0,0.11128444437013994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887583510919316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149742977022469,0.0,0.07252102160547336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351932209546648,0.0,0.4010973819533221,0.15005951515319832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319938997597792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424879239816183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119498160462266,0.09297892016387907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692569129940376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192133656913076,0.0,0.10730571403736718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520418286760516,0.0,0.0813987373898609,0.1745636012897554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870054671044274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053544068587657,0.350399928654854,0.0,0.0,0.06352904826238695
parenting,Utahbat,2018/01/03,"Struggling to assert myself as my son's father again. I actually posted on another sub before but they removed it and told me to post here instead.

I want to start off saying I know I am a terrible father and the guilt of my actions has made me have depression and not a single night of peaceful sleep for 13 years. The only reason I am still alive is because my wife will not be able to support our kids by herself.

A month after my son was born, I slipped carrying him on ice. He had a brain injury and now suffers from a form of cerebral palsy. He has poor motor function in his limbs and struggles with speech. But he is intelligent, handsome and a great human being.

My angel of a wife forgave me instantly and at her insistence, we have been telling our son that he was born that way. It was selfish I know.

I have spent the rest of my life trying to make up for this. I gave up my career just so I can work in a company with low pay but great benefits for my son.

I have dedicated every moment of my life to making sure he is happy. But I know that none of it makes up for what I did to him.

My older son [19m] accidentally told my son the truth about his injury. He feels terrible but none of us blame him. It was not his fault in any way.

The change in my younger son was overnight. He was justifiably angry. And although most of it is directed at me, he has started lashing out at his brother and mom as well.

We have started him in therapy and its been five months and he is unwilling to talk to the therapist. He is also doing poorly in school and doesn't even play his video games. We have had to put him back in diapers because he doesn't tell us he needs to go. I am absolutely devastated.

I can never forget the day when my little buddy, my best friend, looked me straight in the eye and told he hated me and spat at me. He says I have ruined his life and he is right. What can I even say to that?

A week ago, he had a breakdown and has stopped yelling at me. I have moved back upstairs from the basement.

But right now, I am struggling to find my place in my family again. There is still a lot of tension in the household.

I would like to parent him like before but I can't seem to get over my own guilt.

Our therapist has sort of been angry that I allowed this to get to so bad. She wants me to go back to disciplining him for his behavior towards the rest of us. I'm terrified it'll make him hate me even more.

My hours are more flexible so I am the primary caregiver.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? 
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parenting,gibbie99,2018/01/03,"Reducing screen time in 5 yr old Our 5 year old has been getting worse and worse behavior wise, and is absolutely addicted to youtube videos.  We have a younger child and need to cook/clean alot on weekends / school nights.  So we're quite busy.  And we've turned to the ipad to be able to get stuff done.  But it's backfired, she's spending way too much time on it, and her behavior is awful.    So we know we need to reduce or eliminate it, and are getting Circle by Disney to put a time lock on it.  We are thinking 1 hr during school days and 2 hours during weekends / holidays. 

The question is, anyone have luck with this?  How did your experience go?  My fear is that w/o the screen she'll be constantly interrupting us as we cook and clean.  I'm fine with interaction, but we need to feed her and her sister.   It's been a pattern of hers when she is not doing screentime to demand interaction over and over again.  Anyway.  Advice welcome!",3.9714519906323176,5.487222573770496,4.660862607338019,84.92815573770491,71.89617486338798,7.851522248243562,26.73263075722092,8.418075326091056,1.7066630757220924,733,25,148,12,14,235,115,183,0.064,0.86,0.076,0.4943,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,8,1,0,1,7,5,0,1,7,1,18,3,0,1,0,31,29,18,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,8,18,2,0,3,5,1,2,1,1,0,0,4,2,17,4,20,22,2,23,0,0,2,0,22,6,0,4,14,91,25,2,0.1517673101511593,0.0,0.0,0.16544876976111475,0.0,0.1483052589908731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611923202341574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400654594870415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787735965119003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531065076925424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845755119141338,0.0,0.17078041774386696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378764667677676,0.0,0.08625285983793875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946022930232306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340734460102665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115664355316198,0.3376006123214411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242333957731987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185085239882829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525680651142535,0.1700141209499158,0.16142321575322316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30719324068592424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373726011225013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724636424946796,0.0,0.0,0.2654902170885574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16507925236426646,0.0,0.0,0.18255738749581565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046582661117995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093277097761486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773317185062694
parenting,Claireheart,2018/01/03,"After bath tricks to stop crying Not sure if there is anything to be done, but I figured I would ask.

My 7 month old has loved the bath since birth and hates getting out of the bath. Other than nursing, what are your other tricks? 

When teeth come I am sure we are still going to nurse, then brush teeth, then sleep, but one day, we would like to drop nursing",3.9558333333333313,4.847281805555556,3.4648888888888902,95.869,71.2222222222222,5.7600000000000025,21.344444444444445,3.1291,-0.3824588888888889,278,5,62,0,5,82,54,72,0.204,0.693,0.103,-0.5383,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,1,0,0,3,7,3,0,2,0,9,4,3,0,2,15,15,7,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,5,0,1,1,3,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,1,7,4,8,11,0,14,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,11,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919557507071448,0.0,0.2180696178920952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009356052656062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562286885823974,0.15043547635037435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387092562981221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187040230168975,0.0,0.13256886068998727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302991322712927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396062431410275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052915882497175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18618847282597575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244770505143318,0.0,0.1580651914461557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19295774200009613,0.0,0.2334316749967788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862843048912748,0.19501849265271556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396956393359071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3314069907062781,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TexanRaisedChick,2018/01/03,"Hi, I'm new! I'm new to reddit and parenting. I have a 7 month baby girl and just wanted to get acquainted with the subreddit.

Background: I live in Texas with my DH and I am a Christian, cisgender, heterosexual white woman. I love cooking, my homestead and my family, animals, horses, history, and I do have a crafty side. Apart from that, I have some CRAZY family and a geek streak. I also have a collection of dolls, but I haven't found a subreddit yet.

I do have some questions. When do I need to start weaning? I don't want her to nurse for too long but I don't want to cut her off early. 

Also, how do y'all feel about blanket training? I'm currently against  it. 

And, the essential non-parenting question: What is the weirdest thing about reddit!

Thanks for reading!",1.4796762325239143,4.0358818278145705,3.3889514348785887,85.7070327446652,85.02649006622515,7.0641648270787325,24.282928623988226,8.167268648758528,1.8494103016924208,600,24,117,14,18,201,91,151,0.063,0.863,0.07400000000000001,0.6624,3,0,0,0,0,0,29,0,1,0,0,9,4,1,0,9,0,14,2,0,1,0,23,27,13,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,9,1,0,4,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,18,2,16,26,2,13,1,0,1,1,10,4,0,4,9,79,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060335516242246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607619438819713,0.0,0.09674867380845402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20979751465547186,0.0,0.0,0.0999687207015311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689592065557893,0.16933236540539442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17269435630483734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272800521088056,0.0,0.0,0.14187826892004726,0.0,0.3696001559426028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212463546312083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42869547551716297,0.0,0.19139458981335533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543342556406765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616275148362567,0.0,0.0,0.12711966055912302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385768401028698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jared515,2018/01/03,"12M Birthday Ideas I'm at a loss for ideas for my son's birthday party.  He wants to have 4 friends over to go out and do something, then come home for dinner and a sleep over. All of which is fine - it's just: Where/what do we go do?

Things we have done in the past:
Snow tubing
Indoor amusement park (think Mall of America)
Indoor water park
Dave/Busters
Trampoline park

Any and all ideas are appreciated!",1.3911653116531184,3.7541606097561018,2.3535772357723594,94.41649051490515,83.14634146341464,5.107859078590786,20.08672086720868,6.42735559955562,0.028255826558265525,318,9,69,3,9,100,61,82,0.028,0.807,0.165,0.8858,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,8,3,1,0,2,15,14,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,2,0,4,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,3,12,13,2,10,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,36,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508534276571691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19108870255953694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270112457902349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138692189977414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521445769211493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22251567263127614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7512642819087036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117638300422792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22199229376232968,0.0,0.0,0.17077718006339562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473753831147593,0.14214104562372304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308423137288499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kobelucas1010,2018/01/03,"International travel with toddler My awesome in-laws have decided to gift the whole family with a trip to Ireland in June as a way to celebrate the end of college tuition payments (kid 6 graduates this spring)! I am starting to get a little nervous and want to plan ahead for all things involving traveling with a toddler. LO will be 1 year and 8 months old at the time. Any advice/tips/moral support welcome!! We leave in June, traveling to Ireland from DC (plan to do direct flight) so it’ll probably be an evening flight. We go from a Friday-the following Sunday.
Things I’m most nervous about: babies have so much stuff! We will be traveling through the country (they’ve hired a driver I guess), but we will only be in each place for a night or two before moving on. 
LO getting any sleep on the plane. We’ve been blessed with an amazing sleeper, but she likes her own space- definitely prefers her own crib over snuggling with mom and dad. Also naps while there- they’ve got us booked pretty solid the whole trip so naps back in the hotel won’t be an option most days.
She is the only LO coming, there will be like 11 adults, but she is the first child in the family so I don’t want to mess up everyone’s awesome trip with a miserable kid the whole time! Anything I can do to lessen the chances of that the better! Thanks! ",3.2070969899665585,5.282182184615382,3.886387959866224,87.33339464882945,75.23076923076924,6.829431438127093,25.91973244147157,7.7425588080867325,1.4362023411371243,1048,38,206,15,23,332,157,260,0.041,0.755,0.204,0.9929,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,5,0,0,5,10,12,0,3,24,0,22,1,1,0,1,28,35,14,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,4,6,15,0,0,2,8,1,11,2,4,0,2,2,0,15,8,35,21,10,42,1,1,0,0,18,13,0,5,19,130,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824989652753048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18410322606771234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139237413801686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408593993690402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518410726295734,0.0,0.0,0.119717744025131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660340488336393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729806116002943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989161106352203,0.0,0.0,0.08940611232822765,0.0,0.0,0.12934533176270974,0.0,0.0,0.25521674266778593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513986280570067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144336285347006,0.0,0.0769300220213723,0.0,0.1082623110959164,0.0,0.14911781805815238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333007647270446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226323727040096,0.13566948056123662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853573562317386,0.10804560920323143,0.1438696519206075,0.0995075219351548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702918686553827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204090050145607,0.0,0.0,0.2058996159336869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142572608598547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377130312156198,0.1459444166108315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354609506676129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581076470779253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495847061165335,0.0,0.15360854727694134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462424148527945,0.0,0.0,0.1798585812451894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786273278711593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223017050854471,0.0,0.16282525433481226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968143672803198,0.10744500195626627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533845126200599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716945822798321
parenting,chutzpahinheels,2018/01/03,"On having older children When my children were tiny, people often commented: ""you'll miss the baby stage, it's gone so quickly."" I'd nod my head while secretly thinking they were wrong. Babies and toddlers are so hard! Meeting constant needs and supervising  was exhausting.  

Today my husband took our teen son on an overnight trip while I'm home with our 12 and 8 year old. We were all working on a puzzle when my 8 year old hears a little noise and asks about it. I brush it off as something minor but my 12 year old decides to investigate. It turns out my dishwasher somehow flooded the kitchen sink and water was all over the floor and in the wood cabinets. It was a ridiculous mess. As I'm running around frantically, trying to figure out what to do first, my kids just start-- helping. They rationally realize we need a bucket and go get one, they are getting things out of cabinets and asking how else they could help. 

I was amazed at how wonderful they were and how much easier it was for me because of their presence. It just made me feel so lucky to have them. Life was hard for years when they were younger but suddenly I find myself in a spot where they made life easier by noticing a problem, helping me, and even making me laugh in a stressful moment. 

I won't miss the baby years but I know I will miss this sweet spot; these amazing elementary, tween and teenage years where I get to learn my children's maturing personalities, have heart to heart conversations, and just enjoy them as people.

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parenting,fartist14,2018/01/03,"Craft Ideas for Preschooler? My 3.5-year-old really likes crafting and making things, and I'm looking for some new ideas for crafts we can do together. I like to sew and do several other types of needlework, and he is interested, but isn't really able to do that type of thing yet. He really enjoys stringing beads, origami, and sticking stickers on things. What sorts of crafts do your 3-4 year olds enjoy? And when is a good age to introduce kids to sewing? I remember learning to sew quite young, but it was probably around age 5 or 6. ",5.361608876560332,6.449931097087383,5.614590846047157,81.01650485436893,68.12621359223301,9.380859916782248,30.248266296809987,9.606745405546679,2.7192091539528427,425,16,81,9,7,135,74,103,0.0,0.8220000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.9597,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,1,0,18,12,10,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,6,13,11,1,10,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,3,10,47,12,3,0.1850138548813557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470155605948092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518084355159126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4177162443944695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807768481684888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553650411702937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349818478943285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786875339387157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882818360353793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994762277650621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19678500847186867,0.0,0.0,0.3555738389625232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20958463128504173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901299391586706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687449525421272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382857132521745
parenting,NancyNobody,2018/01/03,"Made a promise to my toddler I cannot keep. How do I break the news to her that she's not going to get to see the new Star Wars? So before Star Wars Last Jedi came out, we promised my 3.5 yr old that if she behaved well and got all her ""good-girl"" stickers on her chart, she could go to the movies (her first time ever) with us to see the new star wars. She's loved the force awakens, we watch it weekly.

Upon seeing it first with my husband, we realised we messed up. It's a lot more gritty than the fun loving force awakens, and just not appropriate for someone her age. So what's going to be the best way to break it to her? She's going to be devastated.

I have no clue what to do here, any help would be greatly appreciated!!",3.4584415584415567,3.7355821168831165,4.591324675324675,89.57412987012991,71.98701298701299,6.93922077922078,24.49090909090909,6.2581,0.4955293506493512,562,14,130,3,10,185,92,154,0.11,0.722,0.16699999999999998,0.8761,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,0,3,7,12,3,0,9,0,9,2,0,2,2,23,23,6,3,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,10,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,4,1,2,3,4,22,8,19,15,4,22,0,0,4,2,20,4,0,2,10,86,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979147545891234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738198244463656,0.0,0.16943172034870738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846556868071895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289046161950509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604068718327692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746584227030368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084350914610487,0.0,0.36702281889211796,0.13541652494582196,0.12912624211637352,0.17799909623869584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821647175616823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350409858270047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160322544874464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372589403606299,0.2914296952118394,0.15276780896272665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31185865914016525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941452221843953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859640269133557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367959851989982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414274112882112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19420436346744605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815142403996202,0.1295053796540198,0.0,0.1451628588487649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146893841590122,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grasshoppa80,2018/01/03,"Sleep train help Hi, hoping to get some input from parents in the same situation. 
We tried CIO sleep training in his own crib and it’s somewhat helped. Son is nearly 1 and has for the most part slept in our bed (I know, bad), and now we’d like him to start sleeping better through the night (he wakes up at least once for dream feed, but once he does wake up nothing but the boob comforts him). 
He’s wide awake at 8pm and takes his last name around 4, but won’t get drowsy or fall asleep unless we just put him in his crib and let him cry it out. 
This worked when we/he’d be in his routine and ready for bed around 730, but now since he’s been sitting up later, the CIO method has drawn out immensely (at best he fell asleep 15min after put down, now it’s close to an hr again). 

Anyways, I know all babies are different and mature at their own pace, but he’s a healthy active social baby, no teeth yet (but we suspect the top front look like they’re ready to bulge out), and we’re really just looking for some simple input or tricks that may have worked for you and your kids in past.  
I’m not sure if we’re confusing him by changing up/giving in constantly, and not having him fall asleep/wake up in the same bed every day. 
Thanks. ",5.408907563025213,4.710705960784313,5.257100840336137,89.81338235294119,67.82352941176471,8.226890756302522,25.66526610644258,6.868970318607317,0.7709383753501395,960,19,220,6,14,297,156,255,0.059,0.778,0.16399999999999998,0.9821,2,0,1,0,0,0,32,5,2,1,5,11,11,1,1,9,0,12,11,10,0,2,48,24,21,0,2,14,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,1,5,19,1,0,3,1,0,6,4,3,0,0,2,2,20,8,37,17,12,47,0,0,2,1,32,26,1,10,16,125,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24164376194637244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332269446387265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424324859809564,0.12003560248224655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357650525072094,0.0,0.0,0.1466679046864144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490848933232721,0.08752984323423625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180122065829132,0.0,0.0,0.11877175412333027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435213670118405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181890425254953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18194398386083072,0.0,0.0,0.13480315695574982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491791732741745,0.11063202643046274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387855449255653,0.0,0.13261440483435918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22794558789586905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736645768261318,0.0,0.13022948665550715,0.0,0.0,0.2890802601117122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070387577305938,0.14697434013257954,0.12956257057258747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728773818499505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694736725861844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122711299079726,0.15255787899284756,0.4074618251106909,0.13835208971633636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606514856787167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279169359367454,0.0,0.10204649765095763,0.0,0.0,0.12495512701474107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214673031788753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761532559355355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thatcharminggirl,2018/01/03,"Kid Keeps Slamming His Head I’m sure this is somewhat normal, but I can’t help but worry. Maybe you other parents have some insight. 

My kid (22 months) is in a defiant phase, which I can deal with. He needs to be in control, and it’s only going to get worse when I have his brother in 3 weeks. 

He throws tantrums, just like any other toddler, which again I can deal with. It’s when he literally throws himself on the hard floor and *slams* his head into the ground that really concerns me. He’s done it twice in the past two weeks, once in the concrete.

Throwing tantrums is one thing, but purposefully hurting himself and giving himself a concussion? My husband is a neuropsychologist and even he is freaked out. Help?",2.816397515527953,5.313498507246378,3.389068322981366,88.32130434782611,78.42028985507247,5.681987577639752,26.523809523809533,6.868970318607317,1.193259213250518,566,23,109,6,14,177,89,138,0.165,0.736,0.099,-0.8767,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,1,0,1,5,6,2,0,7,0,12,2,2,1,1,20,18,9,0,2,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,8,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,4,0,3,1,1,14,2,12,16,2,21,0,1,0,0,22,10,0,2,8,72,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879528625337404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592984732445665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36019572948464745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787686653542499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153811905819266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126838859758944,0.1675787011757159,0.09928043286048703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648805368648025,0.0,0.3585649655252395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23418223839090635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700940895721155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527262383903478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534477894785135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549972657526566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943600389704516,0.0,0.0,0.12953052605333426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115924794131718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603929888489226,0.11837456055119695,0.13285972406211866,0.0,0.0,0.19397272838499116,0.0,0.16676150617640856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191097751489293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464339051016114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160563674005884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064688427694993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802517879105945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774063178365643,0.17802417786506314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,This_is_alt_account1,2018/01/03,"My (17yo)Teenage has taken a turn for the worst and is going nowhere fast My son was a good kid. Nearly perfect act scores, a good girlfriend, solid grades and engaged in a lot of extracurricular activities such as sports and clubs. In about seventeen years of raising him I've never detected a single malicious action from him when he went with us back to visit our extended family in Bangladesh (we're Bengali) he got involved in volunteering for a local homeless shelter. However, the moment he received his college acceptance letter to Stanford he has gone off the deep end. Never have I seen him do drugs, drink and hang with the wrong crowd. Although to be honest, he is a relatively introverted kid with only a few friends since he never left the house much. 

Now? He leaves the house for a few a days at a time and rarely even talks to me even more. When I do see him he is either high, drunk, or hungover. I don't know what to do since I never had to discipline him much but he has missed more than two weeks of school (fortunately they are all excused but I'm pretty sure that he called in and lied about the excuses to the attendance office). After a year of dating his girlfriend, he unceremoniously dumps her via text after cheating on her. Before winter break he filled up his right arm with tattoos. This is only a sample of what he's done the last month and I am unable to do anything because when he comes home he simply ignores me and there isn't anything to do when he's 6'2 and I'm about 5'7.

A few nights ago he came home with purple bruises on the knuckles of his left hand and a bloody bandage wrapped around his right. A few days later I got a district-wide email from the administration on a student assaulted in another school not too far from our house. When I confronted him in the morning he admitted that this was revenge for all the teasing he got in ninth grade. However, when I pried further he simply sidestepped me and left in his car. Any advice would be nice on how to stop this behavior and similar experiences anyone else may have had with their kids would be good to hear. Also, advice on how to discipline my son when senior years ends in about six months. I simply have little to no leverage over him since his uncle spoils him and has promised to pay his college tuition if I don't. ",6.291273612142213,6.646563015590202,6.427404107894088,78.60046935577003,65.83741648106904,9.14628392312134,31.328961478181967,8.94667605116694,2.476944007258929,1850,66,349,28,27,591,240,449,0.101,0.8140000000000001,0.085,-0.8602,2,0,2,0,0,0,37,3,0,2,1,22,20,5,0,31,0,32,5,2,2,8,49,50,29,0,3,6,2,1,0,3,3,1,1,2,3,7,22,2,4,3,4,2,13,9,9,0,2,13,6,39,11,62,31,14,82,0,1,3,0,64,32,0,4,36,228,46,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709982327813348,0.08032652838354118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246640507594597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162268687535556,0.09501985558848687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336153338606408,0.0928478544815132,0.14914018702279142,0.08066836742820159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967890157991953,0.0,0.05523929959091112,0.0,0.0771084171254228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253011784739117,0.10364174012882774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805854640575474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688097384478335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273268187387594,0.0,0.08877018981826587,0.10508698423663032,0.0,0.0756988997176584,0.0,0.16051958165756516,0.0,0.0,0.11970338559344723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886408420685938,0.0854256699064078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001049155318208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051499745654578016,0.22801579301868585,0.2174241475142517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021319771386231,0.0,0.0,0.09574186599355228,0.18179253640266368,0.0,0.0,0.3136796537762886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04980074910846302,0.07386497284709279,0.0,0.0959503492790476,0.2953670003247752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082206865937628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703935726641697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465929547022624,0.0,0.13322788517996584,0.0,0.2795577554437628,0.0,0.0,0.08503794282634712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783666730284164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219009555144893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477289469576302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834185416211788,0.07221003961135959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22487802754053207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575989351707996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540547709835063,0.0,0.0,0.07283453512042154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283951813126013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856530584123513,0.08851966982616577,0.0,0.10900112809086683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072687514451705,0.0,0.0,0.08400289341585178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874347445313378,0.09907549553418313,0.0,0.17506318637246712
parenting,SovietAttentiveness,2018/01/03,"Teen boy fashion. I am out of my element. I have recently been granted custody of my 14 year old nephew. To make a long story short he was homeschooled prior to living with me. He will starting at our local public school next week. He is super excited. 

Our one issue is clothing. He didn't have many clothes when he came to me. We plan on going shopping this weekend but neither of us have any idea on what's popular. I'm almost 60 and a woman. My nephew didn't go to school and wasn't allowed to have friends. He isn't sure what kids are wearing. 

How do I find out what is popular? There are some teen boys in the neighborhood but they wear jackets at the bus stop so it is hard to tell what they are wearing underneath. My nephew hasn't gotten a chance to interact with any of them yet. Are skinny jeans still a thing? A know sneakers are a big deal. I think Nike would be okay. Do kids care about socks and underwear? High socks or low cut? Briefs or boxers? I see a lot of boys with hats on. Can we just buy a random sports team or would people make fun of him if he isn't actually a fan? What brands are popular for shirts?

I know that's a lot but this kid has had it rough. He is about to start at a school for the first time since kindergarten. He is already going to be the new kid. I don't want to make it worse for him. I know clothes aren't life or death but If I could send him in without making him a target I would love that. ",0.6133072446317485,2.7722187814569565,2.0453160746538224,96.69853000200683,84.69536423841059,5.117559702990167,19.416415813766807,6.42735559955562,-0.08062825607064061,1120,31,256,11,33,360,166,302,0.07200000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9761,1,0,0,0,0,0,29,5,0,3,4,9,13,1,0,16,1,39,7,5,6,1,47,59,16,1,7,12,3,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,8,13,11,1,1,6,4,2,6,10,2,0,2,8,3,28,11,36,44,4,39,0,1,1,1,40,16,0,11,17,158,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.11991718999929812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305071112763068,0.0,0.13560569923293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671308520344462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405467143058884,0.12528856594156007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811298302441793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668814787722316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231387361407187,0.10452518288174023,0.0,0.0,0.09493997826077596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095136582136552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008004850483186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983383596398754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387212314722204,0.0,0.12825911116231278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20260172152067704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679669901997167,0.0,0.0,0.10850894298908904,0.10874859298013173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208943395249318,0.11090773000660112,0.0,0.3281044586314064,0.12458522597026002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186822638063582,0.13068867219540992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894622887171514,0.0,0.08326947048188445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519238700075987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121333258954646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730959167936265,0.09792274613162108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165102673602497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739560471775299,0.0,0.09813542934698814,0.1027366396661638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581684343566175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074061507653725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163875932885409,0.07873919218510693,0.0,0.0,0.07165472761865936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781448468314026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248024693664218,0.0,0.09857024124209356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184559214923391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252294323608936,0.2618800924254131,0.0,0.0,0.07913335434798734
parenting,spazzzen,2018/01/03,"Takes hours for 2 yr old to fall asleep at night. This has only been a problem for the last two months or so. He used to fall asleep within 10-20 minutes. He still has one more tooth to come through and we think that might be part of it. Here is the basics: we put him down every night between 6:30-7:30. We try to shoot for 7 unless he had a long nap or a short one. We have a bed time routine that consist of reading two stories and putting him to bed. We have tried doing 15 min of quite time before hand (only lasted a week because he wants to read so we just started moving to the read before bed), and even moved him to a toddler bed (converted his crib to it). Nothing seems to help. I think the only time he went to sleep right away was when he only got 45-60 minutes for a nap, but was fussy all afternoon. It started out pretty bad, him throwing the paci and is giving him a new one every 5-10. We finally broke him of that. Now he just rolls around and talks to himself for the most part, and cries occasionally (maybe 2-3 times before he falls asleep) until we come in and comfort him. We are trying not to pick him up, as that has helped one way or the other. 
He is good about his toddler bed for the most part. He has learned not to go far from it, and to stay in bed as much as possible, but it is still taking 2+ hours to get him to actually go to sleep. 
I am really not sure what started this, except maybe teething or getting sick (had a mild flu which he gave to me 😛). 
I talked to my parents and they said I was the same way. I know when I was young I just didn’t need as much sleep. My parents had to make the rule that I could stay up as long as I didn’t keep my brother up. I am pretty sure I was older than two, so I don’t know if that really works. Also by 9 he is over tired, so...
Looking for any suggestions or ideas to help him get the sleep he needs. It seems to be getting worse, getting an standard of 2.5 hours now, and at that point we are ready for bed.

Edit: he usually naps around 2-3 hours but we try wake him by 5/5:15. As others have suggested we will try to cut down the nap time and see if that helps. Thanks to everyone for the responses!",3.0466404236048215,3.4516910151187936,4.124687521772452,92.09233052323557,72.97408207343412,7.0973036995750025,23.79077544764161,6.828538100315305,0.5101826656448125,1672,41,397,13,31,545,220,463,0.093,0.841,0.065,-0.9089,2,0,0,1,0,0,63,12,0,1,2,19,9,1,0,23,0,34,14,11,3,3,71,68,37,0,7,18,3,1,0,0,2,3,1,7,0,20,28,0,1,8,7,0,13,6,4,0,7,15,4,43,5,71,48,10,71,0,1,2,0,55,19,0,12,35,248,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.0649981532443375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053265044304636265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529457675106969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858747955118552,0.0,0.0,0.06257882344798064,0.0,0.05561348906412969,0.04060259008271976,0.0,0.17003119929055227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475088155126775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053179720988438164,0.0,0.07316390705044479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04399284144403028,0.0,0.11223738252920876,0.06364518625832061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296396001261099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399524689316342,0.06389484449794364,0.07570780504686953,0.05586621508531496,0.05327115297130764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857922995211334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623752052637122,0.0,0.0,0.07519041983494919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059202751217053276,0.0,0.0,0.07321017524979605,0.10858606956251836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178889817493232,0.05593252754727303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044460231019421335,0.0,0.13382998746601096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065877220254674,0.0,0.0,0.05316452343830086,0.14158393919009093,0.09792660749883678,0.09877547399339752,0.0,0.06432879197982969,0.0,0.12501102510807496,0.0,0.06391055354099605,0.0,0.06989212092555049,0.0,0.18053664542966835,0.20262840920547567,0.0,0.0,0.14791685614038974,0.2163844381659145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296449468569644,0.07508860993156699,0.0,0.13552513109627234,0.0,0.06373324599770147,0.0,0.13391548235908365,0.0,0.07084401242605702,0.19987301232762772,0.0,0.08533941909991538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056881427224703573,0.06335785619192782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05307660777580527,0.12127177128154355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666176604436207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143287312215802,0.14198693444621602,0.10638377492720978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555132317477832,0.0,0.10015931597802792,0.1070712624982852,0.0,0.061322144011997926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853572716307458,0.0,0.0,0.1941933832199597,0.07655415841175532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261065712862516,0.0,0.19519406807255413,0.0,0.0,0.05752646879636177,0.07335744351143401,0.0,0.0392861290162225,0.105737981708957,0.053427566520049485,0.0,0.0,0.06174471929197702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04849018901639848,0.0,0.06787752310859188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KBedrin986,2018/01/03,"Separation Anxiety My 17 month old started with separation anxiety this week. She won’t let my husband or I leave the room, to the point that when she wakes up in the middle of the night, she loses her mind unless we take her downstairs and sleep on the couch with her or let her in our bed. My older kids didn’t have any kind of issues like this and I’m at my wits end. Any suggestions?",1.5268750000000004,3.657399937500003,3.0599999999999987,90.935,80.875,6.5,20.0,7.6454224807358475,0.564750000000001,305,8,67,5,8,100,56,80,0.086,0.883,0.031,-0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,5,2,2,0,0,9,8,6,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,14,2,11,4,0,16,0,1,0,0,12,8,0,2,9,43,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954845049528118,0.0,0.3324021161146928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924252719508038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267599279615509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22623979804497255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300438596106345,0.0,0.4443201317873817,0.0,0.1061408265978094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430550805921281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193676999710565,0.0,0.17341251443361258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20388103564093188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279747403898704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053781476318529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174139628261335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377566696424916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633502729301963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742705106924022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yanksqt,2018/01/03,"I cant do it anymore I am at the end of my rope. I need advice, help suggestions, alcohol something. My middle son has speech apraxia his can say about 10 words, as of late he is refusing to go to school. Please hear me out. He is over 3 feet tall and weighs 50 pounds. My son is no small child. I often struggle to get to him put clothes on and then getting him on the bus becomes a new struggle on its own. It wasn’t always this way. He is in kindergarten now and last year he was fine going to school, mind you it was half a day. This change has occurred in the last few months. I am told by his teachers he is fine once he is there. Today I felt defeated. I carried him kicking and screaming, crawling and crying. He grabbed onto the doors of the bus then once I got him on he wrapped himself around my leg, screaming still. It kills me! I know I am not the only parent who deals with this. My oldest used to cry when I would drop him off and I would sneak off and all would be well in the world. The major difference is that I would be able to have that conversation. My middle son is trapped in a ocean of frustration. I will try anything once, hell I will try it 2, 3 and 4 times. I need help. I have tried bribery, I have even driven him to school and the second he sees the school he starts screaming and crying saying no, no, no. I will be so grateful for any advice. I am a single mom of 3. I am doing my best. ",1.1192809204218577,2.926020664429533,2.498969319271336,96.10229865771812,80.61073825503355,5.196740172579099,21.04554170661553,5.985473137389443,-0.05699079578140021,1090,31,252,7,28,352,162,298,0.16899999999999998,0.763,0.068,-0.9831,1,1,2,0,1,0,36,0,1,0,3,10,13,3,2,14,0,35,4,2,1,1,28,50,15,1,6,1,5,2,0,0,7,1,7,1,1,12,13,2,1,2,0,0,4,7,9,1,2,7,10,40,4,33,33,6,43,1,1,1,0,37,20,1,1,17,166,52,4,0.09845985474662604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242766105373424,0.0,0.10522364117025597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819264866037058,0.0,0.0,0.0669560775599905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764571895645244,0.0,0.0,0.08102407113315192,0.08765014542591401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874117396973036,0.0,0.0,0.10332754306627527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415747101109152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244605813617075,0.0634984609310204,0.10150778688605763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286959209838556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720620687232201,0.0,0.0,0.06503180546314061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453690112386376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288242064894194,0.0,0.11191400892150123,0.0,0.07874734031978249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109714121437255,0.0,0.1319911303840001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893124123601912,0.0,0.054110961221092296,0.16051584576051486,0.11106700476359983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941638554457824,0.11531499188950932,0.07858971669694957,0.0,0.0,0.1460134694286675,0.0,0.09509314125648058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145695957693601,0.0,0.07488315630578729,0.0,0.0,0.10932801675790026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108079353572332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897934881471863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659845676743386,0.0,0.39858651809742696,0.07845975659269372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579920649723314,0.0,0.0,0.06969039195975313,0.0,0.07863016718643485,0.0,0.0,0.20586323621515096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574127330959352,0.0,0.09332842969116682,0.09408261061477996,0.0,0.2005433348950534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503770170212725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815284976886977,0.0,0.0,0.08852723397041179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797722234430546,0.0,0.0,0.06340491832368596
parenting,shane_jayc,2018/01/03,"almost 7 mo baby boy can't sleep So wife and I's LO will be 7 mo in a few days. But the last week or so has been rough for his naps and bedtime. Wondering if anyone has any tips or advice. 

So a normal nap or bedtime would include me holding him and bouncing up and down either while singing or making some humming noise. Then he eventuslly falls asleep and I hand him over to the wife as he won't sleep on me usually and he doesn't sleep alone. But he does this thing where as soon as I go to try and put him to sleep he cries and cries. We think it could be teething as he has one tooth that broke skin and maybe another coming, but he doesn't seem to have pain or have any discomforts when he Is crawling around (maybe he doesn't notice when he is distracted and playing?) No fever and we do baby led weaning, but have already ruled out the possibility of any reactions to food. We also have been giving baby Motrin, which worked for it's duration last night until it wore off around 1ish, but tonight he woke up through the dosage, so I don't know. 

Anyway, getting him to sleep involves lots of crying usually. And the worst part is, he wakes up in a full on cry a few times a night niw. He went to bed about 6ish and has been woken twice already (due to pain?). 

He has always fought sleep usually, but this is on another level. Anybody go through something similar or have any thoughts?",4.608652482269502,5.037729865248231,4.914326241134752,87.73333333333332,69.49645390070923,8.11063829787234,27.723404255319142,7.984000788550335,1.4752468085106385,1090,34,235,13,18,344,155,282,0.124,0.8540000000000001,0.022,-0.9845,0,1,1,0,0,0,27,3,0,0,1,13,8,1,2,10,0,29,16,12,2,0,48,45,40,0,4,14,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,8,20,1,1,5,4,0,7,7,7,0,2,9,3,14,1,34,30,8,42,0,1,0,0,28,17,0,12,18,144,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866170683483487,0.0,0.0,0.08875921960895906,0.09180333909104277,0.19563082452986136,0.07088462817452552,0.07375480272258446,0.0,0.0,0.24111041477478845,0.1858915762560084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061978495137600925,0.0,0.0,0.15781512066457176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635470577044684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070771080694705,0.0,0.3894634024825104,0.057164863932335476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756864302036498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718270911759008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046310252966721456,0.08503066792927905,0.10075124653918112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871371195613504,0.14450533678054808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535776321333007,0.0,0.0,0.059167264113039936,0.0,0.17809970918026402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636351566370258,0.08684746374458888,0.0,0.10091616288214944,0.0,0.0,0.06006412437192087,0.0,0.18863642914045944,0.0,0.0,0.09598746947072624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992722740827274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910674249650094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069367563268957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5322184738236372,0.0,0.0,0.06823868267138644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888785608363384,0.05679633369807172,0.0,0.07036951644939053,0.051686151558506574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018010664471647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928702214571792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110091123520935,0.0,0.0,0.08216930119724476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612528479253073,0.0645302949319182,0.0,0.0,0.06296664852453206,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,princessmud,2018/01/03,"Help with difficult conversation to have with son Hey guys!

So, my life is pretty unstable right now. I've been out of work since July (just got a new job that doesn't pay as well) and it resulted in a lot of nastiness. Had my car impounded while I was taking my son to school, am currently in the process of getting as much crap out of my apartment solo before the sheriff evicts me tomorrow, and I have no where to live as my parents have decided I am too old to keep helping. (I'm almost 30 and failing at adulting)

So, as you can see, my child's home life has been unstable. He's been powering through and is being strong and resilient which is incredibly helpful.

The problem is today, a resentment that's been building for three years finally came to a head.

My ex boyfriend is not the biological father. He had no legal obligations toward my son. However, when we broke up three years ago, he told me he still wanted to be involved.

Over the past three years he has done the bare minimum in maintaining the relationship. He rarely sees my son, and what finally broke me was that he did not call or text my son on his birthday.

The Ex says that his phone was dead for three days. The exact number of days it had been since we last spoke! He was also out of town for New Year's (my son is a New Year's baby). 

The Ex is also a known liar. 

So while arguing all day today, he tells me that everything he's done or my son should be considered charity since he has no obligation to my kid.

While he certainly doesn't have an obligation, I had been working under the assumption that he was still my son's ""father"" as he's the only one my kid has ever known. (The Ex has been in my son's life since the son was 2)

My son thinks of the Ex as his dad. The Ex has not expressed a desire to change that thought. I have been working on maintaining a relationship between a boy and his dad.

Apparently, it was all ""charity"" and I have no right to ask he see my son more since everything he does is above and beyond.

I get that he doesn't have a responsibility, but he made the choice to be involved. Turns out he probably only wanted the kudos he gets when he tells people he still takes care of his ex's kid.

ANYWAY.

I come from a family of divorce. My son has been getting very despondent. He's asking ""Why don't I see my dad (the Ex) on the weekends any more? Why can't I stay with my dad? Why isn't my dad picking me up today?""

I believe that the Ex is doing more harm than good by being so absent from my son's life.

So today I told him to not contact us anymore.

I have no fucking clue how to tell my son and it is tearing me apart.

**TL;DR: Told neglectful non-bio dad to stop coming around and now I have no idea how to tell my son he'll never see the man he considers his dad again**",3.36209807176606,4.308583061082025,4.852459881666878,85.1649393436343,72.66492146596858,8.382565019367473,26.192014642659515,8.771748573748791,1.7261896650065984,2166,70,468,40,41,728,243,573,0.098,0.85,0.052000000000000005,-0.971,7,0,0,0,1,0,69,3,1,0,6,25,17,5,0,34,0,65,7,2,5,6,59,97,34,1,5,8,35,0,0,0,2,4,2,1,8,15,24,0,3,6,1,1,4,17,12,1,5,31,7,56,5,60,59,7,68,0,4,5,1,105,25,2,4,38,293,71,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256998644121314,0.0,0.07068140764485159,0.0,0.0,0.11289475779148593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800071358557749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000207239271161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283626042092945,0.13197624927431634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060063253213239624,0.07952594078922275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207591732921705,0.08073126531300749,0.07196685107629405,0.0,0.07467033786920962,0.12160670424864604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656585991961706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061770043742329014,0.14446740732528987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384882950178397,0.0,0.0,0.12687579673120575,0.0,0.0665419396971062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464642338454598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525536549241337,0.14751251227750284,0.0,0.0,0.05920395733374729,0.056453852526369724,0.0,0.0,0.06989096536446622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244131797994909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193637104239973,0.0,0.07080323752768514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968269196359108,0.0,0.0,0.07004544064936384,0.06273983572615813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057536786943604076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19942714054841512,0.0,0.0,0.062328488492591774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000945934801748,0.0,0.06678991982269426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051888629678473804,0.0,0.05444006270298461,0.20451639957472892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406784474162609,0.0,0.04783071413050466,0.1073672493732214,0.0,0.0,0.07837709451503197,0.0,0.06738206159123547,0.04893525424321217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181105849770834,0.07610335017784155,0.06754100615241038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156530566890974,0.0,0.12055964719826576,0.0,0.056132601738073634,0.0,0.07143652223775034,0.2812384208756621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919462062594028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523499127393905,0.16910955383790865,0.05901282683994006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061433616128256,0.0,0.246780139870545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522848254561741,0.0,0.056037181262333,0.0,0.0,0.2676280562572453,0.20234305577968986,0.0,0.0,0.07677699975546022,0.0,0.0,0.08490593635713414,0.0,0.0,0.05824061557896008,0.08326657900602666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346504390926787,0.0,0.19107791410572827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541617457303003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22727446374418525
parenting,Dickiedoolittle,2018/01/03,"My 5 month old son has all the sudden become fussy. We think it is most likely gas/constipation related but not sure. It started when his mother tried different formula and he had a really difficult time trying to poop. When he eventually did his stool was very compact and not loose like his previous bowel movements. He is on formula only. We switched him back to his normal formula but he still seems to be in discomfort prior to going #2. He was up most of last night and has really only been relaxed if someone is holding him and walking him around. He tenses up his midsection (so his legs remain in line with his torso) whenever we try to put him in a sitting position or put him in his car seat or in his rock and play. We did mix in some prune juice with his formula which definitely helps in producing softer stools but he still gets fussy and generally appears uncomfortable prior to going. Any suggestions or advice?
Thanks!",5.894071969696968,7.137839960227272,6.8913636363636375,71.7778787878788,67.01136363636363,10.63939393939394,31.14393939393939,10.686352973137794,3.644993939393938,747,29,128,21,12,250,112,176,0.091,0.802,0.107,0.6228,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,3,0,12,3,3,1,2,34,20,16,0,2,9,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,13,0,1,2,3,0,8,2,2,0,0,6,0,20,6,20,13,4,34,0,0,0,0,30,11,0,9,16,83,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210839828203398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197717958114107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678958062301576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543010854547954,0.0,0.0,0.19451745322635472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18401430055355067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201862420560893,0.0,0.2001930566044996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805362032375295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356628855460546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209264374194325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058218229211625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652824250429262,0.17256619468838402,0.0,0.0,0.1848147269887838,0.0,0.0,0.267903689511527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541107779248638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22566179468401984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603385975703825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923108318374614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466296862061756,0.0,0.2813090811788617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659967762342194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215326068036354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285450093686288,0.0,0.0,0.10270055230132492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587342065680154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453224878546386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dtelad11,2018/01/03,"Infernal tickets and how to handle them My 6yo is obsessed with tickets. I am talking about the disgusting gambling machines that are prevalent in every park, arcade, resort, and indoor playground. To clarify, I am fine with screens and with arcade in general (I spent hours at the arcade as a kid, playing video games). What I'm not okay with is the cynical devices that have been engineered to push every button in a naive child's mind in an attempt to lure them to spend all of their time and coins while trying to score some 25c piece of candy.

My wife and I discussed it and decided on a tickets ban. Now we're debating how to deliver these news to our son. I want to avoid making this a decree; any suggestions on how to explain to a 6yo what gambling is, why it's destructive, and the reason for the tickets ban?

Edit:

The problem is not the games or the amount of money spent, it's the whole obsession with tickets before and after the games. Just knowing that we're going somewhere with tickets makes him start thinking and talking about them non-stop, whether we tell him we're not playing for tickets or agreeing that he plays but setting a limit. Then, as soon as he spends all of his money (which usually takes three minutes or so), he HAS to cash in his tickets immediately, no matter if there are other obstacles.

For example, in the latest arcade visit, there was a 15-person line waiting for their prizes. Each of these kids had to agonize for five minutes on which exact prizes they want. It was already late and my wife did not want to wait for over thirty minutes to get the prizes, so she told him that we'll cash in the prizes tomorrow. He completely freaked out and threw a tantrum, which is very unlike him.

I have a history with addiction and gambling (during my 20s I spent all of my money on Magic: the Gathering -- literally all of my money, my wife-then-girlfriend had to pay rent and bills for two months until I recovered financially, after which I quit cold turkey and never touched MtG again, and I'm staying away from Poker like fire) and I'm seeing similar signs in him, hence this discussion.",7.032014636246233,7.08206988118812,6.974296168747313,76.34590830822216,64.29702970297029,9.699354283254413,34.64442531209643,9.318704503766252,3.1339588032716312,1688,69,301,27,23,538,214,404,0.095,0.828,0.077,-0.7797,1,1,0,0,0,0,50,3,0,6,7,14,19,4,3,24,1,19,1,0,6,6,69,42,33,0,5,11,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,3,20,26,0,6,5,16,18,4,6,9,0,3,11,5,33,10,62,30,9,39,0,0,2,0,40,16,0,5,18,209,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984669085739952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205359946042016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218840124666783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499908947400942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038125370060722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297275403676324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779964713052595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619243173743645,0.0,0.0937588804149949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246677260654072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066573865345837,0.0,0.18609856117273535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059826788487387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22024368456025334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657734082429654,0.0,0.13168117058171022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723860005804774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404947793110395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785843444433692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754708192916431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962138951195072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146341564662986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676988768067027,0.17584099815062532,0.0,0.1379261723769158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240403855773905,0.26520070659146266,0.14419509254870813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057090773985958,0.0,0.0,0.09619802969287823,0.0,0.0,0.15764032265074107,0.0,0.11200694018350103,0.0,0.1611562354748937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816962404201331,0.13612134198330994,0.2919189219753273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886393760828553,0.1841882756294431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tangoocta,2018/01/03,"27 Male - considering taking custody of my nieces and nephew - Crazy idea? My sister has had some rough years. She's had a boy (now 13 - turns 14 next week) by one father and two girls (4, and 7) by another. The boy's father is out of state (12 hour drive from where we live). The girls' father passed away suddenly four years ago. My sister has was diagnosed with depression as a teen and used drugs and drank while growing up. She had some issues with the law (mostly fraud) - but seemed to straightened up after having the boy. It didn't work out with the boy's father and he moved out of state. She met the girls' father and her life was going great and she was a functional adult until his sudden death. She spiraled out of control and then became addicted to opioids and is not the same person as before. She's been in jail for a few months and other addict recovery programs. We've tried to get her help - and it seemed like she can stay clean for a while - but will eventually relapse (we've gone through this cycle several times). I've let my sister have (borrow) my old car so she can look for a job, but hasn't been able to find one in the last two months. These three kids do not have a father - and they don't really have a mother either. 

My sister and I share the same father and mother with no other siblings. Our dad is out of the picture, but our mom is supporting my sister and her kids. She's going to retire soon and may not be able to financially support them. My sister and her kids lives in a house that my mom bought - but my mom lives with her boyfriend. I've kind of taken a back seat to ""watch and see"" how this situation is going to resolve - but it's getting worse. I will see the kids and my sister maybe once a week - this is bad and I'm trying to spend more time with them. 

This Christmas was a complete shit-show. My mom provided everything for the kids and put a lot of work into it. My sister did not want anything to do with it and I could tell she started using again. The house they all live in was a complete disaster and it took 3 days of cleaning - but it still looks bad. I also found out that my nephew took my car for a joyride and I have since taken the car back. My sister is obviously upset she doesn't have a car any more and now she has no way of getting a job. I love her - I just don't think she's capable of being a parent right now. 

I guess I have these options - 

1) Don't do anything. Continue to visit once a week and possibly give my car back to her eventually when I know she's not using again. 

2) Saturate them with love - and be over there whenever I can to make sure that my sister is not using and the house is cleaned and the kids get fed. 

3) Involve the state and offer to take custody of the kids immediately. This is a drastic - I don't know if this would work and am afraid it would backfire. 

4) Move and establish myself in another area and offer for them to move in with me. 

I don't have any kids and thought I'd bounce this off some parents to see what they think. ",3.3290378747083125,4.3707989886914405,4.300676359719978,88.72900771854246,72.8449111470113,7.246971818345003,23.125507090289002,7.554174236665415,0.7847673380003592,2350,58,511,27,45,762,266,619,0.067,0.857,0.077,0.8096,4,0,2,0,0,0,71,3,0,7,5,17,15,0,2,38,0,57,9,0,7,3,104,103,53,1,5,16,28,1,1,0,5,5,0,3,18,23,52,2,1,11,0,3,19,16,5,0,6,23,7,65,10,68,70,12,80,0,1,6,2,90,21,0,11,36,340,88,6,0.1354702830865351,0.0,0.0,0.1476826047291316,0.0,0.0,0.06004311607352941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416776822011846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212443797279456,0.14205240368780905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148050016403037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363939518441142,0.15625242841802126,0.11311202777975203,0.0,0.0,0.05763761652441252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142038014386238,0.0,0.07597072087676526,0.054080998863668524,0.0,0.0,0.04368356270695899,0.0,0.058340178157941174,0.06874974285288829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855125970600282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087597763194918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061908692244992174,0.0,0.0,0.07426808653299928,0.0,0.0,0.14155526316595296,0.06497771986127622,0.11548632568796513,0.0,0.0,0.07467823267750845,0.07461789493729007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04540143758094715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670547021488965,0.23447177714023235,0.0,0.07646473005258375,0.0,0.07069788962891768,0.13443335255578887,0.0,0.0,0.07053572655290367,0.07445092473038704,0.05521318084667574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926377142423662,0.04784333363812852,0.03309196872388482,0.0,0.2392454837921023,0.0,0.1137609187300484,0.0,0.0,0.057585995108502326,0.12226721959857838,0.0,0.045213732952125114,0.0,0.06804905390202833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173223165033899,0.10813108749778226,0.2159752076205252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203709146969177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107663677242412,0.14427143021541114,0.09179816981791923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042371754047024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059143712929377264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636119469800151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680925258226136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04339286613004286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784544077942488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16192841433493613,0.123327057813976,0.0,0.0765214299023833,0.0695291494140251,0.05603120904023008,0.07613713708581242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047943281815185014,0.07219664843776669,0.054093371533502764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373007185111418,0.06383956929205656,0.0,0.1018567933963248,0.0,0.05920349925603111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680388735156812,0.0,0.053774136296623296,0.07899381149091678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505124691072914,0.0919754297128281,0.07367638336354188,0.13233478197352316,0.0,0.0,0.23400565747859325,0.0,0.0,0.039951941439222316,0.05376500254572557,0.16299913447576533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793596929542308,0.0,0.06902789600762442,0.0962342022723701,0.0,0.0,0.0872384207400297
parenting,109851,2018/01/03,"Parents and partners with epilepsy My partner and I are considering having/adopting children together in the future.

Until he met me, he was mostly against himself ever having children, largely due to the fact that he has epilepsy and didn't want to risk passing that on to his offspring.

I have a child already (2M) from a previous relationship, and always envisioned myself having more than one. I don't care about giving birth again, I always thought it would be nice to give birth to one or two and then adopt/foster more.

I've never had a close relationship with someone who has epilepsy, so this is my first close encounter with it. 

He had a seizure almost a year ago, and luckily was mostly unscathed. I'm kind of a neurotic mama, so I don't allow him to drive with my son in the car and I don't allow him to watch/care for my son alone for any extended period of time. I know it hurts him, but I just hate the possibility of him driving down the street and having a seizure or something happening.

My question is: anyone have any advice on how they cope with being a parent or a partner to someone with epilepsy, and how does it affect daily life with children? ",6.023286978508217,6.562202681415927,6.578280657395703,76.65176991150445,66.43362831858407,8.581036662452593,33.39949431099873,8.418075326091056,2.70231580278129,930,39,165,12,14,304,129,226,0.085,0.889,0.026,-0.8547,2,1,1,0,0,0,24,0,0,1,1,8,6,1,1,14,0,21,1,0,5,3,39,31,19,0,2,5,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,7,8,18,0,0,3,0,0,4,5,3,0,4,7,0,22,3,30,21,4,26,0,1,0,0,29,8,0,7,14,125,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882274595954248,0.13500199273108746,0.0,0.15250332345937895,0.15773363463235313,0.16806339129243014,0.0,0.25344640446004235,0.0,0.0,0.20713419820397524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648951774403673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527681654541095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327602370724076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377612447524954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295436460999484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921940844526531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467562570044492,0.0,0.0,0.15036163629448238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303695711601154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859376171809222,0.08369838090153305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757178844841978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746074064141633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064006111759648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382153184240629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169184622151112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17060735744523642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270197015852587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258081299966875,0.11724557676063604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090670891475795,0.08880553394029388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148771919600087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982864415573764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818733208105497,0.0,0.0,0.09807419578452893
parenting,Hopeful_Pessmist,2018/01/03,"A homeless man threatened my son on his way home from school. We live in a wealthier area of NYC and there are a few spots where homeless people hang out. My son bikes to school everyday and will occasionally pass by a homeless person. He has given money or has purchased food for the homeless before. We talk about being careful and he never had any issues. 

He saw homeless woman today and asked her if she wanted his scarf because she looked cold. She was with a man and the man yelled at my son. He apparently accused my son of wanting sexual favors and then threatened him. I am not going to say what he said but it was graphic. My son is very open with me and he didn't even want to tell me what the man said. My son was with a friend and the friend was the one who wanted to tell me. 

My son doesn't want to take any legal action and says he doesn't remember what the people looked like anyway. He said he has never seen this couple before. I am not coming here for legal advice but I would like some parenting advice. 

How do I make sure this doesn't ruin my son's giving spirit? We donate and spend time volunteering. We will continue doing that but I don't want this to make him view the homeless as bad people. We have talked about it and he says he doesn't think that but I want to make sure we handle this right. 

Is there anything else I should do to help him feel more safe? We have discussed again the importance of being careful. Should we be doing anything else?

My son is going on 12.",2.5547744774477468,4.499946237623764,3.585346534653464,89.34543454345437,76.72277227722772,5.809020902090207,20.133113311331133,6.605766666666668,0.20561298129812972,1182,27,240,10,27,380,151,303,0.048,0.7909999999999999,0.161,0.9895,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,0,0,10,12,0,0,14,0,34,1,0,4,4,56,62,20,0,11,8,10,1,2,2,5,0,7,1,6,12,25,1,1,3,1,4,6,10,2,0,1,12,14,36,10,26,42,3,24,1,1,5,0,61,9,0,3,10,156,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605520448947386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643659550766302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651029872482203,0.0,0.09378188777733444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375964250547177,0.061151682574764964,0.0,0.17072299912623315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045576287683937,0.0,0.0,0.08641332325722816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099770979147047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760223685221634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625775030771383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072276723093844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130246586777678,0.0,0.15500773500277604,0.0,0.0,0.09623221673646708,0.1140237520125277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723967831996304,0.0,0.10062509447880684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470380696807674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801862894764636,0.0,0.08858083701096152,0.0,0.168480294641638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008850614427295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547397165497693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797669564882379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138901010657376,0.0,0.0,0.20863938232946996,0.0875920332903389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363843553634137,0.0856692879680366,0.2862703711196481,0.2393258507858333,0.0,0.2030502290689822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18909322400329706,0.0,0.07542512294308874,0.16126034924951965,0.1753611540733357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427842127284449,0.0,0.0,0.05849504725975945,0.0,0.09508780737439676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277117897109146,0.41418269632745147,0.07962614552900603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126158497333457,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BadSewingAdvice,2018/01/03,How to save time I have a newborn and I will be going back to work after 6 weeks. I am pumping and he will be going to daycare. I have a crazy work schedule and time is against me. Any tips on saving time with anything regarding a newborn?,2.3412000000000006,3.70525932,3.916999999999998,89.24350000000004,75.8,5.8000000000000025,28.5,5.985473137389443,1.1265999999999998,186,8,39,1,4,62,33,50,0.053,0.877,0.07,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,7,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,7,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,7,28,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286370926777457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766755272394924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585278618317251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821564010645276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5881473731481776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696906418868898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895356855207564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iguessletsdothis,2018/01/04,"Unnecessary panic My 3yo has a tummy bug. Started thIs morning with some complaining, but seemed okay, just a little off, until he woke up at 2 from his nap and threw up. He wasn't even here, we had scheduled a play day with his grandparents, and they wanted to take him even a little puny. Now I am downstairs crying while my husband is upstairs with him. Vomit makes me panic (it's not the gross factor, it's actual panic) and I feel like a shit, useless parent. My husband swears he knew already that I struggled with this and I shouldn't feel bad, but I do. I'm trying to do every other useful thing in the house (the downstairs is sparkling clean, the cars are cleaned out, and the floors have been mopped and steamed) but I just hate myself so much right now. Ugh. Does anyone else react this way? I could use a little perspective from the point of view of people on either side of this. ",3.66,5.351617600000001,4.051857142857145,88.27664285714287,73.0,6.142857142857142,22.785714285714285,6.5431188927421005,0.5419714285714283,700,18,137,5,14,219,119,175,0.165,0.6970000000000001,0.138,-0.8071,2,0,0,0,0,0,24,1,0,1,0,8,14,2,4,12,1,13,2,1,4,0,31,27,12,0,3,7,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,9,12,0,0,4,2,0,2,3,11,0,0,6,3,18,3,19,19,3,24,0,1,1,0,13,14,1,2,8,93,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.13895409616684914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713316307775116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956382903537472,0.14589747778944928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889141032271272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368846183329685,0.0,0.15641097583208022,0.09183108958604858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246082386324389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189502827169994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809720632175897,0.0,0.11997143970269485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439953932745831,0.10172490579919384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058266547405196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430130265401166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956556096047721,0.42814271215049504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504779610351792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467453732519774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5011991561529111,0.15810951563166373,0.0,0.0,0.09871671556059901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460650823053244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160202889114642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962837040641442,0.0,0.0,0.1461633885384524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007858227350596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488590826467738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706109735224817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459894794724796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667485207575016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24596201825058106,0.0,0.0,0.08398651772185539,0.1130241779612019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imdivesmaintank,2018/01/04,"looking for effective educational apps/dvds for child Our 3.5 year old gets virtually no screen time, so it's easy to get him excited to consume educational dvds or apps and we've taken advantage of that to teach him to read already. However, he is really bored with the reading dvd program we got for him because he's mastered all the content already. Since it's already put him way ahead of his peers in reading now (and he reads independently all the time), I thought I'd shift his screen time towards something like math, science, or music. Does anyone have positive experiences with anything like that that would be suitable for a 3.5 year old? It could be an app for an ipad or android tablet or a dvd or application for a PC.",8.389003083247689,7.539926769784174,8.453566289825286,69.82244604316547,61.877697841726615,11.396094552929089,40.72045220966085,10.608840637214634,4.3043948612538525,587,29,107,12,7,192,89,139,0.032,0.8340000000000001,0.134,0.9285,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,2,2,17,12,8,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,2,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,3,9,4,17,5,2,13,0,0,3,0,12,2,0,5,11,58,15,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4786187513997469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010886023975084,0.0,0.11897102438774748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813018395622729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542954732453255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651655538572126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141985462149867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106655102507704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562800553750255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412618498228863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140466733366904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034094850456913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533550779456084,0.0,0.0,0.578447345630984,0.0,0.09261698192985483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959204214892875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129913763447576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477458517610467,0.2529045346820021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147550902563796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270030730608133,0.0,0.0,0.1862001743110124
parenting,LawsonLunatic,2018/01/04,"Hospital toys for hurt kiddo I have a friend of a friend whose 3 year old sustained serious burns on his hands and face after his bedroom caught fire due to a faulty extension cord. He’s going to be ok, but I’m sure he’s in for some painful days ahead. 

Im hoping to find a gift for him that he can use to distract himself from the pain he’s in and the dullness of being in a Hospital room.

Anyone out there have a similar situation, what worked for your kid? I dont think he’ll be able to use his hands right away so I’m looking for something that he can enjoy now. 

Not worried about the price, just looking to do a good deed.",2.6788721804511297,3.769825646616544,3.969932330827071,90.28888345864664,74.48872180451126,7.124511278195487,25.33007518796993,7.554174236665415,1.052895338345865,493,16,111,6,10,162,88,133,0.14300000000000002,0.6729999999999999,0.184,0.7834,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,1,0,2,5,13,0,1,10,1,9,5,3,2,1,13,20,4,0,1,3,0,3,0,2,1,2,0,2,1,4,3,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,6,0,0,1,5,8,7,23,15,1,17,0,2,2,0,16,8,0,2,7,63,12,1,0.18568003881817827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983180041761178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445250868279005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974826411137345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761562262213488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697081916022858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28691187478334673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552624505854444,0.1557396070309152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844221747202917,0.0,0.0,0.19877432188076635,0.0,0.20056630477826728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118489357890256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483996599518466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951533054373397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856973861222856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871214332029034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294556538816802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750012391531354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897627144332693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32073587339109344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517727969822288,0.18856709254343065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957185723970265
parenting,crabbycleo,2018/01/04,"My 2 y/o hates his new daycare..will we get thru this or should I be concerned? My son has been at the same daycare since he was 6 weeks old, and we are now going on 2 weeks at his new daycare. We moved him because of neglect and abuse at his old daycare. 

He cries when we pick him up and drop him off, which is what we expected because all of this is brand new to him and he doesn’t know what’s going on. Everyone keeps saying “it will get better, just give it time.” Yesterday I picked him up and told his teacher I worry myself sick at work and cry so much after I drop him off. She did tell me he did better yesterday and actually talked to her; not the kids, but to her. 

I pick him up today and he’s sitting in his teachers lap and he is SCREAMING and SOBBING while she’s saying “it’s okay, please, it’s okay it’s okay!! It’s okay!!” While 5 other kids are running around playing with each other!!! She said he had been crying for 3 solid hours, nonstop; he does not acknowledge any of the other kids in his room and walks around in a circle, alone, looking at the floor crying, alll. day. long. 

When he saw me he ran to me and said “Time to go get in mamas car” and one of the other kids walked up and said “why is he crying?” And I looked at him and said “well, he’s new and he doesn’t know anyone yet. It’s okay that he is crying.” 

His teacher said he doesn’t eat, sleep, or play with the kids. He cries all day long and isolates himself from everyone else. I’m contemplating calling his doctor about this. 

All I’m looking for here is some insight from anyone who has experienced this before. I thought after we dropped him off he was fine, and each day gets better and better with time. That’s not it. I feel as if I have screwed his life completely up. I try so hard to make it a point to him that it’s okay if he cries. I try not to overreact and give it time but this is tearing me apart knowing how he feels at his “new school” 

Should I be concerned this early about his social skills? He socialized fine at his other daycare. I beat myself up and cry nonstop. If I shouldn’t be worried I don’t want him to ever think how he’s acting is wrong in any way shape or form. Should I call his doctor? 

Someone...anyone...please put my mind at ease because my heart is broken ",0.8224789915966397,2.8693668781512613,2.378403361344539,95.31281512605044,82.94957983193277,4.894117647058824,19.378151260504197,5.9561762281905315,-0.2231033613445379,1758,46,395,12,49,572,200,476,0.155,0.748,0.097,-0.9883,0,1,0,0,1,0,58,6,0,0,7,16,21,2,0,8,6,33,8,2,6,4,78,66,39,0,9,13,1,3,0,0,5,4,8,1,5,29,35,1,2,9,2,0,11,9,6,1,1,16,16,62,15,53,42,9,80,0,2,4,1,80,32,2,7,32,243,91,4,0.0,0.07248995508934185,0.05970422132656705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336547953236224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321090062584613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555891548113527,0.0,0.0,0.10892883524041558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188684156692236,0.0,0.05206086556902366,0.0,0.0,0.2164399074150226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494610072214045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414753435823442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6048440599399667,0.11837082565860944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252435116989692,0.05354025583737861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260384662470989,0.051109209459114666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055342079418022265,0.0,0.11692290002311395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187030873669795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785902628622894,0.11738154846312185,0.1043123994233021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480651756107849,0.06040396653052374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250025412293892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025135539921216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05438083984505463,0.0,0.0,0.1008710929841235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04321423249439171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082872282827265,0.15413090237272026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04083905988890669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177577360859277,0.0,0.0,0.06502614628077008,0.0449753689608078,0.0,0.0,0.295446889052116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839917592845715,0.0,0.041458100339288886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343176105523091,0.05783619901166611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150420587924357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909876111894925,0.09730781057597583,0.0,0.061918843585353926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060988669227442,0.0,0.06122558493646198,0.12473346602857947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04917529218008581,0.053475240682073696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03920257101856905,0.0,0.048571197937081874,0.14270146646579546,0.0,0.05799281388339926,0.058461450011556976,0.0,0.08307630972048655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0360863751471732,0.04856294792595543,0.09815205808884457,0.0,0.055009426605022366,0.0,0.05520669775772887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04454078820238385,0.12426536396747265,0.0,0.0,0.06689225698667497,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwawayfmlmil,2018/01/04,"Sexual tension between boyfriend and his teen daughter My boyfriends 16 year old has always been a little too comfortable around her dad. Wearing bras or shirts without a bra underneath in front of him, sitting in his lap, wearing bikinis all day, excitedly telling him she’s a double D, enthusiastically explaining she’s not wearing a bra under her dress, watching movies together with graphic sex and not be uncomfortable at all. I’ve seen him peak into the bathroom as she bathed. Also, she wore a robe with nothing underneath and called her dad into the room. I came along and saw half her nipple exposed. Her dad said nothing and talked to her longer than usual. He seemed to linger there for 5-7 minutes to look at her breast I guess. I don’t think she realized it showed. He even pushed me out and blocked the doorway so it was just them. Sick. Im so uncomfortable about all of this. I know he likes looking at young women and even teens at the beach, but this is his daughter! There is some kind of disgusting sexual tension between the two of them. Dads, is this behavior normal? Is it normal to want to see your teenaged daughter naked? ",4.565198966408269,6.7183251813953495,4.655310077519381,82.96069121447032,71.6046511627907,7.3824289405684755,30.08397932816537,8.167268648758528,2.194855297157623,914,39,167,14,18,284,138,215,0.07,0.8690000000000001,0.06,-0.6306,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,1,2,0,12,7,1,2,10,0,9,7,5,0,3,35,23,13,0,3,6,7,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,6,15,0,1,5,3,0,3,4,3,0,2,7,7,27,4,32,15,5,24,0,0,6,2,37,15,0,4,6,111,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143309953314043,0.14911268644643322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595301982751864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18298805984587366,0.2049624639677159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557222196575982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367260606201096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741420758560135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357185397800314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661414363965506,0.09848622989174874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755037633483903,0.17961021256428197,0.0,0.0,0.3009736691738159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35116516218541577,0.34390353237489285,0.0,0.1880452127210239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704647303213208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428029635893188,0.1631412505852039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440379692744318,0.15663282784574065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482715139083745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505697622046304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973686860135795,0.0,0.10569958945315784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274695933335618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540196702068553
parenting,Aralini,2018/01/04,"9 & 10 yo boys fight all the time I have two sons 9 and 10. They are the sweetest, kindest boys ever except to each other. I swear at least 3-5 times a day there is some sort of fight (punches flying, kicks, etc)  happening between them. It can be from something as small as ""He made a face at me"" or "" He didn't let me pick the TV show.

My husband and I are at a loss. We have talked with them about their behavior and that seems to get us no where. We have taken away electronics, grounded them from leaving the house except for school, taken away activities they enjoy.  We have done everything we can think of with the exception of spanking them. 
I am not opposed to spanking if it necessary and warranted, however in this case it seems to me to be counter-productive. 

Any advice from you other parents out there would be greatly appreciated.   ",4.313545454545455,5.602433278787885,5.0052272727272715,83.66784090909091,70.75757575757575,8.166666666666668,28.90151515151515,8.59863814320734,2.0829696969696974,661,25,131,11,12,213,111,165,0.067,0.892,0.041,-0.2748,2,0,1,0,2,0,25,5,1,7,1,5,5,2,0,8,0,17,1,1,2,2,29,25,8,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,12,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,5,0,21,2,28,15,5,14,0,1,0,0,23,10,0,6,4,99,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270309287634906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257989088265205,0.0,0.12714473989956113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513254257454189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057897644711099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19133331107245188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085188878894152,0.0,0.16912337783109396,0.0,0.0,0.16803489958726062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768313116853987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061330235250865,0.0,0.0,0.1653353000032526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21573611934968867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797225374207866,0.0,0.1911875805374876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691376543036527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207605982324214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18922172944481044,0.0,0.3404175272790639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393720101134905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027790077253125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198016283458379,0.0,0.0,0.21804524047470625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826406956062793,0.0,0.2248996397691081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281679526745754,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,humanysta,2018/01/04,"When your children reject your music taste you've been excited to share with them I like to browse music oriented subreddits and sometimes I encounter comments like ""I can't wait to introduce my children to all of my favorite music."" which is usually met with similar responses. Now I don't know how likely this is to happen, but it always makes me wonder how they would react if their kid wasn't into that. Sure, some kids adopt their parents' music taste but some develop their own. It always makes me a bit worried that these parents who are so excited to share this with their children are going to be overly pushy and react negatively if their children don't share their enthusiasm.

Have any of you personally dealt with your child's rejection of your music taste? How did you go about this and how has it affected your relationship? Do you play the music around them even if they don't like it? Do you try to influence their listening habits? Are you sad or angry that you cannot share this part of your life with your dearest?",6.166,7.3140749333333375,6.174871794871796,77.50846153846156,66.33333333333334,9.487179487179487,29.871794871794872,9.661875296680813,2.766948717948718,832,29,148,17,13,263,108,195,0.126,0.72,0.155,0.5358,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,13,11,0,10,15,0,0,2,0,19,4,0,10,2,34,29,15,0,4,6,2,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,8,14,10,3,1,2,1,0,2,7,3,0,0,4,4,32,12,21,23,6,8,0,3,0,0,43,3,0,7,7,111,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31227136977039466,0.0,0.0,0.12760504521113725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704384691315688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048597573723452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123937763063418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21328597326198884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593386756367745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312479321759953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325392238213232,0.3666955051717222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505090099642838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41671516700590333,0.2032012659918568,0.0,0.0,0.16384438979234667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20146052253827532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18558571847193445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685320648964153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273986482314838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066644743651108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034930149880348,0.0,0.1905626218197964,0.0,0.13329763526427085,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omegachild,2018/01/04,"About to have my first child. English is my second language. Hey all,

Been lurking here for a little while. Let me start with some background info: I'm a 28 year old Japanese-American male living in Tennessee, born and raised in Japan. I've been living here for 14ish years now and did not speak much English at all when I arrived here. My wife is born and raised in America, and she's white/black mix so we use English 99.99% to community with each other, though she can speak very little Japanese. 

My English isn't perfect. It never was, and most likey never will be. I'm worried that my daughter is going to pick up my bad English habits (including ""the"" when I don't need to, for example. This happens a lot.) Is there something I can do to make sure she's not learning her language the wrong way? Not very related but I'm hoping to do English homework with her when she's older since I never had a proper English education at early age. 

Thanks for your advice in advance.",3.526708115183247,5.424791759162304,4.448871073298432,84.42838514397909,73.81675392670158,6.869240837696338,27.64430628272251,7.6454224807358475,1.6887510471204188,770,30,145,10,16,249,117,191,0.05,0.899,0.05,0.468,0,0,1,0,0,0,28,1,1,0,3,11,6,0,0,6,0,19,0,0,3,7,31,30,12,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,4,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,8,2,0,2,5,2,19,4,21,22,7,30,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,4,18,101,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680150162254728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356035822912533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624967212543324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977158581143542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520434748824434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707724087795495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581740922062472,0.0,0.0,0.3446524351517,0.3036473488458037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461748365585773,0.0,0.0,0.11476939856691372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639360602321492,0.12748923569956302,0.3978256438721128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041914086518024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222820684444226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323656364139281,0.0,0.0,0.12169801650925648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620487514308587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829664906636087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16892740019950278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849851370661413,0.0,0.2837323500601301,0.0,0.1364757254760466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461054593374084,0.0,0.0,0.18798630830455307,0.0,0.22144380537794084
parenting,TwinkleTwinkle1985,2018/01/04,"Kid Friendly Kitchen Utensils My toddler (24 months) loves to help in the Kitchen. He’s always trying to grab or hold everything I’m using. 
Are there any kid friendly knives and peelers etc that I can buy for him that won’t cause him injury?

Thanks",1.5254464285714278,4.261266604166668,1.5884523809523827,95.8875,91.29166666666666,3.576190476190476,23.523809523809533,5.288315135182226,0.2475559523809525,199,8,38,1,7,59,41,48,0.05,0.6729999999999999,0.278,0.9169,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,2,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,4,6,1,2,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,1,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555142081177677,0.0,0.0,0.2088241525499392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31545457430988816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34247409754080754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759826755935261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4744967254598818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058284845154784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771506570802684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245107413493214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28271695364828364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084863863253069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652175372255149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LBluth21,2018/01/04,"Do costs for kids ever actually go down? So this is kind of a combo personal finance parenting question. We have twins and pay an honestly pretty obscene amount for childcare (currently about 30K total a year for their first two years of life) in a moderate cost of living area.

I keep hearing mixed things from other parents about whether things get cheaper when they get older. We have excellent public schools (and full day kindergarten) so part of me thinks we'll suddenly feel like we won the lottery. But a lot of parents have also said it all evens out between after school care, activities, more expensive clothes and equipment, etc.

So what has your experience been? Is it realistic to look at our budget in the next 3 years getting a lot more comfortable? Has it remained steady in your experience?",6.806917808219179,8.309815856164388,6.591671232876718,73.80778082191785,65.0958904109589,9.675616438356164,35.83287671232877,9.888512548439397,3.7789967123287673,649,31,107,14,10,204,111,146,0.033,0.815,0.152,0.962,4,0,0,0,0,0,16,5,2,2,3,9,7,0,0,8,0,10,1,0,0,3,18,22,10,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,2,8,7,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,2,3,4,11,7,20,18,10,21,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,3,13,79,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.1377076485527597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284942163936072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387590141547346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910073453016316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738025807830522,0.09320496731096856,0.12764637831872594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760746238366136,0.0,0.0,0.07135186207991563,0.10081241189203596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003214175779026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117991154865727,0.0,0.08019876942429442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590465890904769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542928146446505,0.0,0.14694930597954536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967352740880504,0.06894154317421587,0.0,0.12460691737406765,0.0,0.11850085674270193,0.0,0.0,0.2399414432624868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500771469096104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4700737195679732,0.15281353226157,0.0,0.0,0.12321596434548487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356444138432525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808082550022315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423245058573072,0.0,0.0,0.2856313393522486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18750075077654796,0.0904206394831164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784861458383274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726198341393112
parenting,buxlo122,2018/01/04,"Baby Learning to Cry for things she wants My 9 month old has just figured out it can communicate via crying. Dad has something yummy to eat cry, cat walks away from her cry, baby put in play area while mum goes and does something cry, things that baby should have put out of reach cry... etc

Obviously we want to raise a child not to have temper tantrums but how do you deal with this? Let them cry, redirect their attention, give them what they want?",3.9491133004926127,5.743521218390808,3.76978653530378,90.17172413793104,72.44827586206897,6.810509031198686,22.773399014778327,7.447530270364453,0.690643349753695,354,9,73,4,7,107,69,87,0.16899999999999998,0.737,0.094,-0.8517,0,0,2,0,0,0,11,1,1,4,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,8,1,0,1,1,17,12,4,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,3,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,12,10,1,11,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,3,43,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561269447155966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8643381027547096,0.0,0.11588955371101503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983705614503284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150232744521842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253666258369367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783370984720696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494662242119648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972441892076716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179551612921489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260057659146966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307709057776668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936013419836006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19890661307540786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThatOneStoner,2018/01/04,"This one trick to make your toddler go to sleep!! Doctors hate this!! No but really, for the last week I've been putting my 3.5 year old down at night by using this hilarious trick. We lay down and if she's being antsy I'll say we're going to ""listen for the sound of Elayna falling asleep."" It works hilariously well! Of course, you have to be quiet and still to have a chance to hear this mythical noise. So far she hasn't heard the sound of herself falling asleep, but that doesn't keep us from trying!",2.5225490196078444,4.416210470588236,3.290784313725492,91.65519607843142,76.64705882352942,6.101960784313726,20.15686274509804,6.937597516519254,0.16610980392156893,396,9,86,4,9,125,77,102,0.107,0.805,0.087,0.6376,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,2,0,1,3,4,3,0,4,0,7,4,3,2,0,9,16,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,6,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,3,1,1,2,7,8,1,16,12,0,15,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,6,51,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435034386272801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704111119899813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348796094485544,0.0,0.0,0.2681335718920719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114588024254385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939224086528724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880186331977553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325551698107124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24963880708357475,0.0,0.1612089896654461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23915786803603736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524065266527059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891897325387527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380744561016297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18998936013234874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615202800607028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861675905441441,0.20547150173553166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190831152278964,0.0,0.21390304940400645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319595944448632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532015038579128
parenting,drolleremu,2018/01/04,"Help with anger issues Hello,

I have a 4 y.o. girl and a 2 y.o. boy.  Things have been going on and off as I am sure most of you have been through this.  Lately, the 4 y.o. has been acting out.  We went through the terrible twos and the threenager which saw tempers flair a lot, particularly from myself.  My wife has a more even keel but does not really do any discipline other than sit them in the corner when they do not listen.

My temper, I will admit, does get out of control.  I have not hit my kids as that was how I was raised and I know it is taboo.  But when the 4 yo acts up, it just gets right under my skin.  I carry her into her room and slam the door.  I sit her down on the stairs when she is freaking out.  I know it gets me going and I have taken steps to control it, particularly by just not letting it get to me.  She wants to freak out, I just let it happen now.

The other thing that we have noticed though is when she is playing with her toys, she is very violent in the way she speaks to them.  I do not know if that is from me yelling at her when she does not listen or if it is the way other kids play in daycare?

Just really looking for some advice as my wife wants me and the 4 y.o. to seek counselling and I feel as though this can be fixed before we get to that step.",2.7481665702718345,3.35485502930403,4.061303258145365,91.53676691729325,73.79853479853479,6.919529593213804,21.32812801233854,6.8360192770164,0.2062278388278389,985,19,233,8,19,325,137,273,0.083,0.866,0.051,-0.8955,0,0,0,0,1,0,32,3,1,3,2,14,10,4,0,15,0,29,1,1,3,1,49,51,25,0,4,15,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,4,19,18,0,4,5,3,0,7,6,7,0,0,8,8,41,3,36,38,4,37,0,0,2,0,30,19,0,6,7,177,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376057091682831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576106143280758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198257369768666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315878697512293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696923136134591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300895370495002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712018063888304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678579362452977,0.0,0.1600602166983507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245248826898406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438732976825936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697739494321638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321696522786283,0.0,0.15884882528842278,0.0,0.0,0.2879918691013562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825164491508625,0.0,0.0,0.1197184186216288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032221390929682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18042321931784275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025779326267735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327192882007258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871064295364763,0.0,0.2767059186092286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618958864847108,0.1661161968619495,0.2235495303965587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053968667740853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,It_is_a_truth,2018/01/04,"Asking grandparents to watch a sick kid at your house: reasonable or unreasonable? Recently I contacted my mother for a favor. My daughter was sick and it was my husband's birthday. I had a party planned at a brewery. I called my mother and asked her to stay with my daughter at our house during the party so I could go play host with him. My mother wanted to bring my daughter to her house instead. I objected to moving my daughter when she wasn't feeling well. My mother shows up at the appointed time and says she is there to take my daughter back to her house. I object and words were exchanged. She left and I stayed home with my daughter. I need a reality check. Is it reasonable to ask grandparents to watch a sick kid in your own house?  

Some details:  
* We live two miles apart from each other  
* My daughter was no longer contagious but not fit to be out and about (explained to my mother on phone)  
* My daughter is allergic to dogs and my mother has dogs  
* My mother did not give a reason for not wanting to be at my house until she came to pick her up. At that time she said she would have ""nothing to do"" at my house.  ",1.8652702702702728,4.308088612612615,3.112995495495497,89.219222972973,81.7927927927928,5.8621621621621625,23.213963963963966,7.1686216300943375,0.9656990990990996,880,31,174,12,24,284,115,222,0.084,0.883,0.034,-0.831,2,0,0,0,0,0,24,2,2,0,1,7,3,0,0,9,0,17,4,0,4,0,32,31,12,0,5,5,16,1,0,0,1,4,2,1,2,4,14,0,0,5,2,2,4,5,0,1,1,9,5,41,3,35,18,3,28,0,0,2,0,43,16,0,2,6,129,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725292412675495,0.0,0.0,0.07471958057557256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992238890022605,0.11113934314343768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775842575974059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049133287162581085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093216624354844,0.05522531652777498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747184415785268,0.0,0.0,0.7848673531332248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557810126029306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580501300620462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032788871924286,0.0,0.07205210629325913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932395423848775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29972824603546644,0.09594602597626868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243320845332424,0.07727539586941831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20714570691215534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306155454735032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332402041541136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094923318997976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462960304971112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736966112568784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902848778368477,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Twinsmamabnj,2018/01/04,"How to get older child back in their own bed? We have two daughters (8 and 7) that share a room and a 9 year old son that has his own room.  The 9 year old saw something scary on a video weeks ago and started crying at bedtime that he was scared and didn’t want to sleep in his room.  We made the mistake of letting him go sleep in the girls’ (which they were all for initially) room with them rather than helping him get over his fear of sleeping in his own bed.  Now here we are weeks later and our daughter wants her bed back to herself.  She’s tired of being cramped in her twin bed.

Even the mere mention of “it’s time to go back to your own room” gives the kid anxiety and puts him on the verge of tears.  I guess it just needs to be treated like ripping off a bandaid and if he lays awake scared and crying all night for the first night then so be it but has anyone been through this and found a more gentler solution?

The second part to this is that the girls are my bios and the boy is my husbands.  We’re a blended family.  My husband tells me to just tell him to go back to his own room and then conveniently disappears at bedtime.  He’s leaving me to be the bad guy.  I directly asked him last night to handle the situation and he told the 9 year old “there’s nothing scary in your room, you can sleep in it,” then just went to bed.  He gets up at 5 am for work and I’m a SAHM.  So I end up dealing with the 9 year old standing in the hallway in the dark holding his blanket crying with snot running out of his nose and all that.  I ended up basically begging my daughter to let him sleep in her bed one more night and today I’m irritated with my husband.

How can this be resolved in a way that doesn’t end in a big fight between my husband and I or making it worse (in his mind) for my step son than it already is?",5.476796874999998,4.263581835937501,5.818312500000001,87.54543750000002,67.88020833333334,8.721666666666668,30.91875,7.1686216300943375,1.5574275000000006,1411,45,329,10,20,453,187,384,0.119,0.8370000000000001,0.044,-0.9829,0,0,1,0,1,0,25,4,3,3,3,16,11,1,3,25,0,23,9,6,4,3,47,44,26,0,6,7,9,0,1,0,0,3,0,13,6,16,24,0,1,2,1,0,8,2,6,0,4,9,2,43,5,56,28,11,76,0,0,1,0,59,33,0,3,34,216,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400695707375328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213093772492263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386799003889364,0.0,0.0,0.058376658070417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804988597828694,0.0,0.0,0.2567880665052115,0.06970888198215754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751225061271642,0.0,0.08607232534167615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221836409993458,0.0,0.0,0.05514294901989291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870493114769703,0.09394706182529533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101473735423386,0.0,0.09154013734508017,0.0,0.0,0.13085689463373396,0.0800891698997588,0.14234423705339072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197129843819672,0.08266611466235349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05596015766445444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805375490208329,0.0,0.08840159687221211,0.0,0.17074400176974114,0.0,0.04078795487288527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078998238778933,0.05572879977838527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429894635070379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190519580058624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133908316983493,0.0,0.08010886044330537,0.0,0.35042589062978635,0.0,0.0565735396281251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040922455275466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839283662331315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717183967216426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384386095365048,0.4177408066591461,0.0,0.0,0.06427303916687854,0.0,0.0,0.059093142250081915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459441519554543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04868244686819096,0.0959570220062034,0.07913673630795325,0.07977623508745657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155551518083748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848661456826456,0.06626878309578475,0.13393786262341156,0.0,0.0,0.0773940895019662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607801617974161,0.0,0.08508126944097621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150537973739743
parenting,KolonelKernel,2018/01/04,Expecting a second child. Curious about sibling dynamics. My wife and I are expecting our second child in August. We don't know the gender yet. This pregnancy has been different from the first so we're hoping it's a girl this time. We have a 3 year old son who will be 1 month shy of 4 when the baby is born. I'm curious about what the dynamic will be between a 4yr old and a baby as they grow. Has anyone had the same experience with a similar age gap?,1.630094562647752,3.6347431914893598,4.174822695035463,83.73388888888887,79.85106382978724,8.433096926713949,23.21040189125296,9.150863307647796,2.0113111111111106,356,12,74,10,9,125,70,94,0.023,0.8370000000000001,0.14,0.8548,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,11,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,15,5,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,6,3,8,9,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,11,51,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21738916138420095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248253034290214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30412076999890303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26445217505829577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087947773514537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086302219091978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481581588082151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6524764607065218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128883441805008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002100077706718
parenting,travelbugluv,2018/01/04,"Help! Does this style of potty training even exist? So, we were planning to do the weekend intensive diaper off, every few minutes on the potty, send her on her merry way to daycare with britches on Monday method. But it seems that our daycare takes a more gradual approach.

So, is there a method that works were the kid does half a day in underwear and half in diapers? Or can we do underwear at home and then diapers mostly at daycare without her getting confused?

If anyone has been through something similar I'd love to hear what you think!!!",5.850126050420169,7.129240343137258,6.173249299719888,76.75676470588238,67.13725490196079,8.965826330532213,35.159663865546214,9.23628265651192,3.4089899159663872,433,21,73,8,7,139,76,102,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.9333,0,0,3,0,0,0,13,3,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,6,0,8,1,0,0,0,13,14,8,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,3,1,7,1,15,11,3,15,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,5,4,56,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091300240396045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760855241984579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4778709937548869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033759222902848,0.0,0.2300444647245278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264995328355332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30773122673946696,0.0,0.18301016310034346,0.0,0.2738772018646985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464254987594441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485615672959753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101963230950072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528896622606144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495033668956916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167231349765192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631967991141991,0.0,0.19877333781845108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,roguemidwife,2018/01/04,"HELP!!! Socially Awkward 10yo Son I have no idea how I missed this so long.  Maybe we just are the worst parents, maybe I didn’t want to see it, or maybe who the hell knows...but my 10yo son finally told me about some of the things going on in school and I need help.  He’s always had close neighborhood friends, that’s not the issue.  But he’s awkward elsewhere (the pool, school, other new people’s houses).  I looked it up online and he fits the definition of “socially awkward.” He tries to tell jokes that aren’t funny, he quits easily and is a poor loser, he’s not a good winner either.  He is loud.  He wants desperately to be in the “in” crowd and they basically keep him around to torment him I think.  I don’t think he has insight into what’s the “right thing at the right time” to say if that makes sense.  He’s sweet though, doesn’t bully kids, wouldn’t make fun of anyone out of spite or to be mean, and is overall a good kid.  Great grades, no behavior issues (other than that quitting thing and he cries at school when he gets upset which I’m sure makes him a bloody massive target for ridicule). 

Help me help him.  I’m socially fine - extrovert.  But I’ve had to work on social skills to get here.  My husband is total introvert and could care less if the rest of humanity was gone.  Family is riddled with socially-meh people.  

I’m going to work on exposing him to more adults and coaching him on “normal” conversations. (He usually tries to be funny and ends up looking like an idiot.) I’m going to work on noise control when playing rough (he gets really loud when roughhousing with his siblings).  What else can I do?  Read?  Listen to?",2.196296296296296,4.4515934290123464,3.4001080246913595,88.71923611111114,79.21604938271605,6.519135802469138,21.23611111111111,7.6454224807358475,0.8293814814814815,1277,36,260,20,32,413,183,324,0.155,0.711,0.134,-0.8056,2,0,0,0,0,0,49,1,0,1,8,10,23,4,4,15,0,22,0,0,5,2,46,50,21,0,8,10,4,1,1,1,1,0,4,0,4,16,16,0,2,5,5,1,4,9,11,0,0,6,9,21,12,38,39,7,32,1,2,3,0,47,19,1,5,10,146,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827288152484431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577517975664085,0.0,0.0,0.0837412872560266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590953867274213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550629852760393,0.07510638236587139,0.0,0.10333029726700653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858251639793856,0.0,0.08331714664839013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867981081975004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304790957490607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267741831156764,0.0,0.14744139269752787,0.0,0.1603846141417494,0.15780110288445906,0.0,0.10371132219698047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522096708687566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854290981997282,0.0,0.10619236651508332,0.0,0.19636703620490328,0.0,0.08361278298143532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04595732527945685,0.0,0.0,0.0832480386829493,0.15798841071650005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18837521421439707,0.0,0.2835146374543962,0.1024686368638378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975091614086502,0.0,0.09085235420137143,0.0,0.0,0.09216757403558022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445240919986236,0.0,0.0,0.13043109679272386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200107762384116,0.09409438165199004,0.0,0.06026296229716111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066869638461947,0.0,0.07480738502080696,0.0,0.2856083234047984,0.07496075429127763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3835656917136888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865884880212242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222038693719917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874856421143243,0.1205511379459876,0.09242224145869793,0.0,0.054852346804194235,0.0,0.0,0.0898868893257975,0.0,0.12773325081681755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360363122157833,0.0,0.11096857872604718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544989384491846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lovelyfeathereddinos,2018/01/04,"20 month old laughs when misbehaving Our 20 month old is killing me. He does things he absolutely knows are off limits like pulling the dogs tail, throwing dishes and/or food, screaming just for the sake of screaming, hitting me, etc. 

Let’s say he pulls the dog’s tail: I remove the kiddo’s hands from the dog, sit on the floor next to the kiddo and tell him firmly “we don’t pull the dog’s tail. It hurts the dog.” He laughs hysterically and runs off, unfazed. Same with throwing at the table: I take his plates/food/silverware away and tell him “we don’t throw food, it’s wasteful”. He laughs and looks for tiny crumbs to throw. 

I’m at a loss here. Nothing we do is effective. When we ignore completely, he just keeps doing whatever the fun activity is. 

My sisters’ only recommendation was for gin martinis. :/ 

Any advice? I’ve read the whole brained child and no-drama discipline, but that all seems to apply to slightly older kids, so I’m feeling very powerless at the moment. ",3.18374925727867,5.593816754010696,3.858458110516935,85.90311200237673,76.64705882352942,6.722400475341653,24.29263220439691,7.793537801064563,1.3015409387997623,771,26,149,12,18,244,119,187,0.105,0.8190000000000001,0.076,-0.6829999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,5,0,0,3,6,11,1,0,14,0,10,5,2,1,1,23,19,9,1,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,4,10,3,4,4,2,0,9,2,6,0,0,1,6,13,5,17,16,4,27,0,2,1,0,20,8,0,1,10,74,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806474623569155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030396002172359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235913905504444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691477511186265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886707740165548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259720819073698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898617168780047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661366274848548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5496600472273708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220656007102605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346789892902925,0.1676357390868684,0.0,0.08327207947024931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494067533305256,0.0,0.07402559630740574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723963200460725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24188552510066305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114449692581026,0.0,0.0,0.1453886614885073,0.0,0.3179919855784215,0.0,0.0,0.11523868735948405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156218662879292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204957262131678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793919412428565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392507245543555,0.0,0.2648723847457006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066394111055592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502084442896452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916798951285142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,potatosword,2018/01/04,"LPT: Get your kid to stop putting their white shirts in the wash inside-out! Step One: To begin with, ask for them to put their white shirts in the wash the right way round.

This will not work 99% of the time.

So in 99 out of 100 cases you should proceed to step two.

Step Two: Lull them into a false sense of security by continuing to wash and iron their white shirts as normal. Make sure to always give them the shirts the right way round. That is the most important thing and try to keep doing it for a couple months.

Step Three: Now all you have to do is sneak one shirt inside-out into their wardrobe every now and again. And they will inevitably put it on without checking and there you go. Worst case scenario for them they get to school and their friend asks them why they got their shirt on inside-out. Major cool-points lost.

GG.",2.06536498936924,4.4052110361445775,1.866428065201987,99.07322111977322,80.20481927710844,4.628773919206237,15.788802267895115,5.5289334501034215,-0.9676423812898652,656,10,145,3,17,192,97,166,0.049,0.8740000000000001,0.076,0.56,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,4,14,2,5,5,0,0,9,0,8,9,6,1,2,20,19,8,0,2,2,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,5,10,0,3,0,0,1,8,2,2,0,5,2,5,18,3,27,14,4,29,0,1,5,0,23,10,0,1,9,87,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300670423167262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922678371680536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296015968661724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170257502892582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076898995983247,0.0,0.16333682444998032,0.14995209905687193,0.08883771743220921,0.0,0.12501980824891729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894042445356652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063686523901989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043418294277286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247695639229242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315602950570756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118468958769925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776870056361596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714208438977664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266985215371156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819966065135024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306867816028975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732553617867875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384909167177407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114884202504214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612798338062114,0.0,0.30539511662657376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481519820868415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410504516111506,0.0,0.0,0.1506825918381465,0.0,0.1137995668321478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,garrywarry,2018/01/04,"Leaving 3 year old for 6 weeks Basically, I'm having to go abroad for 6 weeks later in the year leaving my 3-year-old daughter with my husband. The trip is not optional so I have to do it and the option of flying back midway is unavailable. Currently, she is always with me, the longest I've been away from her is when she is at daycare. Even if she is with my husband (her dad) she will ask for me to help her and refuse him. 

I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to make this easier for her. I've done some searching but can find nothing for longer than a few days away. I'm just not wanting to scar her for life which is probably an overreaction.",2.518215240641709,3.9852510220588284,4.068582887700536,87.91385026737969,75.54411764705883,7.298395721925132,25.59893048128342,8.00094639256281,1.3781558823529414,513,18,111,8,11,171,84,136,0.029,0.94,0.031,0.0836,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,0,17,1,0,1,0,19,25,7,0,3,6,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,17,0,21,22,2,16,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,6,10,79,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288952090983754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120545175620725,0.0,0.17177560435781442,0.0,0.3452666065972857,0.1412876033159052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184995191752384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803365256825494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136101514100064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793846035434978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442580852926292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315956368526165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891162053239786,0.0,0.0,0.12978364585074414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265038112587222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630708545676488,0.0,0.3856163169943819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810684183456587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837682545317978,0.0,0.2947763088972473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19926226085276325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549748556676384
parenting,quark19,2018/01/04,"My son is soft spoken and even though I can't hear him, he doesn't want to speak up My son is pretty quiet--he doesn't talk that much and when he does he always talks very quietly. I always have to ask him to repeat things, but most of the time he just refuses to repeat it. He keeps telling me that his girlfriend and friends can hear him so he doesn't understand why I can't. He tells me he feels like he's shouting every time he talks to me. What am I supposed to do?",2.8024789915966366,3.3246308725490223,3.859523809523811,93.345,73.6078431372549,7.0050420168067244,22.414565826330534,6.868970318607317,0.32653893557422986,367,8,88,3,7,119,61,102,0.011,0.8909999999999999,0.097,0.8551,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,18,7,0,1,2,2,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,0,5,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,13,2,8,18,2,6,0,0,0,0,28,1,0,1,6,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30814030020175026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17310207390004387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620370746325556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229817784696473,0.0,0.15600751075715785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362379463368688,0.13228022748636006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430561968598688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.417383506474364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645810627300432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046111330133176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611584597325205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883769727244368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464801501844536,0.32368061862512365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301383084231338,0.0,0.18192135432858955,0.0,0.21593964961734616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276083904065744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152778570346826,0.10921372286119417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670804829912825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Reference_account2,2018/01/04,"[Help!] Preschool temper tantrums occurring weekly. Need advice on how to address this, lest they expel her. The specifics:

* Daughter (4 yo), only child
* Large, extended family -she gets plenty of attention- 
* Enrolled in Preschool ( 8 months left in 2 yr program).
* No physical disabilities, allergies, nor medical conditions of any kind.
* No psychological issues have been found.
* No sign of Autism 
* Physically healthy
* Has a very stubborn personality (yes, this is true)
* Home environment is safe, stable, quiet (a normal household).


Problem Description:

1.  At home, she is usually normal (occasionally difficult but ok). 
1. Behaves normally from waking up, getting dressed, eating & such.
1.  Behaves normally once admitted to Preschool facility.
1.  About twice a week, a few hours into preschool, my daughter will throw a tantrum.

1. According to the staff, this occurs when they ask her to do something she doesn't want (e.g. giving her a cup of water or asking her to participate in an activity or picking something up, etc.)
1. Daughter will proceed to scream, and then throw things (whatever is handy; her shoe, a paper cup, etc.), then lies face down on the floor and flails/wails. For several minutes.
1. Episodes are becoming increasingly frequent.

Home Environment:

1. Normal toddler; almost never has a tantrum in my presence.
1. Last tantrum (at home) was over a month ago; I just waited it out -and five minutes later she's back to her normal self-


Request:

How do I tell a 4yo (with limited language skills) to behave during preschool?


[Addendum - about the child-]

* She is getting adequate nutrition ( 3 meals, stable, healthy foods) without issue
* She is getting adequate rest daily (at least 10 hours of sleep every night)
* She is getting frequent exercise outdoors and indoors. And then some.
* Parents, grandparents & extended family play a substantial role in her life, daily.
* Participates in play, reading, & non-physical activities as part of daily routine
* She has a daily routine for ALL home activities (and evenings too) -ALL without issue-",3.949385964912281,7.205871190058485,4.519005847953217,73.35026315789473,91.48538011695906,7.429239766081872,32.608187134502934,8.090928345107859,3.822615204678362,1625,91,229,43,57,515,217,342,0.113,0.8079999999999999,0.079,-0.8814,2,0,2,0,0,0,123,0,0,2,2,10,15,6,0,17,2,19,11,4,3,4,41,32,17,0,9,6,4,0,0,0,2,3,2,6,4,5,9,4,4,3,4,0,3,8,9,0,2,3,2,21,6,40,27,10,42,0,0,0,0,33,19,0,4,20,138,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105467311891959,0.07352735175438699,0.0,0.08305925920698437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696185364591385,0.0,0.05640668238891676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550881605629636,0.0,0.0,0.06378098505469351,0.0,0.0,0.09160824657347794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848753051901861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850152619850376,0.054785592729063005,0.0,0.06988627383894166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638976080409306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029962474124918,0.0909469074847784,0.0,0.0,0.21668145134951602,0.07957014853438535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559750541729203,0.0,0.4160121207584667,0.0,0.16337181989108154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597247913985237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637634947452429,0.0,0.06761272956954109,0.0,0.0,0.09012196330217516,0.0,0.05858779243244546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356019532600105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324147217192635,0.0,0.0,0.061504016473988815,0.06397370157102472,0.0,0.0,0.07783997217964457,0.4876216375770982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833565686836185,0.0,0.06308479480799431,0.0,0.0,0.09210262820350798,0.08982332362222363,0.0,0.0,0.07242596435690263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936890512001855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296926720713342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653162393550175,0.0937062974261868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300672382132482,0.0,0.0,0.1277130298557457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724991772505272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055106181917133866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135420427379623,0.06843981390485979,0.048924183879381,0.0,0.133069872451694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991555022594414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,over-the-borderline,2018/01/04,"Guardianship: who to name when family is small and husband is estranged from his/suspicious of friends? Hi all, I recently saw a financial advisor and he reminded me of the importance of getting wills in place (I just had my first son, he’s almost 9 mos.). Anyway, the issue is who could be his guardian in case something happened to us.

The obvious choice in my opinion is my husband’s only sister. She is in her late 30s and is a neurosurgeon who is finally making bank after years of med school. The problem is that my husband quarreled with her a few years back and won’t speak to her anymore unless she apologizes to him, which she has chosen not to do. 

I am in periodic contact with her and would absolutely want my kid(s) to go to her. She’s smart and capable, though I’m sure she has her issues having come from my husband’s family of origin!

There are no other obvious blood relative candidates. I have no brothers and sisters. My parents are in their 70s, I have a dear Aunt but she is in her late 60s and her husband is also too Christian/authoritarian for my taste. My husband is also estranged from his parents and they are also in their late 60s.

My husband has a cousin in her 40s that I have never met who he might suggest.

 My best friend and her husband would be my 2nd choice—just that her husband is a blowhard and possible Trump supporter. I have a few other single friends I would consider, but I think my husband would also have issues with them.

This issue, like so many others in my life, is made so complicated by my husband, who has many of the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder: suspicious of everyone and sees the worst in everyone.

How do you deal with/have you dealt with establishing guardianship when there are few relatives or close friends and when the parents might be in disagreement?

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parenting,LittleMissPotatoe,2018/01/04,"My LO is obsessed with the jumperoo, and it’s amazing. Six months old and LO loves the jumperoo. We have one that sits on the floor, and it makes noises and lights up while LO bounces around. LO is still getting over a cold so I stayed home with him today. You guys, he LOVES it, like nonstop baby bouncing to the point that paranoid me started googling whether he could hurt himself. Seeing him happy makes me so happy. Three months ago, he couldn’t even lay flat because of GERD. Now he laughs *hysterically* while bouncing and NO spit up! ",2.732012356575467,5.357996446601945,2.3822065313327454,94.66100617828778,79.67961165048544,4.133804060017652,24.897616946160635,4.851557810540192,0.226425242718447,426,16,84,1,11,125,73,103,0.081,0.713,0.205,0.9538,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,1,0,0,6,9,0,1,5,0,5,3,1,2,0,14,12,10,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,0,3,9,7,9,10,0,19,0,1,1,2,12,7,0,0,11,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771044058419633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785809459356844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179193511839947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951842271744546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319613669943114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438357640411183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978264436132589,0.0,0.4253666459993477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20040863083468088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138824978519284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760874921626883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606418969734564,0.0,0.2667267068743463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189456719882457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964910464356715,0.0,0.13538488161634296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888689277186494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920912329400347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141448670975074,0.21295271400793875,0.15955491739798444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893803666339742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,linuxphoney,2018/01/04,"My daughter's night time horror A little background.  My daughter is four.  I have read her a variety of books (most recently the Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman which features a pretty awful monster and evil birds who can devour worlds), Coraline (wicked spider creature that wants to sew buttons into her eyes and eat her life) and a few other pretty advanced works.  

She watches some pretty intense movies (seriously, why did nobody tell me Toy Story 3 was so hardcore?).  

So the other night when she woke screaming in her room and could not be calmed until she was allowed to sleep in our bed for a bit I figured for sure that one of those things had gone overboard, but it turned out that my daughter was in fact afraid of something much darker and more terrifying.  She had looked into the face of fear and had seen ... 

Mister Potato Head with his eye in his nose hole. 

Yeah, the Hunger Birds didn't scare her, but that  potato putting his eye in the middle of his face terrified her.  the next day she said, ""His eye was in his nose hole and his nose was in his eye hole and that's not where they go and that was super scary!"" ",7.668576717400242,6.511986561085976,6.768531468531473,82.31965034965036,63.47963800904978,8.941341011929246,30.950637597696424,6.980632752743323,1.7115303167420808,894,24,177,5,11,272,136,221,0.117,0.792,0.091,-0.8531,1,0,1,0,0,0,26,1,0,1,3,4,9,1,3,13,2,16,15,12,1,2,25,24,15,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,13,13,2,0,1,3,0,4,3,6,0,2,15,13,27,3,24,7,6,29,0,0,8,0,27,16,0,2,9,117,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18273883124046386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336416667030153,0.0,0.0,0.10794815647544556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127454659054622,0.0,0.0,0.14825161314240087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835235567506206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951275886826324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178319822809002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822752875082923,0.0,0.16776169048840592,0.0,0.0,0.14055952279168615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230457286863334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780136678450789,0.3141551223130306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342301984546753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5108659108174389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826609774520174,0.0,0.0,0.1674282477100863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527047138269035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592195171926544,0.0,0.16757953464973593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750383347202344,0.0,0.0,0.12885957366063744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15775645089877582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630007731869066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120179539907664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760234508133316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206458601430756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872680154111996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103707898172872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185678221788016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nizzore,2018/01/04,"When 2 year old gets overwhelmed in crowded places? My 26 month old son is very sensitive overall. Him and his twin sister are watched by a nanny at home, and while they get lots of playground, gym class, play date and library time...they are not as exposed to the hustle and bustle of daycare settings. I've recently found my son escalating into sort of tantrums when visiting, for example, an indoor play complex. He even shut down 30 mins into his gym class which he's been going to for a year. Usually we sense this and pull him aside to calm down..it doesn't always work. I'm curious if there's more we should be doing ? He's fine at the busy supermarket and mall, so I am not sure what's the treshold that gets him wacky but...",3.3217356321839087,5.107794731034485,4.0149137931034495,87.79938218390807,74.10344827586206,7.040229885057474,25.8764367816092,7.793537801064563,1.3633333333333335,576,20,117,8,12,183,106,145,0.035,0.866,0.098,0.7152,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,2,0,1,1,5,7,1,1,6,0,9,0,0,0,1,20,15,13,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,10,0,0,2,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,1,11,5,16,11,2,24,0,1,1,0,16,8,0,3,12,64,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960791199644986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050742877417206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498500886572521,0.0,0.0,0.357161434031957,0.0,0.1295050137899974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285743806547589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372878250852044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188540367148007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4782270508924152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380779327209561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224996291526964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476683717135986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287410330418514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509690177298317,0.18801841695031796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16589366428892205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934844315199949
parenting,Stryker412,2018/01/04,"Need sleep advice for our son Our son is 6 and has never been a wonderful sleeper but lately it’s gotten out of hand. I’ll put him to bed at 7:30 and he won’t actually fall asleep until 9. He reads, says he’s hungry, needs a drink, etc. Even when he does fall asleep a few hours later he sneaks into our bed. Is there a way to curb this behavior? Our 2yo twins sleep better than he does!",2.510763052208837,3.312829975903618,4.021867469879517,90.86645582329321,74.5421686746988,6.979116465863456,18.65261044176707,7.1686216300943375,0.0045598393574297616,300,4,70,3,6,100,62,83,0.025,0.872,0.104,0.8148,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,5,6,5,0,1,10,9,5,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,4,1,1,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,2,5,1,9,6,2,13,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,6,34,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.20860325119346826,0.0,0.0,0.20888813038731732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890572700371866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741333925558605,0.0,0.0,0.20940776384788573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384038494145331,0.14118939225804775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051490741905085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411355918971444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170072376632277,0.1648683092648029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21489229778755325,0.0,0.0,0.21382228117897906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699940573853044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278376232095539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696762573869396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23181840953686556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,queenhippolotamus,2018/01/04,"SAHM starting part time job and feeling TONS of mommy guilt My little ones are 1.5 and almost 4. I’m starting a job next week, 16 hours per week. I was able the hours down from 24 in the interview because they like me.
A part of me thinks this will be good for me bc my family lives far away and husband works super long hours, so as it is, I never have a moment I’m not caring for them. No breaks. Ever. Also the money could help reduce the number of hours my husband has to take on, which is huge as he often works 60+ hour weeks.
But I’m having so much anxiety about this. I feel like I’m abandoning my babies. I can’t stop thinking about how small the are, the things I could miss out on, whether they will feel abandoned, whether their care provider will interact with them as much as I do, the possibility that something bad could happen to them while they’re not under my watch.
PLEASE HELP!",3.72780580075662,4.7171220327868895,4.279234972677596,89.45511979823458,71.84153005464479,6.942244640605296,23.366540563261875,7.010146845296331,0.6197544346364023,704,17,151,6,13,223,119,183,0.11,0.741,0.149,0.8295,2,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,0,6,3,8,11,0,1,10,0,17,0,0,1,2,26,33,15,0,3,5,2,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,3,5,0,1,0,5,5,0,1,1,4,20,6,22,25,5,30,0,3,1,0,13,11,0,2,20,98,26,5,0.111600889416533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175217003558137,0.0,0.0,0.08924719094611065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537437493858062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485270928346434,0.0,0.09318208109053994,0.06803086634631297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275690891390781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673126874562414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094939374875248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520738631710123,0.0,0.16928628876159976,0.07972769769808327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936055311742529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868829794344287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960744746023258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5495219789401667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22149332489235168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904511478050373,0.11185340980098722,0.09854562997787504,0.09876327525844764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407898936813242,0.0,0.08607348589462889,0.0,0.11868881197896915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562365092236223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417057756216469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250426346124098,0.0,0.12581323447537762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591581699899413,0.0,0.0,0.15798336787129508,0.0,0.0,0.0933033407092546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390997993917777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414267199601253,0.14301868738340898,0.0,0.0,0.06507537608935941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26855850548419696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16249355331082793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spydermonkiex,2018/01/04,"Bring on the coffee So at about 1am I hear my three year old fiddling with her doorknob. She comes into my room and stands by the bed for a bit before saying, ""Mommy, I think I need some rest."" 

That's some sound logic you have there kiddo. Now let's go get some.",-0.9403571428571418,1.1819042500000023,0.83642857142857,101.53357142857143,95.78571428571428,2.8000000000000003,10.571428571428571,3.1291,-1.98585,202,2,47,0,8,65,49,56,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,9,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,0,7,8,5,11,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,3,3,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28884868375731976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705937097841012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29240787485803665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773496802521679,0.0,0.19291841670106186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825871190954265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34711270892828666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516993860792309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35619781343519186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699458863866939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750716041406146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859598404066452
parenting,standardissuegerbil,2018/01/04,Raising Bilingual Children I’m having my first in a few months and I really want to raise them bilingual. My first language (which is kinda rusty now) is Spanish but my primary language is English these days. Anyone else have any advice or experience with this?,4.414893617021273,7.448390914893618,4.646212765957447,78.49400000000003,76.02127659574468,6.313191489361702,30.676595744680853,7.554174236665415,2.4649778723404245,211,10,32,3,5,66,39,47,0.0,0.971,0.029,0.0763,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,3,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,5,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32015390568794905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227980075524616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22908484049775374,0.3356932005552489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211292702524332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736908253468716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204826664017669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.557359750198812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615092301143943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20988663439378094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932432511151925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,--VuDu--,2018/01/04,"Lovong with family and part time with 2 year old, Help! Hey guys, bit of a small one here but its bugging me. I currently live with my parents and have my son(LO) 2-3 nights a week. He's a great kid with 3x the energy of any kid i've ever met! Which means 90% of the time he does the right thing, 10% not so much, and with all his energy he manages to fit a lot of 10% into his day.


While i can handle that pretty well my parents (from here on we'll call them grandparents, as they are from LO perspective) and sisters (Aunties) Are firmly of the opinion that their only job is to spoil LO rotten as they're family and not LO's parents.

For me this means LO has four adults in the house spoiling him and letting him get away with stuff while I'm constantly tasked with telling him off for things like playing with the hose or escaping the yard. I think LO is starting to take advantage of this by asking the others if he can have a lolly or doing bad things when they're watching him for me (a mans gotta pee right) 

I feel like LO is holding a grudge seeing me as big bad dad and associating me with punishment and not the actions he's taking.",8.166962025316456,5.105669177215191,8.191396624472578,78.54658860759496,63.978902953586505,11.505316455696207,33.82658227848101,9.3871,2.67650075949367,893,24,196,12,10,292,142,237,0.07200000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.142,0.9304,6,0,0,0,0,0,25,1,0,3,1,6,10,1,0,16,0,13,1,1,0,2,34,26,19,0,1,7,5,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,5,11,18,0,1,4,2,0,1,3,4,1,2,1,4,22,6,32,22,5,25,0,0,2,0,31,10,0,5,16,122,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701476249540446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962199233939548,0.0,0.12021928120653615,0.0,0.2136765542175746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969528479948362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065782484376734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382754471025031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252131394324831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197553711335807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574391961490806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412518750749135,0.0,0.06469861736563047,0.0914121015567038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685195522168258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410724195013036,0.0,0.12669698630461312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576650007292752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764454433366764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269770161046454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084412242049756,0.0,0.12502610001765382,0.0,0.11298787492421765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878398387423782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787641352778537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940627013728607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007844469845158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342687522186249,0.0,0.08670659078080822,0.09731663350524464,0.0,0.0,0.42624142985790103,0.13856434806155846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017769389160033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854818988855326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196471080976294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056822211779553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647950288459252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241462701877315,0.0,0.1118395626615757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25502570591654544,0.0819893158404407,0.0,0.0,0.14922485057697152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263893262541056,0.0,0.11504820053726543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239974786505153
parenting,oneherbert,2018/01/04,"Walrus obsession in 2 yr old.... So our daughter at 28 months  is extremely verbal.    In past 3 weeks has developed an obsession with walruses, stemming from a discussion with her great aunt in which walruses were Googled and observed on my aunt's phone. We also saw three actual walruses in October at a zoo and she was a little scared then but didn't start talking about them until lately.

 Since then, at bedtime, when she wakes in the morning, and sometimes during the night, she is asking about the walruses. They are ""a little bit scary"" and she's worried about them ""getting"" her.  I have always encouraged her talking about things/experiences/accidents as opposed to distracting or minimizing and try to be as calm and matter of fact as possible- ""walruses live pretty far away, we won't see any here"" and ""walruses eat clams, there aren't clams on our beach "" Etc etc.  

I am seeing the walrus thing kind of take on a dramatic aspect and thinking she's getting a type of attention around the walrus thing that's maybe edgier, more interesting? Wondering how others deal with kids' preoccupations with monsters, ghosts, walruses...  especially a kid who is two and while very verbal definitely not logical or emotionally mature.

TL;DR toddler obsessed with scary walruses, how much is too much/how to handle this?",9.523869814020033,9.19780561802575,9.150740343347644,64.03952968526467,59.343347639484975,12.916881258941345,39.15915593705293,12.161744961471696,5.107818597997138,1051,46,165,30,12,339,151,233,0.085,0.8079999999999999,0.108,0.8224,0,0,0,0,0,0,40,4,0,3,0,13,10,0,5,13,0,14,2,1,2,1,30,24,24,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,17,1,1,4,1,0,0,4,5,0,2,4,3,18,5,33,18,5,28,0,0,3,0,28,16,0,3,12,115,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.13900383968787372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391163148368642,0.11852400335939645,0.0,0.0,0.09686613805422677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680448731024566,0.13316499513380275,0.0,0.13382990605470266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551088522049306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685249877838394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575477021074776,0.0,0.16022922498679118,0.0,0.0,0.3177232404134973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488411974701532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570439322152809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14833248541600827,0.0,0.0,0.1606819307337849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855306539594584,0.12577979617471227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431031590484163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369665943152908,0.0,0.2094240185375036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133673124742613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494699878019546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597798017811488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16058310238563772,0.0,0.1449157603429716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261031222163228,0.0,0.2270172892669663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783033795742615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408797888567046,0.0,0.10082190257603224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709942364916177,0.2289806073649713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892656259562346,0.09127173550110156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967094602497402,0.0,0.13914613258003072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753040918812048,0.0,0.0,0.1142591984659681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154473378778141,0.0,0.14465780097196898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grimcupcake,2018/01/04,"Alone but not? I just don't know what to do anymore. My spouse [24m] and I [26tm] have been married 5 years and have a 2yr old daughter together. I stay at home with her after losing my normal job when she was 3 months old due to lack of child care. I now work as an on call host at a restaurant that one of my old patients owns (I was a MA previously for 9 years). The whole time I've been out of work I've figured out ways to make a little money to afford a few things. My husband makes 18/hr and works overtime most of the time. He pays our few bills (rent,elect, phones and internet) plus gives me $200 a month for gas and household needs but he's never contributed to any cost having to do with our daughter, I've bought all her clothes and toys and all presents she got for Hanukkah on my measly wages. Other people are kinder to her and I than him. He's trying to put his two cents in parenting wise but its always in a critical or harsh way and going on dated parenting ideals.

I don't know how to feel about him trying to parent when I've felt alone all this time even when he's home because 70% of the time he's playing video games or on his phone. He only seems to criticise and dares to say I'm bitching at him when I ask for his help with our toddler when I'm occupied cooking (I cook dinner every night) or doing dishes/cleaning. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm exhausted, stressed out, in tons of pain from medical issues and always mad when hes around. He only started being a jerk when he started working in the IT field too..We're looking into counselling but he never gets anything done and I have no info to go on regarding schedule and his ins info.

Tl:dr husband is acting like a disconnected roommate rather than a spouse and parent unless its to criticize or parent in a harsh/dated or wrong way. I'm at the end of my rope, please help.",4.138170103092783,4.5240914046391785,4.999913402061856,86.85848865979382,70.52061855670105,7.651298969072165,26.860206185567012,7.404127859558343,1.2426244123711343,1467,44,314,14,25,478,213,388,0.131,0.7929999999999999,0.076,-0.9672,10,2,0,0,0,0,41,3,0,0,6,15,13,3,1,17,0,20,6,0,3,5,59,44,34,0,5,14,12,2,1,0,0,3,1,2,1,9,23,3,0,9,6,7,4,7,8,0,2,8,4,34,5,57,35,10,59,0,1,1,0,47,21,1,7,31,188,43,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334330756076456,0.0,0.0,0.14729801348772184,0.0,0.0,0.06019113979111072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556007860363,0.0,0.0,0.07283776723107581,0.07879437309205367,0.08274669557791409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05395604398693128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038056502641156,0.0,0.09024379993302442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057842331940448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839528807226621,0.0,0.0,0.05846128740132803,0.0,0.07457510883402202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04475428548520048,0.0,0.08498532229380648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04624382422775543,0.08490869753002342,0.10060672609655556,0.0,0.0707910669516058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865534645472442,0.0,0.1775693421763051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238344680805252,0.08783442150998774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593150688249187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043242452475219004,0.08871219526425153,0.0,0.0,0.07432771925368646,0.0990221963428966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181647858260147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916644597463684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412987378064848,0.0,0.0,0.06563046604612993,0.13653169628614625,0.0,0.0,0.08306243956162468,0.0867228872819404,0.0,0.0,0.2786351075128,0.0,0.05997796669012216,0.1346346050562128,0.0941829218509278,0.0,0.491410054140618,0.0,0.0,0.0613630196062697,0.0,0.0,0.09715950689579253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897892526039848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038823020894235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057792633806438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529838298214058,0.09434192824819396,0.0,0.0,0.10139010360483004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588033856743951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20644804591313964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018756518931907,0.0,0.08646328310134996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107699230721954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882039607570152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257750923394112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677388805901807,0.0,0.11399754708885253
parenting,Nothejeffersons,2018/01/04,"Helping a teenager get over a fear of failing My son is a Freshman in high school. He decided on his own that he would like to join a sports teams in order to have something to put on his college transcripts. After discussing it he decided to join the cross country team this Spring. 

He has been running with my husband and our younger son every morning. His has been building up his stamina and has improved on speed. He still has a couple of months before cross country starts and I know he can improve even more but today he was talking about not joining because he thinks he is going to suck. I have no problem with him not playing a sport. That isn't a concern of mine by a long shot. I am worried about his fear of failing and am worried that it is going to hold him back in life. He is a bright kid and I think he may be too deep into his comfort zone to explore other things. I am worried about how this will affect him in the future and want to get control of it while we still can. 

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parenting,Krishna0902,2018/01/04,"A multi cultural blended family with a deadth Hi, i am writing this thread to discuss my situation as a step father in   family with a 9 yr old kid my fiancee has from previous marriage. I have never been married and never had kids. I love kids in general and have always got along with very very well.

I am having problems on multiple levels:

* 1. I moved to USA from India and i am finding it really hard to accept the general entitlement in American kids. I was raised in a poor family where i had to practice lots of self containment and retrain. But step son has never heard a ""No"" from my fiancee. To give an example, my fiancee cleaned houses to give him Christmas gifts much beyond her means.  He continues to eat in the car even when she told me she was once crying cleaning the seats because the stains won't go.
* 2. Now I am in her life and i can't play the same self subservient game with the kid. He generally listens to me and loves me a lot, but certain habits with regards to my fiancee are being tough to break . Like when he eats sometimes and i say "" XXX Take your dish to the sink"", he would just say "" Mom will take it"".
* 3. On the positive note, he is generally very kind and loving. He also says sorry whenever he does something unacceptable.
* 4. This kid lost his biological father to cancer recently. There is a part in me and more in fiancee which want to ignore a lot of stuff, but i don't want him to make this trauma into a form of escape.


I look forward to answers from those who have been in similar situations.
I would really appreciate any video, books and material to help me guide through this situation and also about parenting in general.



thanks for reading..
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parenting,trade_away_32,2018/01/04,"End of my rope here... Sorry for format, mobile post here.

My oldest son is 5yo and usually is a joy. His behavior is terrible though. In public, he wont sit up at the table or runs around in places where its not appropriate. DS throws some wild tantrums occasionally. Got one today that was destructive and manipulative. The teacher at the after school program he goes to has no idea what triggered this reaction. He started by screaming and throwing his shoes, then kicking walls and furniture, followed by scratching and biting HIMSELF. I don't understand! He would only answer my questions with ""I don't know."" My husband and I are beyond frustrated. I don't like spanking and will avoid it. Whenever he behaves this way he loses privileges like his shows and goes to bed early. 

We have an appointment for his pediatrician on Monday. I am beginning to believe there is more here than we can do. But am I missing something? Has anyone else experienced this in a child so old? I believe DS does this because he knows whoever is taking care of him will call me to pick him up. DS has been with this after school program for a very short time, less than a week. I cannot bring him to work with me, I've been getting in trouble for it and have been relieved that I found this program so close to home. But I can't expect them to continue to accept him due to his wild behavior. ",4.049896301417213,6.070821775665401,5.000029381265122,80.50722001382651,72.68821292775665,7.823643276875218,29.064811614241272,8.575989854853784,2.3402258555133084,1089,45,199,20,22,355,160,263,0.122,0.8240000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.939,1,1,1,0,0,0,32,2,0,1,2,10,16,3,1,8,0,28,1,1,3,0,35,41,16,0,2,4,2,1,2,0,4,0,1,2,1,12,16,0,1,8,1,0,5,8,9,0,1,6,3,29,7,35,31,3,40,0,2,0,0,26,16,0,3,18,139,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080465463247437,0.16236940458030452,0.0,0.14107030109554394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660074790198986,0.0,0.0,0.3570788056733346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181375675856602,0.0,0.16156889799332216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867659550460534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237985242822875,0.0,0.1403557952026122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375220916716005,0.0,0.0,0.08279309742076965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674150117383154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895653193968542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889131644860234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417996410470174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483912242469752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728538860147694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662857256177347,0.0,0.1073821579897478,0.12052221197934125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556554767112314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176873727609697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17752065855831267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207565706103457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199656750605427,0.0,0.17739218331902648,0.11216461227139296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191483697606159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569420840930862,0.0,0.092404085643047,0.0,0.15020933066717634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497099176461474,0.0,0.0,0.17453034136357784,0.13075286658811322,0.0,0.1257846863207792,0.12711363668931674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536674176080487,0.0,0.0,0.11257126730223548,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,luciliddream,2018/01/04,"Cotton toddler socks Hi Parents, 

I'm having a tough time with Amazon as many of the item descriptions have false content. Some will claim 100% cotton but are not.

I'm in search of warm cotton socks size T3-4 that are a good portion cotton content. Looking for minimum 60% cotton and the rest may be whatever. My little one is not a fan of slippers and has wool socks for those extra cold times. Oshkosh are rather expensive but they have good quality socks. 

Any suggestions for good quality cotton socks, super appreciate it. Affordable options would be a dream come true.

Thanks! 
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parenting,Elveslivehere,2018/01/04,When did you stop chaperoning your child's field trips? Simple question that I am wondering about. If you were a regular chaperone when did you stop? Do you think there is an age when it becomes embarrassing to have your parent on the trip? Our school district allows parent chaperones through high school and I am curious to see how many people are still going on field trips with the kids at that age.,6.48,7.706065000000002,5.993333333333332,78.81000000000002,65.66666666666666,9.733333333333334,29.666666666666664,9.888512548439397,2.768866666666667,325,11,59,7,5,100,56,75,0.098,0.872,0.03,-0.6416,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,0,0,7,1,0,1,4,0,9,0,0,2,0,10,13,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,1,9,0,8,10,0,16,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,3,8,41,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24630102479576296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674378103569536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23562613650222905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22610080987495415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.495260471877099,0.0,0.0,0.15460956582966276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24982629630066197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514033842622429,0.17771298348669562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809896703223085,0.3728987486509192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289812442289204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418487605113733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AndyAndTheDbags666,2018/01/05,"Is This Normal For A 3 Year Old? Our son turned 3 in September. He has been such a good, laid back, no drama kid his whole life. Of course he’s had his moments here and there, but 99% of the time he’s the sweetest kid you’ll ever meet. It’s been a different story the past week.

We spent a week at my brother in laws house for Christmas and he spent a lot of time with his 7 year old Cousin. Since we’ve gotten home he’s been rude, defiant, tells us no, has been hitting, talking back, and nothing works. We’ve taken toys away, screen time, early bedtime, the list goes on. He just doesn’t care.

We feel helpless, especially since this is so far from the sweet boy we’re used to.",1.0219919517102625,2.9796185633802814,2.2431790744466795,97.04563380281692,81.67605633802819,5.183903420523139,19.29778672032193,6.18269132825596,-0.25608611670020176,524,13,122,4,14,167,96,142,0.104,0.8240000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,4,1,0,1,8,5,1,0,10,0,11,1,0,1,1,14,20,5,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,3,6,0,0,1,2,2,0,3,2,0,0,9,3,9,3,13,9,2,21,0,1,1,0,23,6,0,1,15,61,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994727629668887,0.2618100551059052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357231980868906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786589217722276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539929743757353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607910082256938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279029945855373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17076587350775596,0.0,0.0,0.19643556748326266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024644298076048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473303908292925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668002980504522,0.16335108911073473,0.0,0.3572791484625252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251455453405644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816506740086203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368334834585417,0.14879837286000444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978071591265174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517361474352603,0.0,0.0,0.20477928544370028,0.14703379661001667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731145545152571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006829725701846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393767145097755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925959141123752
parenting,Lovelymama,2018/01/05,"I'm not sure what to do... I had a baby seven weeks ago. Due to my anatomy I'm not able to breastfeed, so I pump instead. I'm so tired of pumping. This is my fifth child and the only one I've ever pumped this long for. I would like to stop soon, but my husband doesn't wasn't me to and claims I'm depriving our child. I tried to explain that it's important for mom's to feel good about themselves too. He said I no longer get to think about me and I need to suck it up. 

I have a lot going on around the house and am feeling overwhelmed being attached to a pump so often. My question is does he have a point? Am I being unreasonable? Do I still have a right to my body?",0.3210204081632675,1.980837802721091,2.3920748299319747,96.61423469387756,82.5374149659864,5.016326530612245,20.02380952380953,5.773587663045528,-0.2698761904761904,515,14,125,3,14,173,89,147,0.118,0.804,0.077,-0.7777,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,0,12,6,1,1,7,0,15,2,1,0,2,20,28,8,0,2,3,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,6,5,0,1,5,0,0,1,5,3,0,2,3,3,17,3,19,22,1,14,0,2,0,0,10,5,1,3,9,84,23,0,0.20805519081494867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844283733255729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521323008727514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311024143100716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820704995413508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819783147658864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210397911670116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870025003948593,0.0,0.11824255957388916,0.17450682294391007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24006775617581866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164525695856452,0.0,0.0,0.18412229675618988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688108310683814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436717249191175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427028773153406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098358180686918,0.15823534794073096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966794047008536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23306942938001524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17767799616171706,0.19790813062431276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615314414066426,0.17394345561604752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608955511104453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331336537381802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391288356868093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141255817461943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688932437610274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477964381598933,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grellsutcliff882,2018/01/05,"Ballad of the barf... So... I personally have never had the stomach flu but I got a nice personal view of what happens.

2 year old is playing having fun, she stops and proceeds to vomit then runs to me saying she made a mess and proceeds to vomit all over me. She then vomits some more and passes out on the couch for 45 min only to wake up and vomit even more.

I also spent 2 hours cleaning our couch as we are selling it. She finds the ONE spot its not covered up by plastic and barfs...

She can't keep anything down but cries hysterically cause she wants cheese. She also nearly choked herself on vomit by laying down while puking. So now im going to stay up all night to make sure she doesn't drown in vomit in her sleep.

We are running out of clothes.

Send help im drowning in vomit.",2.798471153846154,4.3591577125000045,4.033750000000001,88.06394230769234,75.0,5.6730769230769225,22.93269230769231,5.873414542411696,0.3690336538461541,614,17,125,3,13,201,107,160,0.104,0.778,0.118,0.5419,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,6,0,8,11,3,3,4,24,16,15,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,3,2,3,9,0,2,1,1,2,5,4,1,0,1,4,2,18,4,27,12,5,33,0,0,1,0,18,14,0,1,13,86,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995205288225298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410778152628798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19237853497343912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570800622204874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369049257107938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116197370897288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643022126266022,0.0,0.1497774395689663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560280987702933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552356355432864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442385915669504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045688574163233,0.0,0.0,0.16645475080114605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720000907620925,0.12500460743397726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443466365414673,0.0,0.0,0.17574081106020045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19650903602390268,0.0,0.12689943333585355,0.14242776165871265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270350017218455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892513067635307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18740588619614654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960558677090404,0.0,0.15656664178382468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650036343067835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045707641798466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059615326735583
parenting,Emma3737,2018/01/05,"Subtle cues for 4+ year olds My 4M is really good with responding to subtle cues (responding to my facial expressions, gestures, single words, etc.) when I need him to do something that I'd rather not make a big deal out of. With my other one when he was 3-4, I had some ""code words"" that worked really well. He was extremely impulsive and we had special words for various situations, like when I needed him to keep his hands/feet to himself for his and other's safety(He was prone to reaching out and randomly hitting people unprovoked). It helped him to quickly understand exactly what I needed from him and fast before anyone got hurt.

I'd like to start using similar cues/signs/codewords with my 4M for situations when he is hyper and needs to calm down, when he is being too loud, and when I need to get his attention. He's strong willed, and I know he'll respond better to small secret messages rather than me outright telling him what to do in little situations like this.

Does anyone have any ideas, or similar things that have worked well with your kids? 

Edit -- By the way, this is partially inspired by this article:
 http://impactadhd.com/manage-emotions-and-impulses/use-code-words-to-help-adhd-kids-cope-with-everything/",11.153750000000002,10.023725393518516,9.82381481481482,63.10266666666668,56.63888888888889,12.528888888888893,36.87777777777778,11.407655852321104,4.1316588888888885,999,33,163,21,10,311,127,216,0.015,0.841,0.14400000000000002,0.9758,0,0,1,0,0,0,51,1,1,0,4,12,12,0,0,2,0,15,1,1,2,1,38,30,14,0,7,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,12,14,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,6,1,22,11,29,20,4,19,0,1,0,0,27,7,0,3,14,106,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345268172252485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683024905378757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785607867268146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865061883274414,0.0,0.0,0.11292709804049207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316377353245964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117380947399358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240264270593886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475513806088955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671019669723194,0.0,0.0,0.10709620704063216,0.10212144171921908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711692671044708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366895444026517,0.1441409402412244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134923869826151,0.0,0.0,0.07017239376302485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187141476194858,0.1279740180304875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523079823930835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.473384432665555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398403743158205,0.0,0.08652273081248757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852077388127039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635966940429841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43057021920865995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829823099086513,0.0,0.0,0.09037617362068033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160240861984967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482830929989657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292469605315285,0.0,0.22055786679384606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013504920985573,0.0,0.0,0.2296084852583133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591255249381175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222502048970821
parenting,marsharargentino,2018/01/05,15 month old can use use words but refuses. Cries instead My 15 month old can say basic things like mom. Up. Num. Nod for yes and no  But when I ask him to use them in the correct situation (like do you want up) he just screams and cries and refuses to do it. He knows that screaming and crying gets him what he wants . It's like he does it on purpose ( I know not in a bad way) is this a thing babies do? Know how to communicate but refuse because crying is easier? I know he's a baby still. But what is the deal lol,-0.6310649350649378,1.4940993999999996,1.6342857142857168,97.34000000000002,91.36363636363636,4.961038961038962,16.948051948051948,6.5431188927421005,-0.32674025974025955,394,10,95,5,14,132,69,110,0.201,0.634,0.165,-0.7082,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,1,0,5,6,0,0,5,2,8,0,0,4,1,25,19,10,0,2,6,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,9,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,8,3,9,19,0,12,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,0,9,54,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003150429037896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613534950021695,0.08478870988355412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6111406465655645,0.0,0.14339692879324178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171965413568775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266941581749255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30576356321765524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038588165468235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290194267888686,0.22204255170538886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919056519413959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061091194618304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634434637886646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107841901518782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481203734375554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603904379102105,0.0,0.0,0.1640791973525862,0.1104041273786734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jayliu1984,2018/01/05,"Is it a good idea to pretend to be poorer than you really are in front of kids? 
I grew up in a very frugal family (cheap you may even say). And I think I have developed some good money habbits and high tolerance for adverse environment (not picky or whiney, low maintainence in a way).


Even though looking back my parent had money for many things that I felt I missed out, I retained very good relationship with them.


Through hard work and some help from parents, my OWN family (wife and I with 2 toddlers) is able to archive middle class. But I start to worry that my kids will have it too easy and not develop some of the attributes I wish them to have.


We live in a big house, 2 cars, lots of toys and food (junk food too, but we don't indulge them). I starting to feel they are becoming picky. By all means, I understand this is standard definitation of MIDDLE CLASS in North America, but it is such a comfortable life compare to mine in Asia.


I am worried they will have it too easy that they will take it for granted. And I suggested to my wife that after certain age (say 8), we should start to pretend we are poorer and pretend we are ""struggling"" a bit to provide.


One is to provide a reason to deny luxary things (I want an iphone, an xbox etc). Two to make them appreciate more when we do give (be it a gift, or taking them to lessons). Third to encourage them to help out and share the ""burden"".


I have seem many examples of spoilded kids who not only didn't develop good life habbits, they also fail to maintain a good relationship with their parents.


And I do also see many kids have tighter family values when they are from ""poorer"" but loving family.


Am I making any sense? I can find no topic on internet about this topic. Do you think it will work if handled correctly? ",5.695714285714287,5.933160689655176,6.063661740558293,81.10465517241381,67.10344827586206,9.27224958949097,30.364532019704434,9.107695989026183,2.379535960591134,1392,48,275,23,21,448,179,348,0.086,0.7440000000000001,0.17,0.9881,3,0,0,0,0,0,51,6,3,12,4,13,16,0,1,13,0,33,5,0,4,3,58,54,22,0,4,10,5,3,0,0,6,2,2,0,4,16,21,2,1,11,5,3,3,6,6,0,3,3,7,44,10,45,43,9,28,0,3,2,1,42,16,0,9,8,195,60,5,0.0905695396440069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448568562628778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615903927197756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696423854621979,0.0,0.0,0.10002694084946158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887847998614598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010089776796521,0.1196406535063894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415236059750415,0.0,0.04579468055418901,0.0,0.08696096125870775,0.0,0.08277891842906683,0.0,0.21903409368651192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868825552124053,0.0,0.3798271640534472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811325178504707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141370659883716,0.09569169124667433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450508865002264,0.0,0.10224198609582896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794388862011954,0.0,0.0,0.07997456281654479,0.0,0.07605560277952828,0.0,0.0,0.07699898380794748,0.08174254559963044,0.0,0.12091174199275152,0.2754698932430077,0.0,0.09865678004268773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061372264020888315,0.06888221611902967,0.0,0.0,0.3017002667768389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058021166261556664,0.09312057108956584,0.0,0.1944755817473057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404906624011055,0.0,0.0,0.07217219701844636,0.0824511073378854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19231675895667105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468294759123938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619404458802342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034075545029944,0.116066607932307,0.08898411285356718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847327996337004,0.09428608487577952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945871083164133,0.053420261057893034,0.07188988490434796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041505008475305,0.0,0.0,0.13187140707769615,0.1839555277171276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,annat26,2018/01/05,"Newbie Here Just found this community...sounds like a great place to swap advice, stories, etc. As the title says I'm a newbie here, but not to parenting (I have 5 kids).
So...HELLO to everyone here ",3.6193859649122793,5.228029184210532,5.18684210526316,80.43622807017546,72.94736842105263,8.224561403508767,23.192982456140356,8.841846274778883,1.6402350877192982,151,4,29,3,3,51,31,38,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.5106,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,17,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330820988720872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775657191815541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234930164882168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711956966512914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732456280679609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653953529362473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759127185840599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35370611460893503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692235410245863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Crazy-Cutsie-Pie,2018/01/05,Share one piece of parenting advice you wish you'd been given. There is lots of advice that gets thrown at expectant and new parents (whether wanted or not) but what advice do you wish you were given when you fell pregnant/had your first child? ,6.3053623188405785,7.3228689565217415,5.268260869565221,84.60210144927538,65.95652173913044,7.872463768115942,26.20289855072464,7.793537801064563,1.3806898550724638,196,5,36,2,3,58,37,46,0.0,0.8540000000000001,0.146,0.7184,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,11,5,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,6,1,3,6,2,5,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,3,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6211483522441141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802274282735254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107000343419632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801352063795421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20463775903363365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357729022706125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705416195808667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497398374131985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873095990850244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,razorblde89,2018/01/05,"Are my wife and I right to be annoyed by my mom shushing our baby? My wife and I just finished two weeks with my family, and had a good time for the most part. 

My family lives one thousand miles away and doesn’t get to see us or our one-year-old very often, so you can imagine they were very excited to see the little guy. This made it all the more surprising when my mom started doing something neither of us expected: shushing or telling our baby to “quit being loud” numerous times when he was making baby squeals, crying for food, etc. 

I know a part of it could be that my family isn’t used to babies being around as he’s the first grandchild, but I still can’t help being irritated by the situation. Are we wrong to be irked by this, or is this a normal response? My wife’s family would never dream of telling our son to be quiet, as he’s only a baby, so I find the entire thing uncomfortable and upsetting.",10.013258687258684,5.836289816216219,10.089034749034752,69.80135135135137,61.64864864864865,13.166023166023164,38.32046332046332,10.608840637214634,3.7960733590733593,716,22,144,12,7,241,111,185,0.117,0.835,0.048,-0.9322,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,7,1,1,2,8,6,1,1,10,0,20,1,0,3,2,27,28,15,0,4,5,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,8,1,0,3,1,0,0,5,3,0,4,4,4,22,3,20,15,7,15,0,0,2,0,22,5,0,5,10,107,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771106324721323,0.0,0.0,0.11367863851819672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660453721646793,0.0,0.13290715427208702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494123421499227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562526813209257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058709509195104,0.1029181522005517,0.14630744522016018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321481193041058,0.0,0.0,0.10148473429422207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119803917998172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110029323841221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649560178287403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126861982572926,0.10684066367343273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448824659690195,0.08076499767838652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834153970745291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331868252029717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185492571416633,0.0,0.0,0.12696373488981175,0.0,0.16397847486016762,0.09202203083417758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620512496283848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286929097741011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332893537462072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928344502716143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600327375060536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093147741916903,0.0,0.0,0.08564077309426521,0.0,0.09662663843627864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150965283174966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038359777449385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411061326970334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181943810100625,0.0,0.29108379842353016,0.1045006967407432,0.0,0.19966683523682585,0.0,0.0,0.09705476528155477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595126541906156,0.1322888674452166,0.0,0.07791671234042005
parenting,rootberryfloat,2018/01/05,"Can I make it through Christmas break? I don't actually know if I'm going to survive Christmas break without losing my mind. My kids go back to school on Monday. Can this be a judgement free post? Thanks. I don't even drink, guys, so I can't even drown out my sorrows in box wine at the end of the day. Here's a list of my kids' preferred activities during this break:

- Following me around the house and trying to cling to my legs and crying when I shut the door to the bathroom
- Fighting, fighting, and even louder fighting, and when they're not fighting, they're still fighting.
- Tattling when someone so much as looks at them the wrong way
- Inability to cope with even the slightest inconvenience without falling into hysterics
- Whining incessantly. Oh, the whining. We had a great Christmas, we traveled to visit family, had a great time, did fun activities, but the whining, whining, whining, you'd think I made them spend the break in a doghouse. The food isn't good, they're hot, they're cold, they don't want to play with this cousin, they don't want to drive in the car, they don't want to play this game, they don't want to sit by this person, and on and on...
- Standing next to me while I eat my breakfast wondering why I would rudely have my first breakfast when they have not had a second breakfast.
- Being the WORST SLEEPERS IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD, each of them waking up 5 or 6 times a night and screaming instead of quietly coming to find us, when all I want to do is have a 5 minute uninterrupted conversation with my husband. They've always been awful sleepers, but it's compounded when they also suck during the day too. 
- Screaming if I do not immediately answer them, because apparently I have died right there and they must know if I heard them tell me they decided to use the pink stamp pad instead of the purple. Great, thanks, I was on pins and needles wanting to know. 
- Being fine playing with Dad, not whining, everything's cool, they're having fun. I come downstairs and everyone loses their freaking minds.

Thanks for listening. I'm out of Dr. Pepper too, and I refuse to take these people to the grocery store with me to get some. SOS. 
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parenting,cassidykelley,2018/01/05,"18 month old is constantly congested His nose is always running, when he coughs you can hear the mucus stuck in his throat. I’m his nanny but when I asked his mom (about a month ago) if he had a cold, she looked at me funny and said no. A month later, and he’s still this way. The only dairy he has is cheese and sometimes yogurt. Is this normal? Do I just need to give him more water? ",0.8443518518518545,2.7638584197530918,2.343935185185188,96.29145833333335,82.08641975308642,5.037654320987656,15.063271604938276,5.985473137389443,-0.8090135802469134,296,4,68,2,8,96,61,81,0.059,0.893,0.048,0.2287,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,8,5,2,0,0,8,16,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,5,10,0,4,13,1,14,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,1,10,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19890438255085813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18670687583580864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20977033771574735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424812249756801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21525120769452544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528989894155392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842747327361145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627978174734522,0.5373075699542457,0.0,0.0,0.16637915182939586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21985034237032333,0.0,0.0,0.23545504423350996,0.0,0.0,0.17065543447759254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21344218253301245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22192319277374792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919470821250266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810692271711487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SharkyMalarky,2018/01/05,"Moved Now Toddler Hates Naptime We moved into a new apartment 2 weeks ago and now our 18 month old is throwing fits at nap time. She used to be excited for nap and I’d just lay her down and she’d babble to sleep. Now she’s screaming, throwing her lovey out of the crib, etc. Our new apartment is in the same building as our last one—so her new room is VERY similar to her old one (same temp, light, decor). We have kept naptime routine the same—lunch, clean up toys, put her in her sleep sack and lay her down. She’s never really responded to being  rocked or pat on the back, so I’m not sure what I can actually do to help her. She eventually settles after screaming (maybe 10 minutes) but it is breaking my heart. I expected there to be some trouble with the transition, but I feel helpless. Any advice for adjusting after a move?",2.440798403193611,4.392094796407188,3.5903233532934133,89.15143313373255,77.08383233532935,6.609021956087824,25.50459081836328,7.554174236665415,1.2498466267465071,649,24,135,9,15,210,108,167,0.08900000000000001,0.878,0.033,-0.8524,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,0,0,7,7,1,0,7,0,11,3,3,1,2,24,16,9,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,9,0,1,2,4,0,6,2,5,0,1,1,4,22,2,22,11,4,37,0,1,0,0,20,13,0,2,17,84,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.14627356669087174,0.0,0.0,0.14647332530212026,0.13287075621565714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019321159514573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525816603194905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716988430038984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579020821393047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798792163066274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776234664974673,0.1004698579812366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218248438648052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058727532811467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964285255163296,0.477936373675716,0.0,0.0,0.11560642268269462,0.434301655083927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145741625285521,0.0,0.2031422257962648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068347531472495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602504523587528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30000172458178004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127201256393412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874035872513821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945908998896116,0.0,0.1236771026267106,0.0,0.0,0.12023481167416512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,razmaztaz,2018/01/05,"Coming out to my kids? I don’t know if this is the right place to post, I’m new to Reddit. I’ve been married for 18 years, and was married for a year before my current relationship. I have two daughters, one by by ex (27) and another by my current husband (15). My husband and I loved each other in the beginning. I never felt anything but perfectly straight. I loved my husband, loved my kids- there was nothing “wrong.”

My first crush on a woman was right after my second daughter was born. I was a SAHM, and we’d just moved states. I didn’t have a lot of friends, and bonded closely with a neighbor my same age. She’d gone through a divorce, was childless, and loved to spend time with my baby. We developed a really tight bond. I started to develop a crush on her, but dismissed it as misplaced feelings of friendship. She moved out, and I moved on, but I missed her a lot. My husband even got worried. I ended up crushing on coworkers, waitresses at restaurants we frequented- every time there was another excuse, more denial. It was unfair to all of us, but I couldn’t let myself believe that it was something. My husband and I were in a weird place. I didn’t want to cuddle him, I didn’t want him to kiss me. I stopped feeling that love. All I could really feel for him was respect. I started going to therapy about a year ago, and I did a lot of work on those feelings. The conclusion (after a year) was basically that I’m a lesbian. I love women. My husband and I recently decided we’d divorce. We just need to tell our kids. We waited until after the holidays, but now we’re feeling stuck.

My daughter is only here a little while more, so I just need to do it. How can I, though? It sucks and it’s hard and it’s hurting me as much as it’s going to hurt them. I feel awful. Any tips? Advice? Anecdotes?",1.2612637362637358,3.5949649615384662,3.1628461538461567,88.59465384615385,83.45054945054945,5.618021978021978,25.03406593406593,6.961326702584282,1.1636353846153846,1402,58,279,18,40,469,180,364,0.105,0.716,0.179,0.9872,2,0,1,0,2,0,61,8,0,1,4,12,16,1,0,19,1,30,9,0,1,4,60,62,26,0,7,9,10,9,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,14,23,0,3,10,1,1,7,6,6,0,4,21,9,57,10,44,35,10,54,0,3,0,9,44,18,1,4,27,206,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966626486853853,0.08133920900301747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062399567215817485,0.19243555145928865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551020246433038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808052685296596,0.10338146908651888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904263446134906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326244800947608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127163008451946,0.0,0.0,0.06060624612496768,0.0,0.07731128754937955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783779860313011,0.0,0.08810345424981413,0.0,0.0,0.07805053460303657,0.0,0.0,0.07089311737285395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429801112276813,0.0,0.07338840825836182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219843675998244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646076123469736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05042858967959713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938302464734497,0.0,0.0,0.091967067087703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340317890584397,0.4968988743173011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925772961317157,0.0674537479445189,0.13607692732396887,0.07077053856317868,0.08862184100137165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804565949249771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217857274237998,0.06978719058100398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173817405464652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788018091089132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756689653045994,0.0,0.09060137916480178,0.098515300838306,0.0,0.15672412443309552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064090151475713,0.0,0.0,0.12989561085005408,0.0,0.0,0.07671500233906232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020179688541004,0.0,0.10493491899381616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901531860075836,0.0,0.1070113372353321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963564179556771,0.0,0.11037531084393716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108244192750478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680196672253913,0.09318616759542477,0.0,0.0,0.10032454533393816,0.0,0.2363602891287899
parenting,MJtheMC,2018/01/05,"Dry Skin/Rash on Baby Boys whole body. Please help. Please help me identify what I should do here. He has little red dots on his chest and neck. This rash/dry skin on face and all over diaper area. Is this eczema? Should I pick up an over the counter medication today and see if it helps. Please. And knowledgeable help would be grateful for this worrisome dad. Note it is really cold where I am right now. My house is a tad dry. But I'm just not sure it's just dry skin accompanied with the dots. He doesn't seem to be uncomfortable minus the wanting to itch. Also seems to be like yellow puss form around his eyes but i'm not sure if it's just sleep dust?
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parenting,WildKittyKat,2018/01/05,"Found out my little sister has been on omegle I don't know where else to post this, but I found out my 12 year old sister is was video chatting with people on Omegle. 

She lives with me and has since our parents passed away a few years ago. 

I took away her laptop and we had a really big long discussion about internet safety but what else do I do? Do I report this to the police? 

Edit: if you don't know what Omegle is, it is a chat roulette type of website where most men have there members in their hands while ""chatting"" ",3.3051635514018685,4.5173331028037405,3.6318574766355134,92.84629088785047,73.11214953271029,6.471495327102804,20.85163551401869,6.6274283507984215,0.12307570093457933,410,8,90,3,8,127,75,107,0.0,0.959,0.041,0.6199,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,14,1,1,0,0,15,19,6,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,4,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,6,1,14,0,13,13,2,20,0,0,0,0,14,11,0,2,6,61,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320127535411512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883482111844827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452940205497504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4532079299246626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271618339260917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713852750178108,0.1824941834287492,0.1828972352714756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21686633466263214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294835669685576,0.0,0.0,0.14327957375469946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793358478109116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323986650952466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17096029698446305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296189646735285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26617855608760177
parenting,AppalledMommy,2018/01/05,"11 year old plays “suicide prank” on sister I found that yesterday 11 year old DS “pranked” 17 year old DD by texting her saying he is going to kill himself. She started panicking and he responded with “LOL PRANKED!” Apparently he got the idea from a YouTube video.

DD actually did commit suicide multiple times in the past (in 2009, 2011 and 2014) so I’m concerned that this may have been especially traumatic for her. I want to make sure that DD is okay and that DS knows that it’s not okay to do this to people even as a joke.",4.747994505494503,5.614074403846153,5.408131868131868,82.75115384615384,69.38461538461539,9.019780219780221,31.203296703296704,9.23628265651192,2.5450758241758247,414,17,85,8,7,134,74,104,0.16899999999999998,0.69,0.141,-0.8608,1,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,4,3,7,0,0,1,2,13,15,5,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,6,5,12,10,0,14,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,10,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.1801928546941652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196032179726887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024604198071568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494148551223037,0.0,0.14768236707687898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20844863614479106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428910346723786,0.0,0.1014794252794415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325605494721567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5812808592974252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627038561567618,0.12801383531391008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684198019949596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069701154778338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40395670549036905,0.0,0.1740314932368014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076715516934198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891201340298268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35672779744686056
parenting,HapaHaole13,2018/01/05,"When to go from rear facing to front facing car seat? My baby has always been in a rear facing car seat. She is now 16 months old and in need of a bigger car seat. My doctor tells me she should be in a rear facing car seat until she is 4 yo. The car seats I find say they are front facing from 20 lbs and up and my LO's feet are already touching the seat of the car. 

I'm usually not one to not listen to my doctor but I don't know how my LO can actually be in a rear facing car seat without cramping her legs very soon. 

Would love to hear how others transitioned from rear facing to front facing car seats.",2.818159457167092,3.3518994503816835,4.318727735368956,90.02446988973709,73.58015267175573,6.738252756573367,19.899067005937237,6.42735559955562,-0.0010057675996608673,472,7,108,3,9,158,72,131,0.0,0.951,0.049,0.8018,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,7,0,12,14,10,2,0,14,19,8,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,12,4,0,0,1,1,4,13,1,18,14,0,25,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,7,63,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.2295691545962774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25960319560125633,0.0,0.1957460694012517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48157477747067295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501338561357672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336974662619645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26514279622553755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928673509200944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21232146797266208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777356110972235,0.0,0.0,0.1744342025708732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468543229759721,0.0,0.15941085629439594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870795005210224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056180538402476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25909361189013785,0.19410511779571474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267717059920973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711418778255496,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Rainbow_Bright_,2018/01/05,"When is a good age to leave kid home alone? My son is 10, turns 11 in May and keeps insisting that he’s okay to be home alone. I’m a single mom and have my own business and some days I have to work later than he gets home from school and I always get him and bring him with me. He doesn’t want to and wants to stay home. I told him once he has a phone and now that he does, I’m still too nervous! When I was his age we were always home alone but feels different now. 

At what age did you leave your kid(s) home? He’s mature for his age but I still worry. Thanks!! 

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parenting,thekittycatguru,2018/01/05,"I don’t want to be pregnant and it’s affecting of how I take care of my 6 month old daughter I am 8 weeks pregnant with a 6 1/2 month old daughter. My first pregnancy was easy but I got really bad mood swings and while they didn’t begin until the second trimester, I’m starting to get them now. It is making it very difficult for me to nurture my daughter like I have been in the past. I like to think I have been a good mom so far... She is overall a very happy and extremely healthy, smart baby. But as of the past couple weeks I find myself getting incredibly angry with her and having very little patience. I’m extremely tired and don’t have the energy to play with her like I normally do and I don’t want to be pregnant. I don’t necessarily want to have another child, I am happy with my current daughter. But I don’t know what else to do. All of this is making me hate this pregnancy and want to have this new baby even less than I already did. When I was pregnant the first time I was scared but excited. When I found out about this baby I couldn’t stop crying and find myself crying a lot. I want to talk to my doctor but my husband keeps telling me that I’m fine and that it’s just like the first one so I shouldn’t worry but I don’t think it is. I am becoming extremely unhappy and it isn’t fair to my 6 month old. I love her so much and find myself having no patience and wanting to yell at her. I don’t know what else to do. ",2.021568627450982,3.418249026143794,3.8757568627450993,89.07610588235296,76.7124183006536,6.987503267973857,23.67790849673203,7.699297019823105,0.9952208104575164,1126,35,250,16,25,381,134,306,0.14400000000000002,0.652,0.204,0.9249,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,2,3,10,19,1,1,10,0,36,3,0,4,1,49,62,27,0,9,7,6,0,4,0,1,2,1,0,1,14,17,0,2,8,1,0,0,12,4,0,5,9,1,44,14,30,49,4,29,0,0,0,1,17,5,0,1,28,172,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893658350591494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351330506592926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242451049208238,0.0,0.10902508988580648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064848603881342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092284019085504,0.2168718174602268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104095760218464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493065056980774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520159914798065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27067644813694514,0.25190570258943745,0.0,0.10823801496310692,0.0,0.0,0.10315103975282257,0.0,0.0,0.08279907462994446,0.07895294434675093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21017200848310427,0.0,0.09746252781356116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774414033298912,0.0,0.0,0.10850448262732887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19291241625313812,0.09894029454824704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392560103793695,0.08909588062786701,0.0,0.13178863041356456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561607160351665,0.2363847275376139,0.0,0.07256829973331055,0.0,0.0,0.09534142307399993,0.0,0.0,0.09672162870269156,0.0,0.0,0.3107604261925881,0.0,0.06689314443238631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18847295341968612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324059111700392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988328650613408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698723489016606,0.0,0.0,0.08253177107907553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422284350107022,0.07934492645312798,0.08628294517181763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265076413923794,0.0,0.0,0.057562633893547564,0.1134605855415054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24435540931657165,0.34935480666105273,0.0,0.1583695283753966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025183102687456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coffeeeveryday,2018/01/05,"Looking for unusual and interesting tween/teen hobby/sport/extracurricular suggestions I'm interested to hear about your tween's/teen's unusual hobbies, sports, or extracurricular classes. Hoping to inspire our tween with some new ideas! Thanks.",9.418243243243245,13.737038864864864,8.109391891891892,53.3976013513514,65.75675675675676,11.267567567567568,41.682432432432435,10.686352973137794,6.417816216216218,206,12,24,7,4,63,32,37,0.0,0.633,0.3670000000000001,0.9336,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,5,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,3,1,10,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4594849585577965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049182003702263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4602210662485274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423485002781741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39373985808862383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37533694536879975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ionicguy,2018/01/05,"How were wives able to stay at home? It seems in today's society there is no way you can run a household and have 1 person not working.

How did this work back in the day? Older parents/grandparents here who can chime in maybe?",2.5456521739130444,4.37885595652174,3.2602173913043515,92.17119565217396,76.39130434782608,6.339130434782609,22.369565217391305,7.1686216300943375,0.5975826086956529,178,5,38,2,4,56,42,46,0.063,0.937,0.0,-0.4098,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,2,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,4,25,4,2,0.3101103572836071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23845572278111904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999552565816356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110659732084725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31154753555640746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707764024659555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28231282234051425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305363793683564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939483584525349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24615116716274435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4515280669979911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nobrewblues,2018/01/05,"Anyone have luck with a sleep therapist/consultant? Our 4mo has slept pretty terribly his entire lift and it’s gotten even worse over the last few weeks. He screams as if he’s in extreme pain for most of the night, and has never (aside from 2-3 nights a couple months ago) slept for longer than 2-3 hours straight. We’ve tried everything from cutting out dairy to having him checked out for reflux and even by a GI doc, and as far as anyone can tell, there’s nothing physically wrong with him. We’re pretty sure he’s teething now, which likely makes sleep more difficult; nonetheless we’re at our wits end, getting no more than a few cobbled-together hours of sleep now for as long as it’s been. Considering hiring a sleep therapist/consultant, and it looks like there are plenty of them available online for phone/email help. They all have glowing testimonials on their websites, but I figured I’d see if anyone here can personally vouch for someone in particular, or even just general feedback on the idea?",10.524473684210527,8.020149000000004,9.323026315789477,70.52243421052636,59.0,12.657894736842106,39.53947368421053,10.9516,4.107157894736842,810,30,149,15,8,252,127,190,0.071,0.847,0.083,0.2938,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,2,0,3,0,9,10,1,0,8,0,9,8,7,1,3,23,16,14,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,9,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,4,4,9,4,30,12,6,23,0,0,3,0,14,10,0,5,15,86,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365853417321442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689614185705115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187204321720184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356410344402927,0.0,0.0,0.25406260452014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523509831727526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698921028783349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594258896370127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525400566044844,0.0,0.0,0.14474380581920962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451571491374273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528279356643052,0.0,0.0,0.11346990693764568,0.1076717874970162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558727374416279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234329684441294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889050771862598,0.0,0.0,0.24064996023726176,0.0,0.1230297260188504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643420851875826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195601022575763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608899285584769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217405656608143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5132469662482964,0.0,0.10863966397215262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208450250832891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120691826707512,0.0,0.0,0.2977446155598659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705238172773823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284966263981993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306662610194957,0.0,0.14018750494397594,0.0,0.0
parenting,1n1billionAZNsay,2018/01/05,"Should we let our kids fight it out? (Assuming no one is getting physically hurt) Here's an article:

https://offspring.lifehacker.com/why-you-should-let-kids-fight-1821659356

The TL;DR is that some cultures just let kids fight it out and only step in if physical harm is imminent.

What says r/parenting?  Should we let our kids fight it out and gain the experience of solving issues on their own or should we step in?",7.184936974789918,10.812106779411767,5.377983193277314,73.8073529411765,69.44117647058823,8.591596638655464,25.890756302521005,9.23628265651192,2.52702268907563,343,11,54,8,7,99,47,68,0.17800000000000002,0.748,0.07400000000000001,-0.8042,1,0,0,0,4,0,21,5,0,1,1,2,5,3,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,16,10,4,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,1,0,1,6,0,7,4,2,8,0,1,0,0,14,6,0,4,0,40,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035317170927049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087076302252559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22274250690672487,0.0,0.0,0.21717030851693087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8510598937649184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099315386419078,0.15824609130390402,0.0,0.0,0.23103635283878066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546507192135154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arnelb,2018/01/05,"Life lessons to learn kids What life tips do you think are most necessary to tell your children?

I have a 2,5 year old and a 10 month old and was thinking the other day what I should teach them, hopefully something they can take with them for the rest of their lives.

My parents didn't really teach me any life pro tips, more than this phrase from my father: ""Never sit with your back against the entrance when you are at a bar""",5.799176470588236,5.839822329411768,4.783529411764707,91.0458823529412,66.88235294117646,8.211764705882354,27.588235294117645,7.554174236665415,1.1768117647058816,338,9,74,3,5,99,66,85,0.0,0.967,0.033,0.4019,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,4,4,1,2,1,0,0,6,0,8,4,0,0,1,12,12,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,4,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,13,1,10,9,3,10,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,8,49,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607393221392632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647818868921164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480142632034751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279541378922912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.486326801580965,0.0,0.0,0.20266057650676533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319182609646767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701142381725896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4816619969128774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548424892612235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470292876890774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668717535191658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256214114175136,0.0,0.2006009074908387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941200907931676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779621634218534
parenting,HomeTownBoy,2018/01/05,"My daughter has laser precision identifying my parenting ""weaknesses"" My second child is just under 2 years old (22 months). Being the second child we've become accustomed to fake crying and random tantrums so they lose there effectiveness. For the past week she's started fake vomit because we always respond with concern. 

Clearly my 2 year old has already surpassed my level of quick wit.",6.508258706467661,9.456941343283583,6.200820895522393,70.49486318407959,68.40298507462687,8.048756218905472,33.5547263681592,8.841846274778883,3.5299771144278616,318,15,43,6,6,99,55,67,0.198,0.765,0.036000000000000004,-0.9017,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,2,4,5,1,0,2,0,4,2,0,1,2,8,5,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,8,0,5,4,0,11,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,1,9,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763255823019331,0.0,0.2083550877921232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526431486158476,0.27655008518401264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27505558424880217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801365466359512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986902894002956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5255109774908706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27804254123477395,0.0,0.2390376902128205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723630460658665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008579245779168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225022302661865
parenting,sfomel,2018/01/05,"Toddler has suddenly started begging ""Please carry me, please carry me"". Our 2-yr old toddler has suddenly got into this habit of wanting to be carried. It happens at all times of the day (not just when she's tired). She clings to our legs and repeatedly begs ""Please carry me, please carry me"" till she is picked up. If we try to walk away, she'll grab our legs and keep begging. Then she hugs us and rests her head on on our shoulder like she's terrified of something and won't let us put her down. This behavior has only started recently and we can't explain it since we've never encouraged her to be carried. Is there a good way to wean her off this, or is this a phase that naturally ends?",4.837753623188405,5.490741471014495,5.439275362318841,83.37601449275364,69.07246376811594,8.45217391304348,30.55072463768116,8.515128840125781,2.1776463768115946,545,21,110,8,9,176,86,138,0.042,0.835,0.123,0.8654,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,8,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,12,6,4,1,2,18,19,10,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,8,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,22,4,17,13,2,25,0,0,0,1,20,8,0,2,15,75,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320525493357364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982994215411582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500043252481514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784413532665334,0.12190560035381555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347860533364395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642869288047906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354794579647955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586156995562148,0.0,0.07446556969351248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755705288681148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994099031458528,0.0,0.0,0.1159236120074058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6692532562793138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322596154853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049809339215905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608484966884145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734171258183725,0.0,0.0,0.21576980343073746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887835027305832,0.17518638362853986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348436547427214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666892047937577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990229939043305,0.12098529336669207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Json_salted,2018/01/05,"Moral and “P.C.” dilemma - allowing 9 yo child to go paintballing with friends? is it ok for a kid to pretend to shoot people in real life? -And in the sensitive and politically correct world we live in now, do people judge this as parentally irresponsible?  It would be unacceptable to go to a “stabbing” party where you use fake knives to stab people (wouldn’t it?), so what’s the difference?  Discuss.",3.52099315068493,6.409260054794522,4.456421232876714,79.36490582191783,78.58904109589042,6.937671232876713,28.30308219178082,8.07648339933343,2.2648095890410955,316,14,55,6,8,102,57,73,0.226,0.68,0.094,-0.8823,1,0,0,1,0,0,14,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,1,5,1,0,2,1,12,8,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,12,5,0,8,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,1,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971337319036588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21972397134935287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232580828291912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20087760454609133,0.0,0.0,0.2511272523677561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157885722909411,0.0,0.0,0.5914940136953311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237053922866497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456271979293649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202705954912534,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherlunaaaaa,2018/01/05,"This Is Why You Vaccinate This is why you VACCINATE!

It protects the person and also creates something special called Herd Immunity. Herd immunity protects the most vulnerable members of our society. 

My beautiful daughter (13 months) has the MEASLES and is too young to be vaccinated so she relied on herd immunity which let her down because there was a break in the chain. 

My poor baby has had a high fever for 5 days, is covered in an awful rash, is generally feeling like absolute shit and there is nothing I can do because it’s viral. 

I am a respectful person and I believe everyone has the right to choose but when your actions affect my family, I no longer care.",6.641370967741934,7.6590512016129075,7.584032258064513,68.29604838709679,65.20967741935483,10.716129032258065,38.08064516129032,10.686352973137794,4.509341935483873,535,28,88,14,8,180,88,124,0.096,0.7609999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.6304,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,1,3,0,0,6,5,1,0,9,1,16,6,2,1,0,10,18,8,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,4,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,13,4,8,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,1,1,5,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408730111521412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654046539551192,0.0,0.0,0.24526305156196015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22228670610944826,0.0,0.22195033885935533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403925947963871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080129444991702,0.0,0.0,0.2052195676655976,0.0,0.11007103907659747,0.15551839300768325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23000234435645397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22260365210741692,0.0,0.10635275760891566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375876658465012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888025015240566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801585223141677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590680395375536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345653823390305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758905850039346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928642808001087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NoPatNoDontSitonThat,2018/01/05,"At what age/development would you let your kid watch Star Wars? My 4-year-old son is obsessed with Star Wars. We didn't really expose him to it, but one of his friends at preschool introduced him to the galaxy far, far away. The friend has a few older siblings, and I'm sure they were excited about the new movie. 

My son latched on and now has four Star Wars LEGO sets, Star Wars socks, Star Wars action figures, and Star Wars pencils. He pretty much knows who the good guys and bad guys are and has a pretty good understanding of what goes on in Star Wars. 

My wife is adamantly against him watching it at this age. I agree with her but not because of his age but because of his development. He struggles with movies. I don't know what it is, but they terrify him. The first fifteen minutes of The Polar Express scared him so bad that he wasn't cool with us finishing it while he went to play with his toys. 

He can handle shows and long documentaries. He loves the 90 minute long documentary on the ISS available on YouTube. But movies scare him. 

So developmentally, I couldn't say he should watch Star Wars now, but I'm not sure if him being 4 has anything to do with it. 

Thoughts?

EDIT - I should mention that I'm a Star Wars nut and can't wait for him to be ready to watch them with me. ",4.273986165153481,5.3031571789883305,4.303625162127108,89.63799718979679,70.59533073929961,7.42317336792045,26.3400345871163,7.594959193182576,1.0929837440553394,1013,31,221,11,18,312,138,257,0.21,0.638,0.152,-0.9708,0,0,0,0,0,0,30,2,2,3,1,5,25,9,4,11,1,22,1,0,0,2,36,32,17,9,5,9,3,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,3,12,15,0,1,5,3,0,2,7,15,0,3,5,6,28,10,30,20,2,25,0,0,4,1,40,11,0,1,11,129,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449251938717085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213478818494632,0.0,0.2526289582585937,0.1844406853051438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868072624805332,0.0,0.0,0.2337608032007616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25377698749630706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995867074124239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662816936908766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469649659219126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26776031454486804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653826618910994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120996566903883,0.0,0.0,0.14610947791063994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874542307123446,0.0,0.10251286475167308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078171614734529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969153747966817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030583098621946,0.3029201337453753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815320414783654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851637301973389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010132167662707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749030642809345,0.18197409193273986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024029399337196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746667152079653,0.0,0.0,0.097420901137906
parenting,thisisinsane10,2018/01/05,"Got a message from my daycare about my son being inappropriate with another little boy... They were caught playing house together. I can't tell whether this is a humour post or a 'daycare help' but today, our daycare sent us a text asking for a meeting because our son (2, almost 3) was playing in an inappropriate manner with another little boy (3). Naturally, we freaked out thinking that he was touching a kid's... uh, parts or was being touched. 

When we went to the daycare meeting, they told us that son had started to call the kid his ""boyfriend"" and had started acting 'naughty' (no explanation on this) when told to leave him alone. The little boy and him were playing with one another during their quiet time and started to play house with one another, holding hands and not letting other kids play with them.


This was a cause for alarm, apparently. They are asking for us to talk to our son about boundaries and that he is not allowed to play with the little boy.


Yeah, no. He's got a playdate with the kid tomorrow. ",7.946387434554975,7.4009101570680675,7.736486910994768,73.6149921465969,62.61256544502618,9.94366492146597,38.4717277486911,9.120678840339163,3.4972110994764414,804,37,143,11,10,257,103,191,0.061,0.831,0.108,0.8062,2,1,0,0,0,0,31,8,0,5,0,4,9,0,1,14,1,15,1,1,2,0,26,28,11,0,0,6,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,7,15,0,1,1,6,0,4,5,2,1,2,15,4,19,7,23,10,1,20,0,0,0,0,43,7,0,3,8,96,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110091676933173,0.11491127547578373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4653651673082996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744751377659387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676344058221037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329288364632413,0.0,0.0,0.11397674446805155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17747452915355702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436779331917782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560440019908485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748057831963292,0.0,0.11345442153897868,0.0,0.0,0.4448062661766202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036588451469446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201485986869752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625992645993106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23559404259289504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917782344599788,0.09697564286581714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109261179619174,0.0,0.0,0.06469613914731949,0.0,0.10516811773463612,0.2120359488027169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003794356714361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285224153083676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Havoccc,2018/01/05,"Thoughts about girlfriend spanking my child? My girlfriend (Who isn't my toddlers mother) and me got in to a argument today. From the day my child was born I never wanted to raise her by laying a hand on her. Any time she did stuff wrong id sternly talk to her and in extreme cases yell after I yelled she would cry which tells me she understands why she's being yelled at and sad which to me is better than hitting. Now about a hour ago my 2 year old daughter was playing with a little wooden box that was decorated with tye die paper and crafts on it. It was my girlfriends favorite box she got from a friend a long time ago. Well my daughter ripped some paper off of it and she noticed it I took the box and went to go tell her no that is not okay. But before I could my girlfriend wound her arm up and tapped her on the butt(very lightly not hard at all) While she didn't hit her hard at all or hurt her in any way I didn't like it. I knew what the reasoning was behind her action and I explained as my kids father I don't like that nor appreciate it and would like her not to ever do it again. Well we got into an argument because she didn't see anything wrong with what she did. We are still arguing now. She still hasn't come to terms that I'm the child's father. I don't like what she did and not to do it again. While we were arguing I asked her ""why did you do that?"" she replied ""because she destroyed my favorite box"" which tells me what her intent behind her actions were. My reasoning for bringing it up besides not liking it was I don't want her to think I didn't care and in the future hit her harder because I didn't squash it now. I need peoples opinions because we are arguing bad.",2.4623465809468144,3.9826131384180807,3.5040229885057483,91.68228813559324,75.80790960451978,6.012702123514515,23.78881745567894,6.48374012150746,0.5359648548607057,1337,41,290,10,29,430,161,354,0.165,0.77,0.064,-0.9878,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,4,1,0,1,12,21,4,0,13,1,33,3,2,3,4,47,56,17,1,6,7,5,3,5,5,2,1,3,0,4,25,20,0,0,7,1,0,7,18,9,2,0,24,8,62,12,38,25,4,48,0,2,1,0,57,15,0,3,30,207,87,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396747399727488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880260798855655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003359764960102,0.0,0.10228186529745033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135124782781123,0.26677680767847417,0.0,0.0930982901584668,0.0,0.0,0.09676263101926257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115489159320982,0.0,0.0,0.0942454465225317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873535171624768,0.0,0.1201797318867917,0.07055921534030678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354840199181103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896594901598317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452847691262079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062179181505417985,0.0,0.2625111126300805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19601645184755928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774500396962867,0.0,0.117123703510758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672565150977622,0.10965572392816053,0.0,0.09682278318783694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112476807268257,0.08438232167967884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456192105254515,0.11480546477705933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584984586730124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497963113429012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718414241544939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474700386136824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524617329873086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793813875297944,0.28688267581988136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010433445071683,0.0,0.08685786203257656,0.12759356174608158,0.0,0.1037061476986872,0.0,0.1215564970099248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389775829470886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027319430947116,0.1290635408189515,0.08684310887929599,0.0,0.0,0.19674215952999569,0.10142246510726632,0.19744770319754054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544084274419978,0.23924130658348505,0.0,0.07045527119933657
parenting,yardgnomefriend,2018/01/05,"Today my verbally delayed 16 month old said his first word: ""mama."" I have three kids, ages 4 (Emily) 2.5 (Hazel) and 16 months (Owen). Owen's been a little behind on some of his milestones and qualified for early intervention last fall.  His occupational therapist has been especially concerned that he does not say any words at all yet. 

His primary way of communicating has been to point and scream.  A loud, ear piercing scream. To make matters worse, whenever he does this the 2.5 year old yells ""Stop screaming Owen! Stop screaming! Mama, I don't want Owen to scream."" and then the 4 year old yells ""He can't help it Hazel, he's just a baby. He's just a baby Hazel, stop yelling at him! Stop yelling at him, Hazel!""

So it sounds like this: ""EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE-Stop Owen Stop-He's just a  baby-EEEEE-I don't want him to-Stop yelling at him-EEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!""  Then I join the cacophony by banging my head on the table.

Today,  I had emptied a toy bin to put the trucks in it , and my 16 month old came over and tried to sit in the bin. Instead of shooing him away, I decided to help him in and offer to push him around the room. I pushed him about singing ""row row row your boat"" and he clapped approvingly the whole time.  Then he turned around, pointed right at my face, and said ""Mama.""

I started crying pretty much immediately and freaked him out at first with all of my ""yes that's right! Mama! I'm mama! Mama!""  But now he has said it two more times.

What a great day.",2.105245883149109,4.614381730769235,2.613658921723438,92.75612113692759,81.34265734265735,5.5085043988269815,21.113918339724787,6.828538100315305,0.3334988946537334,1149,34,241,13,31,354,147,286,0.13699999999999998,0.8059999999999999,0.057,-0.9531,5,0,0,0,3,0,66,0,1,0,3,12,8,0,0,15,1,11,3,3,1,2,35,21,15,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,1,1,9,15,0,5,1,2,0,5,4,6,0,4,8,17,25,2,32,13,6,59,0,0,0,0,29,22,0,1,31,124,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464982271507885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926219603169432,0.0,0.0,0.08931996128067635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873300832798727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442825519596136,0.06131130125107365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663901254269736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617303917333695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481332878691918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756768211999108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744478903566278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749349535955477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046445654559626716,0.09528358686017643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345894496539606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276482480832521,0.0,0.06988626749602417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990334871082315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797408745486805,0.0,0.0,0.0967188163272208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557007498822216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237591560101727,0.2712956692095943,0.0756022667128216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672899555847733,0.0,0.0,0.5563705111219152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103818263275688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087038403391436,0.0,0.18022759557277426,0.0,0.0,0.06454525374508678,0.10340720068539873,0.0928680856229853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121476988302145,0.07546093000607275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061405567181416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688289746973952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244196130568355
parenting,mraspeche,2018/01/05,"Where are all the children? When I was growing up, I was outside all the time. We didn't want to be inside. We had video games, TV, and movies just like kids now. But, we also had bikes, dirt roads, unexplored streets, and so many adventures. 

Now, when I look outside, or go outside, there are no kids. They aren't riding their bikes or climbing trees, or throwing rocks. 

My son is 6. He's still young, I know, but I'm concerned for his future. He is an only child. We moved states in August. There are no children outside. I don't understand where all the children have gone. 

My son is on winter break (it's almost over, thank goodness) and he's been couped up in the apartment pretty much the whole time. I don't know what to do with him at this point. I'm his only playmate and it breaks my heart. I work and take care of the house, I don't always have the time, energy, or desire to play like a kid.

My husband has tried to teach him to ride his bike without training wheels and he just has no desire. What is the point when there is no one else riding their bike?

What do kids DO these days? How are parents not going crazy with them inside all the time? What can I do for my son so he doesn't end up a lonely hermit?",1.4757403718459514,3.4371438964143444,2.357275896414343,96.78951278220451,80.15537848605578,4.820783532536521,19.22327357237716,5.46131890053228,-0.4300718459495352,942,22,211,4,24,295,134,251,0.049,0.8029999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.9795,1,2,0,0,0,0,41,4,0,4,2,17,8,0,0,12,0,30,1,1,1,4,34,43,19,0,3,10,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,8,12,0,0,3,9,0,10,12,1,0,1,7,1,27,7,19,35,6,44,0,1,1,0,32,15,0,5,18,137,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626095151502773,0.0,0.0,0.13277883446933755,0.13815515428689404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928464692732378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070794077785904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870167375610967,0.0,0.14705850897157205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872403553938644,0.13926301990507842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967533190400694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915831148769835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249795654666812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223348983468933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942832327663346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833432350541686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646986565635425,0.12205547725509047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251021036449654,0.25255553952798665,0.0,0.0,0.18436319741294305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31391515116377644,0.0,0.0,0.1689181824889698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259646946406226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483831948724275,0.0,0.0,0.15286353208506082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872674309723132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127274646747398,0.0,0.0,0.17284920823856526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793226476546844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537313224076224,0.0,0.16005266478694374,0.0,0.12087609922883046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NILNYHUG,2018/01/06,"9month old bites My 9month old daughter thinks that biting is fun. She has 5 teeth already so it really hurts, to which i naturally respond with screaming which results in her crying. Any ideas?",3.0631428571428567,6.179777600000005,2.9857142857142875,86.12428571428573,87.28571428571428,5.085714285714286,24.142857142857146,6.742157984588678,1.1953999999999998,156,6,26,2,5,47,32,35,0.225,0.696,0.079,-0.7233,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,3,3,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,14,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34002842807443645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20953854160066807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338465650433415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32985886944132903,0.3478405593929105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6466598934615951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973955680999068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743686215255515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SheStillMay,2018/01/06,"I think it’s time for the first haircut My girl is just over 2, and her hair is getting crazy. I want to keep her curls but it’s in her face so much it’s getting to be a hassle. Is a kids-only place better or an actual hairdresser? Can they trim and keep curls? ",-0.8833497536945814,1.1064191379310344,1.4759113300492643,99.2387931034483,90.3793103448276,4.693596059113301,15.182266009852214,6.18269132825596,-0.7468699507389163,202,4,50,2,7,68,43,58,0.031,0.8690000000000001,0.099,0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,5,2,2,0,0,9,11,5,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,5,10,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,2,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.3176054432345404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28784603165740585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768391007037507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400825085135522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5785738548697772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392531327944495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400401031577461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20854387960580886,0.0,0.0,0.1897803936642259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19196681438412552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gps2003,2018/01/06,"my sons clothes my son is 11 and a few years ago in the summer before he went into year 1 we went to get his school uniform. i was looking at all the school trousers to find a pair in his size wile doing this he was looking at the girls school skirts he asked me for a pair i said no and got him trousers. the next day we went to get school shoes we were helped by a lovely sales assistant who asked my son what school shoes he likes, he instantly ran over to a pair of completley shiny black flats with a bow, the sales assistant then asked him to try them on i then told him to get a pair of boys shoes so we went home that day with a pair of boys school shoes. every day after that in the summer holidays he asked for girls shoes and a skirt i kept refusing till a week after the constant begging he said mummy whats bad about a boy wearing girls stuff, that made me think he is only young whats so bad so i swapped the trousers for skirts and the boys shoes for the girl shoes he wanted , so my son spent year one wearing girls shoes and every year since has asked to wear the girls uniform and i let him. so the point of this is let your kids wear what they want as long as its appropriate.",4.519415670650731,4.380913876494027,4.428430278884463,93.11680212483402,69.597609561753,7.808871181938912,24.70146082337317,7.03164865440522,0.590701779548473,937,20,223,7,15,287,117,251,0.048,0.909,0.043,-0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,1,2,0,6,4,0,0,23,0,10,13,12,1,1,21,36,16,0,2,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,11,12,13,0,2,2,1,3,5,1,2,0,1,15,6,25,2,32,19,2,34,0,0,4,1,49,9,0,0,21,119,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133696589335783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289016306581699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322637709847686,0.0,0.0,0.07807837360871682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915662426685648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17752685148677824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546183110372314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838641549427054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381759765001176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338638440972242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150272373453526,0.0,0.0920396637985428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765531779128106,0.0,0.044827792217554514,0.0,0.0,0.08120197939949164,0.15410539245517704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281419520421546,0.08682260840415261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758451651229573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062176858029895664,0.06978526604395438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673993997571662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456367022433505,0.0,0.0,0.5571773596196427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590226551679544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050397112045247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587941240114785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767766124936657,0.0,0.06229691993681605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824120767603068,0.0,0.07360185984388545,0.0,0.0,0.3402383055363558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363537709679398
parenting,mimired030417,2018/01/06,"Daddy & his multiple girlfriends Hello!  I’m new to this, but right now I’m at such a loss.  I keep questioning what the right choice is for my child.  Here is the situation, kind of long so I’m sorry.
Last year around August I completely ended things with my on and off boyfriend of 8 years.  I did this because he didn’t keep a job, and I found out that he was never faithful, and I just felt like he was never going to change, so when he asked to get back together I said no.  He then moved in with my neighbor who lived about 200 ft. from my apt, so good choice on saying no.  The problem is I found out later that I was pregnant.  I told him and he denied it, saying there was no way for it to be his baby.  He even denied that I tried to text him before going to his door.  Ok, whatever real mature, so I moved on having my baby.  
During my pregnancy I was very sick, and had to rely on my older kids and close friends to help me out.  It would have been nice for him to care, but that’s fine I had already come to the conclusion that he had just been using me over the years.  His girlfriend however went crazy.  She would threaten me, and say she hoped my baby would die.  Police didn’t do anything other than tell her to stop, because there were never any actual attempts (that’s for making me feel safe).  They finally moved away so I was happy about that.  Had my baby and filed a good cause with child support, because of all the craziness.  This means they are not pursuing child support, no DNA test will be done.  This means at this point he has no legal rights to my son.  This can change if he requests it from the court, but he has not done that yet.  I did this because of the girlfriend the fact that he knew about this and made no effort to stop it.  
Anyhow my son is now 9mths old and his father has never asked about him or made an effort to see him.  I just found out however that he has a new girlfriend, and they are expecting a baby.  My sister in law knows her.  From what I was told she’s a nice woman.  I was considering reaching out and letting him see my son if he wants, now that he’s no longer with the other woman.  I question this for a few reasons.  1: he has made no effort 2: he’s cheating on the current girlfriend (I work with the girl, but have never told her I know him) 3: he seems like he will just keep girl hoping and I don’t know if I want that in his life.  I thought about waiting until he gets older and asks about his dad, and better understands right from wrong.  I feel so stuck, like I’m hurting my son by keeping him away, but I could be doing more damage if I reach out to a man who doesn’t want to be there.
Help I just don’t know what to do?
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parenting,Myingenioususername,2018/01/06,"Almost 6 year old pooping problems I need some advice. My son is almost 6 and poops in his pants almost daily. He holds it until he can't anymore. Not because it hurts, but because he says he gets bored on the toilet. I feel like I have tried everything. Vitamins, taking things away, sitting him on the toilet(for over an hour sometimes when he has made a huge mess in his underwear), taking things away from him, etc. This has been going on for a couple years now and it seems to only be getting worse. I'm at wits end at this point! Help!",2.495887850467291,4.623722373831775,3.4708504672897185,89.23618224299067,77.5981308411215,5.775327102803737,21.914953271028036,6.742157984588678,0.5554418691588783,422,12,83,4,10,135,80,107,0.109,0.789,0.101,-0.2399,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,7,3,2,1,0,14,17,5,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,2,8,1,14,14,2,22,0,1,0,0,12,12,0,5,9,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531808219471568,0.0,0.0,0.4774778930863901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576295811089793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29866594207001623,0.0,0.0,0.1937813808151663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586833726459347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407770663813496,0.0,0.17726439798300409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284847582376886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036678190138334,0.11354951200019554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608319385310727,0.0,0.09033144788656962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653670644695357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652766690524358,0.0,0.17015266949183275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765193230726633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039650576187452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785484437148848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678482423733254,0.0,0.0,0.12088395361053846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502533052406955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520877903122182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639852215933758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469650362797976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719952325272574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23901197574074426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111904511633774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791243491109252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619773532611939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470924526796624
parenting,EverleighBloomz,2018/01/06,"My 14 year old daughter refuses to see her father and he is blaming me for it. Her dad and I have been separated for a few months now. I couldn't deal with the numerous amounts of infidelity so I decided that we needed to get a divorce soon. She knows a lot about what happened because we got into so many arguments over it and they were LOUD! My daughter knows what he has done and she resents him 100% for it. I don't bad mouth him around her nor do I even talk about the situation. She chooses not to see him on her own, and I'm not going to force her to do anything she doesn't want to do. That isn't the only reason that she is angry with him though. Her birthday was in November and I told her that she should invite him to her birthday dinner. He couldn't go the exact day because he had to work and told her that he would have a dinner with her the week after. The week after, she reminds him about it and he says that he forgot and couldn't do it because he had plans with a woman he was seeing. After that she wanted no contact with him.  She doesn't answer any of his calls, she's blocked him on social media, stuff like that. She made a status that was pretty explicit saying something about ""good for nothing @$$ fathers."" Somehow I'm the one being blamed for all of this. He leaves me texts saying that I'm ""keeping her away from him"" and that I'm ""brainwashing her."" 

I've just simply told him that if he learned to stop putting everything before her, then he wouldn't be in this situation. I didn't tell her to block him from her life or to blame him for anything. She chose that on her own accord. She's not a little kid. She is old enough to decide how she feels about someone or something without me being there to point her in the ""right"" direction.",3.57786442838929,4.602743118784532,4.4433149171270765,88.00473438164049,72.23204419889504,7.005694857628559,25.249043773905647,7.1686216300943375,0.9700931576710584,1387,41,293,13,26,448,173,362,0.085,0.878,0.036000000000000004,-0.9387,0,0,2,0,1,0,38,2,0,1,2,16,4,1,0,15,0,32,4,1,3,3,58,56,19,0,10,8,5,1,1,0,3,1,4,0,2,23,19,2,6,9,0,0,3,15,2,0,1,15,8,60,2,48,32,7,30,0,0,3,0,81,13,0,5,15,214,83,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662864341654649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854578368769091,0.100312204418382,0.0,0.0,0.10586985664479308,0.0,0.09408601489017243,0.20607244533950486,0.0,0.09588535813555042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506245127156912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726715347956736,0.11617173957547472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531434237436895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643217668733916,0.0,0.07442638836040455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127266304669072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569761628656553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588724773988988,0.0,0.12808125857250616,0.09451357274695342,0.0901232880011453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964564604186754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015827142446918,0.0,0.0,0.12385580826841508,0.0,0.0,0.119315555251092,0.0,0.0,0.07959168780595821,0.055051465758584654,0.11293846903705447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579948126814183,0.0,0.10662385134730062,0.0,0.11424338163341975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994289385578537,0.0,0.0,0.08355338671711582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812285640204003,0.0,0.23648475363681026,0.0,0.07635725520894081,0.08570087871889523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652232910111743,0.0,0.0,0.11463962895416295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132780399080194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585740440450805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962310924723038,0.0,0.26883132361946405,0.0,0.0,0.26938247861534736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25332194830771704,0.0,0.1148666366849186,0.09547636304926152,0.17349852552905354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420845081517483,0.0,0.0,0.12899564708884007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905707281385158,0.09849034487118212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071096566338913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32302173678132595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292729450350624,0.0,0.18077581190255865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862287193682296,0.0,0.08203492934175141,0.0,0.0,0.080047124657444,0.0,0.0,0.07256447889630042
parenting,throw_me_away_kk,2018/01/06,"Advice please- biological dad has cancer, hasn't seen daughter in 5 years I'm the aunt in this situation, hoping to gather as many views and opinions on what to do, and how this may affect my niece. I plan to show my sister the thread. 

As the title states, her biological father hasn't been in the picture for about 5 years, and she has very little memory of him. He found out he had cancer a few days ago, and requested to see her because there's a chance he won't make it. 

My sister is partial, because she is unsure the affect it will have on her child, and my family members are biased, because they resent him for leaving in the first place. 

So, any feedback would be greatly appreciated and I will answer any questions. If this isn't the right place to post, my apologies in advance. 

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parenting,wepwepwepwe,2018/01/06,"Daycare RANT So my kid was supposed to start half-day daycare yesterday.  It was a home based daycare, only 5 kids, and we figured it was going to be a good transition to preschool.  The caretaker to kid ratio was good too - 3 caretakers.  The teacher seemed nice and normal when we talked to her.  

So, we come by yesterday for our first day of daycare.  I decided I was going to stick around on the first day, just so that the kid doesn’t feel abandoned or anything.  I noticed that the daycare teacher was a bit resistant when I said that.  I insisted.

Well, first of all, no one as much as acknowledged my kid’s arrival.  No “hello”, no “welcome”, no introductions.  The teacher said hello to me, but not to the kid.  She’s a person, dammit - not a sack of potatoes.  

No one talked to any of the kids, in fact.  No interaction at all.  There were diaper changes and food being offered, but that was as much interaction as the kids got.  Since I was sitting there, one little toddler kept coming up to me and showing me her toys and I’d talk to her - which was more than any of those 3 daycare teachers were doing.  They were chatting to each other in another room.  So much for that caretaker-to-kid ratio.  

Of course, the kid is not going to go back to that daycare, but now I really feel sorry for the kids who spend the whole day there.  And for myself, because now we need to find other childcare stat.  Sigh.",2.92497252747253,4.902141282051282,4.060902014652015,86.20805631868133,75.73992673992674,6.8943223443223465,26.759615384615394,7.793537801064563,1.6050318681318685,1082,42,213,16,24,352,137,273,0.068,0.892,0.04,-0.7531,0,0,0,0,0,0,43,5,0,1,3,16,7,0,0,17,0,17,1,0,0,3,36,32,20,0,2,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,11,13,14,1,2,7,3,1,6,10,1,2,6,16,4,23,5,37,14,9,29,0,1,0,0,34,8,0,2,14,155,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673003580610456,0.1289854164831966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122573339212396,0.1095038811131054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945861481762404,0.0,0.07498500202769258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342937134812478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012696404800467,0.21192231993750046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31732191123552234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439385617924564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242778363257873,0.3138935805623835,0.1487426881171848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796348658243723,0.20634783361934936,0.09838134723506414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338782182002925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328709909462908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712767897407048,0.09120944135080496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052247344632475,0.0,0.1400462953879485,0.0,0.0,0.2500617700010596,0.09355370953051118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740650980217158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880256531925921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23401901038051826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119825606805141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175412237295874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376982426613284,0.08706623769765348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29660935986538844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059965339318148,0.0,0.0,0.13733489434304436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jumbuck_Tuckerbag,2018/01/06,Ever since I had a kid almost all movies make me cry. I am a man with a beard and labor job and I cry even for movies that aren't supposed to be sad. My son is 2 and a half and it's still happening. I just cried watching the scene where Wonder Woman is fighting in the front. I think it's supposed to be badass but it made me cry.,-0.5745945945945934,1.2622198513513538,1.5715540540540582,100.27057432432436,86.97297297297297,4.2405405405405405,16.006756756756758,5.148860815047168,-1.01867027027027,255,5,64,1,8,85,52,74,0.219,0.7809999999999999,0.0,-0.9032,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,6,0,7,0,0,2,2,14,12,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,1,8,0,5,8,1,5,0,1,1,0,5,2,0,2,2,42,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067708705543607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8366651647821408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576993021513475,0.17224485514595073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838686150186824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896144020849845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801790284150503,0.12710613747865065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751653522843564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206883108062338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201278371631487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065012443480734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsB-izzle,2018/01/06,"Any ideas on how to stop 16 month old smacking the tv? My 16 month old kiddo has a new fascination with hitting the tv (does it in a way which is like a high five). I love my son but its so frustrating and is doing my head in. Saying 'no' doesnt work as he doesnt stop straight away, he carries on hitting it resulting in me having to pull him away.

Any tips on making the TV not a plaything? Or am I just riding the boundary pushing until he's older? Trying to block it off wont make any difference as my son is a mini-hulk and sees all barriers as a challenge.",4.215178571428574,3.7877312083333337,5.747380952380954,84.39,70.25,8.523809523809524,28.809523809523807,7.957251820313856,1.6674523809523811,435,14,97,5,7,149,78,120,0.131,0.805,0.065,-0.875,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,2,4,4,1,0,10,0,10,2,1,4,1,17,16,10,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,4,1,3,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,2,8,3,17,13,1,24,0,0,1,1,8,11,0,1,10,61,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762538183983622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465539432764229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926888901629632,0.0,0.0,0.1613949257875777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927720349526453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19485920141458452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20819771813121435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010261818807702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645423390082287,0.0,0.2462153733454124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944186902981716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812252850479318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38705409875333335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666522059740514,0.0,0.0,0.1469659120048135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083815465010123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521508005834942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463910333253149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426639626598993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,irwinlegends,2018/01/06,"Tips or advice for flying with a newborn I booked a flight with my daughter, who will be 3 months old. I booked an extra seat just for her, is it worth it? Do I check the car seat or bring it on the plane? How does any of this work?

Does anyone have any tips or advice for air travel with a newborn?",1.8229687500000007,2.9265316093750013,2.8613750000000024,97.34612500000004,76.65625,5.120000000000001,17.4875,3.1291,-0.9370275,229,3,55,0,5,73,44,64,0.0,0.951,0.049,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,6,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,8,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,3,2,35,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5765714921041617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012413322783725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062817069503044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5163401290249227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354785687872093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095691551557186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477480792344908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cottonelleMmm,2018/01/06,"Iv got beef w/ Qubo Okay, Im not rich so we only have free tv, i let my son watch two stations -he is 5- PBSkids great station, and then there is Qubo cool cartoons that my son loves...But there is an excessive amount of advertisements, so much so if my son watches qubo all he says after is I WANT I WANT I WANT... should i let him watch qubo at all? is qubo evil? is qubo brain washing our children? is qubo indoctrinating our children into consumerism?  if your children watch Qubo id like to hear from you and your take on this Money hungry down right irresponsible station",0.5976780185758521,3.1001511929824592,1.8270485036119728,93.90747678018576,94.08771929824562,4.085861713106295,19.863777089783284,5.900188976854957,-0.06456594427244555,452,15,94,4,17,143,75,114,0.095,0.754,0.152,0.7353,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,3,0,0,5,7,1,0,1,2,11,3,1,0,2,13,17,8,0,6,3,3,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,7,15,7,8,13,4,7,0,0,4,0,17,5,0,2,3,52,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27002941399494906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346165628766154,0.2666847529335665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27262778789384196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26128287899503466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4946981498420714,0.0,0.11817531276248963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781709822913616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839683650030032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065728731049673,0.0,0.19236076225109516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818712950720736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23629153616643864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280192467039032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Euthalius,2018/01/06,"Daughter refuses to decide which high school to go to My daughter (10) is currently in 4th grade and over here in Germany, children have to choose the equivalent of high school at this age. Our problem is, she refuses to make a decision. We have visited several schools, looked at the different programs, the different language options etc. and we've narrowed it down to three. But she just doesn't want to decide, she just says 'I don't know'. So, we said that if she doesn't make a decision, we'll make it for her, and told her, she should go to school A, which is the nearest one and also the one which her older sister attends. But she refused this, too. So I asked 'If you don't want to go there, where do you want to go?' and she just says 'nowhere' and gets angry at us. I really don't know what to do. The decision has to be made in the next two weeks and the whole subject is mined territory by now. I feel that whatever we do we will make a mistake.",4.719542314335058,4.965009896373061,5.478354922279795,84.43166018998276,69.20725388601036,9.334887737478413,31.10924006908463,9.2995712137729,2.4726825561312604,742,29,159,14,12,242,101,193,0.076,0.924,0.0,-0.8825,4,0,0,0,0,0,26,7,2,0,0,11,2,0,0,12,0,19,0,0,5,0,42,39,14,0,8,7,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,10,11,0,3,9,0,0,6,5,2,0,4,3,5,25,0,23,32,2,25,0,0,1,0,32,13,0,3,6,116,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243240350521884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197455460575127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26765063995740523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428526426192126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476544249181533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692100446145455,0.0,0.29118280239111266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706652672922347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078828450767214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756216024193473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120052606863185,0.3420005283517778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136223674395823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359229447332655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256348710416252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205683414199877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184158626734284,0.20372238440519452,0.0,0.5185299876815809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470365389072884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223941420698237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251239457550005,0.0,0.15407480919505187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266499167746408,0.0,0.10274494508600787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300634251385125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mygoldfishisdead,2018/01/06,"Am I doing the right thing? My partner and I have separated, he was an abusive (mentally) drug addict.  My son, who is 6 now sees his father in a contact centre every second week.  On these visits my ex is telling my son that everything is my fault and my son is taking it out on me, he bites, punches, kicks, pulls hair, threatens to stab me, the list goes on seriously.  Ive tried every form of positive punishment ive tried reward charts etc.  But the physical attacks and bad language remain. I am bruised head to toe my throat is in agony from all the times he's tried to strangle me so I am at my wits end as he was never like this before.  I have now resorted to taking away all his toys and games consoles about 8 large garbage bags full and left him with only books (which is kinda good as he is really getting back into reading lol) but the behaviour remains. This is only day 2 to be fair but do you think I'm doing the right thing? Should I seek counselling for him? I cry myself to sleep at night because I think I've lost that loving caring little boy I used to have and dread to think how I will handle these attacks as he gets bigger.  Any insight would be very much appreciated from this tired and drained mother. Thanks 

Edited for damn autocorrect ",4.5933811764705865,5.494990324000003,5.343694117647061,82.94372941176472,69.75999999999999,7.802352941176469,27.105882352941176,7.928766900206844,1.5703035294117642,991,31,195,12,17,322,160,250,0.16399999999999998,0.737,0.099,-0.9205,0,0,1,0,0,0,24,0,1,0,2,6,15,4,1,8,1,26,9,5,2,3,25,40,15,0,2,3,6,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,2,12,10,0,0,4,4,0,2,1,9,0,1,3,2,29,6,28,32,6,27,0,1,1,1,25,16,1,1,10,124,41,3,0.0,0.15626913863775713,0.0,0.14378053879665947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969032847410914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30008985734023125,0.1239158334875072,0.10141595388495538,0.11012338473027614,0.08039946286356983,0.0,0.11222943384611854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447155323581533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487595042266535,0.08505871350365306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295156073933394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168161819567733,0.0,0.1470932070224176,0.0,0.0,0.22224752780985502,0.0,0.11853502827565557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781509369254008,0.0,0.0,0.1106238216805679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535810448183055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329983875974106,0.0,0.0,0.06443522717775861,0.13218932155999974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439744873791055,0.0,0.11903667830951625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291499685596705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695498029704412,0.0,0.10172238579904944,0.0,0.0,0.1237706664801052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20061793136632095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192658234631616,0.0,0.08449268190457604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252682002040924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050999639949391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198614082215754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983310717126694,0.0,0.1152784518839226,0.12142741214692615,0.0,0.0,0.17524489467485116,0.25353107190811364,0.0,0.0,0.07690663906285605,0.15158917703866534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26863577191950977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391138304829015,0.0,0.10882379763997424,0.0,0.0,0.10579491706239172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369150468849158,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twilexis,2018/01/06,"Single parenting and working nights. Hey friendos,

I'm stuck in a situation and I was wondering if you'd share your experiences.

I was hired at my store as a Christmas casual with the option to stay on when it died down. Long story short rosters have changed and they have too many day staff and need night staff \(closing at 10pm\) whereas my availabilities are 7am-6pm daily. 

The assistant store manager has said that she will put me on part time in another department, but the issue is that they're more needing night staff than day staff across the store because the day shifts are filled with people who have been there longer.

I have a 10 and 12 year old, who are more than capable of staying at home by themselves. They get themselves up and off to school \(its 3 blocks away so they walk\) and they're responsible enough to stay home alone for a couple of hours while I wrap up a shift, and know to go to the neighbour's house if something happens.

I'm considering changing my availabilities to 10pm for more shifts, but I'm struggling with the idea of leaving them at home alone at night. I live in a \(reasonably\) safe neighbourhood so that's not a concern and work is a 2 minute drive away, it's more that I'll miss out on them while I'm at work. I've asked them if they'd be okay with me working until late and they said they'll be fine \(they're very independant and I couldn't be prouder of them, honestly\). I had a pretty absent mother growing up \(ended up raised by my grandparents\) and one of my biggest fears is they will grow to resent me for not being there for them.

I guess what I'm looking for are anecdotes from other parents in similar situations, or even people who's parents worked and they were left at home. How did you make it work? What can I do to ensure they don't feel abandoned or made to grow up too fast? Should I even do it or just suck it up and take less shifts until something opens up?",4.959442761962446,5.977308761154858,4.960170603674545,85.60071623258635,69.0,8.171249747627702,28.30214011710075,8.384062270229773,1.7762516858469617,1542,52,313,22,26,479,201,381,0.079,0.838,0.083,0.3591,4,2,2,0,1,0,44,0,3,14,6,11,12,2,2,16,1,33,0,0,5,0,50,57,31,1,7,11,4,1,0,1,4,0,2,4,0,16,21,0,3,5,1,3,9,4,6,0,1,10,4,36,6,58,36,8,64,0,2,1,0,31,32,1,9,20,202,52,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754294581094051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880629727790737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917500866927657,0.0,0.15914068049854724,0.0,0.0,0.051627079735198304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17918450268560587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370940213823993,0.0,0.1638568030614143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789628235601063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501142576633366,0.08750883592918109,0.0,0.11187571671569332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284442154699903,0.0,0.09530134914662274,0.04282250688719708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04424775102572543,0.0,0.04813206349359285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329710428013452,0.0,0.07489230845482629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398094415255222,0.0,0.08340395043205417,0.09772248270554594,0.0,0.09560626039455687,0.0,0.08839579817465859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0465441680856913,0.0,0.09553556658084653,0.08967594393004527,0.0920174331791764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478404097523056,0.07494920703671965,0.0711194299080738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013703238361708,0.056532154407112366,0.08586376742058155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125595171671313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179084953883388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886935765758454,0.0,0.05738907154527501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821192679056385,0.09171251242747852,0.0,0.11742867978878305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616158150226286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513822974648569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707684492097399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611217947824465,0.0,0.0,0.08571219895362721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039332118001226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303991253658985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708092305593185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853781981355219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367737848356242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049384225287694816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987925886245874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184418992125333,0.3699380038993933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453847260001779
parenting,BabsRogers,2018/01/06,"Anyone out there ever legally change child's first or middle name? How did this affect your child? If the name drew negative feedback from peers, was it worse to go on with the bad name, or to change it and deal with the results of changing an internal part of who the child is?",6.576666666666667,6.104748363636364,5.934545454545454,85.16848484848488,65.36363636363636,8.787878787878787,29.24242424242424,7.793537801064563,1.6334242424242418,220,6,45,2,3,67,42,55,0.174,0.8029999999999999,0.022,-0.887,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,3,1,14,4,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,9,2,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,2,32,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267857898844646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20619937970810767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7837455629718035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546025641328001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223387395186815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21006210939267728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035176269668506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674311435297536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516710135732503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Carichey,2018/01/06,"Any firefighters/cops/medics/combat vets on here? How do you talk to your kids about your work? I'm a bit of all of those, like a lot of us who tend to wear those all those different boots. 

My daughter is only 2 so it hasn't been an issue yet. I guess I'm just trying to strategize for the future. Any tips on how to handle the tough topics for when they get curious about the things we see and do? At what age do most of you have to start dealing with the tougher questions?

""Why is dad gone so much? Why did he leave in the middle of the night when his phone went off? Why is he tired all the time? But it's Christmas!

What's War?  ... What's death?""

You know... The usual stuff.",-0.09684491978609698,2.063103412587413,1.140937885643769,101.8648909913616,88.30069930069929,4.203866721513782,14.70547099958865,5.5289334501034215,-1.1275739201974493,520,9,126,3,17,163,98,143,0.076,0.878,0.046,-0.643,1,0,0,0,1,0,26,2,5,1,2,11,3,1,0,11,0,10,2,1,2,3,15,20,8,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,11,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,4,1,11,1,20,16,7,17,0,0,1,0,19,6,0,4,10,80,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464951064465746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978641503420288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684765928243646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893543646705434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468898923559424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965327724244344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891646148742264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960325957094124,0.0,0.0,0.19190409213220785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885433716896006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540814392625555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332302411833865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007889327656991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783910480801725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302721182052144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442263314902526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828066704647995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074733046457828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567164625432033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040598385021485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568090509178664,0.208305571882708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304820434415112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800611133608505,0.0,0.19960723936527872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800875784792835,0.4906153185942713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194288544631771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,googlyeyes93,2018/01/06,"Two Week old daughter in the hospital. Just need some positivity. My daughter was born two weeks ago. When my wife and I took her in for her weight check on Thursday we brought up that her left eye had been a bit gooey every time she wakes up. They took a swab and just recommended a basic antibiotic ointment. No big deal. Fast forward to Friday afternoon and I get a call from the doctor saying the swab is showing gram negative, and to get my daughter to the hospital right away.

So we get here and they immediately take us back, say gram negative could be a sign of meningitis, gonnorhea, and a billion other terrifying things. They draw blood and do a spinal tap on my poor little girl. My wife and I are in tears just sitting in the hospital room. Now we're here for two days at least while they run a bunch of tests and give her antibiotics through a tube.

I hate seeing my daughter like this. If anyone has had any experience with this kind of thing, I would appreciate some advice.",4.245200698080279,5.979898267015713,4.821026178010468,83.17768237347296,71.56544502617801,8.234694589877838,27.39301919720768,8.841846274778883,2.004222757417103,783,28,156,15,15,250,124,191,0.112,0.836,0.052000000000000005,-0.9136,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,4,0,9,3,1,0,14,0,11,6,4,0,0,22,22,13,0,4,4,6,1,1,0,1,1,2,1,1,6,12,1,0,0,1,2,5,3,1,0,4,7,5,23,2,21,12,5,35,0,0,2,0,24,16,0,3,16,106,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277996232903298,0.12952038555805928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993618711505898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216562820352623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372780018757304,0.11235190141420856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951758633282834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919774052854978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665936550677047,0.0,0.0,0.09423081702532313,0.1506361186154797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955287802779768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231065299763876,0.0,0.0,0.14292658069445105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290140834867866,0.1401649327927921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442563677174335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215423675816747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875223512929731,0.0,0.0,0.07138344623460277,0.14644364180381084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834096070385088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332104662357798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477972967545548,0.0,0.23238989275866384,0.0,0.0,0.11643316796873275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985881492429432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414200996607728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519968307836348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246739061010556,0.0,0.0,0.428193599153712,0.0,0.1757559852354483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344061192857642,0.1779263080358802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037945046599992,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImPenisRick,2018/01/06,"Was I right to distance myself from my daughter? Hi guys I'm a 23 year old father of the MOST beautiful little girl in the world. Like you see those Gerber babies? They aint got nothin on her :). Shes the best. She is 19 months old, smart little shit, so nice like overly nice. Pretty much everything I've every wanted in life in a little 20 pound bundle of joy.

Well I've been battling with opiod addiction the past 4 years about. For those of you who don't know that's pain pills/heroin. I was not on heroin, and not an IV user. But I got pretty deep into it. The past 2 years it's basically consumed my life to the point I can't work or function without them because of withdrawals. I'd wake up and have to hustle money, steal or whatever to get well and be happy. 

So about 3 months ago I said enough is enough and I moved about a hour and a half away to my adoptive parents where I can't find pills. Well if I really tried I can I'm sure but that's not the point. I've been clean for 3 months. 

Now all the emotions are flooding back in. I've been a terrible father. I've been so selfish and unfair to my little girl. Taking her with me to pick up drugs and to the pawnshop to sell stolen stuff. I've been a piece of shit. I've never mistreated her but I put fucking pain pills before my own flesh and blood. I'd get well and be the best daddy ever but until I got my pills my only focus was getting my fix. 

So I had to distance myself from her. Pretty much just from the whole situation. My daughter is more then well taken care of. My birth mom and my sister (who works for childrens services) see to that. they always have because I've been being a child. I see that now. 

I just wanted some advice. I feel like it was the right thing to do right? That's not fair to her to have half a dad right? I know I'm young but that's no excuse... 

Thanks guys I know I might of rambled but today I am 96 says clean so almost at 100 :)! It's a start... ",-0.11363196125908105,2.0722503753026693,1.888542857142859,96.23463510895886,88.83050847457628,4.175670702179177,15.523922518159807,5.552812978056601,-0.806300881355932,1507,30,338,9,50,499,200,413,0.079,0.7490000000000001,0.171,0.9854,1,0,1,0,0,0,50,0,2,3,4,20,27,4,0,22,0,30,16,5,1,4,45,55,26,0,3,16,8,1,3,0,1,10,2,2,6,16,13,0,0,5,0,2,2,11,9,5,2,16,6,45,18,46,35,13,50,0,0,3,1,32,25,3,7,26,216,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529296838589785,0.0,0.07645506089186954,0.06935489268276873,0.0,0.0783458926666289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510181007910462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350890013779593,0.060161603377828936,0.0,0.0953885539956671,0.0,0.06657633663858968,0.0,0.1642157588712435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977072582239797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073336867351373,0.0,0.0,0.08800928317095381,0.0,0.1616853280089289,0.0,0.0,0.07077240974276243,0.06592043513669993,0.0,0.07031691843661317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03956041123563985,0.05589455349656892,0.0,0.0,0.07150979142261565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723314663805037,0.12263125310068534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772662930847095,0.0,0.0,0.1549394742765963,0.0,0.08328775883316837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705047690132907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289957009014714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105262180595304,0.1146720934684326,0.31366747458682626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830001004095881,0.0,0.09163354871518134,0.18735086866317616,0.08315656218506304,0.11503056169550625,0.0,0.0603433838036084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641990901860216,0.0,0.0,0.05950491986217747,0.16650540074107242,0.0,0.08687607730240496,0.0,0.14937755036257094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479238661597751,0.0,0.0,0.2387941186573809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865264379588066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050122441512885495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672655651336613,0.07442399948009164,0.06221945681906741,0.0,0.0,0.18704105537656288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062413183315152,0.0,0.08794485225072662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537855765313615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956589194106812,0.0,0.0,0.07374011821343006,0.0,0.05882661857824036,0.0,0.0,0.07203272787895401,0.0,0.0,0.05197906958197932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416221489059413,0.0,0.0,0.053119711919789515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229576318431904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517350378180086,0.0,0.0,0.08735198126481829,0.0,0.07542040859349007,0.0,0.11391906289296995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115166493431798
parenting,kk15245,2018/01/06,"15 month old crying like never before My daughter has been in daycare from the time she was 10 weeks old until she turned 13 months old. We took her out of day care for a couple of months as it was end of the year and we had vacation left. We have now put her back in a different day care as the previous one was full. It's only been 2 days since she started at this new place and tonight she has been crying in her sleep like never before. She woke up from her sleep and does not want to leave either me or my wife and keeps hugging each of us one after another while crying out loud. She went back to sleep after an hour of screaming, hugging taking turns trying to fall asleep on me and my wife and now is crying intermittently while she is deep in her sleep. Do any of you think it's because we put her in a new day care or could it be something else causing her to behave this way. ",4.698874692874688,4.560905275675676,5.1928746928746925,87.78724815724817,69.21621621621622,7.808353808353808,24.926289926289925,6.980632752743323,0.7895405405405405,696,15,154,5,11,223,106,185,0.08,0.815,0.105,0.6281,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,0,4,8,0,0,7,0,15,7,5,1,2,24,28,13,0,2,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,13,0,1,1,0,0,5,3,1,0,2,10,2,25,7,28,16,3,50,0,0,0,2,23,14,0,2,32,103,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397949061773031,0.0986539579395224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468764203363835,0.0,0.05735196612012871,0.0,0.16011496739837858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877708764692287,0.09664889205070774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511741369683828,0.10410076425271217,0.4133818960637381,0.24270234060450005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982964406272388,0.0,0.0,0.08233244130888442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859405828984294,0.0,0.08332938394422229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265254908855232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362506369917297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962003902692294,0.1022211741826513,0.0,0.0,0.09192815062241136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252878405649222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451248208935288,0.18173139647789024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961720331057465,0.0,0.12750580136672968,0.07155416462381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982964406272388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891582825522148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782621619136787,0.0,0.3766027486827324,0.0,0.0,0.07242949105816493,0.0,0.0,0.0665922488446261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073851304663295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06028442201223778,0.0,0.0,0.054860403301829286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452938782590064,0.06387600588794226,0.20467001294696907,0.0,0.0,0.1131699542104946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05549243867790397,0.07467850120187057,0.07546750044014798,0.0,0.0,0.08721564416742544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060586201056560186
parenting,12Iloveyou,2018/01/06,"6 going on 16... My 6 year old daughter acts like she is a teenager, wtf do I do? So much sass, attitude, and defiance. She is picky about her clothes, picky about her hair not being messy and just over all has a bad attitude. 
I swear I've tried everything. Some days I don't know to laugh, cry or run away.
She is super smart and so well behaved away from home, sometimes I feel like she hates me. What am I doing wrong?",-0.7055702917771853,1.4727308390804623,0.9901149425287379,99.88368700265256,96.93103448275863,4.5160035366931925,17.03713527851459,6.297961479604792,-0.3436323607427059,321,9,75,4,13,103,64,87,0.209,0.63,0.161,-0.6986,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,1,6,9,1,0,2,0,10,1,1,0,1,10,14,6,0,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,1,0,0,2,13,6,8,13,3,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,5,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4628170038699512,0.0,0.20565158439588216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705507900820013,0.15884418410808693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136003566368168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453751155044125,0.17595794341527454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997890009265265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24317188108762786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470606307590209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353609419889071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24066108379197906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106004789078067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25845214258277505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24359862345655536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672226483532383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22145475725233146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692921822183145,0.0,0.15861018317446549
parenting,FriendlyWolves,2018/01/06,"Boyfriend keeps mentioning how beautiful my daughter will be when she gets older. Should I be concerned? We've been together about 2 years now so he hasn't watched her grow up anything. My daughter is 11, she will be 12 next month. I feel kind of creeped out that he is talking about her looks all the time. My daughter is very beautiful and I'm not just saying that because I'm her mother. She's like a mini version of Ashley Moore and Tae Heckard put together. We can't walk in a grocery store without her being complimented on her looks. My problem is she could just be eating cereal and he'd just blurt out with ""she's gonna be so beautiful when she hits her teenage years."" One night when were getting dressed for bed he asked me if I ever worried about her getting older and being around teenage boys because of how pretty she is. I asked him why he asked and just said laughed and said ""guys are gonna love her."" I appreciate him thinking she's beautiful but sometimes I feel that it's too over the top especially when he pressures me on getting her into modelling and I don't want to be one of those mothers where her daughter is being targeted and could've done something about it before hand.",4.2914345991561165,5.843607278481013,4.581286919831225,85.66830168776374,71.15189873417722,7.460759493670888,30.888185654008442,7.984000788550335,2.0924160337552733,963,42,188,13,18,302,132,237,0.042,0.8440000000000001,0.114,0.9414,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,1,21,7,0,1,4,0,27,3,1,2,2,34,49,18,0,5,8,6,3,1,0,5,0,3,1,2,6,14,1,1,3,0,1,3,5,2,0,2,5,9,35,5,21,27,2,28,0,0,3,1,44,11,0,1,15,122,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172541182999306,0.12684305265143794,0.3996164847327287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737167023412191,0.0,0.12124538186562744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22752749868214256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581299739214673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579909894518625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888705323924615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409075083431985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29777292977366554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108387959751995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664840703513547,0.0,0.1483775981169175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961162911574283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393052812474867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285994860977578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373123825879625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153584048765345,0.13371377905834972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19310486493530069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449598339074039,0.0,0.13634018546189233,0.0,0.14323812803850208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710742793168537,0.11331085761674545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969294681652833,0.14092263495182006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452512388260935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912994941845321,0.0,0.0,0.08308493148030305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756615398254346,0.08404213581628615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857176072690574,0.0,0.0,0.13735174841505166,0.0,0.0,0.14470179608262282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835130644498313
parenting,pilyl,2018/01/06,"French kid songs Any French parents out there? French kid songs are so weird... 

For those who don't know, it seems 90% of French kids songs talk about war, death, tobacco or sex. 

Sometimes it's explicit. There's a song about a crocodile going to war against elephants and saying goodbye to his kids; a song about how I have some nice tobacco and I won't give you any; a song about a soldier going to war and not returning.

And sometimes you have to figure it out yourself. In Au Clair de la Lune one of the protagonists go and seduce the neighbor; in A la Claire Fontaine the main character talks about her boyfriend leaving her because she didn't want to have sex; heck, even the song ""Jean Petit qui Danse"", which just talks about a guy dancing with all possible body parts, was about a lawyer who got beaten up by the king's guard. 

Yet, I remember fondly about my dad singing Malbrough or J'ai du bon tabac to me. I haven't played those songs yet to my 2 year-old, but I do play ""Au clair de la lune"" or ""A la claire fontaine"". I guess he'll figure it out when when he starts playing those for his kids.

So, is it only the French being weird here, or do you guys also have strange songs for kids?  ",5.531864913329352,5.468814263598333,5.040242080095638,89.33260460251049,67.45188284518828,8.334847579199044,28.78690974297669,7.7094869923839395,1.4226901374775849,935,28,205,9,14,283,133,239,0.08199999999999999,0.878,0.04,-0.7775,1,0,2,0,0,0,35,0,3,0,2,21,11,4,0,15,0,14,4,1,1,2,28,25,16,4,1,7,2,0,0,1,2,0,10,1,8,11,9,0,1,5,14,0,4,5,6,0,1,3,10,17,5,29,19,4,16,0,0,0,3,28,6,1,7,6,115,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496886127506724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295448178382871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288333408569098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18747035895463665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147392800419634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190382484079374,0.2877552164897391,0.0,0.13498434009040114,0.0,0.185924077017597,0.3342264669571249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275402016659,0.0,0.0,0.17870776627550228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710038725340485,0.0,0.11436593065004727,0.1283605693446356,0.0,0.0,0.18740404609894065,0.1827662750694244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902678259165396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911885435689601,0.0,0.0,0.13421621136718578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364591439244935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338444798130107,0.0,0.11945941959598437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069635132196681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995475394125111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868520795309286
parenting,Giraffemakinfriends,2018/01/06,"Toddler very suddenly terrified of the dark. Normal? He's 2 year and 4 months he has two nightlights in his room that gives it a slight glow. Hes going down to bed really easily but as soon as I turn out the light it's immediate ""NOOOOO, LIGHT!!!!"" And climbing out of bed trying to reach the switch. But when I turn it on he assumes he can stay awake. Cause the light is on. That means another book, right?! Ugh. Tonight I put 3 more nightlights in his room and he wouldn't get into bed without turning each one on himself and inspecting it. He still cried for 20 minutes calling out ""light"" while I sat in the room with him. He wakes up at 5:45am and most mornings I will hear him in the middle of the hall just crying because he's afraid to come all the way to our room. 

This started very suddenly! Is it normal behavior?",2.0238863636363646,4.172456672727275,3.0209659090909122,91.7714488636364,79.24242424242424,6.306818181818183,23.03977272727273,7.413659706084162,0.8601590909090908,641,21,136,9,16,204,105,165,0.095,0.8859999999999999,0.018000000000000002,-0.9393,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,9,0,7,1,1,1,1,24,18,11,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,0,8,12,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,2,0,2,1,6,12,0,26,15,4,37,0,0,1,0,18,21,0,2,10,79,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167410420184728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732317838151923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302388393075046,0.0,0.0,0.16400793203366668,0.0,0.13752719336251926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507433374300816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341226713084365,0.15315400658095796,0.09073465757281328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799408881562814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390926294668324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274337520737698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128527002737622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818521744398864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049567713695062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227800112154753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363430578469739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130034373984164,0.17016919020192367,0.12749934281343628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083941203046105,0.5209708801699146,0.15595808926915866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634614086375578,0.0,0.12672536942344384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390009747888025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281149979297276
parenting,nenenehhh,2018/01/06,"I hate my baby’s name, and she’s named after my deceased MIL My wife and I had our daughter a month ago. My MIL passed a few months before our daughter arrived, and my wife and I decided to name her after my MIL- Renee. I kind of liked the name. I felt like it was kind of cool and interesting (the kind of name I like), and there was something classy about it.

I don’t like my daughter’s name. I genuinely hate it. It feels so weird to call her Renee, it’s like talking to the soul of an old woman trapped in the body of a month old baby. Also, every time I say it, I can just picture my crotchety old MIL, and it’s not only upsetting but just pushed the old lady name aspect. My wife loves the name, and will only call her Renee. I’ve been trying to divert by calling her nicknames (Nene, Renny, etc.) but I want her to have a *name.* I know this comes off as super shitty, but I just hate the name!!! Advice?",1.3507884200800715,2.9918270785340333,3.124748999076072,92.67096704650447,79.26178010471205,5.331813982137359,19.612257468432396,5.900188976854957,-0.1583959963042818,696,16,155,4,17,232,95,191,0.095,0.768,0.13699999999999998,0.653,0,1,1,0,0,0,33,2,0,0,1,8,17,3,1,12,1,8,2,1,0,0,31,17,14,0,1,7,6,2,5,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,9,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,5,4,30,12,17,11,2,16,1,0,0,1,31,2,0,0,16,95,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524556328159292,0.10454302933411294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431326940234874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035473554838473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100016034816958,0.0,0.0,0.3612771155086098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159130577274032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152966548809736,0.0,0.0,0.09936605360685263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05963191740767556,0.0,0.11323692613894615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34931175390508623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684361678244453,0.06481446764446026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880875346965718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644172355613102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824058491159943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4950154095247208,0.0,0.0,0.17939108091854136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378733421361653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907927914441788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479238173065226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876935185871401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800707114759894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695616293584856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AptStriving,2018/01/06,"Suggestions for plugged duct. I’m currently nursing mainly at night. Woke up this morning to my left breast feeling full. Through out the day, I tried having my baby nurse on the left side & even tried pumping, massaging, taking a hot shower. It seems to alleviate the pain, but it doesn’t empty the milk. Shortly after it feels engorged again. There is also this hard, tender large mass there. Each time I massage it or try to empty, I think it starts to feel better only to realize the mass has moved to the other side of my breast. Not sure what else I can do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you! ",3.4527972027972003,5.841482376068377,4.089805749805752,84.68524475524478,75.66666666666666,6.305827505827506,24.31157731157731,7.348242739294969,1.1819470085470092,486,16,89,6,11,154,89,117,0.085,0.802,0.113,0.7578,2,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,7,0,8,5,2,0,1,13,18,3,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,9,2,1,0,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,5,8,5,14,15,3,20,0,0,0,2,2,12,0,2,7,57,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18681986219134045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288737796794447,0.0,0.20714453544060946,0.0,0.13000963701509774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908405982249472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232959300709147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970719508939415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627324853556673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900005763801937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107777292752448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126062572537964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154374354165509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20319514897373103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794104191160399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454017667199443,0.20343006504536726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404400366892808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353188969889932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180185831544752,0.0,0.14374432049060232,0.0,0.0,0.17601378036497764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250106632302606,0.0,0.0,0.11147917951375713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38939805206096345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580949833922554,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andidelcarmen,2018/01/06,"Advise/Tips from more parent parents than me My baby has started crawling! Any tips for baby proofing? She loves wires and cables right now. I don’t want to overlook anything. We already have outlet covers on all the outlets, power strip covers, and locks on the toilets. ",4.328571428571428,7.2194259387755135,4.366693877551022,81.21044897959185,75.3265306122449,3.92,28.16734693877552,3.1291,1.0770293877551027,217,9,31,0,5,67,43,49,0.0,0.893,0.107,0.6476,3,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,2,6,6,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,6,2,5,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35465045290249697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218549193371966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644680816912785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29005769595026976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7137081724653904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744564786668763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274741816369679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18955805359191585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hyungbae,2018/01/06,"Anyone have ideas for breastfeeding? Speaking for my wife, we have twin girls, 5 months old, and my wife is struggling to supply them with enough milk. They started those glass vegetables Gerber and rice at 4 months. Though I think it should be enough for the twins, but my wife wants to make more. She knows she has to drink tons of water, and coconut drinks seemed to help as well. 

Any ladies have ideas or is my wife out of luck here and start the formula?",5.225037878787877,6.302633852272731,3.8072727272727285,93.88924242424244,68.43181818181819,7.2303030303030305,22.62121212121212,7.1686216300943375,0.4073803030303029,361,7,77,3,6,102,65,88,0.02,0.867,0.113,0.8645,0,0,2,0,0,0,11,1,0,2,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,8,5,0,1,0,18,15,8,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,7,5,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,10,2,13,13,4,7,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,5,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347667881173799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856958820870502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882749671910929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095385168277628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328335033208637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4474342009659746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891259929581426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228432548059113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31636511827662744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20795285721762516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804124056036484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28054063587109984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717706403356792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269834731358506,0.1947073651131186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688961029879305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781844369903364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PM_me_hard_currency,2018/01/06,"Missing school for vacation? So our little one is still too young, but I wanted to hear some opinions from others. Growing up, my parents always pulled us out of school for vacations, due to cheaper flights, hotels, etc. when avoiding the school calendar holidays. We were good students, it never affected that, and we thought nothing of it. I looked forward to doing it soon too.  My wife is horrified at the thought. Her family never did such a thing and does not think it is a good idea at all.  So, what does everyone think about saving money by having the kids skip up to a week of school at a time?",4.404385964912278,6.2080043508771965,4.876315789473686,82.66254385964915,71.28070175438597,7.873684210526315,29.333333333333336,8.515128840125781,2.2955859649122807,472,19,86,8,9,150,81,114,0.076,0.802,0.122,0.6933,1,1,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,7,0,7,0,0,1,3,21,15,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,5,0,1,5,2,1,3,3,2,0,1,4,2,9,3,18,11,3,19,0,1,1,0,9,8,0,2,10,67,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126493767060809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26606944901871665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954375663806887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526271447652267,0.0,0.0,0.1433120017342096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550162401248741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713388739104369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161336355467366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236512017379816,0.0,0.0,0.12765947052260465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344961507288283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586838434852584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301345914503704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688014860430804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6154140408544538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140427918195945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099609076539066,0.19481801698350773,0.0,0.2413756092714842,0.08864474955078969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828627141596154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966600740248892,0.0,0.12194218914023115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justmeagansure,2018/01/06,"My son starts daycare next week! Starting on Tuesday, my son (14 months) will be attending daycare for the first time ever. I work at the daycare so he’ll be arriving and leaving with me. While I’m 100% confident in the staff and school, I am worried about getting us ready and there on time. 

Our current arrangement has Dad watching him during the day, so I haven’t had to get up and get him ready AND get myself ready on time before. 

Parents who are used to this, what tips do you have for making sure we get everything done in the morning before we have to leave?

I am also worried about how he’ll adjust from staying at home all day to being in a room full of strangers all day. Any tips for making the transition easier? I’ve seen things from the teacher’s perspective but not from the parent’s. 

Thanks!",3.5344086538461537,5.277884431250005,4.107500000000004,87.53519230769234,73.4375,6.9230769230769225,26.68269230769231,7.61054688173877,1.4396586538461538,639,23,126,8,13,202,103,160,0.027000000000000003,0.873,0.099,0.8858,3,0,0,0,0,0,17,4,1,0,2,8,2,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,4,4,19,29,11,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,4,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,15,2,23,20,3,29,0,0,2,0,15,11,0,0,16,83,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444297347695845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731797116559487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435477936758908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768773925447481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644860388778808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944887865747426,0.0,0.0,0.1286157455335131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172712111426573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738386719708017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435484373761551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030602460861372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105066393016032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422699868542142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219639315620184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178077680223812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483237627101886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258437478455013,0.15253349720286033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487707497163895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175410989200018,0.0,0.0,0.09507422872137204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503413091498162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214063810655755,0.12359888607305768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479216168905446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041839256484645,0.29066511758706703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mathews2011,2018/01/06,"16 year old not going to school should I take him on vacation in april? Hello everyone newbie here first time posting.
So a little back story, I have a 16 year old who has been refusing to go to school. I have tried taking away his Xbox I shut his phone off I even set timers on my tv and and internet and he still refuses to go to school. He says he's sick of the drama and people are picking on him and running their mouth about him. 
My brother and sister in law live in myrtle beach and are having their first child in April we are planning on taking a vacation the end of April beginning of May and I am not sure if I should reward him with a vacation or make him stay with his dad (we aren't together) that's if his dad will let him stay there. He is that kind of dad only takes his kids when he wants and never does anything with them. 
I am looking forward to any advice I can get
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parenting,MauveGorilla,2018/01/06,"Anyone have a toddler/preschooler that had silent reflux when an infant? We are beginning to suspect that some of our daughter’s behaviour issues (nothing major, just a handful) might be due to her still having or getting boughts of silent reflux - probably while sleeping and disrupting her sleep. 

But all sites and resources we can find are all about infants only. Looking for peoples experiences or links about spotting the signs and treating older kids. 

Edit: I should have been more specific about her sleep. She sleeps right through around 11.5-12 hours and doesn’t really snore (very occasional light snuffling). But she is *always* tired and cranky. It’s always a struggle to get enough sleep into her. We wonder if maybe the quality of her sleep is disturbed, but not noticeable to us.  She often has red bags under her eyes but no other signs of allergies. ",5.982995951417003,8.59223321052632,5.2726315789473714,78.0857287449393,68.86842105263158,7.571659919028341,30.771255060728738,8.384062270229773,2.6529143724696356,696,29,107,11,13,210,111,152,0.066,0.934,0.0,-0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,6,0,15,9,8,0,2,31,21,14,0,2,9,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,4,10,0,0,4,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,3,5,15,1,16,15,6,12,0,0,3,0,18,5,0,7,7,80,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132712281939933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960928164454324,0.0,0.0,0.1140855353457892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241885457375593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253606369299313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171317742630059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391188320761216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620731913377062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376101074974886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761831472637877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874939094046614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135952697268084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296862607360085,0.14590584753818808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974680068585758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884686390025284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817326792660667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209967317764097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944406780079813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7694881105359043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234512075482713,0.0,0.0,0.13397591867930006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729585582568605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415524632514208,0.0,0.0,0.10574168104028124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897913621510424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bronzesteamer,2018/01/07,"Advice Needed: My mom wants to take my baby for a month. I'm a new, single, mom. I went back to work after a few months, and my mom watches my baby. My parents usually spend the summers in Washington state and the winters in Florida. I live in Florida full time. My mom wants to go back to Washington for 4-5 weeks and she wants to take my baby! He will be 8 months old by the time she wants to leave. 

Her argument is it's healthier for my baby to continue to be watched by her instead of going into daycare during those weeks. She says I work full time anyway so this will give me an opportunity to focus on work. She also insists that it's been too tough on her to stay in Florida and that she misses her Washington house. 

I do not feel right about this. I do not think mother and baby should be separated for that long. I admit to working long hours but my time home is dedicated to my baby and I'm working to support him and I. I am thinking about working on a daycare schedule with my baby's father. He sees his son everyday and has been staying involved. He, however, lives about 40 minutes away and also works long hours. He is close with his mom and sister and it may be possible for them to help with childcare as well. So I'm thinking it could be possible my son would only be in a daycare facility for a few hours each day. It wouldn't be ideal and it would be stressful for more people, but then I wouldn't be separated from my baby. 

Am I the selfish one? Is my mom?

She has wanted a grandchild for awhile and always said that she would move wherever me and my baby are. So it's always been the plan that she would help with childcare once the time came. 

Advice is appreciated. Thank you. ",2.2963966063770296,4.2010332919075175,4.177932127540558,84.98837124743615,77.35260115606937,6.892261793772144,24.456088010441928,7.831003766801068,1.3476417303747907,1333,46,269,21,31,452,157,346,0.051,0.866,0.083,0.9207,2,0,0,0,1,0,33,0,1,1,10,14,9,0,1,14,0,35,0,0,0,0,47,61,23,0,15,4,12,1,0,0,10,0,2,1,0,15,22,0,0,5,0,1,5,4,4,1,1,6,6,44,5,45,35,7,51,0,1,3,0,40,14,0,1,29,191,59,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458278047325954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183219061752214,0.1231128535544726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950567462424148,0.11377051816619453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461222989127112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906618533189448,0.0,0.0,0.04771031351161045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03740598847474492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096736606964581,0.08408790344991736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917308418251926,0.0,0.07420693565883606,0.0,0.21856314135189248,0.08536179517551765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833304420839585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064956622848595,0.1964071731245375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5198596313961618,0.1771479166939168,0.07862793407697416,0.0,0.05485446655886159,0.0,0.07144934720668418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762848114087086,0.07878518531696094,0.050130062549903626,0.05626433793362538,0.0,0.0,0.08214488790190275,0.0,0.0,0.051287700815304135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680033923068266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317763350295612,0.07037093851766436,0.05883104376281599,0.0,0.0,0.05895165851576348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770347096275833,0.0,0.0,0.08474265661440661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839504549271875,0.0,0.0,0.11124595259836327,0.0,0.0,0.0681098933172152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220820451453522,0.0,0.0,0.2156886525597136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147738035072374,0.0,0.21817355697949345,0.0,0.11868292978037474,0.0,0.06651597574360554,0.06857924346309785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770029828269907,0.0,0.0,0.210210142050666,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SkaCore9mm,2018/01/07,My 2 and a half year old is gangsta  So I'm a single dad. Took the boy to the McDonald's Playland today. Younger kid about 18 months was sitting at the top of the slide scared to go down. My son wanted to go down. So he just goes up and shoves the kid down the slide. I laughed without anyone seeing me and Went and yanked him out. ,-0.00996478873239326,2.0660074929577483,1.4994190140845092,100.11983274647888,86.74647887323944,4.113380281690141,18.734154929577464,5.148860815047168,-0.6492690140845068,256,7,61,1,8,82,52,71,0.042,0.89,0.069,0.2263,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,9,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,1,3,1,5,1,12,6,1,18,0,0,1,0,7,7,0,0,4,36,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289875110659707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623406308294179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544475691568851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345065303437573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31915491152448144,0.0,0.2540268012243223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021666582629175,0.0,0.354176886392052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802500959803706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955127351108613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072930448900209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528420279543952
parenting,karalack,2018/01/07,"Childhood baggage I felt completely misunderstood as a kid. My dad didn’t even want to be around me because I was so different than him. Now that I’m a parent, I don’t want my kids to feel how I felt and am determined for my kids to feel understood and loved by me. Does anyone else feel like this? Growing up, did you feel understood & loved by your parents? How does this effect how you parent your kids? 

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parenting,mercedesmccarthy,2018/01/07,"Is it selfish to talk to my husband about cutting my hours at work? I work 30 hours outside the home. I do all the chores, cooking and errands. My husband gets easily frustrated with our two month old. I want to be home more with her. Would it be selfish to ask him to pick up overtime so I can be home? Economically it makes sense also because he makes twice as much as me. I work retail for a family shop and could easily cut my hours in half. ",1.5339072039072053,3.629338043956048,3.265421245421248,89.66013431013431,80.64835164835166,6.242246642246642,23.2979242979243,7.3871296695380915,0.9299733821733822,346,12,74,5,9,115,62,91,0.14,0.797,0.063,-0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,3,3,5,3,0,3,0,8,1,0,3,1,11,13,6,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,13,0,14,8,3,8,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,5,51,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397360720365334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633542870942602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065172577388605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951223396009316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472526202039006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912921886061821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5258224470189462,0.0,0.5162383847882077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23327486630664515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947236454876555,0.0,0.12845084105712198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335571803117304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404459326451801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069138377315568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306364006477664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816290008156889,0.0,0.0,0.12412722420522153,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whatisupdog,2018/01/07,"Baby starts daycare tomorrow- any words of wisdom? He's 16 weeks old and I am miserable thinking about him being cared for by people who don't love him. It's a good preschool and I know he will get more attention than if I continued to work from home while looking after him (which isn't an option anyway).  Can anyone share some parental wisdom that'll help me get through this difficult transition? 

Thanks for reading.",4.424122965641954,6.808797632911393,4.345605786618446,84.00784810126581,72.67088607594937,7.552260397830018,27.74141048824593,8.418075326091056,2.1323511754068716,339,13,60,6,7,104,68,79,0.105,0.6659999999999999,0.229,0.8811,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,2,9,0,1,2,0,7,1,0,0,0,9,16,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,7,7,10,13,2,7,0,1,1,1,10,0,0,3,7,37,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829842001316786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814758157522626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743458523114135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28116726869476744,0.0,0.0,0.2256922443044852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18035921680263212,0.0,0.26991002462158176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787979401162604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259601380277635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428559660486305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823550800210619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29878243211757777,0.0,0.0,0.1865467758092868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691536596804338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045680533171905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24773348769905545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724161389189444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584042121383604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19589405813776675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NicoleMitchell,2018/01/07,"My son will be 4 in April, his father and I are getting a divorce (7 years together, 4.5 married). Advice and support welcome. So, I've had a hell of a new year. In 24 hours my Grandfather died and I learned my husband was messaging other women. This comes 2 years after I found out he was responding to personals on Craigslist. We went to therapy but I told him I wouldn't go through this again, and I stick to that. As the days go by I learn more and more stuff. More people he was talking to, more lies he told (told a friend we were divorced and he was living at his parent's place, told another he didn't want marriage, etc), infidelities in the first year of our relationship, etc. I expect to find out even more as time goes by. 

This split has been nothing but civil. There's been no yelling, no fights, just talking and figuring stuff out. Our son isn't of an age to really understand what a relationship is fully and that we're even married, so most of this has been easy for him. We don't argue around him, we do our best not to cry around him which we're great at if we're not in the same room together (so that doesn't happen much). There are no disagreements on who gets what and custody will be split 50/50. Yes, he hurt me pretty bad but our relationship and the one he has with his son are not reflective of each other. He is a wonderful father and I'd never prevent him from seeing his child. 

What I want to know is this: What are some other things I can be doing to make life as normal for my son as possible? With his age this isn't too difficult but I will always take suggestions for more I could be doing. I'm trying to keep a clean house and still cook and he has his same schedule and all that, but if there's more past what I'm doing please suggest it. 

And yes, I did get tested. I'll have results tomorrow. He cheated on me early into our relationship when we were all over each other so I'm questioning times when they were bad and what he could have been doing. Every person I talk to seems to have some sort of information for me. After our issue 2 years ago though, this just doesn't hit anywhere near as hard. I want so bad to cry about it but every time it comes I'm reminded that I didn't REALLY know him and I don't know what he was doing or thinking when times were good. He has some serious depression issues he masked pretty well. No matter what I said to him or how I showed him that he was good enough and that HIS needs mattered he did whatever I wanted (and showed enthusiasm) despite having no interest and believed he wasn't good enough to have happiness. He needs help and, without insurance, I have no idea how he's going to get it, but I've told him that if he doesn't figure it out that this current state is what he will be showing his son and, if he wants his son to not go down the same path, he needs to learn to love himself and get some help. He agrees. ",4.0144127516778525,4.677265676174496,4.891805369127521,86.52928523489933,70.9295302013423,8.241879194630874,25.470469798657717,8.395991825355821,1.3917330201342282,2277,63,492,34,40,741,249,596,0.114,0.738,0.14800000000000002,0.983,4,0,0,0,4,0,62,11,0,1,2,25,23,4,0,13,2,65,3,0,4,3,112,111,52,1,17,20,10,1,0,1,5,1,2,2,4,40,41,1,2,18,4,0,7,23,11,1,2,28,4,59,12,63,70,25,59,1,2,1,1,99,21,1,15,30,336,99,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908686398543372,0.06267095966708383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882775902175672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741347305428721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587532670061718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709372350443578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965427693309317,0.07419490394133517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180294883672865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289580955092325,0.0,0.1553204560468502,0.04559541502092848,0.0,0.06089349106780793,0.0,0.0733750579397718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461032420128645,0.15769756077155908,0.09339288279359342,0.0,0.1191349815963355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461818453886495,0.060137072465503975,0.0,0.07751849937237104,0.054622361761388016,0.0,0.18468820342520334,0.0,0.1607209248417839,0.17789849574353322,0.0,0.07794659594964838,0.0,0.0,0.06251945275522065,0.07526107492474206,0.06333298513747651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477694861734748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962489801981188,0.08157788518853604,0.0756854203183089,0.07981128106694953,0.0,0.14758409886841845,0.0,0.06284108304878333,0.0,0.0,0.11656400948381646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049937242249421775,0.0,0.0,0.06242907199763464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380917987904965,0.0,0.047192554609772286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05197236570947915,0.1572686480813598,0.054527916146150816,0.06828214696326393,0.0,0.0,0.0692706302535196,0.06783820549215595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04790790164126101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850357669151431,0.0,0.06749080037338429,0.04901422422164396,0.12346438659244326,0.07386606975962402,0.07760696730393896,0.0,0.07970321438994371,0.0,0.14385388927609366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791997703223239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058399166841344,0.0,0.0,0.30361979277172785,0.0,0.0,0.06725154187771848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563384546937461,0.0643622913961924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056460818946858164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186833211781956,0.0,0.08022910670392823,0.0,0.0,0.05315732600338656,0.17047706298625592,0.0,0.0,0.08085119288148224,0.0,0.04696969524853895,0.0453014706672971,0.06946203133018884,0.0,0.16490210027853627,0.0,0.0,0.3377826497159771,0.0,0.04800041056194079,0.0,0.0,0.07360081223060366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20850237914809308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635674615471487,0.06553926892055116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815192414264876,0.07667073710362142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276412312163797
parenting,concerned-mum,2018/01/07,"12 year old son hasn't started going through puberty yet. Should I be concerned? Hello /r/parenting, i'm slightly concerned about my son. He's 12 years old, turning 13 in 3 months, and he hasn't started going through puberty yet. I'm aware that it isn't uncommon for things like voice changes and wet dreams to start until later, but a couple of days ago is when the real concern started. He was practising his gymnastics in the living room in his boxers, and I unintentionally caught a glimpse of his privates. I noticed that they're still small, and that he hasn't started growing pubic hair, which I assumed he already had. I called my brother to ask if this was normal, and he told me that pubic hair usually starts growing at around age 11, and that he should be showing some signs of puberty already.
  
I'm concerned and am considering taking him to the doctor, but I don't know if that's an overreaction, and it may be embarrassing for him. Is it likely that there are problems with his development or am I over thinking things?",8.118787878787877,7.233964313131317,8.044121212121215,72.65618181818184,62.43434343434343,10.546262626262626,38.9919191919192,9.642632912329526,3.7344488888888883,826,38,149,13,10,267,117,198,0.07,0.911,0.019,-0.8524,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,6,0,19,5,2,0,0,26,37,15,0,6,5,3,3,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,14,10,0,0,3,2,0,5,5,2,0,0,5,4,16,2,19,26,1,34,0,0,0,2,20,8,0,6,23,93,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219404335442376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042376620734088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271405456222828,0.12886938644881835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407583454602623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458250356415254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252632568042526,0.0,0.0889006351494653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109339454765424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566845295046194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575772310968182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346912593935908,0.0,0.12172241769998045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002905626586942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350618921642674,0.0,0.156941001166194,0.28929683211711765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306402685833626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190203647787488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156901342248392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5854176638171646,0.0,0.11008568872836733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364463274167217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831603348036333,0.08832751086220017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171978844116786,0.0,0.0,0.1499391732417225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182023194484362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753934277868397
parenting,junkinthetunk,2018/01/07,"Transporting a toddler in a van with a bench seat (no back seat)? We live in Norway. I started a discussion in /r/Norway but figured I might need more exposure. 

I need to get my toddler to an appointment tomorrow and our car died on us today. My husband is borrowing a work van that has a three-seat bench, but no back seat. We have a forward-facing travel car seat (without isofix) that would fit in the center seat. This is obviously not optimal but we don’t really have the option of rescheduling the appointment. Has anyone dealt with this before, would it be okay to take him like this? I mean, he’d be more secure in the seat than he would be on the bus, which is my only other option. Should I just catch a bus to the appointment and meet my husband there instead? Thanks for your time, anyone who read this. ",4.017791666666668,5.426055862500004,4.8762500000000015,83.85041666666669,71.625,8.083333333333334,25.833333333333336,8.59863814320734,1.7512083333333337,638,20,125,11,12,207,93,160,0.064,0.8320000000000001,0.104,0.7517,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,5,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,15,1,17,0,0,0,1,25,24,5,1,6,6,2,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,2,2,1,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,17,4,17,15,2,20,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,3,7,90,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824480574208818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310609124222958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186391698551354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961580605337848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552241515448332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867367369780253,0.0,0.17834562064250795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22000751298467314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21426114873245328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995204397799473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536093621813245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202738639524875,0.0,0.1293889024571042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295733763397536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185835692270588,0.0,0.0,0.18594935362143247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177719229133461,0.0,0.19144653171005246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429483255902505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469450402309899,0.0,0.1470385527097067,0.0,0.0,0.4304268969076956,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,longviewpnk,2018/01/07,"Nitpicker extraordinaire Somehow a week into Christmas vacation my oldest child came up with lice. We started the standard treatment for the whole family but over the next 3 days all 4 of the children wound up with lice. Being a detail oriented person I picked those nits everyday, with 3 long haired blondes, this was hours of work everyday. In addition, all of our linens, and pillows have been going through the wash as often as they can and I have cleaned and put delousing spray on basically the whole house. Yesterday and today I was unable to find a single sign of lice on anyone. Horray! I got into bed just now for my Sunday snooze and guess what I just found in my hair. I could just die, I have no one to pick my hair. ",5.10546762589928,6.520642604316549,5.4511438848920895,80.73801079136692,69.0,8.725467625899281,28.288489208633088,9.120678840339163,2.3293677697841724,578,20,107,11,10,184,95,139,0.064,0.936,0.0,-0.857,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,9,0,9,5,3,2,2,29,15,8,1,1,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,3,13,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,4,14,0,23,7,5,25,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,3,13,77,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568251842303387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23829583832379456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634978381186075,0.0,0.0,0.13436791784769114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21623344699890107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964129664304725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904272810676205,0.0,0.0,0.2284440080337478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840958139997868,0.0,0.1666357892722342,0.0,0.2295199968958625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518187131284613,0.2404068604303797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184382376057068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215816061871752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118272613668478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192237692270455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944836796283525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474705484876864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749056260150216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712506148981707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652286059631366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516806088852527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forvrknight,2018/01/07,"I accidentally fed my 2 year old expired yogurt. How long does food poisoning take to show? We just got back late last night from a long road trip and while we were gone the house lost power for several hours. We bought some yogurt to replace what was in the fridge but never threw out the old stuff. This morning being half asleep I didn't even think to check and fed half of the cup to my 2 year old. 

It's been hours now and I didn't notice any bad smell but its sell by date was Dec 26th. I just realized what I did but he has been acting fine and hasn't acted sick or anything.

How long would it take before food poisoning would show up? I'm stuck in the house with no car atm.


Edit: Thanks all glad to know I was freaked out over nothing. I'm still gonna pay more attention in the future.
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parenting,northernmagnolia,2018/01/07,"My 12 month old doesn't sleep anymore and it's getting worse! Help! What's some sleep training techniques you've tried? When baby was born, we were blessed with long naps and sleeping right through the night...sometimes 12 hr stints! Then she turned 6 months and she started waking more. I was told it was a growth spurt, to make sure she was eating lots of carb rich foods before bed. She eats well, and I'm sure it has to do with teething (she has 8 now). It's now getting to waking every hour! Ahh!",1.5786545454545475,3.993611120000004,1.407454545454545,101.16372727272729,82.8,3.6363636363636367,20.090909090909093,3.1291,-0.7404999999999999,392,11,86,0,11,114,74,100,0.03,0.773,0.197,0.9483,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,9,9,6,1,2,12,16,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,6,0,8,5,7,10,3,13,1,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,11,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474222504923866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413523005795348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33995584394572104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995971590265505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008678702241243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357728610424072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134391112385507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16359058969970816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700724501834012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122570259824965,0.0,0.0,0.1108835783982264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651840742842773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558884140430889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743105758195735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418619753081867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987072644973071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429276189872669,0.0,0.11757760973754025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31312432857513256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873075416682944,0.0,0.11278171592325455,0.1806862759913988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149358043113435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928617963773526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moretaj,2018/01/07,"Can a child submit art to a museum? My 5 year old asked... My 5 year old wants to submit her artwork to a museum.  She thinks her art should be in  a museum - Has anyone done this for an enthusiastically artistic child?  Are there any kid-friendly museums out there that might actually respond with some encouragement?

(please note - I am not looking to have her art actually accepted by the Moma - just a way to encourage her path as an artist.)  ",4.076282271944926,6.144227746987956,5.952358003442343,73.50602409638556,72.73493975903614,9.562134251290876,26.314974182444054,9.957137785484203,2.792574526678141,345,12,64,10,7,119,59,83,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.907,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,13,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,3,11,9,1,7,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,2,4,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.4630445219307133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133847340947507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16589106362837547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217971879341424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24278962971802945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832991452106684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923066414782928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251685284593757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4979089728755414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604298003690498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520205385181924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399364898910405,0.1883184011639896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30556308259935044
parenting,Lasat,2018/01/07,"The God discussion My seven year old son’s best friend comes from a very religious family. Church, Sunday school, bible camps, the whole nine yards. 

Because of this the kid is naturally talking about god often, which is fine. My son is now beginning to repeat all of this stuff at home. We’re not a family of believers and I have no problem if my son does believe but the stage he’s at now, he’s just regurgitating what his friend is saying. 

I’ve tried to explain that people believe different things but he just can’t wrap his head around it and just claims that this god thing is true, simply because his friend says it. 

Anyone been in a similar situation? I feel like it’s too early to start a big discussion about religion but on the other hand I wish he’d think a bit more critical about it. Should I let it go for now?",3.6602532833020653,5.301561329268296,4.655609756097562,84.15355534709195,72.90243902439025,8.460787992495309,24.20075046904315,9.057496981413335,1.736853283302064,654,19,133,14,13,213,107,164,0.039,0.757,0.204,0.9813,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,0,10,0,11,2,2,0,2,21,19,6,0,4,8,3,2,1,3,1,0,2,2,1,16,4,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,0,2,1,4,11,7,16,15,5,19,1,0,0,0,20,6,0,2,11,85,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038403406653,0.0,0.0,0.1278033486762965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750318666740125,0.0,0.0,0.4852460094574741,0.15066268230582933,0.0,0.1567358719582815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366859453724227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999494049043974,0.0,0.0,0.1256347590589827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706807395518961,0.0,0.0725908123660219,0.10256291374182383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327540477722191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159133698212931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733917897631876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400746945385354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468050095436623,0.0,0.07013864079928746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150647389322724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995299420861996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737238182890435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22833740976887365,0.0,0.1452955140648736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613731523230148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161609452831344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434765598270992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539216404690687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075650475476308,0.09199069909882826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747125776672202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845621700111165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602852721632515,0.1650927438156071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924511972562952
parenting,steayks,2018/01/07,"Tips for a single mama with a newborn? Single and pregnant by choice, but becoming a little intimidated. I’ve got some time, and I really want to prepare myself for when my little boy comes. Everything feels like its coming too quick, so I just want to be able to catch up while I have the time. Any tips/tricks/advice? The chance of getting parental help with him is pretty slim, but I have a nice support network of friends.

Also, what were the baby things you’d recommend to someone? I got the awesome advice to put together a spreadsheet for baby stuff, and I want a jumping off point. What do you consider when buying furniture, toys, etc.? What are the unexpected things you wish you’d had?",4.7593181818181804,6.4125702348484825,5.380727272727274,79.99609090909092,70.13636363636363,8.007272727272726,28.35151515151515,8.548686976883017,2.1640096969696967,549,20,99,9,10,177,88,132,0.023,0.68,0.297,0.991,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,4,0,0,7,4,0,0,11,0,10,0,0,0,0,16,21,10,0,4,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,7,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,13,4,15,14,4,16,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,7,71,20,0,0.16543216085679954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233167858987719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229603926818911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249954229314224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827068243215553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850103164270616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450058937212246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867975905078076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836474712094626,0.11818476877100632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781247710574514,0.0,0.08643147608703901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646224231053684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088569026202508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808217974934168,0.33161297153313113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369283705517156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638686440960173,0.0,0.0,0.1683039815267583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630501433051234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059800783774449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017013304631304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893802448833204,0.0,0.18773045568049487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198115535480705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929296467315928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29272852401849553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902388206592262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bama_girl_28,2018/01/07,Overdue letter.. I'm not sure if I can post this here. My friend has a daughter that he hasn't really seen in 3 years. His little girl will be 5 in June. He got to see her on fathers day this past summer. She knew exactly who he was and was so excited. He has a terrible relationship with his little girls mother. Its her way or the highway. Anyway he got her some thing's for Christmas and hes going to take them to her. He wants to write something meaningful in her card to her fitting the situation. He asked me to help but I don't have a clue. I'm not sleeping with him. Hes just a friend. Maybe yall could help me think of something? ,0.12852777777777644,2.3391179777777817,2.297662037037039,93.61760416666668,87.74074074074073,5.449074074074074,19.54861111111111,6.9077264865688965,0.2673055555555557,497,15,112,7,16,167,91,135,0.027000000000000003,0.8540000000000001,0.119,0.8996,0,0,2,0,0,0,15,0,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,6,0,13,1,1,0,2,19,25,6,0,3,6,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,6,2,19,4,14,16,1,15,0,0,2,0,35,7,0,3,5,68,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182011604049542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544645897759096,0.0,0.0,0.12556083062445308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30083854309830044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064847645646972,0.0,0.31142743666683337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26099712848283074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3902669187218228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559521251653111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185856427680318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864620048614976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472527369192615,0.0,0.0,0.20902734056123826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514505491830544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21884300596067305,0.19483353074502352,0.0,0.0,0.2997682522984606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349577851032292,0.0,0.1463848503999019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293453288423184,0.12475136552401735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483493198161533,0.1545381823239364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537586098418968
parenting,xboxxxdude,2018/01/07,"dry patchy skin on baby? my kid is 1 and has always had dry skin. however it's super cold outside and has started to get worse. on his arms and legs it's super dry and patchy, and it feels like his skin has peeled and hardened back in place. it hasn't, that's just how rough it feels. i've always used this scent free dermatologist recommended etc lotion, and ive started to use aquaphor but it just comes back. i only use dreft newborn for his clothes. his mom does have eczema and it flairs up randomly. if anyone has any advice it'd be greatly appreciated. ",2.7997321428571453,4.8143852232142885,3.7387142857142885,88.20628571428574,76.23214285714286,6.265714285714287,22.807142857142853,7.1686216300943375,0.6808542857142861,443,13,92,5,10,142,73,112,0.018000000000000002,0.8490000000000001,0.133,0.9009,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,11,5,5,4,0,20,20,11,0,1,4,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,9,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,7,6,7,17,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,5,49,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219678702507853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273127659767879,0.0,0.0,0.1337514877888436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752563850567506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024748587369306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694253731182173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211900895158447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193540331225345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988981198676767,0.14051069306498098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275898268371908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168441934811665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608959681227154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23035327473837305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958662351822802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549233904962472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27842711069366793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5096140426063368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004372345301001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theaudacious69,2018/01/07,"My 5 year old stepson gets easily frustrated, then turns depressed and violent Background, my DH and I have been married for two years. I’ve been in my stepsons life since he was 18 months. 

Describing SS’s mother as a helicopter parent is putting it lightly. For example, if SS falls and scrapes his knee during a tball game (and is obviously fine and his coach tells him to get up and keep playing) she will run out in the middle of the field, pick him up, and pull him out of the game for several minutes. Most tball games are spent with him in her lap. 

SS is in kindergarten now, and we’re trying to teach him to do things more on his own like tie his shoes. 

If he tries to do something like tie his shoes one time, and he doesn’t  get it, he’ll start crying and screaming saying “I’m just so stupid, I’m the worst!” And screams, and cries, and is inconsolable for several minutes. Like nearly an hour. He will say things like that, throw himself in the floor, throw objects like his game system across the room, etc. all while screaming that he’s a failure. 

His father and I try to calm him down and say things like practice makes perfect, no one is good at things right away, and try to encourage him and acknowledge his feelings. But he is unconsolable. It’s like he won’t hear you, it’s unlike anything I’ve ever seen. 

The teacher has also told us recently that he has these meltdowns in class if he can’t get something right the first time. His mother will just say that he gets that from her, or will try to blame us for the situation by saying we put too much pressure on him. 

He’s always been a little like this, but since he’s started school it’s accelerated so much, to the point where he has at least one meltdown a day. It’s all very traumatic, screaming, throwing things, putting himself down and everything. 

Our situation is especially difficult because he’s with his Mom every day except a couple hours during the week and every other weekend. She has full custody. She doesn’t see this as a problem, but it’s definitely a problem that I only see getting worse in the future. 

We’re clueless on how to handle this situation, I want my stepson to be able to handle his frustrations in a more positive way, we’ve done everything we can think of to try to solve this problem, but it’s only getting worse. 

I’m very worried and at my wits end. Any advice is appreciated. 

Thank you. ",5.353567375886524,5.9676637468085145,5.659148936170214,82.39333333333335,67.91489361702128,8.564539007092199,30.56028368794326,8.548686976883017,2.1856794326241133,1891,70,374,27,30,603,230,470,0.14,0.769,0.09,-0.9819,1,0,2,0,0,0,54,5,2,0,2,10,30,4,1,22,0,31,5,3,3,5,54,57,36,0,7,11,5,1,8,0,6,2,10,1,0,25,26,0,1,3,7,1,9,5,15,0,5,8,15,42,15,51,42,12,65,0,1,3,0,66,32,0,5,30,229,67,3,0.07228271365043201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063383121051219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057804459991225327,0.06014500820462105,0.0,0.0,0.0491547239621614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948251444795623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791198887601213,0.0,0.0,0.044062871337411234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997944781501662,0.15879833362049975,0.09323274100965244,0.0,0.062256995350219224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397031208654191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402102964821196,0.0,0.0806143327926731,0.0,0.06538385276027017,0.12180260755673102,0.0,0.12992608442545275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036548311874195216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614836393054161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643531416635529,0.0,0.0,0.06062731077986155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146787163164948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236782540360787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424819708257995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051055418305103586,0.28250946198964466,0.07244626842795959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04824927264613352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465664061562027,0.05769537241846118,0.0,0.1062722229773914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584854871492544,0.0,0.14694191238259632,0.10994852182995417,0.0,0.0,0.08026139942636606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833052823745163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20749438490926356,0.0,0.2179922755144741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137045947825182,0.0,0.0,0.12345808502286296,0.0,0.2874105755525672,0.0,0.07315396520414409,0.11519992860981985,0.0,0.0,0.16331778393708374,0.0,0.11958601536117999,0.24374639601020234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129352876395987,0.0,0.0,0.1023241535177224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317827772004715,0.06654821124046557,0.0,0.0,0.2401071155070803,0.04631584425914138,0.0,0.0,0.08429726322350425,0.0,0.0,0.06906923050062974,0.0,0.2944513068402342,0.07862283594793308,0.07060970814738984,0.0,0.1738944091713574,0.0,0.0,0.11928161763954732,0.04263421729155844,0.05737465361233458,0.05798083286430152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340660439843093,0.1473245209895584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309539541804113
parenting,britty9898,2018/01/07,"Unusual partner relationship and finances regarding child My boyfriend (35M) and I (28F)have a baby together but do not live together for a variety of reasons. We are in a relationship but don’t live together so it’s unclear what the steps should be in caring and paying for our son. I have a house and all the necessities for our child while he rents a room and has a mattress and dresser although he does have a good job and makes $90,000+/year. I pay double a month for living expenses as well as gas, insurance, food (for me and the baby and for him as he’s over quite often). If we weren’t in a relationship he would be paying child support of $800+ per month and I’ve expressed to him that he needs to start helping financially. Add on to that the expense of daycare ($350/month). What should he be paying to me or towards the daycare expenses? I make a quarter of what he does and pay for everything while he pays nothing and gets to save every penny he makes minus his cheap room rent. ",5.588636363636365,5.836342863636364,6.3995454545454535,78.56931818181819,67.33333333333333,9.630303030303034,33.671717171717184,9.516144504307137,3.0170323232323235,789,34,155,15,12,261,109,198,0.032,0.856,0.112,0.9541,4,0,0,0,0,0,26,4,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,15,0,13,1,0,4,1,32,21,23,0,5,5,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,4,6,15,1,0,1,0,13,1,3,0,1,1,1,0,14,5,25,14,2,14,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,4,5,99,20,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517598090766194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605146648712591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541032499649532,0.0,0.13377441419494213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998682494955967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776660491895702,0.0,0.0,0.12484610799526012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976925139041858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174987492230873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477080425314967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943048517007765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29807031646237026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35642564067881644,0.0,0.0,0.11036843532921063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428230614375988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831749497713807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530398820184478,0.0,0.4794190972709502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053549312700219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689102262173452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383165725146426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573689766706486,0.0,0.0,0.09585282309835567
parenting,Blkeyedpea,2018/01/07,"To parent or not My husband and I just became foster parents for the very first time and I might add - parents for the first time of a two-year-old (not potty trained)  and a five-year-old. Neither of us have ANY experience with children nor have been around children our entire lives.  All of our friends do not have children ironically so we haven’t had any opportunity to get any experience to see if it was for us. 

We became foster parents for two reasons. Since we can’t have children we figured we would love the opportunity to help children out that really need it and it would give us experience to see if you wanted to be parents forever. We are at that point our life where we need to decide should we or should we not have a family of our own. It has been a little over 30 days. Oh Boy. I must say our lives are very different than being single together versus being an instant parents of two kids.  I honestly don’t know how I feel about doing this the rest of my life. I have a new admiration for moms and dads. This is a lot of work!!  There is so much to do and we are unable to do things like we used to together. I’m not sure I feel about that. I’m wiped out. I never realized how much care children need,  how demanding they are and how they just don’t realize how much you do for them. There is no appreciation from them for all that you do, but I’m learning I guess that’s why they are kids. I feel like I’m always too busy cleaning and doing laundry and don’t have much time to sit down and do nothing with them and try enjoy maybe the more positive sides.  I’m still trying to figure out what the positive sides are. Sometimes I think maybe this just isn’t for me. Why would I choose to kill myself with 100% caregiving on top of working full-time and my normal things? My husband seems OK with it.  He is very easy-going and I’m more uptight.... nothing that a glass of wine can’t solve!  Lol. ..but who drinks wine anymore when you have kiddies??

I thought by now I would have an epiphany or where I would know that this is for me or not. Maybe I just don’t have enough time invested yet,  or maybe being hit with two kids at once is too much to decide?

I would just love some opinions.  Is there a moment in life where you have an epiphany this is for you? I’ve never had it. I am in my 40s and I’m still waiting for it.",2.5732216193212025,4.055926921161831,3.796390041493777,89.85703106713481,75.43153526970954,6.769315884668582,23.562293861049053,7.419758726546812,0.8004246621981062,1824,54,402,22,39,595,199,482,0.023,0.855,0.122,0.9929,7,0,3,0,0,1,52,19,6,6,7,28,15,1,1,17,2,62,8,0,7,6,105,92,32,1,16,21,10,3,2,1,10,3,1,1,10,23,35,3,2,17,3,1,0,19,2,0,5,6,6,57,13,55,71,16,36,0,0,2,2,59,19,0,13,18,293,80,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055667907020207415,0.0,0.0,0.13648716750458387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634890655183086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059557053501873625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821115023714229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043146320141042464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989845562204983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553858858100116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912775386119173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963292753468358,0.06306934620410662,0.0,0.10148313656736296,0.04779487395515136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381378499354508,0.0,0.0,0.051688396877951966,0.0,0.03495358622177327,0.06417859097199917,0.03802200546592822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370020629526425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484306772027639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401726181735471,0.0,0.07353528957248268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176479631112268,0.06536997388405064,0.06705348049979623,0.11815156086557245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056877773391778214,0.12076351544273226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688486087682807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709725561647913,0.0,0.0783549315082042,0.0,0.0,0.24590370855921,0.1488211793916711,0.10319804855755134,0.0646144655431344,0.0,0.0,0.06554985381574614,0.1283887395526456,0.0,0.14040500063164782,0.07124855356965379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44572119156203455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324410962956455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042859198697774034,0.06878650182911401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053203235560471095,0.0,0.0,0.10662462448701213,0.06090515961564396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534210886957519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616788806332316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685620773880043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305443795458883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889356560042094,0.042868164603262836,0.0,0.0531127947490544,0.1560446112242259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084426932209552,0.0,0.26141452367918216,0.0,0.2414249683402969,0.057781934363483674,0.0,0.1656037183681374,0.039460592240528516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073747946581935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974110519085314,0.0,0.0,0.2851519960229841,0.0,0.0,0.08616551848342385
parenting,theaartzvolta,2018/01/07,"Advice on transitioning 10 week old into his own room? Hey all. My wife and I are wanting to transition our 10 week old into sleeping in his own room, in his crib. Since he was 2 weeks he's been sleeping next to our bed in a bassinet.

Yesterday we had him napping in his crib, trying to familiarize him with his room. He's never been a good napper, only 2 naps for about 30 minutes each. But around 7pm he goes down to sleep until at least 1am.

But last night he wouldn't stay asleep as we put him in his crib. He'd be asleep in our arms and awake 30 seconds after being put down. Is he too use to sleeping beside us? Should we use his bassinet in the crib so it's a bit more familiar to him?

Any help would be appreciated.",1.7861840120663643,3.321558568627456,3.4222222222222207,91.4892307692308,77.69281045751634,6.2763197586727015,21.573152337858215,7.010146845296331,0.36614871794871817,563,15,129,6,13,187,95,153,0.016,0.939,0.045,0.629,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,13,7,7,2,2,20,16,7,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,1,10,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,21,1,26,5,7,32,0,0,0,0,28,17,0,0,12,78,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437211075560493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001682265257496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309289517845718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056905891030626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233604931814844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858204034952216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988668888177753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343419065743805,0.0,0.15641714968310974,0.13802099969457876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30866334845519977,0.0,0.0,0.11185803644472092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295704298621715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166290771273942,0.0,0.5887294500440233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676360240141332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985504871898272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691449448230398,0.254053135723306,0.0,0.0,0.08674932145003232,0.0,0.3539268381794677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447867421052877,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omi01751,2018/01/07,"How can i keep my ex-wife out of my life? I (45M) and my ex-wife(40F) was married for 15 years,having two kids together.She walked out from our marriage,reason 'she had been fallen out of love with me'.She is a stay at home mom(by her wish),so court sided by her,court awarded our marital home and car to her,i agreed to give maximum marital property to her(just to make her happy enough to agree for shared custody of kids).I was still okay,because she agreed for shared custody of our kids.i had paid all my child support(full,even if it was shared custody) and spousal support properly to her,It took me two years to get back on my emotional and financial stability again.She was not even interested on me those two years.She was already married to her second husband.I finally met my second wife,we got married a year after,things were becoming more nasty after that,she(ex-wife) was always present in my life after that.Making nasty comments about my wife on her face.our baby(new wife) took birth a year after,my ex-wife came to the hospital,made a lot of nasty comments on my baby,she even physically assaulted me in public,but i complained to police.they told me drop the charge,she was little upset,it will affect my kids if i took any action(i agreed to the point).some months after that she divorced her second husband,as much as i heard that man made her invest money on share business and lost almost all money on that.She had took me to court after her second divorce,for more money,but this time court sided by me.Later she spread a rumor to a friend of my wife that i am still sleeping with her,but my wife trust me,so she did not believe her.after all of these craps,now she is threatening me to divorce my wife,otherwise she sell the house,apply for sole custody of our kids and move to another state.i am completely tired of dancing on her crazy tactics,she does not love me,but she loves to make my life hell.i really wish to suicide,but i am damn sure this lazy women will do nothing to feed my kids,as a result my kids will reduce to poverty.She is my first love,even after divorce i expected her to come back,she was emotionless towards me,but when i moved on,she came back,but as a horrible and completely different person,i cant recognize her.I even offered my separate property to calm her down.but she is adamant on her demand(give divorce to your wife,or lose your kids).and court always agree to give sole custody to mother(i am in great fear of losing my kids).i will pay her properly no issue,please give me suggestion to keep her away from my life(not from my kids life,just my life).and how can I stop her to do 'what she is planning'?",11.657779129905693,7.371840838150291,10.34177061149985,69.56958929114697,58.73025048169556,13.39259709968563,43.693438799310414,10.5429385540328,4.476612331406551,2141,85,402,32,19,672,233,519,0.112,0.77,0.118,0.4807,2,0,0,0,5,1,88,4,2,0,6,10,23,2,1,12,0,32,9,1,7,4,38,59,14,0,4,5,4,0,0,1,4,4,1,2,8,9,15,1,3,0,1,6,13,5,7,0,8,27,1,69,16,72,28,8,54,0,3,0,3,66,20,1,4,19,232,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684393080003493,0.0,0.08468439452688165,0.0,0.127707498591221,0.0,0.0,0.05218576760180138,0.08046848251403665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209966780787619,0.17702475252110586,0.0,0.04677993442201618,0.08475319702602076,0.0,0.08645959516710101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17554001743381756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610463400118728,0.16092066280112333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017686851098171,0.0,0.0,0.06715560887950718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632206533821414,0.0,0.07929283676533601,0.0,0.2534299208002691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635372921101278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406481600328282,0.0,0.06527492483886872,0.0,0.0,0.059289061012095925,0.0,0.04009343356087434,0.22084773134639205,0.0,0.0,0.06137591315002228,0.08460601727790355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169105690708542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395276540993388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641990887253155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252219904480249,0.0,0.07691354610615901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717046510069083,0.08377067256614386,0.06524152383406095,0.27704304515481964,0.07261315454813018,0.10244896629692556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987685042269372,0.061253060825790136,0.16312475083558808,0.05641266071491029,0.0,0.0,0.0741158794090009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363400949130491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700632592085079,0.0,0.08423737222398067,0.07254401569731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049161548819591734,0.07890140437871873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767953266398399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817945292239368,0.12256917611715187,0.06415799759943107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416707183385188,0.07232645322315444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04474765631311498,0.08820123304790575,0.0,0.07332826879702863,0.34104343676217497,0.0,0.0,0.2248912122452705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17649420933454465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825395033721012
parenting,M33rah,2018/01/07,"Need help in airport dubai My gurlfriend is pregnant. And its quitebig now. But still she can hide it. But my questions are, how to deal in dubai airport? What are the things we needed for her to pass airport and plane. Thanks ",1.1386378737541565,3.7225103720930255,0.8010631229235905,100.26046511627912,96.44186046511628,2.4571428571428573,22.421926910299007,3.1291,-0.3981468438538198,178,7,35,0,7,51,34,43,0.036000000000000004,0.846,0.118,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,7,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,2,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926767017635919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552998313292768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5648442286764453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4266794468397952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041760209445566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506686197988597,0.0,0.0,0.2530437084011521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MarieMarion,2018/01/07,"I think it's been a while, and I need a good laugh, so: Stupid reasons for your kid's recent freakout? My 2 year old screamed her tiny head off because she didn't want her Dotty book in her bed with her.  
Her Dotty book was not, and had never been, in her bed.",2.3073214285714267,2.9802893750000017,3.145000000000003,97.45000000000002,74.89285714285714,5.6000000000000005,21.142857142857142,3.1291,-0.4690214285714287,199,4,49,0,4,63,42,56,0.171,0.718,0.111,-0.3643,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,0,5,1,1,1,1,9,8,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,1,11,2,5,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,5,30,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22142316867125136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046621986592116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727813511709631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693323060679707,0.2801473067879269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811514203640928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734635199044958,0.3586482861315529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327447278007052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142439473412255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23390982948340056
parenting,thenapkeeper,2018/01/07,"How old were your kids when you taught them how to navigate the television? We aren't a particularly tablet heavy household. Sure they have their place with us, but time is limited. Did you teach your kids to use the tv remote? What age? What rules did you instill? Just wondering how it works in others homes. ",2.689753694581281,5.566995758620691,2.696600985221675,90.48706896551724,82.79310344827586,6.762561576354681,20.354679802955662,7.957251820313856,0.9812334975369468,246,7,49,5,7,74,48,58,0.056,0.916,0.028,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,5,3,2,5,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,4,1,11,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,10,1,4,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,4,33,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34762954157664666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636581011289744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36208310998907467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266302064906929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020828558595514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168709336409278,0.2993179507232896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37583127173240427,0.252300972235085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheLTrain42,2018/01/07,"The Magic Words Are apparently not ""please"" and ""thank you"" as we've all been taught, at least not when talking to a toddler. The magic words I've stumbled upon are ""almost done"" and ""last time"". 

It started out as ""last bite"" when DS was around 1. It not only stopped tantrums when the food was, in fact, gone, but he would also take a single bite of almost anything we put in front of him. Eventually he started struggling with moving from one activity to the next so ""last bite"" morphed into ""last time"" or ""almost done"".

My wife and I get a tantrum every single time we forget to warn him he's almost done with something but we rarely get one when we do. 

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parenting,icecreamw,2018/01/07,"Please suggest music that will entertain children that isn't actually adult-demoralizing children's music. My wife and her family absolutely love Raffi, they even went to his concert.  I really do not like his music, nor his genre; it's cringe-inducing for me. Please save me. ",6.130306122448977,8.543229734693881,7.248724489795919,64.91145408163266,67.9795918367347,10.614285714285714,30.617346938775512,10.686352973137794,4.050751020408164,223,9,34,7,4,75,40,49,0.044,0.6859999999999999,0.27,0.9046,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,9,4,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,10,0,0,0,1,21,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.3179504622807707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151991029897859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071513382018638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591777635662225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940626279377971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7152986073457392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087267591403018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30203568966770283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blakeisbetterthanyou,2018/01/07,"How to avoid people that are ""just trying to help. Hello world, I am a 24 year old father of a 4month old baby boy. The reason I am writing today is because my son is a little more fussy than other babies. (Gets the worst gas) my wife and I usually remedy this by trying to push the air bubbles out of his stomach like the Dr. suggested. The only problem with this is that at a family gathering we are always met with people that try giving us advice like ""I bet he's just hungry"" or ""don't you think your pushing too hard"" or ""did you feed him"" or the best one ""can I hold him""

My wife does a great job at ignoring them and continuing the task at hand. I on the other hand have a tough time dealing with this because I am already stressed out dealing with a crying baby. And the suggestions usually come from people on my side of the family so I become a little more short tempered with them. 

My question is, does anyone out there have any good advice of ways to avoid this situation?",5.862878787878787,5.391849227272734,6.865353535353536,77.90136363636364,66.82828282828282,9.422222222222222,28.60606060606061,8.841846274778883,2.107933333333334,769,21,150,11,11,259,118,198,0.105,0.765,0.13,0.8126,1,2,0,0,0,0,22,2,3,2,1,8,13,1,3,18,0,14,5,3,2,0,29,19,8,0,1,5,4,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,9,13,1,4,3,0,1,3,1,8,0,1,2,3,23,5,24,17,4,26,0,0,0,0,27,14,0,5,10,105,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475274514295729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976459934604138,0.0,0.1053853397299858,0.0,0.0,0.08612829956664715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855863652156848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441283670869835,0.1398781521886862,0.0,0.0,0.1329143806956761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910023904297796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912223837610355,0.0,0.2611471100419996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216695725658015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23879412149823284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617090090032997,0.12149698048681427,0.0,0.10623042433902677,0.0,0.13963524416953607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345610075608473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489275381811327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568343770078624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375239657223434,0.2538789115956483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658017785002033,0.0,0.08582326735152028,0.09632522026133196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634154737709435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118969857721905,0.0,0.0,0.14188020826814265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022025170565613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236314045161955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508044284716892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115404965155047,0.0,0.0,0.0738523111751316,0.0,0.12005211839543012,0.0,0.0,0.25796696959226795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234781684060558,0.0,0.2789805015695162,0.0,0.0,0.10053115866665682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156030039974155
parenting,bluelinebrotha,2018/01/07,"5 y/o random vomiting Hello,

My 5 year old daughter has been sick for a few weeks now with the bad cough and cold going around. About 5 days ago the come subsided but she still has a little bit of a stuffed up nose. We noticed that for a week now her poop started to be very wet and she complained of stomach aches throughout the day. 

Yesterdar she had full on diarrhea, liquid and pale/green stool. Today she had only one poop and it was more solid and half pale, half brown. She has had an appetite through all of this and we haven't given her any new foods.

Tonight she came into our room and started freaking out, threw up three times saying her stomach hurt. Once the episode was over she feel asleep. It's been about an hour now and she's asleep at the end of our bed.

She had the stomach flu last year and built up a phobia to vomiting. I don't blame her... She also frequently complains about throwing up in her mouth. I give her half of a Tums and she feels better. When she gets really upset or eats good she doesn't like, it can also trigger her gag reflex.

What gets me now is the days of increasingly worse diarrhea, then a day where she's totally fine and then your random episode of puking. I keep having this gut feeling that something is not right but my wife thinks I'm crazy and overreacting (I'm a bit of a hypochondriac about health issues, always have been).

This random vomiting happens at least once a month or every few months. I'm tired, I love my daughter, I just was hoping someone had an idea of what might be going on.

Thank you in advance",2.044810303514378,4.3743494345047935,2.8144638578274765,92.30575329472843,80.21405750798722,5.573841853035145,21.60233626198083,6.770275591412753,0.443683785942492,1235,37,254,13,32,387,179,313,0.156,0.757,0.087,-0.9739,0,0,1,0,0,0,33,4,2,0,2,15,13,0,1,20,0,25,21,10,1,2,40,48,21,0,1,6,3,4,1,0,1,8,1,2,0,10,20,2,1,5,0,0,8,4,6,0,5,14,8,36,7,33,31,10,57,0,1,1,1,36,19,0,7,31,165,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631700691684852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918273189378149,0.09979727925091518,0.0,0.0,0.08156134416116971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676945151774153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001424728282908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607462271238252,0.26188051025996983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717609641410267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331519592772813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093980420856827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227256006597062,0.0,0.0,0.10622867573643197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105218373629536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819314118563057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450284233409299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253243741938783,0.11505459982244184,0.13632604135038395,0.10059755322578867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605998577847636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748753401338903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912460735667252,0.11811388885185795,0.0,0.1283951514103351,0.13539439265510525,0.0,0.12518317689374395,0.0,0.10660560962606094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977647482983503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859521120457716,0.12020848773342345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824791984352616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723431481190525,0.0,0.0,0.191465305753781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583600330287384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365491888841677,0.12585381601624726,0.2554582048228778,0.08127248628746983,0.0912175728612357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768347805740134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242563227269834,0.0,0.09537879975177074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162231978435514,0.09233344296080176,0.0,0.0,0.16978420034427852,0.0,0.09578192691465716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104219721480289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768508539818654,0.0,0.0,0.0699362903849234,0.13785005863957925,0.113686351582389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896067238511233,0.0,0.0,0.1924126221372687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222615642250965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544711265463723
parenting,overcast95,2018/01/07,How do you feel about your child bringing home multiple BF/GF within gaps of a few months. As a parent what goes through your mind when you see your child bringing home a new person and introducing them to you as their new significant other. Like they're bringing new BF/GF after every break up. Do you talk to them about it? What are your concerns? ,4.625588235294117,6.061875088235299,4.637529411764707,86.03688235294119,70.17647058823529,7.2047058823529415,25.364705882352943,7.554174236665415,1.1336258823529421,278,8,55,3,5,86,46,68,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.5661,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,8,3,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,8,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,11,1,11,8,1,12,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,0,7,36,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558636227825152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737599892605645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4657068857345243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134109504880774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343933070577233,0.0,0.18529041763510573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6726012739907725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257761889668136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026940359662965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184984011619083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865838124933953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,okwu,2018/01/07,"Can unemotional parenting affect children when they're older? ""My parents never told me they loved me"" We interviewed a few African children raised in the diaspora (interview here: https://youtu.be/NSFEeqZH8VA). One girl mentioned that due to the distant parenting she faced growing up, she still finds it difficult to hug people or express verbal affection. Did anyone experience something similar growing up? And did this affect you in any way? ",7.638857142857143,11.645011385714293,7.039642857142859,60.17660714285717,70.85714285714286,9.785714285714286,38.75,9.827888789773867,5.511000000000001,367,21,43,11,8,114,58,70,0.032,0.7859999999999999,0.182,0.8966,3,0,1,0,0,0,16,1,1,1,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,3,3,1,3,1,8,5,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,3,0,8,2,6,2,1,12,0,0,0,2,17,4,0,1,5,31,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561632125059492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056976909956636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246321827002326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098869849469292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072592486515134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771126811597608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15561014445663565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7649648068999151,0.0,0.0,0.1592036021254382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678824721182526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339096248151374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219431054654995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822777039988133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Espadajin,2018/01/07,"The classic "" car ride "" trick version 2.0 New parent here. A few months ago our son scared us with a unexpectedly early delivery. All is well but needless to say that the Mom's relation with the baby is closer to being just one person than 2 separated being. It might all seem very obvious to most but I just got here, plenty of learning. So since i am not nearly as needed as i expected, free time and devotion to my son made me come up with a few ideas. I like to build things so I was thinking of making a new crib. 
My basic development ideas are to make something that has many functions ( the Multi-tool syndrome, don't look it up ). 
"" I came up"" ( commas will be relevant later) With an idea of mixing the cars driving ability to make a child sleep in a normal crib.
And so i start my research; What makes them fall asleep? 
And not 4 pages later I found [THIS](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ic6vWoSd8Fk)
Its what I was going for.... only a billion times better.Had to share!  Give me your thoughts. Pro's and Con's. 
And big thx to the community, You guys make a huge difference to a lot of clueless parents out there ( me included )",3.4097332372025946,5.447002013698633,4.476952655611633,83.49469358327327,74.52511415525116,7.350252343186735,25.224945926459988,8.20500826718156,1.6158986301369862,887,30,170,15,19,289,149,219,0.03,0.848,0.122,0.9664,2,0,1,0,0,0,46,2,2,1,0,9,7,1,1,16,0,13,2,2,6,3,41,31,12,0,3,6,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,8,12,0,0,8,0,1,8,3,2,1,2,7,2,20,6,28,19,8,27,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,4,11,111,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134024680565766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314393023839035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463181511862229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020060238449417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336599066119007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402689410784015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272237490029425,0.07270572224445536,0.0,0.10231752589250208,0.0,0.0,0.1266710833417517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332531191397828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250026933219076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742920917505937,0.0,0.0,0.10876174319135813,0.0,0.12105071744438667,0.4269722527843949,0.12970121727223127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357138028955452,0.0,0.14983038945233454,0.10211272330431324,0.0,0.0,0.09485867635816944,0.0,0.2471117095053194,0.0,0.0,0.12534450527505714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668886377982464,0.09729673730078854,0.0,0.0,0.28410285706099536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170377979729648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173528775677664,0.1280805207913699,0.0,0.0,0.1164629157248775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582524373942867,0.0,0.12802266261503467,0.0,0.0,0.09848697418753896,0.0,0.0,0.09054970561347783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499118879532905,0.08197255327753218,0.0,0.10156234673397033,0.14919434183422048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388436666196192,0.0,0.0,0.10555587308611096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502467914695685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tigerzombie,2018/01/07,"Potty emergency! Things you have to do when your kid just had to go right now My husband and I took our 7 year old and 3 year old to see Disney on Ice. Normally after a hockey game it takes 10 min to get out of the garage. Today it took almost 40min to just get out of the garage. 30 min into the wait, cars not moving at all, our 3 year old yells, ""poopie coming!"" So the arena is a block away and the side walks are really slushy/slippery, plus it's -1F outside. There is no bathrooms in the garage. Our travel potty seat also folds into a little potty chair and you put a plastic bag in to catch the waste. Not having anywhere to go, we put the potty between the car seats and have her go. Luckily it was just pee. Unluckily, the plastic bag had a hole and started leaking. We drop the kids off at my parents and go back home to clean the car.",1.978361904761904,3.603387445714288,3.5245714285714307,90.57276190476192,77.4,5.80952380952381,20.238095238095237,6.42735559955562,0.1242380952380948,653,15,140,5,15,216,108,175,0.075,0.8909999999999999,0.034,-0.7339,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,5,3,0,0,9,0,0,0,17,0,10,1,1,0,1,25,23,11,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,5,15,0,2,0,3,0,16,3,0,0,0,5,2,12,0,24,18,1,45,0,0,1,0,14,14,0,1,14,88,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404714578281664,0.0,0.0,0.1230246806840976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445364379731536,0.11829239505263757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251834054923184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607486483417341,0.0,0.34972010866700204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431266887222458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418670188177674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350609612974182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507291745834612,0.0,0.0,0.4842832276656023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081957062113173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093005867348761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098552952706543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137733221721534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258945446601605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888775982596577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566748912533985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220353661195798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582101422266566,0.0,0.34184071190923315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972010627606297
parenting,defla8ed,2018/01/07,"3 year old meltdown today - how to handle? My son just turned 3 and is very interested in sports, so we asked if he'd like to participate in the local 3 year old soccer program. He was very excited - picked out his ball, talks soccer nonstop, etc. 

Today was a disaster. He refused to participate at first. He's always been very ""slow to warm up"". At daycare, he often still cries and clings to us at drop off even though he's been there for 2.5 years and at the end of the day never wants to leave. So I wasn't shocked when he was clingy at first.

All the parents stand inside the field on the sidelines, so he came and stood with me a little bit. All of the other kids were having fun, playing together, generally following rules. I asked my son if he wanted to play, and he said no. I was calm, reassuring, told him he could stand with me for a little and then try again, I could go with him to the circle, etc.

Eventually this escalated into a tantrum wanting to leave. The coaches tried to include him, I tried to lead him to the group. He became combative, started yelling at me and the coaches, kicking balls away if they came near him, covering his ears, scowling at everyone. I told him yelling isn't OK. He can play or we can watch the other kids nicely. This escalated into full on stomping, screaming that he wanted to leave RIGHT NOW, etc. When I asked why, he said because he hated it here and wanted to go home and watch tv!

I had no idea what to do. I felt like leaving would be rewarding the tantrum. It escalated into hitting, hair pulling. I was so shocked and so mortified. Every parent and child was just staring at us while I tried to hold back tears and wrestle him into his coat to get out. He continued screaming hysterically in the car for ten minutes before I could even get him into the carseat to leave.

Every kid tantrums, I know. But I worry this is part of a larger pattern of behavior. He goes to a great daycare center that regularly communicates about behavior and development. We know he plays well with others, has lots of friends at daycare, lots of playdates. They call him ""Mr Snuggles"" because he's very affectionate with his teachers and friends, and always offers a hug when someone is upset. His pediatrician and teachers have also commented he's very verbal for his age, so he often can explain to us why he's upset before a tantrum escalates.

But we have recently received some reports of difficulty following rules he doesn't like, of always being very dominant with classroom activities, and of trying to explain *his* rule of XX when the teacher or a friend needs him to do YY. I'm worried if this continues, he's not going to be able to maintain friendships or get along well with others, but I'm having trouble teaching him otherwise. I've noticed that most of his friends at school tend to be the quieter, more passive kids, and we have stopped getting playdate invites from some families. My husband thinks I'm totally over-analyzing this.

At home we play together, but he chooses the activity and it's basically free play and he gets to lead. We often have a hard time getting him to do things when we ask him - sit at the table for dinner, put toys away, take a bath. He eventually does it, but it's often a big drama, and eventually he will tell us that he was sad when we made him sit at the table because we weren't following HIS rules. We explain it's a family rule, but he doesn't *get* it if it's not something he wants to do. We give him a ton of positive reinforcement when he does something well or tries hard, and we also do give him time outs.

My husband thinks he's a normal toddler who's very stubborn and shy around new situations, and we should be doing more ""You do X because I'm your parent and I said so"". I worry he's becoming a brat - his way, or no way, basically, or has some emotional catch-up to do. Yet at the same time, he's so clingy towards me and seems so insecure in some situations. 

What do I do? Do I make him keep going to soccer? Is this normal 3 year old behavior, or am I clueless :(",4.585233153638813,5.730613060377357,5.66509770889488,79.73204009433962,69.96855345911949,8.445867026055707,30.674415992812214,8.790609847205072,2.449007637017071,3193,131,614,55,56,1059,330,795,0.092,0.81,0.098,-0.6199,3,0,2,0,2,0,109,18,2,2,5,40,44,6,3,37,1,55,4,2,6,4,134,112,66,0,19,22,7,5,3,4,3,0,8,3,6,26,59,1,5,11,18,1,15,11,15,3,3,23,16,77,30,92,76,20,103,0,1,3,1,126,42,0,24,42,398,103,7,0.05350180725522784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557075186467028,0.133553368730305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047627951498990365,0.20006787028217696,0.0,0.1005334181761689,0.04113958730979757,0.0,0.1304568204678624,0.059088542689883186,0.09105219475979248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058410116676117424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054631327068244584,0.12238362891179733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281505188348622,0.0,0.058769223018542316,0.034504239585540164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936395841427332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018233201574641,0.04738672105041247,0.0,0.17900597296086482,0.07067487820903268,0.0,0.09015516025311028,0.051123269601950114,0.0,0.0,0.10087348468264044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137012516879436,0.0,0.0,0.0910172198397718,0.0,0.0,0.16534145427367147,0.0,0.1956674025963719,0.10264761731343056,0.12162524005111205,0.0,0.0,0.05898593137686051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585422094953636,0.05282195815116926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733334989543293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060397028128790886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04755486454799887,0.0,0.0,0.05880638814867219,0.0,0.0,0.28325344416081644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784148416327014,0.1072457325976451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097064657132356,0.0,0.05062470364447707,0.035712871791206524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03967091216081328,0.041263892037027,0.051672378837962066,0.0,0.0,0.1048408232017069,0.0,0.06091216216766776,0.16842344022499686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782222763347496,0.05793724354435543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053784093589824285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05282658015841738,0.0,0.0,0.04569025106705623,0.1526774114709133,0.0,0.0,0.0541466852674584,0.0,0.04870603593780712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027654598545305,0.0,0.0,0.04533190766742768,0.08237661017376523,0.0,0.0,0.037868854547540964,0.0,0.0427266123851268,0.0447299065177152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04022670067386448,0.04300272605931284,0.0467629377286808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03554422341306705,0.06856359556171485,0.05256525398474873,0.0,0.09359200218198037,0.0,0.10142691495166957,0.10224653920390024,0.0,0.217945291052614,0.0581946028629844,0.0,0.0,0.2574243464970433,0.0,0.0,0.3090121590366781,0.18934051261896653,0.08493448859011506,0.0,0.0,0.14431365009359,0.0,0.09655411874812583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16300104692163025,0.0,0.03800614883227259,0.0,0.0,0.13781363898685028
parenting,hormones_and_cursing,2018/01/07,"fair price for watching my nephew I just started watching my 4 month old nephew 3 days a week and have no idea what to charge my sister. We're in agreement about me getting paid, but I have no clue what a fair price would be. On the one hand I watch him at her house and she works from home. On the other hand I now only work 4 days a week instead of 5 at my regular job and her house is an almost 50 mile round trip. 

She's a new parent and I have no kids so neither of us have a clue about daycare costs. Any advice would be appreciated.",1.3422413793103445,2.8363073620689683,2.768482758620692,95.8747931034483,78.82758620689657,5.329655172413793,20.220689655172414,5.6839178017228535,-0.3027213793103449,418,10,100,2,10,136,77,116,0.061,0.772,0.16699999999999998,0.9267,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,8,0,9,2,2,0,0,10,12,6,0,2,2,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,4,1,4,0,0,1,1,6,16,1,12,7,1,16,0,0,4,0,11,6,0,1,9,62,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964962428027154,0.0,0.0,0.1943399028763147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319788941256946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503269892072479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139712926026884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467487650497065,0.0,0.0,0.447877190629088,0.0,0.21908910890593386,0.0,0.0,0.1925912992724272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491026770530122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874406040396276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20365097743485655,0.0,0.13151147732276558,0.1476041685539971,0.0,0.0,0.21549934336782453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373685735069174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334505207957599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31135344012135363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28258047569366185,0.0,0.0,0.2757332120001976,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bicyclegeek,2018/01/07,"When Your Kid Has Trouble Enunciating Sam: ""Daddy, it won't fuck shit!""  
Me: ""I'm sorry—*what?*""  
Sam: ""This thing won't fuck shit!""  
Me: ""Uhhh...""  
Sam: ""It's *not working!*""  
Me: ""Oh, you were trying to say 'function.' Got it.""",-1.8751441241685145,-1.6535607317073158,0.5416851441241697,97.8176718403548,131.9268292682927,2.466518847006652,15.92239467849224,4.851557810540192,-0.8300926829268294,154,5,33,1,11,51,31,41,0.062,0.7859999999999999,0.152,0.5962,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,0,2,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,1,5,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,4,0,1,17,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5750637114262737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24875013505134716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473346217887814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6385126281740395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662706126440766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21116133969822545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22642538022391126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nereidite,2018/01/07,"My kids will eventually learn why I left their father, and that day will suck I have two kids, DS8 and DD9.  I left their father when they were 3 and 4 because of his third affair.  He is now engaged to the woman who was his mistress.  Our divorce was less than amicable, but we hashed things out and have gotten to a point where we co-parent pretty well and are at least polite and sometimes friendly towards each other.

Our children do not know the real reason for our divorce.  They were far too young then, and they're still to young now.  They know that their dad and I fought a lot, and we've been very general when they ask why we split.  Things just didn't work out.  Sometimes certain people just aren't meant to be married.  All the trite responses.  They've pretty well accepted everything, and though they miss seeing their dad more, they love him and look forward to their time with him.

Here's the thing: the reason for the divorce is not a secret among my family and friends.  I have no idea what my ex told everyone.  Eventually, my children are likely to find out the real reason I left.  I suspect they will be really, really mad at their dad, and possibly at the woman who will be their step mom by then.  I'm not planning on telling them myself, but once they're old enough, I don't plan to lie to them if they ask me outright.  

Anyone who's been through something like this, as the person who left, the person who cheated, or as the kid who discovered..... please tell me your perspectives.  This is a huge thing and I have time, but I feel like I should start thinking about it.  ",6.064033583422653,6.025059199356918,5.831934619506972,84.02410057163274,66.33118971061093,8.711754197927831,28.53179707038228,8.167268648758528,1.6949055376920334,1245,35,252,14,18,387,169,311,0.073,0.7829999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.9774,1,0,1,0,3,0,41,6,1,17,3,14,17,4,0,15,0,27,1,0,3,2,53,44,26,0,2,10,7,1,3,2,5,0,0,0,9,17,22,0,0,14,0,0,2,7,6,2,2,11,3,46,11,27,25,7,33,0,1,2,1,65,18,1,3,18,179,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706734911754446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18898162759770046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161394687829075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518455308890522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443675675588576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658081214006163,0.09083905134772008,0.0,0.09528384187770972,0.0,0.05110619616829014,0.07220749043076617,0.0,0.0,0.0923800666941828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617948596113382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410056659017485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109556901669307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392700318405229,0.0,0.0,0.14813937269050825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487694440293622,0.0,0.0,0.08592974388349564,0.09122348971878523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837698269465136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606046109730058,0.10764081635436998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007218378033737,0.17650833661082335,0.0,0.11094921447629204,0.09554787078556376,0.11394607127433674,0.0,0.2056577723496741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23008933189994896,0.12950155210133246,0.31176360108736906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054312016341401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781192374699,0.1999301075106804,0.0,0.07154090017113965,0.0,0.08071805571668195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668676276209222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685970589010105,0.064764321552123,0.0993049732484635,0.0,0.11787445848606,0.0,0.0,0.09658081214006163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873489118697304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339687167140761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175584409288167,0.0,0.18240764483119495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358328431974075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Caffezingara,2018/01/07,"What kind of example are we when we don't give a crap? Something happened this morning that I have to get off my chest.  My daughter was scheduled to take a standardized test at 9am.  She woke up complaining that she her lower belly hurt.  I thought it was nerves because she had expressed being nervous the night before. 
 We got to the school and everything was ok, her coloring was fine and she wasn't warm.  Right before her name was called to go with her age group she vomited on the lobby floor.  I had a bag and quickly passed it to her.  We were towards the back corner of the room but it was obvious that she got sick because she made a loud, retching noise.  We crouched down to the ground as this was all happening.  In the meantime, the coordinators were calling the students names and bringing them to their respective classrooms to take the test.  Within a few minutes the kids were gone as well as the parents and we were left alone in the lobby, on the ground where I was helping her clean up.  During this time not one parent or employee offered to help us or ask if she was ok.  Not ONE and there were around 50 people in that lobby.  It was very obvious that she was sick and we needed some assistance but we were completely ignored.  Now it could've happened because people were trying to avoid coming near us but if it were me I would have at least passed a trash can or something.  I have to admit, I am absolutely shocked.   Am I the only one who sees this as selfish and inconsiderate?  I didn't expect someone to help me clean up but some paper towels and a trash can would have helped!  She now feels ashamed over something she had no control over.",4.161640866873064,5.792640309597522,4.4636606811145505,86.07228359133127,71.60061919504645,7.149424148606813,28.090278637770897,7.699297019823105,1.6196202848297208,1312,49,256,16,25,411,168,323,0.13,0.767,0.103,-0.9113,5,2,3,0,0,0,25,10,0,2,1,9,16,1,3,22,2,37,5,2,2,3,50,58,23,0,6,11,3,2,0,0,2,3,1,3,1,17,20,0,3,3,0,0,6,6,9,1,3,30,5,42,7,37,25,5,41,0,1,2,0,49,26,1,7,9,192,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913761831679115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240214460885863,0.10753863193473773,0.0,0.0,0.08845188248199086,0.0,0.21036583205313494,0.0,0.19576613566812506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23491940671581585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908918218921244,0.1206080111874074,0.0,0.12901725771108888,0.09184304278203807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033826137742723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816322453340043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600990475589534,0.11034839648843098,0.06537487456323382,0.0,0.18400189735692685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051650967532505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084119200257025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231432649966614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978727996114215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498172143648455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884529063762584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852941677313803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794897673234824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338443283699377,0.08748640134629908,0.0,0.0,0.2554570406572825,0.0,0.0,0.1594962828123868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823600532311226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641770263762385,0.09166496303616477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746555159849278,0.2656698833954774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297827388732698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132191350437097,0.06707561029489817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809862524272351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767367094970478,0.0,0.0,0.09491277645541016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342685195568617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342970991858358,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LegallyBlonde1211,2018/01/07,"Going back to work after maternity leave and need encouragement I go back to work on Monday after a 10 week maternity leave and I am getting increasingly more sad and depressed about it. I am so upset that I have to leave my daughter all day and I am worried I will miss seeing her grow up and that she will forget all about me. 

Does anyone have any advice/tips as to how to make this a little easier on myself? I am almost in tears just thinking about Monday morning. 😢",3.9739665653495457,5.327637095744684,5.58969604863222,78.90500000000003,71.65957446808511,7.499088145896658,24.06686930091185,7.957251820313856,1.3441933130699089,373,10,70,5,7,127,62,94,0.218,0.728,0.054000000000000006,-0.8987,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,8,5,0,1,2,0,8,0,0,2,2,14,16,8,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,12,1,15,14,4,17,0,3,1,0,4,5,0,1,8,54,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132700039582188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672392790478335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058195385305916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091969402556968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966349449934486,0.0,0.1731679126178033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594411366915724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504265763531632,0.0,0.2285277669321224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6386629325561161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150938878508934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420541390500615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907933525082726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021437477718087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882758036055042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127376116485626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927400842535001,0.20418056452177272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sssdddfffff,2018/01/07,"I (30M) messed up with my son (3 months) and my wife (28F) says she’ll never forgive me. It’s been almost two weeks of the silent treatment. How do I fix this? Final edit: I very much regret posting this. So many people calling my wife a bitch and saying she’s overreacting but she isn’t. She was completely justified. No one answered my question of how to talk to her or what to say, just made snap judgements and condemned her for wanting to protect her baby which I failed to do. 

Edit to add: I originally posted this in /r/relationships and was told to post here instead. Some of the people in that post said that my wife is being unreasonable or overreacting but I don’t personally think she is. I think she has a right to feel the way she does. I just really miss her and my son and I want to know how to fix this and help her trust me again. 

My wife and I have been together for a decade and our son is our second child; our first son was three hours old when he died. That’s probably enough identifying information if she sees this, but then again I am desperate here so maybe that’s not such a bad thing.

The day after Christmas, my wife was napping in our bedroom and I had our son out on the couch playing. He fell asleep on my chest and I must have dozed off. I woke up to my wife screaming at me and hitting me; my son had rolled into the crook of my arm and was face down with his nose and mouth being blocked. I don’t know how long he was like that.

When she picked him up he took a deep breath and woke up, but we called 911 all the same; he ended up being fine and the EMTs reassured us but did give me a lecture about never letting him fall asleep not on his back if someone’s not watching him. I deserved to be screamed at and hit and lectured by the EMTs 100%. I am not debating that at all, please don’t say that my wife is abusive or anything because she was just trying to wake me up and she didn’t hurt me.

I should also mention that I am not sleep deprived in the slightest; my son mostly sleeps through the night and when he does wake up, my wife doesn’t usually need me to help, she just breastfeeds him and he falls back asleep. So I have no excuse at all for falling asleep holding my son.

Later that night I apologized to my wife in tears. She just looked at me and said, word for word, “You almost killed my baby. I hate you. I will never forgive you.” And pointed at the door. I was so ashamed. I went to the guest bedroom and spent the night there lying awake. I tried to go help her with our son when I heard him wake up in the night but she had locked our bedroom door.

The next morning she packed up her things and my son's things and went to stay with her parents for a few days. I even helped her load the car; I knew I needed to give her space. As she was leaving I told her I loved her and my son and I was so sorry, and if she needed anything to call me and I’d be there in a heartbeat. She didn’t answer.

She texted me a few times while she was with her parents to ask for me to bring over my son’s tummy time mat and her breast pump, and when I got to her parents house she said to just leave them on the porch because she didn’t want to see me. But since she got home, she literally hasn’t spoken a single word to me and won’t let me hold our son. I only get to see him briefly in the afternoon when I get home from work, before she picks up all his things and retreats into our bedroom.

Again I don’t deny at all that I fucked up majorly. I am wracked with guilt every day thinking of what could have happened. But I want a chance to show her that I will never let something like that happen again. at first i thought she was saying she hated me out of anger and she didn’t really believe that, but now I’m beginning to think she did mean it. She can’t possibly hate me more than I hate myself.

It’s been 11 days and I have hardly gotten to see my son even though he lives under the same roof, and my wife won’t even look me in the eye. I don’t know what I can do to fix things because I want to give her space. I am thinking of writing her a letter and sliding it under the door, but I’m not sure she’d read it. Any suggestions would be welcome. Thank you.

Tl;dr I fell asleep while holding my son and he got stuck with his face blocked and could have suffocated, my wife hasn’t spoken to me in almost two weeks because of it.",2.7514667519181586,3.7549765021739137,3.692557544757033,92.68612531969313,74.19565217391305,6.5421994884910495,23.203324808184146,6.661559191721324,0.4020632992327369,3402,89,784,26,68,1092,347,920,0.128,0.797,0.075,-0.9952,3,0,1,0,0,0,82,11,4,1,4,40,31,8,2,34,0,74,21,19,8,11,147,141,77,2,17,28,29,2,2,1,8,0,11,11,2,33,53,0,6,18,4,1,12,28,19,0,7,44,22,169,12,103,75,16,112,0,5,8,3,152,47,2,12,49,543,202,7,0.0,0.06723368958406484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046612618020315,0.0,0.0,0.045379052917434576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03858862828507375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339279949006073,0.0,0.05304902828814433,0.0,0.0,0.08726699106186088,0.04737980595173644,0.13836519676288112,0.0,0.04828591866047527,0.06393231972822516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738293396720594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059496179950852074,0.0,0.0,0.090612723761827,0.0,0.0,0.14638363505365246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058892476900177564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931607591107453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05025933453363059,0.05863287912049338,0.0,0.11243885211805936,0.0,0.0478102120029964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028692038275831493,0.0,0.0,0.06216150658847114,0.0,0.09653474219880154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245995016519865,0.05929396751076916,0.16330527276240692,0.03224956006640998,0.0,0.1361527715530676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035904653651646,0.0,0.050832482712172763,0.22409623680159171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521402344022139,0.0,0.11383996654402052,0.0,0.05588251394192688,0.06547625111212467,0.060746825868742874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627800691120568,0.0,0.09355690378537762,0.0,0.0,0.12016977999162586,0.0,0.17407719306150804,0.0,0.055445599817255116,0.0,0.05010698163316033,0.050217646591907285,0.09530322035807054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051214687355078815,0.0536936057134414,0.0,0.05753064639181549,0.05700810130210581,0.06181207238263295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529341435705618,0.0,0.041714193254953916,0.1262273650517058,0.17506134276243648,0.0,0.060349080149236935,0.21300580888274226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059544459136331336,0.0,0.03845196269636797,0.04315722170116788,0.0,0.0,0.1890262252609556,0.0,0.0,0.07867984431774251,0.049547651065286975,0.0,0.06228910283098681,0.053642481172460905,0.06397159803516005,0.21738456121444386,0.0,0.06118083819787025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356752246840319,0.0,0.05676047722973548,0.0,0.07270475535756024,0.0,0.0,0.06092302389363296,0.0,0.048460023449644514,0.16193281427263065,0.2256299897795101,0.0,0.0,0.1808740591042025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04694015063962106,0.0,0.11357220368387605,0.0,0.04807995704284058,0.043685166610970924,0.0,0.06352151738524113,0.0,0.06048274901423788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348160517446792,0.0,0.0,0.04560957894879002,0.0,0.052243283648011236,0.0,0.0,0.1884946853945587,0.1817999119678899,0.055751793462437714,0.04504928773653048,0.06617707300085482,0.0,0.0,0.10844479011932114,0.06304591757037481,0.07705242488635584,0.0,0.11086347603598096,0.0,0.068257393953952,0.0,0.0624967341049096,0.046820667814939265,0.16734871347822647,0.045041635935857464,0.0910350268178431,0.0,0.0,0.10520659170385356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041311124060400384,0.0,0.0,0.0403101059991893,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheLauracks,2018/01/08,How old do you think a child needs to be to start using an OK to wake-type clock? The type of clock that turns green when they’re allowed to get out of bed. My daughter is 2.5 and she just started using a toddler bed instead of a crib. I’m wondering how young others’ kids have been when they started using these successfully. Thanks!,3.8288059701492543,5.1595581492537335,4.07779104477612,89.69370149253733,71.98507462686567,6.554029850746268,25.34029850746269,6.742157984588678,0.8074202985074623,264,8,55,2,5,82,51,67,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.8528,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,1,1,6,3,0,0,5,1,5,0,0,6,0,12,18,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,3,8,16,0,10,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,9,32,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276052156646398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110071807081868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562885861313256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5186225658194037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248631945812238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564990028387742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26566276882191403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6328343091198555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648676461687699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwitaway3020,2018/01/08,"Do I tell my friend I think her son has autism? Do I tell my friend I think her son has autism?

In my not-a-doctor opinion, my best friend's 4 year old son is on the spectrum. I've known him since he was a newborn and my daughter is just a few months older than him. He's always been a little different and now that he's older, I feel like it's becoming more and more obvious to myself, my husband, and our other very good friend that something isn't quite right and he needs help. The issue is, my friend seems to be completely oblivious. He lines things up, flaps his hands, has trouble processing things and the way he reacts to things isn't necessarily ""normal."" He's also desperately in need of speech therapy, which she's aware of, but she's been waiting for our state's program for therapy to get back to her for almost a year. I love this little boy and I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don't want to stick my nose where it doesn't belong and potentially hurt our friendship, but I also feel terrible for him that as more time passes without him getting help, his life will just be more difficult. My other friend is very strongly on the side that we need to stay out of it because it's not our business and his mom has a lot going on and will have to work it out herself, but my husband is encouraging me to bring it up and lay it all out because he's equally frustrated that he's not getting the therapies we absolutely believe he would benefit from. 

I'm not sure what to do.",5.798356736242884,5.185643200000001,6.443055028463,81.34811195445924,67.0,9.616698292220113,31.138519924098677,9.007467420416297,2.31284440227704,1192,40,252,18,17,392,152,310,0.08800000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.151,0.9662,1,0,1,0,0,0,28,6,0,0,4,7,20,1,0,12,0,25,4,2,1,3,47,45,18,0,6,9,7,5,2,6,3,1,1,0,2,20,17,0,1,7,1,0,3,8,5,0,0,4,7,40,15,32,36,9,31,0,1,0,1,50,16,0,4,11,163,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088348015426224,0.0,0.0,0.16113453928937418,0.083829501988933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746815708950366,0.0,0.12282876570075235,0.11126704973531827,0.0,0.11350727067676004,0.10572766923211473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563122111981076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525908082847373,0.0,0.1031187341060847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282199842054014,0.14394722904993582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670208887837818,0.0,0.15790831104723468,0.0,0.05725679217061709,0.08450173042313387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024944502107617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505706378657958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785165368547196,0.0,0.0,0.10515360193347983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116052384251985,0.0984397051920833,0.201949747271156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565142238851119,0.09092802208570752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799356646057073,0.08041522449296162,0.0,0.0,0.22410767750403865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871058379878866,0.0,0.0,0.10571693736782964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525908082847373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715674278233714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603731292847992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171620548411426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333888723119656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775598954042285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738280407808734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495277287875234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611448450623496,0.0,0.345638624375909,0.0,0.20079531636420606,0.12910910728390235,0.0,0.0,0.0587463349494848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166253508007491,0.059423139341507364,0.07996820987614406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711642862943068,0.0,0.07334495229671617,0.0,0.0,0.07156771617405991,0.0,0.0,0.12975541725435452
parenting,kaikuhaiku,2018/01/08,"Potty training troubles We started potty training my 3 year old a week ago. He caught on to going pee in the toilet really quickly but not so much going poop. He seems to hold it in as much as he can. Now he has gone 3 days without pooping! Its making him be really irritable. And he's peed his underware twice today, when he had gone 4 days without an accident. Any advice?",1.1370666666666691,3.619340306666668,3.708000000000002,83.32066666666668,85.93333333333334,6.0,23.0,7.3871296695380915,1.3562000000000003,293,11,54,5,9,102,58,75,0.08900000000000001,0.868,0.043,-0.55,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,3,3,1,0,9,12,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,4,0,4,0,9,7,2,19,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,11,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335135812765023,0.211827826444424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625042197534648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30822498047010155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716183408888661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951082160623636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513331636182349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507532996795949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30617386693470244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175445272238079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691404751060275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265106350381812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916831027781254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46070696972986996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388545978505214
parenting,Timedoutsob,2018/01/08,"Did you know there is Adult content in gif section of messaging apps? So kids often love to use messaging apps such as what's app and facebook messenger. Of all users they are probably the biggest uses of emojis and gif images. They love spamming up everything with a million smileys and stickers.

I've noticed since using the gif search features on these apps that there is adult content in terms of pictures and word art that is not suitable for children.

Do you let your kids use these apps unsupervised?

It's not the worst content but I don't think it's appropriate for kids. But it's no worse than the Nicki Minaj videos which seems to be a favourite among 8 year old girls and deemed acceptable for some reason these days.",6.3394927536231895,7.36547657246377,5.695797101449276,81.53688405797102,65.8840579710145,8.45217391304348,32.72463768115942,8.515128840125781,2.530689855072464,589,24,107,8,9,179,93,138,0.064,0.847,0.08900000000000001,0.3961,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,3,2,0,5,4,0,0,6,0,9,2,0,5,1,23,18,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,10,6,0,0,5,2,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,6,3,17,15,5,11,0,0,0,2,16,7,0,3,4,68,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270704602129873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708121806592014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828458901390907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148034559376288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556612808249427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22432421558008625,0.20675376240831367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124356937350343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258349762608116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937211415495566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16298834339118354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262512628380801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6806955464626187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007942111330068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688326666547087
parenting,QuinnbeauSlice,2018/01/08,"Need Reddit's help on expanding nicknames for my seven-month-old son. Nicknames for my boy:

Quinn-de-la-Quinn 
Quinnbryo 
Quinntessential 
Quinbelical Cord 
Quinnjamin Frankquinn
Quinnebago
Quinnbucktue 
Quinntravenous Injection
John F. Quinnedy 

—open to all suggestions.
thanks",10.48846153846154,15.38353015384616,6.2109743589743625,64.42569230769232,67.97435897435898,11.325128205128207,43.697435897435895,10.355215969177356,6.874288205128206,232,14,26,8,5,62,35,39,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35401084880600386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215679073945261,0.0,0.0,0.3916198921788911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5542093346542216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4862537319286831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jokerscon123,2018/01/08,"Toilet training advice and product reviews please Please can I get some recommenations toilet training products for my son ideally:
 
* Adult books on toilet training a toddler 
* toilet training books to read with my toddler 
* what kind of potty to buy? There are so many different styles on the market i dont know where to start 
* any other products or advice thats been useful for other parents 

Thank you r/parenting",4.3044596651445985,7.614872931506849,4.384292237442923,78.07619482496195,79.95890410958904,5.4362252663622534,28.659056316590558,6.937597516519254,2.1011777777777767,336,15,47,4,9,104,55,73,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.8957,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,9,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,9,8,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,1,30,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140376135794535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440662658152768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133969819658011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482883476701666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068365039491493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206107077482568,0.11642802874486548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21478414144132474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704719779676093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4650985974184082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190880225053346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994956244037852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504437248961687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297165222622724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IM_NEWBIE,2018/01/08,"Diaper backpack strategy help? We're finally sick of lugging around our gigantic diaper bag, and want to switch to a backpack.  Currently planning to get something like this one https://www.rei.com/product/895780/kelty-redwing-44-pack .


The main question now is strategies for how to use a diaper backpack.  Given that backpacks, unlike traditional diaper bags, the main compartment is very deep, what is the best way of organizing such that the most needed things are available without digging?  We have an almost 3 year old who is in the process of potty training, and we have a newborn due in two months.

Thanks for the help!",9.498067226890754,11.683242588235302,7.677170868347344,65.97441176470589,59.392156862745104,10.534453781512603,37.12044817927171,10.608840637214634,4.4862448179271714,512,23,71,12,7,152,73,102,0.03,0.816,0.154,0.9127,1,0,1,0,0,0,23,3,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,10,0,7,1,0,2,0,13,13,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,3,3,13,12,4,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,8,50,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24292251225330394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21595979410530147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545870838840857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657495013987485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674517693288145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252108391029223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185190105167341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936359483968331,0.0,0.0,0.17988012821421365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25456124207699,0.0,0.16438774532949094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717604242279575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676045486226867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334765263664516,0.0,0.0,0.16116845105298133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369787598211,0.0,0.0,0.20952303571820274,0.0,0.2001651795435122,0.14308802861225672,0.19255955894669494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338516354477019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622236608860582
parenting,Meowskittles123,2018/01/08,"Potty training 3 year old. Positive support or punishment? Hey parents. Looking for advice that's likely been posted a ridiculous amount of times.

Our 3 year old doesn't want to use the potty. She knows when she has soiled her diaper, she doesn't always tell us. She usually tells at night around/at bedtime when she is upset that she has to go to bed and is looking for anyway to stay up.
She is ridiculously advanced for her age, has been since she was 2 (counting and knowing all her ABC).
We have taken her to the doctors. The doctor says wait till she is in school and see if being around other kids helps. If it doesn't the doctor suggested we start psychology for her. I'd like to not have to keep changing our 3 year olds diapers for possibly 8 more months.
Today we are trying again, gave her a glass of water and sat her on the kids potty chair we have. She didn't go. Put her in underwear and keep asking if she needs to go she keeps saying no. She was standing at the end of our bed when she turned around super fast and said ""I gotta go poop!"" I picked her up lightning fast and ran to the bathroom and put her on the potty... She now says she can't poop... I told her if she poops she can have a reward. She still doesnt want to go.
When I ask her why she doesn't use the potty I always get the response ""I don't want to, I don't like it"". 
We have tried all the ""you will get a toy!"" Or ""you'll get a candy!"" It never works. I know positive reinforcement is good, and read everywhere you shouldn't punish. I am willing to be positive about it but I believe and some point it needs to stop if it isn't working and being stern and harsh needs to come in. I want her to understand that it's fine if she doesn't want to do something but she is going to have to do things she doesn't want to. That's how life is.

So has anyone done or heard of parents trying the nice positive approach with no avail then switching to a harsher approach and being successful?

Edit: I now know offering a diaper was a bad idea lol.",1.954390275442908,3.721100578947368,3.3824531229794377,90.93379348247772,77.89952153110049,6.337100737100737,21.34514418724945,7.222845823187471,0.5290277253329885,1574,42,341,19,37,516,193,418,0.104,0.8140000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.7536,2,0,1,0,0,0,51,9,3,0,6,14,16,4,1,20,1,48,8,3,4,3,63,94,32,0,16,12,2,0,3,0,5,4,5,2,2,13,22,1,5,6,2,0,13,17,6,0,0,14,8,60,10,43,71,5,56,0,0,3,0,67,12,0,10,31,227,73,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127123135418116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840559949321876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815330296165566,0.0,0.0,0.2221126175352068,0.1555025181449404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944216861706605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370234507017608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798117565275645,0.07164224183499186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553792496850094,0.0,0.08511018365986123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366254701045256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035622267170022,0.0,0.283599226671265,0.06975773671524509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055746048335236435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388703892585452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177177705222426,0.0,0.0,0.1828287855962037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05874432466493532,0.1218956878645602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396810764610569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663842507128306,0.0,0.0,0.18500502042869285,0.06414462363365576,0.0,0.0,0.07804794152131722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26181384379892625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18469740773794396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862105274154886,0.0937599132842786,0.07965237009400984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721449531231186,0.0,0.0,0.08319094076889044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911222631297654,0.19841663105960528,0.0,0.08417089557074589,0.06627447421144872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879778821693515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402712389649387,0.0,0.0,0.05886704579902445,0.08864648495497822,0.06641841899270624,0.06953253503505842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437855355033893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538575459235462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055253412139017175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04849618281035646,0.0,0.07883395100078887,0.0794710029920695,0.0,0.1693977225264271,0.09046337400278708,0.0,0.08658127310439513,0.10004138609474664,0.14366164803991546,0.09159828033381848,0.0,0.2943293838993405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504657585159852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109522127148857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067323453996454
parenting,4west3,2018/01/08,"Personal hygiene for a preteen 
How often do you have to remind your 11 year old to do the basics, like shower, brush teeth, wear clean clothes? I worry that my stepdaughter isn't developing any personal hygiene habits. She takes showers only if reminded, and if we aren't keeping track, she willfully goes an entire week without showering. She'll go weeks without brushing her teeth. She wears wrinkled, food stained clothes, and she'll even fight back when we ask her to change into something clean. Another issue is the serious case of a seemingly never-ending flare up of psoriasis on her scalp, which I believe is exacerbated by her lack of personal care (she also doesn't apply her medicated cream to be used daily). 

She hasn't quite hit puberty yet, but as soon as her hormones really start changing, she's going to be a mess. Already, sometimes when we're in a small space like the car, there's a definite smell that follows her. And as a girl, wearing the same underwear without washing can lead to some pretty nasty stuff. 

I've brought up the issue with my husband, and while he is receptive and believes she needs to set better habits, he doesn't do much about it. I think he doesn't notice it like I do? Due to other reasons (skipping responsibilities like homework), he had her make a checklist of things she needs to complete each day. One item is to shower at least every other day, but if I'm not asking her, it gets ignored. As her stepmom, I don't feel comfortable nagging her every day to brush her teeth AND shower AND wear clean clothes AND apply her psoriasis cream AND cut her nails AND...

Is this normal for her age? Is there some way to nudge her into healthy hygiene routines other than asking, ""When's the last time you [fill in the blank]?"" I do want to mention that I've been careful to never say something that would make her feel ashamed, e.g. ""Ew, brush your teeth! Your breath stinks!"" ",7.9146260387811616,7.415525781163435,7.509750692520776,75.06246537396125,62.65650969529087,10.037673130193909,36.174515235457065,9.276330184999452,3.235678116343492,1521,62,273,22,19,480,202,361,0.07400000000000001,0.812,0.114,0.9322,5,0,2,0,1,0,55,2,5,0,3,13,16,3,1,15,0,28,13,10,6,1,48,53,25,0,9,9,1,2,4,0,4,2,1,9,4,14,16,1,2,5,0,0,7,12,8,0,1,3,11,42,8,39,43,8,39,0,0,2,0,49,10,0,7,24,175,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336829733873575,0.0821554540083094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986188720347028,0.10772439128855504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881241491514935,0.0,0.0,0.07899525011761274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314895713065344,0.0,0.09085889159010713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948605371532045,0.0,0.21735554878213914,0.0,0.10771347926797274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987626430707036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099084668599457,0.0,0.0,0.06785410411524406,0.0,0.1731137791917473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038896706488597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422501685013765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05367369422257853,0.0,0.11677093630159174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21445289000242945,0.0,0.0913137118024447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374101589839543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007604007971504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137150001934644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349257735661588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552049382093713,0.15235027055271208,0.1584678741546256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006564187067438,0.0,0.11696207473849793,0.10780088519972317,0.0,0.06961446415769043,0.07813299120737037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691071875642885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045162809878746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092690728152915,0.0,0.0,0.06581331915224449,0.10562651976228037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169731652157981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093524163530639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817759365242615,0.1016054538361597,0.0,0.07271486741283051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176045789780126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724234706606982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682511663913275,0.06582708693179595,0.0,0.0,0.05990437357979157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872823111589109,0.0,0.0,0.060594519495703186,0.0815445852587562,0.16481225318841086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970925161385035,0.0,0.0,0.1043302352876736,0.0,0.0729784966097017,0.0,0.0,0.06615661211793397
parenting,stairapprentice,2018/01/08,"What do you guys think about the news today on child smartphone addiction? I read an article earlier on how two major Apple investors, two hedgefunds, asked Apple to do more to tackle child smartphone addiction. This is an unusual move, since the funds have a vested interest in the growth of Apple's user base.

Did this news item spark any discussion in your families about smartphones?  ",8.819117647058825,9.60984444117647,7.872352941176473,68.90058823529415,60.470588235294116,11.505882352941176,36.117647058823536,11.20814326018867,4.4632823529411745,314,13,47,8,4,97,52,68,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,5,2,0,1,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,9,6,3,7,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,1,31,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467902024421968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054391809180186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344522087799233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23641988349070436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24831878907849966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665471394186201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508550992796993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20745379044729825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606943323649647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23771697281140886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4899653710615602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nothingisuniquehere,2018/01/08,"I am terrified of what I have to do now I am a single father of 2 wonderful children and I have been taking care of my daughter and son by myself for a little over 3 years now.
In the fall of 2014 my ex told me that she could not and would not raise our 2 kids anymore and that I needed to take them on full time. Her reasoning for this decision was due to her new marriage suffering greatly due to my 2 kids living with her and her new husband so she chose to work on keeping her marriage in tact over raising her children. 
During the last 3 years and 2 months I have been on the receiving end of a tumultuous amount of verbal, emotional and mental abuse from her and her new husband, especially when it comes to providing monthly support for her kids. It finally was bad enough to where I just stopped dealing with her/them because all I received was an impressive amount of abuse and criticisms about my parenting and my persistence on her supporting our 2 kids. 

Fast track to this most recent Christmas. They went with their mother for a few days to celebrate Christmas and on their way to meet me so I can pick them up and take them back home with me, their mother while driving started to yell and shout at her husband who was in the front passenger seat. This went on for 8-10 minutes when the mother swerved across 3 lanes on the freeway and slammed on the brakes after her car swerved onto the shoulder of the freeway.
They then decided to yell and shout at each other while my 2 kids were in the back seat watching and listening to this. Their arguing went on for 30-45 minutes before they finally stopped fighting in front of my kids.

This is where I am terrified. When I first took my kids in they were broken, fragile and needed a lot of TLC to repair their confidence and self esteem. Now my kids are thriving in school, they are involved in after school activities and they are always kept busy doing productive activities. 
During the first 2 years the amount of abuse, threats and attempts to blackmail me into submission have fostered an undesirable situation in where I have had CPS called on me twice by her out of spite. My kids have had to deal with the backlash of every single interaction I have had with their mother because they are brought into by her or a 3rd party. 
I do not want my kids to suffer because of this stuff yet I see no other way except to call CPS and report this incident. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. 

The ex gave away her oldest daughter for the same reason and she has had her new child with her new husband taken away via a court order due to her “issues”, but her husband dropped all charges against her... 

It’s really ironic that I am more scared of this situation than when I was in combat because I know what the response is going to be and I don’t want my kids to have heaps of drama, stress and tension dumped on them during the process that will occur and I do not know of a way to stop the abuse and the verbal assaults that will occur.

I have been agonizing over this decision since I found out a few days ago when my kids informed me about the incident and I am terrified of doing this alone. 😔",9.697149394014346,6.888317545016079,8.973762057877819,73.33474894880042,60.84887459807074,12.012960672767749,39.19638882018303,10.035473477838034,3.727768043532031,2531,95,487,38,26,803,261,622,0.139,0.8270000000000001,0.034,-0.9964,1,1,1,0,6,0,33,2,0,17,6,19,18,6,3,32,0,49,1,1,3,2,76,79,39,0,6,8,16,1,1,0,3,0,5,1,16,26,40,0,6,10,1,0,14,7,12,0,4,24,8,85,6,100,50,16,107,0,2,2,0,92,40,0,4,49,363,111,4,0.0,0.36252035793114096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780522667723046,0.0,0.0,0.07922227394208924,0.0,0.0,0.0636471749686438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585915638519801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373283394541247,0.1176347045321814,0.06386732722311597,0.18651438351072194,0.0,0.06508875470065772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562130404828686,0.0,0.07798832839862117,0.0,0.0,0.06589077779965154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107235311357714,0.0,0.0,0.0986615640596368,0.15771905132141914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604280338811213,0.06774889217455303,0.07903631518956683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644475086646067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758571303613645,0.0,0.19519125852975475,0.0,0.08386913890490519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04347196372355455,0.0,0.0,0.08433230694343903,0.0,0.0,0.06764130768577696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672735512827769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983740260948792,0.0,0.06798928727755488,0.0,0.0,0.08407561362223917,0.06235089861584036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03736995324778015,0.07666472181319625,0.06754352255869524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503045989459033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708558557159591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210980005874288,0.0,0.0,0.11343516879295487,0.0,0.36938052947063693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493491787612124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04900250547488486,0.15729229826475502,0.07552626988677981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658147916907633,0.15482725373177378,0.06095393642361442,0.0,0.0797974663264747,0.0,0.0,0.0632746779051163,0.17195962422525962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058887004171805125,0.0,0.0,0.05414117893461744,0.0,0.0,0.19185131698114066,0.08762091913430255,0.0,0.08756463128550558,0.0,0.1736036210413655,0.0,0.0,0.17253658911695954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920578485101899,0.0,0.0,0.07309104329435294,0.0849850303661101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023350627454106,0.18214651853430225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21272555944688876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829519244070528,0.05568682744306669,0.0,0.0,0.05433746885479509,0.0,0.0,0.14777433151531005
parenting,Scolirk,2018/01/08,"4YO Wakes Up at 5am, How to Get Her to Sleep Later? Hey everyone,

Our 4 year old has been waking up around 5am every day for the past month now, and nothing seems to help her change that. Her bedtime has always been at 7pm and she normally sleeps completely through the night. During the summer we moved and she started waking up around 6:30, 7, because the curtains in her room don’t block enough of the sun that comes directly in in the morning. 

It’s winter though, so the sun doesn’t rise until 7am at least, yet she’s waking up even earlier. We’ve tried putting her to bed later but by 5pm she’s exhausted, if not sooner. She starts acting very tired by late afternoon since she wakes up early. She’s had a few naps this past month also, but she still ends up waking up at the same time. 

Would love get her to sleep more, or at least help change her schedule a bit since she’s waking up way too early. Thanks in advance!",3.3190201944652244,4.410870120418847,4.001918474195964,90.67022251308904,72.92670157068063,6.923111443530293,22.543380703066568,7.1686216300943375,0.5646197456993272,727,17,158,7,14,231,114,191,0.07400000000000001,0.875,0.05,-0.3914,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,0,1,11,3,0,0,10,0,8,13,10,1,0,18,16,12,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,4,7,0,1,1,1,0,6,3,1,0,0,3,0,18,2,30,12,7,52,0,0,0,1,22,20,0,3,25,93,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756966110023226,0.11192524158903802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23948942787120545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199761986511017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685289818679534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845929464206346,0.11587067654375678,0.14103388022919106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674948572633008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191382198465565,0.13898745193730494,0.0,0.08884429003579528,0.0,0.11333264957402125,0.1285325339694272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055454180647106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18032189305639268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173604845120311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140285457618205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21473331500883025,0.14296558422826958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623094357867426,0.1317937680285034,0.1290684477011652,0.0,0.14114832456608914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568149547914904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522229486052362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224552002920708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254039128956524,0.0,0.4038291681486604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041739197875712,0.0,0.10742191961799673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384111072139095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321579262439929,0.0,0.07843536673472873,0.1546024223516742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132521173433268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109869652525198,0.0,0.1067698244349816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555387700877492,0.0,0.0,0.0866216909268848
parenting,Lleu,2018/01/08,"I failed as a father this morning. I'm everything to everyone right now. Father to three wonderful girls (the oldest is mine, the  younger two are my girlfriends.) lover, friend, sole provider for a family of five, shoulder to cry on, protector... If there's a role that the a man is ""supposed"" play in life, I'm doing it.

My daughter returned from winter break last weekend, the younger two go back tomorrow and are with their dad right now. Last night my daughter asked me to put her clothes in the dryer, which I said I would do. Last night I also decided that I needed a night for me. My girlfriends anxiety was through the roof though so I also agreed to stay in bed with her. I played games on my laptop and watched my shows on TV. I had too much to drink all while she prided me to go to bed whenever she woke up.

This morning, 20 minutes before she was supposed to be at school, my daughter woke me up in tears because I didn't put her clothes in the wash and her uniforms were wet.  I told her to wear something else an I would handle the school. I also hadn't made her lunch. When we got to the car I realized that she would be last and need to go to the office. 

I told her we would tell the school she had a doctor's appointment (which would be excused) and we went back inside. Now her clothes are dry and she has a lunch, but I still feel like a failure.

All I wanted was one fucking night to do what I wanted it do and not have to worry about others and it bled into today and my baby girl is going to have a shitty day because of it.... God damn it.",3.3555349597928306,4.350394805642633,4.134490936350009,90.12353550497481,72.73040752351095,6.927136431784108,25.78179092272046,7.079830092131019,0.9705430284857572,1209,38,262,11,23,387,164,319,0.064,0.8690000000000001,0.067,-0.2387,0,0,2,0,0,0,41,3,0,1,2,15,9,2,0,21,0,29,10,2,1,2,34,51,19,0,10,3,6,2,1,4,5,3,1,2,3,14,15,3,0,4,7,0,8,3,3,0,5,16,4,48,6,38,27,3,47,0,1,1,2,39,14,2,2,24,185,62,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23647511700377635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540448458826234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214806072308517,0.0,0.0,0.15158588669731465,0.0,0.1201726493840138,0.0,0.08387436883155527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827265614859916,0.06356840326330958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088883827787222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655941490737197,0.0,0.0,0.0823411719726309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418624079916194,0.08858683805429368,0.0,0.09292142690153103,0.0,0.049839097352538685,0.07041721777357364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615362900082201,0.09112481094084604,0.0,0.0,0.2240745600956818,0.0,0.07883407899915801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213853017489707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962170980814074,0.04815549562036121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326771477978876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245904660483769,0.1461743004542977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699987133540652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679243537168786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981767453239187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683535901628549,0.09376103128351576,0.0,0.0,0.2992691651053594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588269786395846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506069967182936,0.07871677680185972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615304435109401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684286056085498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343122915978036,0.18837248159832387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19257382559859185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627628184072225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137380752893187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689312362791496,0.0,0.10010089974951143,0.0,0.3501004839515063,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Judaspriestess666,2018/01/08,"Can toddler be downstairs while I'm upstairs? (New house) We just got a house (yay) and it's much, much bigger than we're used to. Also, it is two stories. Before this, we were in a one bedroom apartment. My son is almost 3.

Yesterday, while I was unpacking the car, I set up his little wooden train set downstairs so he'd be near me. Then I wanted to clean upstairs so I told him to come up with me and he didn't want to stop playing with the train. I reluctantly let him stay downstairs but I kept imagining I heard him calling me. 

Is it safe for him to be downstairs while I'm upstairs? I hadn't thought about it before we moved in but he was usually never further than the next room and I could always hear him.",0.5000680272108831,2.8556991768707505,2.2045238095238098,93.80297619047623,87.843537414966,4.627210884353741,21.77210884353741,6.139981653823899,0.28835782312925184,557,20,118,5,18,182,89,147,0.017,0.916,0.066,0.7645,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,1,15,0,0,1,1,23,27,12,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,5,9,0,3,2,1,0,3,3,0,0,2,10,2,23,3,16,11,2,26,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,1,10,81,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797588771152407,0.0,0.0,0.14355850830506753,0.14937130562524292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055089963049645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833054320487165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546367378197939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332854720849944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357497221843746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023270544868628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142736498342959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356679686045274,0.0,0.0,0.1799217262710376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079660380866026,0.2639291467684971,0.0,0.13845344720274008,0.1733772221210284,0.1909168077961112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164437226436405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19133967477179006,0.0,0.15008302524824507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251528253418866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153478644994588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536059285103936,0.0,0.0,0.15504378446081354,0.1977109997946267,0.0,0.2117658269987933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HillaryRClinton,2018/01/08,"Need advice with discipline for 3.75-year-old We adopted two boys about a year ago. Our almost-4 year old (our youngest, alongside his older brother,5  and sister, 5) is a really loveable kid but it's like he won't listen to anything. Whatever we tell him goes in one ear and out the other. 

I know, he's three and much of this is to be expected. But our other two kids at least listen somewhat. We try talking to him, and when he doesn't ignore us completely he just yesses and nods and doesn't change anything. 

We issue timeouts, but they don't change his behavior. It's like he doesn't care about the timeout. There isn't really any punishment he cares about. 

And I think you could say he has anger issues. Yesterday he got upset, I think because it was his brother's birthday and he saw his brother getting presents while he didn't get any, he through a big seashell at our newish TV and put a huge crack in it. 

We've been working on this stuff for over a year with little progress. How do I get through to him?",4.003432343234326,5.3468757128712925,4.265960396039603,88.46336303630362,71.57425742574256,7.1688448844884505,28.813201320132013,7.554174236665415,1.5905375577557757,802,31,163,9,15,250,120,202,0.058,0.8290000000000001,0.113,0.8816,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,9,1,1,2,7,8,2,1,7,0,15,1,1,1,0,30,28,15,0,3,4,3,0,2,0,1,0,4,0,3,9,16,0,2,3,1,0,1,7,4,0,4,5,5,22,4,21,20,3,21,0,0,1,0,40,10,0,1,12,98,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267057061221624,0.120349824846591,0.0,0.13595168408675554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184653307475565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345040607354946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827626957643634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768483234347576,0.0,0.2872483308666963,0.0,0.14234979187295613,0.0,0.0,0.10839941639272432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127989714999912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858578768987416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28341229404031243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461434663047893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326584261506767,0.13607484694434555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980484012412497,0.10066998788059522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849306080574041,0.0,0.09199966941501532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648398171204065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739524588279835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796787999479117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542147050303712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912488963386698,0.1186669052459422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398884871283402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217731840044173,0.0,0.2652505211775086,0.0,0.16331175936273346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884046197409092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34971964623216584
parenting,dualvansmommy,2018/01/08,"What age is too young for sleep away camp? While I know this is highly subjective and such, I’m curious the overall average of kids being send away on a sleep away camp. This particular camp I’m interested in for my son just changed their age eligibility from 9 to 8 as minimum to attend for 5 nights. 

It isn’t your run of the mill sleep away camp either,  but a very small niche for targeted kids from a very specific demographic. 

Curious to know on feedback. ",3.349,5.480609622222223,5.055277777777778,78.85625000000002,75.0,9.388888888888893,26.805555555555557,9.827888789773867,2.7362222222222217,366,14,73,11,8,124,60,90,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.7046,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,4,3,3,0,0,6,8,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,19,7,1,17,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,0,5,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6840441940688213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925499475451796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923110499455712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006366597804706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081070961419964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5464456243361078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003663246942914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FamilyGuy100,2018/01/08,"Girly 9 year old son. Hi parents,

I have a very special boy who is kind and extremely well-behaved. He's always been very girly growing up, as in playing with his sister's dolls all day long, clicking with the girl students more in school, and even telling his god-mother once that he wishes he was a girl. His mother and I are fine with the way he is and just want him to grow up happy and health. One thing I am concerned about though, is as he grows older how other's will treat him and what is it that we can do to make sure he is strong enough mentally and emotionally to withstand the harshness that is the public school system. I was thinking about taking him to do a father-son type of MMA training with me once he's a little older, but is that being a little extreme? 

Because none of our family or friends have really been in this type of situation, I was hoping I could find someone in this subreddit that has some experience and could give us some advice.

Thanks!

Edit - A lot of people seem upset when I said MMA training. I specifically said father-son because I wanted to be with him so that we could learn self defense together. Maybe if I said karate it would've been a lot less offensive to everyone. Even though he likes what he likes, I think it's still important to give your child the chance to explore different type of activities. He also enjoys flag football, swimming, arts and crafts. I am not taking anything away from him and I am definitely not ""beating"" anything into him.

The main point of this post was to get advice from other parents or individuals who have been in a similar situation and can offer my some tips on what I can do to improve as a parent in protecting my child from the possibilities of bullies in the future.

Edit 2 - Thanks for everyone who took there time out to respond to my post.",8.226638655462185,6.704966005602242,8.23417366946779,73.43092436974793,62.613445378151255,10.86498599439776,35.00560224089636,9.627879704456738,3.135415686274511,1452,50,274,22,17,473,190,357,0.019,0.815,0.166,0.993,4,0,0,0,0,0,34,4,1,0,2,13,18,2,1,17,0,35,1,0,2,2,50,54,24,0,8,7,6,0,2,1,1,1,3,0,6,21,20,0,2,6,3,0,6,3,3,0,1,12,4,32,15,46,36,11,36,0,0,1,0,50,16,0,10,12,191,53,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18111785922373644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741105208918409,0.0771113143824047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252387550592678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870692827364215,0.0,0.0,0.11298513461768925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22197541791922648,0.0,0.0,0.059766383090926724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968235034300804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424459004932844,0.0,0.09575592555697968,0.0,0.12241921273105807,0.0,0.0,0.17710594133315385,0.0,0.0906519230684928,0.0873638051682488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470139311194623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159888767025913,0.0,0.04841778899575388,0.17780066720543825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865207354121977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850700729452802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204514509323818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650461165536114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905506399856711,0.18576527453699,0.0,0.08201264036206389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757444819301353,0.0,0.0,0.06185991061935716,0.0,0.09310242966597247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339253197477386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724466684762016,0.19738732449944035,0.06279758614456707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30870701602777834,0.0,0.0,0.06424775167395111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760588787198939,0.1044748214841589,0.17751012889977127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936866179937963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644595786752448,0.0,0.0,0.1875799364756872,0.0,0.08436596886833997,0.0966780931887645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083365467712717,0.0,0.0,0.07852148583588578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740087338443238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734315422631485,0.0,0.13935704318293482,0.0,0.08100023893645633,0.1706415940984425,0.0,0.0,0.06156778699348914,0.11876216278506525,0.18210139650438398,0.0,0.054038339673088034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296305213213088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147414270304153,0.0,0.0,0.15292977077253486,0.109321808447755,0.07355947042571657,0.0,0.0,0.08332410741739704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656931357048437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583220143974146,0.0,0.0,0.05967833838522357
parenting,ouatialffa,2018/01/08,"How did parenting affect your life? I'm 40M and my wife is 36F. We don't have children. I want children (or at least, I want to want them). My wife was unsure but now doesn't want them.

She got pregnant now, a couple of weeks in. She tells me she used birth control. I suspect that fearing I might leave her also had something to do with it (though I never threatened or mentioned it, but she understands the predicament). I have no proof. 

She was the eldest of 8 children in a religious family and has misspent a lot of her youth on rearing  her siblings. She says she only sees negative things about parenting. She says it can add no meaning to her life and can only limit her severely. She would certainly have had an abortion if it wasn't for my sake and the expectations from her family and friends, and our ages.

She does concede that she also thought that relationships were useless and now finds ours to be very meaningful.

What are your thoughts about bringing up a child? Is it all hard work with no repayment, or do you find it fulfilling in some way?
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parenting,tinybabybunnyrabbit,2018/01/08,"Non-wifi long range baby monitor - does the perfect one exist? Hello! Currently looking to purchase a baby monitor. My home does not have wifi (we live out of range for any and all providers, and we use our cell phones and cell phone data hotspot to do what we have to). 

Anyone have experience using a long range independent baby monitor with great satisfaction? 

My husband has a workshop just outside of the home and a big reason for getting a monitor would be so he can work in his shop and keep an eye on our son.

Thank you kindly! ",5.296008403361345,6.43749316666667,6.057563025210083,77.58617647058827,68.31372549019608,8.965826330532213,31.23809523809524,9.23628265651192,2.7721271708683477,421,17,77,8,7,138,71,102,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.9541,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,5,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,8,0,8,1,1,4,2,20,14,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,10,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,9,4,11,12,1,7,0,0,2,0,15,4,0,0,3,47,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070316620786286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467347685175053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36212964692071936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023937573447508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809983843113727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281145810113035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4150871499087869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390754792203853,0.0,0.2154607458163581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270177713551794,0.3662105749284653,0.17374891840056692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020485149969264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127338146876169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19049123405130125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574006815380948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063002270937156,0.0,0.0,0.14698007667855773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,franciscan_donkey,2018/01/08,"Any ideas on how to console a very upset 8m girl? So today my daughter is just losing her mind and having me close to tears. She won't eat, drink, sleep or play, she just screams. I've given her something for her teeth to see if that was the problem, nothing. Some advice would be appreciated",2.7511864406779623,4.513593949152547,3.812000000000001,88.74952542372883,75.61016949152544,5.397966101694917,23.664406779661018,5.6839178017228535,0.3598244067796612,229,7,47,1,5,74,53,59,0.18600000000000005,0.727,0.086,-0.6801,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,2,0,6,4,2,1,0,12,8,5,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,7,1,5,3,1,3,0,1,1,0,7,2,0,3,1,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697931397542335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775149364304206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704642814921013,0.0,0.28251023899958355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31167337558410296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30887544797646593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27877342220149226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649169668329495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26418200564166416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200089525547448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762906045850235,0.0,0.0,0.21254850575830112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617021891429729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22780416683066734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612727755820708,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dauthleikr_1,2018/01/08,"Teens sleeping in same bed Recently my son has been asking if his girlfriend could spend a few nights at our house during his breaks from college. She lives a few hours away, so we don't have an issue with this. However, we've always prepped the spare room for her to sleep in. 

I know there is a lot of controversy over this, so I'm curious about arguments for and against allowing teens to sleep together in their parents house. I would read the many posts on the internet about them, but most relate to being active... while I mean strictly sleeping in the same bed. ",4.87066513761468,6.356210321100918,4.77145642201835,85.12122133027525,69.64220183486239,8.385779816513761,28.303899082568808,8.841846274778883,2.0871366972477063,451,16,88,8,8,139,83,109,0.018000000000000002,0.964,0.018000000000000002,-0.0157,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,8,0,8,4,4,1,0,14,12,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,12,0,19,8,6,15,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,3,4,62,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863307942975991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575809814379252,0.0,0.15653581949894552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302473180196975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640775405688958,0.3844917306087254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389782001918602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156463917793622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711990803140124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164608117111308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891664854443414,0.0,0.1814874116892544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635243828099832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850009717176195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956656942268482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666553425826548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16450752727683138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6669223176611274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835514521218075,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hatetowels2,2018/01/08,"2 year old is extremely sensitive about her hair and skin. In the last six months my 2 year old daughter has become more and more sensitive about her hair and skin. It extremely sensitive now.

She no longer tolerates anything done to her hair aside from brushing that she cries through because she says it hurts (no matter how gentle I try to be). It’s long and she is extremely resistant to the idea of cutting it (and her other parents don’t want to cut it). 

She’s very picky about the texture of clothing she’ll wear. She makes me cut tags out of clothing, saying it hurts. She is very picky about the shoes she’ll wear, and even those she will wear, she often complains they hurt. 

Basically, practically everything hurts her skin(according to her - though I wonder with her limited vocabulary if she means something like irritates or itches in some of the cases).

Is this normal? Common? Is the something I can or should do to help? ",5.3249978021977995,6.999050308571429,5.2360000000000015,81.49953846153846,68.77142857142857,8.813186813186816,29.461538461538463,9.265573868473778,2.549597802197802,744,28,137,15,13,231,100,175,0.16399999999999998,0.7809999999999999,0.055,-0.9614,1,0,2,0,0,0,23,0,0,1,1,9,9,3,0,6,0,15,10,10,2,0,23,19,11,0,4,3,2,5,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,10,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,8,0,1,1,8,25,1,20,13,3,12,0,4,0,0,26,3,0,6,10,94,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180280592530488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743166352898064,0.1584036638131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754763650958722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467754424799178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947320676582956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890278541016564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613597996228967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6141655461422305,0.16191143161603225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169120083051688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007110372837977,0.0,0.0,0.12692823001047493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573852187733166,0.0,0.0,0.15623386345769769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448192628761387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052783971584068,0.0,0.0,0.30100465943872257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925851983806374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281175418093766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208339598509505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091613096893274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737740189537587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23668430908175456,0.08459685962163145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555402775340799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472435048454985
parenting,TexMexxx,2018/01/08,"My own son Han-Soloed me yesterday I am devastated! Yesterday, bedtime routine, dialog me vs my 3 yo son.

Me: Good night, sweet dreams.

Son: Thanks, you too.

Me: Love you!

Son: I know.

Reddit, he Han-Soloed me. I am in shock! :D",-2.0756666666666668,-1.8699649555555524,0.8191666666666677,95.86875,131.88888888888889,5.055555555555556,14.861111111111107,6.42735559955562,0.15177777777777826,167,5,38,4,12,57,30,45,0.113,0.5329999999999999,0.354,0.9326,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,2,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,12,4,1,5,1,4,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,3,17,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4452643435502049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917494998901814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791263547098562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981808052172554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4887491332086087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tablesetter,2018/01/08,"10 year old is afraid to sleep alone After years of sleeping by herself, she has rediscovered her fear.  Her 12 yo brother sleeps in the room next to her and I sleep 30 feet away.  She’s been coming to my bed a lot or her brothers bunk.  She says she’s afraid of ghosts, aliens, Clowns ( Thanks It commercials), and snakes.  

I’ve sat her down and walked through all of the reasons why those are irrational.

Any ideas on what I can try?",2.346860465116279,4.419332000000004,2.323430232558138,97.5516569767442,77.83720930232559,5.695348837209302,21.21511627906977,6.6274283507984215,0.06495813953488394,336,9,76,3,8,100,67,86,0.08800000000000001,0.879,0.034,-0.5719,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,3,0,5,5,5,1,1,9,8,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,1,13,1,13,6,2,12,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,5,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862193003245548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384819614416352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17110821994099884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688069858983122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493621315893654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20559189492064012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483235011888544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368723501201945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110484570572234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18725022270647235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482954420552538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7290081655380454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676721025856413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364787574478285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16433543876935372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345592826587209
parenting,fotofinish348,2018/01/08,"Need help is my ex in the right leaving my daughter Being a single dad is not easy I loose alot of say on how things are done. Today I was speaking to my 8 yr old daughter on the phone, she told me her mom dropped her off at the mall with only her 13yr old step sister to watch her. I live in NY I don't think this is safe in any sense, but is it legal can I call her out on it .... Please any info would help. Thanks ",0.3863709677419358,1.6329021935483858,2.139448924731184,100.42917338709678,80.82795698924731,4.65,17.001344086021508,3.1291,-1.117213978494624,316,5,82,0,8,104,68,93,0.018000000000000002,0.8029999999999999,0.179,0.9284,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,11,15,2,0,2,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,15,2,13,10,2,15,0,0,1,0,19,10,0,1,3,52,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959162146073609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221678703004056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22265423322104752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916711752565324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303799589779415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19212225193322946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548206012878256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132871999672527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4566156334528588,0.0,0.0,0.16547519627330334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23883144258024824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580741705905052,0.0,0.1730239592457246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003133490722962,0.0,0.0,0.14454681665152275,0.13941294147089064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623516666366107,0.2079017395288706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455866803012966,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BitchyTendencies,2018/01/08,"Foster parents. Hi all, not sure if this is the right place so feel free to show me in the right direction if it’s not.
So basically my sister is a drug addict, a abusive parent and has had her children taken away from her. Long story short is that she was ranting at bystanders and police after trying to abandon her kids in a shop. My situation is that if I don’t help these poor kids (ages 1, 2 and 4.) they will end up in the system and I can’t let this happen so I’m willing to take these kids on and give them some stability. Have any of you been in the situation, how did you deal with this and how should I approach this...........
What are my legal rights and what legal rights does the mother have. ",3.4906206896551697,4.218272855172419,4.794655172413794,86.51336206896553,72.17241379310346,7.179310344827586,23.46551724137931,7.1686216300943375,0.7183655172413794,544,13,118,5,10,181,97,145,0.08199999999999999,0.855,0.063,-0.5972,2,0,1,0,0,0,24,0,2,2,0,5,3,0,0,8,0,18,2,0,2,2,21,24,15,0,4,5,4,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,11,8,0,1,1,2,3,1,4,1,0,0,5,1,15,3,15,15,2,20,0,1,0,0,20,14,0,4,4,86,26,2,0.0,0.19533541433523932,0.0,0.1797247451673324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211233150113996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489399178866656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996626845592022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427251396030658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118846338237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460194732146156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335956600633203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815138370617565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14578759591193333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050403416749452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858334387291227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589835638435264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661211738737832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224649697240846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5631675915923714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706253037889076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538120205356684,0.0,0.12395627955162315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193099347829412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jhonotan1,2018/01/08,"Well, I'm wrecked. My son is OBSESSED with Toy Story, so I thought we'd watch the sequels. Well, we're on 3 right now, and I'm bawling!!

The part where Woody talks about Andy having his own kids someday and playing with them again was especially heartwarming, since I just got all of *MY* old toys out for my son!",1.9871428571428569,4.0607850952380975,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,79.0,5.469841269841268,24.785714285714285,6.42735559955562,0.5448857142857149,243,9,54,2,6,75,51,63,0.038,0.8009999999999999,0.161,0.7805,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,0,8,5,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,8,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,8,4,7,4,3,7,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,3,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26904482780051125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529886737979056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642816712728503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28727844131626695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27826840250940976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703805697311469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670590776087096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6049167964912621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cealdi,2018/01/08,"Parents whose toddlers and older babies were terrible sleepers: What finally worked?? We are trying what is probably our 5th or 6th type of sleep training on our 16 month old. This time we are going full CIO and it's eating me up with guilt but so far NOTHING ELSE has worked. And this is a kid who wakes up more than hourly sometimes, constantly wanting to be nursed back to sleep. I was losing my mind quite literally due to lack of sleep and found myself feeling resentful and angry toward her so we knew we had to bite the bullet and go all out this time. We are SO hoping it works. I am just curious what finally worked for your LO's, because I hate the idea of just letting her cry but DUDE... she is totally out of control!!",3.377291666666668,5.212161034722224,4.249722222222221,85.96750000000002,74.06944444444444,7.3000000000000025,25.88888888888889,8.07648339933343,1.5761222222222218,575,20,113,9,12,185,102,144,0.173,0.767,0.06,-0.9626,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,7,1,0,7,6,6,2,1,3,0,13,5,4,1,2,30,21,12,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,14,1,1,4,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,5,1,17,1,17,14,5,21,0,1,0,0,15,8,0,2,11,80,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071270152583364,0.0,0.08776963972501979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559259180645635,0.161487226092193,0.0,0.0,0.1581566532974792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732877396573896,0.1202778674784731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280125122105224,0.0,0.0,0.3154488652162677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786801998159045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365573624239765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215168574157616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300587861592645,0.1417925383076422,0.0,0.0,0.1625373171081309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723059340357714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107820098710895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538002818099524,0.0,0.11492446808997933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815390218928775,0.0,0.1510841121405172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987415022354595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552361504867198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531417930393603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322557247048057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424011477552312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679132611734789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775382437831157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492387758809505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41928028842462667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Secritacc,2018/01/08,"Being compared with ex’s girlfriend We’ve been divorced for a couple years. We get along great and have a fairly open and flexible relationship. Daughter is 9. 

I like his new girlfriend. She has 2 kids and she is fun to hang out with. She supports my ex and I having a relationship. My daughter likes her. A lot. 

She just came home from being with them because time with dad now means being with her too. They baked muffins. 

“Mommy, I wish we baked things from scratch together”. 

Not the first time she’s made such comments. 

I like that this woman adds to my daughter’s life. I believe more people add richness to our lives. 

But, man, those comments kill me. 

I don’t want to tell her how painful it is. She already is showing guilt at liking this woman. So I reinforce how it’s ok. 

But, man, those comments kill me. 

Thanks for allowing a vent.      ",1.0613759278897137,3.6767226402439057,1.9408695652173904,93.84760869565218,90.89024390243902,4.31558854718982,22.374337221633088,6.046907544983943,0.3902574761399791,659,25,131,6,23,205,104,164,0.081,0.722,0.197,0.9474,0,0,0,0,1,2,25,3,0,2,1,7,14,2,1,6,1,12,4,0,4,0,29,20,9,2,2,4,6,1,4,2,0,2,0,3,5,8,17,2,0,1,1,1,2,2,4,0,1,3,1,27,10,16,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,35,3,0,1,10,86,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856049767081479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252879160694543,0.0,0.0,0.18949572984301996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236779709636614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861021737569357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306474022788834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878738148131125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18543319526538854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687111279339387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721609059879705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879957399337605,0.3286820953351461,0.0,0.14851735546543268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14299153438218315,0.0,0.1591481279863515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18321130562833995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244168891170152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896903579005724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166037349051757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611523225199329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086323691425205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700795190677213,0.15484936580371178,0.0,0.0,0.11173984655089232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961491902762204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920449229326693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341346062445186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831067184991244
parenting,BlackFire68,2018/01/08,"One on one time with each child Do you make a point to do this as parents? With what frequency and how long? How many children do you have? What ages?

We have twin 9 year olds, a 12 year old, 20, 23, and 26 (three youngest at home) and we struggle to do this with any frequency.",-0.7515517241379293,1.4073075517241378,0.4616379310344811,104.66590517241379,94.17241379310344,4.279310344827587,17.594827586206893,5.985473137389443,-0.6419379310344824,210,6,53,2,8,65,40,58,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.504,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,3,0,12,7,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,8,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,7,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174513546166525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574154244394336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271047190936525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129893102266192,0.2601770926118041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.538568753555219,0.0,0.34779097705329504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28495127843592805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425932206094564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682797789717783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963988352971982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33051569160847016
parenting,khaleesijen,2018/01/08,3 year old pacifier addict Were going to take it away this week cold turkey. Also converting the crib with a big girl bed set with hopes it will distract from the pacifier. Bad idea? ,3.9161904761904758,6.0225261428571475,4.46857142857143,83.80476190476192,73.28571428571428,8.095238095238095,23.095238095238088,8.841846274778883,1.6939523809523809,145,4,27,3,3,46,31,35,0.14800000000000002,0.779,0.073,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,14,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692508372884525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708713569348376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182351773856447,0.0,0.2828140189000154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250031752830749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33642177993940303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38236955052002175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35542584975395897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25467255479474105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716978391727807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218122235594779
parenting,dianelorene,2018/01/09,"When should I be introducing food to my baby? My baby will be six months this month, and she has only been fed breast milk and formula. I get asked all the time what I feed her and I always end up being lectured. Now a days, I am told that I should be feeding solids now. The problem is I tried, with baby cereal at least. The baby did not like it and spit most of it out. Should I try purees instead? I am a first time mommy :)",0.6306666666666665,2.5385949555555563,2.6011111111111127,94.225,82.77777777777777,5.333333333333334,16.666666666666668,6.42735559955562,-0.41833333333333256,326,6,75,3,9,109,64,90,0.061,0.904,0.035,-0.2892,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,14,7,2,0,2,14,18,5,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,13,1,6,6,3,13,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,11,57,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254352376118811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532827230661868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747272612484499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399633230043032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045268842435265,0.32760930279609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154960078582585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323625800219506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325070484989125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20605426687685147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592431600530677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159626065752517,0.0,0.0,0.2588849657581879,0.0,0.3678870023417672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Omgplsworkiamtired,2018/01/09,"Did you save your child's umbilical cord? Serious question. I didn't know people saved them...but my mom insists it's important to do this. She felt so strongly about it she apparently some how hid it in my daughters heirloom box with her clothes she came home from the hospital etc... and my daughter is 8. I have been unknowingly keeping it for 8 years 🤢

It's thrown out because I just can't save it. How common is it to save? Is she just crazy? ",0.40053846153846,2.8568966777777796,2.1877777777777787,91.70807692307692,93.33333333333334,5.435897435897436,23.58974358974359,7.010146845296331,1.0455384615384615,351,15,74,6,13,115,65,90,0.081,0.76,0.159,0.85,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,2,0,1,6,6,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,2,0,18,13,4,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,1,13,5,8,8,2,5,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,2,47,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19813628967315894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717496419482926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624962311626769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120813757222624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260332672558272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889030832932589,0.0,0.0,0.17862890594866046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38067316447286537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253360352154884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641098582670006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093097394009954
parenting,PP_Coke,2018/01/09,"5 year old doesn't want to go to bed or school Bed time? Nope. School? Doesn't want to go.

He's a good kid and totally spoiled. Now he's not listening at all. Doesn't help that his mother keeps screwing up his routine (like bringing him home at 10:45 pm on a school night).

Any tips? I work long hours and it's so hard to deal with this every time I see him lately. 

He's the only reason I'm trying to make this marriage work. ",-0.3536166007905166,1.7523563260869572,1.267470355731227,100.87199604743084,89.0,4.21501976284585,15.972332015810276,5.565023196281405,-0.9125782608695652,330,7,80,2,11,106,64,92,0.106,0.86,0.034,-0.4781,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,2,2,3,1,0,3,0,3,1,0,2,2,12,13,4,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,3,6,2,10,13,2,16,0,0,1,1,13,4,1,1,10,35,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237321703165504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187582355973416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330063693177032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20681264072370936,0.1526109423180333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629913704651822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195718163384472,0.0,0.1825105834962206,0.0,0.17918399901905932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16172542989098146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20524741070212715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888915297689597,0.0,0.0,0.16101993455438873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145297012137997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707476541300675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092581122177985,0.0,0.0,0.1383810967953878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870747993839157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5524290334091514,0.14499051198189164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21219289805022185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353203758514432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21463752860427893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649233862602346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171697691804632
parenting,DarknessInMotion,2018/01/09,"Pretty sure he’s smarter than I give him credit for... My son is almost 16 months old and has been seemingly having separation anxiety issues. I couldn’t even go to the restroom without him having a breakdown. Well I decided today to explain to him what I was doing and that I would not be gone long, and gave him the task of protecting my chair and keeping my seat warm. No tantrum, no tears! I have now left the room several times with no issues because I am explaining before I leave why I am leaving, what I’m doing, and that I won’t be long. Before today I wouldn’t have thought he understood, but it really seems like he does!",6.185714285714287,5.794869317460318,6.882380952380958,77.77928571428572,66.14285714285714,10.057142857142855,32.285714285714285,9.606745405546679,2.8522190476190485,498,18,97,9,7,165,84,126,0.08800000000000001,0.789,0.123,0.7353,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,4,0,18,0,0,0,1,22,30,6,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,2,7,0,1,2,8,1,1,0,6,1,18,5,8,18,0,12,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,9,66,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629368820975815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124477533269315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919035348786688,0.0,0.2769191936973444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423941411152614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747258943035252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609231329556555,0.09247542988132544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396671093061524,0.0,0.1446297344260556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445861599533741,0.17679174903758713,0.0,0.0,0.0794949709014648,0.0,0.0,0.2879976313879721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298786077960918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074339756400364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554098682549234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042402360258837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962616384080266,0.0,0.18382311714920296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533581983465115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291785761016408,0.09488119002925603,0.0,0.30847207562346823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630150588852106,0.0,0.14682616263356502,0.0,0.0,0.15685271817680446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558899945179288,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nickle_knuckles,2018/01/09,"Switching my 1st grader to a charter school for 2nd grade, they have a spot for him now, should we switch mid-year? My son is above grade level in most subjects at our local elementary school, it performs very poorly (1/10 on greatschools.org) He definitely has a spot at the charter school (8/10 on greatschools.org) 30 minutes away for next year (2nd grade) but they've offered him a spot right now also. I'm struggling with switching him now, or letting him finish out the year where he is. He likes his teacher, and has friends in class and is the type of kid who takes a while to adjust to a new environment. I'm trying to weigh the benefits and drawbacks of switching him mid year vs waiting. Waiting will definitely be an easier transition for him, but that means another 5 months for him in a terrible terrible school. My family thinks it's best to let him finish out the year at his current school, and I'm leaning that way too. I just worry that he's missing out on the opportunity to be in a better school for the next 5 months. What would you do? If you've been in a similar situation what did you do? how did that work out for you and your child? Thanks in advance for your ideas and experience. ",5.6326923076923086,6.349658423076924,5.823914529914532,81.0933076923077,67.33333333333333,8.804102564102564,30.557264957264948,8.841846274778883,2.3004567521367525,957,35,187,15,15,304,125,234,0.073,0.777,0.15,0.9677,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,2,5,1,6,8,11,0,1,17,0,18,1,0,1,0,28,28,13,0,3,6,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,9,12,1,2,4,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,3,0,22,7,34,18,2,40,0,1,0,0,28,22,0,3,17,121,31,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906512068879072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886424583065393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650222759114346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189607251133734,0.10025467302886157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088447542909262,0.10686248432094936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875790036425888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796576804599216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23182954290087085,0.0,0.05538029351563484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234785347310666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809602630099723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948048024255763,0.24111199323869226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680589014317637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6883373949413197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274175324663919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850489776299113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523003212526363,0.0,0.0,0.10436349835454482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263431196763809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696166910200526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353104068620532,0.0,0.08997716777430796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252493195010177,0.1151190977871094,0.0,0.0805252539151617,0.0,0.0,0.3649895679171399
parenting,maselsy,2018/01/09,"How do you handle pessimism and constant complaints? My stepdaughter is 11 and is amazing in so many ways, but she has a very hard time with going with the flow and it seems like she goes out of her way to find things to complain about. I've raised her since she was 2.5 and this isn't new behavior, but I always just thought she would grow out of it or learn by my and her dad's examples. Her dad and I are pretty upbeat and are always moving and taking on challenges, messing up, and trying again. Sometimes she can hang when things are challenging, but not for long (maybe 15mins tops) and then will fall apart or become mean and angry. 

We share 50/50 with her mom and her mom is very defeatist, flies into rages at the drop of a pin, 'poor me's' and has excuses for everything. So, there's that. BUT I can only control what happens at our house.

**SO, my question is: How do you parents deal with this defeatist attitude? Do you have any helpful tips, phrases, or exercises to help turn the negative into a positive or just not let it consume either you or the kid?**

My usual response is ""Aw man, I know that is tough. It's really a bummer when X happens. But you know what? Y has been really great, so let's just focus on Y and not let X get us down."" 

She views this as me not caring about her feelings and has told me so.

Sometimes it's too much and she gets no understanding in our responses, as in, ""Really? You're going to complain and try to cheat because you're not winning? Why would we want to play games with someone who did that?""

In all of her reactions she never seems to realize her fault. It's always us being mean to her rather than us reacting justly to her negativity. 

What has spurred this is that I am coaching her basketball team again and for the first practice she was sick and 'unable to participate'. She came to practice, but sat out. We had a great practice. Everyone was laughing and having fun, there were no hurt feelings or 'unfairness'. Until we got in the car... She doesn't like the color of our jerseys, she doesn't like the name that everyone (including her) chose, she doesn't like that we played a game she wanted to play, she doesn't like that I told another parent that she was sick, she doesn't like that the games are on Saturday. I almost want to ask her if she just doesn't want to play? Because frankly her attitude is infectious. Whew!! Whirlwind.

Please help me!! Thanks ",3.103525032092428,5.0409642315789505,3.908082156611041,87.67837997432609,75.10526315789474,7.0762516046213095,24.84852374839538,7.933642134475585,1.3407889602053908,1890,63,381,29,41,603,226,475,0.149,0.685,0.16699999999999998,0.8516,2,0,0,0,0,0,71,11,5,0,7,22,29,2,0,15,1,47,3,0,4,2,89,77,46,0,8,25,6,3,6,0,3,3,0,0,2,25,36,0,1,14,10,1,9,17,8,0,1,14,5,64,21,51,56,3,45,0,1,2,0,75,19,0,11,20,270,89,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457839694258155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108421978666054,0.0,0.0,0.057438349665689725,0.08856776565933146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896234646459592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297682123495487,0.09328374362931924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966042023049292,0.08611657718565277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127547157613188,0.09473344806429733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707857403575958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141775572533795,0.07591070874152185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541497328869943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719847612125554,0.07184495178656981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825780522151816,0.0,0.09600556381402248,0.0,0.06755349825380923,0.18624350000216766,0.0,0.0,0.14938229896369176,0.0,0.07566306567902215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698431190127556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746000242334177,0.09042035388128207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283830309739896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25911018681522346,0.0,0.2475887761182166,0.0,0.0,0.07474789523549114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563313936775592,0.08485534215358433,0.1840119011666397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978462020840861,0.0,0.08977176065624827,0.06209068641931955,0.0,0.06514376816047251,0.08157576275887407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423860346521347,0.0,0.0,0.18757433480688354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092716000225181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593015352784254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461890057216768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232921508904544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378552804961013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986941245697485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715659899630646,0.0,0.16707391738173769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635063425478019,0.0,0.0,0.07776301276350342,0.0,0.0,0.11222812658520646,0.0,0.0,0.06705490337944932,0.049251580424086464,0.0,0.0,0.16141775572533795,0.0,0.11469089003414262,0.09187247082013653,0.0,0.08792990063148366,0.3047990225694806,0.0,0.09302505494526607,0.13938312964474145,0.1992759908407265,0.13408702767489586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621553392276446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200014650086973,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Disposition59,2018/01/09,"[Advice] How to tell stepson I'm not his biological father Yo! My financée and I are getting married this year and we're currently raising a 3 year old boy. I've been with them since he was 7 months old and I'm essentially the only father figure he has ever known. His dad lives across the country and has never met him, doubt he even thinks about either of them. 

My stepson and I have a terrific bond, I love him to death and I know that he feels safe with me. He's starting to talk more and more and also understanding more difficult concepts. So I know within in a couple years he'll start to catch on that I'm not his biological father. 

Anyways, I was wondering if anyone has ever had experience with this sort of dynamic? I don't plan on lying to him so I'll tell him the truth but I'm afraid that it could potentially cause developmental issues for him as he grows order.
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parenting,hobbitlover,2018/01/09,"Confronting my daughter's growing weight issue... I've read all of the expert opinions on this, and because my almost 10-year-old daughter is a pretty good candidate for an eating disorder I've generally taken their advice - I haven't mentioned her weight and I won't mention it until she does.

The problem is that she doesn't seem to care and never brings it up or creates an opening to talk about making healthy choices, healthy living, etc. She's generally lazy, is always hungry - like whining hungry - at night, and will do anything to avoid physical exertion.

She didn't used to be like this, but the heavier she gets the harder it will be to get healthy, and the less she enjoys healthy activites - even now she gets winded easily, everything hurts, she can't keep up to the other kids, etc. Getting in shape would require some strength of will on her part, and she doesn't seem to have that - unless it's related to food or TV time in which case there's no end to her tenacity.

I should also mention that it's pretty much winter six months a year where we live so going to the park isn't always an option. She needs to do activities, and do them hard.

Her diet isn't bad, honestly, her problem is treats and snacking after hours, and constantly after school when we can't keep an eye on her. 

I don't want to let this continue any longer. I feel like I'm letting her harm herself by keeping my mouth shut and that harm - and the growing difficulty of undoing it - is probably worse than any harm my wife and I might do by actually having an honest discussion about her weight and health. I really feel that if she were more healthy a lot of her other issues - laziness, depression, lack of focus, trouble falling asleep, trouble waking up, struggles with other kids and school - would go away. How can her mind be healthy if her body is unhealthy?

Anybody go through something similar and resolve it without turning their child into a neurotic with an eating disorder? We don't want to MAKE her healthy, we want her to want to make herself healthy. 

EDIT: As I mentioned she does eat healthy most of the time. Her favourite foods are avocado toast and shepherd's pie. But she's hungry all the time. If all we have are apples to snack on, she'll have four of them. She'll have soup, but add half a sleeve of soda crackers. We don't have pop or chips in the house, and try to limit juice as well - we'll have popcorn instead and some water with lemon in it. We don't bring much junk food into the house, honestly. When we try to limit this intake - which would be healthy in smaller quanitities - she complains that she's hungry.

As for signing her up for activities, if it's not something she likes she will not go easily. Right now she does a lot - soccer, trampoline, swimming, etc. but it doesn't seem to be enough to get into the kind of shape she would need to be to feel great doing those things. I should also mention that she has no arches, and even with insoles she complains of foot/knee/hip pain and avoids running. We're going to start cross-country skiing more, but can still only go a few times per week. ",6.969351656095843,6.643668797342192,6.7351766837813365,79.26644769958725,64.51495016611295,9.290325178697273,33.690929225812944,8.575989854853784,2.6172595791805087,2464,93,465,30,33,776,277,602,0.158,0.715,0.127,-0.9541,0,2,2,0,0,0,80,9,0,4,5,17,34,1,3,26,0,60,22,6,5,4,106,97,43,0,20,16,3,7,4,0,15,2,0,0,3,28,37,14,8,7,5,0,13,20,18,1,3,3,8,66,16,72,71,20,60,0,3,1,0,68,24,0,19,27,324,94,5,0.0,0.0,0.06692925260420085,0.0,0.0,0.06702065459059235,0.0,0.0,0.06867816138983865,0.0,0.0,0.10969510446974197,0.1141367458383126,0.0,0.0,0.09328056314390154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643976812067768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443804436225985,0.0,0.05726576944089354,0.041808895674553856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618268545882657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992717289631145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411622582649391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907232426313835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720914100110794,0.0,0.18005808774390206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053931723628647,0.0,0.0,0.06074612180952053,0.07086683598472819,0.22947185196764705,0.09059974324856897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163994701515262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403619953826602,0.04899727395007936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488004545581305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916465699365616,0.0,0.2338712665747756,0.057526003968603565,0.0,0.07561541488922242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143885937542146,0.0,0.0,0.0729028505409178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754259741873468,0.15827620332005868,0.07342186517203421,0.0,0.0,0.14317024022699254,0.0,0.1828850064173945,0.0,0.07142092195517262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026600858788993,0.0,0.1340290392443287,0.0,0.12112395987888105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661735303089435,0.0,0.0,0.13734344212306734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275804891978109,0.06925149118107035,0.0,0.05474404488705967,0.0,0.10083601337601172,0.10171009974932953,0.05289712722155795,0.0,0.0,0.06436255539689005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196862038348825,0.0,0.0,0.05216212810508632,0.07297947853522857,0.0,0.0,0.07427107796526128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955159155464253,0.07394643570319323,0.13125352976201513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860375084068898,0.0,0.04393742939559279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058571378126674886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882374918237433,0.0,0.1873121452393357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560046116183797,0.0,0.0,0.04854495099343692,0.0,0.05477222189933503,0.0,0.0,0.07170013277573645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055126178335095484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045564953160146734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997030501140094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931296848893512,0.07460099276357829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923558392537556,0.0,0.0,0.16181328985663432,0.0,0.05501490299587332,0.25055485599523675,0.06166632320220039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611367638009658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989416873437403,0.19488380671199884,0.0,0.0,0.08833322833207116
parenting,AngelDescent,2018/01/09,"New mom incoming (x-post from r/mommit) Hello all! I am expecting a little girl in the end of February/start of March (we don't know for sure. This is only based on measurements in week 18)

And I was wondering; do you guys have some tips/advice/help for a first time mom? Is there anything you feel is not on the list of things you really need, but is still something that will make my/my hubbys life easier?

Added for this sub;
Any tips specifically for my hubby?

We live in Norway, for information :)",2.5769696969696985,4.613100232323237,4.075757575757578,85.43363636363638,76.97979797979798,8.036363636363637,20.090909090909093,8.841846274778883,1.2599575757575765,389,9,80,9,9,129,75,99,0.015,0.8959999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.8422,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,2,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,1,2,15,15,2,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,8,1,14,13,2,13,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,2,7,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679774910039775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764109993809654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911951139158446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109149426221603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836173439501694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21374341403624925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469187523886878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863549357111393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247406317117876,0.0,0.21635660377493546,0.19061553739675385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440936709488206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5056443526502479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600635030573853,0.0,0.20848681105655106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417746068493547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20674202280339612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829066890560152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618585351599333,0.0,0.0,0.15279259249393926,0.0,0.1723925889179317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20345318314734884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341321142017344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258744582317255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731564144678714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340998077973313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CakieStephie,2018/01/09,"I hate being a parent, does it get better? My son is 4 months old and is pretty much exclusively breast fed, I can express but it's mostly on tap. 

I hate being a parent and feel like this is the biggest mistake of my life. I'm so tired and I haven't slept more than 4 or so hours in a row since August. 

I miss my old body, my old life and the freedom. I am with my son all day and he relies on me for food. I don't even enjoy feeding him it's just a burden and something I do for his health. 

He's currently having a sleep regression and has been up every hour or two all night and screams when he wakes instead of just fussing. He also used to settle back down to sleep and now he just screams and often I can't get him to go back down at all. 

I don't even want to play with him or do any of the nicer bits because I'm so tired it all just feels like work. 

Did anyone feel this way? Does it get better? I wanted this so much and feel so selfish for wanting to return him (to where I don't know.)",1.887181818181816,2.5734191272727287,3.610681818181817,93.66602272727272,75.9090909090909,6.045454545454546,21.022727272727273,5.602791699666715,-0.13350000000000015,768,16,186,3,16,258,116,220,0.17800000000000002,0.7090000000000001,0.113,-0.9495,3,1,1,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,3,19,14,2,0,8,0,18,14,6,1,4,37,38,22,0,4,8,4,4,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,8,13,3,0,5,1,0,1,5,8,0,1,4,6,23,6,22,32,9,26,0,1,0,1,15,9,0,5,17,122,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267273980617906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788053888001277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102909052896179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17821595287716693,0.0,0.07064207521677249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049807288157934,0.1265157878555295,0.12872148162654326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473587289212602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282249782127146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530811511264338,0.0,0.09763763349344104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23437860657717605,0.16557572525910774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012791728722765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18163450105049672,0.0,0.06585979426093129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288237734097675,0.0,0.12317973408140236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22824564821473745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368705415212222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370520534238106,0.11323056156793185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249784942145103,0.0,0.17037678528790054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087496908524674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36480365809843707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573518993741493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178961303350494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095860801119037,0.0,0.23193624821479045,0.0,0.0,0.08921349870597871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663842186255761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132022531120715,0.0,0.0,0.10008694340407193,0.0,0.0,0.20505492447297968,0.09198366953852108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843652479507653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mswood718,2018/01/09,Teenager having trouble sleeping My daughter is 13 and lately she's been having trouble falling asleep. Everything seems fine at school. She would tell me if things weren't going good. We're really close. She's healthy. She plays sports. Just wondering if this is something that happens at this age. We're going to call her doctor and have her seen. She asked to go. ,2.4030882352941165,5.356302544117646,2.3325882352941183,90.45064705882356,89.73529411764706,4.484705882352942,22.976470588235287,6.2581,0.7612247058823525,295,11,51,3,10,88,51,68,0.13,0.7759999999999999,0.094,-0.3904,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,2,0,0,9,16,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,2,0,4,1,2,0,0,3,1,9,3,4,12,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,4,2,30,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324095959639416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538507484084668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544549929476442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234277214123037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238592562528194,0.2085158182485243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983819694291049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28043422795173856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926100215754646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251598804506648,0.0,0.2263182012653111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487818422189937,0.0,0.0,0.191386199696748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172893718172968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516032465646535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695985946827815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659994444476854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teamdna04,2018/01/09,"My toddler pinches for comfort. My son is 2, and he has this habit of pinching for comfort. He’s always done it, and it’s like a wooby for him. It’s not like he’s being mean and pinching me because he is angry. Basically, if he’s sitting next to me or in my lap, he has to be pinching the skin on my hands or arms. When he was breastfeeding, he would do it on my torso. He doesn’t take a handful. He just pinches and rolls the outer layer of my skin. Sometimes it hurts, but it’s mostly just annoying. If I try to pull my arm away, he will whine and try to get it back. It seems like he’s uncomfortable if he’s not doing it. I don’t mind it that much, but my mom is on blood thinners and it leaves bruises all over her arms. My mom says that I did the same exact thing when I was a baby. Is this something that a lot of babies/toddlers do, or is this some weird trait that my son somehow inherited from me? Any tips on how to get him to stop?",2.037674796747968,2.800185873170733,3.957560975609756,91.03065040650408,75.6341463414634,6.442276422764228,24.398373983739837,6.42735559955562,0.5462617886178851,724,22,171,5,15,247,105,205,0.096,0.8540000000000001,0.05,-0.885,0,0,1,0,0,0,25,0,0,0,0,7,9,1,0,7,0,20,8,8,1,2,31,25,17,0,4,12,4,4,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,19,6,0,1,2,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,4,5,20,5,20,17,6,15,0,2,0,0,21,8,0,11,8,115,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094683479895147,0.0,0.0,0.13153705474959454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817311191863128,0.14873349340557454,0.0,0.11791135932316495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794307050248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021153432344613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20706770142569852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20481136065828165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834961187882164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444479571498388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106988071489764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953062220030357,0.4530789423269075,0.0,0.0,0.14219116786108776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20571190561724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382098632543376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760887589954572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890962461278012,0.19130433887621145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617137091333962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543310010257088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850436439246068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26264859574668964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137405055722809,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,athenas_owl,2018/01/09,"Not imposing your fear on your kid? I have a horrible fear of flying. I know that this is something I need to address because I want to travel and have family around the world. The last time I was on a plane I was four months pregnant and it was pretty bad, anxiety-wise. I have to fly for a wedding in a few months (about a six-hour flight) and am debating whether to a) leave my kid home with grandparents and risk orphaning him (I know this is an unrealistic fear, but just so you know what's going on in my head) or b) bringing him along. Never mind if he'll behave on the flight - I don't care. But if we do bring him, how do I keep my shit cool so he doesn't develop a fear of flying? He's a little over two YO now and can definitely pick up on our emotions.

Any help/insight would be appreciated. Again, I know it's an irrational fear, but I can't shake it and don't know how to deal while having to manage a kid.",3.243384615384617,3.665552005128205,4.9041025641025655,86.61923076923081,72.53846153846155,8.461538461538463,25.256410256410252,8.617729084823388,1.3871025641025645,711,20,165,12,13,242,116,195,0.096,0.7509999999999999,0.153,0.8488,1,0,1,0,0,0,25,2,3,0,0,9,11,1,7,14,1,19,2,2,3,1,33,32,18,0,5,9,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,7,10,0,1,5,1,0,5,6,9,0,2,3,1,23,2,22,26,1,25,0,0,0,0,16,12,1,3,8,111,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587440278431213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241554414032999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054381231197005,0.07697882229945884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875038504221706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018863849943044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420474613804785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904509130705165,0.7104978296743454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176756038853496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959921746466962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464249928915557,0.0,0.12666865310337047,0.0,0.12435988849868483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224303809909413,0.0,0.0,0.3469996039405861,0.10293466175458656,0.0,0.13371177660511294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656525220225115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275063152850674,0.0,0.20159021353340406,0.0,0.0,0.09363466277141054,0.09739454943361472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847166846396402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962411089647785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721614268163484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363460266039583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335674029212995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448293170982923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970534669644277,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FourcedCelibacy,2018/01/09,"{x-post}Lost virginity Went to bed last night to be woken up to my teen (14) crying hysterically. I went in there thinking her and her boyfriend had broken up. Turns out he was having some suicidal thoughts that were downright scary. My husband forced her to give her the phone so he could see the context of what exactly was being said. He has some crisis counseling he does through his work and wanted to assess the situation better. While we was scrolling he came across a message exchange that they just had had sex on Sunday. Now, my husband wants to have a talk with this kid. While I agree it does need to be addressed I don't see what outcome he is hoping for. I expressed I didn't think it is the right thing to do, and that I felt like he was just disregarding my feelings on the matter. He said he is going to do it anyway because he wants to protect his little girl. He did the same thing with our older daughter when we first found out she was sexually active at 18 years old. That was 2 years ago and it somehow didn't scare that guy off. I plan on talking with this kids mom sometime today to alert her of what is going on with her son and  to lay some ground rules if they are going to continue being a couple. According to him, she has no idea he is even depressed.  The kid agreed to see a counselor this morning at school if my daughter agreed to go with him. Not even his mom knows that pains this kid is going through. 

edit: clairfication",4.9562390350877195,5.725829090277783,5.153523391812868,85.11223684210529,68.8611111111111,7.59093567251462,28.35233918128655,7.475848149327749,1.4756152777777776,1150,38,232,11,19,362,159,288,0.101,0.8140000000000001,0.085,-0.8431,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,0,2,4,10,6,0,1,11,0,32,3,0,0,1,42,60,11,1,8,5,7,2,1,0,0,1,2,2,6,19,15,0,2,8,0,1,8,5,3,0,1,22,7,30,3,39,33,4,39,0,1,3,2,51,16,0,7,16,157,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328114024156937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710248278209412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030456772828221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332590529247749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302560548660707,0.12891866412374495,0.12798331067989602,0.0,0.0,0.10035188904369403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039214298527396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391057479586864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058912128947139236,0.0,0.11187009716069624,0.0,0.0,0.09910531844447412,0.0,0.12774974322275925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176923245208582,0.3310831776495319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536551317951907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572302151290735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152822545757709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403212308949073,0.09497309012452544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056922033467679004,0.11677595184308352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718695887385936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729156380927301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639240771364826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093389179844365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122260078597555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397732142400088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158659397309292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995008832346232,0.2216597915535834,0.0,0.1166491563787404,0.11791668643781845,0.2785356984061408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130964727468868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523366203287015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744556552994518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872963761183312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481121424780162,0.1493127780392313,0.0,0.09249776619553708,0.0,0.0,0.11044005434160062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673194498005522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206165952229438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160161727431975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482235539353797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006022598610974
parenting,PicklePartyForOne,2018/01/09,"Toddler twins VS the toilet Hi parents! Just hoping for some insight on our potty situation. I have 2.5 year twin girls. One is fully trained (day and night). The other is 99% (day and night) but has forever refused pooping anywhere except in a pull-up. If I try the toilet, she won’t go (even if she has to), will just hold it for ages, there is a lot of resistance, sometimes crying, and it’s overall uncomfortable to do. She is not constipated and nothing traumatic has happened on the potty or with pooping. So my question is.... should I just let her do her pull-up thing until she’s ready to do it on the potty or should I work with her on it? (I tried bribing twice too, but it did not work). Thanks all and enjoy your day! ",1.5936781609195378,3.846832965517244,3.235172413793105,89.0854022988506,81.41379310344827,5.52183908045977,23.459770114942533,6.742157984588678,0.7600252873563225,560,20,114,6,15,185,90,145,0.091,0.821,0.08800000000000001,-0.1521,1,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,1,0,2,7,3,0,0,7,0,18,2,2,0,1,30,22,13,0,5,13,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,15,3,15,16,3,14,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,8,8,87,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22171526392445448,0.3905164740976899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133315521884647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471213508003725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784892643356015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20047582861051846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20639833477526207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17159986024977358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788323169536767,0.0,0.1936739823931228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677416776647944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241229734726332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22611056427073015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268801999362212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996280738080056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185830088798557,0.0,0.0,0.13409564513948896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740765503035283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29388848925481525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998039522624985
parenting,chicagosuburbirish,2018/01/09,"Credit Jujutsu Here is a technique that I believe has improved my parenting experience which I call Credit Jujutsu. If I am feeling full of myself because I did all the laundry or made a big food run without being asked or bought something useful at Home Depot, I sometimes have the urge to mention it to my wife. “Isn't it nice that I got that thing at Home Depot?” “Did you like coming home to a clean living room after your night out?” Fortunately I stop myself from doing this most of the time, but I try to do more than just avoid being annoying. I try to identify something nice that she has done for the kids or me lately, and thank her for that. “Thanks for researching all those swim class options online.” “Thanks for taking care of the kids this morning so I could read for a while.” Basically I try to use that credit-grabbing motivation for goodness instead of evil.",6.493293413173653,6.862332491017966,6.7505449101796415,76.40905089820359,65.40718562874252,9.075209580838324,32.2688622754491,8.841846274778883,2.6671801197604785,694,26,124,10,10,224,108,167,0.103,0.7070000000000001,0.19,0.9194,1,1,2,0,0,0,13,0,2,0,1,4,13,2,1,9,0,14,1,0,4,2,22,27,8,0,2,7,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,13,3,1,2,2,2,3,3,2,3,0,0,6,1,20,10,23,18,5,15,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,6,7,95,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566968895311296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846516049640635,0.0,0.0,0.16350305013066022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818601587532976,0.0,0.14796177879190442,0.0,0.0,0.1250099455829718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158682867967707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485104200449424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195738139708403,0.0,0.0,0.0733781566585795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548236875547607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172163583112212,0.11606749933524607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43670826827128784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637041892363242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089938801675373,0.0,0.12814558215139746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731815682553572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361873759466497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114105518791202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516149567831854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22344435542846247,0.14352958985028078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132867702547545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091138514212366,0.0,0.0,0.4008271369599599,0.0,0.0,0.09641275688553884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462193559028794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29558539113951804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506780126338563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989264479741906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,makeuplovalova,2018/01/09,"Cereals for Kids hey all,

looking for healthy cereals for my kids. they love the idea of cereals (like Frosties or Coco Pops) but not into the healthier cereals like Shreddies

is there anything out there that is appealing to kids but not filled with sugar / other bad stuff? apparently alpha bites is good (made by same people behind bear snacks) but haven't tried them

thanks",10.966815920398009,9.377601402985078,9.322985074626867,67.99950248756221,57.358208955223894,13.112437810945272,40.24378109452736,11.855464076750405,4.763461691542288,302,12,50,7,3,92,52,67,0.099,0.7559999999999999,0.145,0.4001,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,1,1,13,8,4,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,3,5,10,7,2,3,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,1,2,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625797282082195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664226072522681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676333193765699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602080723566864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117775804955066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679509966039025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879866276499554,0.30192589732263475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22121332960595694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652759303464981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29377055395924057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166377375441753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kenpachi49,2018/01/09,"Youtube Hello everyone, my Daughter is 11 years old, She always watch Minecraft and other video games videos and creative good stuff for her age, I know there is terrible stuff on Youtube not suitable for her age so i turn on the restricted mode, but every time I open her laptop and go to you Youtube I see it is turned off, does it goes off automatically or she is doing it ? I don't want to ask her about that because I don't want her to feel that I don't trust her.",4.674062500000002,4.95066828125,5.03125,87.48875000000002,69.3125,8.066666666666668,28.5,7.793537801064563,1.4345749999999993,369,12,82,4,6,117,62,96,0.108,0.85,0.042,-0.6333,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,12,17,6,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,2,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,17,2,10,17,0,11,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,1,5,52,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871490636814552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102671479874625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710739029011154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682648961729415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895023763289681,0.21491794919064147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372485515544276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278255839519279,0.1886498112590485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360856845254835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360126849646836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792298265398009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.514952588697541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115098288386198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489290485473932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653238925418861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483925271293427
parenting,throwaway_40f,2018/01/09,"My (40F) daughter (11F) is very beautiful. How should I deal with it? Hello everyone, I hope you can help me. 


I have two children - one son (13M) and a daughter who just turned 11. I know it sounds like I'm bragging, but I assume it's the truth: my daughter is very attractive. I love my son equally, but if I had to be honest then I'd say he's just normal. When I was younger I was not even average looking. I was basically a late bloomer, but until then I didn't get that much attention from the other gender. As you can see I don't know how to handle this situation.



My daughter also started her puberty and it won't be long till boys will give her a lot of attention. We made sure to focus on her intelligence and her character. But what else should we be aware of? Should I talk her about her appearance? And what exactly am I supposed to tell her? Is there something I need to discuss with my son?


I'd appreciate any tips and suggestions. Thanks in advance.",1.7686558704453432,3.870838194871802,3.66186234817814,87.08866396761137,79.87179487179488,7.182186234817816,25.64777327935223,8.20500826718156,1.692076923076924,748,30,157,15,19,252,122,195,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.9915,0,0,1,0,0,0,29,2,2,0,1,9,8,0,0,5,0,21,1,0,3,3,36,36,19,0,7,8,7,0,1,0,5,0,2,0,2,10,9,0,0,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,6,4,32,8,16,22,3,12,0,0,2,1,32,2,0,5,9,110,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216058045175085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939159592812444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19616224580287084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894797745971145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567296952877655,0.0,0.0,0.18181320621154395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994093522637134,0.18252639706966733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753542046605928,0.0,0.0,0.18898319073472708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20913721008608555,0.0,0.2146352881624929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295736809491327,0.0,0.0,0.1683848772306524,0.15978069611754406,0.0,0.0,0.16176258925777534,0.17172805632992244,0.1800401217444925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398719332088945,0.14108439834644027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864263216786985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893334230738254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513120614246339,0.0,0.0,0.15162227973353026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21387388392732287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464808073617365,0.0,0.0,0.1346756166899074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932926237232838,0.0,0.0,0.1529335576843102,0.1663062575324391,0.17517704433035258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696147592099806,0.185868256166851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31398892369226306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boomchickaboom,2018/01/09,"Not sure if I should be more worried about my son's new friendship. So a bit of background. My son is 9 1/2. He made friends with a boy in my daughter's class who is 10 1/2 - we'll call him Fred. They bonded over video games, etc. - all normal stuff. However, I started hearing/and saw some odd behaviour. I am going to list it for ease. 

 - Another boy who was friends with Fred, said that he no longer wanted to do sleepovers with Fred, because Fred always wants to share a bed and cuddle. 

 - Fred talks about things that are waaay too mature for his age. Not necessarily sexual, just mature. He has a teenaged brother, so assume he gets it from there.  

 - Fred gets fixated on particular people for friendship - for example, he was really only friends with one boy for a long time. The other mother decided that it was too much and pretty much told her son he couldn't really be friends with Fred anymore. Fred then ""moved on"" and is now (to me) focused his attention on my son. Fred pretty much only tries to hang out with my son and my son's BF. This has only really started this school year. 

 - I have seen Fred stroke my son's hair and face. Was very strange. 

Most recently, Fred gave my son a video game for Christmas - worth about 20 bucks. To be clear, my son did not buy him a present, and the game was brand new. This is not something that my kids (or kids we know) do.

I am freaked out, and deeply worried. But maybe I should not be?? Is this normal? My SO says I am overreacting. My friends think that  Fred is odd, and that I should tell my son to stay clear of him. 

My son never goes to his house, and never has a sleepover with him. I have allowed Fred to come to our house before (for about an hour of playtime), where they have been where I can see them always. 

I have spoken with my son, and he always says he and Fred just talk about video games at school, and that he normally just plays with his BF. My son is fairly open, and has not said anything . . .but I sometimes wonder . . .

Is this strange? Am I overreacting? How do I proceed? I should mention I know Fred's mother and father they seem fine, if a little useless - e.g., they don't really ""actively"" parent. The teenage son I only know a little, so cannot really comment. 

Would love to know your thoughts. 

Edit: Heading to bed - late on my side of the world. Thanks for all the advice, perspectives and opinions. Will be having a chat with son about his boundaries, keeping an eye on how things are going and having a coffee with Fred's mum just for a chat and to at least start a dialogue if needs be.",2.2619598155467706,4.3889898517786605,3.0263883399209486,92.14074193017127,78.34782608695653,5.955797101449275,21.806488801054016,6.996647511020387,0.4950765480895916,1979,57,417,22,48,622,226,506,0.038,0.868,0.094,0.9754,3,0,1,0,0,0,94,3,1,5,0,22,13,0,0,21,0,51,7,4,4,7,87,81,30,0,15,16,22,2,0,7,7,1,4,2,5,21,33,0,1,11,10,3,5,12,2,0,1,15,10,54,11,55,52,11,42,0,1,4,2,84,18,0,10,18,261,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242204037642595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21054815559589693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844424832177021,0.0,0.0,0.08364867448205864,0.0,0.0,0.06940965998161999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05141660445473428,0.0,0.0717723253703393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208410428891756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612680654430413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265670337204239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406820610585086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258279683603882,0.0,0.08813472015734376,0.0,0.09587167366171824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656344047589898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306392597300995,0.19464816779787852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497069609987217,0.0,0.0,0.18541766006610366,0.0,0.09514608347869301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907391710622685,0.0,0.07464365120337557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612565539936106,0.07981032662274491,0.0,0.0,0.08473700219250895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896465642173193,0.186012282705504,0.06254157020279452,0.13010583624661234,0.16292399305262395,0.0,0.0,0.2479238318673652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05715510555318296,0.2565960631128314,0.0,0.0,0.09365637104509576,0.0,0.0,0.05847497099690754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162062925189325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701713823747291,0.0,0.08328160588187197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604649272021061,0.1341508206865039,0.0,0.17072552827501944,0.06721292760505712,0.07678552874095923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493375457774145,0.08342045735826044,0.0,0.1791018277258509,0.08990172832925285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655611382427616,0.0,0.0,0.07949520842505911,0.0,0.0,0.1355884129836918,0.07372221593977189,0.07765456382357833,0.0,0.0,0.1120716123128626,0.05404558014442051,0.0,0.06696138805732058,0.049182893763207315,0.0,0.0,0.08059632059494364,0.0,0.057265470585775184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959437239041476,0.0994990394489368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146975596659587,0.0,0.1713151334972002,0.0,0.05991705498719,0.0,0.0,0.0543161280402355
parenting,emily_kcwik,2018/01/09,Has anyone used the gerber grow up plan? I always see ads in tv for the grow up plan. Is it worth it? Or would opening up a savings account be better? I have a 3 year old and he’s just has a bunch of money in a piggy bank for now. I need advice!?,-1.2035119047619034,0.453638053571428,1.957142857142859,97.65452380952385,88.10714285714286,3.733333333333334,14.690476190476188,3.1291,-1.3057166666666662,185,3,46,0,6,66,42,56,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.119,0.7229,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,9,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,8,7,1,11,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,1,3,30,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728333942521704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174692236277311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266779436817939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33743833871899626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28290473997095433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003587428551959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040354718491803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295253373802041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710328315392848,0.0,0.0,0.24569722233749225
parenting,Defconwhite,2018/01/09,"My sons scared of the toilet and thinks the little ones we buy are toys. My son just turned 4. He is so terrified of sitting on the normal toilet with the little coushin thing bc it moves around.  He also thinks the little ones that have all the same features minus the water you use are toys.  He understands when his father or I go pee or poop and even hands me toilet paper and flushes for me. I think he gets it.  Hes willing to even climb onto the toilet but sitting is totally different. I'm at a loss.  Hes ready but so scared...so maybe hes not ready. I'm at a loss and we just started. Its so frustrating and sad havung him get up there and be so afraid. He won't let go of me,which is fine he doesn't have to,but he absolutely can not relax enough to go. 

I probably sound horrible. Can anyone help me?  ",1.3095,3.169959523529413,3.0608088235294133,92.04238970588236,80.23529411764707,6.132352941176473,19.448529411764707,7.1686216300943375,0.2635588235294115,629,15,140,8,16,209,100,170,0.157,0.777,0.067,-0.9557,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,2,1,0,3,12,8,1,2,10,0,17,4,3,1,2,27,31,16,0,1,8,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,10,1,0,4,3,1,5,4,6,0,2,0,2,16,2,13,27,4,18,0,3,0,0,19,9,0,2,2,87,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349613612914052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800445724238788,0.0,0.0,0.15023668788117012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632357282979685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437942561150196,0.0,0.2229354671858024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634556160045484,0.0,0.2877392264354263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311966547360165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257371286934045,0.0,0.0,0.5074407930981892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695471910876868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937055548859265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535393121929332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287191510704421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18195728375286171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896327109826545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945278144488213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121200100113635,0.3244135171329328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835679283178949,0.0,0.17569038420355645,0.0,0.14575883002445478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kali_lost,2018/01/09,"Devastated - How do I take the next necessary step down a road that leads to divorce? How to I break my child's heart??? I have been struggling with a marriage that has hit a few skids.  At first I thought some things would pass in due time.  There has been a lot of low points I have been able to overlook but tonight I may have to leave because my son and I have now been put in a very bad situation.

My husband has been my soulmate and best friend since high school.  He has always been a stand up guy and well liked.  Life was not always easy, we hit a few snags, but we have always loved each other.

My husband began djing as a side gig a few years back.  At first it was just a few gigs here and there.  Eventually it developed into an every weekend thing.  He has been djing at a bar that has a seedy reputation.  I was never worried.  My husband never let an atmosphere or crowd affect him.  He always had a solid work and life ethic and nothing would ever interfere with his duties as a father.

Lately he has been distant and stays out way past his dj time.  It sucked but I dealt with it.  I have now discovered that he is now gotten into some seedy and illegal things.  I do not feel I would be a good mom by ignoring it. I just discovered further proof tonight that my husband is taking a path that could destroy his family and it cannot be ignored.

How do I break my 5 year old son's heart by divorcing his father?  His daddy is his best friend.  I do not know how to tell him that we cant be together anymore.  I know I have to, for my son's safety.  I do not know how I can do this.  I dont even know if I can afford to, my husband is the breadwinner and I am just a substitute teacher.

My heart is breaking.",2.119169027384324,3.7383017337110513,3.5735042492917835,90.4000486307838,76.98866855524079,6.633012275731825,23.098111425873466,7.42949916751922,0.7982790179414545,1324,40,291,17,30,436,171,353,0.08900000000000001,0.769,0.142,0.9741,1,0,0,0,1,0,34,3,0,0,6,18,15,2,1,21,0,52,7,3,7,4,61,66,22,0,5,12,11,1,1,2,4,2,0,0,2,18,20,1,4,6,3,0,4,9,7,1,2,15,1,44,8,26,40,10,48,0,1,0,1,37,16,1,6,23,212,62,4,0.10494441026773753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492886250567305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040766555813479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069577366403713,0.0876241990426155,0.06397313844041297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22026536804079727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378957219440526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299406724860427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931479322753509,0.0949282272680437,0.0884201918658695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989322501870902,0.0,0.05306304705808236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853132352572146,0.0,0.0,0.16215958209397735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802239227875737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039114655017387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730788943647116,0.0,0.1108795312958088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23069881339887055,0.0,0.11838186583877115,0.11112097769690872,0.0,0.10731276970009317,0.1482506810940606,0.05127053790989949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921998476200517,0.09471642756996727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290962494323796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187919763230987,0.0,0.11160957088811567,0.0,0.0,0.10069699201829084,0.0,0.11012150502603657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018131430809392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099206388734127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054981181596886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620934590561833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681110063908502,0.11796191413936223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185677804731288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971068348619152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578102720566698,0.0,0.09172604018612496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20916120908109384,0.0,0.0,0.08331413934820335,0.12238785913541887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659012913863698,0.0,0.0832999881103133,0.0,0.0,0.09435762814770192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640078055680682,0.1065761427497873,0.0,0.22364849415592267,0.0,0.0,0.13516151894955547
parenting,monkeylavender,2018/01/09,"Tips for traveling to a resort with newborn (3mo) & toddler (3yrs) Would love to get tips for traveling with two kiddos, especially with a newborn. We'll be traveling to Mexico and staying at an all-inclusive resort so we won't have to worry about cooking much. Our room has a bedroom with two queen beds and we've also requested a crib. 

Are there any things that have been super helpful for you/your family while traveling? Things that made or broke the trip? Things to avoid? Appreciate the responses in advanced :D",4.98,7.212943666666668,5.560833333333335,76.56750000000002,70.66666666666666,9.383333333333336,29.70833333333333,9.827888789773867,3.226920833333333,416,17,71,11,8,134,69,96,0.047,0.7390000000000001,0.214,0.9557,0,1,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,0,3,4,4,0,1,7,0,9,2,0,1,0,11,12,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,5,7,1,1,0,5,0,6,1,2,0,2,2,0,3,2,15,6,1,11,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,1,1,48,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962872871275946,0.0,0.2659463419764328,0.0,0.16691527639049056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23138960707948844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282381548034584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452080835678645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152934880124114,0.2322519207433902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804349210114366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26161838907534235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4892007398398436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795404388943784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24926767306197134,0.0,0.17436153559226714,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,just_sayian,2018/01/09,"Im sorry lil dude. You're never going to know what its like to have a real mom. Ok set the stage weve got 

ME(M): 35M

WIFE(W):35F

Lil Dude(LD):9M with aspergers

So Im busy ironing and am aware of LD deep in thought about something in his room.  He finally comes out and informs me hes just spent the last half hour making a super awesome model of a WWE event using all his wrestlers and props.  I check it out and its pretty damn cool.  And its obvious that hes super proud of it.  Even though he's trying to hide it.

Hes so excited about it that he wants to have a friend come over just for the purpose of showing it off.  Ive got no issue but tell him to make sure to ask mom too just to cover all bases.

Im busy ironing and it occurs to me that there is a lot of noise coming from LD room.  I pop my head in and he is in the middle of a full on meltdown.  Crying so hard he cant speak.  And tossing all his wrestlers back in their bin.  I sit on the floor next to him trying to figure out what happened.  

Now mom does this thing where she doesnt give a fuck about anyone else.  And if you are potentially making her focus on anything other then her wants and needs.  There will be hell to pay.

I finally get him calm enough to tell me that when he asked mom about a friend coming over he was told to clean his room.  He then tells her hes got this super awesome thing he just spent 30 min building but it takes up a part of the floor in his room.

Anyone whose dealt with younger kids and aspergers knows that sometimes they come across rude when theyre just trying to explain.  

Well mom gives no fucks.  ""Go clean your room now"" and then hides away in her bedroom behind a locked door.

Its at this point that he just keeps repeating things like ""i really tried hard"", ""it took me a half hour"", ""i wanted to show my friends"" over and over.  I did the only thing I could think of and grab him and lay on the floor with him sobbing.  Hugging him with all I had.  I dont understand why some things are super important to him.  But I can see they are and can see when hes proud of himself.  To see the hurt pouring out was something I dont know if ill ever get over.

I wish I could say this was the end.  But no.  Minutes go by and im starting to get him calm again......then the one thing I was praying wouldnt happen did.  

The door to his room opens.....and there stands mom....pissed.  asking what the problem is.  

He tries explaining and gets maybe 3 words in and is cut off by W ""no, no I didnt say you had to take it down.  I said clean your room.""

So anyone thats made it this far Im sure is now thinking ""well no shit you tell a 9 yr old to clean his room hes going to think you mean get all the toys up off the floor.""  So I see my chance to save the day!

M: ""ok well you see what happened LD.  You guys just had a miscommunication.   When she said clean your room you thought she meant one thing and she really meant something else.  This is why its important that we work on ways of asking for clarification or try explaining things without sounding rude.  So these things dont happen.""

Damn.  Full House eat your heart out I got this mess put together with a freaking bow and a moral and lesson all good to go......right?....no

W: ""no there was no miscommunication.  I didnt tell him to pick up the wrestlers off the floor.  I said clean your room.""

At this point all I have left is the ""wtf is wrong with you"" face.  Cause any words would have been unwise to unleash.

She finally walks away in disgust.  And im yet again hugging LD while he sobs all over again.  LD, youre never going to know what its like to have a mother.  And im so so sorry for that.",0.7145643041973351,2.7134498728702496,1.989089121887286,98.22469763417013,83.03669724770644,4.961313304432571,17.776808818093222,6.02186152331457,-0.5453125852740532,2795,61,665,20,78,890,299,763,0.116,0.721,0.16399999999999998,0.9897,0,0,3,0,0,0,111,2,14,3,8,42,44,10,0,35,3,51,10,4,7,14,114,124,48,0,12,15,6,3,3,3,3,1,7,19,2,50,41,1,1,20,3,4,13,19,17,3,4,30,16,81,27,94,88,14,112,3,3,5,4,97,62,8,5,35,404,131,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03251641690077417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030185989232847,0.04899298777364253,0.03934836943820405,0.0,0.17880545607945195,0.0,0.08984912801272285,0.03676743627786843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04912004826196315,0.0,0.20594559944553725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635412900888043,0.0,0.05252346471447202,0.030837266808836538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04184397156354197,0.0,0.1681194562535414,0.0,0.0,0.04892755062451268,0.07988801225522918,0.0,0.042350649594951904,0.04940655385545576,0.0,0.031581917210650644,0.04325217280374477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571397756208492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108272186528995,0.08840996355526068,0.12490903751733633,0.09173863850957414,0.16304909294610465,0.04010566541698658,0.15297080958011566,0.0,0.0,0.04734520796939545,0.16913358893391034,0.0,0.08566721717909576,0.0,0.04907285580407133,0.0,0.0,0.05666201112456909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417795871753656,0.05517306970678591,0.051187855156562254,0.0,0.36154525407485183,0.04990732326329481,0.0,0.042500923473162984,0.0,0.0,0.10511336016601094,0.03897629871801293,0.0,0.0,0.05195205969471437,0.0,0.0,0.0700812254449346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04065132479064832,0.0,0.045244512331094736,0.09575235123251886,0.0,0.048037447067737785,0.05208547710600957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33600806569015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035454846057978,0.07375706079029687,0.0,0.050852697722605054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05017468988803059,0.0,0.06480251334415774,0.03636610772342802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05177990469595973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040286524361146,0.0,0.0,0.048645908399556834,0.0,0.045753309688491936,0.0,0.048068134931334765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054424904225302835,0.06126411435022858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04083447366589703,0.13645146595794388,0.07605016440375338,0.0,0.0,0.1905152040168029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04908228172355983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043292957253628,0.04729109717157511,0.1070518561172705,0.03384430393060819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013174334824772,0.0,0.0719031351752506,0.0,0.20896579736663154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859005277788781,0.09191539569223617,0.04697882873156437,0.07592088582690383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04569009268982962,0.05312516745776917,0.1947829359710197,0.0,0.0,0.04977798498073605,0.0,0.04129754103878894,0.0,0.0,0.08460907957235232,0.037953995181262856,0.0,0.0,0.12897657173578445,0.0,0.08629273263497225,0.0,0.05498586640600128,0.04609277198941597,0.0,0.034810507454787434,0.0,0.0,0.03396700712709804,0.052279124471748366,0.0,0.0
parenting,bellastefania,2018/01/09,"Coparenting problems affecting daughter in a negative way. My daughter is 4 and spends approximately 35% of her time with her father. They have a great relationship and she adores him. He and I do not agree on a lot of things when it comes to raising a child.  I like to have her on a schedule, though not insanely strict, and make sure she gets enough sleep. He lets her go to sleep whenever, let’s her eat whenever she wants, etc. 

Since he lets her go to bed late, he doesn’t always take her to preschool. He works from Home, so he thinks he’s doing her a favor by keeping her home because she should be with a parent and not at school. The problem is, he’s working, so she sits on an iPad all day and watches TV, craving attention from other humans and he can’t give that to her. Then I come pick her up after work and she’s crabby as all hell and the rest of the night is shot.

Tonight she screamed for four hours after I picked her up. I could see in her eyes that she was overtired. I called him on video chat to see if maybe he could calm her down. He advises me that I need to talk to her like an adult and she’ll understand. WTF! She’s 4. He says she never acts like that at his house and that I must be doing something wrong.

I don’t know, I’m just at a loss. She was a great baby, 2s and 3s weren’t so bad, but now she’s 4 and a half and she’s so sensitive. I could barely get her to eat earlier because she was so upset after leaving his house but I finally got her to eat some yogurt and she literally spilled a drop and had a meltdown. I want to work with him and coparent the best we can, but he thinks it’s his way or the highway. He doesn’t see these as real issues and I’m really concerned for her emotional well being.",1.1843911007025767,3.0738514672131174,2.8352802498048426,93.36034426229507,80.775956284153,6.150070257611243,21.11288056206089,7.2259226712905225,0.43745067915690816,1351,39,310,18,35,445,187,366,0.08,0.838,0.08199999999999999,-0.1676,4,0,1,0,0,0,36,1,0,1,6,10,19,1,1,19,0,30,6,3,4,5,60,53,33,0,11,9,4,0,3,0,3,0,2,3,3,10,24,3,1,5,3,1,5,10,8,1,2,6,7,56,11,40,35,8,36,1,1,5,0,70,12,1,4,18,203,66,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963289491199431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990834093695393,0.11667980793336072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043481320409846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772387103421233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488000879141054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22923413081182314,0.0,0.0,0.06172077524638533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29378540979380885,0.0,0.10765344296136513,0.0,0.09888719467631928,0.10673458834421187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483839606025687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000215231319587,0.09180742126011468,0.10878089469081154,0.0,0.07654275114491044,0.21102667132740532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199662548465185,0.0,0.0942485703937738,0.22085774696802088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988948441435284,0.0,0.08506557866208912,0.0,0.0,0.052596085431440086,0.0,0.1079576030315164,0.10133608144861612,0.0,0.2935896298662898,0.0,0.14026754029441382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136360775503115,0.0,0.0,0.06388276222588504,0.0,0.09614692807432497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709628579765242,0.07381236151848909,0.0,0.0,0.08981115717892682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626729926222443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315045633372845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089314206190734,0.06131004825946136,0.0,0.0,0.10274963492171488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610718442903099,0.0,0.09685694951904113,0.2287896556014652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916684092720197,0.0,0.19154503043294413,0.0,0.0,0.07367715247700724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019932129925314,0.0,0.07195704588823032,0.07692276723005992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358108600383679,0.1226457479596827,0.09402810396440296,0.0,0.05580542179666938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963061390166927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128966890712953,0.15192980758034302,0.0,0.0,0.0860488495462523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27869285824175394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463664343540197,0.0,0.0
parenting,momgroupdropout,2018/01/09,"“They eat what we eat.” Alright parents who implement the “they eat what we eat” strategy in your household:

I have questions.

How old are your kids? What are your dinners like? Recipes? Any dinner routines besides sitting around the table?",3.6986178861788623,6.974029146341463,2.9042682926829286,86.4113617886179,86.8048780487805,4.684552845528454,33.66260162601626,6.42735559955562,2.378265040650406,189,11,29,2,6,55,30,41,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.6662,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,1,3,6,0,1,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,2,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,2,20,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552989988861267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19050872383656128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8759171179172367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455143068392432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245609538907539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376258573322564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397331958174883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,steph314,2018/01/09,"How to get 3f to wipe properly? Toddler is 3.5 and not great with wiping after she pees. She does a quick pat down there and springs up, which results in damp underwear and uncleanliness. How can I get her to wipe and do front to back? I have been noticing the wet undies when she goes on her own and not wiping properly so I have been helping wipe her lately, but I don't think I should be having to do that after several months of being trained. Any tips on how you got your girls to get the wiping part down? Thanks!",2.660190476190476,4.454565876190479,3.3447619047619064,91.86190476190477,75.95238095238095,6.571428571428571,22.142857142857146,7.3871296695380915,0.6152857142857138,407,11,88,5,9,128,70,105,0.021,0.917,0.062,0.6448,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,0,0,8,2,0,0,3,0,13,1,1,4,0,15,19,11,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,1,13,2,16,13,2,15,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,8,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18512600354052094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932836970701085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23823065288713585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4266874359295152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217727515322042,0.30013497116018073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247029516396626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070877426874192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172917037807746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099361086407966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29479898874847604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075428586542423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506331720874148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443424471064822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayvacationpar,2018/01/09,"Planning vacation, in need of help! Throwaway for personal reasons.

Okay, so my extended family and I are going on an over seas vacation to my birthplace and we're taking all of the kids (24 kids in total). All of the kids ages range from 7-17. Our plan is to have a house for the adults and a house right next door for the kids, this part of the plan is final. With this, brings a plateau of issues. How much food should we bring? We are staying for 4 weeks. Game consoles, some kids are allowed to play some games while others aren't. Same goes for tv, the tv shows a 15 year old may watch may not be appropriate for a 9 year old. Rooming? The kids' house has bedrooms but due to previous complications, all of the kids will be sleeping in the large living room/game room. How many air mattresses/cots would we need? Bed times? We can't have one set bed time due to the variety of age ranges so how do we figure that out? Grooming, while we can trust the older kids to properly groom themselves, its the younger kids that come into question. Arguments? Chores? Remember we are staying for 4 weeks so a chores' list will be necessary. Curfew for the older kids? There's a beach less than a mile away from the home, also a corner store too. Our plan for electronics is to have everything shut off by 10-11pm, but I think thats a bit too harsh. Anyways, I know I am kind of all over the place here but I need to have a complete plan very soon, so any help, tips, or personal experiences are appreciated.",2.8202253302253264,4.752315659932663,3.5653367003367014,89.84663752913755,75.90235690235691,7.128153328153329,23.544289044289044,8.012643519586192,1.1144334110334109,1169,36,248,19,26,370,170,297,0.026,0.909,0.065,0.8834,1,0,0,0,0,0,44,9,0,0,5,14,4,0,0,27,1,27,2,1,5,5,44,37,17,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,9,13,7,14,1,0,6,7,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,3,16,4,40,28,12,44,0,0,1,0,27,18,0,6,19,153,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984778646909244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490677679310735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730689578300305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631108130813713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755291456008244,0.13090978082482238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221307089839737,0.1221337233719533,0.1177037006162381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677431408133567,0.0,0.0,0.15097710926553246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095888918377881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673775085785628,0.0,0.12524136072007935,0.0,0.0,0.4322032955426671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031786280723748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001894659342525,0.06861792795946488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025067472918447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658500623206925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917839750518654,0.27773878434991844,0.0,0.0,0.13278642194914736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620320195786987,0.0,0.08460607072628848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520754220258352,0.0,0.0,0.21803995304235,0.13044858380884014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398679787641804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283733906410016,0.0,0.0,0.14143820058395015,0.10662686333474188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494678065322892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26616106861574146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387663265112517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000307464898886,0.0,0.0,0.14560978754142864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030197798713921,0.0,0.0,0.20030488374127944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886945539316706,0.0,0.0,0.16080712741486253
parenting,Areyou_nobodytoo,2018/01/09,"Job interview tomorrow. Need help!!! I got the call this afternoon that I have a job interview. I have been hoping and crossing my fingers that they would call. Its something that I would LOVE doing plus a paycheck that I desperately need. This is the only subreddit I'm usually on so I hope I can post here. It would be helping me and babies out dramatically. 
I want to do everything I possibly can to make sure I stand a chance at getting the job. I dont know how many other applicants there are, So I NEED NEED to get it right. If you have any tips, pointers, secrets, advice, anything I would very much appreciate it. I get so awkward and weird when I'm nervous I don't want to ruin it. Thanks so so much I really appreciate all the help I can get!!! Heres to hoping my luck is changing and things start looking up!!! 

If it helps at all, I Would be in a hospital setting working directly with new parents and newborns.
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parenting,StillJustLyoka,2018/01/09,"How do you even manage to read to your baby? So with my first baby it went beautifully. I started reading to her within the first month or two. By 7 months she was turning the pages by herself, smiling at her favourite parts and crying at the sad part of her favourite book, in short enjoying it all immensely. We never had any problems; she loved listening and seeing the pictures. As an advertisement for early reading, I believe it's contributed to her having exceptional language skills.

Now for the new baby, who is 6 months old. I cannot have her within three feet of a book. I still read to her older sister, but now I have to do it quietly in a different room while the baby sleeps ONLY. She will immediately lunge for the book, trying to grab it and suck it to little soggy pieces. If I resist, she will get so vehemently frustrated that any thought of reading goes out the window. I want her to get into reading too but it seems impossible right now. |

Did I start too late maybe? Should I have started before she was able to grab stuff, so that she would get the point early on and get used to the fact that books are not food? If so, what's my game plan from here? Or is it just an individual personality thing?

What have your babies been like, and your experiences reading with them? Has anyone had to overcome similar issues?",4.29813953488372,5.971975286821706,5.2200697674418635,80.61359302325583,71.32558139534882,7.795658914728682,26.465891472868208,8.395991825355821,1.7814924031007748,1056,35,200,17,20,345,152,258,0.05,0.887,0.063,-0.3815,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,1,4,1,4,14,7,2,0,14,0,22,5,3,2,3,30,39,18,0,6,9,1,2,1,0,4,0,2,2,1,16,10,1,0,2,12,0,1,3,4,0,4,8,5,31,3,34,27,5,35,0,1,1,1,26,14,1,5,21,153,47,12,0.09797076424313422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324695849197613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685034362925296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336590448316045,0.11037950209307736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761628416840416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235859661984388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470876579830666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583420654553844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666776403364372,0.1184666370068593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047427228914504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225602426618463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051528937237824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786356671474512,0.0981924436148784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884224397634439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098424800847952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234597987969774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556109309034031,0.09462077460049234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280383661674314,0.0,0.0,0.0745111809386196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121855809880688,0.0,0.0,0.08554429242856659,0.0,0.0,0.09261403915928088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937447901399595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6859809356631817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366649736047531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780700147841717,0.08918890424237509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804151755739696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803263355213986,0.0,0.07823957887856234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215308575840452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650874224789223,0.0,0.0,0.07777784336848828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651571795122402,0.10656405848337336,0.0957032009567214,0.0,0.0,0.08461528454085568,0.0,0.0,0.057785695085575475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081987998047117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959561999977514,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deathbydexter,2018/01/09,"I need help with an odd situation Hello, 



My son just turned 5 years old in November. He has a temper, but he's overall healthy and happy. He's normal, socializes well, he's affectionate and I like to think he's the wisest 5 years old out there sometimes. 



But the thing is, ever since he's 2 years old, he's scared to death of buttons. He won't wear them, hug me when I wear buttoned up shirts, sit on my mom's bed because her pillow covers have buttons on them. It's nuts. Some days he deals with them better than others. Sometimes weeks pass without him mentioning them if I only make him wear t shirts, sweat pants and hoodies. 



I do not know where it comes from. It started a bit after his second birthday. Maybe something happened at daycare and they didn't tell me when I questioned them. Maybe he had a traumatizing nightmare. I'll never know.



I tried rewarding him when he agreed to come near buttons. Candies, small toys, stickers. Didn't work, since I was talking about buttons and making it a big deal, it got kind of worse. So I let it go and told myself he'd grow out of it. For his 5th birthday, I told him since he was a really big boy, he'd get to wear a really nice shirt and a tie. He loved it. Put it on and all was well. A few hours into the bday party, he notices a small cut on his hand he got god knows wear, and starts freaking out ""it's the buttons!!"" And goes shirtless. Everything bad that happened to him for about an hour after taking off the shirt was because of buttons. 


I feel so incompetent for not being able to help. I mean, I can't punish him over buttons, right? I'm scared it would make it worse. The only thing I had close to success is just leaving the issue alone until the birthday. 


What do I do? He just promised that he'd wear them in school, but not before. No one seems to know what to tell me when I bring up the issue. 


TLDR: son is 5 years old and has been scared of buttons for most of his life. I don't know why or what to do. ",1.684814622763806,3.6169671625615782,2.934477573243456,93.05358050298165,79.34482758620689,5.357428052890848,21.76795436868032,6.202715092499727,0.19117832512315225,1532,45,333,11,38,494,201,406,0.142,0.6990000000000001,0.159,0.821,0,1,1,0,0,0,56,0,0,7,4,16,21,3,3,20,0,28,15,12,3,3,53,58,23,1,4,12,3,2,1,0,2,1,0,2,1,20,20,0,0,10,1,0,7,11,8,2,2,13,2,44,13,46,38,5,54,0,0,0,2,55,23,0,6,24,196,64,3,0.08441385670387458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742729765803946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704820443785852,0.1029158070911817,0.0,0.07182997468067184,0.0,0.0,0.0746571964352743,0.09215806852342512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543012607340347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544399541898716,0.1740539593233705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635716617315587,0.0,0.0,0.0758657313685409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04268218230208065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04410275607432345,0.0,0.047974340082903036,0.0,0.13502694511730734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929378940438676,0.08986012013056174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131616575617507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626128995352904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621226998070594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790404180283727,0.23195824015689614,0.0,0.0,0.0893820858506933,0.0,0.08631888769348221,0.05962400340427217,0.04124034647691322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618680141225309,0.0,0.16904071450252808,0.0,0.16961013010508727,0.09195143672059272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886448874233246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625918051418285,0.06510517023922381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827076568109797,0.0,0.09610573534863633,0.3543125706864105,0.0,0.057201013950328,0.12840108371472445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485924125106215,0.09456283852700123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815535628967546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208897239563189,0.0,0.0,0.25353899003083386,0.08543132962504567,0.0,0.0768472047804716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948404372251306,0.09488471173710614,0.0,0.08604929642195855,0.0,0.06498591097854628,0.16697492547371773,0.0,0.11949712450147695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346871480722638,0.06784866047851318,0.14756286290106035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216163100912688,0.05408899089369987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132211511381725,0.0,0.05731146763084938,0.09181803604465802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771170408250432,0.0,0.15179638974685356,0.0,0.07617037593974707,0.0,0.0,0.08137194554703389,0.0,0.061454293044601774,0.0,0.17204986331756536,0.0599651818505645,0.0,0.0,0.21743902440115692
parenting,mylittletile,2018/01/10,"Going crazy about the anxiety of dying and leaving my son behind I am a recent first time mom, my baby is 10mo. I have been struggling really hard with fear and anxiety about being sick of something fatal, or having cancer, a stroke, etc.

I have been sleepless, even more than before because my son still wakes, but I am also being up due to thia anxiety. My husband says I have been in a terrible mood. 

I went to a neurologist today and wanted to get a brain scan, but he said I look fine and he finds no need for it. (I went because I had been feeling my brain swollen).

I am not in the U.S. Not much support around and no insurance or affordable health care here. 

I am not sure if I am making myself sick. I can't stop thinking of what would happen with my son, how he'd suffer etc. 

I want to help myself. HELP",2.082181818181816,3.995418915151518,3.861212121212123,86.97181818181822,78.03030303030303,6.33939393939394,21.909090909090907,7.3011,0.8003818181818181,631,18,127,8,15,212,102,165,0.235,0.6559999999999999,0.11,-0.9588,1,0,1,0,0,0,22,0,0,0,1,8,10,0,2,7,0,20,9,3,2,1,27,35,12,2,5,8,5,3,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,8,0,1,3,0,0,3,6,5,0,1,8,7,23,4,18,23,4,14,0,1,2,0,12,4,0,3,7,94,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137242321697099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32636775904985915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265958775868875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337818607077995,0.0,0.12100911480596095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31750384223733163,0.0,0.0,0.14499122971572795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759016077816595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31720054473692444,0.0939274937156236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600243043949894,0.07190498286157998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997615965240542,0.12096263284994355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742981672593175,0.0,0.08082047157388654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575466845259525,0.0,0.12739104705953194,0.0,0.0,0.1511611797231282,0.0,0.0,0.1906389647553005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057846165736166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941947728880632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492539996501066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665530904283154,0.0,0.0,0.10453974451890598,0.10544593629597836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110252359352868,0.0,0.14041391797442046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352730227001563,0.11309005231475815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094791916234504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135680376957755,0.11889282641328032,0.0,0.14866739196435275,0.0,0.0,0.16137672786903734,0.13403000046599012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911215817336981,0.0,0.0,0.08292302648927254,0.0,0.13479720316660487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677567311025847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26365774716545826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010209680175181,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,akearsing,2018/01/10,"Co-parenting hell for 15 yo daughter My ex and I were married 12+ years, we've got 2 daughters. 15&11. Been divorced 2+ years now. Our marriage was hard, after the first 2 years or so he started drinking daily, he became scary and mad. It got worse and worse.  He was very very emotionally, verbally abusive and occasionally physically.  I left several times, even filed for divorce once but cancelled it. He went to rehab a few times, he was sober on and off. 

Anyways, long story short, our oldest is a Daddy's girl and the youngest is Mom's baby. Lately though my oldest and I have been getting closer as she's become a teen girl. I try so hard to be understanding on how hard being a teen girl is. 

Well I was out of town over New year's for a few days. They stayed with their dad. She lies to him saying she was staying with her friend overnight. I found out from my neighbor that she came here with at least 3 others, stayed at my place alone. They all stayed the night. As far as I know it was her, another girl, her gay best friend and his crush. The crush left shortly after midnight. 

She swears no drinking, ect... But she was sick with the flu (per her dad) the 1&2nd. I'm thinking they drank some. Who knows. She lies often and she's pretty manipulative. 

When I found this out I called her dad, we really and discussed her punishment. I brought her over that evening and we talked with her, confronted her. Told her the punishment which included losing the cell phone. She refused to give the phone to me and instead of her dad demanding she do so he told her to put it in his table and told me he'd take care of it. 

I was mad but left. The next morning I texted him to make sure he has her phone, he said she put it in the table but must've taken it when she left for school!! Of course, this happens a lot, he doesn't follow thru with punishments so she does what she want.  So he says he'll get it when she gets home and I can come by and get it and keep it with me. 

I get there around 730 pm, knock... Did he get it? Nope, she's got it. He does get it and give it to me. 

Today, she's over here, I catch her in my room and go to pick the phone up, she's out the case back but taken the phone out! Refuses to give it back, storms off to her dad's without her school stuff (we live very close).  I try calling he won't answer and after a few minutes starts texting me that by me yelling at her and telling her if she walked out not to come back tonight, I was the problem, ect ect....

Ten minutes later he's over here knocking. He wants her school stuff, I ask if he's got the phone and he said yes. I told him if he gave the phone back is give him the bag. He refused and starts pounding on the door and yelling. Once my neighbor came out the left. He texts me and tells me all the crap he always does, about how I treat her different, and I'm ridiculous. 

I just don't even know what to do anymore. I can't trust her or him. I'm hoping to move this summer a state away bear my family (neither of us have anyone here), she's saying she won't go. I'm not sure what a judge will day since he is involved. 

Advice?",1.3085242805308432,3.2250654175654847,2.437873900293255,96.2284237536657,80.49460708782743,5.3581291316665824,20.329067051046273,6.291566192602671,-0.08574886425766692,2412,64,557,19,62,767,280,649,0.133,0.8009999999999999,0.066,-0.99,2,1,2,0,4,0,99,6,0,4,3,31,21,9,0,30,1,33,8,1,5,4,90,91,49,0,7,14,9,3,0,4,4,3,7,5,4,29,48,3,4,8,2,0,14,11,11,1,2,33,10,97,10,67,51,10,91,1,1,0,1,137,38,2,9,34,335,126,3,0.0,0.07187351822000904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059277352975732486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282663497412573,0.0,0.0,0.05047491860448662,0.13145261537267414,0.0,0.0,0.06360848266433378,0.0,0.0,0.060159539615611615,0.042415671682639336,0.0,0.0,0.05400126551801023,0.05670996675638933,0.0,0.05699312732859755,0.1865786545671473,0.0,0.0,0.06699545083177272,0.0,0.0,0.06366011215762205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388358960498536,0.13876034202444545,0.06184806364084024,0.0,0.0,0.10450838227658077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824281938286982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337796850924503,0.0,0.0,0.15925488774364951,0.0,0.0,0.11884962453782025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823560510983268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019831034618128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057185913509104826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05159832514928567,0.0,0.13302359332488925,0.09373327523393228,0.0,0.2218505526329444,0.2327667289008293,0.06895023484089026,0.0,0.1940649847313744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053642435841381016,0.0,0.16302136897366856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084805816982952,0.060250188234107924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053918398467839565,0.0,0.0,0.10001330985143048,0.0,0.0684283954736715,0.0,0.32954246954344224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053564888073823216,0.05368319007357992,0.0,0.06786428658607567,0.0,0.05157192242403338,0.0,0.0,0.04049177450028442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104558087123851,0.0,0.0644731798181934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058586896176610774,0.06451379864024306,0.056926360060009486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292042447656686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337796850924503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06171417603604669,0.0,0.058044507775561964,0.0,0.12196237827491625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03886107241176468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540524945200252,0.14472049308959814,0.0,0.18417690259742564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852980901460808,0.0,0.050179512579455285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880877750923336,0.25862676822670605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888495880438462,0.0,0.0,0.11434479195541578,0.0,0.045609619469964516,0.04875711750853776,0.1060410005978192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038869201931518285,0.0595992510304004,0.0,0.07074398402792884,0.0,0.05749965716134,0.2318572324893925,0.0,0.08236984907753674,0.0,0.0,0.06315037438685837,0.07296786891139853,0.0,0.0,0.15015535256602713,0.0715590108570995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054541639879559504,0.05623347411447244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058475163443963835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363774529872963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625511231760345
parenting,DaLittlestElf,2018/01/10,"My child’s kindergarten teacher thinks we aren’t feeding her So today my wife gets an email from our five year olds teacher stating that she came to school without having breakfast and said that we told her not to eat breakfast at school.

While it’s true that we told her not to eat breakfast at school, this was because of an incident two days ago where she went to the cafeteria for breakfast with plenty of time to eat but then we received an email from her teacher saying that she was late to class and had to take her meal tray into the classroom. We explained to her that if she wanted to eat breakfast we had food at home she could eat before we take her to school. 

To give a little background on my child, she is skinny but no more than any other five year old girl and she would definitely not be considered underweight. Most of the time she says that she doesn’t want breakfast or that her tummy hurts. I can understand that since when I was a kid I rarely ate so early in the morning or I would cramp really bad. I’ve never seen it as a huge deal since she has a snack, then lunch, and then usually has a small snack when she gets home. I have even voiced concerns to her teacher regarding lunch because I suspect that sometimes my daughter is too busy talking to friends and not finishing her lunch since she comes home some days starving and says that she only ate “a little bit” because she wasn’t hungry at the time. 

Nutrition is one of the things I am fairly strict on. I constantly get on to family members for letting her have too much sugar. Now at this point me and my wife have decided that she will just have to eat breakfast with her sister in the morning wether she wants to or not. I don’t see any other option. 

I am just beyond frustrated. My wife thinks she is probably reporting us because she asked our daughter for my wife’s first and last name. For a long time I’ve had the suspicion that her teacher judges us because we are fairly young parents (25 and 26) and her school is in the expensive  part of town where most kids parents are at least 30. She asks our daughter a lot of questions about us and the longer the school year goes I’ve found it more odd. 

Just needed a place to vent but if anyone has kids that have the same issues eating early in the morning I would love to hear your thoughts especially. We normally have cereal at our house and I even started hand making breakfast burritos and freezing them about two weeks ago, but of course my daughter tries one and says she doesn’t like them. 

EDIT: 

Thank you for all the great advice. Definitely going to dial back her bedtime by 30min and try some different breakfast ideas, as well as taking a couple precautions to cover myself. ",6.380194033470772,6.480832639097747,5.985985932573367,82.7121549842348,65.65413533834587,8.819403347077369,30.695124909046807,8.360895534625662,2.10151059907834,2172,72,422,26,31,671,246,532,0.061,0.862,0.077,0.8632,4,0,0,0,0,0,29,16,2,2,1,19,10,1,0,27,0,38,32,2,1,3,78,73,35,0,11,18,11,2,1,1,4,1,7,3,6,21,29,29,0,10,0,1,5,13,3,1,7,17,12,77,7,60,49,13,66,0,1,2,1,93,25,0,12,36,293,98,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061704324434898684,0.11194803193728768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588119836879801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04415228135610557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180636452798802,0.0,0.0,0.04855441942031104,0.05272323342975828,0.1924622848528271,0.0,0.05373153624773885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893771884790123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222077853644311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054393615794556066,0.0,0.06823704829839347,0.0,0.05041594927032328,0.06986847112106477,0.0,0.0814462871491289,0.06509947042319264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597283000339511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522899441217639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341303118088228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952725591030417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371089691896912,0.07635488920734451,0.06923496536168973,0.04878548159655522,0.0,0.09897158590828548,0.06057420345518304,0.035886619821118744,0.0,0.0,0.0696173160513861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116872886588997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001801534973245,0.0,0.0,0.07286057007085531,0.06759776694014152,0.07128274315010542,0.0,0.06590671940131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147140369275282,0.07123003479247048,0.0,0.0,0.06456979086496678,0.0,0.030849338057609425,0.12657526781617606,0.0,0.05588112172209518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05368341319638117,0.05699060733183416,0.0,0.042149614739598336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04641866094925154,0.046821036228132336,0.04870112832665895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061868453659646126,0.0,0.0,0.1325195979777306,0.0,0.0855770412879315,0.048024432101902964,0.0,0.0,0.14022955699637665,0.06837961698364893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597283000339511,0.0,0.05969220430087933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808072656566816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073657771133603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040452147398776256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060065122649724585,0.2008609766281765,0.0,0.3834351832794826,0.05031819489326797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670198324081938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245177796901489,0.0,0.04469418307047923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424309934156023,0.05075336273009611,0.0,0.05813520725933286,0.0,0.0,0.04195056986282125,0.08092121952509836,0.0,0.05012988266766838,0.1472808593212211,0.0,0.059853845056665626,0.12067504011152601,0.0,0.08574228834433141,0.0,0.12336650200369215,0.06573591757626683,0.2278660988021179,0.0,0.06954502735125541,0.0,0.11173323876256494,0.0,0.05065091416890388,0.0,0.05677471873141045,0.05853582113022832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086929114407686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456866815823254,0.0,0.0,0.12198945711616176
parenting,SentencedToBurn_,2018/01/10,"For those who game with their kids - try ARK (on your own private, passworded server) Hey everyone

Although it's a pretty controversial subject, I've met tons of parents who feel that in moderation, a bit of gaming causes absolutely no issues, it depends on a bunch of stuff like what else the kids do, what type of games are they playing, do they throw a hissy fit when you ask them to log off, do they display any kinds of ""withdrawal"" symptons without gaming, etc. Sure, if your kid goes nuts after you ask them to come and play outside - there is a problem, in short - its down to common sense.

Now that the ""disclaimer"" is out of the way, I've come across a few people who enjoy gaming with their kids but they stick to old console games, or at the best of times - minecraft, mostly because they (like me) agree that although there are plenty of awesome FPS titles, many are a bit too much for kids.

For the past 2 years I've been playign ARK Survival with my daughter who's now 7. The key here is - private passworded server and given ARK's lack of optimisation (although it's improved a lot recently) a decent GFX card (unless you're playing on a console).

Most of my gaming buddies would never think of ARK as a kid-friendly game since most of us jump on official servers, get abused by trolls, have our stuff destroyed, or we join a decent size tribe and try and defend your turf. I however was introduced to it by joining a bunch of my old work mates on a private, password protected server where the aim of the group was to build and explore. Within days it became pretty clear that having my daughter running aimlessly through empty Q3 levels because she enjoyed the whole FPS feel was no longer necessary.

It helps if your kid is familiar with FPS controls - my one tried it (again, using empty Q3 levels) at about 2.5 and within hours she could move around with relative confidence (again, won't apply to console players).

You can build bases, start your own farms with all sorts of dinos that can be tamed, etc. In my case, I normally bring my daughter to an established settlement where she can build her own stuff in peace without fear of any predators, etc. After a few months she was keen to explore so we ended up doing trips to various parts of the map. The amount of content, even without mods, is great.

Time-wise, we only find time to game together about every 2nd weekend, unless the weather is bad then maybe once a weekend. And we rarely go for more than an hour, sometimes 1.5 hours but at that point she often tells me she's ready to log out and wants to do something else or play with her sister, etc. But that amount of time seems to be enough to do something if you decide on a particular task e.g. building a small hut, cooking a recipe and gathering all ingredients, renovating one of the rooms in your base (she spends ages rearranging furniture and painting floors, walls, etc).

We've also had a few goes at playing Portal and Portal 2, but I think you'd need to play it with kids who are a bit older. My one struggled to work out the puzzles involved - I ended up having to try and guide her through, which was a bit tricky. We'll defintely be giving it another go in a year or two.

Here are a couple of short captures I've made over the past few months of us playing ARK.
Raising baby dino: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQC85n5ruh0
One of first dinos Rylee tamed herself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJBz_2q5hG8

P.s. undoubtedly there will be a lot of judgmental comments, gaming is only one of many activities I share with my kids, I believe its good to give them a full mix of things to try (again, within reason) so later in life they can make decisions based on their own experience and not me standing over them telling them not to try things because it didnt work out for me.",7.874151150857648,7.4220265529247955,7.1123735522650655,77.72397302448323,62.71866295264625,9.674886380296144,33.93651957191028,8.841846274778883,2.727013370473538,3027,108,556,38,38,933,350,718,0.055,0.818,0.128,0.9955,2,0,2,0,1,0,113,8,11,14,7,22,23,1,2,43,0,43,2,0,7,6,90,66,35,0,10,18,5,2,2,1,4,1,0,1,8,33,33,1,2,12,20,1,12,10,5,0,7,11,2,63,18,109,45,38,97,0,0,0,0,87,47,0,17,38,380,96,4,0.0,0.07812388872360658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272934004419957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967806826577122,0.06914009700115728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058697402920349674,0.12328332443206315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055054165713922486,0.12058270900343307,0.0,0.0,0.07428777839188656,0.06919621637430612,0.0,0.28794202104076466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773487765728321,0.0,0.11359679378248068,0.0,0.0,0.07395331404896427,0.05264487485296125,0.07295740676455592,0.0,0.042523543206674834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016285463590916,0.0,0.11680021378325453,0.06812995913643513,0.3676827503367722,0.043550390810637454,0.0,0.05555428692789451,0.06300508545900706,0.0,0.0644984817218499,0.0,0.07419681628791269,0.06667888135788966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060264703389892676,0.05608549452035935,0.0,0.0,0.05094232302403348,0.0,0.034449063768845864,0.1265044656054128,0.07494638647975142,0.05530434998548492,0.0,0.07269514794758859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04419579981536164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948023079412806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882050313577304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06866264630949569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04657285118340903,0.06442641921236324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211359144503412,0.0,0.062390645283288276,0.04401307969366847,0.13369838379289553,0.06624200739275482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052596602992773,0.07007999121951129,0.04847086352401269,0.04889102810500718,0.05085424043506315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646037027448282,0.0,0.0,0.13837838525454446,0.07022014707692886,0.223401160450914,0.10029525396152496,0.0,0.0,0.073214603568974,0.07140272930885028,0.1258875684940407,0.04571201908073525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233123982784896,0.0,0.0,0.13416210979267054,0.0,0.06309225955231038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779363275951615,0.06510427097685499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600260503783183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454329708700447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152217188439387,0.0652128162438273,0.0,0.04667014523092071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893107400957761,0.2264443150077174,0.0,0.0,0.062144305886795675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526269391022563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761046979784344,0.08449880516988409,0.0,0.0,0.15379225263871654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685990507859519,0.0,0.0644103121435714,0.0,0.15862681589575575,0.05694790597294914,0.0,0.0,0.03889101535463066,0.052337269835272135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361567047976131,0.0,0.19068109959528132,0.0,0.14400752118949994,0.0,0.0,0.0468393487699334,0.0,0.0,0.08492179949942044
parenting,haileeobrien16,2018/01/10,"Cloth Diapers! Hi! I am wanting to make the switch from disposable diapers to cloth diapers, if you use them what brand do you recommend? The easier they are to use, the better! ",2.5340909090909065,5.379504151515154,4.4335606060606105,77.97034090909092,83.24242424242425,10.572727272727274,26.431818181818183,10.125756701596842,3.903490909090909,139,6,25,6,4,47,24,33,0.0,0.762,0.238,0.8433,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,0,5,7,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4141932312103441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126089338514468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8089606223959396,0.0,0.0,0.2762287695164465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andybader,2018/01/10,"How do you ever get anything done? My wife and I have a two-year-old son, with our second on the way in two months. I have a feast-or-famine work schedule: when I’m working, it’s 70 hours a week, sometimes out of town. When I’m off, I might have a few weeks off at a time. My wife has a little flexibility in her work schedule, so she tries to work more when I’m home and can be the “stay at home dad.”

How do you ever do any mid-sized projects done, like cleaning the garage, or reorganizing a room? Work is one thing — I have to leave the house to go make money, so I go. I don’t have any problem taking care of our son, because it’s all very in-the-moment things, like feeding him, changing diapers, etc.

But to take on a project of any size seems impossible. He plays on his own pretty well if I’m in the room, but if he sees me doing something he wants to help. And I love him, so I always want to engage him. But of course, it’s “helping”. 

I’m just about to go back to work after two months of being at home and I’m just frustrated about all the things on my to-do list that never got done. I’d love any advice or time-management strategies. ",2.596635581061694,3.1164544024390253,4.012065997130558,92.07174318507893,74.08130081300813,6.763845050215209,23.007173601147777,6.522977012572876,0.3055799139167861,877,21,212,6,17,291,132,246,0.032,0.818,0.15,0.9777,0,0,1,0,0,0,39,2,2,0,6,16,10,1,0,14,0,19,3,0,3,5,28,40,19,0,5,9,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,0,7,6,1,0,1,1,1,3,2,2,1,4,4,1,22,8,30,33,6,38,0,0,1,2,22,17,0,6,18,128,29,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549261504341626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131236854687589,0.0,0.0,0.26581670864742724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041671755089189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514203461140202,0.0,0.05957030417606424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963389112285992,0.0,0.10337671027847206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30000999870740075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898564209846942,0.0,0.17678993124650627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05105560882445481,0.0,0.1666126581810206,0.0,0.07815705303147688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100172952146466,0.0,0.294068808909013,0.0,0.09623629153937012,0.1127578404486176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347327961582137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548387379518497,0.09794291918988464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639548530414995,0.0,0.06523006242136774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036673902880974,0.0,0.0,0.1560012218995334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536907894331271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025425938237686,0.0,0.06621882287103595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994182054206176,0.0,0.09350656799175044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778716250218731,0.08896225940874422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523101831618127,0.09664936205020838,0.0,0.0,0.10415843985268007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469492686728124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947660713628996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396473854327195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634668970766668,0.0,0.2863800064172299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063072184957491,0.11527770275879473,0.0775670187607864,0.15677307198886273,0.0,0.08786363694390416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4268558193026808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629296372900594
parenting,Ix_fromBetelgeuse7,2018/01/10,"4yo tantrums about eating We are about to tear our hair out, looking for advice. 4yo has always been extremely picky and willful about food. If it's not his idea, he won't eat it. Mostly we've been accommodating but lately partner has decided it's time to force the issue. And the tantrums, omg. Eventually he eats but could take an hour or more before he gives in.

4yo really had not been bad with tantrums, think it's been getting worse the past few months. He can go from 0 to 10 in moments and then it's defcon 1. Screaming, kicking, hitting, biting, anything. We've tried to work on calming techniques, deep breaths, count to 10, talk about feelings, i mean i think we're doing everything right. It's not getting better :-(

So on the food thing, our options are just to eat pizza all the time, force the issue, or do what we've been doing, which is offer different foods but don't make a big deal and in the end he eats what he wants anyway.

We're stuck.

Edit: just want to thank everyone for the great advice. I've got a couple of new strategies to try. Nice to know other people have been through it!",3.357528032619776,5.140754610091747,3.9645259938837927,88.21011213047913,74.0,6.4958205912334375,24.49643221202855,7.1686216300943375,0.9452071355759428,867,27,174,9,18,274,134,218,0.092,0.8029999999999999,0.105,0.6024,1,0,0,0,0,0,35,3,0,0,2,8,10,3,0,11,0,21,11,2,1,1,32,39,12,0,4,11,0,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,12,7,9,0,7,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,9,4,6,5,25,26,4,20,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,5,10,97,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501707331244266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154397699289613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905356254267656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186062282876024,0.0,0.0,0.09361740667592484,0.0,0.0,0.09730217991913273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784060079784657,0.1217330739364648,0.0,0.0,0.11342395960718199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494562946261205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5628805538367657,0.0,0.0,0.09744349265426062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512712919342307,0.09887728706392372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556285204909733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991034249418078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495996397866015,0.1055395068696314,0.06252589292306637,0.0,0.08799162528910218,0.12129548201301005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834579063433553,0.0,0.0,0.12419718512589045,0.0,0.2296608875808296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046313951003855,0.0,0.1241053504214223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923876006224767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343801982725905,0.0,0.0,0.11984210051829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781549795958599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625628775556104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502484506214556,0.07627278497573535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048049243343678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395496344825202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272001363944836,0.0884284822411733,0.0,0.10129000062631142,0.0,0.0,0.07309122041526969,0.1409904731192517,0.0,0.0,0.12830502406521707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939030665800998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978319974852684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009457847527301,0.0,0.11211797090520116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuperiorAsper,2018/01/10,"10X Homeschool & Einstein Blueprint... Has anyone tried them? Note: Cross posting from /r/homeschool because the eBook (Einstein Blueprint) is about how to accelerate the learning potential of any child, not just homeschooled ones, and even the course (10X Homeschool) teaches those techniques to some extent. 

I came across what looks to be a very useful course called 10X Homeschool (parent site is http://www.homeschooldad.com and the site for the actual course is https://www.einsteinblueprint.com/10xhomeschool). It's run by a guy called Daniel Louzonis and costs $200.

He also has an eBook called Einstein Blueprint (https://www.einsteinblueprint.com) which it seems teaches the ""acceleration"" techniques mentioned in point no. 3 below. It costs $400.

In a nutshell, the 10XH course teaches:

1. What homeschooling is, its benefits, why (according to the author) it's the best mode of education, overcoming objections to homeschooling, etc.

2. Homeschooling techniques: Choosing the best curricula, finding online resources, extracurricular activities, how to build a homeschooling community, etc. 

2. How to ""accelerate"" your children's learning. Dan says his children are way ahead of their peers (in Maths, reading, entrepreneurial skills etc) and he says that he teaches other parents the same teaching acceleration skills in this course.

So now my question is, have any of you guys taken this course or bought Einstein Blueprint, and did you find either to be beneficial? Did the author cover all the stuff he claimed he would on his site? Did either item live up to your expectations? If not, why not?

I can't find ANY reviews online, which makes it seem like not many people have used these things, otherwise you'd usually expect to find at least some (even if negative) reviews. ",8.699698996655519,11.671350587412592,6.7120127698388625,69.08852082699912,62.35664335664336,8.889996959562177,35.51170568561872,9.43228470229965,3.7705641836424446,1452,66,203,28,23,423,167,286,0.008,0.921,0.07200000000000001,0.9604,2,0,0,0,0,0,83,0,5,2,5,10,4,0,0,18,0,18,0,0,6,1,39,27,13,0,5,10,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,5,18,6,0,0,10,1,3,3,7,0,0,1,6,3,12,4,28,17,14,21,0,0,1,0,28,13,0,8,4,130,30,11,0.0,0.0,0.10674557264166784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874764492878502,0.0,0.11852036898379535,0.0,0.2231599803157233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648567575882483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668107496565535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295890412246477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350879412188278,0.12510916492935467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659850258344745,0.14449767624701607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999095961007153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661992485694334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534407825728897,0.0,0.0965903992261676,0.0,0.0918572203103272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301642559148293,0.1109008749201414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412321211170173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429218173738905,0.0,0.0,0.07583491687188397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340572317573424,0.0,0.10476215523732826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253806102297808,0.0,0.1094162325726614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397727885310207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991629611699082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522152196917538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267161709146819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426634211979763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18894985617935653,0.12047392001616612,0.0902554264671145,0.0,0.0868260161566984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974088409451196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770512420437035,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1h0w4w4y,2018/01/10,"Independent 2.5yo How much independence is too much for a 2.5yo? I feel like she’s mature for her age. I grew up faster than I should’ve and I don’t want that to happen to my daughter, I want her to enjoy growing up. She’s very mature but also very very independent. I never wanted a needy child. I made sure she does things on her own. 

She cleans her room when she makes a mess. Throws her trash away. Helps me pick up her clothes. Gets dressed most of the time. Potty’s by herself. Feeds the dog. Sometimes I feel like I’m letting her do more than she should but she constantly wants to help or watch and this is the only compromise. 

She also refuses help for anything unless she really needs it. She has to do everything on her own. I feel like we’re constantly asking her to do things/help out but if we’re not she’s at our feet constantly asking a ton of questions. 

Obviously she’s still a toddler and we definitely treat her like a child but I’ve never babied her and I think it’s biting me in the behind because she’ll freak out if I start babying her by telling me she’s not a baby and not talking to me. I’m at a loss. 

Just looking for some advice/direction! ",0.4762668986748757,2.888062979253114,2.2776201311738724,92.57987819569004,89.33195020746888,5.2673537679025575,18.977513050461784,6.828538100315305,0.2487040824521487,922,27,197,13,31,303,125,241,0.042,0.772,0.18600000000000005,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,2,0,0,1,7,10,0,0,12,0,10,2,1,7,4,45,29,17,0,8,12,1,3,4,0,2,0,0,2,2,5,8,1,1,5,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,1,5,45,7,30,25,8,26,0,1,2,0,41,12,0,6,15,133,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957596146875716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072124288287973,0.0,0.22884693861134697,0.0,0.11499480124070754,0.0,0.0,0.07461129051589653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967988511436333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710931312299343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100013745862016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18566084998613586,0.26231856514220303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394670826606225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823412465298753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281570653231025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515790894981552,0.0,0.2391854514041005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278157264391034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581378290082547,0.08170008874398678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799498639482475,0.09075487020596867,0.1887982384086788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308745498257023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711120996398324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840982777144946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105248965644272,0.0,0.08663231552073118,0.0,0.09774537438499432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535651086499744,0.0,0.0,0.09837703771961256,0.10697924783812733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131427302070694,0.07842623067039653,0.0,0.0,0.07136992444162173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029678442455731,0.2887686504040901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwyourdadaway,2018/01/10,"Can you give me some real-life examples of what anxiety looks like in your world? I've done quite a bit of online reading on this topic and the vast majority of the symptoms I've read about are so incredibly vague.  I suspect my daughter suffers from anxiety and she is scheduled to see her pediatrician to be assessed for a few things, but in the meantime I was curious what your experiences have been with kids who have anxiety.  

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parenting,LoveandBonor,2018/01/10,"Parents with older kids, how did you get them to choose a career path? My son is a sophomore in high school. So far he has shown no interest in any career. He has an aptitude for math but hasn't shown any interest in college at all, in fact he tells us he doesn't like school. Now, probably every kid says that but I tend to believe him since he does just enough to get by with good grades so we don't harass him. How can I get to find out what he likes without being a pain in the ass? 

edit: I'm not saying help him choose a career, but just get him pointed in a general career/college direction.",2.3412000000000006,3.70525932,3.8226000000000013,89.92030000000004,75.8,6.920000000000001,22.9,7.554174236665415,0.82436,465,13,102,6,10,154,80,125,0.087,0.7559999999999999,0.156,0.8859999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,1,1,0,7,7,1,0,7,0,9,2,1,2,2,19,15,7,0,0,7,2,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,2,11,5,17,13,2,13,0,0,0,1,22,11,1,0,4,60,13,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25272689450187225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20935463815728436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16261165889140192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200093543565613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565607141530235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983540825909255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38833150950555895,0.0,0.0,0.15585635255717298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455071182243545,0.1963282168733353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815637777027254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19772476013166287,0.0,0.2063302627944197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565923281775556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034455651731545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955418171499059,0.0,0.3761179588918683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537115858454883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241419584062147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235176523163136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791231050981918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boojabear,2018/01/10,"Steroid for asthma conditions [advice] 
A post that is part advice seeking and part advice giving. 

Our 2 year old occasionally gets asthma-like conditions when he gets an respiratory infection, and we typically solve the problem with albuterol breathing treatments. This time, the doctor also prescribed prendislone, a steroid.

It was an absolute mess. The little guy was not only moody but also suffered from two complete meltdowns that seemed like was having a night terror or some awful psychotic episode. He got better after about 24 hours but never again. 

Has anyone had similar experiences ? And if you haven't been prescribed the drug, I would caution to find out about side effects before taking. 
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parenting,fozzy40,2018/01/10,"Strong at reading, struggles with math I have a 6 year old that loves to read.  She struggles with math and geometry concepts right now but I think it's because she finds it boring.

She loves books and was thinking of finding some children's books about math and numbers.

Does anyone have a recommendation for books at the 1st and 2nd grade level?

Other strategies?

Thank you!",3.4972826086956523,6.503786753623192,3.1650543478260893,87.7327989130435,80.01449275362319,4.6094202898550725,26.01630434782609,5.985473137389443,0.8718826086956524,302,12,53,2,8,90,51,69,0.086,0.7340000000000001,0.18,0.8403,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,2,7,0,2,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,12,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,4,8,7,1,7,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,1,3,31,10,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513808874994566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197556545813802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945942453881126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39575168145318135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907969623333212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22717891054304426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331144682809541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488866120984485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4526627845021343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932286621619116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774471817310471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394180301796779
parenting,notajustnomil,2018/01/10,"My wife hates my mom and doesn't want her to spend much time with our daughter (10mo) My wife and my mom are really different people, and they've never been close. However, I think it's mostly just a personality thing. My mom could have been more welcoming, but my wife could have been more accepting of people have different personalities. 

But lately, it seems like the fact that my mom and my wife aren't close has led to my wife deciding that my mom isn't ""entitled"" to a relationship with our daughter. 

Every time my mom interacts with the baby (which is mostly on FaceTime and an occasional out of state visit), there's something my wife is complaining about. On FaceTime, she says my mom is too ""shrill"" (she uses a high pitched lilting voice, like you're supposed to with babies) and overstimulates the baby (baby seems fine to me?). In person, my mom ""oversteps"" by asking if she can push the stroller or asking if she can hold the baby (at least she asks? and my mom takes no for an answer). 

One time my wife admitted that she feels like my mom thinks she can swoop in and have a relationship with *her* (wife's) daughter even though she never put in any effort towards a relationship with wife, and that's ""just not how it works.""

Now, it's true, my mom could have done more to get to know my wife. My wife is really extroverted and comes from a big family, where my mom is really shy and cautious, and has trouble letting people in. It feels like my wife wants to punish my mom for not being the mother-in-law she expected. But honestly, my mom is just a reserved person, not a bad one. She respects my wife and our parenting, and so I feel like my wife's perspective is a vendetta. 

Outwardly with my mom, I support my wife, but I feel like she's trying to alienate my mom from my daughter and I'm not actually cool with that. Any advice on how to handle? I want my mom and my daughter to have a good relationship, but it feels like my wife doesn't want that to happen.

FWIW, we've let her own mom watch the baby overnight and we've had friends and other relatives watch her multiple times, so it's not like she's paranoid in general about how people interact with the baby. It's all focused on my mom.",4.605862068965519,5.610513436781616,5.499942528735634,81.45681034482759,69.80459770114942,8.83448275862069,27.143678160919546,9.120678840339163,2.056250574712644,1735,55,346,33,30,569,177,435,0.057,0.7959999999999999,0.147,0.9925,4,0,1,0,0,0,65,3,0,0,2,17,23,2,0,20,1,34,0,0,5,5,83,60,32,0,10,16,41,5,8,1,0,0,2,0,4,17,31,0,1,14,0,1,5,12,5,0,2,5,10,59,18,42,49,9,32,0,0,2,0,79,18,0,7,16,231,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0386567775076023,0.0,0.0,0.03870956916617025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053876680747684334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109900849316096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03307537469706225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03412327178168734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488377159448827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277474389331617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04053806600725701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026164150806504003,0.0,0.0333758369115299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03734380776445203,0.0,0.1001481430466684,0.14149842138296742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03060506684842178,0.0,0.020696266619283712,0.0,0.0,0.033225680099349834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03502982971074763,0.0,0.0,0.0391098425348373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041853530005562814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021770383577555633,0.0,0.04468542494808332,0.0,0.0,0.08101437973507514,0.0,0.15482410300516386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8814957160523806,0.0,0.0,0.029120266416851,0.0,0.061104297395568226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053685870951660976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04398578045708708,0.0,0.0,0.10985124483484647,0.13835490386035246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039822216078341605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613170772034633,0.0,0.0,0.17011904565524175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031502013589729004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212475503358813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030496183454894486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04495259990018588,0.0,0.0,0.02978420308744362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026317255727812468,0.05076508936618397,0.038919776511574564,0.0,0.09239512243202408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02689476849092141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03421309366589912,0.0,0.0,0.09345958755512032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02883888779212042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pan0phobik,2018/01/10,"1 year 3 month old Son. Unsure if we're overusing 'no' or not. Wife and I are confused about how we should be handling this issue. Our son is to the age where he's incredibly mobile and inquisitive. He's been walking and practically running since 9 months old and he's also becoming very communicative. He responds to us, he will do basic tasks like retrieving items we ask him to, etc... but he is having trouble with the word No. Recently I caught him about to mess with a power outlet and I said very sternly ""NO"" and he seemingly mocked me, bobbing his head left and right ""NO no No no nO No NO nooooo..."" 

Took everything me to not gut laugh at that, but I realize this isn't good behavior. 

We've seen countless other children who pretty much just seem immune to the word 'no' because their parents say it profusely to the point that it has to just be like elevator music to them.

Should we be saying No to our son and trying to communicate how wrong his behavior is? Or does he not possess the mental faculties to process this properly and we need to just redirect him?",2.8152870813397115,5.112347406698564,4.294112440191388,82.88853708133972,77.32535885167465,7.624976076555022,26.239473684210523,8.548686976883017,2.0520007655502392,844,33,162,18,20,280,126,209,0.217,0.726,0.057,-0.9893,2,0,0,0,0,0,24,7,0,2,1,9,9,1,1,6,0,15,3,2,2,0,37,23,17,0,4,11,5,0,2,0,3,1,3,0,1,9,15,0,0,3,0,0,4,16,5,0,0,5,4,20,4,18,12,3,16,0,0,1,0,34,5,0,6,9,107,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686081954482625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830285720011271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670277985834927,0.17520053962370116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388230689496656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769206100479148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257143439247813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305600179466492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280587597906634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655743353126198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723580266305388,0.0,0.0,0.1550026671065461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986735760469564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532428200198049,0.0,0.11661540739078702,0.11762627578102272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329227209361271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614604323938093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149961902826354,0.0,0.0,0.16138941987415786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566335016722973,0.0,0.0,0.13547392232202068,0.15089876796388205,0.252306767789085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888317562347401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122499472464913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624997124742686,0.10770314870590596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908190757693307,0.0,0.0,0.2617819416128552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344310852875802,0.0,0.10215611529261866
parenting,metal_bananas,2018/01/10,"Should I trust my 2m yo with an osteopath? I was adviced by some friends to visit an osteopath since she is waking herself up during sleeping by moving her arms and legs alot, and she is very uncalm while not being held.
What's your opinion about this? Do you have any experience with osteopathy? ",5.2786842105263165,6.570697175438597,5.286798245614037,82.5396710526316,68.47368421052633,7.1035087719298255,30.03947368421053,7.1686216300943375,1.7675999999999998,237,9,43,2,4,74,49,57,0.0,0.88,0.12,0.787,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,4,4,0,0,10,8,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,9,2,7,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,1,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842537147597062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674056462285943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846482984999237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30380370746292906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179346344573375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252787640733689,0.0,0.3935077491655697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244507900466369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sickee,2018/01/10,"Is it normal for 1yr old to only have one nap? My daughter turns 1 this Sunday but ever since she's been 10 months she's only been napping once a day. She's a good sleeper at night, usually 12-13 hours with 1 wakeup in between, but she only naps for 1-1.5 hours once a day. We have tried getting her to nap a 2nd time but she is just not tired enough to fall asleep and usually ends up with her crying for the whole ""nap time"". She's pretty active all day, and honestly I'm always saying to everyone that I've never had her sit still for more than a minute. Bedtime is about 5-6 hours from her nap.

I'm just wondering if this is normal or if I should be concerned? She's healthy otherwise. ",4.069398782343988,4.082443732876712,5.203789954337903,86.6475266362253,70.57534246575342,8.132724505327245,25.81126331811263,7.793537801064563,1.2109856925418567,539,14,119,6,9,179,92,146,0.028,0.8170000000000001,0.155,0.9616,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,6,0,11,2,1,0,3,21,16,8,0,5,9,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,1,14,2,17,11,4,23,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,4,18,71,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677244265573528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415468265828094,0.2715191641378026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429779688320955,0.1450066493562545,0.0,0.0,0.12694373855739324,0.0,0.13409895515303746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332080297563001,0.0,0.0,0.11770884039664802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41461392784432016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201643774517622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823730271551307,0.0,0.0,0.1316976886638569,0.2750028501345488,0.0,0.0,0.14726110395066624,0.29891073982703803,0.09509664808227296,0.3202000758764068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277417936389974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111602395457934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608902831705295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120740931220834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16366441089030845,0.1612978649158153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528027725351552,0.15264742455311367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091249191307132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668234432677924,0.0,0.0,0.15219055426698164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kandy_kid,2018/01/10,"Breastfeeding moms whose kids had a milk intolerance - when/how did you try reintroducing dairy? As the title implies, my breastfed baby can’t tolerate it when I consume dairy. I’ve read that they often grow out of this by 6-8 months old.  As my LO approaches six months old, I would love to reintroduce dairy, but I am nervous. I don’t want to watch him suffer with gas and reflux like he did before we figured out it was a milk issue. Has anyone done this successfully?  ",2.879621489621492,5.309295472527474,4.0434432234432265,84.08211233211235,77.7912087912088,7.121367521367523,23.2979242979243,8.167268648758528,1.463050305250305,372,12,71,7,9,121,72,91,0.079,0.7859999999999999,0.136,0.6581,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,1,1,1,2,5,0,1,3,0,10,3,0,0,0,10,12,5,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,5,2,0,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,5,1,10,3,9,6,0,9,0,1,1,1,9,2,0,1,6,43,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029006062315234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194056938835924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638632612459119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691214603499154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596923324827042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327136839869272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019830070856873,0.4116161929213325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5411264292429805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25791311912944725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505870465546908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208268422682786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183164513022154,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MultipleMommy,2018/01/10,"My nephew exposed himself to my daughter. Let me start by saying my nephew has always been a great kid. My sister had him when I was 13 and I was there everyday with him until he was 5. He is good in school, a sweet child, and was always helpful with his cousins, brother, and the little girl my sister babysits.

My daughter is six and so is my other nephew, they go to the same school and since my sister lives down the road from the school, she often spends the night and heads to school with them. It keeps ""the sixes"" happy and it's much easier on me. We never thought anything of the older nephew spending time with my daughter, as she is very mature for her age... until tonight.

My sister walked into his room and he had his penis out, playing with it, telling my daughter to watch.

Apparently this has been going on since Halloween. He made my daughter promise not to tell anyone because it was a secret.

My heart is broken. I'm not sure what to do, how do I handle this? I just need some advice, please.",3.4157349246231163,5.0738003065326645,3.847559673366834,89.63003297738695,73.57286432160805,5.578015075376885,23.49277638190955,5.602791699666715,0.36671080402010015,787,22,156,3,16,246,117,199,0.03,0.8340000000000001,0.136,0.9699,2,0,0,0,0,0,29,1,0,2,0,6,7,0,0,10,0,19,2,2,2,2,30,27,14,0,1,3,15,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,8,16,0,1,2,1,2,3,3,0,0,2,11,3,31,7,24,15,3,23,0,0,1,0,39,9,0,2,11,114,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306727058552038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436447808567474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237121047174713,0.0,0.12048052390461818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924837614452077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641299602152024,0.12279928367985796,0.0,0.16141428472277708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585302255267214,0.0,0.0,0.15025586729980012,0.0,0.0,0.1734930540514152,0.09813355659019994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013330919641974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971112358705185,0.0,0.0,0.1467383222807769,0.12928010363549947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853388659522692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076260243842503,0.10855896925363784,0.1129181393352971,0.0,0.0,0.13739309448396464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071097094427714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642875907203988,0.0,0.5926869861029097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422188422277721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362766048414213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798690789573295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559324221494568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623084044299813,0.08537112570938278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080114567094252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentalproblems00,2018/01/10,"""Dad, you take half the fun of being a teenager out of my life"" Said jokingly by 14 year old. I asked her why and got the first-world-problem of a free-range teenager:

She is always allowed to do anything she wants. So? So she can never decide to sneak out middle of the night to see her boyfriend under the moon, because they're already allowed to sleep over in her bed. She also can't sneak my booze, because I asked her to respect what's mine and let me know what she wants instead. She also can't sneak out to go to a party because she's already allowed to them. Out of luck there kiddo!

Btw,  I asked if she'd actually prefer the other way for real and she said no, she prefers being close to me. 

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parenting,Gigglescream,2018/01/10,"4 yr old teething? The last couple of days my son has been putting everything in his mouth and chewing on it. His hands, toys, and even the cover for the  tablet. I've never heard of older toddlers doing this. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this type of behavior. ",3.6969230769230776,6.230557923076925,4.123692307692308,84.0213076923077,75.53846153846155,7.236923076923077,25.784615384615392,8.238735603445708,1.8323415384615391,220,8,40,4,5,69,44,52,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,4,4,3,0,1,6,6,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,6,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,5,25,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22488055814089136,0.3295323869573412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558606780798443,0.0,0.2074149505987717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686679111036559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242355357461554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890466599046693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621590014197706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480491739907741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374806492724704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233117219487473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487775501422604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,numbers_game,2018/01/10,"How soon can you take a newborn out in public? I am due next month and have a 2 year old who has quite a bit of activities like preschool (once a week) and soccer practice that I would like to take him to but I would most likely need to take the twins with me. Assuming they are born full term and healthy, how long should I wait? I would keep them in either a front carrier or a stroller to minimize contact with others.",5.188488372093018,4.972853895348841,5.250558139534885,88.05374418604653,68.18604651162791,8.74046511627907,28.827906976744185,8.238735603445708,1.5952586046511628,329,10,74,4,5,103,64,86,0.0,0.905,0.095,0.7514,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,2,1,3,3,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,2,0,20,15,7,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,10,11,5,16,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,13,50,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366349944540587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265746670183212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176794820965867,0.0,0.0,0.191817036446618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17300787874673754,0.0,0.0,0.16071746836622644,0.0,0.0,0.23051621276835285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744279080151975,0.23083180501479916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23054043409161354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4889073485496282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17386387298216313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619192014979603,0.0,0.0,0.1395799715577399
parenting,frostychowder,2018/01/10,"My 10 month old son prefers everyone to me. I have a ten month old son who screams nearly every time I have to take him away from anyone.  This is not exclusive to mom, it’s also any other members of the family (grandparents, aunts and uncles).  Baby and I spend a lot of time alone together, and we laugh and have fun, but as soon as anybody else walks by, he starts reaching for them and screaming.  Now he has begun growling at me when he sees me, even before I try to take him away from anyone.  I would love to know if anyone has been in this situation, or if anyone has thoughts on what is going on. 

Thanks, 
Worried Dad ",4.544259999999999,4.978315536,5.324550000000002,84.71802500000003,69.64,8.17,26.825,8.07648339933343,1.5029399999999993,482,14,100,6,8,157,87,125,0.078,0.8,0.122,0.8323,1,1,0,1,0,0,16,1,0,1,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,0,16,19,13,0,4,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,6,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,2,3,13,4,20,16,1,20,0,0,1,1,14,7,0,4,11,69,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827744599008018,0.0,0.129933010141779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049011180212356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544315259696998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053054778373413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825618552312738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357289063039343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731470119166543,0.0,0.13689410337339245,0.1552539895448465,0.0,0.0,0.1531691053624776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233957400567208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892932557120317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813236048515026,0.14664207522407005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902914090945244,0.2593756056442565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409851160589215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947334422520435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826312534224481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500224445298328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443253655124434,0.0,0.0,0.14958723612913682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898879954591713,0.18948359969120807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103113976664889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650035494704515,0.0,0.11541918737569255,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kurrpeted98989,2018/01/10,"Easy open door knob I have kind of an odd request, I'm looking for a door knob that can be easily opened by a younger child.

My son is 3 and has no problem opening doors most of the time which is not a problem because he knows to stay out of the one room in the house he can't go in. But me and my wife have just moved him into his own room and we have come across a issue. 

His bedroom door is closed when he goes to bed, well it seems that if he wakes up in the middle of the  night he can't open his door for some reason. Last night he woke up and couldn't open the door and he cried and screamed until I woke up and got him but I don't know how long It was for. I put a security camera with motion detection up in his room but I want him to be able to open his door on his own in case one of us don't hear him.

Does anyone have any solutions or advice on this matter?",2.9263846153846167,2.6413114461538463,4.120833333333334,94.46125,73.0,7.320512820512822,22.403846153846153,6.42735559955562,0.11923076923076925,672,12,174,4,12,221,111,195,0.055,0.8759999999999999,0.069,0.3793,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,12,0,17,1,1,2,0,38,29,15,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,12,1,6,19,0,1,4,0,0,5,7,3,1,2,4,3,20,3,29,22,4,38,0,0,1,0,24,25,0,5,7,108,26,0,0.17617633742261196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215747794107114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980595079140804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318659142976796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739546008317996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176031497056874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352143405525327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417310010991495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001250725425595,0.0,0.14090431105157264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856353638147806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20328383949784892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838823242197647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834605446804235,0.19364381527641245,0.14360722894195338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591051467298525,0.14794375229059653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872475654721859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33065911631744743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23876329143402275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371539235587185,0.0,0.17710587934063374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113861699800812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038432086905827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877805346849223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027298391237008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191844189911446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103913368383364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840368527048054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boltyadobber,2018/01/10,"Getting a baby to sleep in their own cot I have a 9 month old and she used to sleep in her own cot in her own room 7:30-7; no problem. Hardly needed rocked.

As soon as she hit 8 months old she suddenly hates the thing. She won’t even nap in it. I tried self soothing and checking on her 5-7-10 minutes routine. It worked for 2 nights and then on the third night she vomited from crying. I felt like the worst parent in the world and I’m really not comfortable going back to that method.

She’s been sleeping in between us which has been okay as we have a super king bed. Unfortunately (sleep wise - development yay) she started properly crawling and sitting up herself this week and trying to get her to sleep is like fighting a bull. I’ve woken up multiple times with her trying to roll over me.

I also couldn’t leave her alone in this bed when she was sleeping out of fear of her rolling out so I’m losing my adult time I used to get when she was in the cot. I don’t get time to myself anymore and it’s driving me a bit crazy.

Any advice? ",2.5985741393331523,3.910417672811061,3.852751423149908,90.17559772296015,75.036866359447,6.580536730821363,23.82461371645433,7.048011613610866,0.7097196530224994,813,24,179,8,17,266,132,217,0.154,0.773,0.07200000000000001,-0.9465,1,1,1,0,2,0,21,2,0,1,4,7,13,2,1,10,2,11,7,6,2,0,18,26,15,0,3,1,1,2,2,0,1,1,0,3,2,8,11,0,0,1,2,1,2,5,6,0,1,6,2,30,7,32,17,5,37,0,1,0,0,24,17,0,0,19,113,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661873111638108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300261845355385,0.0,0.08725334689497682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419694227830087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820546897544576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389704669966756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911729326808768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198496283144675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206457265778668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227764380256883,0.0,0.0,0.10476045269485997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280169718574685,0.0,0.062008390893582815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977390219158603,0.10772121403174913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552924560787788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066089714004662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220635497487212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417736778881926,0.0,0.0,0.08090193868769119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478027347669184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289802459363361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115113137443155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440128407621188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989715333713338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382307263033767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6551186669994802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722695501326349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248627335839401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086464136471756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22223079346567914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124306678782846,0.18846795315985948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751957416324845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943166739997523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,singlebuttaken,2018/01/10,"My 6yr old son doesn't have a male role model, and a man we met happens to fit the bill. Some advice? My son is in first grade and he's been feeling the void in his life since his dad isn't around much.  He constantly tells me how tired he is of being around girls all the time (there's no men in my family, it's all us women) and how he is sometimes tired of spending time with me. I'm not taking it personally-- sometimes I'm bored of him too lol

A few months ago, I got an Uber ride, and the driver was an older gentleman (~50yrs old) who was telling me about his part-time work as a retiree from our local school district (he was a teacher) and now he works as a mentor and he serves on the board of some local nonprofits focused on improving the lives of youth in our area.  We started talking about my son and all the activities we do outside of school, and we got to talking about my son's father's lack of involvement. I was in the Uber to pick up my son, so my son was in the Uber with me as we headed home.

Ultimately this man offered me his number and said if I was ever interested in having him mentor my son, to give him a call.  I said I would think about it and get back to him after the holidays, and then kind of forgot about it. He seemed like a very nice man, if not a little too eager. I'm very wary of this kind of stuff because I didn't/don't trust a ton of people.

Well, he contacted me on Facebook and we have a common friend-- he apparently mentored someone I went to college with.  I spoke to our mutual friend, who had nothing but wonderful things to say to this man (and he even confirmed my hesitation that this man does seem very eager, but it's because he's passionate about children).

Is this totally weird? We made plans for this month (with me and my son together) but at what point would it be okay for them to do activities together without me? Will I ever feel comfortable with this? How else can I vet him besides Google and Facebook?

**Short-version: Looking for a male mentor for my son, one fell into my lap. I'm cautious but I want to be open to it.  Please help me be safe with my son!**",3.2249899885583524,4.287252279176204,4.425182351258581,87.65948977402748,73.11899313501144,7.476229977116708,25.326730549199084,7.8658589789855275,1.2097895308924485,1654,51,359,22,32,544,211,437,0.057,0.8390000000000001,0.104,0.9596,1,0,0,0,0,0,56,11,0,1,4,21,17,0,0,24,2,27,5,1,5,6,66,53,29,0,6,9,12,2,1,2,3,3,4,1,12,20,32,0,2,6,1,2,3,6,2,1,2,17,7,54,15,60,29,10,44,0,0,1,1,77,22,0,7,20,235,74,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941907547186132,0.0901863032942046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811402035549392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823172092149393,0.0,0.12403942575180715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388783680763658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994471322528736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903329241849774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499065086414424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719825975129383,0.1840591705365951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591134498560612,0.0,0.10288552424008862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653992671262803,0.0,0.0,0.15720802459789507,0.0,0.05315491071924792,0.09759820498987064,0.0,0.0,0.16274142142744452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899682780975737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441451318692238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819412594532777,0.0,0.10205343835071502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21189294773399406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186191657358547,0.04970498740071769,0.10197013109805816,0.08983821616045146,0.0,0.08543591164598617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962687753142547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241567210910304,0.0,0.07479054990846458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762220026548436,0.0,0.21351786983340226,0.0,0.06894160502024321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017442235846632,0.0,0.07053365250612283,0.08883537665936883,0.0,0.11167988376429044,0.09617711268733108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935559303704864,0.0809076704819013,0.0,0.20593246785725305,0.0,0.18524041002090108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416031583462306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620390678135326,0.0,0.20124677108503575,0.0,0.07201204130393228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646787101755568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649576056784517,0.16354939288048825,0.1778503545167117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759148421890124,0.06519083471798504,0.0,0.0,0.11865073479465535,0.23387015037615394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238060072103905,0.0,0.0,0.2518382751567413,0.06000884270259376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914764094436692,0.09431392810877468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807365538142147,0.11033260679186874,0.1481357516339943,0.0,0.0,0.1445462447815567,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Marneysmommy,2018/01/11,"Cross-country roadtrip with a one year old Soon we'll be driving halfway across the US with our one year old. So far, the plan is to drive about 6 hours a day (24 hour drive) with a stop in the middle for lunch and an activity. Y'all have any advice or tips on how to survive? 

Edit to add: we'll also have our dog! ",1.1655721393034817,2.7872596119403,2.678432835820896,95.74859452736321,79.74626865671641,5.063681592039801,20.12189054726368,5.46131890053228,-0.33957512437811,242,6,57,1,6,79,51,67,0.041,0.959,0.0,-0.3595,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,5,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,7,0,6,1,0,1,0,8,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,0,11,3,0,17,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,9,36,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24131530591403444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748469971004645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793351070957552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926141221828452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4863892380012153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5182620119168545,0.0,0.3346775138815934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064600804414931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29704875005903064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180535932921213
parenting,scorpiobitch92,2018/01/11,"Trips minus kiddos So my baby isn't a year old and I used to go on a trip with my best friend every year. If i save i have the money to do that again. I really enjoy traveling and i always have. Would i be an awful person to go on this trip with her? It wouldn't be a family thing just me and her. So my SO, step daughter, and BS wouldn't come. It'd be for like 5 days and I plan on taking an extra day off on the end so i can spend a whole day with my baby. 

I want to add that my job is incredibly stressful. I am also finishing school this semester so it would be a graduation trip too. ",-0.29625874125873963,1.3302438030303063,2.9412121212121214,92.06066433566434,84.45454545454545,6.1827505827505815,15.456876456876454,7.321109707123232,-0.18833752913752866,450,7,110,7,13,163,76,132,0.051,0.809,0.139,0.8834,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,2,9,6,0,1,9,1,16,0,0,1,0,19,22,12,0,6,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,8,10,0,0,0,1,2,9,3,1,0,0,0,0,18,5,13,13,3,23,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,10,81,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630734220455505,0.16967639362731046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21399971604620424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565759290732505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945313767857656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18061112220749706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180999555538193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922360617664415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575468028902974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317829827370632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20235748636756828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962420013501573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21397799405113585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780536281406376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063530960764913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20637624577501093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23358776838631215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533212129972538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354742834347715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611997224984485,0.0,0.0,0.12027631969961144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276675431789869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897154746824229,0.0,0.0,0.2626334492149593
parenting,acvdk,2018/01/11,"Toddler won't share toys with other kids. We have a 22 month old daughter who is generally a pretty good kid. However, lately she has become very possessive over everything. If another kid is over at our place and picks up one of her toys she'll flip out, cry and scream ""NOOOOO!! MINE!!!! MY kitty/ball/lego!"" and try to take it away forcefully. She'll sometimes even do this if its a toy she's not playing with at the moment or hasn't shown interest in for months.

We've tried explaining that she has to share and that her friends won't want to play with her if she doesn't share. She's pretty good at understanding most things and is advanced verbally, but she just doesn't seem to care. That thing is HERS!

We're not really sure how to deal with this as we've never really felt the need to discipline her for anything. I think she's too young to understand time outs and we aren't going to use corporal punishment, so kind of at a loss as to how to handle this other than hoping its just a phase.",3.3027970297029725,4.85110595049505,4.171373762376238,87.64240717821781,73.65346534653466,8.218316831683168,23.0210396039604,8.841846274778883,1.397335643564357,790,21,168,16,16,254,124,202,0.147,0.778,0.075,-0.895,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,0,0,2,7,16,1,0,7,0,16,0,0,4,2,41,29,16,0,6,9,1,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,3,14,14,0,1,6,5,0,2,9,3,0,1,1,2,20,13,32,24,1,22,0,1,0,0,28,12,0,7,8,110,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124855529437107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654533910211124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447852013608078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983457560096432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678586396200533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891677464676166,0.0,0.15853729803198188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156823471918183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382048200586229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765000132765754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880770127972315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873949926928163,0.2579616437768216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527352233857216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601350446457898,0.0,0.0,0.17346711396133216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24548661182454856,0.0,0.0,0.11402367064450232,0.11860227503888612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613630561285567,0.0,0.1042032508956211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066419809976368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128929133401536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970269222315721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999277298336665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208934991541068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449329691257094,0.0,0.11562113949279232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20432516435906825,0.09853406958277973,0.0,0.0,0.08966858461684284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088089293633726,0.0,0.0,0.3201744864726753,0.0,0.13281392366319691,0.0,0.12688210050410476,0.09070163786088452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,severedfinger,2018/01/11,"We are expecting twins very soon and are not planning on sharing on social media. My wife and I are expecting twins, a boy and a girl, in February. We're beyond excited! We have decided not to post any pictures of them online. Lots of reasons, but mostly because we *chose* to create an on-line presence, to become ""public figures"", and I think our children deserve the same choice. 

We've already gotten some push-back, from people who do love to share *everything*, I think they think we're tacitly judging their parenting (we aren't). 

Any advice on navigating this?",3.968653846153845,6.569780096153848,4.917923076923079,78.32707692307693,74.96153846153845,7.621538461538463,29.63076923076923,8.548686976883017,2.737341538461538,446,20,73,9,10,145,75,104,0.016,0.855,0.129,0.9114,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,3,1,2,4,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,1,0,23,11,5,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,8,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,12,4,12,10,4,7,0,0,0,1,19,5,0,3,1,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325771680693028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626460582412753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237051226140024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301228430009692,0.0,0.1450865351210339,0.2628594470869652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21390486864535055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20234458974883468,0.21481013172378305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642780189599179,0.0,0.0,0.16500371860831992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279444073603268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447102912590721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426176234794253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575148074196554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19638026394639724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TriniTornado,2018/01/11,"Dance class for boys Does anyone have any experience with their boys in dance class?

My 3 year old is obsessed with Emma from the Wiggles and has been asking non-stop to learn to dance.  I think his mental picture is colourful outfits and very advanced moves.

I am hesitating because he is young and not particularly interested in following instructions.  He’s also a bit shy and hates to attend activities that a parent doesn’t go with him to (the dance classes in our area would be just kids with an instructor).  

If he loves dance, I certainly want to encourage him.   But I am concerned that attending a structured class in a white t-shirt and black shorts (indicated by dance school) isn’t what he has in mind.  Would you guys try it or give it a few months and see if he is still interested?",6.641074319352463,7.006483821192057,6.738763796909495,76.63204562178076,65.09271523178808,10.154819720382637,32.009565857247985,9.994966539143718,2.9513702722590147,631,23,121,13,9,202,101,151,0.094,0.821,0.085,0.1036,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,1,1,1,3,7,1,1,8,0,15,1,0,0,1,23,24,11,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,10,0,0,2,6,0,12,3,2,0,0,1,4,11,5,17,20,2,24,0,0,4,1,20,7,0,3,5,71,16,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592386647320845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109537320239915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507675100026055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939683470748188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264795481408286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22651740668072898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815695376906047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029579255111148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903634335061335,0.11791721850199498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544052587872952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20484624337504725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872612670350904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20909379422110155,0.0,0.20949841346781328,0.0,0.1656107378346924,0.2205213093090652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21771822574023425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303850208685413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998360258638654,0.1653368751760716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569597844492728,0.17346485509773127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294655740429467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086715605923006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119498392457014,0.12237869150837374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947795608471452,0.0,0.0,0.13361207734626704
parenting,amidoingitwrongmom,2018/01/11,"Willful almost 2 year old? I am a stay at home mom to one child, 21 months old. I'll just call her D. 

D is a very happy girl and a very ""spirited"" one -- read: very active, runs everywhere, expressive, excitable, talks a lot, and somewhat willful. She follows directions maybe half of the time, and I frequently have to repeat myself to get her to listen. ""No"" is her favorite word now, she says ""no"" even to things she wants; if I offer her water she will say ""no,"" walk away, and then come back and pick it up and drink it a minute later. She has a short attention span (except for a few favorite toys) and flits back and forth between things after 2-5 minutes.

I thought this was all pretty normal for a kid who isn't even two yet. But since I've started taking her to mommy & me classes (starting a few months ago) I've noticed she's kinda.. different? It seems like all the other kids her age are much, much better and more interested in following directions than she is. While everybody is sitting nicely in a circle singing a song, D is running around the room. While the other kids are following along with an activity, D is trying to get into the cabinets and pull everything out. 

Admittedly her behavior has gotten better at the one class we take her to. She struggles less at circle time and is more interested in the activities. But this morning I added a second class and it was practically 45 minutes of chasing her around the room, redirecting her attention, trying to engage her in the activity, putting away things she took out, etc.

She is not a bad kid, she doesn't hit or bite or get mean. And I do love her exactly the way she is.. like I said I actually thought she was pretty normal. But now I am starting to think I am doing something wrong. 

Is it just that I did not take her to these classes when she was younger and it is taking her a while to adjust? Does anyone have this experience and can give some advice?",5.643132280013841,5.960329742705573,6.327277130665437,78.89384730711569,67.22281167108754,9.315142428785606,30.44965978549187,9.20300075937882,2.4820717102986967,1511,53,293,26,23,496,198,377,0.015,0.8490000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9925,1,0,2,0,0,0,61,1,0,0,2,12,14,0,1,25,0,33,3,0,1,3,57,61,26,0,4,11,1,0,2,0,3,0,5,3,6,17,24,2,0,9,5,0,10,7,3,0,6,10,5,42,11,37,47,13,58,1,0,0,1,48,19,0,9,28,213,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.09447361545121924,0.0,0.0,0.0946026334183687,0.08581715077720913,0.0,0.09694227795146704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489472757899616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769253412900103,0.0,0.0,0.17236471163008066,0.0,0.0,0.181914328537613,0.14888343672274254,0.08083317936733675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712430053277112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885490179318557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339414364289892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114693758568484,0.0,0.0,0.08471999849849214,0.0,0.0,0.09483796844526048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796990681027414,0.1278855652887908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700752547141924,0.0946997792870872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517393269639399,0.09286997656260418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305715835182376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971093723367938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459397363769703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823052890664454,0.08737574850838825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725970770413292,0.10545560990819244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338392667277825,0.15454730610811407,0.0,0.1423345156363124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18970853972803714,0.0,0.11022001719953592,0.20317381420266134,0.0,0.19680501018690266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19698327537145413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732184032827708,0.0,0.0,0.0968372441533541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208947397611324,0.15397605851806218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813314004532016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008309742862586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452987274691839,0.0,0.0,0.2055700693106673,0.10318769360680173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120792490712986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911594323609405,0.07781305140404722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19295087105011235,0.062032609031940925,0.0,0.1537143127891715,0.11290259857401105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756063392356847,0.13145669038559618,0.0,0.09457032446303697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396377547496965,0.05710166304715631,0.07684410190092836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584768083075566,0.0,0.062343139362092966
parenting,thecatsmeowma,2018/01/11,"Are we being cruel with sleep training our two year old. Explanation inside. Our two year old was fairly sleep trained until two months ago when he got sick and my job got very busy and stressful and he ended up sleeping in my bed for two months. We’ve moved him back to his bed since. He does great sleeping in his room until about midnight - 2am and they he starts waking up. We’ll take him potty if he asks but only every two hours and we’ll soothe him through the microphone if he cries for more than 5 mins. We’ll also go in if he gets REALLY worked up but we don’t want to teach him that if he cries enough we’ll come in.

The problem is the wake up time and the one to two hours before then. He goes to sleep at 8 and his OK to Wake alarm is set at 6am. He self soothes fairly well until 4am and then he is inconsolable. He’ll ask to go potty every 5 moms. We’ll take him the first two times and he won’t do anything so we ignore after that. We still stick to the rules above but the 5 min clock resets everytime he returns to bed. So what happens is two hours of him crying for a few mins, screaming to go potty, lying down for a few mins, and starting all over again. This is our second day so I’m hopeful that things will improve. At the same time I feel so cruel. We have to keep his door locked because he knows how to open every single door including the front, back, and basement doors despite our childproofing efforts. 

Are we cruel? Is this child abuse? Is there a better way? Please help. ",2.0777020470950203,3.7574326357827488,3.0307916222932185,93.98097858241628,77.27476038338658,5.5316057271328845,19.899301857768315,6.0378880255834675,-0.1428846527038221,1177,26,260,7,27,374,166,313,0.15,0.757,0.093,-0.9728,1,0,0,0,1,0,27,15,0,1,4,14,13,3,2,12,1,21,9,8,1,1,37,42,30,0,7,7,1,1,0,0,8,1,1,7,2,7,20,0,2,2,0,0,6,2,8,1,11,3,2,29,5,37,30,7,58,0,0,0,0,47,15,0,5,35,152,36,3,0.0,0.0912760546961643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828850786969902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160633072163869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339475289262647,0.0,0.144038086785428,0.0,0.0,0.11847314491602708,0.0,0.04696094080923232,0.0,0.06555267426157546,0.0,0.0,0.06813282200029608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663604137735755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538640442421226,0.04968238677082554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741545520667214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823177184331959,0.07959964587253852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472057324911465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038952139488562944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552749420363739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040248567757824566,0.0,0.13134542935658902,0.0,0.12322679200654407,0.08493338476384453,0.0,0.0,0.06812342054698936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051636167978780144,0.0,0.0,0.07651496146155873,0.2275972996875996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764471737502246,0.06847388036043027,0.0,0.0,0.042337430931560185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902246124319906,0.12298013664895008,0.08187796608908393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616744028954631,0.0,0.0522021544847719,0.05858998595644423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456331330541296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371384896334718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04935177042746119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036622210788086,0.0,0.0,0.0637256676486742,0.0,0.3854623604454971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905413947957387,0.0,0.06152171754611305,0.0,0.08824543651090527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115844228152804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117985141213436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476239751736885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6020303669228031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356345848079456,0.04543832242219134,0.06114825544633583,0.0,0.0,0.06926536822124336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056083734845199365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921839456083796
parenting,iphone4Suser,2018/01/11,"3.5 Year old, gets ear infection frequently, what are our options ? We are in USA and our child who is 3.5 years old does have ear infections very frequently. Currently he has cold and some fever (101) and we used a flashlight to see his ear and some redness is there so we think it is probably ear infection. We are doing some wait and watch as there are no complaints of any ear pain from him. But as usual he is not eating much which is common when he has fever. 


The doctor would usually prescribe Amoxicillin (sorry if name is spelled incorrectly) Now last year our doctor told us that if it is more frequent he may need tubes. We stay in Mid west. Now we will be back to our home country India next year in January 2019 and there is no ear infection there as we stay in tropical climate. In fact here too when my wife and kid went to India in 2016 for 2 months during winters, he did not have any infection while there.


How do we tell doctor that we don't want to put tubes for now and want to go with medicine as we won't be staying in US for long. Also if it is frequent ear infection, do we need to consult ENT (doctor hasn't told yet) ?",5.132807453416149,5.304085460869565,5.490186335403728,84.96173913043478,68.30434782608695,9.180124223602485,29.03726708074533,9.04235418022936,2.067857142857143,896,29,190,15,14,286,127,230,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.8808,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,17,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,2,0,29,21,7,2,1,42,42,22,0,8,6,1,0,0,0,4,13,7,1,2,8,20,1,1,1,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,4,11,20,0,23,32,5,42,0,0,3,0,33,9,0,8,27,121,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214538772194447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671389711264747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860090955791182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717506638865162,0.10083417054228593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790393692426142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602003047065915,0.0,0.06548502062368476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558006592312305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392375066671424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197049559659424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197149254690908,0.0,0.08470363006428187,0.17087574914019607,0.0,0.0,0.12254309051209072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418185008750029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226075197773095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423203426377308,0.0,0.0,0.1158329464007872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181940363168814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289849494831674,0.0,0.36844354388882256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071172530635426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383152489575417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220204843193864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772029659684659,0.099517400965603,0.2538081085971561,0.09507268908978027,0.1359253761093394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681472574024736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185253123651934,0.0,0.0,0.2968044786587509
parenting,frogcharming,2018/01/11,'First 100 Words' is the only children's book to be a best seller on Amazon. What other popular books helped your child learn and grow? I'd love to hear what popular (or not-so-popular) books played a big role in helping your child learn new things. Or even books that you would recommend to other parents to help them parent better!,5.998750000000001,6.604376375000001,5.7687500000000025,82.20125,66.5,8.9,26.9375,8.841846274778883,1.87348125,264,7,50,4,4,82,50,64,0.0,0.626,0.374,0.9792,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,3,1,3,1,6,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,1,0,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,6,6,3,1,6,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,2,2,28,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578806099695505,0.21733001550168116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230369137393624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090195431946287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27695786238187103,0.0,0.4941270091774681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22178275534768455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373295303790661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868902855088252,0.0,0.0,0.5457126882462487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325344487748594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456098706362344,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trabiesso73,2018/01/11,"Kid won’t take pill, omg Been having knock down drag out epic battles with a 7 year old over taking a pill. The school won’t let her go without her medication. But, she has a fear block over swallowing a pill. It’s been awful.

Last night, I worked with her for two hours. She managed to swallow ten small pieces of paper, and then 6 sugar pills. But, this morning, she wouldn’t take the main one. Sat on the floor of the kitchen crying for over an hour. (She’s still there.)",1.9092708333333304,3.903568885416668,2.3366666666666696,97.30833333333337,78.89583333333334,5.1000000000000005,19.0,5.82211442006289,-0.4347624999999997,367,8,83,2,9,112,71,96,0.17600000000000002,0.8240000000000001,0.0,-0.9403,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,9,1,8,9,0,0,0,9,13,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,2,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,3,3,1,8,0,14,6,2,17,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,8,52,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373457172506486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24314186163537016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279909599368698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42557617404962894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612809104067706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094897725790213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767051535195936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027695937428379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267319535000557,0.0,0.1464164549399572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21867711008354254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725559389995471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873793441706623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110716333478924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20828637423997307,0.0,0.1573035005331451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391437359225242
parenting,InnSanctum,2018/01/11,"ATTENTION NETNANNY USERS - Netnanny for andorid is broken and wont be fixed After purchasing new cell phones for the kids, i noticed the netnanny app wasn't working correctly with all kinds of errors occuring.

1) Wont stop chrome on android from launching

2) The app allow/disallow list for android is completely broken

3) Issues with the windows client also (broken in chrome for windows)

After contacting support, i was told they were aware of the problem and there was no schedule release date for a fix.  I was then told to purchase the ZIFT app from the play store....

What the?  Was I just told to purchase another piece of software and to stop using netnanny for android?  Yup!

Turns out Zift has purchased netnanny and netnanny is slowly going down toilet with no more software fixes.

https://wezift.com/about-us/
Zift is also the publisher of Detoured, the Anti-Sexting App, which is designed to help parents protect their children’s reputations. Zift has acquired Net Nanny®, the popular parental control software brand.  

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parenting,jivg2,2018/01/11,"What are these places called for young babies? It’s basically a baby group where there are all bright colourful lights and things for newborns to look at, I’ve seen people online go to them but don’t know what to search for to see if they have them in my area?",5.887861635220126,5.600085962264148,5.103773584905665,89.93729559748428,66.73584905660377,7.821383647798742,23.32704402515723,6.42735559955562,0.339998742138365,208,3,46,1,3,62,45,53,0.0,0.954,0.046,0.3204,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,9,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,9,8,1,7,0,0,5,0,6,5,0,1,1,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.455678747856266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536183910788777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452514221745185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37474386258411146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093787246261772,0.0,0.4662440509522406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556094080310678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964736184818841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,expat-dad,2018/01/11,"Have you used a ""reading dog"" to help your child get more confident and comfortable with their reading? What are your thoughts on the technique? So, my 6 year old has been having a few problems reading. He knows the sounds of the letters and he can piece them together to read and write if he really focused for a minute, but it doesn't yet come naturally to him, and his going slower makes him feel embarrassed and ashamed so he stops reading. We have 3 dogs including a 4 month old puppy who my son loves with all of his heart, his teacher knows that and recommended that we try to use a ""reading dog"" which is when the child holds the dog on his lap or next to him/across from him (depending on the size of the dog) and reads the dog a story. I tried it because I thought that it would be good training for the puppy to sit quietly and handle being held for awhile, but I didn't think that it would make any difference with my son's reading, but surprisingly it did. 

Apparently, the logic is that children know that dogs love those who love them unconditionally, they'll never judge you or mock you, and they're fun to hold and pet. I was watching my son from around the door and it almost made me cry, he was still reading quite slow but it was more 10-30 second stops in between words instead of 5 minutes or more, and he was much happier and more confident than he was when reading to other people. I suppose that you could do it with any animal, his teacher says that they're soon going to start doing it in school with their pet rabbits, but dogs and humans have a very special bond so I think that it might work best with them. He's been reading to the puppy every night after we take the dogs out, when the dog is tired and relaxed after playing. So badly I want to get a picture but the reason that it works is because they think that no people are watching them, and I don't want to screw up a beautiful thing.


I'm interested in hearing your experiences with this technique, your thoughts, if you'd like to try it etc. 


Thank you so much!",10.001452702702704,6.396548793611796,9.174851044226047,74.59038467444721,61.063882063882076,12.140601965601967,38.70531326781328,9.516144504307137,3.3904595823095827,1617,54,331,20,16,512,201,407,0.071,0.743,0.18600000000000005,0.995,2,0,0,0,0,0,38,3,10,8,4,13,20,2,2,24,0,33,6,1,7,2,75,64,35,0,8,11,3,1,1,0,4,1,4,3,4,31,29,0,5,12,13,0,3,5,6,0,1,14,7,42,14,42,42,11,32,0,0,2,4,54,9,1,8,20,223,73,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040633425309895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562781494320174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625917182725064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870676824952086,0.08572189540447152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378708197194224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060566721518679076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613763150235604,0.0,0.07723335844810954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734600552702124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841537777733916,0.0,0.0,0.05924007031348982,0.0,0.0,0.06877767322033985,0.0,0.0,0.03555136640663867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346921624785106,0.0,0.07991875065492314,0.05897355115068426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924563423654846,0.08331890212049972,0.04712799737707248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592330019810035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034350414839636745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037533319083305,0.06652999107491339,0.0938663091527136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458888543582001,0.0,0.0,0.056121588648924525,0.0,0.10337338564150683,0.0,0.05422819634103862,0.0,0.0747765718163134,0.06598213314032468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755918446017002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974896222870834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727815437478195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747844289101661,0.7736305641348408,0.0,0.0450430424700586,0.07229144308328994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591414846071992,0.0,0.07115851013921254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497665047633311,0.0,0.05615047468932464,0.11756632897267175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05286513982580887,0.0,0.0,0.06473294442873027,0.0,0.0,0.046711520190677966,0.13515739567047827,0.0,0.1674572980088926,0.0,0.08081217906025583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320971012866052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145229974501168,0.0,0.05801395846786288,0.08294252744749074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237452592404496,0.0,0.0,0.09989386843072527,0.0,0.0,0.045277994297931834
parenting,Nick357,2018/01/11,"To hold child back or place him as the youngest in Kindergarten. My son would be 4yo going into kindergarten. My mother thinks hold him back while my wife thinks put him in. He is always the youngest in his cohort but seems to do well. If we hold him back he may not be challenged but if we put him too early he may not fit in. Any ideas, personal experience, or hard science would be appreciated.",3.91,5.442655384615384,4.154358974358973,88.43230769230772,72.07692307692308,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,0.8143692307692314,312,9,65,3,6,97,48,78,0.05,0.851,0.1,0.6462,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,22,13,8,0,4,8,3,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,3,4,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,11,2,8,6,0,15,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,7,5,44,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18145742159710385,0.0,0.0,0.14829974649177755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030629447087684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133210198084908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393810806096688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953540365330578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24618223637270095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904163070519745,0.22784390881073746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384549654657541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19852898765895854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794696992895612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960772917688849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098310961754897,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fooson24,2018/01/11,My 15 month old tries to bite us when he’s mad My 15 month old son will try to bite my wife and me when he gets mad or frustrated. Pull him off the stairs he wants to climb and he tries to bite you in the face or arm. Playing with other kids he’ll try to take their toys and bite them. I want to deter this behavior ASAP because my cousin’s son was kicked out 6 daycares for the same issue. Any parents have some advice in curbing this behavior?,2.658766917293232,3.6197964105263196,3.4902255639097786,94.21157894736844,74.36842105263158,6.69172932330827,21.99248120300752,6.868970318607317,0.27487969924812017,349,8,82,3,7,111,63,95,0.1,0.868,0.032,-0.8271,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,2,1,2,4,3,0,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,12,8,7,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,11,1,12,5,2,13,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,3,6,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207789677449109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460272170083585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962357648978332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110958002854774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22194126735114075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33945497843401873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44626052990062937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361119312460097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987907088429532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5774753261455547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557801450995208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25084156154309545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,f5seJgOV63,2018/01/11,"2 yo still cries during day care drop-off My son has been in the same day care since 9m yet he still cries in the morning during drop off. He is fine and happy until we reach the parking. He also says he is going to day care so this is no surprise for him. We asked the teachers, they say he gets back to normal after 5 mins. I know some kids are like this, but i hate to see him cry every morning. We have tried showing excitement in day care activities, while dressing up, hoping he gets pumped up and want more to go to day care but that does not work. We are not overly worried since he truly has fun at day care. Any ideas what may work?",2.046141414141413,3.4349431629629663,3.181548821548823,94.11151515151516,76.62962962962962,5.5016835016835035,19.68013468013468,5.565023196281405,-0.3127037037037041,497,10,113,2,11,160,87,135,0.095,0.625,0.279,0.9821,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,2,6,14,1,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,18,26,8,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,4,6,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,3,10,13,16,24,3,25,0,0,1,0,19,8,0,3,15,61,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852655965520829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250663465453837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967720242480242,0.0,0.0,0.08198575745656515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6522495756972585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513578705609557,0.4125743211638303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330565443022094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983365640385216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141121699794547,0.0,0.12119151021541995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135011304787378,0.0,0.10526717773688593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589973072179587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036329052054262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859667768842027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052090136755476205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446694856020987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958023089282148,0.0,0.0,0.08496395120000008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639768524098995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029697714607026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238935754866242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288843406629321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524421118510542,0.10827984407855527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mage1984,2018/01/11,"Very active 3y old. Hello, I am writing because I am a bit at my end, very tired. I get off work and grab my toddler from daycare. She is always a bit tired, but as soon as we arrive home she goes very active again. Meaning running around, playing, screaming. I tried to sit down with her and play some games or read a book, even go for walks through the park, but after 5 minutes she wants to quit it and go wild again. Do you have any advice/experience you can share? Doctor said there is nothing wrong with her, not any disorder of any kind.
Thank you. ",2.897747747747747,4.472085261261267,3.465045045045045,92.18693693693692,74.76576576576576,5.654054054054054,24.04504504504505,5.82211442006289,0.3739801801801801,428,13,91,2,9,134,83,111,0.06,0.716,0.224,0.9664,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,3,0,2,6,7,0,0,4,0,7,3,0,0,0,15,14,8,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,7,0,0,1,5,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,3,15,5,15,13,3,15,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,2,6,55,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315331628715669,0.0,0.0,0.3224944100510639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072251028889826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636259109808072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451594278668451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18117053711598588,0.16179904361206954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000976591897255,0.0,0.0,0.10440871340170972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463015067357713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082588981615295,0.0,0.17967819899670842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585646449157294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461341509201866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219276509656303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167964716477678,0.0,0.16587576940301665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681349043805187,0.15812030151467202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503679242293495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553654524617832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633737182214524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073242619697754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912915362948049,0.09323821900287764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150823197962561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283295651292194,0.0,0.0
parenting,africanelectron,2018/01/11,"Went through my 10 year old step daughters phone......... disturbing discovery. Background I have been with her mom for over two years and we moved in as a family six months back. She is happy has freinds and does well at school.
She is the only child.

I'm 28 have no children of my own and I have been on leave for a while and decided that I would have a look through a phone since recently she put a password on her phone but I saw what it was.

Well the first thing I saw was ""having sex with your kids"", ""why you should have sex"" and a variety of lesbian porn. 

I went through everything else and found nothing else.

Someone give me an idea of what I should do...??

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parenting,Defiantly_Me,2018/01/11,"Diaper Leaks at Night My youngest son is 20 months old and has started leaking out of his diaper every night and wakes up screaming. Normally, I know this would mean to go up a size but the problem is he’s already in a size 6. We’ve been doubling up on diapers at night for about six months and it worked until about a week ago, we currently use two Pampers Overnights.  I’ve considered moving him into a night time Pull Up, but I’m concerned they aren’t absorbent enough and I’ll have the same leaky issue. We’re not even close to being ready to potty train at this point. 

I’m open and grateful for any suggestions at this point. I’m exhausted and so is he.",3.0439687924016283,4.7193601268656735,3.866879240162824,89.0361261872456,74.59701492537313,7.260786974219811,25.614654002713703,8.00094639256281,1.3993373134328355,523,18,109,8,11,167,92,134,0.066,0.879,0.055,-0.09,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,9,2,1,1,0,21,17,10,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,11,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,0,2,1,1,6,0,21,14,3,32,0,0,0,0,8,16,0,0,13,62,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474948533904472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836156989797544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315102680409547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719255327749092,0.0,0.10989914330757564,0.0,0.14019090131672438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945633726220354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366811630931206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144369035114748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124768279698966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656221052535644,0.17684642674080248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.624583641902656,0.1630270464626852,0.0,0.0,0.17459850197309282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31458500054178384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921292886410784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777182439578775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702345086768348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253902647006854,0.0,0.0,0.14370769040398132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346816429286856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113403128334972,0.0,0.0,0.11819880848561964,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrjasen,2018/01/11,"In need of a new perspective regarding so ex&son drama My so son hates I mean hates his mom.  She has been there for him everyday of his life done everything she can for him. My so and ex have been separated for a few years now and in the last year and a half decided to be a father.  My so can't do anything right by him and goes out if his way to say mean hurtful things to his mom and brother. It is like he enjoys hurting them. I have been pushed out of the parenting area and can't get through to either of them.  The kid in question is 12 now and even though his dad just started acting like a father he acts like all the crap in the past doesn't matter. He acts like his mother is the worst person. She cooks every day cleans his room, asks nothing if him yet he treats her like shit. Her ex was a controlling verbally abusive person, who took it out on all of them(but that was in the past says the boy) yet all he does is rag on his mother all day. I'm loosing my mind. How can he forgive someone that was never there and then treat someone who made him their whole life like shit. Please help me understand ",2.510246069719752,4.0632269783549795,3.403526999316476,92.31551606288453,75.75324675324674,6.767919799498746,22.98040555935293,7.475848149327749,0.7225186147186142,876,25,195,11,19,279,127,231,0.123,0.768,0.109,-0.7601,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,3,1,15,18,5,0,14,0,21,6,3,3,5,32,33,17,0,3,4,12,0,6,0,0,2,2,2,4,7,11,1,1,6,2,0,5,4,8,0,1,9,2,28,10,24,23,8,35,0,2,0,0,51,13,3,3,22,129,35,0,0.0,0.13689047744278365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518248532363066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507573502959048,0.0,0.1080099404802108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958270042668565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490214639139337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110574872000633,0.11823275894211653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630999798255765,0.0,0.097343501274725,0.0,0.10383570777824593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036244308649291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281344444926291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744089850794163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24736592763984674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417671690736017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321204534310724,0.33866836751219204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932232586384248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517036965406103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166577511774584,0.2706271719131245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566798567389614,0.08910797154215867,0.11158474481459764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085926827396032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828831490709613,0.0,0.22058309739583076,0.0,0.2017619932047619,0.0,0.12682310131671512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942601476116242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986665433348848,0.0,0.18375666852379915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23719071862053134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578542590002115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177650354281868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675654166450525,0.0,0.11351287832898295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283640063548214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027635650234475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170656981949904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289910735869465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880193329730276
parenting,funkyG,2018/01/11,"My five year old son was phographed at the urinal at school!!! How can I help him feel safe? Just as the title explains.. I picked up my boy today from kindergarten. As we drove away he started telling me about these mean older boys taking pictures with their watch of his underwear.  I asked where and he told me he was at the stand up toilet (translation=urinal). My heart sunk and I u-turned it back to school. I stayed calm, walked up to the vice principal and asked for an immediate meeting. She was great and had him explain it all her, she even walked down the halls with him and had him retrace how it happened, pulled out a year book to try to figure out who and she's going to have my son go with her room to room to identify the boys tomorrow. 

What we got from him was two boys were laughing while he was peeing. One boy bragged to the other about getting a picture of my son on his watch and laughed about his underwear and was showing it to the other. (my boy usually drops his pants to the floor.. We are working on it) My son then confronted them and told them they were inappropriate and they laughed at him and left with the picture.

What should I do to help him feel better about this? What should I reasonably expect as a reaction from the school for discipline on those boys? The VP guessed they are probably grade two based off of the location of the bathroom. I get they are just kids but I'm pissed on behalf of our boy. I told him I was proud of him for telling me and we hung out singing and playing Mario tonight to relax. He mentioned he wants to go to a different school but maybe that will change tomorrow.  He wanted to sleep in my bed and when I said no he suggested he slept with his little brother which is not a normal request. (little bro tends to get super excited and jumps all over him which usually ends in someone crying) Maybe I should have let him in with me. I don't know...

 Anyways any helpful tips or suggestions on how to best go forward would be appreciated. Thanks.",3.165187435175582,5.08100182115869,3.5577781893613896,90.35214809601423,74.86901763224179,6.887212920432657,25.278485701585414,7.724431198458867,1.1956434138390883,1581,54,330,22,34,491,202,397,0.024,0.843,0.133,0.9922,1,0,0,0,0,0,41,5,0,7,5,14,16,2,0,20,0,27,6,6,5,2,59,58,27,0,8,6,6,2,0,0,5,0,1,3,9,17,28,0,2,8,5,0,10,3,2,0,4,18,5,58,14,64,33,3,59,0,0,2,0,76,31,1,2,17,225,75,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975487460941086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917885387919808,0.0,0.0963730825173294,0.07887424727941518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764668530394056,0.09071971633917088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851130464598063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126743978707747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716959175983642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085146930972683,0.0,0.0,0.06775016699030206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037305351946494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077443482519527,0.0,0.2331841393295893,0.0,0.08203901796531421,0.11308987867063765,0.11299850548897675,0.0,0.0907071981848934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155249125918476,0.20626263705280065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637282607527527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114486082757522,0.10489042423464913,0.0,0.0,0.20561524764139205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20610180432804587,0.11173481800248834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050223586248183,0.0,0.0,0.10763575865034257,0.0,0.06950783055971914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105937652269916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105464723848461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757281403638764,0.0,0.0,0.41524763104554296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102649604030465,0.0,0.0869119096427295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260348469902161,0.10933186176904207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771240292784798,0.0,0.17931106047072362,0.09443776215959744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972296040604784,0.294045930355464,0.0,0.06964204838524657,0.1115727161280797,0.2004027666524892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594489852192626,0.0,0.12100340482157257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467620402360041,0.0,0.0,0.07286671007565036,0.0,0.0,0.13211055033281965
parenting,semi-curious,2018/01/11,"Advice pls! Going back to work from mat leave and wanting a 2nd baby Hello! First time posting so please bear with me. Some background to give context on my dilemma:

I recently gave birth to a baby boy and am currently on maternity leave (12 months as I live in Canada). I always wanted to have atleast 3 children that are relatively close in age (just to get it out of the way, hehehe).

I worked for the same company for the last 8 years (in the private sector) and have been notably a workaholic. When I found out I was pregnant, I was just promoted to a manager position with my own department. So you can imagine that my boss was not too happy. All of my duties has to be shifted to my team and it caused a bit of a panic/stress.

As my maternity leave is coming to an end, I have been having increasingly more anxiety as I want to start trying for baby#2 but don't know how to break it to my boss if and when I'm pregnant again. 

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Got any advice on how to approach the issue? Did it come off as unprofessional?",4.5062857142857125,5.242127438095238,5.993333333333332,78.81000000000002,69.85714285714286,8.857142857142858,29.285714285714285,9.04235418022936,2.345428571428572,822,30,162,15,14,280,133,210,0.069,0.899,0.032,-0.75,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,1,0,5,11,1,0,0,13,0,19,0,0,5,1,32,33,17,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,12,0,1,3,1,0,6,2,0,0,1,10,0,18,1,36,22,7,35,0,0,0,0,7,11,0,2,15,117,24,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879546989277023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259732647057882,0.0,0.0,0.10019514372095932,0.0,0.11271344939925496,0.0,0.0,0.10302241375547652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329411150539567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085533921170933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135709171789713,0.0,0.25383791821974633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049806304891998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532594184510013,0.0,0.16154891726453754,0.0,0.0,0.07697821690678497,0.14134038966041598,0.08373579081175893,0.0,0.11783995372062565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684443409892382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378297806776942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097331465644728,0.12010043614828207,0.0,0.4680301780188298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301024796494233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760408086010132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728698308055068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16173328484999322,0.0,0.0,0.14110942991217842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454788648667636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561450057514954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042868562920406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877560447973436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591418813036457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003308135888164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607119632436528,0.11695033968766375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145281756028238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948810792920992
parenting,resistAndpersist,2018/01/11,"am I asking too much? I am a very liberal, atheist, vegetarian. My best friend is a super conservative, believer, non-veggie. I would be hurt if he didn't choose me to be the god father. Am I asking too much. He is my 3 children's god father... ",0.16366666666666774,2.404171100000003,3.9440000000000026,81.62866666666667,88.0,6.533333333333335,20.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.1375333333333335,185,6,38,4,6,69,35,50,0.064,0.643,0.293,0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,11,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,3,1,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5648630219832902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403738436822405,0.3170451808552521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334089761349805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234143653841384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441703462239324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492718977769941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146098526771461,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Laughters_Mother,2018/01/11,"Pew, Pew, Clowns [a toddler story] To preface: my son's favorite movie is Lego Batman. When they shoot anything, they say pew, pew, and no one is seriously injured, and Batman is only afraid of snake clowns.


The story: grandma was showing him a black and white video of bozo the clown and my son goes, ""no like clowns...pew, pew clowns... and snakes.""


And my parents and I sat there looking at him in shock until we realized he was referring to Lego Batman, at which point we dissolved into laughter.",7.368387096774192,6.949800677419358,6.889806451612905,78.79470967741938,63.73118279569893,8.730322580645161,33.65376344086022,7.554174236665415,2.350296344086022,385,14,70,3,5,120,60,93,0.135,0.78,0.085,-0.4767,1,0,0,1,0,0,25,2,0,2,0,2,4,0,1,4,0,5,1,0,0,0,12,7,9,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,10,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,1,3,4,10,1,9,4,0,7,5,0,3,0,11,5,0,0,3,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535490779825285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20989563221803847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36078119373589895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291128567344558,0.3267531549337338,0.0,0.0,0.4770535346081717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4061394425003195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416592083643139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mel626,2018/01/11,"Sisters sharing a room and won’t go to sleep. My 2 daughters are 6 and 2 and share a room. They have bunk beds with the oldest on top. Bedtime is at 7:30 and these girls stay up every night for at least an hour. My oldest Kenzie is the quiet, sweet, meek type and my 2 year old Keira is wild, silly, and a little crazy. So Kenzie reads books quietly while her sister does everything possible to annoy her. I’ve tried taking the ladder off but the little one is part monkey and climbs up without it. I’ve tried putting the little one to bed first but no matter how quiet the older one is she wakes up. I’ve tried sitting in the room and watching/disciplining but the little one thought it was a game and wouldn’t go to sleep. I’ve tried a video monitor and every time she gets out of bed putting her back but again she thought this was hilarious. I’m all out of ideas. Give me any and all advise you have! I’ve got a baby who doesn’t sleep through the night yet and this problem has got to get fixed. They have been sharing a room for about a year so it’s not new.",1.8143243243243248,3.622845252252256,2.9308918918918927,93.81985135135136,78.45945945945947,5.521081081081082,20.109009009009007,6.2581,-0.05263855855855848,834,20,185,6,20,267,124,222,0.049,0.873,0.078,0.4855,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,1,2,3,7,7,1,0,18,0,16,4,4,1,2,30,27,20,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,7,1,7,15,0,0,3,4,0,5,6,2,0,5,7,4,13,5,23,18,4,42,0,0,0,0,20,19,0,0,16,111,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841194341969579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866309415041514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090494105510422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19430033173336209,0.0,0.10362947810014768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807911138234543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048511264086845,0.1106118942035306,0.1310619626360522,0.0,0.18444127011693456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355305218402005,0.0,0.0,0.13016628852066645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4622670818222188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113631246562131,0.0,0.21641348988609432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099411065514318,0.0,0.31253695788819835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486501725225968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999003977399104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103321421147246,0.0,0.2318284876238247,0.0,0.0,0.11533707018900435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461674179056623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229007120578714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866956618293059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307995687220488,0.06723577818690259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31314045868151785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115074088021597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850639551496456
parenting,Dreamingoffire12,2018/01/12,"When to switch to toddler bed? I have two sons. One is 2 and a half and the other is 1. The older boy is already in a toddler bed. He does very well with it and is fine left to his own devices. The younger is still in his crib. He is walking and up on all his milestones. The boys just switched to sharing a room. We were kind of forced to make that change because my room is simply too cold in the winter for the baby and he will wake up shivering multiple times a night. No matter what we do the room is just cold. 

So the big issue here is when the younger boy goes to bed sometimes he will wake up and fuss a bit. When he fusses even just a little the older boy will put EVERY. SINGLE. TOY. in their room in the crib with the younger boy. He will also put his pillow and his blanket in the crib too. The younger boy will fall asleep, but then the older boy won’t be able to sleep without his blanket or his stuffed animal. 

The younger boy will often make pillow and blanket nests in the living room so he can fall asleep in them whenever he wants. 

What would y’all consider signs that a kid is ready to move up to a toddler bed? ",2.3033229259589656,3.692208110169492,3.15421052631579,94.57169937555756,75.94915254237287,5.815878679750223,23.014272970562,6.05967700443912,0.2283677966101693,878,25,199,5,19,278,118,236,0.016,0.942,0.042,0.6007,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,2,1,2,0,16,4,0,0,25,0,23,5,5,2,1,26,26,17,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,11,9,6,12,0,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,1,3,1,2,14,4,27,16,4,38,0,0,0,0,31,21,0,2,11,129,20,0,0.18875653714408985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20829753246713925,0.1509485345582701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150642330682006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607325104683935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996793880747957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518211766265012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467191257837155,0.0,0.1590355235465878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970127842904897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656088679705225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050845299012274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918363833994112,0.16667548047830213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519929085244238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20061832686649253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713522339123006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790631462641255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795049094703946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888928548577963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668504172766207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074121439002913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100654547485808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843877093922092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557439113276274,0.11133349612082737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971479564133898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18195456601416676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408722829753908,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GumTastesBad,2018/01/12,"Backyard set ups: alternatives to grass or hardscape? I'm curious how people set up their yards this day and age. We're moving to a home that is mostly hardscape. This is because we're in a California city with very little rain and expensive water fees so most neighbors have transitioned away from grass. Hardscape is easier for older kids who ride bikes or play basketball. But what do you all do for the younger crowd? 

My kid is 3 and as clumsy as a toddler so it seems unsafe to place a climbing structure over the cement without padding.  

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parenting,NonaSiu,2018/01/12,"Can't tell if daughter (6f) is sensitive or manipulative I have a daughter (6f) who is usually very well behaved, but she is starting to be disrespectful or smart-mouthed when she speaks to me. Last night I said her name and she didn't answer me, so I said it again a little louder. She snapped, ""What?!"" at me. I told her she needed to stop watching tv and go put her pajamas on and go to bed. She ignored me. I said, ""Daughtername. Now, please!"" She said, ""FINE!"" and heaved a huge sigh, said, ""OH MY GOSH!"" and started to flounce off. So I stopped her, explained that answering me like that was disrespectful, and we love each other and need to treat each other respectfully. After a few more exchanges, I walked away and her dad was there. I THOUGHT I heard her say, ""I don't want Mommy to do (bedtime ritual). Only you!"" and having lost my temper I said, ""Fine, I won't do (bedtime ritual) since you aren't treating me nicely anyway!"" I went to help our other child. When I came back, she was sobbing on her dad's lap. Just horribly sobbing saying I didn't want to do (bedtime ritual) and I must not love her. Turns out I had misheard what she said, that was my mistake, and so I apologized and calmed her and hugged her and we were ok.
BUT...
I've noticed that any time I call her on this sort of disrespectful behavior, she very quickly starts sobbing inconsolably about...something. Which usually results in me spending time comforting her and reassuring her that I do love her very much and nothing could change that and so on.
So I'm wondering, since she's usually so well behaved, if this sort of over the top reaction to a usually very mild scolding is because she usually doesn't misbehave so she's very much affected by it, and needs that reassurance, or if she's trying to turn attention away from her bad behavior?
For context her brother (5m) is ....not that well behaved and gets a lot of attention, negative and positive, due to his more boisterous nature.",3.36155844155844,5.415576396825394,4.516955266955268,83.08006493506495,74.71428571428572,8.17970177970178,28.914862914862915,8.927757054556999,2.475993650793652,1530,66,297,34,33,501,190,378,0.119,0.6970000000000001,0.184,0.9847,0,0,1,0,0,0,84,3,2,0,2,19,28,1,0,7,1,27,4,0,3,1,62,59,37,0,11,11,5,0,1,0,2,0,11,1,1,19,26,0,3,7,1,2,6,10,8,4,0,21,12,66,19,30,34,8,42,3,4,1,4,66,14,3,10,23,207,85,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370459276075886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839614231043052,0.060725638934499684,0.0659394566949666,0.048141427116282616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064063008402368,0.09032448484262848,0.0,0.0,0.08354334315102928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630538016617498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041260320978644995,0.0,0.0897647606069535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052934178372036914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437382865277311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038582394488915706,0.07915205354332157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620875120181877,0.0671403263689589,0.21382962157568988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161090124557462,0.1756732368221455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411114834929564,0.0,0.07577706863002777,0.08991169353885492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060062798786851876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668903378110282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793900391649573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5258522490623109,0.12560557090763266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065515859264784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079755064617244,0.0,0.0,0.16769325157299747,0.0,0.0,0.13205052993430544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902619733747486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269602625363167,0.09210000234666613,0.0,0.0,0.075462429596608,0.0,0.05361772734159774,0.17180067533407553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43488999261472255,0.32580646287972564,0.09316106745221037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130196042782374,0.07320909571419466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564323990096886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThunderOrb,2018/01/12,"What age do toddlers typically learn to use I/you mine/yours correctly? My daughter is just about a week shy of being two and a half. She still doesn't have these concepts down. She'll often hand you something and say, for example, ""My shoes,"" when she definitely means they are yours. Earlier today, she pointed at her nose and said, ""Your nose."" 

I've read that this can be a sign of autism, but how old does the child have to be before that's the case?

She also sometimes obsessively repeats a word or phrase until you acknowledge what she's talking about. ""Snow, snow, snow. See? Snow, snow, snow."" She'll even sometimes keep going even if you've acknowledged it. It's like she gets stuck in some sort of feedback loop where she knows she's expressing the right thing, so she keeps doing it. 

First question, then: Is it normal for a child already 2 1/2 to be unable to differentiate mine vs yours? If so, how do you help them get over that hurdle? 

Second question: What do we do about the constant repetition?

If she is on the spectrum, she's very high functioning as she's able to properly engage with others. She's overall a very bright child that already knows all of her letters, can count to 15, recognizes numbers up to 10, knows over half a dozen shapes, and probably more than a dozen colors. Given all of that, it's really surprising how delayed her language seems to us, but maybe we expect more than we should simply because of these other skills.

What can we do to help her language development? Should we have her evaluated?",4.7883499377335,6.415699267123292,4.94252801992528,83.26729140722294,70.02739726027397,7.9118306351183065,27.31382316313823,8.438071523408619,1.83752191780822,1214,41,231,19,22,380,167,292,0.029,0.883,0.08900000000000001,0.9606,1,0,1,0,0,0,51,6,6,2,2,16,5,0,1,13,0,25,4,4,4,3,47,40,20,0,7,8,1,1,1,0,4,0,2,0,3,20,10,0,3,10,1,0,1,1,1,0,7,3,8,37,4,32,29,5,26,0,0,3,0,47,12,0,10,14,161,57,3,0.1379206430863787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043977185197393,0.11029508844682116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407514389232948,0.0,0.11736030893115013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904321797027126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069528419570237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821905679959777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731522855248053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441156870960308,0.0,0.0783834798484562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489059963683488,0.14572073178951878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451804092918657,0.0,0.0,0.2273927355115528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738105957122878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385598237746687,0.15023601314307092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351329468993951,0.0,0.0,0.14472451416976534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303795876081495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487017803690698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090053697574693,0.0,0.13795796637113625,0.0,0.08835549562103928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778347561017655,0.13119411508461662,0.1096800311115585,0.0,0.0,0.10990489589398744,0.1255577735287481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617804924086433,0.2728140852682812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014360372813964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108553885717247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916283468285477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073264300837995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472842764213674,0.0,0.16590155191203265,0.11911915303477465,0.0,0.22759794952899606,0.0,0.0,0.11063162063894802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,S3b45714N,2018/01/12,"Looking for a good tall standing stroller So we recently found out we're going to have another child. My wife hates our current stroller. We are wanting to get one where our toddler could stand on while baby is in the seat.
The thing is im 6'2"" and my wife is 5'11"".
Does anyone know a decent standing stroller with a good height? ",2.899128205128207,5.077925707692311,2.976538461538464,93.01762820512822,76.53846153846155,5.564102564102565,27.756410256410252,6.42735559955562,1.0603333333333338,261,11,53,2,6,79,50,65,0.044,0.868,0.08800000000000001,0.4404,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,13,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,6,2,7,11,0,13,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,0,3,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910946632082201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194108948147123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216462339459134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429353547945072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043812434734285,0.0,0.0,0.1450379598897993,0.0,0.1577701947007044,0.4656863912905648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740789861867569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998627018114095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256529490033885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23311957745367665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18811337670149886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741029685438117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442945053208634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373953042461653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brwnbrrr,2018/01/12,"Compliments from toddlers always seem to feel so much better than from adults I am a hairstylist and where I work, our dress code regulates what hairstyles and makeup we wear. Essentially since we ""work in the beauty industry"" we have to put obvious effort into our appearance.

It's easier for me to once every couple of weeks spend a few hours putting extensions in my hair than it is to actually wake up every day and spend a half hour styling my hair, so for the past months that's what I've been doing.

My two-year-old son hasn't ever seemed to notice/care about my hair styles, but last night when I finished doing my hair I joined my kiddo on the couch and said hello. 

He looked at me, and his eyes lit up and he went ""Hi Mommy! You pretty!!"" 

I honestly could have died of happiness!

It's a nice improvement from being ""stinky mommy""",3.9187288930581614,5.624236079268297,4.727560975609759,83.63770168855537,72.35365853658536,8.21688555347092,22.9812382739212,8.841846274778883,1.5404508442776734,663,17,129,13,13,214,113,164,0.048,0.8,0.152,0.9506,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,5,1,0,4,6,5,0,0,7,0,10,7,7,0,2,18,17,10,1,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,10,0,0,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,3,9,20,5,22,12,2,23,0,0,3,0,14,8,0,3,11,80,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.16206942007346056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381912653087526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688362688643405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260079110040654,0.18376356446158595,0.0,0.1071073962156115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236407212197258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022821699455186,0.27985791271164634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397467410114832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679448181088234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271092733888522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537677952093924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394647670796572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256289682165634,0.0,0.12208738014014656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585415377797346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427226683698066,0.17686901297788754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854146503947336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689623343572925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339110956461704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797942706961465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023846780538085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373824966468596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622353243144099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321878068274207,0.0,0.0,0.15395715645384292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24181538769564434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694961120854343
parenting,UtterImperfection,2018/01/12,"Who's going to see the look in her eyes once she's gone? Yesterday, we dropped our daughter off at kindergarten and the look in her eyes clenched our hearts with its tiny fists and pleaded with us not to leave her there. Today, the look in her eyes keeps us at a distance and tells us she's ready to leave home. And this is just the way of it.
~
The way of it is we're likely to tread heavily on each other's nerves as she readies herself to leave. I've heard from enough who've gone before us to know there's precise purpose in this phenomenon. The burgeoning conflict that's likely to ensue between us will help her decide, yes, she really is ready to go. Ready enough. It will lead her dad and me by the hand to the resolution, yes, we're ready for her to leave. Ready enough.
~
Years after my own mom dropped me off at college, she confided she had cried every day for three weeks straight. And then she stopped. So I know what's coming and I know it will pass.
~
What I don't know and what's snagging my heart and pulling a loose thread each time this wonder comes too near is who will see the look in her eyes once she goes? It's this uncertainty that calls forth a tear to form in the corner of each of my eyes, months before she's due to leave. These tears stand ready at the gates as the forerunners to the others that hover on the verge of spilling out and unleashing the flow of the multitude right behind them.
~
We've seen the dazzling look of triumph in her eyes at winning and we've seen the look of despair at losing. We've seen the solaced look of acceptance and the anguished look of rejection. Who is going to see the look in her eyes when she leaves?
~
We've seen the look in her eyes of determination, fear, pain, love, sickness, anxiety, elation, good health, apology, longing, confusion, humor, joy, unease and anticipation. Who is going to see all this in her eyes when we're not there to do it anymore?
~
Who is going to see the look in her eyes and be able to respond in kind? Or with just the right amount of loving pushback or encouraging perspective? Who is going to hold her heart long enough for the look in her eyes to feel seen when we let go of being able to cradle it each day?
~
I just don't know the answer to these questions. And neither does she. But she's ready to leave and go learn them. And we will be ready soon too. Ready enough. And that's just the way of it.",4.621144173798552,4.982773567346938,4.830842659644503,88.5808393680053,69.44897959183673,7.955233706385782,26.41869651086241,7.717688229018142,1.1578795260039498,1888,52,416,20,31,592,196,490,0.077,0.763,0.16,0.9899,0,0,0,0,0,0,58,10,0,2,4,14,20,0,4,30,2,21,20,15,1,2,60,66,28,0,0,9,3,2,2,0,5,3,1,2,0,31,31,0,4,12,0,0,16,5,8,0,1,9,36,49,12,75,48,14,70,0,3,33,2,59,30,0,5,20,258,80,3,0.1097479900170096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04197845598477694,0.0,0.05442025796612142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338745618306277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603248418412851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453817564849956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027650683254405,0.07077837433628657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04802060282126936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28349752793633576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04623370749066349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06174850026328765,0.027745940655368274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494892474803559,0.04602570353407461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05832849067035041,0.0,0.19507784487918897,0.036780882160029386,0.0,0.05504309114560399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048774528071330266,0.0,0.057142821563499126,0.15078656288863582,0.0,0.0,0.4067254627422911,0.0,0.05611237772310452,0.0,0.05361732433720853,0.0,0.0,0.09712351759721312,0.5529640252601844,0.061389964190195274,0.0,0.0,0.09905184583796016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642677597446643,0.04379989928733869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687802758119716,0.0,0.0,0.05838979959336345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147143291324746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03515368633139527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937241838216965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21863734730847303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045877116921955036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796229030666832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031997467774437516,0.0,0.05201413102023871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33003329769215584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306692691905787,0.04401660884746842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059508506818813776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03533705367088024
parenting,mommysmayhem,2018/01/12,"Daughter refuses to eat what I cook and I'm worried she's gonna get sick. We have a rule in my house, you either eat what I cook or eat a sandwich or something. My husband and I don't believe in children choosing what to have for dinner. My daughter who is 12, is so upset she can't choose what we have that she has been eating ham sandwiches and cold hot dogs for the past 2 weeks. She doesn't even warm the hot dogs up, she just eats it cold. My husband tried to make her sit at the table until she ate, but she just sat there for an hour and a half with her arms crossed. He's tried threatening to take away privileges and that still hasn't work. What should we do?",3.806283255086072,3.980016795774649,4.3576995305164345,91.9219640062598,71.1830985915493,7.437871674491394,26.341158059467922,6.937597516519254,0.8687486697965565,523,15,122,4,9,166,88,142,0.087,0.888,0.025,-0.7555,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,3,1,0,1,6,3,0,1,7,0,13,13,1,1,0,20,20,10,0,1,6,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,9,9,11,1,2,2,0,1,4,1,0,1,3,5,20,2,14,15,1,12,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,2,5,79,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134143587249466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148376650515247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8241332919991597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639285664718548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841584710255536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863289733690286,0.18586650256051104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075231976404181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537705836749662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240084609891603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286399484995412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121113292492005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187276223696539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920991777736007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172693001742145,0.1635861516655832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,annrenay,2018/01/12,"SAHM (or dads) - how do you bring in money? I (24F) am a SAHM to our 14mon old daughter. My husband (27) provides the income, but like a lot of US families, we could really use more money. And couldn’t afford daycare - and prefer not to.

As a SAHP, is there anything you do to help bring in some extra money for the household? ",1.739743589743593,3.630577769230772,3.7026923076923097,87.81147435897438,79.0,5.564102564102565,21.602564102564106,6.42735559955562,0.4634102564102562,245,7,49,2,6,83,51,65,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.7998,3,0,0,0,0,0,16,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,2,0,13,9,6,0,3,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,8,7,4,5,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,2,37,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041902431216933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951352419193989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484728806688785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24776843152841846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059219319401495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142629935582569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878852245596944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368070914361355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4446431282727651,0.3192586942807429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,letherunderyourskin,2018/01/12,"What age do you expect a toddler to tell you she pooped? My son is nearly three but the problem is with the 22 mo I watch.  She absolutely cannot (or will not) tell me when she’s pooped.  If it’s not smelly, I’d have to literally get lucky checking her ALL the time or else it dries and gets ground in.  She has no pooping cues like grunting or hiding.

Weird thing is she is actually slowly potty training.  She can pee on the potty and will even occasionally poop there.  Usually it’s prompted by me or her mom but she even asks to use it at home sometimes.  Her language skills are great!

So why won’t/can’t she communicate when she’s pooped?  I feel like I’ve gone at this from every angle, tried to tell her how she can point or tell me poopy or diaper or anything and nothing works.  I’m 9 months pregnant and constantly cleaning dried poop out of every crevice every time.",3.337028571428572,4.948427817142857,4.119285714285713,87.7932142857143,73.68571428571428,6.828571428571428,24.5,7.447530270364453,0.9652285714285708,688,21,144,8,14,220,112,175,0.062,0.848,0.091,0.8075,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,2,0,2,7,6,0,0,5,0,13,7,7,2,1,25,20,18,0,3,12,2,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,7,6,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,1,2,22,4,14,17,1,17,0,0,1,0,23,8,0,9,10,87,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.1523232919732094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845043002626658,0.0,0.1459249649500637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686800175893904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303948508494563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061946100782154,0.0,0.39454276935464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892481379686843,0.11151216807881732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16310327276424222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209199971140066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565730199394168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525173499130126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281308368646404,0.12459115870364107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977450006308712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475574093913272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935897950845256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543789959998922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5457252113011701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370060016960372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820370206536982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597623334197556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481338569291298,0.17191330412720365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084876671333998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136368473672665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1RedOne,2018/01/12,"[children aged 2& 3] Ideas to keep Amplifier / cable box safe from children Hi guys,

  I've got two VERY energetic children and they've begun to try and climb on the glass TV stand.  We want to get a wall mounting kit to move it up and out of the way, but then there's the question of where to store the Roku, amplifier box and other hardware.

  Has anyone seen a ventilated option for a living room appropriate AV cabinet or have an idea of how you kept your amplifier, roku, etc safe from grubby hands?",9.852244897959183,6.750949836734692,9.738469387755103,68.8797448979592,60.83673469387754,12.657142857142858,37.765306122448976,10.686352973137794,3.7214,396,13,78,7,4,131,75,98,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.8133,0,0,0,1,0,0,13,1,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,8,0,2,1,1,1,0,18,8,8,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,6,0,4,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,3,2,14,5,1,13,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,3,3,41,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26336533432923903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995960897130527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27108636688311954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269936042834175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19440461279708252,0.0,0.0,0.24067668461327396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5487909924508834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160510386000518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146345223467232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583440505911361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722930892476865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650280048019794,0.0,0.2374432509114935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055751404038932,0.1433684888293772,0.19293698601892864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mingl,2018/01/12,"Awkward parent moment...racism anybody? Have two daughters (6 and 4) and the oldest dressed in all white today. Walking on the way to school, it was misty and overcast, so the girls were pretending to be ""little cloud people."" The eldest was a little white cloud person and because my youngest was wearing purple, she was a little purple cloud person.  

At school there are two paths to the classroom and the girls usually race each other, each going a different way, to see who can get to the classroom quickest.  My 6 yr old cuts off the 4 yr old on a path and I've never seen parents' heads turn quicker than when my youngest daughter yells out ""NO!  ONLY WHITE PEOPLE GO THERE.  COLORED PEOPLE GO THIS WAY.""  :p

(and me trying to say in a loud voice so parents can hear, ""you mean white CLOUD people??!!? purple CLOUD people!!"")   

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parenting,vinnaey,2018/01/12,"Happy Parenting The best gift you can give to your children is to constantly bless them .Instead of getting anxious about any of the concerns , just keep blessing them . You must not be even aware how powerful your blessings can be . They truly work wonders , miracles!!!
So when the child is sleeping , put your loving hands on his head and bless him with all good things in life -good health, success, love and friendship, anything and everything you want your child to be or have . 
When he is just playing , watching TV , studying, eating or any other activity , just bless him. If nothing specific comes to your mind just keep saying internally "" God bless you ""
Let this be your ongoing way of loving your child throughout his life.
It will have tremendous positive  effect on his life .
Love you  and bless you all.
Happy Parenting.",5.952839080459771,8.392401151724139,5.072844827586209,80.21455459770118,68.51724137931035,7.8678160919540225,32.083333333333336,8.59863814320734,2.7942298850574714,657,29,107,11,12,196,92,145,0.01,0.594,0.396,0.9974,3,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,13,3,5,11,18,0,0,3,0,14,12,3,2,3,24,25,11,0,3,8,2,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,4,4,6,1,2,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,21,18,12,18,3,9,7,0,1,4,34,3,0,4,3,75,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18474091364378412,0.0,0.0,0.153451561654789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117782094901406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254736393069153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700728994398987,0.0,0.1467861986842077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899010509533985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971579276280961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220770945707806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096664366106407,0.130302486482544,0.0,0.22785897025602525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28919150149705525,0.0,0.0,0.13940287830634207,0.14438312508242948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24146754721150546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388974814598757,0.2878265972384787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4903749396874907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715165647369712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033452235939874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016508499115894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654873462020434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801910383901253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593015355519206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024078321606986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011726666386303,0.10781716459742127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730407189941058,0.09888735544302976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NocturnalNightingale,2018/01/12,"Soon to become legal guardian to my younger brother and feeling lost. I am a 25 year old woman and my brother is 7 years old. After a series of events that took place whilst he was in our mother's care I have decided to step up as his legal guardian and try my best to provide him with a more stable life.  
  
For a bit of context, our mother is a nasty piece of work and has been abusive to two out of her three kids, my brother and myself. Whilst the abuse has been much different in his case, its gotten to the point that CPS is involved and last night he was transported to my home by the police.  He stays at my home very often,  so this was not a problem.  
  
I am quite nervous to take on this role as whilst I have set up certain things for him such as his own room, rules, a routine and a new diet (mothers neglect has left him very overweight) I am not sure about so many things!  
  
How do I get him enrolled into school? How on Earth do I find someone suitable for childcare? What do I need to be aware of financially? I'm just so lost. I've been childfree my entire life so I've never needed to give any thought to these kinds of things.  
  
I figured this would be the best place to seek some advice, I read the rules so I hope I'm following them correctly. If there's a better place to post this please let me know! We are located in Australia also.",3.692300265051117,4.406264636690652,4.378186293070808,89.73358765619085,71.6978417266187,6.8598258235516845,26.50208254449073,6.5966054737557815,0.916364028776978,1051,33,228,7,19,336,162,278,0.083,0.8009999999999999,0.116,0.8119,1,0,0,0,1,0,24,3,0,1,7,14,13,0,1,14,0,25,4,0,2,4,35,42,19,0,6,4,6,1,0,0,1,3,0,3,2,12,11,2,1,6,1,0,4,3,5,0,2,11,1,32,8,39,27,8,37,0,3,0,0,26,16,0,4,14,155,44,5,0.0,0.26626344202601265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979977346590683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985660983671839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641065850922242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409604942357068,0.0,0.0,0.2358359657720444,0.09937589744173522,0.12267123871912715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456151525270315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739536662329328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05681408321726016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269769989330324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058705003319265474,0.10778877944404107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22541839901733715,0.1116017616726508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170087206594509,0.06175173830584897,0.09159080043732074,0.0,0.0,0.1220826730170582,0.11489872832485812,0.1587305478985029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453148645194424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139183943721632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825996962691959,0.16663140609251492,0.08666123333775368,0.10852083646339598,0.0,0.10544501609892357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23581202729315245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521860998698797,0.12334077620233495,0.10621930585808773,0.0,0.10761264529425524,0.0,0.0,0.10751616738530682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195118274459362,0.11239335615615607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371730330765968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520476218014792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976395342390456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590074980955028,0.0,0.08448295401649443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239468518562203,0.0,0.0,0.08920363055898538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483937087066345,0.07628706677267674,0.0,0.10976227434090194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542240129146526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180156521480621,0.0,0.0,0.07981941522305981,0.0,0.0,0.14471611057250214
parenting,Jerseygirltalk,2018/01/12,"Trouble with napping My four month old has been getting really good at sleeping through the night (thanks to some help from this forum!) but is really bad at napping. If I’m holding her, she’ll go out for a solid 1-2 hr nap during the day.

However, she’s headed to daycare end of Feb so she needs to learn to nap on her own. I put her in her MamaRoo every day at the same time (normally when she’s ready for a good 2 hr haul) but she cries the minute I set her down. Even when she’s already asleep in my arms, she’ll become wide awake and start crying. I’ve tried the cry it out method, the 5,10,15 method and nothing seems to work. It’s also not getting better after a week of this. Am I doing something wrong or is there a better way to get her to nap on her own? ",2.003279848985372,3.2666613619631915,3.488957055214726,92.38085417649836,76.4846625766871,6.24237848041529,22.354412458706946,6.67199483983844,0.3798356772062293,594,16,135,5,13,196,103,163,0.168,0.7559999999999999,0.076,-0.9593,1,0,3,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,3,6,8,0,0,10,0,8,4,4,0,0,17,17,10,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,5,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,19,5,25,14,4,27,0,0,0,0,15,11,0,4,12,82,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688361021242934,0.12093679701814924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626887532381714,0.0,0.16701919610770702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674973551583183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4983498291342387,0.19505880820686836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339429218547155,0.0,0.0,0.09988451911425936,0.0,0.12741592282503575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370308121997717,0.0,0.08594622956922927,0.2536853654079069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552033263484093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136478982753942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207085671956306,0.0,0.0,0.11213347895095276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191702237268286,0.14817111078809328,0.14510712873343545,0.0,0.15868811059649338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520256832513174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376077012734047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376720866280297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513369898751658,0.0,0.0,0.11642252950381085,0.0,0.0,0.10703979749923458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923021711353764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818213173511151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102673732362727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003756870931445,0.12130579917393375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009562130294596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534383181189755,0.0,0.0
parenting,pigsfly34,2018/01/12,"Children in public book store I'm wondering how parents handle rude remarks about their children being in a bookstore, restaurant, and other public places. I personally try to keep calm about this kind of stuff, some people do not like to see children and often have the mentality that parents need to keep their children out of all shops unless it is child related. 

I recently took my three children to a bookstore with my husband, ages 4, 3 and 4 months old. Now I have normal active children but with that being said, they understand how to behave in the library and I tell them this is no different. With the help of my husband we do not have the same issues we would have if I were to have taken them alone. 

My husband had bought us a coffee and taken the older two to buy a book when I saw a friend who I started to chat with. We had been there for maybe 5 min. when a older woman remarked that we shouldn't have brought a baby here. It is bad enough we brought two toddlers.  She moved seats and put in headphones, I thought the discussion was over. I continued to talk with my friend while my baby slept, he had not made a peep the entire time we had been talking. My other children came to show me the book my husband was buying them. They were incredibly excited and I did have to remind them to speak slowly and quietly, immediately they stopped and told me again quieter this time. The woman who had moved away came back and said she could not believe we had brought such unruly children to a bookstore. 

I was not sure what to, how should I respond in the future? If they had been screaming and carrying on we would have left immediately. We would speak to them outside away from everyone to not cause a scene but they did not behave that way. They were excited and wanted to show off a new book. How are we to teach our children to behave properly if we are expected to stay at home until they can do it on their own? No child I know is born with a perfect understanding of when to cry or when to have a fit. They're growing, learning and exploring. I don't want to punish them by keeping them out of places like this but it seems to be expected by some. ",5.727147511312218,6.088408901176474,5.944529411764709,81.55753619909503,67.04705882352941,8.609049773755656,30.934389140271488,8.384062270229773,2.1819828054298647,1713,62,334,22,26,546,199,425,0.075,0.84,0.085,0.8104,3,1,0,0,0,0,33,13,0,17,1,17,14,2,0,23,0,47,1,1,6,3,86,77,31,0,15,15,6,0,2,2,5,0,6,1,14,18,34,0,4,8,8,5,11,11,4,0,3,34,8,56,10,57,34,6,55,0,0,2,0,71,18,0,9,26,255,74,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074089602834703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487188999344576,0.0797441216866037,0.08659083956784183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684204123642733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372258847153355,0.0,0.10653544283727044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280143479331803,0.0,0.11391704142597656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835152487889964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715683881219512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909628410842264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024722064117078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951247669922726,0.0,0.10402636821120717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824294708185664,0.0,0.2765380855730494,0.0,0.10799466514094233,0.05699454077120202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126777330585526,0.0,0.0,0.10133180037523437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812987421028396,0.0,0.0,0.10418741180464892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451205433890938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827777720336547,0.2204478152711294,0.0,0.07689727227810703,0.0,0.10016066604803793,0.0,0.0,0.1016106372210684,0.0,0.0,0.10882283294870726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303082395111451,0.0,0.0,0.07189723173919757,0.0905527707042125,0.2167030497577993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425397006861063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239794591806003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729781580692746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264088634000799,0.09441076857306216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734042012242602,0.1105376417507673,0.0,0.08670352187829569,0.0,0.0,0.11871946532179478,0.0,0.0,0.09774242423471316,0.0,0.0,0.1667111822929174,0.09064430735723253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233160876625523,0.12094452892279872,0.0,0.0,0.09909628410842264,0.1152220618907712,0.07041010434323124,0.0,0.2026129333907304,0.2159248559849752,0.12474650181569645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122337905861742,0.08231762441509183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124655921968048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101098884369166,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beck171884,2018/01/12,"Concerned about my 16 year old son I've been getting more and more concerned about my 16 year old son at the moment, over the last year he seems to have become more and more depressed and has lost motivation. This was about the same time he stopped having any friends. A few months ago he started going to a nearby church and has appeared to be happier but not by much, he goes to church as much as he can now but that seems to be some of his only social interaction out of school. The only other social interaction I know of is talking to an old lady whose husband died a year or so ago, he can talk to her for hours and I don't really understand this. As far as I know he has never had a girlfriend and it doesn't sound like he has any intentions to get one. Should I be worried about him or is this normal for someone his age?",7.243640350877192,5.268461865497077,7.3754897660818735,80.25516447368423,64.84795321637425,10.187426900584796,32.486111111111114,8.472884824447931,2.254923391812865,653,19,140,7,8,212,99,171,0.092,0.8740000000000001,0.034,-0.8733,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,9,0,19,0,0,2,1,26,30,15,1,2,5,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,1,6,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,1,10,2,25,22,9,25,2,2,0,0,24,4,0,6,20,94,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415924768105843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185338241917482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505008861184829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737022543506433,0.0,0.14142804002010625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528282746329552,0.0,0.14239220442838355,0.0,0.07744609009116579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341997286274633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497822271950859,0.11107925425625748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657524799971448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875616371232805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877040932061192,0.0,0.2003500923579012,0.0,0.10510078660872538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335168890190756,0.0,0.0,0.4289812515773093,0.0,0.092340923753152,0.2072808480531396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729885030807781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791377722582315,0.0,0.24811245071419566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778227507230013,0.11546218543916167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964534900718182,0.0,0.0,0.11392886438652408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21905933308946027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079460860040259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186317408030266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839006617970492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35101686118051506
parenting,meonaredcouch,2018/01/12,"Let my daughter walk in the cold weather because she wanted to Today was that Friday where my 5 yo daughter decided to oppose us for everything. It all started when she wanted to wear a skirt to school, but all her warm tights were in the laundry. She refused to wear the warmer pants. She said she did not need the tights, she will wear just the skirt. When I said, it is cold outside, she simply said 'I never feel cold'. And within 10 mins the situation was, we were walking to school (no car she said) no jacket, no hat, no warm tights. No amount of asking her to re-think her decision helped. I wanted her to understand the consequences of her decisions. I thought she might relent in 2 mins of walking in the cold wind (it was 4C but windy when we were walking). So I let her do what she wanted.

I had packed warm clothes in her bag if she wanted to change(we have many friends on the way to school, we could step in to change). But she was adamant that she was not feeling cold. But I knew well she was feeling it. It was a good 10 min walk. I could not convince her to change to warmer clothes even at school (to prepare for the outdoor time). Exasperated, I told her I wanted to tell her  teacher and the principal. She started to cry profusely. Eventually a school nurse sweet talked her and got her to change into the pants and tshirt i had packed. When I checked in after an hour, I was  told she was doing fine. It definitely was bad start to the day. 

My wife is still mad at me for doing this. But, I think my daughter learnt an important lesson out of this situation (though she will never admit it being a headstrong kid). Was I wrong in letting her carry on with her 'I am not feeling cold' charade? Should I have put my foot down? Also, why was she ready listen to the nurse and not us? 

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parenting,stanton2020,2018/01/12,"Are YouTube kids videos damaging the creative development of our kids? Reviews, un-boxing, creative ideas around toys - these are all fine. But these channels with kids just doing random stuff with no structure to the videos? I'd rather my kids were playing rather than watching other kids playing. Am i wrong?",4.572695417789756,8.026588264150945,2.947762803234504,87.41415094339622,81.45283018867924,4.538005390835579,28.32614555256065,6.18269132825596,1.4067919137466314,250,11,39,2,7,70,40,53,0.138,0.674,0.188,0.2824,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,10,5,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,3,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,3,6,4,1,1,0,1,1,0,6,1,0,1,0,26,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162997580545632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5279099227638059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5353372202768119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511292172321776,0.0,0.0
parenting,dkmfan1,2018/01/12,Nightmare teething baby Hi everyone our 16 month is cutting 7 teeth at one time all 4 of her molars. She is miserable haven't eaten anything solid in 3 days she won't sleep more than a hour. She won't let u touch her mouth at all to rub orajel on there she's steady grinding her teeth. We gave her Tylenol Advil orajel nothing works is there any suggestions anyone can give to two broken and  tired parents. Thanks ,2.7647560975609764,5.1188580975609765,3.085548780487805,91.19710365853659,77.78048780487805,5.5634146341463415,23.664634146341466,6.6274283507984215,0.6945317073170738,332,11,65,3,8,102,65,82,0.14800000000000002,0.8170000000000001,0.035,-0.8044,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,1,0,8,9,5,0,2,4,12,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,2,2,10,1,8,7,3,8,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,0,4,35,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086076364174244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859642267286189,0.0,0.21886101923122864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152110088542838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541345524004472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25513143509825514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619153516184101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719603802889725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122853771334408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551941611402304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18022022667955048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953152173610372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661503712310836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448586693968153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508242311815398,0.3056799410312186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598026131911158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936208094588531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uliol,2018/01/12,"Kid getting snack taken Hi all- 

Just wanted to say I frequent this sub a lot. I get loads of info from these posts as well as a feeling of solidarity with other parents. 
So.
I live in Switzerland, in the country. My son has had his arm grabbed by his teacher to the point that it hurts, multiple times, but this is the kind of s*** they accept here. My point is leading to my subject- there’s a group of parents who’ve decided they hate my kid. Last year they would accost him before school or spread nasty rumors about him (they told everyone he smashed another kid’s head against the playground wall) and would yell at me in public (one came to my house and almost broke down my door). The problem is this- one particular parent, who used to be my friend, lets her kids do anything. Her kids hit and and pushed my crawling eight month old, ans I finally had to stop going over there with my kids. Her son has been taking my kid’s snack at school, and I already talked to the teacher (arm-puller) and principal.
No avail. 
My boyfriend is saying he’s going to go talk to the kid. 
But he has major anger issues and last time that happened he created a scene in front of the school.

Sorry this is a bit discombobulated 🤭",2.5292663043478285,4.760655437499999,3.377065217391305,89.43619565217394,77.95833333333334,6.007246376811594,23.35144927536232,7.079830092131019,0.7886123188405798,955,31,194,11,23,303,147,240,0.122,0.82,0.058,-0.9602,3,0,0,0,0,0,33,0,0,4,1,8,9,2,0,14,0,16,4,2,2,1,28,31,13,0,4,4,5,2,0,1,2,0,3,1,8,10,10,2,1,4,0,0,7,1,5,1,3,6,5,28,4,30,20,4,29,0,2,0,0,39,11,0,3,10,120,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193531556853774,0.0,0.13153087848135214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498276989832907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808451908193504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014232603819995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301263410116251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363234208067267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389266778459728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026684693320299,0.0,0.0,0.1305685558721817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208712328668786,0.0,0.1245453679407612,0.0,0.20321797442560485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054007254178451,0.0,0.0,0.11767701436712368,0.12232495349213054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753108669377115,0.12759705745246036,0.0,0.0,0.1244050483117139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411969459872775,0.0,0.1943141009364595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188147164663228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524835368403168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013324236572552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513758638884072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507151879524828,0.0,0.16153460606911746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970444509604301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253491488376482,0.0,0.1141525913077773,0.0,0.0,0.11405025014442885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895718655727023,0.0,0.3618847435709715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342522160392514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964950252054892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961723871714415,0.19160336304932016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900314403209954,0.0,0.0,0.11389266778459728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029432606710061,0.0,0.0,0.070302285273028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716754969485816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934056512539114,0.0,0.0,0.07675547320978192
parenting,bitchtoast,2018/01/12,"Is anybody familiar with NYC schools? My son is still in preschool and we live in NJ, but are planning to move to NYC (UES). I don't even know where to begin navigating the school system. Does anyone have experience with this?",3.442209302325584,5.7867392093023255,3.9699418604651164,85.7470058139535,75.51162790697674,7.090697674418602,27.02906976744186,8.07648339933343,1.7221674418604658,178,7,35,3,4,56,37,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,22,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257440109355992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825279406893109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21323917637683595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158089482991339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742974720707366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850821924871347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431381287282126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6534822478685454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578281806847831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stoptouchingmyhair,2018/01/12,Baby won't stop grinding her teeth She is 7 months old and has had visible teeth since a little over 3 months. She has recently starting grinding her teeth together pretty damn hard. Any advice or is this the norm for teething babes? ,4.194545454545455,6.632443000000002,3.986363636363638,86.07454545454546,73.54545454545455,7.127272727272729,26.90909090909091,8.07648339933343,1.820109090909092,188,7,34,3,4,57,36,44,0.091,0.797,0.113,0.2472,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,6,4,4,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,1,6,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977898868933686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072346839765972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272988545039256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30543106201774256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4864835485295701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197749627303563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31003168290958405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008954872094392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25208533487515616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21569761671066864,0.0,0.0,0.2547775565656416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stepmammadrama,2018/01/12,"My husband defended me against his teenage daughter so now she won't speak to him and he blames me I've been in their lives since she was 9 years old, she is now 13 and she's never had any animosity or hatred towards me until now. I asked her to remove her shoes from the living room. That's it. She said  ""okay"" but 10 minutes later I go back and they are still there. I ask her to remove them again but this time in a more demanding way. She threw a huge fit over it. She said something like, ""oh my God it is just shoes!"" I said back to her that all she had to do was move them when I first asked. Then she said something about me needing to leave.

My husband heard all of the commotion going on and I explained to him what happened. He told her that she was not to come in OUR home telling me that I needed to leave and being disrespectful. This caused her to become angry and call her mother to pick her up. She usually comes over every weekend and he's been calling and calling the past few weeks for her to come over and he's been getting no answer. He's tried talking to her mother and she says she isn't going to force her daughter to do anything she doesn't want to do.

This has upset my husband and I've noticed that he's been very agitated ever since that happened. A few days ago we got into an argument because I didn't want to cancel my hair appointment so that he could go to this car show with his friends (we needed someone to watch our toddler) and I had already set my appointment. He became extremely upset and said, ""geez I've already sacrificed my relationship with my daughter for you but you can't even do this for me?""

I didn't hold it against him because I know that he's hurt but I didn't ask him to ""sacrifice"" his relationship with his daughter. I love her like she is my own and I want nothing more than for her to be here with us.",1.9557662337662336,3.837604732467536,3.2277922077922088,91.51311688311691,78.29870129870129,5.9584415584415575,23.72727272727273,6.868970318607317,0.6763818181818184,1462,49,317,15,35,474,180,385,0.102,0.8240000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.8104,0,0,2,0,0,0,32,5,2,4,1,16,8,0,2,7,1,29,4,3,2,4,48,61,24,0,7,7,9,1,2,1,1,0,8,2,0,18,24,0,1,3,2,0,12,10,3,0,1,22,10,76,5,46,35,7,50,1,1,1,1,88,13,0,1,25,222,94,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933131311788573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19751841063310988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085920512252501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364619829374679,0.0,0.3346604258941864,0.0,0.0,0.13763121275584872,0.0,0.10910981117807594,0.0988394430058805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27415111418995386,0.0,0.0,0.09193531691777422,0.0,0.2312742917336427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145393069419889,0.0,0.0,0.05771643142182535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05911015298982185,0.08095273426622011,0.07540282276287197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612382116209374,0.0,0.0,0.06914308807699693,0.0,0.04675708740678468,0.0,0.2034467332389745,0.0,0.0715767815562523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827905967389366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977009786227345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580551837128007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04918373668739622,0.0,0.0,0.1895231215790048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744480647229919,0.0,0.15805024478999924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077211607530382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951182968833168,0.0,0.19907670842835,0.06902353518176771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587221178424498,0.10188987419327483,0.0939092321633394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543245301236027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216681041037495,0.0,0.0,0.4256479519942654,0.07116947370267572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806124929628148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582824521088917,0.13779419656734132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147027794945329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193214281395142,0.07822197854293741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052184856512834166,0.0,0.0,0.08551565603193251,0.0,0.060760767352289385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765064539439416,0.0,0.09856534760137636,0.07384218494299731,0.1583582024008074,0.0710364240009731,0.07178694367564106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763140659756854
parenting,drewuncc,2018/01/12,"What to do for face/mouth banging 20 month old boy has gotten to where he slams his face mouth first in to ground when he's frustrated or angry. Also sometimes when he's excited. 
I've read the advice on head banging and understand it's their frustration on not being able to verbally communicate their emotions yet. 
All advice seems to say try to ignore it as the attention you give it justifies it and will illicit them to do it more often. 
But it's not just banging his head on a crib or chair. It's slamming his face mouth/teeth first into the ground and sometimes it's pretty hard. We can't just ignore that as it seems he's going to knock his teeth out of we just ignore him. 
Anyone else had this issue?  What can we do to solve this problem?",4.024099939795304,5.251719947019868,4.8457555689343765,84.77069235400361,71.3841059602649,7.8750150511739925,24.98555087296809,8.296473431620573,1.4566900662251654,596,17,119,9,11,193,89,151,0.141,0.812,0.047,-0.9298,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,3,2,9,7,2,0,4,0,9,6,6,0,1,26,15,11,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,14,8,0,3,4,1,0,1,3,6,0,2,2,2,12,1,19,11,2,17,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,5,7,79,26,1,0.17329834094571225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386902661850485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858662064332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117422937636856,0.17756462974933462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476852670272886,0.19493730824492428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948149605578487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624355975105587,0.09848944082128257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524127422420142,0.0,0.3557081887657481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087844362484046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832508238025412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18184745690379947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763067146199717,0.0,0.16582310783288035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334523793794188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781379640611896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155286019329542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427929808448268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765819790027685,0.0,0.0,0.18040968461873394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heyitsmekaylee,2018/01/12,"little girl died at my kids daycare today I’m completely devastated. A 2* year old little girl choked on her food during lunch and resuscitation  efforts didn’t work by employees or EMS. My daughter attends this very small, tight-knit daycare. I am keeping her home tomorrow to hold her close but I’m not sure how to proceed. I love the school but I am not sure I can shake it and let her stay there.

edit: fixed spelling and age",2.300952380952385,4.828527190476192,3.5023809523809533,86.57595238095242,80.66666666666667,6.114285714285715,24.809523809523807,7.3871296695380915,1.275295238095239,340,13,66,5,9,110,64,84,0.133,0.78,0.087,-0.2563,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,2,0,5,3,0,1,2,14,9,7,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,4,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,10,3,5,7,0,15,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,1,6,34,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307186291247353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283775453717094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660857841139563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22072846561190004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955908819446652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250164149373976,0.0,0.0,0.4410965654712989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19860405268668804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309058496739913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227027250840536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345444186465041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147897441293412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085820234888925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156460300293104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019929210061734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170522537307922
parenting,turnburn720,2018/01/12,"Wife is at breaking point with hyperactive 5yo Actually he's 4.5yo, but either way. My wife suffers from a disability that causes chronic fatigue, so she is constantly exhausted. Our older son is a maniac, shows all the signs of ADHD. He cannot follow even the simplest directions, to the point where just getting him to slow down to eat can take hours, and he literally just pretends you're not talking to him if you try to coax him to do something. Consequences don't work, rewards don't work, nothing works. I get home and she's sometimes sobbing, because she's gotten so frustrated with him that she's threatened to hit him, something we've agreed never to do, and she feels guilty. She's spiralling into depression because she doesn't really have the energy to do more than the bare minimum, and he ends up spending hours a day in front of the iPad, as it's the only thing that focuses him enough to get him to sit still and be quiet during the baby's naps, or at mealtimes.

I guess I'm just venting, but I feel like the situation is hopeless. Most people I talk to have told me that it just gets harder from here, I don't know what we're going to do.",7.095921052631577,6.393474118421054,7.449824561403509,75.49210526315792,64.39473684210526,10.40701754385965,34.35087719298245,9.725611199111238,3.1408350877192976,921,35,175,16,12,302,138,228,0.18600000000000005,0.777,0.037000000000000005,-0.99,0,0,2,0,0,1,25,1,1,0,4,10,10,2,0,12,0,17,4,0,1,2,27,32,12,0,1,10,3,2,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,8,8,1,0,3,3,1,3,7,8,0,0,2,3,23,2,27,28,5,24,0,5,0,0,26,9,1,4,10,113,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.1444532612263791,0.0,0.1779000111231841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18047209832681416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520647811168172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599648899972303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546534243041087,0.0,0.12749566977081267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514688511016776,0.0,0.0,0.13110822339721373,0.15295173892538547,0.0,0.09777061500987813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969406972438018,0.10575071045761283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093525535363865,0.0,0.08412730818828278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306872540160344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848342008187165,0.0,0.2915540840276544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135191572315244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231864642347148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11416775534381385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420361567977975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258140833945228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262346986275762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798672314466793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483005889264608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638885230875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791724706753466,0.146402753959393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821476813379568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129808396894694,0.23795742308802345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834273991574917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144639897404593,0.0,0.10050079879726194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174971559263856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232968441997634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mycatsnameisearl,2018/01/12,"I just found out my 2 year old son is autistic and I’m so utterly devastated, can someone please tell me it gets better I’m a 38 year old single mom and my only son is absolutely everything to me, he’s 2.5 and has about 30 word approximations but he can’t really say full words, he’s so much to handle, he won’t walk with me he just runs off and over all just very high energy all the time. I love him with all my heart and this diagnosis is just killing me, I’ve been put on anti depressants but it’s been 6 weeks and doesn’t seem to be helping, I feel like I’ve lost all passion for life, I just feel completely broken, i just want someone to tell me it’s gonna be ok and it will get better",1.7601754385964874,2.9070353684210564,4.022368421052634,88.78491228070177,76.89473684210526,7.698245614035088,21.87719298245614,8.344100000000001,0.9137877192982456,544,14,130,10,12,189,93,152,0.134,0.6829999999999999,0.183,0.7382,0,0,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,0,3,9,9,1,0,2,1,13,4,1,0,4,29,25,11,1,1,8,3,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,5,10,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,4,3,14,6,12,16,7,15,0,2,0,2,14,6,0,1,7,70,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903141055217051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720841066793129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136240196263938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750682448344335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597515267648386,0.11725240917135872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995685705743533,0.0,0.0,0.17149923640461864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449136415899654,0.11001091309019112,0.1734092570614612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18158228174209187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592780095179035,0.08018419436115727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916408127507988,0.0,0.148131085552709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922236367526509,0.0,0.0,0.1206522786514491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444474944994071,0.0,0.0,0.12482602999623625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801622326909194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649930341304155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514400157605884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305204309363846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941511724879675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781286618311187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28690858079893256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957038124078812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542201871983026,0.09680639626484276,0.0,0.1316528328324335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21138489954301407
parenting,adawn22,2018/01/12,"Pregnant with our second kid, found out I have gestational diabetes at 30 weeks. Wanting reassurance that baby will be okay. Pregnant with our second girl at 30 weeks. Obgyn office just called with my 3 hour test results letting me know I have gestational diabetes. Worried about my babies health, and hoping someone could let me know they had a similar situation with a positive outcome. 

I have been going to all my prenatal check ups, and had an easy pregnancy so far. I was really surprised when the office called and said I have diabetes. I wasn’t overweight when I started this pregnancy, and my obgyn hasn’t said anything about my weight gain at all. I have gained 20lbs. I have a app set up with a nutritional advisor. 

I had a second trimester miscarriage last December. 

I also had a rough pregnancy with our first daughter who is now 2.5 years. Gout, and high blood pressure. She was born at 8.10 lbs, and has hit every milestone. 

Hoping someone can give me advice, or any info, or share a similar experience. ",5.306612903225805,7.450539876344088,5.994387096774192,74.1715806451613,69.59139784946237,9.261075268817203,31.754838709677426,9.725611199111238,3.4334412903225804,811,36,134,20,15,264,115,186,0.037000000000000005,0.818,0.145,0.9583,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,0,1,3,8,7,0,1,9,1,23,7,1,1,2,27,35,12,0,4,3,1,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,2,3,13,2,0,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,4,11,4,24,6,16,18,2,22,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,4,11,95,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542923698715493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626792244371365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737346000530952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993346053594715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224552323747116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260656585009536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330326605139987,0.0,0.0,0.1544508101365419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430471282928724,0.0,0.1731228237479572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146648941991495,0.08973490382706621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783413485084778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668238751076541,0.0,0.31364910412424085,0.15549396654922248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354902922191529,0.1287048343710318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32291500298904113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115105781824876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003870540720067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774796790883317,0.0,0.0,0.2675664605882519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175831659404573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313008102205472,0.0,0.2533063818412242,0.192272580000317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603492089095626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167867817030436
parenting,Curiouscrafter,2018/01/13,"Naps just might drive me crazy I’m a new mom of a 9 month old. She is a generally happy baby- doing all the exploring, babbling, eating and cuddling that is awesome at this age.

We did modified CIO at 6 months. These days we have set a set bedtime routine and she probably cries for ten minutes and then goes to sleep. She sleeps through the night though wakes early.
But naps, oh god. She won’t let me or my husband put her down in the crib, only wants to sleep on me and nursing the whole time...
We have a nanny part time and she will sleep in the crib for the nanny. So she can do it. If my husband or I try to put her down for she will cry for forty minutes ( we go in and sing, comfort in intervals).
This feels a little bit like she is willfully refusing to nap in her crib... but napping on me is so tough. 
Should I just let her do it and deal for now? 

Having her cry for 40 minuted is driving me crazy. I feel like a terrible mom, get frustrated with her and furious with myself... I can’t handle it alone and my husband is at work all day.

She will also fall asleep in the stroller if I’m walking.

Any thoughts or suggestions?",2.6620512820512845,3.8847461452991454,3.9022222222222247,90.24000000000002,74.72649572649573,7.2512820512820495,25.820512820512814,7.793537801064563,1.2287282051282062,874,30,195,12,18,286,131,234,0.13699999999999998,0.8109999999999999,0.051,-0.9726,0,1,0,0,0,0,33,4,0,0,1,7,8,2,0,14,0,24,8,6,0,2,35,32,21,0,4,9,5,2,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,15,1,1,4,5,0,8,2,4,0,1,2,2,32,4,27,21,5,37,0,0,0,1,27,14,0,6,15,133,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559823149914867,0.0,0.09697886838697567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824671574900655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239446643076214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399625289257729,0.15641709517059033,0.1250231338611543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408858070886568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263461772851983,0.08663468082180521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335810800008179,0.0,0.06892003336668688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909322915188795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24801177503347105,0.0,0.11849192924096152,0.12154351294120053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864736825572548,0.0,0.28405784638735465,0.19359170310238494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171224680716548,0.0,0.11380285052932615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725153775823625,0.0,0.0,0.09223062744214056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313226352218601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074861800644952,0.0,0.0,0.24381791300884226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4854267810973113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914629091904938,0.09627413234641324,0.14142599371701475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233376956485933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152766669089893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539263743281152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828536087919046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Murphy223,2018/01/13,"Advice needed My son's friend 17, was at our door this afternoon,  barefoot and in shorts (it's 28 degrees outside) so I knew he left his house in hurry.    He lives about 5 miles from us.

He was clearly upset so I simply, let him in, got his some sweats, socks and made some hot tea.  I did not want to pry as it's not my place and honestly, he and my son haven't been super close over the past few months (they were best buds previously) so I just let them talk.  

From what I have gathered, he and his parents got into a fight (not the first time) and I can't say for sure but think it may have gotten physical. Dad may have punched him in the chest or they may have grabbed each other.   (again, only getting 1 side of the story at this point).

Since he's been here, he showered, has eaten and seems to be in better spirits.  They just left to go to another friends house for a few hours. 
We don't know the parents so we aren't sure if they are even looking for him.  
 
He knows he has a place to stay with us but my wife and I are honestly not sure what to do outside of that.  Other than opening our home to him, we are not sure if we need to do anything else at this point.  

Any advice is greatly appreciated.


UPDATE:  Kid has slept all night.  Have a full breakfast ready to go.  Since we don't know the parents, my wife ended up calling the boys HS Coach.  He was aware of some ""history"" with the family and recommended we just let him stay at our place, at least for another day.  He can contact the family if needed, at the very least to let them know he's safe but he also mentioned he's required to report any suspected abuse.   I really appreciate the feedback thus far. 
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parenting,SannySen,2018/01/13,"Considering skipping kindergarten for a smart cookie My daughter just turned 5 in December. We recently moved to a state where the cut off for kindergarten is Oct. 31.  In our prior state, the cut off was Dec. 31. So whereas she would have started kindergarten this year in our prior state (because she turned 5 before the end of the year), she is currently doing one more year of preschool (her third year of preschool) and scheduled to start kindergarten next year. In our prior state, she would have been one of the youngest kids in the class. In our new state, she will be one of the oldest.

The thing is, I think she's academically and socially ready for kindergarten now and I think she will find kindergarten really boring and useless next year. Here's why: I wouldn't say she's ""gifted,"" but she's definitely advanced. She can read simple sentences and words, she can add and subtract small 2 digit numbers in her head, and she can even multiply small numbers. She plays the violin and can read musical notes. Like I said, she's not Einstein or Mozart, but definitely much more capable than I was when I turned 5.  The concern I have is that these skills will likely continue to progress over the next 9 months, and come September, Kindergarten will have nothing to offer her. If we skip a grade, she will go from being one of the oldest kids in the class to definitely the youngest (some parents in our town petition to red shirt their kids), although on average she'll be within about 6 months of half the kids.

Has anyone thought through these questions and considered the issues? Just curious how I should go about thinking about this. 

Thanks!",6.990328947368423,7.842239743421054,5.982236842105262,80.67065789473682,64.39473684210526,9.031578947368422,32.776315789473685,8.99025400887824,2.678292105263158,1318,51,239,20,19,395,156,304,0.022,0.851,0.126,0.9864,2,0,0,0,0,0,41,7,0,1,3,12,9,2,0,19,0,30,2,2,1,0,34,44,18,0,5,7,2,0,2,0,10,0,2,0,4,6,14,0,0,6,3,0,5,2,4,0,6,5,3,36,5,36,26,4,54,0,1,1,0,38,18,0,4,28,161,42,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874346720628947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864944301982444,0.0,0.09582760692120602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700839390392776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974402242765036,0.0,0.0,0.07438156176340728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292864596415567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800411594759292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557612638115433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754145965854168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003661713798113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977744350880978,0.11969259283891187,0.08278544605061061,0.0,0.0,0.10876487757447133,0.3593040015202962,0.0,0.0,0.10805773461100728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052450626466062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250463303768756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261552793245979,0.0,0.225292211540068,0.0,0.07214445651015138,0.0,0.11119434895045116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712325321228942,0.08955646933947682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479745315277977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941984562641426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368134206779972,0.0,0.0,0.07481682080333593,0.2164786461850532,0.0,0.08940423123460686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367480402386896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161809017814764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999782544489088,0.0,0.0,0.4351246423016915
parenting,breadispain,2018/01/13,"Discussing 4 year old's rage with him and coping strategies I have done a few searches on this sub referencing anger management etc. and the comment [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/6behzp/35_year_old_out_of_control_anger/dhm3bcd/) from /u/delayedgrad/ is very similar to what we're experiencing.  I am looking for other solutions, strategies or general comfort because it's very exhausting and frustrating.

Our boy just turned four and he's generally very sweet, attentive and good natured.  He's sort of in the cusp where he generally refuses to nap but still really needs one, and the behavior generally starts on the weekends if we're at home (which has been often lately, since the weather has been horrible) and we suggest he takes a nap, which leads down a confrontational road (I will NOT take a nap!) plus being tired from not napping...

From then on, it's just a matter of time before something will set him off.  He'll gradually stop listening, get progressively more frustrated about the smallest things, before finding something we can't bend on and it'll escalate to the point of screaming and pushing.  I'm sure most of you reading this have all been here or heard similar stories.

What I *don't* understand is how in the moment he will be all, ""I LOVE YELLING.  I AM GOING TO YELL.  I LOVE THROWING THINGS.  I WANT TO FIGHT.  FIGHTING IS MY FAVORITE.  I'M ANGRY.  I LOVE BEING ANGRY.  ANGRY IS MY FAVORITE!"" but once he finally defuses he will just repeat this in a normal tone of voice.

""Can we talk about why you were so angry?""

  ""Because being angry is my favorite.""

  ""You know that it's not OK to throw things at us, right?""

  ""I love to throw things.  Throwing things is my favorite.""

  ""We don't want to fight, we're on the same team here.  We need to be able to talk to each other, blah blah blah.""

  ""I love fighting.  Fighting is my favorite.""

You get the idea.  *Later* we can talk about it and he'll say it was ""just a joke"" and that he doesn't really want to feel angry, but in the moment of anger and even once it seems to dissipate, he's totally on Team Anger.  It ends up ruining the rest of the afternoon because we'll be exhausted and we can't really do anything.

I'm babbling here, I'm sorry.  What I'm looking for is:

What is this residual anger when he seems calm and is there a different way of handling this compared to when he's ""actually"" angry or ""actually"" calm?

What are some different ways of handling this behavior?  I've tried talking to him about it in as many ways as I can (while it's escalating, when he's angry, after he's angry, the next day, preventatively, etc.), I try not to make him feel alone when he's feeling this way but it's difficult when he's being physically aggressive etc. not to separate him somehow, I've tried punishing him (if you act this way you don't get to watch television, etc. reminding him that if he acts this way he won't get to watch television, etc. which just leads to him saying, ""That's OK I like being in trouble!  I understand I'm not watching television because I was angry!"" and then explaining that it's not because he was *angry* but because of how he acted in anger...)

I'll just stop there.  I'm trying to extrapolate too much.  I'd just appreciate any advice on how to manage this, how long it might last, and how to cope :)  Links to other posts that I might've missed that you personally found helpful would also be fantastic.

Thank you.",4.418500712250712,6.315213421296297,5.221851851851857,79.81987179487182,71.42283950617283,8.688319088319089,28.97388414055081,9.265573868473778,2.6136926875593542,2699,107,501,60,52,876,268,648,0.188,0.695,0.117,-0.9946,3,1,2,0,9,0,133,10,8,0,5,35,39,16,0,22,2,53,8,0,8,4,100,98,45,0,10,25,0,3,4,0,11,3,8,1,2,46,26,0,4,14,9,0,11,14,23,0,2,10,18,48,16,67,68,16,72,0,2,5,5,75,24,0,14,30,319,94,7,0.06785741041802372,0.0,0.1324380880377173,0.0,0.0,0.06630947610833772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027981246884557,0.0,0.054265546595086436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046145366014009856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558408669479562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481914853666884,0.0,0.11548331666260375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04376241601612508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179310234649806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694416904473228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06010152448388632,0.0,0.3783947495622885,0.04481917960262508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293223678321484,0.0,0.0,0.07433447626892767,0.062020443781431886,0.0,0.0,0.0744021480432256,0.0,0.0,0.14181078492834653,0.0,0.038564930115199625,0.056915576385607264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045483391830378944,0.0,0.06806651540433763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660275672956487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037292658141152187,0.055312846298611336,0.07654611461228521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033151703120051265,0.0,0.0,0.060051672871774577,0.11396626885123275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062198111622611,0.0,0.04529534837545823,0.06879676352216382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439719780717484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049883004430959665,0.10063082001367847,0.0,0.0,0.07216712580510512,0.0,0.06648585471723982,0.0,0.0,0.07120493738864217,0.14453185493779305,0.04598193746283775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925047339468401,0.0,0.0,0.06414718629841315,0.0,0.06498864165972172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787577359698857,0.0,0.1304135841062554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057949857730400865,0.0,0.1079258727228728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354967579693645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613235111692007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447989950583457,0.0,0.07596081539496059,0.04802982435405187,0.0,0.05419101561482418,0.1134636671263418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395480625952156,0.0,0.10204065535085967,0.2181648644039405,0.0,0.06247398658230401,0.0,0.0,0.2254072413502201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03956820170958896,0.07799211104719092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18428290958573504,0.07380937678888536,0.0,0.1412839147305472,0.0816241096703072,0.0,0.0,0.16796841059337078,0.12007217636829247,0.3231723233241561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123075835725125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048203957436746436,0.0,0.0,0.0436979475166153
parenting,QiPowerIsTheBest,2018/01/13,"Is it safe to allow a 3-year old to play unsupervised with a 10 year old who was recently molested by an older classmate? I've heard that many abusers were abused themselves but I don't know how many abused become abusers. The abused child in question was a boy.

Is there any reason to be wary or am I being irrational? ",3.934285714285714,5.6503960793650805,4.308126984126982,86.61742857142859,72.33333333333334,7.5796825396825405,26.885714285714286,8.238735603445708,1.6660057142857148,255,9,51,4,5,80,50,63,0.316,0.615,0.068,-0.9664,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,5,0,9,0,0,3,0,9,11,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,2,2,6,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,5,29,5,0,0.0,0.8333032889615337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956545180411678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553493718025201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730378040306216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852169925581195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295200777733315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757286524585232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446232594719389,0.1388860795764844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116255087546826
parenting,R_X_Sarsaparilla,2018/01/13,"Looking at Daughter's (14 y.o.) search history on her phone: ""How to Give a Blowjob."" Our daughter is pretty inexperienced on the most part, but she is a 14 year old girl.  We've broached the subject of sex on a number of occasions, and we try to keep an open mind.

She broke some rules and had to give up her phone for several hours.  Looking through her internet search history, we came across a page ""How to Give a Blow Job.""

I appreciate that she might just be curious, and I have little doubt that some of her friends might have discussed this.  The problem is she has a boyfriend for the first time ever.  They've had very little opportunity to experiment with this.  Nonetheless, we're at odds with exactly how to deal with this situation.  

If we confront her with the webpage, she'll deny it and probably start using Incognito mode.  I don't think taking her phone away is the answer.  We're conservative parents, but not so much so that we actually expect a 14-year-old not to have natural curiosity about sex.

I'm interested in what this community might say about this.",6.076165214096246,6.895545059113302,6.601477832512318,75.54597574838955,66.38916256157636,10.384084880636603,33.841985600606286,10.389873798559362,3.4920499431602883,849,37,162,21,13,277,121,203,0.085,0.813,0.102,0.5503,3,0,0,0,0,0,31,5,0,0,2,9,7,1,1,14,0,16,2,0,4,2,40,28,12,0,3,6,3,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,10,14,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,3,19,3,28,20,6,20,0,1,2,2,30,12,0,8,7,108,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.13121024321297414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632639905513982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378252748390744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386188476837139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162368990011847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152435220275382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436871284153682,0.0,0.0,0.10388083341765934,0.0,0.0,0.38694905938857793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241266396559062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334274256698371,0.11951120144699642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26952166670291194,0.0,0.0,0.2258193556794145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279116047024295,0.13576283384582508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884106967349264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28217916133212606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929813926036314,0.14560339200470976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367906973123214,0.14496695295144466,0.1286568047045128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692528273971834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189768322132405,0.0,0.0,0.1511348486978425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516907150119557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109462772057347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861543583289557,0.0,0.0,0.07840272306463103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128720349637108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612732955011715,0.0,0.11094077407589023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173171280453097
parenting,throwthisaway2889,2018/01/13,"Why am I so bad at playing?!! I have a 3 year old daughter who means everything to me!

I just feel like an awful Mum as I am just so bad at playing with her, I try but I feel it's forced! Today we made a gingerbread house and we sat in her room for 2 hours whilst she jumped on the bed and wanted me just to watch but then I see these other parents who look like they are so much fun!!! 

My Mum is amazing with my daughter and they play for hours, I sit and watch sometimes just wondering how she is so natural at it! Does anyone else struggle with this? ",2.908983050847457,3.370708161016953,4.0625,92.2078177966102,73.32203389830508,7.255932203389831,24.91949152542373,7.1686216300943375,0.7672169491525418,425,12,101,4,8,139,76,118,0.109,0.6990000000000001,0.192,0.9209,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,0,9,10,0,1,4,1,6,0,0,2,0,22,15,13,0,1,6,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,9,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,6,20,7,13,13,1,15,0,0,4,0,15,6,0,1,9,67,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512450168523768,0.1980068883894364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227104206449068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911388718388015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16143510985040524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368013582984254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542544666783304,0.1380574385122339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806235424278509,0.22298390753403785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882382990510968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622808584415489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828572926551993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050529311846886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206057392765406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278277917107754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21458063353341034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539947835495771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911286374843979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202627358596567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317787300721128,0.0,0.0,0.1312036844985995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398352660193453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437756152590395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20957077415489256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444630339503082
parenting,gopens48,2018/01/13,"20 month old sleep issues So for the most part, our daughter has been an amazing sleeper since birth, with the exception of a few days in a row here or there, she gets 10-12 hours nightly without waking. Our typical routine is dinner around 7, bedtime routine around 845, lights out at 9. 

I know it may have been a mistake in retrospect, and likely one of the reasons we are struggling now, but since birth we have rocked her to sleep, then laid her down in her crib once she was sleeping. I know it may not be the best, but I typically work 18 hours a day, at two jobs, so with the exception of my day off, that was often my only time with her. 

For the last week, she has struggled greatly with being put down. We'll rock, she'll pass out, but wake up when I try to put her down, then scream if I leave the room. I'll go back in and rock with her, and she'll be out in a minute. 

If I am able to lay her down, she wakes up in the middle of the night screaming for my wife or I. I let her cry for an hour the other night, until she finally laid down and slept. 

When she wakes, she isn't hungry or in need of anything, she just wants someone there with her. 

Any ideas on the cause of the recent behavior? And any suggestions for fixing it? I'm fine with letting her cry because she gets it eventually, however my wife is not a fan of that. We're just looking for suggestions at this point.",5.7458304297328695,4.635680052264814,6.015554006968642,86.01257607433217,67.29268292682926,9.1864343786295,29.93472706155633,8.021203637495839,1.6979957723577237,1073,31,243,11,15,344,153,287,0.106,0.878,0.016,-0.9776,2,0,0,0,0,0,37,5,0,0,2,14,10,0,2,20,0,23,9,8,2,0,46,33,20,0,5,15,3,0,1,0,5,0,2,1,0,8,19,1,0,4,3,0,4,4,5,0,2,5,4,38,5,51,18,4,56,0,0,1,0,31,27,0,9,26,172,46,2,0.10911851755582662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840866754273724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979524244819534,0.1942772301876892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390540451631125,0.0,0.06651763550056895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451315209729328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120947756088608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397231354484565,0.21111725002134296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953400231140728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401984344438827,0.0,0.06201456816420014,0.0,0.0,0.12030355082750613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223792786229103,0.0,0.0,0.12318152436892213,0.0,0.11389138244739835,0.1082832914106865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199373671058304,0.08894615566253056,0.0,0.11554075462148156,0.0,0.2231621544131708,0.0,0.05330979588855669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163207254599416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870973596616787,0.0,0.0,0.08090999813192992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072010105051306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145015284644629,0.11620765995379602,0.07394153150525888,0.08298954966992537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816472099105033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315226931207924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21938849776077424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219200971082524,0.1077413719303341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052793064365366,0.0,0.3275919649326333,0.0,0.09245576582207836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281487334391177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362788509467583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408431069279625,0.0,0.1065929361113119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436092881773042,0.0,0.0875282928557694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518635702043733,0.0,0.07943958037591355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Reveen_,2018/01/13,"""No, I don't like mommy"" My 2 year old son says this frequently. He's always been a daddy's boy (I'm the dad) but now that he's getting better at talking he's always letting me know that he doesn't like mommy. My wife is great to him, but I know i spend more time playing with him.

Its gotten to the point that if my wife walks in the room he'll say ""go away mommy"" and act like more of a brat towards here. If he cries in the middle of the night and my wife goes in there, he'll continue crying. As soon as I grab him, he stops and goes right back to sleep.

He doesn't say ""I don't like mommy"" around her, thank God, but I know she can tell he likes me better. It's putting tons of extra stress on us. I know that kids can play favorites sometimes, but it's been like this for 2 years now.

What do I do?",1.2004574638844332,2.1873220955056176,2.759582664526487,97.9232584269663,78.04494382022472,5.535152487961477,18.332263242375603,5.288315135182226,-0.6689467094703057,615,10,156,2,14,202,98,178,0.132,0.701,0.16699999999999998,0.8706,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,1,0,0,2,7,13,0,1,7,0,12,1,1,0,0,16,23,11,0,2,6,5,1,6,0,2,0,3,1,2,10,5,0,1,4,2,1,4,5,1,0,0,3,4,20,12,18,17,4,28,0,0,0,0,28,12,0,2,18,87,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23707478290634534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681881074110551,0.0,0.0,0.13384502305447935,0.10954226190305502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519870114713569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129692853386034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442900504878949,0.0,0.08096279502862136,0.0,0.0,0.1570616713974878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131672043107939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567409159457248,0.0,0.4175899507465539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368822403287225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948687145553285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466990554442312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14321075274451858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165930132244783,0.0,0.3398676058317212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256199199107544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408957021887802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910219462740733,0.1631864288717687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145032361423986,0.12451554103974825,0.1311572082504664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306905250690387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136076847254994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347799191601702
parenting,SisterhoodSongs,2018/01/13,"My child is convinced that they've been disowned. My daughter is convinced she was disowned and that she's worthless ever since I snapped at her for slacking-- she hasn't talked to me for days, despite performing normally at school (as I had contacted a teacher) and I'm quite worried. Any advice?",6.083363636363636,7.811831836363638,5.434318181818185,80.5914772727273,67.0,7.6818181818181825,39.20454545454545,8.07648339933343,3.4027272727272724,241,14,40,3,4,73,43,55,0.098,0.8029999999999999,0.099,0.0018,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,4,7,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,9,2,6,4,0,4,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,0,2,27,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427430783557685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23851801775141304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262009302734711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172681218866141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436547511802143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730595277727271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549717578432528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901391467145213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819148242579513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561976623946444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExasperatedExposure,2018/01/13,"Animal in the house Throwaway for....reasons

We have a 9 year old cat and she really is not taking to our 8 month old well. 

Initially, she displayed polite disinterest - but now as she's getting more mobile...an attack happened. I was away, and my wife stopped it before anything bad happened...but it happened. 

Then this morning, we were all sat in bed, the cat came up to be involved, and got angry with the baby. We got her off the bed but we feel a decision is going to have to be made

What would be best - euthanize or no kill shelter? I don't like the idea of putting her down BUT I also don't like the idea of her...a middle age cat seeing out her years in a shelter. 

Is there a middle way? ",1.0155868544600928,3.1853314507042283,3.0597464788732402,89.98689671361505,83.08450704225352,5.476807511737089,22.14272300469484,6.742157984588678,0.5903618779342725,534,18,112,6,15,180,93,142,0.202,0.7509999999999999,0.048,-0.9772,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,0,1,4,7,2,0,10,0,13,0,0,1,1,23,25,10,1,1,5,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,10,0,1,4,0,0,3,4,3,1,0,7,2,15,4,16,14,3,23,0,0,1,0,13,10,0,1,11,75,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257396031558613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642256170357253,0.0,0.0,0.18859833311992494,0.15575547837602252,0.0,0.13841911873820528,0.0,0.0,0.14106630819163785,0.0,0.17397555963921274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960780417460407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382319372496072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661304710379092,0.0,0.09421641972604336,0.0,0.2651783289465485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29319686942453643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128750730752148,0.0,0.3742901884507833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341066760945746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198316794360734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568647535682623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232376904064375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479158005750335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665437976900754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620271614157452,0.17044913461036562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210495147082912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385992461764915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464569733354698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158820361399082,0.0,0.0,0.1490558530307374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776513720497694,0.0,0.0,0.2135133735284213
parenting,Khaleeasi24,2018/01/13,"Is it reasonable for healthy, capable grandparents to ask that all activities revolve around their schedule despite you having young children? The grandparents (husband's parents) live out of state and visit twice a year. They typically come for a few weeks. First, they don't like to tell us when exactly they are coming. They will just say Spring or in the Fall, and then a few weeks before they come they tell us more details. We have asked over and over for them not to do this and it isn't fair to us. It falls on deaf ears. When they finally get here they hate planning anything and love to do things spontaneously or like to play it by ear. They are always telling us we need to be flexible (and for the most part we are, despite having a 4, 2 and 7 month old) , but they absolutely refuse to do things on our schedule. I stay home with the kids so we are use to a routine and ""schedule."" So when they leave it takes a few more weeks to get the kids back on track. It has just been really frustrating, especially with an infant. A compromise would be nice! 

Has anyone had a similar experience?",4.000765815760268,5.789797433962264,4.468812430632632,85.23490011098781,72.30188679245283,8.195782463928968,27.093229744728077,8.841846274778883,1.9744219755826853,864,31,174,17,17,273,126,212,0.078,0.861,0.061,-0.5744,3,0,0,0,0,0,27,9,1,13,2,10,7,2,0,14,0,21,4,2,2,2,33,33,17,0,2,6,2,0,2,0,2,1,4,1,4,10,19,0,1,1,1,0,6,3,2,0,2,2,4,24,5,26,27,8,34,0,0,0,1,38,8,0,3,20,127,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839936743549613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826881028898263,0.0,0.09731550414356667,0.10527387689964797,0.22110882039622384,0.0,0.0,0.09093239817895082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006280686120666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056040205325407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567812010718805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954485538522706,0.0,0.10058941541253827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235688912312101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675438781200635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862149755021673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521717719738262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554887589236185,0.0,0.10442317192263582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673163555922878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09439167637349763,0.0,0.0,0.08768612950743296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240909168896854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131049722652327,0.12806089812455387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575851628699319,0.12158797825160625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404277985108526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260463171560838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889146100459342,0.0,0.3100857119596717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571295040963552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5689948467482702,0.10213615159812356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845760993740531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400643965725002,0.0,0.0,0.07615368501677924
parenting,Kraggleflux,2018/01/13,"Deciding whether or not to have a third. My wife and I currently have a 3 year old, and a 5 year old. We've always thought about having another baby, but I'm looking for some input from those who may have gone through something similar. 

What things did you consider when making the decision, or after having the decision made for you? How was the adjustment from 2-3?

My wife is a SAHM and that will not be changing anytime soon, she enjoys it! We'll definitely need to consider a small housing upgrade as we're in fairly tight quarters as it is, but we've worked hard to minimize our belongings and make the most of the space we have. We have a minivan already so transportation wouldn't be a concern. ",5.399286293592862,6.247014897810223,6.108710462287108,78.37860502838606,67.9051094890511,9.884509326845095,34.20032441200324,9.994966539143718,3.461542416869424,559,26,105,13,9,183,93,137,0.013,0.919,0.068,0.8423,1,0,1,0,0,0,14,4,2,0,1,5,1,0,0,12,0,17,0,0,4,0,28,25,14,0,2,7,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,5,3,10,1,14,14,2,13,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,5,8,78,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25689321759453043,0.0,0.1937026910762976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441040938353544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24626446546088404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20853708961592896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686122360616957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548775845782496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22027466826413605,0.3107826977837866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726132972022278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4885548589611429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921567112946232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465753786933714,0.0,0.0,0.1848118929590853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947630964826907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998225315380552
parenting,jinterrante,2018/01/13,"Toddler and new baby Can anyone tell me how to handle my toddler with a new baby in the house? My 3 1/2 year old son has turned into the God damn devil since his sister was born last week.  Threats,  yelling,  timeouts,  and even the occasional smack on the ass doesn't even phase him.  But aside from being too rough around his sister,  he is very helpful and sweet towards her.  He just acts out, yells, and blatantly disobeys us at every chance. And his sleep schedule is a nightmare since we got home.   Help!",3.860953608247424,5.763348123711343,3.7366881443298974,89.86833118556703,72.91752577319588,5.674742268041237,24.496134020618552,5.985473137389443,0.5600319587628864,396,12,77,2,8,120,78,97,0.124,0.758,0.119,-0.3685,0,0,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,6,0,7,2,2,1,1,14,9,7,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,4,10,1,10,6,0,16,1,0,0,1,15,7,2,0,8,44,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461840382826753,0.0,0.0,0.1861133574604872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761726771279032,0.0,0.17614739915331348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720944188719225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802655068214911,0.0,0.20971057423017367,0.0,0.0,0.2412344739025039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041696185975042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40383512667796395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937994356097332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34588365558871786,0.0,0.2092173142190976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827331865319668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274041310623932,0.0,0.0,0.2514810521488215,0.0,0.0,0.17250161663591704,0.0,0.0,0.16770039845054666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463186137783986
parenting,ChaoticFather,2018/01/13,"Rough night I'm a creature of habit... routines have been a huge part of my life for a long time.  When my regular routines get broken, I tend to get stressed, cranky and sometimes depressed.

My wife and I have a 13-day old daughter.  Haven't had any semblance of routine for several weeks, from the time my wife's contractions started.

I'm sucking it up, doing the best I can.  I'm taking care of our daughter when my wife needs rest, making sure the house is clean, meals are ready - anything I can do to make this easier on my wife and daughter.

But man, it's taking a toll.  It's now 1:50am.  Been up since 10:30pm, fell asleep before that at 7pm.  Woke up before that at 10am after falling asleep at 6am.  

I'm all over the place.  I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I realize this is part of having a newborn and that it's just going to take some time.  We're doing everything we can to help the baby find her rhythm - keeping things active during the day and quiet at night, etc.  

I also know that parenting isn't about me - I'm just tired and cranky and stressed and I miss having a clue as to when I'll be awake, when I'll be asleep and what my next 24 hours is going to look like.  

Thanks for letting me vent.",2.833071922834975,4.003106243027894,3.7597148249108834,91.63667435521076,74.2191235059761,6.3997483749213675,23.967498427343262,6.5966054737557815,0.5718478087649408,941,27,207,7,19,302,139,251,0.069,0.7959999999999999,0.134,0.9455,1,0,0,0,0,0,35,2,0,0,1,9,11,1,2,13,0,22,6,3,2,3,25,49,16,0,1,4,8,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,13,10,1,1,3,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,4,3,19,6,27,42,7,35,0,2,1,0,14,11,1,1,20,120,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149394070876294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863066040255117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444029397567996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599076448382964,0.0,0.1331895425976816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939837879141305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636994496546724,0.0,0.1093117692949654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154385862229402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140630870974347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599808052894055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326157783388472,0.0,0.14425752530442829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506850042645478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498578511539342,0.14644295817052816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280795126075285,0.0,0.0,0.06974920684928626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977926433354184,0.08964387175497998,0.062004295579428576,0.0,0.0,0.1123158487905434,0.10657669976029778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943359795873794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410592098290288,0.0,0.0,0.13497562352478698,0.23820240339415735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317602322185754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409241729067013,0.27487331981935137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259924229501904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154956058163208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337791134207567,0.0,0.10498546266591922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552225572621298,0.0,0.08983114427311102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290761582329099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23923191497464955,0.0,0.2862730279307979,0.0,0.0,0.11684635073036463,0.0,0.0,0.08431673732001634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22201560494162734,0.14587021030930875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018036188534138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145211160339838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,izunia1,2018/01/13,"Child avoiding school My 13 year old son is in the 8th grade and refuses to go to school despite my efforts to get him to go. I've tried to get him to see a counselor but my son doesn't want to talk to anyone. When I try to talk to him he just goes to his room to sleep, locks himself in the bathroom or simply replies with the phrase ""I don't know"". I'm at the end of my wits and I'm afraid he'll fail the 8th grade if he doesn't start attending. Please help.   ",1.3324514563106789,2.2808325728155343,2.6060072815533992,99.31056432038835,77.64077669902912,5.926699029126214,21.612864077669908,5.985473137389443,-0.1657951456310678,357,9,93,2,8,115,64,103,0.099,0.866,0.035,-0.6884,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,6,0,4,1,1,0,0,11,15,6,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,1,11,0,17,14,0,12,0,1,1,0,15,4,0,2,5,45,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417346065657354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079578398402846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24534040320109354,0.0,0.26687774159534483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15737750406299233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903667079219378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463768613602268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577333621807836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475248232126177,0.18710046085710075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349636178349691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618843875174624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774371309221604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31881949855703445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848761539687954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119967170626145
parenting,Nuzzireddit,2018/01/13,"We've never let our 2.5/yo sleep in our bed. Pros and cons for starting now? Anyone have any luck letting their child do it every once in a while? Or once you open that door there's no going back? My child sleeps like a champ since an infant and recently been asking. 

We want to occasionally, but don't want to open a can of worms if the odds are not in our favor. We don't want it become an every night thing if their own crib becomes less desirable. 

We are planning on retiring the crib soon too.",2.8872087378640785,4.221754262135921,3.86620145631068,90.27561286407769,74.33980582524272,6.703398058252428,20.64199029126214,7.1686216300943375,0.3062436893203886,391,8,86,4,8,126,76,103,0.043,0.8320000000000001,0.125,0.6612,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,6,1,2,2,5,4,0,0,7,0,10,2,2,0,1,18,16,7,0,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,10,4,8,13,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,4,9,56,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287353038590665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634073086682918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689181937526253,0.0,0.0,0.13893734701725372,0.0,0.0,0.3991097576466432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30447361299852904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268873175481356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369529923221968,0.0,0.0882746666139664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935715115609704,0.0,0.0,0.16956275004631352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848520621558976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840686742758968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946636566937746,0.0,0.3616354931627095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789137007615484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004058440382034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197220758203992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pickyeatinghelp,2018/01/13,"Teenage picky eater Has anyone here had a kid that didn't just grow out of their picky eating phase? I would love some advice. One of our sons is turning 14 next month and is still an incredibly picky eater. I could name maybe a dozen foods he will eat. Even with those he is very picky - he'll eat fish sticks but only one brand, or plain pizza but only from one restaurant...

I asked his doctor about it and her only recommendation was to just let him go hungry if he doesn't want what I make, or have him fix his own meal. We have tried that and he ends up not eating, then sneaking into the kitchen and eating junk later - potato chips, chocolate, that kind of thing. The healthiest choice he makes is instant ramen or corn dogs...processed crap. If not for our other kids, honestly I would just throw out all the junk food and not buy any more. He knows this is not healthy but says he doesn't care and ""cooking is stupid"".

Is there any way I can get him to eat better? Everything I read about picky eaters is for really little kids. I worry that if we don't fix this SOON, he will be on this diet for the rest of his life.",4.8739269981120215,5.090858585903085,4.716831340465703,90.12463656387665,68.86784140969164,7.542983008181246,22.822215229704213,6.868970318607317,0.4099052234109508,877,15,194,6,14,269,142,227,0.067,0.888,0.046,-0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,4,0,1,1,10,7,2,0,7,0,25,17,1,2,1,38,36,16,0,7,16,1,0,0,0,5,2,1,1,3,12,12,13,0,1,2,1,3,8,2,0,4,3,1,20,5,18,25,5,17,0,0,0,1,29,6,1,7,7,119,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793589492840594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022713705001586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723309581535089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326103825379856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768896679935048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261680496084273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818977685913615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305594612673972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6781416792280631,0.0,0.0,0.09783084126816204,0.0,0.0,0.07295485569004545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992703351684948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671266033371505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770847124750604,0.0,0.06277444023286602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502246844550346,0.060703487147868385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294829375700045,0.07801802863109222,0.0,0.11070548889937012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969045542934146,0.0,0.14745988808632018,0.0,0.1109674563190588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816457423432912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747074121741463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22454263833201948,0.2520192922369465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048545090567577,0.0,0.07076066015226072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783869472320986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820995294712934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733817660653181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749920747890126,0.12014393123541095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113740489356584,0.06514955112970873,0.08767448229444165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217298288388636,0.0,0.1569289214870392,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rustbeltgelt,2018/01/13,"One of my friends thinks she can treat a 104F fever with cold baths and vitamins. So, I got a friend around town here. We're not super close ourselves, but our children are the same age and we see each other at neighborhood & community events every so often. Uhh, shall we say, my curiosity about her ""holistic"" lifestyle has turned into genuine concern.

She's an outspoken opponent of vaccines and her child is not vaccinated. I personally think that's stupid, but what can you do. We've had discussions before where she's explained that she believes developing nations wouldn't need vaccines if their sanitation infrastructure & hygiene education were improved upon. That was pretty insulting, since my family are immigrants from a developing nation... but, ok, I let it go.

Today, I see she's posted something on Facebook about how treating fevers is a bad idea because they're there to fight the illnesses our bodies contract. I asked her: what would you do if you were dealing with a dangerously high fever, or febrile seizures? She literally tells me she'd treat a fever of 104F or greater with ""cool washcloths, bath, etc, according to the child's preference, while frequently administering the immune boosters."" The ""immune boosters"" she mentions are vitamins, turmeric, and black pepper.

So... now I'm, like, legit concerned. Most kids will spike a pretty high fever at least once in their childhood, and it'll prompt medical attention. She believes many other conspiracies (such as that there are ""targeted persons"" and mass microchipping) but other than all of this she seems to be an intelligent, sensitive person with a loving family. I don't really know her well enough to say ""Hey, you need to re-evaluate yourself before something really terrible happens"" like I would a closer friend, but I also do know her well enough to be concerned for her & her kid. Do I just leave it alone or should I say something orr...? ",6.828205882352942,8.811570114705887,6.5810588235294105,72.10276470588236,65.5,9.79294117647059,34.188235294117646,10.078955797065145,3.8090082352941184,1549,70,246,37,25,486,205,340,0.095,0.736,0.17,0.9803,0,1,3,0,1,0,68,4,4,2,1,18,20,4,0,16,2,29,13,1,1,1,49,46,23,0,9,13,0,0,2,3,7,11,3,2,8,13,16,0,0,9,2,0,1,4,6,2,1,5,8,41,14,27,30,9,25,0,0,3,1,51,16,0,8,9,168,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500892371104227,0.0,0.08108113044649169,0.0,0.3295663773407008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025813293065653,0.09478547713449777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465598067663206,0.06180608588503288,0.0,0.17254995941682666,0.22846244786388945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262085554884547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452810178167488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20952487170994324,0.11307607118917512,0.0,0.0,0.0854250097097118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116195643764586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349997819940481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576219779496972,0.0,0.08109042918275865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965838223329811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424710437003566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445638163926848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144201318016282,0.0,0.0,0.10735681973084744,0.0,0.10367761254706226,0.0,0.09906755699918184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150796412099717,0.0,0.0,0.10279301891233664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021392342868276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035802929155945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797648710080172,0.06870413556185119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655881492272163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710309510508687,0.2062991024723186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990539410225907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418869516810615,0.0,0.0,0.16158857708310434,0.09230117458008076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387042550477823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23416372521075746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861887435643244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993256958666835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610537178623198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028263941113144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232263763757325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404835503195193,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EleanorRigby323,2018/01/13,"Is a 4 year ago gap detrimental to a sibling relationship? Due to various circumstances, it looks like there is going to be a 3.5-5 year age gap between my daughter and a possible baby #2. 

At first I was fine with this as my daughter is a ton of work (very spirited). But now I'm starting to become worried that my kids won't have that special close relationship that I would want them to have! I really want a strong family that enjoys spending time together.

Does anybody have siblings who are spaced apart more and still have a close relationship? ",6.967428571428571,7.0358727428571415,7.417857142857144,73.04964285714289,64.42857142857143,11.190476190476188,35.595238095238095,10.864195022040775,3.9336666666666673,438,19,80,11,6,144,74,105,0.044,0.815,0.142,0.8390000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,3,3,5,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,18,4,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,7,5,10,14,3,16,1,0,1,0,8,5,0,0,11,53,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773529939751879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209653471118547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508557726751467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861139184177486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018232858275048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370632174204055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774575527570993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680112630183498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255526926122231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817214076469988,0.0,0.0,0.6444118563554658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416129795879768,0.0,0.15977887263429946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666440625990465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165081505229207,0.23601694557925215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565581528133212,0.20318424561405693,0.0,0.1421264002597544,0.0,0.0,0.2576814149512865
parenting,DaxJadziaDax,2018/01/13,"16 year old son goes to bed at 8:45 Hi r/parenting,

My 16 year old son goes to bed very early, around 8:30 to 9:00, even on weekends, and wakes up between 6 and 6:30 every day. Is this healthy? I know teenagers are supposed to not be able to fall asleep until late at night, but this does not seem to be the case for my son.",6.998695652173911,4.046170028985511,6.548115942028987,89.0813043478261,66.10144927536231,9.779710144927538,31.69565217391305,6.42735559955562,1.4405999999999994,248,6,62,1,3,77,51,69,0.0,0.969,0.031,0.2646,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,8,6,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,14,4,0,16,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,10,30,5,0,0.2549795130363872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22698582539838566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444069197965633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22313429013475888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684115635914735,0.0,0.2148312369093784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013007207445366,0.0,0.2876279968308934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239281000198735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5351162135217592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28312457443594424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321237723075481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21038480186986255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32839689312743664
parenting,ThatsMyBikeTriHard,2018/01/13,"8th grade and a nightlight. My son is in 8th grade and still uses a nightlight. If someone takes it away or even changes the color on it, he freaks out and starts crying. He is only a few months away from being in high school and I am a little concerned about this, I stopped being that afraid of the dark when I was around 7 or 8 -- he is 13 and has no mental illnesses. Should I take it away from him or just let him keep it?",2.16390476190476,3.3267534222222217,3.059841269841268,96.025,75.8888888888889,5.587301587301588,20.63492063492064,5.288315135182226,-0.2991746031746039,328,7,77,1,7,104,61,90,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.8757,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,6,0,10,1,0,1,0,16,15,10,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,0,12,10,1,15,0,0,1,0,6,10,0,4,5,56,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068654822773875,0.0,0.0,0.5720916732742382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21471560392369585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229532809000127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405993107090328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214449205292952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18040927766540046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075508248549067,0.0,0.0,0.20342950542009305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20454626556994526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200891130489106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436801579214082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20541672171557093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197602800909262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366338249249566,0.0,0.16209229803840647,0.16969221133532733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30521672516211845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530112146550667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IceyIllusion,2018/01/13,"Co-sleeping with toddler Hi, this is my first post here.  What are your opinions of cosleeping in the same bed?  We have a 3 year old and has been in our bed full time ever since she was maybe 1 yr old. 

Is she too old to be sleeping with us?  I enjoy it because we get to spend more time together as a family.  Plus she won’t be this small forever so might as well enjoy all the cuddle time I can now.  Just curious if anyone else does the same. ",1.48117021276596,2.9486757872340448,3.177606382978724,93.20875,78.36170212765958,6.402127659574468,21.324468085106385,7.1686216300943375,0.4066212765957444,340,9,79,4,8,113,72,94,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.8866,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,1,0,1,7,3,0,0,5,0,12,2,1,0,2,14,13,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,11,3,10,7,5,15,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,3,10,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882606211095465,0.1887773674198214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231201424221716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612311302721767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391027703415508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666571419322745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368665291255853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671587356292646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625867023424167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509552503542573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545130036734906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5799919314125227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645259433985397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524066164182475,0.0,0.3687494617457262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222984047694057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162004842967725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16565539122732648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864559728769328
parenting,lovesavestheday82,2018/01/13,"I am an awful person because I don’t believe in buying Girl Scout cookies from 37 year old women When kids are fundraising for school, clubs, whatever, I never, ever turn them down. Ever. I absolutely admire that kids will make the effort to wash cars on a hot day, go door to door selling candy or whatever and awkwardly explain to strangers why they expect them to pay $4 for a chocolate bar, or stand outside the grocery store, smiling at every patron, hoping someone will come and buy their cookies or caramel popcorn. I think it teaches kids a great lesson about working for what you want, so I will buy whatever they are selling. 

On the flip side, I refuse to buy from their parents. I don’t see that the child is learning anything from their parents selling their stuff for them. My parents didn’t sell my Girl Scout cookies for me. I don’t bring my kid’s school fundraiser stuff to work. I just don’t believe in it.

So, one of my friends texted me tonight that she still had not received my cookie order. I texted her back that I still had not received a phone call from her 7 year old daughter, asking me if I’d like to buy cookies. Considering they’re $4 a box, selling them should teach the girls something. I told her I would take 4 boxes if her kid called me and sold them to me. She called me and ripped me a new one, calling me all kinds of names and telling me that my boys were going to turn out awful if I didn’t change. So...because, when they are old enough to join Boy Scouts, I’m not going to sell their overpriced popcorn for them, they’re going to turn out awful. Right. As it is, her kid is so outrageously spoiled, I don’t think she even knows how to smile or say “Thank you.” 

Rant over. Am I crazy for wanting to buy Girl Scout cookies from an actual Girl Scout? 

Update: I ordered the cookies. Because this isn’t the hill I want to die on. She’s going through a rough time right now, and even though I don’t think I’m wrong, I’m not going to make things worse and possibly lose her over 4 boxes of cookies. We’ll shelve the fight until next year! ",5.645701438848921,5.451720479616308,5.561309952038371,86.13750449640291,67.22541966426859,7.8133093525179875,30.804256594724226,6.6274283507984215,1.5389968824940041,1628,56,338,9,24,508,198,417,0.094,0.836,0.07,-0.8613,3,0,1,0,1,1,50,1,2,14,5,17,12,2,1,17,3,26,2,0,3,4,45,57,23,1,10,12,4,2,1,1,6,1,1,2,16,13,10,1,1,7,2,15,11,14,5,0,2,7,5,62,7,46,44,2,50,0,1,1,0,63,14,0,8,23,202,75,8,0.0,0.0,0.08427888234801505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107027782487578,0.0,0.08073875500818141,0.0,0.0,0.06640864535137375,0.0,0.1579402217664238,0.0,0.0,0.19460548350121176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527495205073131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136174347657412,0.07439500634145192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569768584453607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963227824723549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923717955813709,0.0,0.11408531852524015,0.15624250669493456,0.0727654609021712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672467273465861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944961760860847,0.0,0.0,0.09521670132538028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577901672782033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993489758869587,0.04746343887157015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042193126286985023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966193126512606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529738591697038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660930143681076,0.08341096508507824,0.09184917715499943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718737168298334,0.0,0.11704506928431742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876912656829264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540978203902553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736252195211167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750890213255732,0.0,0.0686801815420909,0.0,0.17481011619301012,0.06882098888799631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317600336429428,0.06648728691761954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379409291387693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19773241468114947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649350388128548,0.0,0.07548601117038331,0.07951244000867745,0.0,0.0,0.0573764561407308,0.1660158426256956,0.08485226853130631,0.0,0.050359588635185686,0.0,0.0,0.08252457796021767,0.0,0.0,0.28181795168165874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281931316512914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793014768079194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574815532938494,0.0,0.08801237417683183,0.0613505633872227,0.09442556206766167,0.0,0.1668469047916361
parenting,deird,2018/01/13,"Pitfalls and issues with hiring a nanny? I’m a SAHM, transitioning back into a Working From Home Mum. My kids are 3 and 1, and I’m trying to decide between daycare and getting a nanny.

In this scenario, I would be working in the study, and not to be disturbed unless it’s an emergency, while the nanny dealt with the kids in the rest of the house.

Never done this before. What issues am I likely to encounter?",3.985555555555557,5.309177370370372,5.408333333333335,80.33250000000002,71.5925925925926,6.387654320987655,27.08024691358025,6.42735559955562,1.320224691358025,321,11,57,2,6,108,54,81,0.04,0.931,0.029,-0.1965,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,10,0,6,0,0,0,1,13,9,7,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,13,5,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,46,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112451273283061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23376914710777064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811371411685341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353149529051476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755696963425121,0.0,0.0,0.3169936039929731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5734791394044323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421584324922645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118834119988195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865189702087328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.400003417375928,0.0,0.0,0.1951554275173764,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,revolving_revolver,2018/01/13,"Request for help - 5 month old not sleeping or eating well Hi all, I am at my wit's end and looking for any suggestions/help at all. My 5 month old baby right not never slept or ate very well. She was born a tiny baby (5lbs 7 oz) and right now is around 13lbs (Asian genes). Due to some physical challenges, my wife pumps and use formula (30%/70%). Her feeding seems to have plateaued after the 2nd month and eats only 90-100ml every 3 hours. She eats around 570ml in total everyday.

She does not sleep very well either. We try to get her to nap every 3 hours but it takes 20+mins to get her to sleep (walking/rocking/humming/patting). We want to try to sleep train her but she fights sleep (refuses to sleep when laid on the crib awake and patted). She sleeps at night from 8pm-2am, 3am-5:30am, 6:30am-8:30am and then a total of 1.5hr-3hr of naps a day. When is it a good time to sleep train? She fights sleep and cries unless you walk/rock/swing her. 

I'm looking to get input and help as much as I am ranting. Does it get easier? Does this even look normal? I have never seen a kid fight sleep as much as my daughter. :(",2.009914004914009,4.230325085585584,2.3247338247338227,96.36840294840296,79.67567567567569,5.117444717444719,20.451269451269454,6.11248444174946,-0.07554774774774797,867,23,187,6,22,263,131,222,0.064,0.831,0.105,0.6144,0,0,0,0,3,0,52,2,1,0,1,9,8,3,0,7,0,7,16,11,1,6,33,22,20,0,2,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,12,5,1,1,2,0,0,5,3,3,0,4,4,21,5,29,18,8,30,0,0,4,0,25,9,0,4,21,101,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05071468724483188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277808002586616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191896094018873,0.048095777172125806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578761744281967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289316287661537,0.0,0.0,0.0660527866701179,0.0,0.0,0.04925718165128419,0.0,0.12566810776111192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585291063466128,0.0,0.0,0.06255136550177272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499614928275678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468859787439507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878768394478422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857913940857972,0.0,0.10964485438388888,0.0,0.11503623789461567,0.0,0.0,0.06998514496950367,0.07306929426383697,0.0,0.0,0.15651132245246352,0.0,0.0,0.05671891171568805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737612308839513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789179183603937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7463051999391782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05607236835877949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043486251120708204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012653157997572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441029108938895,0.0,0.12306711227396885,0.0439872472386175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116012528229085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monkeywrench101,2018/01/14,"10mo Baby Food Hello all, 
B recently hit ten months and I’m wondering what to feed her now. I want to make sure she’s getting all her vitamins and nutrients and as I’ve never been one to eat healthy I’m not sure how to do this. If anyone has any advice or examples of some meals it would be much appreciated. I’m pretty lost. Thanks!",0.15503174603174585,2.486557328571429,2.951904761904764,87.75198412698414,90.0,6.5396825396825395,19.206349206349206,7.793537801064563,0.950301587301587,263,8,56,6,9,92,56,70,0.03,0.728,0.242,0.9324,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,5,17,15,7,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,4,3,6,10,4,4,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,4,4,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370279396917669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649498936585314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960438961730118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24820060270212704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933058945212923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267281848325889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26478413878906143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191144513816644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936099885809646,0.0,0.17831034808038465,0.0,0.1870781053621509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436570667584668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24677188270514874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394998639471661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4572220096057858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22331770951923788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306884550650328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630472104530915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723084751499789,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nthrdaynthrmil,2018/01/14,"Pediatrician doesn't recommend baby gear gifted by MIL; husband wants to ignore Baby is 6 months.

I am admittedly a pretty/nuttily cautious mother. I'm quite obsessed with the latest recommendations and I'm something of a stickler for them, and I'm especially a stickler for what our pediatrician recommends for our daughter. My husband is generally less risk averse, but indulges me since we tend to agree that the more restrictive rules are better (I.e., better safe than sorry). Obviously this will get more subjective as time goes on, but for now with a 6mo, it's pretty clear cut.

The only place where we butt heads on this is the issue of his Mom. His mom and I don't have the best relationship, and it's been more strained since our daughter was born due to the usual in-law overbearingness stuff (*Tale as old as time / tune as old as song...*) She is also an immigrant from a country with different safety standards, that seem relaxed compared to the resources I follow. She also had a grandmother who was a midwife ~60 years ago, and she still believes it is disrespectful not to trust what her grandmother used to say.

In general, she thinks I'm too paranoid and gets very frustrated when I tell her that something is not safe or no longer recommended. My husband also gets frustrated, saying that I'm being too inflexible. But a lot of what she wants to do with our baby is just not developmentally appropriate. 

**ETA: The following example is NOT the most egregious thing she's done in regard to safety. But it's an example of the kind of gray area my husband and I butt heads over. Most of what she's done would be considered unsafe by most modern standards and my husband agrees with this. But if there is wiggle room with his mom, he'll take it.**

For example, she wanted to go down a playground slide with our daughter when she was 3 months old (A regular one, not a baby version). I said no, she argued that she would ""hold on very tight."" But I wasn't comfortable with her neck strength, the possible speed of the slide, or how my MIL would get up the ladder to the top of the slide...and frankly, also about my MIL's overall mobility. My husband was annoyed because he thought I made it sound like my MIL was stupid and dangerous. Which... well, you get it.

Anyway, background more or less done. For Christmas, she gifted us a jolly jumper (doorway frame jumper). I wasn't crazy about it because it had this big, heavy metal spring over top baby's head and, while it definitely can support a lot of weight, I worried that baby wouldn't be able to control her movements and could swing herself into the doorway, hit her head, etc. My husband said I was being paranoid and that if they sell it, it's obviously safe. That didn't sit totally right with me, but I acquiesced to be more flexible.

Yesterday, I took my daughter to her 6mo check up. She's looking great and thriving, except she's slightly behind on a few gross motor things (sitting up, specifically). My pediatrician asked about baby gear. I said that we have an exersaucer and the jumper. She told me that the exersaucer is okay in moderation (no more than 15 minutes at a time and no more than 3x a day), but that she recommended immediately discontinuation of the jumper. Apparently, they are very bad for baby hips and also have a history of head injuries. She doesn't love them for any baby really, but specifically for ours, she thinks the lack of ergonomic support could really hinder gross motor development.

So...my husband was PISSED about this. He wasn't able to be at the appointment so I had to relay the message. He more or less accused me of leading the pediatrician to this conclusion so I could ""get my way."" He then said that lots of babies all over the world use jumpers and they're fine. Which, I don't disagree, but our pediatrician gave specific reasons why it's specifically not good for our specific child. He kind of brushed this off and said that his mom is a good grandma and that I'm way too stubborn. Honesty, I'm a little flabbergasted that he's essentially putting his mom's feelings over our daughter's health/development (I didn't even mention the head injury thing because I knew he'd think I was being dramatic). And not sure where to go from here.

Am I being reasonable? Is this a risk you would take for something that's just meant to be fun, in order to make a grandma feel good? I know that shows my bias, but I am open if objective strangers think I'm being too stubborn.",5.161049811922947,6.686803007067143,5.817386108894715,77.74452895246782,68.98822143698469,8.775416999126106,30.536893498993123,9.19923166143015,2.671757992324937,3559,143,655,70,62,1156,350,849,0.126,0.7509999999999999,0.123,-0.5652,2,0,3,0,0,0,127,13,2,4,10,29,43,10,4,49,1,66,13,11,9,6,121,121,55,0,15,28,19,4,1,0,7,0,9,1,1,49,34,1,10,15,3,2,10,21,18,1,1,32,16,90,25,92,67,24,72,0,0,2,3,95,32,3,14,26,445,139,1,0.11948967016737433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0529601915046157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388896151560512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040628536594599016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585335584334495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988444175145017,0.10925969080651524,0.0,0.0,0.06731197005674637,0.06269851845692208,0.10567890303799304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700891275279698,0.14310416799854295,0.0,0.0,0.03853047606209034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062420636622509525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341912776290345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663128395223085,0.03946090010581598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06041756749949876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872852627245684,0.0,0.06790873319664842,0.15033339928108644,0.0,0.06586889159756128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678926230872118,0.06350596589951882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062358085631906764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443010391347276,0.032834198899574674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0291883085937028,0.05988002028519732,0.0,0.0,0.0501706143490817,0.0,0.0,0.1523787668778902,0.05392204625712547,0.05653200752586314,0.0398801413446087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34986214385775044,0.0953755147296486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807646277194587,0.0,0.04048464646119142,0.04543863928652138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062420636622509525,0.0,0.0,0.06735332473043129,0.0,0.06078197593603405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006006089328252,0.0,0.06354598624861442,0.0,0.0,0.07654814241709082,0.12285528190852454,0.0,0.06414359399951826,0.0,0.05102176272123598,0.2841550979707841,0.09502298168128118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054389454001109235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884308993463303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798347874792266,0.0,0.06687945149449599,0.0,0.0,0.047712302473382234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839354234426191,0.0,0.1355954616892815,0.056308800015294785,0.0,0.08984136129293249,0.0,0.052219619223344484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907544108898795,0.153128311723676,0.0,0.047430725493609015,0.10451308137760394,0.0,0.0,0.05708875023112301,0.06637871007554916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186568041815533,0.10320071012015124,0.06580049515795819,0.14788723778802662,0.10571715500297983,0.094845338392525,0.0,0.07275311377964871,0.053717781806482734,0.0,0.053910420948386335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606737801107929,0.0,0.1697640667215645,0.0,0.0,0.038473714982532825
parenting,BuffaloKiller937,2018/01/14,"Possible sleep apnea? I've noticed just recently that my 2 year old will skip breaths while he is sleeping. Followed by a big gasp, like he is trying to catch up. It honestly scared the hell out of me. I called and left a message for his pediatrician and they should be getting back to me tomorrow. Just wondering if any of you have had similar things with your children happen, and what was the result? Thank you very much.",3.8934920634920616,6.032763604938271,4.5105114638448,83.33444444444446,73.44444444444444,8.085361552028218,28.855379188712522,8.841846274778883,2.3899897707231035,336,14,64,7,7,107,69,81,0.086,0.8170000000000001,0.096,-0.2168,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,3,1,0,3,5,1,1,4,0,8,3,3,1,0,11,13,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,9,3,9,8,1,12,1,0,0,0,10,4,1,2,7,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690652611760142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774196313885143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356044516860033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054860298627652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040366560867169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506923575321059,0.0,0.0,0.11272461399201032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16961549151424032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626913410065075,0.2421157384401535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601170775943625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278212542251274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310042407875932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4617997771755621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242818194075824,0.0,0.0,0.15328892262454705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665273495264395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037910036802091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25022037348240184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485846518417413
parenting,dusclops11,2018/01/14,"""I don't like that"" Me, step dad to 4 yo (the one with the problem), biodad to 2 year old. 

Every single meal time, if it's not chicken nuggets and chips or pizza, dinner will be met with ""Ew I don't like that"" and a little battle before she eventually tries it (and usually finds she likes it). She will say it without fail if it's something she has never tried, or doesn't recognise (like chicken in curry which isn't white but coloured yellow from turmeric).

This doesn't happen with the two year old. We think it's because 4yo goes to dads every weekend and dad isn't interested in being a parent, he wants to be her best friend. Today for example, we picked up 4yo and she had chocolate cereal for breakfast, chocolate sandwich for lunch, and was eating a chocolate bar when we saw her.

We don't cook separate meals for kiddos, they eat what we eat, with some modifications. No snacks until after dinner, and only if they eat a satisfactory amount. We don't tell them they have to eat more if they say they are full, but they don't get to eat anything else that evening and they have to stay at the table until we finish eating.

Any advice? Not talk to dad, tried, doesn't work.",5.008717948717951,5.570703803418809,5.521350427350427,83.26253846153847,68.65811965811966,7.607521367521367,26.28376068376069,7.3011,1.20926017094017,926,25,184,8,15,298,135,234,0.045,0.8809999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.8665,1,0,1,0,0,0,36,7,0,8,3,2,10,1,0,8,0,21,18,0,1,1,37,27,19,0,6,11,5,0,4,1,2,0,2,0,0,12,19,18,0,2,3,0,1,15,3,0,2,4,6,25,7,25,18,6,22,0,1,4,0,34,6,0,7,18,120,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178757441555117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083489649970666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571786015331362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349723239353479,0.0,0.08863564740991371,0.0,0.10931338999228003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.74609837748522,0.0870154158887618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687991497865646,0.0,0.17552484083354922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520374623943413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804766259720905,0.0,0.05442124063926513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211162705378087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20355651387269388,0.10439940482291817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033747665289133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186045883203636,0.0,0.07058402744161188,0.07922119723544556,0.0,0.0,0.11566147590747786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996706053496992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656703301831909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019031494461043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102465821772824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372284654343126,0.0910436760213368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674390109317485,0.0,0.0,0.06073869848442224,0.0,0.09873502000965914,0.0,0.0,0.21216097012656507,0.0,0.10175281163912216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114721613299826,0.0,0.061438456485246276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041010186387184,0.0,0.07583242336284071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341560315568547
parenting,mildvixen,2018/01/14,"Question about training bra for pre teen Hello /r/parenting. It's my first post here and hoping to get some advice from this community. My daughter is 10 (turning 11 very soon). She has not had her first period but is having some body changes, particularly around her bum and chest. It's not significant but it is enough to notice. My daughter so far is very unaware and naive about these changes to her body. My boyfriend recently mentioned to me that I should think about getting my daughter a training bra. I hadn't thought about it and really don't think it's necessary until she asks. We live in Europe (I'm European) but my boyfriend is American. I'm wondering if there is a bit of cultural difference in this situation. Should I wait until she is uncomfortable with her body changes and asks for a training bra or should I do as my boyfriend mentions and introduce this subject with my daughter? 

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parenting,notjasontoday,2018/01/14,"My children live with me now, but I am having issues accepting what their living situation was. I'll be as brief as I can. I had two children with my ex-wife, and she had a son from a previous relationship (who I see as my son, and he accepts me as his dad). About seven years ago we divorced, and I agreed to her having custody. Over the next several years, until this past August, they moved around quite a bit. My daughter, now in sixth grade, has been to 11 different schools (this include ""homeschool"" and a five-month period the lived with me when their mother was having marital issues). Fast forward to August, where she is having other problems and asked me to take them until they are old enough to decide. At this time; the oldest lives with his grandmother and the other two live with me, my wife, and our 3yo. There is far more to that story, but I'm trying to save time here. 

As for my concern...
About a week ago we (my two children, my wife, and I) all had an impromptu and lengthy discussion, primarily revolving around their living situation where they were living. 

Let me preface with this; my son and daughter told us some of what happened, and I don't know if there were any embellishments. Their stepfather seemed to be regularly impatient with their brother and disciplined him more than the others. Their step-father was verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive to all three of my children. They mentioned many times when he (my oldest) was punched (usually in/near the stomach). Spankings were given, but only to the boys, and each time they were required to pull down their pants to a bare-ass wack with a belt (i believe this also included his son at times). At some point, all the children in the house were accustomed to bringing pillows to the dinner table to act as shields, because when their stepfather got angry, he had a habit of throwing things. I just sat there and listened. I couldn't form thoughts and just muttered and nodded. There was a severe insect infestation - so much so that they were unable to use the Wii or DVD player without bug parts coming out with the disk. They had maybe ten animals, most of which died - some were shot in the backyard while the kids were home... 

Look... this shit is fucked up. I knew they had been through a lot, but I could not have expected any of this. CPS was called on their house several times by the various school districts, with no findings, and I was unable to do anything about the very little that I did know about. 

My son (the one that lives with me) sleeps with a wall of blankets, stuffed animals, and pillows around him every night. In the last few months he finally started to wear night clothes to bed instead of just laying down in what he had been wearing for the day (this, I now think, was related to the infestation of insects and rodents or a need to be ready to move/go). For a long time, a light had to be on in the room, the bedroom door needed to be open, and a hall light was required.

My daughter seemed to be largely unaffected, likely due to the relaxed situation towards the young girls in the home, but sometimes her attitude seems to be a bit more jaded then what would be part of the typical pre-teen angst. 

The oldest lives quietly and has **very little** interest in talking about thigs; we do don't press him but encourage him to talk.

My wife and I are in the process of trying to find a good counselor/therapist to address anything we just can't. 

So... after making it this far, I don't know if I am asking a question or looking for advice or just wanted to tell a story/vent. I was elated when she offered the kids to me. They were enrolled the next school day, we are in the PTA, and they are participating in after-school clubs. We are, for lack of a better phrase, an ordinary family. Of all that I knew before, and with what I know now, I am proud of my children. They have been through so much, and are still great kids. Our only issues are the ones we'd expect for their age/grade, and I couldn't be happier. 
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parenting,DarkReddit12,2018/01/14,"My son is lazy and completely unwilling to put in any effort at high school anymore. So my son used to be a scholar up until 8th grade (he's 16 and he's in 10th grade now), teachers used to hand him A's and A+'s like they were candy. We have a whole shelf full of trophies that he's gained from doing sports and doing well academically. But recently, I've noticed a significant decline. He barely rises above a D or C now and he almost never finishes his homework on time.

He spends most of his time on his computer, either playing video games or browsing the internet. I've tried to stop him and force him to do his work, i've tried shutting him off from his computer and the internet in general. But even then, he just doesn't do his work. He'll either just sleep the entire day off or he'll draw or read, basically he'll do anything besides doing his work. 

I've given him the lectures before, i tell him how if he doesn't study then he's going to fail and nobody will be there for him when he's an adult. I've told him about how much money I've put into funding his education as a single parent and how all that money will go to waste if he doesn't put in effort. He'll simply nod or pretend like he cares and then he'll go on with whatever he's doing. I've looked into his internet history and i've seen him google stuff about dropping out and jobs that don't require degrees or a high school diploma, and this worries me to the bone. It's almost like he's come to terms with the fact that he's not going to do well because he doesn't study, and as a parent that worries me to all hell, but i don't know what to do about it.

I've tried to sign him up for extra class and tuition, but he simply refuses to go. As far as i know, i wouldn't consider him to be depressed or anything like that. He has a fairly active social life with a ton of friends, he doesn't really do sports and as a result he's about 10-20kgs overweight for his age group. 

I know he's smart and i know he's capable of passing with flying colours and even being the top of his class, but i can't help him if he's completely unwilling to put in any effort himself. Has anyone else faced this? And if so, what can i do to change him?",5.051346153846153,4.378751356837611,6.1547863247863255,82.99576923076923,68.55128205128206,9.080341880341882,28.89743589743589,8.384062270229773,1.8094717948717949,1737,51,379,22,26,584,201,468,0.059,0.857,0.084,0.8471,3,0,0,0,1,0,39,1,0,1,10,19,13,1,0,19,0,32,6,4,6,4,72,54,50,0,5,21,4,1,4,1,8,2,0,1,1,13,28,1,3,4,7,5,12,11,3,2,0,4,4,39,10,57,38,12,51,1,2,3,0,68,22,1,14,20,226,52,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19533061935917226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265170328050235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672662594383084,0.06819741033952861,0.09993418550399656,0.16052285967473734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05945527167273521,0.0,0.0829934833062387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944149432262868,0.0,0.10317708595333673,0.08401612832354899,0.20452319659718424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290077992280381,0.0,0.08400511495792519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147638875531739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883938361476954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535383008225281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771515380938592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537438012131577,0.2060981473428334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678655081456183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21440656124731694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688905119789094,0.19059898166976125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819032385345577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169804981616884,0.0,0.07522353841025066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104207926773893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659792759247215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3921908118976515,0.0,0.0,0.09755949250016456,0.0,0.062482200478366674,0.0,0.09630216844458384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974174057720742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760353589592173,0.0994227114496124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154203772157541,0.0,0.0,0.11165206337458346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524822717287778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374466833635935,0.0,0.0,0.09319705545732544,0.0,0.19865571524516296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847456399666752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753879378965272,0.0,0.0,0.10889222154447076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21301577231098173,0.19809919211398025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SPAWNmaster,2018/01/14,"Advice for handling little dictators? (2yo) Hi all,

First let me say this sub has been tremendously helpful and supportive in the past and my wife and I are very grateful for all the variety of advice we have had previously from you all, so thanks.

With that said, our 2 year old daughter has turned into quite the little dictator. She must be in control of EVERYTHING. She insists that we do things her way (""Papa, you sit HERE"", ""No mama talk"", ""Papa no sing"", etc). God forbid we walk the wrong way or pet the cat when she doesn't want us to. It's a constant, compulsive behavior and the source of many meltdowns. On a related note we are in a constant state of bargaining and deal-making with her to defuse this type of behavior. For example if we are in public and trying to avoid making a scene we'll offer to give her one of her favorite snacks if she stops yelling at us. We don't like having to do this and our gut says this is the wrong thing to do and is probably re-enforcing poor behavior.

First of all, is this type of dictator-like behavior normal at this stage? Many of her aunts/uncles/grandparents/cousins notice that she is extremely smart for her age and also very manipulative...

Secondly, what can we do to mitigate, correct or otherwise handle this sort of demanding behavior aside from accepting a meltdown and just putting our foot down when she doesn't want us to do things our way?

Thanks!!!",5.12581871345029,6.398735055555553,5.641734892787522,79.92464912280704,68.81481481481481,9.68421052631579,29.76608187134503,9.93914555978268,2.8981111111111098,1115,42,211,27,19,359,153,270,0.098,0.81,0.092,0.723,1,1,0,0,1,0,45,15,2,0,4,6,10,0,1,12,0,26,3,2,3,6,42,35,18,0,6,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,15,20,1,4,1,1,2,2,5,4,0,4,3,4,32,6,35,28,5,30,0,0,0,0,40,11,0,5,12,150,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025346053570574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901241807875369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435720050759184,0.12639987224568952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161862136168248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568754562842385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128528078589244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172093727986286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810974799889547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553878446554918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524086856408575,0.0,0.05505832471752496,0.2259050804790833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522648203075304,0.22851523083452466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041965973476413,0.0,0.12830689448751187,0.11825710884409105,0.0,0.07636676869366017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758255244945368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150700748449245,0.0,0.0,0.11329215341823864,0.0,0.1198677043631922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720116654920446,0.17924321185791955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422018841175044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788783111471294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058201250482532,0.0,0.20751350403873145,0.0,0.0,0.22461371066819716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651423095156812,0.12258255992835144,0.0,0.0,0.40668378804542943,0.0,0.0,0.18597454373604175,0.13294385614891355,0.2683621811655335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464341334934355,0.0,0.07257351983234847
parenting,MannFan,2018/01/14,"First night of sleep training was a disaster. What now? Last night, my wife and I tried training our 6-month old son and it did not go well. This is our second son, so we have done this once before. 

Some context with this one- he is still breastfeeding and waking up several times a night to feed and insists on being held. When he does allow my wife to put him down it’s in a rocker that’s at an incline (he had bad reflux when he was younger). It’s also next to her bed. 

Last night’s sleep training was jarring for him for (at least) three reasons- 1) new bed and room, 2) not being able to lie flat, and, of course, 3) not being picked up when crying. 

We did the nighttime routine, fed him, and put him down around 7:30 and he cried for an hour (I went in occasionally to reassure him) before he finally fell asleep. However, 45 mins later, we accidentally woke him up trying to fix the camera in his room (bad move on my part). So then he was awake, screaming, and hungry. We weren’t sure what to do at this point, given he was hungry but didn’t want to just feed him, so after an hour, I finally fed him in his room. (We had been planning on two dream feeds around 10:30 and 3.)

We then put him back down and he screamed for another hour before finally falling asleep again. Another 45 minutes, though, and he was up again. After another hour, my wife finally threw in the towel and breastfed him and brought him back to our room. We tried putting the pack n play next to the bed so we could try just doing the flat thing even if it was in our room, but that didn’t work, nor did the rocker he usually uses. At that point, he and my wife were just too frustrated and exhausted. 

So now we’re at a loss as to what to do tonight and going forward. Try again tonight? Wait another week? Try getting him used to lying flat in the pack n play in our room before making transition to his crib in his room? Sit with him in his room when he’s crying? 

Would be SO grateful for any advice! Number one was tough but nothing like this!

Thanks!
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parenting,computerfrenzy,2018/01/14,"I walked in on my daughter watching really bad porn Hi,

So I know we've all been there, having your parents walk in. This was a bit different so I work nights and my shift overlap is just enough so that I can take my daughter (16) to school and pick her up. I had gotten a later shift so that I could spend some time with her, it was half 6 and I went to go and get her and go bowling. I knocked on her door waited. Knocked again waited. Because God forbid I didn't want to see what I did. I opened the door and on her TV there was really bad porn. Like bad. There was a girl and she was tied up, crying and being abused by 4 other guys. 

Now I'm very open about masturbation, I'm a single mother I gave her ""the talk"". She has a vibrator that I got for her and I was open for her to do it in private and to decent porn, but what she was watching was vile. 

She didn't see me walk in and she had headphones in. I heard her vibrator, so I knew it wasn't a popup or anything. I'm just not sure what to do I'm open about masturbation Im a couple times a day girl and I understand porn and watch it but it was just really bad. 

Why should I do?",-0.14708063021316065,1.7010465702811253,2.0775301204819283,97.22526645041708,85.30522088353413,5.276552363299351,17.20744516527649,6.490185161304077,-0.4081561322211926,872,19,215,9,26,294,121,249,0.119,0.866,0.015,-0.9719,2,0,0,0,1,0,26,0,1,0,1,15,8,1,0,10,0,26,4,0,1,2,38,47,21,0,3,7,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,3,13,18,0,3,3,1,1,6,4,6,0,1,22,6,37,2,22,22,5,28,0,0,5,4,26,15,0,2,8,143,50,2,0.0,0.1817836915201756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262558098308696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5124143019786074,0.09352653558460007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750050587520812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249748248255353,0.16976198883700103,0.16853030169555713,0.09894651670470736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602966066221122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585291730517449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015829835954479,0.0,0.17439007482829305,0.0,0.1227080926082128,0.0,0.0,0.15191500077721634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572546895282614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431843937425243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495576901761968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397909178229604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036045091202287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29486420204806896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527442316295378,0.24451993016900636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460136989631386,0.0,0.11535660423218926,0.12331730835067875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892685495199667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597209718019397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659180073997894,0.09049411714699164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222663318417075,0.13844231663090234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169532237492157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skyamese,2018/01/14,"Help for our depressed teen Our daughter “Emily” is nearly 14 and has been falling apart in 8th grade. She has become increasingly moody and despondent over this school year. Over the holidays, she barely ate and rarely left her bed. Right after the winter break, we learned that her grades have plummeted from a A/B average to a D average. Last week, we brought her to a therapist for a depression/anxiety screening, and she scored a 40, which apparently counts as severe depression. Emily also admitted to her that she’d been having suicidal thoughts. The therapist immediately referred Emily to a psychiatrist who can prescribe anti-depression medication. In the meantime, we will begin regular therapy sessions, starting next week.

What do we need to know about teens and anti-depression meds? I’ve heard that they can sometimes have side-effects, including more suicidal urges. What questions should we be asking this psychologist? What kind of medication is she likely to prescribe? Should we be pushing for other options? Any personal experiences or resources would be very helpful right now.",7.912440154440155,10.342358286486489,7.5505984555984575,64.4646621621622,63.43243243243244,11.123552123552122,38.61969111969112,11.062562989136584,5.2617799227799225,893,47,124,27,14,282,124,185,0.13699999999999998,0.813,0.05,-0.9582,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,8,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,10,0,20,3,0,0,0,23,30,8,2,4,1,1,0,1,0,4,2,1,1,1,11,11,1,0,6,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,6,2,18,2,19,16,2,24,0,2,1,0,27,9,0,3,11,86,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108974016875895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926673775586808,0.0,0.1042451698109308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739282405122718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049805471950986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469472069315563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329692026744142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826760521139007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190286416258094,0.07488970465818318,0.11107716450320324,0.0,0.0,0.14805632322196602,0.0,0.0,0.0665739955081599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136378767260578,0.2745527246492738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104150208079443,0.0,0.0,0.14492329072167587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898455820956752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265211195205833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327454221143041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791118263028768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539448248940926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477321225569214,0.0,0.09645167547577307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981116446566549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15583511539202838,0.31643688865144554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818211325343928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124359350092472,0.0,0.0,0.21861303643324295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680136294199916,0.0,0.0,0.08775256436003147
parenting,indigofireflies,2018/01/14,"Clumsy kid I'm a new foster parent to a 2 year old girl. She's our first placement so I know absolutely nothing about parenting at this point. 

She just seems very clumsy. For example, we'll be getting dressed and she will stumble. Or she will just be walking and lose her balance. I've spent a lot of time with nieces and nephews of the same age and she just seems remarkably clumsier than they are. 

When does clumsiness become a concern instead of just toddler-ness?",2.642666666666667,5.345767933333338,3.391111111111112,86.78000000000004,80.77777777777777,6.2666666666666675,27.88888888888889,7.554174236665415,1.8626888888888893,374,17,69,6,10,118,69,90,0.033,0.967,0.0,-0.4019,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,2,8,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,15,12,7,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,10,0,9,6,2,10,0,1,0,0,14,2,0,4,7,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547904782582775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20188748394803555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623365137320228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053144271189355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678691230954536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258094748542578,0.0,0.19613323913758285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228118941088963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136326596156705,0.0,0.2420812729017636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5123310087589901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180864569465012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200419785537703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452326464398978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19035199961763336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856350059376713
parenting,Ash_hole10,2018/01/14,"Potty training a stubborn 27 month old girl. Our daughter shows signs of readiness for PT. Most relatives and our sitter have said she seems ready. She is a very head strong child who once she says no, you are guaranteed a struggle to get something done.  We will be starting **Day of 3** PT today. We are doing the all or nothing method but still diapers at nap and bed ( we are loosely basing it on a summary of the oh crap method and lucies list).  I just want some opinions if we should continue on. 

Day 1 morning we kept the little potty in the bathroom and she had maybe a dribble in the potty. She basically waited until her nap to pee in a diaper. After nap, she peed on the floor multiple times. Whenever she started to pee we'd run her to the potty. We also were trying to run her every 20 minutes or so and we noticed she peed on the floor when we were lax on that so we decided we needed to pay better attention on Day 2. Also, we can tell when she needs to pee because she gets upset, says she needs to use the potty but wont do it. She is hysterical every time she pees on the floor. Wore nothing below the waist all day. 

Day 2. Potty still in the bathroom. First time she peed on the floor we said okay lets try panties. Never made it to the potty to pee. Peed on her panties multiple times. She's hysterical when this happens too. After nap, we move potty so its directly next to her. Still shows the same signs of needing to go. Says it, kind of dances and then piddles a little on the floor so we get her to her potty. She calms down, lets some out and then for whatever god-awful reason it gets on her leg and she freaks out. We congratulate her and she just cries.  Takes a few minutes and she calms down. We have been giving her treats and stickers if she makes it but I dont think they matter to her at all. Also, after nap we set the timer to remind her to try to sit for a second but she would flat out refuse. And even when she shows signs she has to go, half the time she will not try to sit on the potty.

Husband wants to plow on. I am incredibly discouraged because I didn't think it would be this hard or frustrating for her. She's bright and picks things up very quickly. Normall, my husband and I feel very similar on parenting techniques so I thought I'd reach out to reddit.  Should we keep going or scratch it and try again later?

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parenting,SalamancaThreehiddle,2018/01/14,"Custody over substance abuse Hey there.  It is 5 a.m. where I am at, I just created this account for this post.  My nearly 4-year-old son is sleeping next to me.  At about 3:30 a.m. I picked him and his dad up off the side of the road after his dad got into a fight with his brother-in-law, We'll call him B.

According to my ex, who we can refer to as E, he was at his sisters house playing dominoes with her (J), B, and his 4 of his sister's children and my son, D. B started going off about numbers and E allegedly had no idea what he was going off about, B and E got into and argument and then B went into the room and got a gun, and held it to E's head.  E then ""lost it"" and tackled him and they were fighting in the kitchen and the livingroom and outside.  Supposedly J had been telling B to stop, but when E started fighting back she kicked E out. E grabbed D and drove 1/4-1/2 a mile, parked and called me.

His story changed in subtle ways in the retelling, but that is the gist of it. Immediate red flags: Why would you try to fight someone with a gun? He didn't want me to text his sister. He didn't call the police after allegedly having a gun pointed at his head and being hit with it.

I dropped E off at his girlfriends house and laughed when he asked which house D was going to, as if there was ever any question. I am glad he called for me to get D, mad and scared he drove at all-especially with D, mad and scared he put D in danger around a gun and a fight.

I texted and called J after to see if they were OK and and let her know D is OK. Just to clear things up in case it's needed, B is black and the rest of us in this situation are white.

She texted me back and everything she said differed from E's story.  She said E kept saying he wanted to fight B and even the neighbors, that E called B the N-word, that E said stuff about their newborn baby, that he kept trying to fight B and she was surprised the B held it together so well after all the things E was saying, that she was trying to comfort D and E grabbed D and left with him.

She said she hates how E drives with D after drinking, and then clarified that he does it often.  E has at least one DUI already, he crashed his car in a later instance of drinking and driving that he was not busted for like a year ago. He quit drinking for a while, went to classes, started with beer again, and is obviously comfortable with the hard stuff now.

E also has a problem with meth, but appears to be off it for the last three years.  

It's hard to describe how awful and draining my life was when I was with E, but I did learn quite a bit about how he lies, gaslights, and cannot control his addictions. I am inclined to believe his sister, who just had a baby two weeks ago. I've had my problems with her too, but a lot of them were likely directed by E.

E is a chronic liar and will lie about anything that may put him remotely to blame, or cause a possibly difficult conversation, and he definitely would lie about how and when and how much he drinks.

E is a great father when he is sober, and he has made it very clear about how he wants to avoid a custody battle. I feel distressed that I have to file against him and I know they may not grant me sole custody without a lot of proof. All I have is his previous DUI and his sister's texts.

I'm really just needing to crowdsource some empathy, confidence, and some stories of your own perhaps.  I will do this no matter how bad I feel about it, but I could use some overall uplifting and strength, please. And advice about filing custody, I know nothing of that except I need to do this Monday.",5.086887573211103,4.524433282085568,5.695553857906803,85.94897504456331,68.45187165775401,8.567659791189204,30.10898905016552,7.7094869923839395,1.6816561242678894,2797,92,621,27,42,909,320,748,0.152,0.769,0.079,-0.9943,0,1,6,4,10,0,91,3,2,5,5,41,35,13,4,34,3,56,12,3,12,7,134,98,73,0,13,17,11,6,2,2,7,3,6,3,2,35,62,6,7,9,6,1,13,8,22,1,3,38,16,71,13,99,48,12,83,0,1,4,0,103,35,0,13,34,399,106,2,0.0,0.08144324431510402,0.0,0.07493452418726211,0.0,0.06716994047762133,0.12186411099513746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585404984160543,0.05496972301247334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046744170975124816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656548549689663,0.061191359068376985,0.06426071510099317,0.0,0.0,0.10571049897252176,0.057393326702749665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744414396218516,0.0,0.0,0.07504405103019943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42113486460811933,0.0,0.0,0.07061282124873118,0.07271564898521453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709546877921157,0.05488166903412516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181653968424258,0.0,0.0,0.060153053364188386,0.0,0.0,0.2693481339917872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454007753167214,0.06217742153920264,0.0,0.0,0.06177724758648825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951195740269778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035912747852052763,0.0,0.1171961028373682,0.0,0.16492808153731287,0.07578384526868914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315142406380762,0.06786450616066282,0.1410899588932594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237943136059534,0.0,0.0775967917698508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332975803492296,0.05603061299195476,0.0,0.0,0.07468399634222307,0.0702892228182191,0.04855165506162553,0.06716379184379109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503560493757801,0.11687711362405084,0.0,0.06504152122740442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050530310826135065,0.1529049825282006,0.0,0.0,0.07310360191731938,0.0,0.0,0.06595592797463629,0.0,0.0721289276708138,0.0,0.04657862169470765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545364015297269,0.06497959173182966,0.07749172357246345,0.06583196623168737,0.0,0.0,0.1315458918664425,0.0,0.1382012738083811,0.07700224835090813,0.1462225664501554,0.0,0.0,0.044035298301248256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26154216905297845,0.10932637191924924,0.13763738187997332,0.0,0.054775255816763714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726434878325633,0.06878760327785848,0.0,0.058241451753197525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595924891977616,0.0,0.0,0.057468013733038024,0.0,0.0,0.15737704110955414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06008000813783729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133289462267573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000569143043182,0.0,0.06714700041212728,0.0,0.0826833042555735,0.059367528871959535,0.0,0.05671601709557531,0.12163029197364653,0.054560994384955576,0.05513744654075098,0.0,0.06180368252546114,0.12744155801509285,0.06202531878756665,0.0,0.0,0.06626094200863215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765895138492653,0.0,0.0,0.13279498071541246
parenting,back2schoolmom82,2018/01/14,"Teen daughter ran away last night... I’m really looking for support right now. I’m still up at 3:30 am worried, because my 15 year old daughter ran away at 10 pm last night. I’m so tired, like literally, but also we’ve been on a downward spiral with her since she was 12. There have been so many behavioral issues. I posted the other night about my daughter sneaking a boy over in the middle of the night, and I felt attacked about my parenting by some.  So I am Leary posting, but I literally don’t know what to do. 

I’ve filed a police report. She was told she was grounded for sneaking the boy in and ran away now. I took her phone so I can’t contact her. In June 2017, she also ran away because she was mixed up with a friend and family who allowed these 14 year old girls to smoke pot at their house. We found out and enrolled her in counseling for teen drug intervention. Then she ran away twice in the same week for several days. Previously, in junior high, she was suspended for selling and e-cigarette at school to a friend. I found out later that her and her older step sister were sneaking out in the middle of the night and driving around with older boys (my dd was only 13). She was also caught shoplifting, and sending an inappropriate photo to a boy (that later got circulated around). My step daughter is now 18 and moved out, but it’s come to my attention that she has been hanging out with my daughters 16 year old friends, where they’ve been doing cocaine at a dudes house who wants to have sex with the girls who go there. Luckily in a text I read it sounded like my daughter didn’t go because of that, So, it looks like my stepdaughter has been contributing to the delinquency of minors. I also have a 13 year old son, who hasn’t been caught up in anything yet (to my knowledge). But, tonight he admitted that my dd has asked him several time to get high (weed) with her. He said he hasn’t obliged. This pisses me off so bad. I also have a 5 year old son to think of here, I can’t have drugs laying around my house for him to accidents come across. Just two weeks ago I found a random sleeping pill on her bedside table. Just right there, it looked like a pez candy that my son could’ve eaten! 
She also got suspended for three days right before winter break for getting in a fight At school. Her grades have been slipping and we’ve gone through a period of time, around a month, where she constantly has issues where she can’t get up for school. I’m losing my daughter. I don’t understand this. 

I just wanted to give the run down of everything we’ve been through these last few years. I’m honestly feeling so callused and pissed right now. I feel like there is no respect, even though I’ve tried to provide a nice life for her. It doesn’t matter. She doesn’t show any signs of remorse for anything. No, “I’m sorry Mom and Dad”, nothing. Not even after promoted. She acts very “hard” , and had a better than everyone attitude.

As a teen myself, I got addicted to meth at 17 years old. Luckily I got treatment by 18 and have been meth free ever since (17 years). BUT, My parents were divorced, my dad was non-existent, my mom was an alcoholic, and I had to take care of my baby brother most of the time. My life was WAY different from hers. She’s had everything given to her. Ive made it a point to love on her, tell her she is important, teach her self respect, pay for dance lessons and cheerleading...I hardly ever drink in front of her. There’s only been a few times. Her dad and I are together and there is stability. So, I just don’t get it. 

I’ll probably get all kinds of backlash, but I give up. I just feel like I  don’t anymore, I’m so defeated. I don’t know if I’m just upset or what. Idk, I just needed to rant. I have no one I feel safe talking to. Thanks. ",3.0344522269729097,4.5671335753604225,4.0729935758331015,88.13970457426468,74.3211009174312,7.257538190490514,25.221171819607676,7.925487318751,1.2943128246997406,2950,97,621,43,61,956,322,763,0.093,0.79,0.117,0.9708,4,0,9,0,2,0,105,1,0,1,5,49,29,4,1,33,0,60,15,3,2,3,83,122,44,0,4,16,19,7,6,3,0,8,2,0,7,24,36,3,1,16,4,3,23,17,8,0,4,48,12,86,22,103,74,6,136,0,2,3,2,87,58,2,5,57,389,110,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707797331080325,0.0,0.0,0.04641222821100936,0.05595480340361687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512241520477856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035605251014689615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051925089710330066,0.0,0.0,0.08617238333124215,0.18643896375605784,0.048947683611115934,0.05956480971438129,0.2459604302425317,0.0,0.0437167621371861,0.09575089439648928,0.0,0.04455282114928438,0.0,0.0,0.046306416437910634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053382493840219584,0.0,0.0,0.09020360128860933,0.0,0.056580422241721065,0.0,0.04180362088580023,0.0,0.0,0.06753318661684649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470299010810615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05129092954830305,0.12143736801643198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916396066896226,0.09472165855835107,0.0,0.05003033464819079,0.0941120298607529,0.0,0.049358484258694,0.0,0.10589515827171468,0.07480916406290558,0.05027191283196399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722236089517766,0.12135503587120106,0.0,0.1367745298745433,0.1004531729878728,0.059512542026376576,0.0,0.16750197568326264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380500873449599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063825172733624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124238616041755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092963457617966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054522823795382085,0.0575492002259817,0.12803633042163404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396403998983049,0.1534769117395921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319026576284102,0.058575234977281565,0.0,0.0,0.047255159873660864,0.04954242724534305,0.0,0.05308281731823738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264216727164742,0.04179167436534987,0.055648292313413485,0.0,0.038822810564697545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456722883756473,0.0,0.05023893508975518,0.0,0.32964562488525684,0.0,0.035479151362870116,0.07964127153807461,0.0,0.0,0.11627477658366532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049495255262416535,0.0,0.1002890257147636,0.0,0.05645080424294013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05237219173867411,0.0,0.033541890182565016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788538619570203,0.049804469657902715,0.0,0.0,0.15896734335148258,0.0,0.0,0.05462083675989495,0.1182993255484252,0.0,0.08662219521482828,0.0,0.05239583525206583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05861052003785053,0.0,0.0,0.04181318473280681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05941526393226526,0.0,0.0,0.0393667171950456,0.04208339553168619,0.04576321980018985,0.048204232977065366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03354890695904311,0.051441491676890064,0.0,0.12212153685308805,0.060177845163427626,0.0,0.05003033464819079,0.05817168995905745,0.035547660687778364,0.0,0.05114618046878036,0.054506548358418894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0432008522798707,0.061764236928653876,0.04155936152384029,0.08399689558885053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05317211378817039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697348010516943
parenting,thsa00458,2018/01/14,"My MIL needs to get out of my son's (6) pants DISCLAIMER: we are talking circumsicion, not the pros and cons and morality of circumsicion. 
Background info: 
So, my oldest two children, 4yo girl and 6.5yo boy were adopted. Bio-parents had drug problems and for the first 3 years, my MIL was their foster parent. When my son was 2, and his sister 9mths, my wife and I, supported in full my dear MIK, decided to adopt them as the social services agency in our region was looking to create a permanent plan of care or else they might end up with a different family. Since the adoption, which took place in february 2015 and finalized in July 2016, my mother in law has had issues with yielding to our parental judgements and generally staying out of our parental affairs. 
TL;DR MIL tries to overrule our parental authority over our children in basically every situation imaginable. 

That includes my son's penis. You see, my son's biological parents did not have my son circumsized, and my MIL thinks that at 6 years old, it's not too late to get that done. And I'd agree with her, but only out of medical necessity. Though I don't have a foreskin, or any experience with one, I don't see any reason why my son can't keep his. This month, we've started allowing my son to wash himself in the shower, mostly unsupervised. We're in the next room, the bathroom door stays open. We're trying to give him privacy as he is growing (too fast, I might add). For years we've been telling him the importance of pulling back his foreskin and cleaning in there. Since we've given him some freedom and we stopped watching/doing it for him, he's gotten lazy and just stopped. Queue the ""dad, my pee-pee hurts"" and Dr visit to find out he has a small infection under his foreskin and needs 4 days of antibiotics and a topical cream. The infection cleared up, I learned a lot about uncircumcised penis care, and so did my son.

My mother in law has argued with my wife about this circumcision thing every day this week, insisting that we take him to a urologist and insist that he be circumcized. Its been hard on my wife, and it's an ongoing issue with her. We drove our kids to school on Friday despite busses being cancelled (classes were still on) and she was upset about that. I took my daughter's doll house away as a consequence and she *came over while I was at work on night shift and tried to give it back to her*. 

My wife and I are united in every aspect of our parenting. We support eachother 100%, and thank God we have this united front. I've suggested we reduce MIL's reach into our lives, but with a 4.5mth old newborn, we still need her around. I just wish she would play by our rules instead of completely disrespecting them. 

Tl;dr MIL is overstepping again, insisting that we circumcize a 6 year old because he neglected to wash his own penis. 
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parenting,Daumina,2018/01/14,"How do deal with toddlers falling over and hurting themselves? Long time lurker, first time poster

Was looking after my 20 month old, he was playing on a chair and fell off the chair.


I feel horrible that it happened under my watch, the ambulance paramedics gave him the ok but it doesn't make things easier.


He trusts me to keep him safe and secure but I failed.


Any advice is welcomed",3.656614481409005,6.170198027397263,3.348375733855189,89.63082191780823,75.57534246575342,5.815264187866927,25.497064579256357,6.868970318607317,1.0649585127201568,308,11,57,3,7,92,60,73,0.146,0.659,0.195,0.6544,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,2,0,11,11,6,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,3,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,3,3,7,6,7,8,0,13,0,2,2,0,7,4,0,0,7,34,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862839549723582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19922760156563324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30203610573551604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813291437815435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491975746578057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590697444487529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136272253874359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604025244762189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25926656974863665,0.246018488570682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955577428117616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23384345881413796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30741957689236576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19463425235849768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416628192947164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Another_artist,2018/01/14,"10 year old pulling out eyelashes. The last few nights I've noticed my daughter doing something strange with her eyes in the mirror before bed, last night I realised that she was pulling out her eyelashes. One of her eyes has almost none left, the other has about a quarter left. I am very worried about her. She has shown other signs of anxiety, and now that she's on the cusp of puberty I worry that it might amplify. I'm going to arrange to see a psychologist tomorrow. 

She told me it feels like an addiction. She doesn't know why she does it. She would like her eyelashes to be long, but she can't stop pulling them. There's a few things worrying her, but nothing major or imminent. 

Does anyone else have any experience or insight with this sort of thing? She is a generally happy, wonderful child. A great big sister, full of love and laughter, a child who has always shown more emotional intelligence than what you would expect for her age. ",4.247333333333334,6.298300177777778,4.823333333333334,81.855,72.22222222222223,8.355555555555558,28.66666666666667,9.029198982220553,2.469733333333334,752,30,140,16,15,240,118,180,0.048,0.757,0.195,0.9873,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,11,0,15,4,2,0,0,23,23,6,0,3,4,2,1,2,0,3,1,0,1,2,13,6,0,1,4,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,2,4,23,5,18,17,6,23,0,0,3,1,25,8,0,6,13,95,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936907638281402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720302912961227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400936591125845,0.0,0.0,0.09317645932315943,0.0,0.1048178558670579,0.0,0.0,0.09580567868034144,0.14039041098351046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659162649451925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398095169100247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144603685427929,0.1541260151819551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340292063551355,0.0,0.0,0.06928006140971428,0.0978851831353624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787008648037239,0.0,0.0,0.1510620517751469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585745866668445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530112218172894,0.22337476623875974,0.0,0.0,0.29773938448818776,0.0,0.0,0.13387945893943493,0.0,0.0,0.1212559946523298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366345851517765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535369764327252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571628996545138,0.0,0.13147179021145367,0.15599509883670354,0.1437766026210875,0.0,0.09284646532666783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918504466027078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548260797668817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455259409411075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205640539020015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309258974005815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130536182295268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363679732583532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858941197980796,0.0,0.41744314304644303,0.0,0.19466631071716667,0.0,0.0,0.0882346458808303
parenting,Tilly-Billy,2018/01/14,"Why do people feel the need to comment on age gaps between children?! Sorry a bit of a rant! We are currently expecting our second child, there will be an 18 month age gap between them. It was a planned pregnancy, we thought it may have taken some time to fall pregnant but it happened the first month which was incredibly lucky! I have lost count now of how many times people have asked me...oh was this a planned pregnancy? Oh bet you weren't expecting that? You don't muck around do you? Oh how old is your first child again? And so and and so on! I find it so incredibly rude! Of course my husband hasn't had to deal with any of these responses, it's always directly at the female. At the start it took me by surprise because I never have and never would say such a thing to someone. In response to these questions I say yes we will have the exact age gap we wanted or something similar. Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing? Why should anyone else have an opinion on our age gap??",2.2619387755102025,4.639491316326534,3.1626122448979617,89.8431020408163,79.71428571428571,6.164897959183674,24.08571428571429,7.365786028017652,1.0663661224489802,782,28,158,11,20,248,118,196,0.066,0.882,0.052000000000000005,0.5291,1,0,1,0,0,0,23,6,4,1,5,10,4,1,0,12,1,24,0,0,2,3,33,34,11,0,6,2,1,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,3,14,10,0,0,4,0,1,2,5,2,0,3,9,4,17,2,21,19,2,26,0,1,0,0,21,7,0,8,17,109,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290994840233925,0.0,0.0,0.10045064031525558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065702397190339,0.3027010637634376,0.0,0.13149684916757215,0.1380927256672508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004513265864053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126551868565087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522867312612994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467923206003579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468867759344318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500799383820475,0.2512910434364564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062307386967986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124736849934346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975889334847786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358079401329924,0.0,0.0,0.10952811927804727,0.22785241088418196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500107967775673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20481268945957698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547357651672207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349363318150717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515766136085885,0.1137175161017068,0.0,0.16535381999085527,0.1045527867116494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626934343483765,0.0,0.0,0.11726848037848125,0.17226653686719862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411577893937748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712559203004573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665779650380156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493184491765492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,calibur_,2018/01/14,"Cops just left. Talk me down please. Context: My four year old hasn't slept ""well"" since she was 3 weeks old. She's always been relatively happy, rarely threw tantrums, we sailed through the ""terrible"" twos... until the past few months. She has started throwing some big raging tantrums, throwing things, trying to hit me, stuff like that. Bed time is a several hours-long bout of her screaming because she doesn't want to go to sleep. I feel like we've tried everything; I don't engage her, just calmly put her back to bed and leave, I've acted on things she's said when she was calm to make her room a place she wants to be in (more night lights, bedding she picked out herself, stuff like that)... Cut to tonight, she was throwing a tantrum again, throwing toys at me (I have an entire pile I am bagging up because when you throw toys you don't get to play with them for a while), was using the stick on her riding unicorn toy to beat on the walls and door... and someone called the cops. It went fine (as fine as these things go, I guess) and I explained what the racket was, they checked on my daughter, they gave her the ""you need to listen to your mommy"" talk, and everything is fine. They just left and she's right back at throwing a fit.

I'm going to make an appointment with her pediatrician on Monday, just to make sure everything's okay with her physically, so... I don't know, can I get some of your own ""are you fucking kidding me, kid?"" stories? I guess? Any others out there dealing with tantrums that were mistaken for a domestic dispute? Am I on a list now? I just need to be talked down from the ""I'm fucking everything up"" ledge.",4.552653867871257,5.477983937888203,4.410107284020327,89.51325239977415,69.86956521739131,7.34522868435912,27.67984189723321,7.348242739294969,1.2431316770186331,1276,42,270,12,22,390,177,322,0.07,0.81,0.121,0.9272,0,0,0,0,1,0,66,1,6,4,1,14,24,8,0,17,1,22,4,2,5,1,35,52,13,0,4,5,1,1,3,0,0,0,3,5,2,12,13,0,0,3,4,1,14,5,10,1,1,12,5,47,14,42,37,5,56,0,0,0,2,42,23,2,4,22,167,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849328632154538,0.0,0.0,0.07232292739642303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355606662267755,0.0,0.12966224149958164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085971633887917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964412146984452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.382328859298933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0537747075575891,0.07597780646001412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966412041904682,0.1111289387030625,0.0,0.18132667795437515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343171786672816,0.0,0.0,0.11321355705083586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844821355070244,0.0,0.0,0.11261128808950448,0.2311032641057081,0.0,0.0,0.15587447396720044,0.0,0.0,0.09411806974985353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297212320036968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488905834853305,0.0,0.0,0.15771714731837186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980403771440696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231968217767365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152490628281977,0.0,0.0,0.11111508188282596,0.11674243065479252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106913016994736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908239269788519,0.10116499506209853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014735592166916,0.0,0.08797537662150112,0.0,0.1064286890505758,0.0,0.09011160533471273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527641017228973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24349492312286705,0.0,0.0,0.10023539109767587,0.0,0.0,0.2564448450351384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196639609512172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201463823216415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441189486203582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918538801896104,0.0,0.0,0.12545819214260198,0.0,0.0853090654899617,0.0,0.09562311515801934,0.09858926102804824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848712576377394
parenting,Artymus86,2018/01/14,"Co sleeping to independent sleeping I live with my girlfriend and we have been together about 2 years. She has a daughter who is currently 4. Her daughter loves me and we get along fine. For her whole life, my girlfriend's daughter has slept in the same bed as he mom.

A few moths ago, my girlfriend had to change shifts at her job and now works nights 5 times per week. The transition to not having mom home when the little one went to sleep went okay. There is a sofa in their bedroom, and either me or the babysitter would stay on the sofa until she fell asleep. Sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. 

I recently changed my shift at work to mornings and we don't use the babysitter anymore. So every night I put her to bed and lie on the sofa until she sleeps.

I want to be able to transition to letting her sleep by herself without me in the room. I tried it tonight for the first time and got a lot of crying. I know that there will be a time that I'm just going to have to endure the crying, but I want to make it as easy a transition as possible. One concern I have is that she will still co-sleep with her mom twice per week. 

Any advice on making this change would be appreciated.",3.8408235294117654,4.8388542,4.37088235294118,88.87058823529414,71.58333333333334,7.147058823529411,26.200980392156865,7.285733465282438,1.0805539215686268,928,29,198,9,17,294,136,240,0.018000000000000002,0.912,0.07,0.875,2,0,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,1,3,8,3,0,0,16,1,20,9,7,4,0,30,35,16,0,4,6,6,0,0,3,4,1,0,8,0,8,13,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,6,0,30,3,36,21,5,36,0,0,0,1,27,11,0,2,19,136,38,3,0.09517601530390499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930049006291696,0.08436779497475458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472295413128748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438903262325388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020508129067921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209092767379922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018989780142045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095666999681164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04972553975112397,0.0,0.0540907228293426,0.0,0.07612095393299635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546930352776932,0.0,0.09372920332603253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444750928904452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05230624894319346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097323924020567,0.06722563429831564,0.0,0.09539137097088056,0.08404216521878118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091524468486437,0.0859000697315059,0.0,0.1270614585384549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344069964684276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786324859252401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898746228912475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072966567960738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567818317224387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397483299256608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5714685017034444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941315127799718,0.0,0.0,0.10144496874217432,0.0760076887655695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715605187072858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16649369972684191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461826687362582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220151877573144,0.0,0.0,0.11227455950353976,0.0,0.15268891709609844,0.0,0.0,0.17645823942882846,0.0,0.1062606221553537,0.0,0.09174628238893798,0.0,0.13857854536422845,0.0,0.0,0.13522062107722208,0.0,0.0,0.061290233387478875
parenting,UACEENGR,2018/01/14,"4 year old lied -- police showed up to investigate I took my son to a drop off birthday party hosted at our local city recreation center. There were about 4 workers who helped with the party, all teenage girls.
I return at the pickup time and learn he got bumped on the head. I talked with the host (mom of my son's friend) for a minute or two, she mentioned my son had bumped his head and the staff helped comforted him and he was fine e after. I remarked that it was common and typical for kids that age. I spent a few more minutes there and left.

An hour later I get a call from the local police explaining they need to investigate child abuse. I invite the officer over to discuss and he shortly arrives. 

My son is sleeping, as he had swimming and that birthday party. He explains that my son told a worker at the party that his dad hit him. I was floored, I have never spanked him, much less hit him. 

I spent about an hour with the officer, then we woke up my son. He was tired, and shocked to see a policeman in our living room. He was very shy and didn't want to answer his questions. I explained to him he needed to tell the truth. He proceeded to tell the officer I hit him regularly, every night.
Again I am shocked but the officer believed me. He spent some time trying explain to my son how important it was to tell the truth, I am not sure he understood the gravity of the situation.. 

What do I need to do from here? I explained, several times how serious this is. I don't know what else to do..",2.9449169435215943,4.655618667774089,4.081015282392027,87.24828704318939,74.9468438538206,7.20802657807309,25.66126245847176,7.976525956113202,1.4328720531561467,1173,41,242,18,25,382,160,301,0.062,0.873,0.065,0.2381,1,0,0,0,1,0,37,3,0,1,2,8,9,0,0,23,0,19,4,3,2,5,38,42,15,0,4,3,9,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,11,13,0,0,10,2,3,2,4,3,0,1,18,1,39,6,35,21,6,36,0,0,1,0,55,16,0,3,17,154,50,4,0.0,0.16518326027764568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707228139870005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423576842531166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164628373443554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746264026379062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771121536201936,0.0,0.07283826701180347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150242703276952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28615877963134445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868930598144599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27459019139197416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661850521841891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147414755043476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231054645378147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632804538760318,0.0,0.0,0.10248562118682522,0.3101220210357035,0.1075249756668694,0.0,0.0,0.13083096505262934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629195500732184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561760283283936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109522237778932,0.0,0.0,0.15749858306067951,0.0,0.0,0.15670762065750016,0.13951507791315593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313964169191488,0.0,0.0,0.11205600937952158,0.36556297720601577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438809637297628,0.16023633779729501,0.0,0.1332164284219212,0.1548945220156189,0.0946532224675298,0.0,0.13618760572732516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503147612296655,0.08223022198131692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977829918059424
parenting,wolftune,2018/01/14,"how to potty train with squatting? The natural elimination position is squatting.

But we don't have a squat toilet, and I've failed to find any pre-existing product that is explicitly supportive of letting my toddler squat naturally over a potty or the toilet.

Any suggestions?

I've considered just getting a flat-type option like one of those toilet seats with two seats including a smaller top one for kids, and then just hoping it's sturdy enough for the kid to squat on, but I'd rather something the kid could use without assistance.",9.372755102040816,8.90897647959184,8.91114285714286,66.08385714285714,59.714285714285715,12.329795918367347,40.008163265306116,11.602472056035307,4.885283265306123,437,20,70,11,5,140,70,98,0.023,0.8809999999999999,0.095,0.5588,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,2,1,19,10,7,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,12,8,1,4,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,3,2,45,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732091384900621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908978159033315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835333526511418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25080087549215835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433651020766622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725457294861303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28059734236257383,0.0,0.13406024948589967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718873800112345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125010294783692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31139114082037994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26805346691609555,0.0,0.0,0.23699751051717896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645162869156601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Poopanddoodle,2018/01/14,"Proud Mommy Moment - low muscle tone child victory with therapy! They always tell you not to compare your children too each other, or other children. So when my second was not making cooing sounds, staying awake, holding on instinctively, then didn't sit up on and on, I would say,""what's the rush?!"" Then one day I basically was called out as a ""bad mother"" for ""not caring"" so I turned and said, ""if I compare I'm wrong! If I get worried I'm wrong, I can only lose!"" At 12 months my second could still barely sit without falling over. Could not crawl. Was not walking. Barely made sounds. But smiled and so happy all the time. My nickname was Sloth because that kid was so slow in all actions of life. Our pediatrician was not too concerned, but at one year she sent us for tests and recommended reaching out to the state about services. We qualified for 2 therapists. By 18 months we qualified for 4. But today, at almost 22 months my kid walks! And so good! Barely falls over! Still doesn't chew food, or talk, can barely sign so communication is rough, obviously not running or climbing, but still the happiest kid! My point is a lot of people are concerned if their child is developing ""normally"" and if you are, there are tests and guides, use them. If you are concerned ask your pediatrician. Still concerned, reach out to the state they all have a program that in some cases is free to your child if your insurance won't cover the services, or they help offset the costs. 

So I'm a proud Mommy of an official hardworking toddler!

Background if you are interested. We were diagnosed with low muscle tone which means lack of movement due to an underlying strength issue which effects motor skills from drinking, eating, holding, sitting, walking, and taking. When I was pregnant I didn't do anything, was super clean eater, took my prenatal daily and after the fact realized the baby moved in ultrasound but I didn't feel a lot or ever see a hand or elbow or feel flips like with my first who was an over achiever and did everything pretty early or on schedule. Baby slept a ton and was very easy going. The doctor was never concerned based on ""personality"" which is super laid back and only at 12 months when I showed the baby could not sit unattended realized there was more to it. We get Physical therapy, Occupational, recently started speech for communication, and a TA which helps with life skills in our case puzzles, eating, interactions with friends. We are so lucky, we have learned a ton from the therapist like, low muscle tone babies/children don't like cold fluids/food. They don't teeth until later because they can't even hold a toy to their mouth (that's right barely have half our baby teeth, didn't get the first tooth until 14 months). If you have any questions please feel free to ask. Oh, and therapy is great, they give us homework, cheer is on, and help the daycare to better accommodate our kiddo for the most success.",6.082334422334423,7.328944853479854,6.1794208494208505,77.04260617760619,66.58241758241758,8.613325413325413,30.324522324522324,8.841846274778883,2.473227165627165,2334,85,409,37,37,741,269,546,0.032,0.763,0.205,0.9989,1,0,1,0,0,0,87,12,9,9,15,23,27,0,0,28,0,47,16,7,4,7,96,73,52,0,14,30,1,5,3,1,2,4,4,2,9,11,30,5,3,9,3,3,14,19,7,0,7,23,11,48,22,55,45,12,82,0,4,1,0,56,27,0,24,37,277,59,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358224685363841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945297801129183,0.0,0.0,0.05676185047444745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868795751021016,0.0,0.15606468254126107,0.0,0.0,0.06418258588274696,0.06969321223530138,0.10176397760891732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382163616180568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523128380072463,0.0,0.08510231066933177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992985391660206,0.0,0.0,0.053830664460515834,0.0,0.0,0.08471937978334848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543416103518843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176794126560312,0.0,0.17081945536031215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05513055352555312,0.07550257990826385,0.0,0.0,0.07501664522178005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661345521705095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199754813252058,0.20186233478339155,0.0,0.06448801982981303,0.0,0.1308274795239949,0.08007116678476738,0.047437413240841685,0.07000992115841062,0.0,0.09202497774127033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885440936006274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784273541331474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712005474943972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791338801843322,0.12233635864339995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338057265526244,0.0,0.141924888366162,0.0,0.07898048089258411,0.055716272591600835,0.0,0.0,0.09092232002078868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331211975480953,0.08871444400572091,0.0,0.0,0.06437651585027325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178199611592743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131216451072717,0.12696402406414733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786696440106395,0.07288199881973445,0.0,0.0916240068177691,0.07890527937131543,0.0,0.0,0.08491808267790943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350449512553033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241566674884866,0.0,0.0,0.07128215558003946,0.07939822860719899,0.06637797875479047,0.0,0.0,0.06651406615009386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907985879819366,0.08896695499170272,0.26663412525133906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275837556019873,0.06708930105958487,0.07295567270276955,0.0,0.2863625717566869,0.19382811763350846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867150361968271,0.0,0.07911894728896876,0.0,0.09273724164842037,0.0,0.09079041235973516,0.0,0.0,0.2008061007386633,0.07209050297759853,0.0,0.06887074933040152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046123407753879,0.0,0.0,0.0847669230307979,0.0,0.05929405400036331,0.18252071593594044,0.0,0.05375136394465527
parenting,sunshine2134,2018/01/14,"19 month old fighting us at mealtimes- needs a distraction. Basically what the title says. A while back my wife started giving our son toys to distract him while feeding if he fought her. When toys didn't work she progressed to playing YouTube videos. 

I asked her to stop playing the videos and we're back to toys/singing/playing but this has formed a terribly bad habit where our son absolutely NEEDS  a distraction/something to play with or he won't eat. 

To fight this habit we tried sitting him in his high chair giving him 15 minutes w/o anything. If he eats great otherwise we take him out and try again after an hour. He didn't eat. At all. Then went to sleep and woke up at midnight howling in hunger. We put him in his chair and tried to feed him but but the little %#^|€} STILL wouldn't eat. Finally gave in and gave him a toy and he ate the entire meal w/o issues. 

What can we do to break this habit? (One good thing is we always feed him in his high chair at the dining table). 

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parenting,parentalissuethrowaw,2018/01/14,"Found my son's mom slapped him and left a nasty bruise. I have a son who is 6 years old and a daughter who is 4. Their mother and I live in central Florida, have never been to court and have split custody. Today, their mom dropped them off. Once we got inside, I noticed a bruise on my son's face. He said that his mom slapped him because he was being noisy early in the morning.

I took a picture of the bruise and a video of him explaining what happened. He did not see the video being taken.

I also explained to him that it is not OK, and that even if he was misbehaving, it's not his fault that he was hit.

I feel terrible, am concerned about the kids well being (physically and emotionally) and am going to call CPS tomorrow.

I was hoping others would be able to provide some guidance.

* Is there anything I should or should not do or say?
* If there are no other factors and we end up in court for custody, is this likely to swing the decision in my favor? The mom has been unstable for a while and I think the children would do better with me.
* Does anyone know what to expect with a CPS case?
* Will she know it's me that called?

Thanks a lot",1.605989923493187,3.712844493562233,2.9969210673633127,91.61956148535177,80.45922746781116,5.597238290725882,22.147602164582946,6.7026698264267655,0.4723709274118302,889,28,189,9,23,289,132,233,0.083,0.85,0.068,-0.5473,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,2,0,3,1,6,9,0,0,16,1,30,1,1,0,1,39,47,16,0,8,8,9,1,1,0,5,0,2,0,2,15,14,0,0,8,2,0,2,6,2,1,0,12,4,26,7,20,25,2,19,0,0,1,0,36,8,0,7,9,135,41,0,0.13535917042496856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824667968492603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094646279218612,0.0,0.1113890639109734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251369393266354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971418639457575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764336941328329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845372220824273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226084788183422,0.11988804826619145,0.0,0.0,0.08940345546295146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844166365486923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841434376770346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692773590581617,0.0,0.10825909388439044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969766737627448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444219818669798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487797202348744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706813472231575,0.0,0.0,0.06612965341384554,0.0,0.11952462738020955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507752620556715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.634124097781521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043973368598996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541073126833676,0.14203667949769566,0.14415309885716776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875756801227825,0.1076430452412206,0.0,0.0,0.107863733817827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462053804922625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673269084456889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283046664305001,0.0,0.15038901885192593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170415019490632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923105420511424,0.0,0.0,0.08716686782895254
parenting,nailpolishlover91,2018/01/14,"Boys and nail polish *I posted this in another sub, but did not really get any helpful advice. I hope it's ok to post it here with actual parents.*

So I love wearing nail polish. Honestly, I've been wearing it in secret since I was kid. Now that I'm older, I still wear it but my wife and I are thinking about having kids. If my kid is a boy, I'm considering not wearing it anymore. While I would not have a problem with my son wearing nail polish (obviously), I do think it might open the door for him to explore his gender when he's older (like 4-7) which I have mixed feelings about. So, if any of you have boys, would you let them wear nail polish on a regular basis? 

I will say that once he's around 10 or so, I would go back to wearing it.

Edit** I don't think nail polish is a gendered activity. (Again, I wear polish pretty much 24/7.) In fact, I think most things are gender neutral. I'm more afraid that society will tell him that wearing nail polish is a girl's activity and thus he most be a girl.",1.305382775119618,3.2274190956937834,3.5036818181818212,88.55552272727274,80.5311004784689,6.0938755980861234,21.45478468899521,7.1686216300943375,0.6281730143540671,777,23,166,10,20,266,116,209,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.9837,1,0,0,0,0,0,35,0,2,1,0,12,7,0,1,7,1,22,10,9,1,2,33,34,13,0,7,8,3,1,1,0,6,0,1,1,8,14,7,0,0,7,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,2,23,5,14,23,4,18,0,0,0,1,25,6,0,7,9,105,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.1627704236986708,0.0,0.0,0.1629927112556502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22685621301604794,0.1749018559003844,0.0,0.0,0.16541842672790275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848525172202118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825707982769013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433789222671498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714487610714489,0.0,0.09479493562264303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180093384276324,0.0,0.0,0.16566767982978034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056187511452378,0.0,0.08148889557581833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054137113067706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694592408190232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226154482731224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763402971718767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520902629063596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194920402517861,0.16969315210720956,0.0,0.15960280310950584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685483134324124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264416824069405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797672119672372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320480086928094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457884784327028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081293220987894,0.4275087391135812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35546474698565783,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mamabear1217,2018/01/14,"Should I be worried? The comment section of my 1st graders report card said 
'My child' continues to be a joy to work with. Sometimes I worry about him, because he is so inconsistent in work habits and performance. He seems to withdraw.

 If she's worried then i should be also. I have noticed that his grades this year have been all over the place. He will get an A+ one day and and F a few days later on the same subject.  My son said  it was the kids at his table distracting him so I wrote to his teacher saying I was concerned and a week later seats were moved.  Yet the same this week.  

What should I be asking his teacher when get to discuss this with her?  
At home he seems fine,  he's smart but likes to rush through his work because he feels so confident in it and that's where I see he gets things wrong.  Hes somewhat shy but has friends,  plays in little league,  has tons of energy so it's concerning me how she's sees him withdrawn. 
 
Just wondering if it's the normal mom guilt that is making this out to be more than it may be or  if this could/ should be a real concern.
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parenting,throwaway42day11111,2018/01/14,"Hiring a nanny for the first time We're looking at hiring a full time nanny for the first time for 6-12 months term for 30-40 hrs a week. We are in California. We're not really rich so this expense is dipping into our savings, however its the right choice for us.

I think there are services that can handle the payroll and tax. Is there anything else I should be aware of? 

is under 40hrs/week considered part time?
Do I have to provide paid holidays? What about sick days?
If it doesnt work out can I terminate the employment with 2 weeks notice?
Anything else I haven't thought of? Any tips of reimbursing cost, or things to consider",2.693693333333332,4.972298736000004,3.7653,86.62048333333334,77.64,7.046666666666668,24.816666666666666,8.07648339933343,1.5377066666666663,502,18,99,9,12,162,90,125,0.064,0.914,0.022,-0.7004,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,8,0,13,1,0,0,0,12,17,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,1,6,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,8,2,17,13,3,18,0,0,1,0,3,7,0,2,11,63,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264676096122345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060788794887354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993681321620048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107121543379887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163760577397368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616997808257527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484413958069878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21173081059754967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138998687433587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191386818622616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881941389971482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355179930394587,0.11916360501047933,0.0,0.14764131268632036,0.4337680091515312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22370189963595896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475275260208543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539012249197185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,username_choose_you,2018/01/14,"Does anyone take a solo vacation as a parent? So I'm a stay at home dad to my daughter (almost 4) with another one on the way. I do 99.9% stuff related to the house/ family. All cooking and cleaning, child care and also all financial planning and budgeting. 

Next year, I'm contemplating taking a solo vacation to do a special fishing trip with an old friend. We moved across the country four years ago and I've only seen my friend once since then. 

I love my kids and wife but I feel like I never really have much time to decompress. Logistically, it would be tough to plan but I'm curious to hear if anyone else does this.",3.4834146341463423,5.2175227479674815,5.2281382113821175,79.48708536585367,73.5528455284553,8.822439024390244,26.121138211382114,9.3871,2.3629421138211386,490,17,94,12,10,167,88,123,0.014,0.845,0.14,0.9217,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,2,2,7,0,0,9,0,5,2,0,0,3,17,15,12,0,2,3,4,1,1,2,1,0,1,2,2,3,8,1,0,1,1,1,2,1,1,0,2,1,3,8,6,12,12,3,15,0,0,1,1,11,3,0,2,9,54,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459769152509205,0.0,0.16490100830183615,0.0,0.0,0.1316927606008397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267901010442954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23029306445567796,0.16873184560102045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678999711836298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882212687992645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756715360472052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524355436647913,0.0,0.08326603322207057,0.117645838428121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544592875553227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560382567496286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518523963211032,0.0,0.0,0.19001604723743915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045324476459494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862812525794206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502641790782805,0.1210571158454307,0.0,0.12700965545061896,0.0,0.17513668650235126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172801627579465,0.17537646044130614,0.1115899251405417,0.12524487181409805,0.0,0.0,0.18285518559898825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549680222796376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622316076094165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552460164615954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18851665847221166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247634391245408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602493740694132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071355607979465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698236957048018,0.0,0.0,0.2120941813778669
parenting,ThePittsburgher,2018/01/15,"Tummy time with 3 month old Need advice about tummy time, my wife says our child needs it but he screams bloody murder when he is on his stomach. Is she doing it right? I disagree with her as he is in so much pain. What should we do?",0.7720408163265304,2.7795384489795936,1.7177142857142869,100.20228571428574,82.87755102040815,3.92,15.922448979591836,3.1291,-1.2452155102040812,180,3,42,0,5,56,41,49,0.342,0.6579999999999999,0.0,-0.9745,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,0,7,8,4,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,0,6,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,5,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206615639036623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619238972691402,0.0,0.2412258873363889,0.4866338571243317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443351979346038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491716674946508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802358440815452,0.0,0.26095575748812505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826904444342904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KungFu-Trash-Panda,2018/01/15,Potty Training? I am wanting to begin introducing potty training my 2 and a half year old daughter. I don't think shes fully ready but I want to at least get her started on the idea of going in the potty. I just got a potty seat insert and step stool for the toilet. I was wondering however if we need to ditch tge diapers right away after introducing potty training. Some stuff I read made it sound like it will confuse them if not. However like I said I dont think shes totally ready to potty train yet bit I wanted to start showing her the potty seat and maybe having her sit on of if she wants. Is this ok or should I wait until shes ready and just do it all in one go?  ,2.5709539052496813,3.8117389507042283,4.568489116517288,85.30128681177979,74.98591549295773,7.135467349551858,23.47247119078105,7.686295010490155,1.0512169014084505,529,15,111,7,11,182,90,142,0.017,0.831,0.152,0.9576,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,6,1,12,0,0,1,2,29,30,10,0,9,8,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,5,0,1,4,2,0,3,3,1,0,2,4,2,20,3,16,24,5,19,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,7,10,75,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201359465999065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115005237780673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270474757095552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121475155921676,0.0,0.22019988521920933,0.0,0.15494177598353087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186950448106353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892911824305222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330987757287331,0.0,0.0,0.1946255598128873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364666907430368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032846810973513,0.0,0.13127493452248049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937801716556353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544243672406467,0.1842794498210665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742429917095225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217719204145733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482658347323502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570625760302345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100894768557284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247543169238272
parenting,beerthrowaway6592,2018/01/15,"How do we handle my 14 year old daughter drinking? Throwaway because my husband knows my real account.


My 14 year old daughter has always been difficult. I say that lovingly, I really do. It's just that compared to her older sister (16), she has always been the stubborn one, the rebellious one, the one most likely to talk back and lie. So it's really no surprise that she was the one we caught drinking beer.


Every parenting forum and blog will tell you to pick your battles. Carefully choose your hill to die on. Well, this is mine. My teenagers **will. not. drink.** Other than it being ILLEGAL, alcohol is a slippery slope that I don't believe a 14 year old is capable of navigating. 


My husband on the other hand just blows it off. He's not happy about it but says that we need to handle this carefully because she's going to do it anyway. His idea is to let her and her friends *drink at our house* so we can watch them. One beer each and if they go over that or sneak anything harder then the whole deal is off and everyone's parents find out.


I asked if he was insane. This is such a bad idea that I'm physically shaking just because he suggested it. It pisses me off and it scares me. This is not my idea of ""handling it"". My proposal was to lay down the law. Forbid drinking alcohol in any capacity, forbid her from seeing her drinking friends outside of school, and if she's caught again than she can have a little conversation with a police officer. Maybe we'll sit down and watch a few episodes of Intervention. But he says that's just going to irritate her and he's not going to listen. And I guess he could be right. His solution is certainly not the way though, right?


I just don't know what to do. I'm going out of my mind.



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parenting,WhereToLeaveTeen,2018/01/15,"What to do with High Schooler during siblings Birth What do you do with your 14 year old during birth? Do you leave them at a friends? Pull them out of school for the birth? We can try to arrange for our siblings to watch our daughter for the night, but they are often busy and with short notice I am not sure how it would work out.

They would just wait in the waiting room at the hospital, but leaving them at home alone for the labor seems a bit wrong as well. The semester would just be starting so I am not sure that is an issue with missing school, but is birth of a sibling a good reason to pull them out? I am pretty sure that our teenager would like to come and sit in the hospital for it, but I am not sure if that is even appropriate.

What has everyone else done with much older only children during birth?",5.08909090909091,5.2127223030303025,5.076515151515153,88.05477272727276,68.39393939393939,7.8121212121212125,27.40909090909091,7.1686216300943375,1.1699818181818182,640,18,137,5,10,199,92,165,0.117,0.794,0.08900000000000001,-0.4909,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,4,3,6,1,7,10,0,0,12,0,20,0,0,2,4,36,26,10,0,5,10,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,8,12,0,2,2,0,0,3,3,2,1,0,1,1,17,8,26,20,2,25,0,1,1,0,16,11,0,3,11,101,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233344499900016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003523760621254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838162338969987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063604726183712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480304271627885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076956825544208,0.0,0.0,0.13131786646595173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061761463158062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526766757748992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451997000272123,0.13785098858753436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343860618652804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910317610430155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714013522379148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102502579536984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896640002972548,0.0,0.0,0.1564621206735391,0.14420704443336751,0.0,0.0,0.10451980717856024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981317452546727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129835947525454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781679356930171,0.0,0.12510883543181722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727189249458414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5180951729600338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330425215421677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356382771653585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000488574315659,0.0,0.0,0.3904982146956485,0.15025539853776826,0.0,0.08849880486210017
parenting,neehere,2018/01/15,"18 mo not eating much My 18 mo just had got his Hep A shot on Thursday. Since then he hasn’t been drinking much milk. Prior to the 18 month visit he was drinking 15-17 ounces of milk each day but now he is just taking in 5 ounces. We are concerned as he is pretty small (2nd percentile). 

There has been no decrease in activity by him.

If anyone has experienced this and could provide suggestions, that would be great.",2.3137650602409643,4.512606084337354,3.2417921686747,90.2995557228916,78.51807228915663,5.595783132530121,22.423192771084338,6.6274283507984215,0.4821096385542165,327,10,67,3,8,104,67,83,0.032,0.856,0.112,0.8462,0,0,2,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,0,0,10,15,5,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,1,4,1,7,7,3,11,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,6,41,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774178577384887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21437579343078225,0.0,0.0,0.17316060376020245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.526056522603991,0.0,0.2747430328105702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147443700894837,0.2960227384595218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431452972333265,0.0,0.39475750888411104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731615263164945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221063801940018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018789534166825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19073504466258204,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eag1e11,2018/01/15,"Co-Parenting: Missing school to see parent who doesn't get weekends off. Parent 1 has the child living with them, and parent 2 lives 3 1/2 hours away. P2 hasn't been able to see the child for the holidays due to a family member of p2 passing, and p2 other child being sick. Now that the holidays are over, kids are back in school, but things have finally settled for p2. P2 only has 2 weekdays off, and is requesting that the child miss those 2 days of school since they never got to spend time with the child for the holidays, and because the the child is a straight A student and they would be able to make up the missed days (which doesn't seem like a valid reason at all to me). Trying to be as general as possible and if more info is needed let me know. There are no court orders in place here, we just try to talk to work things out whenever we can, and things are good between us. I just feel p2 doesn't take school as seriously as they ought to, or am I being too hard about missing 2 days of school? The child rarely ever misses school. Just wanted people's opinion about this scenario.",8.015890410958903,5.938004493150686,7.606707762557079,79.5325273972603,63.42922374429224,10.769132420091324,31.94566210045662,9.120678840339163,2.403711963470319,860,22,178,11,10,272,128,219,0.092,0.8390000000000001,0.069,-0.4881,4,0,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,4,1,11,8,0,0,15,0,24,1,0,2,3,33,40,14,0,5,6,3,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,8,10,12,0,0,5,4,1,1,6,6,0,0,2,4,11,2,34,31,2,25,0,5,2,0,21,11,0,4,13,117,21,8,0.21184064259933866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951562854480324,0.08144618900819972,0.0,0.0645680447473999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049295340062033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581099466838702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985225225413788,0.0,0.05355649699867266,0.0,0.0,0.11603053463938495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055338996179034525,0.0,0.0,0.08884094015055648,0.084714156948841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948838030131432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043101804562317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821103853058899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831070485023878,0.0,0.05174731874493107,0.0,0.1870591685157041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070263695230353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853857613218691,0.08169228156698749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055717730087496,0.0,0.0,0.3528359459350892,0.0,0.0,0.07343181417697821,0.0,0.1106641917669526,0.0,0.0,0.11940924744465735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890373130066126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6431821198280202,0.16880956505121691,0.09642588242216196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761838432948535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963889967072114,0.08513474207021313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21110626485751555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617629911384975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382589073996266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274091048983207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247454980344112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711125541109748,0.0,0.0,0.07524275724880318,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motsanciens,2018/01/15,"Jeffy on YouTube Please tell me someone else has come across this Jeffy puppet character on YouTube. It's totally inappropriate for my six year old, and I forbid him from watching it. But it's fucking hilarious. A puppet wearing a diaper outside his pants with a helmet on and a pencil stuck up his nose making guttural hurrr sounds and smacking his hand on his diaper crotch. I can't help it--it cracks me up. So when my six year old makes Jeffy sounds, I just about die laughing while trying to tell him to stop that and that Jeffy is inappropriate.",7.102,7.2038684857142865,6.968333333333334,76.27250000000002,64.14285714285714,9.666666666666668,31.785714285714285,9.2995712137729,2.6401428571428567,441,15,82,7,6,140,68,105,0.116,0.777,0.107,0.009000000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,4,0,3,5,4,2,1,13,8,8,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,5,13,1,13,7,1,15,0,0,1,1,9,7,1,0,7,51,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20414566785196786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245957923840916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797450951996234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21909318654232515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588492204601349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163849700015581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4973617112496812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601435568110169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008006291306427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981340259405349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142789394527593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090047022541745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052272321558036
parenting,Lemondoodle1,2018/01/15,"How did calling your daughter ""Sis"" or ""Sissy"" start? So I'm not asking so much for advice but something that I hear a lot and I thought this might be a place to  get an answer. I always hear, ""Hey Sis"" or ""Let's go Sissy"" but was curious if it started out of habit as a nickname or because they are a sister? It doesn't always seem to coincide with the ladder.",2.152799999999999,3.47006528,4.074333333333332,88.11550000000004,76.2,6.066666666666666,24.5,6.42735559955562,0.7585999999999999,276,9,58,2,6,94,59,75,0.0,0.951,0.049,0.5122,0,0,1,0,0,0,13,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,16,17,11,0,1,7,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,7,11,2,5,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,7,2,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21703984718925484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696207091194757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20763954362053508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353940271665208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267955130193643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604145024592695,0.0,0.1262282109632708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5006602107443243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271188878692006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882695667518534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23561983862739305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327379274340365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320539617557369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20219736551256912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098839226271412,0.0,0.0,0.314416169456643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763277075545197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myh8462,2018/01/15,"New Parent Help Hi Redditers,

I’m about to be a father, for the first time, and I am wondering if anyone has any cool recommendations for things to register for gifts at our shower.  I’m young and more pulled towards modern/tech stuff.  I hate just having the traditional products that don’t have any visual appeal, hence the modern note.  If anyone has any links or product recommendations I’d really appreciate it.  To be honest, I have no idea what I’m doing so any feedback would be awesome! 

Thank you!",3.2507368421052654,5.965799178947371,4.635000000000002,78.7525,78.26315789473685,6.747368421052633,22.13157894736842,7.908726449838941,1.3680315789473676,402,12,70,7,10,133,69,95,0.058,0.76,0.182,0.9114,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,1,0,1,3,4,1,0,4,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,18,6,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,5,3,9,14,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,4,5,45,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6086521882994417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312913456917595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19032835804683848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22091460454250827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998020581544574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25259543666347856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161067771113362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484566713996719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334504235691964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561492654089304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600621432694247,0.0,0.0,0.14865480822570482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047503269506674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24265590100921094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589511944149567,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shal1217,2018/01/15,"All-Inclusive with baby and toddler? Am I crazy? I’m expecting baby #2 any day now and a few months ago my husband and I proposed to my immediate family (parents and siblings) that we go to an all-inclusive resort for the holidays next year instead of exchanging gifts. Everyone agreed and thought it was a wonderful idea. Baby #2 will almost be 1 and my oldest will almost be 3. 

Fast forward to now and my husband and I are seriously thinking that perhaps that was a crazy suggestion. My siblings don’t have kids yet so our two kids will be the only ones on the trip. I keep thinking of nap and bedtimes and don’t really wanna be spending money to be confined to our hotel room for a few hours during the day and calling early nights for the kids to go to bed. I know my parents would be happy to help but I don’t want to impose on them either...

Has anyone gone down south successfully with a baby and toddler? How did your schedule look like? Did it work out? Would you do it again? ",2.9584303721488614,4.882363168367351,4.679939975990397,82.04489195678275,75.4795918367347,7.264825930372149,27.345738295318128,8.124751697461798,1.9516972388955576,775,31,146,13,17,262,114,196,0.039,0.858,0.103,0.9064,2,0,0,0,0,0,21,3,2,1,2,7,4,0,0,11,0,23,0,0,1,0,34,35,15,0,5,2,4,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,3,6,16,0,2,6,3,3,5,3,1,0,2,6,1,18,3,21,18,3,27,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,3,18,104,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151681752574236,0.0,0.3426908137836325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163630164490278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964650562140322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472596816307412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22070804393175766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350623820109986,0.0,0.0,0.1613105357219333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449543843636027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215345362266014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469374129807793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685122840075847,0.0,0.0,0.1931662615625804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520935001017529,0.0,0.0,0.09403947931390087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359739034902497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369220533372853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658112646365833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198109956672529,0.16057838503389055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595090488006753,0.1301394924330553,0.0,0.0,0.38000248150560695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961966024154772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21928518412699466,0.0,0.1358449689161545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671529807987654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092714856476424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556524164961674,0.12457263246197328,0.0,0.0,0.2431081764707385,0.0,0.0,0.11019145419977587
parenting,Jelese111,2018/01/15,"Going to be moving houses how to make the transition easier for young children. Also bonus question involving puppies. As title states, we are going to be moving from our condo into a nice big house. How can we make this transition smooth for our girls (3yo and 1yo)?

Also we are planning to get a puppy when we move. Should we let 3yo pick it our just surprise her? ",2.9482857142857126,5.431854971428574,4.155714285714286,83.07928571428572,77.85714285714286,6.2857142857142865,21.42857142857143,7.447530270364453,1.0492857142857142,288,8,50,4,7,94,50,70,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.89,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,5,0,15,12,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,3,9,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,2,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285486593720432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732349113784684,0.0,0.23348988231277926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740542858559941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21005590586647596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742389401435411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6549869715231093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301174544629169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ella8749,2018/01/15,"My mom thinks that now that I am a 30 yr old, single parent of an amazing 1 yr old I should no longer have a social life. Should I not? Anyone else have this problem with their parents? First of all let me say I love my mom to death, she's amazing, watches my little one while I work for barely anything, adores her, goes above and beyond to help me. I don't know where I would be without her. 
My LO's father and I lucky enough to have a semi great co-parenting relationship. He takes her every other weekend and I get time to go out, be social with my friends, recharge. 
I do not go out when I have my little one or on the weekends I have her. I dedicate that time to her. 
My mom seems to think that because I'm now 30 I should not be going out all weekend, on the weekends her dad has her. I usually don't drink on my weekends she's away I play video games, read, take a bath, see a movie, go to a concert. So it's not like I'm partying.
Is she right? Anyone else deal with this and how did you handle it? ",0.8475000000000037,2.529099120370372,2.6618148148148184,95.2146666666667,80.94444444444444,5.245925925925927,20.522222222222226,5.985473137389443,-0.10048999999999976,774,21,181,5,20,257,119,216,0.064,0.795,0.141,0.9545,3,0,1,0,1,0,27,0,1,1,2,7,10,0,0,9,0,20,3,0,1,2,29,35,9,1,5,6,7,0,1,1,4,1,2,1,0,9,10,1,0,4,12,0,4,8,1,0,3,1,4,38,9,22,26,4,31,0,0,2,1,29,12,0,3,16,122,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477279272767725,0.2414524943466217,0.09696042618611234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070102610282144,0.0,0.0,0.07182538975545984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147301585854466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154242274898825,0.0,0.0,0.1968563329566505,0.0,0.0,0.12174533752244733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927314647747047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022239183823177,0.0,0.0,0.09103176325584708,0.0,0.06155901088200625,0.0,0.2678520061869672,0.0,0.0,0.1299031356440427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897601339846128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647538662024919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048465492476053,0.08322370303132295,0.057563634646135974,0.23618440234279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634220068465604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139877422678685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24727628538406424,0.0,0.1596833465144865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26166276146524386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274318275852405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785748136413847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650059519635706,0.0,0.1006224152680333,0.0,0.09369964317952686,0.0,0.0,0.0938917451479864,0.10726399745541038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402167141618751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718036935835355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099576876378176,0.0,0.0,0.13741010521041788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976824781223262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357967000924495,0.0,0.08577843724558376,0.0,0.0,0.08369992287691765,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hakuna_masquata,2018/01/15,"Can anyone suggest some meals or foods that I can freeze for my 4 year old? I’m coming up on some very busy months ahead. I’ve gotten into a horrible trend of buying my son McDonald’s too often because I just don’t have the time to cook something healthy that he will eat (he is picky). Thankfully he likes green beans, broccoli, peas, and corn all of which I can cook in a minute so that’s not much I worry about. Although I do wish I could get him to try more variation of veggies. He likes meat (steak, chicken, pork loin). And he hates mixed foods (pasta with sauce, casserole, soups). I think I might be able to get him to eat turkey veggie nuggets. I don’t know, I’m kinda rambling now. 


Parents, how do you put decent meals on the table for your kids when you have very limited time??",3.955951972555745,4.821136773584911,4.296329331046317,90.00514579759864,71.2012578616352,7.039679817038309,25.14636935391653,6.980632752743323,0.8428691823899372,613,17,131,5,11,192,111,159,0.055,0.83,0.115,0.8102,1,0,1,0,0,0,26,0,3,0,2,8,4,1,0,4,0,14,9,0,1,1,20,25,7,0,2,3,2,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,5,9,1,2,2,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,2,16,3,17,20,5,15,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,6,10,72,20,0,0.17842575946164918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247594396211303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876668687979653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369799287976008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245845029394105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651481919378981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43150627316450063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644019013413551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615849786930138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980581311633926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743396268794586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892815343998486,0.0,0.0,0.1424177389212489,0.0,0.13116346313532082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872278201116427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981206906171341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936716978440226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373608667274887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427046705548473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432802214662527,0.0,0.0,0.2080829904080725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211393785000071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944398756261011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518081780115835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120001972577565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149003391749892
parenting,Tdawg90,2018/01/15,"Tantrums and Timeouts for a 17-18mo My daughter has been discovering that she can throw tantrums to garner a response  (more so with my wife).  

I plan on utilizing timeouts, though with a child that can't fully communicate and understand 'a 5 minute timeout'. When I do put her in timeout, which results in more crying/escalation, should the timeout persist until she calms down, which may span upwards or 45 minutes, do a structured 5, 10 15 minute timeout?

My thinking is to do the timeouts until she calms down.  Though we can't fully communicate via words, communicate via action/reaction eg *Crying = stuck in this corner, as soon as I calm down I get to go do stuff'*",4.901451612903227,6.9447462419354835,5.4234193548387095,78.26512903225809,70.45161290322581,7.540645161290323,32.561290322580646,8.238735603445708,2.6618283870967745,530,25,91,8,10,170,79,124,0.06,0.8809999999999999,0.059,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,2,5,5,2,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,0,12,17,11,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,0,12,3,17,13,2,16,0,0,0,0,8,9,0,2,4,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567774640997477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969455419911164,0.0,0.18459128131687155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32651363305971715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718182042527074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081186758786256,0.6382285506997667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381281746352301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anastasiaisdead,2018/01/15,"Toddlers on theme park rides. How to keep them safe and in their seats? Hi all, I am a FTM and we are taking our son to WDW for the first time in March. He is 14 months, and we've never taken him to a theme park before. He gets really squirmy, and this may be a strange fear, but I'm super nervous about him not sitting still on the rides. I know it will be distracting, but I don't want to assume that I can keep him contained for 10 mins on Spaceship Earth. Have any of you taken toddlers to theme parks? How does it go on the rides? Are there any safety precautions I should consider?
Thanks!",2.3729268292682946,3.8312164146341487,3.1175691056910573,94.61879268292685,75.91056910569105,6.220813008130082,21.243089430894308,6.742157984588678,0.17928357723577326,461,11,105,4,10,145,84,123,0.079,0.7959999999999999,0.124,0.8695,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,1,2,2,5,6,0,3,6,0,12,0,0,2,2,21,23,8,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,4,2,0,0,4,3,3,0,1,2,0,13,3,15,16,1,18,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,2,7,64,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665355583641003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22932282052879674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358393842719065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30326000562736105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292347331704627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080150328632665,0.0,0.1531618384905177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790841427505131,0.0,0.0,0.14810897014554789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151106123666196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078533556031408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264722332081806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522133079047226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026288434547841,0.0,0.0,0.2481174117052613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714636332805704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895681412438772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,liabenn,2018/01/15,"2.5, almost 3, year old lying. How to handle it? I have two daughters, one is 5.5 and one will be 3 at the end of April. The last few months the younger one has been lying and it’s only getting worse. I’m not sure how to handle it. I know it’s age appropriate but I want to teach her that honesty and trust are important in our home. 

It started a few months ago. I saw that someone had grabbed some of the cat food out of the bowl and put it on the floor. This isn’t something the 5 year old would do. My two year old is standing there too. So I say “Looks like we have a mess of cat food here. Can you help me clean it up?” Right away she says “E did it”. Sister yells from the other room that she didn’t. The younger one, L, says she didn’t do and starts crying. I thought it was a weird response but just cleaned it up with the two years old help. After we were done she said “Sorry” I took this as an omission that she did in fact do it and thanked her for telling me and said that it made mommy happy to hear the truth. 

So we had a few instances like that. There was no consequence for the lying and I mostly just ignored it and praised the times when she did own up right away. It wasn’t happening a lot. This month though it’s happening all the time! Every time she does something she blames it on her sister and now has even started to assign a punishment to her sister. 

This morning we were having breakfast. The little one spills her milk, which isn’t a big deal in our house. I can’t think of a time when anyone had a big reaction to spilled milk. Right away she says “E did it.” E says “you did it. I saw you do it”. She yells and says “no, you go to time out”. Time outs aren’t even really a thing in our house. We do “breaks” where the girls go to their rooms and it’s hardly ever, mostly for hitting each other. I think L has been on a break maybe two-three times since we started doing it with her at two. My husband and I didn’t even react. I think we didn’t even know what to do. I don’t know what to do. My husband takes the two year with him to get a towel and they clean it up together. The whole time she is adamant that her sister did it and getting more and more angry about the whole thing. She does say sorry at the end and I said “Lanie spilled her milk but it’s all cleaned up now; let’s finish breakfast”. Cue major freak out with more “E did it”. We have a no yelling or tantrums at the dinner table rule so I take her and sit with her in her room holding her while she calms down, which happens fast. This isn’t one of those instances where I use the “take a break” term. I just picked her up and said “I can see you’re angry and we can’t yell at the dinner table. Let’s go calm down in your room”. 

So my question is how do you handle lying? I want her to know that we appreciate honestly and truth in our house but she is 2. The fact that it is becoming worse is worrisome. The last few weeks it is every single time she does something! The things she does aren’t even “bad” just typical two year old things. Its like she afraid of being punished. Which is weird to me since we don’t even use punishments very often. I don’t see cleaning up a mess that someone made as a punishment. Could this be the start of sibling rivalry? At this point I haven’t had a conversation about it with my older daughter because I have been trying not to make a big deal about it, hoping it will go away if we don’t, but my husband feels like we to acknowledge that it could be frustrating for her that L is always blaming her and that we understand that she isn’t doing this things L says she is doing. ",1.808006323915901,3.298693731931672,2.8631124753613686,95.7139788313075,77.51511169513797,5.860060775295664,20.82623603810775,6.401486528781402,-0.008490653745071963,2794,68,655,21,64,891,267,761,0.13,0.773,0.097,-0.9797,3,0,3,0,1,0,68,18,6,2,1,33,29,6,1,46,0,81,9,0,10,8,104,131,42,0,7,13,9,3,4,0,3,0,17,10,1,67,47,9,2,12,0,0,6,23,14,0,12,34,25,94,15,74,85,20,106,1,0,5,0,93,48,0,10,51,457,161,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044094083320512574,0.0,0.049810333279061716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139008117386112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034781395245919895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869403839928667,0.0,0.04153324730319366,0.03032281274622432,0.05493712966502956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943132288573686,0.0,0.05464024459407565,0.0,0.1025655001981466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412140295379314,0.050904261435990264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811489741454788,0.0,0.0,0.19712831480414408,0.04499530474749257,0.08382108448317918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02515150700610106,0.035536340749798216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029863458513344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796584325569775,0.0,0.1130801552899408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131962457903263,0.052952246561271336,0.04455987172405488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606386831678235,0.0,0.06668324039391109,0.0,0.04989618877160907,0.049405927749796776,0.0,0.1721898987532399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934959719048194,0.08109421215456054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173097960249493,0.0,0.09720748166126962,0.04985545800866969,0.0,0.0,0.041771511516473785,0.0,0.0,0.04228963838751139,0.0,0.0941358775073161,0.033203774860401235,0.0,0.0499734332402664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911293484067295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609840518725807,0.0,0.2022424757401816,0.03783172019866978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04702312286298158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050005357873991976,0.05572343698116705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03186657821540819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274405053686518,0.18926757188602933,0.3164604320777639,0.0,0.0,0.07927730893579135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229568888274838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842940027327841,0.11488355377708198,0.0,0.1113662176380714,0.17604141833917636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046882098591658115,0.0,0.11220142029132144,0.0,0.0434774908394905,0.04579658308212682,0.0,0.0,0.1652348764746887,0.09561973357788067,0.048872150887041305,0.0394903096542859,0.2610493875166182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526619692310439,0.03377216678953583,0.0,0.3401411268177356,0.05178411762311296,0.0,0.08592379637406362,0.0,0.04104310552135732,0.058679307465654536,0.0,0.03990075735989558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107235239251433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138453821325648,0.03533593199996888,0.0,0.0,0.192196796789332
parenting,ILikeBubblesinMyWine,2018/01/15,"Oppositional Defiant Disorder? Parents, does anyone have a kiddo with this disorder? I'm trying to figure out how to handle my nephew. He's only 3, and I strongly suspect that it's more of a lack of effective discipline versus ODD, but I'm not sure exactly how to deal with him. He's funny and playful, loud and wild, and everything is fine until we ask him to do something he doesn't want to do. Eating is a nightmare because he only eats like 3 foods (which are junk food) and by now his parents just give it to him to prevent a tantrum. I guess they've taken him to a therapist to address his eating issues. He's rough with other kids and it seems like he does the opposite of what we ask him not to do, for the sole reason of being obstinate. I know some of these behaviors are normal for a three year old, but they seem exaggerated with him. 

So, any parents who have dealt with this have any suggestions? I feel like he does better with me sometimes because I enforce rules a little better; but I also don't want to overstep my boundaries. I'm not the parent so I don't want to push my own style of parenting on someone else's kid (although, my SIL did that to me when mine was little). Anyhow, any tips? Thanks in advance!
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parenting,Jearpu,2018/01/15,"On the fence about having a third, how do you decide? Not sure if this is the most appropriate place for this post, so if anyone knows of a better place please let me know. My partner[29m] of 9 years and I[26f] have two children together now. A 5 year old and a 4 month old. He is an only child and only wanted one, I’m one of three and wanted three. So while the two we have seems to be a fair compromise, I can’t help but feel like our family is incomplete. I can’t stop obsessing over it and just be content, not a day goes by that I don’t wonder about what our life would be like with another child. Our relationship started so young this wasn’t something we discussed when we met and not something we realized would be an issue later. I realize that his reasoning: finances, retiring sooner and ability to do more things with only two are way more reasonable than mine “but don’t they make you feel like your heart is gonna explode?!” I’ve also spent the last 5+ years focusing on parenting and realistically won’t get to focus on building my career till our youngest is in pre-k. I don’t want to wait 5 years again to have another and out of building my career again. So while I know that we probably won’t have more children, I don’t know how to accept it and move on with planning our lives around being a family of four. I’m not really even sure what I’m looking for here, I guess I’m just venting or looking for reassurance that I’ll be okay from someone who’s been in my shoes. Thanks for reading! ",5.812312964020556,5.234531860841429,6.621153626499144,79.96646487721304,66.96116504854369,10.118484675423568,30.474205216067013,9.627879704456738,2.491160898534171,1191,38,250,22,17,396,168,309,0.033,0.8490000000000001,0.118,0.9727,1,0,2,0,0,0,30,10,3,1,2,18,11,0,1,13,1,32,3,2,5,2,61,58,26,0,7,11,1,2,3,0,5,1,0,0,4,13,20,0,3,14,1,2,1,13,1,0,9,4,4,29,10,33,42,4,34,0,0,2,0,27,11,0,8,23,169,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280688353284077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171571256164033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240280665314235,0.0,0.0,0.09217921186252934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157933267661132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677955928838132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683921349412538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523070010831414,0.0,0.104713435784984,0.1479486829252284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409928531119598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140692249019599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270426412135214,0.0694056941521304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807666819001564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276279512941681,0.08440501770848764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058843153748734,0.07313864843565614,0.15176420720468514,0.0,0.09143432322901522,0.0,0.1739076106954934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911874795057599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826506118206903,0.11005458566392468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731132651443327,0.0,0.1403329065681738,0.23625757709257394,0.0,0.0,0.11497722417077845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21637015838756488,0.11366403994537715,0.0,0.0,0.09916986409497217,0.0,0.11164169847948044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357550290401436,0.0,0.06633516812405885,0.21292811355043575,0.0,0.1111712435516766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426573817247344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773544503792095,0.15943182023869876,0.0,0.0,0.07329144035101076,0.0,0.0,0.08657033107071603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951845517309181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533260890845846,0.0,0.0,0.06879234561561269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303452530119805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322496220768186,0.08219117106422016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229282663059582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711431984905515,0.0,0.0,0.26672473255509005
parenting,GUDifferent,2018/01/15,"Parents, what's your experience with learning/teaching a native language? **If a parent spoke a native language, did you learn it? How?**

**If you speak a native language, are you teaching it to your child? How?**

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Searched through some [old](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/3nlfmv/bilingual_parents_of_reddit_how_did_you_teach/)
 [Reddit](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3z63dg/serious_redditors_who_did_not_learn_their_parents/)
 [threads](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3umzxa/redditors_who_never_learned_their_parents_native/ )
about (not) learning/teaching a parent’s native language, and it seems to be a [very](https://www.duolingo.com/comment/3804223/Anyone-else-sad-their-parent-s-didn-t-teach-them-their-language)
 [common](https://www.chinese-forums.com/forums/topic/36856-angry-and-upset-that-my-family-never-taught-me-mandarin-advice-please/) [phenomenon](https://www.xojane.com/family/immigrant-grandparents-languages-and-love). 

These are the most commonly cited reasons:

* The dropped language was deemed “useless” 

* The parents thought it would hinder learning English (or other local majority language)

* The local population expects parents to speak English (or other local majority language)

* Parents’ desire to assimilate: intentionally leaving native language behind

* The child didn’t seem motivated to learn; parents too busy or no idea how

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 **how'd you guys do?**

When I encounter children of multi ethnic and interracial families, many of the children express regret, and sometimes even anger, that their parents didn't teach them their native language. 

would you be interested in a place to talk about language teaching/learning in a multi ethnic home? if you already know a community, can you share?




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parenting,fuckface94,2018/01/15,"I think were parenting him right 10 year old son has been doing yard work in the neighborhood for spending money recently. The first house months ago was our good friend who is injured and still waiting on the VA hospital to get their crap together. Anyways the other day were driving by his house and the kid ask ""is Finns knee any better? I want to come help do his yard bc I know hes hurt and I like hanging out with him. Ill even do it for free."" 

Im so glad hes empathetic and wants to actually help others. Makes me proud of the little weirdo.",1.946265356265357,4.1508676396396424,3.122031122031121,90.65218673218672,79.81081081081079,6.55888615888616,21.8026208026208,7.686295010490155,0.8412090090090092,432,13,92,7,11,139,86,111,0.107,0.679,0.215,0.9205,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,4,4,9,1,0,6,0,12,4,2,1,0,13,21,5,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,1,4,7,0,1,2,2,3,3,0,2,0,1,4,0,13,8,11,17,0,16,0,1,0,0,16,5,1,0,9,53,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.18699469303028948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986067157135765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030901729874975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913999673203088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694734189111968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650647349161707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357985033532926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656402483363338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299293276485452,0.0,0.0,0.1480460982389603,0.0,0.1001141914269726,0.0,0.0,0.16072280855999074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568793621024153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422103774094199,0.20513450554644475,0.0,0.20698382653593872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531002470229373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361646094739444,0.19205482779388489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279086687321648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295024926439402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20107426204217224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21277271528008626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892028616808103,0.0,0.0,0.16364349588555158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302897346279645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278315621132566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260463495976901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950254826497066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339779897148714
parenting,SuzNajar,2018/01/15,"Im a new mom and need advice on feeding my Son My Son is 11 months old and I feel like I am failing him as a mom. He still mostly drinks milk only. He has baby food once or twice a day. He also has Gerber puffs sometimes. 

I know I should be feeding him more than I am but they say milk is still the main source until 12 months so Im conflicted. 

He has 8 teeth already and he wants to chew on everything. I feel like I should be transitioning him to table food soon but everytime I try to introduce something I have anxiety and near panic attacks. Im so paranoid he might choke. 

He's a growing boy. I feel like he needs to learn how to chew now or he'll have problems later but Im struggling to find the middle ground I guess. Im just an overly anxious person in general and I only want what is hest for my Son. 

Words of advice or encouragement are greatly appreciated. ",1.0090341237709666,3.1437018351648365,3.1875477154424523,89.27061017929441,82.84615384615384,5.809600925390401,21.666859456333146,7.0608816371341465,0.6460505494505502,682,22,145,9,19,232,108,182,0.156,0.7390000000000001,0.106,-0.8909999999999999,0,0,2,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,1,9,10,1,2,7,0,16,10,1,1,0,32,26,17,0,7,7,5,3,3,0,4,0,1,0,2,1,5,9,1,6,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,4,19,5,16,20,3,19,0,1,0,0,22,7,0,6,14,83,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104542180277808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883146412027833,0.08611448803984008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237761336372479,0.12165174930860086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250557246029685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944697486851338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548887365653002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967790222849354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334410007002018,0.2307874274948745,0.0,0.0,0.09842080471599426,0.0,0.26042272803235034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872148301570976,0.11862555966905698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5815835089873338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059180057420832835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782621502740818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423521886034313,0.0,0.2522353211808747,0.17190394854784194,0.0,0.0,0.1596919609263066,0.0,0.10400143395886044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129957609177938,0.11467945569853935,0.0,0.1637963691653022,0.0,0.1263434324851981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402511358769536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103038604808436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563427311561135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290005004034691,0.10650177452943696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719924283026428,0.0,0.0,0.11257421662010886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311005513259049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702908376271213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nisenihonjin,2018/01/15,"Night-time potty training tips I have a child (3.5F) who is virtually completely potty trained during waking hours (95% of the time). She's even usually able to make it through a nap without being wet. However, she does not have nights down at all. I tried for a little bit with waking her up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, but I quit doing this after a while (she would be dry when I'd wake her, but even with going to the bathroom, she'd still be wet in the morning. Plus I figured it wasn't that great for her sleep).

I've seen some people on this subreddit saying that it can take up till 5-6yo until their kids were completely night trained which is *fine* with me if it actually takes that long. My concern is that I'm doing nothing right now to promote dry britches through the night when she's virtually 100% dry during the day. Any tips on things I can do to at least start the ball rolling in the right direction would be greatly appreciated.",4.107623982235381,5.32864804145078,4.765703182827534,85.44871761658031,71.1761658031088,7.5868245743893405,27.257216876387854,7.957251820313856,1.5367071798667655,764,26,156,10,14,245,117,193,0.024,0.931,0.045,0.5925,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,0,1,2,6,3,0,0,14,0,19,4,4,1,1,15,27,9,0,3,5,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,13,4,0,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,4,16,3,30,17,4,34,0,0,1,0,13,14,0,2,18,105,29,1,0.13109089897827694,0.0,0.1279258073132802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914630660369899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311730943911408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27489262693999755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845427849614993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471852910186922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731686048548768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490039577606145,0.0,0.0,0.2890563578301565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909812924289532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313875195910831,0.0,0.11601132040575747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750419300551299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6150996417503766,0.0,0.12578525311075356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088192346803152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943130736110462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22390182291789104,0.0,0.10424874447093986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118557125774774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927868130179786,0.0,0.1046893612610695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19712808313598326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870909683195493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644015739931738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900211537364364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437810484186467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263669486254199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624642690506396,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Snoochey,2018/01/15,"Is your child your ""mini-me""? My son is my mini-me. His body proportions (like head size, leg length, short wide feet, etc), eyes, hair colour and texture, smile, nose - everything is me. He has a very similar laugh. His thought process seems similar to what I remember when I was young. He has the same strengths in all the areas I did as a child. It's completely mind boggling. Everyone I talk to (I live in the same town I grew up in) always comments on how he is just like me. All the old ladies who remember toddler and child me are taken back by the similarities. 

He just doesn't take after his mother at all. Maybe his stubbornness. 😅 I don't think I'm stubborn (and I'm sticking to it!).

Just wanted to see who else has a child that is totally them inside and out. I'm looking forward to raising this little dude because I feel like I just understand him on some next level. Maybe this is common even without the mini-me syndrome; I only have the one so I wouldn't know.",2.271128205128207,4.293945574358978,3.581666666666667,88.67916666666667,77.87179487179488,6.7948717948717965,24.679487179487186,7.793537801064563,1.2901794871794876,757,27,157,12,18,247,121,195,0.011,0.898,0.091,0.9264,0,0,0,0,0,0,36,0,2,1,1,9,7,2,0,10,0,16,7,7,1,4,31,30,8,0,2,5,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,4,8,5,0,2,8,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,7,24,5,17,25,8,23,0,0,4,0,22,15,0,2,11,97,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405208210642167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985749386875645,0.0,0.10294704487718803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875864504971336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706637364649055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107669872899267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834467849819134,0.11154295854493017,0.0,0.0,0.16137108082523172,0.15177751742097706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539027504328081,0.12064716082105705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733185317447704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928114583521996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475171843571937,0.16926108128377235,0.14912321327998038,0.0,0.14181579085897486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339323222915292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051960486889653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796046869522378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721005716201174,0.0,0.11443675207148317,0.1284400569851037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826138752152934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457466411607605,0.15374106005334018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697595862544306,0.1357385088366485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821081678856412,0.0,0.13407102811397445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580895035985716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393428261872722,0.09960918450385577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279328835370674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ayeemitchyy,2018/01/15,"Do kids really say the darndest things? My daughter is 5 years old. Today I was hanging out with my friends. He was in the back seat with my daughter we were on our way to eat and they were having a conversation and I over heard my daughter saying why is your teeth yellow and your breath stinks. Was she being truthful or just plain mean?? 

I told her hey we don’t call out people like that, it’s not nice. And she said sorry...  just surprised me she said even said that lol. I mean she’s not lying but still I guess I have to teach her to not point things out like that? ",0.2257062146892644,2.562286203389835,1.3780000000000001,99.19440112994353,89.50847457627121,4.1636158192090384,15.493785310734465,5.6839178017228535,-0.8774051977401127,444,9,101,3,15,139,77,118,0.027000000000000003,0.8420000000000001,0.131,0.8774,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,3,2,1,0,5,7,0,0,3,1,12,3,2,0,1,22,20,6,0,0,7,3,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,1,6,11,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,10,8,23,6,11,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,28,7,0,2,7,69,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697361822339052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818941566071761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822749780321682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176554557158038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762545224164466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962340647870784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405399977987165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880790709574767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18692107780538866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349529674759542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839367663000054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411684168544435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5083370747662292,0.2833177191398592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940579972853134,0.0,0.0,0.14225759361045826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366878817313203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884967053203348,0.1702141336532391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139403157516242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073772081996585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471209367276153
parenting,thecraziestgirl,2018/01/15,"17yo foster daughter begs for money then tantrums about chores My 17 year old foster daughter does not have a job right now. She constantly asks for money, can she work for money, always wanting things. So, I set up a chores list with 10 basic chores per week at $5 each, adding up to $200/month. The first $85 has to go into her savings account (she's in this program for foster kids where they match what's in her account up to $1000/year, which works out to $85/month, and her social worker requested that I make her save first, which I think is reasonable). The second $50 goes to her cellphone bill. And the last $65 is spending money. I don't ""force"" her to do the chores, if she doesn't do them I just do them myself and she doesn't get the money. Last month she complained about them and I told her just don't do them, you just won't get money. I took the chore chart off the fridge and put it in my desk. The next day she wanted spending money for a class trip so she came and apologized and asked for the chores back, so I said OK and put it back up. Chore week is monday-sunday, so that she has all weekend to do them if she wants. This evening I reminded her that she needs to either do her chores or forfeit the money, and she got angry and said it's not fair that I don't do as much cleaning as she does and that she's not my slave. I reminded her that she wasn't being forced to do them but she is always asking how she can earn money, other than getting a job. (she is working on it but is very picky about what type of jobs she is willing to work.) I have two jobs and obviously pay all of our bills, including cable which I hadn't had prior to her moving in. 

Does this sound reasonable to you? I feel like it's a perfectly reasonable offer, especially since she doesn't have to do them all, and it's not like I'm grounding her or giving any other consequence other than no money, but I'm tired of getting yelled at and feeling guilty. ",4.687116951915243,4.429801398533009,5.27972188264059,87.56264720863899,69.24449877750611,8.088060309698452,25.599123879380606,7.333567415737692,0.9809681336593314,1528,35,340,13,24,493,181,409,0.049,0.887,0.064,0.7625,4,0,0,0,0,0,51,1,2,8,9,16,8,1,0,15,1,35,1,0,5,5,53,60,29,0,6,15,2,2,2,0,2,1,4,9,1,24,19,0,0,6,1,17,7,14,2,0,4,9,6,61,6,44,48,6,43,0,0,0,0,59,17,0,4,20,229,85,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179938396285276,0.0,0.0,0.06611690889528161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27267912280264817,0.0,0.0,0.14952134745443138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120046588858867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506659877412604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270262699611269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25524897753579884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421675393469323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832061749843868,0.06945816338773565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540050887625016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318596551231727,0.09326789023255323,0.0552556885171402,0.0,0.07776039032459617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859265975025297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850408114018175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499927400061753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489900678241425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23281422665340545,0.10333568696218427,0.07147218332569677,0.0720917324274974,0.0,0.0,0.10340078959698427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202216961048202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19547765719201968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29989308607031656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303034074737216,0.1849680869594666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042622402753516,0.0,0.0,0.09910950545634037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459253150647715,0.06229839593132468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174680679945748,0.0,0.09290346181157846,0.10802149165359842,0.0,0.0,0.0949755234979478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022150477771685,0.17203896797330287,0.0,0.15597741723105013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831262936516116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522051353930927
parenting,yusoobsessedwifme,2018/01/15,"Night terrors Lately my just under 2 year old daughter has been waking up every night around midnight crying hysterically, calling out ""mamma!"".

She no longer naps during the day, she dropped them herself and she goes to bed at 630pm and wakes up at 7am. We have been on this schedule for about 2 months, the waking only started happening the past couple weeks. Dead silence then bam, crying and yelling. If her dad goes in there she screams at him to go away, and will only want me. She also wants me to cuddle her back to sleep but she takes an upward of an hour to fall back asleep. She's not talking or playing, just cuddling quietly.

Occasionally when I go in there she has poop in diaper which is very unusual, she has not pooped in her sleep since infancy. I'm wondering if she's teething her 2 year molars, she's having night terrors? 

It's wreaking havoc on all our sleep schedules.",5.113421052631581,6.364386614035093,5.355804093567251,82.04493421052629,68.82456140350878,7.571345029239764,28.869883040935672,7.793537801064563,1.803974269005847,705,25,131,8,12,223,115,171,0.14,0.8540000000000001,0.006999999999999999,-0.9703,0,0,0,0,1,0,21,2,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,5,0,9,12,10,0,1,19,18,11,1,4,8,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,7,0,0,1,2,0,3,3,3,0,0,2,3,24,1,23,15,1,38,0,0,0,2,24,15,0,4,19,85,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165681595868824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976168913207425,0.0,0.0,0.13695094735532967,0.22416846290896816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884228812680514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128611940993515,0.3202318557844037,0.094006319187009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281323792252982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568313451882205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288994436920189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354909114456188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442918691043984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163481741810357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4103715292596531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529557707550073,0.0,0.0,0.22172159104957392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914911662005688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057825404041027,0.0,0.4376105905430743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317316569220727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959708455572892,0.11716032697435222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027133064558446,0.17195186135667093,0.0,0.11692383216333516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807584559013232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877356680010756
parenting,Hanasmf,2018/01/15,I am at my wits end with bedtime for my five year old I am desperate for help.  Every night when I try to get my five year old to sleep she becomes hysterical.  She screams that she wants to play more or watch a movie.  I spend almost two hours every night trying to get her down.  Some nights she runs around the house screaming.  Sometimes she runs around laughing maniacally.  She ignores me when I tell her it's bed time.  She ignores me when I tell her to put pajamas on.  If I put her in bed she runs out of her room screaming or laughing maniacally.  Any advice?  It has been several weeks of this and I am losing my mind.  Some nights I'm up until 11:00 PM trying to get her to lay down. ,1.5689285714285717,3.7098986071428577,2.975714285714286,91.53928571428571,80.78571428571428,5.7142857142857135,21.42857142857143,6.868970318607317,0.37578571428571417,535,16,117,6,14,174,81,140,0.154,0.769,0.077,-0.8176,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,1,5,11,2,0,2,0,5,1,1,0,0,15,10,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,4,5,0,2,0,1,1,5,0,8,0,3,1,4,28,3,22,9,3,31,0,1,1,0,17,10,0,6,16,74,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193954936350835,0.0,0.0,0.1352025837444081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181792941864399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403920647543857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911849379927455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958725240881132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275196018242264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116264388942156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050076359854553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329670669543061,0.15579444179247756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105234867198733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363312637722872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5068268346123572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833606266520626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714638967681628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525336686855146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351170674522211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353779524602347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23602608973885106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873099003463746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27500825077866337,0.0,0.13189448900046302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963803351044828,0.0,0.10830454512707106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389633704940438
parenting,Pickleodeon09,2018/01/15,"My 3.5 year old refused to eat dinner. The following morning, we (almost) couldn't wake her. A few mornings ago, my 3.5 year old daughter went to bed at normal time after refusing to eat anything for dinner. (Not that she wasn't hungry, she just didn't like what was on the menu.) It's not that uncommon for her to eat very little at dinner, and on rare occasions she will wake up and her hands will be shakey, which my husband and I always figured is from low blood sugar. She gets up, we eat breakfast, and she's fine. 

So, in the morning I went into her room to wake her up, flipped on the light and she didn't react at all, which she usually stirs or covers her eyes. I did a few things, she still didn't stir, so I thought she must be really in a deep sleep. My husband popped his head in the room to say good morning and I said she was still sleeping. He proceeded to use the bathroom and get ready for about 5 mins, like normal. Then he came back over to finish getting her dressed and take her downstairs for breakfast. She did ask me for a sip of water and I gave her one, but her eyes were still closed. I was talking to her and tried putting her shirt on, but she seemed asleep and wasn't sitting up on her own. I thought she was just being silly, but when I lifted her to put her shirt on, I realized she was out cold. I rubbed her a little and my husband came back in the room. We thought it was odd/sort of funny just how sleepy she was, but when we started really rubbing, shaking her a little, she finally popped up and said, ""What?"" and then that she was hungry. At this point we were concerned, she was still pretty limp, wouldn't sit up and my husband went and got her some toast with jelly and milk since we figured her blood sugar was probably low. She's not diabetic or anything, but her hands were shaky, she was still really weak and out of it. I asked if she felt ok and she said she had a fever (temp was fine). She was covered in sweat when I went in to wake her, and she said her head hurt. She was laying on my husband and not really holding her head up, but practically inhaled the toast and in between bites seemed like she was falling back asleep. After about 30-40 minutes of still being sleepy but awake, we decided she was well enough to go to my parents' house like normal for the day, and by then she was chatting and walking and acting normal. 

Other than not eating dinner the previous night, nothing else was different. The last thing she ate during the day was before leaving my parents' house, about 3:45 in the afternoon. We gave her a full plate of food for dinner like normal, she just didn't like any of the options and chose not to eat it. We've enforced that she is served what we eat and she can chose to eat or not eat it. She doesn't get a special meal. 

I did call the doctor that morning and the nurse didn't seem to think I needed to bring her in, but to keep an eye on her and dress her lighter for nap. She asked if my daughter was drinking more or peeing more, which she wasn't.  She seemed more tired than normal in the morning, laying her head down etc, and definitely sleepier before nap time. Otherwise, acting pretty normal, ate a normal lunch and dinner that night.

Do I need to be more concerned? Force her to eat something at dinner? We were offering her a fruit/veggie baby food pouch if she didn't eat anything else, but we told her after Christmas she needed to eat real veggies because she's a big kid. Otherwise, she eats almost no vegetables other than occasional carrots. She's a picky eater, obviously, and mostly eats bread (and oatmeal, cereal), fruits, and dairy. She sometimes eats chicken, but it's usually processed chicken like pattys, and even that is not frequent. Will occasionally eat french fries, but no other potatoes. Won't eat eggs, won't eat any other meats/fish/beans, and rarely will eat pasta: only boxed mac and cheese and canned chicken noodle soup.

I'm worried about her nutrition, but her pediatrician didn't seem concerned. I don't want to keep enabling her by giving her baby food pouches for her only vegetables. She's almost 4! But I want her to get some greens in her. Her only real protein source is from dairy and peanut butter. We offer her all kinds of things and have since she started eating solids. We gave her what we were eating and usually fruit, yogurt, etc. She's still extremely picky and seems to not like a lot of textures. If we can get her to taste something different, she often gags and spits it out. 

Up until this point, I just figured she'd eat when she's hungry, but after this incident, I'm more concerned that things are out of whack.. her sugar levels, or iron, etc. Any tips for picky eating, etc? We use a sticker chart for when she eats most/all of her meal. Should I be more concerned?",4.703991882259769,5.588649851108767,4.946356751583952,85.95450344838966,69.49630411826821,7.439341341077085,26.623696541710665,7.413659706084162,1.264993149419218,3767,112,754,36,64,1185,345,947,0.065,0.902,0.033,-0.9755,4,0,3,0,0,0,135,16,0,0,1,30,22,0,2,33,1,68,84,24,4,4,162,123,78,0,21,37,9,6,8,0,9,5,5,4,1,33,68,55,5,16,4,0,16,27,6,1,1,60,25,142,16,103,46,21,118,0,3,4,0,143,54,0,25,54,506,175,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027874231765347184,0.0,0.09446333858700656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026164887180907304,0.0,0.0,0.06415134914453856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776300474250107,0.0,0.08819092273377359,0.0,0.0,0.07253814739209333,0.0,0.019168674040044763,0.0,0.053515020087772106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03210901805488143,0.07192975827663849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040559045927553466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570698642601043,0.0,0.03218544760626015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030804279665037886,0.0,0.7722298290068902,0.052536782494489884,0.0,0.0,0.03249124994390479,0.14027863562731038,0.02076922767779009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030192279138046164,0.03444662922496283,0.0,0.0,0.11407081525337764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857277081340568,0.03016505706963972,0.017871005695377157,0.02637470330438834,0.0251495622561022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908719989303308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256697171230488,0.033662687765068734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589979545844485,0.0,0.032745289023058836,0.0,0.02563199747224248,0.0,0.033295877807638416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290011126692214,0.09454891586246307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02673354547633473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994854984397318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059018293828708,0.24647659617472345,0.030172473382863562,0.0,0.06599279904359867,0.0,0.021308050185185612,0.07174636986334085,0.0,0.0,0.06983224455895098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05945166908157001,0.0,0.0,0.06398205279333657,0.03390319451274923,0.0,0.0,0.06322213004212095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715829390380412,0.08057828351148733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196461694433602,0.025006448609494983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717589234493773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05202351273599326,0.0,0.06293572671042716,0.0,0.0,0.048416031704029916,0.03110006139708651,0.0,0.04451408375512273,0.0,0.17578498445570118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02364284244114974,0.02527442369691576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356305237771201,0.02014878500982229,0.0,0.07489181955236279,0.03667184439311079,0.03614157880113722,0.0,0.030047192238677075,0.0,0.021349195479738115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054317033804282884,0.10389718391488516,0.025945545286791445,0.03709433313849665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028272969894071288,0.11659989132621268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03193408031276767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040499296465102995
parenting,ElleAnn42,2018/01/15,"Favorite Picture Books with African American characters? My 5 year old is doing the ""reading challenge"" at our local library. She's not quite reading yet, so she's signed up as a pre-reader. She got to select among the topics for her next ""challenge"" and picked ""African Americans.""  To meet the challenge, we need to read 25 books out loud between now and mid-March featuring African American characters.

I picked out a few while we were at the library (and we own Ada Twist, Scientist and The Snowy Day and maybe a few others... I'll have to dig through our collection)... but we definitely don't have a list of 25 books.

Any suggestions of good books to read? We live in a suburb of a major city and have a really good interlibrary loan program.

Thanks!",4.253723404255322,6.4098646737588645,4.558457446808512,83.30875,72.47517730496455,8.104255319148937,30.18971631205674,8.841846274778883,2.576975886524824,593,26,110,12,12,186,91,141,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.9587,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,0,4,3,6,0,0,12,0,7,0,0,2,0,20,10,10,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,14,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,13,6,20,8,4,15,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,0,7,68,14,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222150947193207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642638270497616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276827445361198,0.13198421591629425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571860581348162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578809521264393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223626931239937,0.0,0.0,0.17550416199193067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316420359916168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552260296400007,0.8253398366497507,0.0,0.10571815784352333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519312919712643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626960093134842
parenting,SpongeDot,2018/01/15,"Child (9 y/o f) throws a fit whenever her mom drinks alcohol I babysit for the family late at night when her mom goes out with her friends. She doesn’t drink often, but when she does one of her 2 daughters starts calling her and spamming her with text messages. She then proceeds to throw a fit and starts throwing things everywhere and locks herself in the restroom and cuts up her clothes. She won’t listen to anyone either. Wha should I be doing and what should her mom be doing?",5.594078014184396,6.2679114574468136,5.081702127659575,86.53333333333335,67.40425531914894,7.9687943262411345,30.56028368794326,7.793537801064563,1.8557432624113472,383,14,76,4,6,116,65,94,0.073,0.853,0.07400000000000001,-0.2263,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,4,0,8,3,0,0,0,13,11,9,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,2,8,3,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,15,1,10,6,1,17,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,1,8,51,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20892063676487807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366919902352732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996183692114708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710756637566458,0.0,0.0,0.3830138972770055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429170212059048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510360137505616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22052258504563385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6868707811140586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345524530824225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246989433849374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27673935063827154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298756646299533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Octopuswiggles,2018/01/15,"Old racist comics—how do I explain them to a nine year old? I love old Donald Duck comics and bought a lot of them for the kids for Christmas and most of them are wonderful but... they were written in the 50s. 

The one we read tonight was “Land of the Totem Poles” and it was full of racist stereotypes of Native Americans. You know— they said things like “scalpum pale face “ etc. 

I told the kids that it was written in another time and it would be really offensive to native people but I’m having a hard time explaining in words a nine year old understands, just what is a stereotype and why it’s offensive. Any thoughts?",3.615702479338843,5.46774548760331,3.562057851239672,91.0758140495868,73.46280991735537,7.4846280991735545,25.32314049586777,8.238735603445708,1.3859712396694217,488,16,102,8,10,148,77,121,0.133,0.813,0.054000000000000006,-0.8688,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,5,0,1,4,2,0,10,0,10,2,1,0,0,18,22,7,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,7,6,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,10,2,10,2,12,10,4,14,0,0,0,1,14,5,0,3,10,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471487984045488,0.17688601177580113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18813376933717813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511129678733475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927075276918297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241333785863818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341407458715108,0.15224917202555344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7080464663867043,0.0,0.11430860531649692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694829912192975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873549577854696,0.0,0.10806703484065358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046267304692666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207003797004657,0.0,0.0,0.13392089481431782,0.196728811436464,0.0,0.0,0.1611903768120362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561207875979568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221634790716532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829369420629058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983242658671152,0.0,0.0,0.21726146010505706
parenting,TruthAndTimeTellsAll,2018/01/16,"Leaving the house with a 5-month old? First time mom here of a 5 month old.  She still naps after being up for pretty much an hour and half on the nose, which makes it really hard to go out and do anything with her.  By the time I get her up, change her, feed her, and get her ready to go it's already close to the hour mark and she'll be getting fussy for her next nap, and she will not nap on the go. This makes it so we don't get out of the house very often and I feel awful about it.  I also live in Canada and it has been extremely cold this Winter.  
I'm just not sure how people get out and about with their young children when they still need so many naps.  ",1.293298368298366,2.6453274615384643,2.4253321678321704,98.89902389277391,78.58041958041956,5.326107226107227,16.81177156177156,5.46131890053228,-0.8582675990675992,509,7,126,2,12,162,88,143,0.047,0.912,0.041,0.0116,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,1,12,1,0,0,9,1,8,2,1,3,1,26,21,13,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,16,1,0,1,4,0,3,3,0,0,2,1,4,15,1,22,16,1,27,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,1,15,84,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609071400085711,0.11660578354709004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999083125433435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424973533397818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372691560583522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402759125546725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809036932628766,0.0,0.24860491650859734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306188890076974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871908471353769,0.33649488359956503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154393827699535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875464512547213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19466125082160168,0.14783045632736974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077322256703525,0.23277145427591844,0.0,0.10718857880041503,0.10811773171878132,0.0,0.0,0.1550726893739178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060102786240397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108766386912167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483431986972685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341088476981683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328912628165189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742606061152438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170048270160194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031014985465804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ox344,2018/01/16,"Force eight year old girl to play a sport? My daughter is eight and is signed up for her second season of lacrosse this spring. Last year she enjoyed it and seemed to have fun. Now she is saying that she doesn’t want to play and hates lacrosse. I’m torn if I should force her to play or let her pick something else to do in the spring, or let her do nothing at all.  Any advice Reddit community?",3.28777777777778,4.438088333333333,3.223148148148148,95.9991666666667,73.07407407407408,5.893827160493827,22.141975308641968,5.46131890053228,-0.12434320987654335,309,7,71,1,6,93,57,81,0.055,0.772,0.173,0.8611,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,1,12,14,6,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,9,5,10,11,1,11,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,4,8,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609852107535621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816219759418716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310912490972715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26368390856216245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177039496592752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5462100308702439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562682301116845,0.0,0.2802530902326387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21239088506988946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431374825199629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20560944070415146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752933112163628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439785295087844
parenting,thewalter,2018/01/16,"Better way to take care of a family of 6? Working mom going thru a divorce and currently still living in the home with soon to be X.  Feeling guilty that I am now gone more than ever trying to make a better life for us and could use any hacks on making life easier.

- Meal planning for all 5 kids, any websites or useful Apps?
- Ways to let them know I am working so much so we can have our own place soon and not to feel guilty from being away from them? (before I was a stay-at-home mom)
- Current Vehicle is in the soon-to-be X's name, need advice on getting another car.
- Advice on telling the soon-to-be X that the food I cook is for the KIDS only and not for him to deviour since this is against the separation agreement. 
- A good air-mattress or cot? Since I am sleeping on the living room floor, I have gone thru 3 air mattresses and need to find a good one.

Thank you in advance.


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parenting,ADapperDan,2018/01/16,Putting our son into daycare. Any tips? Our son has stayed with his grandparents after a year and half. We’ll be moving into a new home and will be putting him into daycare. He’s very attached to us so we know he’s going to have rough adjustment period. Can anyone share tips on how baby can get used to daycare with ease and not so traumatizing?,2.2703105590062123,4.631776652173915,3.645590062111804,86.48217391304352,79.57971014492753,6.2616977225672885,22.900621118012424,7.447530270364453,1.074853416149069,275,9,53,4,7,90,49,69,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.8156,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,14,12,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,9,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,10,8,0,13,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,4,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858775586627499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911225838424131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280655226857747,0.0,0.15534290176908636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741778601603798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021807930220687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905124503883108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639891939083467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5495554813295206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29133934600953365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32878903222765576,0.2360741692570085,0.0,0.2255304688238121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17601914351476647
parenting,draekia,2018/01/16,"Age appropriate resources for answering some of life’s more touchy questions. First off, I didn’t see it in the reading list specifically, so I thought I’d ask. 

I just realized that as kiddo starts talking and asking questions, she’s gonna want to know things that I’m not sure how to explain in such a way as it makes sense AND imparts actual accurate information that is age appropriate. 

I was wondering if there are any resources/ideas the rest of y’all have seen/come up with that would be good to share. 

For example, sex/reproduction is something I can talk about at about a teenagers level (and above, obviously) but not so much at a toddler’s age. I mean, I don’t wanna go into graphic detail, but I don’t want to make it some mystical thing that leaves kids with no idea how their bodies work. 

Related, there would be the importance of consent and what that means starting at a young age. ",8.82637931034483,7.034110229885062,8.490201149425285,72.93116379310347,61.64367816091954,12.148275862068965,38.41666666666667,10.9516,3.979128735632184,716,29,139,15,8,230,117,174,0.027000000000000003,0.898,0.075,0.6672,0,0,1,0,0,0,20,0,1,1,2,10,3,0,0,7,0,13,2,1,4,2,38,31,13,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,12,7,0,0,12,1,0,1,6,0,0,1,3,1,11,3,24,23,5,19,0,0,1,0,13,9,0,6,8,91,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.14907844154247638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388671947327688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28563282837561205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968956889277592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994343318120918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682094048550666,0.12813361401958132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449104335559028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395668404811163,0.0,0.0,0.16175807197562805,0.0,0.0,0.1079037677667772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039461621648834,0.0,0.0,0.3328158428559805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230123705660958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422677440359089,0.0,0.15280822452597267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173542746412812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117607410538942,0.0,0.0,0.2162583730511651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398097990670475,0.0,0.0,0.24557646872252215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202983058730414,0.0,0.0,0.12127984138182304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18021173204595115,0.12125924151846144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566916870609907,0.1112161107330315,0.0,0.0,0.21704242208037489,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cbrantford,2018/01/16,"I found out this weekend that my 9 year old experiences synesthesia. Does anyone else have a kid like this? After my 9 year old's first drama practice of the year, her teacher mentioned to me that she had absolute pitch. Later, my daughter and I were talking about it and she told me that when she hears notes she feels like they're either closer or farther away in space and she see certain colours. She then went on to explain that it's sort of like like with numbers and letters and their colours. For her 1 is always yellow, 2 is always green, A is always red, 9 is always turquoise etc,. I had heard of this phenomenon in passing but had no idea that she was experiencing it. 

It's not scary or unpleasant to her, but she was very surprised to learn that not everyone experiences letters and numbers and music this way. Anyway. I've been reading about it and it's apparently not super uncommon. Anyone else have a kid who has synesthesia? It's pretty interesting.",4.3659099099099095,6.304903681081086,5.038378378378379,80.90693693693694,71.64864864864866,7.527927927927928,29.09009009009009,8.238735603445708,2.1233495495495496,771,31,141,12,15,248,106,185,0.037000000000000005,0.823,0.14,0.946,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,1,2,4,8,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,0,1,25,22,14,0,0,8,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,2,18,10,0,0,5,3,0,2,4,0,0,1,11,10,20,8,17,11,2,22,0,0,6,0,24,8,0,3,15,95,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4649256357219239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19534586351834765,0.2862532413634151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124125153454658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222417026996098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333824032103867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578878048541295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347764368939827,0.0,0.273282872296954,0.0,0.0,0.0706303300968201,0.09979296576473468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188183398085054,0.0,0.15316042205338848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574382610456881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769048152127185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729775403100342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931576184169731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211267358073215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397255644457374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131306163810133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227573258340287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347764368939827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525703372242853,0.0,0.11087764430211823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294919557294716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698630184960502
parenting,rainbowsandreddit,2018/01/16,"What are your rules about soda for your teenagers? I'm pretty lax about soda in my house. They can have it whenever, within reason. I don't let them have a rediculous amount, like more than 3 or 4 a day. But recently, my neighbor told me that she only lets her daughter, (who is the same age as mine) is only allowed to have a maximum of 1 can of soda per day, and she can only have it with dinner. So that got me thinking. How do other parents of teenagers feel about soda? The reason I specify teens is because I understand that the limits would be different for a six-year-old than a sixteen-year-old.",3.492859744990892,4.668412803278688,4.7851912568306005,84.89906193078326,72.60655737704917,7.38943533697632,26.67030965391621,7.793537801064563,1.52460364298725,470,16,94,6,9,156,82,122,0.0,0.944,0.056,0.7236,3,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,2,2,1,5,1,0,0,8,0,17,5,0,4,0,14,23,6,0,1,2,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,8,2,5,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,15,1,15,17,3,6,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,5,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087389040089033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300809222690835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863693251490956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901943803467318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14266692783857512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20582678162184176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648116458821853,0.0,0.08714754717657412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743599909670104,0.0,0.0,0.40699850230949386,0.0,0.0,0.19807008356338826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18147677513981456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36680907499807397,0.17612891095655284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429881871338765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044990935486434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857000616180168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671616416218484,0.0,0.0,0.22974197910335314
parenting,sethbob86,2018/01/16,"3 year old won’t clean up I have tried telling her to clean up her mess. I’ve tried making it a game. I’ve asked her to help me clean. I try taking toys away but she suggests other toys to take too. 

I offer rewards but she’s not interested. 

She puts herself in timeout voluntarily and asks to do that instead of cleaning. 

I’m at my wits end. What do I do?
I get that it’s developmental a good sign she’s starting to say no but she’s just trashing the house. ",-1.3041287878787884,0.6799048686868723,1.3645391414141417,96.30014204545456,101.32323232323229,3.687121212121213,18.30871212121212,5.602791699666715,-0.4565106060606059,358,12,84,3,16,122,66,99,0.077,0.764,0.159,0.7884,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,13,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,6,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,16,3,11,12,0,10,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,0,4,50,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4267127513048929,0.0,0.21442169303613565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021365858118032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192363594054641,0.0,0.0,0.1914214387886624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297211867226768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633370691111118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233968110452975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394801639439653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294257295765127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814909656643543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153641351762354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431884609208491,0.0,0.19947572580405876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4648424289609258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469672191153847
parenting,mankypants,2018/01/16,"Dinner time woes with toddler Our almost three year old refuses to eat dinner every night.  

We finally decided to clamp down.  Don't eat your dinner - no milk or dessert afterwards (or beforehand), even if it means watching everyone else eat ice cream afterwards. He seems ok with this. 

His uneaten dinner gets wrapped up, and served for breakfast.  He will then reluctantly eat his dinner from the night before, and follow this up with two bowls of porridge and a glass of milk.

This has been going on for several weeks now.  

He doesn't tantrum.  He seems to understand he has to eat his dinner, before getting anything else, even if it is for breakfast.  But, I feel like I’m turning dinner time into a chore. 

Anyone else have any insight, or tips about this battle? ",4.274901098901104,6.819162885714286,4.455714285714286,82.29851648351648,73.71428571428571,7.4505494505494525,27.1978021978022,8.384062270229773,2.1476153846153845,604,23,104,11,13,188,92,140,0.066,0.885,0.049,-0.3544,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,1,0,0,4,5,2,0,3,1,8,17,0,0,0,23,19,10,0,2,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,8,17,1,7,0,0,2,3,3,0,2,1,3,7,2,19,17,0,19,0,1,2,0,12,5,0,8,13,59,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710834636575608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632102177273847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875679689260506,0.13006121729911202,0.1044577410039327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21602684631419253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6494375096176062,0.3181169161246169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768042871909986,0.0,0.1069492888107206,0.12129305322639408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418279609255519,0.0906833022636216,0.0,0.1390524877953533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263793215652964,0.0,0.07214081195341701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062014653561540525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382708192305247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382421957377413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319827062993436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311160399344157,0.0,0.14340186300263486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803512882505085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380702196379001,0.12399829890306105,0.13214514189670334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182062541809066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174280117012242
parenting,TheShallowPond,2018/01/16,"When stuck inside all day with small kids (ages 2, 4, and 6), how do I keep them occupied without resorting to screens? What are some of your go-to activities? I'm especially interested in activities that don't require my constant participation :)

I'll usually set up something artistic (e.g., put out paper and markers), or I'll get out some toys (dinosaurs or cars or something), and hope that they get their own make-believe game going. 

But it's so hard to fill up a 12+ hour day!",7.0138709677419335,6.507231247311831,7.7779784946236585,72.42696774193551,64.48387096774194,10.880860215053763,37.95483870967742,10.355215969177356,3.842984516129032,378,18,73,8,5,127,74,93,0.042,0.855,0.103,0.7703,0,0,2,0,0,0,23,0,1,3,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,18,10,10,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,2,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,6,2,10,9,4,18,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,6,7,38,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28164229075856817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701399894126512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224333363886642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612088675788262,0.0,0.2841392275978941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22393332412872072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24828692733203914,0.2461803248631917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22219405241070814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668638483556812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512993323300872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848942271697899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27531807750853404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24097217091384115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theoriginalsauce,2018/01/16,"Our Child’s Mom Says She’s Not Happy At Our House My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. We all get along really well and take the co-parenting dynamic very seriously.

The mom came and picked up our 9 year old on Sunday and during that time we were going over modifications to our parental agreement to submit to the courts. The mom says something to the effect of “she doesn’t like to come here more than she has to” when we were discussing right of first refusal.

Yeah our feelings were hurt. We don’t see it that way because at that exact moment our daughter was laughing loudly playing with her sister. She seems happy unless she’s gotten into trouble (obviously nobody likes that).

So, husband and I want to talk to her and ask her if she’s happy and (I’ve explained this to her before) if she doesn’t like something somebody does or she feels like something is unfair, it doesn’t matter who it is, she needs to explain those feelings otherwise we don’t know and that’s unfair to her because we can’t fix it if we don’t know about it.

Conversations with kids in split households can be tough. You can’t say “your mom said” or “your mom did” and things like that. I’m wondering if anyone in here has dealt with something similar and how we can go about A) making sure her mom was telling the truth and not just being hurtful and B) that our daughter is happy at every home she’s at.

Many thanks.

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parenting,nicqui,2018/01/16,"Toddler’s breath smells. Any suggestions? My son is 26 months and non-verbal (EI is involved, he’s not on the spectrum, and he understands language well).

Our current toothbrushing routine is he will lie down and fuss (but open his mouth). I have to hold his hands or he will try to grab the brush.

*(He’s willing to do it himself, but that amounts to him brushing one tooth for 3 minutes)*

I spend as much time as I can, but it’s rarely more than 40 seconds, and I can’t really get his tongue. Afterwards, his breath still smells. :(

We use Tom’s of Maine Kid’s strawberry-flavored fluoride paste and Dr. Brown’s toddler brush.

Is there a “mouthwash” or something I can convince him to *drink?* Or any suggestions?

Thank you!

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parenting,thatwillbeanewacnt,2018/01/16,"Found out my 15yo daughter's boyfriend is 27. Lawyer tells me I don't have a case When my daughter asked for my help to get her on birth control I was just glad she was being responsible with her health as she was just starting high school.
When she asked me what she had to know before and during having sex and she was 15, I thought oh well, if she's going to anyway... Tried to let her know I wouldn't get in the way
but to consider all the things that might not make it a good idea, but otherwise told her how I imagined a sex life should ideally start and maintain so that she'd be as safe as a sexually active
teenager can be. And I accepted there was definitely someone she intended to use that wisdom with. She has since mentioned a boyfriend here and there. Not a surprise.

However we had never met the boyfriend, and it's much more of a surprise to learn that he is a 27yo adult leaving in a neighborhood nearby. He is apparently an engineer living alone in a house he bought recently.
Likes the same music, TV shows, video games and outdoors stuff as her. Just doesn't acknowledge anything is off here.

I started to talk to her about how they were going to cut all contact, and she told me she didn't want to and we couldn't force her to. I told her I didn't want to just let her see it but he was going to jail
for this and she told me to try and we'll see about that.

I have a friend who's a criminal lawyer and I gave her a call. Bad news. She told me I have no say in my daughter's sex life, and either what happens is illegal and I can report it, or legal and I'll just have to
let it be my daughter's problem. In this case, she is 15 and consenting so it's legal. She brainstormed with me a few other angles to press charges on him. She asked if she spent nights at his house (obviously without
telling me) but no, she had a few unsupervised nights out that I suspect she spent with him but it was not under his control and we had approved the night (aware that she'd see her boyfriend but trusting we had taught
her to be safe.) She asked if he was waiting to pick her up outside her school but apparently not. She asked if he was giving her gifts that would make her depend less on us (and therefore undermine our authority and
depend more on him) but I didn't notice anything. She might have gotten a couple of jewelry, though their ""relationship"" covered Christmas and her birthday so apparently it's questionably abusive gifts. In other words
she was trying to find ways to show the boyfriend is overriding our authority on our daughter but we couldn't find something a court typically acknowledges. I'd need to find out dirt on him that isn't related to his
""relationship"" with her, it could be enough just to demonstrate he displays obscene characteristics. That would enable to come to court and say he's voluntarily endangering her with his corrupting lifestyle.

But so far, my friend says I have nothing, laws are just what they are.

So I went to have another discussion with her, acknowledging that maybe, indeed the legal route wouldn't have the effect I thought. But we could still force them apart, by just sending her away and force her, by our
legitimate authority, to stay there. She told me he would follow her and that would be the same as here. I told her we could buy him out to break up with her. She told me good luck with that. I told her we can have
constant surveillance on her by driving her from/to places and grounding her to the house. She told me that's the same as denying her a life, and if we do that we can forget about her being honest with us, she'll just
tell us what we want to hear and lie her way into getting her life back, never forgetting we locked her up in the house. In a nutshell, it looks like she won't accept we just tell her to separate from him.

I took her mobile and decided to look through it, and I noticed that actually this guy is not completely on the same page as her. He said in their latest messages, clearly after she told him they were caught, that he
wouldn't help her destroy her relationship with us, her parents. That he will not encourage her to escalate a conflict. That if we say we will force her to break up, he will comply to our will rather than let her fight
us on it. He also says that when she'll be 18 we will have less control on her life and we will be the ones to be forced to accept a lot of what she wants if we want a loving relationship with her, but before 18 it's
the other way around and he will not help her destroy our loving relationship. So he told her she can go back to him after she's 18 and so if she wants, and all he can do now is promise her that he will be patient and
faithful to her in the meantime, and not expecting the same from her nor that she will necessarily go back to him.

I'm starting to think that looking at the situation from a distance, this guy is a little reasonable in this issue, a lot more than my daughter at least, and there may be some value talking it out with him directly
rather than just trying to submit my daughter into obediance. That would have to be me alone talking with him though, because if my husband was involved there would be no talking and the person in prison would be
my husband soon.

Think that in this horrible situation, the least bad I can try for is to talk to her ""boyfriend"" about how they must separate?

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**Short update:** I'm overwhelmed and thankful for all the attempt to help me. This is really appreciated. But I can't answer literally everwhere so I have to pick where I do. I promise I read everything direclty responding to me though. I'm doing this short update to give an idea where we're at now.

The police, as my friend predicted, is taking it a lot like ""it is not our job to find for you something illegal about two persons who want to have sex legally."" Apparently the law says at what age justice is interested to know, and beyond it it's not and they are tired to have to give explanations.

But I have since become terrified that the nuke approach would break something too big with my daughter and I's relationship. Okay she didn't want to tell me about her boyfriend but beside her love life, we were so close and loving! I gave her her mobile back, apologized for reading it, and told her we need to be open to each other about the situation, but it's making everything complicated as her dad will not be calm about it when he knows.

I called the boyfriend and he was surprisingly well-spoken, polite and understanding. He confirmed that he did not want to help our daughter antagonize us and he would break up with her if that's what it boils down to. But we agreed that my daughter is not stupid: if we decide to make him break up with her she will see it as her parents forcing the separation even if he agrees to it. I've decided to wait and see a little for now and not try to separate them until further decision, so that my daughter won't hold it against me. We've actually hugged and talked about good times again, that we had together, that she had with her friends, that she had with him. It's... not like one would imagine. It's confusing.

I invited the guy to have a meal with us, but not dinner. Too soon to involve her father that I don't want behind bars. We're all free for lunch today so that's when we'll have him. I will ask him why he's dating someone so young and what he thinks about their difference of place in life and maturity. Also what about women his age.

I don't know what next but I hope my daughter will realize it is all legitimate conversation and food for thoughts.",4.8834215666599805,5.5879685966887465,5.3937166365643225,83.55871998126966,68.99337748344371,8.61756639240083,28.8286841929226,8.725247348981721,1.974632818248712,5991,205,1237,95,99,1924,465,1510,0.085,0.792,0.123,0.9966,8,2,3,0,1,0,146,40,1,10,8,77,51,5,2,58,1,150,24,0,19,11,296,250,120,0,50,63,18,1,4,4,37,9,8,0,7,89,106,6,9,38,8,5,13,40,10,1,3,57,17,240,42,184,127,29,128,1,1,8,9,305,64,0,26,45,915,329,14,0.0,0.04012333673943829,0.0660928144899352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014584213218163,0.0,0.054162103326084836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03550938694295444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05573442073699141,0.030146165296966718,0.18994977418669126,0.0,0.03181636987129409,0.10415739163725672,0.056550099231838985,0.02064319769255801,0.03740015933970736,0.05763158875179625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915791943001644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029170862356713137,0.03550578999377189,0.03659498480591986,0.11394416372750585,0.08111301456603058,0.03746990385497687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035380702591653844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034990594261718404,0.0,0.022366871697994974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086961118980452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380443560200716,0.0,0.04094851814488951,0.037130159768488616,0.10465305884677037,0.0,0.05307767221544328,0.09745638668511886,0.09622854005546,0.0852106222774155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059213806778336,0.029945848903612682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035995879149305826,0.038167221713855864,0.0,0.11349172368609507,0.03577920577914948,0.0,0.03363462163813568,0.0,0.15629817063798074,0.0,0.07645673333041315,0.0,0.03534524800299412,0.033604823361055136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305392326631123,0.0,0.0,0.035857117007386384,0.0,0.13851305556430482,0.16743415554890478,0.06617701589636205,0.06788130668083503,0.029902557921507308,0.0,0.08531176616446003,0.0,0.0,0.08636995910172182,0.12225443282767068,0.0,0.09041800895173198,0.0,0.03402096864787458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184876631362377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024893957674148086,0.050219496654466685,0.05223605345154407,0.0,0.0360147788961605,0.0953372912835538,0.0,0.032493449031200834,0.07710884266526058,0.0,0.0,0.045894284758228036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520399307401011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059137527648397276,0.07076140518330769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03240330220408575,0.0,0.0,0.037935462496112335,0.0,0.06774638594041016,0.0,0.021694164040502614,0.034817861737826555,0.03343664313513193,0.21814376256826207,0.0,0.0,0.03221244625237013,0.16158020982239787,0.0,0.0685444102877377,0.13492623314597624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602534926656359,0.114193761935233,0.0,0.0,0.057385763559370265,0.07821055164281293,0.0,0.0,0.09587653576250574,0.03609454903692162,0.027043857209957108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038766211173171625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025461535289663426,0.16331174201750465,0.14799326930641313,0.03117744801974935,0.0,0.0,0.022497756057917977,0.06509610701611779,0.09981370932160703,0.08065276885323862,0.019746387569015787,0.03892171960117994,0.032099139764170136,0.420660900514856,0.03762418210828883,0.1379487163101462,0.0,0.03308023558289585,0.03525364834638254,0.2851398002488941,0.029247648130296795,0.0,0.0,0.19973881621960216,0.10751875954628112,0.0,0.0,0.06089565774448232,0.03139229404377945,0.030557018854208518,0.0,0.0,0.03264371540257623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24056034512067895,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Astridasteroid,2018/01/16,"My 6 y/o has social anxiety (I think) and IDK how to deal with it. I'm not sure when this happened, because she was in two years of preschool from 4-5 and had no problems then. She has also done acting and art camps. The last acting camp she took 2 years ago, she did seem rather shy and reserved (she would've been 4)... she cried after the play ended because ""everyone was looking at her and laughing"" (it was a play about princesses, and all of us parents were laughing because it was so stinkin' cute). Maybe that's when she started getting anxious...

Anyway, she goes to before/after school care, and in the mornings it's TOUGH. I'll bring her to the school to drop her off, and she'll immediately get clingy and cry. She says she'll miss me, and that's why she cries. (I'm in night school and I work a full time M-F job).

Last weekend she had her 2nd gymnastics lesson, but as soon as it was time for her to go line up with the other kids she got clingy and started to cry. I'd asked her on the car-ride home why she cried, and it was because I guess she didn't want them to start without her. I tried in vain to explain that the class starts at the same time for everyone. And then she said she was crying because we brought her little sister, and she didn't want her little sister to run out of the parents area and into the studio.

It seems she cries or gets freaked out the most when there are other kids around that she's not friends with. 

Idk. I feel like I'm at my wit's end with this crying and getting cold feet. I don't know how to talk to her when she gets worked up and no amount of reasoning will calm her down. She won't calm down unless I remove her from the situation, and then she'll go back to being her usual happy self. Let me add that if she goes into a situation where there's a good friend of hers already there, she's fine.

I just don't know how to handle this. I've asked her school guidance counselor to meet with her to try and figure it out... but for me, as her mom, IDK what to do.

**tl;dr** my 6 year old I think has social anxiety when it comes to joining a group of already assembled kids (like at day care or weekend gymnastics) and I don't know how to handle it.",2.8362745098039213,3.874442485838781,3.6858932461873657,92.68151960784316,74.03267973856208,6.358605664488017,23.303921568627448,6.37848985222837,0.3533111111111116,1707,45,388,11,34,545,210,459,0.124,0.7909999999999999,0.084,-0.8994,3,0,0,0,0,0,66,2,0,1,3,22,22,0,0,17,0,30,1,1,5,2,70,69,44,0,5,11,5,1,2,2,5,0,2,2,4,21,35,0,0,12,5,0,10,11,5,0,1,19,5,62,17,61,43,5,68,0,1,1,0,69,25,0,7,34,246,83,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05962302700982141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844889198562616,0.05378878577345672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290932219675,0.07598605102894303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987675985503393,0.12576035129127833,0.0,0.0,0.05171973835440242,0.0,0.20500912449412867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371546247517608,0.0,0.0,0.05793959871482919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5910664713132221,0.043377932550547324,0.0693433804274724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883159657615888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914698102072165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854198598169872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03400930167120308,0.04805144012076056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039317274839814,0.0,0.17570609736489898,0.0,0.0764522204047099,0.056415533196811876,0.05379495450507494,0.0,0.07409583406387238,0.0,0.05947888846868241,0.07160083596713954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746850340877464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667463977105968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089504808519636,0.10965376843160883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687791704443198,0.0,0.06572088439301321,0.1348268563757672,0.0,0.0,0.056482497692137784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757295164069814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877554616140939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312011316841408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057935215853639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937128450911874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435991859897867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915575249470897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398083768188008,0.05348883418258613,0.0,0.27228784515533383,0.0,0.122464205390003,0.07016813781549397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120889380087202,0.0,0.13712871848478586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904313948733559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339291850766722,0.0,0.0,0.05406203332973216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619656770947827,0.0,0.0,0.11766170205999825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472970756472135,0.0913319275983661,0.0,0.06570445369860367,0.0,0.08090698471657579,0.0,0.0740787483693415,0.0,0.0793448388191068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138560654699825,0.0,0.0,0.06483743085336294,0.0,0.0979339611246867,0.0,0.0,0.047780451919980316,0.0,0.0,0.12994209135583282
parenting,mamakluh,2018/01/16,"Toddler still isn't talking? My son (18.5 months) hasn't started really talking yet. He's known a few words since he was like 9 months (mama, baba, papa, uh oh) but nothing new has been said at all. He rarely ever says the few he knows (and I don't think he knows what they mean either).

He's always thrown tantrums like no other, and he doesn't respond to his name EVER. 

Should I be worried?",1.4091249999999995,3.5104036625,2.617500000000004,94.10750000000002,81.125,4.5,20.0,5.148860815047168,-0.280125,303,8,64,1,8,97,61,80,0.116,0.821,0.063,-0.6381,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,1,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,3,15,15,3,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,2,5,2,2,10,4,9,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,10,32,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883648825824028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095442702766857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24882318965136624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22119400771820247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465923366461124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613860027810736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21863757534011696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172160868375924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450237374175308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21533760591826973,0.18002511241736133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18726247127085266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023172776979236,0.0,0.1807860049113537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639086092051973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450540755750985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22989815499303504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dralkyr,2018/01/16,"How to childproof an ethernet wall jack We purchased some excellent Safety1st boxes to cover standard outlets around the house, but there is one that we can't. Our Internet comes to our router from a standard ethernet cable which is accessible to our 15-month-old. He hasn't damaged it or himself, but we don't want that to be an option. All the outlet covers and boxes we have found are uniquely built for standard 2-socket outlets. How can we childproof an ethernet cable? Everything I've found in my Googling is for an unused ethernet port. That does not apply.
",5.905266990291259,7.989425776699027,6.042900485436893,74.66978762135922,67.93203883495146,8.645145631067964,35.20509708737864,9.188382445141503,3.6106126213592233,457,23,71,9,8,145,70,103,0.013,0.933,0.054000000000000006,0.6281,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,2,1,23,14,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,2,0,10,1,10,11,2,4,0,1,0,0,10,3,0,3,0,53,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25922188378286976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25083541529040965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548233614313477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617038539117215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6385521916656508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33599552236143343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324260194795094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055561567961533,0.0,0.19731867772735207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175210078946734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nayson9,2018/01/16,"What is the least miserable option? Hi r/parenting,

I could use some advice on an issue that I don't think has a ""correct"" answer. 

DD (16 months) has a bit of a cold. She is mostly fine during the day, but at night the mucus builds up and she has trouble breathing. Last night she woke up very frequently to cough.

(I clean her nose with a nosa frieda before bed, use a humidifier, Vicks, and elevate her. It's just building up while she sleeps.)

So the question is - what is the better thing to do:

1) Wake her up to use the nosa frieda. This will clear her nose, but she absolutely hates it. Con: She'll cry and it will be difficult to get her to sleep again.

2) Wake her up and play with her to let the mucus drain and I can wipe it away. Con: It feels mean to wake a child and this could take a while.  

3) Just let her sleep as best she can and shush her throughout the night. Con: I'm worried she'll choke when she wakes up coughing and if she has a big coughing fit she might throw up. Also, she is sleeping fitfully and parents don't get much sleep.

What would you do in this situation? Or am I missing some magic ""help my kid sleep better"" remedy?

Last night we did option 3. I'm thinking option 1 might be better since then she'll sleep more comfortably. But if we have to do that more than once it could be even worse.",0.6195967741935462,2.8765575441176487,2.1047296015180272,95.60051707779888,85.69117647058823,5.127324478178368,17.23007590132827,6.532088108194933,-0.2937636622390896,1020,23,230,11,31,329,143,272,0.099,0.762,0.139,0.9072,2,0,0,0,0,0,44,2,1,0,4,7,12,1,1,17,0,35,17,14,3,2,44,50,22,0,6,8,1,1,0,0,8,3,0,2,2,15,13,0,0,6,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,4,31,7,24,32,9,29,0,2,0,0,31,14,0,12,14,152,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881299140367021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212269252083989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473386816392424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674268722558039,0.0,0.09464593019723512,0.2392898187967473,0.09846109315015382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160214854937802,0.0,0.09906643354398263,0.058163300147903725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059567812587169575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04560137158721801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423820710627637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904121473912989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060450596918604126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413203318361772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702925360042135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444509912108875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824032904873067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134879048700146,0.0,0.0,0.07198658382837034,0.0,0.06629798861945965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33853841082039265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604645292644062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002844843805765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103033409802176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460380580491599,0.10137422138462024,0.6317665110901376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678095704573758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059916385920434766,0.11557666639744528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336784212783557,0.0,0.07441390710778527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158950639501924,0.09190848880625194,0.06406641817209505,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jessie_James,2018/01/16,"I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired, my kids bring home every little bug and it floors me. How do you boost your health? I have a 5yo, 3yo, and 1yo.  The 5yo brings home the latest and greatest bug every two weeks, or so it seems, and everyone gets sick.  

I'm 48, though, and it seems like it takes me longer to get over these bugs.  He's sick for a day, I'm sick for 2 weeks.  

I'm in average shape, 6' 4"" 200, and actually eat pretty healthy.  I take L-Lysine which is supposed to help, and *seems* to cut down on the duration and severity of my symptoms.  I also wash my hands frequently and only use paper towels to dry them.  I actually eat pretty well - lots of fruit, veggies, yogurt, real food (fast food maybe 1-2 times a month), and lots of water.  

But ... what else can I do?  Anything?  What do you do to keep healthier?",0.8584705882352957,2.8229799058823564,2.7476470588235284,93.17441176470592,82.29411764705883,5.882352941176473,18.23529411764705,7.048011613610866,0.04429411764705904,624,14,142,8,17,208,107,170,0.135,0.741,0.124,-0.4696,1,0,0,0,0,0,39,0,3,1,0,5,3,1,0,6,0,8,17,1,2,0,23,23,18,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,10,0,2,1,8,12,6,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,2,14,2,15,22,3,17,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,6,9,74,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.24577952124733884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070637729659107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362986772050334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121459480755187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577161733255244,0.10519856681056428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122033378424222,0.12033175273045547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304550721984204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131586718533237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385796947020173,0.0,0.0,0.08440839364573129,0.0,0.2526366216384569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119325944227523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615231603091372,0.1262151959060548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141227944570392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265138646489124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051632597074484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577563153682817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562326787394263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433361968003984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34392651635442256,0.0,0.14226534051963946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130889750010631,0.18936775508837414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372583353833642,0.0,0.0734309428419964,0.28947659994591185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301555815195996,0.0,0.0,0.10876330521784107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202730485811288,0.0,0.11322642046632672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shutupmeggie,2018/01/16,"I think I'm ""the scary mom"" A kid at my sons school asked my why I had ""that naughty thing"" in my nose (it's a septum ring). I asked if his mom wore ear rings to which he responded yes. I told him I didn't like ear rings so I have a ring in my nose instead. His parents are pretty wealthy and we live in the rural south so I hope I don't get a phone call.. ",-0.17919860627177894,0.8905265853658548,1.7858885017421606,103.12304878048785,81.92682926829268,5.173519163763067,17.811846689895468,5.288315135182226,-0.9202738675958192,268,5,76,1,7,89,56,82,0.069,0.775,0.157,0.7802,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,6,1,5,4,4,0,0,5,13,4,0,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,8,16,2,5,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,1,41,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4385776822526424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395195267504303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255177748584868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329783406902045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459777607459885,0.0,0.20712729882611675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5494449736966187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604593223637593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386393594999898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23739471703049114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15583614800303888,0.15030130918049409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241391889619937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166058074579244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acesaidit,2018/01/16,"Adjusting to a new daycare and developing anxiety My daughter (almost 5) had been attending the same daycare since she was 12 months old.  We were all very happy to be there.  About a year ago I noticed that the director was stopping a lot of the ""extras"" like special meals/activities on holidays, class pictures, and outings.  Then there was a problem with allowing staff to take their vacation and the director fired my daughter's teacher (who was absolutely amazing with like 30 years of experience) because he wanted to cancel her pre-approved vacation and she refused. When the replacement only lasted 2 months, my gut told me that I couldn't keep paying this daycare.  

2 months ago we switched her to a new daycare that is closer to work and has way better facilities, huge playground, lots of walks outside of the centre, and really caring staff that seemed to be well taken care of.  Daughter was excited to go at first, but soon missed her old daycare like crazy.  She doesn't understand why she can't go there anymore and talks more about her old friends than anyone at the new place.  She is now pretending to have a sore throat as we enter the parking lot and sometimes cries when we leave her. She claims to not play with anyone, and not do anything all day.  She is visibly relieved on weekends when we tell her she doesn't need to go to the centre. Her teachers tell me that she plays normally a few minutes after we leave and seems quite happy.

In September she'll be off to elementary school, but to her it might as well be a lifetime.  I'd love some tips to try to help her think more highly about her situation.  It breaks my heart that she has so much anxiety about a place she has to spend most of her time at (~8 hours day/5 days a week). Is two months still a reasonable window of adjustment time for 4 year olds?",8.48443204868154,7.320804028735633,7.991230561189994,74.22976673427992,61.87356321839081,11.291683569979718,37.13725490196079,10.328600350310266,3.6735731575388773,1454,58,270,27,17,460,195,348,0.08,0.7709999999999999,0.149,0.9798,0,0,0,0,0,0,37,6,0,1,4,16,20,0,0,20,0,27,5,3,2,2,49,44,19,0,5,4,3,1,3,1,2,1,0,1,0,10,19,0,3,7,5,2,6,6,2,2,2,10,1,38,18,43,27,13,54,0,1,0,1,43,12,0,9,37,179,48,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717555469588315,0.0,0.08877570609435144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356424741483449,0.0,0.08792246238157,0.12398001453249542,0.0,0.07295594648018572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054043587647393684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840861094319007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078044092689788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738393573540263,0.1715264458747573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672211908821953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541034773332622,0.0,0.0,0.06849504183637503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511549407059976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18875091846595274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505722880222174,0.059423932354185874,0.0936694339838971,0.0,0.0,0.08730783783302991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880110770882483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226608888413624,0.0,0.18774680886480505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993784001281458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261152813790307,0.08001507632447019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404950622129787,0.0,0.0,0.28305598990765346,0.0,0.06517201469897953,0.0657369514518599,0.0,0.2568721872567794,0.0,0.0,0.08686359513295278,0.0,0.10093490744584142,0.3721162571557021,0.0,0.0,0.06742652482537477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18525231701169406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483136812485245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429606798582338,0.0,0.0,0.05679500207385541,0.09115264943674023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972412850698314,0.0,0.1614173279846526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333676978385271,0.09965252919055936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768258516168315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080042003263927,0.07411999203047809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665792454045044,0.0712579560510092,0.15497768010755106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568068832717383,0.0,0.0,0.10339150389382057,0.0,0.0,0.08471415727121623,0.0,0.06019128473363479,0.0,0.08660356974467992,0.09229353236223514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315009623706145,0.052291328028323085,0.07037063239690429,0.0711141177971826,0.0,0.15942393546160968,0.0,0.0799978254960869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454228104186199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712737620972502
parenting,babyblanka,2018/01/16,"Overwhelmed teaching young toddler Hello parents, 

I need some real guidance. My LO is 14 months old and I've struggled with anxiety at each stage of her life so far. We're switching daycares (full story posted a few months ago, https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/7jn4s0/daycare_said_all_baby_does_is_cry/) and now I'm REALLY stressed. 

The new daycare has a room full of kids who are calm, gentle, and good listeners, etc. I'm terrified that we'll get kicked out for being too bad. I was up all night, my mind just spiraling. 

So here's why I'm posting. Is there a parenting book, or podcast, that has helped you learn how to teach your kids? I feel so lost, every day. I understand her basic milestones but what about the stuff that is less discussed? 

Should she be using forks and spoons? Should we be teaching her to clean up not just play? How should we react to whining and temper tantrums? How do you teach them to listen to you? 

I feel overwhelmed by all of the teaching and I feel even worse if we're accidentally teaching her the wrong things. Is there anything that can help us, as parents, learn how to teach? ",4.886686543946073,7.6141072512315295,4.038911070780401,85.13535390199637,72.54679802955665,6.047083225304641,25.4625356494685,7.0608816371341465,1.076473891625616,904,30,162,9,19,266,132,203,0.16699999999999998,0.764,0.069,-0.9689,4,0,0,0,0,0,40,4,4,1,1,16,13,2,4,7,0,17,1,0,6,2,38,30,17,0,5,6,3,3,0,0,4,1,2,2,2,8,11,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,10,0,0,2,5,22,3,18,21,9,20,0,4,0,0,26,8,0,3,9,105,30,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027199328541308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124247057098685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209363197526116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270623417827185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477763913310126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390027922891773,0.09706630522990436,0.0,0.12382091805374924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22292357874866436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678101795252952,0.0,0.0,0.12326385174300945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19700962103466607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380284778733824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042521038839908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483886408411865,0.0,0.23460561719023865,0.0,0.0,0.10896966407670676,0.0,0.14193577755893033,0.0,0.13791287311688574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15421076975798448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895481481357885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814958856341919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727370698888366,0.09414693198476247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834324355940367,0.15363546790502045,0.1682350995324626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763430872192802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529915062357349,0.176775898479703,0.1269270543956633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326093768975494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497657382438189,0.0,0.16067870165322193,0.0,0.0
parenting,solo220,2018/01/16,"almost 2 year old can't sleep by herself We have a close to 23 month old daughter that we are struggling to get to sleep by herself at night. Now this is completely our fault as my wife started cosleeping with her when she was an infant, so the habit is hard to break. 

The question we have is, is 2 yo an appropriate age to get her to sleep by herself through the night? and have anyone got any experience getting a toddler to sleep alone at night and through the night?",6.609574468085108,5.894602085106381,6.178170212765959,84.25300000000001,65.38297872340425,8.796595744680852,34.75744680851064,7.554174236665415,2.2421897872340426,372,15,78,3,5,115,59,94,0.101,0.899,0.0,-0.8195,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,8,0,10,4,4,0,0,9,15,5,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,11,0,16,13,0,16,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,12,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544465085780614,0.15043287514810194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877345770275413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015606111195542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522895131290284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208018034832307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22765787949317265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616790247773175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301134635832309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159353764575375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5452207344270532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048261820807324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271073295005814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.581410625633306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028071122648662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184449564440838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353479544228044
parenting,Hopelessmom,2018/01/16,"My 12yo daughter cut off her father when we divorced, now she's saying she wants the other way around My ex-husband and I divorced two years ago. We have a boy and a girl, then 8 and 10, now 10 and 12. My now-12yo daughter had caught her dad in an abysmal rage yelling at me at the top of his voice and calling me every name of the book at the beginning of the divorce procedure. Because of that she didn't want to see him anymore after we separated, and she just disobeyed orders from the court to go do her visits to him. He claimed he ""didn't want to force her"" after she repeated that behavior a few times and instead tried to keep a relationship with her by phone, then letters, and she wasn't responding and he just dropped the subject. It's been a year and a half since his last attempt. My son had no part in this and did from the beginning to now live in equal shared custody with his dad and me. Despite this difference I think my children have a very strong bond together as siblings, with rare quarrels they work on keeping short and genuine caring attitude with each other. Something that I'm told is very rare and impressive at their ages.

Life has not been easy since the divorce. Money is tight, time is short for a career and for other prospects with two kids to take care of, I've been unable to do much for myself since then, and I've had to work frustrating and low paying jobs. While he is living the life in our old house, buying luxury cars and having moved in a woman 20 years younger a year after who he introduced to our son.

Last week out if the blue my daughter snapped at me in a completely out of character way. She said I've made her miserable since the separation. That I've been a terrible mother and forced her to do more chores than normal so that I don't need to work in the house. That I forced her to believe false things and to keep resentment. That she didn't know better then but her father had every right to yell at me like he did and she made a mistake as a child to believe he was dangerous for it. That I lied about money and the reason I couldn't get her an expensive Christmas present was because I want the money for myself. She told me her brother is doing well because he gets to live with a real parent half of the time and he knows he can count on it. That he's glad to spend half his time with us, not because he sees me, but because he sees her. She said she regretted to have stopped talking to her dad and she would try to change that.

She told me yesterday that she had sent a letter to him asking to talk again, and to go visit him as she was supposed to. She has not received a response yet.

I can't believe my own daughter I've been entirely devoted to could tell me all these hurtful accusing things. Nor that she is even capable to make accusations like these.

But more importantly I'm terrified that she has now fixed her mind on inverting which parent she's living with and which parent she doesn't see anymore. She proved she had no problem deciding for herself against court orders whether she has a relationship with him and now there is tons of documented trails of it. Though I might selfishly prefer if she kept cut from him, my more reasonable parental side doesn't want to prevent her from seeing her dad if she wants to. And I don't think she would instantly go from living in one house only to living in another only. She would probably have trials staying at his place at first.

But I don't think I stand a chance. How am I supposed to count on her wanting to come back to me, when she gets to stay in her childhood house and room, with the irresponsible fun parent, where she'll have a young stepmother as a friend? And of course with his career he had all the time for he can buy her everything she wants.

I'm not asking for advice, you don't get advice on how to make money and time grow on trees nor fight for the love of your children. Maybe advice on how to cope with having heard those horrible things from my own daughter, and the fear of what's to come now.

I'm just feeling completely miserable and like I don't want to get out of bed, and wondering if there could be some support out there. Maybe some others' experiences that will tell me it will be okay in the end.",7.106906321650836,5.9630983826291075,6.928991156239762,80.67594988535869,64.58685446009389,10.226050878916912,33.07686428649416,9.22739947703685,2.603515088983514,3370,113,695,49,43,1068,339,852,0.105,0.821,0.07400000000000001,-0.961,6,0,1,0,6,0,62,6,2,2,8,28,34,7,3,44,1,66,3,0,9,3,127,127,61,0,25,16,20,2,3,1,7,2,7,3,7,35,57,0,7,12,1,9,13,21,17,1,7,32,15,109,17,121,83,15,107,0,5,6,1,149,41,0,8,48,478,144,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871080985027194,0.04799059323807075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0567690317364898,0.0,0.0,0.10738186702907232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04819482288517884,0.10122454640389957,0.0,0.0,0.04162923370758609,0.0,0.16501190894031742,0.0,0.0,0.1829869539707938,0.0,0.0478811830684169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055281553146205295,0.0,0.11039580070461268,0.0,0.05727144938727704,0.09327120254536514,0.11352656255224412,0.0,0.0,0.08645051716491711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056563303430486975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047950721294037116,0.0,0.0,0.035758027907080166,0.0,0.09122819360970567,0.0,0.04865627355061152,0.052957929112564264,0.0,0.06092096484221762,0.02737409763755695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046050256746525985,0.0,0.0,0.04182734010965397,0.0,0.14142589316538254,0.0,0.09230462446125197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24987465493439998,0.05795648000035464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053724196560971334,0.14436259814374303,0.0,0.0,0.05950630611107464,0.0882603527820904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647937395417627,0.0793481408524888,0.0,0.2868321994477725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04886219092060138,0.10245448519077968,0.07227585804251035,0.0,0.10877898015980933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743248822682132,0.0546645424251518,0.0,0.0,0.057540753024497085,0.03979809269928685,0.040143078278821485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05304432320010366,0.0,0.0,0.056809342804566475,0.0,0.03668570950195313,0.08234967409816929,0.0,0.0,0.30057248498740424,0.05862681688367119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056563303430486975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05837055639880431,0.051803318771624064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162156753017624,0.0,0.11132697397264248,0.0,0.1162491690835578,0.0,0.04623405980000648,0.10299639284387058,0.04305317949744925,0.0,0.0,0.21570723324100435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791360034275405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0416785313272417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540906651433205,0.0,0.045262285159116886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614358300261393,0.0,0.0,0.04070548182768475,0.08702909534340904,0.09463902731454632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790182013309817,0.10406946678794056,0.053190889508718635,0.0,0.18941188216862254,0.0,0.0,0.1551952275648133,0.0,0.0735130973189287,0.0,0.10577107099443077,0.0,0.0651220575066141,0.0,0.0,0.08934001271714287,0.2873910860155355,0.08594538512811352,0.04342671107211595,0.0,0.048677093928213434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05871099113766234,0.11824061427861625,0.0,0.0,0.11537550244364088,0.0,0.0,0.13945390706703026
parenting,mamabx,2018/01/16,"Parents of kiddos with a soy allergy, how did you find out? I'm up with a screamy 3 yo - and the only thing out of the ordinary has been some soy milk that he drank at the end of the day. Wondering if his stomach discomfort could be a sign of a soy allergy. I'll ask at his next doc appt in 2 days, but wondering if anyone has kids with a soy allergy and how it manifested. Ta!",2.1829629629629643,3.0588640246913563,4.6799382716049385,85.55472222222225,75.41975308641976,9.350617283950617,27.08024691358025,9.725611199111238,2.309483950617284,290,11,68,8,6,103,55,81,0.03,0.97,0.0,-0.2942,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,9,0,6,3,1,2,0,18,11,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,13,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,5,4,42,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19121414466296507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25565427487091985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21834075886914975,0.0,0.0,0.35272655579418505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422101618129332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499434390892705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908347395333579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798360640135205,0.0,0.0,0.3036522006786488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181679000225298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5931255372135246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,davis-sean,2018/01/16,"I wish my kids would accept me more... So we’re ultimately a single income household... I commute 5 hours a day and work 9 more...

I just wish when I was home, my kids would allow me to comfort them and not immediately cry for mom... she needs a break, and I am here now...

My breaks are their nap time or bed time... but most other times, I am working with them or for them.

It breaks me when they call for mom when I am right there...
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parenting,garlicsteak,2018/01/16,"Bigger house vs shorter commute? Hello all, recent father and now have to plan on upsizing from an apartment. All the articles online seem to focus on MY happiness and that a shorter commute is better. Wanted to get some perspective from selfless parents... Which is better for the kids?",5.2360000000000015,8.2877826,5.774000000000001,71.477,73.0,7.2,32.0,8.238735603445708,3.2364,230,11,30,4,5,74,39,50,0.0,0.825,0.175,0.8677,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,8,6,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,6,3,6,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,2,24,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5815626753682818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17177524765435592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499950062908673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793707765708633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650739754312152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246329811876985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993111725368065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19392439338547685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway3496869,2018/01/16,"Dealing with CPS? Hello. My 15 (almost 16) year old daughter's school called CPS because she said at school she likes to feel orgasms and talks about sex. When CPS came in my daughter told them she was not being abused and neglected. I told my daughter not to talk about sex at school. CPS is demanding we install parental controls on our computers and devices. They are also demanding I call her guidance counselor every Friday and ask them how is she doing. They ask me how is she doing in school and I say OK. What do I do? Can I just not let them in, given my daughter made it clear she wasn't being abused or neglected?",3.1098807749627477,5.243676426229508,3.6305365126676614,88.78756333830107,75.72131147540983,6.075707898658719,25.845007451564822,6.980632752743323,1.139727868852459,492,18,95,5,11,154,74,122,0.081,0.81,0.109,0.5686,1,0,0,0,2,0,13,2,0,5,1,7,4,0,0,0,1,14,3,1,4,1,22,23,10,0,0,5,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,8,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,8,3,24,2,11,12,0,10,0,2,0,3,31,6,0,2,4,65,26,5,0.0,0.3385927628870927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307955083997734,0.0,0.0,0.1142657721119283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26715798534453084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710189517559959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918048811268936,0.16342336074810082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025864391546438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473090494879023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038750123977268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224738499981526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611047457249673,0.0,0.06980681466463068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520205733431329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993467604049565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586578402017728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591717516880014,0.11362857237532555,0.0,0.5784324820866452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296924866971451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730671285063209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920138103454519
parenting,Ktsockmonkey,2018/01/16,"All Inclusive Resorts and Severe Food Allergy We are planning a family vacation to Cuba  this March but are worried about my five year old son's severe allergies. He has allergies to legumes, coconut, hazelnut, cashews,  and raw eggs - some of which are anaphylactic. I am especially nervous of the use of coconut or coconut oil in the cooking, but do not know if this is common. Does anyone have any experience with going to resorts with allergies? Does anyone know how the health system works in Cuba if he has a reaction?",7.347801418439715,8.457217680851066,7.84340425531915,66.73333333333335,63.680851063829785,10.947517730496457,39.0709219858156,10.864195022040775,4.81797730496454,418,22,64,11,6,138,67,94,0.117,0.883,0.0,-0.8873,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,5,0,9,4,0,2,1,17,13,8,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,11,13,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,4,4,43,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064274540892866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097870549495123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3877112766994339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669129474314536,0.20883148878476931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678656179480589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589621560902464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354678227377029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24348570143637824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324503667744087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5005142408148456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132412343295266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612708567512033,0.22496662632546147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426530841827033
parenting,TheSuppishOne,2018/01/16,"Full time daycares with irregular schedule I'm not sure if I should be posting this here or in /r/divorce, but this seems like the better place.

So.  My STBW left me with a divorce filing about 6 months ago.  She began talking to her ex-boyfriend who lives out of state literally the day after asking for a separation.  She has since moved out of state back to where her parents (and exbf) live.  Because of my work schedule and locale, I let my stxw take my daughter, with the stipulation that I'd get her every other month for 2 weeks at a time.  So now I'm trying to figure out how I can get childcare arrangements going without bankrupting myself.  In LA, babysitting runs $20-30/hour, which I cannot afford for the duration of those two weeks.

What kind of reasonably priced daycare would accept a child for such a sporadic schedule?  Are there other alternatives that I'm not thinking about?",5.968449197860964,6.841749705882357,5.985508021390379,79.6756951871658,66.64705882352939,8.064171122994653,31.33689839572193,8.00094639256281,2.198176470588236,710,27,129,8,11,224,118,170,0.009000000000000001,0.922,0.069,0.8854,2,0,0,0,2,0,23,0,0,0,2,11,5,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,2,1,23,19,8,0,3,6,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,0,5,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,15,5,25,14,1,32,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,3,16,85,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455212092034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299515467868145,0.0,0.0,0.13406557259833918,0.0,0.10628308084180416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541997690815875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244231990640463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468986926267702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218296767728792,0.0,0.09908799842274732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170114699035074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156029953639288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18943345894441485,0.1782862628822949,0.0,0.08517935587224966,0.0,0.3079112091334599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783314724995212,0.18530809517550773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19359675265797094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18216025103243624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698058062179544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926242188506725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872309432336712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422539603530365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432426359494207,0.0,0.1310906601705085,0.1401371639685431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171742717255126,0.0,0.0,0.2033315707757716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837325129219985,0.0,0.17031612083966707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27970857819969497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680686633330854,0.0,0.126929998031274,0.0,0.0,0.1238543320108331,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TalkingChairs,2018/01/16,"Daughter has Emotional Meltdowns I'm the dad of a nine year old girl. She's always had some trouble controlling her emotions. For example, she literally cries over spilled milk. My wife and I worried about how she would handle going to a public school this year (she previously attended a small, private school). It's taken us a while to figure out what's happening. Basically she is holding all of her emotions in at school and then having a meltdown when she gets home. Her teachers and counselor say she is doing fine because they don't see how she really feels. She behaves, has good grades, and is quiet at school. 

My daughter went to her first sleep over this weekend, which we were nervous about. Again, she did great at the sleepover. The parents said she was an angel and was having fun. But the moment we got into the car after picking her up, she was hysterical.

Usually the things she gets worked up about are tiny or nonsensical. We just don't know what to do for her. Any help is appreciated. Thanks. ",4.138551083591331,6.49485992631579,4.6677708978328205,81.50351393188856,73.42105263157895,7.2074303405572735,28.01857585139319,8.124751697461798,2.023758513931889,806,32,144,13,17,256,123,190,0.054000000000000006,0.8320000000000001,0.114,0.9153,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,4,0,1,3,8,7,0,1,12,0,20,2,1,4,1,24,33,12,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,7,10,1,2,3,1,0,4,2,2,0,2,10,5,27,5,22,22,2,27,1,0,1,0,34,11,0,2,12,106,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353684540539345,0.0,0.0,0.09279028238635967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831782979251307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303962332626905,0.0,0.0,0.14988327704242904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604616844974908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899292491525154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160638041153956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257837693754113,0.0,0.07754734797234403,0.11444729690516554,0.10913106340347607,0.15043596358887135,0.0,0.0,0.12066176853131665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145916776451568,0.0,0.13686989032672234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498903094202139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318070953406736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151092951371012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741299030663792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297946418564229,0.10851005281558783,0.0,0.5523763774321873,0.10873251892150013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654795880816936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256242903136505,0.0,0.0,0.0906509293716176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16413184768203015,0.0,0.1502797550350581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648997628250833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933680044141956,0.138571006042014,0.0,0.09692975067827596,0.0,0.0,0.17573790133293246
parenting,AjaKingFan,2018/01/16,"9 year old tantrums My nine year old will stay upset for hours. For example, I took him to a parade that he did not want to go to. Afterwards I took him to the park; he sat around the park and the parade mopping. We are moving into hour number 8. Earlier before we left for the parade, he threw a tantrum and started throwing things, I told him he no longer had TV privileges for the day. Now we are in the evening of his tantrum I told him he can earn his privilege back if he takes out the trash; he took out the trash but he is still mopping around. Anyone else have a child who still throws tantrums way passed the age their supposed to? What do you guys do?",2.674141414141417,4.218923296296296,3.094141414141415,94.7381818181818,75.2962962962963,6.390572390572393,23.38383838383839,6.980632752743323,0.5250000000000004,515,15,116,5,11,159,84,135,0.101,0.8640000000000001,0.035,-0.7888,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,3,1,1,1,7,7,4,1,12,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,21,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,10,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,5,0,1,9,0,16,2,16,11,0,32,0,0,0,0,24,7,0,1,14,70,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780956825262332,0.15798050599318264,0.0,0.2745142486084846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855856217804822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119987340400147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994364139704022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880158133222122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018375789658938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762675155461326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266715199968833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036818583169931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167522191458886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638739976129657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235819351611986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913276578778083,0.16434043783223107,0.2462642949222306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592775000745535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243350254962204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946602887484216,0.5139148203041066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094216546671256,0.122384684741037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857985890532232
parenting,HowardsJohnson,2018/01/16,"Getting my 3yo to bed My boy is almost 3. Up until last month he was still using the pacifier to fall asleep at night. Finally took it away from him and it went rather smoothly...the first two nights he screamed asking for it, but then he stopped asking for it night 3.

However, now just getting him to sleep is extremely difficult...he doesn't want to get into bed, stay in bed,. won't let me leave his bedside. 

I have to read about 5 stories and then rub his head until he passes out. If I get up to leave he will follow me. 


Looking for any advice , please?!
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parenting,owlflipflops,2018/01/16,"Looking for suggestions on waiting/timing for potty training and different methods/reading About a month ago my daughter (18 months) starting becoming very interested whenever anyone when to the bathroom.  She began to label everything once we started talking about it.  I read her a few potty books and ordered a seat insert.  At first she just wanted to put in on the toilet and then take it off without sitting but, within a week or two, she asks to sit on it and goes through the motions - sit, asks for toilet paper, pretends to wipe, flush, wash hands.  About a week ago, she was able to tell me that she was pooping or peeing in her diaper correctly when asked.  However she hasn't done it on the toilet.  I was hoping to get suggestions on the next steps and methods that might be best for this situation.  Thanks!",7.140147167034584,7.629514390728482,7.129492273730688,73.8307211184695,64.03311258278146,9.625018395879325,35.32082413539367,9.444778638647367,3.40607225901398,647,28,108,11,9,207,99,151,0.01,0.888,0.102,0.9436,2,0,2,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,10,0,7,4,3,0,1,15,19,11,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,2,5,2,13,4,26,12,2,31,0,0,1,0,17,10,0,4,14,79,20,3,0.15253131428808842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704196138070366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665344147993756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277885659363968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845885285445245,0.0,0.0,0.16007220391108795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593627587957008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560924922579034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708531000621196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974305801279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969131621769343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514980117033431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280878880088454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618116201359397,0.0,0.0,0.2434980796622599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622187831754145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244087163324264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333610029122582,0.0,0.0,0.30514518285594555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145158807135638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21592489865495024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468456558836206,0.12259889264127033,0.13331909177760995,0.1404303409680979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14900093039264786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585430865918135,0.08996692111719698,0.0,0.2447028395497169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703474388107354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,underengineered,2018/01/17,"What experience did you have as a kid that impacted you as a parent? When I was about 13 or 14 I didn't get along with one of the other kids in the neighborhood. He was a year younger than me but bigger. In a pickup game of football we got to shit talking one another and I slapped him. He backed off and just went home. About 20 minutes later his dad pulls up and gets out of his truck with the kid, and tells him to fight me. The kid didn't want to do it. He's crying but he walks up to me anyway. His dad is cajoling and insulting him the whole time. Most of the kids in the neighborhood were watching in shocked fascination. He took a swing and I beat the ever loving hell out of him. In front of his dad. After a minute or so of violent pummeling his dad comes up and pulls me off. He's bleeding from his nose and mouth pretty bad. He stands over his son and tells him that he's a bitch, and to get up and walk home. WALK home. Dad gets in his truck and leaves. Kid walks off. Epilogue: years later we became friends and I even moved in with him in his apartment for a summer off from college. His dad was in and out of jail/rehab and would sometimes come over. Pop would take his methodone and sit on the couch with a beer. We played a game where we would see how far he would lean before we yelled for him to sit up without spilling his beer. What a fucking guy. This is one of those things I circle back to every now and then when I think about how my own kids need me.",1.5175207373271888,3.2632779548387134,2.5072119815668223,96.80653225806452,79.12903225806451,5.71889400921659,19.78110599078341,6.5431188927421005,-0.11808294930875585,1146,27,270,10,28,362,153,310,0.129,0.805,0.067,-0.9744,1,0,3,0,1,0,28,5,2,0,1,16,12,7,0,20,0,15,8,3,2,1,49,31,29,0,6,6,8,0,0,1,4,1,1,4,8,9,32,2,0,1,5,0,12,3,9,0,3,10,4,39,3,57,17,3,57,1,0,2,2,60,28,4,3,14,181,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429276728895154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695615104588055,0.10693326427331187,0.0,0.0,0.10897830409140816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064226771255985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406790967362528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845891566854171,0.11584682455715065,0.10790466386222318,0.0,0.0,0.12527722655954768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894671583857652,0.11839883262701215,0.26764556630312125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024294352806402,0.0,0.0,0.12680962933676002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38539454677327306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560784582571006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558835220208358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361183504312421,0.0,0.0949624276592123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260351038142288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422067967170554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029343153134645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020553650118288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314622159098001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666469871951255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629284895758064,0.1029379724368985,0.2238779926809257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508414757098601,0.08206221043256393,0.0,0.0,0.07467876127693715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229070021463958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553911986214074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872235489337506,0.0,0.14298580032934075,0.0,0.12345509887420755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639095712707154,0.0,0.0,0.1649460147234648
parenting,imissmycoffee,2018/01/17,"Parent with poor health prognosis - ideas for leaving journal, letter or video messages to young child? My spouse has a congenital condition that has worsened. We always knew it would be likely I outlive him but now there seems a much greater risk that he doesn’t live to see our 1 year old grow up. 

I’m trying to find a list of prompts for letters and/or video messages that we could start to work on together (at his request) so that our son can know more about him, his values, his love and hopes for our son (and about what he was like while his health was still better- for example he can’t model being active). I have found a few starting points but it is tough to search for and tough for me trying to glean ideas without breaking down reading things like news posts about parents who died young of cancer etc. and left notes. 

We are not religious or especially sentimental, and my husband does not normally keep a journal. 

Search ideas? I swear I have seen reddit posts about, for example, a father recording videos for milestone birthdays for a child, but I am failing at searching. 

Things you wish you had known about a parent or loved one who died while you were young? I’m finding a lot of books for grandparents to fill in, but I can’t face trying to adapt one to our situation when a lot of the questions are for folks who have already lived to retirement. 

Are there any other subreddits you recommend or that might have a community of parents/spouses with serious illnesses? 
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parenting,ssickling_,2018/01/17,"Raising Positive Body Image I didn’t develop a positive body image until I got married in my 20’s. It honestly stemmed from family judgement, not learning healthy eating habits, or maintaining a healthy lifestyle. It wasn’t fun, and in retrospect totally avoidable if the right habits had been developed at a young age and not early 20’s. My husband and I wanted to really give our kids a leg up and teach them healthy lifestyle habits from the beginning. Which will always be a learning process, but one we enjoy. 

Which brings me to my major question, how do you address negative family comments? My mom was one of the major causes behind negative body image, poor eating habits, and honestly I basically hid my meals from her (diet shakes at 13, chewy bar over two eggs because smaller portion, etc). We’ve discussed it, and we’ve overcome it. I don’t need to go into anymore detail there. The females on my husband’s side are more. . . Open mouth insert foot. I don’t think there is any intention to be harmful, but they are. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to raise a sheltered child free from the world’s harmful words. People say mean shit. I get it. I just don’t want my children to feel judgement from their grandparents because the refer to their grandkids as “the rich one and the handsome one” (which is actually my husband and his brother). They often comment on appearances of family members (to their face) negatively. 

What is the best way to address this? On all sides. I know after talking to them comments won’t stop, that’s just how they are. Keeping them from our children isn’t an option because despite the negatives I stated they are great parents and grandparents, but everyone’s got flaws. How should I address it with my children, since I have no background there? How fines he line between confidence and narcissism? ",5.216929824561403,7.222364611111113,5.497368421052631,78.2099122807018,69.55555555555556,8.224561403508767,33.719298245614034,8.841846274778883,3.1489192982456142,1475,72,246,27,27,468,191,342,0.096,0.77,0.133,0.9487,3,1,0,0,0,0,46,3,1,10,1,11,16,1,2,17,0,24,14,8,6,2,51,42,21,0,5,10,7,1,0,0,3,0,1,3,5,12,14,6,3,8,1,3,4,16,6,0,5,7,2,39,11,34,30,8,29,0,0,0,0,37,15,1,6,8,170,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.12121016597422203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335192287767407,0.0,0.0,0.08446644853263714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318205300001014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22715014676229325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303497892419346,0.0,0.0,0.4139049334720975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759696251590935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541938399464305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852598169540806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868711962987012,0.0,0.0,0.35127986053792193,0.0,0.06280385393381298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297882582932209,0.11915268849838526,0.07059089495034647,0.0,0.19868273084675345,0.1369409732263623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040275673947336,0.0,0.0,0.06826207399825418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530012500140698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547219882690648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209947513366612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366692077342331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791950838790715,0.0,0.0,0.08611095180067761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914262059948654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957153116612266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060738942664897,0.0,0.0987760631362075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274988580604881,0.1027470525468099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384437081658138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983457106619616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958817708694506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432982681967631,0.0,0.1213342441659758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652349277187726,0.098591403547596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580315414208904,0.0,0.0
parenting,usernamezerozero,2018/01/17,"One week ago DD would not sit on the potty. Now she won't get off! She can sit on the potty for over an hour, drawing or playing a game on her ipad. She legitimately tries to go, but I'm wondering if it is a good idea to let her stay so long. She has had success with pee and poop in the last few days, but still takes awhile to let her pee out. Thanks
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parenting,captivepanda,2018/01/17,"Feeling appreciated is SUCH a big win. My kid is almost 5, I work from home.  I'm going to see my fave band tonight, and my hubs is working late.  So the sitter is coming at 5, hubs will take over care after his work right around bedtime.  I decided to use my lunchbreak today to make a 100% whole wheat banana bread that my kid loves snacking on and that makes me feel like a good Mom for serving...

Anyway, kid was dropped off from preschool and came in and enthusiastically shouted  ""What is that smell, it smells like .... OH MY GOD .... Mommy!  Did you make banana bread???""  Good lord what a reaction.  He came charging upstairs to my office and said ""Mom, why did you make banana bread?""  I answered that I wanted him and the sitter to have something to snack on.  He said ""You did it because you love me and wanted me to be happy.""  

Well no kiddo I did it because I was feeling a little guilty for going out but sure, I do love you and want you to be happy.

Nothing important here.  Appreciation is so nice.",1.286379769299021,3.7666354285714254,2.8447027506654834,89.84563886424135,85.0204081632653,4.6331854480922825,20.76663708961845,6.046907544983943,0.14437559893522645,768,24,155,6,23,251,113,196,0.04,0.733,0.227,0.9883,0,0,1,0,0,0,40,0,6,0,4,7,14,0,0,7,0,17,8,0,5,1,29,42,11,0,3,1,2,3,2,0,1,0,3,1,3,9,13,5,0,5,1,0,5,1,0,1,0,10,9,25,14,21,29,1,21,1,0,1,3,21,11,0,1,6,96,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298298520965248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933272473585104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497355984587065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809387175148972,0.12521960832999646,0.0,0.0,0.10579554092323724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18629913978704846,0.08774013304333242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959889595211675,0.20602530854263454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26148089871947044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319496461382473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385423629367297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000387763356755,0.1230943993197102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332540062402984,0.0,0.3279238731195477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876824038319306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784574534274665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488462102201224,0.23365323479687464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978688504018692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455014294485983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157530989683024,0.0,0.09234272424881282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641568264228767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607402403258634,0.0,0.0,0.21732106353506755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042678430573044,0.0,0.11082278950654953,0.13712023763181702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682356269743124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thishasntbeeneasy,2018/01/17,"Am I being too grumpy about swim lessons? My daughter is 16mo old, and our town pool offers ""swim lessons"" that we signed up for this season. I like the idea of her learning how to play in the water - she loves bath time! - but this class frustrates me.

The locker room isn't a great place to change her, as there's just narrow benches to sit on. So I hover a hand nearby to make sure she doesn't jump/fall off while we change. I let her roam on the ground once while I changed, and she immediately goes for the grungy grate in the floor and stuffs her fingers in.

The ""class"" is just bad. The instructor gave us easy activities to do the first day like chase after toys and play with pool noodles, and a brief song to get them wet in the beginning. That's cool. But by class 3, she just says ""you know what to do"" and we roam around the pool for 30 minutes with zero structure. She said we'd do some songs later, and then just didn't. 

We partly signed up for classes to be more social. This one has 4-6 people show up, so not big, but that's fine. I say hi to the moms, and say something for easy small talk, but they are just totally uninterested. Of course there's no other dads. I'm used to being the sole dad at things like this, and it's a bummer.

To top it off, the pool isn't very warm (they mentioned the heat struggling when it was <20f outside, which is understandable but doesn't help the situation), and the shallow end is 3ft, so we can't walk around in the water like the outdoor pool that had a gently sloping side great for walking.

I'm close to just giving up and letting them keep my money. Even after a few classes, I feel no desire to change around nap times for a boring, cold, and un-engaging class. If she was giddy about it, I'd suck it up, but frankly she just seems cold and uninterested in me carrying her around in the water.",4.4127777777777775,4.751181243386245,4.756203703703704,89.01541666666668,69.8994708994709,7.464021164021165,24.744708994709,6.996647511020387,0.7112042328042327,1442,34,321,11,24,455,203,378,0.107,0.7659999999999999,0.127,0.7365,0,0,1,0,0,0,56,8,1,4,4,22,18,2,1,27,1,25,6,2,3,2,58,41,29,0,2,15,4,5,4,0,0,0,6,2,0,18,25,3,1,8,15,1,5,9,5,0,3,6,14,36,13,51,29,5,53,0,0,0,1,42,32,1,3,19,206,54,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009857760239646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402433610267832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765042218598306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262389443002769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973870655571647,0.0,0.0,0.07437759758744009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056938811717923886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578569248818193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883388310805782,0.1080254167720961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483050259693421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547986028449402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712256370231367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009261192399846,0.0,0.0,0.0618873068356238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23030194938463644,0.0,0.2200615054414816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163458630819988,0.0,0.07516780146184154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188703591226786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816486214801447,0.11992557918775255,0.07630719864183927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219452539535281,0.0,0.07806933753774377,0.0,0.11765309406048165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711754406319596,0.26865508924392323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251557647816698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265779406093115,0.0,0.11479133500610345,0.0,0.08669239363950781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772403389551513,0.1289110830320698,0.0,0.0,0.10613324219515123,0.0,0.0,0.09051135382342164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481283343017597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313271599394512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723059467593824,0.13545551784565918,0.09725856312795254,0.0,0.09291473695920363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jtoeman,2018/01/17,"Advice for dealing with a mediocre teacher? Hi. My 8yo has excelled in school so far, each year (including present). He loves learning, and is well-behaved in class. This year, unfortunately, we've run into a ""do the absolute minimum version of the job without getting fired"" type of teacher (3rd grade).

My wife and I are unsure as to how to get involved. Do we go to the principal? Do we supplement at home?  Our biggest concern is he's started saying he's now bored in class - which I view as the kiss of death to ""interested learner"" at this age.

Any suggestions, especially if you've been through this before, would be wonderful. Also, if you think ""do nothing, it'll work out"", that's fine too - appreciate any thoughts on the matter.",4.565520902455209,6.501781729927012,5.373842070338423,78.71772395487726,71.11678832116789,8.193497013934971,34.352355673523554,8.841846274778883,3.142728467153284,575,30,103,11,11,187,101,137,0.078,0.769,0.152,0.8971,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,3,1,0,3,5,6,0,0,7,0,12,2,0,1,0,18,20,9,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,6,8,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,3,8,5,21,15,2,18,0,0,1,2,14,10,0,3,6,63,14,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22314100857838576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261143819778144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105717046161429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943090585723261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354188563149424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23860693398107635,0.0,0.12977658559088762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22905370075500184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22660217190602494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060948193823476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910801446797554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815931108529463,0.0,0.2311024235470249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162732805633262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631748022194402,0.0,0.1812844185690991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531410262577812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22012128228826008,0.2476358690902149,0.16624154303005154,0.0,0.0,0.16221331114622833,0.0,0.0,0.2940998678901294
parenting,SRHolmes,2018/01/17,"Helping a 3.5 year old speak clearly TLDR: my kid has a lot of words, 7 word sentences, understands well but is difficult to understand. Our paediatrician thinks we need to get him help, all other professionals seem to think he’s doing ok. I need tips on how to work on this at home.

The long story:

My son has a small hearing problem, but not too major. We were referred to a speech therapist for testing. He understands well enough, has an above average vocabulary, but is difficult to understand.

The whole thing we’re doing is government funded. His speech problem is not sever enough to allow us to see someone one on one,  they put us in a program that seemed perfect for us, but we were told not to come back. It was a big room full of toys, parents played with kids and a speech pathologist listened in and would give the parents tips on how to talk to their kids to encourage the kid to talk more. Within 5 minutes we were told our kid was way to advanced to be in there. He was spitting out 5-7 word sentences. She told us the program is intended for kids who can’t put 3 words together. She told us we should not try to come back so our space can go to a kid who *really* needs help. She did give us a bunch of tips which we’re using now.

We have 2 doctors. One is our paediatrician (takes months to get an appointment) and then our family doctor (you get in quickly for infections, injuries, whatever). The paediatrician thinks we need to get him help but we’ve seen everyone she’s referred us to and they say he’s doing well. Our regular doctor says there’s no real issue, he’ll catch up once he’s in preschool or something.

We’ve contacted private speech therapists but they tell us they’re for kids with special needs and won’t help us either.

It any of you have been through this and have any tips to help us getting his speech more clear, I would really appreciate it! 

Any tips for getting help would also be great, but we’re in Alberta and I know a lot of you are Americans so our systems aren’t quite the same.",4.27681055980738,5.5202196408977535,5.075077822684669,83.3052369077307,70.79551122194512,8.623303809441913,28.54080316450253,9.035553425615538,2.207221790351707,1600,59,323,31,29,519,192,401,0.038,0.794,0.16699999999999998,0.9946,3,0,1,0,0,0,45,24,3,4,4,15,13,0,0,19,1,34,5,1,5,4,72,71,21,0,11,13,3,0,0,0,6,4,10,2,8,11,19,0,0,12,2,1,7,8,4,3,3,13,12,44,9,49,50,13,37,0,0,2,0,81,19,0,5,9,208,55,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04453177379322778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360440260234962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563761594260516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593646952753483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098978883017107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507627162647666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321000056385359,0.0,0.0,0.05249545088403764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745606427681596,0.1068374502971446,0.03164742367852992,0.0,0.0,0.06139359759772589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276174591834345,0.0,0.2612743020938822,0.0,0.05585722170084389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058121324397563685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030603362919785562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04928002535724792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468385322463037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04444773420329435,0.0,0.0,0.2064509248802956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843269558145521,0.05930337270930752,0.11320206094753565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366459211366712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656724427546363,0.0,0.11195886618847,0.0,0.059228516133744975,0.0,0.06338243181460354,0.07134727393199801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885668873179072,0.0,0.0,0.04437423308363425,0.1013882022762852,0.0,0.06290890540108386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04718224893136285,0.04286951429283383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04186865946180895,0.08951599127673925,0.048671690255422166,0.0,0.0,0.12931060402505926,0.03699505455298367,0.10704329907606824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128400022554144,0.0,0.03780688373446176,0.0,0.0,0.2318827958501424,0.6698294988225292,0.04809450041778676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04420065677487738,0.0,0.0,0.1502041919978995,0.0,0.0,0.06217101110489141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04053979784789482,0.0,0.0,0.11867240983651715,0.0,0.0,0.03585971645247283
parenting,Aalynia,2018/01/17,"Toddler Pulls Penis out of Diaper and Pees everywhere This is my second son so you’d think I’d get it by now but NOPE.

My 22-month old, for the past few weeks, has a tendency to, when he needs to pee, whip out his penis and pees. I get it. He has a 4 yr old brother and he sees him do it. But the little guy won’t go near the toilet yet (neither the big one or little potty). And in general I just think he’s young to train, isn’t he? My older trained right around the time he turned 3. He also recently took his diaper off after he pooped in it. Every time he pees or poops he says “yucky yucky yucky!” Which he got because I said it when he peed on himself for the first time 🙄 Now I worry he does it because he thinks he’s yucky.

So here are my questions:

1) Given his age, does it make sense to do something like the 3 day method, or potty train him at ALL, already? (This is what we did for my older son)

2) Am I better off deflecting whipping it out by using onesies and sleep suits?

3) I’m due with #3 in August. This means a lot of changes for my little man. He’s going to need to go in a toddler bed (around March, when he turns two), then move out of the nursery to share a room with his big brother (around 6 months post baby, shortly before he turns 3). We don’t want to push too many changes on him at once (hence pacing the bed and changing rooms). Wouldn’t it be better to wait until after his toddler bed or something, since he can’t get out of his bed to pee at night anyway?

Thoughts?

EDIT: Thanks guys! Seems I’ve underestimated his readiness! ",2.0663203564727937,3.3117337042682955,3.5403658536585385,92.14928705440904,76.28658536585365,6.021763602251407,21.76172607879925,6.297961479604792,0.1808166979362107,1197,30,272,8,26,395,173,328,0.064,0.866,0.07,-0.5553,0,0,3,0,0,0,49,2,1,0,3,17,5,0,0,14,0,16,8,8,2,1,42,44,20,0,4,7,4,0,1,0,2,0,2,6,3,14,18,0,1,7,0,0,7,7,0,0,4,6,3,25,5,45,34,4,66,0,0,1,0,44,29,0,7,30,148,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016563380109937,0.07983455581060424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26661140185639404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171170741828645,0.0,0.0849485526985286,0.0,0.0,0.1765842411583872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31682285551432393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438252746103483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472499524481327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411165048805118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491592230620977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564722241036008,0.0,0.17020822190848806,0.0,0.07984371158427665,0.0,0.0,0.19769612988947086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877222582318852,0.300169692492236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487247105542385,0.0,0.0,0.06663775166264906,0.10121263677636012,0.0,0.1087448729125966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593677868473967,0.10610421001914623,0.0,0.14804636312971955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093684327040565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951100300752729,0.1063164121937194,0.0676478499341058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529967665415827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561019219712788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183320483746384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857074923474572,0.0,0.0,0.08525485213878169,0.09496183420529758,0.07938936074480199,0.0,0.0,0.07955212393104592,0.09088209837257673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258096709984958,0.0,0.09990277287221866,0.0,0.0,0.15370906388216735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191067411025576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19190239926034966,0.0,0.07925440582847079,0.17463621059308304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091555467366478,0.0,0.3257613263107756,0.09752006483096594,0.0,0.0,0.08622165143511165,0.0,0.0,0.05888271943585367,0.0,0.08007814687574374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138289773147403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mvpalpha,2018/01/17,"8 week old cries bloody murder when she poops? she's normally such a good baby - only cries when she needs something and the cries are usually measured and proportional. When she poops she cries as if you were cutting off a limb without anesthetic. it seems like something is terribly wrong. It breaks my heart, I wish I could suffer the pain for her. we tried the drops, but not only did they not help, but her skin on her face turned red wherever the medications touched, so we stopped it. please help. :'/",4.4374468085106376,6.6392205638297925,4.056329787234045,86.90875,72.08510638297872,7.67872340425532,26.643617021276608,8.472884824447931,1.7836425531914897,399,14,77,7,8,120,68,94,0.279,0.644,0.077,-0.9534,0,0,2,0,0,0,14,2,1,1,0,5,8,2,0,6,0,5,7,5,0,0,16,9,10,1,5,6,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,3,15,2,5,6,0,11,0,1,1,0,14,2,0,2,8,46,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214627152851356,0.0,0.6684267345553289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759867955006826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802737275388544,0.2039378710564136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432259869064815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325407328925394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280180726618284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490542274965483,0.0,0.0,0.15963390982250678,0.0,0.0,0.23140208634561574,0.16187609868451924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699207900235266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384926279558393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342328420983816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718674765007593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328567951009393,0.16547278644544894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754872176203972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202879556313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494096842364248,0.1466470330688197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663292998949566,0.0,0.0
parenting,Viperbunny,2018/01/17,"Now I understand how the plague spread so fast... We has a going away party for a friend on Sunday. There were 19 of us. All the kids had some sniffle and coughs, but no fevers or anything suspcious. Just the typical winter stuff. Now all 19 of us have varying degrees of the stomach bug! I think someone was asymptomatic and exposed us all by accident. Currently in bed with my 5 and 3 year old. My husband took one of the kid's beds as there is no space in ours. To add insult to injury, the exercise bike I have been waiting for that was a week late showed up today. FML",2.0638814229249007,4.172704400000004,3.3655335968379454,89.55407114624504,78.91304347826087,6.616600790513835,24.367588932806324,7.686295010490155,1.239347826086957,446,16,92,7,11,145,87,115,0.162,0.8059999999999999,0.032,-0.9493,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,0,7,2,1,0,9,0,9,4,1,1,3,17,14,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,2,2,6,0,1,2,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,6,0,10,1,16,8,4,19,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,11,65,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442353443392102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877245665396498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436982745463793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355450696437235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253901738930039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096630678298433,0.0,0.135393898608446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692952029616861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287303742792507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802778907475584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939297986855425,0.0,0.22199211620493053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800537212565187,0.7210270187704408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027253651679582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866868605185294
parenting,grumpylittleteapot,2018/01/17,"Outside toys for 3 and 5 year olds We live in an apartment at the moment, but we have a big grassy area that the kids can play in. I'm looking for some good rainy weather outside toys we can take with us that won't encourage digging up grass or otherwise make our neighbors/landlord hate us. Bonus points if they don't require too much effort from me haha. I'm 5 months pregnant so the running around after them/swinging them around till they're dizzy isn't happening as much right now, but I know they need to be outside playing and running off energy ",6.74793939393939,6.31856112727273,6.256363636363638,82.86121212121216,65.0,8.787878787878787,34.69696969696969,7.793537801064563,2.4300606060606054,444,18,87,4,6,137,84,110,0.103,0.725,0.171,0.8461,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,3,3,5,7,1,0,5,1,7,0,0,1,0,17,16,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,1,1,4,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,11,6,15,14,3,21,0,0,1,0,11,12,0,3,7,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912988686445934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843397535816902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943493754703955,0.0,0.0,0.2169857385592444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207844995818162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940684158167633,0.0,0.18455856244278948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670383554334435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754250781968671,0.0,0.3231249274334958,0.16296295093601015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306205338779849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077616931276218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18768961280022226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524605790909935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5287328783603162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153012916294566
parenting,Preventingmetoo,2018/01/17,"How to we prevent our sons from contributing to the ""Me too"" problem? I don't know any woman who hasn't in some way been affected by sexual abuse, harrassement, and/or misconduct. I have also heard a lot of men admit to do ""something"" to contribute to this issue in some form or another. 

I have read a lot of articles about how to talk to your daughters about this but I have boys. How do we talk to them about preventing this from being a problem in the first place? What can we do that actually works? 

My boys are 2 years old and 7 months but this is something I want to get right. I also have a 14 year old stepson who is quickly approaching dating age. He doesn't live with us but my husband talks to him on the phone a few times a week and he spends summers with us. It's hard for my husband to talk about sex and things like that. He is willing to do it to make sure our kids know right from wrong however. 

What is everyone else doing? ",3.4821428571428577,4.581219000000004,4.447113095238095,87.60562500000003,72.54166666666666,8.19404761904762,26.214285714285715,8.634040054169528,1.6414660714285711,736,24,159,13,14,239,114,192,0.091,0.856,0.053,-0.7941,1,0,2,0,1,0,19,7,1,1,2,11,5,0,0,9,0,21,1,0,5,1,30,28,12,0,3,4,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,5,13,8,0,2,3,1,1,1,3,3,0,1,2,2,20,2,30,24,6,21,0,0,0,1,31,7,0,5,13,114,33,2,0.0,0.15915402046928073,0.131082532074958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148404694604092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134610005725027,0.14085223602092914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221190795882643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283539878088735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425739410518845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017964786176534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032946643456215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402011592578001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764381242217406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562476477818087,0.0,0.1186120772165384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22839785780320285,0.0,0.0,0.0896634653103942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721751312923723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819045073040889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403417941298678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25706315782018635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436207667247438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294268725027556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20682101321579915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660040728576427,0.0,0.0,0.43186372228076897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924004380311887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832641117966715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32315461911231463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922879358604787,0.1066215091281318,0.10774799517340844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779072850222204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686409481937934,0.0,0.1730027272917216
parenting,SwampRabbit,2018/01/17,"US National Parks ""Every Kid in a Park"" program for 4th graders - Any tips or suggestions for planning our trip(s)? Has anyone done the ""Every Kid in a Park"" free pass program for 4th graders and their families? I'm starting to plan our vacation time and I'm looking for suggestions for specific parks or activities that are not to be missed. 

I expect to do a couple of shorter visits on long weekends plus a couple of longer trips during school breaks. We are near St. Louis. My son has requested a beach/ocean visit for one of the trips and he wants to try riding a horse.  

https://www.everykidinapark.gov/",5.35882882882883,7.544439837837839,5.272252252252251,79.23018018018018,69.54054054054055,8.176576576576577,28.54954954954956,8.841846274778883,2.3552414414414438,486,18,85,9,9,151,75,111,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.6755,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,13,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,1,0,1,1,1,7,2,18,11,0,16,0,1,1,0,14,5,0,2,4,48,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16644447259982922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711411420422433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5416422242811696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504733744973688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124399272727117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307369460020338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21660396012126984,0.2055358658045396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585499241238555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477091147203469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324163776803736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272090643460705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617525411894726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29441486890320023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443651645213701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RdiitUsar,2018/01/17,"Parental Control chrome extension for kids (youtube) I just found out my little sister about 8 years old started watching logan paul and jake paul, she even watched the recent suicide forest video and people reacting to it. on top of that to my horror she has been watching a lot i mean ALOT of inaaprioprate vines. I need the most reliable, safe, trustworthy extension. Thanks,",4.978831168831167,8.144101212121214,4.356839826839828,80.61954545454547,74.75757575757575,7.40779220779221,30.640692640692638,8.418075326091056,2.833578354978356,304,14,48,6,7,91,55,66,0.109,0.7340000000000001,0.157,0.3699,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,2,0,13,7,2,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,2,8,5,3,8,0,0,3,0,5,4,0,3,4,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30977041069282285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242079642721626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028279237209847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768147954357891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23480674066331425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008517232375475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479128014810755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898147958787132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066761524880023,0.0,0.0,0.191475272019075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27270416502233336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548860306252186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30210687726849605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25427851400608004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785721333794272
parenting,wheelerfam2263,2018/01/17,"oh those terrible twos... Our little boy is going to be 3 in March. He is an amazingly happy child and has been his whole life. But OH MY GOSH the energy...
he's not BAD he just is ramped up all the time and doesn't know what to do with it. And he's a BOY...the true definition of what you think a boy should be like. Dirty, messy, fast, climbs, jumps, yells, growls, makes anything into a weapon, wrestles...even when you aren't expecting it...And he's not adverse to performing a choke hold on his 6 year old sister without warning.
Our problem is getting him to realize what is inappropriate/dangerous/mean/harmful to others. Because he thinks everything is hilarious. 
He thinks time out is hilarious. He thinks hitting is amazing. He thinks swats on the butt are hilarious. He thinks having his toys taken away isn't AS hilarious, but quickly forgets and moves on to his next destructive endeavor. 

He's the polar opposite of our daughter who was calm, collected, fairly serious at this age and would break down at even the thought of being told no...and never do the offending action again.

HELP. Moms with high energy prankster toddlers...what works for you!?!?",3.553394777265744,6.074638778801848,4.427096774193551,81.727311827957,75.95852534562214,8.004301075268819,26.92319508448541,8.841846274778883,2.345406144393241,913,36,168,21,21,294,139,217,0.073,0.762,0.165,0.952,0,0,0,0,0,0,52,3,3,0,3,5,14,3,0,11,0,23,2,1,1,3,34,37,9,0,4,6,3,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,3,8,9,0,1,9,1,0,5,7,8,0,0,5,1,12,6,25,26,2,31,0,0,0,1,31,13,1,0,13,96,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059616191215048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910339916426607,0.0,0.1325074490372838,0.09674173886057924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096390387924809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262887266714366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291393580373725,0.0,0.09019257996387024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689385629157828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637292593128976,0.1676747291614244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721709183482945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209414627721703,0.07753255679867664,0.15905858535665865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593314491019218,0.0,0.0,0.1728702738773132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858669299269367,0.0,0.16867244730046552,0.0,0.0,0.12239883368307605,0.0,0.1687787128226703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652842336453014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185398341547593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6101293684809185,0.0,0.12598967173894626,0.18507790295785295,0.0,0.0,0.15164416792602167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718231813974486,0.0,0.15298064950729887,0.0,0.1155351221084052,0.0,0.0,0.11273556759215315,0.0,0.0,0.10219727130001904
parenting,ihaveasonnotagirl,2018/01/17,"I can't deal with my son anymore. He's 15 years old. These past 3 years with him have been horrendous. He's had me reported to social services twice, doesn't trust me at all. He talks bad behind my back as well, and even told his peers i am his abuser. 

He is apparently suicidal as well, but i think it's a plea for attention. He's been talking with a Councillor as well who is a bad influence on him! (She is planting the idea i am abusive, and even took him to a walk in once)

Plus, he is insisting that he is a girl but doesn't understand that he needs to live life a bit more before he can make that choice for himself. And where he got that idea he says he has a trans friend who also changed into a girl that helped him sort out his feelings a bit. But he is very pushy and annoyed that we aren't referring to his trans friend as a girl even through ""she"" is born male. I think ""she"" planted this into my son's head.

He no longer wishes to open up to me anymore! In fact over facebook this is what my son said

""Mom, while i love you i do not trust you. I never have. You've done a lot to hurt and abuse me and at best placed salt in the wound. You aren't a very healthy person, and you are so blinded by narcissism you will never see that you are in the wrong. The way things are going right now, we will not have a relationship, certainly if you do not support me while i deal with what is wrong with my sex and the mental consequences if i do not start HRT. Not supporting me at my lowest doesn't help when you have already done so much to alienate family and friends from me. Plus, it would be nice to have my door back as well but you took it away from me permanently and ""lost it"" after i called you out after you attempted to play the victim when your friend died by telling how much you were abused when he died. Unless you get some therapy, and treat me better we are on a path to no relationship.""

Fuck, i love HIM but i can't put up with all this. He says i am abusive, is telling us he is a girl when he is not and trying to start hrt without a doctor involved (DIY) Telling me he cannot trust me, and that he will not move up north with us instead he will move out at 16, He's such a problem, it's been this way for 3.5 years. 

Reddit, what can i do for my son?",3.2796079192546586,3.664506144927537,4.197597696687371,91.85148971273294,72.43685300207041,7.693814699792961,24.617559523809533,7.6454224807358475,0.834906884057971,1760,46,421,20,32,569,208,483,0.202,0.6920000000000001,0.105,-0.9951,2,0,0,0,3,0,53,5,14,0,4,21,31,3,0,23,0,52,9,1,3,6,71,75,38,3,6,16,5,1,0,4,5,4,3,1,6,24,31,0,0,8,1,0,7,20,10,4,1,13,7,66,21,60,56,10,55,0,2,2,4,91,25,1,5,21,288,90,3,0.0,0.4229779318057812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879005653792373,0.057097380997727834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161631863968138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708127199450932,0.1098021293271642,0.11922958537485695,0.0,0.0,0.060754892782771526,0.0,0.07492835538266114,0.06314620024650938,0.15589741182839675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290588496780323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553018074447496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721750472722486,0.0,0.0,0.1482008096373212,0.0,0.0,0.07307942388049853,0.0,0.14613097648061207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147417289675232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730818255052826,0.0,0.03610124354109495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064931775549715,0.0660067932037727,0.037302786596154,0.0,0.04057743165048448,0.0,0.057103929173419374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327549327521816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571386322839456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643360621344421,0.1612005060632803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05043089532204578,0.0,0.0,0.06304621266909523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779399329071334,0.06070047947115253,0.12887992712906382,0.0,0.04765907515713711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195292809085102,0.0,0.0,0.08362109885554746,0.0,0.1517706823420797,0.10497227386496992,0.05294110748858682,0.11013390036882396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492074979609226,0.0760371073866482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815797860504885,0.0,0.06234244499470926,0.07459627052075876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831875344250732,0.0,0.07177524601331799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533106084482422,0.0,0.060973957017073886,0.06791635492688165,0.11355795824469082,0.0,0.0,0.056895386755143176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278181290457499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010724982044338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780984065871642,0.1620444181422091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477487250001575,0.18721639442576124,0.0,0.08165044486243685,0.0,0.04743401272654151,0.09149859392500358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822435794250109,0.15865279438143634,0.048474917144478186,0.0,0.0,0.07432839079659227,0.1717672881182347,0.0,0.0,0.11782253427199875,0.0,0.11334566424159707,0.0,0.0,0.2567834229339764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210478925766361,0.06882563789300401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050719469277646236,0.15612617488408204,0.0,0.13793494296439002
parenting,Ijusthavetoaskwhy,2018/01/17,"As a stay at home dad I was thrown out on the streets because ”I didnt provide for my family”, now I have 50% custody and m asked to care for our son during the day for the other 50% because she can't afford daycare. I had been a stay at home dad since my son was born. When he was born I quit my part time job to focus on caring for our son and running my home business. Since I was the only one who could care for him during the day and provide an income it's the only thing that made since.

My son's mother has a covert Narcissistic personality disorder and treated me like garbage for 18 months. Her and her family showed me no respect and I had to deal with almost daily abuse. In an absolutely absurd event she ended up filing a protection order against me that got me kicked out of our home in retaliation for filing a protection order against her SISTER'S BOYFRIEND for me and our son.

I had no where to go, no car, no money, and no home to work out of and for the first time had to live in a homeless shelter. Within 45 days I managed to get my own place and was awarded 50% physical custody of our son.

Fast forward less than 6 months later...I have my own place and and car and am back to being a stay at home dad the day's I have custody. I don't get much work done on those day's so I have to work 10 plus hours the day's he is with his mother. It's difficult but it's worth it to be able to care for my son during the day. 

My son's mother just asked me to care for our son during the days she has custody because she is behind on her daycare payments and can't afford to keep him in there. As much as I have resentment toward her it's hard enough doing what I'm already doing. It's not easy being a stay at home dad 50% of the time while running a business and paying all the bills when less then 6 months ago I was homeless.

I'm pretty much going to have to find a way to make it work because she has no other options but any advice would be appreciated.",4.261217183770881,4.044753374701672,5.534466825775657,85.2345785202864,70.14558472553699,7.945050119331743,27.022529832935557,7.24861992348623,1.1974151980906922,1540,43,341,13,25,518,175,419,0.062,0.86,0.078,0.8815,5,0,0,0,1,0,27,6,0,0,7,8,11,1,0,25,0,36,0,0,2,1,34,53,26,0,2,4,17,1,1,0,1,0,0,7,1,15,21,0,3,1,1,4,7,11,2,0,2,15,1,48,9,59,32,10,64,0,0,0,0,43,23,0,2,30,229,63,8,0.0710640151182761,0.08419923744141036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944293310957618,0.06299396164503629,0.0,0.07116034596523763,0.0,0.07842090780169766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048325967169342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328705223973969,0.0,0.0,0.05464384110608572,0.0,0.1732798560950392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622724979070818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05673883354040474,0.0,0.0,0.3666432861759978,0.07326387917651014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144551802308338,0.0,0.0,0.07272316036505358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294162447761043,0.07342812422583488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398565783625746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495122238492032,0.0604470149565367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742560296804804,0.0,0.08077463492517473,0.0,0.05683638471141275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365939915088409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4989810095847993,0.0,0.06998374013575523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052006964747137,0.06316496183138462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03471828820473483,0.0,0.06275082730254923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06724248936091468,0.04743578191257025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016785663146958,0.0,0.1567206835269323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04815481579531067,0.1080947715292268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695540323537403,0.0,0.0,0.06205035693443529,0.14849354118798494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229765134988878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558532752081044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635466298332247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30297913899201195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047211773948940106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243139960914141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640730744325659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069417974977607,0.0,0.0,0.05048183741382231,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Love-handle,2018/01/17,"My 5 year old son does not want to follow rules set by us (parents). What should we do? He is a happy and independent 5 year old. Of late, he acts up now and then and keeps saying ""why should I listen to you"" or something to that effect. 

We give him lots of freedom to choose in his sphere. Like where he wants to eat, what he wants to do on a weekend, etc. Also we do not want to say ""as long as you are in my house, you follow my rules"".

We read many articles but we have not seen something directly addressing the point of ""why kids should follow rules set by parents"" and how to explain that to them without making them feel powerless.

So, what are our options? What should be our approach? 

Edit: Thanks for all your comments and insights. ",2.9083558558558567,4.485328168918922,3.651081081081081,90.85315315315316,74.74324324324324,6.284684684684683,23.819819819819823,6.816661863887847,0.6572009009009006,571,17,121,5,12,181,92,148,0.042,0.885,0.07200000000000001,0.6776,3,0,2,0,0,0,25,8,4,2,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,12,1,0,4,1,36,27,13,0,8,6,3,1,1,0,4,0,3,1,1,6,10,1,1,5,2,0,5,4,0,0,0,1,5,20,3,22,21,3,22,0,0,1,0,30,6,0,3,10,82,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273519178168407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430841809467126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704489034092525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116699294765786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760238687217365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722875190837684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337870817846908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709140497079026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641706525335415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731283041739834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498092059570942,0.0,0.0,0.13582197267309154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130480327800474,0.0,0.0,0.10244683078864326,0.15560119624071933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220957751115372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34083523149448136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508500709184854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535181457199379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244101525147944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23630758939670934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130064480433574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846134680840288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620979306119797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769775425277172,0.0,0.0,0.14794597788348204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976678133894765
parenting,Penguinbaby1991,2018/01/17,"Telling ex-partner (stepchildren's mum) about new baby? Hi all!


My husband has two children from a previous relationship. We are currently expecting our first baby and we're just wondering what the etiquette is in terms of informing my husband's ex-wife, the mother of his children.


For context, we have shared 50/50 custody (agreed out of court between the two of them) and while things have been tense and conflicted in the past, we're at a point now where things are as civil as they need to be (aka the kids think we're best buddies).


She struggled for a long time to accept that I was sticking around for good and was obstructive for a long while. Things do seem to have calmed down to a degree but she is still on occasion behaving in a snide way and using the children as weapons.


We worry that if we tell the children (age 7 and 9) before her, they will then tell her and she may react badly in front of them. If we tell her directly, she will almost certainly take is as us rubbing our relationship in her face. 


What's the best way to approach this? We're thinking we'll just have to tell her directly - is texting her better? So that she can react privately? Or is it better to tell her in person? Presumably this will be better coming from my husband and not myself!


Any advice would be great.",5.251645658263307,6.259285765873018,5.456255835667601,82.34626050420171,68.32539682539682,8.469094304388422,29.902894491129786,8.671277953709913,2.2445258636788052,1031,38,196,16,17,326,140,252,0.056,0.8059999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9713,1,0,0,0,0,0,32,9,0,4,6,8,14,1,1,14,0,26,1,1,3,2,41,34,20,0,5,7,5,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,11,16,0,1,7,0,0,3,1,3,0,3,3,1,31,11,35,22,4,32,0,0,0,0,48,13,0,7,14,144,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988640877333948,0.0,0.0,0.11260404068545955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647094880566037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010577124486364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389239463478988,0.0,0.0,0.09568803499936143,0.0,0.2360220474073101,0.29836292399703424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686710217801248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565127936288427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431907261732476,0.0,0.1239782935699512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903226687930187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338144162949436,0.0,0.10860646265125673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734778292778227,0.0,0.09818840566353763,0.0,0.0,0.10630311606941896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24146188389174175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237171951301717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980399851091919,0.0,0.0,0.1175588353683917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845496135956812,0.0,0.5897259654895329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22412355262478034,0.14410889817866454,0.0,0.0,0.06557143628132399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21969776012080536,0.0,0.13526543727078946,0.09712208316844707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851770269359113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219489707927419,0.0,0.11420006531357893,0.0,0.07988239513056475,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JayWright91,2018/01/17,"My son is lying to school.. Hello,

This may be a long post so I apologise in advance. Me and my partner have 2 children. One being 6 and a boy. He’s been suffering from ‘difficulties’ for quite a while now and is involved with multiple agencies. Support Workers and Mental Health. He is extremely unpredictable and can be excessively violent. Hitting out at me, my partner and sister amongst other family members. Is violent to other children at school. Lies constantly about a vast array of things. Constantly exploding. Mental health workers are looking at ADHD, Attachment Disorder, Autism, Challenging Behaviour etc etc.

However, recently he’s made a few remarks at school which A) are false and B) are serious.

Firstly he’s claimed me and his mother fight. Reported his mother smacked me in the face. This was passed to his support worker who asked us about this recently. Now, he has also made a claim that I beat him up! That I throw him around the house, punch and kick him etc. Which is completely false! Upon asking him why he has done this - he replied with I don’t want to live at home anymore I want to live In America. The school have come to the conclusion due to him having a small bruise on his back and his report that we have beat him somehow and CPS have contacted us today to ask us for our side of events. I explained to them what’s happened and the whole history which they can check with other agencies. 

I’m really confused and upset as to why he would lie about something like this? What can I expect from CPS?",3.650958188153311,6.225171526132407,4.442343205574911,81.4695775261324,75.89895470383277,8.002439024390245,28.71689895470384,8.841846274778883,2.6835038327526135,1216,53,214,28,28,390,161,287,0.102,0.838,0.06,-0.9375,1,0,1,0,1,0,36,5,0,2,10,10,11,3,2,13,0,27,3,1,2,0,31,42,17,0,4,0,4,0,1,2,2,2,0,1,5,18,20,0,0,2,0,1,4,1,7,0,2,5,1,32,4,36,31,5,34,0,1,1,0,44,16,0,3,14,153,50,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793948621107475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784787148404598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732378695024137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736116821868753,0.2752296023782325,0.0,0.0,0.07545994094444299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453481855237534,0.10289293055443444,0.21209865945450496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247148545578672,0.0,0.0,0.10042642089867716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283401957003221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251316912456503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347378380726833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678066738336161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862633920861995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984376457581735,0.0,0.0,0.1132348894367641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047943920569845686,0.0,0.173310427181443,0.08684659801110893,0.08240888441928007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571587111824944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19779447767675085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066498977424557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398643147812567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437890593952988,0.0,0.0,0.06286794673340583,0.0,0.1937934179569034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972724025500058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554930111604848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22272541158020406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519669192275439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302073152551138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35413382683051103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576541262657992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710357772454194,0.10956448926779168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971245785263354,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PianoLoversDad2,2018/01/17,"My son, 6, has been playing the piano for around a year now. Since we dont have any piano teachers close by he has been exclusively using simplyPiano (Piano App) and has reached the intermediate level (which implies he knows some cords/some tunes etc.). How can I help him ? He loves the piano (digital keyboard actually) and he has been practicing on it atleast a couple of hours a week.. and unfortunately I have no background in music.  So how can I help him ?

He can read sheet musical notation comfortably ..

Is there theory he need to learn ? are there books etc. I should get for him ?",3.315187656380313,5.919486623853214,4.621334445371144,79.57910758965807,77.25688073394495,8.000333611342787,25.505421184320262,8.841846274778883,2.207396330275229,458,17,85,11,11,151,76,109,0.04,0.818,0.141,0.8875,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,6,0,16,1,0,3,0,14,21,6,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,9,3,8,17,3,9,0,0,0,1,14,5,0,1,4,54,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.2301679538999802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039471174463804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996779265286275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609775713044373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764293065329517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5260984755288439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232285164016109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161875677651873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322772307184629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296239616113441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21287527907767206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488918999819147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23592650965706935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19510804777697008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037096279978255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919481637497435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188783405969533
parenting,your_mom_on_drugs,2018/01/17,"Are these things promising in terms of my son’s future literacy? He is 18 months old. He likes some songs that go “a-a-apple” etc. He memorised these songs many months ago but recently when he is talking (he already talks in sentences) he has started going e.g “get it, the b-b-book” for words not in his songs. 

Another thing I saw him do is run him finger under the title of his book while saying the title which obviously was copying us but I wonder if it will help him make the connection. 

Finally he has taken to grabbing books he knows off us and saying “o self” then turning the pages reciting each page.

What sort of developments should I watch for in the coming months and years?
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parenting,ShadowsWandering,2018/01/17,"Nobody is coming to my daughter's birthday. What should I do? I hope it's ok to ask this/post this giant wall of text. I just discovered this sub a few minutes ago. Anyways, my daughter is turning 8. She's always wanted a birthday party, but I've always just taken her to theme parks instead because I was worried that nobody would come. I don't have any friends, and the only family that we really have all live with us (only 1 other child.) But this year I decided to risk it and I bought her a really cool birthday package at one of those trampoline and ball-pit parks in the hopes that her classmates would all want to come. I thought it would help her make friends because I know she's been struggling this year. Problem is, tomorrow is the ""RSVP by"" date and not a single person has called. So, I asked my daughter and she told me that a lot of the kids in her class are going on a trip next weekend so none of them can come. What a coincidence. She hurried up and went to play in her room but I could see that she was trying not to cry and I don't know what to do. Should I just eat the $200 for the party package and cancel the party? She knows that money is tight, maybe I could tell her that I can't afford it. I seriously have to be up for work in less than 6 hours but I can't sleep because I'm so sad for her. She's such a sweet girl, I don't know why she isn't fitting in at this school. 

Edit: Wow, I was not expecting so many people to respond. I guess this is a really supportive community! I can't read all the comments before work because if I keep trying I'm going to be late :) I'll check them on my lunch break. Thanks everyone for the advice

Edit 2: Ok, I got a lot of really great advice. It's true that not having any friends of my own is probably a factor on her own social skills. It's been us against the world for too long. I'm going to change it though. I'm not going to cancel the party. I'm going to post on the local Facebook parent groups to give the extra slots away. I don't care if my number spreads to every crazy on the internet, first 13 people to RSVP get the spot. If all 13 actually show I'll pay for the extra 2. Somebody is coming to this party if it kills me lol. Maybe she'll make a couple of new friends :)",1.8559663865546203,3.3546744705882365,3.6770504201680687,89.89515546218489,77.40336134453781,6.272605042016807,21.773949579831935,6.961326702584282,0.489070756302521,1752,47,384,18,40,590,216,476,0.098,0.7390000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9863,2,0,0,0,0,0,52,3,0,2,4,12,23,1,2,28,4,40,3,1,2,5,62,82,21,1,17,16,4,1,0,4,6,0,0,1,4,28,15,2,2,6,4,4,12,14,6,0,2,11,4,55,17,50,61,14,47,0,1,1,0,46,21,0,9,12,249,83,8,0.0,0.0,0.07904489720200407,0.0,0.0,0.15830568985591464,0.07180214104175932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479796935898278,0.0,0.0,0.11016636579312336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144924593295342,0.0,0.07610272630167261,0.0,0.0,0.19750884596114526,0.0,0.06892554120490102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827106649071904,0.0,0.08258550601039841,0.0,0.08568789025323081,0.3488742057778965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934476962631425,0.08962561879814193,0.08897535119127728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288383151055756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824649564190659,0.07739954066509773,0.0,0.0,0.07636015302341223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889906556312893,0.0,0.0,0.2503234381001576,0.0,0.042319468224293236,0.07770315252022922,0.23017252678023226,0.0,0.06478357615208218,0.0893034430273964,0.08923128856212856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054292992067461465,0.0,0.0,0.16090373698457655,0.07976927071474765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199705146138871,0.08961515821737115,0.0,0.1780632368125004,0.0,0.09137220040533577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152501025183182,0.07168297850397767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772762019037227,0.0,0.0,0.10813705359586273,0.08212189077950617,0.16275197176802725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823088034609234,0.08614505275859989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05488810014931464,0.12320920654193955,0.0,0.0,0.08994157606377315,0.0,0.0,0.11231122865550512,0.07072659607286183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551523606359403,0.0,0.08733234245389797,0.0775066309853539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102251589365267,0.0,0.2075642236995162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197692754923147,0.06454698781515171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105909364371366,0.08256990695808182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467941003531247,0.0,0.0,0.09191851641990123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079809113406935,0.07457446600695755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958267428984146,0.06430542535534957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739954066509773,0.0,0.10998817530605072,0.08810538852176539,0.0,0.0,0.19486748725206807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955525003265384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508836398557382,0.0730904390370131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793879717469904,0.08226003708223291,0.0,0.17262149809497085,0.0,0.0,0.10432345620712144
parenting,funtimefrenchfry,2018/01/17,"~2am and my 13m daughter’s diaper is super full of pee... my daughter LOVES water. i normally limit her to one of her cup’s worth a day (~12oz max) unless she seems thirsty. she also still breastfeeds a decent amount... and does so overnight up to 3 times, especially currently because she’s teething. 

Anyway, she’s been a terrible sleeper since her womb days, so i’m always terrified to do anything that might mess with whatever we’ve got going on overnight. i HATE the thought of changing her diaper at night but since she’s started drinking water there have been a few nights where her diaper gets super full fairly early in the night and i just don’t feel comfortable leaving her in it. and then she’s wide awake and i want to die. 

oh also we just sized up recently and this current size barely fits (they’re on the bigger side) so i don’t think sizing up is an option.

what do i do? give her less to drink at dinner? i feel weird about that. she’s normally awake for at least an hour after her last drink so one would assume it’d cycle through before bed. sigh. 

tl:dr - daughter drinks a lot of water then ends up with soaked diaper and i don’t know what to do at 2am when she’s up and seemingly uncomfortable. ",2.1489013605442224,4.364265759183674,3.4663520408163286,88.39272534013607,79.16326530612245,6.532312925170068,22.04506802721089,7.6454224807358475,0.9624455782312928,961,29,194,15,24,313,146,245,0.086,0.8340000000000001,0.08,-0.3164,2,0,4,0,0,1,30,1,0,0,3,14,9,1,0,10,0,15,12,3,0,0,31,31,19,1,4,4,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,11,8,1,8,4,1,1,3,4,1,2,4,2,27,4,30,24,7,40,0,0,0,2,22,20,0,6,19,120,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070636798978824,0.10772392587204904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653735311291232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891969138174013,0.0,0.11016382408067532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695511856249176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669863747828052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436257701807047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132943000627475,0.0,0.0,0.5072994072146946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466615198742895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092117722188085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763928684708344,0.12419309700166332,0.07357703778644836,0.0,0.10354371343010277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781831169943053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274953776560026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711497028261749,0.10552995610343197,0.0,0.1370830551645615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006515913017867,0.11684577956989325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734021608663186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644779126434259,0.25369330270699225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545551049054744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782949600958854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23571724718442635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21418693651639908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916348659473322,0.0,0.10338964420958326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829549238184288,0.0,0.10277948409893667,0.07549115384448214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763608718366723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196708997488824,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,azmom80,2018/01/17,"My 14 year-old daughter had an incident with her (now ex) boyfriend, has asked me not to tell my husband I'm using a throwaway for privacy.

My daughter attended a sleepover birthday party for her best friend on Saturday. I was not aware boys, including her boyfriend (14), would be there late into the night. 

Apparently my daughter and her bf were alone in a bedroom and things began progressing beyond kissing and touching over the clothes. She said he kept trying to push her to do more, she would tell him to stop, they would resume making out, and he would eventually return to pushing her boundaries. At some point he put his hand down her pants and actually put his finger inside of her before she was able to get him to stop. She said she grabbed his wrist and tried pulling his hand away but he was too strong, so she loudly said ""STOP or I'm screaming"" and he backed off.

Shortly after, she called me and asked that I come pick her up. I could tell she was upset and left the house right away. As soon as she got into my car she was sobbing and shaking. By the time we arrived home I had a general idea of what happened. She was able to calm down and tell me the full story after a few hours had passed. 

We talked for quite awhile Saturday night/Sunday morning. She was relieved I wasn't upset and I assured she can always confide in me. This was when she said she didn't want daddy to know. She's really embarrassed and ashamed of herself, despite me assuring her this wasn't her fault. She and my husband have always been close and she's worried he'll be disappointed in her for being alone with a boy ""like that."" My husband is a reasonable and loving father but naturally protective of our kids. Also, when I put myself in her shoes I can understand why a teenage girl wouldn't want her dad to be aware of details pertaining to such personal matters.

That said, my heart dropped at the thought of keeping this from my husband. I feel a little dishonest not telling him. If it were the other way around I would want to know. But I also know this will deeply upset him. She's our oldest (and only girl) and they have always been close. He coached her soccer teams for years and now they play basketball and lift weights together, among other things. I would say they spend more time together than the average father and 14 year-old. 

I don't want to risk losing my daughter's trust at such a critical time. I don't want to disregard her wishes either. However, I don't know that it's right to withhold this from my husband. His trust in me obviously very important. There's also the fact that part of me feels he has the right to know.

What do you think I should do? I'm just looking for different perspectives to help me in making this difficult decision. Thank you for reading.

**Thank you for taking the time to reply, you have given me a lot to think about.**

**I will be talking to her again when she gets home from school. I plan to tell her why dad should know something happened but he doesn't need the details and go from there. She isn't afraid he will blow up, it's more that she's embarrassed he will look at her differently. Also, I did not promise I wouldn't tell him. At the time I just said we didn't need to make a decision about that right then.**",3.3564103653355986,5.321243870716515,3.905354290569246,87.85353695836876,74.46728971962617,7.036692155196827,25.69141886151232,7.877588486780915,1.4120071028037382,2583,90,516,38,55,813,276,642,0.116,0.7879999999999999,0.097,-0.8974,4,2,1,0,0,0,77,5,4,4,7,27,31,0,9,26,0,56,9,6,6,4,102,109,39,0,20,13,14,8,1,2,15,0,9,3,6,22,34,1,8,16,5,1,12,15,15,0,0,31,19,107,16,77,57,10,79,0,3,2,2,120,37,1,4,29,352,129,3,0.12352200582490665,0.0,0.06026982971077715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279315457467603,0.0,0.19756100686181266,0.1541703059818478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05498038668508532,0.11547640120118075,0.0,0.11605299056828686,0.04749039896048116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052554064565691117,0.0,0.06481436220554201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306488926770508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320163531614626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04931113528704808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290542057682446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245643756607725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04771639764536963,0.0,0.06453514986073339,0.0,0.035100201238017874,0.0,0.049395916004077785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923010181327618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318708581889223,0.04139709838615003,0.0,0.12390264321113123,0.0,0.06082214706212347,0.07126390516999094,0.0,0.06972065471304788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05489601713525845,0.0,0.0,0.20365339206552405,0.0,0.06966910140518177,0.0,0.06710351037463617,0.0,0.0,0.030173306354267224,0.061900750115914414,0.0,0.0,0.10372737508080432,0.06909476440631705,0.0,0.05250699608180322,0.055741716439034486,0.0,0.12367784707832966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915900021775156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591703485652101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961556647534278,0.0,0.0,0.04697202577229994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688114758838935,0.0,0.0,0.05392732551021938,0.0,0.0,0.05838411067260064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862605992914503,0.0,0.06569042890951074,0.06177771631696646,0.0,0.03956567994658082,0.0635005972745116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21097423612339367,0.3524931413826034,0.04911482842112665,0.0,0.06250543220998248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754663741160646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490489172836874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04643658793851622,0.09928230935163923,0.3778728714031626,0.1137224672587092,0.0,0.0,0.08206253202860997,0.07914791373260706,0.0,0.04903133754151746,0.1800666873354019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386333375770037,0.0,0.0,0.06429538215061657,0.0,0.05334167672711696,0.0,0.0509592955382507,0.1821411984508672,0.04902300937384935,0.0,0.07520826303631045,0.0,0.0,0.11145939763800547,0.0,0.0710221053508849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272129640802031,0.0,0.2632394667555937,0.0,0.0,0.11931618288479826
parenting,lostparent2468,2018/01/17,"Worries as first time co-parent Little background info: 
I have only just been able to see my child after he has be born for 2 years. Child seems to seek me out for comfort whenever I'm with him, which is a great thing. Mother hates me and makes me really uncomfortable, giving the evil eye etc.

What I'm worried about is how do I know if child sees me as Father or just a babysitter? There's the saying that children are able to sense how we feel, could Mother's hatred for me affect child in any way? On the same note, if Mother gets into a relationship and starts spending time with new boyfriend and child, could child think the boyfriend is his father? Such as seeing how happy Mother is with this person, so I (as the child) should like this person too.

In most co-parenting situations do we need to inform the other party of a new SO if we plan to spend time with SO and child together?",6.1269491525423705,5.880904774011303,6.246333333333336,81.80509322033902,66.2316384180791,8.661920903954803,26.174576271186442,7.908726449838941,1.3624061016949147,703,15,140,7,10,224,110,177,0.107,0.797,0.096,-0.4896,2,0,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,0,2,12,6,2,0,10,0,14,1,1,5,0,36,29,18,0,7,6,6,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,11,7,13,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,6,14,4,24,24,3,17,0,0,4,0,27,6,0,6,11,92,21,0,0.304157624879106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341880746358596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428451139347769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960807608865092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689561702647563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935816017158644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945490267815875,0.14588785446355987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16766742759997846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618907237359307,0.0,0.15014634231027116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835785381122392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429802596043206,0.15242292260198406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151378821473367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276451244029312,0.0,0.29375732943436605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566278979402818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26557870613793755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742558144932867,0.0,0.0,0.16327573065332746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093917564851026,0.0,0.0,0.36356137141230543,0.13844683916422504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709429570345183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764216619006753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103440543528933,0.0974459623379595,0.0,0.0,0.2660351355567497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071308262846883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088868322271883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793376911134878
parenting,nanobot29,2018/01/17,"5 Month old sleep time too early??? My precious little gal is 5 months old.  She sleeps well at night except she wakes up within the first 20 minutes after putting her to bed between 7pm-8pm.  once i put her back to bed (after 20 minutes of rocking) she'll sleep 6-8 hours straight.  Weird thing is that if i put her to bed after 9pm, she won't wake up right away and sleep her normal 6-8 hours.  Does this mean that her bedtime is too early?",2.6678021978021995,3.8919254505494494,3.3547252747252787,94.16527472527477,74.71428571428571,5.2,22.89010989010989,3.1291,-0.11370769230769227,340,9,75,0,7,107,61,91,0.019,0.883,0.098,0.7882,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,5,6,6,0,0,5,6,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,12,2,14,4,0,26,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,1,15,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137929987186761,0.11288550321775702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284717746127769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487393937283048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891506000446818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713915821609327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991583555114613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234359856341202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377684026425799,0.14383966707986426,0.0,0.0,0.30809845288095805,0.1563446389093098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44274467978576293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537235595024934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5876519957158043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753203201221416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560432869610668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199710284993926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dfc44,2018/01/17,"Is it weird to ask for another mums phone number even though our kids don’t really get along? My (almost 5 year old) daughter goes to OT and recently started a 2 week school readiness program to work on her writing skills and help her manage mat time. She has a language delay (that was quite severe but is pretty mild now from speech therapy and a big growth spurt) and is pretty energetic and has issues staying on task (most likely ADHD). There’s another girl (3.5 Year’s old)  in the program whose going to be starting kindy this year in a special program within a mainstream school for Autism early intervention. Our kids don’t really play together as mines a lot older and at a different stage developmentally where her play is mostly pretend and very hands on. 

This girls mum is super nice though and her daughter is adorable. I can see the Mum is a little unsure of herself and I know I was in that exact place last year when my daughter started kindy and I didn’t know any other mums or kids. I’ve now got a fantastic mum group and really love the support group I have of other parents. I also know how isolating it can sometimes feel when your child isn’t developing at the same rate as other children. My sister also has a severely disabled child (cerebral palsy) and one of her biggest issues is how hard it is to meet other parents. 

I’ve asked my daughter if she wants to have a play date and she’s pretty convinced she doesn’t (which is unusual, she’s obsessed with  play dates!) and I don’t want to force it, but I think she could be a good friend to her (she’s very maternal). Would it be weird if I asked for the mums number to hang out even though our kids aren’t really close? This is the last week of the program and we most likely won’t see each other again but this mum seems really nice and we seem to get along. 



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parenting,bandalorian,2018/01/17,"ATT gps tracker watch w/ 2-way calling for 5 year old? Our neighbors have it and they use it all the time but it is only compatible with verizon. Spent hours trying to find something for ATT, but have not been able to find anything. Has anyone been able to get a gps watch for their kids to work with ATT? The issue is most require 2g sim card, and att only has 4g",1.6610714285714252,3.523493039473685,2.928496240601504,93.40447368421052,79.13157894736842,5.395488721804512,21.383458646616546,6.18269132825596,0.10413007518797056,285,8,63,2,7,92,52,76,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,1,13,11,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,9,8,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,4,33,6,2,0.4586922503741073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603641432938079,0.0,0.18873231947262625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341880362500128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192364069311669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982388449800102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258597350504237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239377768701302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406601782129642,0.0,0.0,0.3488561258739275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765618520068909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337335699492535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571096432696505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19808141531778686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820442789900664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696671063534282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769138521238065
parenting,HobGadlingson,2018/01/17,Yookidoo Battery Compartment Driving Me Bonkers We have the Yookidoo Submarine Sprayer. Instructions say to just turn the battery compartment on the end and pull it out. It seems like it locks and can't be pulled out. Anyone have this thing and have changed the batteries already? I cannot. Figure. Out. HOW. TO. GET. THEFRIGGIN'THINGOPEN.,3.5860526315789487,6.234841859649122,2.409868421052632,86.24532894736845,104.08771929824562,6.110526315789473,31.065789473684212,7.1686216300943375,2.9023578947368422,274,15,43,6,12,78,42,57,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,6,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,2,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110444993345354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604489304235839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940378607777276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299095769985672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946071105155117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197648806812716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29621360957949033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390947370345451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474613024706307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051547857405441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bentish,2018/01/17,"The Gift of Fear Around the time I had my third child, my aunt told me that as each of her children reached their early teen years, she sat them down and told them they were about to get stupid. She told them that it was ok, it's a stage we all go through. But when deciding to do something, they should stop for a moment first and ask themselves if they were about to make a Stupid Decision. She told them that if they ever found themselves in a situation, which after a second thought, seemed like a stupid one, to just call her or talk to her about it, and she'd help them out.

I recently had the Stupid Talk with my son, who is almost 12. I reminded my kid that he's about to enter a phase where he's more in charge of himself and his own decisions, but that his brain is still not developed enough to always warn him when something is a Stupid Thing to Do. To remind himself in those times that ""mom being angry"" is a lot better than ""dead"" but that I remember being 12 and I know what it's like. That I would do my best to no be angry with him, and that I'll always be there if he just needs a reminder to be true to himself and listen to his little inner voice.

I've been wanting to read The Gift of Fear for myself anyway, but I was wondering if it would be an appropriate book to read along with my son. I know there is also the second book, specifically about kids. Would that be a better choice? I get the gist that the book is about listening to your gut and if something seems like a dangerous situation, it probably is. Is there another book that would be better for this job?

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parenting,The_Man11,2018/01/18,"Toddler stuck a LEGO up her nose. I just blew it out with the ""mother's kiss"" technique. My toddler jammed a 1x1 flat LEGO up her nose, I mean that thing was way up there. I could see it with a flashlight but she was too scared and wouldn’t hold still while I looked. I saved us a trip to the ER with the [mother's kiss technique](https://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/yes-you-can-help-your-kid-blow-that-lego-out-of-his-nose/)

Small kids aren’t good at blowing their noses so after asking her too blow her nose (unsuccessfully) I pinched close the unaffected nostril, covered her mouth completely with my own and blew. Out came the LEGO!",4.510991735537188,6.58540311570248,3.562057851239672,91.0758140495868,71.56198347107437,6.4928925619834725,22.843801652892562,7.1686216300943375,0.5035745454545449,511,13,105,5,10,148,80,121,0.051,0.8220000000000001,0.127,0.8439,1,0,0,0,0,0,36,1,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,9,0,5,8,6,0,0,17,11,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,4,7,16,4,12,5,1,14,0,0,2,2,12,8,0,0,3,57,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726487768292529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335642717610245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057843133620266,0.0,0.0,0.2328548617765202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446180527065307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548354680018606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24490841111526815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176869864018322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919875989286611,0.0,0.2324033661231266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329081343932357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375602935643896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508131170662099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314942863344507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluhend,2018/01/18,"1yr Old - Car Naps, Parental Survival lol ... i hope no one is offended by this question but as I am hoping many of you will agree, the nap is that mini vacation from parenting that helps us all survive during these first few years ... BUT, one thing our little cub has been doing, is waiting until we go for a quick drive back home from whatever we were doing and passes out cold, then when we get home, we get no nap, i.e. no chance to relax ourselves ... just wondering if there are any clever tricks people have come up with to let your little cub NOT NAP IN THE CAR, so that when YOU get home, you get the gift of the baby nap?",5.735691428571428,5.309091392000003,5.723085714285716,85.83640000000003,67.08,8.742857142857144,26.65714285714286,7.957251820313856,1.3315942857142855,484,11,103,5,7,152,92,125,0.07,0.741,0.19,0.9636,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,6,4,0,3,7,6,2,0,5,1,13,0,0,0,1,19,23,10,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,6,8,0,1,2,6,0,6,4,2,0,3,2,1,12,4,14,19,2,20,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,5,9,71,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774358350186362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182939322135615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648070116958866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476767015518148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311102168471981,0.0,0.09004422604100787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061979576483714,0.0,0.4767800704357789,0.3147302735594419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201405629861354,0.0,0.0,0.31759391336527265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063172698549616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625450787298854,0.0,0.21472399707916956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518543120180245,0.0,0.0,0.10984127647057823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774873316170767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525947035708336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058195514925574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181974753530913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202917137307094
parenting,sbbw2012,2018/01/18,"Talking to 5 yo about semiabsent father(xposting from singleparents) My daughter's dad is a deadbeat. For the first few years, he sporadically paid child support and would get her on his weekends, mostly to appease the courts and his family and out of spite against me. Our court systems sucks and hasn't done a thing about it since I got an attorney and had an order written 4 years ago. They've gotten him for nonsupport once but that's all. I went in tears about the abuse I endured during our relationship, texts among texts of lies about payments, excuses as to why he can't get her but he just said ""it's in the child's best interest...blah blah blah."" The judge just doesn't seem to care. So here we are, four years later, 11,000 owed in child support, he's got a newborn, he didn't get her for Christmas or her birthday and has missed his past two visitations and no response when called. His mother has called to ""check on her for the flu"" but didn't ask to talk to her grandchild, just made excuses for her son. My daughter, naturally, is confused as to why daddy doesn't get her anymore or why she hasn't seen Gaga or anyone else. I'm not sure what to tell her. She is aware that her dad was abusive(he was really mean and hurt mommy) As someone who has been in a similar scenario with my own father, I wish someone would've prepared me for the roller coaster ride that was a relationship with my father. I cut him out of our life 3 years ago because I didn't want his negativity in our life and I wish I would've had that mindset sooner. I don't want to push that thought on my daughter but I want to be honest. Any advice on how to deal? 

TL;DR my 5 year old's dad sucks and I want to tell her",3.62832066189624,4.986666979651165,4.354302325581397,87.4098389982111,72.51744186046511,7.269051878354204,26.312164579606442,7.748469712250963,1.290440429338103,1347,45,284,17,26,431,177,344,0.14400000000000002,0.772,0.084,-0.9456,2,0,0,0,1,0,39,5,0,0,2,12,13,4,1,14,0,25,3,0,2,2,42,56,23,0,7,11,10,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,4,10,15,0,0,3,2,3,4,12,7,0,3,20,2,44,6,45,34,5,31,0,2,1,0,59,12,2,6,13,173,54,0,0.0,0.12238381948500475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093549120448277,0.1831237874565316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702419240626314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243764906680644,0.07222398506572937,0.10583459233221032,0.0,0.0,0.09656383194251958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629656849430478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083983067427556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109448270079276,0.0,0.10531281122134452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648924665319424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057033103974236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628699323591174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973742581316273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785989982386537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21586268019143826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652236779826425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057594217124878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591601890933606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773714026085947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251498400978938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083873037959854,0.11000233020244636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860365190273393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617133248544778,0.0,0.0,0.22179334214156124,0.0,0.0,0.09825409668497263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403291917390323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854439933018324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750375093195067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344284811006976,0.0973512409319224,0.0,0.0,0.16604397323388184,0.1805630640682884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06862244120149544,0.0,0.0,0.08200210240406472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090101943388953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436965737631776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957524762315638,0.2796141834169172,0.0,0.2375608028642529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201264618919013,0.0,0.0,0.3325824645342566
parenting,virtuousiniquity,2018/01/18,"Social exclusion in Kindergarten My little one is 5 and in senior kindergarten. I have found much advice on how to cope with and counsel a child when they are the target of social exclusion, but my child is the one conducting the disclusion, and skin color is the focus.

On the first occasion we spoke about feelings, how it hurts to make remarks that hurt friends feelings.

On the second occasion we spoke about why people's skin differs in color, ancestry and other racial traits. We really emphasized how terrible it makes someone feel when you disclude someone due to physical traits which they neither choose or can change. 

Today has been the third occasion. The same friend has received all three remarks, and we're feeling terrible. 

I've found a few articles on intervening in social inclusion, but could anyone recommend other sources?",8.716666666666669,9.827034544217687,7.797687074829934,68.24850340136055,60.70068027210885,11.159183673469386,38.102040816326536,10.980518767755715,4.6926,686,32,100,17,9,212,94,147,0.128,0.79,0.08199999999999999,-0.8220000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,1,2,1,7,6,0,0,10,0,10,2,2,5,1,27,20,13,0,1,3,0,6,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,6,9,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,4,0,6,5,10,9,2,15,14,5,16,0,2,2,0,16,9,0,1,6,74,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528388855825405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936325031017312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545762399497888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487807901035905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634117852968899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31633584989193025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330395187681699,0.0,0.3429839009222377,0.2416789652301225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348733646018563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676067319841255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20880546715426365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497697243574152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197055055189964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843276095595088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001981819665275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.478311016121286,0.2650458975360771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482553299152062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411327825212509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throway0000000001,2018/01/18,"My school is teaching that there are no health problems with being morbidly obese How do i procede with this? I don't have much parenting experience, i am 25 years old. But my 7 year old's health class is teaching that it is healthy no matter how fat you are. I've told him that his class is wrong at home, but how do I procede with this issue? I am from Russia, so I am apologizing for my English mistakes, if there are any.",3.847931034482759,4.664330517241382,4.7132758620689685,87.09681034482759,71.41379310344827,7.639080459770115,28.29310344827586,7.793537801064563,1.5218137931034486,333,12,72,4,6,108,55,87,0.149,0.8170000000000001,0.034,-0.8261,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,15,4,1,3,0,12,16,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,6,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,12,0,6,14,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,51,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236854039113487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191737558011959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4763307833009763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22475053288169605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23386051494116844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470994234095526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.470226734153789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487922074338005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21439524030500132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22676076689108485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21409901203841594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24497452818970056,0.0,0.2885746958502245
parenting,CanIHaveASong,2018/01/18,"Am I overusing ""No?"" ""No"" was my daughter's third word, shortly after Hi and Bye.  I say ""No no!"" to her whenever she starts playing with cords, or touches my computer, or puts something questionable in her mouth.  She knows what it means, and typically stops whatever she's doing after I admonish her.  She almost always answers ""No"" to any question I ask.

When I'm on the computer, she'll often come up to me, touch it, and say, ""No no.""  I thought this was rather brazen rebellion, until I realized that as soon as I close my PC and play with her, she's happy.  She's telling *me* she wants me to stop.  

However, she uses the word an awful lot.  Sometimes she'll touch my computer and softly say ""No no"" to herself, or even mutter it to herself as she crawls around.  

I started to be concerned about this a couple weeks ago, as I noticed just how much she says the word.  I looked up some stuff on children and no, and what I found was partly reassuring, and partly not.  Apparently, no is a really common early word, but parents who say no to their kids a lot can create negative attitudes and curb creativity.  It kind of came to a head yesterday.  I was cooking, and she was grabbing at my legs and fussing to be picked up, being a pill and making it hard to me to get anything done.  I tried to redirect her at first, but after a minute, she was trying to climb me again.  The words ""No no!"" came out of my mouth with no forethought or planning.  She immediately let go of me and sat down with a look of intense surprise on her face.  I felt bad, but I figured I should be consistent even though I hadn't meant to reprimand her, so I patted her head, kissed it, and told her thank you.  She crawled off and played with her toys, muttering ""No no"" to herself.

In general, I don't feel like I'm using no too much.  I mean- you have to have some way to tell your kid to stop what they're doing. 
However, she says the word to herself *so much* that I worry I'm creating a negative environment for her.  Additionally, the surprise on her face when I told her no in the kitchen really surprised *me*.  I felt like I was being harsh with her.  And yet, as I actually type this out, everything seems reasonable, except maybe the fact that she mutters ""No"" to herself all the time.  Is that a sign I'm doing something wrong?  ",2.3504908424908417,4.39301998681319,3.987967032967034,85.76619963369964,77.7032967032967,7.234432234432234,25.55860805860806,8.192908349453996,1.6551684981684978,1774,67,361,33,42,592,218,455,0.156,0.77,0.07400000000000001,-0.9882,4,0,2,0,0,0,86,0,3,1,3,17,15,0,0,19,1,28,11,7,6,2,84,60,35,0,3,11,2,9,2,0,3,1,6,1,3,18,30,2,4,16,5,0,6,25,2,0,2,19,17,79,13,60,32,10,47,0,0,2,1,63,19,0,13,24,275,97,5,0.0,0.0,0.08846314410666163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035740920645992,0.0,0.09077474873264206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542961412306523,0.0,0.0,0.06164637717194212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459876132387436,0.08069937966811566,0.08474725720481055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569052121927712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20736316855710807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808855532307457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030456502621317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927683321327052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974940450062115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147205150750753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0458363070155534,0.06476171087569255,0.1740800141145285,0.0,0.0,0.07710843054358317,0.0,0.09939509157393724,0.0,0.0,0.04736185824210325,0.0,0.05151954427600389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650059656293992,0.08120626570892997,0.0,0.18606993427557425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09439996810534396,0.04981989456570345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269767439624693,0.0,0.08857584502896622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522494716446514,0.0,0.0,0.15413794873098474,0.0,0.0,0.060510824190673135,0.0,0.09107198340308104,0.19749291421965845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991865519196375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320774978698496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065816878952316,0.1963342729031348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911301631102632,0.2031016721829867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614781271454495,0.09320521585196576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325400120002492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252605376818073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957646992913314,0.08965701301007968,0.0,0.128327714064857,0.0,0.0,0.22736705621292194,0.0,0.0,0.10377469780784697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584674523002846,0.08346005835381827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906499765701853,0.0719674553502517,0.052859831816357186,0.0,0.0,0.1732434847033329,0.0,0.1230933323534165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658821197426145,0.0,0.0,0.05346881902152748,0.07195523139176194,0.07271545852332564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206136983173158,0.0,0.0,0.0991135842315879,0.0,0.0
parenting,current_mrs,2018/01/18,"My kid loves me so much he tries to eat me The title pretty much says it all. 

My little boy, 2 weeks short of being 1, enjoys biting me. Occasionally it's only a quick nibble on a finger, but it escalated in the last few days. No body part is safe anymore. Knees are a common target as they are just at the right height, arms and shoulders if I am carrying him. Today, when we came to pick him up from Grandma Daycare, he actually tried to bite my face. My face. He leant in with his little pouty mouth open trying to suck in my chin and my cheek fat. 

Everyone thinks it is absolutely adorable. 'Oh he just loves you sooooo much!'. No. That might be the reason, but it is still a bit worrisome that he chooses to use me as his chewing toy. And no, he doesn't bite his daddy. Or his grandma. Or any other members of our family. Just me. 

Going to keep a closer eye on that as I do not want to raise a cannibal. No matter how cute he is.
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parenting,moomermoo,2018/01/18,"Why are toddler events aways during naps?! I am getting frustrated. Every story hour, baby hike, toddler library event, yoga, EVERYTHING is at 10a or 11a. My 20 month old starts getting grouchy at 9:59a like clockwork no matter when she wakes up in the morning. I can't figure out why there is no variance in the timing of events tailored toward kids who are in a big sleep habit change. Grrrrr.

Anyway, how do I push back her nap so we can participate in society? She gets just miserable if we push it by even a few minutes :/",3.5778555555555585,5.820125430000001,4.319333333333333,83.88522222222225,74.7,6.4444444444444455,27.11111111111111,7.3871296695380915,1.6056777777777778,413,16,74,5,9,132,82,100,0.158,0.809,0.033,-0.9239,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,0,0,10,3,1,1,4,0,8,2,2,1,0,9,12,5,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,3,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,12,12,1,23,0,1,0,0,7,11,0,2,11,48,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421858208797665,0.198211199898104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726892064046586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025635559947064,0.0,0.21718451325493826,0.0,0.23166937039438285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040265959908347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538540634201547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593466023204358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057516111866428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27048895691452257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579587366693483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824527563223093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503092622495211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4651993124785727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rosegold816,2018/01/18,"Job that requires frequent relocation Hey guys! Just looking for some advice and insight on a particular situation. 

My job, which was supposed to be temporary, just offered me a permanent position with the company. This is amazing because it provides great pay, benefits, hours, etc. However, the catch is that it is a traveling job, meaning that the company would move me to a new location every couple of years. I'm a single mom to a 5 year old boy, so I have to think of how this will impact him, most importantly. I will never have an opportunity like this again and I'd be making a great amount of money, but I don't want to jeopardize his wellbeing and happiness because of it. 

Does anyone have any experience with something like this? Any insight would be great! Thanks! 
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parenting,clicheandUnoriginal,2018/01/18,"Neighbors kid has been sick everyday for the past six months. My neighbor has two kids. A two year old boy, and a 5 year old girl who attends school. I’ve noticed recently that their little boy is ALWAYS sick. I don’t mean like once a month sick. I mean consistently, for six  months. Now normally I’d shrug it off and say it was none of my business. However they bring their kid over to play with my son (who is absolutely ecstatic about playing with them all day) every day from about 10am to about 5 on most days with breaks in between. If they come in the house they usually stay til about 7. The daughter and the rest of the family whom I’ve known for 10+ years are never sick. I figured oh he’s catching it from his sister who goes to school because kids get sick, no biggie. But none of them are ever sick! He comes over and his nose is just drenched in snot, I’ve never seen so much. My kid has been sick with a runny nose but it’s a ridiculous amount no matter how many times his nose is wiped with a cloth. When he comes over I have to go to all the toys my son had out that day and wipe/Lysol them down because they are COVERED in snot. He also will take sips out of my sons drink and my son will drink after him. The last straw was this last weekend when he came over and my son got sick, who eventually got me and my mother sick. I thought that it might be because they don’t give him time to rest and get over his sickness but how in the world would it even last six months. Before we moved here (about 6 months ago) my son and I rarely get sick. My son has maybe really been sick with a cold once. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t want to have them over or anything because I know someone in the house is going to get sick.

How in the world can a two year old have a perpetually runny nose/cough/cold that’s contagious? It can’t be allergies because my son gets it. However my sons cold goes away after a few days of rest but their son has had it for 6 months without fail. It never goes away. What do I do? ",2.504615877080667,3.7289241478873234,3.3497097737942845,94.03931498079388,75.12676056338027,6.572087067861714,21.59453691848058,6.980632752743323,0.25109953051643163,1581,37,370,15,33,502,191,426,0.114,0.853,0.032,-0.9891,2,0,2,0,0,0,39,1,0,12,1,18,5,1,0,21,0,36,18,3,3,6,52,59,24,0,4,8,13,0,1,2,4,13,1,2,8,22,23,2,0,6,6,0,10,12,2,0,6,13,7,42,3,56,40,11,76,0,1,1,0,54,25,0,4,40,227,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721422258571458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508295412796031,0.06771821431428221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697230213412134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292636095647244,0.0,0.0,0.2480554125437962,0.0,0.06925200124656536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308189928115357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103159715055596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624305376815349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945116046029026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375352858593676,0.0736167121110021,0.06856973944124753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672182648004001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21259955417037388,0.07807118698126876,0.09250508785487097,0.0,0.13018083624773766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18781299183809105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472665459763527,0.19901707423317846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03976023294348277,0.08156839741353053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251085422348889,0.08176141641205542,0.17730261046886964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633582662008732,0.0,0.0,0.3897607842449837,0.08649857650416475,0.059826786844508664,0.0,0.18830564888578935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973928402505312,0.0,0.09265650633671632,0.25619723551272017,0.17334313713145438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769047401987528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693442055323126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213683355655382,0.0,0.0803571271320521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472002093754663,0.0,0.16473040877407874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895660965835773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674478038994554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061190826482786564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461000260601406,0.09491161955878044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385017555934004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963325185075527,0.0,0.04800253836276987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845151135734653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05781303511141611,0.0,0.0,0.2096351510051797
parenting,iceskatinghedgehog,2018/01/18,"Baby gates for open concept homes Hi Friends,

Apologies if this gets asked a lot; I feel like I can't be the only one with this question.  But my reddit search skills are sub-par and I didn't find any old posts that quite met my needs.

My little one isn't mobile yet, but my nanny brings her 18 month daughter to our home during the day.  She has indicated that it would be very helpful to have a corralling system to keep her daughter in our living room.  Neither of us love the ""play yard"" idea because it's not quite big enough to have all three of them (nanny, toddler, baby) playing inside it at the same time and she understandably doesn't want to separate herself/my child from her child.  

But the gate options to separate my living room from my kitchen are limited, given our open concept style home.  The space we need to cover is 116.5 inches--wider than most gates I'm finding.  The other sticking point is that I can't mount the gate on either side, b/c we have these weird columns that look cool but would be ruined if we drilled into them (and sound either hollow or made of low quality wood, so likely wouldn't function as a reliable anchor for the gate anyway).  I have found some wooden freestanding pet gates, but those make me nervous--they look like they could easily be a tipping hazard if an even remotely rambunctious child happens upon them.

What do other parents with open concept homes do?  ",7.05163591635916,6.840318025830258,6.565225092250923,80.1718720787208,64.31365313653136,8.850282902829028,31.350799507995077,8.021203637495839,2.144307552275523,1119,36,208,11,15,347,172,271,0.062,0.847,0.091,0.7966,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,7,0,4,4,4,11,0,0,14,1,24,2,0,2,1,48,43,14,0,10,12,3,1,3,1,3,0,1,15,3,14,12,1,2,7,3,0,1,8,3,0,3,5,6,28,8,23,30,9,24,0,2,3,1,30,16,0,9,8,132,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857415261249682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178716333545208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768597101028585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066791133755336,0.0,0.0,0.08131382758994955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027860176197184,0.0,0.08327737302227523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375192015719748,0.09007452148336674,0.0,0.0,0.2304772054101072,0.0,0.0,0.13824473118850528,0.0974122793877996,0.0,0.0658737494738071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149577210828264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451152879993643,0.0,0.5058906159292096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423336259891946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120693602689882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18479499880608255,0.12636941307724558,0.22266917823584448,0.0,0.2117578136687967,0.0,0.0,0.1071922111586949,0.11379584216876955,0.1193038442054064,0.08416213005862361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063914274679484,0.0,0.0,0.18697955674596292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230407572195713,0.0,0.1708757274153849,0.0958926558527878,0.0,0.0,0.14000149570649065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919024866286153,0.0,0.1207537353805252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124307161579838,0.26821196610840997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352066509930204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125801691798455,0.1516636736524991,0.0,0.0,0.10403260470898597,0.0743676814976257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913308455002114,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sniglet5000,2018/01/18,"Having my second daughter in a few weeks and am more nervous than with my first (5 yr old) Well, the time that I've known was coming is upon me and I feel completely unprepared. While I feel more confident in my baby handling skills this time around, I just have this weird nervous feeling of like ""what if this is a mistake"" That makes me feel terrible. Like what if kid number 2 messes up the family dynamic we currently have? Isn't that awful of me? lol if I know one thing from this sub its that parents usually feel awful about a lot of things when they shouldn't but still....

Here are my concerns:
I've built up the anticipation with my 5 year old who is exactly like me. She is a daddys girl and what if she feels neglected? 


What if she becomes introverted?


What if I don't bond with child number 2?


With child 1 she was the only focus now I have to balance time between 2 kids, what if the missing 50% of time not spent with number 2 has some sort of negative impact?


What if I forget to teach child number 2 something because I'm more of a casual parent than before?


What if child number 1 becomes angry and hateful (when I was 3 and my sister was born, I completely changed according to my mother. I was resentful and just out right mean to her most of her life)


I am excited though. I love the baby phase and this is the last time I'm going to experience it. I'm an obsessive worry wart and always have been. All the what ifs....",2.4347161803713533,4.3765854689655175,4.100000000000001,85.53384615384618,77.06896551724137,7.220159151193633,23.22281167108753,8.139509932561175,1.3301299734748009,1126,35,227,20,26,377,153,290,0.14300000000000002,0.73,0.127,-0.9305,3,0,1,0,0,0,34,1,0,1,2,11,19,2,3,14,3,23,3,0,1,2,51,41,23,0,12,14,5,6,3,0,1,2,0,0,7,23,17,0,1,9,1,1,2,5,11,1,3,7,6,31,8,29,33,8,29,0,2,0,1,22,8,0,14,22,162,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588164301014852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132788893128787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757001540472691,0.2810737928616761,0.1082798143450265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346129270230104,0.10961403732499993,0.26683701990285963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447426987072292,0.11995935103582422,0.0,0.3860465324724774,0.09090695254623794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082382219610476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723187312900403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563237683700626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993290834820845,0.10372519427385114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987997069222181,0.18650279691298496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818283675178034,0.11484749575834055,0.0,0.08493992127221492,0.0,0.0,0.13861183358516962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670535493336107,0.0,0.08622744471822018,0.09677885568064724,0.0,0.0,0.28259066197631666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867023943728546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796275729013797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162148576118483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907761190637846,0.0,0.12502182857828634,0.0,0.37100056171734935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401471682382917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207174344183363,0.0,0.11441243696036935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922787964479307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194440168672472
parenting,MELBOT87,2018/01/18,"Our experience at a helmet clinic (Rant) It has been a tough week and I just need to get this off my chest. Hopefully it will also provide useful information for other parents who are in a similar situation.

Last Thursday my wife and I took our 7 month old son to a helmet clinic for a consultation. Our pediatrician thought his head was a bit flat in the back and so recommended that we set up the appointment. When we got to the clinic, they digitally photographed his head and generated a report based on his measurements. After waiting for a couple of minutes, the technician comes in and tells us that our son has an ""atypical"" head shape. She says they do not usually see his shape and that she was concerned that he has a condition called craniosynostosis. Basically, this condition occurs when the plates of a baby's skull fuse prematurely, causing the brain to grow in the opposite direction. This results in a severe head deformity. It is very serious and requires cranial surgery in order to correct. But the technician also said that our son had lambdoid craniosynostosis, which is the rarest form of that condition. She recommended that we see a cranial surgeon immediately. 

My wife and I were in shock the whole session. It is hard to process the information and ask questions when you receive news like this. We noticed his head was a bit flat in the back and he had a slight protrusion on his right side, but nobody would ever say his head was slightly deformed, let alone severely. As luck would have it, our local hospital hosts a free clinic Thursday nights in order to physically examine infant's heads and recommend whether helmet therapy, or worse, was recommended. We already planned on going to this because we wanted an opinion from someone not financially invested, but now it was essential. A cranial surgeon examined my son and low and behold, he just had a classic flat head. No craniosynostosis whatsoever. The surgeon didn't even think a helmet was really necessary. A second surgeon running the clinic walked by and agreed. His head was just a bit flat. Furthermore, we received the detailed report from the helmet clinic, and based on their own measurements, his head shape was considered mild-moderate. 

But this is where the story gets even more surreal. When my wife followed up with the technician we saw the day before and told her what the surgeons said, the technician was incredulous. She was convinced my son had lambdoid craniosynostosis and literally questioned the examination and diagnoses of the two cranial surgeons we saw. She spent 15 minutes trying to convince my wife that she was right and that she knows better because she looks at babies' heads all day [what do you think cranial surgeons do?]. She made it seem like we took our son to a couple of nobodies and got horrible advice. When my wife finally told her that we were making an appointment with another specialist to get yet another opinion, she made the snarky remark ""I guess you're not convinced either.""

Today was our appointment with the cranial specialist and he, like the two surgeons before him, was 99.9999% sure he just had a bit of a flat head, and a moderate one at that. He wouldn't even helmet him if it was his kid. Of course, my wife and I were beyond relieved. From being told our son will need cranial surgery to being assured that any issue with his head shape was purely aesthetic. But we were also very angry. The technician was so cavalier about the possibility that our son had a serious condition and then acted completely inappropriate when trying to convince my wife that the opinions of the surgeons were wrong and she was right. We reported her to her office manager and then to her regional manager. 

Just some quick lessons if you're considering getting your kid helmeted. (1) If you're worried about your kid's head shape, see a cranial specialist and don't just rely on the helmet clinic for advice. They are not doctors and they are not qualified to medically diagnose your kid no matter how many heads they have seen. (2) Realize that the helmet clinic is in the business of selling you a helmet. So even if your baby's head is slightly deformed, they will try to make you think that a helmet is necessary. This is self-evident, but it helps to remind yourself when you have someone emphatically saying your kid has a severe deformity. 

I hope other parents don't have to go through this when going to a helmet clinic. I really hope it was just one rogue technician and not a common occurrence in that industry. It is completely unethical to put parents through that.",7.932846803377561,8.721516095295536,8.042424366706879,66.93319987937276,62.35343787696019,11.312337756332932,37.448516284680345,11.086034824415743,4.536729679131484,3709,173,591,97,50,1206,322,829,0.063,0.855,0.08199999999999999,0.9468,4,1,0,0,0,0,86,24,10,7,4,36,22,0,0,67,0,66,41,19,8,6,121,112,59,0,13,26,18,1,3,0,6,22,5,0,6,43,47,0,2,15,0,4,14,12,6,0,5,48,13,87,17,71,55,11,82,0,1,7,0,120,35,0,17,33,430,130,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841463332366623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0468542674001589,0.04992268829756557,0.10853354646794466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03076427273418046,0.09487469309475108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229263508625408,0.0,0.0,0.06957245263773297,0.0,0.05515491012903315,0.0,0.07699061806070498,0.0,0.0,0.04001048115208293,0.1975583782798833,0.0,0.0,0.05050201608717283,0.046194379471652613,0.0,0.0,0.04647321892994808,0.0,0.03896964791096615,0.09486508269369516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011284154924316,0.0,0.05835120698438032,0.0,0.0,0.0918338667164786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04630433660871616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952051389938136,0.04092153340697962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04425271241907208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955743770231368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454266031521633,0.0,0.07713160370285567,0.0,0.07236399571102528,0.0,0.04983618508216296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04052552348738684,0.0,0.7428571109337045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03032294663608375,0.0,0.0,0.13479848625953333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04721807168945347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02486233407897651,0.03687606440736987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046260245415498016,0.0,0.06630490498730887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03798961499592183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561303180029348,0.06039516299813296,0.045865545753439166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045573831501134233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036109574614801784,0.0,0.0,0.06708872980713007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04245401488505436,0.0,0.0,0.051505238562064085,0.047471031287938406,0.0,0.061310635807863965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069865414443967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05100050913072423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04547798785344525,0.10135673047546696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796290312182515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590233530169095,0.08606586075210075,0.10792831232001282,0.0,0.0,0.10814958574801793,0.04118415618680498,0.04719445225529487,0.15332258353998926,0.0,0.0,0.050850864375407735,0.0,0.0,0.07666221771794715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04263750127872532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03954113887714046,0.0,0.05173507784276068,0.0,0.0,0.08696254295714684,0.0,0.03591494790042253,0.0,0.0,0.04288156310081569,0.12968425860536045,0.10052504528448876,0.09214353759307027,0.0,0.08838443771139301,0.0,0.05441730315498222,0.03907222679686041,0.049824693399187055,0.07465431440652744,0.026683309005569342,0.0,0.036288234615362736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05050805861333097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594270125373561,0.046102707723922866,0.06427339607624583,0.04946206860555854,0.0,0.0
parenting,Krebstar_,2018/01/18,"How can I tell if my kid is lying or being honest when he says he’s scared? So for context, my son is 5. He, like any other kid, occasionally says he’s scared when my wife and I tell him to do a task that involves him going into a room by himself. The problem is that I can’t tell if he is bull shitting us because he just doesn’t want to do said task or that he is genuinely scared. The only reason I am questioning this is because there are times when he actually does things on his own. Sometimes he has no problems doing tasks on his own. I feel like these are the times when he just doesn’t think to make up any excuses. Does anybody have any tips on how to handle this situation? I don’t really feel like we should assume that he’s scared every time because that would just be enabling his manipulation. Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks!",4.647451392538095,5.055613566473991,5.754040987913822,81.82095112979506,69.40462427745665,8.37183394640042,27.287966368891226,8.296473431620573,1.614426589595375,669,20,140,9,11,223,95,173,0.158,0.745,0.097,-0.8847,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,1,11,12,1,4,5,0,25,1,1,5,0,26,33,12,0,8,7,2,2,3,0,3,0,3,1,2,10,3,0,0,6,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,1,5,17,5,11,26,2,14,0,0,0,0,32,6,1,6,10,87,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.1195512236038287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332415955174639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404125733972474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144171033538773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321921274453172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388857856065093,0.1750410717604914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962475299636202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795552955169937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177578523038695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317370205253604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344493547263304,0.0,0.0,0.13723824577263302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848247577652251,0.1259597735744776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653422219838624,0.19484833001901905,0.4906119820259185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257538455352327,0.0,0.13770537763335214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116464679455433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212350976532907,0.11278993301680032,0.0,0.0,0.0813896120424446,0.07849889387302735,0.0,0.0,0.2143081495787199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736338059908047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225904983625739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740539199710797,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Agent_Chasez,2018/01/18,"2 1/2 year old son is a late talker, confirmed no hearing or psych problems - strategies? Our 2 1/2 year old son hasn't been very interested in talking. He doesn't make much noise, and he'll only babble every once in awhile. He does point to things he wants and will often do it with an audible ""Mmmm!"" 

We've confirmed no hearing problems and briefly consulted with speech therapists, and the consensus was that we can only try to encourage him to talk. He can understand most things we say or ask without any issues (""Find the ball"", ""point to Chase on your PJs"", etc), but he just doesn't want to talk. We're trying to teach some sign language to him (starting with ""please"") but he's showing signs of resisting wanting to learn or pay attention.

Anyone have a similar experience and can offer up some advice?",5.860392156862744,6.783981215686276,5.956084967320262,79.61138235294119,66.90849673202615,8.995816993464052,31.63986928104575,9.120678840339163,2.6930292810457526,638,25,117,11,10,202,104,153,0.08199999999999999,0.903,0.014,-0.7246,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,0,33,22,10,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,4,10,0,0,4,2,1,0,6,2,0,0,2,5,6,2,17,18,5,12,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,7,6,63,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629529883269398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484913499162284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752555330096246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039215615816244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205725248040862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555371115902905,0.0,0.0,0.11751537833243934,0.0,0.0,0.13643525820516508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747944057220004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31440140564389196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557773864555495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573361181216033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310197282327497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253163491266623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29271527357242866,0.14853844062502805,0.0,0.2121570695261444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310384912564026,0.26370167399707073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26692128226797185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091769938364544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872253028393604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363189599795796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194353373723205,0.18532462701823973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189391439247006,0.0,0.0,0.14520046385973107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508312265390536,0.24680142447318476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445083958368487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17963721521255022
parenting,drunkenempanada,2018/01/18,"Need new ways to cope with my frustration. Hi everyone, 22yo new mom of a 3.5 month old boy. He's generally a happy baby, likes to smile and coo and play. He gives me hell staying asleep for a nap during the day unless I hold him. And sleeps from 6pm-5/6am, until the past few nights. I don't know if it's because he's teething, or a sleep regression, or what. But it's been rough. I've had episodes more often than I care to admit where I've been less than gentle with him because of my frustration/stress. I'm not talking about smacking him around or beating him. But I've been rough with picking him up or putting him down. Squeezed him a little tighter than intended. Yelled at him to just shut up already. I feel so guilty immediately afterwards and I just sit there and cry. But yet, it still happens. I'm so ashamed of it, honestly. I have no handle on my temper, and I have very little patience. I think a good part of my anger is because I've realized I'm growing a bit of resentment towards my boyfriend/baby's father because of the lack of help I recieve with the baby and house in general. We've had countless conversations about it and still nothing changes. I've noticed my frustration with the baby gets worse when my boyfriend is home or soon to be home. Or when I'm flat out sleep deprived. I'm preemptively expecting a bunch of shit for admitting that I've been rough with my innocent baby boy. But I need help. And I don't have much of a support group. I need advice on how to be more patient and get a better grasp on my anger. I'm scared to go to the doctor because I nurse and don't want to be put on meds (also don't have insurance). But I'm getting to the point where I might have to. I just feel like there's ways to improve without meds. What can I do to keep myself calm and not lash out at my baby or boyfriend? ",3.172891246684351,4.522466501326264,4.159575596816977,88.39490716180374,73.64190981432361,7.215915119363396,27.588859416445626,7.753152298057669,1.4857883289124667,1449,55,309,19,29,469,184,377,0.14300000000000002,0.736,0.122,-0.9064,0,0,0,0,0,0,43,0,0,0,2,21,21,8,2,17,0,23,7,6,3,0,64,49,33,0,7,20,2,6,2,0,1,1,1,2,2,8,21,0,2,8,2,0,4,8,11,0,0,6,7,36,10,53,39,9,43,1,1,0,0,24,20,2,10,17,191,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007264195255891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374890006945952,0.08243126824274202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176108332142698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141763081353007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116392521115907,0.112534245426136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509467262620503,0.0,0.10904262998715064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322610778786706,0.06647664457326803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550448177576034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984952418477995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423845150974538,0.07363879093175374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156166645708475,0.09888160490424748,0.05858148122618309,0.08645675642484131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911513457617694,0.10972821994662682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381817343713696,0.0,0.20679084766287886,0.0,0.0,0.11893792558370148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162027235667697,0.0,0.0,0.056648855482025876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071719918288384,0.2066220422049561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22899236609929804,0.0,0.0,0.10934924172444482,0.0,0.12072345718954752,0.08227570538524215,0.0,0.07577403301001018,0.2292926167296466,0.0,0.19910633612143028,0.0,0.0967315195031851,0.0,0.09890591571368347,0.1173547425837561,0.1081627968826592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162319740751614,0.09839941025490176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744182547790692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072432904601372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319884587559527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580786608646912,0.0,0.0,0.3094566827061773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986720496618373,0.1646361061401957,0.0,0.11807525562747564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697145005347133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828500198892819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604808318586311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504996864918628,0.06079794885054346,0.16363669734033282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936330738815873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504507014049813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MaximumRecursion,2018/01/18,"Question about Ferber method or Cry It Out (CIO) So, a little less than a week ago I started sleep training my child (13 months) and it went great, but I had some questions for people who done it before.

First I want to explain how it went so people have a frame of reference. Our pediatrician recommended 20 mins before we go in. My wife and I thought this was nuts and did the graduated method. The nights he woke up he only got up once.

1st night - 3/5/10 - he fell asleep about 7 mins into the first 10 minute interval. 

2nd night - 5/10/12 - he fell asleep 1 min into the 10 minute interval

3rd night - slept through night 10-8

4th night - got up for 5 mins, put self back to sleep, slept 9 - 7

5th night - slept through night 8:30 - 6:30

6th night- slept through night 8:30 - 6:15

So, obviously it went great.

My question is what do I do when he sleeps 9-10 hours straight but gets up early?

Last night was the 6th night, and he was still tired when I got him up this morning. 

Do I let him CIO at 6:30 in the morning?

I don't mind getting up with him at that time. I just want to make sure that getting him up is the right thing to do. And I shouldn't be letting him CIO if he is still tired.

He takes about a 2 hour nap during the day, and some little ones in the evening when I pick him up after work.

Is about 12 hours of sleep a day (including the 2 hour nap) enough sleep for a 1 year old?

Also, what do I do if he only naps for 20 mins when I know he needs a 2 hour nap? Let him CIO or get him up and try and get him to nap later? We have done the latter, and he has just taken another nap.",1.6961719418306238,3.1433122485029976,2.699268605645852,96.95624251497007,77.7125748502994,5.849272882805817,20.012403763900767,6.367922702773337,-0.2086266894781863,1217,27,296,9,28,386,157,334,0.039,0.9,0.061,0.7059,0,0,2,0,0,0,55,3,0,0,3,19,3,0,0,18,0,26,13,11,3,2,42,53,24,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,13,15,0,0,7,6,0,7,2,0,0,3,20,0,28,3,38,28,4,72,0,0,0,0,31,21,0,9,44,160,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0537672336157824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048505994338635686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360233507378743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04664015555919735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322632785846364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662696159388047,0.07823525742263103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414279243648578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267310399472624,0.0,0.04006223116647048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318667661699274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844936526251402,0.0,0.034471785492106936,0.0,0.14553467165034906,0.13374528988363116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986660948860847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033334547943744394,0.049442137373719997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860723571399836,0.0,0.0,0.121585022565917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04048786107805366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124452782845285,0.0,0.048414454668725834,0.0,0.0,0.04497511120912335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6830502993459288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364749839577072,0.06459587875965386,0.04110157803982874,0.09226212610990032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410144852482987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06097529546783821,0.20384333872614746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179926578404881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632766709024789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034953527423633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04293210949457673,0.0,0.09687874762347236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716687041780921,0.0,0.04560521142163932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040296663569629514,0.0,0.0,0.04815350597738415,0.035368573405083925,0.1394286111274823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041180944125431315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155209486916478,0.0,0.048653995748634514,0.0,0.0,0.1686841178966183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04415775607839065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03906000266922336
parenting,Atomicclown154,2018/01/18,"Can i adopt the little one So heres the deal, the father isnt really in the childs life at all (child is 2). He isnt on the birth certificate and the child doesnt have his last name. But the child loves me and calls me dad so my question is could i adopt the child so i become their father or does he have to sign his rights away",2.5166666666666657,3.0506606666666687,3.301000000000002,97.044,74.27777777777777,6.871111111111111,17.177777777777774,6.742157984588678,-0.5216255555555551,256,2,65,2,5,81,45,72,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,8,0,9,2,0,0,1,9,10,7,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,9,1,5,9,1,8,0,0,0,1,18,6,0,2,2,41,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776872183101672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264214696212273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30179857646121244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23597964899525026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30470814102640353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586454943643827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409198666791413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087619185279665,0.0,0.2962275599591173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667533530328412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002782894843291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310934936471004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18934253311553556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25240559712136684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jc0187,2018/01/18,"I feel like an awful, awful parent. I dropped my daughter off at the babysitter and the babysitter has the flu. So hi. My MIL watches our LO for us at work. I just spent a week off (sick time) a couple weeks ago because I got the flu, so I am completely out of sick leave until July. My wife is a special education teacher and is very limited on when she can take time off. So today I go to drop my LO off at the babysitters. I didn’t know she had the flu until she opened the door. Being as that I have no reliable backup for a sitter, I really had no choice but to leave her or risk calling off due to no sitter and facing disciplinary actions at work (plus, IF I’m not written up or straight up fired, I’d miss work without pay). Considering I need to give, at the very least, 4 hours notice of a call off, I had no choice. 

So I’m curious. If my LO gets the flu, can Tamaflu help with it if caught early enough? 

Also, I’m mad at my MIL for not letting us know yesterday that she has the flu, but, she watches our LO for next to nothing, so I can’t really be too pissed. 

Edit: my sister in law is staying at MIL’s to watch our LO while MiL heads to the upstairs rooms. I’m hoping this will be enough. Unfortunately, my LO was already exposed the past couple days, so she might have gotten the flu regardless. I’m hoping not though. ",3.3026240060583083,3.9198021438848936,4.84509276789095,86.38610564180237,72.52517985611509,7.579250283983339,26.142370314274892,7.669130373188453,1.2530187050359705,1028,32,225,12,19,347,148,278,0.202,0.731,0.067,-0.9866,1,0,0,0,0,0,37,5,0,0,4,11,8,2,1,19,2,22,11,3,0,0,29,43,24,0,7,12,4,2,1,0,2,8,0,2,0,4,7,0,1,3,0,2,3,10,4,0,0,10,5,32,4,37,27,3,44,0,1,3,0,21,21,1,8,18,146,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020074142779024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718842183453034,0.09941736221743802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578332953472368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538859277596427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034545439918638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751118420475928,0.0,0.08017506940544229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569082343776199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285910742154369,0.08881307430279596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495122161377619,0.11925751648583592,0.07065299931025006,0.0,0.09942876383241953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758652199640655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332798846050657,0.0,0.0,0.2469524008189383,0.12242856060248634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664425902256447,0.0,0.0,0.2632704249415327,0.0,0.12712396464714654,0.0,0.06073568007715479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188215351373678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218050228248832,0.0,0.0,0.13221400569117633,0.0,0.0,0.1192868368711584,0.141537297679643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380408470221981,0.0,0.11867595901213375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928307299546465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250685018912498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347194887409216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221421754881417,0.0,0.14498209226592568,0.0,0.11783928646898617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990794043712291,0.0,0.0,0.20515136355487024,0.0,0.0,0.19944140861843584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983848037666213,0.0,0.2715157800975892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inorleans,2018/01/18,"My 5 year old is afraid of the dark and it's driving us mad It seems along with my kid's imagination came a paralyzing fear of the dark, or even being alone in a room.

I've had some success getting her to be ""brave"" and waiting in the stairway while she turns on the light herself and goes in her room, but that progress has since been reset and we are back to 0.

How long do you think this phase will last?  She becomes a sobbing heap at the thought of going upstairs by herself or going into a dark room.  I can't reason with her because when we discuss it, she just keeps repeating herself.

Lately if she's wanting something in her room upstairs, I tell her she has to go get it herself, and the best I can do is meet her halfway (wait in the stairs and comfort her, so she knows I'm nearby).   Now even that doesn't work anymore so she just keeps crying / whining stubbornly.",3.5681763180639585,4.698876595505624,4.201685393258426,89.32607173725155,72.37078651685394,6.3757994814174594,28.86084701815039,6.297961479604792,1.171151598962835,686,27,144,4,13,218,112,178,0.101,0.818,0.081,-0.1531,0,1,1,0,0,0,18,3,1,0,4,10,10,2,2,11,0,15,0,0,2,0,33,32,15,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,7,13,0,5,6,0,0,5,2,6,0,0,4,1,27,4,18,25,2,28,0,2,0,0,26,13,1,5,10,101,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859014515366489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780096251044577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801965808001784,0.0,0.10941775873680512,0.1982368077027836,0.0,0.0,0.18836767654294526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205293097495114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19716551859322567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371079333344336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019804351069624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18755621163202132,0.0,0.30603140083803343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190846857811449,0.0,0.0,0.09864510215039986,0.14631140941210752,0.2024768324790644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884637084106706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834855632252387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845495282319735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340442056326204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847913197585802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381831018910863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688549881472907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115012383873754,0.0,0.14249803309333198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523771905555015,0.0,0.0,0.21590894931347807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587009788396462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067362924604256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558812676274804
parenting,musicalschmetterling,2018/01/18,"Advice wanted about 10 year old hanging out with an adult I have a 10 year old step daughter who spends a lot of time alone with an adult male who is not a relative (it’s her mom’s ex-boyfriend). My step daughter really adores the guy. 

The thing is, they spend quite a bit of time swimming (he has a house close to lake). The guy has professed a few times that my step daughter is his best and only friend. The guy also has a problem with drinking. 

He was a friend of my husband’s from years ago (he and my husband haven’t hung out much in the last 8-10 years but before that we’re very close). So my husband and his ex inherently trust this guy and have not thought much about his interests in their daughter.  

But I’ve always been a little uneasy about the situation. We talk openly to my step daughter about what is okay and what is not okay. I don’t believe anything has ever happened, but she is entering puberty and I’m concerned that maybe over the next few years something like a woody Allen thing could happen (Woody Allen fell in love with his teenage step daughter). 

I am openly someone who is suspicious of people to begin with. I experienced some sexual abuse as a child and I’ve made it a life goal to make sure that never happens around me. I don’t know if my perceptions are clouded. 

Am I blowing this out of proportion or am I right to be sceptical of this relationship? Is there anything I should be specifically looking for as a red flag? ",5.335624521072795,5.719945351724138,5.545057471264368,84.00291187739465,67.89655172413794,8.513409961685824,30.249042145593872,8.344100000000001,2.003501915708812,1152,41,235,15,18,365,155,290,0.067,0.821,0.112,0.9231,1,1,2,0,1,0,27,1,0,2,3,9,13,1,0,22,2,27,3,0,2,3,43,39,16,0,5,8,11,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,8,16,21,1,0,3,2,2,9,7,2,0,0,4,3,25,11,32,31,8,39,0,0,2,1,39,14,0,4,17,149,41,1,0.0,0.12812286070570492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056687390071069,0.09585557801237388,0.0,0.0,0.11199574475758936,0.0,0.08647590384918115,0.08997738145638838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797257169740247,0.09626350276491223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201532845892413,0.1218316553175358,0.11348151425555103,0.0,0.11805593671752755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633738127806599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593160225559473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978147320370164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709040636532088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282845027718257,0.2868715420684652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247738247397745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05942843151950605,0.08814484840324735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637928708272795,0.052829533126009874,0.10838015862027256,0.0,0.0,0.09080656812292663,0.0,0.0,0.09193291766842104,0.09759649209607273,0.10232040526362524,0.07218127221970995,0.0,0.10863662350545106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664696660400165,0.0,0.0,0.15898403924933593,0.0,0.08340074809393372,0.0,0.11500330916705635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226939990677795,0.0,0.0,0.08224190489427635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496752592511234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347104981969804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150153930560546,0.0,0.0,0.06927435710390377,0.0,0.0,0.11609703635756286,0.0,0.09234710860945468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154880960259434,0.0,0.0,0.09162284082645623,0.08324797510338491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019164096523109,0.0,0.0,0.08691520228404488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368081519831782,0.0,0.0,0.08584749183431263,0.1891640030121751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922309541113342,0.06378110747422537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481785170293989
parenting,boringusername,2018/01/18,How to deal with a violent 6 year old I just don't know what to do my 6 year old. Very morning this week she has hit and kicked me as she doesn't want to get ready for school I spend about half an hour trying to get her ready and getting hit and kicked. She has lost use of her iPad lost tv and all treats I just don't know how to handle this. I stay calm as shouting at her makes her worse she just treats me this way so often I can't cope what would you do? How do you stop a child being violent at home? I know she behaves well as school. It is the second day I have cried on the walk home I try not to show her how much it upsets me but I just don't know how much more I can take.,0.9813461538461541,1.7865941858974352,2.3389743589743617,101.44769230769234,78.2948717948718,5.712820512820513,16.846153846153847,5.46131890053228,-0.9729384615384612,527,6,144,2,12,170,86,156,0.114,0.84,0.045,-0.8004,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,2,13,9,2,1,5,0,15,0,0,7,1,27,30,14,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,7,5,0,1,4,2,1,1,6,5,1,2,2,1,26,4,16,24,4,14,0,2,0,0,14,3,0,1,8,93,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919961387748633,0.0993394793252191,0.1588027575608552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414299326897046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090182314092272,0.0,0.15169290846864514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33861322839492325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33629360292973204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281919357044778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22646609298367984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32326649438030064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117821801764899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418023211488444,0.0,0.12877970003424408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581473893972727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091585651948232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303631121515544,0.0,0.12709455563636948,0.09085351135913056,0.12226537919171628,0.12355714709676828,0.0,0.13849547217019822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569742672847606,0.10942165604881096,0.0,0.0,0.19838627521304208
parenting,throwawaydrugkingpin,2018/01/18,"Foster parent rant Throwaway for privacy reasons. 




I really need to rant. 




My husband and I are foster parents for two girls and have been for one month. It's early days. 




Today I drove them 30 minutes to the foster agency office so they could see their mum as part of the court-ordered weekly contact. She didn't show. This is the second time it's happened within a month, lord knows how many times it happened before while they were with another foster carer. 




I had two girls who were crazy on edge this morning - crying, whining, fighting with each other - which they don't usually do (to that extreme). It was torture, for them and me. Now I have two girls who are disappointed as all hell but don't know how to show it. They're so used to being let down and abandoned that they think it's normal. 




Fuck that stupid woman. 




I am completely positive and supportive around the girls and the foster agency, but right now all I want is to tell that mother to get fucked. She is a domestic violence victim and a drug addict. I feel sympathy for her and know that it impacts her ability to function, but fuck her. 




And fuck their moron father who beat the mother around the head with a hammer and still thinks he's going to get custody. Fuck him for scaring the girls into silence and making them live in constant fear. 




And while I'm ranting, fuck their previous foster carer for being an absolute money-grubbing piece of shit. It's not ok to tell an 11 year old girl that you hate her. You get paid $1000 a fortnight to look after them, you need to feed them more than 2 minute noodles every night. You need to buy ringworm cream from the chemist, not use expired (by 7 years), USED vaginal thrush cream on the girl's leg. That ringworm cleared up within 1 week of being with me, and that bitch let it go for 3 months and now it's left a scar. She gave them ratty, inappropriate clothes to wear and I'd like to scratch her eyes out for it. 




I'm done. I'm going to go hang out with my girls who I love deeply and want to take care of forever. 



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parenting,pipettethis,2018/01/18,"Has anyone else seen their kid pretend to have a youtube channel? I just caught my 6yo son talking to the mirror and narrating what he’s doing, while brushing his teeth tonight. I was confused about what he was doing until he mentioned being a YouTuber and asking for likes and subscribes. I found it hilarious at the time but now I’m worried I let him watch youtube too much. I let him watch shows he can learn from but he inevitably clicks on other channels sometimes, mostly kids playing with toys or games. 

Has anyone else caught their kid doing this? ",3.968653846153845,6.569780096153848,3.556384615384616,88.08861538461541,74.96153846153845,4.929230769230768,27.707692307692305,5.6839178017228535,1.0283030769230774,446,18,78,2,10,133,75,104,0.056,0.882,0.062,0.168,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,1,4,0,12,1,1,0,0,12,18,8,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,2,7,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,5,11,2,9,9,2,9,0,0,4,0,18,2,0,3,6,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209963936217922,0.4703772912579456,0.0,0.0,0.21458689782653426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834988282630557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516763971309361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4694359921608332,0.0,0.1121405956607808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873672553051433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22701879594439706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449382342376566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384536211822742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331068215471544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KennyBrocklestein,2018/01/18,"How did you handle the toddler bed transition? Last week, our daughter discovered her inner Spider-Man and began climbing up and jumping out of her crib. The crib was a convertible one, so we installed the toddler rail. Now, she’s gone from a great sleeper to a kid who has to tire herself out with a two-hour full-blown tantrum to fall asleep. 

If we try to leave her alone before she’s completely down, she’s out of bed at light speed. At this point I have to literally keep my hand on her back until she falls asleep to keep her from wriggling out of bed.

My wife is of the opinion that we need to go back to the crib and just put mesh over the top. I can’t shake the feeling doing so will just ensure that when we try again, the process will be 10 times harder.

How did you handle the transition? Did your child ever sleep again? Did you?",3.9392156862745082,4.938338941176472,4.164411764705882,90.43818627450982,71.3529411764706,7.0784313725490176,25.34313725490196,7.1686216300943375,0.8947843137254905,660,19,142,6,12,205,106,170,0.045,0.87,0.085,0.8282,0,1,0,0,0,0,19,5,4,0,2,13,3,1,1,13,0,13,5,4,2,1,23,20,10,0,2,3,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,4,12,0,2,1,0,0,8,1,2,0,1,7,3,23,1,26,10,0,34,0,0,0,0,24,13,0,2,13,97,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168732146806868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32202832941346576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818230617582348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195498573163166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941251228708128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058779389664476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900572972824774,0.0,0.0,0.23086207449222454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20621488593994025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722451922172935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068734773924216,0.0,0.22172228597440194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526599079923906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189352880291958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979488279287135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105028628182638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095492612676348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210167902335273,0.2406722392726277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843350430842804,0.0,0.20455145494548613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679664741934265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EachChurch,2018/01/18,"Question about lifestyle choices: parenting, academia This is a stupid non-problem and I'm a bit embarrassed to be asking about it. I have too many good options and don't know which to pick.

I am an academic (postdoc, STEM) at a very prestigious institute in the northeast. I have twins who will start kindergarten in the fall, around the same time I go on the job market. 

My husband has always understood that having an academic career is part of who I am and that it would require enormous sacrifices. I had never seriously considered any alternatives until recently.

He is concerned that although I am a very competitive applicant, it will mean we have to move somewhere we don't really want to live. I think that's about 90% likely. 

He also has excelled in his career, arguably more than I have. He now makes enough money that my postdoc salary, which barely covers childcare for twins, hardly seems worth it.

We have already spent three years living in a city neither of us particularly likes, far from our families, for my job. If all goes as planned, next year, we would probably end up in a city we like even less.

My husband has very gingerly approached me with a proposal: that I leave the workforce. He pointed out that as much as I love my career, it also causes me considerable stress. And although raising toddlers has been challenging, I generally enjoy my time with them more than my time without them. He proposed that we give up the academe lifestyle, move back to the midwest near our families, and have 2-3 more children in a big, cheap house with a yard.

I never would have thought that life would appeal to me, but here I am. I'm looking for any experience, guidance, or advice, on making this enormous life change and moving from a working mom of two in a major city, to potentially a stay at home mom of many more in a suburban or rural area. Am I romanticizing it? What am I failing to consider? Is this a good idea?

I also welcome suggestions of other subreddits to post this to, I wasn't sure where it fit. Maybe I posted to /r/parenting not because I am a parent, but looking for advice one might get from a parent? :)",6.141736972704713,7.035320109181143,6.559218362282881,75.64344292803972,66.27047146401985,9.376178660049627,34.110421836228284,9.466822959209583,3.240719106699752,1696,75,299,32,26,550,220,403,0.043,0.863,0.094,0.9596,8,0,0,0,0,0,57,9,0,2,6,13,17,1,2,25,0,36,3,0,4,4,51,56,20,0,6,7,7,1,3,0,7,2,0,2,1,26,17,0,1,9,1,4,6,8,5,0,3,6,3,42,12,53,42,13,48,1,1,2,1,33,25,0,7,17,221,68,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545285257242176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934217660178334,0.2031019548221808,0.07044190443095537,0.0,0.0,0.11514014116990448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536321186721431,0.07914342744836338,0.0,0.0,0.06509646829181305,0.0,0.05160648679510744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242417235484633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869666745326467,0.08955651490615048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498150530976591,0.08747393052246519,0.0,0.055915545940179764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281137667561506,0.15961530065140808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423010154233994,0.08121128337233642,0.04811286464087724,0.142013555549992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583658056277959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491847469819096,0.0,0.0,0.09768350329314826,0.0,0.09556812509806684,0.0,0.0,0.16801920892899344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652560261055918,0.0,0.0,0.08964017411020624,0.0,0.0,0.11959233207500787,0.12407828045312025,0.0,0.14950842243520462,0.0,0.1421821237711532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640678865899506,0.0,0.11301920987487415,0.17165903639315724,0.08504993729320552,0.0922169439084936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980833457176769,0.0,0.1982999143471089,0.0,0.2699328912266508,0.0622330763441763,0.0,0.13058631917512747,0.0,0.09003431731913585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736618026964479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37600898206893424,0.09167593026393782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002879513198649,0.0,0.1621571572943835,0.0,0.09127521060032937,0.08100588931122198,0.0,0.0,0.09483588606418678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423382591984285,0.0,0.08358916618077905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706909892336908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059921084544136874,0.09023373684595253,0.0,0.0,0.09697499401743716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978878549776314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424517133394922,0.0,0.06720867753148553,0.1480935809231034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269817332627671,0.0,0.10183266839246237,0.0,0.0,0.209554156553158,0.049933245494341805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816069047516613,0.0,0.06163174058770314,0.0,0.0,0.24055331850786466,0.0,0.0,0.10903343673491768
parenting,daughter_of_fortune,2018/01/18,"We always tell our kids ""you can be anything you want to be when you grow up"", but what happens when that's not a reality. I had a heartbreaking conversation with my son tonight explaining why there are certain jobs he will not be able to do because of his Type 1 Diabetes (i.e: astronaut, commercial truck driver, pilot, military service, first responder, etc.). Parents are not supposed to be ""dream crushers"", but apparently that was my role tonight and I'm feeling pretty shitty about the whole thing. 

End rant. ",8.606630434782609,8.603141184782611,8.131652173913043,69.53508695652178,61.06521739130434,11.707826086956524,41.22608695652174,11.20814326018867,4.848327826086955,407,21,68,10,5,129,75,92,0.079,0.768,0.153,0.6778,3,0,0,0,0,0,20,2,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,11,1,0,0,1,12,16,5,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,1,9,1,7,9,2,8,0,1,0,0,15,1,0,0,6,46,13,3,0.2732072666257598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273303320104419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22482630166522885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16654461391689473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24198054601745264,0.0,0.30469832136710234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814180296584638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323899614238744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415962835963053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711160555532545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033643376877389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779500099437168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387951931286417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815067681114734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114472441206926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465270634578132,0.3050261563936866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SleveMcDichael666,2018/01/18,"Anxiety is spinning. Need some help getting grounded. When we came back from Christmas break a couple weeks ago, our son developed a cough. No big deal. After a few days we started giving him meds to no avail. Wife decided yesterday it was time to get him checked out, so she took him to urgent care. I was surprised when she called and told me he had pneumonia; he’s had no fever, no lack of energy or appetite, no wheezing, no trouble breathing, etc. They did a chest X-ray and took blood. They put him on 10 days of antibiotics.

It just seems strange that he’s acting fine apart from a wet cough, his white blood cell count was normal, yet he’s on antibiotics, suggesting it’s bacterial which is supposedly the worst kind. I also keep seeing news stories of kids dying from pneumonia or the flu. It’s just been rumbling around in my head and driving my anxiety to the max.",4.841844181459567,6.10481629585799,5.193624260355033,82.91083086785014,69.47337278106508,8.710256410256411,30.059664694280077,9.075114841892004,2.4475439842209075,690,27,134,13,12,219,116,169,0.163,0.732,0.105,-0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,2,0,9,6,0,0,8,0,9,10,5,0,0,20,22,9,1,3,4,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,6,8,0,1,2,0,1,6,6,2,0,0,11,3,17,4,16,11,5,27,0,0,2,0,26,8,0,4,12,80,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488738382355133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973132068795852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26733556623154864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554652540954625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343563949618393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784186142072072,0.19984428938377607,0.17814862874709286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19333514875465288,0.0,0.2253724718579621,0.18013870342616514,0.0,0.0,0.18134189778749835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486986279620525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825781689226376,0.16761670103543475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932313655183774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117117670577416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530783319370015,0.0,0.18195415005599766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408536605484505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295598981739248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119805971969787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565166287650147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392369911443873,0.15906740512992645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236746188051854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188632436310938,0.0,0.0,0.16696176727918666,0.3882623703990105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401576686633951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,helpitshothere,2018/01/18,"Baby proofing re: cat litter Okay folks, clueless first time mom here with a question about baby proofing.

Our cat is as old as time itself and has mobility problems, so her litter needs to be stored on our main level in a relatively open area (so no shoving it in the basement or in a broom closet or something). 

It is currently being stored in a bathroom off the living room, with the door being left ajar so cat can get in and out without a problem.

Our floor plan is also open concept, so there’s no real way to rope off the bathroom without also restricting the cat’s movement, which is something I’d like to avoid.

Anyone have any ideas on how to baby proof the litter? Is it possible? Is it even necessary? Baby  is generally supervised, but I’d like to be able to run out of the room for a minute or two without locking her up in a playpen just because of the litter. Thoughts?",5.346159874608151,5.881932017241379,6.1767920585161935,78.9519592476489,67.9080459770115,8.166353187042843,32.484848484848484,8.00094639256281,2.3968114942528738,697,29,129,8,11,230,101,174,0.049,0.889,0.062,0.4991,1,1,2,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,2,12,6,0,1,15,1,14,0,0,1,3,30,17,15,0,3,8,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,6,8,0,2,3,0,2,2,5,3,0,2,1,0,5,3,30,12,1,29,0,0,0,0,7,21,0,4,7,92,11,1,0.16826886141563832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26912909536044155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144285959477596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765750034771705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025751361038676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113999598360104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312940755995426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791353504853434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995506278204968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828246102761347,0.0,0.0,0.16441533219837112,0.0,0.14858448745846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707445678581226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247692286126947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656986418650872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18969785838511646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220211503372937,0.0,0.0,0.1884996349235516,0.0,0.0,0.1915268030329756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590831807810552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358668014980352,0.1962378525475938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437422718122865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356398992093566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4866155331490584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdministrativeJob,2018/01/18,"I messed up seven years ago and burned my relationship with my daughter to the ground over her now-husband. I want to repair our relationship and reach out, but I don’t know if it is a terrible idea. I tried asking elsewhere on reddit, but it went sideways with people assuming I’m a racist and the moderators locked it and sent me here. So, here I am. Any recommendation or advice is greatly appreciated.


So my daughter. She is 25 now. I burned down our relationship seven years ago.

Basically, she started dating a boy in high school. He wasn’t a bad kid. But I didn’t think he was very bright and he came from a less than stellar background. So, wrong or right, I wasn’t thrilled by my daughter being around him.

I let it go because I figured their relationship would fizzle after a while. But it never did. He eventually graduated a year ahead of her and joined the Coast Guard. I assumed that was the end of it.  But they sent letters and he would visit her on leave. Again, I let it go because what 18 year old could possibly maintain a long distance relationship?

My daughter graduated and went to college down the road. I thought she would surely meet some new boy there and lose interest in her faroff boyfriend. But several months in I asked her if she met anyone “special” and she curtly told me she was still with her HS boyfriend. She even added that she was considering transferring schools to be closer to him.

Her grades weren’t great in college, and I told her she needed to get them up or she would have to move back home and go to the local community college until she got them back up. And, in frustration, I demanded she break things off with the boy.

That never happened. She sent me an e mail at the end of her semester informing me she was running off to the East Coast and eloping with him.

I panicked and drove to her campus, but I missed her by a few hours. I was in a blind rage when she finally picked up her phone, and I told her some things I can’t take back. I told her she would no longer be welcome at home if she followed through. I regret what I said. In a dumb moment I supposed it would convince her to come back home.

And that night I sent an enraged, scathing e mail to the boyfriend. Again I said things I can’t take back. I told him he ruined her life, that I hated him for that and I would hate him when I had to pick up the pieces of my daughter’s broken heart. The only response I got to that was one last e mail from my daughter, telling me they got married and to not contact her or him again.

That was seven years ago. I gave up trying to reach her in 2014. I don’t have her e mail and I don’t know her phone number. She has never spoken to me since then.

Her brother still talks to her on facebook, and hes let me see her profile to have some idea of her life. She seems happy. And her old boyfriend seems to be a decent husband. He bought her a car and paid for her to finish school. Judging just by what I can see on her profile, they still seem to be very happy together.

I regret what I’ve done, and I want a relationship with my daughter again. But the last communication we had made it pretty clear she didn’t want to hear from me again.

Is there a way to reach out to her and tell her I am sorry for what I said and did, without violating her space? I don’t want to push her away again, I don’t want to make her uncomfortable. I just want my daughter back.

Is there any chance of salvaging some relationship here?",3.0985392397302287,4.658463430615169,3.947849734314328,88.99051770386271,74.20743919885551,6.766819946862865,24.92849478847333,7.379519244027581,0.9617996934396073,2714,87,582,31,56,869,275,699,0.123,0.777,0.101,-0.9755,2,0,0,0,0,0,71,3,0,6,2,32,27,7,0,30,0,54,4,1,4,5,101,112,49,0,20,19,10,0,0,0,7,3,4,3,4,25,38,0,1,13,0,2,18,18,16,0,4,43,8,131,11,83,53,7,107,0,5,4,0,130,37,1,16,50,411,156,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055144499713331636,0.15007015160469778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675111529379691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03945842514090722,0.0,0.0,0.050236264296359016,0.10551222645926912,0.0,0.05301953167376373,0.2603554151828603,0.04711819402253856,0.06880060034101111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454294310443842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04861099700969272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04505619866267077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057749321872325274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099963646048343,0.0,0.0,0.03727267023963034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181827614812231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029483285224769125,0.0,0.09621447351843326,0.0,0.135400991580226,0.12443251263820057,0.0,0.0,0.049902452443995854,0.12014539625036405,0.0,0.11142943447356143,0.0,0.0,0.06360273748210094,0.06687195212607612,0.0,0.05962329271829552,0.16981708314522567,0.0,0.055573953533391916,0.0,0.0,0.1274092616751274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202688052652434,0.0919988941512328,0.0,0.0597531257837885,0.0,0.17311600992891854,0.07971889537462333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994036526622882,0.0,0.06313274706654633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05339713156176183,0.03766866324542779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04504332262974985,0.05997807033417067,0.0,0.04184346303935632,0.13057104416798962,0.054502181984049394,0.0,0.052957419459930204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843135792538866,0.0,0.0382396466697323,0.04291892515686451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03912270318290161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361837300944134,0.0,0.05741142598120918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4241064229407892,0.0,0.048192447000797285,0.16103868743755118,0.0,0.0,0.1713359764334272,0.08993767322725367,0.15412016791766747,0.0,0.06375186886478933,0.0,0.04668096630741465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317077752096947,0.03994271695038097,0.0,0.13519951990667609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05318630160314168,0.0,0.0848593778745919,0.04535774148979218,0.09864775725498028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247233685615396,0.036159217427396514,0.0,0.04480054397667318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26961500574636577,0.0,0.07662697287955725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312428643614072,0.1997096187127876,0.04479293442611697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462568389160934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439823932578087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806127104512764,0.06169931210493225,0.0,0.18170113803690413
parenting,buddamus,2018/01/18,"How do you not be a friend but still as a parent get the 'as a friend information/talk? I have always from day 1 made myself a mix of tight rules and calm understanding.
Understanding I am her friend for emotional help bit trying not to cross the line from parent to friend.
My daughter is now 12 and beginning to start the teenage phase
As she is getting older I want her to experience the world and not wrap her up in bubble wrap.
But as a dad I want her to still open up to me
Sorry if this sounds confusing but I just want to be a sturdy parent but not too hard she can't open up :/",2.351803278688521,3.8475481147540975,3.8696393442622967,89.04872131147543,76.04918032786884,7.1750819672131145,20.39672131147541,7.908726449838941,0.5774629508196716,458,10,103,7,10,152,73,122,0.125,0.7440000000000001,0.131,-0.2942,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,6,6,0,1,10,0,8,0,0,2,0,24,18,13,0,4,10,5,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,3,15,5,19,15,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,2,7,71,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294973864542566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990864829444852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036906347773146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17506382910863386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522368955638085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4809602274628644,0.0,0.16262145660623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941472848925415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431612002691376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472617323166062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184291316503808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421606474806586,0.1101563608288867,0.0,0.2485740953681756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509023219776888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056631736422892,0.0,0.0,0.3240345368671512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753854331849024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PerestroikaPal,2018/01/18,"How to handle telling your children about estranged family members? I have quite a few more years until I cross this bridge, but I am looking for some advice about how to handle telling my son (and any other future children) about their grandfather (my father). I cut the man out of my life 13 years ago and have not spoken to him since. He is a terrible person and I do not want him in my or my child's life ever.

How do I go about talking about this with my son as he gets old? He's only 1 right now, but what about when he starts asking about grandparents? As a teenager?",5.046059113300494,5.122146758620692,5.419408866995075,85.72362068965519,68.48275862068965,8.007881773399015,26.91625615763547,7.447530270364453,1.2830704433497542,448,12,93,4,7,143,75,116,0.083,0.917,0.0,-0.8439,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,1,1,13,2,1,0,4,0,6,2,0,3,1,16,12,13,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,16,0,18,12,3,15,0,0,1,0,20,3,0,2,10,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256545110298415,0.20189641857679808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154885316639216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212925825792832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20602289915536784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147128371622919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118995742280028,0.0,0.12944184710223058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32174871478968553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126190950413205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389968966844272,0.0,0.0,0.17322253330885554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887215392273425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24225190041859174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945066826655064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188406284908614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121043553852665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18306569554837346,0.3981463737614509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433936176615252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29334128308961593
parenting,PinkFrosting666,2018/01/18,"Just needing reassurance that my kid won’t be taken away for acting out in school! My seven year old child has always been difficult. I had him as a teenager and his bio dad bailed right after his second birthday. I was going to school full time and working full time and result was the first four years of his life he was raised by daycare and my family. My family gave him whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. I have never to this day heard any of them tell him no for anything and they bought him gifts constantly. Now I’m graduated, with a good job, and live in a wonderful house in the country with my long term boyfriend who is great with him. He’s had a structured, close knit family life from the ages of 4-7 but he still has a lot of behavior issues. He’s disruptive in school and his teacher has to be on him all the time. He’s made a TON of progress. He’s lost the explosive violent outbursts he displayed in kindergarten. 

Now to the point! His teacher calls regularly and is always asking about his home life. I hear it so much. How is his home life? What’s going on in his home life? And I’m terrified that they are going to think something is really wrong just because he acts up so much. We meet with the teacher, talk to people at the school, and of course talk to him. It just stresses me out so much. 

He went to therapy for a year ages 3-4 and his school wants to start him again with meeting weekly with the school counselor. 

I know I had him too young and haven’t been a very good mom, but his life is good and I really do try so, so hard to make his life good and help him succeed. ",3.244220183486238,4.575496944954132,4.161964525993883,88.52026788990828,73.434250764526,7.556159021406728,24.0891743119266,8.109356740369918,1.1641778348623857,1259,36,270,19,25,406,166,327,0.091,0.815,0.094,-0.4127,1,0,1,0,0,0,31,1,0,3,5,15,12,1,1,17,0,23,7,0,4,2,43,46,23,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,7,2,3,2,7,24,0,0,3,0,1,6,4,5,0,4,15,3,38,7,43,28,9,47,0,1,0,0,53,18,0,2,23,172,45,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588158725027402,0.0,0.0,0.05552598721164021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719242974685177,0.0,0.07633336029870781,0.0,0.07671450314214501,0.0,0.0,0.049774146474154304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337556183939372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882365300704339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265862126489798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309219978202206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694529334032195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921370668579713,0.27394244228734793,0.0,0.09002133817877425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314392634432645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202745196699112,0.0,0.0547294441732002,0.0,0.24571007602809186,0.0,0.0,0.09421515206655473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522320899443643,0.08102675879591276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487366420292372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037113003123512,0.0,0.0,0.07209998761352535,0.07225922574551506,0.0,0.0,0.08913252611537023,0.06941739452258132,0.0,0.0772608562855968,0.0545031744656419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562953802409388,0.0,0.0,0.18007028475648493,0.06054373502509398,0.06297486015614298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856797720847425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05660703973624628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718729211047991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461639855104282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973014491374277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4958155565515418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285950318470895,0.0,0.0,0.057793526050930674,0.0,0.06520718979888424,0.0,0.09353179912668973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125716098171844,0.07136722491692207,0.0,0.09337588752744053,0.0,0.0,0.052319141859266415,0.0,0.0,0.14283536908866662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055436175746632725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737124168102061,0.14448094587602706,0.0,0.06549610545309409,0.0,0.0,0.07569198654034588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854783546518856,0.059443443527728124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892733663033129,0.0,0.1577431420250857
parenting,financialanon,2018/01/18,"Help choosing a daycare? My wife is due in April and will take a few months off from work, but we are looking for day cares for when our baby is about 5 months old.  We started early because apparently they can fill up quick.  

What kind of advice do you all have?  

Does anyone wish they put their kid in daycare at an earlier or later age?  

Things we should look for when picking a daycare?  We took one tour so far and the workers just seemed so, shall I say, limited?  They just seemed uninterested and overworked.  Are they all like this?  

Being close to work seems like a good idea, and ofcourse, doing all the background checks and child/adult ratio checks and all that.

Any other tips or experience you all can share? 

Thanks!",3.740217391304345,5.870122514492756,3.687753623188408,89.1059782608696,73.85507246376811,6.049275362318841,23.818840579710145,6.816661863887847,0.6927275362318834,569,17,112,5,12,173,101,138,0.018000000000000002,0.8009999999999999,0.181,0.9774,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,5,2,5,4,8,7,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,5,30,24,13,0,2,5,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,5,11,0,1,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,14,7,12,19,6,23,0,0,2,0,17,7,0,5,15,74,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014388592379875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840467383835065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217457737545527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613933897998387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17752260106862394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229024802174788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523698573616346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031860384662986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146040021791431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670611027557752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655547694494252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131474948946816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012831121217087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924267387500435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779550449087571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270517964084804,0.0,0.11798533153014287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750344097238775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846382488971246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4755252909185571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232400168941819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091336745928006,0.0,0.0,0.1603023801439431,0.0,0.0,0.11567476086232475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934489936157497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002245080504764,0.0,0.0,0.25351666476102097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iluvmychildren,2018/01/18,"What age do you give up on your child? Let's say you have multiple children. And one was particularly naughty. He had temper tantrums well beyond the normal age. He refused to do his school work. His preschool 3 yr old teacher wanted him kicked out because he refused to do any of his school work. His kindergarten teacher was more patient and tried to work with him. The grade school near you is ok but by middle school and high school, it is just awful. 

So you do everything to try to reach the heart of this child. You help him find a passion. You spend tons of money, which is a huge sacrifice for you, paying for him to have the activities that he claims are his passion. But in the end, it becomes clear none of it has mattered. He still lies all the time. He still sneaks around. He still has a temper and has rage fits. At what point do you stop devoting yourself to helping him and just let him be who he is...as in..stop paying for these activities you shouldn't be paying for, and stop sending him to a private school and just let him go to the nasty public school? (I am not saying all public schools are nasty, I am just saying ours are)

This particular child is turning 14 yrs old this spring and I am realizing it might be time to give up. He demands more and more, but he is still the same person. We give, he takes, we give more, he takes, etc. The other kids start asking why he gets so much when they don't get these extra activities and such...and what is our answer? Because he has problems and we are afraid he will completely self combust if we do not keep ""helping"" him.

He has already seen a psychologist. We have already had him evaluated. We are just at a point of..we are not wealthy. We are throwing all this money at things hoping he improves, but he is not improving.

edited to clarify: the school in question, that we are zoned for, we had to take legal action against. Other people (no one we know personally) have taken legal action against the local public school for similar issues. It has been since 2009-2010 time frame and people are still locked up in court. The crimes include sexual abuse, sexual harassment, and many crimes involving children with disabilities and mistreating and discriminating against them. When I hear about all those stories coming out of Hollywood, and the Roy Moore stuff, I just think all this is so familiar because it goes on at our local public school. So now, my son, who sneaks around and has been watching porn (I am not massively against porn, I just think the porn might be part of the factor why he would want to step in to such a filth disgusting place where boys can do whatever they want to the girls, and watch porn from school, and so on) wants to go to a school, with no explanation why, knowing he will have access to porn and he will likely witness if not be a part of, a girl being sexually handled. We also had to take legal action over how they treated my oldest son after he was diagnosed with ASD. They had no idea he had ASD until end of 8th grade. He had high grades and they all thought he was great. As soon as they found out, they kicked him out of the gifted program and all preAP classes. They said he was not allowed to be on a college prep track for college. And they wanted to label him ED (emotionally disturbed) because, they said, all kids with ASD are ED. I also had to file legal complaints with the federal government over this. We settled out of court early, after only a year and a half, and the kids were granted the right to attend a different school that we were not zoned for. The other school was much better. It was a much safer place. This younger son does not want to go to the safer school. He wants to be at the unsafe one. We really think he did not like the private school because they knew what he was doing. If he did not do his school work, they got on him. Cussing and other bad behaviors were not tolerated.",4.805868147670643,5.9284146452036826,4.973017628244865,84.98255126075425,69.43363994743758,7.793330523392756,26.973470855131033,8.029587711577364,1.5195109761237688,3079,96,613,39,53,965,301,761,0.096,0.823,0.081,-0.9624,2,0,0,0,1,0,100,17,10,13,5,31,21,6,2,39,2,86,9,1,2,9,125,126,46,0,15,26,3,0,2,0,7,1,6,0,14,33,54,0,5,13,0,6,11,18,10,1,4,31,9,69,11,90,77,22,80,1,0,3,7,131,41,0,7,30,418,102,38,0.0,0.050573299146604606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420522442054848,0.06826840628204803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029026433830885632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599522669748089,0.039903572058149886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035639173080174974,0.13009817939967894,0.04714088109622605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03775033441348048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036768296662635286,0.04475313083885567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04332313782796865,0.0,0.04459546492368343,0.0,0.0,0.03735286318652449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801350699301715,0.07561031905293522,0.0,0.04760369722407101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03836142885660949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039012201290966886,0.0,0.0,0.04680056121771308,0.0,0.0,0.0446010262870046,0.16378468319922984,0.07277452681868753,0.0,0.0341381177997238,0.04705901771821523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048107721794541806,0.050580484364285916,0.08583011323181937,0.09019551334165447,0.0,0.0423946241768154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048184791703658435,0.0,0.04455077632936106,0.0,0.037939304527613175,0.0,0.0,0.04691577800394306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094116972850853,0.0,0.041706277362853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04327465305072893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056148983047546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413246783835877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04182104140324578,0.0,0.0,0.0895788930535856,0.0,0.0867709012065761,0.03246293780591213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244474764936694,0.0,0.05918311679911975,0.07453965994840303,0.08919092984736686,0.0,0.08069993671577272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04084261252614861,0.0,0.0,0.047815601816459184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02734432220532242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036451714575414434,0.08120409781192309,0.10183156426627828,0.0,0.7775687475692485,0.0,0.0,0.044528491130271484,0.0,0.0,0.0353084635838115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030211798907363373,0.0,0.17043660770776264,0.1070566530467814,0.0,0.0,0.04886271566029035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837156084980236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028357206546235775,0.08205012745536677,0.0,0.033886153193963695,0.07466776545115006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795896905042885,0.04642769527087598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623199383000338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03837784399438845,0.0,0.1155464162099465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429719969937796,0.0,0.0,0.03032133238470252,0.0,0.0,0.02748695463270264
parenting,yumcrackers,2018/01/18,"6-Year old son refuses to do schoolwork and homework. Please Advise....I've reached my wit's end. So my sprout is 6. He's precocious, smart as a whip, and a sweetheart when he wants to be...but holy bananas, he is not taking well to school.

He attended TK at a charter for his first year, which had a totally different (odd) free-range curriculum. I'm not sure if the switch from that to a K-1 class in a public school is freaking him out, or what. He often refuses to do schoolwork, and downright refuses to do his homework. 

That said, I don't remember kindergarten being endless worksheets and sitting on one's hands (figuratively). I remember it being, well, kindergarten. We did not have the common core program then, which I'm thinking absolutely destroys any semblance of the traditional kindergarten that we knew as kids.

Back to my son....today he was sent to the office to work, because he apparently would not complete the set of worksheets assigned. He is behind on four weekly packets of homework....any mention of it, even making it fun, ends up in the tantrum of the century. I have tried everything, and am running out of privileges to take away.

He is up to par on his motor skills, grasps the age appropriate mathematical concepts, reads, healthy, eats right, gets sleep, etc. His pediatrician can't figure it out either. Other than being high energy and headstrong, there are no signs of any disability or malady that they can pinpoint. 

I'm at a loss.

Does anyone have any magical solutions to suggest?

Please help.

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parenting,1tspsalt,2018/01/19,"Dealing with OCD anxiety as kid grows older Looking for good advice and references on how dealing with OCD related anxiety changes as a child grows. We did a year of therapy which was awesome and learned a number of age appropriate techniques for her to use to recognize and ramp down her responses if she needs to. But as she gets older I’m seeing how her issues are affecting her differently, such as anxiety about how she looks or her grades when it used to be about routines and order. We joke about how she’s never going to be able to drive because she screams every time we have a not-even-close call. 
I’d love some recommendations on workbook style books or apps that she can use and read herself at this point (12 y o). Encouraging her self awareness of this issue has been really successful for her so I’d like to give her the tools to work on this herself as well as with us. ",8.658106936416186,6.894203329479773,8.531611271676299,72.41163656069365,61.94797687861272,12.118208092485547,37.8099710982659,10.9516,3.9470005780346833,708,28,136,15,8,230,112,173,0.04,0.813,0.14800000000000002,0.9673,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,2,11,8,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,8,1,28,21,21,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,11,0,0,2,3,0,4,1,1,1,0,3,4,20,7,31,16,1,18,0,0,3,1,29,6,0,4,8,90,26,6,0.15174261900415295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828113108778307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34824806460109303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250089212086243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494617984512796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605235705531423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31287995439448113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853874008922245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002245687335192,0.0,0.12784970111649185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927925548403454,0.14556534708604638,0.08623882729008732,0.1272745094408879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167597405404637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413377882968195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25485116521664536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695363807863958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251522926783553,0.1170332624117339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344582250788482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517836827118925,0.0,0.09721020732588648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091922116319878,0.0,0.15830064545684902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353090933162638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848234142313878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825276870861077,0.3931707070942094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643483804066886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047043388089324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977172715614859
parenting,Atrampoline,2018/01/19,"20 week old won't stop trying to eat his hands My 20 week old son has been sticking his hands in his mouth for around 8 weeks now and it's getting to the point where he's making himself throw up. He's not interested in playing with toys, as he will stick them in his mouth and then throw them down and go back to his hands. I've seen people talking about this ""phase"" and that eventually he'll stop, especially with the ""making himself gag"" part.

We've verified with his pediatrician that he is NOT teething. *Also, he does this at all times, so we know that hunger is also not an issue.

Has anyone else had any kids that did this for this long, and how did you make it through?

Edit*",3.68230215827338,4.743996978417268,4.177762589928059,89.86750719424464,72.02158273381295,6.99884892086331,23.25251798561151,7.1686216300943375,0.558648345323741,536,13,119,5,10,169,89,139,0.06,0.912,0.028,-0.5383,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,1,2,0,9,2,0,0,3,0,10,8,6,4,1,21,18,11,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,10,10,2,2,1,2,0,3,4,0,0,0,5,4,13,2,18,10,2,24,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,0,12,72,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28177205467870603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980414288175448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318473250517895,0.180510753240397,0.0,0.15683192517967226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546668449575325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417077358911888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026965528707545,0.1471705025798362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204347590704624,0.0,0.10012356162357744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387954937738932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682044656502632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590816193405446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35279189596229804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697292807345094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19077892621221415,0.0,0.1221366465908184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665410708937577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29457816813426263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160172973215232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272828889796798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961036360602248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239476956614648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sonosfigata,2018/01/19,Any experiences with TEF? (tracheoesophageal fistula) My SIL is almost 35 weeks along and her baby possibly has this problem. Shes on bed rest and super worried and kind of going crazy. The doctors aren't telling her much. I'm just looking for any experiences to understand what she might expect when baby is born. Thanks ,3.3087931034482736,6.476144620689657,3.920258620689655,79.86935344827589,85.55172413793103,7.037931034482759,26.21551724137931,8.07648339933343,2.4308206896551727,260,11,42,6,8,82,50,58,0.12,0.775,0.105,0.0194,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,11,11,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,6,10,2,5,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,2,3,26,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356128545798206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32001584367399266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24083327881076905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4603251707594503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337229467775518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450223907868122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975876172795532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496096466872543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729680911309768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652585207895807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251444869451715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056572412248136,0.21662701210067206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449492499221573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887385753633101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23895237877736974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sillysongs321,2018/01/19,"Please help me find a parenting book originally recommended on reddit parenting I’m looking for a parenting book that was suggested to someone else on this forum. I got it from the library and it helped my little guy so much. A year later, I want to re read for a refresher and I can’t remember the name and apparently the library doesn’t keep a record of what books you’ve checked out. 

What I remember about the book:

-a man wrote it 
-it was all about rewarding the behaviours you want to see more of. 
-Praising the child for improved behaviour even if it’s not exactly what we want yet. There was an example about a kid who tantrums and hits their parents. He suggested praising this kid for not hitting during the tantrum even though they’re still screaming. Then working on getting rid of the screaming next etc
- He talks about setting a goal of behaviour you want to see with ‘positive opposites’ (that might not be the exact phrase he uses). But the goal should be ‘keeps hands to himself while playing with his brother’, rather then, ‘doesn’t hit his brother’. 
-there is also an example about a girl who only eats a few select foods. He suggests a rewards chart where at first she gets credit for just putting the new food to her lips. Then licking it. Then actually taking a bite. 

I know it’s a long shot, but if anyone knows the book I’m describing, I’d be very grateful! 
Thanks so much!",3.713398876404497,5.983989595505619,4.21691479400749,84.64424859550563,74.39325842696628,7.7458801498127325,29.10252808988764,8.59863814320734,2.339257303370787,1110,48,210,22,24,350,162,267,0.028,0.846,0.127,0.9622,5,0,0,0,0,0,28,1,2,1,8,18,11,2,0,27,0,12,5,2,2,3,37,35,17,0,8,9,6,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,6,16,8,3,2,5,7,2,1,6,4,0,1,5,7,16,7,28,22,6,23,2,0,3,0,37,7,0,3,14,135,32,10,0.0,0.0,0.11309349620900945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267848062535368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103411005636095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858605193416293,0.09681257133551846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292497824732848,0.1530906340791284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592283424808864,0.09857734636753328,0.2802731956460314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109716853601175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926891093961196,0.0,0.0,0.11475091680309092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535940990259292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601958013051824,0.0,0.0,0.12738199877694262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615384151844055,0.0,0.10256043014354846,0.09731976643011643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294268663576448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703873396571567,0.0,0.0,0.11192884149419774,0.1232520446282854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814079356290584,0.0,0.0,0.5147356832209418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721418889891264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650308001500102,0.0,0.0,0.11592297439069732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625652104278173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470122120902105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819458716712788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255119142541683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713606969167925,0.09314928821072767,0.0,0.10669742623731228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386292084231887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009314351259388,0.0,0.09562271744295983,0.2734235027423571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437047414386288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463039877779568
parenting,zamundan,2018/01/19,"Strategies for nights with a sick 1 year old? Past couple nights she’s managed to fall asleep for the first couple hours, but then it’s continuous moaning/wailing/crying unless she’s being held until dawn.

The lack of sleep is horrible.

Any advice is appreciated. ",4.368749999999999,7.331523375000002,4.8706666666666685,77.24100000000003,75.66666666666666,6.34,24.18333333333333,7.554174236665415,1.5147033333333335,214,7,34,3,5,68,40,48,0.192,0.721,0.087,-0.6597,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,3,2,0,0,5,4,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,7,2,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,10,20,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24304234454919946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913537256427966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5503989286600961,0.2732027886085294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115576571752164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24493510745113264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668061349264608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260985547497615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374275138861092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488955663454975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016491517855075
parenting,SilverVulpine,2018/01/19,"My teenager will not update me on location after local teen almost got abducted. UPDATE : Had a heart to heart with my son. He understands now, sometimes I guess you just have to keep on talking to them. Also for those of you who are rude in the comments, please take it else where.
Thank you for those who gave me good advice.
I am still learning to be a mom to a teen, it isn't always easy. He Is my first son.




Normally my teen ( Male, 15 ) gets TONS of freedom. We do not pester him for constant updates on locations. 
We just ask for a small texts like 
** Hey I am hanging out with * So and So * I will be home around such time **
I answer back with 
** Cool have fun kiddo **

 Recently there was some older males in a white mini van trying to lure a teenager into their van. I nicely asked my son for more updates to calm my mind and to know he is safe for the time being. This isn't permanent at all, just until the cops finds these horrible people. My son is treating the situation like it won't ever happen to him, he even said that himself. I had my husband have a long talk with him about the dangers and brought up some real cases that are local. Still didn't work and he still does not care. 

Please can anyone give me some advice on how to show my teenager that is this a real thing and not a joke. ",0.4822727272727292,2.8620375303030343,2.0565151515151534,94.56727272727277,88.46969696969695,4.563636363636364,17.848484848484848,6.11248444174946,-0.23868787878787945,1004,26,213,9,33,325,152,264,0.077,0.8140000000000001,0.11,0.8503,0,0,0,0,0,0,35,2,3,2,2,19,14,2,0,14,1,25,2,2,1,2,40,41,10,0,1,7,6,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,2,14,14,0,2,5,2,0,2,8,2,0,1,8,3,30,12,36,27,6,36,0,0,1,0,35,15,0,5,21,152,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24514067040312604,0.0,0.0,0.12560165689221994,0.0,0.0,0.10030762760346172,0.10436916262364676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770471073613767,0.0,0.0,0.11166074197950182,0.2345232803308806,0.0,0.0,0.09644917950837907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788590433734218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554702947803315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976606294154002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047820301685022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828464073276257,0.11346008863247448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464223561681774,0.10669207870966058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553284863639051,0.12032544704225402,0.0,0.10520609851262068,0.1003191313179451,0.0,0.1381770795412615,0.0,0.11091877440610637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972741662463373,0.0,0.0,0.12581814996518995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148939421164954,0.0,0.0,0.0689339424345651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255911530015705,0.0,0.0,0.1110030436868812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266501877536624,0.1469040067552013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289636379482463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695849754821887,0.0,0.0,0.2753725222909558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855373063099461,0.0,0.0,0.12384860047683464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931420179257045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099040526393475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124055087381629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005095804694624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430897410580953,0.2016343826597673,0.0,0.11548059080213585,0.0,0.0,0.08333120015611804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628038197567828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515984187138947,0.0,0.0,0.13057874834374356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131571907572797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NoElephantsPlz,2018/01/19,"Not sure if my toddler can't handle storytime, or if I can't handle him. My son is 2 1/2. I arranged for us to go to multiple storytimes throughout our county libraries to see which one was a good fit. Unfortunately, he doesn't seem the least bit into it. He just wants to get up and do his own thing (mostly get into things in the room, or open the door to explore the library) and has no interest in participating in either the story or the arts and crafts. The more times I try to redirect him, the more obstinate he becomes. It's especially baffling because he's very gregarious and usually loves any opportunity to be around people, big and little.

Last week, we had a storytime at a new library and all he did was run around the entire time. Unlike most of the librarians, this one kept calling him out and asking him ""Stop running, Alek"" or ""Alek, sit down"" or ""Over here, can you pay attention, Alek?"" or ""Mom, can you go get Alek?"" The whole experience was stressful and somewhat embarrassing. I got the sense that she actually thought I could make him stop running, which I could, but not without a lot of (even more disruptive) kicking and screaming. I also felt like she was trying to train me as much as him.

This week, I decided to take a break from storytime and do baby yoga. I figured he likes to move around, so maybe that would be better. But again, he didn't want to participate. While everyone was doing yoga, he went around the room like a politician and said hi and introduced himself to everyone. Some of the moms didn't seem thrilled that he was distracting their kids. At one point even got up to turn on the lights while the other toddlers were ""napping"" in child's pose. 

Up until this point, I've sort of had a ""Well, he's two, what do you expect attitude"". But I'm having some cognitive dissonance when I see all of these other two year olds placidly sitting for stories and eagerly following instructions. I'm an authoritative parent. We have firm household rules and at home, he's very obedient and seems to like being given instructions. He's also very good when we're out shopping and running errands. But the second you close him in a room and tell him it's time to participate in an activity, he acts like it's opposite day and manages to figure out everything wrong that he can possibly do. His dad has already thrown in the towel with storytime and I'm on the verge of doing so as well, but I can't shake the insecurity that I could be doing something more to encourage good behavior, or that he just needs more time to get used to controlled settings. Any thoughts?",6.887046951044952,6.765388016032066,7.322280990552535,74.307372244489,64.6312625250501,10.655625536787863,34.25429430289149,10.290406445055957,3.4127989693673064,2056,82,386,44,28,675,255,499,0.058,0.835,0.107,0.9839,2,0,1,0,0,0,69,4,4,1,4,18,25,0,5,30,0,39,1,0,3,3,88,72,45,0,10,20,5,1,5,0,1,0,2,5,2,21,33,0,4,11,5,2,12,10,7,2,6,21,6,37,18,60,43,19,73,0,0,2,1,51,37,0,19,25,263,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.08156954147650995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224110995343003,0.13369011345052878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136850101900153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976431128891467,0.07814321977131368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050954288552723916,0.09231605196516217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392653154495467,0.09125612379143784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535239149537073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375071769304463,0.2002139402593044,0.0,0.0,0.053907154070707834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041778037442852,0.0,0.0,0.1597432665744409,0.07512323862924455,0.08176481377875232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025730418549064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746845016327158,0.0,0.0950096369761728,0.2103282010832001,0.13370544561350714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083845282481795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813513509880119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418365009149328,0.08377683873071046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106327685435178,0.07544116638233407,0.0,0.05579544151909955,0.0,0.08397508366409323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19579381746600424,0.0,0.08884050102746499,0.06144658019746245,0.06197922341330739,0.0,0.08072952543447269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771123442979674,0.0,0.16992357458273122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281425340395803,0.0,0.0,0.057949189311240885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580347965120022,0.09423257702725613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951104793828033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321715597444822,0.22828531928347065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434989829946547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976612678224792,0.0957494325700084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878042184243114,0.0,0.06284755082361022,0.0,0.07305933761239411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110639127752202,0.0,0.0,0.13271860034893726,0.1949626496922574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113501128410919,0.09091941918735216,0.16330608216677803,0.0,0.10054571608341496,0.07219293854153895,0.09206004682352946,0.20690582954863326,0.09860438705678012,0.0,0.13409802850439712,0.0,0.1503107688320439,0.07748663907895187,0.0,0.09332268647707696,0.0,0.08057556386506486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937830670507435,0.09139003255543647,0.0,0.05382774087435916
parenting,mooducky98,2018/01/19,"Toddler won’t eat meat I have a little girl who just turned 2 in December.  She has never been big on eating meat, ground beef and chicken especially.  I know not the best but she used to eat lunch meat and hotdogs.  For the past 3-4 months she won’t eat any meat other than if I’m lucky I can get her to eat maybe 1 chicken nugget.  

She loves to eat pasta, cheese, yogurt, bread, fruits, and a little bit of veggies.

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parenting,soberzilla,2018/01/19,Should you periodically go through your kids room? I have zero suspicion he is into anything bad. But you hear stories of parents having no idea what their kids are up to until it is too late. I don't want to invade his privacy but i want to be like...how did i not know?,0.31660714285714064,2.655224589285716,2.9121428571428574,88.43285714285715,88.82142857142857,5.342857142857143,20.5,6.868970318607317,0.4927785714285715,211,7,45,3,7,73,46,56,0.158,0.8420000000000001,0.0,-0.6656,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,14,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,9,0,8,11,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,3,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793200798755244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28340795554231785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290458671085933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825596920814629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831725633545264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865405897165876,0.0,0.3828892353621866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582723137398042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3768942975386311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004065090331008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mintnose,2018/01/19,"Advice on getting my son to slow down. My son's teacher talked to my wife this morning and told my something my wife and I have been observed and struggled with ourselves. My son is intelligent and could be doing 7th and 8th grade work if he would slow down and take a little more time with his work. His problem is he speeds through a 30 minute assignment in 10 minutes and makes silly mistakes. If I ask him to explain his answers he will find his mistakes, but I can't get him to get it right the first time. Any advise?

Edit: Son is 12 year old boy",3.0855257936507923,4.658568008928572,3.5919047619047646,91.4753174603175,74.26785714285714,5.692063492063492,26.73015873015873,5.82211442006289,0.7472289682539688,435,16,91,2,9,136,75,112,0.065,0.907,0.028,-0.4588,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,1,3,0,11,0,0,1,0,21,19,10,0,7,3,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,2,0,15,1,11,13,1,14,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,2,8,54,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221468409963519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545940020681862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21252534628355424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815066280816504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777792966915834,0.1933690415850555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563157908182157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22784704436150985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517463135585242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385473816500405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752665043609665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941408466259603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501178553210633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376574519071415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092586587741646,0.18272137818036133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651190004677595,0.0,0.0,0.21722609552404196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33100176307137313,0.0,0.0,0.16149059676780286,0.0,0.0,0.1463947774671058
parenting,Lulublue1980,2018/01/19,"Not sure I’m cut out for this How do you survive day to day with 4 kids?

I’m just not doing well with my niece and nephews. School keeps getting called off and I can’t find a reliable sitter to help. 

They need so much more then I can give attention wise especially.

They’re 4, 3, 3, and 4 months. I just got custody of them almost 2 months ago.& it just keeps getting harder.
I’m about to lose my job and my paycheck is so small idk know what to do.  ",0.4634020618556676,2.425535185567014,2.061041237113404,97.56269587628869,83.74226804123711,5.1171134020618565,20.009278350515466,6.2581,-0.14934556701030965,351,10,84,3,10,114,68,97,0.087,0.8320000000000001,0.081,0.1179,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,2,2,8,5,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,21,17,8,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,9,3,11,16,2,8,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,1,5,46,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045241876636254,0.0,0.21514220816430554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327909328418767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21938685895434604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27712219891066603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636989136743252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450152508782026,0.20610462485571907,0.0,0.0,0.17183594521677478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401007423019888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21320643257228086,0.381938822322666,0.0,0.0,0.11807647255457585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240363275180679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429839839186629,0.0,0.15794018171990828,0.15930926956876956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174406488200097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024944936199793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19317682178163373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tistles,2018/01/19,"Son ratting out his friend all the time, how would you handle it? My son is very well behaved (most the time!) and we've always taught him right from wrong. Well a kid that lives down the street doesn't always make the best decisions. We tried to deter him away from him but because they are so close it's almost impossible to ignore.

Anyways, the last incident, my son's friend broke another kids snow fort at school when no one was around. My son's friend told my son this 'secret'. The boy's whose fort it was is in my son's class, so my son told him that his friend did it. So my son's friend and the other boy ended up getting in a fight, in grade 2!

How would you handle this situation? Obviously my son was trying to do the right thing by telling the other boy who did it, but ended up causing more of a problem. Plus he also has to learn to not tell on people for everything. Not this in particular, but other really small issues he'll tell on his friend about, like ""Mom Ryan is jumping on the couch up here.""

How would you handle the situation about the snow fort? Would better way could it have been handled? Just telling the teacher privately his friend did it?",4.380320512820512,5.268369457264956,4.737681623931625,87.14447115384618,70.23931623931624,7.73034188034188,24.026709401709404,7.8658589789855275,0.9882914529914528,919,22,194,11,16,290,127,234,0.071,0.769,0.16,0.9767,0,0,0,0,1,0,28,1,3,1,2,16,17,1,0,16,0,20,0,0,5,2,32,26,14,0,6,6,10,0,1,7,5,0,0,1,5,18,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,5,2,1,10,0,21,12,28,10,4,28,0,1,0,0,47,20,0,2,7,129,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339936748134844,0.0,0.0,0.08257650021808778,0.1718401757885015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082764781487669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192275308187993,0.0,0.0,0.09701559992225632,0.0,0.0,0.06294596827226899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836436359214964,0.09132454286536887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607584193070288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244422395828885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291434846066496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280288528361236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.558445662575047,0.0,0.05394877158402716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077759798896861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417018810336482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05044732416222948,0.0,0.09117993685956148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892644743659619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093615446488938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997123786959011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158706235324487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988052947431896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615061201875562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636591685767314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450401966476253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23213577091167886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610130474167444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860095321033911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042276627126301,0.0,0.0,0.1973375524436762,0.0,0.14021270104532754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519981439599247,0.0,0.0819625007698515,0.0,0.0,0.18568519264265934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934100438710854,0.112897937603107,0.0,0.0
parenting,Littlebittle89,2018/01/19,Emergency/ phone Our family doesnt have a home phone. Our daughter is 5.5 and could call for help if we need it but I'm worried something would go wrong with the cellphone or it would be too complicated. Is there a inexpensive way to have a emergency phone? ,4.319400000000002,6.1747967400000014,4.8610000000000015,82.47550000000003,71.6,9.0,28.5,9.516144504307137,2.543800000000001,207,8,41,5,4,66,41,50,0.195,0.7709999999999999,0.035,-0.8591,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,12,4,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,0,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171667743435233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479962131039393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928147591364368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652639582404814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20819483415854206,0.0,0.3115664051441929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23031282453733545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391221770755212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465471664544462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31543877259391123,0.0,0.4412958014105621,0.3396024566497294,0.0,0.0
parenting,hdbaker009,2018/01/19,"My small child has the flu and I am a nervous wreck. Never done this before. My three year old has type B flu. She has had a low grade fever on and off (more at night) for a couple of days so we went to the doctor. 
Since then her fever has not broke and I am worried. She’s only been sick with a small cold a handful of times in her life. 
Since yesterday evening, her fever has not broke but I am recommended to let her fever ride and let her rest. 
She’s drinking plenty of fluids and sleeping. She even ate a pretty good amount of solid food last night. 
I gave her a dose of Tamiflu but am nervous to give her anymore because of the side effects. 
She’s hardly coughing any. She does have a little runny nose. It’s just the fever and fatigue that worries me.
I guess it gets worse before it gets better but for a first time mom this is so scary.  ",1.6522159090909092,3.4586597897727316,2.7125000000000017,95.20750000000002,78.94318181818181,5.081818181818182,20.090909090909093,5.602791699666715,-0.2580727272727268,657,16,147,3,16,209,106,176,0.165,0.732,0.103,-0.8639,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,3,5,8,0,2,13,0,16,19,3,1,1,17,23,12,0,0,6,1,2,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,6,8,3,0,1,1,0,2,3,6,0,2,6,4,22,2,16,15,3,23,0,4,0,0,18,9,0,1,12,95,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058355207946697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668650876678865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016427632365596,0.0,0.2517202310697029,0.0,0.0,0.13081395908357624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365908108407573,0.0,0.09538941026374834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139167088495262,0.1294366259916249,0.1513628017485861,0.0,0.14489502914324515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538569850549933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258117702150463,0.17885279015620134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545532488239436,0.1418882983384226,0.0,0.12405949580671982,0.0,0.0,0.16293902218869488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249788602063706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056600774714438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024950301385774,0.10447287487533173,0.0,0.14824420576537198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732298532850827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407694746730546,0.0,0.0,0.2776061474990746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552061701270558,0.0,0.0,0.11249186222728738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047716591563656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24470458247952856,0.0,0.14801634797207386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249447219202824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711361566900984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004186137702702,0.15073244680351353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524888757993306
parenting,amazon_ally,2018/01/19,"Foster Parents of Reddit, can I get your best advice? Hello, Parenting. I plan to start foster training this spring. What are you favorite resources, tips, tricks, blogs, etc. for fostering? What advice would you like to give to someone starting out? Anything helps. I have wanted to do this for years and am so glad I can finally start training. ",3.3844672131147533,6.537248983606559,3.246045081967213,85.3710348360656,83.75409836065575,5.017213114754099,25.6577868852459,6.6274283507984215,1.3853098360655731,272,11,43,3,8,82,46,61,0.022,0.737,0.241,0.9451,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,3,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,13,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,8,12,2,7,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,7,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229807713446965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810133905757974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271272416241705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413738012062427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370856773047371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307440262381785,0.2076169177420958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506674829065422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573551308262016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806341105495151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833782642327184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4595653595491007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765450922458907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374384096436994,0.0,0.0,0.13937217296483748
parenting,ImpatientToothFairy,2018/01/19,"Getting nervous about what to do on maternity leave. Worried about my sanity! So as the title suggests I’m due to go on maternity leave soon. (March) this is my second child. I’m not nervous about being tired and what to do etc, I’m sure I’ll mess it up in my own special way. Don’t get me wrong I can’t wait till she’s here but I’m worried for myself.. 

I’m currently signed off work with dyer hip pain and I am BORED and it’s got me worried about maternity leave again... 

Last maternity I found myself just so bored and got depressed. Taking a newborn to the park? They don’t give a shit. They just sleep. I watched friends on repeat and cleaned the house within an inch of its life. 

I want some advice from parents what did you save your sanity? 

Just to add.. Yes I will love my new little one and look forward to cuddles but I need something to keep my adult mind in tact. 

Thank you in advance :) 


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parenting,htx-,2018/01/19,"How to prevent head lice after getting rid of 95% of it? I've never dealt with head lice until now and it's been a huge pain. After using a lice shampoo, I've managed to get rid of all the eggs in their hair. I've been washing their sheets/pillows like a maniac, spraying their beds/couches with Rid spray, vacuuming the furniture, and washing all hair accessories under hot water. I comb their hair twice a day. After 5 days, however, I still find 1 or 2 eggs in their hair, usually after they wake up and this stresses me more than I'd like to admit. I know it's only 1 or 2 eggs, but it makes me think that there is something I'm not doing to get rid of a source somewhere. I know it's not from school either, because they are on winter break still. My questions are:

What are other things I can do to help prevent another head lice infestation?

Are there other ways I can clean furniture besides using a spray? 

Is it normal to find a 1 or 2 eggs even after intense cleaning? If so, how long do I have to continue this? 

I feel like I'm at wit's end trying to get rid of the last of these bugs so any advice would be greatly appreciated!",3.8167307692307695,4.564797542735047,5.241955128205127,83.52908653846156,71.43589743589743,7.73034188034188,27.018162393162388,7.8658589789855275,1.5300008547008548,891,29,183,11,16,300,129,234,0.029,0.8490000000000001,0.122,0.9534,1,0,1,0,0,0,27,0,0,7,0,10,7,1,1,10,0,16,16,8,5,3,33,30,13,0,3,8,0,6,3,0,1,3,0,3,0,14,5,5,2,8,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,6,18,4,30,26,4,27,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,5,21,114,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210547136904658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889248677224152,0.15248847929808027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864838553942955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875713433796172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288014318319588,0.0,0.0,0.0960503840114664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735301341809769,0.10389007318725438,0.0,0.0,0.2658275985676091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039096313252769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603291439219589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4477372237804619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747383352809104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598411290445044,0.11853898654221827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131386948766383,0.0,0.0,0.1286945966214668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707084431195376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121590238681893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248346207005136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060058794212936,0.1547401060295167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629068110016835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717563141757758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195357164042176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322696624937941,0.0,0.16658131934988946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966124426310822,0.0931810545669665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873253141509684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511972056064579,0.160162662562657,0.0,0.0,0.11542984511086744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330418057006772,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AoiroBuki,2018/01/19,"Need help with a very busy, stubborn toddler who will not sleep Hey moms and dads,

My youngest son is 1.5 ish (20 months? I think?) And does not sleep. I know hes easily bored but we cant always leave the house to burn off some energy (its winter in Canada and has been an unusually cold one). I work early in the AM and also go to school online so my life was set up around a relatively regular sleep schedule for him. 

Right now hes up 6 AM - 8 or 8:30 PM and is frequently up for hours every night. While he is awake he never sits down, dismantles parts of the house (tinkers constantly, he took apart his window screen, runs through gates, empties drawers in the kitchen, empties boxes, trashes his room, rips up books, etc) and throws *epic* tantrums that they'll write songs about one day.

I know hes bored but hes also really smart. He'll make a great engineer with all this tinkering but i cant keep him engaged in anything and sometimes leaving the house is not an option. I have an ok support network but no one can really take him to give me a break.

Any suggestions? This kid is running me ragged",2.5888636363636373,4.6279483409090965,3.45,89.92000000000002,76.95454545454545,6.763636363636365,23.72727272727273,7.7348632917899725,1.0828818181818185,865,28,180,13,20,275,150,220,0.085,0.81,0.105,0.7734,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,0,1,1,6,9,2,0,12,1,20,5,3,1,2,31,32,16,0,1,8,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,4,1,5,11,1,2,3,2,0,5,7,4,0,3,3,3,21,5,21,26,4,34,0,0,1,0,25,14,0,3,12,103,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20612433735170424,0.10723523723837433,0.0,0.0,0.0876401657064566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605404735602866,0.114727050168666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926927741528644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311442128779889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278034147599345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373091566344434,0.0,0.0,0.10858367059458736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362969611932208,0.07324325620752226,0.0,0.0,0.14208635255837154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638293161865684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691699600678052,0.4461171401257444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455099703118743,0.0,0.0,0.1416538656615072,0.0,0.0,0.2729223582028239,0.0,0.0,0.09102899904221101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602579587626696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093812788809866,0.10286767154143782,0.0,0.0,0.09555999337504256,0.09939719141577544,0.0,0.0,0.12094148727581334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26198933718654743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956025479887352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651226563461088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005948316925254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042949112095142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869075110795941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746175586333766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624706828687345,0.0,0.0,0.0968987865545339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257859954274681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318608638183916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633627750316893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382333394768287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fry_that_kimchi,2018/01/19,"How do you keep your kids healthy during flu season? My six year old daughter has gotten sick several times during the winter, and she just got sick again today! I can’t keep affording to miss work, but she seems to be picking up every germ this year.

I stress the importance of hand washing to her, but I know damn well when I was her age, I was more concerned about other things and would forget to wash my hands constantly. I’ve thought about giving her a hand sanitizer key chain for her backpack, but I don’t really want her using hand sanitizer anyway.

Is there a fun way to get her to remember to practice good hygiene so she won’t get sick so much? She’s already had her flu shot btw.",5.898478260869568,5.832964898550728,6.1867753623188415,81.430597826087,66.68115942028984,9.218840579710145,29.568840579710145,8.841846274778883,2.122171014492753,548,17,110,8,8,176,95,138,0.15,0.6409999999999999,0.209,0.9143,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,2,0,1,11,6,1,1,4,0,11,11,4,3,0,18,24,9,0,2,4,1,4,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,3,1,1,6,4,21,3,12,15,2,13,0,1,0,0,16,1,1,1,11,68,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22431838193326464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966743808594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126746961108705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124049936891096,0.1949993503369316,0.0,0.1704969427974789,0.16257712656986922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613592963938091,0.0,0.0,0.111714307499587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943009090183662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330231384460505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022280133376174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23027029672999905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850534014123082,0.0,0.2296422396734547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328501662217241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504649509038247,0.0,0.0,0.1613771869058811,0.11853095148808653,0.0,0.1926803859641755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755638366539782,0.0,0.0,0.11989652209988265,0.16134977634892406,0.0,0.0,0.1827681197059103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798620186354838,0.0,0.0,0.14440031878133422,0.0,0.0,0.2618041292468272
parenting,BlenderFamily,2018/01/19,"I don't enjoy having a gifted child. Throwaway account so that my reddit friends don't think I'm terrible. 

Quick background, I'm a single parent of a 4 year old who is unbelievably gifted. It amazes me daily. He's been tested and all that jazz, so I'm not just labeling my ""smart"" child as gifted. 

I recently read a blog post titled ""I HATE hearing about your gifted child.""

WELL, EXCUUUUUSE ME. 

Having a gifted child is not fun. At all. Basically ever. Now let me tell you why. 

1. It's expensive. I'm a single parent so I have to work really hard just to make ends meet some months. I'm lucky to have a good job, but that doesn't take the sting out of seeing my bank accounts drained. The tutors that he has, the activities that he attends, the commuting to and from his psychologists office that's almost an hour away. The co-pay for the psychologists. All of the workbooks, reading books, and supplies he needs. It's all so expensive. To give you an idea, my rent, car payment and insurance COMBINED are less than what I spend a month on this child. It is absolutely without a doubt worth it, but it's just expensive. 

2. It's lonely. Do you know how you can just stroll up to the park and strike up a conversation with any mom about your seemingly normal 4 year old and their upcoming kindergarten adventures? Yeah, I can't do that. I can't just meet someone and start talking about how we're having a really hard time deciding where he should attend school, because I'm afraid that he'll be so bored or under challenged and that the school that may offer him the most help would have me driving 100 miles a day. I can't tell you about how I can't find books for him anymore because the subject matter of books in his reading level are too mature for a 4 year old. I can't talk about how he's bored with learning colors with his French tutor or how his piano teacher isn't working out because he thinks that she smells funny. I can't tell you that he's making really good progress in therapy and hasn't been riddled with debilitating anxiety recently. I can't tell you this, because you can't relate and you'll give me that look that makes me feel like I'm bragging about my child instead of desperately trying to find some type of adult connection that understands the situation that I'm in. 

3. It's exhausting. My child requires every single ounce of my energy and attention at every single second of every single day. I get no break. Ever. Even when he's at preschool I have to stay close by in case he has a crippling anxiety attack, because you know, Yellowstone's Hot Springs could explode and kill us all at any minute and how will we know when that minute is if there isn't a sufficient way to alert those within the fallout zone. We haven't gotten an uninterrupted night of sleep in years. I get woken up at least once a night with a question, a concern, or something that we need to write down about the next day. Last night he was wanted to know how gravity was proved before space travel was around. My child has to be challenged at all times or he goes nuts. NUTS. He displays the impulsive and hyperactive hallmarks of a child with severe ADHD when he is not being academically challenged, because his mind won't settle down long enough for him to be productive at down times. He never stops talking and asking questions and it gets exhausting having to go look up answers to his questions when I just don't know the answer. It gets exhausting to hear someone's voice nonstop 16 hours a day.

4. It's scary. I am terrified to think that my child will not be accepted for his differences. I am scared that he won't make connections with others because he will spend more time out of the classroom with a different teacher than in his classroom with his classmates. I am scared that he will fail because his school and his friends won't understand him. I am worried that he will resent me for not trying to make him more normal.

I am so envious of those of you with ""normal"" kids. Kids who aren't reading novels or learning 3 languages, or playing 2 instruments. I am envious of the way you get to ease through decisions like where you kids will go to school or when they will get to go to their friends house. I am envious that your child doesn't freak out when they can't participate in athletic activities because his perfectionism gets in the way. I am envious that you can sleep through the night. I am envious that your children can go play on their own for more than 3 minutes. I am envious that you can still read your child picture books at bedtime. I am envious that you are not lonely at the park. I am envious that you have a million people who can relate to you. 

Now, I know that this does not apply to every family and that every family has their own struggles. This is just my point of view, so I apologize if I have offended anyone. That was not my attempt. 

Thank you for letting me vent. ",5.123347193347193,6.1106345779625775,5.686365904365902,80.65458004158006,68.60498960498961,8.78902286902287,29.45696465696465,9.01499896408226,2.3356826611226618,3912,141,751,69,65,1264,364,962,0.14300000000000002,0.778,0.08,-0.9963,6,4,1,0,2,0,92,4,24,6,9,48,49,13,5,46,1,89,5,2,12,10,134,144,50,1,11,27,3,4,2,3,15,3,3,1,17,53,37,0,2,28,15,10,9,33,28,1,2,8,13,102,21,107,113,22,101,0,3,5,0,120,41,0,20,47,499,155,30,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401183303067963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053335248668647306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244139811767802,0.0,0.08149217175522812,0.0,0.05282263133674131,0.037242761538868165,0.0,0.0,0.047415405077918915,0.0497937598298084,0.06059440632145824,0.05004238684076003,0.0,0.0,0.2922179368250253,0.0,0.04532293077795552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04252620971692275,0.0,0.0,0.13740103828640482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129709724595983,0.0,0.0,0.04661085217521572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0471752511540893,0.05503496661989775,0.0,0.03517974082073325,0.09635895243599496,0.2243820754791719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042332259345724,0.0,0.026931397407965588,0.03805113208228618,0.0,0.0,0.0973629217295998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345269611361298,0.0,0.19479420933835226,0.10218953790827404,0.12108247033981408,0.08934903510777491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095426458029524,0.052586232746114736,0.0,0.0,0.12006265211073527,0.0,0.03570109828933301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490674637039853,0.06145840607530963,0.0,0.06012749791033506,0.0,0.0,0.05285535644550675,0.0,0.058927670955344465,0.0,0.17563186915341492,0.043416492985700016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893015037674852,0.0,0.05204326959438535,0.0,0.0,0.047136121325985866,0.08945509123637653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776749043172024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05378049481917997,0.062381037994050786,0.0850281133941631,0.0,0.0,0.0789877502900949,0.041079746124891035,0.0,0.056645855727625774,0.1999350493707667,0.15655943446098428,0.0,0.0,0.1676718269744223,0.056723407725579676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828462293477801,0.0,0.0,0.036925890990164925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050350796430581934,0.0,0.05101127664877223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790004105018644,0.0,0.2663873083264747,0.0,0.10236501714306802,0.0,0.10518166825401308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665120557970713,0.21562019232656254,0.04244375320862393,0.04848867841355211,0.0,0.060172083434902976,0.0,0.0,0.05986989750539756,0.10660302772861263,0.0,0.0902592153286906,0.04100449649212495,0.0,0.0,0.03769985946690379,0.05677132221731201,0.04253593887805485,0.044530293029291235,0.0,0.05568210234199336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04004718337382012,0.12843246106860096,0.1862170062120686,0.04903745841601023,0.0609109372264237,0.0,0.0,0.1023864313341157,0.0,0.0,0.12423244630781267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232422652976297,0.0,0.0,0.11089742263082633,0.06406888855137204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031415925665973087,0.1268331847635172,0.0,0.0,0.04788987672225538,0.0,0.04806161621795682,0.0,0.0,0.051343677506378985,0.0,0.0775522665029743,0.05409121062084593,0.0,0.03783654105661212,0.0,0.0,0.1371986262722659
parenting,Bjjguy214,2018/01/19,Letting two day old baby cry? My step son and his girlfriend just had a baby. I think they were told something by the doctor or nurse but i'm not sure. They are letting the baby cry so it will learn that crying does not get it its way. Seems weird. Anyone heard of this? I can see this being the case for a 6 month baby or something or a 1 year old. ,0.1507000000000005,2.1322850533333337,1.9115833333333363,98.055375,85.13333333333333,3.75,16.041666666666668,3.1291,-1.1460333333333337,269,5,62,0,8,88,56,75,0.197,0.8029999999999999,0.0,-0.9349,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,8,1,0,0,1,12,15,6,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,4,2,6,1,3,7,0,7,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,4,5,39,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534174575328494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.590721297755702,0.11560693471373094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347872121032252,0.15687036463696644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936551934705428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666080239280896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308246395490803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762033862550414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284585523923513,0.16319025095068046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760039783136655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894906143092064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486164035279285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128922596810187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751095555392022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228709276492005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543662863165426
parenting,bferro42,2018/01/19,"Toddler bedtime routine is a nightmare My 3yo(in 2months) is an absolute terror when it comes to bedtime. She is giving me every excuse in the book and that’s not exaggerating. She climbs the gate with ease. Should I put up a Dutch door? I’m so frustrated and angry towards her every single nite.

How do I keep my cool?, are there tricks to making this any easier and enjoyable again?

Please help me",3.6442293233082736,5.99921977631579,4.636390977443612,81.15973684210526,74.92105263157895,6.974436090225563,25.330827067669173,7.957251820313856,1.6811037593984963,317,11,56,5,7,103,62,76,0.14300000000000002,0.6459999999999999,0.211,0.4816,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,5,5,2,1,5,1,6,0,0,2,0,10,11,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,5,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,1,9,2,6,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,39,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284021380171453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893210243436349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.565967494872641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221957271354503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251256157590371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29853540808619616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419487165938076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686828191109934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33764067001343234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,K_A_L_III,2018/01/19,"2nd Baby Shower We had our first child, a daughter in 2011 and had a baby shower.  We are now expecting baby number 2, a boy in May of this year.  There's been a lot of opinions for and against whether a second baby shower is appropriate.

I (Dad) use reddit to guide most of my life as it is so I ask you all that read this for a vote...yay or nay on a second baby shower given our circumstances?
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parenting,stfuleslie221b,2018/01/19,"Moms of Reddit: What are some things you did while pregnant that you feel you'd get a lot of shit for? Some people get really touchy about things you should and shouldn't do while pregnant for one reason or another. For instance, I'm about a week away from having my second and i just had a small cup of coffee. As far as i know, most people would frown on that, but sometimes i just need that little boost, you know? 

Anyone else do these types of things? Just curious...",3.070564516129032,4.983785021505376,3.1545026881720446,93.15175403225807,75.12903225806451,5.940322580645162,18.076612903225808,6.6274283507984215,-0.17775161290322616,369,6,77,3,8,112,62,93,0.026,0.932,0.042,0.3293,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,5,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,0,10,1,1,1,0,19,17,8,0,4,5,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,9,0,14,11,4,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,5,3,58,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265410411039077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106303467123106,0.22136267718191213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029805123464706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180477095510725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923837149235867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257482158614449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746433797259306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165329115886244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836729396505697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530281997345427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019393793102935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463970508213897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29955550665016056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384033612157179,0.2221292825970393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22176612977192686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136731061419712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4305902341865467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329751868345067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347150633578285,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SgtBoaty,2018/01/19,"Less TV, more independent play--How do I get there with my 3yo? We have created a sort of vicious cycle around TV and play with our 3 year old son that I would like to change. He is a very active only child and we rely very heavily on TV to keep him occupied while we do the tasks of adulthood—cooking, cleaning, talking to each other, posting on Reddit now and then. If he is not watching TV during those times he will pester us constantly to play with him or to ""turn on my episodes"". 

Our daily routine: He wakes up at 5:45 or 6 and he watches TV while we exercise and prepare for the day, right up until we leave the house at 7:30. He goes to preschool all day where there are no screens, lots of good outside time and fun creative play. When he gets home he watches at least another hour while we prepare and eat dinner. After dinner my wife and I engage him in a good mix of rough-housing, imaginative play, and story-reading until he goes to bed around 8pm. At no point does he play by himself—if we remove our attention from him he wheedles, whines, or cries until we are playing with him again. Thus he is either watching TV or actively playing with us any time he is awake.  

I want to change this pattern. I know he is definitely exceeding recommendations for screentime (the above routine is for a weekday…I don’t even want to tell you about weekends). It seems like he “can’t” play by himself, but our species’ evolutionary history suggests that kids must be able to entertain themselves without TV. I want to help him learn to do it.

I’m not sure what is reasonable to expect for his age and stage of development. I also feel unsure of how to transition him to playing independently more and watching TV less. He sees TV and our attention as rewards and their removal as punishment—I’d like to change that framing if possible.

I would welcome folks’ suggestions, recommendations, and insights. I'm also open to hearing that I'm interpreting this situation wrong--maybe it's fine or he's too little or he misses us all day and so we need to suck it up. 

Thank you for your thoughts!",5.270518518518519,6.196177335802468,5.81851851851852,80.06333333333336,68.23456790123457,8.666666666666668,32.28395061728395,8.841846274778883,2.613320987654321,1651,70,316,27,27,534,217,405,0.049,0.8009999999999999,0.15,0.9852,0,0,0,0,0,1,46,17,3,1,1,15,26,2,0,8,0,20,5,1,5,4,75,40,38,0,10,13,2,1,3,0,4,1,1,3,2,13,33,3,1,11,21,0,2,7,4,0,0,1,9,41,22,58,34,10,45,0,2,7,0,59,18,1,11,26,194,54,1,0.10582857601803616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692621480136242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196706070876864,0.11097048931843753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884197392342004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358578031760123,0.0,0.0,0.11436309438508815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624772142871867,0.20475202965593647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926113000395722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828905339941748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989877636684153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05351010782764165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058212611205608,0.0,0.0,0.17752797712229593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192764965589542,0.0,0.07093466373424817,0.0,0.1061546904807536,0.0,0.10421982983450263,0.2442239358164245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940653008941778,0.0,0.0,0.058160617723149774,0.0,0.0,0.11205718156301883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551074899036748,0.10606803533455264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997167086484263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631902893752836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847054816835614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104928824828687,0.0,0.0,0.08048740087999219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000422111557857,0.1193058184245978,0.10135452210489873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585721473367593,0.0,0.0,0.10880940187098727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037702568188744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433167341444846,0.09634236096347493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189557534877906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974218046724673,0.0,0.0,0.08506100068808586,0.09249884002306888,0.09743273427980724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401606819166776,0.18512848118094355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511110126701347,0.0,0.0,0.3818962398624437,0.0,0.0,0.17463931695992307,0.18726130817788672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201497077984484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503551680660634,0.1157069346275361,0.0,0.06815013322945722
parenting,stickfiguredrawings,2018/01/19,"Need advice about power struggle with 3 year old I try really hard to offer choices, to not set up situations where there will be a power struggle. But i still find myself in them. She is not ready to drop her nap, yet nearly every day a nap request turns into a several hour meltdown. I ask if she is ready and she says NO I WANT TO PLAY. I try to offer a choice. Do you want to walk to the bedroom or do you want me to carry you upside down and tickle you? NO I want to play!
All the articles I read on power struggles stress the importance of empowering, not overpowering, and I agree with the concept. But instead of a win win, these situations make me lose, because if she keeps saying no and I eventually bring her to her bed she still melts down. If I let her stay up the last several hours are also a meltdown because she is overtired. How do I handle these types of situations when any and all choices I offer, no matter how specific or open ended, just get a no response?

She has almost always been an easy napper until the last few months and I am pretty good at spotting her tired signs so this is new territory to me and I am starting to feel like an incapable parent :(",3.9234996276991794,5.025687202531646,5.480814097791015,80.59862993298586,71.48945147679325,7.9393397865475315,26.599404318689494,8.313332769828598,1.743433060312733,925,30,181,14,17,314,135,237,0.161,0.7020000000000001,0.13699999999999998,-0.732,6,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,4,1,6,13,11,0,4,15,0,15,1,0,3,2,38,28,20,0,8,11,1,2,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,3,11,0,1,2,5,0,2,8,5,0,0,1,4,35,6,28,24,3,32,0,1,0,0,25,11,0,6,17,133,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415067358697945,0.0,0.0,0.11697376624050185,0.0,0.0,0.09341724682418126,0.0971997848876434,0.0,0.0,0.07943848937685387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920664603541297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424191880050061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753362801098373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346378686857563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842202708651952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059065384779602284,0.08345295729344332,0.0,0.0,0.10676717490946433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103123403893694,0.0,0.0,0.09797922956582256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464366880571348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300793102741493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038309100332932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19044031211115625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945167843759165,0.0,0.057070112204273375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068657147143176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779751979787594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324095141874184,0.0,0.0,0.08661715159235822,0.0,0.11282105772618485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257812974351305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970969648025776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884327505757865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684702897779825,0.0,0.07483494740278601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579261655830595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639363421982458,0.0,0.0,0.3939162694720475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268255344562958,0.12450969180754523,0.1865778859325623,0.0,0.13381166557207969,0.3663625117938663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426213767639622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862000044617322,0.12706162937738882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27560303827669164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522529864721557
parenting,throwawayyy1145,2018/01/19,"Please don’t hate me. So before anybody comments, I AM depressed, and I AM medicated. I’m not a threat to my own safety, and I am not a threat to my children’s safety. I’m engaged and l live with their dad and I have a support network of family locally.


I’m really sad. I feel hopeless; I’ve been depressed since long before having children but I guess I always had this stupid thought that it would just go away. I had my first baby at 19 (unplanned) and then my second at 22 (planned). I had to do a lot of growing up in a really short time. Before I got pregnant with my first, I was partying all the time, having jobs and then quitting them and doing whatever I wanted... then I got pregnant. I put all of that behind me, and grew up. I didn’t party anymore, hardly drank and was the best most attentive mother I could be. I love my son so much. 

My fiancé and I planned to have our second baby. I got pregnant, and shortly after I got pregnant... our relationship fell apart. We were fighting all the time & we broke up multiple times. It had been a build up of a lot of things and I just made myself blind to it because it was easier than accepting it. The majority of my pregnancy was filled with uncertainty and fear that I would end up doing it by myself. Even after she was born we were still fighting. It wasn’t until she was 8 months old that we got counselling and really truly fixed what was wrong. Our relationship is great now and stronger than it’s ever been. I love my kids so much.


But I feel like I’m just a shit parent. I took my son out of preschool because he’s 2 years ahead intellectually but he’s still emotionally really immature (words of doctor, teacher & developmental specialist) and he was having a tough time managing his emotions in a preschool setting so we all agreed that was best. He’s really strong willed sometimes and some days despite everything I feel like I’m not even getting through to him. He is such a sweet kid but I’m fighting him on EVERYTHING. 

I just feel like I can’t do this anymore. I’m so exhausted all the time of trying to be everything for everybody. I grew up in a wealthy family where nobody taught me anything about reality and I never had the chance to adjust until BAM! It hit me like a brick wall. Even now, I work 25 hours a week @ $11.50 per hour (plus commission) so that I can watch the kids while my fiancé works because if I worked full time we couldn’t afford the daycare out here. My fiancé has a $60K a year salary and I just feel like I’m a financial syphon and an emotional drain on everybody. I feel like I’m not even cut out to be a parent anymore. 

I fail at everything I try. ",2.4424092178770955,4.373162562383612,4.110927607076352,85.51544168994415,77.00744878957171,7.2310521415270035,24.781540968342647,8.144726394080802,1.5039485102420849,2084,73,425,37,48,698,241,537,0.109,0.7040000000000001,0.187,0.9927,5,0,0,0,7,1,66,9,0,2,13,24,35,9,1,27,0,47,8,1,1,7,76,81,38,0,6,14,6,7,6,0,3,4,0,0,5,19,33,1,0,10,0,0,8,10,19,0,4,31,10,71,16,52,41,16,69,0,6,2,2,40,25,1,6,41,292,90,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578023810689204,0.15053563980590828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066787662030999,0.0,0.0,0.057165691213492326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526684054650995,0.0,0.0,0.12703991350558175,0.0,0.17733473658630178,0.0,0.1458033480215657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05546400809125925,0.0,0.0,0.04480067909880043,0.0,0.11966421410057736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110275288205196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344241788639356,0.061527432826358426,0.0,0.0,0.1835300575826388,0.0628371744525416,0.0,0.0,0.24973101731743494,0.0,0.1309752271352363,0.07817005606780324,0.2107486070854672,0.24813736184601254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817774590851783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036293811257946174,0.0,0.039479882873059535,0.0,0.2777968372637461,0.07658797338243736,0.0765260926298256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222908031894923,0.06858460365816964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136822648156204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893560317446767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036293625808311,0.0,0.061340922540526616,0.061476398485019665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181172746713773,0.12539394980862809,0.06573166456328917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998102373209372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544815774401945,0.0,0.10213295688117463,0.0,0.053577485193822806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289427414206995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427049170844387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625426452240824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983385075228128,0.0,0.07388705328616463,0.0,0.0,0.22251274280332034,0.0,0.0,0.14916382379420082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130721300838543,0.05746409084278424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870496278894635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095339433285653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788306995818834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04615100538579097,0.0,0.0,0.05514929815137065,0.2835486995640977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718075645613122,0.09432751030817964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040973629367174566,0.0,0.05572249960485071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171912446871993,0.0,0.0,0.0986951921310824,0.07595161703351393,0.0,0.08946936216897873
parenting,abs823,2018/01/20,"Daughter Is violent and Agressive Hi,
My daughter is 28 years old and has a history of violence and drug use throughout her childhood and adult life. She has passes HS but has failed to pass college. her step father is a professor at a local university so she is able to take classes there for free, but is still (8+) in the program after leaving/going back/leaving etc etc. She used to live with me and my son (22) who moved in to start his own business. Unfortunetly she had an episode where she blew up my son and verbally/physially attacked him, and had her dog attack him. We he to call the police, and they took her to a hopsital to calm down, however my son is now terrified of my daughter. He asked that she live with her moms house (in the same town), but she comes over some times and he is too fearful to even be around her. because of this, he doesnt believe and I or her mother know how to take care of her, as she is not getting better (even with therapy), and does not want to be in the same room as her mother. This leads to awkward situation as my daughters mother and I are getting back together. What do I do?",4.939570164348929,5.209316610619472,5.690670037926676,83.01548672566375,68.73451327433628,8.75802781289507,31.629582806573964,8.634040054169528,2.326873324905183,878,35,181,13,14,287,132,226,0.13699999999999998,0.816,0.047,-0.9684,1,0,1,0,0,0,31,1,0,1,3,11,10,3,2,9,0,19,2,0,4,0,33,32,21,0,1,6,12,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,5,18,0,0,1,0,1,7,3,6,0,0,3,0,32,5,32,27,6,29,0,1,0,0,43,13,0,2,9,131,37,6,0.1439859736415817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817804334013527,0.13460744867717575,0.3276096630147162,0.0,0.221432652013274,0.0,0.08777251310241836,0.0,0.0,0.16222288558965214,0.0,0.12734389278994274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702577768500086,0.0,0.1468032962896972,0.0,0.0,0.12403116690281395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600309583810188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697801690304034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211648431671782,0.19020275525241115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202425083026947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504534568516444,0.0,0.08183054697857556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614048165551226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913092555489301,0.0,0.0,0.1524603561530769,0.0,0.0,0.1017015513541755,0.0,0.0,0.2542845053416812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863463210878915,0.0,0.15303430313603567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510890582890313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184626714894496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191401323525072,0.0,0.11498738454443165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21651906580590824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466050936117976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395937913493384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599737146468388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24871530244143,0.0,0.0,0.08492665780174552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272224625959777
parenting,Vila-real,2018/01/20,"Out of state parenting Good afternoon everyone!

I am reaching out to see if any of you have any experience in parenting while out of the state your kid is in. I will be moving two states away (about 1.5 hours away flight) and I want to still see my kid at least 30/40 percent of the time.

I’ve worked out that I would see her that amount of time if I had her during school breaks (she’s 4), but beyond that, I don’t know what else I could do or what schedule would work best. The mother is keeping her through the day-to-day. 

Do any of you have any experience with out of state schedules?

Thanks! ",5.236334894613584,4.912472680327871,5.231733021077286,88.59581967213116,68.09836065573772,8.938641686182669,27.264637002341924,8.418075326091056,1.3984833723653396,465,12,107,6,7,145,74,122,0.0,0.877,0.123,0.9292,2,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,3,0,3,3,3,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,0,0,17,21,6,0,6,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,7,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,15,3,23,15,4,25,0,0,3,0,12,11,0,3,8,71,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41184399399545385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28450108641035105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889083402482887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088504994654245,0.0,0.0,0.19528817036037435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647994911290492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467453714860193,0.0,0.296207454427386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699183213805956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910401560744296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457625209056964,0.0,0.0,0.08320855701359177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092018952434364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33623599767200835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323054824532875,0.3619519769593868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091270607054735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393939325731154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657164342728776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479012690655118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930294443186103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045015702278764,0.0,0.0,0.21510838543472854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thenakedknitter,2018/01/20,"Feeling jealous and leftout First let me acknowledge that I am hormonal and therefore irrational. 

First. I have 1 child 1.5 years old and am pregnant with number 2. I am not originally from the country that I now live in.  I have no Mum friends. 

To cut to the chase. A lady that I work with (small department in a larger school) had a birthday party for her 1 year old.  She invited the mothers and children of 2 other women in my department. There are only 4 of us who are Mums in the department (I am the only one not invited). 

I am trying really hard not to be upset. To be honest I hate kids parties but it has hurt my feelings more than it should ( hello highschool left out feelings all over again...)

I am renewed in my need to meet Mums. The issue is I am really introverted. I take my Daughter to play groups etc but  the Mums are horribly clique(y)

Two questions. How do you make friends as an adult? 

and How do I swallow my hurt feelings for Monday when I will have to see this lady?",2.518015873015869,4.581411459183677,4.129115646258505,84.85318594104312,77.26530612244899,7.008616780045352,27.21541950113379,7.984000788550335,1.8440405895691607,770,32,150,13,18,257,119,196,0.122,0.7829999999999999,0.095,-0.8208,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,1,0,3,6,10,3,1,11,0,23,1,0,5,1,27,32,11,0,2,5,6,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,8,8,1,0,6,1,0,3,4,6,0,4,1,6,24,4,23,26,3,23,0,2,1,0,22,9,0,1,11,113,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763749637287912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32214373762464665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709642163062081,0.0,0.0,0.2461161616398723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268214248334898,0.1572544241560827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34102159885020034,0.0,0.0,0.16624524627499174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730564252640039,0.16287293438030784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064572712835618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631955506863157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810290011857763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33427173135297106,0.0,0.10793115204057846,0.2422767697898387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842823750133746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040756168035892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119822342304313,0.12692424654318252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975751887243573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813956430746843,0.0,0.1555918326233672,0.0,0.191592278992654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595655720199248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051401083779368
parenting,VisitationThrowaway9,2018/01/20,"Summer Custody Issues I'm looking for some objective feedback.

My ex and I divorced three years ago, when our son was two and a half. I moved to a city two hours away (but within the same state) shortly thereafter with my ex's consent, to be closer to family. I was struggling with my husband's infidelity (which was the reason for our separation) and desperately needed family support. 

For the first year and a half, my ex had unlimited access to our son but only saw him when I drove him to his city once a month. So that three days was the only time they saw each other and he didn't seem to want more time than that or to make effort to see him more. 

After a year and a half, my ex wanted more time with our son so we changed it so that every two weeks, our son would spend four days there. 

This last September my son started kindergarten and because of his school schedule, visitation changed to every other weekend. My ex also told me that as soon as their house sells, he, his gf 
 (affair partner) and their baby are moving to the other side of the country.

We are currently working out our summer parenting schedules, and my ex is demanding that because I have our son for the majority of the time during the school year, he spend his entire two month summer vacation with him. 

I even feel that one month would be too long but I understand that he doesn't see him very much so I would be fine with him being with his dad for a month. I think that two months is far too long for a five-year-old to be away from his mom, and my son is very very resistant to the idea. 

I'm also concerned that this sets precedent - if I agree to this, I'll lose every summer with my son. Because my ex will be living across the country, there's no way to separate it into smaller chunks of time without spending thousands on airfare - which neither of us can afford. 

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has input into this, I'd really appreciate your advice.


Edited to add: Forgot to mention that he'll also have our son for every spring break/school break and alternating major holidays.",7.7386430317848385,6.401174716381417,7.849558679706602,75.2088123471883,63.449877750611236,10.429388753056237,33.40843520782396,9.255337874911486,2.8026263080684592,1645,53,314,23,20,536,198,409,0.035,0.923,0.042,0.5862,3,0,0,0,1,0,42,11,1,3,4,15,4,0,1,20,0,28,0,0,2,0,49,49,29,0,8,8,20,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,21,25,0,1,6,2,4,4,5,2,0,14,12,6,49,2,50,26,10,59,0,1,5,0,59,13,0,6,38,224,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781653415523765,0.07058992972243441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19104766051099373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055681308265581576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963581930506456,0.0,0.0,0.1456307780694984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848250103075274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271351066235668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259690507370585,0.0,0.2683772523364059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501419806515823,0.0,0.040264883137916464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773586588753762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842255303346746,0.09188589440713656,0.0,0.08989606592114241,0.0,0.08311625689643146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491159704213204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031747763812221,0.14094555793113925,0.06687173970517793,0.08908905863607243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05315570610410893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932653128541139,0.31781186447466553,0.1692747448244918,0.058539484035820315,0.059046927394434276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356153249155468,0.08480664217517798,0.053961442875145864,0.12112910708183686,0.0,0.0,0.08842312278368196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05101499673707186,0.08187607965122998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417788162276041,0.12691452559935382,0.07249497455546898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951092993863224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563647111494399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324979612869007,0.0,0.0,0.09036668712284787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102566879005357,0.0,0.0,0.23217347659065596,0.0,0.0,0.07609283033663809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889497901768197,0.08290085536381503,0.0957888026090386,0.0,0.0,0.1971169179286656,0.09393931970538864,0.06320904042657532,0.06387686160598009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767634572892142,0.0,0.05797383812878613,0.0,0.0,0.16970718758955222,0.0,0.0,0.2564054962434629
parenting,BlueSkyNoisee,2018/01/20,Claiming on taxes My daughters mom and i are separated and she claimed her on taxes this year after only working for two months when i was supposed to claim her so we can split the money and now she isnt going to split the return with me. Can i claim her in anyway so i can get a better refund and get ahead on my expenses like i planned? ,3.3822535211267564,4.227137084507047,4.90574647887324,85.1825633802817,72.52112676056338,6.806760563380282,25.46760563380281,6.742157984588678,0.9726202816901406,267,8,55,2,5,90,49,71,0.0,0.916,0.084,0.6872,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,9,7,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,14,2,10,8,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,8,44,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361599254177155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971641020705521,0.0,0.21601468249902084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856934422644578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451584140437988,0.303385302047168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28907661140555274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37129403513311454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27671104130439833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24476637791028105
parenting,throwyywayy,2018/01/20,"Married Single Moms Club Disclaimer: single moms - I will not deny that there's times married single moms have it way easier.

Feeling so discouraged lately. My husband works 6-7 days a week, odd hours into the late of the night. He sleeps in, I take on every morning routine, including during the week when my LO attends daycare and I go to work. I feel like I've really been raising my daughter alone. Everyday, I am with her when she wakes up, I am with her after daycare, and at bed time. Ofc I wreck my brain trying to entertain a busy toddler on the weekends! Sometimes we are able to hang out with the grandparents, and I get some help from them. She will see dad sleeping and that's about it. On days off, he seems to need a moment of relaxation. So then hanging out with us seems like a chore. Will not list the 100 things I feel he'd rather be doing.

He knows I'm disappointed and unhappy w the situation, I can tell our daughter is affected by his new job and not seeing enough of him. Her bedtime routine has become a bit problematic and sometimes takes up to 2 hours. Sometimes I can tell she's hoping he'll come home early or something, kiss her goodnight.

How can I help myself see the positive in this situation? I don't want to feel like I'm the sole parent and adult in this home. It takes a lot to keep a family happy, clean, fed, etc. It takes a lot to raise a wonderful child, and although that's my top priority, I'm exhausted of being on my own despite having someone who should be by my side.
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parenting,tracerit,2018/01/20,"Methods to share video of your kids with family and friends? I like to use Google Photos to share videos. It automatically backs up to the cloud then I create a link and share that link in a text message group. 

What methods are other parents using?",4.28712765957447,6.451565744680856,4.558457446808512,83.30875,72.40425531914894,6.402127659574468,24.51595744680851,7.1686216300943375,0.9944936170212766,198,6,37,2,4,62,37,47,0.023,0.6940000000000001,0.28300000000000003,0.9092,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,7,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,8,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,3,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30085650605054304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688472118865247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022882306979637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19115096365670767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43445040705498666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6758498912739129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saviour__self,2018/01/20,"“I just want to say, you seem like a really good mom” The kids and I rolled into the donut shop on our bicycles. We look like we just rolled out of bed. As my kids 7 and 8 are chowing down on donuts that would probably make them sick- we sat around teasing each other lovingly. 

I haven’t been the most attentive parent the last few months. I went through a breakup (not their father) that felt really disappointing and sent me into isolation. Sure I did the bare minimum but I was not present like I used to be. Now that I’m getting over my heartbreak I realized I haven’t been a good mom. I’ve been struggling with them to listen, they’ve been struggling with whining and not listening to the simplest of rules and what’s expected of them. Hygiene, homework, not fighting. 

So lately I felt like I’m just not cut out to be a mom. Being a single parent for most of their lives is frustrating for all of us. 

But today some nice elderly couple sat and watched our interaction over donuts. And as we cleaned up and prepared to take off on our bike rides home the lady said

“ I just want you to know, you seem like you are doing a great job- it’s refreshing to see parents engage with their children” and I told them thank you, sometimes my kids don’t think so and we all chuckled. 

Originally I thought maybe they were judging me for allowing my kids to have giant donuts, and I looked like a metalhead who just rolled out of bed (yes I get looks often for this) 

I thanked them again and told them their kind words made my day and how much I appreciated it. 

And this positive reinforcement from strangers just made me feel like I was back on the right path for my children and I wanted to share just how elated kind words can make strangers feel. ",3.830510743980131,5.475284241982505,4.1574473598963415,87.88243170283987,72.46938775510205,7.647079149119967,26.406327610409235,8.285830014693849,1.5598755857898716,1377,47,284,22,27,430,177,343,0.068,0.6970000000000001,0.235,0.9964,4,1,0,0,3,0,28,9,5,11,0,16,29,4,2,15,1,21,3,0,9,3,78,59,23,0,5,14,7,4,7,0,1,1,4,5,6,10,30,1,0,11,2,1,3,8,9,0,0,20,13,53,20,43,35,9,30,0,3,5,1,51,17,0,6,17,188,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726909357348364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538040964431005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847033158271817,0.0,0.06322240655544957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913565587378838,0.07003394362674008,0.18825181932639348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243514772337747,0.0,0.0,0.1644488598738576,0.0,0.10808041502594222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833389701610998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728144344486137,0.0,0.0,0.2041700861592632,0.053875718234216566,0.0799090081119233,0.11058415002669772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352537292096519,0.0,0.08656388298916108,0.0,0.2469660877589143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847753464753835,0.18552013514893254,0.1308739868936288,0.0,0.09848612807449364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34444100812601103,0.07824805431882308,0.0,0.0720646589799653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265581663882023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569487018220952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560337362972146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371862887807419,0.09325069900388812,0.0779588288798199,0.0,0.0,0.07811865920551196,0.17848895340124174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695596533794744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049682626001511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239381941400644,0.0,0.07370771983200694,0.0,0.0,0.1805090366761636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281482457771276,0.0,0.07782630574158009,0.0,0.0,0.09292269196140693,0.1873471882900357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792019536584294,0.08466800723553443,0.0,0.0,0.17346510182519845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908764686787064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963898413480271,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squishy0071,2018/01/20,"3 y/o doesn't tell us why she is in the corner anymore, just repeats what we say So my 3 year old daughter has started doing this thing where when she is in the corner, rather then tell us what she did wrong, she just stands there and repeats what we say. It's weird, because a week ago, she would answer the question, say sorry and everything would be all right, but she came back from a week vacation, and now this.

She doesn't copy us in any other area, just when she is in trouble. ",6.326700000000002,4.886870270000003,6.134,86.70700000000004,66.3,8.8,30.0,6.742157984588678,1.4062000000000006,377,10,84,2,5,118,64,100,0.084,0.916,0.0,-0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,0,1,16,13,8,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,8,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,3,14,0,5,8,1,24,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,1,13,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126197386361267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836945848360227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804112295962686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253709169192288,0.0,0.09714365418354652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822640300767393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322142692653206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672202687442814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178518343180125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609155683235258,0.0,0.3801855763739205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783891458965902,0.11279498909448225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278573255735036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587091529836304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5750670974085558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25565605717853035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379654337774792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264078591380488,0.17423384705297354,0.0,0.10262185173225748
parenting,StormySMommi,2018/01/20,Potty training my 2.5 y son with butt naked method I started potty training yesterday and I got 5 accidents and no poop. Today in the morning my son fought pretty hard not to get near the potty but as the day went by he was back to not fighting. I asked him to sit on the potty to try and he finally did. He peed in the potty for the first time! I’m overjoyed. I know it’s a small victory and my son is not potty trained yet. With the first success I feel like potty training is not as horrifying as a lot of first time parents like me thought it would be. 😆 thank you for reading/listening. ,1.8904212860310423,3.686276756097567,3.6408277900960826,88.87569844789358,78.1869918699187,6.423946784922395,25.815964523281608,7.348242739294969,1.2311853658536585,463,18,98,6,11,155,77,123,0.046,0.737,0.217,0.9794,1,0,1,0,2,0,10,0,1,0,4,2,6,2,0,9,0,6,2,2,0,0,16,17,8,0,1,5,4,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,2,0,3,6,2,11,4,17,9,1,19,0,0,0,1,12,5,1,1,14,61,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975977056897934,0.0,0.0,0.1625266076751979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631291359392375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068724747241993,0.1509991698569827,0.0,0.2315399825494624,0.0,0.5393607817158222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042946797944994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904786729276278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893414881019827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616065449881735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065244862728716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969493074782794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346957750346725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503415167995896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960520677589673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459645764812608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678001687674108,0.2464972161828886,0.0,0.20034926808964115,0.0,0.0,0.14350293366996225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195937435754787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014760342617406,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,takedown1555,2018/01/20,"A little, but important, reminder of our perspective and role as parents ""Father Forgets"" 

Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
 
There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.
 
At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, “Goodbye, Daddy!” and I frowned, and said in reply,
 
“Hold your shoulders back!”
 
Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expensive‐and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!
 
Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. “What is it you want?” I snapped. You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither.
 
And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs. Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me?
 
The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding‐this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.
 
And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed!
 
It is feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: “He is nothing but a boy‐a little boy!”
 
I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.
 
-W. Livingston Larned",3.9081632653061225,5.522392184713379,4.0080488756011965,89.15413557779803,72.21656050955414,6.9099701026907585,26.032887040166386,7.447530270364453,1.1684152736253737,2524,83,514,28,49,777,292,628,0.133,0.779,0.08800000000000001,-0.9852,2,1,0,0,0,0,95,1,62,2,2,26,26,0,5,34,0,48,27,20,3,2,74,81,50,0,8,13,10,4,0,0,6,0,5,3,3,25,35,4,3,7,4,1,14,5,12,1,2,40,16,115,14,85,31,9,96,1,4,6,3,92,52,0,5,29,379,140,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791267966436836,0.0,0.0,0.09103162033975744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824424629023112,0.08216897443853173,0.0,0.0,0.06758501888989503,0.0,0.05357933350935885,0.0,0.0747912741135037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949909142661802,0.4021090347616531,0.08961373548688094,0.0,0.0,0.15142570315347892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017616366269304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342411334504455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805312220111826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890512490749034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033347405582962,0.0,0.10628170805097772,0.09637117481119814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474425431413838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020454571361082,0.0,0.0,0.20830949774426089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655783164799802,0.10141781249488847,0.09409228676006112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781241774396088,0.0,0.0,0.04830421394295298,0.0,0.09914819916399197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3523712967216025,0.0,0.0,0.07380877774967799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932771762187674,0.08316737662782735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25844865324753186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248251395990397,0.0,0.2530098342961219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191184246673694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975958251758766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835769192022172,0.0,0.0,0.1758354621417757,0.10004255266397018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995667066010704,0.0,0.16721453978326628,0.13979358688386834,0.0,0.0889533655033737,0.14008019014410658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062211787168917926,0.0,0.0701922185899591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335713280455469,0.056318891415982265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398643174862701,0.0976534077336088,0.0,0.09560337356247764,0.0,0.09150069724195077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184212643980389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902721284163328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248746744792732,0.0,0.0,0.05660081932806148
parenting,xGrimmz69,2018/01/20,"Should I kick my daughter out? Shes 22, in college and on break at the time. But all she does is play video games, sleep in very late, pay NO bills, and does nothing around the house. ",2.2559649122806995,3.5259670526315823,2.0815789473684205,102.69938596491232,75.84210526315789,5.066666666666666,20.561403508771924,3.1291,-0.7450280701754384,140,3,35,0,3,41,33,38,0.121,0.8190000000000001,0.06,-0.3559,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,1,7,3,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,6,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,19,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903155710991207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5707788912243693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762982142464972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678770954860284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31292053631187433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263551036321329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901629519964257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690828107800379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Melkain,2018/01/20,"Kids do a lot of crazy things but sometimes they do something so sweet it melts your heart. So I've got a hellava bug I'm fighting right now. Week 2..3..? Crap it's kinda blurring together at the moment. I'm on my second round of antibiotics since it turns out that this bugger is antibiotic resistant. Sinus infection, bronchitis, got in my eyes... let's just say this is the most aggressive bacterial infection I have ever had. Needless to say I'm exhausted.

Yesterday, I was laying back resting while my son (just shy of 4 years old) bounced around. He noticed how tired I looked and gave me a hug and a kiss. Then he took my hand and sang ""Jingle Bells"" to me. He kept watching my face, and I realized he was waiting for my eyes to close, so I let them flutter shut. He put my hand down and patted it and then proceeded to tiptoe away as quietly as he could. (I know because I peeked.) It's not the first time he's done something like this, he's always so gentle and caring when he thinks someone is sick. Makes me happy to think I must be doing something right.",2.332311320754716,4.455849683962266,3.6836226415094337,87.53260377358494,78.10377358490567,6.881509433962264,24.75094339622641,7.908726449838941,1.4192067924528304,831,30,168,14,20,272,137,212,0.104,0.728,0.168,0.9644,0,0,3,0,2,0,34,0,1,2,1,12,10,3,0,7,0,16,15,7,2,2,29,32,19,0,2,4,1,3,1,0,1,6,4,0,1,10,10,0,2,4,1,0,2,1,4,0,2,9,12,21,6,18,18,3,28,0,0,5,2,18,11,1,4,16,100,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267750138172717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356319410010376,0.0,0.0,0.14314643201683608,0.117154777881383,0.0,0.09287672060205628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553403024594886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164637964907955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591630322728514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378175693136383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959661084361446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437110529444393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218914288334846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805463203211456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373260151692544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31159509667489194,0.0,0.07443498225446964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794330910888824,0.0,0.0,0.12953029660376594,0.0,0.0,0.10170091232803123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734618963308947,0.15987529303580486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531630225315059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26022775458570513,0.0,0.2423242145911436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603305912095006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909340907394207,0.3518805400812938,0.1506870901476947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122064588461263,0.19525117615530124,0.0,0.0,0.08884184264769003,0.17511442415985615,0.0,0.0,0.16927661603571145,0.0,0.16572299865255458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221331589982208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811429404327317
parenting,lknau679,2018/01/20,"Thinking of flying with a 4 year old. Advice needed! So this is my first post on this thread and I’m on mobile- so sorry for any weird formatting!
I was thinking of taking a trip down to Arizona this summer to visit some family- we live in Pennsylvania. I wasn’t really sure I’d want to drive since it’s like a 36 hour drive. I’ve taken my daughter on a plane before but it was nothing like 4/5 hours, maybe 1 1/2 hour. She really hates sitting for long periods of time. I was wondering if any other parents have any advice on which airlines are best, activities kids can do on long flights, and what you do if your kiddo goes crazy mid air. Last time we flew, we did spirit airline and she slept the majority of the flight. ",2.6060010537407763,4.560567787671232,4.1461643835616435,85.33987881981034,76.60273972602741,6.958061116965228,23.559536354056906,7.882392219407189,1.241346259220232,571,18,114,9,13,190,102,146,0.068,0.821,0.111,0.7508,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,2,0,2,2,6,1,0,6,0,11,1,1,0,1,17,22,8,0,4,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,5,1,2,0,1,8,0,12,4,17,14,3,29,1,0,0,0,11,9,0,4,15,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30028758842610803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134592857003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074378165574674,0.0,0.16124489876069453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484638059515914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130693560424741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169634474742247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4539392479558302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524425013444998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501300502792953,0.0,0.13567467385552573,0.271948642727269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436083554007815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392861185435307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743013327894924,0.0,0.16122853163198805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706087696532956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715304376105973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968626656281116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270998455940751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199721222775094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481214199727235,0.0,0.11552474893130855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19690384820053305,0.0,0.0,0.17918766015158205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906260220882044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662553066928049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894476663860337
parenting,koankabear,2018/01/20,"4:47 AM: ""I want my iPaaaaad!!!"" (how to negotiate with a terrorist) That was my 5-year-old (normally a sweetheart) waaaay too early this morning.

I try and hold my ground -- ""no...we wait until your alarm goes off at 6:30"", or ""you know the rule - weekends only"", but once the meltdown starts, the fire only grows.

Now it's becoming a threat to wake up our other 2 sleeping kids.

So, I groggily weigh my options, give in and hand him the stinkin iPad.
And then I stew in my bed, unable to go back to sleep.

Anyone else deal with this kind of early morning/late night behavior?

(Sleepless in Georgia)

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parenting,Naynoon,2018/01/20,"Appropriate TV shows for kids under 2 years old (that I can buy) I understand that watching TV is bad for babies. But bear with me please 
I have a 2 and half mo daughter. I work as a teacher and one of the benefits is that her day care is within the school. So I can go see her and breast feed her throughout the day. 
In the nursery the main form of entertainment is tv. This is unfortunate and I cant complain about it or change it because:
 a) the daycare workers wont listen to me 
b) they are not trained or educated (we live in a third world country) and they are paid minimum wage. 
c) the lady that takes care of my daughter had 8 kids (she's old) and thinks she has all the experience in the world. her ""experience"" is a big issue, because she believes her way is the best. She will not change her ways for me/or anyone else. she's not going to be told by a new mom how things work. 
d) because these ladies are over worked and underpaid, babies as old as 2 are usually left to watch tv. not much toys or other stimulation. It breaks my heart honestly...When I asked the ladies why aren't kids playing I am told that they hit each other over toys and some other silly excuses. But again I am the new mama who complains a lot. and I am scared of complaining too much because they will not like my daughter :'( and that also scares me   
e) even if I can go see my daughter, I am still at work. so I cant go to her all the time. things come up etc.. 
f) some babies are already addicted. The other day I was at the nursery and the tv was off. one of the babies refused to go nap. they turned on the tv, she sat on her little chair/swing thingy (not sure of the name) and fell asleep 

So the tv they are putting for kids right now is ""choo choo tv"" which is awful! I tried to be more forgiving but I cant. Bright colors and loud noises. extremely addictive. 
I was thinking of Sesame street as a better alternative but I thought that I would ask first. I know sesame street is designed for kids who are at least 3 years old. But it has good content. 
I am concerned now because I noticed my daughter started to turn towards screens even when they are off (maybe I am just getting paranoid) 
I am just hoping someone will guide me into the right direction. 

Thank you and may you never face the plight of a bad daycare 
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parenting,hoyahoyahoya,2018/01/20,"Toddler Vomiting and Being Around Others We took my son (4) out to dinner last night where he ate a personal kids size pizza and an ice cream/cookie dessert.  I commented to my wife that he ate way more than he usually would for dinner.  When he got home, he had a banana as we always do a bedtime snack as part of our routine.  Halfway through the banana, he said he ate too much and his stomach hurt.  We made our way to the bathroom and he threw up.  He immediately felt better and was happy as a clam for the next hour until he fell asleep.  He's had no other symptoms recently which would indicate illness.

Today, we are scheduled to go to a cousin's birthday party at a bounce place which my son has been looking forward to for the last two weeks.  I know as soon as he wakes up this morning he's going to tell us how much he can't wait to go today.  We're also supposed to see some friends this afternoon who have a newborn.

It is clear as day to me that his vomiting was the result of what he had to eat last night, but my wife is holding firm that we can't go to the birthday party or see our friends because it might be a stomach flu and our son could be contagious.  Out of an abundance of caution, I am ok forgoing seeing our friends with the newborn, but I'm angry with her that she thinks we have no other choice but to disappoint my son this morning over what I think is nothing.  Am I out of line here?",6.873866995073893,5.1751043965517285,7.258916256157637,79.91413793103449,65.3793103448276,9.94088669950739,34.85221674876847,8.418075326091056,2.618083743842364,1105,41,231,12,14,363,160,290,0.077,0.841,0.08199999999999999,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,0,1,8,8,0,0,17,1,25,18,4,3,1,37,47,20,0,3,4,7,1,0,3,3,5,1,1,4,17,18,9,2,4,0,0,8,4,2,0,1,15,6,27,6,40,25,5,38,0,2,4,0,49,11,0,3,19,151,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827861558753367,0.10225799430957908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940208037422992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491529190844012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086901190807172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812118668640804,0.0,0.0,0.07925672789998058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257516624511066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799790639053262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28484374984126265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793749021074072,0.0,0.09828988660610477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082338507133662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327311381788507,0.0,0.12102623903932515,0.0,0.13156100808404744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753955398329045,0.3005260408964042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320035297856907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162856625725769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130371548580065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068306409597365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069959965536046,0.2306561581087549,0.0,0.11792050124879608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308267047839065,0.0,0.0,0.1073066588932654,0.12839850211457268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134340416697098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690072681671893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937928016611806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773434782345827,0.0,0.0,0.1074151314703656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749155183690675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23297906276502284,0.0,0.1365402118139332,0.0,0.0,0.12004998169377708,0.0,0.14782684410828667,0.0,0.1353508306519313,0.0,0.0,0.19509572540563408,0.0985784831374728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17460132625487254,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,96firephoenix,2018/01/20,"Proud of my little girl (3)! Kids have been sick, I've been sick, babysitter has been sick, etc... so my wife and I traded half days at work instead of one of us being home all day. 

Yesterday afternoon it was my turn home, and while rousing my son (18mo) from naptime, I got hit with a freight train of a migraine. Just boom, can't do anything, everything makes it worse. I think I almost passed out, but my memory is a touch fuzzy. 

Then i realized my phone was downstairs and i couldn't call my wife to come home from work and take care of the kids. 

I asked my 3yo to go get my phone, and she went down and got it off my bed and brought it back up to me.",3.3365125709651267,3.67189767153285,4.041557177615573,93.19904298459043,72.28467153284672,7.548742903487429,24.71127331711273,7.3871296695380915,0.7428562854825631,499,13,120,5,9,159,90,137,0.066,0.8859999999999999,0.048,-0.1134,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,4,0,12,4,0,1,1,18,26,11,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,4,1,4,3,4,10,0,0,2,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,9,2,20,2,16,14,2,18,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,7,74,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862043748159095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679041880359053,0.0,0.1667599455645178,0.0,0.0,0.1371621606338403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182144531556588,0.0,0.18186890798794786,0.0,0.0,0.15365740042084308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300789269927005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989393317016223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603152163566462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319547514322654,0.0,0.10137668972828416,0.0,0.2853313812438166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367849488448599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878225528952765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906912484157625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208739804104618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411853497820514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429782750676636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19402473354452532,0.0,0.0,0.21456753624798672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653587829193466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25972354336454484,0.0,0.18178306967013805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,keeshtastic,2018/01/20,"Freaking out over four month olds medical condition. Could use comfort and advice. My little bean was born with hyperinsulinism and takes an insulin suppressant to control it. His low blood sugar was caught at birth, and he pretty much went straight to the NICU. 

Since we brought him home at three weeks he's only had a few episodes of low blood sugar (~53), and hasn't had any seizures or other issues known to cause brain damage. So I think, cool, this is at least under control. I know babies that have been in the NICU have a higher chance of some delays, but not my kid, right? He's under control, he wasn't a preemie, and he's pretty on point with milestones. 

Well, not the case... At his four month check, the pediatrician told me that he still has pretty poor muscle tone and feels a little floppy. She thinks it may be related to his blood sugar, and the endocrinologist agrees. Now my little guy is getting sent to the physical therapist, neurologist, and geneticist, and my entire world is upside down. Her exact words were that it'll probably come down to us loving him no matter what, because that's just how he is (I'm still completely unsure of what that means and the severity, but it felt pretty heavy).

I feel the worry creeping up in my chest. What if he has brain damage after all? What if he keeps falling further and further behind? Now everything he does seems like a symptom, and I can't shake the feeling that something is very very wrong. On top of that, he's gotten sick from daycare, so I can't tell what's abnormal and what's just typical sick baby. Last week he was all smiles and new abilities everyday and I felt overcome with the joy of motherhood, and now he sleeps most of the day, barely smiles, is refusing to eat, and I feel so lost and hopeless. 

I'm not sure what I'm looking for here, but I'm afraid... What do we do from here? What questions do I need to be asking? Anyone out there with special needs kids, please help guide me. I want to cry and give up and snuggle my poor little boy, and I just don't know how to fix this; I'm so scared. Please tell me it'll be ok.",4.802857142857143,5.717527922705315,5.140196687370601,84.54489130434784,69.28985507246377,7.943271221532093,26.62146307798481,8.07648339933343,1.4993694962042792,1656,49,331,21,28,525,220,414,0.146,0.6970000000000001,0.157,0.2951,0,0,1,0,0,1,61,3,0,0,5,18,20,0,3,17,2,32,17,7,7,4,80,68,33,0,6,12,0,6,1,0,3,5,0,1,4,24,30,4,7,14,0,3,7,9,11,1,3,17,11,29,9,42,44,7,55,0,6,1,1,37,30,0,8,19,201,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701981710943944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060557880210463086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622666803949286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325086542652606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054284794402142456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19882121492155355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148012856574332,0.0,0.07670973698702901,0.09336850514164292,0.0,0.2996355309575704,0.07110014938306344,0.0,0.09781857866208356,0.0574306669497509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779293187563562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112162507794837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003349040173424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010788090893706,0.0,0.17100626387792686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652558462552495,0.08542604030583546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817470391954071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968915260512631,0.0,0.08932562990069425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294633271021656,0.0,0.07915281195882885,0.0,0.0,0.0978804382548835,0.07258862610893814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350592572409953,0.3570108499465995,0.0,0.0,0.0747805928663677,0.0,0.09720992116316697,0.0,0.0803721987460445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700287989650694,0.0,0.08970973091495173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215966116724768,0.0,0.06546288972875261,0.13206069580245308,0.0,0.08600621880645623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344427060055772,0.0,0.0,0.06772746216031318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19550298599834806,0.08418218250816739,0.0,0.0,0.36238840245886816,0.0960122718898369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975774164552227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604925143698188,0.0,0.0,0.08915580178761456,0.0,0.0,0.08106888202686377,0.0,0.10060252605134684,0.0,0.07366408566004387,0.0,0.08911552718481577,0.0,0.0,0.0685559763114094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223283140021153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392971669509866,0.092558309966446,0.06695543146692604,0.0,0.15566937481000362,0.0,0.0,0.10339532477322587,0.0,0.11412084627514682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509225257995083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711764761383542,0.0769116582200704,0.0,0.1469531579078029,0.05252471411692825,0.0,0.1428630271142249,0.0,0.08006773732138851,0.08255136889923383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904358319505364,0.0,0.0,0.09736352461370523,0.0,0.0
parenting,thisissotandem,2018/01/20,"Sippy cup suggestions that aren't plastic We're in need of new sippy cups for our 16 month old. Preferably one that leak proof but more importantly that's not made of plastic. He's been doing great with the Tomee Tippy ones we have but they've taken quite the beating and after a long day out the water starts to taste...like plastic (yes, we've tried it). Anyway, has anyone had any luck with toddler cups that aren't plastic?",2.9403571428571422,5.250754940476192,3.254999999999999,90.4275,76.97619047619048,5.152380952380953,21.214285714285715,5.985473137389443,0.1616714285714287,341,9,66,2,8,105,65,84,0.069,0.785,0.146,0.8369,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,4,1,7,1,0,1,1,13,11,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,2,2,9,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,7,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130255951877526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698284174866133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090728096287804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263611634246385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619668343036288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28009962365230084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23627894135191665,0.0,0.0,0.2194937800371604,0.0,0.2858962684971939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106213556168575,0.0,0.4011792516757269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148518443239103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20952323951168697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009769592244261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arthas429,2018/01/20,"I hit my kid for the first time and I feel like shit. Me and my daughter's mother are not together. We had broken up 9-10 months before she was born. I was 25 years old, just about to graduate pharmacy school, had job offers lined up, and after 7 years of studying my ass off, being at an internship when all my friends were getting drunk and partying their asses off, I had no interested in settling down. I told her I was breaking up with her and told her that honestly I didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. 

5 months later, she calls me to say she is pregnant. I tell her I'll financially support her but we're not going to be together. So pretty much, my daughter has never seen me and her mother together. Since it was a long distance relationship, the last 4 years have been me pretty much just flying down to Texas to see my daughter whenever I can afford to take a flight or have the time to take a weekend off. Either that or I fly my ex up to NYC and she leaves my daughter with me for a 1-3 weeks. 

Normally, when my daughter comes to me, she's extremely happy. Whenever I go to pick her up from her mom, she runs full sprint at me ""dadddyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy"". She loves that I have 9 cousins who adore her, as well as 6 sets of aunts and uncles who treat her like one of their own. And of course, my mom, grandma, who is her favorite person in the world. 

 I've never disciplined her and always gave her what she wanted, so she got it into her head that I am the ""fun parent"". Or whenever she's misbehaving, I bribed her into behaving with candy or by letting her play a game on my iphone. This time, we were out and she was just out of control. I told her to stop misbehaving and she blew a raspberry at me. I lightly slapped her on the cheek. I felt like shit right away and almost started to cry myself. She looked like she couldn't believe what just happened. She just put her head on the table and started crying. At that point I just hugged her and told her I was sorry. I said I was sorry that I hit her and that I didn't want to do it but that she needs to listen.

She's been pretty quiet since and went to sleep pretty easily when she's usually fussy about going to sleep. 

I just feel like shit. I feel like I failed. I can't sleep, every time I close my eyes I just see her innocent face and the sad look. 
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parenting,Brony_Danza,2018/01/20,"Toddler saying no to food, asking for certain things My 2 and a 1/2 year old girl has been saying no a lot to dinners i make for her and asking for specific things. Started about 2 weeks ago seems to be getting worse. 
Im making things i know she likes but she will say no i want such and such.
I cave and give her what she asks for unless its ‘ketchup and choc milk’ or something ridiculous.
Any advice how to adress this behaviour? Tonight, for example, i made her mac and cheese which she usually loves but she refused, and asked for cereal. ",4.009462616822429,5.396563158878506,4.183259345794394,88.8930198598131,71.61682242990653,7.219158878504674,26.45911214953271,7.6454224807358475,1.3037299065420562,426,14,87,5,8,132,72,107,0.127,0.7829999999999999,0.09,-0.4854,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,2,0,4,4,0,4,1,21,18,12,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,7,7,3,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,14,3,12,14,1,7,0,0,0,1,19,0,0,3,8,56,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240774448632086,0.13825406244618774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606193210153644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5832269957650708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18859417960036212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148557017496336,0.14961638114035547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846957341287194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571459536049285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761968966570048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259634549957425,0.14076501120297347,0.14757838815609006,0.2082164507029697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365962364055084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720902305095091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198519220286526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006991128858804,0.0,0.0,0.11039322925603358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108497722612937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717740345739794,0.0,0.09199253083102024,0.0,0.1251061680903329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894223466816967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043670996296032
parenting,JubileeBerry,2018/01/20,"Explaining death to a 4 y/o My grandmother passed unexpectedly this morning, and I am at a loss for how to break the news to my son. They were pretty close. Are there any good books or videos you can recommend? He just turned 4. Thanks!",1.7091489361702124,4.070604170212771,2.8887659574468114,91.09400000000002,81.76595744680851,7.164255319148936,20.038297872340426,8.238735603445708,0.8707225531914897,184,5,41,4,5,59,42,47,0.115,0.667,0.218,0.68,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,7,3,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,2,5,6,0,4,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305768895112404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077326897912388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4945567383776332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475521150590698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5287567594159955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crandob,2018/01/20,"Do you have an Eddie Bauer car seat/stroller travel combo? Hey parents! Does anyone out there have the Eddie Bauer TrailGuide Jogger travel system? I’d like to keep to our budget of approx $500 CDN and this seems like one of the better ones IMO. If you have this combo and have any complaints, please let me know.  And if you can suggest a better option, that’s great too! Thank you! ",2.2231000000000023,4.7194194933333335,2.6982500000000016,92.415375,80.73333333333333,3.75,16.041666666666668,3.1291,-0.9280333333333328,302,5,57,0,8,93,56,75,0.032,0.7240000000000001,0.244,0.9534,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,4,0,2,2,6,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,11,5,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,5,10,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,2,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497333115199035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991066481542015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4551232027270201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22516561758462936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836749818758368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287007261540583,0.0,0.0,0.1414057615338606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631074464264889,0.0,0.25140829640471835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487072902727677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857020300096138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824389541989082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342369364929857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23688795835602905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,youngmommy19h,2018/01/20,"New to reddit Hello all it was suggested I join well the big kid isn't mine its my kid sister she just turned 8 yesterday :),  I have a 1 1/2 year old girl the and just found out I am pregnant!  Hope to chat and share with other mommies!",-0.2131333333333316,1.93378302,1.8200000000000005,96.85666666666668,88.8,4.933333333333334,16.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,-0.4168666666666661,181,4,42,2,6,60,43,50,0.0,0.8,0.2,0.8395,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,9,7,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,6,3,4,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,4,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4258636471496188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857716403760306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751218660889877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075634256388705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4224707380073703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492207825705215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501186832881074
parenting,triplthrowaway,2018/01/20,"My triplets are rebelling against me, and I'm losing their respect because of how much I work My wife and I divorced 5 years ago, and I ended up with sole custody of our triplet girls when she decided to move countries with her new boyfriend. I've been working more than full-time to support us. My girls are all 16 now, all with licenses, and all very self-sufficient. I hate to sound like ""that dad"", but I don't have time to keep up with them, so I let them self-regulate with a few requests. I work a full-day, usually do overtime or some odd jobs for friends and family after work to get some spare cash scrounged up. By the time I get home, I'm worn out since I don't work a desk job and am on my feet all day. My kids have made dinner for themselves, have done their homework, and I just check over it, review with them, then we watch TV and talk about our days over dessert. I like to think I'm understanding, and try not to give them too much shit. I don't think I have a right to with how often I'm gone.

Well, I want to give my kids shit right now, and they're not having it. I think it's my own fault. My oldest was kind of picking on my middle, and sort of wrestling with her and really getting her riled up. They had totally devolved into yelling and hitting by the time I got a call from my youngest. I had to come home from work after my oldest's response to me when I got her on the phone was, ""Fuck you, Steve."" I'm somehow on a first name basis with my kids, *and* they feel comfortable enough to give me a good ol FU. I told them there was no cussing at me, that they could call me what I wanted, but we needed some respect. My middle hit back with a nice, ""You get respect when you earn it."" My youngest got upset because she's kind of a daddy's girl, they started picking on her, and I had to shut them down. They said I was only defending her because she's a ""sheep"" to me. I told them they needed to separate and take some time to cool off before we talked, and my oldest dragged out a ""make me."" My middle comes to her defense by saying that I only want to be a dad when one of them gets hurt. I said I wanted to be their dad all the time, and that we might need to do something all together this weekend. 

Youngest says she wants to go to an art museum, oldest groans and says no, youngest starts crying because we ""never do what she wants"", middle pulls her hair, I say you can't do that, she does it again, oldest says we can't stop them, youngest is freaking out, middle keeps pulling hair, I say she does it again and she's grounded, middle does it again, I say she's grounded it's time to get up to her room, middle walks out the front door, youngest is screaming and crying, oldest is yelling that I never discipline middle, I'm about to lose my temper, it ends in all of us yelling and nothing getting anywhere.

I lost the respect of my kids for trying to support them, and I don't know how to get it back. I'm thinking of dialing back my hours at work, but I want my girls to be able to have everything in life. My oldest is looking at some pretty pricey colleges, my middle is interested in a few Ivies, and my youngest is pretty set on study abroad. I don't want to tell them no, they don't get that, because I can't pay up. Financial aid is really dicey, and I don't want to rely on that. But I'm losing my kids this way, and I can't do it. This is becoming more frequent, where one of them gets on the ""screw Dad"" train, and the rest of them hop on. I've even seen my youngest join in when she gets really frustrated. It's like a revolt. How can I manage work and my kids?",4.369296148738382,4.193508266932277,4.8985498007968165,89.74628419654718,69.91633466135458,7.9151128818061105,27.623107569721114,7.213258583274324,1.1469700398406375,2787,82,640,23,45,891,288,753,0.113,0.785,0.103,-0.9399,2,0,1,0,4,0,105,10,4,23,14,28,36,9,1,23,1,49,10,5,8,10,113,118,44,0,13,8,5,3,3,1,1,1,14,5,10,25,51,2,5,8,4,3,9,18,18,1,3,21,21,127,18,97,89,22,104,0,5,3,2,95,47,4,10,49,413,152,17,0.05605249610423473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04968715578231691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930272877017224,0.0,0.1708454068234112,0.06190557812616607,0.0476965457232904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144717311343808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656852433320527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04475335710611211,0.0,0.12314206989611035,0.10844766863977794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471557512157641,0.057361164525609035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929174857214423,0.057917212252356576,0.0,0.037022145033165935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050376369212673,0.0,0.052841304782669685,0.0,0.02834182621936524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767822455183116,0.0,0.0,0.043306019445903336,0.051819629430475966,0.3221362730630241,0.16131198546590694,0.031855925266316226,0.04701417433956711,0.13449090488257226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553402353188201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245044766745417,0.0,0.05520041774715804,0.0,0.06000535638488225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124690668283592,0.09964406798813906,0.0,0.11674009820413442,0.03080498595947408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573174749393805,0.03959153566766775,0.08215325482676468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706997954567641,0.1881252164022344,0.061187920894980985,0.0,0.0,0.053038227106483656,0.03741547640434214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05946284046408407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05957493263683907,0.08241006823895014,0.12468664686807253,0.08646228104472163,0.054135850022681176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05378388175619302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596524402046116,0.0852608982189622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405107954821304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772599293169527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573705081476204,0.10663751937515824,0.3120263627918151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694995606376125,0.0,0.11507416350996795,0.04636720400793527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043151949978230464,0.0,0.0,0.079348490486383,0.0,0.0,0.04686239660777115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721541665390929,0.0,0.0,0.04214450125117373,0.0901057462755364,0.04899235220887474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366470481199753,0.0,0.0,0.1961079674436745,0.0,0.0,0.1071211242090909,0.0,0.07611193094459594,0.0,0.0,0.05835262524195563,0.1348485025031632,0.0,0.06173390542181316,0.046249179578273784,0.2975509302513719,0.04449186237860592,0.0,0.0,0.05039792563187002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264550779671159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036095969737854144
parenting,samalex01,2018/01/20,"Just had to tell my kids their paw paw has passed away - toughest thing I've ever had to do In a nutshell my father-in-law went in for surgery end of November and had a stroke.  He'd been slowly trying to recover with some great leaps forward then some setbacks.  He lives about 6 hours from us, so my wife has been traveling back and forth weekly to be with him, and while she and I were up there (my parents watching our kids) he passed away on Wednesday night just an hour after we had left.  I came home Thursday and told the kids last night.  My kids are 7 and 10, and this is their first bought of death so I wasn't sure how to tell them...  my first grandparent didn't die until I was 17.  

I set up the evening with a trip to their favorite restaurant then some ice cream, and after we got home and everyone was in PJ's we got into my wife and my bed and I told them.  They knew he had been sick, and they last saw him Christmas when we went up there to visit, but we'd never told them he was close to death or that it was even on the horizon.  We cried for about 30 minutes and I answered the questions they had.  We watched a movie after that then went to bed early.  

Kept them out of school today, and we're driving up tomorrow to be with my wife who stayed to help with arrangements.  Funeral isn't until Monday morning, but with so many relatives we've not seen in a long time coming in on Saturday I wanted the kids to have time to visit and get used to be at Paw Paw and Granny's house without Paw Paw.  

I told them it'll always be Paw Paw and Granny's house, and we'll still go up to visit Granny (she's my wife's step-mom but my kids see her as their grandma - my wife's mom passed away about 11 years ago).

Today they've had moments, one will get really quiet and I'll see them crying.  I'l just go sit with them and hold them, and they've talked alittle about it between themselves.  

Anyway, we still have a long weekend coming-up, and I can't be more proud of my kids for how they're handling this.",5.262006211180122,4.502384633333339,5.382691511387165,88.99593167701866,68.14285714285714,8.351966873706003,27.30848861283644,7.079830092131019,1.071193581780538,1566,38,358,11,23,493,195,420,0.068,0.907,0.025,-0.9517,2,0,0,0,0,0,41,11,0,15,3,22,3,0,0,12,0,36,2,0,3,3,65,60,39,4,1,9,7,1,0,0,3,2,1,4,7,9,41,0,2,3,2,1,17,7,0,0,3,32,9,55,3,61,18,4,82,0,0,7,0,63,22,0,5,42,226,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403555247355858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888220088595826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26720657170037393,0.07289627857512435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842732863370716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166284793448866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082693547965176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838868854894317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396573335654041,0.0,0.0,0.12523060990846827,0.08575312169858974,0.0,0.09058661854119802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612757211833583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905943864674904,0.0,0.10775542440141046,0.0,0.15164237539899644,0.104518668436831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354325257763739,0.0,0.1901866860126573,0.0,0.18672019072601248,0.21877573561535185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455127780479835,0.0,0.0,0.1030017917876145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371120505576432,0.16779217483301906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611354705725833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220600621967712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311653727524416,0.0,0.0,0.17792902669726782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423975320720672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052655244704465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619905120602616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060732082495247676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959438854710196,0.1510885804476401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104547590063764,0.15141673714630596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934901827150707,0.0,0.0,0.07619762139818248,0.16572087172343986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298171131722377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055869556306863,0.0,0.17972092407381834,0.3623464741647921,0.0,0.06436379851143302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403418277484015,0.08187780712475927,0.0,0.0,0.05591620973043473,0.0,0.07604381214774862,0.0,0.0,0.2636450136574677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138498321849674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061048870904962464
parenting,LoonWithASpoon,2018/01/20,"New 2 yo in my life My boyfriend and I recently moved in together, he has a two year old daughter he gets every other week. It hasn’t been long and I’ve already become an issue apparently. I don’t know much about children. I’ve never been around long enough to watch a kid grow up or be parented. The most knowledge I’ve already forgotten is a semester of parenthood in high school 8 years ago. I’m not sure what I need to know or how to act. Can anyone give some advice or maybe some reading materials I can look through? I’d like to be able to know how to handle some of these situations. ",3.3770400728597463,4.523826303278688,4.88191256830601,84.20561930783244,72.85245901639344,8.373041894353369,27.489981785063755,8.841846274778883,1.9727183970856101,467,17,99,9,9,157,85,122,0.035,0.942,0.023,-0.0931,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,2,2,20,18,7,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,2,2,6,2,15,14,6,19,0,0,2,0,7,6,0,7,11,56,10,2,0.16204725635249456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583507034431916,0.14364511538452507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35764635389054605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133072094280439,0.0,0.0,0.14425641416714796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896846323499105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743813377421402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653180251783414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466300319032094,0.15545049419930485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712118233481568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691352344330678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671708025683852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144587694684802,0.07916810413074407,0.0,0.0,0.2868134450843669,0.1360788826916959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627982496377131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17223058832620133,0.119123378815371,0.1201559872920451,0.1249808339955169,0.15650624996560772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004133625936074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17993430117958176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16209110864144624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000211612141754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400047471884802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214790565409197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272762136172074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829662306911074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299845345061482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870624032602286
parenting,HoldMyBagBiyotch,2018/01/20,My 9-yr old saw a teen with a nervous tick in which the teen jerked his neck in a funny way. Now my son has this ridiculous thing that he does Witt his neck that makes him look like he has a problem.  It annoys me to no end.  How do I get him to stop?,1.5503571428571448,2.035313321428575,2.7235714285714288,100.47142857142859,76.5,5.6000000000000005,19.357142857142858,3.1291,-0.8174142857142859,190,3,51,0,4,61,43,56,0.26,0.655,0.084,-0.851,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,1,5,0,3,2,2,2,0,5,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,8,1,5,6,0,7,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,0,5,30,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307653844758829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347705385662469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974744952505029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465777038423375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31740084406629204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522988942528968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966174808854073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616676549733598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160010771587889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25110745270288937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000161633668687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nosanitythrowaway,2018/01/20,"Boyfriend's depressed son [18] not working or contributing. Is eviction a bad idea? I'm at the end of my rope.

The kid graduated high school ~6 months ago. Was talking excitedly about getting a job.

Long story short he hasn't. Despite his dad hounding him in various ways. He also doesn't do chores (though does his own laundry and keeps his room vaguely clean.) He now owes me and his dad about $1000 in back rent.

The threat of eviction, with a deadline of the end of this month, was given a month ago. 

Confounding factors:

He struggles with depression. He is recently back on antidepressants which is good news. Should I/we wait and see if they improve the situation?

His dad had a very messy breakup (ex wife has completely turned their other son [16] against him). If he kicks current son out, it will cause a shit storm of epic proportions. Current son may be alienated from dad, with help from ex wife. 

I have been so done with this kid for months, but I'm trying not to let my anger and bitterness influence things. It's also causing a lot of strain in the relationship between me and his dad. It cannot continue like this.

Any suggestions?",3.3134578418523373,5.758518362385324,3.668663171690696,87.24970948012233,76.38532110091744,7.271647007426826,27.812145041502838,8.269060116576782,1.9754658802970737,905,38,177,17,21,281,142,218,0.14300000000000002,0.8220000000000001,0.035,-0.9687,9,0,0,0,0,0,37,0,0,2,1,9,12,4,2,13,0,19,1,1,3,0,26,28,13,0,3,6,13,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,2,9,10,0,2,1,0,2,0,5,9,0,0,6,2,15,3,24,17,3,26,0,2,1,0,35,9,1,5,17,101,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417640356776353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810690558613466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927349268547365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097171729756692,0.11386159691572695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801750326042737,0.0,0.0,0.1429792698283772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349071439987143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193365694042492,0.13955182590482942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415631712696448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124665975967319,0.0,0.0,0.11437902153408044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140460633067568,0.1440802955867027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394289082094734,0.0,0.0,0.13532421353582244,0.1212101579817266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394455351490255,0.0,0.06662252419916924,0.0,0.0,0.12068140253948467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593521028201464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4353905960453706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346469638279216,0.14640821443064206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801171211056767,0.10866765279290526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997980833458692,0.0,0.15328336311081606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256145855756486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960744539674143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059685010535773,0.0,0.13398088293175658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258493114900612,0.14832924189252064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251789446964557,0.0,0.1082425833608879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927753947942264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kitteh666,2018/01/20,"Circumcision I had my son at a young age and decided to circumcise based on my own experiences as well as because his father is circumcised.

Basically the internet makes me feel like a barbaric animal and I cry about it often because I feel like a terrible person and that I've ruined his life. I have extreme anxiety about whether or not he will hate me for it one day.

I just finished watching an ASAP science video on YouTube that made me feel better, that was, until I read the comments about how I'm a horrible person who should rot in hell for mutilating my baby.

Is it possible that I've ruined his life? Is he going to hate me? What do I do?",5.435988372093027,5.8381496821705445,7.072393410852714,73.07742732558141,67.68217054263566,10.79108527131783,33.179263565891475,10.686352973137794,3.6742007751937984,515,22,97,14,8,179,83,129,0.162,0.725,0.114,-0.8291,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,7,10,3,0,7,0,10,2,0,3,0,16,19,9,0,1,4,2,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,6,1,1,3,4,17,4,14,14,1,10,1,2,1,0,11,4,1,2,7,69,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337557483385136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444357159819257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773185847698919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22023067946497601,0.12930053756110235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611931954910716,0.0,0.0,0.3041238295329109,0.2864625708456484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394403346159634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958880222266064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832263842408487,0.19590020043268397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897100609585832,0.13382974312492565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358583408616011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501231768309845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260242276824801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20054592073327213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802660847733996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Screwitletsdothis,2018/01/20,"Co parenting help My son(3) has been spending a week with me and a week with his dad for alittle over a month now. We have a decent co parenting relationship... When I say decent, I mean we talk civilly without fighting.

After the first week at his dad's, I got back a wildly different child. Where he used to be very well behaved, he now screams at adults and hits/spits at people. He's also terrified to poop in his pullups or the potty and has set potty training back a step. 
Another problem I am having is he clings to me for about 3 or 4 days thinking I'm going to go away.

On his dad's end, he says that our son misbehaves the entire week, gets up before he does and eats everything h can get his hands on, and starts freaking out on Thursday asking where I am. He has told me about times our son has gotten up while he was asleep and destroyed makeup, toilet paper and ruined his dad's shirts with bleach. He has also told me our son gets in trouble for using his pullup, that if he doesn't eat when he is giving food or his baby sister gets ahold of it, he doesn't eat until the next meal. 

When his dad wants to discuss these things with me, he all but blames me for it all. ""He must have learnt that from YOUR house"".

What can I do to make this easier on my son and voice my concerns with his dad??

Tldr: son has started various bad behaviours after starting to stay at his dad's house. I also have alot of concerns about him not eating, and getting ahold of bleach. How do I make this easier on my son and voice my concerns to his over beari g know it all father?",5.973693825356229,5.02439340993789,6.308860065765438,83.56746985750823,66.7639751552795,9.067153818048961,28.879064669346,7.928766900206844,1.6514988673730362,1226,32,261,12,17,396,168,322,0.077,0.8740000000000001,0.049,-0.7869,3,0,0,0,2,0,36,5,1,0,1,17,9,2,0,11,0,24,10,4,5,4,40,49,24,0,4,7,17,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,11,18,6,0,3,0,1,3,4,8,1,1,6,6,38,1,45,41,5,49,0,1,0,0,63,19,0,5,25,165,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24893244865188915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880225716271168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970023513888535,0.0,0.0974866973141968,0.15957131741699387,0.08663594289988451,0.0,0.0,0.08829280761932054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691713902809356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108407962890453,0.0,0.0,0.09080178473543438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4246928533246528,0.0,0.0,0.09190128050075376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932535261831862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825889263360237,0.12546798424849254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710537052855077,0.09953682447683833,0.11793931985732392,0.0,0.08298699910216553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695486842742239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394520888678581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570242280188353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385222938079848,0.0,0.0,0.11302594145109734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282088921968063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035079939322184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304282021890759,0.0,0.0,0.07193468148252223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928508270204082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140027936614304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502952275449542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203273077480963,0.11059521846423934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339900930620696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893407211253545,0.06648573786265959,0.0,0.0,0.060503763181552525,0.0,0.0,0.1982958025226597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923205142286755,0.0,0.08561353559534525,0.0612008145412736,0.0,0.3329226545720397,0.0,0.09329343005346154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002171886783814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jace92504,2018/01/21,"My three year old daughter cut my time short with her to go back with her mom and I’m heart broken Things have not been easy since my divorce but this by far hurts the most. My days with my daughter are Wednesday’s (after work) and Sunday’s due to my busy work schedule. Today is Sunday, the best day of the week because I get to spend the whole day with my daughter. So I get her about 10 am, go to target to get some supplies and some toys, per usual. On the way back home we stop and get some in n out. Get home, eat, but she oddly requests to go home to mommy’s. Instantly I feel it in my heart. I offer her all of her favorite things, games, toys, but nope. Still nothing but mommy. So I decide a call to mommy may work. But nope, still mommy. At this point I’m balling. My heart is broken and I’m lost. Everything I work for and everything I think about all week no longer wants my presence. She is my world and my everything. I just dropped her off with her mom and I’m down the street in empty parking lot...Wondering what the fuck am I doing with my life. What do I do guys?",0.8093641064930104,2.8039902466960385,2.138425588967632,97.30990231756373,82.65638766519822,4.828883355678991,18.680137904615968,5.7926816847441245,-0.4216809423482095,834,20,192,5,23,267,117,227,0.124,0.8340000000000001,0.042,-0.946,0,0,0,0,1,0,31,1,0,0,6,9,5,2,0,8,0,12,6,3,0,2,35,29,15,0,1,7,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,7,16,1,1,3,4,1,3,4,4,0,1,2,1,33,1,29,26,8,39,0,2,0,1,21,13,1,5,21,122,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712882082375302,0.0,0.06624730581587952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404776717995073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096938338486972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21025926312506665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112017136559426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.293010400382765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054949373935334715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046833865702368,0.2838911583708687,0.0,0.18528761724452755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076053918986917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863413959508989,0.0,0.0,0.3270298277666765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633889575764135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676040637742439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118631661896461,0.09239164686162787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25455782566971946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427664778692118,0.0,0.1140361907859161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027330553663596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989712983375454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357608115867462,0.09085721346166843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443977573568703,0.06963458816064197,0.0,0.0,0.06336929944313154,0.0,0.10301124661273996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969022134480413,0.0,0.06409936405430063,0.08626120151887033,0.17434515044685914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213318196800898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164669420640048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998317339651995
parenting,dada7000,2018/01/21,"How much crying is normal in a 6 year old? I've got a sensitive 6 year old daughter who usually cries at least once a day over something typically small.  I'm not sure if cry is really the right word to use, maybe brought to tear is more appropriate because it doesn't last long.

There is usually something through a typical day that will upset her and bring her to tears for about 15-20 seconds before she starts to calm herself down and within 1-2 minutes is completely composed and ready to move on again.  The thing is that we aren't able to help her prevent the initial break down.  I've tried to teach her that when she starts to get that overwhelming feeling to take some deep breathes or count to 10 in her head, but she says that she doesn't try it.  I'm guessing she is overwhelmed with emotions for and doesn't actually try to calm/cope until after the initial wave.

She's a well behaved, happy kid with several good friends that she plays with for hours daily. She is doing well in school and besides from being a bit of a nail biter doesn't seem to be anxious or unhappy.  She sometimes displays a bit of apprehension about something (going down a big slide at a water park or going camping in the woods), but she will go through with it with some reassurance she does the things and then usually thinks they are fun and wants to do them more.

Anyone else have any experience with a 6 year old that can be quick to tears about once day on average, but quickly recompose themselves?  If so, was there anything you did to help the child along or improve some coping skills (I'd really like suggestions on this).  Is this something that is within the range of typical 6 year old emotional development that should get better as she ages and hopefully develops better coping skills?",10.407691029900334,7.403281197674421,9.360299003322258,71.7182558139535,59.69767441860466,12.735548172757476,40.55980066445183,10.7630783206399,4.127703322259136,1428,55,272,25,14,448,191,344,0.07,0.7709999999999999,0.159,0.9871,0,0,4,0,0,0,26,1,1,2,4,13,18,0,4,19,0,28,3,2,2,1,42,48,23,0,6,10,1,1,1,1,3,0,2,0,2,17,16,1,1,3,1,0,7,6,4,2,1,4,3,22,14,52,38,9,54,0,2,0,0,32,19,0,12,28,175,39,2,0.0886778478011846,0.0,0.08653678752062392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060303977397779075,0.0,0.0,0.10018072686949336,0.0,0.062005613045248875,0.09086093453553502,0.07297431289806176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054057192941576536,0.0,0.0754583170466987,0.0,0.0,0.15685670010256786,0.1936264848753516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297703625288437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29222535545598416,0.17156962708936302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776025822002875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407896294499378,0.19950128612865647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674395109445222,0.0,0.0,0.044838184319477885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851228523628272,0.0,0.09266103086585104,0.0,0.1511929934616532,0.07437877144364168,0.07092377576217226,0.0,0.0976886469819664,0.0,0.0,0.09439921794224053,0.0,0.0,0.09100905540372542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887778426465495,0.0,0.0,0.0880771118161163,0.08732981729201658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228428163264748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04332351714454919,0.0,0.0,0.07847710477491639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890888172291486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425051828755784,0.06518842153781218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688546275531114,0.0,0.0,0.3722099361908886,0.1888780275527905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361860005501336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757303974946831,0.0,0.07052018383969204,0.0,0.08974671625914353,0.0,0.08072898213115685,0.0,0.10018072686949336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730741585800496,0.08770465896206851,0.0,0.12553327419211247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357782209339536,0.0,0.06667470545216392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782724344240805,0.056821184216441785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806193130705887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658918843938457,0.2929983631231018,0.0,0.05230449219695082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946406990930578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284225062660692
parenting,BenjiMarie27,2018/01/21,"Does anybody know of a site to track baby budgeting? As someone who hopes to be an expecting mother in the next few months, I was wondering if there is a site where I can track what purchases I would like to think about getting and a place to organize budgeting and/or purchases.",7.309748427672957,7.3751353207547155,7.330188679245285,73.97503144654087,63.716981132075475,12.349685534591195,36.53459119496856,11.855464076750405,4.5520742138364785,224,10,41,7,3,72,42,53,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,10,3,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,8,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,3,3,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049524776060588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206359981129644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461139140884288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191512531043132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702470912339035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781491072963734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37060669874300334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640817961011764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952614043377075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22328845788394408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.377905847216822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475463631491486,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Watch4Hop-Ons,2018/01/21,"What's the rationale for saying water is juice? I'm interested in other people's experiences, if they have witnessed a similar trend, and why it's necessary. 

My two-year-old daughter loves drinking water. We never had any issue calling it what it is...water. We typically don't buy juice but she has tried it on special occasions. When she tries it, we call it juice. She doesn't seem to have issue with going back to water after tasting it.

Now, all of a sudden, it seems like people -- two teachers at preschool, my sister-in-law -- are trying to tell her it is juice. They ask her if she would like juice and then give her water. 

I just don't get it and I feel like I'm missing something. Can anyone share with me why this is necessary? I worry that it is confusing and could maybe even lead to her wanting actual juice rather than just being happy with water.",3.4735841081994927,5.302374739644974,4.7580938292476755,82.4499556213018,73.79289940828403,7.1954353338968735,23.90574809805579,7.957251820313856,1.3658872358410816,677,20,127,10,14,224,104,169,0.051,0.804,0.145,0.9494,0,0,2,0,0,0,29,3,0,2,1,7,10,0,1,3,0,16,8,0,2,2,27,28,9,0,6,6,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,16,10,7,0,4,1,1,2,4,2,0,1,1,3,19,8,14,24,1,12,0,1,0,1,22,3,0,5,10,86,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.14592942800022374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169229965578548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456181589061074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979967469361687,0.0,0.0,0.11498699745896587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053940341924681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193954886053682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649222877541015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876973217837016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627877378364612,0.0,0.0,0.07561189614013111,0.10683137616057232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812845622991314,0.14345235432608938,0.0849870045085058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918806640120006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121617297377126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917301035777007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349656508859262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023298774949026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153344347642172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691703101236334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073443566358977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892017701424705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27227112359890543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151231658378001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307045148822145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045834470791124,0.0,0.2921576207023089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820254191113944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26987310600705355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186508659768488,0.0,0.10622889593646513,0.0,0.0,0.09629883034958044
parenting,Nomorekidzplz,2018/01/21,"How much money do you make, and how much of it is used to cover daycare? I am a SAHM to a 20mo, my husband works a full-time 8-5, M-F job. It's enough money for us to get by, but we aren't able to save much at the end of the month, even after cutting many expenses. 


I am considering getting a job and putting LO in daycare. My current idea is to get CNA training (takes a month) and get a job as a CNA, which currently averages $12/hour in my state. I'm nervous that this won't be enough to cover daycare, and I really need it to. Basically, I would need to see if my work alone could cover daycare, that's all I would need it for anyway. 


We do need the extra income, but I'm also doing this to try to stay in the workforce in case the worst happens (husband dies or gets injured or leaves). 


I'm near Portland, OR if anyone else has experience with the area and daycare prices. It's hard to tell from some daycare websites what their total costs are.",2.948272921108739,3.610085124378109,4.6859026297086,87.03861940298509,73.37810945273631,7.13589196872779,26.794953802416487,7.1686216300943375,1.1770565742715005,734,25,162,7,14,250,118,201,0.111,0.889,0.0,-0.9645,7,1,0,0,0,0,30,3,1,1,2,5,4,1,1,13,0,15,1,0,4,2,31,32,16,1,9,7,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,11,8,0,0,1,0,5,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,14,1,26,27,10,16,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,6,6,106,25,5,0.12624482401954548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075156423740328,0.0,0.10095794015743187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827331629283079,0.1293527411311039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079621934478228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102219584505145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546135108633344,0.0,0.11181544263232454,0.2608893011617023,0.0,0.08338351562161771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349166237357526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297885499362776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163788095055008,0.0,0.11309056531097285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432572157600805,0.0,0.0,0.14251503974527324,0.0,0.0,0.3758355238304645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367504032312205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426940034017097,0.12799243664716914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153482817304924,0.0,0.27841341470997377,0.3744357494725449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691091719401051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087566695039182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006007797711119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456018499650965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492039630049552,0.0,0.11034354065894501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571194858137975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185697918031638,0.10903499415105056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838154709096528,0.0,0.0,0.17936140168506445,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SAHMyra,2018/01/21,"Torn between the clear benefits of something my husband does and my simultaneous strong displeasure with it. My husband will randomly pick one of our kids up from school early on the morning and take them out for a day of quality time. Out of a school year he does this maybe 3 times.

On one hand I really don’t like for my children to miss school, their education is priority 1. On the other, they clearly enjoy these random days more than their birthdays. They come home soooo extremely happy and exhausted.

This is also a situation where the difference between myself and my husband is brought to the fore. He’s very free-spirited and carefree, whereas I’m more task and detail oriented. 

I want to discuss this with my husband but my problem is that I’m not even entirely sure where I stand on the issue. 

I find myself wondering whether their having happy experiences as children is more important than their success. I’m angry when I find out they’ve missed a day of school, but I can’t deny how I love to see how overflowing with joy they are at the end of their day with their father. ",7.050368589743592,7.227187658653849,7.281538461538464,73.73012820512822,64.24038461538461,10.587179487179489,35.121794871794876,10.317481424215053,3.629623717948718,875,37,157,19,12,284,123,208,0.093,0.718,0.189,0.9688,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,1,0,10,2,7,14,0,0,11,0,10,3,1,3,3,31,22,14,0,2,4,5,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,3,7,14,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,4,0,2,1,2,27,10,31,20,3,25,0,2,1,1,23,12,0,3,11,108,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089505223440111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735809711283915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35145232164118395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234107582754535,0.0,0.0,0.23844786640559856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066758555019688,0.0,0.0,0.08998477551828797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326818177699176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490405117049431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900585453534169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13665913038293706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219843749864908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655964231732647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296129117488215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687069287244746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463855684886596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036261459608955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727838687502007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5515257972645693,0.10856508648240903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531386861199116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488367242062543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284039318792345,0.0,0.10243500156513684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888446776884593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241169409626904,0.08035747145373337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477457138214459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773364512147942
parenting,forester1983,2018/01/21,"One of the many hardships of being a dad....(funny) My 4 year old son just said to me ""Dad, I'm Batman, younger brother is Superman, mommy is wonder woman and doggo is Batman like me!"". I said ""that's great, but who am I?"" He promptly replied ""Uhh, you're Robin"".

It's tough when you turn into the sidekick......",0.4711520737327177,2.67104712903226,2.5191244239631345,92.77725806451612,85.7741935483871,4.188018433179724,20.147465437788018,5.288315135182226,-0.149247004608295,230,7,48,1,7,77,50,62,0.031,0.889,0.08,0.4295,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,10,3,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,6,2,4,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,4,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412889629473104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123448001817774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138433859802222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248292144057288,0.0,0.20976461985190106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5889213943064487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33671038494494016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357026183850799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993453050241576
parenting,SwtVT2013,2018/01/21,"Parents of kids in sports, when did you start signing them up? My son will be 2 in March. His dad really loves to play hockey, ice mainly, but roller as well. He keeps asking when we can get LO a set of roller blades or skates. His one friend is a coach and they say to start them young. I feel like 3-4 is a good range, but wanted some parents aspects on it! Thank you! ",1.1698901098901118,2.801850128205132,2.0685347985347997,100.07884615384614,79.76923076923076,4.96996336996337,16.27106227106227,5.288315135182226,-0.9914014652014655,282,4,69,1,7,88,64,78,0.0,0.745,0.255,0.9691,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,2,3,0,3,7,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,15,7,0,1,3,4,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,10,7,9,12,2,11,0,0,0,1,18,4,0,2,7,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746861900972915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843701243550773,0.1814675135643813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625043619473576,0.0,0.1327117294581706,0.0,0.0,0.21305472863884312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257791417578565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409831474436453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22925737702802754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212632868830124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.564104541501066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272774834273945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200197368023765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595845581882405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23386178448059114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498239238874451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283889171785789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Poctah,2018/01/21,"Parenting food win! Worth a shot if your kid is picky. My daughter used to eat everything but once she turned 2 she has gotten super picky(she’s 2 and half now). Last night I had to throw a random dinner together because all I had was kielbasa sausage thawed, veggies and beans so I figured soup of some sort. So I told my daughter pick what veggies you want in the soup. She picked corn, zucchini , celery, spinach and white beans. I cut it all up and let her throw it in the crock pot with the sausage and some chicken stock. Then I let her season it too(I pulled a few spices out and let her smell them and then put them in). She loved it and when dinner time came she ate a whole bowl of it and is now eating a bowl for lunch(normally she won’t eat half the stuff in the soup).She said she made it so it’s delish lol. If I’d known this earlier I’d let her help cook every day!  Maybe worth trying if yours is super picky. ",1.0876190476190466,3.404483793650794,1.7803174603174623,98.32857142857144,84.07936507936509,4.8698412698412685,19.05291005291005,6.18269132825596,-0.25490899470899464,723,19,162,6,21,222,114,189,0.014,0.823,0.163,0.9838,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,3,2,3,6,5,1,0,10,1,12,9,0,4,2,29,22,19,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,12,8,0,2,1,2,5,1,1,0,2,9,4,24,4,12,8,6,21,0,0,1,1,24,6,0,7,10,97,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913330826455099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167234762938545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429869630065092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488534213175022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231952099041088,0.0,0.13141156469378132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680772839281567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800703305219803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918741626868655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5980724044864866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196770929371351,0.1383552749350139,0.0,0.0,0.14689591850601846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721595364636374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571769951557013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235809968063805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698976033536687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390870709339218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738495179904536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852610567661663,0.0,0.0,0.13971783560507414,0.0,0.0992726162446243,0.15904350443976456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12628564990930058,0.0,0.0,0.08624333179213083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324749139084335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Henryfitzroy,2018/01/21,"Dads of Reddit, what's your best don't tell mom story? My wife or I will write notes and put them in our 9 year old son's lunch box most days. One day my wife's note was found by a boy named Max in my son's class and read aloud to his table. Needless to say my son came home quite embarrassed. Since I'm currently unemployed I went to have lunch with my son at school the next day. Towards the end of lunch, he points the boy out to me. We have always preached turning the other cheek, telling the teacher, etc, but something about this kid's face made all those teachings fly out of window. I told my son ""now listen, I'm going to tell you something you can say to him but you cannot tell your mother"". My son replies that he'll keep our secret so I give him a pretty mild burn and tell him to use it discretely. Fast forward to that evening and my wife is signing the daily conduct sheet upon which is written ""Your son came into the classroom after lunch and yelled to the entire class that Max's mother doesn't send him notes because she doesn't love him"". He didn't rat me out to the teacher but I fell on the sword for him at home",4.175728291316529,4.396245340336133,4.331613445378153,92.26730812324932,70.38655462184875,7.018935574229692,25.110364145658263,6.079149491110277,0.5129066666666668,893,22,203,4,15,277,141,238,0.029,0.939,0.032,0.2137,3,0,2,0,0,0,20,3,6,1,2,4,3,0,1,12,0,12,7,2,2,1,27,29,10,0,0,4,14,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,3,9,13,4,1,2,1,0,8,5,1,0,1,9,4,33,2,29,18,4,31,1,0,0,1,53,13,0,2,12,112,42,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607403763702763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771096575028745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378298211628553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29160759738440706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24664324373891985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129099373527716,0.0,0.14217452164345834,0.08419970715537811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977585338495935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229096868657298,0.0724501396713929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557467903226227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331057853152207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150561819901202,0.12062518761151507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930369038000538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557702110815256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133769402503511,0.0,0.08638412624092484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051033394755672,0.0,0.0,0.1296935589511556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815317251729968,0.0,0.1355912667649571,0.12751505740360422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027553149862264,0.0,0.12901713192826525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054532360451932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628152545432476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5571181390415016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181313752188384,0.0,0.0,0.13866224161276502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010227271859792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817575569402025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209330060951382
parenting,Mapumbu,2018/01/21,"I tricked my kids into speaking fluent French Since very young, i have let my kids watch any cartoons/ series they like, as long as it was in French. Aged 14 and 12, they now speak fluent French with the accent.",7.889756097560976,6.562140048780493,6.507439024390244,84.92018292682928,63.14634146341464,9.175609756097561,27.81707317073171,7.1686216300943375,1.261868292682927,166,3,34,1,2,49,33,41,0.039,0.9,0.061,0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,6,1,5,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,5,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445689857262708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5181284790963594,0.0,0.24754487190992144,0.0,0.0,0.4484078424323485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191421362854925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180752397011367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dingusguide,2018/01/21,"""I love you"" manipulation, what to do? So my almost five year old daughter has developed a habit I really do not like of using saying ""I love you"" or using affection as a way to manipulate situations.

Usually when some undesired limitation has been placed on her, like if I say 'ok we played together now I'm going to read and you need to play alone,' or she is told it's time for quiet in the room and to stop talking, yelling, making animal noises, whatever.

She will be quiet or leave me be for maybe 1-3 minutes and then comes the ""I love you, mom."" Or ""can I have a hug?""

I never know how to handle this, because invariably when she gets a favorable response of me saying it back or giving a hug, she seems to take it like it means the quiet time or time alone is concluded. 

A lot of times I'll say, ""I love you too, it's still quiet time"" but then the cycle will repeat and I feel bad to have the kid saying I love you and to ignore her or respond coldly with, 'ok I told you to be quiet in here, now go upstairs,' that feels rotten in response to the kid saying I love you..

And I think she is well aware of this. And that's why she is choosing to say it, because it's hard to shut someone down like that and it often gets her her way. 

So what would you all do?",4.143522727272728,4.032297670454547,5.773787878787882,83.05568181818184,70.40151515151516,8.872727272727273,25.96969696969697,8.660442795831766,1.5607696969696971,971,25,214,15,16,334,134,264,0.104,0.752,0.14400000000000002,0.9249,0,2,0,0,1,0,37,1,9,0,2,13,21,0,0,12,2,19,8,0,8,2,47,45,25,0,3,10,2,3,4,0,3,0,13,1,2,15,11,0,3,8,3,0,3,2,3,1,1,3,18,36,18,26,36,3,32,0,0,0,8,42,8,0,13,23,146,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291000300642156,0.1921929586250528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134534511578934,0.0774709558795159,0.11312080999864085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992539787912457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382898839326542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695186058016972,0.08900708735106916,0.10546283146805843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831164447877327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050991785915179694,0.0,0.0,0.09824510186117788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131875092656186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788818337695366,0.5024483369784379,0.0,0.06193419355018087,0.0,0.09321422939657588,0.1010692263546702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086677679817022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879833037356042,0.07156091761526348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736144068043193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969397715193064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280933804677066,0.0,0.059439953176191926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5165002026718685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446727763788997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429336125867762,0.0,0.0,0.07861577640375311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409760538651428,0.0775717703114482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976219330627356,0.07457644892054505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594523876831036,0.0,0.0,0.2705161513275907,0.0,0.0,0.17731861458561726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027156724111333,0.10218872013505667,0.0,0.0,0.14729560496227173,0.0,0.0,0.08342416509360867,0.0,0.08372333529455914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591125439692419,0.0,0.0,0.05975000162944035
parenting,keccsy,2018/01/21,"Baby naps... why are they so hard?! FTM here. Baby girl is 7.5 months. She has always been a cat napper. Typically 30 to 40 minutes, 3 times a day. Recently moved her to 2 naps a day and earlier bed time which seems to help with night sleep. But man it is starting to take forever to get her down for these cat naps. We wait for sleep cues..  follow routine... But lately it's getting harder. Wondering if she should just be on one nap a day? Seems unheard of for baby her age but wondering if anyone else have similar situation? TIA!",0.6665714285714266,3.1576449428571465,2.731190476190477,88.83964285714286,90.04761904761904,6.047619047619048,19.88095238095238,7.447530270364453,0.8742380952380953,409,13,83,8,14,137,78,105,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.8599,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,8,2,2,0,0,15,18,7,0,3,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,3,0,1,4,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,0,12,15,0,15,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,6,11,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969039513625998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578957687669826,0.18432780434741775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480599535515367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502825461545757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797962463605047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115418516761024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058252026133436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293392917098554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359368055069238,0.19120418674273304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882304254561756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219042310310886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776285779862129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275466205472139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20221403471908395,0.36005787964360064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273334515138894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526167350503815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098011292624974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233088305649793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901856240413583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,d____,2018/01/21,"Do you have 3 (same gender) small kids sharing a room? How is it going or how did it go? Hi! We're about to have our 3rd boy (others are 4 and 2 who currently share a room) and we're thinking in about putting our third with them once he's 9–18 months.

Do you have 3 small kids of the same gender share a room? Let me know your story, what's helped make things better, and what hasn't worked.

Thank you!",0.8681395348837206,2.5733322674418635,1.7745930232558145,101.48654069767444,80.97674418604652,4.765116279069769,15.401162790697676,5.148860815047168,-1.1771348837209308,309,4,77,1,8,96,61,86,0.026,0.838,0.136,0.8448,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,4,1,2,4,5,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,3,0,12,16,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,8,5,6,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,1,2,44,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895753521600869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721593386164336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194619434167527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799408289811718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348079421061275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185546148204685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261342590349924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34869037349464505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32914636287766746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014432731726714,0.0,0.0,0.21752252528312013,0.20979676888357465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238364811429372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aaccvv,2018/01/21,LO covered arms and legs in rose art and crayola markers. Best way to clean it off? Hi everyone! My 3 year old painted his arms and legs with rose art and crayola markers (always be weary when they are quiet for too long) How do you guys clean it off? I tried rubbing alcohol and wipes and it’s still stained :(,2.120860215053764,4.286297000000005,2.7141935483870974,94.0079569892473,79.0,5.423655913978496,26.46236559139785,6.42735559955562,0.8790236559139788,242,10,51,2,6,75,47,62,0.071,0.7829999999999999,0.146,0.7393,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,4,1,0,8,3,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,3,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,6,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590965454239465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795903847359744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35262573457429475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210755689547825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33270647291639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973616239807567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525899413750843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683410409365083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22813130195108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667121005785048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21638185943482804
parenting,Mom2ThreeKids,2018/01/21,"Super tall children Does anyone have any super tall children?  My daughter who just turned 7 came back from her doctor's appointment yesterday: 92 pounds and 4'11""!  She is well over the 100th percentile in height for her age, and her teacher has jokingly said it's like having another adult in the room (first grade).  She is about the same height as her brother, who is in fourth grade.

The problem is, I'm starting to have problems buying her age appropriate clothing.  Everything I find is too tweeney outside of shorts/jeans/tshirts.  Anyone know of any good girls' big and tall stores?  

Oh, and the doctor said I could take her out of her booster seat.  Lol.",4.939173553719009,7.119935024793392,4.147181818181821,86.88077272727274,70.65289256198348,6.823471074380167,28.62892561983471,7.554174236665415,1.6840704132231408,522,20,95,6,10,154,83,121,0.042,0.813,0.145,0.9239,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,5,1,10,2,0,0,0,13,18,5,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,4,3,6,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,3,2,12,6,13,14,1,19,0,0,0,0,19,12,0,0,7,53,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26496113868634524,0.20428003395455893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724377154933583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980035796209942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22281593737963765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554355994491045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988018783987058,0.1704835189324191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508674904230132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780569624387804,0.16570915028923758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634011952959882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706497769158836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517654497976707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37282241369722346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37062648390775504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789073585298992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464762909555005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190227978444384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751616699509969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cap-n-IvytheInfected,2018/01/21,"My 18 year old just told me that her boyfriend is marrying another girl. I'm so fired up right now! My 18 year old daughter just told me that her 24 year old boyfriend has a girlfriend in another state and they are getting married May 18. For the record, I've never been his biggest fan. He's the blowhard type, and had always rubbed me the wrong way. My daughter knows this. But, if she wanted to be with him, I supported her the best way I could. Of course, what 18 year old is forthcoming to her mother? She tells me tonight that things have been ""on the rocks"" since the beginning of December. That was around the time he took a trip out of state to a friend's funeral. He gets back, she suspects something ( she's the jealous type, fyi) and he shows her pictures of him and a long-time female friend taken where he was staying.  He says that he's showing her the picture because he's sure she'll search his phone and be pissed. Anyways, two days after Christmas he tells her he needs a "" break,"" and he's going back out of town for job interview ( he's currently ""medically retired"" from the Army?). He's gone for two weeks. Meanwhile, he's still texting her and sending her dick picks and tellings her that he can't wait to see her so they can talk it out. He gets back into town today, she sees him, they do the dirty, and she comes home. She also tells me that she made reservations are a nice hotel for tomorrow night, they're going out together. She opens her laptop tonight, and his Gmail automatically logs in, and she's face to face with group emails from a wedding planner. He and this girl, the one in the picture he showed her,  are getting married. May 18. He's been playing her (my daughter) the entire time. I come to find out tonight that her had been texting his ex the past few months, telling her that he still wants her, too. I'm absolutely fucking livid. Oh, and I've been told that he exaggerates his military disability, and due to an error on his military ID (and paperwork?) He's been getting more $$$ than he should. Protective momma bear is coming out, and wants to take him down. My daughter, of course, thinks I'm insane and wants nothing to do with it. Help!",3.7982380651058136,5.275866118329468,4.096211769668848,88.95713914082826,72.27146171693734,7.2660057653097105,27.445756872671023,7.793537801064563,1.4460419180201076,1711,62,358,22,33,533,206,431,0.087,0.863,0.049,-0.9559,3,0,1,0,0,0,72,0,0,3,2,15,11,3,0,23,0,29,6,4,2,2,54,63,22,1,8,4,7,2,0,3,4,1,1,1,2,16,32,0,2,4,6,0,9,2,4,0,3,17,5,54,7,41,39,3,67,0,0,2,2,93,21,3,3,31,202,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137310485881998,0.07426305821340845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871725831985043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945132425444372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588296923377108,0.0,0.054405904610529014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366225336742537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306426327581535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125877490615759,0.0,0.0,0.057558795648010974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157278264296522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790848737717834,0.08251008523341538,0.2331469195898349,0.0,0.10144553860384176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059822320019501524,0.0,0.08952491675018273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856674442905496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04904940550646898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898334419822856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445040397397169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899098746996905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123841077516498,0.0,0.0,0.06617766261950497,0.0688350173175869,0.0,0.0,0.08375497589486272,0.0,0.08563767662293488,0.0,0.3746109848023119,0.0,0.060478035329399674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519911892520862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621891848261796,0.0,0.07097509482680435,0.0,0.0,0.14224121435690895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382843136427188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870892574538369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512850775879382,0.1425501550272051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127971761358556,0.0841169651795171,0.0,0.06710481006081917,0.07173568092753073,0.3900416889282482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059293661198589365,0.05718772581621344,0.0,0.0,0.10408465727862568,0.0,0.08459846008833502,0.25584628409924304,0.09915991181786148,0.0,0.0,0.17436834820079086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056759023688013,0.1416848170239199,0.07159087835875802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097580744129503,0.0,0.2298960121780841
parenting,Imsleepy1234,2018/01/21,Am I being unreasonable with my 19 yr old . So her bday is this Friday it's a public holiday in Australia.  My son who is 18 has organized a bbq on that day . We have spent the last 18 yrs doing whatever she wanted for her bday she recently went to a concert ticket 300 hotel room 400 I got her a new Mac book for Xmas.  She has asked for a puppy for her bday we have 2 dogs and I don't have time to train another and she's at uni most days . She wants my son to cancel his bbq and for me to buy her a puppy or a horse before Friday.  I feel she's being a brat my mother said I should get her what she wants as it's her bday ,0.4846190476190486,1.7386347000000058,3.2042857142857137,92.86904761904765,80.57142857142857,6.3809523809523805,17.38095238095238,7.1686216300943375,-0.11004761904761964,478,8,118,6,12,169,86,140,0.016,0.962,0.022,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,13,0,0,0,0,13,23,6,0,4,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,6,6,0,0,1,5,2,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,27,0,14,16,1,12,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,2,7,75,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275962750266666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460338265921173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22394320352155164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33945321002951345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330695810559823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749848198221845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21048571147161452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21452338491794304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25417680663448144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761587083951094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598543313090587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25034043181038385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345991273043685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4656836780723943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24396658312965155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,griffen_star,2018/01/21,"At my wits end. My ex is a hoarder and my kids don't know any other way to live. I have three girls, all under 13.  My ex-wife and I divorced a little over a year ago.  She is a major hoarder.  She teaches my kids this lazy behavior and doesn't enforce any discipline.  Their home is unhealthy, with bugs everywhere and food everywhere.  I've stepped in a few times and seen meat left out with bugs all over it, and swarms of fruit flies all over the kitchen.  I've called CPS numerous times, and they did nothing!  Nothing ever comes of it.  The only result is she gets raging mad at me and tells the kids horrible lies about me. She also is a textbook narcissist, bipolar and has borderline personality disorder.   

But I digress. My issue is how all of this has affected my kids, and is affecting their future.  They come to my place and make huge messes, never cleaning up after themselves.  I spend so much time cleaning up when they go back to their mother's place.  I have tried so many things to teach them to be clean.  Lecturing does nothing, of course.  I've tried rewarding with priviledges, money and fun, but it doesn't stick.  I'm tired and frustrated now, but I'm mostly worried about their future.  They're not going to know how to take care of themselves, their own place or any children.  I hate to say that selfishly I also worry about having to clean their place when I'm old and elderly because I'm worried about my grandkids!  

Are any of you familiar with something like this that you could give me any suggestions?",4.217834960070984,5.923935666666669,4.606782017154688,84.80146850044369,71.58503401360545,7.698077491866312,27.74859509021,8.321376580360154,1.895687548062704,1202,44,230,19,23,379,161,294,0.126,0.802,0.07200000000000001,-0.9378,0,0,1,0,1,0,36,0,2,10,1,15,10,4,0,9,0,19,5,0,6,6,43,36,26,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,6,7,10,21,3,1,2,0,2,5,5,6,0,1,2,3,35,4,34,32,9,39,0,0,1,0,32,17,0,2,17,147,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502731279130916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714573723174778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645021426038108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243103378966116,0.0,0.06534879953400193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946431556604397,0.0,0.10929867268323423,0.0,0.0,0.18468852207621253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559136052817083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286175554795582,0.0,0.09381241073705658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494836140851454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969695382326082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962800353501025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600815359771681,0.10283706965111554,0.1218497185792285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583889878151834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753145049027828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189010349205393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782984919191646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164743159075046,0.0,0.0,0.05237304571191581,0.1074436714809737,0.0946605410784263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155757103683176,0.10868509613911434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880514801455878,0.0,0.08268010209200709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085870588267078,0.0,0.11248952813268596,0.0,0.0,0.08153127218045297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360387127970994,0.4480093589119965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525062264741777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252864917648586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060189076578815,0.0,0.09369849218440483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121965174628808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18752948191260865,0.12321190203265275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556502893242046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509124856014283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266037820303347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903399787688047
parenting,2inHard,2018/01/21,"Question about having our niece move in Okay so I got married in October to the love of my life. I have a son that is 7 and she is a wonderful parent to him but my question is she has a niece who is 10 and she is a wonderful kid but her parents have their own issues her dad has am alcohol problem and her mom is constantly moving because she can't support herself very well and she is always going out and has sketchy friends and my wife and I are buying our fist house and have plenty of room and would love for her to live with us. My son and her are best friends and I know she would have a better life and be a great ""bigger sister"" for him. She wants to live with us and her parents are okay with it. My question is do we have to get guardianship of her for her to live with us and go to school or can she just move in and us sign her up? I don't think her parents would be okay with signing away their rights but they agree her having a stable place to live would be best. Thanks in advance for any advice. ",3.0869922480620176,3.794697358139537,3.88558139534884,92.73410852713181,73.09302325581395,6.663565891472868,24.56589147286821,6.42735559955562,0.5306031007751946,792,22,182,5,15,253,103,215,0.026,0.7190000000000001,0.256,0.996,4,0,1,0,0,0,9,7,0,3,4,4,15,0,0,8,3,33,5,0,0,0,42,46,20,0,6,5,10,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,3,22,1,0,7,0,1,6,2,1,1,0,1,0,42,14,28,38,3,18,0,0,0,2,51,11,0,6,1,139,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784136167926287,0.0,0.09606714409592478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479729370984578,0.0,0.0,0.0611296005300353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445643503941827,0.0,0.0,0.05479729120512901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867208658488574,0.07950211438360825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971412505427968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389005769973654,0.0,0.046964827578183536,0.0,0.10217532012619213,0.0,0.07189479479645505,0.09910617925752194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372322760787693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382382886522513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04940225838017373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698666880063586,0.0,0.0,0.3175049134551068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226196775683782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528035163072606,0.0,0.2866227128600336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992574376934512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391794293845544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601444472554773,0.0,0.0,0.30209863070053183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676722409691766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909754406017988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200830624863527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276041936985759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575991243476845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325157344077236,0.0,0.0,0.07417026329447947,0.05302059419456645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082364806677321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19496794497879846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554266152038332,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HargorTheHairy,2018/01/21,"Awesome trick to make bedtime easier The other day I felt like I'd been hit by a truck with tiredness. I'm pregnant with my second baby and after work I felt like I was a couple of breaths away from falling asleep sitting up, and I still had to get through the bedtime routine. So instead I told my 2.5 year old daughtet that i was very tired and i needed her to help put me to bed. 

And she did!

She took me to the loo and to way my hands (the trick being that she immediately went right after me of course); she brushed my teeth then I brushed hers; she chose my nightie and put it over my head, i did the same for her; she tucked me in and stroked my forehead and sang me a lullaby. Then we snuggled together and fell asleep.

I wouldn't do it this way every night but it was awesome for this one evening. No struggles the entire way through!",3.1654068474877697,4.373688306358382,3.78728323699422,91.61208537127615,73.45086705202313,6.247932414406402,27.758559359715427,6.297961479604792,0.9498727434415296,659,25,144,4,13,208,103,173,0.067,0.84,0.093,0.7497,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,1,4,5,2,1,9,0,10,9,7,1,0,19,20,13,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,1,0,8,12,0,0,2,1,0,6,2,3,0,2,12,7,32,2,22,5,1,24,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,11,101,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700543130211598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966810632219592,0.0,0.11463641679102153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740462755221327,0.0,0.1497651397448568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413428117931766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092868959979939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242655504959346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914454313983598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368293628039544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186519600094811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180209955569724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680978496702148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652258314658135,0.0,0.12045049217361035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357383083560216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518006693532376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195431646325732,0.0,0.0,0.1858267381814582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043017036610372,0.0,0.16985125631532352,0.19749087610567687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466653998064771,0.0,0.4232777863345108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477943987803514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940679425423224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446754042512408
parenting,throwawayhelp1075,2018/01/21,"Breaking up? Hi i will probably post this in more than one sub but i was wondering how xommon it is for couples with new babies to break up? I have a 7 month old and I am finding that my partner is kind of a bum. We've had multiple talks. He's not good with money, he doesn't help around the house, its not getting better. I missed a million red flags and we got pregnant on accident at the beginning. Honestly if i hadn't gotten pregnant I probably would have ended it. All the problems he had got ten times worse with the introduction of a baby. Im just lost and confused and worried about the future of my baby 






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parenting,anon-ny-moose,2018/01/21,"Can't decide what to do about disrespectful School Owner/administrator My family has been looking for a good preschool for my young son. After research, we decided to move forward with a Montessori Program. 

When I contacted the school to express interest, the school administrator eagerly agreed to a time for a school tour. Since it was our first visit - my husband and I decided that I would tour the facility alone for the first visit. The tour went well but after meeting me the school became very stand offish.

When I talked of enrollment they repeatedly indicated that we would need to wait a month or so to allow for class acclimation before introducing my son (weird). I waited a month before following up - they responded requesting an additional two months. After the two months, they indicated that they were too busy with Halloween, etc. My phone call was returned by email, and my application fees were never cashed etc. I was given information on the tuition more than 3-4 times. 

My husband was quite perplexed but I was not. The Montessori School is quite exclusive. Since most of the relevant information on us and household was provided prior to the visit, I strongly suspect that the behavior is driven by the fact that my initial visit revealed me to be black. (My husband is white and my son is white in appearance but they were not present at the visit).

Finally after 6 months of inquiring about enrollment, we were finally allowed a meeting to discuss. My husband and 2 sons attended. I chose not to engage the owner directly - but my husband did and did so respectfully.  The owner appeared shocked. After the meeting, she followed with several communications welcome our enrollment. 

I am burning with fury but my husband feels differently. He doesn't feel that we should withhold a good educational structure from our son, due to the behavior of one individual that will not directly be involved with his studies. 

Its been a month and while  I would love to shit in that ladies face, they likely have the best educational opportunity. I just wanted to look for any thoughts. ",6.7587927018633565,8.934588660326092,7.075388198757768,67.74445652173914,65.92934782608695,10.148447204968944,35.6972049689441,10.371327730470783,4.294741149068321,1689,83,261,45,28,547,191,368,0.06,0.826,0.114,0.9648,4,1,0,0,0,0,42,8,0,6,8,9,16,1,0,29,0,31,3,2,2,2,55,48,18,0,6,11,11,2,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,17,0,3,11,0,3,14,7,3,1,5,18,7,43,13,45,23,5,48,0,0,5,1,52,7,1,4,29,195,54,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607579529537427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630828766220377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787110269575044,0.0,0.0973503659181354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094722679324195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969189059900886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691333811345336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744988685678352,0.0,0.09380879243583624,0.0,0.0,0.20323742123154426,0.0,0.15781046133279455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15561251727488176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04531993087014827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557972272846118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372336481590736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4442612754051481,0.0985937258744742,0.0,0.0687835220699091,0.07154551468627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285946213818729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19733241442321325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5632942906897296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479720750968333,0.09522117802043877,0.1534711060234527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456039692197393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364445917072061,0.10818316993494367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18123440224417545,0.0,0.11158398089533818,0.0,0.0,0.07654022810325402,0.054714762946301086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340620869318653,0.08599339674956011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19769120254153086,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unchainedmelodie,2018/01/21,"Doubts in our style of parenting ... So there it is . 
My boy is 20 month and since his birth we have practiced our version of attachment parenting ,so in a nutshell, breastfed until really recently , baby wearing, no cry it out, no time out ,etc 
Well I just came back from the library ( it was our first time since he can walk ) and it was .... Terrible.
The other kids ( and I mean all 10 of them ) were so well behaved , didn't scream, run, or tried to throw books. My boy well he did all of that . He basically just tried to run away from his father and picking random books to throw them in the entrance puddle (caused by melted snow).
We usually try to calm him down when he is upset by staying by is side and reassuring him, saying "" it's ok to be mad, you are mad/ sad because blah blah""and accompanying him  but now i must admit i am scared I fucked him up . He used to be a really gentle sweet and calm boy. Now he is almost always ""that"" kid who create a ruckus ... Any advice ? Thanks !!
( Btw, English is not my first language ( quite obviously ) so please excuse any mistakes )",1.865541958041956,4.2499539807692335,3.2443881118881137,88.64152097902101,81.30769230769229,6.08951048951049,21.473776223776227,7.348242739294969,0.7713288461538461,820,25,166,12,22,267,131,208,0.12,0.713,0.168,0.8924,2,0,0,0,0,0,47,5,1,2,3,14,19,3,3,6,1,18,2,1,3,4,29,24,14,0,2,5,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,5,9,11,0,0,2,2,0,6,4,10,3,2,6,3,22,9,24,15,4,29,0,1,0,1,33,9,1,4,13,109,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146557301756038,0.0,0.0,0.1449641981886848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045853812537224,0.0,0.0,0.19689435140797729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601426195436833,0.11131762366309003,0.0,0.08824920347260204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557597725928375,0.0,0.14871657097368424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590208040174551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145454078450966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24627910213799134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338356443557094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769474637776956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555240286080436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214953703191555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589117448162295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397854310933332,0.0,0.0,0.18548412170353887,0.0,0.14294089352914566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512529071423115,0.1449379808723684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395071015974901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430338117429512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328288548257344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883072093575424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29486382186871885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503303458049644,0.1594414530078375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904913403625527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Xstar25,2018/01/21,"Rear facing car seats and when to go forward facing Hi everyone,

We have a son who will turn two in just over a month, and we still have him rear-facing in his convertible car seat.  The manual says it is safer to be rear-facing and to keep him that way as long as possible...but what does that mean?  He’s feet are already jammed up against the seat, and he’s knees are just going up higher as he continues to grow.  I want to swap him forward facing for the convenience, but don’t him to be any less safe.

What did y’all do?  I feel like it’s time to swap, myself.

He’s 29 lbs. and 34” tall.",1.26822510822511,2.8023092857142835,2.831240981240981,95.16577922077923,79.15873015873015,6.486580086580088,18.597402597402606,7.348242739294969,0.059247619047618987,454,9,109,6,11,149,79,126,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.843,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,11,5,5,0,0,15,18,10,0,1,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,2,2,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,1,2,11,2,17,14,1,20,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,0,9,63,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29729451687593017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320426866903175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357576553376012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574275032271843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362189878871858,0.1924625975285475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062175220750199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394590592936434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161740928434526,0.0,0.0,0.23841446630817156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29346043171370745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503606688236654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424123688452207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151467469373148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709190505831386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29303468719739656,0.26316900796827336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589017284521661,0.2138407177970974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentingthrowaway28,2018/01/22,"1st grader has a ""girlfriend"". Am I overreacting? My seven year old son came home from school today and casually mentioned that he and his ""girlfriend"" played together at recess. When I questioned him, he told me that they eat together at lunch and play together. I told him that only big kids and grownups have boyfriends or girlfriends, and he wasn't getting it. He just kept insisting ""but she *is* my girlfriend, we're together almost every day!"" And said he wanted to kiss her one day.


It makes me very uncomfortable. I rememeber being in grade school and even then I'd always get irittiated by the 4th graders who'd say ""I had my first boyfriend in Kindergarten!"" Just...no. The odds of my son growing up to marry this girl are not that strong. I also don't like the way kids are over-romantic and over-sexualized nowadays. My seven year old has no business having a ""girlfriend"". I know they're kids and my son's definition of ""girlfriend"" is different from mine, but I find it very inappropriate. 


While my son was having his after school snack, I explained to him that there was nothing wrong with having a girl as a friend. ""Girlfriend"" means something different, and again, only big kids and grown ups get to have girlfriends and kiss them. He argued that his other friend has a girlfriend, and I told him that not all kids have the same rules and that other kids parents were making a mistake. He seemed annoyed, but promised no more girlfriends and no kissing and went on his way.


I filled his dad in when he got home and now everything is a mess. I didn't deem this important enough to warrant and parent meeting first, but my husband doesn't see it the same way. He says it was controlling of me and I'm making it into something it's not.


What now? Did I really overreact? 




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parenting,PerfectPlant,2018/01/22,"High school with a serious marijuana problem. Should we homeschool? Our local high school is in a great district. My oldest is in high school and has mentioned that the vast majority of people he knows smoke pot. My son plays lacrosse at his school and the kids have been getting together to train for the upcoming spring season. My son said that a bunch of the guys go smoke after practice. My son is also involved in student government and said that a lot of the kids there are pot heads as well. The school doesn't drug test for sports. I'm assuming it's because they are trying to ignore this issue occurring right under their noses. 

I am not very worried about my high schooler. He has a good head on his shoulders but I still worry a little. He's one of the younger kids on the team and I don't want him to be pressured nto having to smoke. I trust that he wont but still worry when he goes out with them after they train. 

I worry about my upcoming high schooler a lot. We have struggled a lot with him trying too hard to fit in and giving into peer pressure. This is something we have been working on since he started school. He tries so hard to be liked and I am afraid of him falling into the pot crowd. 

I am thinking about homeschooling him for high school. The school ignores the drug problem and I am not sure how I can send my kid there knowing this. Am I overreacting? Is there anything I can do to make the school take this seriously? Is homeschool my only option? ",3.8817570596145217,5.561937522336774,4.2261347676677135,87.29819811743616,72.40206185567008,6.710354101299865,26.39787838039743,7.255503002510835,1.2254262961302853,1173,40,231,12,23,367,149,291,0.14,0.7829999999999999,0.077,-0.9459,0,0,6,0,0,0,22,4,0,4,2,14,17,0,4,20,0,30,6,4,2,1,37,43,14,0,4,4,3,2,1,0,2,2,2,0,5,9,16,0,2,4,3,0,3,5,10,1,1,4,5,33,7,36,35,5,35,0,0,0,0,37,23,0,5,10,155,42,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765609057603451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593298378917863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04394977310151468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672196840773221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03766780201025207,0.06916218675508404,0.040974490137757516,0.060471695821320885,0.0,0.07948739792667779,0.0,0.07138754550397833,0.0,0.0,0.1291698278846948,0.0,0.14798501799750532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570477885738352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525072680519702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924545169151766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03522304146499746,0.07226031719718873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838833383200237,0.0,0.0,0.048125428977894485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04885491656429716,0.05483315590433014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04998310827184746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797453290124542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061570599686447014,0.1371618607660559,0.0,0.0,0.6566957774541647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059639534166895464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555039332251822,0.0,0.0,0.0510307566598617,0.0,0.11515380571062048,0.0,0.0,0.07537162883639642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795074101042213,0.0,0.054208108426938746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04619696321211074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146847762439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948772596202461,0.04252478604892375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482402534231246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248760733190938,0.29287275291335874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alex09464367,2018/01/22,"Study show that violent video games don't cause of violent behaviour The study was done at the University of York (UK), you can read about the study here - https://www.york.ac.uk/news-and-events/news/2018/research/no-evidence-to-link-violence-and-video-games/",12.65093023255814,11.948817000000002,8.985697674418606,68.93343023255818,53.418604651162795,15.111627906976745,42.43023255813954,13.816669648895859,5.922823255813954,213,9,35,7,2,59,35,43,0.224,0.7759999999999999,0.0,-0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,14,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5831640356744895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5809340341567804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5678339153785829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,battybunnybones,2018/01/22,"TV Show That Induces Potty Training Accidents There is a show called ""Nina Needs To Go!"" about a little girl who is just at the end of potty training. Great concept right? A show about potty training? I let my daughter (3.5 at the time) watch these short videos on YT. She loved them, I would watch the first 30 seconds then walk away.

DO NOT SHOW THIS TO YOUR CHILDREN. 

My daughter was fully potty trained for six months and suddenly started having accidents. We had no clue where or why this was happening everywhere (at home, the park, at school).

Then I watched the full three minute episode. And another. 

Show formula: 
-Fun family trip about to start.
-Tell Nina to use the bathroom. 
-She says NO. 
-When they are far away from a bathroom (like on a mountain top or on a float in a parade) Nina says she needs to go. There's no bathroom. Accident? Nope. 
-Magic Grandma always swoops in with a helicopter, grappling hook, giant butterfly or some shit, and whisks Nina to a bathroom within seconds. 
-Nina gets to pee in a bathroom, no accident. Every time. No lesson even attempted.

Most of the ""fun"" in the episode is all the things silly Grandma does, so the best part is the part when Nina really needs to pee and desperately begs for a bathroom.

So Nina NEVER listens to her parents, ALWAYS has to pee when there is no bathroom, then is saved EVERY time by Grandma. It actively teaches kids they can hold their pee as long as they want without consequences because magic.

We cut off ""Nina Needs To Go!"" cold turkey and the accidents stopped.

WTF Disney Junior?!",2.7119970341077644,5.600241771626301,3.3500088976767195,85.7515778546713,82.84083044982701,5.932614928324273,25.212160158180925,7.33818517376401,1.5667361542263962,1228,49,213,19,35,385,169,289,0.13699999999999998,0.784,0.079,-0.9479,1,0,0,0,0,0,59,2,1,5,5,14,10,2,0,23,0,16,6,5,2,2,30,31,18,0,6,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,3,7,8,0,2,2,7,0,5,10,2,0,5,3,7,17,8,39,26,7,46,0,0,3,1,25,23,1,5,19,145,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21770216365042608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371741122660789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458156937282715,0.0,0.0,0.07974545779567915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728545323212485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357983649818833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144797409361794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586594706352517,0.0,0.0,0.08640407603405588,0.0,0.2204396673548608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332359759517905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127375076875506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683470221456281,0.0,0.22304070601907625,0.0,0.0,0.1442273415612191,0.0,0.0,0.11568195322567365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122115184868666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377030040549265,0.0,0.06391108231877553,0.13111403469685273,0.0,0.115769841277531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180683809091791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441770466955456,0.0,0.0,0.3879996510833947,0.10089493057160097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525794271475773,0.2833263599891312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380538076850952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171788412671006,0.0,0.20806349860635906,0.0,0.13239483192327958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428282943307873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851873520302804,0.0,0.0,0.10936973198091553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434072557250916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690968729427824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288431385419161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298477708413793,0.0,0.0,0.07715986435929657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804292598905508,0.0,0.0,0.1261039141173738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292937622765153,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mgc213717,2018/01/22,"Traveling with kids We are traveling to NYC with our 2 and 4 year old this summer. Flying into LGA, attending a wedding in Brooklyn, and doing the usual sightseeing in Manhattan. What do most of you do regarding car seats? Rent? Bring your own? What about taxis and subways?",3.178066666666666,6.1672757400000044,4.18,79.93666666666667,81.6,8.133333333333335,26.333333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.8205333333333336,217,9,36,6,6,70,43,50,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,8,5,2,12,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,4,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6352262062035994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.666721368896505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898336609490679
parenting,minormatter,2018/01/22,"8 Year Old Faking Sick to Get Out of School My 8 year old son has never liked school. Honestly, it's been a struggle to get him in the door since his first day at preschool. But when he's there, he does well - makes friends, gets good grades.

This year (third grade) he has discovered that if you go to the office and tell them you're sick, you might get to go home. But for a while, his attempts at doing this were largely unconvincing to school administration. Last week, for instance, the school nurse told him ""you can't go home just because your 'mouth feels weird.'""

He upped his game today and had a full-on wheezing attack during [school activity that he hates]. This sounds scary, but it got a lot less scary when he forgot his dire medical condition as soon as he was removed from the activity. Still, the school had me pick him up anyway because it's a bad cold and flu season, and I get that! I will take him to the doctor just in case. When I got him home, though, he was bounding up and down our stairs like the picture of health, and he only very occasionally remembers to act sick when I'm in his field of vision - so I'm not too worried from a medical perspective. 

But long term, assuming this is indeed psychological, what the hell do I do? It's clear that even if he doesn't have a physical illness to address, he dislikes school so much that he is working himself into a frenzy to get out of it. Which is its own problem, and not a small one. 

He swears he is not being bullied. His teachers rave about his work. 

EDIT: There are absolutely no screens allowed when you're home sick from school and he knows this. I'm sorry I mentioned ""bounding around"" because I made it sound like he was playing - I was just trying to express to you all that he's not seriously ill. You have to go up and down the stairs to use the bathroom in this house and he moved happily not sickly when he did it, that's all I meant.

I should have been explicit: he's choosing home that he knows is boring over being in school. He hates school that much. That's the problem I'm trying to solve. ",4.22469048608226,5.226005662650607,4.6628417116742815,87.12060240963854,70.68674698795179,7.555463232239302,26.358537598670544,7.753152298057669,1.2556896551724148,1630,50,344,19,29,516,204,415,0.16,0.746,0.095,-0.9856,1,0,0,0,0,0,54,1,6,1,4,22,20,4,1,20,0,31,14,1,5,5,53,59,28,0,5,14,1,1,3,1,3,13,2,7,0,26,14,0,3,7,2,0,7,9,12,1,3,16,5,32,8,44,38,8,51,1,0,1,0,50,21,1,5,26,207,58,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168469509157441,0.0,0.07882981221085819,0.0,0.0,0.05785604228849054,0.1267195355863711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044687697690416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092344110994896,0.060638018375289225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576680474123218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03503618781217609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05893985860401886,0.0,0.0,0.053534935221206816,0.0,0.21721369829479334,0.0,0.15752127924610468,0.05811895921053865,0.11083850810045756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682328465308236,0.0,0.07365430422095857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34752832911559306,0.0,0.0,0.0799538258365551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616229563147421,0.05648234212841464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155791808240626,0.0,0.0,0.06132136311004415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05890969923569386,0.0,0.0655658979680678,0.04625304129092687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960908162614738,0.0,0.07350801004211979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736465784740381,0.10187539102407113,0.0,0.053442369837166166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454208887789092,0.0,0.04695414713396463,0.052699794641202426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260643910953987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849448654892442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7012734467518341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057319173978898526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756687732772168,0.0,0.0,0.055336792247474766,0.0,0.0,0.07243918931788769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209906551744016,0.0,0.06056438424485053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807917540877499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568084628839659,0.06621160890254743,0.0,0.09408962875864972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05984616083971862,0.0,0.057173272086337365,0.0,0.0,0.055581974804541925,0.0,0.06230195521330905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089100588796346,0.07036953135374242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386559834319736
parenting,Joz86,2018/01/22,"My kid wants a second mom My 12 year old is in therapy . She's doing much better.  She's found a therapist that she LOVES.  I'm so happy because she couldn't connect with the first one.  This lady is great,  my kid gets so happy when she is scheduled to see her. 

Well I'm worried that she might be getting  too close,  I don't know maybe it's the selfish,  jealous mom in me. 

Well she told me she tells her therapist everything,which is great,  (that's why she's there).  She told the therapist about the time she discovered my sexual chat history with my guy friend and lord knows what else.  I understand this has affected her deeply and that I'm not off limits in therapy  but I still feel so naked. It's awkward knowing that the therapist knows about me. 

When we're at home she asks to call her,  she told me last night she wanted her to be her second mom, and now she's asking if she can invite her to our family vacation. 

Lately my kid asks why do you hate me. I don't know if she's serious because I'm always there for her and well invested in her life. I always tell her that I love her and she catches me off-guard and hugs me and tells me that she loves me.  I know I'm not enough,  that I can't be. 

I'm not going to pull her out of therapy because of this,  I'm not that twisted but I feel a little jealous. But I'm also happy because my child has someone who she looks forward to seeing weekly. She's come a long way. 

I guess I need a life,  to find a balance.",1.821796526054591,3.3024255419354844,3.6006451612903234,90.48404466501243,77.45161290322581,6.962779156327544,22.56823821339951,7.748469712250963,0.8705062034739455,1138,33,255,17,26,382,141,310,0.064,0.7909999999999999,0.145,0.9786,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,1,0,3,16,20,3,1,11,0,17,6,0,1,0,40,56,18,0,6,9,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,5,16,12,0,1,11,1,1,5,8,6,3,4,4,5,62,14,21,47,2,29,1,0,3,4,59,10,0,4,15,163,78,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351838964388054,0.13218059875848445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276283653383608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19367381900031366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024744185635941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110467289035797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684200238778153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635174192565667,0.0,0.0,0.08207015842076305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487746882183666,0.0,0.08032217288436214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259557787909725,0.06756125320983979,0.0,0.08708849217007981,0.061365727704777766,0.0,0.08299550320570126,0.0,0.04514065390190088,0.0,0.0,0.17513887822923416,0.08749868567176068,0.07864601789228383,0.0,0.25365713683944,0.0,0.07841851675920526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967256792628327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619086775269179,0.06474426489653004,0.0895980274546523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220441999898136,0.0,0.07960753040424264,0.0,0.07029111094555172,0.06669935461229934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21506009432336065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979590931422376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842603527906745,0.0,0.2790746675281385,0.0,0.0,0.05838857822064233,0.05889471346807374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453761755253514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334612367157869,0.0,0.05382233854822232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658735940957705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729892426500726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343115035225111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208270216270185,0.0,0.2724978631633647,0.36888722958519804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04631499379248679,0.0,0.0,0.22769002405738065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268714966818619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369715854099003,0.06304609721090992,0.0637121968496976,0.0,0.2142454158185305,0.0,0.14334248566763133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066279490062739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05114890443671557
parenting,Faytella789,2018/01/22,"Five year old kid causing me stress So here's my problem; my 5 year old daughter started school in September. She's flying academically and is happy, but often complains that one girl, her ""best friend"", is often mean to her. I've talked to the teachers, and it seems the problem is that my kid is just too clingy. She wants one friend only, and when her pal is playing with others she just stands and waits for her to come back. She doesn't understand that you can have more than one friend at a time. My husband and I try talking to her, but she's so fixated on this one kid... it's killing me that she won't branch out and is being treated badly. Also, they're five, so is it ridiculous to be stressing over this issue?  Opinions most welcome.",4.555405405405402,5.401629675675673,4.772540540540543,87.20624324324328,69.81081081081078,7.0010810810810815,28.313513513513517,6.742157984588678,1.2459789189189188,584,20,119,4,10,183,92,148,0.162,0.7040000000000001,0.134,-0.6103,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,1,0,1,12,16,2,2,3,0,13,0,0,1,0,25,20,13,1,3,4,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,4,10,9,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,8,0,6,0,0,19,8,13,17,3,15,0,0,0,0,26,5,0,5,8,87,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934207186007093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475144200635665,0.1246038390641672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661147702712186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533040358561786,0.0,0.12855154943432462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34589257346803776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886196329511187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557611269890935,0.0,0.0,0.1651048895397455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255916132780146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31319116042578016,0.0,0.4044982519683789,0.1134988926038821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855928394701899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510323904689595,0.0,0.13585668266890294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562832421569772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418932146110991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398966614978793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701932382686292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013198319113361,0.0,0.0,0.15535746124753685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802185548449735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19220311670601364
parenting,markhallman3,2018/01/22,"Does/Did anyone else suffer from this? My twins were born a little over 7 months ago. What I read back then, was that is was normal for that early especially in Dads. But it has been 7 months and I still find myself pretty depressed. I find my thoughts consumed on a daily basis of what my life was like before my kids and missing what it was. And like what I could do if I didn't have them. But I love my kids more than anything and wouldn't want them not here. But is this normal? I love them so much so not only do I find myself being depressed, but also guilty that I'm depressed. I'm not the type of person who opens up to people so I'm holding all this in on top of it. And I feel like my girlfriend doesn't feel like this and would shame me if I opened up to her.  Should I see a doctor? I just don't know what to do at this point and I'm sick of having these thoughts.",1.074855275443511,2.6929257354497373,2.418898225957051,97.52201680672272,80.005291005291,4.658699035169623,16.937752878929352,4.514644488427479,-0.9444362900715846,680,11,161,1,17,219,100,189,0.138,0.76,0.102,-0.8422,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,3,1,8,12,0,1,4,0,22,5,0,0,1,36,36,18,0,9,10,1,2,4,1,3,3,0,0,3,18,9,0,1,8,1,0,0,7,6,0,0,9,3,25,6,18,22,3,21,0,5,1,2,12,13,0,2,12,115,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256043399728024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331368556481702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907665301581672,0.1451835864778992,0.1166031641811644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895494451331124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057226963851635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313217253785465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661258800650968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503115053880186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836824679270025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432908090575049,0.20245431081909251,0.0,0.0,0.3885208298561167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778720349029961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008358554137366,0.276900678164277,0.1420159219934982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255771092879031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261996838916215,0.0,0.10416235408619187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27766263158287524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077656657708338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823368455409197,0.12372287635668446,0.0,0.0,0.13394786479022192,0.0,0.0,0.14415506728337527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417336514497449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291281407666502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315805495585453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22498049198091405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835755630830404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065628043377876,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jewami,2018/01/22,"My 17 month old bites, hits, kicks, and headbutts Our 17.5 month old son is the cutest kid to ever live.  He can be so sweet and cuddly, smile, play nicely, help clean up, and is definitely smart.  He does, however, especially with the other kids at daycare, bite, hit, push, and headbutt.  Some days are better than others, but this is a continuous problem.  I know lots of people will say that he's just getting his terrible two's early and toddlers can just be assholes sometimes, but I feel that he's worse than the average.  Are there any strategies out there to make him less of an asshole?  No matter what we try, he doesn't connect his actions with the consequences or that he even did anything wrong.  Thank you from a desperate parent!",5.945459632294169,6.81810290647482,5.798800959232615,80.99629896083135,66.6978417266187,8.479936051159072,30.552358113509197,8.515128840125781,2.2397571542765786,580,21,108,8,9,181,105,139,0.16699999999999998,0.6859999999999999,0.147,-0.9054,2,0,0,0,0,0,25,2,1,0,1,8,9,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,1,22,19,9,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,9,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,3,9,6,12,13,3,13,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,3,8,67,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095570942528016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057160220989825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833199765184986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367674651977754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138981041204086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690473827489089,0.18749423469199955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480565881092684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829386306992443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893364201667868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391421368387535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302970219839468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762197951400632,0.0,0.0,0.13835924417610065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308936148664048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43500543309815903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301569734033705,0.0,0.0,0.14370001948952146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983364355727146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483527241257978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20500260442781204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908331401393707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072771818369445,0.0,0.20247985751865627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21123333321745769,0.0,0.2266252490406583,0.0,0.0
parenting,asdahsdj,2018/01/22,"My 2 year old won't stop harassing my 4 year old. I have 2 boys, one just turned 2 (I'll call him M), and one is almost 4 (I'll call him J).

M is extremely rambunctious.  He's very physical - he loves to cuddle, wrestle, tackle, etc.  He basically always wants to be touching somebody else and doesn't play on his own at all.  He also can be very rough, he sometimes hits and bites.  Mostly it's the tackling that's the problem though.  

My older son is very gentle and sweet, and would never hurt his little brother. He truly never instigates the trouble.  

Basically this is what happens all day, every day.  M chases/tackles J.  J starts instantly crying and whining ""Mom, help me!!!!! M is chasing me!!!"".  J is crying so much, I have to intervene.  I pull M off, I sternly say something like ""You are hurting J, we do not hurt people. When people say no, we need to listen to them.  You get a time out"".  Then I sternly put M in time out in his room.  But this whole scene happens over and over, like 20 times a day.

I'm concerned on 2 fronts:  mainly I'm concerned that my 2 year old is a bully.  He doesn't listen, doesn't seem to be learning from the time outs, and doesn't care when he hurts people (actually seems to like it?).   Secondly, I'm concerned that my 4 year old is falling into a ""victim"" role.  He shouts out for us instantly, and he just starts crying and whining immediately - even if it's really not that bad.  I know that he's not technically in the wrong, his brother is attacking him, but I still feel like being a tattletale/whiner doesn't serve you that well in school/life.

We're just in a bad routine and nothing is getting better.  The 2 year old is the ""bad"" one who is always in trouble, the 4 year old is ""wimpy"" one, who is always crying. I feel like these ""roles"" are getting enforced, because the whole scene described above happens over and over and over. 

Any suggestions on what I could be doing differently?  We have tried getting J to defend himself physically.  We even practiced him bucking M off of him, when M has him pinned on the floor.  He is strong enough, but it is so in his nature not to push/fight, etc that he just can't do it.  I've even gone so far as to say it's okay to hit/kick his little brother if he is being attacked, but he doesn't do it.  






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parenting,nothertheothergirl,2018/01/22,"Struggling with time out We have a two and a half year old who is usually a good kid but every few months he goes through phases of biting and pinching, another phase reared its ugly head this weekend. If a time out happens at day care, he sits in the corner till they say he can get up from time out, reiterate what he did to be put into time out, apologies as needed for his behavior to whoever he hurt. I guess it's partly peer pressure and seeing other kids doing the same thing when they get in trouble, but he understands how time out works at day care. We do not see this behavior at home (side note, he also is an angel for diaper changes at school and fights diaper changes like crazy at home most of the time). If we try putting him in time out (we use a mat he has to sit on) he tries over and over and over to get off the mat. His dad/my husband doesn't have the patience for this, for some reason it seems to demolish any patience he may have and our son ends up in the crib where he physically can't escape. 

Neither of us parents are crazy about using his crib as a time out spot but it feels like it's our only option without someone getting hurt further. I've tried physically holding him on the mat as an alternative, it means I have to sit there and try not to verbally engage and fend off being bitten/pinched. 

He doesn't seem to understand that he's done anything wrong. He'll say sorry at the drop of a hat. He thinks sorry+hug is a magical solution to make everything better and then he can go back to playing. 

How time out goes:

* He does something time out worthy (biting, hitting, slamming the french doors in the middle of our house which he knows is a huge no-no)

* We say ""NO, do not ____ or you get a time out""

* He immediately does the thing as if we double dog dared him

* He gets picked up and put on the mat and we say ""We do not ____, you have to sit in time out for Two Minutes. No [hitting/biting/etc.]"" 

Then pretty much immediately he tries to escape. We put him back several times, get frustrated ourselves, and carry him to his room and put him in his crib for two minutes and we leave the room while he cries. Then we go back in and calmly reiterate that he can't do whatever the offense was, ask him to say sorry, do hugs, time out is over and he can return to playing. 

Time outs might be stopping the behavior in the moment because he's being physically removed from the situation, but it doesn't feel like they're helping long term or that he really understands that he can't do x thing and that he's being punished. Help?",3.587903916768667,4.776222757751938,4.7073398612811115,85.49888004895962,72.39147286821705,7.6796409628722975,26.17584659322725,8.119692808369301,1.4804387596899224,1997,65,416,29,38,656,235,516,0.119,0.7829999999999999,0.099,-0.8172,1,0,1,0,1,0,59,15,2,2,2,10,22,4,2,29,0,38,2,1,7,0,85,70,40,0,4,14,3,2,3,0,3,0,5,5,2,22,44,0,2,11,3,0,8,14,10,0,4,3,9,33,12,78,58,9,99,1,2,2,1,75,49,0,13,40,258,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04997046023580338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0424929872111242,0.06552258126120769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051421094901645995,0.0,0.0584164760653755,0.0,0.0,0.14414486728124926,0.0,0.0380912123454776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055264263146953166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274183758521744,0.0,0.13220493926490334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863852561635887,0.08059729263113967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936477742539336,0.06394542115455466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534452387889785,0.0,0.06968900517128937,0.0,0.0,0.05264760157308556,0.0,0.056158869370644335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319014018892137,0.08928078755822949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22852645203697974,0.0,0.07102507678389855,0.05241074171419737,0.0,0.0,0.06883596416029443,0.0,0.05525663738928964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412921326660989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376681579598103,0.0,0.12535818082813266,0.0,0.0,0.07210107290121191,0.1337862582565726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034340966002516814,0.0,0.0,0.06616421924387154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158329546760784,0.0,0.0,0.05529861799280572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041710247972838864,0.0,0.0,0.06806615622209815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628833999394085,0.0,0.0,0.049876156851291896,0.0,0.04593479372757996,0.046332974654355805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556910812899082,0.0,0.0,0.04752382635287223,0.0,0.0,0.06938390340665718,0.06766682918210035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357127139204173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140811377115739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040030474998663405,0.06424656609034722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24845900712815355,0.0,0.06323971039397193,0.09958735801075276,0.11377079102555712,0.0,0.0705919995556261,0.0,0.0,0.07023748450838761,0.0,0.0,0.05294463914704868,0.048105188202137966,0.0,0.13989712233053508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05224154202897754,0.0,0.06532449467259599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453983380799336,0.04003884915092045,0.0,0.0,0.5465460243729383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121212809829584,0.0,0.18312079796834546,0.19515206293823745,0.0751636090021852,0.10793660867168636,0.06882009133463236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023479083345387,0.0,0.04549094239389608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831921777746314,0.0,0.04023928046019104
parenting,BurglarOf1000Turds,2018/01/22,"Obese three year old? My son has been off the charts since he was a few months old and only eating breastmilk. He was a longer and chubbier than average baby, which runs in my family, but I thought he would have leveled out by three years old. He is 38 inches, 38.5 lbs. and his bmi is in the 99th percentile. I brought it up with his pediatrician and she wasn't really concerned, she said he looks like he just has a large frame, but said we will keep a close eye on it. I don't think he looks fat either, but he's clinically obese according to the charts and I'm stressing about it. This is what he looks like. http://imgur.com/5ilzoEC",3.0625108225108235,5.042252523809523,3.299494949494949,91.80863636363638,75.34920634920636,6.8040404040404034,21.772005772005773,7.686295010490155,0.6505174603174604,502,13,108,7,11,154,83,126,0.027000000000000003,0.92,0.053,0.5023,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,7,0,13,6,2,0,0,18,23,8,0,1,5,1,0,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,6,9,4,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,8,6,10,2,11,13,2,17,0,0,4,0,17,9,0,0,8,60,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563793037354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710266105213468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125441334824153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772652760197818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570412724732557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448076966313788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711092504566362,0.0,0.0,0.1379780693566167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622228426499738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451438901470733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007248162104012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20781597333643656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624659731909252,0.0,0.14402719875753675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288755481027223,0.0,0.0,0.2336570371657808
parenting,thebathwhat,2018/01/22,"When to hold a kid back a grade? I just spoke briefly to my son’s pre-k teacher and she asked if I feel that he’s ready for kindergarten next year. I told her I planned to ask her the same since she’s with him in a classroom setting and I’m not. She’s concerned that he may not be ready just yet. Academically, he’s still shaky on his letters (which I’m certain we can improve with more at-Home work) but socially/emotionally she’s not sure he’s there yet either. She mentioned specifically that he often needs prompting, especially when it comes to self-directed activities.I don’t think we can “fix” that per se— isn’t that the kind of thing that happens naturally?

Here’s what I can say about him: he’s 4.5, turning 5 this spring. He’s super imaginative and comes up with in-depth stories and play scenarios. He’ very talkative and speaks very clearly and I think well for his age. He definitely seems to be a little in his own head— he’s kind of spacey and does need to be told what to do over and over when completing a task (getting dressed, putting shoes on, etc) but never to a degree that I thought was alarming— I thought it was just his age.

Our options are to send him to public kindergarten next year or send him to another year of preschool. I’m talking to the teacher again later this week for a more in-depth conversation but of course I can’t help thinking about it now. I just don’t want to make the wrong decision. Any ideas?",3.3800044822949324,4.935561642611685,4.0233856267742425,88.75180636485884,73.46735395189003,7.260182279994023,27.772448827132827,7.893859768569023,1.501130763484238,1142,44,246,16,23,362,158,291,0.029,0.856,0.114,0.9688,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,3,0,0,3,19,9,0,1,11,0,15,1,1,1,4,52,39,16,0,4,13,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,16,15,0,1,10,1,0,5,8,2,1,0,7,4,29,7,32,28,6,34,0,0,0,0,45,8,0,7,20,143,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923525388677203,0.13759739095560358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453491465292733,0.0,0.0,0.10090138532278403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260717459671693,0.13758345292778815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483299151619117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760674740405974,0.0,0.0,0.1463468792786727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634963288039847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685579208165858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603891347680355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467131879838215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795513760543494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813332379060618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732944094115422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151861378155005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759150184108751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459845155477498,0.10120626244965383,0.0,0.2791115273218124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191404937236945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435276047494198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945930479802434,0.1368928485791675,0.0,0.0,0.10854794394000586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479381689816301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236748966757584,0.0,0.0,0.10547102962813366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717786485298237,0.2522446952174649,0.0,0.2083507399584084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507759101335683,0.0,0.0,0.14273152530594194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165432856928169,0.07739795685160704,0.0,0.10525813033138504,0.0,0.11798406488440785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553095841200666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434703263723855,0.0,0.2535074121933807
parenting,Calamity_Thrives,2018/01/22,"Worried about my daughter feeling abandoned I know this is probably a but silly, but I've been losing sleep over it, so here goes. 



I have a 7 month old daughter. I've been working since she was 2 months old. Right now I have an 8-430 schedule, which is fine. My husband and I usually go out once a week, with an additional night or two a month. I'm starting classes to work towards my BSN. One is during the day on Friday, which doesn't change much. But the other is on Monday nights, which means I pretty much don't get to see her at all on Mondays. I'm worried that between that and our date nights, my daughter will be missing us. Should I cut down on date nights until I'm done with my night class? Or am I way overthinking this?",2.2195466123280667,3.9252895894039774,3.31880794701987,91.95664289353032,76.94701986754967,5.705756495160469,24.860417727967395,6.297961479604792,0.633913499745288,572,20,123,4,13,184,99,151,0.108,0.83,0.062,-0.7724,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,0,3,4,6,1,0,8,0,16,1,1,0,1,17,27,9,0,1,5,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,4,0,2,4,2,16,2,16,20,3,33,0,3,1,0,8,10,0,2,21,80,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776329281151686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398588196701985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326781627756176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584687254539043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803842731314269,0.0,0.07401121701160394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156955831060985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569111920938824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185578636196516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311838739406694,0.0,0.191464206215453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6110478372995294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27330344214944713,0.13868790179234178,0.08824543807055385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248805564872254,0.14040713372492422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112134647583834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377435546844824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772542845211934,0.0,0.13032142137790634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217560469261472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721322037670102,0.0,0.15664749491681518,0.0,0.1434270526738965,0.0,0.0,0.10336842688525699,0.10446054320738213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896141566912199,0.2645044367822699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fulker01,2018/01/22,"Generational gap (likely sh*tpost) My son loves Curious George on PBS. This episode saw George having to rescue the Man in the Yellow Hat from a cliff in the national park. A young man trapped with tMitYH held up a branch and said, ""Did you know many parts of a tree are edible?"" This was a reference to a 1970's Grape Nuts commercial which, save for a high school Spanish teacher using it as his catch phrase, would have flown over my head.

As parents I think we're all appreciative when our kids' media have jokes and shout outs to us but this was the first thing I could recognize as specifically for the GRANDparents. The cynical part of me thinks PBS + Jokes for older people = $$$ at donation drive time but the part of me that wants the world to be a good place for my son to grow up in thinks that a lot of grandparents give free childcare to their grandkids and deserve some writer throwing them a bone. Gave me a chuckle.",5.967397602397604,6.2857334120879145,5.7748151848151865,83.12927572427573,66.52747252747254,9.475324675324677,29.182817182817182,9.339509955726095,2.2175538461538458,739,23,150,13,11,230,126,182,0.039,0.8170000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9528,3,1,0,0,0,0,20,2,1,2,1,1,9,1,0,19,0,10,3,2,1,1,21,22,9,0,3,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,8,5,0,1,5,2,2,4,0,1,0,1,7,4,14,9,28,12,6,22,0,0,2,1,17,13,0,2,6,92,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432373878098396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259870503172945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209813158649553,0.0,0.1504733489929915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841175524882638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895473864879272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859429561656803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764644250456878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252062068168226,0.16191673155132624,0.0,0.0,0.18188482071977552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992039793815352,0.5828225705118659,0.0,0.1243743141744739,0.0,0.18743623739861665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065177570480788,0.0,0.0,0.1815637539384436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191862918630346,0.3448594424260263,0.0,0.0,0.10461037562957357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157977467793556,0.1549451739716077,0.0,0.0,0.10581557016193216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744157875307205,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,switchbladesally,2018/01/22,"Guys...Mickey Mouse Not sure if you are aware out there that there are tons of new and old Mickey Mouse cartoons on YouTube and on their Mickey video app for Apple TV. The new ones are hilarious and have a Ren & Stimpy kind of feel. They’re clever and you notice something new every time you watch them. I really recommend them if you haven’t seen it already and my kids love it, they have to watch it every day and it’s the one thing they usually agree on (4.5 and 2 years). They put up a new one every few weeks on the YouTube channel, but they also have all the old school ones on the app as well. They really dig these too. ",3.700387596899226,4.560445395348836,3.9953488372093036,91.94713178294576,71.79069767441861,7.283720930232557,21.310077519379846,7.3871296695380915,0.3626961240310078,492,9,111,5,9,153,79,129,0.012,0.889,0.099,0.8506,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,0,4,8,0,5,5,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,2,15,10,12,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,1,4,1,4,14,5,12,9,3,19,0,0,3,1,14,7,0,2,11,70,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767706240132448,0.11426501899002416,0.0,0.15481575124379246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214895289720804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611601233092663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224690881970326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879265657190596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895921900009247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5519965848627484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267542858147133,0.2998673756520637,0.0,0.3872900790325772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363880979149996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307147720143152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446071674143478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999979222720097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466734623123175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949263918985531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331734596692834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573675528730206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461366422768285,0.0,0.12847070296902866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201320388548777
parenting,emilydavis8,2018/01/22,"Awesome advise for new mamas... Being a mom is wonderful, but it is hard as all get out 😉 It is okay to take time for yourself, even if it is only 5 minutes. It truly is better to just put your baby in the crib if he/she is crying and walk away for a few minutes to regain your sanity!!",1.254999999999999,2.3926035322580685,4.281483870967743,86.45222580645166,78.19354838709677,6.250322580645161,20.464516129032265,6.742157984588678,0.3895703225806453,217,5,47,2,5,79,46,62,0.081,0.701,0.218,0.8684,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,1,7,0,0,0,1,8,10,5,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,10,9,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,3,2,34,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919262334961617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748014736373324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413049756496954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052238088852088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233535331318216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783389065462031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639047338235961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300089725458649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363121621639496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123536063633878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336184211526682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811799577229313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33695631246797875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babymommao,2018/01/22,"Has anyone hired a ‘sleep trainer’? As above title, I’d like to know if anyone else has used a sleep trainer for their little ones. 

My son is 20 months and I am 23 weeks pregnant with his little sister and I am DESPERATE to get my son to sleep at least 10 hours solid a night. He usually goes to bed at 8 and will wake around 4-5 in the morning with possibly 2/3 wake ups for a dummy/comforter. I’m just SO keen to crack this before the new baby arrives! (I’m aware that it could all go to pot when new baby arrives but I’d be willing to call this woman again if her advice worked first time around.) 

So my gran lives in an apartment complex with a lady who sleep trains babies. When I first heard of this I thought I would never be the type of parent to ask someone else to come in and basically “super nanny” me and my routine but enough is enough and I’m willing to try anything. I’ve tried all the usual bits and pieces to help but to no avail and I’m starting to go down the route that it’s my fault he’s not sleeping in. 

My son is a beaut at going to bed and will do so 99% without a fuss. It’s the early mornings and re-settling him in the night that is disturbing everyone. It also means he needs 2 naps to get through the day which means less time for activities etc. 

So, as I digress.. has anyone used one before that can tell me the bad/good points? This lady has lots of brilliant testimonials and reviews on her Facebook page. I also know her through my gran. Her price is £60 with a money back guarantee if she can’t get your little one to sleep as well as planned. What are your thoughts on this? I don’t really think there’s anything to lose. I would pay £200 if I could guarantee that my son would sleeps 10/12 hours a night! ",3.458301369863012,4.1294834328767145,4.457972602739726,89.1053150684932,72.2054794520548,7.0454794520547965,25.284931506849322,6.918507183188421,0.8384761643835619,1363,39,301,11,25,444,192,365,0.05,0.862,0.08800000000000001,0.9277,1,0,0,0,0,0,32,0,2,1,6,15,8,0,1,19,0,27,9,9,2,3,48,51,30,0,10,10,6,0,1,0,7,0,1,2,1,17,18,0,0,8,1,3,4,6,3,1,5,3,2,30,5,48,37,11,46,0,1,1,0,26,19,0,5,24,189,47,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772062191882341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636618265372698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573379953150116,0.08095357377064147,0.13003457322452974,0.1406686814687007,0.0738623083480755,0.0,0.0,0.06075268115571161,0.06596882072317324,0.0,0.0,0.13446087621428418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625684958796287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067654080963584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805885101141995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616376131154905,0.0,0.0,0.050953964371961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200297404545858,0.0,0.0,0.16327385954781684,0.08811539372337038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754960343762389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344092271749182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383608482909693,0.0,0.13470710170843814,0.06626860478391483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05295775091546872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556149701225231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684204151616412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0385995759243845,0.2375619041369341,0.06976597776074564,0.0,0.0,0.08839033327555479,0.0,0.06717022516606942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212689835376066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306385329447585,0.0,0.0,0.05858382242663266,0.060936247544033616,0.1526138574244874,0.0,0.2224324541371165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606146700656471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772962035711006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468859680888114,0.08907024411318236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050614886190023335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5534591093632292,0.0,0.06694366941409514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05592264279984329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905693594690852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05062547454210865,0.0,0.12544789184764105,0.09214101613722933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728320856340463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647600144232375,0.1740334627858268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337587547100816,0.0,0.07103815524878314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616140160257719,0.0,0.0575191493985729,0.0,0.0,0.16837617435800226,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sweetchilliandcheese,2018/01/22,"How to help a toddler through parents breaking up? My little boy is only 2.5. He doesn't have the closest relationship to his dad, but I'm concerned that us breaking up will affect him negatively (obviously). Does anyone have any advice on how to help him with the transition? 

I'm crying and throwing up out of sight from him so I don't upset him. he's not seen his dad for four days but hasn't asked for him yet. His dad has asked to see him on Wednesday so that's good. Should I just not mention dad? Should I talk about dad? I don't know what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated x",1.2529634300126131,3.505556049180332,2.965081967213113,90.51945145018915,82.77049180327869,5.393190416141237,22.499369482976046,6.67199483983844,0.5077962168978565,466,16,100,5,13,154,75,122,0.033,0.7929999999999999,0.175,0.959,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,3,0,14,0,0,3,1,16,21,7,0,3,5,6,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,1,0,1,1,3,15,2,18,15,0,14,0,0,3,0,27,8,0,0,3,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535564948009544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28581771910914505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694140964912514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392922810167336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23083934693989355,0.13552903583684767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390323489908791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17626342176349555,0.0,0.23169055465272664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42257632022117697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549266383741695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21062499726361789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982815686774193,0.0,0.0,0.23334613916468103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22562190604279006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746193540900134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689101997662098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527839614837921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492841682350323,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WellMaybeNotNow,2018/01/22,"3-year-old scared and won't stay in his own room. It's a typical story, I know. Looking for your favorite techniques to keep 3-year-old boy in bed at bedtime. He has been an excellent sleeper, at bedtime and naptime, since birth. However, he's recently reached the age where lots of  kids develop a fear of the dark. He refuses to stay in bed. We put him back in there over and over. It becomes a game after a while, which is a separate issue from the fear issue. We allow him, in the early hours of the morning, to sleep on our floor in a sleeping bag stashed away in our closet if he wakes up afraid, but he has to fall asleep in his own bed. When we talk to him about his fears, he mentions the dark, wild animals coming to get his baby sister (not sure where he got that one... a book, probably), someone coming to get us (his parents), and bad guys in general. Sometimes he stays in bed all night. Sometimes he is on our floor at 3 a.m., which is okay with us, but the keeping him in bed part takes between 30 minutes and an hour and a half, on average. So, I'm looking for help addressing the fear issue and the fact that he makes it a game to get out of bed a zillion times at bedtime.",5.060253837072018,4.767797020661161,5.730767414403777,84.7635537190083,68.46280991735537,8.897756788665879,31.748524203069657,8.418075326091056,2.188559858323494,917,35,197,12,14,299,136,242,0.077,0.8590000000000001,0.064,-0.7227,2,0,0,0,0,0,43,8,1,0,1,7,10,0,6,21,1,7,4,4,2,3,29,21,13,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,3,7,14,0,3,1,3,0,4,2,7,0,3,2,2,19,3,42,18,5,47,0,0,2,0,39,28,0,2,12,122,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968993955298461,0.0793049955922353,0.08611401072600013,0.0,0.11390528986800992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768456557956622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642253933592227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165245672631376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248704973478127,0.0,0.0,0.1021205688900985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691296930939006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20313580050931285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229406604396498,0.0,0.183343517520908,0.0,0.0,0.056680689548568475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321604374018046,0.0,0.0,0.08768229334720945,0.0,0.0,0.06884388797242977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678587819414944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644715885764365,0.0,0.06988742696506196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114520001806949,0.1116859245405488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119774028124718,0.0,0.0,0.10367987585664418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183407225425496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325683890826592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531492593654758,0.0,0.20642038880807909,0.0,0.08738655326512705,0.0,0.20400771075796986,0.0,0.0,0.3297868359352685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720418708192376,0.0,0.07754521929468254,0.08289657781218729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013926249524933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24811912320058865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283203292852686
parenting,terribledad178,2018/01/22,"I set my daughter back in potty training and I feel like a terrible dad because of it My daughter is six years old and has struggled with potty training since we had started to train her. She has a small bladder and often needs a lot breaks, especially when we’re out and not at home. She’s developed an anxiety of when out that she’ll need to go, but there won’t be a bathroom around. 

Tonight, I had picked her up from her grandmas house on my way home from work and I was absolutely exhausted. We were about half an hour from home when we announced from the backseat that she had to go potty. And here’s where I messed up. I was so exhausted and couldn’t bring myself to stop, that I told her we would be home in fifteen minutes and she’d have to hold it that long. I didn’t realize the severity of the situation, and I know I’m so terrible for lying about how long she would have to wait. 

When we got home, I noticed she had wet her pants and had been crying and I had no idea. Since then, she’s been crying whenever she has to use the toilet and starts shaking. I feel like the worst dad ever when all I had to do was stop somewhere, but I used my tiredness as an excuse to cause her unnecessary pain. I know worse things have been done, but all I can think about is how I’m going to better myself from this situation. ",5.044107142857143,4.864575340659339,5.673898809523809,84.77370535714289,68.48717948717949,8.876282051282052,29.15041208791209,8.472884824447931,1.8189489010989008,1040,33,227,14,16,338,139,273,0.2,0.765,0.036000000000000004,-0.9937,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,0,2,19,12,0,2,12,0,34,4,1,6,3,52,54,26,0,5,4,4,3,2,0,4,3,0,5,0,8,21,0,4,7,0,0,5,5,9,0,2,18,3,42,3,33,28,4,37,0,0,0,0,26,11,0,2,20,166,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843266625776546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981292504266083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476108542388225,0.0,0.06719599312297382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749064988239398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323793628939015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24216787081787394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280491786860306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971054511607264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147254088589374,0.15749856246013513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879410083292937,0.0,0.08816206112516789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5528550378257914,0.0,0.1085556515767865,0.12719215011816454,0.0,0.12443774950931208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116050780491185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770691564597043,0.0,0.0,0.19510250924295905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371473134906004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347026279990018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254990951165295,0.11566923360049727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172939026169044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453002213882007,0.0,0.18236898372510385,0.2478092575890901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604459962311107,0.0,0.0,0.18431664852638896,0.0,0.11523771559092033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323279483464894,0.07063178267457956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533075573286248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904089465107523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749649563336757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024971808545651,0.0,0.11233513839183906,0.15661034242012628,0.0,0.0,0.07098535978725383
parenting,diaperedwoman,2018/01/22,"What dumb things have your kids fought about? Today my daughter was resting her hand on the arm rest in an auditorium. My son didn't want her arm there so he kept trying to push it off. I tried to defuse it by telling him to just leave her be and let her rest it there. But my son wouldn't hand it and kept trying to put her arm off and she didn't want to move it. My son claimed it was his arm rest but it was between the seats so it didn't matter and it was just a arm. Apparently my son didn't think so and it wasn't just an arm rest. So finally I saw my daughter putting her arm on his arm and I pulled my son's arm away before he could even scream but he did a few seconds later and then my daughter started screaming. We were then escorted out and I was mad at my kids for fighting and my son blamed it on his sister. I told him he is the one to blame so don't blame it on her when he could have just let her rest her arm there and it's just an arm. I told them no fighting so all he had to do was just let her rest it there and there wouldn't have been fighting. 


My kids have fought over other trivial things because my son is more sensitive to his environment while to me it's nothing and no big deal and it's easy to just ignore because it's trivial like how close his sister is sitting even though she isn't even toughing him or how close she is nearby or how she is playing or what she is holding so I am always telling him to quit tattling on his sister and I don't want to hear it. And there is my daughter who doesn't give into her brother so that always starts a fight too and my son refuses to just ignore it and pick his battles.  

It's just an arm rest, who cares who is resting their arm on it. Rest your arm on the other arm rest next to you, problem solved. 


What dumb things have your kids fought about? 


If anyone is wondering why we didn't just leave the auditorium, we were in the middle of filming and we were the extras in the audience. You cannot leave during a shooting and change seats because everything has to be the same and everyone has to sit next to the same person and remember who they sat next to or who they stood by with, etc. And they were looking for real moms and dads with kids so I submitted myself to being a background actor and them too because they wanted kids. They even knew the ages of them too. So that is what happened. ",2.1714930521815177,3.6037456673306782,3.19468370420756,93.96600476144205,76.39043824701196,6.013098824215334,22.403264988825182,6.4673359150291105,0.24152311728694945,1863,51,428,14,41,596,182,502,0.149,0.81,0.041,-0.9942,1,0,0,1,7,0,25,4,5,9,1,41,20,11,0,20,0,53,17,17,4,1,80,77,50,0,10,18,18,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,7,37,34,0,6,4,3,0,5,15,17,0,2,30,7,70,3,47,37,18,41,0,0,2,0,96,21,2,6,14,322,107,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534526295701266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947242889898314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334877485123694,0.0,0.0,0.2422673889456884,0.0,0.08454512919722497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130065217349143,0.0,0.10510608441304344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865628427251952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243226830930896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080884724764699,0.2624963286143384,0.0,0.0,0.09493946729969603,0.0892952849936221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884027375704304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531188227198613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786069304388565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198208346447844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156128077348907,0.0,0.3047964952507462,0.0,0.04854060490107828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343450121287767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163652223308832,0.0,0.1056003175978016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31700054092544633,0.0,0.0,0.09533531543742822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732658804547854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675433080581832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507082593400716,0.0,0.19976160501362514,0.0,0.1056779498421783,0.0,0.11308953672001175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255163350412592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065019338497348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736840554955609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980242849895449,0.06366368279516993,0.0976173325892854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941784176788623,0.18987893459939206,0.0,0.20236978184414764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344123337736124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965385695116994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774796965168927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jelly09089,2018/01/22,"My 16 year old daughter needs to sleep with me to get a full night's rest Hey Reddit, I'm new here. I have a 16 year old daughter, and I'm raising her on my own, and I have been through 3 divorces over the course of her life. The first was with her dad, when our daughter was 2. I had gone through a long period of self-discovery, and realized I wasn't necessarily into men anymore. We divorced amicably, and she sees him every other weekend since he lives sort of far away. They have a good relationship, though she doesn't want to see him much more often since I have a nicer place and am a little more easy going. My second relationship was with a woman I'll call Jane. We started dating when my daughter was 3, and got as close as we could to marrying back then when she was 5. She was my entire world. She got along so well with my daughter, she really understood her and made an effort. She understood me, she loved me, and I loved her. We started to fall apart around my daughter's 10th birthday and we never recovered. We would have to send her up to her dad's house for a few days while we just fought and fought. I found out she was cheating a year before the divorce, and couples counseling couldn't save us. It was awful. I gained about 30lbs, I quit my job, I didn't want to be a mom anymore. But I had to get it together for the sake of my daughter, because she was hurting too. Everyday, I'd say, ""Mom's just fine!"" even when I was sobbing in the bathroom at work and not wanting to get on the bus back home. When I met Mary a year after, I thought it was fate. We got along very well, had similar interests, and I couldn't get enough of her. She didn't get along as well with my daughter, and we got married when she was 14, and divorced 5 months ago. My daughter told me she was relieved when I divorced Mary, which I wasn't happy about, but I felt more confident in my decision.

My problem is that my daughter doesn't sleep by herself anymore. It started a few weeks before Mary and I divorced, when she would spend the night at a friend's house, or my daughter would need to spend the night at her dad's, or we would be having silent dinners. I tried to make it easier on her through all of my relationships, you know, tried to lessen the suffering and hide the fighting. But we couldn't bullshit her. I mean, she's practically an adult, she knows that when I said, ""Mary, can we talk in private?"" that meant, ""Hey, we're going to fight but we're not going to do it in front of the kid."" My daughter deserves a lot of credit. She has stood by me through all my bullshit, she's kept her head high, she's never been too afraid to tell me how she feels. But I know something is hurting her. She goes to bed in her own bed every night at 10. I check on her at 11, make sure she's asleep, then go to bed. Every night at 2:30, like clockwork, she crawls into bed next to me and sleeps there for the rest of the night. There have been times when we'll be cuddling and we'll fall asleep, and she'll sleep the whole night there.

My daughter never had trouble sleeping as a child. She napped, slept on schedule. We even had the luck of her sleeping through the night earlier than expected. If anything, our issue was that she'd put herself to bed too early, then wake up at like 5am on a rampage. I've tried to tell her to go back into her own bed, but then she'll wake up in hour increments, trying to come back to bed with me. If I keep forcing her to just go back to her own bed, she gets frustrated and starts crying, or she just won't really be rested the next day. She doesn't have trouble with falling asleep, either. It's staying asleep in her own bed. At this point, it's just been waking me up every night, and it's waking her up every night. She's an active sleeper, too, so she'll be kicking me and talking in her sleep, and I'm a light sleeper so I'm just curled up waiting for it to be over. I go to work exhausted every morning, but it's worth it when she doesn't look so worn out. But I need a fix. It's just worrying to me.

I know most parents might not have a similar experience, but if you have any ideas, it'd be super helpful. ",4.2118931955211005,4.411342404651165,4.904599483204136,88.26483634797592,70.30232558139535,7.858742463393628,27.786391042205,7.526774132740827,1.312245047372954,3228,102,719,32,54,1041,317,860,0.068,0.843,0.08900000000000001,0.9636,2,0,1,0,9,0,116,18,2,1,7,46,33,6,1,39,1,71,23,17,4,6,132,135,65,0,19,26,19,2,2,1,11,2,2,10,5,21,55,1,3,15,2,5,15,18,15,3,2,48,8,139,18,105,63,22,125,0,4,3,3,135,46,1,12,65,485,160,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446649682736489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03426483640725491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991086878919502,0.0,0.0,0.041464145505533546,0.04485504533027893,0.0,0.0,0.047340174073994525,0.19372217317482734,0.0,0.030715401416403942,0.0,0.08575112291903746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145068336922598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04340387377446482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04022985908151268,0.055752173431666704,0.05534767042369791,0.0649907956141686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206316213958726,0.0,0.06656017666107905,0.0,0.2547189416700537,0.0,0.0,0.04928808051854621,0.0,0.0,0.025477142914985155,0.0,0.04837934911219559,0.0,0.0,0.04285909212193885,0.0,0.05524666182679077,0.03892881277172393,0.0,0.15795053001244902,0.0,0.20045235197340133,0.042262161563208035,0.1611961053809472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053637817924142434,0.0,0.0,0.051711521023193686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03377329328890468,0.05323655202231009,0.050542193433538635,0.0,0.04962097082333765,0.11627949127101278,0.10788048931283732,0.05688070448691197,0.0,0.052590858099745605,0.05000124759907067,0.04478621351205882,0.0,0.0,0.11076534358924027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035589774795094155,0.04923301220259322,0.050500935330467865,0.044492577342679814,0.04459084247611412,0.042312326192700936,0.0,0.0,0.042837161238899836,0.09095233294671276,0.04767732613595806,0.06726732654470627,0.0,0.0,0.054886132062993316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345256416819432,0.0,0.11802511366821845,0.040218362306256174,0.0,0.037040186999714717,0.11208379789152896,0.11658450696943062,0.04866400552938472,0.10717413137184628,0.4728471520964444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574520224934028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05594871661325567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264361164786134,0.0,0.047631930015107335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04821348171142811,0.0,0.050652775945458715,0.0,0.053592696307843316,0.0,0.0,0.06455830795415719,0.0,0.0,0.16229009995346816,0.0,0.0,0.04792950355760902,0.04006970463552841,0.0,0.0,0.08030371019846437,0.0,0.052564551089192516,0.0,0.0,0.08336116903231063,0.0,0.3529631923715329,0.0,0.0,0.03879031605607985,0.0,0.0,0.14265649761331406,0.053705757176021315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04748907990620063,0.0,0.0,0.08099820235841694,0.08808078557153369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950489735703858,0.04000158966916805,0.029381020796253,0.0,0.0,0.04814686551186554,0.0,0.13683765662821015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060926602883121,0.0,0.0,0.04157448954405747,0.08915854040627834,0.0,0.04041735143057698,0.0,0.13591168868271009,0.0,0.0,0.05625520162909618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336456208146483,0.05117036752887738,0.0,0.1431737015804304,0.0,0.0,0.12979010915506006
parenting,blah_de_blah_de_blah,2018/01/22,"How to increase energy levels for an exhausted mom? I'm an older mom (42, kid is 2) and I'm doing most of the childcare (partner works two jobs).  I'm EXHAUSTED!  I'm semi-seriously thinking of taking up a cocaine habit to give me the energy to get through the day.  By 5pm every day, I'm totally dragging.  

Teach me your tricks; how do you give yourself more energy to get through the day?  I've corrected a mild anemia and a mild vitamin D deficiency, and that's all my doctor could find.  I get normal sleep, and for the most part, eat decently healthy (sometimes I skip meals due to childcare pressures).  I tried getting exercise, but that just got me more exhausted.  I drink one cup of coffee a day, because anything more than that messes with my sleep and then I'm even more tired the next day.  Help?",2.9038065099457486,4.9108710443038035,4.49497287522604,82.93696202531646,75.89873417721519,7.805424954792044,27.74141048824593,8.634040054169528,2.234123327305606,627,26,121,13,14,210,97,158,0.08199999999999999,0.826,0.092,-0.4919,1,0,2,0,0,0,26,0,2,0,1,4,6,1,1,12,0,4,12,2,2,3,19,19,9,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,3,6,3,0,2,2,0,1,0,6,0,2,1,0,11,0,16,17,10,12,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,9,68,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175937857571338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019571351508568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813489901292668,0.0,0.0,0.4771133464010681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144445596938436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494554907147078,0.0,0.15140114429972504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977269113994057,0.0,0.12466360864742013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523376527902392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092142724843849,0.2838755398454342,0.0,0.0,0.11833800854156044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917520675214576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682856143413692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465805051897764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735830892121447,0.0,0.1449704633345162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026227093502092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022745309411432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961359123942908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633731171040554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124833355970982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480749876733467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005951902151775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004558747905718,0.0,0.1445364955605718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771744334302492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sgcray,2018/01/22,"Going away for a month I have a wife and a 18 month old. My wide doesnt work.

A work project requires me to travel to another country for a month. I feel guilty about leaving my wife and kid behind for a month.

We dont have any family where we live and my son can be a handful. So, I am really worried how my wife will take care of things while I am gone.

Anyone who has experienced this and could offer advice.",1.2775,3.0379802413793087,3.163893678160921,91.74859913793104,79.91954022988506,6.189080459770117,20.070402298850574,7.1686216300943375,0.3193919540229881,319,8,72,4,8,107,59,87,0.07,0.89,0.04,-0.3306,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,7,0,11,1,1,1,0,10,16,7,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,11,1,9,12,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,6,49,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19101683867015404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293035102361475,0.2049735803169304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668133120259024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365609228015195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993007616143105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560716422449853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22909636078988796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842773313350549,0.0,0.0988385151038022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109348869089596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698080945904304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260884756057066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6241081621313198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051191298127969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522690077720194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697358918283704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986553712393314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846176434135264,0.19851531864254973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sapphire1166,2018/01/22,"4 year old obsessed with ""beautiful"" As the title stated, I have a 4 year old girl who is obsessed with being, looking, and associating everything with beauty. 

For some history, I cried when I found out I was pregnant that she was a girl, mostly because I hate how gendered everything is now, and because I feel like girls have it rougher overall. I asked for gender-neutral clothes and toys for my baby shower. We even named her a family name that's pretty gender neutral in this day and age. But around 1.5/2 it became apparent that she was a girly girl. She loved princesses, pink, dresses, etc. I didn't want to stifle her so we indulged it within reason. Bought her dress up costumes, let her wear pink to her heart's content, etc.

Except now it's an issue. Lately she's been getting REALLY mad if I call her cute. She tells me ""I'm not cute. I want to be beautiful"". She demands dresses everyday and get upset if she can't find one beautiful enough to wear that day. She bugs me incessantly to wear makeup. She'll refuse to read new books I buy (ie Rosie Revere, Engineer) because ""the cover is not beautiful"". I heard she was being mean to someone at daycare and when I asked her why she said ""I don't like how she looks"".

I'm floored. Sure, my husband and I have called her pretty and beautiful on occasion, but we're also stress smart, kind, passionate, inquisitive, etc. We place very little on looks. I'm pretty average looking and VERY low maintenance (wear makeup 4 times a year, never get my hair or nails done, etc) so I'm fairly certain she doesn't get it from me. I've tried having heart to heart talks with her. I've tried being stern (especially after I learned of her behavior to a classmate). I took her to Wonder and we talked extensively about the movie and why we should never judge someone on how they look, etc. I know some this may be originating at daycare, but I've talked to other moms and it's not a huge issue with the other girls in her class. Nothing's sticking, and I'm afraid that this ""little"" problem is indicative of something that will become MUCH larger when she's a teen/adult (lack of self esteem maybe?). How do I address this?",4.012540847909018,5.678734869358671,4.829160008637444,83.16254516663071,72.04038004750595,7.478327215144317,26.77182753904844,8.101407402915765,1.7159526524148854,1704,59,323,25,33,551,214,421,0.08,0.821,0.099,0.8908,2,0,1,0,0,0,72,5,0,1,0,15,19,2,5,13,0,29,10,8,6,4,64,58,30,0,7,10,2,2,2,0,4,0,2,2,6,19,25,0,1,8,3,2,1,9,9,0,1,12,11,57,10,38,36,11,40,0,1,7,2,55,17,0,8,23,204,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254317154655455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696219929380379,0.14622845843169724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302521230928228,0.08637495362279451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971889395333713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590817579163916,0.10087580293298018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003427276862446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081010909975432,0.4361147950978648,0.05165586296179744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057720438572974,0.0,0.0737278511585675,0.0,0.03954448047143348,0.05587204506138431,0.0,0.0,0.07148099481535053,0.0,0.0,0.08575139477026758,0.0,0.0,0.16344249354208498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721453225742868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27803173527446684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325835028213415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144193846112033,0.04298125167618392,0.0,0.08822240035912335,0.0,0.0,0.0799733140295493,0.0,0.07641727708997421,0.15677058119340342,0.0,0.0,0.32837649072573816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058606936508395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785707772651887,0.08519179661393453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915966483794068,0.0,0.0,0.05749211975440679,0.0,0.1206381676969144,0.07553409040958807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504299988729862,0.0,0.1641329680981325,0.0,0.05299598701621856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171105683636637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386979575539097,0.0,0.07483480751195115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822949216024186,0.0,0.050102257476060584,0.08041118663515226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743940293369617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158834257720582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253132482745308,0.060208591712147874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958737534361194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371042346559717,0.0,0.0,0.18858267440378934,0.06835752573522162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04560390491921392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689232992782353,0.10619664179667944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290601222728003,0.09225859617834994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411417027617279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481359543762468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109079697419686
parenting,98yellow123,2018/01/22,"Birthday RSVP help When no one has responded by the ""RSVP by"" date,  am I obligated to show up to the play center anyway? I'd rather not pay for the party room, if no one else said they would be there. I sent invitations to the teacher to put in the kids' backpacks, so I don't have phone numbers or emails to follow up with or try and track down all the parents. I'm asking because the internet leads me to believe it's common for people to show up anyway, without RSVPing. This is frustrating! Thanks!",5.460733333333337,5.590572139999999,6.013999999999999,81.63033333333334,67.6,8.666666666666668,30.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.111666666666667,394,14,79,5,6,128,74,100,0.07,0.81,0.12,0.6463,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,1,6,3,1,0,7,0,7,0,0,1,1,11,13,6,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,3,1,4,5,1,0,2,2,1,5,2,18,9,1,14,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,3,3,55,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713439888243388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693332760109814,0.0,0.0,0.3270116571339069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24246611238696586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19454804072534065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39336098220253135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222875869728136,0.0,0.0,0.20122237377555785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917807935753206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760936261177238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672226321909996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19706027604961907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797900440358244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061848313665793,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Voldeturban,2018/01/22,"Correcting 4yo's strong fear of Sikhs My 4yo has developed a fairly strong fear of sikhs/turbans. 

A sikh with a turban tried to get my son to ""go to the park with me"" about a year ago, which the police classified as ""an approach"". He knows that the man shouldn't have done that and that the police think the man was a baddie. It was his first police experience, and I was very serious about it, so it's memorable. He's been distrusting/prejudiced against turban-wearing men since then. 

For a few months I've been (repetitively, coz kid) reading him the illustrated Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone, with [a pic of evil Voldemort living hidden inside a turban](https://www.hypable.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/lord-voldemort-harry-potter-illustrated.jpg) - a scary evil face on the back of someone's head. 

In hindsight this was a bad idea, coz it's reinforced his turban-distrust into a fear. Eg He's asked me not to wrap a towel around my hair to dry it, explaining that he's scared of turbans because of Voldemort. 

I've explained that most people with turbans are NOT baddies. But in his lengthy experience *they* **are** *baddies*, so when I talk try to correct him it's clear he's politely humoring my naïvity. 

It seems logical that as he gets older and meets Sikhs for himself, he'll learn that they're mostly (i.e. almost all) good people. Do I just wait for this to resolve itself naturally? Or might it cement itself and be hard to reverse, in which case should I try to find stories/movies with ordinary Sikhs in? Or even arrange somehow for him to meet some so he can learn for himself? (Seems very awkward, though.)

Just talking to him when the subject comes up isn't working. 

**Do kids usually get over this sort of thing if they have a personal connection (the seeming abduction attempt)?**",4.487567567567567,6.960057981981982,4.649510510510512,81.49822972972974,72.7837837837838,7.443003003003002,29.11801801801802,8.344100000000001,2.3156046846846845,1440,60,250,25,30,449,185,333,0.116,0.83,0.054000000000000006,-0.9644,1,0,0,0,0,0,80,0,0,2,6,14,14,2,5,24,0,20,3,3,2,4,51,35,18,0,3,8,1,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,23,13,0,1,14,1,0,3,4,9,0,1,7,2,21,5,42,23,5,23,4,0,0,0,33,9,0,13,11,159,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390831984141432,0.0,0.12867511800430942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439307017255697,0.12013102182732052,0.0,0.0,0.0988092821522981,0.10729290783699973,0.07833297333071948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069217168066303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150106445787765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487365137438439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25139713099889244,0.0,0.4337978099501724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174475206878072,0.10930282416474256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014092944334818,0.0,0.07303003898989799,0.10778048216753264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511159181020557,0.0,0.13187902519279576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506190712605252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062074973168103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134686741400611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363191783392928,0.0,0.0,0.10256821518401693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817272813679913,0.11220205428242842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853570270840112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286518466289428,0.0,0.0,0.35094725753502715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629729597377484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088784197440416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065683576510108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537030703926486,0.0823382063633403,0.1262515098480167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617310863526068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152561830375734,0.2120534474899405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935502064100994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275038490628969
parenting,Dr_Julian_Helisent,2018/01/23,"What phone does your kid use? I'm preparing for fostering a kid aged 4-18 and could  use some phone suggestions. I'm looking for something simple I could call them on and not too expensive. I'm okay with texting but would like to avoid something with video or apps. No camera would be great, but I understand if that's not possible. We'll have a tablet with games on it for kiddo to use (but that they can't permenantly keep). Prepaid phone would be nice so I can permenantly gift it to them without worrying about a plan. Any suggestions?",3.647047619047618,5.686534657142857,4.243809523809528,85.4161904761905,73.85714285714286,8.476190476190476,26.904761904761905,9.150863307647796,2.2166190476190484,429,16,86,10,9,136,70,105,0.051,0.758,0.191,0.9486,0,1,2,0,0,0,12,1,1,3,1,3,5,0,1,3,1,11,0,0,3,0,25,20,8,0,6,8,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,2,1,2,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,8,4,13,12,1,3,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,3,2,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341124591614835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137780873002387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31491907733137464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725835274100016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742941722307704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752930952082915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634892546895532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656103082209517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22232944549375924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036503438160626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20530699917649786,0.0,0.5109893998716452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901075084605323,0.0,0.0,0.2002806534351832,0.0,0.4202860545863801,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adentalcrown,2018/01/23,Help my 3 year old needs dental crowns for his front teeth. My 3 year old boy needs crowns for his front teeth. Went to the dentist and they recommended zirconia crowns because they look better than metal crowns. Does any one have any experience if they look good or will last?,5.1780769230769215,7.025692192307695,4.23,87.89000000000001,69.38461538461539,7.507692307692308,22.615384615384606,8.07648339933343,0.8951384615384619,222,5,44,3,4,65,36,52,0.0,0.8170000000000001,0.183,0.8519,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,5,7,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,7,2,4,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,5,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124730054706181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400522343189721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20319341536109808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20105400289316225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247376066597396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927017027658183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539952260853383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18727526528681174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858608743010673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407104275985192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.482163708126644,0.0,0.155683175121124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297867640023896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29590032917430104
parenting,Mythx35,2018/01/23,"My 3.5 year old has apraxia and doesn't really speak, but there's another issue. So for some backstory, my 3.5 year old son has apraxia, or congenital speech disorder (apparently it's the same thing with a different name.) He has said individual words from time to time, but usually just once then we never hear it again. We're working with a speech therapist and working on it at home as well. 

One of my concerns is that he doesn't reply sometimes, at all. He's by no means stupid, he understands and is very smart. I can give him simple instructions ""put this in the garbage please"" and he typically does without any problems. Bit if you ask him a simple yes or no question ""are you tired?"" ""Did you have a good day"" ""do you want to go home?"" Nothing. Won't nod, shake his head no, he will go from making eye contact to looking away, almost as if he's ignoring you. I have had to literally turn his head to meet my eye so I could ask him something, to which he turned away again and never responded.

So I'm wondering if there's a lack of comprehension on his part, or if it's something else. We already are in the process of getting him assessed for autism. Any ideas on how to help with this acknowledgements?",3.9815312791783377,5.431496042016812,4.886834733893559,83.57662931839405,71.77310924369748,8.482166199813259,28.76844070961718,8.998388855275968,2.231385807656396,950,37,194,19,18,309,140,238,0.097,0.802,0.1,0.2002,2,0,2,0,0,0,38,2,5,0,2,10,7,1,1,8,1,18,5,4,2,3,42,35,21,0,8,11,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,2,0,9,10,0,1,6,0,0,4,9,4,1,1,3,8,21,3,30,29,6,26,0,0,3,0,35,9,0,11,13,122,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570436655105748,0.0,0.12750979971326806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715284526658765,0.1211618757614001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160430703190942,0.0,0.21712180273443785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614820087410214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225546481808064,0.0,0.0,0.07451873055450625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072279081155947,0.13242771579394932,0.0,0.10111660224636006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652530648527866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060368922889818724,0.1108439169870472,0.13133688208845762,0.09691595864978544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23717062487236035,0.0,0.13023069598134993,0.0,0.07744921165376621,0.0,0.2318076003541956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043932918053452,0.0,0.12060181591347795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703099661703056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712901087818261,0.0,0.0,0.12586535824742473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823507425598076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087116882368177,0.0,0.2424958229664277,0.12305456753900255,0.07829813616562667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251269378085916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683671555616075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056357808197877,0.0,0.11615738896092292,0.12943990841884115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402283831161281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991235689510664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790858431509787,0.11427966523757355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341598270852939,0.07676478134581244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347536278909627,0.13280512452423238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513655123291333,0.0,0.12028926796011598,0.0,0.0,0.1272595065040825,0.09533898315900433,0.06815304830355665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389129119433664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138389396447204,0.125306590520509,0.16824025563417352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881790692615146
parenting,Kiwana13,2018/01/23,"REALLY MOODY one year old My firey little dude just turned one last week and the last two days he has been SO ANGRY. Like a flip switch as, he’s fine and then he is SO MAD. While I am of the mind state that there are just big emotions he doesn’t know how to handle yet/he is becoming a toddler I thought I would ask if any of you have any random things it could be? Or have dealt with baby rage? 
We just went to the doctor to rule out any medical or physical things, he started daycare last week so maybe it’s extreme separation anxiety? 

I think I just need other parents to tell me that thier one year olds make them crazy sometimes too haha ",3.1392481203007483,4.34454792481203,3.969932330827071,90.28888345864664,73.51127819548874,7.124511278195487,23.07443609022557,7.554174236665415,0.7603389473684214,506,13,111,6,10,162,96,133,0.157,0.7859999999999999,0.058,-0.9455,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,1,1,0,10,6,2,0,5,1,12,2,0,2,0,22,21,12,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,4,3,0,10,3,9,15,0,18,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,4,14,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050195465125936,0.0,0.1143761528581921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977339327229046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512408721362434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937304303711214,0.0,0.0,0.09642277177937597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303170960671975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818070285881087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821678004172723,0.3656163283914791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304393575675737,0.1498501477324012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998003180963512,0.0,0.15020474493378394,0.0,0.0,0.15061745526949938,0.0,0.0,0.15096434329185995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086113925445858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31377506328078303,0.0,0.3039392884743197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601521130394756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957811169335691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478710385728612,0.0,0.10582525403962656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306799432912404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986580538160649,0.09580115380938878,0.0,0.11869570498507817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262595489861226,0.1460513484935349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23985876868186815,0.0,0.0,0.13859897901604334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620892560121746,0.0,0.0,0.19256145360298266
parenting,theguitaristswife,2018/01/23,"Toddler Snowboarding My younger sister wants to teach my son to snowboard. He's currently 2 years old so I feel like that is too young plus we can't afford it right now. We know we have to make sure he wants to do. 

What age should we start him with it? 

Should we do actual lessons before we let him start with my sister? She's only 11 and has only been doing it for like 3 years or so but actual lessons are expensive. 

What will he need to start?  Should we rent it at first or buy?

Thank you in advance. My husband and I don't snowboard although we might start if he does. 

Cross posted ",0.2181095041322294,2.591387148760333,1.499870867768596,97.77889721074379,90.73553719008264,4.677892561983471,17.479855371900822,6.322622252153567,-0.28121115702479305,459,12,102,5,16,145,77,121,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.8243,3,0,0,0,0,0,10,8,1,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,1,1,30,27,10,0,7,4,4,1,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,13,0,0,4,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,18,4,11,20,0,18,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,4,14,64,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.361954770475586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780859568309352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229297177182378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377165006287504,0.13248913110840005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774797833029766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192125028308352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896403626535106,0.0,0.18120794812857133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379269187411975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673851023519334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751257625543412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946038873793958,0.0,0.0,0.28209385838277834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761468187886806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837760696097128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5250641807846864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747891982092275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707421015293784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21877239738622686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388539550514536
parenting,Seminko,2018/01/23,"""Maternity plural"" is it a thing in english speaking countries? In the Czech Republic many many mothers use what's called, at least here, 'maternity plural' when talking to and about their kids.

 

**Example:**

A) Does Johnny walk yet?

B) Yes, we walk.

 

A) What happened to Otis yesterday? I saw you had to leave early.

B) Well, we pooped ourselves...

 

Is that a thing in english speaking countries? If so, does it have a name?",1.65308016877637,4.110331354430379,3.0437468354430406,82.62097890295362,102.54430379746836,6.157299578059073,28.051476793248945,7.3011,2.5609031223628698,343,18,57,8,15,111,55,79,0.015,0.911,0.07400000000000001,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,36,2,1,1,0,6,1,0,0,6,1,4,1,1,1,0,6,7,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,5,1,8,5,1,10,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,1,4,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6546697077129099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056579682526453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35250336494225537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810259457992564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21325979416135546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083879926664849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188245362657513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26761029477164266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739500534492493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18108811471420694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DannyA1103,2018/01/23,"Today my 3 yo daughter cried while eating mozzarella sticks bc we had no marinara sauce in the house... I proceeded to strain the sauce out of a Spaghetti O’s can, VOILA! Sauce for her mozzarella sticks!

She loved it, stopped crying, and told me I was the best Daddy ever ❤️!

Moms, this is the sort of thing that happens at dinner time when Dads are left to their own devices. 
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parenting,mynameisearnestine,2018/01/23,"When, when, when, will we sleep again? When did you finally feel like you ""caught up"" on sleep as a parent? When could you reliably sleep in until 8am or so, without worrying that the house was going to burn down, your kid launch herself down the stairs, etc. etc.? I feel like my current state of exhaustion would be more bearable if I had a ballpark for when it might end—in four years? Eight? Ten?

I know this is the billionth post asking this question. If anything, my situation is better than most: I've got a 16 month old who pretty reliably sleeps through the night, from 7pm–5:30am. I've caught up on some of the hours lost to those first early months of her life, and I feel like I've plateaued at some new normal. I get *almost* enough sleep every night, and my partner and I each get one sleep-in day on the weekends where we catch up a little from the previous week.

But I am still tired, le tired, almost all. the. time. I would love to one day return to a life where I could sleep in until 7 or 8am on weekdays, and spend weekends lounging around with my partner (and/or our kid) in bed, rather than rising at an ungodly hour to propitiate a wailing banshee. 

When, O Reddit, might this happen? (Please tell me it happens sometime before the kids move out…)",4.232973459289251,5.514831813765183,4.2847435897435915,88.78386752136755,70.94331983805671,6.9463787674313995,25.86797121007647,7.1686216300943375,1.038707782276203,986,30,201,9,18,304,150,247,0.044,0.87,0.086,0.8879,2,0,0,0,0,0,45,3,4,0,3,14,7,0,0,16,0,14,12,6,1,1,35,29,20,0,8,7,1,3,3,2,5,5,0,1,5,8,9,0,0,5,2,1,6,1,2,0,6,7,3,23,5,34,14,9,58,0,1,0,1,20,19,0,12,34,132,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744244618380668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167108132696046,0.07753227668376503,0.08142129246613819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411072421338487,0.0,0.0,0.07702771607753214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907521627901215,0.0,0.0,0.11233706956158833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713958404645757,0.08999155975243996,0.1942660445787812,0.0,0.0,0.07338059489459144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211228830905092,0.18666027818719536,0.0,0.09540740653315234,0.0,0.07408225684190771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100621869922114,0.0,0.049497624118749146,0.0,0.06965716426499945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403417448644688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154042809962408,0.10049497914324748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786467833717754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303437645456805,0.1276494370686739,0.0872912391906039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507357528459433,0.0,0.07860588916068095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847863028129672,0.0,0.0,0.13903547175736045,0.09256731982844266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841160924810744,0.0,0.16346395798077268,0.08533379513919201,0.0,0.0,0.09139068100820888,0.0,0.11803452774262035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670776931825532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560324520003648,0.0,0.0,0.08341214018155718,0.08860608220637972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756540327439643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789749662138436,0.6100994813098877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613836150817257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955351697781621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612414375206987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078531114734637,0.2002038735872148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986169004772186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395567229352663,0.0,0.0,0.08844835768298165,0.0,0.12373839958288264,0.0,0.0,0.05608579023680815
parenting,feral-magpie,2018/01/23,"Any advice on how to get a 3 year old (almost 4) to get through the night without wetting her bed? My daughter will be four in April, and while she’s completely potty trained during the day, we still have to use diapers and pull-ups at night. It’s very rare for her to go throughout the night without peeing. 

We didn’t have any trouble potty training her, and she’s even done using her little potty and only uses the adult toilet now. We never put pressure on her because I didn’t want to associate stress with her using the bathroom, and so far that’s worked, except at night. I’ve had her use the bathroom right before bed, or restrict liquids for a bit before bedtime. But she just won’t wake up to use the potty. It’s not really a big deal, but I’m just wondering how anyone else has handled this. Thanks!

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parenting,garethsmitty,2018/01/23,"How to manage visitors and stop people overstepping? How did you manage with people wanting to see the new baby!? 

A bit of a back story, baby is due in May. I am from Ireland but we live in the US. My wife’s family lives locally and my parents can’t visit right away. 

Myself and my wife are so excited to welcome out new princess. However I worry that we will butt heads when it comes to having visitors. I have told my family not to fly and see the baby until we get into a routine. 1-2 months after the baby is here. 

When my parents come they will live with us in our house so they will have pretty much 24/7 access to the baby for the 3-4 weeks they are here (I won’t be afraid to tell them if they or over stepping or if we need a day to ourselves).

The worry isn’t about my family because they have dealt with 15 other grandkids. The worry comes from my wife’s family. This will be the first grand baby and I am worried there will be a constant flow of visitors and people overstepping. There has already been some tension between myself and my mother in law about how the baby will be raised and a few other things.

My thinking is that for the first week when I am off work and the baby is here immediate family will get 1-2 visits each for a limited time. Then for weeks 2-3 I will be back at work and it will give my wife time with the baby to bond and get into a mothers routine (I will be on call and available at all times). Then at week 4 people are welcome as much as they want. As I feel we will be in a routine! 

Do you guys think this is a good plan, how would you stop people from constantly visiting without being rude? ",3.695848403232013,4.358317351032454,5.160620751571116,84.31549057329742,71.65486725663716,7.901551878927793,25.06361421059382,8.04050195162591,1.3426274464537642,1278,35,265,17,23,431,156,339,0.069,0.843,0.08800000000000001,0.8708,3,0,0,0,0,0,31,8,3,7,6,18,8,1,2,23,0,43,2,2,4,1,53,59,32,0,6,7,9,1,0,0,14,0,0,0,1,9,28,0,3,3,0,0,8,5,3,0,2,3,3,39,5,46,34,7,52,0,0,2,1,37,17,1,6,27,204,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952785173806917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111942573072545,0.13278051250667194,0.0,0.05263216227496138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426109661025113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816296031868033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231232172638518,0.0,0.1866060876265581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568226269894933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069691102402319,0.0,0.04365618088545467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146881797892746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532751557320624,0.08282535220777541,0.0,0.0724180327429307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549033622308021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860991686484211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099624956399844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22871983852510136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689158947538798,0.0,0.12693990916379444,0.06402013720572093,0.0,0.16677573581078478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19174106774278035,0.0,0.0,0.2992869905715367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783898610485665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373402785444827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760386358453391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436848544621378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546510847537202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736056812989351,0.11064658098571327,0.0,0.0,0.15103693095736678,0.0,0.0,0.0825017262283896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077131717570255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185133083009396,0.0,0.2770274847304693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322883653560305,0.0,0.12571333463481746,0.35073050824736385,0.0,0.06133357491352578,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eggfish,2018/01/23,"How to raise kids who aren't attention-seeking/approval junkies? I just know a lot of grown adults who have narcissistic traits. They think they are much more talented, smarter, etc. than people give them credit for and constantly seek approval and validation, becoming distraught when they don't get it.

How does one raise kids who aren't like that? 

On one hand, I see this in people with parents who were really absent or strict (maybe even psychologically abusive), I also see this in people with parents who praised them too much. Is the trick just to find a happy medium in your parenting style?",6.340555555555554,8.249102870370368,5.626851851851857,78.76583333333336,66.5925925925926,8.733333333333334,30.16666666666667,9.188382445141503,2.613033333333334,482,18,84,9,8,146,77,108,0.058,0.745,0.197,0.9538,3,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,1,5,2,8,7,1,1,3,0,7,1,1,2,0,13,13,7,0,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,2,0,2,1,3,9,5,11,12,5,7,1,0,2,0,19,4,0,2,3,57,18,2,0.0,0.20000901370449914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499511439889106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864343693672248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242069110789594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477243812652757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18826473042372754,0.11149561107099687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428678837084608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819483233645377,0.1619353171503601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969847996104096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277206197826113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247070629552303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351390601614214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695895939243946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481855362100979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287763524947333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623214955570264,0.0,0.0,0.35108912268020903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081422609755084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690350804036126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816488373376594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lyfesuxass,2018/01/23,"Potty training son number 2: Update I’m such a proud mommy!!! He’s been doing great peeing the past few weeks, but was still pooping in his undies. This morning I went outside to smoke and when I got back inside, I had the joy of seeing he went number two in the potty all by himself!!! Thank you u/brielladavis!",2.120860215053764,4.286297000000005,3.475483870967744,88.5498924731183,79.0,4.778494623655916,20.010752688172047,5.46131890053228,-0.006137634408601489,242,6,46,1,6,79,52,62,0.0,0.7440000000000001,0.256,0.9415,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,4,2,2,0,1,3,10,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,1,6,4,5,4,2,10,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,6,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371506199652053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24666611274131875,0.3400265075560467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944151808495713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457652929833361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462990826777863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839453258417351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012747632698078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24739036817594404,0.0,0.0,0.5718040267782111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,planetchad,2018/01/23,"Son's playing time in little league basketball My 8-year-old is playing youth basketball for the first time.  They have played four games so far, and I notice that the coach only keeps him in for five minutes per game, usually in the first half (the games have two 20-minute halves).  The majority of his team gets way more playing time than that.  His team consists of 7-9 year olds.  This is a regular recreational basketball league.  Nothing competitive. At practices, the coaches don't teach them anything.  All they do is let them shoot and point out where to stand on defense.  Most of the other parents are ""sideline coaches"" who holler the whole game.  These kids are just starting out playing on a team.  How can he learn, develop, and most importantly, have fun if he is only playing in less than ten percent of the game?  I think that 10 minutes per half would be more appropriate.  There are only eight kids on the team, so its certainly doable.  Should I say something to the coach about it?",4.925573770491802,7.060581448087432,4.385486338797815,85.35036065573772,70.5846994535519,7.50295081967213,29.686338797814212,8.238735603445708,2.092818142076503,787,32,146,12,15,236,115,183,0.021,0.862,0.118,0.9346,1,0,1,1,0,0,29,0,0,4,6,7,9,1,0,13,0,17,0,0,1,2,18,21,7,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,9,5,0,2,2,19,0,0,1,1,0,9,0,1,11,8,21,17,9,26,0,0,0,0,24,14,0,3,10,97,20,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537651642858793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300534615341242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092297805494768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570239450259783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18064730225547385,0.0,0.0,0.17706020382716064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951048793337994,0.20112911885124526,0.3707508968198561,0.0,0.0,0.403074749910656,0.0,0.0,0.19616054836581426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700124823366955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404874983727367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600186258858846,0.0,0.0,0.12504119170958847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319689754766807,0.0,0.0,0.3090364265607597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725716118723948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456655206705534,0.0,0.0,0.14022486021091005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723510864909585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549453103508104,0.0,0.0,0.2275271045116647
parenting,Shindoh,2018/01/23,"3 Year Old Daughter Acts out with Mom So my daughter has this bad habit of always acting out when she's with her mom. She refuses to listen, and just says no. 

My daughter is currently in Occupational Therapy and Physical Therapy, and her mom takes her. When my wife tells her to  listen to teacher, she starts saying no and begins to throw fits. 

When it's time to leave its the worse because she asks her to put her boots on and just started screaming no. They say she's strong willed, but we need to nip this. 

Has anyone gone through this or have any suggestions. She normally listens to grandma or I, but not her mom. ",4.287924701561064,5.71226846280992,4.7690358126721755,84.81698806244263,70.98347107438016,8.022405876951332,28.320477502295685,8.515128840125781,1.9602664830119367,488,18,97,8,9,155,76,121,0.1,0.883,0.017,-0.7321,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,20,15,13,0,2,7,8,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,5,10,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,1,7,19,1,16,13,0,20,0,0,0,0,33,5,0,2,10,65,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225204186019875,0.0,0.0,0.09991295289218977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273226016878707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735354947509185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267490528882083,0.08956314334342169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557067069953728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6882996598536962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894184235613784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395374106131875,0.0,0.0,0.15417139725022025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769860146846395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505181636418829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079862830278388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046811491389327,0.0,0.1284175309480304,0.0,0.3360394337964977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567221835966299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14972750062461065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461385505941028
parenting,jadebear,2018/01/23,"Lactose intolerance? My four year old was up all night complaining of everything under the sun, but mostly his tummy. Finally got him to sleep, and he woke up a half hour later covered in puke. It's not the flu (hurray!), so the only thing we can think of is he had aot of cheese yesterday. He's been gassy with cheese before but not to this extent.

The weird thing is that he eats milk with his cereal everyday and downs yogurt like crazy, but it's only on the days we have cheese that he has an issue. Can you be intolerant to only one kind of dairy...?",3.7958783783783794,4.897552225225226,5.0230518018018016,83.76268581081084,71.7927927927928,8.432882882882884,21.98310810810811,8.841846274778883,1.2692243243243235,431,9,89,8,8,143,79,111,0.099,0.85,0.051,-0.6981,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,7,0,10,4,1,0,1,14,13,6,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,5,0,7,2,15,7,3,15,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,10,59,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19291605072300536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621111883361632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319839810364927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20375501099500665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483529917357877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18132308349700849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326662085388416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366294528484709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360866847382652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076051200273224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127547770171876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378971389110432,0.0,0.1536265849696608,0.5172763199956406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268767128638749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012360646530212,0.14526852553120773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599572827018453
parenting,duenotsoonenough,2018/01/23,"My son tricked me with love. My 20 month old and I were playing with his train set last night before bedtime, and he walked over to me and said ""mommy hug!"" It was so sweet. I, of course, opened my arms up and let him give me a nice big hug. And then...he bit me. A very intentional, very hard CHOMP on my left shoulder. It wasn't quick, either. He dug in. 

And then when I exclaimed in pain, he stepped back with a HUGE smile on his face.

Oh, toddlers. Super excited to potentially be entering a biting phase...",0.1826064227035076,2.500048873786412,1.5912621359223316,97.76589245705752,89.3883495145631,4.722628827483198,18.60268857356236,6.297961479604792,-0.2391935772964895,386,11,89,4,13,123,73,103,0.058,0.705,0.237,0.9684,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,0,0,1,4,10,1,0,4,0,5,7,3,1,0,12,8,9,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,10,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,4,3,14,8,12,2,2,22,0,0,0,3,10,10,0,0,8,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964915542124945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21744247369430408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789793325099821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451335949269708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289102307999663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082960980655248,0.0,0.0,0.2776408144643837,0.26130306393748604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306313852341465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039665462121802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398034006580489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26814224205682435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719085192171304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24307343068489898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216882317715221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coffeeaddict12,2018/01/23,"Going crazy, cannot get this sleep thing down! As the title states, I feel like I am going insane. Our almost 16 month old foster son is so hot and cold on sleep. Some weeks he'll sleep through every night and I'll think ""ok, we finally did it!"" and then he'll go through 3-4 nights where he'll be up for 2-3 hours at a time.

I just cant fathom what we're doing wrong. About a month ago we transitioned from 2 naps to 1 (usually 11-1) when he started consistently waking at 5:45 or earlier and the transition went more smoothly than I thought it would. However, we're back to being up for HOURS every night. I understand some kids just don't sleep through the night until older, but being up for hours makes me think there's something else going on.

Some background: he was placed with us at 6 months and has never been a great sleeper. He's allergic to dairy so we avoid that and will be starting to keep a food diary because I feel like it might be some foods upsetting his stomach and keeping him up. He seems to be constantly teething, but ibuprofen and Tylenol during the night don't seem to do anything to make him more comfortable. When he's up we've tried CIO (going in at 5,10,15 minutes) and he has been sleep trained and goes to bed like a champ but we've done that for up to 2 hours in the middle of the night and he still won't go to sleep. We've also tried rocking him to sleep, but he'll either bolt upright as soon as we put him in his crib or he'll flop in our arms for an hour trying to get comfortable. He's not inconsolable, calms immediately when we pick him up, he just won't sleep.

He goes to bed at 7, wakes around 6:15 on nights when he doesn't wake for hours, but when he is up in the night, he'll usually sleep in which tells me he does need those hours of sleep. We've seen a sleep consultant at our local children's hospital and he basically told us we need to get the dude to go to sleep on his own in the middle of the night, but I just can't do hours and hours of CIO, especially with his background in foster care. Any advice? Anyone have a little that is up for hours?",5.083904109589042,4.67397225799087,5.4943981735159815,86.87548767123289,68.42922374429224,8.83448401826484,27.56566210045662,8.238735603445708,1.4635677442922368,1651,44,372,20,25,529,202,438,0.06,0.8759999999999999,0.064,0.688,1,1,1,0,0,0,47,11,0,0,1,19,13,0,2,18,1,32,23,18,3,1,60,68,34,0,3,14,1,4,3,0,11,3,0,2,2,11,22,2,3,8,2,0,9,10,3,0,0,9,6,29,10,68,42,8,89,0,0,1,0,46,35,0,10,47,207,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839185942816605,0.0438978424476933,0.0,0.049588652215707935,0.0,0.0,0.03960234429135875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033676334009377765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034626600524112934,0.0,0.040751994168638006,0.04408465490961525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03807899463647641,0.0,0.030187860961505244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05049049344084388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053515173843816134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043336618759467135,0.05067771184152863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413688782540537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344803845203545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05007914027151359,0.07075637228074487,0.0,0.054248408182190185,0.0,0.0,0.1197632450890336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761885599621954,0.0,0.19700956040730813,0.0,0.0,0.054597654264560716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4876872509925349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803401057114403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725811445668213,0.04963357611754815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661120026873315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253451039984175,0.0,0.0,0.11858282230545385,0.0,0.0,0.07343916408398063,0.038194051674015794,0.0,0.0,0.4182533544333579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05196450828646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05173945172952826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04978280885299289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901650698279166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5946874458222765,0.0,0.0,0.03812408803905123,0.0,0.0,0.07010317815521193,0.0,0.03954795247692182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043283994113675485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03289989961521954,0.06346278507831063,0.0,0.03931455789235154,0.02887639847775822,0.0,0.0,0.0473199377113872,0.0,0.10086559092756507,0.0,0.0,0.051553652225597636,0.1191365902110649,0.0,0.10908192313362423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03972317889900458,0.0,0.0,0.04590694823399101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0351786693103887,0.05414401170955943,0.0,0.0
parenting,functioncrepe,2018/01/23,"Kid too shy for sports So my 6yo will go to wrestling practice but won't actually play the game. He loves the IDEA of having a uniform but refuses to be a part of the ONE game newbies go to. I have brought him to two diff bouts with the older kids and i tell him there would be less of a crowd, but he just WON'T do any kind of participating in groups.

He has issues in school with not treating his friends with care and when they get hurt - he gets suspended.  He is only in 1st grade! What is there left to do with this kid? 

i'll admit i am not good with getting playdates together - not a SAHM so it's difficult. Thinking of scouts or 4H, but prob scouts. Maybe THEN he can learn to be a friend and teammate?",2.381530612244898,3.8633483265306134,3.2351190476190474,93.6869642857143,75.93877551020408,6.53265306122449,23.814625850340143,7.1686216300943375,0.6155809523809528,552,17,128,6,12,175,99,147,0.14300000000000002,0.76,0.096,-0.7726,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,0,7,10,0,0,9,0,16,1,0,0,0,23,26,12,0,1,9,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,1,4,4,0,3,5,2,0,2,1,0,8,8,20,18,2,10,0,1,0,1,23,4,0,1,3,79,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.2045478087230302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254107169230307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137099912159965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32388625039608604,0.0,0.3285356094327473,0.0,0.2382508556412966,0.1758097931551031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22439039805376126,0.23662265536049515,0.0,0.2187769754875692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218275156444705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277404145759609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917999282195075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21058006505737112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203624785317434,0.15941682578352456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22698574477041136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121351471074692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832072014242574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430876108904347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475719645903045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889997298445815,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Samiautumn,2018/01/23,"Would you take a Three year old to the Movie Theatre? My daughter will be Three in May. In July one of her favourite movies is coming out with another sequel. She is so excited for it she has made me play the trailers over and over again. 

She’s fairly laid back and loves to be in public. It’s been a while since I’ve gone to the theatre though so I’m not really sure if there will be anything that might be too startling for her. 
My mother took me to the theatre when I was two and of course I cried the whole time, I was two and had never seen the movie before..

Would you take a three year old to see their favourite movie? If you have taken a three year old to the theatre was it a positive or negative experience? 
Any tips to help make the experience a positive are very welcome.",3.328457556935817,4.527274925465839,4.081009316770189,89.70031314699793,73.03726708074534,7.35424430641822,24.59679089026915,7.793537801064563,1.0378939958592133,617,18,135,8,12,197,94,161,0.05,0.807,0.14300000000000002,0.941,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,3,1,0,8,6,0,1,14,0,20,1,0,2,2,19,32,12,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,7,10,2,16,5,18,12,1,21,0,0,2,1,15,6,0,5,12,99,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037783912936604,0.1600223595228003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558303987756486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734581336415666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298578152014528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145792213014446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763226679835888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985590034852242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022896477471406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773430413367935,0.14440098732020504,0.10186674835483653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189253186458652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770037791561662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4804079689463692,0.0,0.1034108494666664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776432702746844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160848749221555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262385717490307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438308433201249,0.0,0.22948382413194035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993617794665642,0.0,0.08898671035695142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955264267885367,0.0,0.0,0.2981508726156936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591724041688027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703809193068847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21681610046195499,0.0,0.0,0.29482284492438504
parenting,ShinyLolliPops,2018/01/23,"15 month old shows NO interest in learning to walk. My husband and I have purchased different types of walker toys, and still my 15 month old son shows no interest! He cruises along tables, and couches, he even climbs things, but will NOT walk alone or with a walker. We try daily to get him to walk with us by holding up his hands, having him hold onto our arms as we sit a little distance away... I feel like we have tried everything!

Now, he does sometimes walk with a walking toy, but it only lasts a short distance, and I've noticed that he doesn't always bend his knees... is this normal? 

My doctor has referred us to a physical therapist, just because he isn't walking. I've tried to bring up the not bending of his knees, but she just blows it off and tries to turn it around to make me feel like I'm the reason he isn't walking at 15 months. 

He stands up in his own, with no balance issues, he dances in place, he climbs, and he walks along furniture, so I don't believe it's because his legs aren't strong enough. However, since we have private insurance, going to PT is going to require a hefty sum out of our pocket (our insurance sucks!). Should I get another opinion, or try something different? I'm at a loss here. Obviously we will go to PT if it's needed, but she didn't even examine his legs before referring us. 

Thanks reddit!",6.628186195826642,5.770812591760304,6.874074371321566,79.74716292134835,65.40449438202248,9.875762439807383,33.30363830925629,9.04235418022936,2.674828999464954,1050,38,210,15,14,340,148,267,0.049,0.883,0.068,0.7285,3,1,1,0,0,0,41,11,0,0,5,9,8,1,0,9,0,16,7,6,2,1,46,31,15,0,4,11,2,3,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,8,19,0,3,7,6,1,16,11,2,0,0,1,3,29,6,34,27,2,44,0,1,0,0,33,18,1,4,10,124,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882475655392775,0.0,0.0,0.09546380954077036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030347432210813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021332310957638,0.0,0.0,0.10779177466462504,0.0,0.0,0.13987560007850858,0.0,0.09762602165847413,0.12926041801858032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23973500035757206,0.0,0.11743010466754546,0.1004002165321316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854583873955522,0.0,0.1515549890685748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311112549666683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602096958486335,0.16392499695106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198824484861988,0.0,0.19560958992979105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974738235745393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935195366187248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210169504463062,0.11498870775139225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658257122022137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747270409475121,0.0,0.0,0.08507018068131647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112410167636089,0.0,0.1306198511465464,0.2407778010049107,0.0,0.0,0.08725665737341726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986750017878603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796063227609248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490510463761316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832407335366042,0.11347002253020147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162281474066307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056271493309174,0.0,0.1332093384275253,0.07622092216254968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389467670361979,0.1247923254238087,0.0,0.0,0.4140149761272407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HAPPY_FLAPPY_BUTT,2018/01/23,"What is your favorite children's TV show? Personally, I think Tumble Leaf (on Amazon) is the cutest thing I've ever seen. The intro song to Blaze and the Monster Machines has a nice hook to it. And Bubble Guppies is surprisingly funny at times. 

What kid's shows do you find yourself amused by?",2.833630952380953,5.4935103392857165,3.6428571428571423,85.56880952380955,79.53571428571429,5.161904761904762,23.619047619047624,6.42735559955562,0.7769619047619051,233,8,42,2,6,74,47,56,0.0,0.716,0.284,0.9506,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,3,5,6,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,2,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4762177475730018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811794868151394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596889451820349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34975996334223936,0.3373375244634195,0.0,0.0,0.3069859844911024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ifeelsad12321,2018/01/23,"help!! our 10 year old daughter told the school nurse her mum hits her. So a little backstory.
Our 10yo daughter is a nice, sweet little girl who is incredibly close to her mum, at night she will always creep out of her room and into bed with mum to cuddle (I sleep in another room because I snore so badly) and every day when she finishes school she'll come come and curl up on mum's lap and they watch tv together.  they have fun and love each other to bits, always doing activities together and good friends.
So yesterday we get a call from the CPS, to come in for an emergency meeting. We get there and are instantly split up for separate interviews. We are told that out daughter had told the school nurse that mum hits her- which is completely untrue. She also says she us afraid of her and that she doesn't want to come home if mum is in a bad mood. 
When confronted with this, she days told us that the school nurse must have misheard and that mum doesn't hit her. She says that one time. Mum threw a book at her and that it brushed her arm, but that she thought it was by accident. its like she is trying to retract everything. 


Now we have to have a CPS guard visiting randomly. My wife is devastated and doesn't want to be close with our daughter at the moment, she feels as though she's given everything to her and has now been stabbed in the back.
   Our daughter seems regretful, but CPS says it's normal for a child to change their story in front of their parents. So basically  my wife can't defend herself because they will always believe the child.  
Another thing. Our little girl has been struggling a bit with social interaction at school, and we feel like ska is being pulled backward and forward between friends  (typical girl bitchiness ).
She has problems with this and gets sad about it. She had gone to school one day and told one of the means girls that mum had thrown a book at her. The other girl had practically forced her to to to the school nurse and talk to the CPS. we also have a boy who is 16 that had adhd as is dependant on us, hes quite sensitive and this has taken its toll on him too.
My wife is so destroyed I feel she may leave home. our life feels as it its destroyed.
Any advice?

25 years together.

EDIT: 
spoke to her on the phone to try to get her to please come home.
She adds that she has always been the one with most of the responsibility for the kids. True.   
She does most of the homework help, cleaning and washing clothes because I'm not allowed to use the washing machine. And she says I'm conflict shy - which I am - this means that when there is an argument, I tend to go for a walk instead of helping her fix things between her and the kids.  I wish I were a better man. I can definitely see that this is partly my fault. If I had been more there then things may have been better.
  
I am not a perfect man, I do try though. I do all the car fixing, washing fixing stuff around the house, grocery shopping, I make the most delicious meals and school lunches etc. I think I have some qualities too. Because I am also not a native of the country I live in, (my mother language is in english), I'm not so good with the language here and I find it difficult to make myself fully understood, this is why my wife does a lot of the paperwork and school stuff.
I  

For those who ask, no, she doesn't have a mean bone in her body and would never hit a child. Her brother confirms this too.
I am terrified. If she leaves we will have to sell the house too.


UPDDATE:

  
Mum has decided to stay for a few days under conditions.
She wants to have some distance from our daughter by getting me to do all her homework with her, school activities and out of school activities too. This I am going to try to do, but I'm a bit clumsy and not so very well organised so we'll see how that goes.  
I also have to go to all of the school meetings etc with our son as his school has also been informed of this. My wife is too humiliated to see any of their teachers. She won't even speak to our daughters freinds parents.  
I went to pick our daughter up from gymnastics this evening and saw her friends father. I started talking to him then I just burst into tears. I told him what had happened and he said that our family have their full support. I still feel very down though. My daughter talked to mum when she got home and basically said that she never expected it to go so far, she cried and said that she wanted mum to stay too.  Mum was very calm throughout the conversation and tried to get her to understand the seriousness of the accusations.
It's still a mess here, but at least mum is home for now at least.
I will update again.  
It seems helpful to write here. As i.mentioned earlier,  I am not originally from this country and even though I speak the language, I find it hard to say what I really feel. I don't have many friends apart from at work, and my work environment is terrible too,.",4.15207032967033,5.3169766707692325,4.679886446886447,86.31842307692308,71.0102564102564,7.991941391941393,27.261904761904763,8.373815340225818,1.6609750915750912,3854,130,803,59,70,1226,368,975,0.107,0.815,0.078,-0.9838,3,0,0,0,0,0,102,22,0,7,6,52,35,3,2,52,0,87,12,4,8,8,136,159,71,0,14,14,34,7,2,4,11,4,11,11,13,56,65,2,2,19,4,2,18,16,15,1,4,35,25,128,19,118,107,21,92,0,2,5,2,176,43,0,15,33,562,184,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024828183321914,0.040856887813856615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717982704091033,0.1391592561618813,0.0,0.0,0.05686535780446887,0.08768423385201654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03722034700130542,0.03908731806296898,0.0,0.0,0.03214981259888169,0.06982030038092728,0.10194954797927376,0.0,0.0,0.04710629009351789,0.0,0.07395625264088543,0.13693921800003805,0.04644221176536397,0.0,0.0,0.042693353096762456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423012871197195,0.18008088401104666,0.04383767590688024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459270408426787,0.10785765332923944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731775712613705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325986413742668,0.08284662918803966,0.0,0.03522727981120703,0.0,0.07515344084400111,0.0,0.03941536413967262,0.0,0.12684433952728327,0.029869540027503607,0.0,0.0,0.07642836175039375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921123222981742,0.0,0.1310660482631352,0.0,0.0950478342306077,0.0701375868344509,0.03343979998994541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0369730238145173,0.0,0.03745413410607396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209920189212967,0.0,0.20969747817125986,0.0,0.0,0.09648776369245607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854289255924824,0.0,0.0,0.029532101858729305,0.04085314783670575,0.12571578000089445,0.036919574051998034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03554592341001224,0.0377357482076795,0.0,0.055817873271749516,0.04238944136112755,0.0,0.1366321803423791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449390880374546,0.0,0.0,0.039236467046279665,0.040965564302642365,0.0,0.0,0.0438732487333682,0.0,0.1133279266036432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285156803608684,0.04527686455433138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04589554328850705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040007149836254266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044470777782649566,0.0,0.0,0.02678497598405976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119314521312741,0.16624755362441065,0.0,0.5500899905527943,0.09995303550818617,0.07612569936801344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04184084979268191,0.04262069706347809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029593796550987837,0.08912918951884298,0.06678008560575632,0.0,0.0,0.04370957429395343,0.09572639289790623,0.0,0.04744623540445319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081746131556588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333142331479393,0.026790579251747663,0.16431502358992492,0.03319298948707605,0.024380128951757032,0.0,0.0,0.2397112335767213,0.0,0.1419334498785298,0.0,0.0,0.043526366010020606,0.1508792085579307,0.0361109813357012,0.0,0.10349450652683176,0.09864402952864593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03759279977726425,0.03875889573238859,0.03772761257941857,0.0,0.04808018941489742,0.0,0.0,0.06087730907781815,0.0,0.0,0.02970108944850235,0.0,0.0,0.05384938154134066
parenting,shortnr,2018/01/23,"Can someone tell me if I’m being ridiculous or not? I just recently got divorced. We separated about two months ago, finalized the divorce a month ago, and I've been mostly moved out for a bit over a month.

My ex has been seeing someone for a couple of weeks and they've been talking for three weeks.

She wants to introduce our child to the guy she's been dating.

I think it's too early, and was under the impression that it would be a while before we introduced new people to our child.

I need someone to tell me whether or not this is reasonable.

Thanks in advance.",3.562733529990169,5.2059887345132765,4.448259587020647,85.53358898721733,73.15929203539824,7.500098328416913,26.714847590953788,8.167268648758528,1.6839349065880045,449,16,89,7,9,145,77,113,0.024,0.93,0.046,0.3182,0,0,0,0,2,0,11,4,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,8,0,11,0,0,1,0,19,18,8,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,6,1,12,2,13,9,2,19,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,4,13,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938556765199558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104148738747696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809566426423712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339980161685124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157159666221667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256583523380214,0.0,0.0,0.164119077515736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969014594935509,0.17616657522445145,0.0,0.12290191295091862,0.0,0.1600828884439725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491054305106498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041914385889712,0.1636586456546816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320817074292775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42131964201806205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322399226339138,0.2897465265614268,0.15260081274487305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062062427398836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191417695714147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776395320265592,0.0,0.2659101440531869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774441627277835,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XIIICaesar,2018/01/23,"4-year old berserk mode Hey everyone,

I have a wonderful 4-year old daughter but my wife and I are struggling with her behavior sometimes. Before I explain the problem I should probably describe her a little bit.

She’s a fearless, tireless little 4-year old that will go to great lengths to get what she wants. She’s very social, has a lot of friends at school, hugs and kisses family and says hello to strangers on the street.

When she’s at school or with family/friends we get compliments on how well behaved and polite she is, despite her being a handful. She can’t take a joke however and feels slighted rather quickly. 

Here’s my problem: often, since the age of 2, when she’s with us  and doesn’t get what she wants (whatever that may be) she can get angry. It escalates really quickly and turns into full on rage mode after 2 or 3 no’s.

When she gets angry, it feels like she’s gone. She doesn’t hear or listen anymore. She will throw or destroy anything she can get her hands on (my glasses, my wife’s make-up, her toys, she tries to throw things at the tv). During her rage she’s so far gone that she will hit us, kick us or bite us. There’s no handling her.

My wife will threaten her with punishments but to no avail. She keeps attacking us. Because she’s so dangerous to herself, our home and even us during her fits I’ve resorted to holding her tightly in my arms until she’s out of it.
It usually takes around half an hour before she’s back to her old self.

It seems like after her fits she realizes what she’s done. After her rage she becomes very calm, apologizes to us and listens to a fault.
She promises us she won’t do it again, but it only takes a day or 2 before it happens again.

I feel like we’re at a loss of what to do. How can we prevent her from having these anger attacks? What can we do to make them subside more quickly? And finally, is this even normal? I’m so afraid that this might not be.

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parenting,DyslexiaUntiedFan,2018/01/23,"Dad trying to sleep train my cosleeping and comfort nursing 16 month old... I'm exhausted My son has slept by my wife since the beginning.  He wakes up about every hour to either nurse, pacify or snuggle with my wife.  Finally got the okay to start sleep training him (this has been an issue for me, our oldest sleeps in our bed and she is nearly 3.5 years old).

I'm on night two, I hope this gets better because it is messing with me emotionally. My goal is to delay the nursing 1 extra hour each day until he is sleeping in his own bed through the night, and no longer nursing at night.

Night one, went okay until I caved about half way through and didn't pick him up after he nursed at 1am with mom (i want to make sure he nurses at least once in the night, and then ween him, because he is still legit nursing 3-4 times a night wife says).

Tonight is night two, and he has already woke up 4 times in the past 4 hours.  Now he is just pissed.  Wife wants him to sleep on a twin bed we have set on the floor in his room (he naps on it no problem during the day), but all he is doing is getting out of bed when he wakes up and tries to leave the room (he can open doors).

I'm trying to get him to:
1) not nurse through the night
2) sleep in his own room

How do you guys deal with little ones waking up all the damn time?  I'm pretty much trying to make him sleepy before putting him down on his bed, and then leaving the room.  I think this is best, but it's pretty damn hard.

This is harder than I thought it would be.  I just want everyone to be able to sleep.... I dream about a night of restful sleep.  It's been years.


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parenting,Wants-NotNeeds,2018/01/23,"I Want My Only Child (10 y/o) to Have a Cell Phone. What Phone, Plan to Start? I am eager for my only to have his own phone as he is coming up on his 10th Bday.  At 10y/o he can legally be left alone for a couple hours at a time in my state. Primarily, it’s for just for basic communication. especially emergency - safety (when he’s out & about), so GPS is a plus.  Texting,and pictures-maybe.

Should I be looking at a basic flip-phone or, sub $200 smart phones?   I’m not opposed to wi-fi based surfing if we can control it (data overrun, past bedtime). 

My wife & I use Verizon and share a plan.  Should we add him through Verizon, or get a pre-paid Phone?  I’ve never used pre-paid, or even an unlocked phone.  Are they the smart way to go? (I.e., for value, and to control data overrun).  Recommendations?",0.5946060606060577,2.7447591575757606,2.9316666666666684,90.37083333333337,84.69696969696969,5.363636363636363,21.28787878787879,6.691623216298621,0.3950606060606057,611,20,134,7,18,209,108,165,0.032,0.8440000000000001,0.124,0.9071,0,1,0,0,0,0,48,2,0,1,4,5,4,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,4,1,23,21,10,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,14,4,22,17,1,18,0,0,1,0,19,8,0,4,6,73,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202008244997344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226632883120495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801436922332474,0.0,0.0,0.4375200742268637,0.0,0.21581406075928966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882566836330905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019031880519389,0.0,0.11084881386771098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19208046167613926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191743263658008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378903948938756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594935239971475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043106137994108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29668168034224235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619293475909976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805416071071205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373255995237955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33691325897650043,0.0,0.0,0.11504284928630873,0.15481798535761745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_abberation,2018/01/23,"Why are so many parents so offended/upset with teachers/caregivers/babysitters when they learn that their children have behaved poorly, made poor decisions, or have been disrespectful (etc)? I’m asking as a parent who has recently found out that it’s now seemingly necessary to explicitly ask every teacher/daycare employee/babysitter to tell me the good AND the bad... They’ve been giving me glowing reports about my son (who has been less than pleasant and downright awful to be around the past few weeks 😒) and when I asked them if there had been any issues at all, they all told me that they typically don’t talk to parents about these things unless the child needs some kind of treatment or intervention from a psychologist/doctor, but upon me asking, they were happy to talk to me about what a little turd my kid has been (and I’m so glad they did!)

They also said that lots of parents become angry and/or offended and it really broke my heart... I couldn’t understand why parents aren’t empowering these caregivers/teachers and not only that, but why they don’t want their child’s behavior/conduct to be the absolute best that it can be?  We’re raising these kids to grow up into being adults... Isn’t our endgame kind, respectful, and hard-working adults who contribute to society?  ",7.694630750605327,8.280482300847456,7.184285714285719,73.57923728813563,62.85593220338983,10.13268765133172,34.65375302663439,9.957137785484203,3.4806329297820824,1037,42,174,20,14,324,149,236,0.063,0.821,0.116,0.9319,8,0,0,0,0,0,37,1,0,10,1,12,11,1,0,8,1,24,1,1,1,3,32,39,20,0,4,7,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,17,11,0,0,5,0,2,1,6,3,0,0,12,2,21,8,25,22,8,14,0,1,1,0,37,7,0,6,6,124,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853653965588757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072591500801304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502730497046982,0.3991754825840001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891291391936175,0.0,0.11789348039818982,0.0,0.0,0.1120242059964147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925989757921094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905092597042426,0.0,0.0,0.0899388031439427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704238270986525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240128042397773,0.0,0.08953417137374373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363397906070777,0.09562418706031774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264955003653777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114159505247378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22232078103305225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698836101059182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907523324331642,0.0,0.10100642586665433,0.0,0.10822452492477938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915141738653693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118576982209502,0.0,0.0,0.5926485768954608,0.0,0.10190192213024446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838474884112945,0.0,0.10539961063341796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154067436818724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971782994081275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715981072117501,0.09330142920282096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091784659862263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020011648339536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112720837732797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296204248986381,0.0,0.08562586331619274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889672156683334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771295919563137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MumCashew,2018/01/23,"Online research sites for a 4th grader? Hello everyone, I need some help finding a good online research site that’s appropriate for the 4th grade reading level. I’m considering getting a kids britannica account, but I’m wondering if there’s something similar that doesn’t cost money. I can see a number of kid friendly websites, but I’m hoping maybe someone can give me some feedback on which ones are actually good? Any recommendations?



 

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parenting,MrSlaghoopil,2018/01/23,"[HELP] how to parent when Co-parenting doesn't work The long and short of it-

My wife and I have primary physical custody of her son, my step son (4 yo). We have him from Monday 6pm to Saturday 10am and his father has him from Saturday 10 to Monday 6pm 3 of 4 weekends a month, and the 5th weekend when there is a 5th weekend. We do our best to Co-parent and communicate with him but the but there is no reciprocation from his end, it's so bad the court appointed Co-parenting counselor refuses to let her schedule anymore appointments due to no call no shows from him.

The problem-
Dads house is lawless. No rules, he's left unattended for hours at a time, he lives off of snacks and junk food there. He comes back angry, defiant, throws things and slams doors when he doesn't get his way. Meanwhile, we are the household of structure, wake up, eat, get dressed, go to preschool, come home, do homework, eat, hang out and play for a while, bath, and bed time; rinse and repeat Tuesday thru Friday with an extra curricular thrown in here and there ( T-ball, karate, in door soccer, story night at the library, etc.) while we know he loves us, he's sooooo difficult after coming back from dad's, he knows the rules of our house but chooses to do as he pleases instead and once he is reprimanded for it he immediately cries for ""daaaaadddyyyyyyy! I wanna go to daaaaadddiesssssss"". He shows no remorse until he hears ""ok, it's bed time"" then and only then we get ""okkkk I'LL LISTEN! I'LL BEHAVE! PLEASE! I PROMISE!"" and our response is ""ok, well we'll try again tomorrow.""  By the end of the week he's a freaking super star (for the most part) but this is getting tiring and with another baby on the way (due 7/31/18) we fear this is going to get worse especially with his father and grandmother filling his head with lies about his mother and I (a whole nother problem)

We're already working with a lawyer to limit the time his father spends with him, we don't want to remove him from his life totally (that's his choice to make once he's old enough) because we have no doubt that his father loves him and he loves his father but dad wants to be best friend and not a parent and it's critical at this age to have continuity and no matter how hard we try we're just not getting it.

So please, if you have any tips / pointers / resources for parenting with an uncooperative Co-parent, send them our way.",6.820320512820513,6.200901826923079,6.763364102564104,79.91496923076923,64.91880341880342,9.710222222222225,31.96786324786325,8.954980946260402,2.414065196581196,1877,62,377,26,25,597,239,468,0.138,0.764,0.098,-0.9493,7,0,0,0,0,0,79,15,1,1,6,19,19,0,2,23,2,23,11,2,3,1,68,45,40,0,6,9,15,1,0,1,1,2,2,7,0,12,42,4,2,3,8,1,12,12,7,1,0,0,3,43,12,58,42,9,65,0,0,0,3,77,11,0,3,39,225,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742530188946084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060037202737806016,0.0925750989342936,0.0,0.0,0.0875555444569593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577227975024492,0.07371474815295763,0.05381805300606346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18530047988283715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014941941420908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22815055689440986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697753320045788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18067632022753394,0.0,0.0,0.15638958890020715,0.09122257533626676,0.0984617276087713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993457907406198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675523980647078,0.0,0.06820919840210385,0.0,0.2767533421199552,0.0,0.15052414107145368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908651345964532,0.0,0.09060644663963596,0.0,0.09950423339844196,0.0,0.05917594446416319,0.0,0.08855760692732474,0.0,0.08694348485891829,0.2037393469127618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703886092364276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592251046774797,0.09027795835476304,0.062358696226359915,0.0,0.0,0.0779577598007853,0.07812993525400896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390434724843193,0.0,0.0589312914469314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046868523942502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285000983806749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264083549877596,0.1880424629059612,0.0,0.06714514052513453,0.0,0.0,0.29409197250848823,0.09560464935180464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907330730229549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689546999028798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058652997761049874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20592006116391126,0.10147125458855576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988018905898963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619664863165992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414621182986776,0.2102308852504231,0.07081734443795361,0.0,0.07937931383356195,0.0,0.0,0.09856766584611806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854586652929914,0.0,0.08997051983964953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Diceman01,2018/01/23,"Toy requests for the tooth fairy? I have two kids - my son is 9, my daughter is 6 1/2.   My daughter lost her tooth the other day and she put it under her pillow tonight.   So I've got the cash in hand to swap for the tooth and when I go for the tooth, it turns out she's put it in a plastic bag along with a dollar and a note saying ""Tooth fairy, please can I have a toy?""

I'm not super imaginative when it comes to this tooth fairy stuff, and I'll be glad when they get old enough to realize that the tooth fairy and Santa are ways that mums and dads show love for their kids - but for right now, I've got to figure out how to respond to this note.

I don't have any toys on hand and, even if I did, I'm not sure I want my daughter buying her toys from the tooth fairy - assuming that's what the dollar was even for.

Has anyone else had their kids sending money to the tooth fairy?   How did you deal with it?   Any ideas on what I can do?",3.658201320132015,3.2538796881188112,4.2938118811881205,94.26005775577559,71.42574257425744,7.327392739273927,22.278877887788774,5.985473137389443,0.019335313531353204,715,11,180,3,12,228,105,202,0.039,0.8909999999999999,0.07,0.797,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,1,3,2,9,5,0,0,13,0,16,12,11,2,1,26,27,15,0,2,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,14,13,0,0,5,5,5,5,3,1,0,1,7,3,20,4,24,19,1,21,0,1,0,1,24,8,0,2,7,109,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544110604874888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079496951721467,0.1916625379416607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611334930215613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063662757357743,0.19284809273871986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562625579265966,0.0,0.0,0.19328042508120669,0.0,0.2470994597685333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772983535126364,0.0,0.10630910117014873,0.0,0.29921397864704746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21116517495946327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419538338425414,0.0,0.16882671789062642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962854041236756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053329881406448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760889528773825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974610273775208,0.0,0.14875565037845634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21413611093012808,0.0,0.0,0.17629950186999174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20346487030875365,0.1827280196336559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033137366969027,0.14847755509574964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acmonte,2018/01/23,"Horror times - diaper change My son (1.5) eats A LOT and poops A LOT. Average poop diaper change is at 5-7 times. (Is that average for everyone?)
Anyways, I never thought much about it because again he eats tons. Also changing his diaper has always been a struggle and he never liked it and I never thought much of that either - I mean I don't like it either. (To change the diaper I mean) 

Let's get to the reason why I post here: 
So my son will start crying already when I lay him down to change his diaper. He will start getting back up and kick me (all normal to me) but since I would say about a month or two he will scream bloody murder as soon as I start to clean him up with wipes. He screams so much that he can't even breath anymore. I'll hurry but even when we are done he is not calming down. He will just wonder around the apartment and scream his lungs out for about 10 minutes. 

I usually have to sit with him afterwards or carry him in order for him to calm down. 

Eventually it seemed to me like he might be in pain when I wipe? I'd use different wipes, I'd use cream, I'd give him a new toy as distraction, I'd tell him a story or sing, I even gave him food once (maybe it would come right back out and I'd save one more diaper change who knows?) I really try to make those few minutes of changing his diaper a good time but I have no success. 
I talked to our kid doctor because I wasn't sure if he might be in pain somehow and he said the skin looks fine to him. He is also never red so there is that. 

I don't know ... Again maybe I am just starting to overreact and you'll all tell me it's ridiculous but somehowe I just feel like I need another opinion. I mean we change his diaper 5-7 times a day, sometimes more than that... Shouldn't he get used to it by now? 

Completely normal or can I do anything different?",1.4862004487658922,3.2837881884816795,3.0922258788332115,92.33239267015708,79.41884816753927,6.564667165295439,20.338369483919227,7.554174236665415,0.5052088855646968,1416,36,319,21,35,467,186,382,0.157,0.787,0.055,-0.9892,3,0,0,0,0,0,47,3,1,0,1,29,20,2,2,12,0,31,11,5,5,7,67,58,28,1,7,15,2,2,4,0,10,3,5,1,1,14,16,3,0,11,2,0,1,11,9,0,2,7,10,46,11,40,38,13,44,0,0,3,0,42,14,0,14,30,205,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675532469087087,0.11124571322955036,0.05787506998539469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293415200348348,0.0,0.0,0.06897955780424303,0.0,0.0,0.05723757946579214,0.06191841626619124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696651910890448,0.0,0.0847997810137196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5886370744472736,0.059915202496035935,0.07292676408549856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640255564171955,0.044857017830194926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533968412100245,0.0,0.07119216757344976,0.0,0.07117859181738675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234361458536382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782064074082695,0.0,0.0,0.0664624823969045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03516893871509295,0.04968988099540726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841058014179359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901835673962,0.06672319192313389,0.0,0.058339169935322635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645087193342523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112437807799442,0.0,0.13592362335841085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058408417762136976,0.0,0.0,0.11826581209412672,0.0,0.0,0.04642829246342707,0.0,0.1397540601112604,0.2272963284705547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757305869569046,0.0,0.0,0.055517886126006034,0.0,0.15339209003169044,0.05157391774208084,0.21457944450673874,0.06717634837645894,0.0,0.0,0.13629764725092286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740734697049958,0.047132054772236816,0.0,0.1480221780181921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666141617184967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044558512380413334,0.07151380068888427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059399321109511675,0.06616243347565187,0.05531267738149341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331997310312919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575363543451227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879136215881973,0.0,0.19692465668595432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271365889888398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065554467643033,0.0,0.0,0.05590542126881032,0.1215877212008926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104373014097908,0.16223158510643304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04722306555265146,0.0,0.06794482073683555,0.0,0.0,0.18021874761507645,0.07660465912177614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276228484221551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542908908127534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988193054711311,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skinnyjeansfatpants,2018/01/23,"Well, it finally happened About to use the nose-frida on my daughter before her bedtime this evening and while hubby has her pinned (not exactly her favorite hygiene activity) I stick the nose end of the snot sucker in my mouth! I wash it after every use, but still, eww!",11.083529411764708,7.71122647058824,10.319705882352944,66.49367647058826,58.80392156862745,12.55294117647059,43.147058823529406,10.125756701596842,4.443305882352941,214,9,37,3,2,69,42,51,0.043,0.877,0.081,0.2344,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,3,0,1,3,2,2,1,6,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,7,1,6,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,27,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825982349365027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941478514296826,0.0,0.0,0.21935326093912655,0.0,0.27981411348908136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638065202076207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29368074790658577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26522074018549385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5736669015502832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986036957614101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigteadude,2018/01/23,"""This is my room, why do you care if it's messy or clean?"" I used to say this to my mother as an excuse for being a complete slob. I wasn't clean in any aspect. There were piles of dirty plates, dirty clothes, and everything else covering every inch of space in my room. You could not see my floor at all.

I have an infant daughter and I do not want her to become who I used to be, but I also would not know what to say if she said this to me in the future. 

What would you say to your child if they used this excuse?",3.139107142857142,3.034466839285713,4.135714285714286,93.90928571428572,72.57142857142857,7.114285714285713,20.464285714285715,6.18269132825596,-0.1364964285714283,394,5,98,2,7,128,73,112,0.081,0.8759999999999999,0.043,-0.4678,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,3,1,19,19,9,0,7,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,4,2,8,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,18,1,15,11,1,10,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,4,1,69,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607745921686025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367166253153541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22203699618830347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049774738490528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210790517920064,0.0,0.0,0.1605170532602376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679462326986364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169388007067088,0.0,0.18068513431953595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048837208376608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19123861855208346,0.4796341120711621,0.0,0.0,0.16020581753473187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5209116793410724,0.0,0.0,0.11858079633506473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141068911582087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856313843342845,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aplamae,2018/01/23,"PhD Program and Parenting I was raised very religious and conservative so I didn’t look for an actual career when I was younger, and instead thought about maybe part time work like teaching. I was 18 when I got married to my first husband, and the divorce three years later threw me into full time work as a young mom. I finished my bachelor’s, worked, started a business, and then decided to go back to grad school to peruse the career of my dreams. I’m no stranger to working my ass off as a mom, but I’m 2 years into a PhD program and really struggling. My supervisor knew I had kids and a family going in, but it’s very competitive and you’re expected to work really long hours, including weekends. One of my kids has ADD and has been struggling at school, which adds to the guilt of having to work so much. 

I really don’t want to quit... I’m the oldest student in my particular program and I feel like this is my one shot at this. Anyone else have advice for surviving a doctoral program with kids? ",3.645075757575757,5.3871011212121225,4.969583333333336,81.47437500000005,73.14141414141416,8.384343434343435,28.536616161616163,9.017664075816787,2.424807070707071,794,32,153,17,16,264,117,198,0.077,0.85,0.073,-0.416,1,0,0,0,1,0,20,0,0,0,9,7,5,0,3,11,0,12,2,1,0,0,24,25,19,0,2,2,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,15,0,1,4,2,0,3,3,3,0,4,10,2,18,2,25,15,3,28,0,0,1,1,8,8,1,0,19,97,22,20,0.0,0.0,0.12162244359436522,0.0,0.0,0.12178853737999365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714529844700486,0.12769978181644134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583399184239283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756570305012932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411369257449432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749156153892235,0.0,0.06301747152296107,0.08903682553444736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601155813690738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416619979086598,0.0,0.09967925970303007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273700101443202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121777389043167,0.0,0.0,0.11029502622409737,0.10465913779328992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520917356400058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29193399999363834,0.0,0.0,0.09161855146978656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689071679694117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383886202502041,0.13496385569911068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256102635557968,0.0,0.0,0.23952654424284506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25226762510465994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821487368021091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605839753147988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894355290393596,0.14534735292114515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056682116724556,0.07351093487771873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5443996468352715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605173024097269
parenting,EducatedLatte,2018/01/23,"1 and I don't want to be done. Advice? I have a beautiful, perfect 2.5 yo son. He's a handful, but he's a really good kid. 

I desperately want another. Like, I can feel it in my bones, in my belly, I can't hold other babies without weeping -not for joy- for fear. My husband wants no more. 

He says maybe some day, maybe. Im 29, he is 32, plenty of time to work with. But I know my husband, he is the most stubborn man alive. He jokes with his buddies about not wanting more, he clams up with me when I mention it. I don't honestly believe he will ever come around. 

I feel so betrayed. He sold me a false bill of goods. He knows how badly I want another, he walks away when I get upset about it. 

I could just make it happen, but that isnt fair to him, and he would always suspect it. 

Anyone been through this? Any bit of wisdom from the other side?",-0.009525139664802396,2.0476789273743035,2.271449720670393,94.71834776536316,86.54189944134077,4.920782122905028,19.5645251396648,6.2581,-0.03867173184357586,644,19,147,6,20,218,117,179,0.226,0.6459999999999999,0.128,-0.9645,0,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,0,0,2,9,13,1,2,6,0,14,2,2,2,2,34,28,9,0,7,7,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,9,7,0,2,5,1,2,2,8,5,0,0,3,4,20,8,21,21,5,13,0,1,0,0,21,6,0,2,6,88,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300454245769285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028401976435136,0.0,0.0,0.10647724922424126,0.3283677930243886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948178542140373,0.0,0.0,0.1393860978593645,0.0,0.0,0.1471085824921207,0.0,0.1307346653851028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640786531453914,0.0,0.0,0.17094076026273755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487661316260308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501343011727814,0.0,0.0,0.10097875646688294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023191100201434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163222218388502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619186167391473,0.15833935778582134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180465122389834,0.0,0.0,0.2626575335738695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845989977971393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16912926626502706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210047283726565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649526832770309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451589215281648,0.0,0.3146038654342653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030678337157736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245157535880003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130089624834356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4617637750878453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093396008329327,0.0,0.11398940692624294,0.0,0.0,0.11122730694191243,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cora17,2018/01/23,"My mother the “doctor”. My mom lives across the country from me. We talk on the phone quite often, but’s she’s only truly met her granddaughter (6mo) twice.

She has always worked in HR, but the past couple of years it’s been in a hospital setting. She hires nurses and docs so of course by proxy she believes herself to be a physician. 

It seems every conversation now includes some of her medical “advice”. What’s even worse is she talks about my medical issues (I recently had surgery) and my daughters health (she is an incredibly healthy baby) with the nurses she sees at work. These are Nurses - not docs- who have never seen me or my daughter. They don’t have any medical history besides whatever my mother tells them (which isn’t much), yet they give medical advice. Much of it has been contrary to our actual (wonderful) doctors say. 

Of course I don’t listen. But it infuriates me that she does this at all. Today she told me I was feeding my child wrong. In the past I’ve heard: I’m not giving her enough pain med (Motrin- I haven’t given any), I’m not burping her enough, I’m wrong for exclusively breastfeeding, and I’m not letting her learn to self soothe when I tend her crying.

Also it’s important to note she was a terrible mother. She was distant and careless in my younger years. 


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parenting,android692,2018/01/24,"Recommendations on first chapter books for my 5 y/o I never really liked reading as a child or teenager and barely even as an adult, however the importance of reading is overwhelming. I have read to my daughter almost every single night since she was able to understand what a book is, but no chapter books. A recent post mentioned The lion, the witch and the wardrobe as one of those great books to read to children.

So I'm curious what you other fellow parents think are good chapter books to read to my child??? 

Other books mentioned were Hobbit, maybe lotr when she may be a bit older and the other chronicles of Narnia.

I also welcome any tips for this big transition. ",6.518571428571431,7.3800035158730175,6.7540873015873,74.69160714285714,65.42857142857143,9.157142857142855,32.41666666666667,9.188382445141503,2.9664952380952383,537,21,90,9,8,173,86,126,0.058,0.8,0.142,0.9236,2,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,0,1,4,6,0,1,10,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,11,11,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,7,3,0,0,2,11,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,9,4,15,7,2,9,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,3,7,63,16,11,0.15431156397498152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452074106171002,0.0,0.0,0.12340290195956025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493715507198992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846826151600902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192133265845443,0.0,0.13001414805210298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312573374870203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942921859965031,0.0,0.17012904405009374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538883558000611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502670689677653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901459114367086,0.0,0.0,0.1448109494384963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456550936411252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713447302518257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778782263193485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7717666143785706,0.0,0.09885593925579476,0.0,0.1523640531395055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764812033180745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988766193673065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064378018754946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Seekwithin,2018/01/24,"My kids know I use medical marijuana! I have a 10 year old and an 8 year old. I struggle with various physical ailments that contribute to by mental ailments. Never did I think that I would consider using marijuana. Since I have started I have been able to cut out completely the prescribed drugs that have and continue to kill many people of all ages. Am I wrong for being open about my use of marijuana? I am afraid they may start using marijuana early for recreational use. However, I know I could only protect them from so much and  so much is out of my control. ",4.901388888888889,6.452481731481483,6.3916666666666675,73.28250000000003,69.64814814814815,10.214814814814817,32.01851851851852,10.411451182825502,3.690996296296296,449,20,80,13,8,153,70,108,0.119,0.856,0.025,-0.8718,1,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,1,3,5,2,2,3,0,13,2,0,6,2,21,23,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,16,0,14,17,4,13,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,10,59,19,0,0.14866054793157416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586775612097098,0.0,0.16673544536822688,0.11869335090448185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723990390003168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447087039368202,0.0,0.1633998986679877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507184624069783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975986215819995,0.1498148669809947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185652156631644,0.0,0.11465617919690645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31198847531668783,0.0,0.0,0.11306304560281225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306250582713436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12297354146471234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21044540195521846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554122823635393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525567646471804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6419749126388586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560418797109923,0.1625369720393933,0.0,0.19146503768082915
parenting,deadtired2018,2018/01/24,"Daughter [4] wakes us up every night about 3 AM... Help? I've read through variations of this problem, and they all seem to be solved without need for further escalation, but we're running into problems finding a good solution.

Problem: We have a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. Our daughter gets out of her bed every night about 3 AM (as early as midnight, as late as 5 AM) and comes into our room to wake us up. Her excuses vary, but lately she has stuck on ""I need help pulling my blankets up."" 

We've told her no, and let her go back to her room screaming (which wakes up her 2 year old brother, who's room is adjacent).

We've shut our door, which results in more screaming.

We've taken away her night lights and told her she can earn them back if she stays in her bed all night.

We've taken away bed time stories. 

But, we've been woken up every night for the past 2 weeks in the middle of the night by a quiet whisper of ""mommy... daddy... i need help pulling my blankets up.""

So, I can't figure out where to go from here.

Ideas:

Lock her door -- downside: she is potty trained and we don't want her to be trapped and unable to use the bathroom. She's also smart and will use this for manipulation.

Put up a gate in the hallway so she can't get to our room -- downside: she'll cry and wake up her brother, who is infinitely harder to put down.

Offer rewards -- downside: I don't want to incentivize her for something that she should already be doing.

Set up a consequence chart so she can visualize the consequences: downside: I don't know what else to take away from her. We've taken away treats, night lights, iPad time, TV... all that is left is her comfort blankie for bed time, and that seems like a big betrayal.

Anyone go through similar?",2.4630470046082955,4.3588310742857175,3.4452258064516137,90.47132258064518,76.82857142857144,6.0018433179723525,25.57603686635945,6.828538100315305,0.9309419354838708,1356,50,284,13,31,434,167,350,0.136,0.78,0.084,-0.9555,0,1,1,0,0,0,67,8,0,2,2,10,11,0,0,13,0,26,4,4,4,3,44,50,22,0,10,5,6,0,1,0,3,0,4,11,0,10,17,0,0,6,2,0,9,7,5,0,1,8,6,41,6,54,35,4,68,0,0,0,0,49,33,0,3,25,171,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114859187429916,0.06605333345773487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05775421712663807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31041295067447405,0.12702503225332049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115058611727446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072967107347553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899976147835495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20877631901208832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549278154073838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630775558817785,0.0,0.14082649204739656,0.06927901369887063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609044794729105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324272492443383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045393523852312594,0.0,0.18634755754352172,0.0,0.0897426191001494,0.0844617221782859,0.0,0.040353053424856726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373539550113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5425862800462126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600171067066143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884883001522625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23710446908594396,0.0,0.16606696055349066,0.0,0.0,0.08262003035844405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503876482605819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358772807712218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803813504761425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062103174638864014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444901112679319,0.0,0.0,0.15785124243422718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870967391054373,0.14267574825696044,0.0,0.0,0.09743650133212288,0.0,0.06625487527993973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962121433150883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595705901723069
parenting,Hokupogo,2018/01/24,"Parents of older teens and/or young adults: What is your biggest parenting regret? For the sake of the question I am talking about parents who have kids between the ages of 15 and 22. 

My kids are still young and, like most parents of little ones, I worry about the decisions I am making. I am sure a lot of them won't make a difference either way. I am sure a lot of my decisions will even be beneficial to them. I also know that I will mess up. 

It is awesome if you don't have any major regrets, but I am interested in hearing from those who do have some. I'm interested in seeing what some of them are in order to avoid it with my own kids. ",3.8156060606060613,4.543132984848487,5.237575757575758,83.63469696969699,71.42424242424242,7.987878787878787,27.54545454545455,8.167268648758528,1.6726454545454552,502,17,105,7,9,169,80,132,0.075,0.799,0.126,0.7677,4,1,0,0,0,0,13,0,2,3,0,5,9,0,1,7,0,18,0,0,2,2,22,24,5,0,3,3,4,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,4,8,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,2,16,5,19,20,8,13,0,2,1,0,18,6,0,7,6,83,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856096483663618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932337642827676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796161827011127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618149699834947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118996668668752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835035142506932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853997990462372,0.16112532094108725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733474660481657,0.0,0.0,0.21461918492083307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893619646716232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7140267689350335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800897439548077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281061528248705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283843928617101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030317435117741,0.0,0.0,0.12921405579172818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760504685432955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326117203198687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SexWomble,2018/01/24,"Youngest son afraid to experiment Hi there,

I wonder if anyone else has seen this behavior, I'm just starting to become concerned about it.  I have two sons.  My elder son has approached technology much like I did at his age.  He immediately figured out how all the devices in the house worked and has a very exploring nature.  He plays with everything until he understands how it works.  My younger son though is very very reluctant to experiment.  He's 6 and he still can't work any device.  He doesn't use any technology unless shown how to use it each time.  We have the same concerns as lots of parents with kids and technology and we limit screen time etc etc, but to not show any interest?  Seems unusual.  Technology isn't the only thing either, it's taken a very long time to persuade him that drawing might be fun.  Just lately he's started to want to draw but he's still very afraid of new things.  He seems bright, and chatty but he seems to have a strong fear of ""getting things wrong"" and I'm not sure where that's come from.  His perfectionism is getting in the way of his learning it seems to me.

Does anyone else have a kid like this?  Or have any ideas that might give him confidence to explore and discover a little more?",3.5516246498599457,5.700883798319333,4.249327731092439,84.78292717086836,74.46218487394958,7.390476190476193,25.19887955182073,8.269060116576782,1.5761938375350135,976,33,191,17,21,311,134,238,0.064,0.8220000000000001,0.115,0.9143,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,2,0,0,5,11,12,0,3,10,0,17,0,0,5,2,49,36,19,0,2,11,5,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,13,14,0,1,11,2,0,4,5,4,0,1,3,3,13,8,26,30,9,23,0,0,3,0,26,6,0,10,14,113,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667907134295271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715945825479148,0.20098884512799736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832151628265424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844871277967259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583035963209415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386630059116347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876997391907316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881478674960484,0.19188187576361446,0.0,0.11036712729464117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248537326464256,0.09408715331285494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317100738750208,0.0,0.11072024064314727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106383711501487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583374551755773,0.09830180133897597,0.0,0.0867976030531063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833840024244359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080944960538426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209999339968151,0.0,0.0,0.0947261545277222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459416464762297,0.0,0.0,0.10890609430690656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35715293860540764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388428807935128,0.0,0.15665342986942832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243912153630283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954797326141563,0.0,0.09636297928846536,0.0,0.17157349169177213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580978639099906,0.10210460893200897,0.0,0.16941904254465007,0.0,0.4046308434869347,0.05785005148477802,0.07785123959698086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636344071810427,0.2142099515541679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723494656445927,0.0,0.0
parenting,w0nd3rk,2018/01/24,"New parent of a 7 year old- I have no idea how to do peer-related parenting things, help! My husband and I, who were previously child free, got custody of my niece last year. It's a really long story (though anyone interested can find the story in my comments), but so far the three of us have pretty much settled into a routine as a real 'family'. 

My kid was 'home schooled' when she was with her mother, although it didn't amount to any substantial learning. When my husband and I got custody of her, we immediately enrolled her in Catholic school (as we didn't have a birth certificate or SS card for her to enroll in public school AND we lived in a pretty bad neighborhood). We then moved and enrolled our child in public school in a nice area (the same public school system I actually went through!). Unfortunately, the quality of education she got at the Catholic school was not up to public school system's standards, and in October we went for a meeting where we found out that she was falling very far behind. We made the difficult decision to move her back to first grade, and she started the second week in November. 

Since then, she's been struggling with making friends. While I am under no illusions that my child is an angel, I do believe her when she says that a lot of the problems stem from other children being mean to her. I'm doing what I can to try to make it a little easier (spending time with her at home, getting her the 'in' toys that the other girls excluded her over, etc), but I still have some questions and am not sure who to turn to.

- Is there anything else I can do to make her social life easier? My husband and I talk to her often about how important it is to be nice and turn the other cheek and stuff like that, but that only addresses any issues with HER behavior.

- I'd like to do playdates for my child, but I have no idea how to invite other children over or anything like that, so any advice on this would be massively helpful. (I have pretty bad social anxiety, but I would do whatever needs to be done for her)

- On the above topic, our house isn't particularly ""child friendly"". I mean, it's not child UNfriendly, but... we live with my mom right now and her house is on the market. So all of our kid's stuff is tucked away neatly, and she doesn't have much interactive stuff to do with another child. What do I do about this if I want to have a playdate? Do I let them figure it out? Do I take them out? 

- And, lastly, the main reason I'm writing this post right now... she just got her first ever invitation to a birthday party. It's at a sports place a few towns over. So... what's the protocol with birthday parties? Do I just drop her? Or do I have to stay? Would it be weird if I brought my husband with me?

I'm sorry if these seem like stupid concerns, I just want to do the best I can for this kid. My anxiety makes this stuff difficult, but after everything she's been through, I just want her to be as happy as she can possibly be.

Thanks in advance for any help :)",5.615104091888014,5.580193482412058,6.2619507059105075,80.54813065326637,67.27470686767168,9.368920794448432,30.12246949030869,9.081645337920577,2.301426647523331,2347,78,475,38,35,769,257,597,0.086,0.759,0.155,0.9932,2,0,0,0,0,0,85,12,0,2,4,25,23,1,1,31,0,58,2,1,9,3,91,87,45,0,11,20,8,0,4,2,3,1,1,3,13,35,33,0,0,12,2,2,7,10,8,0,4,19,1,78,16,81,57,11,72,1,0,0,0,83,35,0,11,29,356,113,11,0.0,0.0,0.06336983184989815,0.0,0.0,0.06345637291054063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766394624559674,0.06809284479814857,0.0993543318271496,0.0,0.0,0.045405952601265946,0.0,0.1068763948883571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101111064426237,0.049933086107129536,0.1084405409898956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731625552152945,0.06814811414157934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645381720953711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424711917252883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242270560661543,0.0,0.05873987113509568,0.0,0.0,0.05836182126052434,0.0,0.0612174881417069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593518851248608,0.11047195591115,0.0,0.07120084079479737,0.10034141824459984,0.0,0.03392727020059403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20774645664481609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069127393553129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305791227414864,0.0,0.13027562386895727,0.0,0.0,0.14985878371519235,0.0,0.14661352742599887,0.0,0.06777809176166259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586579196413703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640320213222473,0.04586742085979515,0.12690112842203494,0.06508463928058242,0.1146823649131372,0.05746782468055079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0552077138530914,0.0,0.0614456257713983,0.17338568701281096,0.0,0.0,0.1414723938655904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605425423191434,0.0,0.13803700522682005,0.09547336872025483,0.04815048478628039,0.0,0.06271723929670295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814119678193675,0.0,0.0,0.049388050192341375,0.0,0.0,0.1442112711440562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784607952520431,0.0,0.0,0.073207504331987,0.062192370112697286,0.19819497186455146,0.0,0.06213661281944785,0.0,0.0,0.07274509031213487,0.0,0.0,0.073913323967332,0.04160075608764125,0.0667667752002018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091288901891087,0.0,0.051641068729066784,0.0,0.460042964033871,0.0,0.059116846946110885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371713990020203,0.0,0.0,0.13239162311574795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269244324017915,0.04596324121244645,0.06921495236115098,0.05185933439795077,0.0,0.0,0.06788698783898578,0.2973525400556973,0.0,0.0,0.06120301763197439,0.0,0.048825071905265166,0.05219446677943685,0.0,0.059785913302915036,0.0,0.0,0.04314172514494434,0.0,0.0638009645964168,0.0,0.03786569749067063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04408843847825792,0.1412671495144323,0.0,0.0,0.07811206249416593,0.0,0.0,0.05358040672994913,0.11490582111307795,0.0,0.052089109267419664,0.0,0.0,0.12039580461442162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838964557067546,0.0,0.0,0.0836355047809195
parenting,pretty_robot,2018/01/24,"Parent of a persistently problematic child, anyone else with the same? Firstly, I love my son. He is an amazing young man; smart, enthusiastic, and kind. So if he’s so wonderful, why does he make us so angry all the time? I recently considered the situation, and I concluded it is like this: think about your life rules, the way you want to live and as a parent expect the rest of the household to follow. There’s the common “bedtime is at 8, brush your teeth every night before bed, don’t talk to strangers” rules, but also the personal ones that are somewhat unique to your family. Now imagine that one member of your family will stretch and break those rules (and often the other ones too) for twelve years straight. You try discipline, but that does nothing to curb the unwanted behaviour; you try rewarding good behaviour, with the same results; he’s older now so you sit him down and have an ethical discussion that he’s now capable of understanding. He says he gets it, and promises to follow the rules from now on. The next morning, he’s already broken one of them before anyone else in the house has gotten up out of bed. His sister, who is a year younger, follows the rules to what you can imagine is the statistical norm, so why doesn’t her brother?  
You get him help. He sees behavioural specialists, but the road is long and change is slow (and if it’s happening, it’s imperceptible). You tell him you love him, you ground him from hanging out with his friend on the weekend, and you explain to him (again) that when he eats someone’s candy that they got as a present for Christmas that was safely hidden away in their room, it hurts their feelings. He puts his head down, says he feels bad about it, and the next day there’s a good possibility it’s just going to happen again.  
I know that either over time and with help, love, and understanding he will get better. Or he’ll turn 18 and go to university, because who knows, maybe he’ll just never change. What my struggle is that even though the love is unconditional, the frustration and anger just silently grows. I know that this is a deeply personal and difficult question to ask and I hope it doesn't come to this, but has anyone else experienced such a prolonged exposure to difficult behaviour that it destroyed the relationship with your child?
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parenting,Poodlepied,2018/01/24,"What to do with a tween during the summer when mom and dad have to work? Parents of tweens, what do you do with your kids when you are still working full time but the kids are on summer break?  Previously, we have sent her to daycare, but she is now the oldest one there and hates it.  Last summer, we did 2 days a week at daycare, 3 days a week at the YMCA camp, but that wasn't a good solution.  9 (almost 10) isn't old enough to be left home alone, but is too old for daycare and camps where they are outside literally ALL DAY are not enjoyable when we hit 90 degrees with 90% humidity. How do you handle this???",6.676428571428571,4.769720928571432,7.022222222222222,82.12000000000002,65.9047619047619,9.987301587301587,30.523809523809533,8.344100000000001,1.888342857142857,471,12,106,5,6,154,83,126,0.125,0.875,0.0,-0.943,1,1,0,0,0,0,18,3,4,1,2,9,3,1,0,8,0,16,0,0,1,1,17,19,11,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,3,0,10,2,12,14,3,26,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,18,72,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020762864215344,0.20900677052305103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904382035397934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20851616811565715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926255769517135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923841915974813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242459485395656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449616137543674,0.0,0.0,0.21925925950938369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363489215035497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4235160421207255,0.0,0.13674675435084405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407805288327354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115992298698115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767279627264066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237479591843553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938295856808585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Szyger,2018/01/24,"Call me a bad parent, but my 1 month old son settles immediately and starts smiling to my rendition of this classic song: I will sing to him, to the original tune:

“Mr Hanky, the Christmas Poo,
He’s so yellow, he comes from you.
In explosions, POW POW POW (gently shake baby during this line),
Here comes Mr Poo!”

I just had to teach my wife this song as it appears to be the only song he currently really enjoys.",7.18611111111111,5.821955234567902,8.040833333333335,73.48125,64.55555555555556,11.062962962962963,32.595679012345684,10.125756701596842,3.0424049382716047,318,10,62,6,4,108,61,81,0.049,0.812,0.139,0.8699,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,7,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,4,8,1,9,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,11,1,0,1,5,33,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757438271384577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372207942975468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5689599372190294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26360132060703195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465404029697121,0.0,0.0,0.2511689788823796,0.0,0.0,0.3667020420478094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115657408335608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337516933042418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brwonsugal,2018/01/24,"Whats the largest size clothes you buy ahead of time for your children? I buy most of baby's clothes at the thrift store or clearance. Right now old navy has 2T tops for $2 and I want to buy a bunch but hubby says that this is too large to buy now for a 4 month old (wearing size 3-6 months).

This makes sense, but we are planning to have children yearly and I'm not sure we'll be in the financial position to be buying 4 sets of childrens clothes in the future. What size is the largest size to buy early that is reasonable?",3.896071428571428,3.9794428928571435,4.3464285714285715,92.39857142857143,70.96428571428572,7.4714285714285715,28.5,6.868970318607317,1.1077,412,14,97,3,7,130,72,112,0.024,0.94,0.036000000000000004,-0.1288,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,2,0,3,3,1,0,0,7,0,9,1,1,2,1,12,12,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,15,9,2,17,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,11,53,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425224220657225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645647423299519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6107346224283192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992079914089581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24852198301628256,0.0,0.2314237942794837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742746211558044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969097661988838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164595131510454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874016778625067
parenting,dukeblanc,2018/01/24,"My daughter thinks it's rude when I try to correct her math homework... she says her teacher said the homework was all right and that the teacher is older than i am (implying that she knows better than i do)... this is simple subtraction... she's almost 7... how can i explain to her that it's not rude to teach her, even though the teacher said it was all correct?",4.152083333333334,5.092275597222223,4.612111111111112,87.64399999999998,70.80555555555556,6.871111111111111,29.677777777777766,6.742157984588678,1.4629577777777785,281,11,57,2,5,89,44,72,0.085,0.8740000000000001,0.041,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,4,11,12,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,7,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,3,12,1,5,8,2,3,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,2,42,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32763478486398184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893740811315302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610674184682493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981576006402045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27941954885471554,0.6224676298509554,0.2601956229666137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209650948422178,0.3214637523504934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22214138858475255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smdkpdabd10,2018/01/24,"My 12-year-old flooded our upstairs bathroom and it’s going to cost thousands to repair the damage. We were running late for school and as we were getting in the car, my 12-year-old daughter exclaims that she needs to go to the bathroom. I hand her my house key and she dashes inside, then rushes back out a minute later. We leave, drop her off at school, then I head to work. 

My husband got home around 3 pm and called me; my daughter was at her after school music lesson and I was still at work. My daughter had left the faucet running in the upstairs bathroom (at full strength, too, it wasn’t a trickle) and flooded the bathroom, and the dining room ceiling was caving in. He called his contractor friend to come look at it, and his friend estimated it’ll cost about $5k to fix. Our insurance won’t cover all of it and we’re going to have to replace our dining set and the carpet in the dining room as well. 

When I picked up my daughter I asked her why she left the faucet running. She said she didn’t. I told her (quite sharply) that the flooded bathroom and caved-in ceiling beg to differ. She started crying and said she didn’t realize it was still going. I asked her how that was possible, considering the faucet was going at full strength and the stopper was on. She had no answer for that. When we got home she was sent to her room and was only allowed to come out for a peanut butter sandwich for dinner. She’s at school now and I’m at home losing out on a day of work to be here while the first of the repairs are being done. 

She’s often careless; just to name a few things she’s left her bike in the driveway to be backed over, broken a screen door by running through it, stacked so many things on a shelf in her room that it collapsed and damaged the wall (she admitted that she did that on purpose to see how much weight the shelf would hold), spilled slime on the hardwood floors and half-assed the cleanup job, and just the other day she wiped her bright pink lip gloss off on my living room curtains. I could seriously go on and on for hours about the things of ours (and hers) she’s lost or ruined. 

In the past we’ve made her help repair things and do the cleanup, but obviously this isn’t something she can really help with. I’m at a loss for what punishment there should be because obviously I haven’t gotten through to her in the past. I’m already taking away all electronics and removing the TV from her bedroom; she can have her cell phone during the day at school but on evenings and weekends she will give it to me. I’m not sure how long I should do that for though, or if I need to ground her as well (we’ve never really done that, other than the time she stole one of my expensive eyeshadow palettes and took it to a sleepover where it was ruined; we said no sleepovers for the rest of the year for that one). 

Overall this tendency to be careless with things and ruin them needs to end, and I’m not sure how best to impress that upon her. I’ve been lenient and ‘talked it out’ for way too long; every time I sit her down she always promises to do better, but then the next day something else is broken or ruined or lost. How can I best make her see the gravity of what she’s done? My husband’s suggestions all involve publicly shaming her and I’m not sure how effective that would be but I also am at my wits end and starting to wonder if that might actually be the kick in the ass she needs. ",5.380938494167552,5.406616239130441,5.424139271827504,86.14894485683986,67.76811594202898,8.00706963591375,29.72781901732061,7.313800181584829,1.560621774478614,2695,89,563,22,41,845,288,690,0.114,0.833,0.054000000000000006,-0.9917,2,0,2,0,0,0,66,9,0,1,16,30,30,1,1,43,0,51,10,4,11,9,97,94,57,0,11,15,6,2,0,2,8,0,3,13,0,36,43,6,2,6,3,3,18,12,15,2,4,34,12,82,15,96,44,10,112,0,10,6,1,84,55,1,9,35,397,118,9,0.0,0.0,0.06580391688352476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441290244799942,0.053925355925783965,0.05610883615357229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002878742168516,0.12607965781745487,0.0,0.06335459534303667,0.10370211035795003,0.0,0.04110592885639994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153147350504305,0.059638135132491485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771124795126774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617341562806095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053838974880676085,0.0,0.07407089921959939,0.173952277856938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045210074921053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20701908163212315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05633079364412874,0.0,0.11944949614749666,0.0,0.0,0.04453820820063452,0.0,0.05681437873636702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057357635270018574,0.0,0.0,0.10419561096173643,0.0,0.03523044330704445,0.06468693073206218,0.22993899959022185,0.0,0.10786308063972104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920469882253921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039651296490077,0.0,0.20291941941698505,0.0,0.06640694903502964,0.07780748867393816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691586734207396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606624707945148,0.07140076468058999,0.21979523621396815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954370233004073,0.11935041796270808,0.056625907200322775,0.07543917339568977,0.1472200142775776,0.0,0.0,0.06380580053762222,0.04501139187180197,0.06836547666527315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153470892672417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04957028791506773,0.19999993096291674,0.0520077249875962,0.0,0.07171471014969001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415171073833196,0.0,0.09138735346545587,0.0512850840064428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874297178728705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760194620955128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172224552065684,0.0,0.0,0.0863973476327705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242985660374026,0.0,0.0,0.3412239826835776,0.10746916680568323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382491509727866,0.0,0.0,0.09545745084523488,0.0,0.10770258436035772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906616208868077,0.0,0.0507004812810049,0.054199297259765064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22399416352990928,0.0,0.06625160977759585,0.0,0.078640297367833,0.0,0.0,0.06443417755017278,0.07491944688303333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352439271352707,0.0,0.08211402477068365,0.12125895475054127,0.0,0.060846902780841414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312714095278901,0.1472739243393567,0.0,0.0,0.09580353373030467,0.0,0.0,0.13027201535309368
parenting,Yeards,2018/01/24,"I'm A Father - Struggle with In-Laws Hi everyone, I appreciate anybody who takes the time to read this and offer me any advice. I am struggling a lot with this and need help.

I have two children (one 14 month old and a newly 4 month old). I love my children and I love my wife. When it is us two or just us and the kids we have a good family dynamic and get along and agree with each other most of the time. At this time we are living with my parents and have been over the past year. My wife has never come up to me ever with any story of either of my parents being controlling or pushing a certain way with the kids. My parents are the type to sit back and let us parent, and are there to assist us when we need it--which we greatly appreciate. 

The issue I have is when it comes to her parents, and most especially her mother. Because we don't have our own house her parents come to visit from out of town at my parents house and spend the night. To put a long story short, when they are not there I feel like a parent -- I feed my child, I put them to bed, I change them etc. But when her parents are there and involved, my mother in law will take over with the children entirely. She is constantly around them, barges in to feed them all the time, will want to put them down to bed, etc. If there is a moment where I try to take the children or pick them up I always feel as if I'm on edge with them around me and they are just waiting to take the children from me. 

I get that they are grandparents and that they are out of town and like being around the kids, but I just don't feel like I am a parent when they are around...almost as if my mother in law does everything, and I'm just standing around in the background.

Everytime I've also tried to talk to my wife about her parents and her mother she will always get upset...even when I try to approach the subject civil and in a respectful manner. I'd appreciate any input, help and advice with this from anyone who has gone through something similar. :/",4.6554126213592255,4.681636317961168,5.358073786407768,86.00051844660194,69.31553398058253,8.048310679611651,26.674174757281566,7.554174236665415,1.240334640776699,1561,42,336,15,25,507,168,412,0.031,0.894,0.075,0.9395,12,0,1,0,0,0,46,10,0,12,1,25,12,0,2,25,0,31,4,0,2,4,77,54,38,0,6,14,19,3,3,0,3,0,0,2,9,11,45,2,2,3,1,1,10,4,2,0,3,2,3,61,10,57,46,9,60,0,0,0,2,69,23,0,9,27,246,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226900045925033,0.0,0.0,0.057522778460735675,0.0,0.0,0.045938672970748905,0.09559753220268867,0.0,0.0,0.1171935239637882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04016681603147111,0.0,0.0,0.2556907401770951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04417158915619268,0.0,0.03501788334029572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060769096795877,0.14845110774356365,0.0,0.062077538948124136,0.06442935008006379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05027042697781864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813251681548066,0.03794182061677938,0.05196220897103096,0.0,0.054891072294272036,0.051627780137525885,0.0,0.0541539477365386,0.0,0.0871376160460522,0.08207730893120264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003778199948685,0.0,0.0,0.048182064211564325,0.0,0.06333321496770451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700822322815791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256742456319098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995756033712121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05874131146124874,0.0,0.08419404264472782,0.0,0.050724907084006315,0.05083693677661465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488376073799935,0.10369254633783673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917039566102543,0.0,0.0,0.08518934427917937,0.04430505518491104,0.0,0.0,0.053908155668970975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055753743741585,0.0,0.0389261570224006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7016435062416294,0.0,0.05483766566472182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732439997974028,0.0,0.0,0.05746045440535536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04422389745033765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010778302152535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727656898349012,0.04617204187743258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398635358384262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700396727861916,0.0,0.11223065803695284,0.0,0.2763966100739365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03388249567279167,0.04559709492151877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036992637988843266
parenting,bullshitname0906,2018/01/24,"Just came home with my daughter yesterday. So my genetics will be plaguing humanity for a while. My girlfriend and new daughter are sleeping in bed right now and I have an observation I want to throw out for the community.

My girlfriend has a 3 yo boy who I love to death and a daughter who lives with her father a few hours away from us. Her daughter was very excited to see her new half sister via Skype. My stepson, however (Who lives with us) just began coming to terms with the fact that he has to share mommy from now on. We visited my girlfriend's family yesterday and I saw that realization on his face. 

He and I were ""playing my zobies"" when he decided to go and see his mom who was on the couch, nursing my daughter. The look on his face was pretty devastating. He went from happy happy fun time to a blank stare in a microsecond. I sat next to him on the floor and tried to get his attention. He had a couple of tears coming from his face and I saw him gain some wisdom. 

He looked at me and asked if the baby comes home with us. I said that she is. He sat on my lap and silently cried on my chest for a little while. I brought him to a separate room and told him that mommy and I love him very much and that just because the new baby is here doesn't mean that we are going to love him any less. He just has to share me and mommy a little more because his sister was going to need a lot of attention for a while. 

He gave me a hug and asked for a blanket. So I gave one to him. He walked over to mommy and my daughter and put the blanket on my daughter and gave her a kiss. I asked if he wanted to keep playing zombies, but he told me no. And he went to another room and closed the door and played by himself for a good 30 minutes.

Now, this boy is very protective and somewhat possessive of his mom. To see this happen put a smile on my face. He got a little wiser today and I got to witness it firsthand. I hope he comes around soon, but I'm very proud of him and will be taking him on some fun trips more often to help him feel a little bit more important.

I just wanted to share that. 
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parenting,sparkyfrodo,2018/01/24,"My 3yo is classifying his potty poops I'm not just talking about big/little. I'm talking reasonable taxonomy based on shape and consistency. I should make clear these weren't all in the same day:

First, a particularly big, circular, soft deposit that he declared a ""Mushroom poo"". Second, a long, thin number dubbed a ""Racetrack poo"". Third: one that kinked in the middle to form a kind of Boomerang, that he named an ""Arrow poo"". 

Bonus: today he had one that wasn't particularly big or small. He said it was a ""Medium poo, like the Mummy Bear"".

I don't mind admitting that I'm kind of proud he can draw such swift comparisons.


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parenting,SaoilsinnSuz,2018/01/24,"Please help: 2 year old saving a little extra poop for naptime Hi there! I have a 4 year old boy, 2 year old girl, and 1 week old. Our daily schedule right now has the kids eating lunch at 11:30, followed by a bathroom visit, and then to separate rooms. My 4 year old has quiet time in our guest room, and my 2 year old takes a nap in their shared bedroom. 

A few months ago, my 2 year old's natural pooping schedule seemed to settle right around midday, which unfortunately became a bad habit of me changing her diaper, doing the nap-time put-to-bed routine, leaving the room, and then her coming back OUT of the room 15 minutes later to tell me ""I got a lil poopoo."" I'd change her, tell her to go back to bed, and then we'd get on with life. Annoying, but I figured the timing would shift again eventually. She's shown interest in the potty, so about a month ago I started putting her on the potty before naptime, and voila! She pooped in the potty without problem! 

I thought we were now done with poops during naptime. But no, Every Single Day she now poops in the potty, gets a new diaper, gets the goodnight routine, goes to bed, and then poops a tiny nugget out once she's in bed, comes out, and demands to be changed. 

I'm really, really annoyed by this. I thought the potty would solve this, but clearly I'm missing something. Please help!!! ",4.932514374170721,5.4519036578947375,5.417616099071207,84.09007739938083,68.81203007518798,7.762582927908006,28.429013710747448,7.5105763829236425,1.5571656789031398,1047,34,209,10,17,336,146,266,0.06,0.836,0.104,0.8909,1,0,1,0,0,0,47,4,0,1,0,10,8,2,0,21,0,10,9,6,0,1,30,26,16,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,8,3,3,17,2,0,4,1,0,6,2,5,0,0,5,1,25,3,29,17,3,62,0,1,0,0,25,20,0,1,36,114,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391730219804745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772861577434592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351490182789946,0.07248915154857091,0.0,0.0,0.07387546667047673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755248389699653,0.14957151912389427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599023303537831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884464763288162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888361792340082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314765507872441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607599199063394,0.0,0.04934049855354162,0.0,0.0694360441304323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638414601625227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192740681805324,0.0,0.0,0.06132190768317145,0.0,0.08701414133914777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859411669289595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384907383503942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6377039890424275,0.09245801506960608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059952333023172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307281211006741,0.0,0.17455153162991902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123528101369956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828367965318096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903557171942932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683650553809801,0.0,0.0,0.061450013574222376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527610438683494,0.0,0.15176498959536389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784710934506705,0.1012481958808866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963992066524066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368916288633063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334560363926945,0.0,0.0,0.3354465069371177
parenting,PM__YOUR__GOOD_NEWS,2018/01/24,"Is it normal that our two year old gets an erection every time he sits down to poop? Me and my SO noticed this as we started potty training our two year old.

Whenever he's sitting and he starts to poop he gets a full on saluting erection and sometimes it even bobs up and down seemingly of its own accord as he's going.

It's not worrying per se, except that if he does pee he ends up overshooting the toilet by a long shot.

It's just... Peculiar.

So I was wondering has anyone else experienced this with their kids.",2.7348931623931634,4.592792019230772,4.233974358974358,85.28880341880344,75.92307692307692,7.314529914529915,25.97863247863248,8.167268648758528,1.6833388888888892,406,15,81,7,9,135,74,104,0.0,0.963,0.037000000000000005,0.3891,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,3,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,3,3,3,0,0,13,10,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,7,0,13,9,2,18,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,3,9,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381269917791739,0.2024066361295264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287162737669465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502222626596424,0.0,0.17496488603673474,0.0,0.0,0.13047560305289238,0.0,0.1664388988059314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064166261741024,0.0,0.11226851000143268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481976023989712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355066437250826,0.0,0.22490455713487967,0.41457729608162575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983616165578425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19537554928468115,0.0,0.2796445786237627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518918966278277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859425444101775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21422747346205714,0.0,0.20061498922290213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544230441054339
parenting,aithne1,2018/01/24,"19-month-old scratching and tantrums So, I thought the 2s were supposed to be all about tantrums, but my daughter has started early. Every desire that can't be fulfilled, from a fun activity that has to conclude to a fun toy that is actually something she could hurt herself with and needs to be quietly, politely removed... everything is a tragedy with wailing and lying on the floor in misery. Moreover, she hits and scratches us when she is frustrated, and sometimes tries to swat the 3-month-old too. 

I've tried distraction for the tears and demonstrating, ""No scratches, gentle touch"" for the other. Neither seems to be working all that well yet. Have we accidentally made her bratty somewhere along the way, or is this pretty typical? What does a kid need from parents at her age to help her develop into a happy, nonviolent person?",8.02697240865026,8.851643315436242,7.4975391498881425,70.79621178225206,62.15436241610739,9.843698732289338,40.71662938105891,9.725611199111238,4.280807009694259,670,36,105,12,9,210,106,149,0.223,0.61,0.16699999999999998,-0.8684,1,0,1,0,0,0,26,2,0,0,2,6,9,3,1,11,0,14,0,0,2,2,23,21,10,0,4,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,11,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,5,1,0,3,5,11,4,19,12,3,12,0,1,0,0,14,5,0,2,5,79,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.18289256979540824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963772579839546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640104294140506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15790743500597493,0.0,0.16843887945861327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19950955022473546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562208558161028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200634447240824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733909136191056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991899255053416,0.0,0.0,0.2779355930852665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933265474935308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081050967238856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364584390046585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906711057226552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061796979020116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428324657742048,0.18536082653611013,0.0,0.13265516186601745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878866203052646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544885342493869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254403305884816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876338968458122,0.0,0.0,0.1685109556949803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644226545539276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PinnochioPro,2018/01/24,"3 month old sick after 2 days in Daycare Hello all,

Looking for suggestions on what we could do to sooth coughing in my 3 month old son. We took him to the Ped and they pretty much shrugged their shoulders and said eh it's not RSV just a cold..but his cough is so bad that he's gagging. Beyond that it's just hard watching him cough so hard all the time. Has anyone else had to deal with this? If so what did you all do to provide relief? And how long did it take for this to go away? Thanks Folks!!!!",1.065943396226416,2.8749463490566067,2.0138113207547192,99.50430188679249,80.79245283018868,4.617358490566038,19.090566037735847,4.935628992294339,-0.6570196226415095,387,9,92,1,10,121,76,106,0.109,0.809,0.08199999999999999,-0.4765,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,1,2,0,7,3,0,0,3,0,8,5,1,1,3,15,14,8,0,2,4,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,9,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,5,9,2,14,8,4,15,0,0,2,0,14,5,0,1,8,58,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462585845013218,0.2119298562082344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433100169506035,0.0,0.17270099439586625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651432206637387,0.0,0.0,0.13339332458853626,0.21324077726962729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278651210490995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755073665712434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705722358147893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304501946413576,0.17369172999286986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301920530031604,0.0,0.1520496445867747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340831329737249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21042848866186892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19675019408544386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555163482682121,0.0,0.0,0.1904285350114688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060883412120225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22980450084778165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zulfihai,2018/01/24,"Nebulizer help [Scared of loud noises] Any tips or tricks for convincing my 3.5yo to use the nebulizer? This is the first time he's ever needed one and he is terrified of loud noises, I know that's unusual for him to still be afraid of loud noises at this age, but I *think* it's a phase. He won't even let me flush the toilet while he's in the stall. He's fine with the toilets at home, because they're quieter, but he runs from the vacuum, the coffee grinder, the hair dryer, the disposal. The doctor had him do a breathing treatment in the office last night and he had one of the worst meltdowns I have ever seen. I did one while he was sleeping, but I cannot convince him to do one this morning.

Anyone else have this issue ever?

Edit: Thanks everybody. We tried a couple different things suggested and what ended up working was turning it on with the tubing unplugged and just letting it run for a bit while he was in the room. Helped that the one we got is much quieter than the one the doctor had. We talked about how it was quieter than the vacuum and the hair dryer and he laughed and said yeah. Took about 5 minutes of the machine just being on for him to feel okay letting me plug the tubing in and actually using it. 

The headphones were a great idea which I thought he would love, but I think he was more irritated that I tried to ""fool"" him and wasn't having it.",3.2731620553359697,4.848902231884062,4.223741765480895,87.12527667984193,73.78260869565217,6.9022397891963125,24.50197628458498,7.520522993642371,1.078252173913043,1080,33,220,13,22,349,145,276,0.063,0.83,0.107,0.9268,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,3,0,0,2,10,13,1,2,27,2,27,7,4,3,3,35,42,18,0,2,7,0,3,0,0,2,2,4,4,0,16,14,0,0,6,0,0,3,3,5,0,7,16,8,19,8,30,19,4,26,0,0,1,1,26,10,0,1,13,154,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.11315520057764288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885326984722042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107832266598401,0.11880944008454472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068499634921893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659265707080167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830182884647975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114813173665605,0.0,0.2373693915180335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686539275134058,0.0,0.10270157412812328,0.0,0.0,0.07658708054160539,0.31466338348224593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863025293143285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986311306533062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927396810307953,0.1278406243253732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544417476194064,0.0,0.1163121624197044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130898904249746,0.0,0.1210267306094034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372574951148133,0.09451867374674272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557150510072749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465377344633796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524015191450325,0.08597904720353232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088157656367976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714440173803388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102996095691629,0.0,0.11609102683864085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603858471035887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260168781136832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320011092123147,0.0,0.1067556408786619,0.0,0.0,0.07703524562925855,0.14859836333855878,0.0,0.0920551934645408,0.06761420173432367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128830097670648,0.15745145453373524,0.12612557246641284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200295509649512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441650709016711,0.0,0.0,0.0823709939218965,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amberella91,2018/01/24,"Tranquilo Mat-Any Reviews? https://www.target.com/p/tranquilo-portable-soothing-vibrating-baby-mat/-/A-52984008#lnk=sametab&preselect=52975203

Saw this on Shark Tank last night and am considering purchasing. It’s a little on the pricey side though but if it does what it shows/says it does I think it’s totally worth it. 

Any user reviews? ",12.765619047619047,18.273083466666673,6.846031746031747,57.43000000000001,69.8888888888889,7.015873015873016,21.984126984126984,7.957251820313856,1.7514126984126983,296,7,36,5,7,76,35,45,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.4853,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,2,19,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320915032982141,0.0,0.4168596164775751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5364386239451053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498375664343177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071924856638211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287628518246337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24374028097212014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963921625270766,0.3011336794482321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pleochroic_halo,2018/01/24,"Backsliding potty training with 2.5 year old boy My sons daycare started sitting him on the potty before every diaper change when he was about 2 years old. Around 28 months old, they said he was doing well and they wanted to try underwear. I was hesitant because I always heard boys are more difficult, but I figured we could give it a try. He took to it really well, and although he was still having a couple of accidents a week, he would usually get to the potty in time. 

I'm not sure what is going on lately, but he has lost all interest in going potty. He still goes at school fine - with the occasional accident. At home, I have tried reasoning with him, asking him (all the time) if he needs to go, putting him on the potty when he refuses (doesn't go well), and nothing seems to work. We tried a sticker chart and I even resorted to giving m&ms if he goes potty. I'm not sure what to do from here. If he wasn't doing so well at school I would consider just putting him in diapers. It has been about a month of this..",4.349390756302519,5.25575840686275,5.479131652661064,81.73323529411769,70.32352941176471,8.965826330532213,27.31652661064425,9.23628265651192,2.183352661064426,801,26,159,16,14,266,116,204,0.08800000000000001,0.835,0.077,-0.292,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,2,0,2,2,15,10,0,0,10,0,19,0,0,1,4,31,37,13,0,8,8,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,6,10,0,1,3,0,0,7,4,2,4,0,10,2,16,8,25,24,3,35,0,1,0,0,29,10,0,4,17,103,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915879699467252,0.11926198713177065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979866123629374,0.10290161677451996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709831881787279,0.0,0.09366239605026468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644062525023803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788281403373774,0.12179157475407265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270092117034574,0.0,0.09273964617633497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057507604933807875,0.2111804512080155,0.25022376304994265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104102844948335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416499127525425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120155604424819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571539826379615,0.0,0.0,0.0816163233908591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056161857798711,0.0,0.3465032996539641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213037077603381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051436298561646,0.1131714195753462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470281885273616,0.0,0.0,0.22279565226116813,0.0,0.10020459232378227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790888867552942,0.0,0.17580583978933678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074814117331984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836668314083466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222930383151721,0.29892419722135594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122776212961693,0.0,0.06492278459281005,0.0,0.08829239427144576,0.0,0.3958685392463556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801330692335792,0.0,0.0,0.15638269779941913,0.0,0.0,0.14176435471948187
parenting,Mosjef42,2018/01/24,"22 month old waking up early suddenly Our 22 month old has always been a great sleeper. Sleeping around 11 hours each night. Recently he started waking up around 4 or 5 crying. We have no idea how to handle this. We've tried to cry it out but we feel horrible doing it and we eventually have to pick him up to get ready for the day.
Any ideas? 
Thanks!",0.7574021909233153,3.2227664929577493,2.444413145539908,91.58834115805948,88.29577464788733,5.40907668231612,17.74804381846635,6.937597516519254,0.18768419405320813,275,7,57,4,9,90,56,71,0.134,0.746,0.12,0.126,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,5,3,3,2,0,15,9,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,2,11,8,1,17,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,11,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545190875057826,0.0,0.0,0.12628384831857487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33062861724986403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079702429335309,0.11976254136887453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938966003872538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702172287674736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473730566325304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18287923743152695,0.0,0.0,0.4192703080384758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964514118637017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742689132482606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389726392461202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833584964512582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858362888318652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314409566423942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17096961465255475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607958833160618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,desperate_need_sleep,2018/01/24,"How long did it take you to transition a 2 year old (25 mon) to toddler bed? We have been at it for 2 weeks. Constantly picking him up and walking him back to his flood bed without emotion or talking. It is gradually getting less (15min), but we are wondering if we should throw in the towel and go back to crib? He was always sleeping from 7:30-6:30 in crib but we needed it for younger baby brother. Now it is like 8-5am. We live in a bungalow and let him walk to the living room? Is that the issue? Should we station outside room. He is laughing hysterically while doing this even with no emotion! ",2.4628724216959554,4.5389467310924365,3.899679144385029,86.372192513369,77.48739495798318,6.3440794499618045,27.624904507257448,7.348242739294969,1.5337159663865545,467,20,93,6,11,154,84,119,0.023,0.905,0.07200000000000001,0.7907,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,6,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,13,1,1,2,0,21,18,9,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,7,10,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,11,2,15,12,1,20,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,3,10,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120275297298168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164222963704916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234560497174505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4628882529606381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589773695469876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749730873254897,0.0,0.11693401742152322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21475239276040864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21039610549959994,0.0,0.10052039038093233,0.0,0.3633668584108633,0.18208469043775302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256304141445656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21590287767227956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20590132108505266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547004459084744,0.16537624973498916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650424283302713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983382883803561,0.22313005769526487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249801155943966
parenting,Pojajko01,2018/01/24,"Naughty 2 year old I'm at my wit's end. The problem is, she refused dinner (it was vegetable beef lasagne) so I pureed it hoping she'd eat it but she didn't. She normally eats it. I feel bad about sending her to bed with no dinner but I don't want to be one of those parents who cooks up 2/3 different meals for dinner and I feel like if I feed her something else she likes, it's just reinforcing bad behaviour. I don't know what to do?",-0.07099613152804808,2.0669525000000037,1.9278336557059959,96.46136363636364,87.82978723404257,5.120309477756287,21.31141199226305,6.574015621080383,0.24997021276595754,341,12,80,4,11,113,67,94,0.17600000000000002,0.731,0.093,-0.7965,2,0,1,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,8,9,0,0,1,15,14,5,0,5,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,2,9,1,3,1,0,1,4,3,0,1,2,2,14,3,9,10,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,5,47,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796147773144665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23750687829028716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465221701136753,0.18990137707400132,0.0,0.2013430163305493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22988531721453245,0.1624014609528057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257856233084809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493220998307147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221196204257875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227308316559051,0.0,0.0,0.2385399870397776,0.0,0.15404171632905278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524181873395861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175199074369044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500636042982065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408253437258147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146390239449055
parenting,redditamrur,2018/01/24,"How to help my son (11) choose a sport? My son wants to leave the current sport course he does, but needs the movement so we want to choose another sport. He's short, a bit overweight and not very athletic. 

What worked for us so far: 

* Karate (he reached orange belt before he started to dislike the other kids in his Dojo) 

* Swimming (he still does, once a week) 

What didn't work: 

* Football (what Americans call soccer): is a ""must"" around here... We tried to put him in a club when he was 5 or 6, he got one ball kicked on him, or one child shoving him, and was deeply insulted. He does play with his peers on the break and he does like the football coach in his school (so he wants to join because of that), but he's not really a team player. 

* Rugby : his dad played rugby when he was young and the boy has a very good build for that (short, very stable and concentrated) but he is not really into tackling etc. that they do as an integral part of the game. 

* (Ice) Hockey : He likes some stuff here (skating) but again complains when someone shoves him although you can't really say it's not part of the sport. 

* Water Polo: Dad is against it, he says it is even more violent than rugby 
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parenting,juanitosay,2018/01/24,"How to get a 4 year old to stay in his bed all night? As the title states... our kid jumps into our bed 99% of the time. Even though he's not even sleeping in his bedroom but in his mattress on our bedroom' s floor.
He's kinda scared to be alone. He used to sleep alone a couple of years ago but now it looks impossible.
Any ideas? Thanks!!!",-0.05249999999999844,1.98118652777778,1.5227777777777796,100.17500000000004,86.5,4.155555555555557,15.944444444444445,5.148860815047168,-1.0620055555555554,258,5,63,1,8,83,52,72,0.128,0.821,0.051,-0.7,0,2,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,4,0,1,2,2,2,1,9,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,12,4,1,16,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,1,7,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307558765698148,0.0,0.0,0.4278037274769795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044687153465316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22852052310038465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27282104807782176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079029316129652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331462173326601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343242998412134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938135715481044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21671755059911035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067716603803882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41335650966548265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013254314486969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19014424904807567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291379409498853,0.0,0.12042878023064535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783748332010642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659959407118281
parenting,iniminiminimo,2018/01/24,"My 11 year old told me tonight that her uncle has molested her several times over the last year at least. I'm not sure where or how to report this. Please help. Acts including but not limited to fingering her, masturbating to completion in front of her. Kissing her with tongue.  I'm numb and shaking right now.  It's not so recent as to have any physical evidence upon doctor inspection. Please help. 

~~My sister (his wife) doesn't want me to report him because they have kids and need him.  Maybe they can't afford their place without him if he goes to jail.   Would he even go to jail?  Please help rationalize this for me.~~ Edit that she does not stand by this after the initial shock

What about getting therapy for my daughter?  Do I go through her primary care physician?  Do I tell her doctor all these details?  Do I tell the doctor before reporting to authorities or vice versa? 

This is so much to process. What do I do?",3.309027406417112,5.762760323863637,4.0021925133689855,84.80858288770057,76.44318181818181,7.550267379679145,25.69385026737968,8.4952907291091,1.9308981283422464,731,27,138,15,17,232,118,176,0.068,0.778,0.153,0.9619,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,0,3,1,7,7,1,1,3,0,12,7,1,1,2,19,21,10,0,4,9,3,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,10,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,7,4,0,0,1,1,25,3,23,19,3,22,0,0,0,1,27,7,0,3,9,92,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748332364012208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738519517278646,0.0,0.12198080225257545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615549042460008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030037664602028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4401762398777743,0.12544707600362048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946817192686473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489477187499549,0.0,0.1629388988891028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28825465625552826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684987167610306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401494523949301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537918506505158,0.10629265344418336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042234043878291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497708662857294,0.4720677339708393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154142346559345,0.0,0.0,0.12242062906850933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194537477193274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510624393022316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250589485509057,0.0,0.16393390412539838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358888760233095,0.0,0.0,0.13697764136871407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455189791271345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818486283485965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183215324620827,0.0,0.0,0.1846261728156186
parenting,RuleStickler,2018/01/24,"What is an appropriate time for a 14 year old boy to go to bed? My son gets very good grades in school (90’s across the board). He is wonderful... except at bedtime. He wakes up at 6:30, so I make him go to sleep at 9 pm. He says that all of his friends go to sleep at 10 and that he should stay up later. Parents of HS freshman, what time do your children nomally go to bed?",1.7759259259259252,2.550728753086421,3.514506172839507,93.91027777777781,76.28395061728395,6.881481481481483,23.37654320987655,7.1686216300943375,0.4731876543209874,283,8,72,3,6,95,60,81,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.7686,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,4,3,3,1,1,6,11,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,17,10,1,18,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,1,5,36,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297027233598705,0.0,0.11696883039679765,0.0,0.5089480067049492,0.18778115936803733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944262312827214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349259472482293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485938835636173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780395349807372,0.0,0.2265800053095248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4480863193402296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386278641277819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26109417712982697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472566376050856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24278990965178046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144172329751697
parenting,LucilleSluggers,2018/01/24,"New parents My fiancé and I are expecting our first child in s couple of weeks. He’s a boy, Noah Alexander. The reason for my post though is because we have been writing a “journal” to him. His mom’s has mostly stories of things, how we met, fun things we’ve done, things like that. Mine has advice as well as stories. 

Advice because if anything were to happen to me I think it would be nice for him to something that I wrote, personally to him. Whether he reads it for the advice or to just make him feel something if I wasn’t there. 

I told him various Dad advice things. How to change a tire, how you should treat women, how things aren’t always going to work out perfectly, etc. and even though I’m a new soon-to-be dad I thought this was a really cool idea. ",1.7562150537634444,3.8310827290322607,2.8283870967741964,93.18924731182794,79.7741935483871,5.423655913978496,21.301075268817204,6.42735559955562,0.22015268817204306,593,17,127,5,15,189,98,155,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.9595,2,0,2,0,0,0,20,3,1,0,3,10,7,0,0,7,1,14,1,0,6,1,27,24,14,0,5,5,4,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,4,10,5,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,0,1,1,9,2,20,7,17,12,3,8,0,0,0,0,24,2,0,4,5,88,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5014575615154713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674831251093404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557248607605517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640989335815447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571476974990432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195144941643498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128614039392245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307827443527615,0.08473493470200383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486773772513868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912418068935996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291067940269448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344722613449595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482481935240482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267645735695772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856351771926269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025276075808627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478083164873329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245187097459486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201867233346917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286722684870185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832562520292,0.0,0.08218644065237493,0.13190442010192252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975292171965657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261538931884203,0.08220363359768745,0.2520903312103716,0.1018486506083848,0.0,0.14745152623159755,0.0,0.12258746024752355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290722789804446,0.0,0.11534893328593727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339730886034653,0.0,0.0,0.0911341800986836,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mckenn55,2018/01/24,"2.5yo Sleep Regression Literally overnight, my 2.5 year old daughter has completely regressed her sleep training.  Wife and I have been very diligent about maintaining a very consistent bedtime routine since she was 4 months old.  Little one was given a new bedroom on Christmas morning as we are expecting our second in March.  The new bedroom has a toddler bed for her instead of her crib.  Not a single hiccup was felt with the transition from crib/old room to toddler bed/new bedroom.  Until this week.

Little one has been absolutely terrified of monsters this week.  She'll cry out in absolute and unmistakable fear that there are monsters in her room as soon as we go to close the door at night.  Our once quick and easy bedtime routine has been upended.  Two weeks ago, we'd finish our stories and she would be asking to lay down and would be out cold in minutes.  Tonight, we struggled for over 40 minutes to get her to calm down, to realize that we're still here, that she's safe.  We're also seeing some other behaviors that are clearly measures she's taking to attempt to skirt bedtime.  Tonight for example, she refused to go potty, but once tucked in, stated she had wet her diaper, and she had truly and fully soaked it.  She's also asking for snacks, more stories, drinks of water, etc. and I'm 99% sure it's a delaying tactic.

But the monsters bit is where I'm lost.  Eventually she does calm down, but bedtimes are taking 30 to 60 minutes longer this week because of these fears.  My wife is at her wits end, she cannot bear to hear her crying in fear.  So far, what I've found to work best is to go back to the sleep training we did when she turned 4 months old: let her cry for a minute, re-enter the room, soothe her without removing her from bed, exit the room, let her cry again for a bit longer, rinse-wash-repeat.  Thankfully, once she's asleep, she stays asleep till 6:30am, typically.

My own limited research has shown this is pretty normal time for sleep regression.  Any tips from more experienced parents out there?",6.665482336956522,7.07954149479167,6.347346014492754,79.2920380434783,65.04166666666666,9.178260869565216,32.84148550724637,8.964715089967882,2.6993776268115943,1610,62,296,24,23,502,206,384,0.08900000000000001,0.826,0.085,-0.1646,1,0,1,0,0,0,55,8,0,0,5,15,11,0,4,14,0,32,10,6,0,2,36,50,20,0,4,5,4,2,0,0,3,1,1,10,0,13,17,3,4,3,1,0,4,3,5,0,4,13,6,38,6,52,29,9,61,0,1,1,0,42,26,0,1,29,184,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143983864152663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288985940196028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480524175042963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506850566689727,0.0,0.0,0.06197018078286851,0.0,0.04912806178555364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457620553042967,0.0,0.17597091884805546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449905244998737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541055818088327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052649694878961,0.0,0.0,0.07894936037213353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138048440029117,0.0,0.08988124927022309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720648113239976,0.0,0.0,0.07738084292329851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836483622260696,0.0,0.0,0.04210593079084378,0.0,0.13740666727468956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083290556371566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482131434322767,0.0,0.0,0.16154847123817548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797555679577894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286553388320888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335084185912657,0.0,0.0756300195735384,0.07896293074489888,0.0,0.0,0.3382704825636412,0.2574831646616121,0.10922228672057194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948774490475986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199091487055861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422129378606113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666643562971884,0.0,0.322600328420146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590022057710807,0.06436077916404567,0.0,0.0,0.08425213094501012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595689276992243,0.0,0.12119012737223235,0.0,0.0,0.07419817488752313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046993773105308334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766082247858423,0.07872655592418511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299348189097734,0.0,0.0,0.2585837783945577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768769601939844,0.0,0.058671848203217525,0.0,0.0,0.11450031796675933,0.0,0.0,0.05189852816247242
parenting,anon9172,2018/01/24,"Please help! So long story short my almost 4 year old eats a bunch of shit she shouldn't it started with dirt/rocks/sand anything she could pick up. Normal toddler experiences but then she started eating shoes paper crayons large amounts or dirt, even slate once. But today about tipped me over the edge. She is fully potty trained can wipe and wash her hands alone no problem so tonight before bed I say go brush your teeth and pee mommy will go put your heat on and whatnot but  she doesn't come out so I go into her play room she is hiding behind her recliner when I look over the chair she has a cup with toilet water (I'm hoping just water) and toilet paper. Well I'm not proud of it but I'm like wtf? So I grab the cup and start crying (I'm pregnant so my emotions are crazy) about how it's yacky and there's germs and that she poops in the toilet and her response to all of this is ""but why"" repeatedly. I have tried everything we got rid of plants try to keep shoes out of her reach. Only colors with us there. I've taken her to a dr who ran labs and said she doesn't have any deficiencies and she may have an eating disorder called pica but that's not very helpful when my kid is going to get sick from the shit she puts in her mouth. I'm so heart broken and I feel like I'm failing as a mother. I want her to be healthy and happy but I don't know how to help her. Please anyone that has been through similar things any advice would be appreciated ",1.6967309888102309,3.728724738410598,2.7720415620004566,93.73652317880794,79.76158940397352,5.225119890385933,18.691938798812515,6.129581340695534,-0.2653369719113954,1149,25,251,8,29,366,181,302,0.162,0.716,0.122,-0.9563,0,1,0,0,0,0,21,2,2,0,2,17,11,2,0,10,0,22,18,10,3,1,47,47,32,0,7,11,1,3,2,0,4,3,2,2,1,9,20,5,1,2,1,0,8,7,4,1,0,5,8,36,7,29,35,3,31,0,1,2,0,33,11,2,4,14,147,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316502294839928,0.0,0.0,0.11596373919669095,0.1199408750847614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575051323103755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097477735388599,0.0,0.09529909389269622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854302090193684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182516471873971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975726719335012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246227243215152,0.0,0.12720828504101406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272457690666728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554976717569851,0.0,0.13026701481277986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648927100513993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040796462093494,0.11328123022578288,0.0,0.0,0.05855537610075171,0.08273237056308988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050425094796132,0.0,0.2632625957930756,0.0,0.09262124297114567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327844657669422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723156500270395,0.2328684849739902,0.0,0.0,0.1150222402297468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293436689812988,0.0,0.0,0.06364436521041443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315466399492165,0.0,0.0,0.10248533599513147,0.09724850946508634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346603406318173,0.0,0.0,0.12151971100570685,0.12333041701375673,0.0,0.08807625738824143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542420868244245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081142670353593,0.0,0.2328355542794326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015874568444514,0.09209418155751503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377479443862205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459058566389624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769368637401303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977126500321303,0.0,0.0,0.15725037291951452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930127013658486,0.0,0.0,0.09555270304729432,0.06830582591233149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412418265607297,0.0,0.10449758588538983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226579773636851,0.0,0.0,0.07457575483534735
parenting,Jenjen15,2018/01/24,"Husbands relationship with kids Hi I have never posted but need some help. I have a 6 and 4 year old. I have been married for 6 years together for 10. My husband blames me for the relationship he has with girls. He says he holds them to higher standard then I. I shelter them from him. He will correct them and they get upset come to me. Now I let them sit next to me. I don’t cuddle. And I explain in a softer way what Dad says. He is very black and white and treats the girls as little adults. I am so tired of being blamed.  He really didn’t get involved with girls till they were talking and potty trained. I changed the diapers gave baths, fed them ddoctor appt. he is away a lot working on railroad and he doesn’t think that has anything to do with it. I don’t know what to do anymore. I get frustrated cause he tells me how to parent and then I get short with girls because I’m not parenting his way. Any ideas???",1.1381746031746047,3.3432579894179923,2.4552883597883586,94.29086904761908,82.86243386243386,5.261481481481481,21.619312169312167,6.508806274219699,0.28371724867724835,716,23,157,7,20,230,117,189,0.115,0.865,0.019,-0.9628,2,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,7,1,3,3,1,1,6,0,19,3,0,2,2,29,31,15,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,6,4,14,1,1,4,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,5,4,27,1,21,23,2,19,0,0,2,1,40,5,0,2,9,95,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650553331230164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553228586875059,0.0,0.0,0.1288831756824232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714765968590582,0.0,0.0,0.0954728097888388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088971157033674,0.1656809568714299,0.13491244111676015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32730552562188264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497766779607233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768025299918053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607309437638637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160152399886297,0.0,0.0,0.15697226702657524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133150926188811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161301781630373,0.12079336906938525,0.0,0.16656489882765552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434412566462128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34781125642683386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999664185368675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033342836771132,0.0,0.0,0.336297994468972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490976586696773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588352439491549,0.13689093580316078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003544175617104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000922083295254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922615851564445,0.0,0.2486319762997432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401968650659408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171356766341786
parenting,Bbneedhelp,2018/01/25,"My son was born with brain damage, any advice for the future? I don’t really know what to ask here. We found out a couple of hours ago that our 2 day old soon has brain damage. My wife is sleeping and I’m sitting just watching him sleep. Obviously he will be loved and supported, there is no doubt about that, but I have no idea what to do next. I thought I was prepared for a baby, my wife and I read a ton of books and have spent time wrapping and changing diapers on my sons stuffed animals, but this changes the whole thing. 

I am trying to think of his future, what can I start to do now to help him be the best he can be? Things that we can do right now to help are reading to him, breastmilk, sleep. But does anybody have any other ideas? For now or for the future until we know how bad the damage might be? Are there any good resources that people know of out there to help deal with this physically or emotionally or even financially?

I’m really just at a loss for what to do next. I might have to quit my job to become a carer as my wife has a better more sustainable job. 

I have worked with disabled people years ago at my old job and I know that he can live a happy life. I just want to make sure that his body can heal as much as possible while he growing.

Thanks 

Edit: living in the US

Second edit: Thanks to those commenting, I can't reply right now but it means the world to me for your words, thanks",4.0134913482336,4.444256380136988,4.74957462148522,88.38331290555159,70.81506849315069,7.7912040374909886,23.93006488824802,7.669130373188453,0.8565863013698629,1101,25,245,12,19,355,152,292,0.071,0.759,0.17,0.9871,3,0,0,0,0,0,27,5,1,0,5,15,16,0,1,14,0,32,9,6,2,2,43,52,19,0,1,10,5,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,17,14,0,0,10,3,1,1,4,6,0,1,5,1,31,10,38,40,5,33,0,4,1,1,27,9,0,6,22,168,48,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093473520866012,0.16497976008291412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898469217009721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699622287107461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769914532226607,0.0,0.10277472383198602,0.0,0.0,0.09765812999067087,0.08230181752417813,0.0,0.10336593057769787,0.0,0.2077659449688085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968850422965425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296638005543986,0.0,0.06001440436681685,0.09593822085197168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814352661438979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467718902707387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061463616795512974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203277160887612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805223584359894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906146443763182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871234898189996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164291589058746,0.0,0.0,0.21010123464330932,0.0,0.0,0.2770356999539568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456792557082806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572928106795113,0.0,0.0,0.16434299674173133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398804839957037,0.0,0.06211661971173975,0.0,0.0,0.1013669241199712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743865389663773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840798729778187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979354644616814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529643444645567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902873987717328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490837588686504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897813119326487,0.18616541289033114,0.0,0.11923006518644975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894123366270793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793741863651537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586659428010448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560057517862237,0.08770561485101956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570245956102585,0.0,0.0,0.12364656763571975,0.059627503725774786,0.0,0.07387727923729451,0.054262590451863005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317995017514988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193674320974947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05488773854956002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038954019996446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774698560532147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992599428915853
parenting,too__tight,2018/01/25,"Too tight foreskin I took my twelve year old son to the pediatrician for his yearly checkup and during the ""private"" part of the exam, she was unable to get his foreskin to pull back more than a tiny bit. Everyone would always tell me something would go wrong if I didn't get him circumcised and I didn't listen. I've read a few things from really biased sources that said this isn't a problem but the doctor perscribed this cream to stretch it and she said that if it doesn't work he should probably be circumcised so I'm really worried. Those of you with uncircumcised sons, how old were they when they could get the skin back? Anyone that had a similar situation to this have any advice?",6.417686567164183,6.74202595522388,6.441007462686567,78.71733208955227,65.56716417910448,9.685074626865672,30.182835820895523,9.516144504307137,2.525152238805971,554,18,106,10,8,176,94,134,0.061,0.926,0.013,-0.728,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,1,2,1,6,2,0,0,9,0,13,3,1,1,0,14,22,9,0,7,3,2,2,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,10,4,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,8,6,13,0,11,9,4,11,0,0,1,0,15,1,0,2,7,71,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245933596854575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383348167201112,0.0,0.0,0.11305692580670085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162471249187268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25567474596320633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150390802888502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13273853519492074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016576318034587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886072057380854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605791129498223,0.0,0.09448472987408983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489065975107633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18003449953767145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179247560546325,0.15908052091495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629679125954636,0.0,0.2130103218888832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31628706836710824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868739901824378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798875886190275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531140205952314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045030937185753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18471186828701805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103329129464477,0.16883677413352566,0.0,0.2362010190952234,0.1817702459246367,0.0,0.21412141833661816
parenting,sambodean,2018/01/25,"About to snap dealing with toddler not napping I dont know where else to ask for help on this.

My daughter has always been a great sleeper, until about 2 months ago. She is almost 2, and has consistently slept through the night and taken her nap every day at mostly the same time. Recently though, we do our routine for naptime and bedtime, and then she lays in bed for an hour or more just talking to herself, kicking the wall, kicking the sheets around, squealing and screaming. It's making me crazy.  I don't know whether to let her stay in there until she puts herself to sleep, which she mostly does after a while, or go in there every few minutes to correct her and tell her to go to sleep. 

Just for info's sake, every day she goes down at 2pm, right after lunch. We read her 2 favorite books, she has her favorite animal and her paci just for bedtime, there are no toys laying out to tempt her, she has a white noise machine and it's dark in her room. When I go in to correct her, I tell her it's time to sleep and be quiet, and tuck back in. I try to be direct and firm, but she giggles and thinks I'm joking. She very verbal and talkative, I know she understands what I want. She just wants to play. 

What can I do to help her get to sleep the way she's supposed to? She is a monster when she doesn't take her nap, so I feel like taking it away isn't the best idea. Plus I have a 2 week old and I work from home and have to meet certain weekly numbers, naptime and bedtime are my only chances to sit down and work. My husband helps at bedtime and on weekends when he's home, but while he's working I'm on my own. ",5.048510073403094,4.515083062314545,5.438347649539281,87.66355926909262,68.52522255192878,7.688208652194284,29.60627830704357,6.05967700443912,1.2293537091988127,1260,40,277,5,19,403,171,337,0.029,0.871,0.1,0.9653,0,0,0,0,0,0,37,3,0,0,4,17,8,0,0,12,0,21,6,5,1,3,52,41,34,0,2,10,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,8,24,1,0,8,9,0,4,6,1,0,0,3,4,48,7,50,35,7,52,0,0,1,0,45,21,0,5,25,188,56,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732346228231144,0.0,0.10994023975772207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913552499709672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977376337900203,0.10264014944671312,0.0,0.1031526456640662,0.0844228187904071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521931327735566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161275581571614,0.11319012482290434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607920449178106,0.0,0.1286747171525239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171663657997144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775119995645586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551383675806765,0.07843500665327248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736148128422945,0.0,0.18719096871074065,0.0,0.0,0.1210454193016694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22077260743234586,0.0,0.22025947611369184,0.0,0.10812242500093576,0.0,0.0,0.12394114026471315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101546618619171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226915734157188,0.0,0.05363853811321891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732866200385058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763445756836065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030318026655953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520761796578685,0.0,0.0,0.08350131619852436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103706936277085,0.0,0.0,0.1098211230916893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840577399202236,0.0,0.0,0.0937612659377276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4394828080841873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170230369546053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509895619282616,0.08824617812182785,0.1919250666394172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034990361153791,0.10786950482532694,0.0,0.12804051048512402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454116183438812,0.0,0.0,0.1142967318694954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058941316733364,0.12951563876210775,0.0871473124572584,0.17613609634310992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397883665845856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayaway13579,2018/01/25,"Unexpected pregnancy, looking for advice I could really use some advice right now. My boyfriend and I have two boys together. 3 and 1. They are extremely busy, and I'm the first to admit motherhood is not what I expected. I love my boys but there are just so many things I wasn't expecting.I wasn't expecting to be responsible for 99% of parenting and household duties. 3 years of interrupted sleep. I wasn't expecting to be so challenged that I would lose my patience. I've always been patient but with my 3 year old I just... He just pushes buttons I didn't know I had. Every day he challenges me on everything from the time he wakes up to the time I day goodnight. I've been at home with them since my oldest was born, and I'm happy I got to spend the time with them but I'm just so ready to go back to work and move forward with my life. I can't remember what it's like to have daily adult interaction (my boyfriend works out of town for weeks at a time). I thought things would be different staying home with them but I'm not sure now that I'm cut out for it. I think I might be a better parent if I had some time away from them every day. I was positive that I was done having kids, even though I always dreamed of having a daughter I just couldn't handle another boy like my two crazies. So I would never take the risk of trying for a third knowing I would be disappointed to have another boy, it wouldn't be fair.  Ive been looking for a job for months and finally found something exciting, got my boys registered for a great daycare, and have been preparing for this new phase. So I went to my dentist, and doctor, etc to get everything straightened up before starting work. I've been on the mini pill and just finished nursing so wasn't surprised that my period hasn't come back.My dr had some blood tests done before I started a new birth control method.. and sure enough i just got the dreaded call. Pregnancy test was positive. I don't know what to do. I'm so sorry for ranting and complaining, I've just been holding so many things in that it's all starting to spill over. I don't even know if what I just wrote is coherent. i don't have anyone to talk to, I haven't even told my boyfriend yet. I'm just panicking, desperate for advice or anything. Someone just tell me it's going to be ok because I feel so scared and devastated right now. The idea of starting over from the beginning again.. of another year at home with them.. of trying to figure out how to pay for daycare for 3.. I am scared to death. My soon to be employer made it very clear they were looking for a long term employee, I feel it would be so dishonest to walk in there pregnant knowing I'm about to walk out on them for a year. Thank you so much anyone who has read my rant. Any words of commiseration or advice will be so appreciated.

Edit: thank you so much to everyone who has taken the time to comment. Spoke to my partner, and he is supportive of whatever decision we agree on when we find out gestational age etc. Still not sure what I want to do but I really appreciate all the comments and advice. Yes we do live in Canada.",3.3790827682424336,4.852832464228938,4.63063495668538,84.72685895980015,73.32432432432431,8.187158106485837,26.986178255085818,8.783252456381064,1.9473592745206187,2456,89,507,48,49,811,266,629,0.121,0.758,0.121,0.5301,7,0,2,0,0,0,64,3,2,8,9,42,25,1,4,20,2,66,9,3,4,7,100,113,40,1,14,23,3,2,2,1,8,5,1,3,8,23,30,0,3,16,2,2,9,17,8,0,4,32,6,67,17,81,61,11,76,0,2,3,1,42,24,0,8,46,338,90,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189723784007918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108642535664173,0.0,0.0,0.044395154398793435,0.20536695365139854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129576135842224,0.0,0.053722922235882715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061336184778508274,0.10039827053422393,0.0,0.039796337332386994,0.0,0.1111032399691988,0.0,0.0,0.057738127069170725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666195644280369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05623612658822205,0.0,0.0,0.07322122028267115,0.05212372194449773,0.0,0.0,0.12630775636129438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820757115075808,0.0,0.06682063284381487,0.0,0.13361578140635602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745551311568525,0.14561716403255215,0.12935780363395746,0.0,0.1100086651451708,0.06238137263555246,0.11734555935943895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601880014296008,0.0,0.0,0.07151510186549552,0.059668118716891635,0.05553028152624477,0.0,0.07158020696981922,0.0,0.0,0.034108038553625514,0.0,0.0742044618878164,0.0,0.1566400150393564,0.07197550927640006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694957121655041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645462080716755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369735048476496,0.0,0.0,0.06478399840902319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793910699088641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046111807693088966,0.06378863603122373,0.0,0.057646702796173475,0.057774019784323775,0.1644655966224904,0.07303576092439719,0.0,0.0,0.058921087731281935,0.06177301505164433,0.0,0.13237484941722932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925568857395613,0.0,0.0,0.052108826174778175,0.06938624104247783,0.09598206168375843,0.0,0.05035081374092703,0.12610280775677887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850426082578809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449796451929896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653013662923595,0.0,0.08364481929185066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395370534571652,0.11150384550198096,0.0,0.0,0.13072074425833358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0540033509290266,0.0,0.06533084670318773,0.0,0.05531466681415841,0.05025858142206216,0.0,0.07307975684261958,0.18483255434989446,0.06958373749681032,0.052135646827833865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408316865480673,0.18458734280540973,0.0,0.04908521743960303,0.05247256483275179,0.0570608309425244,0.12020891889285185,0.0,0.0,0.13011476748470432,0.0418311586609231,0.06414090338971566,0.05182796521929077,0.2284047013925279,0.0,0.0,0.06238137263555246,0.0,0.08864669338231865,0.0,0.12754537682564074,0.0,0.0,0.056384155619061835,0.0,0.05386588922889655,0.03850601746410903,0.0,0.052366645963931834,0.0,0.0,0.06051864357497817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258193249319956,0.0,0.0,0.231878335561095,0.0,0.0,0.16816224851886766
parenting,smilegirlcan,2018/01/25,"Feeding a little athlete My LO dances roughly 6 days a week, for a total of nearly 20 hours. She isn't super thin around the 80% percentile weight wise, but we are not seeing as much muscle growth as some of the other girls in class which makes me think she may be lacking something. I suppose it could be genetics but we all tend to get lean and muscular very easily. I want to make sure she is getting all the protein and nutrients she needs. She needs to be stronger do much of her routines. 

**Main question: What do I feed her as a child athlete that trains hard to keep her healthy - do I need any additions that would not be in a standard diet for a 10y.o?** I'm not really concerned about visible muscle mass. We eat healthy but I try to limit her meat in-take (to about 1 serving size) as I don't feel meat is incredibly healthy. Do I need to resort to protein shakes? What are some protein sources we can include that are peanut/nut free? Is there anything else we should be doing to insure she stays healthy and fit? 

And keep in mind she has struggled (well, she is a confident 10 year old but we were made aware that she was close to overweight and to keep an eye on it) a bit with her weight, so it isn't necessarily a caloric issue like with some dancers.

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parenting,HarleeQ,2018/01/25,"My daughter really wants to be a big sister but my husband and I don't think we want any more kids. We have a super sweet, empathetic, polite little 2.5 year old. Many times I have told her she has to be at least 3 for mama and daddy to talk about maybe having a baby. Many of her friends have siblings and very often she says ""my be GOOD big sister"". Every time she sees a baby she gets all gushy and for the rest of the day it's big sister this and baby that. We have explained the extent of sharing she would have to do and her response is ""my good sharer"". We don't know what to do. We haven't been able to put any savings away in a very long time. My husband is in the beginning stages of a great career. Our biggest goal is to purchase a house. Right now we live in a small two bedroom apartment. We have discussed how we would make it work but I am so torn. Of course I would like to have another sweet wonderful child but she has been SO easy I don't want to change anything. I used to have a dog. He was an Australian Shepard. The best, easily trained, super chill and absolutely wonderful. When he was 6 or 7 we adopted a stray so our first would have a playmate. He has terrible. Bad habits and dominated our baby boy. We weren't able to do many of the things our first dog loved, he didnt really like to play with him after a while. He didn't get enough attention because he was so easy and the new dog needed so much. When he passed away I felt so much regret for taking all this away from him. I feel there is a lesson there that I am supposed to learn. Be happy with what you have. My daughter isn't a dog but there is something there. But..... ""My be good big sister!"" *Cue tears*",1.3238159879336349,3.2946864301994334,2.7575439919557567,93.67969457013577,80.7094017094017,5.496933132227252,19.72523881347411,6.522977012572876,0.02100864756158893,1311,33,291,12,34,426,171,351,0.047,0.7090000000000001,0.244,0.9982,0,0,1,0,0,0,45,14,1,0,8,16,20,0,0,22,0,46,1,0,3,2,53,66,25,0,9,6,8,2,2,1,4,0,1,1,3,9,21,0,0,10,1,1,2,8,3,0,3,10,6,42,17,34,47,10,35,0,1,1,1,52,16,0,4,18,196,51,4,0.2114409947082566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143787127022272,0.11085715941577788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699896135228274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29798366211049626,0.0,0.08827219934257255,0.0644462339248969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094713953679752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183826816297572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818097475488305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923753463712672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890740787085153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053455460007769344,0.0,0.1015082566478742,0.0,0.0,0.17985160208416087,0.0,0.0,0.08167939400476694,0.0,0.1104691928298371,0.0,0.0,0.26602001191685865,0.0,0.11655722155906866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254143529812984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219872596409818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058101220515967285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329938971727416,0.1059597121200332,0.09335313605299493,0.0935593133283662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541687646589783,0.0,0.07056925291699652,0.3215519724866626,0.10621044939287316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543345982323245,0.07839040920852826,0.0,0.10210551513073407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093587787130377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627830003820296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545451546621032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028472709344193,0.0,0.08407318280605826,0.0,0.0,0.0842455487123057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138880389939193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948865693207115,0.08497413115198378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023600080216952,0.06774142589794026,0.0,0.0,0.1849394165667328,0.0,0.0,0.10102046577425172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032735641258992,0.0,0.0,0.0913085657188517,0.0,0.17446096452664844,0.18707006538930332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22929873929213496,0.0769657811988519,0.0,0.0,0.3004032322044797,0.0,0.0,0.06808053411339877
parenting,QueenBoosh,2018/01/25,"Thinking of nannying instead of going back to work. Talk to me about ""giving up your career"". My daughter will be one in mid-March, and I'm supposed to go back to work shortly after (Canadian here). We're on a bunch of daycare waitlists but likely won't get in, as the waits are 2+ years usually. We can't afford to hire a nanny on our own, so our only other option would be to do a nanny-share with another family, so we could halve the cost. It still doesn't leave us with much money to save every month.


So I'm considering taking on another child as a nanny myself, rather than going back to work. Pros of this include more money (not having to pay for childcare) and obviously, getting to spend more time with my daughter. Cons are that I take myself out of the workforce... once she's in school, what do I do? We can't afford to have me not work, and I'm afraid that trying to get a decent job after being out for 5 years will be impossible. 


Would you do it? Have you done it? Anybody chosen to not go back to work for their child's early years (either nannying or ""just"" staying at home), and then made their way back into their career later?",5.6225165782493365,5.173645581896551,6.628620689655173,79.32460212201593,67.31896551724138,8.862599469496024,27.759946949602128,8.139509932561175,1.7339631299734748,893,23,177,10,13,300,135,232,0.006999999999999999,0.955,0.038,0.7637,4,0,0,0,0,0,38,6,3,3,5,14,3,0,1,8,0,23,0,0,1,1,30,39,12,0,4,8,2,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,8,13,0,1,1,0,5,4,7,1,0,1,2,0,21,2,42,27,6,35,0,0,0,0,19,12,0,2,18,132,29,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546741094681709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668869495402722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695738943652912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427199046220222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231572679355633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447979095735634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903371202356615,0.11649322722698124,0.2760612880579061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181099421160906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050726864224258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858401859517354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932787792753974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490641983334228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969296812282167,0.0,0.08927000784309397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293262101096091,0.08228870664014278,0.09235814525291984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290050710460194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294354524819124,0.09697957138199413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261069491299772,0.09760628584121464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778117868326266,0.0,0.0,0.07081076445266903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244760400727058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460734972477219,0.0,0.1337454594798013,0.0,0.0,0.09639086554268353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4420371198765792,0.0,0.0,0.1725304122129332,0.0,0.0,0.2346039194331849
parenting,VY99,2018/01/25,"Should I be worried about smart toys? I saw this article and it has me freaked out a bit: [https://medium.com/@StoAmigo/this-innocent-object-you-bought-might-be-spying-on-your-kids-5ea14703ebcb](https://medium.com/@StoAmigo/this-innocent-object-you-bought-might-be-spying-on-your-kids-5ea14703ebcb)

Does anyone have any experience with any of this? Anyone else worried about these toys?",28.63171428571429,38.098968742857146,11.414285714285715,25.695714285714306,32.99999999999999,6.2285714285714295,24.142857142857146,7.554174236665415,1.5613999999999997,346,6,28,3,5,72,28,35,0.189,0.74,0.071,-0.5329999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,44,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,5,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32895114254453506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382333659497579,0.2478178846394733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640524563018906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21165650410424602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20204603867611087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365890530994911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131582082014458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4912485401355666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,to_wit__nothing,2018/01/25,"Disciplining a co-parented toddler when the other parent refuses to say no I know, that borders on an oxymoron, but I'm the only person my ex will say no to. 

Our toddler (2.5) splits time about 60/40 between our houses, going to his dad during work hours M/W and every other weekend. He isn't just a ""weekend dad,"" he spends enough time with our son that acting as just a ""fun parent"" really isn't acceptable (in my view). 

He is completely permissive with our son. Lollipop instead of lunch? Sure. Demands to watch cartoons? You got it. Sees a toy at the store he wants? Right into the shopping cart. Part of the problem is that my ex is still living with his mom, who would acts like hearing our son cry is a sign of bad parenting and will do anything to avoid it. 

This has started to bleed over into my parenting time. Our son will be watching cartoons on his tablet during the drive when my ex brings him home, and when our son doesn't want to stop my ex will try to bribe him with promises that I will let him keep watching, or give him a lollipop when he gets inside, etc. On top of his normal toddler tantrums, he's now throwing extra fits when I tell him no to watching tv, or offer him anything other than granola bars and hotdogs for dinner, or tell him it's time for bed -- all things that started in the last 6 months or so. Our son also cries for his dad anytime I say no. It's hard to know what is toddler and what is spoiling from my ex. 

I know I have no control over what happens at his dad's house (the one time I asked that we align bedtimes I was soundly rebuffed), and I have limited control over what he says to our son during dropoff. I do believe in rules at my house and try to lean toward the side of gentle parenting (absolutely no spanking, occasional timeouts, doing 1-2-3 counting and giving choices when possible), but (especially after the weekend visits) I find myself resorting to either yelling or having to walk away to another room out of frustration from his screams for ""daddy!"" when he's told no. I'm going to have to deal with this for another 16 years....how do I set a good foundation now?",6.361006211180122,5.87434986666667,6.731262939958594,79.32736024844722,65.80952380952381,9.209109730848864,33.975155279503106,8.456263369488248,2.6230031055900627,1664,66,323,20,23,541,214,420,0.135,0.799,0.066,-0.9796,6,1,0,0,1,0,63,10,1,0,5,16,12,2,1,18,0,27,4,0,2,2,48,49,25,0,5,10,22,1,1,0,6,1,8,3,1,21,17,3,8,5,7,3,9,10,6,0,1,3,15,46,6,57,38,6,57,0,0,6,0,72,22,0,5,26,213,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034409429471188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184474051786656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447723447584757,0.0,0.08223366527577645,0.0,0.0826442691439518,0.0,0.07344555082712198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910434084255858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922276826766901,0.0,0.197316290797728,0.0,0.0,0.19324676600627747,0.0,0.09068613878083308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088944154755177,0.0981021573133612,0.0,0.0,0.0741127424476684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803967198214116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045957112076292835,0.16876452559030652,0.09998296343478504,0.07377931161333869,0.0703521616610298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778551753533595,0.0,0.07879769909798155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914085599824238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823420528023812,0.0,0.0866259777899897,0.30449297326736163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818568384737595,0.0,0.0,0.1450267301473674,0.07170170245904668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994827419277449,0.0,0.04297434885726069,0.0,0.07767306751067582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302137086035758,0.07021134214191832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618520455329769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059606102724344086,0.06689993461010217,0.0,0.0,0.488363307115997,0.09525551275990364,0.0,0.0,0.07680602424558199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916522789835043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416884890829149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056351442325730514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512004415931861,0.0,0.2798072900400587,0.0,0.0,0.07009523696011838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452153181207595,0.0,0.07024748024339555,0.07354112692271199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290422200459634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376732957945186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058438804122122184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564600825732336,0.0,0.0,0.08405255345239833,0.0,0.11944240113833647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376588248705647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403821630241352,0.0,0.0,0.062486493550141436,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chooseyourusername17,2018/01/25,"8 month old takes over an hours of rocking to go to sleep My friend's daughter is 8 months old. She takes over an hour of rocking to go to sleep. My friend said she or her husband has to hold their daughter in their hand and keep moving and rocking her to put her to sleep. They put some soft music and also dim their lights to help their daughter go to sleep faster. However, recently she has been taking over an hour to go to sleep. 

When they are holding and rocking her she has her eyes closed and is sleeping but keeps makes crying sounds every few seconds/mins. She cries when put down. They have to make sure she is completely asleep before they can put her down on her bed. This can take anywhere between 1-2 hours. 

They said that their daughter is recently teething and she might be getting her upper teeth. They think may be this is causing all this. 

Any suggestions what can be done to help her go to sleep faster.",3.9876373626373613,5.53957600549451,3.484395604395605,93.2356043956044,71.91208791208791,6.2989010989011005,25.08791208791209,6.5431188927421005,0.6490395604395602,731,22,153,5,14,216,93,182,0.04,0.894,0.066,0.431,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,11,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,20,12,12,3,2,22,37,11,0,0,2,5,2,0,2,2,0,3,1,0,5,7,0,4,1,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,7,29,3,24,28,3,33,0,0,1,0,39,9,0,4,14,95,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860718266537033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058340950270096566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300198282524496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813118313929931,0.0,0.0,0.08995042918164572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884751848440735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779417217817098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228277668394079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256411926182,0.0,0.04482235523257203,0.0,0.2437855481889049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500805086629205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33794815848533377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251030089492712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453256936945805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101089381782353,0.0,0.0,0.136955416764063,0.0911824565745434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004684196956625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449753616043132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941689797220225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321413301321538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6009720229967925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085718012048296,0.0,0.2580171884451052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05497152966864692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nominally,2018/01/25,"What the hell, Healthcare I'm so livid and I feel like I can't trust medical Healthcare whatsoever. I pay $350 per month to insure myself and my family. Our deductible is low and we don't utilize much in the way of Healthcare. I was deliberate about what they offered because we couldn't chance loads of unexpected expense. My frustration is that there's all this talk about evidence based medicine and this bullshit. I think health plans intentionally hide their services and fees. They don't get rich by actually paying for care.

Our second child is on the way. The OB scheduled a 20 week ultrasound. That's the norm right? AAFP says it's evidence based, reduces the risk of negative outcomes because medical teams can anticipate and preempt any issues with development or even check the baby's growth progress, placement of the placenta, etc. We didn't go just to have fun with digital images.

Lo, we get a bill. $350 for just the imaging. I read and reread my contract. It says, explicitly, that patient responsibility is $0 for ""routine obstetrics"". 

I called Killer Kaiser to get the info. They said, ""it was diagnostic"" . I said, ""No it's screening, our provider ordered it because it's the thing you do. There were no concerns."" The idiot on the phone had the gall to say, ""Oh ya, you know elective imaging is not usually covered."" Instantly I respond, ""You cover mammograms once every two years in women over 40. Do you know why? Screening is effective, just like 20 week ultrasounds. The doctors order them for the same reasons."" But after an hour I realized I was just running up against a brick wall. I have no power or worth to anyone, not my doctor, not my health plan. 

I feel so miffed. It's just one of many examples. These systems (government, health plan, employers) have no qualms about exploiting every last cent out of you. We worked so hard to budget for our life with kids, and we are under unbelievable stress trying to keep up with our skyrocketing local taxes,  payments and debt, and I feel like I made a mistake in choosing a supposedly better insurance, in buying a home, and even (at times) having kids. I don't feel like there's any institutional support, but that I'm supposed to just grin and bear it all the way to bankruptcy.

I feel like I'm breaking down and have no help. ",4.414989604989604,6.674437412587416,5.050306810306811,79.50564732564735,72.31002331002331,8.087721287721289,30.00951300951301,8.841846274778883,2.6283947709947717,1826,79,327,37,37,586,237,429,0.109,0.81,0.081,-0.7203,3,0,0,0,0,0,74,11,6,5,9,17,19,3,2,24,0,26,9,0,4,3,59,47,20,0,2,13,0,6,5,0,0,9,5,1,4,18,24,0,1,13,2,13,3,15,7,0,3,9,13,45,12,43,37,5,37,1,1,2,0,38,17,1,2,15,204,63,11,0.0,0.0,0.0979390523250096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649950655632334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017559993240599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353963902761364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876223048615296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248105095867313,0.0,0.1023259752463153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054499761174357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193040831678452,0.1325766036433686,0.0,0.1691190031050295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461257193356312,0.0,0.25373077774450464,0.2867951689559705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730535782190458,0.0,0.057038164238481175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990483875178719,0.0,0.0,0.3200410500320373,0.0,0.0,0.06727068260190773,0.0,0.10067149280904697,0.0,0.09883657332736023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475208599666568,0.0,0.08920655526065488,0.0,0.0,0.11031290623841757,0.08180860699743883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088880624208148,0.2451595635851529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496516215827087,0.0,0.10175154175390418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022087622722918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010816897034778,0.0,0.07377778180701454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688249213739696,0.06800803977018523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038938254715306,0.0,0.0,0.10318908065581724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570879016115422,0.19093491377994606,0.23943620417151001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149645874773558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388986143254445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066735327774832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667620148290923,0.06430806011624614,0.0,0.0,0.058522019383703584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813936153843543,0.0,0.09803930877146272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053480968124546,0.0,0.0,0.23898858366956674,0.16100904323649887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905612960063722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306489372819815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462998117439561
parenting,daddyizhome,2018/01/25,"Is my son too attached to me to go to daycare? What can I do? For the last few months I've been a stay at home dad to my beautiful 2 year old boy. He likes me a lot, maybe because I play with him all the time, I let him do some things his mom frowns upon (jumping in puddles, chasing the ice cream truck). 
I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand, I'm proud and happy about it, to know how much he loves having me around and that I make him happy.
But it's the times I'm not around that get to me. He can have a full tantrum when he senses I'm not coming with him, or that I'm leaving him. He started daycare 3 weeks ago only 3 days a week for 3 hours. He still cries hardcore when I leave him and stays upset a while. Today they told me every time someone opened the door he would yell daddy then start crying because daddy wasn't there. They suggested I bring him 5 days to get him more used to the routine. I'm a stay at home dad, so if the daycare doesn't work out it's not the end of the world. I was hoping he would have fun with other kids and be more independent but he can't seem to enjoy it as he should because he can't let go of daddy. I don't know if I should push through with the daycare or give it a timeout.
Juat wondering if anyone else went through this, or is going through this, any thoughts and suggestions are appreciated.",3.3044682017543856,3.6637980104166696,4.293106725146199,91.28098684210528,72.36805555555556,6.896491228070175,25.22733918128655,6.339386263674448,0.5981152777777776,1049,29,244,6,19,341,158,288,0.044,0.861,0.095,0.918,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,0,2,2,12,11,1,1,17,0,25,2,1,4,1,43,52,20,0,8,11,4,2,1,0,4,0,1,3,2,14,14,0,0,6,1,0,8,8,2,0,1,6,4,28,9,31,39,8,44,0,0,1,1,33,11,0,11,23,149,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816222091381348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530538072651034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743032050362085,0.1134637807259624,0.0,0.19715992371621807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20251388073227347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539065649528156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432801571875884,0.14283321097098664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925070741453823,0.0,0.09808066496056501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330122311949234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599226928252468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157116745689286,0.10622961812454043,0.18880422862837404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23576451684220276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22215772893400945,0.10998744568460808,0.10905425187085743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171700268973673,0.0902659423769499,0.0,0.23451030617718865,0.0,0.22647344363485636,0.0,0.05410080883159008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414516672419453,0.09994502788675724,0.0,0.07391822298079118,0.0,0.11125082605517507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969456521603304,0.08838971386503086,0.0,0.08140489424908126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162005068511338,0.0,0.0750386789895719,0.08422095201974218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081137260565357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382762827632997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676131848693944,0.35409471476328064,0.08843520845823691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356915588550003,0.0,0.0,0.08791330283615592,0.1937159948086213,0.0,0.10496631801950597,0.10581454395595624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564175107253726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765408252714346,0.0,0.0,0.10265488558790936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009022796476355,0.08061830813540169,0.0,0.0,0.15732965976243887,0.0,0.0,0.07131139828226132
parenting,willz202,2018/01/25,"Holidaying with a 1 year old - help me make good choices Our only daughter is currently 7 months old. We’re hoping to get away for a first family holiday later this year but we’re a bit stuck on what we should be looking for in our destination and accommodation.

We’re in the UK, so we’re thinking either south coast or Europe

A few things going through my mind; 

- should we go for a hotel or private accommodation
- city break or beach holiday 
- should we take prams, car seats etc 

Help..... ",5.694290780141841,6.393014670212764,6.58808510638298,75.73333333333333,67.19148936170212,9.670921985815603,29.49645390070922,9.725611199111238,2.6107432624113467,385,13,74,8,6,128,68,94,0.028,0.85,0.123,0.765,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,17,14,6,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,2,10,9,4,17,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,4,8,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20576443611233053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390990963831713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442508753489798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20646045932743884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628737843196205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442220192253487,0.0,0.2489336321211077,0.1836928150992738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29359176577533225,0.0,0.0,0.21752352588366125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18391085605290988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618897993088406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211347996953898,0.0,0.17480942567666252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596223469396271,0.0,0.0,0.16656481403474152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646661285566299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549862563758198,0.1403309450183838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820668612403701
parenting,littlebugs,2018/01/25,"Kids classic audiobooks as fantastic as Winnie the Pooh? I was never a fan of Winnie the Pooh growing up, having mainly been exposed to the Disney cartoon versions. Although I was an avid reader, the book never caught my attention. But I am absolutely enchanted with the audiobook dramatisation starring Stephen Fry, Dame Judi Dench, Geoffrey Palmer, and others. My kids have been listening to it on car trips for the past three months, maybe longer, and they'll happily go to sleep on their own if I pop it in the CD player. And I'm entertained as well. Turns out there's plenty of humor buried within the writing that I never picked up on as a child.

So, does anyone out there have recommendations for other audiobook classics with this sort of quality production? Alice in Wonderland? Peter Pan? A Christmas Carol? The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe?",5.541870286576168,8.010067209150327,5.9673202614379095,73.24217194570137,69.71895424836602,8.890698843640024,30.069884364002014,9.466822959209583,3.2244493715434883,685,28,106,16,13,220,107,153,0.036000000000000004,0.826,0.138,0.9441,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,15,0,9,1,1,1,3,17,14,12,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,8,0,0,1,3,0,5,3,1,1,1,5,1,9,3,24,8,3,20,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,2,5,79,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979128885678248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476961431277681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086200693570307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28435853289677016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259252380324802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6549093741659077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27020017731846674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832511913197783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078736158853827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25449304626261193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DelightfullyStabby,2018/01/25,"Insurance won't cover my daughter's services on the day she was born? Please let me know if this is inappropriate for this sub. 

I've been fighting my insurance provider for a few months now to cover the services that was rendered back in November 2017, to my daughter on the day she was born. We got her coverage under our insurance plan as soon as we humanly could once she was a ""real"" person with a name/dob/SSN and whatnot, within the same week. However, the insurance company is saying because she did not have coverage on the day she was born, they are not obligated to pay for the services she received at the hospital. How the hell do you sign a fetus up for insurance so they have coverage the moment they are out of the uterus? 

They did pay for my portion of the hospital bill, albeit with a rather heafty copay. My daughter's portion of the hospital bill is just under 4k. This number does not include the pediatrician, and a number of other standard infant care providers contracted by the hospital, those are separate bills I'm also dealing with. 

Has anyone else dealt with this issue before?",8.042045454545459,7.6238508269230785,8.293199300699303,69.2836188811189,62.365384615384606,11.602097902097904,37.65909090909091,11.022393298168332,4.298186538461539,884,39,151,21,11,291,120,208,0.035,0.911,0.055,-0.2378,1,0,0,0,2,0,21,3,1,4,1,8,3,2,0,21,0,21,0,0,1,0,22,25,8,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,7,9,0,0,1,0,5,1,4,2,0,0,9,1,21,1,29,13,4,23,1,0,0,0,25,10,1,1,12,115,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368886087417498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186613087171708,0.22253950727380795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700771936591038,0.0,0.13239860610413184,0.0,0.18481492382973133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214423526596307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341063507355986,0.0,0.0,0.4202138187417113,0.22391605578045432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900667266334701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18143656564181868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737087802672678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22669266834025015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936338465064407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22209417064476172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336107827311248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23130305340414475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896442195075964,0.0,0.23841227659098696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24721275268374185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272029002085376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421882004027314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jocyg1995,2018/01/25,"Am I wrong for starting to dislike SO's family? So my boyfriend's mom wanted us (my two month old daughter and I) to go over to eat at her house a few weeks ago but I kindly declined to go because my boyfriend's brothers including his step dad smoke weed in the house and will definitely not have my daughter around that environment. Not only did she get upset but also his siblings at the fact that I said that I wouldn't go until they stopped smoking in the house. I know she's my daughters grandma but I feel like she doesn't respect my daughter or me at all and only cares about seeing her and not her well being. Because if she did she would understand why I will not take my daughter there. If I remember health class correctly when you smoke in a home the smell also attaches to the furniture, curtains, etc. so I chose to not take my daughter there at all since her immune system is severely delicate. I invite them to my house but they're ""always busy"" and will not take my daughter out unless it's a medical emergency because she hasn't received her shots yet. P.S: YES I KNOW CIGARETTES ARE FAR WORSE THAN THE SMELL OF WEED BUT AS A MOM I HAVE THE 100% RIGHT TO CHOOSE WHAT ENVIRONMENT I DO AND DONT WANT MY DAUGHTER IN PLEASE RESPECT THAT.",4.714613749114103,5.674971040160643,5.239622017481693,83.58510276399717,69.52208835341365,8.268462083628632,30.30970942593905,8.4952907291091,2.1839882352941173,995,39,197,15,17,319,135,249,0.112,0.757,0.131,0.7964,0,0,3,0,0,0,18,1,1,2,0,12,8,0,1,11,1,17,4,0,0,4,38,34,23,0,6,15,12,1,1,0,5,3,1,2,0,6,8,1,1,6,0,0,5,10,2,1,1,3,5,43,6,26,25,4,28,0,0,1,0,31,13,0,3,10,138,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093944376768713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821246048449584,0.09474948692822477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136900351239993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824343913631688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609869732316745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345553139760075,0.0,0.0,0.11651808328591012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269958538401211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734709662370596,0.0,0.05757641243295529,0.08134920149604162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05949270482923474,0.0,0.1941459111389509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103915585857453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422152727667108,0.0,0.0,0.5255656781652871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857873923932848,0.12516064158083035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05563143844959821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471268087419716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667278134241189,0.09089045122720653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119488072069753,0.0,0.0,0.1732074920742047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249957580635399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289932271022734,0.09724489664429596,0.10831704613614844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074014997897964,0.0,0.0,0.1286414009758538,0.0,0.09419496262028984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059821866833003,0.0,0.0,0.09520094625526172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568496292762667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112350603786742,0.11854334267214207,0.1369723484999623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432769682958468,0.0,0.09134015156958,0.0,0.10238337252817103,0.0,0.1027505329798084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604390116813255,0.08089042911184421,0.12449965922189075,0.0,0.0
parenting,Forever-Velma,2018/01/25,"Niece is mean to my son I love my niece (20 months). She is adorable and I don’t think that she is mean but definitely lacks discipline. She snatches from, hits, scratches, and bites my son (15 months) repeatedly.  He had been left bleeding more than once and with a bruise on almost every encounter! He simply takes it and cries. I don’t want him to hit back of course and on the rare occasion that he does hit (usually me or his dad) he is sternly told “no” and put in a momentary time out. Her mom does absolutely nothing. She apologizes afterwards but does nothing to stop or discipline her. It has gotten to the point that my son is scared of her. It makes me so angry (not at my niece but at my sister). I don’t want to discipline her because it’s not my place but at this rate we don’t really want them around anymore. What can I do?",2.346587771203154,4.222709615384616,3.536544378698228,89.77448126232744,77.10650887573966,7.3469033530572,23.69270216962525,8.238735603445708,1.2468340039447732,651,21,142,12,15,211,99,169,0.108,0.8079999999999999,0.083,-0.8585,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,14,2,0,1,0,31,28,13,0,4,8,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,10,0,4,3,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,4,1,26,2,18,21,2,20,0,0,0,1,25,11,0,3,8,90,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802272069628415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650392801253551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048329201348006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134522849421447,0.0,0.09619878153548846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334555988397338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41429864068655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296072270322465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145972612169474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424286059079639,0.0,0.10533860135870833,0.0,0.0,0.3438000992450663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18482376270372394,0.2519229618238618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30284360506937325,0.0,0.0,0.16806122479428684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487661116637992,0.0,0.14918032707818826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864143402471964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109636007989782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799414169743176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193522545677944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865258025269372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111750887495882,0.0,0.0,0.09201958205107164,0.0,0.0,0.15079307394370872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738041013635175,0.0,0.2792391619529988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,socrates200X,2018/01/25,"What's the last movie you saw for yourself without the kids? I think it's probably *Star Trek: Beyond* back in 2016.  

Although I've lucked out with my 7-year-old's tastes and have been able to watch *Spiderman: Homecoming* and the new *Star Wars* films without too much fuss.

Edit: Meant to add ""in a theater"" to the title there.  I, too, am a fan of post-bedtime movie nights with the missus.  :D",0.3736580086580084,2.8021485194805216,1.1644480519480531,98.14286255411258,96.27272727272728,4.125108225108225,18.10497835497836,5.985473137389443,-0.25018528138528096,304,9,64,3,12,93,59,77,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.8494,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,1,0,0,5,2,1,0,7,0,3,1,0,0,0,11,6,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,4,1,13,3,1,8,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,1,4,37,6,1,0.2847570726733625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189606118807038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321150202489988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932921298363533,0.0,0.0,0.27502015522156625,0.0,0.2672252227308257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988046464751951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27271856149590235,0.0,0.3070162865517813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246083418244266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5489913129545725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337421867428816
parenting,JMango,2018/01/25,"My son has a concussion and I need some help coming up with quiet activities for him Just like the title says, he fell on some ice, hit his head and now has a mild concussion. He has no screens, reading, or physical activity for the next week or so which is going to be really rough for my unusually active boy. I need suggestions of things we can do. We live in Southern Ontario so outdoor activities are tricky due to the risk of ice but I’m open to suggestions!! A couple of things I thought of are baking and audiobooks but I don’t know what good audiobooks are, any suggestions there? Like I mentioned, he’s not a “sit still” kind of kid so keeping him entertained is going to be hard. 

Any help is appreciated!!

EDIT: forgot to mention his age: he’s 7 :)",3.045937016004132,5.0187732013422846,4.877315436241613,80.50892101187405,75.3758389261745,8.611461022199277,26.89778007227672,9.265573868473778,2.4237182240578217,593,23,117,15,13,202,94,149,0.038,0.774,0.188,0.9793,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,7,0,14,2,1,0,0,22,25,10,0,2,6,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,8,1,2,2,2,0,4,3,1,0,0,2,5,13,5,17,20,2,15,0,0,1,0,21,4,0,4,8,73,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872010649211679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18190133204737685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233651831734035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400216956635057,0.17711652935622754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18916380053304316,0.0,0.2167178580693596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830810479636386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769458084625024,0.0,0.21989752368383125,0.11605164350227755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20633067331481267,0.0,0.18646398077067003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131547235213643,0.0,0.0,0.22457807981448746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112237494603985,0.0,0.13527873425084344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792815972650915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863792335087294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805794182543553,0.0,0.0,0.1676426966552244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693851129798047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maplebrownbetty,2018/01/25,Neighborhood friendships Thanks!,25.6,31.175329000000005,9.180000000000003,34.59000000000003,92.33333333333331,14.533333333333335,69.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,13.63326666666667,29,2,1,1,1,6,3,3,0.0,0.147,0.853,0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sweatyskin,2018/01/25,"How do we prevent people like Nassar from taking advantage of our children? We’ve all heard how 150+ girls were taken advantage

Some had their parents there 

Some had told officials and nothing was done about it 

Some girls took the correct steps but yet more girls were victimized. 

Some didn’t know what was happening until years later when it finally clicked. 

What are the types of conversations we should have with our children? Should they be more explicitly detailed so they understand? 

I don’t want to become a helicopter parent but the amount of girls that this happened to is really worrisome. 

I am a mother of a 5 year old",3.82050397877984,6.835825931034485,4.064137931034484,81.81773209549073,78.48275862068967,7.707161803713528,26.16445623342176,8.617729084823388,2.4023694960212203,512,20,87,12,13,159,84,116,0.075,0.862,0.063,-0.7488,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,3,2,7,4,1,0,6,0,17,0,0,2,3,21,27,8,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,6,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,12,2,9,3,10,12,8,10,0,0,1,0,19,0,0,4,9,64,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24225682336799514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244730430324404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402891689822367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879441348125516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055000968133375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716420687815867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104739627194906,0.0,0.2301728093253685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4871284183903414,0.0,0.0,0.15207091530072822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052237634443931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649252507541384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20960003970574329,0.2437079146263426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283529538725713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937937157201224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825107277815319
parenting,cupcakefantasy,2018/01/25,"What age can I enforce the rule of ""If you don't eat your dinner you are going hungry"" rule? I was wondering when are children able to connect their actions with consequences? I have a 20 month old who suddenly doesn't want me to feed her dinner. She would rather feed herself (and Im ok with that) but the problem is she ends up playing with the food more than eating it. She probably ends up with only a bite or two actually going inside her and most of the rest on the floor. When she stops eating and messes around I let her down from her chair (taking it as a sign she is no longer interested). Is it alright to let her go to bed hungry? Will she be able to know this is a consequence of her not eating? I usually feel a little bad and give her some milk before bed but I'm fully ready to cut that off if it enforces the point better. She is rather strong willed, what if she ends up deciding she would rather not eat dinner anyway in the future? She is teething, will this cause a loss of appetite? It didn't affect her much previously. Or could this be a phase?

Any advice will be much appreciated!",3.4196755473489837,4.777524278026911,4.447855447111582,86.53762859403854,73.03587443946188,7.2201529939330005,22.983117910841464,7.724431198458867,0.9128445792666846,866,22,180,11,17,282,128,223,0.083,0.815,0.102,0.7449,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,3,1,3,7,11,1,0,14,2,26,13,1,2,0,36,36,14,0,11,12,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,13,9,12,1,4,1,0,4,6,5,0,1,2,1,29,6,25,22,6,27,0,1,0,0,26,11,0,8,12,134,42,0,0.2374913281665219,0.0,0.11587863887728753,0.0,0.0,0.11603688863149235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075112353894519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570881657685173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914766949982057,0.0,0.0,0.10104381410343374,0.0,0.0,0.10502089011760786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219845070120964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480875034785682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6075322962235656,0.0,0.0,0.3155202383921137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600413756684895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358772835719674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391166121081568,0.20245769218025955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826569406818442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525951151276066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428509735800401,0.0,0.0,0.11901435101670155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478165617154137,0.0,0.17458345230484162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460359928464805,0.0,0.0,0.09031142841987637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122530345492599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802790985559376,0.11362356357545245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099276692252471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928196131037884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159972593895129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307815727266533,0.0,0.07003926927037686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287746073473984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870702557041098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sisyphus1897,2018/01/25,"Teenage and older Hi all,

I’m writing this because I am confused about why I am being blocked by my teenage kids. 

I have been divorced from their Mum for 11 years, we have always had a good relationship, sharing Christmas’ and holidays, I have never missed maintenance and moved my new family closer to be there for them when they need me. 

Christmas Day my 18 yo son deceided for whatever reason he didn’t want to to be at the house and rang his mum to go home, no explanation given and has now blocked my calls etc

Yesterday, his older sister and my adopted daughter uninvited me from her wedding, no explanation given and won’t take my calls. I have another son who is 14 and his mum has blocked my messages to his phone. 

I love my children, but I’m struggling to accept that they won’t speak to me. I won’t be at my only daughters wedding and my youngest won’t be able to stay in contact. 

I have two small boys from my current wife (married 6 years) but they have always all got along fine. Confused and upset with no explanation, I haven’t ever hurt them to my knowledge, only done the best I can from a distance as they live with their Mum. 

Has anyone experienced this?",8.032337662337664,6.462405307359308,8.02683982683983,74.91740259740261,63.02597402597402,10.65108225108225,37.883116883116884,9.339509955726095,3.36684935064935,930,39,180,13,11,302,129,231,0.113,0.794,0.093,-0.5727,1,0,0,0,1,0,21,1,0,8,1,5,12,0,4,4,0,27,1,0,1,4,31,38,14,0,2,2,10,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,3,4,14,0,3,3,1,0,2,10,6,0,1,7,3,39,6,25,22,4,20,0,2,0,1,43,5,0,2,12,124,43,0,0.16561323533100158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756069575901262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736599173285544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580062484295707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009562910913032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380087295523505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382192598854323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680683594737736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694798394307776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847025352757333,0.0,0.14980665289355058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612541906957653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941218181971141,0.1389085243289143,0.13245603335117154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612357831482538,0.0,0.0,0.19109543791336514,0.1772923937162423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623952097240048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947241085863824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602065963781394,0.0,0.1228001155202525,0.12773113681937234,0.15995029468407132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519126565748564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027798876566366,0.0,0.17780663572237335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652167332072055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17313491205647782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245205421474712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617800663741008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768297708919403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944018539531054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329898741991324
parenting,Infinitelyregressing,2018/01/25,"YouTube Kids App: Is the new clampdown working? How are people finding the supposed new YouTube Kids clampdown on inappropriate content?

Article for reference: https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.engadget.com/amp/2017/11/10/youtube-kids-policy-age-restrictions/

Personally I've always hated my 5 year old daughter having access to YouTube kids, but its hard to say no when she gets it at her moms.

Admittedly there can be some pretty good content, but the vast majority of it seems to be just pure nonsensical trash at best, or the ones where the violent content vets through like the bleeding Mickey cartoons that I found her watching at her mom's place before.

I'm confused why they don't just give an option for approved or subscribed channels only instead if having to constantly flag or block ones after you discover them.",11.458034351145036,13.227893687022906,9.081746183206107,59.116665076335885,54.877862595419856,10.519465648854961,40.80248091603053,10.411451182825502,4.679846564885497,687,32,91,13,8,203,100,131,0.124,0.738,0.138,0.6261,0,0,0,0,0,0,30,0,1,2,3,7,6,2,1,7,0,8,1,0,1,1,19,15,8,0,1,8,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,3,9,3,13,12,3,14,0,0,1,0,17,7,0,8,8,59,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342924672506907,0.3735350174743418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667785430519736,0.0,0.18089621906571096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627540784206909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575470099026413,0.0,0.0,0.18899954982349249,0.0,0.0,0.09005847013987513,0.16535715911950344,0.0,0.1445794052689828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441353711533898,0.17018395882168838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421338805879078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037654514058373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329603937518457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180877857233971,0.0,0.2336106069260081,0.13109844137816173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950265275826745,0.15051061149361147,0.18009448125069685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753666578537421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370789815576283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692311123123245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554101688231073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254905613108966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100341355806964
parenting,b6passat,2018/01/25,"Phonics for 4 year old My daughter can tell you what letter pretty much any word starts with (other than c/k, those are hard).  Any recommendations for early reading guides for preschool?  She loves learning and I’m struggling to come up with a great way to teach her to go beyond sounding out the first letter.",5.878103448275862,7.198749051724143,5.120172413793104,84.17956896551725,67.10344827586206,6.4896551724137925,28.29310344827586,5.985473137389443,1.1349172413793105,247,8,45,1,4,74,51,58,0.044,0.784,0.172,0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,2,12,7,1,11,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,5,26,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694732243732737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23400913115619976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310719767022017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438938194863192,0.0,0.0,0.2995036716099668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24335202007983564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451817609654369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996997323949868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850591519882129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763736343367412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717313036383313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228078139835192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839957044832134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374408815472633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21562930842381672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493870958306204
parenting,I_Hate_Waistbands,2018/01/25,"When your 4yo son is more charming that your husband This morning I was getting dressed for work, while my husband and son were putting on their shoes by the front door. I came out to ask my husband whether the top I was wearing made me look ""really pregnant."" Silly, I know, especially since I'm 37 weeks. 

Husband looks at me and says, ""Well . . . you are really pregnant."" Okay, fine.

Son looks at me and says, ""You look cute, mom!""
Now that's exactly what I needed. Gave my little guy the biggest hug before he dashed out the door. ",1.0528571428571425,3.6576007843137286,1.8278991596638683,94.93411764705887,90.1764705882353,4.4829131652661065,22.97198879551821,6.18269132825596,0.4756224089635852,408,16,83,4,14,126,71,102,0.0,0.813,0.187,0.9517,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,4,1,2,3,7,0,0,4,1,5,3,2,1,1,11,17,6,0,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,6,16,7,8,11,1,15,0,0,4,1,19,8,0,0,4,46,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855213825691044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252048911617675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184444568637799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997856607973879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911253167570755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496444363907093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142458853818528,0.0,0.0,0.6415421479645073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072165353876996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22368802353132528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161846543225384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200014277411784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447092802534733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30376968951206873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799091024404138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320260539280894,0.0,0.1717251301939182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904476241706126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Themightysavage,2018/01/25,"My 18 month old isn't talking yet , advice welcome A little background
 My little guy is the light of my life. He's a super good kid, sleeps through the night. We read him books before bed every night. He finishes all his food, when he's not teething. He interacts with other kids really well. Whenever we take him to daycare he has a little train of kids that he plays with. But I notice that the other kids in his class are saying ""hi"" and ""momma"" and ""dada"" but he just babbles.  I mentioned this to his doctor and she said that if he doesn't start soon we'll need to get him special speech therapy. I feel like a failure as a parent, so of anyone knows anything I can do to aid him please do.


I've never seen such wonderfully encouraging and helpful responses in my life. You are all fantastic people. My thumbs are getting tired saying thank you to all of you.",2.533399122807019,4.675118783625732,3.828417397660818,86.65034539473686,77.53801169590643,6.3802631578947375,22.968201754385966,7.413659706084162,0.9989675438596488,676,21,132,9,16,221,110,171,0.066,0.745,0.189,0.9651,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,3,3,0,1,7,9,0,0,8,0,11,7,2,0,4,21,22,10,0,2,5,2,1,1,0,1,4,4,1,5,6,8,1,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,7,23,9,15,19,3,15,0,0,1,0,39,5,0,2,11,81,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523044893041268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039190640424946,0.0,0.12230219044809193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646528752150768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211960600437716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521936778169734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514710231869942,0.10617467310048168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971276631209376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529638572825588,0.0,0.0,0.12465600989080335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471578803531182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961733679831043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816780617418712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20995042159561308,0.07260857737839096,0.4468710208753291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862764193786828,0.0,0.0,0.11020038178965827,0.11462546255993104,0.0,0.0,0.2789409584761348,0.0,0.0,0.1692056764235732,0.15595244646660902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650257230948493,0.0,0.0,0.10303489516018696,0.0,0.0,0.1631409221882653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866094032901292,0.0,0.09521023981263764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137233990274578,0.2363783257937479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487280535587023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519451158973547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174428645422127,0.11945570624951345,0.0,0.13682999248850555,0.1699607474036272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708176563166951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362787721563987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611728326781814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skylergray76,2018/01/25,"Mother of my 3rd child not accepting my other 2 children. ""ADVICE"" I have full custody of my 2 kids from my previous marriage and have a 3rd on the way with my new wife. through conversation we talk naturally about the 3 of them being together and what not. Yet every time I bring up my other children she seems to ignore the conversation. Also has blamed me before saying that ""I'm taking the fun away"" from her having her first child. Ive been extremely supportive, and beyond excited yet she can't wrap her head around having the 3 of them all together. Could her being like this be the horomones, or is she just being insensitive.

Any advice helps!
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parenting,luv4horses,2018/01/25,"Potty training I've been potty training my little boy for about 2 months now since he turned 2 in December.  He will pee pee in the potty just about everytime i sit him on the potty but won't tell me when he has to potty. He wears pull ups all the time. I'm just waiting for him to tell me when he has to potty and once that is down, he can switch to underwear. I give him a sticker everytime he goes to potty. Is there anything else I can try?",3.5914035087719327,3.683668789473689,4.993421052631582,87.46311403508776,71.6315789473684,8.017543859649122,25.307017543859647,7.793537801064563,1.1309649122807013,345,9,78,4,6,116,57,95,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,4,0,9,3,3,0,1,6,13,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,14,10,1,13,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,0,5,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504601594473981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25425150486608883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29196729568019275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050460141141395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429351265563607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241306359613456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517675383515101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.532043463805478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774732136316372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20663865660113534,0.3310533895629985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,simplisticmercy,2018/01/25,"Mammy and Daddy Just curious, is it weird for grown adults to call their parents Mammy and Daddy even if that’s what they’ve been calling them forever? Also is calling your parents by their first names disrespectful?",9.696153846153843,9.367377205128207,8.656025641025643,67.73480769230771,59.0,10.876923076923077,37.44871794871795,10.125756701596842,3.937964102564103,177,7,27,3,2,55,32,39,0.043,0.889,0.068,0.2406,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,3,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,1,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992096590021973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7630940104381038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453189999205894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21188909682929813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5532045801722785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chees3tacos,2018/01/25,"My 4 year old son got off the bus today chewing on a rolled up piece of tinfoil. And it was on this day that I relinquish my title as alpha male of our household and pass on all male duties to him; I am no longer the protector of our family.   

 While this may seem drastic, I don't see any other options considering the apparent size of his enormous testicles.",9.017500000000002,5.995809083333337,9.503333333333336,69.67500000000003,62.33333333333334,12.933333333333335,39.27777777777778,11.20814326018867,4.233911111111111,282,11,55,6,3,96,58,72,0.033,0.967,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,1,7,7,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,9,0,11,4,2,12,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,3,5,39,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27126020698869746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572523105192299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760398333138508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190303347118088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185700043812896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178652422485177,0.36313625316016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3781029307350543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25687333988725
parenting,Parental_Concerns,2018/01/26,"Son Traveling Unaccompanied - Help Needed! Hi everyone,

My son (8 yrs old) will be flying unaccompanied from Seattle to Washington D.C. later this month to visit his grandma. He will be connecting through Dallas. I've read online that the flight attendants will help him out along the way, but I'm extremely nervous... 

He's never flown alone and I've read lots of articles about kids getting misplaced or lost while flying unaccompanied. I also asked the airlines if there's any way I could be notified/see where he is during his trip, but I was told no.

Does anyone have any tips for this process? I'm trying to think of creative ways to be able to track my son during his trip since I won't really know where he is at certain points during his journey.

Please help!!",5.165662878787881,6.969255604166667,5.658510101010107,77.8102272727273,69.34722222222223,8.56969696969697,28.368686868686872,9.095868883498916,2.4326194444444447,613,22,109,12,11,197,98,144,0.038,0.815,0.147,0.9353,0,1,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,3,0,13,0,0,0,2,14,22,7,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,3,0,6,3,2,0,0,3,0,11,1,14,10,1,19,0,1,0,0,20,5,0,3,5,57,14,2,0.1759338397558662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221439911715265,0.0,0.14069422808962065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23928208812484325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301703142282774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644743908491174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046885517822527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539608887675828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811232336579762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191816987098912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35377423278653675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668863726242463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19205256889387504,0.14957265910679027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404287123863937,0.0,0.0,0.1304527129293858,0.13569102319690896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461296956643727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19312252411142067,0.1663143454118183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35196289990300605,0.0,0.1127077227910438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553429029618795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273130061846726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811232336579762,0.0,0.11944752859368594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189442788561025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onmullberystreet,2018/01/26,"Is there a line where Anti-Science, Anti-Vax, Anti-Evolution, and other conpiracies like Flat Earth are dangerous to a child's upbringing? I spend time in various theist/atheist YT hangouts as well as a few Debate communities that wind up dealing w/ lots of 'Woo' subjects like anti-vax, Young Earth, Flat Earth, chemtrails, and anti-science (scientism).

The point being, I'm alarmed at the amount of paranoia and levels of lies that must be swallowed in all the myriad conspiracies.  Is there a line that can be crossed where it's ok to question parents raising children in such environments could be construed as dangerous to the kids?  

If you're unfamiliar w/ how deep these rabbit holes go, I could point you to a few channels and chats that illustrate the magnitude of delusion many of them suffer.  After watching a particular 'debate' between Aron Ra and a flat earther, I became particularly worried about the FEs children. . here's a link, LONG video, but skim thru and bear witness to what some poor children call 'daddy'.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0ah4BrweLQ&t=2030s

I'm not suggesting outright splitting families up or some facist big brother thought police, but perhaps interviews w/ friends and relatives? Classes or workshops? In extreme cases though, the children deserve better than paranoid lunacy right?

Tip of icebergs: some beliefs don't allow blood transfusions or medical attention, some say ALL science is lies, space is fake, earth is flat, vaccines=autism, evolution is lies, 6000 year old earth, masons/lizard people. . i could mention many more and sadly give links but you get the idea. . ",10.340109890109886,10.874342571428572,8.624483516483515,65.64551648351652,57.35164835164835,11.089523809523811,42.37582417582418,10.650279960617883,4.918589450549451,1314,66,186,26,15,396,176,273,0.138,0.809,0.053,-0.9713,2,0,0,0,0,0,61,0,2,1,1,10,12,2,1,16,1,17,3,1,2,3,36,23,20,0,5,8,2,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,6,8,8,1,0,7,4,2,2,2,6,1,0,1,2,7,6,26,14,12,24,1,2,1,0,21,16,0,10,8,110,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351746424868126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979819688457652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729505507507553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056958525608927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461792373804755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596714345801734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085850698281945,0.0,0.0884913130015754,0.16247968794016174,0.09625957019932847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19120346949534364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549588883886676,0.0,0.0,0.14989131843673176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399635036330696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434388117891731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062723534970575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773030182153382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807060894837774,0.0,0.0,0.11742312114924724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32022775947662513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18973847639608468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446451058403984,0.0,0.13469359455155058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640982591653064,0.1344646273119543,0.0987637752421129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228823585266166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200827407340705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907178190073658
parenting,bakerybuff,2018/01/26,"How bad do growing pains get? My son is 5 and over the past 8 months he complains on leg pain on and off. He’s woken up once crying that his legs hurt, but he also used to have night terrors so I’m not exactly sure he was really in pain or just had a bad terror. Anyway, I’ve brought this up to his doctor twice so far (his well child visit and his sister’s) but she usually looks at his 6’ mom and says oh he’s going to be tall, it’s probably growing pains. 

The past 3 weeks he’s become increasingly lethargic and it’s just making me question if something else is going on. I have RA, so it makes me paranoid for autoimmune diseases, but he has no joint swelling or fevers and he does go to school and play around normally during the day. Would you go back to the dr? (I have not because it’s crazy flu season in my town and everyone seems to be congregating at the Drs). Thanks in advance! ",3.944516129032259,4.292362322580647,5.1098387096774225,86.03475806451617,70.93548387096773,8.135483870967743,26.79032258064516,8.07648339933343,1.4449870967741938,696,21,152,9,12,231,121,186,0.229,0.6970000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.9866,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,0,1,0,1,11,14,0,2,6,0,12,11,2,4,2,29,26,19,0,3,10,3,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,6,9,0,0,2,1,0,10,3,10,1,1,4,2,13,4,20,19,1,35,0,1,1,0,23,16,0,5,9,85,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042656970562263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606679745565428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025499727395797,0.2177255000422701,0.07947909201109048,0.14399565172316595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14321748658167513,0.08408500599529574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345055304149295,0.1140973556962313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089166564448622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458470270941925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811872941672104,0.0,0.2963942739130194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395756353637833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948726409536452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740607574456603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527007370290456,0.10406892864395928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223538048523909,0.12774576911936394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388515876783123,0.0,0.0,0.5549386173290481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24892697440821598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405728487280595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146056640987299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352545402887815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368426244573026,0.0,0.13195260669496522,0.0,0.11869403218362468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037371991869608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228826184043028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003737486493996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126073853225695,0.14359633192526347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045838323792773,0.0,0.11722824285828565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261897351764847,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dannihrynio,2018/01/26,"HELP! Need advice on constant bickering kids. DH and I have just had it. Every day I pick them up from school and it starts. They are a girl 11 1/2 and a boy almost 10. They do have times when they get along, but so much is him purposely bugging her and her being offended by absolutely everything. It usually ends in them hitting each other. 

Dh and I quite lost it on them tonight. It just kills any pleasant atmosphere in our home. After they went to bed Dh and I talked and plan to have a family meeting tomorrow with a talking stick to avoid the innevitable interrupting and blaming. 

But the major problem is what can we do to get the points accross to them? How do we get them to see that we need to have basic respect for each other, we all need to put effort into making a pleasant place to be. They are too old for a points chart, so what the hell do we do. Any suggestions would be so appreciated. 

Extra info, it was not like this just two years ago. We are also a family that does a lot together, we do outdoor stuff, we spend a lot of time together playing board games, going on walks, camping, kayaking, biking. 

I know a lot of this is the age and stages they go through, but it has just become overwhelming. There is also one last part in that they sometimes treat me disrespectfully. I have been a mostly stay at home mom, I take them to school, to friends, do the household stuff and take care of us all. They do have chores and each year they get a few more, but we are thinking that it is not enough and they take me for granted. 

A a ginat sorry for that jumbled mess of text, I am just exhausted and today was a really long and shitty day. So thank you. ",3.3753776853776856,4.86110852552553,4.358753753753756,86.62438149688153,73.35435435435436,7.405359205359206,24.819704319704318,8.012643519586192,1.2869266343266337,1301,40,269,19,26,422,180,333,0.126,0.763,0.111,-0.6777,0,1,0,0,0,0,39,11,1,16,4,15,18,3,2,21,0,34,1,0,3,2,59,56,26,1,5,11,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,4,3,21,29,0,1,3,3,1,5,2,9,0,2,6,1,41,9,34,45,16,39,1,2,1,0,42,12,1,5,21,203,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220594123024652,0.09271436060446492,0.0,0.10473362532326763,0.0,0.0,0.16728412262111736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225208352334054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551347633908784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066383574898851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302662839246025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349061757667928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152902910504172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263733088785367,0.108071335890016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881231411087701,0.0,0.09400040689770467,0.0,0.1971997675976625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080740062566383,0.0,0.21857969027716775,0.0,0.11888391259381545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701057095485552,0.0,0.2098282985013256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571538082352348,0.0,0.05748094314705369,0.08525631402722976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05109829272719131,0.0,0.0,0.09256049223315818,0.0,0.0,0.11417435498519107,0.2667607412172805,0.0,0.0,0.06981586925075284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249670571773373,0.0,0.0,0.07688704116631874,0.23266058518089314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975154794100184,0.0,0.07087414158274034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132627766170772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927621763745378,0.0,0.1977462027354764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000802710079914,0.0,0.10514369350610456,0.0,0.11124630248942598,0.0,0.0,0.06700421465660251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170506371461015,0.08334615956292303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344400991797392,0.11708200832976798,0.07403064679939526,0.11148099125128264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394652801574552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23592015431202704,0.16813392759538132,0.0,0.09629411926913564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701823156485595,0.0,0.0,0.12197669280057198,0.0,0.09914084022944042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021710355720156,0.0,0.12581111246158128,0.0,0.11519314154095507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695768893171193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429904638058098,0.0,0.0,0.13470743905346594
parenting,LeRi1122,2018/01/26,"Baby Center App Not sure if this belongs here, but I wanted to vent. On November 22, I found out I was pregnant. I downloaded the app, ""BabyCenter"" and I was sent emails about my pregnancy. Unfortunately not long after finding out I conceived, I began to miscarry. I miscarried on December 5th. It was heartbreaking. One of the most heartbreaking things was getting an email from the app congratulating me on another week of being pregnant. This went on for a couple weeks until I finally undownloaded the app, blocked the subscriptions, and even unsubscribed from ALL of the emails from the app. After another week, the emails were still coming. I deleted my entire gmail all together because I was tired of being reminded of the baby that no longer was forming inside of me. It's been about a month, and today I needed to download my gmail to access an email. Upon opening my mail, there were several emails from Baby Center just today. I am not sure what is wrong with the creators of the app, but they need to have better ways to prevent things like this from happening. Grieving is hard enough without the constant unsolicited emails. 
Anyone know how to fix this for good? ",5.6892563817980015,7.8976685471698165,6.027302996670367,74.06131520532743,68.71698113207547,9.139178690344062,30.866814650388456,9.627879704456738,3.2749880133185343,940,39,151,22,17,301,121,212,0.152,0.795,0.053,-0.9699,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,0,1,1,8,9,0,0,16,0,15,1,0,1,4,30,26,8,1,4,8,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,8,0,2,3,0,0,3,5,4,0,1,13,1,20,5,35,11,5,28,0,3,0,0,10,10,0,2,15,118,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31982699767614303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663418116937738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296488208952157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348771905872605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136849338119466,0.0,0.16480239632528595,0.0,0.0,0.16874251972306664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757716019721255,0.0,0.10072730112278933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706042460684772,0.1393856820211724,0.0,0.0,0.16721251117442115,0.0,0.0,0.07967692493806848,0.0,0.0,0.12791292593928688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348585792693638,0.0,0.13661342222504666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381208312061705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450563826721929,0.0,0.0,0.13496103654534972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172705343964542,0.0,0.0,0.2261592246806169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334050069843867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722858504904343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178970691521684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28746599493647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202633455373744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528064824712453,0.28911148241601464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995067418867017,0.12105039336075182,0.36698797380271203,0.0,0.0,0.1413725217266916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470081911998756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673893095146566,0.0,0.0
parenting,E_Villain,2018/01/26,"I felt like a genius getting my daughter [2yr] to broccoli last night! My two year old daughter flat out refuses to eat anything green. As I was eating some broccoli I told her I was eating "" Little trees "" that got her excited and she ate many little trees. Pretty neat!",3.1564705882352944,5.624924647058824,3.8899607843137254,85.34082352941176,77.0392156862745,5.648627450980393,25.88627450980392,6.742157984588678,1.251420392156863,211,8,37,2,5,67,39,51,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.8791,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,9,3,4,1,1,7,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,5,20,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091110853897856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6375559166535667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994148941537002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085094115635568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661086025464278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929500550470605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146680450867272,0.4163197256016607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056498152912964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490292142525226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179356347365379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112953153881272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19845661973696976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20288287415359574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374549965177746
parenting,vanwold,2018/01/26,"I cannot handle my 10 year old's attitude. Ok, the title pretty much says it all. My oldest son is 10 and he is a little sh*thead. He throws a fit, *still*, about having to get dressed, brush his teeth, do chores, etc. All he wants to do is play xbox or watch youtube/tv. He talks back anf is openly defiant to myself and his father (like looking me right in the eye while doing something he has been told not to do, or not doing something  he has been told to do). Luckily, he is super well behaved at school, incredibly  smart, plays  very well with his 2 year old brother (most of the time),  and other than his crappy attitude toward his parents, is a pretty good kid. 

I know  this behavior is pretty much par for the course from here until adulthood, but how do you, fellow parents, deal with it without flying off the handle?? When we got pregnant 2 yrs ago, we thought the baby would be the hardest child, but he's the easy one compared to his brother! Any advice/suggestions/ideas for dealing with my 10 yr old would be much appreciated. I don't want him to remember his childhood as me or his dad yelling at him all the time, or being grounded from things constantly!",5.485733000623831,5.781389628820964,5.887102308172178,81.98883187772928,67.5589519650655,8.28958203368684,29.89426076107299,7.957251820313856,1.9189099189020595,911,31,178,10,14,293,141,229,0.022,0.8340000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9744,2,0,2,0,1,0,40,2,1,0,1,8,9,0,0,12,1,26,2,2,1,3,30,35,14,0,4,9,7,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,2,5,9,0,0,3,3,0,1,5,0,2,1,6,6,22,9,25,24,8,27,0,0,3,0,37,10,0,5,17,118,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874862529639542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342676597160463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943335273099105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325737499501739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252955868666326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682088991138475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409535879981347,0.0,0.0,0.10289835971437418,0.09811859014379412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849105144202195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742184821453989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993536549080456,0.1229578236734273,0.0,0.0,0.10302049871293864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705522631693109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861968054869144,0.0,0.08313130151505282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724437631529115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37442970680720855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389727899848858,0.1047682494813054,0.0,0.09756024606239644,0.0,0.12415894634418125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889047541986564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979725933063122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860572500567334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815032961997552,0.0,0.0,0.09739440224250573,0.1430716619710381,0.0,0.0,0.2344524417734714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122404112358856,0.14471996103989454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206085272526851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825936767504006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17429703666277985,0.0,0.0,0.15800409687080255
parenting,PizzaPunkin,2018/01/26,"Mom, I have something really important to tell you... I had been having a conversation with little Punkin (3 yrs old) about not lying, especially in regard to when she has to go to the bathroom. She has been holding her poops, which was causing some serious constipation. So I stress again the importance of telling me the truth when she tells me she does have something really important to tell me.  

Me (internally): Yes, this is it! I'm finally getting through to her!  

Punkin: Daniel Tiger is allergic to peaches.  

Me: .....OK kiddo.",3.413866028708135,6.397072147368423,4.546602870813395,77.84803827751195,80.15789473684211,8.507177033492823,28.63636363636364,9.095868883498916,3.1633157894736836,414,19,71,12,11,135,66,95,0.064,0.789,0.147,0.8153,0,0,2,0,0,0,26,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,1,4,2,11,2,1,1,1,6,14,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,0,15,2,12,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,5,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069418560211061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628787928857134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220675657376475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524789356798757,0.0,0.11448713614475114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019031047123168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235932629046384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113850417112252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581045821354183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101679283064476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307571878245229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7042952355642135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhatTheHeckToDo,2018/01/26,"Feeling like I’m failed Edit: Sorry about the bad grammer in the title. I can’t edit that.

TLDR: Sophomore son is good kid, but failing because of zero effort and extreme laziness.  Parent is at wit’s end. Son doesn’t care. Parent feels like a failure.

I have I fifteen year old son who is throwing his future away due to incredible laziness and I just can’t get throught to him.

On the positive side, he is mostly polite, doesn’t hang out with bad kids and doesn’t do drugs as far as I can tell.

He is a smart kid and he regularly gets A or B grades on tests that he didn’t spend one second studying for (I can’t recall seeing him study or prepare for a test ever)

Unfortunately he is extremely lazy and not interested in anything but video games.  He hardly ever does any chores and never without a fight.   He never spends any effort on his schoolwork.  

It takes non-stop nagging to get him to do the smallest amount of work.  When he starts, it takes him three hours to complete one page. When left to himself, he’ll wait until 10 minutes before he needs to leave for school before starting his homework.

All he ever does is play games or watch other people playing games on YouTube or Twitch.   

When I take away his computer or internet, he says that he can’t do his homework, because his assignments are online, he needs to do his research online and he needs to write his assignments in Google Docs. He never writes down his assignments in his planner.

If I take away his electronics, his homework doesn’t get done and he blames it on me. If I do give him access, he just plays games 24/7. When he does that, he’s really happy. 

He doesn’t turn in class work or homework, so between his tests that get A/B/C grades and his assignments that get 0-20%, his grades average D/F

I’ve tried to bribe him - no effect.  I’ve grounded him - no effect.  I’ve taken away all his electronics- no effect. I’ve gotten off his back and let him take responsibility- no effect.  I’ve tried to explain how important his grades are to his future- no effect.  I’ve tried to sit with him to do his homework, but I just can’t sustain it when it takes him three hours to do one page.  I have a job and a household to take care of.

You’d think that taking away his games would work as an incentive - it doesn’t.  When I take away his games, he goes goes to his friend’s house to play.  When I ground him and takes away his electronics, he still doesn’t do any homework - he just lies around in his room and he leaves to go to his friend as soon as I turn my back.

He hates me because I’m a broken record of nagging and taking his stuff.

I don’t know what to do.

Should I take away his electronics for an extended period and let him blame me for not being able to do his work?

Should I just be there for him, let him do what he wants and let him deal with trying to go to college with a 1.5GPA?

Should I wait until he’s 18 and then kick him out to figure out life for himself?

I don’t know what to do.  I don’t have hundreds of dollars for shrinks and I don’t think there is anything wrong with him and I don’t think it will make a difference anyway. 

I feel like a failed parent who haven’t succeeded to instill in my son a sense or responsibility or any work ethic. I can’t find any incentives or leverage of any kind. It is a non-stop power struggle.

Short of taking away everything, grounding him and calling the police if he leaves the house, I don’t know what else I can do that hasn’t failed yet.",3.2174946455623465,4.519705593794079,4.1765358094342595,88.5041946142193,73.45698166431593,6.831541555660032,24.27208379041947,7.2427474758485975,0.8638142715352868,2722,79,578,28,54,880,270,709,0.123,0.787,0.08900000000000001,-0.9744,5,0,1,0,1,0,80,0,1,0,19,27,29,4,1,21,0,64,3,0,7,8,92,116,52,0,11,23,7,4,3,2,6,3,1,8,3,24,29,0,2,17,11,3,4,33,12,0,7,4,7,81,17,85,99,6,73,0,4,2,0,108,36,0,13,35,355,105,35,0.05199106541302791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121342439827553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556843381810655,0.04628307096356204,0.0,0.0,0.4396258565708151,0.07995584017134898,0.0868207359032504,0.09507981273647803,0.0,0.08848113468715699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053088690736294464,0.0,0.10601671242290488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451164291414618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536005055208104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05431959762242016,0.0,0.0,0.13649319511364347,0.053204910829886966,0.0,0.0,0.060293129808281276,0.0,0.04343186380478432,0.0,0.0460486521901588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410866856322573,0.0,0.0,0.046726217189979054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886473448865894,0.11142728255811962,0.0,0.0,0.04751889188994129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033633633738274,0.0,0.16297911495729955,0.049874567421388856,0.05909544121759276,0.04360763896905681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534545590210122,0.04657378252409609,0.05133041335184648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240145325846207,0.1199814180651439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051593110069431576,0.0,0.0,0.05414069402696869,0.08571878960152629,0.0,0.0,0.16515309406552578,0.05648844469505913,0.21265754754909352,0.03672282705969325,0.07620062517195883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034704439880435416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156521486820872,0.1202961443821262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054555877312408484,0.0,0.10569147438964917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318977624019036,0.0,0.0,0.03604405847175713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03330680781090148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04134538198500578,0.0,0.05261773386849445,0.041430147828252516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058199741158665816,0.07359908739177252,0.0,0.04152013199844114,0.08693371738218868,0.0,0.05435235004023959,0.059517331144497726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5081805406947385,0.0,0.04544248276995593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099941326228373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119408252912366,0.11310269911822322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03066567742266013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05011753175266307,0.0,0.18925057415642424,0.0,0.0,0.03693296117287475,0.05684406833496395,0.0,0.03348054153195275
parenting,YESmynameisYes,2018/01/26,"My kid might be a musical prodigy. How seriously should I approach this? Hello folks!  

My nine-year-old has Autism Spectrum Disorder and is just starting to read (words, books).  She's of normal intelligence (albeit delayed academically) and is a happy, friendly, lively child.

In the last couple years she has been giving off a LOT of signs of musical talent.  She makes noise constantly, and some times that noise is beautiful operatic song.  Strangers stop us to ask about her singing and compliment her.  

A year ago we visited some musician friends who let her try their instruments, and her first try of trumpet was astonishing.  Maybe because of all the other weird noises she makes, I don't know- somehow she knew exactly how to form an embouchure and play notes.

Topping all this off, another musician friend swears she has perfect pitch.  

.

So I guess I'm wondering- how much time/ money/effort should I be investing *specifically* in her music development?  We're on a fixed (low) income, but I don't think ""do nothing"" is the right response.   
We do have instruments at home, and her class at school is starting to learn recorder... (shrug)  

I want to find a course of action that's balanced- neither becoming a crazy helicopter parent NOR failing to support a potential talent... just not sure what that looks like!
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parenting,JRoc81,2018/01/26,"First Pediatric Dental Visit My son will be 2 in March and we haven't taken him to the dentist yet. We help him brush his teeth twice a day (he sucks most of the toothpaste off and chews on the brush, then we do an actual brushing for as long as he will let us). He has gotten better over the past month but still does not enjoy the process. He gets totally freaked out at his Pediatrician's office when they examine his eyes, ears and throat and I know for a fact he will not cooperate with a Dentist either. Is it worth taking him in just to get him used to the office and the experience? Or will that scar him for life? He is covered under my dental insurance so cost isn't really a concern. Looking for other parents experiences and thoughts!",4.7463513513513504,5.640002013513513,5.649567567567567,80.91840540540544,69.4054054054054,8.622702702702702,27.63783783783784,8.841846274778883,1.9869924324324328,590,19,117,10,10,194,102,148,0.061,0.897,0.041,-0.6038,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,2,5,4,1,0,12,0,12,9,4,1,2,24,22,13,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,3,11,1,0,3,0,2,1,4,2,0,2,3,6,16,2,19,13,3,19,0,0,2,0,23,8,1,2,10,83,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.22064204305343854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999680353803452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581649466281113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19786258276358065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423404921853865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923214670198364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362569694051395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155079097180627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425924301797388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23120367777602144,0.1597018826256105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009234484616872,0.189867966014068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804717285627041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510584971404583,0.0,0.21583906908002173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484614441595192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805646181933764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999987695921376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949900540151498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719717656290159,0.1952787421077215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GodIsButLove,2018/01/26,"So F****** Tired I know that someday, somehow, this will end. However, since January 31st of 2014 - I have not slept (well). I have two lovely boys, I love them more than anything in the world, I would gladly take a bullet for them. However, more and more, I want the bullet to just help me get some f****** sleep. 

My 4-year-old (almost) has never slept well, ever. At this point we have a humidifier, a essential oils diffuser, a white noise machine, a space heater, two night lights and he still comes down at around midnight, sleeps in our bed, then wakes up at 5AM. We have tried everything under the sun (going to bed earlier, later, the absence of all of the above listed, medicine, all of it) and he just gets up at 5AM. This wouldn't be too big of an issue if I could just plop him in front of the TV and give him breakfast and go back to bed. However, I can never fall back asleep, so I'm beholden to being up at 5AM too. His little 1-year-old brother will get up at 5AM or so and then we have to set him up. 

I know I sound like a whiny little brat right now myself, I just wanted to vent and I think my wife is tired of me complaining - I know she works just as hard as me if not harder - I'm just trying to be a great dad but day after day sitting at work feeling like a zombie is just making me feel weak in my bones. 

This is definitely a ""get through"" period in my life - I just need to get through it!",0.5077357266435989,2.672440840830454,2.263675389273356,94.91880028114187,85.22837370242215,5.411807958477509,17.68176903114187,6.770275591412753,-0.12210302768166105,1069,25,243,13,32,351,160,289,0.042,0.875,0.083,0.8813,3,0,0,0,0,0,61,4,0,2,2,22,10,0,0,16,0,18,14,7,1,5,47,44,18,0,8,14,3,3,2,0,4,4,1,3,1,7,12,1,0,6,1,0,5,5,2,2,2,2,7,34,8,42,34,6,50,0,0,1,2,22,27,0,6,18,163,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776151681296496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677650897984592,0.10469080320533372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808575134326305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130379702468544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938957084775899,0.0,0.0,0.15168725265356187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416055555402044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637783342746067,0.0,0.0,0.10569318557571564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892631187896235,0.08401496463059692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072112202754633,0.11281465153802145,0.13367196856306496,0.0,0.0,0.1296567317993748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534838331269837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788262095215845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274603971927052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938931178581012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306584201978731,0.1149088927177644,0.2357364012649151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122809757403735,0.0,0.07850031577927034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720046794563112,0.18140398084625187,0.0,0.0,0.11036160543776118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468072449170135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117199803910714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043155190004073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728167342010263,0.0,0.2353740641609795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391718997061436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842214437748147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535467791590557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703326308364869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968821428737473,0.0,0.22976032933405904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387295325645728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21147682493562206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123146068768805,0.0,0.0,0.08354115855846582,0.0,0.0,0.1514637949365626
parenting,seekknow,2018/01/26,"How do I teach my kid 'before' 'after' in maths. We have tried to draw, play games and repeat 'before' 'after' numbers. Can someone suggest a game/trick that helps him get the concept and learn how to figure out 'What comes before 8' (for e.g.).",5.076666666666668,5.788994782608699,5.011739130434783,86.44123188405798,68.56521739130434,6.133333333333334,24.02898550724637,3.1291,0.3285159420289858,184,4,35,0,3,57,40,46,0.0,0.8909999999999999,0.109,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,9,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,7,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,22,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.843470632166432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28462129011484666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262700198937625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22146867252596208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27995761418987897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22432853901583466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dmharper80,2018/01/26,"The princess and her subjects Background:
Last night was our son's first band concert at his middle school. It was set up in the gym, bleachers set up on 2 sides, and the band playing in the middle.
The concert was 45 mins like, about twice as long as my toddler was willing to wait. As my son was only in the first part, I took her to walk in the halls.
The fun part: close to the end I decided to bring her back to the bleachers, and mom and family were on the opposite end from the door. So as we are walking pass the crowds, she stops and waves every few feet, and the crowd waves back, some people laughing as she does. As the band is playing the last song. Good thing she is so cute!

Tl:DR, daughter waves to entire crowd walking back to mommy and they wave back. She is the princess. ",3.2229791666666685,4.433831006250003,3.401250000000001,94.42541666666668,73.3125,6.083333333333334,24.583333333333336,5.985473137389443,0.3967708333333335,611,18,136,3,12,187,88,160,0.01,0.8740000000000001,0.117,0.9521,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,1,2,7,7,0,0,17,0,11,1,1,0,0,13,14,15,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,2,9,0,2,1,9,0,6,0,0,0,3,7,3,15,7,24,6,4,36,0,0,0,0,21,14,0,1,15,89,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5302956675612577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508785972049096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054110956891273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526425159085574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625343598374879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933065236595529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446107124151813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810770132506765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423162358028102,0.0,0.0,0.15257888520490792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20192644127912246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179665449881905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112682936373266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734100321747285,0.0,0.11952852979804394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448979491402108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414385989182854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454263955565935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155568754109065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RunningSomeMo,2018/01/26,"Kiddo [18 months] is in surgery right now getting ear tubes... I was super chill about it until I actually got here.  They gave me a pillowcase to put on his pillow, and that made me realize that this is actual surgery.  I'm in the waiting room right now feeling a little more stressed and anxious than I thought I would be.  ",5.285,5.840042539682544,5.723928571428572,82.07732142857144,68.04761904761905,8.839682539682537,33.21031746031745,8.841846274778883,2.6563365079365084,252,11,50,4,4,81,50,63,0.075,0.838,0.087,0.1832,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,3,0,5,1,1,1,0,8,13,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,8,1,7,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,4,33,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.5011715356321076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29009471095722705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983854805675946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341599118213889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537495457110566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573666969132388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429768055773765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496386837762684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25814051857182285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4385871106827817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941471123190824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20385913522321167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824131692783033,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lostandonpoint,2018/01/26,"Vaccinations Just got home with my 7 month old this morning(Friday) from the ICU.  He’d been there since Sunday afternoon.  He had to be hospitalized for the flu.  We had been treating him since last Wednesday and Sunday morning he got worse.  Little guy pulled through, and except for a hoarse voice and a bunch of needle holes,  you’d never think he just got out of the hospital.  He’s currently in his walker knocking everything off the coffee table.  

I saw my baby struggle to keep food down, struggle to sleep, and at his worst, struggle to breathe.  All from the common flu.  I saw him writhe,  twist, and shake from pain.  From the common flu. 

This was just the flu.  Please please please vaccinate your children against everything thats out there.",4.73901960784314,7.183199176470591,4.1005882352941185,85.84931372549022,71.94117647058823,7.180392156862746,26.03921568627451,8.07648339933343,1.6350803921568624,592,20,107,9,12,176,87,136,0.197,0.7559999999999999,0.046,-0.9666,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,2,0,0,5,7,0,4,9,0,8,8,2,0,2,17,15,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,2,3,9,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,10,3,12,1,22,2,3,20,0,0,2,0,14,7,0,0,11,66,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702759013136116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818213954834748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36078076987013263,0.0,0.0,0.1488845323082292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082789099057642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365090967728002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256716687121327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070476865951615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001953919400385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159704009251731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778228796711016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999846928532793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4951653253373004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24876619832864405,0.0,0.15047312887400838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4715809864057151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634752411416464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323430961584691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Life_with_lemonz,2018/01/26,"10 year old DD rage cries out of no where I feel lost when she does this. DD has always been a pretty happy kid, stubborn but happy. She’s smart and very kind and in most cases i would say “overstands” for a kid her age. She decided to go vegetarian and then vegan a few months ago. She spends most of her time reading about plants and animals and the eco system.  Over all she keeps to herself but loves talking to me about school and stuff.

Now my problem. She rage cries out of no where. I mean nothing has to happen for her to go off. Its like she cant even control it. Its loud and grunty and its almost to a screaming point. And of you try to ask her anything or comfort her it gets worse. This mornings meltdown happened at 6am. And through tears cried “i wont have enough time”. Just to be clear, her school is across the street and it doesnt start until 8:45am.  

After an hour of this, the crying went from rage to sad crying and she hugged me and apologized while still crying. 

This has been going on for a few years now.  Its not daily but its enough to disrupt the whole house, especially her older brother that is on the spectrum and already has sensory issues with loud noises. 

Is this hormones or something else? ",2.9631216931216926,4.8713115555555575,3.3936390358612587,91.34185185185189,75.41975308641976,5.780834803057027,22.682539682539684,6.42735559955562,0.3938169312169313,960,27,198,7,21,298,147,243,0.196,0.6709999999999999,0.133,-0.9509,0,0,1,0,0,0,24,0,1,0,2,10,16,4,0,11,0,15,2,0,1,2,37,29,23,0,2,7,1,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,2,15,17,0,3,3,1,1,4,6,8,0,0,4,5,24,8,34,22,8,37,0,2,0,2,25,13,0,5,20,139,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892533381511791,0.0,0.1008239243180018,0.0,0.11111109095801544,0.0,0.08378001384591285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828571818809162,0.0,0.09412916219401757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129295227066352,0.0,0.0,0.6636025326077439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811225501746046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841114340447052,0.0,0.0,0.20807407663180802,0.0,0.06650310281803523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091059368464024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052605030337523964,0.0,0.17166897310663282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807513679159914,0.21436729884343236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915684393081813,0.11617978424247208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050915252615672,0.0,0.08949562069791057,0.0,0.104850471885167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04919079601038967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099122320129043,0.0,0.09087434338244968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967813689725052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036775194408223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661231177126328,0.0,0.10565452813489873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518217342918896,0.0,0.0,0.1024353216555659,0.0,0.09634427948703056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071468488258156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007069154379401,0.0,0.2038021242539536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751410847832144,0.0,0.0,0.07126708644980645,0.0,0.08040911759650603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152630266013554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809287482355444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742330894711105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683601607193911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830776807229394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333826324378676,0.0,0.1124139281372044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026091007116976,0.07152546668802437,0.0,0.0,0.12967881707787285
parenting,MrBoo843,2018/01/26,"Scared about being able to support a family (financially). How do low income parents manage? I'm going to be a father, but it's kind of happening at the worst time. We don't know if we'll still have jobs after March and even then, they barely got us over the poverty line (still have to pay off debt from all that time we were under it). There are a lot of things that need to be bought and I have no idea how we'll be able to. I'm kind of freaking out but It's not showing, wife has enough on her mind right now. Any tips Reddit? ",1.9788397246804337,3.2286937079646063,3.299587020648968,93.76898721730579,76.52212389380531,6.084169124877089,18.75024582104228,6.42735559955562,-0.2365960668633233,411,7,96,3,9,134,81,113,0.214,0.7709999999999999,0.015,-0.9747,4,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,0,8,7,0,1,5,0,14,0,0,2,1,17,23,8,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,1,3,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,8,3,17,14,4,17,0,1,0,0,10,8,0,2,8,67,14,3,0.3790334683723911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887787805234235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958214474307073,0.0,0.12517401555509333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17865951043333428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770672745286812,0.0,0.15157384501184734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758902215222654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21394132484004624,0.0,0.0,0.18806611576798896,0.0,0.0,0.3947050300682655,0.10415344081795624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112035022255486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913578763800665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405242570412446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21043590552037572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161846255493168,0.0,0.0,0.1897393123819704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026966174596827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21506134407958674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259064971075488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101746351435067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22796529664597545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fuzzylima,2018/01/26,"How many parents have trouble getting paid child support? Hi everyone, I'm fairly new to Reddit but thought it would be a great place to come in and read peoples discussions on parenting and child support and hear their views. 

I think this is mainly an Australian thing, but I was wondering how many parents out there have trouble getting paid the child support that their owed and what their experiences have been like?",12.547599999999996,9.827825360000006,9.893333333333334,68.66000000000001,55.4,12.666666666666668,47.66666666666667,10.504223727775694,5.093266666666667,342,17,56,5,3,100,54,75,0.062,0.731,0.208,0.9301,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,0,3,7,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,2,0,14,22,8,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,5,6,0,0,3,1,3,1,0,2,0,0,5,2,5,5,5,15,1,6,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,1,2,36,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638119521642686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512843553677427,0.0,0.15487021656111846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543440477302196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455160191424562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17844146161239965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734859200798815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210292257912609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529092834571107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.527396670780341,0.0,0.0,0.10976119290698244,0.0,0.16541377652951825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836578591959607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5389889933499831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518272731695076,0.1014469481022101,0.0,0.12569073069343747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169447643394462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124680751225176,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jemkittay,2018/01/26,"4 year old meal time trouble. My partner and I are in need of some support and ideas on how to combat our only sons meal time behaviours. 

Our 4 year old has a fussy palette that includes just junk food or sushi. We've attempted to feed him simple meals such as sausages and veg, toasted sandwiches, etc. We've also attempted to give him meals that we'd typically eat like stir fry's, rice paper rolls, curries, and the list goes on. He turns his nose up at everything he's served and has taken to forcing himself to vomit once he's had his first bite. 

We've tried different meals, giving him options, involving him with cooking and bribing him with treats if he eats what he's been given. None of these have worked, as he'd seemingly prefer to go to bed without eating, consiquently throwing up the morning after as he's over hungry. We're not sure what else we can try. Any and all tips are appreciated. ",6.5793220338983005,6.445636225988704,6.6463333333333345,78.93729661016951,65.27118644067797,9.565875706214689,32.954237288135594,9.120678840339163,2.715965423728814,720,27,138,11,10,230,122,177,0.041,0.8959999999999999,0.063,0.5911,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,3,0,10,14,1,1,2,24,19,14,0,3,5,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,5,10,12,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,4,1,15,4,23,13,4,17,0,0,0,0,24,7,0,5,9,73,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765321973734325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855146436836784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677567247351785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4900131479236125,0.13334742173847536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802569454890735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346196649265985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577818250870682,0.19302094503965495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062564851398963,0.09071939392565924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18019883979517148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798542369117605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183609950103984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350022284555458,0.1699969667226248,0.0,0.121403113350473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531793101308135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18114221138392075,0.15044604632150055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18615894114675816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21675177186287511,0.1736277469793527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387420795829648,0.0,0.11620996160659992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055884090888148
parenting,readyjack,2018/01/26,"Found my 11 year old son's browsing history -- and he is really into watching videos about bondage. I think he might also be trying to tie himself up. How do I talk with him about this without messing him up? My son is 11, but he's very little (by far the shortest in his class) and a little immature.   He acts younger than he is by 1-2 years.   

I monitor his web usage every once in a while -- like once every 2-3 weeks.  I tried not to be overbearing because we were working on trust.  He knows that I don't like him watching violent video games or cartoons, and he has had his internet privileges taken away because of it.   

In the past when he has viewed inappropriate things, I talk firmly (he calls it being yelled at) and I put passwords on things.  

I thought somehow this was getting through to him... but I just downloaded his browser history and ... fuck... he has watched probably 200 or more bondage/latex suit/girls tied up/gagging videos on youtube in the past 2 weeks.   Not porn sites -- all youtube.   Examples (nsfw) [1](https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=22s&v=hzfOBq_fOVc&app=desktop), [2](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oz2GZJFEajY&app=desktop), [3](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tx4voy4MXAA&app=desktop), [4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGIrHv6WfXo&app=desktop). 

And!   I realized tonight he has been playing with a shoulder strap (like from a messenger bag) recently.  So I'm wondering if he is experimenting with tying himself up.   Some of the videos are 'how to tie yourself up' videos.    

I talk with him about sexuality often--he doesn't really seem to get it (he still thinks babies come out of girls butts -- even though I've explained it several times).   And I've had talks with him about how pornography isn't real.   I told him being curious is natural!   Everyone has a body, and every human is the result of people having sex -- but things you see online are exaggerated and not real love.   

Anyway -- I looked at his full history from the past few weeks and I'm freaking out now.

I'm afraid if I punish him I'm going to screw him up, but I don't know how else to approach this. 

My plan -- 

- take internet access off his devices.   

- No unsupervised device usage.

- talk to him about the strap he's been playing with -- make it clear it's not safe to tie himself up.

- continue to talk about pornography.   It's not healthy for an 11 year old to be watching videos of people being tied up and gagged.   

I got him a book about puberty/sexuality from the library -- I want him to read it on his own.

Should I have him talk to another adult (like a therapist)? 

I really, really, really don't want to send the wrong message and punish natural curiosity.   But I really think he's started down an extreme path too soon.   

ugh... parenting is tough.   help!",4.735308441558441,7.130532938492067,5.055447330447333,79.21935064935066,71.79761904761905,8.550072150072152,29.90692640692641,9.218907990703514,2.8616880952380948,2187,93,384,50,44,691,245,504,0.091,0.833,0.076,-0.8869,1,0,0,0,0,0,160,1,1,0,2,23,21,5,1,18,0,36,8,3,6,2,67,66,30,0,5,16,3,0,4,0,2,0,1,0,3,15,23,0,1,11,11,0,6,12,11,0,0,11,8,48,10,64,47,6,55,0,0,7,6,61,28,3,9,25,231,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060940672546467865,0.0,0.4128374582603912,0.0,0.0,0.07990701206665388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159659093261417,0.0,0.0,0.09290705298649746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846459668496422,0.0,0.0,0.07781326542298242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564338759430682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365904110997476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050332321691056496,0.0,0.19261661185522988,0.07281661933377337,0.0,0.07454257631635153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355424804781353,0.0,0.07044978771677121,0.07962736165140234,0.0,0.043308746071685146,0.0,0.060947661487529975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051078237698775716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837599475455428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891858359202012,0.15275376059743415,0.0,0.0,0.06399254690299717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877749294050339,0.0,0.050867063291995335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084088083554014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599275063226174,0.16231050817601386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461602549882682,0.0,0.21823731577625607,0.10566114364040548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821612877976657,0.0,0.0,0.07660652183703218,0.0,0.0,0.07622507377428325,0.17347469877788635,0.2929111387721716,0.0,0.07524270274673144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072508183497598,0.06937367084997825,0.0,0.08608933976232472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393790318311599,0.0,0.06085697361873715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057296263968036575,0.4287517623010661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884792419595411,0.15188055493726696,0.1464862070749209,0.07487048695032128,0.060497822583440476,0.044435428645530066,0.0,0.0,0.07281661933377337,0.0,0.1034756411169319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287665348390142,0.08989472008333678,0.0,0.1833798438783744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734583721415565,0.082640477277453,0.05547774847729663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331760523238395,0.0,0.14721950543131074
parenting,forgetsit,2018/01/26,"3-year old birthday ideas? I want to do something special for his birthday this year. Last year was a whimper bc of my morning sickness.

He goes to daycare and loves to play with other kids. He also just loves being with family but its all adults no kids his age.

But he still doesn’t really care much about presents, and does not like cake or ice cream (loves gummy bears). Kids in his class range from 18 months to 3 bc its montessori.

Any special ways you’ve celebrated?
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parenting,Spectrum2081,2018/01/26,"""Mommy hit me!"" Help My 3 year old wanted popcorn for dinner and started throwing a full-blown tantrum.  My husband and I are very liberal with food, so I tried to bargain with her: one small bite of the beef and broccoli I made first and then I'll make her popcorn. She wouldn't have any of it and continued freaking out.  When her dad came to check on her, she told him, ""Mommy hit me!""

WTF? I mean, obviously he knows I didn't hit her. But Jesus. What if this is something she starts pandering around school where they wouldn't know better? I'm a bit lost here. I don't want to go too harsh because, obviously, if someone does hurt her, we want to know and we don't want her to feel like she can't tell me or her dad.  At the same time, there's fibbing and there's lying with consequence.",1.7633333333333354,3.6724034814814814,2.8257037037037063,94.03966666666668,79.0,5.801481481481483,22.528395061728396,6.742157984588678,0.4032291358024689,612,19,137,6,15,195,107,162,0.177,0.779,0.044,-0.9632,0,0,1,0,2,0,26,2,0,1,3,8,6,1,0,4,0,9,2,0,2,2,35,30,14,0,8,4,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,15,2,0,5,0,2,3,6,4,0,2,5,1,27,2,15,20,2,18,1,2,0,0,23,6,0,3,10,80,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972979231749893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673459513874116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732719073353017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571460571338966,0.1922166648177587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013707069629807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407509506137898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902342313265954,0.12578040347197747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976024218197626,0.21289770522211104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006142484664368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801221938717235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188480523108544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29028107911325524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601614576705374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219503112751748,0.0,0.0,0.16659634059432665,0.11752431765945635,0.0,0.0,0.19178568707894436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847499131967947,0.0,0.11930575696615628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818651708503225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491787484345551,0.1355429347487336,0.0,0.0,0.2492384996235889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538879981549977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266453562482693,0.0,0.0,0.168237027019737,0.0,0.11953613330136853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452715238343324,0.4153892501454672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337966588621025
parenting,coolaf95,2018/01/26,"Failing at parenting I don't know what I am doing wrong or what I should be doing differently and I am looking for advice. 

For some background: I have two boys ages 3 and the other turns 2 next month. I am currently living in a women's shelter with them because we had to leave the house after I called the police and dcs on my husband for child abuse. 

My kids are out of control when they are with me. When they are not with me I never get any complaints about their behavior and everyone always tells me they are so well behaved. But when they are with me they are horrible. 

They have no respect for me and they defy everything I say. They tell me no all the time. They fall limp on the ground all the time if they dont get their way. They run away from me. They hit. They haven't been going to sleep until around 11 and we have to get up at 4:30 in the morning. I have no control over them and its driving me insane. 

They were ""spanked"" by their dad starting before they were a year old. Often these spankings would leave bruises. This was how my husband disciplined them. I have tried the approach of taking things away like a toy or tv time, but its just not working. I am going through extreme stress myself right now and its so hard to not just give them what they want just because I can't  deal with the awfulness of their behavior on top of everything else. I bought some parenting books, but I wasn't able to take them with me when I left the house. 

I have been doing fun things with them and taking them places to have fun, but I always regret it because they are angry, crying, complaining and whining the whole time. 

They were not this badly behaved before we left my husband so I know some of it is from the changes that have been happening. I just feel like such a failure because I don't know how to help them and their behavior seems like evidence that I have raised them poorly. Any help would be greatly appreciated. ",4.6964903846153865,5.592797687500003,4.8278125,86.75516826923081,69.52083333333334,7.678525641025642,27.26923076923077,7.748469712250963,1.4239466346153846,1528,48,311,17,26,477,180,384,0.112,0.784,0.104,0.2625,4,0,0,0,1,0,32,3,0,32,5,19,15,0,1,16,1,43,1,1,4,3,60,64,28,0,6,15,6,3,3,0,3,0,1,0,4,16,23,0,3,5,3,2,6,14,7,1,1,10,5,71,8,43,48,6,45,0,3,1,0,54,19,0,8,22,239,87,3,0.09571345420914587,0.1134047920579826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353007970728684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928252269392476,0.0,0.0,0.13017686203283327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852052666768298,0.0,0.0,0.17985188184747575,0.0,0.07991673631098363,0.2333841332229281,0.0,0.16289019980595265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773413815325578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125214340215316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147015551515241,0.0,0.0,0.10513673509118132,0.0,0.09867636852595853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100000188078276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217545549650826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995630930954957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914583072068083,0.17204216200805114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048395598315662564,0.06837771081146626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001898819141862,0.09181706678186052,0.10879232348895086,0.0,0.0,0.10552442116375978,0.0,0.0,0.08463909145861097,0.0,0.08574045493304648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830942160673164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208809508460068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578048339308167,0.0,0.0,0.20269345615139045,0.20798589610404872,0.0,0.0,0.14028227715981725,0.0,0.08451673361844607,0.0,0.08037519548625713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639756599012243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382011643337906,0.0,0.10179234439689024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043516945649146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255692795123893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100000188078276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173876692518174,0.0,0.07611518044386671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713393396606793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957825773210982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774647552367867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963943841457098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21589381763678986,0.0,0.16731555544011575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717553198967196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232451394262498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498315261186811,0.1041087533692878,0.09349813705349122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05645427514264284,0.07597288485664055,0.0,0.0,0.08605789005777209,0.0,0.0,0.10686065350000536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968053460599606,0.0,0.0,0.13598418343403734,0.10464763682793836,0.0,0.06163632642182736
parenting,carlgotbit,2018/01/26,"8 year old that’s barely reading? I’m hoping someone here has some advice.. my son is 8 yrs old (2nd grade) and he’s barely reading. He can get some words but most of the time he’s completely lost in reading. The teacher has even expressed her concern at this point because he’s not meeting grade level expectations. I have a meeting to discuss his (lack of) progress tomorrow. I’ve considered he may have some kind of learning disability but he has been doing well in all other subjects. He’s actually very advanced in math. He doesn’t have any social problems and seems to have good cognitive ability besides reading.
He does have symptoms of ADHD. He’s hyperactive. He can’t focus all the time and is easily distracted. No issues with his yearly eye exams, so him needing glasses isn’t the problem..
The teacher at his school has been working individually with him and we also work with him at home but it seems to get no where.
anyone have any advice on what to do from here?",3.6659543178973735,5.9501527606383,4.916558197747187,79.51029411764708,74.58510638297872,6.9767209011264075,29.675844806007515,7.928766900206844,2.2408438047559445,781,35,137,12,17,258,113,188,0.079,0.813,0.108,0.6886,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,0,5,7,8,0,1,6,0,21,2,1,0,2,29,29,9,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,8,0,0,3,4,0,1,6,4,1,0,3,1,10,4,19,25,7,18,0,1,1,0,25,10,0,8,7,85,15,12,0.0,0.0,0.1277573746687164,0.0,0.15733835416159508,0.25586369325557096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469531644064103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17805786545024546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154111868894338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980657995341185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372653457157238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456748573037985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647030179424442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367988155869167,0.0,0.0,0.10980805785585096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132172836003744,0.13003141087653894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664469055300618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633126219669509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291278858130788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707425987640583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747534640226008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376010912414212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505422625523954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.523814909553199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324963080201445,0.0,0.2383662049922132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345471893835625,0.11092664992835634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607424042115038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526790259714302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080213075792046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771127349016873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062016185712446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861418450994875
parenting,dinosaur_boots,2018/01/26,"Toddler bedtime woes We thought we finally had our nearly two year old back on track with bedtime. Its been good for a few weeks. Good routine too! the last two or three nights that went out the window. It's only 8pm, but I'm now lying in bed, about to shut my eyes, possibly for the night.  I'm tired and 12 weeks pregnant. My husband is about to shower, and our toddler is rather gleefully reading with her visiting aunt, after having spent about a half hour snuggled up with me. Last night, after she left me, it was almost an hour and a half before she was asleep. I watched a show in the bedroom quietly, letting on I was asleep and my husband watched her until she was ready to be snuggled again. 

I'm looking for some age-appropriate suggestions, but I guess the biggest thing I'm wondering is, at this age, what do you do after you've gone through the motions of bedtime, and then your LO completely perks up and appears wired and not even remotely sleepy? When this happens, she's usually up about an hour or so and ready to party! ",5.325418552036197,5.919604475490196,5.511372549019608,83.49848416289596,67.97058823529412,8.433785822021116,32.358974358974365,8.384062270229773,2.3730675716440426,819,34,161,11,13,259,125,204,0.051,0.878,0.071,0.4826,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,4,2,0,0,12,3,0,0,12,0,14,4,3,0,0,26,27,16,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,8,14,0,0,2,2,1,5,1,1,0,5,10,5,20,2,30,15,2,42,0,1,4,0,17,13,0,7,24,113,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437803341437036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040853759995084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221808521436048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054687095835842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483699835578548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572911121131179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408657397104285,0.0,0.0,0.15817583270013613,0.0,0.12697235722459566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4242089637785281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340830135662713,0.0,0.0,0.1560062793840055,0.14682610290987136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120575822086515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042363482379136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066903477311636,0.0,0.0,0.10920339241501063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618712986674918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362455283849612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953919565991382,0.0,0.0,0.11399100435086475,0.0,0.16503063582880634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805247233447777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581393590711687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303515695689677,0.0,0.0,0.1331053791881466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571256290916846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246448091034937
parenting,BlueBomber13,2018/01/27,"4 y/o starting to drop F bombs and other not nice words My oldest son started Pre-K this year and everything has been going great. Recently, he's been saying things like ""I hate you all!"" and to his 3 y/o brother ""I don't like you"". Now, I know he doesn't know what he's saying, but we don't want him going around tell everyone that. He's said and done other things from school, like spitting. That's another new one.

And then there's the F bombs...That's from me. Yeah, not super proud but I have dropped some F bombs at 2, 3, 4, 5 AM when they wake up the entire house (got a 1 y/o in the next room). I've talked with him about how our words can make others feel sad or uncomfortable and he seemed to get it, but he still does it sometimes.

Is ignoring it best? What I worry about is him saying it enough, that the 3 y/o old (who literally does and says anything and everything his older brother does) will start and then won't stop. ",1.4732263814616786,2.9807579090909115,3.0169994058229364,94.17687165775403,78.49494949494951,6.274985145573381,19.727866904337493,7.048011613610866,0.09471146761734994,718,16,170,8,17,236,120,198,0.147,0.753,0.1,-0.8576,0,0,0,0,0,0,37,2,2,1,3,8,11,1,0,5,1,14,2,2,2,1,31,29,17,0,1,6,3,1,3,0,2,0,5,1,0,16,12,0,2,4,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,5,6,17,8,12,22,4,25,0,1,0,0,27,5,0,3,19,91,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402812762888347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009054713848487,0.11909365120457957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039513926605493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512185477809061,0.1369046383662364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823176471686607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783369107406184,0.24046787286495644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764380572274856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989516708905197,0.0,0.15206190336180486,0.0,0.10699706470264203,0.14749426998811846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208126031058898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436556884190575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470453223025465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607624314611247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930000478198144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920673824003548,0.14227784774008922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403808884876936,0.0,0.09065361858528023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209281763568376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725657809658594,0.42555279055868667,0.0,0.13539373931006748,0.0,0.12178940040404387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231304973321373,0.0,0.28407311335429186,0.0,0.10683785702300108,0.11184709225520964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752827902460707,0.11693068502597775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777565993189186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890763112503209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586132524495592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615072103763335
parenting,nefarisik,2018/01/27,"Wife and I disagree over forcing our 5 YO to share We have a 5 YO son who is a good kid for the most part. Very smart, kind, etc., but he hates sharing. He won't share his toys with his sister (2), cousins or any of his playmates/school friends. We've also had some issues at school because he will take certain toys and never let anyone else play with them and will refuse to share even if asked by his teacher. 

We have talked to our son about it, and he doesn't understand why he needs to share. He thinks that if the toys make him happy then he should get to keep them. We talked to him about how it makes others feel sad if he never shares his toys with them, but it didn't really have any effect. He just focuses on how it makes him unhappy to share his toys or says they should get their own (especially when it comes to sharing with his sister or cousins). 

My wife is very upset by this, but I don't think it is a big deal. He is almost exactly like I was around his age. I didn't share my toys either and didn't understand why everyone wanted me to do it either, so I am probably a little biased. It also never negatively impacted me, so I am not concerned like my wife about this harming his development as a person or limiting how many friends he will make. I got a bit better as I got older, so I think likely he will get better too if we don't make a big issue of it. 

My wife thinks that we need to start forcing him to share his toys with his sister, cousins and with his playmates and trying to really encourage him to share. I disagree. I don't think forcing him to share is the answer when he clearly doesn't understand the concept of sharing or why he should. I don't think forcing him to share is going to teach him anything. I just don't see this as that big of a deal.

Just curious what others think and also how you've approached sharing with your kids/kids who so strongly resist sharing. Do you think it is as important as my wife thinks?",6.116999881838591,5.067975791563279,6.446643034384973,83.02366418527711,66.51861042183623,9.462790972468392,30.108590334396787,8.418075326091056,1.9363275197920355,1536,44,330,18,21,497,162,403,0.07400000000000001,0.705,0.221,0.9964,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,7,2,5,5,22,35,1,1,12,0,35,0,0,10,6,82,69,39,0,10,18,13,1,3,2,8,0,1,0,2,21,22,0,3,15,8,0,3,16,4,0,0,7,3,54,31,42,53,8,20,0,1,1,0,91,8,0,12,12,215,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649269918093848,0.0,0.0,0.2072236387925521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747675715482585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039583672818464,0.08850202260195104,0.0710797695674183,0.07689260799036217,0.08074953801760808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265377178838483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278442037502615,0.09429979797353287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440494211584671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809892789273635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215574092871427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633164051509352,0.057050277556121014,0.0,0.0,0.08253559947401222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04367410507450722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133467168205747,0.0,0.13538307783091974,0.0,0.049089251220378986,0.07244776586395435,0.13816493606643745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919484458600113,0.0,0.08527803513630591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803073971262156,0.0,0.07677461328147954,0.0,0.08994690878268058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832491610570617,0.0,0.1265962840836742,0.08657105560633592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882819609520177,0.08757131408251805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809284470133764,0.1998545921900717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353637130483558,0.0,0.0,0.07541985334109735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312751956876356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066885853059552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686893540769525,0.0,0.17483346283899934,0.06883018022828707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06113710323715765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494371116773033,0.1388508912656371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981140442754074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058643371174625224,0.0,0.0,0.2697601770399526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425378529158536,0.050946574281466636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338216667657406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agentMICHAELscarnTLM,2018/01/27,"17 month old not talking Hello all, was wondering if anyone has advice for our situation. My son who is my second child is about to be 17 months old and isn’t talking at all. Now, he’s hit all other milestones, he walked right at around a year old. He has great hand eye coordination. He’s normal with laughing and eye contact and he’s cuddly and all that. He’s smart in the sense of if we ask him to bring us something he brings it over to us. So besides that lack of talking he seems completely normal.

My main concern is a couple of months ago he was saying a few words. He was saying “cat” quickly and with a smile when the cat would walk past. Or “Jaida” our dogs name the same sort of way. Also “dada” and also “ball” a couple times. The thing is he stopped. He doesn’t say anything anymore. Now I was told that as he learns new things he can put certain skills (such as talking) on the back burner for a bit. But still, I’m concerned. The only thing verbally he still does is babbling baby talk , and sometimes he’lll say booooooo (moo) when we ask him what a cow says. 

The doctor says to wait until 18 months to address this with any intervention, but we are only a month away from that and I am getting concerned that we should have already have done something. I know every kid is different but his older sister who is 3 and a half now was saying 7 or 8 animal noises, 7-10 words  including her name, at or slightly after 1 year old. I taught her in one day also the morning of her first birthday to hold up one finger when asked how old she is. My son doesn’t do any of this stuff almost 6 months older then her age when she could do these things. She was very advanced but still he seems really behind. 

Does anyone have any guidance here? Thanks.

TL;DR - 17 month old son (3 year old Sister in the house) started saying a few words around 13-15 months. Completely stopped though and doesn’t say anything now at 17 months. All other milestones and personality seem normal. ",3.4610760896330963,5.025668437659039,4.156738077649184,87.8407017975868,73.27480916030535,6.292341787737013,23.618895181810718,6.6834051587181325,0.6669037018796682,1548,43,311,12,31,493,202,393,0.015,0.935,0.05,0.9023,1,0,2,0,0,0,44,8,0,0,3,24,5,0,0,19,0,33,5,4,1,6,62,51,34,0,9,10,5,2,0,0,2,1,9,1,3,19,20,0,4,6,1,0,6,5,0,0,5,9,13,26,5,37,37,11,68,0,0,2,0,66,14,0,11,47,192,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739027545709314,0.05206060068398307,0.0,0.05880961062118304,0.0,0.06481001447955978,0.14089907731287935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981524008509307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824437793849034,0.08213076189690358,0.0,0.0966595703657847,0.1045643014585685,0.16471386372351224,0.0,0.05517876747783336,0.04515974416235352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411794813893239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231545734543873,0.0,0.0,0.046891125420348144,0.1299672540012778,0.0,0.037875990842242885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136034907202435,0.0,0.06011264273650192,0.10279003606698586,0.060101179753958914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04948255729070992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995570727752404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03068400056625188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475003140157337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776653378222969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032276471612461125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218995250652702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05672179915200173,0.0,0.0,0.17262878883201846,0.0,0.0,0.4313907826347296,0.0,0.07959393474113945,0.08933362166233731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606442962970296,0.0,0.05128076993895174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059039870483632566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037623941325150886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015509838161554,0.0,0.4203400731860574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039675645384507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601497973876168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042644527265847,0.05808547088475826,0.0,0.041569395682320036,0.0,0.14070555956526434,0.0982018180948032,0.0,0.0,0.06723179800128527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360247433327857,0.0,0.05407069259608193,0.0,0.0,0.15607040719160215,0.0,0.057701925979579474,0.0,0.03424593480040481,0.0,0.0,0.05611903100975594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128991549459374,0.0,0.0,0.04845840000451848,0.0,0.04661713967140915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369017882767024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04172010635247683,0.0,0.0,0.11346058174811086
parenting,PuzzleheadedProfit,2018/01/27,"My 14 yr old son's favorite teacher was arrested for sexual battery of a minor A few days ago, my son's high school sent out a robocall notifying parents that a teacher was arrested at school for sexual battery. This man was the favorite teacher of my son and many of his friends; he is charismatic, witty, and brilliant. His role has been something of an academic coach and de facto counselor for freshmen in an accelerated program. He was the kind of teacher we encouraged our son to discuss future plans/problems with. My son had class with him every day. When we met him at parents' night we were equally charmed by him. It turns out that 8 years ago, he committed sexually battery on a 16 year old boy on at least two occasions. Apparently he admitted it when confronted by police. Investigators believe there may be more victims. He has worked at 4 schools in the past 15 years, and was until the other day a boy scout group leader.

Naturally we we all upset by this. My son was in shock at first, but after a few hours that turned to sadness and a deep sense of betrayal. He is struggling to reconcile all the good things he thinks about this man with the terrible things he is learning. Other details about his life have emerged that conflict with things he told his students, which has only deepend my son's feeling of betrayal.  He has been reluctant to discuss his feelings at length with us, but I saw yesterday that he posted something very poignant and heartbreaking on social media. Many of his friends responded with insightful, sensitive words. They validated his sense of betrayal and shock, but one in particular also wrote about how the good things they experienced with this teacher were real, and not cancelled out by the terrible things they've learned. My son later posted that his friends' remarks made him feel better. 

For now, I'm inclined to check in with him frequently, follow the news, and otherwise let things be. I imagine the investigation will at some point involve talking to his current and former students, and might include my son. He was not alone with this teacher at any point, and as far as we know, nothing inappropriate ever happened. 

I thought I was ready for just about anything, but this is a new one. I hope my husband & I are handling it well, but I'd be grateful to hear from other parents who have gone through something similar. Sadly I imagine there are a lot.",8.314864864864862,8.185181162162163,7.889864864864865,71.4466891891892,61.7027027027027,10.733333333333334,40.572072072072075,10.222266870305534,4.277772072072072,1932,98,328,37,24,612,227,444,0.12,0.765,0.115,-0.8137,5,1,3,0,0,0,47,8,0,2,3,14,22,2,2,22,0,32,1,0,2,4,67,53,24,0,1,8,13,3,0,3,3,1,1,0,4,26,30,0,1,13,1,1,3,2,11,1,4,21,6,40,11,63,25,9,56,0,3,1,0,72,24,0,5,27,225,66,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620517769927384,0.0,0.0,0.09466903142167518,0.0,0.07309733129982272,0.0,0.09903834401048348,0.0,0.06215920264558951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521933542513455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298324128630718,0.0,0.08084116362408507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768478909397559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268194439670924,0.07701348268894989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865283380847274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774988214592839,0.0,0.0,0.21186010635534147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333400303594502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808300085830526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030211856291727,0.0,0.0,0.09657543920468258,0.0,0.09078676528586403,0.09001648057556952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951852649966908,0.05023433759057837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346881020274657,0.06456274874059385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771009773876482,0.0,0.08649055088607972,0.0,0.18534263933832792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696730282225068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828046762851745,0.0,0.0857783227044085,0.0,0.08770650558408746,0.0,0.1918304052963136,0.0,0.12387811889590812,0.06951836871540668,0.0,0.0,0.3044865796867787,0.0,0.08725735324038326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172816397254575,0.0,0.1750833288595781,0.0,0.0,0.08746318074688213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404001957014077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775232031179644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317688828317963,0.0,0.21110637340493585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555737943063763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346866645566835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3643564397417799,0.058569262869255685,0.0,0.07256614007545867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734233353784038,0.0,0.0,0.1988469224655012,0.08929036323870235,0.0,0.10995014260417962,0.0,0.0,0.07541950849381113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218495581808874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654464400800633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658736788805432
parenting,rolling_in_glitter,2018/01/27,"Shimmer and Shine birthday party for 6 year old? Hi all!

My little cousin want s Shimmer and Shine birthday party this year, and I'm struggling to think of activities and games for 10 or so other kids. Plenty of decorative ideas out there on the internet, but so far activity-wise all I've found is pin the tail on the Genie, and a bracelet making station...

Would love some other suggestions if you have any...

Thank you so much in advance, and I apologise if I have posted this in the wrong place.",4.659642857142857,6.051181750000005,5.368988095238095,80.99625000000003,70.04166666666666,7.985714285714287,28.29761904761905,8.418075326091056,1.9982369047619049,392,14,74,6,7,127,68,96,0.058,0.773,0.16899999999999998,0.8861,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,1,5,0,4,1,0,1,2,20,11,13,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,2,10,9,4,13,0,0,2,1,8,8,0,4,3,46,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761027051574765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28393792642063226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923360208802088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595474619804452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23372287090371624,0.0,0.172858817016356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190366504385454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717365399355948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705596580197049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480135404563101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707227940397127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384169633799294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659320774940332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152742206488529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395882484342346,0.283133755814286,0.0,0.3335254406767113
parenting,ysy_heart,2018/01/27,"When does your baby go to bed? My 4-month-old doesn't have a fixed bedtime, but it's usually between 9 to 10 pm. She wakes up about twice in night for feeding, and wakes up at about 730 to 8 am. I'm okay with this, and I know she's still young, things are fluid etc.

But I keep seeing people writing about how their kid is going to bedtime at 6 or 7 pm. Am I doing something wrong here...? I actually tried to let her sleep at 7+ pm before, but it ended up as a nap for her.

Edit: Thank you everyone for the comments and reassurance. Glad to know that my kid is normal. :)",0.9093070044709392,2.4965329262295093,3.2436512667660224,91.56133383010432,80.39344262295083,5.747839046199702,20.926974664679587,6.574015621080383,0.2092360655737706,435,12,100,4,11,150,85,122,0.034,0.825,0.141,0.9195,0,0,1,0,0,0,23,0,2,1,0,7,5,0,0,3,1,9,4,3,1,0,14,17,10,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,4,1,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,13,4,22,16,1,15,0,0,1,0,12,7,0,1,6,65,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.21394996653960816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865600153394732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19186140762599685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418460871535476,0.0,0.24451438466722344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949649783413032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24920219341733404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487363886057435,0.0,0.0,0.2409809165834611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419126672079293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499801829692152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20574511200658469,0.2148120167373549,0.0,0.0,0.2300591045593512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199579266616078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470863233577688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194017702177973,0.0,0.0,0.1687843077058681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508809058368602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20184989887611868,0.0,0.0,0.14565559638985612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148851901004721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414656694276126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397082790139269,0.0,0.0
parenting,SteveMcQueen87,2018/01/27,How do I tell my four-year-old daughter that she's not going to get to see her best friend anymore? Me and my girlfriend of almost 2 years broke up yesterday. Her son was my daughter's best friend. I'm getting her from my ex-wife in about an hour and I know the first thing she's going to say is that she wants to see him. Does anyone have any recommendations on ways of telling her that she's not going to get to see him anymore?,3.5919927536231917,3.9355634891304336,4.370434782608696,91.0390579710145,71.71739130434783,7.0028985507246375,25.11594202898551,6.42735559955562,0.5702550724637687,339,9,79,2,6,109,58,92,0.027000000000000003,0.8109999999999999,0.162,0.9279,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,16,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,4,17,4,13,15,2,11,0,1,3,0,19,3,0,1,4,48,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075872424005234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596459221171715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382350457987777,0.119236838794229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35791631865482165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922982177563676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505066014068954,0.0,0.0,0.2634983482602254,0.0,0.2672808441986322,0.0,0.29074423592987003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793530190208378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371749034381308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17893999421800702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356103645987104,0.0,0.0,0.4076651743891495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980972171905054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329093723868365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058157637681336,0.1353568441268151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962832249352326
parenting,PowerfulPomerainian,2018/01/27,"Circumcision Hey guys first time commenting So,  my son is 9 months old.  We decided against circumcision., so that's not the reason for the post.  My question is regarding  hygiene. I am a 31 year old male,  I am also uncircumcised.  To be honest,  it hasn't affected me in one way or another,  throughout my life in a lot of ways.


I was molested by my stepfather while growing up,  under the guise of 'helping me learn about my body"" by masturbating me.  I was 10-14.Again,  this is only backstory, and could be relevant to any advice I get. 

So,  my son is 9 months.  I know how important it is to keep your foreskin and glans clean,  but how would I go about informing him,  and get an OK no him the important things he needs to kg bow without making him feel violated and uncomfortable.  That was the second worst thing I have ever felt  drugs,  and now( disgust and a little pity).

What is bets way to approach this when he is ready?)(years I know but it's giving me anxiety 

Edit - hey guys,  I really appreciate all the answers.  It helps quite a bit.  I seems that the consensus isrespect their boundaries in respect to how developed they are, and instruct them to do it alone.

Thanks for the well wishes. The best way for me I've found ringer over abuse,  has been to be everything that my parents weren't,!",3.93765060240964,5.7199333975903635,5.093612449799199,80.71873192771085,72.45381526104418,8.996064257028113,28.91586345381526,9.516144504307137,2.7110576706827305,1012,41,196,25,20,334,155,249,0.122,0.718,0.16,0.6911,1,1,1,0,1,0,41,1,1,3,3,13,11,3,0,14,1,24,3,1,6,2,39,39,19,0,4,5,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,14,8,0,1,12,0,1,3,5,5,1,3,7,2,31,6,25,27,5,26,0,1,0,0,24,7,0,5,11,139,45,3,0.0,0.14950017185293674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232995778741786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068224511874105,0.0,0.10090441639674508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580529487340441,0.13230852371124194,0.09652574369109372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241591539472194,0.0,0.13775358066715349,0.14015519567475507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074278132183996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632629842998612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413512911542238,0.0,0.0,0.11340055530018485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637993345238709,0.0,0.12115056575832304,0.0,0.0,0.10732685233981504,0.0,0.13834754827007836,0.0,0.0,0.13184548382725406,0.12104133356112876,0.07170980503876151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24987190581628396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914876551909389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215270987991052,0.0,0.0,0.13868814161938295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912317818988708,0.0,0.12646339810033472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727193347595032,0.0,0.0,0.08422472415908015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142798266989845,0.0,0.0,0.0935593097474258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648049490915209,0.0,0.08550140661255935,0.09596397432499512,0.0,0.0,0.14010561935070232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084354384233155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134811866020364,0.13420572201481915,0.0,0.0,0.08083278998760426,0.12973189012568986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148676159600846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616765243522426,0.0,0.0,0.16765397249018893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357534479780364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40061655724121226,0.0,0.0,0.1134490802325178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450983512492802,0.1216309873302882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963315581177353,0.0,0.0,0.16250885390690642
parenting,Unabridged9,2018/01/27,"Thoughts on Fixing Tongue Tie My 12 week old has a mild tongue tie. The pediatricians say it’s nothing to worry about and the lactation consultant told me it isnt messing with her latch at all. My concern is if it will affect her speech down the line. I would like to meet with an ENT for a second opinion, but I’m just wondering what experience others have had. My understanding is that it’s simple enough to have it fixed so I might as well just do it. Any thoughts and advice is appreciated! Thanks!",2.5503030303030307,4.9675555959595945,3.7659494949494965,85.69559090909092,78.89898989898991,6.78828282828283,23.03131313131313,7.908726449838941,1.176138585858586,400,13,81,7,10,130,73,99,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.9369,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,1,1,17,19,6,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,9,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,4,2,8,3,11,12,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,4,3,57,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370766348317929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498378104826034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506819889937974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373200848797609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852746659924455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573719027395166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23279177173968846,0.0,0.2545794044870336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929339833315756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233635880226307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852120251280718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318251814588495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525665789113997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19460788838206866,0.0,0.21813640103239956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26310125100528603,0.0,0.2463832195841399,0.0,0.1723438742904179,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stfngrg,2018/01/27,"Need advice: My wife insists on bathing our baby twice a day. So my wife is originally from Jamaica, and culturally, Jamaicans bathe twice a day. That could have something to do with the heat and lack of air conditioning on the island. Where we live now, outside heat is only a problem half of the year and we have air conditioning. Our pediatrician and everything I read online recommends bathing a baby 2 to 3 times a week. I have also read the risks of bathing too much; 1.) Drying out of skin due to removing natural oils 2.) Removing dead skin cells that are meant to protect the other layers of skin 3.) Removing good bacteria meant for fighting bad bacteria. I have thoroughly conveyed this information to her but she refuses to cut down on the bathing. Is there anything else that I can do to convince her to change? Is applying lotion after each bath enough to counter the problems of bathing too much? Is it bad for the baby to apply that much lotion on him? Thank you for your time. ",3.944136622390893,6.3420945268817235,4.7910373181530685,80.20067362428846,74.16129032258064,8.032384566729919,29.758380771663504,8.841846274778883,2.6670528779253644,786,35,142,17,17,254,109,186,0.118,0.8170000000000001,0.065,-0.8883,0,0,1,0,2,0,22,4,2,0,0,7,10,2,1,13,0,14,3,3,1,0,20,18,7,1,5,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,7,9,0,2,3,9,0,3,0,7,0,3,2,4,16,3,28,15,6,22,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,0,10,99,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178255919915815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587892252741472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011376489299325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046213879506432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929731485537552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456452444446132,0.0,0.0,0.23528793115323945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238611485901246,0.0,0.0,0.1884856708301102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639447648768632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530028439612353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107767839592935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022927655985804,0.1352599993710819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387364564989482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34909713778310353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649330132773415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043362798324574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679451958094509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273780488428345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632402805545394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174706586473517
parenting,i_like__trees,2018/01/27,"Tips for taking one year old on a long haul flight? We're flying in June so our son will be just over a year old. It's about 12 hours journey there and the same on the way back, flying with United the whole way. A bit nervous since it's his first time flying, any tips would be appreciated! ",2.197377049180332,3.6547661147540964,3.095868852459017,94.59626229508196,76.37704918032787,5.5357377049180325,17.118032786885244,5.6839178017228535,-0.7212255737704921,227,3,53,1,5,72,47,61,0.035,0.86,0.106,0.6476,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,3,17,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,10,30,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442373333314178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859195973634964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639692346109739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20566425154349066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381118992490096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213974253524828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5074304377015297,0.0,0.16384140980126674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000904811565806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179404514263645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409881859945416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838391912402091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699470139395206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717588422806181,0.0,0.0,0.3114063356869334
parenting,Rantnotover,2018/01/27,"Behavioural difficulties/Authority Helloooooooo, I'm looking for some support, advice and any tips for my situation...

I just need some advice for working with kids in a residential setting. Kids who have been neglected/abused to the point of social services separating their families.

I've been here for 3 months, 2 days a week but I'm struggling with authority. The other staff are all great, I try to copy them but I'm not naturally cocky enough like them. The kids are well looked after, but due to their behavioural difficulties, they require intense discipline to keep things in line. The kids respond well to bossy language, which I'm trying to learn (it's so unnatural and awkward at this stage!) most of them also respond well to the male adults, I'm a 24yo female, shorter than some of the kids.

They seem to smell my weakness, they will say/do things around me that they wouldn't do around other adults. I usually respond with a calm ""we don't use that language in this house do we"" 

But I don't really feel like I'm getting anywhere with controlling inappropriate behaviour. I hope it's a case of me just being a newbie who needs to do my time to earn a badge of 'adult'. There are some victories, the kids like to show me things they are proud of like drawings or healthy pets.

Do you have any advice or input?

Seriously anything! :)

Thanks 

Edit - I guess I'm posting in this sub because most of my duties are of a parental nature, the kids live in the home 24/7 with a rotation of adult staff coming in to look after the kids, take them to school/activities n all that jazz",3.844705303309958,6.1389828737541565,4.399638242894059,83.37544358311803,74.08305647840534,7.249956933677865,26.762766088347483,8.167268648758528,1.7894687092408028,1259,47,237,21,27,399,158,301,0.046,0.7759999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.9908,1,0,0,0,1,0,41,2,1,11,5,11,17,0,2,19,0,18,1,0,2,2,43,41,10,0,4,9,1,1,4,0,2,1,0,2,13,16,12,0,5,3,2,0,1,4,4,3,0,2,5,27,13,43,36,9,22,0,0,3,0,34,10,0,11,12,150,43,9,0.0,0.14057271189834789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34781008923678386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948788705698865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613627977291843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976331893825449,0.21123508429273286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232375265151544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220055367095086,0.0,0.0,0.13306836205392072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651500566282733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225900716644482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184618679375148,0.0,0.0599895328558731,0.08475867789832255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619861401610248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080447294421865,0.13069878690928005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900873593662635,0.11783940124551508,0.0,0.13689824611306292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545546790458726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318521674880504,0.0,0.10476406005365928,0.0,0.29889105196946675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469981681350427,0.0,0.0,0.17594475954811184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173915869273956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215610950430603,0.0,0.11362732539219987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760058290103159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434978132278388,0.0,0.12007318461813447,0.0,0.10800825232957646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333598524083831,0.0,0.12094173297877996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403156276402927,0.0,0.0,0.1346348213072947,0.0,0.0,0.08920487067181994,0.0,0.0,0.10923065662926462,0.0,0.0,0.2364636770785148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918176493641327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16110179869090469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246957378007,0.13066864918862545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951683648234298,0.0,0.3200232750169578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637361383356161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itswillowtree,2018/01/27,"Pooping in the potty I’m super irritated today. I have a 3.5 year old. He pees in the potty 98% of the time with a few accidents here and there but he WILL NOT poop in the potty. Idk what to do any more, we don’t have a washer and dryer in our apartment so the corner of laundry is literally filled with pee and shit and I can’t take it anymore, I can sit him on the potty for awhile and he won’t poop then I’ll put undies on and BOOM SHIT IN THE UNDIES! Also when he’s at daycare he waits till he gets a pull-up on at nap time and poops. I’m just at a loss and need help, thanks for reading this far into my rant ",0.05551839464882846,1.60799842028986,2.4876811594202906,96.13429765886292,82.91304347826087,5.11571906354515,17.137123745819398,5.873414542411696,-0.6296729096989964,474,9,118,3,13,163,88,138,0.156,0.7759999999999999,0.068,-0.9125,0,0,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,0,2,6,5,2,0,12,0,9,8,8,0,0,17,16,14,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,12,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,7,2,20,14,2,26,0,1,0,0,10,15,2,0,8,70,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807861975011346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694217916397767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25804448121543266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594165287668164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440387110144356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19293201162249304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730318963112309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261568812118902,0.0,0.0,0.26026637840613603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5341748393132565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19563498440580007,0.0,0.0,0.2395534867700012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034447200600333,0.0,0.2466353515513413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755767103972216
parenting,mas1234,2018/01/27,"Musical.ly Thought I’d share this just in case anyone else is in the same boat...

My 8 and 10 year old won’t stop begging me for this app for their iPod Touches. (No they do not have smartphones). 

Apparently several of their friends and peers have this app and won’t stop talking about it at school, etc.

Even close friends of mine have permitted their children to have it (ages 7-11).

Because I correctly entered their birthdates into the iPods at set up, the iPods won’t let them create accounts for the app.  The recommended age for the app is 13.

So I spent 3 days doing my due diligence.  

Just to change the birthdate on the iPod requires a phone call to Apple support. You can’t do it on the device and you can’t do it by logging into iCloud from a computer.

I called out of curiosity and they refused to change the birthdate.  I insisted to see if they would waiver and the rep buckled and said he cannot chamge it to anything over the age of 12 because once it is determined that the iCloud account is for a child it remains that way.  He then said there are work arounds.  I could create a new account from scratch or change the birthday to 12 years with tomorrow being the 13th birthday. I thanked him and said I would call back if needed.  Regardless, it is good to see Apple is trying to watch my back (and theirs).

I digress.

I determined there is no way in hell they will get this app.  I downloaded it to my phone and played around with it.  Sure I can lock down the account with privacy settings, make the public profile info ambiguous, and allow only firends to see the videos my kids post, but... 

The app auto plays videos of random people and constantly pushes users to view content from random people.  And I don’t need my kids exposed to random content from random folks singing inappropriate music and/or modeleing inappropriate dances.  And who knows what else the worst of humanity is using the app for. 

Perhaps when they are 13 but not 8 and 10.

Of course I am the worst parent in the world and my kids are terribly upset.  Lol


* Edit - I dug into the app a little deeper and sure enough found amateur porn.  Lovely!",3.910411764705884,5.853005782926829,4.395380200860831,85.02797704447633,72.87804878048779,7.067431850789096,27.42467718794835,7.827709963407826,1.6595035868005734,1681,63,321,23,34,531,211,410,0.065,0.845,0.09,0.5494,2,0,0,0,0,0,48,0,2,11,2,13,16,1,1,29,1,34,2,0,4,3,63,52,25,0,8,9,1,2,0,2,6,0,3,0,6,18,27,0,4,4,10,5,3,11,5,0,0,6,10,37,11,52,37,5,45,1,0,5,2,39,20,1,8,17,211,55,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432470843146027,0.10891292151624166,0.08747263776227086,0.18925213984993905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634702876332532,0.0,0.1295942385433355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256206248150213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373415555859275,0.0,0.0,0.11486832759775913,0.0,0.08486879080131376,0.0,0.0,0.06855219435163902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759351295417913,0.0,0.0,0.10983229165995304,0.11854825567251945,0.07020757514091698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654819311071105,0.16424821476867685,0.0,0.05553532788263135,0.0,0.0,0.08915613005881702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05841755966671289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869496959425803,0.0,0.0,0.1065366226401158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593638523696962,0.0,0.0709534757842318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576344306219434,0.0,0.10266144100726576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153988173011052,0.11320188316439965,0.0,0.0808429780733585,0.0,0.0,0.1180292457955546,0.0,0.0,0.147384671169006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180228605442393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033358135110271,0.0,0.0,0.10757733358388193,0.2541127014984267,0.0,0.0,0.12008434316411275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773660754535678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062356078789074,0.20036564282962285,0.0,0.0,0.08543678312805676,0.0,0.09786317255733187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438723432945631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216807813439714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180570629315964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874580164423247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773848307410939,0.0,0.0,0.15101940704116415,0.0,0.0,0.13690241369776993
parenting,einenchat,2018/01/27,"I miss my wife.. We just had our 2nd kid couple of months ago and our older one is 2yrs and a bit.. her everything is taking care of the kids or getting annoyed at the fact that she has no breaks - but not wanting to ever leave the kids with help either (we have a house help who stays with us) I know that she is a wonderful mother.. and we were also so close before the kids came by .. high-school sweethearts (and we had our first one at 33.. so quite some time of just us) .. I get it that she needs support and not a demanding husband .. I really do get it.. but here’s my qs.. is it too much to ask for just 5-10 mins a day when it’s just us two? We have gone on 3 dates just us since the birth of the 1st one.. so that’s more than 2 years.. she wanted to exclusively breast feed.. so the kid has to be around.. 
mom’s - you’ll are doing a fantastic job.. and it’s very hard one.. but if you don’t have a jerk for the kid’s father, and you feel you are out of the initial months of the baby.. do throw a bone out.. coz the non-jerks probably have been told too many times that don’t be selfish and don’t ask for attention etc.. and they maybe won’t.. but they miss you .. all we do now together is parent.. I’ll not bring this up till the younger one is atleast 6 months old.. but really needed to vent.. so here :) ",0.4947790507364971,2.071619787234045,2.2392907801418467,98.32615384615387,81.62411347517731,5.756901254773594,17.229132569558107,6.67199483983844,-0.4464166939443537,988,18,250,10,26,325,154,282,0.059,0.823,0.118,0.9724,2,1,0,0,0,0,59,13,5,2,2,19,8,2,0,20,0,29,3,2,1,3,51,50,24,0,5,16,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,12,22,1,0,4,0,0,4,8,5,0,7,7,2,31,3,26,39,7,32,0,2,0,1,44,8,0,4,18,168,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356986002929583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441384827944179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396805763854267,0.1973629830236832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982118289808627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524084151743867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072902081293138,0.10762233724127128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679674845773487,0.0,0.06807549500038554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772389290622427,0.0,0.09548229717341243,0.0,0.0,0.09486777300485966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053372761442393266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978668083367902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544743628013933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455828642215043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150518618572827,0.11152670456745252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179853857553775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474897710596737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05801133470107445,0.0,0.0,0.1117695602246658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701817124242166,0.10604613592907618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362701455664467,0.25276363179400924,0.0,0.07759649781430612,0.15653826978386373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076425390721556,0.0,0.357640578242533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172084921284864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380823664699925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227280094310443,0.0,0.0,0.13524495980807666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068292605919954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731779311297097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250965523896764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197847667315179,0.0,0.0,0.0793656835652533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231022033455764,0.0,0.0,0.1008641815033477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311379418671536,0.0,0.5078880167607277,0.0,0.0,0.08709553186276288,0.1245204384059182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447200070396835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797520974615179
parenting,Lynmusic23,2018/01/27,"7 year old suddenly waking up through the night My fiancé has had joint custody of his 7yo daughter for about 10 months which includes her sleeping at our place every other weekend. She’d always been fine sleeping through the night until about 2 months ago. Now she’s waking up at least 5 times a night, knocking on our door saying she can’t sleep. I think I know at least a few reasons why, but have no idea what to do about it. 

1. She sleeps in her moms bed almost every night, this has been confirmed though text messages between them and she even refers to her moms room as “our room”

2. Her mom lets her stay up until or past midnight on weekends. We have her in bed by 10 to try and establish some routine

3. She watches adult shows with her mom that she might be replaying in her head at night. Some of her favorites are Criminal Minds, Charmed, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Supernatural. 

There are probably other reasons. We’ve tried talking to the little one about it but she just says she gets to sleep with her mom and wants to sleep with us, but of course that’s not happening. If we try to talk to her mom about it she’ll likely get defensive and start making claims against us to her lawyer (this happens every time we try to address any concern with her). So we don’t know what to do. Every parenting article is for full time parents, so even if we try what they suggest, her mom won’t be following the same routine so it feels futile. 

Help! I’m so so tired.",3.655159121470195,5.279058092783508,3.901736142238161,89.62397131331244,72.8831615120275,6.572897056626326,26.39787838039743,7.079830092131019,1.1027458837591515,1159,40,236,11,23,359,165,291,0.059,0.895,0.046,-0.7764,2,0,0,0,0,0,28,10,0,2,0,16,4,1,0,7,0,21,10,9,3,0,38,34,19,0,3,8,10,1,1,0,3,1,2,6,1,14,13,0,1,8,3,0,1,5,1,0,1,3,4,40,3,45,24,7,40,0,0,1,0,55,17,0,7,22,156,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229303978182499,0.0,0.07036855829260688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058473014494823713,0.0,0.0,0.04778825329859528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282970284969533,0.0,0.23683314209357265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035532291602829266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342979692230593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428489298096315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072120678929866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047102711223690495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793300012151105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772407349802464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185920969666931,0.0,0.034331984396869984,0.07043230735744581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04690797296433492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454886536064832,0.07095599962794152,0.5761226717056034,0.11218295411088597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297336547493323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374000637476713,0.0,0.04761900629344065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560603651783077,0.0,0.06708381577208522,0.0,0.0,0.0734206408599172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576650227681471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450531136519873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176829633525373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219442990222127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04973980293972798,0.07490198689456315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296603214528544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04502829268043384,0.06904315976591728,0.0,0.12293077783543857,0.08076881992622557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385547868233276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906025307124906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0414490126459609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341072230639642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525370074903592
parenting,Era1209,2018/01/27,"Help!! My 4 year old won’t sleep in her own bed. I’m looking for ideas on how to get my daughter to sleep in her own bed. She has been sleeping in our bed for about a year now and for the most part we allow it. Even if she falls asleep in her own bed she will wake up in the middle of the night and climb in bed with us. I’m just looking for ideas on what to do, or should I just put a strict no sleeping in my bed policy?",2.24003436426117,1.8271185876288705,3.609845360824746,97.97634879725088,74.4639175257732,6.879037800687286,21.3213058419244,5.46131890053228,-0.3042013745704466,321,5,89,1,6,106,59,97,0.023,0.919,0.058,0.5019,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,5,0,6,6,6,2,0,14,11,5,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,2,13,0,20,7,5,19,0,0,2,0,11,11,0,3,5,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160892731290312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918284933489997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780969539929614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968282519787282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951919564228805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494091494834318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18443285883263905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033333089788804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668955331707945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.703556519386015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114202813492662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263701838994529
parenting,-PaperbackWriter-,2018/01/27,"3 year old with sleeping issues and tummy pains Hi everyone! I understand this may be more of a medical question, but some of you may have experience with this so I thought it couldn’t hurt to ask. Disclaimer up front: I have taken my daughter to a doctor and they haven’t figured out what’s happening and don’t seem to care that much after ruling out a few things. 

Since my daughter was born she’s had nights where she cries and cries with what I’m pretty sure is wind. She was breastfed and I spent many late nights bicycling her feet and pushing her knees up to her tummy to help her fart. 

Since then every few months or so she’ll wake up crying during the night and isn’t quite awake, so no matter what I ask or do she won’t answer me when I ask what’s wrong, just sobs. I try massaging her abdomen and giving her a drink of water, taking her to the toilet and giving her some medicine, but when it happens nothing helps. Sometimes she’ll do a small fart and that seems to ease it a bit but I can’t be completely sure it’s not a coincidence. This goes on all night waking up constantly, about every half hour from 9/10pm to 4 or 5am. 

The last two nights she’s done this and doesn’t remember in the morning. She’s fully toilet trained for day and night and has been for a long time, doesn’t seem to have any stomach pains or issues during the day that she tells me about. She doesn’t always tell me if she’s done a poo recently so I couldn’t comment on that from the last few days but I know she did today, so we’ll see how she goes tonight. 

I’ve taken her to the doctors several times over the years, first suggestion was weaning her off milk which I did and she rarely drinks it anymore, no difference; second was toilet training her which she’s obviously done and hasn’t helped; most recently they diagnosed her with constipation and gave her laxatives, I know on that occasion though she was regressing with the toilet training and didn’t want to poop in the toilet so I think that was a once-off, she pooped shortly after that and the doctor said the blockage was gone. Following that another doctor did a stool and urine test and found nothing of concern, and suggested she might just grow out of it. 

Has anyone else had a child with these problems? I’ve considered IBS or some intolerance but I can’t think what it might be since she eats the same things most days and is fine the majority of the time. She sleeps well when she’s not having these episodes. I also wondered if maybe it’s a version of night terrors which she’s had a couple of times, although those were different. I don’t know if I should keep pushing the doctors to find out what’s wrong, any advice would be much appreciated! ",5.293687866290425,5.754087029520298,5.431486867809856,84.51448448013895,68.00369003690037,8.590492728456697,28.118298241805945,8.4952907291091,1.7740916431517253,2158,66,442,30,34,680,246,542,0.101,0.825,0.073,-0.9642,1,0,2,0,0,0,39,1,1,2,2,20,13,0,1,30,0,55,25,11,1,4,89,87,49,0,9,17,2,0,0,0,10,9,1,0,1,34,32,5,1,17,2,1,6,18,8,1,4,27,2,61,5,49,44,16,61,0,2,1,0,59,18,1,22,37,300,95,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274839632359344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135127321623882,0.053430526803247634,0.0,0.0,0.08733435656808891,0.06733313954484517,0.0,0.0,0.06368224026451935,0.04489936279987517,0.06579401224643308,0.0,0.0,0.1800920228835718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010418384008786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546963746459898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732631898549185,0.0693916575506352,0.0,0.0,0.071050684965421,0.2116055564899552,0.16564880831037096,0.0,0.0,0.06517504679976102,0.0,0.13417825481614934,0.0,0.3286246581364341,0.0,0.19713719528336068,0.0,0.12580898047965286,0.0,0.06570613492384329,0.05364188933473731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082047817771409,0.06135846484530109,0.0,0.06281283160674872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05868970190933383,0.054619715516421585,0.0,0.07040645993214177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231983061220286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135670422164736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912226415652747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323706769868814,0.0,0.0687415591920963,0.0,0.0,0.1340437963548098,0.0,0.05707564299604461,0.0,0.0,0.1058696869740642,0.10468465760943804,0.07243528706025976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568266617443399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510210661619853,0.06451079071283873,0.0,0.0,0.06468804390217105,0.0,0.13624011634140834,0.0,0.0,0.05125436398545698,0.0,0.0944081816219281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218181710369535,0.0,0.12322859538104568,0.0,0.06738095207024825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366547453345973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532790994022987,0.0,0.06144336066760505,0.0,0.0,0.07193348040765835,0.06829864285888564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680557745172427,0.0,0.07274103851714189,0.0,0.06108145832188229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116960706346931,0.17537185808612155,0.0,0.07254263897021891,0.0,0.15935346896897234,0.0,0.12851914895077873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350849719207759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210403630218545,0.0,0.04828033532201178,0.0,0.11225033504425212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532079421856892,0.08229045209151581,0.06308914343351188,0.05097810848905469,0.14977293433165784,0.0,0.06086660579306891,0.0,0.0,0.04359654805392383,0.0,0.06272696631619616,0.06684820628937553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03787460934384039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05773537891785423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963647675793218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045615215247135216,0.14041410871363474,0.0,0.0827023915803608
parenting,WyldStallions,2018/01/27,"Got children into dinosaurs and monster trucks? Check out this Netflix series called DinoTrux, I randomly found it (actually my son did) and he is nuts for it, it is actually really cool, lots of fun, well made and the stories have ethical lessons.",6.99128787878788,8.507577977272728,7.025454545454547,70.81651515151519,64.68181818181819,10.412121212121212,39.66666666666666,10.504223727775694,4.640448484848483,197,11,32,5,3,63,38,44,0.045,0.737,0.219,0.8399,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,10,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,2,3,4,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.6321998117152888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33075928132047977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551623606250228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590689980968882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753858206995702,0.0,0.3065016263213309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20751191377717632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912436371294418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MikeKM,2018/01/27,"Improving diet and encouraging better eating habits Hello,

My daughter who is five is one of the pickiest eaters.  It's frustrating because my wife and I go out of our way to make healthy meals for her that just get swept to the side, and by 7-8pm she complains about how hungry she is.  We usually can get carrots or an apple or banana into her, but her default food seems to be McDonalds which is what my mother picks up whenever she watches our daughter when we're in a pinch.  My wife and I have good eating habits and we try to reinforce eating together and meal planning healthy options.  

Maybe this is part rant because mom and dad eat relatively healthy and don't really snack on junk food aside from buttered popcorn.  How does everyone else handle a child that thinks a hamburger from McDonalds is the only option?",8.282596774193546,7.670960961290323,8.029475806451618,72.00421370967744,61.96774193548386,11.362903225806456,37.439516129032256,10.686352973137794,4.029080645161291,659,28,115,14,8,211,109,155,0.042,0.841,0.117,0.9001,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,2,5,5,1,0,7,0,10,10,0,4,0,24,16,14,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,12,10,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,2,16,3,16,15,1,10,0,0,1,0,22,6,0,5,2,74,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968585373742967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280514247624215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130155486364118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6608874560020803,0.13488562300411314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428939695967814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904949954799812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872051632019136,0.0,0.0917658685011334,0.13543152503235936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778100648228826,0.0,0.16221610207443338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910912912367195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941475620563992,0.1228035335473802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485388625502973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344040361806477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699421558229167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346204277396928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962603327385337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783396337225935,0.0,0.0,0.1281656193713757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maestro4444,2018/01/27,"13-14 yr olds. How do you handle technology/video games limits so that they don’t have an unhealthy relationship with them? I raised my child on my own no mama. My child was raised without tech until about 10 when I got a Nintendo for us since I had one. When he was 12 we built a computer together and it was in his room. He has grown more and more into it. 

My question is how do you limit or monitor your early teen this day and age? 
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parenting,Roupert2,2018/01/27,"Tips for surviving the newborn period with a young toddler? I'm due with my 3rd in April. Daughter will be 4.5, my son will be 16/17 months. When I had my second, my first was old enough that we mostly read books during those early days when feedings take 45 min-1 hr. 

But I have no idea what I'm going to do with my toddler during feedings and I'm very nervous about it. He plays well with his sister but she isn't always home (preschool). Any advice welcome!",2.213937198067633,4.440723630434783,2.890144927536234,92.54857487922706,79.0,4.958454106280193,21.09178743961353,5.82211442006289,0.06991642512077334,362,10,73,2,9,113,72,92,0.036000000000000004,0.866,0.098,0.6854,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,2,0,9,2,0,0,0,10,14,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,6,2,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,1,2,2,0,10,3,8,8,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,11,44,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28551789853629805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431197070261154,0.0,0.0,0.1986944959417609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884338979753175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30190319998928056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485307562678766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605436281386146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29308342607296506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298391030533646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332177259236152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065969644428765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29226212264555834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219685293799062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108161923818444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627076551058317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NamelessFetus,2018/01/27,"Appropriate age to wait for the bus alone? My oldest is in first grade. The school district has a rule that doesn't allow kindergarteners to board the bus or get off the bus without a parent (unless they are with an older sibling), so I was there everyday last year. There are no rules about first graders and above, but his bus stop is around the corner and he would have to cross two roads. There is a side walk and the roads aren't normally busy. 

A lot of the parents were there in the beginning of the year but they are beggining to tapper off. I am wondering if I should do the same. I am pregnant with my 3rd and it is hard for me to do this everyday. It'll still be cold once my baby is born and I don't want to bundle the baby up every morning to come stand in the cold. 

We don't get a bus closer to us because we live too close to the school. We were told that the kids can board the closest bus. Otherwise my son would be walking to school. I figure if he is older enough to walk just under a mile to school, surely he can walk 2 blocks to the bus alone, right? Also, my middle will be in kindergarten this fall and I would like to be able to trust the oldest enough to not have to go with them every morning with an infant. I feel like having him go solo for the remainder of the year will be a good way for me to figure out where he is. Thought? 

He is a pretty mature and reliable kid for his age.",4.311054421768709,4.327173914965989,4.988163265306124,88.39136054421768,70.05442176870747,8.029931972789115,24.49659863945579,7.594959193182576,0.9025659863945572,1097,24,246,11,18,354,147,294,0.05,0.8590000000000001,0.091,0.9594,2,2,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,3,2,12,5,0,0,29,0,40,0,0,1,1,45,52,15,0,8,9,3,2,2,0,7,0,0,0,3,6,18,0,3,5,0,0,9,7,0,0,3,5,4,25,5,43,35,4,50,0,0,0,0,22,21,0,5,20,173,31,5,0.12098096141172067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505995801471965,0.0,0.09674843113173556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769870510973488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737488711718988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421438586978177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250011346775596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20386335571090944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117160916092858,0.08642882300567235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581268794731367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264151180651684,0.0,0.13751253675526134,0.10147309052931483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837517834234722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861563066437494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182103735227257,0.0,0.10682840540051118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285368707212383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185356554932017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884077551203724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686700810324062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308113119644835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033170800168668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4897567672557362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661555206087888,0.10114550090905207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402312437967906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604536965638057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560249315410125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818082007801285,0.0,0.14552520058541146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135770554925919,0.0960290559683934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662132958522302,0.13119869194871284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25782421162058944,0.0,0.0,0.233723317897562
parenting,ninadymond,2018/01/27,"How many single parents have mental illness? Has it affected your child? People like me shouldn’t have kids unless you have support from the father or family or friends.  Some days I’m almost like MOMMY DEAREST “, I destroyed her mind and ruined her self esteem. She is 11. I love her but sometimes I feel like giving her up.  Most times, I try to be a good parent and not repeat my abusive childhood.  I’m truly a broken person. ",1.5967849223946755,4.323218634146343,3.002638580931265,86.81253880266077,88.26829268292683,3.9574279379157424,19.64966740576497,5.565023196281405,0.15200975609756062,336,10,57,2,11,109,66,82,0.115,0.57,0.315,0.964,2,0,0,0,1,0,10,0,2,0,0,1,9,1,0,3,0,7,2,0,2,0,15,13,7,0,1,5,3,1,3,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,13,7,4,11,3,5,0,1,0,1,17,1,0,5,7,38,14,0,0.0,0.24676830316424986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085543570230287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431823188893588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963403377352796,0.0,0.1053085981663686,0.1487895825652068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091045667683582,0.0,0.0,0.19979351277936988,0.0,0.17468870055614774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052535864714228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797364199235844,0.0,0.0,0.21115515269023066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098892239705721,0.0,0.21029538246041274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625228924145874,0.0,0.0,0.14438960434590226,0.181855106491926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21727315370168354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598636693552935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23634463582695936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144509779118336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414030396184252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwangyCarpet,2018/01/27,"Teacher parent advice. I am a 4th grade teacher at an Elementary School. This is my first year teaching at this school. I have a five year old daughter who is attending kindergarten at this school. Recently, she has been exhibiting weekly, and now almost daily, behavior issues in class. Tonight she told me that another student (a kindergarten boy) keeps putting his hand in her pants and she doesn't like it. This boy also gives her small toys and stickers very often. I always tell her she needs to return the toys, as she has plenty. I am a little shocked at the moment and wondering how to process this information. Currently, I plan to talk to her teacher on Monday. I don't want to over react and be ""that parent"", but I want my daughter to feel safe and comfortable at school. However, as a teacher and a parent at this school I am unsure how to handle this situation. I have never been on the parent side of the education system. 

Sorry for typos on mobile.


Update: I have contacted the teacher and the administration. CPS has be contacted and I will only receive information as it directly related to my child. The information is confidential and the boy is not my student. 

Thank you everyone for the advice/support. I guess I was a little shocked/surprised. I have delt with issues from the teacher side for several years and I am still learning the ropes of being on the parent side of education. ",5.01347619047619,7.092813453846157,5.940109890109893,74.52679487179489,70.23076923076923,8.644688644688646,30.457875457875467,9.23628265651192,2.9865183150183148,1118,47,186,24,21,368,133,260,0.049,0.909,0.042,0.5077,7,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,1,0,2,6,5,0,0,20,0,24,1,1,3,1,32,34,18,0,3,2,7,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,12,12,0,2,6,2,0,3,4,1,0,2,4,2,31,4,32,26,0,39,0,0,0,0,33,19,0,4,17,141,43,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995681962472906,0.0,0.0,0.10242888005402664,0.0,0.0,0.08180145238940212,0.08511365776719225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726021505859842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774268925317467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05172100896961645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700800931507073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812610030386944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126842101986973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135288287680709,0.0,0.09092024794545928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04997383486501205,0.2050433471223216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584690239719036,0.07889252405323129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733637936330627,0.0,0.0,0.07779632207552332,0.0,0.0,0.5679059232522289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282992436605283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009992523744051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5176158208770703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555883342825103,0.0,0.0,0.11497849365108745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450552724283555,0.0,0.0,0.08168910223693887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607773004646027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221700456526508,0.08940616135407843,0.09417509192566068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774268925317467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440014462338602,0.12066684461594307,0.0,0.08205104484614185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092938073983986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761464488512107
parenting,TravelingCoffeeBird,2018/01/27,"How did you know when you were done having babies? Hi everyone!

I'm new around here, so I hope it's ok to post. 
A little background about me: I have an amazing (and much wanted!) little 15 month old son. He was born prematurely and I nearly died due to pre-eclampsia. I don't remember his birth, and he had a month-long NICU stay. I am fortunate he is as healthy as can be, and after much therapy and lots of exercise, I am emotionally well and very close to getting off the remnants of the blood pressure meds I had to be on.

I feel great, I am happy, my marriage is great, and life with our son has its frustrations at times but he's just the coolest little kid. Life is good!

Lately I've been getting questions about when we are going to have another baby, which has me thinking a lot...do I want another kid...ever? Some days I think he would make a great big brother, and other days the thought of getting pregnant, gaining the weight back, possibly having another traumatic birth...well, it makes me cringe. I worry that another would completely take away any time I have for myself and my marriage. I'm enjoying that my son is starting to gain a little independence.

My husband goes from saying HELL NO to maybe one day. He said he would be completely happy if we never had another. I've never really considered myself a ""kid person"" so I wonder if having just one is the right balance for me.

I know 15 months isn't a ton of time, but it's really been bugging me lately. So I guess my question is...how did you know you were done? If you had a traumatic birth, did that play a role in your decision at all?

I appreciate any experiences or advice!
Thank you.",3.0129939209726433,4.860967753799394,4.5584574468085135,83.30875000000002,75.10942249240122,7.861094224924012,26.035714285714285,8.634040054169528,1.9371379939209727,1297,47,255,26,28,434,176,329,0.08900000000000001,0.74,0.171,0.9776,0,0,0,0,0,0,55,3,7,0,2,14,16,2,1,16,1,40,5,1,4,3,50,64,23,1,9,8,5,2,0,0,3,3,2,0,3,9,14,1,0,12,2,0,1,5,3,1,2,16,4,40,13,28,42,6,41,1,0,0,0,34,15,1,11,23,170,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920863232239189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024401170095546,0.4249802549387703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215852548461535,0.0,0.0,0.076156363954414,0.0623283568973886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997488250187365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682650459026687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412508038012806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590031016081971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117898632641963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745409232029178,0.0,0.07928997034776095,0.0,0.0,0.040985201391941416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270478857092811,0.0,0.04606695074837867,0.06798734099450555,0.0,0.26809915387067546,0.0892941793033957,0.0,0.0,0.17257482734080298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050857144623344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336415526282113,0.0,0.18287320014792866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450688111600008,0.0,0.3249643826872321,0.0,0.07173350109226476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782469143372544,0.0,0.0,0.1082132692324256,0.0,0.08143334016137595,0.0,0.09003681564589883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940984141286632,0.0,0.11917345118675468,0.0,0.1250333684920859,0.07828601793442291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505640575324523,0.0,0.10985357121550744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077644459714068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138036146577587,0.07763085646983893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816063177741431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038552580975561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182255662662776,0.06922282068105617,0.07710442110716256,0.06446032507188207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737304712758541,0.08639670786912565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06094529187967649,0.0,0.0,0.07462702653278154,0.09269652782512114,0.0,0.0,0.10387698403870547,0.0,0.064350748200433,0.14179616511005666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668810797355199,0.09561984629533812,0.0,0.0,0.09870642409343833,0.07288059406513929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790360243313328,0.0,0.08231801444412164,0.0,0.17274316275037116,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mawp_mawp,2018/01/27,"Kids watching TV/YouTube videos at daycare? My son is 2 and twice when I've picked him up from daycare his entire class has been sat in front of the TV or computer watching YouTube. There is no TV time listed on the curriculum or daily schedule.

How normal is this where you live?",4.5419090909090905,5.887516963636365,4.361590909090912,88.28238636363638,70.27272727272727,6.954545454545455,30.113636363636363,7.1686216300943375,1.634,223,9,44,2,4,68,46,55,0.048,0.952,0.0,-0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,0,6,6,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,4,0,6,4,0,9,0,0,2,0,5,5,0,2,3,27,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6123042234992884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6794062143082099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043398741706291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wareagle44,2018/01/27,"6 year old son wets the bed every night Hi everyone, is there much that we can do to help our son get over wetting his bed? He has done it practically every single night since he was born. I could count on one hand the number of times he’s been dry. For now he’s in goodnites but we are not sure if this is enabling him. Frankly, if we removed the pull up, I’m 100% certain he’d still wet. Thanks.

Edit: Thanks everyone for your input. These are all really good ideas.",0.6051733833177161,2.8479159278350537,2.08208059981256,95.84124648547329,85.59793814432992,5.176757263355202,18.096532333645733,6.574015621080383,-0.1635896907216492,363,9,82,4,11,117,77,97,0.023,0.789,0.188,0.9459,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,4,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,12,1,1,0,3,12,16,3,0,3,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,4,9,5,8,11,3,14,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,2,8,46,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655280423643078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121602017285156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493518556480023,0.3962060308493152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831607260662918,0.0,0.0,0.17389006646699096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896213533785515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23403889242923026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240395524249306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891112979813079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21754732327405574,0.0,0.14048530594721073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281441419359238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17149713464270594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655659119277314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539651915330555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817445546243092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088988045458265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335071957569923
parenting,grilledcheesy,2018/01/27,"Is 5 months too earlier to let them cry it out? What does too much codling look like? Hi,

I have a 5 month old that cries pretty regularly. Many times after being fed/changed/held etc. My wife and I split primary care through the week based on our alternating work schedules. I've noticed on nights I work she puts her to sleep and pretty much always ends up consoling her with breastfeeding. I have concerns that this is promoting the inconsolable behaviour. Am I wrong to be thinking this? When I care for her sometimes I let her cry it out, and often she quiets  eventually. My wife gets up instantaneously. Am I doing harm letting her cry?",3.9220661157024783,6.292286330578516,4.498347107438018,82.40388429752069,74.12396694214875,8.036363636363637,27.52892561983471,8.841846274778883,2.2727123966942147,510,20,96,11,11,162,83,121,0.14800000000000002,0.718,0.134,-0.4137,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,1,3,4,5,0,0,3,0,12,1,1,0,0,8,17,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,19,3,13,12,3,17,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,1,11,64,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885166430178801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26675683080942875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5747929352386021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448035353245575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586656707757435,0.0,0.14589746602422896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834738787960795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4013130486843332,0.0,0.06391142431545306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985478694448557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262966095806716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20883652684508075,0.0,0.19233363973921586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276451763557805,0.0,0.0,0.14893799290589935,0.13727225265987306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661793602948012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150895756222974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309132072518826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938307050797945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382336093459207,0.0,0.0,0.0762814543706334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049348955679104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904751891926257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302974665788168,0.0,0.0
parenting,000017187,2018/01/28,"Spacing between babies/what’s the best /what worked for your families Hello! 

TL;DR what age gap did you find works best for your family ? 

I have an almost 3 month old baby boy. Last week I watched my friends 1 year old son while her daycare was out sick. While I definitely wouldn’t want two babies 9 months apart I’m kind of leaning towards a closer age gap (1.5 years). I’ve read that sibling rivalry isn’t really present with that age gap and to get all the baby years out of the way would be great. 

My husband and I work opposite shifts but are thinking of part time Montessori preschool when our son is 18 months. 

I don’t plan on going back to work until my son is 13 months old. 

What age gap did you choose and why? How many kids did you end up having ? 

TIA ",2.3683594470046074,4.325444587096777,3.0401152073732725,92.98588709677419,77.3225806451613,5.976958525345622,22.03917050691244,6.868970318607317,0.4262073732718896,601,17,129,6,14,188,107,155,0.014,0.86,0.126,0.9435,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,5,0,7,3,5,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,1,1,16,19,9,0,3,1,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,1,15,5,15,12,4,34,0,0,1,0,15,8,0,1,24,68,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392714631863414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028423007780482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28071603012754204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118459122656084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25216736313228205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222412812350402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333170969512392,0.0,0.06987668495117137,0.0,0.07601084707867192,0.0,0.0,0.14745526858719113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927571838458366,0.0,0.1090207162033144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559729671413878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42701863656751227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210313041610815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448337189668554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378204062124874,0.0,0.08568101440757044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569893839823531,0.0,0.0,0.07798827899704189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065025858070614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788867658523813,0.10616122806771656,0.10728285111493867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068482416800162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894742783637225,0.0,0.0,0.0950092124208787,0.0,0.0,0.2583838214991214
parenting,thegrandkameron,2018/01/28,"What is it really like after your second child? I'm a mom to a 4 year old. Lately I've had major baby fever, but I've been overthinking it like crazy. I'm afraid that I will end up regretting it and thinking back to how easy it was when my daughter was an only child. I'm also afraid that if I don't that I will always regret it and think ""what if"". I feel like I'm running out of time because if we don't do it soon the age gap will be too big. I guess what I'm asking is, how huge of an adjustment is this? Anyone else with a 5 year age difference that can tell me what its like? ",1.3376153846153862,2.2313521461538457,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,77.53846153846153,6.7384615384615385,19.15384615384616,7.1686216300943375,0.0740615384615384,449,8,110,5,10,155,79,130,0.078,0.769,0.153,0.8737,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,1,0,0,7,8,0,2,6,0,15,1,0,2,0,18,25,10,0,5,4,2,1,4,0,3,1,0,0,2,16,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,4,1,9,4,8,17,1,17,0,2,0,0,8,4,0,4,16,68,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965435300082776,0.17652379167167032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483385292879829,0.2173702788632572,0.0,0.0,0.19832936108038396,0.0,0.0,0.1631284034713831,0.0,0.12932320324836508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22164908075166653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722209127132185,0.0,0.18789979813085306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072681970427594,0.1515582824044432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337044907670373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23931172473346696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4145783906444302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24846469620245304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22261321116460214,0.0,0.0,0.16134780376193988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590718004530433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542634654710494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27187122213976306,0.0,0.0,0.12370496717809512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732321879557652
parenting,Md401,2018/01/28,"New dad, with son. ABOUT an Uncircumcised Penis, question. 13 days old -  Was just drying him off after a bath, and notice him getting a little erect,   And then he peed.   While cleaning him off again,  I notice inside the tip barley poking out was tiny hard blister looking “thing” or maybe a better description is to compare it to a clear fish egg....Do not want to retract at this moment to investigate more due to the fact I’m new to this and I am cut.  And I read HE IS to be the one to retract.
Thanks In advance!",1.4460695187165769,3.7784221274509817,3.065579322638147,89.59965240641712,82.62745098039215,4.885561497326204,21.037433155080205,6.11248444174946,0.2377529411764709,395,12,79,3,11,130,74,102,0.047,0.866,0.087,0.7158,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,2,3,3,1,0,8,0,6,0,0,0,2,13,11,7,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,2,6,2,16,8,1,17,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,2,10,52,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009986934283738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656804949743107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873733237779226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20358608636831085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277806732240992,0.0,0.0,0.19084656715331014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22831968096267405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389906788350902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5174886858441407,0.23847789353756224,0.0,0.15400161827349054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25459041992400666,0.0,0.2273279368436643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20923639943286096,0.0,0.0,0.15098572114997108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340476318212381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mcmelonhead,2018/01/28,"1-2-3-Magic! Your experiences / modifications to the program Recently started to implement 1-2-3-Magic! in my household. So far I've been quite impressed with how it's gone. It's only been 2 weeks and I'm not doing all the things from the book so far (mainly stop behaviors) but it has made our household so much happier. The kids are happier and mum and dad are happier. Really wish I'd come across it sooner.

What have been your experiences? 
Where did you find it tough / fall off the wagon? 
What pitfalls should I look out for as the novelty wears off?
Did you tailor the programme in a way you'd like to share?",1.8527142857142849,4.462745699999998,3.781190476190473,83.22000000000003,83.66666666666666,7.761904761904763,24.404761904761905,8.634040054169528,2.146476190476192,484,19,94,13,14,163,80,120,0.027000000000000003,0.752,0.221,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,5,0,1,5,4,0,0,8,0,12,1,1,2,1,15,19,9,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,7,1,8,3,13,10,3,17,0,0,1,0,10,9,0,0,5,61,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215556642741693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5031833553303572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23507681770315325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565529034854356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159838447904707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433695600018745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907213854237212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195612753450962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735646475341464,0.0,0.0,0.1647693806953991,0.0,0.253954702823438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204800829516493,0.0,0.0,0.21503133617511916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708727437378327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041539765084194,0.2063109203324662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957681589232989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Meandbee,2018/01/28,"The chapter missing from my mom manual Long time lurker first time posting.


I have a 7 y/o daughter who is having a lot of difficulties this year at school and otherwise managing feelings. I’m a teacher and she transitioned to my school this year for 2nd grade. This is my 2nd year as a teacher or I would have brought her sooner. The school she left is one with challenging behaviors/unreasonable class sizes and would have been a tough environment as she went to higher grades. My school is blue ribbon, rigorous academics, and a wonderful environment which I’m grateful to teach and to be able to have her there.


She was always a star student in K/1st and totally is a future teacher in that she loves school, loves reading, and was very successful. Last year her teacher mentioned noticing her worrying and getting emotional but it seemed to get better during the year.


This year she has had a tough time. There are times when she is defiant and will not follow directions, she becomes emotional during independent writing tasks (which are exponentially more difficult than what she was used to doing), and expresses very negative thoughts about herself. Frequently says things like she’s “just a forgetter” when doing work or being reminded of something. Says that “her brain doesn’t work right.” She did once say she was choking herself in the car one day.


I have gone to the doctors, done checklists, had a referral for a psych eval but had difficulties getting an appointment and insurance battles. The school is offering to do this evaluation instead. After talking with her PCP she was leaning towards ADD based on our behavioral statements but from checklists it seems more anxiety driven. I will do whatever it takes to get her feeling better and be where she needs to be in order to be successful.


I had major anxiety/depression and tried to commit suicide at the age of 8(abusive/neglectful environment) I never wanted this for my baby and now am consumed with guilt. I obviously don’t want to make it about me and am pushing forward to get her any services necessary to help her feel as amazing as everyone around her knows she is. It is hard not to feel overwhelmed with guilt and worry. I have worked so so incredibly hard to provide her with a significantly better life than I had growing up and I feel like a huge failure. I feel like I should know the answers because this is my realm and I don’t know how to help her. I don’t know what to say to make her feel better. I feel like I’m doing this all wrong and I just don’t want to fuck her up. My family sucks and there’s literally no one to share my feelings with and Dad just doesn’t know how to help and sucks at comforting through this situation.


This week she is beginning a behavior chart at school with the goal to follow directions the first time. We’re also taking her to TEAM this week to do a 504 plan and set up testing. It will be challenging not to cry at this meeting but I’m so worried about how to help her. These are my coworkers and I know I need to remain professional but I just want my baby happy and healthy.

This may be a stretch but has anyone been here? Any of the circumstances? Your kid needing special services at the place of your employment? Similar behavior challenges? I just need some direction and feel absolutely alone and incapable of helping. Thanks for reading. 

TL;DR 7d having difficulties with transition to the school I teach at. Translating to behavioral difficulties and internalized negativity. Taking for services at school this week but I’m consumed with guilt/worry/uncertainty. Any experience or tips is helpful and appreciated.",5.516090318589544,7.5985947287630395,5.895684278604167,75.34298821809188,68.92548435171386,9.415864803306807,32.77960239574839,9.833631430168195,3.5148851390490115,2937,135,501,73,53,941,295,671,0.127,0.7090000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9791,1,1,1,0,0,2,59,1,2,0,18,26,33,4,3,31,0,67,6,1,7,5,107,125,52,1,11,18,3,12,4,0,7,2,4,0,1,29,40,0,0,22,3,0,10,13,12,0,5,19,17,69,21,83,92,7,65,0,2,1,3,62,25,3,9,33,357,98,37,0.05669705854163173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058721053710924766,0.0,0.04534061723165983,0.047176494613300105,0.0,0.0,0.11566783209987115,0.0,0.04337309459767471,0.0,0.0,0.03964390160458176,0.0,0.0,0.05047240257650158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034562000643907194,0.06261744669757223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005757633699283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329266817550977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06227905651921541,0.036564912328727016,0.0,0.04883309344289368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05803184187743676,0.0,0.058020775686364524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755311928777052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054176469135594686,0.0,0.05546060256628035,0.053448940884059666,0.0,0.2866773635464743,0.12151316985224897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645297806361232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05241551701750874,0.14810936501604294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035507309508663,0.1015788560321451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280170593065263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695532370982074,0.04621566996702936,0.0,0.0,0.06160151999883722,0.0,0.04004680917917715,0.11079727569757636,0.0,0.0,0.050175112656960126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048201811666095065,0.10234261786955924,0.0,0.07569145367282795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640290972104383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816060201119884,0.043728266810095215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645499769352215,0.0,0.060380516955021536,0.11525818259765333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923635882223158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054300109568338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134248031417607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04841897820708873,0.0,0.18035110642241994,0.0,0.5164240514006149,0.0,0.10322974540740712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372986931442537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436481656330102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201737973957276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788739596193355,0.04557094800935672,0.0,0.05219903401508502,0.0,0.0,0.03766700638828575,0.0,0.0,0.04501113135916033,0.16530255390646206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03849358105710092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896805468643595,0.0,0.0935620221863312,0.13376557639195322,0.0,0.13643688134473708,0.0,0.0,0.05255874129161545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061485541453806185,0.12382840163104825,0.1727358452692249,0.0,0.08055192733979173,0.0619893330619144,0.0,0.21906628088836907
parenting,milkand_,2018/01/28,"I (18F) fear having child with husband (18M) has ruined our lives. My husband and I have been together for 2 years , a month after our one year anniversary we found out we were pregnant. It was a whirlwind of emotions , we were still in high school and we were just two young teenagers who weren’t being safe 🤷🏽‍♀️ The pregnancy was in no way planned and we didn’t really know what to do. We decided to get married and raise our son together , we are now 2 months into being new parents and it seems like things are constantly bad . He is in the last stretch of technical training and then we will be together and officially starting our lives with one another , the only this is I am afraid to do this . I feel like we are not compatible or happy, our relationship has been filled with so many ups and downs and I’m not sure he is actually person I was meant to end up with . I want my son to be in a happy and healthy two parent home and but I feel like I have to make myself small and silence myself to avoid fights with my husband. I worry we are only going to grow apart and it is going to effect the life of our little bundle ",3.4089228418640185,4.548479008658005,4.727593582887703,85.37021390374335,72.76623376623377,7.859536541889483,25.70944741532977,8.313332769828598,1.5088144130379415,885,28,186,14,17,294,133,231,0.103,0.846,0.051,-0.8996,3,1,0,0,1,0,16,16,0,0,2,4,13,1,3,7,0,31,1,0,2,1,48,44,17,0,1,5,7,2,3,0,1,1,0,1,2,8,30,0,2,8,0,0,4,5,6,0,4,12,2,30,7,28,27,0,33,0,1,0,0,30,14,0,2,17,131,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.13084295822746622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140594806510092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195138728246093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489309027760935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082220634222468,0.11875528216947095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087752956854136,0.1355899807699859,0.1915738789620838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701204604646775,0.0,0.0,0.07005138356912681,0.0,0.15240176341631184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854617853009251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416631191545362,0.1344933978388841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368698512114305,0.10929327876781698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470482809194064,0.1965144757422455,0.13438360951959258,0.2367905901549393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949959129130236,0.13593630335635434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21404311267956705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949551674490825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171246087317766,0.2039481058923755,0.0,0.0,0.2977604449215827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707368069418801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589522541103292,0.0,0.0,0.1439519834522404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356963458315204,0.0,0.12206160107590586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490267331313347,0.0,0.10707664082820477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636902522297247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907694365311551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26195379427739224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908399056301284,0.10642664162929068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361649768262023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268653772513504
parenting,Liseykathleen86,2018/01/28,"Parents of children with ADHD My SS6 is generally a great kid. Gentle and outgoing and kind. But he NEVER STOPS. Constantly talking about nothing or making noises, moving ALL THE TIME, can’t follow instructions, can’t sit on the couch, chews up all his sweater/ coat sleeves/ mitts, etc... I could go on, it’s just never ending. I’m having a really hard time coping with the constant movement, noise and reminders. I have significant anxiety that I’m medicated for, which means I get overstimulated more easily than usual (at least I’m assuming). My husband says “he’s a kid, that’s what they do but I have a BS3 and BS8 so I don’t think it’s just being sensitive to kids, in general. I need some coping mechanisms because the behaviour isn’t going to change anytime soon. He has a pediatrician appt to assess him for ADHD in the coming weeks but I  would be very very surprised if something wasn’t flagged. Please help me!! ",4.158419047619045,6.3249184800000045,5.412571428571432,77.03676190476193,72.77142857142857,8.323809523809524,28.23809523809524,9.029198982220553,2.5836666666666672,734,29,129,16,15,244,121,175,0.016,0.8420000000000001,0.141,0.9561,1,0,1,0,0,0,28,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,10,0,15,2,0,1,4,29,27,10,0,4,7,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,4,6,7,1,1,3,0,0,6,7,0,0,0,1,2,13,3,16,22,6,24,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,4,11,81,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756169518617828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954758872716922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526191010561387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531496721010255,0.1346144191861439,0.0,0.3377488512019245,0.0,0.12477040971822845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841053445009385,0.0,0.17428449600830867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164562671776403,0.0,0.17762586337411124,0.0,0.0,0.17229034011917055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998894264923215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474577185697877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273315372677138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431271803149056,0.0,0.0,0.1702259302343789,0.0,0.15742751568165947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609231652521314,0.0,0.11587364629976013,0.2410530724107219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994711898474455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352147023186845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153963722867754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011179156550112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427370064939565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030575641863955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065031995848142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256054473646401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013273439431647,0.0,0.0,0.1822468229511102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211143858376668,0.2578813951959391,0.0,0.0,0.12535190559581494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110110861367326,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kthejoker,2018/01/28,"Shoutout to a great Android app for waiting room parents everywere The app's called ""2 Player Games Free""

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.twoplayergamesfree.twoplayergames&hl=en

I didn't build it, get no money for this, etc. As noted, the app is free, they show you an ad after every minigame.

Anyway, this is just about the best set of games ever for passing the time when you're waiting at the barbershop, doctor's office ... wherever.

Each little minigame lasts 60-90 seconds, it has them sorted by difficulty and type (plenty of games for 3 and 4 year olds!), it actually supports up to 6 players, and the games are for the most part very balanced - and sort of educational? Hints of logic, memory, strategy, etc.

Anyway, highly recommended.",9.631060000000002,11.328554616000009,8.345350000000002,63.06042500000001,58.84,9.45,32.425,9.516144504307137,3.0839000000000008,617,21,91,10,8,189,92,125,0.035,0.8140000000000001,0.152,0.9481,1,0,0,0,0,0,44,0,1,2,1,6,5,0,0,9,0,5,1,0,0,1,13,9,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,5,0,2,1,5,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,7,17,8,6,14,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,3,7,57,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.2065332655225848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293153545518557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221065157030055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611140404384244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21662581708601847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720763003551866,0.0,0.19144342106892664,0.178318551915815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105748539998221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333374115690628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22361269570378445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251748255603885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212212015676646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22208397082898465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350047639789713,0.22918899687645866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401702327435276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341087116283896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462783231264736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362913030679031
parenting,Antisera,2018/01/28,"Family keeps pressuring me about potty training, I don't think my daughter is ready. Who is right? My daughter is 2.5 (31 months, so closer to 3) and she shows no interest in potty training. I stay at home and don't mind waiting until I think she's more ready. The last time I tried for potty training I put her on the toilet every 30min every day for a week and she never once went in the potty. She is very verbal and tells me she wants to pee and poop in her diapers only. I don't want to make potty training a battle of wills, and we rent so I can't just take diapers and let her run around naked. 

Am I hurting her by not forcing it at this age? I know most kids are potty training by this age but I also know all kids do things at their pace.",3.07150172612198,3.760799487341772,4.500425776754894,88.37995972382052,73.1139240506329,7.011277330264673,23.224395857307247,6.980632752743323,0.659764556962025,581,14,127,5,11,194,95,158,0.057,0.905,0.037000000000000005,-0.2313,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,1,0,6,4,1,1,5,0,13,2,2,1,2,25,24,12,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,5,9,0,2,4,1,1,3,7,3,0,0,1,0,25,1,18,21,3,23,0,1,0,0,17,10,0,1,9,84,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531452124393927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289347875764982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525329824353054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272708313823672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830896262834012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481455391301908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207912320119574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262816696465835,0.0,0.0,0.21347214608657056,0.1583120189613329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19859909041461016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964073503221166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610286621648948,0.0,0.15502141437744313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979140644990618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068337763338256,0.0,0.14771007316814613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524079348171966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658594628505329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070084896605365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602631437118516,0.0,0.16975340585476084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290285272032861,0.2488916314834312,0.0,0.0,0.1132489524313551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185996305038689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602485979429716,0.2291073404458288,0.0,0.15578841665523455,0.0,0.0,0.18004024292795187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Notperfecta,2018/01/28,"Son isn't taking his medical condition seriously and thinks we are being overprotective. Throwaway for privacy reasons 

My son (13) has osteogenisus imperfecta (""brittle bone"" disease) Type 1. This is considered to be the mildest form of OI and on the surface he looks normal. He has some discoloration of the eyes, is a bit shorter than average, and has mild hearing loss in one ear but those don't really jump out to people. His bones do break easily and often, however. He also has more dislocations and sprains than the average person. Growth spurts have resulted in breaks. Simple falls have resulted in breaks. Jumping from moderate heights have resulted in breaks. He also has to be careful with his spine since it is slightly curved and is more prone to fractures.

Although hearing his diagnosis made us want to send him to school in bubble wrap, we have fought against those desires. We enrolled him in swimming to help him keep his strength. This started an interest in sports. He is really limited in what he can play and can't do anything involving contact or jumping. He instead channels his competitive energy into swimming and table tennis. 

Our issue is disagreements about certain risk. One of his friends invited him to a trampoline park a couple of months ago. I told my son he could go but made him promise to not do more than simply jumping. He promised and went back on that promise once at the park. He ended up with a broken ankle. He is out of the cast now and went to a friends house yesterday. The friend's mom called me to let me know that he was play wrestling with her sons in the basement. She knows about his condition and I told her to call if she sees him doing something he shouldn't be. My son was upset that she told me and upset at me for telling her to call. Another friend is having a birthday party at the trampoline park next month and I told my son that he can only go if I come to supervise. My son stormed off and said he would rather not even go. 

He thinks we are being overprotective but we are just trying to keep him safe. I can't let him risk fracturing his neck, spine, or skull. All of his breaks have been relatively minor and sometimes he didn't even notice them (broken hip went unnoticed for days, broken fingers have gone completely unnoticed and have healed crooked), so I think that is contributing to his belief that we are being overprotective for no good reason. 

Any advice on how to handle this? Our house becomes somewhat of a warzone when we don't allow him to do something that his friends  or siblings can. I want to respect his feelings of unjust and unfairness but we need to be smart about his condition. ",5.2689157261892205,7.079768230460927,5.445945047990719,79.40664776922266,69.10020040080161,8.779685687163802,31.56845269486341,9.276330184999452,2.941000801603205,2133,92,378,44,38,673,247,499,0.075,0.78,0.145,0.9909,1,0,2,0,0,0,48,11,0,1,3,16,25,1,4,17,0,55,12,10,9,2,78,89,32,0,11,13,8,2,0,5,2,2,4,0,1,14,32,0,4,9,6,0,17,10,7,0,2,16,9,57,18,63,61,8,55,1,1,3,0,88,22,0,8,11,258,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637585695106582,0.07835437208919169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137445702060716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060109742493946676,0.09268695249833653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273926772758328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796816308418797,0.0,0.0,0.09762226528209543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650141373837548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707750264764383,0.0,0.09012176201472194,0.0,0.0,0.0761420730224307,0.09267756370605586,0.0,0.0,0.07057399723774782,0.09780431310466668,0.0,0.057005671096933226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782892730577371,0.0,0.0,0.11676445881416628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04469376365611325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414580597279516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507060113783414,0.07413920261017598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924891813360615,0.0,0.059247443607778685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20398551432009174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225851541617372,0.0,0.15713413772019488,0.0,0.0,0.0971561078136804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18077407281225227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422720486780485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727771659377075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904586497674832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352390284451037,0.14110765760115804,0.0,0.0,0.06554171307407605,0.0,0.0,0.09400613156597587,0.0,0.08660561074171355,0.0,0.10063513133581113,0.0,0.09413483230196466,0.11979371533968505,0.06722626842413068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128003756008967,0.07718067936263857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132526424713255,0.181763853156462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408124534633929,0.0,0.0,0.08945764834763774,0.07043715726476055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311895998817043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609730288372704,0.0874221683746437,0.0,0.0625644701371537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645995087774954,0.0,0.07725869863263689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991450143936332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378502267935709,0.0,0.06001251695495668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063249603890937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042720461536637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24582142785432534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279129886698259,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lady_dejaneira,2018/01/28,"Advice for a mommy on the verge of a breakdown. My 5 year old son, that I love dearly, has been stealing food from the kitchen overnight for a few months now. When he first started, he was obviously pretty clumsy and noisy so either me, his dad, or his grandmother would hear him and stop him as well as provide some type of punishment (a stern talking to, taking away video games, even the occasional spanking) in hopes of making him understand that it's not ok. Well, here we are months later and the only change in the situation is that he's learned to be more quiet and put things back in their places to throw us off his trail. We often find banana peels, orange peels, and many other empty food packages under or in his bed. It's as if he doesn't care how much we fuss, take things away, or spank; he just keeps doing it. We can't block off the kitchen because we don't want to keep our dog away from his food and water. I've even taken to staying up most of the night to really listen for his little feet coming down the hallway to the kitchen. This whole situation is becoming a major problem not only because my son is stealing, but also because I'm concerned about his health and that we can't afford to keep replacing what he steals to keep him fed during the day.
Is there anything else out there that we can do? I'm going crazy from sleep deprivation at this point.",8.733241758241759,6.3534464725274775,8.194587912087915,76.83166208791211,62.2967032967033,10.711721611721613,34.10531135531136,8.59863814320734,2.5820234432234432,1089,31,217,11,12,345,168,273,0.108,0.85,0.042,-0.9357,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,9,0,1,1,16,13,1,0,15,1,17,12,2,2,1,44,38,19,0,5,9,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,14,16,8,6,3,2,0,4,6,6,2,1,4,3,25,7,38,32,8,37,0,1,0,1,35,19,0,8,13,146,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032484331066446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449520319636172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694808576489642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978094060779441,0.08124499816603788,0.0,0.19322564042471127,0.11669170393768427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772605963378687,0.0,0.11177286695017248,0.09101559174702553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814110362210962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882642640638961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957311499598668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657011360713204,0.089873213886118,0.3832886629691879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06004825917725728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231022933658777,0.1190850043151734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494290344069078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37565713568237147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058977485918531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536107821771976,0.0,0.0705279851577295,0.1071213113622931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686714906333407,0.0,0.07767128242324924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915350776656412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087100436176764,0.0,0.0,0.1607163650447011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039082572969687,0.0,0.09988159856202504,0.0,0.0,0.10749285614690048,0.0,0.1011010812295666,0.0,0.10621615020495416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768765192671759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375295523608301,0.10573497914541977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747857530776008,0.11261808784619053,0.0,0.0883353823078664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888434649880573,0.0849244396525934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038985584671307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999440559045208,0.12709437506963592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623202232788769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999967353254826,0.0,0.0,0.117964135913893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505689031160442,0.0,0.0,0.06804072171669016
parenting,jkajake,2018/01/28,"Bored parent seeking hobby suggestions My wife and I have a 14 month old and he’s the best. The trouble is, I am getting a little bored when he’s sleeping or playing independently.  Once he’s in bed, wife and I end up on our phones in front of the tv.

Previous hobbies are too disruptive for sleeping, too dangerous for the curious child, or require leaving the house (eg. mountain biking, music, woodworking, home brewing).  Reading, crosswords, puzzles have been great but after a long day of work/parenting, they are too sedentary to keep me engaged for too long. 

Any suggestions?  Bonus points for those that can include a partner. ",4.492344497607653,7.2362584736842095,4.806204146730464,79.06327751196174,73.91228070175438,7.303349282296653,34.047846889952154,8.296473431620573,3.1338526315789483,502,27,81,9,11,158,83,114,0.073,0.7859999999999999,0.141,0.8749,2,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,1,3,5,9,1,0,9,0,8,2,2,1,0,10,10,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,3,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,5,12,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,8,50,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412638937732323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800039069620603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339690162059828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398760490323995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853063583857286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290236588741768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837067363759104,0.0,0.0,0.2396931581356673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464045276262367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995665290408867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208200578551766,0.0,0.367669990303588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580853890670896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21797826261351924,0.22122625050348416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306601866259081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963725091780533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077867595257539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157611304104512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123031059330302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Seasons_of_Wither,2018/01/28,"Need to ditch a family My son is 3.5. He has a friend at daycare and last year we went to the friends birthday party. The kid was nuts and I was just like ok whatever he was probably excited it was his birthday.
We ended up getting together with the parents and the kids at our houses. All the kids do is fight even though they are best friends. I think they play too rough. 
The last time they were over (3 months ago?), the kid did the following:
- spit in my kids face (twice)
- threw a cup of milk on my dog
- sat on top of my kid and basically in a choke hold (my kid is not aggressive)
- threw a soccer ball my kids head (twice)
The list goes on. Basically their kid is an asshole and the parents don’t say anything. We don’t even like the parents.
BUT, the mom keeps inviting us to parties and parades and to come over. I need to ditch her but I don’t know how. HELP!
I’ve been putting her off for 3 months with excuses. ",1.3987251461988317,3.3063721473684216,2.6866666666666674,94.60111111111117,80.15789473684211,6.3274853801169595,23.18713450292397,7.3871296695380915,0.7240994152046785,708,24,164,10,18,228,110,190,0.029,0.821,0.15,0.9538,3,0,0,0,1,0,30,5,0,4,2,6,11,2,0,18,1,17,4,3,1,1,25,29,11,0,2,4,5,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,9,1,13,1,2,2,3,0,6,4,2,0,2,11,2,22,9,21,18,2,26,0,0,0,0,35,12,0,0,10,99,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308306885795956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235459453959793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157554400995083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932553062255628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297249967522398,0.0,0.0,0.1983217030294037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153120443732795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479751181451836,0.0,0.0784378379531933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407887163192402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006303976035529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173232313171914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13344432934992154,0.0,0.0,0.08250868867547807,0.24475543672606065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466939439629698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175832928314681,0.2396680569597813,0.0,0.0,0.22264213423028845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001118679815028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186782142832642,0.0,0.0,0.15092425069454932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119391090316171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619860254588096,0.14750404888700838,0.0,0.08754324843104702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059045905791205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391739824152575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668016513489533
parenting,DenSem,2018/01/28,"What phrase was/is common in your home? We are in a phase where we get ""I'm not going to be your friend anymore!"" from our almost 4 year old when we stand firm on a rule. What phrase was/is common in your home?  ",0.7026086956521738,2.0780446956521783,1.977608695652176,101.366847826087,80.30434782608695,4.6000000000000005,13.673913043478262,3.1291,-1.5848086956521743,160,1,41,0,4,51,33,46,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.593,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,6,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,5,22,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391098232100128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358505607684519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616407410289633,0.0,0.17693104745110605,0.0,0.1924630339958596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.679388658509795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553570107443809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807998959979666
parenting,lemonkissy,2018/01/28,"Do you feed your children soy? I’ve read a few articles that advise against giving babies and little boys soy-based products, such as tofu and soy milk, due to hormone mimicking phytoestrogens. Anecdotally, the hormonal mimicking nature of soy make sense to me because my MIL was told by her doc to eat as much soy as she could when she went through menopause and I also have a friend who was advised to avoid soy because of man boobs.

I have a 1.5 year old and avoid giving him soy, but my vegetarian husband thinks I am overboard. Just wondering if you have any thoughts on the matter.",7.7208108108108116,7.443578333333335,7.3583333333333325,75.25750000000002,62.963963963963955,10.282882882882882,36.51801801801802,9.725611199111238,3.416218018018018,469,20,86,8,6,148,80,111,0.03,0.908,0.062,0.3506,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,2,5,0,8,4,1,1,0,15,16,11,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,3,2,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,0,13,1,13,10,2,7,0,0,0,1,18,2,1,2,4,53,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368889241363788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647056999161377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952882440975433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933786292977949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24783316364112545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18712470353757465,0.0,0.0,0.4646845533805789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427500835306245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167174955032626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804637536576495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25415030940529243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24226759398218164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551932943775863,0.0,0.19228137399843184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314344387536877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245237274873168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626577923011784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559701797237377
parenting,CoffeeBeanMcQueen,2018/01/28,"The difficult, older neighbor kid My family moved to our neighborhood two years ago. A year later, in moved this other family.

There is a park across the street from my house. I take my kids almost every day when oldest gets home, to burn off steam. Sometimes there are lessons or other things going on, but when we are free, that's our spot. It was also the rest of the neighborhood kids spot, until New Family.

Their oldest is twelve. I honestly thought he was one of the elementary kids with some struggles,  by his behavior. He is extremely rude, selfish to the young ones, tries to talk little ones into giving him their toys to keep, or attempts really one-sided ""trades"" with my own nine year old. His mother never says anything to him abojt any of this, or his literal screaming whining when his own little sister touches his stuff. Her children are not expected.to share or even behave reasonably, but she will stare at you if your kids d9nt, ahile her too big for that nonsense children whine and cry!  The reason the kids don't want to share is that her eight year old plahs really rough with other kids things, and then the 12 year old is as described. 

My son handles this really well, but other kid is persistent. Yesterday we were all outside and after being told no by my kid about trading, asked my husband if we had any he could have. I should note this is a privileged kid who wants for nothing, lest anyone wonder. 

Everyday after school, I pull into my dr8veway and here the kid comes, wanting to play and being kind of a bit of a shit when my son doesn't want to. Literally all the other families have largely abandoned the park. One directly told me it was because of other family. The others, it's pretty obvious why after he's been physical with four year olds. 

Maybe this is just a vent. Mom tells me I am the only person she talks to and my kids are the only kids here have to play with. But, she doesn't enforce any behavior standards at all, and I've gently suggested other activities and places (They are new here, I have moved all over the country with my kids so I know how hard finding new things to do can be) and she's disinterested. Completely ignores her childrens atrocious behavior. Is surprised how behind they are in school since coming to the district. You get the picture, I'm h9nestly c9ncenred what neighborhood life will be like as these kids get older.  

How do I handle this kids behavior? When he just walks up and loudly talks over adults, wheedles with youngsters for toys, assumes other kids who don t want to play with him are ""in trouble""?  I seriously hate being pounced on as soon as we roll into our driveway.  I miss my other ne8ghborhood families, and they've been dr8ven away. 

Help.  Advice, experience, anything?",5.30781650071124,6.898881137065637,5.5355821987400935,79.65454582401952,68.71042471042472,8.386994513310304,28.1103434261329,8.841846274778883,2.2522501930501937,2191,75,388,38,38,694,264,518,0.117,0.804,0.079,-0.9527,0,1,0,0,0,0,68,7,3,4,3,22,26,3,1,24,0,43,2,1,5,6,71,66,37,0,9,13,6,3,1,1,3,1,3,3,22,30,28,0,3,8,5,3,8,6,14,1,8,10,7,54,13,60,47,9,64,0,4,1,0,79,21,1,10,36,273,84,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121471153050607,0.0646011999469589,0.0,0.07297594274033592,0.0,0.0,0.058279833797818176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867689154057975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050957400619565885,0.0,0.1199433765640035,0.0,0.06813030138363649,0.0,0.06847048523892565,0.0,0.0,0.044425236713374526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956297725136058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555443053257534,0.07641030951989214,0.0,0.0,0.05818647747469818,0.0,0.0800521317228642,0.04699973541299742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0481346729571515,0.0,0.06140214548864155,0.0,0.0,0.07128784073174695,0.41221256986558746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660839855939203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142259153588418,0.06991040684356417,0.04141776612532667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528361553481654,0.07195110186232821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04884802020358794,0.0,0.07310172759451422,0.0,0.0,0.08409045114850232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477656306019673,0.0,0.07589034134850657,0.04005137798689372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051475289168884185,0.03560409632225358,0.14608410783162845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321489664098824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535284207669988,0.0,0.23237064435485716,0.0,0.0,0.056207353970017915,0.21115562864589046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699275948592726,0.0,0.3058892558520633,0.0,0.24691722844255856,0.110852719315053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363351995051862,0.0761411149148839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414226552169399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400609131131196,0.149859704159508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579548380089756,0.0,0.1475111413339411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480735140289646,0.060284734956877535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207736886128527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761870247838462,0.08342690572932293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479455020367398,0.17572768776556175,0.06369784486725892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524902875193738,0.0,0.0,0.05785631989217616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927448763403166,0.0,0.04947880384663562,0.0,0.07119039008351605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149241683279516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655253137233323,0.0,0.06576029625209905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903216488183445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815829871845113
parenting,Caitlink98,2018/01/28,"Should I let my husband around our daughter? TLDR; I recently left my physically/emotionally abusive husband. He has never been abusive towards our daughter. Conflicted if I should allow contact or not

Okay. So, I recently left my husband. He was emotionally and physically abusive. There would be times where a small fight would escalate to violence, and other times he would literally wake up and get violent. It actually took me a while to even fully realize that it was indeed an abusive marriage. My breaking point was about a week before I left. I found out he was texting other females and confronted him about it. He freaked out and choked me while I was holding my three month old daughter. The very next day, he woke up and was mad for no reason. He told me to get the fuck out and leave, so I'm like fuck it. When I stood up, he threw me on the bed and started punching me repeatedly. My daughter happened to be lying on our bed at the time and she was staring me in my eyes the entire time. Shortly after that incident, he went to the store and I took that as my opportunity to leave with my daughter and never look back. Of course, since then he's been blowing me up daily about how he's changed and is on medication blah blah blah, my gut knows it's all bullshit. He blames it on his schizophrenia but if it was really some uncontrollable impulse, wouldnt he be violent towards everyone not just me? Anyways, it's been about a month now and I've been thinking a lot about his relationship with my daughter. On one hand, I don't want to allow contact because I don't want her around someone with abusive tendencies, at all. I figure even if he never hurt her, I can only imagine the damage that would be done if she witnessed that growing up. Plus I think, he swears he'll never hurt her but he swore he'd never hurt me at one point too. On the other hand, he has never hurt her and what if he never did? I always said I'd never be the kind of woman to keep a father away from his kids, but what do I do in this situation? He has never hurt her, but she was definitely at risk when he was lashing out at me with her so close by. My worry is the psychological damage that will be inflicted if she grows up without a father. My dad and I are very close so she will have a male figure in her life regardless, but it's just a very complicated situation. My mom wasn't involved in my life but my grandma was, and as much as I loved her it just wasn't the same. What would you do in this situation? I feel like neither way is ideal :(",4.374158918005072,5.328165424063116,5.606568610876305,80.66691124260356,70.30177514792899,8.318940546632854,29.673091011552547,8.591530228387361,2.177583420681884,1998,77,397,32,35,668,216,507,0.155,0.753,0.092,-0.974,0,0,0,0,1,0,52,3,1,0,2,25,24,7,2,21,1,51,11,5,4,11,90,77,43,0,18,19,13,3,5,0,11,3,1,2,3,24,29,0,3,10,0,1,6,19,17,0,3,28,7,67,7,59,30,7,80,0,7,3,3,68,41,2,9,33,293,91,0,0.0,0.3889779452456577,0.06407405082670435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054633836248603664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690147816369502,0.0,0.0,0.0616891175232057,0.050487984641347364,0.0,0.040025328271656266,0.0,0.05587126793440835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945888260550963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234484670781432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719230803070601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477158548825717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673475838920114,0.0,0.0,0.06274031946509137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033199338493801425,0.046907050344833716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199208454262711,0.0,0.12140201585953107,0.0686085972389301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580623433729269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.351448442779195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05836104414078371,0.0,0.06837410557246514,0.03608465976220658,0.0,0.0,0.13904753521914134,0.21401721665853105,0.06714113047599839,0.09275427659084366,0.0641556803538581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05513731443196393,0.0,0.0,0.055821228496045205,0.059260123836782336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614488400625095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768994332000994,0.10481732809108596,0.0,0.04826717462710235,0.0,0.4557648229544424,0.0,0.06982946001963697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889843918696299,0.0,0.08898494509419794,0.049936891828141934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413861106493936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04206305874856349,0.0675087438743101,0.1296613671697139,0.07049356594558838,0.0,0.0,0.06245707447490089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05431409002920157,0.22141156985968355,0.0,0.0,0.05563295131866813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04647402348458495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414371621202453,0.0,0.0,0.15314597213088493,0.0,0.0,0.06274031946509137,0.14589990003145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252751209418448,0.07745516762321858,0.05211733315610066,0.05266796734799555,0.0,0.0,0.060866872129776824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329326708263146,0.0,0.0,0.06668025367335093,0.0,0.23321257990154384,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeigeTown,2018/01/28,"Challenges for a new dad dealing with emotional wife Hi all,
I haven't see any (good) articles or resources to help a dad deal with a highly emotional wife when raising a kid.  My son is now a year and a half old, and while of course it has been a challenge raising him, it has been a much bigger stress dealing with my wife and her ups, downs, and demands.  There seem to be plenty of mom support groups but not for dads!

Since my child was born, I constantly have had to deal with accusations of:
1) Not being home enough since I work too much
2) Not doing enough to contribute 
3) I don't care about the kid

Regarding #1
I leave early in the morning for work and I am home by 6:15 pm every evening.  I never work during family time on the weekends; only during baby's naps and when he is asleep.  But she is in a bad mood (for whatever reason) and feels like taking it out on me, she complains I work too much and am not around often enough.  I hardly call this ""too much work"" and feel that my work is in line or less than most dads.

Regarding #2
She sees the nanny arrive in the morning (since I'm out of the house by then) and she also comes home from work at 4pm to relieve the nanny.  So she handles most of the child care.  However, on the weekends, I am the one who gets up early and makes breakfast for everyone, and I am physically and mentally present all day Saturday and Sunday.  I do everything I possibly can to contribute to the household.  Even during the week, when the baby wakes up in the middle of the night, I am the one to get up and feed him and change his diaper and put him back to sleep.  But again, she will accuse me of not doing enough to help out with the baby.  It is all about perception.  

Regarding #3
She will spend hours and hours doing Internet research or shopping on Amazon.com for the perfect utensil set or pair of sneakers, and ask my opinion.  When I say I really don't think it matters which item to get, she gets angry that I don't care about our child.  Of course that isn't true, but again that is her perception.  I really don't think that using a different spoon or fork is going to drastically change his future.  But we have gotten into plenty of arguments about this

The advice I've seen online is to ""deal with it and support her because she is the mom"" which of course I try to do, but there is only so much I can take as a punching bag before I feel at wit's end. 

It has gotten to the point that I have zero extracurricular activities.  I work, and I'm a dad.  That's it.  I don't exercise, I don't meet up with friends, and I don't do any of my hobbies anymore.  The three times I have gone running since my kid was born, I went jogging with the baby.
The reason I have chosen this is because of #1 above - where she accuses me of not being home enough.  Honestly, even going to the barbershop once a month (total of 45 minutes out of the house) has become a tremendous amount of stress for me.  The other week she got angry that I never have any extracurriculars.  She accused me of making her feel guilty when she goes out with her friends because I never do anything outside of the house.  I basically said that she has yelled at me for not being around and not being much of a contributor around the house, so what else am I supposed to do?  She didn't respond so the jury is still out on this one.  

I get yelled at every week, either for the same old things or something new.  I just take it and try to be as agreeable as possible.  

I'm going to stop my rant now but I just wanted to get some stuff off my chest.  I was wondering if there are any other dads to chat with or any online groups to bounce ideas off of.  Women are really good at leaning on each other for support but I think that men generally aren't very good at it at all.
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parenting,SillyMattFace,2018/01/28,"3 year old missing birthday party due to illness- tips on managing disappointment? So my 3-year-old suddenly came down with what might be flu Friday night - big fever, coughs, aches, fairly miserable all round. I type this from the floor of his room, where I’ve ended up for the night because he’s so restless.

That would be sad enough for any little lad, but it also happens to be the birthday party for one of his best friends today.

There’s no way he can go while he’s this sick, and it’s going to be devastating for him because he’s been looking forward for weeks. Any tips on making things a bit less awful and generally managing the fallout?

I’m planning to get him a little toy or something later, and probably getting some ice cream in, but in the short term I’m sure he’s going to be inconsolable as soon as he remembers what he was supposed to do today.

Any advice or just similar stories would be appreciated!

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parenting,reasonablemanzach,2018/01/28,"Lime and Honey to Help with Cough My wife's Mom shared this little nugget when our 3YO daughter had a cough. I didn't perform a double blind study, but it performed better than the cough syrup we gave her. The mixture is:

2.5 ml honey
2.5 ml lime juice
sprinkle of salt.
mix.

We've given it to her every few hours, and definitely before bed when her cough was generally the worst. Listen to those Grandmas, they know a thing or two.",3.5368403361344534,5.351175188235295,3.861008403361346,89.0088235294118,73.58823529411767,5.798319327731093,21.55462184873949,6.18269132825596,0.2152857142857143,341,8,68,2,7,106,66,85,0.063,0.7979999999999999,0.139,0.6032,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,6,0,4,5,0,0,0,8,8,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,5,8,2,6,3,3,4,0,0,1,0,15,1,0,1,3,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30647133501751395,0.0,0.0,0.3185340209557387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034520188599526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414089968701916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35468702112394684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793561628061035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609769421905864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42181738174605776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392756293310961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35182594064675954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nmurja,2018/01/28,"Teaching Kids about money As a parent and business teacher, I spend a lot of time thinking about how to get my kids to make good financial decisions. In the end, I think it's about teaching delayed gratification (don't get into debt), financial literacy (buy assets not liabilities), and setting them up for success (buy a good used car).  I've come up with a set of goals and would love to hear your contributions and thoughts:

1. I’m going to set aside 20 a month for each kid so they can buy an affordable used car when the time comes. When that time does come, I’ll get them the first car and then they can save each month and move to a nicer car with NO PAYMENTS every 10 months until they get a great vehicle, still with no payments.

2. My kids all have a bank account that they contribute to by earning money. We don't do an allowance, but anytime they want to work I will pay them. The rule is that they can spend half on whatever they want (although really discourage dumb things like fidget spinners) and the other half goes in their bank accounts. In the summer they work for me everyday mowing lawns. They started at $7 an hour and when they are able to take responsibility for another task while mowing they get a dollar raise. 

3. When my kids are of age, I’ll work with them to purchase a duplex and they can live in one side while we rent out the other. This lets us pay the mortgage with our payments and the rental payments from our tenant.

4. The money in my kid's account will go toward buying a car and then income generating assets later. 

5. I will help my kids build their credit through secured credit cards and secured loans that are paid monthly. 

6. I will encourage my kids to stay away from marriage until they have a stable income and not have kids until they have a solid foundation of assets. 

7. Each year we set a trip goal and I'm very open about putting money aside each month so we can go. Everything we buy is done with this method. We always save up for well researched products. 

8. I'm very open about not using credit cards, about not having enough money so we need to save, and about buying things with the best utility. ",4.21187796912114,5.749013444180522,4.676329423990499,84.96834211698341,71.32779097387174,7.257749406175772,25.50779394299288,7.756953410329674,1.3054375890736345,1704,52,333,21,32,540,206,421,0.038,0.7929999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.995,9,0,1,0,0,0,46,10,1,20,9,17,19,1,0,28,0,25,1,0,6,1,66,54,33,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,4,9,11,40,0,4,4,0,29,14,8,2,1,4,3,1,43,17,56,45,8,66,0,1,0,1,46,17,1,1,31,212,54,15,0.10703372810932477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906063608014585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223419636530023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056171089358544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232529419447712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27660023805660955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366593675603548,0.10953266517250496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480011381123324,0.11059445305595317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018053225894634,0.0,0.09619501325003152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104283445158627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796035264145405,0.0,0.1824892028332845,0.1795496259145343,0.0,0.11800506310278455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063479055362256,0.0,0.07174245177752313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540666188501978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944923874873076,0.0,0.052291273071778416,0.0,0.09451274286933613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099624807620957,0.0966021184944145,0.0,0.07144584464349409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4271665030776621,0.11375991410132807,0.0,0.07936415317361993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252882422153424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884828847767305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075984596639438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856854698207931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575902365535529,0.11408371287386035,0.08547727352920978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047604302639487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422169059262786,0.13716578227987267,0.0,0.08497282433535601,0.18723668280896388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874839620017153,0.2773283263452889,0.0,0.17662807033802386,0.1262625319743032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623617580427447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337654864874132,0.0,0.0,0.07603368950118042,0.0,0.0,0.06892621166378371
parenting,zoleeblake,2018/01/28,"We have entered a new Co-sleeping level So 3 months ago my girlfriend and I moved into our new apartment and before that our 3 year old boy has been always fine with sleeping in his own bed. At the time we moved he also started staying at his dads a lot more. We have 50/50 custody and do 3 nights on 3 nights off now.
 
Ever since all this our little boy cries and cries hysterically and fights sleep if we put him in his own bed and doesn't settle until he's in our bed and then we move him into his bed once he has fallen asleep, I think he comes back from dads and really misses his mum which is fine but we need him back in his bed for our sanity now.

Last night was a very bad night and he kept waking up in his bed and wanting to come into our bed, so we moved his mattress onto our floor. (in the middle of the night dying from our broken sleep, it was a weak moment)

Does anyone else have co-sleeping issues? or co-sleeping tricks?
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parenting,coffeeMcbean,2018/01/28,"Advice needed: Things to do with 1 year old Hi everyone! I was looking for some ideas of things to do with my one year old girl. My wife and I work somewhat opposite schedules which works out nice for childcare but means that there is a lot of time of myself or my wife alone with the baby. I love spending time with her, we do chores, we watch PBS sometimes, and read no more monkeys jumping on the bed and still have a lot of time.

I would love to go outside and play but it's winter in New England and while it's ok for short periods of time, until spring it is limited. 

I was just wondering if there were some things that people had done that were somewhat safe for a 1-2 year old (that can walk) that also keeps mom and dad from having cabin fever. ",5.139776334776336,4.958590279220783,5.25865800865801,87.83735209235212,68.28571428571429,8.143145743145743,27.500721500721504,7.3871296695380915,1.2438349206349204,589,16,128,5,9,185,98,154,0.047,0.812,0.141,0.9549,0,1,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,5,1,15,3,0,0,0,32,23,13,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,12,13,0,3,3,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,6,2,12,6,21,16,7,25,0,0,2,2,11,4,0,9,18,90,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405744867225414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899150384815338,0.0,0.11504164724298352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472147054190129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746063974655132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175671977226197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239599286226716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786588484511102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080286776259695,0.0,0.0,0.2446025728247739,0.2596714394671307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670143313344911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848249058907558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666745314635788,0.0,0.13893708887550266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4528582389566098,0.0,0.09748059608834173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973168580229487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389499954279295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227733166687254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488364336615935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28671474229035826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355345252175838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600577147709174,0.2094578646237813,0.0,0.0,0.10219122472924834,0.0,0.0,0.2779157778116281
parenting,igoroo,2018/01/28,"Toddler refusing to go BACK to sleep I'm looking for some advice for getting my toddler (2 years old) to go back to sleep. First off, we have been extremely blessed that she has been sleeping through the night for the last year. The handful of times she's woken in the middle of the night it has been illness-related. So I know I'm just paying my dues now.

Anyway, she goes to bed at night no problem (aside from the usual toddler shenanigans). We do a good routine, and I walk out while she's still awake and she falls asleep on her own. 

However, she's recently discovered she can get out of her toddler bed and does so. Despite all of our best efforts, we can not get this child to go back to sleep when she gets up at 3:30 or 4:30 in the morning (well once we were successful when she woke up at 3:30). She's typically in a fabulous mood and just wants to go downstairs, until I tell her she needs to go to bed, then its a complete freak out. She is also completely refusing naps at home, but apparently naps for 2-3 hours at daycare in a playpen (from which she cannot escape!). I try the same nap/bedtime routine as always and its just not happening. I've tried for up to an hour before giving up. 

Are we just up at 3:30 or 4:30 in the morning now and naps are over? Would it be detrimental to convert her toddler bed back to a crib? Does anyone have any tips to get their children to go back to sleep once they've decided it's party time? 

Other information, her little sister arrived in November, and she just turned two in December, so I understand there are major developmental and emotional things going on. I'm just wondering if this is just toddler behaviour and this is my life now, or if anyone has any tips we can try out. 

Further information, so far I have tried:
- Letting her scream in her room for a while (nap time only)
- I bought the ""Gro Clock"" but I think she's too young to understand / doesn't care
- Repeating the whole night time routine (story, song, snuggle)
- Giving up and watching movies on the couch while I mourn my previous sleeping toddler life (not ideal as I'm basically just rewarding unwanted behaviour). 

This ended up longer than I intended. Thanks for reading. ",4.251565420560748,5.698798490654209,5.010362149532714,82.96311331775702,71.10280373831776,8.340654205607477,29.496495327102803,8.841846274778883,2.3242439252336444,1726,69,337,32,32,558,208,428,0.051,0.863,0.086,0.9527,2,0,0,0,0,0,66,7,0,1,6,28,14,0,0,19,0,25,10,8,1,1,58,58,31,1,8,18,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,2,13,20,0,2,8,6,2,9,6,4,1,2,7,5,44,9,65,48,7,82,1,1,2,0,40,35,0,7,38,227,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688524852873899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292041924286103,0.06546811668467338,0.0,0.0,0.1070102839793259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002986115686364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025005652754437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695093992313203,0.0,0.08256987363470725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802195696220443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498910158691554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377069095128638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850448263987362,0.0696871837646544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692522276414098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553543179593373,0.15095417475952774,0.31300985730747205,0.06599310524508291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957652129034785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892251998488803,0.0,0.15496802949892174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043240505848594096,0.06413475394606437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045569680192255,0.11114811296098616,0.0,0.07885809473455885,0.0,0.0,0.06607143819236376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058340270957363376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953436428136137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256149239747465,0.16758340194177168,0.0,0.059839734595943994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528619585762225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870135655360269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768707176935669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4724213184744277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283400123329642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876984443398841,0.07243803249348219,0.0,0.0,0.05227153881618435,0.05041500844077791,0.0,0.0,0.1835159136112973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21367439670235636,0.08558131674714341,0.076858990464131,0.16381744412252144,0.0,0.0,0.08665497533289705,0.0,0.04640754063757888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074282718092467,0.0,0.0,0.08784348231076372,0.0,0.0,0.08532517380346591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589206045811291,0.0,0.0,0.10133476396409982
parenting,uhluhtc666,2018/01/28,"Preparing my daughter for being different Hello everyone.

I've never posted here before, but my wife loves this subreddit, so I figure I'll give it a try. My daughter, who is just about 1 year old, has a condition that I refer to as ""fuzz arm"". We had it diagnosed, but I forget the medical name of it. Essentially, on the upper part of her arm, up the shoulder and just a little on her back, she has some fairly thick black hair, along with some puffiness on those areas. Apparently it's mostly a cosmetic issue, and any cure of it involves skin grafts, so it appears this is something she will live with for all of her life.

Honestly, I don't mind. However, my concern is her self esteem. When she is older and interacting with children, I don't want her to feel ugly or bad about herself because of this. I know kids will tease her, because kids are capable of being really mean, but I want her to be strong enough and confident enough to weather it. 

Long story short, I'm looking for advice on how to prepare her and build her up for the inevitable teasing. Has anyone gone through anything similar and have any advice for how to help her?


Edit: My wife reminded me it is called [congenital nevus](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Congenital_melanocytic_nevus), specifically the medium sized one. The pediatric dermatologist we went to wasn't too concerned about it. He indicated her version of it has a slightly higher risk of melanoma and the like, but no major health impact.  

I'm am completely okay with her shaving it off once she is of an age where that is an option. My understanding is it will still be a bit more puffy than the rest of her arm and will grow back, so it would be a regular maintenance thing for her. 

I appreciate the comments about being able to redirect child cruelty, that kids may not be as mean as they were back in the day, and how to help sate their curiosity. Part of my concern is the different backgrounds my wife and I had in school. Neither of us were popular, but she dealt with a lot worse stuff and struggled with it more. I have no idea if that is because of her own background and unique set of circumstances, or if little girls tend to be meaner or if I was just too oblivious to notice such things when I was a kid, so I was spooked a bit by that thought. ",6.879726027397263,6.915833255707767,7.137777168949771,75.09329589041096,64.61643835616438,10.386995433789956,33.27342465753425,10.078955797065145,3.2012618082191766,1818,69,339,37,25,590,230,438,0.085,0.825,0.09,0.7609,4,0,1,0,0,0,60,3,0,2,1,25,11,2,2,23,1,42,12,6,3,2,64,59,35,0,6,15,5,5,1,0,6,5,0,0,8,27,21,0,0,9,0,0,4,8,5,0,1,11,7,48,6,57,34,18,35,0,0,2,1,53,16,0,14,14,260,75,2,0.10918381362099716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133863180489334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849747466956412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763438611339154,0.0,0.08984897554624538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518668394798255,0.09116392376259093,0.19967231812752226,0.0,0.0929073836236112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384008922286543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148888118922574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447715127263172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041452723400728,0.0,0.0,0.11081927252409084,0.0,0.2281476932876139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22563213228719306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043298128844029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520661677330867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473906296215746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605728821381725,0.0,0.0,0.14636721754827936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325523567863528,0.0,0.11395953457498605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600045685626933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711975650948959,0.05334169624776736,0.21886172973052995,0.0964113077675355,0.09662423924033793,0.09168690479550316,0.0,0.0,0.09282417389044792,0.0985426546136418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378663627300728,0.0,0.10999120550338187,0.0,0.0,0.1102445269506594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420928803311539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243064954729494,0.11457004570087895,0.1162771981321696,0.07398577780889386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364708605331498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456791225519746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699459468169427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049984843006017,0.0,0.0,0.11390252971165025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405503396395145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719433459621002,0.0,0.0,0.1141426283441708,0.12498934459749808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507374847813895,0.0,0.0,0.08667975206474167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412864243490076,0.0,0.0,0.11366420055345652,0.13133468433766685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879888425746142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121448909248466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126763391395232,0.07756104855970547,0.0,0.0,0.0703107962399782
parenting,jbc22,2018/01/28,"Reading programs for babies/toddlers Hey all - I have four kids: 8 year old girl with Down Syndrome, twin 20-month boys, 3 month old boy.

I came across reading programs like ""Your Child Can Read"", Your Baby Can Learn"", and ""Little Champion Reader"".

I'm curious if anyone has experience with it, good or bad. The 8 year old is a sight word reader and her teachers are fine with that, wondering if it can help her as well as the twin 20-month olds.

Tried looking through old threads on this subreddit and didn't see anything. I appreciate your thoughts!",3.812376237623763,6.477440386138617,3.7707821782178255,86.01716336633665,75.83168316831683,6.4162376237623775,29.9019801980198,7.554174236665415,2.0061952475247526,433,20,78,6,10,132,75,101,0.054000000000000006,0.774,0.172,0.887,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,14,8,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,7,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,3,8,4,10,11,1,13,0,0,3,0,12,4,0,4,9,42,12,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943990505897312,0.0,0.1110981009088313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272403207545048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441043400917498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206137679410954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323628722429645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904914040814744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595691399210762,0.1353110727576897,0.0,0.0,0.11337069720674052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232805320894957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7083283043029399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.405126386273945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758197944525254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717936162426916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165993654795128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213862428198864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464078080943491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387835282838232
parenting,fox_91,2018/01/29,"Good child development book for new dad Going to be a Dad later this year. I’m looking for a good book outlining child development that I can read to understand how my kid will perceive the world. 

When I was in college I took a education 101 course and that kinda broke out how young kids perceive the world, and I thought from the 10 years or so, there would be some good books on the subject. 

Not looking for parenting guides so much, but more of the theory of mental growth, so I can have a baseline for more “parenting books”",10.605097087378645,6.969180941747575,9.689393203883494,71.4579733009709,59.970873786407786,13.406796116504855,40.31310679611651,11.20814326018867,4.1553514563106795,419,15,84,8,4,133,67,103,0.018000000000000002,0.889,0.093,0.7577,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,2,0,15,15,10,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,4,5,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,2,6,3,12,8,4,14,0,1,2,0,8,5,0,3,6,54,9,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184825140030858,0.5245828701847115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501370287644752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21009619050114267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325488088147096,0.0,0.0,0.20134877749614333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629789747066727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20853382261169573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550777294577493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23162606857231674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21703233164780475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480963674753932,0.0,0.0,0.26850522809597377
parenting,piquepick,2018/01/29,"Punishment be for kids at after school program? My 8 year old came home really upset.  She goes to her taekwondo studio after school. During homework time some kids were talking, and acting out.  
All the kids had to fill a page, front & back with ""I will not talk during educational time."" 
What do you think...
Does this seem ok to you? 
What advice/alternatives would you give to the coaches at the taekwondo studio?",3.585394736842108,6.383578065789473,4.262368421052631,81.4240789473684,77.55263157894737,6.957894736842108,21.34210526315789,8.07648339933343,1.3244526315789469,327,9,57,6,8,104,59,76,0.084,0.888,0.028,-0.6633,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,1,4,1,6,0,0,0,1,10,10,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,3,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,1,11,4,3,14,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,7,36,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591767390931868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839326176128695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27358491772410176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932847106431285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294656580048748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23994047211459665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25100368650328075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323979666423704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4841731387000064,0.0,0.217761753809665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845251975434795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327185357560638,0.0,0.0,0.27896280403152074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992320286206095,0.0,0.0,0.15403912034120928
parenting,mattmoss,2018/01/29,"""Bad Billy"" vs. ""Billy did a bad thing"" I just had a bit of an argument over my use of the words ""Bad Billy"" (w/my actual child's name instead) when my 2yo child did something wrong. My wife immediately jumped on me to use a phrase such as ""Billy did a bad thing"".

In my mind, it was never an issue that Billy was bad/evil in himself: rather, what he did was bad. To my recollection, ""Bad Billy"" was the phrase used during *my* growing up; it was always explained to me, as well, what was bad, so it was never unclear (to my recollection) that I did a bad thing, rather than think I myself was intrinsically bad.

I don't believe that what I said was wrong – unless I made a habit of never clarifying to my child more specifically what is meant (which, given he is 2yo, may not happen for a bit, and that alone might be reason enough for me to change verbiage).

But I understand my wife's position. My question is whether anyone is familiar with literature/articles that explore this topic. I'm also cool to hear other parent's opinions on this.",5.679117647058824,5.689943774509803,6.7733333333333325,76.78000000000003,67.13725490196079,9.349019607843136,28.764705882352942,9.075114841892004,2.193723529411765,806,24,158,13,12,272,109,204,0.196,0.767,0.036000000000000004,-0.9885,1,1,1,0,0,0,42,0,0,0,0,9,13,0,0,11,1,23,0,0,5,3,33,36,9,0,2,8,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,19,2,0,0,9,0,0,3,5,11,1,0,19,3,22,2,23,14,4,13,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,5,4,116,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.09055399860044484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610706609009513,0.0,0.07420768909053375,0.07721241699816303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648840378501574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7747949071641941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454756986358316,0.0,0.0,0.20261501429357925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816422525335902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588147359912766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205782672849629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458609058585908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685329828654547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780435339147269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844024852653772,0.09369594297689438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21470640406140712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303725656302358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395102234005504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954081507168305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882687727967231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143770205238484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849455302792796,0.05945893744651674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660229626036096,0.0,0.24043383611032504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834333557849433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291233051745944,0.0,0.0
parenting,sergeantmittens,2018/01/29,"Rant: apparently I ""don't love"" my kid because I'm making him learn things Kiddo is having a total meltdown in his room because I'm making him go to a standardized test prep course that all of his friends are doing and is generally recommended by his teacher. He says I clearly don't love him, it's a waste of his time, he hates me, and that today is the worst day of his life. ""It is so unfair."" Yes, it's totally unfair, little dude, that we keep having these arguments.

Just needed to vent. 9 is a much harder age than I thought it was going to be.",5.8263126843657815,4.898776070796462,7.105442477876108,77.66429941002951,67.05309734513274,9.657227138643067,30.33775811209439,8.841846274778883,2.246942182890856,428,13,88,6,6,147,76,113,0.204,0.71,0.086,-0.9377,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,5,1,13,3,0,2,4,16,25,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,9,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,14,3,9,22,5,9,0,0,0,2,16,3,0,0,4,59,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30353901629265634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056474324853068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235323305687574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829902307067753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24580585604272925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212955482597562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758545344227642,0.0,0.24953286503172026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4494094232710105,0.0,0.3323781748968516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830212435248348,0.1846077439192544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19799055469465449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540428581649555,0.0,0.0,0.19765398820145555,0.14517612889483175,0.0,0.23599399310527416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ijustwanttoknowit,2018/01/29,"7-year-old son given a computer to use in English lessons and I have very mixed feelings about it My son has some problems with reading and writing although the school have been dragging their heels with actually helping us get a formal diagnosis for him. He gets a lot of help, approx. 4 hours a week one to one reading, additional speech therapy and some other help (The school haven't actually been particularly up front with exactly the intervention he receives, I must see his teacher about this really). 

Today he told me rather shyly that in his English lessons (although not his writing intervention sessions) he is now using a computer to do his writing so his teacher can understand his work.

From a practical standpoint I totally get it, he's not stupid, he has good ideas but his writing and spelling is holding him back quite severely. Allowing him to use a computer will allow him to participate in class fully and his written ideas will be more fully understood. 

On the other hand he will now not be practicing his writing d fine motor control as often so in the long run I worry this could cause problems, also the way he told me about it I wonder if he feels ashamed or singled out about it, no one else in his class is allowed to used a computer like this so obviously it stands out.

Has anyone else had experience with their child being given computers to use for written work at a young age or know if my worries are unfounded or totally correct?",8.66542542016807,8.119647128676473,8.732731092436975,67.05764705882355,61.16911764705882,11.742016806722688,41.119747899159655,11.062562989136584,4.751251260504201,1177,59,196,27,14,386,152,272,0.091,0.8340000000000001,0.075,-0.8152,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,2,6,13,7,1,1,15,0,23,2,2,10,6,61,44,18,0,7,10,2,3,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,11,12,0,2,10,2,0,3,5,4,0,3,10,5,26,3,30,26,7,24,0,0,1,0,40,10,0,10,10,141,37,14,0.0,0.0,0.20937279003035372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578898307486651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501022728473856,0.1099174577282317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248901131566133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020252231580974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031972336385782,0.0856515608568853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792315106526468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493700759676107,0.0,0.0,0.10848444944442813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681426401013119,0.0,0.0,0.08997844351729514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21571554200159174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056457491844892,0.0,0.0,0.2422042350221457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895636216401391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240988207656967,0.0,0.0,0.09493633199818473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091202649140671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112568647176112,0.0,0.21808001037104494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20529825642995692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410176903665195,0.21461107305358929,0.0,0.06872407670319289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171391025436568,0.08548548613060203,0.0,0.0,0.12119191671481767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226800338291815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168558415714038,0.20501459739653466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167862603513584,0.12904042808703745,0.4632622878996043,0.0,0.08851435233868797,0.0,0.08515109713717718,0.08605074227866316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163367946267476,0.1561971480220022,0.2178889982979294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908255265319223
parenting,person_ator,2018/01/29,"Missing my pre-kid life and asking for help to get just ONE piece of it back M(38) with a 2 month old.  This isn't going to be one of those ""My life as a parent makes me sad now"" posts, even though I do feel that way.  Instead, I am asking for specific help.

I love listening to music, especially to help me get through tough stuff in life.  One thing that has gotten me down is that I can't seem to find songs that deal with the difficulties or joys of parenting.  Instead, they're all about pre-kid life (e.g. going out, dating, falling in love, casual sex, etc).  

So, give me your favorite parenting-relevant songs, positive or negative! ",4.9210600000000015,5.448703616000001,5.607749999999999,82.68762500000003,68.84,9.45,27.625,9.516144504307137,2.17358,492,15,102,10,8,160,86,125,0.102,0.6940000000000001,0.203,0.9441,3,0,0,0,0,0,28,0,1,0,0,9,7,0,0,3,0,7,7,0,1,1,12,22,6,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,9,4,0,0,3,3,0,3,3,3,0,3,1,4,11,4,19,20,3,14,0,2,0,3,13,4,0,3,5,67,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28562745359612474,0.0,0.0,0.11746609336841354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749298544317838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037225138714476,0.1008991871987782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724207299985368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396235366808783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596257792105241,0.1465451574487847,0.17363861353559532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30718348533492496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316069493261886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27575096487152856,0.0,0.10197116224549437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193477453734387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603001297826765,0.0,0.3105505382044279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33925270720582595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630569275825198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907061638688836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487824184639308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148961958966307,0.0,0.15008986322612802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125695977204012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CheezPleez123,2018/01/29,"How to show thanks to my pediatrician? Without getting into details, the nurses and doctors at my kiddo’s pediatrician office, went completely above and beyond, to the point where I ended up crying (happy tears!). They were absolutely amazing and I’m so touched and moved by their care.   

I want to show them my gratitude, and was thinking of baking the entire office a variety of homemade cookies (I love baking, and I’m damn good at it, lol)... but I don’t know if that would be appropriate (I live in NC, if that matters.).    

Thoughts?",4.59659090909091,6.5749498080808095,5.923118686868688,74.63801136363638,71.12121212121212,7.77828282828283,30.556818181818183,8.472884824447931,2.575312121212121,417,18,71,7,8,140,72,99,0.039,0.812,0.149,0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,3,0,4,7,1,0,4,1,5,4,0,1,0,18,16,11,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,7,2,0,3,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,1,11,6,14,10,0,11,0,0,0,1,4,8,1,2,1,49,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25701798733462256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643068706414731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769041056997815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25802021056990143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232729469703807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317042792800694,0.0,0.0,0.2114373732988981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683497225858496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385396086877362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225961317800658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22751702305735086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679270123987045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383022967835808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23208647722336564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152622186776247,0.0,0.20012774393424126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486865704717336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23368580173610345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24300144471307975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790743200769012,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XxtotheMoon,2018/01/29,"My stepson lost his mommy, how can I properly prepare? My stepson (we will call C)  is coming up on 5 years old in a few months. A few months ago his mommy, while cuddling him in bed, overdosed and passed away. He slept with her all night and in the morning when his grandfather went to wake her,  C said, ""My mommy died. She's dead"". 

My husband and C's mother have had their fair share of issues which resulted in her keeping C away from him as much as she possibly could. My husband is a great father to our two daughters (3yo & 11mo) and has always done whatever he could to see C. They live a few hours away and he would play whatever game she wanted to spend even a few hours with him.  It's been an emotional 4 years to watch everything go down.  C's mom out of the blue finally agreed to get husband on the birth certificate and just one day after it was finalized, she passed. 

My husband went straight to every attorney in our county that he could to get advice on how to approach this delicate situation, as he obviously wants to be able to raise C. C's grandparents are fighting to keep him with them. We've been going to court as of lately and the courts are slowly transitioning C to live with us and it's a matter of a few months away before he's here full time. 

Now comes my panic and need for help. I feel like in my head I have it all thought out, but I have no clue. What can I expect? I know therapy will be needed to help provide any coping skills he might need. How can I approach the topic if it's brought up? His sisters will be calling me mom, if he does, should I tell him if he's happy / wants to call me mom he can? Honestly there are so many questions I could ask here, but for the sake of the post being longer than it already is, I just ask of any advice and if anyone has experienced something similar, how did it go? Things to avoid? 

Thank you in advance. 

TL;DR: stepson lost his mommy, will be moving in with us soon. What can I expect?",4.016707407407409,4.721883930000004,4.9672777777777775,85.83646296296297,70.95,8.025925925925927,26.564814814814817,8.167268648758528,1.4931870370370373,1532,47,324,21,27,501,206,400,0.041,0.872,0.087,0.9323,1,1,1,0,2,0,49,5,1,3,4,14,12,1,2,15,0,38,4,3,5,3,59,67,27,2,18,8,11,1,1,0,7,0,1,1,0,13,20,0,3,4,2,1,14,1,5,0,2,14,6,47,7,57,37,9,58,0,2,3,1,60,22,0,6,22,213,60,1,0.08210191454680002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16045808136656495,0.07277839349968086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060150429583064,0.0,0.0683153699501827,0.08895739010964025,0.0,0.1116642345728756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740756761571932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350841431494386,0.0,0.3085498053859109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986268218758734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515057028898976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144705916346173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26220679228812066,0.0,0.0,0.052948942760761133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520882507895185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184793869494338,0.084018763757261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235360324956406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422754023656383,0.0,0.06917440403221757,0.0,0.07378790683265317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04151319488137449,0.05865362415697215,0.0,0.17987726855228192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578972343829115,0.0,0.13998123022892903,0.0,0.0,0.0905176506330672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739901471396616,0.0,0.0,0.08426025072793702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006236537327477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617076953146584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569306803979687,0.0,0.14595190800860086,0.0,0.0,0.04512106508436187,0.0,0.09261453571647264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040110848319675714,0.0,0.14499498944325565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924787660746316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323845494541354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709715687618416,0.0,0.28847031009057617,0.19659889467990352,0.08726134192820721,0.060354353959261725,0.18263258798061127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704708506595137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615214828828427,0.0,0.055634382111160965,0.0,0.0,0.09632890687496187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255757261217412,0.07863093907046383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197293419825882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809772188325909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542459612308955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922859918859752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320606495475597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176069210227153,0.0755884121745953,0.09389069453706853,0.0,0.05454486386545098,0.0,0.0,0.06517974927731088,0.0478742866183462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802016406374478,0.0,0.1975169885153825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527750916087726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221859465753487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05832284447503978,0.0,0.0,0.10574188230226864
parenting,TheRadGasm,2018/01/29,"Debating getting a vasectomy We want to be one-and-done, and our little girl is now six months old and perfect.

I'm just hesitant to sterilize myself, give up the power to make life.

And our baby is irreplaceable, but what if something unspeakable did happen, and we wanted to try again later?

It would be nice to forever banish the worry of a pregnancy we couldn't live with, and to never worry about birth control again.

I just don't want to take this too lightly, and also don't want to drag my feet forever.

Experiences?",6.386270627062707,6.659535960396037,7.448267326732676,71.64421617161717,65.63366336633663,10.693729372937293,31.684818481848183,10.504223727775694,3.3857709570957093,416,15,74,10,6,141,71,101,0.125,0.763,0.113,-0.6498,1,0,1,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,3,8,2,0,0,4,0,9,2,1,2,2,24,19,9,0,7,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,10,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,8,2,12,14,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,8,53,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985808879678505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382273052159568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777026274905847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109714653684237,0.20375569591789144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18782670353628006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002606680075758,0.0,0.21288296262087844,0.1875551733322817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178022316532865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953753556224202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638177925282459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288054459262807,0.0,0.1439293346640337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163517712077631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970013926882526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420725849179036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5011216551518867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.431409809210981,0.0,0.1508845408624098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Heart_gazer,2018/01/29,"Need advice! Trying to motivate my unmotivated 14yo son in school. Correction - LIFE!     Long time lurker, so kinda long to catch everyone up. I’m Mom to my 14yo son, and 16yo step-daughter who lives with us full time. I work full time as a cardiac Sonographer, and my husband is a narcotic detective on our PD. 
My son’s father is active in our son’s life, and had a very rough life growing up. He dropped out of high school, and had no parental support system, but has gotten his GED and works for a Union as a pipe fitter. So he’s experienced struggle first hand. 
    Anyway, Ryan, our boy in discussion, has always had to struggle in school. He flat out doesn’t like it. He’s a good looking kid, and is athletic with ice hockey, and behaviorally is very sweet. He LOVES gaming, and as I understand, he’s VERY good at it. His trouble started in fourth grade when a very trusted teacher expressed concern for ADHD. So, we went through the proper channels with his pediatrician and had Ryan evaluated by a professional mental health psychologist, and was given the diagnosis of adhd- inattentive type. We tried vyvanse, and are now on concerta. 
     I know that medication is not magic, so we’ve tried other avenues as well to help with his school work such as Kumon (learning centers) tutors, and we even went to a psychiatrist to see if there’s any underlying depression or learning disabilities. Nothing! He constantly doesn’t complete assignments, and when asked about the assignment, he has no excuse for not doing it. Even on easy vocab assignments, he looks for the easy ways out and ends up getting bad grades on what I call “gimmies.” 
     We take his electronics/games/phone, and nothing motivates him to do better! I’ve exhausted myself, and get so upset with him. I value education very highly, and this absolutely kills me! Oh, and countless meetings with his teachers/school counselors/ and principals yield nothing. My husband has also taken him down to the “bad parts” of town trying to show him what could happen with no motivation or drive to do well in school and life with no results. Please, if you have any advise, share!!!
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parenting,biomech36,2018/01/29,"Keeping it together? Single dad, mom and I have been separated 2 years, little boy is 3.5.

About a month ago, finally did the court thing and got child support straightened out.  With that, I've had to get a second job in order to maintain my living expenses which means much less time with my son.  The mother and I are absolutely toxic to each other.  We cannot seem to agree on anything.  I won't trash talk, I'm a first time poster here and I'm not sure guidelines and such, but I will at least say she is very much not rationally minded or sympathetic towards my state of living and what I'm having to do to survive.  I want to be with my son as much as possible, there is no argument there.  Seriously the only light in my life.  And now I'm losing more and more time with him.  In the meantime I see stuff on social media that just grinds me.  Pics of her on-off boyfriend playing with my son who's smiling like it were me, pics of him at some faraway new place where I can see the scared look in his eyes, little jabs here and there from her and her friends, text messages from people questioning my character of person.   Then when I do have him for visitation, she can never keep to the schedule.  If it's a few hours or for the weekend, she always goes out of town or to the movies or something, been like this since separation.  So I constantly have to deal with ""just leaving ____, should be (anywhere between 1 hr and 3 hrs) before I get back.  Drop him off at my house at that time.""  It's insane.  She tells me that she wants me to be a part of his life, but she can't meet me halfway on a schedule or on transport.  It's always her way otherwise she goes off the deep end thinking that I am personally attacking her and trying to control her life.  

I'm not in a position to ask for full custody because of my work schedules.  I also have no evidence she is doing anything illegal, malicious or harmful to herself or my son.  On top of that, my state strongly favors mothers in any situation which is why I am paying the max amount of child support they could give me (regardless that she has no personal bills, rent, or car payment and does not pay for insurance).  So right now, and I hate begging but there is no one I know personally who can relate, I just need a little help or advice on what I can do to make the most of this situation.",4.972299339691858,5.217444523404256,5.869838591342628,81.84500000000003,68.65957446808511,8.865737344093912,30.03668378576669,8.74248658614541,2.1652824651504035,1826,65,376,28,29,603,244,470,0.1,0.818,0.08199999999999999,-0.8584,2,0,1,0,1,0,52,1,0,1,7,19,15,2,1,19,0,37,4,1,2,2,64,63,34,0,7,20,8,0,2,1,3,3,1,1,7,23,24,0,3,5,2,5,3,12,6,0,3,6,6,58,9,62,50,15,62,0,1,4,0,54,31,0,14,25,271,81,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109774797194503,0.0826377542641921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455147254070124,0.15514024102319127,0.0,0.0,0.06339574929455445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343138031881373,0.0,0.08715217532041117,0.10605614722033092,0.0,0.07168376453002602,0.0,0.05682869354845834,0.0,0.07932704866425103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074239504550367,0.10455902647356766,0.07443205127770097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611020303732508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158124982914752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256909647751419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212270978750547,0.0,0.07929657760103473,0.0,0.0,0.07202489530311389,0.0,0.0974117419054818,0.08942928344971267,0.0,0.0,0.07456002242743383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203973733643993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062486311294383624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180719816314843,0.10756837401906667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251077458914904,0.1657241569705385,0.0,0.0,0.05123366028403012,0.0,0.0,0.09871111754544604,0.0,0.0,0.19754132897728305,0.0910894090231376,0.28030584450766416,0.16463760370312971,0.0,0.07828496805004236,0.10429419272896906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222797212071629,0.0,0.0,0.10154863798726922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941300100518574,0.1091832225264534,0.07441078029676895,0.0,0.2055918534921252,0.06912466828148835,0.07190035957580472,0.09003665032985471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317122674001381,0.07090131286877162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095287763772123,0.0,0.06463002063786169,0.32559959808511696,0.09739959550138344,0.0,0.0,0.10509643828354777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443259832694372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961307861803986,0.0,0.07413573843425553,0.09333382936521684,0.0,0.14857546140469832,0.08486793960923499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711613897789396,0.20957613249690346,0.0,0.09503047655432396,0.0,0.07176865292802312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671956775326516,0.0,0.21157975687157268,0.08786283898104709,0.0,0.0,0.07493019474823125,0.0814821838544962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619341103827294,0.05973439405902111,0.0,0.0,0.21743945382129065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329320874723039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691984531483409,0.10997226443040532,0.07399714336854814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412046845079157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678684312036663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003341970695135
parenting,LittleJohnStone,2018/01/29,"Reading ""Love You Forever"" and the consequences If you ever want to make my wife cry, just read ""Love You Forever"", and she'll be a mess halfway into it.  I find it to be heavyhanded and too obvious (not to mention stalker-mom climbing a ladder...).  So we disagree on the book, but that's fine, I know this, she knows this, my starting-to-get-good-at-reading daughter (7) did not.  
A couple nights ago, daughter picks this one out of the collection and wife starts reading it to her, and I can hear her voice start to waver almost instantly, and by page 3, my daughter has to take over and wife just cannot contain herself.  So I walk into the reading room to comfort her.  At this point, my daughter starts laughing at the idea of her mother crying at a book, which results in me laughing, which results in my wife simultaneously laughing and crying, all while jabbing me in the stomach to get me to stop - I'm ticklish, so it has the opposite effect.  Anyway, book is done, wife is appalled (not really) that we would dare laugh at her.  I just said ""I'm not laughing **AT** you, I'm laughing **WITH** Daughter!  You understand.""  
Anyway, wife goes to tuck daughter in, and I hid that book so the kids can't find it again (wife knows where it is).",1.697444444444443,4.194035966666668,3.02,89.2427777777778,83.08333333333334,5.3888888888888875,25.555555555555557,6.775458762138228,1.1255138888888894,952,40,186,11,27,308,121,240,0.087,0.765,0.149,0.9587,0,0,0,0,0,0,62,2,5,0,2,13,11,0,0,12,0,14,3,1,5,3,44,32,16,0,3,9,14,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,15,15,0,2,8,8,0,2,6,1,0,1,3,3,29,10,28,25,2,28,0,0,0,2,35,17,0,2,9,128,44,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790627375623993,0.0,0.12189498122981962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346918966104376,0.4011439685741287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245720231883328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011172715704694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22251797475327986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719777034986285,0.0,0.0,0.102101323507722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719852340393726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741831925656225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200698824213025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21973210139962973,0.0,0.08125570031206998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425686697857546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423533075490752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248737815808642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507416837863432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6088145599554649,0.0,0.0779833359408297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157930774785596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584832982012395,0.0,0.0,0.10177170573790986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152578805784264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672519194577508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179949029884818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647347817857293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hive_worker,2018/01/29,"Really worried about sick baby My 6 month old son has had a high (104) fever for 3 days, fast breathing, cough, and generally very tired.

I took him to the doctor this morning. He diagnosed him with double ear infections, possible flu, and did a chest xray for pneumonia.  The xray came back clear, and he prescribed us anti-biotics. 

It's a few hours later now and it seems his condition is a bit worse. He's grunting while breathing and is very tired.   I tend to be a hypochondriac, so I'm trying to weigh that against my current panic and desire to rush him to the hospital.  Given that he just saw a dr and doesn't have pnuemonia.... are there any other serious issues I should be watching out for? Should I be taking him back?",3.986112185686654,5.6188778368794345,4.89136041263701,82.82454545454549,72.04964539007092,8.247840103159254,27.002578981302385,8.841846274778883,2.089618439716312,569,20,109,11,11,185,99,141,0.162,0.8009999999999999,0.037000000000000005,-0.9502,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,9,0,13,17,4,0,1,17,21,9,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,12,1,0,0,6,10,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,6,3,12,0,12,10,3,16,0,0,2,0,11,2,0,1,11,68,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332423471745625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788939479603613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979872563858721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20741611465313775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695576242557144,0.0,0.0,0.1840664564348964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18561943348086546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916062566041422,0.0,0.0,0.17859324293839796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18928230828827874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447518585542778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029634327513315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127751784976545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20444490312163896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617746876816533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509425033730496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363526483611801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168703486271424,0.0,0.0,0.20148654880882974,0.1231247618085157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21814174919596954,0.0,0.0,0.2992655237486674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416975177426032,0.18481116708273146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,3Anklebiters,2018/01/29,"Brothers and constant wrestling I have 3 boys (7, 5, 3) and they are constantly wrestling with each other. We can be doing something like building with Legos and out of nowhere they are rolling on the ground wrestling. Even in the car or at church they are constantly touching each other. 

It is all just playing around and they don't usually hurt each other. We told them that they have to stop when the other person says to stop. That rarely happens though. They all like it. 

I know that boys do this and I can't stop it completely but is there any way to make it so that it isn't as frequent? They are involved in sports and play outside a lot. They get their energy out. We also started wrestling with them in hopes that it would make them stop wrestling with each other but it hasn't helped. 

Do we just wait it out? Does it eventually stop? What are we doing wrong? ",2.576235294117648,4.967396152941177,2.4700000000000024,95.16500000000002,78.64705882352942,5.411764705882354,23.52941176470589,6.522977012572876,0.4840588235294114,686,23,143,6,17,204,91,170,0.081,0.823,0.096,0.3915,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,5,0,12,0,9,7,0,0,4,0,20,0,0,2,2,42,29,14,0,2,5,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,21,23,0,6,1,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,2,20,5,18,26,7,24,1,1,0,0,25,10,0,3,14,107,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604648786794408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868153908527127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918097306293688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214779244991558,0.4704454811963546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698900767360796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584549881744266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581534032784018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832258638725128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726591197212668,0.0,0.0,0.14412954712536075,0.0,0.0,0.1553460316595719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975008586631394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178936564037325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233695369461483,0.0,0.0,0.19372756474557867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670671859755525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115399358022003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117147633370165,0.0,0.0,0.10271143992690647,0.0,0.0,0.6066031255926619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425723854445894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866130088502285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982101938723156,0.0,0.0,0.11518362156418338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308382229355073,0.15865783984273404,0.0,0.0
parenting,tameasp,2018/01/29,"Inter-generational communities So, I have 3 kids right now, and I may soon be fostering 2 more. So I will have 5 kids!! Anyway, we all go to the senior center on Wednesdays and spend the afternoon with the Alzheimer's patients. This is beneficial to all of us in various ways, but it also helps me with my degree; I'm going for an AA in Gerontology. 
To the point! I've interned in an inter-generational community where elders help ""raise"" the kids, it keeps them mentally and physically fit and it gives the kids more people to look up to and model after. In the community, I interned as an assistant facilitaator to the art director, we helped them make team collages using some pretty cool art techniques. In this community, the elders literally babysit the foster kids while their parents work, they all live in the same little neighborhood group. 
I want to make something like this in my neighborhood. Our population is booming lately, I live just outside Portland and between the homeless crisis and the housing crisis, people are starting to notice our little town. In particular, I have seen an influx of parents, young and often single. 
I want to make this thing happen! I don't have any idea where to start, though I have plenty of people to reach out to. Does anyone have any thoughts, ideas, suggestions, warnings, words of encouragement? Send wine if nothing else haha",6.774238614800758,8.274729028225806,7.133282732447821,69.9037476280835,65.16935483870968,9.544971537001896,32.33017077798861,9.773937934552695,3.339193263757116,1101,44,176,23,17,358,151,248,0.066,0.816,0.117,0.8576,2,0,2,0,0,0,38,5,0,4,2,11,4,0,0,17,2,13,1,0,4,3,34,30,16,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,5,8,13,1,1,3,4,1,3,1,0,1,0,2,4,22,4,33,25,9,35,0,0,2,0,25,20,0,4,12,124,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063078847753277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808003995513746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295107965317884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633211003215768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104993962885452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752314121390193,0.1510997826170031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175537750289489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673101156047042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338887242562751,0.0,0.3001343411001928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815852848576487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995620688981806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649452121378133,0.26647111858189104,0.2347676686681547,0.0,0.11163172341848196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662049667657385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396697808318084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755449376716735,0.1513471127933381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952166529509969,0.0,0.0,0.2764806872156342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566632269563566,0.0,0.0,0.13524244848407704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352556428332193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023396778888226,0.0,0.0,0.18818382393929856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883159519972601,0.0,0.1306077331804694,0.10553535567653287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990415632347885,0.11481295653034515,0.0,0.0,0.1568167390545742,0.10551743007668064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677809328772982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bbmommy,2018/01/29,"Talking about death with my 3 y/o Any advice or book recommendations on talking to a (precocious) almost 4 year old?  Our oldest cat should be crossing the rainbow bridge within the next few days (according to the vet), and we haven’t had to explain death yet...",4.400102040816325,6.383284469387758,5.0813775510204096,80.45022959183675,71.65306122448979,7.348979591836735,28.5765306122449,8.07648339933343,2.0062612244897964,205,8,37,3,4,66,43,49,0.157,0.843,0.0,-0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,5,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,7,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,6,22,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34405149879619057,0.0,0.0,0.352560333901266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23942855940649774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22706445149243226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744443366811285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694519526926387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5659820661243726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267299520334825
parenting,newday88,2018/01/29,"Hyundai Santa Fe for 3 kids? I'm looking at smaller 3-row cars like the Santa Fe or Kia Sorento for my family. We're 5 with 3 kids (5, 3 and newborn). 

Does anyone own a car like these? Am curious whether the space is enough with 3 kids and stroller. Plus luggage if we travel, etc. 

Wonder what owners with 3 kids day-to-day experience is like and whether they're happy with it or would upgrade to a minivan if given the chance. 

Appreciate any thoughts!",2.721,4.696629488888892,3.875277777777778,87.31625000000004,76.33333333333333,6.277777777777778,27.91666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.4480000000000002,354,15,71,4,8,115,61,90,0.046,0.75,0.205,0.9127,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,18,9,10,0,3,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,9,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,9,6,3,5,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,5,3,35,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282539597888145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18798429634474528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467685589366232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527010044736746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777911477805101,0.29983582708630724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26298426558179266,0.2534453254041126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861929701012137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940356599484484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22576403689848784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343474062236967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915534490236348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098142169782967,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scrambledaches85,2018/01/29,"Help with 18month old My daughter is 18 months old and I feel like I am setting her up for failure already. Please help!

Since the past few months, she has been rather difficult. She doesn't like playing with toys. I have planned so many Pinterest activities but she doesn't want anything to do with them. I pull out her books but she doesn't want to flip them, or read them with me. So, I am at a loss as to what I can do. 

She will follow me around going mama mama mama. If I am in the middle of something, she will keep whining and/or crying asking to be held. I do hold her when possible, but it's not safe when I am cooking or doing other chores. She won't sit in a carrier so that makes tasks all the more difficult.

I can't take her out because it's deathly cold outside, and I don't have any friends who have kids her age. There are almost no toddler programs near me, so I am at a loss.

I put her in front of the TV far more often than I should, but that's the only thing that keeps her quiet for some time. 

Any suggestions on how I can be an effective parent? Thanks! I feel like she's always whining and crying. ",2.299817813765184,3.7331772094017097,3.534525416104365,91.65755060728745,76.05128205128204,6.293837156995053,23.426900584795323,6.8360192770164,0.5897982905982904,873,26,193,8,19,284,134,234,0.166,0.7509999999999999,0.083,-0.9589,1,0,1,0,0,0,26,0,0,3,4,11,13,0,0,9,0,29,1,0,3,1,36,42,18,1,5,9,2,2,3,1,4,0,1,1,1,9,10,1,5,3,6,0,6,8,6,0,0,2,4,38,7,25,34,5,30,0,4,0,0,27,13,0,6,12,137,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114487573143112,0.0,0.1665663397733318,0.0,0.1255943950522976,0.0,0.0,0.20528911722772075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421098011765888,0.13436884025386284,0.14110877570729802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201178676477753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33160159490754304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263987010877406,0.21566351610162204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661607710081387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578283306816188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20234416072344527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683252920453488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122537285903995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075380136433204,0.15302974135367595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409581646929398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31677284202993505,0.0,0.0,0.11479687590321475,0.0,0.0,0.16760130570953646,0.0,0.14408956563100872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568708841648794,0.0,0.17016247366020493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173665993010654,0.0,0.0,0.15098111518547686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485934996387787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620119304656674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348829724287085,0.0,0.0,0.13896551986697742,0.0,0.0,0.10027800750236476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880144844531493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780569623016556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PhunnDad,2018/01/29,"3 year old and 6 year old exercise daily after seeing me drop 85 pounds. I am a stay at home dad that decided one day that life should be fun and that living a happy and healthy lifestyle is the key to having that fun.  In 2014 I weighed 250 lbs.  In 2017 I decided to take fitness and health to the extreme.  Losing ⅓ of my body weight has given the happiness, energy, and enthusiasm to share my story and help motivate people to get in shape.  


I tried the gym membership, I tried the fad diets, and I tried to just eat healthily, nothing worked for me.  I decided to turn weight loss into a game.  I track all my food before I eat it, I promise myself at least one 5 minute workout a day, and I try and get as close to my daily recommended nutrients as I can.

Because of this my children have been condition to join me in my daily workouts.  I made a video showing this, but can't post it.  However my story has changed my children's lives for the better.  I encourage everyone to spend 5 - 15 minutes a day stretching, running, rolling, or bouncing.  After just a month your kids will be conditioned to include excerside in their daily life.  

Inspiring my children motivates me to push forward. 

#2018RoleModel 
#keepmovingforward
#childrenfirst
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parenting,MountainNerve,2018/01/29,"Grandma wars...my mom jealous of my MIL My wife's parents are local and my parents live a plane ride away. 

My mom basically HATES my MIL now. She says my MIL acts like she is #1 grandma and that she (my mom ) is 'bonus grandma.' They haven't seen each other since my 9-month-old was born, but occasionally everyone talks on the phone. I guess my MIL has said some pretty passive-aggressive stuff to my mom to make her feel left out and like she matters less.

 It probably didn't help that my wife wanted her mom with her during early nursing and diaper changes, but not my mom but she doesn't complain about that, at least to me. She just keeps saying that it's unfair that maternal grandmothers get more access and that paternal grandmothers are given the short end of the stick. So far it hasn't been overly directed at my wife, but all the ire is placed squarely on my MIL.

The worst thing that happened though is that my wife sent a video of her mom playing the piano with our daughter (who had a blast slamming the keys) and my mom called me in tears, telling me that MIL was trying to ""rub it in"" that she has a closer relationship with our daughter. Needless to say, my wife was pretty unamused. 

But I'll admit that I've heard my MIL sometimes seems a little smug about how much more time she gets with the baby than my mom (""Oh, if I were your mom, my heart would just HURT ALL THE TIME not to be with this precious baby!!"" kind of comments) But maybe I'm being overly influenced by my mom. Not sure.

Any advice or commiseration or confirmations that this is normal (?) would be appreciated.",4.914052197802199,5.82137684294872,5.294670329670332,83.56461538461541,69.03205128205127,8.122344322344325,27.357142857142854,8.269060116576782,1.6540181318681322,1253,39,251,17,21,399,170,312,0.081,0.81,0.109,0.8139,2,0,0,0,0,0,43,2,1,1,1,8,13,2,0,14,0,24,1,1,3,3,44,41,18,0,5,14,20,2,2,0,2,0,5,0,0,22,13,0,1,3,2,1,3,7,6,0,0,12,9,42,7,29,24,10,26,0,1,2,0,52,17,0,6,8,165,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577649213090038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0457744576286342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632418251331098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873306201894654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120715426065917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059618438936397865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431948570044263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034034961819158875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033546731447722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415173965356571,0.0,0.05952376551711783,0.0,0.0,0.06645664896683197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976502562657929,0.04511780427777199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205887149604538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982998454709211,0.0,0.07009507352119318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313466801932161,0.0,0.0,0.06577047105120498,0.06746429187683059,0.059437715451342736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04493127228327015,0.0,0.06762393569069934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8671848087292181,0.05372778376642101,0.0,0.049482053561362996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595145303937676,0.0,0.0,0.07063260454920653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948398571356888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032669708830389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369609744909452,0.07257370397008878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226788045498002,0.0,0.0,0.06402911146818492,0.16058757513657934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127830255026431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568116909110635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657327374961625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705611790422683,0.0,0.0,0.06344074870671051,0.0,0.0,0.0541028233402841,0.05883364127469345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044719091469511515,0.0,0.06613368292632077,0.0,0.07850031884228384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04570041894321865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039702352401464136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563300490675204,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loobylou221987,2018/01/29,"ex told my daughter about my new bf my daughter is 10 next week. me and her step dad who had bought her up since she was 3 split up last may. hes not had anything to.do.with her since (they didnt really get on anyway) we have a 2 and half year old son too so he comes for him every other weekend. 
anyway last week when he dropped our son off he went up to go to toilet and left. 2 mins later my daughter came stomping down tge stairs kicking off throwing stuff and screaming asking why i didnt tell her about the new bloke ive been out with. only been seeing him since novemeber and didnt want to introduce the kids early on.  anyway shes still so angry and said she never wants to see him and if he comes when shes here she will tell him to go. 
how do i get her to accept him? he wants to meet the kids and do stuff together but shes being so difficult",2.2985011709601864,3.398750907103828,3.5646877439500377,92.78717213114756,75.44808743169398,6.321467603434818,21.26814988290398,6.5431188927421005,0.16841170960187354,668,15,153,5,14,218,109,183,0.056,0.933,0.01,-0.7959999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,0,14,3,0,0,4,0,20,0,0,1,1,24,37,16,0,4,3,7,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,4,14,0,0,1,1,1,8,5,2,0,1,13,4,28,1,20,21,0,37,0,0,2,0,42,11,0,2,17,96,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933668716924213,0.0,0.1355713786934569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586088788449355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498387193757717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218313070064747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515308608477663,0.0,0.16483307843879044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23641652416785586,0.0,0.0,0.1575614640226092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184609954267237,0.280116767557042,0.15422729242606034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217101385573795,0.0,0.0,0.11029201166186288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929016443793916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379444361507014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311196486903296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598788409691295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581081439579052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320196858125121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535026111165957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857001893364201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566044642957936,0.0,0.2326478824089792,0.0,0.0,0.1344322709122893,0.13085534402653454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338623445063014
parenting,Mildlygifted,2018/01/29,"Having a third kid and looking for guidance I found out yesterday that I'm going to be a father of a third child, and I'm terrified. Parents of three kids--how was it when you had your third? I'm finding myself distracted and I can't think about anything else. I've been told by friends of mine that two was a cinch but when they had a third, their lives ended. We used to hang out with them and their family before then, but after they had their third kid, they disappeared into a life of nothing but work and taking care of the kids. And so now I'm thinking: 50% more sick days. 50% more kids laundry. 50% more mess to clean up, mouths to feed, time taken for bedtime rituals, etc.

Right now, my wife and I can divide and conquer with two, and we even get some free time here and there. I'm afraid of losing that. I want to keep a positive mindset and be happy about this, as this is another person I get the opportunity to bring into the world and raise, and teach to be an awesome person. But the selfish part of me feels like my individuality is on death row. I'd like to hear some experiences going into having a third child, how it went, expectations versus reality. Or, if you have any resources that you could share that will help. I'm not in a great place right now--having trouble sleeping at night, and would love some thoughts or resources that could help me get my head right.

Thank you, r/parenting community.

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parenting,dwdrums36,2018/01/29,"Daughter already flipping over at 3 mos. - what do we do? Our daughter is just 3.5 half months old and can already roll from her back to her tummy and tummy to back. She still has her shoulder under her when she's going back to tummy, but she's 90% of the way there and she's done it completely one or two times. We've read EVERYWHERE that once kiddo starts rolling, they can no longer be swaddled. Up until yesterday, she has been happily sleeping swaddled in a Rock and Play. She generally falls asleep on her own. We also figured this is a good a time as any to transition to the crib. 

We also put her in a Merlin Magic Sleepsuit to help prevent her from rolling and control her startle reflex. All was well initially. After an overnight feeding, she didn’t go right back to sleep and while we watched her on the monitor, she nearly flipped over in the suit - she sort of gets onto her side. While the suit makes it harder for her to flip, it is coming. Needless to say, this surprised us. 

We are concerned about her being able to breath/get her arms under her when she flips. We ended up putting her back in the Rock and Play (in the suit) since she can’t flip over there, but we realize that this isn’t a long-term solution. 

Anyone have any thoughts here? I know that generally once they start flipping its more or less safe to put them in the crib and let them flip if they want, since they have the strength and dexterity to flip themselves back over or at least cry, holding themselves up. But she's small and has started flipping so early that we're afraid she maybe doesn't have the dexterity necessary.

EDIT - Thanks all for your advice here. Waiting for the ped to respond to a message, but I think we'll end up taking her out of the Merlin suit and letting things ""roll"" as is (pun intended). We'll be up a few nights as she gets used to it!",5.263570919458303,5.7307687213114775,5.253245426467097,85.74227726300786,68.07103825136612,8.00456165359943,29.847469707769065,7.7425588080867325,1.732464148253742,1456,51,297,15,23,454,192,366,0.026,0.863,0.111,0.985,0,0,0,0,0,0,45,11,1,6,2,19,10,0,2,20,0,29,6,5,4,2,48,46,30,0,2,9,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,14,20,1,5,5,5,0,7,5,2,1,3,5,2,50,8,53,34,7,60,0,0,1,0,54,27,0,5,25,214,64,2,0.10354290481679447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118092822642497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285243404455353,0.1656064471459388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408254518258382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239960654035438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777086148921833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891930441843067,0.1085627657142064,0.0,0.1161321721839381,0.0,0.0,0.11373701894100588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596034095628636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341656101059706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229068257293738,0.0,0.11769163790912435,0.08684687600048209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940262650793699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690447260641333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21175927084320886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163221245766667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911569298904302,0.0,0.10402276500079098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264695876783162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971680019818272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865086081386467,0.2205396287100827,0.07016335201529884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122676542492636,0.0,0.0,0.10357092499734627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842507496472232,0.0,0.08234147381820581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130352169461446,0.0,0.20723536452867988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198646028852005,0.0,0.08268949753851483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785137834873115,0.0,0.0,0.09532839532731456,0.0,0.0,0.06878930508065148,0.06634611252734962,0.0,0.0822015005698326,0.12075340093731254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114637263349516,0.0,0.12454936559299305,0.0894278249327201,0.0,0.0,0.06107228796510442,0.08218753831806377,0.0,0.0,0.09309750643326588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kalikaiz,2018/01/29,"Tips on transitioning from rock n play to flat sleeping? Our baby boy is now 14 weeks old and we were hoping to start moving him back into the bassinet. 

Some background: he was waking up screaming bloody murder and had insane gas around week 3 or 4 so our doctor recommended we put him in the RNP. It ended up going much better for him for sleep and he is now to the point where at night he will do 4 hours, then 3 hours, then 2 hours. It is way better than up every 45 minutes. Now that he is 14 weeks we were hoping to start easing him towards flat sleeping over a couple of weeks and eventually sleep training for the crib. 

The past three days we have been doing naps in the bassinet but he wakes after 30 minutes, waves his feet around and is generally wide awake. We tried putting him in there last night and he was re-settled twice before finally getting one continuous hour, after which he woke up screaming worse than ever. It seems like he is just really not used to being flat so when he wakes up or stirs he won't slide back to sleep and freaks out if he is really tired. 



Has anyone made this transition? Do I just have to work through it and not sleep this week until it works?",5.675551537070526,5.722733206751058,5.699906570223027,84.34870253164557,67.14345991561181,8.290415913200723,26.21127185051236,7.7094869923839395,1.2313221217600958,938,22,193,9,14,295,143,237,0.09,0.847,0.063,-0.8673,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,0,4,15,10,1,0,7,0,22,12,10,2,1,33,32,18,1,3,8,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,9,17,0,0,1,3,0,5,3,4,0,3,8,2,14,6,34,21,2,57,0,0,0,0,25,19,0,7,33,120,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564289069402425,0.0,0.0,0.1671457284119165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443754365040772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988473647114458,0.0,0.0,0.1660579859430511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387613667723697,0.0,0.060544659987598365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608988265406301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314957664294452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491959136200684,0.07909772232655554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284065645279072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049048284679355625,0.0,0.053354014559203404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864875110377991,0.3698104974235527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652451068656146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045864894494712816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888312713436027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977929684027786,0.06901240418992144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761995358219137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851098536344684,0.0,0.06361533531952898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961882590654878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874669036022839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887501187246409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028351915134855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854645811824841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5636851786249699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289711352813124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790094046286837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06373817488894196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108194529746332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451736068781656,0.3765232871576164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669112447033896,0.0,0.09567146620976366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BoneYardBetty,2018/01/29,"I need advice on how and when to address my daughter's parentage (CW: sex based crimes, domestic abuse) This turned into a damn novel. I'm sorry. It's cathartic to write about, apparently.

Exposition: My daughter will be five in March. I'm so excited! She's growing up into such a wonderful little human, and every day I'm proud to be her mother. 

I co-parent with my fiance, who I've been with for a few years now. He is the only male figure in her life other than our extended family, and he treats her like his own - he's currently in the bathroom getting her ready for school, just like he does every morning. *His* family treats her as if he's her father, his biological daughter calls my daughter her sister, his mother doesn't treat one child differently from the other. If you didn't know prior to meeting us, you'd assume that my partner and I procreated and produced my daughter. She even has blue eyes and freckles just like my partner - recessive genes like woah, I'm Mexican-American - so strangers just assume that they're blood. She calls him Daddy and the adoption paperwork is filled and can be filed once we have a marriage certificate.

Obviously, I **did not*"" procreate with my current partner. My daughter was conceived with an ex-boyfriend of mine that I was with for several years between the ages of 18 to 22. He was much older. There was a history of domestic violence before we conceived (unplanned). I would try to leave, he would threaten to kill himself. He'd hit me and my friends would give me ultimatums to leave him. He'd cheat on me with impunity. When I got pregnant it just got worse.

He graduated to actually beating me. He tried to date rape a mutual friend who was on pain meds but was stopped by her roommate. I visited my mom overnight for Christmas and I came home to my dresser thrown across the room. It was *bad*. 

I managed to leave him before the birth, but we got back together right before labor, then I left him again after I have birth because he tried to change my natural birth to a C-section then called me a c*nt for wanting his help two days after I pushed out a baby. This went on for about seven months. I'd try to break away but would end up trapped back in his grip.

One night, coincidentally the night before we moved into a different house, he got arrested for indecent exposure. He had been going to one of those closed gas stations where they lock it up at night and you go to a window to do your transaction and masturbating while those poor girls were basically stuck in a glass box. It wasn't the first time because the police were actually looking for him. I woke up in the middle of the night to his mom sobbing. I asked her what happened. She told me what he got arrested for. I felt nothing. I rolled my eyes and went back to bed.

The next day I was so sick. Those stomach bugs that make you feel like you're dying. He gets out of jail, helps us move. I'm still sick. We're in the new house, I ask him to watch my baby for a few moments so I could run down to the basement to get my purse so he could get me medication. He agreed.

My daughter fell down the stairs right behind me. She wasn't even a year old yet. Thankfully she was okay but that was the straw. I dealt with the abuse. The cheating. The arrests. No help with the baby. Judgement for my parenting. Disrespect. I **did not** deal with his neglect of my child.

I told him I was done, I was leaving. He had JUST been arrested the night prior for indecent exposure and couldn't handle *not* fucking up for five minutes with a child that he helped bring into this world! He started screaming about how he didn't want to live, and went into the back part of the basement to hang himself, locking the door behind him. I kicked the door down and jumped up on a workout bench to cut him down. When he was down, he slammed his face against the concrete and then ran off, screaming. 

I took my daughter and fell asleep. The fallout was extreme. He didn't kill himself, as he never planned on it. I had four years experience with his craziness, it was probably the fifteenth time something like that had happened. I start looking for a place, find one a few days after he gets out of the psych ward, and plan on leaving when him and his mom were out of town. They found out and sent family members to *keep me there against my will* **even though they gave me two weeks to find a place and the clock wasn't on my side**.

Thankfully, I had three large male friends come help me escape. I escaped! I did it! 

Then a few days later my Ex started to demand over night visits with my less than year old breastfeeding child who he had never dealt with at night, just a few weeks after getting arrested for indecent exposure.

Note: over the months that I lived with these two people, my ex and his mother, I managed to leave the house twice, once because I begged and pleaded to leave my *sleeping* child for a few hours and the next because I hired a babysitter. My ex had his excuses, and his mom would tell me that her vertigo and other health issues were too extreme for her to care for a child. Then suddenly, they find the capacity to do so as soon as I leave?

 When I expressed my discomfort, his mother loudly announced that they had more legal right to my child than I did. I then decided that I wasn't comfortable without a custody agreement in place and asked them to contact me via their attorney. I had already gotten threatening letters from their attorneys before, so I knew they had one in the wings. I contacted my local police department and DCYF office who assigned me a social worker and had my back against my ex and his mother. DCYF would have helped me in court and everything due to my ex's recent criminal history.

They never contacted me like they were supposed to. I found out that he had started to expose himself on our SEVERAL college campuses long before he was arrested, having been arrested for it two or three times by campus police before I found out. Found out that he had been dating a seventeen year old kid for two years during our relationship. Got caught again for exposure. Went to court against him for child support, he tried to follow me into the courthouse bathroom, yelled at me across the courthouse, and tried to follow me out to my car (all of this was witnessed and documented by the sheriff at the court) Demanded the judge go after me for visitation. Showed up dressed like the joker. I didn't want child support, I just wanted to be safe. He was unhinged and jumped at the chance to be free of child support. The judge saw this.

There hasn't been much in the years since. His mom sent me threatening messages about grandparents rights, then sent me much nicer messages about please letting her visit my daughter when she figured out that she didn't have a leg to stand on to sue me for grandparents rights. I blocked her. She had her other son's new girlfriend message me a few years ago to ask to see my daughter. I said no and blocked her, too.

Recently, though. My ex. Ho boy. He got arrested to soliciting a **minor child** for sex and sending her explicit photos of himself. Felonies. In my state, a minor is between the ages of fourteen and sixteen. A *minor child* is under the age of fourteen. I'm not certain how old she was, but it was either twelve or thirteen. She was also a group of police officers from what I hear. ^(Talk about glo up, amirite?)

So, TL;DR: My ex is an abusive, predacious pedophile who has not interacted with my daughter since she was less than a year old, does not pay child support, and is maybe currently in jail?

**End of exposition**

Now, as my daughter grows older, the fact that I will have to sit her down someday to explain at least some of this to her is weighing heavily on my mind. I don't need any advice that says, ""Your daughter deserves to know her dad!""

1) No child deserves that and 2) she has a wonderful *dad* that she has a wonderful relationship with. 

I don't think that she'll feel like there's something ""missing"" in her life, or anything like that. I respect my daughter immensely and don't lie to her. I don't want her finding out via high school blood typing or a DNA test or if she ends up with gout when neither of her parent's family's have a history of it. I want her to be aware.

I also want her to be aware of the fact that *these were not normal circumstances*. I would *never* keep a person's child from them unless absolutely necessary for the child's welfare. *DCYF told me that if I had released my daughter into his care and anything happened, I too would be legally culpable because he was a known predator.* Even before he was arrested, even before I left him for good, I had the terrible thought that he might try to hurt my daughter when she was her most vulnerable. I'm terrified that someday, she'll ask me who this man is on FaceBook messaging her.

When do I even start bringing this up? How do I? Do I just let sleeping dogs lie until she's old enough for a sit down conversation about sexual predators? 

Do I use, ""hey, don't get into any white vans"" as a segue into, ""by the by, your biological father might be the one driving that van""? /s

How do I minimize her potential emotional turmoil associated with the fact that the man who has been Daddy for as long as she can remember isn't her biological father? 

Thanks in advance and sorry about the length!",3.4585110916154913,5.515911756875689,4.228381445739512,85.2412244642186,74.44554455445544,7.198791271532215,27.34791327233989,8.066034848284158,1.7927361156368802,7386,288,1427,118,158,2362,611,1818,0.116,0.8059999999999999,0.078,-0.9973,13,1,2,0,4,0,253,9,7,12,8,70,54,8,2,100,1,137,24,10,8,11,200,246,101,3,25,32,42,4,10,7,15,8,7,8,28,64,88,1,7,27,3,3,41,34,19,0,19,102,20,254,36,247,111,22,259,0,4,9,5,285,98,3,18,125,978,318,23,0.0,0.11394971482942615,0.06256755606934694,0.0,0.0,0.06265300150143953,0.028417296021327074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03537656773865785,0.05127320515613132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04360079216184163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0527616583037982,0.0,0.14984852789349531,0.0,0.030119348392228313,0.12325230608641648,0.026766915070276117,0.09771065425549584,0.0,0.2455093582849617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820376167145677,0.036665570748228966,0.06537010560739885,0.0,0.033912890443654975,0.02761494695270982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051191072493835824,0.0,0.0,0.1033731103487088,0.03305017318899931,0.0,0.0,0.033270924095194145,0.06698713348069922,0.0,0.0,0.056107975024904035,0.032806248753574116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036060698182223065,0.08518105838090594,0.0331242660078158,0.0,0.12704320521317494,0.0,0.0540201403728712,0.0,0.028811473988729942,0.03135866941262034,0.12088492299627225,0.0,0.032418763069845216,0.04580418226460707,0.03078050512915038,0.0,0.11720095483816992,0.02726833926249566,0.0,0.14059884549371074,0.07430330563643688,0.02963690970142792,0.11724210267028455,0.030752752702366718,0.05465754141526162,0.02688855275312882,0.17947679886512716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504579180568721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034075931011874165,0.03613145851061508,0.0,0.12892596279829355,0.033870814565546165,0.03215657657178728,0.0,0.031570464980814415,0.11097115431985524,0.03431852655694342,0.0,0.0,0.033460003228476164,0.0,0.0569888723193113,0.07093438836538345,0.0,0.035236245309687934,0.0,0.0,0.2715565613186501,0.06966176390347918,0.06556252322766462,0.0452867293888232,0.15661816585327246,0.03213032683348998,0.05661523068156565,0.056740269587594636,0.05384093822264361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02139882333815465,0.0,0.03220635828322212,0.0,0.03560897708022051,0.03229485014108652,0.0,0.06801649694499898,0.032369228616528335,0.1877284772996962,0.051176443254036384,0.06814471343896808,0.07069849141327153,0.04754088923208461,0.0988997738526808,0.061923225479056064,0.06818764536813007,0.2105884456952704,0.03140982707070388,0.03076031350511971,0.0,0.2018355434673487,0.06828099885473814,0.13033912644060364,0.02438139339618594,0.03411174813326706,0.0,0.07119276262646447,0.03471546188034568,0.0,0.022224834697939243,0.02799162515243705,0.10048070022104884,0.03518982595621236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03456371901647014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330639904725786,0.06883613698403132,0.03631522606512543,0.1368858848115106,0.030494298852001712,0.0254936408135039,0.0,0.06488838865488833,0.0255459075929418,0.0,0.0,0.0724323542052115,0.0,0.053037069287982436,0.0,0.06416188224677602,0.032678879131425864,0.0,0.04935930491981536,0.0,0.07177214118258765,0.11345334158770075,0.0,0.025601392002652226,0.0268017473671899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551519790622355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025766836769169448,0.028019920914776723,0.08854351605976206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02054133699232611,0.06299323058202409,0.02545030387098809,0.0560794643529484,0.0,0.0,0.0918977746519687,0.0356173835505547,0.15235594258184484,0.034869669210015684,0.15657901018387022,0.0,0.0771231468843469,0.02768763712683995,0.0,0.0,0.13235960331911173,0.0,0.05142964987521673,0.0,0.0,0.11887156768176073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030902564969048505,0.10429591523829633,0.0,0.0,0.032669626142918136,0.18218347029166487,0.0,0.0,0.206441652992043
parenting,Orangebiscuit234,2018/01/29,"Any tips on making diaper changes more comfortable? My wonderful 4 week old son is generally not a fussy baby, but he absolutely hates getting his diaper changed. We got a wipe warmer, but that didn’t do much. We make sure to feed him before changing his diaper so he is not hungry. He calms down as soon as we pick him up from the changing table. 

I hate seeing him so upset. Anyone have any tips to make him more comfortable? First time mommy so need all the help I can get! Thank you! ",2.0628125,4.452846322916667,3.641500000000004,86.05350000000004,80.5625,7.173333333333334,20.016666666666666,8.238735603445708,1.1049116666666672,381,10,76,8,10,126,70,96,0.138,0.667,0.195,0.7031,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,0,1,4,8,2,1,4,0,6,1,0,4,2,16,18,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,1,13,5,8,16,4,8,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,1,5,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918576468095655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126853343369595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713348303977574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6819346581449867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708080740011513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683966778218286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889267586738767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182200767970867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802072753739207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227224018707839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184695822703406,0.11949652338044794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910808168528568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284219623681144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518893913503662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837252041248053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397245376852692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292711276131216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476884249986094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mackinstyle,2018/01/29,"Chat/Slack/IRC for Parents? I'm having a problem with my 1 year old tonight and I feel like I just need a place to throw out some lamentations and get some reassurance that what's happening isn't unheard of and I'm not missing some obvious thing.

Are there any chatrooms/Slack channels/ IRC servers for this kind of thing?",4.382857142857144,6.2103818888888895,4.495428571428572,85.27457142857145,71.38095238095238,8.84952380952381,31.647619047619052,9.3871,2.8460057142857145,261,12,52,6,5,81,49,63,0.095,0.782,0.123,0.165,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,14,10,3,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,7,10,3,6,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,3,4,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081096409542335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473703132738878,0.21862657655179213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988708121805909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706196886156527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31868123269757603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950989946077356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269160007921337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211250713586297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33980805242570833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31973428935592074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29282761630212745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066230186722258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707209962011785
parenting,ScrewWorkn,2018/01/29,"First Kandin style point chart I am trying to start my first point chart with my just turned 3 year old.  He doesn’t seem to “get it” yet.  I don’t feel he understands that his stickers can be used to get a prize.  I’m hoping he will start get it soon.

Issue #2: I think I made my program too general and would like some feedback.  The behavior we are trying to change is the lack of listening to requests.  The most egregious is getting ready in the morning and compliance with getting into the car.  I described to him that he can earn points be listening.  We did a practice and then got him a couple points for small things.  I noticed thought that I give him lots of directives and he’s very compliant to most of then.   Should i just give out 20-30 points a day or refocus to just getting ready in the morning?  If I do focus on more specific things do I just ignore the other times he isn’t compliant for now?",2.6139959016393455,4.489127322404372,3.5077834699453554,90.28495389344265,76.3224043715847,6.9793715846994555,25.09870218579235,7.8658589789855275,1.2919948087431696,712,25,150,11,16,227,106,183,0.028,0.892,0.08,0.8466,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,4,8,4,0,0,11,0,17,0,0,2,0,33,40,8,0,5,6,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,8,10,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,4,3,19,3,20,31,6,25,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,8,14,99,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526544238734245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414814735214336,0.0,0.08246309482528827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465297223158847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752578003563935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008287453948796,0.2453217431186236,0.0,0.0,0.10226624861165934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699994772117007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345904992974536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062468946801320924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870723633730822,0.0,0.12099005186847027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455764701723998,0.1341740250754151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6043742539891261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164045493640288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100865174768824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989718950544982,0.08193147204927591,0.0,0.10151144791745674,0.07455978592319229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362545799858312,0.13908166393040505,0.0,0.13311318156452026,0.0,0.1104353075077659,0.0,0.10550297288058287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083245110589644,0.0,0.0,0.08234161451244723
parenting,rob_gys,2018/01/29,"My daughter has dyslexia, but her current school does not have any special education services. My daughter is in second grade, and she was just tested this year for dyslexia. She and her siblings go to the private Catholic school that's part of our church. When we enrolled our kids at this school, we found it really important that our kids receive a religious education, and we thought that it was beneficial. Our daughter will receive her first communion this year which she is very excited about. She has made many great friends. And she loves her school. But I can't help but feel that we have failed her; she struggles a lot with her reading and writing, and it wasn't until we got her tested at the local public school that we discovered that she has dyslexia; I wish we could have figured this out earlier, but her school doesn't have any funding for special education. Which leads us to wonder if she should continue attending this school. We want to put her into the local public school, where she can receive additional services for her dyslexia, where there are teachers who are trained in learning disabilities. Of course, my daughter isn't too thrilled about the idea of starting at a new school next year. My wife and I would love to keep our children in Catholic school; I never went to Catholic school, but my wife did, and our religion is very important to us, but I feel like we already made a mistake in sending our kids to the Catholic school since our daughter's dyslexia was found relatively late, and I want her to have the best education possible, and I want her to love going to school, which she does currently. I don't know what other options we have; I'd appreciate any advice. ",9.524857142857146,8.325630819047621,8.183492063492062,73.79428571428573,59.85714285714285,11.193650793650797,41.0,10.047579312681364,4.038295238095238,1368,63,245,22,15,416,142,315,0.064,0.768,0.168,0.9906,2,0,0,0,0,0,32,20,0,0,4,8,14,0,1,10,0,28,3,0,3,1,59,50,19,0,9,9,7,2,1,1,3,0,0,0,4,20,24,0,1,10,1,1,10,7,3,0,2,12,2,55,11,29,34,3,37,1,1,0,3,66,13,0,4,15,172,75,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285455980768795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098075238004692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122317524737004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750180509263763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513557571157954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257695520972168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504611218723604,0.0459515369511361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05471212615381176,0.0,0.14105116005931928,0.04969489576038941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311117048926075,0.0,0.05144405315454072,0.07091505814992312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043113575009825635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261153061178824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717220879648587,0.0,0.0,0.03534960233573579,0.0,0.07255783971333547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03142440309860885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05468413010489684,0.17415892175245615,0.12172576473647248,0.0,0.06521225232294497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04960897005427035,0.062122436053903135,0.06840700894175156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965428703234798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251321259558025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466121726713166,0.0,0.0,0.06433924864788007,0.0,0.04120621919632828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8462627982908862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320769258771086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0455273310029199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672431552825253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051064357922137184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474251295966746,0.0,0.0,0.10614451235892867,0.11381606723071558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05962699217303408,0.0,0.0,0.07396694420074511,0.0,0.06975429412739233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04569239124623777,0.0,0.0,0.12426347259185845
parenting,PabloEnriqueEs,2018/01/29,"Why is my almost 1.5 year old so mean? Dude this kid is mean. She is almost a year and a half. We are always really nice and calm with her, and we don't spank or anything. But if you give her one of her stuffed animals, she will try to squeeze it than throw it on the floor! Or if you show her a picture of an animal or another baby or something, she will hit the picture and make a mean growling noise! What is the matter with her, is she turning into a psychopath. I just tell her no no and to be nice, pet the animal don't hit it. But she acts like she thinks it's funny to do it. Is this scary or what? She's so cute but so evil lol. ",0.7537619047619017,2.074626185714287,2.782857142857144,95.8904761904762,80.0,6.095238095238094,19.52380952380952,6.816661863887847,-0.0404047619047625,486,11,121,5,12,164,78,140,0.08199999999999999,0.7959999999999999,0.122,0.4597,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,2,2,0,0,4,6,1,0,10,1,13,0,0,1,0,29,22,18,0,2,11,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,10,0,0,4,1,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,1,19,5,10,17,0,8,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,9,4,84,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881748235802043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127765465471827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20324206920736249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595011906972308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859342875465257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469294461737957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937947409851042,0.0,0.0,0.6333956706507735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338638917614216,0.0,0.13134061444145714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416904849410665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921570245891005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941130710546295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419502396698665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159422977561186,0.2108255857384866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489661960976133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496334688507317
parenting,Skelshy,2018/01/29,"What are good books / stories to read to a toddler? He loves story time and it's part of our bedtime routine. He does not seem to mind he does not understand all the words. We tried traditional stories like Grimm brothers but it's always about the daughter getting married so we would be looking for something more value neutral or modern. Thanks!

Edit: To clarify I am reading the books to him when he is in bed. I am not looking for illustrated books (we have plenty) just kid friendly stories ideally on Kindle.",3.0001988636363635,5.859602031250006,3.9157196969696986,82.53306818181822,80.77083333333334,5.5742424242424224,30.60227272727273,6.980632752743323,2.11295,409,21,68,5,11,131,72,96,0.0,0.794,0.206,0.9671,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,0,1,17,14,5,0,2,6,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,7,6,11,12,3,5,0,0,2,1,14,2,0,2,4,44,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858001574045985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908156635454397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251793340153224,0.0,0.11666294224970995,0.0,0.0,0.18729008810826486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090911450360636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37502479795522575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153335538416572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254653024745157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418078047555936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4467128482111388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20328028929183706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719041677748761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558095330882292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020569157142942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160332445428626,0.0,0.0,0.2324590078723704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586230696203282,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puckducker29,2018/01/29,"Thule Urban Glide Universal Car Seat Adapter Does anyone have experience using the ""universal"" Infant Car Seat Adapter for the Thule Urban Glide?

Most other adapters are brand specific, so the seat locks into the frame. But with the universal adapter, the seat is just sitting in the frame, and a single strap holds it in place. 

I'm worried that this is not secure or stable enough, and that it could pose a safety risk. 

I was wondering if anyone might be able to share some first hand experience with this adapter. ",7.2364516129032275,8.401935602150537,6.061451612903228,79.21217741935487,63.946236559139784,9.210752688172043,30.553763440860216,9.2995712137729,2.5939118279569904,413,14,72,7,6,123,63,93,0.084,0.833,0.083,0.2444,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,9,0,8,1,1,1,0,17,11,6,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,1,2,7,7,4,8,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,6,1,45,8,0,0.2569359097739573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593111243428295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051424168892452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248463461037315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654834780944996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5026652437891714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854955359795775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725683970250323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684433396930265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219101308665213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786360339977419,0.0,0.2609308883413109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,8solutions,2018/01/30,"Safety apps for older children that aren't too overbearing -- just want to know they're still kickin? A lot of the activity monitoring apps I've seen involve constant location monitoring and that kind of stuff -- my kids are older and independent and wouldn't go for that, does anybody know of apps that just let me know that my kid has used their phone recently? Maybe would send me a notification of their last active location were something to go wrong if they're traveling?",13.967241379310346,9.26655974712644,12.267126436781616,58.76551724137933,54.977011494252864,16.19770114942529,46.24137931034482,13.5591,5.87828275862069,386,15,68,10,3,122,58,87,0.035,0.882,0.083,0.5007,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,0,15,15,4,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,3,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,1,6,1,8,10,1,10,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,2,6,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26380661561835994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21363075004939405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774776446833787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542130484280814,0.40248532464904907,0.19899009625876732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496288808505395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075417958914372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452509994648849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24103870270472436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879352325093992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949542671396564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794585931427057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108409966275515,0.0,0.0,0.1439880939805362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734155946090323,0.26690651378216984,0.0,0.0
parenting,XOXfromPNW,2018/01/30,"I just want to loudly complain about restaurants that don’t have changing tables in their gigantic bathrooms. Not talking about bar type restaurants or super fancy places that may not see a lot of kids and the huge koala type table might fuck with their vibe. I mean regular old “let’s pop in for lunch” places that have a kids menu but still no fucking changing table in their bathroom. Or a chair. 

I’m a new mom, and downtown doesn’t have the kind of parking where you can just run to your car. What if i didn’t even own a car? I have a mat to change her on, yea. Where the fuck am I supposed to change her? On the table? On the bench? Next to all the people eating?? Outside in the 30 degree rainy weather?? 

They cost like $200. ",2.0274034749034726,4.085500060810812,2.565289575289576,95.49959459459463,78.79729729729729,4.769111969111969,21.382239382239387,5.288315135182226,-0.13934903474903493,571,16,122,2,14,176,96,148,0.097,0.845,0.059,-0.755,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,2,4,1,8,7,3,0,13,1,12,6,0,0,1,17,19,6,0,2,8,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,4,3,3,0,1,1,1,3,6,4,0,0,1,2,13,3,18,15,3,19,0,0,1,3,13,12,3,6,5,78,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6369462185353211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540256823407372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942100689508176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174765992321028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674967101566198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392303892850678,0.0,0.07353940285621098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797182689536885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396694804658174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968430425856664,0.0,0.17629423821319712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537895396267472,0.1600861143796427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795172142475855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435577912434732,0.0,0.3145352755461979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994973760354713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021026232210096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098710128385715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878413795508416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ekozy,2018/01/30,"1st grader is on the A honor roll but didn't do well on midyear spelling test, is now repeating all spelling words from the beginning of the year I'm not sure the best way to write a second email to my daughter's teacher as I don't want to be ""that parent"", but I'm frustrated with this situation.

My daughter has been doing well in school. She brings home a lot of quizzes and tests, it seems they take them daily and she's consistently scored in the A range, occasionally B. She has an excellent memory and appears to have a solid grasp on the concepts they work on. They recently did ""midyear tests"", I'm not really sure what they consist of but apparently the scores determine the student's course work for the remainder of the year. 

My daughter didn't do well on the midyear test. Each week the kids bring home new spelling words and have a quiz on Friday. This week, she got ""her very first spelling words"" again. Those were her first words, I had to look it up as I take pictures of the list just in case they get lost. I emailed her teacher about this asking if it was a review and her teacher explained that because of her test score, she will be repeating all the spelling words starting from the beginning of the year. 

My daughter is delighted because these words are ""easy"" and she already knows them. We ran through some of the other spelling words she's had and she knows how to spell them.

 I honestly think she may have just had an off day for the midyear test. I can understand the teacher's reasoning for redoing the words if the student hasn't retained them, but I'm pretty sure my daughter has. I don't really know what to ask from her teacher. Should I see if she can retake the test? Its a public school and I don't think that would be an option. ",5.1105622188905535,5.9320800862068985,5.162593703148428,84.99829835082461,68.54022988505747,8.465967016491755,30.36031984007996,8.587818076936951,2.129176511744128,1402,53,284,21,23,438,157,348,0.08199999999999999,0.856,0.062,-0.4094,2,0,0,0,0,0,34,1,0,9,8,9,12,1,0,33,0,35,0,0,2,5,56,64,18,0,6,11,6,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,15,11,0,1,10,0,0,4,8,2,3,3,12,3,40,10,37,45,6,33,0,1,2,0,40,11,0,9,17,194,55,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590337432955668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026451553454555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014693024342946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924240414228536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942406745117518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20950926305305229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434282183656724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849741202315697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470667756848059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20304646305714305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341824616200143,0.0,0.13443701327971927,0.1047010288611858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894278939301328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674781482838594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252917754968785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577910643200952,0.12662270485980634,0.12159960387810907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24927661264805376,0.09813770142539978,0.11211467141634718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843012649880784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716895355500266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482132369687788,0.0,0.1851927894100396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578240733312913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820753736711368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016148527061739,0.07263935208216656,0.0977538214396612,0.1975732357718768,0.0,0.3321903979579949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931498982954042,0.0,0.0,0.08748498632842902,0.0,0.0,0.2379211922229385
parenting,ZeldaKick,2018/01/30,"I have successfully made my child back out of a room slowly I just figured there is a lot of stress with parenting and we forget the fun things of it. I remember when I was a kid, there were times I'd catch my parents being weird and I would just slowly back out. I just had said experience with my own child (5m.)

I was in my room, dancing to Genghis Khan (in a pleasant mood,) he comes storming in. I jump turn to him, continuing my dancing and he just stops everything and just slow reverse walks around the corner of the door. I feel like I've achieved something.

It's the little things in life (literally,) that can make you feel pretty good.",1.9699105545617213,4.235553480620158,3.098604651162791,90.52121645796066,80.08527131782945,6.139773404889684,23.10137149672033,7.321109707123232,0.8310376863446631,505,17,107,7,13,162,82,129,0.062,0.794,0.14300000000000002,0.9081,2,0,1,0,0,0,18,1,1,0,2,11,8,0,1,8,0,9,1,0,2,0,26,16,5,0,1,5,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,3,3,5,11,0,1,4,2,0,6,0,2,0,0,6,3,17,5,15,8,2,24,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,1,8,70,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737237836743657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001147242879617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681033899911056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538713568561815,0.1908929480436531,0.0,0.0,0.1973461683881552,0.1394143238376808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636815336816022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783935100269984,0.09533983410944337,0.19559033995181505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659085099010484,0.0,0.18465448938526027,0.13026332265366142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333792406277422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985364614048204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106552007125607,0.0,0.1856311736249901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502350610854858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315311406628272,0.22354226239974187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592963495066918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379282003522513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122658287959128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386280906533096,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sausagekingofchicago,2018/01/30,"I'm going to be a first time dad and we're expecting our little girl March 8th. My wife wants me to read books about how to raise our daughter. I don't like reading and other things. Any book recommendations? My wife has purchased a few books on how to raise a child for me. It's difficult to take the time to sit quietly and immerse myself in a book. Audiobooks are awesome, though.

The first book was from circa 2000 and made many references to ""searching the web"" and ""cyberspace"". Not that the advice was bad, but the writing and references were so dated, it was really difficult to read. Very similar to a ""For Dummies"" book. I couldn't do it. Plus...no audiobook version.

The second book, which I've recently started, is, ""Oh Boy, You're Having a Girl: A Dad's Survival Guide to Raising Daughters."" by Brian A. Klems. I found an audiobook version of it and was even able to get a(nother) free Audible.com trial. PERFECT.

Here's the problem, though. I don't care for sports. At all. I don't mind watching them, but I can't relate to people who talk about them. I'd rather be in a different room/city/state than people who talk about sports. I live in St. Paul, MN and I'm leaving town for the Superb Owl because I just don't want to deal with it.

Chapter 1 of this book, I seriously felt like all this guy talked about was sports. He's clearly from Ohio because of his talk about the Reds, the Cavs, the Browns, how much he hates the White Sox....it was really distracting for me. I don't even know the point of the chapter.

For the first 10-15 minutes of the second chapter, all he did was complain about the color pink. Jesus. It's a color and it's normally associated with girls. No shit she's going to be dressed in pink and people are going to buy her pink things. Who cares?

So, I'm 1 chapter and 15 minutes into the book and I hate it so much. I'm not the kind of guy who NEEDED to have a boy. I don't think color defines a gender. Sports don't mean anything to me. Are there any informative books out there, preferably in the audio format, that don't pander to the whole ""sports make you a man, pink things make you a woman"" mindset? Am I being too picky? Should I just suck it up and try to ""Where's Waldo"" the advice?",1.447194691907942,3.7567729376392016,2.8803967149220533,91.07236938567188,82.42984409799554,5.612490720118784,21.38089272457313,6.9077264865688965,0.5175021900519674,1735,54,362,21,48,564,218,449,0.112,0.828,0.059,-0.9607,1,0,0,0,0,0,84,2,2,2,6,24,18,4,1,37,0,33,1,1,6,5,54,59,23,0,10,7,6,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,10,22,17,0,0,9,18,3,3,13,11,0,5,12,14,30,8,53,41,9,27,1,0,11,0,40,14,2,0,11,223,52,13,0.10175995542036524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887730142263035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840051836681444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373977280083866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496531225982745,0.12406384864499223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750211299315216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491004577374842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631749491181916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442298166830927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770551529554747,0.0,0.0,0.25967089828939605,0.0,0.11157453874849108,0.0,0.0,0.0531653767198674,0.0,0.17349758317345942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20151670908712446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093377709793744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596733432647516,0.05592461024629077,0.0,0.0,0.10774909981252312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942954824900166,0.10199020863070377,0.08985590496499021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962877302715379,0.13585112084419507,0.1031686229396888,0.0,0.11084642340594028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274854647210203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961055176900967,0.07545371754848755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970315062766057,0.09764142170701497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21164262094555716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619604959659016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737053435512316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053624793284671,0.0,0.13038006630972854,0.0,0.10047567956511662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044551319091522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202622020215067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651082229340653,0.3271631902731483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20281437817851164,0.06520367054645902,0.19995727907399,0.0,0.11867409667499827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908833003152252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396262038646386,0.12004131643292895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361135616932487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lolzzergrush,2018/01/30,Nanny cam with babysitter I have a nest indoor camera placed in a very obvious spot in the living room. We have a baby sitter coming over in a couple weeks. Is it rude to keep it out? Should I tell her about it or should I try and place it in a more discreet place? The baby sitter watches our LO at daycare and this is the first time at our house and don’t want to offended her.,1.7112857142857152,3.365757700000003,3.322142857142861,91.60000000000002,78.25,5.571428571428572,18.92857142857143,6.18269132825596,-0.1236428571428574,296,6,64,2,7,98,54,80,0.07200000000000001,0.911,0.017,-0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,8,0,7,0,0,0,1,13,10,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,8,0,12,8,1,16,0,0,1,0,6,12,0,1,3,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945485236818225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561992871604117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695140429711655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671709544339301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580715100671276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20445779774120065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.725743318021266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237986330357666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501530291498484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720333364141184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19104823955070507,0.1365707863350432,0.0,0.18573081528592364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pudgynubbins,2018/01/30,"29 weeks pregnant and falling into depression about live-in relative My BIL has lived with my husband since he was 14. He moved in a few months before I met my husband. Our discussions on him have always been that when he was 18, he would move on. However, he did not do well with school and had to retake a year. I agreed that he could stay until he graduated. But now, I'm pregnant. 

When we found out, I stated that whether he graduates or not, he needs to leave at the end of this school year. Now that we get closer to birth, I can't stand the thought of him being here for even those 2 months after birth. On top of that, my husband has not relayed to BIL that he will need to leave. BIL has no car, no job, and will probably not meet graduate requirements (yet spends all day playing video games loudly in my basement). He will not be one of those extra pair of hands type relatives when baby comes.

Has anyone else had to live with relatives during pregnancy and newborn stage? Especially a person who you were supporting financially and was unappreciative and unhelpful? How did it go and what did you have to do to get over it?

(My husband is passively supportive of my concerns, yet admits he does not agree its an issue. And does not like confrontation.)",4.933929604628734,6.0909506475409865,5.386335583413694,82.00938765670205,69.1639344262295,9.0198649951784,28.287367405978785,9.325443323948027,2.30485274831244,994,34,195,20,17,318,147,244,0.081,0.867,0.052000000000000005,-0.6569,2,0,0,0,0,0,31,3,2,0,2,12,7,1,0,6,0,27,1,1,1,1,36,40,16,0,4,10,4,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,14,16,0,1,3,3,1,6,10,2,1,1,13,2,18,5,30,20,3,39,0,1,0,0,31,11,0,1,19,130,32,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336791791495325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952666496266056,0.1396005359841535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159356499911582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736420811486785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878166262782332,0.0,0.0,0.08786765556510713,0.0,0.11734882327197027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384602827231019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381638308185033,0.0,0.12067386888196716,0.0,0.0,0.08998946115276289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938714341450846,0.0,0.0,0.14236623957084668,0.0,0.07743196799295067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220584197231906,0.13520352721772064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28853052689308584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656310817199894,0.0,0.3609241977303797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750115062437453,0.2896167189339565,0.0,0.20204995603849016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232408561977454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896509978780233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468966613920927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757772579962692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270442866280103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452205325019021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30922159655400555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816442143511587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928864251606717,0.0,0.12250187466896127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967855323016546,0.0,0.0,0.17547642707282418
parenting,rotoreuter48,2018/01/30,"Are we being unreasonable not letting the grandmother see the baby right now? The grandfather has the flu and just got over the symptoms. They are fully understanding why the grandfather can't see our newbirn, but the grandmother wants to visit to see him. I worry that she can pass the illness on through clothes, because I heard that he is contagious even after symtoms stop (for the first week)

Our doctor said she can visit with a mask on, but I worry about clothing and such.",7.97625,8.24244867045455,7.364909090909091,73.60736363636364,62.29545454545455,10.221818181818184,35.78181818181818,9.888512548439397,3.5497654545454544,385,16,65,7,5,120,63,88,0.197,0.8029999999999999,0.0,-0.9581,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,10,0,9,4,0,0,0,11,17,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,5,10,0,10,12,0,12,0,0,3,0,12,4,0,0,5,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494107925742904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265748286657202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462084436476607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882916022656724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704453978405735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22635908311615136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890431414293227,0.21056729328246415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5291939298945325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850697215810598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300813400634881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304471151452337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056587371631428,0.0,0.1775643739383492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19974604537953988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496105733235394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dumb90901,2018/01/30,"Problems with daughter (7) touching herself I's at my wits end. she touches herself and moans. She has been doing this all school year and the teacher has brought it us 2 times already.  She teacher is very nice about it but still she is old enough to know better. Also it is getting worse that she takes longer to stop the behavior and does it in circle time very close to other children.

She does it at home we tell her it is inappropriate and to go someplace private if she continues(which she does not do but will stop after 2-3 times of us telling her)  I took her to the doctor to make she it was not anything else.  I have not punished her but have had talks about how it is inappropriate. 

It might be time to have her leave the room the first time it happens. I'll be clean it is the place not what she is doing. 

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parenting,IntrudingAlligator,2018/01/30,"Outgoing seven year old has suddenly shut down My 7 y/o daughter R has always been a little tornado. Endlessly moving, singing, dancing, look at me look at me why aren’t you looking. She needs to be the center of attention at all times. Suddenly she’s just totally changed. I was afraid it might be the beginning of puberty but she’s totally undeveloped. 


She’s spending all her time watching tv or sitting quietly in her room doing nothing. She doesn’t sing or dance around anymore, or want to see our family or friends. She’s started hiding when people come over which is 100% not her. 


She doesn’t seem weepy or emotional, the opposite really. Just sullen and flat. We’ve tried talking to her and she just says that nothing is wrong, she’s just “tired” and she doesn’t know why. She had the flu a few months ago, could that still be affecting her? 


She was recently diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder and some physical and social delays so she’s started physical therapy and OT but she seemed to love the extra activity. Could she just be mentally burned out?


My biggest fear is that she’s been traumatized somehow, because this all came on overnight and has just gotten worse over the past few weeks. I’ve been caring for my MIL while she’s in the hospital so I’ve been stretched thin, maybe R feels neglected?



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parenting,fkid123,2018/01/30,"Constipated baby has bad diet - and mom won't help I am the father of an 11 month old boy. He is having trouble to poop - it only happens every 2-3 days and he cries a lot because it comes out hard and big.

He is still on breastmilk and refuses most food, except for rice. I know that rice is not a good choice for constipated people, but my wife refuses to cooperate and gets very angry at me whenever I tell her to stop giving him rice. She says it's necessary for babies to eat rice to gain mass and her family members (and even the paediatrician) agree with her. 

I am out most of the day working so I can't really help directly. My son also refuses to drink water which makes the problem even worse. 

We tried many things - papaya, prune juice, tamarinds, orange, different kinds of baby food. Sometimes he eats those things but in very small amounts, then rejects it. However, he can eat big amounts of rice and junk food (white bread, donuts, sweets).

I feel that my wife doesn't push him enough to eat the healthy stuff and she gets very upset when I bring up the subject. She accuses me of having no experience with babies (true) and tells me to stay out of it, because she is the mom who is taking care of him all day.

My biggest fear is that from what I've read about the subject, he could develop haemorrhoids or anal fissures. My wife isn't concerned, she only thinks about getting him bigger (he is a bit small for his age, but not much).

How to deal with this? How to deal with my wife without causing a major drama? I hate to see him suffering like that to poop and my wife still feeds him rice. ",5.544092644861365,5.685551943217671,5.918103934916158,82.34910675742988,67.42271293375394,9.071160551220323,28.98704964303504,8.841846274778883,2.0293003154574136,1254,39,256,19,19,403,179,317,0.161,0.777,0.063,-0.9856,2,0,1,0,0,0,43,1,0,0,2,12,14,1,2,13,0,18,15,3,4,2,47,33,21,0,2,8,9,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,17,20,12,5,3,3,0,3,8,8,0,0,0,6,34,6,39,31,10,29,0,2,2,0,45,14,0,4,12,155,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860104869482168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206655263474749,0.11983116514370212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730527253962936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021138406281913,0.10096906983123846,0.0,0.08466659275640398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847514056466158,0.0,0.10796498709144718,0.1901632992635119,0.20266166425838728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269026335704573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962850303563647,0.0,0.4022935196912965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155799847239366,0.0,0.12983687586137285,0.0,0.08281205887206769,0.0,0.0,0.09614473267277067,0.09265738010688354,0.11060156575368517,0.04969747389341975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35655149313270673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540546043160992,0.09428701035162353,0.0,0.08243949009414436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691594245185225,0.0,0.08804693337712012,0.0970392619983528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176103514597148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235204919242437,0.05401663159101865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0480186563068981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356112415910892,0.0,0.0,0.06560814562274532,0.09964882137833952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302279350893849,0.07845271416111722,0.0,0.07225314598926172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313694603977618,0.0,0.0,0.14950523055819134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814067148748118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404854605008464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831481152313068,0.0,0.06296594627704448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078162732245378,0.0,0.0,0.07832298061148696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972095562131236,0.0,0.0,0.10476215775403068,0.15698618826953148,0.08217334740435614,0.0,0.0,0.11251648902153012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390050431013867,0.0,0.17181646136932027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059664310200314,0.06297911840206047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673124504786307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243294208731637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474633023352597,0.0,0.0715549899161033,0.0,0.10016408638710032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jr_cameron,2018/01/30,Age gap curiosity I'm simply curious about our two girls' age gap and whether other's experiences show that they'll be close or not. My brother and I are 3.5 years apart and are semi-close. My girls are 2.5 years apart and I feel like it's that gap between being potentially really close and semi-close. What is your experience?,4.39875,6.1420751250000025,5.442625000000002,78.83987500000002,71.1875,8.870000000000003,25.3,9.3871,2.09469125,264,8,51,6,5,87,43,64,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,9,7,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,2,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,5,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6980157675319297,0.0,0.0,0.18040312464219865,0.2548899717244932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743089730770246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22856802498236586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485307891568201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4595205458743353
parenting,notadra6onfly,2018/01/30,"Full time day care - worst mum ever? Due to unforeseen circumstances, I've had to change jobs from a two day a week job, to a full time 5 day a week job.

This means my 3 year old will be in day care more than she isn't. All of our clubs, our midday bath times, our activities, our visits to play centres, all of the fun and time we spend together will now be compressed to weekends, and car journeys. I'm worried the big change is really going to effect her.

I feel the worst mum on the planet. I feel like I'm getting other people to parent my child, a child I brought into this world to love and spend time with and raise myself. The guilt is unbearable.

Does ANYBODY else do this too? Everyone I speak to is telling me it's too much, and I should take an extra day off for her, but it's not an option. Am I wasting all the best years and the best moments of her life, missing all of the important moments, to be sat at work? Is this going to hurt our relationship, and her development?

I'd love to hear any advice...",4.366739050423264,4.527846468899521,5.246507177033493,86.08247331615755,69.95693779904306,8.344644828855357,26.60323886639676,8.139509932561175,1.3974156054471845,788,22,173,10,13,258,122,209,0.086,0.767,0.147,0.9409,4,0,0,0,0,0,29,6,0,0,4,4,14,0,1,15,0,14,3,0,1,5,23,31,8,0,1,2,3,2,1,0,3,1,2,1,2,7,10,0,0,4,4,2,6,2,5,0,1,3,4,21,9,25,22,13,36,0,2,0,2,23,9,0,1,22,109,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755005835471018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180415207750763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25248259321091576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452958212585153,0.0,0.2545105361336562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38789889909805575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527022776698974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049033267778294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881295231627863,0.0,0.1149462224647899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164868080774295,0.08593817006469565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284873227025213,0.0,0.13673188363245173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558025807481885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877738345300754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581201685054693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496732087492763,0.058769649000892175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714034725704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103560282215798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843004689385972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622848250984614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357242591133714,0.0,0.0,0.08339682227695093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706351752244564,0.0,0.0,0.12915090618922365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904462355534897,0.0,0.10514239572546864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507224527271057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175099123307847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929854340292104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757557926558775,0.12216455603179095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549309867014107
parenting,Riverscapegirl,2018/01/30,"Any advice on leaving toddler for the first time, will be out of the country for 3 weeks, and not sure what steps to take to prepare her? Grandma will be staying at my house, so she’s in familiar surroundings. Her dad will have her more than usual during the 3 weeks. But, she’s very attached to me, refuses to even stay with her beloved grandparents.

I have to go for for work- no choice",4.926493506493504,5.568262948051952,4.974441558441558,86.82737662337664,68.87012987012987,8.237922077922079,30.984415584415583,8.238735603445708,2.0509189610389607,305,12,63,4,5,95,57,77,0.054000000000000006,0.902,0.043,0.0356,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,7,9,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,9,1,16,4,1,14,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,5,44,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23920760489611945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664667424491706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168260157321454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208219685191827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912075780497954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824567421753963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591990529989532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5218307387549949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307132694268395,0.0,0.18405288505544665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427400021308144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696034609807691,0.20197877967749506,0.0,0.0,0.3927142538259381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17821126468774826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mayaisme,2018/01/30,"Toddler misbehaving at school My daughter is 4 and she's in preschool (kindergarten?). Today we got the second report from her teacher that she is misbehaving at school. We got a similar report a few months ago and we gave her a stern talking to, and it worked for a while, but now here we are again. Apparently she just walks out of the classroom willy nilly, and refuses to listen to instructions. And now it's enticing other kids to follow her behaviour. She does what she wants when she wants and it's a challenge to get her to settle down and listen. How do we fix this behaviour at home? She is generally quiet unless she's with friends and family then she's loud and chatty. 

Her mischief at home is what I would expect from a normal 4 year old, and there are usually consequences for her actions, but not always. There's a parent teacher meeting this evening and I'm just so embarrassed by this I don't know what I'll say to her teachers? Please help me help my little girl not to be the ""bad"" kid at school :(",3.841765075376884,5.605646125628141,4.737006909547741,83.25314855527637,72.6683417085427,7.7890703517587925,26.50785175879397,8.472884824447931,1.8437962311557787,805,28,155,14,16,261,113,199,0.075,0.8440000000000001,0.08,0.2566,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,0,2,12,4,0,1,10,0,10,0,0,1,0,34,21,19,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,5,2,3,11,18,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,3,5,26,2,24,16,1,24,0,0,0,0,36,9,0,0,12,112,37,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896967806806388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983434064979774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031802033176088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706513544142244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099804245472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842629827027074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983805721400282,0.0,0.08780124751040642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688161757700453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252860271934728,0.0,0.33714360832044354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235805046637942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843419729359432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13413905162723352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16465718002813,0.0,0.0,0.17634434037670926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866040125929129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18447276053407366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364323832641611,0.0,0.5102386779350605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507539124956722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929548514478842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508767249351651,0.0,0.1982451359488627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234526987594622,0.0,0.0,0.11938069731504215,0.0,0.0,0.1082212275333416
parenting,bcbump,2018/01/30,"3 yo waking at night Hello. My 3 yo daughter has recently become scared at bedtime and waking at night. She will be awake for several hours at night. As long as she can see us, she doesn't cry. My concern is that she is awake for so long at night. Normally sleeps 11-12 a night with no nap. Anyone else go through this? Tell me it's a phase....I can perhaps deal with a difficult bedtime and a waking at night, and sleeping on the couch so she can see me.....but I can't sleep on the couch while she is tossing and turning in her bed for 2.5 hours a night. ",0.5942307692307693,2.5732914358974384,2.2313034188034173,96.43105769230768,83.35897435897436,5.267521367521368,20.86111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.09092649572649547,426,13,99,4,12,139,69,117,0.07,0.907,0.023,-0.6182,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,7,0,11,6,6,0,0,7,15,9,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,12,0,17,13,0,23,0,0,2,0,12,9,0,0,13,58,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053910267239163,0.11801928528836042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272113178707902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652385674272454,0.0,0.11874930969126014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962211791719122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654615360648513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22686543284751395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20386785287604947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7566445238354274,0.11285554423083725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372998172977106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531895113838304,0.0,0.1835729498148757,0.0,0.0,0.13012476533775982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458005733461301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067560757415152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252867609550135,0.0,0.0,0.1385517770415525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BC1224,2018/01/30,"Looking for formula recommendations for my 2 month old with constipation issues. Hi everyone, my 2 month old has been struggling with some constipation the past couple of weeks. He still having somewhat regular movements, but what comes out is hard and it's clear he's hurting when he's pooping. He's currently almost exclusively on formula (not by choice, mom's body is not co-operating), namely Rite Aid's store brand that's supposedly equivalent to Enfamil Gentlese.

We had put him on the sensitive stomach brand because he was having issues with getting very gassy. Now my mother I had issues with milk based formula and she had to use soy instead, so that could be playing a role in this as well. Mom is talking to his pediatrician today, but it can't hurt to talk to people who may have gone through the same thing as well. Any advice would be appreciated.",6.414631217838764,7.8904929559748425,6.968027444253862,70.85042881646658,65.98113207547169,9.806975414522583,33.951400800457414,10.018931242160765,3.6114855345911945,696,31,117,16,11,228,113,159,0.043,0.84,0.117,0.918,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,4,0,18,4,3,1,1,23,23,8,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,9,1,0,0,1,1,4,3,3,2,0,6,2,8,3,20,12,3,19,1,2,1,0,18,4,0,4,11,74,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381722458568881,0.0,0.0,0.14158942282082468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961553194542905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619475663790861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570610255831869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180164232313992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289459857934417,0.15645392211643128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351116106025234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387448895035832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266646115983941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027384339288631,0.0,0.0,0.4427475474436178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873849895433515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33120667419832234,0.22572467176102734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967463081449589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349801528729914,0.0980273969457569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214379413324565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292042664509075,0.0,0.0,0.14781963014803515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22730031249610175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393838286063416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402853479702415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221222579160276,0.0,0.11666795299251714,0.0,0.0,0.11342074691711053,0.0,0.2542671187750763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044490545126801,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NeedleandThread,2018/01/30,"New sleeping position for my almost 8 month old. My daughter is almost 8 months old and for the past few weeks she had only been exclusively wanting to sleep on her stomach. She can roll over and crawl, has good arm support, but it still makes me so nervous to see her sleeping on her stomach with her nose and mouth so close to the matress. I just want some advice on either how to make this as safe as possible for her OR how to relax my nerves and trust that she knows what she's doing?",9.309242424242424,5.929230000000004,8.603914141414139,77.45920454545455,62.13131313131314,11.112121212121213,36.87121212121213,8.07648339933343,2.779260606060605,386,12,80,3,4,122,70,99,0.048,0.794,0.159,0.904,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,2,0,6,8,8,4,0,21,13,12,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,14,5,15,11,3,13,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,4,8,56,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272171788496232,0.0,0.0,0.3539866952627083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825265866485696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971392379591808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359689999910363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821663122995428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070987223931625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709466528604057,0.0,0.0,0.13442919096929629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873145355649347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19926329429697448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084985359502789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5306441954328969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115577230064005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005780597770382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20850788142390336,0.0,0.1417811958532501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DCSportsLover,2018/01/30,"I hate hypocritical, abusively competitive parents My daughter participates in competitive dance. I love that she enjoys dancing, but I mostly LOATHE the world of competitive dance. It sexualizes children at a young age, it exposes children to an unduly competitive atmosphere (generated mostly by adults), and worst of all, it is home to some of the worst abusers I have ever observed.

In particular, I cannot stand the abusive parents who put on one face to the public, and another to their children. I am talking about the parents who post publicly on Facebook about how proud they are of Child X, who keeps winning 3-foot tall 1st place dance trophies, and are featured on local television, and are ""dancing for the cure""...but who I have repeatedly witnessed berate their child (who is winning everything in sight) for not trying hard enough, for not being perfect enough, for not smiling enough, for clearly not taking notes from Choreographer X, and worst of all, for being fat, even while the child has maybe 0.7% body fat, and is dying to eat a granola bar.

I shudder to envision the future, in which said child jumps from the balcony of a skyscraper like the girl in Lethal Weapon.",17.440829346092507,10.13266237320574,14.876339712918663,50.44854465709732,52.0622009569378,17.569696969696974,56.36443381180224,13.295006501635747,7.153918022328549,952,45,150,19,6,299,123,209,0.18,0.672,0.14800000000000002,-0.9197,3,0,0,0,1,0,36,0,0,3,4,5,12,2,0,14,0,13,7,4,1,5,21,18,9,2,0,5,4,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,9,10,6,4,1,0,6,0,7,5,5,0,1,1,3,13,7,32,15,11,28,0,0,1,1,27,13,0,3,7,109,23,0,0.0,0.4950626224659437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604443573821496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547057278998232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454789078751326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251549035672964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317321729581214,0.0,0.09199137010195152,0.12598432861324305,0.0,0.0,0.12517349333713818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476514057969855,0.13750753945191735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970652889290874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379609999028007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804387358861955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257032379036557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992280907097385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437793071296977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639530140888693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551517755912488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338919275961958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001219625411912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324846453765207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047192270703324,0.11194585087546703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945601720595356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uabeng,2018/01/30,"My 11 month old daughter bites... Help. My 11 month old daughter is about to drive my wife and I up the walls with this biting thing she's been doing the past month or so.  It's not really a teething bite, but it almost seems malicious/playful/fuck you bite.  As I'm typing this I'm almost thinking it's for attention/boredom, but we really don't know how to discipline her from doing it.  We'll be holding her on the couch watching TV and she'll roll over all cute and stuff making noises then, *CHOMP*.  I'll be sitting on the couch, and she'll be on the floor playing in her toy box, then all of the sudden *CHOMP* on my big toe.  She'll be sitting in my lap on the floor playing with her toys and then she'll bite down on my arm, leg, or whatever the hell else she can get to.  What do we do?    ",1.0058928571428574,2.8358161369047643,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,81.08333333333333,5.628571428571429,20.02380952380953,6.6274283507984215,0.042980952380952786,613,16,142,6,16,200,93,168,0.039,0.898,0.063,0.2144,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,9,0,17,4,4,2,2,25,24,15,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,9,9,0,2,3,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,21,3,21,14,2,28,1,0,1,0,18,15,1,5,10,89,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4201998406724568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175273931377845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939710533264424,0.10961994147678003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406349101905286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530911432476007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005347874202725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5024182026816415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4403321551795744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002926405136556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688263701001909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910081555105773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240188555151622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393920983808867,0.13444130353924655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SolarisReginae,2018/01/30,"Expecting child number two with a 20 month age gap We are due baby number 2 in July when our daughter will be 20 months old, all I seem to be hearing from local mums are horror stories and how awful it is having kids so close together, does anyone have any advice or stories on how to cope ? (we always wanted them close together and I wasn't worried at all until people at playgroups started putting their two cents in)",5.954634146341466,6.344730560975613,6.491365853658537,77.73290243902441,66.5609756097561,8.023414634146341,29.81463414634146,7.554174236665415,2.001958048780488,334,11,58,3,5,109,66,82,0.081,0.866,0.054000000000000006,-0.6384,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,9,0,0,2,2,15,13,8,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,7,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,7,0,10,9,2,17,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,2,8,39,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24202799786973336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20608787132385767,0.0,0.0,0.16842947950741724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318216115101906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21674461772578468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791510176327811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953883070896088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598963141626426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170868485221494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489847196904484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22547667713232966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530770726424827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4838906795851558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608685491044646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25152895133237063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnkAnklebyter,2018/01/30,"Helping son speak, recommendations? I have a wonderful little 1.5 year old boy. He's a total ham and loves being the center of attention. Smiles and waves and babbles non stop. Endless verbal diarrhea. His mother and I always try to speak clear sentences to him, simplified of course. We try to take his babble and give him words small enough to remember and relate to what hes doing. 

One of his favorite activites is reading. I would say out of an average day he probably is read to about 1-2 hours. He just seems to have no interest in trying real words. When he was about a year he struggled out the most adorable ""hello"" ive ever heard, but hasnt mever attempted that one since. and he will say ""mumma, dada, and all gone"". When you speak to him he will stop and listen and consider what youre saying, then just wander off babbling. 

Im not terribly concerned as our pediatrician has said that boys tend to be later speakers than girls, I just didnt know if anyone had any tips or recommendations to help him verbally progress. ",4.6461082910321485,6.301476284263963,5.464994923857869,79.27319458544841,70.42131979695432,8.29901861252115,27.346531302876482,8.841846274778883,2.16444663282572,816,28,149,15,15,266,134,197,0.038,0.82,0.142,0.958,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,2,2,0,2,8,5,0,1,6,0,17,1,0,0,4,36,28,17,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,3,0,10,0,3,4,13,0,2,5,2,0,1,4,2,0,2,6,10,17,3,22,17,4,20,0,0,0,1,38,7,0,5,12,92,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892577563741994,0.0,0.0,0.10536719675063612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834040989182184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992602718232403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009851567423972,0.0,0.0,0.14015567015307226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486363519537056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771132227763936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258857604214845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673660505382465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515314076217342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529453944598168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984296096765472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258760728364266,0.0,0.20998805601200865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705578047865838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309971752700984,0.17636013245682916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552128666124114,0.0,0.14738717475521412,0.36965293532039145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105514944036615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817123354090734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25908015410518714,0.0,0.16198105462920706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649856461918218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31559030628673523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803010031575938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006773390539187,0.0,0.0,0.19955764278407884
parenting,Mark5n,2018/01/30,"What are the cool but safe online games for <10 year old? My 8yo son is very interested in Roblox, Minecraft, Clash of Clans etc. But after trying these things there’s two things I’m concerned about:
 
 * Predatory micro transactions - the slot machine nature of some these games is difficult to manage as a kid. It’s hard to understand why we shouldn’t just buy 1.99 of gems

 * chat - the ability to connect with strangers and freeform chat is a concern. Family members have spoken about some very purile talk all the way to very suspicious predatory behaviour with their kids.

I’m at a bit of a loss to find something cool that is popular that allows him to start experience online fun. Any suggestions?",5.104822443181816,7.518696257812502,4.7122443181818205,82.00377840909094,70.796875,8.717045454545454,28.04261363636364,9.339509955726095,2.6090375000000003,563,21,100,13,11,171,94,128,0.079,0.7390000000000001,0.181,0.9409,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,1,0,1,1,4,8,0,0,8,2,7,0,0,1,1,15,11,4,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,1,2,4,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,3,4,6,19,10,5,8,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,2,4,56,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675246777325876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23559942235888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406757951550364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110953445664856,0.20343851437874874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723872543462986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331581900096576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264474460176808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613459172182382,0.0,0.0,0.15274546199359074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345312757393902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28673794817936377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651510046497582,0.0,0.21080677672721074,0.22465704505496434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5341766875366294,0.0,0.17129324155553208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472735116732207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389691357685342
parenting,ProfessorImprobable,2018/01/30,"Least gross formula recommendation? Looks like we're gonna have to start supplementing again. We used premixed Enfamil Premium before and it's vile compared to breast milk: it stinks on the way in and out (either end) and stains anything it touches. 

2 month old. No dietary issues.",4.953400000000002,7.934991539999999,4.829999999999998,78.245,73.6,7.2,30.0,8.238735603445708,2.5192,227,10,37,4,5,70,44,50,0.153,0.754,0.093,-0.5017,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,7,5,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,5,4,2,9,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,6,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940075735005805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040154242538491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164403481353882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37290315258410617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454692816323894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30002172241607816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28517416596108475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749008926098285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528816776278707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085716131496493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835889310590231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FACE_Ghost,2018/01/30,"Potty Training - 27 month old Hi Reddit,

My 2 year old girl is struggling with potty training. We have been at it for 3 days now, she has only peed in front of us once, she typically doesn't play with her toys but normally takes all her toys from her room to the living room. So for the past 3 days, she has sat on the potty for a long period of time, the longest being 2 hours (us taking shifts); within 5 minutes of being off the toilet she peed in her pants.

She doesn't seem to pee in front of us and always finds ways of getting away to pee in secret.

We are at our wits end. She ""should"" be using her words to communicate that she needs to go, but she only seems to repeat words and very rarely speaks up otherwise. I'm worried there is something deeper at play here, it shouldn't be this hard to get a 2 year old to talk.

What are we doing wrong? We have a potty in her room/while she plays and we have a kid seat for the adult toilet. She is either naked or wearing panties during the day.

EDIT: I talked with the daycare - apparently she has been potty training for months now and is completely comfortable with it at Daycare.",4.29849275362319,4.817541139130434,5.011739130434783,86.44123188405798,70.21739130434783,7.524637681159421,24.02898550724637,7.3011,0.8451681159420295,882,20,186,8,15,285,127,230,0.064,0.903,0.032,-0.6466,1,0,1,0,0,0,27,9,0,0,0,5,6,0,1,12,0,23,3,3,1,1,29,34,8,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,6,13,0,0,4,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,3,2,28,4,37,25,2,39,0,0,0,0,34,16,0,3,19,120,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718437624180653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102590695891854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506004782041964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24922500192623726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409183129306776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773455115151787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460101294036445,0.0,0.07320851739313138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539291348802612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685680007618405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137459806848423,0.11399719705928442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20563776410745774,0.0,0.0,0.09551466987299012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262113230057661,0.0,0.0,0.40550893376871794,0.13718374160756844,0.0,0.19593918236670615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296846693422547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345366259572423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916805913244577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466537794776215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19370565614264346,0.20707319088322626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511304634595159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4648456539125728,0.1112547772012846,0.0,0.10628584287753276,0.0,0.10224732929798323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081785736410212,0.0,0.0,0.14083895067552807,0.0,0.16590523780326644
parenting,imighthaveagirl,2018/01/30,"Update to ""I can't deal with my son anymore"" Original post [here] (https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/7r1v9h/i_cant_deal_with_my_son_anymore/)

Context for old post, since it was removed. 

""He's 15 years old. These past 3 years with him have been horrendous. He's had me reported to social services twice, doesn't trust me at all. He talks bad behind my back as well, and even told his peers i am his abuser.

He is apparently suicidal as well, but i think it's a plea for attention. He's been talking with a Councillor as well who is a bad influence on him! (She is planting the idea i am abusive, and even took him to a walk in once)

Plus, he is insisting that he is a girl but doesn't understand that he needs to live life a bit more before he can make that choice for himself. And where he got that idea he says he has a trans friend who also changed into a girl that helped him sort out his feelings a bit. But he is very pushy and annoyed that we aren't referring to his trans friend as a girl even through ""she"" is born male. I think ""she"" planted this into my son's head.

He no longer wishes to open up to me anymore! In fact over facebook this is what my son said

""Mom, while i love you i do not trust you. I never have. You've done a lot to hurt and abuse me and at best placed salt in the wound. You aren't a very healthy person, and you are so blinded by narcissism you will never see that you are in the wrong. The way things are going right now, we will not have a relationship, certainly if you do not support me while i deal with what is wrong with my sex and the mental consequences if i do not start HRT. Not supporting me at my lowest doesn't help when you have already done so much to alienate family and friends from me. Plus, it would be nice to have my door back as well but you took it away from me permanently and ""lost it"" after i called you out after you attempted to play the victim when your friend died by telling how much you were abused when he died. Unless you get some therapy, and treat me better we are on a path to no relationship.""

Fuck, i love HIM but i can't put up with all this. He says i am abusive, is telling us he is a girl when he is not and trying to start hrt without a doctor involved (DIY) Telling me he cannot trust me, and that he will not move up north with us instead he will move out at 16, He's such a problem, it's been this way for 3.5 years.

Reddit, what can i do for my son?""






Now, since the old post above i found out my child is planning to do DIY hrt. Given the circumstances, i don't blame (her?)

But i think he still should live his life more, as he just got off a major seizure medication and i feel he's very confused.

Since then he was told me just how bad he has it. He(She?) told me they are willing to wreck his liver, become infertile and risk his life to do this and will stop at nothing. Because of this i am taking him to the doctor. I don't know what our doctor can do but let's see.

Additionally, i started to realize my own problems too and how unwell my traits affect the relationship. I honestly think i might have given my son some form of PTSD because of the sheer abuse i am guilty of. It's like a thick shell finally started to hatch through this. Right now i gave his door back, and am trying to listen to them instead of what i would normally do. And holy shit i need help

Family therapy is in order.

I guess for him seeing his trans stuff also in turn made me see my unhealty stuff. Plus i'm getting a grasp of what i can do.

Jennifer, i am deeply sorry for the world of abuse i put you through because i had my own problems, leading to my emotional narcissistic mask.  

I was a horrid person, but now the fear of losing my son has forced me to finally confront reality and helped me do better as a parent.",3.765013433122241,4.658893069948192,4.521565918249858,88.10845615045099,71.66839378238342,7.687430435616964,25.177125311840328,7.921354282810032,1.1173355593935907,2958,84,652,38,54,951,303,772,0.206,0.7070000000000001,0.086,-0.9988,4,0,0,0,5,0,103,6,15,2,8,34,43,5,3,35,0,82,16,3,9,6,110,129,55,3,12,21,8,3,1,4,10,9,4,2,8,35,41,0,1,15,1,0,10,22,19,4,1,25,13,110,24,92,92,16,85,0,3,5,4,120,33,2,9,37,446,145,6,0.0,0.42236712318843816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056197341707479184,0.08144989790652069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100843938497253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047846001514585734,0.11747525106237362,0.12756151052627102,0.09313078192699394,0.0562429996775934,0.04333368473306396,0.0,0.0534429669940913,0.0900785898300234,0.11119448961957668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200043140024602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053872221483708266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500350909757457,0.0,0.0,0.10570485549156693,0.0,0.0,0.15637262629535031,0.0,0.10422853822139123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728411509356748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090705333146968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601569286045092,0.057305127530267175,0.05149872987760395,0.0,0.0,0.11157236742156136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583696970164932,0.15737906091562995,0.047079624963867035,0.05321274122899576,0.0,0.0289420250761791,0.0,0.08145923893464192,0.0,0.056099966126945525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226405609176686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365366370920175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054516593527818534,0.11497694405507093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027987216464660628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052074575864003735,0.1079101493852718,0.024879532262925292,0.0,0.08993595670342472,0.0,0.0,0.056972391426472674,0.05559098742532263,0.04329487420796914,0.0919241541681203,0.048186756029812886,0.03399303731656702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130188836231421,0.05132073086949697,0.05402370219747097,0.0,0.059643103112614324,0.0,0.10825108232597656,0.07487191916611177,0.07552093852036977,0.07855347114296367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049895987590008746,0.0488642047427177,0.0,0.16031262683172454,0.05423378905939751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056546525909111064,0.0,0.048613967067219495,0.0,0.0889320261513224,0.053206106059092144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631709879654328,0.0,0.0,0.1461859212040151,0.05952895772974433,0.1023879967494971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16402416172021286,0.0,0.08697986645297938,0.048441627954858985,0.0809956949327595,0.0,0.0,0.16232350281505326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05227409497735424,0.1263778185588226,0.0,0.0,0.051911936475379034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700671095217363,0.14418077530098505,0.0,0.04066901529816855,0.042575836250660665,0.0,0.0,0.11659458360645955,0.0557040194491548,0.1155788679215401,0.0,0.0,0.038289492514733715,0.08186366418218226,0.1335328866748895,0.0,0.11647505160231653,0.0,0.033832510584217115,0.13052351970536627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459839372328418,0.11315977790177842,0.06914988014252209,0.05539210955393725,0.0,0.05301503971065966,0.12251374613370515,0.0,0.0,0.12605613278379255,0.0,0.08084427533543295,0.0,0.0,0.1831518645565512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05856158886638967,0.049090177883635504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235175278357503,0.1113576558384536,0.0,0.0983826825843238
parenting,JIM-STEELE,2018/01/30,"Therapy I'd like to have my 10 year old son receive therapy or counseling. I have joint custody with final decision making power. I'm expecting my request to be met with ""you just want to tell them your side and brainwash him"". Nope, just want my kid better equipped to cope with what he will be dealing with when he finds out about some family history. Is speaking to his family Doctor my first action to take or are there other options I'm unaware of? Ontario, Canada.",3.767666666666667,6.003263044444449,4.924166666666668,79.79625000000003,74.1111111111111,8.055555555555555,29.027777777777786,8.841846274778883,2.670111111111112,374,16,65,8,8,123,67,90,0.02,0.892,0.08800000000000001,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,1,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,18,14,4,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,10,2,13,10,1,9,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,4,6,42,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101219920130475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343174590919568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326324569528693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.428521929931088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489759996001729,0.2077313618281728,0.19332570310923947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103836116234474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517123036990016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384939176630141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088755743649986,0.0,0.19865422898580734,0.0,0.5198328774650403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26811327785785666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463619670106292
parenting,EngineerinLA,2018/01/30,"3 y/o Son Decided to High Five Pee So we’ve been trying to get the reluctant 3 year old interested in potty training. We were way ahead with his brother at this point, but we’re in no hurry to recreate the accidents. 

So whenever someone is using the toilet, we try to point it out to the 3 year old and ask him if he is interested in using the potty too. 

Tonight when getting the kids ready for bed I need to pee. While doing so, the wee one says “Daddy’s going pee pee in the potty?” (Not sure why it’s a question for him, but that’s how he says it)

He then decides to smack my pee stream, high five style. That’s not even the funniest part. The horrified look on his face as his mom was washing his hands sealed it for me. His face was like “what the hell did you do to me?!”",2.51518181818182,3.3573992606060656,4.21856060606061,89.30784090909094,74.57575757575758,7.4393939393939394,24.053030303030305,7.793537801064563,0.9635757575757572,598,17,138,8,12,202,102,165,0.128,0.79,0.083,-0.8775,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,2,1,0,1,7,5,1,0,12,0,9,9,8,3,1,18,17,12,0,2,5,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,8,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,5,4,14,4,21,12,1,22,1,0,1,0,21,11,1,2,10,84,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276924836323545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149979433281573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193046763797,0.0,0.09895066547765012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679133259288957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506129988171977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462084607848108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20391540428187727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291002807235811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36539809193760703,0.0,0.11798137059520335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18854404899001026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32918025541786583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950429288976709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769183529254049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752274870506518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409651517505627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364183791490804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007500939410549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820033020224934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710709883442076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242421274385929
parenting,frieswithicecream,2018/01/30,"5 year old keeps coming out of bed saying that she will not go to bed. After we read her a book and tuck her into bed and we leave her bedroom. Around 2 minutes later she comes out saying that she will not go to bed. We carry her back to bed and she comes right out again. We tell her go back to bed and she says, “I will not!” We repeat this a couple more times. We tell her that she can’t have any screen time the next day. She doesn’t seem to care. She has done this about 5 nights now. I got really angry and yelled at her tonight and now I feel bad. She’s being so defiant. How would you guys handle this situation? ",-0.4169078947368412,1.6835012330827084,1.3150328947368417,100.43991776315792,89.30075187969925,4.227255639097744,12.071898496240602,5.602791699666715,-1.4131199248120296,476,5,116,3,16,154,78,133,0.084,0.8909999999999999,0.024,-0.7831,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,6,1,0,0,9,2,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,1,0,28,21,8,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,7,1,6,20,0,1,2,2,0,6,5,1,0,0,2,6,26,1,14,14,1,29,0,0,1,0,29,7,0,1,16,76,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780838124553724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411286419195829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24380532453876025,0.13236905301866222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616357161866257,0.0,0.0,0.4096883448496425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541457070303768,0.0,0.10224114873549456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622350603050081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015942360793551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27029513780244,0.0,0.1267939162006727,0.0,0.0,0.1569733297026435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091207450883272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678643428294742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686024336621217,0.1487731779547812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635449449525966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857664397023702,0.0,0.10156077492631697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538694987113006,0.0,0.3782171853149552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432316505014564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781985688599801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27713095718419245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848846002787184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261782210821886,0.0,0.0,0.1020905324293769
parenting,showmeyourpitties9,2018/01/30,"Coparenting issues Not sure how much longer I can handle my 10 year old Dad. We have been divorced for 8ish years. He hasn’t been employed for the last 4 years and doesn’t help financially (the state is looking at putting a warrant out for his arrest) and he still hasn’t paid knowing this. The only thing he does is play video games as he lives with family. I have busted my ass for our son to provide a decent life. 

I am at my wits end and there isn’t anything I can do legally unless he is a druggy, abusive of puts our kid in harms way, which he doesn’t. 

I am so exhausted of being the responsible one. 
Any helpful words or advice would be appreciated. I hate that my kid is the one that suffers and sees that his dads life is acceptable to live since I do not talk bad about his dad to him. ",2.7986679174484053,4.225978829268296,4.008048780487808,88.79623827392125,74.73170731707317,6.7534709193245765,23.59099437148217,7.321109707123232,0.7720362101313323,624,18,136,7,13,204,106,164,0.13,0.7559999999999999,0.114,-0.7053,2,0,1,0,1,0,13,3,0,0,0,5,8,1,0,8,0,23,4,1,1,1,17,28,9,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,6,7,0,0,2,3,1,2,7,5,0,2,3,2,18,3,17,22,1,15,0,1,2,1,24,4,1,1,7,86,24,2,0.0,0.2026605959330302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714339268353987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631660337059288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407556280013795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428155998692362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496828097222175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514952808747417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612461946729014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887172627859184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22929598806854196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852675290205225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400197030233888,0.13942466947300455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162857044974495,0.0,0.0,0.30207209573066346,0.0,0.14363489161154974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573790485414926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948316755680424,0.0,0.2318093123566296,0.13008758440717128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438953438586949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363008814243764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149035938177168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659691999420714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120807950842514,0.0,0.0,0.1374796550241255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363483250315108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576772057327255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150560462258984,0.0,0.0,0.3304425082156229
parenting,karibbeanisland,2018/01/30,"Help. My 5yo is suddenly waking up 3-5 times a night. He used to sleep through the night fine (at least until 4am, when he would come into our room and sleep at the foot of our bed). Now (past week) he has been calling for us multiple times during the night. 

He says he’s scared, but when questioned about it “I don’t know” is the response. I finally got a different answer tonight: “I get scared when [cat 1] is coming in my room and I think it is [cat 2].” Now, to clarify. He and Cat 1 are best friend and inseparable. Cat 2 is a total love bug and has been following him around since he started school in Sept - and he loves the attention. 

Any advice is welcome at this point. Especially since we have to sit in the room (where he can see us) until he falls back to sleep. ",2.162743105950653,3.598425245283021,3.5774842767295643,91.19812772133531,76.42138364779873,7.15645863570392,22.293662312530238,7.882392219407189,0.7734437348814711,590,16,136,9,13,194,99,159,0.043,0.7929999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.9744,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,0,1,9,8,0,2,9,0,15,7,5,1,1,20,27,12,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,3,11,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,3,2,12,6,19,23,3,38,0,0,1,2,24,14,0,1,19,75,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210785353121715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193505381588576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034935632962965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039541424011422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187544400207872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804593397715384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329115145244621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124664750723834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480959989370275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444884238230924,0.0,0.07063213097119198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812522528176158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061620779831688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429787277238964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440317392662633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806050131802533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905586179612274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779994036003106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144574603434896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750993841820812,0.2707011344141007,0.13682131005486975,0.10773035410068336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366409312603527,0.0,0.4058682747361849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568944551044853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662544087868608,0.0,0.0,0.1576628410516656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252381577354997,0.11676230100784622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844270011103628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960363694967875,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,paper_snow,2018/01/30,"Guess what? He’s six. Every sentence starts with “guess what”. Every. Single. Sentence. Sometimes, he actually wants me to “guess what”. Most of the time, though, it’s just, “Guess what? Thisandthis! And guess what? THISTHISTHAT.” Guess what? If I hear “guess what” one more time, I am going to punch myself in the face forever. 

Chicken butt. 🐓",0.9800000000000004,2.2817303333333356,0.5233333333333334,98.43500000000002,120.66666666666666,2.9333333333333336,17.333333333333336,5.2151,-0.5023666666666666,260,8,49,2,15,74,40,60,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.4314,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,13,12,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,5,12,3,5,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,9,3,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.11708901824045935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021867433805717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819080330447932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9252466687582852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352329312628038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130561221609535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866921233395085,0.0,0.08492670142257014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788562616172946,0.0,0.1399295915657373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077084574519439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Liquor_Bush,2018/01/30,"Fit parents, how do you do it?? Seriously, what’s your deal? How do you do it?

My wife will make comments when we’re out like... “look at that couple, we could be that fit.”  Of course, this couple has two or three or more kids and I’m like, how do they look that good? Short of being in the business of looking good; gym owner, personal trainer, active military, police officer etc, I just don’t know how folks do it. Out of all the parents I know, I think two couples are fit. One couple, the wife is obsessed with being skinny and the husband has always been fit, but as rumor mill has it, he isn’t the best father or husband. The other couple, they’re just boring and are very very regimented and dont stray their routine. Hardly see them. 

 ***EDIT: People that have responded to the question, thank you. It's been very informative. This is the kind of stuff you hope to hear when asking a genuine question. For the folks that are more worried about the only factual examples I have of fit people I personally know, please just stop.***

Anyway, just curious. ",1.5592647058823488,4.179176240196078,3.036517647058826,87.82612941176474,85.61764705882355,5.42086274509804,20.905098039215687,6.918507183188421,0.6851853333333335,819,26,156,11,25,267,117,204,0.041,0.7879999999999999,0.172,0.979,2,0,0,0,0,0,44,1,5,3,1,12,11,0,1,11,0,26,1,1,5,2,33,40,15,0,2,8,7,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,15,8,1,1,7,1,0,0,3,3,0,4,2,6,15,8,16,33,5,13,0,0,4,0,30,10,0,6,5,111,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917759538054026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019349429908038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247280591686992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556995023869023,0.5929315706252237,0.0,0.0,0.11049198766067307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256074704582383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119527664327509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978542030762784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960071132531642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207932147613015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644825304314748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160553129569917,0.17670056188672448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471988966555244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26999823485261704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153967123595263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262407304203163,0.08151087750360317,0.0,0.0,0.23800873310614906,0.0,0.0,0.14860231728059847,0.1871609133942276,0.0,0.1176451873065896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24011946705037035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540403375191763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960250593681346,0.0,0.0,0.12268892157856295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867168751745208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867295794520296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20938741787792034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26529004197671513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884069452666068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,statelymanor,2018/01/30,"Depressed and sad after separation (x-post /r/mentalhealth) My wife of 8 years and recently separated. She had been discussing separation for the last 6 months. In the end I took the step of moving out as I couldn't stand the lack of respect from my wife and the negative headspace it was putting me in. I was constantly depressed at home and often did not sleep at night. 

Now I see the kids 2-3 days a week when they stay with me. My kids always cry when they leave me, and call me up on the phone and are sad when they are with their mother. I will say that I believe my wife is quite disengaged from the kids and this is why I believe the kids are closer to me and emotionally more reliant on me.

This is the best for the kids, as I do believe that the negativity of two parents together is worse than the loneliness of two separated parents.

Anyway, I am struggling in every aspect of my life. I have no motivation for work and spend my days feeling sorry for myself and missing my kids.

I am living with my parents for the time being which is ok. But how do you get over this type of experience. I feel like I am mourning for a lost family unit and mourning over losing seeing the kids everyday.

Even though I worked full-time, after 6pm I would be at home looking after the kids until bedtime (only a couple hours I know). I would wake with the kids and set them up for the day.

I feel so lonely and hollow, my whole existence for better or worse was built on me being a great and loving father. I am still that, but only seeing them 2-3 days a week is breaking my heart. 

I guess its only a matter of time before I adapt, as I have to work. I will just need to readjust my life and the meaning of my life. I know I need to stop feeling like a victim and take responsibility. I was partially responsible for the failure of the relationship, although I don't think I could've done anything to save it except perhaps seek couple's counselling early on.",5.192176870748297,5.427146040816325,6.192244897959185,79.75870748299323,68.18367346938776,8.778231292517006,29.08843537414966,8.59863814320734,2.0269537414965986,1536,50,308,22,24,512,195,392,0.123,0.789,0.08800000000000001,-0.8588,3,2,0,0,0,0,39,0,1,6,9,12,21,1,1,28,1,34,7,3,2,0,48,55,30,2,6,6,8,4,2,0,4,3,1,2,9,10,21,0,1,9,0,1,4,6,12,0,2,10,9,56,9,54,37,4,52,0,10,4,1,31,16,0,3,30,224,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228314454608292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148694992572535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392032508387117,0.2936196300358352,0.09116514134408574,0.07682982285431436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870440668237954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387605762329812,0.0,0.06935895788073779,0.19224092438263446,0.09542307205043968,0.22409692494847608,0.0,0.14964272275413726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889859558219443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771752473722757,0.07694140342132691,0.0,0.0,0.057377089989506636,0.0,0.0731920715528022,0.0,0.0,0.0849759352569852,0.08189369624483146,0.0,0.17569716849185135,0.12412048404866174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045386206532882084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577493951146103,0.09569755627390332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294186035623036,0.0,0.0,0.1742762189871979,0.0,0.08554986032548104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548341674631952,0.0708109828825445,0.0,0.09198322667007144,0.0,0.0,0.18407743009959324,0.08488099381065778,0.0,0.07670816822061714,0.0,0.07294926995118954,0.09718577409220563,0.09482932013574674,0.0,0.07840394142599479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462734916074243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933913667407722,0.09232950354336622,0.0,0.12882662437900794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152199996483539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982065960243426,0.0,0.0,0.28937794720067084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319784462514465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732876111311047,0.0,0.09239737972731443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577405495125469,0.09326631565148463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908284094354125,0.0,0.0,0.207673421451847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693315204206488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097244317705844,0.0,0.09259230419816653,0.06937482584737924,0.07262755696298191,0.0,0.09081581962646423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653157411242707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055663054429513886,0.08534974193471571,0.0,0.1013096754712156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651622773882997,0.0,0.0,0.1697195459018116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393644143691571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838703794979703,0.09698771632431437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972809080825745,0.0,0.17705674940871466,0.12342050114351286,0.0,0.0,0.055941699273556605
parenting,hognir,2018/01/30,"2,4yo daughter sleep advice We have a two year old (birthday in september) girl and she is wonderful EXCEPT for when she is meant to go to bed.

We start preparing for bed at 1930 (telling her it is bedtime soon, brushing, jammies etc.). Then we read to her (or she reads to us as she has been doing lately) and we let her read a book after we leave the room. At that time its usually 2030-2100 depending on how  everything went. Then she will stay  up until midnight (like tonight), fall asleep and then wake up for kindergarden at 0800 and be exhausted (she naps for an hour in the kindergarden).

But the kicker is: she is always soooooo tired when we start prepping for bed. Even, on some occasions, asking to go to bed. But when she is meant to go to sleep she will do ANYTHING to stay awake. Sing, stand, walk around the room, go under her bed, strip, ""mommy i have to pee/poo"" x20, shove her fingers into her eyes, throw everything out of her bed, climb the bookshelfs (mounted to the wall), anything. Even on weekends, when we try try and skip nap time, she'll be exhausted at 1800ish and we push her til 1930-2000ish, then we get the same routine.

So my question is, is this normal? Is there anything we could try to do differently? Every one around us us is like ""oh yeah, we put our kid to bed and its asleep 6,83 nanoseconds later"". ",3.830444015444016,5.365761571428575,3.948530888030888,89.81893532818533,72.28185328185326,7.187722007722008,26.46351351351351,7.7348632917899725,1.3123249420849423,1033,35,214,13,20,318,146,259,0.036000000000000004,0.932,0.032,0.168,1,0,0,0,0,0,55,15,0,0,1,13,4,0,0,10,1,24,10,7,2,0,36,36,23,0,2,4,1,1,2,0,3,3,0,9,2,5,22,0,0,4,8,0,11,0,2,0,2,4,3,35,2,40,25,3,57,0,0,1,0,39,19,0,5,26,142,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086926777235117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925522781566168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745984606359689,0.1980365807499467,0.10398504371284503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880811152783445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621168557857856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405086265270987,0.14693274416528754,0.0,0.09371608011457272,0.0,0.19993272034537155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811308899029621,0.0,0.25285831024166866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953915354437507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547229528622308,0.1177765194634566,0.0,0.11374022053454325,0.0,0.10868272816168988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898179271008457,0.0,0.0,0.1167171838194233,0.0,0.07537233293149875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118168812434618,0.12460306655742112,0.0,0.3337803290478961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226206764897767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745834610734954,0.2371127805002273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721993075649013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971822577794367,0.1278425330518144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22655362487890424,0.0,0.10865555669693386,0.0,0.4013880172587152,0.0,0.1225041407452405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311133295206426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062420029059445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162847914591165
parenting,agawl81,2018/01/30,"Grounded my ten year old from his own birthday party. And his best friend. He turns 11 Wednesday. 

He’s been struggling with the whole concept of come home and check in before you do anything. Saturday day had an overnight and left in the morning. Instead of coming home and checking in with me he went and played all day. I thought he was still at the friends house. He showed up around 5:15. 

Today he was supposed to walk home from school. Didn’t see him unti 5:30. 

So now he’s grounded from the friends he was playing with and the birthday party he was planning for the weekend. And he’s crying and it’s breaking my damn heart because I like giving him good things but I have to do something about his not showing up and yelling at him and taking his electronics hadn’t done it. 


Edited to add/clarify

1) the house we live in, the house we are remodeling and all of his friends live within a mile radius. The Saturday he was gone I knew he was ok because this parent or that friend would have literally seen him a short time ago when I got there looking for him. I just kept missing him. A parent sent him home. 


2) I’m not canceling his whole birthday. I canceled his classmates party. His goofing off has all involved friends so I’m not throwing a party for him and his friends. It’s pretty much going to be a quiet family party. And maybe he can earn a friend party later but right now he has a lot of work to do proving he’s willing to do what is she’s of him. 


3) in addition to the not coming home he was supposed to feed the animals at the remodeling house. He did not. He did leave a gate open so they were out. I saw them and got the penned back up. While I was out looking for him. It’s a pretty big deal to say you fed animals when you didn’t. Once again this was something he skated on in order to go run around with friends. 


4) I’m not buying him a phone. My oldest destroyed a massive number of phones from about 9 on. If it wasn’t one he liked he’d abuse it or just lose it somewhere. Him having a phone didn’t make him any more willing to check in with me or get him home on time. It was an electronic placebo for me and an expense I couldn’t afford. It is not unreasonable to expect a child to get from school to house. Or from one house to another house. This is all within a mile radius not a huge town and all in a small neighborhood within that town. ",1.979694273328772,3.934257829568793,3.0959644079397677,92.14161487565596,78.50718685831623,5.643057266712298,23.7585671914214,6.5355237356304725,0.582360565822496,1861,63,397,16,45,597,216,487,0.049,0.7979999999999999,0.154,0.9938,4,0,2,0,2,0,44,2,3,2,5,18,21,2,1,32,1,41,3,1,1,6,63,70,29,0,4,17,2,0,2,9,3,0,3,9,1,16,32,2,1,3,5,5,11,14,5,0,3,32,8,48,16,64,32,12,73,0,2,5,0,72,38,1,6,24,261,64,6,0.0,0.07800585533471434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05836036059664504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04477128912889478,0.06903563676382504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054178085803373285,0.11721744003111008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05062444380473762,0.0,0.08026701783597136,0.0,0.05602227706131334,0.0,0.06909167134908245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013774929266906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231864543866587,0.08491859311906046,0.06787486126913682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737391571826305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206508609638165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45778821185633795,0.0,0.0687940328796496,0.06315666823833713,0.07483315381652941,0.055220793470878174,0.10531142414755744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801693804160621,0.0,0.0,0.3962381367054838,0.0,0.0,0.5317678834221913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971167677709113,0.0715318878009059,0.0,0.0,0.06432908062978535,0.0,0.11627022062052313,0.0,0.11057267965175073,0.07365455111884668,0.0,0.055972102376119805,0.0,0.0,0.04394658258200768,0.0,0.06614192573082868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839763137469516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908465821386882,0.07011405504716156,0.08922545402415702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620797473600694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395941112087514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622427687838474,0.0,0.05235607461318039,0.0,0.1332607352083207,0.052463414456244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136878722585987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052577362319396144,0.0,0.0,0.06882692957439572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950108838911622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043739051809333934,0.0,0.0,0.05226707390071006,0.07677994789390545,0.0,0.0624055987435228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161154486531658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103138339929993,0.0,0.14700889665460476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04792998252967811,0.0,0.0,0.04676858159283625,0.0,0.0,0.0423967477473617
parenting,here_comes_snek,2018/01/31,"Early signs of autism (10 months) Hi,

Sorry in advance for the long wall of text.

Me and my wife have a beautiful baby boy.

When he was about 5 or 6 months old (probably sooner even) my wife started to notice that he doesn't look into her eyes a lot, not when he's being breastfed, not when playing with her, not when holding her.
That's when the A-word was first thrown about.

I started to get worried as well, but not too much either because he seemed much more keen to look me in the eyes. Not too sure why, maybe because I'm not around all day and when I arrived home after work I'm always cheery and will start playing with him (I'm working, shes taking care of him daily).

And she acknowledged that, she saw that he is not avoiding eye contact with all people, just her. It kind of relieved some of her fears at that point, but it made her sad anyway.

After some time he began to look her in the eyes more and more. By now the amount of eye contact is pretty much the some for me and my wife.

At about 6-7 months we had a gettogether with some friends. There was also a little baby girl who was 4-5 months older than him.

My wife noticed right away that the girl was very social - constantly babbling, showing things, and she looked deeply in peoples eyes, for 10-20 seconds at a time.

When we got home my wife burst into tears. This time she was pretty convinced our son has Autism because he never looks that long at anyones eyes (well, he does sometimes, but that girl was legit like on a staring contest).
And she also noticed that he has not yet started babbling with vowels yet (bababa, dadada etc).

I also got worried because the difference between the babies was pretty drastic, but kept my calm and reasoned that the baby was 4 months older and our son couldn't and should't be on the same level of development.

I managed to calm her down by saying he's just too young for these things and he has plenty of time for development.

The last months has been a joy to witness my son grow, hes developing very fast now it seems.

He is 10 months old now and is socializing more and more by the day:

* hes very happy - smiles and laughs when parents smile at him.

* babbles with vowels actively

* sometimes babbles back and forth with parents

* loves playing peekaboo (LOVES IT), sometimes initiates it by hiding behind something.

* follows us around the apartment

* comes over when you ask him to

* understands who mommy and daddy is and goes to them when asked to

* looks at objects when pointed to them

* knows what some of the objects around the apartment are called (ie, TV, fridge) and will look at them when asked to

* shares his joy by looking at us when he witnesses something funny

* shows us his toys/objects

* loves to play with mommy and daddy - imitates the stuff we do when playing, ie using the hammer to play with xylophone etc.

* shows affection when he's happy by touching our noses with his nose (hes mimicking us - we do it to him all the time)

* sometimes waves when he wants attention

* says 'mama' sometimes when hes sad and missing mommy (not a 100% sure if its intentional but it happens pretty often now)

* greets me and my wife happily when one of us arrives, is sad when we leave

So it's been great. My worries have pretty much all gone away, and Im having a blast playing with him.

But my wife is still miserable. Shes still convinced he has Autism.

When our son learns something new, she cannot force herself to feel any joy, because deep down she suspects that hes got Autism.

The symptoms being:

* he rarely keeps eye contact for more that 4-5 seconds, but keeps eye contact nevertheless. still not when breastfeeding though.

* sometimes he doesn't react to his name being called (or reacts after being called several times), for ex when watching TV, or eating or playing with a toy.

* sometimes he seems to be in a bubble (focusing on playing with a toy, or watching TV)

* sometimes he screetches with a high pitch voice, especially when fussy

* hes not too interested in other babies. sometimes he is though - wants to touch their face etc.

* he doesnt like to be held by strangers or socialize with them. not at first, at least, when someones around longer then he seems to become comfortable

My wife certainly is worried, should I be worried also?",4.177548076923074,5.974254577205888,4.359676470588237,86.16564027149323,71.85539215686275,6.590165912518853,27.137179487179488,7.137427946048943,1.3416378808446452,3349,119,632,32,65,1041,323,816,0.073,0.757,0.17,0.9987,4,1,3,0,0,0,126,14,1,5,5,60,45,0,3,33,0,56,17,12,7,8,125,105,70,0,5,29,15,3,2,1,3,1,3,2,4,30,50,1,6,12,17,0,5,18,7,2,5,21,29,75,38,99,72,27,118,0,5,21,3,121,40,0,18,75,420,105,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425475612448982,0.03752393626711542,0.0,0.0,0.030667195570223245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03153255131360977,0.0,0.0,0.16058193666596826,0.12647753996107494,0.0,0.08473937300621191,0.03467645781482974,0.0,0.13745216977824695,0.04980558853193764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381458370632939,0.0,0.04597893097141315,0.0,0.0,0.03884667855192115,0.0,0.04873334198983165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816707879983104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04711628897740839,0.0,0.0,0.039464288555835614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04614502170865588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088369806037624,0.02978584124250675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050746148301185776,0.022802167068830644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671819263595965,0.0,0.0,0.03484147714577415,0.0,0.02356108235247349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082034749149382,0.049719097706432736,0.0,0.0,0.039878723916275685,0.09601221687965926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047646973502166574,0.0904710188691403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048712004892939184,0.0,0.0,0.08016775870748226,0.0,0.04696110974428923,0.024783880578625683,0.03675970138518817,0.0,0.047750727460547863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0440637858527302,0.0451985832312552,0.0,0.07981804264890482,0.3029579051736894,0.0,0.0,0.038339468070782284,0.122104171849526,0.04267143924163504,0.0,0.0,0.04530553868884267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519694118455605,0.0,0.13260459150330373,0.0,0.034781233966264986,0.04355452210722017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540281388273065,0.09464247135021216,0.0,0.030558584548717176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014874805696868,0.0,0.0,0.06252852926778546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526161898448176,0.0,0.0,0.2293969829352349,0.04862170057726595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04636675687728912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038512201197954885,0.0,0.07172516184776828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421679564322889,0.0,0.050946257209678165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791073890848232,0.03821015442031297,0.10415256573097477,0.4014147060252928,0.05048188762190417,0.12767826058391146,0.0,0.10804247214146802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05162475231979312,0.0,0.0,0.08500591589721165,0.04687257518799199,0.033906987895691375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992027846378356,0.0,0.08861424878191954,0.0,0.15777694078598506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04694709153084831,0.2712279423403737,0.03894893374846931,0.0,0.11162811225124028,0.053198218778324924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810944158139814,0.0,0.040692615611387886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566164059664667,0.22898864155616186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redpanda120,2018/01/31,"Daycare food question Hi everyone was hoping to get a second opinion on my sons daycare.  Hes currently 2 years old and is enrolled full time in a home daycare.  Shes a really great daycare provider that clearly cares for the kids. Only problem we've ever had was that she really doesn't communicate much about how my sons doing.

A little while ago i started asking her about the food my son was eating (she doesn't typically provide this info). This was all good with no issues. In my opinion she was feeding him pretty good. In the last couple weeks i notice that the quality of food seemed to decline. He had pizza and fries (twice) and burgers and fries once in the last week or so for lunch. 

I was her a little concerned about the change and asked her about the pizza and burgers today. She seemed really offended and took it really personally. Do u guys think i was out of line? How would you handle it? How would u handle the potential fallout from this (hopefully nothing happens other than better food)

Thanks",4.013828101188661,6.2701573989637325,4.917439804937519,80.02782688204816,73.4559585492228,7.235476988722953,26.89698262724779,8.124751697461798,1.9875640963121,810,30,139,13,17,263,116,193,0.036000000000000004,0.823,0.141,0.9677,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,1,0,1,9,10,1,0,13,0,18,9,0,3,3,28,31,13,0,5,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,9,9,9,0,5,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,10,0,19,8,19,19,3,23,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,8,13,96,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785415196178288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20639966038619287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763106158833487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255005126215167,0.0,0.11677807531181622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214453210304035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295661837008335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099854154044282,0.0,0.1054824592153845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.533936527670706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05767426450631038,0.0,0.0,0.18517993585050524,0.0,0.12170546111753028,0.0,0.1093035420737352,0.09761758975728692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073025836324564,0.21928452970434853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521857104573835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996530967005894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212797362695208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811494159171118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592226613901104,0.12567984621482056,0.11583582716033415,0.1175618403844505,0.0,0.0839566358685161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638836641136288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230640488268878,0.0,0.10562840517632584,0.0,0.0,0.12366216189488904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282874866863779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200989979293375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813467206706093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163236114184304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073351067732596,0.0,0.0,0.06436934772178146,0.0,0.10463689532216118,0.0,0.12264744892763105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709653903924547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683590174682813,0.0,0.0,0.07108759703232889
parenting,man_of_nobody,2018/01/31,"Feel terrible for shouting at my kids I'm not feeling like a good parent right now, and need to tell people!    I have an 8yo Boy and 5yo girl.   I shout at them,  I know I shouldn't, I'm trying to stop, but I just keep getting wound up.   I'm sure it's a common story, half the time I am a fun and caring dad but I just get frustrated by them SO MUCH with either not listening, or being naughty, constantly making loud goofy noises or fighting with each other, or interrupting all the time.  I do realise these are all normal things that kids do, but my autopilot  is to be firm, loud, and stop it happening. It feels like it's driven from a general impatience and stress (and a lack of sleep!) that I carry around internally and they just seem to trigger it.   I realise this isn't ideal, but I've kinda justified it as other parents say they yell at their kids, and I am a nice guy generally, and we never smack or anything like that - but my eldest is clearly starting to emulate this behaviour and starting to get really emotional when he is yelled at, telling me he hates me and hates his family.   My questions are 
(1) what techniques do you guys have to stop that frustration/anger welling up inside when kids are genuinely really annoying?  I've tried just walking away and counting to 10 and all that, but they just keep doing whatever they are doing until I get back.  
 (2) every time I have tried to stop the yelling, the behaviour goes out of control as it's not stopped effectively.  At their age the distraction techniques don't work,  any advice for controlling bad behaviour without shouting?    

This now sounds like such a silly and basic thing to ask, but I'm stuck in a rut....
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parenting,syncmaster213,2018/01/31,"My 12 year old son stole $30 from my 8 year old daughter. How do I handle this? So my son came to me this morning with $20 and he said he wanted to order a new computer mouse on Amazon.  I asked him where he got the money and he said he found it in one of his pockets. The mouse he wants is $40.  I told him he would need to work for the other $20 this weekend. A short time ago, my 8 year old daughter came in my office crying that $30 is missing from her desk.  Pretty obvious what happened.  Any advice on handling this with my son? I obviously need to talk to him about stealing but I am worried it will go over his 12 year old mind. ",0.8210476190476186,2.158624057142859,3.0357142857142883,94.07761904761908,79.85714285714286,5.523809523809524,20.952380952380953,5.985473137389443,-0.03811904761904783,488,13,117,3,12,167,84,140,0.069,0.905,0.026,-0.6917,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,2,17,21,5,0,5,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,9,6,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,2,0,1,7,2,18,0,17,12,0,23,0,1,0,0,23,7,0,0,12,62,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363833456343747,0.12371780481041895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491040755971372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047638952800206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192551410723673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533078954458877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302811103409164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793191939063659,0.0,0.11162455204006867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341871728010362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409229753892843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20697445844652607,0.0,0.13479476578805852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5858087354442613,0.0,0.0945742726075296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198990640338716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655205273838259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121787407076869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138269289102376,0.0,0.0,0.1333623360736767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464057217556913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10160650418452682,0.1417371552405195,0.0,0.09914445677868712,0.0,0.0,0.3595065218089964
parenting,MNEvenflow,2018/01/31,"How to help your young kids contact their friends to play. I have three kids under 10.  Back when I was their ages, some of the first numbers I learned were so that I could use the rotary phone to dial my friends house who lived a couple blocks away to see if he could play.

Now I understand you can just have them go knock on the door, but we live in MN and when it's sub 0F it's a big obstacle to get dressed up enough just to go over to their friends house to see if they're home.  

Let's face it. The lack of house phones these days has really lowered the options for these guys to reach out to their friends by themselves. So I find more and more that they just sit at home until we bug them enough and they finally say ""Yeah, I want to play with XXXX.  Text his mom to see if he can play.""  

That's fine for a quick fix, but I feel like the kids are getting **very** reliant on us as parents to do their social interactions and I don't like it.

So what are some of your solutions?  Am I missing some sort of tech that we have available that can help us with this? (Short of every 5+ YO getting a cell phone)   ",1.9777665317139004,3.3311361153846164,2.576405757984705,98.52678137651823,76.73504273504274,5.95195681511471,21.717498875393616,6.339386263674448,-0.034859829059829206,857,22,210,6,19,265,135,234,0.052000000000000005,0.7859999999999999,0.163,0.9723,2,0,0,0,0,0,24,5,3,9,1,12,12,0,0,10,1,17,1,1,2,0,34,30,17,0,7,8,2,1,2,4,0,0,1,3,4,14,10,0,1,4,4,0,2,1,1,0,2,2,5,29,11,34,25,8,25,0,1,3,0,41,11,0,8,13,135,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196001648283134,0.09163100105142248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028809141377484,0.1318544846625736,0.0,0.07685196231874211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246259867240267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040216886153007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025371466185873,0.08513193802445036,0.0,0.13054010471218247,0.10891521178186324,0.10136220988353806,0.0,0.0,0.3682682292436701,0.0,0.18677734386891706,0.0,0.13544912853742722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799269245853986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597483975194097,0.0,0.23906565282386416,0.0,0.0,0.4125033551514568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185491342036105,0.0,0.1164365988406824,0.0,0.21045083969754627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956532617547668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231931138281114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076340543354927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476527873437544,0.0,0.0,0.28487869637106555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214743359832762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240556061520412,0.2866831208940534,0.10292082912031132,0.0,0.09832411108887196,0.07028696625878868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Drilldoc45,2018/01/31,"Ice cream animals So I have seen and read many times that sugar really has no effect on children and that it's only a myth.  There is no was this statement is true.  On different occasions after giving my 6 y/o boy and 4 y/o girl ice cream, they become way over active and disobedient.  It's literally like a switch right after they eat it.  It's going to be a long time until they get it again.  Does anyone else have this happen as well? ",2.844238095238097,4.1760652333333335,4.895396825396826,82.86500000000002,74.44444444444444,7.80952380952381,20.63492063492064,8.418075326091056,1.03015873015873,341,7,70,6,7,118,66,90,0.055,0.805,0.14,0.7609999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,3,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,1,1,7,12,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,4,2,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,4,5,3,8,9,0,13,0,0,3,0,7,4,0,0,8,42,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735848084028882,0.25436532497708675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27417678502208603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593723518739998,0.0,0.0,0.2172485473690267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540255836700063,0.2073841698832572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297023487012788,0.23814763762986144,0.14108833868931586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195299892327659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128425240127598,0.0,0.0,0.21969677465209828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516903581453197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880817907982364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483209513266267,0.0,0.15903772217493697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21200736342685686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28951753976752953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705228762664906,0.0,0.0,0.2232099536065519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mercwerd,2018/01/31,"My 4 year old daughter tells me ""Daddy is naughty!!"" Yesterday I get home from work and my 4 year old daughter starts to tell me that I'm naughty by pronouncing ""Daddy is naughty!!""  The conversation goes something like this:

Her:  Daddy, you're naughty!!  
Me:  Ok, why am I naughty?  
Her:  Because you took Mommy's credit card away  
Me:  I took her credit card away because she fell for an online scam, so I turned it off and she's getting a new one in 4-6 days.  So, technically, Mommy is naughty.  
Her:  No!!  Daddy is naughty!!  
Me (internally):  I'm never buying you a car.  ",0.8247532467532429,3.3115078909090947,2.4924675324675327,91.18727272727274,88.27272727272728,4.961038961038962,24.220779220779214,6.5431188927421005,0.8246233766233764,428,18,88,5,14,140,66,110,0.055,0.841,0.103,0.6331,0,0,1,0,0,0,33,0,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,0,1,3,13,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,2,0,19,4,8,11,0,17,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,10,46,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587525501259469,0.0,0.0,0.23276696382766898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312805200533265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949636344507013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19150902101563502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932742064406811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724980772527152,0.18439239424555026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006783003294289,0.0,0.12937280211275567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698007640992902,0.0,0.0,0.13513464861477562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337462003360364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42423982787331854,0.0,0.2076668888754776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722762289120331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899253778862386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458933324142607
parenting,Noldorian,2018/01/31,"I know kids who grew up bilingual but the non dominant sowas auf language the kids have accent in..how can i avoid this? I am 31, American and I live in Germany. I have a coffee group where I go meet every Thursday. A older lady (not really old 50) has children (12, 13, 18)

Well the older child has no dialect as she went to school a year or 2 in the USA but the younger two have a German accent when they speak english!

She speaks only english to them and she speaks German with her German husband at home. I know other english speaking kids with German accents when they speak English!

However I speak English with my German wife and she speaks German to my son, 2 years in March. He can‘t talk yet.

We speak english at home and only watch English television.

How can i avoid my son developing an German accent if i stay in Germany?

We might move back to my native California to take over my family bar but I dont know yet!

Thanks!

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parenting,mtnbiker98,2018/01/31,"Kiddo being stubborn about Naps Hi, all. We have a 3yo girl who is definitely exploring her independence. Recently she has decided to be stubborn about taking naps. We used to put her in her bed and she would go to sleep fine. I imagine that her brain has woken up and she has a very active mind. So, leaving her alone in her room no longer results in a nap. Started taking her on drives because that usually helps get her to sleep. Now, she's decided to be stubborn about this and, despite the fact that she is clearly exhausted, she tries her hardest to stay awake so she can exercise her independence. I'd love to just give up on naps and be done with it but, she obviously still needs one. Her behavior without a nap clearly demonstrates this.  

Any advice or past experience on how to work with my child to get her to take a nap would be greatly appreciated! ",4.809016064257031,6.181913897590366,5.656807228915664,79.14476907630524,69.66265060240964,8.90682730923695,31.303212851405625,9.2995712137729,2.7748610441767068,681,29,130,14,12,223,99,166,0.06,0.8240000000000001,0.116,0.8933,0,1,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,0,1,9,7,3,0,6,0,15,6,3,5,5,33,27,9,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,7,8,0,3,4,7,0,4,2,4,0,1,2,0,24,3,24,18,1,20,0,0,0,1,29,9,0,1,6,91,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653648051272543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526616368228712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507886815400532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315804773979004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891117306830224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317602675320729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553461549160756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768262561470482,0.16233613189742144,0.09617452176558956,0.0,0.0,0.1865712655920246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342801463652995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17918494233055252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273225599375448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086910615667047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547826432959358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146713045280667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615445022078324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011796161465473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708936668449095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386946163813771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977839383963045,0.1803714360609585,0.1351433801430171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817086352691869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489273185532195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615614920887138,0.1863775351376441,0.13962842676224396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163126953588061,0.0,0.1231978852401824,0.0,0.0,0.2404253055737153,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ViolettVixxen,2018/01/31,"Toddler biting the dog I don't know how to stop it!! I've removed him from the dog, I've TAPPED his mouth, I've told him no, I've done everything I can think of. My dog growls and nips back when my son bites him and I tell the dog no but I mean...i can't blame him! What the hell do I do to stop this?

EDIT: I don't smack or use physical discipline for my child but I do tap his mouth and tell him ""not nice, we don't bite""",-2.281177394034536,-0.5261337959183656,0.35408163265306136,105.95080847723708,96.14285714285714,4.239874411302983,12.640502354788067,5.873414542411696,-1.3969161695447414,320,5,91,3,13,108,55,98,0.187,0.7859999999999999,0.027000000000000003,-0.9362,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,4,0,9,2,2,2,0,15,13,8,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,3,2,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,2,0,18,1,5,11,0,5,1,0,0,0,13,0,1,1,4,51,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233164214819079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972023123347014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261012368574714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15960821462239133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31635445753103314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4856112231528157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076828716297436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609054934696093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775104557075461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508311705794909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vent_box,2018/01/31,"Getting blocked by my toddler in new ways. Using a throwaway for reasons.

I'm going to start off by apologizing for the mature themes in this post, I'll try to keep the language reasonable.

So my wife and I are the proud parents of an almost 3 year old (Thing 1) and an almost 2 month old (Thing 2). As is regular with having infants in our lives my wife and I have no time/mutual drive for intimate interactions.

Last night I was able to fall into a dream where my wife and I were finally able to get some intimate time. We were starting to get things going, and just before I was able to go all the way I hear Thing 1 shout ""DADDY!"" over the baby monitor.

Snap to, I'm in my bed at 3 am and wife is feeding Thing 2. Thing 1 has awoken in the middle of the night and needs to be put back to sleep.

My toddler blocked me in my dreams.",3.2524137931034467,3.920901080459772,4.78109195402299,86.61060344827587,72.67816091954023,7.8689655172413815,25.99425287356322,8.07648339933343,1.3724459770114943,644,20,142,9,12,217,102,174,0.046,0.889,0.065,0.636,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,11,0,12,2,1,3,1,22,26,9,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,7,10,1,3,2,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,4,2,16,1,28,21,2,34,0,0,0,0,11,12,0,3,13,88,23,0,0.36864176069572624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24609431542984264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448758635904106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456232886781054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346096765917535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926001048359456,0.0,0.20950760795609025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849535212372396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922191165737424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016407897579784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850580950815616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808211211326064,0.0,0.0,0.09111439817103067,0.0,0.11867883654404725,0.0,0.2306302132901376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578850104208704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644434981383546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768563491728355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352892967890775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526834181291667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296932978885285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395102373944293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4898184107705987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433053168001253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342785241056555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612937344416973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507378051914087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913106916438704
parenting,emhbc,2018/01/31,"How to work from home with a BA? What are my options? I have a 1 year old, my husband is a school psych and is going back to school for administration. Any kind of extra cash would be helpful for us. I’ve heard about VIP Kid (online tutoring) but it seems too good to be true, and I wonder how easy scheduling is. I think I’m an okay writer, I’m great with customer service, but my background is mostly working with children/parents. I’m wondering what my options are and if anyone else has found any at-home work for extra cash that is legitimate and worked for their family. ",3.512193236714978,5.045169765217395,4.579420289855072,84.98903381642515,73.08695652173913,7.1980676328502415,25.82125603864734,7.793537801064563,1.3751835748792267,453,15,91,6,9,148,76,115,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.9755,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,1,4,5,5,0,0,4,1,12,0,0,2,1,22,22,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,7,0,0,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,9,5,13,17,3,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,7,4,56,13,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348498472619349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073837731303308,0.17692594683259605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277641906886647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144247808218327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627826255803179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893292286229397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813518376332857,0.14483160039219015,0.0,0.19037480091095185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574041498637395,0.0,0.1732071075295797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798144441581393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811933690691853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34951264435994417,0.0,0.15719683793039418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064316990611203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770676824996026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3745173508597253,0.5028378362729529,0.0,0.0,0.12266336817009668,0.0,0.0,0.11119704085586236
parenting,lorrowin,2018/01/31,"Kids (8F and 6M) never want to go to school. How can I solve this without yelling and going completely insane? Going to try and keep this short but I have a history of rambling so sorry in advance. 

As the title reads, my 8f and 6m don't want to go to school. For my 8 year old this is a new thing. She started grade 2 this year and has been loving every day and gets upset when her brother is the one holding us back and making us late, but after being home for a week due to sickness she's starting to follow in his footsteps.

Recently my kids picked up some sort of flu/sickness from school. They spent a week home. All of us, including my 3yo, caught it and it was a week of utter hell. Now everyone is better so I'm happy to say they can go back to class. 

Except I can't even get them to wake up. And then when they do finally wake up, my son especially, lays there and won't let me get him dressed let alone get out of bed. He keeps saying he's sick. If I pin him down and put on an item of clothing. He rips it off. We repeat the cycle until I start to get really frustrated and yell or cry. Some days he will eventually get ready and we end up being late, other days (because he pulls this a lot not just after being home sick) I end up telling him fine, He doesn't have to go, but we need to take his sister and I can't leave him home alone so he needs to get dressed. So he will finally get dressed and come downstairs to finish getting ready. Some days he lets me bring his backpack and I am able to drop him off. Other days, if I even touch his backpack he will rip his clothes off until I promise I'm not going to bring it. 

I have tried taking tv and devices away as consequences for not going and they don't care.  They will spend the day playing together instead. I've tried bribing with the promise of a trampoline in summer if they can go every day for the rest of the year.  They don't seem to care. 

I feel like a failure of a parent and I don't know what I'm doing wrong or what I can do to stop this. I can't force them to get dressed or carry them outside because we walk, can't pin them down into a car seat (they can unbuckle their seat belts anyways) plus I have a 3yo and 9w old to care for as well. 

Please help. I'm tired of fighting and crying and feeling like a failure. And I'm terrified my kids are going to be taken away from me, or that I'm going to be put in jail because I can't do something as simple as getting them to school. 

Update: I was finally able to get him to school two hours late. It was the worst morning I've had in a while. I am not proud of my behaviour. I screamed louder than I ever have at my kids and I scared them pretty badly. But it got him dressed. And then he didn't want me to bring his backpack and I ended up throwing it back inside...which got him outside, because he thought I wasn't bringing it. Then I grabbed it again once he was outside. Then he ran back inside. So I told him I was bringing his backpack to school because I didn't want the school to think I was a horrible parent who wasn't even trying to get him to go. He said nothing. But let me bring it. He cried some but stopped a few houses down. When I got to school I checked him in and brought him to class. While I was talking with his teachers about the hellish week of sick we had and the horrible start to the morning we had, he fucking WALKED INTO HIS CLASSROOM TEAR FREE WITHOUT SAYING GOODBYE. Omfg. All that hell and stress this morning and he didn't even shed a single tear to go into class. What a butthead. 

Thanks to everyone for the support and advice. I'll respond to each comment throughout the day.  Sometimes all it takes is having other parents remind me that I am the boss and I can do this. I appreciate the constructive criticism and the tips. Transitioning to having a new baby and four kids has been hard. But I got this. One day at a time. I'm the boss and I won't be raising brats. ",1.7889576591154253,3.4564044356796124,3.208042071197412,92.44631607335494,78.06553398058253,5.791370010787487,23.33764832793959,6.495368025078613,0.4854649946062568,3061,98,676,25,72,1001,316,824,0.162,0.7559999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.9974,3,2,1,0,3,0,79,9,0,15,3,26,30,6,3,38,0,71,9,2,5,5,105,152,72,0,9,22,6,5,2,0,6,5,7,5,5,31,50,0,5,6,3,4,32,24,13,1,4,29,12,99,18,102,107,14,125,3,0,0,2,90,28,3,14,66,444,130,16,0.09175382036702552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04483038567192338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950292863958439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620573458589029,0.14110604847382568,0.038305303723414605,0.13983069316892008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04057439890975553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032370240362954,0.0,0.0,0.039518895903853615,0.04810106748267075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118089486854,0.26628130589652205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189997630268025,0.0,0.0,0.121205066003062,0.04149829176366305,0.07730655096904215,0.08767470738428185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639348847140151,0.06554894760348323,0.0,0.15076773798115306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04241246421397557,0.3115942969261956,0.0,0.3389477687843048,0.0,0.14676782403703362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883682396802783,0.041096700380927546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030750325852245863,0.0,0.184073125954719,0.0,0.045179515330940466,0.05293579479990631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155501137560102,0.0,0.0,0.02521275005200696,0.0,0.15525345883366928,0.04857702378144118,0.0,0.18764899567361404,0.0,0.044826281966843316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03900290846418925,0.041405702594780616,0.0,0.030623193787540613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803429519371308,0.03538310135532624,0.08861641146471723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044020132628190385,0.0,0.0962801998212924,0.04885741208506567,0.06217476328823175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282263877752594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503590708039299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667331070355976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092237932044096,0.0,0.0,0.04588932512694878,0.0,0.02938992340898172,0.0,0.04529791417453551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043639447291243236,0.10944948102682107,0.04593079038538632,0.3714390588564494,0.0,0.041764616014824126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035318286802309785,0.04537343724105003,0.05135544495248502,0.1298876526202047,0.0,0.0,0.07671030229094282,0.05255184561331419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206057401026808,0.0,0.0,0.10348118101825086,0.036874122619035964,0.0400984416070592,0.042237295139707684,0.0,0.0,0.030478580607286906,0.02939607161715206,0.0,0.036421142185113865,0.0267511952603451,0.052728759489828164,0.0,0.04383735369214092,0.0,0.12458964230052022,0.0,0.04481507507351992,0.0,0.16555282282740572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823756102396984,0.0,0.14719876038660193,0.0,0.0412488518503992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844740859109729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015919940765695,0.0,0.08862967807379528
parenting,dwrry,2018/01/31,"I recently became guardian to my younger sister, but she refuses to listen to me. I am 26, and my sister is 16. Our parents died last year, and I am now my sister's legal guardian. I don't have any kids, and I just don't know how to deal with her most of the time. She's such a nightmare. I seriously don't remember being like that at all when I was her age. Like, I tried to give her a midnight curfew, but she never sticks to it, and when I confront her about it, she goes crazy, starts yelling, swearing at me, saying I have no right to tell her what to do, and that our parents never gave her a curfew (I don't really know what their rules were about that; they always made me be home by 11, but I don't know what they did with her since I wasn't really home that much). She is getting C's and D's in most of her classes, and it's the same type of yelling if I confront her about it. She got a speeding ticket once, and I tried to ground her from her car; it was a literal wrestling match to get the keys from her, and I hid them in my room, but she just came in and looked through my stuff until she found them. I don't know how to deal with a teenager! I don't know how to enforce rules and stuff, especially when she brings up that I'm her brother, not her parent, and that I can't tell her what to do. When our parents were alive, I would always just threaten to tell Mom and Dad on her, but I can't do that, now...she's so insufferable, and I don't know what to do! ",6.6767129422301865,3.7658712727272734,7.056930138826694,85.05170062695926,66.68025078369905,10.24281236005374,31.876623376623375,7.7094869923839395,1.8100692342140623,1132,29,278,9,14,372,135,319,0.094,0.878,0.028,-0.9538,4,0,0,0,2,0,43,3,0,5,0,16,5,2,0,9,0,29,0,0,4,3,48,48,29,1,2,10,10,0,2,0,1,0,4,3,1,19,18,0,1,8,1,0,3,15,3,0,0,11,5,63,2,36,34,5,28,0,0,1,0,54,10,0,3,17,198,82,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763661644075008,0.0,0.0,0.07667490920410573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289577169883431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324837602986756,0.0,0.0,0.11701829061575253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236262367942378,0.0,0.0,0.11781604522589292,0.10816154497733732,0.0,0.0,0.0901777013994634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261979626245873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717917646705163,0.09190754856032712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016940794963767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468289095210544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668822722863218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320532333316326,0.0,0.0,0.08288535049024477,0.0,0.17392186711454902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200767033800506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5007889388900539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446303907371438,0.0,0.1113285368983616,0.0,0.12772550787308695,0.096289193556734,0.0,0.08966454496522758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326923366467914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980611574991085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25814706061013115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29564943004778405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574632591561583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310178010143846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009545440855283,0.0,0.0,0.07260829087854723
parenting,ProperSummer,2018/01/31,"Shouted at my 1 year old and feel guilty Last night I became very stressed with my one year old because she would not settle.  After a long tantrum and lots of her tears, I got so frustrated I threw my phone on the floor, put her in her cot and slammed the bedroom door, breaking the handle.  5 minutes later I took her downstairs and put on her favourite TV program and she was really happy, while I sat watching it with her in my arms in tears of guilt.  This morning when I left for work she was sad that i was leaving and tried to cling to me, which made me feel good, but my guilt from last night remains.  I know I did the right thing by putting her in her cot and taking a breather but I still feel a bit worried about the way I handle my stress. Has anyone else ever felt this way?  Is this normal for a dad of a 1 year old?  She had some complications at birth which add to the stress, as well as my grandad passing away last week and my partner and I have literally no family support as her family are abroad and my family don't really care.  Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.  I just want to be the best dad I can be for my daughter.  Thanks for listening.",4.6277963737796375,4.926786033472808,5.0407364016736445,87.30199721059972,69.418410041841,8.046973500697353,28.06722454672245,7.793537801064563,1.4360407810320783,918,29,200,10,15,292,140,239,0.133,0.747,0.12,0.531,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,2,7,16,2,5,12,0,16,1,1,1,1,31,32,19,0,4,5,3,4,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,8,13,0,0,5,1,0,6,3,8,1,1,11,7,39,8,29,16,4,41,0,1,1,0,20,12,0,3,20,130,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225654772142667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116125927800802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316926174702522,0.1072197689063781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831613848978664,0.0,0.0,0.06378978781751972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981703753644734,0.0,0.11424374550302588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669115865812266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741632835264354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465615761468506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29594611433464885,0.0,0.15873289611727953,0.0,0.100474298635358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777011513797123,0.08369307322294661,0.11536997554453325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113950938810939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014042185519062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05750940439702981,0.2558955841198704,0.0,0.1108024987075402,0.11369561416448995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260632285393663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896427525361711,0.0,0.09901633635480324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640192288837768,0.102528543048441,0.0,0.0,0.3294176717451409,0.0,0.07090923437262844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155872638086592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340747825634611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936509139021112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356854102174208,0.0,0.3596067864416628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187483554043992,0.0,0.0,0.07867898945818112,0.0,0.0,0.09634179856682458,0.0,0.0,0.06952058041968365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626292734486066,0.07104615827272243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634195694479091,0.06172152636102645,0.16612249129244064,0.08393881092257859,0.0,0.09408719386360433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618181161068159,0.10627068951370862,0.0,0.14867166997184256,0.0,0.0,0.2021612076195841
parenting,madaraszvktr,2018/01/31,"Tips for getting one year old to sleep in her own crib again We have a one year old daughter. She used to sleep well in her own crib, which is next to our bed. She fell ill a few weeks ago and was suffering and couldn't fall asleep, so my wife put her in our bed to comfort her. It worked and she slept well between us, so it happened a few more times while she was ill. 

The problem is, she now prefers to sleep between us instead of sleeping in her own crib. We put her in the crib when she falls asleep, but she usually wakes up in 2-3 hours and instead of putting herself back to sleep like she used to, she sits/stands up and cries till we place her in our own bed. 

Do you have any tips on how to transition her back to her own crib? Just letting her cry seems cruel, so we want to make it easier for her somehow. She's not yet old enough to understand an explanation on why she couldn't sleep in our bed.",3.8645312500000015,3.940068890625,4.109375,94.098125,71.03125,7.65,26.416666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.8265541666666665,705,20,172,6,12,219,99,192,0.1,0.833,0.067,-0.8374,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,10,1,0,1,16,7,1,0,6,0,10,12,10,4,0,24,19,13,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,6,3,3,2,2,3,0,35,4,30,13,9,38,0,1,0,0,36,13,0,2,20,120,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203886076872488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060783045962811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596774278706647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281043389884329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072839479474582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054246789680504004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181635701833474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022514467454032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617301418242957,0.0,0.05072599993329428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930720362545531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042417958194303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268557548443292,0.0,0.14071553115845126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848005114735304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993511044993086,0.0,0.31313290748785483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452275835631696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6234287606750166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054399648828902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809049271532883,0.2497889515176622,0.17935123571360778,0.11435386542793465,0.0,0.06124151136762759,0.0,0.08328600970157134,0.0,0.1867109351393001,0.0,0.09369025274803687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558933741321093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372598534596775
parenting,happyperson,2018/01/31,"I'm sure one day I'll master the magic sequence of words and actions... ...that means she gets out of bed, without being cross at me for waking her up.

That she brushes her teeth, without lying prostrate on the floor crying ""why do I have to do everything?""

That she sits down and eats her breakfast, without screaming at her brother for not know that this morning she didn't want a yellow spoon, she wanted pink.

That she gets her school uniform on, without bawling about the injustice of having to go to school.

and so it goes, and so it goes.

Yes I'm sure one day I'll learn the magic sequence of words and actions, but until then will you please, pretty please, for the love of god, PUT YOUR FUCKING SHOES ON!!!!!!^1

^1 ^- ^No ^actual ^swearing ^in ^front ^of ^the ^children ^occured ^but ^good ^God ^I ^can't ^Take ^it!",3.647142857142857,5.8667207070063725,3.4396223839854407,90.37606687898092,74.4140127388535,5.250045495905368,26.50090991810737,5.773587663045528,0.8114298453139219,649,24,122,3,14,195,103,157,0.032,0.8009999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9722,0,0,0,0,0,0,50,0,2,0,1,3,6,1,0,7,1,8,7,3,0,2,22,20,11,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,6,2,0,3,0,0,6,8,2,0,2,1,4,16,4,26,17,0,20,0,0,2,2,16,9,1,0,4,80,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.14556176676204166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384877172497714,0.19239584888203676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263119287576551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340582666252737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789897539630613,0.1558632316875738,0.0,0.08477288438390053,0.12511101568620506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197619411015641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346256122864691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248245417400345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20215369023830065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32747280284099395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175260017675438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995021578307244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30192224495643943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811691026348493,0.0,0.11215216328249644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596064083070065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459658771459804,0.0,0.0,0.5751520100146278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IronPeter,2018/01/31,"What to look for while choosing a daycare Total disclosure, I live in Europe(NL)
I am clearly at my first kid. In probably in one year time I will have to send my future son or daughter to daycare. At least three days a week. The good practice here is to enroll way before he/she is born.
How should I choose a daycare, what questions to ask? What to look for during visit?
Besides proximity to home/work, I mean.
Thanks for any advices ! ",1.7154117647058804,4.3069182470588245,2.856764705882356,89.72044117647059,84.17647058823529,4.811764705882354,24.970588235294123,6.2581,0.8647882352941171,341,14,65,3,10,109,61,85,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.8463,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,2,9,11,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,7,2,15,9,2,16,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,2,8,44,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374655140035799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525440559199853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271805458392352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678270105255128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672065628039167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670327179277284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20382436107829255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24375777061660786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21458133739882101,0.0,0.4081325958240419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647079653762321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466914014903924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620047278000818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722256169062969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237299735467851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170046136110873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19288917757023347,0.19492710564492088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769133953273853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648978361676036
parenting,fredman3000,2018/01/31,"What are some ways you bring out competitiveness in your children? I grew up playing sports. I believe you can learn a lot from competing that can be applied to daily life.  
I don’t think I can pinpoint what made me want to win at ...stuff.   

I have a 6 year old who I’m beginning to involve in sports and anything more physical.  I hope to pique his interest in something where can be more active as opposed to being on another electronic device.

I recently took my kid to a complimentary practice to see if he would have fun. He seemed to have fun but when it came time for the scrimmage game, he seemed to have a “meh” attitude about it.(walking, coming off the field for a breaks)   Lack of discipline?
This is all fine early on but I want to see him grow into a competitive beast, whether it be in sports or anything else.",4.859352272727271,5.904968912500002,5.496477272727276,81.56261363636366,69.25,8.818181818181818,30.79545454545455,9.095868883498916,2.499875,646,26,128,12,11,209,110,160,0.038,0.8140000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.908,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,0,3,0,2,3,7,0,0,8,0,16,1,0,1,1,25,31,8,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,8,5,0,2,4,5,0,6,1,0,0,0,3,2,15,7,27,23,6,27,0,0,2,0,13,12,0,7,7,88,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20688467204883004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247196966404348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22228783783141587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256569143820148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995518119604114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481757360661153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959619206682149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935775998835045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773612277354896,0.0,0.18668860398231615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20703157859001772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194808458972792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144427082341149,0.35922627492689424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151890018578049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22585957054177225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264209073628928,0.0,0.0,0.1150463375480914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920588460407714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23274352528473036,0.15660635977441809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401551882272633,0.0,0.0,0.12705376041734526
parenting,TheCox91,2018/01/31,"My 6 year old still has meltdowns So my son still has meltdowns, and will continuously say no to me...just repeats it. I don’t know what to do anymore since his father (my ex) refuses to get on the same page as me, regardless of how many conversations I have with him about this stuff. When he’s at his dads he doesn’t really have a bedtime, or steady rules, so every time he comes back home he’s a huge brat. Over tired, whiny and talking back a lot. But talking to his dad is like beating a dead horse.   He breaks down and throws himself on the floor when it’s time to leave my bfs house...and yes I give him time warnings, hoping  it’ll help. Will also throw himself on the floor and something that’s in his hands when he’s not getting his way. ",4.895101010101008,4.6531434740259785,5.182034632034632,88.38670274170275,68.8051948051948,8.143145743145743,28.150072150072152,7.3871296695380915,1.2431206349206354,581,17,132,5,9,184,101,154,0.103,0.813,0.085,-0.4215,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,0,7,1,11,2,1,1,0,16,17,14,1,2,3,5,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,0,7,6,0,1,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,17,2,16,14,3,29,0,0,0,0,27,10,0,3,15,78,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495379547225079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544646247042093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875716111114421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107761059618364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754937263203156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953918836754012,0.17938038892616714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253372317228837,0.0,0.1875688744941962,0.18572589389119612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276627021201938,0.0,0.0,0.1979982168435411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135516347289732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897446419044933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895811975395072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621733072538344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11979227987141175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870406069107422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468225248743644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395607767756585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986651438284803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140618467593755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30059521798157385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271107540766206,0.21492054355430876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842606185410695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204171358664214
parenting,IMA_grinder,2018/01/31,"Age appropriate books? I have a 6 month old. I'm getting bored of reading books with no story line or simple storylines like Little Golden books or super short books. We just finished reading a book that had all four books of The Frog and the Toad. I liked the length of those because she only has the attention span for about 1 or 2 stories and it took us about 2 weeks to get through it. It was like looking forward to picking up a novel each night. 

I want to get books like the Calvin and Hobbes collection but I'm wondering if these are considered too advanced for a few years? Is it better to keep it to simple books like ABCs and counting and Goodnight Moon and board books until she's a little older?

My intuition says any book with pictures and topics I find appropriate are fine to read to her at any age but I find myself questioning if I need to keep it simple since most books for kids under 2 are targeted that way. ",5.850429841897235,6.045662353260872,6.004288537549408,81.80790513833993,66.77173913043478,8.864822134387351,29.77075098814229,8.575989854853784,2.088267391304348,739,24,145,10,11,235,112,184,0.026,0.8370000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9516,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,3,4,9,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,1,1,31,20,15,0,4,8,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,10,11,0,2,5,16,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,2,13,8,23,17,4,21,0,0,1,0,8,8,0,8,16,86,23,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053435165150082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203616884449828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352977605249786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759864558888549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23664287261341135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26839639520388725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688066584554841,0.3026437810705448,0.0,0.0,0.1267853981421558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051100793658985,0.0,0.0,0.11194995422251064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168475201742478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584283916198178,0.0,0.0,0.11482729577308555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691324514488862,0.0,0.4530633704048619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006556747831135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489243627522716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677446308816282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181610670365242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905207268840315,0.11984110764874338,0.12110726244734572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373165815953686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722634126280202
parenting,mamaubu,2018/01/31,"Question about 6 year old and finger-pointing ""gun"" thing... I am looking for perspective and advice.

My very wonderful, very normal 6 year old is going through a phase where he frequently points his fingers like a gun at whomever he is interacting with (exception being teachers at school, no behavior problems there during class time) and makes a loud POW / BANG / PSHHHHHKAPOW (ish) sound.   It started about a month ago and is occurring frequently toward me, his dad, grandparents, sister, friends. 

We have been trying different methods of getting this behavior gone, from ignoring it and asking him to use words, to explaining why pointing (even a pretend gun) can be hurtful to someone's feelings.  He genuinely sees it as funny and my guess is he is looking for a reaction  - conflating any attention surrounding this behavior (even bad attention) as his motivation to do it.

So, hive mind, can you help me with your ideas, been-there-done-that phase stories?  Should I ignore it completely? Should I keep on letting him know that it's hurtful to my feelings and makes his sister not want to play with him?  Secret option #3?

Thoughts are appreciated!  Thank you.",7.837349581111956,9.132799871287132,7.410594059405942,69.6080159939071,62.66336633663364,10.967859862909368,38.80578827113481,10.891193690592663,4.7249119573495815,922,47,143,24,13,290,132,202,0.132,0.7609999999999999,0.107,-0.5134,2,0,1,3,0,0,43,1,3,0,1,7,10,0,0,6,0,17,1,1,4,0,40,38,10,0,5,2,3,3,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,10,11,0,3,12,2,0,2,2,6,0,0,3,8,19,4,23,30,0,20,0,2,3,0,25,8,0,4,11,89,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084872011158652,0.11869716451931815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910588114457244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518147648532832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180363252670963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039502497633738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990041131057554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702952957389838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688368636401916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541102752092574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034533298176136,0.0,0.06995892893037205,0.0,0.07610031088953433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750954198663555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975253548399763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28669242771957937,0.1511604866053594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119019373771154,0.0,0.0,0.07358973217276152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692515994511406,0.0,0.06541837120973057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248900351846047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787629373591718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520412538814308,0.0,0.10688030803280893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119676863472962,0.0,0.0,0.2810179018065853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797455983000047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281273398805214,0.0,0.0,0.1500023011898857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551725220060282,0.10670356511326892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345580128786335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477741965030798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328013527368276,0.0,0.0,0.08895937885671573,0.0,0.0,0.1063042346947491,0.07808007022039788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091152680175024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564942761370535,0.0,0.22096843302266675,0.07897961458346385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082686868793907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521237817562532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245862400452402
parenting,frsty_chic,2018/01/31,What's potty cleaning protocol? So my kid just went potty in her potty for the first time.. woot woot!  But it was poop and I wasn't prepared for this...  how the heck do you get the poop out?  Then what about the smears?  Do you just rinse until clean?  Do you disinfect?  Super excited and grossed out.  Parenting is weird.,0.07624633431085215,2.279571258064518,1.2630205278592364,96.04634897360704,102.54838709677419,4.835190615835778,16.9266862170088,6.574015621080383,0.09030322580645178,246,7,51,4,11,77,45,62,0.067,0.7120000000000001,0.221,0.9199,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,3,0,2,5,4,0,0,4,0,6,2,2,1,0,8,8,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,0,6,2,7,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,4,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593614111228906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28215086057545713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5996552922973394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314904177969956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5006264824842713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marcpitt,2018/01/31,Advice on teaching my child computer science I'm trying to introduce my 8 year old to Computer Science.  What is the best place to start?  Are there any resources tailored to younger kids/are they useful? ,3.146756756756755,6.262957189189191,3.5608648648648646,82.71318918918921,85.21621621621622,6.203243243243244,31.72432432432432,7.554174236665415,2.7882259459459457,164,9,26,3,5,51,30,37,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.189,0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,14,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738035854151547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601333064093171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014413089969112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014005607833369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3996621083060737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27075648314686673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597125493094602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303828318408249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246336578354299
parenting,mxmumtuna,2018/01/31,"So proud of my little guy A little background:

I'm the father of a wonderful, smart, happy, affectionate 3-year old little guy. He also happens to have ASD.

Early in the fall, shortly before his third birthday (and just after he had started at his first preschool), he received his diagnosis. He has some sensory challenges, delayed speech, and definite self-regulation and control challenges - but he is incredibly gifted in other ways.

Despite loving his first preschool, I believe he was a bit too much. Concerns about transitioning between activities, lack of interest in other children, and him being ""disruptive"" caused some concerns with his teacher, and we ultimately removed him from the school. We were heartbroken, and honestly I think he was too. He asked for weeks to go back to school, asking for his teacher by name (which, if you knew him, you would know he really does not ask for people by name).

After his diagnosis, we struggled to come up with the right blend of services for him. ABA-VB, Speech, OT, School, etc. Luckily for us, we found an absolutely wonderful school in the next town over, which as it turns out is renowned for its special needs, and specifically ASD services.

Now to the good stuff. My little guy has absolutely thrived. His mother and I remarked today that his progress report is like another kid, compared to his last school. His teacher remarked that he is mindful of the rules, consistently the first one to sit on the carpet for circle time, and completes every station (and cleans up!). She said how wonderfully sweet he is, and that he's mastered all the skills required for the 3-4 year old program and she'd like him moved to the 4-5 year old program. This school has clearly helped him blossom into everything we know he's capable of. 

After school, and another day of not napping (ugh), he had an awesome day at swim class - he got promoted to the next level. He loves it so much, and has been swimming since he was three months old. I love that he loves swimming so much, he's so comfortable in the water, and absolutely a natural. Without a doubt its another one of his special gifts.

He still faces challenges, but he is absolutely the sweetest, happiest, most loving little boy you'll ever meet. He's so smart, funny, and awesome. I am just so incredibly lucky to be his dad, and I had to tell everyone.

Being the parent of an ASD kid, or a kid with any special need is tough. Believe me, I know. But, hang in there, because they can and will surprise and amaze you as well.

Today was a really, really good day.
Thanks for reading.",6.17757911392405,7.420597103375528,6.393204113924052,75.60917325949369,66.36286919831224,9.13175105485232,33.7998417721519,9.354420925462401,3.1941183544303797,2033,90,351,38,32,651,241,474,0.041,0.691,0.268,0.9992,1,0,0,0,0,0,91,6,4,1,13,19,33,0,2,26,0,30,7,1,3,3,69,58,34,0,5,10,4,0,2,0,3,0,3,2,8,14,30,1,3,9,5,0,10,3,4,1,7,13,4,42,29,57,38,10,65,0,0,0,5,81,23,0,10,32,227,56,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05202725054202733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044242003805446406,0.2046584963606984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824627162744064,0.0,0.0,0.05002596259870303,0.0,0.039659051343453496,0.0,0.05535998277379918,0.14659727792403687,0.0,0.0,0.07102702052456998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683298989433688,0.0,0.05604212802528971,0.06821258844314193,0.0,0.07296862800128942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258720307040008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056933122576157486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255741321897033,0.0,0.05884912841462376,0.05481458334692716,0.062166174730233385,0.058470375360082434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601615378108026,0.0,0.07133327571532112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036974238851966906,0.10913594861406982,0.05203321725313287,0.0,0.0,0.19325439923564647,0.0575310073991018,0.06925597182227622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04360733413260397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072633331954818,0.05303135217716712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635685834694233,0.3260284897487647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935891340992006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569052829664565,0.0,0.05192906561857879,0.06914687834333459,0.14347642650780512,0.09648009121086358,0.0,0.0,0.13838088329511752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27307176282519513,0.0,0.08817063241388258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223975342807727,0.0,0.0,0.045103364986206866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507609524353714,0.0,0.1250344028598482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055559594552898134,0.061885521751387125,0.0,0.0,0.4608986527125331,0.0,0.0,0.06787019326983405,0.0,0.0,0.053817054803931175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04604873371687526,0.0,0.05195579374804751,0.0,0.0,0.06801325892987027,0.07447640536147299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568639873852924,0.059897116240806327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0416868531200128,0.0,0.0,0.037936128409488096,0.0,0.12333568189843425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076495455210143,0.0,0.0,0.07825735241873542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051640400735584964,0.052185996003151686,0.0,0.058495395264088375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271406225298963,0.21165946993520507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046215684316094435,0.0,0.0,0.12568660262007725
parenting,celligraphy,2018/01/31,"Ideas for playing with 4 year old? Hey my 4 year old is super super hyper and always wants to play.... but play with dolls only. I grew up as a tomboy and tbh I'm stumped I have no idea how to play with them and she is begging me constantly.

I have tried introducing soft toys to play with but she's super girly and says no dolls only... I need help ",-0.672162162162163,1.4955104324324324,1.3284324324324324,98.71859459459463,93.32432432432432,4.0410810810810815,14.156756756756756,5.6839178017228535,-1.0223145945945946,268,5,63,2,10,88,47,74,0.066,0.6459999999999999,0.28800000000000003,0.9578,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,3,1,8,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,15,7,8,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,9,8,10,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,5,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973615180221063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563186944177965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898380937564638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355184643643007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587376911151908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4977831132127512,0.0,0.0,0.3607881654753724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886234258832597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103679711282806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990111724184312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054858434479549
parenting,Fufonzo,2018/01/31,"Child falling asleep a couple of hours early I wanted to get a sense from the rest of you how you handle a situation where your child falls asleep a couple hours before bedtime.

I have a 4 year old daughter who usually is in bed by about 830. Sometimes she has a long day at school and is exhausted by the time we get home. Today, she had her vaccinations and then swimming lessons after school.

We then went to McDonald's where she got to run around in the 'Play Place' as a special treat for having gotten her 'needles'.

We got home and she was pretty tired. It was about 630 and she passed out on the couch (She's now in bed).

Do you let her sleep at the risk of her getting up in the middle of the night? Or do you keep her to awake until bedtime to not mess with routine?

Edit: I've gotten a couple answers saying 'leave her be' because of the vaccinations - thanks for the responses! :). This sometimes happens when she hasn't had vaccinations though. Would your answer be different had she not gotten any vaccinations today?",2.9545305474742136,5.2777946884422136,3.7932293044168235,86.52179846601429,76.98994974874371,6.199523935466808,23.036498280878078,7.273561745256523,0.9309738693467337,809,25,155,10,19,258,117,199,0.051,0.865,0.084,0.8197,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,3,6,0,1,9,7,0,1,17,0,17,5,3,1,0,20,30,12,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,2,3,10,0,1,3,2,0,6,3,3,0,0,11,1,25,4,31,15,1,38,0,0,0,0,28,14,0,1,18,109,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949295139994698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171524750351687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022253173828355,0.0,0.11198245607644944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368408319298278,0.0,0.08487152899570251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749466428861234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626771623819945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050611555909007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637401578370615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640123540549984,0.0,0.2592002528499395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169726999885428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934608145546235,0.0,0.13457057576137985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646242962224232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349829049004515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809273934945845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749466428861234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388516728311975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465411499231082,0.0,0.26637375719035605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479246388664838,0.1316956854436498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603128059122146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116019284089405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292969655706507,0.0,0.07673739442232322,0.15125558222696636,0.24948404766099455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493951810330316,0.0,0.07762147009482355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199511639480705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934853224235375,0.0,0.0,0.08474650070376732
parenting,bacon4thesoul,2018/01/31,"Need help getting access to studies on pediatric VitalStim Got a call letting me know that *son's* GI wants him to try VitalStim therapy, which is a neuromuscular electrical stimulation to his swallowing muscles in his throat. They want to see it it could help strengthen his muscles and improve swallowing function... For 1 hour at LEAST 3-5 times a week.. Has anyone heard of this before?? I cannot find any studies done in the pediatric world, especially done with kids who have underlying complex medical issues. If anyone has a few minutes to spare, and wants to see if they have access to, or can find any legit studies on pediatric VitalStim, that would be SO wonderful. We're meeting with his GI on Thursday, and I'd really like to have something to gain clarity with all of this prior to discussing this with her",7.56453333333333,8.21690558666667,7.823333333333334,68.65833333333335,63.13333333333333,11.466666666666667,38.66666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.732666666666667,658,33,108,18,9,215,98,150,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.9747,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,14,7,1,1,1,23,25,7,0,8,3,1,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,9,7,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,10,1,24,17,3,13,0,0,2,0,17,8,0,4,6,72,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23759779664955102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24430224464760364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865296322758936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838358921879274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948010379622752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357548201934185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193369575879342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127116369032842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971991217099694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341893589004206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203983108380486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233666520239208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600805206369567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863793625418564,0.0,0.08534737392821651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598728959252685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295344645388039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191438026305016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784193156383989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448909425280167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19977947489842385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186632326991478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186067449991776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091197124253076,0.0,0.14013015460191142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894497663267597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240986372638423,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KSi630,2018/02/01,Adoptive Parent to be (6 and 10 yr old) - help! My partner and I are going through the process and are likely adopting two older kids - a 6 year old and a 10 year old. We are new at this so don't really know what to do/where to start. Any advice on how we can get ready for this new adventure?,1.467142857142857,2.5704741269841307,3.3716190476190446,93.33171428571433,77.57142857142857,6.309841269841268,22.123809523809523,6.742157984588678,0.3302914285714285,222,6,53,2,5,75,46,63,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.7777,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,10,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,7,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,10,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21122959431556845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699659105672086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293496920804537,0.0,0.1228490258275104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448878647258525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187961889072182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560512934045163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175384253969685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6804724265938127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400207174024557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847798776651682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299955464553458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111574545951306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784006228997197
parenting,about831,2018/02/01,"How to find help for my daughter who is struggling to navigate making and keeping friends My daughter is a 10 yo in 5th grade. She’s active (Girl Scouts, gymnastics, band), well mannered and is pretty emotionally aware for her age. She doesn’t seem to have troubles making new friends but invariably after a couple of weeks of a new friendship, my daughter will tell me about how this friend has begun ignoring her or has begun treating her poorly. The first couple of times this happened I thought it was just the fickle nature of kids friendships but this is now a reliable pattern that has been repeating for maybe two years.

She asks for advice but I’m at a loss. I didn’t really have substantial friends growing up... I’m a twin and relied on that relationship for friendship. Her mom’s grasp on friendship is even more tenuous; she simply has none. I realize this is poor behavior modeling on our parts and I try but even in my 40’s I struggle to make and keep friends. She needs more help than I can give her but I don’t know how. She’s not close to any other adults except her parents, her school counselor is occupied with kids with far more pressing problems and a therapist is expensive and inconvenient given how these issues come and go well before she has a chance to talk with one.

I’m at a loss as how to get her the advice and skills she needs to be more successful with friends. Do any of you have ideas?

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parenting,insidia,2018/02/01,"Talk to me about PFAPA (periodic fever syndrome)... My 3.5 year old daughter was just diagnosed with PFAPA, and I'm wondering if anyone here has dealt with this diagnosis.  I've read all the internet stuff about it, and am relieved that it's not particularly serious or dangerous.  I'm mostly wondering about your experiences with treatment options, and how they worked for your kids.",8.66723880597015,9.550313000000003,8.730559701492544,62.30240671641794,60.79104477611939,12.670149253731346,39.13805970149254,12.161744961471696,5.3747044776119415,309,15,48,10,4,101,54,67,0.05,0.89,0.06,-0.0836,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,2,1,1,6,3,1,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,16,7,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,8,6,2,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,6,3,33,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032673692441366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29079041750517626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802509614412086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30063246819909617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865764944923694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32797276927895075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23027701471773065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6213918100355811,0.20857465783544984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449593945222814
parenting,-Darkalite-,2018/02/01,"Snoring two year old I wondered if anyone could give me some advice, my 2.5 year old daughter snores very heavily in her sleep. She frequently breath holds and wakes up many times an hour whilst sleeping and has not had the ability to breathe through her nose at any time of day for around nine months now. She sounds very nasal when she speaks and constantly has a clear runny nose when not unwell.

I suspect enlarged adenoids and/or tonsils.  The thing is when she first had milk she came out in hives so we went to semi skimmed which seemed to not have the hive effect, but I read online that dairy can be a major cause of enlarged adenoids and knowing she already showed signs of intolerance could this be true? I'm hesitant to stop her drinking milk for its benefits. 

Also, what should I do? See a doctor about medication... Surgery? (would prefer to avoid)

Just anyone with any experience please can you share with me how you solved it! 

Thanks, 

A fellow worried parent ",4.901500000000002,7.114946150000005,4.102222222222224,87.02500000000002,70.83333333333334,6.8000000000000025,27.0,7.554174236665415,1.446566666666666,777,27,143,9,15,229,132,180,0.05,0.828,0.122,0.9306,2,1,1,0,0,0,20,1,2,0,2,10,5,0,1,8,0,15,13,8,3,2,35,24,12,0,6,6,2,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,7,10,3,3,6,3,0,2,3,1,0,3,4,6,19,4,20,14,2,26,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,4,18,90,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099406826144145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922257791544844,0.11538501930510656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962381025329928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20177547776214752,0.0,0.0,0.12844463752906765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650241125256139,0.0,0.14822089864131344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592130914412086,0.0,0.23040037656955514,0.0,0.0,0.09305217644883934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768226822160102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134480736506816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113885272198431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272912694419345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841174755674227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209210054998314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929550791524152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462827960872782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535240758356185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151672667010471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028066090078344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021191312351887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838209196935127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443244920257878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497682002918745,0.13135205136089034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28877929511730266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062909381057048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283865362408098,0.0,0.0,0.09585683928985228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826800814138188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094591557383754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381012080412613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337540542864626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647141174510734,0.0,0.14652887453530428,0.0,0.10249624132460397,0.0,0.0,0.18583019371096626
parenting,Jambajuice2828,2018/02/01,"Three year old talks in riddles My three and a half year old likes to talk in riddles sometimes, and I was wondering if this was normal. 

For example, she knows what milk is. She’ll ask for milk sometimes. Other times, she asks for it in riddle form. She will say things like “I want something in the fridge. It’s white. It’s on the door. It’s start with mmm mmm (makes the m sound)” and makes me guess what she wants. The milk one is easy and one she plays often. Other times, I have a hard time figuring out what she wants when she starts the “what am I game” as I like to call it. 

Is it normal for a three year old to play this type of game? What can I do to lessen her playing it so often or at least stop playing when I don’t understand what she wants. She won’t stop until I successfully guess what she wants. She gets upset if I can’t get what she is describing. I sometimes get frustrated because the game can last a good 5-10 minutes, each of us frustrated, but she won’t come out and say what she wants.  Anyone else experience this??",1.906824969400244,3.6544584976744234,2.8185067319461474,95.00993880048959,77.97674418604652,6.200734394124848,20.152998776009788,7.0608816371341465,0.1442558139534884,807,19,186,9,19,255,108,215,0.052000000000000005,0.8540000000000001,0.094,0.6694,0,0,1,0,0,0,26,1,0,0,1,5,12,2,1,10,0,17,3,0,2,0,34,38,14,0,10,4,0,1,3,0,4,0,3,1,0,22,10,3,2,4,7,0,1,4,3,0,6,2,5,29,9,21,32,3,26,0,0,1,0,27,8,0,8,20,121,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772969793086361,0.11390247831287716,0.0,0.0,0.20784999556886266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776562752912126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351269019898486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575947595952773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286474449569558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874146363138043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423859515530385,0.0,0.0,0.09324058182545476,0.0,0.0,0.2449232786600068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958270346716826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109380531158285,0.09061494759119527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629299543490168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840804239250016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21783772284051706,0.0,0.0,0.3499493572364656,0.0,0.15065761869648234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680697984190796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558084831635426,0.3298373960084584,0.0,0.15736742214135485,0.0,0.0,0.1858791390819534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17870168574835754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385360446417266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446498042258195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157274971863891,0.13371874555185476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3934107425980259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055454611883094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476135232767654
parenting,too_many_barbie_vids,2018/02/01,"How many more people have to get sick or die before this school decides to close?! The last three days in my local school system have seen record numbers of absences for flu with hundreds of positive tests per day being confirmed. Today, a member of the system’s custodial staff died from the flu. And it turns out she worked a full TWO WEEKS while sick because admin doesn’t give them enough sick days!  Custodians touch everything! Flu spreads by contact with contaminated surfaces. Our idiot superintendent (our school board has no elected positions anymore, she was appointed by the county) says schools will stay open as long as there is enough staffing to make it happen. How dumb can this lady be?! At what point does the school start to fear liability for flu related medical costs and deaths?! They won’t close, and they won’t excuse absences unless the student is already sick at which point they have already been spreading the illness. 

Oh, but if it even is FORECASTED to snow 1/4 inch, school is called off immediately! We used five of our ten allotted snow days in one week without ever seeing a flurry. Clearly the possible cost of bus repairs due to the incompetent local bus drivers (while other rant that I have even sent to lawmakers after complaints were refused to be taken) is more concerning than possible student death in this shithole county! ",8.627707231040567,9.183779263374486,7.641014109347445,71.19527777777779,60.893004115226326,10.070429159318053,36.287184009406225,9.784248007369934,3.6134517342739567,1103,46,177,19,14,339,164,243,0.194,0.78,0.026,-0.9902,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,4,0,4,1,6,3,2,1,12,0,21,10,0,4,2,24,32,13,4,1,5,0,1,0,0,3,10,1,0,0,10,10,0,1,1,0,2,1,5,3,0,5,6,4,12,0,33,20,6,36,0,0,2,0,17,17,1,3,15,114,22,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304379182253224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354659930455376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364732701433333,0.0,0.08884516416183719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066142169238639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26934308071048313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167220557564506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136983734609606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576674588591604,0.0,0.13792355413649274,0.09444476339780973,0.0,0.0,0.0938369167977662,0.0,0.0,0.11749020407805087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545498814503561,0.10015952317340897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232936031887956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851080320807924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239950650314938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969444208019264,0.1058552858641448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518202459446788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707508738132399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238470219227286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974022728790572,0.2354130266876821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303097067594202,0.0,0.6340105677757046,0.083201199850448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390188908181525,0.11128709806504627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896840963672254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356802674190815,0.10199333471552184,0.0,0.0,0.0901766602574488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750270319966015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006474510458046,0.0,0.0760116758814125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chocol8wasted,2018/02/01,"11 year old with depression, going through a lot, questioning antidepressants. My 11 year old is going through a lot.  Last week she told me she has been sexually assaulted on a recurring basis by her uncle (my brother in law) for over a year.  We've filed the police report, had police interviews, doctor exam, and have appointments coming up for further detective interviews, and a therapist through our hospital. 

Due to all of this, she's falling behind in school. She can't stay focused and can't remember her homework. I'm trying my best to help her keep up by following the parent portal but it really only shows us overdue assignments and not upcoming due dates, so every time we feel like we are making headway in catching her up, next day has even more missed assignments listed. Her classes are C's/D's/F and the semester just barely started. The school counselor won't reply to my emails or phone calls. Teachers are  moderately responsive when I mention late assignments but they don't provide extra info about what other assignments need attention. It feels like a neverending uphill battle. Missing school days for appointments and interviews is only making it worse.  I don't know if I should tell her teachers the details of the assault and police case etc in case that can help them help her better, since the school counselor seems to be of no help. 

She's constantly crying every night.  She briefly ""feels better"" when she makes progress toward catching up but the homework list and make up work never lets up.  She's doing homework until 9 every night until she just breaks down crying herself to sleep. 

Her first therapy appointment is coming up in one week.  She really seems like she wants to try antidepressants. Myself, I'm terrified. She's so young and you hear about antidepressants increasing suicides in kids under 15.

Does anybody have any experience with antidepressant as an adolescent or with your own kids? 

Please help.",6.943641618497112,8.843598242774569,6.723206936416188,71.51109942196534,65.1271676300578,9.92906358381503,32.91514450867052,10.17224662633116,3.7605797919075137,1576,66,241,38,25,496,203,346,0.115,0.7659999999999999,0.12,0.4531,1,0,0,0,0,1,39,4,2,2,6,9,12,3,0,15,0,22,2,1,4,2,48,47,22,1,4,9,2,3,3,0,2,1,1,3,2,7,16,0,1,10,1,0,9,8,6,0,2,3,4,38,6,44,40,9,58,0,3,0,0,49,19,0,8,31,161,45,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061304926979257865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460660948886426,0.15946027046550032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205298252395798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531206866040098,0.0,0.09741986238359134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980505526696991,0.11627827234006258,0.0,0.07764585468593409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227209754470868,0.07889066095606641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054081046494616,0.059543065103763275,0.0,0.2278651783670883,0.0,0.0,0.08818376195420831,0.0,0.0,0.13674727941026316,0.1288060106180304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668133831733195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246837023482323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10160532943646328,0.0,0.3021274134095938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012924726682445,0.0,0.0,0.04954394951622354,0.07348408510448873,0.1016928539569357,0.0,0.0,0.09218423564711004,0.0,0.13212785472732494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328420136238666,0.0,0.0,0.2407026546340069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684490346147028,0.06952905112134572,0.0,0.09587529062921912,0.16919888241745665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891940129307045,0.0,0.06108780928659746,0.13712590691082574,0.0,0.0,0.10010063803580888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895736309793092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098836098522757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155044871072571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021221024560266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649454728734093,0.0,0.1641379082515593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457281160912439,0.0,0.0902148633306896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380846289002852,0.09608764749113566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860920363139533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879486222492578,0.0,0.10309410519211984,0.10467081762422857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052567049002719815,0.0,0.0,0.08614195729415808,0.0,0.1224115365370461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843905933189267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053172663117562864,0.0,0.1446253966426002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656300976869271,0.0,0.09187030536954603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416046591782733
parenting,mtlsv,2018/02/01,"Why won't my kids eat? My DH and I really enjoy food. I love to cook! My children, however, do not share our enthusiasm. I have tried to make our favourite meals 'kid friendly', No spicy flavours, nothing too crazy.. that kind of thing. Not even pepper!!

We let the kids dish up their own food, they can take as much or as little as they would like. They make suggestions on grocery day but when it comes time to eat the meal it's like, "" I don't like that!"". I am going bananas. 

I refuse to make 2 meals. I can't afford it! I also don't have the energy or time even if I wanted to. They will end up eating veggie sticks with hummus and fruit literally every night. Or a pb sandwich. 

They will eat tacos and butter chicken with rice

Please help me I am out of ideas. 

They refuse : 
Home made mac and cheese 
Home made chicken soup
Stir fry wth noodles 
Omelettes 
Grilled cheese and soup 



You get the idea. This is madness !!!",1.3415573770491775,3.6817591530054687,2.0998114754098403,96.30512704918034,83.15300546448087,4.971475409836066,18.98606557377049,6.2581,-0.20462819672131127,707,18,155,6,20,219,119,183,0.114,0.784,0.102,-0.3522,2,0,0,0,0,0,32,3,1,7,0,5,9,1,0,5,0,15,14,0,5,0,28,26,15,0,3,7,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,2,4,7,10,13,2,2,1,0,2,7,1,0,0,2,3,25,8,16,19,2,13,0,0,0,1,22,5,0,4,9,88,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277701392047044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110708186809434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828844584141711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5260302166445698,0.0,0.0,0.11383014833727285,0.0,0.0,0.16977186207280015,0.0,0.10828323882195284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31081262808884097,0.0,0.09929386254774752,0.0,0.06714614488916444,0.0,0.07304060509823983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614392535621011,0.0,0.2578311153273432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901657898514109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383330323595938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141991693150626,0.0,0.18836443748446413,0.12881032259166178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159938847732799,0.2432165550872671,0.2573633332353765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447663503789064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060686361455415,0.0,0.12331794588174573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107583955976194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233289561005237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663068478516748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538265855825387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988153158242148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725631801483062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580414287631128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596887710357999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129657978874656,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DomTheViking,2018/02/01,Single dad with two toddlers needs resource help! Hey guys! I need help! I'm a single dad in the military with custody of my two toddlers. I work from 6am to 6pm and there are no daycares that open up before 6am. I've tried going through multiple sites and posting things around my neighborhood asking for help to see if anyone can take my kids to daycare in the morning. That's all I need. Just someone to wake up and drive my kids 20 minutes on the days I work. It has been impossible finding anyone. I don't have any family where I'm stationed and all my friends have their own kids and problems and are not able to help out. I guess I'm saying is I'm desperate and I'm looking to see if anyone has advice on the situation. Thank you!,2.0123249299719888,3.935216026143792,3.5571101774042937,89.02485294117649,78.28104575163398,6.201493930905696,25.30765639589169,7.1686216300943375,1.0950676003734827,584,22,122,7,14,193,93,153,0.048,0.836,0.117,0.8852,0,0,0,0,2,0,12,0,1,1,2,4,3,0,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,2,24,26,9,0,6,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,12,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,1,4,13,2,20,25,5,15,0,0,3,0,16,11,0,3,1,73,17,2,0.15331618783610698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981880433856729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426026516465302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216067299417933,0.0,0.0,0.13648391209354305,0.1433299394627221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046078357771815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988762576225274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445328571005905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401282181252689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184517064049286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713312272019477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889506592132514,0.15180713029446022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110584357600201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874698411372673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410460318543336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683452743827133,0.0,0.0,0.14670288595571193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219231862284618,0.0,0.0,0.24434630358324536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723338188242418,0.0,0.0,0.12990430842369874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527469281775375,0.0,0.0,0.1411529470800266,0.0,0.0,0.10185646266657378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409162760183373,0.0,0.2995352756049499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22323202146334026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NemoEsq,2018/02/01,"Heartbreaking incident yesterday with my toddler - am I misinterpreting this? Hi all. Hopefully this is an appropriate sub. I feel like I want input from others but don't want to post on social media due to possible fallout with daycare.  
Yesterday I was changing my son's diaper (Ansel, 2 years 3 months old) on the same changing pad he's had since birth (with new covers, but same pad). He had the epitome of an anxiety attack - started crying historically and screaming ""me caigo"" which is Spanish for ""I'm falling"" - he would grab the change pad like he was hanging on for dear life. As he kept saying me caigo he put his hand to his head a few times and would look up like he was deathly afraid he was about to fall off the changing table, head first. I stopped and tried comforting him and asking him what happened, if he had gotten hurt, but all he kept saying is me caigo, and crying, and saying no no. He was sweating up a storm and just generally showing signs of trauma. It broke my heart.  
I checked his head and saw no signs of injury but this to me was a very specific indication that he was dropped on his head while being changed. Am I reading that wrong? He is very active and plays rough with me and likes being held upside down, jumping and throwing himself when he plays with me. We were doing just that earlier in the day with no complaints. As soon as I put him in that prone position, it started. As soon as I finished and put him on the floor, he calmed down and started playing.  
I'm not a doctor nor a psychologist - but this struck me like what I would imagine an anxiety attack brought about by trauma would look like.  
He's either in our house or at day care, and we haven't dropped him. I confronted the owner of the day care this morning and she took offense to my question, got very defensive and pretty much dismissed the possibility that a teacher could have dropped him. I'm upset that my son is experiencing this, and if it did happen at the daycare I'm upset that I wasn't contacted about it, but now I'm also very upset at the reaction from the daycare owner.  
Am I misinterpreting my son's breakdown?  
Am I wrong in thinking it's time to change daycare?  
Thank you.",5.911885157096427,6.299272647887328,6.45023474178404,78.00039003250274,66.65258215962443,9.089057421451788,32.34705669916937,8.950670267944501,2.6434983026363303,1732,68,328,27,26,565,198,426,0.179,0.682,0.139,-0.9712,0,0,0,0,0,0,49,3,1,0,1,10,33,5,4,21,0,33,9,7,0,2,62,62,35,1,10,13,3,4,6,0,4,2,4,0,0,22,25,0,5,4,5,1,10,9,17,0,1,21,12,43,16,47,34,7,57,0,3,3,0,45,18,0,5,31,214,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193640911654536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849744867506565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240491169500247,0.17622017915143906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793003743622888,0.0,0.4915883804291386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061837195459855186,0.0,0.17014947565703298,0.14984573485611613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792729371535292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03916083978819058,0.05533000254910471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587858166259873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194351225300294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369768332570018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179424940622887,0.0,0.0,0.09177813701865302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769249182853094,0.0,0.08936642824337451,0.08291138791247171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470493585168467,0.22702774517409915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130076298792783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618195238011687,0.0,0.056934360091345934,0.0,0.0,0.07480129661112615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127031624924726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462555135092298,0.07417529814634821,0.07879407662880276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335746889177873,0.08676126593676799,0.0,0.07747054892810658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18477306762711151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406710116444178,0.0,0.0,0.0789501035166745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445765523300165,0.0,0.0,0.06475132517726212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130517676299437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04962656997483993,0.0,0.0,0.09032295748820464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604934419568935,0.052583187664431014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556160916070424,0.09136354962694912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007186630709807,0.1693579367818398,0.0,0.04987499665556628
parenting,africanpinkleash,2018/02/01,"How do you teach a 3yo to express anger in a healthy way? I’ve (26F) struggled with expressing emotions in healthy ways my entire life. I typically react in anger first whenever I feel any strong emotion (disappointment, frustration, anxiety, fear, sadness) until I work out what the actual emotion is. I’ve been in therapy on and off for the past year or so, so I started to recognize this pattern. I also read everything I can get my hands on about handling emotions in a healthy and positive way. I’m trying to teach my son how to healthily manage a full range of emotions while learning/teaching it to myself. It’s hard. 

However, I’m at a loss because I’m not sure what a healthy expression of anger is. I’ve noticed him occasionally getting angry instead of sad/scared/upset when those seem like the more appropriate response for the situation (i.e. taking away a toy as a consequence or getting frustrated when he’s misunderstood). He lashes out quickly, and I’m afraid he’s got a temper like mine. He’s an extremely sweet, thoughtful and bright child 85% of the time. He does seem to know how to express other emotions, but I’ve found myself unable to explain to him the appropriate response to anger. 

So far, I’ve tried helping him recognize when he’s angry, so we’re at a point where he just yells “I’M ANGRY” at the top of his lungs. Instead of hitting and biting and throwing things (some of the issues we had at 2 years old), I told him he could jump up and down, punch pillows, go into his room and yell at the top of his lungs. These might seem silly, but those are basically the only harmless actions I could think of that a 3yo could do and understand. 

I’m starting to worry though that those aren’t actually healthy responses to anger. Should I be teaching him to express anger physically at all? He’s a giant 3yo, and he will probably be a large man. His dad is 6’6”. Maybe that doesn’t matter, but I don’t like the idea of him still “punching walls” when he’s a grown man. 

He’s not quite old enough to journal his thoughts or draw a picture of how he feels, so I’m looking for advice. ",6.598750795334041,6.40301215609756,6.989978791092259,76.69810710498409,65.2439024390244,9.862142099681867,35.63096500530223,9.43228470229965,3.2159851537645814,1664,73,316,28,23,543,213,410,0.13,0.773,0.097,-0.9609,2,0,0,0,0,0,53,1,1,0,7,22,24,9,3,27,0,20,4,3,5,2,51,50,34,0,4,9,2,4,3,0,3,1,3,2,3,14,15,0,0,13,2,0,5,5,15,0,1,7,10,29,9,52,34,5,54,0,3,2,0,39,29,0,8,20,188,43,6,0.0,0.0,0.17620931725253486,0.0,0.0,0.08822497882252614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220049048980977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139656318038424,0.0,0.06906740347209854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482526967176744,0.0,0.0,0.055036599657420894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21625450553557105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790085836228173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6093475346196855,0.0,0.09328803399735368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114189652807162,0.0,0.0,0.10159517498757127,0.09130112258784193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679595857522843,0.0,0.09899230578657313,0.0,0.0,0.1415097912627305,0.0,0.05131076796846948,0.0,0.07220877075570781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808771877921584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06051580432419186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192022297342808,0.0,0.09423357239049876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04961800586937767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377061985096752,0.13232535426393294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581625014993944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070292593795927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095777598179667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278951369401744,0.1894768127230718,0.0,0.0,0.0686654386699338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618678125139083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853480450283716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734197261677108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602869033908384,0.09030894284812373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465748827416261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148357266164514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780768255694494,0.0,0.07210132677232667,0.0,0.0,0.09438497332432204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509208274585625,0.0,0.06788271590818909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032482062183151,0.0,0.05998101707839215,0.057850668849207636,0.0887040732427462,0.14335163304143952,0.052645624166452784,0.0,0.0,0.08627071891435703,0.0,0.12259451250219315,0.0,0.0,0.09398935956529747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21499092629473496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572819898364046,0.09168830300573133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628052943571625
parenting,blondebrunette,2018/02/01,"Stroller struggle I need recommendations on how to extend the handle bar for my stroller. I’m tall and the handle bar just is a touch to short for me to push comfortably for longer than around the block or so. We have a vacation coming up and will need to be using the stroller heavily. 
Until now I’ve just dealt with it being slightly out of my normal reach. I tried purchasing handlebars like [this](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002I7PRUQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_xc0CAbDDC5SKV) but they don’t open up wide enough for me to get them onto the single handle bar. I tried taking the stroller apart a little to see if I could get them to attach anywhere and slide up to the handle bar but didn’t have much luck. Short of disassembling the whole stroller to add them I’m at a loss. 
Anyone else have this issue?? How did you fix it??

Stroller in question:
[Kolcraft Cloud Stroller](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019DHBCXE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_MP0CAbNPBYDCA) ",7.906297918948521,9.441759180722897,6.218346111719607,77.35869112814899,62.61445783132529,8.68696604600219,29.548740416210297,8.841846274778883,2.2053686746987955,768,24,132,11,11,224,103,166,0.043,0.885,0.07200000000000001,0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,1,1,4,1,8,5,0,1,12,0,11,4,0,3,0,26,21,11,0,5,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,10,4,1,1,4,1,3,2,2,0,0,2,2,14,3,27,15,4,21,0,1,1,0,7,16,0,4,3,84,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641113897312106,0.2291996088885405,0.0,0.19913393117664585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926914564317608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860042121451775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868665496415398,0.0,0.0,0.2311343589111172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23374040936543594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334770646254604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928495547581242,0.22419885447457405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443987503435245,0.3317306095817964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191713543715413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505870217136759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825412260920878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338521819505696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818907367079752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037453233714751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319867361184084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497449142465756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CrChronicles,2018/02/01,"Parents who limit screen time: How and why? I'm a newish mother. My son will be one this weekend. My husband and I grew up with TVs constantly running and the background and unlimited access to technology. My use of technology was a little greater than his. I got my first computer at 3, owned every game system and didn't go outside until I was in middle. Our TV is on 24/7. My son has few little interest in TV. He'll look at it once every 30 minutes or so for a minute, but I worry about the constant simulation. He often gets very overwhelmed to point were I have to take him into a fairly empty room and place one toy in front of him until he calms down. My husband and I want to cut back on mindless media consumption but I have no idea where to start.",2.77128205128205,4.5513313267973885,4.501960784313726,83.74805429864256,75.60130718954248,6.7991955756661655,24.841126194067375,7.61054688173877,1.2994166918049277,595,20,117,8,13,201,108,153,0.1,0.838,0.062,-0.8296,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,2,6,4,1,1,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,18,20,14,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,9,0,1,1,5,0,4,2,2,0,3,5,2,17,2,23,12,3,31,0,1,2,0,15,17,0,2,9,81,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723621431324166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138434683110426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32266012773808994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287269468224044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004033829594756,0.0,0.10882243285046404,0.0,0.1531439582351656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21615748623068276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838263021458874,0.0,0.0,0.16079488024785973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039198312007569,0.2595034549232449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126157552028369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000557282570987,0.0,0.18101038567042496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553045007407855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439690456039452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165346237353273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653771439771849,0.0,0.15799096077009833,0.11293979885365375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278081588144145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944571206407499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,What2Do4Kids,2018/02/01,"How to discuss parent on life support to pre-teen and teen daughters R/parenting, I need your help... My wife has had a serious illness for 10+ years and is periodically hospitalized. When talking with our daughters, she’s always brushed off her hospital visits so our daughters don’t worry much about the next one. Well she’s in the hospital again but it’s much more serious this time. She’s currently unresponsive and on life support - lack of O2 to the brain for an extended time. We’re still waiting for more info from the doctors, but the test results look very bad. Every conversation with the hospital staff starts with questions about her wishes re: resuscitation and whether to pursue quality of life (pain meds) vs life extension. Palliative and hospice staff keep checking in. 

Our daughters (16 and 9) haven’t been to the hospital to see her yet (they know she has the flu and needs to rest in the hospital). I want to take them to see her today, but I need to prep them for what they will see (eg, ventilator) and explain that she’s still “sleeping”. I don’t think I will share the prognosis yet as there’s still a lot of uncertainty and it will create a lot of worry and stress. I would really appreciate advice from people who have been through something similar (or have relevant training). Good and bad experiences (what to do and not to do) will be helpful. 

Because the doctors keep raising the question about life support and life saving measures, I would also appreciate advice on how/when to discuss with our daughters their mom’s wishes for no extraordinary life saving measures and, if the time comes, removal of life support.

Thank you all so much. ",5.66545736871824,7.456383642857148,6.0300112930547725,75.6817871259176,68.0909090909091,8.992885375494073,33.196499153020895,9.43228470229965,3.2393507622811963,1334,61,231,28,23,428,164,308,0.109,0.762,0.13,0.7140000000000001,3,0,1,0,0,0,43,4,2,5,0,16,16,0,1,17,0,20,15,2,2,1,52,44,26,0,10,8,8,0,0,0,6,13,0,0,0,7,19,0,3,6,0,1,3,5,6,1,1,3,5,28,10,41,34,10,26,0,0,4,0,40,7,0,6,16,159,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16564437481696245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677790194357575,0.07052344543454994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415347646989505,0.05166622459974597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461527540505828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730094411116138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350188765216334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141024504135854,0.0,0.0,0.08290723613338702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108897265556548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361977874759185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066933587593764,0.0,0.0,0.04657945896723144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4789230713516078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117335433038739,0.0,0.0,0.14411235352454327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414436028558262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992647295818191,0.0,0.0,0.1869153453148558,0.18853560132095626,0.0,0.0,0.09013853779204127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743258528735917,0.0,0.0901859297725566,0.0,0.18822211824093,0.0,0.0,0.058758858486067836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989132931919406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05429660503732982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026177098123949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084816805397604,0.0,0.0,0.06524899852287826,0.0,0.0,0.05999044702673404,0.0,0.2030577851545967,0.0,0.09708724876693092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847185834024113,0.0,0.0,0.06372566016767615,0.06812333751546969,0.0,0.07803156544957107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05430796358447766,0.0,0.0,0.14826500870195086,0.0,0.08033839472031645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993224295795461,0.0499910464153026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620545946982632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194929504983264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214684358229373,0.0,0.12041588716924485,0.0,0.0,0.05457982495102262
parenting,ohoh-nono,2018/02/01,"I have a 7 month old and a positive pregnancy test. Tips and reassurance for unexpected close-in-age babies? Not to be all, ""How the hell did this happen?!"" but...wow. Apparently condoms really *are* only 94-98% effective. We used one every time, no breakage, no leaks...but, well, here we are. Also, even though I knew this: *breastfeeding is NOT birth control.*

Anyway, I wouldn't say I'm happy about this yet. We will be. We'll definitely be keeping the baby. But I'm definitely not there yet, re: happiness. Mostly shock and fear right now. And guilt, because I had expected to be able to focus solely on my perfect daughter for at least a few years, if not forever. And now...that's not what's happening. Which is fine, I know, theoretically. But ugh.

I created a new account because I've written a lot in the past about my difficult pregnancy and now...here I am. It feels weird to connect those two worlds, as it were.

Can someone who has been here reassure me that my entire world isn't about to come crashing down? That I haven't destroyed my daughter's childhood by having to split my time and energy? I know lots of people choose this path and/or are happy about it, but I need some reassurance or tough love to help get me there.

TIA.",1.83551404662283,4.449122878661086,3.5874641362821293,84.54530857740588,83.81171548117155,6.928930065750152,23.18006575014943,8.07648339933343,1.5932174536760308,964,35,187,21,28,321,153,239,0.092,0.73,0.179,0.9725,1,0,0,0,0,0,62,4,0,0,3,17,19,2,2,8,0,23,2,0,4,2,40,38,16,0,4,10,2,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,13,11,0,2,6,0,1,1,10,9,1,2,6,2,21,10,20,25,7,20,1,0,0,2,13,7,1,6,12,125,34,1,0.15629625429158098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499005808869595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905534918535278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463538365604635,0.0,0.0,0.17529953932826492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032322018945082,0.0,0.13168633524282947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587673902326167,0.07902808234680994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816583419773502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27642452298747705,0.4991408070312812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476208466800438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892329219345112,0.0,0.0,0.17179266771696164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657549723835133,0.1410634717113349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475417902229488,0.0,0.0,0.1158916921345602,0.0,0.15095189633841527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640066270191075,0.0,0.10591038688682942,0.1188703443677038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920246001111967,0.10835614319207072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001273826935084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334761471767855,0.0,0.12429305468496392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242930906074069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356027628205102,0.0,0.18227520555720605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526787297088811,0.0,0.0,0.13498978120382346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052910303367988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064966338979216
parenting,RealtorDad,2018/02/01,Looking to find some support with a similar situation using intunive xr. Hey everyone. I recently have decided (with my doctors help) to have my daughter who is 9 be put on a medication called intuniv xr. Im wondering if anyone has used this or had success. I'm also having trouble with the fact that we are doing this. Looking for a little support with my decision. Just some feed back with others experience. Please ask questions about our situation and I will tell you.,3.3841379310344815,6.3452980459770085,5.5708160919540255,70.6182931034483,80.0344827586207,8.997241379310344,32.83793103448276,9.3871,4.16170896551724,378,21,59,12,10,131,68,87,0.031,0.84,0.129,0.8271,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,10,3,0,2,1,20,19,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,7,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,8,3,10,16,2,5,0,0,2,0,11,2,0,6,2,45,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138333629114144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095302437516176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16171480302662866,0.0,0.0,0.13301246719960466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663394494006435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705438922605746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529169750437622,0.0,0.16920957177648704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581023984070965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594617673834755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685022523488876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733733907199959,0.0,0.0,0.2905225977806101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17426114900014975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898822715527408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738946706150653,0.1937794094744238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079883927069353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888779925597784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925958082069239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119387741918294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988017865228594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875915813826644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,worksafereads,2018/02/01,"Sometimes its best to let things play out Figured i'd share a funny story that occurred a while ago. While we were at my inlaws holiday party the adults were chatting and the kids were playing and my 6 month old daughter was in the bouncer gnawing on her giraffe. My niece (~2yo) decided she wanted to take the giraffe from my daughter (my niece seems to think of my daughter like a doll) , as i keep having to play ""mean uncle"" throughout the day i figured i'd watch this play out and hope her parents would step in or i would if it got bad. So my niece decides to start pulling it away but my daughter has it clamped in her hand and wont let go. The niece keeps pulling and pulling and putting her weight into it while my daughter gives her a look of ""why the heck do you want it?"". Then i swear my daughter gets a devilish look, and you could see the thought pop into her head of ""if you really want it that badly"" and just as my niece leans back to pull she lets go of it sending my niece falling backwards onto her butt. Which of course got her parents attention who wound up asking her why she took the giraffe.

i kept myself from laughing but at home the wife and i had a good laugh out of it.  ",5.448941798941796,5.215484761316873,5.3101499118165805,87.90638888888891,67.64197530864197,7.765902410346856,31.76043503821282,6.5431188927421005,1.6020114050558498,939,35,200,5,14,291,133,243,0.053,0.7909999999999999,0.156,0.9664,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,3,0,1,3,13,0,0,16,0,15,5,3,0,0,40,39,21,0,9,6,9,2,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,15,15,1,3,9,6,0,11,1,2,0,0,10,6,35,11,30,22,1,36,0,0,4,1,33,15,2,5,11,133,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650331474242255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286777880458802,0.0,0.12348127432472672,0.10106029931868662,0.2194743883285516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792595952062894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493485422180243,0.0,0.0,0.08476042197554856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686658956785055,0.126078062620414,0.1493875360454239,0.11023587613737038,0.2102305377828827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348834185365102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183336509462848,0.1305380204626749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336391373637245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031832201681428,0.0,0.06420925994187056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22073344934269531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431640179290491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490486623618413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791195937582568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29187128942278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212180656652878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419637538686835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473139001148198,0.11964744647132715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299860125995586,0.0,0.0930256724893998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881777325791946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731516507749093,0.08421398879932482,0.0,0.10433944031644553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602174826829553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23255956281638834,0.0,0.0,0.1600443403310386,0.0,0.0,0.2371873122512765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867258778274273,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poop_in_da_shoot,2018/02/01,"Son(9) tells us he's being bullied, but when we investigate, all signs point to him being the bully. My son is 9, and generally is a sweet as can be, with normal moments of child behavior.  He has been diagnosed and is being treated for A.D.D. and has responded well to treatment.  

We have recently moved and while things were a bit chaotic(we also had a death in the family immediately after moving)  things settled down and we resumed life.

In the past two weeks, we have received several calls and messages from his bus driver about how he has been moved several times because he is treating the children around him harshly and this Monday she told me that he threatened to punch a kindergartner.  

When questioned about these things, he states that the other children are saying mean things to him and that he either didn't do it or he is saying things back because of what they have said to him.  

His excuse for the punching allegation was that the other little boy was the one telling him that he was going to get his mother to punch my son.

His story changes a lot, and we have had some issues with lying lately, so it's hard to believe anything he says as the truth.  Especially when everyone else's stories contradict his.

Today I received a message from his teacher stating that my son had pushed another child at breakfast and had caused that child to fall backwards into another student, causing that child to drop his tray, making a mess.

I messaged his teacher back saying that we had been having some behavioral issues and had had several talks with our son about personal responsibility, keeping our hands to ourselves and about the power of our words, and remembering that just because someone else says something hurtful to us, it doesn't mean we need to respond.  We've talked to him about how his actions effect others, we've talked and talked and talked. We've talked about consequences and how some have the ability to follow us around long after our actions.  We've taken things away, we've grounded, and those sorts of things only seem to fuel his behavior.

I'm not sure what to do.",9.271454150841016,8.330717051546394,8.340705371676611,71.6359820944113,60.18556701030928,10.745740640260443,37.68909386869235,9.682069395223575,3.615482474226805,1688,67,286,25,19,525,197,388,0.099,0.866,0.035,-0.9805,1,0,1,0,0,0,38,14,0,1,2,21,8,0,0,18,0,38,4,1,7,3,61,51,30,1,2,5,5,2,0,0,0,2,6,0,8,28,30,1,1,6,0,0,11,3,2,1,2,18,9,38,6,46,29,7,43,0,1,0,0,80,12,0,8,17,209,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270397969091313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443821350899826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452426644025863,0.13960200364888986,0.0,0.0,0.07366822511441844,0.1205839981981574,0.0,0.14339295219869333,0.0,0.0,0.08834055847585602,0.0,0.0,0.08560277174134061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006477793703186,0.0,0.0,0.1610961331747593,0.08294676282334251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958390425252744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100200749701835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492355481282782,0.0,0.0,0.07391741683998693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040965682352974944,0.0,0.04456187666861018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023943336636226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393889891204957,0.0,0.0,0.16367811269121454,0.0,0.06969388946208332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844923376302341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538288763531839,0.0,0.07858683127355211,0.0,0.06938986359529385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666087945678807,0.0,0.0,0.05233889240663683,0.0,0.0,0.17082167573597667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500103932166127,0.0,0.058139586628516274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682457738848772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053132247876034176,0.05963389227161624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485065744775136,0.0,0.06846407552363355,0.0,0.0,0.07412223997111865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783648801822007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741983650283686,0.0,0.08882258055545975,0.0,0.07458530786526801,0.31177156390938543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138098524830369,0.0,0.2657409568926955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643604165647908,0.060363397291530216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389994433772891,0.0,0.0,0.3781350991153794,0.13706656696268982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646421119643568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045721159595371576,0.0,0.07432295587748915,0.07492355481282782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659460370925232,0.0,0.28295061062847043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289530197042366,0.0,0.07049947937741642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kennyjamst,2018/02/01,"18 year old son has over 600k in bitcoin(when they were worth 15k) So had to make a throw away account because my son knows my real account. On the crapper right now and I have to go to work in an hour so I'll have to make this short. I'll probably go into more detail in the crypto sub tomorrow. 

Got a call a bit ago from a friend who does our taxes. He's really professional but also a close family friend that has been like an uncle to my son all his life. He called to tell me my son emailed him last night not sure what to do with the money he has made since he was 10.

Back story to make things quick. When my son was little, I would always explain how money is handles and how trading works. Every month I would give him $50 to play with in the stock market. I would help him when he first started off only buying apple and dow stock and then let him trade on his own after he seemed to have a basic understanding. Rules were, if he makes any profit that month, he can keep it but the base amount has to be kept there until he's older. He would do an okay job, once got $300 from just the 50 I gave him that month in profit. I felt a bit disappointed at first as to how he would always take the money he earned out instead of reinvesting it but now I couldn't be more proud, and or worried.

Looks like my son got into the bitcoin community early and had been buying bitcoin with his profits but looks like he was doing some other things to make money to buy more bit coin as well and I just hope it was legal.

My friend said my son wanted to have a private conversation with him before telling me about the amount of money he has been saving. Looks like he made a good majority trading and starting early so I feel a bit better knowing that. I knew he had bitcoins but he o ly told me about it when it was starting to be all over the news and thought me how they work. He has physical coins with the keys and wallets on them so he's been saving them and not linking them to his identity.

My friend explained how my son is intimidated of telling me and my wife about the money, mostly my wife. She likes to brag and her side of the family is a bunch of moochers. He's also afraid of how to report it now that he's going to do his taxes for the first time.

How can I best help my son feel safe with his money and what would be the best tips to give him  on what he should spend the money on to build credit and put downpaymets on anything should he decide to cash out.


Edit: Uggghhhhh so for all the people wanting to complain about my friend telling me about my son's money, chill the hell out. My friend files taxes as his actual saliered job but does it for me as a friend for free. Me and my wife are not millionaires either so we don't deal with tax returns any larger than most people. Next, my son email my friend to have him arrange the conversationsation. We don't live that close so my son thought it would be awkward to explain to me why he wanted me to drive him for 2 hours to see his uncle. My friend called me this morning to bring him over after school and explained to me why it was urgent because my son asked him to explain it to me. My sons personal information is his right to remain protected, if I was snooping into his personal stuff I might have actually know about the money before hand, did you think of that? Thanks for anyone who did freak out like someone is leaking social security numbers out there",5.473915362731155,5.131807527738268,5.917735064011384,83.93833801564725,67.60597439544807,8.452475106685633,27.247830725462304,7.6454224807358475,1.3409226458036985,2704,68,573,25,40,873,291,703,0.046,0.773,0.181,0.9988,2,0,0,0,0,0,44,3,1,5,11,36,41,1,2,35,1,61,2,1,14,4,114,113,51,0,16,15,17,4,6,9,10,1,1,0,2,28,36,0,5,20,1,32,7,6,6,1,3,31,9,81,36,95,65,21,74,1,1,4,0,113,32,1,9,41,377,109,25,0.0,0.0,0.11788073624580148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353975746465312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966015544348218,0.10051302762699406,0.0,0.0,0.08214630399246323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04223213922405096,0.0,0.04970294124568045,0.0,0.056464582934505264,0.0,0.0567465182719375,0.046442832350224166,0.0,0.07363691079722258,0.0,0.10278960225111236,0.0,0.12676931016324292,0.05341769616988282,0.26375872328694033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18502131863849494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062268354292956025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057105282786821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088846615806508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387694053467225,0.0,0.06107874270517982,0.0,0.05799217413287384,0.0,0.0,0.15412517814666982,0.0,0.0,0.41997461260331176,0.0,0.0,0.11587977405165376,0.10297783113464153,0.05065952059258659,0.1449189496811018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096788160207201,0.0,0.0,0.05998948588664176,0.11896100437216713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198726775303096,0.053685093751884745,0.0,0.0,0.09958055261995401,0.04923295965790615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617617100118438,0.04266135148863722,0.17704637221042896,0.060535312882480034,0.05333311299606997,0.0,0.15215895833014728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430132278358045,0.2015828336893708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407342111820856,0.0,0.0,0.14462887448906211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423464766590717,0.05668003990508012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337822123586441,0.06432258923198238,0.0,0.04593589369313717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374563565278341,0.1054755400076222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511995834612172,0.0,0.0,0.060717323751716235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874688470281576,0.038692920691417616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316023125694232,0.057452945676658276,0.0,0.0,0.06112665660109892,0.04812990284909847,0.05498466099014205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04996238600927195,0.0,0.0,0.06156881575221555,0.051175578696502605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282514223929236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914200204395271,0.0,0.0,0.056925011226248864,0.0,0.04541226681080507,0.0,0.21116432314039,0.05560696053264506,0.0,0.0,0.080252356279658,0.03870101503476853,0.0,0.0958995602981928,0.03521893753193086,0.0,0.0,0.05771349676989172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628771229443558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687406291231748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05430563840026112,0.0,0.10900077134888764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191280590227614,0.061337759160338935,0.0,0.30033826777162986,0.0,0.0,0.038894749252360084
parenting,lumpymum,2018/02/01,"When is the best time to have another baby? We have an 11 month old little girl and since she was born my husband has realised he wants more. He loves her, and being a parent. So far it's been off limits! 

Those with experience... 
What's the age gap between your children? 
If you could change when you had a second baby would you? 

I feel like all age gaps come with their challenges and similarly no time is ever perfect.",1.8508701472556872,4.297815987951807,2.934377510040161,90.45034805890228,81.89156626506025,5.13467202141901,20.065595716198125,6.42735559955562,0.17249772423025433,329,9,66,3,9,105,68,83,0.024,0.794,0.182,0.9361,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,4,1,4,4,5,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,3,16,15,7,0,4,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,10,5,5,9,3,14,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,1,11,47,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692551166264422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694736646039196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716380799960807,0.221192327498324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20501709620224096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322712599243967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511790837949571,0.0,0.0,0.12983515178058522,0.18344293222101768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544922390373967,0.2573599647955907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317530264743513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20495850699679527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694463117376554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28512263473383404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241019980209536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994597398365508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145487682576664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824083977716132,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tina_eatthefood,2018/02/01,"Back to work after maternity leave I have a 2 year old very energetic boy and a 4 month old.  I took a 3 month maternity leave and have been back at work for a little over a month. 
While I was on maternity leave, I was handling things great!  My husband works 60 hours a week but would still help with dishes and putting our 2 year old to bed when he got home and my MIL would take the 2 year old once a week so I could nap more with the baby during that day and try to rest. 
I was keeping the house clean, doing projects and crafts with our son, potty training our son, cooking, and nursing the newborn. I was even hitting the gym about twice a week! 
Now that I am back at work,  I’m struggling to keep up!   I work three 12 hour shifts, but have to wake up at 4:30am in order to pump, get ready, drive 40 min, and be at work in time to park and take the shuttle downtown to my actual job. Then by the time I get home, shower, eat, and pump it’s like 10pm before I can get to bed. 
On my off days I feel so worn out.  The first day I’m off I am catching up on laundry and household stuff.  Then I try to get our 2 year old out of the house to burn some energy.  But I feel like everything i do at home now is sub-par and I’m just in survival mode. 
I talked my husband into us getting a maid service come once or twice a month to help with some of the cleaning that I haven’t been able to get to.  He acts like I’m being spoiled but gave in to keep me happy i guess.  I tell him I still have a ton of other stuff to do around the house and the maid service is just a basic package of cleaning bathrooms and appliances/ dusting/ wiping things down... and it’s only at most twice a month.  We still have 28 days left to manage lol
I also haven’t been cooking for the last month.  It’s been a real struggle and we’ve been living off of takeout.  I try to buy healthier takeout options to make up for it. 
Oh and I also haven’t been to the gym since I’ve been back at work either.  I’m not complaining about actually working.  I love my job and the kids stay the night with my in-laws in between shifts so it’s just easier on everybody.
I have no idea how to balance work and Home life with 2 kids and a husband that works 60 hours a week (I’m really not complaining about him though because he does help out a lot when he is home)
I feel like I shouldn’t feel this way because my inlaws keep the kids when I work and now I have the maid service to help out with some other things.   I just can’t get it together to actually cook! 
What are some tips that you guys have to make meal times easier? 

Oh!  Side note:  the 2 year old is now peeing in the potty at home and is wearing regular cotton underwear!  He still refuses to use the potty in public and wears a pull up and he refused to actually poop in the potty (so I have to catch him when he starts to go so he doesn’t shit everywhere)
But I’m super excited about the progress!!! 

 



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parenting,hou8182,2018/02/01,"Advice getting newborn to sleep in bassinet  Our newborn always cries within 30 seconds of being placed in her bassinet. We tried putting her in there while she was sleep but she somehow realizes that she is no longer being held and wakes up crying all within 30 seconds or so. Since she has been home from the hospital, she has never not slept on top of mom's chest. This is obviously not sustainable or the best practice because I don't want her to be rolled over on or get to the point where she is incapable of sleeping in her own crib. I realize that she is only less than a week old and its good for babies to bond by being close to their parents, but I also know that us holding her in bed the whole night gives us little rest too. We have also tried swaddling her, talking to soothe her and rubbing her chest since we place her in the bassinet on her back.

Any advice? ",7.102787411689148,6.281340075144509,6.571406551059727,82.18571612074503,64.4335260115607,9.07617212588311,33.095054592164416,7.793537801064563,2.200920873474631,695,24,138,6,9,215,109,173,0.083,0.848,0.069,0.1227,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,1,2,8,2,0,0,6,0,14,7,7,0,3,24,21,12,0,1,7,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,7,0,2,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,4,1,27,2,26,13,6,27,0,0,0,0,30,20,0,4,6,107,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665822358366125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816234404534893,0.1134979547818515,0.0,0.0,0.09275849823798253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488523946544047,0.0,0.08314980624157269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314619480002766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996638728084517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252953850132336,0.13084987753282634,0.0,0.1144080944178722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682300726105395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496334438923997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367113172580577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159753167476281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052021539493891,0.0,0.0,0.1280046727883588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313166477636707,0.0,0.0,0.1037403828804264,0.0,0.0,0.15145903134355074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28502353259420626,0.0,0.1289446196054962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712236569414776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256674089698135,0.0,0.40950355804832456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963530544030528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521692881262414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281512527490369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045383333982402,0.0,0.10941400031500824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228871835748875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blainesbooks,2018/02/01,"Books vs. Screens What are your thoughts in regards to screen time versus books for toddlers? I've read that screen time is damaging to toddlers, but they seem to love it and it occupies them well.
Appreciate your opinions!",3.8827500000000015,7.107111775,2.870000000000001,88.73500000000001,81.25,6.2,30.5,7.554174236665415,2.2161000000000004,181,9,32,3,5,52,32,40,0.043,0.708,0.249,0.903,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,4,2,5,4,0,3,0,1,3,1,5,1,0,2,2,18,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868675092429419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4287595137907425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3902209589405592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34029507236798273,0.4998909633740095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854019995909117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IWillSoonTravel,2018/02/01,"Having troubles in brushing my 2-yo son's teeth My eldest (one and only as of this time) always cries whenever brushing time comes in. I tried to model, let him watch videos and bought new set of toothbrush just to encourage him to brush his teeth, still he cries. He cries like he was being beaten. He closes his mouth firmly when i brush his teeth and struggles out from my arms. I am getting really frustrated and runs out of other options. I don't want him to have bad teeth as he grows up. Any tips? ",3.645075757575757,5.3871011212121225,4.016047979797978,88.31073863636368,73.14141414141416,6.566161616161617,22.476010101010104,7.1686216300943375,0.709655555555555,397,10,78,4,8,124,67,99,0.22,0.728,0.052000000000000005,-0.9518,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,3,7,2,1,0,0,7,6,6,0,0,11,11,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,5,0,1,2,5,13,2,15,7,0,15,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,1,6,45,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18032953136628133,0.0,0.0,0.14737795539704396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18095328179821726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866862604322141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7141747072202815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322796491442075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216122722747404,0.0,0.10587910869055857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093108384090411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685600123770468,0.1648263588938013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388372516519866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307395676041076,0.0,0.0,0.2265642190406408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527439338080702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713957638302366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782787223502684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bequietbestill,2018/02/01,"Worse than a Soap Opera *TL;DR I'm 31, single mom, recently recovering from near deadly car accident and dealing with recent medical issue, been living with widower father with my two sons (9&11). Since I've been able to walk and be mobile again it's progressively gotten more physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive toward me in front of the kids. I'm making decisions and changing, but have a few obstacles. Need advice, please? 


If I told you all the insane situations I've found myself in as an adult, you wouldn't believe me. I'm educated, with a degree in nursing. Top of national scores. I'm a divorced (for 6+ years) and a mother of 2 boys (the youngest of which is on the spectrum). I've gone from a successful person to a shell of what I was due to a years long string of bad decisions, and lots of just plain bad luck. I most recently endured a near fatal car accident that left me disfigured, and somewhat disabled- thankfully no where near as bad of a prognosis as I had). This week, I've had to go in for secondary (as well as definitive) cancer testing to the right breast. Needless to say, I'm worried and stressed beyond belief. 
The issue I'm currently having that is compounding my anxiety, anger, stress, and my children (emotionally and in school) is concerning my 62 year old father. After the wreck, I had to move to my childhood home with him. I was unable to walk at all for almost 9 months. It was difficult moving until this past summer. My arms have had multiple skin grafts that were staged and healing with complications lasted a year. I was unable to care for myself and so grateful he was there for me in a time of true need. The downside, we have a terrible history involving physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. I could write a book, but at its peak he kicked me so hard I miscarried. This was about 3 years ago- when I was loving independently. He has continued to be gradually more emotionally and verbally abusive since I've been back walking. Now that I'm almost back to my full physical capacity it's become physical again. He has hit me in the face in front of my kids. 
I've been looking for a rental ASAP for about a month now. I can afford it, and I think it would be best to find something now. Problem has been, my oldest son has been having a bad time at school. He's gone from a straight a student for the last 5 years and in 3 advanced classes to literally failing. My baby is soooo smart. He was a a preemie when born and weighed 3 lbs. he's always been above average academically and talented artistically in many forms. This year he is at a new private Catholic school, that he wanted to go to, and is being bullied, doesn't like any facet of the school, and has been struggling. Seeing and hearing the constant negative berating filth spewed almost as soon as he enters the door is effecting the kids I have no doubt. And I have to make this better for them. I'm communicating with their father about maybe moving away from this small town and back to a city we loved and thrived in. Until the end of the school year I am stuck here. In a small, Mississippi town that is literally dying. The abusive household is just the cherry on top of a 6 year streak of unbelievable bad fortune. So- back to the rental issue. I can't find anything that will work for us, within a 40 mile radius. Some that ""work"" have 12 month leases. I can't find any short leases. I'd even settle with a 6 mo lease if I could find one this month. 
I'm not sure what a solution to all this is. I feel like I'm making the best moves I can, but that my hands are tied on so many levels. 
I should probably elaborate on some of the situation surrounding my father, and I will. I think i need to breathe, and reread this and edit to elaborate. But until then- if you read this, please help with any advice you can offer. Feel free to ask anything as well. Thanks. ",4.313535494365052,5.835313026490071,5.376849076333219,80.10513884047872,71.05298013245033,8.583013825955618,27.682700127802953,9.08713915112311,2.2631236203090506,3065,109,586,62,57,1011,346,755,0.172,0.713,0.115,-0.9942,5,0,1,0,4,0,105,3,4,2,12,28,34,1,4,50,0,63,12,6,5,5,91,102,52,3,13,10,8,5,2,0,5,3,2,2,7,28,38,1,0,13,4,1,17,8,15,2,2,27,9,54,20,104,63,16,113,1,1,2,3,47,43,0,13,54,380,82,16,0.05634432557770187,0.26703524926910355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011804569962357,0.04994584500256268,0.0,0.16926210943530418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046882992530461874,0.0610490532230294,0.0,0.11494822056626808,0.0,0.043103254845740964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927331582055503,0.0,0.05267433849028956,0.0,0.05293734862203011,0.17330123376638112,0.23522579176664699,0.0,0.06222788085173324,0.0,0.06348076031746196,0.11825978705031005,0.04983197720042639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574467950789187,0.0,0.059604825470251775,0.0,0.0,0.0608881992611208,0.0,0.08997271838859049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058088525599576876,0.0,0.0,0.05847651432787487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25351913014409266,0.04990434857998721,0.0,0.0,0.037214895648081656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056978767939289576,0.0402523974508388,0.0,0.0,0.20599077125798326,0.0,0.0,0.06177864476706285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404355736260091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050473448564206345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350414990692099,0.0,0.03776641374732398,0.0,0.056517952589935486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17642651156329192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185629104556996,0.0,0.0,0.061218274601444723,0.0,0.0,0.05505398283089637,0.0,0.0497530717610084,0.049862955083741264,0.04731504280425779,0.0,0.0,0.04790193071401206,0.10170590732643713,0.0,0.11283082453192335,0.11424860508839488,0.05660544823489131,0.0,0.0,0.05676098029584345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659897931368339,0.17989401247959969,0.2395404047318507,0.0,0.12533581043852668,0.0,0.05441770074666029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05912389155805301,0.0,0.03818037321405805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05378703425724647,0.0,0.049197691792498936,0.0,0.12369829920180145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060748712735129815,0.053913910110478434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05635957315240098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668996722336848,0.0,0.0,0.04811774618319281,0.0,0.044807269195023466,0.0,0.2851173278230634,0.04489913256100415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932172167281397,0.12666676536807275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043376614564403566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908446916330565,0.05890332275847322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05310386004928061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037485697861334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722063374920789,0.0,0.0,0.06570965870684313,0.0,0.0,0.05383941767252064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504021893869868,0.0,0.06777528617614723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03323334305686652,0.0,0.04519601934110557,0.0,0.1013206307516556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203868015649164,0.05722039764280535,0.057419681394080026,0.040025392292723234,0.0,0.0,0.3265550851568567
parenting,C_Alan,2018/02/01,"I delivered my daughter... My family is a bit different because we have a lot of kids (7 now). When I got married 17 years ago my wife and I decided we wanted a large family. We are not particularly religious, we just like kids.

So this brings me to the arrival of my latest kid. My wife was due on January 30th, and she had been having contractions on and off all weekend.

So Monday afternoon at 3pm I get a text message from her that the latest batch of contraction are getting stronger, and that today might be the day. I called her to check in at around 4pm, and her contractions were so strong she could hardly talk to me on the phone. I decided that I was coming home and taking her to the hospital. The one issue was I work in Bakersfield, 50 miles from our house near Tehachapi, California. My wife told me she thought we still had time because the contractions were still pretty irregular. Weve done this a few times before, so I tend to trust her on these issues.

I get home at 5.. she is obviously in pain. By the time I got her from the house to the van, she had 3 contractions. I told her I didn’t think she would make it to the hospital in Bakersfield. She gave me the look of death and told me she would make it. Our other option was the smaller hospital in Tehachapi, 15 miles away.

No way, she tells me, let’s go to Bakersfield..

We get I the van, head out and get on the road to town. About 2 miles from the house another contraction hits, and hits hard..now Tehachapi hospital is an option.

Two more miles and I hear ‘Oh Crap, my water broke...’. This was shortly followed by: ‘OH MY GOD IM CROWNING’ by now I’m looking for a wide enough spot to pull off the road. We weren’t going to make it to any hospital. The baby was coming, and was not going to wait for us.

With the help of 911, I delivered the baby. I never in my life thought I would have to deliver my own daughter. The baby was out and crying before the first emergency responders even pulled up. They wrapped up mom and baby and they got an ambulance ride down the hill to Bakersfield.

I’m happy to report mommy and baby are now home and doing well.

Looking back, having a baby on the side of the road was one of those things that happened to other people. I never thought my wife and I would experience that.

Edit:  Thanks for all the kind words.  The r/Parenting community is IMO one of the best on Reddit.",2.683991409725415,4.497488291404615,4.111677660172827,86.30558674643352,75.93920335429769,7.756383903461678,24.003119087794648,8.556025622055003,1.5361202536176304,1853,59,385,37,41,613,218,477,0.037000000000000005,0.883,0.08,0.9649,4,0,0,0,0,0,65,11,0,2,5,16,10,1,0,37,0,39,5,2,3,5,59,79,22,1,6,3,7,1,1,0,5,2,1,3,3,16,30,1,1,6,1,1,10,7,2,1,5,29,5,66,8,63,40,9,71,0,0,3,0,51,37,1,4,24,269,82,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478309552290285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737002920098672,0.08846241808331701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751013438332025,0.0,0.0,0.07926222488632166,0.06487027458602028,0.0,0.10285433470250126,0.0,0.14357414018883113,0.0,0.08853422092516121,0.0,0.0921030218132216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614450021650319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534325956097446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673573386671501,0.0,0.0926692726815947,0.05440743679416445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814183443303261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633308504952106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716998081483376,0.0,0.05572125360943552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252362815924258,0.15906067799210002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175949528370733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22038206582552824,0.0,0.14383705394196916,0.0,0.20241943875512486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460230754833802,0.0898064460022848,0.15114613538538385,0.0,0.08658122384906301,0.0,0.09508372334768483,0.0,0.056547032624609486,0.0,0.2538702136529182,0.0,0.0,0.29203223373400256,0.0,0.0,0.09112698736170044,0.17610701706128878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878515360549156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626732877007935,0.059588389536825125,0.04121571330656165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253211546543047,0.0,0.0,0.0717227761415116,0.0,0.0,0.16893974520734964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949627340253805,0.0,0.0988054362366928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013256485887725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150054205833246,0.0,0.08976864361721155,0.0,0.09367561157188543,0.0,0.0,0.0584869839463037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582794327885053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474549740529565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343080446462739,0.06780813396129229,0.07373736124441006,0.07767051697976958,0.0,0.0,0.05604731801000307,0.0540566831310196,0.0,0.2009254333039945,0.14757899331563207,0.0,0.0799666726574184,0.2418386342945038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241081816281211,0.0,0.10147882571498867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04975974013933554,0.06696376844003739,0.0,0.0,0.07585286030853074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061417585931332265,0.0,0.0,0.2397174567786211,0.0,0.0,0.05432728660750656
parenting,HouseofGuns,2018/02/01,"How do you ask another parent about gun ownership? I grew up in suburban New England. The only gun houses I knew of were friends who had police officer parents. 

I now live in the south in an area where gun ownership is more common. My son is still a toddler, but I was wondering how we will handle this issue as he and our future kids get older. I want to make sure guns are kept in a safe place away from the kids. I don't know how to ask about it without it being seen as a bold and/or offensive question. 

How do you ask? At what age do you stop asking other parents about gun ownership? Late elementary? Middle school? Never? ",2.316893333333333,4.501910656000003,3.9541,85.26688333333334,78.44,7.046666666666668,23.21666666666667,8.07648339933343,1.408666666666667,492,16,96,9,12,164,90,125,0.119,0.778,0.102,-0.3094,3,0,0,5,0,0,14,2,3,0,0,10,5,1,0,7,0,12,0,0,5,2,19,24,8,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,3,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,1,12,4,17,16,1,23,0,0,1,0,19,12,0,2,10,65,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933877033799107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5682321596354066,0.0,0.14276735501108345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740057449838925,0.0,0.07939056637613716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753364424141004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860224123654884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351086281607413,0.0,0.17141261564929938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417964147981154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143159037019796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719758127125385,0.14675973398018308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556913520600368,0.0,0.0,0.5061863698253941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876133411441112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702251282469085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378725161232196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135199517675067,0.12704174510881186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432164216278762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896273918114268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464798443258359,0.1647894432412289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brijwij,2018/02/01,"When did your child start speaking actual words? I know babies begin speech with sounds like mama and dada, but when do they actually start saying real words *and* know what it means? My LO is 17 months and she will say buh-buh for bubbles, dee-dee for our cat Dixie, mo for more, ahp for help (plus the usual mama, dada, baba)...but these aren't real words, right? Or are they?",1.6531081081081105,4.043230459459462,2.6877702702702737,92.26787162162165,82.24324324324327,4.781081081081081,13.304054054054054,5.985473137389443,-0.8867783783783785,290,3,59,2,8,92,56,74,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.7688,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,15,12,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,6,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,8,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.4455663596723903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530214579784882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509301391564624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153350138922513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486803960524121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222304780778412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5196998276627601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949628504536713,0.0,0.363099006759302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32317703026707123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514349056764175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,croutonsarecool,2018/02/01,"10 month old heard me go into a cuss filled tirade So yeah.

I was working from home the other day and I had a project that collapsed due to some of our staff’s incompetence.

I went into an f-bomb tirade and broke my phone while talking to one of my staff. I forgot that my 10 month old is just on the other side of the kitchen counter and she seemed to have heard me.

What to do? Should I explain things to her or is she young enough to forget about what she saw and heard?",1.5054555555555569,3.232990990000001,2.0773333333333355,99.95922222222224,79.1,4.844444444444445,19.11111111111111,5.033348758259628,-0.6964222222222225,369,8,89,1,9,113,66,100,0.106,0.8690000000000001,0.025,-0.7886,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,1,7,1,0,0,0,14,16,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,7,6,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,8,4,15,0,14,7,2,15,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,3,8,60,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532804698270738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28090539441520085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154505040960973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726990485708922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339941894455933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5705454014822466,0.0,0.18422025166228856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24749231572180425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21851181377929396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18061256666968245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25201814733433897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791826313141173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConcernedDiva,2018/02/01,"Advice needed, school trouble My 6 year old is a kid that hates doing things he doesn't want to do. I indulged him too much as a younger child (I am doing much better now, more consistency, better with younger sibling too, but alas). 

Anyway. He is a really sweet kid and loves hugs and cuddles. When he is at school, he acts crazy. He is in the accelerared first grade class. He randomly yells, disrupts class, runs circles around the classroom, rolls around on the floor, refuses to do work, etc.

 I don't think he has an attention deficit, because when he wants to do something, like play Minecraft, he can focus for hours. I am taking him to see a therapist this month, hoping for help in impulse control. Any Advice?",4.279030303030304,6.222428081481483,4.317845117845117,85.96484848484846,71.8888888888889,6.983164983164983,27.828282828282827,7.686295010490155,1.6303333333333332,561,21,106,7,11,173,93,135,0.075,0.721,0.203,0.971,0,0,1,0,0,0,26,0,0,0,5,8,10,1,0,8,0,15,3,0,1,0,15,24,6,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,5,0,2,2,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,3,7,8,14,24,4,17,0,0,1,3,17,7,0,2,9,61,10,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356791392292343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680107921296848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30580141346385764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104701857941336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038113345810521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19264078853026628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915551611573649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609695357747488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957510197450668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151255198721727,0.0,0.0,0.17059408281190014,0.16914666904797812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391210291829357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501796825832787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370953027680085,0.0,0.2525232436189788,0.12735610739456646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180230741473808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003233681880613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476557854797182,0.13686859473813456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322274160165833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291403633569674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994238483433832,0.11410813837355008,0.1100553549703956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026142022438188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504160132641967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106062833651107
parenting,Dodge1992,2018/02/01,13 year old daughter has no friends from school. She doesn't even try.  She has a few girls she sees occasionally outside of school but has zero interest in social media or contacting anyone when she is home.  None.  Just watches tv and goes to tennis lessons.  It makes me worry.  Only child too.  Pretty.  Thin. Athletic.  Good clothes.  Not gifted.  Not in remedial.  ,1.576615384615387,3.881706661538466,2.6984615384615367,84.62153846153849,105.46153846153842,5.0769230769230775,21.923076923076927,6.67199483983844,1.2296153846153843,283,11,48,5,13,90,57,65,0.071,0.7440000000000001,0.185,0.8674,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,7,4,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,5,3,5,7,2,6,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,1,3,30,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864099761206065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176084006001487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20597124724085347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360790141001088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674173158282376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177954761017457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27974743700446525,0.0,0.0,0.2027581127488776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27122376293503314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.539618347860257,0.21244232960091486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717608362971207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100104266280168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27074096719824026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167894907915007
parenting,worried-about-son,2018/02/01,"Worried about adopted son's development Going to try to keep this succinct so apologize for the missing details. My son has been with us since he was just over a week old; he was left at the hospital and we heard very little from his birth mother throughout this whole process. He is now our's and loved dearly, but I feel this is relevant. He was full term and a big, healthy baby (8.5 lbs).

On the whole I feel so incredibly lucky to get to parent my son, who is an incredible little boy. I have an older biological child and in some ways, he seems to have advanced more quickly than she did. His first words were on time but by two I'd say he was more ahead on language than any other child I've ever known -like he would use sentences that were fairly complex. He is smart - incredibly smart. He's good at puzzles and basically way ahead on skills I would label academic - adding, subtracting, reading, etc. At home he is, for the most part, a precocious, intellectual child.

The first thing that really started to bug me was his coordination. At his two year well child visit i mentioned that he was clumsy, and that he wasn't jumping (he ended up not jumping until he was almost 3). The pediatrician was not concerned in the least so I chalked it up to anxiety. Oh and there were a few other milestones that were (maybe?) a tiny bit late before that - waving and clapping (maybe 10-11 months) and pointing (12 months). 

At around 2.5 I began to worry about his eye contact. It was inconsistent and getting worse, but other than being clumsy and bad at anything athletic (he still can't really catch a big ball thrown to him) he seemed great. Again I mentioned it to his doctor/was told he was fine. And this time I began to feel like a hypochondriac (which I still might be!) so I really tried to let it go.

All went well until my son started preschool this fall. We got off to a rough start (my dad died in October) and I could tell Ben was having a rough time adjusting but didn't have the bandwidth to explore it much.

However his teacher pulled me aside last week to talk about my son. She said he has been ""engaging in sensory seeking behaviors."" Like laying on the carpet during circle time and running into other kids. Even worse, he has hit teachers. She said it's usually not ""too aggressive"" but by four kids should be verbally expressing their frustrations. She said this usually happens during the move from free play to circle time. Obviously I was concerned about this so asked if I could observe for a full day and she said yes.

That day was today. After watching my son next to other kids, I think he might have some kind of developmental condition. I saw him run into another girl had enough to give her a goose egg. I watched him pick up a hula hoop and knock a smaller girl down with it (not intentionally). He seemed to be... kinda checked out all day? Was making weird movements with his head and laying on the floor a lot and definitely stuck out. 

I should also mention that I have had a harder time teaching my son life skills - like brushing his teeth and washing his hands. It's like he gets distracted mid task and starts playing with the water. But if those things are incentived (i.e. Sticker chart) he does them with ease. 

I called his pediatrician today but I was wondering if this sounds like anything to you all. ADHD? Autism? A bright kid who is bored? Something else? Also any advice would be welcome. Thanks.",4.142528032619778,6.1207297767584095,4.70428134556575,82.90644240570849,72.33333333333333,7.5355759429153935,26.4841997961264,8.285830014693849,1.7610022426095822,2710,94,511,44,54,863,335,654,0.059,0.794,0.14800000000000002,0.9961,2,0,1,0,0,0,98,4,1,2,7,24,31,2,1,30,1,58,9,4,4,5,87,97,39,1,10,15,10,6,6,0,7,2,7,2,11,35,32,2,1,12,4,2,15,7,7,2,5,38,19,57,25,72,43,21,99,0,1,5,1,94,37,0,17,51,329,92,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737011381234687,0.07104065667684245,0.0,0.0,0.07279758328676722,0.0,0.0,0.1162747857860997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887567499017863,0.07623127808257166,0.05561456362026949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965022467997423,0.06471755520781282,0.06796378509251441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070065849158065,0.0,0.0,0.061861525172716175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936851852134669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742338440839755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608852948155683,0.0,0.0,0.14065459210405887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075450121760365,0.0,0.0,0.07441054395660189,0.06361941638957992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073071611383005,0.0,0.06438976775564881,0.07511753795481219,0.08107864235891396,0.04801702769428872,0.06576044023873201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102764510210987,0.0519362059062518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367552591395695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139467374396297,0.06973953982225342,0.0826330751159662,0.060976502287070876,0.05814406034182349,0.0801509439356667,0.0,0.0,0.06428751751916445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461018469731417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292306071198992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461824359274446,0.0,0.07570485885515632,0.0,0.05925941742170567,0.08200767925285762,0.0,0.07898771542264604,0.07433968990898251,0.05134947915391636,0.21310246117067752,0.14572706576174202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06180612073873117,0.06561371842806754,0.0,0.04852717110510084,0.0,0.1460719063272456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424437750903774,0.0,0.0,0.1160553540301936,0.07726757020010147,0.053442156381984005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731624963072703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628540907875675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807236762233394,0.07872597161248482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872408750697426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271870947827386,0.0,0.13971859224693936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27661372492059266,0.057813191421747186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854741620530755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013739390198083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05596726973304888,0.0,0.0,0.2058270076880437,0.0,0.11611508825593225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584327314159003,0.06354216187944946,0.06693150500504504,0.0,0.0,0.0965960184578908,0.046582606865902,0.0,0.0,0.25434835543369755,0.0,0.13782037146993315,0.0694670444295351,0.0,0.0987157468255406,0.0,0.1420327893471034,0.0,0.08744798921601059,0.06278862548271179,0.16013543481396242,0.05998431843046016,0.0,0.11541022196796855,0.11662956322089495,0.0,0.13073032849027572,0.06739273479279341,0.0,0.1623317551169682,0.0,0.0,0.07883900350270936,0.0,0.14765880008234966,0.1481730572493973,0.15492992819611984,0.0,0.0,0.04681579570827299
parenting,the1girlfromthe1time,2018/02/01,"Intussusception sucks big time. It isn’t like we need any other things to be wary of as parents but I just thought I would put this out there in case anyone else can spare their baby a bit of pain.

Intussusception. Have you heard of it? Until yesterday I hadn’t, but apparently it is fairly common in toddlers between 6 mos and 3 years old and it is VERY painful. The ER nurse told us this is the fourth case she’s seen this week. How can this be so common and I’ve never heard of it?!

On Sunday morning after breakfast my son started screaming in pain, like I have never heard before, and crying  “My tummy hurts! My tummy hurts!” I thought, oh no, here we go with the flu. I tried to keep him comfy all day but the pain kept coming in waves about every 15 minutes. He never got a fever and he only threw up once. I thought maybe appendicitis? Maybe constipation? Still no fever and it seemed like it was getting better so we didn’t take him in. When he woke up Monday he seemed much better, no crying in pain. Then he ate breakfast and it started again, but worse this time. We made him an appointment at his pediatrician but they were full all the way until evening so we waited and tried to get him to rest. He was in so much pain that he would cry out and then fall straight asleep. 

As soon as we got in at the doctor and the nurses saw him coming in and out of sleep and screaming in pain they knew something was very wrong. The doctor came in and checked him out and said she thought it was intussusception and we needed to get to the pediatric ER but to expect to be transferred to  our nearby bigger city’s children’s hospital because he might need surgery. Talk about panic! Saturday he was fine and now he needs surgery?!? WTF?! 

So in a panic off we went to the ER. They did an X-ray and an ultrasound and confirmed he would need to go to the other hospital and have the correction procedure. Intussusception is when part of their intestine folds in to another part, kind of like how a telescope collapses down on itself and it’s extremely painful. The only way to correct it is to go in either through the mouth or rectum and inflate that part of the intestine with air until it straightens out. If that fails then surgery is required. It has to be corrected, they call it reduced, as soon as possible or it could cause tissue death and a perforated bowel. We were taken by ambulance to the children’s hospital, they re-confirmed the intussusception and sent us up for the procedure.  

It was absolutely terrifying. He was awake, I was in a waiting room 5 rooms away and could hear him screaming from where I stood. There is nothing worse than knowing your baby is in pain and not being able to help them, apart from actively sending them in there and leaving them. It took 2 tries and it was corrected. After a few hours we were released and all seemed well. The doctors warned us that it could reoccur within 24 hours and sure enough at midnight on Tuesday he woke up crying in pain again. We are now back at Children’s hospital waiting for them to do the air enema again and dreading that he will be in pain but still hopeful that he won’t need surgery. He is sleeping from the medication and I hope to god he can stay asleep for the procedure this time. 

So this long story is so that you know, if your baby or toddler is in serious stomach pain that comes in waves about every 15 minutes and it doesn’t seem normal take them to the ER right away! It can be accompanied by fever, vomiting and sometimes diarrhea. They won’t want to eat or drink and will be overall pretty miserable in pain. I feel terrible that we waited so long, and it can end up being really dangerous if it is not treated quickly. I hope now you know a little bit about intussusception because I was clueless and my little guy suffered for it. ",4.4633061174750175,5.8761511970509375,5.058799415062151,82.9518233000244,70.54155495978553,7.945561784060445,28.174896417255674,8.41005564698801,1.9208292761394103,3027,109,590,47,55,971,312,746,0.203,0.733,0.064,-0.9992,3,0,2,0,0,0,66,16,5,13,4,36,43,2,4,34,0,61,38,9,4,11,131,125,73,1,21,18,2,1,4,0,8,24,8,2,4,44,59,5,7,13,1,1,14,14,29,5,0,42,11,61,14,102,63,15,120,0,5,2,0,78,57,1,15,50,408,105,6,0.04712539621210765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03204688542292702,0.0494150868673842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032951172751544265,0.048285537440978174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855172202891387,0.0362365208100025,0.0,0.057454408257574176,0.0,0.04010024122706562,0.0,0.0,0.0833571666898135,0.10289745458602256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04812029846772516,0.053898898917853384,0.0,0.048410763197660335,0.0,0.1217830682069405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287738274093426,0.0,0.20706013960348255,0.030391981970051763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447045196913252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046164947462152266,0.0,0.048221045193047936,0.03936722153645048,0.0,0.041739113485275835,0.048693131699568265,0.0,0.03112587974790025,0.0,0.07941035762074627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02382801628456618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386322347547829,0.0,0.08034734601756796,0.0,0.07538096867538993,0.0,0.0,0.046661551294224654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311374650051839,0.0,0.03158715972025701,0.0,0.0,0.1404184549288467,0.09281804516149464,0.0,0.10089742263137724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04188721743448355,0.0,0.049073848303559854,0.07769665596777701,0.0,0.0,0.0498989902185716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920923527741117,0.09446405458065962,0.0,0.08340898539595852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04459118934030768,0.0,0.0,0.09468758915765177,0.0,0.0,0.04747387884056662,0.0,0.04999259821643525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692851770669665,0.20965730500530366,0.10903803224190263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461728826188502,0.04521808864448157,0.0,0.049450175979701146,0.05018700895934314,0.0,0.0716819747419816,0.6518816740430957,0.11058299744214016,0.05232717557890307,0.15309663528412887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312680350825793,0.0,0.04794346983347002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0473740393149408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03018973552821145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04024483087634961,0.04482704340486076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160476322160378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431885921931912,0.0,0.0,0.0362794323426308,0.046608221847035454,0.0,0.06671119598402593,0.050229402128623216,0.07526880457869017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04441512822375563,0.0,0.07086486624716723,0.037877608397010286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03130801924880368,0.0,0.0,0.14964920253830208,0.08243759251103239,0.0,0.0,0.04503033559515668,0.05235804915985087,0.09598515190731208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005814773851402,0.0,0.0,0.07776677449147205,0.02779577966281533,0.07481189201306472,0.03780115028127296,0.0,0.04237139072725039,0.04368571441776523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604960955073956,0.10042958812623108,0.051524222889305235,0.0,0.030347210093791193
parenting,weskelley86,2018/02/02,"Fellow dads of Reddit i need your advice! So when I was a kid it was frowned upon to discuss your anatomy and anything going on in the land down under. I can only assume it was because of the super religious beliefs of my family then. So fast forward to now and I'm a proud father of boy girl twins, who are now 4 year's old. Well here recently my son has been messing with his member, which we don't shun but it's more or less because it's something new happening to his body and he doesn't know why it's happening and with my background I don't know the best way to tell him it's ok and normal. So fellow Dad's of Reddit how did you handle this with your son? ",2.9842253521126736,3.7302482676056385,4.656450704225354,86.96988732394367,73.36619718309859,7.088450704225353,24.76338028169014,7.1686216300943375,0.9714935211267599,522,15,112,5,10,177,93,142,0.034,0.898,0.068,0.3798,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,1,4,0,3,9,6,0,0,5,1,11,1,1,1,0,18,18,13,0,2,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,9,9,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,5,0,15,5,17,13,3,18,1,0,0,0,22,7,0,2,10,77,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21784046642324928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344890075057974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717869406087305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339468250319824,0.0,0.0,0.24762025729387604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015456065932825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266938431265748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942650154621304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450283283903035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652966216511653,0.0,0.21530308201562648,0.0,0.0,0.2184199069600368,0.0,0.0,0.23392307830991424,0.0,0.0,0.16954508107171345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011228776827452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716191363284153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948469345423866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694808690942448,0.0,0.0,0.2004370248400978,0.0,0.2011558187882546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355687644410764
parenting,shinny38,2018/02/02,"An embryo transfer, a muffin and the possibility of life changing forever... In less than 24 hours I’ll know if I’m pregnant or not. When you are on the IVF route to pregnancy, these days don’t come along that often. 10 days ago, myself and my husband woke up, slightly petrified but mostly excited that we’d finally reached the day when we’d get to meet our one and only embryo from our IVF cycle last year. Although we didn’t actually get to see it at the clinic, the consultant and the embryologist described how it was doing and told us that despite the risk of it arresting during the delicate ‘thaw’ process, it had survived and thawed well, beginning the expected next stages of development. While our embryo would not have been visible to the naked eye without a microscope, it was already huge to us because it was ours, it was us, it was hope and love and happiness and everything we could have ever wanted right at that moment in time. We giggled and smiled and probably seemed a little giddy to the medical staff but it was a perfect day. I held one of my little angel pins in my hand, a gift from my husband a few years back. 

I had made a decision earlier to ‘enjoy’ the transfer, making sure to take it all in and embrace it, despite there being medical gadgets and catheters being routed into some of my more delicate parts!!!! I closed my eyes a few times and wished that embryo a safe arrival and my heart was filled with an indescribable joy. 

It’s like an outer body experience getting back into the car to go home with the potential of our child coming home with us.. we stopped for a hot drink and a muffin in the Applegreen on the way home, feeling quite high and mighty in ourselves. We genuinely felt 10 feet tall, like we were actually just like any other couple In their thirties starting a family. 

Anything was possible that day, that evening, that night, the next day and the day after that and the day after that until you get a few days into the ‘wait’ and you start to wonder should you be feeling anything that might indicate that your embryo is developing well. Nerves kick in, you can’t hear or see anything and you have to dig deep to find a place of peace and ease with it all. I talked to myself a lot, reassuring myself that it was completely out of my control but that i did have some choices. 

I had the choice to stay positive and remind myself that IVF does work and I know lots of people who have children through IVF so I stuck with that and whenever I felt a bit low or panicked, I acknowledged myself, reminding myself that it was natural to feel down at times but at the same time I was ‘pregnant unless proven otherwise’!!! That’s what they advise you to think about. But you drift into stages of ‘realism’ (which I find very dull by the way), but it’s a natural occurrence and you inevitably try to console yourself with the things you’ll do if it doesn’t work out. 

Truth is, nothing prepares you for it not working out. We are human so of course We have the ability to work through it and get through it but nobody wants to have to go through that pain and disappointment, knowing that you have to begin all over again. Where will you find the cash?, How will you emotionally get through each stage again?, How will you mend your broken heart for the second time in the same year? 

Yes realism sucks, which is why I have spent the last two weeks bigging myself up, focussing on things that make me feel good, imagining a baby in my arms. Hearing myself say “I’m pregnant” and imagining the overjoyed reactions of my family and friends when we tell them the good news. 

That’s why the last 10 days have been some of the happiest days of my life, simply because of the possibilities. The possibility that I might have a baby growing inside me, the possibility that I can chat to my pregnant sister about all things baby related and most significantly of all, the possibility that I will see my husband happier than he has ever been in his entire life.. 

It will be one year exactly tomorrow to the last and only other pregnancy test I have ever taken. It would feel like a very cruel twist of fate if tomorrow we have another negative pregnancy test.

Having 10 days of the possibility of being a mum and dad has been fantastic and I’m very grateful that it has been such a happy time for us. My heart has genuinely been filled with love and hope... 

I don’t know how to sign this off so I’ll leave it at that.. x 

24hrs later - Not Pregnant ",7.116612795611237,6.786408292682928,7.342621395210912,75.04803247090223,64.21486643437865,10.626149702226506,33.650159389131886,10.150523705422133,3.242630691674698,3544,132,666,71,47,1152,364,861,0.052000000000000005,0.768,0.179,0.9991,0,0,1,0,0,0,81,22,17,3,8,27,31,2,1,64,1,72,19,9,8,12,153,127,62,0,13,20,6,9,4,1,11,7,3,3,3,62,64,1,5,21,2,2,9,11,7,2,5,32,17,85,24,103,76,22,115,1,3,5,2,68,44,1,20,60,489,147,11,0.0,0.0,0.0963626620138161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04376655352839138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054484791389818765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033575615403368585,0.051772330754999256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189034139631914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593021725614431,0.0,0.06019515124250858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05390298176518287,0.05484273381616244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05223052657053555,0.08506165069909569,0.0517670864390924,0.0,0.055376483421873485,0.03942065446332006,0.05463074479022479,0.0,0.3821012187009725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04320700833841036,0.0,0.0,0.04836715021288861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553844658826647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032610675069201345,0.13398324211275547,0.0,0.0,0.04437364194021996,0.048296674053595764,0.09308972340509024,0.0,0.12482341107997848,0.03527237766400447,0.09481244270073053,0.05408616296723285,0.13537922097655827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03814577808567625,0.0,0.15477342968820795,0.0,0.05612009930585935,0.08282415628056866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511783709059858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129485449825276,0.1755232041069042,0.0,0.05216572391759764,0.14857668323855044,0.09807788340960487,0.04862286842710285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853735100824476,0.16098369258780829,0.0,0.05227931770856591,0.0,0.0,0.1046217098435855,0.09648542682162793,0.09897026572741303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395102393804868,0.08912286971874697,0.046718319234787434,0.06591427603604909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947704287772234,0.0,0.10475478216234413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050183743287714,0.04633360549185896,0.0,0.04737512346570726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037011174330678,0.07510141417889253,0.052536794827388975,0.0,0.0,0.053466597226868216,0.0,0.034229309387388475,0.0,0.051584710258784285,0.0,0.0,0.3896277497997421,0.0,0.0,0.05323289229697708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052514704529004835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216462678495486,0.0,0.039263721448389084,0.0,0.0,0.11803265848292498,0.04494770283661196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989351476433812,0.05262549123120873,0.0,0.04127838587880395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04653385948904845,0.0,0.037122663611856316,0.039684480883361455,0.043154541081512766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840450946790476,0.031636490830959166,0.0,0.0,0.17274021262296108,0.0,0.0,0.047178414047873096,0.0,0.0335213079455577,0.0,0.04823065238502496,0.0,0.29695069631700033,0.0,0.0,0.12221471495720525,0.058243438978802464,0.07838063764012368,0.039604375492320036,0.0,0.0887852594964643,0.0,0.08910365529815067,0.0,0.05677699079522349,0.04759421033118029,0.0535433626249274,0.1437777371184107,0.0,0.0,0.07014691509111333,0.0,0.0,0.12717944239852988
parenting,sowdie,2018/02/02,"Include everyone birthday parties My five year old is in kindergarten. Early on in the school year a note was sent home to the parents. I don't have it in front of me, but the message was to instruct parents that if they are planning a birthday party for their child and plan on inviting a classmate, that all classmates are to be included.
In the past couple of weeks we have received two separate birthday invitations for two girls that I've never heard mentioned by my daughter. When asked if she knows these girls, she says yes, but she is 5, and if you ask her daily who her best friend is, you will get a different answer each day. 
Is there any polite way to reach out a parent of the child to get a better understanding of the reasons behind the invitation? I'd love to just be blunt and ask if my daughter was invited because she is friends with his or her daughter, or if it was because they're obligated to invite everyone. 
As a parent I think it's a silly policy. I don't want to go to 30 birthday parties a year, nor do I want to bring my daughter to a birthday party that she's been invited to for the wrong reasons.
Has anyone had to deal with this before?",7.8998361295357,6.195598562231762,8.066617245415532,74.95605540382365,63.377682403433475,10.532813109637146,37.92001560671089,9.095868883498916,3.335999141630901,927,39,178,12,11,304,129,233,0.027000000000000003,0.782,0.19,0.9916,5,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,2,2,4,3,7,0,0,18,1,22,1,0,2,2,28,37,15,0,7,10,8,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,4,10,8,0,0,6,0,0,5,4,1,0,3,8,2,23,6,32,26,3,23,0,0,0,1,40,7,0,7,10,128,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828283202577516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516553959970208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416002666862776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849655636030634,0.0,0.10364300863984303,0.0,0.1278218070775125,0.1077223887320911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476961690924805,0.0,0.07855105988185418,0.12557066941863393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725529674995134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327706426860003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18820508192052507,0.0,0.12727116636676064,0.0,0.06922186685722193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217554271924072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669382106719103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992944591886217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393983154804048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278088325525259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5409788813901052,0.0,0.11627208347967832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504618056223165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686041657220193,0.0,0.12326831623991145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780446571983073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23796221597095965,0.1267983152741467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368184048727986,0.0966793382409842,0.09770078247194297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316941032447327,0.0,0.235306027722075
parenting,trashtaker,2018/02/02,"My 10 year old son was assaulted (bullied?) at school and the school isn't helping... Last Friday, my 10 year old was assaulted at school.  A 12 year old came up, pushing him, and put his hand around my son's neck and squeezed.  My son was trying to fight him off, but was too scared by the time this kid's hand was around his throat.

The school didn't call me or his mom.  I heard about it from him, as he was trying to be ""strong"" despite holding back tears.

Needless to say, I'm fucking furious.  The school is trying to treat it like nothing.  My son says there were other kids around, and he got 2 of them to go tell the teacher.  The teacher did nothing, and they didn't even send him to the nurse, let alone that they didn't call me or his mom.

After that, he reported issues with his throat, saying it hurt to swallow or talk.  His mom took him to the hospital to get checked out.  The RN there says that it's obvious that the assault caused this.

The school is not cooperating.  I called them, being as nice as I could, and they simply said that they checked with the other kids there who just said that it happened.  They didn't question the kids individually or anything, just as a group.  Needless to say, most kids felt some peer pressure.  

The school's website says that a report should be filed, that the principal should call the parents to say that the report had been filed, the principal follows up with all parties involved and any disciplinary action is taken, then the principal tells the parents what happened, regardless of findings.

So far, I've only been able to talk to the vice principal.  No word from principal.  No word on if a report was filed.  No word on disciplinary action or findings of any sort.  In fact, after I called the vice principal, they suddenly stated that my son DID, in fact, go to the nurse.

What do I do?  I'm just trying to protect my son and make sure he feels safe at school.  Obviously, I'm extremely pissed, but I need some information before I lose my proverbial shit.....
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parenting,MakerTinkerBakerEtc,2018/02/02,"US Parents: Should parents of young children put a freeze on their kid's credit? After reading a [few articles like this] (https://www.npr.org/2017/10/18/556237149/to-protect-children-from-identity-theft-parents-must-be-proactive) about how toddlers are in a very vulnerable position as far as identity theft, I wondered if I should consider freezing my toddler's ~~accounts~~ information. 

In this specific NPR article I think that there is a lot of emphasis put on parents - sure I can ask my pediatrician's office how they handle his SSN, but am I really the best person to determine if that is how SSN's are handled (provided the answer is not just ""we leave all our paperwork on the bench here for everyone to see at all times"").

**Pros of freezing:**

* peace of mind

**Cons of freezing:** 

* forgetting/losing the codes for lifting the freeze since its at least 10 years of storage.

* cost of freezing

I don't know about you, but I'm starting to convince myself that I should, in fact, place a freeze on my kid's credit until the day comes that he needs it. 
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parenting,sonpleasestop15,2018/02/02,"Need tips for helping 4.5 year old son to learn to wipe himself. My son is 4.5 and refuses to wipe after using the bathroom.  He will sit there and yell ""I'm done"" over and over until one of us goes in to wipe him.

I initially tried telling him to wipe himself.  Instant fussing and yelling.

Tried ignoring the ""I'm done"" and hoping he will get motivated and do it himself.  My wife won't listen to him being upset and will do it for him.

I've also tried wiping him until he is clean and giving him some toilet paper to try without fear of getting dirty.  He cry's and said he doesn't want to get his hands dirty.  Reassured him it will be OK and he just plain refuses.

Tried encouraging him with rewards, and privileges if he does it himself.  Hasn't worked.  He will start fussing and crying and saying he will stop pooping on the potty all together.

We have been very positive with him encouraging him to do it himself.  He was a bit slow on potty training, but ever since he got the hang of it roughly 6 or 7 months ago he has been accident free.

Please give us some ideas because he starts Kindergarten in August.  He is in Pre-K now and I believe he waits until he gets home to #2.",3.4669934640522877,4.789159378151262,4.638935574229695,85.3539402427638,72.86554621848741,7.3056956115779625,27.08776844070961,7.793537801064563,1.5404614379084962,924,33,187,12,18,304,133,238,0.066,0.804,0.13,0.9234,0,0,0,0,1,0,27,3,0,0,3,5,11,0,2,5,1,24,2,2,2,2,38,42,21,0,4,5,3,2,0,0,7,0,5,2,0,6,17,0,5,3,0,1,1,4,3,0,1,7,7,23,9,29,26,4,24,0,0,0,0,50,7,0,5,15,113,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527898371147074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399868758787932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927555747670627,0.0,0.0,0.14651864502949136,0.0,0.0,0.14197784508842526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28570145435457955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138051687628066,0.2661668452100052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763512499795772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633923941915025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717771485543361,0.24950622150667695,0.0,0.0,0.1040106146091562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716788743878581,0.0,0.13044793086765386,0.129166198986824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468074434950902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380242307124267,0.0,0.0,0.09642834053073256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364626453217449,0.0,0.0881233388205854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427527576927515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237046543068126,0.10341874194787508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757637605571084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840961350733005,0.0,0.0,0.10872527054869847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366697254753096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44146751355876895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128615047253466,0.11231901398917968,0.0,0.10730254801926396,0.07670519965642117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536084647307855,0.0,0.09467590019735887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374612396189357
parenting,sleepyeyes_24_7,2018/02/02,"Anyone have experience with Precocious Puberty? My daughter just turned 8 years old in January.  Over the summer we noticed some breast development and the pediatrician suggested we see a pediatric endocrinologist, which we have.  They ran a bunch of tests and it was verified to be Precocious Puberty.

We are in the process of figuring out a treatment plan (most likely Lupron injections), but reading everything online is scaring me.

If you have had Lupron injections, or a child who has, what was your experience?  I am trying to see if we should go forward with treatment or just let nature take its course.

Thanks in advance!",7.387222222222222,9.555736425925927,7.484259259259264,65.4491666666667,64.37037037037037,11.696296296296294,37.574074074074076,11.45678717892309,5.219051851851852,506,26,77,17,8,163,80,108,0.036000000000000004,0.929,0.036000000000000004,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,2,1,2,2,3,0,1,7,0,13,2,1,0,0,21,20,7,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,10,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,4,2,11,2,11,13,3,12,0,0,2,1,12,6,0,6,5,59,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688762965332478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170624701999518,0.4725055196793906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372612980427368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24697041272350986,0.0,0.11799440032674173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274971952933788,0.2534344572600357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24158521127218555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24180350590154384,0.0,0.3849201056351847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815928716161506,0.0,0.0,0.22235903103093646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397612611555587,0.2627042454246493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553086651568934
parenting,LPmaverick,2018/02/02,"Amazon Fire HD 8 Kids and Freetime Unlimited So my 3yo has been playing on my iPad mini for a while now and trying to decide if I should just parental control the hell out it and turn it into a kid version, or get what is mentioned in the title.

Regarding the Fire tablet, I have read a number of posts complaining about app management between the main and kid profiles.  So here are my list of question:

Is it true that every app is presented in the kid profile?  Is there a way to filter it down to only show what she has downloaded?  What about when not on wifi, are the apps that aren't downloaded removed from view screen?

Are all the apps included in the Freetime Unlimited actually free?  Are there ones that are ""free"" but actually require a monthly sub or in-app purchases to function?

Has space management gotten any better?  I will more than likely purchase an microSD card.

Is there a list somewhere to review what apps/books/etc are included with the Freetime Unlimited?

Thanks for all the replies.",6.431349206349207,7.271117386243389,6.535568783068785,76.25827380952381,65.61375661375659,9.474603174603176,34.26851851851852,9.516144504307137,3.2391407407407407,802,35,142,15,12,256,115,189,0.04,0.871,0.08800000000000001,0.8406,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,3,11,9,1,0,17,0,19,0,0,1,3,21,23,12,0,2,6,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,11,7,0,2,2,3,4,1,2,2,0,1,2,4,7,9,23,19,5,17,1,0,2,0,9,9,1,4,6,101,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.460288814282851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037830296362876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085800344891609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645129904127552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26302232716811746,0.0,0.0,0.19870415213327974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321590981553494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521880409689805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824408259214814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981030673872446,0.17936584648528842,0.0,0.0,0.26187080296484583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22586814151898105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641931530131186,0.0,0.2359023737838281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21712845325358326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601188963133755,0.2565246223989341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719766561105192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,samacho,2018/02/02,"Going to court on Monday... tl/dr: going to court on Monday to get guardianship of my best friends little brother and am freaking out a little bit

Hi, /r/parenting! This is my first post as I have only recently become a ""parent.""

Some background: For the last six months or so, a good friend of mine (F24) has been talking to me about all of the horrible stuff happening to her little brother (13) at home. She has not lived at home for a couple of years, but even when she did, it was bad. Drug use, mental abuse (with a little physical, no sexual as far as I know), no food, sometimes no utilities. 

Four years ago her grandma passed away. Grandma was the one who kept them in school, kept them clothed, fed when there wasn't any food at home. My friend is old enough that she was already gone by the time her grandma passed. But her brother was not and life at their house has gotten worse and worse over the last few years.

We are now suing her parents for guardianship of the brother. We went to court on January 5th and were granted temporary guardianship. Monday, February 5th, we're going for the big one. 

This kid has become someone I think of as my son. He lives with me (and will continue to do so if all goes well with court as his sister is moving out of the country), he calls me mom (though sometimes he's just being ornery with it), and at this point I don't know what I'll do if court doesn't go in our favor. And I don't know what will happen to him.

We have a lawyer who so far seems competent when we're in court, but she's not good at easing fears or keeping in contact outside of the courtroom. She actually told us right before we into court last time that the judge was mad at her and she hoped that wasn't held against us. 

For anyone who has any advice, words of wisdom, or encouragement - I will gladly take it all.  ",5.263225167203373,5.336162675749319,5.416726529601189,85.93946680703493,68.01907356948229,8.19861283131038,27.581000743126094,7.686295010490155,1.4018566757493192,1430,40,299,14,22,451,189,367,0.106,0.78,0.114,0.5138,3,0,1,0,1,0,56,7,0,3,3,13,16,1,1,16,0,31,5,0,1,3,47,55,28,0,3,12,9,0,0,3,3,2,0,3,1,15,19,3,4,5,0,0,9,11,4,1,5,18,0,38,12,53,33,8,59,0,0,0,0,49,28,0,8,21,199,53,2,0.0,0.10070879939818576,0.08294584320533224,0.0,0.0,0.08305911826125913,0.0753456496684004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937974702908723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560318789744738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05943261825239333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985847318119872,0.0,0.07096982781455606,0.0,0.18774735355948372,0.07232708670635654,0.0,0.08920021760063436,0.0,0.0927958647126976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679252027196835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404873416450064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857076184340892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782571502491747,0.0,0.05614041548005785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564644578765773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229930446475813,0.2055599775406107,0.0,0.19700786561414754,0.0,0.04440797698673294,0.0,0.1932254199048208,0.14258467619910706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032700344076774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557799465960411,0.08442224995857375,0.0,0.09807634653682704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755501791153089,0.0,0.0,0.14013812887445767,0.20785428471386447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060036641850039374,0.0,0.34076153445570323,0.1501096843847324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565805041267358,0.0,0.0,0.09954869789715218,0.0678446387333887,0.09033948377200757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919116335176609,0.0,0.115193767339309,0.06464485304575747,0.0,0.0,0.2831408527268113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035063833383199,0.0,0.08140464365054287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392532774411197,0.0,0.0,0.07258787686074461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602257222976112,0.0,0.07737903943315606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201857846647834,0.0,0.16813050493493573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730244046799844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390796125727302,0.0683182191161211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446332330784792,0.08351016013895021,0.0,0.09912610197108347,0.0,0.0,0.08121928665129775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20448439577472585,0.07341103127964872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642346173544468,0.07879405105399283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324056478241756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420788717860815
parenting,morethanmother,2018/02/02,"Wear all the clothes...! I am having a little bit of a struggle - I have a 4.5 month old, and we live in New England, so naturally everyone says he needs to be BUNDLED. If I go by the “one layer more than you are comfortable in” rule, he would be in 3 layers, because I’m comfortable in jeans, a long sleeved shirt, and a sweater. The problem is that whenever he is in more than one layer (onesie, or pants and a long sleeve t shirt), he is fine for maybe 10 minutes and then it’s total meltdown until I get him down to one later. This makes me think he’s too hot, so I’ve been dressing him in the one layer he’s comfortable in and then adding a coat when we go out, plus he has one of those car seat fleece inserts. I get so many comments when we’re out and about that he’s cold/under dressed, and it just makes me feel like I’m not taking good care of him. 

My questions are: how many layers does a kid really need in the winter? Do some babies, like some adults, run hot and need fewer layers? How do you dress your kid in the winter? ",2.2295879642179446,3.4497841843318007,3.580862022228249,92.12490647872052,75.82027649769586,6.396204933586339,22.442125237191654,6.794906146795322,0.4111021415017624,796,21,181,7,17,261,126,217,0.046,0.87,0.083,0.8299,0,0,0,0,0,0,31,2,3,0,0,10,10,0,1,14,0,15,3,3,4,2,33,30,21,0,6,4,0,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,13,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,2,0,5,1,4,16,8,24,26,7,30,0,0,0,0,22,13,0,5,15,108,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007987485924814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613277399166696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066245788439994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931546225331145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120159334325466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471749479814323,0.10556768445222862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544085737812149,0.0,0.16796341293982647,0.1239433655215701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443869646380372,0.14810543652586008,0.13048456521403473,0.2615454999700325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727667807809293,0.2996333499342315,0.14845590513797938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794946106928045,0.0,0.0,0.32871113585466705,0.0,0.1427182236301686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550608838942153,0.0,0.5006675188294916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139696044391026,0.0,0.0,0.16553742134676294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466593359462808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751348876358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448241058806048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110545695369944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468573718030883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049723308728489,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lullaby45,2018/02/02,"Timing of having 4 kids We would like to have 4 kids - we have our wonderful amazing baby son, and we are discussing the best timing for 3 more kids. Is it better to have them all close in age, or more spread out? Any advice would be appreciated! ",5.096054421768706,5.307149081632655,5.951428571428572,81.48523809523812,68.38775510204081,8.165986394557821,24.49659863945579,7.793537801064563,1.101851700680272,191,4,39,2,3,63,38,49,0.0,0.659,0.341,0.967,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,1,11,10,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,6,7,4,6,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,4,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34347287826755313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390258921311061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688680559431391,0.3108651725527681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172071864225855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40991438710385947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811769305005371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993781575844507,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MayorReedTown,2018/02/02,"“PLAYING” with 3 month old. BE HONEST! My baby girl is almost 4 months and we do lots of tummy time and playing with rattles and other grab toys. Other than that, I have no idea what to do with her. She doesn’t really “play” yet and I feel like she’s incredibly bored with me. I’m a first time mom (stay at home) and I’m wondering if there is something else I should be doing. She rolled from her back to front today (yay!) so milestones are fun...but other than that, what should I be doing? And for how long? She just figured out that Disney Jr. is entertaining but I don’t want too much screen time. Is that a dumb worry at this early age?? Thanks guys! ",0.7167412935323371,2.9585680373134338,2.247731343283583,94.85871144278609,85.04477611940298,4.767363184079602,15.649751243781095,6.079149491110277,-0.6413466666666667,503,9,111,4,15,163,91,134,0.085,0.7809999999999999,0.134,0.5816,0,0,1,0,0,0,23,1,0,0,1,7,10,1,0,2,1,17,0,0,1,0,25,23,10,0,4,3,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,10,12,0,0,4,5,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,3,14,8,14,18,2,18,0,0,1,0,10,3,1,4,14,76,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050459533551849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574542442508651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105770578192997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353704528520977,0.14628657124163574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417587901122564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275288936064426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053993804487464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311585759819282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000394869816616,0.0,0.0,0.18121357218746728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408675367884707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398222512515486,0.32688833385242605,0.0,0.1505283198967499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486996855412485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117986731264494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157640702630108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182558472653384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852321235987346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582062664002341,0.0,0.19409648084399425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077769560492893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220625727519764,0.0,0.2079522290932398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meegee123,2018/02/02,"Did anyone else _not_ CIO? I didn't.  It's not that I thought crying it out would scar them for life or anything, I just wasn't at all impressed by the evidence that it makes them better sleepers, and I really didn't want to.

It sometimes seems like CIO has just been added to the schedule you're supposed to follow with a baby.  Start solids, do tummy time, CIO.  I'm wondering if anyone else said 'forget it'.",2.7501916376306643,4.5475070853658535,3.6566202090592337,89.71085365853662,75.70731707317074,6.149128919860628,22.68989547038328,6.868970318607317,0.6230188153310108,319,9,65,3,7,102,59,82,0.075,0.8240000000000001,0.101,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,1,1,17,17,3,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,7,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,7,1,6,3,8,9,1,6,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,4,4,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173574961674216,0.4650449736314459,0.18674878038030615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070622302092286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492782576970587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37915138717758107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029142662801565,0.11086934110406317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148137069400394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538084804190804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21586785943587128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065937773939288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244452526427558,0.0,0.16062628698725462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016163104081465,0.13232805676162832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385258097375308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461021329447425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120864078286065,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,--Heretic--,2018/02/02,"Why has PBS pulled Thomas and Friends? The only place to find him now seems to be Hulu and Google Play..

Is Disney planning to buy Thomas and Friends and put it in their Hulu Library for good?

It was easier to explain to my 4 year old that our cat died last year.. Just looking for answers.",2.722758620689657,4.559711965517245,2.971931034482761,94.41617241379312,75.89655172413794,5.329655172413793,23.66896551724138,5.6839178017228535,0.2572786206896547,226,7,48,1,5,69,45,58,0.053,0.7659999999999999,0.181,0.8253,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,7,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,4,8,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,1,5,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829191504111784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24915444545004026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212252124057948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286466849834267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22220804472733885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289180855889026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860512696570451,0.0,0.0,0.20732706689340272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848123911228718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740415747030772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481677740585111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24598204580331906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510951298309425
parenting,fakingreality,2018/02/02,"A story you don't want to hear from your 4 year old. While we were driving home from her daycare, my 4 year old tells me this, ""After wake up time [nap time], I took a big poop and I got some poop on my hands."" Oooookkkkkk..... So I asked her if she then washed her hands and she tells me, ""No, I just wiped it on my pants."" ohhhh ewwww noooo.... I go into panic mode, and start lecturing her that she needs to wash her hands if she gets poop on them and that when we get home, we are changing her clothes and washing her hands, and that she and other can get sick if she has poop on her hands and touches things. To every comment of mine, she comes back with her innocent but not so rational comments- ""It's fine mommy, I don't feel sick"" ""But then I'll waste all the soap"" ""I didn't touch anything but it's still ok to touch my hair""... ugh. 

Kids are gross.",2.4790287924366154,3.303268385474862,3.0302793296089416,97.8614654061023,74.64245810055866,6.178083369144822,21.031800601633,5.873414542411696,-0.2294326600773529,647,13,160,3,13,201,106,179,0.118,0.845,0.037000000000000005,-0.9404,0,0,0,0,0,0,41,3,2,1,0,6,5,0,1,3,1,8,16,11,0,1,27,21,20,0,5,8,0,10,0,0,0,5,1,2,1,9,14,0,0,1,1,0,4,5,3,0,0,4,11,36,2,15,17,2,25,0,0,0,0,29,7,0,4,14,98,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215376493335192,0.0,0.17285292708151584,0.0,0.0,0.14217371485775415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955955944774746,0.1592716484799008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578296824246754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348904136328427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289801797692964,0.0,0.10508073445364001,0.0,0.14787832974292994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839138198685192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37093179782886665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709814129212838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880347816097807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693577632478994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087043600823006,0.0,0.14765829225112606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32321474323418986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228367763224062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156288464277363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054264091961648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905653091671072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381340977642677
parenting,daenerystagaryen,2018/02/02,"Toddler tips please! Hi all. 

Just looking for a little advice for dealing with our toddler. He's 2.5.

He's always made chaos around the house as kids do, but recently he's start throwing things around on purpose and then looking at me to see what I'm gonna do about it (I.e throwing all of his crayons or a puzzle all over the floor). Obviously I want him to tidy up after himself. But it then turns into a big stand off with me asking him to tidy and him either giggling and saying no, or throwing a tantrum.

Most of the time he'll eventually give in but it's such a fight and my husband and I end up so frustrated. And we end up resorting to tactics I really don't like to get him to to tidy. For example, the last stand off was over crayons. I eventually told him if he didn't pick them up, they would go in the bin (which I hate! I don't wanna do that). And it didn't work because he then decided that putting them in the bin would be better than picking them up and got upset that I wouldn't let him put them in the bin!

Please let me know if you have any tips for dealing with this sort of situation!",2.575435823754788,3.8263514956896567,3.8814942528735656,90.19070881226057,74.99137931034483,6.879693486590037,25.38888888888889,7.3871296695380915,1.000927394636015,865,29,194,10,18,284,127,232,0.13,0.815,0.055,-0.9676,0,0,0,0,1,0,24,2,1,5,2,6,8,4,1,12,0,15,0,0,3,4,44,33,20,0,7,9,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,11,15,0,3,2,0,0,6,6,5,0,0,6,4,27,3,40,19,5,39,0,0,3,0,32,21,0,7,11,132,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405767143100614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119701671149037,0.0,0.0,0.09782861086530303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561288618341274,0.1344881374596756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876947146930123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272310197280187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966232833509984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548315967137642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516005015024949,0.13800203748544262,0.08175801531495172,0.0,0.11505666391403055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420303371791635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659932206878825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906078673893112,0.11726375547127135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942098184078352,0.0,0.07028192306609744,0.14418385927948374,0.0,0.0,0.2416095640856515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612224877470094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158265360968277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892347506533827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215934248021722,0.0,0.14204276506466554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440193368169015,0.0,0.0,0.11463647925635922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617028124191276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182368030702932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557309522077384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388496055079465,0.0,0.0,0.137462817991073,0.0,0.0,0.1564765744386594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848513818564682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473059187948387,0.0,0.0,0.2043856881670585,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ronika1224,2018/02/02,"Nudity as a father around a baby daughter (or any toddler/infant)? My wife and I have been debating what is ""okay"" regarding being nude around our 1 year old daughter. I still find it awkward to walk out of the shower naked and she's right there - and recognize that's probably a bit overly conservative. My wife's view is that we should be as open as possible for as long as possible - just to developer a healthier relationship and outlook towards the body for our daughter.

Is this an odd way to think for me - or do others face this same question? And does it change at a certain age?",5.939924146649807,6.458134522123897,6.787130214917827,75.15442477876108,66.61061946902655,10.350948166877373,32.95701643489254,10.290406445055957,3.3998379266750947,463,19,86,11,7,154,80,113,0.042,0.937,0.02,-0.327,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,8,1,9,3,3,0,1,20,10,12,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,10,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,9,2,18,6,2,15,0,0,1,1,12,8,0,3,5,63,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452896865912782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783968709899355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23202977126644234,0.2360750104405172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248305517880489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18598808328529595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942502909780876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18808402871434315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230164597912994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791955297915715,0.0,0.0,0.22914531662322496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23808434947992055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281797048056264,0.0,0.18150106706652228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972823652592467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361818491444163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168697916402678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686356470072567
parenting,kams88,2018/02/02,How did you know you were for sure done having kids? Pregnant with my 2nd and planning to get my Fallopian tubes removed during my c-section - I don’t want to regret it so I’m curious how you all knew you were done. ,1.8836666666666664,3.651322644444445,3.744166666666669,88.25625000000002,78.1111111111111,6.277777777777778,24.583333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.9793333333333334,169,6,36,2,4,57,35,45,0.061,0.805,0.134,0.3353,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,2,10,12,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,0,8,1,4,6,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.835550363415159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329055377214876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436013482559392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847649824483032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24079279069557785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AwesmPoodle,2018/02/02,"How do you get a stubborn Three-nager to sleep? My son (3) used to be a champion sleeper.  He could nap for 4 hours and still go down at 7pm for another 12 hours.  We thought we'd overcome the obvious hurdles that could derail his sleep - moved him to a toddler bed, moved his infant brother into his room, and took away the pacifier.  Each change caused maybe a week of disruption, and then we were back on track to easy bedtimes.

Then about 4 weeks ago all hell broke loose.  At night, he doesn't seem tired at all, and he doesn't want to go to bed. First we tried just putting him down, but he gets back up, we put him back, then he runs out and thinks it's a game. He's laughing and yelling having a great time, while I want to cry because he won't just stay in bed. I tried just putting him back in bed without talking to him which worked before, but it just wasn't working at all because he thought it was a fun game to defy me, and then it eventually got to the point where he started intentionally peeing his bed because we couldn't ignore that and would have to change him and his sheets (all while he sat there happily reading a book).

We've also tried taking away high value things, e.g., if you don't go to bed right now, then you can't play with your tablet tomorrow, but he doesn't care in the moment. He only cares the next day when he loses it, and then we get another tantrum about that, but it doesn't make bedtime the next day any easier. I think he might be too young for this type of tactic.

We tried letting him read in bed until he fell asleep, because his friend at school does this. It worked one night, and then he started playing instead of reading, and then he'd wake up the baby to play, and it went down hill fast.

We tried letting him stay up later, which for a week was working because he'd be ready for bed around 9pm, but then it became 10pm, and then I'd be ready for bed and he would still be hanging out.

We had about a week where he'd go to sleep if I went in the room with him, which was a mistake.  I was so desperate for him to just go to bed at a reasonable time, but now he won't go in his room without me, and he no longer will get in his bed, because he wants to lay on the floor next to me.  I feel like I've done more damage with this than good.

He has also started waking up during the night.  Sometimes I can just settle him back down, but a few nights he won't go back to bed, and in my sleepy desperation I let him sleep in my bed for the last couple hours of the night.

I just want him to be well rested.  On days when he's not, he has behavior problems at daycare.  I feel like everything we've tried worked a day or two and then it just made things worse.

I read all the advice online about making a bedtime routine, but I'm worried we're beyond that because he won't even get in his bed or stay in the room by himself.

Any advice, tips or tricks to get him to go to bed and stay in bed?  How to fix my mistakes?  Last night we just let him stay on the couch while we watched TV and he eventually fell asleep, but then he was up at 4am.  Any thoughts on the sudden change in sleep pattern?  Any chance this is just a phase we need to ride out?",5.778424369747902,4.33167241666667,5.902461484593836,87.94793067226891,67.39285714285714,8.91778711484594,29.43732492997199,7.1686216300943375,1.3465189425770303,2472,65,581,17,34,785,260,672,0.098,0.8059999999999999,0.096,0.7976,0,0,0,0,1,0,72,13,4,0,7,40,24,4,0,32,0,47,11,10,9,6,107,90,57,0,15,27,2,2,2,1,8,1,1,21,1,23,41,0,2,9,12,0,21,16,11,1,3,18,4,63,13,92,47,9,142,1,3,1,0,79,53,1,7,65,350,86,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014496412004692,0.045422390344366265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195542380459775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938357818509076,0.10746210642634753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04561569070022594,0.0,0.0,0.0962859237953538,0.23640874291624075,0.0,0.21865388125217528,0.0,0.043602639028338976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448800095277516,0.05263901084388673,0.16261975238052453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182414242427191,0.05669761072357048,0.05628624821210825,0.1321858002491547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484167566647546,0.052437720869039764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03384444725412675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460524469650625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05181836123799046,0.0732137021293668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04358589040611488,0.0,0.0,0.03958896194723612,0.0,0.16062903225116018,0.0,0.23297325024066465,0.04297883718532152,0.040982411404312524,0.05649380073397992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413932977026563,0.0,0.0,0.15138730820506094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353712520518006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959112505099567,0.0,0.05006789850144102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05732599554485378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048485831335534565,0.06840803613731042,0.0,0.0514788520488767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435900501887129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089229521136276,0.0,0.03799483290734961,0.0,0.0,0.163487362181642,0.2885193754195673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034722484233344106,0.038971377401634776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048439665393833486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903107895969277,0.0,0.15453521517742186,0.0,0.0,0.2050209807233312,0.0,0.0,0.0526846713746287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043759857291672234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185901072514575,0.0,0.046648226527655635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563919222341817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050679033610834485,0.0,0.10880673439728504,0.2730824581854897,0.08184286218019278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03852713959088648,0.04118587907837571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680849900262692,0.06566681265947097,0.0,0.1220397925203552,0.059758519793271535,0.058894426715924264,0.0,0.0,0.056931056968408715,0.2087371947214129,0.0,0.05005538116623468,0.0,0.0,0.0442560988330712,0.0,0.0,0.12089397071566392,0.0,0.1644109721173316,0.0,0.04607215314610219,0.09500254253669027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878972071183777,0.0,0.18652166928067693,0.05203810721908906,0.05221934240169982,0.07280081025010916,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BipolarParent97,2018/02/02,"Mom refuses to give me my baby I wasn't sure where else to ask this... I had a baby in Oct and my mom (the babies grandmother) has been taking care of them for me because I had extremely bad post partum. We had made the agreement (she offered) that she would help me out in caring for my child while I focused on being mentally healthy, an agreement we made before my child was born. 
Fast forward to today, I contact her letting her know that I wanted to start taking my child most nights of the week to which she replies ""we will have to talk about that"". The conversation then escalates as I feel my right as the baby's parent is being overstepped, and she claims I abandoned my baby, so I inform her that me and my partner are coming to pick up my baby tomorrow afternoon and all of the babies stuff... she tells me 'no' and I feel she will try to stop me. I never signed over custody, I'm the only person on the birth certificate, but I'd really rather not call the cops. Are there any non police alternatives I can utilize if she refuses to hand over my baby???

Update: I am not an active drug user, my avoidance of police is that I am more left and think police are tools of an oppressive state. Also I see my baby for hours at a time a few times a week, including having them over night at times, and have maintained that the entire time. I have Bipolar but am very stable, the hormone drop just caused post partum depression because in parents who give birth who have Bipolar, it's 75% likely to develop post partum and my mother had it with me. This statistic of Bipolar parenting is why I knew I would develop it for a fact.
Also baby hasn't been gendered as they are being raised free of gender until they decide how they want to be addressed themselves. My mother lives in a living room at her mothers apartment at the moment because her housing fell through, along with my younger siblings whom I realized yesterday she has been putting less time into caring for because of my baby. I have an apartment with space set up for the baby, and I have been the one purchasing everything the baby has needed this whole time. I have not been an absent parent whatsoever. My partner didn't help care for the baby while I struggled because they lived in a separate apartment and worked a lot to help provide for me while I recovered.",7.600938669737978,6.644709587196469,7.69439485555236,74.97768787791537,63.50331125827815,10.085766388329017,34.265188597754104,9.085049710711278,2.957450791822632,1845,66,335,25,23,599,217,453,0.061,0.8440000000000001,0.095,0.9362,4,1,1,0,0,0,44,3,0,6,1,9,14,0,2,29,0,44,5,1,5,4,58,67,25,0,7,8,9,3,1,2,4,4,0,2,6,17,20,0,5,8,0,2,4,8,5,0,1,15,4,71,10,56,43,7,65,0,2,1,0,55,27,0,3,31,255,88,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616325519535766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057894038141115274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958879606640212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108333244251333,0.2594844755693112,0.0,0.07244276204784518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693133070770287,0.0,0.3471991401693497,0.0874560673843437,0.0,0.07333540116476311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332578789642627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872840964945596,0.0,0.07111853133504396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651294810487809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609261495464185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333657712331834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119057332533444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383983928308578,0.09823320360648427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467874189610275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249833813650243,0.0870552811582185,0.0,0.04159217123323885,0.0,0.2255246403973701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723778808439569,0.0,0.16111169509025428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579504644948291,0.0,0.0,0.19941581950382695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312578093187995,0.06566058775172645,0.0,0.0,0.15978498033974653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576890004614481,0.0647482419114242,0.0,0.0,0.3781249202600551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433572345161461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24460451117745466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558318235305669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453901922369153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270396929341638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784077422471814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025828210400015,0.0,0.0,0.07117583453828186,0.0,0.08900053948511992,0.0974580598015202,0.0,0.0,0.08023778577836525,0.0,0.12802034317017927,0.06842748292980458,0.07441086685442454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455042848253605,0.0,0.0,0.2978539138584105,0.0,0.08069707583078997,0.0,0.0,0.057800396431318485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024446446361682,0.10042847576131717,0.0,0.13657871629524254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682019162374565,0.09504906867325512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061978564626259926,0.0,0.0,0.12095349940656773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,googooligan,2018/02/02,"Does anyone know of an email newsletter service that tells parents of toddlers what to be looking out for next? I’m trying to help my wife at home by helping to anticipating what’s next and what we need to buy and think about for our 17 month old toddler. 

For example, when my son was younger, my wife was the one who said it was time to get a play mat or utensils. She also knew about which bibs were the best.  She’s thinking out pre schools and the pros and cons of sending him to school at a certain age (he has a nanny now). Maybe she learned this stuff from a moms group. I don’t know.

Is there a good book you can recommend, or an email newsletter that can tell me what i should be planning for, so that I can be a better dad?
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parenting,three_square,2018/02/02,"Thoughts on homework for Kindergartners I have a daughter in kindergarten and the teacher had started assigning nightly homework (reading comprehension, math exercises, drawing).

And every night what might take another kid 5 minutes takes my husband and I an hour to fight to get her to do the homework. She's been exhibiting signs of anxiety, and they're only getting worse (tantrums, excuses, crying, feigning illness).

Any thoughts on how to cope?

Edit: thanks for your feedback. I sent the teacher a message saying that my kid will do the homework her way: she'll draw whatever she wants and write whatever she wants because she's an anxious mess when we try to direct her.",6.263728813559317,8.898567576271189,5.712000000000002,75.12749152542374,68.15254237288136,8.109830508474579,40.61355932203389,8.841846274778883,4.2302481355932215,546,34,81,10,10,167,84,118,0.126,0.8490000000000001,0.024,-0.8779,0,0,0,0,1,0,18,1,1,0,0,2,4,2,0,8,0,8,2,0,1,0,14,19,7,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,4,2,2,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,1,15,1,11,11,0,10,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,1,5,50,17,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799555357411009,0.21278393133015408,0.15523661394623034,0.2292468168496229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370083345298648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229029296500144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097256277443346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203925181810204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983966233679207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21527072520281595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808616141279733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433315367877107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20297931863718868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137363117718187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436309378885935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051477957273496,0.0,0.0,0.1868255278284968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221986204535029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777235028762422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393801426237856,0.1610719468682534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679730441213087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Quicksundown,2018/02/02,"Feeding Babs 36ish hours old formula I noticed my wife made extra formula than needed and Instead of just washing it down the drain I’m asking if he can drink this and not *die*. I *know* he won’t die but I’m curious if there are any adverse effects. He’s 11months old. It’s been **refridgerated** the entire period, Christ.
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parenting,neerah25,2018/02/02,"how long does postpartum depression last?! I feel like I've been dealing with postpartum for a while now, and my son is 6 months and i really want this phase to end. sometimes i am happy than the next min i feel like i cant do this at all.... i just want to know how long does it last? also this is my second pregnancy and i have a 3 year old little girl as well but i didn't experience this at all with her. so this is something totally different for me.",0.6400000000000006,2.676641333333336,2.904,91.34100000000001,83.58333333333334,7.173333333333334,20.016666666666666,8.238735603445708,0.9345991666666672,352,10,81,8,10,120,65,96,0.027000000000000003,0.852,0.121,0.6326,1,0,1,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,3,17,14,10,0,2,2,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,2,12,4,10,12,3,15,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,14,56,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098183132998722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946426270272535,0.16261159039467646,0.0,0.0,0.1972539079167132,0.0,0.0,0.3304371082588422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721914366790627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468084144815367,0.0,0.0,0.1909240587879606,0.2697549060888353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009791666353508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375853878940082,0.3077914203114143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844745022517327,0.189225369148636,0.0,0.3341608852579325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069690104063274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078899964241648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19811192407021114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094894455218735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534605799024847,0.1867262213869122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22271610892921515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697522319425527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157983389810052
parenting,TheEpitomeOfReddit,2018/02/02,"What is the most affordable way to get my 19 y/o son insured? I have a son who is in college currently and I need to get his newly-purchased car insured. What is the best course of action to get him insured while not breaking the bank? Should I put him on my insurance? Should I put his car in my name and insure it that way? What is the most affordable way to get my son insured for the first time? What did other parents out there do? 

Also, the college he goes to is only 20 minutes away and he goes two times a week. Suffice it to say he doesn't do a whole lot of driving. 

Thank you!",1.4130571847507345,3.0549413467741964,3.0805571847507345,93.05447214076248,79.08064516129029,5.799413489736072,24.175953079178885,6.574015621080383,0.6177032258064519,453,16,102,4,11,150,72,124,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.8382,4,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,12,18,5,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,1,1,13,2,14,15,5,21,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,6,71,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562478792192879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183568953624885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050426204731844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661928551812992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083186438867088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610781474090605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448741715305861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859773243996838,0.0,0.0,0.21694992817934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928281743945442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537656749012246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988260548992815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22785903725529136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908610019364817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652582836633728,0.1567246224908996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813837192210292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdrianR154,2018/02/02,Are there any good online high schools? My son was diagnosed last year with social anxiety disorder. He's been taking the anxiety medicine they prescribed and saw his counselor once every other week. It still hasn't worked for him and it seriously effects his grades and his learning. ,6.768600000000002,9.232319260000004,5.805,75.70750000000002,66.4,9.0,34.5,9.516144504307137,3.649000000000002,233,11,36,5,4,70,44,50,0.145,0.8009999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,1,0,6,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,6,1,2,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,4,21,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796425752615,0.0,0.4041739662169539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681238795357637,0.0,0.0,0.3027581951935681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225720371443915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157069273865831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27910687182810257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153313108646556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813291655381379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673510425972241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692849240921071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096405645861813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862066001420706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21189878188651184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19231667574014816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011484583616385
parenting,AstoriaBlue,2018/02/02,"Child allergic to cold and daycare won't accommodate. Don't they have to? Help!  My child has recently been diagnosed with cold urticaria which is an allergy to cold so going outside in cold temperatures causes him to turn red and get hives and swelling.  I told his daycare about it and they said that they are required to take the kids outside if the temp is above 25.  I asked what happens if he can't go outside on those days and they said that he can not be enrolled in daycare there if he can't go outside.  However, this daycare is licensed by the Dept of Human Services.  Don't they have to accommodate a disability of this nature?  I mean, if he had a peanut allergy there would be no more peanuts in the daycare, right?  I get that it would mess with the ratios but isn't that something they'd have to figure out?  I don't know what my next step should be here so any info or advice is welcome.  Thanks! ",3.357666666666667,5.187661655555555,4.102222222222224,87.02500000000002,74.1111111111111,7.022222222222222,28.11111111111111,7.793537801064563,1.6618444444444438,718,29,145,10,15,229,103,180,0.028,0.908,0.064,0.8517,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,0,0,6,1,6,3,0,0,8,0,26,2,0,1,0,24,41,13,0,7,7,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,4,12,8,0,1,4,0,0,4,9,1,0,0,5,7,15,2,18,28,1,13,0,0,1,0,22,6,0,5,3,97,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911026640918675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385626408145251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048651841021708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931591647640896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314072561430581,0.0,0.0,0.20681039981658084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21291061869231528,0.0,0.3474016366865951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018280430955932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657490295570976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198024073451968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219525379415758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669927872093372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118675366919464,0.0,0.0,0.1740084869954771,0.3876416339443155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686310498836847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532008942302817,0.0,0.0,0.1875932799065262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946998010722544,0.0,0.0,0.221630535157902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894881205674568,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofabeast,2018/02/02,"My kid may be late to school because the Superbowl. The bus company felt the need to warn the school. Am I in some cheap Idiocracy remake? So we got a letter home from school today saying that the bus company expects a high number of callouts Monday and Tuesday due to the Superbowl, so buses may be late.....ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? How is any part of that ok? Not  only does the bus company have that little faith in their employees they feel the need to inform their clients, but the school felt that that was acceptable as well! Suddenly it's ok to get too drunk for work because the local team made it? How many drivers are coming in drunk or hungover or sleep deprived? Not just Monday, but Tuesday too?there are so many questions about this I can't even begin to know who to complain to first! What would you do?",3.8684615384615375,5.7930157579617845,4.302165605095542,85.72851543361101,72.94904458598727,7.123762861342479,26.72660460558549,7.882392219407189,1.612541793238608,642,23,122,9,13,202,102,157,0.097,0.8170000000000001,0.086,-0.7072,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,2,3,3,10,7,0,0,12,2,13,3,1,3,0,27,24,11,0,4,7,0,3,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,10,3,2,0,7,3,1,1,3,2,1,1,5,4,10,5,17,14,2,17,1,1,0,0,15,6,0,6,10,81,20,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718066086995304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742277694283708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310046041327168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505759236564942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438775482049196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225732982143404,0.0,0.27442343884565484,0.0,0.0,0.12155537085285315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466224124021177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429460704550636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098753855046354,0.1433458984397288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853714201018823,0.0,0.322407324834767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322888373476994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522066783963033,0.0,0.2897675551112958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21192527955776813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868609516894516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547527629963665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008689911723312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136442132996728,0.0,0.5785121030701988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430087347096134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545773297750846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848923377456573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040369278693228,0.0,0.0,0.10151598838392313,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a_doom_with_a_view,2018/02/02,"Why did you have another one? So, we've all heard the famous line ""we're only having one kid"". My wife and I originally said the same, but now we're not sure.  For those brave souls who have gone before me...Why did you decide to have another one?",2.39970588235294,3.6686610784313705,3.958970588235297,89.38786764705885,75.47058823529412,7.452941176470588,18.63235294117647,8.07648339933343,0.4009176470588232,189,3,43,3,4,63,39,51,0.048,0.856,0.096,0.5449,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,2,8,9,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,2,4,2,2,4,2,3,1,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.543607606196695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205682264594296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5269412771531939,0.19714053524542202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465676304848885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24430192339266404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677925839308086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SpideyPoolRomance,2018/02/02,"Talk to me about umbrella strollers. Now that babes is walking I'm seeing a future with a tiny stroller instead of our jogger. Our budget is $150-$200 and it has to be available in Canada.

So tell me about your stroller; two things you like, it's biggest fault, and what you wish it had.",4.452368421052633,5.53914436842105,4.044692982456141,91.44493421052631,70.2280701754386,6.401754385964912,30.03947368421053,5.985473137389443,1.1986526315789474,227,9,47,1,4,68,46,57,0.047,0.861,0.091,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,3,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,1,7,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,3,33,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844950071979974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35631184471540506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35939334346610424,0.3908191428940396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970592440048783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43678977354276294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5141877151880531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mephestic,2018/02/02,"Being a parent I live in fear now This is going to be pretty weird to explain but I wonder if theres others like me out there.

I'm a dad to two beautiful children, a 3yr old girl and 7month old boy. They are absolutely adorable in every way and good kids, well behaved generally and I'm blessed.

I can honestly say I never expected being a parent to be this amazing, I was initially terrified of it and when my wife was pregnant with my daughter we even considered having an abortion at one point because we thought we may not be ready - I'm beyond glad we never went through with this and I feel so guilty about having even considered it. I really hate myself for even thinking that was an option and when I look at my daughter it melts my heart every time. I'm grateful we made the right choice but at the same time angry at myself for it for being so weak to have considered it.

I live in constant fear now however that I'm going to lose them for some strange reason? I work in law enforcement and I'm inundated with vile horrible people from across the spectrum (murderers, rapists, you name it) and I fear for the world my kids are being brought up in. I get that its a distorted viewpoint as I'm exposed daily to it but on the other hand I see a underworld people have no idea exists and especially not to the extent and detail I understand it in. 

I'm scared of something happening to my children, that they fall ill, that something happens to them that takes them away and then having to live with the pain that could follow. I couldn't really imagine my life without them in it now - its unbelievable how you can love these creatures unconditionally and get by without them at first but once they are in your life, you feel completely and emotionally devoted to them to such an extent you cant picture living without them.

Does anyone else understand this? This feeling in the pit of your stomach?

Is it just me?",4.764107744107747,6.117151802139034,5.619174093879976,79.44756288373938,69.74866310160428,8.535393147157853,29.89463260051495,8.94667605116694,2.487339790057437,1530,60,284,28,27,501,191,374,0.184,0.675,0.141,-0.9662,3,0,2,0,0,0,26,5,6,10,3,18,22,4,4,17,0,26,10,3,3,2,60,58,25,1,4,11,6,4,1,0,1,5,1,0,6,27,23,0,0,12,0,0,6,10,12,1,3,7,7,47,10,53,41,4,44,1,1,2,2,37,23,0,5,15,215,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682888069410161,0.10006811500193516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175836464945887,0.0,0.0,0.05953495226096209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239864694165113,0.10553988320309983,0.0,0.07797660552806468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546625851650745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158558153839574,0.10985864136995373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19351807679203425,0.0,0.16457194472466985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296968161447959,0.14814527083269313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307278712838452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205061988720217,0.0,0.11100918808541398,0.08191577043062556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727275697730961,0.0,0.0,0.09642279324552752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157320854088575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025055412069763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796567491855935,0.04771360451078735,0.0,0.34495573502730736,0.0,0.08201300337189697,0.10926082226261552,0.0,0.0,0.08814540182297287,0.09241185869440288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506487025340975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496348012492666,0.1040087705409821,0.06617952540165617,0.0,0.10392117994327063,0.0,0.2168882071554736,0.0,0.0,0.13541557804840554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232386844315917,0.0,0.0,0.09935920582331403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513187537398032,0.10041466284739246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340436034890697,0.0,0.07766618186904123,0.09777851167478946,0.0,0.07782541221307991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503727451436133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734310309156893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625790261324386,0.0,0.07753415620492746,0.1138971063258887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540335153206783,0.20334294159119232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752098672016,0.0,0.0,0.08781149438937519,0.09053533057682517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824332838918794,0.10591223618407804,0.07110041705060939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConfusedAdopter,2018/02/03,"My 4 year old won't talk and no one knows what to do My husband and I adopted our son when he was only about 6 months old.  He was developing like a normal baby, babbling, rolling over, he hit all the milestones, even his first words and everything.  Then a little less than a year ago he just stopped talking.  He'd always been a quiet kid and his preschool teach always mentioned how she wished he'd talk more to the other kids in his class.  Our routine hasn't changed, we'd been contemplating adopting another child but hadn't told him yet and now we don't want to until we get this sorted out.  He's a great kid and always very courteous and listens better than most adults, but for whatever reason, he just doesn't talk.  We've been taking him to a speech therapist and this last meeting he basically told us he didn't know what was wrong and maybe our kid's just mute.  I don't know if that's possible since he used to babble and talk before this.  He will randomly say something to me or his father, but no one else outside of our house and never more than a handful of words, and if he can get the message through without talking, he will.  Has anyone else ever experienced this before or have any ideas of things we could try?  What are the chances he'll just grow out of it?

(I'm at work right now so replies may be a bit short in supply for a little bit)",6.09804347826087,5.471481413043481,6.164985507246377,83.63508695652177,66.3913043478261,8.954202898550726,30.71884057971015,8.021203637495839,1.8928205797101445,1074,34,226,11,15,341,161,276,0.026,0.89,0.084,0.9481,0,0,1,0,0,0,23,9,0,0,3,13,4,0,0,13,0,26,1,1,3,3,50,41,24,0,6,12,3,1,1,0,5,0,4,0,6,11,17,0,1,5,0,0,1,11,1,0,3,10,6,23,3,25,20,7,28,0,0,0,0,53,10,0,8,18,138,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205864626221398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592398721968381,0.0,0.0,0.07062300894791197,0.10889801226987304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261582326535981,0.10640877881721712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17674102538316633,0.0,0.0,0.09184876862941026,0.2267592547619971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986178216036532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291747446619499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351025549797353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859335173879176,0.0939401963093534,0.0,0.0,0.09333559710364046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833656785783447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085169021074015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144973388311016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983141338962668,0.0,0.117236412694274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712232423594436,0.08465334607802932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507369044461601,0.2081742323431267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433342223567448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289377854504243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009716415034658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175303650597677,0.0,0.0,0.2179506791129085,0.0,0.1407457806226699,0.0789842238457473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707767135627535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677728513949704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868915071086017,0.0,0.08258738128444555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590755427086721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995044264506768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682503001811419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780838764363325,0.5008344445542511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058032614837387,0.06899473987471555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984703194519529,0.0,0.07050877854489955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492132418803058,0.0896948953265424,0.0,0.08568888268362426,0.061254676388514485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942482306859788,0.10010974636523033,0.0,0.07560558677060998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354600005972322,0.0,0.13375473227514842
parenting,athaliah,2018/02/03,"3 year old having lots of issues in new class at daycare He's in a class with 3-5 year olds now and has been for a month. After the first week they had a meeting with me solely about his behavior. The teacher said she was surprised that he immediately began taking things from other kids, doing what he wanted, and was so smug about it. Like there was no period of time where he was kinda shy and timid about being new. He just went straight to trying to dominate everything. She had some ideas for stopping that, but Im still getting notes every few days about his behavior. The latest one said he keeps hitting things on tables and breaking them, and that he screams a lot (over what, I dont know). The note told me to talk to him, which I did, but lord knows it's just going in one ear and out the other.

He doesn't do these exact things at home, but none of it surprises me, I call him ""Godzilla"" and my dad calls him ""Mr. Hands"" because he's always been....rambunctious? Aggressive? Crazy? IDK how to describe it. I dunno if we're doing something wrong, or if he's just more immature than other kids his age, or if he needs a different daycare environment. Not sure what to do about all this besides just hope things will get better.",4.385188475390155,5.377612359183677,4.9130372148859545,85.50746698679474,70.3061224489796,7.723889555822329,25.43217286914766,7.928766900206844,1.2957490996398555,968,27,196,12,17,309,154,245,0.107,0.836,0.057,-0.858,1,0,1,0,0,0,37,0,0,2,2,15,11,1,1,10,0,18,2,2,1,3,40,34,17,0,6,13,1,1,1,0,1,0,4,1,3,20,10,0,2,3,0,0,2,5,5,0,3,13,5,18,6,29,18,7,32,1,0,0,0,32,10,0,11,20,132,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169784431269043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183102620706141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872374459693925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741466511917247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657323775492833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14025148836537188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573274500157325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310239288242516,0.0,0.1206456195079268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418387287519448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402689786972805,0.0,0.07629128297293207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465295469696928,0.13332990584724747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153982057544454,0.14500147052693,0.14011094398765558,0.0,0.11931805031410225,0.0,0.0,0.1475488080263948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558253719665462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282508905844493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714852185297116,0.0,0.0,0.09953673379581593,0.0,0.25929828868776594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28172311015005663,0.0,0.18192803628280926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553846136368245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334396502693977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720367169112738,0.11223005863130817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651894369442054,0.0,0.1009312410117351,0.10789645770959426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567304819716485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827601046699523,0.0,0.0,0.12827139584069291,0.0,0.09113966731097103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917781221717456,0.0,0.10767866254774716,0.0,0.0,0.124441168216995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676959214865398,0.0,0.17289140518952942
parenting,japosey,2018/02/03,Father to be Could ya'll recommend good literature for providing the best biopsychosocial care throughout my growing child's development? I want to be the best father that I could possibly prepare to be!,10.481470588235293,11.685085970588233,9.434117647058828,57.70352941176475,56.941176470588246,13.858823529411767,43.470588235294116,13.023866798666859,6.603282352941176,169,9,23,6,2,53,25,34,0.0,0.542,0.458,0.9601,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6534465355545879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31742327767818657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4971458396119181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611301440502781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509795588983686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363142220244352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dyspdjl,2018/02/03,"I truly hate being a parent; how do I change my outlook on it? I am a married 28 year old male who has one child, a 4 month old son.  I absolutely hate being a parent.  Not a day goes by when I wish I did not have a child.  If my wife was okay with it, I would give him up for adoption in a heartbeat; better for him to find a father who loves and wants him than to live with me.  His mother though absolutely loves and adores him.  She would not consider abortion or giving him up for adoption.  Before he was conceived, I didn’t particularly want kids, but my wife always did.  With her always talking about it and wanting one, I thought, “What the hell, it sounds kind of fun.  Let’s do it.”  Now I view it as the biggest mistake of my life, and also one that I can’t do anything about.  However, I know that my perspective on the situation is my reality.  I constantly and unsuccessfully try and convince myself that I like being a father, that I love my son.  Sometimes he’s not so bad, but most of the time…..

He doesn’t sleep very much, and when he does he’s up every hour.  He cries all the time, and it’s pretty rare that I can get him to stop.  When his mom goes out, just to get out of the house for a few hours, he cries non-stop with me usually for hours on end.

I don’t want to hate my child.  I don’t want to blame him for “ruining my life.”  And I know intellectually that I have to change my own point of view, my own mind, not any external circumstances.  But I cannot seem to do it no matter how hard I try.

The worst part is, she wants more kids.  I try and tell her how I feel, though in much gentler terms than above.  She, and everyone else, keeps saying that “I’ll grow into it.  I’ll find my stride, I’m going to love it.”  The thing is, I absolutely hate it.  I dread coming home from work, and having to be around my own baby.

What’s wrong with me?  Has anyone else felt this way?  What helps?  How do I convince myself that I don’t hate him?  I know I must fix this before he’s old enough to realize how I feel just by my actions and attitude toward him.  I really don’t know what to do, I’m totally lost, and cannot talk openly with my wife or anyone close to me about this.",2.6083274044795783,3.38469899347826,4.262885375494072,89.32738471673254,74.28260869565217,7.401844532279316,22.20026350461133,7.686295010490155,0.630971014492753,1667,38,391,21,33,562,200,460,0.145,0.723,0.131,-0.9428,3,0,0,0,0,0,63,0,0,0,3,19,26,6,1,18,1,37,7,1,5,3,75,72,33,0,12,13,11,4,1,0,3,2,2,1,6,29,27,0,2,12,0,0,4,15,13,0,3,8,8,69,13,52,56,14,41,1,2,2,4,54,17,1,5,20,262,98,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06081107221002045,0.12654672105089074,0.0,0.0,0.0517114331451305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634121502341587,0.07791441534188821,0.0625764081504669,0.06769384946858828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349221977527965,0.0,0.0,0.12941294705871684,0.0,0.0,0.06725331487851786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088553257708765,0.06550378616291004,0.0,0.08217480957707328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705799057880666,0.049041051042919066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654520836775607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270473194337502,0.0,0.06735098740630499,0.07857211679946391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406899367821722,0.07266176284843635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768986349106423,0.0,0.07301261991989348,0.0,0.13900273458709314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945802100534084,0.14589358005187195,0.043216642919103015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811904564092229,0.3753805875733624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050969611447796055,0.0,0.07627671778970775,0.0,0.22465931121015376,0.08774270899098224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675899706137809,0.0,0.07918644798811875,0.16716363655539446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775849631650919,0.10742197850254984,0.03715047094911485,0.0,0.06714682397326112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300925200489405,0.0,0.27452490527996565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678113715685983,0.08905992870300503,0.060696310610905364,0.0,0.11179981313515512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393810913705663,0.0,0.15458487538734889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688721512815772,0.08234649863535858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188463809587142,0.0,0.0,0.07736244887203221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048714702531416486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060471961044195575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922613635934896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547483297401097,0.07609730740565862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520786860404513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714968682280722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223998609974945,0.06646440100161331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051918534125992,0.0,0.14942252515719145,0.06036916404008143,0.08868185883528318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488337478902556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374994994846974,0.06274293596642594,0.2691106326461545,0.060358910097494514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744499626935573,0.0,0.0,0.05535976594498178,0.0,0.0,0.1080366648978032,0.08314041667802602,0.0,0.048968806334721185
parenting,Pastel_plants,2018/02/03,"Is it possible to be a good bipolar parent? Like the title says, I'm bipolar and was diagnosed around 12. I'm 18 now, have been living on my own since 15. I have 2 jobs, and despite being 5 months pregnant, still work 40-60 hours a week because I want to provide for my daughter in a way that my own bipolar mom couldn't for me. I've been unmedicated for 4 years or so now, it was rough at first but got easier at the beginning of 2017, my mood swings became less and less and I very rarely went into my usual depressive episodes. Since being pregnant, I've felt like a completely normal person, mentally stable, no breakdowns. I read that not only is it likely that my child will grow up to be bipolar or depressed, there's also a 75% chance I won't be able to be there for her because of postpartum. I'm considering getting myself into therapy now despite feeling better than I ever have, but I don't know what to do besides that. I can't even bring myself to worry about how I will help my own child with her mental health down the road when I'm scared I won't even be able to parent her for the first few years of her life. Any advice would be greatly appreciated ",7.614694423223837,5.5852577268907595,8.118770053475938,75.39173796791444,64.16806722689076,10.671352177234533,34.24140565317036,9.095868883498916,2.8112974789915968,921,30,185,12,11,308,140,238,0.096,0.797,0.107,0.1345,3,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,0,4,15,10,0,1,9,0,26,7,0,1,1,22,39,12,0,4,5,4,3,3,0,5,7,1,0,3,8,8,0,0,3,1,0,3,7,3,0,2,7,4,24,6,27,18,6,29,0,2,0,0,13,10,0,2,18,125,32,3,0.25620889367345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518218282369625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024450798524671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711541673763602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140401174046012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561825635383603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329797292963335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431507521921127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206723446943729,0.1300233169618543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922355790768856,0.11587780628180973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477345742859922,0.0,0.12300035842319515,0.0,0.0,0.21793115407426256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692928615613053,0.0,0.0,0.1074479321323316,0.1024568286992598,0.14123560488591494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616903655343893,0.0,0.0,0.085865710388811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615707545843932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712389664503085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040285376075107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048395929935883,0.18775608575661806,0.0,0.11311857353909292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581983038479258,0.0,0.0,0.15003437985970858,0.10225174727736076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255151587505411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742920442678814,0.0,0.0,0.28448965614601296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185586175896901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444185157615756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281391137193685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187379786056584,0.1282548992850013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119386444363313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230437672306858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649859937104073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410889497307257,0.10569958482329764,0.07555932181607003,0.10168334712780802,0.10275766011130598,0.0,0.0,0.11875410564117707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326156301373396,0.1300962841005222,0.0,0.09100172353667137,0.0,0.0,0.16499012738715932
parenting,MrsCrapnapkin,2018/02/03,"Looking for some encouragement from those who didn't particularly enjoy the baby and toddler years. I am knee deep in babyhood and toddlerhood with one six month old and one nearly three-year old.

I love them so much. I really do.

I work outside the home at a job I love.  I have a great couple hours at home with them in the evenings before they go to bed on the weeknights.

This all day parenting thing on the weekends, though, yikes.  It is for the birds.  I can only do so much shopping online before we need to leave the house for some things, the house needs cleaning, the laundry needs to be done.  

I guess what I am saying is, weekends exhaust me.  After a long work week, there is only more to do on the weekend, and everything is made more challenging trying to do it with two little ones who need us for just about everything.

I don't know what the point of all this is.  I'm tired.  

Tell me it gets better.  Tell me I will get some of my autonomy and freedom back.  

What age does this start getting to be more fun and less all-encompassing?",3.6284601449275367,5.119204632850241,4.276881038647344,87.44256793478262,72.71980676328502,7.1073671497584545,24.53170289855073,7.6454224807358475,1.0569905797101455,817,24,169,10,16,260,122,207,0.043,0.826,0.131,0.9672,2,0,0,0,0,0,25,2,0,3,4,8,9,0,0,14,0,19,5,1,1,2,23,35,9,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,0,14,10,0,0,1,4,1,1,2,1,0,5,3,2,20,8,26,29,11,27,0,0,1,2,14,11,0,4,15,122,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792486133946632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459970608412566,0.0,0.0,0.10112956706414178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652145177850374,0.0,0.0737435808078667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006477932842953,0.11701545246153985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552432186446556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055332622878938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792228816949437,0.0,0.0649853527111497,0.0,0.0,0.1260666471502156,0.12596478913438924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22939631930650986,0.0,0.11260757887622624,0.2638793995306055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347056173020165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284146076758836,0.0,0.0,0.12107569098455598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460453038686337,0.0,0.10119243392402164,0.09602167249295868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20640309603650048,0.10819675984528307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126972589468901,0.0,0.16811463822464534,0.3391438445585923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399733621792557,0.0,0.2324510182260242,0.173930265622745,0.0,0.0,0.1269674779536497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809373994916753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732528468754219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909323689243542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093454511596415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19988653676363724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193253600133458,0.0,0.11234416702041547,0.0,0.0,0.1314236750837847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763329171278541,0.0,0.11169923059642407,0.0,0.13754391725366727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172130278124856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16649020714892704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726989125289922
parenting,Mom2017,2018/02/03,"Sleep training 2 1/2month trouble I have a little velcro baby, I had to sleep with her from the start, she would scream as soon as being put down or wake if I let her fall asleep with me and scooted away from her. I love sleeping with her at nighttime, having her cuddled up to me using my breast as a pillow. Ever since I leaned I needed to co-sleep (after a week of trying to get her to sleep by herself when she was first born) I now get her to bed by 18:10 - 19:00 and she sleeps until 24:00 then to 07:00, so she sleeps really good with me. My problem napping, she won't sleep for more then half an hour (if I'm lucky) on her own in her crib or her chair. I don't mind cuddling her in bed for her one morning nap which is 2 hours but I don't want to have to always lie in bed with her or hold her in my arms to get her to sleep a decent amount! How can I get her to nap better? She is a extreme velcro baby.",5.145303030303033,3.5219371666666714,5.839070707070707,88.46527272727273,68.74747474747474,8.122020202020202,26.365656565656572,4.935628992294339,0.6268226262626264,701,13,167,1,10,230,112,198,0.037000000000000005,0.915,0.048,0.6066,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,0,2,6,7,0,0,7,0,14,15,12,2,1,23,24,17,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,1,7,0,1,0,3,0,2,3,3,0,3,2,1,39,4,38,18,3,26,0,0,0,4,24,10,0,6,14,120,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117015672945506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165227415251033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627583652790759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824036664972935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082976738846541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038652590871045,0.0,0.0,0.08182105988487741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19213595685160573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975239627930883,0.0,0.0,0.09777162125833484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804348861300175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849859222163117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233275030739775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610300901250188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334302904666084,0.0,0.09806559013244323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624935993073054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080695105872246,0.0,0.8785920782081013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690470234037162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623065221556307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425264967681517,0.0,0.0,0.05753804352008642,0.0,0.0782494413316598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692973547592411,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,almoststarry1,2018/02/03,"Supervising two kids So, this is a theoretical question because my husband and I are considering having a 2nd child.  
How do you supervise two kids when you are alone in the house?  My son would be around five or so when the 2nd is born.
Do you hang out with the Newborn whenever the older child is playing?  What about diaper changes, breastfeeding and when the newborn needs to nap?",4.653427230046948,6.874562535211267,5.14612676056338,79.24388497652583,71.53521126760563,8.67699530516432,30.143192488262912,9.2995712137729,2.8069136150234737,304,13,56,7,6,97,50,71,0.036000000000000004,0.938,0.026,-0.1877,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,8,1,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,1,0,10,11,9,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,2,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,1,6,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,2,5,43,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31495528815249985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707129571531098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853761842475842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216968648481608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508899021999866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254858671434291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406609474912811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5941218930998385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216023503353988,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MotherBearhyde,2018/02/03,"CPS came to my house yesterday... My 4 year old sons preschool teacher called CPS on my ex husband for sending our 4 year old to school sick all week long (he was throwing up and everything) and for sending him to school in a soaked winter jacket and no gloves or hat or anything (we are in Michigan, the weather has been COLD). 

The lady showed up at my house basically to just talk to me about what happened and check up on the usual here at my house (food, beds, running water, etc). The CPS lady didn't make a big deal of it at all, and told me it wasn't physical neglect and the case shouldn't have even been investigated.

I'm just so lost on how to feel and think about all of this.",10.535285714285713,5.569939099999999,9.658571428571431,75.68642857142859,61.57142857142857,12.62857142857143,40.14285714285714,8.841846274778883,3.3164571428571428,534,17,118,5,5,170,90,140,0.061,0.921,0.018000000000000002,-0.7194,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,7,0,9,3,0,2,3,22,17,11,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,4,9,2,1,2,1,1,5,4,2,0,0,8,2,10,0,23,8,4,26,0,2,0,0,13,12,0,2,9,73,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344392612720694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681862799219602,0.18685130088702506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684268846463896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220028943245367,0.10790408039711946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682606285426245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260457875241743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19754716947945605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446719824234852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5655197538852252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445769555576148,0.0,0.0,0.1783372176212344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905047696220464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34285782813418064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33067751531494705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131029660285584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468064346605857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610665438932184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992853433792125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13104523927003975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040933296091807
parenting,Toddlerorientation,2018/02/03,"When did your child make their sexual orientation known? Were your predictions accurate? Throwaway for controversial topic.


My husband and I believe that our son might be gay. It was harder for him to get used to the idea but neither of us consider this to be a big deal. We have/will not pressure him to come out and plan to let nature run it's course. 

We have some friends who are gay and all of them say that they have always known that they were different. We have talked to parents of gay kids and most of them say that they have known since their child was in preschool. 

I know I can't link here but I read a study that said,

> Beginning with the 3.5-year-old age group, the team found that children who engaged mostly in “gender-conforming” play (boys who played with trucks and girls who played with dolls, as an example) were likely to report being heterosexual at age 15, whereas the teenagers who reported being gay, lesbian, or not strictly heterosexual were more likely to engage in “gender-nonconforming” play. The same pattern held true when they expanded the teenagers’ choices to a five-point spectrum ranging from 100% heterosexual to 100% homosexual.

> Teens who described themselves as lesbian scored on average about 10 points higher on the gender-play scale at age 4.75 (meaning more stereotypically male play) than their heterosexual peers, and teens who described themselves as gay men scored about 10 points lower on the scale than their peers, the researchers report in Developmental Psychology. Questions of transgender identity were not addressed in the study.

I am very interested in seeing other thoughts on this. When was your child's sexual orientation known and were your predictions accurate?",9.240001947798989,9.73286516225166,7.866049863654072,70.30779703934556,59.62913907284768,10.946941955590184,36.63887806778341,10.59048541779884,3.9109541877678216,1397,57,230,29,17,423,166,302,0.013,0.877,0.11,0.9848,3,0,0,0,0,0,41,5,4,10,2,6,13,0,1,14,0,23,7,0,2,2,42,35,16,0,0,6,3,0,2,1,1,0,4,1,9,18,15,0,1,11,7,0,2,5,1,0,0,14,5,27,12,41,15,8,25,0,0,1,7,49,16,0,6,9,148,45,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402169125035051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898572538710308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515964659976333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373024356671216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760609687109192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847665936055604,0.1301932803015455,0.0,0.08804146236651245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023147575650975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261073224974913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231669353220824,0.0,0.16465458105204314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248421511497723,0.0,0.0,0.18356084009670373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876642450912048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768267996987557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871145412847575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4778997951048365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18877393003319887,0.0,0.16855931993484569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029513481392965,0.26801774396791944,0.0,0.0,0.1342836154859156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939628867864282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544494312488234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337810687123807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270125388191024,0.14554174691688776,0.0,0.1390414653111305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851730927860903
parenting,Pink_Raku,2018/02/03,"Emotional, angry outburst from my daughter. Like a switch turned on 5 days after getting the flu. Two days ago my 6 yo daughter began to have these emotional, angry outburst.  They mostly occur in the evening, mostly when she gets reprimanded or she is told no.  She begins screaming in an out of control way, she puts her hands over her ears, she hides behind furniture.  If I try to console her she flails, kicks, and screams. 

These outburts are followed by sobbing.  She feels bad for screaming and kicking.  She tells me she wants to go to heaven so she doesn't have to do this to me anymore.  She says her body makes her do it and she doesn't know why.   Twice this week she says she wants to go to heaven.   

Timeline:
Saturday 27th- Dx with flu. Begins tamiflu. 

Sunday 28th-No more flu symptoms, playing normally. Lots of energy.  Daddy leaves for work trip for 3 weeks.  

Wednesday-Returns to school.

Thursday- In the evening is the first episode. Thursday night is possibly last dose of tamilflu, but it could have been friday morning. I cant remember.

Friday-Two big outbursts.

School says absolutely no changes in behavior.  My daughter says on Wednesday  someone was mean to her, but nothing huge. Normal kid stuff. She wants to come home on this day because she said she ""felt alone"" at school. 

I wrote the timeline because other than the flu and daddy out of town, I can't pin down anything else that would have set this off. 

She is a normal kid with normal activities.  I need opinions.  I called the doctor last night and she pretty much told me to ignore it and play it down to my daughter, act like it's not a big deal. 

I'm terrified for my daughter and not sure what to do.  

TIA.
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parenting,Shadowblade95,2018/02/03,"Being a stay at home dad?(Question for the stay at home fathers) My partner has decided that she wants to work full time and has suggested to me that I should quite my part-time job(as I hate it and her hours will cover what i wont be doing and my work wont sort my hours round hers) and that I should be a stay at home father until she goes to school.

I'm open to the idea but haven't fully decided on it yet. Ofcourse I know its hard work since I'm at home more than my partner as it is. 

I guess what I'm really asking is what is your own experience of being a stay at home father?

My daughter is 10 months if that means anything.",3.3032026143790816,3.685376705882355,4.445980392156862,90.10163398692812,72.38235294117645,7.515032679738562,23.199346405228766,7.3871296695380915,0.6469454248366007,496,11,115,5,9,163,77,136,0.035,0.965,0.0,-0.5122,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,4,1,1,1,0,5,0,17,0,0,0,0,17,26,8,0,4,2,4,2,0,2,5,0,0,5,2,11,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,18,0,15,17,3,18,0,0,1,0,13,8,0,3,6,76,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055365007987696,0.0,0.11423307699714595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952727690744976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460832497488556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946008058951463,0.12063935711640507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6128429720211236,0.0,0.24066912152465805,0.0,0.0,0.13793995717361493,0.0,0.0,0.1212567603488479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671535579984605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310297005791702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753253276591207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232208836871584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996629173647908,0.0,0.0,0.0782793595361194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366488349326572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010785308478839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5209618911482738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712511700920435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207204010710926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668718146917507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ironstonesx,2018/02/03,"5 monthly old sick with upper respiratory infection and it's killing me 5 month old daughter has a URI. Coughing, fever, sneezing, mucus. She seen pediatrician 2 days ago and was diagnosed with a URI.

Her fever floats about 99-101 through out the day.

Me and my wife know where she got it from and we're pissed a family member would bring an older kid sick her without telling us.


It's just heartbreaking to see her cry and in pain and there's nothing we can do about it ",2.161290322580648,4.663620451612907,3.135924731182797,89.1438870967742,81.04301075268816,6.300645161290323,24.35376344086021,7.554174236665415,1.1734008602150534,374,14,77,6,10,119,69,93,0.247,0.753,0.0,-0.9766,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,5,0,5,9,1,0,0,14,10,6,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,2,10,0,10,6,0,13,0,1,2,0,11,4,1,0,8,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933167703822748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395531287280533,0.28129004000922764,0.0,0.0,0.2213489092847312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558855145833474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442031022795004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24127571563365016,0.0,0.11985230999026532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34814236801760484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20925581583459596,0.0,0.4576813053357373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320549068520709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737833307097639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061351275456195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623261141068884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102235220360666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549193846037812,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karinatenay,2018/02/03,"New mom going back to work, how do I prepare myself emotionally? I have to go back to work after 7 weeks because I can’t afford to stay home any longer. I am not ready at all to leave my baby. Finding child care has been a struggle and it just solidifies me wanting to stay home. How do I prepare myself over the next 2 weeks for separation? ",3.5352857142857133,4.5132505285714295,5.210000000000001,82.64500000000002,72.28571428571428,7.314285714285713,26.857142857142854,7.554174236665415,1.3933714285714287,267,9,55,3,5,91,52,70,0.09,0.861,0.048,-0.195,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,8,11,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,9,1,10,10,1,13,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,7,37,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311365089237551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965611647968197,0.0,0.11755230534490875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966112772793573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169168877215277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762505140154214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191886526877029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38686463997359466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041876859397596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22584963178902698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862442219049568,0.20508548863324014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110794764325314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159623365641105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374089742860855,0.0,0.30936615622820784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28077684176675033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gapjohn,2018/02/03,"Sharing Child Maintenance So, Im about to get remarried. I already have two boys that I pay my ex wife maintenance for. I was thinking today about what happens when I get remarried. Should I continue to pay maintenance for my sons by myself, or do my wife and I combine incomes, and pay from that? I don't mean the legal standpoint, so please, no comments on the legalities etc. This is obviously a conversation for the pair of us to have, but I've not even thought about it until today, and I was wondering how other people go about it? I've currently no real opinion, I kind of think that it's still solely my responsibility, being as they're my children, however, I'm aware that there will be plenty of people who would argue that as we're marrying, the financial burden (my children are wonderful, and not a burden!) would be shared. Any opinions welcome.",5.6570663692136085,6.768020852760737,6.767005019520358,72.93933073061909,67.46625766871165,9.853653095370886,33.22308979364194,10.018931242160765,3.5018024539877306,681,30,119,16,11,229,102,163,0.106,0.7979999999999999,0.097,0.5868,3,0,0,0,0,0,24,1,0,0,0,11,7,1,0,6,0,15,0,0,1,1,22,26,13,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,12,4,0,0,6,0,3,1,5,3,0,1,3,0,17,4,19,16,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,5,7,88,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475731607030026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617930104963287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20693555667593908,0.12255299381871293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388280199279426,0.0,0.1054514536841352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407987156780354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20042415407835154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322014595305828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021166451435327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572718493480833,0.0,0.0,0.2036764665527836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111947449744508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817922283620605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377838948151073,0.0,0.14730473437372535,0.0,0.0,0.35175644857452143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181253863376684,0.0,0.22319192579101127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40243873362824784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636165744290901,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,billbobb1,2018/02/03,"Stay at home dad returning to the workforce; so depressing. After being a stay at home dad, I just retuned to work for the first time in three years and wow, I got my ass handed to me. I couldn’t even remember how to do a quarter of what I was capable of doing before. I was so unconfident and just did a shitty job overall.  It was baaaaad.  I feel like I can’t do what I did before. How did I even get there in the first place?  

Meanwhile my colleagues careers have skyrocketed, so much so that I’m hesitant to even reach out for help. I feel so out of touch with my industry.   Do they even remember me?

I ran into somebody who use to be below me and now they’ve passed me career wise. We talked and he said,”where have you been? I haven’t seen anything from you or heard from you in years.  I thought you moved on?”

Holy f*ck, did I just ruin my career that I worked so hard for, for over 15 years?  

I’m so bummed. I am shaken.  Fuck!  I feel lost. 

Has anyone else gone through this?  Thoughts?  Suggestions?",0.1826064227035076,2.500048873786412,1.8776699029126216,95.71249439880508,89.3883495145631,5.1109783420463035,19.088125466766247,6.67199483983844,0.0910005974607917,772,23,173,10,26,251,119,206,0.131,0.7929999999999999,0.076,-0.9045,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,1,4,1,5,18,7,1,0,6,0,21,3,2,3,0,24,37,14,0,1,4,2,6,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,9,0,0,7,0,0,4,3,4,0,4,16,8,31,3,29,18,1,27,0,3,1,2,14,12,2,1,10,122,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682983663849942,0.14189117752092592,0.11395888936005763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356759704098368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192743466016848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568394421128668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36586422874160207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21006198550058436,0.09893157089311023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355854426829915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280243806664398,0.0723511311383027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107567086841814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405267440152135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282156779816993,0.0,0.2778174810687273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374220202426916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765531186105041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116946537328987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718445380449988,0.10180020643649867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468421915246882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31374622877940833,0.0,0.13172809728528306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29520677999760364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130658872126707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21987848420639905,0.08074996982052635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960398810102744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163309556385245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675336096204625
parenting,queenqaylee,2018/02/03,"A Mother’s Right To Say Her Father’s Child’s Girlfriend Cannot Help Him Raise His Son? I am dating a man, and we have a serious relationship, and now that she can no longer be around she said I am not allowed to help my boyfriend raise his son. That isn’t legal is it? Because I’m kind of laughing my ass off about this.",-0.3949275362318829,1.8142240000000032,1.4231884057971025,98.51420289855074,91.6086956521739,4.22608695652174,17.81159420289855,5.82211442006289,-0.5125536231884054,252,7,59,2,9,82,50,69,0.177,0.758,0.065,-0.7557,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,8,1,1,1,0,6,10,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,2,11,2,6,8,0,5,0,0,0,1,19,3,1,0,2,37,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258250175960053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311528465254926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4906553454179281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38114135939434585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929559784088277,0.0,0.31256911937951143,0.3481577429035372,0.2910645195385559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tinycole2971,2018/02/03,"What do I tell my 2-year old when she cries for her Daddy? My husband and I separated a couple months ago. He’s always been a great, involved father... up until the separation. I don’t want to get into many details, but there were a ton of reasons why it was better to leave than stay (physical abuse, his addictions problems, etc). I had to move to a different state with my daughter and we’re about 500 miles away from him.

In the time we’ve been gone, it’s like he’s totally given up on being a parent. He’s sent about 40$ to help and nothing else, refused to get our daughter so much as a Christmas card, and has only talked to her twice on the phone. At first, when she asked for Dadda, I would let her see pics on my phone of her and him, but that just let to long nights of her crying and begging for him. It’s not an every night thing now, but she still asks for him frequently. What do I do? I’ve used the “Daddy is working” excuse enough, I hate lying to her... but I also hate seeing her cry for him. 

Is there any easy way to go about this?",3.7256883116883124,3.9114582181818207,4.85948051948052,88.21136363636367,71.36363636363636,7.558441558441558,24.350649350649352,7.1686216300943375,0.7830649350649348,808,19,182,7,14,267,137,220,0.152,0.755,0.093,-0.9587,2,0,0,0,1,0,34,1,0,0,3,12,6,2,0,11,0,16,1,0,2,1,21,30,16,0,3,6,5,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,8,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,3,0,2,8,2,29,3,35,18,5,31,0,0,2,0,36,10,0,0,15,126,37,1,0.0,0.14763068168857588,0.0,0.13583244357227758,0.0,0.0,0.11045042428551637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964261307132913,0.10367722112817428,0.0,0.0,0.08473230510471227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329684495241947,0.0,0.11706584632922955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019861661146928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378675827695649,0.4106019046554856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018053000294272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408735146426773,0.0,0.0,0.12874515689190852,0.13896198964029818,0.0,0.0,0.10498091408255213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059847368603862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301967644165973,0.0,0.0708130784761989,0.0,0.0,0.13737199238664494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24603350201016394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835167854687465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319334596114049,0.0,0.2548239812222081,0.0,0.06087328947951566,0.0,0.0,0.11026712121591474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632489154397286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945456926285,0.13243013174969667,0.09159537167178504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23385740812028005,0.0,0.1195571061809036,0.0,0.13074679000150566,0.0,0.0,0.09476395091425258,0.0,0.0,0.13835360746936826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922541797596975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810960107017955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858021187388472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328070722075511,0.09950575898813868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014879851744264,0.10890593359625272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277873510029057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265528977890867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761443544198528,0.0,0.0,0.07349233636689277,0.09890171815225364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243216268659276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071031865256612,0.0,0.0,0.08851229888489602,0.0,0.0,0.08023834549938177
parenting,Licsw,2018/02/03,"Daughter (9) wants to shave her legs, help! So as a foster mom I get kids who are different than me, so this one kinda threw me off.  She does have the leg hair to justify it, but 9 seems young for a razor.  She wants to wear her uniform skort like the other girls in fourth grade. I don't want the enforce body shame or make her feel different, so we are approaching this from a it's a normal thing perspective.  Any tips from other parents?  Tricks? Products that work?  My mom handed me a crappy electric razor and I nearly cut my ankle in half, so anything I do is a step up from that.",1.4184173669467768,3.5491564369747906,2.9531302521008413,91.55277661064429,81.26890756302521,5.64733893557423,20.00070028011204,6.816661863887847,0.29348683473389325,452,12,95,5,12,148,84,119,0.13,0.8270000000000001,0.043,-0.8889,3,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,1,4,4,2,1,9,0,6,6,6,1,0,12,14,8,0,4,2,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,3,0,2,1,3,15,1,14,13,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,2,63,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420669192301072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745056414599237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23554860051350102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4431108904994155,0.0,0.0,0.18557335928225388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722288166657896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079153737405456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213798783838244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036008130719976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155034216744644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4967194649243224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777178721556133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369596911883695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354652812066925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19304961227772552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088189310596533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752318562347261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438072834207894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,98cwitr,2018/02/03,"Inducing at 37 weeks: High BP, headaches, moderate nausea Doc is wanting to induce the wife on Wednesday which is the beginning of week 37. I'm not freaking out, but I am highly concerned. Anyone else been through this? What was the outcome?",4.515681818181818,7.0333419318181845,4.522727272727273,82.22909090909094,72.86363636363637,7.127272727272729,33.72727272727273,8.07648339933343,2.8530636363636366,191,10,32,3,4,59,39,44,0.0,0.953,0.047,0.2561,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,6,8,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,4,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253983121997004,0.3302910862965223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26928647903409697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6811721196931435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013350054376185,0.0,0.5171479350280088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,randomtrend,2018/02/03,"I broke my toddler. How do I get quiet time back? We realized about a month ago that my 2.5 year old is ready to drop naps. Bedtimes became a nightmare of him fighting and crying and whining. Ever since we dropped naps, he’s been a happy kid all day and goes to bed without a fight.

Ever since we stopped naps, I’ve been having him take some quiet time in the middle of the day where he could look through books, play with quiet toys, etc. while staying in his room. This gave me a short period of quiet during the chaos of handling two kids all day (daughter is 5 months old). He did great with it and even willingly ran to his room when I told him it was quiet time.

A few days ago, he accidentally tipped over his diaper genie and immediately started crying for me. I was changing the baby’s diaper so I didn’t immediately respond to his crying, but I could see on the camera he was fine. After a minute of crying and he realized I wasn’t coming, he FREAKED out and became inconsolable. It was so weird. I went him, hugged him and held him while he calmed down. I never yelled or anything, and he helped me with his “big strong muscles” to tip the diaper genie back up and then all was well in the world. Now, since that day if I even mention the words “quiet time” he starts crying and if I try to actually bring him to his room for quiet time he panics and freaks out. He does fine at bedtime. How do I fix this?! I need 30 minutes of childless sanity during the day otherwise I am one frazzled mama by the end of the day. 

I’ve tried explaining quiet time is a time to rest our bodies, it’s not a punishment, he can play with his toys or read books or whatever he chooses but it’s a time to be by himself... what else can I try?",3.3311810852037453,4.456674801699716,4.647209631728046,85.92637775114406,72.93767705382436,7.357114839834387,24.05850947918937,7.748469712250963,1.0648349095663543,1347,37,283,17,26,447,177,353,0.109,0.795,0.096,-0.4038,0,0,0,0,3,0,39,4,0,0,1,15,19,3,1,21,0,23,2,1,2,6,50,38,27,0,5,9,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,4,2,10,22,0,2,4,10,0,4,5,9,1,2,15,11,39,10,38,19,7,63,0,2,2,1,44,18,0,6,38,178,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.08607508088508177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637632071548296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258496721682609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564796686516173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797555714075999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330889589963128,0.07598055420151717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084857975329235,0.0,0.4844437036204772,0.3981932218878387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718854294410944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368372353611656,0.0,0.07812319941970076,0.0,0.09837157620635074,0.11651676845109045,0.15957243412318656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046083324532773695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724601275975282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389556225357132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059121763062794715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406974802254107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080832844484656,0.0,0.0,0.0654026806075807,0.06802891601240266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511202739197125,0.0,0.059769799534396074,0.0,0.0,0.1034892315651141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822858724499882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028774017985201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21889156212898686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248635064859561,0.09401449315906188,0.0,0.07374309362301026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631897056978521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4114630421617256,0.0,0.0,0.08428338778391824,0.0,0.17965564042059715,0.0,0.08616319263961525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930663425908087,0.08176665708185478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502620036234725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056800946355153224
parenting,toxichousetony,2018/02/03,"Disciplining win, still feels a little off. Thoughts? A little background. Almost 5-yo daughter, no big difficulties at this point. My discipline style is to guide from nearby, helping DD maintain consistency and setting short-term expectations so that she can make her own decisions in limited time frames. When things get sticky I use a 5-4-3-2-1 to indicate that she has run out of time (for example if she needs to put her socks on but is balking, that's how I indicate that I'm just going to walk out the door without her); this usually prods her to action. If a major line has been crossed or she's doing something dangerous, I use a 1-2-3 in a scary voice to tell her that she's about to be in trouble. If I'm 1:1 with her this usually works fine. 

However, her mother also uses counting but no consequences. In the socks example, she'll count 5-1 and then follow up by pleading some more. I don't really know how DD acts with her 1:1, but with the 3 of us of course she plays us off each other, counting on mommy's leniency to counteract my consequences.

DD has a cold with a runny nose. She can blow her nose but doesn't like to, and these days has been putting it off and not letting us help. At night the nasal drip combined with coughing produces a froth that blocks her windpipe, causes her to gag and cough out the mucous in the best case scenario, or puke in the worst. Last night I was determined to avoid that by getting her as clear as possible before bedtime.

I recounted to her what had happened the previous two nights and asked her to choose me or mommy to blow her nose with. She balked. I counted 5-1 slowly, during which she didn't commit, so I decided that it would be me and told her to sit down so we could do it. She did, but didn't let me get the tissue up. ""I'm going to do it with mommy!"" she said, and sat on her lap. But no blowing.

I said, ""OK, we're not going to play this game. You do not have a choice about blowing your nose before bed. I'm going to count again, and if you don't start blowing then you're going to start losing toys."" I counted 5-1 again; she did nothing so I found a toy she had played with the previous day and put it out of reach. No reaction. I said, ""OK, I'm going to count again and we're going to keep doing this."" Again, no movement. 

This time I put away the toy that she had just been playing with. Immediate tears. I said, ""I can see it makes you sad to lose that toy. Let's hurry up and blow so that doesn't keep happening."" 

5-1 again, no blowing. One of her dolls went away. More crying. Mommy finally chimed in and told her she better hurry up.

She finally sat on my lap and blew a few times, but didn't finish. I asked her to come back and finish but she didn't. I counted again and she lost another doll. She said, ""My toys are going to be all gone!""

Finally she sat and blew enough that her nose was clear. She had lost 5 toys, and said that she wanted them back. I told her that if she went to the sink and spit each time she had a big cough, that I would give her one back each time. I've never seen her so proactive about coughing, and she actually got all the major mucous out by the 5th round. Each time she got to choose which toy to get back, and got happier and happier the more times it happened. By the last toy she was practically jumping up and down. She actually said, ""I love you daddy! I love you mommy!"" She also had no problems doing followup blows to clear the mucous that the coughing had produced in her nose.

So. I'm glad that the job got done, that she was happy in the end, and that she had some control over the situation from start to finish and that she piloted it through the end. But something about her being so happy to resolve a situation that started with consequences that I had just made up bugs me. Is this just guilt at taking away her toys, or is there something else awry here? Thanks for any thoughts.

BTW, I've messaged to wife that we have to continue to maintain consequences after counting for consistency's sake. Hopefully it will get smoother if there's consistent enforcement.",3.5328769001490308,4.732700130909091,4.488226527570788,86.9729955290611,72.53939393939395,7.737108792846499,25.64580228514655,8.196680274259657,1.4127599602583207,3188,100,674,48,61,1035,309,825,0.105,0.7929999999999999,0.102,0.8640000000000001,2,1,3,0,0,0,122,5,6,1,13,35,30,1,2,36,2,59,18,11,12,7,121,134,61,0,14,27,3,2,1,0,4,5,8,2,0,45,47,0,8,10,14,0,24,20,11,0,3,50,20,102,19,102,72,18,114,0,5,3,2,95,41,0,14,48,450,147,4,0.0,0.0,0.1104419269596634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05666392637607656,0.0,0.0,0.0905055580653495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03848124975494058,0.059336633632592686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580282313909613,0.0,0.15949666652411348,0.1740483156646737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963031119890425,0.0,0.05938479576757159,0.05004679718360523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058130662148643326,0.0,0.048744879070645626,0.0,0.0,0.06346737843839029,0.04518029026964725,0.0,0.062158403548586726,0.07298815053649567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057908372266402934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047271360823677284,0.0,0.10023896109589596,0.058469724516216626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028612198462044307,0.0,0.0,0.18596559917883365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06204496547467382,0.0,0.0,0.1478224333271918,0.05428361727920095,0.2572785674027199,0.0,0.18103187527183354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011967410745766,0.12047629489991853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585844091886729,0.0,0.0,0.05620387715279662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615408385580585,0.1005946415299813,0.0,0.0,0.031098855983060263,0.09225227306366077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735927976851665,0.0,0.02764565714306013,0.11343051997752265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266132484607483,0.12354326941224708,0.0,0.10214434991949696,0.05354419536341636,0.0755448169180786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041958706284994735,0.04364355221122434,0.0,0.0,0.15930981668323144,0.0,0.05429696332750235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766899289166462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053493213083985656,0.06379358766079435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05414632684193696,0.0,0.2275431405854361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036251221844653125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767918289690439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045092687612265835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721281137977816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069081864150156,0.0,0.0,0.16021090101164787,0.0,0.04519062663225643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042546546737998604,0.0,0.0494597240725758,0.05209790903230811,0.0,0.0,0.037594034245330525,0.0,0.0,0.08984786294371377,0.2639717022729059,0.0,0.0,0.16221453982666753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527749105934954,0.0,0.20420237316749013,0.1466195672015181,0.12464565551242388,0.0,0.03337660821706152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049138388987001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054548060330104085,0.0,0.041196169785607716,0.0,0.0,0.08039587440857217,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamaa14,2018/02/03,"Penis envy My two year old knows most of their body parts. But last night while pottying they pointed at their vulva and said they had a peanut there. I became worried that something had happened; after posing questions and coming up with nothing I asked who else had a ""peanut"" there. A classmate. Asked what they did with their ""peanut"" and they responded with ""they pee"". They're potty training and saw them peeing and probably asked what that was and got told it was a penis.... and I thought Freud was wrong ",5.5272644376899684,7.266736893617022,4.459908814589666,87.00500000000002,68.36170212765957,6.648024316109423,26.19452887537993,6.868970318607317,1.1040869300911855,404,12,73,3,7,118,62,94,0.08199999999999999,0.918,0.0,-0.7506,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,0,0,9,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,3,3,0,0,16,18,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,11,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,12,2,13,0,7,6,2,10,0,0,1,0,17,3,0,2,6,51,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5402431121723545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21396611709086893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593183679021464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091585164623678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540620889524473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034017205443264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058632289940605,0.1570174078731479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076818874757786,0.0,0.18483161777888185,0.0,0.20213052563189246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085971906696412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820955815681033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20768540285538994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157872775405836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323319718149408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829433027807318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529249965757318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406416606011325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816942003977874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562293258470048,0.0,0.0,0.21060831532055935,0.0,0.1240460201847912
parenting,gnomeasaurusrex,2018/02/03,"3 year old getting bullied : ( My almost 3 year old daughter is getting bullied at her day care. For some back story, she is very smart and very verbal (scored in the 97th percentile in language and vocabulary) and so we’ve put her in a day care with some kids who are about a year and a half older than her. 

I think part of it is just kids nature, but one girl keeps saying things like “only 4 year olds can do this,” holding things out of her reach, or blocking her path to the slide without moving. The teacher knows about it and we all do our best to let the kids sort it out. I’m having a hard time as her father and just want my kid to be accepted and well adjusted without having to step in. 

There is also an older boy, who is huge, and has hit her, pushed her, and after knocking down blocks said the phrase “I want her to be sad.” 

Outside of talking with the teacher, encouraging my daughter, and asking the other kids to be respectful and share what can I do?",7.518717948717949,5.448440769230769,7.383076923076924,80.72025641025641,64.38461538461539,9.692307692307693,32.94871794871795,7.3871296695380915,2.074333333333334,750,22,157,5,9,240,115,195,0.076,0.746,0.17800000000000002,0.9654,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,0,1,10,11,0,0,12,0,18,0,0,0,1,37,31,16,0,2,6,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,10,16,0,4,4,0,0,5,2,1,1,2,1,3,18,10,27,25,5,28,0,1,0,0,30,9,0,5,15,112,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373271346886565,0.0,0.0,0.11478739893886775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418878495568995,0.0,0.0,0.110371969809928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506344226451481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926934007024958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514045175863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998550797678697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285819799446167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758329427764925,0.0,0.0,0.07888480806211683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677747346311126,0.0,0.07012548495897389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255832716668516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4518573975916007,0.0,0.0972651586634298,0.10916722377433828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554378182550492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429547650169752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653764132852145,0.114147290365519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537052004487976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907207247326992,0.09197344448804758,0.0,0.0,0.08369824391197475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368679965549828,0.16932502818763046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905802636719585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27673129015709824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36973542508119545
parenting,LuvMy4Boyz,2018/02/03,"How do you get your introverted child to socialize with friends outside of school? PARENTS OF INTROVERTED CHILDREN ONLY PLEASE


Pretty much the title :)

My 13 year old is introverted which is fine but it causes him to spend a lot of time home alone on the weekends. He us normally reading or playing video games. We have a list of chores and require he go outside for 60 minutes everyday. He will walk the dog, ride his bike, or play a game with his brothers most of the time. My older two will sometimes let him tag along with their friends but he doesn't always want to go. You hear all these stories about teens becoming depressed and withdrawn. My son seems happy but I am sure most parents think that. I don't want to change him. I think socialization with peers is huge and don't want him missing out.",3.3079437229437225,5.791243344155845,3.5088051948051984,88.19225541125543,76.59740259740259,6.184588744588745,27.14978354978355,7.3011,1.4247684848484847,641,26,123,8,15,197,104,154,0.064,0.7490000000000001,0.188,0.9655,2,1,0,0,0,0,14,2,3,1,1,2,9,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,2,2,30,23,9,0,4,5,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,2,4,10,0,1,3,8,1,4,3,2,0,1,0,1,18,7,18,20,5,14,0,2,0,0,29,3,0,6,7,74,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755999471083926,0.0,0.0,0.12658369991689378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680147740373436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627861740451546,0.1609325457632183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102867640034854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350693198222419,0.0,0.07948123984093942,0.0,0.17291708590338953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619443861557437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714606901441309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259801400077438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555624370505743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933482475553493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183248273160737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905433793292538,0.0,0.0,0.15963402809751956,0.0,0.0,0.1157011288973408,0.0,0.0,0.3378429965569936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699220272913662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477011069951274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217039080285572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396289493598894,0.0,0.1384927305669785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101531684564997,0.0,0.0,0.1504596909616508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143379991807034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495652610606135,0.0,0.0,0.17741554603162596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860814511721887,0.0,0.18299272345997789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691892708435094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979662315212426
parenting,theebigcal,2018/02/04,"Sample exercise schedule with multiple kids? I’m a teacher who gets up around 5 am everyday and gets home around 330. I am the father of a 15 month old and my wife is expecting twins in 3 months. 

Any suggestions on when/how to incorporate exercise? Trying to find other teacher-parents with some insight. ",3.4821052631578944,6.254633964912284,4.883421052631579,76.97144736842105,77.77192982456141,8.712280701754386,30.552631578947373,9.2995712137729,3.468136842105264,244,12,41,7,6,81,47,57,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,10,6,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,10,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,5,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20812389574597184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5448972040633016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797233501575597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197960658619658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069922200097629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4885709737069524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211470673170734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20778726216377605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thesiswhatthesis,2018/02/04,"9 y/o Son My son wets the bed nightly and has peeing accidents nearly every day. He also sometimes has fecal 'accidents', though these are mostly attributable to poor wiping. He is 9 years old (almost 10) and we are at our wit's end. Our elder son, who is 11, does not have this issue. We have tried reward systems, seen doctors, spent time in therapy, rigorously make him clean up his bed and self (so he doesn't become accustomed), pointed out how it affects his health and relationships...

He is a bright, funny kid with no other serious behavioral issues. He does well academically and is well liked by his classmates, but we get calls from the principal at least twice a month complaining that he smells. He showers every morning and wears clean clothes, but has minor/just missed it accidents at school fairly regularly. His older brother has ASD, so we know the signs, and he is not autistic. He just doesn't seem to be willing to prioritize making it to the bathroom over whatever he's doing at the time. As for the night wetting, our doctor says not to worry at his age, but peeing every single night seems excessive. I worry he has a sleeping disorder. 

Have any of you dealt with this? If so, how did you address it? I'm going to make another appointment with his primary soon. What specialists or tests should I push for? 

Thank you for your help! ",4.7427952755905505,6.615790956692913,5.576385826771654,77.70276771653545,70.53543307086613,8.54456692913386,28.054330708661407,9.120678840339163,2.4955659842519684,1069,39,188,22,20,349,161,254,0.071,0.815,0.114,0.9072,1,0,0,0,0,0,40,7,4,0,1,12,9,0,0,9,0,22,7,4,7,0,38,35,20,0,2,9,4,2,1,0,2,3,1,6,2,11,15,0,0,3,0,2,2,6,3,2,1,3,6,21,6,26,29,3,27,0,1,2,0,41,11,0,6,14,120,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403867507674796,0.0,0.0,0.09905940364068484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423636588860678,0.12988929447728134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680552462864656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648589761226267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988639393573216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196662494386628,0.2535739475789647,0.2168002772024404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971272836693176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130993785327735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471736058257724,0.0,0.07039860866346216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166882757801307,0.0,0.0,0.08302796070390818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585777858462497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807613131041347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06051699737311155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480540865781805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887246045491216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487329567837805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998152744360025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709790868528876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132990841079714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850700177316812,0.0,0.12536382431691168,0.0,0.2255345789800384,0.12922422000479986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396022001112285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251135101308205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404355511383607,0.1416570118232127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170239476650427,0.0,0.14446007496185856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410011632678402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22274938268767264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515935433390456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976870948370406
parenting,CelebrityMagician,2018/02/04,"Why is My Daughter Sooo In Love With These Videos?? Hi everyone, my 3 year old daughter loves YouTube and she can watch it for hours. (see link below) Being a single dad isn't easy and when I need a break the Ipad keeps her engaged and happy. What is the correct amount of time to let her watch?  Really appreciate your input. 

[Pink Baby Doll Show] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmqQ7OgdE_ywdbdefT-P-6Q)


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parenting,LurkandListen,2018/02/04,"My son is a sore looser. How to nip it in the bud? My son, 6, likes to win. He will sometime throw a fit if he looses in chess or other games. I want to teach him to enjoy the process and have a growth mindset. 

In chess, for example, I try to explain moves I do, but for the most part, he just wants to play and not listen. 

Any suggestions? ",0.2370254403131113,1.901265109589044,2.216868884540119,97.7431506849315,82.83561643835617,5.267318982387477,18.647749510763205,6.18269132825596,-0.35723326810176115,255,6,63,2,7,85,53,73,0.04,0.767,0.193,0.8594,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,1,0,12,8,6,0,3,5,2,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,4,11,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,1,39,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815414900389256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022647277499897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4400278804262968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4483332701342926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094671932608872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810861059034863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4883885045168256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,midnightblack0,2018/02/04,grandma needs advice on babysitting. I am currently babysitting my grandchildren ages 3 and 2.  I am not sure what to do when the older boy takes toys away from the little one or pushes him.  I give the toys back and the older child has a tantrum. Also they throw stuff when they are mad. The parents are not any help and timeout doesn't seem to work.  Any advice you can give me will be appreciated,3.1021978021978,5.214096692307692,3.5813553113553134,89.23269230769232,75.66666666666667,5.995604395604397,22.68131868131868,6.868970318607317,0.5877010989010985,314,9,63,3,7,98,58,78,0.127,0.8320000000000001,0.041,-0.7114,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,2,1,5,3,2,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,1,9,15,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,9,1,5,13,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,7,43,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44506929135587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211521026537875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30972775772888644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139593750304463,0.17510993955045484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369178020041128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264229306633553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228244799963579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885854926252536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543154125386149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25286667559812903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20731639684631664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606958100016814,0.0,0.0,0.21463237210788436,0.0,0.1712242534245614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578979861583862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,usaprc,2018/02/04,"Earning an Engineering degree with a baby--Is it possible? My son was born 4 months ago.  He and my wife have been living with her parents (It's pretty customary in Chinese society) for the few months of her maternity leave, but they will be moving back home with me very soon.  I've had the house to myself these past few months in peace and quiet (though missing my son terribly).

I have been taking online classes (mostly math and science courses) to earn my second bachelors degree.  I'm studying in preparation for entering a Mechanical Engineering program, so most of my courses are quite intensive and will only get more intense and time-consuming.

How realistic is it for me to expect to continue in school (online classes) while helping my wife take care of our 4 month old and working?  Should I consider withdrawing from classes while I still have the chance, or should give it a shot?",8.228193592365372,8.285381539877308,8.268425357873213,68.03995228357196,61.82208588957055,11.416223585548739,37.743012951601905,10.980518767755715,4.390417041581459,713,32,116,17,9,232,109,163,0.024,0.862,0.115,0.943,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,1,4,6,3,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,1,0,17,21,13,0,3,2,5,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,5,9,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,4,1,16,1,18,12,5,20,0,1,0,0,12,4,0,3,14,82,21,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535636771641748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320815131312858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662612561991778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050890491378703,0.16618420641962994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161167534165283,0.0,0.17377030311641886,0.0,0.0,0.19989162590417656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834324071634666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297097585277614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5531027867236575,0.18412295045829288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817825325699201,0.0,0.0,0.1317541409110392,0.0,0.0,0.19235859752791445,0.0,0.1653738116528894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529808939486829,0.0,0.17624376847708878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425830874329135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532455515163115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383468678194519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605045300936169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702039510966572,0.0,0.10101557812975258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293822960970468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611821257484054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eat_apples26,2018/02/04,"Wild 2 year old boy help! Would love some advice on activities or general help with my recently turned 2 year old boy. We have a girl who is 3 and a half and she is a breeze, never had any issues with her. She’s the easiest child! My son on the other hand is a handful and he’s only just turned two. He ruins her games, he’s aggressive (biting, slapping, pulling hair etc) he’s just wild. He really is a lovely boy but his attention span is 30 seconds and he’s so quick to throw everything and tantrum. 
Any advice?!!! ",1.1617667238421987,3.3169348679245303,3.1964837049742734,89.30880789022301,82.39622641509433,6.873413379073758,20.957118353344764,8.00094639256281,1.0118603773584902,400,12,86,8,11,135,68,106,0.066,0.8,0.133,0.7233,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,7,0,8,5,3,0,1,17,12,8,0,1,4,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,8,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,0,3,1,3,8,2,5,10,2,12,0,1,0,2,24,3,0,2,7,47,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649452316399001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539686976500374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20825584461670568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678229262242515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503254126180442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19489997823340469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33706633342948705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401944046116866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918882171040881,0.0,0.0,0.14201830794124315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962547550742035,0.0,0.18437559183863395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406222182564182,0.18241029726304767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264924898495262,0.0,0.0,0.24049892284753185
parenting,puccik47,2018/02/04,"How did you know your family was complete? We have an almost 3yo and a 6mo baby. Initially I wanted only two kids but my husband convinced me to have three. But now that we have two kids, my husband had since backed down to two, but I can’t shake the idea of having three. We started having kids later in life...I’m 35 and he’s 44. I think if we started earlier we definitely wouldn’t question a third.  We would be financially more comfortable with just two kids, but I get sad thinking that this might be my last baby. How did you know your family was complete?",2.206534090909092,4.4452157410714275,3.6576948051948053,86.97366883116884,79.08928571428572,6.572727272727272,22.68181818181818,7.686295010490155,1.088739285714286,441,14,88,7,11,145,71,112,0.054000000000000006,0.83,0.117,0.8074,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,6,4,0,0,5,4,0,1,4,0,16,0,0,2,0,28,24,9,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,3,9,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,2,0,7,5,0,18,2,6,14,1,9,0,1,0,0,18,2,0,4,6,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16490166161312722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662754899644685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34532440503133305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31048833883297977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860376837198533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859019046794585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810059187158312,0.13423490118581266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631724644063347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469779213361794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252453680141501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184477531951216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622370045521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331204831272605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110385792396111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6434675962970341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713160569698047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698283303582635,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Caliastanfor,2018/02/04,"age gap between siblings? Hey all,

I have a five (going on six March 21st) year old daughter and my wife and I finally decided to commit to having a second before time runs out. (She's 37 and I'm 38.) We found out we're expecting this week and I was wondering if anyone could share any similar experience as far as significant age gaps between siblings. I'm sure there are positives and negatives to the situation.. our daughter is now comfortably settled in Kindergarten and has her own life going with friends, etc. It's a weird adjustment as our life has always been about putting everything we have toward our daughter and I grew used to this ""just the three of us"" small family mentality. Anyone have a similar situation to ours that could elaborate on how life changes and what to expect? Thanks!",3.7991498881431767,6.515808691275174,4.914872483221477,77.51776733780761,76.18120805369128,8.805548098434006,29.39642058165548,9.3871,3.21175937360179,641,29,111,18,15,210,102,149,0.011,0.846,0.142,0.9562,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,6,0,12,3,0,2,3,28,20,13,0,5,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,13,0,0,4,0,0,5,1,1,0,4,3,0,14,5,20,15,3,22,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,2,9,78,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091742353858486,0.0,0.0,0.1151676134440352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368347423405158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410913945937673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915576592679058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27043332730616376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887625783967785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220589051548886,0.16566227070491854,0.15965338463541576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855207785307316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18568967082516155,0.13084371417514962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19249737720815185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588625999066932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067060896361838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17771021042485993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024915136378035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807255736083324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961564597729164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559198801204484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987526105607667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037139310449824,0.14626886034393255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584684458037735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365892077328144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905945195804456
parenting,rivega,2018/02/04,"Babysitter question So i just got home from my first night out with friends in two months. They came from across the country and Canada to visit.  I left my toddler with a babysitter who has sat for us about half a dozen times so far.  I found her on a community facebook group When we moved from out of state.  When we started working with her,  i spent time interviewing,  called references,  had her spend some time with my daughter while i stayed home and could keep an eye on things.  She was kind,  well meaning,  and mostly engaged with my babe.  She spent a couple hours here and there babysitting over the course of a few months. 

Tonight when we got home,  we smelled a strong scent of natural gas.  My husband went to the stove and sure enough, she had turned a burner to low instead of off.  It had been on a few hours and our 3000sqft house stunk.  The baby was asleep.  We opened all doors and windows,  called poison control, and listened to baby breathe for various intervals over the next few hours. When we asked the babysitter if she smelled the gas  she said yea but she double checked everything and didn't think it was a problem.  No apologies.  My husband is furious.  I'm concerned that she acknowledged the smell and did nothing.  How should we address this with her? What would your response be? What's appropriate for a mistake of this magnitude? 
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parenting,OrdinarySun,2018/02/04,"Unreasonable Day Care Contracts? I have a question about a new contract from my current day care provider. I'm not sure if it's reasonable or not. Personally I don't think it is, but I would like some input from the community, even if you do think it's reasonable. The contract can be found on my imgur account as it is several pages long.

https://imgur.com/a/tx4Kz

Just a question for everyone… Does anyone find the following contract reasonable for a daycare provider?

Before I get to the actual contract maybe a little background on the story is required.

My wife and I have been sending our daughter to the same daycare for about 3 years and we’ve never had a problem… Until now that is. My schedule is 7 AM – 5 PM Monday through Friday. I have a 30 minute drive to work, and so I have a 30 minute drive home from work. I usually can’t get the children before 5:45 PM. I’m a custodian and I refuse to hold my infant daughter while I’m covered in the germs that I’ve accumulated throughout the day. So I get home, I shower, I get the kids. This has been my schedule during the school year, in the summer it’s 7 AM – 4 PM. This is how it’s been for the last year and a half, and will be for the foreseeable future.

We’ve been having issues with our DC lately as she has become increasingly unreliable. In January alone, she worked only 1 full week, and even than it was begrudgingly. We’ve had reliability issues with her in the past but it seems to be more of an issue lately than ever before.

She recently dropped this new updated contract on us and we can’t help but feel it’s unrealistic in its expectations of us as parents. I’m no expert, so I’m asking anyone with any insight to let me know how reasonable this contract might be. Over the summer my wife and I had a second child, our rates went up accordingly, in fact we were getting a pretty good rate considering one of our children is an infant. Currently, until the new contract goes into effect in March, we pay $200 a week ($400 per pay period).

Under the new contract, we are expected to pick up our children no later than 5 PM, which our DC knows for a fact is not doable by my wife or myself. The late fees and over time will increase our daily rate to $292. That’s $2,920 per pay period. These rates go up because we would be getting hit with “Overtime” fees, on top of “Late Fees” that eventually result in her being payed $3/minute.

She asks for 20 paid days off + 1 week of vacation equaling 25 paid days off a year (ALMOST AN ENTIRE MONTH). Some of the paid days off are holidays, no problem, but 5 of them are seemingly random days that are not associated with anything. She mentions nothing about sick days or how many she is allowed, or how many sick days parents are expected to pay for, so in reality she can close at any time (which she already does) with no repercussions or penalty to herself.

She requires 3 weeks notice of contract termination and all fees paid up front at time of written notice. So, to terminate our contract we need to pay UP FRONT a minimum of $600, but could be as high as $4,380 when taking into account late fees and over time. The contract also says that she will sue any parent that doesn’t pay in a timely fashion. Not only will she sue for that $600 - $4,380 the parents must also agree to pay her for a lawyer and assume all legal costs. It also says she will sue for defamation of character if someone says something bad about her over social media (assuming the claim can’t be proven, or is false).

She claims this contract is not targeted at my wife and I, though we are one of only 2 families that CAN NOT pick up before 5 PM.

Does ANY of this contract seem reasonable?
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parenting,nerdy3000,2018/02/04,"Valentine's ideas for a stay at home dad Hey everyone, this is my husband and I's first Valentine's day as parents, we have a 3 month old baby girl, and my husband is a stay at home dad while I'm going to work (I love my job and I'm the primary income). Money is a bit tight since babies are expensive.  I plan on getting my husband a 6 pack of beer which is a rare treat for him, he never buys beer for himself but always enjoys it when we are at a friend's/family's home or restaurant. I want to do something special and nice for him to show him how much I appreciate what he goes through with the baby every day while I get a break at work.  Anyone have any ideas?",2.884718309859153,3.606026063380284,4.4902535211267605,88.1614366197183,73.5774647887324,7.088450704225353,26.171830985915488,7.1686216300943375,1.0850850704225348,519,17,115,5,10,175,87,142,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.9645,3,0,3,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,10,0,9,3,0,1,1,15,16,11,0,1,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,7,2,1,2,3,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,16,5,16,16,2,18,0,0,0,1,17,5,0,1,9,68,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481444697722758,0.0,0.0,0.11017983245977707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328884680072353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688496334677498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898027607919872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365096761004626,0.15481800387167682,0.0,0.0,0.1527389744801342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781497548237348,0.0,0.0,0.12517701873920006,0.0,0.1692985653169487,0.0,0.09208026516954436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.487560804768167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658039639281695,0.0,0.0,0.1607808371756588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623027360744814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932361234830492,0.0,0.11910407361651056,0.0,0.1249605795343186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001377926892255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990514092992607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402544124924606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473167749359985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453856459403162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556418060355004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359064278768665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BDK1980,2018/02/04,"Help I'm a dad of 5. Yes you read that right, 5. Having this many children is truly a blessing from God.  I love them all so much but feel that I'm not doing things right with child number 3. Easy to label this way.  3 is very sweet and loving and has a huge heart. This same child is the most difficult child to parent.  3 is always fighting with 4. Either one listens when redirected and typically ends up with physical intervention. 3's mood can change in an instant. When it does the entire house is affected.  3 is in counseling which does help but only so much.  I am at a complete loss. I want to cry my eyes out in complete failure. 3 has a rocky relationship with everyone in the family because of this. I don't know what to do. 
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parenting,edielakelady,2018/02/04,"2.5 year old talking about 'scary boy' So my hubby and I can't really recall any time we have mentioned the phrase 'scary boy' in the past and all he really watches is sesame street. but in the last couple weeks, a couple of times when my hub came home at night from work, he cried 'scary boy' when he knew he was coming in the door...then tonight 3-4 times while he was playing with Dad he pointed toward the front door and said 'scary boy'...we thought maybe he saw dad's shadow outside the window or heard him dragging the trash can...he wasn't too upset but it's just so weird! His language has blown up recently, and I guess his imagination too? He's our first, so we aren't quite sure what is normal. He never uses the term unless we are at home at night...",2.9871075268817187,4.327870716129033,3.531370967741936,92.75038978494624,74.09677419354837,6.198924731182796,20.658602150537632,6.42735559955562,0.04556989247311849,591,12,130,4,12,185,101,155,0.138,0.831,0.031,-0.9527,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,0,3,9,4,0,1,9,0,10,0,0,1,3,24,19,14,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,2,10,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,2,0,1,9,4,11,2,13,10,2,31,0,0,2,0,25,10,0,2,18,64,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126422074998582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894502656278477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268587475192926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665593387702971,0.18194990638215666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089495979711705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247328482396774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323047670546127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350202988591385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640960462770868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775328492486007,0.0,0.0,0.3108875022142956,0.16229394389441051,0.0,0.0,0.1738133647029854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812398601108954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658518489948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618060527809193,0.0,0.0,0.2122289519780756,0.0,0.16355144445726152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756342802670664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561155795169357,0.0,0.0,0.13313672665369145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150120754361988,0.2897614628962695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430614634177119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286798256751042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058931387991187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666798633670152
parenting,Arctic_rose,2018/02/04,"ODD/Autism parenting help? My 9 year old is now seeing a psychiatrist AND his therapist. He has serious problems with emotional regulation and maturity. His therapist recommended he see a psychiatrist for medication so he's now on zoloft for emotional control. They are saying he has oppositional defiance disorder and are seeing some soft signs of autism but it would be on the mild end of the spectrum.

I'm so tired. He's so tired. We don't even know what to do anymore. He does the exact opposite of what we ask or does stuff he knows is wrong or will get him in trouble. Positive reinforcement, weekly therapy, medication don't work. Grounding does nothing, isolation, removal of toys/privileges etc nothing ever works. I need help.  

Does anyone out there have a kid with either if these issues or something similar? I'm looking for tips to try or anything non judgemental and constructive to actually help.",4.36501704158146,7.481400269938653,5.822648261758694,69.44606509884119,76.97546012269939,10.002590320381731,32.368438991138376,9.994966539143718,4.4221563735514655,736,38,116,26,18,247,109,163,0.129,0.755,0.116,-0.6594,1,1,1,0,0,0,20,2,0,1,3,8,4,0,0,6,0,13,5,0,1,2,26,24,13,0,4,7,1,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,6,8,0,16,21,3,13,0,0,4,0,20,5,0,6,7,69,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.11534339308531776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721983751147005,0.08264621329130989,0.0,0.09726620433796554,0.0,0.11049840359382948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256818276971113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546420318129934,0.0,0.4137405789892632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659118269381092,0.1046876146625959,0.0,0.13182109463179076,0.07806811963632064,0.1069161121046456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061753145760717276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23767522563074986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233671425727596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991615300112974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992558586532228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23814243857159195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764170792038291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268267552669755,0.0,0.1240280527229386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124397563735174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309873402220948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939951379999162,0.0,0.0,0.2825635373657303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099396024793056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530748745634047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516877110562384,0.2744720614728085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717005313307738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024812345977096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481064459705857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209790288886587,0.0,0.0,0.08396388219242677,0.1292300564440137,0.0,0.07611510573899427
parenting,JTsyo,2018/02/04,"Anyone try weighted blankets for their kids? My daughter wakes up in the middle of the night often. I've heard that heavier blankets offer better sleep. Looking online I saw there are weighted blankets instead of just the mink ones I was looking at. They are priced very high, so I wanted to see if others have had good experiences.",4.2692349726775936,7.02536873770492,4.237295081967215,82.79124316939892,74.7377049180328,4.722404371584699,28.19945355191257,5.46131890053228,1.2294568306010931,267,11,42,1,6,82,50,61,0.0,0.905,0.095,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,5,2,0,0,3,0,5,4,2,0,0,4,11,2,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,7,6,2,7,7,0,6,0,0,4,0,6,5,0,2,1,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827570859475474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284502371045466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354125557322617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185495883981347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542714716843101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041891160380148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258439674960763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630780655027001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19177559212810047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24083471912598334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339296503512307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985704603194687,0.14194804397317595,0.0,0.0,0.5861203242002468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RachelD08,2018/02/04,"My 13 year old son follows Sommer Ray on instagram For those who don’t known Sommer Ray is an Instagram model who posts booty pics (although, no nudity).

I found out my son follows her. Should I allow him to keep following her?",5.064469696969695,6.102184386363637,5.952727272727272,78.50742424242426,68.77272727272728,9.503030303030306,28.303030303030305,9.725611199111238,2.65249393939394,179,6,33,4,3,59,35,44,0.051,0.905,0.044,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,8,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,4,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,20,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5212165863938939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225290099418008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4988188563929266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4552712368005396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061214714365165
parenting,SanarySurMer,2018/02/04,"Parents consistently guilt-trip me into not spending time outside the house? I'm 18, soon to be 19, but I don't think that should really matter at this point. 

I'm in a bit of bind at the moment, or I have been for a while now. I've always enjoyed my time spent at home. I'm closer to the lazy side of the spectrum so I do appreciate a good relaxing ""do-almost-nothing"" day, but I feel like I've embraced that so much that my parents don't even know a world where I am not home.

I have my usual ""responsibilities"" that they can't really say anything about obviously, like school, but I still have my mom texting me often when I'm 5 minutes off of the time I'm usually home by on a given day. It's like having a spotlight on your anal cavity daily. When I would work late, sometimes coming home at ilke 12-1230 (My parents crash at like 11-1130), my mom would get up every single time, excluding once or twice she didn't wake up.
I appreciate the gesture and the love that she throws at me a lot, but at one point you gotta be like .... dude, cmon now, just take it down a notch. I'm mostly just going off other examples, the majority of moms I know have their own stuff going on so they just check up quick on their kid sometimes and then go back. But my mom doesn't do anything but be on my ass and I'm afraid for when I actually will move out that, one they won't let me (Dad actually said it's stupid to move out, we're french btw so it's not weird), and two, she's not going to deal with it well (I'm the last child too sooooo....).

But my main point is the spending time with either friends, just skating, or just being out of the house during the day or night. They don't understand it seems. And I get their concern, they don't know what I'm doing. But you can't expect me to just stay inside when I have all my friends literally COMPLAINING that I bail on them all the time.
So I got my parents complaining that I go out too much and my friends complaining that I never go out.... 

Every time I plan to meet up with a friend to just hang out (always extremely laid back crap, just chillin n spendin time with buddies) has to be made into this ""whole extravaganza"" because it happens once a damn month. Every time I just mention stepping out I get a huge surprised face waiting for me and a ""whaaat?!"" like oh my god is it that bad to be out with a couple friends more than once a month?

And quite honestly I'm the type to sympathize with every single person so I'm always doing shit their way and making sure they're 'not in bitch-mode' so I don't hear it everyday. They still bitch out my 24 year old sister and I have to just sit through a semi-shout match. The last few years I've shown that I'm more mature because I just do everything on my own. I do my laundry, I often cook dinner for these folks, I never ask for money so they have nothing to chain me down with. But they still continue to.

Treacherous waters I don't know how to navigate. I just wish I could freely spend my time as I wished and bring love to my family and parents when I can, not constanty NEED to.

I just honestly don't know how to deal with this in a proper way, without them resenting me at the end if I spent a lot of time outside. ",2.8679372197309405,3.96921595665172,4.250322571001497,88.42111614349777,74.0373692077728,7.325094170403588,23.84337817638266,7.770157013224466,0.9609401853512708,2501,70,555,33,50,829,283,669,0.066,0.772,0.161,0.9967,5,0,0,0,0,0,87,0,3,14,3,45,33,6,1,33,0,44,11,6,4,6,102,94,44,0,9,35,11,1,6,5,6,0,3,4,3,27,32,3,2,9,3,7,13,21,12,1,4,8,4,79,21,79,72,19,109,0,0,0,3,52,45,5,11,53,363,106,3,0.0,0.0,0.1119203642177683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742246131159522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314622158263518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437964953512956,0.0,0.053609579382477734,0.0,0.0,0.08818911176637605,0.04788045229593131,0.06991362744046314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260559043831754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939740522030418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045785098844664585,0.0634508504293215,0.0,0.11094781596769952,0.11823979241488478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05079040787997482,0.0,0.0,0.03787565178107073,0.0,0.1932616252079804,0.0,0.05153774360141904,0.0,0.05405950567728831,0.0,0.028995217315545725,0.0409670848903702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152197165884316,0.0,0.08988076014054999,0.0,0.19554198139571616,0.048098036849695734,0.04586381724136608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05070975327602326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463167574813397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23008574974045984,0.0,0.0,0.13233623291256255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575758131081524,0.09348721346534353,0.06468735054844768,0.0,0.0,0.05863886924513454,0.0,0.16809442401095906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750487356040304,0.1035117111815025,0.05426096783886796,0.03827805099472773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686458078067405,0.09154402901742566,0.12189674052717656,0.0843099459816965,0.042520388939230505,0.0884555783062607,0.0,0.0,0.05381414226007728,0.0,0.11004762554989367,0.0,0.06017364524600076,0.1832107902497879,0.07771654309617962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31837266881543835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050071204293735135,0.0,0.0,0.1626279092465939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06099317655662127,0.0,0.0,0.07347300185507487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454796780457223,0.04560282907521436,0.0,0.05803592586955113,0.0,0.05220448633418165,0.0,0.0,0.0588635388656845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134308038912408,0.0,0.0,0.0611218497148967,0.1373867207267732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564599355206761,0.0,0.0,0.05404672716208318,0.0,0.043116098552538513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036744185998778,0.0,0.0,0.3678198903075324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0560174663981224,0.05969788385291274,0.0,0.0,0.12631423180626006,0.0,0.0,0.09103515126061802,0.0,0.0,0.051559796981265664,0.0,0.0,0.06402334052167546,0.13188721349518567,0.05527827110213122,0.0,0.041747644700786464,0.0,0.0,0.08147209844228508,0.0,0.0,0.07385624897024606
parenting,Fallen_snowfire,2018/02/04,"So my son has been coming back in town from college and not even telling me. Last August my son went off to College, in a town about 30 minutes away. I have seen him once since then at Christmas and only for an hour because he ""had another christmas"" he was going to.

I had a suspicion that he was coming home but I just learned 100% that he had because his girlfriend came forward and told me saying she ""Couldn't keep lying to me"" and that every weekend since my son went to college he would come back to town to see her and spend time with her.

So here I am, unsure of what I am feeling beyond down right hatred for my son for lying to me about not being able to come home and tempting to remove him from my life for good.

I am his Father. His mother is dead due to cancer, he has no aunts or uncles, and his grandparents have seen him the same amount of times I have seen he went to college.

I feel like I am being betrayed in a way by my son because he'd rather spend time with his girlfriend who is 3 years younger than him and still in high school instead of at least saying hi to me or even spending like a day with me talking sports or something.

I feel I am losing my son and it hurts but, I also feel pissed that he has been lying to me this much.

Anyone have any similar experiences or advice on how to approach this?",7.829659367396594,5.178166722627741,7.612810218978101,81.15113746958642,64.25547445255475,9.863260340632603,33.78223844282238,6.816661863887847,2.066492457420924,1038,30,222,5,12,332,141,274,0.145,0.78,0.076,-0.9779,1,0,1,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,1,16,6,1,0,6,0,26,3,1,1,0,37,45,20,1,3,10,9,4,2,2,1,2,2,2,0,9,17,0,1,5,2,3,12,4,3,0,0,15,10,39,3,41,25,4,43,0,2,4,0,39,17,1,4,17,155,48,6,0.11859873565226828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589331186921208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484336605257593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065120716747959,0.12436111514566008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292699352602098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142741617694933,0.18239021410706974,0.0,0.2168900653798701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564535852251314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086492372587913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648637306711073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566666927340159,0.0,0.09992454990856156,0.0,0.0,0.1160123207810508,0.0,0.0,0.2398683369562969,0.08472696044712834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740239458011969,0.09947499258622176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253060757390498,0.2379284036181229,0.0,0.11679586472145305,0.0,0.12696239943314758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054160055304757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667379871898456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837697943724996,0.11588270317233085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268164881319022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718371684983925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630378282565854,0.0,0.09019968272725776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128267223455488,0.0,0.18862894959075166,0.0,0.12002825216440476,0.09450783728479004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621219939414813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913031009150976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471310349213373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532517127703208,0.10366052241095793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074676295138161,0.0,0.0,0.11332617435290232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413815604402198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32982664841862164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424913904341093,0.0,0.0,0.07637369734777283
parenting,marvelousoctopus,2018/02/04,"Pregnant and stopping nursing and co-sleeping with toddler. Where to begin? (I'm on mobile so sorry for formatting?)

Okay, so my son is 2. He nurses to sleep and in the middle of the night if he wakes, and once in the morning when we wake up for the day. We also co-sleep. I am 8 weeks pregnant and obviously need to break all of these habits sooner rather than later, which I have wanted to do regardless of the pregnancy lol. He has also shown a lot of interest in potty training! My question is where do I begin? Do we wean while still co-sleeping and then switch to his room or should I get him sleeping in his own room first, while still breastfeeding to sleep til he's used to that? Do I do it all at once? Should I wait until he's weaned and sleeping well before potty training? I don't want to overwhelm him with all of the changes happening :( any advice is appreciated!",2.5288642857142847,4.57668832571429,3.7796249999999993,87.44543750000004,77.17142857142856,6.203571428571429,24.080357142857146,7.1686216300943375,0.9830071428571427,687,23,137,8,16,224,103,175,0.043,0.8640000000000001,0.093,0.8657,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,0,1,11,4,0,1,7,2,14,6,6,1,4,30,24,19,0,8,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,12,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,16,3,27,22,5,29,0,1,0,0,14,12,0,4,16,97,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427656655551224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870405471764812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952609943581508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951094245627697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371150907383392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541936597909431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947271836664603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061098543350261575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341341308099504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942181844217107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671267875831498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974425556458213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490836168454293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100432270783888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8192009324106396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090951226806188,0.0,0.0,0.18678365645659456,0.09777062849065037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100228340433136,0.0,0.0,0.13795349583517574,0.0,0.09380562249291216,0.0,0.10514692419371216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nikmac76,2018/02/05,"Is this normal adolescent behavior? Advice is welcome and appreciated. My daughter will be 12 in May, so she is in 6th grade.  She was an early bloomer, puberty-wise, so we have definitely dealt with mood swings.  She is just so hateful lately.  She is our oldest, and very intolerant of her younger brother's existence.  I think that there is a lot of jealousy involved, but she also believes that the world revolves around her wants and needs.  She can be very verbally cruel to all of us, and it is very difficult for me not to lose my cool.  She can also be kind and is quite kind and respectful to everyone else, except for her immediate family.  I haven't been a perfect mother, but I just don't understand this cruelty.  It's not constant but I'm starting to resent her presence in our family.  When she is away, things are so peaceful.  I just don't know what to do with her.",3.8080219780219764,5.719878952662723,5.177028740490279,79.44640532544379,73.08284023668641,8.615553677092139,29.231191885038037,9.23628265651192,2.704881318681319,689,29,129,16,14,230,103,169,0.132,0.71,0.158,0.6415,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,4,0,0,3,12,12,3,0,4,1,24,0,0,0,2,29,32,16,0,3,9,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,10,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,1,24,6,18,25,2,12,0,1,0,0,22,6,0,2,6,102,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600223055631153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717017930415867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122690334238156,0.0,0.0,0.1596054106329663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913936583810131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835771208558193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191077067372074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232513696929654,0.0,0.0,0.3202905906678402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677187640508018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3538023442287036,0.09336017712899476,0.0,0.1916291081126588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004935920491187,0.0,0.14442369179290793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596194062586533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16644378497988033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806855270065431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024009906176797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285899706565908,0.10885057946526833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17684836590082428,0.20434159742577496,0.0,0.0,0.42049994145545533,0.1001980927146405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whats_my_username16,2018/02/05,"Vomiting green phlegm or bile in morning My almost 2 year old daughter has been sleeping through the night but wakes up at 6am, coughs up green bile or phlegm and then goes back to sleep. It’s not a lot but enough to have me worried since it’s been 3 days in a row. She isn’t showing any other signs for being sick through out the day. Is it acid reflux? Or something viral? ",2.8834615384615385,4.161149397435897,3.246666666666666,94.94000000000004,74.25641025641026,5.712820512820513,24.538461538461537,5.46131890053228,0.27629230769230784,295,9,66,1,6,91,61,78,0.101,0.899,0.0,-0.8229,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,7,6,3,0,0,11,7,7,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,11,4,2,13,0,0,2,0,2,6,0,5,7,40,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655356354387323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803288928186381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390411083731635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420333918192588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27399787565543954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254433018705064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488498774561321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782577890619816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193564728720125,0.0,0.5307353657141555,0.0,0.0,0.20414557546222112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692992784769725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17076476306907618
parenting,penniiwenkle,2018/02/05,"Diaper changes... By the time I strap my LO's diaper shut, I've got more powder on his boys than a New Orleans biegnet, and his changing table looks like a Scar Face after party.

Anyone else over-enthusiastic about keeping your baby's cracks and crevasses dry? ",6.730136054421768,7.3470973877551025,7.1555102040816365,72.85258503401364,64.91836734693878,8.982312925170069,30.619047619047624,8.841846274778883,2.5577700680272097,208,7,35,3,3,68,43,49,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,5,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,4,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724540487953325,0.3183440908244929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6573489433287466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25954608796943823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484914449566749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761602926683378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179004868486118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26090583392829697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30007149422868684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811689505700915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlsLookAfterThisBear,2018/02/05,"CF screening... Please talk me off the ledge. This just happened a few hours ago and I need to be talked down. 

My son is two weeks old today... and today I got a call from the children's hospital that his prenatal screening tripped the Cystic Fibrosis test. 

The woman who called reassured me it was only the first screen and chances of him having it are 2-3%. We go to the hospital on Wednesday for the sweat test which will give us more information. 

This came as a total shock today and I just broke down hugging my son. In reading around I'm (predictably) grasping at straws trying to reassure myself... My husband found a study showing larger babies are marginally less likely to have CF; my son was 9lb4oz(!). Babies who had a stressful delivery are more likely to drop the test; my son had to be vacuumed out after his heart rate dropped. You get the picture. 

I don't really know what I'm asking. No one will know anything more until Wednesday... I just need a bit of... I don't even know. 

Just talk me off the ledge so I can function the next two days....... 
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parenting,DannyChadwick,2018/02/05,"Meeting my 13-year-old daughter for the first time. I haven't had any contact with my daughter since she was a baby. Mom told me to stay away (she had good reasons.) My failure as a father is the greatest shame of my life. 

She's 13 now. And recently, I've been able to reestablish contact with her mom, told her I wanted to be a proper father. And things have been moving really well toward that end. 

We're meeting next Tuesday. And I'm excited and really nervous, I messed this up once already and it cost me her childhood. I can't stand the thought of getting a second chance and screwing it up again.

Any advice at all would be much appreciated. ",2.296280048076923,4.667705539062503,3.460937500000004,87.78646634615384,79.546875,5.500961538461539,26.25240384615385,6.67199483983844,1.151433173076923,511,21,98,5,13,165,86,128,0.101,0.769,0.13,0.5888,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,1,3,7,1,2,7,0,12,2,0,1,1,13,18,7,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,4,1,2,8,0,16,3,14,7,3,17,0,0,0,1,18,5,1,0,9,68,21,0,0.1766522131344979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262249817914754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949401099294706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402591251879279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659705692751235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564614276824173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026028224937898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229349031155637,0.0,0.0,0.14816749516973252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247746823634948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41378587399483335,0.0,0.1877533460430706,0.12985970251800874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787163274420213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536678158390188,0.1881288416836916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263358623447938,0.1816278964868148,0.17442274898853125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612853617845772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882877548765145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735988094966256,0.0,0.0,0.14024212498510394,0.10300732607819256,0.0,0.0,0.33759751982859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419405220774887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588315546858415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254886638111469,0.0,0.0,0.1137582334883042
parenting,redbud2018,2018/02/05,"How do you handle picky eaters? I'm a single dad of 2 and probably not the best cook ever, I do try to fix healthy meals that they like. Here recently it feels like they don't like anything or one like something but the other hates it. I am barely getting buy and really can't afford to cook a million things just to please everyone. 
I do feel bad when they go to bed without eating dinner but I don't know what else to do.",1.7553089887640458,3.5395571573033737,3.333019662921348,90.981327247191,78.5505617977528,6.247752808988763,21.2373595505618,7.1686216300943375,0.5209426966292137,333,9,72,4,8,110,63,89,0.118,0.753,0.129,-0.4559,1,0,1,0,1,0,6,0,1,3,1,5,7,1,0,4,0,8,5,0,1,1,13,15,7,0,0,6,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,5,0,3,2,1,1,5,2,0,2,0,2,8,5,7,15,2,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,7,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487763594033105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758333754843445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357688477319616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298852537210405,0.1876762246643311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321958880144095,0.0,0.2146741133875012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271916565606216,0.16049853635193626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173765921866432,0.0,0.12768055905269465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218071559543094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346832798088395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390339072595719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522367462884945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466113477509065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24222357168068226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439241929304877,0.0,0.22182656444120366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295573904614167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925541160920516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15253071151352993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21656609513954175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Torandax,2018/02/05,"Parents with Dyslexic kids...how do you not lose your f’ing mind? Edit:  Thanks guys and gals, I was just having a day yesterday.  All your suggestions are appreciated.  I did contact her teachers and will wait to hear back from them.  I did look into the programs suggested but I think chilling out on the forced reading for a bit might be good.  Thanks everyone.

I just got done with homework with the kid. She is severely dyslexic. She is in third grade and her reading level is first grade, she is also a little behind in math but not as bad as the reading.  She has had an IEP since first grade, I have been dealing with this since kindergarten when we first noticed issues. 

She refuses to read any new books. She will only read the ones she has memorized and when I try to get her into a new book she just cries. Eventually she will begrudgingly start a new book but will not even try to sound out words. She just throws out random words. 

The new book is on the next level where we are supposed to be trying but she doesn’t even try. She just shuts down immediately. And I’m to the point where I’m super fucking frustrated with it. I have no idea what to do to motivate her. 

Today it was the word “small”. I know she knows the word but she can’t say it. She says hamster. Hamster? Not even fucking close. Not even sounding it out.  This is after ten minutes of just trying to get her to try to read the sentence and finally she reluctantly“tries”.  I had to call it a day and put myself in time out because I could feel myself losing my shit inside (we don’t do time outs as punishment, we put ourselves in time out when we need a minute). To be clear I was not mad she got the word wrong. I was mad she didn’t even try to sound it out and get it right.

I try to be patient, I try to encourage her. I’ve told her time and time again I don’t care how many words she gets wrong she just has to try. As far as I can tell she’s made ZERO progress in reading this year. She might be even worse.  They tell me reading to her is good and have her follow along but I don’t think she’s learning anything from that. 

She is above average intelligence. That is not the issue. I am dyslexic too but nowhere near her level and of course I’ve seen these words a trillions times so I can’t even remember what it was like at her age.

So, please help me help my child and keep my shit together. I am a single parent so I have no help when I get frustrated. And her other parent does not do anything with her that is not fun, so no hope there. ",1.3096835670622085,3.531611718446605,2.51857065803668,93.99218896080549,82.3009708737864,5.523552678892485,20.410823444804027,6.775458762138228,0.21353434016540795,1965,56,432,22,54,628,219,515,0.112,0.746,0.141,0.9395,3,0,0,0,1,0,52,5,3,2,8,30,24,9,0,23,0,57,4,2,3,2,90,87,35,0,3,23,3,1,1,0,6,0,6,1,3,18,36,0,3,10,12,0,4,19,14,0,8,17,9,77,10,57,58,3,65,0,2,2,2,69,32,4,4,30,304,95,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04794008531971242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04076643326433015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866355703691093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046096014880610936,0.05005375374162991,0.03654350912832093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544726827727088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121321651871759,0.0,0.061120587851578125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047863291859541725,0.0,0.0658496391416037,0.07732250347588868,0.061803357823532926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246056105951357,0.0613472225688619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27716383603380834,0.0,0.0,0.057282514250106435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030311314902108744,0.0,0.0,0.06566968100623909,0.0,0.15297422973152092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084120646428254,0.1566007705461842,0.0,0.0,0.1005624289867074,0.09589116659391013,0.0,0.0,0.0593575628876944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675653179258057,0.0,0.12054486622506692,0.0,0.0,0.05954150714275915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676735594454149,0.0,0.1251394684366973,0.0,0.05328419381902593,0.0,0.0,0.06589128186345714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029287376167568886,0.06008325810946735,0.0,0.0,0.050340897633122585,0.1341320922949613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05672388191328739,0.0,0.06077747152502185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718989018775195,0.06053000107499936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444503962453885,0.0,0.23159111693509934,0.06375496766282314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825075595793126,0.0,0.0,0.04062205475570978,0.04559286184927937,0.0,0.0,0.19969419333544106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580447832701626,0.05666987208498631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052781958103267,0.0,0.0,0.4797106940300498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790896066143709,0.051194934874426605,0.0,0.09534549767176638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772374049821292,0.12307072876144078,0.09917857169377013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04243122979309557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479371400446648,0.1103834176541552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682402104525507,0.0,0.0,0.20973561512899716,0.0,0.0568233286554282,0.057282514250106435,0.0,0.4070049489423609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109174021344816,0.0,0.13108661052038595,0.0,0.03860429800650966
parenting,13548764,2018/02/05,"Moved to a new house, busy with work, and now my 11 year old is spending too much time on the computer after school So basically the title. At our old neighborhood, my son would have kids to play with after coming home. We moved to a bigger house, bigger neighborhood, and he goes to a new school. Now once he gets home, he just goes into his room and stays on the laptop, because it's an easy solution to his boredom. 

But, I'm afraid it's too easy to pass the time alone on the computer, and this will stifle his development in other areas. I'm considering taking away the laptop, but I would feel guilty for putting him into a new environment and then taking away a solution without offering anything in return. Ultimately I want him to be creative with how he entertains himself and develop some skills along the way. 

Do you think taking away the laptop will be helpful or not, and also, what are some healthy ways your kids pass the time after school?",8.220109289617483,7.066746202185798,8.073333333333334,73.3966666666667,62.3879781420765,11.19344262295082,33.448087431693985,10.25414643259724,3.186536612021857,757,24,141,14,9,244,107,183,0.035,0.823,0.142,0.9612,0,1,0,0,0,0,20,2,2,0,2,8,3,0,1,15,0,10,0,0,1,0,29,20,14,0,3,6,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,5,15,0,0,2,2,1,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,14,2,27,14,3,40,0,0,0,0,19,15,0,3,16,94,19,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261058447633253,0.0,0.09737081466958236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019747423074102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431904225223819,0.0,0.0,0.07422329833123614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488479796239596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156512667930074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361417383500713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161264733046718,0.0,0.24426887675504025,0.0,0.0,0.2809876144351297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588215908396005,0.08950704607937603,0.0,0.0,0.35278747799187915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555316659302378,0.12966960939331149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224016593283776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36968053274707857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977914183637745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746433703617463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801840010799653,0.0,0.0,0.21299636383770773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181675031838734,0.1932936235185367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173715556596574,0.0,0.08864217179666901,0.0,0.0,0.17298853141336892,0.0,0.0,0.07840895404279871
parenting,RPtheFP,2018/02/05,"Debating to start 4K or hold our son back a year. My wife and I are debating whether we should hold our son back from starting 4K or not.  He has a late August birthday with the cutoff being September 1.  My wife worries that he will be at a disadvantage by being one of the youngest in his class throughout his school career.  I believe that it will even out for the most part down the line.

Do any of you have experience or opinions?",4.154583333333331,4.9663040795454565,5.014090909090911,85.23696969696974,70.70454545454545,8.139393939393939,29.43939393939393,8.344100000000001,1.917266666666667,341,13,72,5,6,111,65,88,0.066,0.934,0.0,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,12,5,0,1,5,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,10,0,11,6,2,11,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,5,7,53,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956843020827305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4287031501193653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31407049250156793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18412036254979075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27268374904312903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144568575138826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888970541509783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018732131372497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821230846080097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946198369393109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830974042991731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17951426176863125
parenting,Mamabear0929,2018/02/05,Baby item sharing with family Am I overreacting? I have an 18 month old baby girl. My husbands sister recently had a baby girl (her third but the other two are 7 and 8). She is expecting me to pass down all of my daughters clothes and toys for her to use but I’m having a really hard time doing so because we are not done having kids ourselves. I don’t doubt that she would take good care of the stuff and Im sure we would get t all back.. but I’m struggling. I can’t help but feel selfish for feeling this way... but what do you guys think? Should I pass it all down in hopes it all comes back in good condition?!? I need advice!! ,1.0596503496503509,3.0229281818181875,2.8518181818181816,92.70157342657343,81.57575757575758,5.8797202797202806,20.002331002331,7.010146845296331,0.2793897435897437,488,13,109,6,13,162,91,132,0.09,0.72,0.19,0.9387,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,2,1,0,0,3,9,0,2,5,0,16,0,0,1,5,29,28,9,0,6,6,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,7,7,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,3,0,2,2,3,16,6,11,23,5,14,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,2,6,74,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293593111200596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879003378646113,0.0,0.11411928614709205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086940528946414,0.0,0.0,0.1612617404542558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157714772497453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648153652477522,0.0,0.18931436533157586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780761930695422,0.0,0.0,0.3140396990579864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853637722745442,0.0,0.0,0.1677001666868229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548050630091395,0.0,0.0,0.1859381995142802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022150408445438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942636543059756,0.0,0.0,0.1388111763067618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964416292428747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992921594470725,0.0,0.1848437389674337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957087800814312,0.2143065435692958,0.0,0.0,0.17643982005013026,0.0,0.1407559175055949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995430446824895,0.0,0.0,0.10916155950840276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18287345432237226,0.0,0.0,0.16168622593359502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148595729566474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265972116038658,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eyeluvlola,2018/02/05,"Blaming I am looking for advice. My daughter, SIL and GS live my husband and I. My daughter is a stay at home mom of an 18mos boy.  They are renting their place and saving for a larger home. It’s great I love them and we have the space. The problem is the SIL is over protective and placed blame on my daughter for things that happen case in point they were out with friends in public space and the baby bumped his head and has a small bump (first one). He blames her for getting distracted. He refers to this as a head injury. And was upset when the cousins came over the next day because they can potentially cause him further harm. Now he is upset my 8 y/o GD because she almost hurt him. I think this is all ridiculous and have little patience with it. I am an RN and I see real injuries every day. I don’t like all the blame placing and drama and I think all of this is destructive to the family. He things I am too laid back. This helicopter stuff is for the birds.",1.9008602725086805,3.9994426446700513,2.8892172054501764,92.81562115949774,79.40609137055837,5.365642532727757,22.043547956184877,6.339386263674448,0.3063664974619291,759,23,160,6,19,241,121,197,0.172,0.763,0.065,-0.9638,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,5,1,4,13,2,3,15,0,18,3,2,1,3,28,26,14,0,1,0,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,10,17,0,1,3,1,1,1,1,8,0,2,3,2,25,5,19,23,3,25,0,1,2,1,25,16,0,1,8,108,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023149486196104,0.0,0.0,0.14369959969653842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034654183190278,0.0,0.17495871906310625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16413157144188864,0.0,0.14741923857188866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509779829011794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090921193881908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528380964837586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206534038421166,0.0,0.0,0.11087166214846933,0.0,0.07497547682913147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821484778531955,0.0,0.0,0.1269010606656689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945552088468227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28789457451300154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362514692706333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010932914247793,0.14382978163177562,0.12671760714047034,0.0,0.12050811726168192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951892970914858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807140516191396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261927141464168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724275028998702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497967682027336,0.0,0.13565867736789575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731497250267008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334018845936388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435496220500915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529573121061786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427897341294925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906767856564481,0.1839045104858068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MusicalTourettes,2018/02/05,"Cupcake decoration with preschoolers - tips? pitfalls? EDIT: when you search ""cupcake decoration party"" it's all pinterest and no content. I don't want fantasy, I want reality. 

My son is turning 3 soon and we're having a small home party. ~6 kids, at least 6 adults. 

I'm imagining pre-made cupcakes. Pre-mixing frosting in 4-6 colors (food dye + premade buttercream from a can). Several types of sprinkles in little dishes. Maybe some other chunks of fruit or yummy toppings.

What kind of disasters happen with things like this? What can I do to prevent them? :-) I'm hoping the fact that every kid has a parent with them will help it go smoothly. 

I'm really excited about a pretty simple home party so I'm not worried about looking cool, but I do want it to be fun.",2.3568438133874245,5.101311110344831,4.17509127789047,80.32109533468562,82.72413793103449,6.446247464503043,25.770791075050717,7.724431198458867,1.9549797160243407,601,25,102,11,17,202,108,145,0.053,0.745,0.201,0.9521,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,0,1,2,1,5,6,0,0,5,1,10,3,0,0,2,17,22,6,0,4,3,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,3,9,5,3,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,8,6,14,20,3,9,0,0,2,0,9,6,0,3,3,58,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754057940460846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25480330417478514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197569586048962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633888581659608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124108759875995,0.0,0.4227384228783581,0.20929237775446294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21943231896872045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294708499069807,0.21119666861665565,0.0,0.0,0.17695162029857225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21169643287292164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23397947948437464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21437786374300027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499254501154034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380534749534117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999291890837864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292027096731581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728641180467226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139962573617678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smellypants,2018/02/05,"What does becoming school-age look like from a financial perspective? I hear generic things from friends regarding the school-age milestone..but I want to know what I can expect, specifically, for planning purposes (would love to upgrade to a bigger home at some point).

We currently have a nanny for our 16mo twins that we pay $15 an hour..which typically comes out to $420 a week..or $21,840 a year.  My wife works in a hospital setting and hours fluctuate, hence the ""typically.""  I'm REALLY curious as to what we can expect from an expenses standpoint once they become school age. 

Colorado doesn't have ""free"" full day Kindergarten..but rather half-day (3 hours) with an optional full-day for an extra $400 a month per child ($800 *is* about half of what we'd pay our nanny a month).  

Past Kindergarten (where there isn't a monthly fee)..do the expenses dramatically decrease or do they simply shift to different things?

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parenting,wifeypoo89,2018/02/05,"Anything to help a very angry child with ADD? TLDR: are there vitamins to help calm angry child? Tried/trying magnesium already. She’s also on Hockey team and practices 2x/week as well as games every weekend.


Backstory: 
We are having a really rough time with our recently diagnosed ADD 10 year old daughter and her 7 year old brother. She’s always targeting and bullying him for no reason at all. Our son is quickly turning into a mean little boy when he normally is pretty sweet and caring. 
 We feel strongly that she is breaking him down more and more each day. I try my best to separate them but it’s just impossible to watch them and keep them apart every minute of the day with a preschooler in the house too. Our son also loves his sister and just wants to hang out with her so he will sneak in her room to play. Literally even being in the same room she lashes out at him and there’s no way for me to stop her (short of a straight jacket and duct tape)  because she has zero impulse or anger control. 
Today, during a tantrum, 7 year old said he was going to kill himself. Naturally me and my husband freaked out and asked why he would say that, and he said it’s because his sister tells him to. I don’t think he really knows exactly what that means but it still scares the absolute shit out of us. 
She sees a counsellor every week and is on medications from a psychiatrist, but I don’t see a lot of difference. 
It’s been suggested that she stay in respite foster care for a few days but I feel that I am her parent and it’s MY job to not give up on her..even though she is hurting everyone else. 



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parenting,throwaway1983198319,2018/02/05,"What to do when you stay home to care for your sick child? This might be a very dumb question, but my paternity leave just ended and I'm not sure what the norm is here. What do you usually do when you need to stay home to take care of your sick child? My workplace allows for working from home. I tried that once and found that it was a struggle to balance taking care of my son and trying to work. So, what is the alternative? Should I just be using a vacation day when I need to stay home? Or should I ask to take an ""unpaid leave"" day? I suspect that it wouldn't make sense to use a sick day since I'm not actually the one whose sick. If it's at all relevant, I'm located in Canada.",2.4092539184952955,3.48706359310345,3.79228840125392,91.35200626959251,75.13793103448276,7.2037617554858935,22.14733542319749,7.686295010490155,0.6069999999999998,531,13,125,7,11,175,82,145,0.187,0.746,0.068,-0.9505,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,5,0,2,7,6,1,1,8,0,12,4,0,4,2,25,28,10,0,6,7,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,4,2,12,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,13,4,16,20,1,13,0,0,0,0,11,2,1,4,8,78,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.11586741508655132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111000414095129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631721759566197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297211367300906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516322589504233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018588078982732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4764001843097258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514446686627069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925597551988978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595818311209933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760797541822605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644800810275367,0.080457341440525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300943569914714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821812626585122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796644577385718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412672669776174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190554308729624,0.0,0.26781994087398703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612254049775075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050963883061484,0.13076890546529554,0.09796811899060202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287976897644672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reddit-lou,2018/02/05,"How do you handle the Monday morning stomach clutching 'I'm don't feel well.. am I going to school?' situation? No fever.. no vomit.. no specific pain.. the strained face and 'I feel sick'. 

 Complicating it all is if I take them to school and tell them to go to nurses office if it gets worse, they do so within a half hour and their mom picks them up and takes them to her place.. where they sit around playing games on their computers all day. 

If it were up to me I would restrict them to bed with a paper book during school. But if I were to do so, ex would claim I am being too strict to lawyers/evaluators/etc.

Thanks",1.7516933333333315,3.7963285360000008,2.915700000000001,92.71168333333335,79.64,5.766666666666668,20.016666666666666,6.816661863887847,0.13898666666666634,477,12,105,5,12,153,81,125,0.122,0.841,0.037000000000000005,-0.8645,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,1,9,0,7,5,0,1,4,0,12,6,2,2,2,20,21,12,0,6,5,2,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,3,6,0,1,2,3,0,2,4,2,1,1,2,2,18,3,15,16,2,13,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,4,3,73,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16876196207826416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222602062278011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142626174915125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19170965472545667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904512472687496,0.0,0.21547970785286305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669320997702546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220279748966518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172118975116687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806554930805134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5755801304595828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309026793785066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28507364772135163,0.0,0.16569692534022068,0.17453521031862074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045071208508447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319314356241693,0.2693373133257187,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Calicuervo,2018/02/05,Are hats and socks necessary if Baby is bundled in blankets? What do you all think of taking a 9 month old from the house <-> car without extra clothes while they’re in the car seat bundled with blankets? What do you guys do? Thank you!,3.58563829787234,5.5758432553191515,3.3031382978723407,92.30875,73.8936170212766,5.5510638297872354,28.77127659574468,5.985473137389443,1.0651319148936171,191,8,38,1,4,57,37,47,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.5158,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,8,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,8,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37963079100821934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423973828286515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30602986014916805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023185878304292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882725121853537,0.0,0.0,0.3529874048023375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456701594455836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36958831190296093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,geelian,2018/02/05,"Child car seat question Hi all,

I have a 11 month old boy and have always used the same car seat, a maxi-cosi pebble plus, and now he is coming to a size that needs to change to the next chair but I can't figure out which one.

I don't mean brand or model, I mean category. I've read so much online about it and I can't figure it out what is the best option. 

I've read about group 1, 2, 3 chairs some that are group 0&1 others that  are group 1&2 and I can't figure out what I should chose or not. Some say from birth to 4 yo, others from birth to 6yo...

From your experience what is the best option in terms of confort, safety and money spent?


Thank you for any help :)",1.1167948717948732,2.760917388888892,2.496666666666666,96.89192307692308,79.9722222222222,4.986324786324786,15.243589743589745,5.369823440869387,-1.0296051282051284,520,6,124,2,13,168,89,144,0.0,0.821,0.179,0.9819,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,2,0,2,4,3,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,1,29,19,10,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,11,10,0,0,6,2,2,3,5,0,0,1,1,1,9,3,17,17,8,14,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,7,7,75,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148486648566406,0.3945143932763244,0.0,0.12380406984424665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821122988320215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19259071447701906,0.1568248030259662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780853377054196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202804973335515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966239001782384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531506518241272,0.0,0.13383183400769713,0.13499194118077673,0.0,0.0,0.19361822552065586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103675630272965,0.0,0.12336560502076442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039439685019336,0.0,0.3642097892378872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447779423889192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676123621153177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572376092594673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tosstossout,2018/02/05,"I feel like my baby isn't mine. I'm using a tossout because my Dh knows my log on. 

I am 32 and DH is 36. This is my first child and my husband's second I have felt like an old mom learning things that 20 year olds are old hat at. 

My DH and in laws will sit around holding the baby and talk about my stepdaughters birth or how DH acted when she was a baby. Apparently he was super protective with her. My SIL said he wouldn't let anyone hold her or do silly things with her. He let's everyone hold our baby without even watching and tells me ""babies are durable"". If I get nervous about someone else he will take the baby and say not to worry. With our baby he is loose and rough. He just says ""it's different with the second"" like I am just a naive first parent. It makes me feel alone. They make comparisons every time they visit and DH is constantly talking about his first baby with them. Since day one they have been making comparisons to my stepdaughter's birth. I delivered my baby and my stepdaughter was a C-section. I'm just so tired of hearing about his ex.The last time I left the room and DH asked why and I told him everyone was reminiscing about things I wasn't there for so I felt left out. I've told him I feel like he is reliving my stepdaughters birth rather than being present with me. 


When I tell him that he will say all the things he missed with his daughter because of his ex or how it was different. It's like I should feel guilty that he and his ex split when his daughter was a toddler so he missed a lot.  It was not my fault. I wasn't there. I swear he never talked about his ex as much as when I was pregnant and gave birth. He knew everything, he was an expert since he had been through it before. I felt like I was getting a lesson or getting scolded instead of learning to breastfeed or change a diaper or even what I could and couldn't eat while pregnant. 


I feel like this baby is his and not mine. I know me not bonding is a problem and I should probably go to counseling. My stepdaughter is fine she is a good kid. He sees her once a month. She's 10 now and I've known her since she was 5 but we aren't close at all, we never had the time and it has always been weird. She usually just ignores me unless she has to talk to me. I hate when she holds the baby and asks DH about when she was a baby. He will then tell her all about it and again I feel like I'm in not a part of his family. They are all a different race from me and I think that's a part of it. I'm the only one that looks like I do, my baby looks more like his side than mine. When she is here I feel like it's DH and his two kids and I'm the outsider. I hate how she is rough with the baby like moving his arms and feet. 



My baby is 4 months old. DH and I have been married 2 years, known each other for 5. When it's just the 3 of us DH is very caring for the baby but still a know it all about every new development. ",1.4850353724511045,3.039948725521672,3.020198858569646,93.95797321800131,78.59871589085074,6.219951251411924,20.36528743832115,7.016131500887134,0.1988882587242133,2268,55,529,25,54,745,236,623,0.048,0.8740000000000001,0.078,0.9119,5,1,0,0,0,0,49,5,0,5,5,39,26,2,1,30,0,59,4,2,7,7,108,103,53,0,8,22,8,12,12,0,7,1,5,1,3,25,39,1,6,20,0,0,4,14,9,0,8,28,21,96,17,47,63,11,56,0,2,4,0,87,12,0,8,51,348,121,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782643625294868,0.0,0.0,0.054491758957167125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045791149767823,0.0,0.0,0.058298735794847414,0.12244599592810215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984248188013059,0.0,0.055725972656567625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676998931474508,0.0,0.06927825223824248,0.0,0.0,0.07076990819895236,0.0,0.052287315917031216,0.0,0.0,0.04223472738360715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20526493625055947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701118406452883,0.05470731955159891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650920147444842,0.0,0.11035393508892824,0.12515432193450626,0.0588569283312223,0.0,0.06173682099621172,0.0,0.2317910167898021,0.23392533421517786,0.1886379695562134,0.0,0.0,0.16711370167787554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026452671048345,0.0,0.03721867890893326,0.054928728149772656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931286295136096,0.0,0.0,0.07381040848148385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797246085005448,0.053381947271202435,0.0,0.0,0.14230710470062768,0.13393305501600467,0.0,0.3839330469492537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998785565415613,0.0,0.0,0.055676063347596005,0.0,0.0,0.13114244124534374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669945340859513,0.10454474679177853,0.06960401464704491,0.04814165407231085,0.0,0.10101768663238606,0.06324929515033781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748770650932996,0.0697432185793343,0.08875353648653429,0.04980702911263688,0.0,0.0,0.07271733701036256,0.14183553765253612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060778403106492,0.06266374298248371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229465256602989,0.15623748276633725,0.0,0.0,0.052185933039800105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251853274854575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548827579191197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229927822745361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04923927485173805,0.21054901469304,0.17171976113814527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403085579570668,0.041962448698658825,0.0,0.0,0.11456078281749578,0.07526950858783478,0.0,0.12515432193450626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397284348708203,0.0,0.07877471889542909,0.05656112126275649,0.07212643753023898,0.05403495111615755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909327276988428,0.0,0.0,0.06312867062426909,0.0,0.0,0.06650684923235392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434501878997655
parenting,m3ckano,2018/02/05,"Parents of younger children, how have you handled your kids interacting with social media? I have no frame of reference as Facebook came around when i was older. My boy is almost 7 and eventually he will be able to use  social media and i'd really like to learn from others mistakes. I don't want to shield him from the world, or expose him to raw social media garble, so how have other parents found a balance? ",5.965822784810129,6.6647007721519005,6.703645569620253,75.14230379746837,66.59493670886076,8.345316455696205,29.7240506329114,8.238735603445708,2.2344815189873417,327,11,56,4,5,108,61,79,0.101,0.863,0.036000000000000004,-0.4747,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,3,0,15,12,8,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,8,1,11,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,3,39,10,1,0.21651141840241747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21680491052043013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274106546448164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24763138335237445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373935949778995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057765426172476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4808206154739911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387027587203087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6621183754062442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699634953341385,0.0,0.0,0.12770404419116632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Noveetus,2018/02/05,"Parents who decided to have three kids, how do you feel about you decision? My wife and I are about to have our second child and we couldn’t be happier! Sure, life is going to be a little chaotic at first, but our son, who will be 21 months old when the new baby is born, will get to experience his life with a sibling! 

Here’s the dilemma, I was an only child and my wife came from a large family with 4 other brothers and sisters. She wants  to have a third child but I’m on the fence. I’m not 100% opposed to having a third kid, I just don’t know if I want to deal with the dynamic. Like I said, I was an only child, so I’m not sure what it would be like to be outnumbered, how much of a financial burden having a third child would be (e.g., bigger vehicle, more food, less experiences like traveling and visiting friends and family since there would be five of us etc.) 

Parents who have 3+ kids, or came from a large family, what have your experiences been like and what advice do you have to offer?????
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parenting,SeekingRefuge206,2018/02/05,"Co-parenting ... why is he such a drama king? By any chance does anyone have tips on coparenting with a terrible man who tries to deliberately hurt me with cruel words, keeping our kid from me, acting worse than middle school girls? 

This is hell. My daughter deserves so much more. ",4.079999999999998,6.777836607843138,4.584078431372549,80.36435294117645,75.07843137254902,7.217254901960787,23.925490196078428,8.238735603445708,1.6276949019607847,221,7,39,4,5,70,47,51,0.29,0.679,0.032,-0.9542,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,7,4,2,3,1,1,0,0,7,2,1,0,0,22,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477920800489763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547841866191733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188729183440079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900781916161338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32387923502010085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678625070020484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687737767730968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473912844783973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287978466074604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37133612556062173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,most1305,2018/02/05,"A fine line, having fun while teaching responsibility Hi All,

Wanted to get thoughts on something that I find to be the greatest battle I have as a parent.  I want my kids to be different, not beaten down by society and the stresses of it.  I want them to enjoy life and do things that they want to do.  I want to raise them to not need to have their noses in a phone or tablet, to have some imagination, etc. 

As you probably know, this is hard to do.  So, if anyone out there is trying to do the same, what are some ideas?  

Personally, my kids, they can be needy, unimaginative and lazy, as they learn from so many others.  I want them to play, have fun and find ways to entertain themselves but I also have to teach them responsibility and... well, I have to teach them that they are going to grow up and deal with assholes in their lives and how to survive in a world that is not fun much of the time.  ",4.911484848484847,5.061176633333336,5.541818181818184,84.47590909090911,68.77777777777777,8.545454545454545,25.808080808080806,8.296473431620573,1.2739444444444443,694,17,153,9,11,225,101,180,0.07200000000000001,0.778,0.15,0.8232,2,0,1,0,0,0,25,0,1,11,2,6,11,2,1,8,0,20,2,1,1,1,34,31,18,0,8,6,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,9,9,0,0,7,2,0,2,3,3,1,0,1,2,22,8,32,27,7,13,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,4,2,118,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490905260751745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795872076053725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392193602350156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625523286979008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881447083027428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30837685558698075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813860655899089,0.0,0.09587590123321067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112175427866836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19044137553099805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927129181353241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915755488534273,0.0,0.0,0.14896488548254386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710349710193268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401365675374425,0.12508865609023673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732100186055314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730203110029144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188676026416964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987323581236215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932448840430858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120765542392443,0.0,0.0,0.13392868159317162,0.09837012507872067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453599154486092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5970205618397229,0.13390593327399852,0.0,0.0,0.15168124924467552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,famRZJ,2018/02/05,"Only child or more? Dear Reddit, I need your advice. My husband and i currently have a 2 year old boy and he is our world and such a great little boy. Having said that, my husband only wants 1 child. I am torn between having 1 child or have another one. One part of me doesn't want to have another one since I personally had a really hard time the first year. I had post partum depressions and it was really hard to deal with and it was definately hard for my husband. The other part of me feels sad that our son woulndt have the chance to have a sister or brother. Deep down a family of 4 just feels right. Do you have any advice for us? Have you been in a situation like use where 1 person is decided on one child and the other is completely torn? If so, what did you end up doing and what was the outcome? And  to the only child out there, how was your childhood really like?",3.4262913622690183,4.485808251396648,5.007932960893856,83.68269445638163,72.63128491620111,8.412720240653202,23.266437473141387,8.841846274778883,1.451963987967341,683,17,143,13,13,231,101,179,0.097,0.825,0.078,0.3296,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,5,0,1,6,6,0,0,12,0,24,0,0,2,0,23,31,14,0,4,5,6,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,9,8,10,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,5,9,6,18,4,16,22,3,19,0,2,0,0,26,10,0,4,10,104,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499857692223996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698368239415886,0.2682511055178684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411196641349465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318703457071516,0.11016932400081723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329094053612973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058285213167053,0.0,0.12935101637657015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880080127997882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102203098152466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437486685619633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498144295331835,0.12820015444355928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484418526961157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422079384589136,0.0,0.34670248301172785,0.2918456212853315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27702971075917915,0.0,0.0,0.22337343073200627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250312119402812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458286662270361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923506421159414,0.12167239514040255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580907734287368,0.14377701935350964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458577507804283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386085851204268,0.110473801721131,0.0,0.0,0.15089012477690691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474063232732372
parenting,cloudiness,2018/02/05,"My daughter (2 yr) doesn't like it when people look at her When people look directly at her, she gets upset and says ""sad"". This happens usually with strangers but sometimes even with mum or myself. It is as if she wants to avoid eye contact. 

I keep telling her that she should be happy when friendly people approach her with a smile. But she just insists and sometimes even walks away.

Any suggestion to make her feel more comfortable with people? Other than going to the nursery 4 times a week, she doesn't really get to see people other than mum and dad.",5.736805929919138,6.707717990566039,5.455336927223723,82.92160377358492,67.20754716981132,7.943935309973044,29.293800539083556,7.957251820313856,1.9062253369272235,441,15,81,5,7,136,72,106,0.053,0.797,0.15,0.9364,0,1,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,3,0,5,1,1,1,0,18,16,11,0,3,5,4,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,6,13,4,14,14,1,12,0,1,4,0,19,3,0,2,7,55,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931847950976028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484997981897345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317786952404492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871759721068599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555957757494974,0.0,0.18334069807354847,0.0,0.09971767961161587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551582599583914,0.18677990470647532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595646906771418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572065087191112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29468358557609386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117120581411874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6082076384462329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124038511852042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953244004118892,0.0,0.0,0.13981850790106876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470678719663187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335934022138528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231184781350043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324385496770813,0.0,0.10349056148160694,0.0,0.14074303058651114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yuumacx,2018/02/05,"How to get my son to overcome his fear of house sounds at night So my wife and I are still very sexually active and now that our son turned 6 recently he is becoming more and more autonomous everyday. He often barges into our room at night without warning and we do not want him to catch us in the action

He was such a good sleeper as a baby and we could do whatever we wanted in the night as long as we woke up early. Nowadays he always can't sleep and wants to either sleep with us or talk

He is still too young to understand the idea of the house expanding and often making random noises at night and they scare him to the point of tears

While we still want to be responsible parents and care to him, at the same time he can't be sleeping with us every night. But everything we tried from night lights to sound makers and it hasn't worked.

What are some tips and tricks I could use to get him to get over his fear? I take him to Colorado Rockies games all the time and he loves the mascot Dinger maybe I should get him a plushie and he won't feel alone in his bed? He has other plushies but I feel this be more of a personal connection",5.021197568389058,4.980148472340428,5.417705167173255,86.11750000000002,68.53191489361701,8.756838905775075,26.57294832826748,8.418075326091056,1.447826747720364,901,23,197,12,14,288,131,235,0.048,0.894,0.057,0.4705,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,11,0,1,1,10,7,1,3,12,0,18,4,3,4,1,49,36,22,0,7,6,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,5,22,0,0,4,1,0,2,6,4,0,0,2,5,28,3,33,27,7,32,0,0,0,1,38,12,0,5,18,131,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012502450954673,0.0,0.0,0.08044044479658885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676874798916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856550315733838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437251540703106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145194606935817,0.0,0.08688428461349497,0.0,0.0,0.2175700711142288,0.09776247610516844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203252993828008,0.0,0.0,0.08108549639500072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22309744512633767,0.0,0.10913308709306113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555337595402772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725198608497023,0.0,0.0645305914592704,0.0,0.09712194525480483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5443315433266571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073449461988355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441193697656474,0.0,0.0,0.0913881010026061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545383194953824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678745758277707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29023120653148743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316117492076438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268675569178604,0.0777028339583633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274267892298373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563524499706659,0.1051534629990299,0.0,0.10064095882065398,0.3488604633769741,0.08349522642765618,0.0,0.07976610749090078,0.2280831280840284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319020787024257,0.0,0.07037976423993708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GrillinChamp,2018/02/05,"18 month old has been randomly crying and acting strange Like the title says. Everything was normal this morning, but he took an unusual short second nap between 4 and 5pm.

We took him to a couple of indoor playgrounds this weekend, so we think he might have caught something, but we don’t see any symptoms other than being unusually calm (very active boy) and randomly starting to cry.

He just woke up crying a ton and refused a binky and milk. We eventually got him to calm down and back to sleep, but we just want to know what’s wrong so we can help him. 

Any similar experiences? Ideas on what it might be?",4.364708097928435,5.960235508474575,5.123333333333335,81.68315442561206,71.03389830508475,7.956308851224105,27.517890772128066,8.515128840125781,1.9758218455743881,482,17,91,8,9,156,86,118,0.14,0.728,0.131,-0.2937,0,0,1,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,5,0,10,3,1,0,0,27,20,11,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,6,12,1,1,3,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,7,2,9,3,11,9,1,13,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,4,6,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194567464829105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407366356941114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785385817291393,0.5317296513060861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501737306684312,0.1578382231630569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905202731804435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815427476587686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215254548407228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886776520623107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883093726989816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34234880575811577,0.0,0.0,0.12879371195149106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580957160351824,0.0,0.0,0.16931715189003532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831765643542364,0.0,0.0,0.1285807318704296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147364793087662,0.0,0.0,0.1242205924396106,0.0,0.0,0.11420939844410127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771182787936675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339112573945802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585473898375389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331365208283155,0.09517260866781854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641867799511218,0.0,0.0
parenting,frostywheeler17,2018/02/05,"Parents of two kids: Is it better than having only one kid? Currently my wife and I have one beautiful daughter of 8 months. I want more but she doesn’t. If you ask people with only one child, they say one child is better. What are the benefits on having two kids? 

Edit: I want another one. Not immediately, but soon. We are almost 40 years old and time is running short. I don’t feel we have the luxury of waiting too long. Sorry, I should have explained this earlier. ",1.0897463768115934,3.667655293478262,3.17608695652174,85.9468115942029,88.45652173913044,6.110144927536233,19.6231884057971,7.492282038375204,0.9418666666666669,365,11,70,7,12,123,65,92,0.016,0.8270000000000001,0.157,0.9034,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,1,1,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,0,0,16,19,5,0,4,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,7,0,2,11,3,6,18,1,10,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,2,7,51,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636298972221068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468162686152556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646523935353286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115351632621148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905370993531862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586441403143755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058069159663372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848127672633468,0.0,0.5967317308527481,0.267900848733178,0.0,0.0,0.19556513056256555,0.0,0.0,0.12210237499108477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400610682961394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715667215743068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269946329241304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440955899478802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077652851967951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341823896557986
parenting,Kitty20996,2018/02/05,"About to graduate, want to get a gift for parents - need ideas Hey everyone. I'm a soon to be college graduate in a couple of months. I really would like to do something special for my parents when I graduate, because they are incredible people and have done so much for me. They paid my tuition and rent so that I can graduate debt free, and they gave me an amazing childhood and are all around fantastic people.

 I am a pretty sentimental person who likes to scrapbook and keep mementos. My initial gift idea was a nice framed photo of my brother and I (twins, so also graduating) and a thank you letter. However, this honestly doesn't feel like enough. So, parents of Reddit, if your child was graduating, what do you think would be an appropriate gift? Or parents whose children have already graduated, do you have any ideas for me? Thank you all! ",5.784223245109326,7.1472959493670905,6.516881472957423,73.92299769850406,67.35443037974684,9.796087456846953,33.98388952819332,10.018931242160765,3.609384810126583,672,31,117,16,11,221,97,158,0.014,0.711,0.275,0.9921,7,0,1,0,0,0,22,0,5,3,0,9,10,0,0,8,0,18,0,0,0,2,22,29,15,0,5,2,5,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,3,5,8,0,1,5,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,20,11,15,20,4,6,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,2,7,86,25,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809083033774462,0.10731809232798524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125924202611073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946467186463458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180585538109435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848753480710936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733114682220754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386624076610287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823194018272413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785454113302472,0.09587107820376137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011291632056632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544796229893319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928134866170467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966870929808212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711556348838504,0.0,0.09865097121501684,0.0995061167802433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5960439921292978,0.0,0.0,0.18607199256022616,0.11717651757373593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652761132206648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597067530632073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331217692554336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471029771491914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598865989243118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915345750693631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906608181198874,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brandydawley,2018/02/05,"My son lost a tooth today. I decided to use up some change I'd gotten in my travels and teach him about international currency. My son lost a tooth today.
I wanted to do something special for him, because he was really brave about pulling it out.
I’ve gotten to do a bit of traveling (mostly for work), and many of my flights have had layovers in different countries. I always try to spend a little money - 10-20 dollars worth- in every airport I’m in so I can get change back in the local currency. I think currency is neat.
I’ve had these coins sitting in a box for a long time, so I put together this little letter for my little guy from “the Tooth Fairy”, with coins from around the world - and I researched and wrote a little bit about the currency or the country of each coin for him.

[Here are the pics.] (https://imgur.com/a/ZACUE)",4.421666666666667,5.853608018518517,5.189814814814816,81.89916666666669,70.66666666666666,8.11604938271605,27.69753086419753,8.59863814320734,2.0143604938271604,657,23,125,11,12,213,96,162,0.03,0.8959999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.7713,1,0,1,0,0,0,29,0,0,0,3,8,5,0,0,13,0,9,3,3,1,0,16,19,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,2,2,11,4,0,2,0,0,8,0,15,3,27,11,5,25,0,2,0,0,9,15,0,3,5,79,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289814509654115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148422124328785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357210271396302,0.0,0.09003648543154286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225000640244494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31249381038710106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431495453824978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444353225222493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716709934089322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462461179473309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5921363900173695,0.0,0.13070975972453727,0.0,0.0,0.32246376713783714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974451168094682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847919002109647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462033516669648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137065955648862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464012921344024,0.0,0.0,0.0861249968712081,0.0,0.28000446178778376,0.0,0.0,0.10027853380838818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756528731688205,0.0,0.0,0.08711722517269252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752728306379199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sadira86,2018/02/05,"Almost 5 year old pooping pants on purpose My son will be 5 in April. He’s been potty trained since he was about 2.5, he basically potty trained himself because I had no intentions of pushing the subject for a while. He’s never had issues with pooping, always has very healthy and regular poops. I think he’s been constipated maybe once his whole life. 
That said, he’s suddenly developed this routine where he will hide away in his room watching videos in his tablet, and he’ll poop himself and then sit in it until I come to check on him and immediately notice the smell. 
The first couple of times it happened I thought it may have been a real accident. Didn’t wanna stop what he was doing or something.. but now I’ve realized that he does it on purpose. He has the whole routine.. goes and lays in the floor in his room watching videos and then poops himself. When it first started happening I kept cool and didn’t make him feel bad because I knew that if it was an accident getting upset wouldn’t help. But now I’m getting pretty frustrated. We’ve had many conversations about it and even today, I suspected he was going to do it because he was pretending to be a “baby” and we had the talk again.. then later in the day he ended up doing it. I’ve been making him clean himself up these last few times (then tossing him in a bath of course) and this time I took away tablet privileges for a while. I also told him that he’s no longer allowed to watch videos in the tablet in his room, he has to stay out with me (in hopes that this will break him of whatever habit/routine he’s starting).
Accidents (other than the occasional peeing a little when he doesn’t want to stop playing) have never been an issue and this has only started within the last few months. These “accidents” have happened maybe 5 or 6 times now and I’m getting pretty fed up. The only thing I can think of is that he’s reaching a phase where he’s learning about his body and this is just one weird way that he’s figuring out about his body.. when I asked him why he does it he doesn’t even try to play it off as an accident, he tells me he “likes” it..but it’s getting old and I’m not sure if I should be concerned or my kid is just being a weird child and it will hopefully pass. Should I be handing it differently? Do I keep doing this and wait it out? ",5.3318571428571415,5.367968431914896,5.844513677811552,83.05750000000002,67.87234042553192,8.756838905775075,30.18996960486323,8.418075326091056,2.0282735562310026,1833,63,378,24,28,593,210,470,0.101,0.809,0.09,-0.469,2,0,1,0,0,0,43,1,0,0,2,19,13,1,1,22,1,47,11,9,4,3,64,81,35,0,9,10,1,2,1,0,9,1,1,5,2,33,23,1,5,9,7,1,5,10,5,0,3,23,8,37,8,48,44,4,79,0,0,3,0,54,31,0,9,40,242,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505893791130247,0.0,0.0,0.0759156907664818,0.07898957701019317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874697394660355,0.0,0.17838019930056268,0.0,0.0792627978321254,0.17360580733261569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089222601169855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177400913443877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050385217493676,0.0,0.061222161204123965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918191178352123,0.0,0.0,0.16614821205554164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840800292929507,0.0,0.0,0.12540107646970158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0479995893517476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149525311425478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838856090960685,0.0,0.053951051684819264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518395334191075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362974900023252,0.0,0.0,0.1885743262188707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816504549723676,0.0,0.08437837258172656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476165628080235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705204665162479,0.046378127566338814,0.09514505475870512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673336495030188,0.096244378855225,0.19074040163461387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757724239936119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643213011186754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080787247107888,0.19922666763785304,0.1010976235735272,0.0643271977212254,0.14439747356417856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19315639511250715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805141326745914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030041148158699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852728806335348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730819483067385,0.0,0.0,0.20157636964965855,0.10118302114470816,0.0,0.1587318880443071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947064204947514,0.0,0.0,0.0763013432159026,0.08297322724374677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306744335794992,0.12165494880150253,0.0,0.07536401879693637,0.2214183808068687,0.0,0.0899827820029739,0.09070992696689166,0.1054710064370434,0.0644514118785497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832740242036852,0.0559923240606046,0.0753512179186378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565978983923386,0.2119724794971542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061131971922341134
parenting,EntireBird,2018/02/05,"What's it like to have a mentally disordered child? My 14 y/o son has a mental illness. To make him feel that he is no different from others, I let him use a smartphone independently. 
On the other hand, however, I'm worried that he may be hurt by unfriendly voices online. He is rather vulnerable. Have you ever have the similar experience with me？What do you do when you are faced with such a case?",2.466153846153848,4.9101552948718,4.702243589743592,78.71567307692307,79.38461538461539,8.515384615384617,26.41666666666667,9.188382445141503,2.63417435897436,315,13,60,9,8,109,61,78,0.184,0.747,0.069,-0.8205,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,12,3,2,3,1,9,16,1,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,7,1,7,13,0,3,0,1,0,0,10,1,0,1,3,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880992087123581,0.3160324564677698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249430925299084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697356156209132,0.0,0.0,0.13942707356699888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951952063474456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819722248380438,0.0,0.13471712344672693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406472260450404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5557806443351005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815876073144165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800366831440414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JordieBelle,2018/02/05,"Sex Ed book - The Amazing True Story of how babies are made - Fiona Katauskas For parents of kindy and early to middle primary kids who want a good book about sex ed - we've found this to be excellent. Factual, straightforward, unashamed, and very inclusive. It covers natural and assisted conception, the development of the baby from fertilized egg to delivery, covers vaginal and caesarean delivery, refers to adoption as a way of making a family, and has a variety of ethnicities represented (as well as a couple that it's very easy to read as lesbian parents, although this is not spelled out in the text). It's pretty frank about the mechanics of hetero sex but hey, I read the whole thing to my daughter in a public library so, y'know. 

Oh and in South Australia at least it's available to borrow from the public library system - just ask your friendly librarian to order it in for you. ",9.403307453416149,8.658798298136652,9.335768633540372,63.97458462732921,59.80745341614907,12.770496894409938,41.24301242236025,11.93303328291395,5.237663975155279,710,34,112,19,8,233,106,161,0.0,0.867,0.133,0.9481,2,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,2,0,1,6,6,0,0,13,0,4,5,0,3,2,18,9,14,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,10,7,1,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,4,6,30,6,2,12,0,0,0,4,12,8,0,0,1,76,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19367836078077785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22923247753206544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953038349638408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271539993226204,0.16006099224062864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173766499217625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385661119908096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603166871414354,0.13828928068338905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4600811819368965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076895535741452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144572121954085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376362314680339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418780884657733,0.12219573308368603,0.16444392096228164,0.0,0.0,0.18627299591880694,0.0,0.0,0.2313007448814376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ayeeeray,2018/02/05,"I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m terrified of a miscarriage. I’m looking for some encouraging words. I’ve taken 5 pregnancy tests and they’re all positive. I think I’m only around 4 weeks and I’m terrified of miscarriage. 

I’ve taken pre natal vitamins since I found out. Have any of you mamas found our early and been okay?",0.4788059701492564,2.951552179104482,3.225985074626866,83.86733582089553,94.3731343283582,7.456119402985076,21.62537313432836,8.238735603445708,2.0024041791044773,264,10,51,8,10,92,42,67,0.123,0.74,0.13699999999999998,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,15,14,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,5,2,7,8,2,5,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,2,22,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502143886963362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291151920575301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8465836635620141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161272309649732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19574261577667645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21290035616222291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491325861044145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064478848987432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MRAGGGAN,2018/02/05,"Parents of working teens, have your kids physically fill out a 1040EZ to help them understand the tax refund process better After I’d worked my first job, my mother made me do my very first tax return form as paper. 

It taught me quite a bit about doing my taxes, and understanding the way it worked. 

If they have a bank account, they can still have the money wired there, or you can have them ask for a mailed check. (Teach them delayed gratification, two birds one stone!)

Even if you don’t have them file through the mail, actually filling out the form is a great tool to understanding how the process works, and if they have any questions, the form has answers on it!

I’m very grateful for my mom making me do this, because I’ve been able to fill everything out, year after year, with minimal questions. ",10.960392156862746,7.557504875816996,9.471339869281053,72.57602941176474,59.065359477124176,12.291503267973855,39.22549019607843,9.725611199111238,3.530364705882352,638,21,124,8,6,196,99,153,0.012,0.884,0.104,0.9358,2,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,3,7,8,5,2,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,3,0,20,23,8,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,1,6,0,8,3,1,0,0,4,3,0,18,2,16,20,4,17,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,6,9,82,22,11,0.14461578804567038,0.0,0.14112414805435305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834369495773464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351962401263036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815644211742486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790091244903448,0.15788298538515047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551736410018503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997134541560512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460202308692753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943941685893226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693291435703187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350885505316532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683895531228435,0.09653216148048284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937226312689574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799540066575796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605787185000472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324005558978093,0.15381669169577966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549035514110127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126861142475305,0.4516504065156993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386463410564328,0.0,0.11478928123979668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211280642518835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18625565217310905
parenting,Happy010101,2018/02/05,"How and what to discuss regarding sex with 13 year old boy? I am a Dad of a 13 yr old boy. My  only discussion regarding sex with him so far has been like this. 

I was doing dishes, he was watching tv. My wife was out of the house. I gathered courage to broach the topic.

Me:  do you realize your body will change as u are growing into adolescent
My son: ya, so....
Me: it can be a difficult time - sometimes confusing given there are many sources of info for you
My son : really, do we have to talk about it
Me: No. I want you to know that I am there for you if you ever want to have a chat
My son: yup ! 

End of story.  I grew up in India. I never talked to my Dad growing up. I would like to know kind of conversation I should be having with my son?

What are some of the most helpful conversations u have had as a parent or young adolescent? What was it about ? How did you go about it - like setting a date and time for it or spontaneously, inside house or outside, with Mom or without? Any help on the topic will be appreciated. . 

I want him to grow up enjoying his sexuality as well as balancing it with studies. He is going to high school next year? Should I set sexual boundaries? When should I talk about it? Should I talk to him about masturbation? I want him to be guilt free about it. I fear if he has not got started on it - would it not be confusing for him? Would love to get your inputs.  ",0.4721818181818165,2.7247441543859665,2.7248484848484864,90.9090909090909,86.40350877192982,6.121212121212123,19.86443381180224,7.463857097105799,0.6074912280701752,1064,32,236,19,33,361,144,285,0.054000000000000006,0.81,0.135,0.9678,1,0,0,0,0,0,43,1,9,0,0,15,14,0,4,10,1,37,5,1,2,2,42,50,17,0,13,9,9,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,2,15,10,1,0,4,2,1,6,5,5,1,0,9,1,41,10,46,27,2,32,0,0,1,3,43,10,0,10,17,172,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790995728313875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359297154046155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675351306385755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449735707862572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693467564962888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546787361843502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753971808108768,0.0,0.1469374566462489,0.0,0.10339129136515464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329770584924767,0.13658384235542328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983269783939637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346177592970952,0.14208993306795126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946852459218952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667377612890653,0.0,0.0,0.13106235934103233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514027759769758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970317583255142,0.0,0.13748312116210265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713001778893103,0.0,0.0,0.09831781239231388,0.0,0.0,0.14354217919091994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281548505102503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083100540121004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785413426431222,0.0,0.0914999743636112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41561841560882656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076005339320614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049938576634948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623179911876598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461439490753175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754951280171493,0.0,0.0,0.16649492815292466
parenting,eeveeyeee,2018/02/06,"Baby doesn't need a dad but I want him to have on. I kind of need some advice here. My ex and I hit a rough patch just before christmas. I could sense it coming and, as a result, I got clingy. For about ten days over christmas, he wouldn't answer my calls and only rarely texted. To add some context, I was on the other side of the country and had just suffered the traumatic death of a friend, plus a few other problems. Of course, I didn't respond well to the situation and I recognise that I came on too strong when he was giving all of the signals that he was pulling away. He never broke up with me, just stopped talking, and I started to move on.

A few weeks later, I realised that I was pregnant. I spent a day or two trying to contact him and then wrote him an email about the baby. I said that I'm keeping it and that I want him to be as involved as he feels comfortable being. A few weeks later and still no reply. A few people suggested that he might not believe me (think that I'm being manipulative somehow).

I don't want him back but I want my baby to have a father and I legitimately think that he'd be a very good dad. He's loving, compassionate, considerate, etc. and a good person. So I've sent him a letter outlining everything and with a copy of the ultrasound. He received the letter a few days ago and his lack of contact is killing me now. My baby deserves the best and I genuinely feel that he would be the best possible father for our kid. Does anybody know of any way to entice a response from him without overwhelming him with phone calls? I want him to engage in co-parenting.",2.9933538461538483,4.519392535384618,4.3526923076923065,86.1198076923077,74.41538461538462,6.8461538461538485,25.42307692307693,7.468242284971852,1.1983846153846156,1254,42,257,15,26,415,169,325,0.099,0.72,0.181,0.9811,1,0,0,0,0,0,36,1,0,0,3,14,17,1,1,27,0,21,1,0,2,2,59,47,24,2,12,8,5,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,2,13,21,0,2,7,0,1,6,8,5,1,2,12,4,39,12,38,24,12,32,0,3,0,1,48,9,0,5,16,184,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093203390063277,0.10970141329099717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415769954276059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162719733626883,0.09516001915810032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530645983978357,0.13942959866341864,0.2597466470783652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527355508599622,0.14154284514554336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660404517004823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880836298149366,0.0,0.0,0.2394353697768177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829890628067758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380196296744208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122308798094004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514857582645988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095612869411087,0.0,0.0,0.11871715139632825,0.0,0.2075997826221057,0.09897824436453907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999920313665164,0.1369166624575218,0.1288718740194126,0.06801255662467008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116937932793095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312845852112275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153206707201168,0.0,0.18352565050370612,0.09544754854276624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412131652350213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579619168174712,0.10805816419794496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951526047884144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841690004163115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771942266681565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139105897369078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759448404532487,0.0,0.09883096839333363,0.10346478998714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946964719989276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859451914451236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402157722117473,0.0,0.12089073285498225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211090337940806,0.3649697689102813,0.0982310238135757,0.1985377240726283,0.0,0.11127068115897916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929548289454628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791205958800047,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tacos7777777,2018/02/06,"4 y/o won't stop pooping in her room I'm writing this partly for advice and partly as a way to calm myself, as I am beyond frustrated at this point, so sorry if this post sounds like rambling at any point. 

My daughter is about to be 4 this month, and has been consistently pooping anywhere but the potty, although I've had her in underwear for about a year and a half now. She pees in the potty regularly, besides the nighttime accidents (which are becoming more rare thankfully), but I absolutely cannot figure out how to encourage her to go poop in the potty. She will hold it and wait until she's out of adult eyesight to go and wipes it on things like the bed, wall, her/sister's toys, etc. I'm sure she's doing this as a way to get attention or as a means of protest, but I'm not really sure what to do or how to fix this problem. My middle child used to do the same thing (pooping in room and wiping it), but that only lasted a year while she was still potty training, and this seems like more of a behavioral issue.

Has anyone out there had a similar problem? How did you end up solving it? My husband is understandably unhappy with this situation, and it's been causing some issues between us too. Please give this tired, frustrated mom some sort of advice. I just need help and don't know where else to turn. I'm sick of wiping poop off things.

EDIT: I thought it would be important to add that she's speech delayed, and usually comminates by signaling. I'm unsure if it's related.",5.89020923805764,5.675576248322152,6.729020923805766,78.04063363600476,66.71812080536913,9.964784840110543,31.623371496249515,9.627879704456738,2.76665590209238,1174,42,232,22,17,391,169,298,0.124,0.77,0.106,-0.8277,0,0,0,0,0,0,36,1,1,0,0,13,13,3,0,14,0,22,8,6,5,2,52,41,29,0,6,10,3,0,3,0,3,2,2,3,2,23,15,0,4,7,1,0,2,4,5,0,1,7,2,19,8,42,29,8,38,0,0,0,0,20,21,0,8,15,160,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436787526382103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478912736360532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718167604556143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377032464472929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808440858964615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415715339430001,0.0,0.11043266647108048,0.0,0.1390551788217075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651420377788958,0.11960787574609485,0.14172113274877712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357279258905267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26027458077322035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852284885761988,0.10163377983029992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827423349928394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581699870598132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602793190046764,0.09952126440675957,0.0,0.0,0.09245131366227943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948275004865901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700403889849589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686515712050154,0.23573261711357024,0.0,0.11941242839423792,0.0,0.0,0.2386107432637609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987551042772392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350727171281025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401495966873772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957308842693386,0.0,0.0,0.09957248846034628,0.10424107721018304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23502564534029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479191222864993,0.0,0.0,0.24850274183180499,0.0,0.0,0.09898485552050212,0.0,0.1433054628915292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561995905030028,0.0,0.12980003059115575,0.1499790256008671,0.10768660266679707,0.13732137635688518,0.0,0.0,0.1979360850983025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885716560421956,0.0,0.0,0.16058430813570984
parenting,Suckatpickingnames,2018/02/06,"Funny milestone(?) I came home from grocery shopping today and my partner was so excited to tell me what happened while I was gone. For some back story, we raise a 3 year old together. He’s not her biological father but has been more of a father to her than my ex husband. I also recently had a conversation with my boyfriend about the “parent tax” and things parents do when we have treats that we don’t want to share. He is relatively new to parenting having only been in my child’s life for a year, so I enlighten him every now and then. Lol

Anyway, I put the toddler in the bath and he was almost prancing around waiting to tell me. Once the little one was out of ear shot he says “I did the ultimate parenting move today! I put skittles in my pocket and ate them while I was on the toilet!” 
TMI...sorry y’all. Haha but he’s adorable when he gets excited about stuff. And he feels proud to be diving into the parenting pool after thinking he would never be a father. ",2.793620847302652,4.746879937823838,4.489460530326124,83.09622066443158,76.04663212435233,7.028223102712588,24.824443767144164,7.928766900206844,1.4998957025297162,760,26,146,12,17,256,124,193,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.9886,5,0,0,0,0,0,20,3,1,1,1,11,7,0,0,12,2,18,3,1,0,1,26,27,16,0,2,3,10,1,0,1,1,1,2,2,2,4,14,1,1,3,3,2,5,3,0,0,1,12,3,23,7,23,12,2,29,0,0,0,0,33,8,0,2,16,104,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532208311763007,0.0,0.0,0.10008435521388392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141219895959957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623449554768584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431410420203356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054463223299351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328083038298488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538698060959669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106718829143786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553809430375973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839886441318005,0.0,0.1254356162892093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301722966227394,0.0,0.0,0.09652527150100387,0.12087299937585748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132642521346144,0.1332832562919896,0.08480652736795526,0.09518406465297853,0.0,0.0,0.6948348286076221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25162552439477703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357292878929715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952623773389284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14009790202710087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326959298434638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21877748499318075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314571519719953,0.08019262544043307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372597450195469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738181473941972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890469739138518,0.0,0.0,0.16118812675026425
parenting,gdwright07,2018/02/06,"Grandparents Cat Has Passed Our 3.5 year old daughter never had a close relationship with her but will inevitably inquire as to her whereabouts. Want to get ahead of it, what’s the right message for a girl her age?",8.940750000000003,8.150187575,7.255000000000003,78.67000000000004,60.75,10.0,37.5,8.841846274778883,3.09025,173,7,32,2,2,51,36,40,0.0,0.961,0.039,0.1154,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,7,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,5,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24324170313638704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590771621003768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4885385903726432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4998491655804481,0.0,0.3975952068236925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27460591890218083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998125476246849
parenting,danieljay691,2018/02/06,"I'm really frustrated with my 2 year Olds eating. Meal times have always been a nightmare. Even if we give her things she loves it's a struggle to get her to eat. 
She snacks very little through out the day, when she does snack she snacks on peanuts and other nuts. I cannot for the life of me get her to eat any vegetables.
She eats what we eat, always. But she will pick out any hint of anything that looks close to a veggie bit. 
She's 2 now, which I think is old enough to feed herself. And she can feed herself but she basically refuses to put food to her own mouth. My wife will always feed her.. mealtimes can take up to an hour. In that hour she might take 4 bites. 

It's really frustrating. I don't want her to be 15 years old and still having mom give her bites. My wife says she feeds her because she wants to make sure she's eating but how is she going to learn to be independent if people always feed her?

I told my wife if she doesn't eat dinner then she isn't hungry enough for milk before bed. But my wife gives her milk anyway.

Maybe I'm absolutely wrong. I just wanted to put my frustrations out there for people to see them and maybe get relief. 

I'm just tired of fighting every single meal time since she was able to eat what we eat. I could cry from the frustration",1.7502264150943423,3.729188852830191,2.7485283018867928,94.23675471698117,79.33962264150944,5.900377358490566,17.769811320754712,6.918507183188421,-0.14596301886792418,1006,19,225,11,25,319,142,265,0.131,0.835,0.035,-0.9781,0,0,0,0,2,0,24,3,0,1,0,9,10,5,1,7,0,18,28,1,4,1,34,39,14,0,7,9,5,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,9,12,24,1,2,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,3,3,46,3,30,30,5,25,0,0,2,1,46,8,0,4,14,135,55,1,0.07624671774440753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25377350864222337,0.0,0.0,0.10370076535511437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274455206225997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046479291440542914,0.0,0.06488034096437323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324166805013232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087679986701981,0.0,0.08375343917218954,0.04917282521156378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672401651569472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7021748453983319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756648292473624,0.0,0.050360237970259805,0.0,0.06424114819363455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219783374941054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950728916269435,0.21942839800991049,0.043332766800446745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017531649310326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05385531162620684,0.0,0.076419241911364,0.0,0.0,0.06402803967873757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881563963493993,0.0,0.05089527615985842,0.0,0.1532001524593443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088571835792384,0.0,0.0892992343013725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24002431258287305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571974745377437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329802163576156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976911995917159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063445026951704,0.0,0.0,0.060758762346468265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307207283001459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089072728258434,0.0,0.0,0.07970962432373882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186162913126425,0.0,0.1146560854453832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050654931282820725,0.04885581802309085,0.0,0.0,0.08892014855325149,0.08763438570190643,0.0,0.07285700628608682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291152734139603,0.13491686882996953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336381644323361,0.0,0.09820077276112288
parenting,VividLotus,2018/02/06,"A weird problem: how to get toddler to hold your hand while walking This seems like it should be such a simple issue, but I'm kind of at a loss. The basic question: how do you get a young toddler to walk while holding your hand?

I have a seriously wild-child toddler who does not like to sit still and hates to be carried or be in a stroller. I was all set to babywear for ages (even foolishly ""thought ahead"" and bought a toddler sized SSC...ha) but she hated being worn/carried pretty much from the moment she even learned to crawl. So it didn't surprise me that she's not fond of holding my hand while we walk. She wants freedom to run, and if you hold onto her hand firmly, she will simply go limp and flop down, forcing you to stop and/or let go, if that makes sense.

This is a fairly big problem because we're just about to move to a busy downtown area of a big city, and I really need to get her to hold my hand while we walk so we can safely go places. She is just 2, so reasoning with her about this and/or setting boundaries has not worked. I can obviously strap her into my running stroller if absolutely needed, but it's not ideal, and given that she already weighs 1/3 of what I do, I can't really carry her for miles even if she liked that.

Anyone else had this problem, and any tips?",5.478225602027884,5.159195479087456,5.650281368821293,85.78163244613435,67.59315589353612,8.077972116603299,29.700633713561484,7.03164865440522,1.4764972877059568,1013,32,215,7,15,321,149,263,0.14800000000000002,0.71,0.14300000000000002,0.4966,0,0,0,0,0,0,35,3,5,0,4,14,16,2,0,12,0,19,6,5,4,2,51,36,24,0,12,14,0,6,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,13,12,1,7,5,0,1,10,6,8,0,0,6,6,31,8,29,23,2,33,0,1,0,0,23,10,0,7,13,141,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284821312523648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035330655667084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031850395724202,0.15120387760370113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995788153533839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914033297945468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327659299787758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924076624887011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23129919213289785,0.0,0.2516039153105149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291391523220394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402573186792462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367243579931336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090129481300638,0.0,0.2162871365071974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850475516292416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568445658641538,0.10848162812508744,0.21884397941097428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418023407896947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501327090634094,0.0,0.4236164083357732,0.0,0.0,0.16531323741785434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907545893117916,0.15172751470836068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434305068100455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785035145155685,0.1233759221534496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715485062039376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704116985698053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743340930409798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wickedb84,2018/02/06,"Adult time We have a toddler, a demanding toddler. It's taking a toll on my husband and i's relationship. What do you do to stay close? With or without the kid. How do you guys make it work? I feel like my cup is empty.",-1.2371124620060776,0.8099195744680827,1.5902735562310042,95.62000000000002,97.93617021276596,4.387841945288755,19.480243161094226,6.18269132825596,0.013373252279635041,168,6,39,2,7,58,37,47,0.091,0.853,0.056,-0.1431,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,9,8,3,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,4,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,2,26,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189973845733587,0.26841235850801104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720189814122532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835563881002137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250794069777708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033795379585056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004644187461828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824924871545119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908365199614574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621778596274,0.0,0.27352651052129345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fmpundit,2018/02/06,"1yo started Nursery onto day 2. Time together now is full of anxiety for LO My SO has started back at work after over a year with the LO. We have really been the only caregivers for this year. Odd days I would take her by myself for the day, but apart from a few nursery taster sessions for an hour, she has never spent long periods of time without us. 

This has been a massive shift for our LO. Her whole sleep times have been shifted and because everything is new she has only slept 30 minute of nap and then today for an hour. She is used to 2 x hour naps. So she’s coming back to us really tired at 6pm.  

She has also been breast-fed. Still is. But feeds are only going to be in the morning and evenings. Will she adapt to the change in breast feeding? She’s eating plenty of solids through the day. 

From all reports she’s great in the nursery. Which I’d expect. But now when she’s with us, she’s massively clingy. Anytime we need to put her down to get dressed, Bath or for us to even go the loo she’s full of hard tears and clinging on to us. This evening I bathed her standing up as she held tightly to my shirt and head in my shoulder. 

I am going to be off every week for one day to take care of her. And I’m worried that she’s going in for 4 days this week. But next week is a school holiday so we will have her with us all week and that it will set back any settling down when we return the week after. 

I am looking for assurance and strategies to deal with the anxiety. Are we doing the right thing to think if we persevere that she will settle down?  Do we just ride out the clingy phase?",1.899459013008468,3.565253562874254,3.0334606648771434,93.82763473053892,77.74251497005989,5.9242618211852145,22.29568449308281,6.647476241863616,0.3543953334709893,1246,36,279,11,29,400,170,334,0.048,0.901,0.051,0.7228,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,14,0,0,2,16,3,0,0,18,0,30,10,6,1,4,40,49,22,0,4,8,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,10,21,3,2,1,5,1,7,2,0,0,1,7,3,42,3,57,35,6,68,0,0,1,1,35,20,0,2,39,196,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456156631308359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05490071131476944,0.0,0.12351992954855998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623439455538934,0.0,0.049213641823260316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231192872015487,0.0,0.08540403583428215,0.06954370117844927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123938079600921,0.08323142434739393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826092659708513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599687067157389,0.0,0.06802041854619953,0.0,0.07255695768723115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04217927842585705,0.0,0.1835280356849728,0.0,0.0,0.08900761152943626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232025554724046,0.0,0.08285459920482459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385150679213973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714455175261006,0.06779477297810728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05986195447298188,0.062265702802229435,0.0779717284283726,0.0858596839179874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470627480936245,0.1842015854199047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115822869898573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034383175169846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894491657131488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170536626947636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079057283104404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428543098175115,0.0,0.06447289427112507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140123799400825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363493219176073,0.05172997811824419,0.0,0.0,0.14122690577271751,0.09278986696370116,0.07652475118998345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5826658754823753,0.06972675942429607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323792782289174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013469516927966,0.0,0.07782302633191325,0.0,0.05877405331367904,0.0819875379582649,0.0,0.057349887541487614,0.0,0.0,0.10397786858725036
parenting,snes_chamers,2018/02/06,"Anyone else frustrated with the lack of regulation on children's products being sold by Amazon? Amazon has been mostly great.

Unfortunately, however, Amazon has created an opportunity for US-based entrepreneurs to use an all-American face to sell Chinese products and, even in some of the best cases, there is an disconcerting lack of transparency about materials used and product origin. 

Chinese factories compete with one another for American sellers and some sell their own products directly on Amazon. Aside from the cases of fake reviews, the bigger problem is the mysterious companies with no US-based manufacturing and little to no information about the type of chemicals used in the products.

There are Chinese manufacturers still being caught making fraudulent claims about ""recycled"" materials, ""organic"" foods, and other [products](https://www.ceramicindustry.com/articles/95272-materials-substitution-fraud-a-cautionary-tale-for-ceramic-manufacturers)

There are companies that will put any sticker (non-toxic, BPA Free, etc.) a seller requests on their packages just to win a contract. 

There are long lists of [blacklisted companies](https://mashable.com/2017/01/17/chinese-factory-produces-toxic-food/#Xco3Lh.2vaqt) who've been caught and there's very little authorities can do when those who run the companies simply open up shop with another name.

So I encourage all of you to examine closer for yourselves. Don't buy products from unknown or, at best, vague origins. 

If these companies want to sell their products in the US, force them to be transparent.",12.12175,14.248182675000002,10.464166666666667,48.537500000000016,53.5,13.4,43.91666666666667,12.688352899677879,6.7362416666666665,1302,67,152,42,15,403,150,240,0.099,0.758,0.142,0.8977,2,0,0,0,0,0,72,1,1,4,5,13,10,1,0,14,0,16,2,1,6,1,31,24,10,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,11,1,0,2,1,9,4,3,3,0,1,5,0,7,8,35,15,10,22,0,0,0,0,12,13,0,5,5,108,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687030013100953,0.29874068775612106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960375094133857,0.14595597800428736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989831684707583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899797796985385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886844606224798,0.09408631363794527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445001315525525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705067996962807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855429224418144,0.0,0.12606300647158986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508590722494503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652722401807523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630458900303116,0.0,0.1432007306261779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376006737964718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5140463291127775,0.36909096171093697,0.0,0.11753545915291908,0.08402019362499417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhannosh619,2018/02/06,"Cry it out help Hi all,

Got a 12 month old girl here. So after about 5 nights of my baby standing up crying everytime I put her down, she finally stays down (still cries) but it varies, sometimes 5 mins, sometimes 2 mins, sometimes 8 mins of crying before she doses off.

The problem is, she does not stay asleep. She always wakes up after 1.5-2 hours and then by that time my wife and I get in bed and bring her with us which she falls asleep again immediately after the boob.

We are trying to get away from the demanding of the boob, we had my wife sleep in another room and I would pick her up and put her in bed with me and she would fall back asleep with me after about 5 mins of whining but she woke up at least 4 times looking for Mom. I know putting her in bed with us after the initial cry to sleep is not good, but if we do the crib thing again it will be another 15-30 mins before she falls asleep and by that time we are exhausted. 

Basically,
How do we get her to stay asleep all night ? ",5.567641633728591,4.584049830917877,5.8292841458058895,86.78671936758896,67.59903381642512,9.07316644707949,27.03074220465525,8.00094639256281,1.2725111111111105,773,17,178,8,11,247,112,207,0.127,0.8640000000000001,0.009000000000000001,-0.9755,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,7,0,11,12,10,2,2,31,19,14,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,4,1,7,17,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,3,0,0,3,1,30,1,36,12,3,50,0,1,1,2,27,15,2,1,24,115,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324905635861081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982088944817626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399963784409468,0.07693175818213986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702692196804131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5494974487430014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755384186643578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959914934415023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681493476604166,0.0,0.0,0.0839166302016719,0.08001858793338938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706095615527924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852843548009696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05498449460066991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401623813715489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717656470780816,0.07985841973376742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777903513072947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049849404826006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573369571884877,0.0,0.3017316278070097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024316648724785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968540333579072,0.0,0.0,0.3199178175896547,0.07989952323055452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066468328420368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501870462204816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792692685488153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406940476307292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214434526923306,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BonusHitops,2018/02/06,"When Is A Good Time To Introduce Video Games To Kids? I saw this video today on YT and was wondering when everyone thought was a good time to introduce video games to kids?

The girl in the vid looks about 12, but was wondering - is that too early? 

Thoughts?

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parenting,jwad1246,2018/02/06,"Who to take over my kids if we die? Having a hard time with this. Close friends each already have two kids of their own, and I don't want my two added on as a burden, and as second-rate children. 

MIL and FIL are our real only family option, and they can definitely financially afford it (we are getting term life insurance too), but I fear that FIL will die much sooner than MIL (no real reason other than overall doesn't take care of himself at all) and MIL is a stepmother to my Husband, while she's good with our kids, I'm not comfortable with just her solo raising them, they aren't related to her at all, and she has other grandchildren that are so I would think she prefers them, and it's complicated.  I think she just really would not want that burden, especially if her husband is gone. Also, their parenting values differ from ours. 

My brother is another option, he's 29, single, rents a room, decent job and still in school, so he'd have to really step it up and use our term life insurance to raise the kids, and his life would obviously drastically change and I don't really want to do that to him, but he would love the role and take it seriously. 

Our option we're really resting on now is a close BFF. No kids, 40, lives with long term BF, and she said she'd be honored. I think she's our best option. I know she'd do her best and honor our wishes for how they are raised. But the thought of giving our kids to someone that's not family feels ""wrong"". The kids obviously know my brother and the In Laws much more than my BFF, she sees them, but not as much. And I would likely be shocking the family with this choice, her over them. And would my kids be shocked? Upset? Scared? They are only 2 and 7 months now. 

I want what is best for my kids. Want them in a loving home with someone who will make them a priority, raise them as we would. I'm losing a lot of sleep over this. 
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parenting,failingmom,2018/02/06,"4 year old troubles So our 4 year old just started pre-k this year and has gotten in trouble so many times we have lost count. She wont listen or follow instructions from any of her teachers. She is constantly doing things to get attention it seems. We are at a loss on what to do at home. We have already taken her iPad, TV privileges, and other things away. We are needing some guidance not criticism from other parents that are dealing with this. Please help!  ",2.3892134831460647,5.054843932584273,3.1281910112359554,88.48689325842697,81.58426966292134,5.807191011235956,24.630337078651685,7.1686216300943375,1.2419564044943825,366,14,68,5,10,115,69,89,0.106,0.784,0.11,0.0831,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,19,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,9,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,1,9,1,11,15,1,14,0,2,0,0,13,5,0,3,8,48,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860940197884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087787000080051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19463635575973148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22386948952757071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135758444360853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823406037012316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885691923063806,0.0,0.20780127100148035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261427676929576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21003065627453715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536086589459154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4347652117357471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002987471100295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274026447963823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18859331574353028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663096072219092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27525963958794475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079834787563627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002183296809392
parenting,potterhead_forlife,2018/02/06,"Looking for some tips/guidance on preparing food without having to freeze it I am a first time mom and looking for some tips. I have a 10 1/2 month old daughter and I am having a hard time with cooking things for her everyday. I have spent awhile freezing her food in ice trays. Although it was easy and convenient, it is becoming to be a lot of work now that she is older. I have been trying to cook things everyday for her lunch and dinner but I am not good at portion sizes and its hard for me to cook for one little girl. I really want to stop using ice trays and all that and was wondering has anyone did this method and how did you transition into cooking good meals everyday? Any good infant recipe sites you know about that I could use? Thanks a lot!",5.642928623988228,5.7604226821192075,5.722869757174398,83.91548933039002,67.21192052980132,9.09521707137601,28.698307579102288,8.841846274778883,1.9876616629874908,599,18,122,9,9,189,93,151,0.12,0.831,0.048,-0.8383,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,0,2,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,0,18,9,0,3,1,26,27,11,0,2,3,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,10,9,1,2,4,1,0,2,0,0,2,6,6,15,4,19,19,6,17,0,0,2,0,10,6,0,5,11,87,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617752608531196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917360480421873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724394447296254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466152942528945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328088165279095,0.37759944642316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928772671025296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27973356395467314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580801334137543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648883638761782,0.0,0.0,0.2622290714981793,0.0,0.0,0.2654817172219727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286406560189866,0.12462590400626845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383799176476818,0.0,0.10580148747615037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002442949610567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305363085903872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374863421783496,0.0,0.0,0.20745903925447276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820877861449081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600578741577253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697019634288707,0.0,0.0,0.0920927909611692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505090956111475,0.1693223404397576,0.11366853779131005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shleytothed,2018/02/06,"Potty Training I am sure this has been asked a thousand times however I have tried everything. I have researched, tried rewards, tried a more hard line approach. Our son will be 3 at the beginning of April and is nowhere even close to being potty trained. He doesn't tell us he has to Potty, that he has gone Potty, or anything of the sort. I sincerely do not think he even knows when he has to pee (as we do the no diaper and he legitimately just pees all over our house). He is pretty intelligent for his age so I am not understanding what the catch is but I'm starting to worry as we have made zero headway in over a year. He was 12 weeks premature but he has caught up cognitively so I don't think that would make much difference. All of his cousins who are the same age are potty trained and his cousin who is a year younger than him is showing more progress. What gives? Any advice?",2.7017584745762697,4.745068141242939,3.5910416666666656,89.0201218220339,76.62711864406779,6.910875706214689,25.18679378531073,7.8658589789855275,1.2933505649717518,699,25,147,11,16,223,109,177,0.039,0.879,0.08199999999999999,0.7617,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,9,0,27,2,2,2,3,24,40,11,0,1,6,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,4,1,0,4,5,0,0,2,5,1,15,3,16,31,6,20,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,2,10,97,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862132343184835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958747917476815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681481820996546,0.0,0.17814807506880656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990948635218757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25172644644847103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126323171607322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828027199869304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070452067386466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198809002681328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472690927992856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803126807412377,0.12720042165309733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400836824202305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938682438751474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487949930571205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960074521385094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665580251177212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24420657953500086,0.0,0.0,0.11111719242767842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881336270193988,0.0,0.0,0.19837990181198206,0.22922047273064386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285590815487518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352314593597875,0.0,0.1353685076109115,0.0,0.0,0.24542905834012824
parenting,readerbeedj,2018/02/06,"Freedom to move around and choose activities Hello, I just visited a Montessori school with my daughter and her nearly two year old. The school was well designed and kept. Everything looked good - a good place to be - except I thought, in my brief time peering through windows, that too many of the 4-5 year olds were doing pencil on paper tasks of some sort. Maybe that's what they like but I doubt it. (I don't think they were drawing pictures.) But I think there should have been more building, playing, painting, puzzles, graduated object manipulation, etc. What do you think? Am I right to think that maybe this ""Montessori School"" has numbers of students feeling compelled to do activities/work not of their own choosing? Any comments?

I thought Montessori Schools were all about freedom and child-centered activity. Any comments on that?

Thanks, Pop Pop
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parenting,bassistmuzikman,2018/02/06,"Not sure if this is a behavioral issue or not... My son (3.5) is having a really hard time with sharing anything (toys, food, books, etc) with his little sister (1.5). He has literally hundreds of toys to choose from, but only wants the one that is currently in his sister's hands at that very moment. If he doesn't get it, he has a meltdown and can't seem to handle that she has it and he doesn't. 

Additionally, he will occasionally have similar meltdowns if, say, he drops a goldfish cracker and we throw it away. He cries because he wants THAT cracker and not the entire other cup full of them sitting in front of him. 

I have no basis for comparison, so I don't know if this is just normal 3 year old behavior, or if we need to work on something with him. We've been trying desperately to reward sharing and, in general, being nice to his sister, but it's been an uphill battle to say the least. Have any of you had this experience? Are there good ways to teach him some coping skills around this sort of thing, or is this just a lesson he'll have to learn with time? ",5.886971830985915,5.554822169014088,6.67803990610329,78.79903169014088,66.74647887323943,9.353521126760565,28.5481220657277,8.841846274778883,1.988950234741785,834,23,169,12,12,277,129,213,0.07200000000000001,0.843,0.084,0.679,1,0,1,0,0,0,34,2,1,1,4,5,7,1,0,9,0,23,2,1,0,1,41,30,16,0,9,15,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,15,13,1,0,5,3,0,2,8,1,0,1,3,4,14,6,26,24,4,20,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,11,6,115,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13077945898544455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825724226598928,0.17119937452319,0.0,0.0,0.18068442761813164,0.0,0.0,0.11723224159061085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112468394153292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447987048435035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18811905091371506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325456861593589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047562373651886,0.0,0.0,0.16130305013280485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227470587640278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007248447977056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569021501201906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274818423995566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259767919767904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842594308311847,0.0,0.0,0.20180018045478032,0.0,0.13031629010520265,0.14626272962329626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320065513975105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058700897711822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750745649481346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805197046306112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125276023598616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776423559511269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242785553390532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056792749552076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867839512044654,0.2268624222546739,0.15264913632053811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000618044227062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384328977393468
parenting,MaggieSawyer,2018/02/06,"Getting a kid to do the steps in math problems? Our 8 yr old is having trouble with math. She understands the concepts but she rushes and guesses and ends up with wrong answers a lot of the time. My wife and sit down and help her and she does have the knowledge and gets it right when we make her slow down. But without us keeps on guessing instead of going step by step or fully reading the questions. She has terrific grades in language arts, and is solidly on grade level in everything else but math is tanking. Science is starting to take a hit too, now that they have to do more step by step work on experiments and follow instructions more closely (rather than just observe phenomena like they did in 1st and 2nd grade). How can we help her slow down on her work, follow instructions and do one step of a problem at a time?

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parenting,Chodamaster,2018/02/06,"Online Learning Hi this is probably a question posted a lot but i didn't see a sticky, is there a good online learning academies or games you would recommend for a 7 yr old? Something she can do after school, when she has free time instead of asking me to constantly play Harvest Moon?

Thanks!",3.8510714285714314,6.126851964285716,4.5815714285714275,82.16342857142858,74.0,7.337142857142857,29.057142857142853,8.238735603445708,2.3017471428571428,234,10,41,4,5,75,48,56,0.0,0.6920000000000001,0.308,0.9645,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,10,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,5,4,8,1,6,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,3,5,28,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715986485446788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139508365100422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436758869684264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24699122983774935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30485373910921737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782395594488005,0.0,0.31323161813853234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254508847923657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940235535285921,0.2315082462145236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236578613380642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674734239666977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694055873563622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063783384043496,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ennuiismymiddlename,2018/02/06,"3 year suddenly stammering badly. Hello, I’m hoping some of you can relate your own experiences and/or reassure me.  My 3yr old son has developed a very noticeable stutter/stammer over the last few weeks.  It’s gotten so bad that at times he can’t even get the word out he’s trying to say, and he gets frustrated.  Last night he was trying to ask me what I was making for dinner, but all he could get out was “w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-“ before stopping and saying “what’s wrong with my mouth?”  It broke my heart.  

He’s my first and only child, though my wife has 3 kids from her first marriage (she says none of them ever stuttered), and I’m a worry-wort.  My first inclination is to worry that he’s got lead poisoning (we live in an old house).  I set up an appt in a couple weeks to get his lead tested.  

Have any of you had kids who suddenly started stuttering?  How did you deal with it?  Did it go away?  

Thank you all in advance.  ",2.267538461538461,3.392245805128205,4.184615384615384,88.21538461538464,75.56410256410257,7.4564102564102575,22.23076923076923,8.021203637495839,0.904292307692308,712,18,160,11,15,243,123,195,0.162,0.802,0.036000000000000004,-0.976,0,0,0,0,0,0,37,1,5,1,6,5,12,2,0,7,0,13,4,2,4,3,22,27,8,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,9,9,1,1,0,0,0,4,2,9,0,3,8,3,20,3,20,18,6,31,0,1,0,0,31,9,0,2,17,88,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232004449990354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691533412532566,0.0,0.12754903963933698,0.0,0.2267043939238973,0.0,0.0,0.1155199953344307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083916565801472,0.15021356211956186,0.0,0.0,0.1399604598105567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966682925664296,0.12280081566626015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327973007868668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34642686556808666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837116509418615,0.0,0.07715435745574059,0.0,0.10857801453583836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087379505672733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348382516902824,0.0,0.15664641851745614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22132165687682626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987673518621862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061946927436597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739961634240773,0.0,0.0,0.154561297681675,0.28491021119375304,0.0,0.0,0.10325001963039868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238804532217232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609015822612416,0.0,0.0,0.11349970433700635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498765790726687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338147226634034,0.0,0.07916153794297287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184341439705577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201450604198726,0.0,0.0,0.217793637669262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786876292636124,0.0,0.0,0.1484299796123261,0.0,0.08742365285527437
parenting,NewMexicoJoe,2018/02/06,"My 15 year old son is doing very little to meet minimum school requirements, and I'm afraid he'll stop entirely. My homeschooled son (15) has put in a couple of mediocre years since we took him out of the school system and I’m worried he’ll drop out entirely. We took him out because he stopped going, and no level of incentive or punishment, counselor help, teacher help, therapy help seemed to be able to change this. Eventually the school escalated it to have social services (PINS) come take him to school, but the year ended and it was dropped. This phase was pure hell, nearly wrecked our marriage, and damaged our home life with daily screaming fights with him, my wife and I, and a permanent knot in my stomach every morning wondering if he’d get up and go. Our daughter was so traumatized she went to live with her grandparents during the school week, and still does so three years later. He coped by burying himself in gaming 10+ hours a day, and it was another huge battle to limit his screen time. 

He has a high IQ, no ADD/ADHD, some anxiety, but no other diagnosis. Apparently there is a diagnosis called “school refusal” but none of the therapists we talked to knew much about it. But he gets stuck. He can’t make himself do work all the time, and can’t make himself show up to meet the tutors we have, especially if he’s not prepared with completed homework.  I want to believe he’s not intentionally choosing to be this way, but he’s very good at getting his own way so I have to believe it’s part way our fault for being so accommodating. 

In the past 2.5 years, he’s discovered a love for competitive cycling, and he’s a highly-motivated natural at it. He developed a strong local reputation last year and was invited to be part of a team. If he does well this season, he’ll compete in nationals in July. He and I have had some amazing times riding, and it’s been rewarding to seem him thrive in this area of his life. Thankfully cycling has replaced gaming as his thing, but now it’s the only thing. 

He occasionally talks about returning to school next year, and while that would be a dream come true for us, he isn’t even remotely prepared for the workload and 6 hour days of classes. In short, if he can’t even resolve this conflict about attending even hour long tutoring sessions a few times a week, there’s no way it would work, and they’d end up calling social services again. Last night he told me he wasn’t doing any work and it didn’t matter because “mom would just put stuff on my homeschool report anyway so the school system won’t know.” He knows we won’t allow PINS to come, and pretty much has us over a barrel on this one. 

My wife and I have come to understand that he’s a kit who is not going to fit into the standard mold of education. He won’t play football, go to proms, be on the honor roll, study for finals all night, and live the same life most kids his age live. But we’re worried he’s not getting anywhere near enough education and feel powerless to help him, as he doesn’t want help. 
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parenting,snjk410,2018/02/06,"Best mobile/desktop platforms for parental controls? Was hoping someone could offer some insight into how platforms like iOS, Android, Amazon Fire, Chromebooks, Windows 10, and macOS are with their parental controls? 

We would like to invest in devices that offer more control so that we can expose our children to some technology while still having control over what they can access. Something which provides options for time limits on app usage would be amazing. Also, control over the display of in-app advertisements would be a plus.

tl;dr

We'd like to gain insight into how each of these ecosystems controls usage through parental controls and any nuances that may set them apart from the others. We're bit new to this so any additional information would be helpful. ",8.61760683760684,10.645508384615386,6.926410256410258,71.130811965812,61.30769230769231,7.008547008547009,40.5982905982906,6.937597516519254,3.4650341880341884,630,34,82,4,9,186,91,130,0.028,0.789,0.184,0.9704,3,0,1,0,0,0,16,4,0,3,10,6,6,0,0,3,0,15,0,0,9,0,33,16,9,0,6,0,3,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,1,8,10,0,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,6,18,5,6,14,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,5,7,64,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290925832923486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100578770910446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880103892773964,0.0,0.1131867921459832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8139662073438304,0.08277644903645145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949150095350093,0.0,0.0,0.10297316252337063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195183447852562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013044205426634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34535811423114865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878439130533697,0.07981446352118826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279538666141212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045401664599887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945923968617337,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onetiredllama,2018/02/06,"Lovie questions Hi all,

For those of you who use lovies, I've got a few questions.

I recently bought my twins their own muslin lovies (elephant and bunny from lulujo). They were the only muslin lovies I could find and I chose them because muslin is breathable.

So... First, how many should I get? Should I just have one spare of each or two spares? They're $20 a pop so... Yaaay.

Second, do you leave them in the crib with your babies? I thought that was kind of the point and thus why I went with muslin, but I still get nervous. 

Lastly, how did you go about creating connection between your baby and the lovie? How did you teach them to use it to calm  themselves? I do wear them in my bra for a couple of hours before each nap and bedtime. I'm currently still swaddling my girls (they're a bit too old for it, but we're at war here!) so I'm just getting them used to having it around. I have it with us every time we cuddle and put it between us when I am soothing them to sleep so they feel the muslin more than me.

Any advice is helpful!",1.7546698113207562,3.734735882075473,2.347773584905664,97.10996226415094,79.33018867924528,5.183396226415095,19.562264150943395,5.985473137389443,-0.2757460377358489,805,19,181,5,20,248,128,212,0.044,0.888,0.068,0.7044,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,3,6,9,1,16,4,1,1,9,0,15,3,2,7,1,34,29,17,1,3,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,13,0,0,5,1,1,3,0,2,0,4,8,1,33,2,23,18,7,18,0,0,0,1,24,5,0,3,10,121,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207114516615246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886859885622433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942584726591988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862697213121276,0.0,0.12371419598486726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872567687207773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608022149291095,0.16086868779595326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249537964488072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351237265300466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288169336981198,0.12366667495452405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278771654608335,0.0,0.08262716139948705,0.0,0.1162797984110624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745028829401724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317756550415747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513988819264395,0.0,0.11851035292759587,0.0,0.1539445466273339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474002744547369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255989927835634,0.0,0.0985184455632028,0.1105738718826748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743833840147254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461547612947431,0.32573492028705153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355278108715508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454926638527582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322135567331637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542156733527813,0.08477671758199534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202262463223875,0.0,0.34976692366206263,0.3767047917215571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347758235322175,0.13118975551840956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krink0v,2018/02/06,"2yo daughter won't open her mouth at the dentist's. Should I hold her down and force it or try it again next time? Just so you know:

The first time the dentist only wanted to take a look. She didn't open her mouth, I talked to her for 10 long minutes trying to convince her. I ended up forcing her. The dentist only took 5 second to look at it and didn't touch her with anything.

The problem now is that the dentist wants to do some procedure (cleaning?) and she has to have her mouth opened for longer than 5 seconds. I feel like holding her down while she screams and kicks won't be a good experience for any of us. We went yesterday and she didn't open it. We came back home and didn't force her.

I just feel that if we go back there again she won't open it again.

What should we do?

**EDIT:** Ok everybody, I'm sorry I suggested to hold her down. I wouldn't do that to her, I typed that without thinking of the scene. I wouldn't bring this trauma to her, she would never visit as dentist again. I'm ashamed that I even mentioned it.


**EDIT 2:** The first dentist wasn't a pediatric dentist. She went with my wife who told me half the story. Saturday we'll take her to a proper child's dentist and everything will be fine. Thank you all for your tips and caring! 

**EDIT 3:** My wife and I talked more about this after she got home and she told me she called the pediatric dentist's office. They told her they have the best techniques and also, (like someone mentioned below) the dentist said that it's better if she goes alone with him in the room. We'll see how it goes! I have high hopes for saturday. Good night everybody!",0.6636629711751638,3.0804471696969737,1.8162971175166327,96.37639689578718,87.9090909090909,4.552845528455285,19.563932002956392,6.088129875631209,-0.09591056910569096,1266,38,273,11,41,399,156,330,0.053,0.8590000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.9092,0,1,0,0,0,0,51,7,3,2,4,15,16,0,1,17,1,26,15,3,1,2,50,53,19,0,11,6,3,3,2,0,11,12,2,4,1,18,24,0,3,4,0,0,7,12,4,0,5,14,8,55,12,33,26,4,43,0,0,3,0,55,15,0,5,23,186,73,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515246142483147,0.0,0.09663467343413228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217446713539815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943996293005518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18583501947882894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681277191414794,0.10687201992102907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338983438785815,0.13820729344857366,0.12320311922162586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702723101143047,0.0,0.0,0.0798128288802229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086020416152579,0.11820344637281205,0.0,0.0,0.12219936603742353,0.08632719919847799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20557069149068327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867542412315608,0.2027075550672358,0.09664575591827572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276727325519342,0.24242215920084656,0.12002010551597203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640979529518433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807138067532275,0.0,0.0,0.1069384565576775,0.20294816626692924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319826330206007,0.0,0.12851333990778838,0.1133989443235424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838065696525152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562632668924724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149452858346866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629280753193756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238624759347824,0.0,0.0,0.13526904362089434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817113440395718,0.19425115703511103,0.0,0.11125204978688914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742856667958957,0.0,0.0,0.1409240481483779,0.0,0.0,0.346399700029462,0.1342562540221656,0.16408310525450132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535409071243266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142547605001932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22403739123682728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116484205150337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584035317824634,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheTurtleWhisperer,2018/02/06,"Good guitar songs to play/sing with little kids? I've been volunteered to be the substitute music teacher for my kid's pre-k class. I'm rusty but can do a decent ""Yellow Submarine"" on my acoustic. What are some other good, basic songs to play with ~4 year olds that they could sing along to?",4.49758620689655,5.4753444482758615,4.916724137931039,85.63818965517244,70.0344827586207,7.8689655172413815,23.12068965517241,8.07648339933343,1.07491724137931,230,5,46,3,4,73,48,58,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.8504,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,3,9,4,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,2,25,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267212702451247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6864526709506348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.410136404065101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4293975617865001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26351813240554944
parenting,crazycoffeeunicorn,2018/02/06,"Anybody else notice hug drinks making their kids super hyper after having them? So my fiances grandma sometimes likes to watch our daughter and my fiance dont like her being fed stuff there thats basically no nutrition whatsoever. His grandma will give her chips, cookies, candy, & cake sometimes. I know thats what grandmas do they spoil their grandchildren so I let her give her that stuff only there & at our house she rarely has that stuff and I also limit how much his grandma gives her when im up there. Lately though whenever my daughter goes over there she would come home extremely hyper & its not like normal kid hyper or she ate a cookie and is kinda hyper. Its her jumping on the couch being full blown insane not listening to anything you say screeching really loud she is 3. I think I figured out that its the Hug barrel juice that his grandma gives her its only when she drinks that stuff because if she only has the other kid juice his grandma has she acts fine. Plus she acts ok when she has cookies or cake. It is like those hug juices completely screw with their brains. The werid thing though is it has the same ingredients as the v8 splash that we have at home but she never acts like that when she drinks v8 plus I water it down. Also my fiances sister compared the two and told his grandma our v8 had more sugar than the hugs but idk. But im pretty sure I think its the dyes in the hug drinks? Yesterday I had an appt and his grandma & sister watched our kids and they were like that when they came home. I found out that they gave them some of that hug stuff and never gave them the juice I sent up there. Their excuse was they couldnt get the lid off of the cup I sent there but Im weak and could get it.  Anybody else notice their kids getting off the charts hyper after drinking that stuff? Also whats a healthier alternative than the v8 that I thought was healthy? ",4.407373271889401,5.934169860215054,4.373149001536099,87.3725806451613,70.82795698924731,6.712135176651306,24.307219662058372,7.021680442328713,0.8589251920122889,1516,41,295,13,28,466,175,372,0.053,0.846,0.102,0.9685,0,0,5,0,0,0,28,5,1,13,2,19,18,1,0,18,1,25,18,1,2,3,44,48,31,0,5,9,4,0,6,0,2,1,3,4,5,34,16,9,1,6,5,0,8,7,2,0,1,15,6,59,16,24,26,5,32,0,0,2,7,64,13,1,5,17,205,93,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544901992643275,0.0,0.31695056591518106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060180759202306026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458011021102773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163862248268433,0.0,0.08364262819447575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299606670345495,0.07667668810935156,0.0,0.0,0.058389324863914516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857092399547115,0.3582037494012033,0.0,0.0,0.12218349317455875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018460314552057,0.0,0.0,0.11462412521303796,0.2806165029207914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006971581080131,0.0,0.0,0.08438360394299678,0.0,0.0,0.2369827864737379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04019100351178807,0.0,0.08249519649555975,0.0,0.0,0.07478162267647387,0.0,0.2143693074615308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881565424312927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375985800408537,0.0,0.1128066036347884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165306399749863,0.0,0.16652074719515764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668587545005499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440073734615182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046849729303826616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815687786587685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465728424986124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5023064717886199,0.0,0.0,0.06892530516980576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858513005106617,0.0937190600121534,0.14370209591229727,0.05805801629912735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988001041354412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143857119693732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195031727932767,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bumperplates00,2018/02/06,"Teaching 5-7 Year Old Girls Values and Street Smart Hi,

I really appreciate these forums being available for parents trying to make jt through the first 25 years at least. Here’s hoping!!

I have two daughters and want to teach them values and to be Street Smart.

Are there any short books that you can recommend or something that I can print out that would go through values like (confidence, resilience, and the like) to make them understand it and talk about it in their own words?

My children are great a times, and also the worst at times, so I really want to drill it into them about values, appreciation for things, and that sort of thing.

Are there any short books that you can recommend on teaching kids to be more Street Smart (ie. don’t talk to strangers, don’t get in cars with strangers, understand when you may be taken advantage, understand if it’s unsafe and what to do, and the like)?

Thanks in advance,

bp00
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parenting,Cingano,2018/02/06,"Driving 12-20 hours, with a 9 month old? It's coming up on spring break and grandma and grandpa want us to join them on vacation for 9 days, it is a 20 hour drive to get there and I'm really thinking it's not a good idea. All my baby wants to do is play and move around, he needs to eat every 2 hours and be changed every 2 hours, so I feel like we would have to stop every hour and he would be miserable the entire time. It just feels incredibly selfish to me to take a baby this young on vacation but maybe I'm being dramatic. Has anyone done this before successfully? Should I break grandparents hearts and say no? Advice please.

edit: Thanks everyone I'm going to suck it up and tell her we aren't going.",1.6026530612244905,3.5807972585034022,3.4356122448979605,89.13260204081635,79.81632653061223,6.648979591836735,20.02380952380953,7.7094869923839395,0.6533891156462581,555,14,119,9,14,186,98,147,0.095,0.784,0.12,0.5761,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,1,4,8,1,1,5,0,13,2,1,0,1,28,29,10,0,6,3,1,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,7,13,1,1,4,1,0,6,3,3,0,0,1,3,9,5,16,22,1,26,0,1,0,0,10,6,1,0,13,65,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253669137181338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970579125405741,0.0,0.0,0.11420840599339813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916831081782696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571750142200398,0.11051348184401573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273868766248295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128878292640025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127626888294294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32427839600046704,0.12258992769263315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297380867709116,0.09165289496569022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702805346164319,0.0,0.1458242939033014,0.10760649265716468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520284034842041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6317162249920601,0.0,0.0,0.14482773439193286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267771891109941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288880546281647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240263981099676,0.13635567658883468,0.0,0.09512799731239002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462243657787815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082772632392582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218809490420992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020241326556144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725910233049296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646073823756636,0.0,0.11213416511676734,0.11811540891523865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220528819558275,0.0,0.0,0.07480896578949169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432127223623482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134164886798634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18227202890192395,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mb9981,2018/02/06,"9 year old suddenly hates sports, won't play My 9 year old son is absolutely insisting that he doesn't want to play baseball this year.

The normal advice would be: Well, then he shouldn't.

Here's the problem: It's not that simple.

The backstory: Our league plays two seasons per year - once in the spring and again in the fall. He played three straight seasons and loved it (two springs and one fall). When it came time for the second fall in 2016, he said he didn't want to play. Trying to be good parents, we respected that. As soon as the season started, he starts coming home from school upset that we didn't sign him up and that he's missing playing with his friends and classmates. We told him he made the decision not to play, but having just turned 8 at the time, he wasn't exactly following reason and logic. When the next spring season came, he again said he didn't want to play. This time we ignored him, signed him up and he says he had a great time. Last fall - he wanted to play, so we signed him up. It was a miserable season because his friends all played football, so he was put on a team with older kids and a different coach who had no business coaching anyone.

Now it's spring sign up time again and he's violently insisting he doesn't want to play. He's worried he'll get the same coach again. Extremely long story short - it's possible but very unlikely that would happen. It's more likely he'd have his old coach and teammates. If we did draw that problematic coach again, we would pull him out before the season starts. We've told him all this and it's not changing his mind.

His mother and I agree that we don't want him to be inactive, but we live in a rural area where the only other viable option this time of year is soccer, which he legitimately hates. He's not interested in any other activities we've offered like music or art.

So do we ignore him again and sign him up for another baseball season and hope for the best or just let him learn another rough lesson by missing out? ",5.628063909774437,5.8210222355889725,5.769439223057645,83.30949718045116,67.24561403508773,8.855513784461152,28.153822055137844,8.59863814320734,1.811567167919799,1588,46,324,22,24,503,188,399,0.14,0.752,0.108,-0.8229,2,0,0,0,0,0,44,11,0,0,3,18,33,3,2,19,0,27,1,0,3,3,76,55,28,0,14,12,3,1,2,2,6,0,3,1,1,24,31,0,2,5,20,0,10,14,10,1,5,16,4,30,23,32,28,5,72,0,3,0,1,64,18,0,5,46,185,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086712472627008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323525648556856,0.19501275403694365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501960589759759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056684825911273176,0.0,0.07912622414509388,0.0,0.09758552062679217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212707765661484,0.0,0.0,0.0983693285851956,0.08010121682689249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715301848557316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368511386077587,0.0,0.048582567069905006,0.0,0.0,0.07799420357127858,0.0,0.10251996758223404,0.0,0.0,0.08222927751539798,0.0,0.0,0.18361345869711415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327488178044632,0.09235839817765217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579790398840054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950868726594096,0.0,0.09085880688836256,0.0,0.0821104034039004,0.08229175027631658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392560281753547,0.0879878109126202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938917103252795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889414917039824,0.0,0.09110882497779922,0.0,0.0,0.2927268456886409,0.09902954193224464,0.06301130233278765,0.07072181895964176,0.0,0.0,0.1032525415568167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483037592475823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889772782174703,0.0,0.09347896019544216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560749553461806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769064013420859,0.07394805624672786,0.0,0.09410915940004808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19745286630058476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32533347548080016,0.0,0.0,0.17770867798302767,0.0,0.06313297553010447,0.1011446061749324,0.18167218306457986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672511487661528,0.3290815752604154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360768058823727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443416792336587,0.0,0.19816873559134754,0.0,0.0,0.2994071948922404
parenting,kimdealz,2018/02/06,"Add kid I get notes sent home from my kid's teacher monthly taking about his inability to focus, Although his report card reflects all A's and B's. 

I'm at my wit's end and I guess I'm taking him to get on medication. Teacher said he can't go more than 1-2 mins focusing. I know it's a daily struggle around here to finish a task. 

I'm devastated bc I didn't ever want to put him on medication, but looks like there's no way around it. I don't want him suffering and feeling inadequate. 

Anyone else been in my boat? Did you put your kids on medication? Long term effects? Any alternative practices that can combat ADD? ",1.486748798076924,3.6571061484374994,4.014062500000001,83.82084134615386,81.265625,6.750961538461539,23.90865384615385,7.882392219407189,1.375495673076923,489,18,101,9,13,171,86,128,0.152,0.7809999999999999,0.067,-0.8188,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,2,0,1,6,3,0,1,3,0,6,3,0,1,2,17,22,5,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,3,3,7,0,0,4,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,5,3,15,1,14,17,3,19,0,1,1,0,13,7,0,1,8,52,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751906340319765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083517348703282,0.17706778868202125,0.0,0.3076811955831346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443634519453185,0.0,0.1530614117202214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631964781237398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737966637204013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057577677671802,0.0,0.09821385891645262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037348436770124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334596797885474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497374568950806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442791633089371,0.0,0.0,0.15293445390689006,0.14511976317283606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5222740716140429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793803693284132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34745047179749355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16438515277072335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806621265073343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25986839593472505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038596855467745,0.13717126274159974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shei_taa,2018/02/06,"Have to leave for months and I can't bring my severly autistic 10 yo My son is 10 years old with severe autism and needs constant assistance and care. We live together with his grandmother who's been there since he was born so he knows her and she has taken care of him alone in the past. However, the longest I've been away from him was a month but now due to work obligations I'll have to leave for 2 months and I'm not sure if this is pushing it. I trust his grandmother, she's just as prepared as I am, but I don't know if it's right to do so. I'm asking parents of autistic children here, have you traveled for several months without your child?

Sorry for using a throwaway.",1.9645662847790497,3.906466907801424,3.1180141843971647,92.02615384615385,78.5035460992908,6.60796508456083,24.321331151118393,7.61054688173877,1.0706755046372067,538,19,117,8,13,173,93,141,0.06,0.8490000000000001,0.091,0.7343,2,1,0,0,0,0,10,1,2,0,1,7,4,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,1,1,20,25,13,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,8,0,0,2,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,5,0,16,4,18,20,0,17,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,2,11,72,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15224641869815225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742402958088226,0.0,0.1381102064396775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997501361201739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885347469393385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157338633314586,0.0,0.0,0.31130099708137315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298026287826095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46933214162675296,0.0,0.0,0.10899774358769396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425050708341767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632247652789366,0.0,0.14032698271471225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553616740841433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4982003890948141,0.0,0.12159892194428736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645531155963283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854462425981295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695976120125615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417015923389663,0.0,0.1070168732226282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466240418347227
parenting,Lefty1992,2018/02/06,"Child Lies about Being Hit Our 3 year old daughter lies about being hit, not just by us, but by my father and others in the family as well. The other day we were putting away groceries in the kitchen and she wanted candy. My father, who was visiting, said it wasn't time to eat. She stated yelling, ""Stop hitting me!"" at my father. We were looking right at them and he was just standing there. She'll also randomly tell us that we hit her even though nobody has ever hit her, not even a spanking. Sometimes when we hug and she sees us, she'll say, ""Stop hitting mommy. You're fighting."" She also claims she's always in time out, even though she's rarely in time out. She says, ""Mommy puts me in time out every day."" How do we stop this? When we talk to her about it, she adamantly acts like it's true and we're concerned that she might go telling other people these lies. ",1.701954022988506,3.9820019540229863,2.4891954022988507,94.43367816091957,81.183908045977,4.55632183908046,19.4367816091954,5.46131890053228,-0.28896321839080485,676,17,140,3,18,211,100,174,0.08800000000000001,0.8370000000000001,0.075,-0.1134,0,0,0,0,3,0,30,10,0,1,0,18,5,1,0,4,0,12,3,0,1,2,28,23,14,0,1,5,4,0,1,0,3,0,4,1,1,11,14,2,3,0,0,0,5,3,1,1,0,6,6,30,4,19,6,0,33,0,0,2,1,40,12,0,2,15,97,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050050945103815,0.10665295630464933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042586073832567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653262298882049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115636240655787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539777278631302,0.1159428088819338,0.10799406774827147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083321584962158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284554970066974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262046968786635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763581675116683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597480732884495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449947374423135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886131311383028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577051842894805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946186674879717,0.12192502105429368,0.20386188959599752,0.0,0.0,0.10213992248967596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676964614148056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214833987063765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302326119484824,0.22406348570624968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518651437852981,0.0,0.2989625440100002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625409500289329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560170743363781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524589431118995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254133997209709
parenting,joshjen10,2018/02/06,"Truly unique baby shower ideas My wife has taken in the daunting task of planning her cousin’s second baby shower. She has been prowling the internet for inspiration, but alas, everything is very vanilla. She is looking to some unconventional ideas while being family friendly, which is almost a contradiction in terms. Baby mama has final say. So, dear Redditors, for the love of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, please help us.",7.138750000000003,9.907875375000003,7.28166666666667,64.23000000000002,66.08333333333334,8.688888888888886,31.44444444444445,9.2995712137729,3.536261111111111,345,14,44,7,6,111,57,72,0.052000000000000005,0.6759999999999999,0.272,0.9678,2,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,0,0,6,11,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,5,4,7,8,2,5,0,0,1,1,10,2,0,2,3,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541182792972083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280759553615429,0.0,0.2392358016112447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779973144239642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960653757386156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009954753691606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5729605350617879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21310647673726613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22904119164987316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785679475166397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20181148963285772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052592070266276,0.0,0.0,0.2093903546813919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Taaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaam,2018/02/06,"Funny story about out dinosaur loving daughter wanting Shimmer and Shine Costco recently opened near us. On one of our visits our daughter (3) saw a box that contained Shimmer and Shine + the little blonde girl and their pets. She wanted it, but she's got plenty of toys, and we figured that it's just another of the Veruca Salt style of ""*I want it now*"". We told her no, and went on our way.

Handful of times we went there, she saw them and did the same routine. Said no, no, no... After the 6th or so time we caved, she'd been a really good girl, something happened that was worth rewarding, don't quite remember what. Our daughter was normally into Dinosaurs, so figured we'd take the chance to have her play with dolls. 

They were a hit, that night she insisted that they stayed with her as she ate dinner, went potty. Everywhere. Even made them their own bed to sleep in. She'd never played with a toy like it. 

Few days following it, she didn't want a bar of them. Eventually asked her where they were ""*I lost them. They're naughty*"" What?! 

After asking a few more questions I found out that she wanted Shimmer and Shine because they're genies and always granting the blonde girl's wishes. So she wanted them, to grant her wishes. She told me ""*they're naughty, they didn't turn me into a dinosaur*""",2.6182142857142843,4.9933486468254005,3.138025396825398,90.51808571428572,78.40476190476191,5.619301587301588,22.381587301587306,6.742157984588678,0.5914871111111113,1017,31,199,10,25,316,138,252,0.053,0.804,0.14300000000000002,0.9673,0,0,1,0,0,0,50,10,0,11,3,9,7,0,0,13,0,13,6,2,1,1,41,42,14,0,9,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,13,20,3,1,5,5,1,5,8,1,0,1,21,10,42,6,24,17,5,27,0,1,7,1,51,11,0,2,10,131,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746255416053233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542428997156722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24147430218773144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872820769191137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832906069793742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853018871728821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160552901846454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832429594361123,0.10329248421266626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420628950543542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630958188928979,0.12944151604704432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098170486478062,0.0,0.116562275407355,0.12220417969931105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960789327279244,0.0,0.0,0.1211978586641438,0.12653888196896956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751490045604879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467676058536852,0.13736616586882938,0.0,0.0,0.08273634141956643,0.0,0.127519341938579,0.0,0.1463009679864619,0.0,0.1228505484756066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924255880581276,0.0,0.0,0.09942543213083226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765595793083354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710419230070162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506159777037734,0.0,0.0,0.2468153599131088,0.0,0.0,0.14047733999078996,0.0,0.0,0.15535069261454512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570535798281584,0.10251269399250937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35916805364343285,0.0,0.0,0.29703061666478603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeaElevator,2018/02/06,"SO's 5 year old daughter moving in with us after moving back to our state a year ago. Previously living with grandparents during custody visits. Seeking advice. Hi everyone, as the title says I am seeking advice. My SO, Dan, is the father of a wonderful 5 year old girl- Rae. We have been together for 3 years and I met her right before she turned 2. SO had a bad divorce when Rae was around 6-8 months old. Ex wife got remarried months after and moved away with Rae. Dan went through a rough period during this time and fell on drugs. He still had legal custody of Rae and got her every other month or so, but she stayed with his parents while we visited and stayed the weeks while she was there. Rae and her grandparents developed a very close bond, and they helped to keep Dan in her life as he sobered up and found his way. We are very grateful for this. In 2017 Rae moved down here and we now get her every other weekend. 

For the past year she has still stayed at the grandparents house. We would come and stay there with her as well until the visit was over and she went back to her mom's house. It was ultimately where she was comfortable and wanted to be. After working very hard and Dan being sober and involved she wants to be at our house on the weekends now and we can provide it for her. We are in the process of making the switch and are so thrilled- and nervous! This was always the goal and we have wanted her so bad. 

The problem is without the traditional parenting she is very used to grandparent's house with no rules. We are concerned because over the past year they have overruled us and went behind our backs with certain things. Rae viewed them as more of an authoritative figure than us- and they give into whatever she wants. She has developed habits over this time such as eating literally whatever she wants (easy mac mainly she is a very picky eater), not going a day without sleeping alone, and the consequence of the co sleeping is her bed time being whenever the heck she wants, or when grandma goes to bed. We felt very helpless with enforcing rules because they will simply go behind our back or hold it against us because they are helping us. We messed up and let them get the best of it. It wasn't worth the fight when we only had 3 days and didn't want to ruin it. We were trying to coparent 4 ways (+her mom and stepdad). 


Now we are getting ready to lay down ground rules and we are nervous. We are going to be the bad guys for a while and are trying to find a game plan and get mentally prepared. Rae has been spoiled rotten and we know she will not take well to the change with parenting. We are seeking advice for situations such as bed time and picky eating, as well as any other insight offered on how to make the transition smooth. 


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parenting,dizzykitty,2018/02/06,"Toddler language delay So I got a 28 month old who I fear is behind on his communication. He knows maybe 50 or so words which some sources say is about normal, but he doesn't quite put his words together yet. He doesn't wave goodbye, but he is good about gesturing for things and telling us he wants apple juice or strawberries. The thing that worries the most is that he learned how to count to 20 and now counts CONSTANTLY. He will count along to the microwave, say the numbers on street signs, even use counting as a replacement for speech. He almost never gets to interact with peers and my wife and I are very quiet people. I am hoping his speech issue is a result of poor socialization on our part (something we can improve on) as opposed to something pathological (not as easily remedied). 

I apologize if this post is a bit incoherent. It's hard to put my concerns into words, and honestly just want to talk about this before Early Intervention schedules a follow up. So what are some of yall's thoughts on this? Does/did your child have similar behaviors? 

Edit: early intervention is already involved. Im just wanting to have a discussion with other parents in between meetings.",6.161960784313727,7.4397815158371055,6.280886877828058,76.27342684766221,66.42081447963801,9.151251885369533,33.285369532428355,9.3871,3.129227812971344,949,41,165,18,15,302,146,221,0.058,0.845,0.097,0.8661,2,0,2,0,0,0,24,3,2,0,1,12,4,0,1,10,0,16,1,0,3,1,40,26,17,0,6,8,2,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,1,12,10,0,2,3,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,2,6,15,3,31,23,5,23,0,0,0,0,30,9,0,8,10,109,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265090236684786,0.0,0.16822602782460422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971883423939345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642964539189276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473808447226904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006879936883767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154217059908053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964583212146076,0.0,0.0,0.12786300969125047,0.12192359797835756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656011072881738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514115436856164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466595659581446,0.15911219753447256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377937661579139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315074556433067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167955114269133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757440851029373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936300439876155,0.0,0.0,0.1599646033223897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927130629214102,0.16508227421523694,0.0,0.10568565294159887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459994582512835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30649716635607405,0.0,0.16214323153209426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424595828812692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539772175333966,0.0,0.2347180728267849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252891889638096,0.1332429994417336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255438047381,0.0,0.0,0.1210237114797024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833716706144682,0.13166289189235048,0.0,0.12578247687426372,0.2697467165510584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481454230551306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,superthrowawaylevel3,2018/02/06,"My kid has been continuously been getting bullied My daughter is in 7th grade, school has been contacted several times and it’s still an ongoing issue, I’ve had two sit downs with the principal and it’s still happening. What are my next steps? Should I contact the superintendent?",4.726470588235294,7.584874980392161,5.509568627450981,73.7290588235294,73.70588235294117,9.570196078431367,31.768627450980397,9.888512548439397,3.7831850980392163,228,11,39,7,5,74,40,51,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.6662,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,11,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,4,0,3,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,27,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702152406641034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881007963572432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34004693371301903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464883067436476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297234827654605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36805734567496623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5203630609263018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997457718174413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182558706481602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Furrypotatoes,2018/02/06,"One child, want to foster or adopt. Looking for view points. Any books/blogs/YouTube's/ whatever that you could recommend? 


My husband wants more biological kids, then foster later down the road. I dont want any more biological children and want to foster down/adopt down the road.

We have talked about it. We have a few friends who foster. So its not that we dont know what we are walking into. Just everyone I talk to has had at least 2 kids then open up their home to 2-9 other kids. 


I'm looking for point of view I guess of 1 kid with 1-3 foster kids/adopt.  



I'm in my early 20s. Husband is in his mid 20s. We have a toddler.",0.4189244186046501,2.772613116279075,2.0985610465116302,94.37714389534884,88.37984496124031,4.7753875968992245,18.91521317829457,6.322622252153567,-0.10702751937984534,488,14,108,5,16,159,82,129,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,5,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,19,20,5,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,7,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,13,1,17,18,4,18,0,0,4,0,20,13,0,2,4,63,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616575097943756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536041880010039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4509488074441845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838326146447333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863658019601805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21193434668394326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19297836878866986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573005380284886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231107767041701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036541143041355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637330132361032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092643968152278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4538958712138789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xayide_princess,2018/02/06,"Positive and negative quiz When is it positive to say your kid does not leave you alone? In my town that is very negative, like go away kid... Context: is a baby of year and one half",1.0166216216216206,3.248656000000004,3.006689189189192,89.98138513513516,83.5945945945946,8.024324324324324,22.763513513513516,8.841846274778883,1.7764648648648644,140,5,31,4,4,47,31,37,0.15,0.589,0.261,0.5371,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,4,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,21,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034163187461642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659587630342314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34086403313040475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213682933014871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41243630995867264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029558507694305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639429914286885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097550828741104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213876810748928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508325578092653
parenting,Keridactyl,2018/02/06,"Would you stay home to avoid the flu? We homeschool and I work from home. We live 20 minutes from town, but we're out at least 3 times a week. We were in town today and a woman at our convenience store said the flu is going around our area and through our schools right now. I'm thinking about sequestering ourselves in the house until it passes. We did get flu shots and I know plenty of kids get the flu and are fine. My biggest worry is that I'm working 60 hours a week right now and am barely holding everything together as it is (I'm a single parent).

If you could, would you stay home to avoid the flu?",4.318180000000002,4.696082688000001,4.758150000000004,88.77882500000004,70.12,7.53,26.025,7.1686216300943375,0.9849400000000004,476,13,104,4,8,151,78,125,0.183,0.8,0.017,-0.9675,1,2,0,0,1,0,12,7,3,0,2,4,3,0,2,9,0,10,5,0,0,0,22,19,10,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,3,2,3,12,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,3,1,13,1,15,13,2,24,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,1,8,62,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814815902634965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287199950263687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956663226627015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389407788488342,0.0,0.09457973121672084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5007953635002497,0.0,0.16388915499802856,0.1920251382812939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145950926946138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469509923604061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847885629165906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842417684573135,0.15830254239679525,0.0,0.0,0.168424874202771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547609414351805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066345511302389,0.0,0.0,0.09704023503330406,0.0,0.15774571709356972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669825061181693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423099727157441,0.16900653405398627,0.0,0.2364385115871293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dorothy___zbornak,2018/02/07,"Pacifier question- does size / age range matter? Are the age ranges on pacifiers do or die? My 18 month old only uses a pacifier to sleep, and spits it out a lot at night anyway. She’s been using a tommee tippee 6-18 month ones I bought the next range, 18-36 months and the nipple is significantly larger and she refuses it. I thought about trying to only give her that in hopes of weaning her off but she’s still a bit young to understand so I’m not sure I want to do it that way. Is it okay to let her use the smaller size one? We’re going to try to have her stop using them when she’s a bit older and can understand (babies use pacifiers so let’s give our pacis to the babies and get a big girl toy!) but she’s too young for that now. Will I ruin her teeth forever if I let her use the smaller one? ",1.8369674185463647,3.198758883040938,3.5957936507936523,91.0375,77.12865497076024,6.523141186299082,20.401420217209694,7.1686216300943375,0.3057665831244778,623,14,142,7,14,209,102,171,0.097,0.871,0.032,-0.9113,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,1,0,8,4,0,0,12,1,12,3,3,6,1,28,29,12,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,7,6,0,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,0,3,3,3,19,3,16,22,3,23,0,1,0,0,18,6,0,5,15,87,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24976863368562946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871882060159812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010351083489584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059764084159676135,0.219466734415408,0.06501050622296115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361513840139027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350914754170182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725033689629717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739151594491514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165512467496715,0.10734732067183747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003312365359176,0.0,0.23254099172295234,0.17399758782395172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814304463379872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447266938125325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913520482814928,0.09563521074409777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781127614916147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081292875638604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553266815811887,0.0,0.0,0.23816816963903906,0.0,0.5927776966227866,0.0,0.0,0.06747022009960632,0.09079750381929401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,F0xQueen,2018/02/07,"Kiddo [3M] won't tell me anything. So my kiddo has just started going to school, and is basically refusing to tell me about what he does at school. When I ask, he just says ""I can't tell you,"" or ""I don't remember"". I know there isn't anything going wrong at his school, he loves it and I've stayed an entire day observing so I know he's happy and is doing things. He remembers things in other parts of his life, and would tell me about his days with his nanny. How can I get him to tell me about his day?",0.8911111111111154,2.583542185185184,2.9349629629629668,93.25633333333336,80.85185185185185,6.171851851851853,18.20740740740741,7.1686216300943375,0.03205629629629625,388,8,91,5,10,131,64,108,0.025,0.878,0.096,0.8185,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,1,0,0,10,3,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,0,15,18,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,18,2,11,16,1,11,0,0,0,1,21,3,0,1,5,58,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246580815681519,0.0,0.1276104045423489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640963768381249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945331548517027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131635983859437,0.0,0.155153809190774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530830344413498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150035224961256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641499217488256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319786399088713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781773957679656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30925900670250583,0.0,0.0,0.10855141065452498,0.0,0.41444018383534464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661641005227553,0.14549235525328474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5965413029817448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813709606640098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696669476698253,0.14924287813667633,0.0,0.0
parenting,tinyahjumma,2018/02/07,"Should I email the teacher? My 5th header came home with a terrible grade on his science project. He is in tears. He did an experiment, wrote up an abstract and conclusion and whatnot, and put it all on a tri-fold poster board. 

The teacher took off points because it wasn’t “neat,” wasn’t colorful, didn’t have pictures, and the sections were placed in the wrong order.

He did a project on planes. He covered the display in blue paper to look like the sky. He didn’t add pictures because he brought in two foam plane models that he made. He definitely screwed up the placement of the sections on the board. The sections were typed and glued on. The title was handwritten, so definitely looks sloppy.

He is crushed and tearful. He worked so hard on it, and did it without parental help. Other kids brought in projects that obviously parents also worked on. I’m mad that kids are given projects they can’t succeed on without parental involvement. We offered to help; he wanted to do it on his own.

Should I email the teacher about the color and the pictures? Or is that just my angry instinct, and it makes me THAT parent.

I’m feeling a lot of guilt for not helping him. He’s normally a straight A student, and takes his grades very seriously. (Too seriously, if you ask me).",3.6885590343266688,6.0179930746888,3.9096586193889102,86.54352225575255,74.68464730290455,6.3735194266314625,31.70143342135044,7.348242739294969,2.046517012448133,1005,50,189,12,22,311,135,241,0.138,0.794,0.068,-0.9415,4,0,0,0,0,0,35,1,1,1,4,6,10,2,1,22,0,19,1,0,2,2,32,35,15,0,5,6,4,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,12,14,0,0,2,0,0,5,8,7,0,1,17,7,13,3,27,16,6,30,0,0,5,1,34,24,1,3,1,118,25,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148460034370727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032774677088035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996375718389806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594457178478699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363678637265125,0.0,0.0,0.07048891976761555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248822673746838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803269152518868,0.0,0.13983768233762667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068107751694273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341353719395433,0.0,0.0,0.1185197740467666,0.0,0.13191130685047406,0.093055983545998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659033045347435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6191847507568352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456517840366235,0.0,0.13178570707144527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014363665269436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481753519857312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488751905915493,0.09464894308832718,0.0,0.1361814485316966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502627541987655,0.08222650426001173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687688506836281,0.0,0.20298150179567093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242086332152682,0.0,0.0
parenting,minumoto,2018/02/07,"Is this too extreme? I am frustrated and out of ideas. I try to teach my kids to take care of their things through modeling behavior, talking about personal responsibility,  etc. It seems to just go in one ear and out the other, especially with A (middle child). Right now I just want to take all of their toys, and stuff they don't need, and either store it somewhere, or donate it. 

Love, food, shelter, clothing, and an education. That's all they need. Maybe they just have too much, and cannot appreciate what they have. Or maybe I'm just pissed off about a seemingly neverending battle of taking care of yourself, and your environment, and everyone working together as a team

Help.",5.718333333333334,7.238514801587303,5.9779365079365085,77.13928571428572,67.65079365079364,9.726984126984126,30.66666666666667,9.994966539143718,3.0286571428571434,539,21,100,13,9,172,88,126,0.093,0.7979999999999999,0.109,0.2828,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,1,6,2,9,6,3,0,5,0,6,4,2,0,2,26,19,11,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,9,11,1,0,3,2,2,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,11,3,18,19,5,8,0,0,0,1,14,6,1,4,1,72,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632885479507296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869361328369636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023790310576042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21542973954710068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125147507313507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941576194741176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20111905014136236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079483346231038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357967943505003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096685938823344,0.26420426366047794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207246838235032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556096723299473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214622606482672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243772744272916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394864465459409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40185863843813374,0.14319690366379867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836046693563575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095780006982823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508238907054404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970137389258501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LipstickInLiterature,2018/02/07,"Toddler Won't Eat (swallow) Fruit I have a 17 month old son who eats EVERYTHING. Right off the bat when I started introducing solids, my kid likes every single food I've ever given him immediately upon his first tasting. The only issue seems to be certain fresh fruits. Specifically apples, pears, oranges, and bananas. The taste doesn't seem to be the issue so it must be the  texture. He will chew and suck on apples/pears/oranges/bananas but then spit the chewed up fruit out. He is fine with the canned, cooked, or puréed  versions of these foods and he also readily eats a vast variety of other fresh fruits. I'm not concerned that he's lacking nutrition and if he never likes those particular fruits that's fine too but I was just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to get my kid to like the mentioned textures. I eat a lot of the culprit fruits myself and my son always asks for some but I'm tried of picking up chewed fruit from the carpet afterwards. ",5.263708939708941,6.561200210810814,5.523243243243249,80.81022869022874,68.51351351351353,7.854469854469856,28.825363825363823,8.139509932561175,1.9509792099792107,769,27,141,10,13,244,123,185,0.011,0.882,0.108,0.9377,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,1,7,7,1,0,13,0,12,21,1,2,4,28,22,16,0,4,8,2,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,2,7,7,20,0,4,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,9,10,6,18,14,5,18,0,0,0,0,14,9,1,8,12,86,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703790397023855,0.12177686108667395,0.0,0.0,0.09952460179786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233295072486977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681967073660348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5990198745093989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238405966810074,0.1233081486161562,0.0,0.13153203571595987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448721558614002,0.3539396323301229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764630510046811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652139644490773,0.0,0.3055076141835439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145010650219308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442351581020672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168170320709516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287593782757906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357214931385832,0.0,0.0,0.11130754046969064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498408861053945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26646732593282785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358893115739737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936362401537263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587128569393155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lazyeyepsycho,2018/02/07,"Second baby due in a month. Tips for firstborn? Hi all,

Like the title says, we have our second due next month and am wondering how to best get our little guy onboard with the whole thing? We are trying to talk about baby brother etc a lot and make him know someone is on the way.....other than that I feel a little unprepared.

Any advice or tips welcome.",2.0735714285714297,4.339882642857145,3.312857142857143,89.12214285714286,79.71428571428572,5.142857142857143,20.0,6.18269132825596,0.1710000000000007,275,7,53,2,7,89,56,70,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.8767,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,2,1,13,9,4,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,6,3,8,9,5,9,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,6,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514664849395396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497225045967854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310538356709129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455466909225028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132408752414696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502924200374713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180019754164488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099915251013126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756347714906392,0.44133445916916825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18717985383833446,0.0,0.0,0.146964551181555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35147367194192497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23415228349930525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750872662918797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654852243463688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696354333639433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146270534375915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948033335125355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17475994465607014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458108827486509,0.0,0.0,0.23876394402390436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsmylife87,2018/02/07,How to discipline 2.5 year old? I have a 2.5 year old boy. He is VERY active. He screams all the time. He destroys everything. He never sits still. I have tried time outs. I can’t get him to stay there even for a minute. I keep everything up high but he climbs now. He’s already ruined 10 sets of blinds and curtains. And a big screen tv. And countless toys and everything else you can think of. He even ruins coffee tables and end tables by jumping on them. I can’t have anything. I have to have gates up to keep him out of the bathroom and kitchen so he doesn’t hurt himself. I have shoulder problems so it’s hard to keep picking him up off stuff and to keep putting him back in time out when he won’t sit still for ten seconds. I’m losing my mind. I have no family or friends to help. I’m a stay at home mom while my husband works. The doctor says he’s just being two. I have even taken him to a specialist. No help. ,-0.145440414507771,2.119048922279795,1.4218362694300524,98.61888911917102,90.86528497409329,4.331523316062176,19.11896373056995,5.927762680638738,-0.2659258445595856,714,22,163,6,25,229,112,193,0.158,0.774,0.068,-0.9539,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,1,1,3,13,8,1,0,8,0,15,4,1,2,2,25,24,14,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,1,2,2,4,1,2,10,1,5,1,2,0,3,7,7,0,3,1,5,19,1,24,21,1,35,0,4,2,0,25,12,0,1,15,98,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811203175659348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029921822972922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623673239322766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810179552135326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455122841215267,0.0,0.1108504846774437,0.0,0.0,0.24799176848476154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374446531852869,0.0,0.11798531761965048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669470654031644,0.0,0.0653885004448204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211460315360222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777797476745698,0.13223349001679824,0.12554101227329836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398138181993935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4449752729932746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001681387172904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637121734500992,0.1465804235728621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652751510525412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626589554504301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197567594139348,0.0,0.1258156865512247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952855109169563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667978836196553,0.19989843511129998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432729230994836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019448941359243,0.0,0.0,0.2189372586629855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497226160554848,0.0,0.12225858306372325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032662642346508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911145793544312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611918733583871
parenting,FlapperWapperGlory,2018/02/07,"Our son has changed our names :/ It's a bit odd. I was just curious if anyone has gone through similar. 

He started calling me maya instead of mummy just over a week ago. Then when my husband got home he was calling him daya. 

We keep saying that we are mummy and daddy. He'll maybe copy the word sometimes then go straight back to calling us maya and daya. 

It's mildly infuriating and I don't know why. 

I guess in the scheme of things it's doesn't matter, it's just so weird. 

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parenting,YM_NJ,2018/02/07,"Starting Panic about Flu My wife threw up a bunch yesterday Pm, has been in bed all day. I took my 21 month to Daycare but am terrified he will get sick. 

My parents are in Florida (I’m in NEast) and my mother in law works. 

I think this is just panic but I’m struggling to keep it together when they need me most.",0.5542857142857152,2.6206048181818207,2.5689610389610387,93.4377272727273,84.15151515151516,6.195670995670996,21.549783549783545,7.447530270364453,0.721305627705628,242,8,55,4,7,81,53,66,0.28600000000000003,0.7140000000000001,0.0,-0.9721,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,3,1,0,6,2,0,0,1,10,15,4,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,0,8,0,8,11,3,12,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,5,33,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768247151244604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439436681461104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448877577603268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21991107962988776,0.0,0.0,0.20428868465312985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6465080267596809,0.3059235127635663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500883804934524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28802500145628884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765369888094949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061040108361385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20057604448253705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DjRooski,2018/02/07,"How do you enforce rules and etiquette when the world really doesn't work that way? Now to preface this; I know I'm probably overreacting and overthinking this. I just had a baby and I'm hormonal and I know I have control issues but help me out.
I'm really anxious about returning to a toddler play group that my 2.5 year old used to go to (we're taking a break cause flu season and new baby). It's usually about 3 to 5 moms and their toddlers. We talk about parenting and other subjects while the kids play together with various toys that are at the space (as in they don't belong to any of the children). Now most toddlers don't know how to share or wait their turn which is to be expected. Mine is probably just ahead of herself in that area. I'm not trying to brag, she's just very polite in public. At home is a different story and she's not great at everything so I'm not saying she's perfect.
But anyway, there's this truck that is coveted by all the children. It's the coolest toy there and everyone wants it. So there's always a ""fight"" over it. 
I always tell my daughter to say ""please"" and wait her turn but that really only works with adults. So what ends up happening is some kid grabs the truck and plays with it until another kid snatches it away and my kid is just standing by saying ""please"" every 5 minutes and looking at me every now and then saying ""my turn?"" and I don't know what to do. We talk at home about how just because you say ""please"" doesn't automatically get you what you want but I also want to reinforce to her that she is doing the right thing even though she's not getting the results she's looking for? I mean, I can't snatch a toy away from a child and give it to my kid...right? ",3.7053846153846166,4.706651413105412,4.8120957264957305,85.5690153846154,71.90598290598291,8.123122507122508,26.00581196581196,8.488131031819089,1.591462358974359,1350,42,284,22,25,444,172,351,0.044,0.899,0.057,0.2807,2,0,0,0,1,0,40,2,4,3,5,26,7,1,0,16,0,20,1,0,7,2,58,47,34,0,4,14,3,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,8,23,22,0,3,5,6,0,1,10,1,0,0,1,8,35,6,43,45,4,36,0,0,2,0,43,17,0,3,15,190,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746638766674073,0.16120612570399384,0.0,0.0,0.06587448274203153,0.10157596421874604,0.0,0.1094347976372726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202389429075674,0.0,0.0,0.059050659296043376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951151079759372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864721785926257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120785769287953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579749559644939,0.0,0.0,0.06398129494408537,0.0,0.16323321794273185,0.09256281931562832,0.0870599295076163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122047901364724,0.0929259115129092,0.05505308642584142,0.0,0.0,0.10679880513730132,0.0,0.0,0.08566125012577469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492948629489044,0.0,0.19433572129222926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110643848125313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129474551683453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626917209484257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551912509919308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345221703462145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935570260514897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164809219914886,0.0,0.0,0.07367350907488157,0.0,0.0,0.10756195427795393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31900038522827945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088830958299468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18617096661289392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654517986402143,0.0,0.3851719931066911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283369892282374,0.15571983534307435,0.08466808538166633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435569467905375,0.0,0.09517364880521666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657679329245718,0.3160981223555601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366402001640195,0.10668790820480267,0.07992736230892725,0.17140816496221625,0.07689038457677426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104408733406046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06238068820759879
parenting,momentswithmonsters,2018/02/07,"3.5 y/o is back to biting He went through a biting phase shortly after turning 2, and we thought we were done. Twice this week, I’ve had to sign incident reports from daycare because he bit another child. The first time, he said the kid wouldn’t leave him alone. Today, he says he bit his friend because friend said he could play with him! 

When we talk about the incidents, he says that he knows his teeth are only for biting food. I’m at a loss. How do we stop this biting habit?

**I will not bite him back, so please do not suggest that**",0.8245095271700791,3.21885726605505,1.6451376146789016,98.20167960479887,86.43119266055047,4.454763585038815,19.39378969654199,5.873414542411696,-0.27263359209597704,418,12,92,3,13,129,77,109,0.067,0.828,0.105,0.7494,0,1,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,5,0,10,2,1,1,0,15,17,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,0,2,4,6,1,1,2,1,0,1,3,1,0,2,7,4,10,3,9,7,2,12,0,1,0,0,27,2,0,0,9,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822223875381244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449005877118588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705763878081208,0.0,0.21450467515215094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841652144602541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404750134420838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004929414977966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965579495931175,0.21274922406517568,0.0,0.27186401455257897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669287616748032,0.0,0.0,0.18629670049458766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338114791589245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931309907530758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347214139072926,0.27983156917807106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709501630897434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141515561897675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967794008663012,0.10259293434096198,0.0,0.16677201977916042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137388659273746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112970105114875,0.0,0.0,0.1630995821584678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nmmb,2018/02/07,"Teacher and Essential Oils I just want to preface this that this did not happen to me but my friend... I just wanted to see what your thoughts were. Big deal or no big deal?

My friend's daughter is in 2nd grade and her teacher diffuses essential oils during the day. My friend knew about this since her daughter would come home sometimes and say ""today the room smelled like lavendar from Ms. Teacher's diffuser"" but my friend largely dismissed it as no big deal. Fast forward to last night. My friend's father is dying after a multiple year battle with cancer. My friend sat her kids down to tell them that the end was coming for grandpa (in a kid appropriate way of course) and there was nothing else that could be done to make him better. All of the sudden her daughter jumps up super excited and says ""I know mommy what can save him - Ms. Teacher's oils cure cancer. We just need to call teacher and get her oils and grandpa will get better"". My friend tries to explain to her daughter that everything has been tried and the oils won't help him. The daughter starts crying hysterically ""Why won't you try the oils - Ms. Teacher says oils can make you better!, etc., etc., etc"". 

My friend called me this morning upset and quite angry. She is giving it a day to calm down before she contacts the school but is wondering if her stress over her dad is clouding her judgement and that this isn't really a big deal. 

Thoughts??

UPDATE: So I just talked to my friend. She decided to stop by the classroom after school to talk to the teacher. She said she did not mention what happened at first and instead ask the teacher about what she shares with the kids about essential oils. The teacher said she tells the kids how the smells can make them feel good, happy, relaxed, etc. My friend asked if she ever tells the kids that the oils can heal people. The teacher said she may have mentioned that oils can help people with colds, flu and other illnesses get better. My friend pressed further and asked specifically about cancer and the teacher said ""I may or may not have mentioned cancer as an example of an illness - I can't really remember."" My friend then told the teacher the story about her daughter and the teacher started crying (which completely startled my friend) and apologized for ""being reckless with my words"" (my friend was a little annoyed by her choice of words here). My friend said she asked the teacher not talk about the oils any more with the kids and would prefer if she stopped diffusing them all together. I asked my friend if she intended to talk to the principal.  She said probably not because she has enough stress right now as it is.",6.563352372298308,7.2927980684104625,5.762781852404753,82.30149347699098,65.29778672032194,8.424975660414097,31.324008567534236,8.259297600419973,2.2160160835983653,2108,76,387,25,31,636,218,497,0.14300000000000002,0.693,0.165,0.9405,0,0,0,0,0,0,62,1,3,3,7,17,35,2,4,33,0,36,8,0,5,3,75,73,32,1,11,18,10,2,1,16,8,8,9,2,6,21,25,0,2,10,1,0,4,11,6,0,1,19,26,61,29,48,43,8,40,0,0,1,0,105,16,0,10,22,253,82,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035706511863668786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24543445078344625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032007736212041664,0.0,0.04467952876586972,0.0,0.0,0.18575244502245872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723088908302264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904601391021946,0.05505251546035909,0.0,0.0,0.04192250981427747,0.0,0.11535279066394505,0.06772525007985282,0.21652935051067496,0.0,0.0,0.05449390192318445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373281778798241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386280115150608,0.0,0.04650555369648453,0.05425369304269256,0.2342364190639435,0.0,0.047495522832640136,0.0,0.0,0.047189841595984314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02654908066491429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044662366489339536,0.0,0.0,0.6490675623492747,0.0,0.08229810886486752,0.05036943022189113,0.0,0.04404032038283615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286340678683093,0.055894601663534785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038857464033355,0.0,0.05266873035671003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028856434683831974,0.04280015466721036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02565223299773052,0.05262573634006686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514634732637823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03893322210921712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04927419540359717,0.0,0.05038181393694825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280338585265983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056611349561405636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055847581578321405,0.0,0.0,0.06727456572287692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594801142838431,0.04484062997615548,0.2996766773479473,0.12526685085581785,0.0,0.10627962954066922,0.04184122385436196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04343427377915738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193069480427768,0.0,0.07432934837215116,0.0,0.0,0.08779628652446005,0.12029301820129785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881232054178438,0.13768010932216196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336927216645583,0.0,0.0,0.04977042866645636,0.050172620238568964,0.0,0.10694627325195637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193989357731411,0.041677555782018684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04737933596714459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056941524073922924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459883090182501,0.0,0.0,0.03381274039404713
parenting,zubeye,2018/02/07,"If you could life over again from 18 in an identical but parallel dimension, would you have kids again? If you had it to do over again, would you have children again?

Obviously this question isn’t about whether you love your kids, or whether you would trade them, or whether or not it was a positive experience....

But would you do it again with benefit of hindsight?

Caveat... the kids would be random different kids, second time round. And any other sci-fi plot hole stuff doesn’t apply!",5.146904761904763,7.050659055555558,4.502063492063492,85.685,69.55555555555556,8.6984126984127,28.41269841269841,9.23628265651192,2.2872698412698416,385,14,75,8,7,115,61,90,0.04,0.851,0.109,0.8292,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,8,1,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,15,2,0,0,1,22,16,11,0,8,11,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,6,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,9,2,8,7,0,9,0,0,1,1,16,3,0,7,6,59,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212523696716415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860808594536148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23372129379385104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21882377722232352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800755211442868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019000621772348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505977757872739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25608561637259986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044261171551413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7945584878006837,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,surfnsound,2018/02/07,"2 y/o Sudden disinterest in the potty? We started training my toddler shortly after he second birthday, but had been putting her on the potty for some time just to get her used to it. Over winter break, we put her in regular underwear during the day, with an overnight pull up at night, and she was doing amazing. She had very few accidents, and clearly was upset when she did have one.

When she returned to nursery school after break, we let them know we started potty training, but put her in a pull up during the day now so we didn't have to have a ton of extra underwear with her in case of accidents.

Still, she did really well with them. At times she needed reminding to go, but very often she was asking us to use the potty.

Suddenly all that changed. It started with her no longer asking to go, and then would pee a ton as if she was clearly holding it when we finally just made her sit on the potty. Now she shows no interest in going potty, to the point of even fighting against us just taking her at times.

Today, my wife tried the underwear trick again, this time sing special training underwear that's a little more absorbent than normal, but still less than a pull up. Right away, she asked to use the potty. Problem solved, right? 2 hours later my wife sees he standing watching TV, and a trickle comes down her leg. No reaction at all from my daughter. Before she would have instantly said ""uh oh"" and gotten upset about the accident. This also happened less than a half hour after my wife had preemptively sat her on the potty.

Anyone else have this happen? She seemed so ready for it, but this regression makes me wonder if we are rushing her too fast.",5.478371161548729,6.314185043613707,5.8106809078771695,80.6284112149533,67.72274143302181,8.357276368491322,29.615932354250113,8.418075326091056,2.159213796172675,1313,46,242,18,21,420,169,321,0.098,0.818,0.084,-0.4164,0,0,0,0,2,0,40,9,0,2,0,19,9,2,2,19,0,21,2,2,5,4,47,48,20,0,7,10,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,17,0,1,3,3,0,11,4,5,2,3,15,3,40,4,46,30,10,70,0,0,2,0,45,23,0,6,32,183,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647714960654912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561193074479959,0.11079917368924498,0.0,0.0,0.30328059715808153,0.0,0.10159830613417532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201665401631402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439464693327317,0.09315048246874956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947888612304735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033461876678656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142349322783652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845883859234155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056497138762724615,0.0,0.18437031083587402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191250449794526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21298639825466326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05942928763552379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105774470793664,0.0,0.0,0.10838171992666124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232187927422334,0.07218231205101204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018224290898926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147928403955253,0.10595133682155956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327645503773207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022244531647146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347254040628864,0.0,0.3261227702083693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692753550586742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846968778928276,0.10286308554112417,0.0,0.0,0.10944045484087843,0.08617121812544759,0.09844389735401407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296198545957909,0.0,0.17271675524146726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130559417902933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522223041027704,0.0,0.10250126716518436,0.0,0.0,0.07341794997978861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601510824586318,0.2801870408661117,0.0,0.17844876148816466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722818320873128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727000406222365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363489729458268,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lesliev2001,2018/02/07,"Parents of girls - suggest a first bra Suggest a brand of bra that is super comfy for a picky ""everything is itchy"" tween needing a bit of coverage in her first bra. My 10 year old is insisting on wearing her heavy hoody to cover up her new ""developments"". We live in Florida. I don't want her to be THAT kid. 

I got her a few bras from JCPenney but she says they are itchy and uncomfortable.

She doesn't need anything major. Just coverage so she's not poking through her shirts, bless her.",2.1609375000000037,4.575343218750003,3.395666666666667,87.81600000000002,80.35416666666666,6.756666666666668,25.225,7.908726449838941,1.5448075000000006,383,15,77,7,10,124,69,96,0.092,0.843,0.065,-0.1434,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,5,0,7,2,2,0,0,8,11,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,1,15,2,12,9,3,9,1,0,0,0,18,4,0,0,5,49,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211105113705015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29334192666854697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24148292346328246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570983272616889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21489743040139286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237259840001252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39846322754256097,0.0,0.25950427813599075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28194691412618644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29835051922701017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21367455603888574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848142390593686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302875204722767
parenting,buggiegirl,2018/02/07,"Kid who is terrified of shots has to have blood drawn... HELP My 6 year old has to have blood drawn tomorrow. To say he's scared of shots and needles is an understatement. When he got his flu shot, I was holding his brother for his shot and he literally opened the exam room door and bolted to get away! He cried and screamed for at least 30 minutes before his shot.

And a flu shot is like needle in and out in 2 seconds. A blood draw has to fill a damn VIAL! We aren't telling him he has to have it done until tomorrow morning an hour or two before it, because if we do, he won't eat dinner, he won't sleep, and he'll go crazy with anxiety about it today.

What do we do???? Thankfully it's at the pediatric lab so they're used to all the nutso behavior and are pros at taking blood from kids.",2.9363654618473918,3.844141813253013,4.235120481927712,89.33754016064259,73.63855421686749,7.702008032128515,24.676706827309236,8.07648339933343,1.135583935742972,615,18,140,9,12,203,103,166,0.145,0.805,0.05,-0.9394,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,0,0,3,5,1,1,8,0,19,10,5,1,1,19,26,13,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,3,2,2,2,6,14,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,2,3,2,10,2,22,20,2,19,0,0,0,0,23,9,1,2,9,81,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716704621787399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108374213730394,0.0,0.0,0.13679620233229903,0.0,0.3819070375160296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24650015213078105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296459007695795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296240116278115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724320517663454,0.0,0.12753546259273615,0.0,0.17947848660618532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041503770514555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209953330139194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963374704746062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354770150398413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845716383149082,0.2246701905157353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245686996143882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872586239056486,0.0,0.1961412908345776,0.20660348028599795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127112515836225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21921267564226812,0.0,0.0,0.19381528244620447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451051601123302
parenting,m0rningstar,2018/02/07,"About to Undergo Facial Surgery I'm a mom of a 2 year old wonderful and active little boy.  Tomorrow I'm going to get a surgical procedure, same day, to fix my deviated septum and hopefully breathe better.  I'm ready to have the surgery now because I had multiple sinus infections this last year and I'm done with not being able to breathe well.  I'm not too afraid of the recovery (had a c-section 2 years ago so I can do this, right?). The main thing I am concerned about though is making sure to keep my little one away from my face.  He's had some minor issues with hitting/swatting when he's having fun or not getting his way, but we have been correcting it and it seems to be working.  

I have two weeks recovery time before I go back to work, but of course full healing of a rhinoplasty/septoplasty takes up to a year. 

Any advice or tips for my partner and me as we navigate parenting while I'm not 100% fully operational?  Thanks! ",4.361265508684864,5.397775010752691,5.723333333333333,79.5126923076923,70.39784946236558,9.378990901571546,30.436724565756826,9.661875296680813,2.8461171215880903,736,30,144,17,13,248,123,186,0.0,0.884,0.116,0.9434,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,0,3,9,7,0,1,9,0,15,7,4,1,2,26,32,14,0,1,8,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,1,1,2,5,0,13,6,22,25,4,24,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,6,15,91,18,2,0.15591882092880482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236206727500815,0.13821262715005847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603014491577917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464908647963389,0.1198919489998066,0.0,0.0950466660520254,0.0,0.13267543264661902,0.0,0.0,0.13789752650294254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055474065685382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595590876685411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292229724657445,0.0,0.17722451816895626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486257014234742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627387400682453,0.0,0.1385878120786002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270946492647908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125432398292824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407702369946388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826102386307157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361057419599945,0.0,0.1056546282721601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731293988930098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331538211472355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194263867220724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469516435019473,0.0,0.11723154900177772,0.0,0.0,0.143549101956999,0.0,0.0,0.10358553644660116,0.0,0.15318944991945732,0.0,0.09091751834952956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523100321566614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376110262955428,0.1250686732707905,0.0,0.1401897451126195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690873102456844,0.2270215172407294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016264347152129
parenting,SJG707,2018/02/07,"How to fit 3 car seats in your vehicle Can anyone recommend a brand / type of car seat that would allow 3 car seats in a single row in your vehicle? 

Wife is 6 months preg. I’ve got a 3 and 1 year old. Any recos on what to do? 


I’ve got a Toyota 4Runner and would like to fit all kids in middle row of seats. ",1.3747826086956536,1.9103392318840624,3.8151884057971017,92.2888695652174,76.97101449275362,7.259130434782609,19.597101449275364,7.554174236665415,0.2294614492753629,233,4,59,3,5,82,45,69,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.8823,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,1,7,7,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,10,3,2,14,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,4,28,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416379278580115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24845637880547866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5683828812150202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359725447753713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28362259238654475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728611344989053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5048352801464336,0.0,0.0,0.2288221418886849
parenting,bkruns262,2018/02/07,"Two-year-old HATES to poop I have a 2 year (and 4 months) old boy who is not potty trained and HATES to poop.  He will hold it in for 2 or 3 days, clenching and crying as it becomes more inevitable.  It's a hard stool once in a while, but that doesn't seem to be a factor in whether or not he holds it back.

Have any of you been through this, and what did you find the biggest challenges and best solutions?",2.7110344827586204,3.2450561379310368,3.2213218390804634,97.79336206896556,73.82758620689657,6.2597701149425315,24.84482758620689,5.46131890053228,0.1818137931034478,312,9,78,1,6,97,63,87,0.095,0.795,0.11,0.5082,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,2,0,2,1,4,2,0,5,0,8,2,2,0,0,15,11,11,0,0,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,3,2,10,7,2,10,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,6,49,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148743930129294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171292082654874,0.0,0.0,0.2460257917069836,0.0,0.0,0.23377750726780075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446962467330693,0.1436646171125386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20360263715161497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955315805752225,0.4398674762334121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780842862499135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675075554645916,0.2372368288870533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027963545386176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21760846191087813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869059558441725
parenting,elton_johns_glasses,2018/02/07,"Co-parenting: How far are you from your ex? My ex has a home. I am looking to purchase one this year. We do not have anything in our agreement that puts restrictions on distance, but obviously I want something within a decent distance.

I'm having a hard time figuring out what that distance is while I search. I'm thinking a max of 20 minutes away from parent/school.

How far away are you from the other parent? How is it working for you guys?",2.9016379310344824,5.065515068965524,3.9776867816091968,85.91411637931036,76.47126436781609,6.189080459770117,28.11637931034483,7.1686216300943375,1.5884724137931037,349,15,66,4,8,113,64,87,0.02,0.928,0.052000000000000005,0.3591,3,0,1,0,0,0,12,2,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,3,1,12,14,5,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,10,1,12,14,0,12,0,0,1,0,10,8,0,0,3,49,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524735130286666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4458330678455945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349278149231933,0.0,0.0,0.2125411737070103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379942785898869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992412846295182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607756467277004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.52690528621047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23851499214347816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24012296850544396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826567598056473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202864234775385,0.0,0.0,0.13835004723001645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399439495506007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727303945524346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278968569636595
parenting,datbeerdude,2018/02/07,"Is sleep regression real? My son is 5 months old in 10 days and he was sleeping 10-12 hours at a time for many weeks. All of a sudden he wakes up at least once, around 2 or 3 AM with fussiness that leads to crying/screaming. I am wondering if it is hunger (my wife gets up to feed but he doesn't latch very well), growth spurt, sleep regression, or just a combination. ",3.770526315789475,4.224739210526316,4.466947368421053,90.10963157894741,71.36842105263158,8.185263157894736,24.410526315789475,8.238735603445708,1.0397294736842104,284,7,66,4,5,91,61,76,0.022,0.923,0.055,0.5135,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,7,6,4,1,1,12,9,5,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,11,8,2,15,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,4,7,35,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19753889941475028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310776126945013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593409255262192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185277462581621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497274388628208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711922856710482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328477289111565,0.2363172794738665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525718718610777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6661836402278344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293922337841413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309153068048156,0.0,0.0,0.1779955646029822,0.0,0.19951561154600192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24064212458076226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwingitawaytime,2018/02/07,"Do you ever envy childfree adults? I know I do. Had to do a throwaway for this one but I just wish I would have been childfree. This life isn't for me. And no I do not have PPD....

I just feel like I was sold on something that isn't for every woman-- as society makes it seem. But I don't regret my child, I just regret giving in to the popular belief that having a children is the way of life for women. Like its just something we are born to do... smh. 

I know it's hard to be honest and say this but does antone else feel this way? *sigh* I feel like every mom around me is just faking that they absolutely love it, so no one to trust and talk to about this. I just wish I could be childfree.

*I posted this in another sub which helped a lot. Hoping to get more insight from others as this has been eye opening. Really felt like I was the only one who feels this way at times-- at least surrounded by the other mothers (and fathers) that I am around. Thank you.",0.7589047619047626,2.8479803000000032,2.4612857142857147,94.37933333333336,83.5,5.0095238095238095,18.52380952380953,6.18269132825596,-0.21621904761904803,740,18,164,6,21,243,111,200,0.068,0.6890000000000001,0.243,0.9923,0,0,2,0,0,0,32,1,2,1,0,11,14,0,0,7,0,25,4,1,1,1,38,42,10,0,7,10,3,6,4,0,1,2,1,0,5,20,8,0,0,10,0,1,0,6,3,1,3,7,8,23,10,24,31,3,16,1,2,1,1,18,9,0,3,7,123,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142615861322909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24215125630394715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859102745062896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190211956755199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361692477396748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302669011349815,0.2291845925604959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750781821073905,0.19432775956192336,0.13058865597419475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105837443472973,0.1304709141730614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183612403243085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911630490975036,0.0,0.0,0.13508626727064998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949247574924976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19213242601248776,0.2657858367704691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562882540988215,0.12275219835723895,0.0,0.09078615076113213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929049530400696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27648687491177104,0.10343993319884526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025771588230994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712997200675805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815872825204167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123816240471472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094106403469885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931778306671276,0.0,0.12521755473643864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930714421218509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238695839574207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128041302178299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661591982603636,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrDarcy1815,2018/02/07,"As a parent, what is a good way to react to help your child understand that someone is obvious ""different"" We've all had or heard the stories of kids pointing out someone different in some way to the local socitial norm. Be it skin colour (""look at the black man daddy""), cultural dress (pointing at lady in a Niqab ""Wow! Mum, look a ninja!) Or disfigurements/injuries.

I've got a 5 y.o. and have been lucky so far. But how should we help our kids handle the ""different"" without causing offence and helping our kids learn at the same time?",5.203655462184873,6.322201970588236,5.710504201680673,80.0744117647059,68.50980392156863,8.573669467787116,32.21848739495798,8.841846274778883,2.7095781512605046,419,18,77,7,7,135,74,102,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.9296,4,0,0,0,0,0,23,3,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,10,0,7,1,1,3,2,19,12,8,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,4,3,12,6,3,13,0,0,4,0,16,10,0,4,1,46,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263093510310988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5572325917499791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491149833358079,0.1421883883750674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574902853777336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985839617165543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974057084838841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361226301608958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012679739273341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366602805845047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507717859105072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822299193960903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137536195053066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Luv2f1sh,2018/02/07,"brother lost parental right Ok so he hasn’t yet ... but he’s going to court and he will either get full custody or completely lose his rights. 
A little info- child protective services took my 5 year old nephew from his mother. (Drugs I think) so my brother has been fighting for full custody. Problem is, according to the state , he doesn’t have a good enough living situation (lives with girlfriends parents) to provide for his son.
His exes sister is trying to get full custody. 
My question is- if she gains custody, will I (as his biological aunt) have any rights for visitation? 
I am not close to him and haven’t seen him in a while but I want my nephew in my life, as does the rest of our very large family. (I have 5 singling and we all have children)!",1.723637747336376,4.393036767123292,2.7678538812785405,89.66523592085238,85.43835616438356,5.162252663622526,23.179604261796044,6.691623216298621,0.7876161339421608,592,22,115,7,18,188,95,146,0.086,0.847,0.067,-0.5763,2,0,1,0,2,0,25,2,0,0,3,3,6,1,0,5,1,15,2,0,0,1,18,23,12,0,3,6,10,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,1,3,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,4,1,20,2,15,17,8,18,0,2,1,0,30,10,0,3,4,75,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595735830228145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878375476866948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922051277023052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977455009172356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618956865329305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074818408334127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817611408772455,0.0,0.09690869973624157,0.14302150907033698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044114901825265,0.0,0.1709027582421354,0.3011391428458548,0.0,0.0,0.190764825870732,0.18613936980089826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892883188226374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786777384118757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316167126450484,0.0,0.0,0.1910179839719293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368615744235426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916681714308353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926036227899848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945058111930446,0.11576980107456696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069432356239125,0.10057530206496926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980731100323413
parenting,MommieBrained,2018/02/07,"Patience with your own limitations after children Hi folks - long time lurker, love the support and camaraderie in this sub. Not sure what I'm hoping to get from this post, maybe just commiserate with me, or if you have any ideas or success stories to share, I'd love to hear them.

I'm a working mom (college prep school science and math teacher) who shoulders the majority of the child care for our two boys. My spouse is an amazing and very involved dad, but his commute and work schedule mean I'm on my own for the morning and again after school until he gets home at 6:30pm. My 3yo is in nursery school, while my infant is with his grandma some days but more lately has been cared for by a friend who lives near my school (I can pop over to breastfeed)

For the most part, everyone is happy, healthy and I know I have a good life. But I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water. I'm exhausted every.single.day. My younger son is a better sleeper, but neither kid sleeps through the night and I'm not able to get to bed until after I've done my grading and lesson prep once the kids are asleep (I don't have many free periods during the day, though I try to get as much work done as I can before I pick up my sons).

The real challenge for me is coming to terms with just *not* having the hours in the day to prepare the stellar lessons for my students that I was capable of before my first pregnancy. I also feel **dumb**, like, all of the time. My ability to engage with my students, offer them challenging, interesting work, and just *keep up in conversation* with colleagues is a struggle. There are times in the middle of a class when it will feel like my brain has switched to a white static station. Our school is also going through a lot of changes and growth right now, and I have not been on the ball for some important decisions and meetings with students and other faculty. 

Basically I feel like I've slouched into being incompetent at my own job. I know I'm (probably) being foolish, and that this is just a phase and my children won't be this little and this needy forever yada yada yada, but I'm so understand the appeal of staying home now. I kept my career for the intellectual stimulation, but honestly I'm just braindead half the time, so that's not really happening. I miss the teacher I used to be. The one I am now feels like a boring bummer to be with and be taught by.

How do I get to a place of peace with all this, instead of feeling like I'm phoning it in at work every day? I haven't even touched on how after the emotional rollercoaster of being with teenagers all day, my kiddos sometimes have a very cranky mommy through the afternoon.

Help?",5.511187832523709,6.057258545801528,5.938223455933379,80.77032037936618,67.54961832061069,8.641591487393015,31.33680314596345,8.575989854853784,2.340315012722648,2114,81,409,30,33,681,265,524,0.048,0.765,0.187,0.9973,1,0,0,0,0,0,63,2,2,2,13,20,31,1,1,35,0,39,10,5,5,4,81,80,39,0,2,19,5,7,6,1,2,2,1,3,7,15,29,1,4,14,1,1,3,9,5,0,4,7,9,47,27,72,64,16,56,0,1,1,2,35,21,1,8,36,278,62,23,0.07563670247421983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097328728369128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143555137551458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872252579838225,0.0,0.0,0.06689451678701748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443557452059625,0.0,0.0,0.15423331818887565,0.0,0.08001360214888056,0.06515432185020285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926764949655813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480521426664828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508110986166613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995732863749185,0.0,0.06372718401875853,0.07227411055379236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294651363975439,0.270174376802552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064336540485544,0.0,0.0,0.05843672870662942,0.0,0.1975852762650508,0.0,0.04298608106459165,0.06344047747633283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688528620390666,0.08051667624257454,0.0,0.0,0.07762507792774162,0.0,0.08524806079654118,0.0,0.050697687315208406,0.0,0.15173955924281274,0.07512431194947411,0.07448691608363546,0.0,0.0,0.08538463056232674,0.0,0.0,0.0750577562710116,0.1344587529112804,0.0,0.0,0.08313590721834885,0.0,0.0853214948937859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05342443980057846,0.22171363362893354,0.0758078463538743,0.06678859401336344,0.06693610154146337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643036196495051,0.1365301540740185,0.0,0.0,0.0766837446589774,0.07598723389914347,0.08239054265356524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858479178959758,0.0,0.0,0.055601679189079926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097992150131173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055061962011817,0.051253387089777065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819071780367312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902425563406151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243905305461579,0.0,0.08154915803371075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609112639718232,0.04845480839344198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459333064106265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38274190477367376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569132639617547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480663277247779,0.0,0.0,0.08061866105402664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790719039148236,0.0,0.0,0.08583163363226831,0.07128669695834651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431267615240686,0.0,0.17641747786786574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135235605644902,0.0,0.07388606787459341,0.07874047474724326,0.0,0.0653258260362776,0.0,0.12481640171504778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27532210115005384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CGorgz,2018/02/07,"Tell me how to do this! My daughter is 5 months and is exclusively breastfed. I recently blew out my knee and required surgery so I’ve been laid up and she’s now in a routine that I don’t know how to break. During the day, she will only nap on my lap. At night, she is swaddled arms in. She feeds to sleep always and is then moved to the bassinet. 
She’s been fighting to get her arms out of the swaddle but when they’re out, she flails like a crazy person. I want to transition her but I don’t know where to start and she hates other forms of transition sleep sacks. I don’t know if I need to just rip the band aid off or what to do. Tell me what to do, I’m so sleepy! ",-0.18893835616438184,1.777870568493153,1.4660102739726035,100.80463184931507,86.46575342465755,4.745890410958904,18.029109589041095,5.985473137389443,-0.5759438356164384,517,13,130,4,16,167,86,146,0.067,0.899,0.034,-0.6792,0,0,0,0,2,0,14,0,0,0,1,8,3,2,0,6,0,13,6,5,2,0,21,22,15,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,8,1,1,3,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,20,1,21,19,1,20,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,2,9,84,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223049663599925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899138467192022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070051845458556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280883966885928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808942887773499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128666696616766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440117350832114,0.2455419784481187,0.0,0.17130138803333253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21680039846646995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570418216471553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172126854897515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22810835479426714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623817377099585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635199947238409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038503631561113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626395620000434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loooooow,2018/02/07,3yr old’s rash is not going away My 3 yr old developed this “rash” about 6 months ago. It’s right above his belly button. Circular. Very slightly raised. Not scaly and not itchy. But it does grow very slowly. We’ve done fungal testing as it came back negative. Once we put hydrocortisone on the rash goes away but always comes back when we stop. We have an appt with the a dermatologist but I wanted to see if you guys have experienced something similar? The pediatrician thinks it’s a mild case of eczema but it looks nothing like eczema,2.14891710231516,4.954743951456312,3.1951456310679625,86.26686333084395,85.2135922330097,6.2760268857356225,19.57356235997013,7.61054688173877,0.7969229275578789,429,12,84,8,13,137,78,103,0.131,0.855,0.014,-0.8738,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,3,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,4,3,3,0,0,18,11,8,0,2,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,2,3,7,1,8,9,0,17,0,0,2,0,6,4,0,1,9,44,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833771314311854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801466062850514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568405822920939,0.2920476505664961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21719864994234056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358477650719885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618555470047275,0.19433688862713447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079263549091742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803400716528965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277710256677098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594708449227128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515789084527534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221722528178175,0.0,0.3985428896635429,0.2022406915441235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090514997723265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217628020236907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132824956793434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619674768316626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876756383317744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168229136210547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133800275894557,0.11200981723317728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sxb417,2018/02/07,"Do you think about your own mortality more since you had kids? I never really thought it or how anyone would be impacted if something were to happen to me. Sure, my family and friends would be sad, but they would move on eventually.  Lately, that’s all I worry about. I guess watching the latest episode of This Is Us latest didn’t help either. I had my first baby girl eight months ago. And all I worry about is if I leave this world, will she be okay? I worry if I leave too soon, will she remember things about me. I even started a private online journal for her, documenting everything since becoming pregnant. It’s nothing sad, just random things in my life with pictures and how much I love her watching her grow. 

Do other parents worry like this too? Or is it just me? I would like to add that my dad did pass away suddenly when I was 15. Fortunately, I had friends and family that helped me along the way. ",3.8729855537720717,5.5236420449438235,4.6820545746388476,84.14011235955056,72.37078651685394,7.782343499197433,25.63563402889245,8.418075326091056,1.6409409309791323,716,23,141,12,14,231,109,178,0.123,0.7390000000000001,0.138,0.5873,1,0,1,0,0,0,22,1,3,1,1,13,9,0,0,3,1,21,2,0,2,4,31,27,13,1,7,9,2,0,2,2,6,1,0,0,2,12,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,8,2,31,7,14,10,6,19,0,2,2,1,19,4,0,7,13,109,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077714569760727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738096811575909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741213670219755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801802779014158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825405980641086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231374193438516,0.0,0.2356185950512669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062982484028824,0.0,0.0,0.1931008990234679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376670292893254,0.0,0.11050934218320732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752766993725976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409700520089789,0.2646474592072439,0.0,0.0,0.08826903544779102,0.1221067153229434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127890629704031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974876403411186,0.13282187093882644,0.0918663182921098,0.0,0.09638350750645416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991076590479885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876286878540825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005810104255584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415650907052795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20675067562654573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620695277501744,0.0,0.0,0.08845343583364773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778144991805965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604720277332624,0.08007484875108446,0.0,0.09921112894938856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032186863685787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919427754459598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076468183671206,0.0,0.3550965020924076,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,businesskittycat,2018/02/07,"Kids ""disobedient"" at school, punk at home Okay, so my kids 10F and 6M, are having a lot of problems at school. Not following teacher directions, not doing work they are super capable of doing, not engaging with the class and doing their own things. The 5th grader is having a hard year because of some mental health stuff and it's Kindy's first year in an elementary school, obviously. 5th grader talks about how she hates school everyday, ~all the time~ and how she wants to be homeschooled. Little loves school but we are getting very upset teacher emails about how he won't participate with the class unless it is an activity he likes and he is starting to have huge meltdowns and exhibit behaviors we have never seen before. 

Here's the thing, I appreciate the idea of not following rules just because they are rules, and I don't think that ""obeying"" adults no matter what is healthy. I want them to be respectful to everyone they meet so like, it's good to be in a setting that isn't what they would choose I guess...but fuck, if I could financially swing homeschooling or like a farm school or a private Waldorf school I would. My kids are bright and at home they are altruistic, super fast learners, and really respectful of my and my partner's requests of them if they are reasonable (so not into authority for authority's sake but we do use some behaviorist style positive reinforcement). We talk about the civil rights movement, economic systems, physics, outer space, technology, we read to or with them every day. Our home life is a little unconventional but nothing wild. I'm getting the feeling that traditional school just isn't for them but we don't have other options. 

How can I help my weird, quirky, kind of hyper hippie kids be positive and respectful at a traditional public school that is really not set up for them? ",6.740120675784392,7.827810640117994,6.883852239206224,73.154064762671,65.01769911504425,10.293429873960848,32.223250201126305,10.33465798735191,3.4009575221238943,1473,57,257,35,22,473,176,339,0.057,0.747,0.196,0.9952,0,0,0,0,0,0,43,7,0,12,4,13,19,2,1,17,1,35,4,0,7,3,64,50,28,0,8,18,0,2,3,1,3,2,0,3,6,13,21,0,0,5,1,0,3,13,5,0,1,1,4,33,14,32,41,5,30,0,0,2,2,38,15,1,9,12,174,46,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397980710156098,0.0,0.07257259232091504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809438903807775,0.0,0.0,0.055002784268751034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185761647960794,0.08149497577125753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04312345409206125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254471577583214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884606283013207,0.08911742906883895,0.0,0.0,0.0715343313841649,0.0,0.0,0.09395277590694956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640001778717664,0.08420283431081084,0.0,0.09065563935729873,0.0,0.0,0.05716579239445106,0.0,0.2566481609240389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627816026508637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881284195739209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024042902472902,0.12500013533407167,0.1709591042917658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725075948384065,0.07697446231473798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594880638344596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577826316603635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183476738070218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160773255223608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530965317029401,0.0,0.10927352563088104,0.08768880192658292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728342676961801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7768310897347995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060366275628806886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763272192316227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710023422164075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332121941377432,0.05464819252169966,0.0,0.0,0.04973128681316467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736602162139577,0.0,0.07037035499767645,0.10060846139498847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06208964120233789,0.0,0.0,0.12117026952152192,0.0,0.0,0.10984351409474187
parenting,keeks92,2018/02/07,10 month old cries before bed So I’ve been trying to sleep train my son since he was 6 months old. He’s 10 months today and he still cries every night when I put him to bed. I’m not sure what to do for him. ,0.171875,1.2105957708333364,1.8733333333333315,103.005,80.875,4.800000000000002,12.0,3.1291,-1.8661000000000003,159,0,44,0,4,52,36,48,0.155,0.845,0.0,-0.7478,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,4,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,9,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796841128875784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4594755911541528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621508940072886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5008166284449457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626998125836886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389284945805749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210250169455854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730082861989004,0.0,0.20929771263446525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702480035746287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971182607707889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19824658772354606,0.0,0.0,0.14199685978218604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,treemanswife,2018/02/07,"At what age do kids develop an awareness of others' emotions? Today I was grocery shopping with my kids, ages 5 and 1.  Little guy starts melting down about being confined to the cart, and I go into GTFO mode.

Despite my attempt to tell the older one that we needed to hurry up now, she was totally oblivious.  Didn't seem to grasp either my or her brother's stress, just kept chattering and dawdling along, asking for this or that.

So... obviously this is part of being 5.  I kept my cool with her, grabbed a few groceries, and escaped.  But I spent the drive home wondering when I can expect her to start picking up on when (to put it tactlessly) to shut up and move.  Or to react appropriately to any other emotional situation, for that matter.",5.811205673758862,6.5389684184397145,6.671773049645393,75.13333333333334,66.94326241134752,9.10354609929078,32.687943262411345,9.150863307647796,2.9357432624113464,581,24,103,10,9,193,102,141,0.021,0.943,0.037000000000000005,0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,0,1,6,2,0,1,5,1,8,0,0,2,2,29,18,12,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,9,10,0,3,3,1,2,4,1,1,0,1,6,2,14,1,24,10,4,22,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,5,9,79,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406823126312013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980552306560324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4766152858821498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040171636726935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976912652306975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125071990884122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21233372731507494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22516765976734548,0.0,0.15708732536140801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355799883158818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294176294787953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129721488319804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19286425488306405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23813317974607265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29990321630413697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24267845640779176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851700506422121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008131641242572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297470189773265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flat5,2018/02/07,"Is anyone else seeing constant Russia ""memes"" with their middle schoolers? I'm trying to figure out what's going on with my middle school aged son.  I notice a theme lately about Russia in the stuff his friends talk about and chat about online.

He regularly starts humming the Russian national anthem.  His friends post Russia memes and give each other Russian nicknames.

When I ask him about it, he says ""he has no idea"" why they do it, but that ""it's just a joke"".  But it seems like a compulsive joke at this point, and that it isn't going away after months has me a little bit concerned.  I'll admit that the political situation with possible Russian interference in the election gives me pause about how this influence is coming into the minds of middle schoolers.  Where are they getting it from?  He says he doesn't know.

I'm curious if this is just an isolated thing, or is this more widespread, some kind of trend or fad?

Would you be concerned about it?
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parenting,sundrops14,2018/02/07,"Going from 1 child to 2 Parents of Reddit.. Advice or encouragement??I have a year and a half old and a week old baby and while I know I am dealing with hormones leaving my system, I have cried every day over feeling like I am inadequately splitting my attention between the two.
I feel so guilty that I cannot give all my attention to my oldest like I used to. And I feel guilty I cannot give the new baby the same devoted attention that my first received.
I want to love them together at the same time but the only time I dont feel guilt is when one is napping and I get to give the other my full attention.
Someone please set me straight before I lose my mind thinking I am damaging my children.😓",4.045633802816901,5.055285112676058,5.487436619718308,81.01214084507043,71.11267605633802,8.215211267605634,29.69295774647888,8.548686976883017,2.2019864788732395,554,22,110,9,10,187,87,142,0.115,0.753,0.132,-0.3411,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,1,9,0,10,1,0,1,1,24,24,10,0,1,2,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,10,1,0,2,3,3,0,4,0,4,24,4,11,24,4,20,0,2,0,1,9,4,0,1,14,75,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535097489489357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367482288430912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17255960713033147,0.10131217874589016,0.1619562883621963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841121708159936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235787572978752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31772435866285675,0.11222748075508512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133623475783325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207476242548961,0.4520946068373646,0.08927973930219538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633436613996902,0.0,0.0,0.16633911606175975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349569690081796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574721328551984,0.0,0.0,0.14178283133441458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861944486346127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172168243495607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296859726231717,0.0,0.10645048174673076,0.11947652912327746,0.0,0.0,0.17443351245540295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244126278517666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310463837665018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065903976507866,0.0,0.0,0.18320472630113555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345732187114133,0.0,0.0,0.13567816776448532,0.0,0.0,0.0926576950577116,0.0,0.12601076487444554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116293094971256
parenting,deadslothy,2018/02/07,"Am I a bad mom? My daughter just turned 13 months old, she's a sweet heart. Very smart! Always follows and copies me at home, it's amazing! 

My concern is that I've always been a very quiet person. I find myself spending long periods of time not saying anything at home, when I catch myself I try to force myself to make conversation with her, narrate what I'm doing, try to teach her words (she only says mama, papa and the letters S, H and B)

I also work from home as well as being a stay at home mom so maybe I'm not spending enough time giving her attention when she would like it you know?

I feel guilty often that I'm my interacting with her enough...",2.622177747625507,4.192806305970148,4.0429986431478975,87.77343962008142,75.49253731343283,6.066757123473543,21.883310719131615,6.574015621080383,0.4353820895522391,511,13,105,4,11,169,88,134,0.047,0.8190000000000001,0.133,0.8869,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,1,0,1,7,6,0,0,5,0,6,1,1,1,0,16,15,9,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,3,4,1,5,5,0,0,4,0,2,2,2,1,1,0,1,5,21,5,12,12,2,14,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,1,9,63,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033588661586853,0.2296069475186833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353892019322948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520057297987747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851232137599408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976261685629014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610359762880438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323549883398863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349708135082422,0.0,0.0,0.5535872978137687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582561603901891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740598383483552,0.0,0.0,0.12210057734262822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920971543854927,0.0,0.13861107707337075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231814812096961,0.11012766264731083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447780477883294,0.0,0.0,0.10493366463464658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204715316551208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944120354161856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705943179539266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090476891347966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734740081964915,0.15007354646831786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22768213804319445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405309202713392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044501167963334,0.0,0.0,0.09801110862962524,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsmayne2018,2018/02/07,"I feel like a crap mom I’m apologizing in advance for any errors in grammar or spelling. It’s been a long day. The post is long because I want to put how we got to this point.

My daughter was diagnosed the beginning of the year with late stage Lyme disease. The specialist has said she’s probably had it for a couple of years. I’m already beating myself up for not having her checked for it earlier. She never had the bullseye rash or any of the large physical symptoms of Lyme. She had more of the “really it could be anything including her trying to get attention” type of symptoms. Tired,  muscle aches, low grade fever, headaches...the list goes on. It was always “shes not getting enough sleep” or “it’s growing pains” or “she has a virus, she will be fine tomorrow”. 

Finally, we had a full blood workup done because she was diagnosed with ADHD. I pushed for the blood work to rule out anything else it could be (thyroid, sugar etc) that can have similar symptoms. We get the results back, and she’s come back Lyme positive. Her pediatrician immediately prescribed 20 days of antibiotics. Told me she would be just fine after. Since I’m known to be a bit cautious when it comes to meds with her, I called a pediatric rheumatologist. He evaluated her, and was SO GLAD I didn’t just start her on this treatment. She’s so advanced, it wouldn’t have made a diff. (We’re looking for a new pediatrician)

Today, we had to bring her in to have a spinal tap done. The concern is that she now has neurological Lyme. The treatment for this is a special IV only medication she will have to take for 3-4 weeks. She’s terrified of needles, and having what they call a “port” in is going to cause a lot of tears. She won’t be able to participate in soccer while it’s in. She’s going to be devastated. She wanted to try out for travel this year. Now we know the Lyme has played a major factor in her ability to stay on the field for longer periods of time (she gets worn out very quickly).

So as I am watching them sedate my child and shove this long needle into her back, I’m in tears. Why didn’t I listen to her earlier? Why didn’t I take her serious when she said “mommy I don’t feel good” and push to have her tested earlier?! How do I apologize for all the times I’ve yelled at her for faking being sick? Or for being lazy when she comes home from school? 

If she does have neurological Lyme, and that’s what’s causing the ADHD, is it my fault? Had she gotten treatment earlier, we wouldn’t be here today. 

Today, I felt like a pretty crappy, failure of a parent. I just want my baby to be ok.",2.522898161536876,4.5617141747572845,4.218161536872547,84.33688080975006,77.15533980582524,7.1014253253460025,24.355505060937823,8.058908269544373,1.4510074364800658,2020,69,403,35,47,678,248,515,0.111,0.81,0.079,-0.9515,1,0,0,0,0,0,64,6,0,2,4,20,15,1,0,31,1,57,22,6,6,2,56,91,22,0,9,11,3,3,2,0,6,15,4,1,1,21,22,1,0,6,3,1,13,10,6,0,0,24,10,60,9,64,48,8,69,0,1,2,0,55,20,1,7,35,272,81,5,0.08547384760169258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054459094626476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432251627033164,0.0,0.07112108837177843,0.0,0.0,0.11625029478455225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067538746477876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971723384598696,0.0,0.1042081283168418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933153040486068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455670990078873,0.0,0.0,0.17561037268373494,0.0,0.22088445401149065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648782447934402,0.09457518663270878,0.0,0.11024712125621032,0.0,0.0,0.17350831221072113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479874003433573,0.17493884396513476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140243190664408,0.0,0.0,0.08831733317222974,0.0953259340671127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643629109836062,0.06106253380513148,0.0820682977868633,0.09363242211899014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862623027568975,0.0,0.09715351467526567,0.07169140808906763,0.06836124411165008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573723825604919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04697419130766318,0.0,0.09641822307345732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351640897475744,0.0,0.0,0.22692499626711715,0.07177650484681945,0.0,0.0,0.0726668086572437,0.0,0.08087742127189676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494217598584913,0.08610590915386873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010593727076456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592270056598712,0.08255117463497141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500671270017203,0.09095020020253686,0.0,0.09490859261378584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080041357268805,0.0,0.08186031884866382,0.08695763141381313,0.09215526428053256,0.0,0.0,0.08592482487481974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05475673545659812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16261040476672375,0.0,0.0,0.0865040970038507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070484999848976,0.0,0.08553557579221276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06049882926395726,0.09110374888610533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665201650296593,0.12853139208978126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968097579804276,0.09823961410721972,0.2430576399951909,0.08167392428468571,0.0,0.11606226374167572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052487581686896,0.1512440695995231,0.0,0.06856196484306863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154253705707981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222597904264395,0.0,0.0,0.060718168971749815,0.0,0.0,0.16512706645595196
parenting,WhoSaidCake,2018/02/07,Sleep schedule for a new preschooler I recently started my newly 3 yo in preschool. She's only stayed home before so I'm starting her slow at 2 mornings a week. She's absolutely exhausted at pickup. She dropped her nap a while ago and generally sleeps 7pm-7 am with a quiet time at noon. If I let her nap for an hour after school then she won't go to bed until 9 pm. If I don't make her nap and just do quiet time then she begs to go to bed at 4-5 pm because she is so tired. What has been other parents' experience and how did you guys handle it. Just let her nap and deal with the late bedtime?,1.6250894774516844,3.211404551181108,3.685955619183968,89.1998282032928,78.29133858267717,6.192984967788117,23.356478167501788,6.980632752743323,0.6970535433070868,466,15,103,5,11,159,86,127,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.7604,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,10,4,2,2,0,13,16,13,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,1,3,6,0,0,0,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,16,0,14,11,0,27,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,2,18,63,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386404903615195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268674843842053,0.0,0.15729918495431086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057883607331988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808250348126588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21011630944628898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303690358678687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542604603335702,0.0,0.1820463219944564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20852607611036464,0.0,0.0,0.3780563961134463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339308547047237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853546742732768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059162560871086,0.0,0.0,0.20526116097194572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825233982500778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187084550416788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369979811268705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26168462918202884,0.19703233132278405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558251213758586,0.21246524355430016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828065736338628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pikachubearie,2018/02/07,"I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant and I need advice how to stop smoking. The title pretty much says it. Please no judgement..

I'm having trouble to stop smoking, I also have a 1 year old. I'm not a pack a day type of smoker. I usually smoke 3-5 smokes a day... I usually smoke when I'm stressed... This pregnancy wasn't planned, but I want to stop being selfish.

It was EXTREMELY hard for me to cut it all off with my first one due to major daddy issues back then. Thankfully he came out healthy.. 

I've cut down to 1 cigarette or half of one.. 

What do you guys suggest? 

I want to have a healthy pregnancy. 

UPDATE: thank you everyone for your responses! I'm going to book an appointment to see my doctor this week. in the meantime I'm going to stop smoking :)",0.7672549019607828,3.1232619673202637,2.995588235294118,88.72514705882355,86.18954248366012,6.275816993464053,24.18627450980393,7.594959193182576,1.4285529411764717,583,24,119,11,18,198,98,153,0.175,0.71,0.115,-0.6754,1,0,5,0,0,0,28,0,3,0,2,4,7,2,1,8,0,7,1,0,1,1,16,22,7,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,4,0,4,0,1,0,3,3,5,0,4,3,3,12,2,19,18,3,26,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,19,68,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622498508952353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196658337154864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506274999017595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17114655028412218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193008873090306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316131901838528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142985974667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728240966980275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700859865597556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816561553666371,0.0,0.0,0.1340466808473906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618368971730492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000149612433076,0.11095503252058146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702040672050288,0.0,0.20279780551743548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425810902712626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522361242138722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189985206932704,0.0,0.0,0.11924249013961236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5004178590295277,0.17141036656408767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27553400486998675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296112770253856,0.0,0.17652129810661688,0.0,0.2400619158202722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636227126301204
parenting,Hrathix,2018/02/07,"First night letting baby sleep by herself  Hey fellow parents, first time posting here so I apologize if I’m not doing something correctly. Tonight me and my fiancé decided to let my 3 and a half month old baby girl fall asleep on her own. And to our surprise after about 10 minutes of crying, she fell asleep!

The night’s not over though, and she usually wakes up in the middle of the night for a feeding. My question is after her midnight feeding, do we just place her awake in her crib again? Or should we rock her to sleep like usual and slowly ease her into a new routine? 

Thank you!",4.7613260869565215,5.8648709913043495,5.099728260869568,84.10350543478263,69.52173913043478,7.141304347826088,29.15760869565217,7.1686216300943375,1.645021739130434,464,17,87,4,8,147,84,115,0.026,0.868,0.106,0.8079,1,0,1,0,0,0,11,3,1,0,2,6,3,0,0,6,0,6,7,5,0,1,17,8,9,0,2,5,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,18,3,16,5,1,26,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,3,16,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509469038233725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866603174315975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446152979677051,0.0,0.08232296933609566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449898183201228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274305616247114,0.0,0.4743912248454147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681751842421592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871047200278496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605172763327073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138108908534132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887640216783931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372531299910608,0.0,0.0,0.1297232834782317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513664752288334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655551819717986,0.0,0.09825654640508563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711686223817138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tolerablycool,2018/02/07,"My 7 year old son is suddenly throwing massive tantrums. He's always tested boundaries a bit like any child his age. But just within the last few weeks, he's started having melt downs over the most inconsequential things. Asking him to brush his teeth or help with laundry now is grounds for a huge screaming, crying fight. We can't reason with him and whenever we ask why he's acting this way he just says, ""I don't know."" My wife and I are at a loss. Any suggestions?",3.313586956521738,5.337527315217397,3.7732608695652203,88.49293478260874,74.76086956521739,6.339130434782609,24.54347826086957,7.1686216300943375,0.9506260869565208,371,12,74,4,8,116,73,92,0.138,0.782,0.079,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,0,1,3,5,2,0,5,0,6,1,1,1,0,13,10,4,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,3,10,1,8,10,3,17,0,1,0,0,19,6,0,2,9,40,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593052891214825,0.0,0.0,0.3366017764806229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627372870174588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27019369863795306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27185485386902625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588654303686431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601338622154754,0.20173642485206025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091053910136487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596978904873332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544597320417297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681304768344074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517386465975615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442057875767094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644511019671906,0.19852060769350932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22332017078431185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593746895211981
parenting,imeowxx,2018/02/07,"How to get toddler to sit still during a haircut? My son is 2 and 1/2 and he will throw the biggest tantrum of his life if we take him in for a haircut. His hair is getting long and we keep having to gel his hair to the side. I'm not sure why he's so scared, he got a haircut once when he was 1 ish and again when he was almost 2. He's never been nicked or spooked during those visits so I'm stumped. Any suggestions? TIA. ",0.2469892473118307,1.9470014408602199,2.0163440860215083,99.01118279569893,82.9784946236559,4.563440860215055,21.086021505376344,5.033348758259628,-0.3574817204301075,326,10,80,1,9,107,64,93,0.095,0.861,0.043,-0.59,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,7,3,1,1,5,0,7,3,2,1,2,14,14,11,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,2,7,1,7,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,3,6,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032220668386713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20592226538954714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31641311589390325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421860912853261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691528549854806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388478157035293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679787286644013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335469663333488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32248446117761664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031672279961174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418257273282213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853963404150247,0.0,0.2276766306859892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732403610931825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trying2improvemyself,2018/02/08,"Help with my 4 year old son that bites when I try to discipline him I don't know how best to handle this. His usual punishment for misbehaving is timeout. Lately he just won't stay put in the corner, so I stand there to keep him from getting away. This has been working okay until he discovered he can bite me to escape. Where do I go from here? Also, any tips on getting him to stay put in timeout? I'm truly at a loss for what to do.",2.445559006211184,3.5500511956521765,4.157453416149071,88.66456521739131,75.08695652173913,6.9962732919254655,22.92546583850932,7.447530270364453,0.7668335403726707,338,9,75,4,7,114,68,92,0.124,0.78,0.096,-0.5759,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,3,8,4,1,0,2,1,8,0,0,1,0,6,14,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,10,2,17,12,1,19,0,1,0,0,9,7,0,0,6,50,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805368948002317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535217391571215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21210507966416875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369168668841778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23589625799941136,0.0,0.12830226853029622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513194069030599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066219803044666,0.0,0.0,0.12406952702213858,0.0,0.2546624646433749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23689281868865136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.453894024991542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4812514582831706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327342277417014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24863820606800754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643529685853448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537938432020792
parenting,DeepComp25,2018/02/08,am i a bad mom? I can't help to think that i am a bad mother to my son. My son is 3 years old and me and my partner live with his parents and family. Ever since i had my son i was always there for him no matter what then after my partners mother started to get involved with my son and helping me out with him but after a while she would get him and i felt like i had no say about it. She to this day takes care of my son more than i have and it kills me to see him more attached to her than he is with me I feel like its my fault for letting this happen but then again i blame it on my living situation me and my partner have not been able to get a place on our own as of yet since living expenses are so high and I am the only one working at the moment. I know that if it was just us as a family i would be able to give the world to my son and have him to me all my self. I just want to leave and have my privacy. I cant help to think that the way he is growing up wont really feel like i'm his mom at all. I feel like i'm a horrible mom and just wish i could bond with my son without anyone interfering. ,2.7799343832021,2.105433397637796,4.811637795275594,90.72561942257221,73.29133858267716,8.033175853018374,23.626246719160104,7.3011,0.5886155380577422,849,17,221,8,15,297,121,254,0.118,0.779,0.103,-0.5948,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,1,9,9,1,0,10,0,24,0,0,0,3,41,44,20,1,6,8,13,4,4,3,3,0,1,0,4,11,17,0,0,7,0,1,1,7,4,0,1,6,6,49,5,35,32,5,24,0,0,1,0,37,9,0,1,17,163,60,1,0.2235743365048651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301587906936204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781641872232252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18667523227528773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397446825757225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925295764489942,0.0,0.0,0.07209347560112801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111789362048823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076598685039102,0.0,0.16956885329105048,0.2395823260070105,0.10733321209128716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521254470002534,0.10723643794487467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885302370283354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22478574752169125,0.1181092808001222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236759390244222,0.0,0.06143530418452479,0.0,0.0,0.11836647038644547,0.0,0.1143099533504814,0.0,0.21845425528065973,0.0,0.2961303528082825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927713411791989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730182845518447,0.0,0.07574987828250193,0.08501917877870016,0.0,0.0,0.12412642122487955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679379813786885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161372245654543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889764300272995,0.0,0.0,0.08907989996372516,0.0,0.1166183963627855,0.0,0.0,0.18494300151026927,0.12565346081448014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912353305446915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405003844108706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325740729627834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446619941668236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593496814094399,0.08873145089439717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854972662531827,0.10775884106094323,0.0,0.08138238986651906,0.0,0.0,0.1588207939919676,0.0,0.0,0.07198727126828823
parenting,LowOvergrowth,2018/02/08,"Disruptions to my schedule may actually be depressing me, and I’m feeling desperate right now. We haven’t had a normal school week since November, what with holidays and school closures, delays, and early dismissals. 

I’m just so tired of the 5:00 AM texts announcing that the school schedule has changed in one way or another. 

I’m tired of having to scramble to move my *own* work schedule around because of it. 

I’m tired of my kids’ crankiness and hard-headedness, which I swear only gets worse with this lack of structure. 

I’m just *tired*—so tired that I fear I’m depressed. 

My husband and parents help out a lot. Don’t imagine a single-mother situation or anything like that. So why do I keep fantasizing about being hospitalized with some virulent strain of the flu, in a bare, white room, and having nothing expected of me but sleeping and getting well? 

Why do I feel dread the minute I pull into the driveway and know my (perfectly nice!) family awaits me inside?

I know, I know: I should be grateful with the social support I have; I should be happy my kids are healthy; I should be pleased to have gainful employment, safe housing, and a reliable supply of food and clothes. *So* many people have it infinitely worse than I do. 

Yet here I am, crying on my iPhone. 

*Sigh.*

Anyway. Thanks for listening. ",3.75567493112948,6.412216929752066,4.384648760330581,81.58636707988984,75.98347107438016,7.5044077134986225,29.504820936639124,8.472884824447931,2.56328870523416,1035,47,181,21,24,329,146,242,0.159,0.695,0.146,0.5953,2,0,0,0,0,0,45,1,0,0,3,12,14,0,3,11,0,24,7,1,0,1,42,41,16,0,6,5,2,2,1,0,4,5,1,2,2,8,18,1,3,6,1,0,2,2,5,2,2,1,4,24,8,25,31,4,20,0,2,1,0,8,8,0,5,10,121,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.11026190574272647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847982889826192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298111289939763,0.10058502311124852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887763324262489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195283998440735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411416971556098,0.0,0.0,0.19463618063761606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651688209108308,0.12714512243800474,0.11426224140643075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662791281747272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806518527070778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027991758364935,0.10121681414037116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573479105848284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037524798758585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043067146640053,0.0,0.0,0.18628898760684576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520118900527956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606002672627832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455408889208872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009045010076305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070617455560268,0.10841691769322218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656492372423028,0.08593395904890258,0.0,0.0,0.12546198342129775,0.0,0.0,0.07833301418696223,0.0,0.0,0.12402905008424235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964928117816703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343055627060105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346646572259207,0.1270054534882148,0.1130715638745545,0.11517903900780692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282196720124958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402597805472052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.519461367911777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968617407322145,0.09063373357011738,0.0,0.10159154707182186,0.0,0.20391173586318004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822580394042027,0.0,0.2302928523804271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrshoojack,2018/02/08,"Uneasy about miralax My 23 month old has struggled with constipation since she was about 9 months old.  I've been careful with her diet, but she withholds and has stretched her colon out.  Her doc has prescribed Miralax and she's been on it for a little over a month.  It isn't helping as much as I thought, especially with dosing problems.  It either doesn't work that well, or it gives her diarrhea.  I'm worried that it's affecting her appetite too.  Her doc is pro-laxative and I'm just wondering if anyone has had any good experiences with laxative use for toddler (her doc might want to try Senokot next), or did you find something else that's non-medicinal that worked for your child?  Thanks!",3.9090909090909065,6.276088393939396,3.986363636363638,86.07454545454546,74.15151515151516,7.127272727272729,29.181818181818183,8.07648339933343,2.0405636363636366,556,24,105,9,12,171,88,132,0.113,0.809,0.078,-0.5633,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,0,2,0,2,5,6,0,1,2,0,13,3,1,2,0,23,22,9,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,9,8,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,6,0,14,4,15,15,2,11,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,5,6,65,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031275560814925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370769708004767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038336346799266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779529558583346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306327441175445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170313814650286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971932098957618,0.0,0.14839344496475648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858681983054785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732192321545925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876858600158159,0.0,0.0,0.4236514020613929,0.0,0.13005773362552128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815812983899846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37129891775188656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692900784121893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635137663856573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620289208880804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849568712060891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288564007188788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045598889201424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011815366799695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280345855385533,0.0,0.0,0.1043529441746549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907376676605176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19186392935883728,0.2576020653680194,0.17967247383610713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ObjectiveSession,2018/02/08,"At about what age did your child begin to recognize letters and numbers? As in, when did they first begin to point out letters and numbers in text and say what they were? Like for example saying ""two"" when they see a written 2, or making the right consonant sounds when they see a letter? 

What's the typical age for this? What's considered early or late? Should you start trying to actively teach them when they first start displaying interest, or just continue to read to them as much as possible? My 19-month-old son has started doing this, but I have literally zero experience with young children other than my own and assumed this was more of a preschool-age thing. But now I'm not sure. I hadn't really thought about teaching him to read yet and now I'm wondering if I should have been doing this already. ",6.058116883116881,6.9809544220779225,6.200415584415584,78.03776623376625,66.46753246753246,9.796363636363637,32.28311688311688,9.888512548439397,3.143126753246753,647,26,118,14,10,206,99,154,0.017,0.94,0.044,0.4436,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,2,7,2,10,3,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,1,1,22,26,18,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,2,10,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,4,8,5,15,3,20,16,3,26,0,0,2,0,18,6,0,6,21,90,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903486424653552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764294534054668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068330564702321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034571245461355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881161666372842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039358734881025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396388749376882,0.0,0.132587430422188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926044630690692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050116962965692,0.2033319870683504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608232708436231,0.0,0.11554504522495965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402886849847666,0.0,0.286863518018506,0.0,0.0,0.28745164241920396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38298521113818856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699898296389701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982504770955985,0.0,0.0,0.1431879376602116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245451998843715,0.0,0.17618827392205275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955957917707446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gypsygirl3,2018/02/08,"Should we have a 4th? I am so on the fence about having a 4th kid.  We have 3 beautiful healthy kids 5yr girl, 3yr boy, and 18 month girl.  My hubs wants another boy and I do too but what are the chances we would actually have another healthy baby let alone a boy.  And my age is a huge factor- I'll be 42 in a week. And I'm kind of terrified of the work load of another kiddo.  I'm already feeling pretty maxed out on a daily basis.  Need some insight from others with 4 kiddos! ",0.2754635463546329,2.3422181485148563,2.7117011701170135,91.97486048604864,85.33663366336634,6.0489648964896485,22.05310531053105,7.348242739294969,0.791883168316831,367,13,83,6,11,126,71,101,0.079,0.74,0.181,0.8361,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,18,17,6,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,2,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,10,13,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,3,48,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.2194617227812862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329198337077475,0.2481734301211857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7074552318780272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371193060283505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341899537949745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299668582465307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795062985982918,0.0,0.0,0.1667542430754957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287955677659096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326468695640853,0.0,0.18039444518407624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637237350348273,0.0,0.0,0.1597565126571651,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AmiMizuno27,2018/02/08,"Help! Day care troubles My son has been attending the same daycare for several years. He's currently 4 and usually he's very good about going to ""school"" and walks right in and starts playing. Well he got very very sick a couple weeks ago and spent a week home with me, now he's like a little terror trying to leave him at school in the morning. He cries, he screams, he latches on to you like a leech. I have no idea how to help him get back into the groove of going to school and not having a meltdown when I try and leave. Any suggestions or ideas you have would be most appreciated. ",3.4865725047081,4.863992101694915,4.123333333333335,88.85264595103581,72.89830508474577,7.278342749529191,24.128060263653484,7.793537801064563,1.0142116760828626,460,13,98,6,9,146,82,118,0.145,0.6709999999999999,0.183,0.7269,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,2,0,0,6,9,0,1,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,16,14,9,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,8,0,0,2,1,1,4,2,3,1,0,3,1,8,6,14,9,2,22,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,2,13,53,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769558095849012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979619679715175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076898251238758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687311570020425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939351243769653,0.15823705249608036,0.0929032049464362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526250613630832,0.0,0.16373893090898953,0.12082604067490894,0.11521350579918613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931133268016909,0.0,0.1444983619795783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252398864489795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050657321042282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075545866346525,0.14438040650698986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302171587968352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373723918275518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274052857604854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196248337527024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956070353960892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865562827165156,0.3565800313248973,0.0,0.0,0.23110358615326296,0.0,0.12952225361538555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023321503850525,0.0,0.0,0.09276634481009596
parenting,not_sauce,2018/02/08,"Best way to handle when 4yo storms off and sulks? My 4yo daughter has taken to pouting and quitting games and interaction to be by herself and sulk when things don't go her way, or when she has to share with her little brother.

Is it better to 'let her sulk' or somehow teach her that she can't quit participating if she doesn't get her way.

Suggestions?",6.227285714285713,6.1118961571428585,6.237857142857145,81.50964285714288,66.0,8.714285714285714,30.357142857142854,8.07648339933343,1.8851428571428568,281,9,57,3,4,89,47,70,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.8645,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,11,10,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,10,3,8,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,4,3,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269471540373198,0.22709832295450225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415534496843368,0.0,0.14593224361327048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625718024582262,0.0,0.0,0.2573579360558082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5462277329794758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059117886979372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6114527120304525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ivy_oboe,2018/02/08,"Joys For christmas my Husband and I bought each of my siblings (5) and one cousin a toy. The cousin is in love with everything Arial. Just loves that little mermaid. My husband didn't know this when he went to the Disney store and picked out one of those Arial dolls. Christmas rolls around and as she was unwrapping she let out this SCREAM. She was so happy! Just freaking delighted scared the shit out of all of us. 

Since then i have learned that I am pregnant. Now being a teen mom and all it should be scary but honestly its not. I helped my mom with each pregnancy and have worked with newborns my whole life. Helped with every brother, sister and cousin. There's a lot i don't know. But the experience I've had with children i feel has prepared me. I find myself more able to tolerate the cries of children and the tantrums they throw when told no. I know which methods work and which don't. My siblings are spoiled brats. I know why they are like that and know exactly how to deviate from that. 
The only question i have really is will i be able to apply what I've learned? Will i have it in me? Could i look at my little girl a reflection of myself and her father and say no? 
I like to think I'll be firm with her. I am hoping i am. I do not want a mean girl for a daughter that cares about Kim Kardashian and clothes. I want to give my daughter what i have. Intelligence, patience, kindness with just a spark of bluntness that makes her wholesome without being a pushover. I turned down Harvard and MIT to stay closer to home with her (edit: will attend Harvard for my graduate degree) I want to give her what i was given at a young age. The spark to attend a Tier One university regardless of being in an area designated ""ghetto"". ",2.8735991723878485,4.958818848396504,3.586968870497508,89.05291263049001,76.25947521865889,6.6415498918461395,24.7671400357378,7.601502580125103,1.1832961346750683,1367,47,277,19,31,432,177,343,0.078,0.79,0.132,0.9719,0,0,1,0,0,0,37,1,0,2,2,11,15,2,1,19,0,33,4,1,3,3,63,57,22,0,7,8,12,1,2,0,4,1,2,1,5,17,28,0,0,13,1,2,4,8,5,0,3,9,4,46,10,43,36,7,25,0,0,1,2,38,14,1,3,8,198,63,6,0.2377882630029953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584098405600294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122049094426535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492728950041504,0.0,0.13059962061608038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001734336518558,0.0,0.106854379055691,0.11630127460361656,0.0,0.0,0.06011644525609676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866708224356612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281081693737721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265650138107361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938446032944595,0.0,0.1192605079309439,0.1180886994237309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238099420369212,0.3267055266153257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215773047841424,0.08397844119670342,0.1161713341541564,0.23832630874713,0.0,0.0,0.09984112620907268,0.0,0.0,0.101079538908196,0.21461319123383066,0.0,0.07936275600531117,0.0,0.0,0.12951056421413326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278494739710659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416972215291689,0.09042434458164346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331886374819328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616662509809115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454938543100423,0.11903376688193755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204311743170818,0.09835045419609308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672532481303125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618255873154159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113608437745752,0.0,0.0,0.12932267376431514,0.0,0.0,0.14301500114800292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21038051760093315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021605105122056,0.10728346088093288,0.13274105186720528,0.0,0.11460970002046705,0.0,0.17311268751072445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wendypoupee,2018/02/08,Help needed: how do I make a new lovey ratty My toddler has a lovey that he loves to suck on and is very ratty. It used to be plush and now it's threadbare and I'm afraid it might disintegrate in the wash soon; so I bought him two new ones but he refuses them and cries for his old one. Any ideas on how to make him accept the new ones?,1.2853153153153158,2.459163297297298,2.774054054054055,97.140990990991,78.18918918918921,6.014414414414415,17.738738738738736,6.42735559955562,-0.5052990990990991,260,4,66,2,6,85,53,74,0.07200000000000001,0.828,0.1,0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,4,1,1,4,0,5,2,0,5,0,15,13,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,7,2,7,10,0,9,0,0,0,1,9,3,1,1,6,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976263616951826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22575728167258516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775768388563492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320103651388497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549246328385852,0.0,0.27437629569342936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180273441079497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239264415783402,0.0,0.5954859627972502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21566173632040825,0.0,0.4178029573351101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076603334068605,0.0,0.0,0.17750581869192936,0.0,0.1695779366058573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chachie09,2018/02/08,"How can I be the best for my wife postpartum? Good morning all! My wife and I are expecting our baby girl any day now :) She will be my first and my wife's second.  Through out the pregnancy, I kept telling myself, ""Oh shes done this before, she knows what she wants/needs.""  But I want to be proactive.  I want to know the things that I can do to be the best husband I can be postpartum.  What are some of the things that nobody really thinks about that i can help her with without her having to ask me?

EDIT: Thank you everyone for your advice thus far, it is amazing!!! Just wanted to add a couple things that i am seeing are common questions...

1) We are doing a non-hospital birth at a birth center with a midwife

2) Wifey will be exclusivly breastfeeding, and has a modela(?) pump (the one that she can clip to her waist) and we got all the pump parts and bags for our baby shower.
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parenting,what_is_a_potato2,2018/02/08,"We are desperate with our 3 months old son, fussing only at nights We have a toddler that had a lot of problems sleeping, and now she is doing better. And... now we have a 3 months old that cries at night, fussing, until 4 am if necessary. He is OK, he is fed, his diaper is change, he is not too cold not too hot, he is been hold, singing songs, everything.

But he can't be relax. I mean, during the day he can be in my arms, or his fathers, or in his chair, or doing some tummy time, or in the stroller, ... He ""knows"" how to be awake and interact.

But then comes the night, and he can't relax in ANY of that situations. We are really desperate, our toddler was hard at nights, because she wouldn't sleep at night, but you could be with her, calm her or play with her.

With our son not, even breastfeeding won't calm him long. He can even get a little sleepy from all the crying and fussing, gets sleep, but then he wakes up five minutes later fussing again. Is like some switch that activates only when the night comes.

(crosspost from December bumpers)
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parenting,-poop-in-the-soup-,2018/02/08,"How much should I “schedule” my toddler’s at-home time? I’m a SAHP to a 2.5yo. We do several classes a week (music, art, science), and our breakfast, nap, and bedtime routines are fairly solid.

Outside of that, we pretty much make it up as we go along. Sometimes I’ll get an idea about a new craft or activity, but there’s no real routine. We go to a lot of parks and the like, but it varies when and where. 

Should I start structuring her day more? Do the same things at the same time each day? Like, 10am is arts and crafts, 11am is play dough, etc. Or is it okay to keep it open?",1.695491803278692,3.0282246147541017,3.095868852459017,94.59626229508196,77.44262295081967,5.8636065573770475,22.85573770491804,6.2581,0.23516786885245894,441,13,104,3,10,144,85,122,0.023,0.841,0.136,0.9102,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,5,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,9,1,8,1,0,2,0,26,15,12,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,12,1,1,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,10,13,8,15,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,11,64,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29371299585766464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539609684021995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897100948129866,0.0,0.2588298862430973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257061049391173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20240239897724926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22249882267894744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19359404424296886,0.0,0.0,0.15200066267902568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347915404944687,0.0,0.0,0.2199273100043952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316666970004797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591880429672113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25725166436986674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252146714844232,0.0,0.16117692858122842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128286363483753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655633788715301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265819430465352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProfGenki,2018/02/08,"Need help fixing our 3 yr old daughter's sleep schedule (2AM - 12PM) Hello fellow parents, we can't seem to fix our daughters sleep schedule, which has been an issue ever since she started walking. She's healthy, eats plenty of food, and is energetic throughout the day, but somehow ends up sleeping from 2AM - 12PM even if she's tired after a long day. We tried a bunch of things we read online, but nothing seems to work.",8.175375000000003,7.194711787500001,7.255000000000003,78.67000000000004,62.375,8.5,36.25,5.985473137389443,2.366,333,13,60,1,4,102,64,80,0.049,0.879,0.07200000000000001,-0.0516,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,4,6,3,0,1,12,8,4,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,7,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,4,10,33,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370547263074164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880599080665365,0.0,0.0,0.16278066585647896,0.0,0.0,0.12138953148871393,0.16624579684303795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22223588080986872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318850264014915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918258017199818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264564634269366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362756770995208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634851255052608,0.0,0.19285346286847754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20407363194543024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18383666165745427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33462543030783626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203044464124513,0.0,0.5517589650757815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008533238484565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209986735261022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21123603563862967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477925887045455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337990712418176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maegwin79,2018/02/08,"Kid with really dry scalp! My son is 8 and a few months ago he started complaining his head itched. After freaking out about lice (there were none) we realized he just has a very dry scalp. We changed his shampoo to some special organic stuff for kids with tea tree oil (on the recommendation of the last lady ti cut his hair) and it hasn't helped at all. Right now we only wash his hair twice a week, and that also hasn't helped.

When he was a baby he had cradle cap and now it seems like almost the same thing, although over a much smaller area of his head. When I comb there are big flakes of dry skin coming off. He has very thick hair so it's a real pain.

Any suggestions, parents? ",3.0165990843688704,4.488837762589932,3.6849444081098777,91.15009810333557,74.25179856115108,6.781164159581425,21.988881621975146,7.348242739294969,0.533627338129496,535,13,117,6,11,169,99,139,0.077,0.8859999999999999,0.038,-0.6548,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,0,0,10,6,1,0,9,0,9,12,9,0,1,19,12,9,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,6,11,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,6,10,2,14,9,6,20,0,0,0,0,21,9,0,3,11,69,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847175115506478,0.0,0.20160839587736795,0.0,0.0,0.1610079070274666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691502743666928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21298623696169372,0.17343268469334766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132565663254352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699018505337445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641152844312777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836234348810001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070405570222054,0.0,0.14800474045898376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531247016518438,0.2142351411526162,0.0,0.22355921911036564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291638490792023,0.12898066110330075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193939600999306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328825527565934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250628583630534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304809503722181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133758343685126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322457057104141,0.0,0.0,0.16149917408808315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leonedellanotte,2018/02/08,"I don't like my kids' friend. Sorry if this gets a bit long, there are a lot of details. Also, names changed for privacy.

Some background: We have been living in my husband's home country (not mine) for the past five years, and we have boy/girl twins who have just turned four. They attend a bilingual (English and local language) Montessori school.
 
During the first week of school, I met another English speaking (American) mom ""Alice"", and her 5.5 year old daughter ""February"", who is in my son's class. They had just arrived here at the end of summer and by sheer coincidence, they also happened to have moved in literally next door. We became almost instant friends and have had many play dates and outings together. I really like Alice and her husband ""Bob"", we get along great and have things in common. My husband also enjoys their company. I mention all of this because I think it's relevant.

February is very loud and bossy. She's an only child and doesn't share or take turns very well. She always wants all attention on her and always wants to be the boss of everything. Between my kids, my son ""Fox"" is the more loud and more outgoing one in general, and he gets along better with February than my daughter ""Erica"" who is more shy and quiet, but when we get together the kids play together nicely enough. 

However, there have been a few instances that stick out where I had to step in and tell February to back off. For example, last Halloween we hosted a small party at our house for grownups and kids. I had invited another couple of friends and their boy who is the same age as the twins. At one point I found Fox and his friend shut out of his room that he shares with his sister, so I went to investigate and found that February had shut them out claiming the room as only for the girls. I put that straight and moved on. Later on that same evening, I found Erica wearing February's costume and not too happy about it. Again, I investigated and found that February had forced my kid to switch costumes, so I made them change back. Another time we were visiting their house and the three of them were in February's room playing nicely, when suddenly Erica came up to me upset saying that February and Fox were keeping her out of their game and not letting her play. There are many other examples over the past few months and they're all of the same nature. 

Now to bring it to present day and to the reason I am posting this. Last week Alice confided in me that February has been acting up at school and that they had to have a conference with her teacher. Yesterday at pick up, Fox's teacher came up to me to tell me that he had done a very bad thing during the school day. Apparently he and February had made a huge mess in the bathroom, flooding water everywhere and trying to flush toys down the toilet. I was floored because Fox doesn't do things like that. Believe me, he does plenty of other things that exasperate me, but this was not him at all. When we sat down to talk about it at home, I asked him what happened and why did he do that. He said that it was February's idea and that she kind of dragged him into it. Fox is pretty good about being honest, and I believed him. So, this morning at drop off, I talked to his teacher again and told her that he was very remorseful and that he's working on making it better. She basically confirmed to me that he was just following February. 

Here's where I'm asking for advice. I want to stay friends with Alice and Bob, they're good friends and good neighbours, and I like the idea of my kids having a friend right next door too. But I don't like February! I don't like how she always wants full attention on her at all times, I really don't like how she bosses Erica around, and now I definitely don't like how she's being a bad influence on Fox. 
Despite all this, my kids insist that they like her and look forward to hanging out with her. Is this just normal kid stuff that I just need to ignore and just step in as needed like I have been? I don't want to lose my friends but obviously my kids come first. Advice?

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parenting,Gthrowawayx,2018/02/08,"My (f/35) daughter (f/13) is being used for ""sexting"" by a grown up creep (m/37). Please help a broken mother out. I need insight. I apologize for the wall of text, I'm on my phone at work with no access to a PC. Also, post was removed from /r/Relationships and I was recommended to post it here.

I live in a foreign country with my family due to my husband and I work. The past couple of months I noticed that my daughter is not the same, she has been spending so much time in her bedroom, I don't blame her, there's not much to do where we live, but it is unusual behaviour since she always knows how to keep herself busy and have fun. She was also extremely hot tempered and would cry for no obvious reasons. I thought it was hormones/homesickness, etc... I even thought of sending her and the children back home to stay with my mother. 

She would also keep her phone hidden from, this I could not find an explanation for, so I went through her phone. I found explicit content on snapchat chats between her and this 37 year old guy. She had no idea what sexual intercourse was and he taught her everything, even showed her porn videos, most of which were weird kinks and young girls being beaten. He constantly tells her how much her likes young girls!!!! He used fear to keep her going, and would constantly tell her hid the snapchat chat so her parents wouldn't see it. She is wrapped around his finger that every time he was not happy with her, she would send him nude pictures of her (I'm not sure if she did though because snapchat deletes photos once sent, but his reactions on the chat and specific requests (wear this, show me that, I love your breasts...) would tell me that she sent him nude pictures.) I also found video requests from him with specific instructions on how she should act. As a reward he would send her nude pictures of him (porn websites are blocked where we live so he is her only source)

What scares me the most is that he painted this image to her that he's not a bad guy at all. He told her that he's a ""sex coach"", I don't even know if such thing exists. He constantly warns her about talking to other men or sending nude pictures of herself to them, and that he only asks her to send them so he can coach her so that she's ready for it when we go back home (adultery is illegal where we live), so she really really thinks that he's a good guy. She's absolutely clueless on how perverted this guy is. And she is also scared, I could tell from their interactions that she was not enjoying it and only sends him photos so he can assess her physique and coach her for life when she goes back home.

This guy lives in Italy from what I gathered, he didn't give her any personal information. Not even his face. I tried contacting the authorities in Italy so we can work this out, but they told me since its happening in another country, there's not much they can do because it can be legal where we live. 

I am mortified. I took her phone, I told her because she has to focus on her school, she didn't mind or throw a fit. Then a few days later her snapchat was logged out from. Which means she logged in from another phone. I'm monitoring her closely, the isolation and anger that she had is no longer there but I'm afraid she has a hidden phone somewhere. I can tell that she's damaged mentally from their interactions, so the last thing I want to do is confront her. I read a few months ago about a teenager who committed suicide when his parents found out he was watching porn. I know its extreme to think this way but I don't want to damage her more. I feel like there is a way to wave this whole thing away without having ""the talk"", I want to talk to her soon, but without confronting her. He used the fear approach with her all the time, thats why I can't bring myself to confront her so that she doesn't get even more paranoid.

Please I need help. I think I'm cross-posting this post to a legal subreddit, to see if we can prosecute this guy. But what do I do with her? I'm afraid they're still talking, only less than they used to because I took her phone.

Tldr: 13 year old daughter has been sexually talking with a 37 year old man. Sending nude pictures and erotic videos whenever he'd request. I took her phone but did not talk to her about it. I believe she's mentally damaged because when she had her phone, she showed symptoms of isolation and depression. I believe she's talking to him again with a secret phone. Looked through her bedroom and school locker, NOTHING. I don't want to cause further mental damage to her by confronting her. I'm wondering if there's a way we can get her back to safety without scaring her and further damaging her mental health.",5.215123141901156,5.772054120819853,5.26535095898927,85.29716636498274,68.2017259978425,8.442243065840236,30.059221472583328,8.388109219054641,1.9862416360411752,3698,133,757,50,59,1157,341,927,0.118,0.8,0.083,-0.9917,4,2,0,0,0,1,117,8,1,7,5,52,31,7,7,32,0,72,17,9,10,6,128,128,60,1,20,27,8,3,2,0,8,3,0,5,12,47,42,0,4,20,13,1,21,26,22,0,0,34,7,151,9,92,80,16,92,0,6,4,11,194,30,0,9,36,505,198,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04174697506633429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883097195118088,0.039186905739684766,0.0,0.0,0.032026290993463484,0.09876666207006247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041924634257653984,0.044027572172959384,0.0,0.04424740782518236,0.14485293590765902,0.03932245120024338,0.14354371520281267,0.0,0.0,0.10612012743118276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04837965277819857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267925507662838,0.0,0.07520322923810943,0.05210984545843473,0.05173176891118477,0.030372451038397117,0.0,0.04056295079593305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252349870277921,0.15552938594161167,0.0,0.03967966289849728,0.0,0.04232604978774746,0.0,0.044397080060271016,0.10599018802157767,0.02381270358274969,0.03364475728970297,0.0,0.0,0.0430440789977663,0.0,0.0,0.15491207782690428,0.0,0.0,0.04921050428712417,0.045177922604717036,0.05353047470192302,0.039501145376824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797893898705311,0.04164605184279456,0.05013362225565103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005990159117203,0.0,0.0,0.06313372145264548,0.0,0.14172071114932014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053164648800872204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558089780888804,0.0,0.0,0.07764672542757743,0.03838880182894692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03326467024188638,0.046016585532308064,0.0,0.2495150793232695,0.0,0.039548032716446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04250517712772526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130038317016189,0.0,0.0,0.18984318327848626,0.0,0.04755263762451306,0.0,0.07518173787212272,0.0,0.13848130406412787,0.06984085733961792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04518902994736405,0.05361809694411302,0.14825519279363766,0.050154757063336435,0.0,0.14327181888511414,0.0,0.0,0.1045870966766131,0.0,0.04495761314908426,0.0,0.04112163509251412,0.0,0.10339258074942173,0.0,0.0,0.18041639530454864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0471078564197243,0.0,0.060340669134136014,0.04842161862420423,0.0,0.05056252523425216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141451268202368,0.09532553488682444,0.07505741338155772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791512631937765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05019712298930961,0.037610217129597986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151440847815187,0.0,0.04438658553658817,0.04894985357060805,0.0,0.2649728686126457,0.20581601763094412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386369892037663,0.09052993809870882,0.04627070824194477,0.07477651640996306,0.08238461528214706,0.0,0.0,0.13500419266379532,0.1569732062364919,0.031974489517122034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270022255635005,0.0,0.0,0.11111166855979747,0.11214572298192196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043657640476966686,0.04249601323574748,0.0525800104765109,0.0,0.13619402158605484,0.05107263981890912,0.10285740690118378,0.0,0.0,0.20073009724578664,0.0,0.0,0.09098312380224677
parenting,Cassmaster5001,2018/02/08,"Potty training help So I'm needing some advice. My daughter is 2 and has shown signs of being ready to potty train but she refuses to use the potty or to even let me know when she needs to go. I've tried pull ups, panties, nude, everything I can think of. I'm getting a lot of pressure from everyone saying she needs to be potty trained but I just feel like she isn't ready just yet. But when I use the bathroom she'll come in and say ""pee?"" And sit on her potty. I've tried just taking her when I need to go and everything but she'll hold it the whole time until I pull up her pants. Haaaallllppppp idk what to do :(",0.960769230769234,2.9506870769230784,2.4700000000000024,95.16500000000002,82.07692307692308,5.538461538461538,20.0,6.67199483983844,0.09646153846153904,480,13,109,5,13,156,80,130,0.064,0.857,0.079,0.2144,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,4,0,10,2,2,2,0,27,26,14,0,4,8,1,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,2,3,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,3,16,1,16,21,3,16,0,0,0,1,14,4,0,3,7,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816321581756922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570544949426987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042214230832753,0.0,0.0,0.17421674584467015,0.32771900692792405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218761979374238,0.13025106881701373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525586297488116,0.0,0.2072358996134445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222067769250848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001995535292352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864368776504096,0.0,0.08907345351436137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500387726020012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5407586232382137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899799799776569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708365959443525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682475118645765,0.0,0.0,0.10631358403708148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24756971189435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149358115776393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20355630756983795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ableapries,2018/02/08,"Starting Kindergarten. New and very young teacher or experienced old one... which is best? My one-and-only starts Kindergarten in a few months and I'm trying to decide which of two public schools to send him to. School A is poorly rated with not-so-great reviews while School B is brand new, highly rated with great reviews. A has very experienced teachers, but they're quite old. B's teachers are all very young. 

I've done lots of research on all the local schools and decided on these two. I think right now, for us, it's coming down to what would be a better fit for the kid... young or old. What are your thoughts on a teacher's age & experience?",3.945433070866145,5.620383110236221,4.136228346456694,88.02796456692914,72.22834645669292,6.33984251968504,26.08582677165355,6.742157984588678,0.9677313385826768,513,17,102,4,10,159,81,127,0.0,0.893,0.107,0.9143,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,1,1,0,3,1,3,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,2,17,15,7,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,2,5,3,15,11,5,25,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,3,14,58,11,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730632485134855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329899145057979,0.1120778339423232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091622395330452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968352214295692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396122243943428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794291947478777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338917644533329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077369379603059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115056832289544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447833046349621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3989292461795409,0.0,0.17174407957886562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478747961478876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822233171098407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5130092654089399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939300584469434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120016862336459,0.0,0.1006053776641772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603785648031974,0.0,0.2475835343056707,0.0,0.15243439446305304,0.0,0.0,0.3136838252955069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002169937623494,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,honeycake99,2018/02/08,"Are there any good day cares in LA? I just mean a place where parents can have someone in a trusted business look after a child (3 months) for a couple of hours?

We're going to Los Angeles and we don't want to leave our child at home and be away from her for two weeks but it'd be nice to know if there was some resource that could help if it was needed.",5.077597402597405,3.7380239999999993,5.403214285714288,90.61053571428572,68.74025974025976,8.21948051948052,27.04220779220779,5.985473137389443,0.7602233766233764,276,6,67,1,4,88,62,77,0.014,0.797,0.189,0.9113,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,17,5,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,4,4,12,11,1,12,1,0,1,0,7,6,0,3,5,43,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207835568664086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22392687011947346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430019892432557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029390165295768,0.2637170213907024,0.0,0.15370861781906406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354532643287322,0.19990702925047685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597532752623718,0.0,0.2390729524326468,0.0,0.2347154167914984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098460870083664,0.0,0.0,0.2523660623588668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014431626288814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596205021684052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902395200003758,0.0,0.0,0.17672498073006435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26464670321713063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490130089015949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20194344099041706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328220864560691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057822478917845,0.0,0.1911807715413466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kephera42,2018/02/08,"Constant lying from our 12 yr old son New to the group and need some advice. I am a step parent to two wonderful boys, 12 and 9. I also have my own son, 13, who lives with us full time. The step boys live with us 1/2 time. The 12 yr old has been making F's in his core classes at school. Math, reading, vocab and language arts. He's been grounded for a few months and has had literally all fun things taken away. No video games, nothing. He reads when he comes home from school and writes a paragraph on the story. The problem is he can't remember to bring his papers home and literally lies to my face about why he forgot. When I look at him and ask if he just lied to me, he says yes I did because I didn't want to get in trouble! Like WTF?!?!  His mother gave him all his privileges back at her house because she thinks it's not helping. Ugh! 
I talk to my husband about talking to him and he just takes a back seat. I told them all tonight that I was going to quit caring and if he wanted to fail, then so be it.  The problem is I cannot do that. it absolutely breaks my heart to see him struggling so much. Hes talk to the school counselor they don't think he has any learning disabilities or anything like that period hes just downright lying. 
Need some serious advice on how to help my step son not have to take 6th grade over again! How do I get him to quit lying? He has the opportunity to correct all his papers a d get better grades, but will not even bring them home to correct!

So frustrated! Help!
Thanks!! 💞",1.638793103448279,3.506691245222928,3.0257522512629045,92.65455414012743,79.22292993630573,5.73230836810894,21.337140347023944,6.647476241863616,0.2478564902262241,1177,33,262,11,29,383,174,314,0.108,0.8009999999999999,0.091,-0.5408,1,0,0,0,0,0,39,3,0,3,5,17,16,1,1,13,1,24,2,2,3,6,46,50,22,0,8,10,6,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,2,8,12,0,1,5,5,0,7,8,8,0,1,10,3,36,8,33,38,10,34,0,1,2,0,53,11,0,6,17,156,44,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968840552367911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805617952389331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685067001312191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290049158802891,0.0,0.09417836380035806,0.0,0.0946486091718269,0.15492578652610828,0.0,0.12282041969989277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909640276807786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271121235066663,0.0,0.0,0.08677864764505265,0.0,0.10886422393742347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653786419707024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789758145232086,0.0,0.057252901671238164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937746452162865,0.20257183034122064,0.0,0.3031515033405257,0.0,0.0,0.11624051177765655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843301638543883,0.0,0.1779106497315525,0.0,0.08459628430398553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672447770281967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040976041841108,0.0,0.07405554059661203,0.1493949665182578,0.0,0.09729538452661858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666281132762412,0.0,0.21141950817184813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185992269729116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19278927788416272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429892333631886,0.20153465752429744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411885788709475,0.0,0.0,0.08011254474372613,0.0,0.3058629783888773,0.08027679059377793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531539111440501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148798636014926,0.24291314983314774,0.0,0.09274791890254637,0.0,0.0,0.06692722422397365,0.12910033454476244,0.0,0.0,0.11748468647653285,0.0,0.0,0.09626145120544448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840840742244368,0.0,0.2423557937741264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883820328521692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090224141496292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092483054531001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_otsegolectric,2018/02/08,"No one told me how good picking our baby up from daycare would feel! Our 12 month old recently started daycare 2 days a week.

Usually I drop him off at 8am on my way to work. He was fine the first few times, but after a week, he would burst into tears as soon as we stepped inside. He grips onto my neck as tight as possible - it's heartbreaking, but I know most parents have to do this and it's just because he knows I'm about to leave. At this point, I pretty much just handball him through the door and run, so I don't have to hear it.

My wife has been doing the pick ups at the end of the day and always talks about how excited he gets. I was kind of jealous (not seriously, but I did want to do it).

Yesterday my wife had a meeting after work, so I left work early to go pick him up and, oh my god, it's the best.

I walked in and he was happily playing on the mat with his back to me. As soon as he registered my voice chatting to the daycare person, he froze on the spot, dropped the little wooden hammer he was holding, let out this *scream* of delight that I'd never heard before, then came pounding along on all fours and hugged my legs.

Seriously, the thought of it has kept me in a great mood all day.",3.3030588235294123,3.7400478549019622,4.512549019607847,89.4264705882353,72.41176470588233,7.568627450980393,26.372549019607845,7.5105763829236425,1.1226078431372548,933,29,214,10,17,308,152,255,0.07,0.7759999999999999,0.154,0.9804,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,3,0,0,5,11,14,1,0,15,0,18,3,2,5,3,37,32,20,0,3,6,3,4,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,10,12,0,3,4,2,0,5,4,5,0,3,12,8,25,8,42,17,6,49,0,1,0,1,26,19,0,1,22,141,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430008389804695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486765634040898,0.0,0.0910635606764828,0.0,0.12711542459028247,0.0,0.15677008504275491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17085636423222605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890224278493229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231055401037728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553342110851034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270665970818389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804736934562496,0.0,0.08489879936875107,0.1252968457633489,0.0,0.16469722078866186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683674768878212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556123535675298,0.16419591022182314,0.0,0.0,0.15817688707515618,0.16230697441314312,0.15275603406651894,0.0,0.0,0.14972277022657268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923748697057765,0.0,0.10981498403974596,0.0,0.1152147330522232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675417212905068,0.0,0.1012269767268503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658740929676263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304370068404767,0.0,0.0,0.1412168797752451,0.16840886684039758,0.0,0.15197800157121155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749942457082016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573529912722096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006980822351382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859480977020954,0.08710745250386608,0.0,0.0,0.1427435360353346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452620373886406,0.0,0.08811099947378696,0.11857466597014495,0.2396548809168701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262616444453047,0.0,0.0,0.21223728911097847,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squigglybat,2018/02/08,"My 5 year old was doing great at bedtime... We'd do our routine and she'd be asleep by 830 without coming out of her room. Within the passed week or 2 she's coming out of her room and not going to sleep like she was. It's 935 and she's still awake. We allow her to read or color because it helps her calm down. Is this developmental (she's not in school just daycare)? Anyone else run into this? 

She had an ""emergency"" with her animals so I cuddled with her and now she's going to sleep. It's going to be hell in the morning",-0.0065041208791214436,2.131916687500002,2.3092857142857137,93.85109890109892,87.48214285714286,4.5175824175824175,17.543956043956047,5.873414542411696,-0.4150434065934063,407,10,91,3,13,138,71,112,0.041,0.838,0.121,0.7998,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,3,0,10,4,3,1,0,19,15,7,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,12,0,0,0,1,0,7,3,1,0,0,3,1,18,3,18,8,0,22,1,0,1,1,17,10,1,2,6,64,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579319230352895,0.2282940906759992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358222625617813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838603481083181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861282802141367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3798823678773772,0.0,0.0,0.24564764433739344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934413672392458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885319419131463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338005033671489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22286923653614327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254945437692492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459397024500807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177935508314117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17872389306049685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477986843090507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348165310128552
parenting,Mom_two,2018/02/08,"Activities Book for preteen girl A few weeks ago some people on Reddit recommended a book for preteen girls. It was some activities for girls to learn. Maybe 50 activities for girls or some title to that effect... 

Does anyone happen to know that book? My daughter is turning 11.  She loves to read, and she likes playing outdoors.",4.402259887005652,7.3008448474576255,4.8450000000000015,77.8406073446328,75.10169491525423,6.6451977401129945,26.78248587570621,7.793537801064563,1.8960824858757053,262,10,43,4,6,83,41,59,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.8442,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,8,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,9,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,4,3,25,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30413974441739056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399053084669354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002513886445191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30340448723134583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856021056109792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762259469720758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30966348310269115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446926677866465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378641352673755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431954384426765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731970935409872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752162020761086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Atolli,2018/02/08,"What are your go-to books on gently disciplining your children? I’m the mother of a very active toddler (almost 16 months) and lately she’s been more and more defiant. I realize that she is just exploring the world around her, but she’s started throwing tantrums. I grew up in an abusive household where we were “disciplined” whenever our parents thought we were being disobedient. I don’t want that for my child. I don’t want to be that parent. I’ve inherited my mother’s anger issues, but I’ve been working through them so I don’t end up like her. 

So here I am, asking you wonderful people for any books you’ve read about disciplining without spanking. I want to be able to explain to my daughter the reasons why I don’t want her to do something, etc. I realize that she won’t be able to understand most of what I’d be saying, which is my problem. I’m not sure how to get that across to her. I would also love any books/articles on dealing with tantrums and calming her down without yelling or giving in to what she wants. I’ve had very little experience with kids besides her so I’m kind of at a loss as to how to deal with these things. Thanks so much for the help!",4.0812540675844815,5.277995863829787,4.965431789737174,84.08411764705885,71.21276595744679,7.912390488110138,29.993742177722158,8.313332769828598,2.084251564455569,928,38,187,14,17,302,132,235,0.122,0.737,0.141,0.3743,2,0,1,0,1,0,23,3,3,1,2,12,11,3,0,7,0,21,1,0,3,1,39,39,14,0,7,7,5,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,3,11,9,0,3,8,3,1,3,8,5,0,0,6,2,32,6,35,26,5,20,0,1,0,1,34,13,0,4,5,128,43,4,0.2612396421259239,0.15476312884840646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079688280049556,0.0,0.0,0.10445662371240913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765191493466945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627933375625665,0.12211190031413525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693266000376356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569039144487135,0.0,0.14567562827555922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777124897815026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824346537109673,0.1253024345706525,0.07423425444503891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755171271084453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633315709482138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136020443317462,0.0,0.0,0.14734484755796054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381424670935221,0.13091537576332862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788948824762255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425949498667314,0.0,0.096020597790514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900757069535447,0.0,0.0,0.0905553373557932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124985528165098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065516864159424,0.0,0.0,0.1342989307532026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038741244049983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055751976134587,0.0,0.0,0.09245338164489388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310763552975555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202571819083587,0.0,0.0,0.08677800508473664,0.0,0.0,0.10369754754839512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597984028194746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21555006398248566,0.3852147735290177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786407189581273,0.0,0.0,0.2518256926510216,0.14165162407425938,0.09509278540839687,0.0,0.0,0.09278857321737784,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justquestions34,2018/02/08,"SAHP:How do you survive? Though I never planned it or really wanted it,I have become a stay at home mom for now. 

I have a 3.5 year old and baby #2 is due in May. 3.5yo is super active and ahead of most topics. The weather has been cold here so outdoor activities are not happening. I have no car to get to the park or even other activities. In this town,you're f**ked if you have no car. There's no public transportation.
Fiance uses the car for work 4 days of the week, 10 hours a day. Daycare definitely does not fit the budget right now because we are in an apartment for now until we have everything saved and ready to get a house. Her birthday is late so she most likely won't start school until next year,they won't take kids under 4yo before September 1.

We just moved into our own place and I'm lost on how to handle her alone,to be honest. My mom was helping out and now that we've moved she has kind of said ""Well...I told you what to do and now it's up to you."" Understandable. But now it's just me and the little one most days. Even I'm getting bored (I'll regret saying that in a few months,maybe because I'm 24 and my young blood is craving freedom),I can't imagine how she feels. 

So SAHP, what is your routine or how do you handle everything?",2.5415270935960628,3.986324367816096,3.860207991242476,89.52344827586207,75.4367816091954,6.503995621237,21.623973727422005,7.07126945348624,0.4684594417077181,984,24,213,10,21,323,157,261,0.036000000000000004,0.861,0.102,0.9414,0,1,0,0,0,0,38,4,6,0,6,19,8,0,0,12,0,24,1,1,4,1,37,40,22,0,3,9,2,1,1,0,3,0,2,1,1,9,13,0,0,3,0,1,6,9,3,0,1,5,4,21,5,25,31,5,44,0,2,0,0,23,15,0,8,23,135,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598588398529907,0.15036184320005685,0.1158496656733168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634074640930245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914171366591213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984543993956284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447173246038215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883917990902673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21339097928947331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039288379600888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125535860097396,0.0,0.1365648871373936,0.0,0.13407574582309856,0.1570934552207424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177443190624153,0.0,0.0,0.1535778854071698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651374127363757,0.13645340784046175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861873268670506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367763037285978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31890357803076097,0.0,0.2894019230880291,0.0,0.0,0.10500368737910724,0.0,0.14479212476295222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142861643207982,0.0,0.09225561294960836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224291418314922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721819771369692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626738541805655,0.1295054052710096,0.10826824717006574,0.0,0.13778636313165266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636437980079024,0.14511282888852092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023643600574842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376211559164408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300927167574024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417321112656573,0.0,0.11758587021497252,0.0,0.0,0.08030205511314753,0.0,0.10920758798818662,0.0,0.12241102047416867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991154366273621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534628400742322
parenting,cordial_carbonara,2018/02/08,"The joy of three children I asked my daughters (ages 6, 4, and 2.5) what they wanted for supper.  

6yo: ""Chicken Caesar salad!"" 
2.5yo: ""Chicken burger!"" (That's what she says when she wants fast food chicken nuggets)
4yo: ""Beans and a pancake! And some popcorn!""

They are such totally different little people, it's amazing. And my 4 year old is the goofiest little fart. It's the little moments, I hope I remember them forever.",1.7805411255411272,4.55846764935065,2.85016233766234,86.05714826839831,93.28571428571428,4.644588744588745,25.89718614718615,6.42735559955562,1.4364380952380948,327,15,54,4,12,104,58,77,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.9027,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,0,3,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,2,3,0,0,1,10,6,5,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,10,3,2,6,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,6,32,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584803382082685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412276125825367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27918929097848205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293227348118961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6942278283132619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24227690580289185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006786783226432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615497881129477,0.0,0.0,0.18361048726619048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723660879933048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868355906947878
parenting,muizz1999,2018/02/08,"I forced my brother to stay put so that I can treat his skin infection. Is this a bad thing to do? My brother is so annoying and inobedient. He's about 9.

What I've done is I tell to my cousins who I live with to hold him for me so that I can treat his skin infections. It was more of a bacterial infection with pus and stuff like that. We live in the tropics.

I didn't use manipulation, verbal abuse or anything but obviously I used forced. I tell him that everything will be okay and that the process will not take long.

He is not taking care of himself. Hes not using soap like oh my God he's a headache. When he's mom (my step mother) and dad is not around, I do the parenting.

It's so hard. Am I traumatizing my brother? Is this the right thing to do I mean skin infections are dangerous honey. Please help.",0.6032264092183084,2.826578609467453,2.681314232326379,91.68139831828094,85.3905325443787,6.634817813765182,21.912488321395198,7.85451343220497,0.9834426035502966,631,22,145,13,19,212,97,169,0.158,0.721,0.121,-0.8624,1,0,0,0,1,0,20,1,0,0,0,7,9,2,0,7,1,20,7,3,4,1,21,27,11,0,0,6,8,4,2,1,2,4,0,0,0,14,8,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,3,5,25,6,13,21,1,8,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,1,4,94,39,0,0.0,0.1987123589270078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801342458130955,0.14930003597820468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003326404393673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099447648463148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162852282151045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507295380870806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150237813993868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241441996118412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387210043015352,0.0,0.2961871222785738,0.14842063667447186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18268851210318104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642331857261253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622532519557491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840983982221613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16859778460524627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322589810122965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875963382884058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199114268359588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521984535916793,0.0,0.29317692932842554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22284199371878305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4345502860926614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwyawaabcd,2018/02/09,"Guiding kindergarten/grade school friendships Hi,
   I was curious about when/how different parents get involved in guiding their childrens friendships. Our five year old has been in kindergarten for 6 months, and has been forming his first group of friends. He's probably more on the quiet/chill side of the fence. 
   I've noticed that my wife has been trying to coach him on how to interact/behave with his friends, but also how they should behave around him. In general, he's gravitated towards other kids like him (and not necessarily those that roughhouse a lot)... One of his friends can be pretty annoying (always wanting to win, show off his stuff, interrupting&talking continuously, and pestering our son to do only do the activities he wants). This behavior has upset my wife, and she's tried to talk to my son about it, and also the other boy's mom. Seems like this has resulted in them taking a break from each other.

   I'm more lax.. My bounds would be to only get involved if our son was being hit/bit, bullied, or led to do things he shouldn't. Otherwise, I think it'd be good to be friends with children of a variety of personalities -- those that are rambunctious, quiet, annoying, whatever. And then give him the ability to see what he likes in each kid, and choose how much to continue to play with them. I think its good for him to figure out how to navigate this on his own (and use the skills being taught by the teachers)... In general, I'm worried that my wife will get involved too much and shrink our sons pool of friends to only those that match what she likes.

Thoughts?
Thx,
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parenting,semckinley,2018/02/09,"Normal changes or something else? My 12 year old son is deep in the middle of puberty. He is developing much earlier that most of his friends, taller, deeper voice and now some new behaviors. 

He has always been a very good kid, smart and needed very little discipline.  In the last month I’ve had several phone calls from teachers about missing work, he has had office referrals and lunch detentions for poor work quality and most recent ISS for horse-playing with a friend in class. 

We taken away Tv, phone, games and some privileges. He seems unfazed. He isn’t angry or defiant.. He doesn’t argue, he says he understands he needs to do better, but nothing is changing.  After a huge family meeting where I thought we had made some headway, he left a major project at home, and had a paper returned for illegible handwriting.  It seems everyday there is something he has forgotten or not done to his full ability. 

Is this normal transition to teen behavior? Do I need to have him looked at?  Is he is just being lazy and forgetful, and if so how the heck do you fix it!?
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parenting,ShortSea,2018/02/09,"Balancing screen time limits with teaching self regulation I have a 6 year old and and a 3 year old. My wife and I limit their screen time on week days to one half hour show a day. We have family movie night on Fridays and are usually out and about on the weekends. 

I'm trying to figure out when to stop managing their screen time for them and allow them to make their own decisions. We all have heard of those teens who spend all weekend on their computer and we don't want to set our kids up for that kind of lifestyle. I would like to know how everyone else was able to find some balance between the two.",5.774494773519166,5.508930723577241,5.844970963995356,84.45365853658538,66.96747967479675,9.630197444831591,28.953542392566785,9.23628265651192,2.059446922183508,481,14,103,8,7,152,84,123,0.029,0.933,0.038,0.2448,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,6,2,3,2,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,3,2,28,12,9,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,13,0,3,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,14,2,21,9,4,25,0,0,3,0,15,7,0,1,18,66,17,3,0.1983654576471111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558586196350385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16570888616458707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18954669554674827,0.0,0.0,0.18700129939606475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813024345961914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953500181038229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656709884042349,0.10901646781796487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691134278008677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241048331246916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861525443571892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163023582780352,0.0,0.13441756784007702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20693843422474165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658424048102053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470054807003528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346771246917713,0.0,0.1937742284929036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184715267375269,0.0,0.11700108639205498,0.0,0.1591168049045581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091312972948775,0.0,0.0,0.25548170211548393
parenting,aristidesthejustok,2018/02/09,"How to explain to my five year old son that his mom and dad will never live together? My son's mom and I were never together, so there was no traumatic breakup event - for his whole life, he's only every spent time with one of us, and then switched over to the other. 

Two years ago she moved halfway across the country, so instead of seeing each of us more or less daily, he's now spending months apart. He's mostly been with me for those last two years, but we're gearing up for him to spend the next school year with her instead.

Lately, though, he's been getting frustrated. He misses his mom a lot, despite talking every day. And he understands that when he goes to see her, he can't see me - so when I say ""don't worry, you'll see your mom soon"" he comes back with ""but then I won't see you!"" 

I'm at a loss on how to take all these very adult concepts on why his mom and I don't get along or don't want to play together (even on Skype) and phrase it in a way that would make sense to a five year old. The ""you'll understand when you're older"" thing doesn't really help, and I can't just come out and say something awful like ""Your mom treated me like shit for years, we pretty much hate each other, and I want nothing to do with her outside of taking care of you."" 

Lately I've been trying to say something positive, like ""Your life is an adventure!"" or ""You get to travel to cool places a lot!"" but it seems to be lacking. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to phrase this for kids this age?",5.330338566294683,4.569880736334408,5.621233213542652,87.34492717987519,68.0032154340836,8.732438055608096,27.618876489502554,7.724431198458867,1.3228118403631548,1163,29,262,11,17,371,168,311,0.114,0.797,0.08900000000000001,-0.7423,0,0,2,0,0,0,44,3,8,0,1,18,13,3,0,10,2,20,3,1,4,3,46,44,27,0,4,7,9,0,3,0,5,2,3,0,2,12,21,0,0,4,2,3,4,10,5,0,5,6,9,31,8,40,32,11,46,0,2,5,0,47,12,1,7,32,165,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009821466409928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377601173228764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529344362469519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080639483367298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062568113523652,0.0,0.0,0.13623804868527867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099901464432866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920202532133758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052230525756595605,0.0,0.13325389555714184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394557286244738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807353095306374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053004572809155034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445943609153039,0.17840771947508444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171080020246248,0.11590110968377243,0.0,0.06982766042545792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445922566104707,0.0,0.0,0.052785434292951135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5556938742000993,0.0631196103646565,0.08404780573217321,0.05813170992525288,0.0,0.12198024703956925,0.0,0.08410075678677185,0.0,0.0,0.07587784065023713,0.0,0.16595891978604732,0.0,0.053585558465917324,0.06014267320905645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262007861231126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045114407301364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050659636670909836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886589109294485,0.0,0.08003154476281255,0.3150761622244683,0.07198998934323382,0.0,0.0,0.08117282312710042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175680435405364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189142042486385,0.06356020832187878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253616344363552,0.0,0.07769410918635346,0.0,0.04611124069780632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05368903079528011,0.0,0.15449617809553368,0.16464676981490955,0.190243114679612,0.0,0.0,0.06524794722241067,0.09328495755698407,0.06276873913823469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713559402432029,0.08828818987642853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030793586382783,0.0,0.05617501397375777,0.0,0.0,0.3055433134001309
parenting,funnypumpkin,2018/02/09,"What should we mention about puberty? So our son is 8 and will be 9 in March. I think it might be time for us (me and the husband) to have a chat with him about what's going to happen to his body over the next few years. We've already noticed his voice seems to be getting deeper.

We are not sure what parts to mention and we don't want to pile his little head full of to much. He's very innocent and naive so we also don't want to get into to much gritty detail just yet but at the same time we are worried he may hear it from the boys at school.

As he's our eldest so we are pretty new to ""teens"" what things are we best talking about now and what are we best leaving our till he's a little older. Also is 8/9 about the right age to even have this chat?

Thanks x
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parenting,c8h1On4Otwo,2018/02/09,"Disneyland surprise! We are planning our first Disneyland trip!! Our kids will be 6, 2 (almost 3), and 10 mos old. 

We are going announcing the trip as our oldest birthday (she turns 6 in April). We will be going in early May. 

I’m looking for fun ways to announce the surprise trip. 

And any advice for first time Disneyland-goes please! 

We booked a hotel across the street, will be bringing our double jogging stroller and using MaxPass.  ",3.764125,6.450329162500001,3.945000000000004,84.59000000000002,76.125,6.0,27.5,7.1686216300943375,1.6635,343,14,58,4,8,106,55,80,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.8741,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,10,16,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,2,0,1,9,3,7,9,1,19,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,7,35,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259947606043834,0.0,0.0,0.2663764439460817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089989741074228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4525458855735088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535488070052803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22338631290966315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791388817857247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920055159434428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551159790956918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28934885216874107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297522805181825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21115099660488085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deuc3wing0,2018/02/09,"4-5 Month Old won't sleep in his crib My son is almost 5 months and at almost 4 months to the day, decided that he would not sleep in his crib.  For a month prior to that point, once he fell asleep in his crib, he would generally happily sleep there.  Now, he falls asleep in our bed, I carry him in, and at best he'll sleep for 45 minutes in his crib before waking up screaming.  Any advice on how to get him to be happy again to sleep in his crib?",4.998437500000001,3.66640946875,5.787583333333334,87.76575000000004,68.89583333333334,8.93,24.40833333333333,7.554174236665415,0.7882608333333332,343,5,83,3,5,113,58,96,0.026,0.858,0.116,0.872,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,5,8,8,1,0,10,7,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,10,2,18,2,1,23,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,2,9,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389576098271358,0.0,0.0,0.2847884196999132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670186136637084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100295915569664,0.0,0.14923164720887638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170817033640943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429438776275925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137608629577004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540153584738667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921649948268026,0.15143990184166686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442633252900452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7115207240962975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203165830100808,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Cinza,2018/02/09,"Am I creeped out for no reason? Advice please I really don’t know if I’m overreacting but I just had an encounter with a neighbor in the elevator and I’m almost disturbed. 

My son, who is 21 months old and cute as hell, and I (mom) we’re coming from the garage in the basement of the multi story building we live in. My son is biracial and has an unusual eye color for our country and was wearing a fox hood so he was looking extra cute. 

We waited for the elevator and when it came my son just ran in and didn’t wait for the elder gentleman (probably 70)to get off the elevator first. He smiled and said something along the lines of “there you go!” and started to leave, when suddenly he turns around, blocks the elevator door with his foot and leans towards my son. The way he is standing now is between me and my son, who is at the far end of the elevator, I was waiting for the guy to get off before getting in myself. 


I’ll just write down the following conversation, if you can call it that.

Guy (to my son): “oh! Wait! Wow! You’re so pretty!” 
Me: “thank you.”
Guy looks at me and tries to find similarities.
Me: “he looks more like his father.”
Guy: “how old is...oh! Is it a boy or a girl?”
Me: “boy”
Guy: “he’s gorgeous. How old is he?”
Me: “almost 2.”
Guy: “he’s so pretty.” Turns to my son, pulls the hood off his head “you’re so beautiful, little boy!”
At this point I’m starting to get weirded out. My son turns around, now facing the elevator wall, because there’s a keyhole he likes to play with.
Guy: “hey pretty boy, let me...what’s his name????”
Me (I don’t know why I said that: “Samplename”
Guy: “hey samplename!” He grabs my sons jacket and turns him around. Now I am freaked out but I don’t know what to say/do. 
Guy: “I wanna look at you again, you’re so beautiful.” Proceeds to touch his cheek. 
At this point I finally snap out of it and tell him we gotta go now. 
Guy: “ok, seriously, he’s so pretty.” Touched his chin. I step forward and pick up my kid and say again that we gotta leave. Guy leaves and we go home. 

What the hell, right? Right? I mean, it was fine until the third time he said it and just got unacceptable from there, right? This guy must be a fucking pedo or something, right? Who does that? That was too much, right?
Why the hell didn’t I stop him way earlier?!
How do I protect my kid? How do I teach my kid what to do if he ever encounters him alone? What the fuck just happened? What do I do next time we meet him? 

We’re in Germany and there’s no publicly available sex offender list. 

Help ",-0.4566966966966994,1.7785610598455612,1.7038642213642206,95.66082421707422,93.8069498069498,4.808279708279709,18.19830544830545,6.495368025078613,-0.06967576147576128,1911,57,437,25,72,636,220,518,0.093,0.757,0.15,0.9909,0,1,2,0,0,0,99,7,4,0,1,32,20,6,1,28,1,30,9,6,6,2,75,72,40,0,5,12,11,3,2,1,3,0,4,3,20,22,38,0,7,7,1,0,10,7,10,0,2,14,13,59,10,53,53,3,72,3,0,6,3,84,35,5,7,28,254,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05576827442430992,0.0,0.0,0.11429499084251532,0.0591074473556095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241355645053775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03478942397084779,0.0,0.04856248060644658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058274987621223476,0.06527302962059055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04916086709225248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994245883829335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054719939666822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051623203515410436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251754221342215,0.05216106854877525,0.04854382681254632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552083850474424,0.11926715809501633,0.0,0.09730281697467788,0.0,0.04564419960300642,0.0,0.0,0.6781008623747816,0.0504669310050886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058570422201694165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03825290782271837,0.0,0.057245997600308574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409275937408187,0.0,0.0,0.18128709483685865,0.0,0.05835807861857323,0.0,0.055763169481587896,0.057199267114175466,0.050393973881245266,0.0,0.1916981562643071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062166106591712914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683985117020609,0.04555283646523543,0.0,0.04195311505205865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060694734938597165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965651615921727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264586927490344,0.10789944662486692,0.0,0.0,0.2322433733812247,0.06153125695633139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03656058919448557,0.05867760275300205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436879129823461,0.1628602990440555,0.09076892234314468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787075467081036,0.0,0.0,0.0807890691445644,0.0,0.0,0.04771318744210937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988181257004346,0.052542511758202536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655610814392612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03874687479319159,0.24830367069253784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059923192092688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299383845822388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redheadedbeauty25,2018/02/09,"7 year old boy problems TMI proceed with caution 🤦‍♀️ Ok this may be TMI!  But I don’t know whether this is normal!!!! 

My 7 year old uncircumcised boy is nearly able to retract his foreskin... nearly.    This has become his obsession lol!  I catch him playing with himself all the time and he’s clearly getting himself aroused.   Two questions for you:  1) is this normal to be getting “excited” that young??   2) by him getting his penis erect can this hurt his foreskin if he’s not able to retract all the way?? TMI but the kid is well endowed for his age & I’m scared he’s going to rip his foreskin!!! 🙈

oh parenthood is so much fun lol",-0.236328125,2.0390517734374995,1.7481875000000002,93.9280625,97.671875,3.8100000000000014,24.36875,5.6839178017228535,0.5756268750000002,489,23,100,4,20,161,82,128,0.106,0.7340000000000001,0.16,0.8536,2,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,1,0,0,2,9,0,2,3,3,11,1,1,0,3,17,17,6,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,4,1,1,0,0,14,5,11,14,3,13,0,1,0,1,18,2,0,3,8,57,20,0,0.3851106797475395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20863363030445828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21266224458584895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018066529664267,0.0,0.10943363708981207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20613447385913566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582337903744313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415503305085886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773266994130909,0.0,0.0,0.4041088758058092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424945509251892,0.0,0.0,0.2157060490183641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19278148676428025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228056716941948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809858767148094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528414660784787,0.0,0.0,0.17313037551318866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24799865140780802
parenting,Tinyasparagus,2018/02/09,"Speech Therapy My 2 year old son is being sent to speech. I'm actually very excited for it, because I know it's going to help him. 

He doesn't even say ""Mommy"" or ""Daddy"" yet. 

What are your experiences with speech? Any tips or tricks?",0.5249645390070938,2.9406747234042565,3.030957446808511,87.28416666666668,89.0,6.5375886524822695,18.471631205673766,7.793537801064563,0.8174992907801419,180,5,38,4,6,62,41,47,0.032,0.843,0.124,0.6432,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,8,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,4,4,1,4,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,19,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.3368921250785524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347664580382647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104474077169642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22801942982302084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376986234317441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962006768976517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313986370016601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897279406121104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622580637997919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27453867049342423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39479759805875303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848487451975895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223151152144542
parenting,Ryowegian,2018/02/09,"Music similar to Elizabeth Mitchell and ""Music Together"" for kids that is also enjoyable for adults? My kids really love Elizabeth Mitchell's and Music Together's ""folk songs for all ages"" style of music - what are some other examples of kids music in the same vein that adults can enjoy as well?",8.553899371069187,8.928303509433963,8.443396226415096,65.99389937106919,61.07547169811321,13.104402515723276,34.647798742138356,12.45797560212912,4.919244025157234,238,9,37,8,3,77,37,53,0.0,0.7829999999999999,0.217,0.9194,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,5,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,8,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,1,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4891413508689345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5520437238470604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918427111612238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499525029864001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jfischer74,2018/02/09,"7-year-old boy looking at pictures of girls in bikinis Yeah so this morning I went into our office and my son was acting all guilty.  He usually likes to look at army pictures and stuff like that but this morning he was looking at girls in bikinis.  I pretended like I didn't see and just left the room, when I checked back it was army pictures again but I checked the browsing history and there were terms like ""bikini girls"" and ""sexy girls"".

I thankfully have safe search on so no worries about porn getting through but I was surprised as seven seems a little young for this.

That being said, is it normal for a seven-year-old to be curious this early?  Did he hear something from a friend that made him curious most likely?

I obviously want to approach this practically and not do anything that could make him insecure psychologically or sexually, even at his age.

Any ideas on how to best approach this?",4.240313725490196,6.560626717647061,4.517058823529414,82.86343137254904,73.0,7.121568627450981,29.568627450980397,8.021203637495839,2.117286274509804,722,31,131,11,15,226,111,170,0.069,0.7020000000000001,0.229,0.9836,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,1,0,0,1,10,11,0,1,5,1,13,1,0,3,2,25,26,15,0,3,6,1,0,5,1,0,0,2,1,5,13,7,0,1,2,1,2,4,3,1,0,1,10,6,13,10,20,13,4,24,0,0,4,1,16,12,0,3,13,89,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092375679307468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218923206042418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351869304355713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857692260581422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825428121205446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060981545786348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124106497374496,0.0,0.08392535692110263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810477497215988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813377932550757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745308121544123,0.0,0.0,0.3923916672908261,0.16099885282277904,0.0,0.0,0.4046797905450774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519970820998977,0.10722536459259524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573885678770704,0.0,0.0,0.3371196224832142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280103306294285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800560162660546,0.14623641839347518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366496471391245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838890802886782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789147736128175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691717847031102,0.0,0.09474691000494533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489106081085733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313302747283825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068878382644636
parenting,Masonchill,2018/02/09,"Have toddler but desperate for a dog I’m after some advice. I have a 25 month old girl and she will be our only. We have never be in a position to have a dog of our own (had family dogs but we lived in rented when me and my husband moved in together) but now we have brought our own home and I am desperate for a dog. 

I have been looking at adopting but because I have a toddler and a cat (who is fine with dogs and has his own space to escape to) we won’t be able to adopt. Looking at places like preloved, they are all trouble dogs or huge dogs that we won’t be able to have (medium is ideal for our family). So we are left with getting a puppy.

Is now the best time? Husband is in two minds. He wants one too but thinks we should wait for a few years (so our daughter is older (she is really good with dogs)) I would love to get some peoples perspectives if they have got a puppy with a toddler. ",0.3848429319371718,2.3731826020942437,2.4057041884816748,94.824472513089,84.23560209424083,5.4953926701570674,20.02120418848168,6.742157984588678,0.16819979057591586,691,20,159,8,20,231,103,191,0.047,0.79,0.163,0.9765,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,12,0,2,2,6,7,0,0,12,0,30,1,0,0,2,34,41,15,0,5,7,3,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,1,2,16,0,1,1,0,1,2,3,1,0,2,4,2,24,6,22,28,8,22,0,0,2,1,24,10,0,4,11,119,26,0,0.3667874266442254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921021413929367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179510544225443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19246038763858828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457745425951575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19163129182885194,0.0,0.0,0.15382194567879384,0.14667670587823936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395884747147145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925780612723853,0.0,0.0,0.08959690475490943,0.0,0.1619400087920093,0.0,0.308009060607216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551998644182495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851753707843834,0.0,0.1463831122956264,0.1949184938502536,0.0,0.0,0.14144453757781592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244085198840896,0.0,0.12427232641366948,0.13947918301869225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714210939555973,0.0,0.1916073970594646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748670881856105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751128638322543,0.0,0.0,0.10693834905129918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914900976691628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817036368465112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302776321213388,0.0,0.0,0.11809953858036233
parenting,Herdo,2018/02/09,"6 month old has no problem playing for up to an hour by herself? This is something I'd never imagine would be a problem, but it's starting to worry me.

I'm a stay at home dad with a 6 month old little girl.  Everything has been great so far, but a comment made by my mom has me concerned.

My mom was over and was amazed that my daughter can sit in her walled play mat for 45 minutes by herself playing with various toys.  She crawls pretty well so she'll just move onto the next toy when she gets bored.

I was curious so I looked it up, and apparently a 6 month old can usually only play alone for 5 minutes!  Why is my daughter so content with playing by herself for so long? Anyone else's baby similar to mine?

She just turned 6 months old today, and she's been playing by herself like this for a few weeks.

EDIT:. Wow, this got a lot more responses than I expected, thank you everyone.  My daughter is extremely social, she just doesn't seem to mind being left alone for a while.  It sounds like this is fairly normal and I'll ask her pediatrician at her 6 month appointment on Monday.",3.3135052377115244,4.750654634703199,4.6286381950040285,84.82242546333605,73.42922374429223,7.344721998388398,27.9508460918614,7.928766900206844,1.7402992747784047,851,33,171,12,17,282,128,219,0.07,0.721,0.209,0.9882,1,2,1,0,0,0,22,0,1,0,0,10,16,0,0,10,0,19,0,0,1,1,23,29,13,0,5,5,6,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,1,8,7,0,0,2,8,0,1,3,3,1,0,7,2,25,13,27,18,4,35,0,0,1,0,24,12,0,2,22,111,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306439231078189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785644513800652,0.1140882093963255,0.0,0.0,0.10409445943901316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301617113596553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639687634929572,0.10007154733710996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581742370708731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905440629347912,0.12276051387003765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169016815529002,0.0,0.1096544134471549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097889380426133,0.0,0.0,0.10879708691174804,0.11159899434274463,0.0,0.0985386338820504,0.09350347712389293,0.0,0.0,0.09466327867941557,0.0,0.10535926938592567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242877733474273,0.2608166345112182,0.4443807583086952,0.11834429087781102,0.0,0.0,0.08587770799750997,0.0,0.1184188491003978,0.0,0.10909646614351992,0.0,0.0,0.4673599865179837,0.0,0.0,0.08468444774278193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132799781349298,0.0,0.2130881750030288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136617089415466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350429350485078,0.0,0.08572039772665388,0.0,0.0,0.07881201390590417,0.11868113832029682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251340215168707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554398234528876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111361446986045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263304273960092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931588581743392,0.0,0.1001143686888232,0.0,0.10047339218956852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307833249033104,0.0,0.07909774842855488,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mtloml,2018/02/09,"doubts about sending daughter to kindergarten hello all, I have a decision to make and would like to ask you if you have any advice for me... we would like to send our daughter to a kindergarten and the one we applied for she can join beginning of next year..however we would like to send our daughter as soon as possible as she has gotten very active and enjoys playing in a group with other kids.. we found out that there is another kindergarten close to where we live and went there to take a look and get a feeling for how it is before we actually register. As soon as we arrived our daughter immediately ran into the room where a group of kids was playing and joined them and had fun. We then proceeded to take a look at other rooms (with other groups of kids) and then came to the room with the free spot for our daughter. The reason for us having doubts is the teacher taking care of this group. I know it's very hard to convey it here on reddit but she felt a little bit cold and uncomfortable. Our daughter seemed to feel comfortable approaching other teachers but seemed a bit frightened to approach her teacher.. Now I know you shouldnt judge a book by its cover and so on but for now that is the only impression we have.. we talked a bit and she definitely also seemed friendly but in general she seemed to feel a but uneased and cold (also quite younger than the other teachers...maybe that plays a role?). 

We were also thinking about joining until next year and then switch to the other kindergarten (closer, not as pricey and the parents seem to be satisfied with the quality) but we dont really know how it would affect her getting used to one place and then switching to another at such a young age (she is 2 now). Is this not recommended? Anyone here having experience with switching kindergarten/daycare at a young age?

Do you have any toughts on this? Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!",5.544010989010989,6.752633423076923,5.616421978021978,80.72857802197804,67.79120879120879,8.24158241758242,29.669890109890108,8.488131031819089,2.173305626373627,1522,55,280,22,25,479,171,364,0.036000000000000004,0.8270000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9875,2,0,0,0,0,0,38,18,4,1,1,20,17,0,3,26,0,27,0,0,6,1,76,58,39,0,7,9,7,5,3,1,6,0,0,3,3,17,36,0,0,16,4,1,8,4,3,0,2,9,9,35,15,54,41,5,46,0,0,2,0,53,19,0,8,22,209,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.09066171665363378,0.0,0.0,0.18157105779639224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288788742059606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895354196256105,0.19483763870014206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496122033075767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685347889750816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905517127750361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30428405094581107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625838037961242,0.0947226704144778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888377395291736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087875504585397,0.0,0.0,0.14092642719376744,0.0,0.08920321041089628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186535556743448,0.07177804456751362,0.0,0.09707788289681164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832244832189759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531742018817615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616582779416928,0.09311505100624014,0.08203667083693066,0.0,0.15603332436692585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201469835435725,0.0,0.0933353933748869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829574302316503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761069065226147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590944031912216,0.0706583129843147,0.0,0.0,0.10315982401288157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706577812205233,0.0,0.0,0.10473624153504743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881572722586912,0.0,0.0,0.059517215856407915,0.09552164300223384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228853597071013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095586198723152,0.07467338668742911,0.0,0.08553428932218808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952966652624166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175307666669132,0.08023994765657769,0.0,0.15331243625968086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612371222708626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32998464380348913,0.0,0.0,0.11965533464869915
parenting,illtamic,2018/02/09,"What to do about a child (16M) who never leaves the house? My son never leaves the house. Like, he goes to school and comes back, and that is absolutely it. Then he is on his phone or computer all day, mostly socializing with what seems like strangers or mild acquaintances. I've seen his facebook and it seems he doesn't know many of the people he talks to very well, usually just people he might pass by in his class or something. But its not exactly... idk, meaningful socialization?

I don't really know how to break him away from this depressive existence. My friends kids are apparently the same way. 

Is this just generational? If so, how are we supposed to counter it? This is not healthy mentally or socially to be inside on your computer all day like this. Its... almost disturbing. ",3.749387755102042,6.260729346938777,4.238333333333333,83.37750000000003,75.25850340136056,8.825850340136055,26.14625850340137,9.424239791934726,2.4782870748299315,622,23,120,17,14,196,98,147,0.065,0.8370000000000001,0.097,0.6152,1,0,1,0,0,0,26,1,1,0,0,8,7,0,1,5,0,11,0,0,2,5,32,17,13,0,1,10,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,13,6,0,0,5,0,0,2,6,2,1,0,1,1,9,5,15,14,4,15,0,1,1,0,21,4,0,10,10,78,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839991205959122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392378584856269,0.1139558992406076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766033400913945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19115221647579264,0.0,0.12764359948492182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449819587166114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34200354491868945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289261222069182,0.0,0.0,0.313842729624639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21720766727128096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025054636810922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934975621750934,0.15721574140626998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860044209179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20548508209670285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494008759813984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998532105065354,0.0,0.26982964519998104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4532107157880397,0.0,0.1140908465859692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911675926606705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322028404709515,0.12227971284388645,0.0,0.1176334846402633,0.0,0.0,0.13324871771536467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jennybo86,2018/02/09,"How can I kindly ask Gramma not to shower with my kids? My husband and I went away for a few days and my MIL and SIL watched our two boys (4 and 2).  My 4 year old told me casually that he showered with MIL once and 2 year old showered with SIL. 

This post isn't meant to judge or shame them, but I am not comfortable with that happening (I don't think it's a sight my boys need to see). How do I tell them that without making them feel embarrassed?",3.4965625,3.4807055312500026,4.539583333333333,91.01375,71.8125,8.066666666666668,25.375,7.793537801064563,0.9611374999999996,345,9,84,4,6,113,62,96,0.099,0.863,0.037000000000000005,-0.7759,3,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,3,0,2,5,0,2,2,0,5,0,0,3,0,21,15,9,0,1,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,9,0,0,3,1,0,1,5,2,0,1,3,4,15,3,10,12,1,8,0,0,3,0,12,1,0,1,5,50,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21521029979418685,0.0,0.21628487407310687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846297378787188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639840272866905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035692376386973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23972274863615944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366341099861452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706938527849776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831221726516127,0.2451604703821151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22047244831458868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344332469849534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012090363865452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750586323523765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199704362719926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248765216238771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21340204402924928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190909596806774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964885318192948
parenting,anima-vero-quaerenti,2018/02/09,"Need to vent. I've been dealing with a couple of persistent issues with my family and I'm to my breaking point, am yelling way to much, and can't figure a workaround. My issues are:

- My son (6), despite repeated reminders is incapable of taking off his shoes, coat, book bag, and lunch bag in the same place. Then his version of ""looking"" for them is walking around aimlessly in circle for 10-minutes until I get frustrated and tell him were to look. I know he's only 6, but common man. Why can't he hang his coat, bag, etc on the back of his chair like his sister? I love him to death and he's an awesome little boy, but his inability to learn a routine and follow basic directions is really pissing me off. He doesn't respond unless you yell at him. I feel like I'm a frigging drill instructor. 
- My son, takes 10-minutes to get into his booster seat and buckle the seat belt. I don't understand why such a simple task takes forever! He's also plays this sneaking game that pisses me off to no end, I've literally left an amusement park at 30-minutes when he's pulled that shit on me. 
- My daughter (8) has zero awareness of time. She can wake up at 6:00 AM and burn the two hours before school completely unaware that she needs to get dressed, pack her lunch (if she didn't pack it the night before), and be ready to walk out the door by 8:00 AM. 
- My kids can trash our house is zero point five seconds. I usually clean the house up before I go to bed, constantly remind them to pickup after themselves, and put things away. My kids even help me clean the house daily. We do it the same way each and every time. Yet the continue to live like slobs if I'm not on them 24/7. The problem is they are wearing me down and I'm starting not give an flying fork about our living environment. My goal is to keep the house 10-minutes from company coming over. 
- My wife (40s) has developed the annoying habit of asking me to give her 20-minutes to fall asleep before coming to bed. Of course this is never 20-minutes because it takes about 40-minutes to actually get into bed, at which point I become occupied and end up staying up for several more hours (I suffer from insomnia and if I miss my window, I'm screwed for the night). Not a big deal, but almost every morning she wakes up with some mystery ailment and forces me to get up an deal with the kids on less then 3-hours of sleep, who are up to their normal shenanigans. I even specifically asked her to take care of the kids this morning. Nope.
- My wife can't make microwave popcorn without trashing our kitchen. When I cook, I clean as I go (small kitchen) wiping stuff down, washing dishes, etc. When she cooks it looks like a bomb has gone off in the kitchen. On top of it, she won't get back to it for days, which means were eating out and spending money. I have no problem cooking, but have a weak stomach and can't handle the odors associated with a messy kitchen (hence cleaning while I go). 

I'll fully admit that I'm far from perfect, but these are my triggers. I've talked to my wife about them and she's unreceptive. 

I'm frustrated and yelling more then I should, but nothing ever seems to happen unless I am yelling. I need therapy. I need them to listen. I need something to change before I lose my mind. 

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parenting,catsrmyleader,2018/02/09,"Reusable alternatives for bedtime wetting? **TMI WARNING** Hey there, I am mum to a 6 year old girl who has issues with bedtime wetting.  

My lo(littleone) suffers with encopresis and as a result it has interfered with her ability to stay dry at night and also through the day.

After her first big ""clean out"" at hospital we used ""Drynites"" for the first week home so that any *mess* was contained and she stayed cleaner due to the huge amount of laxative she was on in order to help keep things moving.

After her medicine was tapered off we went make to just using bed pads which we have used since she had started having dry night. My mother heavily influenced our decision not to use ""drynites"" as she made the argument that with out the uncomfortable feeling a child takes much longer to learn which made a lot of sense and did actually work until lo started suffering with encopresis.

Now, after another admission to hospital for another ""clean out"", our lo has asked if she can wear ""Drynites"" every night because its not as yucky. I have no problems with this as until we improve her bowel issues we have very little hope of improving her bedtime wetting issues but I do live about 200km from the nearest town which makes purchasing them difficult as well as expensive.
>Side Note: Why do they only supply 9 in a pack???


But I would like to ask if anybody has heard of or used bed-wetting undies for their children that can be washed and reused, kind of like the new modibodi undies for women?


I have found one one brand ""Super Undies"" but I cant seem to find any others.

Thanks for reading hopefully someone here can help me. 

                                                                                  



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parenting,J_I_M271713,2018/02/09,"Tips for 1.5 y.o sleeping?! My 19 month old is still nursing to sleep and for right now, weaning all together is sort of on the back burner — unless you have some awesome types for me (no crying it out, she just makes herself throw up and it’s all over after that)

But my one goal for now is to get her to actually sleep through the night. She ends up in our bed almost every night bc I have to wake up at ungodly hours to nurse her back to sleep and I end up falling asleep before putting her back in her bed. And once she’s in our bed, I barely wake up to nurse again bc she pretty much serves herself at that point. 

Any tips to get her to sleep through the night w/o waking for more boob time??? I can’t let her cry too long bc 1) my husband wakes up really early for work and I would like him to get as much rest as possible and 2) like I mentioned above, when she cries for too long and gets upset, she’ll make herself throw up ",1.3645464852607674,3.1414479489795966,2.443401360544218,96.93890022675741,79.71428571428571,5.375963718820863,19.562358276643987,6.139981653823899,-0.25534716553287984,722,17,169,5,18,229,113,196,0.07,0.8690000000000001,0.06,0.35100000000000003,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,2,1,0,2,11,3,0,1,3,0,9,11,11,2,2,19,15,12,0,1,3,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,29,2,39,12,7,42,0,0,0,1,21,17,1,3,23,111,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.1082681200622706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109724274052847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544766165001414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255933834945236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440759662775558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656097109244771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653195436931212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347750513362472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318605971474683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926029743517844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345066968143587,0.0,0.10840605227246304,0.0,0.0,0.19636893962316526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481157660560564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855671614289765,0.0,0.16311739901469524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123483052963747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642005444875413,0.11815477295905367,0.07518045601057807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488063321837636,0.12507590184630582,0.0,0.11287283124666675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153222667532674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710753922378479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474800259212016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.55513486596918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860229669294599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469399969171823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077062722896654,0.0,0.0,0.07881345810054173,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seriouslyadisaster,2018/02/09,"Flu and Tamiflu question.. My 3y/o tested positive for flu tonight:(.  I took her in as soon as I noticed a few symptoms and mild fever.  With the flu being so terrible, I didn't want to take any chances.   So....here's my question, I am right in the middle of switching insurance, and while it will back date to cover the visit.....it will not cover the prescription I need to fill in the morning.   She received her first dose this evening.   Does anybody know roughly how much it's going to cost me to fill....anyone know where I can locate coupons? Thank you!",2.101035353535355,4.432865416666669,3.0983501683501693,90.33621212121214,80.01851851851852,5.779124579124581,26.484848484848484,6.980632752743323,1.2504888888888894,427,18,85,5,11,136,77,108,0.121,0.805,0.07400000000000001,-0.6213,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,6,0,6,6,0,1,0,12,14,8,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,2,4,2,1,0,1,2,1,13,1,13,9,2,16,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,2,6,55,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392208578704512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854757943803453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18535236714740766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109442475547266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592110766115923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20503678149999294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699411942676726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649492607853602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771992908055987,0.17873532421538044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27443672103038275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5400617401767585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585515666612828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505429710203466,0.1812394017539231,0.0,0.0,0.22192620998810564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678151250193941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217737912047188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1675orSomething,2018/02/09,"My oldest son (8 years old) doesn't talk due to selective mutism. My other son (adopted, 7 years old) talks for him and I don't know what to do. Kinda long, sorry So I have 2 sons.  The first is my wife and I's son.  He has selective mutism and doesn't talk very often even at home.  About a year ago, we kinda got shoved into adopting a family friend's kid after they passed away about a year ago.  He's about 8 months younger than our son.  (For brevity's sake we'll call the oldest son Connor and the younger one John).  They always got along before we adopted John and now they get along even better.  However, since they've been living together they've become almost inseparable.  However about 4 months ago John has started talking **for** Connor, and I don't mean the typical little kid ""He says I can have his dessert"" type thing but like ""Connor's cold, can you get another blanket down from the closet"" type talking.

We'd been taking Connor to a therapist and working on his SM and he'd been slowly getting better but now he's talking even less than usual.  Half the time when we ask Connor a question, John will respond.  For example, Wife: Connor do you want ketchup?  John: No he's good, I'd like some though please.  It's like this for just about every question directed towards Connor.  Besides that they're like two peas in a pod, playing and goofing around and watching cartoons, everything normal brothers do together, except one of them doesn't talk.  

It's honestly kinda unnerving how John seems to know exactly what Connor is thinking and now the school thinks the next best step is to put them in separate classrooms, basically to try and force Connor to start talking in class again.  The therapist thinks that this will only cause Connor more anxiety, but also agrees that as long as Connor continues to rely on John to talk for him he will continue to fall behind in his speech.

Has anyone else ever had a kid with SM that acted like this?  Or siblings that did something similar?  How did you get them to stop while also nurturing the relationship?  My wife and I are just at a loss as to what to do next.  Do we let the school separate them or try and fight them to keep the kids together?",3.1657941176470565,5.4873125647058805,3.963161764705884,85.57297794117645,76.29411764705883,6.8852941176470575,24.036764705882355,7.908726449838941,1.3998529411764709,1740,57,327,28,40,555,209,425,0.043,0.846,0.111,0.9836,2,0,1,0,1,0,54,7,3,8,6,24,15,1,0,20,0,34,1,0,3,2,55,53,30,0,2,8,10,0,5,1,4,0,2,2,4,15,23,1,2,9,1,0,5,6,2,0,5,8,4,34,13,51,38,4,53,0,1,1,0,62,14,0,11,39,199,49,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050165554509588,0.0,0.07719813472863299,0.0,0.0,0.1233034968111354,0.06414807636374391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083939342838026,0.05897641626809495,0.0,0.0,0.05390565891622031,0.07899153488422568,0.0,0.06862967588580154,0.07207213758143398,0.0,0.07243200356064529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514385787633542,0.06560100128585104,0.0,0.08090500884232532,0.13636610234435498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872121625857291,0.0,0.0,0.07919639487443399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644018357897058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275884744456936,0.0697356024219371,0.06495470866235574,0.0,0.06928678400883337,0.0,0.07267701361654967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557580266456242,0.0,0.0,0.05956234763492661,0.0,0.1611129599197685,0.0,0.0,0.06466247952620921,0.12331763779179668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733119715653787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852436096882189,0.0,0.0,0.08473728622872996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078833460372875,0.0,0.1883202684038327,0.07726807091910882,0.06807508809473505,0.13645087387949872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397756431573107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230708005938798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397990115120872,0.0,0.07553538929851197,0.0,0.0,0.16179359319366954,0.0,0.10448127836294968,0.05863317991772068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462565543471537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750039199060461,0.17272501958636388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276970760122661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130794923352303,0.0,0.15604573966507673,0.0,0.0701831457135998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377264775928182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593504431627337,0.0,0.08630000752329885,0.1091345368410141,0.0,0.0,0.06445372706777178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057964815666300434,0.5576844589982424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902329385175594,0.05121758244217205,0.14819545643482335,0.07574410047647374,0.0,0.04495391587709937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468302901287324,0.0,0.07530927479219175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490774221789055,0.06361031900686225,0.045471820657549004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056125081137259294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858308154426704
parenting,DBoxy,2018/02/09,Coloboma in my 2 weeks daughters eye. Anyone have experience with this? My daughter is 2 weeks old and we have noticed something that looks like Coloboma with her eye. Does anyone have Coloboma or a child with Coloboma? My wife and I are pretty concerned that something awful will come of it. Can someone help shed some light on this?,4.346448087431693,7.121759737704918,3.656967213114754,86.95189890710384,74.57377049180326,4.722404371584699,29.83879781420765,5.46131890053228,1.281260109289618,268,12,45,1,6,79,44,61,0.046,0.816,0.138,0.7131,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,2,2,0,0,9,9,3,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,1,6,8,1,6,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,2,4,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362188629866084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231000140083152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266470045274873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25334539288518176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359791996940205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653116826788965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21748935625809535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948658779507363,0.2717701676321267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634895543922127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944439793064688,0.3987717824665568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154980137116531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rachyrachyrach,2018/02/09,"Toddler with hypothyroidism? https://i.imgur.com/g3bJcil.jpg

My 3 year old daughter had her annual appointment and we were told she is in the one percentile. She has always been small and low on the scale.  Her pediatrician ordered blood tests and a bone scan. The bone scan results were saying she's behind in growth.  All of her blood tests were fine except the TSH, it is a little over so we are waiting for the endocrinologist to call us to set up an appointment.  Her pediatrician says she's healthy but definitely wants to take a look at a possible hypothyroidism diagnosis.  Anyone here in a similar situation? 

Edit: Here are the actual results from the bone age scan. Never heard of this before! 

Study Result
Impression
1. Delayed bone age.

Narrative
REASON FOR EXAM: Delayed linear growth ;Delayed linear growth 
COMPARISON: None.
TECHNIQUE: PA hand and wrist compared to standards of Greulich and Pyle for 
bone age. 
SIDE: Left.
FINDINGS: 
GENDER: Female.
CHRONOLOGIC AGE: 3 years 1 month.
MEAN SKELETAL AGE for CHRONOLOGIC AGE: 37.7 months.
1 STANDARD DEVIATION: 6.2 months.
PHYSES: All of the physes of the hand and wrist are open.
SKELETAL AGE: 2 years.
This is 2.2 standard deviations BELOW the mean skeletal age for chronologic 
age.
TIME PERIOD since PRIOR STUDY: Not applicable.
SKELETAL GROWTH since PRIOR STUDY: Not applicable.
BONY MINERALIZATION: Normal. There is no evidence of metabolic bone disease or
skeletal dysplasia.",5.1125732111026245,8.730150071428575,5.0714667685255925,71.54831041507516,81.89915966386555,7.926865291571175,28.640692640692638,8.575989854853784,3.2959507002801125,1159,51,164,30,33,360,139,238,0.09,0.84,0.071,-0.6981,0,0,0,0,0,0,53,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,16,0,13,17,17,4,3,34,21,9,0,2,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,10,0,4,4,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,7,9,12,2,27,14,3,45,0,1,4,0,18,14,0,1,25,91,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.15951643584986908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601441960885766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429722178335992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390950847077621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691413285098622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940234019421456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776031699333409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383300039685336,0.0,0.0,0.13726786065560856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561185406652477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914241344975472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607284367837687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601591617043869,0.0,0.0,0.1715270583476637,0.0,0.11076684790941008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18428011922397405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806732323912166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25998488513117624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704367820077399,0.18373940788949927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290393114644177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531666612258524,0.0,0.0,0.15619602656653675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19662601970391072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641478974715154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31579469071555705
parenting,nobodysaynothing,2018/02/09,"Does anybody else feel like their work quality has suffered since having children? (And does it get better?) I’m 35F, one 21-month old son, daughter due in 3 months. I used to feel like I was good at work. Now I’m happy to just get through the day and not break anything. Some combination of chronic tiredness, realigned priorities, and pregnancy hormones, I imagine. It’s now been almost two years since I felt like my brain could operate at full capacity, and I’m wondering if it ever will!

Does anyone else feel the same? Any tips for mustering the energy to do a good job at work when kiddos leave you exhausted? How long after having kids did you feel like you were as mentally sharp as you were before? (Or are you still waiting?) Is this just life now?",4.129583333333333,6.15130390277778,4.741388888888891,82.44250000000002,72.47222222222223,7.855555555555558,27.972222222222214,8.59863814320734,2.1604972222222214,598,23,111,11,12,191,101,144,0.045,0.805,0.15,0.9428,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,5,1,4,9,10,0,0,4,0,13,4,1,2,1,24,26,10,0,2,5,2,6,4,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,7,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,6,6,11,8,13,18,3,19,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,5,17,66,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333553374299836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054999014926884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310509675690876,0.1364330692961732,0.10957524858571786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133051277893092,0.0,0.0,0.1177648080776296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864505651488907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063134608390003,0.0,0.0,0.08587398218848777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495746063701256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224678919830014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204463527843474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693087470273131,0.2853779516752912,0.12784971547711255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913602044486234,0.0,0.0,0.22336825238278604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174601118571276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213582647043856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099195641388584,0.0,0.0,0.09405133936165934,0.2602112974932951,0.0,0.0,0.11783801617990004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418895727951516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256615775817025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397238105590785,0.0,0.09022929806299844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22029444252969044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633778326975296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007312139746086,0.0,0.0,0.11500319809721507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440095587226304,0.2908153549089542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574747713500577
parenting,ShyJalexa,2018/02/09,"Appropriate punishment for 3.5 year old? Hi everyone, I'm lost about what to do to keep my 3.5 year old son from hurting our dog. I don't think he means to hurt her, I think he thinks he's playing with her. I've been explaining and showing him for a year and a half now how to be gentle with the dog and how to play with her correctly, like with her dog toys. But he still has moments where he hurts her, usually by throwing his toys at her, hitting her with something, or pulling on her leg or ears on purpose. This happens almost every day. I've tried calmly taking away whatever he hit her with and making him pet her nicely, I've tried time outs, taking away toys and privileges, yelling, even spanking, but I hate any kind of violent punishment. I only use that as a last resort on days when he continually hurts her and other punishments aren't working.

When he gets in trouble I have him explain to me why he is in trouble/time out and he apologizes to the dog and he always seems to understand that it's wrong to be so rough with her, but then he does it again. I just can't believe this has been going on for so long and he still doesn't understand why it's wrong. He doesn't have any learning disabilities or any conditions at all that I know of, he seems like a normal healthy kid. He barely ever shows any violence in other situations. Once in a while if he doesn't get his way he will try to kick or hit or occasionally bite me but I immediately correct him and he stops. There is no domestic violence in our home and I monitor what he watches on TV to make sure there isn't violence, so I don't think he is seeing too much of it anywhere. 

Is this normal behavior for his age or should I be worried? Am I correcting him in the right way? Please help!",4.952461382628513,5.135666415041784,5.926737148645227,81.63527665231706,68.69359331476323,9.535629273233726,30.245758419853125,9.457814108942452,2.446269080779944,1389,50,293,27,22,461,179,359,0.177,0.743,0.08,-0.9929,0,0,1,0,2,0,34,2,0,0,2,19,22,5,0,8,0,25,2,2,5,6,62,54,32,0,4,12,1,1,2,0,2,0,2,2,1,14,20,0,2,13,8,0,3,9,13,0,1,3,5,37,9,46,43,2,48,0,5,2,0,50,19,0,10,26,176,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602478850419624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797921541424867,0.0,0.0,0.2608470048171891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18019263929874266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080405993504373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368842342592212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391818419994553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333760985967153,0.08674233512659643,0.08079550346105675,0.09163158923945007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020214838068256,0.0,0.05449922375997589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479945342306038,0.0,0.0,0.09467626014175616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642762619126206,0.0,0.09619030146046564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41062945961575104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523570281259357,0.0,0.09985967572123833,0.05270127326998319,0.0781670595078056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936987092141454,0.0,0.0,0.08486387884597299,0.0,0.0,0.10468050023300712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802104497667546,0.0,0.0,0.1044575478521851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049371053394601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879130838450552,0.0,0.0,0.2012509191105321,0.10212483050234596,0.0,0.07293231527832943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526369184582787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189363377228401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641573868911672,0.17459804559780315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778977110316176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738245007132019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531634195602308,0.08017234524831593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037971251216746,0.0,0.14420190810586395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24578205870663586,0.0,0.0,0.05591702804359111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19531882000015635,0.0,0.0,0.19965973384587285,0.0,0.08282231648674188,0.10561457239222248,0.0,0.0,0.15223365468110256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306027993498807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698125552506029,0.0973858224993328,0.0,0.0,0.20969181620678354,0.0,0.18525931817683308
parenting,hatemyexhubby,2018/02/09,"I just went through a divorce and my ex husband broke our sons video game console. What is the best way to go about this? I won't bore you with the long version of what lead to the divorce. The short version of it is he messed up and wanted a second chance. I didn't trust him anymore, and he did everything in his power to screw himself over. He's not going to be seeing our son much because he's moving away to live with my ex in laws for the time being. 

Anyway I was suppose to go to his house this afternoon and pick up our sons video game console he got for his birthday. His new girlfriend answered the door extremely apologetic. She told me he and his friends got drunk and hit a bunch of old stuff with a baseball bat. They apparently didn't realize it was with the stuff until it was too late. I call bullshit on that. I don't believe that for a second. 

It's broken. It won't turn on and it's past the point of fixing in my eyes. I was against getting him a game console in the first place, but my husband talked me into getting him one. It's this thing is expensive as fuck. I can't exactly go out tomorrow and get one without dipping into my savings. 

How do you explain this to a 6 year old? I've never been in a situation like this. I've been in similar, I just don't know how to handle this one. ",3.056715328467156,4.05679281021898,4.3522700729927015,88.26015693430661,73.45255474452554,7.085839416058395,27.93357664233577,7.365786028017652,1.3891436496350371,1026,39,222,11,20,339,143,274,0.07,0.889,0.042,-0.7303,2,0,0,0,2,0,23,3,2,1,4,7,10,2,0,17,0,20,4,1,4,2,33,38,13,0,1,5,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,20,15,1,0,4,6,1,7,10,5,0,6,13,2,32,5,41,20,5,39,0,1,2,2,40,18,2,0,14,156,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752702601497765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028848549833238,0.0,0.0,0.08453418708941664,0.0,0.0,0.15623774774021873,0.14552946975255324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160133005748918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463096020811708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795575980926562,0.0,0.0,0.10713893975861506,0.12820158090957307,0.2173538198952848,0.0,0.3152457881589633,0.0,0.22182001702704207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600108059228613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762114268918172,0.0,0.1564299491751541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677489544754386,0.0,0.1224513984429892,0.12272184137360533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473881737589635,0.10194110945229663,0.0,0.1069536895651949,0.13393190250622616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910293956301643,0.0,0.28190661969140873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323797170662836,0.0,0.0,0.14488447849899258,0.0,0.13109144916389295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110504967359239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587502446156634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174963682338929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146064964685852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212862987683904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086173692465698,0.0,0.0,0.1325086422206209,0.0,0.0,0.1508371406990012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179332829532272,0.11007271100232656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285518889750067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367647717339207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893013021458518
parenting,gen_needs_answers,2018/02/09,"Help! My toddler hates me I know this sounds dramatic but I’m officially convinced that my child hates me or I’m just a shitty parent. Just a bit of background I’m a 1st time mom I have a boy. His 20 months old. The last 6 months his dad definitely been the favorite which I was fine with because prior to that I was but the last 3 months his just flat out throwing fit if I come near him. When I pick him up from his grandparents he refuses to leave throws a fit. (Doesn’t throw a fit when dad gets him) I firgured okay I have been busy with school plus I work full time so I’ve been paying less attention to him it’s my fault. So I’ve spent that last month dedicating all the time that I’m with him to be with him. I only do my school work and the big chores that he can’t help with while he naps or when his sleeping. I play in the back yard with him I take him to the park I read I’ve Pinterest’s interesting games to play with him I involve him in all the chores I can even if it takes longer with his help. 

When we’re alone his fine there minimum crying (just regular teething or occasional frustration that he can’t get the point across for what he wants he doesn’t talk much yet he has about 15 words or just over that)  when his dad comes I can’t touch him without him freaking out everything’s a fit or a battle can’t change his diaper with out there being a meltdown.  

WHAT CAN I DO 

I’m trying to keep it together but I just feel helpless 

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parenting,ny_dad,2018/02/09,"Need advice! 6 year old stealing in school, hoarding objects she picks up off the ground and giving us ""presents"" It all started with an obsession with giving us presents. Sometimes it's a thoughtful picture she made. Other times its a cheese wrapper she crumbled up.

We recently went to Disney for her 6th Birthday. She insisted on picking up every filthy used sticker, hair tie, stick etc...  on the ground. She forms emotional attachments to weird things. At first we thought it was just a harmless phase. As a result we definitely enabled her. 

It's progressed to stealing in her kindergarten class. A book. Hair ties. Pictures other kids made. Stickers. The idea of bringing something to the lost and found breaks her. I lost a phone at an amusement park over the summer. I recently used it as an example. I said I wish someone would have turned in that phone. It makes me sad. I said do you think they should have brought it to the lost and found? She froze and couldn't answer. Eventually she said they should have. So I said do you think you should bring some of this stuff to the lost and found and she cried hysterically.  

I'm not sure if it's related but she had severe separation anxiety in pre-k when she was 4. She hated saying goodbye to anyone until she turned 5. She's an extremely loving girl. All she wants to do is give us presents. I'm afraid maybe she loves inanimate objects also.

Not sure if it's relevant but I have ADHD and I believe she shows signs of it.

So that's where we are at. Any thoughts? Anyone ever deal with anything like this? I've seen different disorders online but nothing i found quite fit.  Thanks in advance! 

edit: I forgot to mention she got caught twice at school this week. The first time she talked back to the teacher which she never does. She's usually extremely polite and respectful. Then she cried. ",2.1806259370314858,5.04105472126437,2.652963518240881,89.51664917541233,86.55747126436779,5.439880059970014,24.231884057971016,6.98899656878771,1.172777911044478,1465,58,271,21,46,451,196,348,0.112,0.7859999999999999,0.103,0.4788,1,0,1,0,0,0,48,7,3,2,10,8,20,1,2,19,0,17,4,2,8,6,59,62,21,0,10,8,0,3,1,0,4,0,5,0,2,21,15,0,1,11,3,0,6,4,11,0,3,26,9,48,9,36,31,5,48,0,5,1,2,54,20,0,3,22,174,69,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635616761542697,0.07834721878657422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411684877003103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054522540355760436,0.0,0.06133454542091056,0.0,0.0,0.11212207504136383,0.0,0.06597815088835242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06165052054644447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033108035529318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761395010562175,0.0,0.08265810376900151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376702595129794,0.09188882920126028,0.0,0.07016270074222697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018739221980722,0.0,0.0,0.08941761561563563,0.0,0.07252392981559888,0.0675518754927894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363956069747875,0.0,0.351636098672221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307368445107657,0.0,0.0,0.0641242019687802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915736226956611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905091292131518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039170023500873695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500870130314314,0.0,0.1447242352071392,0.15172924845788172,0.053518211535679816,0.0,0.08054773237564444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059449609128284835,0.06183679978844001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693119098448478,0.0,0.08413139622996965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527721867657079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832857733501327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050635655622741,0.06375930303789314,0.0,0.16228511518433766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057624321497124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679330029252553,0.0617235275091673,0.0792962755359433,0.0,0.05674910100027882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178252492200636,0.0,0.0,0.15113017000107656,0.0,0.0,0.06444256298704798,0.0,0.07381543909706477,0.0,0.0,0.05326548026194786,0.10274729605537236,0.0,0.190952753526353,0.09350273108077434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441728486382574,0.0,0.0,0.2893261576136075,0.13849292526615592,0.08830271659737106,0.0,0.047289978367178735,0.0,0.06431248199334767,0.0,0.0,0.07432410656696144,0.0,0.0,0.09219863090284958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695484599373288,0.0,0.0,0.051630820442841854
parenting,dnpmpentxe,2018/02/09,"Do children need to floss? We make sure my 6 y.o. brushes his teeth every night, but he just got a crown on one of his (baby) teeth. His mother brought him to the dentist who said he had a cavity. I tried looking up any official/reliable information on children's oral health, but couldn't find much. The [CDC says children should brush twice a day, but makes no mention of flossing](https://www.cdc.gov/oralhealth/basics/childrens-oral-health/fl_caries.htm).

Also, my son throws up a couple times a week (doctors have ruled out acid reflux), and I read somewhere that brushing after throwing up can dissolve teeth, and baking soda should be used instead? Again, I need something better than a buzzfeed or DIY blog post for my child's heath. Are there any good resources out there?",7.436394884092723,8.679350705035976,5.88369304556355,80.38766586730617,63.53237410071942,7.616626698641088,32.71063149480416,7.3871296695380915,2.19616003197442,624,24,104,5,9,182,106,139,0.022,0.901,0.077,0.7958,0,0,1,0,0,0,38,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,8,0,9,8,3,3,1,21,18,7,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,2,3,2,1,4,2,5,2,0,2,2,0,3,2,0,0,2,4,7,11,3,14,10,1,17,0,0,1,0,18,7,0,1,6,60,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373029314755066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614528403322887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700162722951535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127044169299072,0.0,0.12397569848882965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967607105595653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196631340103104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569934519970387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123763218877196,0.15374792360539388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086737193650707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614290191358633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25663676571573035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131487426953065,0.28507969477970674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18039956398635168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026343912832614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18410803097880835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228706292302686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285954574410512,0.15287302066349015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799192661696065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811792515024863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209379854818056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051497446477295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602935428401333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541993547646887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dh4645,2018/02/09,"Any idea why my almost 4 year old falls asleep so easily at nap time, but takes forever to fall asleep at night?  this has been almost a year now.  Wakes up at 6am, naps midday for 2-2.5 hours at daycare or home on the weekends & then we start getting ready for bed at 7-7:30 read books, etc,  then lights out at 8pm usually.  Most nights it takes her an hour to fall asleep.  Therefore after working all day, and with a kid not sleeping until 9, there is barely any free time for the wife & I before we fall asleep and do it all over again. 

  Any tips... other than not having her take a nap? She obviously needs it based on how fast she falls asleep & how grumpy she gets if she doesn't take one.    I miss the days of her falling asleep at 7-7:30pm & sleeping until 6:30-7am ",5.125748792270535,4.530778496894413,5.165548654244309,89.89020013802623,68.37888198757764,8.149344375431331,24.721187025534853,6.937597516519254,0.6597489302967561,602,11,139,4,9,188,111,161,0.012,0.915,0.073,0.8579,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,2,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,7,0,6,9,9,3,3,22,15,12,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,6,0,0,1,6,1,6,3,1,0,1,1,1,12,2,23,14,4,40,0,1,0,0,11,12,0,5,22,73,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511232842951666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5434472771120945,0.0,0.25581190115841995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066990734547122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16173450420383606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984485498067872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102394176941615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577806624920973,0.0,0.24697106839159574,0.0,0.0,0.14155192980819625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929763325711996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353431712469815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315774618244778,0.0,0.08496863901599498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542560020127516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509644475957486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875286759805051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771157149030523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623377930916145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810120647860386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314647643409274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128662730042388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614962454020108
parenting,andy83991,2018/02/09,"Question from a new parent regarding the sharing of pictures online of your child. Hello, I'm a very new parent (first child born 12 hours ago) currently at the hospital with sleeping mother and baby next to me :-) and wanted to ask what options other parents out there have found for sharing photos of their children with family and close friends. 



 For a couple reasons, we aren't too keen on posting photos of our newborn son on Facebook. That being said, I remember hearing a little while back about a baby (or child) picture sharing site or app that is secure. I feel like you could send invites out to only the people who you want to access the page of photos, or something like that. Something with an email invite so the older folk can see pics without a smartphone.





Has anyone here heard of or use an app or site similar to the one I mentioned above? Any recommendations or advice would be appreciated. I love my cute little bugger and I want to share him with my family, but without having to text pictures all the time to them. Thanks!!






[EDIT: F
Was reading about Tinybeans, Cluster, and Lifecake. Anyone have experience with any of them?]",5.454697867298582,7.286343293838867,5.827058649289103,76.77385811611377,68.66824644549763,7.1707345971563985,30.24911137440759,7.6454224807358475,2.1972485781990523,909,36,146,10,16,291,138,211,0.006999999999999999,0.846,0.147,0.9674,4,0,2,0,0,0,30,2,3,3,1,7,12,0,0,15,0,12,2,1,2,1,36,26,14,0,5,9,5,1,2,1,1,0,3,0,5,6,14,0,1,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,5,17,12,32,18,2,24,0,0,1,1,35,10,0,8,14,103,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353656082994607,0.11206406507054884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194042692468384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679217920241985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818601719164132,0.0,0.0,0.097209491283037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093640990112226,0.13988177833223406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366341846684978,0.23835582151334306,0.0,0.06392195744871901,0.09031476566158697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075331355659155,0.0,0.13861345356738347,0.09767209462328108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248498923291705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449863770508915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352525248172085,0.2534129238970481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409935517263008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24419523814845845,0.13444953949536234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566574112538307,0.09614841799199568,0.0,0.0,0.4211247110317962,0.0,0.0,0.08764399399235119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107580627744224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161979108220052,0.0,0.1264546204549139,0.0,0.0,0.12998123604648984,0.0,0.0,0.14320967954726108,0.0,0.1202547592236362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074069850393763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651170860442446,0.0,0.0,0.19464921483803213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639092776279075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371675730693314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109186643454863,0.0,0.10431007748613567,0.22369809852924544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24372952647847254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980543158566721,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stepaway3522,2018/02/10,"consequences for a 17 yo who doesn't care if he's grounded.. My husband has full legal and physical custody of his 17 year old stepson, Toby. Husband's divorce was a trainwreck and finalized 6-7 years ago. His ex-wife has actively attempted to (and succeeded) alienate his kids from him (his oldest son is 20, no longer alienated). Toby is still firmly on the ""dad is evil"" train. There's a boat load of backstory that I'm pretty sure I've written about on this account if you want more information. 

So back in January, maybe late December, Husband asked Toby to help him move some things from the garage to the basement. Toby ignored him so Husband pulled one of his earbuds out, at which point Toby kicked husband in the stomach. The last time Toby acted out physically, Husband restrained him and ended up with a CPS debacle to deal with so he disengaged and grounded Toby from wi-fi. 

Toby is still grounded from wi-fi. A week ago, Toby thought he saw a mouse in his basement bedroom. He moved camp to his brother's vacant room, which is fine, and then refused to clean his bedroom to get rid of the mouse-friendly food and trash. 

So Toby got grounded from his cell phone, meaning I cut service to his line (at his dad's directive -- I am not actively involved in discipline). 

Initially I just suspended service to his phone, but Monday morning I realized that he should have some way to get ahold of Husband to let him know what he was doing after school (he usually stays after) so I restricted his phone to just being able to text/call me, his dad and his brother (the default ""trusted contacts"" because we're all on the account). 

So here's the timeline. 

Sunday at 1, Husband said ""Clean your room by 4 or we're cutting off your cell phone."" Toby said, ""I don't care."" 

Sunday at 4, I cut off his phone. 
Monday at 6 a.m. I reconfigured it to just block access. 
Monday at 4 p.m., Toby's mom starts a storm of text messages to Husband about how he can't cut Toby, HER SON, off from contact with her HIS MOTHER. And demands that his service be turned back on immediately. 
Tuesday morning. Husband relents and has me add her to the trusted contacts. 
Tuesday evening. BioMom is still flooding Husband's phone with aggressively angry text messages, saying she's already taken the ""next steps."" I text her, from Husbands phone, saying ""Toby was never cut off from contacting you, only using his phone to do so. You can always tell me (aka husband) that you need to talk him and he can use one of our phones, or he can also contact you that way."" This is, of course, insufficient and she continues her ranting. Reminder that at this point, his phone access has been expanded to be able to contact her. 

A few additonal points: 
1. Husband is reluctant/refuses to actually take electronics away from Toby because the last time he attempted that was the last CPS debacle we were involved in. 
2. We don't have a landline. 
3. As recently as November, the court refused to change the custody/visitation arrangement -- a request that was initiated by BM, and the hearing for which Husband did not attend because he was not notified of it. 
4. Toby is in counseling, that Husband sometimes attends with him, to work on their relationship. It's been nearly 3 years and I've seen almost zero progress. 
5. We HAVE tried approaching his behavior from a positive-reinforcement standpoint in the past and it has failed miserably, only ramping up the accusations of abuse, attempts to ""bribe"" him, trying to ""buy his love"", etc, etc. 
6. He doesn't have access to a car when he's with us, he doesn't have friends over or go out with friends, etc. 

So now it's Saturday of Toby's weekend with his mom and Husband has gotten wind of the fact that she has gotten Toby a new phone/number as a work around. Prior to Toby getting a phone with us about a year and a half ago, he had one with his mother but he was not allowed to bring it to our house specifically because if Husband tried to ground Toby from it, it would create an enormous shit storm. 

There are layers and layers of dysfunction here. This is already way too long so I don't want to keep going. But basically, Toby comes back to our house on Monday, effectively having circumvented his grounding and Husband feels like his hands are tied at this point but doesn't want to just let it go because Toby continues to refuse to do anything that is asked of him, and has yet to apologize for kicking Husband, which is all he had to do to get ungrounded from wi-fi. 

My suggestion was to just go let him live with his mom, since that's all he's wanted, but that's not currently on the table. None of my other suggestions have been implemented. SO I thought I'd see if Reddit had any new perspectives. 

tl;dr - 17 y/o doesn't care about being punished, his bio mom gives him a way around his grounding, what are we supposed to do now? ",5.7422341954023,6.553282778017246,6.29825,77.45508333333333,67.125,8.94528735632184,33.57011494252873,9.029198982220553,2.9551214942528734,3830,168,692,64,60,1247,376,928,0.09,0.863,0.047,-0.9928,2,0,0,0,2,0,150,9,7,1,9,39,24,9,1,39,0,73,5,3,5,6,101,118,49,0,11,22,33,2,1,2,2,0,5,6,1,36,42,1,9,8,1,3,15,17,12,0,5,27,10,83,12,128,82,12,125,0,2,3,1,168,51,1,10,55,449,119,9,0.12843716940587582,0.0760885217722998,0.06266807502785482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707777018344268,0.0,0.06430563622465124,0.0,0.1417336102319228,0.05135557898540384,0.05343500691640495,0.0,0.0,0.04367083974710083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05284642343248516,0.1143363110324265,0.1200714156510755,0.0,0.06033547427494921,0.14814038297967927,0.0,0.1957352658977881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964253811468726,0.0,0.06793474753525157,0.055318624419485436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620654100013733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687860496101376,0.0,0.2148620920799988,0.04241576953639356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03247084597837825,0.0458777697432588,0.0,0.07034832056244694,0.0,0.0,0.07765336753132804,0.0,0.1488453577212084,0.0,0.13420623993178846,0.06160431810790076,0.1459876064181794,0.0,0.051361468666297434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237901222478366,0.0,0.04304436365671102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819924918992566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05708042874970355,0.0,0.0,0.03529285469165473,0.15704015301965352,0.0724413607095765,0.0,0.0,0.1970035614029529,0.0,0.031373956679846826,0.0,0.05670618683170658,0.05683142662109104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057959779955346076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451619989855244,0.06995286506471375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008481210227996,0.0,0.13650838494671902,0.0,0.047617266846496316,0.04952933147307416,0.12404541855485522,0.06829719337553368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738660191703028,0.0,0.13054852495423772,0.09768225493368053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130390558327613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428292793009744,0.0,0.0,0.0653333876408324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340810500636647,0.06894672683653688,0.0,0.0,0.12217315992083735,0.10213839220206064,0.0,0.06499263618598279,0.05117389760005158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591945435170639,0.053122276882813686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351382233616458,0.0,0.04545424478398096,0.06844846673875116,0.15385513409488155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06052525608678664,0.0,0.04828438359513309,0.051616465827467435,0.056129873579066084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04266397415442738,0.0,0.0,0.10196476593722473,0.07489274634492235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080061078405106,0.06985137932598016,0.0,0.0,0.1544941007437041,0.11092847666197396,0.07072769831697742,0.0,0.15151114041579938,0.20389489363247829,0.0515122750433814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350378900678244,0.0,0.0,0.04561904005175962,0.0,0.0,0.16541865223874974
parenting,millireddit,2018/02/10,"Whilst bathing my daughter.. she let out a really big trump which caused loads of bubbles.. She then looked me dead in the eye and said ""you're welcome"" and then proceeded to sing the 'you're welcome' song from Moana..

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parenting,UnfitWeakfish,2018/02/10,"At what age is a kid old enough to go to a friend’s house or a birthday party on their own? My son is 7, and I have a hard time determining what to do when it comes to hanging out with friends and going to birthday parties. I’ve noticed that most parents seem to stay with their kids, but I just dropped my son off on his own at his friend’s birthday party. Is that bad etiquette on my part? I asked the kid’s mom what she wanted me to do and she said it didn’t matter to her. I feel comfortable with him being at his friends’ houses and stuff because I feel that he’s old enough and independent enough to handle it. On the other hand, my daughter is almost 5 1/2 and I don’t feel like I’ll be comfortable with leaving her at someone’s house anytime soon. (I know it’s a total double standard, but we’re very protective of our girls.) 

I’m very interested to hear other perspectives on this. ",3.4749751861042166,4.291351435483875,4.581397849462366,87.69978908188587,72.27956989247312,7.228453267162945,27.21091811414392,7.321109707123232,1.2467622828784122,701,24,152,7,13,230,104,186,0.032,0.8009999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9758,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,2,0,3,9,0,0,7,0,11,1,1,1,1,28,24,10,0,1,4,5,5,1,4,0,0,2,0,4,14,12,0,1,5,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,7,23,8,26,20,9,23,0,0,0,0,28,11,0,4,7,102,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878769752632482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023612600928126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073867797872825,0.07840150786041249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107890176907692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3986759307216634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19509233105219645,0.09188140697707924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3974654381549237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461878678277443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521230442804045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495659915555334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4452076333936644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068253673737779,0.0,0.0,0.13618297333459176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283398906080949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063040771531375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642715785517949,0.2699161633266127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280991108882302,0.1392757308928102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234075338864625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708476860719515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897367887916178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708472457522594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472315217475983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499548196280938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21223897578888745,0.07585948942162232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,two2mommies,2018/02/10,So many poops!! My 15 month old (recently transitioned from nursing to homo milk) poops at least four times a day. It's taking a toll on his poor bum it's always red and irritated. Diaper rash cream doesn't seem to help. Is there something else we could be doing to help? We either Vaseline or sudocream him every change but it's not getting any better. We always change him the second he poops but we can't get ahead of the redness and irritation with how many times he's pooping :( any advice would be great! ,2.143854545454545,4.699193240000003,3.2954545454545467,87.62772727272728,81.6,6.036363636363637,20.090909090909093,7.348242739294969,0.6821000000000002,404,11,78,6,11,130,74,100,0.193,0.7559999999999999,0.051,-0.9152,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,8,7,5,1,0,16,12,7,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,8,2,9,8,2,9,0,0,3,1,11,2,1,2,7,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844267683611485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31408035798523104,0.0,0.0,0.2566885226148276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691815510765987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3993069535648828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068717926885755,0.0,0.0,0.12171655448376065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576614045683935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901488638425942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720940594042985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080777439655787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530062205792605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826893383795997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506441163132906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980425312437956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635012390585629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181456389482402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452951475070979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190300853128354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201023443237244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340698285378198,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spicy-brown,2018/02/10,"Wanted to share: Toddler talking to himself Hi r/parenting! Just wanted to share an amusing anecdote about my kid. Ever since he (22 months) started babbling, he ""practices"" his words as he's drifting off to sleep or coming awake. Recently, he's been so proud of himself for being able to say ""Daddy"" and ""Mommy"" instead of his previous ""dada"" and ""mama"". (2 different syllables have been hard for him) This morning when he woke up we heard him loudly go, ""Ravi!"" over and over again -- practicing the name of a boy in his class!😁 Clearly he is proud of this newfound skill.",3.0279931389365373,5.646687150943401,3.97572898799314,83.72201543739281,78.43396226415095,6.118696397941681,28.504288164665518,7.348242739294969,1.9341245283018875,442,20,76,6,11,142,80,106,0.012,0.826,0.161,0.9528,2,0,0,0,0,0,30,1,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,0,2,13,12,7,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,9,5,18,7,0,14,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,1,6,47,11,0,0.28308070117733697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24384895838598705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29575908207436696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25606270089089844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608812860763992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535847055386221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259523149323263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143276183150633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795080413023687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251171356036006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341672812891433,0.0,0.2832851386742458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200365977301692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22752954469996395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339366638449157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deathscope,2018/02/10,"Multilingual Children If you and your spouse have family members that speak different languages, how did you cope with that? For example, the maternal side might speak French and the paternal side might speak Spanish. How do you make sure that your child/children understand(s) what your relatives are saying?",8.7468,11.70185668,6.513000000000003,70.63150000000002,62.2,11.4,36.5,11.20814326018867,5.0694,254,12,36,8,4,73,36,50,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.3939,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,3,1,10,7,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,1,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,0,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384071116160513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053445900986645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162061166547315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6872145463585471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25757869919185805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052724131440569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371918711880401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Themostdramaticjedi,2018/02/10,Sutural fusion My 7mo was recently diagnosed with a sutural fusion / craniosynostosis which will require surgery. Has anyone else had experience with this who could offer advice?,8.887777777777778,13.142014814814818,8.897777777777783,47.30000000000004,67.51851851851852,12.488888888888884,38.62962962962963,11.20814326018867,6.956096296296296,148,8,15,6,3,48,24,27,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374984804868523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26831887003782506,0.3931854244770447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063839540021142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894864831360784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205642627300447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753698705195402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788954579154425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lonelymotherof5,2018/02/10,"HELP!! I have 5 wonderful children and yet so lonely. I am happily married to my second husband. I have recently started to make time for my children  individually by taking them to movies, lunch dates, dinner dates and even events like Disney on Ice. But my youngest is with her dad's ex and she has daughter's which my daughter plays with and seems to enjoy. So today happen to be my day with her and she does not want to go with me to see Disney on Ice...im so sadden and just feeling like my whole world is gone. My children already have lost the feeling of wanting to spend time with me and I just feel I've lost them and I do so much for them and have always worked to support them. Always wanted the best for them and now I feel as if I've done wrong. ",1.786602150537636,3.8690172516129056,3.0567741935483888,91.55182795698929,79.70967741935483,5.165591397849463,21.946236559139784,6.079149491110277,0.22118494623655932,594,18,125,4,15,192,88,155,0.096,0.722,0.182,0.9313,0,2,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,5,4,9,10,0,0,2,0,11,2,0,1,0,30,30,17,0,4,5,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,15,2,0,6,1,1,2,1,4,0,1,4,5,24,6,22,25,3,16,0,3,1,0,18,3,0,3,13,86,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836323935695144,0.0,0.2769250907926973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17463210270096166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073176562762791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456224050376538,0.1702904031606394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990913548756184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365580913929845,0.11887998415901732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457197045283644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715166290922407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153796922302847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974628623241296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259445452463073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633020983427111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107683419673677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232704706196533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430516480844773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260348465267785,0.15148914122263948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778253237067494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188834769738428,0.0,0.0,0.12511608103532038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406454474430726,0.0,0.15773277322865925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29445048342598673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578558194686756,0.0,0.0,0.18045945644224667,0.12114504495467243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193807983255506,0.0,0.0
parenting,craybihlove,2018/02/10,"Does working a lot make me a bad mom? Single mom here, I went from working 12-20 hours a week to 40+ hours a week. My son has had a problem since about 6 months of separation anxiety but now it’s just as worse and I feel like me going from not working quite as much to seeing him 4 hours out the day is hurting him. I even find myself calling out just to be home with him but I can’t keep doing that. This is the second job I’ve had I lost the first because I would either leave early or come one late. I can’t seem to not not worry about my son while I’m at work. Has anyone been going through this?",0.6143734335839639,2.131250180451133,2.5731015037594,96.35534147869677,81.03007518796994,5.034837092731831,18.60213032581453,5.46131890053228,-0.5339719298245615,466,10,113,2,12,156,90,133,0.161,0.8140000000000001,0.026,-0.9334,1,0,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,0,7,7,5,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,0,22,23,7,0,2,9,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,1,3,0,0,4,5,4,0,3,5,2,15,1,16,16,4,19,0,2,1,0,8,3,0,3,13,75,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546309976615932,0.0,0.0,0.0963954448910352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510797146731465,0.08403863629831618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077124398761734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875483288075228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889087816452955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064287519310372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105572807823943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970653967130633,0.098487750481432,0.0,0.0,0.12600223195346108,0.11726428725714293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669888744327887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828557713108278,0.0,0.4072952194170005,0.0,0.14758278887743986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680552646778055,0.12253697282004446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555129357426649,0.14597463337650704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735180097881813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049129869960345,0.1172042834343561,0.0,0.0,0.09202312406100537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229216986997815,0.11003913888503816,0.0,0.10134351693766927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341801503839964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319141234487762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663188190845572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985717235604724,0.12550325310797938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403984064436487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211671630767932,0.0,0.0,0.12779830048646254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014570844356096,0.14000428800236586,0.1404918864962075,0.09793232449971777,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SunnyShadows1958,2018/02/10,"Baby's legs are getting stuck in crib slots My 18 month old gets her legs stuck in her crib every morning, she now has huge bruises on her legs. Any suggestions on a mesh crib bumper that doesn't slide down? The one we have slides down so easily it's useless. 

I'll convert her to the toddler bed if I have to but 18 months just seems so young I'd rather find another solution if I can. I'm still trying to get her to fall asleep on her own (instead of relying on nursing/back patting) and I'm worried converting to the toddler bed will make that harder. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!",2.5112954545454507,4.565443841666667,3.4145454545454537,90.01227272727274,77.25,6.696969696969697,25.90909090909091,7.686295010490155,1.3800000000000003,471,18,97,7,11,150,82,120,0.065,0.8440000000000001,0.09,0.6083,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,4,0,7,4,4,1,0,10,17,6,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,2,0,11,1,16,14,1,20,0,1,0,0,10,10,0,3,6,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410502808136233,0.2629433255391171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928186691914613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127579489121015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291897496426949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930346549385585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738399342537313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003078723442705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631300387165642,0.0,0.16992120811539493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282821400321351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025695632579976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308657673337397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024932157945488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546585661118886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theycallmelucky,2018/02/10,"Lifestyle shift Questions about your week.

What was on your to do list this week/what did not get done? 
What things have you forgotten to that have been stressful? 
What have been some recent parenting issues?",4.580945945945945,7.698272972972973,2.6877702702702737,92.26787162162165,76.02702702702703,5.8621621621621625,22.763513513513516,7.1686216300943375,0.8188972972972981,168,5,30,2,4,46,28,37,0.14400000000000002,0.856,0.0,-0.6946,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,4,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,2,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204284446245166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16359124091327396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268138601327848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476805039228253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35076384053739645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091662678940368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35867563165514244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802169788117136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5023287740358847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Seahawks_12,2018/02/10,"My first graders teacher embarassed him in front of the class He was being disruptive in class and wasnt paying attention. Her solution was to have each of his classmates stand up and tell him directly how to correct his behavior. By the time they were done, he was quiet and listened but when he came home he was crying and humiliated from the experience. 

Am i wrong for finding this method of punishment bad? I see it as a form of bullying, making him out to be a pariah in his class. Any thoughts?",6.0968750000000025,6.726873270833334,6.506250000000001,76.91375000000002,66.29166666666666,10.15,33.70833333333333,10.125756701596842,3.356345833333333,398,17,75,9,6,129,69,96,0.247,0.738,0.015,-0.982,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,1,2,3,1,0,5,0,11,0,0,2,1,14,16,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,7,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,3,0,1,9,3,11,0,16,5,2,11,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,0,3,55,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942663647811837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23852370699173034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267320059436685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137966457660444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923410503097104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27944146925367863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26109850665994483,0.2429919677826929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865517310429083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906878941587776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276431393583756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496894165300879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22679120128098665,0.1665773049609519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31233685728847244,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ifigomissing,2018/02/10,"My 4 yo found his penis. Need some advice. Context:  I have a 7 year old daughter and a 4.5 year old son. I never in my life realized how different boys and girls could be (I only had a brother growing up).  My wife doesn’t know I’m posting this, but she wouldn’t be mad. 

In the last couple of days my son has started laying on his belly in the living room with his hands either on his penis or over his pants (I can’t tell) and he wiggles his legs. 

I just asked him this morning to do that upstairs, and he said “but there’s not a soft rug in my room!”

I’m al for self exploration, and I don’t want to punish him for something normal, but it’s the living room his hardly a place for that kind of expedition. I know he’s at the age where if I F&&@ this up, it could do some damage. 

I asked him to stop a few minutes ago, now he’s listening to Halloween music and playing with legos, so it didn’t traumatize him yet. 



**Update:** I’m not so sure the rug hand anything to do with it. I think that was just his excuse at that moment. 

I had a good talk with him at bed time and explained that he wasn’t in trouble, but if he is going to tickle his peepee (his words) he needs to do it laying on his back or sitting up in his room or in the bathroom. 

It was an easier conversation than I thought it would be. I will probably have it a few more times just to make sure it sticks.  At this point I’m less worried about where he does this (eventually he will *hopefully* learn not to pleasure himself in the living room) than how he does this. Reading about the dangers of prone masturbation scared the hell out of me. 

Thanks /r/parenting. Being a Parent has taught me to have the tough conversations. It has taught me that you only learn by asking. It has also taught me that it’s only poop. It washes out. ",1.2172893481717042,3.2350850026737987,2.9601835525364955,91.84318470877295,81.32620320855615,5.647521318109554,20.268535915594736,6.766488616294105,0.2422414510767457,1397,38,305,15,37,463,181,374,0.138,0.8,0.063,-0.9877,4,0,1,0,0,0,54,0,1,0,0,16,16,4,1,20,0,31,6,4,3,3,58,57,21,0,11,16,6,4,0,0,4,2,2,8,3,26,13,0,1,10,2,0,3,10,8,0,0,12,6,42,8,47,35,7,53,1,1,0,0,50,30,1,8,18,207,68,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096679605353376,0.0994834029943896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974873836576977,0.0,0.24319811042944434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923541302407828,0.0,0.3147542569290895,0.0,0.0,0.08629645007167873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920994632273454,0.1241782128520582,0.0,0.07237781376444874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725443530056455,0.0,0.0,0.1964230617301712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305227418804525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378179231897098,0.09413157140172196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053429717270576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146778548309766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686825349922432,0.123355212597358,0.09148084709736624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926999716484234,0.0,0.0,0.29729829706286226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491310095646367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16643136766558006,0.08655719786689235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109959669706569,0.0,0.0,0.23552893859998106,0.0,0.0,0.2560634885504751,0.0,0.0,0.2492319568102854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725443530056455,0.0,0.10609179122352856,0.0,0.10748345797724364,0.0,0.12100082940050852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225842966966336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067545842309654,0.0,0.11235986556537914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170783417372416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863986429105656,0.0,0.0,0.07943559791022152,0.0,0.0,0.09382768270010293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154723519320526,0.0,0.0,0.09020466283189432,0.09809227036040437,0.1033245185620134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191120874123583,0.0,0.08909654297956478,0.13088216762417912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619501702308601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139730417596569,0.0,0.0797235932490724,0.0,0.0,0.14454238111903414
parenting,TheTizards,2018/02/10,"Toddler Bedtime Routine Bedtime routine’s for young children can be very stressful if your little ones don’t settle, you can find yourself up and downstairs all evening trying to settle them.

We found what works with our little princess, is a nice soothing bath, a baby massage and a good book before bed.. she seems to really enjoy this special bonding time, and sleeps right through the night now (most of the time) with the occasional 4 or 5 am wake up, but she’s getting better 😁

[Our Toddlers Bedtime Routine ](https://youtu.be/CwuOVwguz4k) ",9.884736842105266,9.874964842105264,7.718947368421055,73.56263157894739,58.47368421052632,8.863157894736842,42.15789473684211,7.554174236665415,3.6446421052631575,440,22,66,3,5,128,75,95,0.024,0.8320000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.8554,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,3,2,1,2,2,6,0,1,6,0,6,2,2,0,1,14,9,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,6,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,8,5,9,7,2,10,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,4,5,42,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20266821107276115,0.0,0.0,0.21064521479381987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573114318902176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176863767750079,0.0,0.0,0.26114508449642043,0.0,0.0,0.12443588789634642,0.0,0.0,0.19976873511429746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774250819124786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350981110000334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139261109861494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525801218405818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033989729002049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682432143458816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383456293961277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27282708073259104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777619101217025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617042560621164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965181827440941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733932343629524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jerkay89,2018/02/10,"Everything is more interesting than the spoon Hope can we make spoon feeding more interesting for our 7 months old?

We have been trying for over a month now but when it's time to eat from the spoon she will look at anything around her but the spoon. We can't even get her attention to show her she should open her mouth.

The weird thing is that she will without hesitation take the bowl and even the spoon in her hands and play with them. But when we hold the spoon, she won't even look at it.

How can we improve this so she will accept getting fed? Or should we just call it quits and give her finger food? It seems a bit early to me? ",2.5944755244755267,4.310468461538466,2.816013986013989,95.92262237762242,75.92307692307692,6.265734265734268,19.51048951048951,6.980632752743323,-0.07492307692307643,500,10,116,5,11,152,81,130,0.015,0.841,0.14400000000000002,0.9503,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,1,10,6,0,0,9,0,13,7,3,2,0,27,23,11,0,3,6,0,2,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,12,4,1,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,4,20,5,14,15,3,14,0,0,2,0,21,6,0,3,8,81,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277407636801142,0.17608559117918055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159484000897473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019778138876903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20240068332086075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919387876009505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777155677379064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23918279338101356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066866149951418,0.1897495673118848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646187755213776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322074882300309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203427701890955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31576711385798306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20755977744902326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103866252450891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800713837605421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872238142544347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141076606722127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153398548203816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429447838884984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067393375985786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ruckus2118,2018/02/10,"Need help with preschool education We got lucky and our daughter has been being babysat by someone who went through ECU and had a very awesome regimen lined out daily for learning and having fun. Every week we would talk to our daughter about what they did, and we started to suspect she wasn't being taught as much as we were led to believe.  We went over education checklist for a four-year-old and realized we are way behind.

My wife just got an evening job, so she will be staying home and can hopefully start implementing a better program.  She has experience with this, but we are really hoping to find a laid out homeschool program, or preschool program.  When we look information is so scattered it's hard to sort through it, so we were hoping to ask some parents if they had tried any programs or sites that they liked.

Does anyone here have any experience with this or anything to recommend?
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parenting,dkachu,2018/02/10,"How to make going to the toilet fun for 2 year old and 5 year old? I have 2 kids as mentioned in the title. One of them is potty trained and one of them needs to be trained. As an adult I have a phone to read stuff while I am sitting on the loo but I have so far avoided giving kids any sort of screen as a way to make them peacefully finish the job. Though I have been thinking what would make them excited for those moments when they need to sit but don't want to? 

I have been thinking of fun toilet paper rolls with different designs printed on them - for the toddler it could be numbers, alphabets, her favorite cartoon characters, etc. While for the 5 year old it could be photos of different cars for him to identify, super heroes, simple math questions, multiplication tables, science trivia,etc. The idea her is to have each toilet roll printed with different stuff on it so that it makes the kids excited to go to the loo.

If I print enough, I might also share them with friends who have young kids. 

What do you all think? Do you think the printed toilet paper rolls would work? Would you use them if you could get them at your nearest supermarket or if they were delivered to your home each month? What other designs would you recommend for toddlers and young kids? ",6.593736263736267,6.493884408906888,6.291524002313476,81.37932186234818,65.23481781376519,9.162406015037597,31.812897628687104,8.634040054169528,2.3363432041642564,1007,35,196,13,14,314,128,247,0.018000000000000002,0.8109999999999999,0.171,0.9923,4,1,0,0,0,0,23,0,7,10,3,6,9,0,1,13,0,27,0,0,6,1,40,43,20,0,13,6,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,6,13,8,0,1,6,1,0,3,1,1,0,2,3,1,28,8,34,29,5,27,0,0,1,0,33,7,0,7,14,139,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886481616407711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556727472510784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661674006464571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34829884053439103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481949686551016,0.2478624613013627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585315436732369,0.0,0.0580570459686573,0.1065990591816298,0.12630722954435347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146517003633162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544404915384524,0.0,0.0,0.11027217433663558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967011711137828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788366806281204,0.0,0.0,0.08869711202669837,0.0,0.0,0.16479220945994466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498138727818095,0.0,0.15059929092737293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244829020217428,0.0,0.11115281280953808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544179060802889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28481186304291456,0.1091775292417718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959743700750521,0.0,0.0,0.06554307197902683,0.08820405979939397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089867921744194,0.0,0.0,0.31575362894329256,0.0,0.0,0.21467820651214745
parenting,Unsurechinagirl,2018/02/10,"I have things too easy... Let me start this off by saying, I fear that to some, I am going to sound like a brat. I hope this is not the case. The scenario I am describing is not an every moment/every day thing for me.  But it is true in some moments.  Here we go:

I have been married for 5 years and have a 2.5 year old and a 6 month old.  I live overseas with my family, near my in-laws.  I live literally 1 block away from my in-laws and my 16 year old brother-in-law. I have readily available babysitters in my family at least half of the week.  I can drop either of my children off with them whenever I need a break (providing someone is available) and my brother-in-law is my son's best friend.  I would not change any of this for anything. I know I am so incredibly lucky and not for one second would I complain about this situation I am in.

My 6 month old baby is amazing, precious, but very high needs.  She has always been this way: needing to be held, not content with being sat down for more than 5 minutes (and you have to stay near her for those five minutes), and she does not fall asleep on her back, she will scream if you leave her on her back. In order to put her down for naps or nighttime you must feed her then hold her until she is sleepy or asleep, then lay her down on her stomach. Now that she can roll over, she wakes herself up easily after anywhere from 1-5 hours of sleep.  So I am tired, exhausted... what parent isn't?  But because of my proximity to my in-laws I do not think I am even half as tired as most parents. 

My husband works as a youth pastor so he is home most days of the week, and leaves for a few hours at a time for youth outings or events.  This means I also have his help the majority of the time.  However, my husband sees that I am tired and wants to help me even more.  He insists on our children being in childcare anytime childcare is provided at any function we attend. He sometimes takes the kids to his parent's home without consulting me, and he will even insist we let our 6 month old cry in her room for dinner times when she cannot be happy or quiet with us while we eat, so we can have a peaceful dinner.  All of this, I understand.  I am grateful he wants to help me relax, his desire is trying to be in my best interest.  And I know he needs quiet times away from the baby and wants to be able to enjoy time with me and his son too.  I also recognize that no matter how much I explain, he just cannot understand how it makes a mom feel, to know her baby is crying in the next room, how disconcerting that is.

I want to be stronger.  I want to learn how to manifest competence and strength so that I (emphasis on the word ""I"") can decide more when I need a break from my children. So that I can decide when my two year old needs time in his room to play alone or when I need my in-laws to help with the baby.  

I am aware that this may sound so spoiled, so correct me gently Reddit users if I just need to let my husband make those decisions without confronting me, without feeling overlooked and incompetent. But if you feel I make a bit of sense, give me an idea of what I can do, as a mom, as a wife to communicate this. Not directly saying it... I've had plenty of conversations with my husband about this. He listens, but does not hear me, because my actions, my tired face, communicate otherwise.  What do your wives do that communicate that they've ""got this""? What do you do to help your husbands/partners know you've ""got this""? Help!",4.670333812385682,4.659962227528091,5.4685171152338645,85.34787039456495,69.28089887640449,8.421008622942253,28.496341782074733,8.057270187336151,1.6202484583224463,2694,85,586,32,43,881,287,712,0.071,0.8009999999999999,0.128,0.9904,4,1,0,0,0,0,100,8,7,1,5,31,20,1,1,26,0,63,15,6,7,4,111,104,55,0,21,28,13,3,1,1,6,5,9,5,4,33,27,4,3,17,3,0,6,16,5,0,6,7,13,108,15,95,81,16,87,1,0,1,0,81,32,0,15,44,415,141,3,0.058577051477512874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060668159416293485,0.0,0.09368809380652247,0.048740799339047285,0.0,0.0,0.07966880739478863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04820392227774379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007013620348954,0.09008427368121004,0.0,0.07141605377631356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294600321753048,0.0,0.06395096889012357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619667534233625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868828096322696,0.07555470448887049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102522344983511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059938947438428626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606877014270205,0.0,0.09870738455463736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044246181784373,0.06591546830190184,0.08885495181148885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525648466486765,0.0,0.0,0.05619244537599554,0.06658137652670319,0.0,0.09369883836411393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623563605336587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602059426558372,0.0,0.2355777771247513,0.061889870989287075,0.11751511742557677,0.05818022923166141,0.11537319251376582,0.0,0.0,0.06612636109490075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876966227920386,0.0,0.0,0.12404927931229605,0.0,0.179697011557251,0.0,0.02861778851075442,0.0,0.10344921927195247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730191015849713,0.0,0.0,0.06380758151008874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720946945175616,0.14026693089504438,0.0,0.04306087279789872,0.3474731315476127,0.0,0.0,0.0622973587884951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688005708298924,0.0,0.03969332606717044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512865061731255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888611582508103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931656448912178,0.0,0.0,0.04667832603115679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584306014297203,0.05861935512354227,0.0,0.049632145627179776,0.0,0.05793420172258815,0.0,0.041461138530212965,0.06243534295032858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04404265270708613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783198031659018,0.03753380934911785,0.0,0.0,0.2049404986842445,0.2693028145640962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03976997285458685,0.0,0.05722126771505201,0.1219615528375306,0.07046098052533067,0.0,0.0,0.048332202154055474,0.172751313202542,0.046495736925533986,0.09397395476396757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939856189209734,0.0,0.04264479112494536,0.0,0.0,0.08322291342382679,0.0,0.0,0.15088680250978426
parenting,InKognetoh,2018/02/10,"Car Seat for Air Travel My wife will be taking our son to Japan at the end of the year, and since she will be going alone (I won't have enough vacation time to tag along), I want to get some opinions. It will be his first time on an aircraft and she wants to use the current car seat, but the thing weighs at least 25lbs. He will be breaking 30lbs around that time, and I feel that he would be fine without a seat. My mother-in-law can pick up a car seat locally, so there is no worry about car travel upon arrival. I just don't foresee my 100lb wife lugging around a carryon, travel stroller, son, and car seat to and from connecting flights  going well. At the very least, are there any lightweight (sub-15lbs) seats that I can get? I welcome any tips you have, I have no experience traveling by air with children. Thanks!",4.433752771618625,5.19629606707317,4.47088691796009,89.56324833702885,70.03658536585365,7.427050997782705,27.104212860310426,7.348242739294969,1.1757878048780483,641,20,137,6,11,198,103,164,0.07,0.845,0.085,0.3401,1,1,0,0,0,0,25,1,1,0,1,8,4,0,0,9,0,19,1,0,2,0,20,29,7,0,3,3,4,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,5,9,1,0,1,4,0,11,5,0,1,1,0,1,15,4,21,18,4,30,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,2,7,87,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20980140704121408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27550906520881085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606604584934608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794168760429029,0.2093089393804227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981523102606454,0.0,0.0,0.1024254682741264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17230592123465605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116689072326064,0.0,0.2302503753606807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756798049342803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230741457590005,0.0,0.0,0.1864992211561689,0.0,0.0,0.13457849340027273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35436055253173737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495542269831632,0.0,0.16714144808220302,0.2389620448473797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18213473941075126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952702316869438,0.0,0.0,0.20571964734796366,0.0,0.14389990154949994,0.0,0.0,0.13044842539759285
parenting,Favchildthrowaway,2018/02/10,Controversial: How do you deal with having a favorite child? I know it's controversial to admit but I have a favorite child. I am worried about how it will affect him and my other kids if they find out. How do I avoid that from happening? ,1.326666666666668,3.941500425531917,3.030957446808511,87.28416666666668,87.29787234042553,5.686524822695036,20.599290780141846,7.1686216300943375,0.7513290780141841,188,6,37,3,6,62,36,47,0.17800000000000002,0.6709999999999999,0.151,0.0926,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,4,0,13,9,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,5,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,0,31,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146049706469423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562169279673007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413994741221581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27432151232018165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069142441721175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Oh_god_Im_that_mom,2018/02/10,"Back for another questions about tics. About this time last year I wrote a pretty generic tic question. We went to the doctor, got it checked out, and eventually, it subsided. Every once in awhile it pops up, but it isn't noticeable. 

Over the past few weeks though, it has been SUPER intense. His tic last year was turning his head to the side like he was trying to crack his neck.  Not too noticeable.  His new and improved tic is a super exaggerated version of this, along with deeply inhaling air like a gasp.  It interrupts his speech and he will do it 5 or 6 times in a row.   

Today is by far the worse it has been, and it has us pretty concerned, mostly because it won't fly under the radar at school anymore.  Because he says his neck hurts, and because we figure it is better to just pop in, we will be going to see his PCP early next week.  

In the meantime though, for your kiddos that had tics is this par for the course?  It comes and goes?  Does it get better or worse?  Has there been anything you do at home that helps ease the discomfort or help lessen the frequency of the tics. 
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parenting,crashtestmummy000,2018/02/10,"TRIGGER WARNING *self harm and suicide* My daughter (16) is an award winning beauty queen, honour roll student, taking University level classes. She is amazing -- and is continuously being cyber bullied and bullied. She had a boyfriend for the past 6 months (a nice young man). ANYWAYS, a couple months ago the boyfriends sister and 3 of her friends started a full on bullying campaign towards my daughter and her BF. Statements from the sister and friends as strong as ""kill yourself"" have been thrown around over and over. The kids attempted to speak to the BF's mother who sided with her daughter and decided all the problems were my daughter. 
My daughters father became paralyzed during these two months (due to a slipped disc compressing his spinal cord). Two weeks ago he underwent a major surgery to reverse the damage. At this same time she was writing her finals at school, including finals for university level classes. She finally had enough and eliminated the only stress she could, she broke up with the boy -- explaining to him -- she couldn't deal with the bullying from his sister and her friends and that it wasn't him. 

*He fell into a depression and began harassing her, begging her back! (this information is from another parent and not my daughter). Looking back, he texted me when she broke up with him and I said to my daughter ""the text seemed almost like he was tattling on her or something"".  (He had never texted or called me before). 
You'd think the bullying would end, but it didn't--the sister and friends showed up at My daughters friends house (while my daughter was there) threatening to kick her @ss for hurting the boy so bad. 
I know my daughter told the boy that this was all escalating. 
This Tuesday my daughter fell very ill with a fever of 104 degrees and was in and out of sleep and daze for until Wednesday night. That's when she checked her phone for the first time to find the boys suicide text message to her. (It did not blame her at all, just echoed that he loved her) and messages from his cousin saying he was on life support 400 miles away (nearest trauma centre). The sister texted photos of him on life support to my daughter. The mother texts my daughter updates: ""his heart rate has finally stabilized"" then later the mother texts: ""I knew it was a mistake, him dating you"". Then texts: ""his blood pressure is good now, still in a coma, but some glitter of hope."" Followed with: ""he doesn't need negativity in his life; just family"". ITS CRAZY! I haven't stopped the texts, nor have I tried to contact the mother of a child who's in a coma, unknown if he'll live -- because my daughter needs the updates, she does/did love the boy. 
So that was  Wednesday...today the school councillor calls me to inform me they suspect my daughter is receiving texts from the friends -- telling my daughter this is all her fault. 

ANY ADVICE???? this page of the parenting manual that didn't come with my child is missing. 

When I talk to her she has all the right answers. ""He clearly has mental health issues"", ""he never learned to love himself"", ""if this is anyone's fault it's his and his parents"". 

She is very shattered! Crying all the time! Refusing counciling. Angry. ",5.249863758189399,7.250719101027402,4.95993448481239,82.1146664681358,69.46232876712328,7.201548540798094,31.360035735556878,7.818819491935897,2.2543226325193566,2521,109,436,31,46,772,278,584,0.156,0.733,0.111,-0.9849,5,0,1,0,0,2,113,0,2,1,7,14,38,2,2,41,0,38,15,4,1,9,78,61,38,3,10,10,30,0,1,8,2,8,3,0,10,22,31,0,2,13,1,1,5,11,18,0,3,20,4,70,20,63,35,12,76,0,6,1,3,127,29,0,8,43,294,92,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785657843495521,0.14253919828295347,0.0,0.08050881702422523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467464211396456,0.08430623300359198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621743123084297,0.0,0.0,0.0715728953522569,0.0,0.0,0.07553828783377499,0.12364501452142428,0.06713050058952949,0.04901099073898031,0.0,0.0684143344614988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641944334008687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925733532689797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641927228670854,0.08896088378249654,0.08831543907843155,0.0,0.08288869542579241,0.06924825663723083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121038634003936,0.08307451766209352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757938052737914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35229633983171416,0.07348398897669481,0.06838805518418571,0.0,0.0,0.3727002599840028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743556370640395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546126069722637,0.0,0.09527418685604118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985517331988039,0.0,0.09277061029671813,0.08606968196424693,0.0,0.0,0.0839165350417689,0.0,0.0,0.08895050078572926,0.0,0.0441856444854482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036633504192406,0.03927929627878361,0.0,0.07099452377434516,0.0,0.06751560883289183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176919595144533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810241194152445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925231341573316,0.0,0.0,0.11923091190158175,0.1240186123333718,0.0,0.0,0.07544979496825102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061147694437666364,0.0,0.0,0.26782349297173635,0.0,0.07675073612882402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693178004148807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686610163846766,0.07647865066583008,0.06393717263147138,0.0,0.16273784264693994,0.0,0.07319298654433691,0.0838745582942373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045789480565807,0.0,0.0,0.06189571789126332,0.0,0.0,0.056907414203998315,0.0,0.0642074089006736,0.0672178587898438,0.09209773477840924,0.0,0.0,0.17588873140697964,0.18247355089636166,0.0,0.0,0.06045066703652156,0.06462233867375576,0.07027299606807416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151696530783095,0.0,0.0,0.14064536405940287,0.0,0.07620963889127161,0.07682548398839194,0.0,0.05458620767175827,0.0,0.15707790468732288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267656146817766,0.0,0.0,0.06449189479256487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711373316511861,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FratricideV2,2018/02/10,"5 year old said something concerning. Little back story:

I am divorced and see my daughter every other weekend. My Ex-Wife(Lets call her C) just broke up with her live in boyfriend(Lets call him D), who she said was a lazy bum.

He was kicked out a few weeks ago.

Main issue:

Today on the way back from picking up my daughter, she said she hated D. My fiance and I said its not nice to say you hate people. We then asked her if D ever hurt her because she is not usually that extreme. My daughter replied ""I cant tell you"". We then told her she can tell us anything. We then said to her its OK, we love you and wont be mad at you if anyone hurt you. She replied ""Mommy said I cant tell you"".

We are not sure what to make of this. Of course my first reaction is that D hurt or abused my daughter under my Ex-Wifes care. I just want to jump to the worst thing, but I'm not sure how to get my daughter to tell us. Her mother is very manipulative and would keep something like this from me because I would get custody and she would loose the Bank that I am to her.

TL:DR How do I get my daughter to open up about what might or might not have happened.",1.3042436816295755,3.041470991701248,2.4897416069407794,96.72360524330445,79.74688796680498,5.0457185967559415,21.327989437947945,5.565023196281405,-0.17190622406638978,883,25,206,4,22,282,131,241,0.116,0.831,0.053,-0.9111,0,0,2,0,2,0,33,7,6,0,1,8,15,3,0,5,1,20,1,0,5,3,40,41,15,0,6,12,7,0,1,0,6,0,7,0,0,12,13,0,1,0,1,1,1,8,8,0,1,9,8,48,7,23,25,3,26,0,4,1,1,55,10,0,6,15,137,60,0,0.0,0.1095738842623732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197809472235006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466428825200424,0.0,0.07610330375717159,0.0,0.08645647921208516,0.0,0.0,0.14222309139500572,0.0,0.112750111958974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888651960494261,0.0,0.09428970134018948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365361238692544,0.07791853561785632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866358915022674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495122252717668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177991285250491,0.0,0.0,0.1826100520947078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970058184323911,0.0,0.0,0.09652527503023353,0.0,0.08220062826537433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913448821309675,0.0,0.0451811418859996,0.09268943022021213,0.08166168836151542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346696811517976,0.0,0.0617312345708589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621370115773487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704238625357793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411410862908523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5278189419369614,0.07354394661119464,0.0,0.0,0.07369472559426103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239151294018926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432293993700498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32332699481898897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614397185972405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766039196295815,0.08836876984517139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224845261782037,0.0,0.1018538466645557,0.07630582923500782,0.05454720297386842,0.07340645788675174,0.07418201763186133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708578764682405,0.0,0.0,0.059554200269156685
parenting,Zanbanger,2018/02/10,"Any parents here with small children 4/5 years apart? Would love to hear your experiences having a newborn with a 4/5-year-old. 

In real life and on here I see a lot of 1-3 year age gaps but not so much 4/5. Do you maybe avoid some of the problems with them being slightly older and more understanding of the situation? ",5.539838709677419,6.283924758064518,5.6808064516129075,81.94120967741938,67.54838709677419,8.135483870967743,30.01612903225807,8.07648339933343,1.898535483870968,253,9,50,3,4,80,52,62,0.108,0.851,0.042,-0.6261,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,1,0,3,3,0,1,5,0,4,2,0,0,0,14,8,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,4,1,9,6,4,8,0,0,1,1,8,4,0,2,4,33,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010863389153762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303074541248848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653602458033415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629964769782218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016436921612168,0.2124955975897085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236533134912212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307696056461416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24705677376503501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26143047871188685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252861972029423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679845412175025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18761679150430413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646466730320149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24510342567754986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725124189111712,0.0,0.0,0.4548507868780531
parenting,misterpiita,2018/02/10,"Kids say the most hurtful things ""He(my son O) said he was excited to see him(the man my STBXW ruined our relationship for). Then made sure it was still dad day."" -STBXW sent me today while talking about her new person coming to her house before I picked up O

Apparently making sure it's still dad day translates to O doesn't want to spend time with me. He's said ""I don't want to spend time with you"", ""I just want mama time"", ""I could just go to Nane's house"" (my M.I.L), or other things of that nature in the 1.5 hours I've had him directly to me, and STBXW has said she's had to reassure O/ explain why we split time multiple times today. 

OUCH.",4.767954545454547,4.811823371212121,5.237424242424243,86.90113636363638,69.07575757575758,8.41818181818182,24.833333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.0944060606060608,503,11,111,6,8,161,88,132,0.079,0.851,0.071,-0.0152,1,0,0,0,0,0,28,2,1,0,0,5,6,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,3,2,19,21,4,0,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,6,5,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,2,0,0,9,5,16,4,15,11,1,20,0,2,1,0,24,2,0,2,15,56,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207179623868326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220544812446844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132688750913476,0.0,0.0,0.18298434244059916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062601452119622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970994864068262,0.3273898411072076,0.1518710473731762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423753455962187,0.0946970059313806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701557225403202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387237612093405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523115539873483,0.0,0.0,0.404842652368519,0.11281795345374605,0.0,0.0,0.1130492515697326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265895775684109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674150386258925,0.0,0.0,0.11402693764064575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18849962865222794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4136175530573015,0.0,0.26894575219080696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510296532767741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801247137512264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Altitudinous-Ozark,2018/02/11,"How can I help my wife get more authority with our kids? We have three kids: 16, 15, and 6

My wife has always struggled with authority with the kids and tends to 'freak out' at them when they dont do what she asks. This often results in everyone feeling upset and the kids just confused and resentful. 

The kids do listen to me but I am loathe to intervene because I do not believe me 'stepping in' does anything to solve the problem, and may actually make the problem worse by showing the kids that their mum 'needs' me to help. So whenever possible I try to stay out of it and leave them to try and sort out their own issues together. 

Every morning during the school term miss 6yo is giving her mum grief about getting ready for school. Its the start of the academic year here in australia and I am really not happy about the prospect of shreeking happening every morning between them. 

Please, can anyone direct me to a resource I might put her way that might help her to stand her ground and get more traction with the kids?  Book?  Video?  Podcast?  

Thanks",5.291556503198294,6.535384129353233,5.331673773987209,82.40876865671645,68.40298507462687,8.329921819474059,30.27754086709311,8.634040054169528,2.2877033404406544,834,32,157,13,14,261,124,201,0.16,0.7090000000000001,0.131,-0.8240000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,6,0,8,11,1,3,12,0,14,0,0,3,0,34,28,13,1,3,4,4,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,7,6,17,0,0,1,3,0,2,3,9,0,1,0,2,25,2,28,25,4,17,0,2,0,0,30,8,0,6,4,107,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.14132864353262498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205062871533115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126524723378913,0.0,0.11917891743035262,0.0,0.13539214578927025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828418491723691,0.0,0.0,0.16316856750464875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673763368419275,0.0,0.16973422347901232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24404319561013546,0.13838682166024968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322804497251964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699579293056826,0.13892966570414167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128068572586662,0.15416927071781944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912201240244268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116003136310915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334912718586824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667204108863446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072736048831248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073861568135791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897473646016932,0.0,0.1632688139074669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771565884626407,0.0,0.14558947081681325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277882323759673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931419580924301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250812323921832,0.15436454609106628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514028935334012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333571800338745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19665380272312635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495561626673045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758939736687704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326277265380437
parenting,BandaidDriver,2018/02/11,"How many outfits/clothes? I'm a daddy to two. A 5yo son in kindergarten and 3yo daughter stay at home. We recently downsized from 4/2 house to 3/2 apartment.

I feel we have an abundance of clothes/laundry. To the point that we have things in baskets for weeks untouched.

I want to declutter. How many clothes do you have for your little ones?",2.269576923076926,5.072140323076926,2.101826923076924,94.46504807692308,84.23076923076924,4.480769230769232,29.663461538461537,5.985473137389443,1.256423076923077,271,14,52,2,8,80,49,65,0.0,0.972,0.028,0.168,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,7,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,0,11,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,2,33,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731016548723732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723993411508165,0.0,0.0,0.3133466778922733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27217697881689074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5506435270095142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840177860627907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567143503757633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26813521881917873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28944950499608124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041406606370852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26527711441493546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017460537913367,0.0,0.21783106653706136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhyCantISayFork,2018/02/11,"What do you do once they get big enough to open the oven and dishwasher? My son now knows how to open the dishwasher. Today he ran in to the kitchen while we were talking in the other room, opened the dishwasher, grabbed a knife, and ran back to show us. It scared us half to death. He’s also been opening the oven door a lot lately too, so I either keep him in his high chair or make my husband entertain him in a separate room when I use the oven. The entryway between the kitchen and family room is weird and doesn’t reliably hold up a baby gate. It’s right next two a small (two steps) staircase so a baby gate isn’t going to cut it. What do you do to keep your toddler out of trouble in an open doorless house set up? We are working on redirection, saying no, and trying to teach him not to touch these things but I think it’s going to take a while to work.",3.710567970204842,4.2897686927374306,4.598449720670391,88.6621810986965,71.56983240223464,7.977839851024211,26.089851024208564,8.07648339933343,1.3009102420856609,672,20,150,9,12,218,109,179,0.065,0.925,0.01,-0.755,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,4,3,1,2,8,5,1,1,17,0,10,2,0,3,0,26,22,14,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,11,0,9,13,2,3,2,2,0,5,4,4,0,3,4,3,17,1,22,18,3,35,0,0,0,0,18,21,0,2,8,100,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379091772358426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260434235026816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818820796432308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257166116170266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009864407413946,0.0,0.1960160033779708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220418071460032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898555255857509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30656513355162784,0.0,0.0,0.09477467977166798,0.0,0.19453248606430887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466118591677773,0.0,0.0,0.11511252754313755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834038274325381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836549196451472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727239845506954,0.0,0.13714013074199224,0.17265375420988974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966185459299728,0.13860975720108595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145689268720074,0.11049977762496543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346359107228614,0.0,0.0,0.11708305745646475,0.0,0.3369195649244948,0.0,0.4148751653138053,0.14894248347220632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510930820977441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,topazdem,2018/02/11,"MRI for toddler My 23 month old autistic son is going in for an MRI this upcoming week.  He’s getting it because his neurologist is concerned his spine is fused due to his toe walking and unsteady gait.  I’m a bit worried so I was wondering if they’re any other parents who’ve had MRI’s done on their kids?  All I know is that he will be sedated for it, and the children’s hospital will call me earlier in the week for any dietary restrictions prior.",4.682783882783884,5.380107846153848,5.885439560439561,79.88039377289377,69.43956043956044,9.143589743589745,34.946886446886445,9.2995712137729,3.1994380952380954,358,18,70,7,6,120,69,91,0.026,0.974,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,10,5,2,0,1,7,15,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,8,9,2,11,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,6,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615180053158826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203449099473735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901942110995859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27142035938399184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27201454430611033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388740531498077,0.0,0.15106518611381886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608148714242825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121659351473034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789214731287312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29514905878443376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264313448243839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882581513625314,0.0,0.26994159523265016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,robetyarg,2018/02/11,"Finger Family Song. Anyone else ever heard this song? If not, just YouTube it.

My niece is a year older than my daughter (3 years and 2 years) and she is *obsessed* with that song. It just seems weird to me for some reason, so I don't let my daughter watch/listen to it. 

She heard it once while I was busy and ever since she will occasionally say ""Finger, where are you?"" mimicking the song. 

What do you guys think of this song? It's odd to me that kids get so dang obsessed with it. It feels weird and creepy. ",0.4112471994025384,2.785478533980584,1.5912621359223316,97.76589245705752,88.90291262135922,4.33427931292009,14.719193427931293,5.873414542411696,-0.8989994025392085,391,7,88,3,13,123,67,103,0.08199999999999999,0.918,0.0,-0.7366,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,2,0,0,7,4,0,2,2,0,8,2,2,1,2,17,14,8,0,1,4,2,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,2,12,6,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,11,12,0,8,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,12,1,1,3,7,57,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674699806185026,0.2454048625330225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007870061027447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332984781494728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257873905352056,0.0,0.12110274360922853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513335713550852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23715116757132246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24491376872423856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550688402229301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24625472891027886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19046685035156505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180396323634481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981239873319476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346743870597074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627070536657598
parenting,Smokeylootoo,2018/02/11,"Postponing potty training for travel? What do you guys think about a parent deciding not to introduce a 2.5 y/o boy to the potty because they ""don't want to worry"" about having to find bathrooms for a newly potty trained child while traveling to other countries. 

To me this sounds selfish, sort of like intentionally delaying development for your convenience. Am I overreacting, or is this a normal thing to do?",9.115821917808221,9.319215342465752,9.308321917808216,60.83179794520548,59.95890410958904,12.231506849315071,38.79794520547946,11.698219412168324,5.032153424657533,332,15,49,9,4,110,56,73,0.086,0.846,0.068,0.1139,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,8,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,13,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23290989333883305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492104072293654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783151637813496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866629620984122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743532129925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42425001849002697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538342189932034,0.244818778687617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253582370046452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880165745414844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-jaide,2018/02/11,"Went from SAHM to Working mom and now my daughter (1) wants nothing to do with me. I tried looking up similar situations, but was struggling to see one. I stayed at home and breastfed the first year of her life. We moved back to my home town and I was able to go back to work fairly quickly. My husband is now staying home, and I just started weaning her. Since doing that the hours I’m home she still wants nothing to do with me. It’s only been a month and the dynamic has changed significantly. I’m really heart broken and I’ve even cried to my husband and all he says is, “She’ll want you more when she’s a teenager.” I know she loves me, but what can I do that can be just for us? ",0.8262470862470828,2.9292077552447573,2.4860419580419624,94.2188065268065,83.33566433566433,5.2119347319347336,22.82004662004661,6.42735559955562,0.3747775291375293,531,19,120,5,15,174,91,143,0.081,0.851,0.068,-0.4152,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,1,0,3,10,3,0,1,5,0,14,3,1,0,1,19,26,10,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,4,10,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,4,3,22,2,15,20,2,20,0,0,2,1,16,3,0,0,12,82,26,2,0.13525835659159455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20801065443769334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430854066558498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485749534727393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933686887680582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505068902004682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687044108105402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602818038046353,0.0,0.0,0.5427006398146776,0.0,0.13320223552160435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433445547112437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553697732546944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358295384934995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207594766273172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584129525021726,0.1079619297914174,0.14375822742182975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25956808217537025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916545629402467,0.10287007516288628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664996672073873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075628740345506,0.0,0.0,0.10778339824503892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188711029385733,0.15203605991193958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957365609664714,0.28833482285928824,0.10801749829438936,0.0,0.0,0.1414014020472781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183154553398393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269914905749755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23933664942270766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538585165589602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19693938903586589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710194702557104
parenting,kevinzvilt,2018/02/11,"Should we be honest about our children's art? If they write a poem for example, and it's not exactly the best thing you've read or you may not particularly like it or relate to it, do you still encourage them? 

***Update***: I was really nervous and you’ve given me some pointers. I dealt with the situation. Thank you all.",0.4104761904761887,2.8355444126984177,2.9749365079365084,84.95478571428573,96.93650793650794,6.32952380952381,18.998412698412697,7.554174236665415,1.124867936507937,250,8,49,6,10,86,51,63,0.12,0.74,0.14,0.334,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,3,2,1,2,6,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,2,15,7,5,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,10,5,4,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,5,3,37,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4305472942773573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043451741504192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4103755356344424,0.0,0.2628259519583405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4611545011567449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32763776942786194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37771644208662747,0.0,0.0,0.2725615120181336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MogWorking,2018/02/11,"Am I a bad person? Context is important! 

In 3 weeks,it will be a year since my ex-fiance decided she had enough. Engaged for 4 years. (Money issues, religious differences ,few other things) together for 10, best friends since pre-school. She said I was not the man she wanted to be with anymore. I can accept that, told her if she was not happy then she needs to leave. Her being happy and enjoying life is what matters to me. Only thing that bugs me about it is the guy she was tutoring for 2 years took my place and moved into our house 5 days later, sleeping in our bed. Fully replaced me. Life is strange at times. 

We have had our ups and downs since but have always just kept decisions on custody and activies our daughter does (sports,ect) between her and I. No courts or anything like that. TRUST ME, I know how lucky that situation alone is. My ex told me she would never take my daughter from me or her dad from her. (Even all the wrongs I see my ex has made, I'll always have un-conditional love for her)

It feels that everytime my daughter comes over I'm always just teaching her manners and such that she had when my ex and I were together.  It is like she takes 1 step forward and 2 steps back when she goes back to mom's. Again, context is important. I am extremely honest with my daughter. If she asks me questions, I give her the hard truth. I will simplify my answer after in a more kid friendly manner after though if possible. 

"" I am always your dad before I am your best friend, and you are my best friend!"" I say this to her anytime I need to discipline in anyway. I try to be consistent in my teachings and rules for her every second I'm with her. 

Beyond proud of her!! Manners are beyond most of her school population. (350-400) students. Have been told this by way too many people that her manners are amazing. 6 years old and can speak more french than I could at graduation of high school! Karatee,soccer, reading,speaking,comprehension,ect.  Blows my mind when I do anything with her and really see her at that level. 

The reason I ask if I am a bad person is because I always judge my daughter on the mannerisms that the new guy (fuck-tard, I call him) is teaching her. I hate them. Rude,selfish,arrogant, all these things are a no go for me. Lead by example, practice what you preach. 2 life fundamentals my mom and dad taught me, and I teach her.  Every other child I interact with (when my daughter is not around) I am that fun uncle, or cool guy that kids love. But when I am with my daughter it is very hard to be that man. I feel as though I am treating my daughter with adomosity I feel towards her mother for the wrongs she commited towards me.  

I am suffering from depresssion because the ex left, and have always had social anxiety my whole life. 

Am I being a bad person for thinking this way?

End rant / question.",2.7624161922833683,4.866863093189963,3.8394244149272616,87.02325426944974,76.67025089605735,6.670377398271137,24.740459624710105,7.6542693500971675,1.2870349567784098,2218,77,438,32,51,717,268,558,0.07400000000000001,0.774,0.151,0.9947,0,1,0,0,0,0,88,5,4,1,5,21,32,1,0,15,1,53,7,1,4,5,71,83,34,0,9,14,18,5,2,4,3,4,3,1,11,27,26,0,2,12,0,1,8,6,7,0,1,17,11,101,25,56,56,11,55,1,1,2,2,91,24,0,11,25,312,128,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209654459648561,0.0,0.0,0.3475341840292147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325262493317745,0.0,0.06903592612571469,0.0,0.0,0.11456870508880213,0.06196901440430939,0.13015475519263667,0.0,0.0,0.10705392939867388,0.17436814331152567,0.08486907721492852,0.0,0.059234279357292675,0.0,0.21915899763274607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108114851612612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05996416365935508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557913716392388,0.0,0.0,0.04489367383208591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272922598740582,0.0,0.0,0.060917513308100024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616551480155146,0.07192731209624029,0.0,0.045977754741889316,0.0,0.11730142171800614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105593033603309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21512676147181786,0.06435473175948153,0.0,0.0667777164004089,0.039561832996400884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067790576836638,0.0,0.1482055223479243,0.12471650389712,0.06872696772614764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354839650288644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032235188306686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265634487985168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03825667281037405,0.0,0.0,0.07370855226323969,0.07563312395024674,0.0,0.19667471078751014,0.06801734832470555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565423552644836,0.06586810666053937,0.0,0.070575158856155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028779470815237,0.1630563499629084,0.0,0.07398603292940885,0.0,0.10323212524383477,0.05368869832822014,0.06723124316153893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304558398197061,0.0,0.0,0.05294270042798499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825986547834259,0.18234629180419407,0.07272922598740582,0.0,0.0,0.07847653340908411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596167530417288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044594924451324035,0.07157223992849683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621649971553828,0.05535787747959995,0.0,0.21135173445508354,0.1109427431711656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727501147246484,0.07824626900897808,0.0696617960977181,0.07096018181011983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467840480392668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874040915161148,0.04460425346096629,0.13678593677983938,0.0,0.04059103914687747,0.0,0.0,0.1995503814871692,0.07734096393525405,0.0472616550279204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743679718607669,0.04105868012558685,0.11050877439007777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771878000349604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945002903367266,0.15221854626812448,0.0,0.17931015529121502
parenting,bairam85,2018/02/11,"Daughter wants to quit an activity. Encourage her to stay or quit? So my daughter who is 17 has started a 3-month training in abseiling/rope climbing. That training ends in a 5 day trip to a remote area with a group of around seven people of the same age plus instructors.

Now, I don't mind the dangers of the activity itself, because I'm confident in the instructors, but she now tells me that she wants to quit. The other kids are her old friends, and one girl in that group who used to be her best friend started mistreating my daughter doing things like pretending not to notice her and silent treatment. Because of that, others are pulling away from my daughter too.

I couldn't get her to say what's the cause of the conflict, all she said is that this girlfriend misunderstood something that my daughter said, and talking to her to clear it up didn't help.

She is quite desperate and determined to quit, plus now she's saying that she's the worst in the group in terms of learning the abseiling skills (probably not true, just desperation).

I'm encouraging her to stay for three reasons: learn to not give up, learn to deal with toxic people, and get a once-in-a-lifetime experience on the trip. But I want to get a second opinion to see if she's better off quitting because the emotional abuse and the loneliness when being isolated from a group of people will hurt her.",10.253900069396252,7.643379282442751,9.372373351839006,70.29007980569052,59.61068702290076,12.580707841776546,41.75711311589174,10.832165505486646,4.3900335877862595,1100,47,202,20,11,348,141,262,0.127,0.713,0.159,0.7604,0,0,1,0,1,0,30,0,0,0,10,8,11,1,0,21,0,13,0,0,3,3,36,28,14,0,5,8,5,0,1,3,1,0,4,0,2,16,11,0,1,4,1,0,4,6,3,0,4,3,5,23,8,41,21,5,30,0,1,1,0,42,13,0,3,12,142,39,3,0.0,0.12293827574697146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236812995040453,0.0,0.0,0.09748565225035534,0.0,0.0,0.18975284732980088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888940205431737,0.09176702133296426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658979222833076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691642167193831,0.10697169302467896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671569507806134,0.09190029531294988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149689500525062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032897126452209,0.0,0.16263047974311826,0.09953575743549813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954793870772961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107690319548964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050691747555867465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476771686526112,0.0,0.08282000137427173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813110439533643,0.1088783492590234,0.0,0.07031025698906088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21580173101394032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187050425659358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6621672679858579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668225115578392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739846790787205,0.165027753627099,0.0,0.0,0.0826830458479581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987928510388967,0.0,0.0,0.14688329721652546,0.2211880657523687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339811526331249,0.0906905498355735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893333313472419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961506502171232,0.0,0.0,0.18360047539348454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheIdealisticCynic,2018/02/11,"2.5 Year Old Won’t Sleep My non-verbal 2.5 year old (who is suspected to have autism, but is this far undiagnosed) won’t sleep. This suddenly sprung up around 4/5 months ago, and has been a reoccurring battle ever since. 

He will throw fits when we make him go to bed. He will wake up in the middle of the night when he eventually falls asleep out of exhaustion after literal hours of screaming and crying (which isn’t really an option for us, since we live in an apartment, and we have gotten a noise complaint about that before).

We have tried everything, taking things out of the room, adding white noise, taking away noise, adding nightlights, leaving the door open, new sheets, shifting when we have bedtime, rearranging the furniture, different diet, cutting off food after a certain time, adding a bedtime snack, I mean, we have tried everything we can think of. 

The ONLY thing that soothes him is having one of us sit in the room as he falls asleep. He takes literal hours to fall asleep, so this doesn’t work for us. We tried bed sharing with him as a last ditch effort to maybe get some sleep, but he is never shared a bed before, so either my husband or I end up in his bed.  It’s getting frustrating, because he can’t tell us WHY he doesn’t want to sleep, or be in his room like a verbal child could, he just cries about it. 

If anyone has any suggestions at all, I would appreciate it. I am tired. I want to spend some time alone with my husband. And I just want to not dread when bedtime comes around. ",6.841472602739724,6.479972222602742,6.39873287671233,81.69207191780822,64.7876712328767,9.628767123287671,29.551369863013697,9.017664075816787,2.103454794520548,1187,33,238,17,16,368,161,292,0.118,0.8140000000000001,0.067,-0.95,1,1,0,0,0,0,45,12,0,0,2,13,10,3,1,16,0,26,13,8,1,4,46,40,17,0,6,9,2,0,1,0,5,2,1,8,1,12,20,3,0,4,0,1,6,8,6,0,1,2,2,26,4,38,31,4,53,0,0,1,0,34,23,0,6,24,143,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578842408148996,0.0,0.0,0.1002334829731672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581279312186818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766987452293427,0.0,0.0,0.17230701373893795,0.0,0.0,0.09092671698923868,0.0,0.0,0.05899535999666771,0.0,0.1647029872129667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833662280320042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726986819913484,0.0,0.21261358087797125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011130793502082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571714862909575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875418195519684,0.0,0.0,0.1739568006120629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702511429025048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011256888514602,0.0,0.05500153074222824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061492945643424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888750756309958,0.0,0.1024746048455473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728115448071478,0.0,0.08545731120118583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460049295333223,0.0,0.0972271506918848,0.1054203093745546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724778623491553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746416525209654,0.09346941249976998,0.0,0.09082019662758087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20310580317822347,0.0,0.0655797103584715,0.07360451588356151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06199887422759168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011258033495065,0.0,0.3873941250372344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21829647657103132,0.0,0.08458879607555356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285908547233037,0.062011844046525,0.0,0.0,0.11286480521259358,0.11123280868393573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971190292560434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4656511461504223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124764598507566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732766863822099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045600173537668,0.0,0.0,0.06874876834819714,0.0,0.0,0.12464454085760768
parenting,DeathofaUnicorn,2018/02/11,My daughters dad wants to get in touch with her after 10 years He left her when she was 4 years old and now he wants to get in touch. She knows who he is and has asked me about him over tbe years wanted to get to know him. Over the years i reached out to his family to get in touch with him to no avail. Well recently i had an issue with DSC and they got a hold of him and he never tried to get in contact with the case worker or anything. Case is closed now thx god. I did talk to my kid shes 13 and asked how she feels about it.  Shes hesitant but is curious about him. The thing is im nevous as hell cause i wanna know why after all this time why now? Ive never kept her from him he chose to stay away. I don't know how to go about this.  What should i do?,-0.08326754385965174,1.4085348947368423,1.6892361111111107,101.98718750000002,83.09356725146198,5.2106725146198825,14.781067251461987,5.985473137389443,-1.0876406432748542,581,7,156,4,16,190,96,171,0.058,0.888,0.053,-0.594,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,1,11,2,1,0,5,0,14,0,0,3,3,31,32,11,0,5,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,11,0,2,5,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,5,4,26,1,33,26,1,27,1,0,0,0,29,10,1,1,15,99,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319048152574473,0.0,0.27989889477442426,0.0,0.14064823400037696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537833075259255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112399374719153,0.0,0.07569290203215176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910607910410099,0.0,0.08507805430968543,0.0,0.11972889830385793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170186820493418,0.15624808021897296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290851854478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264966862469835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309159938367961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708514217898226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781085418862255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956045895931584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032332307344262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945413858707897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729137078503874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016365862925722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26489110991847664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459842770718414,0.0,0.2701622313008297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385607995755201
parenting,RopeyHubble,2018/02/11,"Kids are so blunt. I was a teen mom. I’m a pretty small girl- and he was a big baby. So the aftermath of the pregnancy was a bunch loose, stretched out, damaged skin. 

Tonight he’s (now 5) reading me a book while I lay in bed and “rest my eyes”. As he’s driving a car up and down my body, he gets to my tummy and it’s too squishy for the car to travel to his liking. 

“Why is it so squishy Mom?!” And then lifts my shirt to inspect it. He see’s how wrinkly it is, pokes it and then he grabbed a handful of it. He looked up at me with the brightest eyes and biggest smile and he exclaimed “IT’S JUST LIKE MY SLIME!!!!” 

Thanks buddy. 😂😂😂",-1.2125560727888285,0.7159248920863313,0.9268810833685992,102.98048666948796,91.44604316546764,3.8461278036394413,19.687261955141768,5.0885558068054335,-0.6301243334743973,476,16,123,2,17,157,82,139,0.037000000000000005,0.821,0.142,0.9382,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,11,0,6,6,6,1,0,12,11,16,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,10,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,7,10,3,15,8,2,20,0,1,4,0,13,10,0,0,8,69,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308241564945404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498305992239754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711463934093587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330313367116485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6500127144603477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823187494136899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775765568370167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22113273618221824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554860617922638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504019059619124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,liabialiabia,2018/02/11,"Is it normal to feel this way ? I’m a single mom to a two year old fun, healthy, active, and caring son! I feel like I can’t give him an awesome life as a young child and honestly childhood is everything. I want him to have fun and be around supportive people! I also want him to have cousins family siblings and I honestly don’t have that for him. I just feel like he deserves so much better. Idk what to do. I’m not mentally there as a mother. I barely take care of myself and I don’t really know what I want out of life. I feel like I’m just a person that makes sure he doesn’t die . I don’t feel like a “mother” idk if this normal at beginning stage for someone who never wanted a child to begin with.. has anyone felt like this? ",1.7610223325062082,3.2265564967741973,3.7529032258064534,89.39243176178664,77.58064516129029,6.833746898263028,20.31017369727047,7.61054688173877,0.5679578163771719,567,13,125,8,13,193,86,155,0.042,0.638,0.32,0.9914,0,0,0,0,1,0,16,0,0,0,1,6,14,0,0,8,0,13,2,0,1,2,28,35,10,1,7,4,5,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,9,8,0,0,7,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,6,16,14,16,33,2,12,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,12,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697326027153878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935328556040248,0.0,0.0,0.11908081069474084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830586265239315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727683319123279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388288175811148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022097297869125,0.0,0.12610343249663994,0.0,0.3381825623141488,0.3822521097322808,0.1284371038027957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832130189166274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351473404143713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889668911863615,0.3267585041359499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929037658116296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480547039921534,0.0,0.0,0.15666605745756573,0.0,0.0,0.09833398815524952,0.0,0.1031692013101508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26212612190612283,0.0,0.0,0.1403657528178945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273705513025768,0.11680000864923233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569443628532353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334017410954278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179697750205398,0.12607362433229607,0.0,0.10057598483781116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067072486266146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155964936612527,0.10617785815823423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861414323881553
parenting,friskyspatula,2018/02/11,"Son diagnosed with ADHD So my 4 1/2 year-old son has had to leave his second daycare, was diagnosed with ADHD (preliminary) on Thursday, is going to spend the week at his grandparents, then start AM preschool on the 19th, but we don't have after school care arranged yet, and he most likely will start on Ritalin next weekend. 

Life has been rough the past couple of months and we have a lot of unknowns coming.  

Plus I just started a new job two weeks ago that I have only been able to work two full days at. 

I don't have a specific question, but any advice would be appreciated. And I just needed to get this out. ",5.975005903187717,5.909751553719008,6.3646517119244415,80.21892561983475,66.52066115702479,9.228335301062572,29.68240850059032,8.841846274778883,2.1480639905548995,482,15,96,7,7,156,88,121,0.009000000000000001,0.916,0.075,0.8641,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,6,0,17,4,0,0,0,19,25,8,0,2,4,2,1,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,10,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,3,4,1,9,2,16,18,3,25,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,3,17,66,11,3,0.15587970131114048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746742179183116,0.15232384003738,0.13817794996934168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600354223429856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589297443242089,0.0,0.0,0.13427656014751846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247792462147307,0.0,0.10052951173974553,0.0,0.0,0.3164292311777449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144071023766028,0.0,0.08859002650424752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546865509188151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650540964364358,0.0,0.0,0.11010244294649993,0.07615494827277698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325233477438617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442169040745453,0.0,0.0,0.11558282337768723,0.0,0.15054958687419992,0.16577983076105293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356952473788872,0.0,0.0,0.11855353705548265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880481305733706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462094021402505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15775857974694882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33099736468933444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045436359490122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500745877463182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348227907279265,0.0,0.0,0.1107324674043139,0.0,0.0,0.10038141692761443
parenting,surfboard-lover,2018/02/12,"What outside activities did your children tend to enjoy at different ages? Parent of 3, 2, 1 & nb here - we're considering a move and want to pick a neighborhood we'll enjoy now, but that will also be appropriate for the next 5-8 years. I'm trying to figure out what things I might optimize around being close to.

For context - we're in southern California, so it is usually pretty nice and doesn't snow much.

These days, for outdoor activities, the kids love all playgrounds - anything with slides, swings, sand, etc. - we visit one nearly every day. They do well playing in our small-ish (~20'x30') backyard where they can dig in the dirt, throw balls, ride various toys around in small circles etc. On weekends we enjoy getting to the beach or lakes & throwing rocks, splashing, etc. We do some light nature walks with the older ones, littlest in carriers, and I suspect that will evolve into bigger hikes.

I figure a lot of this will change over time though.


What age did you kids get too old for playgrounds?

When did they start playing in the neighborhood without parent supervision and what activities were the most popular?

What ages do pools work best for - with or without supervision?

What ages do organized sports really take off?

I grew up around a lot of undeveloped fields & canyons where there were trails to ride bikes, build forts, etc. - anyone have experience with that and what ages was that best for?


My guess is that by the time they are teenagers, their outdoor needs will look most similar to adults - (ex. if they bike they'll like the same types of places adult bikers like, if they surf they'll like the spots adult surfers like, etc.) Is that roughly true?
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parenting,EmotionalPalpitation,2018/02/12,"To take a year off of work or not? Hello!

So, I've read mixed articles and research on the topic of taking a year off of work to raise one's child.  I am an educator who has the option of taking ""child rearing leave,"" meaning I keep my position secure in-district, but can take a year (or two) of unpaid leave.  My wife makes enough money for us to ""get by,"" but my supplemental income sure helps with savings, retirement, and luxuries.  We won't be uncomfortable, but this will certainly slow our overall savings overtime.

My overall question is--is it truly worth it to take a year off work to raise my child at the expense of half of our income?  How much more ""worth it"" is it to raise my child in his/her first (or second) year vs. a daycare?  I view the benefits as:  1) ensuring good quality care and healthy bonding experience with one of his/her parents; 2) a unique life experience for me that I won't get otherwise; and 3) not having to spend all of the money on daycare, plus traveling, etc.

Of course, my wife and I have discussed this and jointly done the research, and she's supportive of whatever decision I make (she's great).  Thanks in advance!",6.785386904761907,6.1860658125000025,7.3882142857142865,75.34011904761907,64.98214285714286,10.680952380952384,35.63095238095238,10.125756701596842,3.4757541666666665,898,38,173,18,12,298,128,224,0.006,0.79,0.204,0.9931,4,0,0,0,0,0,46,4,0,0,5,2,11,0,0,13,0,11,1,0,3,3,33,25,17,0,0,9,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,8,11,0,2,3,2,6,2,4,0,0,6,1,1,20,11,33,20,5,17,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,5,7,113,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978648369378956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302677310782327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153052056888662,0.14196839149469695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490393061821418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827768553116883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301353319626125,0.0,0.0,0.1067696214046981,0.0,0.1403439951171952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532364660650506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314629644962053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26957560256362384,0.0,0.0,0.08991274085845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994178060066334,0.0,0.0,0.13866237135006648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935770106506252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251776635273408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134684715408594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260035404983387,0.0,0.12733018111601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14445368937966852,0.11997472194741225,0.0,0.4785527456440572,0.0,0.0,0.1171968083015245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434943442843988,0.0,0.15312109338838373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27801842930741266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098713927538488
parenting,BurningBroadripple,2018/02/12,"Stepdaughter's Potty Regression in Light of Bio Mom's New Baby--Advice? So my husband's 3.5-year-old daughter who we have half the time has been regressing in her potty training over the past few weeks now that her little brother is here (2 months old now). She had been completely day potty trained and used to be able to get up maybe 75% of the time at night if she needed to go potty. Now she asks to go potty 50% of the time during the day, the rest of the time will just pee down her legs or on the couch and keep playing, and nighttime has been absolutely a losing battle these days--every night it's an accident. We love her to death and want her to be able to get back on track so we've been doing everything we can to make her feel like a big girl and like she's getting special attention (she's an only child at our house). She gets to pick her own outfits, she gets to pick from options presented what she will eat, she gets to pick what movie we watch a half hour of in the evenings. I've even considered getting her a realistic functioning wetting and feeding baby doll that she could practice being a big sister with, if that would help, but I worry that would spark too much of an interest in going back in diapers herself. She asks to wear big girl underwear and doesn't like to be in pull ups, but at the same time, we have been having accidents every day. We just can't trust it yet. I was wondering what we can do as half-time caregivers to get her back on track, and how you would breach the subject with the Bio Mom that some small changes may need to be made there, such as letting her participate more in caring for the baby (""hand me the diaper please,"" etc.) and showing her more individual, special attention? I hate to put a time limit on this, but the daycare she's about to be enrolled in says they can't take a kid her age that isn't potty trained--they don't have room in the younger rooms. Obviously, I know this isn't a week's work, but I just feel so much pressure to help her get back on track and start making even more progress than before. We're out of options.",8.068012661370403,5.768714115566037,7.7518371400198625,79.2325868917577,63.50471698113208,11.001787487586892,34.579940417080444,9.276330184999452,2.751577358490566,1651,52,350,22,19,526,211,424,0.063,0.8490000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.8504,0,0,0,0,0,0,49,8,1,1,4,23,14,2,1,27,0,38,7,4,8,1,59,69,23,1,9,10,6,4,3,0,6,0,1,3,4,15,20,2,2,6,2,0,5,6,4,0,2,8,7,43,10,55,47,11,63,0,1,1,1,53,29,0,8,32,230,58,1,0.17736328118710498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665867282528145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581072562691646,0.0,0.0,0.27276283050180905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546154443365144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041684290664856,0.0,0.09381341698206706,0.0,0.09298101292352122,0.0,0.0,0.07080507392318079,0.0,0.0,0.1715769652012853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074345772304916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890347119481924,0.17572016170670873,0.0,0.149436214015728,0.0,0.07970134034028963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968020413851954,0.06335418175946356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4169924730935642,0.0,0.15119946005557605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755476026937281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188828687222061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733355242849912,0.1023267066199768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882431683480426,0.0,0.0,0.04873711044495524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068298587188298,0.0,0.12997611033395645,0.08888230137765371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921207193903377,0.0,0.0,0.08003864299809528,0.08391271256198438,0.11839136744084215,0.0,0.08909262759886813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20772573130663324,0.07078483944957087,0.0,0.13038241935321376,0.13151262563826274,0.0,0.08564928109553308,0.0,0.16644342447592472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861129278905919,0.0,0.0,0.06744638381916976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465666048333913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734581077485767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914954283000841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052320002041454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276932165401564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667755716000577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102658667337768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659246419422731,0.0,0.0,0.052306729284157284,0.0,0.14227012578009632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617145631819032,0.06456129054534812,0.09006051073202666,0.0,0.18899067923126986,0.0,0.0,0.057108069000450665
parenting,bi0mimicry,2018/02/12,"Learning how to write: type of paper. My wife and I are going to teach our child how to write.  He's 3.5 years old.  I was wondering if there a special name that the industry uses for the type of paper that you need to use to teach kids around his age to write?

Thanks.",1.5801785714285683,3.2919238035714287,2.6851428571428606,95.75985714285716,78.82142857142857,5.908571428571428,18.34285714285714,6.742157984588678,-0.1877171428571427,207,4,48,2,5,66,41,56,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,0,14,8,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,10,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,2,3,28,8,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110937211976028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986063190217946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25912035472850964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666997572325919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32173605585863924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6036429246307919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789747448959233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504094987746387
parenting,John-Henry-Eden,2018/02/12,"What to do (if anything) with a four-year-old caught ""cheating"" at a game? My older daughter (5 in July, starting Kindergarten this year, been in part-time preschool for almost two years) is a little too competitive for her own good.  It's not too surprising, and by itself not a big deal - we're a game-loving family and we all love to win (and argue about the interpretation of the rules, but that's another story).  As she's begun to play competitive (as opposed to cooperative) games, we've tried to model being ""good winners"" and ""good losers"" to her, stressing that what matters is personal improvement, treating other people well, and having a good time.

Well, these past few weeks, she's been really into this card-based matching game - it has 72 cards, with four each of 18 images - so, 36 pairs in all.  She plays it with us, with her younger sister, with her grandparents, and by herself.    With so much practice, she wins or ties about half the time, even when her adult opponent is trying.  She's good at it - but maybe not good enough for her own tastes.

I've caught her peeking under each card as she lays out the grid for the next game and explained how that was against the rules and not fair to the other person (without getting upset - she's little, after all).  A lot of the time, I avoid the issue by setting the game up myself.  But today I was busy with her sister and asked her to set up the game so we could play.  I didn't watch her do it.

So, we sit down.  She goes first.  Deliberately picks up cards on opposite ends of the field.  A match.  This wins another turn - again, she carefully chooses two separate cards.  Another match.  This is... statistically unlikely, but not impossible, but my suspicions were aroused by *how* she chose them - normally, she begins with two cards on her side, and these were out of the way.  I asked her whether she had peeked and she became defensive and ran away to her room before being coaxed back for a chat about fairness.  I reshuffled and we began again and played a fair game.  A tie.  She's good.

How should we approach this in the future?  I obviously don't mind if I lose a game to my daughter, but I don't want her to get into trouble or alienate other kids by cheating.  She's normally rule-abiding / rule-attentive to a fault - for example, when offered a sip of someone's Sprite, she'll decline, saying, ""Soda is only for five-year-olds!""  She also normally likes it when things are ordered and predictable.  

Your thoughts are much appreciated, fellow parents.  Thank you.",4.259020191989412,6.076492490566039,4.766742248703519,83.24502234359483,71.68343815513626,7.5367759020191984,26.59875317223877,8.20500826718156,1.7055190775681344,1966,67,373,30,38,625,240,477,0.075,0.7559999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9934,2,1,0,1,0,0,101,6,2,1,6,22,33,4,3,28,0,26,4,1,4,4,76,43,40,0,8,17,5,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,4,23,34,2,3,4,13,0,4,9,11,2,6,13,3,53,22,65,25,12,56,0,2,1,2,68,23,0,6,25,262,76,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817371430318786,0.0,0.0,0.07041703364094748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769979976453981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246122914331699,0.0,0.16463786568584982,0.0,0.08272996246365286,0.06770836157078969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492776821246541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977728058254694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703042351836193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078017066427156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799002013253949,0.09098368423434254,0.0,0.05815906916753483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830098066172281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748989869984873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200952942997474,0.0,0.0,0.5169906904027171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190586645758246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043018908687648384,0.17650718722490052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851029668048182,0.0,0.07486066138676106,0.07947249073167903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846243209396336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890979424753316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946016106081104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364680251923813,0.0,0.2588237083395528,0.0,0.0,0.18479646059444932,0.0,0.0,0.06696930272895549,0.0,0.0,0.09777393758775488,0.09535428259830593,0.0840578427322559,0.061045800738366324,0.1537713278521849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640987277968521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002435511211902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460816687164162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623253237002188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008659629401675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106861703017541,0.0,0.0,0.0584993989483147,0.0,0.0,0.06990531987998408,0.1540356026459821,0.0,0.08346522996016864,0.0,0.0,0.11956625020824332,0.09577784974952996,0.2580489219039672,0.0,0.1059185438498254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193673833698753,0.0698934461834046,0.07063188997796092,0.0,0.15834287506023276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488125329363523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268164633650977
parenting,andoll8,2018/02/12,"almost 4, and STILL sucking his thumb my little dude will be 4 in May. He's been sucking thumb since he was about 4.5 months old, and he shows no sign of stopping. he has zero speech delays, so that's not an issue. i'm just concerned about breaking the habit before he starts losing baby teeth in a few years; i know that thumb-sucking is a big no-no once the adult teeth start coming. what say you, parents of reddit?",5.245058823529412,5.1480751529411775,5.200000000000003,88.06000000000004,68.05882352941177,6.8000000000000025,25.235294117647058,3.1291,0.4195176470588229,328,7,68,0,5,102,64,85,0.081,0.919,0.0,-0.6597,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,0,1,5,3,2,0,5,0,7,2,2,0,0,11,14,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,2,2,4,0,6,9,1,14,0,1,0,0,10,4,2,2,8,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560539746519875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21758812151923795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22026924055934974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266892039042161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053007249695784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25628594190879106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860711177761047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20410316755993416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683218497188645,0.27231998287237563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839327517794593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203348748440464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21152376272102744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619819575715835,0.0,0.2042082204012001,0.21378279481558654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466715001207685
parenting,soswinglifeaway,2018/02/12,"Tips for teaching child the skill of self-entertainment Hello all, my husband and I are in the process of adopting a 9 yo girl from foster care. She's been in our home for 10.5 months and things are going relatively well. A consistent struggle we have, though, is that our daughter does not know how to entertain herself and outright refuses to learn. She is our only child so we spend a lot of one on one time with her. We take her out places in the community, and play board games together as a family relatively often. I guess I am trying to get across that we spend a lot of time entertaining her and I am not looking for a way to just ignore her all the time. 

But sometimes I have things I need to get done around the house or I just need a mental break and need to focus on doing my own thing. My husband and I cannot be expected to entertain her all day long from the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to bed. The only way we can get her to do something alone is by giving her screen time, which we only allow her a certain amount of time doing per day. 

When we say her screen time is up she's immediately asking us what are we going to do now, can we play a game together, etc? If we tell her we're doing other things, and recommend she play with her toys (she has so many toys she has to keep some of them in the basement due to them not all fitting in her room), she just sits on the couch and mopes and whines that we don't spend enough time with her. She will literally sit at the bar and watch me do the dishes or something rather than play by herself with her toys. We have even suggested that we should just donate her toys to a child who will actually play with them, but she insists that she loves all of her toys and we can't possibly get rid of them. But she *refuses* to play with them, ever.

I love this child, but I think we can all agree that being able to self-entertain is an important skill and necessary to give parents the occasional break. What are some tips and strategies we can learn to help her learn how to self-entertain and feel comfortable playing by herself with her toys?",6.600069930069928,5.50230032400933,6.785629370629373,81.14459790209794,65.57342657342657,10.224242424242426,30.45571095571096,9.339509955726095,2.257894172494173,1665,47,357,26,22,537,188,429,0.016,0.86,0.124,0.9912,1,1,2,0,0,0,36,20,0,5,2,17,19,0,1,24,0,36,5,1,3,8,87,58,29,0,7,15,4,1,0,0,3,0,1,4,5,16,40,2,4,6,19,4,2,6,3,1,2,2,6,73,16,58,51,14,42,0,1,4,2,83,17,0,9,17,263,89,4,0.09960808686262296,0.0,0.0972031241386477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316393776244404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867231544849657,0.0931201151132133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155708308743636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128477951309931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716770806053344,0.10193365604955476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029217806490844,0.11108934706046394,0.06579020194652158,0.090101217237837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939016394013691,0.0,0.05036484160587838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081644568541859,0.19110630661169675,0.11321914246658235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972953759418863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676520097565856,0.0,0.09991503267018992,0.0,0.0,0.11493435860172645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853624431863444,0.0,0.0,0.05474199956318015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815002238972486,0.08364570602687943,0.0,0.0,0.1693664668634152,0.17980037470575105,0.0,0.0,0.10098696597126353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038152348546377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950622461716493,0.0,0.0,0.22157440283744748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499403507132632,0.2272693157139712,0.0,0.0,0.1106029926386053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406925027085424,0.0,0.0,0.11229315154753973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921234864902021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117388749427783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336634335534646,0.09851494487932018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413199962313624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489288494133063,0.0,0.08706185832207977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26470074749464145,0.0638248400633019,0.09786443960464664,0.0,0.4065759353362776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762735253317742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981626407548092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812852595348484,0.0,0.0,0.08955963253982653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,conscious_girl,2018/02/12,"My 2-year old son is going to get suspended from Montessori school unless I discipline him better and teach him better boundaries. Please help. He is very active and I think the teachers there feel like he takes up attention from the other kids. He doesn't 'play nice' with others. When he makes a mistake, he says sorry and gives the other kid a hug. He's very tall for his age, so when the kids play a basketball together, he is considered 'aggressive' when he is just playing how he plays. I watched from the car today when I went go pick him up and he wasn't being aggressive at all. It's confusing to me because he can't help how big he is compared to the other 2-year olds and it's not like he shows no remorse for his actions. He's not the most well-behaved of all-time but he is clearly bright and excited about life, I know I need to do a better job but I'm not sure what I can do.

I appreciate any help or suggestions based on your experiences. This is all new to me and I don't have anyone to talk about this because none of my friends have kids and parents grew up in a third world country. ",4.2401333333333335,4.909869191111113,4.99688888888889,85.95400000000002,70.42222222222222,8.311111111111114,27.88888888888889,8.447377352677275,1.7485555555555563,868,29,184,13,15,281,128,225,0.086,0.733,0.182,0.9698,2,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,1,0,3,11,19,2,1,12,0,17,2,0,4,4,34,29,19,0,2,8,2,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,4,9,9,0,1,4,5,0,6,9,4,0,1,2,4,19,15,23,26,4,24,0,0,2,1,35,9,0,3,11,109,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467645354418732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763017554541746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876664024448412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084109487441287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505713148418647,0.0,0.0,0.07783072229156797,0.10996633591319856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892454448628095,0.0,0.08042113067274216,0.1476619542900159,0.17496188520480818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095244807801026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527499857068438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459491243966763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087240389450095,0.15040308535002944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274826790954364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413580892474925,0.0,0.14866481349936242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230435020676214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091904849090006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896693841068566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240988183799192,0.0,0.15578355492667026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231001616619845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507550561674648,0.0,0.11573484882761398,0.12372165542483572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863097438374156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590593402318716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540137691981165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839993667186568,0.14269298234281175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982494264672468
parenting,dick_rickles,2018/02/12,"Almost 2yo son not talking Hey everyone. Our son Hudson will be 2 next month and he doesn't say any words. He will make sounds, use signs, make eye contact, and generally does everything else. He just can't talk. 

We're currently going through a speech therapist and she tells us everything is fine with him he's just delayed, and that he's not on the autism spectrum. She is also the speech therapist for one of our friends and our son came up in their conversation and she told her basically the exact opposite of what she's been telling us. While that's frustrating and something we'll bring up in our session tomorrow, it doesn't help our son.

We essentially just don't know what to do to help him. He has no interest in reading books or to trying to repeat what we say. He likes playing with his toys and that's about it. He seems very smart but just has no interest in verbally communicating. 

Anyone have any suggestions? 

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parenting,newmomquestions,2018/02/12,"hygiene for uncircumcised boys? I'm a new mom to a 4 week old boy, and we decided against having him circumcised.  The problem is that my partner is circumcised, and as an American woman of a certain age, all of my partners have been, so neither of us really know anything about care of penises that are not.  I feel kind of silly asking, but is there anything special we should or should not be doing in terms of keeping son clean and healthy (aside from general baby care like diaper changes and regular baths?)  I could ask at his first ped appointment, but that keeps getting rescheduled, so is there anything we should be aware of in the meantime?  I could google it, but the issue is such a hot button one, and I just want some basic dos and don'ts.",10.018344988344992,7.340650286713284,9.218286713286714,71.42178904428907,60.11888111888112,12.330536130536132,42.01515151515152,10.504223727775694,4.328744522144522,593,26,109,10,6,188,100,143,0.02,0.821,0.159,0.9678,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,1,7,8,0,0,8,0,18,1,1,0,2,32,29,13,0,7,7,2,2,1,2,3,0,0,2,5,4,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,2,12,7,16,21,4,9,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,2,7,81,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4352386347823568,0.0,0.329632645125135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594983735641303,0.0,0.18650159494269813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815217618442172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914237240616563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499603453838167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210926185290147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840109730330045,0.0,0.31340636089973595,0.0,0.18358889840582698,0.09688964674018964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861310768457378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647995481675635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027124737462515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18499676809387414,0.0,0.11946516819318885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869490256656924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294203492057378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21206670550286008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039860688540536,0.0,0.14141690082431535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,3InaRow,2018/02/12,"Daughter pinches me and it REALLY HURTS My 18mo daughter is so sweet and cute and curious, but she exhibits a truly unacceptable behavior.. she pinches - HARD. She ""grabs"" me all the time to put a sock on her foot to play, she wants to show me her doll, wants up, wants help, wants my attention... clamp, pinch, twist, yank..

I know I sound horrible and weak, but no joke, it HURTS. They're tiny claps with a huge force. How do i get her to stop? I love that she asks me to do things for her and she wants to share things with me, but for the love of all that is holy in this world, i can't take the pinching. 

I've tried telling her ""no pinching."" I've unclamped her spring loaded fingers and physically patted my arm with her hand to say, ask me like this... Nothing is working. 

Help please. :)",1.8933333333333344,3.9555078025477712,2.6219363057324863,94.9068747346072,79.25477707006371,5.970106157112527,21.93163481953291,7.03164865440522,0.4129884501061572,603,18,135,7,15,188,93,157,0.174,0.58,0.246,0.9332,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,0,0,1,2,11,0,0,6,0,6,7,4,1,2,24,18,11,0,5,3,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,8,9,0,1,3,3,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,7,27,8,16,18,2,9,0,2,0,2,24,5,0,0,4,78,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267053613873153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912912908530261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565273217116244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342410024550557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741126715984601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602922380738822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536619477383102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154084717592984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676619630728032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918054345911286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565590825123198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193905967819827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389554714373632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608542844065872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137820443170914,0.0,0.15272519719066752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23217097955847124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188878688250576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186329002179468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.515313132765007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720841597852234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grkygrt,2018/02/12,"Satellite Parents Refused to Discipline Younger Sibling - What should I do? For the past few years, I have been the primary caretaker of my younger brother for my parents as they spend half of their time out of the country. 

Because they feel bad about not spending enough time with him, they often, in my opinion over compensate by lettting him do whateve he wants, when they do spend time with him, or overrule me when they are overseas and parent over FaceTime. 

My brother, now a teenager, quickly figured out that I have no real authority, and flat out told me the other day that I am in no place to tell him what to do. And when I told my parents, they were pretty indifferent to his attitude and told me that I should trust his own judgement and leave him alone. 

A specific instance is how they handle his very apparent social media/smart phone addiction. On an average day (school day included), my brother spends over three hours on Snapchat and video games. Often times prioritize snap chatting over homework, meals, sleep. Then, to make up for the time lost, he stays up all night until two three o’clock in the morning trying to finish his homework. This past weekend, he had a ton of homework but was still on his phone every two seconds. He ended up staying up until 3 in the morning today trying to finish everything and would have slept right past his classes if I didn’t wake up up. 

This has gone in for a few months and every time I tried to talk to my parents about helping him, they always give him excuses like oh he needs social media to keep in touch with his friends, he get A’s anyway (which is likely unsustainable if he’s only getting three hours of sleep every night due to poor time management, not to mention detrimental to his developmental health as a teenager), or he’s in high school he should have the freedom to do what he wants, and you should just trust him to do the right thing eventually. 

Two months ago, I thought I got through to my parents, as they agreed that my brother need to come up with a plan to limit his smartphone social media usage, especially during school nights. After quite the temper tantrum from my brother, they eventually had him write up a letter promising that he will reduce his usage in three months. But since then, and not only did his usage not go down, it actually gone up as now he now puts Snapchat before anything else. (Sometimes, the first thing he does when he gets home from school is stand in the foyer with his back back, shoes and jacket on, snapchatting with his friends for a long period of time. And this is after he already spends his time on the way home snapchatting. And it seems that he’s snapchatting at school too - if I spot checks his stories feed, there are always stories when he’s supposedly be in classes.)

Last night, so fed up with this, I tried to point out to my parents (who are currently out of the country) that they are enabling him and that they need to show him the consequences of him going back on his own words. And if he is not able to gradually reduce his usage like he originally promised in three months and learn to manage his time appropriately, I will replace his iPhone (which I bought and am paying for every month), with a basic flip phone. My parents basically flipped out on me, calling me names, giving me ugly looks and side eyes, telling me that I’m ungrateful and threatening and guilt tripping me that if I do that (taking my brother’s iPhone if he does not control his addiction in three months), I will basically tearing our family apart and pissing them off and trying to make them have a heart attack and that I’m a disgrace to this family. And all the while refusing to accept that my brother is spending an unhealthy amount of time on Snapchat and games and prioritizing it before everything else. And again brought up his grades as a justification that he’s getting A’s that’s all that matters. 

I am hurt by their actions and not sure how I should proceed. But I do know that if I don’t intervene with my brother’s behavior, he will continue to spiral out of control. Taking away the iPhone is radical, but he needs to learn that if he needed to stand by his words. Smartphone usage and trust should be earned and is a previliege, not just freely given just because he and my parents throw temper tantrums. 

TLDR: Parents are in a satellite role and refuse to discipline my teenager sibling about restricted smartphone usage. Sibling is now spending hours of time on Snapchat even on school nights and getting only three to four hours of sleep everyday due to poor time management.",10.609305555555556,7.9829809490740775,9.28481481481482,71.2416666666667,58.9537037037037,11.868518518518519,41.24537037037037,9.793970653908694,3.9664342592592585,3676,149,662,49,36,1136,332,864,0.097,0.843,0.06,-0.9861,13,1,0,0,0,0,86,1,1,16,9,30,22,6,1,35,0,52,15,9,8,4,126,93,65,0,22,25,18,2,3,2,11,3,0,5,0,35,50,3,10,9,6,12,10,12,10,0,14,20,4,97,12,126,60,10,146,0,2,2,0,126,56,1,14,78,455,132,19,0.04564458933663113,0.0,0.0445425348813824,0.09951867954272008,0.0,0.0,0.04046117440999617,0.0,0.0,0.047274028864854094,0.05036993935758826,0.0,0.07595990967978357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03756160785298578,0.0,0.0,0.051927309837283976,0.04288459420976522,0.10529361518254353,0.0381113255203167,0.05564903600369822,0.0,0.07768036728523005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046608229083729566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03931877206535871,0.0,0.0,0.1023885763584838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831095211839711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988777544389088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626039480995582,0.0,0.040427558120370265,0.04716306235257192,0.0,0.030147820772470267,0.0,0.15383014060442934,0.0,0.08204482743130677,0.0,0.08605931312430888,0.0,0.023079275835057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03882526437218917,0.0,0.0,0.07052979299036362,0.0,0.1192370700871975,0.08757289854348592,0.05188174399996303,0.0,0.0365061478050939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04851806402761506,0.0,0.05408905813403697,0.030594606085694382,0.04822601469600351,0.0915704894739469,0.0,0.17980290437693172,0.0,0.04886347692871475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04057100824459399,0.0,0.0,0.025085072590275842,0.03720643241153973,0.0,0.048331029549075685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689892225784362,0.0,0.0,0.0403940252114574,0.03832995915919095,0.0,0.0498264611877414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060936235636492364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185984544022925,0.0,0.0,0.1692244231631028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141717752157404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414430104343253,0.0,0.0,0.5068291478536521,0.0,0.1307187759442587,0.0,0.0,0.04768888090116204,0.0,0.043148890558218765,0.0,0.0,0.046436956881429035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045885419403483466,0.0,0.0485486392630646,0.0,0.05195353553741668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796045979136795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771685675419633,0.0,0.04155311984118388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037757675977432674,0.0,0.1370326599395015,0.13958673201005614,0.0,0.0,0.04514366598305542,0.0,0.0,0.0973021180539788,0.036451828005753334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04301948526824855,0.0,0.06863810128382952,0.036687391922469774,0.07979076589385764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606484739193697,0.0,0.0,0.03623670538318026,0.3460044523812976,0.0,0.043265733609381934,0.13084608350116306,0.0,0.15494839985019165,0.0,0.13376439409096771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03766156649082621,0.05384472280255217,0.03623055043466564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03242460665749669,0.0,0.0,0.029393619016144814
parenting,predandberanielp,2018/02/12,"My daughter(10) is starting to like boys. I'm totally fine with this because I had my first little playground love when I was 9. I actually actively support her and talk to her about the crushes she is having on her mates but the mother always tells her that it is too early and she shouldn't think about boys yet.

I always try to make my daughter feel that there are no limits to what she can talk to me about and I fear that if I tell that she is too young for romantic feelings she would still have them but stop talking to me about it. I want her to feel that she can always come to me if she is emotionally in distress or if she is in a situation she can't get out of herself. Especially with the teenage years being on the horizon.

Is there like some sort guideline that people generally agree on when it comes to this? I just can't see anything being wrong with it and actually think it is a good thing.",6.176270270270269,5.515410978378377,6.550405405405407,81.04993243243244,66.24324324324324,9.345945945945944,31.47297297297297,8.548686976883017,2.173118918918919,721,24,151,9,10,234,102,185,0.103,0.774,0.123,0.0019,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,2,13,9,0,2,6,0,21,1,0,1,1,32,36,12,0,6,7,2,3,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,15,10,0,2,5,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,2,4,30,6,24,30,2,19,0,0,1,1,27,7,0,6,12,119,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.29697395569024154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37982989032087217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521536207910394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275580294417916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621460880982118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711604041599009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712231876584681,0.23081119622362956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942788698525207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794977305692366,0.0,0.0,0.12762524822021146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867614836943752,0.1525050818156629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733105027260234,0.0,0.101568506316676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548913030090873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125244625449035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103509894266536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770018761874696,0.0,0.12151580038986015,0.12721323054752293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267025695938534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669032285271208,0.2659904677422964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010888651396656,0.19499697558958995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330718571344254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974837403338973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080906567892896,0.1663639330770525,0.0,0.09798655750646312
parenting,NikkiP0P,2018/02/12,"If anyone else comes looking for Urea Cycle Disorder or positive newborn screening information. Xposted to beyond the bump. I made a subreddit, /r/UCDfamilies, maybe the mods could add it to the sidebar? 

I made this because when I went looking for this kind of information the entirety of reddit was devoid and I felt like I was drowning in the information from scholarly journals. So if you’re here from the future (or here now) come check us out and find some help. 

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parenting,matthenry9,2018/02/12,"As a parent, what are the most touching things your children have done for you? Things my 11 year old son does that touch me:

When I cry, he gets a tissue and wipes my tears.After dinner, he kisses me and thanks me for the meal.He asks permission for everything, even eating fruit. And not because I've asked him to.He clears everybody's plates away after dinner.He always offers his food, sweets, chocolates or drinks to others. Without fail. No exceptions.He is tender and loving with animals and babies.He is fiercely protective of his family.When he tackles players during school rugby, he apologises to them.I walk into his room while he's deeply engrossed in a video game and wearing headphones. I silently collect the contents of his dirty clothes hamper and just as I'm making my way out of his room, I hear ‘Thanks dad.’

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parenting,NotTwerkingISwear,2018/02/12,"Tips on keeping baby safe from the flu when we fly next week? I have a 3 month old, and for family reasons we're going to be flying to another state. As much as I hate taking him on a plane at this age, it's kind of out of my hands. My wife has been concerned about the flu outbreak this year, and I was wondering if anyone had any tips. ",4.470342465753422,3.5199102465753427,5.752157534246577,86.3276883561644,69.82191780821917,8.943835616438355,26.46917808219178,8.07648339933343,1.3051671232876707,260,6,61,3,4,88,59,73,0.122,0.838,0.04,-0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,4,0,6,3,1,1,0,9,11,6,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,7,2,13,7,1,13,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,7,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859235172813796,0.2866870410619093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116983930458686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25774015740734124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155381310629363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26992900763324745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24301328168938185,0.0,0.2847073081430629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822778578019952,0.0,0.2009827732984267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907673515407668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868906143918648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28110397326081404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20556514323419806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193075153739656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964940533986488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176062664619447
parenting,WeaponizedOrigami,2018/02/12,"How long until my toddler doesn't cry when dropped off at daycare? He's 15 months. He was super excited for his first day and still super excited when we picked him up, but on his second day they had a different teacher in the infant room, and she apparently tried to make him nap in a crib instead of on a cot, wouldn't give him his blanket because they're not allowed in cribs (and tried to chew me out when I picked him up about how I shouldn't have sent one) and only gave him the table food that I'd sent and didn't try to feed him any of the purees. So she handed me back a hungry, over-tired kid who now doesn't want anything to do with daycare, even though his other, more reasonable teacher was back the next day. 

This is his second week of daycare and he's still super upset when he realizes he's being dropped off. We're doing the ""calm hand-off and just walk away"" thing, but it's heartbreaking, and every day when I pick him up I've walked in on him sitting on the floor crying while the staff are talking to him, but have their hands full with smaller babies. 

How long until he's happy, or at least not inconsolable?",13.250566502463052,5.913489672413796,11.729679802955667,69.99758620689654,59.603448275862064,14.636453201970447,43.487684729064036,9.23628265651192,3.9974339901477833,892,24,190,8,7,283,134,232,0.055,0.843,0.102,0.8721,3,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,2,4,19,9,0,1,11,0,15,5,2,9,1,33,21,25,0,3,7,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,6,12,3,0,2,1,0,4,7,2,0,4,7,2,25,7,31,11,3,50,0,1,0,0,33,20,0,1,23,128,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765517724910648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302743687676217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487360035917279,0.24345885843251786,0.0,0.09650336410362373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34778880593322997,0.4083834248175415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539864004089294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045612407281644,0.0,0.13338170015985834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465708997653889,0.19142721078840969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186389415964174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685222928616183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801959999690325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567212223302187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263602975157371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836283664427795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727390538664784,0.1204007128083209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276745679795626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528506714867878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724233859041725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051731023800863,0.0,0.15553725213590694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224431455816744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337442771386127,0.0,0.12698549266317008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RoosterNeedles,2018/02/12,"My daughter is having surgery Friday My 3.5 year old daughter has strabismus (crossed eyes).  She’s having correction surgery on Friday.  Everything has finally been approved by the insurance, so the doctor said I could start talking to her about it since it won’t be rescheduled at this point.  It’ll be an outpatient surgery with anesthesia.

The children’s hospital where the surgery is happening doesn’t do pre-op tours anymore in person.  They do have an online video that she needs to watch before going in.

So far my daughter knows she’s going to the eye doctor this week and she does like doctors, but she’s fairly low communication so I’m not sure how to even begin to broach the idea that surgery is so vastly different from just a regular checkup.

Any ideas?",6.201619718309858,7.7467662042253576,5.902929577464793,78.03326760563381,66.53521126760563,9.060281690140846,33.91830985915493,9.3871,3.250930140845071,619,28,106,12,10,192,97,142,0.04,0.933,0.027000000000000003,-0.4288,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,1,1,9,3,0,0,9,0,17,6,2,1,2,13,26,7,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,2,7,2,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,4,11,2,13,19,0,18,0,1,3,0,14,9,0,0,7,67,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976729635108622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466321483952202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986471887705075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061708620204594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400738769865968,0.0,0.540797299472156,0.15412335738129368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632526577100845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582848463262453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19293029869349226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018553596318892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155741888248211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39763494621559853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679066881721342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604308937363198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305903743289407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848077840643179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378075024583884,0.0,0.0,0.16648985012184944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752997120188162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568786666601205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465828541387892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659905402426523,0.0,0.0,0.14155817921418395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127243594506095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341518081290647
parenting,Seek2Find,2018/02/12,Morning person I am not a morning person. I usually wake up when my kids do. I really want to be able to get up before them so I can have some alone time in the morning to relax before the whirlwind of a day starts. Once I am out of bed I am great. Not groggy and I have energy. It is literally just the getting out of bed part that I struggle with. Any tips or pointers?,0.5588924050632897,2.4895649367088635,3.347325949367093,88.65238132911396,83.17721518987341,5.975316455696203,21.26740506329114,7.1686216300943375,0.6671126582278482,286,9,62,4,8,101,54,79,0.055,0.8079999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.7501,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,5,0,9,1,1,0,0,10,13,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,10,2,12,12,2,10,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,5,47,12,0,0.2396189664088437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24817298390035736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294911404249338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077961832862443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545344101512078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250382040081002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641807563950133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551863789083534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25948398992296395,0.0,0.0,0.4184520778676176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350604567580864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960353773623127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505017705459518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972374627768006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639064383867574,0.0,0.1413334747012812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BerniesSurfBoard,2018/02/12,"Bringing baby to Ash Wednesday during flu season. My daughter is 5 months old and will not be able to receive the flu vaccine for another month. I am going back and forth on taking her to receive her Ashes on Wednesday. 

We have been staying home the entire flu season, only going to the doctor. Are there any parents bringing their little babies to church? What are your experiences?

(Our church itself is extremely family friendly and has a ton of children of all ages.)",5.305415282392026,7.498184558139535,5.803754152823924,75.33476744186048,69.69767441860465,6.774750830564784,29.727574750830563,7.447530270364453,2.2120784053156144,376,15,56,4,7,121,65,86,0.09,0.872,0.038,-0.5693,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,10,4,0,0,1,6,15,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,1,10,12,2,19,2,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,9,42,10,1,0.2417666138507928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440958794898755,0.25351337464194745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859036026888032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474583738048845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364941397220551,0.22791604686091024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867882861331065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27480307633041623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425116261371296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423136614468915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859516091753264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25369339171447697,0.0,0.0,0.18387440425439203,0.0,0.0,0.26845321353153856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25769104229339096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177840538946116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ivorywinter,2018/02/12,"Every morning my son has to be held back when I drop him off He will be 4 in April. He's been going to this daycare for over a year. They're really great, and at the end of the day he tells me how great his day was. But every single morning it's a huge crying fit when I drop him off, because he doesn't want me to leave. I have tried everything. I've tried staying with him for five minutes before going, I've tried taking him to the room and sneaking out, I give him hugs and kisses before leaving and tell him that I always come back to get him. I just don't know what to do to get it to stop. What else can I try to get him to stop crying when I drop him off?",3.141564625850343,2.8672109115646265,4.506530612244899,91.84442176870749,72.5374149659864,7.077551020408162,22.455782312925173,5.82211442006289,0.13266802721088355,512,9,125,2,9,171,84,147,0.126,0.743,0.131,0.6969,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,5,0,11,2,0,1,0,15,22,9,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,21,4,21,16,1,29,0,0,0,2,18,10,0,0,12,78,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874028841122285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21945952432612476,0.0,0.08699039549601102,0.0,0.24285940449960294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122925958040163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135049856368795,0.18406319804948348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921000580781199,0.0,0.12639245968592402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404667848962737,0.0,0.12825221242245854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366920894690606,0.13689367554405835,0.1622027533156064,0.0,0.0,0.3146610184593741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842581084528484,0.0,0.0,0.3022036446362942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914191656711694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521023604353661,0.0,0.23861211668479684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729486089172853,0.0,0.2494573412403776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875437506891285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416989885783137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189602289260076
parenting,Dazz316,2018/02/12,"Screen time with TV/compujters/consoles My son is just going 8 months and I'm already aware of when the TV is on and stuff like that One of my neices is just over a year and got a lot of TV now she often cna't be calmed without TV where as our other neice and newphew (different parents) don't need it as they didn't watch much in the earlier years.

What's everybody elses policies on TV?

Second is computers and such and what they're doing online. How do you monitor? Do you have a switch off time? Time limits different to TV? How much do you leave them to it or keep an eye on what they're doing.

I work in IT and have access to all sorts of knowledge and tools yet I feel completely clueless to this stuff.",2.6378571428571442,4.183340217687078,3.797023809523811,89.65839285714287,75.39455782312925,7.07687074829932,23.1343537414966,7.793537801064563,0.9685741496598634,560,16,120,8,12,182,94,147,0.029,0.928,0.044,0.4708,3,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,3,2,2,10,2,0,0,6,0,14,1,1,2,1,24,20,14,0,1,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,2,5,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,4,11,2,19,17,4,18,0,0,3,0,9,8,0,4,10,86,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20879690484106755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983821015994983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953663972794465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805989248106758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566978681714806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075318702296288,0.0,0.1513277714166202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817770789069816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003450769711699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243799034894426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608587782881593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102486808719906,0.0,0.2781808624110449,0.1402961219751713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821295714501987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100942719104859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43319821611814535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309879768026598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823907837768132,0.0,0.13774645056724275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436888648635625
parenting,daydreamingjunky,2018/02/12,"My son freaks out when my husband holds him before bed time. Is this normal? This is our first child and he is only a little over 3 months old.  Im a stay at home mom, so he is with me the most. Daddy will still get good FaceTime in after work since i leave to go to the gym for an hour everyday. The hubby also watches him while i do chores or cook. It lil one loves being with him, that is, until it's time to go to sleep for the night. Our son will scream, squirm, and carry on like his father is stabbing him when it gets late. Once i take him, he immediately chills out and will eventually fall asleep, only to wake every two hours to feed. I feel bad for my husband because i know it's disheartening, but we don't know what to do to make it easier for him to put the baby to sleep. ",4.011377245508982,3.7639678922155686,5.19605389221557,87.55396107784433,70.67664670658685,7.877604790419163,22.688023952095808,7.1686216300943375,0.5123298203592817,606,10,141,5,10,202,108,167,0.051,0.89,0.059,0.5346,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,2,5,7,0,0,8,0,13,7,4,1,0,17,23,11,0,1,2,6,1,1,0,3,0,1,3,1,9,8,2,1,3,2,0,4,1,4,0,3,0,3,19,3,24,19,1,28,0,1,1,1,21,7,0,2,17,88,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787781995342673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335159265211693,0.09747801343307796,0.0,0.13606934512240015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347288074429027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085394182662534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601707823882336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670899415962322,0.0,0.18175802140485656,0.13412266689014074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040007238259665,0.0,0.31495298367785235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272733762466788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576175391517246,0.0,0.18038241345956504,0.16931875503849514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812263560834068,0.16026913618316907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443225926393807,0.0,0.1067393727276868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728151163681095,0.12763649115299838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006218026906118,0.15667521461491574,0.0,0.0,0.16779582505862534,0.17029606889598164,0.10835733331606973,0.24323343355946206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075101565813044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227698125392118,0.0,0.3200455910974015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043991867356625,0.12770218624340354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023039821429185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864864796020628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562062087736238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641442791416035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ligamentary,2018/02/12,"Grocery Game for No Fuss Expedited Shopping I whipped out one of my proudest parenting hacks today and figured it was about time I share it with the world. 

If your kids are old enough to read and walk around the store on their own (~6+) this is for you. 

Divide your grocery list up to no more items than will fit in a basket (depending on age, avoid fragile items like eggs or glass jars). 

Tell your kids it’s a grocery scavenger hunt and if they return with all the right items they win a prize (a sweet or a package of pencils or something.) 

Stipulate that they can *only* return with what was on their list if they want to win, and if a miscellaneous box of cookies etc. appears, they’re disqualified from the round. 

Not only do I have multiple kids doing my shopping with laser focus, but I don’t have constant whining and pleading. 

They meet me at a predetermined check out counter (write the number on their list if you think they’ll have trouble remembering). 

I actually get my shopping done faster when I bring the kids than without them!

**TL;DR Turn your grocery list into a scavenger hunt for the kids, you’ll finish twice as fast and they’ll be too distracted to plead for any extras!**",5.2244159388646265,6.473005030567688,5.089691593886464,84.06414437772928,68.56331877729258,7.6463973799126626,29.596342794759828,7.8658589789855275,1.8309757641921405,948,35,182,11,16,293,140,229,0.069,0.845,0.086,0.2105,1,1,1,0,0,0,32,0,7,11,3,4,10,0,2,15,0,17,1,0,1,1,34,23,17,0,6,11,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,5,6,14,1,1,3,5,5,3,5,4,0,2,3,3,28,6,32,15,9,28,0,1,1,0,29,14,0,10,12,126,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.2138096443381088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489952692838249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950451325169043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23676887559702084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242150027498244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22638849841736916,0.24435401634695816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447051953892134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704101755504174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22990821694506985,0.0,0.14846758724131687,0.3332703003280621,0.0,0.0,0.2432842228924645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21915893270541748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24819718259209705,0.18710989647105705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867360805950268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19150274364337586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039020324497467,0.0,0.0,0.12775876275435816,0.0,0.20768084123824368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383174936133885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923064507392534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112042355576228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anghellauragiorgiana,2018/02/12,"how much you let your child to play on elevtronical device? I have two kids. 5 years and 6 years old. I am trying to keep them away of playing at phone as far as i can. I make activities with them, and I see other child's negative behavior with is playing to much on tablet or watching Tv several hours on days. They have o good evolution on growing, they are sociable kids and with good results at school. Anyway, they heard other kids with playstation and other devices and they want also to play. I know that in this comunity i can not let them not to be in touch with technology, so i let them to watch tv half an hour maximum per day, and 20 minutes to play with phone, but only in raiining day or when it is to coold outside and after i am to tired to play with them. So i decided to write to you and ask you how much you let your kids to play on electronical device, because if i want to find out wich are the negative efect, i cand finde hundred of articles on the web...",7.684500279173647,5.405431140703518,8.094639865996651,76.41031267448356,64.22613065326632,11.859519821328867,35.176437744276946,10.504223727775694,3.296651144611948,763,26,163,15,9,254,107,199,0.056,0.826,0.118,0.5647,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,6,9,0,7,9,0,0,3,0,15,1,0,4,0,34,23,20,0,3,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,6,16,0,1,4,9,0,1,4,0,0,2,1,5,27,9,39,17,3,25,0,0,3,0,26,14,0,3,10,118,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300539456185806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210558589074725,0.0,0.1327652070372984,0.0,0.0,0.0861411413888894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27339938870145897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583091910128057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370479086541991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783233730596328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560264142779096,0.0,0.0,0.07766016951689525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5779953707401306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094325387583011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116368829589156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828086233788149,0.0,0.0,0.107472469189861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430130599423233,0.11260561371931098,0.0,0.0,0.15963984972422546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624148255128438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959400771549071,0.0,0.13803913971871165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669636037080546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18199775402633114
parenting,j_the_a,2018/02/12,"Daughter received prank texts At 9:15 this evening, my 13yo daughter received three texts: ""I see you"", ""I'm coming for you"", and ""I know your name"" from a number we didn't recognize.  I'll call it 'U'.  Being a bit creeped out, she brought her phone to me.

I'm 99% sure that it's one of her friends or a friend of a friend playing a prank.  I text U back with ridiculous stuff, telling them that they're boring and need more variety.  We go through half a dozen texts back and forth, then the texts stop from U.  She almost immediately gets a text from another unrecognized number claiming to be a new phone for another friend, 'S'.  We text the old number for S and she says no she didn't get a new number.

NotS continues to text and it's clear that this person knows about my daughter.  We go back and forth several times, with each attempt by NotS to be creepy thrown back by me.  After a few texts back and forth, NotS says ""I give up.  This was supposed to be a prank, but you don't seem fazed.""  I ask who it is, and they claim to be a 'friend of an old friend' but won't say who.

I don't think there's anything sinister about it.  I think it's just middle school kids being dumb.  I have tried to make sure that she and my oldest, the only ones who know about the texts, (a) don't think it's anything to worry about, but (b) understand that it's something that definitely needs to come to me just in case.

I'm paranoid.  Every little sound in the house has me up checking doors and windows.  It doesn't help that my wife is out of town for the week (yes, I called her and told her what was going on).  It also doesn't help that this house is fairly new to us and I'm still not 100% used to the sounds it makes.  This part is my problem, not the kids.

So I'm asking for advice on two parts of this:

First, is there anything I should do to escalate this?  The phones are from two different area codes several hundred miles away in different directions, and we don't know anything beyond the fact that it's somebody who knows a little bit about my daughter, but that info is all common knowledge to everyone she's ever met.

Second, is there anything I can do to counteract my paranoia?  This isn't like the gut feeling that something is wrong.  This is a purely mental feeling:  the same one that goes off when the bus is five minutes late to drop the kids off or I don't hear from my wife 3 minutes after he plane is supposed to land.  I recognize the difference between the two, and this is definitely the latter.

Thanks",4.61503937007874,4.940448053149608,4.979596456692914,87.63644192913387,69.45275590551181,8.003543307086613,27.489173228346466,7.756953410329674,1.3627055118110238,1953,59,423,21,32,619,227,508,0.087,0.8270000000000001,0.086,-0.7649,2,0,2,0,0,0,68,6,4,2,2,22,16,2,0,33,1,38,1,1,3,7,71,76,24,0,4,13,6,2,1,6,2,0,6,2,4,40,26,0,1,14,1,1,8,17,5,0,12,7,9,47,11,59,61,9,54,0,0,1,0,63,21,1,4,25,279,87,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709285686734594,0.0,0.0,0.07268272320321192,0.0,0.0,0.058045663669305185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222200062539146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986536011559291,0.0,0.1357131035590226,0.0,0.06819536876581818,0.27906435276566177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848658162213056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823343573403355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250499490470038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275055328617321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04794126639062954,0.06565668336495367,0.061155429817661276,0.0693574392727803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734016378339127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617401952864676,0.0,0.0,0.3364708467400698,0.0,0.07584463479242197,0.06962950472205598,0.1237540448786244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180781685881491,0.0,0.09730349477266494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750514636329789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945225171579686,0.0,0.08187828747272045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035461037990270436,0.14549713748398965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690120979354226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314793412590054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764072417560916,0.0,0.2103071989666332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523300918019058,0.0,0.1475550645465669,0.05520365487410113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572035154264324,0.0,0.0,0.06337783854970612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945340250873812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316592117000867,0.0,0.07345921856134256,0.0578403146731985,0.06607804931250821,0.0,0.1639992685524137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175792906262938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796594088966514,0.06068375123764056,0.0,0.0,0.08309169390796035,0.0,0.0,0.13681974685985746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344190500699247,0.06682590042436717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139527326377626,0.0,0.0,0.04232450740009668,0.0,0.0,0.0693574392727803,0.0,0.04927999652169317,0.0,0.21271303485232892,0.07556284890600089,0.08731001371058032,0.06268955754056793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822277250264647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371291195634155,0.0,0.0,0.07935957200608891,0.0,0.0
parenting,Roseredyeld,2018/02/12,"How do I do this? I recently found out I have a 5 year old daughter.

Back about 5 and a half years ago my at the time girlfriend got pregnant and had an abortion.
I paid for it and a month later she broke up with me. 
Blocked me on everything.

Cut to 2 weeks ago and I get a call from a social worker and I don’t want to bore you but 
Ex overdosed and when she’s able will be going to either jail or rehab.
I’m not sure how it was found out I’m the father. But my name was given and I was asked to do a dna test. I did it. 

So now they want me to come and get this 5 year old kid that has never met me.
Is probably scared out of her mind and just take her home!

I have no support or help or anyone to ask advice of.

I live in a studio apartment and work 2 part time jobs. Will she be in school? I don’t even know that. I should know this.

I don’t know anything about kids but I want to do the right thing and take care of my daughter. 

I go up there tomorrow and find out all the details now that the dna is back. But the worker I spoke with basically said I’d be able to bring her home with me. 


Please give me all the advice 

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parenting,RadiantRedemption,2018/02/12,Bedtime Blues I put  my 3 yr old in time out the other day by putting him in his room until he calmed down. He was screaming and full on tantrum because he broke one of his trucks. Now he won't go to bed in his room without me or my wife laying with him. My wife thinks it's my fault for punishing him in his room. It's a 3 hour fight every night for a week but if we fall asleep in there he wakes up screaming when he realizes he's alone. I need help.  Please!!!,1.4840841584158433,2.580668435643563,2.65256188118812,98.5315160891089,77.51485148514851,5.8420792079207935,21.53589108910891,5.985473137389443,-0.13905049504950506,356,9,90,2,8,114,72,101,0.172,0.75,0.078,-0.7921,0,1,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,0,3,8,3,0,3,0,2,2,2,0,0,11,5,6,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,7,0,1,1,3,15,1,17,3,1,26,0,1,1,0,19,13,0,2,9,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685518375789083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158064070665644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722408363330232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21846755991773684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736355270057194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380024257726093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553537403723818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922642554270154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433311700855877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720869067328214,0.0,0.17570527534571204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846284869872115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5213269947485113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614602402681278,0.0,0.0,0.1511972343909352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799113142076706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499515150233783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,machinehead933,2018/02/12,"10 month old trouble falling asleep I know there are a million threads and forum posts out there, but I thought I would get some specific opinions.

Our little boy is just over 10 months old.  He has been sleeping through the night (most of the time) for a while now.  We got to the point where we could take him to his crib, give him a pacifier and he would be out within a few minutes.  

About a week and a half, maybe 2 weeks ago he was sick - fever of 101F, coughing, runny nose... all sorts of fun stuff.  He got over the fever within a day or so, but since then every night it has been an adventure trying to get him to sleep.  All the normal stuff that has worked for the last several months doesn't seem to work anymore.  He doesn't want to take the pacifier - pretty sure it's just his teeth.  The only thing that seems to work is we let him lay in the bed with us until he falls to sleep, then hope he actually stays asleep when we move him to his crib.  

What is really killing us is he will fall asleep with us, like fast asleep, and he will stay like that while we carry him into his room.  As soon as his head hits the crib he starts crying - so we start the whole routine over again.  Once he falls asleep and *stays* asleep while he is in his crib, he's down for the night.  So - more experienced parents out there... any tips?",3.971738950846756,4.602156535315988,3.8807125154894666,93.85746695580342,71.00743494423791,7.167368855844692,22.75113589425857,6.937597516519254,0.3306999586947543,1024,21,237,8,18,311,148,269,0.069,0.8440000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.7489,1,0,0,0,0,0,37,10,0,0,3,14,8,1,0,20,0,21,16,12,0,3,39,37,20,1,6,5,1,0,2,0,4,4,0,2,1,9,17,0,0,4,0,0,5,2,2,0,2,6,2,25,6,34,23,7,52,0,0,0,0,38,16,0,8,29,144,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.09474556208514738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606417938065256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660243394540261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628691419142567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775182417512736,0.0,0.10664849925476562,0.06261483784741735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180227717179023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014507437161558,0.0931373070484606,0.0,0.0,0.15530303798685582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964206386803157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643199967257288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741539096389613,0.0,0.05335797140512105,0.07914108079843014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928081749015087,0.0,0.09486626672818367,0.09730940656989852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975396742323604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23248826642269085,0.1031910079842394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733363776393957,0.09512731222912793,0.0,0.0,0.20375865934287185,0.1033973839262185,0.0,0.0738411076558723,0.0,0.0,0.1078066450919513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178116827378162,0.0,0.09298511439468962,0.09877515038089364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062198161232725785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17677367066013153,0.0,0.1096837489499673,0.0,0.08031362029658469,0.0,0.2914795133363094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744120812072028,0.31045417234278905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22228900347846375,0.0,0.0,0.09150591279118124,0.0,0.14599877406869027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450209632657022,0.0,0.0,0.07707839324336062,0.05661379694043658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591754724824476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35036093913756244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057266032802491776,0.0,0.1557590352376568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839720593639594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21204741910297065,0.0,0.0,0.13793950395213753,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crepusculi,2018/02/12,"TIFU: I told my wife that I was thinking I might be done after #4 is born. (x-post /r/d additionally) Title. My wife is 24 weeks with #4, and we were talking last night, and I said I wasn't 100% sure if I felt we were done, but kinda leaning that way. All day today she's been depressed and crying saying she regrets not enjoying this pregnancy and she doesn't want to have hopes that won't come true.

I tried to clarify that I didn't think 100% we were done. I feel like crap right now.

EDIT: Cross posted from /r/daddit.",0.4392813455657496,2.5732592201834885,2.4589220183486242,93.61174694189604,85.23853211009174,5.1012232415902155,17.34021406727829,6.42735559955562,-0.2752574923547395,401,9,90,4,12,134,76,109,0.218,0.721,0.061,-0.9499,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,0,17,1,1,0,3,25,26,6,0,4,3,2,2,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,10,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,13,4,17,5,5,10,1,13,0,2,0,0,12,1,1,4,9,53,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544127809060642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969038005963304,0.11560499802652872,0.0,0.15439253950185952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5503219806806537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906369903176366,0.12806019820929193,0.17211343562690012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804120421118086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611719528548195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757520545386331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19016180727690124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821918725070056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433545254014588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308325724274754,0.1705130737923118,0.14255120533726706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689462311380328,0.0,0.0,0.1440788181666108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22971943230203698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699132982449278,0.1712863564719714,0.0,0.12170274940448902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572956565425737,0.1422847091225176,0.14378798684380875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,muggxxx1,2018/02/12,"I feel torn I am a new father, for almost a year in April. But I’m having a real tough time transitioning from single life to fatherhood. I miss being able to go anywhere and do anything at the drop of a hat. Yes it sounds selfish but I can’t shake this. I love my daughter very much but I feel like I’m not in the moment. I just need to vent. 
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parenting,RCisaGhost,2018/02/13,"My partner and I might be adopting his younger brother (12). We’re 23. What do we have to do? My partner’s parents are abusive good for nothings, and his mom in particular has had CPS calls on her several times for good reason, but nothing ever came of it. His mother beat my partner, but has never touched his little brother because his dad is protective of him. So his situation is better than my partner’s growing up, but she’s still got some sort of severe mental illness. 

 Because of our age, and the fact we just graduated college and don’t have “real” jobs, we couldn’t financially support his little brother, so we would just take him whenever we could to give him a nice time to make home more bearable. But we’ve had discussions about adopting him once we were stable. 

Anyway, long story short, his parents are about to be homeless (which honestly, has been a long time coming), but the brother is coming with us while they figure their shit out. We don’t want CPS to get involved just yet because we thought it would be about a week, and we didn’t want him to be placed with foster parents if we could help it. We live in Texas, where child services are infamously godawful. 

So, today, my partner talked to his mother and it seems like we might be taking care of him longer. Maybe a month. Maybe permanently. 

He’s old enough and independent enough that I’m not terrified at the prospect of raising him. My partner found a job that pays double what he currently makes but it doesn’t start for a few weeks, but at least that will cushion finances. So at least we will have more money. I’m planning on getting a better job too, though I worry about having enough free time to finish my portfolio and applications. 

I don’t know what I don’t know. What should we be doing to prepare? What does he need? Can we enroll him in school around here without CPS taking him away? Are there services to help us? Would we be able to legally adopt him even if we’re young? What can I do, as his partner? What can we do?

The top priority for now is getting him a bed. We’ve asked our roommate to move out, and he’ll be able to take that room, but he’s got the couch for now which is better than the floor he’s sleeping on right now. 

I also want him to get a therapist because he’s had a traumatic time in general but in the few months leading up to their homelessness. I don’t know if there’s any aid for that. 

I want him to be safe and I want to create a positive environment but...  I haven’t learned how to be a parent. And I would love some guidance or reassurance. 


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parenting,EngWheeler,2018/02/13,How old should they be to remove baby gate from stairs? I’ve got an almost 20 month old. Goes up and down pretty well on his own when we are watching him. How old were your little ones when you got rid of the baby gates? I feel like we are at least a few months out but looking for some guidance.,2.0652380952380938,3.3171218730158722,2.8097142857142856,97.36028571428574,76.30158730158729,5.04,17.36190476190476,3.1291,-0.9535180952380948,230,3,54,0,5,72,54,63,0.0,0.908,0.092,0.5803,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,11,9,6,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,3,8,2,9,4,4,15,0,0,2,0,7,7,0,2,8,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183229224811148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024119199548656,0.15575880055478367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487528185857421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651716263580442,0.21852070800463236,0.0,0.0,0.18308808374433524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34805474189495555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6863491630127636,0.0,0.14774099216869746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218122230453904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603279452616976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,animalnikki89,2018/02/13,"In a&e 3 hours ago my 1 year old daughter had her first pancake. On it she had peanut butter and chocolate spread. She has had peanut butter before all fine. Tonight she had her first allergic reaction. No history of allergies in the family. 
I feel quite lost at the moment. It wasn’t so severe that her throat closed up, but in the time it took an ambulance to come her eyes were swollen shut and her tongue was a bit swollen. I know she’s in the best place for her now and we reacted fast, as soon as her eyes were a bit swollen I told my husband to call an ambulance and I kept talking to her. The 30 minutes it took them to come was so worrying, I didn’t know how bad the reaction was going to get.",1.0642155172413794,3.3589278827586213,2.42989224137931,93.78276939655173,83.9655172413793,6.383620689655173,22.85560344827586,7.6454224807358475,1.0123879310344828,553,20,122,10,16,178,88,145,0.109,0.843,0.049,-0.7848,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,1,5,5,4,0,0,10,0,12,7,3,2,1,16,24,10,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,8,0,1,3,0,0,5,3,2,0,2,16,5,21,2,16,8,4,27,0,1,2,0,19,10,0,0,12,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516941398923935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541649699664176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428842545790063,0.0,0.0,0.14561683729757202,0.0,0.17958767820960828,0.0,0.3736536600351917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474023742171124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948222535333088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132370938912946,0.0,0.08652716951966012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29112180607288424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940701822880273,0.0,0.09725566109924097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16852604581637196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188094318378462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18680580294497875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956944920102594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879173988942185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201508441972503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332528441999947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375457446237464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997857795743155,0.0,0.0,0.163519591183637,0.38025773872813146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17378821009596965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020045315039613
parenting,Lean_Jean,2018/02/13,Balance of Time Between Other Parent & School Dance My son communicated to me yesterday that he wishes people knew him at school. He and I have moved at least 4 times in the last 12 years. I want to help him take part in school related acitvities with his friend's but I know he's torn between that and going to his dad's every other weekend. I tried communicating to his dad. And now lawyer too. What should I do and say to try to make his stubborn biological dad understand?,3.58563829787234,5.5758432553191515,4.8095212765957465,81.50875,73.8936170212766,7.67872340425532,24.51595744680851,8.472884824447931,1.5772595744680853,382,12,75,7,8,126,65,94,0.067,0.885,0.048,-0.5789,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,14,11,5,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,3,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,13,1,14,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,7,45,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21469316077320305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694814706203906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308857166930726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261201469501213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328143568231931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889690073501007,0.16151698036520412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226525814090384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105998533543735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22001978748438605,0.21457486023998334,0.0,0.13737080081503902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575751586834847,0.0,0.6016087431650963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898255676250685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23108326134988874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690588270264905,0.0,0.0,0.2062789461082738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168727619390393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22786029963787746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760074744550015
parenting,b-nst,2018/02/13,"Screaming constantly Okay I don’t know where to start. My DD will be 11 months in just a couple weeks, but ever since she was 3 1/2 months old she started screaming, not to be mad or angry or hurt but just to scream. She has yet to say mama, dada or any baby talk. She doesn’t babble, mimic or clap her hands, and this momma is ready to hear her do babbles lol.

 Well she has had chronic ear infections for the last 6 months which led to getting tubes on Monday and we were hoping for a change from screams to babbles. But nothing, I took her back to her ENT to get her ears checked cause she started tugging them so bad like she was getting an ear infection but he believes she is working on her teeth  or she is getting a cold which can cause pressure, no infection and tubes were intact.  He is concerned is she isn’t babbling and thinks the infections could have cause permanent hearing loss.  

I just need advice if anyone has any info on what I should do or if I should be concern for her screaming and not babbling yet. I am so stressed to the max and feel like this is all my fault because if she does have hearing loss and it’s from the ear infections I feel like I didn’t do enough to make her dr do them sooner. ",5.049932795698929,5.1466472459677455,5.179774193548386,87.37382795698927,68.4758064516129,7.742365591397853,29.839784946236573,7.03164865440522,1.497921720430108,959,33,202,7,15,301,133,248,0.172,0.718,0.109,-0.9641,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,2,3,11,19,1,2,8,2,33,13,6,5,2,43,51,22,0,8,18,1,3,3,0,3,7,13,0,0,6,8,0,0,5,0,1,2,7,13,1,0,7,17,32,6,20,37,2,22,0,3,0,0,30,5,0,10,18,135,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956655872599466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664149059610159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555537055139795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408554253195477,0.10216359459140503,0.07458813720154603,0.0,0.0,0.1378552626546396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770852845161059,0.12943825545872148,0.0,0.0,0.13222523895009067,0.0,0.09769269195251944,0.13538650219250178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707607504897733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264282445203516,0.0,0.0,0.11067957290173362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237354905758408,0.17482477510711025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25570745750444146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.413718166951606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215288353495626,0.0,0.0,0.1309864818165528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672446090872048,0.09973788172386484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793334206785539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167473563959632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292994320834606,0.0,0.0,0.090726707229237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740554300675915,0.0,0.12839385601463593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973037788587732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012155795844912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25981629555534336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016036758343045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834650943812263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840189350695274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594394138853275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814799139225848,0.0,0.11001429484108673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907788552197111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FamousCow,2018/02/13,"9 Year Old Facing Possible Expulsion -- Need Support I have a 3rd grader (only child) who has an expulsion hearing this Thursday.  I just feel like I've been unable to talk about this with anyone (except my husband, which is great, but...still feel very alone).

Here's the brief version of the story:  Last year in school he had several incidents of rage, a couple that we might call middling (yelling, flopping, etc.) and one really big one -- he destroyed basically an entire classroom.  That incident led to a 3 day out of school suspension.

This year, he was basically free of incident until mid-December.  In fact, I had just been remarking to a friend how wonderful it was not to have gotten a single call from the principal all year, when he had his worst incident yet.  He hit and bit a teacher and had to be placed in a protective hold.  This was the first time there has been any violence towards a person vs. property.  The school reacted, I think, very well.  A 5 day suspension (the mandatory minimum for hitting a teacher, apparently) was followed by an initial re-integration meeting developed a number of strategies and guidelines, we had a super useful restorative justice conference.  Kid is (and has been) going to therapy and he's been working really hard, and that was recognized.  The situation with the 'rage' incidents is that they have over the last several years become less and less frequent, but increased in intensity, so we are working on what is a difficult situation with a kid that doesn't exhibit abnormal amounts of anger 95% of the time.

Which brings us to last week.  Last week, he grabbed another boy's butt in after school care.  He claims he 'accidentally touched' the butt, other kid claims he grabbed the butt.  No adult witnessed it, I have some good reasons to believe my kid, despite the fact that he sometimes doesn't tell the whole truth (he rarely outright lies).  No matter -- that's not actually the point here.  Since this is apparently inappropriate sexual touching, that has triggered several things:  (1) another mandatory suspension, (2) a Title IX report (which resulted in a visit to our home from CPS yesterday), and (3) since he already has a 'record', an expulsion hearing.

I feel prepared going into the hearing, but I am really dealing with feelings of being a bad parent, feelings of guilt and shame.  I am, right now, emotionally exhausted and unable to concentrate on work (especially since I am supervising a suspended child half the time -- luckily my husband does half the supervision, too) and am frequently on the verge of tears. I am worried about the outcome because I actually do love his school, and so does my kid. 

He is also feeling worried about being expelled, and is, quite frankly, very embarrassed by the whole situation. He absolutely hates being suspended because it means being away from his friends, but also because it makes him feel like a bad person to be suspended (he is very bright and very good at articulating these things).  So we're a wreck as a family, and I'm posting here mostly because I just need support.  I need to hear from other people who maybe have been through this.",8.817880402605091,8.669409133214923,8.74782770870338,65.77049230313796,60.68738898756661,12.408975725281232,40.61391355831853,11.792908689023552,5.115557537004143,2494,123,405,69,30,812,277,563,0.134,0.7490000000000001,0.117,-0.9531,4,1,0,0,1,0,101,5,0,1,6,21,29,5,3,47,0,50,6,4,8,4,65,82,28,0,3,10,3,12,2,2,1,1,5,1,11,29,25,0,2,11,0,1,8,6,13,1,5,17,18,27,17,56,56,14,57,0,0,1,4,56,21,3,4,29,265,56,13,0.0,0.0,0.12445136144478318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604156306863151,0.0703665333106484,0.10198608653094576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04336255309859075,0.13372683802997234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458614181200422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059909546556173775,0.0,0.10648263194044606,0.155482805641686,0.0704237031513797,0.0,0.07184159510545676,0.0,0.0,0.06961513231803954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022288873875748,0.0,0.06501291685113246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055503058758562,0.0,0.0822466155169605,0.06573916751355965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160279094200014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172731788425629,0.0,0.0,0.07111510358436046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011219787919904,0.0,0.2256913660770501,0.0911078073175384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423868469138434,0.0,0.0,0.0985297399827401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247851623307436,0.1069665241102866,0.0,0.07030140755363229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712113461136922,0.06295497792585514,0.0,0.0,0.2874722610324056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396173968065487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790874073288576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230495544950267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057550623034748935,0.0,0.04256379607984171,0.0,0.06406075907908318,0.06945904505920515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764484804335437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418433632601286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691089799698227,0.0,0.08641796033010248,0.04849634207724388,0.0,0.0,0.0708037582933456,0.0,0.0,0.04420679198302375,0.11135470451848152,0.06662110912336495,0.0,0.06027876712789833,0.07188573265959589,0.0610694782206169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782218691268756,0.0,0.0,0.12254894595197573,0.06556129178805968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445517069097204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226691602397186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610972986139107,0.0,0.15824180840502194,0.2150244205972706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630654576256284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472008839744988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051252088422543786,0.055733634562202816,0.0,0.07292111467741469,0.0,0.08472559059462911,0.04085819416947789,0.0,0.0,0.1115460811683812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670173834203223,0.05507269824963649,0.0,0.2630650251724674,0.0,0.0,0.10229726631011833,0.0,0.057332613014463636,0.0,0.0,0.14238323736442082,0.0,0.0,0.06915068799208288,0.13926557306452528,0.129513402759194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531363527524954
parenting,JonSw1ft,2018/02/13,"Daddy-Mommy games. I'm a divorced 38 Dad, need some advice My 9 year old daughter has been ""tattling"" to her mother and out right lying about things that have taken place in my home.  Her mother and I have a good co-parenting teamwork.  But my kid is saying things to fire her up that are gossipy and dramatic like ""mommy did you know Daddy said this and this"" or ""I told daddy that he should talk to you first and he didn't"", out right lies.  Her mother and I have talked about this and we know she's trying to get a rise out of her mom, as she is quick to become fired up.

Has anyone else gone through this and if so what did you do to manage this behavior?",1.864534313725489,3.5947606985294134,2.9726470588235294,93.93607843137256,78.04411764705881,5.415686274509804,17.950980392156865,5.985473137389443,-0.3878607843137257,509,9,112,3,12,163,85,136,0.085,0.8590000000000001,0.056,-0.6083,1,0,0,0,1,0,17,1,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,0,0,20,23,13,0,3,3,6,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,11,12,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,8,4,17,2,17,14,1,15,0,0,0,0,27,9,0,3,5,77,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256728095189835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494620375538975,0.21239927941655806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289421782496707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173169233068905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632589686387892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083036196276688,0.0,0.0,0.1738700745185477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079348195542971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278489531957561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127436912608864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427826044564897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370737929542766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752231209912648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21658023020070866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35405935323083104,0.1971859944441019,0.16485012297574198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332333926854009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27543654190590783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980802397402767,0.0,0.1407403968163498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349184658249022
parenting,doomedboobs,2018/02/13,"How to juggle life and baby's naps and early bedtime? I'm a first time mom to an almost 5 month old and I'm having a hypothetical dilemma! Where we live, it's winter so we've been cooped up in the house. I'm just starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and I'm looking forward to spring and getting outside in the world, this time with my baby in tow.

My dilemma is that I can tell my baby does great when she has routine naps and an early bedtime. She is transitioning from 4 to 3 naps as we speak, she sleeps through the night, and she goes to bed around 7pm.

In her best interest, do I have to give up going outside after my husband gets home from work for years until her bedtime is later? I'd also love to do fun excursions with her during the day, but how can I manage to get somewhere and back within one of her 2 hour awake periods?

Or, do I throw the routine out the window on some days for my own sanity? Does that make me selfish?",3.7347990815154968,4.0498154228855725,5.175323383084578,85.49676234213548,71.38805970149255,7.3786452353616525,26.406812093379266,7.010146845296331,1.1043980864906238,744,22,160,6,13,251,125,201,0.035,0.897,0.068,0.7432,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,0,3,9,6,0,0,13,0,12,3,1,3,0,22,26,17,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,4,14,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,2,1,4,20,5,32,25,3,38,0,0,2,1,16,14,0,3,23,104,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845865816618195,0.0,0.0,0.14252013125358431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865098181468712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703793072622042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702782609550925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298705409209625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119179283047383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784743166596213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159135376554164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793331996446497,0.1709620585724672,0.10128487127965696,0.0,0.0,0.19648495540252364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876625811558114,0.0,0.17550792072004145,0.20563857777004052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587999125248414,0.0,0.0,0.1573689431569271,0.0,0.14965745868511782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084786910907087,0.0,0.11896128207859342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087256854204194,0.14225116973762442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724465302845135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870088418763189,0.0,0.12076450296164758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142015935693953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783457821964158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614296363958274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557695796207308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783962034686415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974415385075905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476595383900842
parenting,Spoopy_Scary,2018/02/13,"Making Diaper Changes Less Traumatic My son is 15 months old and right now, our biggest struggle is diapers. Kids don't want to sit still, I get it, but he throws full tantrums when it's time for a change. Screaming, crying, kicking, rolling etc.  

It's gotten to the point that it takes two of us to change him because one person needs to hold him down. I've tried giving him distractions things to do with his hands, but nothing helps. How do I make this process easier for everyone involved?",3.9864893617021298,6.076256106382981,3.80526595744681,88.70875000000002,73.04255319148936,7.253191489361702,27.707446808510642,8.07648339933343,1.7505574468085108,390,15,76,6,8,118,76,94,0.201,0.7340000000000001,0.065,-0.905,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,0,4,4,1,2,2,0,5,1,1,3,0,10,13,5,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,1,2,9,0,10,12,3,13,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,6,45,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209771772205906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5835941304033578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199467529718607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20508610645336395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571490166065765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960750042372829,0.176404170961341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325767930944365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454961822149245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467793490285445,0.0,0.0,0.1363522028892297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764475412948637,0.0,0.19296175998985846,0.0,0.1246087126254262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056577037724054,0.0,0.0,0.17383561337859602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570411680553447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685489703614749,0.0,0.0,0.1922418928998518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826249393037998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216843269729526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722781483315913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484932883104907,0.0,0.1796339387810788,0.0,0.2211971871223079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846316434200028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Worstmothertrys,2018/02/13,"Is being strict abusive? Let me start off by saying my child is 3. 

I don't have alot of rules, but the ones I do have, I'm strict on. I don't think my punishments are over the top but my family thinks I'm unreasonable and abusive.

My rules and punishments that my child has are pretty basic:

-no hitting/ time out and have to apologise

-no biting/time out and apologize

-be nice to the animals/time out and talk about why we don't do that

-no yelling at people(when he gets mad, he will get in your face and scream)/ talking to first time, time out every other timd

-no throwing toys/ toy gets taken away for the day

-no tantrums in public/ removed from the situation and talk about it

-put away toys(I help pick them up)/ lose toys for a bit(10 mins first time, hour second time)

-not eating/ I won't make something else. Food gets put up and reheated/put back out when he wants to eat until next meal

-getting out of timeout(when he's not supposed to)/time starts over 

All of his rules I feel are normal for kids his age. The only thing is, I won't budge on them. He breaks a rule, he gets the punishment EVERY TIME. Now don't get me wrong, I judge everything based on the situation.

My family is constantly telling me ""he's just a baby, he doesn't know any better"" and tells me how abusive I am. He'll, they threatened to call CPS on me when I have him say please or thank you.

So reddit, am I a bad mom??? Is there anything I should change?

Tldr: family thinks I'm an aweful parent and abusive when I'm strict because ""he's just a baby and doesn't know any better"". Am I really a bad mom? What can I change to be better?",3.113881118881121,4.5856831060606105,3.9133333333333375,89.6123076923077,74.0,7.016317016317017,23.29836829836829,7.61054688173877,0.865668997668998,1275,35,272,16,26,407,176,330,0.193,0.7140000000000001,0.093,-0.9915,1,0,1,0,1,0,62,1,2,3,7,12,15,5,0,16,0,33,5,1,3,1,39,58,20,0,3,7,3,1,0,0,5,0,4,0,3,6,18,4,0,6,3,0,4,15,10,0,4,1,5,33,5,37,47,2,48,0,1,0,0,36,21,0,2,22,161,39,0,0.0,0.3899405993117296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190277473382627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770720978918633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460446891673152,0.06326616723942709,0.13739622235808716,0.05015548016495349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183027646081364,0.0898255051096641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401432539378598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740769537306939,0.0,0.0,0.08891253486526335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0530620537257593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838044279357142,0.06873212896281032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864435253370289,0.0,0.07394553455686942,0.0,0.2326911559867244,0.0,0.041601876492155763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997006359563885,0.0994900412323546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30090546418821834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05514874178893714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102656983562948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043490785029132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413411665198425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204725620301628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492073856571235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927243654511144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750284502786884,0.0,0.08061428769630302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055753229784401656,0.0625755963970301,0.0,0.0,0.09135920798521932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031577115121517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370559625264787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481342436119517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052708947055277934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086042723761873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496627144055225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334108746187331,0.0,0.0,0.11647259691395548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19839413833681036,0.14382797847099704,0.07574988618706764,0.0,0.0,0.05466138408031894,0.15815992041967458,0.0,0.0,0.2878593417930488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048529284969668685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424246843282796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995731459120944,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rub_My_Brisket,2018/02/13,"What do you tell a kid about death? My son is 5. We just found out that my mother (55) has about a year to live unfortunately, due to complications from liver cancer. I've told him previously that Grammy is sick and she's got some very good doctors that are doing their best to make her get better. When we got the news yesterday I wasn't sure what to say. Obviously in the moment he asked me why I was sad and I told him that the doctors can't make Grammy better. He asked if she was going to die and I told him yes. He just gave me a hug and said"" I love you Daddy"", but didn't cry or really have a reaction other than that. Do I explain anything else to him or just let it be. I don't want him to have a mental breakdown over it but I don't want it to be a shock to the system for him either when he realizes that he won't be able to see her anymore. Can anyone give some insight?",1.80389179755672,2.932226806282728,3.8943246073298425,89.82166143106458,76.74869109947645,6.768726003490403,20.063176265270506,7.3011,0.2758981500872601,684,14,160,8,15,235,110,191,0.112,0.7909999999999999,0.097,-0.2452,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,2,1,3,7,9,0,0,10,1,22,7,1,2,2,29,42,11,2,3,9,2,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,12,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,12,3,27,7,18,25,4,11,0,1,1,2,35,3,0,5,6,107,39,2,0.14870838140461426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474787552192838,0.10398035792019547,0.0,0.12237432712073178,0.0,0.2780445249148449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606027170609765,0.26304095738789746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334917416533182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433582187242306,0.0,0.0,0.3044186593625627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422677082083244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305106458344565,0.0,0.0,0.07769399157181417,0.14265462989784303,0.08451440013823656,0.12472953490082267,0.237871354756888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206439528731105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131222524411928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342151201805107,0.0,0.19852799865417228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986307187126616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526639702352782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145572459247646,0.11825887361033074,0.0,0.0,0.11850132664043275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015588958244435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299776799348659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262916935693714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269998866039493,0.17542411250749654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341861841085724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576332202877036
parenting,stillafatchick,2018/02/13,"Working parent, kids with chronic illnesses. How to deal? I'm frustrated and depressed and looking for people who have been there before. I'm a single mom. I'm chronically overwhelmed with all of this stuff. 

I've got two kids with chronic health problems. 9 year old twins. One has juvenile arthritis, ADHD, SPD. The other has kidney malformation causing cronic UTIs and general low immune system. Between the two, we have constant specialist appointments, IEP meetings, sick visits, etc. 

I don't know how to juggle all of it. I'm worried my job is going to fire me for missing work. I'm worried that my kids aren't getting what they need because I try to juggle appointments so they don't miss school and I don't miss work. Their grades are suffering because they keep getting sick and missing school. My work is suffering. 

I don't know how to do this alone. I'm so overwhelmed and tired and broke. I got a new job making slightly more money, which seemed like a good thing. But we lost 800.00 a month in daycare assistance and 400 a month in food stamps. I'm drowning. ",3.0734833483348325,5.835198940594065,3.6463546354635454,85.27387038703874,79.39603960396039,6.0489648964896485,27.00360036003601,7.348242739294969,1.6929722772277227,854,36,150,12,22,268,120,202,0.228,0.71,0.062,-0.988,4,1,0,0,1,0,29,2,0,4,5,6,16,1,2,7,0,14,11,1,5,2,28,38,14,1,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,9,0,0,3,10,13,1,1,3,0,1,2,5,14,0,3,4,2,15,2,15,34,5,12,0,12,1,0,15,3,0,1,7,84,25,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428681964281746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329621074318729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651750615029209,0.0,0.10924122174834212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188077566757025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138732279870945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235329158300208,0.1105727947006635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317671483617173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523660713908266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414563982366556,0.0,0.07296084324859142,0.10767836048630232,0.20535310668193912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364610589900936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547930425037587,0.11410930877625244,0.0,0.0,0.14110767356933548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627195798758257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780617328286553,0.0,0.1401410339773241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569409571961416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035613733334255,0.20494206422001268,0.0,0.0,0.09519153104988333,0.0,0.12398940651114995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347123477164272,0.0,0.08699305097846856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254988039875385,0.0,0.0,0.08900195500759002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284153180992245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259853156438229,0.0,0.116871578689595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696344011441145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528941893126359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755297550761234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716103231300748,0.0,0.2508155981166416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738462714886286,0.2607505663310795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267197916659418
parenting,fptgcc,2018/02/13,"Daycare: do we just expect our child to be sick 24/7? Our 1 yr old started daycare 3 weeks ago.. Its been non-stop cough, colds, sniffles since day 1. Just this past week, she got a fever and we took her to her doc and was diagnosed with strep throat and started antibiotics. Regardless, its just been non-stop her coughing, runny nose, etc..

Is this the new normal for us? She goes through phases of being happy and energetic to lethargic and grumpy. The past 3 weeks have been exhausting. Does it get better?

Is it just bad timing we started her in daycare in January (we live in Florida, FYI)?

Edit: thanks to all who responded. People always say, ""get ready, she/he is gonna get sick"" when they talk about daycare.. Little do us 1st time parents realize its a CONSISTENT sickness that lasts months.. One that will require most career-oriented folks to take a considerable amount of sick days off.",3.0078110445775117,5.726647269461079,3.502584830339323,86.47554058549571,79.2994011976048,6.5853626081171015,24.84664005322688,7.793537801064563,1.5600168995342647,702,26,129,12,18,219,115,167,0.107,0.81,0.083,-0.6322,1,0,0,0,0,0,38,8,0,1,2,6,5,0,0,5,0,13,11,2,0,1,22,24,6,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,9,1,0,1,10,10,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,6,3,15,3,15,14,4,24,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,1,18,72,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710008803549538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193058697411854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971854251430103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681032203643808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849399241358263,0.0,0.0,0.14553039449716448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254751430221694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599095814354927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247345855798965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467622152652887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263352116187298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687601519112348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370710591468536,0.12660952678918594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444668131074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847987866127578,0.0,0.0,0.14048457611413925,0.0,0.0,0.15045599532141365,0.0,0.09715980971962453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592094897157494,0.0,0.2737499701492073,0.09940349161167288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402365620254135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860762844199058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044609809370137,0.0,0.0,0.23974866907241102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780592559380443,0.1152455609886256,0.0,0.13200750085114896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721517888011705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930342498005556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449434017655409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34503879372630875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BaconChick,2018/02/13,"Birthday gift ideas for daughter turning 13? Hi! I looking for unique ideas on sort of ""coming of age"" type gifts for my daughter's 13th.

I'd like to get her something meaningful that hopefully, she would cherish forever, but she's not into the typical things like jewelry, heartfelt letters, etc.

What's something you got at this age or gave to your child that really meant something to them or made them feel they were now truly growing up/making that next step?

She already has her first makeup things, beauty stuff, purse, wallet, phone etc.

About her: she likes the typical teen things; her phone, friends, Instagram, money(lol), drawing/art, netflix and she is a dancer.

Here are some ideas I have already, but not in love with them:
- flowers

-grown up perfume

-charmed aroma candle

-nice keepsake box for random things

Thanks!!",6.462838589981445,8.464510843537418,5.114335188620903,82.197439703154,66.41496598639456,7.522325293753865,33.09152752009895,8.00094639256281,2.5464748299319733,662,29,109,8,11,193,107,147,0.026,0.696,0.278,0.9919,1,0,3,0,0,0,36,0,2,4,1,3,11,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,1,0,22,18,5,0,2,6,2,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,6,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,5,4,18,11,16,12,3,14,0,0,1,1,25,5,0,6,8,66,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189614998231973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449066515784785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223546625383786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307335018732808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292812650885175,0.0,0.0,0.1116553287602724,0.0,0.0755054208811682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558536505291513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354037151392088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4894344297251587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181463440359166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135989657227587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043439953112715,0.1367477491630008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369801980722195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258282728909842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33377428055826125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544013528236018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305404531551715,0.0,0.0,0.38404906676537337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719560574288952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266243420734147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gr7th,2018/02/13,"My 4-year-old sleeps worse than a newborn My 4-year-old has had always had a good sleep routine. We bathe her before bed every night, brush teeth, read a story, sing a song. And lights out by 7:30. However, the past few weeks she has had difficulty staying asleep and the problem has escalated drastically in the past week. She’ll sleep for 5 hours, and then wake up 3-6 times during the night, usually only sleeping for 2-3 more hours during the night. Come 5/6am, she is up and ready for the day. I am exhausted and don’t know what to do to get more sleep. Her brother(1.5-year-old) sleeps just fine. 
She comes home from preschool tired, and if I really work for it I can get her to take a nap in the afternoon, but regardless if she naps or not she has the same sleep issues at night. Thanks in advance!",5.182264150943396,5.635883610062897,5.082698113207544,86.94178301886794,68.24528301886792,8.624150943396227,25.962893081761013,8.548686976883017,1.4075051572327046,630,16,135,9,10,195,102,159,0.063,0.878,0.059,0.2363,1,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,13,0,13,12,10,0,0,20,20,11,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,3,1,2,10,0,0,1,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,3,3,15,3,17,16,4,26,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,3,15,76,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062829369660733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245448808900822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694098322338782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062492275324757735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816421570821414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125216364307718,0.0,0.0,0.08127485165458152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719827670111723,0.0,0.19085332569141564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113808741304517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325352830817735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637351306269785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050397320477164,0.0,0.0,0.07369657078982886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850034121582564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271990425730016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692589938226888,0.0,0.062076414314462584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6787875971894867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032821627201876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285649775545988,0.0,0.0,0.08921220365662648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650298087815964,0.11137192413975168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672130428106183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545415190741044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054411889174765,0.0,0.09874904918664104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720064493209848
parenting,newsinglefather,2018/02/13,"Need Co-Parenting Advice After a long legal battle with my ex to get joint custody. I finally have a court ordered visitation set up to see my 4 year old son.

I am new at co-parenting and I have some questions about what's the norm for a parent after transitioning from being a family unit to being a single parent.

Needless to say, my ex is very disgruntled towards me. She doesn't answer my messages and communication is very poor. How does one overcome this issue? Personally, I don't see our parenting working out if communication is so poor.

During drop offs and pick ups, should the parents be the ones to pickup/dropoff child? Does it matter if her parents or my parents are the ones to do the exchange? i.e. my parents exchanges with her or her parents exchanges with me.

Does the visiting parent need to report everything that happens to the custodial parent?

What are other common co-parenting challenges that a parent would go through with disgruntled ex-partner?

I appreciate any advice or insight to this. ",5.431622103386811,7.577745566844921,6.435636363636366,71.12678787878792,69.26737967914438,8.623030303030303,32.78752228163993,9.21078282632365,3.3658437789661324,819,38,128,17,15,272,110,187,0.071,0.892,0.037000000000000005,-0.8446,14,0,0,0,1,0,23,1,0,0,2,3,2,1,0,13,0,16,0,0,2,0,24,23,10,0,6,5,14,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,8,8,0,0,3,0,5,3,2,1,0,3,0,3,18,1,25,18,2,20,0,0,2,0,26,6,0,7,8,95,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398631848175295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050100692670944136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934172482011844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662132375186318,0.0,0.06945307728706147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070601822238133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03849150611874768,0.0,0.04187050355156908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514947499727357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689627896191302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519897157195423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925633974167058,0.0,0.071154589976347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730823250332662,0.0,0.14976976777304934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8998660800140493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643290976878106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825314878651618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05858834209799588,0.0,0.0,0.11741691853336785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157715850977698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363538488985214,0.0,0.0,0.05233573521398637,0.0,0.0,0.04744349493763498
parenting,M3gpie,2018/02/13,"Improve relationship with Grandma I want to find ways to improve my daughter's (1) relationship with her grandmother (my in-law). I worry they don't have a relationship. She doesn't recognize her grandmother. Grandpa says things like 'we (she and daughter) need to spend more time together,' but that's the end of it.

We live in the same town and have seen them  probably once every two weeks or more since daughter was born.

We see her & grandpa every couple weeks for dinner on Sunday with lots of other adult family members & 8 other grandkids/cousins (all under 5). My daughter is the youngest. There are soooo many people, she just gets lost & the older kids get attention.

I know my MIL spends more time with her daughters and their kids (who are also local). I don't mind this, because she's not my mom & we are not close (no conflict, I am just a private person). I don't ask for a lot of help as I am a SAHM and only need babysitting when I have a doctor's appointment (currently pregnant). I try to make appointments when husband can cover. If not, I usually ask SIL as daughter gets on well with her kids & SIL is fantastic with kids.

MIL is usually busy/already babysitting for a SIL when asked to babysit in the past, but I have only asked a few times. I have considered ask her to babysit more, but I am on the fence. I feel like MIL can't focus on just daughter, she wants to get more/all her grandkids together. The more the merrier...but the daughter gets lost in the shuffle. But I could be just projecting my frustrations with IL's big family.

Any ideas what I could do to improve grandma & daughter's relationship?",4.7024715402551065,6.072696331230286,5.195942943354826,82.35858592785627,69.91482649842271,8.415251680153615,30.50185159786037,8.841846274778883,2.453963214922508,1295,53,247,23,23,414,155,317,0.039,0.87,0.091,0.9273,1,0,0,0,0,0,60,4,0,3,2,10,6,1,0,17,0,25,2,0,1,1,48,46,16,0,7,13,14,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,6,8,16,1,2,5,0,2,0,9,3,1,1,4,4,41,3,31,39,10,29,0,2,2,0,51,12,0,4,18,157,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906864620716009,0.0657184383888074,0.0,0.5342448371160923,0.0,0.05588447152203319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841309010441117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009549601641774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122633287694235,0.09092939220260653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411358860700112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278611534754764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847853887966804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494191049447675,0.0,0.04155212214565835,0.058708624142766765,0.0,0.0,0.0751100278029003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146754229189367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05508278587927089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276997771916927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04516337547820959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802969211841089,0.0,0.07256547621871594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941595881566125,0.1397311277886722,0.0,0.0,0.054855055339692316,0.08331650832924728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297726463757686,0.09624693702433317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186922937366867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751784880030533,0.0,0.1250015164732814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844906087443494,0.05697250348794671,0.07175544760197415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860275583533782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529175454144673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535196143899714,0.0,0.0,0.06548594530498764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797923710272248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459601103292592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375753619201428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05579408022039937,0.0,0.08027684637552733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101690122304,0.0,0.0969424913840776,0.06522978744328284,0.13183791675945955,0.0,0.0738887023558276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345666423009826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Twomunchkins,2018/02/13,"How would you tell your children about a sibling that died through suicide? My children are young (3 and a half and almost 2) and we have not yet shared that I have a brother who has passed away. 

At some point in their lives I or someone else in the family will refer to my brother and I'm sure they will have questions.

My question is - how would you talk to children about someone who is no longer living and what would you do if they asked you about how they died?

Being quiet aware of mental health issues my immediate instinct is not to share the 'how's' until they are adults and can comprehend things in a mature way but I am concerned about lying to / misleading them.",7.0526623376623405,6.416843530303034,6.424891774891776,82.58590909090911,64.45454545454545,8.754978354978356,31.73593073593073,7.447530270364453,1.9335203463203467,534,17,105,4,7,164,84,132,0.149,0.825,0.026,-0.942,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,1,5,6,0,9,3,0,0,6,0,18,1,0,4,1,25,20,14,3,4,5,2,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,4,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,19,3,16,14,1,11,0,0,0,0,27,6,0,6,3,84,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457593686376846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629840019358205,0.0,0.1637978032107742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618739825720402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563837401325708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16435186918919334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853148537418921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819652587724635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078901406879208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569332252418948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480728370303593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906005270735921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954347728738995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19069923769910654,0.0,0.16431301990943925,0.0,0.0,0.14012757525556518,0.1523805041268525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582349068627315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383826681742054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37153757229177786,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gulls77,2018/02/13,"My sons attachment to me (Dad) is normal, correct? So we have a wonderful 13 month old. He has never really had separation anxiety or anything. Nor has he showed an more interest in either of us until mom went back to work in January.  He is now my shadow and as soon as I get through the door it’s like mom doesn’t exist. Just my wife and I had a get away weekend and when we got to grandmas, he zoomed right passed her and only wanted to be with me. 

My wife felt horrible and I felt so guilty. I even tried to say I had to use the washroom so I could pass him to her and I would get out of his line of sight. But he cried until I came out. I really don’t know what to say to her, I don’t enjoy seeing her so down about it. 

I tried explaining that it’s because I’m a shift worker, and I now spend a little more time with him than she does, but I don’t know if that’s true. Is it normal for kids to do that? Is it an age thing? 

Edit: I also need to add how great of a mom she is. She does anything and everything for him since day 1. She plays just as much as I do, probably feeds and bathes him more, and definitely is a better snuggler! ",0.7673313782991187,2.2488327419354874,3.128137829912024,92.71334310850443,80.45161290322581,6.6058651026392985,19.337243401759533,7.520522993642371,0.3011306451612912,872,20,210,13,22,301,133,248,0.032,0.8420000000000001,0.126,0.9743,1,0,0,0,0,0,26,3,0,0,3,15,7,0,0,10,0,21,1,0,2,3,42,38,28,0,7,7,7,2,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,10,18,1,0,6,4,1,4,6,0,0,0,8,6,37,7,34,27,5,26,0,0,2,0,32,8,0,3,15,147,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026502039779468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819577410819257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112602467744096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059933630949785,0.09870164599226393,0.0,0.07824764267888472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352482762728484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681072910549153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024857723900987,0.0,0.14099847433897642,0.0827821926155584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246590617285495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478119574953796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536254356803262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464932801006057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118989274797414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266197634926527,0.14151839865190682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108764051095846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271067557619939,0.12865139182512927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510043738113094,0.10245648429615407,0.0,0.09436006639863972,0.0951780167068977,0.09899987652845704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515329514432925,0.0,0.0,0.1346932226025504,0.0,0.0,0.09762428534607688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839481251360108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644626206985678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961954849372636,0.0,0.20415555623471685,0.0,0.0,0.10228705684507723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061815028771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527731039127301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484830120365213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17429731612007818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544024161351394,0.11086264609684253,0.0,0.0,0.07571061302333619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899188506505814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920197291713526,0.0934482991320679,0.0,0.0,0.09118393481499223,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fire-n-brimstone,2018/02/13,"Vehicle questions... Slightly OT...

Planning on buying a second vehicle. Husband and I have a 2006 Subaru Forester. It's good, can fit our carseat, decent MPG etc etc. However it needs a little work and we just want to keep it as an around town vehicle. We're in the market for something that can go on road trips and camping without sucking too much gas. 

Our son is 11 months now, we'll be getting a dog this summer and will likely have another baby in a year or so (?) 😲

What do you drive? Should I invest in a mom-van or something similar like a Mazda 5? Who here makes due with a sedan? I looked into a VW Passat recently and was lovestruck (aside from the seating capacity). Husband wants a truck but it would need to be 4 door and those can get pricy. We're not looking to spend over 20k, preferably quite under.

TYIA! 💕",1.8573691808011537,4.199937595092028,3.3518657524359448,88.10907614579577,81.02453987730061,5.7984843016961385,24.92565860700109,7.048011613610866,1.1594412847347524,640,25,125,8,17,210,123,163,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.7052,1,0,2,0,0,0,28,4,1,0,3,6,4,1,0,13,0,14,0,0,1,0,26,26,11,0,7,6,3,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,10,0,1,2,0,4,3,2,1,0,1,1,2,8,3,17,19,3,22,0,0,2,0,10,13,1,3,8,79,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387882388071295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459600053582854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124142272772688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932003065365593,0.0,0.10508024934185699,0.15508138975410565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434342154710568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180660990156402,0.18531364571161035,0.0,0.0,0.31053093864491915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341903608023146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165471189420656,0.14758164962196735,0.0,0.13591930616413272,0.2741950167399683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071250304583608,0.19665889099542733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825617844648469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846828415996063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21811205490082936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823245328103146,0.0,0.1346059669626525,0.0,0.0,0.13134430301278294,0.0,0.0,0.1190664992016555
parenting,nerak31,2018/02/13,"What suggestions do you have for back up childcare for when daycare/school is closed or your child is sick? My kids are 4 and 2. Today was my first day at a new job and I had a stressful morning when I learned that school was closed due to icy roads! I texted a few babysitters but they weren’t available. I used to work from home, so that was a bit more flexible, but I’m now working outside the home. My husband sees patients so his schedule isn’t very flexible. Luckily, he did cancel his appointments today because I really couldn’t miss my first day as a new hire. I would love to have a some good contingency plans in place. Help! Thanks for your advice. ",3.256682859125604,5.099518832061069,3.6469118667591935,90.1274253990285,74.41984732824427,6.9010409437890345,26.412907702984036,7.686295010490155,1.3354366412213738,521,19,108,7,11,162,91,131,0.066,0.733,0.202,0.9718,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,3,1,5,6,5,0,1,7,0,15,2,0,1,0,12,21,10,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,6,1,16,3,11,13,4,21,0,1,1,1,13,7,0,2,14,68,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657433914411066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310754213993132,0.0,0.10391258053023326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18610129945279744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21986889220254524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28999125234906786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297616388868714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425766543230713,0.0,0.34197630525071565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915809099521334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384939128111805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32926819512736416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809741310557045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920287648591888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450350405978837,0.13583683377189926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952646363094644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693930399394015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323157729279317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722518463091794,0.0,0.1406497162183595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481979923363165,0.0,0.0,0.12109192871676518,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HugeAttitude,2018/02/13,"My normally patient, gentle husband gets angry and impatient with our older, more difficult child He vehemently denies this. Or, he throws it back at me saying I do the same thing if I ever call him out on being unreasonable. 

Our older child is a handful. I lose my patience with him regularly. He pushes my buttons, he is high-needs, high-octane. I get worn down and our interactions turn negative if we are left together for too long. This has been my life's challenge to try and combat this. We see a child psychologist regularly. 

My husband is usually very patient and level-headed, but he can get sooo impatient at weird times when I feel like we should be maximizing the positive. I try to give my son lots of hugs, cuddles, and positive attention when he is not being difficult. Mostly because I feel guilty about how terrible I can be when at my wit's end. 

This morning, my son crawled into our bed. Unlike he normally is, he was very quiet, he cuddled up next to me, and we drifted off to sleep. About an hour later, our son coughed and it woke up my husband and alerted him to his presence. 

My husband fucking lost it. He jumped up out of bed and was like, ""WTF ARE YOU DOING?! GET OUT OF MY BED? GO TO BED!"" 

Not actually shouting but like whisper-shouting.

He hates the kids being in our bed, but I think he is far more tolerant of our younger child, gently redirecting and lovingly putting her back to her own bed. Every time it happens with our son, he just gets *so pissed*. 

To me, this is not something to waste the emotional energy on. We have so much emotional energy to be spent on this child, can we not just try and address smaller issues more positively? It only escalates the situation when we start to freak out, and make things so much worse. 

I had to jump up, tell my husband to go back to bed, and insist that I handle it. After 3 times of repeating myself, he relented. I took our son back to his room, tucked him in, and explained calmly and gently why he has to sleep in his own bed. 

It's a day off for all of us--for god's sake, why do you have to freak out on a child who wants to cuddle his mom? I get that it's annoying, but shit. 

I feel like I can't say anything because it will get thrown back in my face about all the things I do wrong with our son, or be reminded of times I overreacted, or be invalidated due to how much better he is with our kids (he does loads for them, he's an amazing hands on father who has so much more stamina and patience than I do). 

Should I drop this or bring it up to discuss? What do I do?",4.147749510763211,4.990173951076322,5.460164383561647,81.92010958904113,70.74168297455971,8.736281800391389,28.69001956947163,9.002800196639251,2.190190450097847,1983,72,407,37,35,665,227,511,0.13,0.731,0.139,0.8542,0,0,1,0,0,0,75,18,2,1,4,24,24,5,0,12,0,41,15,7,3,3,70,71,36,0,7,16,13,5,4,0,3,2,4,10,8,25,34,0,0,6,0,1,10,6,14,0,0,9,10,68,10,66,51,15,67,0,2,1,6,81,29,3,8,31,278,93,1,0.0,0.0,0.08740959949182035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371033344738112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443776739342719,0.0,0.10920482999323608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921938014111284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914632866782497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776669405971061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838528357713287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20151346055517627,0.07933443108130944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102323235260572,0.0754684876815562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587126974312222,0.12798087310177508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280810598725685,0.32758464232261075,0.08592586848063948,0.10181195291311128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920844888534627,0.0,0.0,0.08843405717111279,0.09192697476865123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927600958903854,0.0,0.0,0.08821062777919468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349016215223392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732051665799417,0.0,0.06326753235788969,0.17504191642332667,0.0,0.0,0.0792686266059765,0.0,0.1002084411507454,0.097778696881834,0.07615112768782732,0.08084245686945042,0.0,0.059790175454869386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490594196000537,0.0,0.0,0.26338365365208954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952611088934409,0.0,0.17552358294542028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812373586882761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004485584966364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424629039770618,0.0,0.0,0.07137748992078866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194463211197866,0.0,0.10068296704924486,0.17927388513036954,0.0,0.0,0.06895709766022719,0.0,0.0,0.06339970279931133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829009853728422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852347747606534,0.0573942839491982,0.0,0.0,0.2089212078061253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951807060035717,0.18244104349523285,0.09742889163455684,0.0,0.0,0.10774439348786216,0.0,0.09865118371862196,0.1478129815451362,0.052832036473146285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161650055324372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128177976249932,0.0,0.09793319906690393,0.0,0.0
parenting,7Mazure,2018/02/13,I’m in search of good songs to sing while helping my 3yo go to sleep. The music I’ve listened to doesn’t give me that special feeling when singing it to him so I want to find a good special song to help him sleep. Any ideas?,1.6125510204081657,2.9033726530612283,2.432397959183671,99.44206632653062,77.57142857142857,4.9,24.494897959183675,3.1291,-0.10822857142857156,176,6,43,0,4,55,38,49,0.0,0.6509999999999999,0.349,0.9463,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,7,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,4,8,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883479745917836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004351894138506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25314405277378804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656932774575588,0.15740749515923816,0.464615820002315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712920914405783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31266355269086593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5543367433472033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16336310791517128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Janawham_Blamiston,2018/02/13,"Has anyone here used the ""Ferber Method"" to help their child sleep through the night? How long did it take? My wife and I didn't have this problem with our first child; she was sleeping through the night on her own by 1ish years old IIRC. Our second child turns 2 on the 19th, and he still gets up at night almost as much as he did when he was a baby: sometimes just to be covered back up and have his back rubbed, sometimes to give him some milk, other times hes in a weird position and needs/wants to be fixed.

At his annual well visit today, his doctor basically told us to Ferberize him, because otherwise his Terrible Two's are going to be horrendous if he's not sleeping through the night, especially when we give him a toddler bed. He literally said ""turn the monitor down, put in ear plugs if you have to, and just let him go. Sure, he'll scream and cry, sometimes for an hour or two, but at his age he should really be sleeping through the night getting REM sleep, so we have to teach him to put himself back to sleep"". At this point, I don't think we have a choice (not the ear plugs part obviously).

I know every kid is different, but how many nights should I expect it to take? I'm in between jobs at the moment, so I don't mind if I have to stay up with him while he's crying just to make sure he's okay (I mean not trying to climb out of his crib or anything), so I'm not asking out of impatience. My wife is just anxious about letting him cry that long, so I was hoping for a guesstimate to tell her as to when he should be good.

Thanks in advance guys!",7.900714285714287,5.172228450310564,7.635279503105592,81.2868944099379,64.1863354037267,10.93913043478261,33.559006211180126,8.841846274778883,2.4090161490683224,1219,34,273,14,14,389,171,322,0.083,0.85,0.068,-0.6029,2,0,1,0,0,0,40,6,1,1,3,20,11,0,0,15,1,29,10,8,4,3,47,52,26,0,9,15,2,1,0,0,4,1,4,1,5,6,13,1,0,3,0,0,7,7,4,1,4,8,5,36,7,49,33,4,51,0,0,0,0,51,18,0,8,25,179,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967460853445896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988778175880001,0.0,0.05563492287785712,0.0,0.06547665720497814,0.0,0.07438417221125652,0.0,0.0,0.1835457623157166,0.0,0.04850315338553851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26220102205720897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313032071139644,0.0,0.0814399419995043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703842007757102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767943843459312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314068763810688,0.1526553570555516,0.09043923732918632,0.06673681639107416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878359374913903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05333191653655772,0.0,0.0,0.07902773769236203,0.07835722302161773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895772381053094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04372780593908795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627247890562296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082814304710864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311142467261587,0.08066819782993241,0.0,0.08667151850304433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033973738696618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058490717640978435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44800803938965417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349192144604937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616303847630383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752162986982206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613463574828441,0.0,0.1599731240871105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050972498626357145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568620156485638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777452837409279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360806561410488,0.0,0.0,0.08480757072586617,0.06354211076823776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998144387580098,0.0,0.11964859029868792,0.0,0.06954484811995988,0.07325437492742294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050983161788970964,0.0,0.0,0.04639601283359033,0.0,0.07541997721053931,0.07602944110337186,0.0,0.05402060157360603,0.17309155558143774,0.15545031001523335,0.0,0.0957090056199397,0.06872012682131405,0.0,0.0,0.04693053171523818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154006545116512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123837946092752
parenting,Gel_Daddy16,2018/02/13,"1 Year old won't eat anymore Our boy just turned 1. Up until a week ago he had been a good eater; taking what we spoon feed him and feeding himself. He breastfeeds 3-4 times a day.

For a week or so, things have been different. When he is put in his highchair and the food is put in front of him the first thing he tends to do is swipe at it and knock a lot of it off. Then he will pick up individual pieces and drop them on the floor while making eye contact (grrrr...) He might eat a few pieces over the next 15-20 minutes before he wants out of the chair. He just seems uninterested.

Things we have tried:

*Saying no when he drops food on the floor

*Not saying ""No"", rather saying where food DOES go (in your mouth, in mommy's hand if you don't want it)

*giving him only finger foods and leaving him be (we keep an eye from afar)

*""family meals"" where we all sit together and he watches mom and dad eat (helped a bit)

None of these things have helped too much.

Context: 

*He has teeth #5-8 coming in recently.

*He has generally been more prone to whine if things don't go his way (falling over, ""let me up!"" etc.)

*He has started taking his first steps over the past week or so (walking back and forth between mom and dad; taking steps from free standing)

Has anyone had any successful methods to get food in mouth and off floor?
Could this just be a phase we just need to wait out?
Maybe he's just not as hungry as he used to be?

Any experience could help at the moment. This is quite frustrating and we're struggling keep it from getting to us!

Thanks

D+K

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parenting,bilibilihaha,2018/02/13,"Do I need to expose my 4 month baby in sunlight? An article from baby center claimed that “Keep your baby completely out of the sun as much as possible before 6 months of age.” https://www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-keep-your-baby-safe-in-the-sun_421.bc

I wonder if this idea go too far. Because all the infants need some extent of sunlight to produce Vitamin D to help absorb calcium to grow up before and after 6 month of age. All our ancestors did it，which to me is the most natural way of growing up. So it comes to several questions. Do I need to follow the idea of this article to avoid sunlight and give my baby some Vitamin D supplement drops instead? Does anyone have more authoritative information to convince me? what does your doctor says about this issue? ",7.399772727272726,9.708850340909096,7.079212121212122,67.8188181818182,64.53030303030303,9.522424242424243,32.89696969696969,9.888512548439397,3.6599187878787873,623,26,92,14,10,196,87,132,0.028,0.863,0.108,0.8675,0,1,0,0,0,0,24,1,2,0,2,4,2,0,1,5,0,5,3,0,1,2,21,14,6,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,6,4,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,10,1,24,13,8,19,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,6,6,63,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131142265701498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861425877166327,0.0,0.2753108549961024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935161654119765,0.16961408859638155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557973975116627,0.2831342400897236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518573363567378,0.0919383352480272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843186578654362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652401240239795,0.0,0.16884716625915155,0.0,0.2875794581881916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873728297482227,0.0,0.11892048995947355,0.35985401914633675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823727894085131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812208346269431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864699921264242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827554777792244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284064965929141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543403109421438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brimbal,2018/02/13,"Tips for giving 1 year old amoxicillin My little dude has an ear infection and a strong will to not have strange tasting liquid put in his mouth. Any Tips? Tried mixing it with milk, pudding, blowing etc.. nothing but 3 people covered in bubble gum flavored sticky pink stuff. ",5.5440000000000005,7.703558000000001,4.8610000000000015,82.47550000000003,69.0,6.6000000000000005,30.5,7.1686216300943375,1.9692,220,9,36,2,4,66,48,50,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.4847,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,5,2,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,5,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22263141391608512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651181706431757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140552488370397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281234004177627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141324617556027,0.0,0.343532997090691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269658933941942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291099654899994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747747842056616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222713148985876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21082367919459855
parenting,SecondTimePreggo,2018/02/13,"Anyone here used silver diamine fluoride? Feeling sad :( So heartbroken about my two year old having multiple cavities.

He has a good diet and we always brushed his teeth, no juice, felt like we did everything right. 

Well he's got a TON of issues. They wanted to drill and fill and cap and do all kinds of stuff under general anesthesia, and I just wasn't comfortable with that.

Second opinion, yeah still same issues, issues but they offered SDF. For those who don't know, it's non-invasive and effective! They just dab it on the tooth, and it halts the decay! There's a catch though...**it turns the spot black.** 

I didn't want to let it get worse though, possibly turning into an infection, ya know? So we did it. Only took a minute, no pain, no sedation. 

But now he has some black spots and it's visible when he smiles real big. 

I just feel bad :( I want him to be confident and I don't want him to be made fun of. Right now he seems totally oblivious though! 

Hopefully the tooth fairy will come sooner rather than later?

Someone please help me feel better about this.",1.5220478245235538,4.2117140922330085,2.6224487594390524,89.85014922689682,87.68932038834951,6.546997482919812,19.76555195972672,7.793537801064563,1.0621789284430063,837,25,164,18,27,266,138,206,0.173,0.664,0.163,0.5048,0,0,0,0,0,0,40,3,1,3,2,17,12,0,0,9,1,14,6,3,3,2,44,34,16,0,6,6,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,11,15,1,1,8,0,0,4,7,4,1,2,8,7,17,8,15,22,5,18,0,1,2,0,18,6,0,4,9,102,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572554863375844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884452483134475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060912477853468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237578585873854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945244052395478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141949013539382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927387046681014,0.0,0.12199919893798752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066384516282836,0.0,0.0,0.1065733613766098,0.10162288295152763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516680778794151,0.0,0.0,0.12620098025818438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978583431177021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231525223850915,0.13965962167700807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992924061134575,0.0,0.062075949348669834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022889317098726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333299248821737,0.0,0.0,0.09663618094784422,0.1352026527560707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947563756383388,0.0,0.14324302352116405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462408055281656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21702006803139012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567223845245615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076590022622051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014716718558018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545529614053995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37451255123708577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117027135203056,0.0,0.2764133787281967,0.12412085982854325,0.0,0.0,0.10974054960394973,0.0,0.0,0.2997772316123529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142437661927946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294867710037987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818235964185375
parenting,neadien,2018/02/13,"I need some advice, I'm not sure how to handle this problem. I have 4 kids in total 2 under school age and 2 over school age one 10 and one 8, the other two are 4(starting school this year) and one 1 month.

Now, on to my issue. My oldest child isn't caring about math he has a D(67) in math and is getting the opperuntiy to retake failed test and telling the teacher no i'm not going to retake the test. I'm happy with the grade I made. This pisses me off more than anything and makes my blood boil. Today we also found out he's been lieing to us about his math homework. He's been telling us that he doesn't get math home work and telling his teacher that he's leaving at the house. Well we found this out today and he has a 36(f) in his home work grade.

On to my other son, he's stright a student i'm talking he hasn't brough us one grade below a 95. All year long. Only thing he has an issue with is in behavior and he's doing so much better towards the end of the year.

At the start of this year I told them if they make A honor role they can go to lego land. Well, looks like one is going to be failing the 5th grade while one is passing with flying colors. I told the one thats failing 5th grade that if He can pull his math avg to a B. I will still allow him to go.

Should I take him anyways to Lego land, I know they are young and i'm not going to get to do this often.(the only ones that will be going with me is the oldest two, while the wife and the younger kids stay at home.)I don't know if i'm making the right decison and I'm so torn, on one hand i don't want to reward him for failing and making it look like to the others that even if you fail you still get to go to do fun things like Lego land, Disney world ect. On the other hand I'm getting a ton of crap from my brother and dad and mom about leaving him out being not right becuase I failed a grade when i was young and if they did that to me i would never get to go anywhere(we never went anywear anyways) but if we did that i couldn't have gone. I don't know what to do guys. HELP!!!!!

edit 1: the oldest is 100% cable of making the grades, he just looks at the teacher and says naw i'm good i'm not redoing that test(happened 4 times)  I have had him re take the test at the house and he passes it with a 100.",1.6760611677479176,2.756771598393577,3.1329718875502017,95.34411028730308,76.99196787148594,5.50929873339512,19.99814643188137,5.17459128949126,-0.37908100092678376,1768,36,422,5,39,580,208,498,0.062,0.882,0.056,0.3251,0,0,0,0,0,0,51,6,2,5,11,17,22,2,0,32,0,40,6,5,8,5,67,88,32,0,12,13,5,2,3,0,4,0,1,3,4,24,29,1,0,5,0,0,13,15,9,2,11,13,7,45,13,56,67,6,67,0,6,4,0,53,27,2,7,29,263,69,29,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794455671480336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055603644074425834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057217809188393386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149421885566087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089114234682828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06158352740217307,0.0,0.0,0.045924345495448916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524735607672972,0.0,0.0,0.21796140200819547,0.0,0.316127013536774,0.058319019160541476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884628548159011,0.06148573344422141,0.07401668101072513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046604936084123666,0.0,0.20923476496992893,0.0,0.0,0.1604580936843462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514388984109353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463669786701958,0.0,0.0,0.14724586005163745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190750576067756,0.0,0.0,0.0615324465328126,0.17516472920595422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657915921382243,0.232061278962972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143346921746321,0.05549870984322911,0.0,0.05111303576168595,0.05155610373474829,0.10725266360080614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4240419751509293,0.1057624009508962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653145176968456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875760830156587,0.0,0.055293571979313484,0.0,0.21110622144701066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842831873665148,0.07411043273532994,0.11105455057007288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655318246518002,0.0,0.10455680698449103,0.05588611112856864,0.18231858587281974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238616253776537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04054388728343312,0.0,0.13181387227866978,0.1328790515415066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584270420042116,0.0,0.2509104704610466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04101098503526207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503282815722996,0.06445561887362575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123829788816192,0.0,0.0,0.049392586281150896,0.0,0.0,0.1791018628174529
parenting,ink_puppy,2018/02/13,"stepson6 getting violent at school Their were 2 incidences. The first, he was at a pep rally and started shoving kids and yelling. He told me everyone was being way to loud and he asked them to be quiet but they would. I myself have sensory issues (particularly sound and light) so I understood what he was feeling. The 2nd, he elbowed one of his friends in the stomach and started waiving his fist saying he would beat people up. He insists this did not happen but that his friend did fall down however he didnt feel himself hitting him. He has brought up the story several times since then to tell me he really didnt hit his friend. He also confided in me (wouldn't talk to his dad or mom about it-I am gentleparentingperson and they are less so idk if thats why or just because I am more like his besti/caregiver) that the boys he was friends with had been calling him a traitor because his on the of the girls in his girl friend group had some kind of beef with one of the boys. Could not get him to clarify why they didn't like each other. I am at a loss of what to do. Clearly, he is struggling with managing big negative emotions and becoming overwhelmed. I have tried to talk about it but idk how much of this is really reaching  home for him. I also don't know how to handle him telling me this 2nd one wasn't really how the teacher is saying it went down. I want him to feel like we have trust but also...I think he did it and is ashamed. I asked his father to email the school and see if they have a calm down room for kids that need a little extra support but he seemed to think that would be a ridiculous request. Has anyone else dealt with something similar?",3.6074481805619527,5.133729053892218,4.328982035928147,86.90633348687244,72.83233532934132,7.4139106402579475,27.217411331183786,8.012643519586192,1.5843739290649477,1320,48,271,19,26,422,171,334,0.069,0.784,0.147,0.9824,3,0,1,0,1,0,28,1,0,6,3,10,18,2,3,16,0,39,2,2,3,1,47,63,26,0,9,12,3,3,3,5,4,0,6,2,6,14,15,0,0,8,0,0,3,9,6,0,4,19,11,36,12,37,34,6,24,0,2,1,0,65,15,0,6,8,182,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25366654580243386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393173565021388,0.10833707245359277,0.0,0.0,0.19769420615738326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890904233565914,0.1167749976405257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796632983445237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442006889622931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832726646367578,0.11893662221497606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010334561553812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603870017892135,0.0755364565370103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993736474276186,0.0,0.0,0.4084494864347627,0.0,0.11048339823769113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350030846928133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605991542701283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035892159345356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010578614223833,0.0581086918436117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549690097232453,0.10597333764664567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238344907841727,0.0,0.0,0.077726723628572,0.07840048955496808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149444717204364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330270631205331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320790066420288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816798781864764,0.0,0.2140170921978865,0.08425638198037519,0.09625634637102994,0.0,0.11944942808253035,0.0,0.08746433362740565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139926981413725,0.0,0.0,0.14967826922546998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053623041621302,0.0,0.0,0.11998579473179685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699701162192381,0.1848325138628172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550027374961882,0.0,0.0,0.06165439940606327,0.0,0.0,0.1010334561553812,0.0,0.07178650798121135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236470700808505,0.08392680080776542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801656269953524,0.190817144504156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253313961476653,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PandaRaes,2018/02/13,"Almost three year old new daycare Long story short, my daughter has been at an in home daycare for the past year for about 5 hours a day. She is very happy there and every time she is dropped off is very excited to see everyone. I can send a text and see how she’s going to get updates which is wonderful. Then her grandmother picks her up and goes to their house until I get off work(almost midnight). I’m moving and will need to change daycare providers but I’ve heard so many bad stories from daycares. She isn’t potty trained yet but we are starting to work on it. I’m not sure what to look for in a good daycare and what to avoid. Any insight would be greatly appreciated! ",3.3493917112299485,5.022871786764712,3.895053475935829,89.1579679144385,73.77941176470588,6.416042780748662,27.804812834224602,6.980632752743323,1.2614647058823536,537,21,110,5,11,169,98,136,0.073,0.8170000000000001,0.11,0.6501,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,1,5,7,0,1,5,0,12,0,0,2,1,18,24,11,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,4,11,5,20,19,0,26,0,0,3,0,11,8,0,2,14,66,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352051956001393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382122344851013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397517279012898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706130964979494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794348733750986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102125588171302,0.15993466516627233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748938022708225,0.0,0.0951234740794048,0.1403868058066795,0.0,0.18453231293170352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817455734128868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789148572028734,0.0,0.16483136066043724,0.19312909889794128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812223776315733,0.14055344309730772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969270090984107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789389299122907,0.0,0.12410696934450866,0.0,0.16165250525132685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563265370328246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977905568265754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667535438840893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184693901514508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577496273766932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759812343617577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762049821519061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815118194648199,0.2437030229657964,0.0,0.0,0.11889890327979262,0.0,0.0,0.21556894128957144
parenting,Kerguidou,2018/02/13,"ORL says my daughter needs surgery. Over the pas year, my daughter (2.5) has had a sinusitis, one otitis and has a chronic runny nose.

We saw an ORL today and she said that our daughter needs to have her tonsils and adenoids removed. The ORL also said that breathing through the mouth as much as she does will alter the way her face and mouth grow. She also said that she needs tubes in her ears to prevent infections and hear better. We have absolutely no indication that she has poor hearing and she is way, way ahead in language development.

Anyways, having these three surgeries seems overkill. I always feel like specialists like ORLs are trying to sell procedures as much as they are trying to help their patients.

What do you think? Have any one of you been through this?",5.490979020979018,7.416311664335666,4.745734265734266,84.19244755244758,68.72027972027972,7.158041958041958,30.48251748251749,7.686295010490155,1.975033566433568,620,25,111,7,11,185,92,143,0.037000000000000005,0.883,0.08,0.667,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,2,2,2,3,3,0,0,7,0,14,9,6,0,0,15,26,12,0,3,0,3,1,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,7,8,0,1,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,6,10,19,3,15,19,2,11,0,0,1,0,26,3,0,1,5,77,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519402791454192,0.13107076995941108,0.0,0.0,0.10712023672760593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931524563019101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784840295251313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964776331511743,0.11253361702894056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35507707058203863,0.0,0.10558355303900807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539144054059532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23159331932512234,0.35040129247275764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21348171882384584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44951795826236346,0.12526767077324338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340194544094326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093361942378803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931226329643038,0.0,0.0,0.2138939465089809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751004571919941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101438885132457
parenting,psycopuppy,2018/02/14,"My 8 year old son gets in trouble at least once a week at school, has now gotten suspended because of it. Help, advice, anything at this point. He is (was?) a good kid, but over the last few months everything has gone downhill. How they punish at school is you go in timeout and get a think sheet, which is basically them writing down what they got in trouble for and what they should have done differently. He is now getting at least one of these a week. He is also getting in trouble at daycare and at home. We have tried everything we have tried grounding, talking, taking things away, more chores, push ups, the list goes on. The best we can expect is a couple days peace. The stupid thing is that the stuff he is doing isn't really that big a deal. This week he got in trouble for spitting some water at a kid and not listening to his teacher. Last week it was shouting out an answer in class. Stupid stuff. But it is how often he gets in trouble that is getting to us. He knows how to act, we ask him what you should have done differently and he always has the right answer. I thought it might be an attention thing so we went out if our way to give him more attention. Nothing. I'm at the end of my rope here.",2.9616666666666664,4.6301161440329235,3.667841563786009,90.40645370370373,74.80246913580247,6.506090534979425,24.495679012345686,7.1686216300943375,0.8626528395061732,945,30,200,10,20,299,134,243,0.12,0.826,0.054000000000000006,-0.9555,2,0,0,0,0,0,31,7,2,4,1,10,10,3,0,16,0,28,2,1,3,0,33,48,13,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,2,19,12,1,0,7,0,0,5,2,8,0,1,10,2,19,2,32,34,7,46,0,0,0,0,34,27,0,4,13,140,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016656629736146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901567813152794,0.09380730055661507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277401861346682,0.0,0.10539509608242133,0.0,0.10592134812278736,0.0,0.0,0.06872422397671926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831189509054615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474278952644538,0.0,0.07270687974515526,0.11622824153704794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355750659927153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23074085465452546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985267521656703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264383721384485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35340666575237395,0.10814885442747076,0.0640717764584335,0.09455954091679412,0.18033424177322765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556610903279723,0.0,0.11308571145503984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195802374911979,0.18379353017043432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959752510553462,0.0,0.0,0.08998663900371026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817544366207364,0.0,0.11829988586712673,0.12006261482951835,0.07639439276679624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065741379194028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222304464219095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627789598500736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819436577235536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581167723210145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476517447046453,0.09061477864356668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246949599560353,0.07223815330058986,0.0,0.08950162072049445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308381673215185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561029911871555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948641851428707,0.3617274701514801,0.0,0.0,0.1045095376762045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259977177745346
parenting,AmIEnough_4TheWorld,2018/02/14,"Carbs or no carbs for children ? My husband just tells me I need to change my 5 years old son’s diet because he is having behavioral problems (not following directions at school or when my husband is home). My son is accepted into the gift and talent program but he has been getting into trouble at school for no self control (popping person bubbles). 

Does anyone here knows the relation between nutrition and behavior? I really need some help because it seems to me that I can’t please my husband no matter what I do to raise my son. 

Here is my son’s meals that I can think of... 

For breakfast 
A
2 slices of breads with 1 slice of cheese
1 cup of milk

B 
Cheerios with milk

C 
1 Banana 
1 cup o milk

D
2-3 Mini muffins 
1 cup of milk

E
Egg and cheese sandwich 
1 cup of milk

For lunch 
We sign him up for school lunch. 

For Dinner
A 
Mac and cheese 
Broccoli 
Meatballs
Apple slice with peanut butter
Milk

B 
Dumpling 
Spinach/yogurt/pineapple/banana smoothie 

C 
Pesto pasta 
Apple slice with peanut butter 
Fish sticks
Broccoli 
Milk

D
Tortilla with cheese
Grill Chicken 
Green bean
Yogurt drink
Orange

E
Lettuce wraps with Chicken and cheese 
Mix berries/yogurt smoothie 

The example that he gets in trouble at school are
1) waving paper/board in other people’s face. (In his views, he was trying to fan his friend but his friend thought he was going to hit her.)
2) trying to tickle other children who sits next to him. ( he wants to make his friends smile when they look sad.)
3) yelling who wants to be my friend while the school is having fire drills (he thought it was funny.)

Each time he gets reminders on his folder, I sit him down and talk to him. I explain to him that he should not be acting the way just because he thinks it is funny. I also ask “what if someone do the same thing to you without asking?” (Putting himself into someone else’s shoes) 

I also read him a lot of books that educate him with emotions and empathy. 

Is changing diet going to help his behavior? 


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parenting,drivemetotheedge,2018/02/14,"I think my daughter has ADHD I have a daughter who's 3 and extremely hyperactive. I've been thinking that her energy level is just normal for a young child for a while, but it's gotten to the point she drives me up the wall and damages things. She will tear paint off the wall, bang against her bedroom door, remove her clothes, throw toys at others, and rarely ever listens or participates in activities due to her short attention span and inability to sit still. Whenever I try to reprimand her or give her and instruction, she completely ignores it. We're in the process of moving, I will make her an appointment with the doctor soon, but I'm really not sure what to say to her doctor to test her. Do I just go in and say ""hey, I think my daughter has ADHD?"" This might sound like a ridiculous question, but I just want to be taken seriously by her doctor. How do they diagnose it? Will she need to see a child psychiatrist?",5.905818181818184,6.302478511111113,6.590707070707072,76.95590909090913,66.66666666666667,10.101010101010102,31.363636363636363,10.018931242160765,2.965,732,27,141,16,11,241,114,180,0.108,0.857,0.035,-0.9318,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,1,0,7,6,1,0,11,0,12,4,0,2,2,30,25,13,0,3,9,3,0,1,0,4,4,4,2,2,9,7,0,1,5,1,0,5,1,4,0,0,3,5,25,2,21,17,0,24,0,1,1,0,27,12,0,4,7,98,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003734143779333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464716544424858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906667931343985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5114793076774132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506735589581919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597906678692893,0.09466648542940402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137847549572864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118784409037684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670615665137568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703926177860552,0.0,0.1235107392664409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16320481271585147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746401351995706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865983265243436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671003960258116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26492886223457024,0.0,0.0,0.13273600822371812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302430407058974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156991772494387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066277711496536,0.32019708824433024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309119012451152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824825215285236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gazzaskebab,2018/02/14,"Valentine’s Day as a single parent I got a card today from my 9 yo daughter:
Dear Mum
I know you don’t have a man so I made a card for you. 
Have a great week
Love ....

All the chocolate and flowers in the world can’t bring the smile that I got from that card ",-1.2893842364532022,0.5995354310344823,0.8655665024630537,103.61465517241379,91.24137931034485,3.3142857142857145,15.182266009852214,3.1291,-1.4704906403940885,197,4,51,0,7,65,41,58,0.0,0.758,0.242,0.9246,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,8,0,4,1,0,1,1,4,10,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,7,3,5,7,2,6,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152487979907898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5338797224461312,0.3679736455504233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342679791277244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30123312318660056,0.3158135562181831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706030642131469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163672318170748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26772364397725235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SpookyDream,2018/02/14,"Baby breathing problem? So my son has had random breathing fits since he was born. He could be perfectly fine, then out of nowhere he will start breathing fast and hard, starts losing a little colour, and sounds raspy once he starts crying from trying to breathe. I also don't know how to explain the feeling I can feel in his chest when it happens... Maybe rough? Gravelly? The closest I can think of is when you're really sick and coughing up a storm, but can't get whatever is making you cough out. Everytime I take him in and ask, they say it's probably normal and brush it off. I've been to 3 doctors who all say it's normal (even one who witnessed it happen while we were there) but it definitely doesn't sound normal to me.. we're going to see a different doctor soon and hopefully find out what's causing it, but does anyone here have any ideas that I could bring up? He's 10.5 months old and it's still happening. I just want to find answers so be can finally feel better.",4.78923076923077,5.595349256410259,5.206666666666667,84.45000000000003,69.25641025641025,8.256410256410257,27.820512820512814,8.384062270229773,1.7881282051282057,775,25,155,11,13,247,131,195,0.056,0.846,0.098,0.8739,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,1,1,1,3,12,6,0,0,5,0,19,10,5,3,2,39,40,18,0,8,4,1,5,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,12,11,0,0,10,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,4,12,13,4,17,31,1,27,0,1,2,0,17,11,0,2,14,92,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211046424615416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683087229652818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892810341925843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193691925692136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292790859896493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311687155091272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20389379449507808,0.0,0.1402570975489289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340471455616326,0.0,0.2613841044504701,0.11173889676408236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433541212630477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936856650916112,0.0,0.0,0.13987379391848254,0.23340541852564475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671067552398031,0.0,0.07256690782213712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387369779992013,0.0,0.11438159403565627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682102870106682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414197484374605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017289744043542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797493659145665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284799581817534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523141000164758,0.0,0.12827776948851527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191776315180737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753155685486688,0.0,0.0,0.1339849991307548,0.13598144432394013,0.08652335184795001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766712590322053,0.12217827698630478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179893414667629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308209645679198,0.0,0.0,0.10174922655845374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056231954050901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711304669451657,0.0,0.1019702206943461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600399649159284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181604602778764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669042620559952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531252296229889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,muffinthumper,2018/02/14,"How to get our 2 year old out of our bed LO has always been a great sleeper.  In his crib at 3 days (yes days) and never an issue going to bed.  He was the holy grail of sleepers.

During a recent bout of croup, we made the huge ill advised mistake of letting him sleep with us because he was running a serious fever and puking from coughing every few hours.  This was for about a week.





Right before he got sick, we converted his crib into a toddler bed and now unfortunately, we have a 2 year old that thinks sleeping with us is the best thing in the world, has a bed with no sides, and could climb over them no problem if it did.

How do we get him back to his room??

We have been dabbling with the idea of just going right to a full size bed in his room so one of us could fall asleep with him and then sneak out after.  It melts our hear to hear him say ""I'm ready for bed, I want snuggles"", but he needs to go.  Please help us fix this we have a new baby on the way due at the end of May.",4.237306477093206,3.5836509573459736,4.968921800947868,90.755689178515,70.23222748815165,7.602053712480253,25.16627172195893,5.985473137389443,0.5029902053712481,756,16,182,3,12,245,127,211,0.073,0.8490000000000001,0.078,0.6136,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,13,0,1,2,7,5,0,0,17,1,17,7,3,3,1,35,30,11,0,7,3,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,8,0,6,19,0,0,2,0,0,6,3,3,0,1,8,3,23,2,33,18,3,42,0,0,0,0,31,18,0,2,17,117,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894360119966436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143533313306236,0.0,0.07248713234003636,0.0,0.10118462902489267,0.0,0.12478991395718222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898817521365824,0.0,0.0,0.1533757068221979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531998273828293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018777107961616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242523342711559,0.0,0.2027398377452908,0.0,0.09510410807464524,0.1310999608477535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26804301277618103,0.0,0.0797036361987521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710352829676512,0.0,0.0,0.13423621257104212,0.0,0.12411234478988124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159470566340845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251660371889363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817110978292568,0.09171160824634067,0.11484512805751115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24955449436770705,0.0,0.08057727156583644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052873253928388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378190966840955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741041344658748,0.0,0.0,0.2030989419407524,0.0,0.09456291791096408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379940491160045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899928320272137,0.07619346244016566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5721418812801856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013687617772553,0.09438613470089363,0.09538335059548753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314976176293893
parenting,SadSmallpox,2018/02/14,"5 year old and her emotions My 5 year old daughter is well mannered and well behaved 90% of the time. However, anytime she gets emotional, it's a full on meltdown and I don't know what to do when it happens. Today for example, she fell on the playground before school and was upset, so I gave hugs and she came and sat by me while we waited to go in and she started in on how she doesn't want me to leave her (she loves school, she loves her teachers, normally she doesn't even notice that I leave). I reminded her I was coming back in a few hours to volunteer in the classroom during her Valentines party, but I had to leave first to take the baby home to my husband. The meltdown continued. We got into the classroom where she's supposed to go wash her hands then go pick a table to play at while everyone gets settled in. She wouldn't let go, was crying, yelling, grabbing on to me. I hugged her, reassured her, a few of the teachers tried talking to her. This went on for about 10 minutes until her teachers came over and literally pried her off of me and distracted her while I made a break for it. (She's done this once or twice before so one of the teachers knows once she gets to a certain point to just take her, she will calm down after a few minutes.) Any time she has emotions they are just so BIG and I don't know how to help her. It's not a frequent thing, but when it happens it's just miserable for all of us. Anyone have any advice?",4.372041251778096,4.786469689189193,5.0763300142247525,86.41561166429591,70.01351351351353,7.853200568990044,29.430298719772395,7.669130373188453,1.6704756756756751,1132,41,239,12,19,366,148,296,0.057,0.833,0.11,0.9284,1,0,0,0,1,0,32,3,0,1,1,16,13,0,3,16,0,17,6,1,4,2,36,44,25,0,3,7,2,2,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,11,16,0,1,3,1,0,9,6,3,2,3,12,3,47,10,42,29,5,50,0,1,0,4,40,19,0,1,21,174,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240423034166586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252806590655492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732749354523923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058070477166142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834525099874554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23971458429962156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902714098558616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511212725727242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724142733783644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536400128746089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921595315054234,0.0,0.0,0.10013588769704812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891383725584843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425281653192902,0.0,0.2382291170676631,0.0,0.08381394579907843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853393270862711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024172119997661,0.0,0.1051176925396323,0.0,0.10320173305071537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17277738470290946,0.0,0.0,0.3328875711017629,0.0,0.10715974605354424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891627315903263,0.0991593393441003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267661849421048,0.0,0.11930953316752055,0.2199289524742167,0.22320600664339985,0.07101164406437584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906492445725228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121157913930763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741742731971854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758524102485058,0.08423006159171824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962098456695544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221333902424705,0.0,0.09933318275745624,0.0,0.0,0.0711487657149395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260551978190116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181066683116035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18844615601257228,0.09714579594146228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496878411883073
parenting,MaximumBit,2018/02/14,"4 year old woke up and said his penis was sore My 4 year old son woke up this morning and said his penis hurt, so I took a look at it and the foreskin at the tip was a bit red and there was a slight mucus and some white spots/dots in the mucus. Could this be a start to an infection? I am uncircumsized myself and never experienced anything like this. I do notice his foreskin is a bit tighter of a hole then his brothers but it doesn't balloon up when he pees or anything like that, so i don't think it's too  tight. We make sure to always wash in the bath, so will just continued washing help clean up this issue, or should we go to the pediatrician? any other suggestions appreciated.

thank you",3.086573426573427,4.414709405594408,4.415664335664335,86.55888111888115,73.82517482517483,7.158041958041958,24.188811188811197,7.686295010490155,0.9986699300699304,547,16,118,7,11,181,92,143,0.057,0.818,0.126,0.9176,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,1,0,0,7,5,0,0,12,0,12,5,1,1,2,20,23,14,0,2,4,2,1,2,0,2,4,2,2,0,9,8,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,8,7,13,4,12,11,3,19,0,1,3,0,14,8,0,3,11,77,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233026125258978,0.0,0.0,0.12449498580964002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013047046229165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997336084139477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616779942998076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040438258954084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270905422612073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959819656879354,0.0,0.0,0.1910792176278524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887910167374751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373406095754294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222017342225294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119612662842548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20842826350262192,0.3842057582589757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34828608514846043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957904157877534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725428441789824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854775993485996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730490803370106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033993163813894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357842542343153
parenting,Princess_Parvo,2018/02/14,"The things we say... So my son is going through a licking phase. The other day he was licking some of the dog toys. Without even thinking I blurted out ""No! We don't lick dog balls!""

My family lost it.",-1.0399651567944268,0.9461811707317124,1.0845296167247405,97.71926829268294,103.14634146341464,3.3184668989547035,20.49128919860627,5.288315135182226,-0.15763693379790933,152,6,33,1,7,50,35,41,0.07200000000000001,0.928,0.0,-0.4374,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,4,5,0,4,4,1,3,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708620916995496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774027999494286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959339980587885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386928919418201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458474260855122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33399695783986466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790260796106377,0.26911589896435195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40486028514388495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eucalyptus_Splash,2018/02/14,"I have run out of ideas and have turned to the internet.... (cross post from r/toddlers) I'm at a total loss here.

My daughter will be 3 this May, she's amazing. She's no different than any other toddler- running, jumping, playing pretend.. it's everything I'd ever hoped.

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**Back story**

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Her father and I are young. I was 17 when I got pregnant, didn't know what to do, that story, we've all heard or experienced it. Her father and I were together for 5 years before getting pregnant and the first half of the pregnancy was amazing. Second half... not so much. To make that shitty long story short:

He started cheating, became verbally, emotionally and even physically abusive near the end of my pregnancy.

My dumb, young, naive ass thought it was pregnancy stress on him, stayed with him. (Poor choice on my part, I know)

He and I split the day she was born and he'd have her every other weekend until she was 18 months, has not seen her since then due to a drug addiction.

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**STORY STARTS HERE**

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Since spending time exclusively with her father when she was younger she is afraid of men. She also rips all of her hair out, picks at her skin and is REALLY below average for weight because she won't eat (I'm talking barely second percentile here). Her pediatrician says it's likely anxiety due to the hostile living situation with her father, but that there's nothing we can do because she's 2 and a therapist won't do anything.

Does anyone have toddlers with anxiety? How do you cope and manage? I'm really afraid for her, she's hurting herself..

Thank you in advance, guys!♥

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**tldr**; Toddler has anxiety due to spending time in her father's (abusive?) home and around his family, doesn't eat, is afraid of men, picks at her skin and pulls out her hair.. Does anyone else have toddlers with anxiety? How do you handle it?

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parenting,znttnt11,2018/02/14,"2 y/o wont sleep in own bed Me (21m) and my fiancés (21f) 2 year old used to sleep in her own bed, and sleep through the night. Right around the time she started talking on the phone with her bio dad, she started not wanting to sleep on her own, my fiance thinks its because her father would say he would be there in the morning, and then never was. Shes driving us crazy, and we need sleep. We've tried melatonin, milk, etc. Curently, the only way we can get her to sleep is either in our bed (not ideal) or i have to rock her to sleep (a 2 hour procces). Any help would be amazing",2.3669918699187003,3.2112974065040665,3.2668292682926854,95.9828455284553,74.9349593495935,5.466666666666668,24.235772357723576,3.1291,-0.01058373983739802,443,13,105,0,9,141,81,123,0.02,0.926,0.054000000000000006,0.6249,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,6,0,11,8,7,1,1,21,18,6,0,6,4,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,3,0,1,8,1,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,1,17,2,14,11,5,19,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,1,9,63,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088290052697816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588132178602457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250438110608319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264892028155306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214095044521808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972260217698153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713139381299735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819209064940002,0.09173343159654578,0.0,0.0,0.11161661101462003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480693870944108,0.0,0.0,0.09045880677822683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015736353014844,0.0,0.09458541974811914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8331773845045042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837190128159685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095599019740727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621159315061732,0.0,0.0,0.06935454628177494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075207508550165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306950650390834,0.10272549137385543,0.0,0.0,0.07015356568563393,0.09440859447137928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25347350543363395,0.0,0.0,0.07659310235282238
parenting,atleast9characters,2018/02/14,"I struggle to have playtime with my toddler. I'm a dad of a 3 year old and while I love my daughter more than anything in the world, but I avoid playing with her.

As a kid, I couldn't play with dolls and toys because I couldn't act out scenarios, i couldn't make it immersive enough with my imagination while playing(like you see in toy story).

I'd stop in my room and stare off into space because whatever I was imagining would take me away and I'd get lost in it so toys felt less of things to play with and more inspiration for my own little brain to play with.

K-Nex and Lego was my thing because I could create what was in my brain and make it physical.

My daughter can play with dolls and make those scenarios seem to come to life so when I try to play with her my brain farts out.
She hates the lego I got her so trying to get her into that is out of the question.

So the Question I want to ask is,
Is struggling to play with my toddler a normal thing?",3.922261768082663,4.2838393432835815,4.646965174129357,89.28482204362803,70.9900497512438,7.975660160734787,26.90432453119021,7.882392219407189,1.27877619594336,752,23,171,9,13,242,101,201,0.159,0.773,0.069,-0.9496,0,1,0,0,0,0,15,0,1,0,1,5,14,1,3,8,0,13,5,3,3,0,43,30,17,0,7,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,9,23,0,2,7,10,0,2,3,5,0,0,6,3,28,9,36,19,5,24,0,1,2,1,14,16,0,3,6,115,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427961764031967,0.0,0.12982633997613116,0.0,0.1304745805380285,0.0,0.0,0.2539647895843266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4650804020587734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196257161115881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087779230722757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349164054674618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333386580338769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510951534822294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106842468021508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710710245411334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808922397654778,0.0,0.139185976454626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159491987648466,0.0,0.1253371763233161,0.0,0.2780939145190992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606482977166778,0.0,0.0,0.14572254092080775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31113628466848403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066280499323004,0.12642362557532005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610300129609137,0.0,0.29035781085604256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441427322512843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767806600732428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856960498778752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191015621467243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986505068009738,0.0,0.0,0.08942885393451665
parenting,Pepser,2018/02/14,"Am I being unreasonable about the school tablets? Our (public, European, primary) school uses tablets as an educational tool. I'm having mixed feelings about that, but this is not what this post is about (I probably agree with most of your objections). 

The problem is our oldest has broken the screen of his tablet 4 times now in the past two years. He just turned 7 yo. The incidents happen during transport. From school to after-school daycare, daycare to home. Last time it happened because he put the tablet in his lunch bag instead of the small laptop bag we purchased for this purpose, the time before because he was too rough in handling that laptop bag (swung it around and it hit something). 

The costs of replacement/repairs aren't a big issue for us, we're currently in a good financial situation so it's not like we can't miss it. 

What is in an issue, is that the principal gets very upset with us over kid breaking his tablet. She acts like we're the worst parents in the world for not teaching kid to take better care of his stuff. 
 
The thing is we really try hard to teach kid just that. He's chaotic, dreamy and forgetful by nature (as am I, so that's to be expected). We remind him every morning to put the tablet in the correct bag and to not be wild with it. We made him pay the last two times (from his allowance, not that it covers the costs by far, but it's to give him the idea that breaking stuff costs money). He has a (small) tablet at home too for three years now, that one is still in pristine condition. He has a pet that he has sole responsibility for (we check ofcourse) in hopes to teach him  a sense of responsibility. He gets a talking to when he has been wild with his tablet. I'm at a loss what else to do. 

Part of the problem is we're never there when he breaks it/is not being careful so we're unable to give a direct response. The teachers (from school and daycare) don't seem to be paying any attention to how the tablet gets transported home - we often find it in his lunch bag. Other kids break their tablets too, but my kid does the most. He's also the most days in after school daycare from his class. 

Tl:dr; This is becoming long, my questions are:  is school being reasonable by expecting a 7 yo to be able to handle transporting a tablet from school to home daily without breaking it? Am I being unreasonable to expect the teachers to help me raise my chaotic kid, by reminding him to be careful with it? 


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parenting,RiverBoogie,2018/02/14,"Father that is not involved I have 2 sons that are 7 and 2. My oldest, I had him when I was 17, his father was never involved. He met him twice but that’s it. It was never really an issue since he’s never been around, I don’t expect much. Now, my 2 year olds father has been there from the beginning, we were engaged and living together. That was until my son was 2 months old and his arm came up fractured. My ex was charged and found guilty of felony child abuse. He has maintained his innocence, without a fight though. He can have visits with our son as long as I’m ok with it. He’s living with his parents right now, so I would allow him to go there and he could spend time with them. He has seen him about 6-7 times in the past year, last time being on Christmas. He only texts me every week or two to ask how he is and then doesn’t respond. I mean, I don’t want him to be in my sons life as he is abusive, I’m just wondering how anyone can go from being there everyday to just texting every now and then.",2.4200058139534875,3.3836006604651168,3.8106250000000017,91.67593750000002,74.95348837209302,6.491279069767443,21.344476744186046,6.6274283507984215,0.23002906976744164,782,17,178,6,16,258,123,215,0.1,0.8240000000000001,0.075,-0.8593,1,0,0,0,2,0,24,2,0,1,0,15,3,1,0,4,1,29,2,1,3,3,33,42,20,0,4,6,9,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,14,0,0,3,0,1,4,8,1,0,2,14,1,25,2,22,23,1,35,0,0,1,0,39,6,0,2,25,118,32,0,0.0,0.3416303764029157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008054304366064,0.0,0.0,0.1283398470120787,0.13477736841459215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488947894028194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510620314441038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429350646012749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807247712203534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386768913731214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504736564874032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751594357211576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182993281501417,0.0,0.0,0.25460549765526663,0.1275839063228208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704092460908248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507330841948728,0.0,0.10597987133530364,0.0,0.33357312824595703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30255956668893325,0.0,0.0,0.10964605680192002,0.0,0.0,0.1600812055320852,0.0,0.1376244133251638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235754088740404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231184555987836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925703788256822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416440649289047,0.0,0.2521960920751363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083092599042954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503386372188694,0.0,0.1156426587252189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897254922482674,0.15634375581142118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241262059644866,0.0,0.0,0.1856785856528508
parenting,rosyatrandom,2018/02/14,"How has becoming a parent changed you? I've always loved animals, and I *think* I always loved babies.

I say 'think', because I've had to ask people how I used to feel about them. The moment I saw my kid move at our first ultrasound is the cut-off point, beyond which my thoughts on babies is hidden to me; it really does feel as if I became a different person.

Since then? I love all babies and toddlers, more than I can really say. With that has come this sense of shared humanity with, well, everyone. That love and connection we all have with our children binds us all, and we've all sprung from that same source. It deeply saddens me that we keep allowing ourselves to put so many barriers and perceived differences between ourselves, to not see each other as fellows but as others. There's this bittersweet sense that we're all still kids, stumbling around and occasionally doing horrific things to each other.

I also tend to ramble incoherently more, I think.",5.042238095238098,6.919995700000001,5.485396825396823,78.63499999999998,69.77777777777777,8.6984126984127,27.301587301587304,9.23628265651192,2.397492063492064,766,26,136,16,14,245,116,180,0.053,0.8690000000000001,0.078,0.3332,3,0,0,0,0,0,25,5,1,1,1,10,6,0,0,4,0,8,4,0,4,5,37,25,16,0,1,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,14,15,0,2,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,3,6,21,6,22,22,10,12,0,0,2,4,22,5,0,1,4,97,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124481582179763,0.23400254581191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517537380591312,0.1314541653636695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571637428045663,0.15529600131993032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874990001599284,0.12112564114779185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938212955975353,0.0,0.0,0.123051376126741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436173887806696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421963065428968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960533843724018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124983287307906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076348576305781,0.0,0.0,0.14255950294114336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944935654344238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561340862428648,0.0,0.0,0.09748334323442978,0.12277784017343148,0.0,0.0,0.13292472676899372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135489367123394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016056546004225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223642188704198,0.0,0.0,0.1120503487186197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631651933114324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229371636699473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934170232466512,0.27029738106929824,0.0,0.11163100834698733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914011512857832,0.12144447731871533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642796598228542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catalansunsets,2018/02/14,"Is it just me or is it ignorant when someone who has bought your kid something brings it up at a later date asking if the child is using it? My mother does this all the time. If the answer is no, I’m too nice to say so, so I just give a vague “yeahhhh”. She’s a bit of a competitive, jealous type, and I think it’s partly fueled by that. I understand being satisfied that someone is making use of your gift, but it seems like it’s overdoing to ask for updates, and sometimes even more than once (*yes mom, he’s still using his rocking horse, you asked me that two weeks ago!*) ",2.7545564892623697,3.8997701512605083,4.341456582633054,87.48671335200748,74.37815126050421,7.3056956115779625,24.146591970121374,7.793537801064563,1.0902933706816065,444,13,96,6,9,149,86,119,0.056,0.851,0.092,0.6322,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,0,3,0,0,8,4,1,0,7,1,7,0,0,4,1,18,21,9,0,2,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,12,2,0,1,4,1,1,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,11,2,9,19,4,11,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,4,9,65,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542733656082075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4881035136956418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000340997465429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230101657203635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494984622030548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695222013911562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502572357143089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617109854347105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383011805058876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534380421882732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846519172355275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384012668536202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843681610578414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949220966370432,0.13398224251080698,0.17212711664093708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898623238256155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151592992944208,0.0,0.0,0.1014824176180342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17000893305639278,0.1811787321373452,0.0,0.450936460888887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396020432828445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElectronicPause,2018/02/14,"Me [31 M] and my son [15 M] had a huge fight because he started dating a much older guy [37 M] The mods in relationship recommended me to post this here:

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First of all, I apologize in advance, I am not a native English speaker so I might make mistakes.

Background:

- We live in a very religious country in Asia. And my family is very religious too.

- My son came out to me a year ago, I was shocked but I accepted him. No one knows about this besides me & some of his friends.

- The mother is out of the picture, and has been that way since he was 5.

- My son was an ""accident"",  I was in high school and the mother was 6 years older than me. We were forced to marry to save our faces.

- Age of consent in my country is 18, people here don't really condemn an adult having sex with a minor. In here, it's very common for men to brag & be proud to their friends if they managed to fuck a girl in high school. It's only not okay if you get her pregnant because now there's proof that you fuck her and people around you will start to gossip and you will probably be forced to marry.


I found out he's been dating a much older guy. They met using an application and have been dating for 4 months. I knew because I saw a romantic message in his phone notification when he was away from his phone, and confronted him about it. He was reluctant at first but I told him I was happy that he got a boyfriend. And I joked I want to meet my son in law. Then he looked like he was relieved and started to tell me about his boyfriend. When I know about his age, basically I told him I don't mind him being gay, but date someone your age. 

And then he was angry and started calling me hypocritical because I had sex with his mother, an adult woman when I was his age. And even got her pregnant. I asked him if he already had sex with him and he said yes. That's when I got really angry because this is rape. I told him that he was raped and his boyfriend deserved to go to jail. I lost to my emotions, I started to insult his boyfriend and he got even angrier. He said he wasn't raped because he was the one who asked & initiated the sex. Then it was just a screaming fight.

My options here are very limited, because I can't get the police to help me because it will out my son and it will destroy him & his future. My family is homophobic, all of them. And I can't exactly forbid him to meet him because I have a job from 7 - 6 and his school is from 8 - 3, he can just go see him after school. And he said that his boyfriend is okay if my son wants to live with him, and I don't know where he lives. If I make my son angrier, and he decides to run away from home, I have no idea how to track him.


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  **tl;dr**: If I can't contact the police because homophobia & closeted son, how do I stop my underage son from seeing his boyfriend who is twice his age?",2.193990520656481,3.6203245178268304,3.800378820033959,89.67144542303343,76.31748726655348,6.809861346915676,24.664721279003963,7.492282038375204,0.9947648273910581,2187,73,488,28,48,729,231,589,0.162,0.747,0.09,-0.9944,1,0,0,0,2,0,90,3,5,4,6,24,27,10,0,24,3,53,11,1,5,4,76,93,41,0,9,13,12,0,1,2,5,0,5,2,7,17,34,0,3,8,1,0,5,11,16,0,5,38,9,95,11,60,47,5,64,0,1,4,10,110,22,2,9,36,316,112,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06048133139326688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529294537215438,0.0,0.0,0.3696331515702436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060738716854325865,0.12757073674452218,0.0,0.12820771477289555,0.0,0.0,0.4159206742432061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966994384053063,0.07803636677756468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674899946127098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090129877123592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864139295132093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607194873441112,0.0,0.07481012058144029,0.10542787858117188,0.12615413906932868,0.07129419109025477,0.0,0.0775527897516284,0.0,0.218277443053752,0.0,0.0,0.13511585595675776,0.0,0.0726315671200351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045732792893381495,0.14417641697938166,0.06843974749221772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702279596121511,0.0,0.0,0.06770724670816218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249143979235077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0333334852973638,0.0,0.1807436847363064,0.0,0.057295592527948885,0.0,0.07448055463523615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108743666319206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238071294419197,0.0688923408276212,0.0,0.05446013268914012,0.0,0.10031306016263317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246814444563196,0.05189160617947726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460348314053753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534499670847163,0.0,0.07356293654575753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741912439390555,0.0,0.0,0.07325294443283717,0.0,0.0,0.19470562502734948,0.0,0.0,0.2762075698452133,0.10874014907758507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644014408208855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057810630472669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414659419069807,0.0,0.0,0.057042913696541436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059635586763353135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558862176254024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058928377819907875,0.0,0.22518591879117245,0.08048704890768542,0.054157398032868655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787511675012966
parenting,aussie_mum,2018/02/14,"Useful skills/info (eg fire safety) to drill in while very young kids are learning machines? From a very young age, my mother taught us driving safety - steer into a skid; heavy vehicles have a lengthy  braking distance; test the brakes after deep puddles; etc. She also taught us other stuff like that, and as an adult these things have become  instinctive knowledge that can be accessed instantly. 

What other useful skills or info can I drill into my (4yo) kid while his brain is absorbing data and forming?

So far I've had great success with the following (through roleplay, games, and songs):

* Emergency actions (his address; how to phone emergency; fire evacuation; etc)

* First aid (snake bite, pressure on heavy bleeding; check consciousness; DRSABC; etc)

* Animal safety (don't get between animals and their food; leave an escape route; etc)

* Pool/water safety including what  rips look like and to swim parallel to shore to escape

* Pedestrian safety 

All those things are really fun additions to games/roleplay. Makes it heaps more interesting for the parent, too! (LPT)

Anyone have any other ideas of vital movements and thoughts that would be useful to have as instinct/muscle-memory?

**This stuff is in addition to the most important thing: modeling the behavior and attitudes of a good, functional, social person.**",5.752175880385599,9.055920479638011,5.189970489868188,74.96724178634665,72.710407239819,8.187369663584496,29.065709226834546,8.964715089967882,3.1518454062561467,1050,43,149,24,23,319,155,221,0.054000000000000006,0.743,0.204,0.9885,1,0,0,0,0,0,58,2,0,1,3,4,9,0,1,11,0,15,3,1,5,1,29,25,15,0,1,1,2,2,2,0,1,1,1,1,4,17,12,1,2,6,3,1,5,1,1,0,1,4,4,9,8,23,18,8,19,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,2,9,98,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016810549354184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646571887862232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890557700866639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140426143848911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194039831617924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5672192355066156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815292291965828,0.1537491444136449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643013439230537,0.0,0.0,0.10664659645517968,0.0,0.14018228420460274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353580870276628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463249247552198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423721339454223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067731845614187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487298286793467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411839807084908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110216521939525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145494174403509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961245134070046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911105002112355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534165509647493,0.0,0.0,0.10094214856078987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058893202116064,0.32944788333242925,0.0,0.20982257628275586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032304199943676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Uhhububb,2018/02/14,"2 year old sleep training we've just moved our 2 year old from our bed into his own room, which wasnt nearly as hard as i thought it would be, he only put up a fight for about 5 minutes before climbing back to bed, but my question is- Will it ruin his sleep training if he spends the night at his grandparents house this weekend? they dont have a spare room and they will DEFINETLY give into him if he asks to climb in bed with them ( even if i tell them not to i know theyll lie and do it anyway because they are putty in his hands )  ",7.1986842105263165,4.409384307017547,7.068666666666669,84.99300000000002,65.57894736842104,9.821754385964914,31.571929824561405,6.742157984588678,1.6319845614035091,417,10,97,2,5,133,80,114,0.065,0.924,0.011,-0.7815,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,6,2,5,2,1,0,3,0,11,3,3,0,0,15,15,8,0,4,6,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,5,0,5,5,0,0,3,1,1,4,3,2,0,0,2,2,17,0,16,8,1,20,0,1,0,0,21,9,0,4,7,63,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18868319386740834,0.0,0.0,0.15519430915222202,0.0,0.1230332962156602,0.0,0.17174190830025968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236542490762138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330637975865278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361309989715966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807994509955251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23288396754783025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092013045421464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451265417139165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894031692437644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4235718952635836,0.0,0.0,0.1535003126690641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20289423870966644,0.2260950587149032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039502101572457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640774468835346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602299564359801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337377687199987,0.0,0.0,0.259942963613837
parenting,TraditionalBonus,2018/02/14,"A new baby monitor device, any opinions please! Hi, I'd like to listen to others' opinions on a new baby gadget.
It is basically a diaper monitoring device. 

This is how it works:
A small sensor (12g light-weight) is attached to your LO's diaper, and will detect whether the diaper is wet or not. It distinguish pee, poo and fart, and once it detects anything among these, it sends a notification alert to your phone saying ""please check your diaper"".
The main purpose of this product is to prevent diaper rash by letting parents find immediately out their LO is wet and change.

In addition to this feature, the device is able to monitor the air quality around the baby, such as temperature, humidity and any harmful gas. If the air quality falls below certain level, the sensor also sends a notification to your phones.

This is a brief explanation of this product. 
Do you guys think it is worth buying? Would you like to get it if available? And if so, which one between 2 features (diaper sensing and air quality monitor) do you find more interesting and necessary?

I think diaper sensing is cool, but at the same time it makes me feel like it's a bit too much.

Thank you for reading this LONG post and any opinions would be very helpful for me!",6.3005316091954064,7.250247875000002,7.3790689655172415,69.70616091954024,65.9396551724138,10.497011494252872,33.139080459770106,10.504223727775694,3.720337011494253,985,41,168,25,15,333,132,232,0.008,0.872,0.12,0.9638,1,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,8,1,1,6,8,0,0,16,1,17,2,2,2,1,35,24,19,0,5,7,1,3,3,0,3,0,2,0,1,18,12,0,1,6,1,3,4,1,1,0,1,0,6,12,7,23,19,5,21,0,0,0,0,19,12,0,7,7,112,30,2,0.15462639124403105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365466921287516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154537452324919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724434497145415,0.1376502709058488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881197135426326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16357421920838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818374941619806,0.11046512480054964,0.0,0.0,0.2826514406075509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078590745606097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310443765819146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103642810666434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581159613055486,0.0,0.2266279328433723,0.0,0.0,0.1368394904421997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032143168489964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366818910496737,0.0,0.0,0.2986782644030325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646720602154066,0.10477884446941424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716943086768098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33946668830425114,0.0,0.0,0.1480893401293891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466823534149382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296511256615718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235920634666369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815669593829094,0.0,0.0,0.09016389220689376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758296656204274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882932879428948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256985441708613,0.0,0.0,0.2196843037837238,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dovadad,2018/02/14,"Guilt So my wife and I had our daughter last week. She is our 2nd child, but I had a daughter with someone else before I met my wife. Cora the daughter I had with my wife is amazing and I care for her but I keep wanting to call her Zoe. I haven't seen my other child since she was just a couple months old. Her mother used the fact that I'd been in Iraq and Afghanistan against me, used my ptsd to make me unfit to be a parent. I had to sign away my rights and since then she's tried to get back in my life and she's used the kid. I don't want anything to do with her and Zoe has been calling someone else dad. It hurts me that she does that. It hurts that I call Cora Zoe. I haven't said anything to my wife but I've called our daughter Zoe instead of Cora and when I catch myself it hurts. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm in a downward spiral. I have a hard time holding or spending time with Cora, because I feel guilty that I never got that with Zoe ",0.8039955522609326,2.318865633802816,2.244077094143812,98.94082283172723,80.45539906103286,4.48421052631579,20.1307141092167,3.1291,-0.6530882629107979,752,19,183,0,19,243,103,213,0.1,0.8370000000000001,0.062,-0.708,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,0,5,7,0,1,8,0,18,1,0,4,2,31,35,14,0,2,5,11,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,11,12,0,2,3,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,11,5,41,3,20,23,0,17,0,3,1,0,32,6,0,1,11,116,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025411965041373,0.0,0.0,0.1995679574842402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392471413205238,0.09323896091081664,0.0,0.07391699321480323,0.0,0.10318056868342132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952668222618745,0.0,0.12362934445199696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416829457609336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611260462875542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258892122951103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262211875074415,0.08662585097448924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335165051198854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698010507957057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862223644769202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894235967377554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777857646749116,0.0,0.0,0.06663954215936613,0.09884044036011873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856472330080113,0.05923992624397007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093982644692932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678598607258844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935206857496172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723856822180502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464127817226962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174265930817084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035526073989588,0.11534294281970844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060968379363514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20548091234787044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414115795133819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232537806843652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31418071569049744,0.0,0.0,0.14304075311510195,0.0,0.09726485586018577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhl__,2018/02/14,"Need advice My wife and I just got off the phone with my brother in law. He has a 9 year old daughter who lives with his ex wife. The ex wife apparently moved out of state against court orders, failed to appear in court, and is now forced to give up custody of the child. 

My brother in law has been trying for visitation for years. He keeps saying he does not want custody, as that “would be a burden on him” and now this poor girl is going into foster care.

Any advice for interacting with the brother in law? I find his behavior atrocious. ",3.8774065420560753,5.231707523364489,4.514100467289719,86.52105724299066,71.89719626168224,6.845327102803737,24.589953271028037,7.1686216300943375,0.9110196261682244,423,12,86,4,8,135,73,107,0.124,0.848,0.028,-0.8704,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,19,15,4,0,3,2,9,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,8,0,1,1,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,2,1,8,1,21,11,0,20,0,1,0,0,23,9,0,1,5,52,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773795169419793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610636842378065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490411368128088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137551064761511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325081745883624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23431813126071324,0.1388195834877084,0.0,0.1953584379525664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21711106959684834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21568760336010045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596115876658897,0.0,0.18111699513776086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563116209735803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424675027521535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583769681532548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440719107759125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351654142349854,0.0,0.0,0.3145931215435253
parenting,mommabearmay2017,2018/02/14,Trying to get my 9mo on a schedule and failing! I am a SAHM to a 9mo baby boy and I have never been able to get him on a schedule. Does anyone have any tips of getting him into a routine? What do I do if he doesn’t eat/sleep when he is supposed to? ,1.312368421052632,1.6192437017543853,4.044692982456141,91.44493421052631,76.89473684210526,5.7,24.77631578947368,3.1291,0.23391578947368385,189,6,46,0,4,68,38,57,0.079,0.921,0.0,-0.6062,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,1,5,11,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,8,10,0,7,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,1,4,33,7,1,0.3475634660973181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363550754052744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430244567483504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041551313706293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35564419513199025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5447626976484122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680623716622814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34781447227587564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359727788149735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Midwestmamax2,2018/02/14,"My husband hates being a dad My husband and I have 2 toddlers. My husband seems annoyed with our kids most of the time. He groans when they ask for things & gets irritated if he has to watch them while I work. He does not seem to enjoy Dad life. It makes me sad.


Has anyone else dealt with this type of situation?

Any other dads feel this way?

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parenting,luka_luka_lula,2018/02/14,"How can a calm, only child raise 2 rambunctious boys So my wife and I have been together for 18 years. We have a great relationship, which everyone seems to say will help raise well adjusted kids, but I think everyone is wrong. 

I am an only child, and when I was young, I was super chill. I guess I still am. My boys (8 and 5) are the opposite of chill. I love them dearly but they fight constantly. They have no impulse control at home. They get good grades, but if they act the way they act at home when they are at school, I am sure they would get kicked out. We try positive reinforcement. We try grounding them. We've taken away all screens. Nothing seems to change their behavior. I am not sure how to get them on track. We went to a family therapist and he didn't seem too concerned, but I don't want to raise assholes. I really don't know what to do. 

Examples of problems they have :
-constant fighting 
-yelling at each other whenever any small thing doesn't go their way 
-yelling whenever they get excited 
-getting beyond upset when someone offends them in the slightest 
-generally losing their minds when they are in a group 

Anyone have any ideas? Anyone? Do I just need to accept this?",2.8605217391304336,5.322292530434783,3.49608695652174,87.80847826086958,78.04347826086956,7.304347826086958,24.347826086956523,8.321376580360154,1.6119565217391305,942,33,186,19,23,296,137,230,0.129,0.687,0.184,0.9388,0,0,0,0,5,0,34,4,0,17,3,12,18,3,1,8,0,25,1,0,3,3,38,42,16,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,5,5,10,0,1,8,0,0,4,6,7,1,0,6,4,36,11,20,34,2,27,0,1,1,1,35,12,0,5,9,118,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665637886536266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126382491294426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506196404336527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955405708050674,0.0,0.0,0.26468706787981444,0.13735737633176173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340453121134697,0.0,0.0,0.1154511751221273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199202819525631,0.0,0.06960093097105127,0.10271967539832118,0.0,0.1350205183167159,0.13491142584537255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208718142776532,0.0,0.2456891702355301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382505599621279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730476931387824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700946884305368,0.0,0.0,0.11053142777651608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236569586660606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080787565814658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751057959148888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628364556538413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718456908111015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784556230920398,0.0,0.0,0.13148393875254755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973908314488884,0.0,0.12394334274786585,0.0,0.3344686129710814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376605957844867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780246264654784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23084776984888236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219385622026035,0.08136176468479282,0.0784720355711127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629437718293702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223432648945831,0.19441752303840454,0.0,0.0,0.11011271886354444,0.11352831963909985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699718381608469,0.133898655963253,0.0,0.07886486036913228
parenting,AggressiveTumbleweed,2018/02/14,"Perfectionist teenager has me concerned. Reposted due to bad title that couldn't be edited. 

My 13 year old has been a perfectionist since he was a toddler. This is an issue that we have been working on for the better part of a decade. The severity has seemingly increased this year. He is in 7th grade.

He was out of school last week with the flu and had to make up a test during lunch yesterday. Another student who was making up the test as well informed the teacher that my son looked like he was crying. The teacher approached him and discovered he was upset because he forgot how to do the problems on the last page. He was quiet about it and didn't make a scene but he was in tears over the last 3 questions on a test. The teacher ended up telling him that he can take another day to study and come in early tomorrow to take it. He was embarrassed by it so I know he wasn't doing it for attention or to get more time.

He also plays sports and his perfectionism has been more evident this year on his teams. He plays positions that do require more precision but I think he takes it a little too far. He ends up stressing himself out over games. We have tried getting him to try other positions or less competitive leagues but he said he wasn't happy that way. He doesn't seem happy with the current arrangement either but he claims that he is.

He hates failure and puts way too much pressure on himself. He is still able to have fun and let go when he has friends over. He is pretty popular and has a lot of friends. I dont think he is depressed. This has always been his personality but his overwhelming desire to be perfect puts stress on everyone. I don't think a 13 year old boy should be worrying about what college he is go to or spend hours upon hours practicing so he can start as a Freshman on his sports teams. The tears over a regular test and the anxiety he gets before games can't be normal. I have brought up therapy with him and he said he doesnt want to do it. Should I push the issue? Is there anything else you can suggest? My husband thinks I am overreacting at that people handle stress differently. Our son is fine once he is on the field or court and does well in school, so I think my husband dismisses his anxiety. Am I overreacting?",3.858935762224352,5.4808467695749465,4.701819111537233,84.1001879194631,72.35570469798657,8.061591562799617,27.983956535634388,8.676224119757912,2.057675922019815,1794,68,356,33,35,580,210,447,0.124,0.7659999999999999,0.11,-0.7849,2,0,0,0,0,0,31,3,1,0,6,15,25,1,7,27,0,59,2,0,4,2,56,87,28,0,7,10,4,0,1,2,2,1,3,0,2,21,19,1,2,11,8,1,9,9,11,2,0,20,4,30,14,49,59,10,62,0,2,1,0,66,27,0,8,25,226,51,14,0.08622905772874323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895734631197546,0.07174948369610645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808373709572664,0.13192998628635724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095916731887894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199766141335305,0.05256443324226399,0.0,0.07337457705696226,0.0,0.0,0.07626259423102398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427869799074299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471857091040782,0.05561060868307783,0.0,0.0742689610690905,0.0,0.0,0.09009101240714472,0.0,0.0,0.07545962950578898,0.0,0.10105981345757548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203331306134797,0.0,0.15274670201472867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239555992490159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324071220160186,0.0,0.13515337107047365,0.0,0.09801192131331986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358487075012064,0.0,0.08513334245017246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983650468371653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000146651256782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047389235043039116,0.21086457266385172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881750537250425,0.0,0.04212716200831867,0.0864241690304777,0.0,0.0,0.07241069114901118,0.0,0.0,0.07330886130069245,0.0,0.0,0.17267569684062842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633882790731708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448616841168095,0.0,0.0,0.18096578159504687,0.09183113226910744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933776665598958,0.0,0.0597803713782047,0.0752918871989334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877259516159652,0.0,0.08250956275778952,0.0,0.17336803928588473,0.09659627910312436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16404716031113195,0.0,0.0,0.17453681994234074,0.0,0.1569993912386587,0.0,0.09741429110801678,0.0,0.07132956761971218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610333708789289,0.0,0.06886263688878905,0.0,0.2963252828721014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19450056022011825,0.0,0.07536799715448919,0.0,0.0986104424497154,0.0,0.0,0.27626049207915376,0.0,0.0,0.05028085699734356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708773994762108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050860132366261857,0.13688922478562962,0.06916774885341599,0.0,0.15506055718332612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277578100964601,0.08756979378160748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221147441864052
parenting,aliengerm1,2018/02/14,"How do I stop nagging my child to get ready in the morning? Kid just turned 5 years old. I want to know, is it normal we have to tell her every single morning, every step of the way...

* get dressed
* brush teeth

Same thing at the door:  coat and shoes... 

Routine is same for years now.  Yet every day we have to nag her.  She'll comply only with reminders by us.  We can easily get her compliance by threatening timeouts (they work well for her). 


So I ask... a) is this something she'll eventually outgrow?   b) any tips for 'fixing' this?  ",1.1545833333333313,3.5697017019230763,2.426538461538464,93.10179487179492,84.86538461538461,5.005128205128205,20.2051282051282,6.42735559955562,0.1736820512820514,403,12,84,4,12,129,76,104,0.103,0.821,0.076,-0.6174,0,0,1,0,0,0,26,4,0,1,1,6,3,2,0,4,0,9,2,2,1,0,13,16,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,15,1,13,14,3,11,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,7,53,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291487577325693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646967577297106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553474137756938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5312023888455446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32939717129759505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549752588112967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591054938665693,0.0,0.0,0.22052582220825376,0.0,0.0,0.15983488535991966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179015520372514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757017799708881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18368764961185316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961986079459845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285919221332544,0.0,0.0,0.2527946032564361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395683215724025,0.16681390581813554,0.0,0.0,0.1889575839339721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299777228488345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706701573886033
parenting,7777777777777777744,2018/02/15,"My daughter started stabbing herself. My (F36) daughter (15) was in the bathroom for a while earlier today. I asked her if she was feeling sick (too much chocolate on Valentines) she said she was fine but stayed in there for a couple of hours. When she didn't respond when I asked, I broke the door down and saw little knife wounds in her skin and they were all around her thighs with a knife in her hand and bloody tissues on her side. There were a few cuts too. She was sobbing because of the pain. I don't know what to do. I cleaned them for her but I don't know if I should take her to a hospital or therapy. Help.",1.7628571428571431,3.7807921904761934,2.36531746031746,96.80607142857143,79.47619047619048,5.152380952380953,23.99206349206349,5.985473137389443,0.3143301587301588,480,17,107,3,12,148,76,126,0.154,0.7659999999999999,0.08,-0.8968,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,2,0,7,5,1,0,8,0,11,6,3,0,1,15,20,11,0,3,5,2,3,0,0,1,3,1,2,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,9,5,24,1,16,10,3,17,0,2,1,0,22,10,1,3,6,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746267779044706,0.4567411933758719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891197617207172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702932710872431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351626622931194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373700533191893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24056846025569603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685018825188347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448346344769471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957530064916732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599331599973944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323680226395527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290398296764406,0.2603719978937872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366958418102008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27935763691603355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315506738294378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Azrael351,2018/02/15,"Being a father has helped me recognize the beauty in even the smallest moments. Just got off the train and watched as a feeble old man rolling a suitcase made his way toward the pick-up area of the station. From twenty feet ahead, a young girl came running towards us with a smile on her face that grew bigger and bigger as she approached this gentleman. As soon as the man realized the girl (who I assume was his grandchild) was here to welcome him, his eyes lit up and a big smile graced his face. 

It was such a short encounter but it had so much meaning. I immediately began thinking, “Wow, that must be the most amazing feeling.” 

Anyone else, especially guys, turn into big balls of mush once they had kids?



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parenting,nofate301,2018/02/15,"I feel like I'm losing my marriage and we're only 13 days in My wife and I are proud parents of a beautiful baby girl, but it's been a rocky pregnancy(she was considered high-risk due to diabetes).

It was a tumultuous labor(pre-ecclampsia warnings got us admitted to the hospital for inducement, almost 48 hours), failed inducement, and ending in a c section.

My wife asked me for 4 weeks to recover after the c section.  I failed to deliver on that.  I folded like superman on folding day when I got pressure from the family to see their grandchild.  To put it in perspective, my wife has posted to some subreddits complaining of them on occasion.  So my parents haven't been the best to her.

Every day we seem to be fighting, and more and more it feels like I'm coming up short.  This morning, my alarm didn't wake me up and she called my cell phone and it didn't rouse me until was very late to the point she was near trapped with the child in her arms.  She has trouble getting up dealing with the c section recovery.

I'm terrified that my daughter doesn't like me and I'm getting it all wrong.  I'm terrified I'm not actually feeling fatherly to my child, but going through the motions to keep her alive.

I keep waffling on posting this, it feels like I'm just complaining.  I love my wife, I love my family, I love my baby.  But I don't think my marriage is going to make it.  At times, I don't think I'll make it either.

EDIT: thank you all for your responses. I read everything and I am going to try and take all the advice and help I can. Really, thank you.",3.0229368395183087,4.7536630766773165,4.561869009584665,83.79807016465962,74.78274760383387,8.393659375768001,28.012902433030227,9.057496981413335,2.3811215040550504,1225,50,245,28,26,410,160,313,0.159,0.693,0.14800000000000002,-0.608,2,1,0,0,2,0,39,2,3,2,5,3,22,1,2,13,0,19,6,2,4,3,40,54,17,0,0,6,8,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,13,15,0,2,10,1,0,6,7,10,0,0,10,5,44,12,38,43,11,38,0,3,1,3,39,18,0,3,17,156,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.10896916264937112,0.0,0.0,0.10911797647193797,0.0,0.0,0.11181660406707372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043919221693554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718577621811388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402269110523627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618971349011493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21604451858739346,0.11512195534152787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890225529523812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408277759976606,0.0,0.10035751410095978,0.0,0.2105360935184596,0.0,0.22584519439653175,0.23932100120778324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668095422739032,0.0,0.19038578121520508,0.0,0.17861778044149784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484685403791287,0.1179804529161694,0.0,0.0,0.1099677644304239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850638532482784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596325025453425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727699699472945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492483647196385,0.0,0.0,0.30234670617863696,0.0,0.1490748245468346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492644397561555,0.0,0.0,0.2479820602710733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555974162448764,0.0,0.21388885835812085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225440454900354,0.0,0.0,0.11169545442147598,0.0,0.07153560967604622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898273592261588,0.10165583720416783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395836072935126,0.0,0.0,0.20561269363245188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310114905376334,0.0,0.0,0.06511289722949462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581336549659477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431953019800053,0.0,0.0,0.09213551441330944,0.0,0.0,0.0895711169546277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220884063070594,0.0,0.0
parenting,tomorrownightuk,2018/02/15,"Holztiger, Osteimer, Frugi etc. Subreddit? It seems these sort of organic, wooden toy type communities are really big elsewhere on the web, but cant find any subreddits for them - can anyone help?  ",6.335454545454546,9.305102545454552,6.2212121212121225,70.0518181818182,69.0,10.460606060606061,32.21212121212121,10.504223727775694,4.368139393939393,156,7,23,5,3,49,33,33,0.0,0.888,0.112,0.6007,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,12,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130452460954663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218786427139556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133979323600806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207400821268569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085544837692845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949039528572947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190739179869623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MissSuperSilver,2018/02/15,"Have you ever let your kid sit in the car? So it's a cool day and this am I took my daughter to run errands and she's 8, I live in a small town feeling area.
Last thing I had to do was run into the local co-op country next to my house for dog food, dog was with us too.

She's eating breakfast in the back, it's messy and she wanted to finish it so the dog didn't get it.
I don't usually leave her in the car but she wanted to stay and I was in a hurry to get home so my husband can go to work.


I go into the store, grab the dog food and as I'm cashing out some guy caught me off guard telling me if he sees me leave my kid in the car again he will call the cops.

I mean.. my daughter can walk home from school but not be in the car for a few minutes? 
She knows how to be safe, kids her age are always walking around the neighborhood alone.
 It's a nice close knit community with a lot of families, hardly any crime.

Not that it matters but there's a 150 lbs of scary dog in there with her..


Anyways I felt like he was a dick about it by calling me out in front of all these people..
I called the local pd and they told me there are no laws against it, and that they get this call the most which causes a waste of time for everyone.


I am by no means perfect and of course I would never want to endanger my kids... 
But this guy got under my skin just the way he did it. 
Aren't kids most likely to be kidnapped by a friend or relative? Maybe it was a mistake, 
I'm always pretty cautious it just didn't feel like a big deal...


I remember being home alone and walking around my neighborhood at this age and I loved waiting in the car.


I have never been confronted like that about anything and it was really embarrassing.



edit:  Thank you for responding, I feel much less awful about the situation.",0.8970945749927495,2.6500885665796368,2.6390622280243723,95.09083587177255,81.088772845953,5.717696547722657,19.777270089933275,6.691623216298621,0.013038932404990431,1383,35,326,14,36,457,191,383,0.109,0.773,0.118,0.6845,0,2,0,0,0,0,38,1,3,2,2,19,14,1,1,28,2,29,7,2,2,5,60,54,22,0,6,10,3,7,4,1,2,0,0,3,7,22,21,4,3,8,0,2,15,10,3,0,0,16,9,42,11,50,31,8,57,0,0,1,2,38,26,1,6,17,216,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20097748554745634,0.0,0.0,0.1614653121008318,0.0,0.0,0.06598039540354429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984339055376144,0.17274581974125985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460631320453455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962939022543031,0.0,0.0,0.09967150490336914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257316307084207,0.1000286181531471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928090005068846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776475810240827,0.0,0.09271164135024276,0.0,0.0,0.09146662964304443,0.0,0.1471764181189037,0.06931475111132783,0.09315931195028007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23464627306480465,0.0,0.07496135188682973,0.0,0.15207483118486734,0.0,0.11028320100173868,0.0,0.0775998362004026,0.0,0.0,0.1921402073184376,0.0,0.0,0.08691543228527535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29197225992894754,0.0,0.0,0.11195393902070358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332245775351283,0.07908840659254564,0.0,0.205471144007244,0.0,0.0992147388092926,0.0,0.18960625251062532,0.0,0.08567494123425103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248727070850848,0.087568941222616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747475441030856,0.21137755643395906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132461264414339,0.0,0.14966347767029575,0.0,0.10318729499973024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726498801697478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870940825866148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215676378506198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991052483872424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819458152632683,0.07731644313562905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906027804043214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341584742457287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480421430283114,0.08932767671372835,0.0,0.0,0.06445916544076967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056576116297641976,0.0,0.0,0.09271164135024276,0.10779845655932832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670924939405733,0.0,0.10685944048617864,0.0,0.17168375414638126,0.07701400854976477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063542865358631,0.0,0.0,0.06892384753707527,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jeanlabu,2018/02/15,"Aggressive Dogs Around Our Children My wife and I have two children, a girl 2.5 and a boy 4mo. We also have a small dog who has been rather aggressive in the past, he’s bitten some of our friends when provoked, and bitten my wife when she tried to intervene in a fight he was having with another dog. 

For perspective, he’s a tiny dog, Shih-Tzu cross Pekingese.

We tried to change his behaviour a while back and he seemed to be doing well. Today, my daughter was pushing him, which she shouldn’t have done, he growled and instantly lunged for her. Fortunately, my wife was sitting right next to her so she could get in between them. I pulled the dog away from my wife and held him down until he calmed down.

He managed to bite my wife during the scuffle but we haven’t seen him lash out like that since we had two dogs, he was trying to attack my daughter, he wasn’t just snapping to say: “I’m not happy.” If we hadn’t held him back I’m sure he would’ve attacked her again.

How do we deal with this? My instinct is to put him down, but it’s obviously not that easy given that he’s been with us for 6.5 years and we keep thinking that he could change. We feel like we’ve failed him as owners. On the other hand we’re petrified of what he might do if we’re not there to save the day, especially when our son(4 mo) starts crawling. 

TL;DR: We have two children and an aggressive dog who tried to attack our daughter, how should we deal with this?

Update 1; Thanks for all the great advice. We are going to call some dog rescues tomorrow to start re homing him. Our children’s safety definitely takes priority and he’d be happier in a home that isn’t so toddlery.",3.143927700155245,4.7634748742515,3.790133067198937,89.92218784652918,74.20958083832335,6.864315812818806,24.047017076957196,7.526774132740827,0.9227870037702371,1304,39,277,16,27,412,173,334,0.109,0.77,0.12,0.7106,0,0,0,0,1,0,40,17,0,1,1,17,18,7,0,14,0,31,2,2,3,3,55,47,24,0,7,9,8,2,2,1,3,0,1,2,6,13,26,0,3,3,0,0,5,8,8,1,3,14,4,43,10,37,25,3,36,0,1,1,0,69,13,0,6,19,175,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135587907292719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929328688939246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185602104133668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345128623719206,0.0,0.3966159898306847,0.10918285473989624,0.17871619872444194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866311433055092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24586894396925305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556800629578526,0.0,0.0,0.07494565383178481,0.23961423145223346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892288789177848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058759124749447424,0.08302024521829862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978333927138239,0.0,0.060714780880341615,0.0,0.06604466036326123,0.0,0.0,0.12812162351690315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370740491623405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233135643112102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329253619967713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354839573089265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232801455256351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359035265857735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109353245121696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682286316863295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992424635665341,0.0,0.09241463146825926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579296204641216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612987898160807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16450767198565314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952628321614707,0.0,0.08737524488908614,0.0,0.0,0.1069902943695727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446249446668303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110153223900916,0.0,0.0,0.3155950792076379,0.0,0.3405600234426077,0.0,0.13978598131840853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448649202756803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825520489098529,0.0,0.0,0.07483524781933948
parenting,KratzersBrat83,2018/02/15,Singing My 14 year old sings....all of the time. Just watch in 10 or 15 years i will be on mtv or something saying how much she drove me nuts singing...all the damn time. I need earplugs. ,-1.1515384615384612,0.90522961538462,-0.6498717948717943,111.29903846153849,99.0,2.6,16.756410256410255,3.1291,-1.5602512820512815,141,4,37,0,6,41,33,39,0.132,0.868,0.0,-0.6124,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,4,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,3,1,1,8,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,2,5,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897838393908657,0.2922958001154011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4136487041117455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134852654126941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30347597105820595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597247314991492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5077063480565382
parenting,Lorosaurus,2018/02/15,"Mr. Rodgers is on PBS kids My son just threw up, so I set him up on the couch with a bowl and opened up the PBS kids app to see my childhood buddy Mr. Rodgers smiling at me! My son is now entranced and I couldn’t be happier! The world needs more Mr. Rodgers and more kids influenced by him. ",1.9387096774193533,3.246130290322583,2.5685806451612905,98.73287096774195,76.74193548387099,6.250322580645161,25.30322580645161,6.742157984588678,0.5424735483870964,226,8,56,2,5,70,41,62,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.7896,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,7,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,9,4,2,12,0,0,1,0,10,8,0,0,2,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6812085546370433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7320894105840559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megalinax,2018/02/15,"What age did you get your child a phone? My daughter is about to be 10 and I would say she’s a really good kid compared to others her age. We are considering getting her a phone for her birthday and I was wondering your experience with it. With this last school shooting it has scared me because what if my daughter didn’t have a phone and something happened, I can’t even begin to imagine how I would feel. Please tell me your thoughts, am I crazy? ",3.629238095238094,5.156040399999998,4.108730158730161,88.50500000000002,72.77777777777777,6.920634920634923,28.41269841269841,7.447530270364453,1.463603174603175,356,14,74,4,7,112,63,90,0.062,0.8690000000000001,0.069,0.1414,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,1,4,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,12,0,0,1,0,14,19,5,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,2,18,1,7,12,0,4,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,2,4,53,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889666923969245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216428709609224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549767044044602,0.0,0.0,0.13179815220558244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723694733615345,0.0,0.0,0.218630276590724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23050186890641194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124736961873882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28612776048688243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698626149465612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072882759267272,0.2609673685507605,0.26380308545044034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006697531478223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22782940814600036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20693590412688295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282675989855672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703325246418276,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RawketLeeg,2018/02/15,"Best Parental Phone Monitoring Apps I have four kids and, after 14 months, their father has been awarded some unsupervised visitation. (He had been under an order of protection due to domestic violence issues.) Their first weekend was last week and we ran into the problem of how they would keep in touch while there. Their dad refused to take my number as he felt it would violate the still active order of protection in regards to myself. So I've purchased them a phone. I know, I know...phones for kids is a hot button issue. But I feel in this instance it's warranted. It will use Android and I'm looking into the best ways to keep them safe while using it. It's not going to have a data plan. Just talk/text and able to use the web, etc while connected to wifi. They're smart kids and we've gone over what appropriate while using the internet plenty, but what do you guys use? I don't mind paying a yearly fee for something or even if there's some good free options for monitoring and safety.",4.790940044411549,6.181683419689122,5.4382420429311615,80.62695595854923,69.72538860103627,8.20858623242043,26.73908216136196,8.634040054169528,1.9058263508512208,792,25,148,13,14,256,126,193,0.042,0.825,0.133,0.9497,1,0,1,0,1,0,23,1,1,6,5,7,9,1,0,10,0,13,0,0,6,0,35,29,17,0,4,6,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,8,9,0,6,3,1,4,4,2,2,0,2,7,5,15,8,22,19,5,27,0,0,1,0,21,7,0,5,13,97,23,2,0.14186037841505414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29774743011352883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821182103028816,0.09369744202605017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717288697541001,0.0,0.13620820995652988,0.0,0.0,0.12066636541043715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062252222697874,0.1189857548944809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046407788782644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961307571638443,0.0,0.2521840448519269,0.0,0.0,0.15592550801502209,0.1156351422607568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912698941937115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323854235113087,0.0,0.11323160062394065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751916218599313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574122348062076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921104997493204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328988145078345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666134982619528,0.1140219985943922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6126090970809426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260216532877484,0.11379183867843985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154708530591667,0.0,0.0,0.09135343262409104
parenting,yubimarcano,2018/02/15,"Taking advice from cartoons My 7yo daughter asked me today if we could give seeds to the parrots that are flying near to our building so I put some seeds near the window however the parrots didn’t come. After a while my Daughter brought a bowl full of seeds and the word seeds written in the bowl. She said that the reason the parrots did not come was because they didn’t know that those were seeds, I told her that parrots didn’t know how to read and she replied that they would come to eat now because it was fact in the cartoons 😂",5.008838451268357,5.728031672897201,4.487316421895862,90.11626168224302,68.7196261682243,6.4881174899866485,29.304405874499327,5.288315135182226,1.0210518024032045,427,15,87,1,7,128,65,107,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,10,0,10,1,0,2,1,17,22,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,7,6,1,0,3,1,0,5,4,0,0,0,11,1,12,0,11,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,4,60,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21498231761499811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20567112856994813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26822099378005554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5685338439760832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756528042103354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251158275759845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211044894595953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418134646128094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116165303562627,0.0,0.0,0.22006041932755824,0.0,0.0,0.2261975498103942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092712203451922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541328529304072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085351139696357,0.21022027255828685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628231583424373,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,laaalala,2018/02/15,"Former co-sleeping parents: how did you transition to crib? Just looking for any methods, resources, or tips that might help! We're trying to transition our 10-month-old to his crib and it's going poorly. He does 5-6 hour chunks while cosleeping, but is up every 30ish minutes when in the crib and sometimes takes 1.5+ hours to resettle once he awakens. Looking to see what worked for others during this transition!",5.602543859649124,7.703755921052637,5.18684210526316,80.43622807017546,68.73684210526315,7.171929824561403,32.40350877192982,7.793537801064563,2.497735087719299,334,15,54,4,6,102,64,76,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.3472,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,8,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,9,6,0,8,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,2,5,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567881588106475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017639052541683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425606572276216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310321037563707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453896842823378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541087289207492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872233119633094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445868709259245,0.0,0.0,0.18403014978476095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24193309091975115,0.2455380180352699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560087012046473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372582781418476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23072570209175464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280289392368489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733518211930085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653455910093073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784983990565389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Pliny_,2018/02/15,"Another School Shooting, but I Don't Feel Anything I was in school for Columbine, and was very shaken by it. When Sandy Hook happened, I cried all day, and off and on for weeks when the image of a cowering, scared child came into my mind. 

These last few, I haven't felt anything. I'm not scared or sad, or even angry. No despair, no outrage. I'm worried that this is a negative development, that I've lost something important about my humanity and wonder if it will affect my parenting. Or is it an adaptation for survival if this is our reality?",4.301603773584905,5.818419490566042,5.3850471698113225,80.0541745283019,71.0754716981132,8.69622641509434,31.174528301886788,9.188382445141503,2.77851320754717,430,19,82,9,8,142,75,106,0.32299999999999995,0.634,0.043,-0.9888,2,0,1,1,0,0,16,1,0,0,2,4,6,1,2,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,19,16,12,0,2,7,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,5,2,8,0,10,10,2,10,0,3,0,0,4,4,0,6,5,57,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077573166556141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260893722630104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266087407661005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21763727293349172,0.1277779120147887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086346022872813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018083622504413,0.0,0.19023654521450972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520632567337135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150296649589094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162830664010872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005552857010467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200006976738835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967267942889585,0.4010376967644999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15253069439140834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347857929168655,0.0,0.0,0.1589284982946466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148642949129589,0.0,0.20121134563996174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WeeWillieWinkieHODLr,2018/02/15,"How to Explain Separation to a 6 Year Old? How do we explain separation to our 6 year old without causing unneccessary fear or trauma, but at the same time not confusing her or making it a subject that she can't talk about with us?

Any ""after care"" (for lack of a better term) tips, if neccessary?

Edit: Seriously, who would downvote this?",4.47234375,6.233947796875,6.180125,73.55237500000003,71.03125,8.870000000000003,31.55,9.3871,3.10969125,265,12,47,6,5,91,53,64,0.097,0.72,0.182,0.7919,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,1,3,6,0,2,4,0,3,0,0,4,0,18,7,6,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,10,6,3,8,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,4,7,35,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569393541764003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22849878338754184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26341565240831,0.26540730528163586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29072728485742044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245757699226302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5422115697242078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20766030756667392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506520302308592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107757569543038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24905021146212605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353181947229846,0.0,0.0,0.3327512611574793
parenting,clare429,2018/02/15,"Was I too harsh? Last night my daughter (4) went to the toilet and before she went in I told her to wash her hands, with soap and hot water. As she was entering the bathroom. 

She came out and I asked if she had and she said yes, and she’d dried them properly. I felt her hands and they were bone dry. Went to the bathroom and the sink was dry too - so I knew she hadn’t washed them. 

I shouted her back in and asked again and she told me she had a couple of times before admitting that she hadn’t. 

I explained to her that it is absolutely not okay to lie to me and I never want her to do that again, told her that there was no more playing or iPad tonight and there’ll be no bedtime story. It was pretty much bedtime at this point anyway. 

There was no shouting or anger or anything, I explained that these were the consequences of lying to me and things will be back to normal tomorrow. 

Rationally I think I was okay - but she was SO upset. Did I go overboard? ",1.2181818181818151,3.3045674343434333,2.4548383838383856,95.09559090909092,81.72727272727272,5.374141414141414,20.001010101010106,6.508806274219699,0.016441616161616324,744,20,167,7,20,238,103,198,0.106,0.865,0.028,-0.9034,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,3,0,11,5,1,1,6,3,21,6,3,0,1,30,39,20,0,3,6,1,4,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,10,15,1,0,6,1,0,6,7,2,0,0,25,7,37,3,17,10,2,21,0,0,0,0,31,5,0,4,10,125,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349637136169355,0.0,0.3066486453187341,0.0,0.0,0.25222238232912403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791156034900347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758021446453396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181470527773182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574723544629836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320890717144273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336875223327202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056395060354222,0.0,0.1264922406170089,0.0,0.0,0.15390937602129387,0.16069195100423053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503954279542412,0.0,0.0,0.16685399023165032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600812974881528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089589042273564,0.10508900638332247,0.0,0.0,0.09563374882498232,0.0,0.0,0.4701468960185856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673552549387557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4561081493711048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamabamana,2018/02/15,"How to convince soon-to-be 4 year old to be less restrictive about the guest list for his birthday party Let me provide some background: We moved to a new neighborhood about two years ago. My son started his new preschool last summer. He is friends with some of the kids there, especially one boy (he calls him his ""best friend"" most of the time, and likes to have him over for play dates), but there are also two girls he plays with in school. He has also called each of the girls his ""best friend"" occasionally. (Yeah I know. He uses the term loosely.)
In general he likes to have guests, he is always excited when we have friends or family over.
He is about to turn four in three weeks and we want to plan his birthday. However, when I first asked who he wants to be there some weeks ago, he answered: ""Mommy, Daddy and (little brother's name)"". We convinced him that he should also invite some of his friends. Now he says he wants to invite just his best friend from his OLD daycare (he has not seen that boy for six months) and the daughter of our neighbors from before we moved (we are still friends with the parents, so he sees her every couple of months). I am really confused why he doesn't want to invite his friends from his new preschool. Whenever I ask him, he just kind of dodges the question and repeats firmly he only wants to invite those two. I don't know if it has something to do with the fact that he already went to the birthday parties of his ""old"" friends, while he has not been invited to any birthday parties by his new friends yet (there have not been any, at least to my knowledge). I am pretty sure that he would enjoy a bigger party with more kids, and I also want him to socialize with his new friends. I also fear that he might be sad if he will not be invited when their birthdays come up. But I don't know how to convince him. Should I just invite his new friends against his explicit wish? Or should I just respect his wishes? It's his party, after all. I am however a little afraid that he could change his opinion last minute, when it is too late to send out invites, and the families will already have made other plans. It is already getting late as it is.",4.762635640221845,5.663703673659679,4.674881440398682,87.8941258741259,69.37296037296036,7.409082871151836,28.312916968089386,7.372421405659032,1.4057728639176903,1712,58,350,16,29,527,195,429,0.023,0.715,0.261,0.9989,3,0,1,0,0,0,61,7,0,1,6,27,31,0,3,14,1,39,0,0,4,4,74,61,27,0,15,14,4,0,2,15,7,0,1,1,6,14,22,0,1,6,2,0,5,7,4,0,8,5,3,48,27,53,43,14,53,0,1,2,0,92,11,0,13,39,231,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926014844329633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040262226025602,0.2464220206911191,0.05127996856476639,0.0,0.0,0.08381918216766455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522892529511075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244143666413919,0.0,0.19402637828021305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585947152115634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519493341720749,0.05308761961451963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920545726316124,0.06819092210991355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05192479037799723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619600103064577,0.06934935799761242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242129288772681,0.0,0.0,0.5713696473845989,0.0,0.032198422729055334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417674879072112,0.1016084726243366,0.10047114023773804,0.13903958900155086,0.0,0.0,0.06301946369911142,0.0,0.06021728470295967,0.12353618291916575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058314512831161375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653782519211741,0.0,0.0,0.09838279093372417,0.13100299022784784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571279689762729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940066836744911,0.0,0.041761163964433835,0.046871360662225255,0.0,0.0,0.0684313156221664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269848658750743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690381853737356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039480887275591715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04900957109981632,0.0,0.06237147766767288,0.0491100499785202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282264122139701,0.0,0.04744474085913665,0.0,0.0,0.04362107124462894,0.0,0.04921671450488295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808426738599307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035936157772982154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703426728559367,0.18060668984432607,0.0,0.0,0.05322736090464567,0.0,0.0,0.21810102494855693,0.0,0.098869561261841,0.0,0.0,0.05713037018392396,0.05561026525883995,0.0,0.14173979768422018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04377922030530994,0.0,0.0,0.07937365199652355
parenting,CharlotteZard2016,2018/02/15,"[Parent] Please pray for my baby We’re spending the night at the Children’s Hospital for monitoring. He had a low fever earlier and has a UTI and low white blood cell count. Since he’s so young (5 weeks old), they want to make sure it’s not a serious infection. They’re starting IV antibiotics tonight. If his blood and urine cultures come back negative, they’ll stop the antibiotics and we can go home. If they’re positive, he’ll have to stay 4-5 days and get antibiotics the whole time, then 5 days’ worth of oral antibiotics to take home. ",5.203598382749328,6.042074481132076,5.344016172506741,83.71971698113208,68.33962264150944,10.208086253369274,30.23719676549865,10.290406445055957,2.877074393530997,429,16,89,11,7,135,73,106,0.094,0.7659999999999999,0.139,0.4257,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,7,0,5,6,3,1,1,14,13,9,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,1,7,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,3,0,0,1,1,5,1,7,10,1,18,1,2,1,0,11,3,0,2,12,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397611226430024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19489862963898008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918314865204605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820888772178295,0.0,0.12858591809612915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4539043814536297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102695477326314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123249700041957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374165393207157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512293776966598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24836002284722802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716045592984693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601444380195427,0.2411577024603823,0.0,0.1891592927098803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132426392314254,0.0,0.17011558574365984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319310972181697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345104814137868,0.0,0.18148809593329104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526056030055478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uselessaccount2018,2018/02/15,"Want some advice regarding career with my first newborn coming soon *Not sure if this is the correct subreddit to post this in as there are so many subreddit regarding parenthood.*

My significant other and I are expecting our first baby within the next 2 to 3 months. I'm currently working in a top 10 US bank as a teller. Worked there for about 2 years thus far.

I recently got a offer letter from a rival bank for a lead teller position and now I'm questioning which is the right choice to make under my special circumstances?

On one hand, I'm eligible for paternal leave from old job since I have worked for the minimum of 1 year and can use this time to help out with baby duties, bonding, etc if necessary.

On the other hand, rival bank is offering a position which would boost my career since old employer had no room for growth. And obviously I wouldn't be able to get paternal leave because you have to work at least a minimum of 26 weeks.

Looking for any advice. Any people out there who have been in a similar situation. How hard is it for the first few days/weeks/months after child birth?

I feel like I am totally unprepared to bring a baby into this world. Any good books to read? 

Thank you all.

Edit: sorry one thing I should have probably mentioned was that my current job is giving me 30 hours (if someone is off, they will assign me 31-33 hours on average to help cover) while the new job will provide me full time employment.

And thank you all so far. I read all the comments and take them to heart. I'm leaning towards the new job offer only because I don't see growth from the current employer, majority of my coworkers are parents already and will probably stick to their current job and avoid any drastic change. It would install immensely boost my career path and the full-time position would be a bonus.",5.697956150130064,6.6006662649572645,6.3976365663322206,76.37598662207357,67.26210826210826,10.092951814690947,31.21528551963335,10.176274734539398,3.2065889012758584,1453,56,265,35,23,477,192,351,0.031,0.8290000000000001,0.14,0.9893,14,1,0,0,0,0,34,2,3,3,10,9,8,0,1,21,0,29,3,3,5,7,43,47,18,0,10,4,1,4,1,0,8,0,0,1,2,13,15,0,2,2,3,4,5,4,1,0,5,4,6,27,7,44,33,10,53,0,0,2,0,22,21,0,5,27,171,40,22,0.08879350410160136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735359691013744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798583976646916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415305105923441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825539189765528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393175374101093,0.0764877414693602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902822857607664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04489666362005161,0.06343409707196504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22658312768591854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639094107635552,0.08517882008601776,0.0,0.07447577846115526,0.07101627667101967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954153885340763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522072988445122,0.1190328282251333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174887430901479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4405692587919639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803900014744696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043380020970907436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456418022988902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05927035348067807,0.0900226764674711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174825566891072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715146391373446,0.09443289895239428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634769175905147,0.0,0.12033755274638645,0.06753146105780364,0.0,0.0,0.09859467830207433,0.0,0.0,0.0615582355992334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503963213776386,0.0,0.1914688309109321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946904594184892,0.0,0.17763506576969956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767287317217995,0.0,0.0,0.07582916734330374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075692663524599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690180831919605,0.0998076189121837,0.0,0.0,0.07523444787947496,0.0,0.0,0.09939705821049004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368682678780208,0.0,0.06676166459647317,0.0,0.0,0.16349825758649272,0.0,0.0,0.05899045862806835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355241260017717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680765257842656,0.07668907834883165,0.0,0.0,0.05237270927948805,0.0,0.07122479304870216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585709140459825,0.0,0.0,0.18922907311106105,0.0,0.0,0.11436021086408987
parenting,LessBake,2018/02/15,"My son got a fright in his room and we couldn't find an explanation as to what it was. He's scared to go into his room. Hi there. I'm looking for some advice with my 6 year old son, and I thought asking other parents who have maybe gone through something similar would be a good idea. 

I just moved to the west coast for a career opportunity I was offered back when I was working in New York. I thankfully got the promotion and moving has been a daunting task to say the least. It's been stressful for my son with moving and a new house I bought. 

Yesterday evening I had to run downstairs to sign for something that was being delivered to our home. Myself, my dad and the delivery man heard him scream and run down the stairs screaming for me over and over again. I first thought he hurt himself or something like that. He was at that point of not being able to be calmed down. My dad was there and asking what happened. 

He told us that he was looking at the window and something banged on the glass hard and it was shaking. At first we thought it was bird that hit the glass. There was no feathers, scuff marks or even a dead body of the bird. There's no trees for a good 20 feet for them to have done it. He looks out into our backyard over the pool. He is also not a possibility because he was scared of going into his room. He didn't break anything to be guilty of. Everything was exactly the way we left it.  

My dad the wise decision to say maybe it's a ghost because my house was a dormitory. My dad doesn't live with me. He moved here after retirement.  My son is now scared to go into his room. He's never been like this before. He's never asked me to check for monsters or anything like that. How do you handle something like this?",3.0864609469850284,4.5888639178470285,3.801006677458522,90.26594546742213,74.12747875354106,6.629259409146098,24.788445973290173,7.1686216300943375,0.8660587616349655,1365,43,293,14,28,433,172,353,0.11,0.816,0.07400000000000001,-0.9022,1,0,5,0,0,0,30,6,1,1,5,14,19,0,6,23,0,33,2,2,1,3,41,55,17,2,2,6,9,1,4,0,1,0,5,7,1,19,21,0,0,6,1,2,11,9,9,0,2,28,9,35,10,47,19,2,51,0,1,3,0,46,24,0,4,18,194,54,3,0.08886340027079576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868362862782761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106402909109312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462540135409134,0.0,0.24922585072778336,0.0,0.0,0.068330469597897,0.0,0.1083406080096315,0.0,0.07561620853175265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870720488127148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909381111906106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173868755763448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986469421826421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121953795127272,0.1511743257488996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150935469526827,0.14906880810334844,0.142144358045322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858161138357847,0.0,0.07960415209199903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913723595039158,0.0,0.0,0.20507286576798825,0.09513010790644684,0.10031596241547186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655034440501964,0.0,0.0,0.17365667483433578,0.0,0.07846801049207702,0.0,0.2238686262246368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855045924964008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777909247908168,0.0,0.0,0.1370738650873866,0.17164965144886168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324719015129404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867228972631073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840046364452351,0.10018013183408092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133548522211525,0.2669032980497519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420569350069627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179272477210727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181347979499408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21164284103063724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491278711610227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689172906387907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053563088414393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469361375512851,0.0,0.0,0.06312600993686364,0.0,0.0,0.057225116273370215
parenting,Mangguopaidui22,2018/02/15,"Full Time 3rd Shift, Full Time School, and Single mom. Is it possible? I'll try and make this as short as possible because it is a lot more complicated than it seems. 

I am a single mom of an infant daughter, who is currently unemployed and full time in college. I still live with my parents, and it is no longer something I am okay with doing. My parents are emotionally abusive and very controlling over me even though I am an adult. An example of these things would be if I and my daughter leave home, I get constant phone calls and texts telling me I ""have to bring dd home right away"" or ""You don't need to keep dd away from us this long."" 

I have no income besides benefits I recieve for attending school. I have no control over my life and I am sick of it. One of my close friends informed that there is nothing holding me back from leaving and that I could do it with her help. I found myself a full-time 3rd shift (11pm-7: 30 am) job with good pay; 22.34 an hour, earning me more than enough money for just me and my child. 

I applied for the job and then informed my parents that I am now in the process of getting a job and then moving out. They called me a fucking moron and things of the sort, in which I only said: ""thank you for your time, just thought you should know."" My only worry is that if I can actually do this. My parents have always controlled me. I have no control over my life or finances, and I don't know anything about living alone, forcing me to rely on them.

I am also full time in university, which is their main concern. They have told me that I would have to quit school, in which I disagree with. This leads to my question, is this all possible? Can I work this job, be full time in school and be a single mother? I want what is best for my daughter, and I know living here is not ideal.",4.6844725588025655,5.007836221311479,5.0920432406747445,86.89801496792593,69.30054644808743,7.785982418626753,29.301021620337373,7.423996415210882,1.5290488477072937,1411,49,300,13,23,449,174,366,0.091,0.851,0.058,-0.8753,13,1,1,0,2,0,50,1,4,4,10,11,9,2,0,13,1,39,4,0,6,1,57,56,26,0,9,7,10,0,0,1,3,3,1,2,3,25,23,0,6,9,0,3,4,7,2,0,1,4,1,57,7,41,45,15,40,0,0,0,1,35,21,1,8,15,228,82,15,0.0,0.0899134042419893,0.07405453321736305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859579950296412,0.0,0.060686616402068926,0.06314386540358984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244833940982417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425962224591575,0.058352236006001285,0.0,0.046259865948632815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963847520302908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497773793409209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200663079075197,0.3404538268515593,0.060589404742379824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536239351963598,0.0,0.07841131127633537,0.0,0.05012249080056663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320591795527978,0.05862992431535055,0.07015608893247573,0.07929540239259386,0.0,0.0,0.0636502158024655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050865297152007896,0.0,0.1522412200503874,0.0,0.07473317465103031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30122360829210504,0.06745164112711922,0.0,0.0,0.1251161398656501,0.0,0.0,0.1607062482053469,0.0,0.0,0.10720212891528856,0.0,0.0,0.20102820428864654,0.06715739662708739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451621157954836,0.0,0.0,0.05065500311220315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777553176937498,0.0,0.0806556186941444,0.0,0.05626907269509295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281539511361533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514228341060113,0.11543060465026045,0.0,0.0,0.3370530758090634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25665276692644856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501054128848419,0.08071491280275367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480688037440199,0.07218568885039486,0.0,0.0,0.3072058194338705,0.0,0.06908445829943563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058421337117899826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060603266407587224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632837510326865,0.06986633502686539,0.0,0.0,0.10083158577312093,0.0,0.07455835867130751,0.06024561264042811,0.26550108820836305,0.0,0.0,0.0725130534428325,0.0,0.05152213027049505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128243136817234,0.0,0.0,0.06261452641031773,0.04475997856857437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0552464667685605,0.07706669075677271,0.0,0.10781555729470407,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dizzleus,2018/02/15,"Kids say the darnedest things We have a thing in our family where we call our sick kids ""sick ducks"". Tonight I was giving my son a hug and kiss goodnight but he was sick so I said to him, ""good night sick duck."" Then he said to me, ""I wish I was lucky duck instead of a sick duck.""",1.2119999999999995,2.509062866666671,1.8733333333333348,103.005,78.66666666666666,5.466666666666668,18.666666666666668,5.6839178017228535,-0.7334333333333332,212,4,56,1,5,65,41,60,0.228,0.556,0.21600000000000005,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,4,7,0,0,0,6,8,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,11,4,4,3,0,5,0,0,0,2,15,2,0,1,3,31,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975676439654593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27472044691594993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27955214784065,0.0,0.24442536078681826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27347355524003586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544054428867882,0.2317451746407272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38720680551639897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33511325880583004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bdb1989,2018/02/15,"5 year old afraid of transitioning to big girl bed Hello! My 5 year old has slept with me most of her life but my husband and I are ready for her to sleep in her own bed. One of the issues is that she is afraid of the dark and don’t laugh but I am as well. I’m that person who doesn’t stick a foot out of the blanket or get too close to the edge. This is seriously impeding our progress. Anyone else with this problem? Or any tips on transitioning? How long does it take? Best course of action?

Thank you for any help!",0.01367832167832006,2.190700200000002,1.548181818181817,99.03381118881121,87.9090909090909,4.83916083916084,15.734265734265733,6.297961479604792,-0.7265944055944058,402,8,98,4,13,129,77,110,0.049,0.727,0.224,0.9761,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,0,2,3,8,0,2,5,0,8,4,3,1,0,13,13,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,1,1,0,11,4,17,12,3,11,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,3,5,60,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300606235863406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454431651320585,0.2264640302047842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319498461833985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934185864278341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463623104551166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547531730814245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814695811795675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230690432989252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611497614088088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559826802331745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4638526043284762,0.0,0.14977080400894052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19298862831528255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21148901869662656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211824711409069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661816773798279,0.0,0.0,0.20348814591898198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987260868992899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846629391548939
parenting,all4bs,2018/02/15,"I told him what he did was alright and it was a nice thing to do My son (12) handed this girl a little valentine’s Day card he made and now he’s regretting it so bad.  I can tell he feels so embarrassed and I just don’t know what to tell him. He don’t want to go to school tomorrow. He drew up a picture of her favorite football team emblem and put remarks on it that he found online, like “you’re quite the catch” and said I love you on it.  
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parenting,Theearthhasnoedges,2018/02/15,"Tonight I feel like a bully... My three year old son has been damn near perfect from the moment he was born. He's my only, but despite my lack of experience I know that I got lucky. All the horror stories I've heard, none have happened to me. He slept his nights through almost from birth, eats anything you give him, bed time is a snap, super independent, sweet, kind... to me he's been perfect. Aside from some potty training hurdles it's basically all been a cake walk.

Then tonight happened. Big Valentines event, all his friends, big fancy dinner, heart shaped cake and all. I can't sum it up any better than saying he was an absolute nightmare. Wouldn't listen to a thing anyone said, was unkind to his friends, and dinner time didn't even get to happen.

I'm not really asking for advice on discipline or where or why this behaviour may be coming from. I can handle all that. I also knew that he wasn't going to be the perfect kid forever. What really gets me here is that in all of his three years I have never had to seriously discipline him. A stern word or quick talk here and there to mediate behaviour and we're gold.

Tonight was his first real consequence. No party, no cake, no treats, no story time and had to be dragged away screaming. He calmed and had a short talk before bed but I just feel god damn awful.

Judging by some minor things I've seen I think we might be in for a rough time in the very near future. I guess I just want to know how to handle the real discipline without hating myself for it.

I know it was necessary, but I feel like the worst dad right now.

EDIT: I feel like I should clarify. I didn't take all these things from him individually. Him missing out on all this stuff were the consequences of ""continue this behaviour and we're leaving.""",3.4542327833218067,5.293753530085965,4.318347989329117,85.53690544412608,73.87106017191977,7.220669894279222,24.355399664064816,7.990435384864732,1.313497895464875,1398,43,276,21,29,450,192,349,0.109,0.7240000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.9736,0,0,0,0,0,0,48,1,1,0,6,11,23,3,0,15,1,30,5,2,2,12,60,60,16,0,4,10,2,5,3,2,4,0,5,2,1,17,10,3,3,9,0,0,3,13,8,0,3,21,12,34,15,36,31,13,41,0,1,1,0,31,16,2,10,25,179,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266512538047604,0.0,0.0,0.11545147852036748,0.0,0.0,0.0922015218607153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840468290236817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061707765827608,0.0,0.09487811765798128,0.0,0.10778543902840797,0.0,0.10832362637600608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810771487538174,0.0,0.0,0.10196922627118972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931659732952336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797576293878645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615138568022707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127808193213726,0.0,0.0,0.23318684937130355,0.2471007205140952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807002979277356,0.0,0.0,0.178153555724342,0.0,0.12047395637806077,0.11060165214677904,0.06552491350737627,0.0,0.09221209593177808,0.0,0.12701065037982956,0.0,0.30586546748760185,0.0,0.0,0.11383013057786665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366253553824538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006219837784488,0.19008966373280564,0.0,0.0,0.12208095899505182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898221828028825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223099767386724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892275832113959,0.0,0.0,0.10819672558996954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209829072619018,0.0,0.0,0.08768718746439898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624623353057718,0.14772210214864526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846146237544194,0.10967212810934657,0.0916873627703932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198540852156604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668763428493588,0.18533981298182725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297910036287849,0.07387650239453758,0.0,0.0,0.2689182100855274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951306065141313,0.06800409031100411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403597603742673,0.0,0.0,0.1111404489292077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849264463453904
parenting,verticalgraindesign,2018/02/16,"How can I prevent my 7 and 5 year old sons from fighting so frequently? My 7 and 5 year old sons are best friends: but they also fight constantly.

My wife and I want them to play together independently more often. They often start playing together, but within a few minutes we hear a scream and a thump and one of them comes flying to us in tears and requires intervention. 

We've tried a lot of things - rewards, consequences, social stories, etc., and have made progress. They now mostly respect each others property rights, and violence towards each other is now rare. But still, when they are left alone together, there is a sort of explosive aspect that seems to erupt (which doesn't happen when they play with other kids). 

I'm particularly interested in hearing from parents who have survived living with multiple young boys. ",8.840419463087247,8.773981053691276,8.146233221476509,69.83129614093964,60.61073825503356,11.208389261744966,37.416946308724825,10.686352973137794,4.0804422818791934,663,28,110,14,8,208,103,149,0.112,0.679,0.209,0.9412,1,1,0,0,3,0,21,2,0,7,5,11,11,2,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,0,29,17,16,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,7,14,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,3,0,1,1,3,14,8,14,16,8,20,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,6,13,79,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848367605653565,0.0,0.1455349601280335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098415763603346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676570994391184,0.0,0.19666332463313232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296364174166912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060272599500648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093052738180735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102252127751961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19772943784710886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069787942437194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471886284833705,0.0,0.1722005256666298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38192954366052495,0.0,0.1233191196837545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20207505730716105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541592711023658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567415486575704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855128563521124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881135473454006,0.0,0.14533507523013114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090409455285812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355724571871525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890798659033514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073406639307547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343873580399297
parenting,Femmeforever,2018/02/16,"How can we help 4.5M learn self-soothing/coping behaviors? My partner and I are raising two awesome, bright, well-behaved boys: the oldest is 6M and is REALLY mild-mannered--laid back, patient, doesn't have too many issues with expressing himself or accepting consequences, etc.  The younger is almost 5 and is super extroverted, loves to be around people, wonderfully helpful and enthusiastic, friendly, etc. 


Recently we've been struggling with the youngest and his propensity for really intense tantrums--he'll wail and scream and sob so loudly we can hear it throughout the house; he'll hyperventilate and occasionally will vomit/start gagging he's worked himself up so much.  These 'tantrums' (for lack of a better word) typically are triggered by pretty mundane incidents (last night it happened when 6M finished his dinner and got a piece of candy for dessert; 4.5M did not finish dinner and therefore didn't get dessert. This has always been a rule).  We assume the 'tantrums' happen because he's pretty hyperstimulated after a day at preschool (started about a month ago).


We're really good about letting him know his feelings are totally valid and it's okay to be expressive, but when he gets so worked up he's disruptive, we send him to his room to calm down and let him know when he's calm and wants to come back and join us he can. I guess I'm at a loss for what more we can do for him--the violent sobbing is getting pretty rough.  Any suggestions for modeling/teaching self-soothing behaviors or tips/tricks to heading off the over-the-top-ness when it begins? Thanks!   ",7.307083333333331,8.237668319444445,6.956944444444449,73.68250000000002,63.72222222222222,9.733333333333334,36.138888888888886,9.725611199111238,3.5949222222222232,1268,58,214,24,18,398,180,288,0.07400000000000001,0.7559999999999999,0.171,0.9695,0,0,0,0,0,0,50,6,0,0,5,14,19,3,1,12,1,25,6,1,3,1,43,45,25,0,2,4,0,2,0,2,2,0,3,1,2,7,23,4,0,7,0,0,2,3,8,0,1,5,6,18,11,27,34,7,28,0,3,1,1,33,8,2,6,18,126,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710786609319108,0.0,0.1209930699348292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053964019916248,0.0,0.0,0.0821680536551187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756367628887252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858205155912565,0.0,0.0736564074500358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686367886794916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408372556493824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792488949375492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695131734389948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061094914364581324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933524018191378,0.0,0.1893849349032556,0.0,0.0,0.10134586716344916,0.09663821299562247,0.0,0.13310707407843028,0.0,0.21369786610888025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400570029051496,0.0,0.13618337990364235,0.0,0.16197863851380945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394207660031833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611437564586422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280922440419582,0.0984919898804524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471122499948712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905314248109722,0.0,0.0,0.1225019247798671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644477833262798,0.0,0.08882342342494835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339009386282772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376780876631124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36878044930420456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322189918906652,0.0,0.1193043368184466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25210258137053343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710471722500365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263169980632995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124336688510432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803264915276895,0.0,0.1453427462446579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126823978613844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086400335250026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310341996769212,0.1759303094824562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,what_is_in_a_name,2018/02/16,"What can I do to support potty training parents? My friends are going to be stuck at home, potty training their toddler over the upcoming Presidents' Day weekend, and I'm wondering what I can do to help support them/make their lives a little more fun? Aside from bringing them a meal/wine, is there anything you wished for during the potty training phase? ",10.054871794871794,8.614514384615386,8.653846153846159,71.60948717948719,59.0,10.512820512820516,43.20512820512821,8.841846274778883,4.1201282051282035,285,14,46,3,3,87,49,65,0.029,0.753,0.218,0.9194,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,1,3,0,1,4,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,15,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,4,7,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,2,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887996866523385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153595153262516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054965130901483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511633174151637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828167653450566,0.0,0.2668009573121136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665831649954695,0.2348663843392505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295340786355652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6036649146741597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058653989430881,0.0,0.28844540262964435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stellar1557,2018/02/16,"How do we keep the kids out of our room? I remember growing up and my parents room was always ""taboo"" we just didn't go in there. I remember a couple occasions sitting on my parents bed while mom folded laundry, but that was it.

My children have no boundaries with that stuff. They barge in first thing in the morning, it is their first stop. They have caught us in the act more times than I can count. Worse than all of this, their tornado of destruction ends up in what I want to be my sanctuary away from the chaos of our house.

We have 3 boys. Ages 8, 5, and 1.

Edit: I have seen a lot of suggestions for a lock and we have one. But the little shits unlock it from the outside. I have tried the room is off limits thing and it works for about an hour. I guess at the end of the day you just feel like you spend 90% of the day yelling at them or correcting things they are doing and it just becomes an exhausting battle. Thanks for the ideas though, we will just work on being more persistent. ",2.511770529994177,4.180687148514853,3.1807513104251623,93.42193651718115,76.02970297029701,6.7331391962725675,22.278392545136867,7.5105763829236425,0.6336601048340129,772,21,172,10,17,242,126,202,0.139,0.816,0.045,-0.9729,2,0,0,0,1,0,24,8,2,6,6,8,6,3,0,16,0,18,2,1,1,2,33,26,11,0,1,7,3,1,1,0,1,1,1,4,3,13,12,0,4,4,0,1,4,2,4,0,3,5,3,27,2,31,18,4,34,0,0,1,0,23,18,1,3,12,129,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156903496017347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372681656604796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135880016290716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165970506546687,0.0,0.18844813043627465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25880700739157275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387384483934589,0.10437569892221236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485495278600542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303345247137536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609484429229327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438815926735987,0.16858273953278324,0.0,0.1649320079429821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986266941202568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137833148254556,0.14643314885400674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421117286503915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111355388958874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900287664095846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244592083060576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33101144172107416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997217953344866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214828321249625,0.0,0.0,0.16725247785572148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451160886544836,0.0,0.0,0.2911921490138624,0.0,0.1435450245871396,0.0,0.08519357836813601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991940486386558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574339200362116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617507598941321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21272880927024665,0.0,0.14889099176558404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,missroyalee,2018/02/16,"Milk under twelve months? I just found out that I am pregnant with our second child. Our daughter is 9 months old and is currently on formula and the occasional juice. We currently cant afford formula (due to me being on medical leave for bipolar disorder) but have some left stocked up. I was wondering if anyone has given their infant under 12 months milk for replacement of formula. I know my sister did with her child at 10 months depsite the doctor (who is the same ped as ours) not recommending it. I assume they wait until 12 months in case of lactose intolerance but our daughter has had ice cream before and did fine, had solid poops and didnt show any allergic symptoms. I just believe milk would be cheaper and we wouldnt have to worry abouy running out and not being able to afford it when we're broke. If its strongly recommend against, of couse she will stay on the formula. 

Edit: were trying to save up for new baby items,  hence why we want the cheaper route rather than us just being cheap in general. ",8.011761658031089,7.373736730569949,7.894512953367876,72.83824611398967,62.523316062176164,11.036062176165805,34.844041450777205,10.355215969177356,3.5323745077720208,811,30,144,16,10,261,127,193,0.024,0.8690000000000001,0.107,0.937,4,0,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,2,1,5,4,0,0,5,0,23,9,1,0,0,35,29,13,0,6,10,3,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,5,13,3,1,4,1,1,1,5,1,0,1,9,1,20,3,28,13,3,27,0,1,1,0,19,13,0,5,12,102,25,3,0.16420681845296264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166626743975164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481722546101104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972790809981553,0.18500485324525331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881952401586788,0.16807263672527456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004430085058662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024377304245093,0.0,0.0,0.17387131114882748,0.17841118871181028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542109415788867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6553415793236269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859196849932305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17230743340635518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750226200584511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067375804047408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148565091090984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975205843466256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685343597552186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817111291703206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807529001832925,0.0,0.16675999492763305,0.0,0.1166478125052018,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,missoctober12,2018/02/16,"Has anyone raised their 2nd kid at home after having the 1st at daycare? So given my current salary and daycare costs in my city, I will most likely become a SAHM after going on mat leave with a second child (not currently pregnant, but planning on it in the next year or so). 

Our son is almost 18 months now, been at daycare since 12 months and I’ve seen a world of difference and new development in him that probably would not have been possible if he didn’t have that socialization and experience at daycare. 

I’m wondering if our second child doesn’t attend daycare like his/her brother did, will I be depriving them of learning important skills and socialization experience? The second kid will have an older brother to take cues from at least. 

I’m curious if anyone else has been in the same boat and how it turned out for them. TIA! ",8.3225625,7.378457131250002,8.213750000000005,71.79625000000004,62.0625,11.25,35.0,10.411451182825502,3.51375,671,24,121,13,8,217,104,160,0.031,0.879,0.09,0.8886,3,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,3,2,4,3,0,0,8,0,18,0,0,1,0,22,26,14,0,4,7,3,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,4,4,8,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,1,0,3,7,1,10,2,20,14,3,26,0,1,1,0,16,13,0,7,13,83,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828823661972412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554049910318177,0.18713093081795654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20170578279283724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908144895102991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525679364931481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35730374982625224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037955631290117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831975910631364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933838780999648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845227172732933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915547027336334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763898236072706,0.19423417700920007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589329059524672,0.0,0.0,0.19691119942027185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107739017112354,0.0,0.0,0.3723463486329615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731863706945366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19865421265172448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805964509029175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973851870723424,0.0,0.0,0.11761082041430805
parenting,aint_that_a_bitch_,2018/02/16,"A different teacher can make all the difference in the world. Last year, my now 8 year old was in first grade. She was having all kinds of issues. Tantrums during class, being rude to other students and even hitting them. When she would throw a tantrum, her teacher would do what she could to make her happy. We told her to send our child to the office. She said that she had emotional problems and needed counseling. I knew what they didn't, my kid was smarter than they were. I don't say that to brag. Any parent that has a truly gifted or intelligent child can tell you they aren't easy to raise. But man they sure do keep things interesting.

My 8 yr old has almost doubled all of the academic goals for second grade just barely halfway through the year. She's intelligent. But her social-emotional skills are lacking, due in part to her first grade teachers catering to her terrible behavior. Fast-forward to last nights parent teacher conference. 

There are not words to describe the difference in our 8 yr olds behavior. She participates in class. She's making friends. She's getting along with her friends much better than she used to. She still has upsets, but she's learning to control her outbursts. At least when she's in her homeroom. Her specials (like gym and music) are still a problem for her. And the difference is her amazing teacher. Her teacher has taught her how to respect people, and does not tolerate my daughters attempts at manipulation. She doesn't think that my daughter needs counseling, just someone to help her navigate. Counseling provides more one on one attention for negative behavior, whereas her teacher having the guts to tell her to cool it or we will get a phone call changes everything. 

So for all the people, online and in real life, who told me that I was being cruel when I criticized her teacher and the way the school was handling her, let me just say that when a parent tells you their kid is being manipulative, cruel, or a handful, that parent probably knows what they are talking about. Kids are NOT innocent. My 8 yr old is a bright, intelligent, wonderful human being, but she is also manipulative, cruel, and angry a lot. And having the right teacher to help further her growth in that area makes all the difference in the world.

This teacher is young, but man she should be teaching other teachers. I wish my older daughter had her. I wish every troubled child had a teacher like her who fosters the positivity but has no problem putting their foot down for the negativity. 

I guess I just wanted to say, please be a little more understanding and supportive of other parents, and don't be so quick to blame the parent. ",6.232563795375582,7.669654169042772,6.1679244039774765,76.56294926320834,66.37270875763747,8.790727207379899,32.974781358571946,9.088552180705676,2.9773243800167726,2131,91,364,37,34,671,230,491,0.123,0.736,0.14,0.7386,7,0,0,0,0,0,61,4,2,8,7,19,27,6,1,28,1,49,4,3,10,6,73,74,28,0,13,16,9,1,2,2,4,1,4,0,9,19,15,0,2,7,1,0,4,11,12,0,5,15,7,69,15,46,45,13,47,0,0,1,0,89,19,0,7,25,273,88,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167827427499447,0.0,0.0,0.05724349360617624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048677699389778485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330779182690059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309245165155898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572346301998938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028444991666672,0.0571517973583085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739358145664839,0.0,0.0,0.06264122751470935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103852603265564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04727873544075276,0.0,0.060310283911896516,0.0,0.0643326049946052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177393626714254,0.0,0.0,0.11060698047294484,0.0,0.07479648939044937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885480853469347,0.0,0.0,0.07619956347675008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959587956924866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471221957119524,0.0,0.063624697116162,0.0,0.07454084863770499,0.039339178757183235,0.11669653259221625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319667002987837,0.0505599483457245,0.06994195855970017,0.07174320985226322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085581243449724,0.0,0.0,0.19112414029234845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052620449334220006,0.10615316832649144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717414685274889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004498901337141,0.0,0.09701060463995702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768949910352982,0.07751550987037864,0.0,0.09925084098454684,0.0,0.0,0.0785747086023942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717668604879027,0.2054807448711384,0.0,0.07195891938386101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147512486634716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112998981142465,0.06809015336739277,0.17077283081431713,0.0,0.0724440387483169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296806208702898,0.06065055431136283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432974513299266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122954548658921,0.06746447373908243,0.0,0.0,0.05753429111193209,0.18769548252500248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047555396706113626,0.04586636974232225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679788912988686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451859768299035,0.0,0.06182321054492775,0.0,0.0,0.04222047131491453,0.05681785830561877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462979200725675,0.0,0.07762680382360537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169852152830383,0.0,0.0,0.13828791947505534
parenting,fwadebailey,2018/02/16,"Will this generation's parents be teaching their kids to find a soulmate, or just their own happiness? I've edited the body of this a dozen times. I have an 11 month old, and im curious! Without my backstory and opinion, what are you all teaching or planning on teaching your kids? ",4.857777777777779,6.398038666666665,5.408333333333335,80.33250000000002,69.74074074074073,8.362962962962964,35.72222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.2149777777777766,224,12,41,4,4,72,44,54,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.8873,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,1,0,1,9,4,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,4,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,3,3,29,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785608883402805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114923624309285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627964820537313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681311521239651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720297156626999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576206942681509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784269820859764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872790125622045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285267762767138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,s3235649,2018/02/16,"Anyone have a simple breakfast menu? My wife constantly just throws frozen pancakes in the microwave for my son (5) because it's easy and she doesn't want to deal with complaints. I was hoping to create a breakfast menu with simple and healthy things to set the expectations and create a bit of structure. I don't mind the odd day here and there with pancakes, but I want to tone that down.

Would love any suggestions, even if it's just a single meal. We don't have a ton of time most mornings since bus pickup is at 6:30 so easy is best.

Thanks!",3.453611111111112,5.307436398148152,3.512222222222224,91.255,73.9074074074074,5.911111111111111,24.037037037037038,6.42735559955562,0.5656592592592586,433,13,88,3,9,132,75,108,0.037000000000000005,0.703,0.26,0.9798,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,8,0,9,4,0,0,0,19,14,7,0,6,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,7,4,13,12,5,8,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,3,3,57,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353115489427715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870997010789686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451948078760878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832278114611879,0.0,0.29464468116991344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29164996573524193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740535929428923,0.2782397362101832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782565944191766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680568471418859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435818824237065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725070631275156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325178273137292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484739833858669,0.0,0.0,0.1792996996230527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573721997273965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31837050467648353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917186652318394,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toxicfamily2016,2018/02/16,"My son was just diagnosed with borderline IQ I want to start off by saying I’m Canadian.

My son is currently 11 and in grade 5. He has always hated school. To the point that he hides his homework. He has outbursts in class and he went off the rails school wise starting in about grade 1. He doesn’t understand social situations that well and when he was 3, we had him assessed at great cost ($4k) to see if he was autistic. (He shows signs but they wouldn’t say he was). He was supposed to be tested again in kindergarten but they never did. 

Anyways, his learning always seemed to be there but had gaps. Making him do the daily 15mins of reading was a huge fight and then he would take the entire time to read maybe two pages with him stopping and whining about it every few seconds. Then in grade 4 he was having a melt down in music class over something they were supposed to do and failing at it, and the teacher hurt him. (Really bad, oozing tug burn because he threw himself on the floor and refused to move, so the teacher tried to forcibly remove him) I was pissed and called up the school to yell, and finally, FINALLY they decided that maybe they should have him assessed after all.

Almost a year later and having been assessed by a team of people (speech language, psychologist, occupational therapy, social skills, school skills) and... they have pretty much said yeah. He has some autistic behaviors but not enough to be actually artistic. He’s been diagnosed with Social Pragmatic Disorder. 

In the middle of all this testing, they did an IQ test on him. Normal is 85-110, with most people falling in the 90-100 range. He came out as 75. His processing ability, that’s the speed in which he can learn new info is 66. To give you a context of what that means, Forrest Gump is a 75.

I feel like my kid’s life just blew up. According to what I’ve been able to look up, he will probably not be able to graduate high school. He definitely will not be able to go to college. Living independently won’t be happening as well. Everything he wanted to do for himself (he wants to code and design video games), he won’t be able to learn the skills do as well. And I keep thinking, what do I do? What did I do to him to make him this way and how can I fix this when it’s unfixable. All those times he would freak out because he didn’t want to do his homework and I thought he was lazy because he wanted to do other things (tv, video games) and he was freaking out because he just couldn’t do them. I’ve been up crying all night because I am a horrible mother. I fucked my kid up. I didn’t do enough sooner. I am the cause of all this. Maybe if I had done xyz instead of abc, he wouldn’t have turned out the way that he has.

His teacher pulled me aside in the hall to tell me that she didn’t think he was low IQ, she thinks they’re wrong but everything that I’ve been able to search up tells me that the expert who tested him was right. The panel of experts are so convinced by this that the strategies they have going forward is just to get him ready for high school which comes in grade 7 here. Instead of supporting his education, they’re switching to making sure he is “meeting” specific goals by the end of 6th grade.

I feel like they’re just trying to pass off the problem to someone else. 

I never thought my kid had autism. I knew something was wrong but I thought ADHD, not autism. I never even suspected that he just couldn’t learn what he was supposed to learn and needs to be put into special ed classes. Something that they would not be able to continue with into high school according to his current school. 

I just don’t know what to do to help my kid. I feel very overwhelmed and frightened for what kind of life he is going to have in the future. 

*edit* thank you all for the support you guys gave me while I was freaking out. Just getting this out there was a huge weight lifted off me. I still feel I could have done better as a parent but I’m pretty sure that’s a feeling that everybody feels in regards to their kids, no matter their abilities. Thanks also for the suggestions, I will be looking into them. I’m not giving up on my kid, I was just really shook at what I thought his capabilities were and what they might actually end up being.",3.92386018237082,5.265085489361706,4.487804795677139,86.80500000000002,71.76595744680851,7.3572441742654515,26.31273218507261,7.793537801064563,1.3658718000675445,3348,109,682,42,63,1064,350,846,0.105,0.7929999999999999,0.102,-0.8929,3,0,3,0,1,0,94,1,3,14,7,29,34,4,2,34,1,100,7,1,6,11,130,158,42,0,19,24,4,7,2,0,12,4,6,2,7,38,37,1,3,26,10,1,15,21,17,3,2,46,16,79,17,111,86,13,99,0,5,3,1,108,54,2,7,32,445,117,35,0.3272195709924257,0.0,0.106439699766007,0.0,0.06554238932219801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05461052226330239,0.0,0.0,0.04361289545024467,0.09075763202633257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045535778968010684,0.16622501111227508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823318655440292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568796122075894,0.0623753361544958,0.0,0.05602410603140423,0.0,0.0469784477348425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04354303355643803,0.0,0.059905888947974224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107069922131514,0.0,0.0,0.06250366288857795,0.0,0.0,0.11161974311124208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04555832727765121,0.0,0.09660647199500964,0.11270176271336227,0.0,0.036020906759870665,0.0,0.0459494335709154,0.0,0.09802795038941796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545204694179405,0.07792190896618356,0.0,0.11948434855197725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050418203439429515,0.05698624011793443,0.10463294302210516,0.0929832114864841,0.0,0.0,0.060126788700952276,0.0,0.053999803445027916,0.04822653099489559,0.0,0.0,0.05384359697966575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036554730157282576,0.17286272117729815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583825530772553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048474631588196176,0.0,0.056791471547396666,0.029971886447727313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704162000811003,0.05328765129597945,0.0,0.04815681268779317,0.0,0.0915940090929323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921080226952733,0.0,0.16436802018076946,0.059406340085846124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785470912382393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579637698413945,0.04009067250763716,0.04043819428445911,0.12618595279801867,0.05267178344978208,0.0,0.05117890015245726,0.053434284046549874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060556434960274574,0.0,0.0,0.07561761657993682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05155471021669165,0.0,0.0,0.11096664708618216,0.058799673601317125,0.052184156245234536,0.0,0.054824341249890204,0.0,0.0,0.10910270708516116,0.0,0.06987507870457668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046573954288361835,0.05187679075692931,0.08673937882835707,0.0,0.4415515670179749,0.043458605470048435,0.049648067987315816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061301417959678715,0.0,0.16677957244726235,0.04620868010570649,0.12595480612589896,0.0,0.0,0.07720256551277598,0.0,0.04355299534688375,0.04559503554535812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377496381161746,0.1028001910586016,0.0,0.041004732401372784,0.0,0.0953347759445968,0.10041993921132722,0.062367349483037286,0.0,0.036231690520280684,0.10483454427238197,0.0,0.17318385905814673,0.0636014544252559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405353648236619,0.05932015496242776,0.053274328999386326,0.05677451890351516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04499840254574932,0.16083548411506715,0.08657722154548605,0.0,0.06641088066718336,0.1471048459064322,0.05055597009709627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622369742243913,0.11925441103046475,0.0,0.03511977923401189
parenting,mysticdream92,2018/02/16,"A thanks to this subreddit, and a miniature rant on my neighbor (and unsolicited advice in general) I’ve posted here on long forgotten accounts, but wanted to say that I appreciate the presence of this particular online forum to voice minor concerns and solicit advice- particularly because it’s right there in the rules that members are to take the advice potentially with a grain of salt. I don’t know, but anytime we’ve queried other parts of the web with our “low hanging fruit” questions that we weren’t concerned enough to bring to our pediatrician, we end up on some variant of an almost cultish website of moms using weird acronyms to describe their children in broken English and the forum members seem to think that they’re all medical experts who want to chime in on highly complex issues because “their kid did that one random thing too and now they’ve been diagnosed with autism.” Oh no, your kid spun around once or stood on their toes for a few seconds, it clearly reveals something about their development! Anyway, this subreddit is something greater than that (in my experience).

This brings me on to a minor rant about my neighbor. I don’t know how someone could possibly have the nerve to voice perceived shortcomings in an acquaintance’s parenting and in the same breath disclose that they didn’t take their <2 year old for a flu vaccine this year (forgive me if I’ve overlooked some reason for that). Yes, my kid is going to be just fine if I have him on my back in my kid backpack for 10 minutes while I knock out some yard work, he wasn’t going to get eaten alive by mosquitoes; I’d put the baby bug spray on, covered him up, and the season wasn’t even right to be concerned about that. Yes, it’s normal for babies to still have a bowed appearance to their legs when they’re less than two years and even later, especially if they’re higher on the growth chart. No, it doesn’t mean that we’re not giving him enough vitamin D- dude eats and drinks like a champ (and never prepackaged stuff, we work hard to cook something healthy and nutritious every meal). Yes, we asked our pediatrician about it and he said it’s totally normal. No, please don’t ask your wife what the name of your pediatrician is or imply that ours is not qualified enough. No, it is not normal to be feeding your baby formula after one year “to make sure that they’re getting the right amount of nutrition” and we’re simply normal parents for switching to milk after one year- my son is at the top of every percentile and doing just fine, don’t concern yourself with crap that isn’t your business. You’re my neighbor who I barely talk to, not my dad nor my son’s pediatrician. Your concerns are not appropriate for occasional 2 minute small talk. If we want “friendly advice” we’ll ask our actual friend who also happens to be a pediatrician.

 I can’t imagine even saying some of the stuff he’s said, even to a family member. We don’t show our little guy TV and opt to read every time instead, but when we visit other people’s homes or have people over you can bet we shut the hell up about it. Kids are resilient, many approaches to parenting are valid. Chill out, seriously.

Phew... Anyway, keep on parenting as you guys see fit. Your kids are loved by you and if they grow up feeling that way by your words and actions, then don’t care too much if other people are doing certain things differently. If you’re here it probably means you’re open minded enough to realize that others can offer meaningful advice (where you feel it is needed), so you’re probably doing a damn fine job. ",10.124623225152126,7.693287607352942,9.363356997971604,69.69588235294121,59.691176470588246,12.026369168356998,38.889452332657214,10.245366335075165,3.842625253549695,2863,105,517,45,29,911,331,680,0.07,0.804,0.126,0.9913,8,0,4,0,0,0,68,15,12,8,4,29,19,3,0,28,3,43,17,4,4,6,102,80,39,0,16,20,9,3,1,5,1,4,6,5,9,42,33,8,1,17,6,2,12,24,6,0,5,10,12,57,13,86,64,17,74,1,1,1,1,83,39,3,20,22,342,99,6,0.0,0.0,0.06562391517440347,0.0,0.0,0.3285676726285432,0.0,0.0,0.06733871456825269,0.0,0.0,0.053777847134646256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059864583148685625,0.18860216446861655,0.0,0.0,0.0517092204828964,0.0,0.08198697330471011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856336630069232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536917023784478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825485492894431,0.0,0.0702593842796349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587700456724935,0.0,0.06881103930691783,0.0,0.0,0.059561375477719725,0.2779388116489005,0.0,0.17766550900924452,0.0,0.16997690171610072,0.0,0.0,0.06578101465990144,0.06339501197536919,0.0,0.06800477088785906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391059163546676,0.0,0.07026814611143482,0.06450998445528977,0.07643667286606892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317130839343824,0.05946679267457866,0.0,0.06024060241502981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105073624655485,0.06745478282409778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018897817159712,0.06673282397536638,0.059772718608704166,0.0,0.0,0.07391499743747525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03285375960452817,0.0673997188034586,0.0,0.059511971895819665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606935458225917,0.0,0.04488826656482073,0.06817846800032662,0.0,0.1465046080056819,0.0,0.06774483899865884,0.0,0.0,0.06790086256965419,0.07875952614470581,0.0,0.0,0.049434692087814175,0.04986321151531268,0.05186546173293543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635533118852815,0.0,0.0,0.07056499894290535,0.07161645361216433,0.13670605525911667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986818158888852,0.07282255113659968,0.0,0.13986296655405808,0.0,0.0,0.07381762365763457,0.0,0.07581151652400688,0.06440457078121968,0.0,0.14500848090245233,0.0,0.0,0.06760236880758938,0.07533265430316165,0.0,0.06726575526607198,0.0,0.0,0.06914168878631087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17228713904351478,0.12793565271743607,0.10695591308555022,0.0,0.0,0.053587596455718825,0.06121965036232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05697863692295881,0.15531136467286766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053703985984896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396472813537898,0.0,0.0,0.06338002674540258,0.0,0.10112358778810368,0.10810207824505977,0.0,0.061912515603764276,0.0,0.0,0.08935257767750594,0.043089519266476764,0.0,0.0,0.039212591348408106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569109185603905,0.0,0.0,0.058080297979916734,0.0,0.0,0.11899305454416995,0.05337798072736572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979140449988137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21652610994423446
parenting,SleepingTootie,2018/02/16,"Adopted my 5 year old sister at 23, now 28 and don't know if I want children of my own So I am not exactly sure where to post this, but let me give you a backstory here.

I was raised by a single mother. She had me when she was 21, and we were dirt poor, I had health issues- she had mental health issues, but she was my best friend. She sacrificed so much so I could grow up as a strong, independent, intelligent, woman who always stood up for herself... She succeeded, I hope.

I am now 28 years old. I did not meet my father until I was 18 when my mom was having an affair with him behind her husband's back, became pregnant, and left me and my half sister behind to start her new life. 

I am so lucky to have went 18 years not knowing this narcissistic, abusive, drug addict alcoholic man. But, my mom was weak mentally, and she surrendered the remainder of her sanity to become his punching bag, and subsequently, became a raging alcoholic herself. The years leading up to me adopting my sister was full of 911 calls, her passed out drunk while a 3 year old ran around the house unattended, and multiple CPS calls on my end to stop the madness. I was still getting my life together, and going to college, so my grandmother stepped in.

Fast forward to me being 23 years old and living with my two girl friends, my grandma became critically ill- and just like that, overnight I became a mother to a 5, going on 6 year old girl with emotional and behavioral baggage that I didn't even know where to begin with. 

We shared a bed, until I could fit another smaller one in my little room, eventually my roommates and I got a bigger place so she could have her own room- and now, a place for just the two of us.

A lot of my dreams were put on hold, med school never happened, men didn't want to date a girl who had a child, job opportunities were limited due to hours I was available and the cost of child care. And now I am currently finishing the hardest two years of my life, throwing away my bachelor's and finishing up my nursing degree so I had a quick career in the medical field that would pay enough to support her.

And here is the issue, I am now 28, dating a man who is 30, he is my best friend- he doesn't want kids, but would sacrifice it for me if it is what I truly wanted, which I ALWAYS did. I absolutely love babies, and children, and they love me. My nieces and nephews adore me, and I them. I always have daydreams of falling asleep with my baby on my chest, or having a big ole belly, and having a living part of me exist.

BUT

My sister is now going on 11, she is beautiful and smart and funny, and so damn resilient I can't even comprehend. But she is also nasty, argumentative, and sucks all of my free time from me (unintentionally of course) and I feel like I am never doing enough, and I am always running on fumes. I am an introvert, and now my fantasy is a quiet home with a dog, maybe a husband, and a ton of traveling. I am not becoming more fertile with the years passing, and I feel like so much of my youth was wasted climbing out of poverty, or taking care of my mentally ill mom, or working my ass off to make sure my sisters had birthday and Christmas presents, and always a safe place to come to.. And the past almost 6 years raising one by myself. 

I feel like I did such a good chunk of parenting already,  and I am exhausted. As much as I would love a baby, I don't know if I would love giving away another huge part of my life. They eventually grow out of a baby stage, and I don't know if I want anything past that anymore, does anyone regret not having kids, or anyone in my position? I feel very alone in this circumstance sometimes, and helpless, and tired. 

Just looking for insight. ",6.252648648648648,5.610759913513512,7.028783783783788,77.6202027027027,66.08108108108108,9.940540540540539,32.013513513513516,9.321569398390272,2.6545918918918923,2896,100,576,47,40,966,326,740,0.12,0.7020000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.9963,3,1,3,0,0,0,98,3,1,3,9,33,38,5,0,38,0,64,24,3,3,6,114,104,70,0,18,22,15,4,4,3,4,16,1,4,13,14,52,3,4,10,4,4,19,14,9,0,6,28,6,110,30,78,67,17,108,1,2,1,5,74,38,3,12,55,419,124,8,0.0,0.06585368752343689,0.0,0.06059084190522869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879709282617447,0.055655743800711636,0.05756453406205035,0.06133435544794345,0.04444762721518891,0.2312367336308721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656179480165878,0.0,0.0,0.05512082365681933,0.0777262184532274,0.0,0.045737934899939936,0.049478341305173215,0.0,0.0,0.10443923411658036,0.042737898188026965,0.0,0.0,0.12276837405015473,0.0,0.0,0.1166564052396115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135076089381864,0.0,0.11333584768916073,0.0,0.0,0.04787759470014278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312928458577006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04863878413904547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445562044402553,0.0,0.0,0.06252047107420686,0.04922773883136767,0.11485882521358948,0.0,0.07342066235626774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241248455743982,0.119119950390913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882384160412338,0.0,0.02903846592857873,0.1066355718386164,0.09476286953103756,0.046618204010758856,0.04445272466216442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049149565728520035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815873605047378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575167472472952,0.055203879919330574,0.05473549992454939,0.06413232127552174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403449761991122,0.05515497256049493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272767629981818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060388269149662985,0.056834726497723725,0.1570323259129315,0.10861510732204252,0.055706164069455215,0.09815702608695763,0.0,0.04667353920529988,0.0,0.0,0.047252470011266895,0.20065393040641566,0.0,0.03710034977067336,0.0,0.055837984092176,0.0,0.0617372966623126,0.05599140742890555,0.1680359170038312,0.0,0.0,0.19528528441980936,0.0,0.0,0.12257397139283605,0.0,0.08573406453691887,0.05367989837331328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916114101408317,0.0,0.07532543734353167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06171545866900285,0.120376317693585,0.10611556508690263,0.0,0.0,0.1742090704938996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323066105399479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055873655189287684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056250333887735926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05497043853817594,0.0,0.039340094443887884,0.0,0.04438658065001933,0.04646770460574858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307198127155539,0.10476774180323968,0.0,0.041789545065038125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032409379238104934,0.06388149562774413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288192914447513,0.0,0.06685637989548995,0.0,0.0,0.045859652311189374,0.16391380501385258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05152358927743163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404631944482834,0.0,0.0,0.15793089095240695,0.0,0.0,0.3579195646512243
parenting,Doc_Skydive,2018/02/16,"How to get a 2-year-old to go to bed earlier Hi parents! I’m looking for advice. My daughter just turned 2 in January. We have her in a toddler bed because she started climbing out of her crib a few months ago. 

The problem we’re having is that she is going to bed later and later. It has gotten to the point that she won’t go to sleep until almost 10:00. It’s 9:45 right now, and she’s completely awake running around playing toys.

I have no idea how to back her bedtime up. If we lay her down in her bed, she’ll just get out of bed & trash her entire room (pull out every toy and book possible). She’s on a routine (dinner, bath, lights down & reading books to wind down) but it doesn’t work at all. 

It’s killing me. I need a little time to myself at the end of the night, and I’m not getting any time at all. Plus, it can’t be good for her to be going to bed so late. 

Looking for your advice and ideas. Thank you guys SO much!",1.7524499999999996,2.970277945000003,3.3270000000000017,93.47350000000002,77.05,5.8000000000000025,22.5,5.985473137389443,0.18489999999999984,719,20,166,4,16,238,120,200,0.053,0.903,0.044,-0.3887,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,2,2,0,2,9,5,1,0,9,0,12,2,1,2,2,26,28,13,1,3,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,1,7,12,1,0,2,7,0,7,5,2,0,0,1,3,22,3,34,23,4,39,0,0,2,0,21,19,0,2,13,104,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725131332067125,0.12360279939432042,0.0,0.1396263663608585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021606253073554,0.0,0.09482218088183003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412880573011728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072187167466842,0.0,0.08499971557861015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146197410682768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350010668795187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174819829576666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185507840926132,0.0,0.316981841944292,0.11695343531116785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380649008056909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31481559610784593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426677064392738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729140653828105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975285822737302,0.0,0.0,0.2341845149989269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112975640697162,0.0,0.10250249759955404,0.10339102971603817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085250912230828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631604505413054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482867811635342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181336779086106,0.1571946635515934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342271445416476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947508574433606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907873674943027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395380520046381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869447543746293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837517973782536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626140825727238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166779855047613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151205295893352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897930830655287
parenting,quesnelcody,2018/02/16,"My sons picky diet. Hello!  First time posting. 

My two and a half year old is incredibly picky and I dont know how to change that.

His diet consists of cucumbers, pretty much any berry, apples, grapefruits, oranges, crackers and cheese, mac and cheese, yogurt, chicken nuggets, fries, grilled cheese, hot dogs, pb& j sandwiches/toast, cereal, milk, and bear paws.  My wife and I eat healthy, theres home cooked meals that he is presented with every day, however he absolutely refuses to touch them.  

Hes a “healthy” kid, extremely active, gaining weight/isnt underweight, but we just dont want this to get to the point where he wont touch meals, and we’re trying to fix it before he gets too set in his ways.   

Help??!",5.080454545454543,6.813469166666668,4.9337575757575785,83.20063636363638,69.45454545454545,8.31030303030303,28.35151515151515,8.841846274778883,2.1867369696969696,558,20,104,10,10,172,99,132,0.011,0.903,0.086,0.815,1,0,0,0,0,0,35,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,3,0,6,7,0,1,0,15,10,9,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,9,7,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,3,10,0,8,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,6,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219204156421696,0.0,0.13928338791321973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428518810902066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21667047962747865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209078381008132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800907699963313,0.0,0.0,0.20958013406192508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256815286182167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421824177641454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140180940536515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137285310641946,0.0,0.20544933734159115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125627168849892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056493114226946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21492222886752574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361938596458145,0.0,0.19615920228037834,0.20837372551479105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943112957587095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905810159688622,0.0,0.20007760348532908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080707095350195,0.1625751401152212,0.0,0.2494133684798409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318961945847477
parenting,Featherfoster,2018/02/16,"My fat kid I just have to vent. My kid is so fat right now despite my best efforts. I know people blame the parents, but I have done everything I possibly could.

We ate healthy and limited (but never restricted) sweets and junk. My son was asking for ‘broccoli pizza’ at age 3. All of my friends were so impressed that my son ate real food and not just Mac and cheese and chicken nuggets. He has never had much of a sweet tooth. But at parties or holidays I’d let him have whatever they were serving so that he wouldn’t end up glorifying junk food due to being restricted. We talked about balanced portions and being active, and we get out as a family to play games or go for walks. I work in health care and am a former personal trainer. I’m active and healthy but not obsessive, and I don’t eat a super restricted diet or have an eating disorder. We would get popcorn and candy at the movies and things like that, but then at home I’d have bananas and yogurt and granola bars for snack options instead of soda and chips and candy.

For most of his life so far he was always in the 99% percentile for height and weight and most people though he was older than his age, so he had a stocky build but was not fat or even chubby. For a couple years he was on the leaner side.

Then about a year and a half ago he started gaining weight. Ar first it seemed like just normal growth spurt stuff, but eventually it was clear that he was overweight. I tried to balance it by increasing his physical activity, but he outgained my efforts. He keeps getting fatter and fatter, and now he is completely obese and weighs more than me, a woman 7 inches taller than him.

I tried to talk to his doctor but all he would do was to tell him to eat more lean protein and less junk as if I don’t already know that and have been trying to enforce it.

We found out that he’s binging at the table at school where kids leave food they don’t want. I can’t even believe his school does this but I’ve talked to them and they won’t stop. So of course kids share at school but with this share table he can eat a week’s worth of junk food every day at lunch!!

I also used to pack his lunch but then he would buy school lunch also (even if there is no money on the account they let it go into the negative and bill me for it) and then just eat what he wanted from each one- of course always throwing away the healthy stuff. I had to stop packing a lunch so that he wouldn’t eat double lunches. 

I also had to stop letting him go to a friend’s house after school because they have a well stocked snack pantry that the kids were allowed to get into themselves and when I would go to pick him up he’d be hovering in the pantry while the kids were playing outside! 

I took him to a therapist but they didn’t seem to take it seriously although I believe he probably has binge eating disorder.

He is upset about his weight and he gets bullied, but at the same time he throws a raging fit when he doesn’t get the food he wants. He constantly walks around and lifts his shirt and slaps his huge belly. And the fatter he gets the more he pretends to be injured during sports or activities, making it harder to get him into shape It makes me want to scream. 

I’m totally at my wits end. My kid is morbidly obese, probably going to get diabetes, and I literally don’t know what to do other than lock him in his room for a month with portioned meals (and just FYI I would never do that, so you don’t need to call CPS). 

We were already in crisis mode when he started school this year, and he already has entirely new clothes since then because he has gained at least another 20 pounds. 

I am still taking him to sports and activities even though he fakes an injury EVERY SINGLE TIME. 

And I have gotten to the point where I do control the food he eats at home and am having him spend less time with friends so that I can limit his totally out of control eating. But I don’t want him to have to lose out on socializing, and at the same time I can’t let him kill himself with food. I know that it can make things worse when parents are too controlling, but we are beyond that point. It seems like a full blown addiction now. 

Next time you want to judge a parent with an obese kid, keep in mind they might be in my situation. The problem is bigger than just the parents. 

And if you have advice because you dealt with this, either as the parent or the kid, I’d love your advice!



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parenting,TarmacFFS,2018/02/16,"My son's friend smells absolute rancid. Ideas on how to address it? My son is in eighth grade and is a very sweet kid who makes friends with anyone. He's tall, handsome, straight-A student, etc. etc. (let a father brag about his son for a moment) and because he is so friendly this tends to attract social outcasts that want to be friends with a _cool kid_.

A little backstory: I grew up super poor and have found a lot of success in my life so I live a bit vicariously through my son as long as he remains hard-working and respectful, I spoil him a bit. Because of this his room is more like a studio apartment. It is every teenagers fantasy bedroom and because of this his friends _always_ want to come over to our house. We have a great relationship with our sons and we absolutely love being the house that all the kids want to hang out at.

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To the issue: My son's friend is underprivileged and I can only assume based on what I know of him that his parents really don't care for him well at all. I don't think he bathes or does his laundry at all. He always smells like week-old ass. It's so bad that when he's over, the entire floor that my son's room is on smells like rotting flesh. Anywhere he walks he leaves a trail of stench that is unbearable and I can't deal with it anymore. The worst part is that I don't think he's aware of it at all.

I've told my son he can't have this kid over anymore unless he bathes and washes his clothes. My son doesn't want his friend to feel excluded, so now he doesn't want to invite any of his friends over.

I'm at a bit of a loss of how to approach this one. I have no problems being direct with people, but my son is young and a bit shy and isn't comfortable telling his friend he stinks.

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I'm considering taking his friend aside myself to save him the embarrassment of having his peer talk down to him, but I'm not sure how he'd respond to this. On the other hand, I would like for my son get comfortable confronting his peers as it's an important quality for leadership.

I'd love to get some opinions on this.",3.5768789308176103,4.501886955188682,4.365867924528306,88.9344779874214,72.13679245283019,7.351446540880502,26.16163522012579,7.554174236665415,1.1317725786163528,1615,51,355,18,30,519,194,424,0.098,0.7290000000000001,0.173,0.9827,1,0,0,0,0,0,45,4,0,0,3,11,39,1,1,22,1,30,7,3,4,5,52,53,26,0,7,5,13,2,4,10,1,2,0,7,4,23,20,0,0,7,3,1,5,10,9,1,1,2,10,43,30,58,45,15,35,0,1,0,3,72,25,1,5,9,213,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515158816346062,0.0,0.0,0.0552276839552597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108311904260933,0.05678607860517754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780953522455667,0.14852023180460242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35465462722389585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280215458486484,0.0,0.0,0.06995788320012494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372712646015165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107011956440837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811481190359272,0.0,0.0,0.0684255283403475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04106377687809039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904595786446219,0.6274502942191303,0.0,0.0848609718372615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895377149300762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275097391774818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874179966326695,0.0,0.09167968973260787,0.0,0.08476536282116014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04463258861238202,0.0,0.0,0.08599293270185644,0.0,0.08304588363180546,0.057363204979614675,0.15870644796159375,0.08139684844039005,0.07171264355770278,0.0718710262118217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904446220970574,0.1465959632572787,0.0,0.05421036608451027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521947310939244,0.0,0.05503208944267834,0.06176621213097418,0.0,0.0,0.09017752199642903,0.08794585887210242,0.0,0.056302928722010336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770995602295262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05202718299894781,0.0,0.0,0.08719246209893791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278651461117342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654237321356111,0.0,0.06106213419776445,0.0652760028915194,0.07098381749526897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407613359130803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760258477004439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700930195173231,0.23950791383454684,0.0,0.06514423955177423,0.0,0.07302031835378509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591240944505617,0.0,0.0,0.057691446761981985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hooterdear,2018/02/16,"Google Play only allows for 1 (one) refund per accidental purchase I just got off a long phone call with Google Play. While dealing with a personal emergency, my 4-year old got a hold of my phone and quickly spent $100 on a Pocoyo game. He had done with once before and I thought that I could get another refund. But beware, they would not give me the refund, because it is only a courtesy that Google does for its customers.       
It is an ""internal policy"" that Google has and has not advertised it or put it in any contract.  So, if you think, like I did, that Google will give you a refund after your child has already purchased something without your consent or knowledge, they will not. If I had know that, I would've been a lot more restrictive about what games my child plays. ",6.193549589858314,6.562842255033559,5.8344519015659975,82.71970171513797,66.04697986577182,8.769873228933632,30.64951528709918,8.515128840125781,2.1703372110365398,612,21,118,8,9,189,98,149,0.039,0.878,0.083,0.7379,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,4,2,0,4,4,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,26,23,10,0,4,10,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,11,6,0,2,4,5,7,1,4,0,0,1,9,0,16,4,12,10,2,9,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,5,6,80,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20574476660244487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678780589018432,0.1955020077335261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136540769182708,0.0,0.15864947665739154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037940757696345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488597670098998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922148078121902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315774768364588,0.19079618019387695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740890486799443,0.35770671557925404,0.0,0.0,0.2982314037105098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246433629097006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108675611843592,0.0,0.0,0.16499641244877822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850738697512656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956408315693713,0.19855598028237226,0.12633877385917536,0.28359699170358144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279505763126878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874269658854128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435331254491509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194653086870842,0.0,0.1480151174805972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17972464327074916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26488787614224985,0.0,0.0,0.12006334256518872
parenting,lionbabe17,2018/02/17,"My 10yr. old daughter just said this to me.. ""Mom, what should I do with my inner critic?""

I was like, huh, where did you get that? What do you mean?

She said, ""Sometimes I get this inner voice in my head and it always criticizes me, like when I'm dancing and I hear it say that I don't dance good enough.""

Wow. Talk about being blown away at 7am on a Sunday. I was suddenly compelled to talk to her about disciplining the inner critics in our head and that not everything it says is true. She was still the whole time, and I told her to let me know what her ""inner critic"" says next time so we can talk about it, and she agreed.",0.5673956043956068,2.677862992307692,1.9191208791208787,97.8423076923077,84.46153846153845,4.945054945054945,16.20879120879121,6.18269132825596,-0.6463516483516485,479,9,112,4,14,153,79,130,0.068,0.816,0.116,0.7457,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,2,2,0,0,8,5,0,0,3,1,12,2,2,1,1,15,21,7,0,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,7,0,0,12,7,0,1,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,7,7,23,5,13,11,2,20,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,0,10,76,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348343581135811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522465405135686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674357240757044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563552918736564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932356951267152,0.0,0.0,0.13591559428080946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33260968445828965,0.0,0.18263640668169548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905565251988773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16570191391205513,0.0,0.1583339295540249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651442759167907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18978505678518254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233661528584987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003888909666656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30828366172769456,0.3865938832813179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026657354857787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294092858177925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907367158476868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18897939690694893,0.0,0.0,0.15484086939131653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091737095297256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,veryscarednewDad,2018/02/17,"Help! Omg Help me. I have been getting erect when my new born child is on my lap and even when I’m bouncing around with her in my arms. I’m a new dad. My baby girl is now 10 weeks old. A few days ago. I had my child sitting on my penis area and I started to feel a change so I picked her up and sat her to the right of my lap and onto the couch. Letting it go away on it’s own. 
My girlfriend also the mother of my daughter. Noticed me erect too. Then goes on to ask why am I hard and I my answer was that I was thinking of my girlfriend. She asks why are you thinking that way when our child is in your hands and why didn’t you just give her to me once it happens? I tell her I wanted to have sex with my girlfriend and that I set her to the side of me waiting for it to go away. 
Now she’s telling me that this has happened before and that I try to hide from her. 
She’s says there was a time where I was holding my baby near the bed kissing her and bouncing her and then I walk off with my daughter to go watch a movie with her and she says that I was hard when I walked away from her and she asked me to come back into the room with my daughter. I know for a fact that I wasn’t hard. But she won’t believe me. And 
now she’s going on to say that I’m hiding my erect penis from her all the time. Like the way I change my daughter is on the couch and im on my knees and I’m facing her directly and she goes on to tell me that I’m taking too long when I change her and that she can’t see my penis when I’m changing her. Then when I get up from the way I’m facing that I don’t turn around her way because I’m trying to  hide my erect penis. I’m not even erect. I can’t prove it to her. I’ve never gotten hard when I change my daughter. I have no explanation as to why when’s she’s on my lap that sometimes I start to get hard. 
I’m so so scared. She’s already thinking that I’m doing something to my daughter. And now she’s thinking that I’ve been doing something wrong to my daughter. 

My girlfriend has been molested as a child and she tell me she sees all the signs of a molester.  She wants to protect our child and so do I. She wants to set ground rules and I will follow them and she wants to go to a counselor and a doctor. But ive been doing some talking and going to a doctor or a counselor is not a good choice because it will end up hurting me in the long run if she still chooses to leave me afterwards. And all it does is build a case that will never get me to see my daughter again. 

I want to be with my girlfriend forever. I want my daughter to know me and I want us to be a whole family. 

I don’t know what to do. I’m not getting aroused by my daughter but still it has happened. I don’t know what’s going on with my body part. I’m so lost. And she’s losing sleep because we all live together and it’s just not right. Please help me. 

Is this normal? Is there an explanation as to why sometimes I get erect while holding or bouncing my baby girl around? ",0.7606562308654787,2.1258468892261,2.563256928360357,97.27741367835371,80.10773899848255,5.110145622021671,20.817852674174045,5.269290842449632,-0.3149985837126961,2296,61,566,8,57,762,214,659,0.065,0.914,0.022,-0.9625,0,0,2,0,0,0,42,4,3,1,2,35,10,2,1,28,0,46,12,8,1,8,86,108,56,0,9,12,12,7,1,5,4,2,3,4,7,28,41,0,4,12,0,0,12,15,7,0,0,15,14,123,3,78,86,9,90,0,3,4,3,83,33,0,4,39,388,151,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054828095465638216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825525664954415,0.04946304857822885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518426873718334,0.1734699048050997,0.0,0.174336063618356,0.04756039560832589,0.0,0.11311327598888372,0.0,0.052631524608788983,0.06968606070712226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687036653073116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271562490261191,0.05328004982125679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03988944450256867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661635368578192,0.05412713103914489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478254273110477,0.0,0.0,0.08170536913459339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05830859218116434,0.0,0.031274246415587965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389080689171653,0.05933410623343977,0.24606355081177575,0.05187855087179928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640866459839642,0.0,0.2770363637071607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437434214358532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621388076092763,0.0,0.06681080968403028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596903943572294,0.0,0.0,0.06549237239674957,0.0,0.0632478945181261,0.0,0.030217779139196824,0.0,0.054616478469457316,0.10947420596808094,0.0,0.06919660397806053,0.06751880069110089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540820207269644,0.1194741581168698,0.0,0.0,0.06060186007490929,0.0,0.07041894971471542,0.06490330417832844,0.06587039669233606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697972448472353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789495860191637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056425967440567,0.0,0.1475616580029778,0.06192467537597506,0.0,0.14786418727640535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061896701967018984,0.0,0.0,0.0952334338999084,0.12234648471184012,0.0,0.08755837485449297,0.0,0.09879022717159223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04650503136211743,0.049714321347368105,0.21624561291152253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852914151464104,0.0,0.0,0.07213283588271349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398694089448197,0.06727725082876072,0.0,0.0,0.07440038026158304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25537352185541834,0.196381059815575,0.049613970150546506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27905919733062684,0.06905558616904922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676254885747887,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jillybean_va86,2018/02/17,"17mo vomiting after drinking milk or water My 17month old has been vomiting atleast once a day, always after either drinking water or nursing. 

It happens after nursing (for comfort) at  night, he'll switch from breast to breast and without fail I get vomited on.  With water or dying the day it's normally when he is playing a drinking water from his sippy cup with a straw.

Once he's done and clean he goes back about his business like nothing happened. 

Any advice or what could be happening or how to stop it? 

Thanks",6.755807560137455,7.464501505154643,6.894381443298968,74.42789518900345,64.87628865979381,8.52852233676976,35.75429553264605,8.344100000000001,3.141056357388317,414,19,66,5,6,133,68,97,0.022,0.8490000000000001,0.129,0.8608,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,4,0,6,13,2,1,0,15,12,9,1,2,7,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,0,4,4,8,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,4,14,7,1,12,0,1,0,2,6,2,0,5,11,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671257582816063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423082952005406,0.0,0.0,0.11630433143029988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150932674263474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365512681397143,0.0,0.0,0.22059673489142165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17749918710634574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502016081991234,0.0,0.5026245089882568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935463056945962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4537162499344433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355522992238812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049740100803264,0.16757030121102498,0.16410516962718694,0.0,0.1794642312514787,0.3642766806490957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429863612172113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745882780590406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16486407608676726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,junior1976S,2018/02/17,"What Humidifier do you use during cold and flu season for the kiddos room? All three kids keep getting sick, we have all been on this endless cycle of viruses, pneumonia and strep throat since Christmas. I bought two cheaper cool mist humidifiers that I personally don't think are doing much of anything. Before I budget for nicer better functioning ones, which ones do you parents use and think help the most?",6.0741552511415495,8.508604931506854,5.6426712328767135,76.27761415525117,68.17808219178083,7.606392694063928,28.605022831050228,8.344100000000001,2.242554337899543,332,12,53,5,6,102,59,73,0.07400000000000001,0.787,0.139,0.644,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,7,3,1,2,2,12,14,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,4,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,2,2,6,2,5,12,4,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,1,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21736499192380254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22476397274684096,0.0,0.0,0.2336106637866992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138002424592489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704770069368195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347800688922239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417354077572047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579766580116228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29329658640051964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230637154736874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849961710954327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385009260878101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25802672909243163,0.0,0.0,0.45626488734009296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ajmagnifica,2018/02/17,"Fear of gorillas solved! My little boy has always had an inherent fear of gorillas. Terrified of them. His whole life he would see one on TV and scream and run, he would wake up screaming that gorillas were coming, refused to go to zoos because that’s where gorillas live in this country. The fear of gorillas coming to the house while he was asleep has escalated a lot lately, so my husband had an idea. He bought a big stuffed gorilla, gave it to our son and said that he needed to put it in his window. He told him that there could only be one gorilla in a house at any time, and if a gorilla came, he would see this one in the window and pass us by because there was already a gorilla here. Worked like a charm. He doesn’t touch or go near the window gorilla, but since it’s been there, not one gorilla terror! ",6.0610156782549405,5.5799286257668745,6.675787321063397,79.4583571915474,66.4233128834356,10.680027266530336,31.60804362644853,10.25414643259724,2.9376563053851403,638,22,131,14,9,210,96,163,0.08800000000000001,0.8590000000000001,0.053,-0.5886,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,1,1,6,8,0,4,12,0,14,3,2,0,0,20,26,10,0,6,4,2,1,1,0,3,1,3,3,1,9,8,0,1,1,1,1,8,2,6,0,4,11,6,8,2,18,10,2,22,0,0,2,0,21,11,0,3,4,83,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485147992935413,0.0,0.1119831677814902,0.0,0.0,0.0915205079360956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408011441695755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392617850560752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318612893416373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745293202561526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543271579258215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297232626095286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310579568429536,0.0,0.15192691727846452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181457847195387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505938472505364,0.06575006269475872,0.13488671586693302,0.11883854425541372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144169698791982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997909926522368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647855146457866,0.10235582415686337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529227829379312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801848689954684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144891707394926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132778282239872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847596045678848,0.0,0.0,0.12859905515976264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161885810475316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025621502901032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797744116448262,0.0,0.0,0.28680999091880066,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NaeTeaspoon,2018/02/17,"Looking for carrier recs for 2XL Dad (x post from Daddit) Hey all, 

My other half is after a structured carrier, our current Ergo is too small for him and fits weird around his middle. Looking for dads who can give us a bit of guidance as to what might work before we order off the internet. 

What he knows he wants:
- structured type carrier
- something that’s got an all seasons or airflow option
- multi-way carry 
- something that works for bigger guys - not just a long waist strap on a small carrier. 

The two that keep coming up in my search are the Beco 8 and the Lillebaby Complete All Seasons so I’d be keen to hear from anyone that’s used those. In saying that, am open to any other recs. 

Thanks",5.138717320261434,5.976789227941179,5.573921568627451,82.01486928104578,68.48529411764707,7.809150326797385,28.346405228758172,7.793537801064563,1.7693718954248363,549,18,102,6,9,176,100,136,0.013,0.944,0.043,0.6077,1,0,2,0,0,0,17,3,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,9,0,7,1,1,1,3,18,18,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,11,6,1,1,1,0,0,5,1,1,0,2,1,4,7,2,19,15,4,24,0,0,2,0,15,12,0,3,5,65,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299260397366855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367453407836913,0.0,0.0,0.174096534678557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641353536791278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350905473433607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684640815792223,0.2050487993430541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760616302863392,0.0,0.0,0.1564131924506066,0.0,0.0,0.19364256869811733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204187820650964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382937674928706,0.0,0.0,0.10747878159176152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307108032835866,0.3284548843991622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074662086024909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729960188015388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555231227897062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011148268705805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800522755345387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910410270958059,0.0,0.2352436188021724,0.1689075256113849,0.0,0.0,0.11535077646551885,0.15523237587226404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847509334244488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jaxsonnn,2018/02/17,"I don’t know how to get my 8 year old to eat. My daughter is extremely picky. Won’t eat anything other than certain kinds of chicken nuggets, hot dogs, Taco Bell tacos, noodles (only with butter) and just a few other things. 

I have tried everything I can think of to get her to eat. I have gotten her to try things and I see the look on her face that she actually does like it, but it’s like she wants to prove to me that she was right when she said she doesn’t like it so that’s what she says and just walks away. 


My biggest problem is that she’s losing weight. Her little jeans are starting to get big on her. She needs to eat but she’s so stubborn about everything. I don’t know what else to do. ",2.0490990990990987,3.4126526486486526,3.0132432432432448,95.42612612612612,76.56756756756756,6.014414414414415,21.792792792792795,6.42735559955562,0.1088900900900902,544,14,128,4,12,173,85,148,0.08,0.853,0.067,-0.5976,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,1,7,8,1,0,2,0,12,6,1,1,2,18,25,9,0,3,4,1,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,13,4,5,1,4,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,7,24,5,18,21,1,12,0,1,2,0,17,7,0,0,7,81,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.1429055963611425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050872238880796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758643342980525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815177921706045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5993840862588854,0.12233292546186013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26322401775383725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22952862455461764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249609173173326,0.16096063090357568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146314844144799,0.14677266640650585,0.0,0.0,0.12297382011888808,0.1638303701918666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858437749622303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366552314593662,0.0,0.0,0.1113752168787225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012455851007405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506008053586265,0.13929922269075748,0.11645600924007972,0.0,0.0,0.11669476605766008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365191455319064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457820164301656,0.09383367986085377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988480767407028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637488013973932,0.0,0.0,0.17832606682424004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430340383412028
parenting,SaguaroJack,2018/02/17,"The Ex and our 9 y/o daughter are moving in with her new BF. How should I handle it? My Ex (never married) and our 9 y/o daughter are moving in with her new BF and his 9 y/o daughter (from previous relationship) next month. We have 50/50 custody. I'm in need for advice. I want to approach it maturely and with my daughters best interests at heart. 

I feel like I should definitely meet the man my daughter will be living with. How do I approach this meeting and what questions should I ask? 

Is there anything else I should consider?

Thank you for the responses. ",1.780405405405407,4.202145351351351,3.4319144144144147,86.93273648648649,81.97297297297297,6.222522522522524,26.367117117117118,7.492282038375204,1.5784468468468464,438,19,86,7,12,145,68,111,0.0,0.853,0.147,0.9292,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,11,1,1,2,1,21,17,7,0,6,0,7,1,1,2,5,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,17,4,12,11,1,13,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,1,6,57,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071194733687424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442048457475948,0.0,0.19814883525839666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22243315942396505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706077797143127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071705580480147,0.1514203291363995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511670897277933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355025698413772,0.0,0.18715969678078906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691800507820492,0.4505481564205232,0.0,0.1571615677663079,0.1634723683284696,0.4094139320754265,0.22541600339094964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23743753549942084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275597991988237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513921628685085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501624903509298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Doomanand,2018/02/17,"My baby is running a slight fever for the last two days. Hello. We needed some advice. We are first time parents of a 7 month old girl. Our baby has been running a slightly higher temperature for the last two days. However it is not continuously high. It has been fluctuating between high and low on a four hour cycle. Today morning she had her regular milk feed when she woke up. However she vomited most of it out within 15 mins of it. Similar thing happened when she took her solid food. However since then she has been able to eat and drink without vomiting. We had been to the doctor, who said it might be a viral infection. 
I understand someone else over here too must have gone through this. Can you please help us understand what is going on?  

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parenting,PlumHeadache,2018/02/17,"My son asked about his race for the first time because another parent pointed it out to him My husband is Cherokee and I'm white, we've had our fair share of racist comments directed at us as a couple. We knew we were going to have to have this discussion with our kids at some point but not like this.

 Our son is 4, he has a friend from preschool who he has play dates with often, and the kids take turns spending time at each house. I went to pick my son up yesterday and on the way home he said his friends dad called him pocahontas. I was shocked. I told my husband when we got home and he's rightfully furious. We talked to him more and he said it's a common thing when he's over there and the father refers to him as that and calls him ""little indian"" as well, just very inappropriate to say the least. It caught us off guard because we've met the bloke and nothing like this was said which is scary to think he waited til our son was alone with just his family.

Our son is now asking us about what the parent means when he calls him that and questions about skin color im general. We absolutely don't want our son in that house anymore but it's difficult because he loves hanging out with his friend and they will see each other in school. My husband wants to go over there and I kind of agree but I have no idea how that would go. 

Does anyone have advice? Have you had this conversation with your kids? Experienced anything similar? Have any ideas of how to approach this and handle the parent? 

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parenting,jplank1983,2018/02/17,"How to get son to stop throwing food onto the ground? This might be a really dumb question. We have a 14 month old son. Every day during mealtime, he takes the food we give him and throws a good portion of it onto the ground. Any ideas on what we can do to stop him? ",1.4119642857142836,3.0819291249999985,2.6851428571428606,95.75985714285716,79.17857142857143,5.194285714285715,18.34285714285714,5.6839178017228535,-0.4748600000000001,205,4,47,1,5,66,42,56,0.139,0.813,0.048,-0.6655,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,6,0,5,2,0,1,0,10,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,7,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,5,1,2,5,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581127933061382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994783736321585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958972501563739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5622969890713655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214753574559874,0.22304198573160566,0.0,0.1950159147556679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624722022528737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466532782925924,0.0,0.0,0.18558493993259104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439770776612501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26046115106189555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894999468884718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38877267421948936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748163948186591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whywouldmysonsmoke,2018/02/17,"Parents who have caught their kids smoking weed, how did you handle it? Hello reddit, I would need some advice from you guys and I am not sure if this is the correct subreddit? Well I just found out my son smokes weed and he is only 16. When he was 15 I knew he was hanging with the wrong crowd (thugs/stoners) but I always told him about not doing drugs. He has an older cousin who is 18 which I am sure he smokes weed who he hangs out with a lot. The other day, when my son got hom; he had those bloodshot eyes with dilatd pupil’s. I asked him and he confessed he smoked for his first time. I asked him why since he knew how much this would hurt me since I always begged him not to do any drugs and he said he had a lot of problems and that school was stressing him out and that he needed to releive some stress. I don’t know what to do I am so hurt and I feel betrayed and angry?",1.272834224598931,2.985048796791446,2.077540106951872,99.75983957219256,79.74866310160428,4.613903743315508,17.417112299465238,4.514644488427479,-0.9503454545454546,683,12,163,1,17,212,111,187,0.184,0.8079999999999999,0.008,-0.9888,1,0,5,0,0,0,16,0,2,1,1,8,9,0,2,6,0,20,3,1,2,3,40,33,15,0,6,6,4,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,12,14,0,0,6,0,0,3,4,6,1,1,13,3,24,3,13,18,5,12,1,2,1,0,38,3,0,5,6,101,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808366829512875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351576636918621,0.0,0.0,0.09609367752544558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26420613760613954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113139315248213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277427612262995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144911846197861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019575194956855,0.0,0.1549359478283378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301620110431047,0.0,0.0,0.13991625094700774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30254435854011946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765868981068598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24026849620824656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387698171759456,0.20955485681010186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747042145186382,0.0,0.0,0.15690481834778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521181624483086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441541655352554,0.0,0.0,0.14301033502794158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23378139617905644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237336243801429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663605497045565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239730971445001,0.0,0.0,0.1350249951106905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705205835497912,0.0,0.12750768400956708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076102722733632,0.15449713735775147,0.0,0.0
parenting,seahorsez4evr,2018/02/17,"Help me keep toddler in bed I’m desperate for sleep. I’m recovering from the flu. I have my DS3 50% of the time (so no outside help). I need my kid to sleep in his own bed. This morning he woke up at 5 and decided he wasn’t tired. After trying and failing so many times to get him to go in his bed. An hour later I gave up and turned on the tv for him. He got me up an hour after that. I’m dying here.

A sticker chart worked for a while. Then it didn’t. Bribes for cookies etc. don’t even work now. Nor does telling him all the fun things we get to do when he wakes up in the morning/from his nap.

His other parent says everything thing is always fine and wonderful at their house, especially when I ask about things like this, so I can’t turn there either.",0.1814182605557555,2.1077206748466293,2.1211909058101766,96.93238902923136,84.58282208588956,5.307686755683869,18.17719234933237,6.522977012572876,-0.2742396968603393,582,14,141,6,17,193,104,163,0.081,0.8340000000000001,0.085,0.1779,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,1,3,10,4,0,0,9,0,7,5,3,0,1,11,22,12,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,8,5,0,1,2,2,0,1,6,1,0,0,5,1,18,3,24,17,4,24,0,1,0,0,21,11,0,1,13,87,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326561379525481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904283912309868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654601835969088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951574988282908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780338503762688,0.10530011128820252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328281842226964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658818353234234,0.0,0.09060610812060524,0.0,0.12750843437712853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21372128021831555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31400720442988056,0.1839574950907998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417061523442338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788803942610288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163407986003608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821319176760192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702495339838592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678284731397954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190845191465024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934633272177432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177488897804997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592647524720535,0.1832380254543981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824055158940872,0.3468218588065044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289191441713747,0.23212968893172556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RJturtle,2018/02/17,"Trying to break a 10 year old's screen addiction My son is 10 and has become a total video game addict. I realise its our fault for letting him spend too much time on it, but its got to the point where its all he wants to do when hes at home, if you tell him to turn it off he tries to play on the laptop, take that away and he's looking for a phone, take that away and he wants to watch telly and then when you've said right no screens, do something that doesnt involve them he will just sit there sulking or even start crying. 

He'll play board games with us but at times when we're not available to play he just doesn't know how to entertain himself. He used to play with his superhero figures but hes outgrown them now. Hes not interested in anything arty or building things, doesnt like reading, and anything else ive tried  he might play with for a bit but soon gets bored of. He does play outside and loves football but his only sibling is only 3 and his friends arent always around to play with. Help me out reddit, what can we do to help him learn to pass the time without a TV or console? And how much screen time do you allow your 10 year olds?

Edit: Thank you for all your comments, there's too many to reply to them all but so many of them were really helpful. I've decided to have a chat with him and agree on some rules about time limits, helping out at home and not playing until homework is done. Thanks reddit",4.19498139287613,4.5389749663299686,4.451770334928232,90.98712918660289,70.38047138047138,7.060712387028178,26.06928938507886,6.339386263674448,0.7307548821548826,1123,31,250,6,19,351,167,297,0.067,0.7490000000000001,0.184,0.9911,1,0,1,0,0,0,21,3,5,4,1,18,17,0,0,9,0,23,3,0,4,4,52,39,28,0,3,16,1,0,1,1,3,2,1,3,0,10,19,0,1,4,15,1,1,9,2,0,0,4,6,27,15,42,31,8,36,0,0,5,1,48,16,0,6,18,155,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24243045665268897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252029707177734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183002382793868,0.0989840749844048,0.0,0.0,0.20893628825080532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280235778056901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139240061666735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213872305983844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973044958535459,0.11378758525488272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288629241888063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734409860594662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590633437280297,0.0,0.05809300823522137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889300593987521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981174733645908,0.0,0.22306842977704194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061107981247037015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370091803745705,0.0,0.05432258663085046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337291798021376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035473688761047,0.0,0.0,0.2254616079796204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795668872419247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347720174707658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23335370528817745,0.0,0.0,0.16913240526465811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511197787341503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112216641783411,0.0,0.07123216962938753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495699679155102,0.1057686496397119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560070611659534,0.0,0.0,0.07870196848980107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720445161121056,0.0,0.09718633678219217,0.20474052485340616,0.0,0.0,0.07387074112679502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32418350535602697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264753401425126,0.12094450322095875,0.0,0.0,0.1337497730561375,0.09603381946353497,0.0,0.0,0.13116734262693566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718470960892984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320745639918248
parenting,basicbrainheart,2018/02/17,"Zombie Panic Attack Cure Our 7 year old had his first full blown panic attack last night (he was hyperventilating so much he nearly vomited). He had convinced himself that zombies are real. My instinctive response was, “Honey! They aren’t real - you don’t have to be afraid!” but that didn’t work AT ALL. Hubby decided to take 7 year old’s fears seriously rather than dismiss them as fantasy. “What does this zombie look like? If he is real and he does come here, I’ll beat him up for you.” And that did the trick. #dadskillz ",1.7742538461538473,4.5190372100000005,3.34,84.81730769230772,86.9,5.876923076923077,19.69230769230769,7.321109707123232,0.8368538461538462,411,12,76,7,13,135,76,100,0.153,0.799,0.049,-0.8374,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,2,2,3,3,10,3,4,1,0,12,1,0,0,1,11,15,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,8,0,1,6,2,9,2,8,8,3,12,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,1,8,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675270330224543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914365759124872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827117096539446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176598222824691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739720260626384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316683817861236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891532248595788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564438644898347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874302104427027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158481606084712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389967976166195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790409362660361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5515689768329846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145033988949284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759565008689275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080398468676216
parenting,Idiotgirlfriend,2018/02/17,"should I purchase my son (11) a non-smart phone or a smart phone? Okay reddit, hear me out here. My son is going to be going into middle school next year. He’s involved in so many activities already that require him to be after school and to contact me if it gets cancelled has been a hassle thus far, and well, with the rash of school shootings going on lately, I want him to have an emergency line to contact me. While discussing it with him, he seemed totally amenable to just getting a regular, non-smart phone so that he can text and call me (and play snake!) but I’m concerned that because most of the students in his class already have smartphones, he would be at a social disadvantage in some ways. I think the world of Snapchat and yikyak is kind of dumb and bullshitty, but I remember how it felt to be left out as a child, too. 

Here are my pros and cons lists;

Pro smart phone;
- I can see on GPS where he is
- he may be socially ostracized if he doesn’t have one (ugh)

cons;
- do I really need to see where he is on GPS?
- I can’t control what he looks at throughout the day
- living life distracted by the internet sucks heavily and is not the way I want to raise him


It’s pretty clear what I want here: I don’t want to buy the smartphone. But what I’m looking for from r/parenting is maybe some pros that I’m not seeing, or perhaps anecdotes from your own children + their cellphone usage that would help me decide.  Thanks!",7.956127043688022,5.76379104529617,7.615818815331013,79.7823237737872,63.634146341463406,10.781988742964352,35.317341195389965,9.057496981413335,2.799920075046904,1118,38,235,14,13,355,161,287,0.069,0.8220000000000001,0.109,0.8203,1,0,0,1,0,0,40,0,1,1,2,11,11,2,1,14,1,27,2,1,3,2,46,51,20,0,10,10,2,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,12,13,0,2,5,1,2,3,5,4,1,1,2,7,25,7,33,40,5,28,1,0,5,0,34,17,2,9,6,146,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27832770506984605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687456386586447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877086615243075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144139265740602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132954214732317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108392505422963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177296022145168,0.0,0.2150110799223478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213343140545406,0.0,0.08452786133903119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132258428780968,0.0,0.0,0.1422558675069446,0.0,0.13701724133900098,0.0,0.08907415463553188,0.0,0.0,0.11135610543120147,0.0,0.2117987375855626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785421345141432,0.12669292645695368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935078460317012,0.0,0.0,0.1341178077932171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854543752685291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400285521322165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829766924554006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078832668687684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285633366792078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828855677877122,0.3014764131498924,0.11480443128771267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571034448592245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610375265809394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080522715454029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975282146234831,0.200198096017335,0.0,0.0,0.11338667584721325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791677034730027,0.0,0.0,0.08120973172492503
parenting,TheBlackBox1,2018/02/17,4yo obsessed with guns. I mean like none stop picks anything up and makes it a gun. What can we do to limit this behavior? He has been this way since he could walk. His mother and I (Co father) have never encouraged this behavior. We can only get after him so much and start a world war only to have him 3 minutes later pick up a piece of paper and shoot around with it. I'm at a loss and when  he plays with other kids its the first thing he brings up to play. Let's play guns he says! Let's shoot bad guys! There has been several times where much old kids and their parents run away from his guns idea of fun. Please help with any ideas!,2.1805673274094346,3.6799931127819576,2.8773342447026664,95.96874231032128,76.5187969924812,6.0393711551606275,18.10594668489405,6.574015621080383,-0.31873834586466154,496,8,115,4,11,155,91,133,0.146,0.723,0.132,-0.4763,1,0,0,6,0,0,13,2,0,1,3,5,10,1,1,5,0,12,0,0,3,1,23,18,8,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,9,13,0,2,3,3,0,3,2,4,0,1,2,1,9,6,17,13,4,21,0,1,0,0,21,8,0,0,10,68,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108780956445328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652930179067686,0.1585123338224297,0.0,0.0,0.16729447982440124,0.0,0.1486737719180278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216748206145194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145887531124674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302969508561236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763087102703219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935075532026874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020191330226128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364159545436166,0.0,0.08699177102462068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885731964024035,0.0,0.0,0.1939609875261508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617911293283489,0.0,0.13733187390023646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868454114319311,0.0,0.0,0.2708473286003418,0.0,0.0,0.19771603349044603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954578682045724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160151551704034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201158618397341,0.0,0.14729417121509172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260327249984727,0.0,0.0,0.14886724393201015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829603478181384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382899275225063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133679472566718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,driskal360,2018/02/17,"Toddler has diarrhea. Good morning everyone. So my almost 4 year old son has had a bout of diarrhea. It's been exactly 24 hours. 3 poos. 1 yesterday morning, one last evening and then 5 mins ago. All liquid. 

Thing is, he's completely fine. His tummy doesn't hurt. He isn't nauseas or vomiting. Doesn't have a fever. He's eating ok I guess but he's a picky eater to begin with. Just wondering if/When I should take him to the doctor. Or any suggestions to help with solidifying his poop.

Thanks all ",-0.4004545454545436,1.3850171111111145,2.073833333333333,89.01075000000004,110.21212121212122,6.4244444444444415,20.101515151515148,7.365786028017652,1.4583975757575764,390,15,79,11,20,132,77,99,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9078,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,4,1,10,5,1,0,3,14,15,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,6,4,6,12,2,9,0,1,0,0,10,0,0,5,9,39,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153343453665244,0.0,0.2432497673479353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519425406600674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25469749777448275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24863940104131066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485682925445799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044668364009074,0.0,0.0,0.23212092535089285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20375017034002307,0.0,0.0,0.2676042918770683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282447480273984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392277366734128,0.0,0.2600513942120657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980126104491761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549041763838711,0.0,0.1646092016558521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264596644410686,0.0,0.0,0.22364853729538392,0.0,0.0,0.16138557048012586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634368943874421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564328223560124
parenting,fastindemand,2018/02/17,"Need a solution to restrict kids ipad based on time usage I'd like a solution where my child can play with their favorite app for 1 hour, then it restricts access to the app. Perhaps on a timer I can see my child did 1 hour of an educational app, then I can grant access once again. Is there an easy cost effective app that any parents here use?",3.8717142857142823,4.93323988571429,4.704285714285717,86.2707142857143,71.57142857142857,7.885714285714287,26.857142857142854,8.238735603445708,1.5296571428571428,272,9,58,4,5,88,51,70,0.063,0.6679999999999999,0.27,0.9337,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,2,0,6,8,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,2,7,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,7,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239779510007089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6487118887469111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090999331890804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24421829125097755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35076055863843797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657183346570152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26245945339167803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19205405676066875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844636495915825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Faber_College,2018/02/17,"Struggling at night with 2 kids while spouse works. I’m a dad. My wife and I have a 2 y/o and 4 month old and things have become challenging now that she’s back at work. She’s a nurse and works a 7pm-7am shift three nights a week. The problem I have is that I am getting little to no sleep when she is at work. Our 4 month old wakes up about every hour and our 2 year old has started waking up multiple times a night. He’s in a toddler bed and will not leave his room when he wakes up. Because of this, I have to go in a lay with him until he falls back asleep, all the while praying our 4 month old doesn’t wake up. If he does, it turns into a small crises with two kids crying. I do my best to manage this and try to get everyone back in their respective sleeping places (our infant sleeps in our room in a crib). On an average night I am shuffling between two rooms trying to get either child back to sleep. I’m beginning to dread the nights my wife has to work. 

I’m at a loss for what to do. Our 2 year old has been having increased jealousy issues lately, and with mom back at work he has been extra needy. I believe this may be the reason for the nightly wake ups.  Any ideas or suggestions? ",3.3059986049755885,3.801558920948618,4.112931876307837,92.08198093466636,72.43873517786561,7.059660544059522,23.57800511508952,6.794906146795322,0.4976772378516623,929,22,215,7,17,298,136,253,0.085,0.855,0.06,-0.733,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,6,0,1,9,9,7,0,2,17,0,21,10,10,1,1,22,31,15,0,2,4,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,8,13,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,4,0,3,2,0,22,3,36,26,5,59,1,1,0,0,27,23,0,3,33,133,30,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055834674467336726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156709796528126,0.0,0.05005085735227305,0.09067926723091012,0.0,0.09250497928033098,0.08616484030812774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901892285111946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718512294205219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917757230656009,0.07845549094489376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869047907260855,0.0,0.04666254718153121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085755086481769,0.0,0.0,0.0926873130445494,0.0,0.08569699288963979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261877757820396,0.0869380546138669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229145620189449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616117413069143,0.1966078991555111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623036835136725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4307804708228877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578295498649707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856404228226539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441830849584718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286598826152165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581148193020653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583467847684828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054547362088531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478764793206337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148872742161456,0.08930739707196665,0.16041062794607586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658602198807055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358643455282045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574672541291504
parenting,lacylove314,2018/02/17,"Nanny Vs Daycare My kid’s 2nd nanny just quit for various reasons (pregnant, health of husband, etc). Our first nanny stole a bunch of cash from our merchandise fund- long story. This has all panned out in the last 6 months that I’ve been working in my career field. My kid is 15 months old. While I value the one-on-one care a nanny brings, along with its immense conveniences, I really am sad to introduce ANOTHER full time caregiver to my son. Even though I know he doesn’t “get it” I don’t think it’s fair for him to have to go through a trusting phase over and over. Plus my own trusting phase as I let basically a stranger care for my kid for 40 hours a week inside my home D: I hate this. In your experience, have you felt that putting your kids in daycare helped them? He was in a nice church daycare for about 6 weeks and learned A TON but was sick for 3 of them and had 8 (!!!!!!!!!) different teachers for the 3 weeks he legit attended. So I have mixed feelings there too. 

I’m at a loss. I was made to be in my career field and I am extremely valued in this work setting so leaving to be a SAHM isn’t an option. I don’t have any family that can just quit their jobs or retire to watch him. I have 2 weeks to figure out the situation so my (quitting) nanny can train a replacement. Blah. What are your thoughts? Daycare VS nanny??",2.674060828877004,4.179804915441181,3.851671122994652,89.4689973262032,75.21323529411767,7.151336898395723,24.863636363636363,7.84624498591911,1.1755823529411762,1035,34,225,15,22,337,161,272,0.053,0.8640000000000001,0.084,0.718,2,0,0,0,0,0,42,2,4,3,7,10,8,1,0,15,0,24,2,0,2,1,26,37,13,0,0,6,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,4,10,9,0,0,8,0,2,4,4,3,0,1,8,3,31,5,37,26,7,31,1,2,1,0,21,13,0,2,13,141,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091102523297287,0.14018136707526566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27260345629946564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967335638176956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490951642469914,0.08829830424442503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130770504153279,0.12602720890949862,0.0,0.06759562937583065,0.0,0.12835946962123482,0.0,0.0,0.11371319445537795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069845387308308,0.0,0.07597680195550569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198719120034172,0.0,0.14210190551394267,0.0,0.0,0.08960686932502375,0.0,0.13409790048182918,0.0,0.13165372444766507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326626699200228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347029784628019,0.10897188601849916,0.0,0.14155411045389815,0.0,0.1367029337761425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118307852321957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649687124929734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21341368783997766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028090832968554,0.0,0.09058905450388853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439129658657065,0.0,0.426574366949011,0.0,0.0,0.08564263803366297,0.13745141432284105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502686006685581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566055399620431,0.1313457598130708,0.1061317055347968,0.0779533481856377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289391972672179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946499167637026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentinghurr,2018/02/17,"Is my husband being to harsh? A few days ago, my ten-year-old son was caught shoplifting at target. Apparently some of his friends put him up to it, but they got away and they only caught him. We came to the police station to get him - apparently they handcuffed him, searched him, the whole nine yards.

It's been hard to admit for a while, but this has been a pattern of behavior. He's been pushing his boundaries for a while (one time he left school during recess). He's always been the kind of boy that gets away with too much because he's a very charming, sweet-natured, good-looking kid - people adore him and he definitely takes advantage of it sometimes. This has put a little bit of strain on our family and especially on my husband, who has a very strong bond with our son (he loves the kid to death). He's been getting frustrated, and I can tell it's really been taking a toll.

Anyways, as soon as we got home my husband demanded that he explain himself, say what he was thinking, etc. My son was a little bit agitated, of course, and he lashed out and told my husband to leave him alone. My husband immediately slapped him across the face, hard enough to turn his entire cheek red. I intervened to make sure he was ok while my husband cooled off. We don't hit our kids, of course (ever before), but I can't really hold it against my husband. I was tending to my son a little while later when he broke down into tears and told me how sorry he was, he didn't mean to steal and he didn't want to disappoint us. I told him that actions have consequences; and I couldn't trust him for a while, but I hugged him and told him he was going to be okay. A few hours later my son went up to my husband and apologized again, but my husband completely ignored him, giving him the cold shoulder. For the past few days my husband hasn't said a word to our son, and it's evidently distressing the kid. Last night he came up to me, sniffling, and asked me if his dad still loves him. What am I supposed to say to that? I said of course, he just needs time to forgive you.


Personally, I think my husband's being a little childish. Of course what our son did is terrible, but he's the adult in the situation and he should be more reasonable. I get that our son has tested his patience, but it's not right just to cut off contact. I've talked to him about this and he says he just can't deal with him anymore. Does anyone have any advice about this situation?

Sorry for the rant, just have a lot on my mind



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parenting,TootieBSana,2018/02/17,"Help for troubled teens??? To make an extremely long and hurt filled story short,
I need resources for my teen aged sister.

I don't know where to turn.
My sister, like I did, grew up in a home with a severely neglectful and abusive mother.
She is no longer in that situation but she is still suffering from it and acting out in ways we can no longer control.

She has run away from home, had a pregnancy scare, been using drugs, the whole nine.

I am not in a position to take her into my home or I would have a long time ago.

She lost a place to stay with her aunt when she called the police on her and reported false allegations of abuse, and she now lives with the man she has known as her father all her life.

Nothing has changed.


I don't want her to go down the same path my mother did and she is heading that way at breakneck speed.

No matter what she thinks, we love her and we want her to be able to heal.

She is close to going into foster care for running away so many times.

She isn't getting the help she needs and I need to know what to do.

Who do I call?

Where do I take her?

What can I do to get her the help she needs?

(We live in Texas.)

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parenting,Fblade,2018/02/17,"Who would have ever thought that part of parenting would be drawing a diagram of your daughters classroom and pointing out the best hiding spots based on a shooters position. /u/sidTHAkid talked in an IAMA which really opened up my eyes as to why these discussions are important.  One of the things discussed was where the best place to seek protection is when someone's shooting through the door.  He even posted diagrams which is something I never thought about because you never think it's going to hit close to home.  I asked my daughter today if her school had had such discussions and she said ""no.""  Thank you Sid for sharing your story and from my heart I wish you the best.",7.0311400000000015,8.082876864000003,5.98535,79.98042500000003,64.36,9.13,34.825,9.188382445141503,3.13574,548,24,95,9,8,164,96,125,0.016,0.816,0.168,0.9648,1,0,1,2,0,0,10,0,5,0,3,6,5,0,0,8,0,10,2,2,0,3,16,19,6,0,4,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,7,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,6,2,13,5,16,9,4,16,0,0,1,0,19,9,0,1,5,71,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539777134928795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040314267783768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185458079796802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878664457882263,0.14898584904389542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360611646277504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19517719662855132,0.0,0.0,0.16521337259321306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540625733344241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160893019832063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288632795671556,0.17836035890135973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208253213757665,0.0,0.15570024303096047,0.0,0.15774265224351686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551476955628047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667295761280506,0.0,0.0,0.1666910889578168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955471172969586,0.12679859151757675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323843038511822,0.0,0.15163899549275048,0.0,0.0,0.10942323205230224,0.10553684265797764,0.0,0.26151605576926296,0.0,0.0,0.15612186433401665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486213894533652,0.0,0.1894035712167282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340045860481073,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cutemama,2018/02/18,"How do you live in the moment as a parent? I have an eight month old baby and it’s blowing my mind how fast he is growing up. Sometimes I find myself squeezing him, breathing in his little baby smell and wishing I could capture that moment forever. 

How have you managed to live in the moment and fully soak up these precious memories? I don’t want to look back on this time in thirty years and feel like it was one big blur. ",4.0837596899224815,5.039037918604652,4.95581395348837,85.06108527131785,70.97674418604652,6.663565891472868,27.124031007751928,6.42735559955562,1.15897519379845,335,11,65,2,6,109,64,86,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.8577,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,3,0,14,11,8,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,4,10,2,10,9,0,19,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,1,10,46,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375165394141666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20117990643845526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740510021600468,0.1800095339591335,0.0,0.0,0.2302987218296692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310126128620542,0.2525431029786245,0.4449934825210178,0.0,0.2115938265504087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544208615805926,0.0,0.20112241381423904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644032365578684,0.0,0.17074339974512884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797861546270969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24920770174047416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692746009574725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486201810184572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897564703464868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622623258730918
parenting,Isodrosotherm,2018/02/18,"MIL took our 4yo to church for the first time today Mother-in-law was watching our 4yo daughter and texted my husband last night if she could bring her to church in the morning. We’re basically not religious. My husband believes in something, but doesn’t practice anything, while I don’t believe in anything. I thought it was really nice of her to ask for permission, and figured it would be a nice experience for our daughter to go to church and learn about Christianity. However, it turns out the church they went to were spreading hate, talking about abortion and such, which we think is really inappropriate for our daughter. How can we make sure this doesn’t happen again when the in-laws are watching her now that we’ve given her our OK? I want my daughter to have good relationships with her family, even though I disagree with most of their opinions. I’m really not sure how to bring it up with her without insulting her/her religion, and I wouldn’t want to burn any bridges.

Also, how do we talk with our daughter about these issues? She’s only four, and abortion is a complicated topic, and it is hard to explain why some people are full of hate towards people and things that don’t fit into their worldview.",9.031806324110676,7.760736639130435,8.212371541501977,73.42531620553359,60.8695652173913,10.972332015810276,38.300395256917,9.800150414767053,3.622130434782608,977,40,177,15,11,305,131,230,0.062,0.807,0.131,0.9411,1,0,1,0,0,0,25,9,0,3,1,13,9,3,0,6,1,19,0,0,4,2,41,37,17,0,6,5,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,17,0,0,5,0,0,5,8,3,0,2,7,3,28,6,32,26,3,23,5,0,2,0,33,9,0,4,9,124,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581994809002134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848889823624456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23836436623305604,0.0,0.13539585574291216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263460771501836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563442037326185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565839433530007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167085722385406,0.136532185414005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319173838523625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230983532454007,0.1214759551153504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280720818631013,0.0,0.1297386157380296,0.2859779220244334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116417338113833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805521899223928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667469005168043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359124978465224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014921766290106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008128177816336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783440965614044,0.0,0.0,0.15549247970613228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149667972119992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729998242293889,0.0,0.0,0.2328166291115812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621815914653024,0.09280077486501152,0.14229406322105698,0.1149782957487153,0.08445113622858158,0.0,0.13728125286560078,0.0,0.16091069405027544,0.0,0.1575327021403222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084816065461236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425822275355287,0.13068592688038294,0.0,0.0,0.13961028805064715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028825875415229,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,apb008,2018/02/18,Dangerous Heaters for Toddlers? Hi - New poster to Reddit. I’m a proud dad to two kids 2.5 and 11 mos. We’re moving to a new rental house this week. We noticed in our walkthrough that each room in the house has individual thermostats and little heaters about 2’x 1’ that are about 1ft from the floor. Perfect height for either of my kids to get to. Has anyone seen a cover or other solution to keep the kids from burning themselves?,3.7464285714285697,5.672982690476192,3.9804761904761934,87.89785714285715,73.28571428571428,6.2285714285714295,26.285714285714285,6.868970318607317,1.0671142857142857,342,12,67,3,7,106,61,84,0.036000000000000004,0.855,0.109,0.7476,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,2,2,3,1,0,6,0,3,0,0,0,1,8,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,3,2,15,6,2,10,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,1,3,37,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768248077193659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212327208163785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5835964030574733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477801396020747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25345969343130603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687793726268948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.488480612959093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879140749996437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24703432445396234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028510845564272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,astoname,2018/02/18,Tax return I thought this would be a pretty good place to ask since alot of us will get the Eitc have you received a deposit date yet? I'm a worrier and they said that most would have a deposit date the 17 so now I'm worried something is wrong... Thanks in advance,1.882363636363636,3.745970690909093,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,78.45454545454545,5.127272727272729,25.54545454545455,5.6839178017228535,0.4676545454545451,208,8,46,1,5,65,44,55,0.092,0.7509999999999999,0.157,0.5770000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,14,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,2,3,8,2,9,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,5,28,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560662190570701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310518555500698,0.0,0.0,0.22974032965822516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861746831451275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786620522571979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605484324603562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22657883252770766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21086711300703426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521769115582843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21745168863885547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294765871589692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781660158871548,0.0,0.3891515741602736,0.29947447986477754,0.0,0.0
parenting,shelleyboodles,2018/02/18,"The two toothbrush solution for toddlers I've had trouble with my 1 year old grabbing the toothbrush, insisting on holding it himself and chewing on it. When this was happening, we would struggle for control of the brush and not much real toothbrushing occurred.

I have since figured out a two toothbrush solution, where I give him one toothbrush to chew on and hold, while I do the real brushing with a second toothbrush. It is working out great. My toddler is happy and compliant. Just thought I'd pass this on in case it is useful to someone else.",7.598745874587457,8.17316097029703,6.980940594059407,74.99471122112212,63.05940594059406,9.10957095709571,42.57590759075907,8.841846274778883,4.129137293729372,442,26,71,6,6,137,69,101,0.047,0.809,0.14400000000000002,0.8834,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,6,0,8,2,0,2,0,20,12,6,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,9,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,3,3,8,2,14,8,1,13,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,4,56,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23683455934329264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176397579129587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256448106422806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23280529820696697,0.0,0.0,0.18672861418884304,0.2247843767616192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552273316121821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157752033058084,0.0,0.14308788205797365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806939653990275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467422382421166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891568440921848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075089869954034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763792322749907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125464312143373,0.0,0.0,0.18237495357810216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372742592916408,0.0,0.0,0.15000242610505882,0.0,0.0,0.1359804981137716
parenting,SSJKarigan,2018/02/18,"Functioning without Sleep I do not have children but my husband and I are planning in trying in a year or two. I've been trying to soak up as much information and advice as possible before we go for it. But these past few days... I haven't been getting enough sleep - too much stuff going on at the same time. I've slept about 4-5 hours a night for 3 days and I am not functioning. I literally almost missed my flight this morning because I was waiting in the wrong terminal and didn't realize they were blaring my name on the intercom. I'm feeling super emotional - I put up my hood of my sweatshirt on the plane because I didn't want people to notice I was crying. I have depression and anxiety that is usually under control but I'm falling apart because I'm not sleeping. So bad that I started getting obsessive thoughts about killing myself - that hasn't happened since I started on am antidepressant.

So... I mean, 3 days of little sleep really isn't that big of a deal but it hits me so friggin hard. If this is how I react, how will I possibly be able to handle a baby? I really, really don't know how to get by without at least 7 hours a night. I mean... one night of little sleep and I can manage. But after 2-3 days I fall apart. To my understanding, new babies don't permit any sort of decent sleep for months. Then being a new parent is stressful on its own. I'm scared I'm going to be a failure of a mom... what do you do to cope with not sleeping? Do you adapt? Will I be able to get through? Any and all advice or thoughts are appreciated.",3.2697380952380932,4.587019946031752,4.962400793650797,82.86169642857143,73.34920634920636,7.7896825396825395,27.7281746031746,8.344100000000001,1.9091507936507928,1213,46,244,20,24,412,164,315,0.146,0.7979999999999999,0.056,-0.9819,1,0,0,0,0,1,40,1,2,1,3,9,9,1,3,12,0,32,8,8,6,1,45,59,24,1,2,14,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,9,0,2,9,0,0,6,13,8,0,2,10,2,32,1,40,42,8,44,0,2,0,0,11,18,0,5,20,165,44,1,0.16244908117265885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874336200691042,0.0,0.0,0.08133464453662999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104709458137654,0.0,0.06213655122719785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678190986382582,0.14854117812749185,0.0,0.06911610156887249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110022893044134,0.0,0.0,0.08922134382348737,0.2095324365583774,0.08373893478689695,0.06995857778752029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913666756353412,0.0,0.0839266631139944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0410695682448227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974588014829786,0.0,0.13848533470645008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182659299232642,0.0,0.07276123423966988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599796220795827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986291974189073,0.0,0.04463888330099855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281665623990446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695467297705572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512920025166563,0.06483265336868936,0.0,0.11941876629274813,0.0,0.0,0.1568943348808513,0.0,0.2286711871169753,0.0,0.0,0.09247467781016623,0.0,0.0,0.05503985080892952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019024004480636,0.0,0.0775380147379909,0.056310869319128334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313693059920694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165309765790674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610356171849518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131993486258672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718977932425428,0.0,0.5689823998469964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498229577484008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930424368125639,0.0,0.09298266617027036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896642471263922,0.047362682806341296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029226267848892,0.0,0.07934457376549063,0.08455761128764461,0.0,0.0,0.08945735613918282,0.0,0.047908338493098036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659511724146286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880628428915407,0.0,0.052305941086426486
parenting,djm9200,2018/02/18,"Good Thing Peanut Butter and Jelly Exists If it didn’t, my 4 year old son wouldn’t have anything to eat...

I take that back, he’ll eat cheese and fruit and occasionally pasta.  There are days I try to get him to eat a cookie or something sweet, just so he’ll eat.  But he rarely even eats that stuff.

I know it’s not uncommon to be a picky eater, but I never knew a child to not jump at the chance for pizza, Mac and cheese, a hot dog or other “kid staples”.  

He has gotten better though with meals in that you tell him “five more bites and you can be done”.  Which leads to him eating five bites at once to be done with it.

Suggestions for picky eaters?  I want him to gain some weight!",3.0837323943661943,3.8544704718309895,3.5761690140845097,94.71495774647889,73.15492957746478,6.525070422535213,18.42535211267605,6.2581,-0.4224501408450707,525,6,125,3,10,164,95,142,0.0,0.879,0.121,0.9397,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,0,2,0,3,6,3,0,0,5,0,11,11,0,1,1,22,19,12,0,3,8,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,10,7,11,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,5,5,12,3,15,8,2,10,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,4,5,76,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973241537376624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253486097328077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793372137574745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599715359929164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27291855721093944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8186776303574911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807379078570504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966779352987239,0.0,0.0,0.11184431780050226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328348711617835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284467370496453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992422025746284,0.14200916289100796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265628344800627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264929394334767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002596144183044,0.0,0.11655030184443685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858917272595251,0.0,0.13101179087588485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053319677054283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865093942970397,0.0,0.0,0.16237953277434186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587046709613752
parenting,Carebearkiller15,2018/02/18,"SAHM’s- How do you and your partner balance child care duties? I’m 39 weeks with my first baby and with our current financial situation, we don’t have the budget for childcare but we also make too much for assistance. Go figure. So, I’ll be staying home with the baby for at least the first year and pursuing education online. My husband works full time and I just don’t really know what reasonable expectations to have with him as far as child care goes. I already intend on taking over all the nighttime duties so he can get as much sleep as possible, but then what? I don’t sleep at night, I’m up all day taking care of the baby and taking care of household chores (hopefully catching at least an hour or two of sleep during nap intervals), cook dinner and then...pass the baby off to my husband so I can sleep? 

Everyone I’ve talked to makes it sound like I’d be some unreasonable asshole to make him work all day and then take care of a baby as soon as he gets home, but I have no idea how I’d survive being totally sleep deprived and taking care of a baby around the clock. I don’t want to add any additional stress because I know being the sole provider is stressful as it is, so I was wondering how other SAHM’s managed to balance things out with their partners and what’s a fair split of duties? How do you guys work your routine? ",6.221797752808987,5.946283689138577,6.73177528089888,78.50283146067416,66.04119850187266,9.517003745318354,31.657677902621717,9.029198982220553,2.522882846441948,1063,37,207,16,15,348,144,267,0.056,0.828,0.116,0.9493,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,3,4,1,6,13,11,0,2,12,0,18,7,5,9,4,50,42,31,0,3,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,5,7,20,2,3,6,2,1,2,5,3,0,3,1,1,21,8,36,37,10,28,0,1,0,0,20,11,0,4,15,135,28,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917290577567248,0.07186837317472693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061114143191538566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800026485051949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478343506552531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.549765882194168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591640894148128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587387951144261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528854048429035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939059039382658,0.0,0.05107474194735909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889846451441554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029228623766128,0.08926040131517966,0.0885030671139738,0.0,0.0,0.10145139692284386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877953287615178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043905555563414064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799651825724786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212841673819525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433616380790541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013140289317969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757251588217766,0.09240051352714136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101675517261216,0.4496705523735696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578861825735813,0.0,0.0,0.2058897482724067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33785230030343505,0.0722334652113123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970510850474019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052403457898184964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778915771664487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053007187313699286,0.0,0.07208765783653437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745932252035464,0.19627756129962926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787282347908944
parenting,CaptainLandon,2018/02/18,"Anyone have experience teaching your child 2 first languages? My fiancé and I are expecting a baby next month and we’re wondering if any parents here have had experience teaching their child 2 languages. 
I’m not really sure how to go about it. 
If there’s a process any of you would recommend I’d love to hear about it! 
Thanks :) ",2.7323809523809537,5.4577650952380985,3.8406349206349217,83.55714285714289,80.5873015873016,7.4095238095238125,26.46031746031746,8.418075326091056,2.1939269841269846,263,11,49,6,7,85,48,63,0.033,0.768,0.198,0.8937,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,1,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,1,1,10,11,5,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,5,3,5,9,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,3,3,28,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386902317334343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412363460326602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4871872497540389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21182000798332432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415262922991567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806685715801522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247542229319992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19876888200407428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26484025021110685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765121007687004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953139263115207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347025283744412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292681889926713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27005631434241023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768997726636687,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WorriedExMum94,2018/02/18,"Should I call CPS, can I? Advice please. Take two, as the first posted on my not throwaway account >.< 
I'm sorry if this is not the most coherent post, I'm at work and a bit of a mess.
I have a step daughter (13) my spouse died around 9 months ago. 
I and others are increasingly worried about SD. 
Her and her mother get into horrible spats. Her mother openly admitted to me that last Saturday she yelled at her that her father never loved her, wanted her or accepted her, called her a bitch.
She doesn't buy her clothing that fits, she was in shoes 2 1/2 sizes too small until she (SD) mentioned something to me. She's started self harming and purging food, only while at her mother's.  She has sisters with major behavioral issues to the point it affects her mental health, but she's also their built in babysitter. 
I'm scared for her I feel helpless and I need advice.  ",3.5997744360902253,5.399404871345034,4.285852130325818,86.09013157894738,73.3859649122807,6.523141186299082,25.079782790309103,7.1686216300943375,1.1229010860484538,687,22,131,7,14,219,118,171,0.141,0.833,0.026,-0.9536,1,0,1,0,0,0,29,0,0,1,2,4,7,1,1,7,0,8,5,2,1,1,23,19,12,1,4,5,7,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,6,9,1,0,3,0,2,2,4,5,0,2,1,2,31,2,17,17,4,25,0,1,0,1,34,12,1,3,9,86,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261866812362062,0.14794731707611086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347035437589802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485769243870093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221223495215536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408483588110069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321647889484998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438996123188715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419655702632544,0.2018168753551383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719867810390991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740753962987338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742008705999283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360462698754739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506343132143013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819655547864035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321847144165644,0.0,0.0,0.12375468461216077,0.12872403649837932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693543174676986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320674615521626,0.15777501978098915,0.0,0.3196892900556064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709662272377046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17411373180229664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848824057974773,0.0,0.18683156414323426,0.11813310801015488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254884847291053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303764052534106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844230170660087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215056289967199,0.16949566701388089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fussballfreund,2018/02/18,"Is there such a thing as a collapsible/portable baby seat? I'm a big fan of babywearing, it's really easy and chill to take walks with the big kids. However, when we arrive at a playground or similar, it would be nice to place the baby somewhere and get active with the kiddos.

However, since we don't have a stroller, I can't carry a lot with me, maybe one backpack. 

Is there such a thing like a camping seat, that collapses into a handy package, but that you can unfold to make a seat where you can place babys? ",7.252718446601943,5.711464951456312,7.566330097087381,77.50658252427188,64.53398058252426,11.346796116504855,33.221359223300965,10.355215969177356,3.1059219417475727,402,13,82,8,5,132,70,103,0.017,0.878,0.104,0.7190000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,13,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,13,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,10,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,2,2,56,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443527137604995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441192947377768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25130280805215505,0.0,0.0,0.1973107876660048,0.0,0.2969631470056388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030163415449628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6176640585184799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936460310123185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24451778846291294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22224933468159647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927580374723919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998096165689967,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jbtrumps,2018/02/18,"Single father of three held hostage by my kids. Help! Ok, the title is a little dramatic, but that's how I'm feeling right now.  I've been separated six months and still getting used to the whole new set up. The kids are 4,5,7 and can never agree on what to do. Sledding? Two are down and one throws a fit. Ok what else should we do... Kids suggest we go to the mall, but then another one throws a fit. I don't really have anyone I can dump one off with, and regardless I feel weird about inviting my kid to someone else's house. Used to be as easy as leaving one kid home with the ex, but now I feel like a prisoner that can't leave and no one is ever happy. Ugh. Any ideas? I've got to get out of this house!",0.9625260170293259,2.6779832516556334,2.6045080416272484,95.600082781457,80.72185430463577,5.903689687795647,19.394985808893093,6.868970318607317,-0.0013636707663193806,545,13,130,6,14,179,97,151,0.098,0.701,0.201,0.9386,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,2,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,9,2,14,0,0,3,2,25,25,12,0,2,3,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,5,10,0,1,4,1,0,3,4,3,0,8,3,3,8,4,19,20,2,21,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,0,9,81,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944006569341697,0.15333282531172676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224602921145333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443094886813114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227161277062488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22181183663351345,0.10446532431151558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279620672017752,0.0,0.08310475168737855,0.0,0.1169519030974452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566244282138011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801355720527066,0.0,0.1466786234022798,0.0,0.0,0.3374549965263634,0.0,0.16507363186093515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096687119441592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143962267209443,0.14655888816026727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116717807792276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278006111069774,0.14122792968368664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954394424596145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367741184747044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487792724161527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389852397852852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677788298601988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428435245038594,0.0,0.0,0.2525881130387391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632583584846568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Practicalchildhood,2018/02/18,"Work hard. Be nice. That’s it in terms of parenting messages go for me.

Are you applying yourself?

Are you being nice to other people?

If you do those things more good will come your way than otherwise. Less bad too.

If my children value working hard and being nice, then I declare parenting victory!",2.003392857142856,4.856811125000005,3.1542857142857166,84.91571428571432,89.53571428571428,6.371428571428572,24.857142857142854,7.6454224807358475,1.9450428571428573,237,10,41,5,8,76,47,56,0.09,0.69,0.22,0.8637,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,4,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,9,4,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,4,5,5,3,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,2,31,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22095821385504527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22795863245176146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150397517396835,0.2219623207934069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4741199065838522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5876891538695924,0.0,0.0,0.18346379346245795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581097334327075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21005403516498652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853131941497839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sounds_like_kong,2018/02/18,"If a parent has the flu? So I have influenza B. I had a hunch last Thursday evening that something was up so I went to immediate care on Friday and confirmed it. Since I had my flu shot, the only symptoms I have had are just mild aches. I’m 3 days into tamiflu and my wife is losing it taking care of baby twins and a toddler. Can I help her?? Or am I still contagious? No fever, no cough, just slight aches...",0.6915163398692812,2.7872865176470576,2.808627450980392,91.74771241830068,83.82352941176471,5.660130718954249,21.20915032679739,6.937597516519254,0.4861111111111116,314,10,69,4,9,106,62,85,0.196,0.703,0.101,-0.755,1,0,1,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,5,0,11,5,0,0,0,8,16,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,10,2,5,11,0,8,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,2,4,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.552803501679978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483532219917078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905720067283645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171079637023088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22098047102352844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032885191172213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061817021712624,0.0,0.0,0.3010214539849741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242544764829159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870393543524696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21649864284976916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817738815283687,0.20383142065452345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513099001985864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thesleeper2,2018/02/18,"If I teach my kids one thing... I was raised to worry about what other people thought about me and what I was doing. It’s just how it was. I’m raising my kids the opposite way. Don’t worry about what other people think, do what you’re good at, what makes you happy. You do you, be awesome, feel awesome. ",0.4895238095238099,2.6578360476190497,2.154920634920636,95.64285714285715,85.34920634920636,4.234920634920635,16.936507936507937,5.288315135182226,-0.6808349206349207,233,5,51,1,7,76,40,63,0.08199999999999999,0.708,0.21,0.875,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,3,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,2,0,8,13,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,9,2,5,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,38,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137520675254576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511052148110869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186949103797181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983805675099287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028672117068405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151039248713407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889435319338944,0.191830214341483,0.0,0.2376737818210861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23763341198406815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608068572691608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jimmyjoejoeshabadoo,2018/02/18,"UK Parents - online kids clothing UK parents, do you have any tips to any decent well priced websites to pick kids clothes on?  I thought ASOS might have a kids section but I’m mistaken. 

Any decent websites?",2.69736842105263,5.682331894736844,2.5897894736842098,90.03152631578949,85.31578947368422,4.092631578947368,31.28421052631579,5.6839178017228535,1.5672989473684211,164,9,28,1,5,49,27,38,0.095,0.865,0.041,-0.4696,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,6,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,3,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,13,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5975062473666134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31069987366113694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.650418158745125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325143620303707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633346978448381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dharmis,2018/02/18,"Tips on how to raise two boys I just found out my wife and I are having another boy (the first one will be three when the second one is born, this coming August). I'm looking for any tips on how to be a good father to these two boys. I feel a bit intimidated by the father's ""classical"" role of benevolent disciplinarian. I'm usually a freedom-loving guy so I don't find it natural to enforce rules and regulations on others, especially in extreme situations, when you have to punish, interdict and, in general, doing things that others will temporarily hate you for). 

Is anyone a father of two boys? Any useful tips, starting from early age to adolescence and beyond? What should I expect as they grow? What about competition between them? How is a three years difference between them going to play out?

Thanks",4.465374426897603,6.728927152317882,5.897615894039737,73.46790117167603,72.17880794701986,8.884564442180338,26.84717269485481,9.466822959209583,2.710867142129394,644,23,110,16,13,217,100,151,0.078,0.82,0.102,0.5647,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,2,3,1,9,5,2,0,8,0,13,0,0,4,0,18,24,11,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,9,7,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,2,0,9,1,2,11,3,25,18,1,21,0,0,1,0,15,8,0,0,10,86,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25247435270169033,0.19465295778189726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979929096722598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026637526424933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990686203354607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19394754460083768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386189809427213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966569723636613,0.15789979867782947,0.0,0.2035376007324945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549982163826456,0.15570061035204616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380639496775905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18327469400891935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588542492709925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515801888617584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865988249477332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313923787112616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090642772529469,0.0,0.0,0.1233266788628193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5440110000218065,0.0,0.0,0.16032778109834553,0.20444912387842015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195419168449152
parenting,Civilwar1864,2018/02/18,"Car seats Anyone else have their parents argue with them over the stupidest things as far as how you want to handle your kid?   So, my parents have a car seat in their car as well, so we don’t have to constantly change them out.   Well they got into a fender bender while on a side street going maybe 25mph.   Our kid was not riding/with them that day..... well we request them to get the car seat checked, they proceed to tell me how stupid that request is seeing as they were in a minor crash.   No airbags deployed.   Anyways this is just one of many ways they bawk at how we do things.   Thanks again.",4.293382352941176,5.03779198319328,4.093602941176471,92.20746323529413,70.34453781512605,6.622268907563026,24.118697478991603,5.985473137389443,0.3883184873949581,462,11,100,2,8,140,80,119,0.111,0.8059999999999999,0.083,-0.6808,2,0,0,0,0,0,16,4,2,10,0,11,6,2,0,6,0,9,0,0,3,0,12,15,10,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,2,3,1,3,1,18,4,17,12,0,21,0,0,1,0,24,10,0,0,5,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374760057096791,0.2014527030944519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079899161421298,0.0,0.0,0.2124682248199243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679877339562942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424448421082774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027218971214944,0.0,0.11173939375041993,0.0,0.15724894768022146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933417809897144,0.19752364575647807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322969340847246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4366297456480983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667467763794418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184795884786927,0.1810143403611969,0.0,0.0,0.26124116828622235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596712482565888,0.15606182170038216,0.0,0.0,0.5303346497681355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Punky_Boobster,2018/02/18,"My four year old may have alopecia My son has had a circular spot on the back of his head for at least a month that I thought was just lighter than the rest. Today during a haircut with a new barber, the barber told me that the spot is actually thinning and that it could be a symptom of alopecia. I did the unthinkable and googled it and sure enough, circular or oval spots of thinning hair can be a sign of alopecia in the future. The barber told me to ""be careful when I wash his hair."" What does that even mean? My son has a doctor's appointment in a few weeks and I'll ask about it then, but in the meantime, does anyone have experience with this? Do I do anything different or is it something that will either get worse or it won't?",7.464885714285713,5.5146811266666695,7.3991428571428575,80.18100000000003,64.4,10.438095238095238,35.42857142857143,8.841846274778883,2.7452571428571426,579,21,123,7,7,186,92,150,0.034,0.945,0.021,-0.5775,1,0,1,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,16,0,19,6,3,0,1,18,26,10,0,1,6,2,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,4,11,2,15,13,5,17,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,4,10,92,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.18459574018590372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226712434917434,0.0,0.1556649800613991,0.0,0.1768418116994003,0.0,0.0,0.14545462281713248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19286422210984147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103121348445075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763500869518105,0.0,0.19361628233199554,0.331075523185685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545588116148868,0.0,0.12494033636177725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18503765066520456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882982757474172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19413574766531255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20605389425167256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509880522117595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18269474405130426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849468256297972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456268711636468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782838302008748,0.1966127215427794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017424288761275,0.0,0.0,0.1793043467682888,0.3615065868859256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173509855003986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927731942339128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218147299761246
parenting,nobodycaresanyways,2018/02/18,"new to co parenting My wife wanted a separation and to co-parent. Since she moved out a month ago I have made an effort to try to include her on outings when I have my 3 boys for half the time. She politley declines and is always too busy but says thanks for the invite. Our son's 8th birthday is on Monday and I had contacted her 2 weeks ago to let her know he wanted for all of us to do something together as a family on his birthday which also falls on Family day where we live in Canada. She texted back 'that sounds fun' which didn't really give me an answer. After not hearing from her for 10 days amd heraing from my 10 year old son that she said she wanted to all do something on his birthday as a family, I get a text from her saying she can't make it on Monday and asked instead if she could spend 4 hours with him just her. I wasn't surprised but I was a bit upset because ahe knows this was his wish for his birthday and she changed the plan. I told her I had to explain to him that we would not be doing anything together as a family and he wasn't happy about it. I understand she obviously wants to establish boundaries but what pisses me off is that she had an open discussion about doing something together as a family with my older son and said she wanted to without discussing with me and then backed out last minute. I texted her that we will be each doing something individually with him since he still wants to spend time with each of us and didn't make a big deal about how she went about it. I thought it was pretty selfish of her to make it sound like it was a plan with my older son only for me to have to explain to him that she changed her mind. I also told her to contact me by email going forward as this is a co-parenting arrangement now and nothing more. It seems like she just can't help but hurt others. Which is a big reason why I am no longer wirh her, but she is still inadvertantly hurting the kids. ",7.1262972758529495,5.360638231155778,7.433242528431633,79.07945120338537,64.92964824120602,10.388997619677331,32.25390108436921,8.99025400887824,2.4206412060301497,1528,45,322,20,19,501,186,398,0.065,0.862,0.07400000000000001,0.5394,3,0,4,0,0,0,18,6,0,0,3,18,11,1,1,19,0,34,1,1,6,3,62,63,26,0,10,11,6,0,2,0,2,0,7,0,2,20,24,0,0,9,0,2,5,10,5,0,1,18,7,64,6,57,39,6,44,0,2,0,0,70,15,1,2,28,234,84,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853932877971064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430259149874219,0.0744085735918798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358896749457497,0.0,0.08360008993478141,0.0,0.0,0.13752425890786346,0.0,0.05451251072117053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976286897108936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891991019793671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139840351625436,0.0,0.0,0.11534315943540575,0.09219301283107167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215085800438388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04672075225926542,0.085784389336385,0.05082215846188347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519433215313423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078821672205973,0.0,0.05993953937119662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806538672020947,0.0,0.19146213492526368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829103155913624,0.07289312417184653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144288761514556,0.0,0.08737685271129347,0.0,0.07896371160918722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461588103338684,0.17907518819668194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029352712042013,0.0,0.07137799948259277,0.09504438001764533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636700159610894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580548009379899,0.0,0.0938362548674187,0.0,0.0,0.06801156839208793,0.0,0.0,0.09929562608896887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097714144371548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728779850183125,0.09194355881965643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701268716057975,0.14222833515513336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140895345213478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794619021896424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753742321277742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282947613596314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233031503874153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099327976029046,0.10428860684199318,0.0,0.0,0.17089840284520075,0.0,0.0607135498807236,0.0,0.0,0.09309434090898433,0.21513397916619215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164702830278157,0.0,0.07173115771177813,0.0,0.0,0.08289765912771299,0.08069194718304523,0.0,0.10283407402604068,0.08620228863589738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352479198126851,0.0,0.0,0.057586620966627776
parenting,sclark1138,2018/02/18,"6 year old Suddenly Afraid of Washing Hair Hey everyone!

Like the title says, I'm having a problem with my six year old suddenly being afraid of getting his hair and face wet. He hasn't really liked it before, but I would talk to him, calm him down, get home to close his eyes and relax, dump a cup of water on his head, then dry his face asap. But we are at a whole new level. He screams so loud! He then cries for a while.

I tried putting on some shorts and hopping in a shower with him, and it was the absolute worst. I can wash his whole body, except his face and hair, with no problems. He will even take his own shower, but comes out with soap in his hair. After talking with my wife, we noticed that we have never seen him go underwater when we've done swim lessons.

What do I do?",2.448732193732191,3.856201660493831,3.473703703703705,92.35320512820515,75.60493827160494,6.4660968660968665,21.72079772079772,7.010146845296331,0.38097663817663774,607,15,136,6,13,195,107,162,0.15,0.8,0.05,-0.9546,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,3,0,0,1,3,11,1,2,7,0,12,13,10,0,1,26,19,13,0,3,4,1,5,2,0,2,2,3,3,0,4,16,1,0,1,2,0,4,3,7,0,1,3,10,21,4,20,13,5,27,0,0,2,0,24,10,0,1,15,86,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500626429020172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18928697056201088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467930302837193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18718726127664356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743884815359413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255412453585724,0.0,0.0,0.16283395173145654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806426722743848,0.0,0.09684786703790038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488970940747456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093501307848452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650732809627194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143061186276284,0.16458293272442215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940127881392453,0.3576330250337621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261184989028772,0.0,0.17130900601067028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916893851252936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551678351537494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128127028784441,0.2739380275942324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569712865810737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805131108465663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105429587423648,0.0,0.0,0.21947676286597628
parenting,justasapling,2018/02/18,"Traveling with toddler, looking for portable carseat ideas. Going on a trip to Hawaii with the wife, her parents and our three year old. We're trying to figure out if there's a good, portable option should we need to all get in a car.

Here's the goal: we want something we can carry around comfortably while walking as long as need be. I'm talking properly portable. There are some good looking inflatable booster seats on the market, but they all seem to be rated 40 lbs and up. My son is barely above 30 lbs. Is there anything out there that's safe at his size and he can be tossed in a backpack without it ruining my day to lug it around?",3.722913385826772,5.342594874015749,4.414968503937008,86.02953937007875,72.70078740157481,7.599685039370079,28.44803149606299,8.238735603445708,1.9350541732283453,507,20,100,8,10,162,89,127,0.0,0.897,0.103,0.8723,1,0,1,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,2,27,18,8,0,5,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,12,0,1,3,1,0,5,1,1,0,1,0,2,9,4,21,14,3,20,0,1,2,0,12,10,0,4,5,64,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782858653086916,0.3857318400111312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972240464506913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319155612599414,0.0,0.1231281373651602,0.3634342853203971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445733656193089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172991119849847,0.3638656770333091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212889377162243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22733948397357234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405660416412988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723154440451726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678904097355374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413640652490578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709226321520538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277867688030368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20884447960454866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951657291557673
parenting,Relarela,2018/02/18,"4 year old scared of kids TV shows My 4 year old son gets scared very easily, especially when he watches videos. The other day, he was watching Caillou and he wanted to turn it off because Caillou got the flu and had to spend the day in bed. He covered his ears and closed his eyes and refused to watch. He has seen this episode before and he knows that Caillou gets better, but he still is terrified. This is just one example of many.

How can I help him get through these fears? It's not a scary show! He gets scared during Blue's Clues too. ",3.74717889908257,4.953677055045873,3.9054013761467923,91.33039564220186,72.02752293577981,6.917889908256881,25.551605504587158,7.1686216300943375,0.9000724770642208,425,13,92,4,8,131,78,109,0.16699999999999998,0.745,0.087,-0.8706,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,4,4,0,6,3,2,1,0,13,15,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,7,6,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,4,0,1,4,7,5,1,8,11,0,11,0,0,6,0,15,3,0,0,8,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131941942082728,0.0,0.1553905333780403,0.0,0.0,0.16150669168630555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355410413618457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054908182186154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816318087426411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605259931848213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240189701191136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035953602837754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851413015721558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832440397359679,0.0,0.12374355005721485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5484835414207948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583527844610453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19863091499241065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067516051703184,0.10771010086962067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351940546346053
parenting,shinzeethellama,2018/02/18,"Potty training My daughter is 3.5 now. She knows how to use the potty. She will pee on it, but not poop. We have the next 3 days together and I really want to get her to have a full day with no accidents. Should we be putting her on every half hour? Every hour? This has been the biggest hurdle for me. Then I have the issue of if I get her to do it here, how to get her at day care. They told me if she says no they won't make her go. I feel like it's a lost cause. Any tips would be appreciated.",-0.7042121212121231,1.1233457000000049,1.8231818181818191,98.31810606060608,87.45454545454545,5.121212121212121,15.53030303030303,6.42735559955562,-0.6968787878787888,377,7,97,4,12,129,75,110,0.097,0.7829999999999999,0.12,0.5789,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,13,2,2,5,0,18,25,7,0,5,4,1,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,3,2,19,2,11,16,1,15,0,1,0,0,15,5,0,2,9,67,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459216062045068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201792291319581,0.2033180176503713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829254354896468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335117115678419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007413053452753,0.14139384976224706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102145717675117,0.0,0.11248230790510022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898220085348661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065767113666883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877147302231044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669355206372776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160526966535685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211291469782818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104898113697494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19896393127035075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679240680265888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739366323596926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891207236282672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709390457652177,0.0,0.0,0.11673814761018365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405964529547389,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,land8844,2018/02/18,"[Rant] Got Kindle tablets for the kids, enabled time restrictions, SO added more time and now the kids constantly beg for more time added As the title says. I'm more just ranting, but advice is welcome.

We gave our kids (6 and 5 years old) the Kindle ""kids edition"" tablets for Christmas this year, and allowed them free reign over them through Christmas vacation. We made sure the kids understood that the free reign of their tablets was limited to just Christmas vacation, and warned them many times in advance that after vacation, we would be enabling the built-in time restrictions. 

Wife and I decided on 1 hour per weekday ending at 7:00pm (bedtime activities start at 7:30pm), and 3 hours on the weekends ending at 7:30pm.

This has worked well for the kids, until recently. Wife added more time onto their tablets every few nights because ""child 2 didn't get to play as much as child 1"" or similar or whatever. We chatted about it and I reminded her of what we agreed on. 

She doesn't add time any more, but now whenever the kids use up their time, they are CONSTANTLY asking for more time to be added, and when I deny it because ""you used up your 1 (or 3) hours already"" I'm met with crying or temper tantrums, or what have you.

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Sorry. Rant off.",6.626269503546102,7.556474548936176,5.885106382978723,80.77333333333334,65.21276595744679,9.160283687943265,32.687943262411345,9.21078282632365,2.763743262411348,1009,40,186,17,15,306,134,235,0.103,0.8140000000000001,0.083,-0.486,1,0,0,0,0,0,41,6,3,7,5,8,8,2,0,10,0,10,0,0,4,1,35,22,21,0,1,9,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,9,8,15,0,3,2,3,2,1,2,2,1,0,7,1,21,8,30,12,8,41,0,0,0,0,35,12,0,5,28,109,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930783680731055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347326279482263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302740605005086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414044520323315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14885348204085505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26387825155388284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411339402221034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21627626384134446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286859268452514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378853739586543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976489011656054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607109437949635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552731988624793,0.0,0.12378310788887968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975238082689294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457598113151725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811603330961455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205520780391532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709322985050704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667308352859478,0.08641803226668053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507117890341363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6407405315873874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108982499000087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977624241449484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888513596306324,0.0,0.0,0.08673134256005298,0.0,0.0,0.1572477388483308
parenting,TheRedBus,2018/02/19,"Please buckle your kids. We were exiting a parking garage in a major tourist city where I saw a kid who was maybe 5 standing up and talking to his dad in the front seat. His mom was sitting in the back doing her hair and I don't know if either parent was buckled. The kid certainly wasn't and I can't stop thinking about him. I'm not sure if he's a citizen here or an international visitor where driving laws are different but holy crap, there's no excuse.",4.591950354609928,5.016879329787237,5.709361702127662,82.03333333333335,69.53191489361703,8.819858156028369,30.56028368794326,8.841846274778883,2.3022326241134747,363,14,75,6,6,121,72,94,0.104,0.841,0.055,-0.6381,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,6,3,1,0,8,0,9,2,2,0,2,16,13,7,0,2,6,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,6,2,9,2,6,7,2,13,0,0,1,0,17,7,1,3,2,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25016737611470496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33991241114309084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879906902265666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268490627783769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810357962401627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612530099869361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35712704714938365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27199989302585725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30663032319780703,0.0,0.0,0.2614970116988924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846556711300707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poopmanwashisnameo,2018/02/19,"Costs of child care questions. My wife and I are having our first child in a few months and have been looking at child care options. From what I've seen so far it's cheaper to hire a nanny than use a preschool. Why is that? 

Some additional info. 
In Denver, CO
only need 4 days a week
Start with child care in December

Thank you. ",2.2200497512437813,4.103644164179105,3.0306716417910486,93.22322139303483,77.50746268656717,5.6606965174129344,21.61442786069652,6.42735559955562,0.1916189054726365,257,7,56,2,6,81,55,67,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,14,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,4,9,12,2,10,0,0,2,0,8,5,0,3,5,31,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7255375763086591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297731838532388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017660783895495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919208972395944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933441750693564,0.0,0.0,0.17588417635507625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180404757468573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657233951063168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789460914346369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21838609030817854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20486858070740124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027119085580055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21404022147087676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MadyLcbeth,2018/02/19,"Oh Crap potty training dilemma We are on day 4 of the Oh Crap potty training method with my son, who is almost 26 months. It's been going well until today, and I don't know where I'm going wrong. Poop is going good, we had a big poop in the potty this morning after he indicated he needed to go. Pee, however, has figuratively gone to shit. We will catch him doing his pee dance, and tell him to sit on the potty. He will either flat out refuse, or sit on the pot but do nothing. And then pee on the floor 30 seconds after he gets up. This is seriously worse than day 1, day 1 we got four pees in the potty, today we have gotten ZERO. 

For example just now, he woke up from his nap and his diaper was wet. Not sure when last he peed obviously, but we do the cursory sit on the potty anyway. I run the faucet and sit on the big toilet next to him. Nothing. We play for about 10 minutes when I notice him grabbing his crotch. He sits on the potty again, and I read him a book. No pee. He eats a snack and we go downstairs about 15 minutes later. We try the potty one more time before he gets too engrossed in trains. His dolls join him and make pee pee sounds. No pee. I'm thinking maybe he doesn't have to go, and resolve to wait at least a half hour before trying again, because I'm trying not to overprompt. About 5 minutes later he pees on the floor. I have him sit on the potty to finish up, but no dice, he peed it all out already. 

I am so frustrated. Like I said this is day 4 of being totally naked all day. He has to go to daycare tomorrow with pants and underwear on, which is a no no with this method but I have no choice. I feel like today has been a total disaster, what do I do??? Help!!!!",1.7160018726591773,3.193768334269663,3.688561797752808,89.75325468164795,77.73595505617978,6.207340823970037,20.574531835205995,6.88968998030894,0.2997246441947565,1301,31,288,13,30,442,175,356,0.139,0.812,0.049,-0.9859,1,0,2,0,0,0,50,9,0,0,1,14,13,4,0,20,0,28,17,15,1,6,49,51,20,0,1,9,1,3,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,9,24,2,2,5,5,0,11,10,6,1,5,9,5,32,7,44,39,7,67,0,0,0,0,40,24,3,2,28,180,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041700735758055,0.0,0.13270327601215226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733057204236681,0.0,0.204654588670341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3877693985516025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304986039056932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060804034119583815,0.08590947949606953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565550028027142,0.0,0.4784018243102367,0.10086334728472288,0.09617810682533563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060371935431629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842596373765535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608845184624497,0.09802305765516513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750005735594506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027047679572764,0.0,0.12081130323828408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598559312806716,0.0,0.0,0.08916681505445323,0.0,0.0,0.12789149007829978,0.0,0.0,0.2307739068100507,0.13690997264076896,0.0,0.0,0.08148722057590263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028653945536667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438908905038304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343899984048674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333796903992235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510729380140152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705390564423091,0.0,0.0,0.07012107271701938,0.0,0.3419601847209154,0.0,0.0,0.2449337108824247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081227852417869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254909654562125,0.0,0.13147886794821345,0.0,0.0
parenting,TAGiants2029,2018/02/19,"Cell phone monitoring app All - My kids have cell phones and my wife and I dont have time or an inclination to manage them.  I dont want to have apps or websites where I control what they can and cant do with the phone.  Rather Id like to take a ""trust by verify"" approach.  In that, i was wondering what are the best apps out there for spying on my kids phone...yes I said spying.   I want the ability to check in on text messages, snap chat, instagram posts,and websites at my leisure just to make sure they aren't engaging inappropriately with their phones ",4.0080405405405415,5.162410378378379,4.704132882882885,86.0491722972973,71.34234234234233,8.432882882882884,25.58671171171171,8.841846274778883,1.5598549549549547,436,13,95,8,8,140,71,111,0.041,0.823,0.135,0.9026,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,4,2,4,5,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,2,2,17,17,5,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,6,0,1,1,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,1,14,5,15,15,2,9,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,3,2,59,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28245973689470577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30187826333982065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.630891223321423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149468549951926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966188849041642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560263820755587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25367375862484703,0.0,0.20236975208990984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569454281350929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31750712799712943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918852249870889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deafathlete,2018/02/19,"Anyone have a deaf child playing sports on non deaf leagues? I know it's a long shot but I had to ask. I tried my online group for parents with deaf kids and it resulted in tons of arguments. I got no where. 

My 10 year old son is deaf. He was born profoundly deaf and has no sense of hearing. He does not benefit from the use of hearing aids or cochlear implants.

He loves sports. Loves them. He doesn't watch much TV but when he does he is watching a sporting event. He is always outside playing random sports with the kids in the neighborhood and we have been able to find deaf leagues to put him in. It has been good for him. It has brought us closer to the deaf community and allows my son to play sports with people who communicate the same way. 

My son wants to switch to community sports. Most of his friends play sports in the community and he feels that his talent is better suited for community and travel teams. I don't think my son is some amazing hot shot athlete but he is a talented player and I can understand why he is bored with his deaf league. It is also a farther commute to practice and games to play other teams in the deaf league. My older son (hearing) played for community teams until he transitioned to middle school sports so I think there is some of that in there as well. They are best friends and he wants to do what his brother did.

I'm not sure how this is going to work though. The sports he plays require a substantial amount of communication. The deaf teams were able to address it because everyone was deaf but I think this will be harder on hearing teams. I'm not sure how he is going to be able to understand the play calls or communicate with his teammates when out on the field to court. Is this something we can address with the coaches? Do you think having an interpretor would come across as stepping on the coaches toes? Should we give them a copy of his 504 plan? Any advice would be very much appreciated. 

If anyone knows of a sub that is better suited then please link below. I need all the help I can get. ",3.2746958981612444,5.271778237623766,3.8077538896746814,88.32197029702971,74.79207920792079,6.696350777934938,24.661669024045267,7.554174236665415,1.083158783592645,1624,53,331,21,35,510,193,404,0.043,0.763,0.193,0.9972,1,0,1,0,0,0,31,4,1,3,11,11,24,0,0,23,0,41,14,1,5,3,61,70,27,0,7,10,7,2,0,2,4,11,15,2,3,15,20,0,1,11,27,0,7,7,1,1,0,9,19,32,23,51,54,10,35,0,0,2,2,60,17,0,7,10,204,47,8,0.31109336657462205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133227911913308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829270842849292,0.08628486738669455,0.0,0.0,0.07051805237227993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501581012668716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694343440989643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321320959988498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882443176152573,0.1834245346673146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588703653207776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893264630716136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149326767376947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908768112513094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052432717816641584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477790037255816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023330887672754,0.0,0.05417781471001429,0.0994763681176966,0.11786768624920248,0.08697678538599563,0.0829365947232014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4674997782757336,0.0,0.06950644201608057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397918565001244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917692799604005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18718260615303384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245961286258375,0.07689059648844915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881338556102732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514412272110107,0.0,0.0,0.07189099002500075,0.0,0.0,0.1138290323047554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424491932396708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494769848523308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983162407863585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954678775718766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26578142386857395,0.10188255105075712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040399173308969,0.0,0.0,0.21590611060067533,0.12473567202444368,0.0895615950154201,0.0,0.08556153591901894,0.12232728517127375,0.08231047806087859,0.0,0.0,0.09323676578732164,0.0,0.09357112528525924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549322532347952,0.0,0.0,0.14732786793991912,0.0,0.0,0.06677797615912869
parenting,DivorceeWannabe,2018/02/19,"Anybody successfully ""staying together for the kids"" or financial reasons? Some background: My marriage isn't abusive and there's no infidelity or drug abuse, etc. We have a 3yo son and I'm pregnant. I'm a stay-at-home mom.

My husband and I do not get along. He's very quick to anger and he interprets everything I say as an insult so it's difficult to talk to him about anything in general. I could say the smallest thing to him, and immediately he's raising his voice and cutting me off. Also, he's very impatient with our 3 year old son and is constantly nagging and whining when he's with my son. Fortunately, no physical abuse.

I don't like arguments or confrontation so when my husband gets angry at me, I just let it go. If it's directed towards our son, I'll try to mediate. Occasionally, he'll apologize after the fact and promise to change but of course the next day he's yelling about nothing again.

In a perfect world, we would just divorce and live in different homes. However, I know that divorcing him would mean my son and I would be completely destitute. I'm one of those well educated liberal arts people who is basically unemployable. (Yes, I'm stupid and I regret my whole life.) Even before we had our son, I had trouble finding work and was always unemployed or underemployed. Even minimum wage jobs like at a cafe or clothing store wouldn't respond to my applications. Also, I'm shy and not well connected so I don't have any sort of resources in that regard.

So for now, I'm just staying with my husband so my son and I aren't homeless. I'm wondering if anyone else out there has been able to do this successfully without traumatizing their kid.

I do worry about the effect of my son seeing how my husband treats me. I worry that he will grow up to be a misogynist. I also worry about the stress of being around an angry father. However, if I divorce his dad, he would be spending even more unsupervised time with his dad.

I'm hoping I can make our home as happy and loving as possible. At least when it's just us two it will be. 

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parenting,PraiseCanada,2018/02/19,"Daycare owner upset that I looked inside cabinets at daycare While dropping off my child at daycare recently, I took a look inside some of the lower cabinets of the kitchen area. Something got into me that there might be unsafe cleaning products in there that my child would have access to .

It turned out there wasn't. However, the daycare owner and main teacher saw me looking and confronted me afterward. She said that the fact that I was ""doing an inspection"" was insulting and demonstrates lack of trust. 

I explained that I was just looking after my kid and that mistakes sometimes do happen, so there's no harm in taking a precaution. 

She remains very upset at me and I'm afraid this might be detrimental to my child's care.

I would love to hear if anyone has had similar disagreements with daycare providers? How did you handle it? And do you think I was wrong to look around?

ADDED:

Just to clarify, I DID NOT go look in any private areas or business areas. The cabinets I was looking at was a place the kids have full time access to. I think this is important to point out.",5.3599671592775024,7.00955172906404,5.498837438423647,79.74300164203615,68.65517241379311,8.368998357963875,31.75993431855501,8.841846274778883,2.7814186535303778,863,37,149,15,15,272,116,203,0.14,0.8009999999999999,0.059,-0.9369,2,0,1,0,0,0,20,0,2,0,0,9,11,2,3,10,0,23,2,0,1,1,28,45,11,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,2,5,11,11,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,14,10,22,3,24,25,4,26,0,0,8,1,16,18,0,5,5,113,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781859283363527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029662586768608,0.0,0.0,0.11496062364272633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166528411958606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339237258224582,0.0,0.10328383723014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141967288893144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455484492873979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7591065753583491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655251756324513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27399103342028674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492222293571804,0.0,0.12207760218552395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750866683932172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284026421771403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941710887303808,0.1277212559993828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709606336217863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549344359539567,0.0,0.0,0.07530168455134971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347759977457555,0.0,0.14046558013126587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655276815396612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347253805820107,0.14119265230524525,0.0,0.0
parenting,irishaulfella,2018/02/19,I've just realised I've tried my best I haven't seen my son in 3 years. When I say I haven't seen him I mean I've seen him but been unable to speak to him. He doesn't want to talk to me since he was 11. I'm only writing this because I wish he knew how much I loved him and that I hope he's ok. First time poster had to get that off my chest. I've been quite low in myself since the day the courts removed access from him and grieving for a lost one without closure. I've literally tried every angle i possible could to tell him I love him and hope he's ok. I am just a normal dad caught in a divorce in Ireland. I have had no reason offered other than he doesn't want to speak to me. I feel his sorrow every single day but now I'm letting go. I've been slowly and painfully dying inside and need to snap out of it pronto because someday he will need me and I need to be there. Love dad ,0.8309536541889493,2.178960045454549,2.8382115270350567,95.45868983957222,79.85858585858584,5.062863933452169,19.727866904337493,5.0885558068054335,-0.4255915626856801,691,16,166,2,17,233,108,198,0.119,0.7090000000000001,0.172,0.9354,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,0,4,6,13,0,0,5,2,16,5,1,2,0,28,39,10,2,10,5,3,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,7,0,0,4,0,0,3,6,5,0,2,12,7,28,8,21,23,3,17,0,4,3,3,29,7,0,2,7,95,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564345575946286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118912159847844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502554334222945,0.0,0.0,0.18582221634474685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951849746881588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427648296902253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284445617037963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254306803540795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526890867743635,0.0,0.08187643004611696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861814950216708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731796951622292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572658299183843,0.0,0.39007748551547816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693087936766847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590560674118496,0.3204709150536996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115478535942896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762332966285142,0.10956922315603508,0.1532971345288693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241356659372133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323267723842549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812456986718964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456762843552575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383469388286115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579536255823293,0.12592065259099974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840064558563517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562367558193133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699485537686961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566960403039716,0.13887516526094962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277423639341456
parenting,mrEdSpeaks,2018/02/19,"Nothing gets done unless I'm home I'm just tired and irritable perhaps. But I have just been at the dentist for 4 hours and I come home and nothing is done. The baby is asleep, which is great, but the place is more of a mess than it was when I left and all I hear about is how hard it's been. Yet nothing is done. What. The. Hell.

And I don't want to yell or get upset so here I am.",-1.1926744186046534,0.6545895000000037,1.0733023255813985,102.68506976744189,90.04651162790697,3.905116279069768,15.576744186046513,4.935628992294339,-1.2349869767441866,291,6,77,1,10,97,57,86,0.229,0.742,0.029,-0.9505,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,1,1,5,0,15,3,1,1,1,15,22,12,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,6,3,6,1,7,16,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,3,54,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283001719731118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5446810638210557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18538731007867396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956041247478319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893180419945488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19996313717341305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35592971870551804,0.0,0.1747211288947095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927653272989365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5107124685083796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853641938799603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20391605168396187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464581521288954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kidd_Boom,2018/02/19,"Vacation for self question.. Not sure if my question belongs here or r/relationships but here goes.. So me andmy gf (not married) have a 2 year old and i see friends and family maybe once or twice a month if, well, i have to ask permission really to take our son anywhere  and with some certain people it's a hassle even to just hang out on my own. Sometimes i get the Ok, other times i have to sit through days of complaining about who I'm seeing our how it's disrespectful to see a certain friend. Anywho, she's a great mom but getting to the question of my post, my cousin lives in San Diego and is having her first baby and my family wants to fly out and see her so my aunt (the lovely woman that raised me) offered to pay for my trip with them for a week for a long promised vacation with her (for years since i was like 11 she said we'd go travel somewhere and we never did). So! I told my aunt I'd talk it over with my gf and see if i get Clarence... I did not. According to my gf, I'm apparently supposed to decline the offers because we are a family unit and she never goes on vacations by herself (I've told her i don't mind if she does in the past but she says she doesn't want to) so i guess the question I'm going for is, is it wrong for me to want to take some time for myself just to refresh and see people?",3.1803853383458645,3.715942267857141,4.654511278195488,87.93996240601507,72.75,7.75187969924812,25.808270676691734,7.85451343220497,1.2139285714285708,1025,31,232,13,19,344,146,280,0.043,0.826,0.131,0.983,1,0,0,0,0,0,29,5,0,1,1,12,13,0,0,14,1,14,1,0,1,5,49,39,24,0,7,14,5,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,2,7,18,0,0,4,1,1,5,7,2,1,2,6,8,41,11,38,32,3,27,0,0,6,1,44,7,0,13,14,153,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339087916279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089672039339587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442576242136773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742116437980556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598149919180367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282524027634394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497294610874316,0.0,0.0,0.1543614549891874,0.0,0.15657730028916078,0.0,0.11354834817543034,0.0,0.0,0.11013758444574698,0.11004859662800813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04880497795846448,0.0,0.0882115133475578,0.08840633497056201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016158886377117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036068278360716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086821541775542,0.11699899749012843,0.07973740374873843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409455399634772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482584822873348,0.1063878071209644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536367348532293,0.1385129958142435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567439754957484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4476332178813031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399703483047184,0.0,0.0,0.10725276119626112,0.0,0.0,0.09502560416427423,0.07944267328157265,0.0,0.0,0.4776332746115265,0.0,0.10421510456227964,0.0,0.0,0.08263642290405009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880139539956408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415241499149228,0.0,0.1502212998599716,0.08029399997933835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650232299073385,0.0,0.0,0.1909130971232332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676678328887954,0.0,0.08013192195479449,0.0,0.08982004382428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922247012659443,0.0,0.12866170752407785
parenting,defmeta,2018/02/19,"How to get 10m & 3yr to sleep in the same room? OK, mistakes have been made. 

10 month old still wakes a few times at night to nurse and I put her down completely asleep. And, yes, as I type this, she's napping in my arms. 

I know, get the Shame bell out - but we're fixing these things. 

And, it's worked...""worked""...for us up until now.

Now we need to get the baby and the toddler sleeping in the same room. And I have no idea how that is suppose to work.

The baby goes to sleep around 7:30. The toddler is just starting brushing teeth. And we then read books until 8:30, switching from his mom to me half way through. Like I said, mistakes have been made. (In our defense, our first was colicy. It was rough. For a long time.)

So, how do two children, with different sleep schedules exist in the same room? 

What do I need to change?
What worked for you?
What should I avoid?
What god do I sacrifice the chicken to?


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parenting,ludiman,2018/02/19,"My child's been running a low-grade fever for 3 weeks My 15 month old, for the first 2 weeks, has had a it's low grade fever ( <100 ) for a couple of hours a day but not all day + running nose. Then 2 weeks go, the pediatrician diagnosed her as having a ear infection on one of the ears (verified using this device that blows a puff of ear into her ears and seeing the diagram), and prescribed Amoxillin.

She's taken amoxicillin for 7 days with 2-3 days to go. Since taken it, her frequency of fevers has gone down but not completely, and her nose is no longer running.

HOWEVER, starting 2 days ago, she's started to cough with phlegm ( I can hear it) during night time ONLY. And this morning, 8th day after amoxillin, her fever became 100, the highest ever seen.

She's not fussy during the day, only during night. And her appetite is still pretty good. The coughing only happens at night, though today during the day I can hear phlegm in her voice.

What can be the problem?",4.717692307692307,5.694207157894738,5.263684210526319,83.35617408906886,69.52631578947367,7.740890688259107,26.72064777327936,7.882392219407189,1.5253765182186232,760,23,147,9,13,244,108,190,0.044,0.911,0.045,0.3071,1,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,15,0,11,14,6,1,2,17,24,10,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,7,8,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,2,6,11,14,1,19,17,1,39,0,1,2,0,13,6,0,0,27,84,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511973346588327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243356373778135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121365217084746,0.0,0.6118276024145465,0.0,0.0,0.12036275125517185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726823387826874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086957440213773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347908255395056,0.09946468856751722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486560673353544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26731109712331497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678376653734253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465457358361604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333856052201464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443653164201003,0.0,0.08035724804903796,0.2705710184470489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064505298038375,0.0,0.11347121788862105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944980477839538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809593747378532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787220036082756,0.0,0.09470329272900044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651058573566675,0.0,0.0691487130615479,0.0,0.1124060893324072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024206185165956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853686932283649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waterbuffalo750,2018/02/19,"Sugary cereals... Are sugary cereals really as bad as everyone makes them out to be. Right now, we only allow ""treat cereals"" on the weekends. But something like Life or Multi Grain Cheerios has 6g of sugar per serving. Something like Cocoa Puffs has 9g. That doesn't seem like a lot to me. We have baby yogurt with the same 9g.  My yoplait yogurt has 17g or something around there. To get less than 6, it seems the only options are kix and Cheerios.  We are constantly told how bad sugary cereals are, but are they really?",3.076666666666668,5.107957647058826,4.7947058823529405,80.87284313725492,75.47058823529412,7.670588235294117,26.03921568627451,8.515128840125781,2.072580392156863,408,15,74,8,9,138,68,102,0.047,0.87,0.084,0.1954,0,0,3,0,0,0,17,3,0,2,0,4,6,0,0,4,0,11,2,0,3,0,19,16,8,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,4,11,14,3,7,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,6,6,46,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172503878169927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408914160319058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22059936869451927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950614682904973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665305682913594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418786464818426,0.29919279935996296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354981429886268,0.0,0.0,0.1362629045971132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105104827297173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26155053306189896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743317187866537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716769666185818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714634644379912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950614682904973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway324351215,2018/02/19,"Losing my effing mind We recently moved across country for a job opportunity for my husband. We have 3 boys under age 5. Until this move I worked 6 hrs a day, my husband worked long hours and traveled alot. My MIL kept our boys. Now my husband doesn't work long hours and he doesn't travel anymore. We now are afforded the opportunity for me to stay at home. So I am a new SAHM. 

I was excited about this opportunity to raise our kids myself. To live in a climate where we can be outside every day. Have spending money. Have more time with my husband. But the truth is, I'm effing losing my mind. Like I think seriously I am. We have no friends and no family here. Everyone is a long plane ride away. My boys do nothing but fight constantly. Some days I yell so much that I go to bed with a sore throat. None of them listen to either of us and it's just one big free for all. I am jealous that my husband gets to leave this madness for work. I get the boys out to do stuff several times a week even if it's just to the park and we all sell better when that happens. We do have some good days but we have alot of bad days. I can't wait to go to bed and some days I dread waking up. 

We now live in a house 3x the size as we did before so I have alot more cleaning to do. I do everything because I feel it's my job now and some times it's the most enjoyable part of my""job"". The kids are making me go crazy. 

I love my boys and I never expected to feel so badly about being their mom as I do right now. ",0.8129042370310451,2.668355178683388,2.8495580948528665,92.96085549600569,81.85266457680251,5.871614925674994,20.00819091920316,6.968188349444268,0.19770494488825952,1158,31,269,14,31,390,163,319,0.116,0.7709999999999999,0.113,-0.2217,4,0,0,0,1,0,30,13,0,2,10,17,21,3,1,18,0,28,4,2,1,4,49,43,20,0,2,7,6,2,1,1,0,1,2,4,7,11,21,0,2,3,2,4,8,7,9,0,1,3,4,46,13,36,38,16,47,0,2,0,1,33,11,0,9,28,183,57,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894413555481707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373635091167368,0.0,0.16660605742040382,0.060818315561339875,0.0,0.08489615328035402,0.0,0.0,0.08823765872433223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781495033064717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3860568835803101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589654768161532,0.0,0.08405976730220198,0.09533364777795747,0.08966603131384493,0.0,0.09405342551196297,0.0,0.1008925064269161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708135692195725,0.0,0.10425047082132168,0.0,0.1701032311639348,0.08368158512435415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822548306208845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000765390538436,0.0,0.196504927354266,0.1151201427837383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970163027057385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564106829540712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874214130526525,0.0,0.17619588116593954,0.2648775341164802,0.0,0.22323219938874395,0.0,0.0,0.09004550536720354,0.0,0.06659664702572866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147669417190964,0.11684836069573827,0.0,0.21207752201368202,0.07334176593884897,0.0,0.07694807824371894,0.09635761566782793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573113944300964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760612223110551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804020971836724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850994714047973,0.0,0.0,0.08520226378375123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271068156458285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634058279464817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421174661798905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392800891417866,0.0,0.0,0.17452848850086838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000993955149865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002875170453136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905323636960251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowawayEveningWall,2018/02/19,"""I don't want to know if our son is different"" I'm constantly feeling like my son is different. He's one and I'm question his behavior everyday, He's overwhelmed extremely easier. 
He's first birthday was a disaster. He spent the entire time screaming and clinging to me. No one was allowed to even look at him with out him screaming. He didn't even want to be approached by his grandparents. It took hours to calm him down and didn't eat for the rest of day. 
Every time we visit my family is screams the entire time and doesn't want anymore near.
He has extreme fears of everyday noises. He can't stand cars driving by, the garage or the vacuum. No matter how many times he hears them he'll scream at the tops of his lungs and run away.
He just started using gestures about two weeks ago and said his first word which just happens to be ""thank you"" So I was starting to call my crazy, he must be ""normal"" if he wasn't he wouldn't be talking. 
I figured everything must be in my mind.

 Until last night, he spent bath time arranging his fish toys. Blue, green, purple. He would take the them down and place them back in the same order. He didn't this for maybe 10 minutes before I called out to my husband ""when are we going to have him tested for autism?"" He said ""I don't want to know. I can already hear myself saying it's okay he's autistic."" 

I completely understand where he's coming from. When people question my son's behavior, it would be so simple to say oh he's autistic.My son hates loud noises and people and rather he's autistic or not these are problems that need to be addressed one day. ",2.8193391188250985,4.734797626168223,3.6954016466399646,88.98753504672901,75.85358255451713,6.704094348019581,24.548397863818426,7.5804360353943165,1.1557538050734313,1262,42,256,17,28,403,172,321,0.098,0.835,0.067,-0.8375,4,0,0,0,0,0,39,3,1,3,3,13,12,1,2,9,1,31,2,1,3,2,49,60,19,0,15,8,5,1,1,0,6,0,11,3,0,7,15,1,0,7,2,2,8,12,8,0,6,12,16,31,4,34,35,2,46,0,1,4,0,54,13,0,6,24,148,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939863275073629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700316874190175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051500579799064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961563338664678,0.0815280355821462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022096549375172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21653035766155948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913326674870114,0.1111670430483021,0.11457726336986886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675698064160566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22155079995547086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849184746295797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005935309948098,0.0,0.0893321201508406,0.0,0.09529001732755933,0.0,0.09995259537451416,0.11930958480386113,0.05361031677643384,0.07574554018611485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18037261973013824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060257452413800885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375911576026907,0.0,0.0,0.10467947700198638,0.0,0.0,0.23899973384862375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441500341973736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165390714626991,0.08642596249375319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179932045061877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089035776825834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107494495433467,0.10651813371527903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070568051101881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861750079959409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994989339868832,0.10388371545981263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155394344253673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701121395574449,0.0,0.11077539997773543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145329231262297,0.0,0.0,0.2375484783243696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171146169999246,0.16863347399800613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500925761728177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971893007079621,0.08522029532994345,0.0,0.09761519759891656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30912528876533785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779963416735613,0.0,0.0,0.1035727404949114,0.11037759880908034,0.0,0.09157308031542527,0.0,0.0,0.2501493258986359,0.0,0.08504827329689396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063673979052905,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spiritoflife_702,2018/02/19,"Advice with responsibility roles; feeling frustrated    My husband and I have been together for about 12 years, married for 4. We have 2 kids; ages 3 and 1. 
   I am fortunate enough that I do not have to go work. My husbands business has done well and our life is comfortable. 
   I have however chosen to work casual and prebook myself about 5 shifts a month. This allows me to keep my license and provides me with a little break from being a mom. I really do love my job and I don’t want to stop being a nurse. 
    My problem is whenever I book my shifts, asking my husband to watch the kids is near impossible. I always get the “I don’t know” or “we’ll see”. He runs a business so I know he doesn’t have a set schedule, and clients/work comes first. I do have a regular sitter for the kids but she is away this month and can’t always watch the kids at other times. Our parents live close enough, but I don’t want to overuse them and burn them out. I’ve even been asked by him “who’s working here? Me or you?” 
   I’m grateful for our life but they’re not just my children. He can pick up and go at any minute without a thought and I feel like I’m constantly scrambling to have some sort of life, precariously balanced between babysitters. 
   I’ve tried to talk with him but it usually ends up in a fight (I easily get quite frustrated and either shut down or blowup). 
   I just want a little more fairness on the child care end of this? Am I being unreasonable? ",2.3640489989462594,4.258520647260273,3.7420547945205485,88.23713909378294,77.11643835616441,6.821074815595362,24.586933614330874,7.748469712250963,1.196346259220232,1127,39,238,17,26,370,163,292,0.049,0.84,0.111,0.9193,3,0,0,0,1,0,29,5,1,2,5,8,10,3,0,15,0,30,4,0,2,0,47,51,20,0,4,13,5,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,6,7,19,0,2,5,2,0,4,8,4,1,1,4,5,39,6,33,43,5,32,0,0,3,1,32,14,0,5,13,156,46,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179781805227782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742272195958586,0.0,0.0,0.08476020658868437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233045163658814,0.0,0.1171043949185899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270798850498043,0.0,0.0,0.10736725149208294,0.0,0.1346927248484974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755109638518372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078999785167852,0.2575751027182634,0.0,0.08232425594155003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260445473077675,0.08904361042255575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601963655340343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023963688337487,0.0,0.14167279300158064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368703664062584,0.11078671628513262,0.0,0.0,0.13699895271501694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26411303660316565,0.0608933344329563,0.2498462073862953,0.11006035465647457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249343844311946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459781231445342,0.19897463727654385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839916590137974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926467769025005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257112792564305,0.0,0.0,0.07984826564138629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932280115626826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420552155788124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018177649547837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895109271604707,0.07267921442489522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462310973169287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727453732526712,0.0,0.22054960993135367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206729715213573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014955054826496,0.0,0.3629607545417433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026476716828518
parenting,littleone421,2018/02/19,"What to do with a 12 month old who has major tantrums? My 12 month old son gets so worked up when things don’t go his way, he’ll scream himself sick. Most recently it’s been to do with walking outside he obviously doesn’t understand he has to follow me but refuses to hold my hand or let me pick him up. If I hold his hand he will lie down on the pavement and kick and throw himself about. He’s too young for me to explain anything or punish him so I’m at a loss for what to do? I’ve tried ignoring it but can’t do that out in public. Anyone have any experience with this?",2.5136469534050185,3.3424829274193577,4.057526881720431,90.5118458781362,74.56451612903227,7.446594982078854,25.068100358422946,7.793537801064563,1.0339670250896058,449,14,106,6,9,150,83,124,0.135,0.799,0.065,-0.8012,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,5,5,2,0,3,0,13,3,2,1,1,20,20,10,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,8,6,0,4,2,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,1,3,12,0,19,16,2,19,0,1,0,0,16,7,0,4,7,67,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384924307435046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875485763024618,0.0,0.21037632356346156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500725638638287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356540292739047,0.0,0.1452905131949149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614171548733756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081112054077817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5365186382707933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524213210456425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984101190275938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356804761984304,0.0,0.0,0.2661383336631199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292129215974575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861146137508388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thewildeman2,2018/02/19,"Hooray for small triumphs Sorry if this gets a bit wordy. My 15 year old son (who has autism) will correct and debate to a level of semantics that would make a politician squirm. He's driven his stepmother to a point of desperation. It puts the two of them at each other's throats like fighting dogs with me in the middle of it trying to keep the peace. Then something happened. I don't know if I should call this reverse psychology or presenting as a challenge or what, but it worked (for now).

On Saturday I told him to take the big trash can to the curb. Garbage won't come till Tues because of the holiday and he corrected me. Instead of berating him or saying, ""so what, I'm in charge right?"" I said ""I did that because I knew you would argue with me. It was a test and now you have to do it anyway.""

This had an unexpected effect. He stopped arguing with me and I decided to inform stepmom. I told her from now on to do that when he would argue with her. So she tried it. She tried again. Try as she might, he wouldn't argue with her. Total turn around. 

She was so amazed she suggested he have an hour of video games even though he's currently grounded for his grades. I suggested she be the one to give it to him. He needed to get some positive interaction from her that wasn't angry and she needed him more cooperative with her. Win win.

I don't know how long it will last, but there has been peace in the house this weekend and I'm glad!",1.8154074161549367,3.9948146952054806,3.1273075106282486,90.57527397260277,80.13013698630138,6.493339631554086,22.0552668871044,7.6298220110432995,0.8458940481813886,1129,35,242,18,29,366,160,292,0.066,0.7859999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.9832,1,0,1,0,2,0,36,0,2,1,7,15,12,5,0,16,0,25,1,1,3,3,45,45,23,0,9,7,1,0,1,0,9,0,2,0,0,20,15,0,3,6,4,0,3,5,5,0,2,11,2,36,7,39,24,5,34,0,0,0,0,47,14,0,7,18,170,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026824316412244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840763959254072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975877699821978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494233275822424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605374359749194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665219614079112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529069019256581,0.14037686223694942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294026317544408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441094674112589,0.1688497351006751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006834145925728,0.0,0.0,0.16084262769767435,0.11928170298872877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149137803880733,0.0,0.0,0.12950094393618555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976790502250478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523719964023264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170095445745516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535528681180212,0.0,0.09915967400553408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383328853174939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710604091947296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496839668527965,0.13919709986255535,0.1163706331927838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126550265906319,0.0,0.1638088803423378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234173747912945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002492150401284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377236627979398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796567270373996,0.0,0.3974045950995703,0.15916932049356547,0.14294700935885635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653286093555918,0.0,0.0,0.311854325999257,0.0,0.0,0.0942342682702413
parenting,HouseTully,2018/02/19,"My 2 year old won't eat. We're at a breaking point. So my kid is just hitting two years old and has become very comfortable not eating a damned thing. He eats breakfast fine but lunch or supper he refuses almost everything. Anything with any kind of texture, he'll refuse. Any meat whatsoever, he'll refuse. Even bread, which he used to eat fine he'll say no to.

Lately the only thing he'll take is a kind of vegetable puree... that we sometimes smush meat into to get some protein in him. I feel like we're sliding backwards towards infancy. 

We've tried a ton of stuff. If he doesn't eat, we'll turn him away from the table until he does... the only problem is he still never wants to and then spends the whole meal away from the table. Then we started putting in a kind of 'time out' chair if he doesn't eat- but he's perfectly content staying there until it's time for bed. My MIL suggested putting his bowl somewhere for him to go to himself if he's hungry (she thinks its a control thing) so I guess we'll try that tonight.

Honestly we're all just frustrated. We end our nights lately at our wits end, with a kid that doesn't eat and is usually crying because he barely ate anything and had no dessert or reading/playing time. Has anyone had a similar issue and found a fix?

FYI, I don't think this is a physiological issue... because if it's something he really wants to eat he has absolutely no problem physically eating. It just seems like he doesn't want most things. 
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parenting,epiphanist1248,2018/02/19,"My son (almost 2!) hates waking up from naps. He just gets so upset, and screams and cries like the world's about to end. Not all the time, but a good portion of the time. We're usually able to get him to calm down with some milk, maybe a graham cracker, and sometimes with his favorite show. He was recently diagnosed with autism, it's still too early to tell where he is on the spectrum, so we're not sure if this is an aspect of that or ""normal toddler stuff."" Does anybody else's kid do this?",3.691612446958981,4.503669504950494,4.173776520509197,90.83752475247526,71.77227722772278,6.9595473833097605,25.319660537482317,6.868970318607317,0.8051799151343704,384,11,84,3,7,121,78,101,0.097,0.784,0.118,0.6472,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,0,7,7,1,1,7,0,4,3,1,0,2,17,7,8,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,3,4,14,6,3,12,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,4,8,49,8,0,0.22592134958620114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262275973392462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24816399407113776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22930541422294545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977052954799932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872829798487295,0.0,0.20009925872416104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23606916119791144,0.0,0.0,0.18949210926707508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230505600749015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103737596796607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269683615526221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135495495008276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230700773616786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234419915347037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18042108161404455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25862589406687586,0.0,0.0,0.2129281983156459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746521742490733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634731115101612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24882044864134495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yourstruly75,2018/02/19,"3 year old can't stop picking chapped lips Hi there, father of a 3-year old girl here. 

I really started noticing this a couple of weeks ago, but when she zones out (watching TV, in the car seat, etc) she starts picking her lips, sometimes to the point of bleeding. 

Telling her to stop or calling her attention to it makes her stop, but then later she'll be at it again.

Does anyone have experience with this",4.2318143459915625,5.769178784810129,4.182974683544305,88.52399789029535,71.27848101265823,6.785654008438819,28.356540084388186,7.1686216300943375,1.382289451476792,320,12,64,3,6,98,60,79,0.0,0.92,0.08,0.6259,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,4,3,2,3,0,12,7,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,10,5,1,19,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,1,14,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285946857666776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363514795139835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912110382843054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576845218712173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706495005442979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21748124406913916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075153828389527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016682613375075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22201358850849714,0.4092482357395371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434201182563248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492469195089835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928641524924608,0.0,0.2760499706992357,0.0,0.0,0.4890967602978358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044227695884676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642061686379422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511526388824021
parenting,ItWouldBeGrand,2018/02/19,"Flying (Lufthansa) with an infant...any advice? Hi All,

My wife and I are travelling from Germany --> Philadelphia in April with an 8-month old. We've learned that Lufthansa has a bassinet seat that they offer for infants travelling, but i'm wondering if /r/parenting has any good travel advice for us to make our lives (and those of our fellow passengers) a bit easier for our 9 hour flight!

Thanks!",5.299908675799088,7.5420540821917825,4.99609589041096,80.91323059360731,69.82191780821917,8.702283105022829,29.97488584474885,9.2995712137729,2.815978995433788,320,13,56,7,6,98,58,73,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.9183,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,1,10,7,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,9,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,3,31,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4855443429563366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33789471334602816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712315523219764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837923749374976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24466283032878114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193766006722808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658352731516669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983020120277272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606954282305673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275862626884036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22872968199452884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29884208883292585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694220038617242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RiveraRunThruIt,2018/02/19,"My 8 month old daughter is eating her crib. Well, not really, but the crib does have bite/chew marks in all of her favorite hangout spots. It's like a velociraptor checking the fence for any weaknesses. I get that it's more teeth coming in, but I'm just not comfortable leaving a teething toy in her crib during her naps. I couldn't care less about the damage to the crib, but I am concerned about whatever little bits of wood she may be ingesting.",6.424090909090912,6.304770500000004,6.29218181818182,81.29827272727275,65.5909090909091,9.76727272727273,31.236363636363638,9.3871,2.517379090909091,356,12,71,6,5,112,66,88,0.152,0.753,0.095,-0.7468,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,6,0,6,5,2,0,1,11,10,3,0,1,6,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,0,3,1,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,9,4,9,7,4,7,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20651603328785686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315450764728621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30962682640117617,0.0,0.0,0.2615975087314716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657565577007603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107452984226129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866273967763175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215582852752549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483650215930909,0.3043718848623079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423982577971191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31866604364018103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19454821724532706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27304904743165553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,irncmalf,2018/02/19,"Child won’t connect with grandparents Has anyone been through this before where there child just won’t connect with biological grandparents?? My daughter is 9 and will not allow herself to connect with her fathers parents. 

A tiny back story the biological dad nor his parents were involved in my child’s life until this past few months. ( for good reason ) the father is passed away as well and had many issues with the law drinking and abusive. The grandparents I have not allowed to continue a relationship with me or my child for many reasons as well. It in all was toxic relationship with them. They reached out to see my daughter and I declined each time over the years. And again for good reason. 

And the only reason they are just now apart of my child’s life is due to them contacting the court for visitation. I am not asking for legal advice. I just simply do not know if I am doing the right thing for my child. 

My child has had only 4 total visits so far and each one I have been there for and have progressively gotten worse with each visit. She does not view them as her family and thinks they look scary and feels forced to have a relationship with them. 

She has said many terrible thing to me such as wishing they died also like her biological father so they wouldn’t be taking her to visits to see them. She blames me for getting with her father and putting her in this position she is in with his parents. She wishes she could change her blood to have different blood not the same as theirs. She had even wished death upon herself so she wouldn’t have to go. She tells me she will run away from them she will walk for hours and hours to find her way home. She tells me she will tel them off next time she sees them ( which is finally what ended up happening ) . Just many many more things along this line it’s so sad as a mother to hear this. And I am supposed to be encouraging a relationship with them all which I do not want to do but “ it’s the right thing to do “ 

My hands are tied I have tried everything to comfort my child try to help her establish a relationship and she just will not and it’s getting worse. 

This last visit which are only 1 hour or less at a time my daughter told them she doesn’t want to have anymore visits with them anymore and was bawling her eyes out and came running to me to be away from them. And the biological grandmother said my child doesn’t wish to have anymore visits with us but we still do and we will make sure we still get our visits. I believe this is traumatizing to my poor child. And the grandmother was telling me all of this in front of my child talking about mediation dates and how she doesn’t care my child doesn’t want to have visits with them that they still do and will take it to court in front of my child . Which is supposed to know any of this I told them it’s not appropriate to talk in front of my child about legal stuff and my child stepped up and yelled at them crying how many times do I have to tel you I don’t want visits anymore. My hands were shaking I few so stuck in the middle of what I’m supposed to do as a mother and what your supposed to tell Your child. 


What should I do to comfort my child? Do I keep trying to get her to find a way to connect do I tell her to speak her mind to them do I keep allowing her to be put into this position. I’m at a loss what is the right thing to do as a parent. Thank you in advance. And again I am not looking for legal advice. I just need to have little support from fellow parents who have been through visitation and the struggles of it or wether I’m doing ok for my child. ",4.046926255562616,5.170155560606061,4.548112947658404,87.32188970120791,71.21763085399448,7.402797202797202,24.98082220809493,7.680030821947732,1.06113231616868,2851,80,601,33,52,904,254,726,0.081,0.858,0.061,-0.8848,10,0,1,0,0,0,38,5,4,23,3,30,18,0,2,26,1,79,8,5,10,5,113,123,51,2,14,22,15,3,1,1,12,2,5,1,18,34,52,1,2,10,1,1,25,20,5,2,1,18,15,114,13,111,88,12,83,0,2,7,0,136,31,0,4,26,449,148,7,0.0,0.06572851698461125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841858304310904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04436314396668342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03772473778159975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006421387677685,0.038789240677937466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051861410230873865,0.0,0.15636108390395828,0.04265666468470089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720493318791216,0.06250105548451426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344834456013278,0.05656021302642411,0.0,0.05868493832195393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04429208027736097,0.0,0.06093641681926488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757404051668464,0.057959314957401926,0.0,0.0,0.04854633460360616,0.0,0.0,0.05434414342384343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04913416984796797,0.0,0.0,0.03664055449429368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498571354984441,0.0,0.0522966647584715,0.0,0.02804970449789332,0.0,0.0,0.06076988585433408,0.1014058476876151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593308577074685,0.0,0.03152758341368293,0.09305919013336124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04905614533162738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252408410013308,0.0,0.037183560960332734,0.0,0.055645705455153814,0.0,0.1638943864079688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790123460511125,0.0,0.09861702772440084,0.0,0.0,0.060974952463338686,0.04521933192458647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836692438238768,0.02710216464287397,0.05560028130366475,0.0,0.0,0.09316965016714272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037029831764073325,0.33745618530472665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056013691550305465,0.0,0.044279422612029336,0.0,0.0,0.04113383017279376,0.0,0.0,0.058998034529030664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03759113174980183,0.12657315984631765,0.0,0.0,0.3079907690738624,0.0,0.05295693365435163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153490813386548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22814916231561835,0.0,0.2977956464623069,0.0,0.14212542078634707,0.10553839698649294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261859946390506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290664030493238,0.0,0.0,0.057994261970691824,0.06350532574276896,0.0,0.0629520980246567,0.05228430294129576,0.0,0.0834202282631168,0.08917701834132387,0.2424369184044813,0.05107370393969927,0.0,0.0,0.18427482125570646,0.03554598498314284,0.0,0.0,0.12939111013058194,0.0,0.0,0.10601701726242614,0.0,0.11299115776286385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672930350219806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088179838714048,0.08806656159849842,0.0,0.0,0.09975693946742564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551729359591384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306703557951372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035723925370056295
parenting,sealskinboots,2018/02/19,"sneaky misbehavior My boyfriend has a five year old daughter. She is wonderfully creative and ridiculously funny. I seriously love her, but I'm becoming concerned with the growing trend of doing things she knows she's not supposed to and trying to hide the evidence (usually badly) so she can avoid consequences. 

I'm not sure if it's an issue if stubbornness (I'll do what I want because I want to) or what. I don't have any kids off my own and I feel kind of out of my depth. 

Insight: boyfriend has full custody. Mother was getting supervised visitation when she got out of jail but lost her job and can no longer afford them. We've been together almost a year and a half. I moved in with them last month. She's been really excited and happy about me living with them. She says she misses me while she's at pre-school. We have a good relationship. I don't THINK that it has anything to do with me, just that I have things that appeal to her. Nail polish and scented wax being there latest examples. 

I just don't know what to do about the lying and sneaking. 

Maybe she's just willful? 

I don't know, but I'd be grateful for thoughts/suggestions. ",3.2234000000000016,5.323813595555556,4.21616666666667,84.87225000000002,75.26666666666667,7.522222222222222,25.916666666666664,8.395991825355821,1.7833333333333332,909,33,178,17,20,294,133,225,0.119,0.748,0.133,0.6365,2,1,0,0,0,0,27,1,0,3,1,8,13,2,1,8,0,23,1,0,0,1,39,38,17,0,4,11,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,15,0,2,7,0,0,3,7,7,0,2,5,3,33,6,22,30,2,19,0,2,0,1,24,7,0,5,9,124,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477878313307132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869466935577375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436333441783761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573543169341838,0.10639929436458696,0.19276812740608287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825377184009213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119108635438357,0.0,0.0,0.1463977015207102,0.1395973280174404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580339879058325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217669096952246,0.17320618375668864,0.0,0.0,0.1817588237214231,0.28777145636583,0.14227517451150248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541239448426905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053341052333225,0.0,0.15753113422074544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535108231020585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931790478243905,0.1855107173273116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831526593001237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181619146975516,0.0,0.0,0.18739298333664128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138802949074946,0.0,0.17664600697694285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16450394131410298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319161406095571,0.1118395827937952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850268461711815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922335548078365,0.0,0.20589900285308105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892835513693796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22479888578350027
parenting,Ass_or_Pass,2018/02/19,Teaching toddler to deal with emotions We have a 3 year old who is starting to become more self aware like as in emotions. If he don’t get what he wants he says “makes me sad” and I don’t know how to respond to that. Being sad sometimes is part of growing up but you can’t tell a 3 year old to “man up”. Sometimes he says this just to try and manipulate us into getting what he wants and occasionally he’ll start a tantrum. Growing up I was embarrassed of my own emotions because I saw it at a weakness I don’t want him to feel like that but he can’t get what he wants all the time and he is going to have “sad” moments or days. How do you respond to a toddler admitting they’re undergoing negative emotions? ,2.9915970515970507,4.08931137837838,4.487002457002458,86.85701474201475,73.72972972972974,7.003439803439803,30.346437346437348,7.348242739294969,1.6985864864864868,556,25,120,6,11,186,85,148,0.155,0.777,0.068,-0.9449,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,2,0,0,3,8,1,1,6,0,13,1,0,4,1,24,29,11,0,5,5,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,0,2,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,6,6,0,0,2,4,11,2,19,25,4,18,0,3,1,0,24,6,0,2,11,73,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830225740000495,0.1504155287682919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783383725074421,0.14040999265665102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6127994958459039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886375842184353,0.09729699234311502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134671689379612,0.0,0.0774021661435843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484863871799635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307497901206594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091052596273064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858253017721394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474847868365791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661380707117334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420800032341819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693986181153371,0.0,0.1927975719595182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903952416180555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941579340555763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246675893466967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382456493894154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213229054382872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540889008283772
parenting,freewaythrowaway,2018/02/19,"What item do you wish you would have known about with your first child? What item did you wish you would have had?

What do you wish you would have received at your baby shower that would have made your life so much easier?",4.743333333333332,5.7012854545454585,3.270909090909093,97.734696969697,69.45454545454545,6.775757575757575,16.939393939393938,6.42735559955562,-0.6609151515151512,176,1,40,1,3,49,25,44,0.0,0.773,0.227,0.8938,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,0,10,16,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,9,0,3,9,3,3,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,1,33,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787918045344302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846698199964134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889164126416572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451754916156515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7251418118373034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5972661388768854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImaMonsterDinosaur,2018/02/19,"I need help please! Okay so my daughter has suddenly stopped eating. She'll eat sweets and chips of course, but won't eat real food anymore. She'll even eat slices of cheese just nothing that i cook. I made cinnamon rolls recently, and she wanted nothing to do with them. I have no idea what to do cause she went from loving everything to nothing; she used to love eating all kinds of food like she trusted anything we gave her but now she just won't eat it and its bugging me! Can anyone give me some advise to get her to eat again??? 

Side note: shes not sick or nothing, she just wont eat.",1.742750000000001,3.926893108333335,2.4700000000000024,95.165,80.41666666666666,5.333333333333334,21.666666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.2301666666666673,463,14,100,4,12,144,80,120,0.032,0.741,0.227,0.9799,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,1,0,7,7,0,0,0,1,11,14,0,3,1,22,21,7,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,4,5,11,1,1,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,3,1,20,7,11,13,2,7,0,0,0,2,20,1,0,2,6,60,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582497014277057,0.06756169509514873,0.0,0.0795132575207174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925938743198423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7909631810842084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381919129107014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683935359372197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336760677005021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048201289448009,0.09269047348794927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476498029472269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907665040930548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061894917155294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047205569173769515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441372982681808,0.09142789426208583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716454161942541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708530486388466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606405421355426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997918050970712,0.0,0.0,0.09540446930553637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078192797284263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834520480129836,0.0,0.0,0.0569912945032603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957134666378379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bellyflop2,2018/02/19,"11 year old hemline help :) My daughter has just turned 11. She is pretty dang short for her age, and she sometimes wears heels to help compensate for it. But now she is combining heels with skirts that are getting shorter and shorter and I need some guidelines please. Because all I see is my sweet little innocent angel (that's a bit of /s if you didn't see it). Any help is appreciated....is there a ""to tips of fingers"" guideline someplace?  thanks!",1.9939893048128319,4.788929211764707,2.5554010695187195,90.50475935828878,86.29411764705881,4.973262032085562,25.37433155080214,6.574015621080383,1.0388823529411768,353,15,67,4,11,109,63,85,0.0,0.738,0.262,0.9716,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,7,4,4,0,1,10,13,5,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,9,2,7,12,3,6,1,0,2,0,9,2,1,2,4,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396420242830448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469794350000038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632314942691692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125970895102711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4848362062793899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416572338162497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878124683461882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530061363982137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646682071777063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24529724774022665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38426956540020346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23846560503141245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22198322967844966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622602580125937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526800914615033
parenting,fakedadaccount,2018/02/20,"I’m a recently single dad. How do you guys manage coparenting? We do week on week off with taking our daughter. During the week I have her I take her to my parents while I’m at work and when I’m home we have a great time together. Weekends with my daughter are the best we make the very most of our time together.

My question is how do you manage the off time? I feel empty when she isn’t around and it’s effecting my social life. I push myself to see my friends and maintain my sanity but it still sucks. How do you find time for possible dating or anything really in the short time you have to yourself?",1.0076457142857151,3.322932055999998,2.9017428571428567,90.1613,84.44,6.131428571428572,20.92857142857143,7.447530270364453,0.7966571428571432,477,15,100,8,14,159,75,125,0.038,0.898,0.064,0.4749,2,0,0,0,1,0,9,5,4,0,3,8,4,1,0,7,0,10,1,0,5,0,20,19,11,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,9,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,23,3,13,19,3,23,0,0,1,0,20,7,1,3,15,70,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419139995182094,0.15351959635924384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097862390582053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719734130008887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761877832449014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323664215372827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012987312800228,0.0,0.17075543197565798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729842669401985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180854619203813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151136147926008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914884786770389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19441467398580248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19318665683460534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047770998536566,0.0,0.17027638199243975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374225918739171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579396047826426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377210667416923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25932615852465163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5027932108919864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229165987124456,0.0,0.0,0.4149938160920792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125547726848648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alexgodden,2018/02/20,"What do you change an 18-month/2-year old on? My little guy is 20 months now and too long and heavy for the changing table on the pack-n-play that we've been using ever since he was a baby. He's very good during diaper changes, doesn't wriggle or roll too much, but his legs hang off the end now.  
  
We want to move this change table to the room we're getting ready for his little sibling (due in 3 months) and get something else for his room, but not sure what. Most of the change tables online look too small, but we're not expecting him to be potty trained for at least another 6-12 months, and my back is really not up to changing him on the floor.  
  
Do you just use a regular table? Can you buy big pads with straps on for that? Should we go for one of the toddler-sizes expensive change tables like [this](https://www.schooloutfitters.com/catalog/product_info/pfam_id/PFAM2806/products_id/PRO9017?sc_cid=Google_WBC-WB0648&adtype=pla&kw=&CAWELAID=1238966515&CAGPSPN=pla&CAAGID=13113388817&CATCI=pla-88971426137)?
  
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parenting,theforerunner343,2018/02/20,"Sleep problems with 9 month old So my son is 9 months old and for the past month he has decided he will not nap in his crib anymore. He only naps in arms. At night he sleeps in his crib, but wakes up every 2-3 hours. He has never slept through the night in his entire life. The most he has slept at one time was 5 or 6 hours and that was only a few times around 3 months. 

Anyone else have this type of experience? When can I expect him to nap normally in his crib again? I thought the napping in arms thing was just a phase that would pass in a couple weeks but it's been going on for a month now. ",1.2654968287526422,2.6887404263565884,2.5216208597603966,97.87135306553913,78.84496124031006,5.621141649048626,17.928823114869626,6.11248444174946,-0.5496263565891475,461,8,114,3,11,148,85,129,0.019,0.981,0.0,-0.2982,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,8,0,12,8,7,0,1,17,16,7,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,7,0,8,0,18,7,2,33,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,2,19,66,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138810307167424,0.09968612456208098,0.14607668553049588,0.0,0.12691480925296067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774761577916704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909639087312072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011880215902362,0.0,0.0,0.1394578311401956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102408173989836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807994507917472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006992512484685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5689778867662136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995641891138358,0.0,0.0,0.2675788450206555,0.13968533875375755,0.0,0.0,0.2992000581890241,0.0,0.09660705331032013,0.21685717582389347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609628320711584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364173147027551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853398153560342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947151450469091,0.0,0.0,0.11318223145904675,0.16626386719964248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143586058056862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127546908226276,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KiddisThyName,2018/02/20,"Father of a 2 year old daughter here. How does seeing her father once a week only affect my daughter? I feel really bad because I can't afford to see her more and I live 2 hours away from her. When I leave she clings and cries and she sometimes cries to Skype with me or when I have to go off Skype.

I feel really bad and I want to know if it will be okay.

Thanks.

Edit: worded the title wrong. How does it affect her mentality/growing up.",-0.19014492753623105,2.0698696956521734,2.021739130434785,94.22289855072464,91.17391304347824,4.371014492753623,14.18840579710145,5.985473137389443,-0.7465028985507249,340,6,74,3,12,114,62,92,0.185,0.747,0.068,-0.8984,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,4,0,16,12,10,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,4,15,2,10,10,1,10,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,2,6,46,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795751023272344,0.0,0.3162999079851405,0.11546295443101427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4161173387485828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315090157198798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915433988015104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764641894014444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653130445294705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040951219064144,0.0,0.0,0.2005584952831196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672530454865749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19875458085488748,0.2017161260289414,0.0,0.14405530983895284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426825835156849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30187147827196514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733194400363234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438384854868674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171928970860363,0.0,0.15193377235039768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070907761469113,0.0,0.12197422765052678
parenting,directinLA,2018/02/20,"Rejoining the Workforce but having some anxiety Work from Home Dad here, and after over three years of not having a steady paying job, I finally got a break.  I'm excited, but I'm also starting to realize that my time as my twin's primary caregiver is coming to an end (in regards to them going to daycare most of the week now).  I have been here for them since they were born, and I've spent every day, good and bad, with them.  I don't know how I will emotionally cope with not seeing them all the time.

I realize it's a part of life and that at some point I have to let them develop on their own, but I will really miss the small things.  Being able to look up from my desk and seeing them play, making lunch for them, being there when they wake up from their naps with big smiles on their faces, taking them to their classes...  I will miss it so much.  So much that I'm tearing up thinking about it.

But, that was a chapter in my life that I will always (hopefully) be able to look back on.  It's funny, while I was living it, I was always wondering when it would be over.  The diaper changes, the tantrums about ridiculous things, the constant need to try to fill their days with some activities, the fear that I wasn't teaching them enough... Now I can't imagine moving on.

I have to keep reminding myself that there is so much to look forward to, though, which is what keeps me going.  Working hard, socializing with adults again, saving money to buy a house, all positive things.

Is there any advice from people who have gone through it?  Or any nuggets of wisdom you have if you were able to talk to your past self (who maybe went through a similar situation)?",6.291355013550135,5.808085804878052,6.338617886178862,82.07359078590788,65.95121951219512,9.727913279132792,29.502710027100267,9.150863307647796,2.1428836043360437,1296,37,268,20,18,412,177,328,0.071,0.845,0.083,0.7924,1,0,0,0,0,0,47,0,3,16,2,19,12,2,1,15,0,30,5,2,2,2,39,57,21,0,4,8,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,21,11,1,2,6,2,4,8,5,6,0,1,11,6,39,6,49,36,12,44,0,2,5,0,26,16,0,8,21,198,60,7,0.3302271304352956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756470998539612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802750563377659,0.1831836176440194,0.0,0.0,0.14971051511121206,0.0,0.08420761697053249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464142653348891,0.09190862010567287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644550581521447,0.0948204775205249,0.0,0.11895273755440175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197945341458834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382035812769808,0.09749440698682486,0.11373763367196245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274353332369514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238657767822944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058256000575054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251171255423905,0.09232628316301407,0.088037601010526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860621521709813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041491230034717,0.10933001726005737,0.0,0.12701259045969898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092331573582994,0.19568069770067265,0.0,0.0,0.06049473156723024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255987148089802,0.15549945880195248,0.0,0.0,0.09719886873861884,0.0,0.27730761973760626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347639127375072,0.0,0.1105858460217888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699305958920594,0.24275493729055714,0.08161974430833177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920126728749493,0.10507972065971856,0.07631263759014886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405712570092808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051731856859779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543217887081616,0.0,0.11483297230169215,0.0,0.0,0.09105576492302787,0.123729710194553,0.0,0.11220832433187967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791215419727159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276323493796134,0.08847468622083722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193882319760564,0.07053207039860909,0.1081488263326526,0.0,0.12837206358203834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473418162914015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829609501391639,0.0,0.0,0.10204128610585557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937241213693532,0.16027285596202445,0.0,0.0,0.07819462626066569,0.0,0.0,0.07088514835952331
parenting,markiro,2018/02/20,"Thoughts on ABC Mouse? My son loves watching youtube on his iPad and it drives me bonkers that he sits there watching videos of kids playing with random toys. Just don’t get it. So I’ve been thinking of getting an ABC mouse membership and only letting him use the iPad for that.

For anyone who has an ABC Mouse membership, do you like it? Does it help them learn like it claims it does? Would you recommend it? Any feedback is appreciated!",2.80559523809524,5.458511226190479,2.659523809523812,92.61880952380956,79.59523809523809,5.6380952380952385,26.0,6.937597516519254,1.043628571428572,349,14,70,4,9,104,61,84,0.0,0.787,0.213,0.9598,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,2,1,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,1,0,10,13,3,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,7,4,7,9,0,4,0,0,2,1,11,2,0,1,2,39,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028326557310179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855611365795024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220331566338319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31166572727567005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992293817345289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049995204979796,0.0,0.29143762707634696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26919876425570033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22684646437681666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911182677119195,0.0,0.2367916942496157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257608024574775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21188122553133085,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wouser86,2018/02/20,"My 14 month old son is a belly sleeper and wet in the morning Hi all,

My 14 month old son sleeps on his belly and since a month or two wakes up all wet as his diaper is too full. We've tried a lot of tips read on the internet,  but unfortunatly we havent found a good solution yet...
What have we tried:
Diaper on backwards
Larger diaper
Two diapers - one normal, one larger backwards
Adding a maxipad to his diaper
Different brands
Diaper pants

We now change him around 22h30, when we go to bed, and this helps 50% of the time. Unfortunatly,  he still is wet some of the mornings and next to the extra loads of loundry, it also can give him a rash and i think its just sad for him.
Also, i hate to have to wake him up in the middle of his night.

Does anyone else have this problem or, does anyone had this problem and found a solution?
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parenting,chokeonmyladyballs,2018/02/20,"Potty training a 2 year old boy My son is 26 months old and I’ve started potty training. Well trying anyway, the first few weeks he seemed interested and I didn’t push it just took him potty when dad and I went and that type of thing. He went a couple times and initiated it himself as well, even held his poop when he said he had to go at the store and waited till we got home. Now he’s reverted completely and just started using pull ups as diapers. I tried giving him a little candy every time he actually used the potty but he would rather be upset and scream at me when I tell him he only gets a candy if he goes potty vs actually go potty and get a candy. Yesterday I decided I had enough and put him in underwear all day thinking he wouldn’t want to pee himself, he didn’t care he just peed his pants all day even though he HATED me making him go to the bathroom after to clean up and change and sit on the potty. I was trying to take him every 30 min or so and he only peed on the potty twice all day... I gave him a candy and made it a big deal and he seemed proud of himself (wanting to show dad he went in the potty) but he still whined when it was time to put underwear on and wanted a diaper. I’m trying underwear again but now he actually peed on me while sitting on my lap! I don’t know what to do, is he just not ready? I’m worried his complete lack of interest and preference to just mess himself will delay potty training too long. Please any suggestions would help!

EDIT:  A certain user here messaged me stating that they were a physical therapist and worked with potty training issues and that there were some exercises they could recommend that would be helpful. I said sure, tell me about them and they proceeded to get really fucking creepy and ask about my child’s ticklish spots. They said “oh and if any of those spots are on quarky areas like the inner thighs or the spot right under the little hiney where the leg meets the body on the crease back there. It’s okay to say. My work computer is encrypted because of HIPAA rules. So it’s fine. Just bet honest, or it won’t work right for him.” They also posted 9 days ago asking parents if they need help potty training to message them directly, comment history also has people calling them out for being creepy. I messaged the mods but they said just block the person... just remember to be aware of who we as parents are giving info to on our children. ",4.067327662070987,5.217922010266946,5.1499184511586975,82.9230882956879,71.1971252566735,7.86550894690525,25.61859782927545,8.238735603445708,1.557361795247874,1917,57,376,28,35,632,243,487,0.061,0.812,0.126,0.9826,2,0,0,0,0,0,36,3,0,10,5,36,18,2,1,25,1,27,7,5,4,5,80,69,46,0,15,21,5,0,1,0,6,1,6,2,4,15,26,0,4,8,2,2,11,6,6,2,2,20,6,48,12,46,38,7,72,0,1,0,1,80,24,1,10,34,237,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.2306558804118577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984041830943763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601276678408607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715648529404538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731146641511336,0.0,0.0,0.06058277049454605,0.0,0.048028165391747056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751521794991804,0.0,0.0,0.08045090789716597,0.0,0.08032916849524456,0.0,0.08334679178798188,0.0,0.16521451565619374,0.0,0.0,0.06290545578289823,0.0871769367498941,0.0,0.20324583347502675,0.08122651497126074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140861088411556,0.0,0.10407688084046772,0.0,0.1327638350230226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701665842052985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283782979891322,0.12348974503554053,0.15116041380489373,0.13433035829103548,0.0,0.06301360923779864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777864042156467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842892240736353,0.0,0.07903034678203019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223374315269487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043299582589343806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03849162217911336,0.15793166702319453,0.0,0.06972451143862934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745506944236494,0.052591308199937764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288747883980036,0.0,0.0,0.05841997754254265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534858178030154,0.0,0.0,0.11984297960500084,0.0,0.0,0.17496852334948435,0.0,0.0,0.05462137393358139,0.06879425855084872,0.0,0.08648508159163712,0.0,0.0,0.07545670373679213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840651845496326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050473328507073936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925094694043695,0.13456829177158194,0.29978004751450604,0.06265503013761113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345047142544126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153248119232577,0.0,0.0629198473150727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425634303508723,0.0,0.059238440004893776,0.0,0.13772760055824476,0.0,0.0,0.09147842989243972,0.05234295408033609,0.05048388724608095,0.0774083778275321,0.0,0.1378249797602034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753587830423905,0.21396632638012272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609431083711632,0.0,0.0,0.13941283288691056,0.0,0.06319862836522816,0.0,0.14167895717268614,0.21911057281176965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207484644787435,0.0800125917781717,0.0,0.16790526662906813,0.0,0.0,0.05073660558919968
parenting,KittenTrap,2018/02/20,"Affordable birthday gifts - so many birthday parties! Our buddy recently turned 4, and there has been a sudden torrent of invitations to birthday parties.  He gets invited to 1-2 birthday parties per month.  The cost of presents is adding up quickly.

I did purchase a bunch of dollar store gift bags to cut down on the cost of gift wrap, plus it eats up less of my time to simply toss a gift in a bag.  I want to spend about 10 dollars per gift, and I don't want the gift to seem cheap.  Most gifts are 15 dollars and up.

I am curious what most parents gift in this age range and the average cost.  Do you buy a bunch of generic gifts during sales and stock pile them for birthdays?

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parenting,SA324410,2018/02/20,"Secondhand smoke in apartment building How worried should I be? The tenant a few doors down is refusing to stop smoking, even though our building is non-smoking and the leasing office is going to start fining him. I can smell it in the hallway, but not in our apartment. We have two air purifiers going. Our daughter is 2 and the lease isn't up until next January.",4.115652173913045,6.338806289855075,4.799347826086958,81.1364130434783,73.05797101449275,6.918840579710146,31.78985507246377,7.793537801064563,2.478959420289855,290,14,49,4,6,93,51,69,0.078,0.922,0.0,-0.4678,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,9,12,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,8,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,4,39,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494619284234969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42930200513940747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016796052881831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673322606847058,0.0,0.0,0.31576732838814753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37108036007709455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36895009157460906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3835644435528424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imadad2015,2018/02/20,"36 month next month - communication? My son will turn 3 next month. recently ive been trying to communicate with him. he follows instructions and can answer basic questions like ""this one or that one, age, name, etc""

but none of that is an actual conversation. there is no communication, just instructions and questions. how did your toddler begin to start having conversations like ""why you eating that daddy?"" or ""how was work dad? or ""why cant i have that?""

is this normal? he is also super active.

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parenting,IndividualCatch,2018/02/20,"My son won't recover from setbacks I've experienced that pattern with my 7yo son a couple of times now, but I'll explain it with the latest occurrence: In October he joined a Judo beginners course. As long as there where only the beginners around he had fun and was quite excited to be there. When the beginners course ended, we signed him up for the Judo club, where he is supposed to do the training with some boys who started with him in the beginners course, but also some yellow belts that have a little more experience than he does.

As it happens, the first training randori against one of the little more experienced boys didn't go well for him. He was thrown faster than he expected, and he fell harder than he liked it. I saw that event, and even though I admit it was not a nice experience, it was still well in the parameters of what we expect to happen in a training randori.

Since then, he doesn't want to go to the Judo course. His mother and I agree that this is not an option for him (see below why). But when I bring him anyway, he just refuses to take part. Not only in the randori, which is about 5-10 min out of a 75 min lesson, but everything. Including all the games he loved so much before.

Now, if this was only in the context of this Judo club I might let it go and say ""well, maybe Judo is not for him after all"". But it was the same pattern with handball before, and soccer, and even to some degree with the swimming course. Whenever the first good experiences have been experienced, and the training starts to require some effort, or he has some sort of setback, he will try to wiggle out.

So, our strategy is to keep bringing him there. And if this means that he'll sit at the side for the next 2 months, so be it. But silently I wonder if there is something else we could do, and with that I don't mean yet another club.",6.8356773080241595,5.925605639344263,7.107877480586712,78.41240293356344,65.01092896174863,10.10963474259419,31.558239861949957,9.276330184999452,2.5126032786885246,1448,45,290,22,19,471,177,366,0.024,0.905,0.07200000000000001,0.9664,0,0,1,0,0,0,45,4,0,0,6,26,9,0,0,26,0,29,1,0,0,2,63,50,31,0,7,15,3,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,21,23,0,3,6,6,0,7,8,0,3,3,10,7,21,9,50,32,12,51,0,0,3,1,38,17,0,13,27,211,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940400805369265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233078260579326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468381537320832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012809380982044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388944118926996,0.1301158027419475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029075220485778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823490786585554,0.0,0.10415360311451273,0.0,0.0,0.1553397882777973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568613083723824,0.3450892279638612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005122071419265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049456947307495,0.09863247903952256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797641669769584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452317397161567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024808953837005,0.0,0.057450611427697015,0.2357206664883402,0.0,0.1040672122106697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061334032754732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813923149655657,0.25618922790624643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474891770604365,0.0,0.0,0.09386260973052372,0.0,0.08644530551058824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506282067828825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968490826259761,0.2683071820766369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734311503106488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507596156313605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935156687779132,0.0,0.0,0.09370739356409648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727518012764597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052980003437686,0.0,0.0,0.16646763310547566,0.0,0.09391092124846198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884162424349788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553575516053613,0.0,0.06857015378903457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983877776231059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936013636898593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171940641316773,0.0,0.1061105214735711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752594964973296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Katie2017Y,2018/02/20,"Egg freezing - worth a try？ 

Hi all, I have been thinking of egg freezing for a while, since I am turning 36 and not in a relationship that would develop to be a marriage soon. 

I am concerned about the risks of its current medical process which requires body to take a large doze of hormones for two weeks and then an invasive egg retrieval surgery.

Anybody could share some advice or thoughts here? Much appreciated.",4.57383458646617,7.1597166842105295,4.325864661654137,83.38605263157895,72.94736842105263,6.974436090225563,35.85714285714286,7.957251820313856,2.9172879699248115,332,19,59,5,7,101,61,76,0.066,0.8340000000000001,0.1,0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,7,0,7,5,1,0,1,11,11,5,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,3,1,9,6,3,6,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,5,41,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931719065787292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332498508211664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953815400979586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022342924247337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22054608742506399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221046244793134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481761184601622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22557449729265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922379705808048,0.0,0.2381789836100401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263309708740779,0.2930717816911663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24065452807153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21312257215366398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,effle,2018/02/20,"My formerly good sleeper is now in a sleep regression and I need advice (x-posted to beyondthebump) I know you guys are probably sick of sleep questions. But please hear me out, I don’t really know who else to ask about this.

My 7-month-old was always a great sleeper, as long as he was sleeping in our bed and nursing once or twice a night. That was fine with me, and he napped pretty well too, usually I nursed him to sleep but sometimes he’d be fine if I just rubbed his back a bit.

For the last week or two, however, he’s decided to take 45-60 minute naps (and only two a day when it used to be three) when he used to nap for 2 hours at a time three times a day.

He’s also begun to wake up in the middle of the night wanting to play and kick and giggle. That usually lasts about an hour, and no amount of rocking or bouncing or even nursing will get him back to sleep. What I’ve been having to do is put him in his crib until he screaming and then bring him back into bed with me, nurse him, and then usually he falls asleep.

I’ve known for a while that I needed to get him transitioned out of our bed and get him to nap and fell asleep on his own. This sleep regression is just confirming that for me. However, there are a few things that make it hard for me to do cry it out, and I can’t seem to find any information on Google, even though I’m certain that we aren’t the only people dealing with this.

Whether he is sleeping or just very drowsy, the minute his head hits the crib, he wakes up and turns onto his tummy. If I leave him be, he pulls himself up to standing position and cries/screams, the longest I’ve let him cry is about 15 minutes but he cries that entire time and does not sit down or lay down or let go of the side of the crib. I know that he’s not hungry or needing to be changed, it’s most likely a separation anxiety thing at this point.

I’ve also read that babies this young can’t be spoiled, and it’s not that I think he’s spoiled, but I think he’s definitely used to me rocking him or nursing him to sleep and I can’t continue doing that, especially now that it’s not guaranteeing he’ll sleep well. I want my bed back; he usually leaves me like two inches of space to sleep and it’s starting to cause back problems for me.

As for naps, lately he’s been resisting them. I can’t leave him alone to nap because he won’t nap in his crib, and i’m not gonna leave him by himself on the bed where he could fall off. He’s also been doing this thing where he arches his back when I try to bounce him, and I’ve read that there can be a lot of reasons for that but I’m thinking it has to do with him swallowing air when he nursed (we usually do the side-laying position because it was easiest for him to fall asleep that way).

At this point I’m not opposed to him crying it out, but it’s hard because I’m not sure he’ll ever let go of the side of the crib, much less lay down and fall asleep. What happened a few days ago was he lost his footing and hit his face on the side of the crib, and then he really screamed, so I went to go get him and within a couple hours he developed a big purple bruise on his cheek. So that makes it even more difficult, knowing he could actually hurt himself.

Like I said, I haven’t been able to find a whole lot on Google about this specific standing-up-in-the-crib problem, but maybe there are some books or links that I haven’t come across, and I’m also not sure who else to ask about this kind of thing other than his pediatrician; he doesn’t have a doctors visit until mid April and I don’t think this can wait that long.

Thank you so much for any suggestions, and I’ll answer any questions if it helps, I may have left something out because I’m sleep deprived.",7.575674519807925,4.7330213048469405,7.5960534213685476,81.6728961584634,64.90561224489795,11.009243697478993,33.39045618247299,8.925248442259385,2.398113865546218,2909,81,668,35,34,943,298,784,0.087,0.851,0.061,-0.9675,3,1,1,1,0,0,75,4,2,1,1,40,24,0,0,32,0,54,25,22,7,4,117,106,69,0,12,32,0,3,3,0,6,2,4,5,1,50,40,1,2,19,13,0,14,20,8,2,6,12,8,72,16,96,74,14,109,0,3,1,0,82,44,0,21,51,417,122,4,0.04895023754945646,0.0,0.0477683706916125,0.0,0.0,0.047833605604569306,0.04339143209926579,0.0,0.0,0.05069768348200158,0.0,0.15658194913226645,0.0407305189629196,0.0,0.0,0.09986352032640017,0.0,0.03744679774264214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152372862478828,0.0,0.0,0.22583826694614184,0.0,0.11935844188188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344098140363353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028537792679864,0.05178286075745271,0.042166295298611496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816556313232009,0.0541625068000753,0.215078149688002,0.09470656100185362,0.05046554551577166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501026423310332,0.04283668274935909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178328463055884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969935107221918,0.0442782923174714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947926062375719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229791509216883,0.0,0.08345864417406933,0.04105713682819389,0.0,0.05396780970779496,0.0,0.04846843111934634,0.043286533404342284,0.0,0.08769959607559634,0.0,0.05023706586961725,0.0,0.05517047531313917,0.0,0.032810312402677434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446183711352229,0.0,0.05240224170958678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050974139742257896,0.10760708159150152,0.07980195380796419,0.055218000078058486,0.20732493483414194,0.0531845763239465,0.15016480312314173,0.0,0.07174384048398061,0.0,0.0,0.08663883971424992,0.0,0.0,0.053434966703300606,0.08323148297497586,0.0,0.0,0.06534932733817228,0.0,0.0491770929775393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039071612599469036,0.0,0.07196811377074001,0.1088879426901424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187296392026696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513650399918948,0.052130405427241164,0.0,0.07445772287708914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0339359313070914,0.0,0.0,0.05373266134884927,0.09254759319853256,0.0,0.04688079647694475,0.049799989515856784,0.05277663524621395,0.093677532921696,0.0,0.04920850888353576,0.109670937687062,0.0,0.09792696835784973,0.0,0.06271755123330018,0.05032899685139256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656288540114095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044562457822675816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5388414770815797,0.0,0.0,0.037684284357803306,0.048413036590745605,0.0,0.03464723008299527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922700391761935,0.0,0.03680448670496338,0.0,0.0,0.045066802063714835,0.0,0.0,0.13008145098953255,0.12546134279091498,0.048093359858410005,0.0,0.08562983148741257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033233998118099184,0.05324380203924823,0.14345180801434396,0.0,0.0,0.1268318659322902,0.26955885511627825,0.040389072461894084,0.057744236727184824,0.03885442012074725,0.03926492792936154,0.0,0.08802428448832265,0.04537736061979062,0.0,0.054651192110205804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,playblu,2018/02/20,"My 10-year-old son is super smart, but super forgetful and scatterbrained. How can I help him before next year's move to middle school? My son on the one hand has always been the smart kid in class. Currently he reads at a high school level and takes special classes in math and reading outside of his regular school work. The kid can memorize anything - like 100 digits of pi, Tom Lehrer's Element Song, the entire periodic table, etc.

But... he can't bring home his lunchbox more than 3 days out of 5. He's had a permission slip for a field trip tomorrow sitting at school for two weeks. Every container we send snacks to school in ends up sitting in his locker for weeks. He breezes through his homework - when he remembers to bring it home.

How can I help him? His teacher is already saying he's in for a tough time next year when he moves to middle school.",5.381056955093102,6.289308945783134,5.4364184008762315,82.96471522453452,67.97590361445782,8.68696604600219,30.151150054764514,8.841846274778883,2.3032,679,25,131,11,11,213,106,166,0.025,0.797,0.17800000000000002,0.9824,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,8,0,9,2,1,2,0,13,12,9,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,1,5,1,1,2,3,0,6,1,1,0,2,2,3,12,6,23,10,2,36,0,0,0,0,23,14,0,0,15,66,13,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680700998918826,0.0,0.09561505481633112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456186056547193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778069257113377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410800919659535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177692948990953,0.0,0.1281560029509013,0.0,0.0,0.0968173697698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404467700394245,0.12140965038453172,0.230529957381978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613965003208008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442641530857971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24441804222536315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057963511192192,0.0,0.07786658403680563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298839466312009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301716228781526,0.0,0.0,0.09138174141654064,0.0,0.6977756527254549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639867851882027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700545635109566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225122943052658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843491481040576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836564868926161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219965114750816
parenting,linuxgeekmama,2018/02/20,"5 year old reading in bed, not getting enough sleep My five year old daughter is reading very well.  This is great, but she's reading in bed when she should be sleeping.  When we talk to her about it, she says either that she couldn't get back to sleep or that she had bad dreams and was afraid to go back to sleep.

I believe her about the trouble sleeping.  Her dad has a sleep disorder that makes it hard for him to fall asleep, and I remember lying awake in bed a lot as a child.  I also believe her about the bad dreams.  I have an anxiety disorder, and she's an anxious kid.  She still sucks her thumb at 5, and she insists on sleeping with the light on because she's scared of the dark.  We are having her evaluated for anxiety soon.

Her teachers have told us that she's tired at school and does not want to participate in what the rest of the class is doing.  They're concerned enough that they would like her to repeat kindergarten next year (her birthday is in August, just before the school age cutoff, so she is one of the youngest kids in the class).  I have talked to her about that, and she doesn't want to repeat kindergarten.  I don't want her to repeat kindergarten unless it's absolutely necessary.  I have told her that the reading in bed instead of trying to sleep will make her have to repeat kindergarten, she still does it.

I read in bed as a kid.  I still like reading in bed.  But I didn't and don't do so to the extent that I'm too tired to do what I need to do the next day.

Tl; dr: my 5 year old daughter is reading in bed instead of sleeping.  Any advice on how to get this to stop?",4.3603014416775885,4.775590097859329,4.628422892092619,89.61348623853212,70.03975535168196,7.32948885976409,27.19222367846221,6.868970318607317,1.0283287898645699,1250,38,274,9,21,392,140,327,0.157,0.7909999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.9879,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,3,0,1,0,21,10,1,2,18,0,29,13,10,3,0,31,43,19,0,7,8,3,1,2,0,3,3,1,7,4,16,10,0,1,1,9,0,2,7,6,1,2,5,3,44,4,47,33,6,42,0,0,0,0,43,15,1,2,27,190,60,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551221843711807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536130965103478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04559054716751799,0.0,0.10257319148244212,0.07573785927075652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310161436114222,0.1119537736388528,0.04086790143691799,0.0,0.05704741396751953,0.15106571897638105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04323624805450587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367082951502478,0.0,0.1173370094906442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385436673914736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507931517721092,0.0,0.038101253003286414,0.0,0.0,0.07391353617324117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060056052876794434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550622154863324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699632114896463,0.0,0.0,0.08950149906508645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04971045353662109,0.0,0.0,0.14259887989459025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104646058662613,0.0,0.04542908356425024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469417787202305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759449975438817,0.0,0.0,0.0533141246455151,0.06712027852576387,0.13569923833558034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6038096228305637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061838491171132,0.056049730609489035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777090312690668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541087794736199,0.0,0.1281221317970217,0.0,0.04551680595124747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064271980855041,0.0,0.0,0.055316292889772,0.11862851447669108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027839716748382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762438756068826,0.0,0.0,0.17269021871233042
parenting,harlottoscara,2018/02/20,"My 4 year old daughters behaviour is almosy unbearable Hi all, first post.

My daughter is 4 and just started JK in September. Her teachers rave about her politeness and positive attitude at school. Every now and then I see some of that behaviour at home, but more often than not she is defiant and just down right rude.

Things she has been doing recently:

- swearing (using the f word over and over)

- general disrespect (tipping over clean laundry baskets, throwing food/dishes on the floor when she's done with them, etc)

- hitting and name calling (to me only)

- complete defiance and refusal of rules. She fights me on everything: getting dressed, brushing teeth/hair, eating, will not take no for an answer 

- getting up in the middle of the night and demanding tv , having a tantrum at 3am when I say no 

Im exhausted. I've tried all forms of discipline. Ignoring bad behaviour, positive reinforcement, taking toys away, time outs, yelling, spanking, sticker charts, bribes.....nothing seems to work. We are a split family and she lives with me and my husband and sees her dad at the weekend. There are no other children in our home or at her dads. We don't swear in the home so I'm not sure where this behaviour originated.

I've made an appointment with a family counsellor because I just don't know what to do anymore and she seems to only act this way around me. When my husband is home she doesn't dare try most of the things listed above. 

I'm generally a calm person but she pushes my buttons to no end to the point where i feel like I am yelling all the time. This is all pretty new behaviour since starting school and I don't want to be arguing constantly. 

Anyone had similar experiences with their kids? x 

Edit: thanks to all who responded - such great advice in here from a brilliant community. I will say that some of the negative responses stung a little but it was largely positive - so again, thanks to all who took the time to share and encourage.",4.6547031963470324,6.736595041095897,5.2223972602739765,79.29076484018267,71.1917808219178,9.031050228310503,31.070776255707763,9.558583805096642,3.1529926940639275,1550,69,276,38,30,497,219,365,0.108,0.731,0.161,0.9672,0,0,0,0,3,0,57,3,0,2,2,19,15,4,0,19,0,23,2,0,3,7,59,44,24,0,1,10,6,1,1,0,2,1,4,5,3,12,22,1,3,5,3,0,4,12,7,0,1,6,8,33,8,44,34,12,54,0,0,2,0,39,27,0,7,22,187,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409669857820388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564590265246156,0.07448597429691832,0.0,0.0,0.09483138462291303,0.0,0.0,0.10008537997611054,0.0,0.08894537925289646,0.06493771267242318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877571313934603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169126136180743,0.11511756288780878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090138415125704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900345064809797,0.0,0.0,0.09435107386563987,0.0,0.11880547547805966,0.0,0.0,0.08975337389730374,0.0,0.09573936608063932,0.10420359374431816,0.20084786187782572,0.0,0.053863121106533865,0.07610272517766545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906115916209056,0.12881255827012514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131165106557384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744610821354327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42742002821663533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150671605453248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854431103266392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052043584862649095,0.10676778023246453,0.09406506411443047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079817820491736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028841904331646,0.0,0.09996813026970164,0.0,0.1022152811957438,0.0,0.11178189513238147,0.0,0.0,0.1620367738788102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301504146263004,0.0,0.0,0.10070220289232802,0.0,0.1020231713308366,0.10837599282573533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518230542462488,0.0,0.0,0.0909732549078732,0.0,0.16942868049910345,0.0,0.21562149851282247,0.16977604129934706,0.19395588859510465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812002111368232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15080035138202966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040019286154084,0.0,0.16018970388826834,0.0,0.0,0.19615102190255806,0.0,0.0,0.14154326673817855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863497983266411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835512906819574,0.1446493293124402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200490151358903,0.0,0.0,0.06283223195539339,0.0845559687299417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755273629990675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685997286977707
parenting,good4ubingbunny,2018/02/20,Breakthrough Chicken Pox? Took my 7-year-old to Med Express due to some spots—diagnosed with chicken pox. He was vaccinated but was in contact with the virus about a week ago. Following up with pediatrician today. Does anyone have experience with this?  Any tips/suggestions/warnings?,5.635815602836883,9.320938574468087,5.29053191489362,71.0841666666667,78.14893617021278,8.239716312056737,33.36524822695036,8.841846274778883,3.920478014184397,231,12,33,6,6,71,40,47,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,9,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,18,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800940696958733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21487483026901733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220938089886504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207094588933173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765131322720739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090856121369337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35097861881794423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331564145163684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29950874095328706,0.0,0.35106147689444506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534572593707071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20347848260400486
parenting,Midknight81,2018/02/20,"[advice] What would you do? This isn't exactly parenting related, but it's closest of the few subs I follow.  Tell me where to cross post if this is not the right place.

I (36 father of two) was walking into a restaurant last night to get take out pizza and there was a car in front, outside was a mother holding a baby and two young girls (8-12).  The assumed father is half in and half out of the car and yells ""I'm going to kill you"".  

Now, this isn't in a joking way.  In a way you just don't hear.  

She flips him the bird and he retorts with, ""If my baby gets pneumonia I will fucking strangle you to death!"".  Again, not in a haha (could it be) way.  It was unsettling.  

I snapped a picture of the plate as he pulls away.  I guess it's a custody drop off situation at a public place.  I'm an idiot.

I went inside and approached the lady at the hostess station and simply said, ""excuse me... are you all right?""  She said, ""Oh, that?  Out there?  He's just joking around.  He'd never do anything like that!  I was giving him the bird too, so..."".

She had such a smile and said it so lightheartedly that for 0.1 seconds I almost laughed with her.  So convincing.  

I looked at her and said, ""that may be, but what he said - in front of those kids - It is not alright"".  She turned away from me a murmured something... maybe alight, or okay, or thanks.  I didn't catch it.  I said, ""Please be safe"" and went to get my take out. 

The father walked in as I was ringing up.  He joined the table and everyone looked so happy and normal and even loving.  

I tell myself that there is absolutely nothing else I can do.  It was only words.  It wasn't directed at a child.  Who would i call?  It's not my business.

What would you do in this situation, realistically?

Thanks for reading and I appreciate any responses I get.  ",0.5855691861232053,2.875572448753463,2.5039711119905017,92.41942059095108,86.28531855955679,5.100145099591083,19.675570505210395,6.5431188927421005,0.14015705052103966,1358,40,294,15,42,451,180,361,0.063,0.804,0.133,0.9813,1,0,1,0,0,0,83,0,6,0,0,16,16,3,0,25,3,33,3,0,0,3,50,61,26,2,7,12,5,0,1,0,5,0,9,0,3,24,22,1,2,1,3,0,14,10,3,0,5,18,11,39,13,39,33,2,53,0,0,2,2,43,28,1,9,7,206,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353180704856053,0.0,0.0,0.09584496867128424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508963308888023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876547213655115,0.08520684027298545,0.0,0.0,0.1798552034054134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773594313632866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642081624760333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995778596640257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321900133577447,0.0,0.0,0.09145999628597247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884871802876316,0.20002901171549495,0.091818762486703,0.05439716634893641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544110792333104,0.0,0.0,0.1018906335017956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787801142201532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058947116132379,0.0,0.0,0.07802068076749419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04676162264485016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607533597584487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638672471271085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096158805372283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382147976520066,0.0,0.0,0.08982225180145023,0.09378059517031208,0.09184133684155522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279573932797824,0.0,0.0,0.10628042675783776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000406982286306,0.10506657087556316,0.0,0.0,0.09166872442385086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574112377200716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348055300198208,0.546282567402495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151758393930954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368625402096912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393186988526374,0.0,0.1673186454734563,0.17624343311123467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411067608064664,0.18699972760967687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279228638392852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745793921325365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039800422454498,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dvlpr404,2018/02/20,"As an expecting father of a baby girl, what are some things that no one will tell me? I want to make sure I'm fully prepared, and something tells me there's a lot of stuff my wife won't think of, and/or something that you don't want to find out the hard way. 

I hope this is ok here.",2.9569354838709683,3.0594903387096792,3.77758064516129,95.58637096774193,73.03225806451613,6.845161290322581,21.951612903225808,5.985473137389443,-0.03533548387096763,219,4,55,1,4,70,51,62,0.058,0.7440000000000001,0.197,0.7645,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,1,1,12,11,2,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,6,3,7,9,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,0,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379753419599348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332422197093682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25860820081630714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135901084483814,0.0,0.0,0.17380036906590454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643484348906271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008942583587971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29806371041772256,0.0,0.0,0.2453975812109166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4551533062570356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729796243625838,0.16683589999118456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30714836903153264,0.20667121856916268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ParagonSky,2018/02/20,"Teenage Son Pooping His Pants? My 15 year old son has found to way to get what he wants, by pooping in his pants. The other night, he wanted to go out with his friends but we told him no as he was still grounded from an earlier incident. He got mad, so he stood in the living room and pooped in his pants. Now, whenever he doesn't get what he wants, he threatens to do it again until we give in. What should we do about this?",2.2324237560192617,3.475604056179776,3.0247512038523285,96.02213483146069,75.85393258426967,6.434028892455858,22.82664526484752,6.868970318607317,0.3488060995184581,327,9,78,3,7,103,61,89,0.112,0.867,0.021,-0.8693,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,3,0,6,3,3,0,0,12,17,5,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,9,1,15,11,0,16,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,0,7,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010818559715861,0.21215325618818254,0.0,0.2869315970434646,0.2634188304278205,0.15606002030684693,0.0,0.2196206113576972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424745191898146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576910412984245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881437601889905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929382400112107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623895661420254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858939514825576,0.2179626203994295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683171099855666
parenting,PaperParentDinosaur,2018/02/20,"What do you look for in preschool/activity centers? I'm looking to get some more socialization for my 3 year old. He has a lot of energy! Sometimes he is reserved, while other times he just shines while playing with other kids. I want to encourage him to make friends and use his energy in a positive way. There are a lot of options out there...pre-pre schools, classes, gyms...what do you look for when enrolling your kids? I'd love advice for anything from health tips to best bang-for-your-buck deals. Let me have it!",3.1610121012101224,5.2567587425742595,3.624290429042905,89.06622662266226,75.43564356435644,6.865126512651265,27.063806380638066,7.793537801064563,1.5182862486248618,407,16,83,6,9,127,74,101,0.0,0.745,0.255,0.9767,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,3,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,2,0,11,16,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,5,15,15,5,11,0,0,4,1,15,4,0,4,6,48,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19963106768398287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811431100747362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143910873366921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21061533215480135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783493082195366,0.0,0.1067337583775218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21715207020273036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089016678904665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146596519679949,0.0,0.0,0.3473622697099897,0.18438085002642096,0.0,0.1363660111344735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143693256155652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067536749563542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824922590731684,0.0,0.0,0.20204929279909967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191238842049488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764420675408742,0.0,0.0,0.12049628587211705,0.16215690360180285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155688191666587
parenting,chopin199,2018/02/20,"My son was having sex in the house. I'm not really sure how to address this I live alone with my son since his mother and I are divorced. He's 17 now and has been dating the same girl since they were about 15 or so. I think he thought that I was going to still be at work when he came home, but I finished work early and went home early. I went to his room to find him and I could hear him and his girlfriend having sex. They looked embarrassed when they came out of his room and saw that I was in the house, but I haven't said anything about it and I'm not really sure if I should say anything. I understand that teenage boys want to have sex and everything and he had sex ed at school and I told him to use condoms if he ever has sex, so I know he knows about condoms and everything. Plus I'm sure he's respecting her and not pressuring her to do something she doesn't want to because they've been dating for 2 years. The only problem I have is that I feel uncomfortable with him having sex in the house and I don't know how to address it. I don't want him to feel embarrassed about having sex with his girlfriend or anything because that's normal. I don't know how to approach it. ",3.0733244444444447,3.9889963680000062,3.986666666666668,91.21777777777778,73.32,7.1555555555555586,24.288888888888888,7.3871296695380915,0.8102222222222221,932,26,211,10,18,300,109,250,0.092,0.861,0.047,-0.8973,0,1,1,0,1,0,14,0,0,3,2,14,8,0,3,5,0,26,9,0,4,4,55,52,27,0,9,9,3,2,0,2,1,0,3,6,2,9,20,0,0,10,0,0,6,8,4,0,0,15,7,36,4,27,34,1,25,0,0,2,9,35,8,0,4,11,136,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891637059039838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834552197054844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139983444341763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626414141426648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167248318308348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385906133568644,0.0,0.0,0.20638124860773216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161104218980611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494117468174953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525346838972895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940774089441026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303427595003152,0.0,0.0,0.3974521643170994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25240292482454524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013860138051841,0.0,0.09641783739481273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249683601645137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732393236579047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986490363869816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711014493648752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921779765511526,0.09130753644721644,0.0,0.11620150600397992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995655318485724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839217132509439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916934560458475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32464258974363713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357045977943973,0.0,0.0911523216825926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971310414017774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195291348422971,0.0,0.09916551168937474,0.0,0.0,0.20316712468373613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128740668710384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671771101663646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393874767706761
parenting,crimson090,2018/02/20,"My 8 year old son has a huge negativity bias My son has, and seemingly always has had, the tendency to only remember the negative. 

I know this is a standard human thing, but it seems excessive, especially for a kid that's only eight years old. 

Some examples:

* We'll go out sledding, he will have an absolute blast, but in the last 5 minutes his hand will get cold. I'll ask him how sledding was and he'll tell me his hand was cold and his was miserable the whole time
* We'll go to a Disney on Ice event, he'll enjoy eating pizza and watching the skating, but he'll feel a bit sick on the train ride back, and he'll say he had a terrible time because he got so sick on the train.
* We'll let him have an extra long day of screen time (his favorite), and I'll expect after letting him have screens for so long he'd be ecstatic. Instead he'll just say it was ok because his head hurt.

I have two concerns. One is that it makes doing anything in life difficult. He never wants to go out because he just assumes he'll have a terrible time. 

The other concern is whether this is a symptom of some kind of depression, or that he's prone to it. Overall I'd say he's a happy, super goofy kid. He's hasn't enjoyed school much this year, but he has a few friends, plays well with his sister, laughs a lot, etc. And like I mentioned, he's always been like this since we can remember, so it's not like there might have been a recent development or issue that we missed.

What I'd like to do is first make sure this isn't something we should have him see a counselor or psychologist about. If not, I'd love ideas on how to talk to him to try to help him remember the happy things and focus on those instead of the negative. 

Thanks!",4.134380987472365,4.583750951977403,5.212608695652175,85.10435151068538,70.5536723163842,8.416408744780155,28.38565463031196,8.456263369488248,1.80743738639155,1343,46,289,20,23,444,176,354,0.138,0.68,0.182,0.9584,0,0,1,0,0,0,41,6,0,0,2,13,25,0,1,25,1,40,10,3,4,2,50,63,22,0,4,13,3,3,4,1,13,4,3,0,3,19,14,2,0,9,1,0,4,8,7,1,4,9,12,25,18,27,37,9,33,0,4,4,1,51,10,0,11,23,179,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683391816097122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324246767238364,0.0,0.09456686267975473,0.0,0.0,0.07778243849630234,0.0,0.1849906065789833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043575312774093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523701546186376,0.0,0.08712519924413563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035074670005387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281527107089932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051147327881200966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604293051094189,0.0,0.0,0.07815259181554925,0.0,0.05284964366238807,0.0,0.1724672336155269,0.0,0.08090340116436809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21536410651326512,0.0,0.0,0.10381486377160534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780248912681416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828919822918263,0.11419239795505465,0.0,0.1055802007217719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533802644747484,0.05559249093724423,0.08245534268246531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068769783115742,0.07144921574357951,0.1976781325997182,0.0,0.0,0.17903910561991054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599890257306582,0.09129690896480934,0.0,0.1350443422150858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731014206437996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436103002511693,0.0,0.07801746090252419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122916431155117,0.0,0.06854567545183736,0.15386683564065096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998789849591786,0.0,0.3437688422530749,0.0,0.0,0.2413290604761021,0.0,0.102374901937621,0.0806079435457803,0.1841765799059891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367698566678727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787454898519126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953379878130032,0.1051394354115403,0.0,0.08130506681298785,0.08841448263437693,0.09313051699733166,0.0,0.0,0.13440661670746942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359386543718671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867803538070248,0.0,0.09881435582146103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05966421372006867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095106316982317,0.0,0.0,0.11293665276156535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542273512111907
parenting,Pennyem,2018/02/20,"I co-opted song lyrics to make a point. Where do you get inspiration to get through to stubborn children?

My 6 year old daughter refused to brush her hair to the point it looked like a possum was nesting in it. Finally I gave her the option that either she could brush it herself, or I could help her, or we could cut all the offending bits away (which was the whole problem, she couldn't reach the tangle and wouldn't ask for help). And as I was brushing her hair after she agreed, I found myself telling her in dead serious tones,

""Don't be afraid to ask for help, especially from me and Daddy. You know, you can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, and ask for help, you just might find... you get what you need."" She nodded sagely and ran off to get ready for her bath.

I really hope I'm in the room the first time she hears the Stones. ",5.324913294797689,5.090687994219657,5.2760751445086695,88.04891040462431,67.90173410404624,8.307283236994222,26.5485549132948,7.554174236665415,1.1096409248554917,665,16,147,6,10,207,103,173,0.107,0.767,0.126,0.5297,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,1,8,0,1,2,9,3,1,10,0,13,2,2,1,1,31,32,10,1,10,6,1,2,1,0,2,0,2,2,1,7,6,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,6,0,1,6,8,30,3,20,19,4,16,0,0,1,0,34,9,0,6,7,95,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706582619354472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39458007830180397,0.0,0.1321834234217687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359766582659262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369899203702467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541196444655621,0.12858863376678167,0.11967132846980685,0.0,0.1542599501530256,0.0,0.0,0.36752508478483337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856849945621818,0.0,0.3772076984910989,0.0,0.0,0.1397374826735329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731985886463606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873430680813045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814464645499033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391204913200504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925046349385984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432027627851227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763108836373656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26599613105527914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462187650045648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012998285936852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914657292222465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296976090884112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203780379862045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551966305540813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298294439284706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707599902343047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060011549379407
parenting,bluemountains606,2018/02/20,"Two year old still screams at bedtime, please God help us. Crosspost from r/beyondthebump because I need all the help I can get. Tonight he's been screaming for 45 minutes so far. 


We do the same routine every. day.  6:30 bath, teeth, book, song, bed. In the crib by 7. It may vary ten to fifteen minutes now and then. But we try so hard to be consistent. 

Everything I've read says the be consistent they will learn in a week. He has been like this since we sleep trained at year. He has stretches where he won't cry, stretches where he will only cry a little, and then stretches where it's screaming off and on for an hour. 

I'm so sick of hearing him cry. I have tried everything I know to do. I keep thinking he will grow out of it. I don't know how to help him sleep happily.

Has anyone gone through this? Please help!",1.1982797858099057,3.483137837349396,1.939196787148596,97.58528781793844,83.27710843373494,5.13467202141901,23.680053547523432,6.42735559955562,0.4443049531459171,635,24,142,6,18,196,105,166,0.075,0.747,0.17800000000000002,0.9466,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,4,0,1,0,9,4,0,0,7,0,17,4,3,1,1,18,26,10,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,5,1,6,2,0,5,7,0,1,4,4,0,2,2,3,0,2,3,7,13,1,18,16,2,28,0,0,0,0,19,15,0,1,12,79,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811349259967657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553644967210036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623976579192208,0.09049339519997604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182238276237926,0.0,0.2522172442292712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733102772445832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256972186920378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814839773723946,0.0,0.376208347402506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818480233972802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472093872855085,0.0,0.0,0.15423002468517294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855220632447871,0.1406353332234683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404389649602563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723996355515862,0.0,0.0,0.10671803628063607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30805369177069325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035580673501066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115863741276826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607236289823646,0.0,0.2808383411965485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205800407622407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991000271308333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053319816253572,0.0,0.13707013555839118,0.0,0.16878507830828224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255450318402166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072017013831307
parenting,mcmanama,2018/02/20,"7yo Daughter reads at 1st percentile. Can anyone recommend reading software or other self study for reading? I know reading with her is the optimal solution. The other parent is not motivated to read with her. I have her and my 9 and 10 year old part time.  The best I can do is two brief reading sessions a week.  

I have computers for the kids. The older two work on Khan Academy math. 

Is there something the 7yo can work on for reading? Preferably something without sound.

THANK YOU",2.704575757575757,5.60500547777778,3.465353535353536,84.79045454545457,83.1111111111111,5.9393939393939394,29.292929292929287,7.348242739294969,2.1231111111111107,383,19,66,6,11,121,60,90,0.054000000000000006,0.821,0.125,0.7736,1,0,2,0,0,0,10,0,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,1,0,10,12,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,7,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,9,2,10,12,2,9,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,5,47,11,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542597308277737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282126820556626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714290556890799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819966785499556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356582943559011,0.13230109839042428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8554401372658131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745274201077933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881089838063367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248018217773692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123986766678769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23868989677985164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799954832486832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777009629248965,0.0,0.1778863209130544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867519533088851
parenting,PinkMoonrise,2018/02/20,"Age for Netflix’s “Stranger Things”? So my 10-year-old son has been practically begging to watch this show and my husband and I have said no so far. His friends at school are watching it, *and* my husband and I watch it. Son even argued that the baby (4 mos) is “allowed” to watch it. Pretty much everyone but him. 

I usually check Common Sense Media for things like this. I like to think my son is more mature than most, but he’s still a kid. My husband pointed out that Son got scared during a scene in Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children therefore Stranger Things would be too scary. But Son also reads HP Lovecraft with no problems. 

I’m really confused with this one, guys. On one hand, he’s barely 10 and on the other hand, I was watching Terminator 2 (Did you know that’s rated R?!) when I was 6. 

Opinions? 

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parenting,SmartyPantJoy,2018/02/21,"Questions about maternity leave Not sure if this sub is the right place or not but here we go..  
We are expecting on 04/24/2018 and currently living in California. My wife works full time right now.  
My wife is planning to start her maternity leave 4 weeks prior to the due date i.e. 03/27/2018 and continue till 6 weeks after the due date i.e. 06/05/2018.  
After that she is planning to take FMLA of 12 weeks.  
Now, we want to know how much of this entire leave will be paid? How much?  
Is STD and SDI same thing? When does it kick in? For how long she can get paid under STD?  
Edit..Thanks a lot everyone for your valuable inputs. Appreciate that.",2.3389547038327514,5.020193447154477,2.802282229965158,90.61993902439028,82.00813008130079,6.115911730545879,20.9808362369338,7.447530270364453,0.7225080139372824,506,15,102,8,14,156,85,123,0.041,0.88,0.079,0.8372,1,0,0,0,0,0,26,3,1,0,3,8,2,0,0,4,0,8,2,0,3,1,21,16,11,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,9,2,16,12,5,28,0,0,0,2,10,8,0,4,19,63,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319602973388866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727716172032445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146153154453343,0.0,0.0994905309642357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620829983219983,0.0,0.0,0.5560892238189756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458102986312386,0.15492243345071374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882960026615066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25737822327708426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829002541607002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610706469914468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990002625534205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390824287323784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649918102656385,0.0,0.1316231995036646,0.0,0.0,0.16117156385241874,0.0,0.0,0.11630196688093199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207878986497697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325481852059218,0.0,0.4212672887226869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744563519734792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SamiSweet612,2018/02/21,"Public opinion poll: swim lessons You have a daughter who turned 6 last week. Tonight is her first ever swim lesson, first activity of any kind in fact.

Do you stay poolside during her 30 minute lesson, or leave completely and come back when it's over?

UPDATE: Showed husband Reddit poll. He changed his perspective and apologized for not considering the implications of just dipping the moment he dropped her off. He stayed the whole time and enjoyed the experience as much as she did :-) Thanks for helping us out Reddit community!!!",4.896129032258067,8.077727483870973,4.531623655913978,79.13743548387096,75.23655913978493,7.160860215053764,29.730107526881717,8.238735603445708,2.5681320430107526,428,19,69,8,10,130,75,93,0.012,0.82,0.16899999999999998,0.944,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,2,0,5,4,3,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,2,14,7,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,3,3,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,8,3,10,6,2,21,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,2,11,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424335381103645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105452369751996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157088135046954,0.18042307968187848,0.21960488856580246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945998946309414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048828020506369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35631701599680043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403902706437321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181104887517935,0.0,0.17073013136084106,0.0,0.2217778617537952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397023420552078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44649277881024296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928339011565197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213228440858552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278220239616303,0.0,0.0,0.2519431903936049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800857581471462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338440291939521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Integrals,2018/02/21,"Advice on Managing Grandparents and General Discipline Long time lurker looking for some advice with how to handle Grandparents, boundaries and discipline. For some background our son is now 9 months old so we haven’t really had the opportunity to parent him outside of making him laugh, positive reinforcement when he is being good, small things.

My question is down the road, how do you handle discipline with grandparents/family members in the same room? Personally it would irk me if my wife’s parents or my parents were to discipline him in a way that did not fit our parenting style (spanking, saying NO, DON’T DO THAT! (shouting), guilt driven discipline such as “why would you DO THAT?!” or judging behavior that we deem acceptable, IE him playing loudly or acting “annoying”, expecting him to act like a grown up not a CHILD).

So where do you draw the line? Is it a firm boundary of grandparents don’t discipline him, we will handle it and you will respect our boundary? Or is the answer somewhere in between at “we plan on employing XYZ parenting/discipline techniques”.

How do you handle it if/when grandparents overstep the boundary or when they offer unsolicited advice? Let’s use the above example and shout “NO! BAD! Don’t be BAD! You are going to time out!”. I assume I try and respectfully override said action in the moment, but I do not know how that might look.

It doesn’t help that the wife and I are somewhat new at this whole thing (first child) and we don’t have an established parenting style yet (although we have read a TON of books and have a pretty good idea as to how we will handle discipline, but it is untested, which leaves us to be insecure, which the grandparents tend to inadvertently exploit as weakness).

Some of the “red flag” behavior that leads me to ask for advice this so early is that the grandparents will (often veiled behind a layer of joking) say things like “you’re raising MY GRANDSON (my caps for emphasis) grandson to be a hooded gangsta” when sending him pictures of our LO with a cute hooded sweatshirt on. Another example is before he was born we got the whole “We are going to SPOIL HIM so MUCH and ignore what you say when he stays over” which we nipped that in the bud and they SEEM to be more on board now… My last example would be that they have said “Can’t wait to teach him how to ride a bike” (which again, the wife and I corrected it in the moment going “you mean when WE teach him?”. The list goes on but I wanted to keep this brief.

I appreciate any help/advice you are willing to provide (including any books related to this topic) and thank you all for your time!",5.148291957945723,6.866163146639511,5.591108053063248,78.61292618484066,69.26476578411405,9.055562283260855,29.35988330489349,9.498858831193498,2.7726282930588426,2079,79,371,46,37,666,233,491,0.046,0.8640000000000001,0.09,0.9722,14,0,0,0,0,0,57,16,11,3,5,21,20,1,2,28,0,49,1,0,9,2,81,69,40,0,6,12,11,0,2,1,9,1,8,1,3,29,27,0,10,8,6,0,12,12,7,0,1,8,11,55,13,53,45,11,57,1,0,3,0,68,22,0,15,23,274,84,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368022930181447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215898714334533,0.09374349456717647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835767532545342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929021243395535,0.0,0.0,0.07607265278517727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427818347199273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604343179875359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242391488855922,0.14996863635637514,0.07150119402252889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984561490603708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092150249028366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946265784256643,0.0,0.0,0.0491317969762962,0.07287277630460925,0.0,0.09466148933454002,0.0,0.09141736164464936,0.0,0.08735246176058611,0.0,0.0,0.07911601764764481,0.15014664715374346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059675066656025275,0.0,0.0,0.09738260036761613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948390695311048,0.0,0.0,0.07135807455724988,0.0,0.0657191460311891,0.0,0.0,0.08634289254189942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381006079660917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4963395402664253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806046483891407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095174548467604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014824609956363,0.0,0.08942400177948953,0.0,0.057271806808081326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007938126927732,0.21328294890000327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138622842017064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095288301287294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230733281182995,0.0,0.0,0.17817978182872182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563892425491178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060696601900149125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753696262447664,0.07721273104516871,0.0,0.0,0.052730323571107685,0.07096140710334208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080669422300938,0.19962338801934412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190521177756122,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gunsteala,2018/02/21,"Pulled my son out of school today. Am I overreacting? Met my wife, who is an elementary teacher at my son’s school, for lunch today and she casually brought up that the school was on high alert today. When I asked her for specifics, she said a former student had threatened (death) another student attending the school. Especially with the recent tragedy, I just couldn’t help but get upset and told her I would take our son home for the day. 

Only the school staff was notified; none of the parents. My wife said the school had these types of threats all the time (the school demographic consists of mostly low income families). 

When I went to the school there were a few police cars parked along the permiter of the school. My wife also mentioned that there was only one entrance that wasn’t locked today. That single entrance requires the main office to buzz you in. But while waiting for my son in the main office, I noticed the staff buzzing in any parents without any communication. 

My sister and parents think I’m overreacting. Wondering what this sub thinks. This is the first time I’ve ever pulled out my son from school from such an incident. His safety is by far my biggest concern. 

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parenting,intrepideGal,2018/02/21,"Rap Music So I listened to rap music ever since I was probably 10 and tbh I still enjoy rap music & sometimes the real raunchy kind. But now my daughter is listening to it , and I don’t like it. I feel like it’s corrupting her mind! I know rap music degrades women and talks about pretty much everything I don’t want my daughters become involved in. She knows I listen to it & hasn’t said anything about my listening to it, but I feel like a hypocrite telling her how much it’s “bad” music. By the way she’s 12. I’m not sure how to handle this situation? Any opinions or advice?",2.1066539343009936,4.094252117647058,3.998838808250575,85.66126814362109,78.24369747899159,6.3440794499618045,25.10389610389611,7.348242739294969,1.2891781512605045,458,17,90,6,11,155,73,119,0.08,0.792,0.129,0.4037,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,2,19,16,9,0,1,4,2,2,3,0,0,0,5,0,1,7,3,0,0,4,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,7,16,6,9,14,2,5,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,6,55,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205493313871972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3815465740873159,0.0,0.11973458893311782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489175896129092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701226349516014,0.0,0.19445702675316875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592666604971859,0.0,0.0,0.1582416200968439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178053979179084,0.2515708849744295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335126725885265,0.19352847223699535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580587752391199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778192047960406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25886547431334783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912791139543932,0.1898347476383116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20040779877520248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748422020843626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564808056335174,0.19791162935954792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741391155524231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061084652658742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594520965455414,0.0,0.0,0.1415195208936285,0.1538941632168526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385147286799062,0.1397572809226052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,T618,2018/02/21,"Double standard for TV? I have a six month baby girl, and my partner and I agree to keep TV time down to a strict minimum (basically none, except when we're clipping her fingernails). Later in her life we'll let her watch more, but still with real limits.

But after the babe is down for the night, I often notice my partner watching shows back-to-back. While they're good shows, and I often enjoy joining her, I prefer to fill that time with things that will help me more, like learning German, career development, audio books, etc. One can watch good TV forever and never catch up.

Do you limit your own screen time congruently with the limits you give your kids?

Do you help your partner find alternatives for passive entertainment?

How do you support each other in this?

Edit: responders so far really love their TVs. Someone please chime in if you try to moderate your own passive entertainment time.",5.858835341365462,7.492483096385545,6.01222891566265,76.5965763052209,67.43373493975903,8.424899598393575,27.68875502008032,8.841846274778883,2.2305236947791163,718,23,122,12,12,228,110,166,0.0,0.735,0.265,0.9944,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,1,9,1,3,6,8,0,0,5,0,9,2,0,1,1,25,13,11,0,2,4,0,0,1,3,2,1,1,0,6,5,8,0,4,3,8,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,5,23,8,18,10,8,21,0,0,4,1,26,7,0,3,13,84,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849468765273216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664278298348832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934797747182245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774314139429914,0.0,0.31081808384064674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24838649791600234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469064230750075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946741042997725,0.130872927424534,0.09052134313827333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672277801329046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478934565207145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290392682805592,0.0,0.0,0.17387828772590533,0.0,0.0,0.21094925213395413,0.0,0.0,0.1255545370976321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338830384099132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089594535632045,0.11869890720269136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699216182684184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796957796457974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102602704121085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309573457644618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4321668484237533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579697966588155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,campinjoe,2018/02/21,"Dealing with guilt My 6 month old daughter fell off the bed yesterday and it’s all my fault. I turned around for 5 seconds and she rolled off it. We got her checked and she seems to be ok, but I can’t shake the feeling that I failed her. The image of her crying lying on the floor keeps flashing in front of me. I’m sure others have dealt with this, how does one get over it?",-0.238500000000002,1.9622421500000016,0.9525000000000006,102.48250000000002,90.0,3.7,16.75,4.935628992294339,-1.0219,292,7,70,1,10,91,63,80,0.212,0.716,0.07200000000000001,-0.9239,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,2,4,1,3,0,0,1,2,14,10,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,4,0,2,1,1,12,2,12,8,1,13,0,1,0,0,8,7,0,1,3,45,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698399994687057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329617715856597,0.0,0.31250217585269524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652613070694484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532659744299267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836706373017498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24243179708141954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694259194548481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419465365254352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180721935367033,0.0,0.20540114559815945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759479737829842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28568588443735754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32970621476260925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AudgieD,2018/02/21,"How can we make a great back yard for our almost 2-year-old little girl? We recently moved to a new house.  We have a nice big, fenced back yard, but it's pretty bare.  We have her little single-seat swing and I hope to plant a satsuma tree in the spring.  Nora will be two in May.  I want to create a great play space for her, but I'm uncertain where to start.  She loves to be outside, especially when she can run free.  I don't feel like buying a ton of big, plastic Fisher Price climbing toys is necessarily the way I want to go, especially considering how hot it gets here in south Louisiana, and how it would likely burn little legs that are wearing shorts to slide down hot plastic.

She's a smart and curious little thing, so I want to provide creative play things and opportunities.  I just don't know what that looks like!  Things that can easily be found second-hand would be an even greater bonus, but aren't a must.  I'd be most grateful for any advice at all!",4.4914188919888405,5.299156715025909,5.11813471502591,84.81071343164609,69.93264248704664,8.011000398565166,24.690713431646074,8.139509932561175,1.175826145874851,758,19,160,10,13,244,122,193,0.036000000000000004,0.647,0.316,0.9963,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,5,0,0,3,11,15,0,1,11,0,20,3,2,4,2,32,34,12,0,7,4,0,3,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,10,8,0,1,3,5,4,5,3,1,0,1,1,4,16,15,17,23,4,28,0,0,1,1,12,15,0,5,10,97,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351886598737163,0.0,0.0,0.13853204892729226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407901490013013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275678657834002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137524804477264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995114406570296,0.0988333498566928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168762107630018,0.0,0.0,0.07227929963879022,0.0,0.0786243765804962,0.0,0.0,0.3050506345279396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740731992271546,0.0,0.15963099694748495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603052795944319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276442736519365,0.5546301976704776,0.0,0.0,0.11617455046420246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486132699999798,0.0,0.09234603867759038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703832644124562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133613995610078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516929746564575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074610850014382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659851952077448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792096046401756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757298474279695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514248986538366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24479753971859405,0.10981143737557633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655194970433534,0.0,0.0,0.0890893324862268
parenting,getthefacts,2018/02/21,"At what point do you stop looking for a diagnosis? My daughter (18 months) has been put through several tests with no answers: genetic, EKG, EEG, blood draws, head ultra sound, ECHO. She has hypotonia (low muscle one) and not walking or talking (or communicating through gestures). She has feeding issues and is less than 1% for height and weight (failure to thrive), severely farsighted. We see lots of therapists through early intervention. 

The next option for testing is an MRI, but when do you stop putting your child through testing just to find answers? It's tough and I'm stressed and I feel the need to get answers but we're coming up empty handed. When do we stop looking?",4.8857824143070046,7.4606694262295115,4.791192250372578,80.46625186289124,71.95081967213116,7.387183308494784,34.04172876304024,8.296473431620573,2.9176786885245902,538,28,92,9,11,166,91,122,0.14400000000000002,0.856,0.0,-0.937,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,9,6,3,0,0,26,17,11,0,1,6,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,9,2,3,5,0,0,4,2,3,0,1,1,7,9,0,15,16,2,17,0,1,3,0,10,5,0,4,8,56,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150955991033802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893286186573293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607559224992468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189277825807712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805089986490468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18357849364789192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953986067487975,0.0,0.0,0.14953134093142198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038992014856247,0.0,0.0,0.13041667647658572,0.0,0.0,0.18705594761306996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191843902502708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626840248795094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536264911104945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015776396546625,0.0,0.0,0.3974005138483322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411438075964722,0.20147594762567367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136989311852696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042163194462107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141808379862737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hopelessmom90008,2018/02/21,"Feeling utterly hopeless with 2 y/o who doesn’t talk yet. I don’t know if this is the right place to post this but I feel like I’m losing my mind. 

My 2 y/o is in speech therapy, and has been since last summer. We had a really messy moving experience and when we finally got to our new state she just completely shut down, wouldn’t look at anyone and lost all of the progress she’d made before. 

Ever since starting speech therapy she’s gained back a lot, some speech (which she uses sporadically) and some sign language (which is usually forced). She babbles and points, and is working on Joint Attention in therapy right now (which is a STRUGGLE)

But I feel like when I talk to her most of the time there’s no one there. She’s a really loving, sweet kid and understands things like “no” and simple things like “eat” “juice” etc but it feels like that’s it. I keep trying so hard but I feel hopeless and sad all the time because she’s just in her own world most of the time and I’ve been trying so hard for so long. 

She has an appointment with a developmental pediatrician in March.

I just needed to vent because sometimes I feel completely dead inside and worthless. ",4.12255920550038,5.4393655238095215,4.880840336134456,84.27151260504205,71.25108225108225,8.379017061370003,25.70944741532977,8.841846274778883,1.7176455818691108,920,28,189,17,17,297,130,231,0.16,0.7040000000000001,0.135,-0.7511,0,0,0,0,0,2,23,3,0,0,5,14,14,0,1,11,0,14,2,0,2,3,47,32,21,1,3,8,0,8,5,0,1,0,3,0,1,11,15,1,1,9,0,0,1,5,7,0,1,6,13,23,7,17,24,9,33,0,6,1,1,18,13,0,6,22,117,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533524584754057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284643537469001,0.0,0.1313562343818694,0.0,0.09167993971459157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259294776805193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024628234129792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016006755172255,0.0,0.09745820491588823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539169859862106,0.0,0.0,0.32686353442874644,0.2309112916241108,0.0,0.11802536504838505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617058716248746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930301454287023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957654480794866,0.0,0.0,0.05921181949019751,0.08782356725889383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26318486785083384,0.0,0.0,0.09534769017293887,0.09047558521638303,0.12053499358640425,0.11761239338918865,0.09159782930503596,0.09724076044262353,0.10194745531261483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878803374387032,0.0,0.0,0.11451198718525288,0.0,0.07988883397970073,0.0,0.10405725176140053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300831628986636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256676246190137,0.0,0.1018503857120966,0.0,0.10318641552188593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804371487709502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840210211043491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17824948971539134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655893427036137,0.0,0.07625987075079935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263463545430387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731968062090844,0.0,0.0,0.369634815557466,0.0,0.14315710975704934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18847451487464706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629858692585276,0.0,0.0,0.11216252840210053,0.0,0.0930539197497179,0.11866185782620407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843697434920546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brianna_keilar,2018/02/21,"Need advice: My 8yo son gets very easily frustrated when he can't do something. As the title says, my son get really frustrated very quickly if he can't do something like: reading, writing, math, tying shoes, searching for something on the iPad, playing games, etc., etc.

Some examples: Last night he was reading to me, and got stuck on a word, and got frustrated, stopped reading, wouldn't continue, said he was ""stupid"", etc. 

This morning I heard him crying, and asked him what was wrong, and he said he lost everything on his YouTube (he accidentally logged out). 

Then he got extremely frustrated because he couldn't get his shoe tied. 

I've really tried to coach him on not getting frustrated, keep trying, take a deep breath, take a drink of water, etc., but nothing works. Sadly, it's affecting his school work, and even impacting his friendships. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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parenting,Livefreeconsulting,2018/02/21,"Visitation ideas with my [28M] [3F] daughter. Hello r/parenting.

I didn't see any questions like this when I searched, so pardon me if this is asked a lot.

**Quick Backstory**

My ex-wife and I separated and are going through a divorce.  We have a daughter coming up on 3 in April.  She was born a micro-preemie, and long story very short, my Ex forbid me from feeding her or caring for her and demanded to do everything herself. 

The judge told my Ex that she has to relinquish some control and let me care for my daughter.  The temporary custody order dictated that I get one, four hour visit per week, supervised by my ex, to get some practice feeding.  **This was only supposed to be for 4 weeks.**  However when it came time to increase the plan, her attorney caught the flu and had to delay.  *Our court date was delayed to mid-April. We have another 8 weeks on what was supposed to be a temporary plan.*


**My question**

My visitations are 4 hours long.  They have to be in a public place since they are supervised by my Ex (I can't be alone with her, after she lied about an abuse claim that took me a year to refute).  

I am DYING for ideas on public things to do.  A local kids museum is perfect because it has a lot of variety and my daughter loves playing their, BUT it is a bit far for my Ex to drive (45 minutes).

McDonalds play place gets boring after an hour or so.  It's still too cold for most parks (though this weekend should be nice).

Please help me everyone, I really need ideas to fill up these next 8 weeks until I can have my daughter unsupervised.


**TL:DR**

Does anyone have fun or creative ideas for public visitation?",1.1103129314312028,3.6820066289308215,2.9084629544408678,88.02482512655317,88.0566037735849,5.9955207853965335,22.85043718361712,7.407850130929222,1.23917800276116,1260,48,247,23,41,417,184,318,0.049,0.84,0.111,0.9618,2,1,0,0,2,0,63,3,0,3,4,9,11,0,0,16,0,31,4,0,1,1,36,46,18,1,3,5,10,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,14,13,2,4,6,4,0,12,2,2,0,2,10,2,39,9,38,29,7,50,0,0,1,1,40,12,0,11,26,165,53,2,0.0,0.12443800390221488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877470926276167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142091869159048,0.11012835895648104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343624813526871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818463377463373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402254956267851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146606080524488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201211545638766,0.21416092533900025,0.0,0.0,0.09047013979292644,0.0,0.0,0.11779499116799598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899985283646142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190849348169727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035633400105226,0.09439011720226684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646144144281426,0.0,0.059688392920500724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039635634808925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102867861777691,0.0,0.0,0.4742438717051602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739565518161824,0.0,0.05131013788699995,0.0,0.0,0.185888465774304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857779173136415,0.09478958397744247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787505263131912,0.0,0.0,0.11169577510269073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711679741757402,0.07987659989630451,0.0,0.0,0.1166183516139045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21945851790715065,0.11528642365307452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353051173574773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728200316585005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369169910151995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687815118580282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387347320781921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977425318105457,0.0,0.10318698758544116,0.0,0.0612411941041929,0.0,0.0,0.10035633400105226,0.11668715766121585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665700901294299,0.0,0.0,0.33698037672714354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763295702597831
parenting,CommentToBeDeleted,2018/02/21,"5 month old not sleeping through the night Our 5 month old seem to be unable to sleep through the night and will wake up every 1-2 hours. 

She typically wakes up to feed, but as the night drags on she more frequently wakes herself up through her head and arms thrashing about. When this happens just rocking her for a few minutes puts her to sleep.

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I don't expect her to sleep through the night, but I'm concerned that she is unable to sleep more than 1-2 hours at a time.

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As far as napping goes, she can nap 2-4 hours in the daytime. We try not to let her nap within 4 hours of her bedtime, but that doesn't seem to help. She is babysat the majority of the weekdays, so there is little control over her napping schedule until we get here in the evening.

I have tried keeping her awake, so she had gone 6 hours without napping before her bed time, but she was fussy and that had no effect on her sleeping behavior, so I didn't want to do that again.

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I guess I'm just looking for advice if this is typical and if there is anything we can do to help the situation.",7.445779816513762,5.28251357798165,7.147779816513761,82.64469724770642,64.59633027522936,9.820917431192662,36.47889908256881,7.554174236665415,2.476382018348624,832,32,182,6,10,263,113,218,0.06,0.94,0.0,-0.8853,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,4,0,0,2,12,0,0,0,11,0,19,12,11,2,0,26,30,18,0,4,11,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,7,1,2,3,6,0,2,7,0,0,0,5,1,26,0,35,22,4,34,0,0,1,0,24,12,0,5,20,124,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543856905616656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037120407438439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310699419591111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954127945749344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645077991651938,0.0,0.08228823478283995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102671286446569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759065581481693,0.0,0.0863661594249075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023400117089762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309275864288267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4809091232664275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681046870762743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987060875952174,0.0,0.0,0.09788748640317828,0.0,0.0,0.08201525828722678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559129298358394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666135596795368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204969115515345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818180364776206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782381881811105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978123301132456,0.5864221744691863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390023788211168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261827889903965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576062294994193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414701642804603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontwannastepup,2018/02/21,"My [19/F] parents [late 40s] denied letting me put my baby up for adoption after I was sexually assaulted and said they'd raise the baby (now 13mo/F]. They have now changed their mind and want me to 'take over' raiseing her because I am an adult but I DNW. I became pregnant at 17 due to the rest of date rape - I was given too many sleeping pills from a guy I'd been talking in a drink after refusing to sleep with him because I wasn't ready to do it. There are exceptions here for maternal life/rape/birth defects but it is very hard to get one for rape because you have to prove it and doctors are reluctant to 'agree' because they get interrogated about it was basically my word against his and the doctors were all 'she probably just took the sleeping pills to sleep, it is high school exam time, she was probably stressed'. I was too tired to really struggle much so he didn’t have to do much so no sign os struggle made them less likely to believe I was assaulted. His parents sent him hours away to 'protect' him from my ‘lies’. 

I wanted to put the baby up for adoption so I couldn't get on with my life because I didn't want to be a parent but my parents would have no piece of it. They said they'd take the baby and look after it because it is their grandchild and I could finish my education and not worry and live my life. 

I just finished school a few weeks ago and now the summer break is over they expect me to not go to University as planned and take on my responsibility to the baby, which is now 13 months old. I don't want to. 

My parents very much said me they were going to raise the baby *for* me, they never gave me an impression it was a temporary thing. If I knew they were just going to raise the baby for a year, I'd have followed through with adoption. I don't really feel anything for the baby - she's like a small sister but I was busy with study for my final year so had little to do with her. And to be honest, I resent i was forced to go through with being pregnant and give birth- I received a lot of judgement and I was always labelled stupid for getting pregnant even though it was not my fault. No one believed me when I said I was assaulted. She also caused a lot of damage to my body that will never be fixed which i resent because i never asked for this. I don't wish bad on the baby, but I don't want much to do with her. 

I don't know what my parents change is, but I wonder if now they are getting sick of the reality of having another baby when they were almost done - i am the youngest child of 2 and my brother is gay and I want to be a diplomat instead of having kids I guess they right have thought this was their only chance for a grandbaby but now they are sick of the caring for her. She is a difficult baby - fussier than normal I've been told. They love her very much but now I am old enough for uni I think they realise they could be going on holidays & having money - not dealing with a baby and want to make me take over so they can have the grandchild without the actual work of raising her. They keep sasying I’m an adult and I got to finish my education but is now time to face up to the responsibility because they let me finish school but I let myself get pregnant. Deep down, I don’t think they believe I was assaulted because I did text this guy a lot, and the sleeping pills were something I would use for my insomnia. But they are easy to get here and no doubt he got them easy too. 

How can I handle this? Am I in the right by saying it is not my responsibility because they agreed to take over the responsibility for me? How can I not get into trouble for neglect if they decide to jus dump the baby on me - we don't have safe haven laws here or something like that. Do I call their bluff and tell them i'll put her up for adoption if they make me take over (legally, I'm still the mother so can). 
  
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  **tl;dr**: Become pregnant at 17 after date rape, parents told me no to give up the baby because they'd raise it, I just turned 19 and finished school a few weeks ago & they want me to 'take responsibility' and take over raising the baby but i don't want to.
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parenting,nottherealme1220,2018/02/21,"Child seeks revenge against other children. One of my kids almost always tries to get revenge against the other kids over any infraction imagined or real. It really upsets me and I think seeking revenge is really unhealthy but I don’t know how to get that point through. 

Let’s call the child X. It could be a simple as one kid not wanting to play X’s game. X will say something along the lines of fine I’ll make sure no one plays with you the rest of the day. Or a kid interrupts X so X will interrupt the other the rest of the day until the other kid is in tears. Or if a child accidentally runs into X, X will try to injure the other child. 

I’ve told X that revenge is never good and that it often leaves the person getting revenge feeling as bad as the person they took revenge against. X says revenge feels great and does it with a smile. 

How do I get through?",2.348011363636364,4.327274142045456,3.5840909090909108,88.9586363636364,77.4659090909091,5.763636363636365,24.63636363636364,6.6274283507984215,0.8285181818181822,683,24,138,6,16,222,99,176,0.262,0.65,0.08800000000000001,-0.9883,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,0,1,1,0,4,8,0,1,16,0,11,1,0,3,2,28,23,15,0,3,6,0,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,12,12,7,0,0,5,3,0,2,4,2,0,3,2,4,7,6,23,15,2,10,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,6,4,89,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339877287667492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357768163321606,0.0,0.0,0.11096634827220224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624646124939854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662255093631506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028401772364964,0.0,0.0,0.2104720762385543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279779767190692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501497220551906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34101419727250004,0.0,0.0,0.13686561006799594,0.0,0.17990385522009128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896781291111852,0.0,0.0,0.1727814935508168,0.0,0.16686012857473936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892230005101362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125852607317801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317200486728891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28496073317573123,0.0,0.0,0.15425555435643215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573180727063499,0.2090714690465674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595307181334674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562207126593425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537929356312977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455760281630867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592316808707554,0.18129629264279495,0.22157372767936226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624636297275617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darlingotter,2018/02/21,"Coping with criticism from childfree/antinatalists My partner and I are from a sort of bohemian/hipsterish social set of people in their late 20s and early 30s, all adamantly childfree. Since having kiddo, not only has our social life taken a total nosedive but I've been barraged with antinatalist criticism for our choice to reproduce. 

It's always some regurgitated line about ""overpopulation"" (we are dedicated to environmental issues and kiddo will be raised extremely low-carbon conscious) , pseudo-Buddhists looking down their topknots about how all life is suffering so it's unethical to bring life into the world, the claim that our decision to have a child undermines feminism, or snide remarks about the life of endless drudgery before us and how annoying kids can be.

It couldn't hurt to find a less sanctimonious group of friends, but meanwhile, does anyone have any snappy rejoinders to counter people who toot the childfree horn at you? I'm cool with everyone's decision to reproduce or not but tired of being looked at as a freak for enjoying life with my beautiful kid.",10.286203208556143,10.538420000000006,9.560754010695188,59.823483957219246,57.55614973262033,12.8275935828877,41.159893048128346,12.161744961471696,5.530784385026739,888,42,127,25,10,283,128,187,0.12,0.747,0.132,0.5432,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,5,1,2,0,6,7,1,0,9,1,14,6,0,2,3,29,19,13,0,1,7,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,4,5,10,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,3,11,3,29,12,5,11,0,2,2,0,17,7,0,4,2,87,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418897006187745,0.0,0.0,0.11596222654523995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923440637423767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510343817577245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922677750169036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294307258820048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585592603242554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174648645968934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825495617842468,0.0,0.0,0.1779828430723229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235859741870512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6022310275219864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863945706494132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296912521223197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364398616067788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105928674963847,0.0,0.0,0.34765566377937623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19599235267198967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051194803453933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lolibean13,2018/02/21,"Public School, Home School or Private Anyone home school at all and have any advice? 
My youngest will start kindergarten next year and im petrified. 😐 Leaning more towards home school though or Catholic School. 

What are your thoughts on public education? ",5.653255813953488,9.200884558139538,3.1314418604651166,87.92925581395347,75.51162790697674,5.300465116279072,29.53023255813953,6.742157984588678,1.6680362790697685,208,9,33,2,5,56,34,43,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.594,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,5,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,3,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,3,16,3,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191403324487548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571835396943803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087014759369925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678181531898967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679238313148193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533382243635827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7866707575932032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110035620274634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273898289804744,0.1234181353070734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100111354234289
parenting,Ranger4812,2018/02/21,"How long after birth before newborn baby is okay to be away from mother for a few hours? (Days/weeks/months?) I’m soon to be a dad, but the child’s mother and I are no longer together. At what point is a child okay to be away from their mother for a few hours (without having any ill effects as a result).

The mother is telling me “at least 6 months”, and “at least 1 year before overnights”

Is this accurate? Any feedback/insight/tips from experience would be greatly appreciated!


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parenting,sassy1024,2018/02/21,"What to do with my 14 year old daughter for Spring Break? My oldest daughter has asked for her and I alone (without her siblings) to take a trip together for Spring Break.   She originally asked for San Francisco or NY/DC, but I think it's out of my budget right now.    So I'm trying to find something closer to home.


What are some fun things we could do together in or around the Austin, TX area?   I am thinking Houston, Dallas, Waco, San Antonio, or maybe even New Orleans???    Hmmm......what place do you think a 14 year old logical/computer/geekchic girl would like??   

Thanks in advance.",3.873693693693696,5.690432765765767,4.315495495495497,86.08963963963964,72.69369369369369,7.455855855855856,27.64864864864865,8.167268648758528,1.8013675675675669,451,17,88,7,9,142,81,111,0.013,0.838,0.149,0.9542,0,1,1,0,0,0,28,1,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,18,16,6,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,5,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,15,14,1,22,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,4,11,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165642672366152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332938883965998,0.3640471675881045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545669024209358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860130512382753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795751919974814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953057328098937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512338972100576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19560808631480134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18804801722503656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086218427301813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034260575605012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662776383223486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989399130890946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639448524223586,0.0,0.0,0.1792588860841669,0.0,0.0,0.12935384216761553,0.3742787294435784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219241681162866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18768938551377376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831337149544656,0.0,0.0,0.2507682260895335
parenting,momandproud,2018/02/21,"How to help my overweight daughter If you have read my story on my own weight you’ll have known that I have twin daughters. I am a single mother and I am pretty fat myself. I am not here to ask for advice for myself this time but rather one of my daughters. They are 13 years old and one is a sports all star. She is about 5’5” and 120 but muscular. My other daughter is about the same height wise but weighs about 165 pounds. That’s how much I weighed when I found out that I was pregnant with them. She is not projected to grow any taller so she won’t naturally thin out like everyone else. Her weight has also come on more recently. At the beginning of the 5th grade she was about 4’9” and was about 90 pounds. Now it is halfway through 7th grade, she is 8 inches taller and has put on 75+ pounds in about 2.5 years. She is going to be or is already obese and for a 13 year old that’s not good. I don’t want her to follow in my footsteps but I’m afraid it’s too late. We’ve together tried doing some dieting but then that leads to more and more cravings afterwards. Please if you have any advice please write. I don’t care if it’s simple or stupid just write what you know and I’ll give it a try. 

Also please read my other story of myself if you could help out there.

Thanks",2.2706852103120743,3.7540114552238784,3.0743419267299856,94.7182157394844,76.23880597014927,6.216010854816827,20.01763907734057,6.7829847944221076,0.02157611940298532,1002,21,230,9,22,316,146,268,0.04,0.841,0.119,0.9702,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,5,2,1,18,7,1,1,7,0,28,9,2,3,1,42,40,26,0,7,16,5,3,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,13,13,8,0,3,3,0,6,6,2,0,2,4,3,34,5,29,32,9,33,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,7,14,156,47,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25487037637895105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391072923042672,0.20857773423669268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736660722397585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191578947153675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296173384212662,0.0,0.0,0.11233670781694644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041218106162586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894086004937437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246123880880479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429878849004732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510119975275125,0.07411503476086861,0.1093817597919513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748222105670108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166995107213556,0.0,0.14710821278172007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371176148342612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958663893940263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736868130677472,0.0,0.1767384451754589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4294532091633417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326739006097606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109811628956175,0.0,0.0,0.2608906747417616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287641881929628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200640497303163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604314687907132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707972254820278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691922426900939,0.0,0.0,0.31760860807848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519393829703397
parenting,waaaldooooo,2018/02/21,"Have you had your toddlers adenoids removed? (X-post) My daughter is 2.5 years. At her 2 year check up I mentioned to her pediatrician that her adenoids were pretty large. She snores but that’s about the only symptom. He didn’t seem worried at all. She’s hardly ever sick, even being in daycare. We have been on antibiotics once. 

While she sleeps okay, she wakes up once in the middle of the night usually to come get in our bed. My husband and mother in law think it’s from her adenoids. Lately, I’ve also been wondering if this is the reason her speech is a little garbled. She doesn’t have great intonation even by toddler standards. 

Have any of you ever experienced this? Do kids grow in to their adenoids? What’s it like having them removed?",2.5374912587412592,5.230491888111889,3.4089117132867126,86.54105987762239,81.16783216783216,5.253321678321679,24.322115384615394,6.6274283507984215,0.9569723776223776,592,22,108,6,16,188,100,143,0.046,0.856,0.097,0.8165,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,3,2,0,6,3,0,0,5,1,16,4,2,1,3,14,21,5,0,1,2,3,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,1,7,3,0,0,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,5,3,20,3,18,15,1,24,0,0,0,0,23,12,0,3,9,76,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831177040960974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611871360670915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975680318218186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24498829523532256,0.3355171888310675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689485269924412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446958151302305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613514431593013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092062180970064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060606757573476,0.1858789846276832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174041031003939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950162972899994,0.0,0.14105018824668086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761878587512078,0.18867882670786665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906830938645287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883522143160465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855932805420558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276326955318884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883485912906645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20425726594123436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011227474256776,0.0,0.1883429662649177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23885947405318314
parenting,pickledwatermelon1,2018/02/21,"I want to punch a 3rd grade Bully Well, I think there's a few of them actually. Obviously, violence will solve nothing so I've come here instead. I think violance in school is a huge issue and it starts with ""harmless"" bullying. Then no wonder it turns to violance. 

So my son who is 8 and I moved across the country. We've moved to a very rural area and I knew the school systems were not the best before coming here. But, I'm also a single mother and this was the best option for my career. The plan is to stay for 2 years and find somewhere else. But I also know that he will encounter bullies everywhere.

He at first really loved the new school. He would have new friends almost everyday. It's been 10 weeks now and he hates school. Everyday he asks me if he has to go to school and when he has off. Almost everyday I hear horrible stories. 

The other day he told me that somebody called him gay. Seriously? An 8 year old? Do they even know what that means at that age? It  broke my heart kids can say this crap. He says people make fun of his chapped lips (he carries chap stick ever day and he's had to adjust to the dry air). He says people tell him he smells or make gross faces at him and move away. 

Ugh this all makes me so mad. He's a cute, good kid. I give him advice on what to do but I feel like it dosnt help. It's easy to tell a kid how to handle it, but it would be difficult to be in that situation. I have started to implement self confidence boosting exercises at home. We set goals every night and look at our positive attributes. Not sure how else I can help him. I talked to a Co worker the other day about it and he said his daughter is being home schooled because it got so bad!! I knew the schools wernt the best, didn't realize bullying was such an issue. He explained some things she went through and it made me sick to my stomach. 

Ive talked to the teacher but she says she dosnt see it. And suggestions on how I can help him through this? Kids are mean, adults are even meaner so I know it will never go away. He will always have to deal with it. If you have any advice on what worked for your children please share. ",1.4839850560398489,3.6187191689497737,2.7593960149439596,93.00921855541719,81.05479452054793,5.8083022000830224,20.68513906185139,6.980632752743323,0.3471853881278535,1668,47,364,20,44,537,234,438,0.12,0.769,0.111,-0.63,0,0,0,0,0,0,48,2,2,2,8,22,22,3,0,22,0,33,9,5,8,5,63,69,33,0,5,10,3,1,1,1,6,2,6,2,7,30,18,0,0,15,1,0,8,5,9,1,1,13,10,41,13,41,47,7,50,0,1,2,2,68,17,1,8,23,221,71,12,0.0,0.0,0.07119622422698944,0.0,0.0,0.14258690681305858,0.0,0.0,0.14611326400801378,0.0,0.0,0.11668854724280292,0.06070667931478865,0.0,0.0,0.04961376103276716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820563283734428,0.0,0.1370923856656422,0.0,0.060916660548350925,0.04447435755380773,0.0,0.062081658149924425,0.0,0.2296939224912028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449800370600541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569325566000605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115510860492805,0.07521622032021906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189365026007365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963757906184646,0.06599444742578181,0.06147003764215472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03688962250857557,0.052121019837029034,0.0,0.0,0.0666820472500733,0.06205781137682606,0.0,0.0,0.056366964406014436,0.0,0.0,0.06998770655411696,0.08292712323053117,0.061193485928368464,0.05835096479615575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203065796275768,0.0,0.0,0.08222866876624567,0.0864552662167225,0.14670609390423028,0.0,0.14636511187618256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229783882560674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028698799767258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03564346365630961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126612179069616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584720350854281,0.06903437207392851,0.14609956216494055,0.0,0.0,0.15894472151104072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326275758241559,0.0,0.0,0.056269502259364036,0.14092606849399406,0.0,0.06846589118449828,0.0,0.0700049135745587,0.0,0.07655686915303023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011594132146369,0.0,0.0,0.0800856832736244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467385926704611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939951230652573,0.2320756739430686,0.0,0.5168598537390148,0.058137868228485524,0.0,0.0761108281836624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200754996649331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327971945110342,0.07776323724256208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876180099413409,0.0,0.0,0.11728132620073885,0.1275365507362881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04846987671095647,0.09349674024709384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971424149209436,0.0,0.0,0.07935706438799182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019777140571478,0.04303236185703605,0.0,0.05852229357293655,0.0,0.06559776485061622,0.06763255046676403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911955049072378,0.053114099365913374,0.0,0.0,0.1036541621264561,0.0,0.0,0.09396477752732686
parenting,magical_realist,2018/02/21,"Rebranding works! My toddler turned his nose up at hashbrown patties... until his dad started calling them ""flat fries."" Now he loves them. 

What have you successfully ""rebranded""?",5.788214285714287,9.581691392857149,4.418571428571429,75.8514285714286,81.5,7.085714285714286,35.57142857142857,8.07648339933343,3.8554,141,8,19,3,4,41,26,28,0.0,0.7829999999999999,0.217,0.8016,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,3,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,3,12,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5060621142228232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472975565183832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35078760894066874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390695291807734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608020629147204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justscottaustin,2018/02/21,"3 kids... dying dog I know what I have done. I ask what you would do.

One of our dogs (16) is dying tonight. I would lay 20:1 odds he doesn't see sunrise.

I have 3 kids. 8/6/4. G/B/G if that matters.

He is ""healthy"" and happy. Healthy insofar as he cannot get outside when necessary, and he cannot walk too much anymore. This sped up in the past 3 days. 2, really.

To be clear, the vet has already said he is ""fine,"" but he is also done. Animals do this when they know. He has stopped eating. Enough to not be starving. Water is the same. He'll be dead by morning.

So...

3 kids. Seeing this.

How do ,you handle it?",-1.9584143763213504,-0.1988478527131754,0.6006941508104298,101.19968816067656,105.04651162790695,3.585764622973925,16.71634954193094,5.565023196281405,-0.6753751937984491,453,14,110,4,22,152,85,129,0.066,0.853,0.081,-0.2778,0,0,0,0,0,1,42,1,2,1,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,22,2,0,1,1,14,30,10,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,7,2,2,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,3,9,2,7,21,3,10,0,0,2,0,17,2,0,1,7,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21708513877167546,0.15731671510382705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950931344327169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390641349270054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268679662260562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083280903689567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40262521315573707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012934180786604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20326409096942527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277795143983126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20941183466158145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622406275687528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461165304651666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330239552803522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187791263187534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602371083073444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871255331194231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135203469047766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446652172454493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27948813620317553,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bleumaus,2018/02/21,"My(31f) mom (60f) makes taking care of my kids (1m & 3f) look easy! So my mom takes care of my two kids three days a week and every time she comes over to watch the kids she makes everything look easy! When I say everything I mean taking care of the house, cleaning up, cooking, running, after them, having all meals all snacks on the table, she never misses a beat!!! I don't know how she does it because I struggle everyday to not keep up with the kids but the clean up after them. Normally when I watch my kids crafts and we do this and that, but my mom does same thing and always has the house sparkling clean always has the dishes done and always has the carpet vacuumed and the kids bathed.

How do I get this awsome mom power???",6.02076530612245,5.388426136054424,5.864685374149662,85.74355867346941,66.55102040816327,8.710544217687076,25.85799319727891,7.6454224807358475,1.1343748299319727,570,11,121,5,8,178,84,147,0.011,0.8370000000000001,0.152,0.9612,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,1,0,2,2,5,5,0,1,11,0,8,4,0,4,3,24,24,13,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,6,5,9,4,1,2,2,0,2,3,2,0,2,1,5,18,3,13,23,3,16,0,1,4,0,18,5,0,0,9,75,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951789830827466,0.12812320257948318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208375192630777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616895090845665,0.0,0.0,0.10186140911472408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626109659180841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069617373662795,0.1210102170947428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963024061532548,0.0,0.2125499168396024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178044399557343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728879199482158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510552216966162,0.0,0.0,0.06498679148838082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985994702365024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786481881382602,0.0,0.0,0.1288082898278651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5539691895539086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120124640301956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158593297662571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403668894150548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361997370897235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667265538242684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855966361074901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895219065207146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551250590798375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485255603673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamacloud3,2018/02/21,"My six year old wont eat dinner Every night is a battle to get her to eat. Most nights I make the kids one thing and my husband and I another. Wr make sure it healthy but something i know they will eat. Yet every night its a drawn out fight with my 6 year old to eat dinner. Its always ""i dont like that"" or ""im not hungry"" even though she complains about being hungry constantly. Im finding myself getting more and more frustrated and at my wits ends. I need help, please.",1.1565306122449002,3.2595262857142906,2.5605714285714285,94.15942857142859,82.06122448979592,5.144489795918368,18.983673469387764,6.2581,-0.12235836734693885,368,9,80,3,10,119,69,98,0.16,0.745,0.096,-0.8271,0,0,1,0,1,0,12,0,0,1,0,4,6,3,0,3,0,5,6,0,2,1,16,11,7,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,6,6,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,13,2,7,8,3,12,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,11,48,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365001076665165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322172159004387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760031576679386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007709457779035,0.0,0.0,0.5590439314984228,0.0,0.0,0.12097414109675665,0.0,0.0,0.09021338150153768,0.0,0.23015821384766474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124836599093422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272048880859176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155032768465868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950713827642531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506377461440948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672873683791687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234365641984812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127635799222473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845284913337902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866468435338537,0.0,0.0925538152035221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992977492815698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515012899533437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287301415845019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074128369786386,0.0,0.13419448130991735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591306423287112
parenting,cornfedpig,2018/02/22,"Normal behaviour for girls in kindergarten? I have two boys so I don’t know a damn thing about raising girls, so I’m curious to hear the opinions of parents of girls. 

My son is 5, and started kindergarten last September. He’s doing really well academically and socially - no issues there. 

Two little girls in his class are constantly drawing pictures for him, most of which feature hearts, and they all say things like “I love you (my son’s name)” and “You’re the 1 for me.” 

His teacher has told me that each of these little girls have also kissed him on the cheek while in class. I don’t have a problem with this at all - kids that age are still learning boundaries and my son knows to say stop when it starts to make him uncomfortable. 

It’s all incredibly adorable, and when I ask my son if he would like to draw something for them in return, he just shrugs. He seems rather indifferent to the whole thing. He says they follow him around at playtime, and he has asked them on occasion to leave him alone while he plays with other friends. They always comply, so no issues there either. Most of the time, tho, he wants to hang out with these girls and likes to walk home with them. 

My wife says that girls probably develop those kinds of emotional attachments earlier than boys. I don’t mean romantic love, just the idea that someone is their best friend and they want to spend time with them all the time and draw pictures for them and stuff. 

When I ask my son who his best friend is, he always says his little brother, which is cute. But when I ask him who his best friend at school is he just shrugs and says ‘I don’t know.’

So do girls just have these intense friendships earlier than boys? I’m super curious about how that all works. ",5.0928299689440975,6.165768264880956,4.681796066252588,87.51610248447207,68.73214285714286,8.105383022774326,26.51345755693582,8.321376580360154,1.4710858178053834,1371,40,281,19,23,415,161,336,0.053,0.745,0.202,0.9951,2,1,1,0,0,0,35,0,1,10,5,23,21,1,0,9,0,20,5,2,2,5,51,40,27,0,7,8,8,0,3,4,1,0,7,1,12,21,20,0,1,6,1,1,3,6,2,1,2,1,7,38,19,40,38,13,34,0,0,0,3,74,14,1,5,20,181,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275487240986716,0.0,0.07161934094389058,0.14903852918386346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972543006890685,0.3348978173364217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819561599889857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678016667382353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100740471750225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767685389632261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093815036497036,0.10612642515269936,0.0,0.0,0.08983377629973492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109985609088798,0.0,0.1869501523773847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326066800812338,0.14765587554352438,0.07300156077292623,0.0,0.09482877992222234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312602531957493,0.2692813322419553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165882358505218,0.0,0.05978052746211495,0.0,0.0,0.0975546998408027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877476298630175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944333933788634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655845656582264,0.08569472032097661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057373020451410885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273197467012848,0.0,0.0906372756729916,0.0,0.08153005829309333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129289963640616,0.07588203399229257,0.06894597045456953,0.0,0.0,0.126778944716259,0.0,0.07152097540587961,0.07487433160215677,0.0,0.0,0.10252225540056163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178494670181153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566656215547425,0.0,0.0,0.08557631658020284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749699162495134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564702254959386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052321837922634,0.0,0.0,0.09998808630041067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519914561109003,0.0,0.0,0.06361929214990585,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AD_Meridian,2018/02/22,"Looking for a team/group activity for a (12m) who has no prior team sporting activity experience. Post pretty much says it all.  I have a 12 year old son who, arguably, could spend more time outside and less time playing video games.  Mom and I have always had a busy schedule and never made team sports involvement a priority, however, in an effort to expand his horizons, we're looking to get him involved in some sort of physical extra-curricular.

When I started researching little league teams in the area, I found out that the local city takes their little league very seriously, and while my son knows what end of the bat to hold and plays catch on the weekends, his skills aren't comparable to kids who have been at it since they were 6.  I'm afraid he would be a target for bullying for kids actively looking to compete in an environment where winning is incredibly important to parents, and thereby their children.

I've thought about a martial arts class, but wanted to see if any of you other poor, lost souls with the responsibility for smaller versions of themselves had any ideas that may be outside of the box.

Thank you!",12.037714285714287,8.467417985714286,10.998928571428573,62.959821428571466,57.23809523809525,13.73809523809524,45.29761904761904,11.45678717892309,5.090619047619048,907,40,158,17,8,291,147,210,0.068,0.858,0.07400000000000001,-0.2845,2,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,2,3,8,3,7,0,1,15,0,15,0,0,1,2,24,30,10,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,9,8,0,1,4,11,2,1,3,3,0,0,8,5,13,4,26,17,6,26,1,1,4,0,26,12,0,4,12,96,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406043139714933,0.0,0.0,0.22982343663981125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349162208124676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966550379061824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529417965867818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527708016755906,0.0,0.0,0.0882847097120405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075706109175808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092866603905917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387233014401779,0.0,0.0,0.42570015958571533,0.0,0.18446086685630134,0.0,0.0,0.15989229909241542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979065134781378,0.0,0.0,0.12421922826185294,0.0,0.1303272531457327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731534962158504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763151492710495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183545888720302,0.17191269691503794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437912142679162,0.0,0.0,0.13465462401004571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397814228675365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196044180352088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270514036154423,0.0,0.0,0.15557343604746188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341506887637915,0.19706637706143929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942561916825827,0.09966836904563893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003804622969967,0.0,0.0,0.10881712878087922
parenting,Smiziley,2018/02/22,"16 month old doesn't like other kids in his soace My only child, a 16 month old, goes to daycare during the week with other kids range from 6 months to 24 months. Daycare ladies have always said that his personal space is ""the size of the room"". Shrieks and fusses when the other kids get near him for hugs and such. He'll go hug them sometimes, but only lets them do it to him on his terms (which is like never).

Same goes for his cousins, an almost 3 year old (who is rambunctious and a bit much even for the adults) and is fine with his 8 month old cousin. 

I'm not sure if it's a phase, or his personality. My idea is to force more playdates and put him in a bunch of different situations with all kinds of kids to let him understand it's ok to be around others.  

Spouse is stressing out over it and I'm not really sure what to do elsewise.  Any thoughts/experiences/tips?",4.707088866189992,4.899186460674159,4.973718079673136,88.22506128702759,69.2247191011236,8.270480081716038,25.170582226762004,8.00094639256281,1.0553752808988763,682,16,153,8,11,215,113,178,0.07,0.877,0.052000000000000005,-0.4949,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,2,0,4,10,0,1,10,1,13,2,0,0,4,24,20,10,0,1,5,3,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,8,12,11,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,14,9,24,15,7,25,0,0,0,2,26,9,0,3,16,93,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384118032886995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290628809410876,0.0,0.0,0.08410224449596021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009566613444456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501946865348802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921252112038067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816852032315429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461431740831182,0.0,0.07028651978908207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961236700513932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878695492295647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25292913659907323,0.0,0.12084128405931613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4935751771445344,0.0,0.09091427801378672,0.0,0.09538465413975644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5190982818739373,0.0,0.0,0.1881185920610676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597392026008494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432606116461965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922843312709396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764185238948192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901423464432766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122316288075127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416676160716843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23312168554896925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874851113335387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099203449609169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964170150689126
parenting,twirlywoo88,2018/02/22,"Clingy 2.5 year old My 2.5 year old has become quite clingy with me and it's starting to become a bit of a problem.  If he is home with his dad he won't settle for dad and is just asking for me all of the time and crying that he misses me.  I leave for work at 4am, he is now waking up during my shower begging me not to leave and is remaining quite distressed.  It's really not beneficial for our family to have the day start at 4am, especially for him.  

If his dad is on an early shift and I start later the day Care drop off is filled with tears and reluctance which I think puts him off to a bad start to his day,  if dad drops him he is excited and running in to the centre.  

Dad is a great day,  equally involved and commited as me,  admittedly far more patient than I too. When I am home they have a great relationship but as soon as I leave the house even if playing he gets really distraught.

It's not really severe enough to be considered separation anxiety but I think if we don't start dealing with it it will have the chance to escalate.  

Does anyone have any tips to build that comfort with my husband/dad so our son doesn't grieve me leaving him? ",3.0365416666666682,4.201086904166669,4.605833333333333,85.78916666666667,73.70833333333334,8.0,24.16666666666667,8.515128840125781,1.3789166666666666,907,26,196,16,18,305,125,240,0.11,0.797,0.092,0.1653,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,3,7,12,0,2,12,0,19,1,1,0,2,31,31,20,1,6,11,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,8,14,0,0,3,1,0,3,6,6,0,0,0,0,27,6,32,28,5,32,0,2,0,0,28,8,0,5,19,127,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401974883781788,0.0,0.08326772042377649,0.0,0.0,0.07610841112303275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017573291533038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088276760251203,0.0,0.2404261025702188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883282328365047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097685520484624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956340940396315,0.2807894548775469,0.11221656292002473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525281567651532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124681332043042,0.0,0.07189247163618022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261134253306052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056868108271712285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400085861288481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183649978186283,0.0,0.0,0.12559491947621326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.461013377680314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22843340672255935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041519581316612,0.0,0.1094213819922769,0.0,0.2315445416460879,0.0,0.0,0.20919068531505267,0.0,0.0,0.11686103205672604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296622148745748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852126272367277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948963122698768,0.0,0.0,0.06346960931285474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924197264979116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401879052785498
parenting,DreamingOf_X,2018/02/22,"My kid BIT his teacher today. This is a throw away, I'm embarrassed.

My five year old BIT his teacher today.

I just got a call from him, not ten minutes ago right as my husband was getting ready to leave to go get him and his brother from daycare.... Right as I'm on the phone with another important phone call, and I'm floored. All I could do was apologize and say I didn't understand why he was behaving this way. 

We had some behavior issues earlier in the year with our 5 year old, after being bumped up into this classroom. The one common factor seems to be that it almost always involves this ONE male teacher... Or at least that is how it appears to us. My child has said that this teacher isn't nice, though I don't know if that's because he heard my husband and I discuss this or not. 

We've gone months without bad behavior, and our son was even one of the ""good kids"" for a while, and now... All of the sudden... This teacher tells me that for a few weeks now, our son has been back to his old ways. He was actually removed from class today. I don't blame them. 

Our son does not bite at home. He can be hard to parent, and defiant with us, but we use time out and privilege loss, along with rewards to teach him how to be respectful and what behavior is acceptable. He is mostly just ""mouthy"" with us AKA talks back disrespectfully, or does exactly what we tell him not to. Typical kid behavior... And we deal with it appropriately here. He is NEVER physically violent with us at home. 

I have no idea what to do. How do I correct this behavior? Especially because it isn't even something he does at home? ",3.3604672897196286,4.828141333333338,4.599531464174458,84.9556710280374,73.3613707165109,8.126654205607478,27.48174454828661,8.726425361277474,1.969013109034268,1252,47,260,24,25,413,166,321,0.04,0.871,0.08900000000000001,0.9498,1,0,1,0,0,0,51,12,0,1,2,13,10,1,1,9,0,29,0,0,4,5,55,44,22,0,2,12,7,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,20,24,0,0,5,0,0,5,12,4,0,5,12,4,35,6,39,27,8,42,0,1,0,0,54,13,0,9,22,178,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0911023410077284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275478076155339,0.0,0.09348290971843573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776799705381869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789228385016184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771137377071599,0.14357055732371465,0.07794866149972195,0.1138183416875831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038419331089455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906545638257791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453745736393846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624630838677807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24509034051001574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332199125925562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754969041410916,0.0,0.05305657105671225,0.07830288590479076,0.07466560973853095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362896192858732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28093212410954305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538796760221132,0.0,0.09743978559308764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051306214237890835,0.0,0.0,0.09885090614981723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451615626035347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200218043619831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938853882683629,0.0,0.18978205782051802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036611903282564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945164351212324,0.08880327720416385,0.07424072490049607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498812435770946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187028727357482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503630627456763,0.16319514780844555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172215017159008,0.0,0.054436844545550214,0.0,0.2654727415757564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718726364445468,0.44918482794881737,0.08062992124646502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820386712998732,0.07488484120503341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423959467665335,0.0,0.0,0.08999220006942246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803553060142073
parenting,GenXStonerDad,2018/02/22,"Deciding which town to have our son play sports in... My wife and I have a wonderful 9 year old son.  He will be playing baseball this Spring.  We live in Massachusetts, which offers school choice.  We send our kid to school in another town and as such we are eligible to let him play sports there or in the town we reside.

It would be about twice as much to play in the town he goes to school in, but that is not the deciding factor (nor really a factor in our decision).  We are struggling to decide if we should have him play in our town or with his school friends in the town he goes to school in.

The downside for in town is he has never attended the local public schools, so he doesn't know many, if any kids that would be playing.  This is also an upside in that he may make some more local friends.  

The downside for playing in the town he goes to school in is that the parents who coach, well lets just say it isn't a personality match for either him or us with the coaches.  The upside would be that he would play with his friends in school.  He would also play against his friends while playing for our town as another down side.

In case anyone is wondering, our local town has a better team than his school's town does. 

What do other parents think?

EDIT: He is still an age where these are town teams, there are no school teams around here until Junior High. ",4.263497766556611,5.297065180811809,4.385177704408623,89.02726743056904,70.62361623616236,7.4764808700718595,24.595261215770048,7.669130373188453,0.9676228782287826,1068,28,227,12,19,331,127,271,0.038,0.802,0.159,0.9865,2,0,0,0,0,0,27,13,0,0,4,13,17,0,1,17,0,32,0,0,1,1,39,37,17,0,8,9,5,0,0,4,8,0,1,0,3,15,12,0,0,8,17,0,2,6,1,1,1,0,1,22,16,40,23,4,46,0,0,0,0,50,36,0,9,8,155,37,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259790019022805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05356388645854675,0.16518697947540134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507533267732045,0.0,0.0,0.07011883922654079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966252341147976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892905047452685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434190529891629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322107813606178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043287980548331065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108806175204732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955221769355407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257721645867465,0.07985681658474422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790240313057447,0.0,0.060749541404630174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265213847074515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492164086557932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877582525977713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05045980427445158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263824184114633,0.0,0.7971585170946318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290298806134759,0.0,0.0,0.08234379471182167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047036018426452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947463401055898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082049728244286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083770836633216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27976712788566976,0.0,0.0,0.05072301081198263
parenting,mekamekyla,2018/02/22,"Talking to elememtary age kids about what an active shooter is and how to stay safe.   My kindergartner and 2nd grader are having a lockdown drill this week, focusing on an active shooter. This is a first and understandable with everything going on recently. 
  When I was in high school there was a shooting on campus. A guy hid a handgun on school grounds at night, walked on campus during lunch, found his victim and shot him in the chest three times. It was gang related and targeted. It sounded like firecrackers and nobody reacted right away. The perpetrator ran away and was later caught.  School security ushered everyone to classrooms and locked down the school. Ever since that day which was about 20 years ago, my high school has had police officers as campus security.  There is a specific division of the police department assigned to the schools. We do not live in my hometown because of the gang problems. The schools in our community do not have any type of security guards. They basically just have parent volunteers and teachers that over see safety.
  I’ve talked with my kids about what’s going on and answered questions the best I could. They wanted to know what gunshots sound like, so I found a few sound effects of different types for them to listen to. 
   What experiences have the rest of you parents gone through with this? How have you explained it to them and how did they react? What kind of actions and drills are your schools doing? 
  It’s sad to me that this is a conversation that has to be had now with our children but it is the unfortunate reality of our world today.   

* whoops elementary not elememtary",5.649693877551023,7.943244938775513,5.683418367346937,76.1339030612245,69.0,8.845578231292519,31.29761904761905,9.408791572840183,3.1054108843537422,1308,56,220,29,24,411,169,294,0.043,0.892,0.065,0.5484,3,1,0,5,0,0,26,4,3,5,3,13,11,1,0,20,0,27,2,1,6,1,41,40,19,0,3,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,19,17,1,5,8,0,0,8,3,3,0,2,13,5,22,8,42,25,3,43,0,1,1,0,26,20,0,1,16,161,41,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402715847081288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446163402891124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781199209447657,0.0,0.0,0.0577841651313448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947808337901907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568349144658587,0.0,0.0,0.06113283064210515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903719333929348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574455613416132,0.0,0.09057757017651928,0.08519270407753796,0.09272451123395199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062980597189873,0.0,0.2078685013212889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774466110776076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938587261462132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030535635049165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871101069532433,0.0520950615134444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262091250120573,0.0,0.08370284345089116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895562701008627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051001976751524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070289367217416,0.0,0.0,0.1061884433727797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359540789820786,0.0,0.0,0.08095162838041968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7674744159089594,0.07553674438207933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841270722140763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103538283910377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238002059517974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527382613047832,0.0,0.08985148620533713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868154478141322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055910624465577284,0.0,0.07603621641059723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104277295742819
parenting,Charmeleomander,2018/02/22,"7 yr old joked about shooting up the school Fuck.

Now, I'm like 99% sure he's just trying to be ""funny"" with all the other kids. From what I have heard from the school is that others were talking about crashing the bus, etc. 

I'm at a loss. His mother is *very* anti gun. Couldn't even get him a squirt gun for years.

I don't want to punish him per se, but I want him to understand. I don't think he understands the gravity of what he said. How could he? He's 7.

Do I take away his nerf guns/ splatoon/ water guns? Do I take him to a gun range and explain a gun to him? He startles easily and doesn't like loud noises/bangs. I think actually hearing a gun fire would scare him away from it.

I want to show him school shootings and the devastation it brings to people, but I don't want to traumatize him.

I hope this doesn't devolve into a political fight. ",1.2274991784423257,3.1019767318435782,2.9533420966151844,92.64261912586264,80.56424581005588,5.999474203089057,19.467959250739398,7.048011613610866,0.1694282615839624,661,16,150,8,17,219,102,179,0.215,0.674,0.111,-0.9366,0,0,0,9,1,0,28,0,0,0,1,6,11,3,2,12,0,15,2,0,1,2,24,35,6,0,8,3,1,1,2,0,1,0,5,0,1,8,5,1,0,5,2,0,1,6,6,0,0,3,6,20,5,21,28,2,9,0,1,0,1,24,5,1,1,5,87,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.15194546319299407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29257964542875325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431764495964928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736520553684366,0.10284157836394324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394661562939345,0.08134935244445357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549067101642854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465003884517245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213903978372886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338603725635384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794613102110742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14811095893461032,0.0,0.15588770781634576,0.4727448324377361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467499690535202,0.0,0.2341413240183209,0.12514965243553225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953874883289505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571336565800732,0.0,0.0,0.3241884594307751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847279976906273,0.3673549953328675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060825097952012,0.0,0.0,0.1002688120067744
parenting,witness_protection,2018/02/22,"Parenting Tip: create an email address for your kid When my kid was born I set up an email address for him. Every once in a while my wife or I write him an email telling him about our thoughts, something that happened, what's going on in our lives, etc. When he's old enough we'll turn the account over to him and he'll basically have a little time capsule of his life. And he'll also hopefully get a sense of us as people who had lives before him and who are just discovering how parenting works too. Friends and family also know the email address and write to him. It's a nice way to capture all the things you wish you could communicate to your kid. ",6.446071428571429,5.6595899924242445,6.514285714285716,81.94500000000005,65.74242424242425,9.664069264069264,31.73593073593073,8.841846274778883,2.2742021645021646,517,17,109,7,7,165,86,132,0.0,0.8959999999999999,0.104,0.9081,2,0,1,0,0,0,10,4,4,0,1,8,3,0,0,10,0,6,1,0,1,1,16,16,13,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,3,6,5,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,19,3,15,9,3,15,0,0,0,0,34,6,0,2,6,72,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861378530393996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223355501360872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283974966619434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848549613803297,0.19952450133606187,0.0,0.0,0.15073376961818394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686541353600663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382202671863327,0.0,0.0934696047567852,0.0,0.101674883956452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820362184116427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769137149985134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832059017357968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636471114917794,0.0,0.17930813393844638,0.31594983202676474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772894763429668,0.19052620521953187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973019472422072,0.0,0.0,0.12402904139226464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772852208347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636939388660845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885542143479627,0.0,0.0,0.142029258492221,0.10431996907994702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459544714564853,0.0,0.0,0.21519867542833315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200513425784742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20572999769792527,0.0,0.0,0.13024375328848875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sticksandstones28,2018/02/22,"Picking a pediatrician I'm currently looking for a new pediatrician for my 2 kids (8 yr old boy & 3 yr old girl) and I'm wondering for parents with boys, how important is it for you to pick a practice that has a male pediatrician?  This is assuming your kiddo might feel more comfortable with a male doctor when he gets older (esp. during puberty).  I'm so overwhelmed with picking a practice right now and any feedback would be greatly appreciated!
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EDIT:  Thanks for the feedback!  I'm glad to hear it was a non-issue for many of you.
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parenting,parasitefiend,2018/02/22,"Busybodies rant ""That baby needs a coat! It's cold out here!""

First of all, Edna, you're 80 years old and you didn't put your kids in a car seat. It was a 5 second walk from my warm car to the warm bank. He is in fleece pajamas and he would definitely let me know if he was cold. It's more of a hassle to put him in his car seat without a coat, take him out and put him in the coat for a few seconds, and then have to take him out to put him back in the car. I have a blanket in the car for longer distances but he was perfectly happy. 

It's just frustrating when strangers tell me how to parent when they don't know me or the situation. Anyone else get annoyed by this or do you just ignore it?",2.7169736842105223,2.9095093815789497,4.234052631578948,91.77936842105265,73.60526315789474,7.658947368421052,23.094736842105263,7.554174236665415,0.5929531578947369,534,12,133,6,10,179,87,152,0.078,0.818,0.103,0.6103,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,3,1,2,7,7,2,0,12,0,11,0,0,1,2,22,17,12,0,3,7,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,2,0,1,10,3,3,0,3,4,4,15,4,21,11,3,26,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,3,7,88,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283779762917947,0.18000236657170493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350851589898581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675601468815552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494311977449311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178424660767642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18701197295605596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19309552701300006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964215346558554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026264546994856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434399150291744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506908153873212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7064176681205091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974688785140836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641752439199737,0.0,0.1535498844541706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693468477219187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479626056863853,0.0,0.0,0.11313055472165587
parenting,Iskandermissile,2018/02/22,"Potty training regression I used the one day method. Nearly 3 year old son started getting hang of it and used potty frequently. A few accidents when out and about all day. After three weeks he is pooping and peeing on the floor. I am sick of this. Is there someone I can pay to train him permanently? I am so tired. I can't get mad at him for this, but do I just read another 200 page book which I don't have time for again? ",1.7860227272727265,3.6257010113636414,3.315909090909092,90.88136363636366,78.6590909090909,6.672727272727273,22.363636363636363,7.6454224807358475,0.8248818181818183,331,10,73,5,8,109,68,88,0.095,0.883,0.022,-0.6016,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,3,0,9,4,2,2,1,9,14,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,9,0,11,14,3,17,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,11,49,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871205243338431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531780414432727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28611568919133745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28732440547552546,0.0,0.18554517886887487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27389064593232704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23200387194707026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380876149500156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966463069675785,0.3147118410638437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4729791635205217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963911787323395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763288790239835
parenting,cahawkri3510,2018/02/22,"Strawberries to (happy) tears Short story that just happened. 

Sitting on the couch with my sleeping 6mo in my lap, 2yo asks for a snack (like they do). I tell her there’s freshly washed strawberries in the counter. 

She walks over to the counter, grabs TWO strawberries and hands one to me and says, “for you, Mommy”.  Then proceeds to rip off the leaves for me — all of her own volition. 

I’ve been feeling kinda down in the dumps today and she brought a tear to my eye with her sweetness and thoughtfulness. 

I love this kid more and more each day. ",4.362884615384616,6.008025673076923,3.77615384615385,91.14384615384618,71.11538461538461,7.123076923076923,27.42307692307693,7.6454224807358475,1.3640807692307697,426,15,87,5,8,126,74,104,0.042,0.8490000000000001,0.109,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,1,1,0,2,5,1,0,7,0,2,6,3,0,1,13,8,6,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,8,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,6,14,4,18,5,5,15,0,0,1,1,12,8,0,1,5,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821915485051664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946700344218987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262580620418026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669273657079487,0.32132783613228943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31961844913699045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746999309057754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724338672602518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20454321684108898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400454004896988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020707170225364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638325842464406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23963734446512755,0.0,0.0,0.2861210863088117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948662490604993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RelativeCut,2018/02/22,"Adapting to shared custody My wife and I are divorcing and we have a 4-year old daughter.  Up until now, I've done the lion's share of the parenting(roughly 80-90% of the time my daughter is not with the babysitters she's been with me).  I'm the one she calls for at night when she's having a bad dream.  When she's with my wife she always wants to come home to see me.  

We're negotiating a custody arrangement now.  Until our daughter starts elementary school next year I'll have her 60% of the time.  Then 70-75% when school starts.  I'm getting depressed at the thought of not seeing her every day.  I'm worried our connection will be broken or weakened.  I don't want to deny her access to her mom but we have something special I want to preserve.  Due to some poor choices the mother is at a disadvantage in the negotiations and would face significant risks should this go to court.

Should I fight for a little more time?  At least until school starts?  Or should I just let it go?  I'm tired of the fighting with my wife but this is the single most important thing in my life right now.",2.6355555555555554,4.761264777777782,3.5905185185185218,88.55633333333336,77.14814814814815,6.171851851851853,23.3,7.1686216300943375,0.7833988888888888,856,27,176,10,20,274,121,216,0.153,0.78,0.067,-0.9582,1,0,1,0,4,0,24,4,0,0,0,7,8,2,1,16,0,18,3,1,0,0,27,35,14,0,7,7,8,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,4,10,0,0,1,1,1,3,3,5,0,1,3,2,25,3,29,25,5,34,0,1,2,0,27,9,0,4,22,115,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332779352101572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375437791845532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513453630224163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767517558191638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558721975328724,0.0,0.1276584391121715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167668353552952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248785833063008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743687332834474,0.0,0.16846942126474276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486729837629981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156115778567786,0.10468952079014143,0.0,0.1485516205044763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358908088441968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762966356231148,0.13909091036671425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552802192592144,0.0,0.1004351670008954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265758678292924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45000827426508255,0.23621832357046774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410411059327367,0.0,0.0,0.31472467426507417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846829071313927,0.0,0.0,0.11766714674143795,0.25927826224195993,0.17035277611143929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622653535522898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052079666410306,0.0,0.10528857160872013,0.0,0.0,0.19089281133378186
parenting,TheFilthiestCorndog,2018/02/22,"Daycare is breaking my heart. My son is one (13 months) and we just started daycare 2 weeks ago, every time I drop him off he is completely inconsolable. He clings to my leg he cries and cries and cries, he crawls to the door.... I can't fucking take it, I feel like a total piece of shit turning my back on him. 
On top of this he is in the ""one year"" room with 4 (maybe 5 ) other kids and they are all WAY more advanced than him. They sit in little chairs without sides, they walk like its no problem, they talk to each other, my son can't even walk, he is super out paced by these guys. The wait for other daycare is like 6 months long (i'm on 2 other lists), I am just about ready to tell my wife to become a stay at home mom and just work 60 hours a week to make up for it. 
Anyone else ever been in a similar situation?",2.7381034482758606,3.2788483850574712,3.8994827586206933,92.9312931034483,73.77011494252874,6.719540229885059,22.54597701149425,6.42735559955562,0.2376183908045979,625,14,149,4,12,204,111,174,0.103,0.797,0.1,-0.1796,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,0,4,4,7,7,2,0,7,0,11,4,3,1,3,20,19,5,0,1,4,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,2,9,9,0,1,1,0,0,3,4,3,0,2,1,1,18,4,25,18,5,34,0,0,0,1,22,14,2,0,15,89,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620841546180647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995531475193695,0.14588182545607453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947894719825464,0.0,0.0,0.15724395571724484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927933377970865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469182586734201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893752136218835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403851333539102,0.12878793905576813,0.11995856879499905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198997250136367,0.10171399243617887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162502898920012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097538605083093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687171571379751,0.0,0.0,0.14281550830014528,0.0,0.14021243814438633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20867429325479686,0.1426989265580153,0.0,0.1259989604948984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503759908151532,0.0,0.14303660150037278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667499514328944,0.2272875578033747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929563672349291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362353398174488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614770767734878,0.0,0.16003745404604364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077501011978482,0.1517546922419084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704961150607303,0.1144370540272122,0.12444357187837587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302103914250779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486504047994584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130120523772668,0.22841211259632985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372461248783868,0.0,0.1036519837495742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916859714234877
parenting,Lord_Blathoxi,2018/02/22,"My kids were the best worst decisions I ever made. They make me more angry and frustrated than I have ever been, and laugh harder than I ever have. 

They make me want to kill myself to end the suffering and be a better person and I’m honored to be their parent and to have the privilege of being a part of their lives as long as they allow me to.

These two wonderful little gifts are a pain in the fucking ass and have completely disrupted what was once a semi-enjoyable existence. 

They are the ultimate manifestation of the duality of existence. And I love them for it. And I love them for being who they are.

And I am so thankful to them for bearing with me while I figure this shit out.",4.883592862935927,5.603235591240878,6.280973236009732,77.14356853203573,69.0,9.884509326845095,27.63098134630981,9.994966539143718,2.6094986212489863,544,17,105,13,9,185,80,137,0.17600000000000002,0.609,0.215,0.7008,1,0,0,0,0,1,10,0,0,10,3,4,15,4,0,10,0,15,6,2,4,3,22,25,13,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,11,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,4,0,23,8,20,17,4,9,0,1,0,4,16,3,3,1,6,92,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690194431688398,0.15751243360436798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867314464723157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577411901731086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4832971357621562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646479216700172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703808084166627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850010642160938,0.1572630237176729,0.157610350686189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32147921625695297,0.16851980529619726,0.23776242694030075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896676250028153,0.0,0.0,0.1895078971206944,0.0,0.19775578024974536,0.19286183026492248,0.0,0.0,0.15550753948185386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828141388511076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396790402535588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397501199445625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504629829640956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931387342748763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JosieAnn585,2018/02/22,"The topic of reforming gun laws is everywhere. When talking with other parents I’ve been using parenting-related analogies to share my opinion. What analogies would you use? My daughter colored on our couch once. ONCE. After that incident I had two choices, take away all her crayons or reform our crayon policies to prevent future incidents. Taking her crayons away didn’t seem fair. She has a right to bear crayons. Besides, even if I DID take them all away she’d surely find a way to get her hands on them somewhere else. Daycare, grandparents, someone would provide her with access to crayons if she wanted them badly enough. Instead, I decided to go the route of crayon policy reform. I implemented a strict “color on the kitchen island only” rule. She can color as often as she wants, but only in our agreed upon designated space. I also restricted the number of crayons she could use at one time. Instead of the entire bucket, she can choose a select few. Furthermore, I locked those suckers up when not in use to help her fight the urge to vengeance-color household items. Because, you know, a toddler can get pretty pissed when their parent enforces other ridiculous rules like, “in this house we wear pants,” and I didn’t want my couch to suffer just because I made the girl put on pants. Point is, she has the right to bear crayons. But that right also comes with some restrictions to help guide her in bearing them responsibly. 

Did I completely solve the problem? No. Might a crayon attack happen again? Sure. Did I lessen the likelihood of these types of attacks happening? I’ll probably never know for sure, but I’d be willing to bet there’s a good chance I did. ",5.176254071661241,7.339388944625412,5.03503061889251,80.83594657980457,69.9771986970684,7.38757003257329,29.86957654723127,8.109356740369918,2.2712127426710107,1334,54,224,19,25,412,184,307,0.139,0.747,0.114,-0.9388,4,0,0,1,1,0,41,4,2,5,0,12,15,6,0,17,0,22,4,3,5,6,47,42,14,0,9,8,3,1,1,0,4,0,0,3,1,8,6,1,3,6,0,1,3,5,9,0,2,9,4,39,6,39,26,6,31,0,1,3,0,34,19,1,9,9,154,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503347314830094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347748975037764,0.2908361585157543,0.0,0.08615488238080281,0.12580082392956454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888444934413882,0.10818715448084013,0.0,0.0,0.08238455604753557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619754437119788,0.0,0.0,0.10661733839559556,0.0,0.06815249580613683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430891132289296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781945375599916,0.0,0.05864222105899864,0.08654639855783455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249171089917066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832500721576002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906124560846305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341518296848555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050410813582211465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976358216737949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946261978389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958237213174127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21977659396791333,0.0699205971166538,0.1569531695986222,0.0,0.0,0.22914871117361785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754285740924233,0.0,0.0,0.10497589636731912,0.11125051724073724,0.09873378572502392,0.0,0.10372908466785004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643574115559704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939354405441538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742802889736548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917509671548549,0.0,0.23274607202250974,0.08293592240064739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060167805947773136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007964210315306,0.0,0.0,0.3564736711425054,0.0,0.0,0.1825829604407681,0.08190318149984993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659884612678825,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mysonhatesme,2018/02/22,"My preschooler hates me and I don't know what to do anymore. As the title says my son hates me. I know people are going to tell me that this is a phase but it has been going on since he was an infant. He is now going on 5. I know that the post is going to make me sound like a terrible person. There is nothing you can say that I haven't already thought about myself. 

I am a single mom by choice. I know I know. That makes me a selfish bitch but I wanted to be a mom. My son was placed with me at 4 months. I am a working mom (again I know what you're thinking) and had to put my son in daycare. He did well at daycare but did nothing but cry at home. Nothing I did worked. Someone else would take him and he would shut up. I took more parenting classes and tried those techniques. They rarely worked. 

Then he became a toddler and the behavior continued. His preschool teachers have never had complaints but he is a terror at home. For a while he was potty trained at school but not at home. He sat in time out at school but screamed at home. I followed the same routine but he would kick me and punch me if I tried to put him in time out. He would run from me at stores and in parking lots. He stopped eating dinner for a week because I wouldn't give him hotdogs. 

His behavior has started to turn more violent. He hits me a lot and doesn't listen to a thing I say. We are working with a therapist but she doesn't believe all of his behaviors because he doesn't act that way in front of her. He is an angel at therapy and in school. They don't see it. Our last two therapist didnt either. He loves guns and they tell me it is normal boy behavior but they don't see how he plays with them. He plays differently there. He is obsessed with death and tells me to die. He knows what it means. 

He is very smart. He is acamdeically ahead but socially behind. He can talk to kids but prefers to be alone. At home he doesn't let me play with him. I hear stories of kids who don't let their parents be alone and I wish that was us. He doesn't care that I'm even here. He rarely lets me hug or kiss him. He doesnt mind hugs or kisses from other family members though. I think he knows that he can manipulate people and I'm sure he hates me. I don't know why. I know I'm not perfect but I have always tried. I'm tired of trying. I take the long way to his preschool and think about running away from all of this often. I love my son but he hates me. I don't know what to do or how to repair our broken relationship. I get all of the blame but none of the help. ",0.4958988800414304,2.524123335793359,2.0737716061371145,97.13082896355282,84.09225092250922,5.058121318055286,19.656373405839318,6.24893746202806,-0.15544698646986532,1976,55,463,17,57,641,232,542,0.161,0.767,0.07200000000000001,-0.9948,4,2,0,1,1,0,51,4,1,6,6,13,26,6,2,22,0,58,9,0,5,6,86,107,39,2,10,22,9,0,1,0,5,1,7,5,5,22,22,2,1,17,3,1,12,19,11,1,1,14,9,70,15,60,81,11,55,1,0,2,6,82,25,1,7,16,293,92,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224930518644906,0.07045506425280622,0.0,0.05312454596314958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331755089046139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059984921146214336,0.0,0.0,0.07783921238048146,0.0,0.0,0.0719319818816921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509471219489124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013125133006166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626151842072611,0.06670492779796489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532985530306343,0.053334698083871854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216933108708392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060187827432951924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0333566231822126,0.06124639291188935,0.14513940869036845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521367363782809,0.0,0.0,0.07195848533749155,0.0,0.042794273033647384,0.0,0.320211062482444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859658093780752,0.052042579753033016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958589575749128,0.0,0.031191671899506924,0.0,0.0,0.05650123224287661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085582716711906,0.115246059538041,0.0,0.08523469457873044,0.0,0.0,0.06954643425419826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446572485038372,0.2243251300342236,0.050960845386834284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0492415627545768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625550053579034,0.18378435243773827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417856786513861,0.0,0.0,0.0885248206224493,0.05574740215683345,0.06670492779796489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06114631216694887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836466406634087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854614175621684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231744199909694,0.0,0.19384507390800929,0.10175314768539208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05281363291190648,0.0,0.0,0.06508241686765873,0.05409605992055491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0451901525908759,0.0,0.0,0.053377672101846615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017360031307024,0.0,0.09600769621364054,0.05131657071919996,0.1674112658124171,0.0,0.07301285964028062,0.14825902414865452,0.04241609361973656,0.12272879847962788,0.06272785054976514,0.050686171924035774,0.07445761449477528,0.07338097622690487,0.0,0.0,0.07093466684245328,0.17338753401806706,0.06944553815437382,0.06236774751378925,0.0,0.07679823985832243,0.0,0.0,0.05267919955461989,0.03765771264678761,0.10135512535233374,0.05121298529051695,0.0,0.05740474546163325,0.0,0.05761060654775855,0.0,0.07341914014019618,0.0,0.0,0.185921051515554,0.0,0.0,0.18141596154864054,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dinosorcery,2018/02/22,"My 2.5 year old keeps unbuckling car seat while I'm driving. How can I stop her from doing this?! My 2.5 year old has discovered that she can unclasp her car seat buckle and escape.  Thank god she tattles on herself when she does it, otherwise I wouldn't even know she'd done it.  I pull the car over and tell her we're going to either go home, or somewhere she doesn't want to go, and tell her that only Mommy or Daddy are aloud to do unclasp it.  She says she understands and promises she won't do it again, but being 2 and a half, she obviously does.  I'm terrified of what could happen.  If anyone has any ideas on how to stop this, I would love to hear them....",2.4683676177836773,3.883745883211681,3.737345719973458,90.45057067020572,75.56934306569343,6.733642999336432,21.94359654943597,7.348242739294969,0.5884218978102189,514,13,113,6,11,168,85,137,0.079,0.83,0.091,0.1358,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,16,1,0,2,1,23,29,13,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,9,5,0,3,3,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,1,2,21,3,10,22,1,20,0,0,0,1,20,3,0,3,9,74,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176215624482613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125197996375441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295922294709473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133809127230591,0.18323334914246206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826279474916104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052797790030809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833594569216414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20180570482264096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960472306553135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20212900317786808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915050235333458,0.0,0.0,0.09840282697051858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160229168268062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37577193380963336,0.0,0.0,0.13617784838189828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239010449447867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29939259254231776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130003671243946,0.16484791372468854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640045129427174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561007790882404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719408911503913,0.0,0.0,0.23060847806390475
parenting,BonnBach,2018/02/22,"Why does my toddler want everyone else's food except his? We've tried dinosaur chicken nuggets, PB&J, ham and cheese, etc. He's becoming a two-year old terror. He goes to school and takes the other kid's lunch. We've gotta put a stop to it before no one will keep him.",2.253035714285716,4.131902517857147,3.1065714285714314,92.73842857142859,77.39285714285714,5.908571428571428,23.7,6.742157984588678,0.6238900000000003,215,7,46,2,5,68,48,56,0.15,0.825,0.025,-0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,17,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26401737338380404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26911542090086604,0.20734603191461454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132380911119363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20355581221733896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717575216454505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23283803577563655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946478809283842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21658593707218884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25569167299547235,0.0,0.1651177425137593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449566079191069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466080111776673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037198257291309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18321022977528414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543658060980884,0.0,0.2380311121546275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372344007665816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198751325023197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156916103247272
parenting,su-quita,2018/02/22,"I need help with my teenage son He's [16] really unpleasant. 

No name calling. But he talks back constantly. And he just makes every single situation that he is involved with in our family miserable. 

The worst things he's done are punch holes in the walls and yell things like, ""this is bullshit,"" or ""you can punish me, I don't  give a fuck.""

He did go to therapy last summer, but my son just manipulated the therapist and just got the therapist to be his buddy. Nothing changed. 

We stopped the therapy and things got a little better. But now they're back to just general unpleasantness. We started seeing a new therapist who is giving strategies for him to regulate his behavior--so he won't get explosive. But he's still just plain old mean. 

He's condescending, picks arguments, and won't back down when we tell him he's being rude. 

The problem is I can't come up with punishments. He admits he doesn't have many friends. I know he tries to hang out with friends, but he's mostly unsuccessful. So he hangs out here all the time and causes trouble. 

I get the feeling he treats his peers the same way he treats his family. 

He used to be a happy kid. Now he's this miserable person I can't stand. And I get the impression other people can't stand him. I really need help. When he's not here, our home is really fun and peaceful. When he's here, it's just miserable. He needs help too. ",2.658085407239817,4.912021216911769,4.064264705882355,84.55697963800907,77.63970588235293,8.155203619909503,24.064479638009054,8.950670267944501,1.938433936651584,1089,37,218,27,26,359,145,272,0.168,0.698,0.134,-0.8835,0,0,0,0,0,0,41,5,1,0,1,20,19,4,3,14,0,20,1,0,5,1,50,41,18,0,4,13,2,1,1,2,2,0,1,1,2,9,18,0,1,4,0,0,4,9,10,0,0,4,3,24,9,17,32,5,32,0,3,1,1,53,8,1,2,18,125,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539308309485439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735553216254064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240250721521143,0.0,0.0,0.11308099352851228,0.1164485101558857,0.09482292392680812,0.0,0.11895580658265564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264857525206458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274592614398657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075445206685209,0.0,0.055659022442400514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009282955687752,0.10176584582460746,0.17253449737452786,0.2111947515256996,0.06256017680716126,0.0,0.17607974483175926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718066352900447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213499954127822,0.0,0.11041776104929124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604962923555249,0.08972871035450465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377881931728196,0.11032762591552016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347828699406325,0.11160237233285476,0.0,0.1199078117379428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448655503912389,0.0,0.10631454967048076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562333769663516,0.0,0.11550892116930375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631460648675191,0.09611634405681196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533030605344106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21155741383094948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771835254563434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373290247061355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779141643620435,0.0,0.08790887233805347,0.09203059691031533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847696890316425,0.09621350473303487,0.0,0.2517688310574201,0.3834290430568299,0.21939389228027767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418768781633749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473610980094746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950725240750022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737522936835243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SunSwanetchna,2018/02/22,"When Does Avoiding a Bully Make You the Bully: 10 yo Girls My dd is ten and loves to dance. She asked me to put her in dance class so I found a wonderful dance teacher and then I asked a few friends who live in my building and their daughters joined the class. I set it all up, arranged teacher, pay teacher, etc. The teacher comes to my building (we have a dance studio/yoga room in our condo) and it is super convenient and easy.

So fast forward a few months, another girl moves in and starts coming to class. The mother asks another mom in group (not me) and that mom, without asking the group, allows it. This kids is nice and drama-free so we leave it alone, although the other moms were a bit uncomfortable with the unilateral decision.

A few weeks later another kid wants to join class. This kid, however, is really difficult. She has some home issues with a chronically ill parent and is really mean to kids all the time. Her way of making up for her lack of structure at home is to lash out and bully. She has been in my daughters class at school for a few years, she is also really coordinated and good at dance. She has been trouble to my dd for four years. She loves to say nasty things about my daughter when she dances or does gymnastics, ""When you dance you look fat."" ""You are too tall for gymnastics."" ""You are ugly, stupid..."" etc.

My daughter does not reciprocate in bullying but has taken the approach of avoid this girl at all costs. She is polite and civil but if she knows that girl is going to be somewhere my daughter will try to stay away to avoid this girl's verbal abuse.

So bully girl's (BG) parents come to me and ask if she can join the dance class. I know that if this kid joins, my kid is done, and it is a private class not a public condo class, so I tell BG Parent the class if full and give them number of teacher to arrange their own class.

Here is my question: am I being a bully by enabling my daughter to avoid having BG in the dance class?

Should I let this girl in even though she is cruel to dd and sometimes other girls in class?

Because another mom let a girl in without consulting me or other parents are we now ethically required to let all girls in?

How do I send right message to my child? How do I send right message to BG?

In the last dance class the little girls got together and told my dd that they wanted BG in the class so my dd was ""out."" Of course at ten years old these kids don't get to make those choices but it really hurt my daughter, which is probably how BG feels. BG has been campaigning hard after her rejection to get the other kids to let her in.

What should I do? Should I just pull my kid out? Should I have her take dance alone? Should I let the BG in and have my kid deal with it?

Be tender with me I am a new single mom this year, I am trying to do the right thing and I don't know where line between protecting from bully to becoming a bully by being exclusive is. Do all kids have a right to other kid's classes? When does a private class become a community event open to all? I feel like this is a lose-lose situation and I would appreciate some perspective from others so I can teach the right message and enable my dd to do the right thing.",3.4404280659632285,4.773514478328174,4.4020970493460565,86.98329279080058,72.94736842105263,7.3787325456498385,24.17438554369116,7.8877783879560495,1.125842711821571,2507,71,523,34,49,813,258,646,0.115,0.8340000000000001,0.051,-0.9922,5,6,0,0,2,0,75,4,5,4,4,23,18,2,4,39,0,64,6,1,7,6,89,97,48,0,13,15,17,3,1,1,7,4,1,5,24,33,35,1,6,10,11,2,22,7,10,0,3,10,5,72,8,76,71,19,85,0,2,1,2,95,40,0,10,23,362,105,21,0.0,0.07342783134673908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837060634326802,0.0,0.0495597588784697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599362353740133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896817894680494,0.0,0.05822564200346113,0.0,0.0,0.037778145134590393,0.13688854494685507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765842850392995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015266940116846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389140718434687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693184226934756,0.06341986123096137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823247880734685,0.04093255985811909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267078783108376,0.044273499613432105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795015895769756,0.047880160147347424,0.0,0.06475663425872275,0.0594501164550759,0.03522066500012712,0.05197998396933546,0.04956544260691215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551560520650202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432787662889082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663433423382579,0.0,0.0,0.06468367588983456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217616488064928,0.05051623907699195,0.0,0.06562042327877231,0.0,0.31685778495150085,0.0,0.0302768610311781,0.06211319326362692,0.0547232647712059,0.0,0.05204168352611201,0.0693318973847292,0.0,0.0,0.1118660436114456,0.0,0.12410230899658467,0.0,0.0,0.06750672845983645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629099464823552,0.049466230562425405,0.06586745565434614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059853877173741424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503020331241201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752545809387764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681733959027132,0.0,0.0,0.06229994832870597,0.06942390560172733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880587686105968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317547448393748,0.0,0.04928339033240568,0.0,0.06271995062442744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966021085336872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129284846199319,0.0,0.043864784625197065,0.06605493646829702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04659595813826685,0.0,0.054167104244859834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235162555070193,0.0,0.06088812488149345,0.0,0.03613693510938379,0.0,0.0,0.059217825234458926,0.0,0.08415115241204282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731065225507742,0.04919125616249437,0.0497109755330961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947945629134495,0.06720703852339761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044023817273582636,0.0,0.0,0.1596342341166851
parenting,Timestalkers,2018/02/22,Are there consequences to co sleeping if everybody is cool with it? Girlfriend has a six year old. They tend to sleep together a lot. The three of us have also shared a bed at times. Daughter will push to sleep with girlfriend or the two of us but if we say no she will accept it and sleep in her own bed as long as she gets some book reading/snuggle time. A lot of people will say negative things about older kids sleeping with parents but is there any negatives to it if everybody is fine with it and are fine with it not happening? ,4.788744993324432,5.453272280373831,5.038718291054738,86.16299065420563,69.18691588785046,8.731108144192259,29.304405874499327,8.841846274778883,2.0755377837116162,422,15,88,7,7,133,68,107,0.069,0.831,0.101,0.168,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,6,1,10,5,5,0,0,19,13,11,0,3,7,2,0,0,2,3,0,2,2,1,6,8,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,3,7,5,17,10,4,9,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,7,6,68,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898811793879842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011829899102351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773716225487877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157539985728145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167536277494804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529935938933007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15613113696327666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652148097625539,0.0,0.0,0.10315295266430062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366491683575841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7444923316873763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885013641590304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352247040935698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534719781036154,0.0,0.3579545327561242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581653293917516
parenting,blabla1608,2018/02/22,"How do I end this pattern with my son (15m)? He's a freshman. He always had great grades until 5th grade. Then he started this pattern. He works hard the 1st quarter of the school year, we congratulate him, reward him, support him, etc...  Right after that he just stops working and loses all drive. He'll rack up 0's, watch his grades plummet, get punished, and stuff taken away. Then he works at the last minute and gets his grades to a passing level by the end of the year. Wash, rinse, and repeat. It never fails. 

We've tried helping him, taking everything away, sending him to his room everyday, and all that. None of it breaks this cycle. He's at an age now where he doesn't care if we take all the stuff away. He doesn't care if send him to his room with no TV, he'll just sleep all day if he's got nothing to do. He doesn't seem depressed, he seems fairly happy and he's got two parents who love him a ton. We know he's smart enough, he just stops even trying. Same point every year. 

We've warned him since 5th grade he's got to get out of this habit especially by high school because that's when it'll really bite you in the ass but we just can't break it. What can we do?  I'm at a loss. We know those specific punishments stopped working long ago and leaving him in his room every day without anything certainly doesn't seem healthy so we've stopped that altogether. I just don't know what to do. 

Does anybody have any suggestions?  We've worked with his teachers, counselors, and nothing has been able to stop this. Outside of this one specific issue, he's like the perfect kid. I just can't let him sit while his future goes down the drain. We had him young so being 17 supporting a wife and kid hasn't given us the ability to save up much for college. I know if he just put the effort, he'd easily get a scholarship (if that's what he wants).  But even if he doesn't go, I feel he's the bad habits won't lead to a good care if he doesn't go to college. 

TL; DR

Please help me if you can.

Edit:

I have ADD. And he says he gets distracted easily so I think it's very possible he does too. Should we talk over medication?  I'm just so scared because damn near everybody in my family except myself has pretty bad addiction and abuse issues so the thought of getting him on pills at this age scares the hell out of me. ",2.1192494283726013,3.88450665762004,3.2198613182224882,92.29089944328464,77.4133611691023,6.399065513470522,22.26071180037777,7.2636822038024595,0.5911037478874639,1815,52,401,22,42,583,235,479,0.154,0.735,0.11,-0.9718,1,0,0,0,1,0,62,9,2,0,12,20,28,4,3,22,0,29,8,2,2,7,73,66,32,0,10,20,3,2,1,0,5,5,1,3,2,24,25,0,5,10,1,1,8,15,13,0,3,9,4,43,15,45,49,10,67,1,4,1,2,72,26,3,11,31,220,67,18,0.07636980510842843,0.09048573097054112,0.0,0.0832543601748025,0.0,0.0,0.06769722433825717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354579570774438,0.0,0.0,0.05193408630593694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284584247512606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21525583751887012,0.0,0.12753119459329454,0.09310864871038886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23359231826622856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985044127571874,0.0,0.06577720123411776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366346219484104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528195913396351,0.0789104236127281,0.08517252014217426,0.10088307202666204,0.0,0.12868970921307327,0.0,0.068636256477995,0.0,0.07199465551762774,0.0,0.03861486811871605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23940042673013254,0.0,0.08680544037193846,0.06405536918408812,0.18323972897903212,0.0841979797411385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129707762867769,0.06841234481869797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237814111555624,0.08068889209031108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942047006984575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788339057858112,0.06225158410547596,0.0,0.08086459668047542,0.0,0.07809329993596867,0.0,0.03731042918811886,0.0,0.0,0.06758487430334345,0.0,0.0854382772767315,0.0,0.0,0.06892673078662033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693454413575243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614059397709345,0.0,0.0589011017487649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465577754131418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051750156407562115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479963081580667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383111258699845,0.07219415072996441,0.08609548048567953,0.0,0.07769554723580685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677274761567983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048924452713081816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521939628507206,0.0,0.06073233428175149,0.1529189954675124,0.15458063991807114,0.0,0.2085726069642804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317389196948239,0.0,0.07642495846833904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05405494112897534,0.0,0.0,0.3192428834207598,0.0,0.0,0.17485031106672114,0.0,0.17332709962781795,0.0,0.0,0.1148411782040477,0.06138315650935242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048934687435905504,0.0,0.06062909466608135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037001692459118,0.0,0.0746022026242362,0.0,0.09186347237935012,0.0,0.0,0.06301308730746484,0.045044889726373015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736177668616744,0.0,0.27799063839462435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753895182223944
parenting,CMeow91,2018/02/22,"Did i handle this playground situation correctly ? I took my daughter ( 16 months old ) to the park today . She was walking up and down the stairs on one of the jungle gyms holding on  to the railing , A little girl about 4 or 5 years old came over to her garbed her wrist and yanked her hand off of the railing to get past her . I was next to my daughter and when i realized what the girl did i told her ""No you do not touch other children if you wanted her to move you should have said excuse me and she would have moved , You could have hurt her""

Did I handle the situation correctly ? Should i have tried to find the little girls mom and said something to her instead of her daughter ? Should i have just let it go ? 


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parenting,Caseyyjones,2018/02/22,"Boundaries with teachers I’m a parent and a preschool teacher (4y/o). My issue is with my assistant teacher and her relationship with a student in my class. Sorry if this isn’t 100% parenting related. 

So the little girl is living with her paternal grandmother, who loves her dearly. The grandmother comes to every parent meeting. Anytime we call her, she always responds. She helps with class parties. She’s a very involved “parent”. She has even stated that as far as the child is concerned she is her mom. Furthermore, the child stays with her dad, stepmom, and siblings  on the weekends. She is loved and has a family that truly cares for her and takes good care of her. 

With all this being said, the student tells me and my assistant how much she wishes she lived with her mom and not her grandmother. It’s heartbreaking to hear a very young child say these things. At the end of the day, I can only love her and guide her as her educator. 

My issue is that my assistant told this incredibly young, impressionable child that she could call her “mom” at school.... hold up.. wtf?! Yes. I think this is so wrong! Am I wrong? This woman isn’t her mother and has no right to put this nonsense in her head. 

I told the assistant that was crossing a major line, but she actually ignored me. She just walked away. When I reiterated my point, she said she couldn’t tell her to stop. I told her she should explain that she is her teacher to the child, not her mom. 

We only have another 3 months with this class of students. After May, this adult and child won’t see each other until next school year. Even then she won’t be a constant, daily figure in her life.

Am I wrong to have such an extreme reaction to this situation? What would you do? Should I let it be or try to talk some sense into this crazy woman? Sorry if I seem extreme. I just really feel like this is going to set expectations in the child’s mind that will not be met. ",2.7799657432231157,5.0994463404825785,3.7307260947274368,86.76941056002384,77.55227882037535,6.7181709859994045,22.9616473041406,7.793537801064563,1.1417477509681264,1507,47,296,24,36,483,187,373,0.07400000000000001,0.845,0.081,-0.6861,4,0,0,0,0,0,55,2,1,0,0,9,13,0,0,20,1,35,5,1,1,1,53,57,23,0,9,9,10,1,1,0,7,1,4,0,11,25,24,0,3,5,1,0,5,9,5,0,0,7,6,59,8,37,36,5,36,0,1,1,3,84,14,0,6,15,208,84,8,0.0,0.0,0.0824264059816825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028228602470883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856972325687043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793583701984433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724979874977212,0.0,0.17223696121001958,0.0,0.0,0.0727597806813439,0.0,0.09127748902161212,0.0,0.06743904331724193,0.0,0.0,0.05447343317516203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481160035798763,0.0,0.0,0.11157768730819537,0.0,0.0711660531638252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962680953137605,0.0,0.04270843060031526,0.06034236208326445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048003842903944216,0.07084587938940143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668624712847234,0.0,0.09519906018401593,0.0,0.05661562434164801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763206353914133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637197129383384,0.0596606704287514,0.04126570808813458,0.08465689025686232,0.14916964260944146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22870096222445946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528634796931132,0.3957011500868574,0.06741977077833093,0.0,0.062092058798695074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983030332556098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284800466392333,0.0,0.0,0.3751569614579489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984745323278612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491142721138997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411093434091822,0.0,0.0,0.09068462522281953,0.0,0.07213330501277586,0.16069257712517732,0.06717056953018992,0.0,0.1709677348061024,0.06730828188630396,0.07689446357186372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494306306961192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910502563768591,0.0,0.09002927097607903,0.0,0.07061716481487441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635077462171725,0.06789038542740297,0.14765360976133962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056115303571742985,0.054122254046791225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421319852698349,0.0,0.05734671251322186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393862104052138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713146556773934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060002058689845275,0.27705017546026883,0.0,0.05439318576609177
parenting,Throwingaway7658,2018/02/22,"Anxiety over reading level Ever since my daughter was little I’ve had anxiety over her learning to read. She is in kindergarten now, knows some sight word and can sound out easy sounding words (cat, dog, sit, etc) but is having a hard time learning to blend sounds together. 
I’m worried she’s going to enter first grade and be behind. When I talk to her teacher, I hear positive feedback, but I still feel in the dark about where she should be reading wise compared to other kids. I feel this pressure that she should be fluent before first grade, although I’m not quite sure why. 

When did your kids learn to read? At what stage we’re they at in kindergarten? Does anyone have tips or tenchniques they used with their children to help blending sounds?",6.4124822695035455,7.289587695035465,5.332765957446809,84.73333333333333,65.66666666666667,7.401418439716313,30.56028368794326,6.937597516519254,1.6972326241134752,599,21,109,4,9,177,102,141,0.087,0.812,0.101,0.7272,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,1,3,3,7,3,0,1,2,0,13,0,0,1,2,22,21,8,0,2,4,1,3,0,0,2,0,5,0,3,4,4,0,0,6,4,0,2,1,1,0,2,3,9,15,2,18,13,2,23,0,0,1,0,17,11,0,2,8,69,19,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502549243248496,0.0,0.0,0.11436907705137865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391825296555554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431376171794933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241920988926424,0.0,0.1479547165727894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540766248165406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782581338744243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295826764492884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652291452298227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435065154761435,0.0,0.1096347717612258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989153840861601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393599733737518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397246331643268,0.6544406339944222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353033987894928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062393522885987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541589205449906,0.0,0.0,0.1314680708314576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537658887909696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412684169017779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759277941053414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610910629818698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rhebala,2018/02/22,"The Nightly Dream Suggestion I can't remember exactly how it started, but my kid asks for a ""dream suggestion"" every night. 

I think she may have had a bad dream, and I was trying to get her to calm down, and I kind of remember acting like, ""oh, you just need a dream suggestion and then you'll have only good dreams."" I guess I really sold it.

For some reason it worked, and now its probably my favorite part of the bedtime routine. I do my best to think of something silly or creative or comforting. 

Like, ""dream about what it would be like to breathe colors,"" or ""what if the dog could talk but he could only say words that meant food so he was all, 'bacon, cheese, cheese, pancakes, ketchup, chicken!!!!!""

It's been months though, and I'm running out of new ideas. Anyone have any awesome dream suggestions?",4.1019264069264105,5.756725318181823,4.356558441558442,86.68579004329004,71.79220779220779,7.730735930735931,27.119047619047624,8.344100000000001,1.768330735930736,625,22,123,10,12,195,103,154,0.026,0.669,0.305,0.9939,0,0,1,0,0,0,35,0,2,0,2,6,10,0,0,6,0,15,2,1,2,2,31,25,15,0,5,7,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,1,9,6,1,0,7,7,1,2,1,1,0,0,6,2,14,9,13,13,4,11,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,7,10,77,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097263467603754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282256480719635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084433761791502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472396528047756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933121284217226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576562990252281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135947820227573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19511006388236524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430087734424188,0.0,0.0,0.1353361953756686,0.0,0.0,0.1777497739923522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214918146184025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680255046554429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236488444222766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879133336869825,0.0,0.0,0.11964204865391548,0.0,0.15583683173037158,0.0,0.30283985575722777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454341853570603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473080737111588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739670510596151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336759237147718,0.1658989271327887,0.0,0.0,0.3655655679935763,0.0,0.0,0.12831528664449995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242182983139176,0.0,0.0,0.11420728920673405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969034396243215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677843259134945,0.15852962113034014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954886798967103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174677340232312,0.0,0.0,0.11462135000339985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,readybaby2,2018/02/22,"OK, for real. How do I get my almost 4yo to blow OUT of his nose instead of sucking in really hard? Just what the title says. I’ve been working on this for like 2 years. He can write his name and count to 20 in Spanish, but blowing his nose is apparently a step too far. ",1.1798275862068976,2.633553879310348,3.3788275862069,91.49893103448278,79.17241379310343,6.019310344827588,21.944827586206888,6.742157984588678,0.367278620689655,207,6,48,2,5,71,50,58,0.024,0.91,0.066,0.3335,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,2,1,4,2,2,1,0,9,6,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,5,2,10,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,5,1,1,2,29,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231550071535175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078174539781806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785506258814466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20645230562551256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.480991031025426,0.2707169626260566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360543073698992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076448568817546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721290662877389
parenting,g1212,2018/02/22,"Trouble with the High School administration? Has anyone ever had to deal with the high school administering punishment on their child, unjustly?

My child is going to get in-school suspension for passing on a non-credible rumor. The school cannot get the rumor-source to admit their role, so my kid is the ""fall-guy"".

The school gets to show that they ""resolved"" the issue, and my kid gets in trouble.

(I am being vague on purpose.)

Has anybody ever had to fight the school on something like this?
How should someone go about it?
Is it worth getting an attorney?

I am fuming right now.

Any advice is appreciated.",3.8886769480519447,6.545162526785719,4.6059090909090905,80.17545454545456,75.51785714285714,6.929870129870131,25.36038961038961,8.00094639256281,1.7257035714285718,481,17,84,8,11,154,72,112,0.142,0.78,0.078,-0.8299,0,0,1,0,1,0,24,0,0,3,1,6,7,3,0,10,0,13,0,0,1,2,9,21,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,2,1,1,3,1,5,0,0,2,0,8,2,14,17,0,14,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,0,4,55,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610747137806344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775933343726564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023569431127557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304626018199647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23346864241242385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371199817699118,0.0,0.1466856958047371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277811114773823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726996425400731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469606557789632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304796384630529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020913531513306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7836410469379003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934477770499457,0.09935002287597833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AutoWrecker503,2018/02/22,"Opinion of our first child’s name ? Feels like we picked it out really soon and want some honest opinions about how it sounds. 

His name will be  “Romeo Cruz Schneider” “Romey” for short. 

Cruz because I wanted something car related since my family’s been in the auto business since 1930s also wanted to be a little unique ",6.301779661016947,7.606194050847463,5.5625,81.4535805084746,66.11864406779661,7.933898305084746,26.614406779661017,8.07648339933343,1.6752677966101697,255,7,44,3,4,77,52,59,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.7479,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,14,8,3,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,2,6,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,3,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357794833667041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17972871022695192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779442459671993,0.0,0.14907746033664238,0.21063021899055132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507865433417483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404151298237902,0.29550217655147737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888788830355042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877812010357312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269784262149253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5217040550992109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,just_visiting_earth,2018/02/23,"Does anyone else feel like they’re failing miserably at speaking 30,000 words a day to their baby? My son is 5 months old and I’m at home on paternity leave with him. A relatively recent study suggests that kids should hear about 30,000 words per day to give them the best shot at language development. https://www.education.com/magazine/article/30000_words/

My wife and I try to talk to him as much as possible by narrating what we’re doing (when we remember to do so) and reading to him a lot, but we’re pretty introverted and I know we have to be falling well short of 30,000 words. (By the way, the average adult speaks about HALF of that in an entire DAY. https://ubrp.arizona.edu/study-finds-no-difference-in-the-amount-men-and-women-talk/)

If he’s awake roughly 9 hours a day (fortunately, he’s a great sleeper), that comes out to almost a word per second for nine hours straight! I can’t even fathom how that’s possible, especially when it’s completely one-sided. Any thoughts on this? ",8.088157894736844,10.077976719298249,6.942938596491232,70.66598684210527,62.50877192982456,9.208771929824564,28.869883040935672,9.516144504307137,2.4622198830409348,813,25,138,15,12,246,118,171,0.043,0.838,0.119,0.9408,0,0,0,0,0,0,49,2,0,2,2,8,6,0,1,10,0,7,0,0,1,0,23,14,12,0,2,2,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,1,2,7,9,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,2,1,3,1,5,12,4,25,11,3,23,0,2,0,0,19,9,0,3,12,79,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240011693706607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034970101368301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641745103401473,0.15594054436303992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597180145829552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110149164647258,0.15957231477590048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926096685554925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318582924719558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713839964934462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005225765085272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695376353734451,0.1087272886821104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599817115056016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779421344653642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153348562342424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266280112812738,0.0,0.2997604926089744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364173807814981,0.0,0.0,0.1611512703438685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435420823896892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938973524580233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147964758460007,0.0,0.11187996241440913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970180244029816,0.0,0.10313046485009056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34315130775846525,0.0,0.1548358200138704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223499637818286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027302714133786,0.0,0.17240591896735893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446552398767368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082488538023865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332960711401028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208043627929632,0.0,0.0,0.13684051344573028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Miss_Forgiver,2018/02/23,"My 5 year old girl was sexual assaulted (?) by another 5 year old at school, need advice On Sunday evening my daughter told me that a boy ""touched Amanda's private area, he put his hands down her pants and touched her private area at school when the teacher was far far away"". When we questioned her about if the boy had done it to anyone else she said that the boy did it to her to but she ""forgot to tell the teacher"". I think she was more worried she would get in trouble or her friends would. She is extremely bashful and quiet. She is in Kindergarten and already has had an incident with a separate boy touching her butt, in which we contacted the teacher immediately to inform her what happened and she made sure to put a stop to it. Well, the main teacher is currently on family leave and has been for a month or two, so a lot of substitutes have been filling in. 
The next day after our daughter told us this, we went to the school and spoke with the principal directly. She informed me that she would get the school counselor involved and inform the sub to keep a closer eye on my child and the others involved. This was on Monday. School is out today and yesterday for conferences but I haven't received any word on what the next step is or what is being done next. 
I'm having a hard time trusting her to go back to this school and I'm extremely anxious. She hasn't been back to school due to her being I'll all this week with a fever but I'm hesitant on letting her return. I should also add that this is a military base school so I'm not sure on legality issues as my husband is active duty. 
I'm a nurse and I inspected her to make sure no tearing or bruising were on her anywhere and she denies the boy actually making direct contact with her private area but says he touched close to it. 


My questions are:
What would you do in this situation?
Would you go the legal route for this or let the school handle this?
Would you inform the other girls mother of what my daughter told me or let the school inform her? I am an acquaintance of the mother and I've hung out with her and say hi to her on several occasions but am unsure how to tell her if I should at all. 
I'm concerned also about the boys home environment that he thought this was okay to do, is there anything I should do in that area also. 

We are trying to not to over question her about this incident or be upset about it in front of her as to traumatize her but I don't know what else to do other than what I've already done. 
Any advice is appreciated

TL;DR: a boy in my daughter's kindergarten class put his hands down the front of my daughter's pants. Daughter told him to stop but teacher was not in close proximity to intervene. Need advice on how to handle this. ",4.609128033142632,5.463406963503653,5.302274610376801,83.42757447228252,69.69343065693431,8.187098046952062,28.861905701321763,8.358175599149588,1.9286668376405611,2168,77,434,31,37,702,222,548,0.078,0.867,0.056,-0.8548,1,0,0,0,0,0,40,6,3,0,0,18,10,1,1,34,1,56,5,4,5,5,86,84,41,0,13,19,9,7,0,1,9,1,5,1,10,33,28,0,5,11,0,0,11,7,3,1,1,26,13,62,7,75,43,5,73,0,0,1,1,90,37,1,13,25,314,95,14,0.0,0.0,0.05955671802933304,0.0,0.0,0.1789141551242739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346967918850238,0.14641760109149798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830053224952649,0.06399553603147189,0.0,0.06894680832377896,0.0,0.04267376821090939,0.06253270098251427,0.05022269373725477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057339926700509525,0.09385698660715322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03935946085558805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736539791817053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196588143438852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040309903011275516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753388597204456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047151817975564114,0.0,0.06377157097806059,0.0,0.06936979241312416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396884647946308,0.0,0.05467111437064151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121831453835085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369972243538607,0.0,0.05424648832006572,0.0,0.0,0.03354062805322863,0.0,0.0,0.06462222023481592,0.0,0.18722268957575292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05188573412630812,0.0,0.0577482960168052,0.08147632848548242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871376144605453,0.0,0.0,0.0905063107058505,0.0,0.0,0.19471908238382316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128081957122303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405676679706776,0.20510353453360847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058053741342172775,0.0970674050805575,0.0,0.6176586891477243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894680832377896,0.0,0.0,0.06860055547411167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020480396499405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725608585621167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066862530015382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0391057184283031,0.0,0.04845119952344982,0.035587228222060036,0.0,0.057849538733441425,0.23326806825801025,0.0,0.041435532052897885,0.0,0.05961768395426579,0.0,0.07341187351852123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04895478341156144,0.0,0.05487352211413535,0.056575651047331185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06197917901099902,0.0,0.2601248215066963,0.0,0.0,0.07860295711809064
parenting,insouciantelle,2018/02/23,"My son had his first playdate yesterday And it was fucking amazing!!!!!!!


He was sweet, he was protective (other kid was smaller), he shared, they laughed obscenely loudly.


And best of all...the parents are super cool too!!!!!


I guess I just wanted to brag. I've spent so much time around him and it feels wonderfully validating to know that other people (at least close to) his age like him too.

This morning he woke up and, after our morning routine, he said ""I think *other kid* is my friend. He played with me and toys and I think he likes me"" (of course this was all in adorable little boy slurring).

I feel great guys!!!! My kid is becoming a person who other people WANT to be around! Victory for Momma!!!",1.3523391812865526,4.023772308270676,2.4630952380952387,90.56384920634922,89.07518796992481,5.060818713450293,20.922723475355056,6.691623216298621,0.5771891395154558,539,18,104,7,18,171,90,133,0.0,0.705,0.295,0.9925,1,0,0,0,0,0,43,1,0,1,3,6,14,1,0,1,1,10,1,0,0,1,21,23,7,0,2,1,3,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,10,10,0,1,6,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,9,6,16,13,14,13,4,12,0,0,0,1,26,7,1,2,7,66,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613815874286733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241699536097997,0.0,0.0,0.21300975233382385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052605293779392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265044135762653,0.0,0.0,0.156817990624821,0.18764712772461487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237806670876924,0.22359985911631286,0.20097717337997847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154975823684322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19832667621515188,0.20343428528471133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920998828615578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22537973014427884,0.0,0.0,0.2814346325063524,0.17722995120323995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930757170434152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26011638359499145,0.0,0.0,0.11835636166950167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23943984173611216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011774197601613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dss8503,2018/02/23,"Daughter with O.D.D. I have posted here a few times about my daughter and the struggles she's had with authority and managing her emotions. Granted she is 5 and for a while we just thought maybe she's just kind of mean. Well since she's been in Kindergarten she's been to the office at least 5-6 times. Seen the school counselor multiple times. And today she got her 6th ""minor"" of the year (basically like a really bad mark for terrible behavior). As a parent who tries so hard to raise a good child and teach her manners and respect and everything you can it's so disheartening to have that feeling that you know the teachers can't wait for your child to get out of her class and that some how you are failing her.  

So we took her to a psychologist recently who diagnosed her with O.D.D. (oppositional defiant disorder). We have had to change the way we discipline her and the way we speak to her when she's in the ""red zone"" IE when she's losing her stuff and no one can control her. We have an appt with another Dr. to have her brain scanned for any possible tumors or anything that may cause some of these actions (per the psychologist). Today her teacher called my wife due to her being clipped down to red for talking and not listening, and then when she saw she was on red she obviously threw a big fit, and they couldn't console her and it escalated from there. So of course they gave her a minor and called mom. That means now she can't attend their big end of year party and can't get to watch the movies and have games and all that stuff because she has too many minors. Which she knew and that's another reason she threw a giant fit. It sucks watching your 5 year old feel like they are a screw up and failing at everything they do. She really does try and we have worked so hard with her. She went 3 entire weeks at school with getting a good color until today. We are trying to A. Focus on that as a big positive while still B. punishing her accordingly for her actions without making her feel like she's a screw up (not sure where she gets that from we try to be VERY positive). It's just so tough and I feel bad for her because the passion she gives in everything she does and the amount of care she has when she knows she's messed up really sucks to see as a parent when she gets in trouble at school. 

Per her psychologist we started a new rewards chart at home (for her and her brother) that has helped her behavior and it's worked pretty well. It's based on a star chart and she gets a chance to earn 1 of 3 color stars for what she did for the day; purple, green or red. There are 5 categories that she can have a chance to get a star for, such as School/Home, Attitude, Minding, Chores, Fighting (with brother). And if she does good she gets a purple star for each category. Or if she does okay she gets a green star. If she doesn't do okay with the tasks she does get a red star. For every purple star she gets 2 pts, green she gets 1, red she gets 0. And can use her points for rewards. Like dessert, tv time, park play time, a bunch of fun stuff. So it gives her a sense of rewards because usually she's getting at least a few purples and or greens every day. And then she gets to use her points. Like the other day we all went to the park because she wanted to use her points. And it's worked very well so far. So things have been going well. And she has gotten good colors for school every day since the 1st of Feb until today. And today was a Super Bad Day. So she will get a red star for school. But it helps us not really remain focused on it throughout the day. Each read star has a punishment attatched. Like 1 red star is 5 minute timeout. 2 red stars is 15 minute timeout. 3 red stars is go to bed 30 mins early etc. So today she got red for School and red for her attitude (throwing the giant fit obviously). So she knows she will have a 15 minute time out. But after she serves it and we talk about what she did wrong we will move on and not try to hone in on it and have her sit on it. We want her to learn from her mistakes, be punished for them and move on. With a chance to finish the day on a positive note. 

It's really hard seeing your kid go through so many negative feelings and have so many anger issues at such a young age. And when she's not in her mood or defience and anger (which isn't near as much as it sounds) she's literally an angel. She's so caring, loving, always wants to help around the house. Play outside, help in the kitchen. She loves softball and baseball and loves helping me build and do anything around the house. She is never defiant really to me, it's just been with my wife and her teacher. But it's just been really hard. Sorry for the long post just really venting and not knowing where to turn at times. But I can say we are definitely trying everything we can to ensure she has the best tools in place to be the best person she can be. Just some days are harder than others I suppose. ",4.395636363636363,4.991574612935325,4.896099050203528,87.08140773405701,70.03482587064677,8.120759837177749,25.87403889642696,8.150884317080207,1.3104527363184073,3886,107,837,51,66,1239,356,1005,0.085,0.7809999999999999,0.134,0.9933,2,0,0,0,2,0,105,17,6,6,14,47,59,10,1,61,2,65,11,1,8,6,144,130,92,0,8,26,9,9,6,0,4,2,4,4,4,41,78,2,3,15,5,0,14,16,24,4,1,24,43,127,34,120,96,17,122,1,4,30,6,153,49,4,12,60,545,168,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036099658480089176,0.0,0.0,0.02950317575284239,0.09098556527102604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140404569578923,0.07724340312336846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867357594079168,0.10578797173132268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105941609146267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0484318244532175,0.08860153517176701,0.0,0.08846746213041712,0.044568176785379325,0.04589540315378439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048659781908449586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22383703719255404,0.0,0.0,0.04403469461491802,0.0,0.0,0.04972277997243525,0.0,0.1898318088065117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048802100305481835,0.03842608679977778,0.0,0.04838555965467738,0.0,0.0,0.10966078481084536,0.0,0.1559659700920521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968338155292368,0.06198827005490117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626685730583918,0.08323737463244303,0.07396980516349466,0.14555656597623176,0.0693976321848255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554571632172428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539970303840044,0.0,0.043518527217836764,0.0,0.0,0.10012055001941952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04528249634897042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0451786297564019,0.09537268354053514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271738345332415,0.0,0.0,0.03839421402465993,0.0,0.04853653332161023,0.0,0.0,0.11746952322336565,0.0,0.028959714470606787,0.13195624051209648,0.043585898405786166,0.0945176087462861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04380631605556744,0.05081179478600077,0.0,0.09222242796664068,0.03189284588965238,0.0,0.03346105959567458,0.041901344308380835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04552508656252609,0.0,0.029398687227021637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634745076660332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03788196477782305,0.045327918926890996,0.0,0.12303807781074863,0.048909883141701485,0.08310135913725968,0.04413797465902914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04339657588118628,0.0,0.22234749154959854,0.04460683645191937,0.04283729090145807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03450136239308512,0.0,0.3073543869084916,0.06914419340665469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717767682206686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04856577118158168,0.030708009746103812,0.0,0.034647185535895034,0.0,0.0,0.04535524974310763,0.14899577016100074,0.0,0.0,0.04088969385876776,0.0,0.0,0.06974217449754684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028822956807840163,0.0,0.0,0.034442713117774304,0.1770863246019654,0.0,0.2467425062152054,0.0,0.048202148385187854,0.17673273199639716,0.047190242568433016,0.0,0.0,0.05218661506642354,0.11241170407665084,0.047782266751083685,0.07159406554722855,0.07676849981739241,0.06887372577196052,0.03480069796767605,0.0,0.15603270907869046,0.08043635400735234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04182143306530965,0.0,0.09475403049034338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04743450676627268,0.0,0.0838152345717512
parenting,Emwonk2,2018/02/23,"Letting a Child Go ... Any Hope? Today I ended a last-ditch court case to help my daughter and attempt reunification. She turned 18 during the case. We used to be very close. When she turned teen she got mean and I took it personal and argued with her. She ended up not wanting to see me at all about 2 years ago.  Then it got worse. She wanted to sleep with me (dad) until she was about 7. (No touching or snuggling.)  Her counselor told her 8 years later that was sexual abuse, and that became part of the narrative. (Her mom had falsely accused me of abuse 10 years ago as leverage to get me to change her school.) daughter says she has PTSD from the abuse and made suicide threats. 

So I reported the counselor to the state licensing board for not reporting the abuse, and filed a family access motion and asked for a guardian to look into the abuse and try to get a good counselor for her.  He did nothing to help her -- Didn't even get her medical records. (I was cleared of any abuse.)

Have any of you ever had a daughter falsely accuse you? Any hope she will ever want to have a dad again? My depression has become suicidal and I feel intense guilt for my part. I love her very much, and even after 3 years apart, I miss her every day.",2.7001346801346813,4.749553201646092,3.431307519640857,90.13497474747477,76.65432098765433,6.228881406659182,23.802656191545076,7.1686216300943375,0.8648041152263377,960,31,196,11,22,303,137,243,0.183,0.736,0.081,-0.9849,0,0,0,0,6,1,37,1,2,0,1,9,9,2,1,14,0,14,3,1,2,4,31,38,16,2,5,3,6,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,4,15,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,12,5,35,4,30,23,4,27,0,2,2,1,37,5,0,3,18,123,39,3,0.0,0.6145454372520031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532581247358792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351446681875616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081523436344419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547268972158776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144828540103238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055750445180527665,0.0,0.07445571520883254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313079354533,0.0,0.0,0.1141933852350238,0.15639050657647172,0.07283438759709775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149348812667513,0.0,0.04370963752684685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549322302456285,0.0,0.04912918933648693,0.07250670803994815,0.138277344529013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588571078569647,0.0,0.0,0.17172054088825472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046493512180478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839677564047108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259277254801015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802078746796208,0.08179718780107972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416491267209594,0.0,0.0870851358893299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101244377258417,0.0,0.0,0.0635476730293758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082947159373368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722494156828706,0.0,0.0,0.07548121355305208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010506150696225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874523847792226,0.0,0.08748785207183016,0.06888617920283542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650831649574713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891155377771632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194059237017343,0.08260274892675155,0.0960445604476208,0.058691082347819085,0.18805660148934414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466149033395672,0.0,0.14265381910352212,0.15296407044484428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809574342907643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226732661769844
parenting,MamaBearA,2018/02/23,"The dreaded ""P"" word I knew we'd have to face this obstacle eventually, but it's here in at a loss. How do we go about potty training. My daughter is three months shy of three, and although she's great at going to the potty sometimes, she HATES wearing anything but a diaper. It's a constant struggle. We keep her in pull-ups any time she's awake and use diapers at nap and bedtime, but she will literally sob, saying ""I don't want a pull-up, I need a diaper!"" Then kick like crazy to keep me from getting the pull-up on. Once it's on and we've moved on to an activity she's fine. Keep in mind I try to be really positive, I've explained that they're just practice big kid underwear and it's okay if she has an accident.

Sometimes when I suggest she try to potty she's happy to try, goes through all the steps flawlessly and we make a huge deal. Other times she doesn't even want to try (not necessarily during fun activities either). I don't want to push her, but she's very ""spirited"" and since I know she can use the potty, I feel like she may just be testing us. I do need her to learn soon though because we're starting preschool in the fall and she needs to be potty trained.

I'm having trouble balancing between being consistent with trying to use the potty, and not wanting to traumatize her by forcing her to use it if she's actually not ready. Heeeelp meeee. 
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parenting,-_-k,2018/02/23,"Pulling child out of daycare without two week notice... We are pulling our child out of daycare because they are not upholding their end of the contract. Our child was supposed to be class with 4yo only and working on a curriculum to get set for kindergarten. I found out by watching him on cameras and talking to the new teachers that they have 3 yo in the class and they mostly play all day and are not following the curriculum as promised. 

We are starting our child into a new school Monday and not sure what I should tell the director at the old school. The new teachers at our child's current school even admitted they had to talk to management about the way the class was led and they were concerned the 4 yo weren't learning to hold pencils or writing numbers etc. 

My son is also regressing because he is class with young 3 yo kids and my child will be 5 in a few weeks. Not sure how to handle this.... Any thoughts?",5.993682072117824,6.458808865921791,5.4569222955815135,84.92265109192483,66.48603351955308,8.296800406297614,34.70848146267141,8.00094639256281,2.4893754189944133,733,33,143,8,11,223,107,179,0.023,0.941,0.036000000000000004,0.3348,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,6,1,4,4,0,0,13,0,16,0,0,2,3,34,22,11,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,3,15,0,1,4,1,0,4,6,0,0,1,7,1,17,4,27,11,4,28,0,0,1,0,27,10,0,2,12,96,20,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246147472636109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059676624310154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18998131203903698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004954847720674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801641655988348,0.0,0.17378822859531104,0.10292222393737434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708561961691515,0.0,0.0,0.08141314439786873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45149588772474497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17741000349765354,0.16351416015056444,0.0,0.0,0.11851340936259225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4731155460995161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029510985406232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29373009278948675,0.0,0.0,0.2504955827898971,0.13619961352167292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370918396881335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522202774055842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368817147195245,0.2499899431502478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021160903395553,0.0,0.11344386788611498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,paul490,2018/02/23,"My wife suffered a stroke after the birth of our first child three weeks ago and I'm stressed out and need advice My first child, a girl was born on February 1. My wife suffered a stroke twenty minutes after the birth. Doctors can't still explain what caused it. She is still in the hospital, but was moved to rehab unit a couple of days ago. She can't speak and her left leg is paralyzed and her left while not paralyzed is quite weak. I'm basically caring for my baby with help from my parents and father-in-law. It's taking a toll on me as I'm dealing with a baby and a hospitalized wife. She is devasted and has communicated with me through an iPad and computer, that she feels terrible that she can't be with me taking care of our baby. I havent' found others in similar situations where they are doing most of the care of baby or child due to the other parent being or disabled. I'm welcome to any advice from anyone. ",4.8814516129032235,5.462010102150543,5.998010752688174,79.66701612903228,68.94623655913979,8.780645161290323,27.865591397849464,8.841846274778883,2.0371913978494613,733,23,144,12,12,245,107,186,0.075,0.8190000000000001,0.107,0.8446,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,3,3,9,0,1,13,0,15,6,1,1,0,23,28,13,0,1,4,5,3,0,0,0,5,1,0,4,7,13,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,5,0,3,3,4,19,4,24,23,1,24,0,2,0,0,24,8,0,3,15,98,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28395128188075885,0.2575815185057148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880213659905038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159009926648987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4443983090772196,0.149252783076935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076054733251774,0.0,0.09369998720601624,0.14978754119516233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871040281929995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346295556534232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471670854641231,0.0,0.15930291227937673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738477946515553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31571587449027816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544202055024241,0.0,0.10773064430832917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32265455323720915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545337277663999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633119720271086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320574562391199,0.0,0.166429127292182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847989602187545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165428204458079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,all_meat_no_soul,2018/02/23,"Toddler won't stop putting toys in her mouth at school. About a month ago our daycare teacher pulled us aside to tell us that our 3 year old daughter has been putting nearly every toy she plays with in her mouth.  They had been constantly working with her to stop, but it wasn't helping, and according to the teacher, none of the other kids her age were still doing this.  They asked if she was doing this at home... which we realized she was, though not nearly enough for us to even think about it as a problem.

Since then, we've been watching for the behavior much more closely and have nearly eliminated it completely at home through some discipline, mainly going to timeout/losing access to the toy she put in her mouth for a period of time.  We discussed it with her every time and it seemed she really understood that toys do not go in her mouth.  It seemed like the problem was solved!

When my wife dropped her off this morning, the teacher pulled her aside to tell us that the behavior is getting even worse at school.  It's not just toys, she'll put paper in her mouth, try to eat glue, anything really.  They've stopped giving her small toys.  It was a shock to us, as we explained that we took the concern seriously and have nearly eliminated the behavior at home.  Another comment made was that she is also eating quite a bit for lunch, sometimes asking for 3rd or 4th helpings and pitching a fit when she doesn't get them.  The teachers don't think she's even still hungry, and possibly that it is connected to this oral fixation.

The teacher told us that she is excelling greatly at everything else.  She's extremely active, engaged, verbal, and always really happy and excited to be there.  She also had her 3 year checkup a couple of weeks ago and we were told she's doing excellent.  We called and left a message with our pediatrician this morning to discuss any ideas they have to solve this behavior problem, but I was curious if anyone else has been through this before?  I'm almost thinking of offering to sit in at daycare a few hours a week to see it myself and discipline her the way that worked at home, since I know the teachers have a lot on their hands with a dozen other kids.  I don't know if that would help teach her that this is not okay at school just as it is not okay at home.  Any thoughts?  Thank you!",8.139044340959707,6.923661002227174,7.586026523587773,77.02534065600325,62.585746102449896,10.747155294594046,35.553857056084226,9.688023934748609,3.1806071269487752,1846,68,353,29,22,579,205,449,0.062,0.82,0.119,0.9823,0,0,0,0,0,0,43,15,1,5,5,15,16,0,0,25,2,38,10,6,1,0,61,62,26,0,7,13,2,1,1,0,3,1,0,5,2,32,23,3,5,12,7,0,9,11,5,0,1,21,3,53,11,58,37,9,60,0,0,2,0,69,26,0,9,23,250,85,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105188565436988,0.0,0.06837237917698187,0.0,0.0,0.10920669867806804,0.05681428205530365,0.0,0.0,0.09286524135255712,0.07159734725912212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04774283943725713,0.06996074702920098,0.05618847605286734,0.0,0.12766483377183713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058101099852640274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454388178904349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972133285634953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159009475374628,0.07378623120981839,0.0,0.0,0.07555032483045984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973460887157738,0.1140780603517429,0.0,0.0,0.0705513089309015,0.0,0.1352945362842418,0.0,0.1150573905860385,0.0,0.06136550170361205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134677816169145,0.06550022741238565,0.0776099932072314,0.0,0.0,0.0752787452926142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268514064896209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372995771204426,0.0,0.3424511455349755,0.0,0.06724187118374476,0.0,0.0,0.07707960848985912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504960948635814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418622686863814,0.0,0.0,0.03335807229871356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580490633316807,0.0,0.0646080189328275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450030284668563,0.0,0.05019352587283995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164818775174966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697524057290486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960037060601963,0.0,0.2745603222758166,0.0,0.07262399589785294,0.0,0.0,0.1312254079857392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207308476794893,0.05441017826884497,0.12431877188306745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296354941851924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753049030689776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090567088076183,0.17125496679181593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935914874076893,0.06286288682227244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312528596096957,0.06708457887488366,0.05420655208974992,0.07962902711687346,0.0,0.0,0.1304885928240363,0.0758613950749181,0.04635751743369813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4927933159584874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0541973448913101,0.10953990997712594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941704789486996,0.0,0.06958297237808159,0.0485040268198629,0.0,0.0,0.08793993402305722
parenting,Kmariam,2018/02/23,"Parents of spirited kids/toddlers. How do you do it? How do you survive? Everyday is a fucking battle. About everything. I try so, so hard to be patient and I consider myself to do a decent job at it but fuck, some days I want to run away and never come back. She’s going to be 3 in April so I know we’re far from being done with this stage. 

I’m losing ideas on what to do. We do a lot of positive discipline but it’s not even working. I absolutely do not believe in spanking or harsh punishment of any kind. She just doesn’t listen. 

And then she can be the absolute sweetest kid in the world. I love her but she drives me insane sometimes. I’m so sick of the tantrums, the piercing screams when we’re out in public, the hitting when she’s mad. I’m at wits end.",-0.1934761904761899,2.071314200000004,2.205178571428572,92.8229166666667,91.375,5.2976190476190474,21.994047619047624,6.868970318607317,0.7153422619047621,592,23,129,9,21,201,103,160,0.219,0.68,0.101,-0.9704,2,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,2,0,3,12,10,6,0,8,0,15,4,0,2,1,23,27,16,0,1,7,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,5,7,0,1,2,0,0,4,4,8,0,0,1,3,17,2,21,21,2,25,1,1,0,3,14,11,2,3,9,90,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316395552928607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977948032590936,0.1618804319145414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371891457462371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18134831233370666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577095863720132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154397709200246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864623194415901,0.0,0.0,0.13904952088886322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892059467885361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389253223360837,0.0,0.0,0.11964598868554302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18858870133156888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376566620908936,0.0,0.0,0.2089131931815244,0.0,0.0,0.2192289872623786,0.11569882120054822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355231910019473,0.0,0.17898049690697562,0.19000668198887186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236955940095466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23376266799992185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20821422461960531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293239252198026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241728708120326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326442505694465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Quercus2013,2018/02/23,"School shooting threat at my kid’s high school Police are there.  They’re even at the elementary schools and middle school. The superintendent and principal have been great on updating the situation and so far, the threat was NOT real. 

I know this isn’t the last time someone will post the threat of a school shooting on social media. 

I took my kids out of school early but what will I do when it happens again? I can’t keep pulling them out of school or have them miss school every time there’s a threat. 

I don’t think this town has the resources to have police at all the schools everyday either. 

I can’t homeschool them as well as the public school. 

How do other parents handle this?  Thanks for any replies. 
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parenting,Fantasticnesss,2018/02/23,"How do we cut off a damaging friendship with the boy next door. We have a nine year old son who's best friend is a boy across the street who is sometimes a great and adoring friend and sometimes a psychopath. ( damaging property, lashing out, throwing balls at people's faces in anger, lack of emotion and empathy as a few examples) We'd cut their relationship off before for several weeks because together they had hurt another friend, not terribly, but in fits of anger, so thought they needed a breather. About a month later the boys really missed each other and promised to make good choices. And we watched them closely. Everything seemed fine. Then last night I found a bruise on my sons chest right above his nipple. I remembered that the neighbor boys Dad pinched his teenage boy in this same location when he was penalizing him, awful right? Put 2 and 2 together and asked my son if the teenage boy had done this to him, and he admitted he had while they were wrestling. (Alarms going off!) Our son talked to my husband about it at length and the bruise was just the beginning. The wrestling the boys (my son, his friend and sometime the 14 year old) were doing was alarming--way too much. We thing wrestling is good for boys, but the brothers were using humiliating tactics. So, that relationship with the brothers is over for good. Now we need ideas or to hear about similar experiences. We're going to talk to the parents of course but beyond that,  these are our neighbors and the boys are often outside and playing everywhere. We share the neighborhood pool and we share friends and the boys ride the bus together and are also in scouts together. It's like we're glued together and I just want to pack up move away. Help! I need some ideas to keep the peace and keep and help my son move on. The outdoor play time he shared with his friend was a big part of his life, how can we replace that?",5.34712935109583,6.8837363128491615,4.810167597765363,85.10057155135368,68.55307262569832,8.52445208422862,30.808336914482165,8.950670267944501,2.4202600773528147,1512,61,293,27,26,456,194,358,0.071,0.731,0.198,0.9942,1,0,0,0,0,0,42,11,0,5,1,15,30,4,1,29,1,23,3,2,4,0,61,41,32,0,6,8,11,0,1,8,0,1,1,3,10,13,32,0,2,7,4,0,7,1,10,0,1,13,2,32,20,39,27,8,46,0,4,1,0,70,23,0,5,17,181,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814412247230561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246462791448996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135205556466937,0.0,0.09180818879495688,0.0,0.0,0.0595672793205713,0.0,0.0831498345361519,0.0,0.1025477960171959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099998254942315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991829383818087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782159590480483,0.09558582092484283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714147251248513,0.4529747339234981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106946529240118,0.2458807503504337,0.0,0.10773316221285872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101339816911719,0.0,0.13099507752754572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046078993567332,0.22062083878957434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17371043626073426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965226753731579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902029465398413,0.0477395126618585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522675017518485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799665024183096,0.20771507521714225,0.07183312160523657,0.21736739838762076,0.0,0.0,0.10392296901509608,0.0917006357918638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050747738505127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850298796190927,0.10581781640526088,0.0,0.06774455387659065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823241481369846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259991055033014,0.0,0.0,0.20982263553138944,0.11069413213397587,0.16689929665786007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895774209121901,0.0,0.11039221637761452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289933363193051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708219075304716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491872718300806,0.0,0.0,0.07757625670546033,0.056979475826066474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439597641770627,0.0,0.0,0.05763592459903905,0.07756308006975543,0.07838255569002878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585288370930964
parenting,MissTiffanieAnne,2018/02/23,"Pronlems with a 7 year old EDIT: Damn phone, *Problems. Sorry everyone. 

So I have two wonderful children, a 9 year old daughter who is pretty awesome (minus being a little bossy/bratty sometimes) and a 7 year old son. My son is super book-smart, but he is just acting obnoxious lately.

Once every couple of weeks (at least) he will have a bad day at school, either walking around the classroom when he shouldn't be, doing dumb shit like pretending to fall out of his chair and gasping like it's a surprise (he's a shitty actor) or not listening to the teacher. When we confront him he says he ""didn't hear her"" when she has told him several times. His hearing is fine. 

At home he moves slowly unless I yell, even after I yell, pure defiance. He wants us all to wait for him. He is always the star of the show, we are always having to raise our voices, wait on him, sigh and get irritated. He ruins lunches and dinners out because he won't listen, won't eat when he is hungry, flops out of his chair and infuriates us. He doesn't do any of the things I ask him to. It's a constant battle. 

Just this morning I asked if he was dressed and he said yes. Twenty minutes go by and I tell him to come downstairs and he's in his fucking pajamas. He said ""I forgot these were pajamas"". I don't know if he thinks he is smarter than me or what but these excuses are such bullshit. He has an excuse for everything. ""I forgot"", ""I didn't hear you"", etc and I can't call him on his bullshit because he just persists. He didn't have time to eat this morning because he wasted so much time. It's the end of the school year, he knows what he needs to do, he just doesn't do it. 

And with the shitty acting, idk if he is trying to get attention or what but he over-reacts to loud noises or fast movement like 2 seconds too late, like he's pretending to be a battered child or something. We have never done anything to hurt him. We don't even spank, but I've considered starting lately. So there's that. 

I'm sorry this is a lengthy post. I'm just tired of the behavior not changing. I'm exhausted. I work full time, sometimes all evening, and I can't always be there so maybe its a consistency thing? Idk. I've rewarded good behavior, given extra attention, given harsh punishments for bad behavior, and repeated myself until I've felt dead inside. I know it could be worse but I'm just at my wits end and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading. ",2.2050946919178465,4.286029787321066,3.758323552947452,87.05124366497732,78.32515337423312,6.378963279096649,24.12736729794612,7.423996415210882,1.1473780208055482,1902,66,379,26,46,630,243,489,0.179,0.705,0.116,-0.992,0,0,1,0,0,0,76,7,1,0,4,22,24,7,0,21,1,46,8,1,0,4,69,81,36,1,9,23,3,1,4,0,5,2,12,1,2,18,24,4,4,8,5,0,8,15,13,1,2,14,13,41,10,41,55,8,51,0,2,0,1,74,13,4,9,33,227,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034998182950917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052550555543597,0.0,0.0,0.11183256265466188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676647276971647,0.07319828712525274,0.15373982034229475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731001471521107,0.15037203209742134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396161159397607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698386559728362,0.0708301416596015,0.0,0.0888567477415614,0.0,0.06565051388030131,0.09098114980508593,0.0,0.053028760564569316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414541771581283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827479446619725,0.0,0.0,0.14565509135726232,0.0,0.0917033674102232,0.16292785638061846,0.0,0.0692786808831179,0.07857015994451448,0.07389913830138327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894954650412149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601631522594565,0.08591904702733988,0.0,0.0467307482410188,0.06896699833562034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780229484841088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247906026283394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802428995209667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556724829736222,0.0,0.2782624420754525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606852534296204,0.08241173177274816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260674639161866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739288390632631,0.060445335038998425,0.060969299066525,0.06341751266156725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588460546423775,0.0875676645300527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874947116082752,0.08365307616130452,0.0,0.07867886993838183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224793039039181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643090035235824,0.06538916020123972,0.0,0.16643355384168187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289161260891222,0.0844034778314256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330134484192658,0.1626465979811558,0.18408983134681528,0.058199758776820314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186886764921757,0.07570235781238425,0.0,0.0,0.10925417487623701,0.052686894946263836,0.0,0.0,0.1917858185576624,0.0945063220714978,0.0,0.07857015994451448,0.0,0.0558258385743793,0.0,0.08032254047951677,0.0,0.1978147352014559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048498835840894296,0.0,0.06595647988032523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917024131287728,0.05986127358155206,0.0,0.08379499159030768,0.05841076315887221,0.0,0.0,0.21180256548613552
parenting,maryfittnesspizza,2018/02/23,"Have you ever thought about holding the parent’s of Bullies liable for assault in civil court? My son is getting bullied and threatened physical harm ( punching in the face) by all accounts it’s an attempt to intimidate and cause fear with violence. I would love to hold the parents responsible. It’s not about the money, I’d happily sue for $1 but it would make them take the situation seriously. ",8.251216216216218,8.105723716216218,8.687162162162165,65.73047297297299,61.83783783783784,11.183783783783785,42.82432432432432,10.686352973137794,4.905632432432432,321,18,52,7,4,107,59,74,0.214,0.705,0.081,-0.8294,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,1,3,5,1,1,6,0,4,2,1,2,2,14,9,3,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,4,1,11,6,1,3,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737482434924193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410463090164421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998639524280864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922473949675598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405084970616485,0.0,0.1778773901061013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5917887451250273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995345517990066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003597070064866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115552597654635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785993241760692,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onacloudyday,2018/02/23,"My son, 2, doesn’t like his dad. What can I do? My son is 2 and has never seen his dad much. He goes to his dad’s mom’s house once a week for a sleepover and sometimes his dad is there, sometimes not. Sometimes his dad takes him on Saturday mornings before he has to go to work and occasionally for an odd extra day if I have a test or have to work late. 

Ever since he started going to his dad’s overnight, he hasn’t seemed to like him. He cries and tries to hide when the doorbell rings, even if it’s just UPS. He clings so hard to my neck that it almost hurts. His dad says he always calms down quickly, but I don’t know if that’s 100% true. 

My son is great about going to his dad’s mom, my parents, my brothers, even friends at church. He rarely, if ever, fusses when I leave him at preschool or in the church nursery. He’s done well the few times I’ve left him with one of my friends for a while. He just doesn’t seem to like his dad. Even at his birthday party, we were all there and he fussed hard when his dad tried to hold him. 

I’m just perplexed. His dad has his flaws, but I don’t think he’s a bad guy. His work schedule and our informal custody agreement don’t really allow for him to see our son more, which I think would be the obvious solution. I just don’t know. Any insight/advice?",1.6633636791712445,3.0542969530685937,2.7813247527860625,96.57260241720293,77.66425992779783,5.683817297127612,21.42975984931721,6.046907544983943,-0.06981418929524441,1004,26,241,6,23,321,138,277,0.068,0.7829999999999999,0.149,0.9804,1,0,0,0,0,0,35,3,0,0,3,18,12,0,0,10,0,21,1,1,1,6,38,35,19,0,5,13,19,2,3,2,1,0,2,0,1,6,8,0,1,7,0,0,3,9,2,1,1,3,6,37,10,26,30,5,26,2,1,2,0,59,8,0,9,18,140,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674758990211108,0.0,0.0,0.11963490762886946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941107019389847,0.0,0.0,0.08124570700097918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975492789431427,0.0,0.0,0.10166268598045837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123543217846564,0.07705017288673352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226231414055763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23673228203977914,0.2161402573655096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460901892283935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20369770249746133,0.0,0.0,0.1317193557969828,0.0,0.11829700997868388,0.0,0.0,0.2140486034411853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785575050968807,0.12789827042596452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131842429005142,0.0,0.1347706982747732,0.12650460990016896,0.12980771629710686,0.0,0.0,0.17510535450888387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798505642891395,0.0,0.0,0.08782636941477204,0.0,0.09214490896257392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723479899388898,0.08095796698868646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326605789975097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653743491114251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500968992645276,0.0,0.0,0.09520447773821243,0.2175273841541606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988292638254682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35448542528052795,0.0,0.08456357320024441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982879433990043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310689223187826,0.0,0.0,0.06966564143573815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622285894638366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583399882770187,0.0,0.10742053559399437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26093320471233045,0.0,0.0,0.08487016011541773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BakingCinnamonRolls,2018/02/23,"Easing fears of doctor My daughter just turned 2. She’s just gone for her 2 year check up and was hysterical. She definitely remembers the doctors office.

Is there any way I can maybe ease her fears for her 2.5 year check up? She started sobbing even before the doctor came in. No shots... just the usual look over was horrifying to her.

She is newly 2 so she’s still not quite understanding a whole lot when somethings being explained to her.

We tried to make the whole experience fun. I even caved and gave her some chocolate and yummy treats, a yellow ducky (she loves them), stickers... the doctor and nurse tried giving her stickers and were so sweet throughout the entire appointment.

I just don’t know if it’s something she has to grow out of or if there’s something I can do to help.",2.5374016361511487,5.24424875496689,3.1125282430853147,88.56775613556678,81.31788079470199,5.407245812232177,21.46513439813011,6.794906146795322,0.562116166731593,626,19,119,7,17,195,94,151,0.092,0.747,0.161,0.9075,0,0,3,0,0,0,21,1,0,1,1,12,7,0,2,8,0,11,5,0,1,0,23,23,11,0,2,8,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,4,0,2,3,3,3,0,0,6,3,21,4,14,16,4,15,0,1,2,1,22,5,1,5,6,81,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264529826611244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592698510310435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581793676858008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5577741574710113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996547090197612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326516042078793,0.0,0.30660723667765805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306901918680378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131626350088093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487186114363613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440410903656988,0.0,0.0,0.1158231585489531,0.12295850348876702,0.0,0.09093873172525624,0.0,0.1368675898428156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490398481149794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432907447719812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31464388373014823,0.0,0.0,0.0964286945215512,0.0,0.10879841766678572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18499089506337502,0.14818588122946294,0.0,0.14182670494412808,0.0,0.0,0.150044944045002,0.0,0.0,0.10813796657512333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30420573861805555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754633121802369
parenting,peter_parker23,2018/02/23,"Does anyone else ever feel like a bad mom(or dad)? Some days I think about times where I lost my patience and temper with my child ,and yelled. I rarely ever do. Probably 99% of the time I’m very calm and collected. But those rare times when I’m not, I feel like a jerk.

Had no one else to tell this to.",0.9770833333333327,2.739848375000001,2.0293750000000017,99.51145833333337,80.875,5.516666666666668,15.354166666666664,6.42735559955562,-0.7912208333333335,232,3,57,2,6,73,48,64,0.158,0.701,0.141,-0.2894,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,1,5,7,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,12,8,5,0,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,2,3,6,3,5,6,1,8,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,9,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707895813445485,0.21552454576744776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563029597011262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565590146065015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840753825017821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3514345284088898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.380540372024312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21271472405367264,0.3005427434084558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055290626572955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296177318965534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24635493439269995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425360330912738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22678878700637065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18385185556127745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478135549472728,0.0,0.0,0.3679636931000323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355764931229606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,clkou,2018/02/23,"My 2 year old is cared of the home ground/carpet. Oops - cared should say scared. If anyone can fix that, please do!

My 2 year old daughter started a new daycare class Monday (went from 1 year old to 2 year old). All indications are that she hasn't had any problem with that. Earlier this week I come home and my wife says that she was outside with my two daughters (2 and 8) and that my two year old was scared of leaves. There were even some leaf particles on the rug. She started acting afraid yelling for ""help"". Then, to add to the drama, at dinner there was a stinkbug on the chandelier. We leave our doors open sometimes. She freaked out over that. Either that night or the next night in her crib she said she was ""scared"" and said because of ""spiders"". And she keeps saying that. I've tried to play happy spider songs. She even acts like she likes them at times but she still doesn't want to walk on the carpet.

I asked the daycare if anything happened that might explain it. They showed me ONE toy spider and she said she wasn't afraid of it and that she has been acting normal and fine during the day. My initial thought was this new behavior was somehow connected to the new daycare class but it seems like if that were true that her behavior would also be questionable in the daycare. FWIW, her daycare has hardwood floors, not carpet. No sure if that has an bearing either.

So, my wife and I are trying our best to deal with this but I'm not sure how to handle it. I've tried ignoring it or changing the subject. When she says ""I'm scared"" I've tried to ask why or of what? She said ""spiders outside"". I say ""but we're inside so don't be scared"". Logic doesn't seem to work with a 2 year old who just turned 2.

I ordered Disney's ""Bug Life"", bought a ""Lady Bug"" book, and a stuffed ""Lady Bug"". It's supposed to arrive tomorrow. She wasn't saying ""spider"" when I ordered it or I would have focused on Spiders. I'm trying to frame spiders and insects as our ""friends"" hoping that will help along with downplaying her concerns or changing the subject but I don't like her not wanting to walk on our carpet and constantly saying ""spiders"" or ""I'm scared"".

Any ideas?",2.2756043956043968,4.520412396270398,2.7791192141192163,93.33043706293707,78.88344988344988,5.2045954045954055,23.034798534798533,6.18269132825596,0.3843204129204132,1694,55,348,12,42,523,197,429,0.055,0.8340000000000001,0.111,0.9762,1,0,0,0,1,0,71,5,0,2,2,13,26,0,8,18,0,33,2,0,1,4,69,60,35,0,12,21,4,0,4,1,5,1,13,7,0,26,23,1,2,7,6,1,7,11,11,0,3,19,13,44,15,38,34,5,52,0,0,0,0,52,13,0,17,34,212,70,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052513500615427366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893109849111976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04591556486038455,0.0,0.05403795934680615,0.0,0.12277868313937393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04002970742129395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891297232454352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390280832226034,0.0,0.13893296412899098,0.056565901405237574,0.0,0.07096219087199701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0423494796347165,0.06769930940792585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674424799246427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05073379847408426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806869594268521,0.06990324264729839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802978223728418,0.0,0.13173776817349267,0.06522168142030985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412951983470259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058367429391232364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906274833517987,0.0,0.0,0.04638221239317776,0.12832539918467611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966181153107218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026343268779267,0.0698371000232984,0.12324718076648053,0.06433925744197926,0.0,0.0,0.4134358639688153,0.0,0.044497340444589084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720821310616803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283400110928221,0.0,0.0,0.07356154251035878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24985563147930104,0.36554462430462337,0.3944619151393416,0.0,0.0,0.11956068598018585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649458776287243,0.0,0.09295821636499464,0.0,0.052441375981595234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377985549206735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213189009433823,0.0382906819373307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22291631829843886,0.07142632842803427,0.12829331691070098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746364195144725,0.0,0.052673729721974455,0.0,0.0,0.06087353154151792,0.059253829887115625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780601619687736,0.0,0.0,0.0932952382257889,0.0,0.0,0.2537225555945441
parenting,iheartnjdevils,2018/02/23,"Need advice on how to respond to the never ending questions that are only asked in hopes of getting a reaction Sometimes, I cant believe how far a conversation hasn’t gone with my 5 year old because he’s a master at disguising his attention illiciting techniques. I can usually identify why he starts using them (bored, tired, hungry) but I can’t always address that issue right away to curb the behavior. Here’s an example exchange:

>Me: Time to go to school

>Son: What time is it?

>Me: 8:30

>Son: Can I stay home?

>Me: Sorry bud, I know you’d much rather stay home. I will miss you too.

>Son: What if it snowed?

>Me: Well if the school closed-

>Son: They didn’t, but it’s still snowing. Then would I have to go to school?

>Me: Our car handles the snow pretty well so I’m guessing yes.

>Son: Yes or no?

>Me: Yes

>Son: What if the car wasn’t good in the snow?

>Me: But it is, so we don’t have to worry about that.

>Son: I know, I know, but what if we had a different car.

>Me: Well, we don’t. But if we did, it would depend on how comfortable I felt driving.

>Son: What if you didn’t feel comfortable driving? Then would I have to go?

>Me: Of course not, I wouldn’t put either of us in danger.

>Son: What if you did?

>Me: Did What?

>Son: Put us in danger. 

>Me: Huh? I just wouldn’t. 

>Son: But what if you did put us in danger?

And then it’s usually when I don’t even know how to respond, that I’ve realized he’s trapped me into the game of questions all over again. He will usually have that sly look on his face and if he were an adult, I’d assume he’d be thinking, “Sucka! She fell for it AGAIN!” Obviously, 5 year olds don’t think this way and I just can’t for the life of me figure out how to respond that would put an end to the conversation. If I repeat my answer, he keeps asking saying, “I know but what if...” I’m not proud but more often than not it ends with me getting flustered and saying, “We are not doing this right now.” 

I thought maybe it was anxiety based on thought patterns of his questions and just tried reassurance. But it honestly seems like it’s a “fun thing to do to mommy”. And I remember pestering my mom, or setting up booby traps to annoy her but I’d just love a way to end it without me ending up all flustered and not killing his sense of curiosity at the same time. 


**Note:** I really don’t understand the downvotes here. Is my kid getting down voted or am I because I’m a mother frustrated about one of my kids quirks? ",0.2304477225672877,2.6296534543650765,2.1257591442374064,92.83180124223604,91.8373015873016,4.985231193926847,18.812284334023463,6.635868238458433,0.20940203588681872,1927,58,405,26,69,635,218,504,0.096,0.7809999999999999,0.123,0.9594,2,1,0,0,0,0,133,9,5,2,2,27,21,6,0,21,4,44,4,1,7,4,99,78,42,1,20,36,2,2,1,1,8,2,2,3,3,30,17,0,2,22,1,1,14,22,8,3,1,14,5,53,13,50,53,6,67,0,1,1,1,50,22,0,23,27,269,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334337245858566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062452194121104164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741725716694813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033353397647988,0.0,0.07051711919309557,0.0,0.0,0.09150628045257513,0.0,0.0,0.08456185393296954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841702972035637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323845062769403,0.0,0.0,0.049573454290498406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037950319338231064,0.0,0.07206505667885081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176402133005576,0.0,0.12796732228696167,0.06295299801078945,0.0,0.0,0.08268210243015738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057358568485724,0.07454705337741961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833844893114084,0.0,0.06671278292092671,0.0830377977323999,0.0,0.2062427179750643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053013924016382864,0.03666832935910717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302772239079911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774052513271922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540334459624387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790410228859287,0.0,0.0,0.05517443340007213,0.05565270717127625,0.057887433769477074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575162571109136,0.0,0.05085955377168557,0.05708309495354918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635843322557813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018060586954393,0.2522380341916821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048082479479186035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502325786103114,0.1281939852005079,0.0,0.11937430282360895,0.0,0.22788053931830815,0.0,0.06832771438509994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423181526142372,0.08401849483274593,0.05312467392992622,0.15999836731556766,0.05993942458018187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049863543576188066,0.09618507613180396,0.0,0.1191713770297933,0.13129640855982835,0.08626526380663475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050957762256392425,0.0,0.0,0.07813542941856115,0.27084759955132715,0.06482385946809999,0.2479891105062073,0.0,0.0,0.1191511352974868,0.0,0.0,0.20245174290219647,0.0,0.06772592063282573,0.0,0.0,0.07235083006832453,0.0,0.0,0.07622251030484818,0.0,0.2132691139640332,0.0,0.0,0.09666657100866023
parenting,Reneeisafish,2018/02/23,"Son (3) and power struggles My (34F) son (3m almost 4) is very intense. He has always been a high needs type of baby and child. We hear about his behavior at school at least once a week. 
Things were bad at the beginning of the year and I took the time to really look into why. We saw a therapist and I've been really working on connecting with him more and telling him how important he is in our family. I show him plenty of affection and he sleeps with me every night. I work on communicating with him, even when he is ""angry"" I try to bring him around by talking about toys. 
Honestly he is a lot of work. He wants what he wants when he wants it and it's hard to distract him. 
We live in MI and he's got to come with me to drop his sister off. He doesn't like being cold so he will scream and not want to get out of the car. He doesn't want to brush his teeth. He doesn't want to wear pull ups to bed (then wets the bed). 
I try to give him choices. Do you want to use this tooth brush or that one, but he sees through it! 
I've resorted to basically threatening to take a toy away from him if he doesn't do it. I will say ""I'm going to take away your batman if you don't brush your teeth, 1...2.."" and that works like a charm. I hate to do it though. 
When I say no to candy or YouTube, he will scream and cry for like 5 minutes like I'm killing him. But he does usually get over it after awhile. 
Sometimes I help him through it, sometimes I try to give him space. 

Any advice on how to diffuse a power struggle with a 4 year old boy? He does it with his teacher too! I love him so much, just trying to find a way to meet his needs and maintain boundaries. ",1.7060744466800806,2.8342594535211276,3.2819668008048346,94.11441901408449,77.0,6.761569416498995,21.41096579476861,7.310402129719878,0.34877263581488904,1266,31,309,15,28,419,181,355,0.149,0.797,0.054000000000000006,-0.983,2,0,0,0,0,0,47,4,4,0,6,14,15,2,3,14,0,20,6,5,4,0,49,50,27,1,11,8,3,2,4,0,3,0,5,2,2,13,25,0,0,1,3,0,6,7,8,0,1,6,14,39,7,55,40,4,39,0,0,3,1,58,18,0,6,17,178,52,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621597581189427,0.0,0.0,0.0985955203728738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192831332304619,0.0,0.0,0.0669575704833039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765209976598734,0.0,0.0,0.1850166745042579,0.0,0.08221169908041967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481633774521154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815593862566247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232960715302667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650332554808541,0.0,0.08295852385223533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282125794695398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999253001136084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288471462388676,0.1889075408521073,0.0559582521371312,0.0,0.07874909615352478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820265698219103,0.09721088982378856,0.0,0.0,0.11097388647935487,0.0,0.06599703669871679,0.10403056188434537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089336700818465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924143366966446,0.0,0.08694379415672808,0.0,0.08268332379256475,0.0,0.0,0.08370891396846092,0.08886584444061456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238093602055072,0.1460167250989595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239996402733053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331935849228632,0.1048588699149316,0.06672043337335512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261546211324703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566019484517659,0.0,0.09964885135069036,0.07846150601416597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098533158226419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947629704565096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20586782635895745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806241586085533,0.07914006620335573,0.08606017168787687,0.0,0.0,0.11432202914115885,0.06541381097972986,0.0,0.0967384643152946,0.0,0.05741401323077655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939496056240476,0.26739707522763995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503959779240039,0.1084420375840211,0.08124150312196468,0.4065282775361039,0.07815459234722381,0.07898031746003978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884668543331244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867261806337601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681266413321635
parenting,happytrails1,2018/02/23,"Unprofessional experience at the dentist office...trust your gut! I usually trust the professionals I choose to treat my kids. As long as I know what to expect, I let them do what they are trained to do and not interfere. But when it’s my kid and I’m not communicated with, all trust goes out the window. 


I’ve never been completely shut out of a dentist consultation, especially for a seven year old. I understand if there’s a major medical procedure needing to be done and for safety not be in the room. However, don’t take my kid back without me for fifteen minutes before I have to ask what’s going on. That is fifteen minutes too long. 


I made an appointment for the dentist to look at one of his front teeth, which is loose but moved sideways. I wanted to be sure it wasn’t impacting the other tooth or had any issues, so when I said to the receptionist on the phone “possible extraction”, that doesn’t mean that I just wanted them to take it out. 


The office recently changed owners and this was the first time we’ve been since then. The office staff was the same but the medical staff had changed. 


I was really confused when they called him back and asked me to stay in the waiting room, and was told because the doctor usually only prefers the patient in the treatment room. I figured they would come talk to me in the front while my son got acquainted with the treatment room. I know before he had his first cleaning, they showed him all of the equipment and tools and let him push the button to let the chair go up and down. So I waited a moment. 


After ten or fifteen minutes I asked at the check-in desk what was going on, because I haven’t talked to the doctor and they have my son back there and I don’t know what they are doing. I started getting upset and said “he’s only seven. I don’t know if he’s scared or what and I haven’t even talked to the doctor about what I wanted him to look at. I don’t understand why I can not go back there.” 


The staff got up immediately and let me go back, which was a little too late because I had already started opening the door to the treatment area. 


He’s up on the chair and I guess they were just going to pull the tooth without even talking to me first? He had already had X-rays done and the doctor and assistant were looking at them while he’s laying there with the sunglasses and gauze in his mouth. 


I freaked the fuck out. I said “what are you doing? Did you pull his tooth without talking to me?” The dentist said “on the appointment notes it said extraction so..” I said, “POSSIBLE extraction! I don’t want it done unless it needed to be and wanted to make sure the tooth was not causing an issue.” Thank god for his face he hadn’t pulled it yet. 


He finally said it should come out on it’s own, it’s not impacting the other teeth. I said “so were you going to tell me that or just pull it? Especially since he’s only SEVEN YEARS OLD AND CAN NOT GIVE HIS CONSENT TO TREATMENT. You already took X-rays and started treatment without talking to me!”


Were they going to tell me any of this before they just took it out? I told them it was really unprofessional to not even consult a parent, and I have never not been allowed back to sit in the room with my kid, even when my older daughter had a crown placed on a molar. That is not ok with me. None of this was ok. I was pissed and on the verge of tears I was shaking with anger and said I don’t want you to touch him. We are leaving. 

I stopped at the check out desk and they told me there was no charge. You’re goddamn right I wasn’t going to give this fucker a penny. 

I just don’t get it, and the more I think about it, I just get angrier. What if I hadn’t trusted my gut? How many other parents who maybe don’t question medical professionals’ authority wouldn’t have said something? Is this a common practice for this doctor? He’s kind of young but that doesn’t excuse the fact he was initiating treatment on a seven year old before he even saw me or talked to me. No one asked me anything from the moment we walked in except if my insurance and address was still correct on our chart. 


Trust your gut. Demand that you are involved in your child’s health care. Don’t take no for an answer. You are your child’s advocate. 
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parenting,okaynownina,2018/02/23,"My child treats gay people like unicorns This all started a couple weeks ago. Every time my 8 year old would turn on the TV or flip through the channels, something about homosexuals would be on the air. She’s never personally met any gay people and I hadn’t felt it was something to teach her about until recently.  
  

So anyways, every time something “gay” came up on TV, she’d ask me to explain the “gayness” to her lol. Me and my husband laughed about this at first, but you’ll soon see how it became a big deal. So I would tell her “those are just two men/women that love each other.” But she gets that now and still asks EVERY single time. I️t’s like she’s seeking them out purposely.   
  


She puts on this little satisfied smirk every time so one day I asked her, “are you laughing at them or does this make you uncomfortable or something? Why are you smirking?” And she goes, “it’s interesting, I’m not laughing. I like them. I find them interesting.”   

  

So this turned into “Are they gay?” every time she saw two people of the same gender together on television or YouTube. Sometimes even in public. I always tell her “we wouldn’t know, we’d have to ask them.” Then she’d tell me her guess and I’d make a neutral sort of noise as my reply.  

*****
  

Today she brought home a friend from school. I open the door and she runs in super excited which she sometimes does if she gets a good grade or something. I figure nothing’s out of the ordinary. My husband comes in next, he’d already texted that she was having company. Blah. This little boy trails towards me slowly. I figure he’s shy and speak to him. I say, “It’s okay, we don’t bite. Welcome. What’s your name?”  
  


So we’re in the house now and he’s introduced himself, but he insists on keeping his backpack and jacket on. The kid looks like he’s about to shit a brick okay. I ask if he wants me to fix him something to eat while Meghan’s upstairs. Quickly, he blurts out “I’m not hungry, we ate at school.” At this point he’s looking around uneasily. I don’t want to bombard him with any more questions.  
  
  

My daughter finally runs back downstairs going at least 20 mph.  
  

I shit you not, as soon as her foot hit that last stair she goes “This is Keith. He’s gay.”     
I hear my husband let out a yip in the distance and know he’s somewhere stifling laughter. I had to deal with this all on my own. The only thing I could utter at first was, “Meghan!”   
  
The kid’s standing off to the side silently playing with his backpack strap. Probably doesn’t even know what the word means. My daughter’s bright, proud smile had... gotten larger.  I say “Meghan you don’t just say that about people.” 
She insists, “But he is! Honest! Ask him! Please ask him! Just ask him!”  
  

I️t wasn’t even a little funny to me anymore at this point because I realized my daughter had probably pestered this kid all day to come to the house. My gut told me to just take this kid home, forget whatever they had planned. So I asked him, “Keith, would you like to stay for dinner?”  
  

“No thank you,” the kid says. 
“Well I’ll take you home. Is that okay with you?”
And that’s the first time I saw him look even a little bit pleasant. He’d been in the house no less than 5 minutes and I couldn’t bear to imagine what the evening would be like.  
  

Meghan begged and pleaded but I️ took him anyway. I didn’t even let her come along for the ride. My husband texted the address before I could even ask (obviously was eavesdropping while he wasn’t helping). I drop the kid off, dreaded meeting his mother but surprisingly everything went smoothly. I gave a BS excuse about my husband giving the OK not knowing we had to leave this house to do something.  
  

Anyways, it’s hours later. I haven’t talked to my daughter yet. Father claims he did already. But we need to have a talk about sensitivity and I have no idea how to go about it. My imagination is running crazy about what she’s doing at school. This is the first time I felt like a bad parent. I probably did a million things wrong today.  
  
Am I even supposed to punish her? And is this not the media’s fault? Why am I️ even dealing with this... What if she finds out about transgenders next? Or starts questioning obesity? Is there one video that just sums up different people in this world? 
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parenting,six_cylinder_thrum,2018/02/24,"Next step after my baby girls suffered concussions. A month ago the oldest one (11 months) had a concussion from playing in a laundry basket I put them in while I was doing laundry. I left for a split second and I came back to her crying on the floor and a bloody forehead. It's apparently good to hear them cry after a concey.

So a few hours ago when I was pushing them in a stroller to go to the park a diesel garbage truck was going by so I plugged my ears and stepped a couple feet back, but after it passed and I was moving towards the stroller my eight month old baby stood up, tipped over then landed on their head. They looked confused and dehydrated after I picked them up and they were just silent. Should I take her to emergency? Thanks for any advice on what I should do. ",3.6986538461538463,5.178815916666668,4.078717948717948,88.9746153846154,72.52564102564101,6.482051282051282,24.538461538461537,6.816661863887847,0.7741769230769235,617,18,126,5,12,193,98,156,0.098,0.853,0.049,-0.743,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,7,0,7,5,0,1,14,0,10,4,4,1,0,13,18,12,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,2,0,3,8,3,22,3,23,8,1,40,0,1,1,0,11,13,0,1,18,91,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689906278469325,0.3065938793847481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760211107976905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659535420807861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19779221019337667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913499079616557,0.3799231846789741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965665282106248,0.14505014293823426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17748177657097533,0.0,0.1949109448042627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030669148084926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878949920492356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522231554865567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4141065425065302,0.1838031320532333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839189300755132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814667794305668,0.0,0.11718561112996452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384800302082393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002601909778913,0.0,0.0,0.1592158291131016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bullsheeter,2018/02/24,"Handling a moderately autistic homeless friend.. that doesn't know he's autistic. I have no doubt in my mind he has autism or at the very least on the Asperger's spectrum, though he has never had an official diagnosis. Signs I (and other friends) have noticed:

* His communication skills are EXCELLENT but he does not make eye contact at all. This has killed every single interview I set up for him.
* Hand flapping, or high pitched screeching/laughing when something excites him.
* Rudely called ""tarding out"" aka pacing rapidly back and forth when he gets near diesel engines? He's very good with memorizing the interior functions of cars, its honestly a little obsessive. 
* He carries these ear buds around his neck 24/7. They're very dirty, don't work, and noticeable have been chewed on but if you ask him to remove them or take them off he FLIPS out. 
* This is hard to explain... his purchases don't match the expected maturity/age level? I gave him $5.00 while we were at the Dollar Tree. He promptly spent it at McDonalds and complained about wanting a snack later. I know being homeless and hungry, but he didn't consider purchasing deodorant/soap, water, or a few meals while we were at the store. He only eats things children eat. 
* He does not brush his teeth. He has a toothbrush, toothpaste, and available bathrooms but he simply doesn't do it. His teeth are blackened and rotting out of his mouth but he won't visit the dentist though I've offered to pay. 
* He is 21 can read fluently but cannot write, and his math is still at a kindergarten level. On the opposite end, he is extremely good with counting change. 
* He only eats McDonalds or chicken nuggets from anywhere else. He doesn't like the taste of water, he only drinks energy drinks or sodas. Its absurd. 

He has been homeless since he was 17. He has been institutionalized 3 times for suicidal attempts and public outbursts, along with an arrest for a misdemeanor charge. Its bizarre because he is a very handsome man and approached by girls often, then he says something or acts in a bizarre manner and it puts them off. 

I wanted to get him out of his homeless situation because I thought he was simply quirky, and with some guidance he would be the next underdog. Now with this information and learning about his personality I have no idea what to do, I'm only 19. I don't know where to get the resources to help this man. He means well and he is kind but I don't know where to begin.

 I've been talking to him for too long that I can't abandon him or put him off to someone else. Please help me, help him. ",3.6001965007912773,6.145339456611572,4.05385616317918,84.34009759099703,75.92148760330578,6.6811324072445935,28.06646738174784,7.7686606220802235,1.8774447511869168,2043,86,372,31,47,641,261,484,0.093,0.8,0.108,0.8977,0,0,4,0,0,0,73,2,1,3,4,15,17,2,2,22,0,44,20,7,1,2,70,63,37,2,5,18,0,2,1,3,2,1,2,0,5,16,27,12,1,11,3,6,7,16,6,1,0,13,7,37,11,49,46,5,51,0,1,1,0,78,28,0,12,16,223,53,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870746314163303,0.09144229131626644,0.0,0.0,0.07521243910094476,0.0,0.11925223739914885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987838062599076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347356930758143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119426762202414,0.0,0.0,0.19163971716826653,0.0,0.3002624708908229,0.16342102863067218,0.0,0.0866336077792595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241197765440512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114072446539267,0.0,0.15331033645800227,0.0,0.0,0.1640824176579138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762156145910767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668670780688136,0.10334518917740927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041938184277532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821599478539387,0.1018575664681822,0.2150226668085792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04778666880716135,0.09803468701684794,0.0,0.08656174895291624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529117986743327,0.0,0.0,0.1065474281446558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987636139788831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543969616252633,0.0,0.10402562206607903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227223259700281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975658832251109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540685642985184,0.0,0.1073697006467678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19665889369584333,0.0,0.0,0.09783983348195913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778511283199191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091222530794083,0.10994631912664392,0.0,0.0,0.08287694572847751,0.15060301235839185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811387867861999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699194424210014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354347655170615,0.0786186767153205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498285261624408,0.0,0.19220226660912806,0.07765288499572304,0.05703575902401961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228250759053125,0.11538571244818314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794596096587662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120929379544902,0.0,0.0,0.06948380723858094,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aaronkellysbones,2018/02/24,"4 month old losing voice Hi everyone,
Im a Ftm and my son just turned 4 months old!!
Last sunday he woke up from his nap with a very hoarse voice? Its been going on for almost a week now with no other symptoms. I have been monitoring his temperature he never had a fever or cough or anything... Just hoarse.
The day it started he spit up a tiny tiny amount of brown liquid that smelled acidic then he took about a 20 min nap and woke up hoarse?
He is drooling alot and biting but his gums are smooth and pink so im not sure if he’s teething or not....Dr did not seem very concerned.. Does anyone have/had a similar issue?? ",1.1923737980769218,3.2896154609375046,2.3546875000000007,95.71771634615385,81.890625,5.18846153846154,18.439903846153847,6.297961479604792,-0.2940355769230769,481,11,109,4,13,153,89,128,0.066,0.934,0.0,-0.7771,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,9,0,7,6,3,0,2,20,14,11,0,1,9,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,1,0,0,7,8,5,1,10,7,2,19,0,1,2,0,11,4,0,7,13,53,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863031051288975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300911178153918,0.0,0.15310404123883484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998744132480002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628143996645765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777961158913894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573701615759767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40193380513527815,0.19418880599419586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165631845638594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20814337134121566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970081127210829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434939266622922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904582527531239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693737552095004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168778728758426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535077498179605,0.1933781266363957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670939978969396,0.0,0.2023699574404943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070229608753143,0.0,0.0,0.14923881258726812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mysonhashie,2018/02/24,"My newborn son has brain damage and I'm overwhelmed My newborn son was born last week on 2/15.  My wife had a perfectly normal 38 week pregnancy until that day.  She was experiencing constant cramping.  When we got to the hospital, the nurse knew something was wrong immediately and my wife had an emergency c-section in a couple of minutes.  My wife had a placental abruption.   I was told our son was gray and not breathing when he came out.  The doctor tried to resuscitate him 3 times.  On the 3rd time he was able to get a heart rate.  

The doctor immediately suggested a form of treatment called brain cooling.  I agreed immediately.  My son had to be transported to another hospital which supports the treatment.  My son is currently still there.

The past week has been a roller coaster of emotions.  Each day seemed to have a glimmer of hope and a crushing detail which left us hopeless and defeated.

Here is a brief timeline of our son:

1) Made it to new hospital safely

2) Experienced a seizure shortly after.  He was given one dose phenobarbital 

3) Mommy is stable at other hospital.  The doctor believed that if we arrived 15 minutes later, my wife may not have survived.  The doctor was also shocked that my wife didn't need a blood transfusion and almost broken down telling her.

4) The brain cooling treatment last for 72 hours

5) After 72 hours, they warm up our baby over several hours and see how he responds

6) There was no complication after he was warmed up and he had no additional seizures during the 72 hours.  They monitored his brain waves during the entire cooling process.

7) They were able to remove his breathing tube and he pooped!  This was when we started feeling really hopeful that maybe everything would be ok.

8) They tested his feeding reflexes.  He had a very slow gag reflex and no rooting.  The specialist informed us that he would get treatment 2 times a day to help him root.  This includes feeding him with a pacifier with some of mommy's breast milk.  They are also given his throat electric stimulation to help exercise the muscles.  This totally crushed us and made us realize that he will be at the hospital for a significant amount of time and there will be a long road ahead of us for future developmental events.

9) The doctors performed an MRI on our baby's brain when he was 1 week old.  The results came back as moderate Infant Hypoxic Ischemic Encephalopathy (HIE).  My wife and I were crushed.  The doctor voice cracked as he was speaking.  He could see the pain in our face.

10) There was an instance where our son may have experienced another seizure.  I was there.  They told me that they wanted to prescribe phenobarbital for a year.  I really didn't feel comfortable about this because it wasn't a confirmed seizure.  I let the doctor know that I wasn't comfortable with starting him until he has at least one more confirmed seizure.  When I look at my son's eyes, he looks completely aware and normal.  I did not want to sedate him until we really had to.  The doctor was open with my suggestion and agreed.

He cannot be released from the hospital until he can breathe on his own and feed on his own.  He is still getting some assistance with breathing and he is far from feeding on his own.

I have been trying to get as much skin to skin between my wife and I and 4 people which I can allow visitation rights.  My brother, sister, and I are not 100% healthy.  This only added to the frustration.  It is good my wife is not sick and can visit our son.

Zooming out, I am trying to figure out what we can do.  My wife and I are haunted with guilt.  I was very open to my wife about this.  When I am alone, I have haunting thoughts of guilt.  She told me that she feels the same way.  We are going to try to talk to a social worker to find out how to help with this.  

We also have a 3 year old daughter.  She is an absolute angel and I don't not know how I could handle it without her.  At night, she will sometimes crawl on me and sleep on my chest or face.  It makes the pain go away.  I do not want her life to be negatively affected by our son's needs.  But I am starting to realize that might not be possible.  I am trying to figure out ways to minimize the effect.

As I am reading more about HIE.  It has a lot of information such as the potential burden on time and money.  They even have a life plan calculator to try to estimate the financial burden.  This left me overwhelmed.  

I am trying to deal with the day-by-day status of our son and getting him as much skin to skin as possible, making sure my daughter feels loved and still gets quality time, making sure my wife is ok emotionally, the long term effects on our family financially and time wise.

If anyone can provide any advice, or positive energy, I would really appreciate it.  Thank you.",3.96668211042525,6.018140026344677,4.8913347684149,81.06675880650636,72.99560922063667,7.937736467703536,28.516130411849407,8.691484462538607,2.3123152265955778,3768,152,698,73,77,1225,371,911,0.085,0.831,0.083,-0.4112,1,1,1,0,0,1,99,22,1,8,9,28,34,1,4,56,5,91,46,23,16,4,127,139,56,0,16,14,26,10,0,0,9,17,2,0,3,30,54,5,1,18,3,1,9,19,14,0,2,45,24,102,20,104,75,17,106,1,5,6,2,120,36,0,14,59,470,132,11,0.10068565692458528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04919442932735128,0.0,0.0,0.05041107069848125,0.052139987684254915,0.0,0.12077742519879743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03423484968350586,0.10557769022957793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035200876189899595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04729874452489887,0.03871052761015429,0.0,0.0306885209653734,0.0,0.0,0.05671912822721995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809962296845457,0.05140565652565505,0.11515756855666714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278349783032053,0.05440271295027404,0.0,0.08038930418781168,0.05570338215762605,0.0,0.16233479799946046,0.05190124559844398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122241451156045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132578121212314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0332509634048212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045244888097590315,0.0,0.04745873827725379,0.0,0.1018193868131284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460124331772993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781230028757287,0.0,0.057221979132116185,0.04222517601485254,0.04026375882619753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965649411908529,0.1012312102109848,0.0,0.0,0.10000357567436767,0.19831018097922845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533420388834295,0.08207224872915356,0.0,0.0,0.10939526085081806,0.05147895293367658,0.07111725711446264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910363798540917,0.08455059348597274,0.0,0.0,0.04279967248205895,0.045436368202470316,0.09527120305938,0.10081268675114982,0.0,0.050576137726423914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053405785387279116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401554287973737,0.07465713882625355,0.0,0.04862141743490244,0.0,0.047243334195134636,0.09865056619696436,0.0,0.0,0.10565265979182056,0.0,0.06822720689738122,0.03828798958030637,0.1071366378343969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048057926177034915,0.03490137850250369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350794988452527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05035645194663952,0.0,0.129003620058965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299250043825646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023343275294781,0.04583022028766499,0.0,0.05687306664597835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037918545093701,0.051318173795426116,0.0,0.038756368878340934,0.04979034461199803,0.0,0.10689873929618043,0.0,0.1206115435214085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712844514950152,0.09489504008561672,0.0,0.0,0.040463658565541454,0.04400185102602895,0.04634891267576463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03996658245055257,0.2054871568586557,0.0,0.0,0.1443141899707153,0.0,0.23925633155092646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027811204557983,0.0,0.0,0.08307621161780526,0.08908051369430882,0.0799195879351703,0.1615279214393991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852869014962703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072863027999024,0.05504197997390624,0.0,0.06483826195050076
parenting,ValentinoMeow,2018/02/24,"Rant about ""pet parents"" A little tired of hearing about pet stories when I talk about my kid to my friends that don't have human babies 

Me: ""I had to wake up three times last night because my baby is sleep-regressing. OMG. So. Tired.""
Them: ""oh yeah totally get it. My rescue dog has separation anxiety."" 
Me: **Face-palm in my head but out loud** ""Yeah that's comparable and very difficult. Sorry you have to go through that.""

Disclaimer: I also have two rescue cats, I understand attachment to your fur babies but please don't compare my sleep regressing, cluster-feeding baby to your distressed barky poodle.

Rant over. Sorry. Not sorry. ",1.4268808777429456,3.8306239137931035,2.538777429467085,86.25214733542322,102.9655172413793,5.212539184952979,22.514106583072106,6.7829847944221076,1.3479793103448277,498,20,85,9,22,158,82,116,0.138,0.706,0.156,0.341,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,0,3,1,0,6,3,0,1,1,2,8,5,3,0,1,7,12,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,1,2,16,1,14,11,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,4,53,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640153452243764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048249056430195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397542450530592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177883559307407,0.0,0.08911367290000402,0.0,0.09693656429400273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504988058955032,0.0,0.19224023036493726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903402042977805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095189861644172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006459658084052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939331059119816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18723020124794704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413782762227669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5728038746625137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709445564799444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994583814248352,0.39208095356933015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661815619326711,0.1775651770024631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073477798099596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jadenlost,2018/02/24,"Fake baby for school My 13 yr old has one of those ""real live baby"" dolls for the weekend. Yesterday, he did pretty well. He managed  to still do some of the things he likes to do, mainly because the baby slept most of the day. He tells me "" I got this. No problem!""

Skip to this morning when I wake up and come down stairs. He tells me  "" it didn't sleep all night! I couldn't put it down without it crying!"" He is nearly in tears...lol

I tell him that I will look after it while he eats something. He wandered around the kitchen in a daze for 10 mins while I am ""burping"" the baby. It finally makes the happy baby noise and falls asleep. He heard it from the kitchen, comes running into the living room and says "" screw food! I am sleeping while I can""!

Welcome to "" Parenthood"" kid....",0.8677564102564084,3.2116338525641046,2.0105128205128224,96.08448717948721,85.47435897435899,4.235897435897436,19.56410256410256,5.46131890053228,-0.30253589743589737,595,17,127,3,18,188,103,156,0.054000000000000006,0.846,0.1,0.8507,1,0,1,0,0,0,35,0,0,0,0,4,8,1,0,10,0,11,11,5,1,1,15,18,7,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,3,1,11,7,4,0,0,1,0,5,4,4,1,1,5,3,12,4,21,11,4,28,0,0,1,1,17,10,1,2,14,80,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367560647443606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838478356477333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27805469114871245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772846300013438,0.1040863063047508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514719195492705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768001351451876,0.0,0.0,0.1951592556048388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908218033998292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180778580139752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884935612801558,0.0,0.28502916388783955,0.0,0.1355309995189491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773229484064936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514581043156513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935671286324602,0.0,0.10936530619057463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419655326581,0.0,0.15443304480304465,0.0,0.16224637050282634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18370263768572068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283476378715158,0.0,0.16334017314491076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230227525368593,0.0,0.0,0.12424961659619994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889011082413185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42319855634586295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722354614901956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511332489407078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557884599391966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,matunascraft,2018/02/24,"How bad is it? My son (6) had been arguing with a girl (6) at the babysitter's house. He wrote her a note titled ""Open at home"" but it was seen by the babysitter and opened, and it said ""I hate you"" inside.

My parents, sister, brother, sister in law and wife were all in the same place when I got the text from the babysitter. When I told my wife, others overheard and so we repeated the story. Everyone got a look of abstract horror on their faces at the end of the story.

So look, I understand this is behavior that needs to be addressed. He needs to know that it's not okay to tell someone he hates them. I think we should also discuss alternatives to use instead.

But based on everyone's reaction, I'd like to know what you think. How bad is it for a 6 year old to tell another 6 year old ""I hate you""?",2.5572447552447564,3.890791624242425,3.9490909090909128,89.35594405594408,75.18181818181819,7.258741258741258,24.813519813519807,7.882392219407189,1.1794568764568765,618,20,136,9,13,204,97,165,0.173,0.809,0.019,-0.982,1,0,0,0,0,0,28,2,3,2,0,8,8,4,0,12,1,9,1,1,3,1,27,28,13,0,3,3,7,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,10,9,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,10,4,17,2,19,16,2,18,0,0,3,0,26,10,0,0,9,84,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720889052930175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368737886347586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447532124216304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298140983714671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28010045861237404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344446651080777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341111636093917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470177903535652,0.0,0.0,0.16911764912399924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610978368366334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160481347127598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24615729072977996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21735387380996346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307593021178076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274435537537293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531304230172962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941796402344367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418501619990226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25621053594282905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18782733098331694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005022930618702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258052239635356,0.0,0.12658608796281756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18876757973332187
parenting,DuhBuurz51,2018/02/24,"Adventures in potty training Toddler comes up to me and says ""paw-ee"" (potty). I get her pull up off and plop her on her elmo potty. We sit there for 20 minutes or so with no luck so I strap her pull up back on, her infant sister start crying so I run in the other room to help her. Within seconds my daughter has removed her pull up and promptly urinated on the floor so I yell ""bella!"" She smiles, and runs away, slipping in it, falling hard on her butt and begins to cry. Now I have a screeching two month old smelling of poop and a screeching two year old who is now covered in her own piss. It's only 8:30 am.",1.8476091624910536,3.489192787401578,3.3143020758768778,91.86439513242664,77.81889763779527,5.2481030780243385,23.356478167501788,5.565023196281405,0.2914629921259846,472,15,101,2,11,155,85,127,0.109,0.805,0.085,-0.2975,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,0,0,8,3,1,0,4,0,4,4,4,0,0,11,8,11,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,9,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,1,0,3,0,4,18,2,21,8,1,35,0,0,0,1,17,17,2,2,9,71,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247859486606388,0.17389803039697366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948111575789165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4968378537161987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815583462979352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258905495134785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158587906350762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051351263074294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4746199697670795,0.0,0.0,0.17199987669836336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798462870953462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007256391797905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44183808542116304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563539615251167
parenting,Foundation51,2018/02/24,"Why is it so hard? Raising babies, toddlers and pre teens is a breeze compared to raising teen girls. Its like they know just how to cut you emotionally. No matter how I say something it’s taken the wrong way. Good god they are lazy as fuck and rude. What happened to my sweet kids?!? I’ve tried taking the phone, computer not allowing them to go out. But it doesn’t seem to sink in. Bad behavior comes back. I’m depressed over it because all I do is run around and drive them to whatever place they need to go to. ",1.0640064102564109,3.4566276442307715,2.1996153846153845,94.728717948718,85.05769230769229,5.38974358974359,21.166666666666664,6.816661863887847,0.3901243589743593,401,13,87,5,12,127,80,104,0.215,0.6890000000000001,0.096,-0.936,0,0,1,0,0,0,14,0,1,5,0,6,9,3,0,3,0,6,1,0,3,1,17,17,8,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,5,3,6,0,0,1,3,9,3,13,16,1,12,0,1,0,1,10,5,1,1,2,49,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256986306736186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18361143332559304,0.199376052173496,0.14556152212238635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569270272485687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20566573922408074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686017280405795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075349510316686,0.0,0.0,0.27141478700535715,0.2002820826569877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111573707027128,0.0,0.2139050492451216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123035405495415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665861203839202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705654138747035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494801919596605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989194113631144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173814968731784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838288672247632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17953709921948652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211978896542356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18953694249982486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546691758634626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610746342149179,0.0,0.0
parenting,VandrandeKvinna,2018/02/24,"What do you do with a kid that's not challenged in school? I am looking for an honest answer as to whether I am ""just being a mom"" or if this evaluation report for my 3rd-grade son doesn't make sense. What should I do?

Let's start at the beginning: I referred my son for gifted testing at his public school in September of 2017. He has been reading above grade level since Kindergarten and his ""report cards"" have been showing ""exceeds standard/requirement"" in reading and math throughout 1st and 2nd grade. I didn’t feel he was really being challenged in the classroom. His teacher, a 25-year veteran, has similar suspicions and even noted as an academic concern that my son “exhibits difficulty with the focus to succeed in learning new material.” I noted his attentiveness levels can be sub-par if not challenged in his tasks with can lead him to get off task (i.e. I’ll go color or read over here because this is boring). My husband and I have also suspected he exhibits some telltale signs of high functioning autistic behavior: hyper-attentiveness, avoidance of eye contact, walking on tip-toes, repetitive physical movements (finger dances or arm swinging), incredible working memory and not the best social skills. We have finally settled a bit after wandering for the past 2 years, so we figured it was time for a “professional” opinion.

He was screened in September with the Kaufman Test of Educational Achievement – Third Edition Brief (KTEA-3 Brief), showing reading comprehension = 121 (above average) and math concepts and applications = 118 (above average), and Kaufman Brief Intelligence Test-Second Edition (KBIT-2) showing IQ composite = 109 (average). With this score, he did not qualify to advance for further gifted testing. When I heard the result, it didn’t seem correct. (Yes – I know. Of course, it didn’t, mom.) We asked for a full evaluation to be completed.

The full evaluation was completed in December of 2017 and reflected more of what I was expecting. Specifically, his results on the Wechsler Individual Achievement Test–Third Edition (WIAT-III), which noted that the information used to test him was not directly related to what was being taught in the curriculum. His reading subtest reflected total reading standard score 122, 93 percentile rank, 118-126 95% CI (above average) and his basic reading standard score 137, 99 percentile rank, 133-141 95% CI (superior). The Written Expression composite standard score was 132, 98 percentile, 124-140 95% CI (superior). His mathematics composite standard score was 138, 99 percentile, 131-145 95% CI (superior). The summary of findings/interpretation of results noted the above average – superior achievement and that curriculum-based and local assessment date indicate he is performing on or above grade-level in reading and math. But as an overall result, “he was found to not have a disability and not eligible for special education”.

With that in mind… What do I do with my kid that is beyond the current curriculum in front of him, without a high enough IQ to qualify for gifted classes and without disruptive behavioral issues for specialized instruction? Homeschool?",10.756416978776526,10.538909048689142,10.110599250936332,57.8010049937578,56.82771535580525,13.304369538077404,47.305867665418226,12.45797560212912,6.443473657927591,2528,147,354,72,27,814,269,534,0.034,0.928,0.039,0.4184,1,1,0,0,0,0,110,3,1,0,15,7,14,0,1,26,1,42,3,3,7,2,76,57,30,0,4,18,6,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,18,26,0,1,13,12,0,10,13,2,0,1,20,7,32,12,62,30,8,50,0,0,4,0,38,28,0,9,12,225,50,42,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683614879543517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898230079507693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05857024421557401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083135447856184,0.0,0.1048958509370737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201478745877806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099277625573277,0.0,0.06346076597242736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858157190317012,0.0,0.0,0.105252323759828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534814217216254,0.0,0.0,0.0501984926681753,0.0,0.05460519417094276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20303025253491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002838725970108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052803747676068206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982495979095743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068405959728027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413498703858833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701468276849537,0.22505842060805986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279587949131893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172043435585994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7688580864936077,0.0,0.06155211536645954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944787290203886,0.0,0.08746877041519333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947941103108336,0.0,0.0,0.09794274462711326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800681025519607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602575528836661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298335942111436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852378116711883,0.0,0.0699483014990841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374636240173012
parenting,Kenn316,2018/02/24,"How to discipline a spoiled 2 year old? We're currently living with my mom in law and whenever   we try to discipline our son, he cries and mom in law comes in and consoles him and says something like ""ohh poor baby, are they scolding you?"" ""Ohh bad mommy and daddy"" then she jokingly hits us as if she's rescuing him from us. In my opinion it does more harm than good to my son, he's starting to learn to hit us. Probably because he sees that being done by my mom in law. And whenever I try to discipline my son he goes straight to his grandma or sometimes when grandma is out, he just walks away and lies facedown on the floor. When I try to get him up, he cries. I don't know what to do. We're in her house so it's her rules but damn my heart breaks because I know deep inside me that he's harming my child by teaching wrong things. I told them not to give him juice and just give him water to drink, they didn't listen. Now my son doesn't drink anything but juice. I told them not to give him sweets and they still gave him chocolates everytime they're with him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.",2.907268316351285,4.314561650655023,3.6965574963609917,91.21976103833092,74.41484716157207,7.010286268801553,25.385977680737504,7.594959193182576,1.0681817564289189,874,29,193,11,18,278,130,229,0.106,0.8190000000000001,0.076,-0.7284,1,0,3,0,0,0,24,5,2,5,0,8,11,1,0,2,0,10,4,1,1,0,34,26,19,0,2,8,7,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,6,14,3,3,3,3,1,2,5,5,0,0,5,4,40,6,29,16,1,25,0,0,1,0,48,13,1,3,10,112,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311563945835135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871819973643357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525750682160122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087567801002317,0.0,0.09665160940237152,0.14112783583401473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971373464342173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543055465711471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129904907284297,0.11845880379426092,0.0,0.2267940554714755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604778478156445,0.33313174504045073,0.0,0.09709082616608236,0.0,0.12762164231836012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717167924076093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356713731725905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723318356025154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056552642512681536,0.0,0.10221486390369074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40671686103612775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146668165721455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480478460451636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205399306128252,0.0,0.0,0.09224272113613496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911479427041304,0.11448586245732713,0.0,0.0819328490245415,0.0,0.09244306762661296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657277596680044,0.0,0.0,0.07690328966621739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122005959694416,0.0,0.23577262688267825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41772144356066415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222989819693531,0.1265612559579091,0.0,0.07454321111334941
parenting,Babymama13,2018/02/24,"My son's (3.5) behavior is horrible when we're with his grandparents but he's fine when he's alone with me. Hey everyone. 
So let me give y'all some background info here. 
My son is 3.5 years old. I work around 50 hours a week and while I'm at work my dad babysits him at his home. My husband works out of state 3 weeks out of the month.  Now, I love my dad and I love how close my son is with him. I completely trust him, he takes great care of him. My son loves spending time with his grandparents. He'll spend the night 1-2 nights a week on days that I get out of work late. My parents have no problem with this at all and my son loves it. 

The issue : When I pick my son up from my parents after work,  he'll usually ask if he can stay. Most of the time the answer is no. He'll whine about it but he would get over it quickly. These past few days he's been putting up more of a fight than usual. Even telling me to go away as soon as I get there and refusing to talk to me. But once he's in the car with me he's fine.  
Today, I went to pick him up and right away he told me 'go home mom, I don't want to go with you' and I told him to stop being rude. He replied 'don't talk to me'. I ignored it and talked with my mom for a few minutes before telling him it was time to leave. He threw such a big fit. He was crying and telling me he didn't want to go home with me and saying things like 'I don't love you' and 'I don't want you to be my mom anymore'. When I was getting his things together he told me 'I don't want to live with you anymore mom. I want to move and live here with grandpa'. My mom gasped and told him not to say things like that. It was so hard not to cry. When we got into the car he stopped crying and was fine. I just found out that I'm pregnant so I might be a little moody right now so I drove home silently crying. We got home and he's hugging me like usually and telling me he loved me and missed me while I was at work. This is throwing me on an emotional rollercoaster. Any advice? Should I sit him down and talk to him?

Tl;dr - my son's behavior is getting worse when we're together with his grandparents but he's fine when we're alone. ",0.3117299578059054,1.9573507637130805,1.91124894514768,100.1208818565401,82.50210970464136,5.479156118143461,19.1831223628692,6.42735559955562,-0.3115692827004217,1658,41,425,15,45,538,189,474,0.135,0.715,0.149,0.9595,5,2,0,0,1,0,46,2,5,0,6,24,24,2,0,14,0,28,7,0,3,1,68,68,38,0,9,8,18,1,3,0,6,0,2,5,0,15,38,0,4,3,0,2,12,10,7,0,0,18,3,73,17,60,40,6,77,0,2,0,7,86,26,0,4,39,246,88,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058472993553279735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239482276922949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04069188670775298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868641886057385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326849955321476,0.05594044528119528,0.0,0.11243952705616424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0509177241853877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061008821160321025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273899647893458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629168991383022,0.07718110954174981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730968738305211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039522429579835816,0.0,0.0,0.057177765959724014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656092700200758,0.0,0.0,0.15631440631790222,0.057402054727410924,0.13602924000331276,0.0,0.09571581752107383,0.06597159777616844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360308773654023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30011192592815555,0.0,0.05892836898659326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062455317580481826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749986169307058,0.06335979393968623,0.0,0.06118840129215365,0.0,0.08770146153704528,0.05997338830626538,0.10567608699751027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32403674578377784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634786537288276,0.0,0.3504076669865512,0.04776211457968699,0.06359831602824842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230780450548564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278990710294928,0.06372550891680534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328860182381457,0.0,0.05712213447654312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057256877349992526,0.0,0.06015370964296773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220263697897436,0.0,0.09517114642326543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377933811171027,0.0,0.1000544818898944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044990723292360736,0.19238204640618076,0.2092041710053432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926110966824585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046760435732992,0.0,0.056719420043726786,0.2287110638388961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770928406791,0.0,0.1764699910874583,0.0,0.14399528419393695,0.0,0.0,0.055470418369055696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613766264429725,0.0,0.06098002627372991,0.04250719290612872,0.0,0.0,0.03853370518650983
parenting,thethingnoname,2018/02/24,"My daughter’s father doesn’t think it’s okay for me to teach my daughter the word “Vagina”. When I accompany my daughter to the bathroom she asks questions, she’s 3 years old. I’ve told her what her vagina is called. 
When I was changing today, she said  “mom is that your vagina ?” And I said yes. This took her father by surprise and he got upset that she knew the word vagina. He says 3 year olds aren’t supposed to know that word and aren’t supposed to know what their privates are called.  He says that’s the equivalent of me teaching her bad words. Am I wrong for teaching her what her vagina is called ? 

Edit : 
Thank you everyone for your feedback! I read all of your comments and most were helpful and appreciated. I did show him the thread and we were able to have a conversation about why it’s important she knows the anatomically correct terms for her body parts. He now understands why it’s important and says he didn’t think of it that way. 
Also, I get it! It’s a vulva! 

Thanks everyone! ",2.8344049633389723,4.955499786802033,3.652952622673436,88.36598279751833,76.51269035532995,6.408234630569656,24.14241398759165,7.3871296695380915,1.0096826847151723,786,26,159,10,18,250,101,197,0.047,0.8320000000000001,0.121,0.9082,2,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,4,1,0,5,7,0,1,8,2,14,6,6,0,2,23,30,10,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,15,8,0,0,8,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,11,5,31,4,14,19,4,11,0,0,0,5,44,0,0,2,9,96,46,6,0.13233855222285387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583109240001423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371868193698216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049716332106374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469982979285686,0.0,0.0,0.4053973744700883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999664078596527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529103157860009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914143146412767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584322956943516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870374197802214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181894220486364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499331291437582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777340976344997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330975575958105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824946559007826,0.0,0.13237436491454732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251768536774918,0.3157227852244855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24367911728314665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959440133574216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544147356651122,0.12645515789300046,0.14703300088641907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776910003370482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504418290193383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388299188721689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469143200171994,0.0,0.1704433774832972
parenting,GlitzAndGrit,2018/02/24,"Tantrum Techniques for 14 Month Old I have boy/girl twins that are almost 14 months old. My daughter is calmer and more relaxed and my son is the most dramatic person I've ever met in my entire life. Seriously, this kid has epic tantrums. Throws himself on the ground, kicks his legs, screams, cries. He even used to bang his head against things (thank God he finally realized that it hurt and was a bad idea). 

He gets upset at every little thing. Being told no, not getting his way, and sometimes I don't even know why. Example: I took a picture of him and he started crying. I said his name (not even in a stern or loud tone/voice) and he started crying. It's hit or miss and it's like walking in a minefield. And once he's upset, he just goes and goes, sometimes for minutes. Today was especially rough and I'd like some tips for how to react. 

I try to ignore it and not give it attention so maybe he'll realize it's not going to get him anything positive. But it's hard for me to be consistent because if he's screaming or going on for a few minutes I'll ask him to stop or try to redirect him to a toy or calm him down. There isn't one method I've tried that I feel works consistently, but I'm also not sure what an age-appropriate reaction is. He's not old enough for me to have a conversation with him about it. He can't verbalize why he's upset and he doesn't yet understand if I try to explain to him that he needs to calm down. And today my daughter started copying him and screaming when she was told no. Dear God, I can't handle two of them acting like that. I'm going to lose my shit. So what is an age-appropriate way for me to handle these tantrums before they get out of control when he's older?",2.7601573849878918,4.165851516949156,4.140714285714289,87.89402542372883,74.79096045197741,7.0910411622276035,25.637207425343018,7.7094869923839395,1.2478122679580306,1343,46,288,18,28,444,184,354,0.15,0.78,0.071,-0.9696,0,0,1,0,0,0,40,0,0,2,3,14,25,4,3,11,0,18,4,3,4,2,53,47,29,0,3,16,3,3,3,0,1,1,5,0,2,19,16,0,3,8,2,0,7,13,16,0,2,8,8,32,9,36,35,5,37,0,3,0,0,45,11,1,10,20,167,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081456063288563,0.0,0.0,0.08051222933824602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284948679697658,0.0,0.09412042026256627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406199683647897,0.061372427023067125,0.0,0.08566963625427414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291903475451368,0.0,0.0,0.3317704513698189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402737622356033,0.0,0.19949077969364773,0.09106909309856163,0.08482563002139054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05090586553334514,0.0,0.0,0.11028792257008642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040057928434344,0.09657959438329494,0.17165302992430514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018779024324884,0.0,0.10332476229833096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777797378921627,0.1136533049924358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055330043338495005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711119098450979,0.14755868273867306,0.10090589167786412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263302624985284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114466986616397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607205761152615,0.0,0.0,0.07465152539503442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169341474707765,0.10721887626289338,0.06822207692938068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790822172948286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576791523780066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033446089299287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914640360811744,0.0,0.21378140327177172,0.0,0.0,0.08417138831567209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488790497718727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269085545052644,0.0,0.0,0.1337720940729161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908621078981345,0.19240445208300608,0.11185705844283916,0.2734152479914281,0.0,0.09834786133686292,0.10480943856945303,0.0,0.08695354165600483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598271576463104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181692627043772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329484598595101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Itsagreatday6077,2018/02/25,"22 yo son with chronic illness (crohns) has turned into an angry, manipulative adult. Our 22 yo son has had crohns disease for 9 years, 1 surgery, many flares. He is in remission but also has depression, anxiety, and for the past 1.5 years, anger. He is seeing a psychiatrist and therapist regularly. He is constantly blaming us for not getting him better help earlier (we did) wants to go to a weed legal state for weed to help him with nausea (nothing else works, truly, even his md agrees) but is still in the middle of constant anger, rudeness, manipulation. He broke his phone last week: I called the police ( he lives 2 hours away and I couldn't reach him) because of recent statements. He was sleeping when the police woke him up. I had promised him a trip to Reno to visit a friend in April, but again, once I set limits on his verbal abuse today, he went verbally ballistic (on messenger, as he has no phone now). I have been ignoring his texts, and he has no car. His therapist said to keep setting firm limits, so I am. Im just heartbroken about all this: his dad, my spouse, wants even firmer limits. I guess Im just venting.  ",6.183091234347049,6.558608990697678,6.446976744186047,78.29776386404295,66.06976744186046,9.592128801431127,30.957066189624328,9.466822959209583,2.6451610017889093,883,31,168,16,13,284,140,215,0.236,0.685,0.079,-0.9913,0,0,0,0,1,0,43,3,0,0,5,11,9,3,0,9,0,17,3,1,2,1,27,28,11,0,3,6,4,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,8,0,5,1,0,0,5,4,6,0,0,8,2,22,3,24,19,1,32,0,2,1,0,36,9,0,1,15,94,23,2,0.0,0.17139127479115798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567971022339825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106598745428542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590714617979766,0.0,0.0,0.08817970427708102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279346621260189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770785453349425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126390577922543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459023373950814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120839812246675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910851372259674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175928165585287,0.0,0.07557571763475593,0.0,0.08221017239170021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935263252399906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19391698479240696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245500079340506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125021738931392,0.0,0.0,0.1285750757297418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791227460029112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773208656512464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665639927917304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879936476830998,0.0,0.0,0.15405173398518768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808856162349006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282832280083976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759903028973924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527046841509328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475841568892614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552082999938175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359087664436645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711502908164386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573419573641774,0.0,0.0,0.17400088907901975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064129316795054,0.0,0.11603267196461715,0.0,0.0,0.13409565933467674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530979720984744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630480012660675
parenting,craz1220,2018/02/25,"Hockey, football, toddlers. What would you assume is worse for concussions? At this point, I'm pretty sure my almost 2 year old twins have hit their heads harder and more often then most pro linebacker. 

Am I alone here? We have literally baby proofed everything. There nothing else we can bubble wrap. But they still constantly bash their heads into everything. Walls, table corners, toys, the floor, each other's heads,  my head. I'm basically just wondering if i should be concerned or if this is normal. It's a daily occurrence for them to hit something hard and have a screaming fit. Tell me they will grow out if this please!",4.451028708133968,7.184680833333331,4.288660287081342,82.77380382775121,74.0,6.952472089314195,25.27591706539075,8.00094639256281,1.7116596491228069,501,17,85,8,11,153,91,114,0.078,0.826,0.096,0.49,0,1,1,0,0,0,19,2,1,5,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,11,4,4,0,2,23,16,8,0,6,6,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,13,1,6,10,3,14,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,9,5,55,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647139592783936,0.1703630509966345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775631664565186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741110967263956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956677790176946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473516118731072,0.0,0.6752608187871383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116623906429747,0.15783353499207167,0.0,0.17260561679686953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056170414194028,0.15549714756981742,0.0,0.0,0.16734646577163126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663319538257245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136271188600904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550308052557859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377236979205105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838345486470167,0.0,0.0,0.1676303650204329,0.11684967518483942,0.0,0.0,0.10592680031013857
parenting,Romanos831,2018/02/25,"Toddler (2 1/2yrs) will tell me when she needs to poop. But still wets her pamper. How to potty train correctly!? My toddler tells me when she needs to poop, but oddly, will sometimes tell me when she needs to pee. But most of the time will just wet her pamper. I was wondering how do I teach her? I tried leaving her naked, with pants, with underwear, and she will pee herself and be like uh oh mommy potty! But once she's gone.",2.168382352941176,4.2421676470588245,2.713750000000001,94.530625,78.41176470588233,5.661764705882352,20.036764705882355,6.6274283507984215,0.07373529411764768,330,8,71,3,8,102,52,85,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.6362,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,0,7,4,4,2,1,17,12,11,0,3,5,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,17,1,7,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,2,6,46,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501955687276363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154387016493646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5256151320290889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516397064213233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336955221202609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870042546478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6195800991086851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377818151729411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042448665237385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25624496743075903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,usofunnie,2018/02/25,"The movie Coraline. I need opinions. So I have a six year old daughter who has been asking to watch Coraline. She is already familiar with the imagery, and she says she is okay with it. 

She has a solid head on her shoulders, and has almost always known real from pretend — the exception being that she saw a teddy bear with glowing red eyes and sharp teeth, and that frightened her for some time. Other than that, she always says “I know that’s not real,” “It’s just a show,” etc. 

I watched it alone last night after bedtime, and I’m on the fence about it. It has some scary moments for sure, but here’s the thing... lately she has been having angry moments where she spouts off “I WANT A NEW FAMILY FOR THIS DAY!!” (Note that it’s not a permanent move she wants, just a temporary switch to someone who will let her have her way.) This is mirrored in Coraline, and I am tempted to let her watch it so I can have the “be careful what you wish for” talk with her while a clear story is in her head. 

All the reviews online I can find talk about how beautiful and artistic the movie is; I can’t find anything that relates to viewing ages and experiences. So I am asking here for other parents’ insight and experience. Would you let your six year old watch Coraline? 
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parenting,mikeprescott84,2018/02/25,"There's a moment... There's this moment that happens when you're fighting to get a young toddler to go to sleep in their own bed.

It comes after the bathtime and the brushing of the teeth.

It comes after the last book, the very last book and then the book after that.

It is a moment that comes after the negotiations, the cajoling, the begging for a drink, a different teddy, a change of blanket.

It's a moment that comes after lullabies, and hair stroking and back patting, after the fighting and crying and wrestling.

It is a moment of calm.

A moment of quiet.

A moment of relief.

Silence. Stillness. Sleep.

And then there is a moment after that. 

The moment when you're struck over the head with a soft toy and, as the stillness comes crashing down around you, you realise **it was you that fell asleep, not them.**",1.8319677419354825,4.583707858064519,2.5821774193548417,90.35326612903229,86.54838709677419,4.132258064516129,20.65322580645161,5.6839178017228535,0.12538064516129,638,20,117,4,20,199,72,155,0.068,0.895,0.037000000000000005,-0.5719,1,0,1,0,4,0,30,0,3,2,0,9,4,2,0,25,0,4,8,6,0,0,16,12,13,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,13,15,1,0,0,5,0,7,1,2,0,0,1,5,5,2,22,11,1,37,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,26,89,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707115945927052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703562960200127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476936237253082,0.7115652201476294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814744808002228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260838655196115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618420597591974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631495600658043,0.0,0.09389216054257732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460938953880674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955223873443906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269334995770638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306569007298661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638724625131373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363148411990208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sontonos,2018/02/25,"7 year old having a hard time making close friends at school. Our 7 year old is having a hard time making good friends at school. He'll play with kids at class and on recess/lunch break, but just doesn't seem to have any real friends. He's been invited to maybe one party this year. I'm sure the kids talk about the parties at school so I feel so bad he's left out. His birthday is in fall and has me thinking what is he going to do, invite all these kids that obviously didn't want him at their birthdays? He's a good looking kid and we dress him well, so it's a case of the 'nerdy' kid getting left out.

There are two things I believe are a part of it. 1. His best friend that lives down the street is kinda the bully kid. Makes bad decisions, causes trouble for the sake of it, bugs other kids, etc. So I wonder if that kinda gave my son a bad reputation making kids not really want to play with him either. 2. He's stubborn, seems like he always wants to play his games or his ideas, and if it's not something he doesn't want to do, he's not interested. We've tried to tell him numerous times it can't be just what he wants all the time and he has sometimes do things he doesn't really want to do to make his friends happy too. But even still, you'd think he'd get **some** birthday invites.  I mean you'd think at that age you invite a lot of your class to birthdays still.

What's the best way to handle this? There's a mom that we kinda know who has a kid in our class. My son had him at his birthday last year, but the other kid just had his birthday and my son wasn't invited. I was thinking about txting his mom and just explaining the situation... tell her he's having a hard time making good friends and wonder if her son has said anything. I could imagine his mom suggesting to invite my son to his party, but for whatever reason he said no.

We've asked him if there are any kids in his class he'd like to have over one day and he said he doesn't know. We're trying to get him other friends than the mean one that lives down the street, but just can't get him to click with anyone.

Any advice?",2.739954169231819,3.7891172234763033,3.6562897599014974,92.75882960530821,74.2821670428894,6.543511868116835,21.550653259456872,6.714681859716394,0.20854010534236256,1642,36,377,13,33,526,179,443,0.094,0.726,0.18,0.9923,0,0,1,0,0,0,46,4,4,1,2,19,26,1,0,22,0,38,0,0,8,4,79,77,23,0,11,19,8,4,2,7,1,0,3,0,11,23,17,0,1,18,4,0,2,12,5,1,4,10,9,43,21,44,60,9,41,0,0,2,0,86,21,0,14,18,219,66,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754969808730535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751885571054805,0.0,0.0,0.14102534322312146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048334914980186834,0.0,0.056885288870402284,0.0,0.06462402487006272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731534312862076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788198867048743,0.1450881707964197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101204381793083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519195264163874,0.0,0.0,0.04458092814110776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709441422517935,0.045657456948259005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03495247801785864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37384919260522415,0.0,0.14446314870264987,0.0,0.03928623085158423,0.1739402975389809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358653433689327,0.18577152492721347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803549950060258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598032577401616,0.05634739236540149,0.0,0.0,0.1502124720968411,0.0,0.0,0.06754351469104314,0.0,0.12208008069956673,0.0,0.05804892079421401,0.0,0.0,0.0587689499386311,0.0,0.0,0.2768551905784214,0.0,0.06944694512275695,0.1505982307999451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428806600180393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507344365290406,0.0,0.14052588749197598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485735440543352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786811866108584,0.08856851991479055,0.07107364162453503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972656343485267,0.0,0.0,0.2098793812571961,0.0,0.12586049217508635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770117698645382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053217021774386426,0.06836795938464943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040915895173367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515098757535767,0.0,0.0,0.05556132995104101,0.1208393630226863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184926193669747,0.17717409591102762,0.0,0.0,0.2015413358848913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386482623409954,0.0,0.06752662832593281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24463590238934144,0.054869464999374486,0.0,0.0,0.0621531010090663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499296637512088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780610154095983
parenting,procrast1natrix,2018/02/25,"When do you let your child visit relatives alone? I'm seeking advice, rationales, experiences, lessons learned.   I want to over a few years build up to letting my ten year old fly to visit her aunt and uncle.   What are important steps? 

Background: my brother and his wife live a thousand miles away.   They lived with us when my kids were babies before moving away, we love them dearly and they are close with my kids.  We travel to see them annually or twice if we can manage, and they make a point of involving my kids in projects like cooking or yardwork, generally building true relationships.   They are wonderful parents to their own toddler now and my ten year old spent the most recent weeklong stay glued to the baby being a fairly effective mother's helper.   She's a good kid, generally responsible and smart, biggest weakness is she gets her nose in a book and needs to be reminded to come up for air.  

I have started to play games when we travel, letting her read the maps and walk in front leading the way.   She packs her own bag and typically doesn't leave items behind. 

I know that kids can fly alone but the idea of it frightens me.   However, she has longer vacation than i do and i want to support their relationship.  What have y'all done? ",5.3439349186483085,6.854296344680854,5.467559449311639,80.48411764705884,68.53191489361703,8.42302878598248,29.993742177722158,8.841846274778883,2.3869324155194,991,38,183,17,17,312,154,235,0.036000000000000004,0.836,0.128,0.9339,2,2,0,0,0,0,25,5,3,8,3,4,10,0,0,11,0,19,4,1,4,1,38,33,17,0,4,4,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,4,18,1,0,7,7,1,10,1,1,0,4,3,2,37,9,25,25,5,38,0,0,1,1,44,14,0,5,13,123,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979385200834104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751307388962563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24958461073688384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302324638976947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441591790030535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592483340394754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992713515334514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939493837239842,0.0,0.0,0.11140627753254204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499418703616921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299647103020526,0.0,0.0,0.14064119550153167,0.0,0.40746391552730665,0.0,0.06489098543861589,0.0,0.2345716468933219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987863932774788,0.0,0.08866089869425534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117064848114275,0.0,0.09848714336842024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27875240910016874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748507932524146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556139625601448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328597152359563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114745011748524,0.2852060447998161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058433489243404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401334892182274,0.1415724673736488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072684156696695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597706426386368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668580324178807,0.10542932717036156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404171402389915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25660246163489114
parenting,dorothyeleanorothy,2018/02/25,"Infant loss and PTSD My husband and I lost our son a week after he was born 10 years ago this July. Four years ago we had a daughter, and 7 weeks ago we had our second daughter, and final child. 

I expected to have tons of anxiety during my older daughter's pregnancy and infancy, but found myself relatively calm. I expected to be calm this time around, but have been an absolute wreck. I was a nervous anxious mess throughout the entire pregnancy, certain that the worst was going to befall either the baby or myself. Then we delivered a perfectly healthy baby, and I recovered beautifully from a repeat c-section. However my anxiety is still through the roof. One week after she was born I would find myself sobbing in terror that something was going to happen to her. That eventually subsided as my hormones leveled out.

However yesterday baby girl's voice started getting hoarse. No idea why. She hasn't been crying too much more than normal, she doesn't have any cold symptoms, no fever, and everything else about her (breathing, eating, peeing) is fine. She is currently laying happily on her playmat cooing at her toys. I've already got an appointment set for tomorrow morning, and have spoken to the ped directly, who told me to look out for croup symptoms, and to take her to urgent care if she develops them. So far no symptoms at all. 

By all accounts she's likely fine, and all of my proactiveness should have me feeling better, but I find myself still wracked with fear and on the verge of sobbing. 

Y'all that trauma is real. Our older daughter is 4, and when she sleeps through the night, and we wake up before she does, we still are certain we're going to go in her room and find her dead. She's 4. SIDS hasn't been a thing for nearly 3 years now. And yet...

I don't know what I'm hoping to gain from posting here. I guess I just needed to do something other than sit and worry and cry. I know I should probably talk to a therapist. I've worked through all the other aspects of my grief, but this PTSD is a whole other beast. ",5.850076923076923,6.621036161538466,6.348358974358977,77.3333076923077,66.87179487179488,9.111794871794874,31.753846153846155,9.174902378510234,2.8113200000000003,1613,63,287,28,25,524,215,390,0.158,0.71,0.131,-0.9005,3,0,2,0,0,0,50,8,1,1,6,12,22,0,3,18,0,31,9,4,0,7,59,52,27,2,9,8,6,1,1,0,3,4,1,1,3,13,26,1,0,8,1,1,4,7,11,0,3,14,4,50,11,44,34,10,52,0,5,1,0,39,15,2,4,31,206,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26802287255889395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122016792722962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853812757958977,0.0,0.15420245908077446,0.1138598105048084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972115853394301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576170235958995,0.0,0.0,0.08913727574243868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275833111886096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22141799550102687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819875419270089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312952737359718,0.08419400564239855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905802111423013,0.0,0.0,0.11341258702561352,0.0509605722530454,0.0,0.0,0.11040644507045357,0.2763505063852356,0.0,0.0,0.11050695563307343,0.0,0.0,0.05265667232236241,0.0,0.22911666575846804,0.0,0.08060799637725062,0.0,0.11102745190028054,0.0,0.0891249759446147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010351865641776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377544414936963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077900912886107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04923908626562688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846350928490216,0.0,0.1100201320708028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408951357552074,0.07473175072923108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458109780780982,0.0987491569893452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829539276441939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965253978470112,0.0,0.10866465796229992,0.0,0.23562753945544604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147168533569869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085906822181018,0.0,0.0,0.1551804070566816,0.0,0.0,0.07133704884264812,0.0,0.24146416396927498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31426661080197915,0.07577874073659825,0.08100819541317282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702064101008736,0.06695792708777915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587692912879573,0.0,0.0,0.09630561114574307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425340272330744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909439428177947,0.11252428409242857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337361334513089,0.1023533612215388,0.0,0.07159568273091166,0.0,0.0,0.19470918277800955
parenting,GWS1121,2018/02/25,"Gifted a bunk bed, looking to transition 2.5 yr old from crib. Just as title suggests. Looking to move 2 and a half year old from crib to bunk bed. His sister is expected in April and we want to use the crib for her. 
Mom wants a barrier to block him from the top, but unsure what to use or if it would work.

Hoping others can give some advice or thoughts on this.

Thank you!",1.7477922077922088,3.5779749480519527,2.9519480519480545,93.49077922077923,78.74025974025976,5.9584415584415575,20.090909090909093,6.868970318607317,0.17926493506493513,289,7,64,3,7,93,58,77,0.069,0.804,0.126,0.6863,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,2,0,19,13,7,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,2,13,11,1,8,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,5,4,39,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910608459307354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150931343622801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22270196250793248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765781968006736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262604827491376,0.0,0.2383113496483681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.470564267750522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20643249490622453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800636200160408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873097611999534,0.0,0.0,0.2645026118604036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323549768858467,0.0,0.0,0.159280105887138,0.0,0.0,0.14439091887072394
parenting,NotAnNarwhal,2018/02/25,"I feel like I’m not the parent anymore.. I had my daughter at 19 and the biological father was nowhere to be found for child support except to call me 1 time to tell me to get an abortion. Now I have my 10 month old and I strongly rely on my mom and grandma to help take care of her while I work 2 jobs and do school classes full time. 

However I feel like nobody recognizes that I’m her mom and I don’t know if that’s normal. My mom begs to take her on the weekends and then talks to me like I asked HER to watch my daughter so i could go out with friends. My grandma helps me without even asking first like picks her up the second she starts whining and feeds her before the scheduled times so that I can’t do it and then when I started talking about moving out with my daughter (Because I don’t want to live with my grandma forever) she tells me I can’t because I won’t be able to handle the full weight of the situation. 

I am a good mother! I am there as soon as I get off of work to snuggle and play with her, I am there every bath night because take off early to spend that time with her, I take her to every doctors appointment, and when her eczema got really bad, I put 7 different types of cream on her 3 times a day! 

So why does no one address me as the parent? Why does my family feel the need to over help? Is it just because I’m young?",4.228817401960781,3.9100975312500026,5.31636437908497,87.12095588235296,70.21527777777777,8.026470588235295,28.39950980392157,7.285733465282438,1.3347522058823529,1051,33,239,9,17,349,148,288,0.029,0.84,0.131,0.9768,5,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,4,12,12,0,0,12,0,17,3,0,1,0,32,41,22,0,5,5,10,4,4,1,1,1,0,2,1,6,17,2,0,5,3,1,3,8,2,0,3,4,6,48,10,40,33,2,38,0,1,2,0,35,12,0,1,27,155,54,8,0.0970289699398253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622666571832332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814179778911802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101513699697216,0.2365918379399145,0.0,0.08256450689747265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907742679775564,0.0,0.0989275014955118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746973717780885,0.0,0.0,0.06257565860478051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137462202358544,0.0,0.09931326220290466,0.16982141092206193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408671954324473,0.0,0.16350218399892288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147027750208346,0.0,0.14718228778775735,0.1386350310246322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253279226354313,0.0,0.10638725736028196,0.07496434148474238,0.0,0.10138726414102013,0.0,0.05514379965029245,0.0813832964772273,0.07760293102596921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19510941980327626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962862808496047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332458435214512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896138143600646,0.0,0.08567835811000142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409174706925458,0.07744759809559855,0.103126439494106,0.0,0.07194575176076655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105511536584178,0.09506778934005973,0.0,0.0,0.10181558192227458,0.0,0.06574934116070487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21547837702749664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754091437084833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215924271222365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819849770858044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906462756683977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735520865755174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010732524239866,0.0,0.0,0.2918148399617926,0.15597642129114794,0.16961519290474927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828918632910944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723020040443486,0.0,0.0,0.11815514563001395,0.0,0.0,0.17510710695969608,0.0,0.0,0.09353246453512476,0.0,0.1412764914512948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jhrndz,2018/02/25,"What do you guys think about sending kids to private school? Im think about sending my daughters, (8 and 11) to a private school. We’re not really that rich or anything, but it’s because the only public school in my area is really bad. My older son used to go there and it’s a really ghetto type broken down old school. And most of the kids I know that went to that school turned into gang members and drug dealers. 

I don’t want to turn them into spoiled brats or something either though. I have a friend who sent her son to that school, and she said it’s to much of a hassle because they expect you to buy laptops and iPads for each kid. And if you don’t wear new clothes everyday they make fun of you. I’m not sure now. Does anyone have experience with this?",1.213235294117645,3.514369961538464,2.3606184012066365,94.48242081447964,83.35897435897436,4.952639517345402,19.432880844645556,6.2272716619740125,-0.07332232277526396,598,16,128,5,17,190,99,156,0.091,0.831,0.078,-0.4772,0,0,2,0,0,0,15,0,4,3,0,5,5,0,0,6,0,6,2,1,2,1,27,19,12,0,3,7,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,10,11,0,0,3,0,2,5,4,1,0,0,3,1,15,4,19,16,4,15,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,4,5,76,25,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631050956554112,0.0,0.10157870912155367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306532309312114,0.15049295182568154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802116267152732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314854255349285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074575595643156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953676604395151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701524892533619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222272936050264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333389748434565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783813147493202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823956229311105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907409120622022,0.0,0.0,0.11921689937392675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952710117771646,0.0,0.0,0.09387993279168992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372320533235104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174175191809778,0.0,0.0,0.7495532515588199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502837170171093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633857096122742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581877872978907,0.12127691303928845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26852954207423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661053986500428,0.0,0.0,0.07280675333040043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442798411341268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,readermom123,2018/02/25,"Funny book series for kids with relatively good morals? Hi all, I'm looking for a book series for my son to read. He's in first grade but an advanced reader. He recently picked up Diary of a Wimpy Kid and LOVED it but I've been reading it and I think it's a bit too 'grown-up' for him (especially why the main character seems to have 'bad luck' when it's really a product of bad choices he's making). We've recently read the 13-story tree house series and he liked that but not as much as Diary of a Wimpy Kid, unfortunately and that series has a few of the same issues (although to a lesser extent). 

One graphic novel we recently tried that I liked a lot was called HiLO, but there are only 4 of them and they aren't very long. Any other suggestions? He seems to like 'real-world' seeming events more than fantasy and likes when things are funny. I'm trying to steer him away from books where the main character spends a lot of time being mean to friends or disobeying authority figures because I don't think he's emotionally mature enough yet to read that and not emulate it. 

Edit: Basically I want the book equivalent of Phineas and Ferb for him. ",5.018164464023496,5.815298246696037,6.010678414096919,78.92312481644643,68.73568281938326,9.225139500734212,27.908663729809106,9.3871,2.296879236417034,910,29,177,18,15,302,135,227,0.07,0.73,0.199,0.9846,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,2,2,6,10,0,0,15,0,9,1,0,2,1,32,21,18,0,1,7,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,11,10,0,0,7,10,1,1,4,2,0,2,2,1,11,8,27,18,12,15,1,0,1,1,21,4,0,7,14,107,22,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383430733857339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582517586281307,0.0,0.2058665151016134,0.07515005680357642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458931684434536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588218286202155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867287745738655,0.0,0.1273807084309908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486150461941472,0.0,0.0,0.09524545850566173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340102019375934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224802495077798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867179953031593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409126036464621,0.0,0.0,0.10909850402312044,0.10352375584369647,0.0,0.0,0.20961569453479606,0.11126458832006186,0.0,0.08229004306874592,0.0,0.0,0.13428754800709525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062463873765468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353739953243093,0.0937596371979394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4932515618444348,0.1403190936326022,0.07897602320291762,0.0,0.3651709878017511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366871601754176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190144137964883,0.15798508909358644,0.0,0.0,0.0718852849048644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739741618656373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017185225242418,0.0727134604257244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124060026173067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mattyv83,2018/02/25,"Our friends need help and don't know how what to do or ask We have some neighbor friends that have a 2 and a 3.5 year old.  I am a parent of 3 kids 2,9,13.  They are great friends and we really enjoy hanging out with THEM.  Their kids are screaming, disobedient, hellions.  I believe that it is not the kids' fault and its the parents fault as they don't know how to properly parent and discipline their kids.    You can see it in their children eyes that they know exactly how to manipulate them by throwing tantrums and outbursts.  Additionally, we have a mutual Nanny friend that babysits for them and has been able to ""lay down the law"" with the kids when babysitting and they shape up. Which further leads me to believe that the kids have figured out how to get what they want by acting up. She has told them what she does, but they don't seem to follow suit.  It's seriously affecting their relationship and its obviously affecting ours with them as well.  We live in a small town and as a person who has no problem seeking counseling, the best counselors are nearly all booked and not taking new clients. (I just looked for my 9 year old).  What is some good reading that I can suggest to them or any other suggestions to approach this situation with them?  It's obviously a touchy subject to approach with friends. Why is helping so hard to approach sometimes?",6.394246108949418,7.066287828793776,6.009783560311284,80.58448078793776,65.65369649805447,9.07091439688716,33.9613326848249,9.017664075816787,2.7910001945525296,1080,46,206,17,16,334,141,257,0.053,0.804,0.14400000000000002,0.9708,3,0,0,0,0,0,27,6,1,17,2,8,16,1,0,13,0,21,1,1,8,4,53,34,23,0,3,6,3,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,8,20,23,0,1,5,2,0,8,6,6,1,0,2,5,32,10,32,32,4,26,0,0,3,0,51,12,0,5,6,147,52,3,0.12575225452781333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551584530746491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756138267695385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283359456243799,0.13196923282937406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100466453667784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4857793995311693,0.0,0.06570036275788152,0.0,0.0,0.10547502482262472,0.0,0.13864230456137153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112649319796889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685781709324668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20733045114874932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104154463616313,0.0,0.1056002222887569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932437033313422,0.0,0.12145231103485887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639116746416603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4188989906314573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098020181631142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032792437018044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578628487381244,0.0,0.08056011432102553,0.0,0.0,0.13501085989537778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020826565938848,0.11448012959774292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135080290218627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437219520482967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455004534374256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016166819580225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417193784907264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306637905914632,0.0,0.1134718501993838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196065793258946
parenting,dontwantanaccount,2018/02/25,"Toddler temper tantrums Hey everyone, we've got a high strung 19 month old, you know the type that you need to take to the park so they can run forever?

Anyway, we are hitting temper tantrums over the usual things, can't get his own way, we want him to do something he doesn't want to, he's not physically able to do the things he wants.

I'm reading conflicting advice and need a more solid game plan for these, it's either ignore him, console him in the sense that ""I know you are angry that you can't do (thing) but we don't hit."" 

Do you console and then ignore a little bit? He's also started throwing things in anger and I've tried redirecting him but just feel like I'm trying too many tactics at once and it's also a little overwhelming. 

First time mom so I'm not sure what to do.",1.8897750511247442,3.8054448895705564,3.1265276073619646,92.00165235173826,78.6319018404908,5.819059304703478,21.296114519427405,6.742157984588678,0.338716482617587,619,17,133,6,15,200,97,163,0.15,0.807,0.043,-0.9481,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,3,5,1,2,7,10,5,1,9,0,12,0,0,0,1,25,29,11,0,5,6,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,3,3,2,0,2,6,8,0,1,1,1,15,2,11,26,4,17,0,1,0,0,21,7,0,0,8,78,26,2,0.15647922490694122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290968755657114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502727592473882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083478583444975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952260516844626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912059778758794,0.11178878953954634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310114876839513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175393657204227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251507308073186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653288924197901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199377944717567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644784521857867,0.3136665838482828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864537367012374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326657699684415,0.12490022442183395,0.0,0.0,0.23205472505487515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419862390095769,0.1666452675964568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652157040750694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046535221660655,0.0,0.0,0.11075680078328358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474798176192322,0.0,0.11765290305020068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4158313757935653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124429441583028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124782442914477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723397590166181,0.0,0.2768865032611004,0.12420592522274085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jrfish,2018/02/25,"My husband's very short temper is rubbing off on my toddler. What can I do about this? My husband has the shortest temper I've ever seen. He gets frustrated and yells and swears whenever things go wrong or someone upsets him. Recently, my 2-year-old son has started to have similar behavior - he'll grunt and swear or sigh loudly in frustration whenever anything doesn't go his way. He's also very quick to give up when something is too hard. I honestly think he's just copying his daddy because he thinks it's cool to act like that.

Some background - my husband had a very traumatic childhood, which he attributes his issues to. He says he just can't help getting angry, and gets upset whenever I bring it up, which lead to fights in front of our son. He says he's working on it, but refuses therapy. To be fair, he used to break stuff and punch walls when he was angry. He now doesn't do that anymore, so he has improved, but his anger issues are still very apparent.

Since I can't force my husband to change or do anything about this, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for how I can teach my son not to get so easily frustrated, and to problem solve calmly to reach a goal, when he sees his dad model opposite behavior all the time.

I'm a total type A personality and attribute my successes in life to my persistence and ability to solve problems under pressure. I'm very worried that my son is learning to get frustrated and give up quickly when something doesn't work right away. I'm afraid it's going to be a curse for him and ruin his life. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks",6.0130263157894746,6.406798096153848,6.509723346828611,77.63878542510122,66.43589743589743,9.645344129554658,33.408232118758434,9.549672527348893,3.0783564102564105,1274,53,237,24,19,415,170,312,0.168,0.691,0.141,-0.856,1,0,2,0,1,0,32,1,0,0,6,18,24,8,4,7,1,25,2,0,5,3,36,49,24,0,4,9,9,2,1,0,2,2,4,0,1,14,10,0,1,4,0,0,7,6,16,1,0,3,9,24,7,31,41,3,36,0,1,2,0,41,14,0,6,14,137,38,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21557948706454688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821166586456437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500237208849726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939390881440232,0.07712851777123929,0.0,0.18154487352926524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036361151343368,0.0,0.0,0.06724151188401435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668911866179844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977808932913387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881516533278499,0.21163112682627824,0.18806832011456934,0.0,0.0,0.1216127509912418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881250691218534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393578456817261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026160472159465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558247754858022,0.05388993831183467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574758827552033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631494178817276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21109588375669408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891386451930636,0.0,0.0,0.09420071864670064,0.0,0.17543951217905154,0.0,0.0,0.08789959815984509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124626050235904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346191321274123,0.16983789094656335,0.0,0.0,0.07807515234421257,0.0,0.0880905116085037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627397596636686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101554941862955,0.12614452071251633,0.0,0.07328240294271436,0.14135925769889632,0.0,0.0,0.0643203138468707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526896504226244,0.0,0.4550699980849969,0.0,0.08755576601381021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119622148293953,0.1606081589554522,0.1120210942274973,0.0,0.07835821536062768,0.12060229147931707,0.0,0.07103344547628618
parenting,lee160485,2018/02/25,"Becoming father of a second unplanned kid Hi everyone!

We just discovered yesterday that my wife is pregnant, the test said 3 weeks+.

So we discussed it, and terminating the pregnancy isn't an option for us. I've had an unsuccesful vasectomy last year in february, and I kept delivering samples every month, still sperm cells in them. Somewhere along the way, we got stupid, and well, baby as a result :)

Feeling a little overwhelmed, we have an awesome 4.5 year old and life just more or less settled down the last two years. Are there any people who have experienced the same? 

We're not afraid of the situation as a whole , as financial and infrastructure wise we're OK, it's just the ""going through the whole infant phase again' thing which we're not looking forward to.

Any thoughts, advice?

Thanks in advance.",5.457448979591838,7.7032510204081674,5.723554421768707,75.84614795918368,69.40816326530611,8.70952380952381,31.29761904761905,9.2995712137729,3.0618394557823136,648,28,109,14,12,206,107,147,0.03,0.8370000000000001,0.134,0.9412,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,5,0,1,1,8,7,1,2,15,1,6,1,0,1,0,22,14,10,0,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,6,10,0,1,2,0,0,3,3,3,1,2,5,5,8,4,13,9,5,20,0,1,1,0,15,6,0,2,12,71,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730757677004914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408899939322755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956107771866361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922792272143856,0.16924198912205665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955520360959697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065914071012706,0.0,0.14165589609710352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28874646275866744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251023138202707,0.0,0.17751682600700966,0.0,0.0,0.14873288578815602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137235235520956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18585351485012067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227899776604948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847793586320506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990858766057102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144511735669832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306467527169735,0.0,0.0,0.11766804273404255,0.0,0.0,0.14061037061666856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301665838137853,0.0,0.21304881704956166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058648738604326,0.14207182292002565,0.0,0.15924861215822286,0.0,0.0,0.39548752015120336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421708143652337
parenting,FourPeaksAZ,2018/02/25,"What should I look for in a STEM program for my boys aged 9 and 13? Hi there, so my 2 sons (9 and 13) are showing interest in programming (how do I mod my game) and asking questions about how computers work (which is the best graphics card, how internet works, what are servers, etc).  So I want to find a good after-school and/or school-break STEM program for them.  There are many programs when I Google this, but I'm not even sure what I should be looking for?  

If you have put your kids into STEM programs, can you tell me what I should be looking for (or asking about)?  What did you like and not like?

Thanks!",5.4293676814988245,5.153450180327869,5.038290398126467,89.98270491803282,67.68852459016394,8.282903981264639,28.903981264636997,7.447530270364453,1.3474997658079615,470,14,105,4,7,143,78,122,0.045,0.8270000000000001,0.128,0.8421,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,4,1,3,11,7,0,0,3,0,13,0,0,3,1,20,21,13,0,5,5,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,15,7,11,15,2,6,0,0,3,0,14,3,0,3,4,69,22,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35670181809738416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20020887901815576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21276698390859314,0.1260065272620587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743668851022933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001484612290298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640818596044748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806143449170878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934181155290313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178375759337776,0.2137141015407928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38615337988270393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798052331597806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674766301924468,0.17564199441507636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125253228573882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777761164625259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,4ccelerapt0r,2018/02/25,"Feeding 7 month old baby Recently the baby suffered a bout of measles.which had him completely look emaciated and malnourished. We have started him on Cerelac stage 2 and similac formula milk, And fruits like banana grapes. But he refuses to feed on any other food or seem to digest . We are completely going crazy with worry as to his growth and wellbeingnow and in future",5.6931818181818175,8.503304681818186,6.042424242424243,71.3336363636364,70.36363636363637,9.854545454545457,32.21212121212121,10.125756701596842,4.074957575757576,303,14,46,9,6,97,55,66,0.122,0.807,0.071,-0.5688,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,6,0,0,0,12,7,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,1,9,6,0,11,0,1,1,0,7,3,0,2,6,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110133875975896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5892823945803355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398071248544184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970855604338907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729081369696905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359836797514295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243052553381888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948802888927808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774705919352156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558275130048869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989054270729753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853866168620292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thatsbologna6,2018/02/25,Please help I am at my wit's end. My 8 month old will only sleep for long periods of time in my bed. I can get him to fall asleep in my arms but when I put him in his crib he wakes up usually within a half hour. We tried the cry it out method and I just don't think it is right for him. What do I do?,-1.5029761904761898,-0.22114613888888526,1.2047619047619058,104.74500000000002,86.77777777777777,5.2253968253968255,13.063492063492065,6.18269132825596,-1.3457841269841273,226,2,68,2,7,78,57,72,0.061,0.887,0.052000000000000005,-0.3919,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,4,0,0,6,9,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,14,0,11,8,0,19,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,9,42,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028703705829732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442100308306302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440546494321969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481229247614972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715330511095261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24400746918456026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22008063216912985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28932643729587104,0.0,0.0,0.20970087527032796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30266265687598515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771792363475667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354671809825068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27592358335527745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667309970837813,0.0,0.0,0.16077714903890705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187198808258002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036715369233753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ranaparvus,2018/02/25,"I was in boarding school for 10 years. I'm inviting parents considering boarding school for their kids to ask me whatever questions they may have about it. I started boarding weekly when I was seven in Kenya, where my mother lived.  I became a full boarder when I was 11, in England, returning home to Kenya every Christmas (3 weeks), Easter (3 weeks) and summer (2 months).  At 15, I entered a Westchester, N.Y. boarding school as a Sophomore and was there until graduation at 18 - my father lived in N.Y.C., so I returned home about once a month except for summer, which I spent with my mother.

These schools, beyond the age of seven, were all girls schools - they are less abundant now - all three I attended have since become co-ed.

I'm happy to answer your questions about boarding school in the event you're considering it for your child, as much as I can.  I wasn't sent to boarding school punitively so I'm unsure of how I might enlighten anyone faced with that as a resource for an unruly child, but I may have insight in terms of life in one.

For full clarity, I'm almost 50 now, so this was a while ago.",6.074836719883888,6.5421940235849085,6.076603773584907,80.54212626995647,66.31132075471697,8.221190130624093,31.402031930333816,7.882392219407189,2.1474952104499274,871,32,161,9,13,275,123,212,0.009000000000000001,0.941,0.05,0.7941,1,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,2,3,0,14,1,0,0,9,0,15,2,1,1,2,18,23,15,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,4,6,4,0,0,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,9,0,22,1,34,11,7,37,0,0,0,0,17,13,0,6,21,110,28,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700997518290123,0.0,0.10958611295148356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652142953301212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230953684849148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086541286470252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220603665134268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649853535787455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21955000172113268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729912956579989,0.0,0.0,0.19327110219322086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160961738884348,0.0,0.0,0.17470435914442006,0.0,0.0804493490199628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654764759093572,0.07415786153542174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151768645426825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451906846256732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7752980223455196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052804974019332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746061302651756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633531206302514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047433231664649
parenting,Atheistinmaking,2018/02/25,"Straight A, 11 yo behaving badly at home, anger issues, mean to his 10 yo sister and becoming a germophobe. Hi All,
Our 11 yo, extremely intelligent, creative and mature son, has had a tough year at school. He says he does not fit in with the boys as he isn't into sports and doesn't fit in with girls as he isn't into things that are important to girls at this age. He is very loving and kind but these days the slightest thing that doesn't go his way, he gets extremely angry and even violent, mostly towards me, his dad. He is constantly fighting with his sister, saying mean things to her. My wife and I have spent HOURS talking to him and trying to calm him, we've even lost our own cool, and things have gotten heated and bad. He doesn't let us give him any consequences. The only thing that has worked is in the last couple of days when we threatened to call the cops and also to tell his teacher. He's had some issues with three girls being mean to him at school and we know that has a something to do with it.

He has also become a germophobe. Most of his arguments with his sister are related to simple things like if she doesn't wash her hands the moment she gets in the house. It's come to the point where she doesn't do it just to make a statement that she has a right to her choice, and we support her in that.
We got him to go to a psychologist this week, but it's just two appointments so far. 
Can anyone please help with any suggestions on how to handle this. The environment of our house is destroyed. Every day is so stressful and a battle!",5.161187969924812,5.2619874412698415,5.560233918128656,84.72736842105266,68.23809523809524,8.790309106098581,26.102756892230566,8.532816995589336,1.4982380952380954,1224,30,258,17,19,392,159,315,0.14800000000000002,0.758,0.094,-0.9751,0,0,1,0,2,0,31,8,0,0,2,11,16,5,1,18,1,28,3,1,2,1,44,45,24,0,1,6,6,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,4,20,27,0,0,5,1,1,3,8,10,0,2,6,4,31,6,41,37,5,35,0,1,0,1,59,20,0,4,12,173,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628936845941233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140618225142754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269816517285697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362103223658834,0.0,0.22965315211036474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616488319099092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956085493042681,0.0,0.11235451613688448,0.0,0.0,0.11504070679762883,0.0,0.20115593534549706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098475221138053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734226481861952,0.0,0.08759911731029515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108639953645116,0.09973739323868903,0.1181769700283197,0.0,0.08315421962328531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696888263127764,0.0,0.10429027780994504,0.0,0.1023893994464249,0.2399345897838681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21703510785293054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826864210691033,0.05713913301876215,0.08474933780102625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631625767235836,0.0,0.05079443699629496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349541777942446,0.0,0.09383688583824866,0.0,0.06940070954879153,0.0,0.0,0.3397610731886756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907378713045833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412771869120092,0.09828515298671338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878971878976427,0.0,0.16536206065915185,0.0,0.21044616065863328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004110156287103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190971588060299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798380015150432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083567060036417,0.09087426734904873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144378541691538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058873119240264,0.0,0.10156347604246498,0.0,0.12506297733824173,0.0,0.0,0.08578604864187123,0.0,0.08252646003630984,0.08339837515322368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569131888727806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695320098524964
parenting,caesarbrothertohuman,2018/02/25,"Co-ed sleepovers? Hey guys. I have 4 girls, two biological and two by marriage. Ages are 7, 9, 11 and 11. My step daughters have two male cousins, ages 11 and 12. They all attend the same school and spend a lot of time together, including sleepovers. One of my oldest started puberty recently and it dawned on me that the co-ed sleepovers should end at some point. Not really sure if that's something that needs to happen immediately. I'm not *too* uncomfortable with it right now, but I know that at some point I will be. My main issue is that their mom has them call pretty regularly (sometimes several weekends in a row) to arrange a sleepover and I feel like we should at least be making them less frequent. I've mentioned to her recently that at some point the sleepovers would become inappropriate and she sort of laughed it off and said she wasn't concerned because they're cousins. How do I address this without offending her? Anyone have experience with this or just thoughts or opinions? Thanks!",4.953065953654188,6.9803275508021425,5.110502673796791,80.6273226381462,70.28342245989305,7.981319073083777,31.71800356506239,8.648137234880735,2.601940035650624,800,36,146,14,15,251,126,187,0.009000000000000001,0.879,0.112,0.9654,0,0,1,0,0,0,26,1,0,4,0,4,5,1,0,6,0,14,0,0,2,2,37,24,13,0,5,8,4,1,1,0,4,0,1,1,3,11,11,0,0,3,1,1,2,4,1,0,4,3,2,18,4,17,15,9,24,0,0,0,0,21,11,0,9,12,97,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458987113881403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911826295429026,0.16519944849181373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273798762336238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324835547975677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631802221549875,0.0,0.0,0.07563218376133646,0.10686004036029527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810779797727833,0.13227317238308614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612274332483356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220530112701094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730772724095468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716763655350244,0.0,0.0,0.09984586614244406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751863840304662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091173536854906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135933462369108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4242045777068816,0.0,0.0,0.15217671825034648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582483064923786,0.0,0.2953845707003133,0.0,0.0,0.12774057260719207,0.14228491133228888,0.0,0.0,0.15138302853042698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898291621158149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151540548288148,0.14793852570125102,0.0,0.10587355181703577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097745693493705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771324264858287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874987673066785,0.08722134861718851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383540153909216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418986112457335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625739848317847,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheSkinnyIndian,2018/02/26,"How do I tell my 6yr old daughter her grandfather passed away? Please see question. My daughter and grandfather had a fantastic relationship. He lived and breathed for her and spoiled her rotten. He recently passed away and we are trying to figure out how to break the news to her. This is the first death in the family since her birth, so she does not understand (at least I think) the topic of death fully. 

How do we approach this? All help would be great, thank you. ",3.2622979797979816,5.895324977272729,3.241515151515152,89.23782828282829,77.63636363636364,7.092929292929293,23.41414141414141,8.167268648758528,1.3922308080808086,370,12,72,7,9,112,63,88,0.107,0.743,0.15,0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,3,1,18,11,8,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,2,13,2,10,8,2,13,0,0,1,0,17,5,0,1,4,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262603643763653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985152995931578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138511209346736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19295590459999684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25009956945580103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205073265062904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031001787710606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23803772020040675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24900983645294286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541205067044482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398400169409588,0.24354873527614004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807676536870577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876501458941204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827423793158014,0.20885019892250525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453543695086368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540141922682286,0.0,0.0,0.2361556810301511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114556874409708,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deviousD,2018/02/26,"Looking for advice on my 8yo daughter’s behavior. My husband and I are really struggling with our oldest daughter. Her behavior lately has been more like a 2 year old. She throws tantrums over little things. She whines, complains and fights over the normal daily stuff every single day. “Hey go brush your hair for school” - high pitched whining “I hate brushing my hair. “It’s going to be cold today put jeans on” whines that she hates jeans. Every small task that should take two minutes takes her 5+ because she’s got to stop and whine. And sometimes she starts having a tantrum - arms flopping, kicking her legs in the floor. Her doctor said it’s normal kid behavior and she likes to be in control. So I started changing things up - “which one of these three jeans do you want to wear?” — doesn’t help. 

We feel like failures. Last night and this morning was particularly rough. Last night she couldn’t find the right hairbrush to use after her shower. She supposedly looked for it but could only find the round brush. She was already 30 minutes past bedtime because of poor planning on my part. After she whines and yelled at me so much I told her forget it and get in the bed. Bigger tantrum erupts. My husband took the round brush and forced her to stay still until he got all the tangled out. 
He raised his voice (out of anger but to also talk above her so she would hear it) and she does this crying shriek sound and recoils. She does this any time we raise our voices but I don’t know why. She never gets a spanking - her punishments are always time out, toy taken away, canceled event etc.

It doesn’t make sense to me how she can act so afraid of us. 

I know she deserves more mommy time than we get and we are working on dong better as a family. 

Last fall I promised her she could sign up for soccer this spring. Now sign ups are tonight and I’m not sure she deserves the extracurricular activity. But I also do t want her to miss out on having a fun childhood; she has plenty of friends but never asks to go play with them or is invited over. It’s like it’s not a thing anymore unless the parents are friends and we are extremely introverted so we literally have no friends. 

I’m at a loss and overwhelmed. Should we let her play soccer?",3.6240335507921735,5.621004645977017,3.724790307548929,89.29775396085743,73.80459770114942,5.990059024541782,24.860205032618822,6.643151254067905,0.789488350419385,1771,57,349,14,37,543,239,435,0.138,0.7659999999999999,0.095,-0.9459,2,0,0,0,1,0,43,10,2,1,5,10,32,8,3,16,0,30,6,5,4,4,64,62,32,0,10,9,5,6,4,3,3,1,6,2,1,20,28,0,2,5,5,1,8,9,19,0,3,9,19,60,13,48,44,7,65,0,8,4,0,65,27,0,1,33,220,80,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904915595843776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021908196158798,0.14811077484808027,0.0770539485169727,0.0,0.0,0.06297389729602502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183828714354922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657224181155271,0.0,0.08700450878208388,0.0,0.0,0.11290108093399565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190071491715814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979627559005282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386326319648696,0.14787352164309964,0.0,0.10172114850950276,0.059721920740398636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478412063088032,0.1620767734490171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327794166398474,0.0,0.0,0.1560457323403987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729881210813759,0.0,0.04682336615460179,0.06615631796213542,0.0,0.0,0.16927676143082335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21463686808879726,0.0,0.14514530781110993,0.0,0.15788696621664933,0.0,0.14812776083515294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285456140750936,0.0,0.0,0.10437144118653813,0.0,0.06207051093562783,0.09784121306172702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178547605251154,0.2264538654370218,0.10446134848167248,0.0,0.0,0.09469386677383744,0.0,0.1809665522502599,0.09281353855174776,0.0,0.0,0.15552807854356995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061813890818804576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807459706568804,0.0,0.1428438313249159,0.0,0.0,0.17380516654989606,0.181464521717338,0.0,0.0,0.0971723230610171,0.0,0.06275086877364586,0.07042951687511467,0.0,0.0,0.10282578594484636,0.10028111062395983,0.08840099884506425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309260001231187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059324495327948826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908331224256797,0.08808761257786915,0.0,0.0,0.09372019452512843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158772645174833,0.0,0.1310911793439844,0.09870354541928997,0.07395367609954911,0.07742109270815299,0.0,0.09680981000436382,0.1060094276659584,0.0,0.0,0.08727817652917813,0.0,0.13925337049300254,0.0744315895143397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456595354245767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161994415856939,0.0,0.08777776656502914,0.088487092943709,0.10288645423413903,0.0,0.0,0.09046065465445262,0.0,0.11139121310028907,0.07998012560520329,0.0,0.0,0.10924048004345498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356070871724353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741681680271808,0.0,0.0,0.06578322650993858,0.0,0.0,0.05963394153430186
parenting,ThexGreatxBeyondx,2018/02/26,"When to get the ""big boy"" bed. My son is only 16 months right now, but my wife put forward the idea of getting him his big boy bed for Christmas. Is two years old a good time to transition to a regular bed, or should we wait a while longer?",3.970588235294116,3.5570566470588254,4.690980392156863,91.7094117647059,70.76470588235293,8.368627450980393,26.803921568627448,7.793537801064563,1.1124980392156858,183,5,45,2,3,59,40,51,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.5927,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,6,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,5,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,8,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515392395908241,0.0,0.0,0.28217964456764577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797859925093654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685334294531693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530243423638508,0.0,0.0,0.2558684725714413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382028221930154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873074700381194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19617373316131792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286410380365079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664844813365208
parenting,koifishkid,2018/02/26,"How Important is School Quality? We are looking at where to buy a house outside of Boston. The housing prices here are very expensive. We're currently looking at a house in a nice neighborhood, walkable, accessible to public transportation, but the local elementary school is only rated 5/10 on GreatSchools. Our kid is only 14 mo so we don't have any experience with elementary schools. He currently goes to a wonderful Montessori day care that he could continue at if we bought this house.

The alternative would be to look in a neighboring school district where the schools are rated 7-10/10, but the houses are easily $200k more for the same house. The neighborhoods are more suburban which isn't as much to our liking (I enjoy being able to walk to the park, grocery store, etc.). 

Our kid is going to a good day care and eventually preschool before starting kindergarten, so I think he'll be starting school in good shape. My question is, how much do you value a ""good"" school district? 5/10 on GreatSchools means ""average"", and Massachusetts schools are already the best in the country, so maybe it's not a big deal? My hesitation is that this is supposed to be our ""forever"" house and I don't want to lock my son into an inferior school district if he would really flourish somewhere else. Anyone going to lower-rated schools and having a good experience?",7.146158536585364,8.351720231707318,7.0989329268292725,71.5513262195122,64.16260162601625,10.540243902439023,35.70020325203252,10.550175099000144,4.0496837398373975,1091,50,181,27,16,348,137,246,0.028,0.787,0.185,0.9927,3,0,0,0,0,0,38,7,1,0,1,8,11,0,0,20,0,26,0,0,2,0,25,41,14,0,6,5,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,2,6,9,0,0,4,0,5,4,4,1,0,0,1,3,14,10,25,32,7,26,0,1,3,0,19,15,0,4,8,115,20,10,0.06741119729926265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438993250534713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04584192579195249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04713547654005163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057361963832385315,0.0,0.0707438926252065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746041673477247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382235574441364,0.0,0.0,0.08694929093762895,0.06949798439979946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056313405327627186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518130433392806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188217230656776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766226738336447,0.226165255968114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5444842961792444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032933705929319816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982528336250818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772360836785961,0.07343055612856543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991099728934616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253850642195736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551596875243118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04318533915226687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6822373057891523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542798482389292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04319437328452098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055621297643594164,0.03976087073100228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310456790189658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577396087931676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AMC8353,2018/02/26,"Ex's family excusing absent parenting. I know its important to be the bigger person in a break up, and I know that there will be tension, and blame. 
However, Im currently going through the hell of not only having a child's father play the father of the year role, while not really being there for his child, but his family is also making excuses for it.

I have a child from a previous relationship, and I know how to be a single parent, my daughter is 4. So Ive been doing the single thing for a while, but I also wasnt given a choice either, I had to step up to the plate and be a parent because the other one didnt want to other than every other weekend. 

However, my sons father doesnt really make time to see him, instead he uses this new found freedom to go out with friends all hours of the night, and only occasionally pops in to take his son, and even then theres been a few occasions where hes called me shortly after to pick him up because ""Hes fussing""... 
Worst of all, is no one in his family seems to really grasp the situation. Instead one of them even told me to take it easy, and not be upset with him for not being present more because ""Hes new to this, hes not used to being a single parent. You are."" 
Yeah I am, but again I wasnt really given much of a choice, I knew my child needed a parent, and stepped up. Its part of being a parent. So why does this 27 year old man get out of being a parent? Do they not understand that for every single hour he spends out, and about with friends is an hour he could have spent with his child? Hell, do they not understand I too would like a break some times? I have no idea how to even approach the situation anymore. I guess just lay down and take it? 

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parenting,rachelah01,2018/02/26,"My daughter told me I make her want to die and she hates me, I feel like the worst mother A while ago, I found out that my ex-husband had been having an affair for years. I made my own post about it on the relationships Reddit, and decided to leave with my 16 year old daughter. I told her about the affair to remove confusion from the situation. We moved several states over to live with my family, and I’ve been working two jobs to make money. It’s really hard. She’s the only person I have, but she’s been making friends easily so I have to let go of her almost everyday. When she’s not at school, she’s with her friends or at a party or at sports. I feel guilty for moving her, but I didn’t feel my ex could’ve cared for her properly without me. He hadn’t cooked for her in over 5 years. My daughter and I fight more often than ever now. She never wants to do her homework, and only maintains her grades to C’s so she can participate. She used to love school, now she forces herself to vomit so she won’t go. I try to give her mental health days, but sometimes I just need her to get up and go. We live with my parents, who call me a bad mother and say my leaving is why my daughter struggles.

Last night, I was arguing with my daughter. I’d caught her coming home drunk, and I was really upset about it. I told her she was grounded, and she told me I wasn’t allowed to police her like that. I said I’m her mother, so I do get to police her. She said I don’t act very much like one, and all my shitty decisions have made her feel suicidal and like she hates herself. She said she hated me, and that she didn’t wonder why her father had cheated on me. I told her she couldn’t talk to me that way, and she said she didn’t care- I deserved whatever she said. I didn’t want to fight with her anymore, so she went upstairs, and hasn’t gone to school today.

I’m a bad parent. I’m a horrible mother. I don’t know if I need someone to talk me out of that, or if I need the confirmation, but I’m here. I don’t know what to do with my daughter. I don’t know if I can afford therapy for her, and I’m not sure if I’d be willing to reach out to my ex again.",1.5896214618619986,2.9027714298056138,3.5104382175741726,91.59588808684781,77.68250539956804,6.5151528930317175,21.255484824371944,7.1686216300943375,0.4066276457883369,1664,42,386,19,38,563,191,463,0.16,0.75,0.091,-0.9888,5,0,0,0,2,1,52,2,0,0,1,16,23,7,3,12,0,34,5,0,7,4,75,86,33,2,11,15,15,5,4,2,2,2,6,2,1,10,28,2,0,11,3,1,11,17,13,0,2,30,11,98,10,53,51,5,44,0,0,0,1,89,13,0,11,21,257,108,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686155442520282,0.0,0.07552932408793668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748033943967645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595692056154126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770194807982194,0.0,0.15380586775638772,0.0,0.0,0.06497374969251107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06022238493525866,0.0,0.0,0.04864422595658288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828139948635866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822811113647817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110593713803541,0.0,0.15255278966481958,0.053885120229041336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827018988105278,0.11654954808870888,0.0,0.0788150711628109,0.07235652705982099,0.12860084145027773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756784729601037,0.22340587405828066,0.0,0.08017545772933403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756595100733427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484973720770956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243582499059041,0.0614831364123034,0.0,0.15973277146514325,0.0,0.07712929850451355,0.0,0.14739944310415773,0.0,0.13320698509351486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807588356671407,0.14274185158968114,0.15104448257697162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601275488139714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033409593122286,0.05544758173403248,0.16778466978849746,0.05817401317078639,0.0,0.0,0.07078320396647571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914803109319142,0.0,0.051111340723043464,0.1147313847382189,0.0,0.0,0.16750568982557287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658600159274459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223829160487966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664103631351917,0.0,0.0,0.08098045493006045,0.0,0.0,0.35874212325151006,0.05998264055346465,0.0,0.2290086920843808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852111296796625,0.0,0.0,0.08478319694147983,0.0,0.0,0.06390911917216746,0.0,0.0745993096862144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885275982894817,0.0,0.08250498199381325,0.0,0.07108912920966999,0.0,0.0,0.1212508577673384,0.0,0.0,0.08625743824419299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149605132952666,0.3603690311724392,0.0,0.0512100354018501,0.0,0.07368129609091725,0.0,0.0,0.06514477856275024,0.0,0.0622352394458095,0.13346653613012893,0.0598705043802183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992165780127645,0.1361224135306224,0.0,0.0,0.07270901242699981,0.08179744955089076,0.054911811763056866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571769749096336
parenting,Imouthkissmycats,2018/02/26,"Help for a soon to be stay at home Dad (xpost from r/daddit) Hi all! My husband is slated to be the primary caregiver in 4 weeks when I go back to work. He says he wants to do this, and I believe that he absolutely can but he's struggling at the moment and I'm hoping to get some resources or suggestions for him. 


Baby is only 4 weeks and has recently been having a lot of days where all she wants to do is feed or be with Mom. This had been really hard on Dad and I think it's making him doubt his abilities. Currently I stay with baby at night while husband sleeps in the guest room. He wakes up in the morning and comes to take her for a few hours so I can get some sleep but lately she's been really cranky and I think he just doesn't have a lot of 'tricks' in his toolbox because he'll rock her, walk with her, change her etc but if those things don't work he brings her upstairs to me. He's been getting really frustrated and the agitation shows in his voice. He says things like 'she's decided to be difficult today' or 'there's nothing wrong with her she shouldn't be crying' 


Husband had no experience with babies prior to this. I've tried to explain to him that babies cry, and it's not a reflection on his abilities but I don't think he's buying it. I think going into this he always imagined taking care of a toddler and above, someone he can play with instead of this little sack of potatoes that screams and doesn't seem to like him (she totally does like him.)


What can I do to help give him more confidence and build his caretaker skills so that we are all comfortable with me leaving for an 8 hour workday??",3.852965373600625,4.660100604790422,4.911801614162979,85.71220124967456,71.39520958083833,8.323665712054153,26.198385837021608,8.587818076936951,1.6211186149440246,1278,39,272,21,23,420,170,334,0.084,0.7809999999999999,0.136,0.9605,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,0,3,9,14,2,2,12,0,30,4,3,1,4,54,53,23,0,5,10,6,1,3,1,2,0,4,2,0,16,21,1,0,9,3,1,5,7,7,0,0,6,5,35,7,43,40,11,38,0,0,0,0,51,15,0,11,19,178,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455900949789298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738346319864472,0.0,0.0692749339250831,0.0,0.0,0.12803529582485926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158653010035891,0.0,0.12021786480672556,0.09789227388097484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24966017272762994,0.07328950403209833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944862953115008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267405506750435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116340219447518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811931515569482,0.10901548698570143,0.12917040961056953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180065402337878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523432905403482,0.0,0.11399190468229535,0.11287186347185985,0.22382839335118426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281928030082118,0.12033016630588007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655880323833114,0.11389885193897108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322824234867814,0.0,0.0,0.07585672637852645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309580167979934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664505006485413,0.0,0.10904228928863983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642964420777266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218405375395042,0.0,0.1122074825015068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074490405594126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345514812467813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744756889724585,0.0,0.09628825528927064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422538927183595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880299348547264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708888517265406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509970100162113,0.2912680861097025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771905686959236,0.0,0.0,0.07715526400641362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405765426424746,0.0,0.182313056034798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546504217007738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424937422368565,0.0,0.0
parenting,andymcadam3,2018/02/26,"Handling my parents and presents to my children I just got a text from my wife, blasting my parents for mailing us a present for our youngest child (M 6mths), but nothing for our other son (M 3y). She's really upset that they have sent a present to just him and not the other one, It's not a Christmas present,.

MY wife is furious, and I'm not happy either, but I don't know the best way of explainign this to them so they understnad it's a problem. I had similar problems when I was growing up, some years my older sister would get better presents than me and my brother, other years it would swap round, they never treated us all equally, and now it appears they're making the same mistake with their grand children.

they get very defensive and I don't want it to explode into some huge argument where they end up saying ""well if that's the thanks we get for buying things then we'll never buy anything!!!"". We've had similar responses when we asked if they could make a change to something they were making for our wedding reception, it was basically their way or nothing.",9.359149388623074,6.866505478468902,8.710685805422647,73.97257841573631,61.20095693779904,11.202764486975012,41.4040404040404,9.150863307647796,3.7884254120148864,851,38,160,10,9,270,124,209,0.146,0.7609999999999999,0.093,-0.9344,2,0,1,0,0,0,26,8,0,10,2,8,13,2,1,10,0,13,0,0,3,3,40,27,15,0,9,11,7,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,13,10,0,1,1,0,2,3,7,6,1,1,7,2,33,7,17,16,7,25,0,0,1,0,35,5,0,6,15,118,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083469994448655,0.0,0.1372731827409606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409683181552428,0.12986578111158564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533453923734233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723774580799745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005438622550652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301495022679269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743931285963174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631118296350272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069801568120838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940453898180285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265001685363246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817889635831939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950084803243738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326091195263611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28100719428075144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940678226387577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677102415753678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304263344249264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518818448940434,0.0,0.0,0.09755226901922301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532547161002995,0.0,0.0,0.12115626424113707,0.0866085252381343,0.23310544680256054,0.0,0.0,0.13202449104477545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20861820567487604,0.0,0.0,0.18911699137054286
parenting,cocoon23,2018/02/26,"Parents disowned me when I fell pregnant as a teen – now they want to establish a relationship with my family I had my son when I was 18. My husband was 19 at the time. Needless to say, we didn’t plan the pregnancy. Teenage stupidity mixed with Vodka and out came out my boy nine months later. I come from a very religious family in a small town. My father is an ex pastor and my mother has always been heavily involved with the local church.

From when I was little, I was raised with church and religion. I used to be very passionate about Christianity, but as I approached my late teens, I will admit my faith began to wane. Because of that, I began to drift from my parents.

Sex before marriage was an absolute no-no in my family, so you can imagine their reaction when I told them I was with child. It also didn’t help that my husband is atheist. And while they will always refute it, I know they weren’t too fond of the fact that my husband is a mix of Hispanic and Black (my younger sisters told me of the racial epithets that came out of their mouths regarding my husband and my choice to be with him). They kicked me out the house and disowned me when I told them of the pregnancy.
I moved in with my husband and his wonderful family (his family were so supportive) throughout the pregnancy and when our child was born. Couldn't have made it without them.

Shortly after our son was born, we moved out and got our own apartment. My parents didn’t get in contact when my son was born. They didn’t get in contact when I married my husband at 21 years old. All the way to when my son was 6 and we migrated to a different state. In the beginning, I did try to get back in touch with them. But eventually I gave up. The hurt and regret over everything that happened faded with time.

Throughout all these years, we (as a family) have bumped into my parents from time to time. When we go back to our hometown and go to family functions (weddings, etc). It’s really awkward – there is no relationship. It’s like when you bump into distant relatives and don’t really know what to say. It’s been almost 20 years of this kind of “relationship” between my parents and my family.

My family and I were in our home state over the weekend. My youngest sister was getting married. My parents were there. After the church ceremony, they took me aside and spoke to me. I can tell it was very hard for them – especially my dad (he has always had trouble expressing himself). They said they regretted all the time that has passed and that they want to “make amends.” They said they were sorry for everything that happened.

Our son is now 17. I’m so proud of the young man he has become. I still can’t get over the fact he’s pretty much a man now. He won a scholarship to a college in the fall and I can't get over the fact he will be out of the house come September. Time truly flies. 

A point my mother especially reiterated was her desire to know my son. She went as far proposing the possibility of him staying with them for a week during the upcoming summer break (which for me is too big a step - even just thinking about it; way too many things to work out right now).

I told them I needed time to process. It came out of the blue – I am accustomed to a cold distance between us, so them extending an olive branch came as a shock. I have spoken to my husband thoroughly about it. We’re yet to tell our son, although we will do soon.

Regarding family estrangements that have gone on for a long time, have any of you experienced anything similar? 

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parenting,Cookie_tester,2018/02/26,"Insomnia in children My almost 9 year old has been struggling with insomnia for the last few months. Several times a week, he will either have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep from bedtime at 9 until 11 or 12. 

There has been a lot of inside recess lately, so we felt he might need more exercise and outdoor time after school. Didn’t help. We turned off the nightlight and shut his door to keep down light and noise.  No luck. He isn’t allowed to use screens before bed.  We let his teacher know and asked if anything is going on at school. She hasn’t seen anything. We’ve talked with him numerous times to see if he opened up about anything making him nervous. He says that everything is fine. 

He gets upset the later it gets and sometimes cries in bed. Tonight, he was still up at midnight. Obviously, this is affecting our sleep too!  I’m stressed out thinking that he is upset or stressed about something, and he is hyper aware that he isn’t sleeping well anymore. He’s been a solid sleeper since he was an older baby. 

Any ideas what might be happening?  What techniques can I teach him to relax when he can’t sleep? ",3.7265716374269013,5.905439625,3.866832358674465,87.58771929824562,74.0462962962963,6.2140350877192985,27.57212475633528,7.0608816371341465,1.4054759259259255,893,35,167,9,19,275,145,216,0.11,0.8270000000000001,0.063,-0.8642,1,0,1,0,0,0,23,4,0,0,0,8,11,0,6,7,0,24,8,5,4,1,35,40,14,0,3,6,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,3,1,7,13,0,1,4,2,0,2,6,7,1,0,8,6,12,4,24,27,4,32,0,0,3,0,28,13,0,10,16,96,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619180377033798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569858512245691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497894534421455,0.0,0.0,0.3111135766914275,0.0,0.11781260097741443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072345686913515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842812464531956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325952734810747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099989968674445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316815172706037,0.0,0.07162062481454026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114399328849042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446920380370132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422623425765092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201323378164607,0.0,0.0,0.06925783267559141,0.10272391523447387,0.14215715001377746,0.0,0.0,0.12886498614092504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713852724126792,0.0,0.0,0.08411998004798657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673766812096434,0.0,0.0,0.10058874073184673,0.0,0.0,0.0934429568969788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223781530061182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021693822569873,0.0,0.2550799112988012,0.1004224018801254,0.0,0.0,0.14236783243373713,0.0,0.1042458536108814,0.0,0.3783359605210077,0.0,0.0,0.0970171041515644,0.12463796761063545,0.0,0.0,0.13432159279011682,0.10064051422041907,0.0,0.28871320445194426,0.13174448620113488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012908869179523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074915291592158,0.0,0.0,0.2204515336158948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707463405225545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088416613325114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108642547799188,0.0,0.11330799193354164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115337678310676
parenting,subtlechicken,2018/02/26,"Do tantrums get worse with potty-training? My daughter is 32 months and for about the last 3 weeks we’ve been really intensively potty-training (before that she was still in pull-ups we were just getting her used to sitting on & using the potty). Since then, her tantrums have also gotten worse. As far as temperament goes, she’s generally very cheerful but also very stubborn/strong-willed, so normally we’d butt heads every so often over something but most of the time she’s happy. But since about the time we switched to panties, she has been crying at the drop of a hat & throwing several significant tantrums every day. 
Have other people experienced this? Her dad & grandmother agree that it’s not just me imagining things, and it makes sense on some level. How do you deal with it when your toddler is going through a phase where they’re being a real 💩 (pun intended)?",6.300521064301549,7.52672481707317,6.053813747228383,78.21446784922395,66.07317073170732,8.646563192904656,30.762749445676274,8.841846274778883,2.4994463414634143,706,26,124,11,11,220,117,164,0.108,0.815,0.077,-0.5095,0,0,1,0,0,0,28,3,2,0,0,13,5,3,0,8,0,13,2,2,5,0,24,20,14,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,5,1,14,2,17,13,2,21,0,0,0,1,15,8,1,3,9,79,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373258927493017,0.0,0.482323287131225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626419037620254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299328935564575,0.09569565867814954,0.15297779480946574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500405036391835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504944318411434,0.0,0.0843302707028561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579579467462449,0.0,0.0,0.152285197274448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095308581588547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904773530438933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184390077235672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538520125583726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287105555099776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889392599616254,0.09505884247819613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763212942647346,0.0,0.2454902083700111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423355600561062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849996882685053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857999806905487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304826698387898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563129486146521,0.0,0.24486533045359865,0.0,0.0,0.11902501056109875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024327489004973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agoyal2,2018/02/26,"Managing mountains of craft and trinkets? How do you parents manage the mountain of crafts, papers, trinkets that your kids produce. I feel bad throwing it but don't have a good system for storing them. Also, my kids usually don't miss anything I discard but will throw a fit every once in a while looking for that one scrap of paper with a star that they drew at a friends place...",5.4197260273972585,6.578078917808219,5.2985205479452055,83.07901369863015,68.04109589041096,6.935890410958903,33.77808219178082,6.742157984588678,2.1647501369863016,303,14,54,2,5,94,57,73,0.07200000000000001,0.778,0.15,0.7019,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,2,2,1,2,4,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,2,0,7,8,6,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,2,0,1,0,2,7,2,8,7,0,9,0,1,1,0,8,4,0,0,2,37,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514350504483321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587341707419432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26252076969041593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264905552101118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897608318258855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242913822717417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637137505790246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640267753297865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348383690745456,0.21305361304012949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34911716183985586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284934740245057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462802434664011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dbfnoab,2018/02/26,"I'm missing out on my daughter age 13s life First of all I feel like I need to explain how we got into this situation in the first place. My daughter started high school this fall and was adamant about going to a school in the city 2 hours away from us. She has always been passionate about school and I didn't want to hold her back so I let her go. The school has not been a disappointment, it's held everything it promised and more, making my daughter a very happy kid. But, her life has become centered around a school 2 hours away from home. I work 1 hour away from home in the opposite direction of her school, so I can't pick her up from sports practice, I can't watch her in debate club, I can't pick her up from her friend's houses. I can't even pick her up late in the evening because she has two younger siblings and the drive there and back is 4 hours and I need to be home to make dinner for them. It's just impossible for me to be two places at once. As a result, I have never met most of her friends or their parents. 

My daughter soon started asking to spend the night at friend's house because she didn't want to make the 2 hours commute home just to get a couple hours of sleep before waking up early to make the commute back to school again. In the beginning I tried to call their parents to make sure it was alright but soon it turned into ""I'll be sleeping at Sally's or Amy's"". One time she asked to sleep at a kid with a gender neutral names place and I said fine. Next day I found out it was a 16 year old boy, who lives in a cellar attached to his uncle's house, under loose supervision by his uncle. His family is currently living in Spain and won't move back until Christmas. 

This boy became her boyfriend and soon enough she was asking to spend more and more nights there. I said yes because there was always a reason to say yes. Either she had an exam later that week and needed to study and didn't have time to spend 4 hours on the commute each day, or she wanted to see a movie with her friends that ended at 9 pm and if she took the commute she would be home at midnight and have to wake up at 5 am. 

In the weekends she has sports games during the day and in the evening there's usually something she wants to do with her friends, so there's rarely time to come home. She always asks me to come and visit them instead, always wants me to watch her games, and I do. I go there as often as I can, we cook together, they show me around the city, I watch every game I can. But reality is, I only make it up there about every third weekend, because I also have to take her siblings to their games at home, and they need rides to their friends at night.

I find it difficult to explain how it came that my daughter is basically living with her boyfriend 2 hours away. It wasn't an active decision, it feels more like it just happened. Before anyone worries pregnancies, that's been dealt with. I know they are healthy, they cook every day, they do their homework and they go to sleep early. They're good at taking care of themselves, that's not my worry. It's that I don't see her enough when I know she wants to see me more. She's always so happy when we will come and visit them in the weekend. I'm guilt-struck I can't come more often. 

I call her each night and catch up on her day, but I am not there to see her. Is it okay? Did I mess up?",4.6600551808706365,4.6033466824034335,5.013446760678523,88.76138412017168,69.30042918454936,7.6871857755977935,26.3710402615982,6.868970318607317,0.9263409360310648,2637,68,586,18,42,836,264,699,0.029,0.875,0.096,0.9926,3,0,1,0,0,0,60,4,0,14,3,39,22,0,0,31,4,50,12,6,13,3,99,108,42,0,12,15,7,2,2,6,3,2,3,8,4,24,42,3,2,10,13,3,17,15,4,0,6,22,12,96,18,100,78,13,117,0,2,7,1,92,48,0,7,54,387,120,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03664630478193312,0.19065071294784092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032041965673374806,0.0,0.0,0.08158808418705739,0.17136107821111682,0.0,0.17221670736655115,0.14094665032669795,0.0,0.11173818856489576,0.05061020728106395,0.07798754615381445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358507287866648,0.052411690533157716,0.046721729340328325,0.0,0.0,0.15789701610957782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050704586140320834,0.0,0.14776694753369382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040587424660617766,0.09469912747633936,0.0,0.09080111150724414,0.0,0.11582883432616778,0.0,0.04118463254998904,0.0,0.043199812827891496,0.0,0.046341080823528745,0.06547490130350404,0.0,0.0,0.04188329848557902,0.07795758961958116,0.0,0.05024484161133346,0.2124260869876501,0.0,0.023941716116059133,0.0,0.10417380983487763,0.03843590804732106,0.036650507539361984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04052297228076779,0.09756331249209273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048416719415205714,0.3217640838108046,0.0,0.3610278322242699,0.15862799022705726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050368537759936514,0.0,0.05169269309836056,0.0,0.0,0.046859255261249434,0.06473522701403762,0.04477564468824738,0.0,0.12139317168909262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353160477567326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048704814344209035,0.0,0.1359148827226972,0.03534313141175065,0.0,0.048735498920220166,0.1720149560380129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048085719231637084,0.04880222110605344,0.031052264290276545,0.034852042921213675,0.0,0.0,0.10176667011678917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436323847432535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047115820647426566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718030140217795,0.036441947734998384,0.0,0.3246420351819668,0.14606664244707895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05150931674962783,0.1834327216360249,0.0,0.0,0.035278390075437316,0.0,0.0,0.06487046357552663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0431896013126702,0.0,0.06890952345948337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801629286262768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091335675833232,0.031112225410587488,0.04984453465018533,0.08952890090921661,0.0,0.055121936260066284,0.0,0.050469858197592116,0.03781049520715538,0.16217293834172478,0.0,0.0367581199266987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03336120844029436,0.09307519863346338,0.0,0.032552826365196734,0.0,0.0,0.02950985300097945
parenting,Kacidillaa,2018/02/26,"Did your baby's personality stay the same through childhood? I mean, once they start to have a personality. My baby is 8 months old and he's just the sweetest. He's always been a pretty chill little dude since he was a newborn. Pretty easy to console, decent sleeper. Since he started smiling and laughing, it's been non stop. He's just a pretty easy baby. 

I'm just wondering if my luck will continue and he'll end up being a chill toddler (if there is such a thing) and kid. I know kids will be kids, I just have this weird fear that he's going to be a chaotic mess even though he's done nothing to make me think that so far. ",2.3973572938689216,4.10172787596899,3.8937138830162077,88.03414376321354,76.44186046511628,5.931219168428471,24.13037350246653,6.574015621080383,0.6835519379844959,492,16,103,4,11,163,80,129,0.097,0.7190000000000001,0.184,0.9122,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,1,1,0,9,5,0,1,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,18,24,8,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,5,4,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,0,8,2,6,13,1,13,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,4,8,58,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437588502620058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775630196412247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536801322614013,0.0,0.0,0.1146030405772086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952492409245245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861086905282344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535765830778642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390460876732802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582060836132305,0.0,0.0,0.18900543644798912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384956242169334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16648944510867753,0.0,0.1820716577411471,0.18478461880597402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303007974125081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5295722527272179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870618413715779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456253754828308,0.1849407071202176,0.0,0.14506380262879054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527366389072817,0.11117948447025804,0.17047466053066404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816636412841448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Enrampage,2018/02/26,"My 2 y and 3 m old daughter just said ""Daddy doesn't love me, he hates me. He bit me on the arm."" Obviously I didn't bite her on the arm. Neither my wife or I have ever heard her say the word ""hate"" before, nor do we recollect saying hate in that context. Earlier today she said I kicked her.

She is a prolific speaker and has been putting together long sentences for awhile. She easily has hundreds of words in her vocabulary and says things like this:

""Daddy, do you hear that sound? It's a motorcycle.""

She's pretty imaginative and is always making up elaborate stories about her stuffed animals and dolls. She runs a little kitchen and serves things like ice cream, hamburgers, fries, ketchup, and cooked strawberries to name a few.

Not sure how to handle this.

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parenting,kfillion1025,2018/02/26,ER or minute clinic when pedestrian is closed? Just spent 4 hours at a hospital just so a doctor could tell me my 2 yr old just had a virus. We waited forever for a 5 minute diagnosis. Next time my 2 yr old has a fever should I go to a minute clinic? Where do you take your kid when they're sick?,0.7563020833333312,2.464230359375001,2.7668750000000024,94.22395833333336,81.34375,6.7666666666666675,16.916666666666664,7.793537801064563,0.06721666666666648,229,4,56,4,6,77,49,64,0.07,0.93,0.0,-0.5913,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,7,0,0,0,6,0,6,5,0,0,0,9,10,4,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,7,0,3,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,7,30,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25020732928825873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207562979290873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810029231980848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086148167022385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332817189963961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6576762942729987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356217227958908,0.0,0.273906727771672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827335942265705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,What_Are_We_d0ing,2018/02/26,"Need Advice About Nanny References Hello fellow parents! I have a quick question and I would value your advice.

I am looking to get a nanny job this coming fall. My son is headed to Kindergarten and I am ready for a full-time-ish job. The only issue is that I haven't been a nanny since before I was a mom (5 years) and I've had the same job for the past 5 years. 

I currently work in a childcare center. I work with kids ages 6mos to 12 years, but most frequently with kids ages 1yr to 5yrs old. I have my boss from this job as a reference as well as the two other teachers that I work with on the most frequent basis because they see my interactions with the children more than my boss does. 

If you were hiring a nanny would those 3 references be adequate or would you expect her to have more than that? I have a letter of recommendation from the last nanny job I had 5 years ago, but I don't have the families phone number and when I tried to reach out via email, it went unanswered. I did not leave them under negative circumstances. Should I include that letter even though I do not have their contact information?

Also, would you even consider hiring a nanny who hasn't had a nanny job in the past 5 years? Would it make you feel more comfortable knowing that the nanny had worked with young children in those 5 years?

I am just trying to cover my basis and leave no potential question without an answer.

Thanks! :)

**I apologize if there are any typos or formatting errors, I'm doing this on my phone!**",3.105679875679876,5.108670265993268,4.240757575757577,85.00421328671331,75.2962962962963,6.858793058793059,22.534188034188038,7.748469712250963,1.0733222999223,1187,33,228,17,26,387,157,297,0.05,0.8590000000000001,0.092,0.7757,8,0,0,0,0,0,32,0,5,3,4,10,3,0,0,22,0,32,1,1,3,0,45,43,17,0,10,10,3,1,0,1,6,0,0,0,4,14,12,0,0,9,0,0,3,8,0,1,1,9,3,34,3,31,27,6,30,0,0,2,0,30,8,0,8,19,164,48,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299645845263565,0.08300104394174229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487921354312024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367444783282354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707852218838984,0.0,0.07967578391470459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065754826745516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193989493281068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368897508152248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826996416176934,0.0,0.04734425077033591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891999027762784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960956739618386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772974867747088,0.5575048064987715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145889220241933,0.07632434739073522,0.0,0.19829013694478456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862912213618804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250153691113959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966321061493307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942855212579589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825331258215718,0.0,0.0,0.07121300714603421,0.0,0.0,0.1039696671818893,0.0,0.1787688242596616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097834037206146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461431225061475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774551546918693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620576545726617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199509861260044,0.0,0.05459883869662969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714291299949074,0.0,0.09146698049576787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418836566677085,0.08679981555223333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026000049348676,0.0,0.27266716966114496,0.0,0.0,0.33257514657158554,0.0,0.0,0.36178402122155773
parenting,your_name0o,2018/02/26,"My daughter (7) is constantly hungry after every meal. What can I give her to satiate her hunger without her constantly snacking? My oldest, who will be 8 soon in April is constantly hungry lately. After literally every meal she will come up to me less than a half hour later telling me she is still hungry. She will ask me for things like fruit or a sandwich or chips, after she has already eaten, but she's still hungry even after that. I know it's probably due to her growing, but she has been snacking A LOT lately. I want to make sure that her hunger is being satiated without compromising nutritional value. Suggestions on what I could give her would be great, thanks! ",6.481190476190478,7.333338031746035,6.941388888888893,73.34875000000002,65.50793650793649,9.474603174603176,30.829365079365076,9.516144504307137,2.8882412698412696,536,19,91,10,8,175,77,126,0.05,0.813,0.13699999999999998,0.9088,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,16,9,0,1,1,14,25,4,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,9,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,1,21,4,15,15,2,22,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,3,18,73,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203434896965558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574106866816566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429000393527848,0.0,0.5054023354027609,0.0,0.12446971812802556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296738065586808,0.0,0.2626970414131217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990979695520452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187512743802266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352547566983876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567598426688447,0.0,0.3517133955102221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616257291672324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253661599975355,0.0,0.0,0.10406132864249916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680815092887283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489963887073415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692948285271046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362593705631696,0.14352745441893186,0.0,0.0,0.103569915507056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195109177149656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005550275660767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107435539542545,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,libraalissa,2018/02/27,"9yr old stepdaughter bullied/ talks about suicide My SO and I are heartbroken. Yesterday we received a call from my SD’s school that her classmates reported she told them that she is suicidal. This was reported to my SO and her BM immediately. Needless to say we are stunned. We talked to her and asked her what is going on. Apparently she has been experiencing bullying from three popular girls. They call her ugly, weird, invite her to hang out with them just to ditch her. Our daughter has always had a bit of trouble socializing and now it’s getting out of hand. We talked to the suicide help line and they gave us some good tools to mitigate this in the interim but I’m still afraid of what she might do. 
My SD confided in us yesterday that she took her dad’s beard scissors and contemplated cutting her arms in the bathroom, but her heart told her not to. 
We sent a letter to the teacher and vice principal this morning requesting their plan of action. 

Has anyone else been in this situation? I am terrified and don’t know what to do. My SO is not doing well and I need to step into the decision making role for him right now as he is emotionally drained (this is among many things currently happening in his family). 

Thanks for any advice. ",3.9869077757685334,6.2629886793248986,4.893285111512959,80.08126582278481,73.59915611814347,8.902471368294153,28.58529234478602,9.48565724429506,2.8121823990355628,995,41,186,26,21,323,143,237,0.131,0.818,0.051,-0.9592,2,0,0,0,0,2,21,8,0,5,1,9,8,1,1,8,0,20,3,3,1,0,29,34,15,3,1,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,13,18,0,0,2,0,0,7,3,4,1,1,9,3,39,4,32,24,2,25,0,0,0,0,52,11,0,2,7,135,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069406836390846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128655602179363,0.0,0.0,0.09095118789144307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351761535069557,0.13703756013343665,0.0,0.0,0.12503352292415576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601490288521451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731372019197398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172678765731818,0.1504451260286211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608288519008629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987624359255948,0.0,0.07601036697515844,0.11217896246018584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827026385490168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848847171027092,0.08964645583370147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350275554294065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892758275978119,0.13559644024771228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188231191763448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917022454600688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034288160736771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142175012138795,0.0,0.10635939397886472,0.0,0.13535708265614352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033498630739542,0.0,0.1363361869633761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680893162090474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4388859745484609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224975000906344,0.0,0.12313442893159696,0.0,0.0,0.08885423664821099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555981624722745,0.14859561869810148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217575404144363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025281921777213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grznsfw,2018/02/27,"Trip to Disneyland! Hello. One of my new years resolution is to take my daughter to Disneyland (Cali)  and coincidentally, at school she just got asked what wish would she ask a genie and asked for that too. 

So I am starting to plan my trip and really lost and don't even know where to start.  I have never been myself, so I'm a bit confused about which park to visit,  and where to stay. Also completely lost about the little tips like fastpass and stuff like that. 

Is there anyone here that has experience going to disney that can point me in the right direction? I'm trying to get all the DOs and DON'Ts from people that go there every other year. 

Im planning to go around June, my daughter is 6years old. My goal is to save as much budget as I can, as I just purchased a new home and money is going towards that too.

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! ",3.481428571428573,5.282000470588237,4.485714285714288,84.53000000000003,73.70588235294117,6.974789915966388,22.142857142857146,7.7094869923839395,0.8799327731092434,680,17,135,9,14,221,109,170,0.044,0.841,0.115,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,5,16,8,0,1,6,0,16,0,0,0,2,19,35,14,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,9,0,0,1,0,3,7,3,3,0,1,4,0,13,5,23,28,3,26,0,2,0,0,10,9,0,1,11,93,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099735685773239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351735847671214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615619720191776,0.0,0.0,0.12242070278067098,0.3856839604621997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013468578724967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441856276246792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082973324468427,0.0,0.11586534514006695,0.0,0.0,0.13451957101730128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184778860558719,0.0,0.31261994048265085,0.0,0.10998618082390832,0.15161473349280566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217581365043108,0.0,0.1379423606564425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485436779917202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557662190558398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436927572966365,0.137829756913962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002355767181599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109198843171363,0.0,0.10606281613320412,0.2656326267497137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14430262950051873,0.0,0.09318615715087042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953380766944793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999951965967427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809793159147564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744012643442996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917615717372556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467273486692985,0.14657652195969162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15742588714728128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339686700878943,0.0,0.0,0.12660864358325513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336609721346956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813959439424574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953785247359303,0.0,0.0,0.17711492943266238
parenting,GrayScale15,2018/02/27,"Wondering if toddler’s itchy butt-crack is normal Title sums up it.  I’m not a medical term person so please delete if my terminology is not allowed.  Back story:  My son is two and some change.   About two months ago my son started potty training and has been in big boy underwear ever since except at night when we put a diaper on him.  98% of the time he wakes up dry.

Ever since going to big boy underwear he says his butt-crack itches and will scratch back there when he takes his underwear off to potty or get in the bathtub.  So we started putting diaper cream up his crack after bath time where he said it itched.  That seems to fix the itch.  At first I thought maybe his booty was just getting used to underwear instead of a diaper and he would adjust over a few days. Then maybe we weren’t wiping well after he went #2 and that was causing itching/irritation back there.  I don’t think that is the case.  Maybe TMI, but this is the parenting sub, but times where wiping clean doesn’t come easy we use baby wipes on him.  So I don’t think hygiene is the problem.

I’ll ask the pediatrician about it on our next visit and since this isn’t a problem per se I don’t want to bring in him just for a itchy butt-crack when it doesn’t appear to be a problem and diaper cream relives the itch.  Maybe he just has dry skin up his crack?  Should I try something else like hydrocortisone?

I guess I’m asking if this is normal?",3.415944055944056,4.825887797202803,4.333146853146854,87.15048951048954,73.12587412587413,7.297902097902098,23.48951048951049,7.84624498591911,0.9984951048951056,1114,30,234,15,22,360,152,286,0.061,0.883,0.056,-0.3096,3,0,1,0,0,0,26,5,0,0,1,22,5,0,0,15,0,23,7,6,4,2,47,47,20,0,11,12,3,2,1,0,3,5,2,2,3,10,12,0,0,6,1,0,8,9,3,1,3,7,6,22,2,28,36,3,49,0,0,2,0,31,18,0,9,24,139,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470538749626928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975810350496892,0.0,0.0,0.24645534323102194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975199415080822,0.1130203742176764,0.09203142515327788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890163275859687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924938964835198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328206646906992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087629710779872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163682805744768,0.0,0.06071846333116865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769403582482288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05219562084639349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4293322825320372,0.0,0.0,0.10762798453625412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527702434138938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362336114246133,0.10026016920339063,0.20935699453525305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863088885038775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328676819646513,0.0,0.11727597518807605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30668843913982696,0.0,0.21480327688966594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016273464948406,0.08496181797598218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726124794009923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26513234377481915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224906577088406,0.0,0.0,0.15124088751788334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032883466535383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369148759325798,0.0,0.08481739037348322,0.18689418578542072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253594817116266,0.0,0.2087302862611096,0.0,0.0,0.18454735461006155,0.0,0.0,0.06301578503347986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606013869832036,0.09903984065849572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586118842914035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589460718059833,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justyouandme2014,2018/02/27,"Daycare or Nanny? My son (3yr) is currently going to daycare 3.5 days a week and that seems to be working well with my work schedule/salary vs. cost. We're thinking of expanding our family this summer so once the baby is born we'll have about 14-16 months of daycare needed for 2 kids. 

My question is, what childcare options have worked for you without breaking the bank? I don't have family nearby to help out. No neighbors that I know of that could or would be interested in watching the kids for 1-2 days a week. All of my friends work or have their own soccer team to take care of. So my only other options are daycare or nanny...i think. I leave it to you good people for some good constructive suggestions/experiences. ",4.76063829787234,5.995520985815606,5.391269503546102,81.52350000000003,69.63829787234043,7.909503546099291,29.702836879432624,8.238735603445708,2.1225909219858154,573,22,107,8,10,185,94,141,0.024,0.835,0.141,0.9482,2,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,2,1,5,4,6,0,0,5,0,14,0,0,0,1,21,22,7,0,3,6,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,7,3,0,0,5,2,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,13,6,19,17,3,12,0,0,1,0,13,2,0,9,8,69,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737686361530838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607753525582,0.0,0.0,0.21983142579673887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667169775778886,0.3213396705627356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167674491919432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686146635336736,0.2859036005297566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423819553815025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936659690806274,0.0,0.0,0.18046480444044966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360386474029661,0.0,0.0,0.12637451640324632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150645369028104,0.0,0.12962259854411204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815734970302764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909248816436826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515654675668353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281450202997689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841421737054026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734234565971244,0.0,0.1532404705580034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429211849692454,0.0,0.4963113971113092,0.0,0.0,0.12107129424093857,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MeltedCheeses,2018/02/27,"4 year old son misbehaving @ school. Great everywhere else. I'll try not to make this too long. He's a rockstar. And not because I'm a biased Dad. He listens (as well as he can) for a 4 year old, he's nice, says please/thank you. Cleans up after his messes, plays nice with other kids, respects authority. 

At school, he talks back to teachers, won't even try to nap and is disruptive to other napping kids (naps great at home/grandma's, etc), and lied to a teacher about throwing rocks on the playground. He does NOT lie at home. Anyone have kids that are really pretty great at home, and not good when he parents aren't around? I feel like it's usually the oppositte. 

For discipline at home, he's basically ignored. Time out to the max. He sits on the stairs with zero stimulation. He's not talked to, touched, given any toys or anything for the set time (currently 3ish minutes). If he's bad at dinner, he eats by himself, and never any dessert. Again though, he's awesome at home. What gives? 


EDIT1: It very well could be an attention thing. He also goes to a daycare 3 days a week. There he's one of 4-7 kids max. One teacher. Not sure how to get him used to being one of many instead of one of few or...just one.",1.5564754098360645,3.7714018934426257,2.918039344262297,91.52532131147542,81.29508196721311,5.707278688524591,22.874754098360647,6.918507183188421,0.6632654426229503,938,32,199,11,25,304,149,244,0.078,0.774,0.14800000000000002,0.9558,2,0,0,0,0,0,52,0,1,0,0,14,15,0,0,12,0,9,3,0,4,2,28,17,13,0,2,8,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,5,4,8,9,3,2,2,6,0,1,9,3,2,6,1,4,5,12,36,12,2,32,0,0,0,0,31,13,0,2,17,104,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266025842880878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058230753564005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227460391678993,0.0,0.08505987283697114,0.09201599129495934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948063665632983,0.08630473208427536,0.06300981502843643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252784799981144,0.0,0.0,0.06666131356519835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045464782926894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576731116854814,0.08634746827692613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527832943547747,0.0682710338507055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522640105126192,0.07384335602940012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054003492389178016,0.09915629335182692,0.0,0.08669692922774119,0.0,0.34187795888387035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184132572784673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05049849341251656,0.0,0.0,0.0914740034906906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689963602555386,0.10479500546157997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797207902287317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169265360900373,0.0,0.35021105215216314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477363545041963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515848157326113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621770927870436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219930591499072,0.0,0.20922003837712708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741947045374688,0.0,0.0,0.1661603466954539,0.0,0.09516380466052053,0.0,0.0,0.06867053587707211,0.0,0.10155473416026513,0.0,0.12054491234679678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035492025937632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927342198399657,0.1138409874147815,0.08528623346181291,0.0,0.0,0.0829124712731208,0.0,0.18587353508211926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312622321799314
parenting,Brokendad83,2018/02/27,"My 7 year old touched my 3 year old’s privates. Mom and I need guidance. A little back story is about 3 years ago the 7 year old (girl) was molested by her 11 year old cousin (boy) it was a one time incident. We called CPS and took her to psychiatrist who said felt like she was ok emotionally and physically.

Yesterday we noticed our 3 year old (girl) was peeing her pants. She was recently potty trained but this was standing in the middle of the room peeing her pants. After the 3rd time warning flags went off and I pulled my wife aside and told her that is usually a sign of sexual abuse. Earlier that day the 3 year old was at a babysitter for a few hours. So we started questioning her if anyone there touched her Pee Pee and said no. Then she peed again in the middle of the room about 20 mins later. I sat her down and asked her if ANYONE had touched her Pee Pee and she said yes and pointed at her 7 year old sister. She was adamant that her sister touched her.

We had the rest of the girls (we have 4) go upstairs and play and started talking to the 7 year old. She lied with bits of confession in between for about 20 mins straight. She then finally confessed that she isolated the three year old and pulled off her pants and undies and not just touched her but inserted her finger inside her. She said she was just curious but admitted to the 3 year old telling her no but she did it anyways.

We are devastated, confused, angry as to why this has happened. We are calling psychiatrist to get her in. The 3 year old is normal today but we are looking at counseling for her as well.

What do we do? How do we trust our 7 year old around her sisters? We feel like this was more than just curiosity. She has a history of lying and a disconnect from emotions and has been diagnosed with ADHD and the school as talked to us about testing her for a delay disorder. 

We need advice as in are we doing everything we should? Is there something else we can do?  Our fear is that there is something more and that this might happen again. 

Thank you all in advance who reply. We will be in and out of the house today working and will respond as we can.",3.789369158878507,5.121803766355144,4.458960280373834,86.91638434579441,72.0841121495327,7.779906542056075,27.393691588785053,8.278499904357787,1.6809261682243002,1684,60,350,26,32,538,196,428,0.117,0.818,0.066,-0.9809,0,0,2,0,1,0,38,21,1,0,2,18,10,1,2,23,2,40,8,7,1,1,68,62,36,0,6,11,6,8,2,0,4,1,4,2,4,15,41,0,1,6,1,0,6,3,3,1,2,23,13,62,7,48,34,6,77,2,0,1,0,84,22,0,5,50,240,77,3,0.0,0.06703984846974527,0.0,0.0,0.06799999112615762,0.05529080612161258,0.05015610320854516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912622820667728,0.0,0.0,0.050369548439525805,0.052896082899893886,0.0,0.0,0.0435076960181014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061772364938652013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155521154479153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036490399281810616,0.0,0.0,0.05742905138147195,0.0,0.0,0.06484732347613953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04726659925950613,0.1272931878136738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05085182143594987,0.0,0.0,0.06366994016999264,0.02860931640371806,0.04042184892120782,0.054327132001235484,0.061982289059588885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029561508684733093,0.0,0.0321565815210072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006970187117033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05572139934535342,0.06528747685987762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055285744885610236,0.05670954715661064,0.0,0.0,0.04751422605995197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060024050812167176,0.0,0.06626759193105579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390895971104767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543787583232592,0.0,0.06441843510581452,0.7124734416464998,0.0,0.038341102034950315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348782480316653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338425126216657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558674245781976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152879287804656,0.0,0.0,0.057263518597410586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711843625101869,0.0,0.0,0.08009738161936929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095616439947593,0.049454742078278296,0.052092661298104616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065986278212524,0.0,0.10726532939041236,0.054066066743537165,0.06286415020061205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806060140268139,0.0,0.0623165500832506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050873581304652936,0.05245163555263485,0.05105602076359034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041192020165147836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736763659748948
parenting,sunjiyah,2018/02/27,"My 15 month is in full blown sleep regression! Help! I’m really interested in your experiences with sleep regression. My 15 month old has been sleeping through the night since he was 11 months, now he is waking up screaming and throwing everything out of his crib. It’s not really working to let him figure it out and put himself back to sleep because he ends up hurting himself. If anyone have advice on how to help soothe him and get him back in the rhythm of sleeping most of the night, that would really be helpful! ",6.563939393939396,7.05388776767677,6.459141414141418,78.14204545454548,65.26262626262627,9.832323232323233,32.66161616161617,9.725611199111238,3.0002646464646467,415,16,77,8,6,131,68,99,0.048,0.8170000000000001,0.135,0.8607,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,9,6,6,1,0,12,11,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,1,9,1,16,6,2,22,0,1,0,0,13,9,0,2,11,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169879479116936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942365433076679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072645176169624,0.0,0.08215648154324914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936903749183025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112544681153628,0.13183403409019168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041342565027675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27100687135374146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427748003275914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781471095767198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32272400699432113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529510052454824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142178445119266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548427369257612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590174566170493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114857698289609,0.0,0.6743525737740734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811648249134433,0.0,0.0,0.09573900249509112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Momwiththetiredeyes,2018/02/27,"Will we ever get any sleep?! I am a mom of 3. My youngest who is 8 months old is breastfed and shares a room with my husband and I along with my 2 year old. Lately my infant has only been able to sleep while being latched on to my nipple, even in deep sleep. Once I remove my nipple from his mouth hes fine for about 5-10 mins but then wakes up or if he falls asleep in my arms, carseat, or stroller once i transfer him to his crib he wakes up and cries!

Ive breastfed my other two and didnt have this much of a problem. Now, we basically share the bed with my infant because i have to have my nipple in his mouth or he'll have to lay on top of me. Its beginning to effect my husband and I because we can no longer have that intimacy we need. We cant even spoon all that much because i have to keep moving the baby from boob to boob! In some ways because i have to constantly give the baby the boob i feel like im neglecting my husband and other two children. All my attention is with the baby because he wont sleep or nap any other way. 

Is there anyway i can get my 8month old to sleep without me holding him or having my nipple in his mouth the entire night? This mama is exhausted and its effecting our fam life in some ways. Please help!😵😵😵",2.7455639097744355,3.527380774436093,4.15421052631579,90.21447368421049,73.96240601503759,6.803007518796992,24.150375939849624,6.8360192770164,0.6597473684210522,970,27,220,8,19,322,136,266,0.07,0.8759999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.7922,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,6,0,0,3,7,7,0,0,9,0,25,17,15,2,3,39,33,16,0,3,8,4,1,1,0,3,2,0,2,3,10,17,0,3,4,1,0,3,5,3,0,2,2,1,41,4,33,27,6,33,0,1,0,3,28,13,3,8,15,147,51,1,0.1090991823028772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838237027265788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325292445491716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178974578748321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984032885677688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441179619443131,0.09868645643901558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055163824635980636,0.07794047763622285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139996397011224,0.10465787689012757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731268821855555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784583840078547,0.0,0.0,0.09697236603542594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306862966354047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705997890665606,0.05330034966062697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777564373605269,0.08708192644724355,0.11595516503567617,0.16040090421083886,0.08089566128686403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238219200995646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434437181070964,0.2323741370808786,0.0,0.08297484433877747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975814029899358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439318329744628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5458898621378663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314809675740493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597935582892623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516771852657418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025629644585571
parenting,Henry-Thoreau-away,2018/02/27,"New Parent, Woo! My wife and I welcomed a baby girl into the world 3 weeks ago, and since then we've experienced all the normal stuff. Our baby girl appears to be a perfectly normal newborn (although the anxiety of ""is that normal?"" is super high.)  My wife is struggling with breastfeeding. We're incredibly excited for day-care. Time has slowed down. 

Like most, we're saying ""one is enough"" today, but who knows what that'll look like next year. 

Just thought I'd say ""hola"". ",3.1482646691635447,5.71761398876405,4.044194756554308,83.68092384519352,77.65168539325843,6.652184769038702,23.372034956304606,7.793537801064563,1.369995255930088,371,12,67,6,9,119,70,89,0.036000000000000004,0.785,0.179,0.8931,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,0,2,1,7,0,1,5,0,7,0,0,0,2,15,11,5,0,3,2,3,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,3,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,4,6,6,8,3,14,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,2,11,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099876533267733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757190232867753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440785516652632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932257402803935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20381486919704397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601561876953344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884874125214352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619917312596419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863089840495155,0.20515680239495526,0.0,0.5670182318935963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071751372330906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21419832662142368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068118162735976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957312332429874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016663341099607,0.22083023050582604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531451316133064,0.11248453708937413,0.0,0.18285151472491654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473686559681427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422458402932812
parenting,Sjb1985,2018/02/27,"What song meaning/lyric has changed for you since becoming a parent? I was listening to Everclear's ""Wonderful"" recently. The lyric ""I just don't understand how / You can smile with all those tears in your eyes / Tell me everything is wonderful now"" really struck me. Yes, I know this song is about a really crappy family environment, but after becoming a parent I can understand how one can have tears in their eyes and tell their little one that everything is better now... so much. I have had my bad days with work and I come home and feel no sense of worth from the job (very rarely and probably when I'm a bit hormonal) and then I do something trivial like burn dinner or drop a plateful of food on the ground right as everyone's lining up to eat, and I just kinda had my moment and needed to shed a tear or two. My toddler has come up to me and asked me if I was ok, and I think I have said that I'm wonderful now as I hold him in my lap. Not in a sarcastic way, but like ""I'm wonderful because you are in my life and give me perspective that this little crap - is just that. Trivial little crap. You remind me how wonderful everything is surrounding me and that truly makes me feel wonderful."" Anyone else that moment, where things just switched for you in a song or lyric relating to parenting? Would love to read it.

Just commenting really on that lyric and my perspective relating to it. Please don't misunderstand me as saying that an abusive familial household is ok for a child or co-parenting relationship. ",6.461674362577796,6.5437611501706465,7.039614535233891,75.2899819313391,65.48464163822526,11.808793414976911,31.911062035735803,11.442366930564873,3.720768480224855,1199,43,230,36,17,395,149,293,0.099,0.7240000000000001,0.177,0.982,5,0,1,0,0,0,35,0,6,2,2,15,9,2,0,13,3,23,9,4,4,1,50,47,28,0,3,13,3,2,2,0,1,1,6,1,1,15,16,3,1,12,4,1,2,4,3,0,3,5,10,36,6,30,41,3,31,0,0,2,1,23,17,2,12,12,158,51,3,0.0,0.10480246837433424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184846936932644,0.090630661491702,0.0,0.0,0.08269171517808707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385465003568445,0.05392019331216092,0.19537901555141773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782295854779122,0.09656788418626196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935716592232909,0.15238903979720633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057044936765104214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905096112683686,0.07389122122333379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452073474735479,0.2384878484722512,0.0,0.1667714351661417,0.0,0.08944909769493628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695784863868016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485228060477477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872567880234772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777606061014194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048611514608352765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062477045664227564,0.08642744072639899,0.2659597534033367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983238291750995,0.0,0.05904313607546952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502321152399362,0.06558685839220674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987622959107418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29465012432586146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709495001531752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953674102970433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847704412151386,0.0,0.16999597681971534,0.0,0.08733677254885815,0.09496553475468597,0.0,0.07553847046651717,0.08413916074695897,0.07034146129553771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316932453549801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809552354626268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546238292874027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587643142210521,0.05667717967686047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640583324378083,0.18416560865288506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298307720871203,0.0,0.07020995954407336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5755417312643138,0.06439491569825216,0.0,0.0,0.06283454969199515,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poetofthesmoke,2018/02/27,"Dad help with getting child to sleep All,
I did search the site and I am trying to find other solutions for helping my daughter to sleep. I have posted on other sites, but here's the background.

My daughter is a little over 1 and my wife doesn't want to sleep train. When putting her to bed, we've always utilized nursing to help her to sleep but when she wakes up or won't go down for a nap I have been rocking her, trying to give her water, or walking around with her. She'll fall asleep in my arms, but she won't stay asleep when I put her down.

I was just wondering if anyone had any other ideas for things that I could do to help her to sleep.",5.842888655462183,4.596059948529415,5.782731092436976,88.20764705882355,67.16176470588235,8.359663865546219,28.252100840336126,6.18269132825596,1.0373542016806714,507,12,115,2,7,159,83,136,0.01,0.8959999999999999,0.094,0.8614,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,0,14,10,9,0,1,18,19,11,0,3,7,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,5,1,0,3,2,0,5,3,0,0,0,4,0,21,0,22,11,1,20,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,4,3,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787046925207807,0.0,0.0,0.09633202409192083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990502860252335,0.0,0.0,0.12610529512073632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310206499145327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947247796735706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401024810413352,0.13589087570798594,0.08050727728181327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37980040693629796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991418519769934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197812769621532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356688208338151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.284810023588349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.708799505687507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098815102061688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411101343372336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923524203985362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355332135385676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362162201290494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bilingualrefusing,2018/02/27,"""I hate Spanish"" - 8yo raised bilingual only speaking English Is this normal? My LatAm husband is especially upset about this (I am too but I don't take it personally), and his family is even more crushed. Every time he or someone in their family speaks Spanish to her, she yells, ""I hate Spanish!"" and won't respond until someone speaks English (everyone is bilingual). 

How much should we give in versus insisting on her speaking Spanish? It's really becoming a battle and my MIL is devastated...and starting to get angry at my daughter, which seems like a but of an overreaction to what just may be a phase. My FIL thinks that she's been getting anti-Latin American messaging from society and wants to separate herself from her heritage, but I'm wondering if there's a less insidious rationale. But maybe not :-/

Any help or thoughts appreciated for how to handle moving forward.

(If it matters, I am white non-Hispanic)",8.533246318607763,8.487663234939763,8.876827309236951,64.27172021419011,61.228915662650614,11.956091030789823,41.9384203480589,11.429527900616536,5.205477376171352,731,39,115,19,9,243,115,166,0.153,0.784,0.063,-0.9528,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,1,0,1,0,7,5,3,1,5,0,13,0,0,3,0,28,26,15,0,5,11,2,0,1,0,3,0,5,0,1,8,5,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,6,18,1,15,20,3,9,0,0,1,0,21,5,0,7,5,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097632590906705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127143638131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272121554486795,0.0,0.1622759395028358,0.18403997246129936,0.0,0.0,0.3631370506545279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20125374646022592,0.1847618981597877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803102500753306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909741684607887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409586806558648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934951302347764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470601000166025,0.14158502163985925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887095872886628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648290405928907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817310130886293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338611342313745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533811085414513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263829995103956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632506297689026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481313385997807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341192511036435,0.0,0.15290489594400666,0.11230808487199792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360196312272408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088692293254662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vivinkitty10,2018/02/27,"My daughter is a nasty bully in and out of the house; I’m clueless on how to stop her I have two girls. My oldest is actually adopted from a family member, she was relinquished at birth and is 19 now. My youngest is 16, and my only with my ex-husband. She doesn’t see her father because he’s an awful person, he’s downright abusive and nasty. My youngest is turning into her father.

She picks fights with my oldest when she’s bored and goes right for the jugular. The other day, I walked in on my youngest telling my oldest she was fat, ugly, and the reason her birth mother is addicted to drugs. I tried to shut it down, and my youngest just turned on me instead. I told her she was grounded, tried to make her go to her room, but she won’t listen. I take away her phone, her computer, she just finds them and takes them back. She holds her sister *hostage* to get what she wants. She’ll literally hold her by the hair and say she’ll only let go if I give back her phone. I tell her that this behavior isn’t okay, she needs to be respectful, and she’s behaving abusively- and she tells me she doesn’t care. She’s pleasant at all other times of the day, perfectly fine, and then she gets in a mood and just goes for it.

I’ve been called in for conferences with her principal because my daughter is cyber bullying kids at her school. She threatens them, tells them she wishes they were dead. She finds all this really personal stuff (we live in a small town, it’s not hard) and targets them for it. We’ve been told she’s on her last strike, which I think is far too generous.

I don’t know what to do. I know all the answers seem so simple, but taking her phone doesn’t work. Telling her not to do it doesn’t work. I can’t get her through the door of a therapist’s office. I can’t even get her dad to tell her not to do it because he tells her it’s being an “alpha.” I can’t even talk to her because she insults and makes fun of me instead of opening up. Please help. Advice is so necessary.",2.7661085766423352,4.084490260340633,3.774293643552312,90.87888572080291,74.62043795620437,6.986648418491484,24.27927311435523,7.531066641456977,0.9212097931873484,1551,47,343,19,32,500,191,411,0.107,0.799,0.095,-0.0387,0,0,1,0,1,0,52,1,0,6,3,15,11,2,0,15,2,34,4,2,5,4,53,61,23,1,4,9,7,2,0,0,3,3,2,2,4,16,22,1,3,8,0,0,3,13,3,0,1,8,5,80,7,44,47,3,43,0,0,1,0,87,25,0,2,15,228,96,4,0.0,0.21787175227602054,0.08972183320201185,0.100230020475872,0.0,0.0898443618940002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638225055828039,0.1413949790359992,0.0,0.2241872196754333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388275199935722,0.0,0.09374068734927588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858957641241713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066231785819139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145324705722167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667444902025874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806609018661262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214296702869835,0.08819885326530273,0.1045051700310796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236170102783186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162658123099472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608837363020766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105750401492362,0.07494475408190986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401661408695247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118620261074032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274359293415625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068173603092772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985160674012312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055988635366306,0.0,0.1009243733717748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058900205189339264,0.0945313770460692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851770659640757,0.0,0.07311572746252139,0.0,0.0930499055642909,0.07326562851544205,0.08370026756093325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686737529387319,0.0,0.0,0.10525124583045073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207386140834496,0.0738992530948322,0.5625276676953574,0.0,0.0,0.10675139624104904,0.0,0.058912526783980415,0.0,0.0,0.05361194270458286,0.0,0.0,0.17570846248858593,0.0,0.12484475365669685,0.20001232851114054,0.08981367799683633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054229594823962286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572841371092108,0.0,0.0,0.13386930039408002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onegloriousday,2018/02/27,"Child doesn't let me study Hi reddit, nice to see you again. Hi members of this group, nice to meet you.

I am trying to teach myself programming and I find that my 4 year old is very loving and wants all of my attention. I try to tell her that I need some time to work on things and study and she doesn't let me, just cries and says ""Aww, now I have no one to play with."" It's heartbreaking. I have tried working very late but my brain just stops working after 9PM. 

Any suggestions?

Edit: Should be mentioned she's in daycare and I work full time. ",0.589074200136146,2.8577993982300924,1.5840707964601783,99.18752893124577,85.99115044247787,4.8928522804629,16.656909462219197,6.297961479604792,-0.5396107556160654,424,9,98,4,13,132,77,113,0.068,0.858,0.075,0.1893,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,2,0,4,4,5,0,0,0,0,10,2,1,0,1,18,14,7,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,18,4,12,10,3,12,0,1,1,1,15,3,0,1,9,61,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187817907921414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949898169633336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19186711796785635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964548587273528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703570167949905,0.0,0.0,0.3572244233052684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576467614747782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951581104023965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832870926562246,0.0,0.11836111288552573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890482991223305,0.0,0.0,0.13918961105279246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603218844356464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266953736790895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604318308783952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20370330819622148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35576899541225104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882425738514086,0.10302506596946644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5086482224016996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248194365580973
parenting,tedrogers61,2018/02/27,"All suggestions shot down, at a loss. Hi Reddit,

I'm in a strange situation with a 4 month old baby who is 100% breast fed, and very difficult (colic, reflux, lactose intolerant).

We have tried everything from doctors to dietary control, things have slightly improved, but not hugely.

My partner constantly asks for suggestions from me, and then immediately shoots them down. If I make no suggestions at all, or decline to have an opinion, then I'm accused of not being supportive.

I'm in between a rock and a hard place! Our relationship is suffering. What should I do?

Should I continue to make suggestions (although there are none left to make!) fully in the knowledge that none of them stand a chance of being adopted, and being fully prepared to have all my 'input' blown to bits?

Thanks.

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parenting,tickrr,2018/02/27,"Wife told 2 year old we will have to put down our dog if he bites her Our daughter is 21 months old and she occasionally plays very rough with our six year old poodle mix and will pull his tail or fur. Yesterday I overheard my wife tell our daughter that if she keeps doing that, one day the dog will bite her and then we will have to have him put to sleep and he will never wake up. This struck me as borderline insane and hopefully our daughter didn't remotely understand. I'm quite upset about it, mostly because I'm worried about what might be going on with my wife that she would think that's an appropriate thing to say. I'm worried that over time she will say more disturbing things to our daughter. Am I overreacting? If not, any thoughts on how to talk to my wife about this?",5.982222222222222,5.835257484076438,5.7942250530785575,84.59130927105451,66.51592356687898,9.270771408351026,28.90941259731068,8.841846274778883,1.8678257607926398,623,18,133,9,9,194,97,157,0.099,0.8740000000000001,0.027000000000000003,-0.8895,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,0,1,4,4,0,2,2,0,16,2,2,1,1,24,26,12,0,5,5,8,1,0,0,8,0,2,0,0,11,9,0,1,3,1,0,4,3,2,0,2,3,3,22,2,18,14,2,20,0,0,0,0,31,5,0,7,11,86,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987856048085512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849643092157012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420442376719374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182848403058304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16048338227890413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361792397325762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714086924275574,0.0,0.0,0.12896999427008055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461889158432755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5086466981550043,0.0,0.10948941427842147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248609763721428,0.0,0.17185806033343992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569865743361729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169465987794346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298702519822255,0.14122626779233402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21469044752188907,0.10353263907183087,0.0,0.1282748599045816,0.09421741379937854,0.0,0.0,0.15439467479812616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820836533162678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333187472291618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281805438393325,0.0,0.1147803541318115,0.0,0.0,0.20810183053422568
parenting,sweetsnufolufogus,2018/02/27,"Renting house to daughter & boyfriend      My wife and I recently found out that our 19 year old daughter is pregnant with her 19 year old boyfriends baby. 
    We have offered to let them move into a vacant rental house that we own. Their rent would be approximately 40% less than what we were planning on renting the house for.
     My daughter is very immature but her boyfriend less so.  I don't know him very well but he seems to be taking the impending fatherhood seriously. He's aquired a few appliances and some furniture and is eager to move in. 
     I'm planning on having them sign a lease just like anyone else would.
     My question is....what will i do if they can't pay the rent? I hate to say it, but it is a possible scenario.",2.6461398176291766,5.031062312056744,3.401686930091188,88.61250000000004,78.36170212765956,6.58176291793313,27.092705167173253,7.7094869923839395,1.6078790273556232,570,24,114,9,14,180,91,141,0.051,0.871,0.079,0.4467,5,0,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,4,2,3,5,1,0,7,0,16,0,0,0,0,22,22,8,0,3,5,4,0,1,0,3,0,1,4,0,5,9,0,0,4,0,5,2,2,2,1,0,2,1,18,3,13,14,5,12,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,4,6,74,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959607201577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944675826939113,0.16037958903792596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075755487444798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162289886256732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453721651804425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5418306566493334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602270586000928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600586442024452,0.0,0.07647079474626081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327251577774242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32849583215975586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645977170634225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534516640567682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455073877582967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244759165300632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249557352485098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768822227401544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583010150605189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073585160169938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238344266985155,0.0,0.0,0.20159548143122968
parenting,ShackledOrphan,2018/02/27,"Made an all hardwood Cradle with my Grandpa for my first soon to be born child and his first Great-grandchild! So this past month my Grandpa and I met up once or twice a week at his woodshop to work on this gorgeous cradle!  Knowing it will be an heirloom makes it even more wonderful!  I just can't wait for my son to be born so I can stay up all night rocking him to sleep in this hardwood, handbuilt, quality time spent with my grandpa, cradle.  It's going to last generations!  I've already been asked many times if I can make these for other people, so I'm contemplating if I'll have enough time to fill orders.  It fits a basic Cradle mattress found at stores like Bed Bath & Beyond! 


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parenting,dornstar18,2018/02/27,"My child chooses the same lesson everyday at her Montessori program. I understand it is child led, but I feel the teacher is passing responsibility to a 7 year old instead of guiding her to something else. I have a mtg scheduled to discuss but I am trying to understand the child-led philosophy a little better and  how it is supposed to work.",6.80828125,7.614975765625001,7.7968750000000036,67.66062500000001,64.78125,9.525,41.0,9.516144504307137,4.30629375,275,16,44,5,4,93,44,64,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.5284,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,2,0,11,8,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,7,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,4,33,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772668197710531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618904828963677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851590352775008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142111114899421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32896734799135563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413489620195927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284710818459324,0.0,0.0,0.6527327520711865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22823300642594616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20188484723672204
parenting,kicker0927,2018/02/27,"Stressing out about relocating away from teen daughter. Need advice. Hello, I am a 36yr old single father in OH.  My daughter will be 14yr old this year.  I have always lived in the same city as my daughter and we are very close.  Her mother and I get along great and we have no problems regarding working out visitation times or money.  The problem is there is not much opportunity career-wise for me where I live.  I began a job 2 years ago which I planned to work until my daughter was at least 16 and then I would look into a possible relocation.  Last year, I found out that my current job will be contracting out and that time will be soon arriving.  It has sort of spurred me to look for jobs elsewhere.  I had a job offer for the gov't arise in the one place I have always dreamed of living in FL (2hr flight away).  I can say with 100% certainty this job will not become available again as it's the only position in my field in that area and it's the type of position people retire from.  The offer is also one I feel I can't refuse due to pay, benefits, and location.  In essence, this job is likely a once in a lifetime opportunity for me.  I don't want to turn the job down and in a few months be out of a job and stuck moving at least 2-3 hours away to somewhere I really don't want to live.  I currently do not enjoy my job, there is no possibility for advancement, and it is 3rd shift which has taken a toll on my physical and mental health.  The job offered would be a first shift position with lots of great experience.  Long story short, it's an opportunity I would be a fool to turn down.  However, it means moving beyond driving distance from my daughter.  I have spoken to her several times regarding the possibility of my move and she says she is fine with it.  She says she will miss me, obviously, but is excited to visit often. Between my mother, my friends, and her mother she would always have a flying partner to come visit anytime she wants and like said, it's only a 2hr non-stop flight.  Once she turns 15, she can fly on her own. Everyone I speak to says I should take the job.  They say she'll be 14 and since we are so close, that's something that won't be lost.  But I am really, really stressed about it all.  I don't want to make the wrong decision and it's a big move for me.  I am very anxious and fearful about it all, but a large part of that could just be due to the move itself.  I guess I'm just looking for some advice...this is the hardest decision I've ever had to make.  Thanks for your help!",3.2423388027497637,4.562959495107634,4.714520547945206,84.5989111345276,73.42270058708417,7.824195895428772,25.039941793366452,8.384062270229773,1.4771577199056654,1966,61,412,33,39,658,238,511,0.083,0.853,0.064,-0.343,14,0,1,0,0,0,57,3,1,1,9,15,22,0,3,30,0,53,1,0,2,4,73,81,27,0,13,9,9,1,2,2,12,1,7,0,1,23,33,0,1,5,1,2,11,10,9,0,3,9,11,58,13,68,50,12,67,0,2,3,0,45,32,0,6,26,284,81,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543921970707457,0.050290734038372614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453696777108334,0.1416201953226435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409259097652495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990868430259988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265758053598823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048870798672759945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0452970016921111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051318606344153125,0.0,0.05421119283917747,0.0,0.055496149318491415,0.0,0.06384084533071673,0.028686110567575127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825739917299286,0.0,0.062205242359440416,0.04383208239481487,0.0,0.029640858757617124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250975426871953,0.062498233839146974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030494887134823,0.0,0.0,0.03802720064606691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055870968744750726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6192905751335206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046245291299877735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543414488551913,0.0,0.20038651859000955,0.05020727174312671,0.14292529640219645,0.0,0.061931205512584526,0.04823270599064503,0.0,0.0,0.07573996712604887,0.0,0.0,0.0617993021524986,0.0,0.0,0.05717392112893217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045284056843182034,0.3014931168247211,0.041705575199820016,0.042067095590730436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906431477962046,0.12083843412479955,0.07688803722093318,0.08629661103943839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143674117106221,0.0,0.03933179462261384,0.0,0.059274325596328975,0.0,0.0,0.19187514495617253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857239933354544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903460208675424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396645311016652,0.22558337514933144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409259097652495,0.0,0.046930452913867785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04367614135733396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04743166090100275,0.1299758309593767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04265645457526747,0.0,0.0,0.052232490307334525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992451014576446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851289361518608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362198954811833,0.13385131169915068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260517855684588,0.0,0.0,0.16120711210084385,0.06202906431906127,0.0,0.10960334428658992
parenting,alwayslearningdad,2018/02/27,"step son [8] claiming he can’t speak native language Lol, so I’ve been raising my Filipino stepson for going on two years now. He’s a really bright kid, behaved (as much as a child can be, really), and is very beyond his years and independent.

The issue at hand is, ever since my wife got pregnant with our second child, he has become extremely manipulative and seeks constant and very petty attention. An example is we just got done playing board games for an hour straight, and he will continually come out to the “adult area” (living room) and say things like “Hey dad I just wanted to let you know that I have school on March 27th” and it’s February lol.

The biggest thing is though, he claims he has completely forgotten to speak his native language (Tagalog). He refuses to speak to my wife or his family back in the Philippines in Tagalog ever since my wife got pregnant 8 months ago. He will only speak English and claims he can’t remember how to speak it.

I guess my question is, did anyone else’s children act strange when they were about to become big brothers or sisters. It’s weird because I’ve been making it seem like it’s a really cool thing to him, and keeping him included in everything and saying we NEED his help, but it doesn’t seem to be working.

I’ve set an appointment with a children social worker that speaks Tagalog to maybe try and help him and us figure this out.",6.329813432835818,6.632327242537315,6.529067164179107,78.08598880597016,65.75373134328359,9.386567164179104,32.048507462686565,9.188382445141503,2.708137313432836,1103,41,205,18,16,354,156,268,0.023,0.895,0.08199999999999999,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,4,1,1,2,12,6,0,0,11,3,22,1,1,4,2,42,35,21,0,2,5,7,1,2,0,2,0,8,1,6,12,19,0,2,7,2,0,4,3,1,0,2,8,11,21,5,26,22,1,32,0,0,1,0,50,14,0,6,15,120,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086131906009532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567404120304707,0.12554385106174296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942160450658234,0.0,0.07469159561438388,0.27064388172012793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554654793893424,0.12846769902998614,0.13240864362906687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253881208859586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235596120946183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216661847878313,0.0,0.0,0.1101197704906124,0.0,0.1155079741957317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963517287804769,0.0,0.2939891820353325,0.0,0.13497779887274589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425513251170712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066485592958902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278868230614038,0.0,0.10890802641295226,0.0,0.0,0.06733788156710686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529261802849767,0.0,0.11972144490191215,0.0,0.10819398221982313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178802360783438,0.0,0.12309529126743547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978002407628427,0.0,0.09007177315893121,0.0908525508483983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318764621621092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725878453538845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354826638543721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879971434889446,0.0,0.0,0.19487749057554635,0.0,0.1240043197542936,0.0,0.2230887754093336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20271194385167207,0.0,0.0,0.12490130394754267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442053778782813,0.0,0.12038259647646204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318809491641331,0.0,0.119691513678472,0.0,0.1473854346664137,0.0,0.0,0.2021959549739608,0.07226986396079801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920144212226737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578073197926556
parenting,theweekendwife,2018/02/27,"2 y/o sleep question (cross-posted) Before I get started with this post I would like to begin with a disclaimer: Yes. I am aware that I should have used CIO from the beginning. Yes. I wish I would have done things differently. But here I am. 

So. My son has always been a shitty sleeper. We were rocking him to sleep until he was over a year old. Even when he was rocked to sleep he'd wake up multiple times in the night and would have to be rocked back to sleep each time. It was horrible.

At around 16 months we started laying next to him in bed and pretending to sleep until he fell asleep then sneak out. This process takes about 45 minutes but since he got into the habit he sleeps SO much better. He usually wakes up around 2am, crawls in bed with me and then falls right back asleep. I knew that this was a temporary fix but I was so desperate for sleep that it sufficed. 

Now my son turns 2 on Sunday and I'm just so ready for him to be going to bed on his own but I don't even know where to begin with the process. He's sleeping in a twin bed so it's not like I can lock him in a crib. Do I really just shut his door and let him scream until he passes out? Even at 2? Or is there a better way to do this. 

Thank you for any advice you can give. ",0.8078282244071673,2.6824540338345884,2.19624060150376,97.53873915558128,81.96992481203006,5.445691150954309,17.373626373626372,6.490185161304077,-0.4230244071717757,967,19,231,9,26,311,145,266,0.045,0.838,0.116,0.9573,1,0,0,0,0,0,26,2,2,0,2,20,6,0,0,11,2,28,12,12,1,0,34,45,21,0,5,8,2,0,2,0,4,0,1,5,0,11,17,0,0,3,4,0,4,2,1,0,0,10,1,27,5,40,27,3,49,0,0,0,0,24,20,0,2,25,149,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216273305551904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847695984752882,0.0,0.0,0.06413688207625058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679192463480639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450435779560669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802544275010736,0.0,0.0,0.16682647001852155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853825280811576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651615960838324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868808952163345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049275270605333016,0.0904747632231313,0.053600926565984135,0.0,0.07543167198501252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051832611248176834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644264730938212,0.0,0.09215429661960256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528068512797914,0.0,0.06933178017975232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003042090106885,0.0885074765092981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989668750521046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065384269180185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056534754828897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042008394677996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054380130957918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801767100851639,0.0,0.7550584053935099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351213553289878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091253190227664,0.0,0.0,0.08683183288753178,0.0,0.0,0.0626581557646454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999072306617856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025867536470089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145717677709019,0.10387375357905168,0.0,0.0,0.07486221254609643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845666176269897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099427965034933,0.0,0.0,0.060735244921374124
parenting,anonymom43,2018/02/27,"(OH) Teacher Drove Child in Car/No Seat Belt My seventh grade child regularly rides in his teacher’s car during school hours to visit and volunteer at a local food pantry. It’s a regular occurrence and my child has gone before with no issue. He attends a small private school, is an excellent student and all around responsible, caring, great kid.

Today, the teacher, two other children and my child picked up donated food from a local grocery store and loaded the teacher’s sedan. There was a lot of donated food, including four boxes of produce, which was placed in the rear seat, behind the driver’s seat. My child sat by the produce in the middle seat. The buckle for his seat belt was covered by the boxes and he could not pull it out because the produce boxes were too heavy. My child told his teacher he couldn’t buckle, to which the teacher advised, “It’s fine, brace yourself on the boxes”. He protested but she started driving. 

I’m livid. It’s beyond irresponsible, poor judgement and I’m just in disbelief. We’ve had other challenges with this teacher this year as she is disorganized, doesn’t give information to students in a timely manner, makes rude comments to students, etc. my son is a straight A student, but gets C’s in her class. We’ve tried talking to her about his grades but she says he just needs to work harder  (I’m working with him in her subject, and have plans to supplement her subject this summer). He has her next year as well. My child told me he doesn’t want to say anything because he believes shell exact retribution if we go to the school and she is punished. I believe she likely would.

I want to go to the school and do something; my husband agrees and doesn’t think we’re overreacting. He’s also worried he may be obligated to report her (he’s a medical professional). On the other hand, my son is old enough to have his concerns taken seriously. 

So, parents, how would you handle this? I’m so pissed, I can’t see straight and I’d honestly like her fired at this point... but I know I’m heated and that’s probably not realistic. I’d like to hear your thoughts. 



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parenting,FurryBeetle,2018/02/28,"Family vacation problems, Advice? Sorry long post I am going away with family over spring break, we are all renting cabins to unwind and relax for a couple of days. 
My sister has a 1 1/2 year old and a 7 year old. 
I have a 10 year old. 
There are only 2 bedroom cabins available for my sister so she has asked if her 7 year old son could stay with my son in his room in our cabin. 

Without going into too much detail ( although It's hard), her son has some behavioural problems and is just a very hyper active child but is nice and I love him. My son is the complete opposite. My son is a victim of emotional and psychological abuse from his dad and step mom. He has half siblings there and they have alot of family problems there. Unfortunately my nephew is similar to my sons half sister in some ways and honestly is a hard child to be around for long periods of time. They don't always get along the best because my son starts to take his anger and sadness out on my nephew when my nephew is acting up that stems from the problems at his dad's. All these issues that my sister and I are trying to work on and help them with, but it takes time. My son has really been through alot in his life. 
My sister and I are also very different and she gets very stressed easily. My partner and I  already said that if she is getting stressed and mean we would just separate ourselves from the situation in order for us to enjoy ourselves and for things to calm down. We have had some family fights during get togethers and I'm trying to work on ways to avoid this and not let it ruin the time. 

I said no to my sister for him to stay the nights in our cabin. 
1, because I know my son wouldn't like it, although he would put a smile on and deal with it. It goes against everything we are trying to help him with and that is that he has the right to have feelings and he has the right to say no, or the right to not like something.  Because of the abuse at his dad's all those things have been taken from him and we try and help him see these things. He is an extremely none selfish kid. He would do anything asked of him even if it made him miserable. 
2, because my partner and I, honestly don't want him staying with us either. I understand some people might thing this sounds cruel. But we are also looking forward to quiet time with our son and ourselves as well. 

Now I'm worried I'm not being considerate of my sister. But she has a full cabin with 2 rooms, I can't understand why her boys can't share a room or the 1 1/2 year old can't sleep in her room or something. She says she is worried about him sleeping. But what about if she were to stay in a hotel, which we were gonna do before staying in cabins. She would have had no choice but to sleep in same room. 

I also decided to leave it up to my son. If he said that would be fine and fun I would say yes. 
 I simply told him about our plan to rent a cabin etc, and asked him if he would like his cousin to spend the night with him, before i could even finish he said No, Pls no, I won't be able to sleep. My son gets very drained after spending time with him, and I know it stems from the problems he has at his dad's, and with his other siblings. They are not usual sibling problems he is experiencing there. 
So I'm not trying to be mean to my sister I just honestly am trying to think about ""us"" for once. We never go away and do things like this so we are really looking forward to quiet time away from home. 

This has become a huge deal with my family now and my mom and I got into an argument yesterday over this as she thinks I'm not being considerate. Even my mom knows and agrees about my nephews behaviour and that it is hard to be around for long periods of time. He's my nephew I love him more then anything. 
Thoughts? 😕 ",4.088071769248238,4.6036345109395125,4.991661745779396,86.41055870997049,70.6859716859717,7.895919448860623,25.40260428495723,7.861635385654353,1.194477598607011,2953,79,634,35,51,964,272,777,0.139,0.7559999999999999,0.105,-0.9728,3,1,2,0,3,0,64,16,0,4,4,28,35,4,4,30,1,73,7,4,1,4,132,118,61,0,23,26,33,4,4,2,11,1,10,9,6,33,61,0,1,14,3,4,8,21,17,1,2,15,18,102,18,104,82,17,94,0,3,3,2,127,42,0,16,42,444,135,2,0.04806201475635655,0.11389125665493925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696564457105636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05303762842134639,0.11530552750899202,0.03999144644501605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910188599084995,0.08557076574402386,0.1347944877063275,0.0,0.13546753490512767,0.0,0.0,0.1171926323999288,0.05308071925767092,0.08179446924601201,0.0,0.05043811929612425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050392108053943216,0.0,0.0,0.07674721588243248,0.053179705173777785,0.0,0.0309960234465734,0.09909965363563522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05021457594200246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05406329763056965,0.0,0.0,0.05360185107317336,0.09523352238875034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043195039806411685,0.0,0.2265429505125941,0.0,0.024301598762776846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255520951184567,0.0,0.08194425172680639,0.0,0.03843958374926315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916237463975158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664486616218644,0.0,0.048210119537778866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501642565021854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924087913946146,0.0,0.0,0.05089073401988952,0.0,0.04914666638950052,0.033947622385053874,0.09392269081527142,0.0,0.0,0.12760011190791842,0.08071997533522103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675568956790107,0.04547744045336497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047072478642115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050986202479282115,0.0,0.16886895240964142,0.0,0.0,0.03533111093221713,0.0,0.03706838870932733,0.0,0.0,0.09020589007734273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25216499792846303,0.051184477141045764,0.0,0.036553327979540126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03332014946003545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04603012456861276,0.0,0.0,0.2759331432297588,0.0,0.04831559964768873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061579514702291616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231340939866242,0.1828719284957198,0.11466252960682405,0.0,0.0,0.038299203150788816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402371830562403,0.1923868982744788,0.0,0.0,0.07400097411407107,0.0,0.053801490624637335,0.034018541418381516,0.2561385643786491,0.0,0.0,0.11010975103761804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227330741048549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596513349570202,0.06159239679354956,0.0,0.03815587113740252,0.19617743116241065,0.0,0.0,0.045925314752092425,0.0,0.1957857188763585,0.0,0.0,0.10006850471870896,0.17343805809630938,0.0,0.0529335191038271,0.1586247825414822,0.028348221547163044,0.07629878042190487,0.0,0.0,0.043213523281895365,0.0,0.04336849274942932,0.0,0.0,0.04633006712813153,0.0,0.06997943831692126,0.09761861794158937,0.0,0.23899313421442156,0.0,0.0,0.15475180864021135
parenting,Masquerade78,2018/02/28,"Classes/Activities for an Introverted/Sensitive 4 year old? My 4-year old daughter is very shy and has a hard time playing with other kids, especially ones she doesn't know very well. She attends daycare/preschool 5 days a week and even though she's known the group of kids there for 3 years she still has days where the teachers tell me she primary played alone. I want to start engaging her in fun classes or activities beyond daycare to help acclimate her to environments with other kids in preparation for kindergarten, but I can't imagine her getting into the standard dance/gymnastics/soccer classes offered for this age group (she would just cling to me). Any advice on different types of play groups or classes for more introverted kids?",9.566015037593985,9.477080187969925,8.322255639097747,69.2372180451128,59.15037593984962,11.509774436090224,40.80451127819549,10.914260884657429,4.587138345864662,607,29,99,13,7,186,93,133,0.046,0.847,0.106,0.7614,1,1,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,15,10,6,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,14,6,18,9,1,18,0,0,0,0,20,6,0,2,11,61,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980711863314556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099308673184664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378395355614172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26144298419376794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21177311029800874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387812112691816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589975993574713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815748866924584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586217094375158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139585882722183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253885643186972,0.0,0.13735136269517104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346854850060095,0.0,0.16187247104467786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177164344676316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991467864783104,0.0,0.11819307154253254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33448916912047666,0.1195547495092586,0.0,0.16258968476013905,0.0,0.18224712766492898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398869657434707,0.0,0.0,0.391586760121184
parenting,bholdsworth,2018/02/28,"Parenting via Harry Potter We've decided to implement something new with the kids. We're doing a points system similar to the Hogwarts house cup where if you do something good (get your chores done efficiently, use your manners, help each other out, perform some exceptional deed, etc), then you get points. If you do something wrong (hurt each other, have a bad attitude, are rude to parents, don't listen, don't do your chores, complain about meals, etc), you lose points. 

At the end of the week, whoever has the most points gets something special (DBT). We adapt it for the age of each child. Our oldest (9) has to do something more exceptional to gain points and will lose points for less serious offences whereas our youngest (4) will be awarded for less significant good deeds and lose points for more serious infractions. 

Has anyone every tried something like this. Was it a good experience? What are some things to consider as we try it out?",7.132096256684491,8.29441877647059,6.401978609625669,76.68981283422461,64.17647058823529,9.711229946524067,33.68983957219251,9.800150414767053,3.280882352941177,752,31,130,15,11,230,104,170,0.125,0.7340000000000001,0.141,0.6364,2,0,6,0,0,0,32,4,7,0,6,2,16,1,0,9,0,18,1,0,1,0,19,23,6,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,2,8,10,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,10,0,0,2,1,11,6,20,18,12,18,0,4,0,0,18,11,0,5,7,84,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670545802449251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800713842683185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813763534022306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493775792606037,0.0,0.21390473479541028,0.0,0.0,0.08079876606378117,0.0,0.0,0.09380730136770248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030929196452275,0.0,0.0,0.24130576507551066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427885745195444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065419028073728,0.10266151031035356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04685124643057067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32185824744441066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261953365655598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212968249737418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6345866864058185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44296489091944535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371081554085749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021780477881065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282566093419051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692412904385319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485014188535696,0.0,0.0
parenting,keylimesoda,2018/02/28,"Mommy is depressed, but doesn't know what she wants different. Daddy doesn't know how to help. Kids are okay, but it doesn't feel sustainable. My (stay at home) wife told me a couple weeks ago in a moment of vulnerable honesty that she hates her life.  We talk about changes we could make, or counselors, etc.  She couldn't figure out what she'd want to do differently and feels angry and pressured when I ask what she wants.  She's tried a couple times to find a counselor, but her schedule is busy and her heart doesn't seem to be in the search.

This morning my wife told me she figured out why she hates her life--it's because she hates our kids (4 ages 2-10).  I had always thought 4 was too many, and she said this morning she wishes she hadn't had them.  All she wants to do every day is get them to bed so she can go to bed so she doesn't have to be awake.

She's not catatonic depressed, but she's not fully functional either.  She does what's required to get the kids where they need to be.  She tries not to yell too much.  She struggles to keep up with housework.  Judging just by actions, I'd say she's a little down.  But it's her words that make me scared, and this morning there was even a weird hollow look in her eyes.  The kids are doing okay now, but I worry that seeing mommy always depressed will eventually have some long term impacts.

I can't seem to get anywhere asking her what she'd like to do differently--she honestly doesn't seem capable of answering and gets angry when I ask.  So it feels like it's on me to figure out changes.

We have a lot of resources available from a financial standpoint for nannies, housekeepers, travel.  I'm not currently around a lot, working from 9-7 every day, and while that would be hard to change, it feels like all options should be on the table.  I could take time off work, give her a few weeks off.  That's all to say, I think we have a ton of options open.  I just don't know what next steps to take.

EDIT:  Spent some time looking up nannies.  Called and offered my wife a couple of options, said we could have someone come in 2-5 days a week.  She shut it all down, and got upset with me for trying to help.  She doesn't want outside help or nannies.  I think what she wants is for me to pick up the slack with a lot of extra work when I get home, but I'm not in a position to consistently help in that way  :(",3.593432182790469,4.473903272727274,4.224161400097231,90.13204423918327,72.05785123966942,7.016431696645602,25.18570734078755,7.048011613610866,0.8355750607681083,1840,53,404,16,34,585,210,484,0.122,0.795,0.084,-0.9686,4,0,0,0,0,0,62,6,0,3,4,17,17,3,4,20,2,44,3,2,4,4,91,95,26,0,14,17,3,5,3,0,3,1,5,4,4,22,23,0,2,18,1,1,5,16,11,0,0,12,14,61,6,57,69,16,53,0,3,4,0,66,24,0,13,25,256,83,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525117503490696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249949326549345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552885912988488,0.2064473519569927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487221443458709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516444488714898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336101170869122,0.06340883861147853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17631573544222995,0.2443455106613675,0.0,0.14241784817677422,0.0,0.19020157973928287,0.0,0.0,0.15381439418287265,0.0,0.0,0.06441695396452482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209505004506405,0.04861897260351044,0.0,0.12403986755935735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887851271268573,0.105174563830267,0.0,0.0,0.0672785687690362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19229196987883304,0.07061379970428408,0.04183448464142272,0.0,0.058872958459946785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594045664277813,0.2180250805911327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722867418562502,0.19735798833644014,0.0,0.1476744588812636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542830253727443,0.0,0.0,0.12136304639346165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398639982814838,0.10788696446771284,0.07377695536434488,0.0,0.06514288445335073,0.12362838749234616,0.0,0.0,0.18774278012733264,0.0,0.0,0.0982710224175491,0.0746293883678844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411211109423274,0.0545811762362922,0.0,0.0,0.07828549169130689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004068722551202,0.11707588348663064,0.0736968482603941,0.0,0.058657955581755614,0.20103642088058296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236985001739551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784588884157398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695356887552005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069171437169996,0.05916524833534938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433313954511052,0.0,0.05843843240155903,0.12876844234623194,0.0,0.0,0.1406757765794874,0.0,0.14992988178077796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605039139516942,0.05842850640141901,0.17713745970798198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642193341015558,0.0,0.08464832310661945,0.0,0.0,0.16076773588221366,0.07475493070476827,0.0,0.05229071363592499,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SneakingSprinkles,2018/02/28,"My 1yr old (14 months) never took to a pacifier. While I was packing up his old stuff he found a pacifier and is now obsessed. Advice? We tried many different pacifiers when he was a newborn but he just never took to them. Now he loves this thing. To be honest, it helps so much when I’m putting him down for a nap or for bedtime but I don’t want to be worried about weaning him off of it later.  The convenience during bedtime is so great. It takes me way less time to put him down now. I have heard that how late a child is using a pacifier is controversial though and even my SO once said at the store “Wow look that kid is like 5 and still has a pacifier. Weird.” Is there an age when children are supposed to no longer use them? What would you suggest? Take it away while it’s still early or let him be? Thanks in advance.",1.3294705882352955,3.4109650058823533,2.5394117647058816,94.66735294117649,81.29411764705883,5.647058823529411,21.764705882352942,6.794906146795322,0.3690000000000002,641,20,143,7,17,205,113,170,0.059,0.7559999999999999,0.185,0.9831,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,1,2,1,17,8,0,1,10,0,17,1,0,3,2,17,31,17,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,4,11,4,0,0,1,1,1,5,4,2,0,0,7,3,15,6,17,19,2,33,0,0,1,1,22,7,0,2,21,100,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456823141746875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006851292232686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576014542851122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846800468237107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346196264310256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436468273300525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992728290505244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817226997208015,0.0,0.0,0.15244760630850912,0.0,0.072834489319001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251922859183512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455335000194538,0.0,0.0,0.15114689944560322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899673608304775,0.0,0.10959325800757816,0.0,0.2299642089115355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128753435630533,0.15876867331070935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29973945558284903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418122011534293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381159685033777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066452183654435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241839279068857,0.0,0.0,0.13725572082877646,0.0,0.0,0.09904421050765427,0.0,0.1464734232775442,0.0,0.08693157495869484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331273697102798,0.10121766264384224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575199242816396,0.0,0.0,0.08793309567974195,0.11833525337603425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140116033912165,0.0,0.10590438175517958,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChrisIsBored,2018/02/28,"My 3 year old cries EVERY time he has to go to his mother's... At first I thought it was a phase, at one point when he was much younger he did the same to me for a few weeks.

We have a split custody, it's been that way since he was just an infant. He's only known this way, half the week with mom and half the week with dad.

Before he turned 3 he started crying whenever he would have to leave me. When I go to pick him up, he's eager, ready and willing. It's been over a year now of this, and I'm worried there's some psychological damage happening here.

He has at random times told me he doesn't love mommy, and I have to scold him on that. Again last night we had this conversation and nothing has changed.  

Her time with him is split between her cousin watching him, the grandma and her... the girl moves about once every 9 months to a  year. When he's with me, it's solely with me. I'm doing my best to provide a stable environment.

He'll cry his eyes out when I mention the night before that he's leaving in the morning. He'll bargain with me to stay, he'll ask to go to work with me so he doesn't have to go with mom. He'll sometimes make it difficult to get dressed so that I can't force him to leave.  He sometimes won't let go in front of her so that it's difficult to make the exchange.  He's told me he doesn't want to stay with her, that he doesn't love her, and when I ask why it can be for any manor of excuses.

Is there a point where I need to step up my concern for him and do more? Should I seek a counselor to help him?  ",3.2350561478322675,3.178450498507462,4.2982942430703615,92.65885572139305,72.37313432835822,7.336176261549396,24.907604832977967,6.655083550727371,0.5460291400142148,1187,30,294,8,21,388,153,335,0.101,0.8490000000000001,0.049,-0.9302,0,0,0,0,0,0,36,2,0,0,3,16,7,0,0,17,0,30,3,1,3,0,33,56,16,0,4,1,5,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,16,20,0,0,2,0,2,8,6,3,0,4,10,2,36,4,45,36,6,48,0,1,2,2,56,13,0,2,23,177,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700855260255181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18423762442653951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769549291154914,0.0,0.103408523276254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423910165499373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247148687010632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604337849351028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381553890455694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051481526003040456,0.0,0.28000429636353136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713596139390804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604728745857406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032082288982341,0.0,0.3130094297853277,0.0,0.10076077907368522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778670154483562,0.0,0.13154845205242555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308107338864884,0.07865130929434834,0.1047292580857558,0.07243604754094847,0.07306395179829397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18494063644508027,0.0,0.09454892828221206,0.0,0.10339802681637948,0.10493871043739407,0.06677123493419374,0.07494184398519549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862986678262732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151084122685454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491126480042348,0.0,0.06974500994840288,0.21005470518034253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782273872162602,0.17237318638931576,0.0,0.0,0.18831269071033613,0.0,0.0,0.10717998218104967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811968742310882,0.15642819996689727,0.2371213614332221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891433412902898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173612415610622,0.10006912694685144,0.0,0.06999787186801666,0.0,0.0,0.19036383071931914
parenting,expressionlessmagnet,2018/02/28,"Do you think it's inappropriate to kiss your child on the lips? My son is nine months old and is learning how to give kisses. I think it's really sweet, but a couple of people have told me they think it's creepy and inappropriate for me to let him kiss me on the lips. It's just a quick peck and I would never do it if I'm sick. But the insinuation that it's unnatural makes me kind of uncomfortable and feel weird about it. 

I'm interested in hearing your guys' thoughts on this. ",3.563757142857142,4.4127216900000015,5.203428571428573,83.20100000000002,72.1,8.514285714285714,23.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,1.1904714285714286,379,9,87,7,7,129,63,100,0.099,0.773,0.128,0.2748,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,3,1,0,4,7,0,0,5,0,7,6,2,2,1,18,18,8,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,9,4,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,3,12,6,11,14,0,8,0,0,0,3,11,4,0,1,4,56,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749608563119925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256492186959017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383841321444413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460543669787412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28007789948192163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258774823053037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541083940044137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587588043738372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835056928763692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165875155412024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607592634662083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227881948643173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591956559225902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4776868762995629,0.0,0.19728148110236976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374526866850637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652748388438896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madancer,2018/02/28,"How to talk to kindergartner about school shootings (advice/long post) Just like the title, my 6 yr old daughter had a shooter drill at her elementary school Friday (I only found out yesterday by a recorded message from school).

I asked her about the drill, where they had to go (bathroom in the classroom), what they had to do (stay quiet), and how she felt about it.

She said she was scared and didn't want to die.  She said that she wanted to home school because of it.  And she was concerned because one of the boys kept crying in the bathroom and was making noise.

I told her that it is ok to feel that way, we practice drills so we know what to do IF something happens (like a fire drill or tornado drill).  She asked why in the bathroom?  I told her because there are no windows, so that person can't see you.  I also told her that her teacher would deal with the crying child if needed (so she doesn't have nightmares).  I told her no to home school because she wouldn't have met all her friends (she's very social and loves school).  I told her we don't expect it to happen, but we want everyone to be safe.  I also told her that if she hears anyone talking about hurting students or teachers, to tell a teacher/adult (so she has something to 'work' on in her dreams/head).

I hope I did everything 'right', her Dad was working late, so couldn't help when this happened.  Is there anything I could read that would help if she has more questions/anxiety about this?

It just scares me about this world my baby is growing up in.  I mean I was in MS when Pearl High School shooting happened, but it seems worse now (probably because she's my baby).

tldr:  daughter had a shooter drill at elementary school, any reading on how to talk to daughter if she has more questions/anxiety about school shootings",4.835948275862068,5.8977475373563255,4.645459770114943,87.58301724137932,69.316091954023,6.949425287356322,29.15517241379311,6.816661863887847,1.3939689655172414,1405,51,278,10,24,430,165,348,0.09,0.853,0.057,-0.8576,0,0,2,5,0,1,52,4,1,2,2,25,10,0,2,12,1,31,1,0,4,1,46,63,26,1,16,11,4,3,2,1,3,0,4,3,3,18,11,0,2,6,2,0,2,8,3,0,1,23,8,51,7,39,34,3,27,0,1,1,1,64,16,0,9,8,189,69,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823832881057338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04602088814268857,0.0,0.1035414063864379,0.0,0.0,0.04731948878515138,0.0,0.055690235306020464,0.0,0.12653278986189526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626832068324316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403247290550082,0.0,0.14867422212400144,0.0,0.06976929766696137,0.0,0.0,0.07023530538185241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466575488081099,0.06082135465519105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03421819180311547,0.0,0.06497800215491539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420144704526754,0.052285045718643786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0384609005923449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393768661919709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945342147300627,0.0,0.07627392660101501,0.0,0.09072139929025368,0.07150168109958976,0.13576580975583036,0.06721591320724134,0.0,0.0,0.07244680628904747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037192060592529136,0.0,0.07633963022982394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661245517291726,0.0,0.0,0.059889682512740676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610787556535801,0.0,0.04517316344046776,0.0,0.0,0.07371722176735787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050179683374388065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101286091814647,0.0,0.04585790044267706,0.05146940331193126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909064428420064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481333374751648,0.0,0.0729644104055702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353853551993542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577935370517121,0.12874763479053367,0.0,0.13550768841577152,0.6164106235651032,0.05392770624324253,0.061608199273899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898549161920853,0.0,0.10419806328673516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213186761611858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318227086470102,0.05915037696560296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879945292848659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583843769618412,0.11974827973011865,0.053716760125666035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061065587396046075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853548591504607,0.0,0.06896595845350277,0.09614785296352056,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mike17932486,2018/02/28,"Coffee Time! I'm an avid connoisseur of coffee.  Espresso, French Press, Always fresh ground, from a multitude of different roasts and regions.  I'm a coffee snob, love the stuff.

That being said, I accidently left my mug on the coffee table while i went to the bathroom.  I come back to find my 13 month old toddler guzzling it and laughing.  So I find out my affinity for coffee has been passed on.  So now, every time she smells poppa making coffee she wants some, a sip, at restaurants she throws a fit if I don't let her smell it. 

So my question is, at what age could I reasonably give her some very very weak coffee?  I feel like a terrible parent asking this, but I figure maybe for a treat or something?  Could 1/4 strength 2oz of coffee be worse than chocolate?  Thanks! ",3.0159252157238754,5.293745899328865,3.686888782358584,87.58552013422819,76.58389261744965,6.136337488015339,22.72339405560882,7.1686216300943375,0.856566251198466,605,18,115,7,14,191,104,149,0.068,0.773,0.159,0.9159,2,0,1,0,0,0,23,0,0,0,1,5,9,1,0,10,0,9,3,0,2,0,19,21,9,0,4,3,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,4,1,0,6,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,3,5,17,6,14,13,2,20,0,0,0,1,11,8,0,5,9,69,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645129169790042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454207581188593,0.0,0.0,0.1353379347608609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161379157036176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810533226312101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838890603489304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829284874455434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899404361445169,0.1257388934117713,0.0,0.0,0.3217330304691749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688412237914503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19123129533749547,0.17997830574305573,0.0,0.08598775871079589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885250383266147,0.0,0.11748553227344175,0.0,0.17682192547227316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048650200409912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468894201362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19543410118895488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19716727032881973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18096372907637664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742223978011392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549820285706662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148503629784792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204289910799466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052613085308648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29044716262561915,0.10381304083682824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315954831461382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936539574731952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thefirstofherkind,2018/02/28,"My Kid thinks Friendship stops shootings So my 8 year old told me something that blew my mind yesterday.

  Apparently her teacher had decided to share with the class what happened with the latest school shooting. Personally I did not want to tell her about it because she’s 8, I feel she doesn’t really need to know about that right now. Frankly if a school shooter shows up in an elementary school, her knowing that this happens isn’t going to do her a lick of good, because she’s 8 and will not be prepared either way unless that schools running monthly gunman drills, which they aren’t. So why worry her.

  But that’s neither here nor there at this point.

 On the way home she told me how her teacher said that and asked if it was true. Since I have a policy of either truth or omission ,but never downright lies with my kids, I confirm that it’s true.

  She then looked at me and said ‘That’s why I tried to make friends with x. He only has one friend, so I gave him a note that said ‘wanna be bffs?’ But then he tried to throw it away! He needs to have more friends so he doesn’t grow up and shoot people, if you know, that’s what he wants to do.’

  I just kind of stared at her for a moment. I had no idea what to say. It was like getting sucker punched in the brain.

  Today my fiancé and I are brainstorming on how to talk to her about how not every introvert is a madman waiting to happen. I’m also writing a letter to the teacher to find out exactly what was said, because my daughter also mentioned meaness as a cause of these shootings and I need to know where that idea came from. 

  I am heartbroken that this is a talk I have to have with my 3rd grader. I hate this country so much right now.

UPDATE: So the teacher wrote back. She told the class that you never know what's going going on in a person's head or in thier life, so you should always be nice to people even if they are mean to you. Then she specifically singled out kid x, who is apparently a problem kid who is the class bully, and said they should all be nice to him and try to be his friend. All in the context of school shootings. 

So now my daughter thinks she and everyone else need to befriend this bully, even if he's mean to them, so that he doesn't come to school and kill them.

I..I'm pretty mad about this. Wtf. If that kids a bully, she needs to work with him and his parents on that, not tell my child she should let someone be mean to her with a smile on her face. 

 So we told her that no, she does not need to make friends with someone who is mean to her. Ever. That it's always a good thing to help people who seem to need it, and to make friends with people who are lonely. But if someone is bullying you you tell the teacher and tell them to leave you alone.  If they stop and make efforts to be better, then that's fine. But not while they're still being mean.
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parenting,mustkman,2018/02/28,"What does a father of a newborn do? I'm not good with kids. Hallo /r/parenting,

My GF (22) told me (25) that she is in her 7 months pregnant.

Now I am looking for a job in her region so we can move together. I live >3 hours away from her. The plan that I would move was determined before.

At the momemt I go to my Job as if nothing happend and she is doing all the preperation things. Choosing midwife, filing documents...

I don't know if I will be at the birth (in case of a premature birth) and even after that, I will only be there at weekends (probably not every weekend).

Finally, if we move together, I still don't know what to do with this kid. I didn't wanted a child, I'm not a kids person and have no idea how to be a father.


I'm overwhelm with this situation and could need some options and advices.

Thank you.",2.1238403361344496,3.5872198882352966,4.138655462184875,87.01823529411767,76.58823529411767,7.2100840336134455,25.084033613445378,7.957251820313856,1.375226890756303,631,22,135,10,14,216,105,170,0.041,0.926,0.032,-0.1043,3,0,0,0,0,0,33,2,1,0,1,6,3,0,1,11,0,19,0,0,1,1,28,30,11,0,7,6,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,8,10,0,0,4,2,0,4,7,1,0,0,3,1,20,2,19,20,2,21,0,1,1,0,18,7,0,5,10,97,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025905581028144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540835464953271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955205482208244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094078092315029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143517642976951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083205572846469,0.0,0.1381772059347595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965415624075812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320506887362158,0.13755555114857065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615071197890057,0.0,0.0,0.1851362156124943,0.0,0.0,0.32548970129317817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802603951384613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481514366555165,0.0,0.13771882777718653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090336103740985,0.5229186394497143,0.0,0.12160403872334838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573625741983158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472950988380067,0.0,0.0,0.1821027667570012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431986117192428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768199078138054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434304833017207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309707376008049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098931087958525,0.0,0.0,0.10895441735225636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670917853208932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673154197161364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650100647018426,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bwalker62112,2018/02/28,"Organizing School Work My kindergartener brings home EVERYTHING they do in school. All work sheets, coloring pages etc..
Although I love seeing what she’s doing in school, I’m a little torn on what to keep and what to throw away. 
And how to organize what I do decide to keep. 

Any suggestions?",3.3927777777777814,6.2821886481481535,3.653333333333337,84.90000000000002,79.18518518518519,8.044444444444443,21.962962962962962,8.841846274778883,1.8572074074074072,233,7,43,6,6,72,39,54,0.032,0.888,0.079,0.5413,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,7,9,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,8,9,3,7,0,0,2,1,4,5,0,0,0,27,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715547070304671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033094661893042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413367247601616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944811461554445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170610177932166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846822002616506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168838286916685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953042064353751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6570074236423464,0.17243815398683812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150750973302475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hahaamanda,2018/02/28,"I lost my son. hey, Reddit. It's me. (F21) Since I was a little girl, I've always wanted to be a mom. i was so excited to one day hold a little baby in my arms with my husband/boyfriend by my side. I met this wonderful man over a year ago, we became a couple, and we wanted to have kids after we got married. however, a short while after we moved in together, i became pregnant by accident. even though i was overjoyed, i was scared for my boyfriends reaction. When I told him, he cried tears of joy. He would never let go of my tummy. He was so excited to be a daddy. Around a month ago, we found out we were having a boy. his name was going to be Jeremiah. Around two weeks ago, I became five months pregnant. we only had around four more months until we got to meet our little angel. Late June/early July seemed so close. three days ago, while my boyfriend was at work, I was doing yoga until I felt something leak out of me. My heart plunged to my stomach as I ripped off my sweats and saw thick blood in my pants. i almost threw up. i ran to my car and called my boyfriend to meet me in the emergency room at out local hospital. I couldn't tell him why because I was afraid of puking. When I got there and told them my situation, they rushed me immediately to the birthing center. they did an ultrasound and took away my pants for examination. Minutes felt like hours. My doctor came back and boyfriend came in to the room around the same time. the look on my boyfriend's face was one of pure fear. He was incredibly pale. we got the news that i had miscarried. I will never forget the way he said it. I began to sob as my boyfriend covered his face in his hands. He told me since I still had pieces stuck in my womb, I could either get the rest of my baby surgically removed or take pills to ""drain"" him out. after that, I don't remember much. I remember throwing up when we got home hours later. I called my parents to tell them and they began to cry too. My boyfriend told his parents and they were in pure shock. my best friend is hugging me always. I don't get it. I don't smoke, drink, etc. I took care of my baby. why do i have to lose him? i'll never know what he would have looked like. My boyfriend and I cry into each other every night. He hasn't been able to work because he's so heartbroken. i need someone to talk to who knows what I'm going through. Please help.",1.5560050679365671,3.5712771724846064,2.9163615710603352,92.60904277163704,80.14989733059548,5.7052557997291276,20.423303770370048,6.761325535456951,0.21141910087815186,1841,49,403,19,47,597,239,487,0.091,0.821,0.08800000000000001,0.0982,3,0,3,0,0,0,68,11,0,6,5,17,16,0,3,18,0,38,13,9,0,5,63,80,24,0,7,2,4,4,2,1,3,2,1,3,4,10,33,1,1,10,2,0,14,8,7,0,6,43,8,87,9,64,28,9,86,1,3,3,2,60,36,1,4,37,260,97,3,0.07231341762692589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25640592633728265,0.0,0.07241144210183194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034111274541645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25749709209121513,0.0,0.0,0.0679408362726412,0.05560455451422308,0.0,0.08816317639299577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588847041612948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768016904375236,0.1654145705018733,0.07372834870729704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577363797787542,0.08001342118100813,0.23829868106004215,0.09327234405917634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401584712302853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083961926877146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064857584269343,0.04776233033850008,0.0,0.06092717320281324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137269915710356,0.0,0.0,0.13886444236014114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928792994966805,0.05586916707737465,0.0,0.0755615521676457,0.0,0.12329214510223545,0.0,0.2891782301633563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569174806343811,0.04847015953390536,0.0,0.0725362539554866,0.0,0.14242829986761066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948312633701758,0.0,0.08157268483393923,0.0,0.0,0.07394536890747211,0.0,0.07065736632140546,0.2174311256358915,0.0,0.0,0.12145011641400225,0.08090021726866391,0.07893863761524406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846926007418004,0.1731596401186967,0.07685771880439503,0.053158682444263514,0.053619482890377865,0.16731769696402238,0.0,0.0,0.06786124379761595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800288653992567,0.05499761267267485,0.0,0.0,0.16059098511738373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937841724260768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383401102603354,0.0,0.06878661976921875,0.0,0.07239834622225456,0.0,0.0,0.06583141950552616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963681265446376,0.08128331122609275,0.0,0.0,0.06127092408938443,0.055670401803145496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05774958872791261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437069053958475,0.05812278590494758,0.12641022869767068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104756566317938,0.0,0.04216653534736055,0.0,0.0,0.2763942778638386,0.16068573547842765,0.0,0.0,0.07063970147096207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530465458481425,0.057399024999722936,0.05800546174220959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050322355140198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842081673252868,0.10529005856209857,0.0,0.0,0.10273875421771583,0.0,0.0,0.0465674700632132
parenting,Akn774,2018/02/28,"Unique situation advice Hello, I’m new here. 
I’ve got a very unique situation going on in my home and I was hoping to gain some advice and thoughts from you all. Long read ahead....

My husband has a son whose biological mother left him when he was 1 1/2. He does not remember her and there is no relationship. Her parental rights have been terminated. I met my husband and step son when he was 2 1/2 years old, and have been a constant “mother figure” in his life ever since. 

I love him as if he is my own and he has called me Mom since he was about 3. He did that on his own, we did not push it. He knows, to the best of his 6 year old ability, that I am not his biological mother. We have been age appropriately honest with him about our situation. 

My husband and I were planning on me adopting him and had started the process and everything. 

My husband has recently decided that he wants a divorce and is no longer allowing me to adopt his son. 

The Request for divorce was a surprise for me because there is nothing major in our marriage that has happened to warrant a divorce. He said that he just isn’t in love with me and doesn’t think that he ever was. 

I am heartbroken for many reasons, but one of the biggest ones is because he is no longer allowing the adoption to happen. He says that I don’t need to be his son’s legal mother to remain in his life. Which is not untrue, however having legal rights would be beneficial for many reasons. My husband is in a dangerous line of work and if anything were to happen to him, his son would automatically be in the custody of my husband’s parents, which would be an awful situation. 

My husband said that he thinks it is important for me to stay in his son’s life and is willing to allow me to have him “maybe every other weekend or so”. This to me is completely unfair. I am the one who has basically been primary care giver of this child for almost his whole life. I make and take him to appointments, I set his schedule, I sign him up for sports/activities, I only work part time so I am the one who is there and available to him every day and it has been that way for the last 4+ years. To take me away from his day to day life and allow him to see me “maybe every other weekend or so” would be detrimental to his development in my opinion. My husband doesn’t seem to think so. 

My husband doesn’t want me to adopt him for fear that I might “come after him” for 50/50 custody or child support and potentially take him away completely. I would never do that. Ever. Period. I want legal rights to this child so I can have the right to make decisions for him, not have to have essentially a permission slip from my husband for everything, and so this child can have two legal parents and at least live the most “normal” life we can achieve, Among other reasons. 
My husband is justifying his decision based on opinions of others who don’t even know of our situation. 

Sorry for the long read, but I just need some advice and opinions/thoughts on the matter. 
Am I being irrational in wanting to adopt him still? Is my husband in the right here?

TIA ",4.176538802660755,5.32452520487805,5.402599778270509,81.22367793791575,70.9349593495935,8.192535107169254,28.774020694752398,8.575989854853784,2.071528455284553,2431,91,483,40,44,810,235,615,0.048,0.8540000000000001,0.098,0.9687,4,0,0,0,3,0,59,6,1,0,7,23,11,1,1,23,1,73,8,0,9,5,89,108,37,0,15,14,26,0,0,0,7,6,3,1,4,28,27,0,0,15,4,0,4,15,2,0,5,21,4,83,9,76,74,11,65,0,0,1,2,102,28,0,14,30,355,111,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18615693625891927,0.0,0.0,0.06358694539927982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05225580273569371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932230932162445,0.0,0.0,0.07741907799108272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664024199378851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484148480523026,0.0,0.06474336579344762,0.0,0.0,0.054700373980230615,0.13315890132921593,0.06862187789330149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285841733299027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555700364442402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041941723617457634,0.17232050848807295,0.16050665709701714,0.0,0.11414096900523385,0.0,0.0,0.07145612941968826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036089005969300134,0.0,0.05078744407879293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684608203369887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369654692485585,0.06307068881925515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979683138264875,0.05176168177374207,0.0,0.0,0.06899387755783683,0.0,0.26911524090402544,0.0,0.0,0.05607242875682539,0.11239253768966476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114624023017194,0.0,0.08477464333633884,0.12875982412017126,0.12759031155485706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736438469514362,0.0,0.0743714476990871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417017620207893,0.04897578316523808,0.061329532835371375,0.0,0.0,0.062217366934079005,0.0609307943035565,0.0,0.13326695538076674,0.0,0.17211932298275312,0.04829527064507449,0.0,0.0,0.2115305932158192,0.06876525060878334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703610203339294,0.0,0.0,0.1958684013137628,0.06269944514390803,0.06817616638607027,0.07193410330792074,0.27114696633772234,0.12080773172050052,0.05049843800186957,0.0,0.0,0.05060196933897086,0.05780880419103094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505714640104917,0.3568881742154579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710840214680225,0.04494624034427197,0.06768347492863944,0.0507118742381702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206003110298044,0.0,0.0,0.1432342471152463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206637414060913,0.0,0.1008251902158335,0.037027866080042965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203111980754013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239486544251825,0.149817825911018,0.050404032328158016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089645001352836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245877461547967,0.0,0.0,0.2255459691592944,0.0,0.0,0.12267742874646695
parenting,alwaystrying79,2018/02/28,"Trouble with toddler My toddler is 3 and has never took to routine as far as bedtime. I know I messed up by chance sleeping and nursing him in my bed to begin with. I don't want to be told what I ""should"" have done differently then. He has been weaned but refuses to sleep in his own bed/room. I think it's starting to affect my marriage. We should be in our bed and have that time together. (We have NO time alone together at all.) We made toddlers room comfy and great but he cannot lay down without screaming bloody murder for me to lay with him. This kid will not sleep without snuggles from me all night. It's just so frustrating... I'm at my wit's end and I'm afraid my SO is too...any advice on late start to bedtime routine/sleeping on own??",1.2132142857142871,3.3846288116883163,2.568944805194807,93.78770292207794,82.31168831168831,5.148701298701299,23.910714285714285,6.322622252153567,0.5399493506493509,583,22,126,5,16,188,95,154,0.07,0.812,0.117,0.8871,1,1,0,0,0,0,23,4,0,0,0,3,7,2,1,0,0,16,3,3,2,3,28,27,12,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,5,11,0,1,2,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,5,1,19,1,26,17,4,22,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,0,10,84,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155926289701047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123276136966986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243055679034047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17273541010603874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919072478663694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643394224287012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18227769883449046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086143812855682,0.0,0.1865002497408646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643992167449716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751324103724718,0.0,0.0,0.15515167781648573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6618004662800229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340438644707617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593724750195886,0.0,0.0,0.19281134092861926,0.0,0.0,0.1579805849025606,0.18368850956376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751634028298396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187458221238925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Synix0,2018/02/28,"Fastest way we got our 3 year old to sleep. 3 yr old daughter is crying in her room shortly after we tucked her in for the night. My wife goes in to see what's going on. Minutes later she comes out and tells me that our daughter was crying because she'd bitten her tongue. My wife went to kiss her cheek to comfort her but ended up burping in her ear. The two giggled until my daughter smashed her hand over her nose complaining that my wife's breath stunk. 

Thinking fast my wife responded, ""K we'll go to sleep or I'll keep breathing on you!""

My daughter instantly said ""OK!!"" And rolled over. We haven't heard a peep sense. 

My wife is amazing. I love her so much.",2.3023333333333333,4.173976066666668,2.9575,93.89625000000002,77.22222222222223,5.3888888888888875,24.583333333333336,5.985473137389443,0.4766666666666671,519,18,111,3,12,162,89,135,0.066,0.778,0.156,0.9466,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,6,1,0,0,1,8,0,0,3,1,6,11,8,0,0,11,17,6,0,0,2,9,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,3,7,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,5,7,27,6,18,10,1,27,0,0,1,2,33,12,0,1,10,62,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203290656284646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003676771575246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43365433363595596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483179021973774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243662146555737,0.0,0.15787337824826464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545215027093367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815507425473645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451067180257964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18524015110692627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142619270657033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877661405409196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729682779792106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950715200171674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17253036162476196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648159537356654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928244789272324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668153822893022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829854786297848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271147522273962
parenting,turquoisegiraffes,2018/02/28,"Heartbroken today My 4yo went to school today with all of his teeth and came home missing 3 of them. Tomorrow, it will become 4.

I will be honest, he is a handful and is in therapies in school to help him handle his daily activities. All of his teachers are aware that he has issues with listening most of the time and they have repeatedly assured me that they can handle it.

He was playing on the playground and went down the big slide face first. Teacher caught him, put him in timeout for 5 minutes and then let him go do his own thing again. At that point, he went down the slide again the same way & slammed his face into the ground. 

Once his father got there, he took him to an emergency appointment at his dentist to see if the teeth can be salvaged and none can. Three have already been fully knocked out and the 4th will require minor surgery to remove. I should add that the school sent his family life specialist along with his father and my youngest. She stayed in the lobby and took care of my 18 month old while my 4yo was seen. 

He has an appointment with an oral surgeon tomorrow and I suppose he will need stitches at the very least. 

I was okay for a while, and now I am heartbroken. He is already in speech therapy, how far is this going to set him back?

What about for the next 2 years, waiting for his permanent teeth to grow back in, how many people are going to give us the side eye? And that 2 years isn’t even guaranteed, it could take more time than that. 

I am just soooo tired. My son eats up a ton of my emotional energy and my anxiety is through the roof today. 

Anyone been here or have any advice? I am probably overreacting here but damn, it’s hard being a parent. 

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parenting,phiggie,2018/02/28,"I never fully understood the joy of a bath until parenthood. Seriously, 30 minutes a week I get to ignore the loudness, the messes, the barely controlled chaos.  I love being a mom to two toddlers,  but this 30 minutes is a piece of heaven.",5.642666666666668,6.660758155555558,7.304444444444448,69.41000000000001,67.44444444444444,8.666666666666668,32.77777777777778,8.841846274778883,3.1214444444444447,187,8,29,3,3,65,33,45,0.114,0.684,0.202,0.7302,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,8,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,3,3,5,3,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613704700520878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21491640974146928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712646393711556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817749016778187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172629261500361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40183481121894943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299647830254531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonoman925,2018/03/01,"What have you have to explain to your kids that as a result of PC culture you’ve had to re-examine your own thinking. We were watching Sandlot and one of the kids says: “you play baseball like a girl!”  I had to explain why that was insulting. 

Also, we drive past a school and my kids asks: who’s that guy with a gun?  I’m like ‘what the fuck’. Then I realize the school’s mascot is a white man with a gun. 

I’ve also had to explain why some buildings have lower case t’s. ",0.16565454545454728,2.2296558200000014,2.115454545454547,96.08772727272728,85.8,4.836363636363637,21.090909090909093,6.11248444174946,0.06780000000000007,362,12,83,3,11,120,60,100,0.109,0.813,0.077,-0.4753,1,0,0,2,0,0,11,2,4,0,0,2,5,2,0,9,0,9,1,0,1,0,13,16,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,6,6,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,5,3,9,3,10,11,2,3,0,0,2,1,20,0,1,1,4,51,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999847366277693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337951129874755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23119895636110965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476228296233154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24435716717605804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946363115941648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23873381445032035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887711672054367,0.0,0.5061974371856133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602439566989954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513244644487066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karladominguez,2018/03/01,How to deal with my son wanting next door neighbor to sleep over? My son is a 16 year old and he is a junior in high school. Our next door neighbor is a girl who is a 17 year old senior. He seems to be close to her and he asked if I could let her spend the night tomorrow. I asked if it was okay with her parents  and they said it would be fine since they would be out of town for the weekend. How can I deal with this?,0.5889516129032266,1.8857990107526919,1.8856854838709691,102.24852822580648,80.39784946236558,5.08010752688172,18.076612903225808,5.148860815047168,-0.8751709677419353,320,6,85,1,8,102,57,93,0.0,0.954,0.046,0.4696,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,6,1,13,1,1,2,0,17,18,7,0,6,2,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,4,1,4,8,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,11,2,12,9,0,16,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,3,10,53,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410362674473513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563049546883775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37609003776386507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19271420842794712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18651499718005898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879661079970509,0.17116879505172966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827934412054829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025321367575532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735029033168458,0.0,0.0,0.1845971910653716,0.0,0.16604889805603176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508820640465,0.0,0.1825303953718955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758346090098947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591415627012135,0.0,0.0,0.2349175256232991
parenting,salamalopolis,2018/03/01,"Suspecting Aspergers- how to ask therapist? 8.5 y/o daughter has been in regular therapy appointments for anxiety related issues for 8 or 9 months (except the past month, we temporarily lost our state insurance because I forgot to update income, but it's back now), with little to no improvement. We have had to switch therapists twice in that time due to people relocating, getting promoted, etc, and we start with our third and newest one at our next appointment. We have been in the same clinic the whole time.  

I've long suspected something more is going on with kiddo other than just anxiety for some time now, and I'm recently concerned it may be aspergers. Her behavior is progressively getting worse/more demanding the older she gets and it seems like much more than anxiety, to the point where her demands and struggles are weighing heavy on the entire family. We can't really go out in busy public places anymore without her having some sort of bizarre MELTDOWN. She's so sensitive when she's upset if I touch her shoulder she yelps and shouts at me to stop pushing her, or she incessantly chants 'why are you so mad at me?!' when literally no one is even upset. 

My issue is, how do I bring it up with the new therapist in a way they will hear me and take the concern seriously? Should I take a point by point list of all the symptoms/troubling behaviors? Should I just tell them I think she needs a new intake assessment, or a screening for autism spectrum disorders?

Any supportive feedback, advice or guidance is really appreciated guys. We are feeling so overwhelmed and just sad that we cannot help our kiddo work through these big emotions she is dealing with. ",7.73279406442273,8.2246961791531,7.781536373507057,69.65064694173,62.7785016286645,11.512775968150565,36.599529496923644,11.20814326018867,4.3946693449149485,1345,60,224,36,18,435,195,307,0.151,0.7829999999999999,0.066,-0.9757,1,0,1,0,0,0,34,11,1,2,4,16,10,1,4,13,0,24,3,1,2,1,50,43,21,0,4,11,1,2,1,0,4,1,2,0,1,8,21,1,2,5,0,0,4,5,8,0,4,5,5,36,2,36,33,9,47,0,3,1,0,34,19,0,10,23,161,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075432433636212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484031873875774,0.0,0.25257243512752703,0.0,0.10914374014261023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028853929851088,0.0,0.0,0.08462453469702945,0.0,0.067087739887935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346057597552503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613112340476296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237956473764087,0.0,0.0,0.12273901417410495,0.07268945891667046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374887380680407,0.0,0.0556464789047311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724956143170805,0.0,0.1250921559960407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897050760528193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403856615234568,0.0,0.07376670370047361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297350284209375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05376669950963316,0.11030276204492163,0.0,0.09739409883875977,0.0,0.0,0.12013666031797345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17568769442680035,0.0,0.08090216361327504,0.0816034555071007,0.0,0.21258118040526774,0.11704340357977301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915052813318738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505874996570633,0.07629740792488024,0.0,0.11498273706776352,0.0,0.3121090772566532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100649094303025,0.0,0.10866479364212653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018879375564653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472474764244015,0.0,0.0,0.0778966053174759,0.0,0.0,0.0920098565306172,0.0,0.11505206679057635,0.0,0.0,0.12488768268488255,0.0,0.0,0.16549343586204354,0.0,0.09619182167666834,0.0,0.12585604571841005,0.38334263196956897,0.0,0.07051799435751295,0.0,0.0,0.19251966667461515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735553814071563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930638475554122,0.12287107314900893,0.0,0.10608788040107353,0.0,0.08012043520429117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,purplelilly95,2018/03/01,"23-month-old says 70+ words, but isn’t saying two-word sentences yet. Should we pursue speech therapy? My toddler absolutely loves to label things, and goes around pointing out things and naming them, will ask for a snack, water, milk, a kiss, etc, but also spends lots of time just babbling gibberish and looking at us while she does as if we understand what she says. However, I’m mostly concerned about the fact that she isn’t stringing together two-word sentences yet. Is this a reason to pursue speech therapy? Is 70-80 words good for this age? And is it normal for her to still be babbling even though she has this many words?

TL;DR - Toddler names things and communicates with us, but still babbles frequently and isn’t putting together sentences yet. Should we be concerned? ",7.18952269170579,8.203571739436619,6.268967136150238,78.21914710485133,64.0,9.128012519561816,33.383411580594675,9.150863307647796,2.9451571205007823,625,25,107,10,9,189,92,142,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.9509,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,1,0,11,3,0,0,4,0,12,5,0,1,1,30,17,14,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,9,12,3,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,12,3,13,12,3,14,0,0,1,2,18,4,0,3,9,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079946334319608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447190437949708,0.1412170095251989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219016154037636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846741826846873,0.09977109203152597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669864241029466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684903203114406,0.0,0.0,0.12842244629542138,0.13633397680289988,0.0,0.0,0.15314711883835802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205714926944032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800285031098334,0.0,0.0,0.1585079072015224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427967866544252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185304559029986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531077097818025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603774860055388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412671027950637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454915006174486,0.0,0.3010647694230618,0.0,0.14841179570091215,0.0,0.08808199367527379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951196102279714,0.15725466847155406,0.36340364237415024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TrashPanda_97,2018/03/01,"New mom, any advice welcome In about a month I’ll be having my first baby girl.  I have a 4 year old step daughter that my husband has 50/50 custody of but not one of my own let alone a newborn. Any advice to survive labor, post labor, or breast feeding is more than welcome. ",3.568928571428572,4.555249464285719,4.620000000000001,86.875,72.21428571428571,5.6000000000000005,28.285714285714285,3.1291,0.8661571428571428,214,8,42,0,4,70,46,56,0.045,0.847,0.108,0.5423,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,6,2,1,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,6,4,2,8,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,1,5,27,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5160101879599654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734533687356352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590961712842817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22458207158476196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699865060180678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092263883147837,0.21074462092635002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549998759261428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770529589583866,0.0,0.17891219766384825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528658282815116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002536767650708
parenting,Will_E_Juan_Kuh,2018/03/01,"My son (11) punched a kid on the bus because he called him stupid, even after my son told him to stop. A little back story here:  My son lives with my ex wife and I live quite far away due to my job.  And we also don’t agree on child rearing and quite honestly never have.

Today my ex texted me and told me what happened.  Apparently one kid called him “stupid” and my son told him to “stop” and the kid continued and my son punched him in the face.

A part of me can appreciate the fact that my son has stood up for himself, but another part of me can’t believe that he would resort to violence to “solve” his problems.  My ex claims that he “stood his ground” and that she bets “that kid want talk like that again” to my son.

I’m shocked, mad, confused, but most of all...disappointed.  I would never have guessed nor have I ever told my son to use violence as a means to solve his problems.  Maybe I’m over reacting to this or maybe I’m in the right on this.  What does everyone think?

Edit:  not looking for sympathy or berating, but everyone’s opinions or points of view on this.  Thanks!",3.84972602739726,4.6181285844748885,4.544182648401826,88.48723287671234,71.3744292237443,8.214429223744293,26.928767123287678,8.447377352677275,1.536530958904109,836,27,186,13,15,268,116,219,0.161,0.76,0.08,-0.9711,2,0,0,0,0,0,26,1,0,0,2,6,10,3,1,9,0,9,1,1,2,4,37,26,17,0,5,7,12,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,11,10,0,2,2,0,1,0,6,7,0,1,6,2,30,3,27,18,3,25,0,0,2,0,38,14,0,8,12,114,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653297442440806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657657406520126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341246482146734,0.09281972269889656,0.0,0.07358463399754936,0.0,0.0,0.136000568289664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465199561172815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563548156569068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797288332979753,0.1091904982285888,0.0,0.2306900976998297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297736975822627,0.0,0.10674481561122907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978757673124432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058973560762092224,0.12098467451061085,0.21318100160789336,0.0,0.10136729109494874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425419320668958,0.13149025417716215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620036158903794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179726311808241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614376677738223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411142212475472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310092814602283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25678316159972675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308699506757377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20184050404089096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702336287587013,0.0,0.11113496734752197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734708031164475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442042489542005,0.4613801953996594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425601280429876,0.0,0.0,0.07119879345011461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150002837410047,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mythril78,2018/03/01,"Vasculitis? Hello! Hoping to find someone with experience with Vasculitis in children. 

My one year old daughter recently had some spots on her face and arm. Her pediatrician said today it is Vasculitis, but not to worry it will go away soon. Everything I am reading online says it is very serious and doesn’t just go away. It can affect blood flow and developing organs. Obviously that has me freaked out a bit. 

Does anyone have experience with this?",4.327194444444444,7.476952774999997,5.576666666666664,70.91277777777779,77.5,9.055555555555557,28.88888888888889,9.444778638647367,3.5359722222222216,362,16,57,11,9,120,64,80,0.056,0.8759999999999999,0.068,0.2433,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,9,3,3,1,1,15,13,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,2,5,1,10,10,2,13,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,5,40,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726952661670814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3957664961615458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22994112442079306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18431388681748104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189290551065032,0.4120511027032486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250172114886532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393989778378281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091919412757136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22100894746764985,0.0,0.14272071535879288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106757456908566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796060566505056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003466617603492,0.1674924830340091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845658276950324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996419473003294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17378252592437174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21389356355712205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356315691204334
parenting,PenAndInkAndComics,2018/03/01,"Phone Auditing Software - Pros and cons? Hi All, New to the site. I'm considering putting Qustodio on my 14 year old son's phone because I need him to get sleep. And I need to be able to audit his phone.  Have you all put phone parental control software on your kid's phone. How did it work out?  What were the social repercussions to you, for doing it?",1.3812857142857131,3.8332093428571454,2.31964285714286,94.01660714285715,84.14285714285714,5.7857142857142865,23.035714285714285,7.1686216300943375,0.7904285714285719,274,10,59,4,8,86,51,70,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,2,2,9,9,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,9,6,2,9,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,3,32,11,1,0.2548555246307128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535756233142498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858421416784633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315149284567815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779442845020931,0.0,0.2461410537936357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674280017862191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829868999844813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5124003876442006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550395782426764,0.2597931126480017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855378572458077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411860209558354
parenting,Mushbroom,2018/03/01,"My 18 month old son won't take a nap longer than 1 hour He used to be on a great schedule of 2 naps, first from 9-10am and second from 2-3pm.  Bed at 7pm, wake up at 6:40am and repeat.  He started consistently refusing his second nap and we would have 8 straight hours of awake time and it was hell.  So I started pushing his first nap closer to noon.  He usually only makes it to around 11am.  He sleeps for 1 hour and wakes up screaming and stays in the worst mood ever for hours.  He clearly needs to sleep longer but he won't.  I've tried CIO, putting him in the car immediately and driving around, rocking him back to sleep, nothing works, he just wants to be awake and angry.  



I've also moved his bedtime earlier to make up for the lost hour of sleep but he just ends up falling asleep at the same time or even later and sometimes wakes up even earlier the next morning.  I've tried going back to 2 naps but he just refuses the 2nd nap and is back to 8 hours of cranky awake time.  PLEASE HELP ME 😭 this has been going on for 2 months and everything I read says when they go down to 1 nap it's around 2 hours long!!",2.1991767881241557,3.607539367521369,3.181533963112912,94.1883198380567,76.26495726495726,6.293837156995053,22.144849302744042,6.8360192770164,0.2977470085470082,868,23,202,8,19,277,132,234,0.08199999999999999,0.856,0.063,-0.5163,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,1,4,16,6,1,0,8,0,10,8,8,3,2,33,22,18,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,4,15,0,2,0,9,0,9,2,4,0,4,3,2,11,1,37,14,2,58,1,1,0,0,21,18,1,1,30,103,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401051598710465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24716173615656375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134908494745917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196996285423566,0.0,0.0,0.12225401996814488,0.08371486699723588,0.0,0.0,0.08317607802210733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744237972120578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779129977975714,0.0,0.0,0.1020343779165464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620329013421346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6379872205170461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190197231941786,0.0,0.0,0.10102695692271436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355287343173532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774168925396652,0.09836376306208568,0.0,0.06862308942532762,0.0,0.0,0.09842573332940027,0.0,0.0,0.08880219863402769,0.0,0.09711344467393716,0.0,0.0,0.07038684241570277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158979406826668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930361935998156,0.0,0.0,0.09257293701325917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359779850906037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704589168808685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915322318681063,0.0,0.13101174893667247,0.0986437392381646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958449723662463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189626064544296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256678876545229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993166426718291,0.10192842823381536,0.0,0.05458714467592229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737596779025888,0.0,0.0,0.06574336731802251,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dmartensen,2018/03/01,"What are some essential must-have baby items? My wife is 24 weeks pregnant and we're having a girl :) 

We want to start shopping and gradually accumulating things now so that we're not shelling all the money out at once when she comes lol. 

So for all you parents, what was the one item or items that were a must-have when you had your baby? Also things like toys and pacifiers and non essentials...your favorite brands and specific products. Anything you would recommend to us as young first-time parents? ",4.587765957446809,6.826875382978728,4.30739361702128,85.10875000000001,71.7659574468085,7.253191489361702,27.707446808510642,8.07648339933343,1.7853446808510638,402,15,75,6,8,122,70,94,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.9279,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,4,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,1,7,0,0,0,2,15,10,12,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,8,1,6,6,6,9,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,7,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081860556656055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21422966438700736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242515117201372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214368295613245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271842401710102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27724328497095696,0.1764065561465756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5781320047385029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842631340506443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3459037819728994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31314531052778005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354956236365244,0.0,0.20882127261560754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849311837050148,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,delphinium_,2018/03/01,"Extremely anxious about birth costs. I was wondering if people could give me some advice about the cost of giving birth in the US. I can only find horror stories or ""it was fine"" stories and no information about how to have one or the other. My medical insurance from my parents is ending soon and I'm trying to plan what to do. I'm not pregnant yet but it is hopefully in the near future for us.",2.16863924050633,4.499134265822786,4.094161392405066,83.29795094936712,79.75949367088606,6.987974683544303,23.799050632911392,8.07648339933343,1.609517721518988,313,11,59,6,8,106,58,79,0.069,0.8490000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.2625,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,1,0,14,14,7,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,7,2,12,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,6,6,48,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21663692572382992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504512499308754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17700471332272086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635518570878094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262440696839712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253383967778691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22019228083046707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22333349986803205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022567143343835,0.16860836619588454,0.0,0.0,0.2461650816334677,0.0,0.0,0.15369478710676734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051575332487171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5333414534908884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404178134733473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,landops,2018/03/01,"Pediatrician Labelled 3yr old ""borderline obese"" at checkup today. I just don't see it. Was having a fairly productive morning until a text from my wife saying that our ped labelled our 3yr old is ""borderline obese"" with measurements: 3' 0.5"" / 32 lb 12.8 oz. She comes from a line of short people (we're all under 5'8) and I was a particularly chunky baby/toddler but grew out of it. We are by no means a 100% healthy family but certainly at healthy weights.

She's an enormously picky eat who won't even deign to eat something she's not familiar with. We're working on that, but it's a rough road. Anyway, she doesn't have the best diet, but a) she doesn't look ""borderline obese"" and b) based on her measurements, I wouldn't label her as such, anyway. But I'm not a doctor or in any way qualified to make that assessment. Just seems dramatic.

Am I crazy?",3.8612805158912953,5.450607251497004,5.035568862275452,81.84046522339938,72.29341317365271,8.731275909719024,27.217411331183786,9.265573868473778,2.29018231229848,669,24,132,15,13,221,111,167,0.066,0.87,0.064,-0.0649,0,0,1,0,0,0,33,3,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,10,0,12,9,0,1,2,23,19,10,0,1,10,1,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,7,7,7,0,2,0,0,2,8,0,0,0,2,5,15,2,18,15,2,17,0,0,2,0,13,10,0,2,4,81,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394363541313085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221358049826092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233594662037506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21665438362359135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331848450734236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980679330351875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954471490025366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777504489609659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129213127247112,0.0,0.0,0.2305719277048608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4442265142711727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674611832750428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832938837399866,0.0,0.0,0.16867449541772855,0.19269745832035887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295478681328973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006394930334572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680147004362388,0.0,0.2577584270278622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409911273153526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WingedCrown,2018/03/01,"Resources for extra math curriculum for kids? Hey there.  My eldest daughter is currently in 5th grade and has shown a real knack for math concepts her whole life.  Last year in 4th grade, she happened to luck out with a really great teacher that implemented differentiation in math work, AND we had a parent volunteer that did an excellent additional ""X-block"" math class once a week that basically expanded on the school curriculum (i.e. in class they were working on decimals to the tenth place, and in X-block they expanded this to the thousandth place).


In 5th grade, things are different for a number of reasons.  For one, there is no more dedicated math X-block.  Second, while there is a tiny bit of differentiation in the class work, it's nothing that really expands concepts to new areas.  We have noticed that our daughter has lost the math ""spark"" that was there for her last year.  We are trying to get more active in school committee meetings and whatnot, but are anticipating changes there to be much longer term.


With that said, does anyone have suggestions for online and/or printed resources (or books) that provide interesting math problems or activities that are age/grade appropriate?  I want to try to get that spark back and this is the best short-term solution I came up with.  This would be done outside of school, obviously, so I guess it should be somewhat fun and not just a worksheet. 
 Happy to hear other ideas as well!


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parenting,lalucklady,2018/03/01,"My friend has a baby with a brain tumor. I'm looking for tips on what to send in a care package A good friend of mine lives out of state. Her oldest daughter is my son's best friend and she and i have been friends since high school. Her youngest daughter is not yet a year old and has already had two surgeries to treat a brain tumor that has so far been benign. However it's come back again and her little one will be having a third surgery this month.

I want to send them a care package, but I don't have any experience with this kind of medical situation. I was wondering if there were parents here who have been in similar situations as her and if there were things they received that helped make it easier. 

Thanks in advance! 
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parenting,VibrantViolet,2018/03/01,"My 6-year-old is disruptive at school-need advice To give a little background, I have a 6-year-old son who is in Kindergarten this year. When he was in Preschool last year, we were aware of some of the issues he was having. He will yell out when it's not appropriate to do so, make noise, and not stop, even when the teacher asks him to. This leads to us getting a bad report for the day.

Currently, there is a system in place to try to help his behavior. He completed a program with the school counselor and earns 15 minutes of ""choice time"" when he makes the right choices at school. Some days he is absolutely great and is praised by his teacher. Other days, not so much. 

Today my husband received a call from the school secretary. Our son had been sent down to the office after hitting another child in the face and just being disruptive to the learning of the other children. He had been *so good* lately, and now this.

His main issue seems to be that he won't or can't control his behavior. Usually he's just disruptive vocally, but hitting another kid like this is new. Hitting is not a punishment we use at home, either. I should also mention our son is very smart. Academically, he is beyond the expectations. He is struggling socially, though.

So, to try and correct bad days, we take away things like the Nintendo Switch for x-amount of time, along with computer privileges. He *loves* the Switch, so losing it is a big deal. It doesn't seem to be correcting this behavior, however.

I have brought this up with his doctor, and he seems to think it's not a big deal and he'll outgrow it. His doctor is usually awesome, so why he won't explore this more is beyond me. I don't want my son to be medicated, I just want tools to try and correct this behavior. 

What should our next step be? Should I contact a child psychologist on my own and have him evaluated? I don't want him pumped full of medication, but I also don't want him disrupting class anymore and especially not hitting other kids. ",4.0018686277787054,5.7994027202072544,4.856802607387597,82.41941083068697,72.3160621761658,8.296707337456125,28.51378906902892,8.933256019334266,2.318982216279458,1574,62,304,32,31,510,190,386,0.066,0.8540000000000001,0.081,0.872,2,0,0,0,0,0,59,7,0,0,5,21,13,1,1,23,0,41,6,1,5,3,57,64,27,0,8,13,5,0,2,0,7,4,1,1,5,20,19,0,2,6,1,0,6,13,5,0,0,9,1,30,8,43,39,8,50,1,1,0,1,56,20,0,6,25,204,50,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990401912963572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714912635394342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294580325145497,0.0,0.0,0.09124200270289128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601014856710426,0.0,0.08643960892966446,0.0,0.1536369008251997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939450907520632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646312933297578,0.0,0.10318890340901377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23733664131169774,0.18970158373359314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833741916976546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607669463982136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04806763779944728,0.08825741787259815,0.0,0.07716753876603884,0.0,0.10143335287044844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061667501678315015,0.0,0.0922862562358528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19205392867005588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499451788188191,0.1037831054668348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989578945294456,0.09221092203262317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029275399991532,0.0,0.0,0.08303607078911518,0.0,0.12282509547134453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536617594011048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763260468650874,0.0,0.0,0.08885682592413212,0.09784596470514392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308281195447607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612328835913587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856984285988851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724467652063743,0.0,0.251267535234939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378521392943194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769184157267275,0.0,0.0961812466327667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917461552309516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061122536710135414,0.05895164508164701,0.09039223136267023,0.0,0.1072950827604826,0.0,0.0872078461313366,0.0,0.0,0.18739147706723053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106679761011724,0.07946083342387475,0.202656054551084,0.0759119012114676,0.2170624144984431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301816865026078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23698700940064385
parenting,talastar,2018/03/01,"How often should an aunt visit niece/nephew? My sister-in-law used to be a doting auntie to my toddler. She lives half an hour away and used to come over often to visit. She is childless and sadly, can't have any kids but absolutely she loves babies so she poured all of that love on my daughter. However since my son was born and she started having an affair, she hardly comes to visit her niece and nephew. We only see her every couple of months now. And when we do meet up, she brings along  the guy she's having an affair with who takes up most of her attention. She's the only family we have around. My whole family lives in another country and my husband's parents and other siblings live across the country. Is it unreasonable for me to ask her to come visit more often? If not, how can I ask her without hurting her feelings?",3.670517482517482,5.280574587878792,4.735757575757578,83.71594405594406,72.81818181818181,6.773892773892776,22.995337995338,7.321109707123232,0.9469114219114214,657,17,124,7,13,215,103,165,0.011,0.902,0.087,0.9412,2,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,8,0,12,2,0,4,1,32,26,13,0,2,4,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,16,0,0,2,0,0,8,3,2,0,1,1,3,26,2,22,23,4,22,0,2,1,2,38,8,0,5,6,95,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130673928991504,0.15621116549070752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132617542051062,0.27853926491857905,0.0,0.1399650246641167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849811105805618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648357759995643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551616623948794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808769467446193,0.0,0.07532521808841408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750667808875825,0.0,0.0,0.13345053458593953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670838333399985,0.0,0.15947866313130954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946376290508327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689078731364168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890881650217268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266013383558613,0.0,0.0,0.16541687169253042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871218260604667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323199383889012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544384657170323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200914589628727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573296581906938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632301924353535,0.0,0.14360464282797678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Logical_Destruction,2018/03/01,"Does it make sense to move for a better public education? So am I going overboard?  

My wife and I had triplets about 2 years ago.  I'm giving serious thought to moving to another city/state so that my kids get a better education.  Public school is the only option having 3 as my wife doesn't want to home school.

I've been trying to figure out where I would be willing to move but that really seems to be the challenge.  I work in the IT industry so I feel like there would be plenty of options for me to move if I find the right job.

Thoughts/Opinions welcome!",2.5598230088495555,4.475847681415932,4.063017699115047,86.05930530973455,76.61061946902655,6.6438938053097365,23.689380530973448,7.554174236665415,1.1021476106194688,440,14,88,6,10,146,77,113,0.021,0.836,0.14300000000000002,0.9203,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,4,6,6,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,15,21,7,0,4,2,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,3,1,10,5,15,12,0,11,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,4,3,55,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895984755599147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437838050615836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27728608675374683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718327828032273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926345931644205,0.11199063732418067,0.0,0.0,0.14327741462018395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190155290325199,0.15038017073266982,0.08909132448949249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572448333924718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555618645334507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765858807788616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463969642698953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6664517964073001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922438739399932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042560174698573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338736920761134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173025536585209,0.0,0.14271002467936775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445133215742915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643094935429226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246215145065996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412443304999538,0.0,0.0,0.2227181224416245,0.0,0.0,0.10094943800230544
parenting,StatusAcanthaceae,2018/03/01,"Toddler starting to put hands over ears when we argue. Should we simply divorce? Long story short: today my wife and I had an argument in the kitchen. Our son (2yo), in the other room with his grandmother, put his hands over his ears (according to her). It broke my heart to hear about it. My concern is that our arguments are frequent enough for him to have learned this ""coping"" strategy. We are already in couples therapy but I'm wondering if this is a sign that he would simply be better off if his mother and I separated. Any advice, similar situations, etc, most welcome.

EDIT: Someone very reasonably pointed out that this is not enough info to recommend for or against a divorce! Of course. It was badly worded. I guess I mean is this ""hands over ears"" gesture as dramatic a sign as it appears to me? It seems like a threshold has been crossed, and I don't want to permanently damage our son.",3.499474852071007,5.9264059112426075,4.518724112426039,81.47855954142015,75.68639053254438,7.538609467455621,29.49741124260355,8.472884824447931,2.5118784023668645,705,32,126,14,16,229,113,169,0.098,0.8190000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.3524,0,0,0,0,2,0,29,6,0,0,1,2,7,1,0,7,0,15,8,7,1,0,28,24,10,0,5,5,4,3,1,0,2,0,4,2,0,13,8,1,0,6,0,0,4,2,4,0,0,3,7,21,3,23,18,4,20,0,2,0,0,22,11,0,8,6,92,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503040104148382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976593200766681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180524404147153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955465076277694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841383487448735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818880819897236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701500917506452,0.1997620510820214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973168271676522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018771175130815,0.21225370907162874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750718951286017,0.0,0.0,0.15851231230941765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951101890861452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693228238623086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601227603764801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416141521377025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630607763206561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013342554360016,0.0,0.0,0.1517646820157104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677945765861168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20483512926150307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978133380580165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778972777296914,0.1056474499930658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194244015276514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723909910184708,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stability_analysis,2018/03/01,"Pediatric Dentist May be a Zealot, Expects Me to Floss Two Toddlers’ Teeth I have two kids, 17 months and almost 3 years old. They’re great, no real problems. I took them to the dentist - again, no problems, the older one even sat still for a cleaning! But the dentist instructed me to floss their teeth “at least every other day.” I nodded my head at her like, sure lady, whatever you say, and tried very, very hard not to roll my eyes.

Is this a thing people do? Should I be flossing my toddlers’ teeth? I mean, I’m a religious dentist-goer, but I don’t even floss my own teeth every other day, and I expect to have them for the rest of my life.",2.054767441860463,4.054690077519378,3.2381589147286824,90.99351744186049,78.45736434108528,5.54031007751938,22.377906976744185,6.42735559955562,0.4449581395348843,496,15,102,4,12,160,81,129,0.091,0.86,0.049,-0.4656,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,1,3,0,4,5,0,0,8,0,9,11,6,0,1,16,13,5,0,5,3,0,1,1,0,2,5,1,1,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,3,2,3,19,3,10,7,3,11,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,2,9,68,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854260768112815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299786753236809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23553214133122544,0.0,0.3004524165385963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133251713726167,0.0,0.0,0.1965773847464948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597225951285422,0.0,0.1829881753485424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593920700763814,0.08710881919161018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942219636827459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231808673018012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187096813520438,0.0,0.12082131231766613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236114020821782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412197851081377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294547269615154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179204155920486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239133850551156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804649929208546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845520310164745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198098873580869,0.12105461515111758,0.0,0.3483481654378741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942338508782964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481994139139805
parenting,stellardeli,2018/03/01,"What style of parenting did you want to do differently but are now having a hard time fulfilling? I'm a new mom to an almost 7-month old baby boy. 

When I was about 8 years old, I noticed how stressed and worked up my parents were in taking care of us to the point that they would snap at us for being rowdy and silly. My mom always using her high toned voice became normal for all of us because we got used to it. She seemed irritated all the time even if she was just explaining things. I never seemed to care much until I spent more time at my other friends' houses and witnessed how calm, happy, and easy going their families were. And when a friend was over ours I had to warn them that we were used to using high toned voices in the family all the time so they wouldn't be surprised.

I swore then that when I become a parent someday I would be cool and chill.

But now I think I finally understand why she was like that. Looking back, I would only listen to my mom when she's at the point of getting angry.

My son isn't even a toddler yet but I'm already having a hard time getting him to act right when I'm the one holding him. He screams and acts out from time to time like something is wrong. I try and exhaust all options and he only calms down (even laughs and smiles) when I hand him over to someone else. It's sometimes makes me sad and frustrated that others see him as a happy and contented baby (because he is when he is with them) and they don't believe when I tell them how high-needs this baby is.

Don't get me wrong. We have a good bond. He smiles and laughs with me but easily gets bored. Maybe it's because I'm an introvert and laid-back while he's a very social baby. 

Now I know he's still a baby and nothing seems to be a problem here but I'm thinking maybe I don't know if I can continue with my gentle and chill parenting approach with my son.

I tried a stern tone with him one day and he just smiled and giggled at me. lol

There's still a long list of things I wanted to do differently but I don't know now. Parenting isn't something you can really plan. ",3.8443175287356337,4.46661559490741,4.778451468710092,87.33583333333334,71.29166666666667,7.625287356321839,25.3132183908046,7.6298220110432995,1.108550670498084,1635,45,352,18,29,533,203,432,0.099,0.7090000000000001,0.192,0.9936,7,0,2,0,0,0,33,7,2,7,2,28,26,1,1,21,2,35,2,1,8,5,72,70,43,0,10,10,10,3,2,2,4,1,4,0,1,14,28,0,1,10,0,1,4,8,9,0,2,11,10,57,17,40,51,6,55,0,1,2,0,51,16,0,7,37,232,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920690875034867,0.0,0.07626815941848933,0.0,0.05750773749938035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628760368997728,0.0,0.12639233648717632,0.07633012408154262,0.0,0.07786693433073219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093107258171025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04457231079003214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441721461041382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05773522881764625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694589452280606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030759013255933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757101568033191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679340821425323,0.0,0.1444352244372349,0.0,0.03927863694859024,0.05796889181160264,0.055276157487261016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714462058949312,0.12382374392303999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190657418212136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974737921670408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394845852944102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753045874530035,0.0,0.0,0.0611630268702674,0.05803770012315796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04613361255900025,0.0,0.13886704249997764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24283371196190584,0.05516551466219488,0.0,0.05080617066064249,0.0,0.05330437773367052,0.06674998077022161,0.0,0.0,0.06771628372861789,0.06631600079188989,0.07868586166923992,0.14504540141942365,0.0,0.093665816191055,0.10512743984223273,0.0,0.0,0.3837102718351401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130668668884526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613201979767132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0442756999513324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590223142169718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507429005497977,0.1887542456156778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045222650273106,0.058559408974901375,0.10641347018796812,0.06835474407637956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038781721381297,0.0,0.07916896263679167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05196454192384178,0.0,0.06040800257980965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183150776761337,0.08856992436197694,0.0,0.0,0.2821033300233795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384668246287184,0.0,0.0,0.07194930182421799,0.249404090225095,0.23876653471993695,0.0,0.0570256465206493,0.08152953835015385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236393325275135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05031524896975968,0.0,0.0,0.14728815050260013,0.15112891802186665,0.0,0.04450664919595429
parenting,piri_piri_pintade,2018/03/01,"My 3 years old plays the victim when he physically hurt us Everytime he hurt us physically (not often, mostly when he gets too excited playing), we make it clear that what he just did was bad, but then he immediately tries to shift the focus towards him, saying that he’s also hurt (his hand that he use to hit us), despite being obviously false. We’re not sure what to respond when that happens. ",7.405789473684213,6.780306421052632,8.12263157894737,70.6684210526316,63.73684210526316,10.757894736842106,33.473684210526315,10.125756701596842,3.211142105263158,312,11,58,6,4,105,54,76,0.174,0.72,0.106,-0.7134,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,0,7,9,1,0,2,0,3,1,1,2,3,12,8,6,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,2,7,4,4,4,1,7,0,3,0,0,15,1,0,2,6,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500046112113607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139350138777904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947315124271796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033948584107116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5823161037741004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103160869439468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902634250143093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419187029007635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089068442891586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310346317001675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.654312042359584,0.15660109948349482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676326762605843
parenting,aevice,2018/03/01,"Looking for suggestions of where to go for spring break. My wife and I have a 3 year old and a 1.5 year old. We have some airline miles that are about to expire, so we're looking to fly somewhere. We took a week off in the beginning of April. I've always wanted to go to a national park, but am concerned they're too young for any of the activities. She wants to go somewhere warm, but is willing to compromise. For reference, we're in New England.

I've started researching and it seems like most of the national parks won't be any warmer than home (50's at best), and a lot of them still have snow / certain parts of the park are still closed this time of year.

We're not interested in all-inclusive resorts or theme parks or anything. We're more looking for something nature-y, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a national park.

Has anyone gone somewhere this time of year where you (ideally) don't need to bring coats, and there's still scenery to take in and stuff for the kids to do?",6.124097761534947,5.669464351758792,6.230278666057561,82.61644586569213,66.28643216080404,9.849428962996805,32.66377341251713,9.339509955726095,2.576232160804021,782,29,166,13,11,249,114,199,0.028,0.927,0.044,0.4644,0,0,1,0,0,0,26,2,1,1,2,9,6,0,0,11,0,16,0,0,0,1,25,32,12,0,4,6,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,9,0,0,2,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,2,4,7,6,33,26,6,38,0,0,3,0,8,13,0,6,19,99,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559357380425326,0.0,0.0,0.2052877748645844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554025522404743,0.0,0.1242101679156138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584014638499022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573468164307312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140440630485108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374130876348899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.380252944602046,0.0,0.0,0.1283231795962584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191956477891317,0.0,0.1457780987538876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31677077068688736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345253307231306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740945310680566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620043321964532,0.0,0.0,0.10683560041312308,0.0,0.3616209158415289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727893655518314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348755515527904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602781787207922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167699095659802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780557980066087,0.0,0.1210743872010185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38879979450642266
parenting,bdadokay,2018/03/01,"Brushing teeth When do kids stop complaining about brushing their teeth. I am f****** going crazy here.

I've tried tricks, I've tried thrests, scare tactics... No go. 

Kids are 5 and 3. ",-0.8962745098039201,-2.3780958235294123,-0.6026470588235284,104.42975490196079,154.2941176470588,2.309803921568628,17.53921568627451,4.7782277997778095,-0.7139137254901957,138,5,29,1,12,40,27,34,0.35700000000000004,0.643,0.0,-0.8834,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,10,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5168125442687231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4552160254930897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801345310004372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6173984957560567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mranimal2,2018/03/01,"What did your kid like more? Moana or Zootopia? I noticed that, even though Zootopia made way more at the box office, people talk about Moana more, even if it's not exactly Frozen big, and it also is still producing merch to this day while they stopped selling Zootopia merch a long time ago. 

Is the popularity with the main target demo a reason for this? Were more kids interested in Moana than Zootopia? From your experience, what did your kid (and maybe other kids too) like more? Moana or Zootopia?",4.6958695652173885,7.063135760869567,3.645,89.41250000000002,71.82608695652173,6.773913043478261,25.630434782608692,7.6454224807358475,1.1597565217391308,398,13,78,5,8,115,64,92,0.02,0.856,0.124,0.879,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,3,1,1,7,4,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,3,1,12,6,8,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,5,4,8,2,6,11,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,9,50,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293548108861919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691195008996924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16686401237437895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34178680340986084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25309451284092555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528117367934013,0.0,0.0,0.22897417458592145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448232819169675,0.0,0.0,0.2599361743579569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945738814645659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937571383629086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660248117309363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662776700446103,0.2163157850841244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079630648142241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25420786827162223,0.0,0.1508716725618612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053734515721923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stepdadneedshelp,2018/03/01,"Connecting with your teenager when they are much different than yourself? I'm a stepdad to two wonderful boys. They are 14 and 11 and I have been married to their mom for 2 years. I have been in their lives for 5 years. 

I have been having a hard time connecting with the oldest since he has started high school. I know most of this is normal. He wants to hang out with his friends instead of his boring parents. I completely get that. 

The problem is that I can't really connect with him at all in any meaningful way. We used to have family fun nights on Fridays but those have become more and more infrequent. He often has a game or wants to hang out with friends. Again I get it. He's a busy young man. Taking honors and AP classes as a Freshman. On multiple sports teams and even made variety for one. He doesn't have tons of opportunities to hang out with friends and wants to when he can. I don't blame him and don't want to take that away from him. 

I think part of the issue is that we are so different. There's a reason I didn't get married until my 40s. I'm the nerdy stepdad and he's the cool teenager. I am about as far from athletic as possible and can't fake an interest in sports. I go to his games and cheer for him but I can't help but check the clock when the game goes longer than expected. I can't throw a ball nor can I catch one. He asked me for advice on girls and I couldnt really think of what to tell him. I wasn't anywhere near dating at his age. 

I don't need to be best friends with him but high school is going by quickly and I want to be more than the guy his mom married. I don't even need him to see me as a father. All I want is to be able to hang out with him without him wishing he was somewhere else. Any tips on how to make that happen? He's a remarkable young man and I want to be a part of his life as he gets older. ",1.298288326300984,3.027354141772154,2.8192932489451468,94.39237165963434,79.73417721518987,6.31293952180028,21.351969057665254,7.279313950308263,0.43844163150492266,1446,41,338,19,36,473,184,395,0.05,0.8140000000000001,0.136,0.9914,3,0,0,0,0,0,30,2,1,4,4,13,14,0,0,19,1,40,1,0,5,2,61,71,30,0,14,6,4,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,5,9,27,0,0,6,7,1,8,14,3,0,3,7,3,47,11,65,59,11,45,0,0,1,0,53,18,0,4,18,225,56,4,0.09926776876729593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700331475742023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501097359719655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280196363364847,0.0,0.09326533645200036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963345153097932,0.0,0.0,0.10417539898663428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408036690417424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742738058850352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292548304320138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311308501083489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358081778862963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067761276210623,0.0,0.20745324821939792,0.0,0.11283232123416645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829069793599617,0.08778216008407895,0.0,0.08892442263862127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653709292995841,0.2097636957626936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360976001705503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455496963807548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011576077703469,0.0,0.0,0.08765525849135393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392956300185136,0.06626200647902725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325224220520735,0.0,0.0,0.07297323193982734,0.14721158544723814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315607640503114,0.0972613368489815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453281837353606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102251096676759,0.21499464000306656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190949402879193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498584830529516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271869491376433,0.10206379931632173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20092856329149134,0.07910355946618675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211532412912505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702622376618939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927401617350844,0.0,0.08676440530663669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721355593851744,0.0,0.0,0.05788383425846025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096970185914699,0.0,0.0,0.08573548001662394,0.0,0.0,0.4098549137070817,0.07879413431317528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415303506861588,0.09569058671308396,0.1076516607486206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278503769289914
parenting,zimmbo,2018/03/01,"Parents of reddit: is 7 too young for a kid to get orthodontics for a cross bite? Hi parents of Reddit. Our almost 8 year old has been diagnosed with a cross bite.

The treatment of a palate spreader followed by front teeth braces was suggested. 

Google has certainly verified this is the valid approach but we’re trying to decide if it should wait. Wait too long and this kind of correction could require surgery. 

For those whose kids had this kind of treatment- was it super painful? What age?

Any alternatives?

Much appreciated!",3.959234449760764,7.077897000000004,3.8013397129186615,83.19119617224881,79.0,7.244019138755982,27.583732057416267,8.296473431620573,2.3468947368421054,425,18,73,9,11,129,71,95,0.038,0.835,0.127,0.8721,3,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,6,0,10,3,1,0,2,13,14,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,8,2,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,4,12,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,5,43,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420985361461697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441243716354215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303431365389248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24539227648038794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631526619089842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5035341746383857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21395955315640328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772935919597846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536977882153934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257261181204303,0.0,0.5369157316396869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641465054333988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569247079045914
parenting,pedantic_dullard,2018/03/01,"9 yo sons best and mostly only friend is moving. How to help him with his heartbreak? My son's best friend is moving halfway across the country this weekend, and he's beside himself. He doesn't make close friends easily, his anxiety gets in the way. He said tonight he's son upset because before this friend he just walked the playground alone, and now he was going to be all alone again.

How do I help him cope? I'm at a loss. Even though I was also a lonely kid as well, I didn't have his anxiety. Any helpful ideas, strategies, or thoughts would be appreciated.",3.0024324324324314,5.106050909909911,3.6218828828828817,88.8657972972973,75.93693693693695,5.881441441441443,24.613513513513517,6.742157984588678,0.8384875675675678,445,15,88,4,10,140,78,111,0.157,0.588,0.256,0.946,0,4,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,3,9,11,0,1,5,0,11,0,0,3,1,15,17,9,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,4,1,0,5,1,10,7,7,9,4,13,0,3,0,0,24,4,0,2,4,52,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311754181968114,0.0,0.12785616847848644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872404429301166,0.0,0.24461588875068865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746150906378356,0.0,0.13604630670950627,0.0,0.3355688916800812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559938926072927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940923007787799,0.0,0.08353082548470459,0.0,0.09086362363512032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214930599831737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804853278897698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672130028279683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33985478129716656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159612539573154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208271844065174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708152197183836,0.12692705008977248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690549102555415,0.0,0.0,0.14375153470890126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357433380981545,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsBossWalrus,2018/03/01,"Mommy Logic for the win! Son - But Mommy, I'm scared of the monsters!

Me - That's why you have Dan (giant stuffed frog), Ditty (fuzzy green blankey), and Wolfie (little stuffed wolf)!

Son - But how can they protect me? They aren't real!

Me - They're as real as the monsters, which is why they have the power to protect you!",0.054193548387097217,2.377440225806456,1.1021935483870955,98.20329032258064,98.35483870967742,2.4800000000000004,17.490322580645163,3.1291,-0.95836,242,7,49,0,10,75,43,62,0.043,0.805,0.152,0.8057,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,2,3,2,1,2,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,6,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,5,6,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,0,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101041329709048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7043390728517217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097674215426169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5583780455207559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a-deaf-whale,2018/03/01,"Proud step daddy who needs help with potty training. My loves 3 year old is totally uninterested in potty training. He has a hard time with adapting to new things though. He’s blind so everything is a challenge/scare to him. Today she was on the phone with her father and he was basically yelling at her for him not being potty trained yet. 
All I really want to know is tips for me to help him. He tends to listen to me a little more(I’m guessing because I’m more of a friendly figure) but, I really want to help my love and her child. Bribing him with toys and candy hasn’t worked and the pediatrician said that he will “do it when he’s ready”. Idk. Help I’m a new parent!",2.121283936651583,4.2418911397058885,3.673823529411768,87.35624434389143,78.77941176470588,6.2434389140271485,22.226244343891395,7.321109707123232,0.7751986425339372,529,16,109,7,13,175,88,136,0.033,0.757,0.21,0.9759,1,0,0,0,1,0,14,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,7,0,10,3,0,0,2,18,22,8,0,3,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,3,0,1,4,8,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,5,14,4,17,17,3,13,0,0,1,2,28,4,0,1,8,65,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118781606953703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649448947682339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179479251828755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021789432716888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644067959998087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.492065056557587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086326678231776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394523586304684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312859103836018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608514050065326,0.0,0.3545087597513358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258382089217715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20378830226241548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23514798499944214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457902074506892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192915094934073,0.0,0.18031725474245835,0.0,0.10701779610412956,0.0,0.17396494332918308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165014520611378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336119973596058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818727754738464
parenting,jbax006,2018/03/01,"Actions and consequences I desperately need to rant.

Over the past four hours, you've threatened time out in the bedroom, time out in the corner, missing out on an activity tonight and going to bed for a period of time.

And your child has continued to snatch toys from others, play with things he shouldn't and open the door to go outside, letting the dog out.

You know why he doesn't listen?  Because he knows, no matter what you say, that you won't do anything.

If you seriously want your child to listen and obey your instructions, follow through when you lay out consequences.  Right now he has none.",6.606826801517067,7.290679796460174,6.056156763590393,80.39513274336285,65.19469026548673,9.289001264222504,31.18710493046776,9.23628265651192,2.540811378002528,479,17,90,8,7,147,78,113,0.121,0.838,0.041,-0.8519,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,8,0,0,2,3,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,1,0,20,17,7,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,2,4,12,0,0,2,2,0,4,5,2,0,1,0,3,9,1,19,14,1,26,0,1,0,0,17,12,0,1,10,57,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22779104590582205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687408079620521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31463500645194703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726020928419206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042550757852174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830569814970992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052511090366885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26424646861422496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23639422924440714,0.0,0.2201304239308701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390026540872664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842304146409582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326971107983929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24977797176401845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joshuaa591,2018/03/01,"1st birthday! My wife and I are having some trouble generating ideas for how to celebrate our daughters first birthday in April. Any ideas are greatly appreciated!

We don’t have many friends with children, or very many friends for that matter. Our families are located in different cities from where we live so I feel that we don’t have many options.

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parenting,krammiit,2018/03/01,"Dealing with back-talk when it is indirect? My teen (13) has become hormonal and moody lately. She has really been rude, to the point where I can not tolerate her attitude and I wonder if I am over-reacting.

Yesterday, she was exceptionally bad. My brother is having a baby on Friday through induction since my sister in law has a lot of health problems. I have kept my child informed of her progress since I thought she would be excited. I told her she was having the baby Friday to which she replied ""I hate how everyone in this family is freaking out about this baby like she doesn't have another one, who even cares!"".

I told her that was incredibly inconsiderate and I will not be in the same room with her if she is speaking that way. I walked out.

Later, we were driving and there was construction. I was focusing on the traffic and she was in the back. She randomly blurted out ""You know, you really shouldn't stare at people while they are working."". I have no idea who I was staring at, and told her I was looking straight ahead. She said ""Whatever"".

Same day, she didn't clean up after dinner and we had a major rat infestation when we first moved in here. Every day, she leaves crumbs all over the counter. I told her to clean and reminded her we can not leave crumbs. She used the same tone and said ""I am so sick and tired of hearing about these rats when we don't even have any."".

Of course, I rush to rationalize the reason we don't have any is because I run around scrubbing and cleaning every crumb, but she isn't hearing it. She's got her ""jab"" in on the punching bag and I am tired of fighting it.

Funny, her friend knocked on the door for her to play and I told her she needed to clean her room first. Her exact words were ""Sure mom I will do whatever you want!"". When she came back in, she was mean again.

She also only does things when she can get something out of me. Wants to go to the library? She will be cute and nice. If she knows she has chores? Bully mom for non-related things like our car being too old or how I need to hurry up and find a job (recently lost) to start fights because chores aren't fun and I need ""punished"".

Does anyone else deal with this? Thanks.",2.501017241379312,4.565389811494256,3.435158045977012,89.80377155172415,77.32183908045977,6.7408045977011515,23.05890804597701,7.7348632917899725,0.9889321839080454,1708,53,358,26,40,545,219,435,0.105,0.812,0.083,-0.7773,1,0,1,0,3,0,67,7,3,1,6,21,21,5,0,15,0,52,5,0,4,3,72,83,31,0,11,9,4,0,2,1,5,4,5,9,1,14,31,1,1,9,1,0,8,11,10,0,3,26,8,76,11,48,48,6,56,0,1,3,0,71,26,0,8,23,257,90,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715928016852082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121759615263195,0.0938743638541788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259769184665832,0.09172854684630252,0.0,0.07969588701832472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20651670704071545,0.07474931346756006,0.1091467478398376,0.09887290286650716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239230909242378,0.09127631074828522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547194003171472,0.18459189259393236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668718648208865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478632767273415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826032679361252,0.0,0.15085669737030674,0.08554460542546619,0.0,0.0,0.0843958388445789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818238755651768,0.15229918232419135,0.0,0.0,0.06916649490750908,0.0,0.0467729159624742,0.0,0.05087890138365244,0.0,0.07160101225871421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838702225082053,0.0,0.09516047860644472,0.20180149346005652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010623925342818,0.0,0.0,0.08883936578570023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984007734607624,0.0,0.10098766431124016,0.1895872803504498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747440893613452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517812863427611,0.0,0.09772669188103188,0.07611062561955705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975185499770838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970029246359426,0.0,0.0951504970339851,0.0,0.19914410135080526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394102301245978,0.0,0.06066419554275096,0.0680875032839039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062065095332774524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846296973951835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566296529055688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470352061679055,0.09204621377023628,0.08839475625902057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031681819717592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481113720874972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892042183989522,0.0,0.0,0.06336598275905637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843758894666404,0.0,0.0,0.07195649381593945,0.0,0.08242223680607383,0.0,0.0,0.1189523514712546,0.0,0.0,0.07107254373178397,0.0,0.20579074899497493,0.0,0.42772302712733096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732052279227647,0.0,0.0,0.1056078739952576,0.07106047177759146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708562530852093,0.06517498541960487,0.0,0.0,0.06359571738882447,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momofelliot,2018/03/01,"How do parents deal with the constant everything. How do you do it day after day.  We have 3 kids (2,4,&7) I am a stay at home mom.  We go to the zoo, indoor playgrounds, storytimes ect....but not everyday.  Everyday there are issues though.  Spilt milk, hitting, fighting yelling, screaming, definite no's, breaking things, pushing all the buttons, sass and sass.  That on top of household, cooking, school work, ect.  

How do you deal? 

Obviously it would be nice to get a sitter every weekend but that is way too costly for us.  Friend swap childcare is nice option too but not when you have 3 kids taking on more is not really helpful. Alcohol is nice but not at 8 am. 

Advice?
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parenting,nakedreader_ga,2018/03/01,"Having the sex talk with 7yo girl. I read a sex book last night to my 7yo daughter. She was not excited that men “pee” into women. Tonight she was talking about I again. I told her it wasn’t pee, but sperm, then I had to explain where the sperm came from. Me: “You know the squishy bits behind a boy’s penis?” Her: “how do you know they’re squishy? Have you touched daddy’s?” ",-0.14688311688311728,2.119776974025978,0.8987142857142878,102.33378571428574,90.94805194805195,3.5994805194805197,18.089610389610392,4.935628992294339,-0.8340535064935066,285,8,67,1,10,88,57,77,0.03,0.97,0.0,-0.2635,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,7,4,2,1,0,9,12,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,1,13,1,7,6,1,8,0,0,0,2,16,2,0,0,5,40,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496192659224792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662693805109843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519911862202736,0.2610384369515251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005236558187742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320326778176995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5147937505719697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30600315505103143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,most_of_the_time,2018/03/02,"Three year old refuses to wear sleeves. My three year old has been refusing to wear shirts with long sleeves for about two months. She will wear her coat, so I've been just going with it.  This morning she was eating yogurt that had the batman logo on it, which inspired her to wear her batman dress to preschool. But after putting it on she realized it had long sleeves and had a total meltdown, ripping it off as if it was on fire.

What gives? Is this just three year old weirdness? Should I be doing something about it? Any advice or insight is much appreciated.",4.020555555555553,6.015196240740742,3.84,88.905,72.7037037037037,6.2814814814814826,26.814814814814817,6.937597516519254,1.1353814814814815,446,16,87,4,9,135,70,108,0.066,0.877,0.057,0.2593,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,14,6,5,0,1,15,16,6,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,3,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,7,1,8,1,15,6,2,16,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,2,10,64,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985704013202712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818694380124316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793031129826114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19493356421788371,0.11548656540962338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596615591599446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219696792761962,0.0,0.14937967829414114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6396910587928596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20427800149864556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564377883251479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850258500274767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925737082164366
parenting,ImJustAGirl14,2018/03/02,"Four Year Old Tattling, Being Disrespectful to Teachers, and Being Mean to Other Children My son turned 4 in September and he has been enrolled in Junior Kindergarten. He was in daycare and preschool full-time since he was 16 weeks, so this wasn't a big adjustment.


However, since he has started school, his behavior and social skills have completely gone down the tubes. His behavior was first brought to our attention at Parent Teacher conferences in November, and when his behavior hadn't improved by February, they started sending home daily reports so we knew exactly what the issues were and we could discuss them.


His behavioral challenges include:
* Getting mad at other kids when they won't do exactly what he wants, which results in him knocking down their toys, making fun of them, or getting into physical altercations. Then he refuses to apologize.
* Rolling his eyes, shrugging his shoulders, and being disrespectful when his teachers try to explain why his behavior is hurting his friends
* Tattling on EVERYONE, even when what they're doing has nothing to do with him
* Disturbing group activities, distracting kids, being goofy at inappropriate times



We sit down with him every night and go over his report, and he's constantly telling us ""I didn't do that. The teachers and kids are lying. The kids are making things up to get me in trouble...etc."" I know this is not the case, because I have witnessed him acting rudely to other children before and I know he is prone to tattling.


His teachers say they are ""working with him"" to correct bad behavior, but it just seems to be getting worse. Of course I'm not there to see what they're actually doing, so I have no way to confirm how closely they're working with him or what their tactics are. But I can imagine when he misbehaves and they try to discuss it with him, they are met with either denial or attitude, which I'm guessing is extremely frustrating.

We've tried roll playing, discussing how his actions hurt others, talking about what he can do if that situation happens again. Every single day we talk about it. The next day, he gets just as many bad reports if not more.


When he gets a bad report (everyday), we don't let him have any screen time or treats. We told him if he gets a good report, he will get to decide on a big treat that evening. But this is yet to happen.


He is a smart kid and doesn't exhibit any other signs of ADD or ADHD. He can concentrate, follow directions, is generally good at out-of-classroom activities such as swimming and soccer. He's loving and affectionate when he wants to be.


I'm afraid he's turning into a sociopath. I'm afraid he's going to have no friends and his teachers are going to treat him like an outcast. 


Please help. I'm desperate!",5.614761707418153,7.403597881889766,5.83707003729797,77.0243203481144,68.21259842519686,8.65445503522586,33.84086199751347,9.134995656068208,3.2271488188976374,2196,104,371,42,38,698,252,508,0.095,0.812,0.093,-0.1138,2,0,0,0,0,0,71,8,0,9,5,22,26,3,4,13,0,50,3,2,5,3,74,90,42,0,6,17,2,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,7,23,32,0,1,10,4,0,10,11,12,0,2,13,4,48,14,52,67,3,58,0,2,3,1,88,22,0,10,25,244,71,10,0.0,0.0,0.0938667991087282,0.0,0.11560074493140618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082393035460355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409419319697161,0.058636053123874286,0.0,0.0818499379309305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085256263521986,0.10394637037850284,0.0,0.0767992617869465,0.0,0.0,0.12406817324419007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727640202974062,0.1270641396387265,0.0,0.16208712574886178,0.0919129177453642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181849777684763,0.0,0.0,0.14863109895826346,0.0,0.40203916131828205,0.0,0.16399964397256994,0.1613579010057522,0.0,0.0,0.10596326561434156,0.0,0.1701196116321417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447360373414428,0.0,0.09648562618437266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20594508978153125,0.0,0.0,0.10039655049795046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572615481942277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835999012094317,0.0,0.046993192109445456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681452269016335,0.0,0.12841409686639804,0.09752076727393592,0.0,0.10477825478428812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022983221907116,0.09026706294319313,0.0,0.09229614674756813,0.0,0.10093440115966876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680674086178134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558687381178294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649352511512353,0.0,0.09734862163397674,0.07665035129130084,0.08756704940256113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913742651712012,0.1081207086707514,0.0,0.0980527920613722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616644397902605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462649607079434,0.08407361427493426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639038408209216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121774104715213,0.0,0.0,0.0919129177453642,0.0,0.1959184904005459,0.2092524906100915,0.0,0.0,0.11570378307892072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346978324946785,0.07635052222119644,0.07715718682888273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679580593701007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005378934494767,0.0,0.09802502852167293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194270125430565
parenting,Karmagirl1,2018/03/02,"I need tips on how to better raise my 6 year old and change his ugly attitude He started getting a bad attitude once i started working. Before then he was the sweetest little boy in pre-k. He'd always run up to hug me when i'd pick him up and talk about his day with his friends. Once i started working however my dad and mom would take him to and from school and then watch him until the evenings when i got home. They are 50+ years old and told me several times that they just give my kids whatever they want because theyd rather not deal with their whining and complaining. I couldn't afford anyone else to watch them and my parents are not willing to discipline so i just let them do things their way.


 Well i recently quit my job because my husband got a salary raise. And i've started picking my son up again and its always an embarrassing situation. I feel like my parents ruined him and i can't get my sweet well mannered kid back. I'll walk into the classroom (he's in kindergarten) and he'll stare me down from his chair and go ""ugh..its you.."" He'll then say he either wants to go to the park or his friends house to which i'll say ok sometimes but other times i can't because i have to run quick errands or the weather is horrible. This would cause him to have meltdowns crying outside his class. Throwing his book bag, walking off and telling me to leave him alone and struggling if i tried to hold his hand to leave. It was embarrassing as all hell. At first i'd try leveling with him, talk through it, try reasoning with him etc. (Yes in front of his teacher and his friends, all who would occasionally chime in and try to help me much to my embarrassment)  But all i'd get is ""i don't care! Just stop! Talk me to the paaaaaaark!!!"" It usually would end with me grabbing his arm by force and dragging him out of the building and home with him crying and saying i was hurting him, how he hates me every step of the way. 

At home after he would calm down id talk to him about how disrespectful he is and how i will not put up with his attitude and how ugly he acts in front of me, his teacher and his friends.  I'd usually also punish him and send him to his room. Not let him take use his tablet for a week etc. On days when he was ok with me picking him up i'd give him a treat like a small bag of chips etc. And so far over the past few months its been working but not completely. He still gives me death glares whenever i walk into the classroom and ask if i can take him to the park and if i cant he'll get upset. One of his biggest triggers is his sister. They get along like cats and dogs and he can't stand when i go pick him up with her. He'll shout ""Why is SHE HERE?!"" Today it's hailing outside and he said he wanted to go to the park. I told him the weather is bad and it's the same deal all over again. ""Ugh i dont caaaare! Lets go!!!"" He fortunately held his own and with one hand single from me went to get his bookbag and walked home with me. I'd like to think he's getting better but it's his anger that i can't stand. I want him to start hugging me and his sister again when we pick him up. I want him to smile and say bye to his teacher and security guard like he used to. And to stop muttering angry things every time he sees me coming to get him.. He's just so moody now..like im already raising a teenager. At home he's ok for the most part...when he's not fighting with his sister over stuff. He'll hug me and say he loves me. Loves to cuddle and joke around. No one would ever assume he was such an angry entitled brat sometimes...I guess i'm just venting. Any advice would be great...",2.748027820210158,3.856959470976257,3.7469754200805454,91.88424640096285,74.34300791556728,6.691329907883165,24.77581817340184,6.987383910865308,0.7312503078276169,2821,87,642,26,57,909,308,758,0.12,0.7490000000000001,0.131,0.4077,6,1,0,0,2,0,82,1,1,9,7,35,46,5,5,23,4,41,9,3,15,5,126,96,67,1,18,22,9,4,5,4,14,0,7,6,3,17,58,0,7,4,2,0,20,15,18,2,4,13,16,113,28,88,62,14,99,1,3,4,6,132,33,1,8,48,388,130,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05490574946911142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819327798407035,0.06200427493617105,0.04493310279342667,0.09350495918757708,0.0,0.0,0.03820940918589303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039287588363206616,0.057570707215221874,0.0,0.05001876444720239,0.05252770359706626,0.0,0.0,0.04320469939059845,0.09382838795844736,0.10275408822146127,0.0,0.047811402115283085,0.0,0.0,0.09938650975264944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728687461472585,0.05772001352422933,0.059438897478198575,0.04840053381811086,0.058911497655358726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343860402947993,0.07247254513121586,0.11585363737022213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658513012642594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469374248494614,0.0,0.04976542478834332,0.0,0.18799165856128794,0.0371112967723088,0.050824787179976495,0.09468074066749856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028410075184833825,0.04014034277352617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779303682524839,0.0,0.0,0.17364121265740293,0.0,0.2348450896089888,0.16170043524470806,0.1596631820570737,0.0,0.08987651183370092,0.061946888631155474,0.0618968374296266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055473498213739585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03766127955473631,0.0,0.28180308919346564,0.0,0.0,0.0648328013169923,0.06014985319550216,0.0,0.06069211392210741,0.0,0.05575739824380214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898884462951563,0.0,0.1723664974686764,0.0,0.13725180870151832,0.056314610097003434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142277828697628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580609066333759,0.04484830582237562,0.0,0.041304258528268835,0.04166230014783314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791860478092255,0.11967565245961273,0.1142222599216766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477908145207585,0.06084555909625345,0.053637301840074036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648393062491334,0.0,0.05976229503223642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057770081456922175,0.055478352235055664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344715473737514,0.22341267329859654,0.0,0.05686472356568219,0.044774142296340164,0.0,0.0,0.0634758526829382,0.0,0.0,0.06315707512947533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557084866369518,0.0,0.1988489170628064,0.0,0.04487138945213468,0.0939504886286116,0.0,0.058739347610597785,0.06432121518873518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673796387422614,0.18064545357521306,0.04911032898737335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465692234924802,0.03600266469708828,0.0,0.0,0.09829010410791583,0.0,0.05325915568383763,0.10737907886065486,0.0,0.15259042687386007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705587480548802,0.12376512938243632,0.0,0.16570414016234072,0.08919800336830824,0.045070202602630095,0.0,0.10103857424563367,0.052086351473403215,0.05070045603548678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271545115509505,0.0,0.0,0.27939778686869204,0.0,0.0,0.0723657823729956
parenting,BruxellesBlonde,2018/03/02,"Our LO Gets Barfy After Mom Eats Coconut Oil. The past two times my wife has eaten coconut oil \(once for pancakes, once in vegan cheese\) our little dude got super pukey. 

Anyone else experience this? Not looking for advice, just confirmation that someone else's kid doesn't react well to coconut oil.",5.164999999999999,7.918962537037038,5.010888888888889,78.37300000000002,71.77777777777777,6.542222222222222,27.46666666666667,7.554174236665415,1.8663155555555564,243,9,38,3,5,75,47,54,0.033,0.902,0.066,0.4257,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,4,3,2,5,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209982450206301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813440601964898,0.23172482631018834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314153246303478,0.3778507212019505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122518443787487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815782763446513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087861085475174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22666897585033965,0.0,0.0,0.18991512892155712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648726351772617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817001756829182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158926831691241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916223020801784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187410985052142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209227690833463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033425260885802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,captaincabin,2018/03/02,"Daughter read text that was about her weight. Here we go. Please overlook the jagged sentences. I'm pretty upset.

My 8 year old daughter is in elementary school. She has a pot belly. Her dad's side of the family feeds her a lot of southern cooking. And I am guilty as well, since I give her desserts from McDonald's every now and then.   

I would never ever say anything directly to her about her weight. I am conscious of my weight, as is literally every other woman I have ever met. I'm aware that eating disorders destroy lives and relationships. So even though I think she's a little heavy, I am *extremely* vigilant about how I talk about food with her. I basically try to just be super rational and say stuff like, sugar isn't good for you. Etcetera. 

I sent a text to her dad yesterday, saying, ""I'm going to take D to the doctor; I think doctor will comment about her weight. We better address this."" Basically saying, we need either to make an active decision to eat more healthily, or we need to know what we're going to say when the doctor tells us our kid is chubby. 

This morning, she texted her dad from my phone. Then she scrolled up and read the message. 

It is exactly as bad as it sounds, and worse. I actually will continue this post in a bit, because writing this is making me kind of emotional. 

Poor thing. I can't imagine how betrayed she must feel. 

I guess I'm looking for commiseration or fellow horror stories. I am well aware of how profound a screw-up this is.  I know it's going to last and I know it's going to have intense effects. 
 
Ouch. 

ETA : the rest of the story and her age

So she read that text and said, ""My weight? Don't judge."" And it's just the most devastating feeling I have probably ever felt. I just hurt her feelings and she's going to have ISSUES and it's exactly what I wanted to avoid. 

At first it felt like a cruel trick of fate. I tried to clean it up but there's not a lot you can say. I told her I love her just how she is and I never judge her. 

But it's not fate, not at all. It's my own actions. I see now that I HAVE been judging her, and that I have to do a hard reset on how I think about her and the things I say about her. I just *really really* wish I could have learned this lesson without flipping breaking her heart in the process.  

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parenting,gd_right,2018/03/02,"Son's (4yo) school won't open his lunch items. Say they want to encourage independence. My son has been going to the same pre-school for two years, but this has been his first year going 5 days a week. I never had any problems with them until they moved him to a 3 year old class in December (he turned 4 less than a month ago). But now I'm having an ongoing problem with them not opening his lunch. 

It started about a month ago. He's a picky eater (which I know sucks, and I'm working on it, but right now he just is), so I pack him a lunch that has some nutritional value that I know he will eat. It consists of a kid's squeeze meal (the one's with added protein and grains), squeeze applesauce, fruit leather, and cheese crackers. He is a creature of habit--he loves this lunch, so I pack it every day. 

The problem is the two squeeze items. He can't open them. I talked to the school at the beginning of the year, and they assured me it wasn't a problem and that they would open them for him. About a month ago, the two squeeze packs were sent home unopened, which I know because the seal wasn't broken. My son said, ""I didn't eat because I couldn't open my lunch.""

Now I know my son is prone to exaggeration, so I do take this statement with a grain of salt, but I still thought it was weird. When we dropped him of the next day, we asked them to make sure they helped him open his lunch. They said, ""Of course, we always help him."" So I assumed it was a mistake. 

The next day, his lunch came home unopened again. He said the same thing. So I emailed the director and told her what was going on. Here was her response: ""I confirmed with [teachers] that they encourage him to try to open his lunch, and if he needs assistance, they assist him. They have not withheld food from his lunchbox from him at any time, nor do they refuse to assist him so that he cannot eat.""

Now, I know that his lunch wasn't opened because the seal remained in tact. So I very explicitly said, ""I’m requesting that, if he does not open it himself, someone open it for him at the beginning of lunch. He cannot make the choice to eat it if it’s unopened.""

The problem seemed to be solved until yesterday, when he once again came home with unopened food. This time, the food came with an accompanying note from his teacher: ""Please do not send any food that [son] cannot open."" Please was underlined 3 times. 

So today, when he was dropped off at the school, we asked them once again to please open his lunch (along with sending another email to the director and a handwritten note to his teacher). His teacher said, ""Well he can open it by himself sometimes."" We requested again that if he doesn't open it, that they please open it. The teacher's response was, ""We'll meet him halfway."" 

I'm upset for a number of reasons, one of them being that I don't understand why the teacher can't open his lunch (this is a small, very expensive church pre-school with only 6 students per class). The other is that I feel like they're telling me they're opening his lunch when they're clearly not. And also, if he can open the lunch why did they send home a note saying he can't?  

But my question is--is my 4-year-old behind on some childhood milestone that says he should be able to open his own lunch? If I put him in another school, will that school also insist he open his own lunch? Is this just what is expected of him, so I need to figure out how to get him up to speed? Or is this a school problem?

TL;DR: My son's school won't open his lunch items for him. They give me the run around when I talk to them about it. Is not assisting a 4-year-old with opening a lunch a common practice, or will this problem be solved if I put him in a different school?",4.198761651131825,4.848364494007988,4.267533688415448,91.21872796271641,70.5046604527297,7.446082556591213,26.870865512649804,7.327094020958105,1.0606183009320902,2889,89,645,27,50,891,261,751,0.045,0.8690000000000001,0.086,0.98,1,0,0,0,0,0,125,6,0,21,2,34,18,1,1,48,0,57,29,0,5,5,118,99,43,0,22,22,6,6,1,0,8,0,8,4,1,43,52,28,2,14,0,1,14,23,11,1,6,27,16,98,7,71,59,10,102,1,0,0,1,122,39,1,14,48,393,141,14,0.04969004415480961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321416780526052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947422071616553,0.04134609732324493,0.0,0.0,0.10137280190846902,0.10420868770216143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423467419891148,0.09290696724369707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087176913136988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704965188028903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818387090025554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05191552015499183,0.0,0.0,0.04348409249517237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338128121397145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04186600531445832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025124779343444845,0.035498577472736284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04226632617391024,0.2403415945244165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025960997189947637,0.04766721815917697,0.08471999160208565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661237835158339,0.0,0.1993726630633229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654174380281647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0242760456329607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044847204878565916,0.0,0.0663369806457036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898635752108565,0.052812653119665334,0.0,0.07368907624105607,0.03832402534624317,0.0,0.10569185135980058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642402772604047,0.10583655063453326,0.0673425198154989,0.037791517698878056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181789873670919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328266302837456,0.0,0.09990443771574238,0.055664221554222015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051089641256311734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04243502620641881,0.23633305448419886,0.11854655257271972,0.0,0.5028897750951552,0.0,0.04523594997099642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04210221316208212,0.0,0.0491447242402458,0.0,0.035170869006027936,0.0,0.03968253344927769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04683227855839056,0.0,0.03736072920212092,0.07987795053243336,0.04343128876865575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03301185738302586,0.0,0.0,0.039448344627125764,0.08692399303025823,0.0,0.047100351754399056,0.04748096660998148,0.0,0.03373627824095299,0.05404849918505787,0.14561985868032162,0.051729088378684604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199898078025186,0.029308475467157907,0.0,0.03985835616372932,0.0,0.04467731722957537,0.0,0.08967507211551808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036174943950271016,0.0,0.0,0.03529838169056162,0.0,0.0,0.1919925557016332
parenting,justjuli,2018/03/02,"How can I explain to my son his father is clinically depressed?  My son is five years old and I've been facing this issue where his father hasn't been okay. We've been separated for a long time and have tried co-parenting as best we can. Recently he was diagnosed with clinical depression after years of problems and is now getting help and starting medication. 

The problem is he has also always been incredibly difficult with helping raise our child. My son lives with me and my partner, and his father is able to come whenever he wants tk see him. The idea was he'd come frequently or in the least call to talk with him. He rarely does and on the random days he chooses to see my son it always ends badly.

I've become concerned with where his mind is at while my son is spending time with him. After a situation happened where I had to go and pick up my son from his father's house because his father was in such a rage over my son throwing a tantrum my son told me something. Once we were in the car and I had calmed him down he asked if ""the police were going to take daddy"". That scared the hell out of me because that's never been a topic of conversation. My partner and I have never discussed that because as bad as his father was at being present in my son's life he had never given me reason to see him as a threat to my child. 

I calmly told my son no, and then asked him why he thought that. My son told me that he wants the police to come and take daddy away when he's angry and when he fights him. 

This is the first time he's ever said anything like this but it was an incredibly calculating statement. He wasn't in hysterics and carefully chose his words. My son knows the police take away the bad guys, and for him to say that to me coupled with all of the previous issues I've had with his father as led me to believe my son is not safe with him. I won't put my son in a situation where the police have to be involved.

I spoke with his father to tell him what my son had said. The father told me he did get mad at him because every time my son comes over he ends up throwing a tantrum. No matter how many times I've explained its because he misses him and thats how he thinks he'll get something from his dad, he just gets so frustrated and lashes out. This time he fully admitted to what he did. I tried figuring something out while being firm on my point. All his father said to me was ""whatever"".

I just don't want to lie to my son. I'm not trying to speak ill of his father and paint him to be some kind of asshole monster, but I don't want to lie and pretend that his awesome dad just up and left for no reason. 

How can I explain depression to a child? The last thing I want is for my son to think this is his fault.",4.529788359788364,4.668551996472665,5.462391534391532,84.75390476190476,69.59964726631392,8.243668430335097,27.48747795414462,7.957251820313856,1.4978904409171068,2150,64,460,25,35,708,223,567,0.13699999999999998,0.821,0.042,-0.9941,1,0,3,0,1,0,39,3,0,0,2,18,28,8,1,25,1,48,7,1,8,6,87,94,40,0,8,9,31,0,1,2,2,6,6,0,6,19,39,0,1,14,1,1,11,13,20,0,2,31,9,75,8,74,56,5,70,1,4,3,0,115,28,1,4,32,300,94,0,0.0742019855072683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05933930100172347,0.12348399227834332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061061911653572026,0.0,0.13873767983508195,0.0,0.1394304159281518,0.0,0.1858666754386914,0.2261642082365065,0.08195026323885338,0.0,0.08360022786271158,0.07787040589116988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576852348225327,0.0,0.07565386952775732,0.0,0.0,0.2556737608867851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210308561947181,0.0,0.04785414207508645,0.0,0.19173018416452714,0.075313453350353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649346575557668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144186968660174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711994403516608,0.06251837309526649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311617096638054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550698994141482,0.0,0.08434139669841524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347163167173851,0.06561657072825698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099472053549593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561912872611023,0.0,0.08376500974098791,0.0,0.15489518917705172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726994939664983,0.04077947068522803,0.06048452179550255,0.0,0.0,0.08062067436572641,0.0,0.052411056777199115,0.03625134203178965,0.0,0.06552171264631193,0.06566642217362129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522916684222088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475069395377265,0.0,0.0,0.07492285275402133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168743689153282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786250167239803,0.0790226928744112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014486050564965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200255786684166,0.0,0.07459349016072239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258399884941315,0.0732655088941956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21174924090335198,0.0590083971250013,0.07428913213380782,0.0,0.1773881264575304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681228130297987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137294087353502,0.0,0.0,0.05252054725756795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737197565128872,0.05964074522948695,0.06485580591825348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04929650204116785,0.09509127233640223,0.0,0.058908088050559436,0.2596066467950927,0.0,0.0,0.2836127080337012,0.0,0.1511348322395522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883126779669806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695575053976731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556729171804704
parenting,rachelb09,2018/03/02,"Does anyone else struggle with snapping at their kids? I have a three year old and a four year old, I'm exhausted. I am a full time stay at home mom and I am finding myself getting irritated with the kids over the smallest things. Does anyone else struggle with this? I don't know why I'm acting like this. I just want to get out of this moodiness that I have been feeling. ",1.5402631578947386,3.830484868421056,2.7097368421052606,92.55565789473684,81.89473684210526,5.378947368421053,22.657894736842106,6.6274283507984215,0.5161631578947361,294,10,62,3,8,94,50,76,0.177,0.752,0.071,-0.8364,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,2,5,0,6,1,0,0,0,11,13,2,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,1,1,8,1,9,12,1,12,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,6,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526997475880125,0.3702976891138078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31626415692205234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019038812521836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136751741788512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515683000456288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888169309281572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125716664095776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930817687700126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828105480598407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116340451677194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792292032357983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926025112232918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778144430108023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004927140692667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536781688255704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658173773915623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630539437076169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327301789385333
parenting,Surffire6,2018/03/02,5 year old complains of stomach aches My son recently has been complaining of stomach aches. Sometimes  think it’s his way of getting out of eating certain foods but sometimes it seems pretty legit. He also has A LOT of gas and always smells. Anyone else deal with this? I’m guessing a possible food allergy but his NP didn’t seem too concerned. Are there any tests we could get done that wouldn’t be too invasive? Thanks!!,2.9730694444444485,5.786495612499998,3.3641666666666663,86.7752777777778,80.375,6.055555555555558,26.38888888888889,7.3871296695380915,1.6378472222222222,339,14,60,5,9,105,66,80,0.07200000000000001,0.755,0.173,0.9126,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,9,5,2,0,1,14,17,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,1,4,2,7,11,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,3,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453049038002327,0.15038264402165444,0.0,0.0,0.1229032562508897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263712955254323,0.18518023523979774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429897230110394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632569286843406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18495052944105256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493290052477127,0.15097753346471707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4370812095080409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888489435092669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909553782217848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365100659550973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964674943845766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20374701189198186,0.0,0.1838683691328148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845002805328786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290613722637962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35749509866355783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663927940155121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158051071518468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434558306267971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638481835081695
parenting,craigtheginger,2018/03/02,"The problem with searching Google for parenting advice An intro before I get into my Google advice beef.    
    
I'm not a perfect parent. Not by any means. I lose my temper, just like my father before me, but I'm not sadistic, or violent, but I can say cruel things and lash out in frustration at random items in a room. I have trouble with an early rising three year old, and I'm running out of options to cope with a lack of sleep.      
    
I often look to Google for advice, and all I am increasingly finding is mom blogs. Like that's all there is. Unsolicited advice from moms that all seem to have the perfect life and appear completely self centered. I struggle to find anything written from a dad's perspective and written by someone that is not trying to portray themselves as a perfect but flawed parent.   
   
 Where is the advice online by professionals? When did mom blogs start dominating Google searches? It's like fake news on Facebook. It's frustrating that parenting journals seem to only show the mother's journey.   
Anyway, venting has made me feel better and forget that I was up at 5am with my three year old. ",5.396857142857144,6.837191638095242,5.884285714285718,77.81071428571428,68.33333333333333,7.6952380952380945,30.190476190476193,8.021203637495839,2.2435619047619046,884,34,150,11,15,285,123,210,0.208,0.722,0.07,-0.9848,4,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,0,5,6,17,5,1,11,0,11,2,1,1,6,43,25,12,0,2,9,10,1,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,8,13,0,0,6,3,0,5,4,10,0,2,5,3,14,7,29,20,6,24,0,1,1,0,12,12,0,7,10,100,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.517251263705754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199196943107776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711804312271859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801669836240876,0.0,0.0,0.09362917046380162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099765290036036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053528628361945566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19351775827107506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531020000176787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477572484673731,0.15516117459436554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890010906860055,0.1184360847270216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100172216348556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531824330649622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37196414456700055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22217544766114156,0.0,0.0,0.08051525860126298,0.0,0.0,0.4702031258233837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012987034369744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418825985179658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927514125793736,0.11044049678784504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594165922959699,0.0,0.08969924435004041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493193673287045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067329769508373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033213789615146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187552477933776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363474417284676
parenting,Technobyrd,2018/03/02,"Domineering 3 year old Recently I've begun caring for a 3 year old boy 'Louie,' alongside my three year old 'Carla' two days a week. My daughter is an only child, and with adults she's an absolute dream most of the time.

She does have her bossy moments with adults but when we don't do what she says, she shrugs it off. Not so with Louie.

From the minute Carla wakes up, she's ordering Louie around. She tells him what to play with and HOW to play with it. If he fails to comply, she throws a screaming fit. She tries to tell him what and when to eat. If he fails to comply, she throws a screaming fit. If he attempts to play with a toy that she didn't order him to play with, she throws a screaming fit. No matter what he does, unless it's something she has specifically ordered him to do, it's wrong, and she will throw a screaming fit. All. Day. Long. I'm losing my mind!

For his part, Louie isn't terribly impressed and he tends to ignore Carla's myriad demands. He's not a saint, and I can see that he sometimes tries to get her into trouble by egging her on and teasing her, but for the most part, he isn't the issue. 

I've given her time outs, I've ignored the tantrums, I've tried to talk to her about it when she's calm. We role-play when Louie isn't here, which usually works wonders in other situations. This has been going on for a month now, with no progress. How do I get my little dominatrix to chill the hell out?
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parenting,imautomatic,2018/03/02,"7 year old sudden behavior change We have 7 year old and 2.5 year old girls. When school went back at the begining of the year the eldest went into year 2 and since school started has had these angry outburst that she has never had before. She is throwing thing hitting, kicking, not doing as she is told and just being generally naughty. She doesn't care when toys are taken off her or if she loses her ipod or xbox. She clearly has no respect for us, in particular me and i am losing my mind. I have tried to talk to her about why there is this sudden change in behavior but its always 'I don't know.' She has never acted like this before, she's had her melt downs like any kid but this is all new. Its like a game for her. What can we do to stop this behavior before I end up in a mental facility. ",2.827387429643526,4.261831579268296,4.151951219512196,87.76453095684806,74.67073170731706,6.7534709193245765,21.76172607879925,7.321109707123232,0.6145362101313321,625,15,132,7,13,206,102,164,0.12,0.857,0.024,-0.9171,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,2,6,7,0,0,5,0,21,0,0,0,4,22,30,12,0,1,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,7,0,1,1,4,0,4,6,2,0,0,7,0,22,5,16,21,1,32,0,2,0,0,21,8,0,3,23,93,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585775698630312,0.0,0.0,0.08651439212066656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782481289749356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247661619406266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297099128037726,0.0,0.269165118917752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267971858041298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991713206188635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646072342292905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846546901351145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820847411695815,0.0,0.12845657146682216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19624078810256804,0.12287047883409888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004899563890054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25750814248188203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523822118367823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004741790089242,0.0,0.0,0.10636214464348254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225512470886156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451973469704463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156476548630453,0.0,0.0863744579260529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530307556423609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23586960026424936,0.11479683218368512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096295785337355
parenting,christileilani,2018/03/02,"How to go to the gym with a clingy child? I am trying to get back to the gym, however my 18 month old cries/whines if I even leave the room without him.

My gym offers free child care for up to 2hrs/day but am so scared he will just cry the entire time.

How long did it take for your little ones to get used to short term daycare like the gym or church? Any tips of tricks I can try?",0.9989285714285714,2.2430696071428606,2.0138095238095244,101.99785714285713,79.11904761904762,5.276190476190476,15.571428571428573,5.288315135182226,-1.1725285714285718,293,3,77,1,7,92,63,84,0.139,0.779,0.08199999999999999,-0.7312,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,6,5,1,1,6,0,5,0,0,3,0,9,11,6,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,7,4,13,9,1,11,1,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,7,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823858539449285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902331824212609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252237942229462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27175421666370464,0.15955073282467622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340352295825525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585096610002435,0.0,0.14060153486373592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619579224688152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086577955936695,0.2479569964997052,0.0,0.21893874438991112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974700915208544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596017536350585,0.0,0.1676427511723974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24768776450448626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860119118325296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442593017943372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33593292998989915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136717555885269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238482080607892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThymeDad,2018/03/02,"Best app for monitoring Snapchat/Instagram. Son might be ""sexting."" We were informed by a friend's older daughter our son might be sending inappropriate things to said friend. When confronted and viewing his apps, they were gone. Is there a way to monitor further posts, or retrieving the old ones he has sent. Phone has been taken away but saw messages on IG he sent tonight to his friends while at his grandma's. Thanks!",4.945676691729325,7.6239154473684225,4.325864661654137,83.38605263157895,72.15789473684211,7.5007518796992505,33.22556390977444,8.418075326091056,2.787551127819549,338,17,60,6,7,101,62,76,0.017,0.821,0.162,0.9117,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,1,2,6,1,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,17,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,9,3,6,5,8,4,1,15,0,0,2,0,21,4,0,3,5,36,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268111258837545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25334320801714194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595345619307456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5121922974517193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25331749246939805,0.0,0.1635845704546424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312025029160257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296346576157285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222564081366698,0.0,0.0,0.16038100518683995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161874064331166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ohhsnap89,2018/03/02,"Biracial nephew and the n-word I’ll start off apologizing for the jumble of thoughts coming. I’m raising my biracial 4 year old nephew. He’s never met his father and his mother lost custody of him last year. I admit I will never understand as a white woman the challenges that face people of color. 

Recently my nephew has been saying the n-word. Thanks to my sister who uses it in daily conversations. I’ve explained how the n-word is a hateful word that when we use can hurt people. So that worked for awhile. Today he’s whispering to himself the n-word as we’re walking down the street. I remind him how the word can hurt others. He tells me he’s not saying it to others but to himself. So there I am in the middle of crown heights (heavily Caribbean neighborhood in Brooklyn) thinking how as a white woman do I explain this. I honestly didn’t know what to say. So I asked him why he wanted to call himself that word. He said it’s because he’s black. I don’t know what to say! I’m lost. He is black, I’m white and most of our circle is white. I’m trying to diversify his circle but it’s so hard. 

I just don’t know how to explain to him why we can’t use the n-word. Is this just my problem? Is it because I’m white that it makes me extra uncomfortable? I’m lost and don’t know what to do. I’m 29, single and never thought I’d be raising him. There’s so many complex layers to this, I’m terrified of messing up.If anyone has any suggestions they would be greatly welcomed. I’m terrified of saying the wrong thing. I love him so much and want him to be comfortable with himself. To love himself and to be proud of who he is. I just don’t know how to accomplish this. Sorry for the ramble.",1.6594981060606069,3.5917586051136405,3.5546590909090945,88.575946969697,79.42613636363637,6.084848484848485,23.166666666666664,7.106945922332613,0.8359950757575758,1327,44,277,16,33,447,152,352,0.116,0.777,0.107,0.2559,0,0,0,0,0,0,41,3,0,1,8,17,18,1,0,15,0,26,3,1,9,3,51,66,24,0,4,6,6,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,2,23,11,0,0,14,0,0,2,10,9,0,0,9,16,36,9,36,51,4,21,0,5,8,2,58,8,0,1,11,170,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236841216369813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441047763271759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948718352150084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297437876577819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866546146356956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167034651729833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732706849529867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533031423253524,0.10506650242517354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22784698640381754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924248617097791,0.08674550024524452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485059723038912,0.0,0.19209418774706252,0.0,0.07103535465160814,0.10789192866275832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823003990318937,0.0,0.2462301454466864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166859648414347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475547500807234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182838974829587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507569591501643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122861895596502,0.4231423821605629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912709924381445,0.07532375242074743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301469468848007,0.0979761046672572,0.0,0.0,0.07069990144519572,0.06818885016291346,0.0,0.16896923096171873,0.0,0.0,0.100872549776078,0.0,0.0,0.07225135862817225,0.0,0.0,0.11078569157103267,0.0,0.2757349446307992,0.0,0.0,0.12553709432311086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19205277325346368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747413126123273,0.0,0.0,0.07559684018206134,0.11635221798496152,0.0,0.13706039629764633
parenting,Tayters26,2018/03/02,"Left handed kiddos? When did you notice your kid was left handed? My boy is only 15 weeks but ive noticed he always grabs at things with his left hand first, its always the first hand in his mouth etc. I know at this age it doesnt mean much and he could switch anytime but im interested to know other parents experiences",2.4643589743589764,4.535170230769236,3.5211538461538474,89.11301282051281,77.46153846153845,5.564102564102565,18.525641025641026,6.42735559955562,-0.08658974358974357,255,5,52,2,6,82,52,65,0.0,0.823,0.177,0.9261,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,5,5,0,0,8,9,4,0,1,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,5,7,1,5,6,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,5,31,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29741405474652577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269114207636935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19931692007577628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481971502046245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30403351852883626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930452443329896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964365988357802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5825302830863011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467542385257766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137770567385368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40694143410745454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592248412197055,0.0,0.0,0.1984443011614052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873176665551854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335615801302376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LJGHunter,2018/03/02,"My 3 year old broke her arm today. She was at kindergarten playing on some equipment. Not even anything dangerous; just jumping up, grabbing some rings and swinging. No more than two feet off the ground. She just let go, lost her footing and fell sideways on her arm. Bam! Broke it at the elbow.
What the hell.",1.8470689655172408,4.651363275862072,1.6823275862068994,95.91418103448281,88.65517241379311,3.589655172413793,24.49137931034483,5.148860815047168,0.31357931034482744,242,10,46,1,8,71,46,58,0.21600000000000005,0.721,0.063,-0.8919,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,1,3,6,2,0,3,0,2,5,5,0,0,7,4,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,5,0,1,2,2,6,1,7,1,3,13,1,3,0,0,5,7,1,2,3,31,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31009877210940645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488924925660324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141610280935328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853339451961401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113541809325767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954194277270844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571905366563141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36810790530159704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426660008920161
parenting,throwaway12394081tkl,2018/03/02,"My son is torturing a spider. Im disgusted as i type this so excuse me if i do a messy job of explaining. 

We have a basement. Inside this basement there is a room that has the water heater and some other things that are almost never checked on. The room that has this is quite large and well-lit, but nobody goes. I dont. My husband doesnt. My son apparently does.

There are wild tarantulas where we live. Im scared of them and so are most people but luckily I have almost never foud any in the house. There is one in that room that is being trapped in a small wall made of cardboard box sides taped together, its trapped there.

Most of its legs are missing. Its alive but it can barely move. i didnt look long, im scared of this bug and the scene was disgusting

I dont even know what to do, i should have killed it, i just ran off, my son isnt even home. Neither is my husband.",0.5059953161592503,2.7489520273224066,1.9943637782982044,96.28508196721312,86.10382513661202,5.234348165495707,18.550351288056206,6.655083550727371,-0.06600421545667468,683,18,155,8,21,220,102,183,0.19,0.76,0.049,-0.9824,2,2,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,1,1,10,7,4,2,9,0,26,2,1,1,2,22,32,11,1,2,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,17,6,1,0,2,0,1,2,8,7,0,1,4,1,17,0,12,26,4,17,0,1,1,0,10,12,0,6,3,106,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30965092714631465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514409630989728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530539325693386,0.0,0.3624173055686847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424465309206896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509232820864316,0.0,0.0,0.17840595944705268,0.0,0.0,0.5010350283432293,0.0,0.1534323973033348,0.0,0.17105955631010047,0.0,0.08497284078437961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652864941750534,0.13683018299352834,0.12983839313936346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630127841427998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16433220493429151,0.0,0.0,0.2384985875576373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047717176983806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071911790628791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644530140206904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095949256203786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271991638891907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390182393270277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofdrogon,2018/03/02,"3rd grader taking math & reading test soon, he's not getting the material his school is taking the standard state test to see if they pass on to the next grade i believe, or it could be 3rd grade's practice and it doesn't count until 4th. i got some of the previous years test and let him take it to see if he understood, he only got 5 questions right out 18, from the two stories he did.
when we go over them, that's when he seems to kind of get it but by himself, he's not understanding. especially when reading is already so hard for him. i don't know what to do.

i feel like anything i do isn't helping. he's about to be 9 and he struggles with speaking, reading, and math. i've been reteaching him to read (his school taught him reading by sight other than phonics) and it's been difficult to get him to use it. when we go over sounds, he gets it. but when he needs to use it on his own for reading.. he keeps looking to me to tell him what the word is when i feel he's capable of sounding it out himself.

any advice to go about these tests and to help him better?",4.0641142857142905,4.152857395555556,4.942746031746033,88.25050000000002,70.6,7.673015873015872,28.960317460317462,7.1686216300943375,1.3535650793650795,834,29,188,7,14,272,117,225,0.05,0.887,0.063,0.6018,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,2,0,2,1,10,5,0,1,6,0,15,0,0,2,0,33,41,19,0,4,7,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,14,11,0,1,7,6,0,4,5,2,0,1,7,10,23,3,33,30,2,22,0,0,4,0,33,7,0,6,11,115,37,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573206455078284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940170316159465,0.0,0.0,0.11723496172005872,0.0,0.07357990297105216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903961387157748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219046670320922,0.0,0.09569435775169473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638912185584108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941862855456827,0.07729830398925076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226120728831332,0.0,0.1844781433806566,0.0,0.17307530163386833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692620111055107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450487382268275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617338327523382,0.0,0.11267394472003164,0.059464046004652216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110642120439519,0.0,0.05286119299948605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086098701114054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022913904568314,0.0,0.0,0.11507222876566205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229119112016786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120908006321855,0.0,0.6493773828343122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240245071833708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190089264182276,0.17244323406042705,0.09850147417276474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311442887649754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24405944198836796,0.0,0.09457181670062312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569595464107666,0.1126403107745198,0.0,0.1869006091199912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696774349417992
parenting,dinktinktwonk,2018/03/02,"Carrying around a child's toilet seat in public?? My three year old is finally willing to wee in the toilet at home by sitting on the child toilet seat.

Today we were in a cafe and he wanted to go but refused to use the toilet since the hole in the seat was too large. This is understandable. 

So am I supposed to carry around his toilet seat with me on the off chance that he wants a wee. Or do you have a different technique which allows your toilet trained child to use public toilets?

Thanks.",4.361938775510204,5.545224377551024,4.9210204081632645,84.71683673469387,70.53061224489795,7.2326530612244895,25.22448979591837,7.447530270364453,1.1754938775510202,391,11,76,4,7,125,66,98,0.028,0.902,0.07,0.6237,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,3,0,14,15,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,1,17,12,0,16,0,0,0,0,12,10,0,1,4,51,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424053436927755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596119893850553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722011288943226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121869205226364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492488447209017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26074125107059903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055478172233384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287698861657323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23553295783591754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586797070119381,0.0,0.4292192952511695,0.0,0.0,0.29312358227967555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001499225413368
parenting,bananapocolypse,2018/03/03,"How is your kid and what size clothes do they wear? My stepdaughter is 6 and fits size 8! Size 1 shoes are almost becoming too small.

Who else has kids that aren’t in their “respective” size? I’m sure she’s not the only large child out there. ",-0.054771428571427805,2.282813579999999,0.8837142857142872,101.44900000000004,93.2,5.257142857142857,15.142857142857142,6.868970318607317,-0.4251142857142853,189,4,45,3,7,58,44,50,0.0,0.882,0.118,0.6958,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,6,2,2,1,1,7,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,0,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47808331826118605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272906948615604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39883662299206657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36311169063612175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.449977901897913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,driveninsomniac,2018/03/03,"Am I being paranoid about smoke/CO detectors? My family (my wife, me and a two year old) like to stay in AirBNBs or other vacation rentals when we travel. We are careful to ensure that the property has a smoke detector and carbon monoxide detector listed as part of the ""amenities"". However, at the place we're currently staying, there is no detector (despite the listing saying it has one)! This has gotten me thinking about safety in general. Even if there's a detector visible, we are trusting the owner has installed it properly and that it is still within its lifespan.

Consequently, I've been thinking about purchasing a detector that I can bring along as a safety backup when on vacation. I know that the overall risk is extremely low (compared to all the other things that can happen).

Does anyone else do this, or am I being too paranoid? I think you can get really small, egg-sized detectors, so they shouldn't take up too much space in a suitcase. If you do this, I'd also appreciate suggestions for particular models that work well for travel.",7.842209138012247,8.103935689119174,8.24961846443712,67.16729627885069,62.57512953367876,11.785021196420159,37.752708431464896,11.389717465364855,4.715076683937824,840,39,134,23,11,278,123,193,0.055,0.8390000000000001,0.106,0.8677,3,0,2,0,0,0,30,3,2,1,1,14,6,0,1,13,0,20,0,0,0,1,18,30,13,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,16,7,0,0,4,2,1,3,2,2,1,2,2,1,15,4,19,25,3,22,1,1,0,0,10,11,0,4,7,107,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805130048397506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381933151207239,0.2025038241178196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150544855861588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295463377420695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510146367883338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305382524878345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18631582744131686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032578698037472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477092183135978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861685705838073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655610456630301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452869125448916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073881801860248,0.0,0.13392484680938171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21402305084625176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648998887583844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661217452619847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716993202886614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213123246947911,0.15783422502641642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485994271907026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130212397835986,0.3799159832622823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19306392968955965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770059339086236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388305754377193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727260419978698
parenting,primrose9212,2018/03/03,"15 month old being violent This is for a friend who doesn’t have reddit. Her 15 month old has been trying to hurt himself and his parents all day today. This week he started preschool, had to get 5 stitches on his eyebrow from a fall, has 5 teeth coming in, and woke up today with a stomach bug. 

He is now throwing himself around the pack n play, hits when you try to pick him up, and gave himself a bruise from hitting his head repeatedly on the side of the pack n play. He’s intense and a sensitive little boy and she’s wondering if these outbursts are precipitating from this whirlwind week/pain or if there could be another reason. He’s never done this before. Does anyone have calming tips for her? Thank you for your help in advance! ",4.8548965517241385,5.921402110344832,5.201551724137931,83.5961206896552,69.27586206896552,7.455172413793104,29.67241379310345,7.554174236665415,1.769606896551724,586,22,113,6,10,186,98,145,0.05,0.831,0.119,0.8016,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,3,0,1,4,7,1,0,8,0,14,3,3,2,2,17,23,9,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,2,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,5,0,13,5,18,13,1,26,0,1,0,0,23,9,0,4,13,72,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325189016739424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219678387206015,0.0,0.0,0.15557412412787275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870853148046353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054091677978734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953224312470364,0.0,0.0,0.11270622991905245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293431512599046,0.1788409288609616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501972644782154,0.0,0.09130528194127982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17935495396930876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713845083973826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870850036127545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751561886477983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789847359904272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478626856130194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667640306576761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859577657613176,0.0,0.1940511378172692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968316336448836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236965624709764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089622412781068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331305524591641,0.0,0.0,0.2373021632337297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803650738542832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952058491182944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tsianite,2018/03/03,"[Meta] Parenting is leaking https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/81rxoh/redditors_who_only_upvote_and_never_comment_why/dv4r96m/

All jokes aside when I was a kid I hated that about my mom. Even though I now know she was genuinely just caring about me it made me feel ashamed at that time.  

Please don't repeat yourself too often. I know it sometimes takes a while for your kid to get it. But once they have understood it it is irritating if you still repeat it.",8.882778864970646,12.694416260273972,5.773033268101763,72.2472602739726,64.47945205479452,6.911154598825831,22.757338551859107,7.957251820313856,1.1053694716242668,389,9,60,5,7,107,56,73,0.132,0.7709999999999999,0.096,-0.5859,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,2,1,0,10,4,1,1,2,0,6,0,0,1,1,10,15,5,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,1,11,2,5,11,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,7,44,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773584665251592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967697544599098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754939399512042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212739471950778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685788760658609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29900734821799724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25740670133979066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31860485525086024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289709079696099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.302063386410239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986134433718157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690502051739125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724801454080572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045369470004242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26727363637176754,0.0,0.1586261700916861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tychsena,2018/03/03,"Toddler (3.5yo F) only wants to be at home, has trouble socializing/shy, is restless, gets very addicted to/hyper-focuses on iPad & TV (when we allow it) and throws fits when we take it. Anyone else experiencing anything like this?
I know all kids are obsessed with technology...but combined with other things I listed it concerns me.

Might she have ADD or something similar?",7.893955223880596,8.584964328358211,8.026082089552244,67.35315298507466,62.43283582089552,10.282089552238807,37.6455223880597,10.125756701596842,4.074704477611942,298,14,47,6,4,97,60,67,0.102,0.833,0.065,-0.3527,0,0,1,0,0,0,20,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,12,10,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,6,6,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,1,5,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,3,28,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224796199147317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320513049489976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068391905117528,0.3030951751861031,0.2434287327660413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471136398298494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454998084036956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967243614630984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257098087747607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445191939278347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138106380806175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224978967239042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22773114858632695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224144142123252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652488264307505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440765432813353,0.17447805601487498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isthisthingonorwhat,2018/03/03,"Any recommendations for double (length) buggy? Hi, does anyone have any recommendations for purchasing a double buggy - lengthways. I'm guessing a compact setup works best but I could be persuaded.  Needs to be suitable for a newborn and 2yo. I've seen the Hauck Duett Tandem and the ABC Tandem Zoom and they look pretty good.",4.2082706766917255,7.489198649122812,4.768170426065165,75.38052631578952,80.05263157894737,6.064160401002509,23.932330827067666,7.447530270364453,1.654906766917294,261,9,39,4,7,83,42,57,0.0,0.8170000000000001,0.183,0.8945,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,9,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,4,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,22,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4394098849621613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259044964439155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390516997616462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579524609565712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827287949223299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709835139736665,0.0,0.0,0.35590817542024955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713051678378884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395591413904576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286877068736959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352055136157765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,22mama,2018/03/03,"mom of a boy I have a 3 year old son, he will be 4 in June. I always thought my son would get into mud fights. he hates being dirty. Though im sure most moms will call me crazy, but how can I get my boy to be ok with being dirty? He prefers to get pedicures with mom. ",-1.5530210772833717,0.17852536065574046,0.5757845433255291,106.4555737704918,90.47540983606558,3.4857142857142858,13.632318501170962,3.1291,-1.7820697892271662,201,3,56,0,7,66,43,61,0.183,0.745,0.07200000000000001,-0.705,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,1,9,0,0,1,1,10,14,3,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,2,7,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,3,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728160471741473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120763426389641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255308630454644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20505245427654864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22434256565196453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.729737667428391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179373943755164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19574687297196264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405594030414154,0.16488392925517234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753815209489288,0.0,0.0,0.13374657952930488
parenting,SavageMomma,2018/03/03,"Has anyone watched “We’re Back!” (Dinosaur movie) with their kids? Me being a 90’s baby & watching my son (4) GLUED to the movie while it’s on = PRICELESS. 

90’s momma moment & perfect rainy cold day :) 


Side note: definitely brings back so many childhood memories watching old movies! ",3.865283018867924,6.369574773584912,3.9062641509433966,85.9363773584906,74.84905660377359,5.749433962264153,27.581132075471697,6.742157984588678,1.3620369811320754,225,9,40,2,5,69,46,53,0.024,0.7959999999999999,0.181,0.8652,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,3,2,0,10,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,7,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6820415469595855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200736002683665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.484031427711968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029813306455721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190970671887061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302667963842686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Myfriendisabadperson,2018/03/03,"Whenever we’ve been asking daughter what animals makes the “baabaa” sound she’s been pointing at our dog... So I just figured this out and it was two cute not to share. My daughter has this book with animals and the sound they make underneath them. She’s really good at finding what animal makes what sound, EXCEPT for the sheep. Whenever we’d say “what animal goes “baa baa” she’d point at our 7 years old black lab or the black dog in the book. 

Well today, she pointed at our black lab after I was talking to it and said “baa baa” again. And I realized, my black lab is named “Brownie” but we often call her “Brown Bear” and sometimes just “Bubba”! 

I don’t know why but I thought it was cute and wanted to share. ",3.3670102432778504,4.805516584507043,4.069897567221513,88.87593469910374,73.29577464788733,7.698847631241997,24.17669654289373,8.296473431620573,1.2769211267605636,553,16,117,9,11,176,84,142,0.027000000000000003,0.9,0.07200000000000001,0.7321,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,0,6,6,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,3,0,27,18,10,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,9,9,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,7,10,19,6,14,9,0,15,0,0,5,0,22,10,0,2,5,72,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18567217383350645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20280152414005853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152460659833944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665834196402225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915005900208866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39771822611747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20840625218490247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5632477960773309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272337157803168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18892220153820855,0.15794148181883286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642892353164595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963402053389442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767299521982114,0.0,0.0,0.18825767233630947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19401168370636973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714446210388765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785729285362545,0.0,0.17921331491416498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789738751407145
parenting,calliescastle,2018/03/03,"Kids walking to school alone? So my daughter is in first grade. We bus to school, and her school is a 5-10 minute walk from the stop along a very residential street (no traffic lights, speed limit of 30). At the beginning of this school year, she asked to start walking that part by herself and admiring her confidence and independence, I said yes. She went to kindergarten here too and daycare over the summer so the walk is familiar. I asked her every day when I picked her up if the walk was okay and she thought it was really cool being able to walk alone and seemed proud of herself so I didn’t think anything of it.

About a month in, I get a call from the school saying they’re concerned because my daughter is walking to school alone. I go in for a meeting thinking I would explain everything and it would be okay. Important to note: I am a young mom and I’ve dealt with people thinking I’m neglectful or less motherly because of this. The meeting felt a little like this. I try to explain it was at my daughters request, but the principal kept cutting me off and talking over me. They said things like “I know you might have to get to work, but it’s important for child safety...” and “finding the right parenting path is difficult, isn’t it?” 

So I explain I definitely have the time to walk her and I’m not rushing her off so we decide I’ll walk with her instead. Everyone’s happy, right? Well, no. We start walking together and my daughter openly dislikes the idea of a walking escort. We see other kids of all grades walking to school alone and she points this out and tells me it’s not fair that they get to walk alone but she doesn’t. I think it’s a major blow to her confidence to feel capable of doing something independent only to have mom back with her. I know it sucks, but I just don’t want to get in trouble or reported again so I’ve been walking her since about mid October. 

But now my daughter is getting close to another girl in her class who walks to school with her brother who is in the grade above them who live in the school neighbourhood. She’s asked me if she can start walking from the bus stop to this girls house, wait for her, and then the three of them can walk together. I’ve let her do it two or three times and it’s gone really well on her end, but I always have so much anxiety that I’m going to get reported or that I’m being a bad parent and don’t realize it! 

Am I being a bad parent and overshooting her confidence and ability levels or is this okay for a seven year old? ",4.482054746651134,5.2841408752475285,5.133736167734423,84.71094787419922,69.95049504950495,8.55503785672685,29.110366919044854,8.757208317658263,2.080154338963308,1982,72,408,33,34,639,219,505,0.093,0.8,0.107,0.7318,3,5,1,1,0,0,44,4,1,4,4,19,18,2,0,27,5,35,0,0,3,1,78,76,41,0,5,16,12,2,2,0,3,0,3,0,5,27,31,0,6,17,0,0,22,9,7,2,5,12,8,60,11,61,56,5,70,0,1,1,0,69,25,1,9,25,273,87,16,0.06789196815040333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515780192876202,0.0,0.0,0.05649155621330874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119064821545013,0.05193716980656991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05586930501719498,0.0,0.1904094764358078,0.0,0.0,0.05220473278656573,0.11337391511236525,0.08277262726804012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932529025865956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04378470289462005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013213237749625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05720191132329072,0.06487368501408765,0.061016923274204785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03432821902223975,0.0,0.06518693630674004,0.0,0.062052028922760724,0.05774887342610506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212824507325623,0.0,0.07716914014178841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227226254212231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833821589543545,0.0,0.07664176820303979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462330033421047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942413725536066,0.0,0.06633717256502689,0.06804558794669996,0.05994985171532309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202264932881577,0.0,0.15902850510542446,0.05419072125049379,0.0,0.04990840834052232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124119991553825,0.0,0.0,0.05163490110763543,0.0,0.0,0.2261579884748451,0.07352038548288826,0.0,0.04706774231948353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641798545255581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698666654069763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595873969006555,0.1291616176306071,0.05399041805727048,0.0,0.6183926671266031,0.0541011086131233,0.06180629796012895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616093763025422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226655398364115,0.0,0.0,0.14416285348469346,0.0,0.0,0.11352145074966613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545689922972482,0.059340572623080276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04510440689188065,0.1740097273330232,0.0,0.05389863910498709,0.07917670520249084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609418982829037,0.0,0.06632058779413594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05601798394618194,0.040044441835348284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208606572961568,0.06293653465594673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04942616140293174,0.0,0.0,0.09645701251663824,0.0,0.0,0.08744040312649601
parenting,Erulissa,2018/03/03,"How do you discipline a 16 month old? I have a 16 month old son who I love very dearly, but I feel like at this point I am raising a brat. He constantly pushes limits. I feel like I am constantly trying to redirect him. ""No, we don't climb the table, I need you to get down."" ""We use nice hands on the kitty, he doesn't like to be hit."" ""We don't climb the railings, get down."" 


He absolutely refuses to be redirected though. He'll just throw tantrums (which I ignore) and then go right back to what he was doing. He's broken all my mugs at this point from climbing on the table and throwing them. I've tried time outs. Most of the time at this point he just starts playing in his room. We don't spank him. 


I feel like I'm just ready to snap at any given moment. My day is basically an endless cycle of ""no don't do that"", screaming, and repeat. How did ya'll get through this phase? I feel ready to lose it.",1.4237441643323976,3.1284702539682563,2.9808029878618107,93.49344537815128,79.26455026455027,6.140180516651106,20.112356053532523,7.048011613610866,0.20127799564270127,694,17,160,8,17,228,110,189,0.069,0.764,0.16699999999999998,0.9547,0,0,0,0,0,0,34,4,2,1,5,8,12,1,0,9,0,16,2,1,3,1,26,32,8,0,1,4,1,5,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,9,8,0,4,4,1,0,7,7,4,0,0,3,6,22,8,21,25,2,36,0,1,0,1,21,15,0,1,18,93,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004174624104386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354549493038228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31914744380151644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523189747709512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29865603449362604,0.31647634293368176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314470616715931,0.0,0.08392158855189318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28856721178798944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519969074468988,0.0,0.0,0.13327369152249105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357300549809588,0.0,0.0,0.10949194316702612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098997685484078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41877429254113935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610535277943347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451825390633344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450803999294886,0.0,0.17220963884499196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20051008091032987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275354011962923,0.0,0.12183933089316107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,secretfriend-,2018/03/03,"Bugs in the bedroom So it's metaphorical. 

My son just turned three, and at night maybe ten times over the past two months he's woken up crying because he sees a worm or a spider crawling on the floor. There's no worm or spider. The first time he went back to sleep easily and the next day we vacuumed together. Later when it happened he would start screaming and I'd come in thinking there was really a problem blood pumping - so much adrenaline that I can't sleep for an hour after... Nothing. Last night was the worst. I sleep trained him so freaking long ago (at like 6 months old) and he was up screaming three times last night talking about worms in the floor. I haven't had this little sleep in years.

I was so frustrated I just left the overhead light on at the end. 

So my question is two-fold:

How many lights is too many? Anybody's kid went through a stage where the overhead light was on for a while? Is that terrible for their sleep?

Second part - what is this worm/bug thing? Like anybody's house I'm sure there are little spiders somewhere -  but I haven't seen a bug with my eyes in months - since summer, when we get more flies and the usual (having no A/C is standard here) Is it attention seeking? ",2.9672857142857154,4.933717966666666,3.17464285714286,92.6575,75.58333333333334,6.071428571428572,23.92857142857143,6.868970318607317,0.6849821428571428,952,30,198,9,21,291,140,240,0.098,0.872,0.03,-0.9293,0,0,0,0,0,0,31,2,0,1,1,18,10,1,0,18,0,18,7,7,1,1,22,30,17,0,2,5,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,1,9,9,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,7,0,6,10,8,13,3,22,19,4,54,0,0,3,0,13,20,0,3,32,118,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418332206166292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169891766104438,0.0,0.06476840028477415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152409999216198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670953031782047,0.06852181106310334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410507189026966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037533961425727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551071385084228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395563408065256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046338563912964,0.12259707326384975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321422117276958,0.0,0.0,0.11543984234427015,0.0,0.0,0.10381578278380367,0.2129788082464968,0.0,0.09402701580796713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21543960598892528,0.10674139483030097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25442079886917945,0.0,0.07810523540607796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299700998140814,0.29912244875440924,0.0,0.10194877483755456,0.0,0.11149044569904117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505730609774215,0.10142668664294333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166593756253796,0.0,0.0,0.11902318897144558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680658259124928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466669173512585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789026538992127,0.0,0.5316286263826232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520358447691093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001384189912544,0.0,0.0,0.08539891635431025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058711017400868,0.06808006490390403,0.0,0.0,0.18586392766698676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556839478766115,0.2075796561808862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701825562203165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969877629198726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547623656695633,0.0,0.0,0.06842086831941882
parenting,ausculte,2018/03/03,"Nagging vs Imposed Consequences vs Natural Consequences I've been struggling (and my wife, too, I think) with finding the balance with our five-year-old, especially. (The three-year-old is, well, we've got experience with that.)

E.g. In the morning, it may work to say you can't come downstairs until you've brushed your teeth, instead of nagging him. And if it's the weekend, no big deal. But on a school day that can make the whole day start late. 

At night if he needs to brush teeth before bed (or get changed or pick up his room) then we can nag him to get it done, or we can threaten no books, and it eventually becomes whining and screaming; or we can ask politely, let him do his own thing and then when he goofs off past bedtime, say sorry, time's up, and ignore the fit that follows...

The larger question is, sometimes we need him to do things so we can continue our day. We can nag him into it. We can impose some threat of removed privilege or toy. Or we can let some sort of natural consequence happen, but in the moment this gives him his way, and then the consequence follows and it's a fit.

It's obviously a larger issue than brushing teeth. But that's a good example because it is something without immediate natural consequences, (unlike, say, not putting on your coat when it's cold outside) so as a parent we have to impose them. (e.g. no breakfast or no books) 

How do you balance letting a child suffer natural consequences with them getting their way and then making everyone else suffer (by the fit when the consequences happen, or being late)?

And this is a five-year-old, so, you know, I'm trying to figure out what's age appropriate. He understands future consequences like ""no books tonight"" or ""no more building forts."" But I hate using tyrannical withdrawal of privileges all the time to get compliance. OTOH, I want to praise him for good behavior, but sometimes I can't even get the good behavior to start to praise him.

That's on top of trying to get him to start doing things to help the family, like sweep under the table, in addition to things that are required, like brushing teeth or cleaning up his toys. I don't want the natural consequences of him, say, not putting his clothes in the hamper, but at the same time, I don't want him to realize that if he doesn't do what we ask we'll just do it anyway, without there being some negative result.",6.6956781376518215,6.67632646929825,6.776315789473685,77.71767206477735,65.00877192982456,10.173279352226722,34.205128205128204,9.851270322608157,3.208176383265857,1874,76,354,36,26,600,209,456,0.118,0.743,0.139,0.9229,1,0,1,0,0,0,82,13,5,3,5,14,23,6,1,25,0,34,5,4,6,2,82,65,42,0,8,26,2,0,3,0,2,0,5,4,1,25,28,1,2,7,6,0,6,16,12,1,0,3,10,44,11,48,55,8,57,2,3,0,0,56,22,0,19,30,239,69,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620213504729736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052824049660752284,0.09570357769683012,0.07373697504603267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916694408908086,0.07464556144484805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765581060489573,0.08933744242808436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867809383459943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238908653012376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723477335861112,0.0,0.0,0.08280251266552091,0.0,0.08476516317329844,0.08169056926604468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920104907995297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716417906511146,0.08312731852694984,0.0,0.2180461675483784,0.06930587492839549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325736188517836,0.0,0.0,0.0855538171342423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808298246584082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904452480467626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762329109040618,0.0,0.1955011028831867,0.0,0.0,0.2658316543818137,0.0,0.12700568582587096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156856962333529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850708619478465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131979493176414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727893609110818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962200605737676,0.0,0.08272194941661867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422430628361488,0.09707336938020328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27564595869854513,0.0,0.08769942978145659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671120959559759,0.17140791108035414,0.09700311544772736,0.18400444647119674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059056244657558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302787777278097,0.05552498924751858,0.0,0.0,0.15158758440929762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766603781595328,0.0,0.0,0.09021085292630596,0.0,0.07484204919725107,0.0,0.0,0.15333399366176456,0.1375653224447576,0.0,0.0,0.07791320164458744,0.0,0.0,0.09674715053354227,0.0,0.16706454777195665,0.0,0.06308583140738197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740882884456945
parenting,jackalooz,2018/03/03,"Looking for minivan advice My car is on it’s last leg, and we just had our 2nd baby (oldest is 2 and a half).  We may have a third but probably not.  Regardless, I’m thinking now is the time for the dreaded minivan.

I’ve been researching some options and was looking for some input from people who’ve been through this.

I think my must haves are a backup camera and power sliding doors.  I think nice to haves are extra safety features (like blind spot or crash avoidance) and leather, heated seats (I live in the northeast U.S.).  Are there other feature I should really consider?

I want certified preowned or new.  Right now, it looks like for:

$15K I can get a certified preowned Nissan Quest.  It has the must-haves, but has poor crash test results and questionable reliability.

$20K I can get a certified basic Toyota Sienna or a Kia Sedona with a few bells and whistles.

$25-$30K I can get a Toyota or Kia with tons of bells or a new one with basic features

I’m leaning towards cheaper just because that extra $10K in a nicer model means an extra $200/month.  On the other side of things, we will drive the car until it dies, so maybe it’s worth it.  Not sure what the best compromise is, though.  Any advice is appreciated.

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parenting,landdon,2018/03/03,"Parents of teenagers with Autism or Autistic Teens My 17 year old is a high functioning autistic teen and is very much interested in college and will more than likely go into pre law.  He likes history and politics and I think that will be a good area to pursue for him.  I am concerned about some things and I'm looking for advice.  
Transportation.  I know living at campus is a great part of the college experience, but I don't think he will do well with that.  Like a lot of kids with Asperger's he has low social skills I just don't see him being able to have what I would call a ""normal"" college experience.  But he's definitely smart and can do college so I think he will need to commute from home for a bit.  He can't drive and lacks the ability to react and deal with all that goes with driving.  We don't live near a bus stop.  I was considering paying someone to take him everyday who perhaps works at the campus.  Anybody else had a similar experience?  I'm hoping that as he grows he will be able to learn the skills to drive.  Just looking for some advice.  Thanks
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parenting,emptyhelmet,2018/03/03,"My 5 yo son is throwing tantrums because his homework is not perfect, although it is totally fine. He cannot accept that a character he traced is not perfectly straight, that one line goes over the bounded box... I tried many approaches but cannot get him out of this loop. Any similar experience ? I wish I could see inside his brain, inside out style, to figure out what is going on. 
The teacher says he is doing fine and he is an angel but this is just driving us nuts. 
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parenting,woolenwitch,2018/03/03,"Screen-time leaving me with huge daily guilt. I am wracked with daily guilt over the screen time my 3.5 year old son has. I feel I am also dependent lately on the 'free help' using a TV show or tablet offers me. 

My son isn't the type of child to bop around from zone to zone in the house; he just enjoys sitting and watching his favorite shows or movies. He's extremely active when he's not placated by a screen, though. He scooters with me around the neighborhood, will play in his sandbox, play blocks, cars, etc with me. He colors and enjoys books. He loves playing with his friends and going to the playground (have to drive to park, none within walking distance.) 

It's all me, really, and that's the biggest guilt factor. I can't pull my imagination together for long enough stretches to play, and I get so frustrated sometimes when he just follows me around the house like a shadow when I'm trying to get things done (yes yes, I know ""Let him help you!"" I feel guilty I'm not some Instagram Mom who lets her child wash clothes with her, but that's just not me. My brain just wants to get shit done around the house.)

He's hopefully going to go to preschool this fall, and I have hopes that screen time will trickle down to the occasional show or movie night. But until then, I just feel like a shit mom who lets her kid watch TV half the day because I can't be in the moment.

I feel even worse reading the studies and even reminiscing on my own childhood. I remember spending hours playing my game-boy or watching Disney movies on repeat. As a teenager I was highly addicted to World of Warcraft and social media. Even now I have so much trouble disconnecting myself from a screen. 

I've been to therapy (in Insurance Hell right now, so I can't afford to visit my therapist at the moment) and that helped....*a little*. So here I am on the internet, and I could use some insight on how to help get rid of this shitty guilt and the screen time usage. ",4.812277565776263,5.7561202950391674,4.974321148825067,85.6362718417353,69.28720626631853,7.876641895963044,27.26340630648725,8.012643519586192,1.5437287407109856,1535,48,308,19,26,481,198,383,0.109,0.774,0.117,-0.8059,1,0,0,0,0,0,53,0,1,0,0,25,23,4,4,22,2,22,6,3,4,1,55,43,30,0,4,14,4,4,2,1,2,2,0,0,3,10,21,0,1,8,12,2,10,8,9,0,1,4,13,40,15,47,32,8,56,1,0,9,1,33,24,3,9,23,192,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049810775283842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701097479267406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429092200209881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058703509631840185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750250814895734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688761374343922,0.0,0.0,0.06210545232008191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19709641229647815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950351286937986,0.10739981571607424,0.19081547651370856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476844000519647,0.06879664953726597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440104410553229,0.0,0.20125083904406996,0.0,0.16418831361693825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19364332775660956,0.1017461045695012,0.0,0.19129500813814385,0.0948359781849824,0.33335137688455485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05292389252963182,0.0,0.10863045288882428,0.1019676624214072,0.0,0.29541943837458845,0.0,0.0940945087078014,0.09651777306761117,0.0,0.08522235849375717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691439647479603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255704981059127,0.0,0.0,0.07079148811454747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903709086238978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105051883596386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632593454765352,0.0,0.061692165461627035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908898519511434,0.08223956659305147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977008744802167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981655946563012,0.0,0.0,0.0952430381966277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012729903254187,0.11181157653003393,0.06397735753491804,0.0,0.094614137690225,0.0,0.1684596936166037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538129345090156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634434444664714,0.0,0.0,0.056800160984878986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981377991766718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062013961820083535
parenting,yetiospaghettio,2018/03/03,"Childhood friendships / at what point do parents stop “managing” kids’ friendships? My son is 7 years old, in first grade. He has a couple close friends in school (maybe 2) and I would really like to encourage him to make new friends. His current friends are ones he made in Kindergarten and it feels like he hasn’t made any strong new connections in first grade, possibly because one of his K friends is in his class again and they just play together out of comfort.

We sometimes have his friends over from preschool and even from day care before that, but that’s because we get along well with the parents and have known them for several years now. So while the kids play, the adults also enjoy some social time. 

With all that, my son has maybe 6 friends total who have ever come over to our house to play, and 2 or 3 that are more frequent visitors since they live in our town and go to school together. 

What I’m getting to is, all the play dates so far have been planned by myself or my husband. We usually take the initiative to invite my son’s friends over and make the arrangements with the other parents. I feel like it’s a lot of work to keep building relationships with the parents of my son’s friends just so he can have his friends over to our house. He’s an only child, so I put in a lot of effort to make sure he is happy socially and doesn’t feel lonely. I’m just wondering at what point do the parents step back and let the kids make their own play plans?

And on a related note, do I need to try harder to have some of my son’s new classmates over to play so he can build more relationships?

It seems like 90% of the time we are the ones initiating play dates, which makes me wonder how it is for other families. What do they do differently?",7.5776217038539535,6.188763750000002,6.906173089925628,82.00907707910753,63.798850574712645,10.487085868830293,34.55104800540906,9.325443323948027,2.7421938471940486,1387,49,292,20,17,428,168,348,0.013,0.759,0.229,0.9975,7,2,0,0,0,0,29,7,0,5,7,16,29,0,0,17,0,28,0,0,8,5,57,51,22,0,2,6,11,3,4,9,1,0,0,0,5,16,23,0,2,7,7,0,4,2,1,1,5,3,3,30,28,46,46,10,48,0,1,0,0,56,21,0,9,27,183,46,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058958757329598675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050136294710276905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669084101713095,0.0,0.08988552574739443,0.0,0.06273550410845916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516870032565116,0.0,0.0,0.06350853047305015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157655751470863,0.0,0.047547252869379324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702811117556392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0486954117245018,0.06668950300291981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950243131906253,0.0,0.11183443548772548,0.10533992008481803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542281236080655,0.0,0.0,0.5126456072873554,0.0,0.0770377171144845,0.0,0.04190025713849285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848283339510098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701401043867297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553116941549278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538996021655604,0.0,0.14407544690575236,0.0,0.06510152109175334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535863384250098,0.0,0.13952288846441233,0.24606381217858064,0.0,0.14813560858607935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466698917948622,0.0,0.2136154593594257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736316848499873,0.0,0.1498761956262157,0.05607204200423616,0.0,0.0,0.4093206970907987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939004129324106,0.08311513092624627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411512118462775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04723084498516863,0.0,0.0,0.1583085388787401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922955366502022,0.0,0.06711749729359345,0.0,0.08328953849076719,0.0,0.06098701433041459,0.0,0.0,0.15030900437341788,0.0,0.0,0.07291702502774781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061638343622932176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948600242530413,0.0,0.05543287236628789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859805953848257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005520089629726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119891322298069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628864255450917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990568012482395,0.053673498715842885,0.0,0.0,0.052372925496281184,0.0,0.0,0.09495441749284593
parenting,fussymissy,2018/03/03,"How to teach a 4yo to play by themselves? She used to play on her own pretty regularly but I think the introduction of preschool, her baby brother, regular full day play dates, and frequent trips to my families house in a nearby town have taught her to always either be playing with someone or (in the case of me needing to get the baby to sleep) watching tv. 

I realized this a few months ago and since then have incorporated “quiet time” in our day where she spends some time playing in her room. At least, that was the idea. Instead she hollers to be allowed out for the full 45 minutes. 

I’ve tried simply saying “I can’t right now” and maybe suggesting a fun game to play. But then she just sits near me moping! And when I tell her to leave the room she sits in a nearby room, moping harder. 

She would honestly rather sit and stare and me then go play! 

I’ve started letting her have very limited screen time during the day (I admit I used it as a crutch when my son was just born) thinking sooner or later she’ll figure out that actually doing something is better then constantly being bored, and there has been a BIT of improvement...

But I want to know: what worked for you? 
Give me ideas! Please save me, I’m going insane. 

Ps: she gets a lot of 1x1 time with each parent and we often do fun new activities together whether it’s crafts, Lego, baking or a new pretend game...my point is I promise she’s not neglected! ",4.701460101867571,5.6404714229390684,5.278060743255992,83.37568760611207,69.53763440860214,8.02422184493492,27.229013393699304,8.20500826718156,1.6573684587813615,1113,35,221,15,19,358,170,279,0.056,0.762,0.182,0.9899,2,0,1,0,0,0,34,2,1,0,3,11,15,0,0,16,0,18,2,1,4,0,47,34,23,0,4,12,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,6,14,1,2,8,10,1,3,2,2,0,0,4,5,33,13,31,24,10,49,0,1,3,0,27,19,0,6,24,143,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.13580266879780453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335928977108053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579447020275475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307805213862873,0.15192956746715214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15038538272616078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692451835911601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311901582196657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541347842545366,0.1334974914229181,0.15817867833167187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057501004201258,0.0,0.3141953785434063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648015124909274,0.0,0.0,0.1473531494332037,0.0,0.14230323488369293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831110578349095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398075834150283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107829696551676,0.0,0.0,0.10318733925905896,0.0,0.2688083028623813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545236504530675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275879639879855,0.13155368254355254,0.0,0.0,0.14157844164325925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884413997278907,0.0,0.11066772229393866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511677947815464,0.0,0.13926314837269949,0.0,0.11791205901133235,0.1071342043580238,0.0,0.0,0.09850003765249847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216342871219907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17833960982213376,0.0,0.0,0.32458743379996313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448230228316228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403836908932529,0.0,0.11482375787952535,0.08208173464686352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131206427023497,0.0,0.0,0.09885715149650348,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LittleLady28,2018/03/03,"Father. Today i disscussed a long time coming a converstation i needed to have with my boyfriend regarding our daughter. I simply asked if he could help me more in the morinings as lately i need more time to sleep due to being on a med that makes me even more drowsy than i should be. And also i generally hate having him awake anytime he pleases to go to bed whenever 6am 4am he doesn't plan to ever get up for her and let me rest. I truly feel after 9 months its becoming unfair that im putting in 90 percent of the work. Where the 10 is whenever he pleases. He works from home and i truly dont get how he hasnt learned this skill so far in her age. Well turns out he didnt like what i had to say and just went yes yes whatever you want instead of really hearing me. What do i do? Im tired, im hungry half the time but i seem to maintain everything why cant he? ",1.1839753320683144,2.8963753924731184,3.3318975332068312,90.6619639468691,80.02150537634408,6.3119544592030365,22.231499051233396,7.285733465282438,0.6827518026565467,677,21,152,9,17,231,125,186,0.046,0.86,0.094,0.6491,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,1,0,4,9,3,1,0,7,2,16,2,1,2,1,22,31,10,0,6,3,2,1,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,4,5,1,1,1,3,3,21,2,22,23,5,23,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,2,12,92,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155231777285234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040690981160868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405880507631786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016066982232625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137362621619974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348448755382042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213365899834644,0.1261791965781572,0.0,0.0,0.12536710713161803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053173580153556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575842994804475,0.0,0.07927695580400038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772023109911108,0.0,0.0,0.15721848981741626,0.0,0.09349906335061224,0.0,0.13992262185677382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4520283860434089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735392043908725,0.0,0.0,0.1426408082508546,0.0,0.06814912137076072,0.0,0.0,0.1234467118698503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311250715511414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494502107769892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134179817654602,0.0,0.0,0.2068642428992876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062423451379927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022876201311096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936264037947833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093024953501937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269889788273198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959351001174536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440180678770525,0.16032641890129976,0.13222283549994268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517280774043738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227644987993506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542075263956315,0.12931119530965388,0.1258705282139238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20310479582393334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,baelrog,2018/03/03,"How to communicate to my 3 year old it is not okay to hit people When my 3 year old gets upset, he hits people. While he isn't going to do much damage as a 3 year old, but I see this as a problem when he gets older.

Last night he wanted my wife to hug him, but my wife really needs to use the bathroom, so she went to the bathroom instead. My son threw a tantrum and started hitting my wife. I had to physically restrain my son.

Stuff like this happens constantly, there was one time he hit my wife across the jaw while she was talking, she bit her lip hard and ended up going to urgent care.

I'm really tired of his crap at this point. My wife and I constantly told him it is not okay to hit people, but we really don't know how to drive the point home.

Any suggestions?",4.027222222222221,4.041160487654324,5.2959012345679035,85.94755555555555,70.66666666666666,8.455308641975309,25.459259259259266,8.238735603445708,1.2853066666666657,597,15,134,8,10,200,89,162,0.136,0.784,0.08,-0.7828,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,0,7,10,2,1,7,2,8,5,3,3,0,17,29,15,0,3,5,7,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,5,4,5,0,1,6,2,20,5,17,18,2,28,0,1,1,1,23,5,1,0,19,77,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566528233783353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358300681809553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342972453740993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040440336350915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459819490736293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469960036138978,0.0,0.1599001263394163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440033435686132,0.0,0.12601908973463152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141110646124933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731247963486723,0.11467064875938628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872774696373359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034138877844927,0.10431032019091056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201597045526595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44285099637507175,0.0,0.0953264739191248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29258345743783826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659707449953781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460902849771572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703641431823503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210147069730478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957200699355023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104167382977247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130709600562151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202997429902165,0.16168768324836705,0.0,0.13442304023080318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214998852853295,0.0,0.0,0.0829750246912004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040912240774524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27177440648049
parenting,z3rorage,2018/03/03,"Monitoring help With my almost 19-month-old daughter, we are currently Using and Owlet baby monitor and love the pulse and o2 readings. the issue is that this monitor is only rated for 18 months. 

Does anyone have an idea of a good monitor I can start using after the owlet will no longer work?

Our first born son passed away at 18 months due to a bacteria causing his epiglottis to swell during the night, and now my daughter is developing some respiratory issues. 

currently being able to see her current o2 and heart rate levels are the only thing keeping me sane at night as I may have developed a fear of sleeping while she is sick, do to our sad history. 

Any suggestions are GREATLY appreciated. thanks ",8.434791208791209,8.296460676923079,8.535934065934068,66.9419230769231,61.46153846153846,11.428571428571427,36.263736263736256,10.914260884657429,4.120527472527473,568,23,93,13,7,186,95,130,0.081,0.794,0.124,0.802,3,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,2,1,6,0,1,9,0,14,4,2,3,0,15,21,7,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,11,4,13,18,1,19,0,1,1,1,12,4,0,3,14,60,14,2,0.15957894439533382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597952616811675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851915438400056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158130831648552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992967127703974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393153393732712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964860962388598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957067803215754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573776858172942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338472473870705,0.0,0.17593634955901855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891018174511311,0.10696240264841232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18014520420646102,0.0,0.3331179160747424,0.0,0.14184109798816602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402622769475046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38212317283326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29950805828172306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745125807508354,0.0,0.0,0.2427339562305785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596221287240151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716375792750134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969419040050428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295079819133652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691885189188264,0.0,0.0,0.1060171598419212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27564994294074485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617537209585788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SparkyHD,2018/03/03,"2 year old randomly cries at night for 10-15 seconds, then stops...? My baby brother has always done this, not everynight but wouldn't go more than a week or two without doing this. He's 2 1/2 years old, it's always a random time but it's always a couple hours at least after he falls asleep. He will just randomly start crying, then not even half a minute later he stops and doesn't make a sound. I've walked in to check on him before and he's completely asleep. Does anyone have any ideas?",3.0005999999999986,4.52843846,3.6810000000000014,90.93550000000002,74.4,6.2,19.5,6.6274283507984215,0.05469999999999997,386,7,81,3,8,122,73,100,0.092,0.908,0.0,-0.8053,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,7,2,2,1,0,17,10,7,0,1,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,2,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,1,1,2,0,9,7,2,22,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,4,15,43,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317597266128838,0.0,0.0,0.11762145528592664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094045462657672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471796297268183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18134946953995407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138138283939266,0.3799856777102725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136196725690146,0.17700222998446175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424109471754065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829943058145163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033470498944847,0.0,0.0,0.1952553095517702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545481710962968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231500275195787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629932572927318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242481370579808,0.0,0.0,0.2892113077058803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085670285323894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896070123400106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874129260575244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673112957376382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276629806563344
parenting,mh22222,2018/03/03,"Should I bring my own food while babysitting a whole day? I’m babysitting a little girl from 11:30am-8:30pm. I’m not sure if I bring my own food or eat something there. The dad is really relaxed and didn’t set any rules or specific things when babysitting, just the basics. He did say he would give me money to order pizza for dinner since he is working all day and won’t be home (obviously) What do you guys think? ",4.35821138211382,5.6970880731707325,4.2741463414634175,88.7608943089431,70.70731707317074,6.930081300813008,24.642276422764226,7.1686216300943375,0.8697008130081301,330,9,67,3,6,101,62,82,0.025,0.925,0.05,0.4387,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,9,5,0,0,3,13,15,7,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,2,2,5,0,1,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,3,9,4,9,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,4,38,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489642814676002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29379513106093136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330731228115836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5508586202521474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185048166829464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22553541574718425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22847928239050816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282927724442234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459200211908824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113771363650474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18841980121798094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535415410588398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21467748352912264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132516904498505,0.14595054684602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543053086101362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582464430742244,0.0,0.0,0.16180651437944138,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RaulDukes,2018/03/03,"Mattress recommendation for 2 year old Good evening all. I realize this isn't a ""parenting"" question but we are looking to upgrade our little one's matters and bed and were wondering your opinions. She is currently in a crib which is convertible and using a ""safety 1st heavenly dreams crib mattress"" but my wife says she isn't too comfortable in it. 

My wife wanted just a mattress on the floor but we might just convert the crib to a bed and put a mattress there

So looking for suggestions on what people use if possible. 

Thank you for any advice and help!",6.121142857142857,7.258076352380954,6.442857142857148,75.58714285714288,66.42857142857143,9.80952380952381,35.95238095238096,9.957137785484203,3.7642380952380963,447,22,78,10,7,144,72,105,0.043,0.764,0.194,0.9582,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,2,0,0,6,4,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,2,1,23,14,10,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,4,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,10,4,9,12,1,10,1,0,2,0,14,6,0,5,3,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21238364522245212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779970555290448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435520426120271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822957787053343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567945821551054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178333287010545,0.0,0.0,0.36502432279031904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305650361556701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280633937708756,0.0,0.14727625772208994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413320683402195,0.0,0.0,0.1506772634829417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24501993912550254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848828580984925,0.24347227463360646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283872236637968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009889657776864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754266298293569,0.0,0.0,0.12819367609553772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23569763756236886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13996083104555251
parenting,notsowittyalias,2018/03/03,"What time is dinner? My wife and I have 4 kids (3, 5, 8, 10.) I work until 3:30 M-F. She works until 5, 6 or later when she wants or needs.  I make dinner every night, but by the time I pick up the kids from school or daycare, stop at a grocery store, and cook a decent meal we dont usually eat until 6:30-7:30 which she says is too late. So with two working parents, what time do most families eat dinner each night? Followup, how often do families eat shitty meals (mac n cheese, chicken nuggets, hot dogs, etc) per week?",3.6002403204272366,3.9695715607476636,4.7078771695594135,88.53495327102806,71.71028037383178,7.235781041388518,24.631508678237648,6.868970318607317,0.7766592790387188,395,10,87,3,7,130,81,107,0.081,0.919,0.0,-0.8496,1,0,0,0,0,0,28,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,4,0,6,9,0,3,0,17,9,12,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,5,9,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,9,0,8,9,3,17,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,5,15,45,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19353098392328244,0.0,0.0,0.5069072611758949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416346097062453,0.0,0.0,0.1391290418577594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113395003313736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627369178826295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022547395734128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244171011535356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30992640336060023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335718461777945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313179045950764,0.0,0.16712024957606902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805596970212625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28886567452314044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16130789377110494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186722817105014,0.0,0.09739787876654946,0.0,0.13245722541314134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606495475211647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayxyz123000,2018/03/03,"at a total loss with my 5 year old girl with severe autism. HELP my daughter is 5 years old and was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2. She is in a special needs school, does well in school and has recently become more verbal. We are truly amazed by how well shes doing and we are so thankful. But we have a problem with her urine and BM.... in other words, she wont stay dressed to keep a pull up on and won't use the potty.... so she pees and poops literally everywhere. 

we have tried so many things, literally everything we can think of too either keep a pull up on her or to potty train her.... we've been going on 8 months of trying to potty train her, we are sucessful 10% of the time and usually its just pure luck that she pees on the potty.... praise doesnt seem to do anything, neither does rewards.

her bedroom reeks of urine, we rent and we have to steam clean her carpet twice a week. She pees on her bed, luckily we have 10+ mattress pads and sheets and blankets..... but it does mean that we are washing all 30+ items weekly. She has no concept of 'gross' so just leaving it doesnt work... she'll just lay in it and get a horribly itchy rash. 

To keep a pull up on her is basically like trying to put a diaper on a cat.... it just doesnt happen, it comes off in seconds. We have a camera in her room and watch as shes about to take it off and go in there and tell her 'no, that has to stay on"" she giggles and stops.... only to take it off while we arent looking. We have tried keeping pants over it, zippered footless pj onesies (sadly, this was the only thing that worked 2 years ago as well..... but then she figured out of to undo zippers, putting it on backwards makes it tug weirdly and she just can't handle that on a sensory level so... that out of the question as well)  

though she can go on the potty, we cannot keep the bathroom door open for her, as she tries to flush clothes and stuffed animals down the toilet.... costed us a $300 'fine' with out landlord 3 times now. Its a sensory fullfillment that I cannot duplicate elsewhere for her.... so I have no choice but to just barre her from the bathroom unless she asks.... which she doesnt, because she does not possess the ability too (she uses the pecs system, but won't for the bathroom) She will come into the livingroom, and suddenly just pee. She poops on the floor as well, there are so many times I wake up in the morning and the entire apartment has pee and poop all over it because she decides to wake up in the middle of the night and wonder about... my SO now has to sleep in the living room to catch her and fight with her to get her to stay in bed. We now all only get about 4 hours of sleep a day. 

On top of it all, I have an infant son who will start crawling soon. I don't want urine and feces on the floor. I don't know what to do... but I feel like I have a puppy rather then a daughter at this point. I am tried of this kid destorying everything in my house, my landlord as already said that he'll need to bill us extra over the security deposit when we do move out to repair this place. I just don't know, shes been cleared medically, has had every test in the book.... she just doesn't care, there is no benefit to her going on the potty and there is no benefit to being dressed either. ",3.3041808353499498,4.031725335302809,4.337556177126878,89.61999842861185,72.60413589364845,7.238807002105659,25.039410415160752,7.295548434001253,0.9079557434237396,2520,72,563,25,47,821,285,677,0.063,0.865,0.07200000000000001,0.484,2,0,0,0,1,0,114,18,0,0,6,39,26,1,0,42,0,59,19,16,4,7,109,96,52,0,6,21,3,1,2,0,7,3,1,12,3,32,54,0,7,10,1,4,13,22,7,5,2,6,5,73,19,104,82,11,106,1,2,2,0,73,60,0,5,31,395,105,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533315607587759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813329607350395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065119028561241,0.0,0.0689022435720753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985718303331107,0.0813990403355635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751449981226142,0.0,0.0,0.12697700991216382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0475322602642594,0.0,0.0,0.0748068716900651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579915475879474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209785511564645,0.0,0.13247879217425107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03726639061365177,0.052653352144687415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552013835929535,0.0,0.16754818057880644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517521330985143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0494014868234482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725824904111779,0.08504322789494388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275525305989291,0.0,0.0,0.0810103506194973,0.0,0.0,0.07804070798443026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720150085098187,0.0,0.06508099327280413,0.0,0.06189185659205072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04919724466193252,0.14944630423828892,0.0,0.08028404297755527,0.0,0.07424789758783497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058828935589349415,0.07833449733417215,0.0,0.10929950315662522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916516003925385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546775486440301,0.0,0.0,0.1681630840849437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700382266288874,0.0,0.06967304440487529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052370229651722,0.0,0.14818350239256792,0.08256409321205492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277270234388641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010831659799993,0.0,0.0,0.14918249858538254,0.0,0.06709633379680165,0.0,0.08326327562412708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751221452613553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216727775729422,0.23567239055832434,0.0,0.06161890781349175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083078653348344,0.0,0.06441956564005856,0.06785570954039066,0.0,0.0,0.0979298369391633,0.04722582946384663,0.07241270531598823,0.0,0.12893022596073486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002365049083413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731097950615513,0.12731124850320094,0.08117330957253502,0.0,0.0434718681553198,0.0,0.11824000917270805,0.0,0.3313387020614343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799276293238954,0.10731314876438793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238671468287128
parenting,Dempski,2018/03/03,"8 month old son. How can I do more. As the title says, how can I do more for my 8 month old son? As of now I feel more like a babysitter than a parent. 

My girlfriend works so I stay home and take care of our son. We do our ABC’s and count to 10, I take him for a walk once a day, He watches an episode of word party on netflix. I play fortnite while he naps. Around 6 when his mom comes home I go to the gym for an hour or two and by the time I get home he’s bathed and ready for bed. 

He’s a bright child. He copies the faces I make, my hand gestures (clapping and pointing) he’s pretty much mastered crawling and he’s been attempting to walk on his own, he walks along the couch pretty fine. He self feeds himself num nums and puffs. Most importantly he’s healthy. 

But is this it? Is there more I can do for him? Is it normal to feel like I’m not doing enough? What can I add to our daily routine to better our relationship? 

I think that’s all. 


edit: thank you all so much for your kind words it means more than you know, i’ve struggled adjusting to this new lifestyle, but i’ve made changes and adapted as best i could. i have received more kind words and positive reinforcement from you guys than i have from my “friends”. thanks a bunch 

[here’s my boy from the other day :)](https://imgur.com/gallery/9MtTp) ",1.050060622034792,3.164527826568268,1.9440524512388,98.36327952029522,82.54243542435424,4.904638903531893,19.641671059567734,5.985473137389443,-0.3244550342646284,1015,27,237,7,28,316,150,271,0.006,0.7909999999999999,0.203,0.9932,1,0,0,0,0,0,41,5,4,0,5,9,14,0,1,14,0,16,3,2,4,2,36,32,21,0,2,4,5,3,2,2,0,0,1,6,4,8,14,1,0,6,5,0,6,1,1,0,1,2,6,34,13,30,29,15,23,0,0,2,0,38,4,0,2,14,140,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033353423096187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300681585239388,0.1096155112694222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636584312194454,0.0,0.1311128673816784,0.1067639717581238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895659454568764,0.0,0.0,0.15986304594709294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806391432231218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533632278017556,0.17708657670343966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575630711982157,0.0,0.0647539204029557,0.0,0.07043837790720853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272081705401468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729679986886251,0.0,0.12205666146578475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25813041327423825,0.06811458855141289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110236868897628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117275723534081,0.08273140536696327,0.0,0.0,0.13500779870329271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451578949830544,0.19785663002039588,0.0,0.18222140720903554,0.0,0.0,0.11970273757069677,0.0,0.0,0.1214356086233623,0.0,0.0,0.26010991196706523,0.1319928415185384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762152271106942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117164059073217,0.0,0.0,0.25218457711654235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330659696266462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856264987529137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292972207302527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210433640516905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295697703036874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637602147942767,0.0,0.0,0.2282159601020413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941622072562426,0.0,0.0,0.07227084132664334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107209222464416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023033375791364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Drunk_camel_jockey,2018/03/04,"Need advise about daughters mother pushing for beauty pageant when I have temp custody. Tldr: Ok so this is going to be a long post to explain a bit of back history. But I need some advise and perspective regarding beauty pageants at 4 years old. I'm against it and the mother is for it. Co-parenting is uh well not existent on is issue since I am a man and there have no understanding and ""say"" when it comes to issues relating to little girl desires and needs. (I've had emergency temporary full custody and she only has visitation rights- promise there are good reasons why I have them.)

So I have a 4 year old and have emergency temp custody. Unmarried single father and have full temp custody and she has only visitation rights. Without getting in to a lot of details there is good reason why I have temp custody and her mother has some undiagnosed/ untreated mental illnesses that causes extreme concern. 

She is trying to push the whole beauty pageant thing. At 4 years of age a beauty pageant is nothing more then dress up and pretend princess and probably every little girl would be excited about do it.  

I'm very conflicted on how I feel about this. I think overall as a whole is disturbing for young girls to participate in considering its only judged based on appearances, poise, and personality. My ex is pushing the professional done hair and make up, ears pierced, paying ""professional pageant coach"" style circuit pageants. Think toddlers and Tiaras and my ex first the mold of ""those mothers"" There are like monthly pageants all over the state and country that she wants our daughter in. 

She is trying to convince me by saying she will win scholarships, learn leadership skills and a bunch of other things. I cant help but question the validity of that and can't help but think she is trying to live through our daughter for her on selfishness. She is very much a facebook/Instagram type mom but can't keep any other part of her life together. 

I still feel the same way for the local but pure natural no make up just a fancy dress type pageant. I guess those are not as bad but still.

I guess what I'm saying what would you do? I have some pretty strong reservations pretaining to the kind of message a glits and glamor pageant and the impacts on our daughters perception of her self. 

 The money aspect aside what are the pros and cons of this?

I understand the older kid/teen beauty pageant have some merits and scholarships. 



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parenting,el_nynaeve,2018/03/04,"How do you get your kid to just sit at the table and eat? [2.5 year old] I'm really hesitant to call my kid a picky eater, because he actually will eat a ton of different foods. Our biggest issue, which seems to be getting worse, or maybe I'm just getting more fed up with it, is that he won't just sit at the table and eat. He'll eat nearly anything, but we have to do something to make it fun. Whether letting him use the big kitchen tongs to try and pick up the pieces of food, or pretend that we're about to take a bite and let him ""sneak in"" and steal the bite off the fork. On really bad evenings, this results in us spoon feeding him while reading him the bedtime stories before going to sleep. And when we do it this way, he really will eat nearly anything. He'll happily open his mouth for the fork and eat it, then eventually say no at which point we figure he's actually full and don't try to push any more. But if he's just at the table, it's like he finds eating boring.

I've been trying to establish more consistent mealtimes, because we've gotten into a habit of just leaving his food on his little kiddy table and letting him graze, or snack all day, though it hasn't really seemed to make a difference yet. I also want to establish that eating is only ever done at the table, because I think the consistency will help, though my husband isn't 100% on board with this. We have a little kids table in the living room, that he thinks it should be ok for him to sit at and eat his snacks, though suppertime should only be at the big table, but I think we should just say food is only ever eaten at the table.

The other issue is that if he doesn't eat what I offer at mealtime, he'll often then ask for fruit, or even just climb up onto the counter to help himself from the fruit bowl. I'm a bit torn on that, because on the one hand, yeah it is healthy. But I also don't want to establish the pattern that if he doesn't eat what he's given, he can just have something else. I've heard advice that just always make sure there's something you know that they'll eat on the plate and just let them pick. So I've thought of just throwing some grapes or half a banana on his plate with his meals, so he can still pick what he wants from his plate, without it being an, ""I don't want this, give me something else,"" type pattern. Feels like splitting hairs but not sure what else to do.

Any other suggestions? Would it make a difference to let him have his snacks at his little table, as long as all his meals are at the big table? If he isn't interested in much of his breakfast or lunch, how long should we leave his food out for before taking it away so it doesn't become a graze all day situation? Maybe just like a half hour, or as soon as he gets up from the table, take the food away?",7.954124783362218,5.193428731369154,7.869778856152514,79.74814142114387,64.11265164644715,10.68780589254766,32.61206239168111,8.364918446050245,2.238256762564991,2186,55,474,21,25,707,234,577,0.046,0.867,0.087,0.9767,1,0,4,0,0,0,62,8,3,2,1,34,11,0,0,35,2,46,35,4,11,7,93,84,46,0,13,31,1,3,3,0,13,0,3,2,3,33,23,31,0,10,2,0,4,13,3,0,3,8,8,42,8,72,54,12,69,0,0,0,0,65,45,0,15,19,306,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.09760693747005028,0.0,0.0,0.048870117230437986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998747024762612,0.04161311302830819,0.0,0.0,0.06801831590590933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230949403181224,0.0,0.04675348314985621,0.0,0.09397385929220213,0.0,0.041757050613178234,0.12194483299943196,0.05523316024916209,0.08511126244219573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459899986832161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510667670113545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450584521286283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675238157860094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051178560773061814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.61408419107849,0.12533318334058113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606351580198756,0.09047552694257796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025287036753582008,0.03572782952568146,0.0,0.0,0.04570909824910011,0.0,0.3628406035577229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451461979077996,0.047975056061401934,0.028422372884295437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704256529359229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04925070747317314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043968678990674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02748470779975889,0.0,0.0,0.10590874074909352,0.0,0.25569790108025925,0.0,0.07329846560174533,0.1503723174988383,0.04416058120332563,0.08851622619767688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353077810390585,0.0,0.10048543355614907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03676379934542917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247807465532656,0.0,0.03388871102857341,0.11410673311339985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04727650855338334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05002447926706526,0.0,0.12815316940626342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954142245893765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105617317974392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621439822518809,0.05004706290174235,0.0,0.0,0.1540034769308786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03993880575388764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426944873599362,0.0,0.1128060214452562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613498375127437,0.14740650038275327,0.03970310452554715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186244776282448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060157009865388876,0.043193399830697865,0.0,0.0,0.11799100580325547,0.039696360795353096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048208766908762635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096542611585202,0.03552634086651505,0.0,0.0,0.03220540928987972
parenting,iranjha,2018/03/04,"Lesser of two evils: a child raised as overconfident and then parents in hopes of regulating arrogance as they get older, or child not raised with enough self-confidence and then parents in hopes of boosting it as they get older? Purely a hypothetical/philosophical question as I hypothesize that it’s easier and more effective to regulate overconfidence and correct it as a child grows than it is to successfully restore a balanced sense of self-confidence in a child who has experienced low self-esteem in the past.

Essentially if something was to go awry during parenting, which of those scenarios do you think is the ‘better, but still bad, screw up’? 

Thoughts? Would love a parent’s perspective.",12.85760330578512,10.67505277685951,11.694280991735535,54.32323966942151,54.28925619834711,15.630413223140495,45.68760330578513,13.968273953766033,6.485537520661158,570,26,87,18,5,183,81,121,0.098,0.748,0.155,0.7341,4,0,1,0,0,0,14,0,1,2,3,1,9,2,0,8,0,6,2,0,1,2,19,14,14,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,8,5,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,2,1,4,5,20,11,2,14,0,1,0,2,14,6,1,6,6,60,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567401241633505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311857671691113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552256980749204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727609388592426,0.0,0.08554132991460289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29899136622486416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584596064233154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6685178408330636,0.0,0.1436839123872276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861161517013298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4710609419526069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587405352966874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020173591052485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964441450740212,0.0,0.11949235824466882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703160538538798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692177099683196,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deloris_by_the_Sea,2018/03/04,"Nothing like a “good poop”... Two year old has been constipated forever, we’ve tried almond milk, Lactaid, whole milk, more water, some juice, probiotics in her milk, more greens, P fruits yet nothing worked as well as her trying activia for the first time. She had half a little cup yesterday afternoon and the rest this morning, this afternoon she had an effortless healthy poop for the first time. Funny once you become a parent you find yourself celebrating things like a “good poop”....

Anyone else give their toddlers activia for this reason? ",6.980349544072952,9.080733478723406,5.8407598784194565,77.10500000000002,65.27659574468085,8.77568389057751,31.51367781155016,9.23628265651192,2.9623848024316106,433,17,69,8,7,129,68,94,0.108,0.799,0.093,0.1164,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,2,1,3,2,5,0,0,8,0,4,8,3,1,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,7,5,6,2,5,12,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,1,12,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055009589359476,0.1913037083907139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20620356070188964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15597000402382158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064710353197546,0.3176262937241297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910666961852734,0.0,0.3132024753091034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18243152643426924,0.18712977952241364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358301408764608,0.0,0.19591791966805105,0.19883719713581025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073163781203088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19196621600334865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404004391553199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177410738144971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25352402235362204,0.0,0.18238591723881808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787229894050648,0.0,0.0,0.20845204962947694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592514908115222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023338949785435
parenting,arjees,2018/03/04,"Switching two year old to new room and bed My wife and I have a two year old son, and another little guy due in May. We'd like to keep the current nursery as a nursery, and move the older son to a new room with a toddler bed. He likes playing in his new room, but is initially reluctant to sleep there. 

Any advice on how to make this change? Should we move the crib into the new room to get him used to it? Start doing naps in the new room? Pack and play in the new room? Just rip off the band-aid and make the change?",2.438040540540541,3.2024600450450467,3.428457207207209,95.19511824324327,74.67567567567569,6.631081081081081,21.98310810810811,6.6274283507984215,0.1619270270270272,399,9,97,3,8,128,67,111,0.023,0.895,0.08199999999999999,0.6818,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,12,0,6,1,1,4,0,18,12,9,0,1,2,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,8,1,2,9,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,4,16,9,0,30,0,0,0,0,9,14,0,1,16,53,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310894936363173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567263476344487,0.13210396683243847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665462284233189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658208214178814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247427944640722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197931509294684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309768015830745,0.1262678781347825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818901541166567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677995906058662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7300499303062479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26439554482671257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260737989130842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917128533313222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24613380970347615,0.0,0.0,0.10880870302657193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225760551412954
parenting,Aidens-mommy,2018/03/04,Co-sleeping??? Yay or nah (first time mommy) My 10 month old has been co-sleeping with us for about 3-4 months now. Before he would sleep in his crib and wake up occasionally. Around 6-7 months he'd fall asleep around his normal time ( 8:45pm-  9 pm ) but wake up every night at 11pm. We tired putting him back to sleep and in his crib like normal but he would just wake up. We let him sleep with us which wasn't and still isn't bad. He sleeps through the night now with no problem. My issue is his empty crib that's just there now. I want him to sleep in his crib but part of me gets sad and feels like I'll end up taking him out anyways. How do other parents feel about co-sleeping? When you guys stop? Did y'all stop? I am a first time mommy so I'm looking for advice wether you're for or against it. ,0.6766047471620239,2.576528514619888,1.7200756793945648,100.646346749226,82.56725146198829,4.257447540419677,17.076367389060884,4.514644488427479,-1.0573752321981424,620,12,151,1,17,194,108,171,0.136,0.785,0.078,-0.8856,1,0,0,0,0,0,26,4,2,0,2,16,6,0,0,2,1,12,10,9,1,0,30,19,12,0,6,7,1,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,12,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,2,3,3,21,3,24,12,1,33,0,1,1,0,21,11,0,2,22,87,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062694274663506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512105728979126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131329334207723,0.07743615218569283,0.0,0.0,0.07891707597172026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821423684525502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781395950938584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378683588144092,0.06625529350825443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577735247739877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04845415256169039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918297016617252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679912292213677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483553694936664,0.0,0.0906186468946194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778803809681253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22207864659062235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406519403944629,0.18173600826150269,0.0,0.0,0.09731770122048664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297962217141557,0.10043113979721444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874209152163083,0.0,0.09323187455493577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7424761897495121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406431716460432,0.1550738426538296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697308527607918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622367734468346,0.10659391383238853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311572788631492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470195660227232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176328775826204,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HCMXero,2018/03/04,"How do I talk to my child about a denigrating comment my ex said about me? Should I even go there? My ex and I separated four years ago and we have a five-years-old kid; post separation our relationship has had its ups and down, but we've been mostly respectful and cordial with one another.  That changed a few months ago after a disagreement that we couldn't resolve among ourselves and I had to take her to the court.

Communication between us have become increasingly difficult, even though I only reach out to her to talk about matters related to my kid.  Anyway, last week I was talking with my kid over the phone and a few minutes into the conversation I overhead her saying something along the lines of ""you don't have to keep talking if you don't want to"".

I told my kid to hand over the phone to his mom as I wanted to ask her not to interfere with our conversation and he responded ""mommy doesn't want to talk to you because you're an idiot"". I was taken aback and I gently scolded him not to use that language and she did as well, but I'm pretty sure that he did not made this up.

Should I leave it as that?  I don't want to say something negative about his mom, but I just want to make sure that he understand that this is not proper behavior.

**EDIT**: Thanks a lot for your answers; I will not bring the matter with him, but I sent her an email gently telling her to knock it off.",3.9967204301075214,5.112929129032263,4.949424731182798,84.42413709677423,71.32974910394265,8.160645161290322,26.85322580645161,8.548686976883017,1.7071174193548386,1093,36,228,18,20,357,150,279,0.078,0.7959999999999999,0.126,0.957,0,0,2,0,0,0,30,5,4,0,1,12,8,1,0,14,0,21,1,1,4,2,52,41,19,0,9,11,4,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,5,12,18,0,2,3,0,0,4,11,2,1,2,12,4,43,6,43,25,5,21,0,0,0,0,52,9,0,3,7,167,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129568124867392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595543450139068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229521919354923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322353773781923,0.1326621979597078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707016610012248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867517215567098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826649862241467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676744707893872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791316448302707,0.0,0.12718886867543272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212103205274868,0.0,0.11365967327681327,0.08018048595545874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813642656833296,0.09587798414747913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260448740767983,0.0,0.08139586565011261,0.09135604981100727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504097124209267,0.1222043905454475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896304688013094,0.0,0.0,0.11426084800022167,0.1910471876793328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18494722781499226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264218127905624,0.0,0.09031467497972016,0.4827362376517363,0.10498945852665104,0.11058960320212503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801648530284375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477902489280067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250483034911669,0.14448858467314266,0.10374440522765087,0.0,0.0,0.35424702521828744,0.0,0.0963523613973997,0.0,0.10800156931428116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735281420280944
parenting,Surgerychic,2018/03/04,Registry for an open house? My oldest is graduating high school this year and we are preparing for her open house. She mentioned that while talking to her grandmother (not my mom) the grandmother brought up registering for gifts for her open house. Specifically household items as my daughter would like to move out within the next year. Has anyone else heard of this? I think it’s absolutely ridiculous. ,5.639714285714284,8.791769828571429,4.661428571428573,79.45357142857145,72.14285714285714,8.0,30.0,8.841846274778883,2.8034285714285723,328,14,54,7,7,97,54,70,0.044,0.921,0.035,-0.1663,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,7,3,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,9,1,11,4,1,14,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,6,35,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438973545758274,0.21158384953698814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250441270202582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181787902573847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7148204881851257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088556297360614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24185052883713065,0.0,0.21947702367444466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219615296646148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898921859522546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597703206038145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231698477702994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669181145690693,0.0,0.0,0.2659587062565377
parenting,scoobydo0305,2018/03/04,"Bras for young girls When did your young daughter start wearing a bra? 

My almost 6 yo is enamored with the idea but she’s too young and doesn’t have anything going on.  But, we’re not THAT far off probably. When does this stuff start? ",1.0260283687943286,3.5661907872340457,1.5245744680851097,98.0841666666667,87.93617021276596,4.835460992907802,18.471631205673766,6.42735559955562,-0.14505390070921995,185,5,40,2,6,56,41,47,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,7,7,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,4,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,7,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34305978311695895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28192680495252603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998075238660304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19470484834572607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867484807399157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693757619778531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4849815435419011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3921897424122097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,repro_gram,2018/03/04,"I'd love some parents to answer these 'Sex Ed' questions for me, from kids of any age perspective. *What age do you think 'respectful relationships' should be taught at? 


*What age do you think sex specificities should be included? 



*Would you pay a private 'consultant' to teach your kids in an afterschool program? 



*What topics would you consider to be ""too taboo""? 



*in what aspects do you feel the current system fails kids now?



Im considering all the gaps and flaws in the schools systems currently and would love some opinions from parents.",3.8472807017543857,7.075917789473685,3.5206578947368463,83.92168859649125,81.6315789473684,7.377192982456141,28.969298245614038,8.344100000000001,2.703298245614035,430,20,73,10,12,129,63,95,0.041,0.84,0.119,0.8796,4,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,6,0,1,2,4,0,0,5,0,11,4,0,0,1,17,17,2,0,5,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,3,11,8,3,12,0,1,0,4,16,4,0,4,6,46,12,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532497146906672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139466955700438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24342300340959974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067849298583872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5004620338111417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524501417855141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419478598933077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22807216463377986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887978752086838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4802590181146036,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,killingit12,2018/03/04,"Punishing three year olds bad behaviour Took my little lad for a swimming lesson today, his first, and within five minutes he didn't want to listen to the me or teacher and began creating. After 15 minutes of him having a face on, he began full on crying and tantruming. So I took him out the pool - not so much as a punishment, didn't wanna disturb the class - and we got changed where he also carried on tantruming for a good 20 minutes. 

He's only ever had 4 full on tantrums (screaming, crying, hitting himself etc) which were all at home, so he went on his timeout chair until he calmed down which we thought was punishment enough. 

This time though, he has fell asleep on the way back. But we want to make it clear to him he can't do that. Would taking a toy away or telling him he can't watch his favourite cartoon after dinner because of how he acted be too harsh? I don't know whether he's too young to realise mummy and daddy have said no paw patrol because of how he acted at swimming.",8.23490129723632,6.2176620558375655,7.861387478849412,77.68681331077273,62.959390862944154,9.770783981951496,36.609701071630006,7.3871296695380915,2.69538059785674,783,29,150,5,9,249,127,197,0.145,0.795,0.06,-0.9494,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,0,2,12,11,6,1,9,0,14,3,2,3,3,27,29,18,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,5,9,1,0,3,4,0,8,7,9,0,3,13,4,15,2,27,13,6,38,0,0,1,0,26,16,0,2,13,102,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669939473722673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606022749137586,0.1314410955248486,0.14272644270813434,0.2084049515598884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808301854085731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755356609939392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662508519196174,0.1906415266499609,0.0,0.1546235895858841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454001348783153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337503869789436,0.13671507201765576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17146517526255928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939432865953922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713252065078725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410272439599115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565940898500086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793711195053338,0.0,0.0,0.13000637311281016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260158432893526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285244201918303,0.0,0.1494077157053602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794613223190558,0.13570601348008546,0.09967556882641024,0.0,0.16202963725134528,0.0,0.3798377541375337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20164782093755884,0.1356829632740233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846163024215407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142975090089535,0.0,0.0,0.1100787396716518
parenting,Moose-and-Squirrel,2018/03/04,"Sick kids and sick days It’s March 3rd and I’m officially out of sick days/vacation days until July 1st. So is my husband. We have just come off  a bout of the flu and now our toddler is puking his guts out. Great.... so that means tomorrow or Monday my husband is probably going to get it (as the toddler threw up all over him), and I’m likely to get it a few days later.

I’m at my wit’s end with illness. Last year we got the stomach flu SEVEN times between January and May.  

As soon as one person in the house gets sick it just goes straight through all of us. And between daycare germs, and germs from the two different schools my husband and I work at, there are constantly new bugs we are passing around.

I just don’t know what to do. Why isn’t sick leave policy to just “be home and be sick”!? How is it reasonable to have a limit on the number of days you are allowed to be puking or having a fever!! (And I know we are the lucky ones since at least we GET sick days— food and retail workers, I feel your pain, and it’s an outrage that you don’t get sick leave most of the time.)

I honestly think I might end up losing/having to quit my job because of all these illnesses!",1.3792895015906694,3.231377593495939,2.971548250265112,92.8081813361612,79.97560975609754,6.066878755744081,22.077765995051255,7.079830092131019,0.5431097914457408,912,28,204,11,23,300,134,246,0.19,0.7759999999999999,0.034,-0.9905,3,0,0,0,0,0,30,7,3,0,4,11,6,1,0,13,0,20,17,2,3,3,44,37,21,0,0,6,3,1,1,0,2,14,0,1,2,10,22,1,1,6,0,1,4,3,2,0,4,2,1,23,4,34,30,6,36,0,0,0,0,17,13,0,6,20,134,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278772499641155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840813833650482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881523867729428,0.0,0.1490542789218127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558160238346101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410841104360755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443316367676681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974199657820343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678656590167282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36031595590121307,0.0,0.07838929692543603,0.0,0.11031592384016237,0.15206928059277727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835591742995096,0.0,0.0,0.15915371494753286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687511392453638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160640734641853,0.11243207544628543,0.0,0.2920977695766909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738606012506061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15024716261557822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632286515619206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321450205139687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869310660340379,0.0,0.14676817967800435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043592294953885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871281598148606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670646763612902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418159155538597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959341291906854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409784811441505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838053760065129,0.0,0.0,0.16085720904216186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473842624945145,0.0,0.16591386397192606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446116415868802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041532236798488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882296357544807
parenting,graptemys,2018/03/04,"So, dads of teen daughters, how did you handle the first boyfriend? I've never been a big fan of the scaring the young man angle. My daughter's a senior and has her first boyfriend. He's a nice, polite young man who treats my daughter well. I treat him well, too, and am eager to engage him in conversation and learn about him, his life, his ambitions, etc. Seems an odd strategy for a grown man to try and scare and intimidate a teenager. Plus, I remember when I was a teen and the fear was pretty inherent already. Other dads, your approach?",4.151928571428569,5.688325371428577,4.7001785714285695,84.74169642857143,71.47619047619048,7.5357142857142865,27.410714285714285,8.07648339933343,1.6932142857142858,424,15,83,6,8,135,72,105,0.135,0.705,0.16,0.4211,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,2,0,2,7,10,0,3,11,0,6,1,0,1,1,12,7,10,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,2,2,4,0,13,7,8,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,1,7,56,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561030269295857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588274913013178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611514383630384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39480959690935535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392303179181544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899228970879796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23610600628886794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262898294363015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4646996461194937,0.0,0.0,0.21127442092287949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575652253135048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173306554684212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throawayaccountssh,2018/03/04,"Do you think it's right to vacation without your children? I'm just curious. If you were only financially able to go on one vacation per year, do you think it's fair to leave your children at home? Or would you feel obligated to find a vacation they could go on with you?


EDIT: I'm referring to long (2 week) and expensive vacations, not romantic getaways or taking a day or two to spend with your spouse.",4.076666666666668,5.4995540000000025,5.6875,78.03416666666669,71.5,10.333333333333336,30.833333333333336,10.504223727775694,3.4677083333333343,320,14,63,10,6,109,54,80,0.044,0.8909999999999999,0.065,0.3983,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,17,13,5,0,3,7,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,1,9,0,12,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,4,4,39,11,1,0.2602222743625789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077663115993391,0.0,0.0,0.167821839312227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157620072221907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23783844444340796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29578063068983906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26102415841303045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755378154197177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302885240934585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763333477134772,0.19791076571751895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222840047529133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565476525903425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3334798521932561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541993502769093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873461212803984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508449864320103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485443756538253,0.0,0.0,0.16757461296710371
parenting,Anonymous455955,2018/03/04,"Fathers in unhappy relationships, how are you coping? Throwaway account. Not sure if this sub is suitable but the submission has been rejected elsewhere...

We are expecting our first child together. I love this woman, but I also feel a very raw hatred towards her sometimes. She is not my regular type and fell pregnant very fast, yes I messed up, I know but I can't change that now so I'm trying to do the best I can. I don't know if it's her hormones from the pregnancy, her own parents have even cautioned me to not get too close because of her immaturity, they know about her bullshit and have offered me support whenever I need it.

But I also want to do the very best I can for this little girl and unfortunately that means putting up with her mother. I feel fucking miserable, I am trying to do what I can but nothing is even acknowledged by her.

Anybody else miserable? How do you get through the daily grind when you can't leave because of children? I'd really like to hear other's experiences on this.",4.035134615384617,5.954293548717949,5.138509615384617,79.9293028846154,72.48717948717949,8.157051282051281,31.161858974358967,8.841846274778883,2.7295705128205134,802,37,148,16,16,264,121,195,0.159,0.7020000000000001,0.14,-0.6356,1,1,0,0,0,0,21,2,3,1,3,11,11,1,2,6,1,20,2,0,2,1,29,35,16,0,5,10,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,10,6,0,0,7,0,1,2,6,5,0,1,1,3,30,6,18,34,3,13,0,3,0,2,25,7,1,2,5,111,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474844967196248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865114454172133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32477157442028753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369007161145044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926199443190384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044032135179209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136140784932753,0.0,0.0,0.15647824703336272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161828284791222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305085198883385,0.1616862491005693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743986122579326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551164222190592,0.0,0.0,0.16384298266562886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559614780335773,0.15508602868904992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965519672464288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685527643409195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473471386641935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847327534081595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181591218101716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555523241708769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991277838121002,0.0,0.0,0.16612845506478904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303776791293575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755924727604623,0.14583676045909352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21011104648572412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830199838460637,0.09126724660206274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ama_teras,2018/03/04,"Parents with babies that didn't sleep, how are your kids doing now? Are they still poor sleepers? Do you think the relative lack of sleep has affected their personality or development in any way?

I guess I'm just hoping that my inability to get my almost 1 year old (who decides that he only needs two 10-minute naps a day) to sleep through the night isn't going to ruin his chances of developing into a happy and functioning adult. Talking to my mom's generation it seems that I almost never hear about the kids with sleep issues from that time. Input from all ages is appreciated!",7.7755757575757585,7.6014377090909075,7.972727272727273,70.55575757575761,62.81818181818181,10.606060606060607,32.878787878787875,10.125756701596842,3.1629696969696965,468,16,84,9,6,153,85,110,0.083,0.785,0.132,0.7785,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,2,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,8,4,4,2,2,19,17,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,7,4,0,0,3,1,1,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,10,2,14,16,2,13,0,1,0,0,15,2,0,6,9,54,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32013592522913753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870434932896382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309084896307928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351569418035046,0.0,0.09084716402112797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760942024927297,0.0,0.0,0.17016465590464064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016400587970266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587683855011846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684320165539385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872158826805928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852769581138305,0.12328715870036655,0.0,0.0,0.15000959406248476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773702446074398,0.0,0.0,0.12157409870114345,0.0,0.0,0.1774959250628971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395759685998973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552259823048005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6398668753969522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765743563712809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848240072617415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242624325766236,0.0,0.0,0.09321056462423973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561514695185472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688250255874836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293898092308372
parenting,fnordfnordfnordfnord,2018/03/05,"My son (8 yrs old) woke up in the middle of the night and stole $50 from us. What am I supposed to do about it? As stated in the title, my 8 year old son woke up in the middle of the night last night and stole $50 from us. We discovered it this morning dropping him off to school. He's written us an apology letter. Any advice appreciated.",1.4931963470319616,2.789845739726033,3.8645890410958894,89.02555936073061,77.90410958904108,6.510502283105023,21.755707762557076,7.1686216300943375,0.5104995433789958,261,7,60,3,6,91,48,73,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,14,2,0,17,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,0,7,36,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185724820849125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265561089213051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169840886708302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5239338805467888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905666198055864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834570601042866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6715753242202299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984393414218975
parenting,Stuck_on_casuals,2018/03/05,"My wife hates me for not wanting another kid. I'm a young father (only 21) of 2 girls. My wife is now on birth control and has the 3 year rod in her arm but she won't stop harassing me about a third kid even though our youngest is only 3 months old. If it were up to me, I like the sound of two kids and I want to be done having kids but she attacks me on it and says I'm not giving her the chance to have another. She says that every other couple she knows can all agree on the number of kids they want but I'm an asshole for not agreeing with her. ",1.7169581056466328,2.4514198032786894,3.4310928961748637,94.60725865209473,76.37704918032787,6.405828779599272,20.932604735883427,6.42735559955562,0.009767577413478444,424,9,105,3,9,142,79,122,0.084,0.765,0.15,0.7614,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,1,4,4,3,0,7,0,10,1,1,1,1,18,19,8,0,4,7,3,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,6,4,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,2,3,17,1,15,15,1,12,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,1,8,69,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41489992211437615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250688173959082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22189167769392693,0.0,0.2189035284675291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20245654052325332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306698611883758,0.0,0.16668670076581849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18978384180574698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532365995444576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087263646022761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665345245635913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791207546044106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075972690039133,0.0,0.0,0.3009288015345261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146567815914708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540108235777234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437442597930013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932585767943247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500692060349984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740092047286414
parenting,Twinster1,2018/03/05,"Thumb print bruise I have to bring my young child in to see the doctor today. CPS has told me to do this immediately. I brought her home from her mothers parenting time and she has a thumb print bruise on her right thigh. This is the most recent of issues she has come home with. 
What sort of questions would you ask the doctor. And if CPS wants me to provide them a doctors note with findings, how would I best ask for this to be written? Any suggestions or experience is helpful. Thanks.",2.9852514619883053,5.2869535368421054,3.1835087719298265,91.03900584795325,76.78947368421053,5.906432748538013,23.18713450292397,6.937597516519254,0.6236783625730995,386,12,79,4,9,118,66,95,0.0,0.898,0.102,0.872,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,5,0,10,4,1,1,0,15,20,5,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,13,2,13,14,2,10,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,5,4,52,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187777204436222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265751042128794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329941764369567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045783741906582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5363289680103647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17085521084802505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964001522977994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707380537443984,0.0,0.3504050888149141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230416065664293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939440463711561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19566400125101613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724599346822963,0.0,0.0,0.14916236657781606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918484138040868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080742995989286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184816390212473,0.0,0.16556134312628384,0.1668992334892397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030215355636533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481530292320073,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jennyferjo,2018/03/05,"Choking hazards Hopefully this is an appropriate place to post this and it’s more well received than it was on r/TIL.

I read an article about a 4 year old boy that choked on a large bouncy ball, larger than the opening of a toilet paper roll) and died in his mother’s arms. His mother was right beside him putting together his birthday party favor bags which included the balls when it happened. She tried everything and performed CPR but was unable to save him. 

Before becoming a parent I was a nanny for 3 girls under the age of 5 for 5 years, starting when the oldest was 3 months. I’ve taken CPR and first aid courses. I was always taught that a choking hazard for a child is anything that can fit through a toilet paper roll. This obviously isn’t always the case. I wanted to share the story in hopes of raising awareness that things we as parents thought were safe are not always. Thanks for reading. 



 [the story. ](http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/the-50-cent-sized-ball-that-caused-alby-davis-to-choke-to-death/news-story/74902f9411805ec030ff5d52a0b44de4) 

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parenting,Velvetbolt,2018/03/05,"I (41F) got yelled at by a bicyclist for biking in the bike lane while my daughter (5yo) scootered along side me on the sidewalk. So every morning I ride my adult tricycle (with a basket in back...it’s very wide takes up whole sidewalk) to bring my daughter to kindergarten. She goes in the afternoon so we leave at 11:15 when it’s not very traffic-y.  I always have her scooter on the sidewalk while I bike alongside in the bike lane. Today an elderly man on a bike was riding toward her on the sidewalk. He stopped next to her and then yelled at me saying how it was unsafe of me to ride next to her and that I should ride with her on the sidewalk. I explained that my tricycle is wide in the back and I feel bad for taking up the sidewalk if pedestrians are walking which is why I stay in the bike lane. He went on and on about how I can just stop for a pedestrian and move to the side if I was on the sidewalk with her. He added that I need to teach my daughter to stay on the right and on and on. Finally,  I just said, “Ok, I understand.” Because it was getting late and I had to get her to school. So honestly, what do you all think is the right protocol for biking with small kids? I always remind her to stay on the right when someone is coming but typically everyone just walks to one side and she goes on her way. I also use a tricycle because I am an amputee and it’s safer for me to bike on 3 wheels vs two. Anywho, am I doing the right thing and just ran into a crotchety old man or have I been putting my daughter in danger by riding next to her? I neglected to ask him why he wasn’t biking in the bike lane but I was taken so off guard by his yelling that I couldn’t think fast enough and wanted to get away from him. ",3.6391712834718364,4.1390987008310285,4.625834487534629,88.68848395660206,71.68698060941827,7.6787165281625125,26.95302400738689,7.6454224807358475,1.2804929824561402,1345,43,299,15,24,439,162,361,0.047,0.931,0.022,-0.8249,0,0,0,0,1,0,32,1,1,0,0,15,5,1,0,25,1,22,0,0,3,1,48,43,29,0,6,11,4,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,4,11,20,0,4,5,10,0,13,3,3,0,2,13,6,49,2,63,28,3,75,0,1,0,0,33,41,0,3,17,210,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964340502120006,0.18654627450230266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479494883834753,0.0,0.10531820426195003,0.17239033699035808,0.09359576416204958,0.13666578053998535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656107383116062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158254875905108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444600367777664,0.10711285954769677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056679279153839676,0.0,0.0,0.12279606456258625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569713788053584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965368571631091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644955751002426,0.11869384183378433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191406725649672,0.0,0.08311801798858573,0.0,0.0,0.3576471975506855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762625537466168,0.0,0.07595938311278133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268778596209487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829186578518767,0.10662929202508092,0.08914351119462416,0.0,0.11344748368373875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949788676823033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584393603284634,0.0,0.1874351242288648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16856499879196005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447182936105827,0.14365362072239032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625422611037336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950183890388457,0.11669624638331685,0.0,0.09681524927038923,0.0,0.18498244535575667,0.06611732743475472,0.08897685944133568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103914433033321,0.2022990282261824,0.12515156380096545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inthiseconomy0514,2018/03/05,"MIL wants 3 y.o. to spend the night but she lets him stay up until almost 1 a.m. Advice needed. My MIL occasionally wants my 3 year old son to spend the night. When he does, she doesn't try to help him go to sleep in the evenin2. The last time she lied to me and said that he was out not long after we left (around 9:30-10 p.m.) but she told my husband it was close to 1 a.m. Normally he is asleep around 9:30. She wants to get him again this week, but I'm not ok with it. I don't feel like I'm over reacting since sleep is so vital to little ones, but was hoping to get some advice on how to address it and advice. 
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parenting,FrenchFryNinja,2018/03/05,"Kids and friendship My little guy is 3 years old. He no longer wants to go to day care.

He made a really good friend, and his good friend no longer wants to be friends any more. My little guy is really sad about this. His former best buddy and another classmate were playing ""run away from <my son>"" the other day. My son came home really sad.

I never had many friends growing up, but the ones I did have sort of stuck by me. I'm not sure how to help him through this. Sportscasting, sure. I'm encouraging him to make new friends. He's not really interested.

The days that he gets to hang out with his friend at school he comes home quite different than the days he doesn't (as you might imagine). 

Any advice on how to offer help with this one?",2.3520997123681653,4.465042067114098,2.8949424736337512,93.26337248322149,77.99328859060402,6.404793863854266,20.038830297219558,7.447530270364453,0.374888398849472,584,14,127,8,14,181,98,149,0.104,0.6559999999999999,0.24,0.9723,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,1,0,2,3,17,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,4,3,23,21,7,0,2,3,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,3,5,8,0,0,1,1,0,6,6,2,0,2,6,0,12,15,21,13,2,22,0,2,0,0,26,7,0,2,9,67,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105463681580076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456785859822794,0.11916889985933884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067751972505462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192656264224912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998201348725674,0.11587079889019235,0.0,0.0,0.0978969189353308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931719266737899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873703736060745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5268208337299431,0.0,0.05937592234573889,0.0,0.06458826941677062,0.19064360135612088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505700529823688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152350519332134,0.0,0.2279946273499617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22780851303248245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753563969977163,0.07586032583130575,0.11522032800521187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056162010907537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765165437542476,0.1097610832879492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925352039077845,0.0,0.1540204406585628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208776864764862,0.0,0.0,0.2912209851696896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501693874100476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21422210515347456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406401539027102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318501028608547
parenting,throwaway1121121121,2018/03/05,"4.5yo son had an insane nightmare last night! Mom here.  He woke up crying and told me that he was dreaming that I was cutting his skin!  Got him calm and back to sleep very quickly and easily.  Then in the car on the way to preschool this morning, he brought it up again, saying that he dreamed that I was ""skinning his face and hands, taking the skin off!."" I explained that ""Mommy would never ever do that or anything like that to you."" I succeeded in keeping a straight face somehow, but OMG! I'm freaking out over this.  No clue where this is coming from.  I can't concentrate at work, worried to death that he's gonna have another bad dream like this tonight.  I'm at a huge loss on how to deal with this.  Anyone ever experience anything like this?

EDIT:  Feeling MUCH better after the comments left by several of you.  Thank you so much for helping me understand this and taking the time to write your comments.  I really appreciate it!",3.401333333333333,5.545941300000003,3.940833333333334,86.84625000000004,74.8888888888889,6.5,27.36111111111111,7.413659706084162,1.5197777777777777,734,29,140,9,16,231,121,180,0.133,0.687,0.18,0.7773,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,4,0,4,10,11,1,0,8,0,9,7,7,1,3,21,24,10,1,1,2,2,5,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,17,8,0,1,3,3,0,3,3,4,0,0,8,6,15,7,23,14,2,31,0,1,0,0,22,15,0,2,15,94,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264681454331826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512506345052287,0.0,0.2709810286535471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266034380303572,0.13747343076029514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561695840963426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182887672656316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808570812461287,0.0,0.16974390524962318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297865412092021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105643317178792,0.0,0.0,0.08325050848250044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168330710337814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035946412092312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634588581326805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342093417149377,0.0,0.0,0.17888952932158325,0.0,0.0,0.2413147333867807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928326649375752,0.0,0.0,0.2420690901097416,0.0,0.12698597482422835,0.0,0.0,0.15451012689251606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547713261819984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093396291659062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860043304297861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476598168567705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475882204446153,0.0,0.0,0.15158490612205885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960070338022205,0.0,0.0,0.15732733647083308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140341222480324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585108055454026,0.0,0.13068918487057649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986503192800176,0.16720709736686554,0.0,0.11696055850597285,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,---annon---,2018/03/05,"I don't understand ""The Giving Tree"" Last night I read with my daughter ""The Giving Tree"" and I'm not sure I understand it. I grew up in Haiti and English is my third language so I struggle picking up subtleties and nuances in english books. I'm too embarrassed to ask another parent. 

Is the boy just a selfish jerk? Is the tree metaphor for what happens if you don't tell your kids ""No""? I'm I missing the point completely? What do you think?",1.1959090909090904,3.7529240454545487,2.5481818181818205,91.04227272727276,86.95454545454545,5.4727272727272736,27.318181818181817,6.980632752743323,1.503622727272727,348,17,69,5,11,112,57,88,0.229,0.7709999999999999,0.0,-0.953,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,3,0,0,3,6,1,2,6,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,17,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,5,0,1,0,0,11,1,7,17,0,8,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,1,2,43,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23625755499111065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106347695824578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362336231102065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.432276450796585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924120502183246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365801312008515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21143850755400376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25018048829986034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212991114563314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253713296638763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355433057628124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21235234548757254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19693118339465787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436977944052407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691120562691286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlarmedFerret,2018/03/05,"SAHD doesn't want to do his job right now, its not feasible for my husband to work and that's fine I rather my son be at home. My son is a year old and I feel like my husband does nothing all day. He refuses to take him out of the house. I've offered up ideas and he told me it was wrong for me to decide what they do all day. He doesn't read to him or play with him. I come home and they're in our room watching tv. My son gets fed and of course plays by himself throughout the day but nothing else. 

Some mornings, my husband won't wake up because he stayed up all night. If I can't wake him, he gets upset and calls me cussing me out because our son was crying in his crib. Now the mornings, when he doesn't wake up I set my son up for a few hours of independence. I make him a breakfast he can eat in bed(this morning it was bananas and a cup of milk), I put him in bed with my husband and turn on cartoons. I don't know how long my son will sit there quietly watching tv alone. 

As soon as I'm home, I'm back on the clock and my husband often takes a nap or we go out and run errands. If I ask for a nap he'll tell me sure then proceed to fall asleep. He doesn't understand why I can't just sleep with our son running around because he's fine.",2.284027459954231,2.699261376811595,3.542654462242562,95.53644164759727,74.72463768115942,6.535163996948893,25.7581998474447,6.05967700443912,0.4820971014492752,964,31,243,5,19,315,143,276,0.051,0.904,0.044,-0.5734,1,1,0,0,0,0,23,4,0,1,1,11,8,0,1,10,0,17,9,5,3,4,43,35,20,0,4,8,12,1,1,0,3,0,1,5,0,5,19,4,1,5,7,0,6,9,2,0,0,5,4,39,6,36,26,5,43,0,0,2,0,42,18,0,6,17,139,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403901015678789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206692536372461,0.12672201839425865,0.0,0.0,0.10423046004241496,0.0,0.24789215149341776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841287007015407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676530510146158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488965629487276,0.2622578154466363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862171659477365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387026572046094,0.11323558442187034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853872953920373,0.09683776192307647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163975258426173,0.0,0.07703683697549799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40790653853363296,0.0,0.13349056878481774,0.15640781679825946,0.0,0.15302073838643784,0.0,0.0,0.13451359115310207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449536190059418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662234403405006,0.0,0.0,0.11995849387797825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048143891678616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720556295917693,0.0,0.2601299504643415,0.0,0.14223811989477458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362663357708649,0.0,0.0,0.1355878226553854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575993342642373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356490340042765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444794802175572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277553458257788,0.0,0.20383517635466766,0.0,0.1184776715354753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295249237518394,0.0,0.0,0.14744071647383647,0.0,0.14111351782364018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995157472990974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223138207527712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868284475701716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820389306243228,0.0,0.08729049032230911
parenting,zerobeat,2018/03/05,"Five year old and bullying at the playground My five-and-a-half year old what is likely her first serious introduction to the standard cruelty that kids dish out on the playground -- she was happily pretending to run an ice cream shop when two kids a few years older than her stepped in and essentially forced her out, began to act as ice cream vendors themselves and then refused to play with her while loudly mocking that they were still playing the game she so badly wanted to.  For a while my daughter fought back and eventually came over to me with red eyes to get a drink of water.  I told her she shouldn't put up with that and that if people were playing mean that she shouldn't keep playing with them.  For whatever reason she ran right back to the same spot on the playground, struggled to force herself back into the play group, and eventually resigned herself to sitting opposite a wall of the other girls while trying her hardest to not cry.  I stepped in, told the two girls they shouldn't be playing mean and that they should know better before saying it was time to go home.

There was quite a bit of crying in the car and I explained that it isn't good to keep trying to play with people who are being mean and that she shouldn't put up with the teasing and to go play with kids who are friendly.  Recovery was quick, she cheered up, and all was well.

I'm curious, though, what others do when situations like this arise and what kind of things I could do to better help my daughter help herself so that she can handle these situations better.  At her age I wasn't good dealing with those situations initially either, but of course as an adult I've lost all comprehension of what it is like to be a kid on the playground.

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parenting,IntervertebralSonata,2018/03/05,"2 YO has a meltdown when cutting or washing hair. HELP! I'm out of tricks. My 2 year old has always had lots of thick hair. In the past year, he has developed an aversion to washing his hair and hates to get it cut. I have tried showing him videos of other toddlers washing and cutting his hair. I've tried distracting with snacks, his favorite toys and even TV. I'm out of ideas Reddit. 

He has a hair appointment this Saturday and I don't want to cancel but I'd like to avoid a public nuclear meltdown. I try my best to cut his hair at home, but being thick and straight, it looks awful. 

He will get over it at some point, right? Any other ideas? 

Edit to add: he had bad cradle cap as a baby. I thought we had gotten rid of it all, but a recent closer look at his scalp and I see it is back! ",0.517315930388218,2.6330388975903682,2.294618473895582,95.03709504685408,84.72289156626506,4.893708165997324,20.065595716198125,6.139981653823899,-0.022863721552878413,611,18,136,5,18,201,100,166,0.155,0.748,0.097,-0.7243,0,1,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,0,1,3,11,6,2,7,1,12,11,7,0,1,23,23,12,0,1,4,0,8,1,0,1,3,0,1,0,8,11,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,9,0,0,5,11,14,2,20,16,4,21,0,0,3,0,13,13,0,3,9,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610073819060333,0.0,0.0,0.12757648431843086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425513955139102,0.15664068249220606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19687779150213602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391002299132857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960296660568569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852191391005996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257463473761525,0.0,0.18818112164188536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4235619407457245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165335760779196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31507856946058604,0.0,0.0,0.1594933757770251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19685780746432927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908830685635255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773454891307262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523534607651224,0.0,0.0,0.16021195094114624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949531500866958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893583954366715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821104006052567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065311968615747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416203834815636
parenting,me_just_wondering,2018/03/05,"6 & 9 yr old boys and (screenless!) toys? Hi! First time posting, so I hope this is the right place (if there’s better place to post this I’m all ears!) for my question. I also posted this on r/Mommit. 

Basically the title...I have 2 boys, ages 6.5 and very nearly 10. Like any kids they love screens and when it’s playtime they’d go for their Xbox or a tablet every time if it were up to them, especially the older one. They do get time for that but it’s pretty limited (thanks parental controls) and when their time runs out, or if they’re already out of time when we say “find something to do, go play,” more and more often I’m hearing that there’s nothing else for them to do. 

Let me say - I am totally a believer in not solving this for them, not rescuing them from boredom, I know that coming up with something to do on their own is important, i am aware of the pitfalls of instant gratification and the benefits of struggling and problem solving, I use the “either find something to do or I can easily give you a chore” approach regularly, etc. 

Having said that, I feel like having toys/activities available to choose from that are age/level-appropriate is pretty normal and I do think they’ve outgrown many of the things we have in the house, so it made me want to ask...

For those who have or know kids this age, what kinds of toys/activities do you see them reach for when screens or playing outside aren’t an option? 

Thanks! 😊",4.221,5.25030958245614,4.955570175438599,84.91440789473684,70.71929824561403,7.664912280701755,27.934210526315788,7.908726449838941,1.5940210526315788,1121,39,230,14,20,362,159,285,0.06,0.784,0.156,0.9785,2,0,3,0,0,0,47,2,2,11,4,10,13,0,1,12,0,23,2,1,3,2,46,45,24,0,7,12,1,1,2,0,0,0,5,1,4,18,14,0,2,8,4,0,5,3,2,0,2,3,9,27,11,33,40,7,34,0,0,3,1,30,12,0,12,16,150,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246663362651322,0.09034288858385282,0.0,0.122404059346146,0.0,0.0768241715424328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056126592337093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727966025697365,0.0,0.09991369190105368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731453566051687,0.0,0.0,0.1267066116498306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437279600037324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599255640231988,0.0,0.0,0.0951829617073743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712154508630556,0.08070652346396268,0.0,0.0,0.20650694202993067,0.0960930969053631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05902269831706796,0.10837210205902112,0.1284080748559905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273265566549533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220571907703973,0.0,0.13035339608946298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764193900798947,0.12417184275618767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552052798721665,0.0,0.11038387371964464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019607615433309,0.10689591621624776,0.0,0.1145348887423773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106876193460418,0.1083987461807856,0.0,0.1185440878928655,0.0,0.07655209085189574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125440955024249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360613547824913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245850441619876,0.2298642942812097,0.0,0.10809801470035496,0.0,0.0,0.12655340362354953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964766388414444,0.10746131571997747,0.17967818821529086,0.0,0.0,0.09002328122124663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26091184497059194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810184489304308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080170849953351,0.0,0.0,0.0750529297834086,0.07238727181615162,0.0,0.0,0.3293715684084243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757069441956392,0.0,0.09321292763696074,0.0666332380445336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,edmindspark,2018/03/05,"The absence of baby boomer grandparents. My parents worked a lot and my Grandma was always there to help them with us kids. My partner's mum had her mother practically living with her and assisting with her kids. They never had to pay for daycare or babysitters. That was just how it was.

So where the hell are they for us now we have kids? They've been there and done that already they say. This is their time to have easy visits and holidays. Of my four children only the oldest two have ever had sleepovers with them. They are too hard under the age of seven or eight. My youngest is two so by the time I have a night to myself it will have been around 15 years hard time haha. 

I know we aren't alone in this as I have heard the same thing from many of my parent friends. So much that we have all stepped in to take that role for each other that our parents are neglecting. I also know there are boomer grandparents who are going above and beyond and I respect and admire them for that.

What about you guys? Are your parents there to help or are they too tired and busy? Sorry for the grumble, I'm very very tired ;)

Edit: I am overwhelmed with the responses! I will endeavour to read through them all and respond to as many as I can, as a busy parent I won't be able to reply to all. You have raised so many good points and it is great to hear about all the different types of relationships. So many great grandparents, so many not so great....some too much. Human relationships are so complicated and I would like to make it clear that I don't feel that my folks are obligated to give more than they can :).

One very clear point is that the times have changed a lot. Our parents are working longer and struggle just like us. I hope we will get to retire some day to be there for our kids when they embark on the parenting journey. This is not just a boomer issue, it is a personal relationship and societal pressure struggle. Love to all you wonderful families.",3.295091066101428,5.234815836787567,3.64539331135186,89.76050321871566,74.5699481865285,6.751326738891506,23.61406814256555,7.576466943178032,0.9350338514680484,1547,46,318,20,33,480,183,386,0.058,0.7909999999999999,0.151,0.9897,11,1,0,0,0,0,39,10,4,12,2,29,17,1,4,17,1,46,3,0,2,9,54,60,31,0,2,8,9,3,2,2,5,2,3,0,10,21,24,0,1,4,2,1,4,6,6,0,6,10,6,49,11,48,43,13,26,1,2,0,1,63,9,1,8,15,244,70,6,0.07199981559197947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745700949450283,0.07945358689458225,0.057578226516089084,0.05990961435749757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409510072420907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616625806146153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04643392466069678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522448291403469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368080915263696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512795527018034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678750183206269,0.0,0.03640527011570604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055626878923098526,0.0,0.03761693196401002,0.06906878381011064,0.04091915443732337,0.060390029310439026,0.0,0.2381401526155059,0.0,0.0712911372309417,0.0,0.0,0.1289953851307538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114902495936885,0.0,0.09651991740065594,0.0,0.0,0.07151206266137886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751491013386703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913843138300795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035094609415711,0.0,0.06357715626548874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242333695706005,0.06498264463224324,0.0,0.048060435995377015,0.3649825609617683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585629773013057,0.0,0.05553069643237124,0.0,0.0,0.06756694953180319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048788938414998685,0.05475910419364918,0.0,0.0,0.5596309222782779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286746181256614,0.0,0.0,0.13612619626296107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201929976461452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23190257030099884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057257143219735324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059789884349733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053968018540972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413490083755984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04783347820182059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793468591545013,0.16550639284447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406667157019547,0.0,0.2598207391610385,0.0,0.0,0.17822216488220655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808072870299647,0.10483344652925217,0.0,0.0,0.05114660322091393,0.0,0.0,0.0463655206345543
parenting,calnel,2018/03/05,"Child playing favorites- going too far? I have a 20 month old son and have been his primary caregiver since the day he was born. I'm also a stay at home dad. My wife had a very unexpected c section, he was in NICU for a week, and wife had emergency gallbladder surgery 2 weeks post birth, so I handled all of his care around the clock and continued doing so through her recovery and return to work. I know it's normal for a child to prefer their primary caregiver but I've also read and witnessed children going back and forth on their favorites. At no point in my son's life has he ever wanted his mother over me. Whenever I'm holding him and she approaches he immediately starts whining and pushing her away. He has the most heartbreaking meltdowns whenever I leave the house. Does it get to a point where this is no longer considered normal and if so, where is that line? I've grown accustomed to having him glued to me but I feel bad/worry my wife is going to sustain some kind of emotional damage from the rejection. 

Thoughts? ",3.214807894736844,5.5839912650000025,4.26826315789474,83.20978947368424,76.35,7.810526315789473,27.02631578947368,8.6894789155246,2.2486500000000005,823,33,154,18,19,267,127,200,0.124,0.8240000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.9479,0,0,0,0,0,1,17,0,0,2,1,12,7,0,0,11,0,14,1,0,0,2,25,26,17,0,5,3,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,10,0,1,4,2,0,6,2,4,0,0,6,1,20,3,20,20,4,35,0,4,0,0,25,14,0,3,13,97,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601701001895463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14480846134099726,0.0,0.0,0.15283136415966442,0.12508117924537834,0.13582047298180372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585024159782238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104907007059271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235132599191766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829789152132234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714196383808684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224951814714278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498699551960938,0.0,0.2773428730039595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316865159802235,0.0,0.0,0.18769632370767875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939305095272075,0.08939774141883043,0.0,0.0,0.17224127482927926,0.0,0.0,0.11489678562583545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298395558479642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187590021352174,0.0,0.0,0.1706920583756804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075465176950191,0.0,0.15579039070550238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627114064559193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456014294792176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513681330366853,0.17338179026569955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291397346393036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421762964641065,0.09594543903646384,0.0,0.2609639307705415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842379462273668,0.16519662690226025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crummyvelvet,2018/03/05,"Struggling to make peace with toddler in the grocery store **EDIT** I just wanted to thank everyone for the helpful suggestions. I think I just need to try to relax more and try to work with his mood instead of against it, by implementing some of the strategies here. We used to have much more fun when we went out to do our shopping together, when I did more of those things with him, and I just miss being able to relax and be silly while we did it. Thank you!

I manage a hotel that has up until recently, been understaffed, which means I've been working 6 days a week for a while and often strange or extended hours. I finally have a great new hire and am starting to get back to a more normal schedule.  My SO has been doing the SAHD thing lately and is doing a great job. Now that I'm finally getting a little more time to be home, I'm back to running errands with my son so we can give Dad a break. 

The problem is that my son (2+) acts up really quickly whenever it's just him and me at the store. Dad is a little more lax than I am and our son likely gets to run around more when they shop, as opposed to when I take kiddo. So, that's probably part of it, but I also think that because I haven't been the one going out with him as much recently, he might be testing my boundaries?

He just will not listen to me when we go out. It starts off okay but five minutes in, he's shouting ""no!"" or trying to hit me and making a scene. I stay pretty calm, usually get on his level and attempt to correct the behavior with short, simple statements.  It works for, like, 30 seconds, and we're back at it. If I get him a snack or something when we first get there it's easier, but that doesn't feel like a sustainable approach. I'll try to just let him walk with me instead of being in the shopping cart, for example, and it helps but then he breaks away and starts grabbing things and throws a tantrum  when I tell him no or try to distract him with something else. 

 It's at the point where I dread taking him out because I just struggle with him the whole time, but I miss him and want to be with him as much as I can when I'm off while also giving my SO time to himself.  I feel like I'm losing my grip on parenting because nothing I do is working and I'm struggling to find the way to get through to him. I feel like I'm out of practice because I swear it wasn't this hard before my schedule got crazy. 
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parenting,amoryblaine000,2018/03/05,"Parent who used to yell at your toddler...How did you stop? We have 2 boys (4 and 18 months). 4yo is standard stuff. Lego focused, silly, some attitude and boundary testing which we are pretty good at dealing with positively. Talking about making good decisions and how we communicate as a family. 18 month is a whirling dervish.  Hits, screams, throws, runs everywhere, physically endangers others and himself at a moment's notice. Climbs and jumps off furniture, tackles the cat, throws biblical tantrums. Only has a few words but is physically adept.  Limited attention span but not concerned about aspergers or autism. 

Tricky part is that we are at the end of our rope. He is the hardest kid I've ever been around. It's a constant challenge to keep him from destroying the world. And lately, I've found myself raising my voice to get him to stop. Saying not only No or Stop but things like Why can't you sit still or just do something else. He's a kid. I get it and don't expect him to change at my speed.  

But I hate yelling at him. Makes me feel like a bad dad and definitely not the example I wanna set. 

So how did you stop?

Edit: fixed words",2.599831804281348,5.270438577981653,3.541490825688072,85.85027905198778,80.65137614678899,6.752599388379205,25.59709480122325,7.9370924344782425,1.7445131498470952,902,36,170,17,24,288,144,218,0.139,0.755,0.106,-0.8952,1,0,1,0,1,0,35,5,4,0,3,9,11,3,0,12,0,15,0,0,5,1,47,25,19,0,2,11,2,1,2,0,0,0,5,0,3,8,14,0,6,4,0,0,5,6,5,0,0,4,6,21,6,20,20,3,30,1,0,0,0,25,10,0,4,15,104,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308563765839604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273436783826082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550081730532628,0.0,0.0,0.1588489635638531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154499884080302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122795143180031,0.0,0.13019360311944772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296504950742802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857344567136984,0.0,0.07432489663133163,0.10501298599101198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117201380093413,0.0,0.0,0.15359724407630074,0.0,0.0,0.24658422650324124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512675498710306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306555723654015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581633414040153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362829281985687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962401007359673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346594067528452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167354349290554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235920648786188,0.0,0.0,0.16322013001269522,0.1591808490784559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954637419096012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689602185855515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316364008261864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739009351564453,0.4915763376446341,0.0,0.0,0.16827367189286596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814870760237535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765669397776476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269561557906795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263978111577004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greyhound27,2018/03/05,"4 1/5 yr old daughter enters kindergarten school tomorrow single dad, how to interact more? Hi, my 4 year old daughter enters kindergarten tomorrow, I am single as never married her mom, we're meeting tomorrow at 8am outside the school, any tips for the first time? I'm kinda excited and nervous. Who should I approach? To get some context her mom is really crazy, sued me 6 times, won all trials, and she keeps inventing excuses to generate alienation syndrome, a judge had to force the daycare to let me in because she asked the director to deny me access. She said she's going to collaborate now. But expecting the worse I know she'll bad-mouth me to the teachers and school workers.

I have a big file with everything proving I'm clean as hell, but still I want to be part of this process and moment of my daughter, I want to show them I'm a supportive dad, but still, would be too exaggerating if I give my phone number to the teacher and the school director?.

Also, my baby is very rebel and order-giver. What should I do if she rants or gets scared and don't want to enter the kindergarten?.

Everytime she's scared she just Jumps over my shoulders and sits there. I am afraid a scene will happen tomorrow. I just can't sleep.

Thanks in advance",3.943132780082984,5.897564838174278,4.777549792531122,82.27229979253113,72.81742738589213,7.807551867219917,28.647510373443986,8.548686976883017,2.2546562655601665,990,40,183,18,20,320,147,241,0.129,0.8109999999999999,0.061,-0.9525,0,1,0,0,1,0,32,0,0,1,4,9,10,2,4,13,0,17,2,2,1,3,32,35,18,0,9,8,7,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,3,9,0,1,2,1,0,7,3,6,0,1,3,1,30,4,22,24,6,28,1,0,0,0,27,5,1,5,15,115,33,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684559590923164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090857448963076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490465700474784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155639607965684,0.08144568336478128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007749848971792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364618026450983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960845115118606,0.1281681602828641,0.07593202681808929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814836849489073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875618082798554,0.0,0.0,0.07342699985798085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662237112428682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31295817712414103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030460767997679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803964741657232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446835320934174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559216656358312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709100290316858,0.0,0.26752814604896696,0.5408703070002877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370364740100424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21339769778773915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161581947916342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300752031522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558148164345778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102398977487999,0.23641489013123124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361571082885381,0.09491069160222483,0.0,0.0,0.08603862921093007
parenting,justchriscarter,2018/03/05,How did your kids react the first time they saw someone in a wheelchair? I'm 25 and in a wheelchair and when I was a kid kids used to be terrified of my chair because they didn't understand what have you told your kids about disabled people ,5.288299319727892,5.547143000000003,5.228979591836733,86.66482993197279,67.9795918367347,8.165986394557821,30.619047619047624,7.793537801064563,1.8291986394557809,193,7,40,2,3,60,38,49,0.087,0.913,0.0,-0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,3,0,6,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,1,7,0,5,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,0,3,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629003648940472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668410777098835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29899079052934835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654166957118473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514790864549552,0.0,0.0,0.4121003772659143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44897099529554135,0.0,0.37248189356437394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bebebey,2018/03/05,"Daughter starting to put her hands in her mouth and chewing her fingers and nails... ignore? Correct? Wondering your thoughts parenting fam.

Our daughter (two today! Happyyyy birthdaaaaayyy!) has never been a thumb or finger sucker. She chews on a Wubbanub that we cut the nipple part off, only during naps and at night.

She recently started really chewing on her fingers, sometimes chewing her nails (I think? Hard to tell.) Whole hand in her mouth, very slobbery sloppy.

Now I’m a BAD finger chewer. When it’s really out of control, my cuticles are bloody and my nails are down to the quick. I’m in an upswing right now thanks to gel nails, so she DOESN’T see me doing this behavior.

**So: am I projecting, and this is normal toddler behavior? Or should I be gently correcting her in hopes of nipping a terrible finger chewing habit in the bud?**",2.5496256684492,5.539461398692811,3.3954753416518137,83.10554812834226,88.6078431372549,5.657635175282234,27.215983363042184,7.1686216300943375,2.0413947712418303,666,31,106,11,22,211,103,153,0.128,0.8009999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.851,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,2,1,0,1,6,7,2,0,8,0,10,14,9,1,3,20,20,10,0,3,2,3,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,7,5,2,3,1,0,1,2,5,0,1,2,9,19,2,17,16,2,23,0,0,1,0,18,12,0,4,10,75,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784777611586954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22546703121464398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007923431298664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996635379653317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550431480052107,0.0,0.0,0.18864867955110276,0.19696216796593666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528888424165252,0.0,0.0,0.22321486900944146,0.21769087166574105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20208600718736355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575639822637897,0.0,0.198488287987018,0.0,0.0,0.17167455634646006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601911825505171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19881921810707248,0.0,0.2845735644681184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570502241815872,0.1850771399579336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288089316066641,0.0,0.15959167857046566,0.0,0.0,0.1905485329940853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963725634932917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658669724608572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22443763186809806,0.0,0.0,0.21800342431139305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anon-mom-hi,2018/03/05,"Help! Being a SAHM is draining me day by day I have 2 kids. Ages 3.5 and 2.5.

I love them beyond words, but I’m beginning to feel incredibly drained and almost slightly depressed by the day-in and day-out of being a stay at home mom.

My husband works long hours and he helps me 1 day per week (his day off), but that’s leaves me to attend to their every need 6 days a week.

I need adult interaction! Not just mom friends.

Im almost craving a job. Who does that!?

Does / has anyone else felt this way? If so, what did you do to fix it?",0.2009882005899684,2.1830203008849587,2.0754203539823024,96.95495943952804,84.92920353982299,4.828613569321534,18.26622418879056,5.985473137389443,-0.44602005899705066,406,10,97,3,12,134,84,113,0.108,0.8220000000000001,0.07,-0.7335,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,1,2,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,0,16,14,8,0,3,5,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,11,2,10,10,0,17,0,1,0,1,16,3,0,3,11,49,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27224173865092344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505003170129923,0.13928311138073704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6136750306431344,0.0,0.11708199475712328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23791807018687955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355758665239996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145324487564666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873362961325699,0.0,0.1305204541146659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502428028386558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822308756900754,0.0,0.13635549382027154,0.0,0.13387016907674748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683485529790688,0.0,0.13489610056133255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439372321555922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029961370172347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226880892037542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184146069676593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159053353904424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448903291139826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790014609028938,0.21808028258491555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896346410727704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loch-jess,2018/03/05,"My 5 year old sobs uncontrollably when she hears Minuet in G major. It's legit SOBBING, complete with the short breaths and red face. The way someone would cry if a family member died or something.

I don't know why. It actually worries me when she does this because it looks like she's depressed and she won't respond to me. She has this little keyboard that plays the song and she plays it all the time.

Just now at bedtime, I had her put the keyboard away. Then a few minutes later I could hear her crying in her room. When I went to see why, she said she was trying to sing that song to her stuffed animal and it made her really sad.

What can I do about this? It seems like it's more than just feeling emotional from the song, but maybe that's my worried-mom-senses thinking. 

Update: Thanks everyone for your responses! I feel better.

I don't know why I was worried. I played in orchestra as 1st chair violin for years, my fiance plays guitar, my dad played in bands all my life. As I type this I remember that he used to play Dee by Randy Rhodes for me when I was around this age and I would cry because it was beautiful. So as a family of musical people, I feel like I should have known everything you guys are saying!! I can't even tell you how many songs make me cry, from all different genres. 

I've always wanted to put her in music lessons and will be looking into that soon. We have a piano at our house and my violin that I grew up with! 

I will for sure remember everything you guys said, along with my own personal experiences, and pass that stuff onto her. I don't want her to feel embarrassed or ashamed about these feelings. Thank you so much.

edit: Also I asked her where she heard that song and she told me they play it at nap time at her pre-k. She also said it makes her cry because it's so pretty. 

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parenting,TaylorMarie22,2018/03/06,"Advice appreciated! My daughter is 5. She has the worst problem grinding her teeth at night, so her 2 front teeth and shaped weird and super shaved down. I thought about getting her a mouth guard, but I don't want the chance of choking since she only does this at night. I know they're baby teeth but it still isn't good and I definitely don't want her to do this to her permanent teeth. ",2.6795054945054915,4.686417756410258,3.278791208791212,91.40192307692308,76.56410256410257,5.995604395604397,22.68131868131868,6.868970318607317,0.4619318681318676,307,9,66,3,7,96,53,78,0.253,0.6920000000000001,0.056,-0.9219,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,6,5,5,0,0,11,11,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,12,2,7,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,3,39,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28993080724110154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596432748917899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501297010171947,0.0,0.0,0.2488570257908701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305799885019995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568637834504183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256529423847837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839008516822713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24543246043868586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23694418693266586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23554584677566875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35000148862361097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andthenisawtheblood,2018/03/06,"Do you think single children ""miss out""? I was wondering if you feel that children who are the only child miss out or if there are pros and cons to being an only child? We have a 1 year old and I would say he is very good as far as temperament goes, but my wife took him when she went to visit her parents leaving me a lone and I loved it and I don't know that I'd want to go through another child eventually. Thinking about it, I don't know that I've ever known anyone that was an only child, so I'm wondering if any of you were growing up or what your experiences are of having only one child? Thanks for your input.",5.293020719738276,4.297341595419852,6.391014176663033,82.57435114503818,68.16030534351145,9.317775354416577,28.63794983642312,8.418075326091056,1.7315094874591064,483,13,108,6,7,163,87,131,0.04,0.8420000000000001,0.117,0.9019,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,5,0,0,5,6,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,0,1,24,30,14,0,5,6,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,7,8,7,0,0,8,0,0,5,2,3,0,1,5,2,16,3,13,23,1,13,0,3,0,1,23,4,0,7,4,72,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198991907623854,0.18488002339889156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328246241225126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948560795332845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246838415238255,0.0,0.0,0.08914937699213968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002029957074466,0.14788335514203568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379452017543494,0.0,0.0,0.1866904838991518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912977065830902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501130467992247,0.0,0.1194745554690592,0.5363772891118198,0.0,0.0,0.19577521883930696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402115306428382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232573456334087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594907665120956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958907282662833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547705973101688,0.10399423982078614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344433280931048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38240882690011135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252480148592962,0.0,0.0,0.11354007992110593
parenting,MissStudied,2018/03/06,"Potty regression after disney Hi. I have a 3 year old girl who had a blast with her family from another state in disney. Me (mom) dad, and her distant nana and papa and aunt and uncle spent 3 nights at disney in separate cabins. She had been potty trained for several months. No accidents ever to my surprise other than a drip here or a shart there. She  doesn't even wet while asleep which I expect her to from time to time because she is still young and accidents do happen. I'm not angry or upset about these accidents but confused and concerned. I think either shes just had too much stimulation in the past few days or she is having stomach issues from the disney diet. It has been 3 pees and 2 poops in the past 2 days. How can I help her and has anyone else experienced something like this? She hasn't been distressed about not seeing her extended distant family but I wouldn't doubt she may be a bit confused. Do all kids just regress from time to time? Any words of advice or encouragement would be great. Thank you.",4.382816666666667,5.881744315000002,5.068000000000001,82.4756666666667,70.85,7.9333333333333345,24.833333333333336,8.447377352677275,1.5857333333333337,813,23,154,13,15,262,127,200,0.06,0.7929999999999999,0.147,0.9636,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,0,1,0,0,11,10,0,5,8,0,23,5,4,2,2,33,29,16,0,3,11,3,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,6,9,1,0,1,0,1,0,6,5,0,0,7,3,20,5,20,17,5,23,0,0,1,0,22,5,0,8,18,107,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640069375144194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413391576303088,0.17599018711222247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173545049849756,0.17196733442678264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231098132852226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323292979899733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21648006439713605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020504917620888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085378470681362,0.15181684570027545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164408015125898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18503926439722332,0.0,0.0,0.14841640494237865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249661797480023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517668833787234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199596228484106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965669443336148,0.1339647188456267,0.0,0.12337842599409728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575022754661043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611515581780898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204360088473424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374318771458935,0.0,0.0,0.18960637647796444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292079907385336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403367110399864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452040666013134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754223075763272,0.0,0.0,0.39146498909084376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192255451145411,0.0,0.0,0.10808057865148414
parenting,indescription,2018/03/06,"Looking for possible gift and conversation ideas for interacting with a 3 yr old long distance. I've been forcefully separated from my son for months now and just a week ago I've been able to communicate with him over the phone. I'm looking for ideas to engage with him, share with him, and connect with him.

I  miss him so much and I am so glad to be able to talk to him, but the experience is so limiting that it can be frustrating and it makes me miss him even more. 

The best thing I have discovered so far is to read him books over video chat. He loves this, it is tricky at times but it works. Video is awful when he is at a park since it is so blurry and jittery, but I am open to any possible ideas to make it work.

His birthday is coming up in a week so I would also like to send him something that we can do together over the phone, or that will bring him joy in general.

Any tips, suggestions, ideas, books, anything you can think of will be so appreciated. 

**Edit: I am seeing this is being downvoted, is this not the right place to ask this question? If you want specifics about the situation I'd gladly answer you.**",3.484752526561288,4.751642118942733,4.5885721689556895,85.94784400103654,72.74449339207051,8.336771184244624,25.247214304223892,8.841846274778883,1.5980082404768077,879,27,191,17,17,288,126,227,0.061,0.785,0.154,0.9775,0,0,1,0,0,0,27,1,3,0,4,13,11,1,0,10,1,26,1,0,2,0,34,40,20,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,14,14,0,1,7,6,0,3,1,3,0,0,2,3,23,8,30,31,3,24,0,2,3,1,30,12,0,3,10,130,37,6,0.2563045034717286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359923889943448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248330941303738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742958514167012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545838389910964,0.0,0.119805056090673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448788183116253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039181749459057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464335363886705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535749268681784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5786731738563905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260871697787343,0.0,0.0,0.11341071007005807,0.2152312309775544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156624105895782,0.0,0.17108524630446545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022899046917684,0.0,0.09420665041293153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447423066769432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389182724758922,0.0,0.0,0.2889448172050742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435598509647755,0.0,0.12818693155519245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944132277042083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212075270551907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600886692473588,0.1440485003199767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986578643388162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300392562426912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513866166907998,0.08211478835121316,0.0,0.0,0.07472660856029142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558751838416461,0.0,0.20559201263569693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18659273109932195,0.0,0.0,0.09103568276543036,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Timeflyer2011,2018/03/06,"5-year-old grandson being bullied My grandson is being verbally bullied in his kindergarten class. He told his teacher but nothing has changed. I didn't think bullying started this early. Has anyone come up against something like this, and how did you handle the problem. My grandson is very bright and sensitive. This has him really depressed.",5.5319950738916255,9.115181706896553,4.5276354679803,77.3594827586207,76.75862068965517,6.0729064039408875,37.59605911330049,7.447530270364453,3.5603714285714285,281,17,37,4,7,83,45,58,0.185,0.655,0.16,-0.1977,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,1,0,7,13,4,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,7,2,3,8,0,5,0,1,1,0,9,2,0,0,3,27,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903081749833456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33137565445584743,0.2698360711665567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269800699347246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303752210544147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30057063510884585,0.0,0.32870188117243404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29973675966973784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067517786579456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411542006197499,0.0,0.0,0.22171908573402785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007171579945268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993226156774431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584630343737536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172193219815773
parenting,pfinch28,2018/03/06,"Help me out parents. I need some advice. My one year old can go to sleep in his crib with no fussing, but will wake up and will scream at the top of his lungs. We tried to let him cry but it goes on for hours and he doesn’t get sleep. Usually, we just bring him to bed and I breastfeed him. But- I am going on a trip without him soon, so he won’t be able to breastfeed at night. Any tips? Should we just let him cry? Thank you!
- I also wanted to add that i put him to sleep at nap time at the breast, but not at bed time. Is it appropriate to let him cry it out for naps?",-1.4769192913385822,0.4261196299212635,0.6064124015748042,104.85245324803152,92.85826771653544,3.80492125984252,13.449311023622048,5.148860815047168,-1.5150153543307088,431,7,116,2,16,141,81,127,0.135,0.812,0.053,-0.9206,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,3,0,12,6,6,0,0,22,19,9,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,4,10,0,0,0,2,0,5,5,1,0,1,0,1,20,1,23,11,1,25,0,0,0,1,17,12,0,1,8,78,24,0,0.14723118885037856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438726137548452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177407285304843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012225719085133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4851796425243674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692221943110028,0.0,0.1673497551354973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868596238614492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499306355310745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4516615974532424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917006097293573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816649702182127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449436574670686,0.0,0.09976766393813306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634828115818579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800801032185865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44201255236249937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355506975593647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170338044102534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996031272034793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621543538530071,0.0,0.0868407698125207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192561209453858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948120584555029
parenting,thrownfinance,2018/03/06,"Time for our pregnancy announcement - need ideas!!! Reddit- I may be the dad but pregnancy is truly affecting me in a crazy way! I’m the fun guy. I’m creative and loud. Nothing I do is normal or has been seen before. Usually. For some reason I’m having a hard time coming up with a way to announce our first pregnancy to the world. My wife wants to hold a sign and take a picture but I can’t let my pregnancy brain take away who I truly am on the inside so I beg of thee, what ideas have you to creatively announce? I’ve tried to google everything under the sun but can’t seem to find anything that truly pops out and is unique. ",1.140863787375416,3.413651596899225,3.00512181616833,89.92901162790702,83.4186046511628,6.4764119601328884,21.617386489479518,7.7094869923839395,1.013380509413068,492,16,103,9,14,164,85,129,0.035,0.784,0.181,0.9704,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,10,0,14,1,1,2,0,23,24,8,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,3,12,1,16,19,1,14,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,4,4,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15823964387075787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806643352929789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636260314398039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146610763804422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656422300506844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281933623530665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575108469979334,0.16356317949671778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039896582830426,0.0,0.0,0.17225554872239845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341477346940904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966312405701452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258182216465062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840498989215704,0.18450902457903245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197707842617918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505509644644196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891587800402113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22425361529458968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055340818531594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21178208602471166,0.0,0.1134185974405545,0.30526432310683393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elkay14,2018/03/06,"Any suggestions to stop my 2.5yo daughter from biting her nails. My daughter 2.5yo bites her nails and it drives me crazy. Her hands are always in her mouth, in the store, at the park, at bed time, in between eating. She had a pacifier till the age of 2 and as soon as she stopped with the paci her nails replaced her paci. I tell her to take her hands out of her mouth because she'll get ouchies in her mouth. Any one have a similar situation and how did you dive your nail biter problem? ",5.144115646258506,5.367147561224492,4.8677551020408165,89.25462585034019,68.28571428571428,8.165986394557821,28.578231292517003,7.793537801064563,1.4310353741496593,383,12,84,4,6,117,64,98,0.094,0.906,0.0,-0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,5,6,5,1,0,9,7,7,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,19,0,17,4,0,14,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,0,6,53,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24712297586455695,0.0,0.0,0.4039324966754889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810449148662937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038992232798141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551672176417098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20125096413474386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841833506753841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338339375473668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4966009190433686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233026858306968,0.0,0.25958603159648297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317971322040407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MyDamnCoffee,2018/03/06,"I'm giving my daughter to her dad It was my decision. No one forced me. We sign the papers tomorrow. My heart is breaking.

I'm like...really, really poor. One step above homelessness. I get my groceries and stuff by walking an hour with my children to the store and sticking as much as i can in my stroller or on my arms and back and then we walk home. I have another child who has no one besides me so she can't go anywhere. But my oldest has a big, loving family at her dad's house. They worship her. I do, too. Which is why I think she deserves the best chance in life and I'm taking myself mostly out of the picture. I'll see her once a week and every other weekend. Pay child support when I can afford to.

Just hurts. A lot.",-0.1844078947368395,2.08479148026316,2.0463684210526343,93.92757894736843,91.43421052631578,4.8821052631578965,19.442105263157888,6.508806274219699,0.1981542105263161,563,18,122,7,20,189,105,152,0.098,0.7909999999999999,0.111,0.4779,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,1,1,5,5,0,0,8,0,10,4,2,0,0,18,21,13,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,10,0,0,2,1,3,4,3,1,0,3,1,1,26,4,13,20,4,19,1,1,1,1,18,6,0,3,8,85,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059468642036957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102265934490752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061140263776349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547895768327794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515234243164208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261305618110717,0.18840874636582414,0.11162099814992092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327398499909567,0.0,0.0,0.1970093649158375,0.0,0.1934185140039067,0.22662400631822974,0.21025469258946491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872605151375364,0.09595314140531834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697577523164733,0.17726240329288329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437964048341762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20916399776201852,0.3992655820563483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582152045710193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650867000250487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483574951600405,0.0,0.2228770890855604,0.0,0.0,0.14767146949458526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584784161790644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754355313820614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722418645377644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Smezz2,2018/03/06,"7 almost 8 Year old Daughter facial hair. Hello Everyone! 
My husband and I are starting to worry about our daughter's body hair. She will be 8 this April and has had long hair on her legs for 2 - 3 years now. she has started growing facial hair. I also have a few hairs that come outta no where and I just get rid of them via plucking but my daughter seems to have a more defined/peach fuzz? growth across her upper lip  ( not just a few here or there ). our main concern here is the teasing she will likely start to experience once children start to notice. We are looking for suggestions on how to appropriately remove her facial hair once she is ready.",2.9241863517060374,5.200739732283463,3.682381889763782,87.51181430446195,76.8740157480315,5.493175853018373,23.969160104986877,6.42735559955562,0.716816797900262,514,17,98,4,12,163,89,127,0.041,0.888,0.071,0.6896,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,0,10,2,1,0,4,0,12,12,12,1,0,14,20,7,0,0,5,4,7,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,8,16,1,12,16,4,19,0,0,1,0,19,5,0,4,11,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196546112213516,0.0,0.0,0.15696508086465186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802288153760804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907787872070767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18755399414571725,0.0,0.19199954694352592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254822221662266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589251537200863,0.0,0.0,0.17370166302220952,0.16482580318923906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346613187201067,0.20596288909734667,0.41806368352112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868598096848076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.555712103659629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933191309370046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527958270371829
parenting,mandy0505,2018/03/06,"Need help w/my 19yr old daughter Hey there fellow Reddit parents I’m hoping for advice.. My 19 yr old daughter is entitled and I need help setting some boundaries attitude & financially. I mostly noticed a change during this past year with her attitude.

Background: she was always a good kid, never talked back, did/does well in school. She has a younger sister (6) who I used to have a nanny for. During the last 8 months I let go of the nanny and now have the 19yr old caring for her two days a week (school drop off/pick up and 3 hours of care) as her way of contributing. I pay for everything otherwise and live in a HCOL area. *I’m a single mom* I’ve paid for her car/car insurance/cell phone, the list goes on (car was cash so no monthly payment). She has a part-time job and goes to college full-time although most are online classes.

Due to her bad attitude and inability not to be an asshole to her younger sister, I’ve now had to rehire a sitter for the 2 days. 

I’m now wondering what is acceptable/the norm for me to have her contribute to the household. I’m struggling because she only works part-time and doesn’t make too much. At the same time though I’m having to move to a new house which rent is nearly half my income. 

I’ve also had several conversations about her poor attitude but nothing has changed. ",1.8388311688311705,4.2242005454545435,3.2394155844155854,88.63090909090911,81.42424242424242,6.195670995670996,23.064935064935064,7.447530270364453,1.0664571428571428,1040,36,208,16,28,339,161,264,0.053,0.894,0.053,0.0044,4,0,0,0,1,0,39,0,0,0,1,11,7,0,1,18,0,18,0,0,2,1,21,33,13,0,3,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,8,0,0,1,0,5,3,4,2,1,2,5,0,20,5,29,26,6,33,0,0,0,0,27,7,0,5,20,119,24,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727019950124208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597016669009034,0.09985607449408812,0.13002836374984952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227856401044164,0.10020147144113953,0.07315561995972761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447118299933577,0.0,0.2539046068143956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547901614690043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078552414605572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820317869759583,0.1006568199477766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087735108107806,0.0,0.0,0.11919478923247105,0.1181834752661297,0.1384728488032989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908918972865265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782234608250924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271607096966287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596905555567834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010611532791682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055164450178145,0.19157810691725435,0.12754926258016774,0.08821951589215518,0.17796847496875046,0.09255738697582687,0.11590424770826745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515068759740928,0.13662963639562067,0.37778388715046257,0.0,0.0,0.0912713133982351,0.0,0.0,0.13325442159476164,0.2599134306689114,0.11456099130442518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429085311323209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557461613063532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125458172950409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964576960727736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790702026321878,0.0,0.06997749312342147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723014905549313,0.0,0.0,0.1036481781166674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525657832973076,0.0962629907045574,0.0,0.10790139351228016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301433024654972,0.08736708254897092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728106635461615
parenting,JizMagician,2018/03/06,"To swear or not to swear? My daughter just celebrated her first birthday last week. She is a very quick learner and has already said her first words (Dada, mama, dog and cracker). With her starting to talk I'm faced with a question of swearing in the house. My SO and I have had conversations on and off (even while I was pregnant) about what sort of rules we would have when it came to language in the house. My SO never had a strong opinion on the matter because he doesn't really curse, I on the other hand would make a sailor blush. I was raised in a house that was very against bad language and saying a ""bad"" word would get you a switch to the back of the knee (I grew up in the South. A switch is a whip like branch). Being the rebel I was it only encouraged my love of crass language, however, as a parent now I wonder if I should censor my language around my daughter? I would never punish her for using words or expressing herself. I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to approach this. Any advice from fellow parents would be appreciated. Much thanks. 

Also typing this on my phone, sorry for the format and spelling/grammar. 

Edit: Thank you everyone for your advice and personal experiences. I'm definitely going to clean up my language around my daughter and starting now will hopefully engrain the good habit for when she's old enough to start repeating what she hears. I also really liked the idea of explaining the context of words and how any word can be hurtful. I can not thank you all enough. ",3.5111262798634786,5.495104317406149,4.284554266211603,85.21906348122869,74.08532423208192,6.73578156996587,25.71317406143345,7.554174236665415,1.3567000409556311,1187,41,227,15,25,380,161,293,0.08199999999999999,0.768,0.149,0.9708,3,0,0,0,0,0,34,1,4,0,4,17,16,2,0,24,0,24,4,3,4,3,47,44,23,0,8,6,5,1,2,1,7,0,3,1,1,8,15,0,0,4,0,0,4,5,6,0,2,8,4,33,10,41,26,5,37,0,2,0,1,32,15,0,8,20,167,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962975330796773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271950778588975,0.16337058163753154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892415646041206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186134792644615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785431722951186,0.1705735567089079,0.062266621988211014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151584539054643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682662710415576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110861057948145,0.0,0.06746578537974998,0.0,0.0,0.09760389044251512,0.0,0.09991737488847484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376890842060952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05336652781987415,0.0,0.05805133698129372,0.08567434958071482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512479811466705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145299688784694,0.0,0.3535847226834635,0.10934829659035797,0.11530923124508345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326177877889229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998057397525218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921898180291129,0.0,0.06818255664859797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508830150115309,0.0,0.15756098657117676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071839571012429,0.0,0.0,0.0776858479617019,0.0,0.0,0.2268397889941037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918904266289178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442573666990252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087335903847838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716325173957828,0.08122977518331326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434292448331786,0.21689619380099687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821002528927171,0.0,0.2821240777686325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822045292091217,0.0,0.16856058559665305,0.0,0.0,0.08193452884351257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077185626172767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36280425877001776,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SouthernCharm12,2018/03/06,"Toddler starting daycare My 15 m/o is starting daycare on the 19th; hes been at home his entire life.  he currently takes 2 naps a day; but the daycare only does 1.  He's never really been around other kids; except for his cousin, and his 7 week old sister.  Is there anything we can do to help prepare him (and us?) ",2.7796875000000014,4.120876343750002,4.52075,85.44925000000002,74.625,6.370000000000001,26.8625,6.742157984588678,1.2412537499999998,242,9,48,2,5,82,53,64,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.5499,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,1,7,10,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,6,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,0,7,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23805024233373626,0.25751777302003337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865596704911052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253148166318573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389620969662025,0.0,0.2901683188750817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043248307973601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231081801563424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035474470072706,0.0,0.0,0.22000811926635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18531819076184936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40950336023202827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175002293284995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34796449534713497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23204048184841106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bry66,2018/03/06,"Looking back, what lessons has your own upbringing taught you that can help you be a better parent? The post about baby boomers as grandparents got me thinking. Based on your own upbringing, what have you learned that will help you be a better parent, and what advice can you pass along as a result? Feel free to share as much or as little info as you want if you think it helps put things into context. 

Here’s mine:
For context, my dad has always been big into fishing and golf, not unlike most guys. He would always take me along on fishing trips and out on the golf course even though I never had much fun doing either of those things. I would have preferred to spend that time playing football. It took me until about age 14 to tell my Dad I didn’t want to do either of those things with him anymore. I could tell he was real bummed but he continued to spend his spare time golfing and fishing while I chose to pursue doing what I thought I would enjoy. Tried out for the football team but I felt so far behind all the other kids that I got discouraged and didn’t stick it out. Now as an adult, my dad and I talk regularly but we don’t really spend any time together and we have just about zero common ground. So here’s my tidbit:

We can probably all agree that it would make every parent happy for your children to share your own hobbies so that you can spend time doing whatever it is that you love to do with him or her along your side. However, your child may develop interests that do not overlap your own. Don’t push your own interests too hard on your child, especially as they begin to get older, and know that you will probably have to give up time spent on your own hobbies in order to spent quality time with your kid.

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parenting,Absolutely5,2018/03/06,"Kindergarten Girls getting bullied at school My daughter is in kindergarten. She is very difficult when she comes home from school due to her getting bullied at school. Basically, she will come in all teary and be crying. She acts like she is super tired, only, she is not super tired, she is just worn down from being bullied. So crying and overreacting to everything by the time she gets home. Now yesterday, she started picking fights with her brother on the school bus. 

This girl informs the other girls which girls are pretty enough that day to be her friend and which are not. Whichever girls do not make the cut for the day are out. And she makes it clear that if anyone tells on her, she will destroy them. I have heard from 3 other parents of girls in this class that this is going on. Two of those girls are in girl scouts with her and the parents have actually witnessed this going on. 

When my daughter told me about it, she asked me to not tell anyone what is going on. But I went to the school and told them not to tell her I told them, but this bullying needs to be dealt with. Well, the school dropped the ball. They called my daughter in with the girl at the same time. They sat in the assistant principals office and the AP told my daughter to tell what is going on and my daughter wouldn't. And then the other girl said my daughter keeps trying to play in centers where there are only supposed to be 4 kids and there are too many kids so that is the only reason she tells my daughter to leave. My daughter did not deny it (remember, the girl threatened her prior to this happening). The AP tells my daughter not to enter the center when there are already four kids there. And then the AP calls me and recaps the meeting, with the principal present on speaker phone. I told her that is not what is happening and my daughter is afraid to speak up because the girl threatened her. The AP said it has been dealt with and closed.

The girl now routinely walks up to my daughter, where ever she is, and tells her to move and get out of there or she will tell the teacher. My daughter cannot stay in a center or discovery area at all because of this. I am calling the school one more time. But I am fed up. They completely dropped the ball and I do not want my children at the school anymore. ",4.877614487327191,5.973133243303575,4.585414746543782,87.92732718894011,69.24553571428572,7.209216589861749,27.84447004608295,7.233258080335977,1.3198587845622116,1815,60,363,16,31,552,176,448,0.085,0.867,0.047,-0.9513,2,0,0,0,1,0,42,0,0,6,2,19,11,3,1,29,0,39,3,0,4,4,59,70,30,0,4,16,15,0,1,1,4,2,5,2,17,25,28,1,1,3,3,0,11,11,5,1,3,14,5,54,6,58,47,5,65,0,0,0,0,89,33,0,3,19,265,79,9,0.0,0.0,0.06535031015323743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738999513203276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641345058941013,0.0936500223741937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260527589086111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164514597687146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051429426564557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537259638043725,0.07021381692504716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712061125169698,0.08637658553011746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919500115394857,0.0,0.0,0.060575650668163665,0.0,0.0,0.06018578571451901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051738679211209365,0.0,0.1399503559052018,0.0,0.15223597268172465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843771694431847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434708877575385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952350891286959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090857714919872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03271678280928375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940222888123033,0.06789421231197393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711755171259086,0.0,0.04965531741137516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04537869610119157,0.1527946802310327,0.0,0.0,0.1487182626455374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812969991167503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885341715281325,0.0,0.0,0.07586076349252073,0.0,0.12740225209852113,0.0,0.0,0.5421949125506286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047399716571699696,0.07137810645855515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682581548099021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714730825128272,0.15393785041620753,0.0,0.3199500642815694,0.0,0.04546632119129906,0.0,0.0654172067559208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05525493907310113,0.03949897939837089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06021153965524241,0.06207924925015935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jesst,2018/03/06,Explain surgery? My 2.5 year old is having her tonsils and adenoids out at the end of March. She had been a star the last few weeks while he baby sister was born and has been a great big sister. We explained her baby sister coming during my whole pregnancy so she knew what to expect. However I'm not sure how to explain her having surgery without scaring her. Any tips? ,2.9453571428571443,5.332046472222224,3.6630952380952384,87.12000000000002,77.33333333333333,5.2253968253968255,25.563492063492063,6.18269132825596,0.9567158730158728,294,11,53,2,7,93,56,72,0.026,0.882,0.092,0.7099,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,14,14,5,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,9,2,6,9,2,12,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,8,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21403703321627507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27112449224515056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787701800523333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470068902422793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565587521162633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302713764235511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31511412292371205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966429389151172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524690294108227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3514009615153373,0.0,0.3034024382032676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268511991555652
parenting,BobsPineapplePants,2018/03/06,"My 5 year old started school And on his third day, after being there for one hour he pulled the fire alarm. 

Day 3. 

I live in Canada, it's winter. 

Fire trucks, evacuation of the school. 

Kids without coats being given solar blankets. 

Local fire department was on a call and they had to get the one from the next county over to come shut off the alarm. 


Ahhh.... 

At least he hopefully got that out of his system. He's so lucky he feels bad.",1.64781609195402,3.914417459770117,2.8282758620689665,92.00264367816094,81.29885057471266,5.2459770114942526,16.563218390804597,6.42735559955562,-0.3280436781609195,337,6,70,3,9,108,67,87,0.162,0.772,0.066,-0.8011,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,2,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,11,3,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,3,4,4,5,2,15,5,1,22,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,2,9,40,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647085733108435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402739501118206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20269546523036605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035060792305506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897789037741514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293778327489467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881958724657468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23371216104004916,0.23172921888221165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777969520956027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502508247530794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469142855449365,0.0,0.3188991565188719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4762848956029137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665509471695873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268267903588437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515294849843692
parenting,Corallia,2018/03/06,"Two-year old refuses to wear outfit for upcoming sister’s wedding. Tips? My two-year old is at that age/phase when they are picky or particular about the items of clothing that they want to wear. Normally, I would just let them be and wear whatever they want. But in 4 days, my two-year old son is going to be my sister’s ring bearer and will need to put on a specific formal outfit (button down shirt, slacks, suspenders, bow tie)—and he screams bloody murder every time I have him try it on. I’m desperate and worried he might end up walking down the aisle in his favorite Lightning McQueen tee and shorts. Any tips?",5.263249999999998,6.187103491666665,5.305,83.74500000000002,68.25,8.333333333333334,29.166666666666664,8.472884824447931,2.010416666666667,489,17,95,7,8,153,87,120,0.121,0.833,0.046,-0.8767,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,4,0,3,2,1,0,3,0,10,4,4,0,0,14,15,7,1,5,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,11,0,15,9,1,19,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,2,7,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177631289685879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168183257489578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337929223176666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459051646130218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841783110880546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770804495869369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837084856622283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284050952362985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967212441821414,0.0,0.0,0.5451457177099706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408603138753234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097818358547064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757265096598668,0.0,0.5074926373340857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428306476689764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586491641318167,0.0,0.12301666118969448,0.0,0.0,0.3345519262432166
parenting,freakzy369,2018/03/06,"""Discipline"" for a 1 year old? So first off, I'm not trying to be some prison warden who demands perfection out of a gorgeous little girl who just started to crawl a month ago.

But I'm just wondering what age your kids started to be receptive to 'no', 'stop', and boundaries in general?

Our girl is starting to get into things that she's not supposed to, and we've been handling it by being preemptive like you're supposed to, like cleaning up things we don't want her eating, redirecting her attention away from power sockets, etc.

But she sometimes gets into these moods where she's picked up on these things we don't like her doing, and seems to be testing us. Like she'll go to play with a power socket, I'll tell her no and to leave it alone. She'll look at me, acknowledge that I've said something, chuckle evilly, then touch the power point and look over her shoulder for my reaction. (She's never in any danger re powerpoints). Then if I go to step two and move her away and distract with a toy, she'll give me a pointed look, throw the toy away, then speedilly crawl back over while giggling maniacally.

The other one I'm starting to get concerned about is hitting/pulling hair. So far, I've been taking to crying out in pain when she does hurt me. For some irrational (/s) reason I thought this would illicit an empathetic response, and maybe she would cry along with me and learn that way. Nope. I've also tried giving her an angry look and angry ow, but she just giggles. When she does hit/pull hair, I'll put her down or move away from her and not engage in play for a bit, so there's consequences there, but she's often a repeat offender.

I guess I'm not actually too phased by this stuff at this point, it seems like normal behaviour. But yeah; is there anything to be done, or will I just have to wait until she's a bit older and understands communication a bit better?

Thanks in advance, guys!",7.341221052631577,6.29790916,7.2428350877193,78.2885052631579,64.06666666666666,10.241403508771931,33.070175438596486,9.276330184999452,2.6996933333333337,1505,50,297,22,19,481,202,375,0.09,0.7979999999999999,0.113,0.8911,4,1,1,0,0,0,52,4,1,0,7,18,22,3,1,15,1,21,5,3,2,2,62,51,31,0,5,16,0,3,5,0,6,1,1,1,4,19,22,1,3,9,4,0,8,10,6,0,3,5,8,36,15,52,35,6,59,0,1,4,0,37,28,0,10,27,195,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0869553160444745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789877409923157,0.0,0.0,0.0922877005447926,0.0,0.07125862090606527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059563295104995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332724755546348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33487482945276353,0.06851757621522529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788076627403201,0.2918444167384457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957591206231456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595580225311925,0.09118712341709212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117843174062323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937755981009916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579414020743327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966376823313334,0.17095859250171136,0.10128281783848243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816111061725652,0.0882296734249433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539059891142887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943511625547675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21766524003243487,0.08930835403964797,0.0,0.0,0.299308849084146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951968844860106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711241428745372,0.18941270735516727,0.0,0.0,0.06872460451032505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730567762014407,0.0,0.0,0.09350252523719713,0.0,0.060381027296008874,0.0,0.09481584469977238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527039890376738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957687649992442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161656058289287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476090679621591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622388433009598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685987151916405,0.08812883580641306,0.0,0.2522808124549644,0.0,0.0,0.07449721738452059,0.0,0.0,0.10200588885266224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699717254217945,0.0,0.07788321078052368,0.08203750640488539,0.0,0.0,0.17759565877821645,0.0,0.0,0.07074079141198526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099524300033156,0.0,0.08704432886193465,0.09276324990358162,0.10718442645002628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052557458854682666,0.07072877580724359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663244916307777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659773077705413,0.0,0.0,0.0573818135417358
parenting,MoonshineParadox,2018/03/06,"I Return Her To You... Just wanted to share a letter my daughter's Kindergarten teacher sent home to each parent on the last day of school... not a dry eye in our house after reading it...even years later...


Dear Parents,

I give you back your child today...

The same little girl you confidently entrusted to my care last fall. I give her back pounds heavier, inches taller, months wiser, more responsible and more mature than she was then. Although she would have attained this growth in spite of me, it has been my happy privilege to watch her personality unfold day by day and marvel at this splendid miracle of development. I have thrilled at each new achievement, each new success, each new expansion of self. 

I give her back reluctantly, for having spent many months together in the narrow confines of a crowded classroom, we have grown closer, have become a part of each other and we shall retain a little of each other. 
    
Ten years from now if we meet on the street, your child and I, a light will spring to our eyes and a smile to our lips and we shall feel a bond of understanding once more, this bond we feel today. We have lived together this year. I wish it could go on forever but I give her back to you, I must. Take care of her, for she is precious. 

Remember that I shall always be interested in your child whenever she goes and whomever she becomes. Her joys and sorrows I’ll be happy to share. Please let me know if there is anything further I can ever do for her. 

I shall always be your friend,  

Sincerely...

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parenting,ReynoldRaps,2018/03/06,"Having our second child in a few hours... need a name. Please send some prayers and love our way as we welcome a little boy. Scheduled c section today. I’m sooo pumped and excited for the life you will lead buddy. Xoxo Daddy. 

Names? Something short and sweet. ",1.4867346938775512,4.211827469387757,1.8297959183673491,94.41163265306123,90.63265306122447,3.6163265306122447,19.244897959183675,5.288315135182226,-0.25745714285714305,202,6,38,1,7,61,44,49,0.0,0.6679999999999999,0.332,0.9578,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,3,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,9,5,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,3,4,3,10,0,0,0,1,11,4,0,1,3,21,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679394139292864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638981193375497,0.0,0.37446434924715377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33720569675125783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27703372332907417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4101214203360889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28763012732296633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35414708616907103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965613384157685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ahhbebe,2018/03/06,"Biracial 5y daughter doesn’t think she’s beautiful. This breaks my heart so, so much. My 5 year old daughter, just started kindergarten and on her 2nd or 3rd day she came home crying and saying she thinks she’s ugly because she has brown hair, eyes and skin. I told her and explain to her, how just how beautiful she in on the inside and outside and listed all her qualities ect, but she was so upset and it was a horrible thing to hear as a mother.  

I am white, with blue eyes and then blonde hair and have never had to deal with this type of thought. I really don’t know what I can do or say to actually make her believe she is so beautiful just the way she is. 

After she did said these things, I decided to dye my hair brown (but not say anything about it to my daughter, I told her I changed it because I like the colour, which she was super happy about) I also changed my favourite colour from blue to brown and told her I can like more than one colour at a time (again, I did this in a way which she didn’t see as a straight connection to what she had said about herself). I don’t even know if I’m doing the right things, I have explained to her, how everyone is different in so many different ways and she excepts that and seems to understand that easy enough. 
However, when it comes to herself, she seems to disregard that everyone is different and truely believes she’s ugly. 

I’ve talked to her kindergarten teachers about a possible bullying thing, but does anyone have any advice on what I could say or do or not do. Anything would be much appreciated.  It breaks my heart so much. ",8.493699864803965,6.115131432176657,8.018632266786842,77.9023422712934,62.75394321766561,11.580802163136545,36.52298332582245,9.957137785484203,3.249939342045967,1252,44,260,20,14,397,150,317,0.078,0.809,0.113,0.9161,4,0,0,0,0,0,31,0,0,0,1,20,5,0,1,10,0,29,8,8,4,2,51,51,35,0,3,14,4,4,2,0,1,0,7,1,0,21,17,0,1,11,0,0,2,7,1,0,1,15,24,47,4,33,33,6,26,0,0,13,0,45,9,0,7,12,188,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0952978728785384,0.0,0.0,0.09542801649349096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809522528942248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664092224448959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828313367114193,0.0,0.16072463499527967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906001248057063,0.0,0.0,0.2200490575039261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169210113660273,0.0,0.0,0.2066135566402004,0.0841217355950464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797012741917905,0.0,0.10727019715745396,0.06297984545314013,0.10067873514791127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060882539761948,0.0,0.0,0.08545915818526108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009044396015409,0.0,0.06450066659184857,0.0,0.0,0.1866284060895139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395630493157716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006506746865556,0.2314449413309796,0.0,0.0,0.09795662604915158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733803386911436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541928115851236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518593578977386,0.09900754868528286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153645202295884,0.0,0.07531809350106956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247322612592537,0.0,0.06617402736582034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009212487907148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256073985933246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339743131520237,0.18578586079323914,0.310638918197627,0.0,0.0,0.07781894666497134,0.17780415698734545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912120468497597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849194979547455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595124221482597,0.12514765443484865,0.0,0.07752771485366769,0.056943822014085425,0.0,0.0,0.2799426091342708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166302417428053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325436393889681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693718049862103,0.0,0.0,0.06288706684296866
parenting,kaoseris,2018/03/06,"My adult son: Right now I wish he'd never been born Another evening of listening to my son rant and rave and accuse me of ruining his life, tearing him down, etcetera and so on. He's a big time drunk who tries now and then to improve his life. He now has a good chance at a great job and is going through the pre-employment process. Tonight he got raging drunk. He says it's because I was such a terrible mother when he was a child (and still am).

He's 48-years-old.

The company that apparently wants to hiare him told him they might have him come in tomorrow, and he's totally drunk tonight and will be until four or five in the morning - unless he stays up until six a.m. when he can buy more beer. He's forced to do this - blow his chance of a better life - because of me. It's not his fault. What can you expect from a 48 year old man with a mean mommy?

Because I've ruined his life he doesn't care if he loses this opportunity. I'm 70 years old and fairly healthy but he's made my life so miserable. I have less than $1,000 to live on and so can't afford my own place. I'd take a tarpaper shack in a flood-prone gulley over this everyday horror, but I can't find one I can afford.",3.790659999999999,4.0375393760000025,4.758150000000004,88.77882500000004,71.24,8.17,26.425,8.07648339933343,1.2810199999999994,924,27,213,12,16,302,151,250,0.132,0.79,0.077,-0.9255,5,0,1,0,0,0,32,0,1,1,3,11,12,1,1,13,0,19,9,0,1,2,27,31,23,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,3,8,12,4,0,2,4,1,2,5,7,0,4,6,2,23,5,25,21,4,35,0,4,0,0,35,12,0,3,20,123,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732888025693122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569466382947917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426283963396666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325142780639935,0.0,0.0,0.12103026430864187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280042393888407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841652896871636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985067766957404,0.11784663762566808,0.11237250009731584,0.15490424821143814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394268226869109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4962045406957917,0.0,0.0,0.1240660781463538,0.0,0.0,0.15718610055397916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294664466467832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530481612074731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905070461837985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836401197830546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423004906466873,0.0,0.09520797408421706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467949673112033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998817051671867,0.0,0.11173304410585444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975672493393127,0.11220529396838452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564022098930508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192800327237729,0.0,0.0,0.13425593966135738,0.0,0.095391818223094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287187887741825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157067600072522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809577101033546
parenting,lovekillseveryone,2018/03/06,"Trying to keep my daughter in her school. Hi. We’re in a real parenting low here. We’ve dropped the ball giving our 8 year some stability. We moved to So Cal after after terrible storm destroyed a house we were renting. We needed to find a place to live in an area with good schools. We did but but it was 40ft from the highway with no wall. But with no time or options we took it. After a few years I lost some hearing and our youngest developed asthma. We had to get out of there. We found a place that’s website claimed was a part of my daughters school system.. it wasn’t. We messed up and took it. Now the forms are coming in for next year asking for proof of residence. 
We know she’s going to have to change schools. It’s inevitable. But how can I prolong the address verification process so she can hopefully finish second grade at her current school. 

I’m thinking of not returning any form and seeing how long it them to notice and come to us. 

You can apply for an inter district request but everyone says don’t do it because they’ll take her out of school within 10 days once they know we’ve moved. 

We understand this is on us and it’s a nauseating feeling. Thanks ",1.7525316455696185,4.101388945147683,2.994119831223632,90.48115443037977,81.48945147679325,5.648540084388187,23.82599156118144,6.918507183188421,0.8473133839662452,928,34,190,11,25,299,146,237,0.07400000000000001,0.8690000000000001,0.057,-0.4861,3,0,0,0,0,0,21,14,1,3,1,7,8,1,0,13,0,15,1,0,2,1,46,38,15,0,2,7,3,1,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,10,22,0,1,7,1,1,7,5,5,0,1,10,4,27,3,34,27,6,38,0,2,1,0,32,15,0,5,14,126,37,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052329608083062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695064310467527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632179101217591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097066679356237,0.17866621073979375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688146803257937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990950492656752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243661670326001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947849480386505,0.0,0.0,0.11370772774690235,0.0,0.0,0.05418184336169562,0.09948376516092944,0.05893822543362316,0.08698325296270681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168836353669005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300296104152422,0.0,0.11966222300856685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217821320697964,0.0,0.0,0.11398766111991394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915738563010534,0.0917761039060688,0.0,0.0,0.1132068036126492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044506826211366,0.0,0.07689631405813112,0.0,0.0,0.11029197555634962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806939888393962,0.0,0.1104429727114426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515268481549484,0.11230295026213112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21670034941245592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803956280190575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247077587927673,0.0,0.6297330142531169,0.08263985654862828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797362954501079,0.0,0.0,0.0954780909475511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664502968307879,0.0,0.0,0.06047151091410076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304412522081277,0.07040922696011362,0.0,0.0,0.10796108266836772,0.2494898946891269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034882526903608
parenting,Copius-Coinpurse,2018/03/06,"My 3 and 1/2 got expelled from Montessori school today. tl;dr: my son is the next Houdini/Usain Bolt.

He only started going two weeks ago. Today, as my wife and I came to pick him up, the lead teacher took us into her office. She explained that our son was constantly trying to escape the school and that it was a saftey concern and it was getting so bad that they needed a teacher or aide to be with him the entire time.

Apparently, childproof locks do not even delay him. Neither do regular locked doors for that matter, as he knows exactly what to do for deadbolts, handle/knob locks, and even the latches. All day, he would literally wait for the teacher to turn her back and he would attempt to escape, even making it so far as the parking lot. The interesting thing that his teacher told us was that most toddlers, when you block their path with a gate or a locked door, they just throw a fit and/or move on. Apparently, he was just quiet and immediately started testing for security exploits. They tried to redirect him by distracting him with other things, but he has an unusual amount of focus for a 3 year old and will even play along until they look away and he is gone again.

But wait, there's more! He is also very fast and the staff of the school had a hard time catching him once he broke out into a run. 

At home, we have to lock his bedroom door from the outside, so he doesn't try to leave the house at night while we're asleep. He isn't physically strong enough to slide his windows open, but I am trying to find a way to keep him from opening his windows also because I don't want to find out the hard way the day he is finally strong enough.

I was wondering if any other parents out there have escape artists and what kind of school or daycare they put them in, or if getting a private tutor is the best thing for him.",6.460000000000001,6.083943646408838,6.496071823204421,80.72703591160223,65.5745856353591,9.007955801104972,31.359668508287285,8.238735603445708,2.1338338121546974,1448,48,287,16,20,461,199,362,0.069,0.8690000000000001,0.062,-0.5305,3,0,0,0,0,0,39,4,1,7,5,16,10,0,1,26,0,26,1,1,3,2,58,47,31,0,6,12,4,2,0,0,3,0,1,8,0,16,24,0,6,5,2,0,11,5,3,0,1,12,4,34,7,45,31,9,51,0,1,1,0,45,15,0,9,23,194,50,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799910387066126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587764051488181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750872136837875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326980532191244,0.07633444418819545,0.08288841196567852,0.060515609976730673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418039061936536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354132238088295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727833258205904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804513234731812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051501115991874,0.0,0.262274266658484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087481990061549,0.18146657920592604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037315942390868,0.0,0.05641886383450919,0.0,0.07939730715835333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778573670215882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957843701039903,0.0,0.0,0.11454716555146854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823798173716478,0.0,0.10337705857771066,0.054557583675312084,0.0,0.0,0.10511527041623292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336391878369523,0.0,0.0,0.0843979509464958,0.0,0.0,0.06626518146663071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055109837271589,0.0,0.0736093195935685,0.0,0.0,0.10557745682317164,0.09316054003967622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416981581126247,0.10572199948406637,0.0,0.07550122884218825,0.0,0.0,0.11023039117627156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979630712939508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018763818313982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053120864640878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978567639416751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157732156008673,0.0,0.1881974926062321,0.09485915210478403,0.11029542826010492,0.2695981128939467,0.10798000064625683,0.0969748323049088,0.0,0.2388252495386776,0.0,0.0,0.08191022998925218,0.058553507453532175,0.15759581957184593,0.07963043172728977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765681894871942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104070733613966,0.0,0.0,0.06392825148192767
parenting,dedicednu,2018/03/06,"Toddler is about to go through multiple life changing events (new sister, starting school, moving). Could use some tips on helping him adjust. Please excuse my rambling. My son is 3.5, will turn 4 in September. 

My husband and I had a baby 5 months ago and I worked really hard to make the transition into becoming a big brother as smooth as possible for our son. We read books and talked about the baby in a calm manner while trying to build excitement. So far it seemed to have helped as he's absolutely great with his sister, though there are bouts of jealousy. 

We recently started going through the process of buying a new house and we hope to be moving within the next couple of months. It's in the same town, just a couple miles away.

On top of all of that, my son has PreK screening later this month. I'm suppose to register him this Thursday. He's not currently in daycare, so it'll be a completely new setting for him.

So, within the span of a single year, my son will have had a baby sister, been moved into a new home, and started school.

This seems like *a lot* to put on a 3 year old's shoulders. He's already dealing with anxiety that I'm not sure is normal for his age. He tends to tense up and shake when put into situations he doesn't feel comfortable in. He was the only child that refused to participate in soccer a few months ago, crying when we tried to insist he participate. He panics when forced into a room that has several loud kids in it, though he's incredibly social in small groups and with adults. When asked to do simple tasks that he doesn't feel he can do, he shuts down. When practicing letters, if his letter isn't exactly like the example, he gets frustrated and gives up. He has to follow his routine or he gets upset, though we can introduce new things to the routine without problem. 

He's incredibly bright and social, but prone to break downs if he feels like he's going to fail at something.

1. How do you deal with toddler anxiety? Is this a normal level of freak out for a 3 year old? Should I just wait it out or is there something I can do to help him? I've deliberately messed up writing letters and acted like it was no big deal. I also tried making a game of who can write the silliest letters. 

2. As of right now, he will be in PreK for 2 years before kindergarten. I'm thinking about skipping the first year of PreK and just do the one before Kindergarten. I feel like the benefits of an extra year of PreK isn't worth whatever stress he'll go through with everything changing around him. Should I skip PreK this year?

3. What can I do to help him adjust to a new house? I plan on sleeping in his room with him the first few nights, may let him sleep with us. I've checked out some books at the library about moving. I also plan to engage him in the packing and unpacking process.

Help???",4.351125,5.5317247196428605,5.020357142857144,84.00464285714288,70.55357142857143,7.885714285714287,27.392857142857146,8.238735603445708,1.7334428571428573,2233,75,441,32,40,719,258,560,0.07200000000000001,0.831,0.097,0.9393,1,0,2,0,0,0,66,7,1,0,7,25,23,1,4,34,0,43,4,3,4,3,75,73,36,0,9,11,9,6,5,0,8,1,1,3,3,19,32,0,2,9,5,3,13,8,9,0,3,5,9,37,14,88,55,9,102,0,1,2,0,78,46,0,11,46,273,56,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512276980378686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165791673439077,0.10385775954653947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935092869378004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780634418521065,0.06070590801169961,0.0,0.06100902086173626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171613576969205,0.11051062125178683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738625508197147,0.0,0.06808361517059361,0.0,0.0,0.05184569680991074,0.1436997467167398,0.07132857547692928,0.0,0.20083688524535967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05835982222275935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313333188144411,0.09277983955513587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046817197146017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678522162141449,0.06229202925447822,0.14761731854355506,0.0,0.0,0.07159159577392903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816943531501233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762441680207173,0.0,0.06513558080215319,0.06449558329559872,0.0,0.14985365067853254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640092765713275,0.04586584978636904,0.15862097717782428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520582285136239,0.0,0.0,0.08668987406055233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073235219737088,0.2760645542310461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762905464501218,0.06905961949446325,0.060937548986562874,0.12724596628488544,0.0,0.0,0.13627772555239692,0.0,0.044001961687895635,0.04938635852859029,0.0,0.07618779446997058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712796571136111,0.0,0.0732049967925943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062134484485668474,0.0,0.1305561850926497,0.0,0.0,0.0649530523102636,0.0,0.0415993311581124,0.0,0.06411595247445881,0.0,0.0,0.05545454498808183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131436344690379,0.0,0.11822964409367058,0.0,0.07335860907785541,0.0,0.0,0.07299020003821498,0.12996475094832627,0.13238708837285162,0.0,0.09998100969378332,0.0,0.0,0.1378850005708037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438337277089202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061200921276155874,0.0,0.0,0.05219267898892651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043140247433386535,0.04160803350633386,0.19139633776332884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226078501823016,0.07063115538132336,0.0,0.0,0.07810938696143828,0.056083405559976346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259548534470663,0.0,0.047273802706599984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29271424019786874
parenting,melmia88,2018/03/06,"Child trouble focusing and paying attention for long periods of time. I admit sometimes i have problems with attention, but my kid (10) takes one to many times to respond back when called, following step by step instruction, and focusing on school work. 

What can I do improve the childs performance? ",9.327058823529411,10.243946019607844,8.161568627450979,66.82705882352944,59.392156862745104,13.07450980392157,42.49019607843137,12.45797560212912,6.00053725490196,241,13,36,8,3,74,44,51,0.07,0.831,0.099,0.3716,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,0,7,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,6,22,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25244966017299625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352406004785958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905434841411681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33285419731846394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247094342468388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141477527929307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33226663632594705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32470638746597996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468478071626017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828796979711775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23901315041376375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BluegillUK,2018/03/06,"Toddler waking up screaming, settling when I go up but screams the house down when I leave. Won't tell me why. Tired, stressed and annoyed. Dear parents of Reddit. I'm desperately seeking someone who may be able to offer me a slight bit of comfort in any way, shape or form. As per title, we have a lovely, bubbly 2.5 year old who, in the daytime is usually a joy. He has his moments, as does any 2-3 year old but he's *mostly* alright.

He's never been fantastic at night but he was pretty much sorted before Christmas. He naps for about an hour and a half, usually around midday and we aim to put him in bed every night between 7:00 & 7:30. We have a routine so much as we turn the television off, get him upstairs to brush his teeth and then it's nappy change, PJ's on and a story, so pretty consistent with a bath added in every couple of days. 

Since Christmas however, he's been stirring more at night and within the last couple of weeks I would estimate that he wakes around 5-6 times throughout the night. I've seen it happen- he wakes up, sometimes through a cough, sometimes through nothing and he sits up in bed whimpering to himself for a few seconds. Then we hear those dreaded little footsteps as he feels the need to come to his gate to scream the whole fucking house down, not only waking myself and my partner up, but his 7-year old school-attending brother who is in the neighbouring bedroom. When he first started doing it he was suffering from a pretty bad virus, so we took it with a pinch of salt and he came in to our room to sleep on the understanding that as he was ill, that was allowed. 

Here's a simplification;

* Wakes up, comes to gate and cries
* Myself/Partner goes up to him, puts him back in bed, puts his music and star projector back on.
* The minute we leave the room, the crying begins again. 
* Repeat, repeat, re-fucking-peat.
* Leaving him crying keeps everyone awake and he never shows signs of stopping.

I considered it may be night terrors but everywhere I read tells me that this is episodic whereas there seems to be no end to it here. Also, my kid is so damn persistent that when we tried controlled crying at about 5 o'clock in the morning, he proceeded to scream at about 1,200 decibels for HALF AN HOUR. 

SO basically here I am, tired, stressed and frankly bored to fuck of the little noise maker. I love him to absolute pieces but, yeah, you know.

Could anyone offer any insight into what it may be? I don't want to form any bad habits as such an important developmental stage but also I want the poor sod to feel safe if he's waking up terrified. Although he's speaking, whenever I ask what's wrong or what is upsetting him, he absolutely will not speak to me. I don't know if being hard on him is the right thing to do to sort this all out.

Look forward to seeing if anyone can help!",3.648133413703036,5.427914215189877,4.352757082579867,85.74333293148484,73.2133815551537,6.940872011251758,26.936266827406072,7.635375032292933,1.5047112638135425,2223,81,432,28,45,710,287,553,0.192,0.7290000000000001,0.079,-0.9969,3,0,0,0,0,0,81,9,1,0,3,24,25,4,5,31,2,33,16,8,3,3,72,63,45,0,8,14,2,3,0,2,6,4,7,9,2,22,30,0,4,7,4,1,9,8,18,0,4,9,15,42,7,80,42,11,90,0,1,3,4,62,40,3,12,40,274,64,2,0.06990221430770761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180155105379867,0.0,0.07573901999756454,0.0,0.19014361111323225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775450710277336,0.0,0.0,0.12445558172781955,0.06534913427239808,0.0,0.0,0.10750097599288552,0.1167308582589872,0.0,0.0,0.059481635834499995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631511350923953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799495110056445,0.0,0.0,0.0739472740347066,0.12042913612207193,0.0,0.0,0.07840127725202213,0.055811230129758166,0.15469094114022638,0.3071372002476191,0.045081145362566036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061171898803384465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061912613800196865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779126082405082,0.06679456136459838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068931976102309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05945878778057336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924694147640145,0.03652102186827826,0.0,0.039727039288231104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061814297256697924,0.0,0.06261865382555024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878487586297668,0.0,0.04685398077501795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376792007285938,0.16131554012029814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06213229988942862,0.0,0.0,0.07683285776536176,0.056979634385043325,0.0,0.22204905560670704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401207654138667,0.0,0.0,0.05870025469593147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617895515473188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027723411360567,0.05183160618142383,0.10782579401784684,0.0,0.0,0.32799246410960986,0.0,0.06707305990139079,0.0,0.22005184529348248,0.0,0.0,0.05316378389542649,0.0,0.0,0.07761813661937453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133470467518293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081309750116906,0.0,0.0,0.06992113083964516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969610907957225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074477278051255,0.055703014533047455,0.06363635056217322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05782383402488692,0.0,0.06995269685089059,0.0,0.059227919341661286,0.0,0.13827015469062895,0.0,0.04947714707171799,0.0,0.0,0.058441381175203824,0.16014550062909993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221952327395005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464399251144637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040760543301540914,0.16068462463115754,0.0,0.0,0.07766393213188642,0.0474590150130766,0.07603353624064316,0.0,0.07277067032831687,0.0,0.0,0.1539748266989778,0.0,0.08246027420521668,0.055485124037203765,0.05607133988107483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307587581879154,0.07804332592256695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049656527451688165,0.07642709791203743,0.0,0.13504420254012828
parenting,Moose_Knuckles,2018/03/07,"My wife had a miscarriage and I’m not sure what I should be doing. Title sums it up. We found out this afternoon that our little baby, who we thought was roughly 9 weeks along, was not alive. We had been suspecting it for a few days, as the last ultrasound showed that the embryo was measuring around 6 weeks and there was no heartbeat.

We found out over the phone (the hospital did a blood test after the ultrasound, and compared those results to a blood test done today). I forget the name of what they were measuring, but what should have doubled, had decreased. My wife held it together fairly well while the midwife went through the options and what to expect, and then lost it afterwards.

My wife is the strongest woman I know, and it’s ripping me apart seeing her like this.  She understands that this isn’t her fault, is fairly common, and won’t prevent her from conceiving again...but is still heartbroken. I don’t blame her, or fault her, for feeling that way - we were very excited to add to our family.

I’m here because I’m not sure what I should be doing. I don’t want to make this about me - I just want to make sure my wife has the support and comfort that she needs. I also want to make sure that if there are any signs that I should be looking for (depression?) that I know now.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance for your help.

———

Edit:  Wow. Thank you all for your responses, advice, kind words. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it. It was a long night, but it went as well as it could. Lots of crying, but there were some laughs and smiles mixed into it. Pretty sure my son saved the day again. After he woke up, we pulled him into bed, and did all of his cute cuddling, jibberish talking, etc.

I’ve responded to a few and plan in responding to everyone once I get the time. Maybe in a couple of days, I’ll see if my wife wants to read the response. Plan for today is everyone stay home, wear pajamas, and relax.

This sub is amazing. Thank you all for your help. You are all wonderful.",3.082139576233516,4.977326866498744,3.8252844865906077,88.43426396503187,75.04534005037783,7.290235590457847,23.76715068899096,8.124751697461798,1.2522429100607493,1574,48,323,26,34,500,206,397,0.08800000000000001,0.695,0.217,0.9964,1,0,0,0,0,0,62,8,7,1,4,14,25,0,0,20,0,41,4,3,5,9,80,73,25,0,14,10,6,2,1,0,6,0,0,2,1,30,25,0,2,9,3,0,4,9,4,2,0,23,5,46,21,41,39,11,40,0,2,3,1,42,13,0,7,22,225,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880078713281622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692980325415785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083638335158007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563694623159357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864163463018041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680657223062633,0.10644166878679263,0.10566939440631046,0.18611997475126948,0.0,0.08285551675795286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844433381663177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728661356142677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18384333368518996,0.0,0.0,0.0906872635929332,0.0,0.04864078727109026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109530989657565,0.0,0.0,0.050259678877182856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289594818219208,0.0,0.09649481055307256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017580093116288,0.10573621878465246,0.07841451252542876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04699766534364403,0.09641604086443947,0.0,0.08513253194665084,0.08078240421823793,0.0,0.1050118866997882,0.08178441570436723,0.0,0.0,0.1926394807106608,0.0,0.09664419451511183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071687207417686,0.07132987383985756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027565537317793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244812649993347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786832816285386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622440454719196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533152951206838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253466484639392,0.07682414406508346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916477243159993,0.4533291352812309,0.0,0.0,0.07732060740490562,0.08408161715683463,0.2656996085642334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637076182741892,0.05609404426261012,0.0,0.18236961676457292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014589776731699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937373152729925,0.22696116864563615,0.07635778994981304,0.15432906268616706,0.0,0.17298777859904044,0.1783537090459737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432303077942724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833656333273676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ReaverKS,2018/03/07,"School fundraising seems overly aggressive Our oldest is in kindergarten this year and the fundraising feels very aggressive and borderline manipulative.  I knew from being a kid that we did some fundraising but it seems like this is on a whole new level.  Of course we've gotten the standard fundraising packets 3-5 times already this year where they want our son to sell some small trinket like items and that seems to be normal.  Where it feels like they've gone too far is in two cases.

1)In the first case we opened up our sons folder and there was a really nice picture that he drew in there.  The nicest picture he'd ever done maybe.  It was a butterfly and it was drawn really well, and the colors were very vibrant, and he was inside the lines for everything.  We started celebrating his drawing with him and how nice it was and put it on the refrigerator.  Then as we were unpacking his backpack noticed there was a pamphlet in there that essentially sold a bunch of different items that had his drawing printed on it.  This one I'm kind of torn on, because the end result was a nice picture by him that we got to keep...but then he really wanted us to buy a bunch of items that had his drawing all over it.  It felt very manipulative.

2) This one gets us even worse.  Today we got a pamphlet with his pictures on it.  Not just a picture or two, a whole set of pictures.  And bookmarks with his picture on it.  It was a massive packet of pictures.  The kicker is, they sent you all of the stuff, and if they don't get it back within 7 days then you get charged the full package.  Now my son is a bit forgetful, and there's already been two incidences of where he forgot to close his packback and when walking up our driveway has dropped things on the driveway unbeknownst to us or him until much later and as a result papers have been ruined.  Had he done that today and lost the pictures we'd be getting charged.  This feels overly aggressive.

How would you guys handle this?  Is there any way to knock this stuff off?  I understand the school benefits at least somewhat from all of this, and I'd be fine with doing a fundraiser where the school gets to keep 100% so that we can have a lot less of this crap going on.  ",5.450036544850499,6.243230797674425,5.437425249169436,83.43168604651164,67.76744186046511,8.096345514950167,29.543189368770765,8.07648339933343,1.8844584717607973,1753,61,341,21,28,548,202,430,0.065,0.8320000000000001,0.104,0.9713,1,0,0,0,0,0,38,15,3,3,2,21,16,4,0,31,0,37,1,1,6,4,66,65,30,0,5,6,3,4,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,35,29,0,2,9,0,3,5,2,6,1,6,28,5,35,10,49,30,19,58,0,2,1,0,43,30,1,10,23,254,70,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036977544420184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276317929477326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096849577119507,0.0,0.05626165037812701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007612956131146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059522084231786565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642773125511146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889789569571294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174521263795209,0.0,0.0,0.06095940824025906,0.08348533249693071,0.0,0.0,0.08294802080609599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000006913967458,0.06593495121035846,0.0886168469156985,0.0,0.0,0.07850534732717716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410993911525193,0.0,0.0524528860075748,0.0,0.14763210808007007,0.0,0.0,0.09138570789024256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407054247579514,0.0,0.09611014297062744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527076280330058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074995508413566,0.07846517635049688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272186761462714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784681152841583,0.0,0.0,0.08913825438827779,0.0,0.0,0.09042866013713008,0.0,0.10507748876180326,0.0,0.0,0.12508179410365705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278110132081893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773779659532847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802197874877097,0.0,0.2520633529540101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532626648826696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113094155268304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131612478231916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05381745455257005,0.0,0.17496810385160724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704738882768028,0.09608145343357573,0.3330554553489753,0.0,0.0,0.22845699103847555,0.1088749486630112,0.07325879145244464,0.0,0.0,0.0829835148747636,0.0,0.0,0.2060862199454725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405561236090053,0.06556310816565213,0.0,0.0,0.11886879882873835
parenting,Bambers12,2018/03/07,Live in nanny ins and outs. DH has a friend who has hit a rough patch in another state and has asked me to consider moving her and her toddler daughter out here to be a live in nanny for our 2 kids (4 & 9 mos). We would be giving free room and board for her help. I feel like we should also pay her a little something for her and her kid to get by but don’t know how much. She would only need to nanny 4 days a week the rest of the time she would be “off work”. I would like for her to submit a drug test just in case. I know nothing about hiring a nanny so please give advice on how to proceed. ,1.5510687022900775,2.4527769694656487,3.2106030534351158,95.37666793893128,77.01526717557252,5.850687022900764,18.44351145038168,5.6839178017228535,-0.4919319083969462,457,7,112,2,10,152,84,131,0.009000000000000001,0.858,0.132,0.9272,0,0,2,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,9,0,12,1,0,2,0,22,21,10,0,6,2,1,2,2,1,5,1,0,1,2,1,9,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,16,5,22,12,2,17,0,0,0,0,21,11,0,0,6,74,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843290796552116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784008488342772,0.0,0.1867572112738987,0.0,0.0,0.18073954332634048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113783986469676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116105000060487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998884698659997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715283235670389,0.12313746238690987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331686329452592,0.0,0.090053504748438,0.33069608424012403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553250605704415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894543955140228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841748987420413,0.17275483225885005,0.3044025891917021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183196526454344,0.12670797580478935,0.1278063305625152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538869421856395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109121323985082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892048130038667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326948599998092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005073131029363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826066232329387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254836423641545,0.0,0.0,0.4897720931018797,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IsitPretzelDay,2018/03/07,"Advice About Niece, Her BFF, and School Hey all! I'd love some advice on how to help my 9 yo niece. I'm in grad school, and I live with my sister and her two daughters, so I'm also responsible for them. We found out yesterday that my niece's best friend (we're also friends with her family) is switching schools due to an on-going bullying issue that the school has not been handling well. They talked about switching schools for a while, but I guess they've finally said enough is enough. Niece is obviously heartbroken, and did not take it well at all. Thankfully, she had a snow day today, but she's already stating that she hopes it doesn't stop snowing because she doesn't want to go back to school. She has other friends there, but she told me that she doesn't want to go back because 1.) She's upset and they've been inseparable for a few years now, 2.) She doesn't know what to do/say when the other kids ask her about why said friend left, and 3.) She isn't sure how to act in front of the child who caused this. She said she knows it's wrong to be mean to someone, but she wants to yell and scream at the child because it's their fault her bff had to leave. So far, I told her that she does not have to answer any questions and if she doesn't want to talk about it she can just tell the other kids ""I don't want to talk about it"". As for the other kid, I told her to stay away from said student, and let the adults handle it. Did I do ok? Or is there something else I should say to her? ",4.322624852866992,4.269445980830675,4.55742054817555,91.72954598957459,70.0223642172524,7.739633428619473,24.780393475702034,7.0608816371341465,0.6401667731629392,1164,26,275,9,19,364,155,313,0.107,0.765,0.128,0.8759,0,0,1,0,0,0,40,1,0,3,1,20,16,0,1,11,1,25,1,0,3,4,46,51,24,0,8,10,2,0,0,4,1,0,7,0,6,19,13,0,1,6,0,0,4,10,4,2,1,14,7,39,12,37,34,7,27,0,0,0,1,58,9,0,6,12,173,58,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638692976061122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252762306871626,0.1341053726652869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05701906545105352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783859429708337,0.0,0.07877733463854618,0.128946855491037,0.0,0.15333767798288694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799260882201143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613431348707742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05407459683735289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337537098857952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004369228989413,0.0,0.0,0.17327342902459594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790438085480747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185066093875943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193427889785658,0.2591209830370309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295712425509444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923672964280254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056201103593477214,0.0,0.0,0.08327932617538841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751483720732285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216060892218483,0.0,0.0,0.08878222490784397,0.09110037865148146,0.08573958448227711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740387360802101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567549664583527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133433235339658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392820852326572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190320791736421,0.1333575379763861,0.0,0.509147897954641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104357784518563,0.06454977761400799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937010663414621,0.0,0.07010012944993489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902512427605356,0.0,0.06304276364773682,0.202179943899326,0.07328626959999318,0.0771953640771456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947747291852325,0.24035917550473446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190666625317726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472766633857133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077765400570325,0.0,0.0756591814079398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167390211150303,0.0,0.053994936973089096
parenting,ImOnTheSpectrum,2018/03/07,"2yr old with nightmares I did a quick search and had trouble finding anything. SO, if this is a repost, I apologize and will delete if necessary...

My 2yr old daughter has recently become scared of the dark and of monsters. She has slept through the entire night since she was maybe 6mos old and this has become a new ""issue"".  It's fine. I get it...monsters are scary. I don't care about my sleep. My wife and I have no problems waking up with her to comfort her, we would just rather not see her be scared.

Any tips on helping her not be scared? 

The main thing I see is to just reinforce the fact that they are not real and there is nothing to be scared of. As a young kid no one could convince me of anything if I believed it to be true, so part of me thinks that telling her that is just falling on deaf ears.

We have 3 dogs. All are very protective and have eyes on every door and window of the house at all times of the day.  Is it worth tell her that the dogs are ""monster hunters"" and they scare all of the monsters away?

Please help.",2.7453136325620298,4.2479936066350685,3.063858377474215,95.20293560078062,75.01895734597157,5.91257318093114,24.26010593810984,6.2272716619740125,0.4059342626149984,805,25,180,5,17,247,120,211,0.14300000000000002,0.7709999999999999,0.086,-0.9299,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,2,0,2,0,9,12,0,5,12,0,26,6,5,0,5,34,32,15,0,7,10,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,1,10,13,0,1,2,0,1,1,6,7,0,1,4,5,24,5,23,21,5,17,0,0,3,0,20,6,0,3,10,126,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974227919074947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19299350669644766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017164457110516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25901365104474405,0.0,0.13211428121824073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955657119083404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362428048841516,0.0,0.0,0.07562438219603862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879841401842604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071754754757306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126463056215821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719668704238604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530477056543266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223912129515688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780558501804655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132525096382114,0.0,0.11004257883759212,0.0,0.1125161900001879,0.0,0.3691406843721473,0.0,0.0794598637223935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269834751269078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287186212423918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220403546350403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346999212451888,0.0,0.0,0.11578222085160862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.586999314780731,0.0,0.1868854939970805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700045748991692,0.0,0.11734682958361868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049845652524007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790375816245038,0.0751368472074179,0.0,0.0,0.06837649931834952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967535497041856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329966287087252,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ineveremember,2018/03/07,"12 year-old being bullied. Very vocal teacher My 12-year-old has come to me crying at three different points due to people bullying him. He would not give me further information though other then the fact he has been punched in the head, taunted and beaten up. 

I called his teacher today to see if he could help to stop the issue but let him know I didn't want my son being called out on it, nor did I want the others to know that my son had told me. I just wanted it stopped if it was seen and the teacher let me know he would look into it. 

I got many angry texts from my son right before the end of school because the teacher brought him up to his desk in class and asked him all about it with other students listening. My son has been crying non-stop and is very angry with me.

I don't know what to do. 

Any advice would be appreciated ",4.406670190274838,4.800834825581396,5.052367864693448,86.68967230443977,69.93023255813954,7.417336152219874,26.101479915433412,6.980632752743323,0.9975976744186048,658,18,140,5,11,212,102,172,0.156,0.809,0.034,-0.9602,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,7,0,21,1,1,0,2,30,38,10,0,9,5,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,2,5,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,10,4,22,0,20,19,1,19,0,0,3,0,22,11,0,2,6,94,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633458106426618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791738112833816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086285120170512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881017205919369,0.0,0.11001094629857552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26402632047167435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136650027221348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322255187711377,0.0,0.2840242502471492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507399872591536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450702618416235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402075035901396,0.0,0.0,0.10340002258247953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268242254206686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665617027172193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493864265007016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842038646384633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264402780616757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856578633839964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107342733261473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27132308872427674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962907166457809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221492889222912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040761334236317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084205385534878,0.10302240774806637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32426100371390226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270206247865377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254587518087565,0.12353616036658732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334526153973465,0.22876471040397095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755183931084632,0.0,0.0,0.16650898836420552
parenting,scantron3000,2018/03/07,"Helping preschooler with writing My 4 year old is just terrible with letters. Recognizing them and writing them. I bought a wipe-away workbook to use with her so she can practice, but she refuses to let me show her how to write the letters. For instance, we were going over B's. I showed her with my finger that you draw a line down, then go back to the top of the line and draw two bumps. She went to trace over the B and just made a rectangle. I tried to show her the two bumps again and she pushed my hand away and said, ""I can do it, Mommy!"" then drew another rectangle! And when I point to various letters to ask if she knows what letter that is, she guesses H for all of them. I'm regularly reading alphabet books with her, pointing out letters, trying to get her to write, but nothing seems to stick. Does anyone have any tips? ",3.9010642570281138,5.048448644578318,4.519457831325305,87.29898594377514,71.59036144578313,7.702008032128515,28.29116465863454,8.07648339933343,1.6831742971887549,649,24,136,9,12,207,100,166,0.013,0.933,0.054000000000000006,0.7673,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,1,3,1,8,1,0,0,8,0,8,2,2,3,1,30,21,14,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,13,0,1,2,5,1,4,0,1,0,2,5,3,26,0,25,15,2,19,0,0,0,0,30,8,0,3,7,93,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564211026134145,0.19373538834834406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918743351976889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272424954307528,0.0,0.3471733703965131,0.14206787595778447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168340149537833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652868649262247,0.0,0.21000501763422005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353230889612126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383972270752587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153843540186937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889280759350787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748229524910749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728075612653907,0.0,0.1938729577271001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34931298849869885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848084903640714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574763524863746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819719215705042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508777765293076,0.0,0.3609644006303316,0.0,0.0,0.1595720162080422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127297318558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897841136225945
parenting,Esotericgirl,2018/03/07,"Are any other KC parents concerned that our children are now responsible for their own literacy? (X-Post from /r/kansascity) My child's 5th grade teacher has been consistently not correcting spelling/grammar/punctuation on writing assignments done at home. When expressing my disbelief and frustration at this, I received the following reply:

>""Good morning,

>We do not do spelling here at <school name>. 
This is a district decision, not a personal decision. However, <student> is supposed to be correcting spelling and punctuation on homework assignments. It is wonderful that you are helping with this. I have not, nor ever told the students this is not important as it is required for homework and to receive points. It is on the homework rubric glued to the back of <student's> notebook. When we are publishing a writing assignment here in class, editing and revising is part of the process.

>Thank you, 

><Teacher's name here>""

This kind of curriculum is putting the onus of spelling, punctuating, and being grammatically correct squarely onto the students who don't know what they are doing incorrectly! I understand that parents can help with this and am not opposed to helping kids with their homework at times. However, why are the most basic building blocks of literacy no longer considered an essential part of learning while attending elementary school?

**Edit: This is a public school in NKC Schools. As for the ""revising"" in the classroom, I've seen a LOT of my child's work during specific nights set up to show that sort of thing at school. I have not seen the corrections in spelling/grammar/punctuation the teacher mentions, so I'm not certain what the in-class revisions actually consist of. Please note that the work shown on those special school nights is almost exclusively made up of things that were worked on ONLY at school.**",8.917238095238098,10.748654565079367,7.941269841269842,64.84428571428573,60.492063492063494,11.460317460317464,44.523809523809526,11.303756567709739,5.851000000000001,1528,93,217,43,21,472,179,315,0.036000000000000004,0.904,0.06,0.8233,4,0,0,0,0,0,72,2,2,3,4,8,4,1,0,20,0,30,0,0,1,6,41,39,13,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,23,10,0,3,6,1,0,5,11,1,0,0,7,3,14,3,42,30,5,34,0,0,3,0,27,19,0,5,9,159,37,26,0.0,0.0,0.1006289276006566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325843276801376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012421825973733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792918769084562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552618123724004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327672280599468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649103139915172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735477284577025,0.0,0.10343641398237942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738220591078462,0.05667131339216098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766778888540526,0.0,0.09757336017196673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19353973562287724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842638022008107,0.0,0.0,0.2290021156680285,0.22333489876502524,0.0,0.0,0.09003922792724504,0.0,0.1131933120258875,0.09748045538033588,0.0,0.09875916231256206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366272506437108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7305310550706516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493779872335008,0.0,0.0,0.1370148983971151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060129314219463,0.0,0.0,0.09853428936731827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735015158561197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304854277132672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182777744988012,0.2252148165593494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bearedforbeards,2018/03/07,"Kids having accidents. My son is 4 1/2, he has been potty trained for almost two years, lately over the past few weeks he has been having multiple accidents and full on pooping and peeing in his pants, he does it at school, at daycare and at home. We have had talks with him about it and he says he will go to the potty when he needs to but he isn’t going. 

Is this normal at this age? I have read this can be a sign of sexual abuse and of course started freaking out and figured I would ask y’all before going crazy. 

Any advice would be helpful. Thanks! ",2.8541494591937067,4.3214093805309775,3.8217109144542754,90.0256243854474,74.6637168141593,6.438151425762046,21.40511307767945,6.937597516519254,0.4236694198623394,432,10,91,4,9,139,81,113,0.131,0.8079999999999999,0.061,-0.8244,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,18,2,2,0,0,17,25,8,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,5,9,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,1,7,1,15,17,2,19,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,1,7,59,12,2,0.0,0.2474517240374691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20408466920072196,0.0,0.0,0.2091319449829196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420243728472359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524547276258733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17771498029017174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827650271825654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560808258739888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399869750239594,0.0,0.20949241488869794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355905881947465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485876845365862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046275202706513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993698493999984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20890535733764776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608498004764946,0.0,0.21136617586144685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782428380297422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678647864384956,0.0,0.19227995203081807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040149696350456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675259417803215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967204473632417,0.0,0.0,0.13449180550165118
parenting,SSTralala,2018/03/07,"Autism, Bullying, and Teacher Culpability We are currently dealing with some issues this year with my son's first grade class. He has an IEP for his emotional and social needs as part of his Autism diagnosis (He is a level 1, meaning he needs minor supports to function like reminders about keeping calm and help with coordination) We had a good kindergarten year with an amazing and supportive teacher. He's been meeting most emotional and self-regulation goals 70-80% of the time last report. This year is a complete spin around in teacher and general classroom comfort however.

 There's a program where one child from each classroom and each grade level is chosen as 'Leaders', showing kindness, respect, general role model attributes. The kid who is the Leader in my son's room uses his position to hush my son any time he talks and has told him things like,""You talk too much"" and ""Your teeth are yellow, you probably have cavities."" This same child took an opportunity at Parent Day to point a finger passive-aggressively at my son when the teacher was talking about how sometimes we can have trouble remembering to listen and raise hands. When my son saw this, he was upset, and HE was the one taken aside for being upset, not the other child for instigating. I was so shocked it happened, and the child's father didn't correct him.

Any conference with his teacher feels like she's not really 'there' and is kind of flaky. I'm wondering if her lack of command in the classroom allows this to happen. I've emailed her and his IEP support team, but I'm not totally sure how I address this towards goals for change in the classroom. Any ideas would be appreciated. Right now he feels sad and unimportant and that he'll never be a Leader because he gets tattled on for crying. There isn't a great balance of discipline from my view.",7.180842164759077,8.055835890207717,7.020500211954218,73.31165182987144,63.98516320474777,9.505101031510527,35.928924685601245,9.48565724429506,3.4926426169280766,1473,67,246,26,21,467,194,337,0.086,0.823,0.09,-0.6912,3,0,0,0,0,0,38,3,2,0,5,14,20,0,2,19,0,24,3,3,5,4,58,46,25,0,5,5,7,4,2,0,2,0,2,2,5,11,27,0,2,6,2,0,1,6,5,0,3,11,9,23,15,35,30,9,29,0,1,3,0,50,15,0,4,15,157,34,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045186695521064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055915454027714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885991921434548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194976593938671,0.0,0.11843735970682767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408224989182848,0.07285043869356073,0.11645773294403115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254131627974552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423285531285796,0.0806992930927641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960844880751171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901741056584715,0.0,0.0,0.09474624770854888,0.0,0.12453979653426075,0.0,0.0,0.1997819104402757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571531349853505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275191120807557,0.0,0.11790183664106482,0.0,0.10040484259176123,0.0,0.23526279930137095,0.0,0.09207821425486576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556097690158553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304754115396818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303926261313431,0.16751815944960588,0.08712241374422057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530904653396333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542971696529912,0.12232565214017267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678456740311268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179096114728973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236564826341381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796268493691812,0.09646799565027624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784285975852635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514941713118128,0.0,0.0,0.1117212234341672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845600889929994,0.10646431611205112,0.0,0.0,0.2723810896345171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750462059088247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173682420992122,0.0,0.0,0.10793898554750424,0.12550372181033698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975619532136678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250128286788745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024418589546709,0.0,0.0,0.21822935772700225
parenting,MegBundy,2018/03/07,"How do you discipline a two year old? My two and a half year old son recently started misbehaving and hitting. He recently started preschool, which was very stressful for him.  We have a seven month old daughter, too.  She takes up a lot of my time and attention.  I feel like he is going through a lot emotionally. How do I respond when he kicks, hit or throws things?",2.8810000000000002,5.347857099999999,3.818571428571431,85.49642857142858,78.0,7.428571428571428,30.0,8.418075326091056,2.433571428571429,287,14,56,6,7,92,51,70,0.096,0.868,0.036000000000000004,-0.6313,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,0,5,0,0,2,0,12,12,7,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,1,1,8,1,4,9,2,15,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,3,13,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20285085679902695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118200973053586,0.12883025129467346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248765429320753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810181370612022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066260974354764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439404377246044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5676888550237844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35611504865227483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25528188535321383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065713554187522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558831013321945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980552983075132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515388374107168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35231915047279416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487939806593701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322576561154187
parenting,hillsiggy,2018/03/07,"I never thought I'd be a 'yeller'. How to reduce the yelling when I've lost my cool. I'm a mom of two: one 2.5 year old boy and a 6 month old baby girl. My son is generally pretty well behaved, but he is going through his terrible 2s right now. Normally when he whines or doesnt listen i can handle it, but lately ive been losing my cool, and raising my voice more than id like. I dont know why i do this. It never gets the results i expect, and i feel like a failure after.  I think it's mainly do to sleep deprivation because i tend to lose my cool before ive had my multiple cups of coffee. Anyways, i grew up in a household with constant yelling and i told myself i wasn't going to be that kind of parent. How do you all contain yourselves when you've lost your patience???",3.196297918948524,3.561908180722895,5.009912376779848,86.02254654983574,72.6144578313253,7.241182913472071,27.13910186199343,6.980632752743323,1.1934409638554222,602,20,132,5,11,207,108,166,0.166,0.725,0.109,-0.9118,1,0,0,0,2,0,19,0,2,0,4,8,14,0,0,7,3,15,1,1,3,3,22,28,12,0,2,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,2,5,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,5,7,1,2,7,8,23,7,13,19,3,19,0,6,0,0,12,3,0,1,15,83,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823115171446188,0.0,0.1371206491972916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741381135808565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18885815475709175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147863858280438,0.11512044442529172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419045908320881,0.0,0.18316232704309748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780542291231348,0.08855986548338117,0.0,0.18177609082413387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745245928806406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605551361183672,0.3518127910070177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872849307233194,0.12862264099544296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485665141604101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788572453109848,0.0,0.0,0.33818451090415635,0.0,0.10919452780654867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17893000307432064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394015365421374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761506583844754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612591696701793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032537959082175,0.0,0.12792937882664787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397884554899532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741309503929465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488672452152795,0.0,0.1454063076715843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377067623669634
parenting,0MixedMotives0,2018/03/07,Extremely difficult to co-parent with other side My ex takes our children around child molesters specifically her family members becomes extremely upset with me when I question her parenting skills for this I truly find it hard to let go of the fact that I know that their child molesters  are around my children I feel like if I don't voice this and something happens to my children that I'm culpable. I feel if I never drop it I'll never be able to see my kids again because of her vindictiveness in regards to outing the Family secret... ,7.249117647058824,7.6498941078431395,7.467450980392157,71.80352941176474,63.80392156862745,10.329411764705883,35.627450980392155,10.125756701596842,3.7504392156862743,437,19,73,9,6,142,68,102,0.129,0.797,0.07400000000000001,-0.7001,2,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,4,5,2,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,3,16,12,4,0,2,2,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,8,5,0,0,6,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,5,17,1,13,10,0,10,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,3,5,51,25,0,0.21398774921717986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809889296813643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044494576031265,0.23633265684676175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40345721107996185,0.0,0.21639727123332256,0.15287289079752728,0.0,0.0,0.19558092606955935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161416922973915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892286599273577,0.0,0.19169099182115268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760207070665445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21881697168814415,0.0,0.10454360532879488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300810882451569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23760807176290166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397152525202869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705205310388054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473822384292086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608921563073433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LigneClaire12,2018/03/07,"How to tell my daughter she’s getting a half sibling? My daughter lives with her mother far away.  While we talk daily and have as good a relationship as possible, I’m realistically not physically a presence in her life.
My now gf is pregnant, meaning my daughter will have a half sibling about a decade younger than her far away who she will likely never meet.
I don’t want her to feel in any way cast aside, or feel like she’s forgotten or second place.  Do I tell her, and if so how do I tell her, I’m expecting another one?
She currently has no siblings.
I positively adore her and she is very sensitive and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.",3.604418604651162,5.105950720930236,5.082860465116282,81.59731395348838,72.7984496124031,8.26077519379845,29.95426356589148,8.841846274778883,2.382887751937984,509,22,103,10,10,171,77,129,0.078,0.821,0.101,0.7018,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,2,1,20,20,13,0,4,4,4,3,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,4,0,3,23,4,12,18,0,12,0,1,0,0,26,7,0,3,6,71,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796758301353114,0.19732117949592864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535990998869176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28544555375994723,0.1344344954687043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831530747325022,0.0,0.0,0.15783488950281435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20144858285034575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291578008409222,0.1838686606047122,0.0,0.16616473859422315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049811526190626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513457660969506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275143726807201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966060968046365,0.0,0.0,0.21214257012704135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203289062128726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512504548548333,0.4934279463159391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526666693344876,0.2219846761696485,0.14936704261956307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parent1231,2018/03/07,Writing skill My child wants to write and publish stories for others to see. What website would be good? I found a few but most of them require some sort of school approval. I just need a place where we would publish a short story. Preferably along the other kids work. ,3.4335294117647024,5.970798235294121,2.7330980392156867,93.63494117647059,76.45098039215686,4.08,25.88627450980392,3.1291,0.3002439215686272,214,8,40,0,5,62,44,51,0.0,0.8859999999999999,0.114,0.6869,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,17,7,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,6,3,3,3,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,3,0,28,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851873396371465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29465761444347155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604878949466207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670385150709245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555389905450635,0.2799442669614749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207208543463354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25575391849376883,0.0,0.0,0.4991133888837556,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AnnaLemma,2018/03/07,"[Meta] Who counts as a parent/guardian, for the purposes of this subreddit For a while now someone has been consistently reporting posts by grandparents and pregnant folks as ""Only parents or guardians may post."" 

Whoever is doing this - please stop. This subreddit has a very deliberately broad definition of the term ""parents/guardians,"" including (but not automatically limited to):

- Biological parents

- Step-parents

- Adopted parents

- Grandparents

- Great-grandparents, up to and including whatever generation is still alive to post here

- Expecting parents

- Parents who miscarried or otherwise no longer have living children

- Foster-parents

- Family members who have taken on the official role of legal guardians

- Non-family members who have taken on the official role of legal guardian

- People who are in the process of obtaining legal guardianship

- People who are not legal guardians but who, through some other circumstance, ended up with full responsibility for a child

This is really the key distinction: we do not typically allow posts from babysitters/siblings/nannies/teachers because they are not in a position of total responsibility (although they are *very welcome* in discussions, and we do sometimes make exceptions if the post is particularly relevant or discussion-worthy); we do not typically allow posts from kids and teenagers because all too often it is an attempt to circumvent the parents (although again, they are welcome to participate in ongoing discussions). 

We do, however, have weekly Ask Parents Everything threads dedicated to discussions from *anyone*, and I'd also like to give a quick shout-out to /r/AskParents.

Thanks for reading everyone - feel free to use the comments to discuss this or any other subreddit-related issues.",12.132134292565947,12.932638928057553,11.120733812949641,48.34237170263794,53.60431654676259,14.751462829736214,50.90743405275778,13.662883650711644,7.972874052757794,1434,90,170,51,15,459,157,278,0.026,0.868,0.106,0.9652,16,0,0,0,0,0,62,4,0,3,3,8,5,0,0,16,0,23,0,0,4,3,37,31,18,0,2,13,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,15,10,0,2,1,1,1,0,6,0,0,0,3,1,7,6,37,27,5,25,0,0,0,0,35,10,0,8,10,131,22,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675881578686664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747441016920845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909620212027844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901191999846496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304147135192557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485691345330044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075954789046573,0.0759583664196344,0.0,0.15935007836030715,0.0,0.042734298930590144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107633990168321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318021298292664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821371605718317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04129070256699615,0.0,0.07462999704084318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05641570662800464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427893325184172,0.0,0.0,0.7507683851402177,0.0,0.0,0.1171867942794058,0.0,0.0,0.09277420847231592,0.0,0.0,0.4856631340997329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453980083463332,0.0,0.054143709123351993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161091997320425,0.0,0.08358940422264942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749532895647171,0.0706599373568955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781183334089999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299549085885178,0.0,0.13947063609063098,0.0,0.0,0.06779438274458485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,charcuterie_bored,2018/03/07,"Toddler bedroom on second floor, would you install bars/a window guard to prevent falls? My husband and I moved into a new apartment and all the bedrooms are upstairs. Our 2 year old’s room has a double window that sits pretty low to the ground with a wide windowsill that will be very tempting for him to stand/sit on. 

I felt like installing a guardian angel window guard would be a no brainer but my husband disagrees and thinks it’s pointless and that as long as the window is closed, there is no danger. 

What are your thoughts? What would you do in our situation? Please weigh in, especially would like to hear from those who have a toddler with a bedroom that is higher than ground level. ",6.587727272727275,7.083583984848487,5.773787878787882,83.05568181818184,65.21212121212122,7.206060606060608,32.40909090909091,5.985473137389443,1.7383454545454544,554,21,101,2,8,167,87,132,0.105,0.8109999999999999,0.083,-0.6046,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,10,0,15,1,0,0,1,20,19,7,0,4,1,2,1,2,0,5,0,1,8,0,9,8,1,3,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,2,2,10,2,16,10,2,21,1,1,0,0,10,14,0,0,6,71,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21049090183976388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470831214359381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142050550283156,0.0,0.0,0.1940077082233021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23300205969973614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117293969222352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23004033120694575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406438156238252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22303119172374497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24641869716553805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047087695173807,0.0,0.17404059457188595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808840333374908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.622926147590627,0.0,0.0,0.14117406304172034
parenting,chrisv25,2018/03/07,"Not sure how to help my daughter. My 12 year old is very upset because of her inability to make friends. She is telling me that because of her hobbies, kids call her a nerd. She has a few friends with similar hobbies (minecraft, anime) but their common interest isn't strong enough to form deep bonds and they fight frequently. She was really upset last night and I feel terrible and helpless. 

How would you approach this? I am telling her to try and find friends that don't have similar hobbies but she says all the other kids just thing she is a ""weeb and a furry"" and I think she is just to scared to try. I want to help her build her confidence but I was never much in that department but I had good friends.

Thanks in advance ;)",3.0417482517482526,5.1933186293706335,3.38811188811189,90.36370629370631,75.99300699300699,6.917482517482518,27.78321678321679,7.882392219407189,1.6604937062937064,576,24,118,9,13,178,86,143,0.16699999999999998,0.62,0.213,0.8434,0,0,0,0,1,0,16,0,1,2,2,4,16,1,3,5,0,13,0,0,3,3,25,18,12,0,2,7,1,1,0,4,1,0,1,0,2,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,3,2,24,9,12,14,5,13,0,1,0,0,29,3,0,0,7,81,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140348346889703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926248724989172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139646216670285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876647904142118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16045516725704348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5425370740415545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724819384826407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534321261164656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310171716255846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718511278576353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905399141387253,0.0,0.135399748040683,0.0,0.0,0.1647475816123677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842166782696006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246578372396054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396093199537497,0.17576236133282253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654596212085734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068876770239688,0.16162854302695295,0.0,0.0,0.11663172465923725,0.1124893109390796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383822436388818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448522335131907,0.10354758295500212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247100727015466,0.0,0.0,0.11305242352469567
parenting,BeeHoleLickHer,2018/03/07,"Having extreme potty training issues with my 3.5 year old. Please give me peace of mind or advice. My son is about 3.5 years old, he's been ""mostly"" potty trained for months now, we just can't crack this last puzzle, and let me explain what ""mostly means"". He will wear underwear all day long, all night long, not pee the bed, hold it until he gets to a potty, he's totally got this down pat. The problem we are having is pooping on the potty. What has been the pattern up until about a week ago, is he will sit on the potty, go pee, we will tell him to sit there and try to poop (it's usually around the same time of day that he will normally go poop), he will squeeze out a small piece of poop, say he's ""done"" and refuse to try anymore. If we allow him to go to his room to take a nap, he will poop his pants within 10 minutes of getting off the potty. We have thus started having him just sit on the potty for as long as it takes. I kid you not, a few days ago, he spent a collective 5 hours, on and off, sitting on the potty and just refused to poop. The same story the next day, 3-4 hours on and off. We have tried putting his potty in his room, hoping maybe it's the environment? And he would just be more comfortable doing it alone in his room, he refused to even pee in it while in his room. We had issues while he was still in diapers, he would poop and then play with it. No matter what. It was absolutely disgusting, he would put it anywhere and everywhere he could reach, including all over his own body. We broken that habit, thank god... but him insistently pooping his pants, instead of pooping on the potty, is proving to be a harder task to take. We have been told he probably has some deep rooted psychological issue and should talk to a child therapist, but he just doesn't talk well enough yet to even tell me why he won't poop on the potty, there's no way he could communicate something like this to a therapist. We have tried every approach we can think of: lavish rewards for pooping on the potty, along with the other end of the spectrum of punishment for intentionally pooping in his pants. We are spending so much time and energy trying to get him to just poop that it's ruining our daily experience as a family. Please someone tell me they've had a similar experience and how they solved it, or just some kind words would help greatly at the point in time.

Tl;dr - my son will pee on the potty all day, every day, even hold it over night. He will sit on the potty for up to 5 hours to try to poop, refuses, and poops his pants instantly upon leaving potty. Help.",6.097047894302229,5.397300763005784,6.5765008257638335,80.92645231213875,66.41811175337187,9.57228186072117,29.518373245251865,8.841846274778883,2.0526107349298104,2012,57,419,28,28,657,231,519,0.049,0.872,0.08,0.9475,0,1,1,0,0,0,74,13,1,1,1,22,13,2,0,31,0,46,21,21,5,6,85,65,28,0,11,14,2,1,1,0,14,0,1,5,2,22,31,0,6,4,2,2,6,7,4,1,0,11,2,38,9,74,35,17,88,0,1,0,0,70,38,0,9,39,272,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591839715594005,0.1377361348215986,0.0,0.0,0.08046407584848826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704824173114277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916114361918355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629679024175191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405931333828445,0.0,0.0,0.30062422518804083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950450137694294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881084986993906,0.08027520220950901,0.0,0.15394181089817072,0.0,0.1309154349501688,0.0,0.0,0.15199271298722636,0.0732398239052072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177046317176482,0.07452794398822354,0.13246014835013875,0.0,0.06213630436116765,0.08565420815028828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414880067326504,0.0,0.0,0.07716433830892784,0.22952890122170103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432665398046532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090284929859967,0.0,0.06332824325534721,0.0,0.08226317326559758,0.0,0.07944394614245298,0.0,0.0379557238508691,0.0,0.0,0.20626132274862247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805069319898356,0.0846278859905134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844540229040924,0.0,0.0620119300094361,0.0,0.057111561785434375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826248801833884,0.1458148110441816,0.07612033482859734,0.0,0.0,0.16304652165559974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056199184524334,0.07344276944493397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376365328382257,0.07433945297507122,0.0,0.15620110897577866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178271756656392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582702967573557,0.05981005258235855,0.0,0.0,0.054989836968150345,0.0,0.06204384783568916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524108438865094,0.12488959190560983,0.20371513893748647,0.07152710598287856,0.0,0.18040964899591094,0.0,0.04978102700671367,0.0,0.0,0.1359061160682525,0.0,0.0,0.07423673872048989,0.0,0.31648108098737204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855652671838865,0.0,0.0,0.06166721619055331,0.06231874756595559,0.0,0.06985321830426235,0.0,0.07010372127703618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075681485957596,0.0,0.0,0.10006045377422873
parenting,TheBibleInTheDrawer,2018/03/07,"Kids' birthday parties My kids' birthday parties are this weekend. They are a year apart and wanted separate parties this year, which I agreed to. We sent out invitations 2 weeks ago to every kid in each of their classes (23 each) as well as some of their friends that they know outside of the classroom. Out of the 50+ people we've sent invitations to, only 6 have texted/called me. 2 of those 6 said they can't make it and the other 4 are coming. I am just really frustrated and disappointed at the lack of communication from other parents. I hand wrote each invitation and added a note asking each of them to call/text me and let me know if they are coming or not so I can have a good idea of how many kids we will have. This affects goodie bags, cake size, snacks, etc. For one of the parties, we rented out the roller skating rink for a couple of hours so the kids can have it to themselves and it was not cheap. For the other party, we are having it at home but renting a bounce house and bought a ton of games and activities for the kids to do during the party. This was also not cheap. Is this lack of communication normal? Was I expecting too much by thinking I'd get more responses? If a kid cannot come to the party, that's perfectly okay and I think it's reasonable to let me know in advance if you can or cannot come. All it takes is a simple text or phone call. I am worried that barely any kids will show up and my kids will be upset. I'm upset that I am blindly hosting these parties with no idea what to expect. I have taken my kids to every single party they've been invited to and made sure to tell the parents in advance that we are coming. I don't know.. this is a mix of venting and maybe just needing some support or advice if you have anything helpful to say. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of issue? ",4.5016129032258085,4.987828569892471,5.427043010752692,83.76056451612907,69.75268817204301,7.812903225806451,27.059139784946236,7.6454224807358475,1.39412688172043,1436,43,296,15,24,472,183,372,0.056,0.8079999999999999,0.136,0.9801,4,0,0,0,0,0,35,5,2,7,3,8,12,1,2,21,1,38,3,1,5,3,71,64,27,0,11,14,2,1,0,1,3,1,2,3,10,25,31,1,0,9,4,5,9,8,4,1,1,11,4,31,8,46,47,14,25,0,1,1,0,38,10,0,10,6,209,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871324464989343,0.09861734890974032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896742953319818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565453324866707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777893252843473,0.11398985422604575,0.09155014013467663,0.0,0.10400471985647894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22719953420233416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791646708250352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309717777255814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293598211907014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240743356686775,0.0,0.0,0.18746762631133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595229013105538,0.0,0.05812408520133922,0.0,0.0,0.09331210775800727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456923796961219,0.0,0.11159388033058308,0.0,0.10955988064167407,0.12836878212321362,0.0,0.25117780208643004,0.0,0.11611719885056028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158508553678542,0.2445626843149885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275234851230443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052684394137854,0.07426094396218846,0.11279110954950584,0.11176663921665757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178232709476585,0.08249124859313164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900241434306447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538659495222626,0.08461144148453789,0.0,0.0,0.24706226470362455,0.0,0.0,0.07712747462753226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127027541508052,0.11438461471878875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582523078159174,0.08847130526416293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624638031023516,0.10485280396527924,0.0,0.08364694897656275,0.0,0.09723832679935687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425703695189349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561875542415875,0.0,0.0892388868075911,0.0,0.10002806033292966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298084793249738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432840655025073
parenting,OpheliaImmortal3452,2018/03/07,"How to get (almost) two year old to take her medicine?! My sweet little girl will be two in April. She went to the doctor yesterday and has her second ever ear infection. We were given antibiotics she has to take twice a day for 10 days. 

Day one: minor problems but were able to sweet talk her into taking it from the provided syringe.

Day two (today): nightmare ensures. She will NOT take this medicine. We tried syringe form, cup form, using a straw, bribing her, explaining to her, letting her do it herself, using a spoon, putting some on her finger and letting her lick it off. Eventually I held her as my husband squirted it in her mouth and she just spit it all out down the front of her shirt.

It’s flavored like bubblegum and she has to take 5.4ml a day.

Any advice? I’m at a loss and we need her to get on board for the next 9.5 days!!! 

TLDR - two year old refuses to take medicine. Need advice ASAP. ",2.1162983770287127,4.4293320280898865,3.0498127340823977,90.81013732833958,79.84269662921349,5.5285892634207245,23.372034956304606,6.691623216298621,0.6978604244694129,703,24,141,7,18,223,105,178,0.027000000000000003,0.914,0.06,0.7893,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,3,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,9,0,11,7,5,3,2,26,28,8,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,7,10,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,2,0,7,5,6,24,3,23,18,4,28,0,1,0,0,26,10,0,2,16,95,31,1,0.10983839127230836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214665609459062,0.0,0.0,0.10998728273646984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469387258409779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42502005400347015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242424771835764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935511327237824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147720520547278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22463439370924893,0.0,0.05366148982420373,0.11008692363559798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288755074242878,0.0,0.0,0.11681437520748075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305138296682344,0.0,0.07442933656602511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510050644883996,0.0,0.11041792079590593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4955088040819276,0.08828393830036761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411395186015933,0.0,0.0,0.07457305769253557,0.0,0.42918459252228985,0.0,0.0,0.1897302078393766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182128913318304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146464557250266
parenting,thisisntshakespeare,2018/03/07,"Children and their parents who smoke Ugh, helped out in a kindergarten class yesterday and one of the little girls reeked of cigarette smoke!  It was disgusting.  And she was coughing the whole time that I saw her.  The poor child!  I know there are shitty parents out there, how can you knowingly expose your child to those smelly, disgusting things?  I wonder, legally, what can teachers/ school admin say (or give a little hint)  to parents to stop them from smoking around their children? ",6.196605042016808,8.671561635294116,4.6939495798319335,83.03705882352945,67.94117647058823,7.680672268907562,29.789915966386555,8.418075326091056,2.3478739495798324,389,15,64,6,7,112,63,85,0.247,0.738,0.015,-0.9697,3,0,3,0,0,0,14,0,2,3,0,4,4,2,0,5,0,5,1,0,1,0,12,10,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,6,6,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,3,3,10,0,10,7,1,9,0,0,1,0,19,6,0,2,3,45,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983715720056814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379224919478735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354071322335207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22204552866638774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049464036399224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689133628388145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6729449098085795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606513095340806,0.0,0.20445107639240007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889450368579445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421051908233675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779721136703745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22554375910734406,0.0,0.0,0.2190778409494256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeanWinchester69,2018/03/07,"My 4 month old has diarrhea but seems fine otherwise. FTM needs help please I have been out of work and return tomorrow because I have been really sick. And now my daughter has had diarrhea and sleeps more the past few days but is fine otherwise. No fever, cough, she's her normal self emotionally.

I called her doctors office and all they said was to give her pedialite. This is now day three of the diarrhea. And she used to poop every other day if that so this is definitely different. 

Should I take her to the hospital? Or just call the doctor again? Has anyone's child been like this before? ",3.2941866028708167,5.740506903508768,4.0816427432216935,84.258014354067,76.45614035087719,8.355980861244019,22.64433811802233,9.095868883498916,1.877185964912281,473,14,91,12,11,151,79,114,0.061,0.79,0.149,0.8734,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,14,7,2,1,1,17,20,10,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,2,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,1,13,3,6,13,3,12,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,3,12,61,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280807146090587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166221188175816,0.0,0.15586903662230042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740857578222971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543995351965821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137962868703076,0.0,0.3749761994608005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20604801757332625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543334349298604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571883098949975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277881640043872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949039873539072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620910313026506,0.0,0.0,0.13582246703106185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947330269467768,0.0,0.0,0.19221209286783286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486194077038902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010719215803309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734704951072175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742420458415029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675628565231615,0.19109221336942225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330799606146708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772533648574273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820499959391798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333540975860055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tedmrjxo,2018/03/07,"I have care of my 12 year old brother and I recently found out he’s having sex. How the heck do I handle this? My brother entered my full-time care about 4 weeks ago and will be with me for about another 3-6 months, due to some health issues our father is having. 

Anyway, my brother is usually really open (a “too much information” kind of guy) and hardly ever on his phone. 

I noticed a week in to him being here he started acting strangely. I heard him on the phone all hours of the night (when he used to sleep like a log), he started spending most of the time at “friends houses” and coming home late (and ignoring me when I told him this couldn’t go on and tried to get him to open up to me) and he seemed very distracted and basically stopped communicating with me other than grunting. I wondered if it was him hitting the “terrible teens” or whether he was worried about our parents, but the longer it went on the more I got concerned. I’ll admit I was worried he could be using drugs. 

So when he fell asleep on the couch one night and left his phone on the coffee table, I will admit I snooped (I know his passcode). I found images and videos which which confirmed he’s being having sex. I quickly exited them as fast as possible and put his phone back where it was. 

I’m now freaking out but trying not to but it’s not working. What the heck do I do? I’m way out of my depth here. Any advice would be appreciated. 



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parenting,goliath1701,2018/03/07,"My four year old son prefers me over Mom and it's really hurting her and making her question if she's a bad mom. My son prefers me the majority of the time it seems like. Last night we had to go pick up my dad's car from the service center because he was out of town on business and my mom has been staying in Florida away from the cold after recovering from cancer. 

I was just going to go into the service center and pick up the car so we could drop it off at my parents house. It would have been easier if my son just waited in the car with Mommy, but he wanted to come with Daddy. He's almost five and it seems like I have to do everything. He wants me to pick him up from preschool and put him to bed and cuddle with him at bedtime and everything else. He won't let her do anything it seems like sometimes. It's really hurting her feelings and I don't know what to do sometimes. I finally yelled at him tonight, saying I was really angry with him for 'not wanting Mommy' and being really mean to her. I just don't know if I did the right thing.  I don't know what to do anymore. ",3.667236842105261,4.095795109649128,5.088000000000001,85.65700000000002,71.58771929824562,8.009824561403509,26.60350877192982,8.021203637495839,1.440080350877193,847,26,184,11,15,285,112,228,0.077,0.879,0.045,-0.8104,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,9,0,22,2,0,4,0,49,39,15,0,10,8,8,1,3,0,2,1,2,1,0,10,19,0,1,11,0,0,8,5,3,0,2,7,4,30,3,35,27,1,36,0,2,0,1,28,18,0,8,11,127,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842059620388255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728242863957837,0.0,0.0,0.0973181409519856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110943387485712,0.0,0.09874240110726153,0.07209037417736011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018707670047572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944212173876991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879129615825824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256944355502508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05979595515657071,0.0,0.0,0.1295483654627662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163014168023244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645649492315504,0.2532001693731946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497828524961835,0.09639791906455694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092915730395805,0.0,0.1733280101135829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893966083621975,0.0,0.0,0.12882012329671302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155150615477519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109792695241378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409427919024835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313140551449416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888425358751566,0.13247858818509758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030422759955786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099364015982697,0.0,0.09404532798353173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229791751348818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339248983389363,0.0,0.0,0.12604973243911788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856688079632987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895852521020564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20925894641126888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400871585043508,0.0,0.0,0.0761557484359595
parenting,Bellona4eternity,2018/03/07,"I've tried therapy and it didn't work. Background story: I joined the Army when I was 17, I had my son when I was 18. I got married for the sake of my son since I was gonna get deployed. I really didn't love my son's father so, when I got back (after 2 yrs) we got divorced. I gave him the option to be a father or not, he opted for not. So, since I was a combat medic in a support battalion, I spent my son's first 10 years on deployment. My parents were taking care of him during those times. I was severely injured at my last deployment, so I got medically discharged. As soon as I recovered from my injury, I decided to go to college. My grades are excellent... But the relationship with my son is so disappointing. We have been to therapy together and this is not opening him up. My deduction is that he blames me for not spending time with him. Maybe he wishes I didn't go to college and just stood at home doing all those things ""regular mothers"" do. He is 13 and in 7th grade. I'm really aware of what I was up to at that age, so I tell him that he can trust me about anything but he never talks. I know he's already into girls because I go to college for cybersecurity and I monitor everything he does online. Lately, he's been researching about war and PTSD. I don't know how he found out these things related to me, but I see he's trying to understand me. Still, We don't talk. It's only the 2 of us. We don't have any family or friends, it's just us. Is there anybody out there going through the same thing? what do you do? How can I make it better for him?The therapist recommended so many things but none of them work. He told me today that I could send him to a high school abroad and join back to the Army. That shit hurts my heart so bad. First, I can't join the Army back because of my injury... Second, it sounded like he wants to get away from me, and I'm the only person he got. *WTF*",1.2149074318963216,3.1060909271356785,3.378153927532398,89.49767786299921,80.68341708542714,6.8025390108436925,22.031473155249934,7.85451343220497,0.9526572864321609,1471,46,327,26,38,502,193,398,0.091,0.841,0.068,-0.9009,1,0,0,0,1,0,56,6,1,1,6,23,13,2,0,13,0,33,6,2,3,2,45,63,28,1,3,12,9,0,1,1,1,3,1,1,2,20,18,0,0,5,0,2,5,13,5,0,3,23,2,58,8,45,37,3,38,0,2,1,1,49,14,1,3,20,215,78,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551137314385013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502014956821899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078681389586829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983160352182291,0.22056159016432547,0.07983289913123709,0.11656965002871683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845619687253153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748387203852617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633923663019422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367162033541968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593084002118484,0.0,0.09013546983945743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626568151095278,0.0,0.10483476916183912,0.07387040168079599,0.0,0.099907739854401,0.0,0.21735638836774288,0.0,0.3823524340344008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330191913205095,0.0,0.10102043196254626,0.09590768032555776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235574259342106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509285848542224,0.07793739328641854,0.10785567979774556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046711704370326165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629450643636513,0.0,0.06382245023742439,0.09693662095263078,0.0960561553491876,0.0,0.0,0.19264016843201967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374267495295808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543605899793693,0.0,0.0,0.10616697185145617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348562325717629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117665334524464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225043303624728,0.0,0.0,0.1026526285528634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967655064596275,0.07619121810372259,0.0,0.0,0.10801552610603173,0.09814541708435716,0.15818419834961794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635670154744928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850055082934996,0.0,0.0,0.07188911093410406,0.15370028823444362,0.08357001597612704,0.0,0.21868370029904172,0.11101411505893782,0.2540842353167395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150547131956194,0.0,0.09062998727859677,0.09136236226592914,0.0,0.12982996321335138,0.0,0.0,0.0995365522138744,0.2300214421324473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056395051412657465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995028353727347,0.0,0.0,0.1392148715624318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061571666426741535
parenting,bubblybotany,2018/03/07,"1 year old and toothbrushing I know it is important to start brushing baby's teeth and gums to set them up for good oral hygene and dental health in the future. However, my 13 month old hates it. We started a few months ago when the first teeth popped out. We tried the fingerbrush, which she enjoyed at first, because it soothed her sore gums. Then, when that didnt work anymore, we upgraded to another silicone brush thing that she held herself. She would chew on it, but we weren't consistent enough, and it didn't become a habit. Lately, since she has been having mostly solids, I think it's really important for her to learn about toothbrushing. We got her a little brush and baby toothpaste that's safe to swallow. First of all, she will not by any means let me brush them for her. She closes her mouth as tight at possible and screams and fights me if  I try to do it. The first time I let her just play with the brush, and she kinda chewed on it, which I think may have cleaned her teeth a little. Ever since, she sees it and as soon as I hand it to her she throws it across the room. She wants nothing to do with it. I have tried everything. I've tried to show her how I do it, then she just wants to shove it in my mouth. I have tried getting her distracted, or doing it in the bath...everything. I am afraid I am creating a negative association with toothbrushing for her and i dont want to do that. Any tips on how to get my toddler to let me brush her teeth?",3.8847812097812096,4.90438541891892,4.3382239382239405,89.06481981981983,71.5,8.205662805662808,24.90604890604891,8.563005593585519,1.3530751608751612,1148,32,251,19,21,362,149,296,0.066,0.856,0.078,0.3542,1,0,0,0,1,0,36,5,0,2,5,9,9,2,2,12,0,24,12,7,2,2,45,39,22,0,5,6,0,2,0,0,3,2,1,2,0,22,20,3,3,5,2,0,1,6,5,0,4,6,10,49,4,37,27,4,38,0,0,1,0,32,15,0,5,21,177,71,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000797183465014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344270585130296,0.11830142834074008,0.0,0.0,0.11188695543021933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877392100497623,0.12460063805569395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222400012334984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657304268030777,0.0,0.0,0.10205199498467378,0.0,0.0,0.20279037646771156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838579578992609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178874090612713,0.0,0.0,0.0946279204183,0.09023232406673368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113862246278368,0.0,0.11992220323557184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062002827887731066,0.0,0.12726568194244092,0.0,0.0,0.34609775881421184,0.0,0.0,0.2261502163041979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228938687662096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010342334141022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825366932646534,0.0,0.2367708657802983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718740645082371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227527179708182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990279740648566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665145788551474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159708912227742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495248173078688,0.14458078276222086,0.0,0.0,0.06578614994782113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829862932553356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996321757835016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213417967021402,0.0,0.0,0.08014397003146319,0.0,0.0,0.07265227135766981
parenting,BobbyGump9,2018/03/07,"Is it bad that I don’t give a fuck about my gf’s son anymore? My gf and I are expecting our first child together next month but her oldest son (conceived via rape) is driving me to the point to where I really don’t care about him anymore. He’s a sweet six year old child but he has serious behavioral issues. He literally throw a temper tantrum for at least thirty minutes, constantly being disrespectful towards adults, lying on simple stuff and just being flat out annoying. When you try to discipline him, his actions only get worse. It has become a strain on myself and my relationship with his mom to where I’m falling out of love with her as well. I don’t want to have these ill feelings toward anyone once my son arrives. The mom mentioned that he is going through “child regression” and is seeking help.

What should I do?",5.998750000000001,6.604376375000001,6.3587500000000015,77.97125,66.5,9.4,31.625,9.3871,2.784637500000001,660,25,122,12,10,213,109,160,0.18,0.6990000000000001,0.121,-0.8291,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,1,0,1,7,12,5,1,6,0,15,4,0,0,0,16,24,8,0,3,3,5,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,7,8,0,1,1,0,0,5,3,8,1,2,0,2,19,4,20,21,1,23,0,0,0,3,28,10,1,0,8,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553429309498252,0.12526782277771373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958512807704985,0.0,0.19786022309161086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826582479531169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360056175071014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058505272591932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238730389063038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562390256242274,0.09359995831694386,0.17185971710328715,0.10181668067354446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008236416116795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698900696061715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169242177225004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196432535741584,0.14299807801130998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053106491511304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879907561305736,0.19079191479665605,0.0,0.13625379855280384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935732967600348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476988902244167,0.0,0.0,0.1923430910893434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205087126005818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163301024294702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566897958455056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107990767089508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257203708336547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536854741077222
parenting,TootsTeens100,2018/03/07,"Homeschooling: Are You Open to the Idea of Turning Your Home into a School and You will be the Parent-Teacher? We had been homeschooling for five years but still, I always have the doubt of whether I am giving what is best for my kids or I am taking away an important part of their growing years. We collaborate with other homeschoolers and we try to join kids' activities but sometimes, I feel guilty about them not mingling with a class filled with kids their age. 

What is your idea/opinion/attitude toward homeschooling?",6.22845112781955,8.07610453684211,5.3533834586466185,80.85368421052634,66.78947368421052,8.796992481203008,29.360902255639097,9.23628265651192,2.5243533834586467,421,15,74,8,7,126,67,95,0.068,0.773,0.159,0.8541,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,4,3,1,2,2,0,1,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,18,14,6,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,15,1,14,10,2,10,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,2,4,59,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154912477904715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21628531476707052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415861006667295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639863989769755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208337548199256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309145335778584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5197471836455547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556155743026521,0.24928974233759346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329799001988341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276787780508205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18384212884225487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308562217672446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562941846684018,0.2503970963348557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964891359332294
parenting,Nothingbutjunk,2018/03/07,"My partner fed our son nothing but Chipotle and In-N-Out while I was away. He's being a freaking nightmare at dinner time now. I had to go back to England for a funeral for one of my friends. I returned to America a week later to find my son has turned into a junk food little addict. My son is three.

My partner has fed him nothing but Chipotle and In-N-Out. He is a fucking nightmare at dinner time now. He doesn't want vegetables anymore because he's had a taste of the good stuff. I've tried to make him his cauliflower mac & cheese. He threw the vegetable part of it on the floor. He cries and throws a tantrum if he doesn't get his junk food. 

I'm fuming with my partner. We made an effort to make sure he ate healthy, and there was never a problem before this. Please help. I feel like ripping my hair out. ",1.9285404339250505,3.700829349112432,3.2572544378698254,91.77684812623276,77.99408284023669,5.453412228796845,26.05956607495069,6.079149491110277,0.7539345956607488,636,25,136,4,15,207,102,169,0.114,0.736,0.15,0.7618,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,0,1,4,9,3,0,12,0,11,13,1,3,2,20,25,8,1,3,3,3,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,3,3,8,10,0,2,0,0,3,3,5,0,2,9,3,17,4,18,15,1,21,0,0,0,1,22,8,1,1,11,77,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189950131174615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079022755468804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547798346738116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676828383488176,0.12830325711060026,0.0,0.10171489356635653,0.0,0.1419835968063772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832853274476696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436825698096187,0.1192031605825742,0.0,0.0,0.15250489747090828,0.0,0.4035299401612559,0.0,0.12891383036348092,0.15425723729338886,0.08717625147919897,0.0,0.09482906529849854,0.1399523062391136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184118630569632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151823458610992,0.16723523135845048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788477212794974,0.2227575953584654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286909299683195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202088900213283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306708289603094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069060826433156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315962721912826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966026600981773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910121242927186,0.0,0.0,0.1572613895790953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459211114628255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132854125127494,0.1814932424419476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841698333476244,0.0,0.13384316692666134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TiliaLeaf,2018/03/07,"Methods for discouraging our son's screaming **TL;DR** Child screams when unhappy and we don't know how to discipline the behaviour. Halp!

We have a recently turned 4 year old son who is generally lovely but very determined and strong-willed.

When things are not going his way (e.g. his toys aren't doing what he wants them to do), or if he is feeling overwhelmed (e.g. lots of people suddenly walk into the room), he will just start screaming. If he is hungry or tired it's exceptionally bad.

When he does this at home our go-to punishment is to put one of his favourite toys on time-out. And it gets returned to him at another time when he is being well behaved.

But he often does this when we are out of the home, and we feel really powerless to discourage his screaming. It's extremely embarrassing and I am concerned that:

*  There may be a behavioural disorder, or

*  We are doing something wrong as parents since he has been doing this for about a year

**Does anyone have experience with this or able to offer possible remedies?** 

We are not parents who will use corporal punishment so please don't suggest that.",2.9434775641025652,5.802914341346158,3.9015384615384616,82.5267948717949,81.06730769230771,7.505128205128205,26.455128205128197,8.472884824447931,2.3351724358974364,885,37,159,21,24,284,126,208,0.217,0.718,0.065,-0.9904,3,0,2,0,0,0,37,8,0,1,0,12,14,2,2,6,0,26,2,0,2,0,39,36,21,0,3,12,4,2,0,0,3,1,4,3,1,13,14,0,3,3,2,0,3,5,12,1,1,1,6,15,2,20,30,1,23,0,3,0,1,32,6,0,9,13,108,28,0,0.14924516873229152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649657234178949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435569210063443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246134819166008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104789336224654,0.0,0.39181635870921694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599041292276632,0.0,0.0,0.15092568325323458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779744407954456,0.0,0.16963893749364875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29941014589148673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202124163691332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268829053984545,0.13469959170131596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566076988448928,0.0,0.1011323888283263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3314381958045443,0.0,0.0,0.10346780827972812,0.0,0.0,0.1638263777850274,0.0,0.1682515032469928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003261636815712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561027673086296,0.0,0.14736159905182536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234571458323704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148962223493532,0.0,0.0,0.10563649858938373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991518584677924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740521161713066,0.17153536660653235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623358867516786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889990719364894,0.0,0.1231428944226454,0.08802866732729242,0.11846386814890247,0.0,0.0,0.13418933031454533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631761631096669,0.0,0.19221799093706132
parenting,istrebitjel,2018/03/07,"I saw this as a sign at a German adventure playground I spent most afternoons during my elementary school time on an adventure playground in Germany. Before I went home, I would usually go into the swamp and make sure the tadpoles are doing well... dirty from head to toe every day ;)

One of those playgrounds has this sign at the entrance for parents picking up their kids:

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parenting,ketocassie,2018/03/07,"Hello parents- advice for a nanny (vegetarian toddler) Hello all, I am actually a nanny! She is 18 months old, and her mother is vegan. She has decided to raise her daughter vegetarian and does not want to give her milk because “humans are the only species who drink milk as adults.” So that’s whatever, I completely get it and can work with it. They just had their check up today and she got taller, but is actually losing weight. She also is very behind on words- she was always very ahead on learning but recently fell off. The doctor begged them to add more protein into her diet, and some form of milk. We used pea milk for a while but she hated it.. we are going to try almond and pea milk mixed together. But what are some vegetarian meals we can give her that have all the nutrients she needs? And I am with her 40 hours a week- what can I as her nanny do to help her with her language? Should she know animals? Commands? Sign language? I thought I was so ahead of all this. But her parents blamed me for her decline and it breaks my heart- any advice would be so appreciated!

Also, if you could refrain from saying anything negative about her parents I would greatly appreciate it, I could use some help . 

Thank you in advance!",3.233578826237053,5.517910388185658,4.543853087840432,81.672833716916,75.91983122362868,7.0095128500191795,24.696777905638665,8.00094639256281,1.5411367088607602,970,33,181,16,22,320,140,237,0.076,0.8370000000000001,0.086,0.5463,3,0,1,0,0,0,32,3,2,3,5,7,4,1,0,7,0,24,11,1,2,3,46,37,22,0,8,8,5,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,11,16,9,1,4,1,1,3,2,2,0,0,5,2,38,2,26,26,8,20,0,1,0,0,43,7,0,4,9,137,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.2503395410782162,0.0,0.0,0.2506814174691301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051496247379176,0.10672814748991677,0.0,0.0,0.08722573635722998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555254317156804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819017357066603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344851666744188,0.0,0.0,0.2048210030963148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128637533956322,0.11224703025793843,0.0,0.0,0.12565250829018876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701404283485565,0.24609016180429225,0.07289690639450395,0.0,0.10258657609404004,0.14141446023422902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663678484176558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199662554776824,0.17194889485651632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631683593591686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049200923214834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434975981796402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023812349649009,0.0,0.0,0.09510811305798374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459429694650427,0.0,0.0,0.09755258503118877,0.0,0.0,0.4272748843884686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266478657664019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200280692747317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180907196869722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182941114565433,0.0,0.0,0.12158180854579236,0.0,0.0,0.08708465158662082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22156244569281094,0.0,0.2116668774399027,0.07565500724066745,0.0,0.1028877884674382,0.1561942529467034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337966587703536,0.0,0.0,0.18223392925201826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rotallytad,2018/03/08,Am I weird for still trying to rock my 2.5 year old! Not a very serious question but my wife thinks I’m nuts for still rocking our 2 yo(3 in July) daughter tbefore she goes to sleep. Granted 90% of the time she asks to be put in her crib but sometimes she still lets me. Wife wants to get rid of our glider to make room for more things but I enjoy it. Am I crazy?! ,-0.18897435897435955,1.8924365128205167,1.405384615384616,100.42294871794876,87.71794871794874,3.97948717948718,17.641025641025642,5.033348758259628,-0.8227282051282052,280,7,67,1,9,90,57,78,0.054000000000000006,0.8340000000000001,0.112,0.6907,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,1,0,8,10,3,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,12,1,12,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,6,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279445129025105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738908683573502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24932873268550595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275583187475118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25585450236998625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451126009977365,0.2731410623918597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24400221345591985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24115027238564835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5841595755099951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198724324824998,0.15623393572508187,0.0,0.0,0.14217697436943388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655419338058157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011820887816664,0.14381496592721285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157016030439439
parenting,DreamsAllFail,2018/03/08,"Typing programs for an 11 year old? My daughter can type but I'd like her to improve her speed and accuracy. She's never used any learn-to-type programs, do you have any recommendations for ones that are fun? I don't mind spending a little money on a program either.",2.7100000000000013,4.927347169811323,4.3515471698113215,82.74392452830193,77.30188679245283,5.749433962264153,25.69433962264151,6.742157984588678,1.11732,212,8,40,2,5,71,44,53,0.0,0.779,0.221,0.9171,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,1,6,6,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,4,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,24,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990186833979993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792522269554296,0.36773720381227004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704714764555449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829812974104463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3850071759787256,0.0,0.2486256787499314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168898439769458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362760784074814
parenting,GoodKoala,2018/03/08,"Disney Cruise My husband and I are planning a Disney cruise this summer, but from what we can tell, the nursery on board fills up quickly. Given that this is our first Disney cruise we don't have any status so we can only book space 75 days in advance (other tiers can do so as far out as 120 days). Are all of the spaces going to be gone by the time it comes to us? We won't book this trip if we can't get at least a few nursery spots so we can enjoy a shore excursion or two, or maybe a dinner at the no-kids fancy restaurant. We don't expect to leave him the whole time of course, but even some time on 2 of the 4 port days would be amazing! We'll do family friendly excursions at the other ports. I can't seem to get through to Disney Cruises so I wonder if anyone has any experience withe the on board nursery. LO will be about 8 months when we cruise. Thanks!",2.538406593406595,3.730391082417583,3.7437362637362632,91.37626373626377,74.98901098901098,6.079120879120879,21.24175824175824,6.18269132825596,0.11574285714285715,675,15,149,4,14,220,112,182,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.9676,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,0,3,8,4,0,0,12,0,22,1,0,0,1,24,31,14,0,4,6,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,12,1,0,2,7,0,11,5,0,0,2,2,0,16,4,24,22,5,34,0,0,0,0,15,12,0,7,11,102,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26664999657701016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708711448011346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888513133159935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793202575538777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949332858250615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178066904144106,0.18482441892064133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676537765680127,0.0,0.0,0.15147260107930086,0.0,0.20486263617589656,0.0,0.11142330608114116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075952997519581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969648921538403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564902578817729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910964097862195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848228042194844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136183646113196,0.1805022881741357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342965992962882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915185044096553,0.0,0.235831573614358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188898429799808,0.0,0.0,0.21261468016496995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927276123028692,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hjaltlandsincethe80s,2018/03/08,Love you too! As I was putting my three year old son to bed tonight I said “I love you” (like I say every night) and tonight was the first time he said “I love you too” back to me! Aww!,-2.3899186991869925,-0.6267538536585349,-0.8371951219512184,113.23575203252035,99.73170731707316,2.7333333333333334,14.150406504065039,3.1291,-1.9736861788617888,136,3,40,0,6,42,28,41,0.0,0.71,0.29,0.938,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,10,4,3,3,0,9,0,0,0,3,11,0,0,0,9,22,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18332320930415366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200871403843596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20279212717083955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647548719867892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6455252371050433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22373241021413776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501720573226677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396687300762829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535665829334957,0.18959385828862635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901927014158325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352875561622725
parenting,BlushingBride603,2018/03/08,"Cost of kids- 17k a year? I found this online: https://www.cnpp.usda.gov/tools/CRC_Calculator/default.aspx
and input our numbers as a middle class two parent household in the northeast. I came up with the cost of a kid being about 17k a year, using daycare costs for 2 days a week (I know it's 1k/month through at my office). Costs that didn't factor in were extra space as we have the same space no matter what, and transportation costs are non existent as kids ride public transportation free and any taxies they'll be using with us. Healthcare is also only co pays, I have a $25 copay per visit so I figured 12 visits a year if we're unlucky. 
We really don't have to consider the entire cost of college but do plan to put in $400/month into a 529. We also are counting on getting a lot of stuff through a baby shower and friends giving us stuff as we're at the age where everyone just had a baby. 

What am I missing? Do these numbers seem right?
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parenting,kiki9002,2018/03/08,"Single parent losing my mind My 8 year old son has been extremely difficult. He’s having a lot of trouble in school. I feel like I’ve done everything I can to help him. His biggest problem is not listening to the teacher and acting really silly. I think he maybe ADHD because he also can’t stay still or pay attention. Even with me he challenges me for everything I ask him to do. He yells back and won’t listen. It’s exhausting to get him to listen. He acts like he’s the adult. I’m waiting on my referral from a behavioral pediatrician. For the last year we’ve done counseling. Dad is in the picture but not really. He sees him but does not discipline or help in any way. I’ve yelled, I’ve been nice, I give him love/attention, I’ve cried to him begging him to try and just for once not get in trouble. I even quit my job to work from home so I could be there more and be able to help him out. I changed his schools to a private school to try and give him a fresh start since he was labeled at the other school and already had a bad reputation. One month into private he’s on the verge of getting kicked out. I don’t know what to do anymore other than take everything fun away. The iPad is already been gone for 2 weeks and when I tell him I’m going to take other things he cries but says he will not change because he doesn’t care. He has a cocky attitude like nothing matters. Doing homework with him is a nightmare. He says he doesn’t understand even if it’s 1-1 then he laughs. If he spells out spelling words he writes them wrong even if they’re in front of him. It’s like he won’t do the schoolwork at all and the teacher says at school he just sits there and won’t do the work either. He’s very smart, has an extensive civility and when it’s something that interest him he does a great job. I’m at a loss. I feel like a failure and I feel like I may have a breakdown from dealing with all this stress. I cringe everything the school number is on the caller ID. I don’t know how to motivate him. I’ve tried charts and he refuses to go by them. I’ve tried taking things away. His grandparents tried to motivate him and tell him they will take him somewhere special if he does good and again he just doesn’t care. Help",2.348964390541063,3.981819615550759,3.617969762419008,90.2684975355818,76.38660907127431,7.081331339646676,24.39879271196766,7.882392219407189,1.1440029794539517,1754,58,385,27,39,572,209,463,0.09,0.738,0.172,0.9919,4,0,1,0,1,0,38,0,0,3,8,17,28,0,1,24,0,38,1,0,3,2,63,69,29,0,6,18,3,3,6,0,6,1,8,2,1,12,21,0,3,10,0,1,6,14,10,0,1,8,12,44,18,49,52,6,42,0,2,1,0,72,20,0,8,19,220,56,15,0.07116832334627239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553049456098881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707202905015996,0.05691328246760701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839690034126103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057985326055115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653277531129924,0.0,0.13372996500353712,0.0547240476948522,0.059422577291285326,0.08676709870278472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512169754327514,0.0,0.15057329903488142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05682211517282203,0.0,0.15635012277773574,0.0,0.0733714163794154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18683963806557224,0.14565980779467405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802402546307925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558460002545973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795452795818987,0.15252799325604116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154753475261474,0.13654228136326804,0.08089319646468343,0.05969261306462233,0.0,0.07846332773551776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19081050790053924,0.0,0.07138763102671039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124715893746814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822449859732837,0.058011682236795925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20861548761673027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961914967238592,0.0,0.06050476350567395,0.06423219041686787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149814647414475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185971877128608,0.0,0.056805876709584625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682879256710433,0.0,0.07467918355133647,0.07579194168097286,0.04822549775011912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902400087279791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809847395037172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569627216083807,0.0,0.0,0.09118450060938416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697877216368821,0.0,0.432156856331254,0.056711939513093765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058871172505197515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478885228165355,0.0,0.0,0.0503733055658416,0.07585596344039569,0.056835114956204136,0.0,0.08152307394049002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21403888859709952,0.0,0.12440850295094145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456214340146887,0.0456017879493442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415930997034103,0.0,0.0,0.07408873448919624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05872132011044798,0.0,0.056490102459491674,0.05708693618129159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362277401345296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781138938858134,0.0,0.09166013377972614
parenting,TeachersKeepCalling,2018/03/08,"Highschoolers Behavior in School Our teenager is unable to behave in class. They behave acceptably at home and with friends. However when they are in class they seem to socialize constantly and are unable to turn in their class/home work. They are medicated for ADHD and it seemed to be working correctly until midway through last semester where it started falling apart.

Today we received the 5th call/email from teachers for the year about how disruptive they were in class today. We are not sure what we can do to handle it. We bring it up in discussion with our kid and they instantly defend their behavior as ""having fun with the friends, they were doing their work"". The teachers seem unwilling to send our kid to the hallway or give them detentions.

We are just unsure what else we can do at home. We have already removed electronic privileges due to poor grades due to not turning in homework and there is not much else they care about that we can remove. In theory we could remove their sport from them but that seems counterproductive in the long run (and they are on track to getting kicked off because of grades regardless).

As far as we can tell their friends are Bish students, there is no drug or alcohol use, and there is not a significant other that is causing issues. Their friends have told us that our kid is disruptive before and that they purposefully moved away from them for that reason. But we keep receiving calls and emails from teachers asking us to try to help them deal with our child.

Did anyone here have similar issues with their high schoolers and find something that helped? ",8.121503941782898,8.67748805154639,6.900315342631898,76.07914493632505,61.9553264604811,10.42094198504144,33.956135031332124,10.194018383442646,3.394012168991308,1297,49,223,26,17,390,153,291,0.05,0.873,0.077,0.8788,1,0,3,0,0,0,24,18,0,21,3,10,9,0,0,7,0,29,3,0,4,2,50,44,20,0,2,9,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,3,4,14,26,1,1,7,1,1,10,5,0,0,0,4,0,39,9,47,38,1,40,0,0,0,0,61,19,0,6,11,164,53,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275647567877186,0.0,0.0,0.11343591849090764,0.0,0.0,0.11713281494969928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421852480824474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923054162800217,0.0,0.09972601321007203,0.0,0.0,0.06470454719108518,0.0,0.0903209354874354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167702856912506,0.0,0.1082211329815718,0.1090393794619413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470422153566424,0.0,0.08474754342752132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943005688966932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309362683929928,0.0,0.17733979486953388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701391791596856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280271247551654,0.0,0.05545598761402501,0.10182323277065453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422925013926866,0.11214722366540736,0.21294266650311824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157403145103025,0.0,0.09434588291440596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652172740690083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393431758131207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692916094487327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281453542940227,0.07802823395333161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913396322896482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742364376394356,0.0,0.38651894038516976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820069177830637,0.0,0.08171502634073596,0.0,0.0,0.0751294436689824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003969572772464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277474953652096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122466825115384,0.10142537580353934,0.0,0.07206497557027639,0.2309089192092976,0.0,0.0,0.2553569175811008,0.09167454852972144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318228258683069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835341437434883
parenting,Insomaniac10,2018/03/08,"I love my kids so fucking much, and they make me so proud every single day! Sometimes you just feel the need to declare it to others - there's no need to tell my wife, and my friends and coworkers could generally care less. So I'm putting it here.

Their innocence. Their thirst for knowledge. Their sense of humor. Their ambition. Their daily progression. They inspire me to be better, and to make the right decisions. They force me to step out of my comfort zones, and encourage me to break my mindless everyday routines (not always successfully lol). They remind me that there ARE people in this world who can love you for who you are, and truly enjoy their time spent with you. They teach me to be aware of how my actions and decisions can impact other people, and to take caution with what I expose their impressionable minds to. They've taught me that discipline is a necessary evil, but can actually strengthen the relationship if handled in a way that they consider to be fair. They show me that even though they are only 4 and 2 they are still individuals with their own unique personalities, and that ultimately they need to experience the world on their own terms without being overburdened by my half-assed beliefs/opinions/reservations. They've taught me that making mistakes is an enormous part of learning process, and should not always be frowned upon or feared. They provide me sanctuary from this judgmental world by giving an environment that I can come home to everyday where I do not need to dwell on my insecurities, no matter what I look like or what mood I may be in.

I could go on and on about what has made them such a fulfilling addition to an otherwise unfulfilling life. I love these boys more than anything, and nothing gives me more pleasure than watching them grow with every passing day that is lost but definitely not forgotten.",8.791581196581197,8.630575304733725,8.036883629191323,70.8873898750822,60.7455621301775,11.416436554898095,36.82511505588428,10.864195022040775,3.998549769888232,1495,61,258,33,18,467,189,338,0.07,0.765,0.165,0.9835,0,0,0,0,0,0,35,0,4,22,5,14,23,2,3,10,1,23,6,1,5,0,55,48,23,0,9,11,1,1,1,1,2,1,0,1,3,21,20,1,1,6,1,1,7,7,7,0,0,5,3,53,15,41,33,9,31,0,1,2,4,41,15,1,4,8,193,74,5,0.0,0.0,0.12326037799190626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020014249962693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394240009627158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171096535446128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878150326997287,0.0,0.0,0.10880491466998672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169657700574906,0.0,0.0,0.16291905206153118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342658975163382,0.0,0.212843311768672,0.0,0.0,0.1235554555092008,0.0,0.14213391058288946,0.06386615110218227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758682309879928,0.1167715960732467,0.0,0.2423361985361244,0.07178490619522064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266992681884865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892165162452026,0.061708705074166176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606862108224893,0.0,0.1378823287977508,0.0,0.34199922603885113,0.11951761330962005,0.25293879629751354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753713282831625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928524123631406,0.3746291749240292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211978893849791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606447669627233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367814638242329,0.0,0.17513495477684035,0.1102890543806134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697647664310455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356097120806544,0.0,0.10786808348353916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492385868541026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087136060958876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496943013483253,0.0,0.11040054175779948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409897237900284,0.0,0.07365239972046321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025903001084684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175837057731885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chocolateorange4321,2018/03/08,"I’m in need of advice? My cousin is having a lot of trouble for the past couple of years and we’re struggling what to do with him; 

He’s 9 years old, his mum left him when he was 3, so his two brothers went to their grandmothers and my cousin (we’ll call him Steve) lives with his dad. The eldest brother got knocked over and killed 4 years ago and his other brother is autistic - (3 different dads)  
So Steve’s mum has nothing to do with either of her children and is no where to be found. 

Steve has been in trouble at school consistently for the past 3 years, he started out being naughty during winter and fine in summer, then it’s progressed to all the time now. He is violent towards teachers and other children, he walks out of class, tries to run away and he refuses to do work. 
He is currently only allowed to be at school 8.50 - 11.30am
They’ve tried to have a counsellor speak to him but they didn’t get anywhere with him, they’ve tried excluding him (this school year alone he’s been excluded 18 times) they had a bloke who works with teenage troubled teens to come in and speak with him and he didn’t manage to get through the first session with him over a span of 6 weeks. This guy has said that Steve is able to manipulate people and is a compulsive liar (in so many words) he has said that nothing is sincere Now for the past 3 months he’s been behaving badly at home too. 

His dad tried his hardest but he’s not perfect, he’s not able to hold down a stable relationship or job and he has some issues with anxiety and depression.
 
So that’s the gist of it - ask any questions if I’ve not been clear. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. ",4.945906483075159,5.386645162650602,5.183545611015493,86.0576104417671,68.75903614457832,8.251520367183018,29.36374067699369,8.11559375814309,1.760129489386116,1302,45,274,16,21,411,173,332,0.138,0.835,0.027000000000000003,-0.9885,4,1,0,0,0,0,32,1,0,3,5,9,13,3,1,13,0,32,0,0,2,3,45,44,23,1,2,8,10,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,3,11,24,0,2,2,0,0,4,6,9,0,2,13,4,21,4,48,25,4,45,0,1,0,0,56,18,0,5,23,161,32,9,0.21196644595961026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713115778427585,0.09394773250984202,0.0,0.0,0.1097666561393882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414445189168365,0.0,0.08107687549071299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908000680266177,0.0,0.09957472674388752,0.0,0.08849156426595596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822072029708243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129516220120312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172684203940361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128319465376823,0.0,0.0,0.11072991063475432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014927532506767,0.0,0.1162051336422234,0.0,0.0,0.11074371942146874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476446516862343,0.11684687748888024,0.0,0.10494005340858756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630981399255042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061894948513576,0.10517199532787463,0.0,0.11725473350629302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151510818702835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358512759382412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010314618151093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074503533769063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845947974435534,0.0,0.0,0.0785852169309833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338752166490692,0.0,0.11121156422024438,0.0,0.0,0.08060501686307649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035189357576127,0.07347542228192422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872546513741347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378631836634208,0.0,0.0,0.20162862993530173,0.0,0.0,0.3217820394893836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501547071776107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079667608326572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235993392280532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878226059272752,0.0,0.10353020888665894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501334866493841,0.0,0.0,0.09824750950275417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431409716678346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34124860401268325
parenting,TiredRyan,2018/03/08,"No more Ryan I’m so annoyed with Ryan and the family. It’s like crack to my child. The more kids watch, the richer he gets. She cries hysterically when I catch her watching it. YouTube absolutely pushes him. I erase the history and search and no matter what, he is there!! My kid is upset because she can’t have everything he has, she rather hide in the room than do her homework. I have to chase her around the apt. I have to punish her because of Ryan’s reviews. Cause her emotional distress because of this kid. Btw, my daughter is 4. I just read that if you open a YouTube account and click on the upper right hand corner three dots you can block him. Maybe everyone knows but me. I’ll be blocking Ryan,  Elsia and Annia, the blonde family that visits someone at the cemetery, the boys with the water guns, the boy that talks about someone killing his family, Anna and Elsa adults in costumes that are pregnant and many more. I’m happy to see that I’m not the only one who hates Ryan!",3.4725,5.278411958762888,4.101636597938143,87.2518363402062,73.74226804123711,6.7056701030927846,25.011597938144327,7.413659706084162,1.1255989690721648,776,25,154,9,16,246,124,194,0.149,0.784,0.067,-0.9441,0,0,0,1,0,0,25,0,2,0,0,8,8,4,2,14,0,12,2,1,1,0,21,19,11,1,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,10,11,1,2,1,1,1,3,4,6,0,2,0,6,22,2,15,18,3,14,0,0,5,0,27,10,0,1,2,95,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122858369465745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312136214453953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860524971817545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894365165623173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20372726201642588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306082021892713,0.1627722979938036,0.0,0.5122104317694076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462384168162899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279769650670012,0.0,0.17881116513843812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20037422253257245,0.0,0.09953473091961236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848245241976807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18361971730200768,0.1819519178304604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272656336812665,0.1377442692775982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116157972342525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466914356690206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432326804477358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30691218242091656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455714218088788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sasquatchfl,2018/03/08,"How do siblings sharing rooms work for you? I was an only child, so I never had to share my room with any siblings. Now as a parent, I have 3 boys, two of which are only 2 years apart (2.5 & 5mos). We're looking to buy a house soon and are debating about the need of 4 or 3 br.  Parents who have their kids share a room, how did/does that work out for you? How old did you have them share their room till? What were the complications involved? What would u change if you could do it again?",1.4402804746494056,3.021124203883496,2.391779935275082,98.29850053937434,78.80582524271844,5.3544768069039925,19.211434735706586,5.82211442006289,-0.4674112189859762,375,8,91,2,9,118,75,103,0.069,0.901,0.029,-0.4261,2,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,4,3,2,8,4,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,3,1,12,15,9,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,6,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,11,4,11,9,0,13,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,2,7,59,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24913383338480335,0.0,0.15636328121156082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432401138701741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835839136629336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26531343352476866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308699100585106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704934489366884,0.17733958930476126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241277480498726,0.0,0.0,0.3497509547795781,0.0,0.0,0.5106298950472814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22461250438138106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347899728853871,0.0,0.0,0.16333880524219352,0.0,0.0,0.14807021909489462
parenting,Santana_in_left,2018/03/08,"Is it insane to get a new dog a few months before having your first child? I'm going to be a first-time dad in September, but my wife and I are moving to a new place in a few weeks that allows dogs. We've been looking for a place like this for years because we've always wanted a dog. But now that a child is on the way, we're worried it might not be the best time. However, the new place is slightly more expensive, and we feel like we'd be ""wasting money"" by not taking advantage of the pet policy.

I think we can handle the workload - we're looking for a well-adjusted, housebroken adult dog, not a puppy. But I'm worried about other things like if the dog and child don't get along, or if the child is allergic, or something.

I didn't know who else to ask, so I thought I'd check here to see if anyone has any similar experience.",6.947957142857143,4.618882902857145,7.708107142857145,78.76101785714287,65.68571428571428,11.035714285714288,32.73214285714286,9.516144504307137,2.643014285714285,648,19,142,10,8,219,102,175,0.121,0.821,0.058,-0.8661,1,0,1,0,0,0,22,3,1,0,3,4,5,0,0,17,0,16,1,0,1,0,24,31,12,0,4,11,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,5,8,6,0,0,4,0,3,2,5,0,0,1,3,4,9,5,15,23,4,18,0,0,3,0,13,6,0,6,12,86,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958874437785673,0.0,0.0,0.0977363191784116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049420699847098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436126110966662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761198334193929,0.0,0.12229737536041088,0.0,0.15082803678274467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006181812916847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058831368685384,0.0,0.0,0.07267048183442601,0.10267547802578013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244500797116886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017828804836014,0.0,0.08168088465671616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898620065097016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106468569215962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413816291897009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246700174938038,0.0,0.0,0.1147180347945564,0.1527544141462007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164246448215545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4504786863331116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452833099629213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064470485216638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080615338224651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548293139138547,0.09209166022402374,0.0,0.11409971695419732,0.0838058233286101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477133291069114,0.1140803366635235,0.11528562730649768,0.0,0.12922390783065035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29191462138252505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255266378489103
parenting,pylesrm,2018/03/08,"Parenting Styles and Parenting Shaming So I'm a single dad of three kids, two girls and a boy, 6, 8 and 10. I've got my own style of parenting that not everybody agrees with.

My parenting style started in college. We watched a video by Lou Rice, and one segment stood out to me more than anything else in this entire class.

Something along the lines of ""When we are young our tape recorder is set on record, and when we're adults that is set to play. People will always revert back to who they think they are in their mind. It's why poor people win the lottery and few years later they're back to being poor""

So that's what I try to keep in mind day today with my kids. I want their tape recorders to be filled with the tools they need to survive as adults. Social skills, job skills, confidence, mental health Etc. So overtime that has evolved into my belief that childhood should be a simplified version of adulthood. 

So I found the older they get that I talk to them about things other parents don't talk to their kids about and it seems like the craziest thing in the world. I've taught my kids even at this age about credit scores, money, sex and pregnancy, where to go to college, how to figure out what they want to do with their life, so forth. 

I could go on and on, but basically I'm not raising kids, childhood is going to be over in a flash, I'm raising adults. Hell by the time you reach 25 you are still at the very beginning of your life and you have already been in adult longer than you've been a kid. 

It's just a shame parents have to shame other parents because they disagree.
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parenting,collegemom19,2018/03/08,"Clean House I have 3 little ones. 1,2,and soon to be 3. I'm a stay at home mom and lately I have been getting extremely frustrated at how although I can spend all day cleaning, doing laundry, tidying up, etc. I cant seem to maintain the house clean for longer than 1 hour. Once everyone is down for naps, I clean up whatever toys they left out, sweep, mop, put away dishes and then as soon as they wake up, its as if I've been lounging at home all day doing nothing. What would be your best advice to keeping the house looking tidy, not spotless because realistically I know that is not achievable with kids my age. ",6.013931523022432,5.958345363636365,6.072089728453367,82.31644628099177,66.43801652892563,8.567178276269184,32.98819362455726,7.957251820313856,2.22996481700118,483,19,97,5,7,153,87,121,0.047,0.852,0.102,0.768,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,1,2,2,3,2,1,0,3,0,13,2,1,1,2,16,19,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,3,4,1,3,2,2,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,1,10,1,19,14,4,21,0,0,1,0,5,11,0,2,8,63,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064503272137642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445464996293534,0.0,0.0,0.1002137543226278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252256194358712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120425364661545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334404218701866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570866057193657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588967792415497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298034681044625,0.0,0.16189610260748555,0.5690697744602854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612195807218845,0.0,0.0,0.09034727219929292,0.0,0.185444883722111,0.0,0.17861580568404356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476712310090758,0.0,0.0,0.13805051753709616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925376065365421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577415750604132,0.0,0.0,0.17507546378309818,0.11139840459968656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526252662439084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965916544632954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522335073485806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678159403754172,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,triggerhappy3704,2018/03/08,"Getting on list at Daycare We're expecting our third child in Nov and you'd think we'd know how this works but sadly it feels new every time we enroll our little on in school. 

The question I have regards the typical experience with getting your little one on the waitlist for a school. The problem I have is our child isn't expected until Nov and likely won't go into school until Feb but school starts the class in Aug/Sept. The school says we'd have to pay each month until we start bringing the child into class assuming we're accepted for that school year. We already have two kids in this school and thought they would be more flexible with when we can start given a spot exists. I have a problem taking a spot away from another family just to hold it for us for 5 months and I also don't really want to pay for months just to hold the spot. Thanks for any advice. ",5.256888311688312,5.724431520000002,5.583688311688314,83.36612987012987,68.08571428571429,8.64935064935065,26.766233766233768,8.575989854853784,1.7015714285714283,696,19,139,10,11,222,100,175,0.091,0.856,0.054000000000000006,-0.6563,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,10,2,1,1,5,6,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,1,0,33,30,12,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,5,13,0,2,7,0,2,2,3,3,0,3,2,2,17,3,27,22,2,28,0,1,0,0,19,13,0,2,14,89,22,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368836905656567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709378716856113,0.08485523265505163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215767673527625,0.11126441203148378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969278524556853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940130747512641,0.0,0.0,0.10379484491589464,0.10003000820897627,0.0,0.05365183772506478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087502018435316,0.0,0.060304121539013086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05831466522405409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05183943879076059,0.21269794626151714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540852860020599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248061709378396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190212291517628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20306373486019494,0.0,0.0,0.11886622927489945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797606532489042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843820399316506,0.0,0.7517149570440833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253132332945136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978067202270794,0.0,0.0,0.09769080012934006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799028553888699,0.0,0.08423859790072863,0.061872940981547185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365295711544714,0.0,0.12763591727946424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258576635592454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724852807671047,0.0,0.0,0.07537670363316107,0.0,0.0,0.06833063952600771
parenting,Zakuro700,2018/03/08,My 14 month old just lets kids take his toys My 14 month old son is a total sweetheart but I’m worried that he’s going to let people walk all over him. Whenever he’s playing with other kids and one kid just takes the toy that he is playing with he just lets it happen. He obviously still wants to play with the toy but he doesn’t stand up for himself. I feel bad and want to do something but I don’t feel comfortable telling off someone else’s kid. Is this something I need to just get over? What can I do to encourage my son to be more assertive?,1.3834169278996882,3.2908817931034484,2.6623824451410663,94.75722570532915,80.20689655172414,5.597492163009405,22.614420062695928,6.574015621080383,0.35819999999999963,432,14,98,4,11,139,71,116,0.061,0.772,0.168,0.9064,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,0,3,20,23,5,0,3,7,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,2,6,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,10,6,14,19,3,12,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,0,5,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503921582792819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046662914657005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821475404998328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941049416281894,0.0,0.1023659942146088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927897242606212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5525528069572002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875391405331767,0.0,0.0,0.1335562376044802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780099788592393,0.0,0.12205355306587695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487209859066052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261456572898754,0.2773293963300058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384356912718738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270854714480193,0.0,0.15743227675375865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247815350606555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291997307075106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuperBuilder56,2018/03/08,"How old until kids go to sleep on their own? My oldest daughter is 3.5 and she has a hard time with our bedtime routine. It has literally been the same since she was 8 months old. We eat dinner, relax and read, bath/warm washcloth (because we dont want too much bath and soap to dry that precious baby skin) brush teeth, bedtime story, and bed. Up until about 2 months ago she fought us everyday trying to brush her teeth, not in the morning after breakfast only at night, but she has been getting better and I see the light at the end of the tunnel. But when it comes to PJs and bed time she screams and cries almost every night. Fights every inch of the way. We finally get her in bed and she loves story time, then we cuddle for a bit and if she doesnt fall asleep I cant leave or she will flip. It's been this way forever. Other than that she is great. Well behaved, plays well with her baby brother, is loving and caring, great listener, helps with her little chores she has. But something about sleep is torture for her. Even naps unless she falls asleep on us. She wasnt the baby that fell asleep in her food, she doesnt fall asleep unless someone is physically pressed to her body. Its getting to the point some nights that I put her down at 7:15 and Im not out of her room until 9. Any thoughts or advice? ",2.910454545454545,4.629372772727272,3.4377272727272725,91.78909090909092,75.06060606060606,5.70909090909091,21.46969696969697,6.11248444174946,0.13632424242424254,1028,25,215,6,22,321,152,264,0.064,0.777,0.159,0.985,0,0,1,0,1,0,33,7,0,1,1,8,15,3,0,10,0,19,17,10,1,0,36,32,25,0,2,10,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,6,1,10,20,4,0,1,5,0,7,7,4,2,0,7,9,34,11,34,24,5,45,0,0,1,3,39,15,0,5,21,137,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213589408557724,0.10172214644091113,0.0,0.11490915865635475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803638604281718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995273212170046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149023771570652,0.12528121505301504,0.1274653851107711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169989475857091,0.0,0.0,0.09885006918931899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605144599026344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449036968561273,0.0,0.0,0.1174215855429338,0.0,0.0,0.10163763280071186,0.0,0.0,0.07579367342174619,0.0,0.1933697219342674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257069644794135,0.0,0.0,0.13876051391024075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986206601455249,0.0,0.06521711786336902,0.0,0.0,0.2530325078754169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279668961377186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691692210946108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395358454086808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150749791920205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501325843590847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071392164540362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319046439552694,0.0,0.08435710293354479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230654522468297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24082920831217225,0.0,0.0,0.08727528712158128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084792477759024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535906755367492,0.0,0.0,0.1147846583286682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144376548651854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492536736887176,0.0,0.22967295610858945,0.0,0.09723035659623223,0.0883429310006633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911015437706462,0.2007412486028667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791016474525282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760689136456084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768464902291993,0.18217213962229245,0.0,0.0,0.20635454337145712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamacitachiquita,2018/03/08,"17 month sleep regression help! First time poster here, please ignore my horrible way of grammar I’m sleep deprived. 

My son is two days away from 17 months and for the past four days has been refusing to sleep more than 3 hours at night. Let me mind you that he has always been a great sleeper usually sleeps for 12 hours a night. We started putting him down later (8pm) and he’ll wake up either around 11-1 and refuses to fall back asleep even with rocking, warm milk or music. He screams if I put him back down after soothing and our rooms are right next to each other so I can’t let him cry it out or my husband looses sleep. My only way of getting him to calm down is bringing him downstairs to the living room and putting on his favorite movie , then if we’re lucky he’ll fall asleep in my arms.  

I don’t want to keep accepting this behavior and having him get used to this habit. But I’m at a loss and I’m so exhausted I just don’t know what to do. I’ve even reduced communication with him or even tried telling him “shhh it’s night night time, we go to sleep” but he just babbles and wants to run around. 

I feel like a failure of a mother as my husband is getting upset, and my child is starting to take over. If anyone has any advice or has been through this I’d greatly appreciate hearing from you. 

Oh and lastly, yes he is teething, those damn molars are getting the best of him and we’re using gumomile oil, hylands teething tablets and Motrin. And no signs of ear infection. 

Edit***** 

I shouldn’t have said my husband is getting upset in the manner of being upset with me or my son, I meant he’s upset that’s he’s so tired. My husband is An amazing father that we’re very lucky to have especially in helping me through tough times. 👌🏼",1.7975630252100814,3.9284970476190497,2.8322577030812326,92.92401680672268,79.92436974789916,5.424537815126051,23.645378151260505,6.474141703775902,0.5409442016806723,1374,48,293,12,35,437,197,357,0.126,0.753,0.121,-0.2065,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,3,2,0,3,13,21,1,4,10,1,27,17,13,2,0,52,52,28,0,6,13,8,2,1,0,3,3,4,2,1,11,22,1,4,4,1,0,8,5,11,0,3,5,7,35,10,45,41,4,53,0,2,0,0,39,18,1,10,26,171,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554028441941455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283791661955923,0.0,0.0,0.05952825998847031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061208006724909635,0.0,0.0,0.15585323498874867,0.0,0.0,0.08224402873785543,0.13462132144125372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186483246585167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615544272788236,0.112908432779169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345237493912155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04426141042032053,0.06253655347099643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445905033313924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286727250093954,0.0,0.0497493764734212,0.0,0.0,0.1930200215330052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866072377762387,0.0,0.11734860541421413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241290849569169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780703605753962,0.0,0.0,0.048108125284208686,0.07135445613686038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790253220037686,0.0,0.042766227096169215,0.0,0.0772969022858485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838756183871793,0.0,0.1397426270606914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309674618774658,0.3285907204722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657594291323654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356410939206098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960894976721886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639970242187331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475624304773841,0.08326787015657723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5256021762483096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239184827564494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581703847874665,0.0,0.0765113225869772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313083861527071,0.10061107028725882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05943197497838066,0.0,0.08551107046279931,0.0,0.0,0.15120797395010765,0.09640979743419373,0.07222731178551872,0.1032633515871434,0.13896582145848752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,N3O9Pr,2018/03/08,"Free Educational Android/PC/Low-Bandwidth Web Games That Allow For Interaction? Hello Folks.

My child likes being challenged.

Posting this query to /r/ECEProfessionals was a bad idea, apparently. They seem to think I am a dead-beat or something, as though I've never learned how to parent. They keep talking about studies and research, but won't provide any links. When I research it for myself everything is about how you shouldn't use those tools as babysitting... Which is common sense. 

I am looking for new ways to interact with my child.

I feel like there's tons of games and apps out there, but I assume most aren't very good. 

They seem to be geared towards baby-sitting.

I was hoping for something more involving, which could help keep us communicating etc. 

Any suggestions?

Thank you for your time. ",4.732433497536945,7.5382430758620735,4.399630541871925,81.96663793103451,73.41379310344827,6.6256157635468,27.598522167487694,7.7094869923839395,1.7907142857142864,646,25,111,9,14,196,107,145,0.051,0.812,0.13699999999999998,0.9068,2,0,2,0,0,0,28,1,3,3,1,8,8,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,4,1,26,22,11,0,3,3,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,2,8,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,2,16,8,18,15,4,9,0,0,1,0,19,2,0,6,7,70,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470302544341453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165407581778614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450173613356536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256627985687145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632379917236369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918379562905386,0.1297570323604864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234324191440998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174325210656285,0.0,0.0,0.18040030094732346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050389900419927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228834828665154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17747120380809564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252407133731954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008481891579486,0.17542009430348904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016794350915113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395203539675544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306995965543677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796564247680294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598790360101946,0.0,0.1672211766210333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638164014994146,0.1784512735519174,0.0,0.1059103413856742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184794088933528,0.15687063709153176,0.0,0.14986437711203732,0.0,0.14417002210038193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProudNormie1,2018/03/08,"Dads, do you find it hard to relate to single/childless men? I find our priorities are different, obviously. Experiences?

Do these relationships last or is it a good idea to start building friendships with other fathers?

Just wondering. ",5.5369230769230775,9.202148333333334,6.2109743589743625,64.42569230769232,78.48717948717949,9.273846153846154,33.44102564102564,9.3871,4.551724102564104,191,10,26,6,5,62,34,39,0.035,0.816,0.149,0.6848,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,6,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,4,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059123686160555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864133554670327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5352254953399098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24558569486295134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622901632370469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305341425762159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386700558219632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143562743617265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20724445814657774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175277480883139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuicideHigh,2018/03/08,"3rd suicide at our local high school since school started Using a throwaway because anyone around the area would be easily able to identify the schools my children attend. 

I woke up to an email about the suicide of yet another student that attends the school district my kids attend. This girl was a freshman. The previous two were a sophomore and a seventh grader. The school announced that grief counselors will be available for all students and there will be an mandatory assembly to honor the victims and discuss suicide prevention. 

I don't know what I expect from the school district but 3 suicides in the district this school year is a lot. There was a suicide last year as well. I don't think having an assembly, honoring the students in the year book, and allowing kids the day off to attend the funeral is enough. I dont know what they even can do but this is a high performing district and the students are stressed. I know my sophomore feels the need to overachieve to compete with his peers. I am not blaming the school completely but I feel they aren't making things any easier on the kids. It isn't said out loud but there is a sense of ""you aren't doing enough"" throughout the school and a ""push yourself until you can't anymore"" mentality that I believe is hurting our kids. 

I have no clue what contributed to these suicides and it may have nothing to do with the school. They may be completely unrelated but all of the kids who committed suicide were high achievers in more than one aspect. My son was friends with the sophomore and he had the ""perfect"" life and none of his friends or family know what lead him to his decision but his mom has been posting a lot on social media about how overworked our students are. 

They are having a parent assembly next week to address our concerns about suicide clusters and how to talk to our children about suicide. I told my son this morning and his response was ""you have got to be kidding me."" I don't even know that I have a point to this post. Seeing that another kid in our district did this broke my heart for the family and terrified me not just for my kids but all of the kids that are attending this district. This can't be a coincidence. 

Edit: Title school say school district instead of high school since one of the kids was at the junior high that feeds into the high school. ",7.382635135135139,7.4166690382882905,6.777390990990992,78.10454594594594,63.572072072072075,9.536432432432433,36.67891891891893,9.065960079200117,3.242985513513513,1879,84,337,27,25,581,198,444,0.126,0.807,0.067,-0.9871,1,0,0,0,0,9,32,6,3,4,7,17,11,1,1,43,0,51,3,1,6,5,57,68,24,11,3,11,4,2,0,2,5,1,3,1,13,24,18,1,1,9,1,0,7,13,5,1,3,14,6,41,6,48,43,9,41,0,3,1,0,50,22,0,5,10,253,65,24,0.049253754528644056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033494242062688334,0.1032937122745057,0.0,0.0,0.04884648961376698,0.03443937037326227,0.0,0.0,0.043846283932851914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030024631603840005,0.0,0.0,0.05549211484759221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328324906277736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031764597009527336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057725033484748126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178458957318162,0.0,0.0650632806858944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286411259541573,0.0,0.049808356398838086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761066571392193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03939272691266154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05836593626402518,0.0,0.31223577526970714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272716291329458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353428769599107,0.040148383751891566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03478938343015271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374756153864668,0.0,0.0,0.032877263609541824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04963619995817433,0.0,0.0,0.05768540202110242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03652103489093205,0.0,0.0,0.052381926712875324,0.0,0.0,0.04726030585133949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675123753159079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054690465615191516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656071824995613,0.0,0.09434296368632833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04685159955303722,0.039168562502129696,0.0,0.6978640076162229,0.0392488654542335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148642944069953,0.0,0.0,0.05020800007038585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03486206096305757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056420009401495975,0.0,0.0,0.4848805192184206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039588302191062116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03272200594172306,0.031559817122513684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0470640731753991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811376132403895,0.0,0.0,0.04253942986301388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03950839094220388,0.0,0.04428504045937482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034988454057894504,0.0,0.0,0.09515340920601656
parenting,WannabeI,2018/03/08,"My 2.9 YO comments on everything... Do I teach him to stop? I'm sure it's perfectly age appropriate, but my 2.9 yo son points out everything he sees. When he was younger, it was very cute and everyone was very understanding when we'd walk by and he'd say, loudly, ""Mommy look a green shirt! Mommy look, a man on bicycle!"" Mommy look, a grandma!"" (at any older woman...). 

Most recently we were in the doctor's office and he kept insisting (after I gently corrected him a couple of times) that ""he's not a man, he's a doctor!"" 

As a mom, it was cute. But are we reaching the point when I need to teach him not to point and discuss other people? Or correct him when he makes comments like he did at the doctor's? 

Or am I stifling his discovery of the world and over concerned with his socialization process?",3.0217997097242346,4.6708508993710725,4.690691823899376,83.21699564586359,74.59748427672956,7.911175616835995,26.06724721819061,8.617729084823388,1.8747644895984519,619,22,124,12,13,209,92,159,0.01,0.8340000000000001,0.156,0.9753,0,0,0,0,0,0,36,3,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,11,0,11,4,1,1,4,25,20,14,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,3,5,9,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,7,7,16,5,16,11,1,22,0,0,5,0,27,11,0,3,11,73,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052442510899188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124248514458634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4752199348940335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788282491406998,0.2781822854488689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560945916358844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898862112541973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330560637843407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812567343118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475491694755012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072932837871201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389036103507555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280994281473587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307387099818595,0.0,0.0,0.12332619568249008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776154469298165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938892573744287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586244014925975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024363908255133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611139002814933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25539161865565285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ausmomo,2018/03/08,"Jogger prams, pros and cons? Hi!

I'm looking to buy a jogger pram (BOB Ironman) for my toddler. This will be my only pram. 

Having never used a fixed-front-wheel pram, I'm a bit worried about how it will go for everyday use (ie NOT jogging/walking). Things like in shopping centres, on the bus/train. 

Can anyone please share your experiences? thanks :)",2.034545454545455,4.755883590909097,2.8244696969697003,89.50670454545454,84.30303030303031,4.512121212121213,23.40151515151515,5.985473137389443,0.5786424242424246,271,10,50,2,8,85,56,66,0.064,0.772,0.16399999999999998,0.7745,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,3,1,6,12,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,6,9,1,5,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,3,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20541561246269266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320728245607728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28737014225627583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669601606837814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435245354608657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466985743665772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22657882663318926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234305415346612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32247877478310805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704702642317724,0.0,0.0,0.1951722931829606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5074577696640404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983446634840293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,guardpumpkins,2018/03/08,"Toddler stuck in loops I have a son who recently turned two. He keeps getting stuck in a loop and working himself up into terrible tantrums. For example, he’ll ask for water. I’ll give it to him and then he’ll yell, “no water!” and push it away or throw it. Then he’ll frantically ask for water again. Repeat infinitely. He does this with many different things. I’m at a loss for how to help him break out of these loops. Any advice?",0.4936206896551738,2.9617509195402283,2.292672413793106,91.53831896551728,91.52873563218391,5.658620689655173,19.893678160919546,7.1686216300943375,0.6429471264367819,338,11,71,6,12,111,60,87,0.188,0.782,0.03,-0.902,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,2,3,4,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,9,13,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,7,6,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,2,2,1,4,0,15,8,0,16,0,1,0,0,14,7,0,1,6,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25066496946452826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444002639883366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4796166283317102,0.0,0.24100570967397086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26800516122232304,0.0,0.0,0.2244793307470024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340192916609965,0.2460740150465681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193761274297786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280036645875593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600674841611846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532791119947466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704181742525695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27901630754484946,0.2505793616647343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18674707788069175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,natalie4984,2018/03/08,"I need some advice? so basically, my 9 yr daughter was staying over at her cousins house for a few days, and she told me while crying that her cousin(15 yrs old M) did something inappropriate to her but she didn't tell me what he did. I told my husband and he just said just  ignore it it was probably just some kid fight or something. she still seems pretty sad and I'm confused because what if something did happen.",3.382020905923344,5.3362675853658565,4.088327526132404,86.61573170731708,74.3658536585366,6.149128919860628,27.567944250871076,6.868970318607317,1.2557017421602783,330,13,65,3,7,105,59,82,0.175,0.777,0.048,-0.8885,0,0,3,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,1,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,15,13,8,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,9,1,12,0,4,4,3,7,0,1,0,0,17,2,0,6,4,43,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075444030015257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947056912431834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332997147689672,0.136973552484892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878151901756625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24506878012514016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748400295886802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22286688250924905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21607631210145314,0.22899162871298215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020308971165058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335127653861084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4905230664129304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22637877501800846,0.1696143996892602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563764285973386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058942284273136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2mamas,2018/03/08,"Travelling!! Hey parents!!

We are looking at taking our will be 21 month old son somewhere on an airplane this summer. We live in Ontario and want to go somewhere fun for him not necessarily an all inclusive. He goes to bed very early which means we will be stuck near the room so we were thinking a condo or something where he can go to bed and we don’t have to. Lol! Has anyone gone anywhere fun? It can be anywhere but preferably not too long of a flight. Let me know your great experiences!!",1.8190909090909104,4.363341443298971,2.9336269915651343,89.73609184629805,83.02061855670105,5.176757263355202,24.28209934395501,6.574015621080383,0.8072350515463915,388,15,77,4,11,124,76,97,0.014,0.8490000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.913,1,0,1,0,0,0,12,6,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,5,1,13,0,0,0,1,17,23,5,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,3,7,0,0,4,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,3,1,9,3,10,14,1,15,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,1,5,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847499660222934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584595366494406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003265783316004,0.0,0.0,0.29130537267873835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520934412387387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701846043278026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333126143957129,0.2338279024854301,0.22187969398017932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28781490600234233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108992514440264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27725624216570743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29338694507593377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341078428824697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866184627260253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930260564754587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21801058574295326,0.155844812777646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DepressionNinja,2018/03/08,"When does ppd become full on depression? Just a little question I had, excuse me if this is in the wrong sub, but at what point do you think post-partum depression becomes ""regular"" depression? I've been looking around parenting forums trying to find the answer, and it seems a lot of people have different definitions. 

Personally, I've been angry/depressed almost constantly since the birth of my second child (only a year after my first), and that was 5 years ago. I kinda wanna seek help because I'm tired of feeling this way, but I guess I'm afraid to openly admit it to a real life person, so I'm asking the internet first. Is this a form of ppd, full on depression, or does it really even matter what ""type"" at this point? ",9.603261390887287,7.2028707769784175,9.74428057553957,66.46327937649883,60.654676258992794,12.71990407673861,35.3968824940048,11.20814326018867,3.9027112709832137,574,17,100,12,6,192,96,139,0.16399999999999998,0.769,0.067,-0.9598,2,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,1,0,2,5,6,0,1,9,0,8,2,0,0,0,23,18,8,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,10,4,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,0,3,4,2,7,0,15,14,4,22,0,4,1,0,10,12,0,8,9,66,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296702228359695,0.0,0.12761179291534358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113447766811621,0.11913830208901173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768565769481654,0.28149282097351946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377163318067039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5488153044827273,0.0,0.0,0.13314667579471978,0.0,0.0,0.22304553044627912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417228591773489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644370091962541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647697644179382,0.2167991695473899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038847333994564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541970414449063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900139648082447,0.0,0.12772740040621966,0.0,0.0,0.10701669967829523,0.0,0.0,0.10834411699550717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096923134735444,0.0,0.0,0.1415059757272265,0.0,0.0,0.08835018626286999,0.2225497133841504,0.0,0.0,0.2409421749260217,0.0,0.12205137567638386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427608938236327,0.0,0.0,0.14505353075755054,0.08164071413380174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601571836462267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054188931912388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165779291616825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647243275303914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652274479882525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011551804410475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393345876760405,0.0,0.16413313072652874
parenting,Redshirtbattle,2018/03/09,"My wife wants to redshirt (delay kindergarten for another year) our son for what I feel are selfish reasons. Thoughts and opinions wanted. Kindergarten registration is coming up in a couple of weeks and we intended in registering our August born son. He is turning 5. We live in a late cutoff state and he won't be the youngest one in class. We have an older son with an October birthday and didn't redshirt. He isn't the youngest in his class and is doing well as a second grader. 

We have spoken to his current preschool teacher and she believes he is ready for kindergarten. 

The issue is my wife. She wants to redshirt because she wants him home for another year. Not now, but she wants to have an extra year with him before he goes to college. I think this is bonkers. Holding our kid out of school because she doesn't want an empty nest can't be a healthy way to deal with her emotions. She has always been particularly attached to our younger son and he is very much a mama's boy. Am I wrong? If not how can I talk to my wife about this without upsetting her?",3.799377828054297,5.6396310192307695,4.272149321266969,86.22579185520365,72.94230769230771,6.432579185520363,29.542986425339365,7.048011613610866,1.6129527149321263,844,36,162,8,17,266,118,208,0.053,0.906,0.042,-0.5042,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,12,0,23,0,0,3,0,36,34,11,0,7,5,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,16,0,2,4,0,0,1,8,3,1,2,3,1,27,1,27,28,2,21,0,0,0,0,37,7,0,2,11,110,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492655383268784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31486483796232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304503839881334,0.0,0.1277560837856555,0.1691537206373212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933029319716308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612445639675966,0.0,0.0,0.15478532680399945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688846506490814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591410803888976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506003065429816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567047018170065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936181111674367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257429746308824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103684493610598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173715866321953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543665117604969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194731940277506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067495765343556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620214517987974,0.0,0.11919252523745275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330665238438516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387928667829234,0.531330462884117,0.1191722799130391,0.12043136835967246,0.0,0.13499178005472226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472733896015105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641519535796207,0.0,0.2900511765091183
parenting,PHM517,2018/03/09,"Experience with weighted blankets? My 3rd grade son has had sleep issues all his life.  At 2, he had his tonsils and adenoid out due to sleep apnea.  He was diagnosed with Restless Leg Syndrome due to the amount of leg movement and times his leg movement woke him during his sleep study.  His sleep issues improved a lot with the surgery but we are finding he still wakes up a lot.  He will wake up in the middle of the night and watch TV and such.  He’s also a pretty anxious/sensitive kiddo.  

There isn’t much you can do for RLS besides extra iron but I started wondering if a weighted blanket could help?  I think the RLS is part of the problem but not the main problem because he doesn’t have leg pain or itching.  I think some of it is just how he’s wired but I’d love for him to be able to get a good nights sleep.  He gets pretty understandable crabby and sensitive when he goes through a rough patch with sleeping.  

Does anyone have experience with the weighted blanket helping with sleep issues? ",3.8852319587628874,5.79365663402062,4.162461340206189,86.81575386597942,72.8659793814433,6.293298969072166,28.619845360824733,6.9077264865688965,1.4446711340206186,793,32,151,7,16,247,117,194,0.063,0.807,0.131,0.9441,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,1,0,0,7,6,0,1,14,0,16,21,14,1,1,34,25,14,0,4,8,1,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,13,3,0,5,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,4,5,13,2,22,18,9,16,0,0,1,1,22,6,0,6,8,93,14,1,0.09515527440032663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609563855928747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749837520034486,0.0,0.06653478033103903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058005772075113475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597374375351283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658060051354103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327102186780427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616023445825788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697019691875328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942940697010699,0.0,0.0,0.07981172955557858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756114928687934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29795215307255746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721098438473685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179522302068755,0.08588135025624748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995007539043836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859355805927818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012519209076258,0.0,0.0,0.10304388936175604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361424600757055,0.0,0.18210149320120292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6665679608104756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673513929820607,0.0,0.0759911250531797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12194331526829863,0.0,0.0,0.05548580572127683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905999648173064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476204677182656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319183603490703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dirtymartini2777,2018/03/09,"What are your best April Fools pranks on your kids? We love to prank each other at my house. We have 3 months, six, eight and eleven year old kiddos. I’d love to hear some pranks you’ve pulled in years past! ",1.5801162790697667,3.4621469534883715,0.9513372093023272,107.3888662790698,79.46511627906978,4.3,10.75,3.1291,-2.195506976744186,161,0,41,0,4,45,38,43,0.061,0.691,0.247,0.8932,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,5,3,5,5,3,10,0,0,0,2,8,3,0,1,6,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31260994706701845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33573591558207594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34371711554194706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5377022756212927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23776745722955275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125782156616971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843631356260868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38365391400514975
parenting,theretherepetal,2018/03/09,"Lunchtime problems and lying (6yo) My 6yo adopted daughter has always been a fussy eater. This is her second year at school and packing her lunch box has become incredibly difficult, she only wants to eat junk food and will not touch anything healthy unless it’s super sweet, obviously not good. 
At home we are able to keep track of what she’s eating and make sure she has something decent to eat, then when she’s doing the right thing she is sometimes allowed a treat. 
We’ve tried packing her a mix of healthy and treat foods, letting her pick what goes in (from a range of healthy options) and we’ve tried making it as interesting as possible. She just won’t eat it, she comes home starving. When this happens I sit her down and she has to eat what is left in her lunchbox before she can have any other food. 
She has recently started throwing her lunch in the bin at school and telling us she’s eaten it so that she can have the treat that we’ve promised her for eating her lunch. 
Any advice on what to do? I don’t want to make eating and food a big deal but it’s becoming extremely difficult

*we’re in Australia - school kids take lunchboxes to school with all their food for the school day, just in case it’s different in other places :-) ",5.8007407407407365,6.255178456790127,5.441580246913581,84.90311111111113,66.90123456790124,8.290699588477366,30.1917695473251,8.021203637495839,1.873310781893004,987,34,197,11,15,303,131,243,0.07400000000000001,0.846,0.079,0.0577,2,0,1,0,0,0,23,2,0,1,1,5,12,0,0,9,0,20,16,0,5,3,31,31,17,0,3,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,17,12,16,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,2,3,27,9,28,26,1,25,0,0,0,0,28,15,0,1,7,121,44,5,0.08019778942554302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836835165230613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673098531301372,0.0,0.0,0.1090744938175008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599594740270938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771443152003962,0.0682424119548396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908329439252862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05172093958189136,0.08268039942461837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378962072032238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5744365198768662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4848774265478977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726610081179805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091864033174079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608898434437643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128348010726265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713513286641739,0.08200767325409074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605979415627723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060994032708923375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378962072032238,0.0,0.0,0.09041095763801356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673845353220322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918564192431755,0.0,0.0,0.06848847397613697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058222222714231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061740176409275725,0.07931766439402779,0.0,0.0567644081311562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558546743172177,0.0,0.06029875690996776,0.0,0.07009640281858089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053279847743780084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088980693975736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646806618556153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460546811252188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05164474700223918
parenting,Mylife4me,2018/03/09,"My six year old Daughter had taken a liking to a girl on our street that is a couple years older. I never thought I'd feel this way about a kid, but I don't like this girl. She tells my kid that there are no such thing as tooth fairy, Santa etc. Has every toy possible and makes comments that are out of line. How do I tackle this? I don't want to be mean but this little is not the influence I want year 6 year old to have. They ride the bus together and that's fine but how do I explain that I don't want her coming by to play? Parenting is hard.",1.2119999999999995,2.509062866666671,2.955000000000002,95.25,78.66666666666666,6.133333333333334,18.666666666666668,6.742157984588678,-0.16568333333333296,424,8,103,4,10,141,78,120,0.101,0.835,0.064,-0.3125,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,6,0,14,1,1,4,1,20,24,8,0,3,4,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,10,4,0,0,4,2,0,2,6,0,0,1,3,2,13,4,10,20,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,10,67,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191371758704545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797778812981466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20962873692950185,0.0,0.0,0.15836716556660502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503987925816344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837817421382115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183658723070474,0.1883885807858366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546694529605304,0.0,0.0,0.2047471092665705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496886487259994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944716755502499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087109723926483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190035001224333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428818674088802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248744475277973,0.0,0.0,0.14922184426167412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325968278045324,0.14919649833800427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4841687446729129
parenting,NYStatanka,2018/03/09,"How to Manage a Sleepover for my 10-yr old Son? Hi /r/ Parenting, 

My wife and I are hosting a two-part party (get together/sleepover) for my 10-yr old son, with 10 kids attending the party and five or so staying over. My wife has a couple of her friends staying with us as well. I was wondering if there were some guides for managing sleepovers for a bunch of rowdy 10-year olds or suggestions for activities to wear them out before bed. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. ",4.937571428571432,6.789332344444442,5.550952380952385,78.165,70.0,8.6984126984127,32.85714285714286,9.23628265651192,3.1180476190476187,381,18,68,8,7,123,67,90,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.9216,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,6,1,1,1,0,13,8,8,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,9,3,14,4,2,8,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,5,3,46,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170221737070728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479887567877174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429213252079232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962893447696735,0.0,0.10118456323693148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135218200377613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6096721481619247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21504757674695768,0.20972569900650495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4128528279888228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891874143788972,0.0,0.2329611218432095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413255728955054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21002681554659744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757758641539994,0.0,0.0,0.12471710768833773
parenting,soulbarn,2018/03/09,"We're thinking of moving across country. My heart is breaking, because my son (Age 7/Grade 1) loves it here... We're going to be potentially moving from a big city to a small town, mostly to be nearer to our families (we have no family where we currently live.)

I don't know if I'm asking for any specific advice. I just know that when I was around that age, we moved five times, and it was hard. I'm worried that my creative, free-thinking, California boy will not do well or find friends in small-town, rural New England. I'm worried that he'll get a poor education. I'm worried that he'll miss the friends he loves (even though he'll be near his many cousins, who he also loves.)

Just unloading. If you have advice, of course. If you have thoughts or experiences to share, good or bad, please. THANKS. ",3.1995355587808447,4.892732069182394,4.096981132075474,87.4735994194485,74.2201257861635,7.15645863570392,26.06724721819061,7.882392219407189,1.3862739235607164,625,22,130,9,13,201,101,159,0.119,0.7190000000000001,0.162,0.8839,1,0,0,0,0,0,34,4,2,0,0,10,11,0,0,4,0,12,4,1,0,0,20,31,10,0,3,9,2,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,5,0,1,4,3,2,1,1,3,1,13,9,13,21,1,20,0,1,0,3,23,9,0,7,6,70,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600038439992777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063893996718691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046951695707617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184308670231644,0.12437135440046425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108008624477607,0.08109793656263886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786948461587438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013541880825175,0.25083031863896665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159313220456715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20556764639475314,0.0,0.06950618404389858,0.0,0.07560782155127461,0.11158487076202127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917475072515148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15764912818958826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622698049685434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747384206145894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602124433052623,0.0,0.0,0.13487833127535998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4241908691785624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284876723505311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603434470845825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248231787278363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048908913858304,0.1307078807460071,0.10561627821221883,0.07757476870895025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961596895626682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053156750405568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lionmom,2018/03/09,"Play dates with 3yo? Our son usually hangs out with our friends and their kids but recently he got invited to a playdate with a friend from daycare. 

My husband thinks there isn't an issue sending him ALONE to their house with people we don't know except from seeing the pick up their kids from school. I don't know what type of people they are. What their house is like. 

I find this unacceptable. 

My husband is telling me I'm crazy and over-reacting. 

Why would it be such a big deal for us to be at their home while the kids play?

I don't get it. Seriously. I wouldn't have invited their son to OUR home without extending the invitation to the parents as well. 

Thoughts? ",2.951666666666668,5.0490709774436136,3.4603195488721816,89.99443922305767,76.06766917293233,7.140100250626568,25.369047619047624,8.07648339933343,1.3867047619047614,532,19,112,9,12,166,84,133,0.077,0.784,0.139,0.7696,1,1,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,7,0,3,7,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,0,20,20,5,0,2,3,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,3,5,8,0,0,6,2,0,2,6,1,1,0,2,1,20,6,20,14,0,10,0,0,1,0,27,4,0,0,5,72,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462704000293576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378165728258827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629294466332025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27545160047722617,0.0,0.09313522810486956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257346312564936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576252929811927,0.0,0.0,0.4113838785823794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860605937174604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959377193698255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870904546141811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794032284182567,0.0,0.0,0.2471706838122332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760135244521269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804119987086995,0.1420527876622861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581000054664587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422393866626915,0.0,0.14152116532062514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442882716831707,0.0,0.19633186413484552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028013488254278,0.0,0.16085492085861305,0.0,0.0,0.17183948089521492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663314919798885,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,o--_-_--o,2018/03/09,"Teacher told my 5yo boy that he needed a haricut because his long hair makes him look like a girl. Pretty much title.  We take our kids to a Catholic private school and apparently one of the teachers told him he needs a haircut because he looks like a girl.  We're in Dallas, TX so there's an element of conservatism to our region, even though Dallas can be pretty progressive.  

My son's hair is great.  It's kind of Kurt Cobain-esque and we grew it out immediately after he was born.  He doesn't look like a girl and it's not crazy long.  It's just not cut short like the rest of the boys.  

My son said this morning that he wants to cut his hair because this teacher told him it makes him look like a girl.  He was so sad and hurt.  This devastated me because he was hurt and, in my opinion, making negative comments about my son's hair is outside the scope of responsibilities for a teacher.  We pay to send our kids to the school for them to learn and grow - not to be made to feel small and insecure.

I'm planning on going scorched earth today when I pick him up - confronting the teacher and letting her try to justify why she would say that to a child (I'm thinking of recording the conversation so there is no ambiguity).  Once she admits to it, I'm planning on taking it to the school administration and head priest to have a serious chat/file a complaint.

Am I over-blowing this or handling this incorrectly?  I'm just devastated that my son was hurt by someone that's supposed to be a leader, role-model, etc.  I'd kinda understand if it was another kid, but a teacher saying these things in wholly unacceptable.

_Edit: I agree that ""looking like a girl"" or ""being like a x thing"" isn't inherently an insult.  I apologize if that is what I insinuated.  The crux of my issue is that the educator in this case said something that my son perceived as hurtful.  As you might imagine a 5yo boy being called a girl/wimp/elephant/fatty/toothpick/gay/straight/purple/republican/toaster isn't always well received, as his fragile self-perception and esteem is very easily bruised - especially by authority figures._",5.456592592592592,6.428467745679015,6.313827160493831,76.51222222222223,67.83950617283949,8.864197530864198,32.28395061728395,9.049649993220411,2.7573209876543205,1667,70,310,29,27,551,211,405,0.092,0.797,0.111,0.6502,2,0,1,0,0,0,54,6,1,1,3,12,21,4,1,29,0,25,5,5,5,0,46,53,23,0,6,10,5,6,7,0,2,0,4,0,12,27,14,0,0,9,0,1,5,8,11,1,1,11,15,33,10,38,34,3,21,1,5,5,0,59,10,0,8,13,187,60,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633759628685105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962006240782221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237029328818895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367994749961517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023177912076188,0.06059544253696469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046388060457590516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213970954972071,0.0,0.0,0.10114707533458699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941548733145798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928514808067333,0.0,0.0,0.09575594536593997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553630544841664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381352041978476,0.0,0.31374726120759794,0.0,0.0,0.1623794868631236,0.3852054274841449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086809525488442,0.1837176653396028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732491537695168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744172373004195,0.13605267043373864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770339158696913,0.062167488873546776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866713998027776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745373659952217,0.14591556732661756,0.0,0.2785467005110779,0.0,0.0,0.09570804630598384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773361838780027,0.07062830916256704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379587650324836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190005851738528,0.058785264584390776,0.09013711542177676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696171754944748,0.2629933484685482,0.0,0.06228753268886825,0.0,0.0,0.09550778720580218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569765341814924,0.05411244864305823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248805151274749,0.0,0.0827838646853383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517165550128856,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,berelyburiedbear,2018/03/09,"My baby is huge! So my boy was born 26 days early, he has been out of the womb for almost 5 months and when he was weighed and measured he was in the 99.5 percentile. He is a little chubby but not a Michelin baby yet, my dad and all of my moms sisters are over 6 feet tall but I am not, though I do have a bigger build. So I am thinking he just is going to have a bigger build. I was just wondering what other people with huge babies have had to deal with. We were told being that he is heavier that him being able to sit upright unassisted would take longer as he is no doubt top heavy.",3.489220000000003,3.6612289120000017,4.66375,89.45562500000004,71.88,6.8900000000000015,23.625,5.985473137389443,0.41637999999999975,454,10,102,2,8,150,83,125,0.049,0.893,0.058,-0.1386,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,7,1,0,1,6,0,23,3,2,0,1,19,28,10,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,8,0,10,0,12,17,1,18,0,0,0,1,15,10,0,3,6,71,14,0,0.29070056476254863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29109462400011304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18747781521415252,0.29969951765122377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521183015170024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913583356706362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404649880312544,0.2320344173483032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153516899171955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185706465697707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626918392550104,0.2856118289118193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777768473296341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152523620291175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065053406006494,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tricky_d2700,2018/03/09,"Using old phone as kids emergency phone or GPS tracker. My 1st grader is starting to participate more events outside of school grounds like final mile races, field trips, birthday parties where we drop off. 
I'd like to turn my old phone (samsung galaxy s5) into an emergency phone for her to use if needed. Could I do this with a prepaid plan and a new SIM card?
Another thought was turning the phone into a
gps tracker so I can see where she is. Not sure how I'd go about doing this.
Thanks in advance.",3.7753061224489777,5.60330423469388,4.238520408163264,86.49308673469388,72.9795918367347,6.53265306122449,28.5765306122449,7.1686216300943375,1.5446285714285717,397,16,76,4,8,125,76,98,0.09,0.8029999999999999,0.107,0.424,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,3,1,15,17,6,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,4,12,14,1,18,0,0,1,0,9,8,0,2,8,42,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22183015483776927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890662938832596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231744287549649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022957182903775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067067182344617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686272951757554,0.0,0.20431772156717587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439753480054024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214101375107088,0.16857912663224695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497372146108362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938475060170707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476816462019356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679482313747146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4602144871927699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36542508175696026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ITDad329,2018/03/09,"Co-sleeping needs to change but parents can't agree on solution. Suggestions? I’m looking for guidance in how to help a 7-month-old breast fed baby sleep in a safe environment. My wife and I have different viewpoints on how things should be done and neither of us are agreeing on a solution. We became first time parents in July of 2017 and are thrilled. Our son sleeps for a couple of hours and then wakes up rubbing his hands on his head, swinging his feet and starts fussing. If we don’t get to him right away the cry changes and gets to be more of the something is wrong cry. We have tried burping him, bicycling his legs, colic calm, rocking and as soon as he lays on the crib mattress he wakes up immediately. We have also changed soap during bath time and also tried putting breast milk on his head/skin and that helped cut down on some of the rubbing but not all. So far, the only thing keeping him more relaxed through the night is co-sleeping with my wife in our room and I sleeping in the guest bedroom. This co-sleeping needs to change as I went in one morning and found the bed comforter up to my sons nose and my wife’s back turned to him with the sheets pulled up to her face. Now the comforter is removed from the bed and the house temperature raised to 73. But I am still not fully comfortable with co-sleeping and I want to sleep with my wife again.

Our nightly routine is a bath (which is sometimes every other day), rub down with Aquaphor on body/arms/legs/face, quietly play on the floor with some snap beads on a blanket with the lights turned down, then into jammies, then read a book, then onto lights off with rocking and singing. He is completely out in our arms after this and is usually down by 7:30-8pm or so with no fuss in his crib. Stays asleep for almost two hours or so before waking again. 

To try getting him back to sleep after he wakes we try to put his pacifier back in his mouth and pat him on his belly. All while trying to keep his hands down from rubbing the sides of his head a lot. Thankfully we put mittens on his hands otherwise his head would be all scratched up. If that does not work, he gets picked up and usually falls right asleep in our arms within a minute or two. We then rock for a few more minutes and then attempt to lay him down in his crib. Which he then wakes up immediately after hitting the mattress and the process starts all over again.

My wife says she does not want to let him cry it out and her two mommy groups she is a part of are all about not letting them cry. She believes that letting him cry it out will cause him to lose trust in us and that he will have psychological issues once he gets older. I have for now agreed that we will not let him cry it out. Co-sleeping is the only thing keeping her sane at night now and she refuses to get up every two hours at night. She is exhausted and is afraid she will fall asleep and drop him in the chair if she gets up every two hours at night.  She is also seeing a social worker now for PPD that she is having.

I have suggested letting him cry for a few minutes and continue to stretch the time longer after each time of going in and comforting him. I am suggesting this as I have seen him fall back asleep on his own while driving in the car and crying for 10 minutes. I have also suggested a vibrating crib mattress to see if that would help. I don’t have the time to read all the books she keeps reading since I work during the day and she is now a stay at home mom. 

Anyone have a suggestion as to options we can try? 
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parenting,sandmaster85,2018/03/09,"Daughter turned 2 and sleep went to shit, wife becoming resentful. Daughter turned 2 a month ago. A few days later her sleeping pattern for nap and nighttime dropped to WTF is going on. 

She always slept all night and napped for 2ish hours. We used to be able to rock her for a few minutes, lay her in her crib and walk out. She would get comfortable to pass out. 
Now once we put her down, if we attempt to walk out(open the door to leave) she begins to cry and standup. 
She then would cry hysterically and try to vault herself out of her crib till we came back in. 
She's fallen out twice so we converted the crib to a toddler bed. She still tried to vault herself out.
She will fall asleep if we are in her room sitting in the chair or sleeping on the floor. The Nintendo Switch has really come in handy.
If we leave quietly she will stay asleep, for how long is up in the air. She can wake up by the time we get in bed or an hour or 2 later. 

I thought she was scared of things in her room, we removed all her stuffed animals and made sure the closet was closed. 
We realized the light on the Nest Cam scared her, we turned off the light and since then she's been less hysterical since then and will not vault herself out of the crib.
We removed the toddler rail but of course she rolled out. We put her mattress on the floor, we tried her pack n play. 
We got her a pillow similar to my wife's because she loves it. 
She has has a blanket and pacifier as well.

We've also tried essential oils, kids motrin, different colored night lights, music a night we play since she was little. 
We tried to eliminate nap or push it back, we've push back bed time. We've started exerting more energy right before bed time. 
She does not have any teeth coming in nor any illness, she did complain about her ear hurting a few days ago but only we asked. 
Doctors appoint next week just to verify. 

She also sleeps perfectly fine at Grandmas house. Yes the pack n play is in Grandmas room but she puts her down and walks out and doesn't hear a peep.

My wife informed me today she is starting to resent our daughter because she's had enough. 
I know a lot of this is probably just normal stuff everyone goes through, some people have better luck than others. 
My wife is not a patient person and struggles when things don't go as expected for a long period of time. 

Our work schedules are opposite and our daughter does not go to day care, so there is a lot more 1on1 time with my daughter, which can be bad when no one is getting sleep. 

Can anyone provide advice on how to get through this sleep phase, hopefully it's just a phase, and how to help my wife not feel resentful. 
I plan on taking my daughter out this weekend with just me while my wife is home so she can get alone time, but I cannot do that everyday. 
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parenting,2313bb,2018/03/09,"Return to work or stay on maternity leave Need advice... 

I’m on a 12 month paid maternity leave. 

A former employer contacted me to do a four month contract for quite a bit of money ... this would be starting when my son is 6 months old. This money would pay off all of the debt we have, boost my savings and enable me to down a deposit on his part time daycare. 

My current job that I’m on leave from is part time/ on call, basically you send in your availability and pick your shifts when you get called. Having money in the bank would enable me to stay part time with my son or work when my partner is home. It would also allow me to pick my shifts and be able to volunteer at his preschool as well as doing more mom and baby activities This would be more sustainable with the extra money in the bank. 

The alternative is to stay off with my son until he’s 11 months (as planned) and then try to still do part time but may end up at full time hours because the calls are inconsistent and we would still have rent, car payment, Pre-School etc 

I look at my son and I don’t want to leave him but I think about the future full of debt and not a ton of savings and not being able to turn down a shift because we need the money. 

Other considerations : my son potentially has a Reggio preschool spot starting at 10 months ( 2 days a week, 14 hours). We want to limit other caregivers and daycare as much as possible. 

TL;DR : go back to a contract job early to have more flexibility in my job for the future OR remain on mat leave as planned",5.476204906204907,5.3785796363636384,6.101515151515155,81.79449494949498,67.57142857142857,8.792496392496393,28.150072150072152,8.344100000000001,1.6952634920634924,1200,34,251,15,18,392,152,308,0.041,0.922,0.038,0.2936,8,0,0,0,0,0,29,4,4,0,8,9,3,0,0,19,0,25,0,0,3,1,44,39,27,0,10,7,6,0,0,1,7,0,0,2,1,7,17,0,1,2,0,13,3,3,0,1,1,1,1,28,3,50,27,15,59,0,0,1,0,24,21,0,4,32,170,35,7,0.1603518523678308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834698714562327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411665920251286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616503382708586,0.0,0.0977490008713454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753134601001124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456057545191572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517068395997424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101207312327605,0.0,0.08941735124401103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04188861229177654,0.0,0.045565826505263085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804229911079099,0.0,0.15791427416139905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386867061675277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42447364669458615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732758517149151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390107573715392,0.3199782967852373,0.0,0.058938530905480235,0.11889886671980282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413114748755186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34729085988084074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038631011809088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527696654642072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114231768653471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134978664324054,0.2563706086968888,0.12805719643588154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137349613664439,0.0,0.0,0.23375613657780026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443419099286252,0.0872083845913261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457967709978383,0.0,0.0643122918474214,0.0,0.07208778638098859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673805830512525,0.0,0.0,0.3417280656081135,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StillzWaterz,2018/03/09,"Did having kids yourself make you reconsider your parent's actions or behavior towards you or your siblings in a negative way? I always hear stories about how having kids makes women feel ""closer to their mom"" or parents realize ""where their own parents came from""...
My experience has been quite the opposite: I didn't feel close to my somewhat abusive parents before, but after having children I truly despise them and can't seem to forget or forgive everything they did to me or my siblings. I just look at my kids, think about how my parents treated me when i was the same age and i just get incredulous at how bad they actually were! It makes it really hard for me to not be resentful or cringe when they interact with my kids!

Does anyone have a similar experience or can relate to that? How did you cope? What specific things came as a shock?",7.457861635220128,7.5600362955974845,7.849685534591195,70.25050314465409,63.402515723270426,10.840251572327047,36.53459119496856,10.504223727775694,3.986413836477989,677,30,115,15,9,223,101,159,0.117,0.813,0.07,-0.8319,5,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,5,6,1,11,6,2,0,5,0,15,0,0,7,0,33,27,17,0,0,11,6,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,5,6,0,0,6,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,9,5,26,2,17,17,3,15,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,9,4,92,31,0,0.0,0.15331532007148788,0.12627365806779792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766939608745636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047800137131197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804181890587664,0.0,0.0,0.11010805922111977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959933891866231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132369505581877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629446452566584,0.25315189837247315,0.0,0.0,0.13085490500301455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760504788195182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591507777214514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458408070918873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866162353600928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25912225482425405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154922481457647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.718405123162573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763056571177404,0.0,0.0,0.08289559079177382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779896362990815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596619701171539,0.08291293208734303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271000852058128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,no_fer_rill,2018/03/09,"[Update] Other kids don't like my kid Hi all! I'm updating this post (https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/7kekeo/other_kids_dont_like_my_kid) from two months ago. 

TLDR, my child was acting like a wild thing and struggling at her fancy Montessori school.

After great advice in the thread, I took my kid to an OT, where she was evaluated and I was told there was no problem. I found a therapeutic play group in town (yay!) but they only run it when there are at least three kids in it. So, she's on the wait list for that.

Most significantly, I changed preschools. That was a terribly difficult decision to make, but I'm glad I did. She's doing MUCH better in her current placement, which is more old school. They are more structured, will administer time outs (which is what we do at home), and naps are not optional. While I'm not wild about some of the curricula, I also can't argue with results. Today, her teacher told me how thoughtful, respectful, kind, and helpful she is. She has friends and does great with them.

I think my kid was a bad fit for Montessori, and changing schools has made all the difference. She needs naps and time outs and clear expectations. Her behavior has definitely improved. 

I do plan on getting her evaluated (again) for adhd or a sensory processing disorder or something like it. I do have a gut feeling that there is something that we can help with. She's still very, very excitable and energetic, and her behavior is very atypical of other children her age. I'm running out of options on this, since the OT, Earl Childhood Screening, and pediatrician have all failed to find anything after examining her. 

Anyway, thanks for the help, r/parenting! I appreciate you!",5.705559210526317,8.051286490131579,5.571478947368423,76.77615263157897,68.96710526315789,8.416631578947369,30.252105263157894,9.065960079200117,2.684730947368421,1359,55,236,27,25,423,177,304,0.09,0.6859999999999999,0.225,0.9946,3,0,2,0,0,0,66,2,1,3,3,12,21,1,1,13,1,28,1,1,4,4,48,45,20,0,3,6,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,7,15,19,0,1,7,3,0,4,5,7,0,2,13,2,36,14,30,31,9,38,0,1,1,0,37,16,0,6,20,163,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540985488939395,0.1182327815300054,0.10725283295759927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675791292183718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956678004086426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102394924091393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700831523322912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559887169513206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264117429068877,0.1386682518698713,0.0,0.10588163047636366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117760425926204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058524377456196,0.0,0.0,0.13266237996791694,0.0934787511291401,0.0,0.06321375366334535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26679001819695997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432968066617848,0.0,0.1213656617066514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599540117566702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733293802246322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448632997108235,0.08076364560702136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657531306936956,0.0,0.08894364291628537,0.08971464152743104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269616094142308,0.0,0.0,0.0920204903109753,0.0,0.0,0.1343482059664597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587767423666208,0.0,0.0,0.11577378648561212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673535742493304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008650943839792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186292365096774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662502082822197,0.0,0.0,0.12648796383638994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139393100958714,0.0,0.0,0.08038225208807145,0.07752731236322684,0.0,0.09605478254323216,0.14110377046627806,0.0,0.11468704424082656,0.2312276454575549,0.13442747281329806,0.0,0.0,0.11819240234055613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994952389788395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ciano232,2018/03/09,"Toddler grabbing/pulling at his nappy. Hi, my first born will be 2 at the beginning of April and has recently started to grab and pull at his nappy. Upon inspection there is no redness or soreness as far as myself and my partner can see. We take care of that area quite well in my opinion, using sudocream and caldesene powder daily.

The only other thing I can think of is that maybe he finds it uncomfortable now that's he's older and wishes to take it off? If that's the case then potty training may be in order but my partner and I don't feel as though he is ready at this moment.

I just wanted to get some advice on the situation and see if any other parents experienced a similar scenario.

Thanks in advance. ",4.5602127659574485,5.745314560283688,5.809709219858156,78.52350000000003,70.06382978723404,7.909503546099291,29.702836879432624,8.238735603445708,2.215356879432624,567,22,103,8,10,190,97,141,0.024,0.888,0.087,0.8315,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,1,0,22,25,16,0,4,5,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,10,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,6,11,3,19,21,1,25,0,0,3,0,10,12,0,6,10,76,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20868624047318365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522664804332358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21773644121789776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798125586499543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518798827605333,0.18165218164390026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115751522335083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454754499841727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242035348396985,0.0,0.0,0.23713069805722375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22714504023559184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108625939455404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403558831845521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400479493585158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511573317011041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211378220783921,0.0,0.0,0.19661535805127284,0.0,0.0,0.14187833333490704,0.1368392347850335,0.20981948430867986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844453980214567,0.0,0.0,0.1259619416023974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19201413700721834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24558096583241426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bungwater666,2018/03/09,"I was contacted by children services about my son's well being Me and my son's mother are not on speaking terms and today I got a letter in the mail saying they have scheduled an appointment for me to talk to an ""Intake Caseworker I"", about a concern that was brought up to them this coming Monday. I've tried contacting his mother about how he's doing multiple times to no avail. I'm calling CPS in the morning about this concern but I was hoping somebody could maybe give me some information about what a Intake Caseworker I is. I'm a young father, only 22 years old and I have no idea what I'm suppose to do. The whole thought about his safety possibly being jeopardy is terrifying and I'm scared of what I'm going to hear. The letter reads as this.
 ""Our agency has received concerns regarding your child. I would like to meet with you as soon as possible to discuss the reported concerns. I have scheduled a meeting for you to come to the agency on March 12th at 9:30am."" 
As I said, I'm contacting them in the morning to further look into this matter but any helpful information with CPS or anything like that from anyone would be truly appreciated.",6.662797516384959,6.8375264215246645,7.133183856502239,74.47407036909281,65.05381165919283,9.552121421179717,34.19420489824077,9.265573868473778,3.1146477406002067,924,38,163,15,13,303,129,223,0.075,0.8009999999999999,0.123,0.8803,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,3,3,0,9,5,0,1,14,0,18,0,0,1,0,24,35,12,0,4,4,5,0,2,0,2,0,4,0,2,9,9,0,0,4,1,0,5,3,1,1,0,7,5,23,4,36,22,3,25,0,0,1,0,37,9,0,3,13,115,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914574384542688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225077550048956,0.0,0.1441791929327817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789043983319304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30184803833102125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988733020913124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807307456329393,0.09957331974628517,0.0,0.14012783872895065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197469325075014,0.0,0.11743654932974727,0.0,0.0,0.17401858809191073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977856764292072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119310861168904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471284881719817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17601746775440905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838486930206844,0.0,0.0,0.13325167310693434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950357383306104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525290690817627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666054627081928,0.13933044091393218,0.17541126415262853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408235392609765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909359144418554,0.10216373240779082,0.0,0.1660743218943316,0.0,0.0,0.1189530295085637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575307802720747,0.0,0.0,0.19561067689364472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489219118275396,0.0,0.0,0.11282659367800595
parenting,rainbowmixtureco,2018/03/09,"I got upset and she didn’t deserve it Today was a very upsetting day. My 6yo was with my parents and she goes to school close to where they live. So I thought that I’d spend the night with them because why not? It’s not something out of the ordinary. It took me two hours to get to their house because of traffic. Parking is just terrible and you’re lucky if you get a parking on the same street.

I got to their place around 8. I didn’t expect to find parking nearby, I ended up parking 2 blocks away. On a different street. As I was walking into their house, the car in front was leaving, it was my lucky day! So I walked in the house and asked if someone wanted to help me save the parking while I get my car. My sister went out running to stand there and I went running to my car. By the time I was getting to the parking, a car just took it. I got upset at my sister because she could have said something to them, but she didn’t even try, she just let them park and she left.

So I went back to the exact same parking spot and walked back to the house. Now this broke my heart, I’m a jerk. I told my 6yo that it was time for bed, but somehow it got to the subject that she still needed to eat dinner because she hasn’t eaten. When I heard that from my mom, I just got really upset and I raised my voice at my 6yo. She tried to explain it, but I just raised my voice again and told her to sit down and eat.

I know I shouldn’t have done that and I’m such a terrible person for doing so. Not only that, she was actually waiting for me to give me a notepad because she knows I like taking notes. She wrote “I like you, I love you!”",1.8418752573075352,3.128327752161386,3.1175658707286966,94.78420389048996,76.95389048991355,5.7640592836558255,22.479312474269246,5.985473137389443,0.12509724166323632,1258,35,294,7,28,408,155,347,0.07400000000000001,0.866,0.06,-0.5934,2,0,2,0,0,0,34,0,3,7,0,21,14,1,4,18,0,20,6,1,0,1,51,53,23,0,7,13,4,0,2,0,1,0,4,1,1,15,18,4,2,5,0,1,15,8,8,0,1,29,4,62,6,41,21,2,51,0,1,0,1,38,19,0,5,17,199,77,1,0.0,0.0,0.09087946305248347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290363593751787,0.08706207887725212,0.0,0.08749679167083249,0.14321931813605246,0.0,0.28384972503654343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435510468339625,0.0,0.0,0.1201196703562257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729890544875372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530224476681053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058632169923326,0.0,0.0,0.08248373794366083,0.0,0.0,0.06151014465837635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511727574212745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946220785922104,0.08933683297072623,0.0,0.0,0.3724147176936068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035709066235537,0.06242171400380474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171228943619482,0.42982868662154494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236139158706486,0.0,0.0,0.09860907166353426,0.10118380989374552,0.09522965705568318,0.0,0.09099524233444313,0.0,0.08223370206805775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405162722232498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907035075972912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905320836985887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873942894558479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082801629205053,0.0,0.0,0.10340758768881757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131574968344205,0.09729890544875372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05966016108070589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858602380953777,0.0,0.0,0.09425047564205848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890702520962438,0.14338891941966966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437211567025055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002064213709172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393320422342912,0.10860733429784064,0.0,0.08827442464743684,0.1779755289750596,0.20693719849445,0.1264555545994548,0.0,0.09097249286852636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684032688117788,0.054929288482760526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589916784783437,0.08403350613486052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heartbar_ista,2018/03/09,"Booster/Car seat for big 3 1/2year old 3 1/2 year old son is quickly outgrowing his convertible car seat. The current one has a weight and height limit of 40lbs and 40inches tall, which is where he is right now so we need to get one now. I have the option of getting either a five point harness booster seat or another convertible car seat that goes up to 75 lbs. Which is safer? What have you done with your kids? ",3.2097038327526164,5.121151085365856,3.3688153310104525,91.77426829268295,74.73170731707317,6.636933797909408,26.34843205574913,7.447530270364453,1.2138724738675957,327,12,68,4,7,100,61,82,0.0,0.96,0.04,0.4871,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,2,0,1,5,0,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,0,0,9,11,4,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,5,0,7,10,1,16,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,2,7,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28486192602908145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27800516219301746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28386499529868525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20143437796017527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5701284067296576,0.0,0.3681712210621516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25680896902479683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23199837869188106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308118642212128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494180957582026
parenting,mummytimestwo,2018/03/09,"Would you let your child/children be around an unvaccinated child? So I have a 15 month old who has all her vaccines. And I’m having a baby in 3 weeks who will also be vaccinated, a baby in the family who is 4 months old is unvaccinated due to the dad being against them because of death/autism related stories he’s read. How unsafe is it to let my children be around an unvaccinated child? And would you allow it?",5.483012048192768,5.652867421686749,7.091228915662651,73.78840963855423,67.55421686746989,9.531566265060242,29.853012048192767,9.3871,2.4573874698795186,328,11,65,6,5,114,57,83,0.0,0.967,0.033,0.3485,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,3,1,0,5,0,0,0,7,0,15,0,0,2,1,9,16,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,8,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,6,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941305986854325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3994391227141923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367620175750958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114977390304701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4588272907519277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581489493171493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708363407805818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22441127006141415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996048470118087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187443983944975,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElegantYogurtcloset,2018/03/09,"4 year old is afraid of her imaginary friend. I've never used Reddit. I'm just at a loss of what the hell to do. I need to ask some other parents what the hell to do. I've never heard of anything like this before in my life. My daughter invited her friend, Obbo maybe a year ago. Everything was relatively normal at first. She would play with myself and Obbo on the weekends. Tea, toy animals, pretend zoo, and other games. It was a normal imaginary friend to her. 

In February she came to me when I was working in my office and told me Obbo was scary. I was confused at first and she insisted on playing right next to my desk. I entertained it for a couple of hours thinking she got into an imaginary disagreement. That night she wanted to sleep with me in my bed because Obbo was being a jerk. 

From there it's trickled down into wanting a night light in her room. Not wanting to be too far away from me. She tells me that Obbo scares her randomly. Tells me what he's doing. I've tried telling him to go away and he doesn't. I've tried everything and it gets worse. 
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parenting,casefra,2018/03/09,"Leaving 9-months pregnant after an argument Who does that?!!! 

Could have the baby anytime, plus have a toddler. For a stupid argument, husband decides to leave the house at 8pm. 

Don’t know where he went (probably a bar) - I guess I’m on my own...

Should I go by myself to the hospital without contacting him if the baby decides to come?

EDIT: he came back about an hour later and I didn't go into labor... 
What he did was wrong, I would never leave my toddler over an argument.
Thank you all for your support!",1.7196969696969688,4.19355470707071,3.534141414141416,85.7545454545455,82.73737373737373,6.024242424242424,26.171717171717173,7.348242739294969,1.6184868686868683,392,17,73,6,11,131,73,99,0.17600000000000002,0.774,0.051,-0.894,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,10,0,9,1,0,0,2,16,19,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,3,1,0,5,4,2,0,0,5,0,10,2,14,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,5,53,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726825844916425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190496437993785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497886627939648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529143821663342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760180862728433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176922334065697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210982591716764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861015845395465,0.2209901671578761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525524117591276,0.0,0.0,0.6083810385432321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287068272702742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771323473339928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206492635582532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21733639773147384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763273215883984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754240577191294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461995029176506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360514218759688,0.2093987613391415,0.0,0.0
parenting,nofriendstyvm,2018/03/09,"My child hurt another child at school My son is 5, almost 6, and in first grade. At his school, the first year of school children are in a grade called 'prep', but they share the same playground during breaks etc as the first grade children.

I received an email last night (Thursday) from the deputy principal stating ""Today a prep student advised me that (your child) had hurt him when playing in the yard last Monday? (Your child) admitted that he was involved. I will discuss this further with him tomorrow and as a consequence keep (your child) out of the yard on Friday.""

My son told me nothing of any incident on Monday. He does have a small bruise on his lower back, which he told me he got from another, unnamed child. He woke up in the middle of the night on Wednesday saying he had a nightmare someone was kicking him.

Given the time lapse from the incident on Monday, and the fact my son hasn't told me any detail yet, I am not sure how to discuss this with him or if I should discipline him further.

I have written back to the deputy to apologise and make sure there is no reparation needed, but I am not quite sure how to proceed without information about what he did to the child and what the impact was.

Any advice? I am just trying not to be angry with him right now. Fortunately he is still at school for a few more hours so I have a chance to calm down. ",6.436027568922306,6.249086687969927,6.1425413533834625,82.60859899749373,65.57894736842105,9.048220551378447,31.26716791979949,8.447377352677275,2.172569724310777,1073,36,213,13,15,334,141,266,0.073,0.857,0.07,-0.1701,1,0,0,0,0,0,32,0,3,1,4,12,8,0,0,22,0,20,0,0,3,4,33,31,15,0,3,9,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,9,7,9,0,2,2,3,0,1,6,2,0,3,13,1,28,6,37,15,4,47,0,2,0,0,46,20,0,3,24,145,35,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111347176638268,0.0,0.0,0.11410093521436993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324625312468762,0.23896562850292355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523561161311982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635209099144625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997153281757774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708044005555796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907684403681979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113340529490853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221432514099837,0.0,0.2439641164462501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128086253630257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576317077559973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606015689543147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844898674286759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138620957508164,0.0,0.1093347159504998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119610214967175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730966708781014,0.0,0.09061481042527723,0.0,0.4612796641937372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654647852774308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099780215443826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221796126609605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644310592678977,0.0,0.10800793492254386,0.3266422198975224,0.0,0.07736217690640415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984033574529184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337779404127315
parenting,panamajackresort,2018/03/09,"My 9 year old was given a fake gun at school by another student. Today after school, my 9 year old son showed me that he was given a shock gun [like this one except without the orange tip](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/dOcAAOSw6kxXHnkS/s-l1600.jpg) by another student. He said no one in school noticed and I think if they had he would have been suspended or expelled. I am very upset. This could have ended badly, especially with all that has been going on at schools lately. 

I haven't sat down with him and his mother (she is still at work) yet, but how should we approach this? 

Should we get the other kid's parents involved afterwards as well?",6.179194214876034,7.268824305785128,5.8145351239669445,80.3145299586777,66.27272727272728,8.033471074380165,29.174586776859503,8.07648339933343,1.9493545454545451,515,17,92,6,8,159,90,121,0.14400000000000002,0.833,0.023,-0.8445,2,0,0,2,0,0,27,2,0,1,1,4,6,0,1,4,0,15,0,0,1,1,18,22,7,0,5,5,3,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,4,1,2,9,1,12,2,14,9,1,19,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,2,12,64,18,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245834937472485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129228003921269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357270345870945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708189279644675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086188738082464,0.0,0.08796039137362681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745893530550807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561369286632505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620874158785738,0.3248139769334643,0.0,0.20975477996547667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718557888293068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722344212160926,0.0,0.0,0.6265493742198537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360097446502485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991715321105565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467055872813769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277029595720338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915845249943526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919451033160375,0.0,0.11267572745037376,0.0,0.0,0.10994545949462864,0.0,0.0,0.19933595389925365
parenting,justgettingout,2018/03/09,"How to react to school discipline? Today my son’s teacher punished him. I’m okay with discipline,  although I prefer positive reinforcement, but today her actions pissed me off. Before I storm the school mama bear style, I thought I would get the opinion of other parents.

Background: my son is 4K. He is intense and downright out of control at school at times. I wouldn’t be surprised if this teacher is at her wits end with him. They have a scheduled daily snack time and the snacks are provided by parents. When it’s your kid’s “day” you send 30 somethings to be passed out at school. The teacher purposely assigns your child’s birthday as their “day” so you can kill two birds with one stone —birthday treat and snack all at once! Today a kid brought in cupcakes for snack.    
The situation: right before snack time my son was running around the classroom and was disrespectful to the teacher. The teacher decided to withhold his cupcake and made him sit while he watched the others eat theirs.  No substitution snack was provided. I understand her reason— Don’t reward poor behavior. But I feel like this was a “snack” at snack time and not a special treat— and you don’t make the kid sit and watch as the others get to partake. 

My question: how would you react if this was your child? (A) it’s  okay he deserved the punishment or(b) wtf, this was snack time and you never withhold
Food as punishment!  Thanks for your insight.",3.4396145552560675,6.212129369811323,3.552392183288412,86.45063679245285,77.94339622641509,6.049865229110512,28.3322102425876,7.310402129719878,1.7572776280323448,1133,50,202,15,28,347,140,265,0.135,0.778,0.08800000000000001,-0.9624,2,0,1,0,0,0,30,0,9,3,2,5,13,5,0,17,2,19,12,1,7,2,44,29,22,1,6,5,5,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,9,15,11,5,7,0,1,5,6,5,0,2,9,3,31,8,28,15,1,34,0,0,2,0,34,12,1,4,16,129,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103390119513912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109393515699308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390169785495689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987098265535468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682861366654913,0.0,0.0,0.1097801567306446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267127267144303,0.08854768425349947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498770735339709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295142704716543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712887149491748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055419052444797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728154591284501,0.0827355127266385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559548402435394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199939455691925,0.08398962164100192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27525671039229904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884888537253726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743804807566972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058499683459376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017634867610008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932149953207926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954203727896092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411364516106927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839998707127674,0.3613721467575287,0.0,0.35246148203378785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107810308143055,0.12903308556504994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609663142112567,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,namfjfdn,2018/03/09,"How many of you here have a job that requires to fly all the time? Any parents here working as a flight attendant/pilot or any jobs that requires you to fly all the time? I assume you'll spend lesser time with your kids. How do you ensure you bond more with them given the shorter time spent together? 

Sorry in advance if I'm not elaborate enough, first time poster here.",3.686894977168951,5.528406479452058,3.8645890410958894,89.02555936073061,73.24657534246576,6.510502283105023,24.495433789954337,7.1686216300943375,0.9554310502283104,295,9,58,3,6,91,51,73,0.019,0.936,0.045,0.4291,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,6,1,5,5,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,2,2,12,6,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,8,0,7,3,4,8,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,6,37,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031803190896663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303312632619929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896117797117454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424184029887255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260012924228779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24752124238761405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24953561147140405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6499189981760765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622851126251305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snowbunnyA2Z,2018/03/10,"Not enough sleep at daycare? My 16 month old loves sleeping. She could probably sleep 16 hours a day (12 hours at night, 4 during the day). Totally normal- Dr. said no problem. It is probably a combination of a strict bedtime/nap time routine and genetics. If she doesn't get this amount of sleep she get CRANKY. The issue: She goes to a small in-home daycare. She typically sleeps <2 hours there, five days a week. Now she is starting to test boundaries ect. at daycare and throwing tantrums, normal behavior. Except she rarely has a complete meltdown with us (either mom or dad). She was for a while but we started giving her a choice (Can you walk into the house? Or do you need me to carry you?) and she basically stopped. 

I think she is just tired at daycare. I'm usually pretty laid back- I know that they would LOVE for her to take longer naps but I'm not sure they have tried everything. I'm conflicted about saying something. Advice?",1.9854384260383784,4.770939027932965,2.6731503521982027,89.7591158610639,86.09497206703911,5.571144036920088,23.983726014087928,7.079830092131019,1.1408331794996358,742,29,141,11,23,231,125,179,0.075,0.8290000000000001,0.096,0.8301,0,0,1,0,0,0,35,2,3,2,0,5,5,1,0,11,0,11,9,5,0,2,28,26,9,0,7,10,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,6,0,2,2,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,2,2,23,3,16,22,4,26,0,0,0,2,26,6,0,3,18,84,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045590069184777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691647107000704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851441055893552,0.0,0.0,0.09024876516982816,0.0,0.0,0.21869349727397275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679474403363052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158802398674513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181116101074795,0.10843288963308564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339483243722495,0.13042651330845936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797853910218653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212074632355885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20403590579634875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323845150190968,0.09022297413316976,0.0,0.0,0.08381357020382525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060751207313686,0.2214994114585278,0.0,0.0,0.11861058108978415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114996614344562,0.2437403874504839,0.10815864853461654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752159242001637,0.08988948623332353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.56558012575735,0.0,0.0,0.0870193981419468,0.0,0.0,0.16001265039193918,0.0,0.0,0.09450181394710357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065335777563145,0.0,0.08498779628081249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242787494706124,0.0,0.0,0.06591126359449262,0.12991640679683905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674293311845086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596645729900875,0.0,0.12449141458191733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066937198695768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029638971793703,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,woofshark,2018/03/10,"What messenger app would you suggest to communicate with young children? My sister recently gave my 7 year old nephew an old iPhone which purposely is not activated with service for now.  I was wondering if anyone knows a good app similar to Facebook Messenger that is kid friendly so we can send each other silly pictures, memes, and communicate. I was thinking maybe Kik or Whatsapp but I don't know if they have all the features like Messenger. Thanks guys! ",5.7944599303135895,8.347898585365852,5.9590592334494765,73.20353658536588,69.2439024390244,9.563763066202087,34.88501742160279,9.957137785484203,4.09582369337979,372,19,59,10,7,118,69,82,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.8883,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,1,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,16,14,6,0,3,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,8,5,5,10,2,7,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,4,7,38,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871514760564815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679055782604647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244973669204264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26502177223389123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941937546737873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076332582412775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688966825050821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.561720427714981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642782604517349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24642191785474016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150332002401136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902617899213507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013532334938196,0.0,0.0,0.1723618520674049
parenting,ThrowawayCaughtInBed,2018/03/10,"My [26M] son [4M] is still angry after he and my daughter [6F] walked in on me and my boyfriend [22M] in bed. X-post, originally posted this on r/relationships they suggested I come here. Using a throwaway because family on reddit etc.

As some backstory, my wife died when our kids were very young. It devastated our family, but eventually I was ready to date again and for the last two years I've been in a relationship with my best friend, we'll call him Owen here.

So Owen, the kids and I were at his cousin's wedding recently, his parents were there and there's been some drama with them since Owen came out, they're very Catholic and not happy that he's gay. So we were drinking to diffuse the tension, and at the end of the evening we were drunker than we usually like to be when we don't have a babysitter. But we got a ride home, the kids were exhausted and fell asleep fast, so all was well and we went to bed.

Owen and I were being intimate, we were drunk and getting pretty into it so we didn't hear the door open until my son said something like ""Daddy why are you hurting uncle Owen!"" We stopped, covered ourselves up and got the kids to wait in the living room.

We got dressed and tried to explain things to them, but... it's not easy to explain sex stuff to kids at the best of times, and did I mention we were drunk? Our explanation was mostly just us telling them I wasn't really hurting their uncle Owen despite what it looked like, and repeating 'you'll understand when you're older' a lot.

They eventually went to sleep, I read my daughter a story and Owen stayed with my son because he would get upset when I was in the room with them. In the morning, when we were more clear headed, we explained things better... I think. The kids know we're gay/bi, and have some idea what that means. We've also had a few where babies come from talks with them, about the woman bringing the egg and the man bringing the seed and how it grows in the woman's belly for nine months. So we just explained in a kid friendy way that when two men or two women are together, even though they can't make a baby they still sometimes do the baby making things together sometimes, and that that's what they saw.

My daughter... didn't understand completely, she is six, but she at least understood that I wasn't hurting her uncle Owen, and she doesn't seem to be angry at me any more. My son, on the other hand, seems to hate me right now. He throws food at me, he spat at me yesterday, he's saying no to me constantly (more than he ever has, even when he was 2), he's throwing tantrums whenever Owen is at work and it's just me and the kids. Today we had to leave for work at the same time, and my son was inconsolable, crying for his uncle Owen not to leave with 'the bad man'. That one made me cry to be honest.

We've asked for advice but nobody seems to have any idea and we're just at a loss for what to do right now. We've tried explaining to my son over and over what was going on, me and Owen have spoken to him together and on our own, but he just can't seem to believe that I wasn't actually hurting Owen.

tl;dr - my son walked in on my boyfriend and I having sex, now he's angry at me thinking I was hurting his uncle Owen. Help?!",5.988064166486019,5.103277743550837,6.256936483849986,83.73917450682855,66.70864946889226,9.35236939085194,29.754216345111647,8.418075326091056,1.8617866117494035,2519,72,546,30,35,810,275,659,0.128,0.802,0.07,-0.9889,14,0,2,0,0,0,89,21,2,11,6,37,22,2,2,33,0,52,14,5,6,3,107,92,53,1,1,15,13,1,3,1,3,1,3,6,14,25,56,5,2,18,5,0,15,13,12,1,6,38,6,81,10,74,47,16,90,0,6,2,3,100,38,0,10,37,361,106,3,0.0,0.0,0.07179868137184303,0.0,0.0,0.07189673329745595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883797851777967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006717796419412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878278382067607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061432132791246374,0.08970139250763147,0.0,0.0,0.0828939392279805,0.15442505023314526,0.06507119431154616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512840026280761,0.0841503103797462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675686262448282,0.07714208941749967,0.07950854186389038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163757854740773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635933471366455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207558476334655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516569772815865,0.0,0.08205568189375789,0.14578697306713614,0.06655288752290782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872010693927875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896729938416446,0.0,0.0568439374591337,0.0,0.07687990300238709,0.0,0.041814423184364416,0.0,0.17653417893826856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783220589182466,0.0,0.0726401760237129,0.07550927597499724,0.0,0.08292448163480566,0.0,0.04931583664678147,0.0,0.0738018212738903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938183154672213,0.16611465792422134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04043494917599694,0.05997352402177086,0.0,0.1558108087116356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078352279703382,0.0,0.06496815864109794,0.0,0.06178455114858732,0.0,0.0,0.0625509164296822,0.0,0.06961853578693412,0.09822389718311143,0.0,0.0,0.08014484995105545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05872694050680561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985638989010585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169643823283393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092920985045854,0.07485232441051097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359500750221695,0.0,0.04713409115932683,0.0,0.07264653215725733,0.1579842390106189,0.0,0.12566546172257465,0.06998676580897438,0.05850987025122858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679200202169164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086208057229552,0.0,0.07362823209121495,0.0,0.0,0.056641704252369016,0.1455353045580288,0.0,0.0,0.0784212639622707,0.1175143350676355,0.06151207559690081,0.0,0.0,0.08422588341853678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913687602243582,0.06430787776318181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466400755891448,0.09428790269698437,0.07228715927674864,0.0,0.08580446151395701,0.0,0.06974058907988766,0.0,0.0,0.0999053225825352,0.0,0.21561653677346715,0.15318854155937775,0.08850178267160927,0.06354526086350112,0.08103257477379591,0.1214143209244938,0.0,0.058400487388344025,0.0,0.0,0.06615284824934646,0.1364097041395482,0.06639008120075802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712709383484337,0.0,0.0,0.0522656379617498,0.0,0.0,0.04737995023690554
parenting,millennialdad32,2018/03/10,"Start 1 YO in daycare or continued at-home care?? -Current scenario-
7 month old gets excellent one on one care from:
1. Grandma-2 days a weeks(FREE)
2. Aunt-3 days a week (reasonable daily price)

Come next school year as he turns 1 in August, should we start him in daycare for socialization and normalization to the childcare “sick” environment... or keep him with grandma and aunt for one on one attention another year then start daycare at 2. Grandma and aunt keep him active and read and teach him very well. Daycare will cost a couple hundred more dollars a month we can afford but prefer not to pay haha

Opinions? Advice? Thanks!",3.777773279352232,6.820338666666673,4.184385964912283,80.6815991902834,79.0,6.665587044534414,28.06747638326586,7.882392219407189,2.241039946018894,504,22,83,9,13,158,78,114,0.045,0.815,0.14,0.8509,2,0,0,0,0,0,23,2,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,5,1,3,1,0,1,0,21,14,10,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,2,3,1,4,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,6,6,13,12,1,23,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,3,16,43,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295638846604914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641322241248672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191794495949957,0.0,0.0,0.13483416444050084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319416601988225,0.0,0.20189395233462296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177890544911166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782568076172495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498767416432637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664682572833045,0.0,0.1533632418541871,0.0,0.0,0.16424877262072649,0.0,0.4242670279883592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656937444012098,0.0,0.0,0.1609358419924924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584136967772411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955958090680122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332371882708815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410904627105162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025644555104827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915118104069384,0.0,0.0,0.12555653067644018,0.0,0.1407365855288543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015965327368952
parenting,jespicy,2018/03/10,"Co-Parenting Help for a Toddler. Mother of child constantly calls and checks in when it is my weekend.   My ex and I have a 2 year old girl.  Long story short I took a higher paying job two hours away and stay with my parents during the week.  Initially we were supposed to move back to the area together but she decided she wanted to live close to her family instead.  We drifted apart and argued a lot because of me not being around.  I was raised on providing for my family financially, she was raised on family first priority.  

  My daughter lives with her Mom at her Grandmas house and I have a house in the same area that I live in on the weekends, by myself now.  I get to have my daughter Sat 8:30am-Sun 5pm.  

  I have noticed that when I have my daughter on my weekend my ex would mention activities I should do with her and where we should go, fine its for my daughters benefit, but maybe my ego tells me its bossy.  I have realized that on my weekends as well she would call me a lot and Facetime to see our daughter about 1 or 2 times a day.  It puts a lot of stress on me because, I get anxiety over the face that if I dont pick up, she is gonna flip out.  A couple of weekends back I fell asleep with my daughter around 8:30 with the phone on vibrate on the floor.  Woke up at midnight to 10 missed calls and a series of text messages telling me how wrong I was not to pick up and how angry she was, etc.  I told her I was sorry but had fallen asleep.  However, she told me that is not acceptable I need to have my phone on loud all the time.  In the morning she FT at 7:30am when my daughter is just waking up and I am still sleeping. If I don't pick up again she may flip out so I am stressed and then she tells my daughter to go eat breakfast, its time to get up.  It is my weekend! 

  I understand though that she has her all week and is a big handful, she allows me to FT my daughter 1-2 times after I get off work.  So I have to return the favor, however if the rules are different.  If she doesnt pick up and I hassle her about it, I get told that she is busy and doesn't need my stress of messaging, calling, she will get back to me when she can.  

  I mention that I don't think that its fair how I have to have my phone attached to me in case she calls.  We just get into an argument and she tells me that she calls to check in and check to see how she is doing because she is her mom and needs to know her mom is close by/around.  She wants to know how she is doing.  She has told me that when I tell her all the time that my daughter is doing ""Great!"", that it is a lie.  She knows that our daughter is not always great.  Of course 2 year olds have tantrums and fits but as her parent I try to handle it since I am with her at the time.  My ex does not trust I tell her the truth, she wants to know if she is throwing a tantrum or not.  But I feel if I do she will then boss me on what to do with her when I have been trying my own way of dealing with those situation.  

 I am so confused on how to approach this because she has told me that she is not comfortable yet with her not checking in.  That it is just a Mom thing and since I am not with my daughter all week, it is hard on my daughter.  However, when she is over with me, I think she does great and sleep very well.  Sometimes she doesn't eat much but for the most part seems happy and joyful.  

 Any help on working on this?  I have suggested family therapy but she has told me I should do it myself because of my ego and she doesn't want to participate. ",3.311981132075473,3.680624888140162,4.405741239892183,90.44667115902963,72.35579514824799,7.620485175202157,25.78975741239892,7.523968598718282,1.0088264150943391,2705,79,632,29,49,886,263,742,0.092,0.858,0.05,-0.9839,8,0,0,0,0,0,65,6,0,0,3,35,23,3,4,30,0,74,10,7,12,5,119,112,58,0,18,27,23,3,0,0,9,0,1,0,2,34,44,3,0,12,6,5,10,16,9,2,2,17,6,139,14,96,85,13,105,0,1,2,0,111,51,0,15,42,467,173,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046351995466934415,0.0,0.0,0.037882105436265655,0.0,0.0426150671146209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487709034726629,0.0,0.0,0.052337779883943183,0.12850381719022333,0.0,0.16978981909382115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412933636679957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019857913949304,0.0,0.0,0.061637816890092886,0.0,0.035925870804995985,0.05743061459916508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820109056665049,0.0,0.0,0.09749768847406176,0.0,0.06528721565600581,0.0,0.0,0.11400263670822144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212710413910681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21005927514350986,0.0,0.028166713030502867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04738363923203048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037292202600021,0.0,0.06331819963558938,0.0,0.0,0.1842487452624969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05930025317568319,0.049901785973421764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467734222302147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485935570325789,0.12855488046256025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527977752410252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245861543478333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756870448706427,0.04929820694589436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207817945093654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055964334577889706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26096956932559784,0.0,0.05920684215637562,0.0409504441411866,0.12391625627388048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342184307709439,0.11690850799277662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371021747054632,0.060324352930947685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600008639174858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878120941553508,0.050712804442108315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216143795461784,0.06261606839982907,0.1114927994537137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055094825937221883,0.06235849590927451,0.0,0.05937536463608381,0.044487018839461184,0.0,0.19143368650011705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29213788441349164,0.0,0.06370485954687982,0.0,0.03700870367063242,0.07138852806680693,0.05473102859740418,0.0,0.194896292117089,0.0,0.0,0.3193777925687133,0.06189160389644794,0.07564166474385714,0.0,0.054416833078391916,0.05799208692641026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04596342377497674,0.13142776803098213,0.04421696435900619,0.13405238683908088,0.0,0.10017307266075677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110950955735675,0.0,0.0,0.07914412890385099,0.06090595133522464,0.0,0.07174589338700874
parenting,069906,2018/03/10,"My daughter's crazy mother is trying to ruin my life. My daughter was born in November 2017. The mother was my girlfriend, until I found out that she's a drug addict and a thief. I've since moved on, and I'm living with my current girlfriend. I won full custody of my daughter due to the mother being a proven drug addict and criminal. I thought things would be great. 

However, things recently took a really shitty turn. I looked outside one day to 3 cop cars in my driveway. The police came in, sat me down and questioned me. Apparently they got a call saying that I was running a ""drug business"" from my house and asked if it would be okay to look around. Of course, I allowed it because I don't do drugs and I have nothing to hide. They found nothing but they also said that if they ever found drugs on me then my daughter would be taken away. 

I found out through the police that it was my ex that called them on me. I'm sure it won't be the last time she attempts something like this and I honestly have no idea what I can do to prevent it. I guess I just need to know what other parents would do in this situation. ",3.8812830396475775,4.856080132158592,4.706120594713656,86.59151569383259,71.46696035242293,7.084691629955947,27.403359030837002,7.1686216300943375,1.3002337004405289,878,30,180,8,16,284,125,227,0.068,0.845,0.087,0.614,5,0,6,0,0,0,22,0,0,5,2,4,8,0,0,11,1,22,8,0,1,2,34,43,13,0,7,4,9,0,1,2,5,8,2,1,0,17,12,0,1,8,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,16,4,34,6,25,17,1,28,0,1,2,0,24,13,0,4,11,126,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105691376350933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723360691428824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597513528976122,0.0902876445095964,0.0,0.0907384629908079,0.0,0.0,0.05887321644221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723442171772132,0.11045981111707856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228499385492225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5600006529807814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736057362001075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42357234865257787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724246439984235,0.10647788264472507,0.10639185175470976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143835570601313,0.0,0.10902511027757276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05307689096277298,0.07872417945430236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682160876309458,0.04718326393021277,0.0,0.08528038101981053,0.0,0.16220284438710872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264741583845984,0.0,0.07161156280606476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18533890788222704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544393461400715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072387385787813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818976437812776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187051221961407,0.0,0.09535938945666453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186805012444968,0.07680291596394435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989054221986884,0.10855802095019478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435066994799809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102387567905933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283246211743001,0.0,0.0,0.07667235777578582,0.0563155653797537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730201055628866,0.06557030516142777,0.10504942364327954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27442572563858464,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WrathChild94,2018/03/10,"Four Year Old Lashing Out in Anger Hey all, this is my first time posting here. My oldest son just turned four yesterday but I've noticed this behavior escalating for awhile. I'm looking for either ways to help him deal with his emotions better or reassurance that this is normal for his age.

Lately my oldest son has been very angry and I can tell he has a hard time dealing with it. When he doesn't get his way he will hit himself in the face repeatedly, he will yell at me saying things like ""I will NEVER do that!"", I even saw him hit my parents dog the other day, and this morning he kicked his baby brothers high chair when I told him that we didn't have what he wanted for breakfast.

This behavior has been building for some time and I've been trying to thwart it but it's at an all time high right now. I'm extremely concerned and I don't know what to do. I'm worried about it getting even worse and out  his control. Any advice is appreciated.",3.0420312500000013,4.793629973958336,4.024375000000003,87.58312500000002,74.78125,6.466666666666668,24.5,7.1686216300943375,0.9360874999999996,753,24,154,8,16,243,116,192,0.078,0.83,0.092,0.593,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,3,8,4,1,0,4,0,19,2,1,1,3,23,32,10,0,2,5,4,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,16,10,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,6,5,20,3,17,21,4,30,0,0,2,0,28,9,0,2,19,99,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475077907808244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265200986323653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350409227432258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693046353468533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735105273978012,0.31124817105025104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979981151426868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940372193533065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283990355284202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577315703678496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352226484495466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117942471987333,0.31897651565158536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295884596883729,0.0,0.170279557643711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374714407139829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267610116110164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642289116345765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479001512768964,0.0,0.17185897103971298,0.15839791871866185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16761347234692545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456954751700746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289115220260303,0.0,0.12004247347266887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193802476956082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002852869573201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520834946616393,0.0,0.0,0.14424036509806573,0.0,0.10248597360067284,0.16419158690455934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245505701533718,0.08903494397188322,0.2396361136336314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153298297118605,0.1538321951859432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720764026699713
parenting,chiaboy,2018/03/10,"Rant: B-day party gifts??? I'm Uber -confused by gift giving etiquette for kids B-day parties. Almost evert invite you get say some version of “no gifts” and every party you walk into there’s a table full of gifts. 

Do people really not want gifts or is it just something that people feel they need to say? If you want/expect gifts why say it? I think if people really don’t want gifts they should offer an alternative (e.g. “in lieu of gifts we suggest book donations to our school library”)

Top of mind since I have a 4 party weekend. Wife tired of listening to my ranting so here I am....",2.4797100313479628,4.6594678017241415,3.781347962382444,86.73481191222571,77.8793103448276,5.942319749216303,20.890282131661447,6.980632752743323,0.5832862068965521,459,12,88,5,11,150,83,116,0.106,0.7290000000000001,0.165,0.8101,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,2,3,2,1,4,1,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,18,15,5,0,6,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,2,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,5,11,0,12,14,3,6,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,6,1,47,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626334332093934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25280455067710605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513648071062995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910230527713523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240068713233466,0.18801881366393186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19790176257060316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145329780401366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076402942747238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511222378583545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675956147522861,0.0,0.1983600943553471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162131288607715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088857319731472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558738561543345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252704761818801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468134915634413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685740143345466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katashscar,2018/03/10,"I'm so tired of people who cancel last minute Sorry for the rant but I'm pretty disappointed and upset. 

I've been trying to make more mommy friends so I joined a FB group. The group I'm in seems to be a lovely bunch of women for the most part. I started hanging out with 4 that I'm really clicking with. We've gone to brunch at a restaurant, talked on Facebook, worked out together, had a playdate at someone's house. So after the playdate I invited everyone over to brunch today at 10.

5 women were invited, including 2 I've been friends with for a while. My son and I spent 3 days cleaning and scrubbing the house. It's hard to keep a house clean with a toddler. I bought champagne, orange juice, snacks, was going to make homemade guacamole, and made cupcakes and a loaf. I even made my own icing! 

I'm not so much upset about the cleaning and the stuff I bought as I am being stood up by every single person I invited. Brunch was supposed to start at 10, I started getting cancellations at 8. Someone has a headache, needs to get her nails done, is starting work on Monday (?), and two no reasons. 

This happens every single time I try to have a get together, and it's not just these people. How is it acceptable to cancel on plans, made a week in advance, a couple hours before? The same thing happened for my daughter's birthday. 3 women texted me that morning and said they couldn't make it. 

Another thing that irritates me is at the play date we were all talking about how much we hate it when moms cancel at the last minute. It's understandable if there's an accident or your child is sick, but come on. 5 people all canceling at the last minute?? 

Sorry for the rant, but thanks for listening. I just want to make more mommy friends and it's kinda hard. From now on I'll just be going to events and won't be hosting for a long while. ",3.4552428826458685,5.028169912806543,4.392928685521003,86.10771117166216,73.30517711171662,6.914930000939584,26.27915061542798,7.503015589744147,1.3560129474772151,1446,50,286,17,29,468,190,367,0.134,0.759,0.107,-0.67,0,0,0,0,0,0,45,2,1,1,4,15,11,1,2,26,0,21,7,0,10,2,52,60,26,0,4,10,3,2,0,3,1,2,2,3,5,16,20,4,1,4,1,3,6,5,4,0,1,17,5,22,7,50,37,13,46,0,1,1,1,24,19,0,5,21,183,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047202990938142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153284535857824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253749240713529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601921421135227,0.0,0.06179376208920265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805361973143346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328594199135093,0.0,0.16145918851459948,0.09155684046226506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220829370157692,0.0,0.15018061221156812,0.0,0.10890953166969963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946055596730392,0.0,0.17166565603966455,0.09459902766403984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943600224221326,0.3316783777557575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516617150127803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343098833981379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479465085130909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647819695781414,0.2719918708906305,0.255833222757106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221921082275536,0.0,0.0,0.14087241010485227,0.07104677388555686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376000997814899,0.0,0.1992814393167964,0.0836633346585494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747990017695002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061382549404133825,0.09851539401464417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114350153444792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722780832736587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237014066089725,0.0,0.0,0.21451761497301614,0.2712778506768802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968705077115116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402746185485788,0.0,0.08821502593020591,0.0,0.0,0.12731254545038526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055871413539850964,0.110127054070986,0.09082290650728947,0.0,0.0,0.1301063253437722,0.0,0.09359886793409007,0.09974843037315084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565150965560731,0.0,0.07685827431330232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951121084759385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bella510,2018/03/10,"How do you manage your time with your husband and kid's? I have an 8 month old and have been married for almost 2yrs.  As of late, the lack of sleep is taking a toll on me. I have been feeling down because I miss what me and my husband had before our son. Lately i catch myself crying because I feel overwhelmed on how much my son depends on me. I am co sleeping so I am literally with my son all day because he's very attach to me. Which leaves no alone time for me and my husband unless he takes a nap. During the day he sleeps alone. I just also recently started a new job as a teacher's assitance. So I am also working with kid's outside of home. My son is up often to feed every  3hrs or is up because of teething. So, really I am not sleeping. I am not sure if the lack of sleep is causing me to feel emotional so often.  But half the time I don't even know why the tears are running down. I love my family. We always said we wanted 3 kid's but I am thinking right now I can't see myself with 3 kid's because I've been having a tough time adapting to how difficult being a mom to one is let alone 3.  I guess my questions is are these feelings normal or am I maybe suffering from depression or is it just lack of sleep? If there are any similar questions. please fell free to direct me to that post.  Thanks in advance.",2.0065077138849934,3.446003308243732,3.859149135109867,89.00002805049091,76.84946236559139,6.285865669315879,24.675237649992212,6.8959733430537185,0.8836029608851494,1029,35,221,10,23,348,148,279,0.125,0.8109999999999999,0.064,-0.9134,1,4,0,0,0,0,22,3,3,0,2,16,10,0,1,12,0,30,9,7,5,2,46,46,23,0,7,12,8,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,10,1,0,8,1,1,4,5,6,0,2,5,6,39,5,31,39,5,28,0,4,1,1,25,9,0,12,14,154,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353912354818747,0.2902415292249741,0.0,0.1494038821363187,0.0777266816285039,0.0,0.0,0.0635237020326878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28471695942154296,0.0,0.07948715581966087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596036731679074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260924296880554,0.12048666704235712,0.0,0.08045604782812127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507648750579343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169807407231949,0.0,0.07870405858849182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806098981132886,0.0,0.18892866330254007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290439819459407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937003520924673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269749068679338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05133706606739702,0.0,0.2107467334819496,0.09891034790260228,0.0,0.09552060830835664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430842670040435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938454099433488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940358891435696,0.07456096486263586,0.0,0.06866893436288891,0.0,0.0,0.0902183728596813,0.0,0.0,0.09152441489280352,0.0,0.0,0.09802070319604876,0.0,0.06329872632038899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253887178595507,0.0,0.0,0.08946335168406543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928675289559145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05984243831594766,0.0,0.09223357261292883,0.0,0.0,0.0797737630726564,0.08885667704292782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443766691508975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5608797575839887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661178470233137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804017406980137,0.0,0.1404691466475799,0.0,0.0,0.08600167798525088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598549570205073,0.0,0.0,0.21787831563464952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707509397005696,0.05509711167762068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429025024832705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800541123311551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ToDoubleD,2018/03/10,"3yr old girl settling for bed trouble So my 3 year old daughter is pushing me (dad) around at bed time and I can't figure out how to nip it in the bud. We do her routine - potty, drink, stories, etc., but she keeps asking for more and more, even throwing in extra unreasonable requests, until I have to tell her no. Then when I say no she freaks out crying instead of going to sleep. 
So I get it, she's testing me to see how far ill go, but it's kind of lose lose - either I get played or she freaks. 
When mom is home she can go in and be enough of a distraction to end the freak out, but maybe that extra attention isn't helping, or is our daughters goal?
My next attempt will be to hold my ground after the normal routine is complete, let her cry for a while to see if she calms down. If she doesn't, go in to settle her and not do any extra request request (show her that isn't going to happen). 
Anyone have experience ending a phase like this?",3.6267778649921496,4.10622017857143,4.738979591836737,87.9400863422292,71.70408163265307,6.8470957613814765,25.79120879120879,6.297961479604792,0.7943819466248039,729,21,158,4,13,240,118,196,0.189,0.768,0.043,-0.9838,0,0,1,0,0,0,27,2,0,0,4,10,11,0,1,6,0,17,3,1,2,0,25,29,20,0,3,9,4,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,6,9,1,2,2,3,0,7,7,7,0,0,0,3,24,4,27,25,8,32,0,2,2,0,27,12,0,4,14,112,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570951439124016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841021057278516,0.0,0.0,0.12529038678407614,0.13157494738804634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756550684214115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091973705041203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787376355577674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24931160891776574,0.14542430341203255,0.15696474362260476,0.09295888809027288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376728665982365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706396907559427,0.0,0.3999351454637139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445785242505293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433652219012477,0.0,0.14117589041714762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509812379416388,0.0,0.14656133126381402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391842325002244,0.0,0.06875952410691373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149090168029125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139444531905435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483555007962006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968091408617584,0.0,0.13789746227046165,0.0,0.0,0.2953705027567255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192383722149778,0.0,0.0,0.2243066044606179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084383076051624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301487615545012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206790189527674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063335493837864
parenting,mammalouise,2018/03/10,What are some actual ways of teaching kids not to be selfish? My son is 7 next week and he is pretty typical I think. He's very selfish and sometimes it really gets to me. He never seems to think about how his words and actions affect the rest of the family. My husband always reminds me that he's still young and it's normal for them to have a self centred world view. But at some point it has to improve right? And it's our job to teach him how. So do you have any tips or exercises that can help him to understand how to treat other people? Have you had any particular successes? I don't feel like I'm doing a good job of this particular aspect of parenting and it really gets me down.,2.042313109425784,3.9747203169014114,4.043239436619718,85.52976706392201,78.22535211267606,7.467822318526544,22.19068255687974,8.384062270229773,1.3095074756229683,543,16,113,11,13,185,93,142,0.014,0.823,0.162,0.9681,3,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,2,1,1,6,6,0,0,4,0,13,1,0,4,1,23,21,12,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,10,6,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,2,14,4,16,19,3,12,0,0,1,0,17,5,0,4,6,75,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.18284641042591446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559071217905734,0.0,0.0,0.2548364948019712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663606853992433,0.0,0.09474006705966688,0.1338573988777048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578652461703447,0.0,0.0,0.15715734036369433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559038043212592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37187227519273214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153967721552496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451154701371524,0.0,0.19927046818224792,0.0,0.1835831377403156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080525740868864,0.0,0.0,0.12989899245300404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177125522232651,0.0,0.0,0.19062298316616927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24006845843134214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001323528135786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057490834752673,0.19546811476345974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18531404421525735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963418498888895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401186794148075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19505911812955512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546001425873667,0.0,0.14872584401348435,0.15029717412523366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jonesy909,2018/03/10,"Settling a baby Our baby is three months old and we have been very lucky so far, no major issues. 
The one thing that tests my patience though every day is resettling him so that he stays asleep longer than half hour. My wife is better at it but I don't want to feel like I can't help out with this stuff.
Any tips out there for things you've tried beyond putting a hand on him or stroking the head would be welcome! 
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parenting,MonicaTee,2018/03/10,"Ways to deal with child's bad behavior 1. don't get angry, calm down and make your child understand that the behavior isn't acceptable.
2. Understanding your child is one of the most important things that you should learn as a parent.
3. make your child your friend",3.634599999999999,6.288633260000001,3.649999999999999,86.705,76.4,8.8,22.0,9.3871,1.9286,213,6,42,6,5,65,38,50,0.134,0.722,0.14400000000000002,0.1459,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,10,9,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,5,3,5,8,1,2,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,0,23,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461011032250343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038708070106817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277204955244698,0.0,0.15399293565969993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3934912945635275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19972792734490308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272812234433963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581654713787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6136832202669159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395613536632945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elephants555,2018/03/10,"Not a parent yet. Just had a miscarriage and trying again - has anyone experienced this? I’m not sure who to talk to. My family doesn’t even know I had a miscarriage or that I was pregnant (8 weeks). Only myself and my husband know.
Have you gone through a miscarriage? We’re currently trying again and I’m using ovulation kit this time. I’m not sure if the ovulation kit is working but we’re trying almost any day just so we don’t miss the window.
Did you become pregnant right away?
I ask the people on the fertility apps these questions but I know my audience on there are more likely to be people who struggle after their miscarriages.
Any tips or info will help <3
Thank you",2.1974686716792,4.82378278195489,3.7492030075187976,83.9751829573935,82.08270676691728,6.854937343358396,21.64862155388472,8.021203637495839,1.4070555388471178,542,17,100,11,15,179,85,133,0.064,0.861,0.075,0.5319,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,3,1,1,8,6,0,1,8,0,12,0,0,1,2,23,23,9,0,1,10,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,1,13,4,8,16,1,13,0,1,0,0,13,4,0,5,9,67,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18364775345907397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494354175490408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282369476088281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145344509100455,0.0,0.17230953544682495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254994858092176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827727738277008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211334067107856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289239339410428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292858213880868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023741241578121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895995592244438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948331534048414,0.0,0.0,0.20364304857450827,0.0,0.0,0.2542917524186895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544901716028796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662186919810694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172860834520736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34570305063283097,0.0,0.0,0.14740928707393205,0.0,0.16884929382052213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694151729232704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37354794590084905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583979782304014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711173300943767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335167630642627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MissGarrison,2018/03/10,"5 year old collecting bowls of spit and leaving them around the house?? Title sums it up. Bowls, cups, anything concave. Full of spit. She seems pretty neutral about it, not embarrassed at all. I make her dispose of the spit and clean the bowl every time. But WHY? I googled it but the results I got were how to collect toddler spit for DNA tests.. 

Anyone have any experience with this behavior?",2.156849315068495,5.034828315068495,2.451520547945208,90.48851369863014,87.76712328767124,5.111780821917809,25.10821917808219,6.742157984588678,1.1622723287671235,309,13,57,4,10,94,58,73,0.0,0.911,0.08900000000000001,0.6668,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,4,0,2,4,4,3,1,12,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,10,3,2,7,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,34,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501809867451345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052104827960124,0.0,0.23599292065904676,0.2552922054639662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162187298210516,0.0,0.0,0.2805227970680765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293616523620177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309019928329683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036552872386802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914257807880368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30092407331984034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917551645781196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610708825936711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722189315891256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587715106995654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846748953747972
parenting,the-bacon-king,2018/03/10,"4.5 year old refusing to be potty trained, have no clue what to do So my 4.5 year old son just can't get potty trained. He'll pee in the toilet, but refuses to poop in the toilet. About a year ago we almost had him trained, he was fully going pee and doing poop like half the time on the toilet. Then we had a couple weeks of traveling and him staying with relatives so we kept him in pull ups, and since then it's been impossible to get him back to potty training.

We've tried everything. Rewards, he doesn't care. Punishment, he doesn't care. No pants, he'll shit on the couch. Make him clean up himself, nothing changes. Lax's to soften and make it easier, just bigger mess for us to clean up. 

We try to not be upset with him, but it's hard when he craps his pants, says sorry, then literally an hour later does it again. We'll pretty much try for a week and then become so sick of cleaning and throwing away poop underwear that we'll stick him back in pull-ups and try again in another week or so and the cycle continues. 

Have no clue what to do.",3.672361111111108,4.493401884259264,4.666740740740742,87.25233333333334,71.82407407407408,7.982222222222222,24.585185185185185,8.238735603445708,1.2339762962962966,821,22,178,12,15,268,115,216,0.124,0.748,0.128,0.4318,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,0,1,12,9,3,1,10,0,16,8,7,2,0,26,26,20,0,0,6,1,1,1,0,4,1,1,4,0,7,14,0,3,0,1,0,4,7,5,0,1,5,2,17,4,27,15,1,39,0,0,0,0,26,12,2,2,23,107,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414597767205615,0.0,0.14023996095238905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468547577951514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158169412713314,0.21537978881523615,0.0,0.0,0.1546743499164398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28558085417646656,0.0,0.14815445271968086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549627895314041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255880027146812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586801375540788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634081048393394,0.0,0.0795937083652159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254573952680574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792115328858745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842141246115206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869690798415915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029529496150631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438186345126105,0.0,0.2939180755025572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248131687289473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113734734239811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375943147487666,0.11585090317311755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677463876299313,0.0,0.14927478936929564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166434887866666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803393424659528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846304560288194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33701926602896515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705630488949209
parenting,BlahCreativity,2018/03/10,"I'm desperate I'm going crazy. My 2.5yr old (YS) WILL. NOT. SLEEP. At bedtime we do our routine. Dinner, bath, song. (Sometimes my mom does the dinner/bath cause I don't get them till bedtime.] The fun usually starts around 8:00-8:30 when I put him in bed. YS destroys his room if left alone. Or climbs out. He flips toddler beds, climbs dressers, pulls out clothes, destroys books, destroys EVERYTHING. I can't take out the dressers, I can't take out the clothes or drawers. Which means I can't leave him alone. So he climbs all over me kicking me, playing with my hair,kissing me. I sit next to him sometimes and make sure he lays in bed, by putting him back into bed every single time. Sometimes I sit outside the door. Sometimes I let him destroy everything and say I'll deal with it later cause I'm so tired. My 5 year old sometimes begs to go to bed.(they share a room, and I can't put the OS down while YS is awake) we tried melatonin but he's built up a tolerance. I will NOT drug him with benadryl. (Tons of people suggest it and one was even a doctor. This happens every night. I won't drug my child every single night.) I've even had to gently hold him down because he is So. Wound. Up.

He's absolutely uncontrollable. We're absolutely going crazy. As I type this I've been working on bedtime for 45 minutes.

Oh and the best part? HE WILL WAKE UP AT 3AM AND IT WILL TAKE TWO FLIPPING HOURS TO GET HIM BACK TO SLEEP!! Even if we wake up! Hes a fucking ninja and can flip a plastic bed over on his brother in the middle of the night AND NOT WAKE US UP. He can jump out of the room, go into his dad's office, take apart his wallet and NOT WAKE US Up. 

We don't know what to do and I need to have some time to myself at night. I'm so stressed and overwhelmed. I can't handle him.

Edit; my husband and I take turns sleeping in the hallway right outside his door so he can't get past us into the kitchen/living room/basement. Our backs are also killing us, but his safety comes first. It's around the corner where he can't see us because we don't want to start that habit. And I wake up if one of them makes a weird noise, I'm not a deep sleeper usually when it comes to the kids.",0.5786538461538449,2.844790878318584,1.8451327433628317,97.31584751531656,86.01327433628319,4.2733832539142265,21.08168822328114,5.505746109703593,-0.16410190605854336,1695,56,378,9,52,538,210,452,0.092,0.8490000000000001,0.059,-0.9122,0,2,2,0,0,0,73,12,0,2,6,17,15,6,3,21,0,28,15,8,4,2,57,59,31,1,5,12,4,0,0,0,5,5,2,13,2,10,33,1,1,2,4,0,14,16,10,0,4,3,3,56,5,52,50,7,81,0,1,1,1,50,40,1,6,25,218,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146382408370292,0.0,0.056513535843883675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581981041679915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301903335231036,0.0,0.08615766531126581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416218088549074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519193424978347,0.0,0.12174922864187605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285607137199705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233215549913352,0.061842438912139426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639059380455936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002753893917785,0.0,0.17862365712993572,0.0,0.12702449655870632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011054950131005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653318454976012,0.11076404892173862,0.0,0.16065004019176646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249187906167576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959419052771962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818417216641839,0.0,0.0388375332934458,0.0,0.0,0.07482768736122279,0.07678148029403348,0.07226328050215547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434348143871593,0.0,0.0,0.07697866181862442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276603733656326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052399762009928436,0.0,0.0,0.07515670083209218,0.2652702214202759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830930613859822,0.0,0.09577354450577276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652704734715758,0.06746103410761288,0.04899260689873936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131239402261882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060350472214565375,0.0,0.05619838976392773,0.0,0.0,0.05631360707886692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121584649012692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34946453200314065,0.0,0.10003898865929496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095047344812152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660418005009776,0.0,0.2656694069965537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241468577763664,0.08122299027214948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04797924037326293,0.07686698324256956,0.06903280945656133,0.0,0.42502723523618535,0.0,0.1556626326860391,0.0,0.04168208417565287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05144747499658806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04550816638246104
parenting,ElegantAnt,2018/03/10,"7yo with public bathroom phobia My 7yo daughter has developed an intense fear of bathrooms other than at home. She has started having routine pee accidents because she refuses to use bathrooms at her school, our neighbor's house, restaurants we've been to a zillion times, afterschool activities, etc.. Suddenly bathrooms that used to be no big deal (e.g., school bathroom) are scary, so she'll hold it for the entire school day plus afternoon activities and then come home so full that she pees all over the bathroom floor. Or she doesn't make it that far and I get a bag full of peed on clothes from her afternoon teacher. I've talked to her about this and she's mentioned being scared of toilets with automatic flushers, but that isn't really it - she won't go in places with manual flush toilets either. 

Things I've tried that don't work:

1. Making sure the toilet is not automatic. 

2. Using the toilet myself so she can see how it works.
 
3. Making sure to find a clean, comfortable, well-lit bathroom. 

4. Making her clean up the mess afterwards if she has an accident.

5. Refusing to go home early when she desperately needs to use the bathroom (she'd rather risk peeing on herself in public even though she despises the feeling of wet pants). 

6. Talking to her about what she is worrying about. Recent confessions: she thought a man with a gun was in the toilet; also confessed that she doesn't like the way her butt feels wet after she pees. She's always been extremely sensitive to the feeling of moisture. But...

7. Discussions/demonstrations about how to wipe properly don't help.

Thoughts? Advice?",3.9027252252252262,6.6665966148648685,4.323540540540542,81.6385765765766,76.0945945945946,7.46018018018018,28.109909909909916,8.447377352677275,2.410112072072072,1282,54,220,26,30,403,178,296,0.14,0.79,0.07,-0.9648,0,0,0,1,0,0,48,1,0,0,2,14,9,1,3,17,0,21,5,5,10,3,41,41,17,0,3,7,1,5,1,1,2,0,0,6,1,14,9,0,3,8,0,0,3,8,5,0,1,5,6,28,4,37,31,5,31,2,0,1,1,39,15,1,2,13,141,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476112473059648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391682044355132,0.09771958663720366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715904062809537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116426334645506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573916094184449,0.12107560553578328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097677617290168,0.07756809075517823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13215278376239806,0.17814375798985535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733814082649487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135761482535464,0.0,0.13348785165927946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871763599049736,0.0,0.35340604342274645,0.0,0.0,0.13551012909420435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737530983619892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135687645089489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708035989052143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269992811991633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523514722455704,0.0,0.1159579490719267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757804634934013,0.3565670096660874,0.09358456952976232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312472043178933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137184393611026,0.0,0.0,0.188787837614556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802199642629852,0.0,0.11538432028417332,0.18646867201744136,0.06848027760527835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973413158223762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057222226118909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321849978597743,0.0,0.0,0.10559277064534034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099561014466555,0.11926614115424247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brendalee1229,2018/03/10,"I have finally decided to leave those crazy mom groups on Facebook. And because of those groups , I think I’ve lost a good friend. If you’ve ever been in any of the mom groups on Facebook , you’ve probably seen the madness that ensues when you have a different parenting style.
And if you haven’t been in one, don’t go ! 

One of my really good friends and I have had our friendship slowly grow apart because of the type of person she’s become! We use to make fun of these mom groups and now she’s become one of the main bullies. It’s not my thing to talk shit to a parent and act like I parent better ! I just don’t understand the need to try to tell another parent how to parent. 
Anyone deal with people overstepping when it comes to your parenting ? How did you deal? I already only have like 3 friends, so it makes me kind of sad 😔 

Sorry just venting here. ",3.5067904509283814,4.7646266551724175,4.4139080459770135,87.25651193633955,72.67816091954023,7.652696728558798,24.87886825817861,8.139509932561175,1.334746772767463,674,20,140,10,13,218,99,174,0.092,0.74,0.168,0.9432,7,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,4,0,2,10,14,2,0,8,0,11,1,1,5,1,23,21,12,0,3,5,9,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,8,8,0,0,3,0,0,4,4,4,0,3,6,1,17,10,21,15,1,14,0,2,1,0,29,5,1,2,7,87,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778015924171096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641826246378417,0.10241445201038353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829242877798722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907621963858332,0.21573545215131598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638028473557302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413318674671927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138488027395146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204330684412274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834719317858397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699160460529533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22637645836199816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05550753784272014,0.16384023000312234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017072234546052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341735820117597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954322701993748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661724015867136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038961857519368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431662222356591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242031858177404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198549106105661,0.07428166808574116,0.0,0.0,0.6506991307994636,0.0,0.0,0.06771138004569671,0.08528079486544354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530369048521604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256925599984989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025581477149714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093324381116366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850263458717376,0.08536700226106668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488693713120049,0.06258234513947089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631083310044145,0.0,0.0,0.1016768631506296,0.0,0.08435464855163294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skd120,2018/03/11,"Book recommendation for 4.5 year old My daughter is 4.5 and I've read to her every night since she was an infant. But always small books, nothing longer than The Lorax. I'm looking for recommendations for longer books I can read to her, a chapter or so every night, that are suitable for her age.",3.7710526315789465,5.948466807017546,4.382315789473683,83.94821052631579,73.91228070175438,5.963508771929827,23.68070175438596,6.742157984588678,0.7212554385964913,236,7,45,2,5,75,43,57,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,7,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,5,25,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21568790953427952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.436800169855444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767558172282855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4865120316468525,0.0,0.24872408829560505,0.0,0.2720028710923726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185709298563802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144255893609256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669261658147191
parenting,rocketplex,2018/03/11,"Yesterday, the nightmare came true... (Nothing bad, don't worry) My wife has been sick for the last week and a bit and have been super busy in the weeks before that so yesterday when the kids were down for the night, we got to get down to some happy fun time for the first time in a while.

It was going great and the grand finale had just arrived when suddenly the pitter patter of little feet echoed down the passage. 

In walks out smallest and starts to climb on the bed. I have to say ""Hey sweetie, just go take a wee quickly ok?"" Luckily he says ok, so I pull out and have to flee to the other bathroom while the wife has to scramble for the clothes that got chucked around.

Oh to be a parent...",3.1007792207792204,4.5539064285714295,3.533636363636365,92.3968181818182,74.0,6.233766233766234,23.441558441558442,6.574015621080383,0.4860714285714285,540,15,116,4,11,168,91,140,0.043,0.7859999999999999,0.171,0.9633,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,3,8,9,0,0,17,2,12,2,1,0,1,14,20,11,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,4,10,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,1,8,2,4,8,23,11,2,35,0,0,0,0,9,11,0,1,17,76,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334304071739362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625839647788245,0.0,0.0,0.16569329361130872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21258498244482696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227090364158302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133074206355686,0.0,0.16562964759259047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173372528359152,0.0,0.22132894943938136,0.0,0.3114724648341031,0.21468067348286585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20728420600080014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872366584360206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951616730024006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18273253886030094,0.0,0.1868401238757468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162147109776912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30970002999781365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782457966714362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640601565624575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270868503956454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31238700320698776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19774870444940934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LibraryMomma,2018/03/11,"Daughter constantly changes clothes... Help! So a quick backstory: My boyfriend has a daughter who is almost 10.  Her mother has primary custody and she only comes to our house every other weekend. My complaint is that she changes her clothes CONSTANTLY. She will put on one outfit and then literally I see her 20 minutes later in something else. She will sometimes make excuses like ""This got wet when I went outside"" or ""I wanted to wear all black to look like a cat"" etc etc and sometimes she wont even have an excuse. She will just use her closet to play dress up. I understand maybe a 3 year old doing it, but it seems kind of crazy since she is so much older. Im just wondering if other parents have had to deal with this and do you have any ideas why she does it. I know its not a huge issue, but Im just really getting tired of having to constantly dig through the laundry basket to get her clothes out. Because most of them are still clean when she throws them in there. Then her drawers in her room are constantly a mess and I have to re-fold everything all the time and hang stuff back up whenever she is here. I know at her moms house, her mom still picks out her clothes for her. Her mom kind of still forces her to wear the ruffles and big bows. The daughter doesn't really go in her closet at home so I think it might be her trying to get some sense of independence. i usually let her wear whatever she wants when she is over here, as long as it matches. But the constantly changing is getting very frustrating. Any advice?",4.006409444284484,5.504203516556295,4.417624532104809,86.77714511949324,71.78145695364239,7.768730204434206,28.031097034264327,8.321376580360154,1.8284219406852853,1210,45,244,19,23,381,172,302,0.065,0.8959999999999999,0.039,-0.8986,1,0,1,0,0,0,31,1,1,2,0,18,7,1,0,12,0,26,4,3,4,2,39,46,22,0,3,9,8,1,2,0,5,1,0,5,0,13,11,0,0,7,2,0,6,3,2,0,1,3,4,43,5,32,36,7,44,0,0,3,0,45,15,0,8,25,167,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619842950451359,0.0,0.0,0.08833022728925413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997253824837432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782854747806201,0.0,0.05377239551716443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27994552466583944,0.0759856671230459,0.0,0.4766218941065388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094131024763323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077193737154222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368868189816517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19675639175150564,0.058262304577930996,0.0,0.07432127990943704,0.0,0.07927804734084777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843457023797658,0.0,0.050132147092375234,0.0,0.07055011764994881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05912574151410185,0.0,0.08848247752874258,0.0,0.0,0.2035665010654972,0.0,0.0995790905513509,0.19056528520161006,0.09206900421025578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371564240628832,0.09695653630452478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020136946588324,0.0,0.08619053903184089,0.0,0.0,0.07806365235352687,0.07407473236114287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888129605254691,0.0,0.08861945756931194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357756334982212,0.0,0.3099337531237493,0.0,0.0,0.06484497983199654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256224202164096,0.0,0.0597738215936982,0.06708817676786512,0.0,0.0,0.0979474914756936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867607052424457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130200065487625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702924700176868,0.08030366581458058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296876396322555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790887050199403,0.17448518333178648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21133542504334754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009800938280602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05652182485210376,0.0,0.0,0.051436341317368905,0.10138516967055576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059889243299327134,0.0,0.0,0.0918304010133136,0.0,0.07618568240404669,0.09715157231567058,0.07278302714915348,0.1040578575649901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177215936471807,0.07959639432442711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566069070205628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680476863289946
parenting,flinty_nickel,2018/03/11,"Roblox game suggestions for a 5 year old My 5 year old boy loves Roblox but he's bored of the few games we have screened for him. Do any of your little ones have any favorite Roblox games that you could recommend? I'm open to all suggestions, but my kid's interests so far have been cars, building tycoons and city simulators.",4.177968749999998,5.866457109375002,3.9676250000000017,89.41487500000002,71.65625,8.245000000000001,26.8625,8.841846274778883,1.7906287500000002,261,9,55,5,5,79,49,64,0.039,0.782,0.179,0.8573,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,1,7,8,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,6,2,5,6,2,8,0,0,1,1,13,3,0,0,4,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133067625907159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426288078372412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045743140454548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742696173526714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6377559589328959,0.0,0.20592149712979166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39138615163368784
parenting,DormeDwayne,2018/03/11,"Disagreement about kids' extracurricular activities OK, first some background info: I have a 4 year old daughter and a 1 year old son. Their dad and me are married (happily). When I was a kid, I went to music school (played the piano) from age 9-15 (=elementary music school). I also had dance classes from age 5 to 17ish. My husband attended guitar classes (though not in music school) for 6 years and trained athletics (triple jump) from 13 to 20ish. He also attended religious instruction all through elementary school and junior high because he comes from a religious (catholic) family, while I don't. I have, however, become catholic (soon after we started dating, 10 years ago) and we are raising our kids catholic, too.

Now here's my problem: I've talked to my husband the other day about our daughter starting dance classes in september. I've always wanted my kids to go to music school + a sport (or dance) + religious instruction. It's what I had (or wish I had in the case of religious education) and what I see as a good idea. But my husband doesn't want her to start dancing. He says that he doesn't want her to have any extracurriculars until she starts school, and then she should have as little as possible, because free time and boredom is really important (which is true, and I agree, but I still think she'd have enough time to be bored even w/ all three extracurriculars). He wants her to get religious instruction, but apart from that nothing. He understood I also wanted music and sport and he suggested a compromise is if she gets religious education (as per his wish) and 1 of those I want her to have. 

I'm trying but I can't seem to make my peace w/ that. If I do have to only choose 1, then it's going to be music school, but I really don't want to give up dance, either :(

I don't really know what I want to ask. Maybe just - hit me w/ your opinions? Am I making this more of a tragedy than it really is? Is the suggested compromise fair? How *do* we make this fair? Am I betraying my daughter or forgoing her best interest for the sake of peace in the home or is it for the best? Should I try to change his mind? *Can* I change his mind? I'm really confused, so thank you for anything you have for me :)

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parenting,Rotneb,2018/03/11,"Kids dad is kissing other women in front of kids. What do I do? Lemme lay out the parental situation real quick. Mom and dad divorce because dad cheats on mom while she is pregnant with their second child. In comes me, stepdad, a few years later when the girls are 2 and 5. Fast forward to now. Girls are 8 and 11, and dad married step mom about 8 months ago. 


Ok now that we are identified, lemme tell you the story:

You already know dad cheated years ago. Since then, he has had 4 gf's that have met the kids. The gf who was around before step mom was possibly cheated on as well. He has a female friend that the girls know and that he sees often. We were told by one of the gymnastics moms that he had this friend at a practice with him and they were kissing and what not. When mom asked him about this, he just laughed it off and said nothing. 

This past weekend, 11 year old daughter texts mom that she saw dad kissing friend while they were at her house and also saw him on a dating website. 


Now dad has a history of being into bdsm and being part of a community involved in it. The girls don't know about it and we don't care, that's his business, he can do what he wants in that aspect. I mention this only because knowing dad, it wouldn't be surprising at all if he was in an open relationship. Once again, that's fine if that's what he wants. But 11yo daughter said it made her very uncomfortable. She won't bring it up to him, so I think we are going to have to broach the subject. 


How do we handle this?  If he's cheating, do we tell step mom? If it's an open relationship, do we try and make the kids understand that their dad is just gonna have random women other than his wife and that's ok?  If the kids are uncomfortable going to dad's house do we make them go still?  I'm at a loss as I'm all for letting people live the life they want, but I also domt k ow where the line is drawn for things being appropriate for the kids.",3.231448963797405,4.2152153042394005,4.074579069567463,90.47830423940151,73.0149625935162,6.827792587496775,24.052025109639693,6.953978226594392,0.6422841344913577,1511,41,337,13,29,485,189,401,0.044,0.895,0.061,0.6537,1,0,0,0,1,0,41,8,2,6,1,21,18,4,0,23,2,40,4,0,4,2,58,69,31,0,9,10,22,0,0,5,3,1,2,0,13,32,29,0,0,6,1,0,10,5,5,1,2,15,5,32,13,38,46,4,53,0,1,3,3,90,21,0,7,24,212,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964991021291812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692478173569156,0.12598486659336786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701221034636379,0.07363942526466782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960350631769099,0.0,0.06702756701254327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031138300272304,0.0,0.0,0.06785348014086545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257278864364745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430061652191785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817802759436969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315998292185442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054778043629071,0.055637662431354526,0.0,0.0,0.06955545555276119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453418832949975,0.10515932816382856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7380368626102977,0.06287355507081888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755820507321895,0.0,0.08265598616958797,0.08388760274865907,0.05337666918004227,0.05990822272618526,0.0,0.0,0.0874648919898455,0.08530035952315522,0.07519498873488094,0.05460928034347199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880147034897415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965763696729752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913925135610394,0.0,0.0,0.1498568369591506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627695840410791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515945393312951,0.08854091070891143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290591637946315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769710661369608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523313649498149,0.05047270972718101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526822144562302,0.0,0.05347973814958933,0.0,0.0,0.08200246872077226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499359516394007,0.13938196581903026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082379418377514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521761163495749
parenting,Billnyetheheroguy,2018/03/11,Newborn not following me with eyes. My one month old is not focusing on anything. His eyes move from side to side and he is light sensitive but he never seems to be actually looking at anything. If he does look at something (or at least what looks like that) then it is only for a second. I want to know if I am freaking out and I should wait a bit longer before panicking or if I should call the doctor. My next appointment is scheduled for a month from now.,2.111545893719807,4.312900782608697,3.4031884057971027,88.87031400966184,79.21739130434783,6.697584541062803,24.352657004830927,7.793537801064563,1.2986120772946856,360,13,74,6,9,117,65,92,0.081,0.8690000000000001,0.05,-0.5927,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,8,3,2,0,1,19,16,9,0,6,8,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,6,8,1,13,13,2,17,0,0,5,0,6,7,0,6,9,52,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.1966219161804746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316127081918969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145030818182025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199712490506305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057404082777477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623013509151286,0.17632233469652267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073179946675862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984362050025114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5075941481823603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216494607766764,0.21414843372000492,0.0,0.0,0.15539893409914246,0.0,0.21428334962063247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142635684801367,0.0,0.1365325759015652,0.15323968490617393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834258887198048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551142752629449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188420529033408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mydogisanastronaut,2018/03/11,"When it comes to strangers 'harmlessly' touching your child..  I'm debating with my husband at the moment so thought I would see what everyone else's opinion is on this. We're teaching our daughter that she gets to decide if she wants to hug or kiss anyone (including us) to teach her about consent. Now what we were debating is where do you draw the line? An example would be that when I go for coffee with my mom (this always happens when we're out for coffee for some reason) usually an older person comes up, gives a compliment about how they think LO is cute or whatever then they always try to tickle her feet then walk off. I was thinking this was harmless enough but it still makes me uncomfortable that people are touching my kid without asking. She's one right now so it might not mean anything to her but it's still touching someone without consent (I'm not sure how to politely tell well intentioned polite people not to touch her) I feel like since she's too little to consent to toe tickles I should be her advocate and tell people no (why do people think children are public property anyways?) My husband thinks a small act like a toe tickle is harmless and I would be rude to make a big fuss about it. Do you guys have any stories or insights?",5.157923021060277,6.398812432098769,5.3295618494311325,82.3116557734205,68.7119341563786,8.022173807794724,30.755022996853064,8.313332769828598,2.275264536431858,1003,40,185,14,17,316,145,243,0.051,0.838,0.112,0.8806,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,3,3,2,0,18,12,1,0,8,0,21,5,3,6,1,43,41,17,0,6,11,4,5,2,0,5,0,0,0,5,13,8,0,0,10,0,0,5,6,1,1,1,4,6,28,11,26,29,2,27,0,0,1,2,31,10,0,7,14,128,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110624904515382,0.0,0.0,0.08624754378298162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868124552772322,0.0,0.10436882471603567,0.0,0.11856727210218362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21850257559797093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059487097816458,0.0,0.0,0.13104746226553662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118980642116035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412816255443199,0.0906061110230871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626251419423808,0.12166519247170253,0.07207940441058555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557988506899678,0.11215378266664852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392373116984068,0.12711520286359346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693176533041988,0.0,0.0,0.13815312064876045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454470681298406,0.0,0.14853968712419954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594208925222059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35170689496923674,0.11074151620595933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040054101757392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083106132542732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106567676201543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491362034333927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746114553494664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257037252515447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195341034097668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22170692192220134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250656281712465,0.0,0.10068744573518401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861080412068109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255874165998354,0.0,0.1396833743657973,0.0,0.0748065745489165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403380792443232,0.0,0.11444274839382287,0.0,0.0,0.2445157707484981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702854016767285,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,assortedchocolates3,2018/03/11,"How to specifically potty train your child? Does anyone have any tips? Hello, I have a 3 year old who is pee trained but not potty trained. Meaning she stays without diaper all day in the house and every time she needs to go pee, she will come to me and say ""pee in the toilet"" and I take her to the toilet. At this stage she is able to pull the light switch and pull her pants down to her knees, but I have to put her on the toilet because its high for her. I am thinking of getting stairs so that she can eventually go sit on it by herself too. I also have to help clean her but we will get there.


My problem is that she is refusing to poop in the toilet. She keeps holding it until she is constipated and does not poop until I put a diaper on her. 


This is really stressing me out now because I am 6 months pregnant with my second one and I can't hold her and wash her over the sink after she goes in the diaper because she is getting very heavy. Another thing is that she is on diaper size 5+ of the pharmacy brand. The last diaper size is 6 which is from pampers brand but again it can only go so far. I have started to notice that the current size of 5+ is getting a bit tight for her now.


So anyways does anyone have any tips on how to get your kid to go to the toilet to poop. She is at the moment constipated so last night I gave her the constipation medicine and have been giving her water today too. At one point in the day she ran to me and said ""mama diapey"" meaning put my diaper on I need to poop, but instead I sat her on the toilet and she sat there for half hour but didn't poop. Had I put her in a diaper she would have gone within 5 minutes.


I don't know what to do. I mean the pressure will build with this medicine but she is refusing to go. I am not pressuring her to go, just when she says she needs to go to the toilet I put her there for a while. Please help and give all the tips and advice you can. I have asked friends here and they have all had this problem with their children holding it and getting constipated. Thanks",2.748610465116279,3.793822823255817,4.167369186046514,89.11826308139538,74.25581395348838,7.23546511627907,23.204941860465127,7.6454224807358475,0.8237267441860463,1594,42,357,20,32,529,178,430,0.048,0.888,0.064,0.7859999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,1,3,2,0,20,7,0,3,24,0,41,11,9,2,3,55,76,32,0,6,12,0,1,0,1,4,1,3,1,3,17,20,1,7,5,0,0,17,7,5,0,4,10,5,65,2,57,62,4,66,0,0,0,0,58,24,0,0,22,256,82,0,0.08851884676609947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864995925811993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078848977787126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039170248308675,0.09281972893468528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378887164911828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275317256034098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618808021591487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966396544882699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625114849464784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417466636530375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323903179689863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458094618699461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838944143099507,0.0,0.2774846637277155,0.16983068748551353,0.35215110374358993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866463418021578,0.09352502163031333,0.0,0.0,0.08717323330077721,0.10213886440021364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867961820103944,0.0,0.0,0.048647643214813435,0.14430934913493526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892689229522874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065489896964157,0.0,0.0,0.19690680977648412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083068941258854,0.0,0.0,0.10077929374217028,0.09288563920825334,0.0,0.11996532290893885,0.06732257177762091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716711203838313,0.0836789220137623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940116324755042,0.0,0.44492945034730624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05670743989297696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842016938865052,0.1407874796695162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265409534504915,0.09434931284533243,0.0,0.0,0.10139803989660247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665551564617029,0.0,0.0,0.08149626122009301,0.0,0.0,0.058807988498628685,0.056719302773339635,0.0,0.0,0.05161605139902165,0.0,0.08390551649718107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303731902561499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532900948010673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628812490128504,0.0,0.0,0.0570032351129762
parenting,smarkleberry,2018/03/11,"Any experience with nonverbal 2 year olds? My 2.5 year old is nonverbal but recently has a couple of phrases he tries to say. They don't come out anywhere near coherent but we know what he's saying. These include ""where is it?"" ""There it is!"" And counting to five (at least that's what I assume it is when he's opening and closing my fingers and making consistent sounds for each). I guess my question is has anyone else experienced this with their child? We're working on getting him into speech therapy currently (we tried once before but we never got the paperwork even after months of calling, so we are waiting on another referral)  so if any one has *any* advice about working on his speech or anything it would be greatly appreciated. 

Side note: we have tried sign language since he was a baby but he refuses to look at us while we sign and videos teaching signs have been unsuccessful as well.",4.158126232741619,6.484190769230771,5.00281656804734,79.26205522682449,73.2603550295858,8.056962524654834,30.20157790927022,8.841846274778883,2.7441121104536497,716,32,126,15,15,232,120,169,0.019,0.931,0.05,0.7287,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,7,0,2,2,8,2,0,0,3,0,16,1,1,1,1,36,24,15,0,2,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,1,9,18,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,0,1,2,3,8,16,2,19,19,2,24,0,0,1,0,22,12,0,5,11,86,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477886999926317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085424913968142,0.15858695588708638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574961030830488,0.1549619130830846,0.1244565575999518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286929881071524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544316145968666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027874204598802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16734273670476896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263405211034634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998917300656424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479404617473396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901597471247314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095939835269495,0.16674119245994815,0.16660647064887107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311683019401069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700241130706671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095300166729283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071728149507645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166446032670688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173991334973303,0.16106427167273485,0.10248325216251863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694219482609474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932996332496618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405421571906828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510620933795105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729546255179144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30804343402636564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819215256130471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598174764258306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202071388464653,0.0,0.0,0.10743562794007863,0.0,0.0,0.1947855188985512
parenting,blink981,2018/03/11,"Naps are now crap For the past two weeks my 17 month old has only taken 45 min naps. She used to take 2-3+ hour naps but now she wakes up crying after 45 minutes. Every day. And she is grumpy for a good bit after because obviously she needs more sleep. I can’t figure out what happened! Nothing changed in our routine. Sometimes she needs her diaper changed but not usually. I am a SAHM and nap time is when I get stuff done around the house. I am going crazy! Please help!! 

ETA: she is only on one nap a day",-0.18173854447439552,2.091266971698115,1.61191374663073,96.99150943396229,91.54716981132076,4.160646900269541,17.005390835579515,5.773587663045528,-0.5525477088948789,393,10,88,3,14,128,79,106,0.08199999999999999,0.8140000000000001,0.104,0.5374,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,5,0,9,3,3,1,1,12,17,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,5,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,0,13,1,10,15,2,21,0,0,0,0,9,5,1,0,15,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531417038805381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486688562340024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187810403557484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639663689094211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889650649574063,0.22188810876503667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17604472930751927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494130463575522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987771281480979,0.0,0.09776767586099942,0.14428921838800016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212410202334511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530697699303477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941327255693892,0.1984976192587243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731138795009168,0.0,0.0,0.2551136839438031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506584172727956,0.0,0.18051481533922886,0.0,0.11657086228079624,0.26167062456990425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422052575917007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883546946723676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215258710071235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701404371839055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969313036523954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934391022084138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031111446565398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680467015300287,0.0,0.0,0.14857726098989985,0.18946492385500785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799076600729349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrJdamm,2018/03/11,"Single father [22] looking for advice about my Son [M4]. My son [4M] will not use the toilet when he is angry. Instead he will go in his pants, or even take them off and go on the floor, but only when he's upset that he isn't getting something he wants. I've tried discipline, like a time-out or standing in a corner, and I hate spanking my children. Punishment doesn't  seem to affect his behavior anyhow, he already understands and accepts that there will be a consequence for his actions. I'm not sure how to get through to him about this.",6.017499999999997,5.584874638888892,6.507777777777778,80.465,66.5,9.051851851851852,32.814814814814824,8.344100000000001,2.4388592592592597,423,16,83,5,6,138,77,108,0.153,0.7929999999999999,0.055,-0.9031,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,0,0,1,0,8,6,2,1,5,0,7,0,0,3,1,18,19,9,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,3,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,1,9,3,12,15,1,12,0,0,1,0,15,6,0,4,3,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675136292067124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020993024389428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18081490153800367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860550253394661,0.0,0.31116651859425803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702798336319608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374457070869966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298881847424797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082056685625959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492194487085937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210752661130164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580141381262629,0.0,0.20583231569301647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963077770696527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858640455231017,0.0,0.0,0.28499224391661265,0.0,0.2364394399138016,0.0,0.0,0.16146985092824712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kneedrag32,2018/03/11,"Gut check: Son (6m) broke arm 6 days before ski trip. If wife (37f) and I (40m) go without the broken-arm son and 3yo son, are we making a mistake? We can cancel the trip with nearly no financial penalty. 

I’m suggesting that wife and I still go and find care with grandma and grandpa for the boys. Sure they will be heartbroken, but they will also be heartbroken if we all stay home. The other option is for everyone to go, but no one ski or do any physical activity. This scenario squanders the cost and time of the vacation - to not do the key intended activity of the vacation. It will also be a bummer to stare at the mountains and not be on them. 

We will plan a new trip in June for the full family.

We love our kids dearly and are able to provide them with great experiences and almost always put them first. We ski together at our small hill every weekend and overall spend a lot of time together. 

Wife definitely feels guilty. I do a little, but I also know that putting the kids first all the time isn’t healthy either.  This will be a great trip for the two of us to enjoy and bond together. 

Our friend, who parents very conservatively, had a surprised reaction that we’d consider going without the boys. Naturally, this made my wife’s guilt stronger

Thoughts? Am I an insensitive parent? Am I right? YOLO ... and the kids will have a lifetime of ski trips ahead.

Ah... parenting. 
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parenting,deten,2018/03/11,"My daughter goofs off too much in classes like ballet/dancing or swimming. More than any other kid and ends up distracting others. How can I help improve this? Hi folks,

My daughter is in swimming, ballet and hip hop class.  She's a good kid overall but she ends up goofing off way too much in these situations where she needs to pay attention or be more serious.  She is 6 y.o.

I see she distracts other kids and ends up not learning what she should and while I don't mind having fun and being goofy I feel like she is doing this too much in situations she shouldn't.",3.0520535714285733,5.129377241071432,3.8440714285714286,87.45092857142859,75.69642857142857,6.265714285714287,25.485714285714288,7.1686216300943375,1.1450507142857145,449,16,88,5,10,143,71,112,0.101,0.805,0.094,-0.2126,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,2,1,0,11,1,1,1,0,17,14,10,0,3,4,2,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,3,3,1,2,3,3,0,0,0,2,14,4,11,10,5,17,0,0,1,0,15,10,0,2,6,64,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413428879233429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5522714698959532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509354000234747,0.1484857287962924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433195635984305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931526628053953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308680430198492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20986592333132428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583737337194921,0.15411569940207184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562691523615364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467256813533111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649790413106867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentthrowaway92948,2018/03/11,"My 5 year old daughter keeps hiding herself around the house. My 5 year old daughter, Alina, keeps hiding in places like; closets, behind clothes, in the car in our garage, among others. And she will not make a sound until we find her! It's been a chore atleast 3 times a week to find her. We've tried talking to her about it, but she keeps doing it. Advice, please?",3.0829166666666694,4.844670347222227,3.0205555555555565,94.78000000000002,74.69444444444444,4.800000000000002,21.722222222222214,3.1291,-0.28721111111111153,283,7,59,0,6,85,51,72,0.047,0.88,0.073,0.4199,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,11,7,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,10,1,10,5,0,14,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,8,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676034344606225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924733505215013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680669652456299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323349444647544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369168190558521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837116615226864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440504775370354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225733261036258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103715875420072,0.22102571544932006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184034382148213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741086515601125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136705832670459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151365984478605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593301490486702
parenting,StarryJuliet,2018/03/11,"Is it abuse to make your kid eat cat food? A friend was telling me a story about how he almost made his kindergartener eat cat food bc she’d added spices to it and wasted it/ made it inedible for the cat. His wife said absolutely not and stopped him. 

Is that abusive, if he’d actually made her eat it? I know he has control issues. I can’t imagine making my kiddos do that. It feels like it would be super emotionally scarring. Having them replace the cat’s food, sure - but eat it?? Should I say anything to my friend?",2.157115384615384,4.3082989423076965,3.3294615384615405,89.71553846153847,78.80769230769229,6.083076923076924,22.9,7.1686216300943375,0.742822307692308,406,13,85,5,10,131,73,104,0.068,0.7959999999999999,0.136,0.7487,0,0,0,0,1,0,14,0,1,1,2,2,5,0,0,4,0,12,7,0,7,1,20,20,5,0,3,3,1,1,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,10,2,7,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,4,14,5,5,10,0,1,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,2,2,49,24,0,0.0,0.3066906470469377,0.1262983695293435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959863539945327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650426252942202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515911910878046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5297289591446438,0.0,0.1455836753302827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544025650197148,0.09245995690215117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469497126087422,0.0,0.19998407997314646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508419115872994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112760367397253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322963602420624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673900714153602,0.17278197629838188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311109676969507,0.10292251992529763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820358683218073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197983033162255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312157764177758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193852492629023,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,netflixandfroyo,2018/03/11,"Is it wrong to want my kid to be popular? My son is only 4 and is currently in preschool. We will be registering him for kindergarten later this year and I can’t help but think of my own school experience and want more for him. 

In school I was always picked on for being overweight. I had good friends but the “cool” kids still made fun of me all the way up to grade 12.

Even though our son is so young, I always have my own experience in the back of my head. I really just want him to be well liked. I’ve said this to friends and they acted like I was being pretentious by wanting a popular kid. We buy him brand name clothes, we’re paying for him to go into soccer this summer and hockey next winter, and whatever other activities he wants to do so he can make more friends. I always try to make the best treat bags for his class events, etc. We also teach him to be kind to everyone. I just really want him to have a good chance at being “popular” so he doesn’t go through what I did. I know brand name clothes shouldn’t matter, but kids are cruel. 

Does anyone else think about this stuff? ",3.5339069506726446,4.541064035874438,4.450109304932735,87.98171104260092,72.31838565022422,7.906838565022423,23.35454035874439,8.278499904357787,1.0626594170403585,852,21,187,13,16,276,126,223,0.04,0.685,0.275,0.9956,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,1,1,12,18,1,0,6,1,24,2,1,4,1,33,39,14,0,7,5,2,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,4,8,10,1,0,3,2,2,3,3,2,1,0,6,2,29,16,29,24,7,21,0,0,0,0,29,7,0,0,12,123,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008101247219918,0.31467601874146706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814407278147134,0.12916335204763166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693234749814696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229217731791207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031594266313573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530694207691213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059020609211054,0.08326143140861858,0.0,0.0,0.12045571816218753,0.0,0.2466217093295122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29218089587558194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432855894299678,0.2114662696340239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937391325241648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449535093441585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312720760851568,0.06927927118243682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317308259017595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928100611958485,0.16829203815554927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406622451489433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587429932187627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151450910209744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991191349239748,0.0,0.0,0.2551588703452115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067166712067148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443085236124636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154829703718904,0.12385329554252865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558645524244854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4461206726856993,0.10006054874344512,0.0,0.0,0.11334306600483245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782680472733191,0.0,0.08117849751178799
parenting,parenting_throw,2018/03/11,"My (40F) son (12M) behaved inappropriately with his friend (~11 M) and I am unsure what it means... I'm not a reddit user, hence the username, but thought this might be a good forum to discuss. My husband (45M) and I have one son who is normally well adjusted and is well behaved with others. There were never any issues at home with abuse from either parent. He's gone through comprehensive health and sex education at school and he is definitely aware of boundaries and the concept of consent, although we have not discussed it explicitly. Before I go off on a tangent, I'd like to get to the issue at hand.

A few days ago, his friend's mother came to me and told me that her son said that while he and my son were swimming together, my son took off his trunks and swam around for a bit. I was shocked to hear this and it took me a few moments to collect my thoughts but I decided to be objective - there's no reason for her and her son to lie about this. I asked if there's been any touching or anything else but there wasn't. So the incident was that my son, while swimming, took off his trunks, inside the pool and made it clear to his friend that his trunks were off, from the opposite end of the pool. I'm not worried about his sexuality (I don't think he is gay, or even if he knows what that means, and it wouldn't matter to me either way) - he's talked about girls and how his friends talk about ""crushes"" etc. He also wasn't trying to bully his friend or get him to do anything, so I suppose exhibitionism is the appropriate term to use here?

I'm yet to talk to him about this but I've been looking for advice about how to approach this. I've come to the understanding that adolescent children are prone to exploring their body, and I understand it's healthy, provided he talks about it with me or his father. I do think that what he did is completely unacceptable - that's not up for debate. My initial guess is that he's trying to be accepting of his body and probably wants to talk to his friends about it, but I would want to hear about this from his perspective.
 
I would like your help with the approach I should take and what I should expect from him. If anyone has dealt with anything similar, I'd appreciate it if you share, if you're comfortable doing that. 

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Edit:

Thank you all for taking the time to read and respond. I want to make it clear that I did NOT attribute this to any sexual behavior - I apologize if I did not make that clear. I was shocked initially because this is something out of the ordinary for him. As for exhibitionism, I wasn't aware that there was a sexual connotation to the word and used it in that manner. I suppose it's more about just wanting to go skinny dipping like some of you have suggested. 

I had a conversation with him a while ago and explained to him why there's a place and time for something like that. I made it clear that I was NOT insinuating that he has to be embarrassed by his body or by what he did. On talking to him a little bit more, it seems to me that he just wanted to swim naked - he was a little embarrassed to talk about it to his mother but I mentioned that there's nothing to be embarrassed about.  ",2.70220503866301,4.729232314375988,3.8592200881350287,87.17358443502123,76.56714060031595,7.096133699176852,24.849338987278614,8.032893268588372,1.3723687203791468,2497,87,518,42,57,811,251,633,0.047,0.799,0.154,0.9969,1,0,2,0,1,0,85,1,4,1,0,32,22,0,3,25,0,49,8,5,10,7,111,94,48,0,18,28,12,2,4,6,6,1,3,1,2,49,33,1,0,17,6,0,15,14,5,2,1,30,6,69,17,89,53,12,45,0,0,1,2,88,16,0,15,17,361,118,3,0.0,0.08558667132913708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058721281551067,0.12806395057403214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776630899328939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736684539440867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050508396436004924,0.0,0.17832976779750395,0.064304470933228,0.06752998052785139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04403378980090522,0.0,0.06146667059008205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772383786380026,0.2407104256526081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261760437280681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062224062398516675,0.07573703050203648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04658560365646918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060343079347726286,0.0,0.06397877570845824,0.0,0.08056112725724475,0.04771054085328981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33485152328956475,0.0,0.07547961952615362,0.0,0.08210563825928359,0.060587296697751376,0.0,0.0,0.07957500404780156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678243457072223,0.16282820551956995,0.0,0.04841760253778457,0.0,0.07245760169491197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078916011018909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039698470733877535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116150273957276,0.1447969076453814,0.0,0.0,0.06065921302144139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670102036945958,0.09643485616165626,0.0,0.0,0.1573701980632964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662992721445057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571209053874824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077496990745835,0.06931143739722745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04894831019409477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020842682729125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547020786856469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788155495966254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225455481023797,0.0,0.0,0.07426961791065677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687120332990454,0.0,0.0,0.07310568351833763,0.0,0.06576003740790469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122007493034908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086234710000919,0.4064183368441718,0.0,0.06650428935848518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257055151677804,0.0,0.11469305364529588,0.08424162695052924,0.0,0.0,0.06902364474356762,0.2407672519143628,0.09808565623363573,0.0,0.0,0.15039837956493246,0.0,0.1247757066633739,0.0,0.0,0.2130303933403288,0.05733678628701276,0.0,0.0,0.1298958927218473,0.0,0.06518085837319627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335815597051873,0.0,0.10262735288628226,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,desorden150,2018/03/11,"What happens if my kid doesn't have technology? Hey all. So my son is only 7 months old but I've been thinking ahead as to what kind of kid, and eventually adult, I want him to be. 

I think a lot about what I want to teach him, what tools I want to provide for him to grow, learn, image and play. And I'm not sure I want most of technology to be a part of it. Sometimes in posts in this sub and others I see people writing that their 7 year old has a smartphone, or a 4 year old have their own kindle or ipad or whatever, and I think, is everyone doing that? What happened to waiting till they're teenagers to get that sort of thing? 

I didn't get my own phone till I was 16 (and laptop till I got to college) and I'm 27. Have things really changed that much since then? Will it be detrimental to my kid if I don't give him those tools till he's at least in middle school so he can play, read, and be outside while he is a kid. I have heard that some schools give them ipads and laptops in the classroom from a young age (which I think it's insane) but that would be a school issue. What about none of that in the home? I should mention I own a smartphone, ipad and laptop so he'll be around that and I'm sure he'll use it. I'm talking about having his own gadget that he can have in his room. With the amount of bullying, shaming, and pressure social media and the internet can have on kids these days I just don't feel comfortable with him accessing all those items on his own. But again, I go back to, will it hurt him eventually when he is older and doesn't have his own gadget? 

If you have older kids, how do you go about that sort of thing? I'm really at a lost. ",2.068292978208234,3.302144590395482,3.3073809523809565,93.86860169491527,76.25988700564972,6.5260694108151736,21.3999192897498,7.021680442328713,0.25865972558514905,1291,31,306,13,28,419,165,354,0.077,0.888,0.036000000000000004,-0.9553,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,2,3,2,13,10,0,2,13,0,36,0,0,2,4,53,66,35,0,9,11,1,1,0,0,6,0,1,2,7,30,17,0,1,6,3,0,3,7,4,0,0,6,3,36,6,43,48,17,38,0,2,1,0,39,13,0,11,21,208,66,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432738632446363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011484818088884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397556973750973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558034766934724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119837601675021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059256739387152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245791484864745,0.22484606811130614,0.13320794833982078,0.0,0.09373063964292093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072682954269854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755500192231695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545845626216606,0.0,0.0,0.1223199470585194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220393760403887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793094749971148,0.09963403306600227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354302488754038,0.0,0.08615097521796625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689257413227386,0.0,0.0,0.08913121523240873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690953525378135,0.0,0.08124746985447563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122393272206572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722557924809325,0.0,0.15015478158129347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35581934395438103,0.09338833720348028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694397611300667,0.0,0.0,0.11946438671846507,0.0,0.0,0.11590772904907083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090766151664512,0.0,0.0,0.0941959894011002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335751892056517,0.300372386249404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121787151079123,0.0,0.0,0.2764959116817449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325115918566472,0.0,0.0,0.15093801331835655
parenting,alilpanda,2018/03/11,"Babies and Friends I’m a new mom with a 6 month old daughter and the first person in my group of friends to have a child.  Here recently I have really been struggling with not seeing any of my friends. Everyone was excited when we shared the news, met my daughter and spent some time with us. 

However, here recently as much as I try to get them to hang out, no body  seems interested or says they have other plans. Ok, I understand that there may be times when they may be doing something else, but every time I ask about hanging out?  Maybe, I’m reading too much into but I spent another night on the couch while all my friends were out enjoying their  Saturday night. 

I’m not really sure what to do anymore. Do I wait it out and see what happens? How do I talk to them about how I feel? Any suggestions on how to handle this would be great. ",3.4790384615384577,4.939120511904765,4.2702380952380965,87.4645054945055,73.04761904761905,8.264468864468865,26.613553113553113,8.841846274778883,1.8531789377289376,658,23,139,13,13,211,105,168,0.037000000000000005,0.8029999999999999,0.16,0.9663,1,0,1,0,0,0,16,2,0,5,2,11,12,0,1,6,1,16,1,1,3,2,32,31,15,0,1,5,3,1,0,4,3,0,1,1,2,6,13,0,1,3,1,2,2,3,1,0,1,6,4,19,11,23,19,4,25,0,0,2,0,23,8,0,5,15,95,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685609304140247,0.14406251882960014,0.0,0.0,0.13625124269020952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843854013592526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260627168682633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476942475248862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157546901688734,0.13127941243916455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946712557401293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686153130898072,0.0,0.0,0.4245802183211029,0.0,0.07177917175583923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146993675529205,0.0,0.0,0.1214910983531085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802396657281987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090629587933244,0.10966119843314752,0.0,0.20199088494186454,0.0,0.0,0.13268946970721174,0.0,0.25785726917344354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416481604740009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996125424623286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742443675325355,0.0,0.17602759070992352,0.0,0.271306685130441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925586173136564,0.0,0.0,0.21895971377287848,0.1250721996057984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576742319635878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362699183489894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948586457463435,0.0,0.0,0.11042667369094863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403348446044365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932769297166212,0.0,0.0,0.14302498060222155,0.1652599550986986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975959661153179,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pupilenglishhh,2018/03/11,"How to handle the ""I didn't feel like getting up"" bed wetting Low key lurker here at a little bit of a major stalemate. 

My step son is 5 years old and fully potty trained. It's been the topic of MULTIPLE conversations with my fiance, step son and his bio mom about how to handle this. We just put him to bed with his tablet after multiple checks to see if he had to go to the bathroom and ten minutes later he wets himself instead of going to the bathroom five feet away from his room. 

We all understand the nighttime peeing is hormonal but the intentional wetting is becoming constant. Do we put him in regular underwear so he experiences discomfort and chooses to get up instead? Considering he still wets in his sleep, none of us know how to move forward. His bio mom has one of those absorbent sheets to stop it from hitting the mattress but again, how do we handle him choosing to stay in bed to pee and handling the involuntary wetting? 

We've done multiple checks, made him stand in front of the toilet to pee, tried talking to him about it and it still seems to go nowhere. His only response is that he didn't feel like getting up from bed. 

Any kind of advice would be great. ",6.645240802675585,6.532002300000002,6.855217391304348,77.42600334448161,65.13043478260869,9.51170568561873,34.64882943143812,9.057496981413335,2.9579799331103684,939,39,176,14,13,303,132,230,0.055,0.921,0.024,-0.657,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,11,0,14,5,5,6,1,32,28,14,0,2,4,4,7,2,0,1,0,0,6,0,7,12,0,1,7,0,2,10,3,2,0,3,6,8,20,4,39,19,4,33,0,1,1,0,28,13,0,2,12,117,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441200763175418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029446863332664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856647518548135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288496368513652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610147974636533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593782720824371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509277755495475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426807082369608,0.0,0.0,0.14914511661948232,0.21072580995137455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23116357961943665,0.0,0.2514563979800941,0.0,0.0,0.16260210275754344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358233645622327,0.08105358468834364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410688378572534,0.14781814260706228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955333198822112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454639596129995,0.0,0.15675260667656032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476009784590275,0.0,0.0999392654761051,0.11216855354984366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29652517162913394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175259944030312,0.13426428430659185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759093969137346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571987770348457,0.2355625097496897,0.12330358589170334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854239677724045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013224561645756,0.0,0.0,0.15353649107512132,0.1774056078473061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476870625913302,0.0,0.0,0.09497513629462467
parenting,Divine18,2018/03/11,"Proud of my little girl for enforcing boundaries. Ice cream was had. So we were grocery shopping together as we do a lot together. Yay being the stay at home parent. 

One thing we’ve been insisting on with everyone is she gets to decide if she wants to kiss/hug you. She is allowed to say “no.” Even to mommy and daddy. She’ll be 3 in two months. 

So I had her in her stroller. Since it was just a quick trip for freaking danimals drink yoghurt. And had walked. Being pregnant and it having reached temps of 88 degrees today I was already grumpy. 

Anyways she is sitting happily babbling in her stroller. The strollers canopy always has to be extended to avoid fits. I pick my battles. She can have that thing set however she wants. So I moved her a bit to the side while I catch a breath and lean into the cold air from the yoghurt section. When I hear my daughter scream because her canopy got ripped back suddenly. I snap around to see her extend her hand to stop some old biddy from trying to touch her face and yell/scream “NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! No touch!” 

So now I’m pregnant grumpy AND mama bear grumpy. Old biddy just stared at my daughter in shock, then at me as I pull her stroller closer to me and move myself in between. I’m pissed and just keep staring her in the eye as she tried saying something about teaching my daughter manners another customer just cut her off before I got to it “No you gotta keep your hands to yourself. You scared the little girl!”

Old biddy just huffs. I thank the other customer and bend down to my daughter and tell her loud enough for old biddy to hear “I’m proud of you sweetie! You’re allowed to say no if someone is trying to touch you. Mommy is going to buy you ice cream!” Put the yoghurt drinks into the stroller and waddle off. 

And that’s how my daughter scored a whole pint of Baskin Robbins for herself today. 

But seriously what is it with people wanting to touch strange babies/toddlers? This is the first time anything like that happened. I’m happy she felt safe enough to say no. But usually people just smile and wave at her from afar. She doesn’t even like that. ",2.7430710343599785,5.16764464233577,3.0192688861195194,91.27046288054122,78.24574209245742,5.274962910213044,24.866239392320928,6.345904618129536,0.760299459972702,1672,61,324,13,41,512,215,411,0.09,0.816,0.094,0.6876,4,1,3,0,0,0,39,2,7,0,3,20,17,3,2,16,1,26,8,6,4,0,46,46,28,0,5,10,6,7,2,0,2,0,8,1,2,13,20,2,5,2,3,2,8,6,9,0,3,11,22,53,8,55,29,7,54,0,0,6,0,48,25,1,4,20,213,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992881519347604,0.0,0.0828885539649166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445613967727006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197554137850357,0.08867942603607308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659861226807332,0.0,0.06072503434157939,0.0,0.08476594223031304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875495289038324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19517165732165304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20586006778795954,0.0,0.13159095525826353,0.0,0.0,0.09518742802710008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564705329530043,0.0,0.0,0.08473338198222892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204528736385075,0.0,0.05661411072582485,0.0,0.15934414957310508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809016559073084,0.10604316353526164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245491114133076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992304480550428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708668798947344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733476428360124,0.19968295322923868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469002413683954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951260018061061,0.2117522441799468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4181212513549653,0.0,0.06750243008694158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106118618359574,0.0,0.0,0.13812248628888654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001416689003969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168748025868099,0.0997330686231772,0.0,0.07938111394750748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240344613464473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440437655927664,0.07668932086194906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061774809530143,0.0,0.08328349869765604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706883976792386,0.09171309745120608,0.0,0.0,0.1323609868560295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058086934064624215,0.0,0.18884878142857614,0.0,0.0,0.2028983266078577,0.0,0.09731042989154096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097130322811147,0.0,0.17626842490571676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11121778955475176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DragonflyWing,2018/03/11,"Husband will be gone for a week. Ideas on what to do with the kids? I have 5 year old twins and a 3 year old. My husband is going on a business trip for a week, so aside from 2 days when they'll be with a babysitter for 4 hours (I have a part time job), it will be just me and the kids 24/7.

It's pretty cold where we live, so most outdoor things are out. I'd like some ideas for things to do so we don't go stir crazy. We're on a pretty tight budget, but I might be able to swing a trip to Chuck E. Cheese or something. Things to do at home would be great too, so they're not bored or missing daddy too much.

I appreciate all suggestions. Thank you!",1.4397202797202802,2.3588174475524544,2.682797202797204,98.98265734265736,77.32167832167832,5.759440559440559,19.293706293706293,5.565023196281405,-0.5643370629370632,497,9,129,2,11,160,91,143,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.9725,1,0,1,0,0,0,19,2,1,1,0,9,5,0,0,10,0,18,0,0,0,1,20,23,10,0,1,5,2,1,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,6,7,0,1,2,0,1,5,2,2,0,0,1,2,10,3,17,12,5,21,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,5,11,80,16,1,0.1693391373428967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920973450886687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247866834783933,0.0,0.0,0.18669699674021464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698609618242372,0.0,0.16676493951114274,0.0,0.0,0.3823265480589815,0.0,0.0,0.1680429643552835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273054885551874,0.0,0.14952956071059312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796420642788387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448375035789673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553858774647536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337778376388936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34455756239304003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036554108828194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590472623472054,0.0,0.0,0.33750419504028034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874301277391227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27166728319433564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029366459118827,0.0,0.0,0.2180977048942423
parenting,drunkamexgirl,2018/03/11,"Kid vomit in rental car, how to handle? My nephew vomited in the rental car.  I tried to wipe the surfaces down as much as possible but it’s soaked into the seat and I’m left with this horrid acrid stench. 

What’s the best solution?  How much do rental car companies charge for excess cleaning?

Thanks!",1.5222413793103442,4.245856310344827,2.089224137931037,92.99693965517244,89.34482758620689,5.658620689655173,17.594827586206893,7.1686216300943375,0.3635793103448277,238,6,47,4,8,73,44,58,0.14,0.675,0.185,0.5097,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,2,0,6,3,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,10,3,3,9,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960037257868407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4099899963138057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5547887891379516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4254034735399249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34741158601009986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561947035723126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Legalagechange,2018/03/11,"Has anyone went about legally changing their chd' s age? I know this question sounds crazy but allow me to explain. 

My husband and I adopted our son internationally last summer. We were told that he was 5 but suspected that he was much younger. We were told that his small frame was due to malnurishment and his ethnic background but recently had a bone scan done and his bone age is 2 years younger than he chronological age. 3 going on 4 makes much more sense than 5 going on 6 when you consider physical development and developmental milestones. We are considering getting his age legally changed because of things like schooling. We are currently homeschooling but plan to enrol him in public school at some point and having his age match his grade will be better than having to put a 9 year old in 1st grade. 

We have no idea what his actual age is because of his abandonment. The age his country gave us was an estimate. Does anyone have any experience with this?",7.273774259448416,8.103374926966293,7.028774259448419,73.49135342185906,63.7752808988764,10.068232890704802,34.15934627170583,10.018931242160765,3.403184269662922,779,32,136,16,11,246,120,178,0.063,0.867,0.07,-0.1431,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,7,1,1,2,2,3,0,0,4,0,19,2,2,2,0,24,29,10,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,11,0,1,5,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,12,2,23,2,16,15,4,27,0,1,1,0,30,7,0,2,17,84,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.1605868141767169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190643759668266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23012834530372925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006284875263024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145539940142456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481653034255985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400755799330972,0.1684020058762173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097124881183233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597580388300834,0.0,0.18704647153721865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576820071355224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043786801518157,0.13413835705043906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039569986943942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984507252275999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24194105734445595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267802968641718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556238297745306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542824378519594,0.18434485241958345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248313948416615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330869947868782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932634657330732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31448824893491456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794540869893254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254876128650732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21194247913806047
parenting,NolaBelle29,2018/03/11,"Outdoor playset: Yay or Nay? To parents who have purchased an outdoor playset, was it worth it? 

My boys are 4 and 2. We have two nice play areas in the neighborhood (not exactly walking distance) but it would be convenient to have one at home so they can play more while I get things done. 

If you own one, was it worth it? 
How long til your kids got bored with it?  If I knew they would be interested in it for 5+ years, that would be good. 

Any other pros and cons are appreciated. Thanks. ",1.5890816326530626,3.7995126020408208,2.8013877551020414,92.43289795918369,81.14285714285714,5.960816326530613,23.065306122448977,7.1686216300943375,0.7018253061224491,377,13,83,5,10,121,73,98,0.023,0.722,0.255,0.9769,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,2,2,0,2,8,0,0,2,1,15,0,0,1,1,15,19,10,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,11,4,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,1,0,3,5,0,8,7,8,8,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,4,59,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745147098319648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626178423847895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407666966657056,0.0,0.0,0.2152459966367525,0.20524752564295484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25741714089892725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22710623343978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477932961416934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28495317850593416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23626705305895246,0.0,0.0,0.17049113580035113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506866428168143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5468999623237698,0.0,0.0,0.1652589477521815
parenting,jellybean1002,2018/03/11,"Helping child bond with non-English speaking grandparents My in-laws are visiting from India for the next few months, and my 3.5-year-old son is having a tough time bonding with them because they speak very little English. They are also somewhat frail, so active play is tough. My husband speaks their language fluently, but I only know a few words, so I'm struggling a bit with interacting with them as well. Does anyone have suggestions on activities we can have them do together to help my son become more comfortable with them?",9.388947368421057,9.256033157894738,8.091578947368422,70.89105263157897,59.526315789473685,10.968421052631578,39.0,10.355215969177356,4.1502210526315775,430,19,69,8,5,131,73,95,0.065,0.7709999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.8748,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,7,0,4,6,0,1,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,11,11,6,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,13,3,10,11,5,6,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,1,3,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095375381546139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832106850823237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972514206457744,0.2893808339551076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860583034491388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292957290607971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35125336605094604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439995037080526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626131744364938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914210255252136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786615601558366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749462268610129,0.0,0.0,0.199278244200228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27392050684141345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278614324660975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161941873610166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355877158474292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873248164923435
parenting,cstrumpet,2018/03/11,"Stained baby clothes? My 9mo's white and light-colored clothes are rapidly acquiring stains of different sizes and severities (she's eating solids, very messily). We do our best to hit them with pretreatment before putting them in the laundry, but nothing seems to be that great at cutting through the crud. I've taken to dying some of her clothes just to make them presentable. 

Has anybody here found a good way to get the stains of childhood out of kids' clothes? I'm out of ideas.",5.4606260032102725,7.505614292134832,4.218009630818621,87.46707865168541,69.0,7.3329052969502415,35.186195826645275,7.957251820313856,2.64386227929374,388,20,71,5,7,112,69,89,0.019,0.848,0.134,0.9137,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,3,2,2,4,1,0,4,0,4,1,0,1,0,13,11,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,8,3,16,7,2,8,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,2,2,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161189250713173,0.0,0.2665371442685585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635919364390629,0.26535584314037763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25988572971234314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784768003343279,0.0,0.0,0.13269446742586746,0.0,0.0,0.2130270162608708,0.0,0.2800146908512947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867133698672889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953413331961986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437013946197652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25532081951968194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312145502726993,0.0,0.2869259725273103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095607307471345,0.0,0.20159811000715705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stringlesskite,2018/03/11,"10 month old daughter wakes up every hour at night Hi everyone,

I was hoping to get some sleeping advice as our daughter of 10 months old keeps waking at night (every 1 - 1,5 hours). 

During the day she's a happy bundle of joy but at night she turns into a banshee.
Mostly we call her down by feeding her but she keeps falling asleep before she eats a meaningful amount.

A few months ago she would sleep longer 2 -3 hours, something which seems to have gone complely out of the window....

Anyone any advice?

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Edit: Thanks everyone, I'll be going over all of your responses with the SO - there's no I in team but there are two in insomnia!
If anyone else has any further advice, feel free to share.",3.139666666666667,5.2192829111111125,3.9189814814814814,87.00291666666668,75.44444444444444,6.277777777777778,21.62037037037037,7.1686216300943375,0.7161481481481479,543,14,103,6,12,173,97,135,0.043,0.81,0.147,0.9304,0,0,1,0,0,0,24,2,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,7,0,6,8,5,0,1,18,16,6,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,4,2,2,3,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,1,12,7,20,12,5,27,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,5,13,59,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595038156455392,0.10870589974593266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166787977928347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714943402788796,0.12565101173923493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435082942438303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252210187171344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908751741586142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254831868245454,0.10244332936055632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066455569603597,0.2343603292561425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062006441526190725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640701767850582,0.0,0.06969461149045103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054408148527435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180128090622408,0.3623035561048382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180019744428698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936511608397688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452455722974588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25736338339933323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163959883652047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454411965794996,0.0,0.0,0.09440813172575374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290310160311283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338843929672325,0.11979367896643595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871142791085255,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,capt-pickles-2013,2018/03/11,"How do you deal with anxiety over a sick child? I’m not sure if anyone can relate, but I have just returned from the hospital with my 2 year old. He suffered 3 seizures on Tuesday. They are not febrile seizures and the EEG was fine. We have an MRI scheduled for the end of the month.  Right now the doctors are not sure why this happened. 

I thought I was holding up fine but now that we are home I’m a mess. Every time he sort of spaces out I’m anxious it’s going to happen again. When he’s asleep I go in and check on him to make sure he is still breathing. 

I’m scared. I’m scared something is going to happen and I can’t stop it. 

Has anyone else been through something similar? Does the anxiety go away over time as things go back to normal?",0.21699392712550392,2.494292865384616,1.6056950067476383,98.17439271255064,88.29487179487178,4.309851551956816,21.031039136302297,5.750287758089431,-0.08918717948717969,581,20,131,4,19,185,100,156,0.203,0.77,0.027000000000000003,-0.979,0,0,2,0,0,0,14,2,1,1,0,8,9,0,2,9,0,14,5,2,2,3,25,29,9,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,5,8,0,2,1,0,1,5,4,4,0,0,4,0,11,5,20,25,0,31,0,1,0,0,11,10,0,2,16,76,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21110112209313128,0.15587257104820765,0.0,0.19295077260467286,0.14137177795033054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963213259346296,0.1060943223404334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224625238502062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412233442309514,0.12074292516659856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526047749547015,0.0,0.12220497060215645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162499584708884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392072097294781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660327313958619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840025831971112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209943947630424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013039510643724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351862867198632,0.0,0.0,0.1447816399838638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782996722889215,0.0,0.0,0.27627425660081273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243991990668995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018707972850354,0.11535334772835085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901196493396867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916645144670235,0.0,0.0,0.10953680414942638,0.16090876124105408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450105199913528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885142993459794
parenting,throwaway1357924688,2018/03/12,"Remarriage, Relocation, Military w Small Child[X-Post from r/relationships] Hi all, this is obviously a throwaway for privacy reasons concerning my main account. I am completely lost on what to do. I (M20s) left the service in the middle of last year to be closer to my child (5). I honestly wish I fought harder to stay in and still work out a custody agreement that works because I am truly lost/depressed since departing. I have been in a relationship with another service member (F20s) for about 2 years (currently long distance) and would love to marry her. No need to go into details about her, she is amazing, but is planning on staying in the service.

If I were to marry her, I would join her at her duty station. This would change the current custody plan around. Long distance parenting worked well prior to me getting out of the service. Myself and my Ex (F20s) are very amicable and I strongly believe we could again work out another long term parenting plan. It would be something like 2 weekends a month I would travel back to my home state, as well as summers + school vacations with me. In the even I could not make it back for 1 of the 2 weekends, my family would take my child for the weekend to ensure they are getting time together too. The cost of traveling is not an issue nor will my work schedule. I am just looking for advice on how to proceed. I know people will probably shame me on here for this. I am looking for the good the bad and the ugly. Obviously remarriage happens as does long distance parenting, but I think im properly equipped to stay active in my child's life from a distance with frequent visits home. Please advise!

TL;DR - (M20s) wants to remarry but doing so will cause him to move with his active duty spouse (F20s). The move will cause him to be a long distance parent to his small child (5). Long distance is possible and can be worked out amicably between the two parents, and funding for 2 visits (weekend) a month and whole summers is available as well as school breaks. Please give advice on how to proceed. The good, the bad, the ugly. Thank you
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parenting,throwaway327199,2018/03/12,"Daughter is 29 years old and still lives at home. My oldest daughter, who is 29 years old, still lives at home. My husband and I are at a loss for what to do. She doesn't seem to be motivated to look for a job and has made no effort to move out. She graduated from college years ago with a degree in Studio Art. She made a half-hearted attempt to look for jobs in her field shortly after graduating years ago, but after attempts to find jobs in her field failed, she moved in with us and hasn't seemed particularly motivated since. 

We have two younger daughters who are more ambitious than their older sister and are doing pretty well. One is 27 years old and is working as a corporate lawyer. Our youngest is 25 years old and is working in finance. We have tried to get them involved to help out their older sister but this has led to many arguments. My youngest daughter has told us we should just kick her out, but I'm worried that with no steady job, she'll end up starving to death on the streets.

Any advice?
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parenting,kissthesadoutofme,2018/03/12,"That this even happened broke my heart, kids are mean My kindergartener came home from school today and said “a boy in my class told me today that you and daddy don’t care about me and that I don’t know anything, but I know that’s not true” 

Kids are cruel. I’m not ready for my baby to have to deal with mean kids ",7.030099502487566,4.463099074626868,6.5050746268656745,88.20248756218908,65.71641791044776,9.530348258706468,26.81094527363184,6.42735559955562,0.8491333333333335,246,3,59,1,3,76,46,67,0.183,0.787,0.03,-0.8925,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,1,13,15,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,1,9,2,7,12,0,4,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,0,2,34,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352007166820786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550665914526924,0.227375841694584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22991582703363214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472974812595577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720898734698086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26427057819451866,0.0,0.0,0.22369946005407448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451233896902353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858514153365111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213570955514247,0.0,0.0,0.2257002929629749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227790548183468,0.21309775232575195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scarsonthesun,2018/03/12,"My girlfriend is struggling with shared custody. How can I help her? My gf (25) is sharing custody of her 2yr old with her ex and struggling with the reality of not being with her little boy all the time. 

They see their son on alternate days with weekends being kind of up in the air at the moment as they are still working that out. 

Mostly it works out that she sees him for sure on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays and usually one of the days of the weekend, though it frequently changes as to which day. Her son is also at nursery on the Mondays and Fridays and she’s talking with her ex about sorting things out so that she isn’t losing two of her days with their son to nursery - losing is perhaps the wrong word as the nursery he attends is great and it helps him develop so much; but she is finding it hard that two of her days consist mostly of him being at nursery. 

She’s having trouble dealing with the goodbyes and the repeatedly sending him away. There are days (as is normal at two, almost three) where he is in a bad mood and it kills her to think that she won’t get to see him the next day - it adds a whole tonne of pressure on her to try make each day she sees him perfect and to try make him perfectly happy all the time.

I get on really well with her son and I just want to do what I can to help her with this. Though I do understand it is something that will never be easy for her.",6.215894736842108,5.294870378947369,6.352631578947372,83.3584210526316,66.26315789473685,8.863157894736842,33.03508771929825,7.554174236665415,2.0942561403508764,1098,40,230,9,15,351,135,285,0.095,0.7929999999999999,0.112,0.7529,0,0,1,0,0,0,20,0,0,4,6,12,19,1,3,15,0,23,0,0,3,6,47,34,21,1,2,3,6,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,17,25,0,0,3,2,0,2,4,9,1,5,0,5,38,9,50,28,7,44,0,2,4,0,50,19,0,4,23,179,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101840127993657,0.0,0.0,0.08067501995917216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478163205522604,0.0,0.08423196486212897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671941046337803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5204825539720502,0.10400455261407716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220400150538208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541299795509784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122237651164801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073903935119667,0.09037014423461548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20285653277058768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161060011253576,0.10505271556262334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101109916990495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22572152616949995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467857097300934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415962117030499,0.0,0.07780614850609283,0.0,0.10728878045153814,0.0,0.09884259890236896,0.0,0.0,0.10585832273806768,0.0,0.06836001764168596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462736893462577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.321558459029051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766362366954133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056421690460973,0.0,0.0,0.2109268110265901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950797623024232,0.0,0.0,0.08108484984730463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702128638106265,0.06464088862000167,0.19823142005741445,0.0,0.11764980408245546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369840381402299,0.0,0.29564014342319145,0.10502135660630134,0.0,0.0,0.1111068862646879,0.0,0.05950261158848773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907047197629234,0.0,0.0,0.11263076079246112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688608703105785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029824884107864,0.0,0.0
parenting,PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED,2018/03/12,"20 month old girl won't eat much... to the point that I am genuinely scared.  I have EOE and a couple more digestive issues and I'm afraid she does too.  We had an issue with her being fed sugar, but I believe we stopped that, and she is still not eating.  I'm pretty sure it has been more than a month since she's had anything sweet.

I can't get her into a doctor's visit for more than a month.  When I try to feed her she seems ok for a few seconds, and then spits it back out.  She occasionally physically fights feeding, with what feels like all of her strength.  Usually she just turns her head away and won't allow us to feed her at all.

I've tried airplane noises, I've tried trading off bites with her, I've tried different foods, I've tried surprising her.  Nothing is helping.

We live with my FIL who doesn't make anything easier on us.  He used to feed her sugar and candy every chance he got.  He has absolutely no idea how to maintain a healthy smile, doesn't brush and has poor dental hygiene.

I know that she's just trying to wait it out until someone gives her sweets.  I have spoken with my FIL about it and made it plain that I feel his behavior is damaging to her now as well as to her future.  I have also put my foot down and said that we would leave if he continued as well as there being a physical altercation if things didn't change.

I'm pretty sure we are all onboard the same train here.  It has been four or five weeks and she is dropping weight.  She feels noticably lighter.

What has worked for you to get your kid/s to eat?  I am honestly scared for her.  We don't have much money to spare, but I've been contemplating getting ensure for her.  I've also made shakes with ice cream, bananas/fruit and instant breakfast powder.  She wont drink much, even when I'm taking turns with her.

Do I need to take her to the ER?  My local hospitals are all run by the same company, and the service/conditions they expect you to tolerate are ridiculous, we haven't had much luck with them in the past...  she was having breathing troubles and was prescribed a nebulizer but the doctor wouldn't authorize an adapter for her so the pharmacy couldn't give us one.  Our pharmacist had to argue with them over the phone and be pretty dramatic over it.  It also took a few back and forth trips to get it done.

Consequently I have no faith in them and don't feel secure going to them for help.

I know this is a bit of a jumbled mess and that I'm combining a few problems here, but this is what I'm dealing with.  Any advice or similar experiences are what I'm looking for.",4.088760683760686,4.991805500000002,4.906794871794872,85.61042735042739,70.92307692307692,8.085470085470085,26.17521367521368,8.344100000000001,1.5053418803418803,2020,61,425,30,36,655,256,520,0.125,0.773,0.103,-0.8793,1,0,1,0,1,0,54,11,3,5,2,21,25,3,4,23,1,50,21,4,6,6,79,86,38,0,8,11,0,5,1,0,5,3,1,0,1,23,37,15,3,8,1,3,7,15,11,3,4,17,13,65,14,58,60,17,40,1,1,2,0,64,14,0,6,19,288,88,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709885365491873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892856804630676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053653791734895866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985374282705034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412788464158633,0.1213363929179934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888917673488225,0.0,0.0,0.08613689794733742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346431662242301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729986235793286,0.0,0.0,0.08134105006636687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243230295794005,0.0,0.16151223559179345,0.06904474568899174,0.08074071827382624,0.0,0.07729064599877414,0.0,0.2421990669498099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052111818278742436,0.0,0.06647552068084829,0.0,0.0,0.07717802518371099,0.0,0.0,0.15957412476323596,0.056365215721085986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540456820081628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488516567400502,0.15137356061265164,0.04483992451254008,0.0,0.06310246285572851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097278347681452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576821221541152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906697922038698,0.0,0.1646993970206595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672127608820232,0.0,0.0,0.08354228480042777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03854589807176533,0.0,0.06966895887433587,0.0,0.06625500003500619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931163228514818,0.05266546564087397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188928463815012,0.0,0.2319983618755593,0.05850235381691931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570538848824837,0.08982664296805552,0.0827908674510593,0.0,0.05346377132319382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531769486798512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458473236488586,0.0,0.0,0.2408048936624229,0.0,0.07549535844307906,0.0,0.0793149413897847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505068961287728,0.0,0.15798263758393036,0.0,0.0,0.07182637333627584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526578368677181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685057532343375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300856872210149,0.06596280939267049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872209939573114,0.0,0.1186439407377358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05241676132450812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765931004509757,0.3214020509083776,0.17163816315211367,0.0,0.0,0.284716106453724,0.06814310669038515,0.0868957230354055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328774287313177,0.09607730777380173,0.1418787344601895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743916135854249,0.0,0.0,0.05604734161873943,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bobbarker030,2018/03/12,"Teacher spreading misinformation So my son is 6 and in the first grade. Recently my son and I had a discussion about blood. His friends at school had told him that blood is blue when inside the body. That's a very common misconception so I told him that blood inside the body is red. I explained that blood could be darker in the body but it is always red. 

So he went to school today and I guess him and his friends were discussing it again. They did not believe him so they asked the teacher who told them that blood is blue in the body. (She's just a normal 1st grade teacher, not a science teacher or anything). I assume she is just misinformed and honestly thought it was blue.

My son is upset because his friends are making fun of him and saying that I don't know what I'm talking about blah blah normal kid stuff. I talked to my son already about how sometimes people are wrong and that's ok. I want to know how I could handle this situation? I don't know if it's my place to contact the teacher to let her know about this or if I should let it go. I feel like she shouldn't spread false information, knowingly or not, but I also don't want to come off as an asshole or anything. Any advice?",3.012355371900828,4.7145414338843,3.7083388429752087,90.0270537190083,74.74380165289256,6.327603305785124,24.909917355371903,6.961326702584282,0.8402274380165284,945,31,199,9,20,299,118,242,0.065,0.82,0.115,0.9233,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,3,1,15,9,0,1,12,1,24,9,9,3,0,43,44,24,0,10,13,4,1,3,3,2,0,1,0,1,17,8,0,0,10,0,0,3,7,2,0,1,10,7,33,7,17,27,0,15,0,0,5,0,37,6,0,8,7,133,50,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651497225648757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028582959832547,0.0871684339748837,0.09069795267353407,0.0,0.0,0.07412473554635265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939784003185275,0.0,0.10190165775782936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644628271766521,0.0,0.0,0.1228073270112223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4843042299506679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389511238227524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740576041304417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511441696683707,0.077870669979532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271659235538718,0.0,0.0,0.2526427896115574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194804577527591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007740510472438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995217788167712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229227706672462,0.0,0.053252611019250176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275932579647125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135965893950173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556789282319154,0.0,0.11388333349160246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762579886969773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668234175196972,0.0,0.22063060832559825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252221616611393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780523826585613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478060162325964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522250093907904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653498941068896,0.0,0.0,0.1033206457414691,0.3124667193242925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993762603446645,0.12858377902377072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104545217532004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191759930956888,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stoney_McTitsForDays,2018/03/12,"9 YO girl wants more freedom to roam the neighborhood. Hello fellow parents!

My 9 year old daughter recently started hanging out with a girl (same age) in her class who lives on the next street over. The girl's dad seems to subscribe to free-range parenting, and I will often see this girl roaming the neighborhood on her bike with no shoes/helmet - freedom to do what she wants with minimal rules. I've met the dad and older sister and they seem like nice enough people.

In the last week, my daughter keeps asking to hang out with her. Mainly ""I need to go to so-and-so's house, she forgot something"" or ""we want to jump on the trampoline at her house"" or simply they just want to ride their bikes around the neighborhood. I have let her do some (most) things and make her keep her phone with her. I will keep an eye out for them when they are out front and make her text me when she is coming to and from the girl's house, but ultimately I am a little uncomfortable and my kid seems to keep pushing the boundaries and constantly asking me if she can do these things. 

I'm trying to fight my own insecurities and anxiety and let her be a kid, but this is really stressing me out and I would never forgive myself if something were to happen. Last night she got hurt on her bike while at this girl's house spending the night, and she had me come get her. Now they are back at it today. I have offered for the girl to come in and hang out here, which thankfully they are doing right now.

Does anyone have any experience to share or advice? I'm trying to find the balance of not being a helicopter parent and realizing that I cannot control everything, but also want her to be safe and to not be engulfed in worry all the time. We live in the Southwest US and neighborhood is pretty middle class. Thank you! 

Edit: thank you for all of the different perspectives everyone! I appreciate it. ",5.924005912786403,6.1139342818428215,6.077108893816212,81.36677937915744,66.61517615176152,9.202315841340232,28.425843803892583,8.97023862654752,2.032679132791328,1486,43,295,23,22,473,191,369,0.073,0.828,0.1,0.8125,4,0,2,0,1,0,41,3,2,7,1,11,12,1,2,21,0,27,1,1,3,3,73,60,28,0,9,11,8,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,9,12,33,0,7,6,3,1,11,5,4,0,0,5,2,49,8,49,46,9,57,0,1,2,0,59,24,0,11,23,205,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480860337870408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694046384983065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901907651409129,0.0,0.06639287541508096,0.0,0.0,0.06068445529689812,0.0,0.0,0.07726006104118595,0.162270844996438,0.0,0.0,0.06673490937000591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242815214574366,0.0,0.09378740984317248,0.0973405512569982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067538822877304,0.0,0.0,0.07594909878595342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967559959607023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293001915388701,0.07799980245830376,0.08489569192108735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932300972242634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045343348038828064,0.0,0.0493238380759301,0.0,0.06941259812375257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674668042956834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4005685660235908,0.09290875896001452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085660098450052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14148823120912288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774940033413827,0.0,0.042400420064296826,0.0869847598534278,0.15327146438328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115863839098902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435248627413531,0.06693655127378709,0.0,0.09230042987199266,0.16289003640561053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106980854037383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891046856973002,0.0,0.0,0.060168137068787764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829498645844233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555988604685114,0.0,0.08569305794566766,0.0,0.0,0.07411680484521169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915910469026923,0.23702665291256195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362787460061132,0.0,0.0,0.06142926415730536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941579945473704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397092479311064,0.0,0.0,0.11531669047799906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060700403837368,0.0,0.08226523914797472,0.0,0.0,0.11784723018317612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439573873059907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559501843999613,0.0,0.06961640581692895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813781570547799,0.0,0.061651977175294324,0.0,0.0,0.05588887315811665
parenting,Medicibox,2018/03/12,3 kids and tired of buying shoes every few months Just needed to vent. Not sure how many are in the same boat but i am sick of spending hundreds of dollars on kids shoes since they grow so fast. I think my kids have more shoes than i do. WHy dont they just come up with a netflix for shoes..cheap $10 a month and choose any shoe. Use and return. Will make my life so much easier.  ,0.7280555555555566,2.618676913580252,1.615540123456789,101.51368055555555,82.33333333333333,4.5438271604938265,15.063271604938276,5.148860815047168,-1.209383950617284,294,4,72,1,8,91,64,81,0.099,0.85,0.051,-0.4144,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,6,7,4,3,1,17,11,7,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,10,10,4,9,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,40,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330357967554836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321938835511413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31591117227973936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22710791740130284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903914859609862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992704830538722,0.2732818940015813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4303052664138203,0.0,0.19815062848109352,0.19986827635729254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297495467285636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540481512546089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271707303109224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098086411767241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328050820392712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432273955682803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashnegg,2018/03/12,"10mo is fine with gparents, cries when mommy is around? I've heard of separation anxiety but I thought we were passed that stage. He's starting up again. What am I doing wrong? I love him to death and I'm sure he loves me just as much, but he is so well behaved when babysat but when I'm around he cries a lot or even when he see's  me when I try to get some me time and let him get his play time. He doesn't want his daddy nearly as much as me. He'll through a fit if he can't be with me. Any advice or suggestions, please? ",0.2871238244514096,1.9222957844827635,1.9503134796238264,99.86239811912226,82.5344827586207,5.252664576802507,18.304075235109718,6.11248444174946,-0.5367999999999999,405,9,104,3,11,132,74,116,0.131,0.6559999999999999,0.213,0.9196,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,0,12,7,0,0,2,0,10,2,0,0,1,19,22,17,1,2,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,2,14,6,13,16,4,16,0,0,1,2,17,5,0,5,9,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18894564580015893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148898911456608,0.0,0.14791712423107772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34425639726198365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247858736204159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771008506258572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202041487222252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19772002928310448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643847050922448,0.3490234179038009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842784181030424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122472740827579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408002464458692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368586620322196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822361279251596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350339123349566,0.22549535493100295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127630998290613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404662017170795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738506335507592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114048804811917,0.0,0.0
parenting,virginiadicky,2018/03/12,"Just wanted to share how fun a play date was yesterday So we have friends with an infant son who had some gas issues when he was little and it always looked like he was frowning and very uncomfortable.  The mother really doubts herself even though she is doing an excellent job (from what we gather her mother might be making her paranoid).  She’s such a sweet person and my wife and I absolutely adore her and her family.

So flu season struck and he’s a daycare baby so needless to say he got sick a lot.  So did my girls even though they aren’t in daycare so we hadn’t been able to get together for a play date in months.

When they came over yesterday it was such a nice feeling to have seen him once look so grumpy and now look so happy.  He didn’t stop smiling, laughing, and moving around the whole time.  My three year old girl was so excited she was jumping up and down because she missed seeing him.  My one year old girl was a little apprehensive at first (she’s very shy) but soon enough she and the ten month old boy were crawling over everything and playing together.

The mom is very nervous about her boy and I think she was relieved to see how much fun he was having.  Seeing him so happy and healthy (no more gas issues) made our day and today my three year old loved talking to her grandmother about what a fun time she had.",4.700016771488472,5.620145494339623,4.9350628930817635,85.90251048218029,69.52830188679246,7.851153039832286,25.665618448637318,7.984000788550335,1.3144800838574422,1056,29,214,13,18,332,149,265,0.059,0.737,0.204,0.9918,2,0,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,2,2,25,23,0,3,14,0,25,3,0,4,0,34,42,30,0,1,2,5,1,1,1,1,2,1,0,7,5,20,0,1,2,3,0,3,4,4,0,5,20,10,31,19,19,20,6,37,0,1,7,1,49,10,0,4,25,143,36,2,0.1067759467434721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884614133332178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505323041699576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508962607631381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212323763775328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886165229586035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032809599572473,0.0,0.14104901159225175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596333598024157,0.0,0.10065885977384068,0.0,0.05398912693172738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082356575347968,0.0,0.0,0.08249483158481853,0.0,0.055786025158783614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539847877912189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273299615981759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289269427660885,0.10595865134403076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216533411746254,0.21403509936931825,0.0,0.0,0.2689947091654546,0.0,0.0,0.09077709157731052,0.09636946074727601,0.10103398254305797,0.07127377358008233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327240583187767,0.0,0.12505469832759525,0.17045508397737302,0.1134859333052339,0.07849260665434711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4481735778388904,0.1137128984918791,0.0723541448965983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323263815613997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840340563824499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084912518523101,0.0,0.0,0.2552598156783589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926947258794435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582246139142599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684177152494533,0.20981365108873698,0.0,0.12452382643107288,0.0,0.1012111125290624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643040156354046,0.06297921985868682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921153135019655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206280626747606
parenting,DoublePlusGoodly,2018/03/12,"Deeply disappointed in this community for shaming a mom into deleting her post this morning. There was a mom this morning who posted an update to an ongoing situation with her older child sexually molesting her younger child. The mom did not share any personally identifying information. She stated that she was reaching out for support here because in her local, rural community, the types of parent support groups CPS had recommended were unavailable. She admitted to feeling alone, feeling like she could not share her story with family or friends because of the stigma, and generally feeling terribly isolated in her experience and her pain.

 


The very first comment reply told her that sharing her story here was inappropriate - that she should just keep her experience to herself, and that it was a violation of her family's privacy for her to post here. 

 

Another poster accused her of putting her son in a group home with a bunch of ""rapists"", even though it was clear from the mom's post that the placement decision was CPS's, not the mom's.

 

I am just so angry and sad that this mom, who is already going through something so awful and traumatic, a mom who supposedly did everything right, was made to feel shamed and even more isolated in her efforts to reach out for support here. So much so that she deleted her post and her throwaway account.

 

It was a minority of posters posting hurtful comments, but obviously that (already vulnerable) mom was not in an emotional position to defend herself against their vitriol. 

 

I'm not sure if it's against the community's rules to post about this, but I really feel like the issue needs to be raised and discussed. When you reply, please remember that these are real people with real lives and real families that you are impacting. Your words have an effect, and even more so when the poster is dealing with a volatile or sensitive situation. You don't have to agree, but you don't have to shame the person either. ",11.909075630252106,9.720060635854344,11.144100840336142,57.555310924369756,56.08683473389355,14.786106442577033,47.32941176470589,13.241360182570464,6.377049075630253,1625,84,254,47,15,528,177,357,0.111,0.805,0.084,-0.8763,1,1,1,0,0,0,49,0,5,1,3,19,21,3,3,23,1,26,2,0,2,3,55,41,24,0,4,14,10,5,2,1,1,1,0,1,4,23,18,0,1,10,0,1,2,7,11,0,1,15,5,33,10,40,23,5,26,0,3,0,1,61,11,0,3,7,190,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533309527817739,0.13922333789713856,0.0,0.0,0.3417422502512453,0.0,0.04289737676485858,0.06614613467871862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690742377304173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050365202439764806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650339437031204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095785556302307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499360606145968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669331191313232,0.12341102901475375,0.17840201392603458,0.0,0.1594787416356765,0.09013043876440016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05365683351592823,0.0,0.0,0.04873637593447555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035850497676405885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327558341360734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752972552716227,0.0,0.0,0.06584038013426312,0.0,0.05606946585308687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163657250896296,0.0,0.05570185220859347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968895336567824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5910394794902732,0.0,0.0,0.04637193764132942,0.046773907904131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712284062863279,0.0,0.07004420355443362,0.0,0.0,0.04373255898816368,0.11016013525329177,0.0,0.06924421082672734,0.0,0.0,0.4229004429408903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341402562360532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540063553760508,0.04041142976280028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145869868759275,0.05387099713926277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181181572395787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048562986932378295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147513827188881,0.059453281163818275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06197695527829512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060276786538871925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052048593507964314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cmleich,2018/03/12,"Sleep I need sleep!! I share 50/50 custody of my two girls . One is 6 and the other is four. Every time they come home my four year old refuses to sleep! I haven’t had more than three hours of sleep in three days. She wakes up all night long looking for a hug and a kiss. I have tried everything possible (that I can think of) but nothing is working. We have tried punishments , hugging and reinforcing love...when that didn’t work I stopped giving into her requests Bc it didn’t help anyway. We tell her to go back to bed ....where she will go, sleep for a little while and wake me up again. I’m a literal mombie ....help!!!!",0.969965714285717,3.2758932479999983,2.146542857142858,95.57570000000004,84.52000000000002,5.491428571428571,19.32857142857143,6.868970318607317,0.12257714285714315,476,13,106,6,14,151,86,125,0.049,0.8140000000000001,0.138,0.8755,0,0,0,0,0,0,30,2,0,1,2,4,5,1,0,5,0,11,10,7,0,1,14,19,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,8,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,6,3,1,16,4,13,15,2,20,0,0,1,3,15,6,0,0,11,67,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839334219729972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214288190561994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091072840593044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876904674054033,0.0,0.12669020395770034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352264210309952,0.16022725465635912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889716637284607,0.0,0.14139933437819666,0.0,0.13882207654573134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412839086731452,0.0,0.12474954126746755,0.11837505167852315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722636736888546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452372126985272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228605255722087,0.0,0.13525966749534596,0.0,0.14791899792998,0.0,0.0955214955847554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891679619887072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.705333745796351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117853006815974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320957605155075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032464545686257,0.0,0.0,0.0821977936000167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19141189025110414,0.0,0.13770226919628567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20524831908825045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077680348168696
parenting,Werekittywrangler,2018/03/12,"Teeth brushing So my kiddo is almost 2 and HATES teeth brushing. B just clamps the jaw shut and will not open for anything. I've tried making it fun and being goofy, but it hasn't worked. At this point, I'm chasing B around with the toothbrush until their crying...and then I can actually get in their mouth. It's not a fun experience for either of us, and I doubt it's teaching them that caring for teeth is important so much as you can force people smaller than you to do what you want by making them miserable, and that's not my intention as a parent. I feel like a lot of other parents have been here. Any advice?",3.132480000000001,4.693074287999998,4.200199999999999,87.21310000000004,74.12,6.6000000000000005,22.9,7.1686216300943375,0.7480399999999999,486,13,99,5,10,158,87,125,0.076,0.784,0.14,0.7948,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,3,4,1,5,7,1,2,5,0,10,5,5,3,0,22,18,12,0,1,6,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,3,13,4,15,15,3,8,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,3,3,69,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.21180215953799608,0.0,0.0,0.21209140732353865,0.0,0.0,0.2173367000149924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759633454773324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860747440997088,0.19321383000444853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212892816450783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123092004574893,0.0,0.0,0.10974320333262656,0.15505519679821206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339574188449525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142845224602713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603599639991304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18452176178938834,0.0,0.0,0.2897550922123164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955120191272718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4819999953665602,0.0,0.0,0.15046993298511466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051753054970218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735760231259187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610753893338261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801728280255642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800951623150225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Uglybass,2018/03/12,"Wife and I really struggling and fighting lately; related to baby that isn't sleeping well. I (32m) am currently in Nursing School and my wife (32F) is working full-time. While my schedule can get pretty crazy with clinicals and labs, I am at home with the kids the majority of the time. With that, I know that when my 9 month old baby wakes up at night, I am the one who is going to be the one taking care of him. He has never slept really well, sometimes it's once a night and sometimes it's 4-5 times, but he is never sleeping through the night. This is fine, but some nights he has a really rough night, and my wife will not help me at all until I get past the point of frustration and get angry. For example. the last six days my 9 month old has had a stomach bug and has been having frequent diarrhea. With that, he hasn't slept well at all. A few times, after I have gotten up three times already and have gotten maybe 3 hours of sleep, I ask for my wife to give it a turn. I am always met with a huge guilt trip, with her saying ""You do realize I have to work 10 hours tomorrow, right?"" ""No, I am exhausted, you just have to do it."" This is when I get angry and frustrated with the kid, and when I am on the verge of screaming into a pillow from exhaustion and not being able to get him down, this is when she will storm into the room and start yelling at me about how ""You need to control yourself, I am SICK of your anger issues! I can't live like this!"" Then we fight about it. I am mad I have to basically beg, or get past the point of frustration, before she will help me, and am constantly being made the victimizer to innocent little her. She is very good at flipping arguments on their head and taking any blame off of herself, so it usually ends up with me not saying another word and telling her she wins, again. This past summer when I wasn't in school I worked full-time and she had the baby, so she was off for three months. During that time, she expected me to get up and help her at night despite her not working and me having to pull pretty grueling 12 hour shifts as a nurses aide, which was exhausting. She would tell me ""I have to be with the boys all day, I need help at night so I am not exhausted."" and I helped. Yet now when I ask for help at night every once in awhile it's the worst thing I could ever ask for. 



This doesn't just end with taking care of the child at night though. Ever since I have been the ""stay at home dad"", she has basically stopped doing any chores not related to working or the kids. She has done laundry maybe three times in the last three years, not even hanging up her clothes. It constantly falls onto me to take care of it, and when I ask her to at least hang up her clothes I put on a hanger already, she will put it off and go play with the kids or anything else really, until I end up having to do it myself. She rarely ever does the dishes after I cook, she doesn't do any yard care and rarely helps with cleaning. I have voiced my frustration in having every single task thrown onto my shoulders simply because I am not working full-time as well, and I am told ""I am tired, uglybass, I work and work and I never see the kids."" or she says she will do it, then just simply doesn't do it. I have let the house get to the disaster point at times because I can't handle it all myself, and she still barely tries to help, but just gets mad at me instead.


If you've gotten this far, thanks for drudging through that long post. We are fighting a few times a week at this point and I don't know what to do anymore. She won't see it from my side at all, there's no middle ground with her, just her way or the highway. She has sent me big texts in the middle of the night after a big fight telling me ""I am sick of how you're treating me, if you're going to continue not getting help for your out of control anger issues then I don't want you around me or the kids"" and sometimes I am a few steps away from taking her up on it and sleeping in a hotel. I don't know how it's gotten this bad...",5.671418831168829,4.565830715476191,6.141883116883117,85.03129870129871,67.44047619047619,9.255411255411255,28.376623376623375,8.150884317080207,1.575678571428571,3131,78,701,34,44,1017,305,840,0.17,0.779,0.051,-0.9987,1,0,0,0,7,0,102,2,6,1,11,36,37,13,2,43,0,83,20,10,6,11,104,131,63,0,8,25,5,1,1,0,7,8,6,7,8,36,49,2,3,4,4,0,12,26,22,4,7,18,9,108,15,113,100,13,154,0,0,2,0,86,62,0,9,78,494,144,10,0.04577877964830874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103604340675597,0.0,0.0380916119289693,0.0,0.0,0.0933934199462825,0.04800304198657989,0.0,0.0,0.04540024828607924,0.0,0.0,0.0376720350457409,0.04075281955189592,0.17118791716067222,0.0,0.04301067042486127,0.0,0.03822336882543444,0.05581263834067667,0.0,0.0389543697142692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669806738871467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894119518080684,0.10268958804844427,0.036550630495971716,0.0,0.0,0.0590470513784205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040061318567987066,0.04684758563303041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03824229619145985,0.0,0.12163923272016584,0.0,0.0,0.030236452207754363,0.12422858122947553,0.0771411925525528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23917522916790185,0.043915176846257814,0.07805140633957454,0.03839706840951214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04698223509741305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761609592070136,0.0,0.09183969712159064,0.0,0.13524862956196654,0.05282256533753872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556230450497544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547646022858208,0.0746316308513986,0.05164045742658102,0.0,0.0,0.046811903797610216,0.0,0.02236519936068576,0.04588236372453853,0.04042350113557955,0.04051277941456923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043316988187814785,0.0,0.0,0.09198187448584344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096205554807387,0.0,0.0,0.06788877009682047,0.10592225111106386,0.0,0.0,0.429602835603565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607425684256474,0.09750581253541517,0.062041771707646826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311030754535983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731029751075838,0.0,0.04384341647958137,0.09314695334138606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920406354606645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730823390141623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03909482768865325,0.0,0.10921536900602448,0.0,0.09266113803298093,0.07295952076224134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03786867958993681,0.0,0.1832473621419321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582915089762584,0.0,0.032402455857158674,0.04879408804464863,0.03655899256199975,0.038273109624046335,0.0,0.04785792012710677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209972528052989,0.0,0.12003801358203735,0.042146949727145014,0.0,0.0,0.030413387040080907,0.0,0.04497741857290364,0.0,0.2135517964489822,0.05261597287519601,0.0,0.04374358576046177,0.0,0.031080786383184025,0.049794166549861435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504188582053388,0.037772287551506564,0.027001510323854627,0.036337064458030435,0.03672097570045245,0.0,0.16464248285698907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666199744528234,0.0,0.0,0.032519931604804334,0.0,0.0,0.029480033177263006
parenting,ryan899,2018/03/12,"Dog destroyed favorite DS7's stuffed animal - how to ""transition"" to a replacement? My 7.5 yr old is obsessed with polar bears, has probably 15 stuffed polar bears from throughout the years. His absolute favorite is a ~5 yr old TY Beanie Baby named Snowdrop. It's gone everywhere, been washed through washer, eyes scratched up, ratty as heck - the prototypical stuffed animal from everyone's childhood. Last night it happened. While visiting family, a dog got a hold of it and tore it apart when we were out of the room. We'll stay out of the blame game here as it's irrelevant. Our dog has tore a hole in it here and there, easily fixed by crafty wife, but this thing is most likely a goner. Even if it was sewed back together it would look ridiculous. Wife said he made a comment about making a grave for Snowdrop - it's that bad.

My son cried for hours last night. Got to admit, I had a few tears as well as it's practically been a family member. He immediately wanted to look on the internet for a replacement, but then he realized it wouldn't be the same one so he seems hesitant. We decided to order a new one anyway and found one on ebay (who knew they were so much cheaper without the tag?), being delivered and will be waiting for him when he gets home. He knows it was ordered. 

My question is this - how do we make this transition? Is it Snowdrop's brother? Is it Snowdrop's new body? Do we perform a ""transfer"" ceremony? Or do we treat this as one of those life lessons and bury it, making the new one go away? (Is it bad that I had that sense of sadness come over me while typing this?)",4.0202688172043,5.617644483870971,4.825564516129036,83.47168010752691,71.90322580645163,8.39247311827957,28.400537634408607,8.959647251330699,2.2374086021505373,1250,48,248,25,24,404,177,310,0.109,0.84,0.051,-0.9661,0,0,0,0,0,0,47,7,0,1,2,14,10,2,1,21,0,27,4,2,6,0,42,48,23,1,4,5,4,1,1,0,4,2,1,2,0,27,14,0,2,9,1,0,4,2,7,1,5,15,5,16,3,34,26,4,35,0,2,3,0,28,10,1,5,19,158,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396641954359668,0.09327309370865927,0.2025627801147276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473822768655488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449019643794018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324361288593015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011826283523824,0.0,0.0,0.115908443134531,0.0,0.0,0.22870384961985715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300044546295794,0.0,0.0,0.06337484220201596,0.0,0.06893823658947988,0.0,0.19403121486123348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726620269829877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216749396083124,0.0,0.11945719443646087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666393747650214,0.19775324748058168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567858663595274,0.059261612719311976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20372482412952728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477807717045008,0.24290837038075264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917029931036267,0.0,0.0,0.3514602076979094,0.0,0.2276658164863869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545702951035624,0.0,0.410983978732327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078315145205574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588504445672225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538516741457075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042800745651823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929088187682108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058709136391766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154655864421111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906429782790092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692997598661793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616885373309438,0.0,0.0,0.07811396093228748
parenting,d8911,2018/03/12,"Stuck in a cycle of being too tired to sleep Frustratingly this post isn't about my 13 month old daughter but about myself. She has a tooth coming in and even with some Tylenol she wakes at night every 1-3 hours, cries out for 5-10 seconds, and then falls back asleep. The problem is every time she cries out I jolt awake and then just as I start to drift off she does it again and I'm awakened again. After this happens twice my night is toast and I can't fall back asleep. It's been 2 weeks of this where it's awful for 3-4 nights, good for 2 nights, awful 3-4 again, repeat. I'm so exhausted during the day my vision feels blurred and I have headaches the whole time I'm awake. I'm a stay at home mom and it's destroying my patience with her.  I feel unsafe driving so we're trapped at home. This feels somehow worse than the newborn stage since she's up and active during the day. I can't just lay on the couch like an exhausted sack of potatoes even though that's all I want to do after getting 4-5 hours of highly disrupted sleep.

I try napping during the day when she naps but I just lay there delirious and wide awake. I drink 1-2 cups of coffee in the morning but that's it for the day. I go to bed around 8:30pm hoping to get in a few hours before she cries out and my sleep is wrecked. 

At night I don't look at screens, I don't watch the clock, I'll stretch, do breathing exercises, move to the couch, eat turkey meat, glass of warm milk, cup of chamomile tea, daily magnesium supplement, daily vitamin D3, make sure to  get outside for sunlight for at least an hour, nothing works. Out of desperation I've taken melatonin a few times but that hasn't helped and I'm not keen on taking anything because I'm still breastfeeding. I'm actively trying to wean her for other reasons, but also so I can take something to help me sleep. 

We don't have any family or friends to help, it's just my husband and I. He's usually able to sleep through her cries unless it goes on for 30 seconds or more. I'm thinking maybe I should sleep with earplugs? Granted that doesn't feel super safe but I need sleep, I feel ill and I can't parent her during the day.

TL;DR  I've been up since 11pm it's 4am now, my daughter hasn't cried since 2am but I'm wide awake and finally on my phone looking for suggestions. Anyone dealt with over tiredness in themselves triggered by disrupted sleep? Any suggestions for things I haven't tried yet?",3.080642310261549,4.498855617234471,3.706613226452905,91.277062843636,73.98997995991985,6.560834489491805,24.81891989106418,7.010146845296331,0.8088316222187966,1919,60,414,18,39,605,245,499,0.14,0.77,0.08900000000000001,-0.9839,1,1,2,0,0,0,51,1,0,0,2,27,14,2,0,19,2,24,24,13,3,2,60,56,33,0,5,15,5,6,1,1,1,7,0,5,1,18,25,4,1,7,4,0,7,12,5,0,3,4,10,42,9,66,50,7,77,0,0,4,0,26,29,0,6,39,229,60,1,0.06672615855052957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053360884885361407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907521519036687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0466564815189932,0.0,0.054909943049914416,0.05940042787709807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261659433078964,0.0,0.040675646922590514,0.0,0.056779046312701385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747867725342309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36647775974366814,0.21516426073861672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583925110072159,0.0,0.0,0.06536623246564892,0.0,0.06827751840093578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881439968264713,0.0,0.11243933290888268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290348380540531,0.0,0.1686937532994223,0.0,0.0,0.07309524514324225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051552464574746236,0.0,0.10458499146605972,0.0,0.03792201360919318,0.055966735991034466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05900572163971059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417541264809066,0.07049985002895426,0.13386355508920322,0.06627413129027686,0.2628473008447566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0325990305993326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206633553996903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044540228969591165,0.0,0.06703539486929125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781488704393615,0.05326018315034692,0.07091934663124695,0.0,0.049476601081132686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31308989822863925,0.0,0.06402554874368101,0.0,0.07001787885075386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740915025618864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390521507756113,0.0,0.0,0.06384792216830568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860560421595774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558970364628398,0.0,0.5341947790738281,0.0,0.0,0.05136905679735452,0.0,0.0,0.0472291184597181,0.07112120681696697,0.05328759641214573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288861476222424,0.0,0.10033953411421244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04432989479591847,0.042755428114985165,0.06555811198868378,0.0,0.11672567894509972,0.07669190343937878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590804490718414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348943664273487,0.0,0.03935681712825754,0.0,0.05352369952939661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449737309316766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048577438129498315,0.0,0.06799965613819578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gabtinha,2018/03/12,"Lunches dilemma So, my 6-year old barely eats what I pack for her for school .  I usually pack her 2 kinds of fruit for morning tea ( for example, tomorrow is grapes and strawberries) veggies for recess (tomorrow’s snow peas,  cherry tomatoes and tzatziki) and homemade meatballs (bite size)and popcorn for lunch.  Her school doesn’t have a tuck shop (cafeteria in the US, I think) and if parents happen to send what they consider junk food, the teacher removes it from the lunchbox and sends a note home (don’t get me started with that! I had some serious issues over a muffin). Now, If my daughter could choose, she would live on salami sandwiches, olives and garlic bread. 

My husband wants to cut privileges if the lunchbox comes home full. I don’t think it is a good approach. I don’t want her to have an unhealthy relationship with food. I spent my whole life struggling with eating disorders and body weight and I don’t want that for her. She is also very petit and not a big eater at the best of times, the good thing is that she is not fussy (she even eats oysters and anchovies!!)

So my question is what should I do? I tried asking what she would like to bring to school, making her pack her own lunches and even cooking with me but she still doesn’t eat her food!",4.827556477639469,6.4114773734439865,4.516313969571232,86.52992508068237,69.87136929460581,7.347256800368832,29.156523743660674,7.793537801064563,1.7805931765790692,1001,38,191,12,18,304,140,241,0.036000000000000004,0.905,0.059,0.6562,1,0,0,0,0,0,36,1,0,1,1,7,9,1,1,12,0,20,19,1,1,0,35,33,18,0,10,6,3,1,1,0,3,1,0,2,0,10,16,17,0,4,2,2,6,8,3,0,0,2,2,33,6,23,27,5,20,0,0,0,0,24,6,0,5,9,127,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888862989520167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391260149004283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664771192448478,0.0,0.0,0.12346539191345784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574805365806237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874624246693655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739041744971072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549471078931488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468303819965592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032182043105833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058072603924463236,0.0,0.0,0.18645891996121208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829180613851443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229900802871503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601435230005745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574824472132356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785103118782869,0.054303506624968974,0.0,0.09814971135822136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419517005445389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663587162361905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342171918160275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451626058237808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933620855487473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33747685244623205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867432558627227,0.0,0.08876654586332612,0.0,0.0,0.11620074745445468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384479512049111,0.14244409304263267,0.0,0.0,0.0648139281379837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546526467523193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370279542464322,0.0,0.12241879700789915,0.09171246963705028,0.19668190805395733,0.0,0.0,0.13535382440668814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124097818828712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791912183436774,0.0,0.0,0.07157857844808052
parenting,kerstilee,2018/03/12,"4yo meltdown over kindergarten My almost 4yo (3 weeks to go) has over the last few weeks decided that she nolonger wants to go to kindergarten. There will be total meltdowns over getting ready to go. We've tried the usual from being calm in the morning to shouting. She's been there for 2 years so it's not a new routine or strange environment.

She sometimes talks about other kids not being nice to her or not playing with her, yet the staff tell me she plays well and when she's dropped off or picked up she's playing. I've also walked past during the day and seen her playing with other kids and she gets party invites so clearly she socialises well. 

Staff say there's nothing that suggests a problem in her behaviour, and she's being well challenged.

I'm at a loss. Has anyone else experienced this? What helped? ",3.4533333333333367,5.90297437579618,3.523847133757961,88.44063269639065,75.94267515923569,5.4605520169851385,27.027176220806798,6.42735559955562,1.1189757112526535,655,26,121,5,15,200,98,157,0.078,0.79,0.132,0.8690000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,2,12,12,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,1,2,19,16,11,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,7,6,0,0,1,4,0,4,3,2,3,0,2,4,15,10,19,9,2,23,0,1,1,0,20,8,0,4,10,80,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18792036839268564,0.0,0.0,0.1500764145811714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122041507344018,0.19228597151378635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210290304106946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677084361311572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960954554626648,0.0,0.319964699708009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578854903696635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529728192865314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812489707031096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007056700215346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791484105821417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957099583454758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923951784408254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560645057212266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508388042307835,0.1640283362404471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274128801538576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20668756120941734,0.0,0.11069025591732784,0.0,0.30106865498009705,0.0,0.5062027552456209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085073678118324
parenting,beroemd,2018/03/12,"Visualizing My 5y Old As A 45y Old. When it is children's bed time I am at the end of patience, in need of time for myself. At the same time I don't want to close the day transmitting being fed up. I found a trick that works for me, just want to share.

Many women of adult children have emphasized to enjoy the time when they are little, so I visualized that my child is all grown up. Daydreaming a scenario of being an elderly lady with an adult child, who visits his mother, but lives his own life. Visualizing the feeling, the reality of the desire 'Oh if I could only go back one more time and hug that little boy again.'

I made the daydream so vivid that when it is bedtime and my son is stalling while I need me-time, I quickly recall the desire of wanting to have one more moment with him being this age.

And I feel the moment has been given to me *now*. Here it is: I have one more moment with my 5y old! How precious. And I stick to the bed time ritual, but it takes out the impatience. It makes all the difference for me, and my child responds too, becoming instantly easier to work with.

It works like magic, and if I will live the privilege of being an old lady with an adult son one day, I didn't take one day for granted. :)",3.9104007499414126,4.613672681274903,5.2590719475041015,83.65519803140383,71.19123505976096,8.296320599953129,25.12327161940473,8.4952907291091,1.4619058354816032,957,26,202,15,17,321,129,251,0.035,0.816,0.149,0.986,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,0,0,1,3,13,7,1,0,21,0,20,3,0,3,2,35,35,18,0,10,5,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,10,12,13,1,0,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,5,6,3,26,6,30,23,7,38,1,0,1,1,21,9,0,2,27,145,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870865554513388,0.0,0.0,0.12741171029910794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210966027803452,0.0,0.0,0.2232028737569402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053199527416696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217925336536557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666414112957313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264918985187212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556465579030507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148579539157104,0.056361569888385935,0.23125231373977165,0.20373902755288084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109161265130214,0.07700711284235914,0.11696212352372205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171083548093675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842251440892965,0.0,0.3908719519673224,0.08774037164774091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348042443513795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036219722293354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041360088055004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519615421500157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wrapupwarm,2018/03/12,"How to help young boys be in touch with their emotions Will try to keep this short but may struggle! I have a 3yo old son and I’m really keen to help him understand his emotions and empathise with others. I know he’s still very young but I’m just looking for things I can start now or build up to or remember for later.

This seems hugely important right now. Just the statistics of boys and mental health issues is enough to make me wanna deal with it. Additionally though, my partner has depression and struggles immensely with expressing himself and most strong emotions turn to anger (he’s on antidepressants and has just started counselling). Most of his family are also not really people people, they don’t really ask about what’s going on with you and aren’t really curious about other people. They generally don’t chat about how they feel about anything. I on the other hand am pretty emotional, not in an unhinged way but I’m in touch with my feelings and like to discuss them. I’ve done counselling training, I love to understand people and their motivations, when I meet a new person I love to hear about their life. My family are very interested in people and their lives, they would quiz all day about the facts, but really find it hard to talk about emotions too. My mum and my sister especially will cry if we try to talk about emotional stuff. I mean cry and not really be able to carry on the conversation properly. So I guess I just feel all at sea with two families of people who are totally on different pages to me. 

Now I’m expecting baby number two and have yet to find out the gender. But I guess what’s brought this to a head in my mind is the thought of having a second boy, living in a house of testosterone, creating more people that focus on things not feelings. Now I feel bad because it’s not fair to project this idea of boys can’t be emotional just because that’s what the male part of our families are like. So I’m just trying to find a practical thing I can focus on. Which is to help my son to express himself and be curious and empathetic with others. Any tips on that appreciated. Or even any tips on coping with the rest of my family! ",6.363412322274883,6.606730677725118,6.847702369668246,76.03307962085309,65.6824644549763,10.448682464454976,30.387109004739337,10.264317810270406,2.95361562085308,1734,57,327,39,25,567,201,422,0.07400000000000001,0.763,0.163,0.9909,2,0,0,0,0,0,32,2,1,9,2,29,12,1,2,15,0,28,6,2,4,4,82,58,31,0,4,20,4,9,2,1,4,2,1,0,7,23,27,0,1,17,1,0,2,9,5,0,3,3,11,40,7,65,47,10,39,0,1,1,2,47,21,0,10,17,233,63,3,0.06637127184971159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0530770821189343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902694816513892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05461790153344781,0.0,0.062048179716366926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541723966463193,0.08091862256742229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458114511441615,0.04280397958473999,0.06842586692428558,0.05716547918937925,0.0,0.0,0.06934385267783318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792085471564938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5226112325137356,0.0,0.06857926598006027,0.0,0.043837599094361565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31284464103990833,0.0,0.16779654640399316,0.04741564987104114,0.0,0.0,0.1819864201609945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03772032331875109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623087741161864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594556229309651,0.0,0.0681160730301963,0.07054955831564995,0.0748052470917339,0.0,0.13346179342348755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765835365370308,0.0,0.07492508717934873,0.0,0.06927436401331599,0.0,0.05899383599575572,0.0,0.0,0.036475915249889065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04687999213915122,0.0648513017666652,0.0,0.11721409804272905,0.0,0.05573515232179695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198053283036538,0.0,0.044303339341054765,0.0,0.0,0.0722977724494122,0.0,0.0,0.06688663133476913,0.0,0.06701606424542332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410178793802429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964548495661411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187361958001183,0.0,0.32209438084673353,0.05795283451987065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752344437410025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25511481768282873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518571269952419,0.056680703513185465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042191316133798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939558556525746,0.0,0.053004183434446656,0.0,0.0,0.13877132817083893,0.07597922708025358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669342842740852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228237152334926,0.0,0.0652094376069883,0.052691376105662976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518521058374253,0.07219288478199452,0.1296701769483497,0.13818966940833813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952650047582199,0.0,0.05268242626588958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04714824723721607,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newtoreddit6992,2018/03/12,"When should you stop showering with the kids? I have 3 kids (2 daughter 1 male 7,5,4 respectively) and my SO showers with them every night. By that I meant fully nude. He says its good bonding time. I thought it was rather awkward showering with a 7 year old female. Especially when she has been asking me about 
his dad's genitals. She isnt uncomfortable though. My SO and I have been quarreling about this, he think Im overreacting. I dont think so? 
Please advice!",2.495056179775279,5.186975415730341,3.5259438202247217,85.63520786516854,81.35955056179776,7.1555056179775285,23.50674157303371,8.238735603445708,1.6015069662921348,368,13,72,8,10,118,68,89,0.045,0.85,0.104,0.7120000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,1,1,0,9,3,0,1,2,0,9,1,1,0,0,12,14,8,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,4,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,1,13,2,6,8,0,7,0,0,0,1,14,0,0,0,7,43,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584718487653497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472770664531237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099986385023768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285740855398475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218547802714977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857114790819775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24822062372144574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27755417307163954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29034776162875825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21034550029258306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22113855764692292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389690658888295,0.2598754469546624,0.20998793148076356,0.1542353649648539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033295909950028
parenting,mdmcc143,2018/03/12,"11 months old and decided he hates his crib Our son is exactly 11 months old today and has been sleeping in his own room in a crib since 6-7 months old and for the most part we’ve had no issue. Even when he slept next to me in a bassinet, he was just a great, all night sleeper. Now as soon as we try and lay him down he cries and cries until he’s beside himself upset and I give in. Am I too soft with him? It’s been about a week of this and my husband and I would like our bed back!",1.4569954128440372,2.09466693577982,2.931089449541286,98.31571674311928,76.88990825688073,6.1839449541284415,20.04701834862385,5.985473137389443,-0.3489183486238532,372,7,98,2,8,122,76,109,0.121,0.82,0.059,-0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,0,8,4,1,1,5,0,8,2,2,0,2,16,11,12,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,10,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,1,13,2,13,5,4,21,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,16,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322278996283474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806260765583155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443362793589015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620246890852794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910148074020712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105394332730597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083373544092754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464388893139932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148726766558739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425919654942285,0.1625885560643059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5454075276192464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876188297566383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331874522986934,0.0,0.173380629409668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422596178992968,0.0,0.0,0.11762911602492912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389751165869512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307574077128007,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peachesonmymeat,2018/03/12,"Friend’s 3 1/2 year old son cries and throws a fit if he does not get his way. Trying to figure out how to help? My friend is recently divorced and went through a long period of time where he was not able to see his children because their mother chose to make the entire process ugly. He missed nine months of the kids’ lives and of course now that he sees them again he has gone a little overboard giving the 3 1/2 year old- let’s call him Sam- whatever he wants. Now it’s become a problem, because Sam will have a complete meltdown if he doesn’t want to do something. Often it’s tantrum level over silly stuff- earlier today he wanted to bring something inappropriate on an outing and when I saw my friend considering it I stepped in and told Sam that the item was tired and needed a rest. Promptly freaked out over it. Another time everyone had congregated in the kitchen and my friend needed to open the oven, so I picked Sam up and said “ok, everyone out of the kitchen!” Kiddo lost his shit, screamed and cried for his dad while I stood there holding him two feet away so he wouldn’t get too close and be hurt by the hot oven. Sam also is extremely selective about food. He is only willing to eat about a dozen different foods and generally refuses all but a handful of those unless his dad bribes him. This week he had McDonald’s chicken nuggets 4 days out of 7 that I’m aware of. 

I know my friend is tired of Sam’s freak outs- often he will loudly sigh when it’s happening. I really would love some advice on how I can help here. My kids are older (12f and 15m) and I don’t remember this phase at all- if it even is a phase? I kinda feel like my friend brought it on himself, but it was only because he’d been kept away from his kids so long... he felt he had to always make Sam happy so Sam would want to be with him during his time and not ask to go back with his mother.  It’s a sucky situation really, he went about it all wrong but it was 100% because he loved and missed Sam so much. ",3.7402915821501033,4.736487178921569,4.531210277214335,87.63441176470589,71.81862745098039,7.686409736308317,25.34347532116295,7.990435384864732,1.2346349560513867,1571,46,337,21,29,506,218,408,0.096,0.787,0.117,0.9024,1,0,2,0,1,0,36,0,0,2,1,24,24,2,0,19,1,30,12,3,5,3,65,65,33,0,13,10,5,4,1,6,6,2,3,4,4,18,24,5,3,5,0,0,8,6,11,1,3,19,10,31,12,45,36,7,54,0,4,3,2,58,22,1,7,24,198,49,0,0.0873859957306469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539258366048022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988254921410765,0.0727121487940613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163183584891188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816941097658416,0.0,0.1642040391200356,0.06719443670126235,0.0,0.21307876763965672,0.09651096671549794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923087198103408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162255393543978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19197882595975135,0.05635673798321283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129976637743263,0.0,0.0,0.0764720737477225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894176895702021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771762602313815,0.0,0.0,0.16700212753041885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04418498509680241,0.0624285728105217,0.08390425985552896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21133498581299456,0.0,0.4050852211869776,0.0,0.09131115209059497,0.08382860980304582,0.04966347518478851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727514742792828,0.09302401739126152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117145981841038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354851578981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04802505791234275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935810121693684,0.0,0.04269238347685306,0.08758372484690381,0.07716343521581966,0.15466771268940888,0.0,0.0,0.09539213711647727,0.0,0.15773854584794034,0.0,0.11666166142716868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975066808117265,0.0,0.06423876162356264,0.12959121714068664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339380522520332,0.0,0.0,0.13292197503387296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361659617772127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196341302271484,0.0,0.0862831284589375,0.0,0.09899129828103206,0.0,0.083124093131513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927064938863676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897004688470074,0.0,0.0982255205309419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345480176138614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003605819528592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286643055030769,0.20087469418619933,0.08283170617636681,0.08350106376520942,0.0,0.059329354933698175,0.0,0.08536342014704029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20617009750005869,0.06936293592769463,0.07009577473311866,0.0,0.0,0.16201538705027504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415300828069792,0.09554286824803243,0.0,0.1125474323762498
parenting,mrsnuffleupagus532,2018/03/12,"Touching, maybe? Hello r/parenting.  Long time reader, first time poster with a throwaway.

My 5 year old spent the night at his grandmothers house the other night.  Later in the day when he got home, after a bath, he told his mother that ""Papa tried to pinch my penis"" and that he didn't like it.  She tried to gently get more information from him, but all she got was that he was getting dressed and he clammed up.  Right now, we're not pushing for more details.

""Papa"" is grandma's husband of about 6 years that she married after her kids (me) were all grown and moved out.  He's a little weird and no one likes him very much, but we tolerate him for family's sake.  He has no sense of appropriate vs inappropriate and cannot read a room to save his life.  While he doesn't know it, we've decided he won't be alone with the kids.

All that being said, we've never had any serious concerns about him, just assumed his cheese was a little slid off his cracker.

Right now, my plan is to meet with Grandma and let me know what we've been told.  Make it clear that we understand that this is incomplete information from a 5 year old and that we're not making any accusations.  Explain that we have been teaching him that his privates are private and that they need to make sure not to do anything otherwise, even if innocent.  I'm also going to ask her to clarify what might have happened.

I'm posting today because I'm worried that maybe we aren't taking this seriously enough.  Are there other steps we should be taking?  Should we be pushing our son for more details?  I don't want to overreact, but I'm more worried about under-reacting.",5.0879226190476174,5.850432887500002,5.545357142857147,82.44583333333334,68.5625,8.470238095238095,28.98809523809524,8.563005593585519,2.0095282738095244,1284,44,254,19,21,412,177,320,0.055,0.856,0.08800000000000001,0.9076,1,1,0,0,0,0,41,7,0,1,2,12,7,0,0,10,0,30,1,0,3,6,51,56,15,0,5,9,3,1,2,0,4,1,1,3,2,21,18,0,0,8,2,1,7,12,3,0,2,14,2,30,4,29,33,9,39,0,0,0,0,47,10,0,4,23,157,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135321453872246,0.0,0.09370113958305976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593598020583333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642126904888274,0.0,0.10953852239748572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142599824034188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556522524717663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210683616650634,0.0,0.07738995490601135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045784058817154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966509624872928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243341297291414,0.0,0.06659064777691674,0.0,0.18742377127359505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036134121733511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175314810412658,0.0,0.0,0.13519892880962994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878759305536358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981468920591518,0.08276093017397301,0.11448709379624494,0.2348710778120067,0.0,0.10369213128802962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23463648817147065,0.0,0.2354268638965598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429929540755437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453360944276368,0.0861337377818095,0.08688037902591803,0.09036904837803887,0.0,0.0,0.21991299671280934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24590128344382384,0.0,0.07939770647947385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010388111788013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221686992133646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172021242792654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012579062481645,0.11145589765719048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043173070836784,0.0,0.17619514203960013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664602400877934,0.0,0.1110638542757666,0.22392270800614555,0.0,0.1591020427999232,0.0,0.0,0.1219785356055624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667786452665607,0.06911014731488256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379844906811669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263617195437042
parenting,Dandelionsandlions,2018/03/12,"What to do with a 3.25 yo who reads Our kid is pretty good about picking out words he recognizes (a lot of them) as we drive around town. I’d like to encourage him reading more, but  don’t know what to do. Should we be praising him when he reads or treat it more nonchalantly? I want to encourage him but I’m worried about praising him too much. ",3.5812676056338053,4.475581492957748,4.240957746478873,89.9487605633803,72.09859154929578,7.933521126760564,26.876056338028175,8.238735603445708,1.424028732394366,270,9,61,4,5,86,51,71,0.033,0.65,0.317,0.9736,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,2,5,7,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,14,9,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,7,11,7,4,5,2,0,0,0,16,3,0,2,2,41,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320354726322838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186224662259177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432474800870235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273413634009661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215969436906076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19160915418951227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651767114579965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7821673764785865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373925727525822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647046798616377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AirbornePorcine,2018/03/12,"16/F Niece Overexplaining/Must Always Be Right I (32/M) and my wife (36/F) have guardianship over our niece (16/F). This is a recent development - she moved in about a month and a half ago, from a very bad situation with her birth parents.

Things have been going ok, but one thing we've noticed is that she has a tendency to overexplain things. Or re-explain them, like five times in a row. This coupled with her need to always be correct (even when she's blatantly not), gets on our nerves a lot.

That's not the biggest concern about it though. We heard this weekend from one of her friends (whom we knew before the niece came to live with us) that in reality, all of her ""friends"" (they have a big shared group) cannot stand her because of these exact things that annoy us. They've basically just ""playing nice"" and don't seem willing to call her on her behaviour.

As I see it, we have three options:

1. Bring up the behaviour ourselves, try to tie it into why people might not like her as a result. We've been trying this, no real effect yet.
2. Try to convince one of her peers to bring it up.
3. Let things play out (natural-consequences-style).

Any ideas on what might be the best way to approach this? We would love if she'd realize on her own that her behaviour pushes people away from her, but we worry she is stubborn enough that she won't have any friends at all by the time she figures this out.

Cheers!",4.391528195488721,5.227903953571432,4.780939849624062,87.03353383458649,70.17857142857143,7.894736842105264,27.23684210526316,8.032893268588372,1.4683214285714283,1097,35,232,14,19,347,164,280,0.062,0.78,0.158,0.9842,1,0,0,0,0,0,55,9,0,2,2,8,17,2,0,14,1,23,1,0,2,5,43,34,11,0,3,8,2,0,2,3,5,0,1,0,0,24,15,0,1,6,3,0,7,7,3,0,6,5,2,33,14,38,19,6,36,0,0,1,1,41,18,0,7,11,159,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311137801326166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357646126332795,0.0,0.0,0.15820427668076772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928722828707564,0.0,0.09712301606700233,0.07090808498669428,0.0,0.09898044028817796,0.0,0.12207151171120124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877655054900794,0.13304001628639375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287067617411714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201904893125798,0.0,0.07682879672366234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696075034501389,0.0,0.060772821284778726,0.0,0.06610779587561612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131203376384856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894590729106384,0.0,0.1136569425248668,0.0,0.10271340467674638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889179140255087,0.1049840708068903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467959908068033,0.0,0.0,0.09284615928589593,0.12363061041658345,0.0,0.08625040533443329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243201102765806,0.0,0.0,0.2364659699897051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291604917912766,0.0,0.0,0.16128440440649985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239854552023375,0.0,0.0,0.11485276498371355,0.0,0.0,0.09933733457881838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269262397558199,0.10589409501954887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074946199142626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38639188131688257,0.0,0.11428460339690533,0.0,0.135655197298115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692257967019265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27983921995942346,0.0,0.0,0.09597684880960276,0.0,0.09233004320740634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049614367950058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812942700466318,0.0,0.08263096469010224,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayaccount-dad,2018/03/12,"How do you make a stand? I have a soft spot whenever my kids requests for a toy. I feel that if I can afford it why not.
Partially could be because I didnt come from a super rich family, and getting a toy for me was difficult. 
My wife disagrees. She hates that I showers the kids with toys or gives in whenever the kids ask for one. She feels it is hard for the kids to listen to them now because of my doing. Its like her words dont matter. 

What do I do? ",0.8358730158730197,2.481464673469389,2.9852380952380955,93.05420634920635,80.83673469387755,6.396371882086169,21.092970521541947,7.3871296695380915,0.5202140589569161,350,10,82,5,9,119,68,98,0.141,0.7959999999999999,0.063,-0.6788,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,1,1,2,5,1,0,8,0,12,0,0,2,0,13,21,4,0,2,3,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,6,3,0,0,2,3,1,1,3,2,0,1,2,5,15,3,10,17,0,4,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,2,2,58,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704039334171669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3526407048353503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24915794576328576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309376600618814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389916113425738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726733382747689,0.0,0.29250073970816315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111796163102287,0.2774690352659228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25910565592402235,0.2855683970590169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130992371645934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19307250069379106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19599910302281204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26099756507926736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,runfastination,2018/03/12,"Baby climbing out of pack n play age and what’s next? Our infant can pull himself up to standing position in our pack n play so curious at what age did your child start climbing out of their pack n play? What do you do after they can climb out of it?

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parenting,moose_cahoots,2018/03/12,"Shower Thought:Daylight Savings Is Reversed For Parents I realized today that for parents of tots, the benefits of daylight savings are reversed. Today, my kids started waking me up an hour later than normal. I love spring!",4.804473684210528,8.312791552631577,5.073999999999998,72.22100000000002,80.84210526315789,5.145263157894737,39.17894736842105,6.742157984588678,3.7028252631578953,181,12,21,2,5,57,30,38,0.0,0.823,0.177,0.7959,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,6,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,6,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796487257371978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562898668581789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27822580761119625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6306199595824895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099217686472665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22543681417018815,0.0,0.0,0.5383320058761413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sachim707,2018/03/12,"My sister is jealous of my daughter? Yes, this is as crazy as it the title sounds.

I’m 22 with a 3 year old daughter & my sister is 20 with a 3 year old son. Our kids are only 2 months apart. That being said, I’ve noticed her acting weird in regards to my daughter. Whenever my daughter gets a new toy or outfit or I take her on an outing, my sister asks me with the most disgusted look on her face, “Why does she need that? Why did you buy her [x]?” Normally, I would brush it off but my sister has started watching my daughter while I’m at work (and I pay her) and I have picked up on her treating my daughter significantly different than she treats her son. I love her son and treat my nephew pretty well. My daughter has picked up on this and I think it’s starting to effect her. I don’t know where this is coming from. Should I try to remove my daughter from the situation and find her a new babysitter? I refuse to feel bad for treating my daughter to things she wants. She’s a great kid with a heart of gold, and I want her to have things she wants (within reason, of course). Any advice?",2.8899791775117123,4.036053911504428,4.005325351379491,90.02465642894327,74.04424778761063,6.379593961478398,23.913586673607497,6.522977012572876,0.5620685059864656,848,24,185,6,17,276,125,226,0.07200000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.114,0.9282,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,1,1,0,2,2,11,2,0,10,1,14,3,2,4,0,31,32,12,0,7,3,17,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,10,11,0,1,6,1,2,3,1,4,1,0,2,6,42,7,29,27,1,25,0,0,2,1,41,12,0,3,10,118,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471814199055131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319371235051666,0.0,0.10242488541011993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408067838895717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257591008291278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974341230952416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736295444461534,0.0,0.0,0.13180615827317868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615660009665459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766142510321253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869128934742463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605603448854447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848214993217024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277529396097151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126480544375382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593793603925822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202212408557941,0.0,0.0,0.1116807720790226,0.0,0.2909341302962895,0.0,0.0,0.14757291227768554,0.0,0.17147872154569355,0.31609490541053314,0.0,0.0,0.11455119510094328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323187695312065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485960394130216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327148249896846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930008395322574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132153098206391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132454169754796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012679807457304,0.0965094432137855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225921651391744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665138445696204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542298362639613,0.0,0.2718172570746169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965114169882108,0.0,0.0,0.10699416308181584,0.0,0.0,0.19398512369315288
parenting,Gherico70,2018/03/12,"Can't handle mentally ill son anymore? Hi, guys, I'm new to Reddit so I don't know if this is the right subreddit to post on because this is regarding my son, who is twenty-two, but I'm seriously worried about his mental state and I think that he may be schizophrenic or suffers some form of anxiety. For the record, I know very little about mental disorders so correct me if I'm wrong about what I think he has as I just mentioned. 

So, I am the mother of four adult kids, one daughter, three sons. Oldest being thirty-two and my youngest being twenty-two. Now, my two other sons and my daughter have all grown up to be fairly normal functioning adults and parents to my beautiful grandkids.

But, however, my youngest son is always been the odd one (I suspect he has Asperger's, he told me that he was diagnosed with OCD around three years ago), he only got his first girlfriend when he was twenty-one (the relationship never lasted though), and he doesn't have many friends and communicates much with us and his siblings.

He's been working at a supermarket since he was eighteen and besides being socially awkward, he is smart and was normal in society's standards. He told me last year that he was going to search for another field starting June this year (which I don't think will happen now after what I've seen), and I only just viewed my son as a socially awkward person, although I still see him as my little boy. As we all do as parents, no matter what age.

So, he seemed really happy as he was growing up. He started smoking weed at the age of twenty (I let him do this, afterall, he is an adult at this point and was sticking to weed. He quit around six months ago). The reason why I'm mentioning this because I'm convinced that the cannabis might have made his OCD or whatever existing condition he has essentially worse but correct me on that if I'm wrong.

So, around three months ago, I lost my husband in a car accident. It was sudden and we were all in bits, including my very young grandchildren. My son never cried and was mostly in shock, which was OK, but my other kids were bawling. 

After this point, my son's mental state slowly worsened. He was extremely silent from that point and could only speak to me when spoken to. I would then hear him talk to himself through the walls at night (he still lives with me), and he would act really paranoid over little things.

Yesterday was the worst. I came in from work around 3PM and noticed that my son's work had called my housephone four times (my son was scheduled to work two o'clock until ten) because he never turned up. Which is odd because my son was always turning up to work and is never late. I assumed that my son went out somewhere and just forgot to work. So 12AM hit and he still hasn't came home, a little worrying but when my son was off work, he would go to town or visit a friend's and be there all day and get home late. But because I was worried about how strange my son was acting prior, I call the police and they agree to roam around our hometown and see if he's wondering around (our hometown is safe from crime, so the police had nothing else to do but roam which was great of them).

2AM, and I get a phone call from the police station that my son was found wandering alone and was fighting with the police for no reason. I was told that they had stopped him and said that I was looking for him, my son told them to get away from him and he ran from them terrified. They caught him and he was resisting arrest and eventually, he calmed down. They thought he was on drugs but they found nothing on him and he didn't have anything in his system.

They took him home around twenty minutes later and he cried to me and said sorry. He is probably going to get sacked from his job since he didn't turn up but I'm more concerned about my son's health now. He's literally turned insane and it's extremely heart-breaking for me to see him so mentally disturbed, and I don't think I can take it anymore. 

I'm taking him to the hospital tomorrow for a check-up. What can I expect and how can I support him if he's diagnosed with something serious?
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parenting,KidTeacherProblems,2018/03/13,"Awkward Situation With Teacher- Should I Get Involved Basically my 17 year old daughter is in AP English and last year they were reading Hamlet. One of the characters probably commits suicide and another character is suicidal and brings it up constantly but dies from murder by the end.

DD tried to commit suicide in grades 3, 6, and 9. She is in therapy and was diagnosed as clinically depressed before but we are testing for bipolar disorder. She suspects her grade nine teacher and some students knew what happened even though she told them that it was an accident. According to her in her English class around 50% of students were in her grade nine class and most heard rumors. Every time suicide was mentioned kids would look in her direction. She mentioned that they weren’t making fun of her but trying to be compassionate. 

Her teacher went off on religious spiels about the characters going to hell and repeatedly referred to suicide victims and survivors as whiny, weak, cowardly and selfish. She sits at the front of the class directly opposite him so he was often looking at her and saying this. She would come home and cry afterwards.

Recently he has been acting awkward and trying to be extra nice to her. She suspects that he heard the rumors.

She told me that today he gave out a project for them to do and gave a speech about not procrastinating. He said something like “I don’t want you staying up until 2 and killing yourselves” while looking around the classroom, then made eye contact with her for 2 seconds and turned bright red, then continued speaking without looking at her side of the classroom. He then avoided eye contact with her for the rest of the period.

This is a lot to process. What should I do?",6.381551003344484,8.270109471153848,6.038896321070236,75.92784280936458,66.46794871794873,8.887625418060201,36.64214046822742,9.318704503766252,3.6920466555183946,1393,72,226,27,23,432,180,312,0.225,0.71,0.065,-0.9968,1,1,1,0,0,5,26,1,1,4,0,8,15,4,3,14,0,23,6,2,2,2,47,45,28,8,5,5,1,0,1,0,4,4,6,1,1,10,24,0,1,4,1,0,6,4,10,0,4,18,14,32,5,46,21,5,43,1,1,8,0,52,17,1,4,19,162,42,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083299224372564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188186279301548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994074495545165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910489940735478,0.0,0.11422139373089142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610368564283953,0.0,0.0,0.09103705879538848,0.10728068682481896,0.10969726561316212,0.0,0.1211384348848206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361656802483416,0.0,0.0,0.0698121688612298,0.0,0.08905466030922662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055222555117795016,0.0,0.06007029662734285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346790595393308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602316038209676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693856803257001,0.0,0.0,0.08615752899162248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051638435080119637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550369496304022,0.0,0.0,0.08986019220392259,0.0,0.10001348283685488,0.07055386862169406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091169353840716,0.0,0.07162332758393733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395972816024373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572605321990387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436348042859127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054247941187693,0.08405485461611943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880836233699744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137106091159277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265941819487417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.578079274487271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087424568633393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038472079587596,0.0,0.06163303308486339,0.0,0.10018882371097708,0.20199688605807176,0.0,0.21528489113873514,0.1149684738010242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06234309452991142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798259507708297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188856996693324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016887172814622,0.0,0.0,0.13613138473156822
parenting,miller131313,2018/03/13,"High energy child. Seeking advice. Please! Hello, I am new to this subreddit and I hope I am posting this in the right place. I apologise in advance for the length.

My 6 year old son (he's in kindergarten) appears to be borderline ADHD. This year, since the beginning, he's been having a lot of trouble sitting still in class and he has boundary issues - meaning he has a hard time keeping his hands to himself and on his own things; his energy level is off the charts. My wife and I have gotten repeat notifications from his teacher on a weekly basis. I will say my son is not ever miserable, sad or malicious in any way; he never hits others. His teacher says the  same. He is very kind, genuine and does very well in terms of his educational learning and overall academic ability which is great to hear, but he just can't sit still.

He is up and out of his seat constantly, he touches other kids (often hugs them too tightly), he is easily riled up by other kids, gets distracted very easily and has a very short attention span. He also has a hard time listening (often needs told twice or more to do or stop something) or even more. His teacher will send home notes based on this type of behavior just about every week. He has gotten around 30+ of these notes all year, whereas, the other children in his class have gotten 5 or less. After hearing how out of control he seems to be at times we (wife and I) have had many conversations with him informing him of right and wrong behavior, to keep his boundaries, stop touching others, etc. It's become like beating a dead horse; he will continue to do the same things over and over. We've reverted to more harsh punishments by sending him to his room, cutting out TV and other fun activities when he doesn't behave. This has made a negligible difference. It seems like nothing we try works. We even incentivized good behavior but creating a ""prize basket"" at home. If he goes a full week without misbehaving in school he gets to choose something. In this basket are small incentives, like 'watching a movie with the family' or 'playing a board game'. Just little things that we normally do anyway in hopes to get him excited about having more self control.

 His teacher recommended doing some sort of assessment through the Wesley Spectrum - still not entirely sure what this is. Based on how we (my wife, I and the teacher) scored him, he appears to fall into an ADHD spectrum. We scheduled an appointment with our pediatrician to review this score. The pediatrician stated that he is going to write up some sort of a program or teaching method for his school in order to curb his high energy level - basically the best method to get him to learn given his circumstance. He also recommend we seek family therapy in order to address it and see what out options are.

My wife and I are at a loss. We feels as though this is our fault - like somehow our parenting has affected him in a way to make him this way. We engage him in sports and so many fun, family activities in the hope of giving him more experiences and just overall energy draining stuff to do (baseball, hockey, ice skating, trips, vacation,etc). What else can we try? I would feel so awful to have to even consider medicating him. I want to avoid that at all costs. What else can we do as parents to help him? Sometimes we feel that our punishments may only push him further away from us. We are a very close family and we have never spanked him. He is very kind, but just crazy with energy. That's okay, but acting too crazy in school may have a negative affect long term. Any advice would be appreciated.",6.433385154061625,7.049826873529415,6.845168067226889,74.82313725490198,65.55882352941177,10.123249299719888,31.778711484593835,10.07000556051586,3.1559887955182075,2854,106,512,62,42,929,320,680,0.093,0.746,0.161,0.9933,2,1,4,0,0,0,89,19,0,1,8,31,33,3,3,31,2,53,3,1,8,6,119,87,40,1,9,20,8,9,4,0,7,1,5,4,5,34,43,0,9,11,5,1,10,8,11,1,1,8,16,66,22,89,68,19,100,0,3,2,1,99,52,0,26,33,353,100,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16130360440728198,0.1311559923802636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733385382366303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127264500521284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059741108646537214,0.0,0.0,0.06305097814250507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411645761579091,0.0,0.0,0.07042660279120391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252083114626899,0.150536574007058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011446984043075,0.0,0.0,0.0587274110456564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212167387622007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968822498081227,0.13297429696580934,0.060703801191673235,0.05654210452281585,0.0,0.0,0.06564533714226507,0.25305702295880506,0.0,0.1017967600978023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140246427200793,0.06437692851811845,0.03813950868855173,0.05628772342095456,0.0,0.07398774929627014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023270469855978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127311329201554,0.0,0.04498165075672824,0.14180837918738895,0.1346313061067886,0.19996270495185167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004420894945924,0.0,0.1192988671659996,0.0,0.13976709050315514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114398656090373,0.06726070260579244,0.0,0.05938922467675933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05705354848799645,0.0,0.06350002100526128,0.04479568166612311,0.13607569116603466,0.0,0.07310121647675713,0.0,0.06760511096868645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497603654769116,0.1035169718527688,0.06481415011622242,0.0,0.0,0.06575242911316839,0.064392756085266,0.0,0.07041945415406188,0.0,0.0,0.05103930809151897,0.0,0.0,0.1490328828436408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011446984043075,0.07366537012388379,0.0,0.0,0.06427173226644138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462119058983387,0.0,0.10673530972667833,0.0,0.20375323138651008,0.05347706863700394,0.12218676189608378,0.07000917141992281,0.0,0.0,0.05551313814747017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033273500840924,0.06637237333405932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160779654316171,0.11221201504250812,0.0,0.0,0.07682358305598751,0.0,0.0,0.06324930141772253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767448240213558,0.0,0.13375242347270666,0.0,0.06593410907883089,0.0,0.1173951386701812,0.0,0.0,0.06412538661716448,0.0,0.09112501449246244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072368938998832,0.0,0.0,0.3322310003462548,0.03958254127236088,0.15980365576318253,0.16149202605238078,0.0,0.06033891988546738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469054121083094,0.0,0.048856045533363854,0.0,0.0,0.09534440995949163,0.0733729977637791,0.0,0.12964770666017322
parenting,advicethrowaway99007,2018/03/13,"How do I approach Teacher Appreciation week if I hate my kids Teacher! I have a son in first grade. He is sweet, kind, however he does have some sensory issues, and has an iep. I do not like his teacher this year. She is cold and I find her to be unaccepting to my sons issues. I typically am a room mother volunteer at the school. This year I have not. I don’t want to participate in class parties. I don’t volunteer. My goal is to suffer this year as best I can & start fresh next year. 

This week is teacher appreciation week. Today was the day for Students to bring  flowers. I have always gone over the top with lovely arrangements. This year I sent nothing. Intentionally. My husband asked my son in front of me about it & if it made him feel bad that he didn’t bring one. He said yes, but a friend shared a flower for him to give. My husband have me a disapproving look. Amy other mothers identify here. Thoughts? I know I’m being petty. It’s typically not my way. But I do not like her!! She is awful. Thoughts? ",0.8020475113122174,3.2847477794117665,2.9141176470588235,88.14468325791857,88.36274509803921,5.883559577677225,21.571644042232275,7.321109707123232,0.8841318250377066,793,28,166,14,26,267,118,204,0.08900000000000001,0.772,0.139,0.8592,3,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,0,0,4,3,11,1,0,9,2,22,1,0,3,0,22,40,8,0,3,8,7,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,10,3,0,0,6,0,0,6,7,3,0,2,8,5,30,8,17,30,2,27,0,1,1,1,26,7,0,3,15,104,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990157441596845,0.3122615346402832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471273430768654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031630770044564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512225851220598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929316727012656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610165141969862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286057923631889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170350513005366,0.12257019116968892,0.0,0.0,0.11133021693188813,0.0,0.0,0.1382325025898286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226752959371336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008029900737989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005651205083995,0.07919281922773079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079858948861212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100652751855295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300546078401563,0.1363495746087592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325049038974245,0.0,0.0,0.13826648812264414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764493717376044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707076195198376,0.0,0.0,0.14583547104868358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199372710879052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22879637668907205,0.0,0.0,0.13658861891478632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499308471052143,0.1143787573573096,0.3467616026949719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639738531385987
parenting,chadmandoo,2018/03/13,"4 year old been getting sick a lot lately. I have been reading a lot online that kids can get sick often and sometimes 1-2 times a month during the winter. I think my family have been lucky throughout the years and haven't really experienced that. But my daughter has been randomly running fevers at night and getting sick I feel a lot since January.

She got sick this last Sunday and her neck lymph nodes swole up and her eye and the doctors are saying its a viral thing.

When would you get worried about this? I know the extreme when looking online is some sort of cancer but when should you be concerned and demand further testing?",5.066437098255278,6.684144661157024,4.964077134986232,83.41864095500459,69.33057851239671,7.03067033976125,27.49403122130395,7.3871296695380915,1.5354730945821855,508,17,91,5,9,157,84,121,0.128,0.856,0.016,-0.8822,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,9,0,14,10,2,0,0,22,23,12,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,8,1,0,1,6,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,5,11,1,4,15,4,17,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,8,13,61,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956820955792902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802286541374269,0.0,0.0966669770234043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995372193420021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290509876950387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506820721087133,0.15583822355404828,0.21566076091518327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054408759746885,0.0,0.0,0.4876063491553808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259903820263515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941063854693134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006125465143856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19123297185986668,0.0,0.12247559493815414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203499192442627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814709361995954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890831304034059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701231782071135,0.12250121614998885,0.0,0.0,0.11147931586021828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194153824810698,0.0,0.13580966444328707,0.0,0.0,0.2462288950810448
parenting,rza510,2018/03/13,"10 year old daughter receiving written death threats at school, What can I do? My 10 year old daughter who is in the 3rd grade, has found multiple threats aimed toward her, 2 of which were written on the white board, while class was going on, (2 adults in the classroom but no one seen a thing?) and another found on the playground. After the first incident I met with the teacher, who told me she was going to do her own Investigation, maybe try to do a writing comparison, and give the child a chance to come forward. Following few days, she addressed the class, Nothing came of it, no one came forward. The following Monday was the 2nd incident. Same thing, writing on the white board. The teacher told me she was ""taking a different tone this time"" and actually made my daughter get up in front of the class and express how she feels about the incident.  Fed up, I contacted the principal to set up a meeting with her and the teacher.  From their investigation they found nothing. Questioned kids and reviewed their writing, they had a few look alikes but nothing really to go on. They then tried to say my daughters  letter E she wrote on one of her spelling tests looked similar, and maybe I should question her, maybe the new baby coming pushed her into doing this. I disagreed strongly and all they told me was we'll keep our eyes open.  I contacted the Director of Elementary Education for school District we live in, in OR, was told she would review what the school has done, and conduct her own investigation. Week later, She told me basically the same thing, nothing to go on, pretty much lets wait and see what happens. BS. Today I spoke with the school officer who was consulted about this issue, and he expressed to me, that he brought up the idea of installing security cameras in the classroom to catch this kid or kids , whoever is doing this and the school was not in agreement to that.  They declined. The officer told me, at the Junior high and High schools they have camera's installed, why not the elementary school? What is the Law regarding camera's in schools....and where do I go from here? Seems like everyone is giving me the run around,  Lets see if it goes away approach.  Too much going on these days to just brush it under the rug, That just doesn't fly with this parent. Thoughts,input,advice please. Thank you.

TLDR  10 year old daughter receiving threats, school no help,still no answers.",6.412936820180513,7.41701287024609,6.0755180128056825,78.95778523489933,65.71140939597316,9.029051916994524,33.310884826043356,9.130062681391069,2.877532963048677,1911,80,346,32,29,593,220,447,0.063,0.879,0.058,-0.3497,2,0,0,0,0,0,66,3,1,8,2,10,8,3,0,36,0,31,2,1,2,1,57,75,21,1,3,9,6,1,1,0,3,0,2,2,5,24,25,1,3,9,0,0,22,7,3,0,4,31,12,44,5,54,39,9,72,0,0,8,0,68,33,0,6,21,233,68,20,0.0,0.0,0.06446017480325393,0.0,0.0,0.06454820489160712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926445203351997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05880297577541298,0.0,0.0,0.062060869380011464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510987002319448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138011084071316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520005167724144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901344091095557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759722329414909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311840609032086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0333994048300584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056186369610049205,0.0,0.217277772867185,0.0,0.0,0.03451102368249434,0.12673199590399084,0.22524355402591506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584122395106251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04427529015967288,0.1395815189075831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456808177104812,0.0,0.06894428334820929,0.0,0.05871274031339144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509147466503466,0.0,0.03227114812372544,0.0,0.05832779631372227,0.0,0.11093916743547268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250286078557782,0.0,0.0,0.19908344980696555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711608595302013,0.0,0.0,0.06379635372583801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25352630789609226,0.0,0.20794090788834688,0.0,0.1342817811958756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334628698845327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250858032298421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720170654587544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799348840646304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042316539764673436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252960628311728,0.0,0.5348096858070854,0.10527460379776908,0.06013401293204852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04966515734568567,0.0,0.0,0.06081459126176113,0.0,0.0,0.13165206832538806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038517215653613664,0.0,0.06261243907376883,0.3787104365419252,0.0,0.08969405056471141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052985355818473134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960438489447474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692359378816117,0.0,0.0,0.127611809134344
parenting,lellowmama,2018/03/13,"Wondering what to expect Hey folks, I just scheduled my daughter an appointment for Thursday to discuss my growing concerns about her. We were in an insurance gap where I didn't qualify for government assisted healthcare or sliding scale care or anything, neither hubby nor myself had healthcare through work, and we couldn't even begin to afford a single plan we looked at without going broke and qualifying for assistance after all. It was ace. Well we finally have her covered!!!! All on our own, and we are only going up from here. So it is time to get her taken care of!

I've scheduled it as a well-child visit to get her established as a patient with the pediatrician but I'm not sure if I should bring this stuff up during that appt or ask to schedule another or...? I don't want to discuss this in front of my daughter and my husband can't come to this appt so I guess I have to schedule another no matter what? Or am I going to get a referral as soon as I voice these kind of concerns and the pediatrician won't do any kind of evaluation herself? Super lost. 

Some of the stuff I'm worried about, and feel free to skim by just reading the bolded words as a list:

**Stuttering.** Or maybe it's beyond stuttering. Syllables, words, or entire phrases repeated over and over again before she gets it all out. 

**Repeating sentences.** Even once she gets an answer, she will repeat the same question in the same tone of voice and facial expressions/hand movements, like an actor re-doing a scene. Same with comments/things she's saying to us. I initially hypothesized she did this when she didn't like our answer/response (blaming us adults), but my hypothesis quickly failed to evolve into a working theory ☹️ she does that sometimes, but other times it's as if she just doesn't care if we answer her or not, she wants to practice saying it. I've counted 22+ repetitions.. she's sometimes lost like in a trance and won't respond to her name, won't look at me, if I touch her she tried to dodge and if I force it (gently?) she understandably just gets violent and restarts saying it with added intensity/hysteria. 

**Physical stimming.** Nothing full-blown, low-functioning autistic like head banging but a lot of constant motion and seeking of sensory input.

**Auditory stimming?** She *really* likes to hear herself talk and make repetitive sounds. She used to have the most atrocious squawking sounding toy horn that she'd blow instead of having a meltdown, she's also used whistles, a harmonica, drums, and all sorts of makeshift noisemakers.  

**Sensory sensitivity.** She has complete meltdowns when she feels wet fabrics, even literally drops of water on a thick quilt will make her sob. 

**Difficulty engaging with others in creative play.** She can do it, briefly, and is wonderfully imaginative but gets all hyper/overstimulated?/weird and reverts to bossing everyone around. Her preferred way to play is to narrate exactly what her play partner(s) should say/do, and even then she will change her mind or decide you're doing it wrong. I despise playing with her unless it's a game with rules and I despise myself for it. 

**Ongoing potty issues.** She potty trained 2 years ago and immediately got the hang of pooping in the toilet. Pee, on the other hand, is an ongoing problem. We fluctuate between accepting we need to wash 4-6+ pairs of pants/undies for her per day plus the couch, floor, bed, chair, whatever, and having her wear pull-ups. I've tried *everything* and she seems to have a distraction issue. When she initially realizes she needs to go she will either go to the bathroom or ignore it. If she goes to the bathroom, skip down to ""If she heads to the bathroom..."". If she ignores it, then she will pee herself a little and either head to the bathroom or remove her pants *but still not go to the bathroom*. Finally she will get the urge to pee while naked and either pee herself completely or head to the bathroom. If she heads to the bathroom she will find reasons to stop. Putting a toy away. Asking me what a piece of mail on the coffee table is. Putting her dirty spoon in the sink. A shoe on the shoe rack. She will go as far as to come to the kitchen to get a dishrag to wipe a bit of water off her toilet stool. It's not always tidying, she also makes remarks or asks questions. This is a frequent time for the sentence repeating but not stuttering... She often urinates on herself during this process, of course. At times she goes to the bathroom normally for days or weeks on end, tells me she needs to go in the store and holds it in line at the restroom? I don't understand. I sometimes blame myself for traumatizing her by having the occasional meltdown mean mom moment. Sometimes I think no it's not that, it's cumulative stress in her life. I've talked to people I trust, who have seen my parenting up close and personal, and they say I'm being ridiculous for blaming myself. They must be right because the meltdowns have come after a LONG time of doing my best to potty train her calmly and not knowing what was going wrong. If it is cumulative stress, I am far from the only person who has contributed for her stress and shouldn't blame myself as harshly as I tend to.... Anyway she has had consistent night dryness for 18+ months without me ever trying for that beyond giving her the freedom/encouraging her to try, and that's not expected until 4-6 years? so I'm just so confused. Sorry for the vent. 

**Refuses to work on early reading skills**, possibly because she's keeping it a secret that she can read/she's learning to read. I suspected this last summer (when she was turning 3) after numerous varied incidents and thought maybe I was crazy. Then she Facetimed me from the zoo last Thanksgiving and as we were hanging up, I heard her say something about ""the egg hatchlings"", her great-grandmother responding to her, and her great aunt almost indignantly asking ""hey that's almost what it says on the sign! Can she read?"" I said nothing, and the call ended. But if she can't read, then the issue of her refusing to even attempt to read is something else entirely which is also concerning. 

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tl;dr How do I bring up a varied list of concerns I suspect are related with a new pediatrician unfamiliar with my kid?",3.5487332232087567,6.1557897715996575,4.440344163888972,81.17682313943543,76.43370402053037,7.11058965812218,28.298287661130942,8.16106018226119,2.2433000442464817,4949,213,865,90,116,1595,505,1169,0.093,0.825,0.08199999999999999,-0.9347,2,0,2,0,0,0,206,13,0,2,12,39,47,4,5,67,0,68,22,16,8,9,192,139,98,0,26,52,6,6,5,0,15,2,13,3,4,52,58,4,8,26,15,2,25,26,22,1,0,19,22,135,26,156,101,20,130,0,5,3,0,137,46,1,40,62,611,187,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0426598584233083,0.0,0.09638035789323557,0.0,0.0,0.11545649898717865,0.04004380792251898,0.0,0.0,0.032726611627164115,0.10092639800025556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03960272771430785,0.042841402497753325,0.17996130187981613,0.0,0.0452149682802493,0.0,0.0,0.05867303734823987,0.0,0.04095078206429671,0.0,0.050504158779153326,0.0,0.052539973685732135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04914094766319494,0.0,0.14719976074969204,0.0,0.0509098087293643,0.12436613179019368,0.10091617458734878,0.0520059668626354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062073214129076085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042114462072404206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040202214756951966,0.0,0.08524883080946767,0.0,0.0,0.15893035541834344,0.043531766298193934,0.0,0.04598544554377342,0.04325159580290887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0486668345144609,0.0,0.0,0.10543704581834996,0.04398532619641719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262896686817833,0.046165830676690486,0.2461546281663728,0.0,0.038489913346680345,0.10611583947189113,0.053015050550872855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24695037867124786,0.0,0.05424030856185929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068981223607347,0.0,0.04277566069307322,0.0,0.10022944528219198,0.026448210187769498,0.07845650366097838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03399207058145099,0.1175570817294602,0.04823383592804255,0.0,0.042589060297829405,0.08082566336474413,0.0,0.10506812078486652,0.04091410571506055,0.0,0.0,0.09637131977785184,0.0,0.0966959476835148,0.05242217141776588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048592473717994265,0.05636335179545555,0.03841287049596828,0.0,0.0,0.10705210670484833,0.0,0.04647936999474881,0.0,0.045161999087771715,0.047152226409268666,0.09235436180839733,0.0,0.0,0.051251493843029884,0.0,0.07320237574072352,0.0,0.0,0.0534370541822462,0.0,0.0,0.03336377609551473,0.0840416882130586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05425364251352622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04604907119384949,0.0,0.09675772015965634,0.10782190051202976,0.0,0.3369657652101603,0.0,0.030830070901421595,0.04948045677210696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041098438513120894,0.045777841451492725,0.2678962047929477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04381114081141757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409786484160692,0.19038719736918733,0.05387193382665653,0.0,0.0,0.03843264177749725,0.04023460737867215,0.1653808793966339,0.0,0.11018309226546012,0.0,0.0,0.04535718939818223,0.0,0.0,0.07736201275197406,0.042063321519386736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030836520380420594,0.0,0.03820582926509647,0.14031020685174148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069470962057458,0.0523461187387594,0.0,0.1001995261051393,0.11577676232028092,0.08312899855218299,0.0,0.0,0.056770676706597675,0.038199339853059726,0.038602926555547125,0.0,0.08654020695823947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278145573789408,0.10437889598071867,0.10510659536938767,0.048873215824904635,0.0,0.0,0.10523414114267586,0.0,0.06198177112069245
parenting,PugsArePeople2,2018/03/13,"Work or Stay Home? I️ know the decision is ultimately mine, but I’m desperately seeking guidance. My mother and MIL currently care for my baby while I️ work full time. It was extremely hard for me to leave him home, but I️ feel comfortable leaving him with family. However, my mother and MIL only agreed to care for him until he turns one which is coming up pretty soon. With my profession, I️ am able to work from home, but bring in a lot less money and no benefits. My husband works full time (with benefits) and makes enough to cover our monthly expenses, but nothing else (ie no money for entertainment or savings). I️ love my job and I️ really enjoy it, but I️ do not want to regret not staying home with my baby. Any advice?",5.7082653876898455,6.5219953021582775,6.732613908872902,74.30133493205437,67.20143884892086,10.206554756195043,29.83293365307754,10.25414643259724,3.0993254996003192,573,20,103,14,9,192,89,139,0.07400000000000001,0.6920000000000001,0.234,0.9873,3,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,4,1,10,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,1,0,27,16,14,0,2,9,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,10,0,0,3,1,3,2,4,1,0,1,1,2,13,9,17,15,5,15,0,1,0,1,9,4,0,3,7,64,16,5,0.13503760000335036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195717985682326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918301986388938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27535966597536,0.0,0.0,0.1163229353566289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280658715643135,0.0,0.0,0.13952993862929858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730143124452553,0.0,0.06827906798758901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096716551524965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.541814892385074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134003981359823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742131334235089,0.0,0.0,0.2859706410266891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480413853257447,0.1218767062229287,0.0,0.0901386465863852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077857239888216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957221918742673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150497256282704,0.10270217982985376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373817860969294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650854439751401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878642285583491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748302101113315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688213178065382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964867518555016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3932359243699716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShakaZuluYourMom,2018/03/13,"A genius way to get your kids to clean their rooms without asking or bribing them You gotta put things in perspective for them. Here’s what you do:

Go up to them with a serious look on your face and break it down to them. 

“Kids, we got a lot of work to do. You’re going to help me clean the whole house. We are going to start in the kitchen, then we are going to clean the living room. Once we are done with that, we’ll start on your rooms and then we are going to clean the garage. After that, you’re going to help me with the front yard and the backyard.”

By then, their eyes should be huge and they are probably going to start pouting. Take a pause and then say:

“I tell you what kids. Let’s make a deal; you clean your rooms and I’ll handle everything else. Fair enough?”

I assure you they will run to their rooms and get to work. 

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parenting,navanluit,2018/03/13,"Am I over-reacting? I was not very close with my family growing up, I led a mostly solitary life, I had friends, but I enjoyed my alone time. Still like that, my wife and I have a 15-month son named Josh. 

Being somebody who wasn't close with my family, I learned to go about my day without much interaction with them. My wife, on the other hand, was home-schooled so she spent nearly 100% of her childhood and adolescence with her folks. 

I work full time so obviously, I am gone for a large part of the day. My wife only works 1 day a week so she has Josh most of the day. Lately, she has been spending every waking second of her day at her parent's house and It's starting to drive me nuts. I don't want Josh to feel more comfortable at my inlaws house than his own house. 

Sidenote, I don't want him around my wife's adopted little sister because I think she is spoiled, needy, and badly behaved a lot of the time. I don't want him spending enormous amounts of time with her lest he picks up some of her crappy habits. 

My wife sees no issue with going over there a lot. She doesn't want to be at home bored all of the time so she feels she should be able to go over there all the time. 

Am I overreacting in being frustrated that my wife and son spend more time at her parent's house than our own home?",3.8878399668325017,4.524708787313436,4.438308457711443,89.76083747927035,71.20149253731344,7.298839137645108,24.963515754560532,7.1686216300943375,0.8255789386401324,1017,27,225,9,18,323,139,268,0.123,0.8029999999999999,0.075,-0.8765,2,1,0,0,0,0,30,1,0,1,2,9,7,1,0,12,0,21,3,2,2,3,37,35,10,0,5,3,11,3,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,5,14,0,0,4,0,4,7,8,3,0,1,7,4,45,4,36,23,15,41,0,0,1,0,35,17,0,5,18,149,50,3,0.10094026092131972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454366832457884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985823279803849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428090159178657,0.06153224616400725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254905885740739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504652334396727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19031498908690675,0.0,0.10207685767461457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779861951946682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210002935243532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30375393560968883,0.0,0.0,0.4658860344173986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535540729875263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386501096754265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129709144689089,0.04931431279663563,0.10116865940118867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163160035483285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056955324113481,0.0,0.07420270611244853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676961697302477,0.0,0.0,0.22416442855723445,0.10930846602117046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021569329957124,0.08043631917465457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144603621678185,0.0,0.08061102276161651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646784434092839,0.0,0.0,0.41201354518308014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328628657939878,0.2381487246535011,0.0,0.08096818868840358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730280946654124,0.0,0.14697142428685225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moonchurch,2018/03/13,"How to deal with relationship failures with children involved? Me and my partner have been together for almost 7 years and we have a 3 year old together. Our relationship has been in decline for some time now and I think we are on a tipping point. I've been suffering from depression for atleast 5 years(I was initially in denial) , I feel its due to dissatisfaction from our relationships decline. 

Now my partner has pretty much told me if I don't get help for my depression(therapy and/or medication) then she can't see our relationship lasting much longer. I have been on a road of self improvement since I accepted I was depressed a few years ago, I feel she's been trying to get out of this relationship for some time, but stuck with it because of the support I give. 

If we broke up I honestly don't know how I'd be able to live with reduced contact with my daughter, the thing that fills me with even more dread is the idea of another man raising my daughter. Of course this is just junk going around me head, I mean we haven't broken up, I'm just fearing the absolute worst right now. 

I'd like to hear off any parents who had to deal with a breakup when you have kids with your ex partner, how did you cope? How to you stay strong when all you want is a loving home for your child? 

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parenting,theleo93,2018/03/13,"me and gf still together and she's pregnant, but can't afford to move in with her what do i do? If we rented I'd be on the breadline every month. Don't have enough money for a mortgage either.  Is it damaging for a young child to move from one place to another, even though the parents are still together. I currently live at my mums and so does she with hers.",2.529600000000002,3.940453360000003,4.074333333333332,88.11550000000004,75.4,7.666666666666668,24.5,8.344100000000001,1.4018000000000002,282,9,61,5,6,94,58,75,0.063,0.937,0.0,-0.6652,6,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,8,7,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,9,0,11,7,2,11,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,1,5,47,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596075064901993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21665749897792333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25581463688708794,0.0,0.16352317765527627,0.0,0.20859545371986327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21861623553660198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976146919770984,0.5262732499506866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776551010828905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749064796783787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586667010738984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39543281034013933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432444903667117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zucco22,2018/03/13,"Classmate in PK3 using bad language. There is a classmate of our children that is using bad language in class. Our children are repeating what this child is saying when they get home. The child is a little older than my children. All we have said thus far is don't repeat that child when they say a bad word, but you know at this age children repeat everything.  Any suggestions on how to handle this situation? ",5.050043290043291,6.940331688311688,5.046168831168831,81.74163419913421,69.77922077922078,7.2112554112554115,28.417748917748927,7.793537801064563,1.8765774891774896,328,12,57,4,6,102,53,77,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.6956,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,2,0,4,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,4,1,9,13,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,7,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,7,0,7,12,1,13,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,0,7,38,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112943285887055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5935127731596207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129491797488512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379299007964563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376732480667882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021773094744254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374792329934456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253871471515211,0.3768533260166467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663339714866517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092855240693858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poltyy,2018/03/13,"When can I start reading chapter books to my 4yo? Which are good to start with? I’m still reading him picture books and he loves them. I’m looking for something that might still have pictures here and there but have a couple paragraphs too. Like the next step up from Berenstein Bears. He’s into building, dinosaurs, and magic. ",3.156978922716629,6.058376360655737,2.3167681498829045,93.97360655737705,80.47540983606558,3.4857142857142858,26.747072599531606,3.1291,0.40137283372365307,262,11,47,0,7,75,49,61,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.7851,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,7,11,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,7,10,0,9,0,0,1,1,5,2,0,1,7,30,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848151086956294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21590014161673027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575568680816934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161564122430084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323191814763001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730673431464329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737544565275572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5149517957140723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816389933912432,0.0,0.0,0.36438692317236177,0.0,0.4111299116546811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,majirequiem,2018/03/13,"Travel Suggestions with 4 year old and 15 month old I did a search but didn't come up with much. We are interested in attempting an international trip with small kids in a bit over a year. I have read that Paris and London are very kid friendly and easy places to go but also have read here on Reddit the opposite. My biggest fear is the jet lag to be honest.  I am open to other countries (excluding Italy). We would stay at airbnb. What cities would you say are unique, interesting and where you can sort of take it in at your own pace without feeling overwhelmed?

Any other europe travel tips are appreciated. ",4.594358974358976,6.29699270940171,5.011623931623934,82.28615384615388,70.62393162393163,7.935042735042735,24.96581196581197,8.515128840125781,1.5464632478632478,485,14,94,8,9,154,88,117,0.076,0.74,0.184,0.9545,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,3,0,1,3,6,0,2,6,0,14,0,0,0,0,18,18,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,5,11,0,0,1,4,0,5,2,2,0,0,2,2,9,4,16,13,3,24,0,1,0,0,10,13,0,1,5,61,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401051430660288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394683309706029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22390531970337768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17666699939946676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23078343080138236,0.10369973923179647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158452136744767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655745531483876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637009965130585,0.0,0.15076485404131246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4304152131525049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21427554959046186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102912892287582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309591446988292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185988057210236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420226473672585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922084783211733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976995804546764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913803083863246,0.0,0.0,0.26414265758052663
parenting,SynfulEden,2018/03/13,"Teacher used the word retarded in class, is this acceptable in today's times? Just looking to gather peoples opinions. Is it acceptable to use the word retarded as an adjective to describe something being dumb?

My teacher was telling some story about a local newspaper that didn't live up to her standards. She said something along the lines like “They must have been retarded or something.”

Is it acceptable to use the word retarded to describe something you feel is dumb? Is it acceptable for a teacher to use this word in this way? Just looking for others opinions.",6.287351485148512,8.576952128712875,5.923849009900994,75.07805074257426,67.31683168316832,9.010396039603961,38.367574257425744,9.516144504307137,4.224216831683169,459,26,70,10,8,142,59,101,0.184,0.7090000000000001,0.107,-0.9074,0,0,4,0,0,0,9,0,1,1,0,3,7,2,0,7,0,11,0,0,4,1,22,19,2,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,4,5,5,16,13,1,8,0,0,2,0,7,5,2,4,3,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304599904510157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990283607695165,0.0,0.16249295781538006,0.0,0.3090607667947268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757623994639766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504508088426204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5666700889902819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084151817039594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730349325568628,0.0,0.17442936411328816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6357364966984516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460664444257281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bmwillett1,2018/03/13,"Should I look into counseling for my children (5M, 2M) following my separation from their father? Very recently my long term BF and I decided to separate after I  found out he blew thousands of dollars within a few weeks on what he told me was a “loan to a drug dealer”. He has had problems in the past with opioid addiction and I stayed with him and supported him when he got clean until now as I believe he just owed money to the drug dealer because he is using them again and constantly lying about it. I personally would like to talk to someone just for the sake of my own mental health, but am wondering if I should see if it would benefit my children too to talk to a therapist. I have explained to my 5YO that they will still see their daddy just as much, it’s just better for us not to be together since we argue a lot. They haven’t shown any signs of being upset about the transition yet (we are staying with my grandma right now who they  love a lot) but idk if it would help them right now at all. Curious what other people think or any similar experiences, thank you! ",5.4601610017889115,5.656120232558143,6.446976744186047,78.29776386404295,67.6046511627907,9.964221824686943,30.0268336314848,9.851270322608157,2.7197191413237936,850,29,167,18,13,284,139,215,0.054000000000000006,0.8170000000000001,0.129,0.9571,1,0,3,0,0,0,15,3,1,7,1,14,9,1,1,10,0,16,5,0,1,1,38,31,14,0,9,11,1,0,1,1,6,4,0,1,3,9,11,0,0,5,0,4,1,2,3,0,1,5,3,29,6,31,18,7,26,0,0,3,1,32,8,0,7,16,125,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556341193323052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816049701770464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139641310269033,0.0,0.0,0.15043845212405088,0.0,0.11809319042215385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429452961268532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096963083886771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061437513180796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640473186837394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679320616924333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193224774898475,0.0,0.0,0.08949988623342076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652342215099926,0.0,0.0,0.11816660266221934,0.11212849005051648,0.0,0.0,0.2270386263280857,0.12051272853022675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456313769147374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815721831392094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274659934370328,0.09257034660121098,0.1165900434135754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776666732431274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184114486175724,0.0,0.0,0.2280615171997644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21280639899116108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045436228050362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313642843656277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846426089523659,0.10663430182356924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515241000551957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21464681676665165,0.0,0.12293310737502837,0.0,0.15503436387328692,0.0,0.08555828247434477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275901330955909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606157376442057,0.11532387980540462,0.0,0.11017320853421456,0.0,0.0,0.1071067699542706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14480361202408745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845598272010083,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HarveyTrujillo,2018/03/13,"Parents of Reddit, how do you think about parental controls on smartphones? Parents of Reddit, how do you think about parental control apps or solutions on smartphones? Does it really work and help you keep the kids safe?  I need your advice! Thank you so much!",4.467391304347828,7.570339652173914,3.1327826086956527,88.98830434782612,76.3913043478261,5.419130434782609,28.76521739130435,6.742157984588678,1.5541095652173915,208,9,35,2,5,59,33,46,0.0,0.7859999999999999,0.214,0.8803,4,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,5,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,11,7,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,6,7,1,2,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,0,22,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210125879118732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950644329786031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541227538761829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804872316155675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654248684348152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946758681712867,0.1305898629725852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7822363667321007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128262168315477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214653415375624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225699638894528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821658825123952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chatsnstuff,2018/03/13,"Partner complains of state of the house Hi all, 

I have a partner who I think is being really unfair with me. I’m in a same sex relationship and we have a 3 year old and I have given birth to our 2nd child currently 3 months. My partner is constantly whinging and complaining about the state of the house. I feel she has no understanding how hard and time consuming it is to have a toddler and newborn. Fortunately my toddler goes to day care twice a week. I feel when I’m in the home I’m non stop and when I am sitting I’m holding my baby because she wants a cuddle. If I’m not doing that I have her in the carrier to try and get things done. I’m just finding it impossible. She’s making me feel Im failing and not doing enough. Any other mothers out there struggling with house hold chores?",1.4528293035005395,3.6949197177914113,3.4242583904727546,87.5900577408878,81.88343558282209,6.289281847708409,24.31216167448575,7.5105763829236425,1.2370486466979431,626,24,129,10,17,211,97,163,0.128,0.851,0.021,-0.9259,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,11,0,14,2,0,2,1,30,30,12,0,2,4,1,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,6,12,0,3,6,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,4,18,1,14,27,3,20,0,1,0,2,17,4,0,1,12,84,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728060473695495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513171024775288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17583729875587015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637099718925126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111224225929059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648930224425693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820015445794174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616070912342054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762785694520887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010468466957942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449277618065602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299423059152574,0.0,0.0,0.5969966801832919,0.0,0.0,0.18628939769570946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151202451754738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376581459997568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097067676658135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048407334661926,0.0,0.0,0.18516048385718287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418660686546353,0.0,0.18029554385699686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457660805904785,0.1105071859989726,0.0,0.0,0.1005644342152474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709090720148853,0.0,0.0,0.17953983672133295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172301629218326,0.0,0.13833923971808196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106037622404864
parenting,pomboli,2018/03/13,"Best toys for a 9-16 month old 
We are living abroad with our 9mo son, in a place where it is difficult to access manufactured toys, or get mail. We brought a handful of toys with us, but they were for a 5 month old, and he's getting a bit bored with them. Right now he's mostly playing with household objects (we make sure they are safe), and generally crawling all over the place and climbing on things. He seems content to explore for now. I'm confident he's developing well, and changing every day. 

My sister in law is visiting in a few weeks, and I thought to ask her to bring a developmentally appropriate toy for the baby, one that would be particularly appropriate for the age he is now (and the next few months). If you could have one or two toys (relatively small) for your kid to play with at this age, what would they be? 

We could also potentially get something made custom at relatively low cost, if the toy in question is large and made of wood. 

Stuffed animals are unexciting right now, and we have a couple. We have a few balls, a small set of blocks that he bangs together (not stacking yet). 

I'd love to hear your suggestions! ",7.670638820638821,6.4644501261261285,7.801629811629812,75.07477886977891,63.5045045045045,11.135790335790338,35.04668304668305,10.230975488527342,3.213589189189189,896,33,183,17,11,292,132,222,0.042,0.853,0.106,0.9476,0,0,1,0,0,0,32,8,3,4,2,8,10,0,0,15,0,17,2,1,3,2,43,31,14,0,6,6,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,6,19,0,2,4,9,1,5,1,3,1,3,5,2,18,7,28,20,7,37,0,1,0,1,32,16,0,7,15,115,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301394107644205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211557693870407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830713059339365,0.0,0.1542853683170282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949833507230034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256658163983112,0.15636842908081386,0.0,0.09114002189847886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906860400964707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215023624218037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927845784910016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478857767506887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754725554819912,0.2674417204484764,0.0943325213424545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338401989390082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029593941531988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29658415342011474,0.0,0.1915248365516813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29529965731671115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583112863040699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413738446532012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865286223609862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087954139164068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319288498281315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388705095790456,0.0,0.0,0.11219267971623767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804957951696506,0.0,0.16999114354322936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335876902723235,0.0,0.1270640882373499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078003621918936,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deftly_lefty,2018/03/13,"14 year old drama My MIL is really concerned about her son, who is 14. At first my partner and I brushed off these tales of teenage rebellion. He got a hickey, he got caught smoking pot, his grades are dropping etc.

Since I'm the cool non family person I basically told him to keep his grades up and wear a condom. Also, don't smoke pot and if you do don't be an idiot about it and get caught.

His mom may be going a bit overboard, IDK, but tonight she told me that the kid is cutting now.

This kid is a totally normal 14 year old. He's kind of a hipster, is really intelligent and pretty mature since he was born way after his siblings.

MIL wants us to help but really I don't know what to say. My parents were very strict about grades and as long as i kept them up they left me alone. Since i was so engrossed with school work I rarely had time to smoke pot or have sex.

Fellow parents of 14 year olds, what's up?",2.4697033158813255,3.763409931937176,3.708984293193719,91.15045724258292,75.33507853403141,6.768726003490403,22.15741710296684,7.3011,0.5475211867364753,711,18,160,8,15,232,121,191,0.037000000000000005,0.846,0.117,0.9552,2,1,2,0,0,0,20,1,1,2,2,6,4,2,0,8,1,18,3,1,0,1,18,31,14,0,3,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,7,7,0,2,1,1,0,3,3,2,0,1,11,3,22,2,19,17,3,24,0,0,0,2,29,6,0,3,13,90,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921905124882275,0.0,0.10749598849336278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675232116791195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499143386444014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671964091047672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433796949765387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022913921165858,0.0,0.07639424172475222,0.0,0.2150166332006005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009919684988917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947907575568922,0.0,0.1399782176568569,0.07387396611593686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460482165722438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895787181872727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743161110552498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317035047483136,0.0,0.0,0.42315496353407206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29851601314180704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737075558800245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675392673632228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583395545809096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689654025713394,0.0,0.1360406758063694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335819658167525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838164770392574,0.0,0.0,0.2568890085044709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169125539951354,0.0,0.0,0.1109109521929354,0.07928466647889439,0.10669669962245856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785969144672342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25968709567121423
parenting,kdh2016a,2018/03/13,How do I entertain my newborn? I feel bad because all she does is eat and sleep but for a few hours she’s awake and I’d like to do more with her than just hold her- I feel like she’s bored out of her baby mind lol. She’s only two weeks but what did y’all do with your newborns to entertain them and at what ages? ,-1.2990766823161195,0.655507605633808,0.7824413145539921,103.50383411580593,92.66197183098593,4.282316118935838,14.93114241001565,5.82211442006289,-1.0451327073552426,244,5,64,2,9,80,50,71,0.065,0.733,0.202,0.8823,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,2,6,0,0,1,1,5,2,1,1,1,15,7,6,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,14,4,9,6,3,5,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,5,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572301306912417,0.18779993359771704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695989005566062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152380943397178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31154440619737295,0.22008916154880584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033922591257503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30102020472129265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110683799587509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343052605527915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082979363218042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300944947502213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24711954149504334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anxiousfather18,2018/03/14,"My daughter acknowledges her mother's children as ""real"" siblings and my children as ""dad's kids"" My daughter is 11 years old and I'm sure she doesn't do this to purposely hurt anyone's feelings or alienate herself. But what I've noticed is that when she is speaking about the siblings that she shares a mother with she'll say ""full siblings"" or ""real siblings."" But when it comes to her siblings that she shares me with she'll say ""half siblings"" or ""my dad's kids"" or ""the other kids."" My daughter's mother and I went to a parent conference the beginning of the school year. They did an essay in ELA basically giving the teacher information about themselves. She wrote, ""I have 2 real siblings and 4 other siblings. My 2 real siblings live with me and my mom but my other siblings live with my dad."" It shouldn't have made me as upset as it did, but it did. I was beyond hurt that she didn't consider her ""other"" siblings to be just as much her sisters and brothers.

I asked her mother her opinion on what Jordy wrote. She explained that since Jordy saw her ""real"" siblings just about everyday and lives in the same house as them, it's normal for her to be closer to them. That just doesn't make sense because she sees her ""other"" siblings just about every weekend and on holidays. I don't think she dislikes them because they get along really well. I have one boy and one girl from my very first relationship (15) and (17) that visit on the weekends. I have Jordy (11) from my previous ""relationship"", and my 2 younger boys (7,) and (3) with my current wife.

It slipped last week when we were at dinner and Jordy was telling us a story about her mother and sister. She said something like ""me and my sister were on the trampoline in the back"" and someone ended up flipping off. My son (7) thought she was talking about one of her sisters that was in the same room as we were. So he said ""we don't even have a trampoline."" Then Jordy said, ""I'm not talking about them, I'm talking about my real sister."" Then she just froze, so I'm guessing she knew that wasn't the best thing to say. After that it became really awkward. I could tell that my wife was offended and our children were really taken aback too. No one really knew how to respond. I didn't want to yell at her and have her think she's in trouble for doing something extremely wrong so I just said ""they are your real sisters too."" 

When we took Jordy back home Sunday Afternoon, I received a call from her mother saying that I shouldn't have yelled at Jordy and made her feel bad. Jordy didn't even want to come on the phone and talk to me. I didn't yell at her. So I'm not understanding why she felt this way. Perhaps, she felt bad and needed someone to take it out on? I have no idea but I'm just so consumed by this.",4.395009074410165,5.347289617059894,4.927431941923778,85.56142014519058,70.25226860254085,7.397096188747732,28.11161524500908,7.475848149327749,1.5058428312159715,2173,75,435,22,38,694,214,551,0.084,0.8809999999999999,0.035,-0.9823,2,0,2,0,0,0,85,6,1,7,2,33,15,1,2,18,0,42,1,0,4,1,91,84,49,0,7,18,24,5,1,0,4,0,12,2,9,31,34,1,0,14,3,0,6,15,9,1,6,34,19,85,6,61,43,5,52,0,2,2,0,113,22,0,6,24,306,116,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04991622191773127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673824021317368,0.0,0.0,0.10978609034143116,0.11921216930441728,0.08703505075104193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491741046902106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289523547989239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298906029386472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699759184974789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322867070892818,0.0,0.0,0.09430233834745637,0.0,0.06014755625621559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219194034081705,0.0,0.13708754927856945,0.0,0.0,0.06072268448336712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03729733771400859,0.0684819739612526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786420445200063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160808857617114,0.0,0.0,0.08237228684461381,0.1528448828504568,0.08058847961416295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819083250585633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034876621483700604,0.0,0.18911101020138468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135098299503289,0.047652113514123635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360888417792924,0.0,0.0,0.05247847019226234,0.05293337429003316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994518443280201,0.0,0.08127582914570057,0.07490980599341328,0.0,0.19349770624708765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926804087427215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5687870354710609,0.18293218874198575,0.0,0.0,0.15328821410419174,0.0,0.0,0.2716257370727949,0.2270827412771463,0.0,0.07224857210765588,0.05688707594822137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905297703124378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097381709369705,0.10991609977093797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728244283255666,0.0,0.053674969574461766,0.2295162142742829,0.12479269827018916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04742708395878405,0.09148522856814256,0.0,0.056674180157695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931480984755288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431753352081036,0.08587109888763289,0.0,0.0,0.05890266186596591,0.08421310625191196,0.056664553822814635,0.05726323067202824,0.0,0.06418647853452228,0.06617748727652209,0.06441665982144229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805168463270178,0.0,0.09194319638014724
parenting,glaciertookmyrock,2018/03/14,"Travel stroller advice needed My wife and I need some stroller advice. We're taking our daughter on her first big trip in May to see her grandfather (she'll be 9 months then). We want to avoid taking our big stroller on an airplane and want something that (a) folds up small for the overhead bin, and (b) is relatively inexpensive. Potentially complicating things is our heights- she is 5'9"" tall, and I'm 6'5"", which means that most umbrella strollers are uncomfortable to push. Does anyone have a recommendation? ",5.5301373626373636,8.154366560439563,5.184711538461542,78.15091346153848,70.20879120879121,8.066483516483517,30.05631868131868,8.841846274778883,2.5996472527472534,411,17,71,8,8,126,69,91,0.054000000000000006,0.916,0.029,-0.4939,0,1,1,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,17,5,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,0,8,14,2,15,0,0,1,0,10,9,0,3,3,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022363046425513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968658463495815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248851719964039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185872921765855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27992685779629256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20511920521529928,0.0,0.0,0.38109523813945984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478000926937867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783597200912545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38643437314290574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072627711678082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031472507844532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zarx,2018/03/14,"Appropriate age for nail polish? My daughter wants nail polish, what's the consensus on appropriate age?  I don't want to go too far with cosmetics just yet, but I also want to indulge her if it makes her happy and there are no big downsides.",5.644184397163119,6.330463063829789,6.58808510638298,75.73333333333333,67.29787234042553,9.670921985815603,30.56028368794326,9.725611199111238,2.8182964539007087,192,7,36,4,3,64,39,47,0.113,0.785,0.102,0.4881,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,7,4,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357733422271783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23862425221955905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469640214635649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802693691608207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7429582579994384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheOzZzO,2018/03/14,"Advice needed for long distance parenting I'm a father with a 5yo daughter who recently moved to another state with her mother (we never got married but I've been there for my daughter since day 1). I call her almost daily and we speak over the phone, but the problem is that sometimes I don't know what to say and we end up having a 10 min conversation. It's not like I want a 1hour+ chat, I mean, it would be awesome, but it's hard. I ask her about school, cartoons/shows she likes, and other things she likes to do (painting and swimming), but overall sometimes she's a bit tired since I can only call her at night. Do you have any tips or advice? It doesn't have to be about phone conversations only. Any advice will be really appreciated :) ",3.914502457002456,5.241444344594593,4.885651105651106,83.99890663390666,71.77027027027026,7.273710073710076,25.61670761670761,7.686295010490155,1.3042621621621633,585,18,116,7,11,191,96,148,0.084,0.772,0.14400000000000002,0.924,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,3,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,0,1,23,22,9,0,4,6,5,1,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,9,9,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,3,18,3,13,15,1,13,0,0,0,0,27,3,0,2,10,74,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333254638101069,0.0,0.0,0.14801405288002364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103674772957206,0.1549955357828008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818584115605625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137425951560638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018685958419793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532759785673027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091905059504175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822010612896718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241202729442106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123453506265198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664289892926586,0.0,0.0,0.1308104589114805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101243493845632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710255347978924,0.0,0.10960197374297463,0.1140030255226291,0.0,0.0,0.13871312925710105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248379348379918,0.0,0.0,0.16412960350791145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143773291053086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094693230953818,0.0,0.145948180570782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754737432082993,0.0,0.14959533960036436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24454601373264576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292383026117194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982008436166378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989008548258802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871843405415994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050026001292966,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mooommmm,2018/03/14,"Refused a playdate because our girls don't play well together. Other mom is freaking out. My Kindergartener has a friend she doesn't want to have a playdate with. We moms have very different parenting styles. We tried 6 or 7 playdates/events none went well, at least to me. Other mom thinks they did.  The mom frequently asks us to get together. I kept making excuses and finally told the mom ""the girls don't play well together."" I suggested we wait until summer and try again. The other mom is freaking out sending long lengthy texts on and off for 2 weeks now. I keep telling her its no big deal.  I'm not blaming anyone I just want a nice peaceful playdate. Sunday, we had a mutual event. I got texts from the other mom saying my daughter was playing ""too roughly"" with others.I was there and saw nothing. The teacher also saw nothing.  Her daughter wasn't involved in the play. To me, it is none of her business. I didn't ask her to monitor my daughters play.  I certainly don't think my child or any child is an angel. I just don't want these two together, I find it super stressful. I have to see this mom frequently.  Now its uncomfortable.  Being honest has backfired now what? Do I just ignore the texts?Respond?",2.4567778144602173,5.123606643776828,3.452639484978544,86.27036893364149,81.27467811158797,6.331396500495213,26.558104985143608,7.61054688173877,1.7643563552327497,960,41,176,16,26,307,134,233,0.152,0.7509999999999999,0.097,-0.7153,2,0,0,0,0,0,35,6,0,1,1,13,17,0,1,14,0,22,0,0,1,1,31,41,8,0,3,6,12,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,11,12,0,5,3,5,0,2,11,4,3,1,12,5,29,13,18,28,3,22,1,0,3,0,40,7,0,2,13,119,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051519315696017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059963450143726435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061655476917297114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648673665946142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053751940315323286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090671586442003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212629953674203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659370044564382,0.08059226981644471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812540693459973,0.0,0.04606889416215676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052328014563891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837585591063895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780339566751032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058858897407594625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.826175608724448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921660674632408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791023191735146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012196724446125,0.0,0.0,0.07026573052341106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100656747279874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707066993497506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130006475160156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425699557947325,0.0,0.11973292245563932,0.0,0.08613621179967076,0.0,0.10606619154901824,0.0,0.0,0.07275534023848812,0.15602741040395934,0.0,0.07073034899812715,0.0,0.2378454013733393,0.08174105295763495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PunkinNickleSammich,2018/03/14,"SAHPs, how do you keep yourself from getting... weird?? I've been doing this off and on for 7 years now and I feel increasingly isolated and out of touch. To be honest, I'm not the most naturally social person to begin with. I'm introverted and enjoy alone time. I need (adult)people, socialization, and stimulation though. Any advice outside of the usual play dates and ""mom groups""?

Of course, there are limited funds and free time (though I'm lucky enough to have a partner who will prioritize something if I ask for it).

Surely, there must be some of you who have been in a similar situation and found a way to deal with it. 

I'll add that I have two kids in elementary school and an infant at home.",4.6020895522388034,6.1249068208955215,5.5748059701492565,78.96086567164181,70.34328358208955,8.64358208955224,26.086567164179105,9.120678840339163,2.0126441791044782,550,17,106,11,10,181,94,134,0.058,0.8079999999999999,0.134,0.9107,0,1,1,0,0,0,25,0,2,0,1,6,7,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,2,2,27,22,13,0,3,2,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,6,13,0,2,2,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,3,2,6,7,19,15,4,15,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,4,7,70,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829015734244315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938529609180481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127282864313679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497984690438415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192965333929901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933979291070268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463940484658677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20522360817675575,0.0,0.0,0.09778924979580288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774801876931532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636640169021394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21921269884507094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878510580766196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976097355072735,0.16343071075278007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18942729155094695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21038832045384728,0.0,0.3815950245095459,0.0,0.14409356801147166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640668241458696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677895938720669,0.0,0.21828211516661686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828391083687312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061426819413589,0.0,0.0,0.14856782140419936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205321445029816
parenting,Milchgauss,2018/03/14,"Is it healthy for 9 month old to be spending 1/2 the day with his grandmother? While my husband is at work, I'm also studying/spending time with my own work.

Is it unhealthy for his development to be spending so much time w/ his grandmother? ",3.685851063829787,5.700946468085108,4.30739361702128,85.10875000000001,73.68085106382978,7.253191489361702,33.026595744680854,8.07648339933343,2.5100255319148936,192,10,37,3,4,61,32,47,0.078,0.867,0.056,-0.264,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,4,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,25,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063533048593898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24705843055831936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057751602241754,0.0,0.2816118923074442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019837495434281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44676042615124506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5577815564545451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dishpanpurplehands,2018/03/14,"FTM anxiety about partner returning to work. My baby is a week old tomorrow and my partner is going back to work tomorrow. I'm terrified of being alone for extended periods of time. Any advice on how to deal with the anxiety and exhaustion? Baby will not let me put him down when he sleeps either, so I'm not really able to sleep without my partner being here. ",4.881,6.1932079571428575,6.895714285714287,70.55928571428574,69.42857142857143,11.314285714285715,32.57142857142857,11.20814326018867,4.3498,287,13,49,10,5,101,52,70,0.161,0.8390000000000001,0.0,-0.872,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,2,0,6,3,2,1,0,8,9,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,12,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,9,35,5,2,0.22695523227834344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217780263012481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23505717452354566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433734057580611,0.0,0.3472402629782892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451456451161215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23398087890816474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898388868916286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23207710169204124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381513382967501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228152693895513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453933333183651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4542382732656832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233942106713312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820497976051112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21877674499997254,0.0,0.33045222424480936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hibbleri,2018/03/14,"My son has “breath holding” attacks if you make him cry too much and it’s scary If you try to discipline him by taking a toy away or take away a dangerous object that he shouldn’t be touching, or for example make him get in the bath, he sometimes will cry and then turn blue and stop breathing and then faint.

Then he will slowly come back after he is so blue he looks dead!

The first time this happened scared the hell out of me! The doctor says they usually grow out of it and usually it is not harmful as he is “shallow breathing” for a small period of time.

He is 3 years old.

It’s hard to manage teaching him right from wrong when you’re scared to “trigger” him. But I don’t want him to be raised spoiled. 

Any other parent dealt with this? ",3.513433014354068,4.571651276315791,4.005669856459331,90.9555980861244,72.42105263157895,7.10622009569378,25.002392344497608,7.348242739294969,0.9176368421052632,582,17,127,6,11,183,100,152,0.223,0.769,0.008,-0.9883,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,1,1,4,7,3,2,7,0,11,5,3,3,0,23,21,16,1,4,6,2,2,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,8,9,0,3,0,2,0,2,3,7,0,1,0,6,12,0,19,16,1,24,1,0,3,0,19,7,1,4,15,77,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811736202330753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087191951215986,0.2987491128088832,0.12225203751242802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695417302777976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34928193143678066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273106039693355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523519925391592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306472186314738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059265448027808,0.0,0.14242211190651033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350996440350502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122515867267992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687454916350486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683126949643198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765374734879528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357749713272342,0.0,0.12643372087803587,0.3183496537477649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724329925345704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292117318417565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390785343931391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541448289945608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794248573269703,0.17293340155923473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502058677275415,0.0,0.09377530243156502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382853233866002,0.0,0.10238312574864
parenting,andraria1016,2018/03/14,"Potty Training Issues..help! My daughter is 2y5 months old and I am struggling to toilet train. I have tried the diaper less technique, but as soon as I take the diaper off she sits right on the couch and of course I don’t want her to pee/poo on it. I have got her to pee on the toilet once, but that was after 15 minutes of resistance and tantrums. I
am getting frustrated bc I want to set up a toddler bed soon, and have her trained bc she is waking up soaked. 

I want her in daycare soon as I will be picking up more hours at work and I believe it’s a requirement to have them trained. She does NOT seem to like change and is a very strong willed, intelligent child. She understands the concept, she just doesn’t want to do it. Any suggestions? ",2.0639003759398515,4.026375032894741,3.083759398496241,92.29131578947369,78.27631578947368,6.448120300751881,24.01503759398497,7.447530270364453,0.9331432330827076,583,20,127,8,14,186,90,152,0.08199999999999999,0.8170000000000001,0.101,0.2411,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,1,3,4,5,2,1,8,0,16,2,2,1,0,18,25,11,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,4,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,21,2,22,20,2,19,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,1,8,86,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983828971165428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482469543775234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330897789376923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19282041908113648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151181977291042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17622547829636448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768879804918894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169898409445366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764665936399508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587273878526813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312090456515257,0.2346541789933672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816857078825072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005886366815456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303464924550524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566774304257567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959593118749287,0.0,0.0,0.22938099722261604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180301037706573,0.5198473462757905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604096452858543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alibear123,2018/03/14,"College Sitters AKA College Nannies, Sitters, and Tutors Has anyone ever used the service ""College Sitters""?  I can't find anything on their website about how they screen/vet their sitters.  Do they do background checks?  What kind of experience do they expect from the sitters they recommend?  My daycare is having a 'meet and greet' partnership with them next week and I was trying to do some research before I go.  It would be nice to have an occasional babysitter on a weeknight, since we don't have family in the area, and I'm really daunted by trying to find a stranger I can trust alone with my baby (16 months).

Can anyone share their experiences with this company?",6.07850321395776,7.9475837190082625,6.0368044077135,75.72773186409552,67.18181818181819,8.022405876951332,34.105601469237826,8.515128840125781,3.034894582185492,534,25,85,8,9,168,83,121,0.017,0.866,0.117,0.9013,0,1,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,8,0,3,4,0,0,7,0,16,0,0,2,1,16,19,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,15,4,13,16,1,9,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,4,61,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22433988339341268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029137830875527,0.0,0.17824938826131365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843168961603138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959337439724928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42376709293733134,0.2041981266967718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959503771328912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310294551446327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255632167082633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728939157085806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23036436807699076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876421134107658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917983360798226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941243366734164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18707919875616094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17374934608700487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387164266060765,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jlim311,2018/03/14,"Working parents - dealing with newborn and 4 YO I'm due with my second mid-June.  My son will be 4 by then.  I'll have 3 months of mat leave and then will return to work September.  Mornings/evenings are super hectic for my husband and I so I was wondering if working parents of more than one kid have tips as to how you get everything done in the mornings and evenings?  I know it's quite early, but I'm pretty stressed about it as minor as it seems because it seems so hectic already with 1 kid!

My husband leaves for work and drops off my son at daycare at 8am (his job starts at 9).  I leave a bit before then and go straight to work as I start at 8:30.  I pick up my son by 5pm at daycare.  I come home by 5:20-5:30, feed my son dinner by 6.  My husband comes home between 6-6:30.  Either my husband and I cook dinner (we do easy fast meals already) and we try and cook/eat/give my son a bath all before my son goes to bed by 7-7:30 (depending on if he takes a nap at school).  He's super sensitive with bedtime, even at this age, so it's important he gets to sleep by this window or else he gets second wind and it's harder to put him to bed.  I feel like with the addition of a baby, we would have even less time to get things done.

My son can wake up anywhere between 6-6:30 AM.  Usually he waits until I get him at 6:45 but it has to be dead quiet since his bedroom door is in the living room.  Our apartment is super small.  The newborn will be staying in our bedroom. 

I get him up, get him dressed, my husband and I get ready for work and then prep all our breakfasts, shove it in our mouths, and we're pretty much in a mad rush. 

The only thing I can think of to help ease the mornings is to get ready before all the kids wake up.  But my son is a super light sleeper in the early mornings even with a sound machine.  He can wake up with a drop of a pin! It's ridiculous!  Plus his bedroom door is in the living room and he has another door to his room from the kitchen!  Also the baby is sleeping in our bedroom - that's where we would get ready.  How can we move around? LOL.  I feel as though we are limited in movement because we live in a super small apartment (2 bedrooms, small kitchen and bathroom).   

In the evenings, how do working parents of multiples get home, cook, feed kids, feed themselves, give baths and get their kids to bed on time??

We are looking to hire a nanny for my second but we are on a tight budget so we're trying to lessen the time we hire her for.  Literally 8-5:30.  Have her when we're going out the door and only till I come home (no cleaning/cooking).  

It's my hormones making me stress/bug out over trivial things that I'm sure will work themselves out.  But any tips/advice would help in the meantime!

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parenting,emojikween79,2018/03/14,"What is the strangest play date experience you’ve ever had? Yesterday I I took my two and four-year-old on a play date with another family in our neighborhood. She invited us over to her house and as we were talking I noticed they had a similar toy that we had. I mentioned how we have that same toy except in a different color & how how cute it is. This mom asked me if I wanted to pass it along to her kids...I just found it so weird because it’s something my kids can still play with and they’re clearly not struggling in the toy department (she mentions how every time the four year old he house he gets a new Hot Wheels.) 

I’m just curious as to what your other strange play date experiences have been and how you reacted.",3.5962592137592138,4.844157114864867,4.6464619164619165,85.71377149877152,72.44594594594594,8.625061425061427,27.64373464373465,9.095868883498916,2.0883162162162163,575,21,122,12,11,188,93,148,0.028,0.836,0.13699999999999998,0.9312,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,5,2,1,0,10,7,0,1,7,0,10,0,0,6,2,26,16,13,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,10,0,0,1,7,0,3,1,2,0,2,7,2,20,5,15,9,1,18,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,1,10,81,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841675977614498,0.0,0.0,0.17823337202275802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890346977192188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361504522699336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17758746264967554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375191528016513,0.14321107893893653,0.0,0.0,0.3325358912192765,0.1602370905578069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636856755406606,0.0,0.0,0.08880480451807357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39225613833531797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990724022268897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641626969316096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935174079896159,0.35671986717879395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085488605639853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574207492728935,0.0,0.0,0.1776945403717277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661928566218154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911365823769218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884822927333533,0.0,0.0,0.16604065693160616,0.0,0.20445872595362824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002555262242206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891636459186514
parenting,mpethe,2018/03/14,"Any tips for a 2 year old with a broken leg? My daughter (almost 2) fractured her tibia yesterday. The ER put on a temporary plaster cast but she can't sleep. She falls asleep ( from exhaustion at this point) but can only last about 20 seconds before she jolts herself awake. Can't tell if that's from pain, or something else. It's like she's dreaming she's falling. I have an appointment with the fracture clinic today and hopefully will get a more comfortable cast. I'm looking for any advice on how to get through this.",3.5340814081408136,5.722489514851488,4.091617161716176,85.71573157315734,74.64356435643562,6.865126512651265,28.05390539053905,7.793537801064563,1.840959515951595,415,17,77,6,9,131,77,101,0.112,0.7759999999999999,0.112,0.2592,0,0,1,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,7,0,5,6,3,1,0,10,10,6,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,1,1,0,1,9,3,12,9,1,12,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,4,6,45,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23491737089737946,0.0,0.0,0.24072717896180454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32696225937292306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045638023784448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20082444095462132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25119951713863736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387727370657607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959591478009999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744793345990025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187654782382705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522607275455318,0.0,0.0,0.18283602375586527,0.25580393584165545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272569358121171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416697087036295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24057491784960294,0.0,0.0,0.18507266792028615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21012133485418427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278723257661752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481055720366596
parenting,victoriasaurusrex,2018/03/14,"Wishing for More I have one perfect 4 year old son and raising him is the greatest joy I have ever known. I love being a mom, and giving to him has helped me heal my own wounds and grow as a person. 

What I am really struggling with is wanting another child. We have tried for years to have another and I have had very traumatic experiences. I don't have a diagnosed problem other than being ""unlucky"" and it is theoretically possible for me to have another child. But I've finally come to admit we just can't afford it. It doesn't make sense for either of us to quit our jobs and we don't have family here to lean on. Right now we can provide a nice life for our small family and buy a home and maybe have a few Florida vacations.

Does anyone else really struggle with wanting another? How do you reconcile it? I know that we can't have everything we want. I know that we may not be lucky enough to have another healthy child. But I also know my son would LOVE a sibling, fights or no fights. He has said he wants a big family, and my husband and I have always wanted at least two. But would two even equal more happiness for us? I can't know! I should enjoy where I am but I'm often terribly sad. But that's life, right?
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parenting,wanttoplayball,2018/03/14,"Looking for anime suggestions for 10-year-old girl. My daughter loves anime and manga.  She reading lots of graphic novels, like Manga Classics and Babysitter's Club.  She wants to watch anime, but I don't know enough about it to know what's appropriate for a kid.  She watched some Ouron High School Host Club with her adult sister several months ago, and I felt that was too mature for a (then) 9 year old.

Does anyone know of any anime shows that are appropriate for a 4th grade girl?  We have Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime to choose from.",5.790127298444131,7.1234050990099025,5.2252616690240465,83.29891089108911,67.31683168316832,7.355586987270155,27.299858557284303,7.447530270364453,1.4478531824611034,429,13,78,4,7,130,74,101,0.0,0.898,0.102,0.8338,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,15,11,6,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,6,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,8,2,13,9,3,6,0,0,3,1,13,1,0,2,6,42,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19271561182292346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784223895066145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15201399734631008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025178762530154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22463654476804013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20874202365105368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296993615100184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35843881318455645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621265877071998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256468424916025,0.0,0.0,0.18482918618308425,0.1962156827601396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352987358862326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562580504695734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174629265274515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22002454966942475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24560474448300745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823056732339844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800022171865971
parenting,neverenough123,2018/03/14,"I need advice for preteen Looking for advice, how do you deal with a hormonal preteen who constantly cries or has anger outburst? I'm always the bad guy in her eyes even if I talk to her in a sympathetic way. It's now causing issues for her at school with her bullying and then throwing a tantrum of sorts when the kids retaliate or get the teachers help. I can't even ask her to not pee on her bedroom floor without her loosing it on one of us in the house. So stressed about her behaviour. I'm at a loss and feel like a complete failure as a parent.",6.15976401179941,5.315048707964603,6.792168141592921,79.91031710914454,66.34513274336283,9.657227138643067,36.53244837758112,8.841846274778883,2.9925174041297926,436,20,90,6,6,144,78,113,0.203,0.727,0.069,-0.9468,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,1,7,6,2,1,10,0,3,2,2,2,0,14,10,10,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,0,3,13,1,19,10,0,14,0,1,2,0,18,8,0,4,5,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727946584929437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871811998185975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832419658439638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926711767039511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595136154255102,0.0,0.0,0.19999628328625688,0.20613147741212987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209528385820067,0.0,0.19665343609822988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519753093297871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644822608465874,0.13627084158522246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965827329793188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887110848590796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785476917962582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200982798687236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909198566402225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319013335972487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018078700658048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143767370282045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925619141746686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118037523700459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930477719267823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21850188265120093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331650333759742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22944708565950064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514073640987632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387484842091326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imawonder,2018/03/14,"My son (12) knows what to do when I have a seizure. He did great, prevented all my injuries, and saved my life. I don’t like saying I have epilepsy and no child should have to be aware that their Father will have a seizure sometimes.. I grew up with the wrong information of how to help someone seizing.  Often people have tried to help during my seizures and just made things worse. Google it or I could answer your questions about seizures.  My behavior afterwards that he tells me about is often hilarious and that’s OK

http://www.epilepsynw.org/wp-content/themes/epilepsy/brochures/Adults-and-Seizures/When-Mom-or-Dad-Have-Epilepsy.pdf

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parenting,whatadiva,2018/03/14,"weening child off being so needy and clingy ok expert parents; I have a 6 year old (will be 7 in June) and a 3 year old.
their father and I were married but we divorced last year. He Skypes with them from time to time.

Last July; I got into a relationship with a guy who has kids the same age as my eldest.

He has 50% custody of his kids, 1 week with them (he stays over at his place - he lives with his roommate) and the week he doesn't have them he stays with me.

The girls have their own room - but not sleeping in it, its full of storage boxes and their play toys. I have a sofa bed and a futon in the living room. Me and my boyfriend sleep in the bedroom.

My little one always BEGS for me to sleep with her at night, I have the sofa bed literally facing the bedroom door and she can see me on the bed bu she really wants me next to her at night.

I have slept with her and her sister on the sofa bed before moving to the bedroom but once she is asleep she'll wake up in the middle of the night and will cry for me. Sometimes she will even get up and move herself to the bed I'm sleeping in.

I need to ween her off doing this. 

What can  do?

I have ALWAYS co-slept with the girls from when they were babies. Never have been in cribs - yes I now realize this is my own fault. I guess this is the outcome for co-sleeping with kids.

Go easy on me here. I'm looking for a solution.
Ask me questions..",2.030796122209164,3.1550511689189236,3.341968272620445,94.02441833137486,76.16216216216216,5.823501762632197,20.639835487661575,5.7926816847441245,-0.15037085781433612,1070,23,250,5,23,349,148,296,0.034,0.913,0.053,0.6476,1,0,0,0,1,0,35,1,0,7,0,5,3,0,0,22,2,27,8,8,0,1,33,39,17,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,15,7,7,22,0,0,2,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,5,2,44,2,44,28,4,50,0,0,2,0,43,25,0,2,20,169,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378232813885986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324226375513322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939724573827454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213081863670963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294159133725621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057697978929834866,0.0,0.06276302684148145,0.0,0.08832533981786853,0.0,0.12165712905589544,0.10934848535149784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800393075547266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068536088120633,0.1950330997825451,0.0,0.09273798720192998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23475087067202716,0.0,0.08188650723250633,0.08517464836790639,0.0,0.11744938316880794,0.3109086435466663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23176691274790975,0.11761017929777795,0.07483393763667058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262552858981228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538156897894483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371300912989465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074779473910922,0.0,0.0,0.118566373495524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800277742632548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5525761633320488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922351106082323,0.0,0.0,0.23541905018301704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879163004054256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513770590539747,0.0,0.17716935734681205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21335048019356
parenting,BroadStBullies91,2018/03/14,"Why do I have to feel bad about putting my son to bed? Its not fair! My wife and I have an issue where we hate putting my 2 year old son to bed at night. I just feel so bad because he is always just playing so nicely and being such a goober, it breaks my heart every time I have to break the news to him that playtime is over, and its time to go to bed. 

One of the problems is he never screams or throws a fit, he just gets so damn sad! Maybe if he threw a tantrum or something I could use my frustration to ignore my empathy, but he just wants to have fun and play with us after a long day at daycare, but here come the big fat meanies ruining it and making him get the proper amount of sleep a child should have to help him grow healthy, smart and strong. 

My parents just laugh when I tell them this, the bastards. They said they experienced the same thing with me. I always thought they reveled in the idea of ruining my playtime as a child, and that they loved forcing me to do things I didnt want to for my own benefit. So naturally I assumed that as a parent I would also hate seeing any joy in my childs eyes, and would also delight in any and all opportunity to shut that shit down. 

Obviously I was being a bit funny there, but seriously, I honestly never considered that when it came time to be a parent that I would ALSO like to just take the fun way out, and play late into the night and stay home from work to play and eat candy all the time. Its not fair!",7.12062969924812,4.924748375,7.240413533834587,81.82789473684214,65.25,10.264661654135338,32.2406015037594,8.418075326091056,2.1310233082706764,1142,32,256,12,14,370,166,304,0.127,0.653,0.22,0.9918,3,0,1,0,0,0,24,2,0,5,3,20,32,7,0,20,0,20,7,5,2,5,56,39,29,0,9,14,6,2,1,0,4,1,2,4,3,15,19,2,1,5,4,0,8,5,16,0,1,6,7,35,16,36,25,6,41,0,3,2,1,28,13,3,4,17,172,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614026353979613,0.18132468963013745,0.0,0.0,0.14819126860821005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18195188226253955,0.06642019602264272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895465136800208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461969551506022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385824932446916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699463470890242,0.0,0.0,0.07026933045477306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149192451100487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180238173809403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018555828519684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385281955764236,0.0,0.06192372508025304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151482645134548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911655266424032,0.07303270206917199,0.0,0.10929443342638856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300107983967301,0.0,0.11372454673890603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229101295672905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323170413678824,0.0,0.0,0.09642499728154401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833945682720292,0.0,0.07273076061171653,0.0,0.10946363253046977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680712921211613,0.0,0.0,0.20450066795624625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433379897330805,0.0,0.07383321700831802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629571374590357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042587353098013,0.0,0.21906712282728535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364464974448163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682595581965798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118445125272508,0.0,0.0,0.1090373621096924,0.0,0.0,0.08388171006774138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613544849427583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192336236679808,0.0,0.09523468315092863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477460223860714,0.0,0.0,0.0865010159243598,0.254138714865077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310638684433245,0.0941053101824396,0.0,0.0,0.12853329725577647,0.0864863233828098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831825535904268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932321196954645,0.0,0.0,0.23220334634420906,0.0,0.0,0.07016581335703544
parenting,ThePurpleTetromino,2018/03/14,"Advice, ideas for 4yo that can't sleep through the night My partner's four year old girl absolutely will not sleep through the night. She was prescribed melatonin by the GP, which does a great reliable job of getting her to sleep on time, usually on her own.

Trouble begins roughly 2 hours after falling asleep. She will wake up, and immediately start yelling for mum, usually there is no issue at all, and sometimes can be calmed for 10 minutes or so. Other times there seems to be no way to desescalate her mood. Ultimately once she wakes up, it's a choice between co sleeping, or up to 2 or 3 hours of screaming, crying, and yelling. Once co sleeping, she will continue to wake up, up to hourly, always waking my partner up, sometimes for a drink etc, but mostly, again, no apparent reason.

My partner and I are very patient and calm with her, and make sure to give her plenty of reassurance. My partner says she has never slept solo, and these patterns have been present since birth.


Any tactics or ideas would be much appreciated. ",8.236562499999998,7.708807031250004,7.508416666666665,75.42825000000002,62.02083333333334,9.971666666666668,37.95,9.120678840339163,3.3550837499999995,818,36,148,11,10,254,126,192,0.065,0.8440000000000001,0.092,0.8536,2,0,1,0,2,0,29,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,6,0,15,12,11,2,3,24,22,13,0,1,6,1,1,0,4,4,0,4,0,5,5,8,1,0,4,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,3,5,15,5,29,12,5,30,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,6,19,97,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113146678976177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462891743676276,0.0,0.0,0.07733739597503049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492237385807885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952215239005972,0.0,0.0,0.11140791920742156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683425058493006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059416999879271334,0.10909608266918548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253830184125841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359908061680432,0.0,0.0,0.25676501203499696,0.0,0.11870011486952572,0.11285523849739193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759128076278827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360149673382336,0.0,0.08771229366538502,0.0,0.0,0.21344778654542448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933602252782635,0.2422283809155654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169289910610099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043926482439724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035316330224078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940750987655123,0.0,0.5690393049974123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22495530914199044,0.0,0.08049565678063406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718515429474172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326287750195894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505056482915793,0.0938356372729615,0.0,0.09027019068936344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807874953839862,0.0,0.0,0.07323564124212509
parenting,bughugsarethebest,2018/03/14,"My 9 year old daughter is struggling, advice would be gratefully received :) I have a daughter, she’s 9. She’s beautiful, clever and popular. She’s bright and articulate and pretty special and we’re close. However, gradually over the last year she’s changed from a happy girl to a really negative, surly argumentative child. She is advanced physically so I do think hormones are probably to blame but I’m really finding it hard to see her struggling with her emotions. She looks so unhappy. My question is, I suppose, when is it just hormones and (premature) teenage angst as opposed to something more serious such as depression? How can I help her? ",3.826650246305416,6.986270137931037,5.036256157635472,73.71293103448278,80.3793103448276,8.83152709359606,35.00985221674877,9.23628265651192,4.333905911330049,520,31,82,16,14,171,80,116,0.195,0.626,0.179,-0.735,1,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,2,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,15,14,12,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,7,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,4,15,5,9,12,1,9,0,1,3,0,16,2,0,1,5,54,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035836840644066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203920325711214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179439629069589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343501383793382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041547563585245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177771599325735,0.1866282776969332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396433363075413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982177641038015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494990334338675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186137536884029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119527726138728,0.22462161696046773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23338417883134915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669309573090959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601694590547258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603873541190763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4355963774916786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334933988888032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799603039274714,0.0,0.0,0.2683233125519153
parenting,Throwaway10293io7,2018/03/14,"I (m29) threw trash bags at my doughter (9) Hello r/parenting,

this morning I threw 2 trash bags at my doughter and feel deeply ashamed about doing so. 

She slept in and needed help getting ready for school(usually she gets ready herself), so I prepared her sandwish and her tea, while she was getting dressed. When she left I asked her to take the trash outside (we live in germany and separate trash, today is plastic trash day), all she had to do was pick up the bags (very light in weight), which i had already put in front of the door and drop them off at the sidewalk. 

She said ""No, im late"". A little baffled at her response i told her that it would not cost her any time to pick them up and drop them off. She repeated ""No"" and left. I was furious and threw them in her direction, one hitting the back of her foot and the other landing beside her.

She started crying, picked up the bags and ran off.

I am shocked at how easy I lost my composure, thinking back I should have sucked it up, carried them outside myself and then have a talk about giving and taking (we already had a lot of those) in the evening.

But I did not do that.

I have already written her a note she will find when she gets home, telling her that i was wrong, am sorry and will not lash out like that again. 

Im looking for ways to keep up my composure and not go crazy. 

Thank you all for reading.


tldr: doughter didnt want to carry trash bags outside, i threw them at her.",4.048287197231836,4.9385991833910055,4.09117474048443,91.46790397923876,71.00692041522491,6.88726643598616,28.636851211072663,6.742157984588678,1.178514048442906,1120,41,242,8,20,344,148,289,0.108,0.8340000000000001,0.058,-0.9119,1,0,0,0,0,0,46,2,1,6,1,11,8,2,1,12,0,22,4,2,4,2,37,51,22,0,4,5,0,2,1,0,4,0,1,2,0,10,17,2,1,3,1,1,8,7,6,0,1,19,5,51,2,34,27,3,49,0,1,1,0,40,25,1,1,14,165,61,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244667748816112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719089505771298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198641274371072,0.0,0.0,0.1971795162934112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083863895465026,0.08268835100745517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468508807837492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482957828453234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718658821641695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679490994390518,0.12299593198467244,0.0728677885784141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594010594145904,0.0,0.12861053913326834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769893515007276,0.0,0.0,0.11396377312151562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446325996029406,0.0,0.27861289875183226,0.0,0.0,0.06263958697060229,0.12850555305096614,0.11321658144882887,0.0,0.10766867668261744,0.0,0.13996229731373272,0.10900418101399224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507012323534723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688209955156498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236807147887712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889192930473875,0.0,0.0,0.12825013568771673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196224330943962,0.0,0.0,0.12976086912989448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352668654940412,0.09075154748199653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19280410669222792,0.10305471296808563,0.1120659448083992,0.11804354973110115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215527605071722,0.0,0.0,0.07476345342749617,0.0,0.1215332441153356,0.12251534629577425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579116479150603,0.07562478773347481,0.10177144735746224,0.0,0.15613186298042714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108056902090224,0.14018345469721175,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittylifter,2018/03/14,"Encouraging communication with frustrated toddler Our 20mo girl is having some ""behavioural issues"" at daycare with biting. Shes in the infant room with 0-2yos.

When she gets frustrated with another child or carer her first instinct is to bite them. I've noticed that its mostly when shes being misunderstood or can't articulate what shes trying to say. For example, stopping another kid from taking toys, or not being allowed to touch something. She doesn't bite at home except on rare occasions where she isn't getting her way. 

I wanted to know if anyone had any experience using other forms of communication to help their toddler express themselves and what they used.

I know that she will eventually grow out of it but daycare are talking about action plans and I'd rather be involved in the process than let them decide how they will intervene.",8.403529411764708,9.091034058823533,8.238692810457515,66.27411764705884,61.352941176470594,10.460130718954249,36.607843137254896,10.25414643259724,4.015635294117647,693,30,106,14,9,223,109,153,0.05,0.922,0.027000000000000003,-0.3291,1,0,1,0,0,0,13,1,0,5,2,6,3,2,0,2,0,17,0,0,4,0,26,25,10,0,3,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,7,7,0,1,3,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,1,2,17,1,22,18,3,15,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,6,4,79,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457322973127274,0.4494273958953821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984451814451846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096278855305316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182284657117041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22392726785453024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364170779366367,0.0,0.21496177225974736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367497913694528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23554888446039385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913769575839395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439835585955589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704210707377435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497968369527602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916556200711695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611279789075925,0.1722473437140648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549658009673852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37017519779715097,0.0,0.0,0.12640051513282094,0.17010247244769253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kfpirate,2018/03/14,"Wife had a miscarriage and I suddenly regret not having a second kid sooner Encouraging words? My son is 4 and my wife and I for a long time didn't want to have more than one. Then, suddenly, we did, and she got pregnant. Then she miscarried just this past week. Suddenly I'm seeing siblings and thinking about how even if we do manage to have another, the age difference between them will be pretty large, and I worry they won't even really have much of a sibling experience. Or, maybe we waited too long (we're a little older) and won't be able to have another, and it's all because we were wimps about trying again when our son was still a toddler. 

I'm being silly, right? Tell me I'm being silly.   ",4.107214285714285,5.2272324357142885,5.631428571428572,79.62357142857144,71.07142857142857,8.742857142857144,26.142857142857146,9.120678840339163,2.085228571428571,551,17,106,11,10,187,94,140,0.07,0.863,0.067,-0.1235,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,2,0,10,5,0,0,7,0,19,0,0,1,1,23,27,14,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,12,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,6,1,15,3,9,14,3,17,0,1,1,0,16,2,0,2,15,78,17,1,0.20118711568049732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219244652375355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264179836753597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21019771539133486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26576438493218085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967996039162989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609077152024792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20164234366357603,0.0,0.3560885327758418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021194990873468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789567891138702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363295963485834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19205586671368385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467962472074835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888561799544926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718126975234206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032008341368034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606682904664371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758464067858325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289125801483808,0.0,0.0,0.1173138250572246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659284527794274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866537340678494,0.0,0.1613801687791517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043152818285394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whipplesniffer,2018/03/14,"24 year old terrified father to be. So myself and my girlfriend have been going out for about 2 and a half years. She was late last week so we took a test and it came back positive. Blood test from the doctor confirms it.

My girlfriend wants to keep it but I really don't think I am ready to do this.
With that said there is no way I am going to run away from it.

I'm terrified and nervous for the future. Is it as bad as it's made out to be? ",-0.4630740393626986,1.5143414742268066,1.8387816307403924,97.58557638238052,87.8659793814433,5.176757263355202,16.034676663542644,6.574015621080383,-0.4647237113402061,341,7,83,4,11,115,66,97,0.2,0.778,0.022,-0.9616,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,4,0,11,2,1,1,0,14,21,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,8,9,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,2,0,1,6,1,8,0,16,13,0,17,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,8,58,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22934109555275015,0.18769874128190195,0.203814290629492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791867225997311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498479029510529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774566537796321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169683460914293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989750428588372,0.27535676528798136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23097444027044656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25614312798474786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563774675827774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321961224312409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641018087741484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27120539454679715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397720142656176,0.19375615608071475,0.195803244025691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31438631572210496
parenting,Hidatsu,2018/03/14,"Babys first cold Ill start out saying that im calling the ped in the morning.

Okay so my 9 month old daughter is on day 1 of her very first head cold. Yay milestones! Anyways, I dont have any experience (1st time mom) and hubby doesnt know what to do, either. None of my family is worth taking any advice from, either.

Instead, I ask you, veteran parents. What do I do? Should I hold her all night while shes stuffy or is the crib ok? What do I do when she has a plugged nose? Will she choke on her spit or mucus? Do I have to worrh about any dangers?

Im totally new to all thia baby stuff, and I temd to overreact and worry about everything.",0.1212313432835792,2.3428520746268693,2.1180410447761204,94.79407649253734,87.955223880597,5.141044776119403,18.82276119402985,6.6274283507984215,0.03806119402985075,494,14,111,6,16,164,91,134,0.116,0.815,0.07,-0.8048,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,1,0,2,6,4,1,0,4,3,17,4,3,0,3,14,21,8,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,2,0,4,16,3,13,19,6,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,2,11,72,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380541027258592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628582855551389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627765147802906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161774300338585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470675258804845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20845380572861685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598515613670668,0.1739838881537907,0.16767316117053313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30257991026088205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253848385465796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842445595420489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774870997002563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20831069053361698,0.14196834154633658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178094188419527,0.0,0.16691213201786256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663702509196287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749552328226727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144358912577173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258921622836735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20361028313434887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373064461226894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371319358107267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675538716023806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806282453540181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bulliedtillpee,2018/03/15,"Son was bullied and pressured until he wet himself and now he's too embarrassed to go to school. I need to be talked off the ledge. 

My son is 9 years old and went into the bathroom today at school. There were other kids in the bathroom when my son walked in and my son went into the stalls. He was only peeing but likes the privacy of the stall. The two other boys in the bathroom decided to start taunting him because they thought he was pooping at school, which is apparently the biggest damn deal in the world. He told them he wasn't pooping and one of the boys went into the stall next to my son, stood on the toilet, and started peaking over the top. 

My son didn't want to drop his pants because he didn't want the kid to see his private parts. My son said he thought about leaving the stall but was afraid that they were going to hit him if he did. He ended up staying in the stall and eventually ended up wetting his pants. He had to go back to class and let his teacher know what happened. He changed into his gym clothes and I was contacted by his teacher through classdojo. He explained the situation and said my son was so upset in class. I thought about picking him up early but there was only a few minutes left of school so I waited for him to get home at normal time. 

My son is devastated. He asked to skip soccer today and doesn't want to go back to school. He says that everyone is going to make fun of him and he is so afraid of having to deal with that. Confidence is something we have been working hard on with him and it has gotten better but he isn't confident enough to let this roll off his back or joke about it if he starts getting teased. I'm hoping this blows over quickly but my son tends to dwell on things and I think that can make it harder for this to go away. 

I don't even know what to do. My son told his teacher the names of the kids who were bullying him and it is being addressed. That doesn't help my son though. I hate seeing him so hurt because these kids decided to be jerks. My 10 year old has offered to take care of it for his brother but that's obviously not a solution we want to encourage and they don't attend the same school anyone so it's a moot point. I wish I could make this go away for him. ",3.8131655844155863,4.651108571428573,4.47136093073593,88.71989853896103,71.51082251082252,7.246861471861473,26.55871212121212,7.292943589461545,1.126395887445887,1768,56,381,17,32,565,202,462,0.129,0.79,0.081,-0.9603,1,0,1,0,0,0,28,2,0,4,3,19,18,4,6,24,0,40,3,3,4,1,60,89,33,0,11,10,13,3,1,0,0,0,3,2,6,24,24,0,1,9,3,0,12,9,11,0,2,28,8,46,7,67,54,4,65,0,1,2,0,79,30,1,4,22,249,70,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055442560116674186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412698223031096,0.0,0.14899421665630985,0.1829111362963727,0.0,0.14500634808085305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701270142978299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084311412450569,0.0,0.08388004415639035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330792458298565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349240363782036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045772064459466,0.08192946278052961,0.0,0.05237138210889492,0.0,0.0,0.0757665624569154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285322121569759,0.0,0.31544287429646695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011733767162973,0.0,0.07102973728870213,0.07828408125141657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05314751662740942,0.0,0.07953598255628848,0.07875449216516109,0.0,0.0,0.08488334333404644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715322621622823,0.0,0.0,0.08395840068620439,0.08615060167083351,0.16216215342888293,0.0,0.03873789139056795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587833614018916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05879374827466844,0.0,0.0,0.08432756143127806,0.0,0.07768897452172686,0.0,0.0,0.16640648120217275,0.0,0.05373006909819787,0.12060973440552225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586512200341498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495623156493247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084901940009285,0.0630558967156382,0.0,0.4814842528376162,0.1263703464304345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891271284530799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104258029969074,0.0,0.0,0.16836909819664553,0.08451434090491611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059617447255872175,0.06373161879431644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052677844045913136,0.050806882911096106,0.07790363625230977,0.1888461217458488,0.04623559443674735,0.0,0.15031841168086754,0.1515331249138308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745641327747244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870730606847061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051244119072813,0.0,0.0,0.0911814758087644,0.0,0.0,0.05772526015945598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212243628988944
parenting,Hollynicole97,2018/03/15,"Anyone ever live at college with their kid or know someone who did? I know there are about a couple dozen colleges and universities that specifically have programs for parents that I've found anyway but I was thinking that if I went to a regular college or uni where freshmen can live in apartments that my daughter could just live there too, no? Anyone ever done this? Anyone ever gone to a school with a program for parents? What was your experience like? How did you pay for daycare? What grants or scholarships can or did you apply for? What support did you find available to you? Any insight will be helpful. Just tell me about your experience. I'm looking for a school where I can live on campus for sure or at least can get my school loan or grant to pay my rent. If it helps I'm almost 21, my daughter is 16 months, I'd be starting this fall or next spring, I'm single, and I'm female. Thank you!",3.9443099273607767,5.644119141242943,4.407380952380954,85.98216101694916,72.27683615819208,6.413075060532688,27.33212267958031,6.868970318607317,1.2505241323648095,716,26,138,6,14,226,102,177,0.033,0.821,0.147,0.9718,3,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,7,1,0,14,4,0,0,5,0,18,0,0,1,4,29,33,13,0,3,12,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,11,4,0,0,6,0,5,3,1,0,0,1,10,1,17,4,18,19,2,17,0,0,1,0,17,7,0,10,8,97,28,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832025754785273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714404728229362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688091387077449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231459156235946,0.1417917184799724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113841060154702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34774766881972136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507038275689692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712362371807927,0.0,0.0,0.1405060760600445,0.0,0.0,0.06695128251438667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178786043314812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085198341902072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260593064328948,0.0,0.4526230001600894,0.0,0.10761082616988228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228535238798724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628530807357722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28458315387706834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890734453647544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085781546552825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070278656363938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454191845822721,0.1207766053674298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200573163807832,0.117980124786285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211113391959916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879313426380393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,intergalactic-title,2018/03/15,"Human Trafficking Worries There was an incident last week at our local bullseye store where a mom believed she and her son were being targeted by human traffickers. It was on Facebook and, while her profile is local, it’s possible it was a fake story. There’s a non-profit in the area dealing with human trafficking and they have laid out several areas that I frequent as places human traffickers target. I’m generally pretty safe with my 2-year-old. I don’t let him out of the grocery cart or let him roam around or anything but these stories are making me so paranoid. I have a 7-year-old girl and she’s not great about staying right next to me in stores. She doesn’t really wander off but the way these stories go, I feel like someone could snatch her if she’s not holding my hand. I was at the store today and just hyper aware of anyone anywhere near me in the store or parking lot.

I’ve heard the world is safer for kids now and kidnappings are down but this is scaring me to the point I’m nervous to shop with my children. Like should I be actively working towards ways I can protect myself and my family or am I just being super paranoid? Is awareness and caution enough? I’m usually such a laidback parent but these kinds of things just set me on edge.",4.3104453441295565,5.942561744939276,4.9585425101214575,82.66672064777329,71.22672064777329,7.4672064777327956,28.78947368421053,8.032893268588372,1.9940655870445352,1009,39,185,14,19,324,153,247,0.098,0.7929999999999999,0.109,0.4364,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,1,2,11,10,0,2,13,0,24,1,1,1,0,36,31,20,0,3,14,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,7,9,14,0,3,1,2,5,1,4,3,0,0,6,3,29,7,27,18,2,36,0,0,0,0,23,23,0,6,10,133,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555141013219918,0.0,0.12422329611026968,0.1343821634370639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007485647672355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052547173533908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562821876874947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559771105385452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230716080006198,0.0,0.07632750246714955,0.1078424499810583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579133876336853,0.0,0.0,0.16642867940563724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719664754000662,0.0,0.12304866417740525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30872391044844466,0.0,0.1474982054659023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833674250909288,0.0,0.0,0.1007637914881676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679694667406934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605426048752055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31680425126588224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16761792401848727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771609129563735,0.0,0.14270149003265184,0.1701793459187303,0.0,0.15357574328871654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670578891221808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891494580664029,0.0,0.0,0.1511325244972593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053644774751506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279038806698897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089819517956302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028795044942347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430879119611241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625586445698534,0.0,0.0,0.2396424781654158,0.1210871839643567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098972088817051,0.15330236859126295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442044403883324
parenting,RyanM84,2018/03/15,"some people need to mind their own business I am in shock after an experience with my daughter today.
I picked her up from school early as she had a medical appointment. It finished a bit later than expected, so instead of taking her back to school, i thought i would take advantage of a rare moment and i'd take her to lunch and have a bonding afternoon with her.
We did a bit of shopping first, then cut to lunch time and I could feel this woman at another table giving us weird looks. I ignored it, but she kept starring at us.
I got up to pay and when I came back, the woman was at the table talking to my daughter. I go over and ask if everything is okay, and this woman will not make eye contact with me.
My daughter just looks at me and says 'she thinks it's inappropriate for a man your age to be buying me lunch and taking me shopping'
(Quick backstory, my daughter is 15 and I am 34)
'but i explained that you're my dad!'
the woman just muttered 'sorry' and ran back to her table.

edit: perhaps the title is misleading. maybe i should have said 'some people need to learn more appropriate ways to investigate their completely misguided (in this case) concern


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parenting,iainfleming,2018/03/15,"Chewing gum vs junk food? My daughter for some reason has a fixation on gum right now. I usually avoid candy but am okay with chips and the occasional chocolate bar. But I got wondering if, since you are not actually swallowing gum / eating anything else would this help cut candy cravings?  

I have been searching google for an hour and every page just talks about the effects on your teeth. Anyone have thoughts or links on this?",4.853351648351649,7.400195141025642,4.6403296703296695,81.64038461538463,71.94871794871796,7.534065934065935,29.091575091575088,8.418075326091056,2.3310344322344325,343,14,59,6,7,105,65,78,0.052000000000000005,0.861,0.087,0.5896,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,0,1,3,3,1,1,4,1,7,6,1,2,0,18,10,6,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,1,5,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,6,1,7,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,4,3,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.2542224598677554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215628203455755,0.0,0.21437945483801535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665691559574108,0.21762462790567932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21949287827019484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31501254988372435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083555127704667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746159269673975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565521740275716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678500689261341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247611090569905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21549849579586125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093899470584693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20681769469446312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869175323948352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825145148885292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506048851203996,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nice_Manufacturer,2018/03/15,"Surprise! You have a daughter! - HELP! Throwaway because I have family that knows my main.

So I'm in a situation I basically never thought I'd find myself in and I have zero clue what to do.

I'm 33 now and back in high school I had a girlfriend, we'll call her Angie. We were stupid teenagers and we broke up but were later able to become friends and since our 20's we've been very close friends.

I realize this is sounding like r/relationships material but bear with me. There's always been a bit of residual attraction between us but I'm not interested in pursuing that plus she's married with two kids and monogamous.

When we were about 24 their marriage had a serious fracture. The guy she married isn't the best catch in the world. He cares about her but he's got a lot of issues, a lot of jealousy issues, and really doesn't like her hanging around other men. He especially doesn't like me because we used to date.

Long story short, neither she nor I were in a good place at that point so we slept together a few times. It wasn't a great move, I'm not proud of it, but it happened. After a few times I put a stop to it because I didn't want to ruin her young son's life by breaking up the family.

The astute among you probably see where this is going.

They managed to patch things up and keep going, sometime later I learned that she'd had a second child, a daughter. On things went for several years until a few days ago.

They were having another blowup and Angie was being cagey about details which is very unlike her. I mentioned it and eventually she told me that her husband had found out that he was in fact not the biological father of Angie's daughter. She went on to explain that her daughter was in fact *my* daughter.

When we slept together we had opted not to use a condom. She told me she was on birth control and, having no reason to doubt her, I said nothing. The timeline fits and the kid does have a striking similarity to my pictures from when I was her age. I asked Angie WTF happened and she confirmed that it was deliberate but she couldn't give a satisfactory explanation as to why she'd done it.

Near as I can figure, she had always wanted us to have *some* kind of relationship, a family, etc. I avoided that because she was married and because she has a lot of things to work out that I feel make her someone I would not want to have a long-term relationship with.

Now, I get that several failures of decision making occured along the way which contributed to the problem but I'm still trying to process the ""you have an 8 year old daughter you knew nothing about"" part.

I haven't talked to Angie in a few days. I told her I needed some time to process and to think. I don't even know what to say.

What...what do I do?

What *can* I do?
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parenting,Kaytlyn30,2018/03/15,"New to reddit Hello all I’m a mom of 2 soon to be 3, my oldest daughter just turned 12, then my middle is 3 years old, and I’m 30 weeks pregnant with my son :) hope to chat and share with other moms!",-1.2300000000000004,0.5112237777777793,1.5555555555555571,99.94000000000004,89.0,3.6,13.444444444444445,3.1291,-1.5550888888888887,150,2,38,0,5,52,36,45,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.181,0.8122,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,6,3,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,6,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,7,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029543481379252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7144730422183714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945908628806829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200678821774676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317748990454911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446691821555038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642331037813865
parenting,crappypersonandwife,2018/03/15,"Pregnant and Hate This Thing Already The title pretty much sums it up.  I was never sure if I wanted kids, but even on birth control, somehow ended up pregnant.  I begged my husband for support in making the decision of whether to keep or not, and he would only support me in keeping.  So, not wanting to lose him, I am now five months pregnant.  I was really sick and lost 23lbs the first month, putting me severely underweight.  I kept hoping it would kill the baby. It didn't. I had every genetic test in the book, hoping there was a problem. There wasn't.  So here I sit, unable to even look at the ultrasounds without getting angry and depressed, while my husband giggles thinking it is so ""cute"". What is wrong with me? I am ruining any happiness he might have by feeling the way I am feeling.  It isn't fair to it to hate it before it's even here, but I am terrified I will resent this thing the rest of my life.  I feel selfish. I feel guilty. I feel like a horrible person.  I just want this thing out of me. I asked to put it up for adoption, but my husband gets tearful at me even saying that. I feel so stuck.  I am terrified I will never connect with it and all I can think about is how it ruined my life...and it didn't do anything to me. How can I hate something so much when it did nothing wrong to me? Has anyone else felt this way? How did it turn out.  I have never hated myself so much....I am breaking inside. :'(",1.8714350238740487,3.8697888083623733,3.4391792489353503,89.3379119886437,79.03484320557492,5.784952897148019,24.915343915343925,6.775458762138228,0.9559674538650148,1096,41,223,11,27,362,149,287,0.26,0.619,0.121,-0.9954,0,0,1,0,0,0,46,0,0,0,4,22,24,6,0,10,0,30,2,0,5,5,52,61,22,1,9,10,3,7,1,0,5,2,1,0,2,23,9,0,4,10,1,0,2,10,15,0,2,13,9,37,9,29,43,4,28,0,5,1,0,10,11,0,6,12,173,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046101222411774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446476424108102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628380745467839,0.09713005636297016,0.07800931347526144,0.0,0.08862178454621185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066470618276872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632215985929627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164795169431538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791901809390217,0.0,0.08396142323818613,0.0,0.0,0.2504483631734296,0.0,0.07987000787694297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28759127731363177,0.0677225266913288,0.0910193557496251,0.0,0.0,0.08063372129926673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905435374023287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091247031763913,0.0,0.3743670535787345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18830831707198065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851869134821226,0.10487810876431054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391492165846974,0.04631270505418855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796050534164131,0.1060528603384513,0.1034814070092714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327729534868227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056393984283896,0.0,0.0,0.15133107384024966,0.0,0.20905865949588448,0.0,0.2193383521993332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095964819761776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209689086932353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277251062221756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644196117426433,0.0,0.09070729814168356,0.0,0.19059301615629065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060728965003706864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538585714631263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070928853754158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297885650674672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514753428559555,0.08934443181905563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18893543504406649,0.12148333832941692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311120020224868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774001833998806,0.1504898500245876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138029225615138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468120507283576,0.20728984033423126,0.0,0.0
parenting,kimberlyshel,2018/03/15,"I inadvertently discovered a trick to get my child to follow instructions, but I am wondering if it is ok to use? So one day a while ago I was out with my kid shopping and I fixed my hair by rapidly flipping it 5 or 6 times in a row, very very quickly. He noticed this and said it looked kind of amazing, almost like it was hard to focus on anything besides me when I was doing it. I was shocked since I had no idea and wasn't even really aware I was doing it. Since then, I've done it several times and each time he stops what he is doing and stares, automatically, almost as if he is hypnotized by it, and is very responsive to what I say, even things he had just said no to previously like cleaning his room. He seems to enjoy it and it puts him in a very well behaved mindset, so I don't see the harm? I am sure every parent has a trick or two like this but the nature of it is just so bizarre I wanted to hear if anyone had similar experiences. ",5.987236180904522,4.5180765929648254,7.232306532663318,78.65459045226132,66.98994974874373,10.372060301507537,31.96030150753769,9.3871,2.5048930653266326,738,24,163,12,10,254,113,199,0.087,0.7509999999999999,0.161,0.9624,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,0,10,13,2,0,7,1,22,1,1,1,1,28,33,21,0,4,9,1,2,3,0,0,0,4,2,2,16,10,0,1,3,1,1,2,4,4,1,2,12,9,18,9,18,21,1,17,0,0,3,0,15,5,0,9,13,112,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222848052476339,0.0,0.2762750213027445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645820535540396,0.0,0.11352151706094775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896666774591805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117126895977275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18223002399511656,0.0,0.11622925594308375,0.0,0.0,0.1349420711621997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207344871487037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357656232532965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548025272945007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572933642122133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365422963657273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20218695573888024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158436861826095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705757200710502,0.0,0.0,0.09347883697880197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317771800463653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867836653981866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837463027986099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624450541305255,0.10970378390656152,0.0,0.0,0.10992869738670713,0.12558496487821655,0.0,0.15584481227496974,0.0,0.2282281777942123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533280487465768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001672478843224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916481902705729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413201583868244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475760502921832,0.0,0.0,0.11914495000797287,0.0,0.4552944783049795,0.0813667860305139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403407729309528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496014454655493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MACmama0509,2018/03/15,"Baby boy won’t flip over anymore?? My son (10 months old) has been crawling around w such ease and is now on the verge of walking which is awesome! Good job, dude. HOWEVER. . .he now refuses to flip himself from his back to his stomach! We change his diaper and when we are done he just lays there until he starts throwing a fit (screaming and crying) to be picked up so he can move around. I know he knows how because he has been doing it for months before...he is currently screaming on the floor and has been for almost 10 minutes because I want him to do it on his own. Is this normal? Why is this happening? It’s extremely frustrating.",1.99448717948718,4.339285738095242,3.0804761904761904,90.24016483516485,80.50793650793649,6.099145299145299,23.97802197802197,7.321109707123232,1.0781728937728938,497,18,100,7,13,159,88,126,0.044,0.8440000000000001,0.112,0.8422,3,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,0,0,11,4,1,0,3,0,18,1,1,2,0,17,23,8,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,6,8,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,4,2,11,1,16,17,1,23,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,1,10,68,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502301820870826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129563825663527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38231390174190455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511560591466826,0.0,0.261797192993745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22715791824600085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358729511496558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21974532618220535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010696192931855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988674384508966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21308831504690925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360221150908029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34279396892270897,0.22822606745929055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103917075927958,0.0,0.0,0.22532504740967066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198837112356128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665446070168815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376217486820574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayaccav,2018/03/15,How do I tell my 5 year old daughter I won’t be in her life as much anymore Hey reddit I need some advice. My wife has been having affair for the past 2 years and it crushed me when I found out. I really tried to fix the marriage but she fell in love with her other partner and she decided to divorce with me. I have to leave the house. How am I going to do it with my daughter? Am I just going to be replaced?,0.10733333333333306,1.8852781777777776,2.4700000000000024,95.165,83.8888888888889,4.888888888888889,20.0,5.82211442006289,-0.16466666666666674,316,9,74,2,9,108,61,90,0.037000000000000005,0.89,0.07200000000000001,0.7149,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,11,2,0,2,0,14,16,7,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,17,1,13,11,2,11,0,0,0,1,14,3,0,1,5,56,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557829565690129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595896094586308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869997249034022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975216341213952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020289453081946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771596669961728,0.0,0.0,0.1848845747022648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362431834964817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241929064632893,0.1940872570234829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274666766750224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498737888052497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676863000443526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287845128775464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17771376817231593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371219580602901
parenting,sloppytom,2018/03/15,"What should I do about my 2yo son being bullied by his “friend”? one of my good friends has a little girl (“lucy”) that’s 2 months older than my son (“linus”) we get together often and there’s a problem that never seems to get better. for the first 2 or 3 hours of any play date, lucy is constantly hitting or pushing linus any time he is near her or playing with a toy (his or hers, it doesn’t matter, she’s a bully). her parents immediately correct these actions every time they happen, but.. nothing is changing. she actually laughs after she gets punished. 

i’ve asked lucy’s mom if linus is the only kid she does this with, and he is. she doesn’t understand the behaviour either. to be clear my son is very quiet and reserved and never lays a hand on anyone, not even to defend himself. 

my question is: do i tell them i don’t want the kids playing together until lucy learns to be nicer? if so, how do i have that conversation with lucy’s mom? ",4.18081807081807,5.061289629629634,5.376296296296296,82.41179487179487,70.6931216931217,7.508506308506309,27.236874236874236,7.61054688173877,1.5131323565323562,736,24,145,8,13,245,118,189,0.064,0.7829999999999999,0.153,0.9233,1,0,0,0,0,0,26,1,0,2,2,7,10,1,0,9,0,19,1,1,1,4,31,28,14,0,5,9,6,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,7,8,0,0,4,4,0,2,6,2,0,2,0,2,23,8,17,23,1,17,0,0,0,0,31,3,0,9,12,97,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.16020509651675255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232808680829017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147906631052958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347569495898494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519398916467896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366885421147338,0.0,0.0,0.1774081832679186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366524951464535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843196395277672,0.0,0.13831931988349247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396419229978489,0.0,0.0,0.25367286175826875,0.0,0.25731431369001706,0.0,0.0,0.13769702573123874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451739542612437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616732283333668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645402964363474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38454509927038905,0.1310379939054983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532342448855235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575244201167567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124504798292267,0.12485779300440082,0.0,0.0,0.1822900577293723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708739889894036,0.0,0.0,0.1839066614880749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945313715209116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349079352143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914563300573692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170905541834958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545647796431948,0.09683102944716084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OplesNbanonos,2018/03/15,"Any tips for teaching child to respect personal space and play nicely? Hello parents,

I'm hoping some of you can offer advice on how to help my son. He's five years old. He has always been a very high energy, rough and tumble sort of kid. I've had a lot of trouble with him being too rough and touchy at home, not showing respect for people's personal space. He has gotten a lot better over the years, but it's still an issue. He has recently started making lots of friends in VPK, and I've been making an effort to take him to many birthday parties and organizing playdates with his best friends. He plays well for the most part and he and his friends have a great time, but I've noticed that he's often the one instigating rough housing, and sometimes ignores the other children telling him to stop or showing signs that they are frustrated or annoyed by his advances. He just pokes, and prods, and pushes, and tickles. He doesn't seem to know how to just sit and play with another kid without it always becoming physical. I do intervene sometimes and remind him to take it easy, but it's like he cannot control the impulse to turn everything into a wrestling match!

We have had many conversations about respecting personal space and keeping our hands to ourselves, especially since his younger brother came into the picture. But he clearly still struggles with this, and I'm afraid it will be an issue in the coming years when he's trying to make and keep friends. I'm worried it will be an issue in school next year. Any ideas on how I can get through to him?",8.147486157253597,7.123198322259139,7.6426445182724265,76.00952602436323,62.455149501661126,10.152912513842749,37.67464008859358,9.029198982220553,3.304664939091916,1249,53,229,16,15,393,168,301,0.062,0.732,0.206,0.9937,1,0,0,0,0,0,28,2,1,1,5,13,23,2,2,16,0,20,1,1,7,1,59,39,26,0,1,10,3,4,1,4,2,0,0,1,7,10,25,0,5,3,5,0,4,4,6,1,2,6,4,16,17,36,28,7,31,0,0,0,0,44,13,0,11,14,141,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755980442632277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614517822697786,0.0,0.0,0.1357855060158381,0.10468806073591147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026239790560256,0.0,0.0,0.10477303354618347,0.08829793371218889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418721611588012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600094997484667,0.0,0.0,0.1119759642895832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972728202047896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085360442395198,0.0,0.05216084206633175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007091967799584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691880364682336,0.10548353520458248,0.10014490115981303,0.09916091535286826,0.0,0.11519878114867982,0.0,0.11270410209309185,0.0,0.3126124488384736,0.0,0.17747986863234144,0.0,0.0,0.05486794117999445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877543697536527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546341771184333,0.0,0.0,0.19992641723086468,0.2024386011863647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617804713240077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136653699088758,0.104762398581988,0.0,0.06765230385305047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085745027311918,0.10811401179361442,0.0,0.06921457789978304,0.26152210524668484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857723911029732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104062622705592,0.0,0.09088808202911668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258640421180796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974831845428089,0.0,0.07066531882948697,0.0,0.15946031232122138,0.08346841073102236,0.0,0.10437156983429574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501303729696023,0.0,0.08726215628867644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821590286706248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677829387044328,0.1085942581206277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237618637652025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976567698492106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962395455094944,0.0,0.0,0.10138957275823857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257167660717902
parenting,turnip_for_what_,2018/03/15,"Toddler bought an OnDemand movie Yesterday we saw an increase in our cable bill, so husband called to inquire why. They tell us a movie was purchased for $16. We've never once purchased an OnDemand movie, but our toddler loves playing with the remote and frequently changes settings and records random things. My husband is thanking his lucky stars that it wasn't X-rated, couldn't have blamed that one on the kid. It is now password protected for purchases, because now we know better. 

Anyone else's kids bought things they weren't supposed to?

tl;dr: 20 month old bought a $16 OnDemand movie. ",5.410050968399588,7.703075000000005,4.8305810397553515,82.0009378185525,69.64220183486239,7.413251783893987,33.21202854230377,8.167268648758528,2.729427319062181,481,23,80,7,9,145,78,109,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.9739,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,1,3,5,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,1,12,14,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,1,2,1,7,1,4,0,0,1,7,1,9,5,7,6,1,11,0,0,1,1,15,2,0,2,7,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735449705384693,0.2543069479138947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129846308578818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21950989645241067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534366786533368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26255930031463864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073365750359981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364024681057168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22400729852671447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810831453155603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142466982561668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604407860754263,0.26432148733932137,0.1681845722681974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693493931101185,0.22850626335016244,0.0,0.0,0.3297818453455093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985501857717032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239590037347703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theinternetdelivers,2018/03/15,"Can we talk about allowance and money in general? Do you give your kids allowance?  If not, why not?  If so, how much? How often?  Do you require they complete tasks for it?  What else would you want to say about the subject?  Enquiring minds need to know.  

Do your kids have jobs?

Also, did you get an allowance growing up?  And if you did, what did you do with it?  ",-0.026107554417414747,2.306507183098592,1.0540332906530132,99.00194622279129,96.88732394366195,3.708578745198463,19.130601792573625,5.565023196281405,-0.32396901408450685,274,9,59,2,11,85,48,71,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.4515,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,8,1,1,7,0,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,5,0,22,15,9,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,10,0,8,11,1,3,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,4,0,47,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25324745883749616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33203108955371896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645440182964836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545130000637584,0.30378660551518144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142542699877574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403806835325236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197547282914693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327949298213454,0.23481288817889706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251835231789238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25453395839805065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867850195339908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857528382119111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22495912218218048,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TippyTumbles,2018/03/15,"Help with learning to control temper I've always known I had a temper but it's a very rare thing for it to actually surface... in the ten years I've been with my husband he's only seen it once, when a dog bit me. Sometimes it comes out when I'm alone in bad traffic, as well, but that's about it. Until I had my baby.

He's only 7 weeks and I've already had several instances of 'rough handling' through gritted teeth as I try to control my rage because it's three in the morning and he's thrashing so much it's pulling on my nipple, and other stupid things like that. It is humiliating and terrifying that I react this way, and he's just a tiny baby that doesn't even know how to do things on purpose yet... it makes me very scared of how I could explode when he's crawling and getting into everything, or a toddler and intentionally pushing my buttons.

I need to start right now at learning how to get this under control. Unfortunately it's not just a matter of knowing better, I wish it were... my reactions feel almost reflexive. I'm sitting there telling myself not to lose my cool and to please just take a breath and don't do anything awful, and AS I'm thinking that I might squeeze his arm harder than necessary or bounce him much harder than needed for a second. It's little physical explosions of my emotions like it's the only way to get it out, and I hate it and feel so out of control when it happens.

Sorry, I didn't intend for this to be a monologue. I just want help. I'm hoping some parents have been through this before and know of books, methods, gurus, anything I can turn to. Thanks in advance.",5.126564417177916,5.362338865030676,6.041846625766873,80.7776165644172,68.32515337423312,7.9923926380368115,32.25092024539877,7.554174236665415,2.123795582822086,1274,52,250,12,20,422,170,326,0.127,0.747,0.126,-0.3492,1,1,1,0,0,0,35,0,0,0,7,20,15,5,1,12,2,17,3,3,11,0,60,44,30,0,6,10,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,29,20,0,4,9,1,0,4,5,8,1,3,8,6,25,7,43,33,4,32,0,1,1,0,12,15,0,6,12,169,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.10473584989765723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747267185412653,0.11115859491230663,0.11843821690793575,0.0,0.08930481526980516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664225587885482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961371596220125,0.06542565547014703,0.0,0.09132752895234683,0.0,0.0,0.09492217280118614,0.1171734879301053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924528660114236,0.0,0.0,0.4815062543375466,0.08569202349652269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207286366701603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088859310714027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964587528932508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853569856517056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822207233799313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490907476195684,0.0,0.0,0.10596337463577156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438782987633051,0.0,0.0,0.10660011108447283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695264118781293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486928204051199,0.1075700346890727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200716661769493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164172903436991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385718193467916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779565960019767,0.15916349467426896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429994866645593,0.0,0.2448814803833826,0.0,0.0,0.11917413702367664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781301878531275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165682910060333,0.0,0.0,0.10745323502028356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124916896806255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614932977708716,0.12014399599372788,0.07596673356873271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069668567884,0.0,0.0938086898526645,0.09881245158611736,0.0,0.0,0.21391023696305445,0.0687709261183523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286811310496383,0.11674115691248488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711233477834756,0.06330435414427005,0.17038264670566375,0.08609139349552973,0.0,0.09650002830362844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342096536761504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911518793041628
parenting,vitus797,2018/03/15,"We just found out the sex of our baby and well, I am a bit disappointed. Today, the doc told us the sex of our first baby, which turns out to be a boy. Besides that, all seems very good and healthy.     
    
Well the thing is, I was always hoping for a girl. When I see little kids, I always prefer girls. They just seem so much cuter, while boys appear to me always rough and less adorable. I really feel bad, and I am not sure what replies I'm seeking to see here. I just feel a bit down at the moment, and I'll hope this will change.    
    
Has anyone experienced this before? How did you handle this. My wife is similar disappointed. And maybe the fact that we talked a lot about having a baby girl didn't really help. Thanks for your ears.
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parenting,143_1433_,2018/03/15,"17 y/o daughter wants us to let her go to Cabo with her 19 y/o boyfriend and his parents... I need insight I had posted this in /r/Family but was suggested I post here.

Everything about it just screams ""Hell no"" in my brain... safety issues with traveling to Mexico as a whole, she is 17, I don't know his parents, they have only been dating for 6 months... she says I'm overreacting about the violence in Mexico and that she doesn't do drugs so there is nothing to worry about... he is a good kid but he is 2 years older and in college (they went to the same high school). It's bad enough that I don't like the age difference... (they look the same age and act like the same age, they just aren't the same age)

I did tell her she could go once she turns 18.

Am I really such a bad parent for saying no? Help!",2.175285067873304,3.2424523294117655,3.8088235294117654,91.04662895927605,75.70588235294117,7.58371040723982,21.312217194570135,8.139509932561175,0.7286968325791854,616,14,145,10,13,206,104,170,0.191,0.732,0.076,-0.9731,3,0,1,0,0,0,34,1,0,4,0,9,7,1,0,9,0,17,2,1,0,0,19,26,8,0,3,4,4,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,1,5,6,0,0,2,1,0,5,6,4,0,0,5,4,23,3,17,19,6,20,1,0,1,0,27,5,1,0,10,91,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24261764558983195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218867077947668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600008304155256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179430060607468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684871367092348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012061363081594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057485270091373,0.0,0.13696393162819362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514023596024247,0.12186009006182448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738301141353,0.15350400415078214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164218931108447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984609782278937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856610280510538,0.0,0.141960067329966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200473638472448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596693286616262,0.0,0.0,0.10772868842423892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940707811533906,0.0,0.0,0.15472622766916122,0.0,0.11049753485695746,0.0,0.0,0.4839730430118561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782901352696134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930747615661642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310765770147961,0.0,0.14703849920913364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698749975684614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803085682490256,0.0,0.0,0.17476272731123896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856942109428092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346827781741064,0.0,0.16220807652526012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754630063678936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356025464477608
parenting,redwingslionsfan,2018/03/15,"My 14 year old son has no friends or a social life. What can I do to help him? I'm worried about my son. He sits at home all day watching TV, playing video games, and on his phone. He barely goes outside. He's alone 24/7. He has no friends to come visit him or to hang out with. He tells me that he does talk to people in school, and does have friends in school. It's hard for me to believe that. He doesn't talk to them outside of school and he doesn't have their phone numbers. He's alone at home all the time, so it would leave me to believe he's also alone in school.

He's been like this pretty much his whole life. I always tried to encourage him to go out and get some air. I even tell him, ""You can at least go out and sit on the porch."" It's not healthy to sit in the house all day. In his early elementary years (Kindergarten-2nd grade) teachers would call his mother and I and tell us that he's very quiet and doesn't talk. 

He's not into sports. I try to encourage him to go out and try to get to know other kids in our neighborhood, but he never wants to do it. I force him to go out on car rides every weekend with me and his older brother, because that's the only time I can get him out of the house. I don't want him becoming a hermit or a recluse. I don't want him to end up being alone. I don't know what else to do. How can I help my son become more social?",1.4653205128205151,2.629923886287628,2.8052048494983275,97.14029333890748,77.69565217391305,5.652229654403567,20.150641025641026,5.7366,-0.3251104793756969,1058,23,261,5,24,343,136,299,0.064,0.86,0.076,0.8024,0,4,0,0,0,0,36,2,1,2,0,5,7,0,0,8,0,21,2,0,1,4,39,35,17,0,5,6,5,1,1,3,2,2,1,3,1,12,20,0,0,2,6,0,9,11,0,0,0,1,3,37,7,44,31,8,45,0,0,1,0,59,21,0,4,13,153,49,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37544012153512857,0.0,0.07247267278160714,0.07540714850934081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055244077303706465,0.2001760894319766,0.0,0.20420638113637768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253812088745987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806529778237811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689108301938203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861286229469124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570544700563007,0.0,0.0802667325936571,0.0,0.0,0.059856869440899324,0.0,0.07635535841650852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21004964053187514,0.0,0.14204325660398176,0.0,0.20601679971560286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118207960353052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148787508644188,0.0,0.1818082598555985,0.0,0.0,0.2091378562020292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961011286910286,0.0,0.0,0.09595864813900536,0.0,0.0,0.12802204622672794,0.044274732000764656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661970410919511,0.0,0.0698954836817255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509555236414304,0.0,0.0,0.06892429448015977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282787150849495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921980691825844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668688114184821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184761276924254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21852250399826573,0.2376303826109017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056881765681992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184585006191462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901055572822366,0.0,0.0,0.07477500564285129,0.16035868233385886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117942674431864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203395069141612,0.0,0.12875460962953478,0.0,0.0,0.1167188851972701
parenting,WavingFlags2,2018/03/15,"Is there any resources out there for places I can take an out of control 12 year old? my 12 year old has experimented with drugs, alcohol, and has been stealing and physically absuvive towards his younger sibilings(never his older), and family pets.

Personally I think he needs medication, or maybe to spend a few weeks in juvenile hall. I've called police numerous times and they just keep taking him to our local hospital to get mentally evaluted. he gives fake reasons for his actions, and denys abusing anyone. I'm constantly told to come up with new ways to deal with it, and nothing seems to work. I can't begin to imagine i'm the first person with an out of control child. What other resources are available? or what ideas does the reddit community have?",6.995891286970422,8.129436582733817,7.2419664268585136,70.6495363709033,64.46762589928058,10.494324540367707,34.86890487609912,10.504223727775694,3.8916996003197433,611,27,103,15,9,198,101,139,0.075,0.925,0.0,-0.8844,0,0,2,0,0,0,17,1,0,1,4,3,2,0,0,5,0,8,3,0,3,0,26,21,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,4,14,1,3,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,2,0,10,0,21,19,1,23,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,3,11,61,14,1,0.0,0.17914369835890015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158359055893742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281913172326353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057204444945276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543890222535045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024281108114968,0.0,0.16339022255535424,0.33916054106061044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587744818867794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231349681440088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753404958872019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789965966830715,0.14253505733077132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286080746468142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899418205340633,0.14504192122109535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706829875864675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343908236347974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189768948956478,0.0,0.0,0.15231505144741286,0.15237099475754345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211064546833503,0.0,0.14602698624435922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450775809022914,0.0,0.3173115946024477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640387434259017,0.15796866432036247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545567810496147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764405277742262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273626257610105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688092024320298,0.0,0.0,0.08816417541028326,0.0,0.0,0.14447519457815364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001312573506412,0.12128109795282853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007320278459776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947317969211922
parenting,KraggMan,2018/03/15,"Does anyone get ""competitive"" when it comes to your child's development? I'm really kind of struggling with this right now. My (20m) son is somewhat behind on speech and I'm having a really hard time comparing him to other children around the same age or younger. Everyone says ""he'll get there, he is just a late talker, don't worry about it, etc.""

My nursing instructor has a son that is 2 months younger, but is already talking in small sentences and knows his shapes and colors.

We've done a hearing test and other screening, but they all came back fine. He only says about 3 separate words and that only rarely. He is very independent and stubborn so trying to sit down and teach him is near impossible. I have faith he'll get where he needs to be eventually.

Any tips on dealing with this?",5.614117647058826,6.476538026143793,5.956084967320262,79.61138235294119,67.43137254901961,8.995816993464052,29.679084967320264,9.120678840339163,2.374597908496732,630,22,120,11,10,202,110,153,0.051,0.887,0.063,0.2005,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,1,1,0,10,5,1,1,5,0,12,0,0,1,1,24,24,12,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,8,12,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,7,8,3,16,19,4,20,1,0,2,0,21,10,0,2,7,70,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998910807885959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231805404760292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266564040557394,0.0,0.0,0.16125186360704996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928449393567616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071744387058018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603496735679456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18674606558227935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585157137266861,0.1853677996241998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020175536162103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308580859655193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283912513460727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226471301250828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415650114815712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862810152984447,0.09954910281175904,0.0,0.2043323649533672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445831973940625,0.0,0.0,0.13431206498684556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755283165455238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320842035109576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469147635696662,0.0,0.288097559553746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936551859990974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559244097228582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562344376620486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298129998781605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494584136105117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395516189388816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raisingveruca,2018/03/15,"Our 3.5yo daughter doesn’t like to nap which has daycare exasperated. Not sure what to do. Apparently our 3 (soon to be 4) year-old daughter is the only kid in her pre-school class who simply will not nap during nap time and the teachers are apparently at their wits end. 

She’s always been fairly resistant to naps/sleep in general and she easily dropped naps at home not long after her third birthday last summer. She’s extremely high energy and doesn’t much care for quiet or calming activities, at least not for extended periods of time. 

At daycare of course they continue to try to get her to nap because everybody else does and the teacher uses that time to plan afternoon activities, etc. Apparently it’s come to a head now since she simply won’t do it and has started disrupting others because she wants to be up and playing.

Naturally we’ve told her this is unacceptable, she has to respect other people’s desire to nap, etc. but I’m not sure how that effective that really is. 

The daycare is seemingly out of ideas and suggested that we send her with a tablet so she can play with that during nap time. I’m really opposed to using an hour+ of extra screen time every day to deal with this. We try to limit it already and this just doesn’t seem like a good idea to me. 

That said I really don’t know what a good solution would be. Anyone else ever deal with this?",7.385644989339021,6.677609899253737,7.990639658848617,71.86917910447762,63.8134328358209,11.537739872068233,33.32196162046908,10.914260884657429,3.540648400852879,1095,38,205,26,14,366,151,268,0.029,0.84,0.132,0.9779,3,0,0,0,0,0,25,4,0,2,3,6,11,0,0,9,0,22,1,1,4,3,43,36,12,0,3,8,2,0,2,0,3,0,2,1,1,19,16,0,2,7,9,0,2,10,0,0,1,3,3,20,11,35,27,5,31,0,0,1,0,28,9,0,3,21,132,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175535078553824,0.0,0.09934620403697147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348375965432704,0.12233428633624928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556416690304647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173115915056375,0.0,0.0,0.10284822002962207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699989731283642,0.2461820035345578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448336856594266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19947840313839246,0.0,0.10574853115739698,0.0,0.2663139699533667,0.0,0.10799961245239348,0.1005954364608138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237895934100138,0.0,0.0,0.20028572168309194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253371484525817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614737210921867,0.11976291927405035,0.0,0.11758002412043958,0.0,0.0,0.2695648430325834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656163692226993,0.097322859951435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666073166751142,0.0,0.0,0.10566081732980412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776906232563522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528496747236634,0.0,0.0,0.09080527719042532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277345935337144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22946248170303304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357198561165313,0.0,0.0,0.12083411359026185,0.0,0.2173854465871578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876477729973443,0.0,0.11948122504330172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450839509986971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505674791039776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34810092150411864,0.0,0.0,0.11408703848950465,0.0,0.1621227346015795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062378899512704,0.0,0.0,0.07042226406543772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481478196574357,0.0,0.0,0.07688646509647212
parenting,Yungskeeme,2018/03/15,"9 year old in hospital. Need some advice Two days ago my son was taken to the Er because he was having trouble breathing. He is asthmatic and had a cold which made it worse. They are calling it an asthma attack. He has been progressing and doing better these last couple of days. Had him on continuous flow of air and albuterol. Now, he just gets the nebulizer every four hours. Here’s the issue, last night they put him back on the continuous air because they say his breathing is worse. Also said he will be in the hospital longer. After multiple people have came in and checked him out. My biggest concern is even after asking no one is telling us what is happening or why the decision to send him home changed. My wife called his primary care doctor and she said what the hospital doing is “excessive” and doesn’t need to be done. They hospital refuses to call the PCP and talk with her. Also, refusing to let us take our son from this hospital to a different one. What are our rights? Can they really refuse to speak with his doctor? Anything we can do?",3.401977592496096,5.779775044554455,4.445424700364776,82.12711568525278,75.78217821782178,8.015007816571131,25.978113600833765,8.841846274778883,2.220124752475248,837,31,154,19,19,272,128,202,0.093,0.878,0.029,-0.9158,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,5,2,7,4,1,0,11,0,27,5,2,1,0,22,39,10,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,8,12,0,3,1,0,1,4,2,2,1,4,11,5,22,2,20,24,1,29,0,0,0,0,41,10,0,2,15,109,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769260619298826,0.10676282219713848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926317015332205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911188489022756,0.0,0.11259517251739612,0.137017924669137,0.0,0.09261095095195383,0.0,0.14683825229841008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651942161170776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689482186676492,0.13775131200420826,0.1227966404110564,0.0,0.12740958499041216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326460555667133,0.0,0.15534771488239546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583419998736906,0.0,0.24655095423252604,0.0,0.12325196950492145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795495058088885,0.0,0.10147592222294728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629249461917851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650472330127324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081117304144087,0.0,0.11860917157276644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257081030058769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634940340049525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315809366411422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139632712129638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860951655532906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113024812010175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638155429528591,0.0,0.1632265665607908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834979539726832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210754987874238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771569690952197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285512999168736,0.2291321034850961,0.09577874824146357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055591576580944,0.09680513622777333,0.10526989733143824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176524114857273,0.0,0.2897490602877143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086783964099494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245477365934162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775594323820665
parenting,flyingfern,2018/03/15,"Daughter, 9, into morbid subjects My daughter (9 years old) has a morbid streak. She was always into the sad parts of films, fairy tales with heavy pathos, etc (think ""The Little Match Girl"" and Bambi's mom). Lately she's been making up these long, epic songs about tragic topics. None of it is violent, it's just sad. Her most recent one goes like this:
  
""Oh the mother bunny  
got lost in the forest, oh no  
her little babies are all alone  
alone, alone in the cold  
She will never, never return, oh no  
She will never, never return""    

...sung in the most tragic voice possible to a dirge-like tune. At first it was really hard to keep from chuckling at her mournful demeanor but it's getting to be her favourite activity lately. 

She's not actually sad when she sings these, but she puts on all the theatrical jazz. Other than the morbid streak, she's a happy, kind, well-adjusted kid. We've asked her why she's into this kind of stuff and she says she doesn't know. 

Has anyone else experienced this? I'm not sure if I should be worried or not. Is she just a proto-goth, or is it an indication of some kind of emotional disturbance?",2.4087795765877966,4.773210461187215,3.5945558322955584,87.0215473225405,79.09132420091323,5.990950601909508,18.630344541303447,7.1686216300943375,0.3631442922374428,877,19,169,11,22,284,133,219,0.153,0.747,0.1,-0.5329,0,3,0,0,0,0,43,0,0,0,2,4,16,1,1,13,0,15,0,0,1,7,31,24,8,1,2,10,4,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,2,12,6,0,1,2,4,0,1,11,9,0,2,5,6,19,7,22,14,8,27,0,7,0,0,25,12,0,6,15,110,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.1194800530207248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804208824431016,0.0,0.0,0.10187671245202763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561022596850228,0.1254503383688822,0.0,0.0,0.11446130347778664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022797202666988,0.13772422646654084,0.0,0.0,0.13654870863913554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414415475199493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396785227420397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792340033970844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033559354356464,0.1096787710916029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882690509368494,0.0,0.3824953309634361,0.06728772421902787,0.0,0.2762266948402844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059816134545569714,0.24542644110207576,0.0,0.108352169153325,0.0,0.0,0.133653556996702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172710291544961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433957778143515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777213292639746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284761781234635,0.0,0.08296592630498986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258645491939688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802840000931466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308218106145312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843575401662685,0.0,0.12089095994630368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736616698637668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016013698700944,0.0,0.0,0.11539465354772607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845216233919991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008483255241976,0.0,0.11047961146856894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433988707651572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884488765339374
parenting,yahthosegirls,2018/03/15,"My 6 year old keeps hitting and fighting with a kid in his class. at a loss. I'm sorry if this seems obvious to some, but this is my first child and I've never navigated these waters before. 

my 6 year old keeps hitting and kicking a kid in his class. This kid is well behaved in class but he and my son do not get along and I've heard about this kid not being nice to him all year. 

I also work at their school as a teacher's aide. yesterday at a school assembly my son basically punched this kid in the back. right in front of the principal. I saw the whole thing go down but of course did not involve myself. basically this kid was goading my son which lead to the hitting. 

i was horrified and embarrassed. my husband and I took this very seriously and had a long talk about respecting others, respecting yourself, and strategies for dealing with anger. we told him if this is a continued problem we will have to take him out of karate, much to my son's horror. 

today he apparently was hitting again. it's a special event at the school so lots of parents are present. this kids mom came up to me to address the problem. I was apologetic, took responsibility and assured her we are taking it seriously. I was very embarrassed and so disappointed in my child. 

Wtf do I do? I talked to his teacher and told her for the time being to keep them separated when possible. the teacher said she sees the other kid egging my son on all the time. but my son admitted to starting the conflict yesterday. 

I'm so disappointed and worried about my child. we are going to have to pull him from karate which he really loves. screen time is suspended. my worry is that taking away his outside play will only exacerbate the issue of being pent up and frustrated. 

how do we deal with this???",3.2084486294984167,5.339617156069366,4.450764497482751,83.03230188327431,75.41618497109826,7.701510348685438,27.05724407980608,8.558390810932622,2.0386821928025363,1400,55,273,28,31,460,168,346,0.19,0.7390000000000001,0.071,-0.9935,2,0,0,0,2,0,34,5,0,2,4,12,20,3,2,20,0,26,2,0,2,5,51,54,27,0,4,9,9,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,11,19,25,1,4,2,1,0,8,4,12,1,1,15,5,41,8,44,30,6,46,0,3,3,1,54,17,0,5,21,190,60,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768861024653885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302159944959073,0.08431556714652913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330571771778312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541259837445032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260926537770153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326987717573733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728860865037104,0.0,0.12463543954657046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444812833585533,0.0,0.2923910255647598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703850910040396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322215122854308,0.09896514954926336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842301726979727,0.0,0.0,0.08060678658802746,0.0,0.08457032963348407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301225139734317,0.0,0.0,0.08339523524130707,0.0,0.0,0.1217554938357482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361607760214414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20984417983682332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024583531104991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936421506316056,0.10430409718417592,0.0,0.0,0.3329208270650126,0.08737839296335463,0.09982300047471343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274636031734193,0.07761220170541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473338190932308,0.17626813848345482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284787115844392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181676969505065,0.0,0.10393721008518883,0.2095542397357387,0.24365466170141264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18094865483318592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859025535832218,0.0,0.0,0.1224224659615767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982791230063545,0.2227137187543312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118367470035848
parenting,throwaway040880,2018/03/15,"How do i get playdates for my daughter? My daughter is an only child and very lonely. Husband and I are introverts - we are pretty socially ackward, we dont have many friends (no one with kids) and our closest family is an hour away so we are a bit isolated. Hubby and I are happy with our life but my daughter is much more social than we are, she thrives when she's surrounded by people and she is starting to show sadness and anger and cry because she feels lonely. The older she gets, the more she wants friends.
It hurts me so much so I am finding I NEED to get her some playdates. I need to open myself to other mums.
I have her in swimming and dancing lessons and she goes to kindie, so she does have lots of social interaction but what she deeply craves and wants is friends to play with at home or to play at someone elses house.
She always says she wants to share her toys with someone and play with kids at her house. 
So how do I go about asking mums for playdates? Im very shy... My daughter has a group of little friends at school, I'd love to have playdates with these kids, it would make my child so happy... i just dont know how to go about it, do i just ask the mum when i pick up my child from school? Is that even appropriate? My little girl needs friends, weekends are so hard with her getting upset and sometimes angry cause ""im not a child"" (this is when I try to play with her, not all the time but sometimes she gets angry and says things like that to me).
How do I get kids from school or dancing lessons or the playground or swimming lessons or anywhere really to have a playdate with her?
Any help would be appreciated. Im so shy that this will be hard but I think it will make my beautiful girl feel happy again.
She is a lovely child, her little face glows when she is playing with kids... i want to help her ...
Thank you

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parenting,pidaythrowaway31415,2018/03/15,"How can I help my daughter? Hi all,

Throwaway for obvious reasons. My poor little girl (13) was always a late bed wetter: she only got out of diapers during the day at 6, but has always wet the bed at night. We have had many conversations with pediatricians, they have run many tests, we have tried may things, but nothing seems to work. No matter what we do, it appears that by the time I go to bed, she has used her diaper. However, it has appeared to improve slightly in the past year: now, it seems that she only uses her diaper once a night, at the beginning. For this reason, the doctor had said to watch and wait, and hope it gets better. However, we have recently suffered a serious setback. One afternoon, she was sitting on her bed, reading a book, and I was sitting next to her on my phone. I noticed a slight noise and glanced over, and noticed she was peeing in her pants. I pointed this out to her, and she jumped up and ran into the bathroom. When I asked what happened later, she said that she hadn't realized she was going until I pointed it out to her. I assumed this was a fluke, only to be surprised when the same thing happened the next day, but this time on the way home from school. After I cleaned up, she told me the same thing happened again, and suggested she start wearing her night diapers around. As it turned out, that was an excellent idea, as she soaked her diaper twice before going to bed. Since then, she has been consistently wearing during the day, and consistently using her diapers. At school, I send several extra diapers with her, but apparently kids don't bring there bags to the bathroom with them, so she only changes about once a day, when she can sneak away. This means her diaper is almost always very wet when she gets home. She has also started using her diaper for poop, as if she goes to the bathroom, she won't be able to change. While I understand this, she tends to get messy, and I am worried about someone smelling her. How can I help her get through this?

Doctor has no idea what happened, nothing abnormal. She says she's too thirsty when we try fluid control, and timed toileting only works occasionally: most of the time, it just ends up in the diaper. How can I help my little girl?",5.723474590869937,6.29836435348837,6.0983204134366975,79.70646425495266,67.09302325581396,9.161068044788976,30.577088716623607,9.150863307647796,2.4981171403962104,1752,63,334,30,27,564,204,430,0.044,0.888,0.068,0.903,3,0,0,0,0,0,67,5,0,2,5,18,6,0,0,24,0,33,6,4,10,2,61,68,32,0,2,6,1,2,0,0,2,2,3,8,3,24,25,0,2,10,2,1,10,5,2,0,2,16,8,63,4,52,48,5,72,0,1,2,0,61,25,0,10,34,238,87,10,0.07569725441941612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579986585529895,0.0,0.0,0.06053506701054232,0.1889585389727213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738660518318097,0.07076671450393326,0.0,0.07112006232828147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441278814469169,0.0,0.0,0.06694807006184199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015531615599374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490090749956569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527386729164428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549586949311686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704529928013736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819476458074344,0.0,0.12906148239140053,0.0,0.06054200943499957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677553283562716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221482202307982,0.0,0.15186103631908426,0.07518445369377644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709059726760906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538980012542444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517370706210556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349026965480572,0.0,0.08245650147329504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100977768335395,0.21311023619993166,0.0,0.14526711436334244,0.17236365174905885,0.0,0.16123021093110113,0.05129441865493874,0.28785586517444706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226159466620602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311674588250764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571773917150862,0.0,0.0,0.1556587698061604,0.07474190655435592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401084689941085,0.06019749497964087,0.0,0.15321932551197498,0.0,0.13782387486677472,0.0,0.085516351127105,0.0,0.06261755108958438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413803802269596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715781257938607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508696767945122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176558711172625,0.0,0.0,0.07233197053232407,0.0,0.1027869337050065,0.08233687579452317,0.0,0.07880351145767167,0.0,0.26151249390133496,0.0,0.062458162553823575,0.0,0.06008495714096375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021700553456774,0.0768742362950875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874655001412974
parenting,cazmoore,2018/03/15,"My mother in law wants to take my son (3, almost 4) to the campground they put their trailer at for a couple of days this summer and I’m not comfortable with it. My mother in law wants to take my son to the campground they put their trailer at for a couple of days this summer and I’m not comfortable with it.

Some background:

My son is almost 4, I’m his mother and I have a new baby (6w). My husband would like my son to go because he feels bad his mom doesn’t get sleepovers because she lives almost 1.5 hours away, and across the border (we live in Canada, she lives in the states). He’s never slept over there alone. When we do go, we have fun but she still only has a daybed/crib for him which he clearly outgrew, so he sleeps in the bed with me. Her defence? “Well you never come so why get another bed?” I only heard her say that to my husband, which I overheard. 

She comes down once a month at least to visit which is welcomed. We enjoy having her over.

My son stays with my parents usually on weekends because they live 10 minutes away and I’m over there often. He’s familiar with my parents. He’s been going there since I went back to work after my maternity leave when he was 11 months. I now work in the states so I’ll be back to work soon at the end of April and I’ll be working weekends, so my husband will be home with our new baby while my son goes and sees my parents for a night.

So, this campground:

When we went down to the campground last year, although it’s nice, and there are kids, there are adults drinking everywhere at all hours. My son has a huge issue with listening, wanders off, he’s not familiar with the area and what petrified me, is my son wandered away from my husband and went into another neighbours yard with 2 unleashed dogs. The neighbour tackled the dog once it saw my son. The dog looked friendly enough at first (chocolate lab) but the fact this guy tackled his own dog made me scared something could have happened. Everyone was to be watching him but only I saw this and gave a “What the fuck” to my husband. Everyone was having drinks, except for me because I felt I couldn’t obviously, someone has to be sober.

I felt like no one was watching my son except for me that day, even though my MIL begged for us to bring him. He could have got attacked by these dogs, abd everyone drinks there. Very nice people there who all enjoyed my son, but I felt like there was too much that could have went wrong. 

I don’t want to upset my MIL but I’m not sure if I’m totally overreacting either, ",3.7424255296553923,4.886300257367386,4.287512345351246,88.82552646949503,71.96660117878194,6.838655551425688,26.330430627090745,7.001395882987947,1.0553654861147983,1977,64,412,17,37,626,224,509,0.073,0.8390000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.8232,3,1,4,0,0,0,57,7,1,5,5,26,21,3,2,22,0,35,6,2,1,9,71,74,28,0,9,13,23,4,3,3,2,0,3,4,3,19,28,3,1,4,6,0,13,10,7,1,2,20,13,66,14,63,43,9,74,0,0,6,1,71,26,1,6,35,268,85,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724720446758436,0.07489933202126252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166283740667444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227182903307026,0.20383459189590894,0.11121570176614164,0.060382262575441416,0.17633680582713965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459059802203865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321940758166152,0.1600363291298282,0.0,0.13991681019484986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253145642433316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405202118742341,0.07472352052716659,0.0,0.047765161801843294,0.0,0.0,0.20730799737530892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03656600431754993,0.0,0.20830901185661813,0.0,0.0,0.06151340253523084,0.0,0.0,0.05587247913307785,0.06685655253202875,0.07556603163427984,0.0,0.12329945415074482,0.0,0.05783907466587473,0.0,0.0,0.07160589726444617,0.06395030728874049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254055407532317,0.0,0.14243674335240827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754808948066096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058948581312695765,0.0,0.07657400725193815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599233258454216,0.0,0.255431432109985,0.0,0.060728658131358026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842876060138059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469762151848242,0.11544660361977703,0.0,0.05316183381605898,0.0,0.1115517439672353,0.13968977936298493,0.0,0.0678652667718485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540319902736435,0.04900434819083669,0.16500261918174566,0.0,0.0,0.24090075799335875,0.0,0.0,0.050135990677423456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539853468640887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057509941267546424,0.07240263816659617,0.0,0.057627847510821215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598219525031317,0.0,0.07236993151783885,0.0,0.06127455637395544,0.05567370207557548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770810508591453,0.05775301225943653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815858068077324,0.0,0.10874782752414476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105177753007058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869892943133049,0.0,0.0796477345786152,0.0596696799653222,0.12796456746823268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650223013854819,0.2681569465016571,0.06525548004480594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21059260080910575,0.0,0.0,0.05137242240642228,0.07906805728721372,0.0,0.0465702306924274
parenting,gidgegidge,2018/03/15,"Parents who cosleep - thoughts? While I was pregnant my husband and I were very determined that we would never cosleep (I considered giving in maybe if she's sick and wants to take a nap in my bed while I'm reading or something). Now that our daughter is born our attitude has changed and we are more welcoming to the idea.

For parents who did cosleep - how was it? What was the good? The bad? How long did you do it for? Do you think your child benefited from it? ",1.8564835164835185,4.338023054945055,2.352406593406595,94.40509340659342,82.18681318681318,5.837802197802197,27.78131868131868,7.1686216300943375,1.3657507692307689,362,17,77,5,10,111,64,91,0.069,0.809,0.123,0.6537,2,0,1,0,0,0,12,4,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,2,1,15,18,9,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,8,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,13,3,7,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,2,6,56,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039146626214681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583538519541983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342794145503994,0.0,0.2048413180464898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756962267792602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21612824824280646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24535321557777176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883585946079372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.542357912144562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442874834971932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18801356046314252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362409434970955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648720786787526,0.0,0.19388450681899394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150822675214566,0.1440481055739682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348787104433155,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Semitar1,2018/03/15,"Suggestions for STEM and educational toys or resources I'm looking for websites, magazines, etc or any literature for parenting. I'm also curious where to buy STEM toys. My son can recite and identify letters, numbers, and is working on colors.

I want to encourage problem solving and any other skills that I can. Not sure if there are some favorite reddit topics that I might be able to take advantage of. Using the app so I'm not able to see the sidebar resources...if there is one.

Thanks!",3.4092307692307706,6.276435472527474,4.816142857142856,76.74135714285714,78.89010989010987,7.596043956043958,31.07802197802198,8.548686976883017,3.111025494505495,392,20,64,9,10,130,63,91,0.048,0.772,0.18,0.8963,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,1,15,16,9,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,4,4,9,14,2,2,0,0,3,0,5,2,0,5,0,42,7,1,0.488948395294373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955059275323602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33250167555507976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726533542122244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052967536235972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25934848976656616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566204336769852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714596649164945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339287901867784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481428334373652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304140380491866,0.0,0.18381417144138812,0.0,0.0,0.2250789950491996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114721270803768,0.0,0.0,0.1441972158803595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798012756079293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Freshman50000,2018/03/15,"Put my mind at ease about 1 year old hitting milestones please! I hope this doesn't get deleted, because I'm not a parent (Im a nanny) but I am asking for one, because she's not great with computers and stuff. 

Baby boy turned one last weekend, and he had his one year checkup today. The doctor mentioned being slightly concerned that he isn't speaking yet (he says random syllables, varies his pitch, plays games like clapping, and very obviously communicates with us, just not verbally.) He said to bring him back in 2 months if he isn't talking at all yet. Anyway, his mom is now freaking herself out that her baby is slow/delayed, and I just want to be able to go into work tomorrow with some reassurance that just because he isn't talking, it doesn't mean she's a bad parent. 


She's also worried because he's still pretty stubbornly obsessed with breastfeeding, to the point where he pulls her shirt down all the time/flips out when she won't let him feed. So that combined with the speech delay is just scaring the crap out of her. 


Please tell me that its not abnormal for him to not be talking at 12 months, and please don't flag this and get it deleted because his mom really wanted me to ask. ",6.709014729950901,6.407125204255323,6.62425531914894,79.76692307692309,65.04255319148936,9.103109656301148,33.39607201309329,8.384062270229773,2.5075891980360066,953,36,182,11,13,302,140,235,0.105,0.774,0.121,0.1965,2,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,0,0,1,15,11,2,2,8,0,16,5,2,0,3,38,30,11,0,4,11,4,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,1,11,15,1,2,1,3,0,4,12,6,0,3,2,4,22,5,24,22,3,31,0,0,0,0,41,11,1,4,17,114,33,3,0.1129948164188356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036191386624008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21126980034523068,0.0,0.0,0.0868860390723158,0.0943459519130928,0.34440295654476977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565498260501375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807025577956155,0.0,0.0642175581373905,0.0,0.0,0.12457718400851064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222934844648284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205379174019115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921058565986003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155448554212951,0.0,0.05520355971360436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308448064563615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409255338169935,0.2646763266597471,0.1803827688641683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856905205753696,0.0,0.2297046358027105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509347431962902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721031301640397,0.10681662466814096,0.0,0.0,0.11495635066773352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359099987864114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238737279554182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748394596691027,0.08985801329610182,0.11312752334035578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023780635343684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935203102659215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724628598096601,0.09876244999819916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588818613406608,0.0,0.10710587382796206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229059129853494,0.0,0.0,0.13591885146706836,0.0,0.0,0.09323255732002968,0.1332945406371472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226157211468073,0.1147517209722413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552991418630273
parenting,PuffinsJay,2018/03/15,"8 year old boy, acts like 8 year old boy??? I have an 8 year old son who can be really really really good. I mean stellar. But when he is bad, which appears to be most of the time, he is awful.
I love my child dearly, but there are times where even being around him makes me feel like I'm drowning. I don't want to feel this way anymore.

He is very high energy, we started him in soccer thinking it would help, thus far no improvements. His teacher at school is writing home every day saying things like he's being disruptive, or playing at the sink or calling kids names to get their attention during instruction, last week he was sent to the principal twice for pushing. 
Home isn't much better, I get home around 7pm, which means I'm a little rushed to get dinner put together and everyone fed before his strict 830pm bedtime. He doesn't listen to ANYTHING my husband or I tell him. Do your homework, he is up walking around instead. Brush your teeth, he's standing in the bathroom playing with a piece of lint for 15 minutes. Go to bed, he fiddling around in his room on the floor until we come in and loom over him and make him do whatever task we have assigned.

I'm losing my mind. I feel like we are the only ones going through this. 

Is this normal? I thought children are to gain independence as they age, not require more supervision.. lol

On the advice of a co-worker we sought out an appointment with a new(to us) and highly recommended doctor. I was told ""he's really great with kids, used to be a psychologist, and should be able to help you figure out what is going on.""

Great!

Well, we went Monday and after literally only saying hello to my son, he turns to us and asked if we had any questions or concerns about the child.  We say yes and divulge the issues my son has in school and at home.. to all of this docs reply is ""sounds like you have an 8 year old boy"" 
Okay.. well yeah but what else?
""Stop punishing him. If he has a bad day at school just hug him and say I hope you have a better day tomorrow"" 
He goes on to explain that parents are only required to provide four things to their kids. Food clothing shelter and education. We are already on board with that, TV's are locked down, no tablet or electronics access, all toys removed from bedroom etc. Doc says everything else is a privilege, and we agree, but what I can't seem to wrap my head around is how to get him to listen if I can't punish him, and I can't say anything negative. He doesn't listen. Period. 

Am I crazy? Am I missing something? Is this doctor crazy? Con someone please help me understand this situation and advise me on how to regain control of my life and my family's life? 

TL;DR - My son is an ass, constantly. Doctor says not to punish or be negative. How do I get him to listen without mentally wearing myself to a breaking point.c",3.2530458074534176,4.983724001785717,4.413540372670808,85.10276397515528,74.16071428571429,7.226708074534162,25.388198757763966,7.967736418589885,1.4687104037267082,2211,74,436,33,46,724,281,560,0.083,0.7390000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.996,1,0,1,0,0,0,79,12,5,3,7,18,27,3,0,22,5,49,14,4,9,2,91,90,34,1,8,17,6,3,5,0,2,5,12,8,9,17,37,3,4,13,5,0,13,14,7,2,3,8,16,62,20,66,73,7,73,0,2,0,3,89,32,1,14,30,271,79,13,0.06438182868297082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291317786171541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104694890724644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043781851251397816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384947414007093,0.0,0.0,0.10596151863752744,0.28656738634088064,0.06018831891055105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107512275439,0.0,0.0,0.054784194263462455,0.0,0.0,0.11388099107255008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574104540529117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05545924465367397,0.0,0.06957388474262684,0.07220969536596243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124562859974157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976925892460696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756551313761188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180275754933363,0.042523590645614666,0.0,0.054244467430905004,0.061519596329233685,0.05786223625597591,0.0,0.060693458246286136,0.0,0.09766016111884704,0.091988782550424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785076279996267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818424112433755,0.0,0.10976903076106967,0.054000423324103417,0.0,0.14196238682159396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660743303867528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946134796647502,0.13604587362247444,0.2583208941698656,0.0639456827656604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719790222080024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052479783304828435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090949579191316,0.15726854721359487,0.06452750605360727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202679806225687,0.0,0.0,0.05810711402079629,0.0,0.08595074115795187,0.0,0.0,0.14026137123116442,0.0,0.0,0.06488174054472108,0.0,0.06500729377351175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04732805195013591,0.0,0.0,0.062180371330581026,0.0,0.0,0.06308052255276272,0.0,0.0,0.2702315960539266,0.0,0.04362679333040362,0.14689584560913233,0.0,0.0,0.07148840167669755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067191439360268,0.060861638151492085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472152020678859,0.072122382598607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497859218101446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35839309986260265,0.0,0.1954735434268688,0.0,0.05861079882059705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236787293253769,0.0,0.0,0.05455051451615029,0.04956427713171313,0.0,0.0,0.045569789713260415,0.0,0.0,0.053826091606418526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056272556012884535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855448524021856,0.04125327619574472,0.0,0.05111198045422898,0.07508312409998337,0.0,0.0,0.061519596329233685,0.0,0.0,0.07002894189956707,0.0,0.06702375420611034,0.15488682556026104,0.05560522871650432,0.0,0.0531217512740065,0.037974070632878935,0.05110329888108788,0.05164321951743872,0.0,0.1157739918655656,0.05968260020305431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206178537946964,0.0,0.0468707380650816,0.0,0.0,0.04573500389147641,0.0,0.0,0.16583914732265806
parenting,goldenpineapple7,2018/03/15,"How should I confront my son about sleeping with my friend My son Justin is 17 years old and a junior in high school. Growing up he’s always been shy and a bit awkward, but he’s a sweetheart. My friend Lily is 33 and we’ve known each other since I was 16 and she was 9. Because of how long we’ve known each other and how close we are, we’re practically sisters. Lily had a husband Jared, who was a good man and a good husband. Unfortunately Jared was involved a automobile accident a couple years ago died from it.

Lily was devastated, I’ve never seen her in so much pain before. She got a little therapy, but only for a short while. Her husband left her with a lot of money from the will and life insurance so she’s very financially secure fortunately. My son has been visiting Lily often a little while after the accident. They told me that my son was just helping Lily through everything. Justin and Lily were somewhat close before so I believed them. In fact I was so happy and proud of my son for being such a sweetheart.

A few days ago Justin left and went to Lily’s house. He left his phone and I know it’s wrong of me to snoop I opened his phone, guessed the passcode right and looked at his text messages. What I found shocked me. I found out that Lily and my son have been sleeping together. I don’t know how long exactly, but it looks like they’ve sleeping together for maybe 6 months. I haven’t confronted either of them with the information I have, but I will. Obviously this relationship while not illegal is highly inappropriate and must end.

How do I confront my son over this. I’ve taught him about sex Ed and I’ve prepared myself for when Justin would become sexually active, but I didn’t think he would sleep with someone almost twice his age! I especially would have never predicted that the person would be one of my closest friends! 

How do I bring this up with him? What should I get him to stop seeing Lily? I know I need to stop this, but at the same time I want to support him not alienate him. Should I ask if he’s had any prior sexual history? I doubt he has, but then again I never knew about his relationship with one of my closest friends, so maybe there’s more to my son then I know. 

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parenting,Fianceandson,2018/03/15,"Am I overreacting? Concerned about my fiancee's closeness with her teenager. I apologize if this comes off as judgemental and if this is not the correct sub then direct me to a better place. 

I recently moved in with my fiancee. I have always known that she and her son (13 years old) are very close and that never concerned me. I have a 2 year old and would love for him to want to hang out with me when he's a teenager. Moving in has really started to make me wonder if she is babying him a little too much and if I need to address this with her or let it go. 

He has his mom come in and put him back to sleep if he has a bad dream. They coslept until he began middle school and I knew about that but I wasn't aware that this is still going on. I don't say anything because she isn't bringing him in our bed but it is weird that a teenager still needs his mother to put him to bed at night right?

He doesn't really have many friends. He has a couple but they are never over here and he never hangs out with them. He revealed that he had only ever had one sleepover in his life and his mom came and picked him up halfway through. This conversation started because he doesn't want to go on a trip with his 8th grade class since they have to sleep in a hotel. My wife ""jokes"" that he can live here until he's 50 if he wants. 

She doesn't let him go into the doctor's office alone. Even at the private part of the physical she ask to stay in the room. She stands outside the door when they ask him questions but she stays in for the actual checkup. He doesn't have any issue with her seeing that side of him. 

We have been discussing children in the future and my son will be with us 50 percent of the time. I want to make sure she isn't like this with my son or any kids we may later have. I don't know how normal this is. My parents were very disconnected so I could be reading too much into it but I don't know. ",2.7358726220016507,3.7798390347394566,3.791431761786601,91.80612200165429,74.28535980148885,6.365889164598843,23.11075268817204,6.42735559955562,0.3800111497105045,1493,39,336,10,30,483,190,403,0.025,0.925,0.05,0.7711,1,1,0,0,0,0,27,4,0,5,1,15,8,0,0,18,0,42,6,2,4,6,72,69,32,0,15,14,8,0,1,3,3,3,1,5,2,18,31,0,0,7,4,0,15,14,2,0,1,8,2,58,6,52,53,4,70,0,0,1,1,70,28,0,11,25,234,76,5,0.0,0.0,0.0931895874581588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890427788029198,0.0,0.0,0.07945969695335786,0.0,0.0,0.1298800876897781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858445302689625,0.0,0.1785503334044862,0.0,0.0,0.07342995174514733,0.07973454389562319,0.1164260346080222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445778721057058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922112438460332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452140220082773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624518563509,0.10566367643108647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774343361082002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307371118484087,0.08638091973150429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377939232448709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170886022917925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967222928619338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496338263060352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953007237658529,0.06745111834632281,0.04665415490463888,0.09571132678380778,0.08432405423053413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618819041120386,0.0,0.1274876401924622,0.09681719369523233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236857624333878,0.0,0.20299267325683687,0.14039999136111844,0.14161703391520147,0.22095546887323195,0.0,0.0,0.08961582195843336,0.09356506824740853,0.0,0.0,0.2004123991382852,0.0,0.06471005201265609,0.07262843988112191,0.0,0.0,0.10603617267411826,0.10341204848925843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997722098518932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199820198569312,0.1069765337527126,0.0,0.09552109115476436,0.0,0.12235340333354558,0.0,0.09429003754177022,0.0,0.0,0.08155242068455534,0.0,0.07594165473184687,0.0,0.0966462900176505,0.07609734946948969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899465661498475,0.0,0.1911284286216624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351840572016481,0.2035704583136633,0.15252525807065095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000314183928639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556840475185308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148690262675668,0.0,0.0,0.15758716263699032,0.22530228771807265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035605237519109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678370848437759,0.0,0.0,0.12299161856465116
parenting,SouthernSavvi,2018/03/15,"Tips for helping fix child’s behaviors Hey there,

Quick background info: 
My son recently went in for a group evaluation for a school in our area. It’s a great school and we were very excited about it, however, after speaking to the committee who was evaluating the children they told me that my son would not play with other children, and when he did interact with them he was caustic, sharp and off-putting and the children were not interested in playing with him after those interactions. This absolutely breaks my heart. 

I’m so very confused. He attends preschool 4 full days a week and I have NEVER heard comments like these before. He interacts and plays well with the kids in his class, has lots of friends, tons of play dates, and his teachers and friends parents speak highly of his manners and polite attitude. He, like every preschooler, has his moments where he melts down or gets upset over a toy or activity, but is generally a happy well mannered child. 

Is there a reason that he was a totally different child with this group? Is there anything that I can do to help correct that so that he can form lasting relationships with the children at the school? I don’t want him to have self confidence issues or to end up in a place with no friends. 

Any other advice is very welcome.

Thank you! ",5.199206176598518,7.169305797520662,5.2244758590691625,80.2914027838191,69.53719008264463,8.23523270987386,31.745106568073076,8.841846274778883,2.7258809917355378,1041,46,186,19,19,325,147,242,0.06,0.773,0.16699999999999998,0.9843,3,0,0,0,0,0,25,2,1,2,0,11,19,0,2,15,0,19,1,1,1,3,33,26,16,0,2,6,3,1,2,3,1,0,3,0,9,14,17,0,0,2,5,0,2,5,2,2,0,9,4,18,17,29,16,5,29,0,0,0,0,50,14,0,5,14,127,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491448905071432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938882169369986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136148628308216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748224820809555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903982270639478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424743699330808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122283675619222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632482821571333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200035840098934,0.0,0.07213271282384222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221598664554395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469716366199504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636064394420872,0.18508270398828935,0.14587213800881216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410288832216256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254054223148224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349021391843058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737702872882985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648342566843387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330367202978387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424743699330808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879239812805538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419527298605316,0.13632148941667516,0.14822900781875845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191842493211095,0.0,0.0,0.14403080514381564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711073097519032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192601593911055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34175164127131114,0.08143369180732887,0.0,0.11074656869890863,0.0,0.2482721345317598,0.127986660112953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807666519903767,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stay_on_topic_pls,2018/03/16,"Tantrum behavior prevention? I have a 4 month old, and I saw a toddler throwing a tantrum at Target the other day. It made me wonder if there's any techniques or guidelines to follow during a child's infancy that will help limit tantrum behavior development, or maybe lessen the severity. Articles or anecdotes appreciated; couldn't find anything on Google or the search bar here.",8.737537313432835,9.638071970149255,8.202201492537316,66.09046641791046,60.641791044776106,11.476119402985075,42.12313432835821,11.20814326018867,5.2330626865671634,310,17,47,8,4,98,54,67,0.127,0.7829999999999999,0.09,-0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,7,0,3,1,0,1,0,12,7,6,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,2,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,3,3,0,7,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,6,3,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274969087420773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752957817753753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21574895212079626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30576112961816965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242333723688396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165473835655549,0.0,0.0,0.33608779051886634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670245668356649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35104073371465355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779320479644426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627915478089782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,indy_joe,2018/03/16,"Could my son (8M) be dyslexic? My son is in 2nd grade, and has always struggled with reading, and especially writing. He’s at his grade level in math, but basically reads like a 1st grader, and writes like a kindergartner. Today he wrote on a “package” to himself from his grandmother (Mimi). I’ve included a picture, and it’s basically written backwards (from right to left). I’ve never seen him write like this before, but he’s always struggled with telling the difference between b and d. 

Any thoughts? 

It says: To Connor, From Mimi

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parenting,uhhhhh_hi,2018/03/16,"10 month old hates naps and sleep. Advice? Our son absolutely hates taking naps or going to sleep at night. I feel like we used to have some good nights but now he’ll scream every night and every day when he gets tired. The only time he’ll calmly fall asleep is in the car (and I’m not driving around every night and multiple times a day just to have him wake up when we move him to his room).

It’s obvious he’s tired. He rubs his eyes and gets cranky if we let him. We’ve tried putting him in his crib at the first eye rub and also waiting until he screams from exhaustion. At no point will he willingly nap. Friends of ours have kids around the same age and they’ll just fall asleep playing, and they’ll take multiple 2 hour naps. Why does ours just hate being tired?

We’ve tried white noise, a vibrating mat, holding him on us (this used to work; now he just pushes off and screams in our face), pacifier, no pacifier, a space heater to make it extra cozy in there, playing in his room more to make it less of a place where we just leave him alone... not sure what else to do.

Sometimes he’ll get upset when he’s awake and we leave the room so I don’t know if it’s still a phase of separation anxiety and he knows it’s coming when he has to nap or sleep.
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We’ve also tried ignoring him and just letting him cry it out, but that’s just increased from a few minutes to a solid half hour or more. We’ve tried setting timers to go in and reposition him without saying anything, and he’ll be standing at the edge of his crib screaming at the door, or sitting and crying. It’s just become routine now, no matter what time we start bedtime, that he’ll cry and scream for 30 min to 2+ hours (with us going in periodically) before he passes out.

It’s like he has serious FOMO or something. If we stay in there with him, he’ll keep trying to crawl around, stand up, or play, until he actually does get a second wind and then we have to do it all again later.

Luckily, once he is asleep, it’s for a good 10 hours. Naps on the other hand are consistently 30 min on the dot, and only 2 a day, which seems like not enough.

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parenting,bladderdragon22,2018/03/16,"Son gets over excitied.....then attacks. So my son is 2 years old and 3 months he was born prematurely and hasn't had an issue or anyting from that. As of late he has been acting out at home and day care by biting and scratching. He seems to lose his temper quick and gets very frustrated. 
Has anyone ever dealt with this and what have you done to help calm them down and stop them from harming others and them selves all together. ",4.437921568627452,5.560911400000002,4.511470588235294,87.94995098039217,70.29411764705883,7.549019607843138,23.57843137254902,7.793537801064563,0.9320196078431372,339,8,70,4,6,105,68,85,0.182,0.7340000000000001,0.084,-0.8655,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,3,1,3,7,3,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,2,15,13,11,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,10,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,4,1,6,2,12,9,1,14,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,2,9,45,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688404731458934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877924029231373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579220222472586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314614406319852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258878395322976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288278419429849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643350716641243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956193628129926,0.0,0.2537517472514365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640372573028729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28536366542040265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283011189101964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20192000017220654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26545177416479965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302963940462219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21149609034510547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872856214211494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290580570745772
parenting,Rayray715,2018/03/16,"Convertible car seat always needs to be re-tightened, is this normal? I'm wondering if anyone else constantly feels like their convertible car seat is too loose or if we are doing something wrong. We originally purchased a Britax Boulevard Clicktight but a car seat technician that came to check our installation told me that it wasn't fitting properly in the middle seat of our car (2017 Honda CRV). 

He recommended a Chicco Nextfit Zip instead and said that the configuration of the base would work better with the middle seat of our car. He did a great job with the installation (it's rear facing and we use the seat belt to anchor it); however, I feel like we are constantly needing to retighten the seat belt. I've asked other friends with convertible car seats if they have to do this too and they've all said that once installed they haven't had to touch it.

Does anyone else notice this with theirs? I'm considering just buying a Britax again and putting it on one of the side seats instead because I'm so paranoid about the stability/safety of the Chicco. It's also really hard for me to get the seatbelt tight enough so I'm asking my husband to do it all the time. We've had it for a few months and probably done this 4 or 5 times already. 

Thanks in advance for any feedback!",6.5290243902439045,7.061785560975611,6.49136585365854,77.73290243902444,65.34146341463415,9.486829268292682,31.84715447154471,9.3871,2.7475271544715447,1032,38,191,18,15,327,138,246,0.037000000000000005,0.861,0.102,0.9595,2,0,1,0,0,0,20,7,0,4,3,10,7,0,0,18,0,16,1,1,2,2,33,34,14,0,7,7,1,5,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,17,14,0,1,3,0,3,9,2,1,0,1,9,7,15,6,24,23,4,23,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,6,9,115,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500129263690907,0.1087109920698856,0.11311278595057007,0.0,0.0,0.09244371122330536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19010450832352915,0.2785727361987237,0.0,0.0,0.25417068549405164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828676274679296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022768740504693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554788922873453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.293805214991935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189618165943794,0.13911359109431512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271204837132733,0.0,0.0,0.14046213059359858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374704734868718,0.194230810411502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502673596227674,0.0,0.07102292376598687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987408614302955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177534059756695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348992547028416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282661877079185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850583457408876,0.0,0.0,0.20159524713022306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319212057065818,0.0,0.15476833927651573,0.0,0.1447714279303966,0.09211631232943572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465660737402104,0.0,0.0,0.13665702460990994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870865032981117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586197192535181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465308321126968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515508432265468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853515654664924,0.0,0.0,0.12989628430690048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740832237673494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742089141058332,0.09896577807164457,0.0,0.0,0.0965677186253153,0.14862880803937778,0.0,0.0
parenting,AboomalavaU,2018/03/16,"Picture from the past I was going through some old boxes and came across a picture of my ex and I together.  Our son  now 7 years old has never seen pictures of us together.  He was not in this picture since it was taken before he was born.   Is there any good reason for him to see it (psychologically)?  If no,  its going in the trash.",3.2664179104477604,4.457486388059703,4.958388059701496,83.38026865671642,73.17910447761193,7.151044776119402,25.34029850746269,7.554174236665415,1.1938382089552233,256,8,53,3,5,87,52,67,0.033,0.923,0.044,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,8,12,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,7,2,6,1,9,5,1,13,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,2,7,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777379973672328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224034091170227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29893333556541263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970809006131553,0.21922159123644916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20158174740723814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.548519778574261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495036384063298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687280124102572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082750441617701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21620484431755788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31439139057384885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16831128131703693
parenting,M2thaDubbs,2018/03/16,"Parents and teachers of Reddit! When did your child learn their ABCs and how can I help my daughter learn them? Hey parents of Reddit! I need to some help teaching my 4 1/2 year old daughter her ABC's. I know I should be more patient but I've been working with her a lot lately and it seems like we're not getting anywhere! I'm pretty good about not letting my frustration show but I feel like she should have them down by now. 

Plus, I'm not sure if I should be worried about this or not. Ex husband seems to think she's really behind and of course that makes me concerned as well.

I'd love to hear what you guys have to say and any advice would be much appreciated! 

Edit: In case anyone is wondering, she's been in a Montessori preschool for almost two years.

Edit 2: thanks so much to everyone who answered! You guys have great ideas and I've already tried out an app that she loves. I'm not as worried anymore and pretty excited to try this stuff in playtime.",2.458991981672394,4.549069309278352,3.150446735395189,91.67184421534941,77.55670103092783,5.5482245131729675,24.179839633447884,6.42735559955562,0.6174052691867122,762,26,157,6,18,239,126,194,0.036000000000000004,0.705,0.259,0.9948,2,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,3,3,1,7,11,1,0,3,0,16,2,0,2,1,40,32,17,0,6,9,6,1,2,0,4,0,2,0,3,8,10,0,0,10,1,0,0,5,1,1,1,3,3,22,10,23,21,5,11,0,0,0,2,29,5,0,8,8,99,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881548588178324,0.0,0.0,0.13200125816350075,0.0,0.14546947960602732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964386529876353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073256373613631,0.09217340320574367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259621109876221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666534502171069,0.09417406752169012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887184998255885,0.0,0.0,0.1105665141189658,0.0,0.1453348444387631,0.0,0.2610501309970216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857361250459594,0.0,0.17671577463858415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488116315665204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244623484020744,0.0,0.14870159628518545,0.0,0.0,0.1347975050327521,0.0,0.12880369430881594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207083163158743,0.2379500251037856,0.0,0.08799258645380302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938095074833279,0.0977447624044366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832560812143976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29274671888732323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26822188147071263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444891131791925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048305954890832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24001262643542445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509052998485142,0.0,0.0,0.12424120844109175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136450789361003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446657755948499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899773856764284,0.0,0.12877149245761516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852431812788596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295594970123113,0.09596839807968738,0.26774442927593706,0.0,0.09364296874392772,0.0,0.0,0.1697788211203098
parenting,mrs-kay-ok,2018/03/16,"Can I ditch the night time pull up? My 3.5 year old has been potty trained since January of this year (Yeah I know, he was a late trainer). He is doing really awesome during the day and has only had 2 accidents in the past month and a half. I have noticed for the past couple weeks that his night time pull up has been dry every morning. Am I in the clear? Can we ditch the pull up? He has only gotten out of bed in the middle of the night to pee once, but I guess if he's waking up dry it could be that he just isn't peeing at night? 

Thanks for your help. I am embarassed to ask my friends and family for help on this issue as they always make comments about how he should have been trained long ago. ",3.2506081081081097,3.772752033783785,4.134702702702704,91.77921621621624,72.58108108108108,7.0010810810810815,22.232432432432432,6.742157984588678,0.3246951351351353,543,11,125,4,10,175,93,148,0.011,0.8540000000000001,0.135,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,10,1,21,3,3,2,1,15,27,7,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,0,12,2,20,18,0,31,0,0,0,0,15,11,0,2,17,76,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343228532421546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260857099304085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416607815584201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098496128444973,0.1676658755002653,0.0,0.0977247878906828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276711792349994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428496905426115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707226954222574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692818771474144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20313571433235347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815871783745922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832773287786714,0.0,0.17093326866563205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409993158770006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114794189596893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095038654466535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.568805317204204,0.0,0.0,0.17251874550201068,0.15900601558447824,0.1613752867533454,0.0,0.2304919035602305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28930646417119016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707446865023424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534778940644187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950914147864749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671757966290258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154881497696984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951616497016948
parenting,lebkuchen85,2018/03/16,"Child repeating back what she said? My daughter turns 8 next month. For some reason, she's recently started repeating things she said immediately before. They're generally comments that she thinks were funny or deserving of attention. For example, she'll say, ""do you think the bug I drew is funny or scary."" Then she'll do a quick snorting laugh and say, ""I just said 'do you think the bug is funny or scary.'"" Or if she did something she views as altruistic, she'll want attention for it and say, ""I cleaned my cousin's room today and it made her so happy. I guess cause it was really nice."" Then that same infuriating laugh and, ""I just said how I cleaned my cousin's room cause I'm nice."" It's not that I'm not acknowledging her. I generally make a comment after she says something so she is aware that I heard her. It's infuriating because I feel like it's an irritating, pat-on-the-back behavior. Does anyone have experience with their child doing this?

Thanks!",2.6205675675675693,5.250983637837841,4.027229729729733,82.66462837837841,80.18918918918921,7.591891891891893,23.844594594594607,8.548686976883017,1.8135459459459464,763,27,149,18,20,251,102,185,0.052000000000000005,0.7959999999999999,0.152,0.9563,0,0,3,0,0,0,33,0,2,1,0,7,7,0,0,5,0,14,0,0,6,0,33,32,15,0,2,9,3,1,1,0,3,0,9,4,2,13,5,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,9,12,29,7,7,20,2,14,0,0,1,0,33,2,0,7,13,87,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543748605275952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099058795558691,0.0,0.08320347697632112,0.0,0.11614355099519215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28042713819729675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944395019517602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351411616068815,0.0,0.0,0.06901380988683127,0.097508998724622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035991785212655,0.0,0.0,0.14529691109060508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666824721210658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915082090794872,0.09110861648111264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894559171825732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515943078790847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743945124912582,0.14033519421811078,0.1347681211357269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193357288975211,0.4341716003502588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015445151581694,0.0,0.0,0.09660883520435552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566231826704066,0.0,0.0,0.09067837047642552,0.2623732292849316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293772445579334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846271071428674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050576390399314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Witsendsss,2018/03/16,"I can't do this anymore My daughter is 2.5. She is a crap sleeper. The last couple of months have been hell. She is up and down all night. Everytime she wakes up she runs straight to me. 

We could have 50 people sleeping in the living room and she would walk right past them, straight into the bedroom, and to my side of the bed. 

Husband home? She doesn't care. She still comes to me. Sisters visiting (stepdaughters), doesn't matter. Straight to me.

If it were once or twice, I could handle it. It isn't though. This has been going on for over a month. Last night I finally lost it and yelled. She was in my room 6 times. 6. It was like having a newborn. She is also refusing to nap, but I know she needs it.

She has a solid bedtime routine. I never cosleep and always send her back to her room. I've tried night lights, white noise, no noise, no lights...I can't win. 

Yesterday she napped and we spent 6 hours outside in the sunshine. Plenty of snacks, food, drink, and exercise. I even put her to bed earlier than normal because she was yawning and rubbing her eyes. It didn't make a difference on her sleep.

During the day she is a terror because she is exhausted. She runs away instead getting dressed to leave or is glued to my side and wants me to hold her or drop everything and cater to her needs (I don't btw). I explain that I need to finish dishes or whatever and will then get a cup of milk.

I can't take this anymore. What should I do?

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parenting,thbt101,2018/03/16,"Do some people call a ""boo-boo"" a ""bo-bo""? Just curious... my wife calls small injuries a ""bo-bo"".  Is that a common pronunciation in some parts of the US?  I've only heard it called a ""boo-boo"". ",-0.9450000000000004,1.0802645000000022,2.2800000000000007,92.965,91.5,5.2,15.5,6.742157984588678,-0.37665000000000015,140,3,34,2,5,50,29,40,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,1,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.847575775394647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21043061957351272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29962176621966896,0.0,0.19181782022916968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328167368988622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JelliedHam,2018/03/16,"Toddler daycare birthday treat ideas? Help!. Our little guy turns two, soon. He attends a Montessori School during the week and children are encouraged to bring a small treat for the celebration in his care group. There's only 5 kids in class. We are not a nut free zone, but avoiding common allergens is still encouraged.

What can we make that's not too junk foodie that will still be fun? We're avoiding the common cupcakes and cookies. Any recommendations are very appreciated.",4.73657516339869,7.837040905882358,4.4745098039215705,79.80418300653595,75.23529411764707,6.601307189542485,28.267973856209153,7.793537801064563,2.08775816993464,387,16,63,6,9,118,67,85,0.083,0.7020000000000001,0.215,0.9143,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,0,5,9,0,2,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,11,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,2,1,0,1,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,4,8,4,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,6,35,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666883416468733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798701766165392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271797314012212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399099325065088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30987612685026084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751202606170544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323031334854128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087689720720156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778077934013736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384307496422684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29857624948560063,0.2681457820967187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264905456410708,0.0,0.0,0.22018665963841655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,advicethrowawaymarch,2018/03/16,"I [40f] found out that my daughter's [16f] ""bad boy"" boyfriend [17m] has had an abusive childhood I'm going to start by saying that I've always tried to have a relationship with my daughter where she can come to me about anything (and she does). She really is a mature, intelligent young woman and I do trust her judgement. This is important. 

My daughter ""Annie"" has known this boy Ron for a while. He moved into our area four or five years ago and he's gone to her school ever since. They never really ran in the same crowd. Ron was always one of those punks ditching class to smoke, staying out all night, spending his abundance of free time doing god knows what. As far as I know, he's never gotten into any major trouble but has been picked up by the local police a couple times due to staying out late and shoplifting (nothing violent). I haven't spent a lot of time around him but would see him every once in a while since it's a small town. He's always been short, rude and full of attitude.

A few months ago, Annie and Ron were at the same party and I guess they just hit it off. They started talking constantly and are now dating. She swears up and down that he really is a nice guy who treats her well. I've been torn because I do trust her judgement and I believe she would come to me if she had any problems, but I'd really rather she find someone more driven and law abiding. I will say that in his defense, he's become less snarky and rude since they started dating. He's not great or polite, but he usually just keeps to himself and stays quiet.

A few days ago I was out having a couple drinks with a friend and I noticed the woman who I had always assumed was Ron's mother (Liz). We had never really spoken before but I just kind of always knew that Ron was her kid (again, small town). I decided to chat with her and try to be friendly since obviously her boy meant something to my daughter. 

I'm honestly not sure if she had spent the entire evening drinking heavily or if her personality is just a little open and off-kilter but she ended up chatting up a storm. In the hour I sat with her, she revealed a lot. She's not his mother. She's his aunt by marriage. I've seen her husband around a few times and assumed he was Ron's father. Apparently Ron is his sister's son. While I thought this was a bit interesting, I didn't think too much of it. Until Liz started talking about the reason they had custody of Ron. 

Apparently Ron's father took off when he was only a few years old and hasn't been in touch since. CPS was called multiple times between accusations that his mother was neglecting and beating him and accusations that she constantly had boyfriends around (doing drugs) who would do the same. The final straw was when pornographic videos came to light of Ron and another little girl when they were children.

I've been heartbroken since hearing these things. Because even if I think of Ron as a disrespectful punk who might end up having a negative influence on my daughter, it's terrible to even imagine those things being done to any child. 

While a part of me sees him in a new light and gives me an insight to his behavior, another part of me is even more worried for my daughter. I don't know much about these kinds of traumas. My first instinct is to worry that his past as a victim is going to turn him into an abuser. Is this common? Am I just being paranoid? I also feel bad for even thinking it's a possibility because he was the victim in all this. He was just a baby and the people who were supposed to protect him did the opposite.

Do I tell Annie that her boyfriend has a past? Do I give her all the details I know? Just some basics? Do I just keep this all a secret? Should I be worried that his past might negatively influence his behavior? 

TL;DR: found out that my teenage daughter's boyfriend has a history of sexual abuse and I'm not sure if I should say something

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parenting,ineedsumthrowaway,2018/03/16,"Extremely concerned about my 17 f daughter. Please help I only have one child, and she’s 17 now. I feel like ever since Highschool she’s been dealt the worse cards (abused by father, divorce, sexually assaulted, surgery, sickness etc) and it’s actually starting to seriously affect her.

My daughter is 17, she’s pretty thin and I’d say pretty active. She’s good in school (takes college level classes), and is even on her schools academic team. She also models (this comes important later in the post). She’s oddly mature (clicks better with adults, this might be because she is an only child and her father and I are in our late 50s), does everything I ask of her. She (face value) is the perfect child. 

But January of last year, she had to have a knee surgery and then fell very ill after. I’m not lying when I say I think she hasn’t gotten any **better** Since then. She had mono from Feb 2016 to June of 2016. Ever since then her immune system has not been doing much it seems, she sleeps all the time and always has massive naesua issues.

On top of this, she has situational depression and an anxiety disorder. Lately (id say since this January, her birthday) she’s been in a massive flare up. She’s sleeps more than she’s up. She doesn’t eat much at all. She doesn’t talk much anymore. She is starting to scratch at her arm and it leaves a rash like red mark. I’m confused. 

Not to mention, she keeps pinching the very LITTLE fat (I’d say just skin) on her body, almost checking herself? She does this in PUBLIC. I asked what she was doing and she didn’t answer me. 

She had an episode the other day when we review her spending (I give her $50 a week on her child support card, she learns to budget. Can’t get a job because of how busy and how sick she always is). She broke down in tears over the fact that she went over a couple of dollars a few weeks. She was yelling and screaming crying. Afferwards she told me it wasn’t obviously just about the money but other things too.

Here’s what I know is going on: There’s a girl who’s been bullying her pretty badly (use to be a friend, she’s pretty intimidating), she’s in a flare up, she’s always sick, she’s lost weight, and she’s just acting very off.

She has been in therapy for multiple years (since age 12). 

Could this be caused by all the traumas she’s faced? Should we go see a doctor? What do you think is going on? 

I can clear up anything in the comments. I know this is choppy, I’m not too good at this internet thing. ",1.8777263581488943,4.114986110663988,3.1731191146881312,90.01712736418513,80.24748490945673,5.666140845070423,21.207605633802814,6.8313827282637405,0.4605092474849095,1935,56,396,21,50,627,247,497,0.094,0.805,0.101,0.2963,1,0,0,0,3,0,82,3,1,0,6,18,18,1,1,24,0,42,19,10,5,9,55,70,24,0,2,9,4,5,2,1,2,8,6,0,6,21,18,3,1,8,1,5,7,10,9,0,1,16,14,69,9,48,48,9,62,0,3,3,0,81,30,0,4,25,253,90,11,0.0,0.09531651263943801,0.07850464467370384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055602665454188,0.0,0.0,0.06433341822721479,0.20081498733979244,0.0,0.0,0.05470670282156531,0.0,0.06154171700627749,0.0,0.07978178416981761,0.0,0.0,0.06620100732309595,0.0,0.15041412740006013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716986529805391,0.09807946066694298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229762692897605,0.0,0.08935845567560309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264120524251814,0.0,0.06929794719176388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423036488975557,0.08901304962707418,0.08836722644016724,0.051881644779261486,0.0,0.06928886317843654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219920493311737,0.0823408895146191,0.1407993829200916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823173408057325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971964425316274,0.05313446941742245,0.14553779225933833,0.0,0.0,0.07230055543496036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04067640859646823,0.05747133625080519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062153134665138575,0.0,0.04203022501551195,0.07717207048847365,0.1371596123328699,0.13495021460227233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392191275340441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396574292660944,0.07983121123352853,0.07150496923395823,0.0,0.0,0.08842310908249569,0.06557502315084797,0.1814953875528218,0.08518173273183757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860465859418188,0.08062900486371613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878173781826387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534152938144224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774133527355374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054512953417154536,0.12236710176730703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830662267709591,0.0,0.0,0.07704596611014404,0.3273739861831189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25589865920732896,0.0,0.16283327062208433,0.06410582494954405,0.07323590623890266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332732852340666,0.09042577244201708,0.16101014915130765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388156837726085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912902758547127,0.0,0.0,0.060486114752047314,0.0646602326191862,0.0,0.0,0.09199812891562094,0.0,0.10689079343422286,0.1030943487655519,0.0,0.0,0.04690927906938789,0.0,0.0,0.07687053374607128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948035854518259,0.0,0.1991315426765148,0.0,0.0,0.12905942449380467,0.09796274511683656,0.0,0.07457515339355468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198234206654711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361043091425684
parenting,Dr_Professor69,2018/03/16,"11 year old compulsively talks through every show My Son is a complete motor mouth whenever we watch TV together. Its not just questions like ""why'd he do that"", ""why is this happening"" its partially that because he has a tendendcy to wander in and out while my wife and I are watching something and he just expects to be filled in. No the meat of the problem is the inane comments every two seconds. Characters in a show with mostly serious tones behaving in any comedic fashion will be met with an obnoxiously loud ""WHAT THE HECK!?, OHHHHH MY GARRRAWWWD"" and possibly explosive hyena laughter. I want to clarify, my son is allowed to laugh of course he is but this is not his laugh, this is 10 decibels above his laugh and forced. Romantic or flirtacious behavior is met with similar over reaction. Every single realisation about the plot is narrated vocaly. Predictions are made after every brief conversation by characters. Anyone here familiar with MST3K? He against my better judgment sure as hell is and all group watching is considered ample opertunity for him to perform his own improv riffs to a live audience. I love my son but he has zero concept of when enough is enough. I ask him not to do these things frequently. I lose my temper over it occasionally which I'm not proud of and still this behavior continues. My wife is no use. Ive told her about my frustrations regarding this and she always says she will correct him when he does it but the truth is she tunes out about 90% of what he says and the other 10% she rabbit holes the 20 questions routine. This is really upsetting for me because it genuinely impacts how much I want to share with him. Like I want to sit down and show him movies and stuff I think are cool but then I shudder to think of all the predictable garbage Im gonna hear if I do.

TL/DR 11 year old son talks way too much through tv shows, what do?",4.5033635137738415,6.471556564245813,5.210516278173762,79.6932681564246,71.3463687150838,8.960277403197841,30.501252167212485,9.494082108488547,2.9687479098439606,1502,65,276,36,29,485,200,358,0.102,0.774,0.123,0.8104,1,0,1,0,0,0,34,1,0,0,4,11,20,3,1,14,1,29,2,1,4,5,50,45,23,0,6,12,6,0,2,0,3,0,4,0,0,21,19,0,0,4,7,0,2,6,7,0,3,4,8,35,13,41,36,9,25,1,1,3,1,44,9,2,5,14,184,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413087567538892,0.0,0.0,0.08510306345537456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750447067150756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699391819009508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257476934832634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068080645971716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121241678518686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951545424158396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25861699957304496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217610925008952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106655339316854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104779541391846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351783482760808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222792985723812,0.0,0.11050555116864738,0.0,0.0,0.14000552719396478,0.0,0.0,0.11294847683177013,0.11841546427672227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399232070859892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26263778265760546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108246934068325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974710588793157,0.0,0.0,0.2803826483991397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017125360083406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990410563007082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634292980531023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994116070461798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326137394855912,0.0,0.0,0.11794791992174936,0.0,0.0,0.2011740278911744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314094532527815,0.16037604996049445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958165222601568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224872786710217,0.0,0.0,0.10808531783498304,0.0,0.0,0.2214417378679661,0.09933447680144276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292412573595816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117887977081352
parenting,MustardYellowSun,2018/03/16,"Should I be concerned about my daughter’s weight? Edit: My title probably should’ve been clearer - should I be concerned about my daughter’s *low* weight?

So my daughter just had her six month well baby check up, and I was concerned by her weight percentile. 
When she was born, she was in the 97th percentile, and she’s dropped significantly at every visit. She’s now in the 15th percentile. 
The doctor says he’s not concerned, since she’s starting solids now, and she’s healthy in every other respect (pretty high length percentile so she *is* growing well), but should I be getting a second opinion?

I feed her as much as I can; I’d never cut her off when she wants to keep eating. I just can’t seem to get enough food in her. What do you think?",2.50319540229885,4.98225246896552,2.8282758620689665,92.00264367816094,79.48275862068967,4.418390804597702,24.149425287356323,5.2151,0.31568045977011483,588,21,114,2,15,180,85,145,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.7971,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,1,0,0,12,5,1,0,4,0,15,7,0,0,1,16,22,10,0,4,4,3,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,3,6,1,2,0,1,2,3,2,2,2,5,4,25,3,14,11,2,20,0,1,0,0,20,9,0,2,8,80,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447091427655093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442101725948325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612860796748436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872363156314747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611840557052802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811446606739886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18009816183539967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151084025331527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360578934629613,0.0,0.1253061916912368,0.0,0.13146766401451415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341699554261825,0.1837824788363234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555498761681292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517849752041527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100456116013615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206510001965708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922255875483332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054050352702992,0.0,0.0,0.6227155113210437,0.3065243004899253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thesunsoutgunsout,2018/03/16,"Toddler 18mo loved showers and baths but now hates them Asking for our friend, their toddler loved showers and baths always, could stay in the bath for 30 min (parental supervision) but now stays in for 3 minutes then wants to hop out and for the shower cries and does not want to go in.

No issues prior of baby being burnt, or too cold, or anything like that.

Toddler is 18 months old, any ideas why?",7.46318181818182,6.716130350649352,6.475941558441559,82.91962662337663,63.67532467532467,8.21948051948052,30.938311688311693,5.985473137389443,1.5203532467532463,315,9,61,1,4,95,59,77,0.122,0.7170000000000001,0.162,0.7019,4,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,0,3,5,1,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,14,10,9,0,3,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,11,8,0,14,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,2,8,34,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428872024022232,0.0,0.0,0.1424409803716391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236894015434348,0.0,0.1958181965242057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723793744919965,0.0,0.230083586062844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330114140011533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618294098942286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904177879757255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679983382540126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364565006249311,0.0,0.21862335186072648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233229252046604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780943039691401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719014466480733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197945745161081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325821711274765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465161083993357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470916005168444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900639441580874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Unsuretoddlerparent,2018/03/16,"How to handle 2 year old? I have a 2 1/2 year old and I thought it would be fun to get him involved with other kids his age.  The YMCA has a soccer team for 2 year olds that I signed him up for.  I honestly don’t have very high expectations for the whole soccer thing... he’s 2.  I just wanted him to be around other kids, run around, and have fun. 
But the problem is that the team isn’t just for 2 year olds like i thought.   It’s for 2-3 and some of them have already turned 4.  My son is the youngest on the team!  Everyone else stays focused long enough to have a 30 min practice and kick the ball across the field whereas my son just runs off and doesn’t want to listen... which I totally expected to happen.  The other parents said their kids first year in soccer was exactly like this too.  
I’m thinking maybe it was a mistake to sign him up, but i don’t want to quit either because maybe this could be good for him?
The last practice he only lasted maybe 5 min.  Then he ran off the field, threw himself down in a tantrum, threw dirt, spit... 
i encouraged him to go run with the other kids but after that failed I was going to let him sit beside me.  Then he just kept digging in the dirt and throwing dirt. 
While I don’t care if he plays soccer I didn’t want him throwing dirt around but he wasn’t listening when I tried to correct him. 
At home when he doesn’t listen or deliberately does the opposite of what i say, I put him in time out. 
But on the soccer field I have no idea what to even do and I also don’t want to make a scene.

I want to encourage him to play, but I also think this is all overwhelming for him... but he also needs to listen when I say don’t throw dirt.  I have no clue what I’m doing.  How do I handle him in this situation? Maybe soccer at this age was a mistake.

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parenting,farmsfarts,2018/03/16,"Baby gate with cat door that is small enough for baby to not fit through? Anyone have a product like this they are satisfied with? Have a set of stairs I'm trying to protect while allowing a cat to access a litter box downstairs. Thanks. Baby is a year old and crawling like mad, I keep an eye on her but we all know how fast things can happen. We have a gate on the stairs now, but no cat door. Cat is my mother in law's that we are adopting. Looking for a brand/model to order as I'm in a smallish Canadian town with shit selection of baby products. ",2.710438596491226,4.093321096491234,4.048245614035089,88.59938596491232,74.87719298245614,6.470175438596491,24.070175438596486,6.937597516519254,0.8192701754385969,431,13,90,4,9,142,76,114,0.104,0.815,0.081,-0.6772,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,0,2,5,2,0,10,0,9,2,2,2,1,16,16,6,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,4,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,7,3,17,16,2,16,0,0,2,0,6,9,1,0,7,57,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22794120823435085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368369118757327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28827367699855755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897566961753641,0.0,0.0,0.1791566951764388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185264803585984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27375120340973297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420737994730734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33462613587555384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30012966434891303,0.0,0.0,0.21657462053948226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213271908234289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992818032542607
parenting,parentfromaustralia,2018/03/16,"My son is obsessed with fish and aquariums, is this normal behavior from a 13 year old? My son is age 13, and he is absolutely OBSESSED with fish, aquariums, and anything to do with aquatic life. He could name every the species of every fish at our local aquarium, and constantly makes folders and documents on his computer, filled with images and names of fish. He calls these ""species lists"" and he tried to explain it by saying he uses these to keep track of the species in an aquarium he is interested in.
He does not own any fish, as we feel the upkeep would be too hard. He also goes onto his instagram account and identifies fish for other people, whom he does not know. A conversation typically goes like this:

Person 1: What fish is this? #fishid
Son: It is a Emperor angelfish (Pomacanthus imperator).
Person 1: Thank you!

He does have friends at school, he does sometimes talk to them about fish, but he says that they usually are only interested in eating them. This obsession also seemingly came out of nowhere, the last time he was interested in fish/aquariums was when he was 8, when visited his grandparents in Germany, and they would tell him story's about undersea life.
He does have OCD, and he does get good grades. He has shown interest in becoming a ichthyologist or marine biologist. He also has at least 1,000 photos of fish from the aquariums he's went to in Australia and Europe on his phone. He even takes pictures of the signs that talk about the fish!

Is this normal behavior for a 13 year old, and should we allow him to continue this obsession?

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parenting,shrimp_advocate,2018/03/16,"SO gives in too easy Basically what the title says. We have a 3 and a half year old daughter. She's generally a good kid and she's very well mannered. When I'm home alone with her she listens to me very well, no questions asked. As soon as my SO gets home she turns into this very whiney kid with attitude. She also starts getting crazy and jumping all over the house on the couches and beds and doesn't listen when told to stop. I know it's because when her dad gets home she knows that as long as she whines, she can get away with anything. He can't handle her whining and just gives in even after I've been telling her ""no"" the whole time. I've talked to him multiple times about him being the reason that she whines. But the whining just makes him mad so it's easier for him to just give her whatever she wants. Now we have a 3 week old baby boy and it's starting to drive me crazy. My daughter will be good with me all day, then dad will come home from work and it's all out the window. I get so frustrated because I'm basically the only one taking care of the newborn while my toddler whines and her dad teaches her bad habits. 
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how do I get him to stop giving in to her without him getting mad?",2.376435006435006,3.8212909420849455,3.3891119691119687,92.73133848133848,75.87258687258688,6.168854568854567,22.758043758043762,6.655083550727371,0.3845464607464608,970,27,218,8,21,311,139,259,0.141,0.767,0.092,-0.9252,0,1,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,0,1,19,14,3,0,13,0,12,0,0,3,3,37,42,25,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,3,7,4,9,18,0,2,4,0,0,3,5,9,2,2,2,3,36,5,30,36,4,31,0,5,0,0,49,8,0,2,20,138,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056338917765572,0.0,0.08156369055142476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393147176515835,0.0,0.19069919926361453,0.0,0.09582569314298052,0.0,0.0851598167565383,0.12434785838730815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398856573994088,0.0,0.0,0.08785785795860243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577698708825204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736535288503376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730095886410152,0.3913635587839407,0.0,0.17109362205491865,0.0,0.0,0.1123566853914319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092288052143843,0.0,0.0,0.11768612037570557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210526823442804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026051280302244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808105713707811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140487968263331,0.0,0.06911303310291275,0.07757020143848985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425539755461896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486569486967008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110885301630702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438220847877306,0.0,0.0,0.17054127369944844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668597258223972,0.08197803489483216,0.08914629587945512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894576807633199,0.0,0.0,0.0974585930572409,0.0,0.0692464885847481,0.11093899437009012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25246448849541026,0.06015805885218445,0.0,0.08181255754963622,0.0,0.18340774376110125,0.0,0.0,0.11387143783164815,0.0,0.0983175223279118,0.0,0.07425205072756072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656800878755054
parenting,fishsocks,2018/03/17,"Crazy toddler nighttime routines Recently my son developed a ‘nighttime orange’ thing. He wants to hold an orange, in addition to his puppy, in bed. He doesn’t eat it, just holds it. 

What oddball routine does your kid do or need to have at night to get to bed?",2.6925999999999988,5.112663060000003,3.649999999999999,86.705,78.4,6.4,28.0,7.554174236665415,1.8074000000000003,203,9,38,3,5,65,39,50,0.049,0.951,0.0,-0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,2,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.380824943157546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4452930969308971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273611960574464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226770602829964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40838265263636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296832278830247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891112126304938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25667773807292604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,daskoons_wif,2018/03/17,"How do I play with my kids without going crazy? I have three kids and I feel guilty about not playing with them. Honestly, I didn't really play with anyone when I was a kid, so trying to play with people (little people) now is awkward and mind numbing my boring for me. I like to rough house, play board games, play video games, throw a ball, and snuggle... but my kids seem to think that playing is strictly rough housing now and I realize this was my fault. I want to fix it... today my four year old started kicking me and screaming I'm playing with mommy!'. I like roughhousing, but I don't want them thinking it's appropriate with other people (husband doesn't approve, for example)... I asked her to get two Barbie dolls to play with me... but it was horrible. We switched to tossing a bean bag into a container, which was better, but I want them to be healthy and well rounded while not driving myself crazy.",4.339798951048952,5.733625375000003,4.842272727272729,84.45937062937067,70.81818181818181,7.233566433566433,28.879370629370623,7.61054688173877,1.7496534965034969,710,27,135,8,13,226,103,176,0.123,0.679,0.198,0.8805,0,0,0,0,0,0,34,1,0,3,2,7,19,0,1,4,0,12,1,0,1,0,33,24,14,0,3,7,1,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,7,15,0,1,5,13,0,3,6,5,1,3,5,5,26,14,20,18,0,13,0,0,1,0,13,2,0,1,10,91,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283674719833802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776034003188485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680197388152982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605837702035837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992554490452506,0.0,0.10796864167748392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384172608961056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18562690737284188,0.19040745275254287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19182320803577144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19934952164095704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951196187276339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170450795739167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294846166765432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446711507124626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434599357242554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800765405645639,0.0,0.0,0.128982312251776,0.0,0.18558049930914344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361611118448339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081266760722447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831316161136405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233933844478626
parenting,JP_816,2018/03/17,"5 year old complains about not enough one-on-one time I'm a stay at home mom of two girls ages 2 and 5. My oldest turned 5 in December so she will be going to Kindergarten in the fall, and other than 5 hours of preschool a week, she is with me all day, everyday. I usually try to get all three of us out of the house in the mornings doing something that is kid focused. Then my youngest naps for about 2 hours in the afternoon. I use nap time to get 2-3 things done around the house and do a ""big kid"" thing with my oldest. Then, the girls play together in the evenings while my husband and I talk and cook dinner. Then it's family time.  So every day she gets 30-60 min of completely uninterrupted time with just me while my youngest is napping. I know this probably doesn't seem like alot, but it's not like I ignore her the rest of the day either, it's just that usually dad or sister is involved in our plans too. She has a hard time entertaining herself so she is literally always  in the same room as me (not my choice and probably another but related problem). She started complaining about not having enough time just her and me, and of course I felt terrible. I rearranged our bed time routine so now each girl gets their own storytime and some one-on-one time with me, and I've started getting chapter books for me to read to my oldest so we can have something special at the end of the day too. But she still complains and asks for more time, just the two of us. I honestly don't know what to do. I feel like at this point the only one who should be feeling neglected is my youngest daughter, but she's so chill doing whatever, I just keep giving more and more time to my oldest. I feel like part of this is her manipulating my own emotions, it is that giving my 5 year old too much credit? Is there a chance she is actually feeling neglected or left out or ssomething?Is there anything I can do to help her realize that I do spend as much time with her as possible? I don't know exactly what I'm looking for really, but this is a new one for me, and I'm loosing my mind trying to figure out how to maximize my time with her and also not feel so guilty when I have to tell her ""No, I cannot ignore the house work/your sister/your dad/ my own sanity right now and play with you,” every 15 minutes because she will not stop asking.",4.598235704323573,4.889883202928871,5.460401673640167,84.29321059972106,69.48117154811715,8.967475592747562,28.694839609483967,8.936278230431713,2.0106223709902373,1833,61,393,31,30,601,212,478,0.08199999999999999,0.8240000000000001,0.093,0.5069,0,0,3,0,0,0,49,5,1,1,1,28,19,0,0,22,0,33,2,0,3,3,79,62,41,0,2,20,6,7,4,0,3,0,0,3,5,18,28,2,6,13,9,2,2,11,9,0,5,2,8,62,10,54,55,19,69,0,2,1,0,48,19,0,6,51,271,80,3,0.0,0.0,0.0716967154262851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05875441890359664,0.06113343170321092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704033881016055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060460050519371276,0.06540441804969632,0.13737020189211066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044787000882743865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703253495299593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952985709556613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751859407288329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264454545031068,0.06507315171115899,0.15182955658582598,0.0,0.0485266438563176,0.0,0.12380431248773713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926155077709895,0.0,0.1857447354755784,0.10497483448192818,0.07054330568628964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919268022143712,0.14095940436815085,0.04175503982081946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581523392775286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049245800041392784,0.0,0.07369701053995614,0.0,0.14470749927302226,0.2543256528344715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530405241678168,0.0,0.0,0.1211325746778128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982603087685118,0.0,0.0,0.14357611226269532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061696806916264876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418437025462102,0.08604788845802605,0.0,0.0,0.10801870145621824,0.0,0.0,0.07095837130874702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541900886230256,0.0,0.19914234244054788,0.055877708315318436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956150911723382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945347263129355,0.08282707168280805,0.0,0.0,0.15842748427963674,0.07030144970909169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349049047787995,0.0,0.04706715299164402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274349804124324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688488242219276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312252741829598,0.0,0.0,0.10400574939457627,0.07830989285936217,0.05867372268453337,0.061424718324711025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059052891924597874,0.06421654999172895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762121502997342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5140956303315375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976344058012572,0.07991492420091534,0.14354021720061744,0.0,0.17675219114577512,0.06345501613357198,0.1618349903594304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05893369028974092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348747786427871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462532581772867
parenting,florabundawonder,2018/03/17,"At my wits end Moved house 3 wks ago. My 5 yr old has always been challenging and demanding but lately there's a lot of separation anxiety. I am trying my hardest to pacify this but I work 40hrs per week so I can only do so much. Tonight he has been awful. I had him with me for most of the day, we have talked and spent time. But this evening he's been demonic. Literally running around everywhere, messing with the cats, couldnt stay still. I tried to get him in the bath, he hid behind the sofa. When he came out from there he went and hid upstairs. I was so tired he didn't end up having a bath :(  he played up so much that I cut off his tv time and told him it was time for bed (he wasn't even by the tv) - he went crazy. He ran away to the bathroom, when I  got him out from there he ran behind the sofa again. I took him to his room, he ripped off his bedclothes and tried to push his mattress off the bed. I told him off, left him in his room, he was calling me but I'd told him I wasnt going back. 15 minutes later my daughter asks what happened to his wallpaper  - he's torn big pieces off in temper because I didn't go to him. He has had such a telling off. But I feel it's not going to do any good. He always says he's sorry but nothing changes. I think he just says it to get out of trouble. I literally don't know what to do any more. No other 5 yr old I know behaves like this and i don't know what I've done wrong. I am in bits. Can anyone help me or advise me what to do next? :(",0.14874999999999972,1.87440161656442,2.210118865030676,97.3621721625767,83.4478527607362,5.179294478527608,18.776457055214728,6.158741222570753,-0.35211012269938635,1141,28,282,9,32,382,160,326,0.145,0.81,0.045,-0.9851,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,1,0,0,2,18,9,2,0,11,1,29,1,0,0,0,31,52,19,0,1,9,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,9,0,12,14,0,0,5,5,1,12,9,5,0,0,24,3,42,4,41,27,7,54,1,0,0,0,46,22,0,3,20,172,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116199229515142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18991677601597806,0.0,0.0,0.15521332492114925,0.0,0.08730278032891557,0.0,0.0,0.07979653896661308,0.0,0.0,0.10159249912145173,0.10668837466326704,0.0,0.10722108421937364,0.08775253514138844,0.0,0.06956752286023496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245913279983949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165310048512591,0.13052481076123346,0.0,0.0,0.12072561580780293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359904886639218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167861108654103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20215588809376184,0.0,0.0,0.1507525996055502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577033553338209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924774543842655,0.0,0.19457395873882308,0.09571985893374113,0.09127354054439367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009174333936764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649336308808594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168110775287625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881548885150889,0.0,0.12873423688048174,0.0,0.1239935498785947,0.0,0.0,0.05575409312497144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702217963406423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212932956516082,0.16778514601953806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136971178007876,0.0,0.0,0.10950283923797632,0.0,0.23950303221211866,0.0,0.0,0.08679468760993098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150829646955285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277498884459378,0.0,0.121638536948234,0.09113772888784896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091726691405012,0.09974738699854044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312457078922181,0.0,0.0,0.1996358251865884,0.131166094441409,0.0,0.3271444955321219,0.12679339644456447,0.2324434086804741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915415358399051,0.0,0.0,0.21158389955381254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308194935404113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477415266860925,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShankeeMcShankShank,2018/03/17,"Seeking Advice With Our 4 Month Old Who Has an Insatiable Appetite. Greetings,

We have a 4 month old at home who has an incredible appetite. He eats about 4.5oz -5oz every feeding, and is hungry every 2 hours. Many times he’ll be chomping at the bit within an 1-1.5 hours. My wife cannot keep up with him. His daytime sleep is non-existent and he hardly sleeps at night because he always seems hungry. If anyone out there can offer two tired and frustrated parents some advice, it’ll be greatly appreciated.",3.479240362811794,5.781381051020412,4.550544217687077,81.83175736961455,75.22448979591837,6.396371882086169,26.19501133786848,7.3871296695380915,1.5156222222222218,405,15,72,5,9,132,73,98,0.066,0.867,0.067,0.024,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,5,0,10,5,2,0,0,11,13,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,7,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,5,1,9,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,8,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271477484701798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392838508024602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704462829595805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204082733530076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274909993995292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128417107395313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820705612104126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18455066487906246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499506729382683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790818271854754,0.0,0.32969550665159403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487860183896288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697095770409903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26722196517409064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708638786434226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513002411389187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858694032406786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523877152759851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350264921331709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760782968000477,0.19239289031508813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351801002914618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hdjsusjdbdnjd,2018/03/17,"Daughter (4) throws a fit anytime someone bumps/nudges her So anytime my daughter gets bumped/nudged/pushed/etc, she gets incredibly angry, cries and goes and sulks in a corner about other kids being mean to her. Even the most innocent of nudges while standing in line during classes (BJJ, Gymnastics, Dance, Swimming) sets her off. She'll be watching her 3 boy (2,4,6 yo) cousins playing in typical boy fashion, join in, then as soon as she is touched, the tears and screaming start. She isn't hurt whatsoever. When she actually does hurt herself she doesn't have nearly the same reaction. Is this normal for girls of her age? We're unsure of how to deal with this. She claims the other kids are 'being mean', which in some cases they are, but most often its just natural contact that happens among kids. She doesn't have seem to have issue with other contact from kids or adults. Loves giving/receiving hugs from anyone. Kind of at a loss here and would like some input.

Thanks",5.303904761904762,7.246654088888889,4.764285714285716,83.805,69.22222222222221,7.142857142857142,27.857142857142854,7.7094869923839395,1.6807142857142856,776,27,138,9,14,234,123,180,0.063,0.78,0.157,0.9589,0,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,0,1,1,9,10,0,0,7,0,15,2,0,1,0,21,24,13,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,8,8,6,0,0,3,3,0,3,3,4,0,0,0,3,16,6,24,19,5,22,0,3,1,2,30,11,0,7,7,90,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.1953758945689751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999135470710694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992107585590975,0.0,0.2064075235830989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520495447823484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22328686193319544,0.1322366917018106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20920272540489765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704487434293334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4286574862486511,0.0,0.0,0.20896702616284746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848770866234032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097812400488906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806971708124656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4361743546010141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19616310585613814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226349224898825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963712284703844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170953444285875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843262945978448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222330517618156,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ryechuu,2018/03/17,"My 9 month old baby girl is grunting in frustration constantly, and I have no idea what she wants I’m at the point of tears. I know she is frustrated that she can’t communicate what she wants but it seems like I can only satisfy her boredom/frustration for a few minutes and then it’s right back to the grunting. It makes me feel like a bad mom but I am trying everything! She was so happy and calm until this week suddenly.
She has two teeth and I don’t feel or see another one trying to poke through. 
I am at a loss. :-( ",1.2724242424242431,3.3984471851851867,3.2076094276094302,89.5528787878788,81.77777777777777,7.2606060606060625,22.781144781144786,8.296473431620573,1.3656740740740747,408,14,89,9,11,137,76,108,0.151,0.6779999999999999,0.171,0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,1,2,8,2,0,5,0,10,1,1,1,0,15,19,10,0,2,3,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,1,3,15,4,9,18,1,13,0,1,1,0,9,5,0,2,10,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231863594202972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636645338567713,0.17771654003329554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23000964350624745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912912062183175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21524147963281307,0.15205638695659446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265772762038644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24027590215225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697395056100472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797046255594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420755748077827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492812889630985,0.16989071027496291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334484161125895,0.0,0.14422916326100785,0.16187808210937438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120715906861092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176831931679874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960977002797653,0.19376593663286254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890153321000822,0.0,0.2079184684425311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25108278719983884,0.0,0.17073128163911805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newuser20188,2018/03/17,"My daughter isn't comfortable around me and my fiancée My daughter is 4 turning 5 in a few months. Her mother was angry at me for a long time because I wouldn't commit to her. She denied me of seeing my daughter and told me the only way I would be able to see her was if I would agree to marry her. I decided to just leave it alone and move on with my life which I regret 100%. I'd do anything to be there for my daughter's growing up. Since then I've gotten engaged and in contact with my daughter's mother through mutual friends. I first got in contact with them last year. I video-chatted her, talked to her on the phone, visited her, all of that. I wanted her to become familiar with me and comfortable enough to want to start staying over to my home sometimes. She's been over to my home with her mother a few times. When her mother left is when a problem pursued. She would completely break down and refused to allow me or my fiancee to touch her but she stopped that now. When we brought her last month to stay the week with me, she was hesitant to do or go anywhere. She was happy and excited to be talking to me on the phone and video call but she was acting super shy and scared when she saw me in person.

I still get her on the weekends. When we try to play with her or take her somewhere, she doesn't say anything. She just mumbles things and looks miserable or afraid to the point of crying. I'm trying to get her to start calling me ""Papa"" or ""daddy"" but she just doesn't say anything to me. At all.

I just want a good relationship with her. I don't want her to think that I don't care about her or don't want to make an effort because I'm sure she's confused as to who this man who just popped up out of nowhere and keeps taking her from her mother is.

*Sorry if this is all over the place. I'm not good at typing my thoughts out*",3.098324675324676,4.085380812987019,4.055097402597403,90.47978896103895,73.33766233766234,6.642857142857142,25.698051948051948,6.7097532225279775,0.8425714285714285,1443,46,316,11,28,466,174,385,0.108,0.789,0.103,-0.0098,0,1,0,0,0,0,35,2,0,1,3,15,18,0,4,13,0,25,1,0,2,5,66,54,29,0,13,17,10,1,0,2,4,1,2,2,2,10,24,0,3,3,3,0,6,8,6,0,1,12,7,70,12,63,35,6,55,0,2,4,0,66,23,0,9,22,225,80,1,0.10360225038533157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730068659527756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557674737499053,0.09222796779554908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263099404671519,0.1144205459351742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21157896213886,0.0,0.10562939899588232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862498841372084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380220726139065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704881927525288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881240212525289,0.0,0.0,0.08004284165121338,0.0,0.1082557996022835,0.0,0.05887954640878097,0.17379330449547914,0.08286018387883706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028652201120337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078430086953086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208644037834617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688993233444109,0.0,0.1096998241740291,0.1125641481797562,0.0,0.07317733332970365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168473141832588,0.08699979743016623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915530661686743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538865566889635,0.11011279633744564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879417991424513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046148891138683,0.10824230103771376,0.0,0.09793761382084083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913336182922623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112300448539964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647773355925264,0.10372392619442566,0.0,0.16511516025706854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570085211486128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246527473377584,0.11597423726521057,0.14666041212118802,0.22085242838544566,0.08273689098620833,0.08661612032382307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764389490590428,0.0,0.15579199766124782,0.1665431289524681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882873163939546,0.06638413877139916,0.0,0.08224861432228671,0.12082261069382935,0.0,0.0,0.09899639002008684,0.0,0.1406782547626342,0.11268949828412984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055364575950913,0.08223464406805966,0.08310347606770467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207881985398839,0.0,0.0,0.06671645251494858
parenting,Ekaj1313,2018/03/17,"Stepson He lived with us for about 6 years but moved out and dropped out of high school about a year ago. He went to his grandmother's house because she spoils him and will not make him go to school, work or even do any chores. If my wife punished him, like taking his phone away for bad grades his grandmother would buy him new one. He didn't like the car my wife bought him, so he broke it and had grandma buy him another car.  He doesn't work or go to school. He lies chronically, steals from his grandmother (took her car and wrecked it and pretended it was stolen), smokes pot, chews tobacco, uses an e cig, has unprotected sex (contributed to two abortions) and recently tested positive for chlamydia. He absolutely refused to do any chores or get a job while he lived with us. We could barely get him to go to school. He would steal my tools, small electronics, etc to sell to his friends. I tried to set up some family counseling while he lived with us but he refused to go. During much of this I stayed low key because I didn't want to stress my wife out while she was pregnant. 

We recently decided to take a vacation and initially  my wife said we could go without him. I bought tickets, rooms, etc for a week long vacation. However now she decided she would like to take him. He will be staying with us sharing a hotel room as we cannot afford a room for him. He has said if he doesn't want to do what we are doing he will go off on his own (which I think will be a pain in the ass- he won't have his own transportation and will expect $$). I'm also worried as the baby and I am light sleepers and if he is coming in the hotel room after bedtime I know the baby will wake up and sometimes it's hard to get settled back down. Heck, I would love some relax time too. 

I tried to include him and interact with him when he was a child living with us, but he has always hated me. He has no respect for me whatsoever and will not do anything I ask. He and his mother fought like cats and dogs when they lived together. Despite all of this I always made sure he had what he needed. 

 I'm worried that he will imprint nasty habits/manners on my baby. I work so much and I feel I barely get to see my baby. I was looking forward to a week with my wife and my baby and now I am dreading the whole trip! Please tell me I'm overreacting or can you give me strategies to survive this??? 

Sorry for the long read, my thanks if you made it this far. ",4.0927904293435375,4.6660821983967935,4.897653488795776,86.8813584745248,70.70340681362725,8.212813505799478,27.145260217404505,8.296473431620573,1.5533468269873083,1903,60,413,27,33,617,231,499,0.145,0.7609999999999999,0.094,-0.9797,3,0,2,0,0,0,54,10,2,1,4,12,22,3,2,17,0,43,8,2,4,2,73,84,39,0,14,14,6,2,4,1,13,3,2,6,1,13,34,1,2,5,6,5,16,10,11,0,2,17,7,68,11,56,50,10,60,0,2,2,4,82,21,2,10,25,254,81,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375213330010761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057513850145774675,0.1196852626742664,0.0,0.0,0.09781520070755156,0.0754136724384495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05918346824402385,0.0,0.06723485104227643,0.0,0.06757056379229884,0.05530151384755109,0.060049623873862576,0.08768269367025011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195212161928775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484344164741145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041809426273396,0.04750202920752195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779912943729552,0.0,0.03636456654958091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055564684292008455,0.0,0.15029949471037132,0.06899156021583262,0.2452404242505536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442557976176609,0.07100543396690735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598670484149339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829852333282839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136882271084664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03952497461920045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054457791061722,0.0,0.3175303634201085,0.1272926610440907,0.06039411117786814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490998961926386,0.13610358939874326,0.04800670116170259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643884998062962,0.10573794319517656,0.05332726071570778,0.0,0.06946012249284096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873438906610943,0.0,0.07652722174761585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894581080073043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193877729297958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420232941157261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682347566405398,0.0,0.0,0.2911447450912288,0.05731038255417384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113004141313937,0.08050778491508269,0.0,0.1533128410387298,0.0,0.0,0.08238333223364676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778310316780686,0.0,0.16222312301809685,0.0,0.06286065119906853,0.0662136424998088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04608299301644992,0.0,0.0,0.04193673088090009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990500511420523,0.0976569878253193,0.0,0.07025472037698001,0.0,0.4325504031949986,0.06211519672915303,0.0,0.0,0.08483975059230059,0.0,0.11537867262113854,0.0,0.0,0.06666992544569403,0.0,0.08029534670459937,0.0,0.06932765312165733,0.0,0.15707435341718198,0.14607511066524625,0.0,0.2043576713701703,0.0,0.0,0.09262736166288256
parenting,exodist,2018/03/17,"Wife cheated, wants to babysit the other parents kid. Am I crazy not being on with this? My wife has been having an affair since December. The other person is her best friend, a single foster mom who lives a few hours away. She confessed the affair to me yesterday. We were scheduled to provide respite for the child of the woman she had an affair with, starting tomorrow and lasting a week.

After the affair I decides I am not comfortable with this. She thinks I am being rediculous, and driven by anger. She is going to go get the kid today, against my wishes.

am I in the wrong not wanting us to babysit the child of the person my wife had an affair with? My wife is still not decided between staying with me to heal our marriage, or leaving me for the other person.


Picked the parenting subreddit cause I do not know where else to ask. We have 3 kids, all came to us via foster care. The other person is another foster mom. For the past 3 months my wife has been taking the kids there often so all the kids could play, but turns out she has been having an affair as this has been going on.


Edit, update: after further discussion she decided to ask the other mom to find someone else if she could.

New update: my wife and I sat and talked. We are going to divorce. We are working to make sure this is as painless on the kids as possible as our primary goal.",4.077706766917295,5.516097184210527,4.945872180451129,83.29189097744364,71.5187969924812,7.124511278195487,26.457894736842107,7.554174236665415,1.4942111278195482,1065,35,198,12,20,346,133,266,0.038,0.903,0.059,0.7012,2,0,0,0,1,0,30,8,0,0,4,5,9,2,0,25,0,30,1,0,3,3,42,50,12,0,6,8,11,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,13,10,15,0,0,7,1,0,6,5,3,0,0,10,0,32,6,37,36,5,31,1,0,0,0,55,8,0,3,16,156,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809014274071508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056588016485628,0.0,0.1058086321126416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818599370235827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880537241305087,0.1148218972951373,0.11569005133069975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983315197979013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188156334644156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029311171695371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700864561053531,0.0,0.0588384314485256,0.0,0.2560143783757348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109063739121912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189209123072492,0.09179897330962818,0.0,0.11924655507219167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944405232723788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517361254782128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956916955772244,0.08989087988532021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876748890145664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500986652078399,0.0,0.10750694298631068,0.0,0.39333594198915656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696025055030333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315904978330844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954211490738726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971183656217723,0.12003615986891987,0.08993714713559732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614144716301924,0.0,0.08467497176407013,0.09051835109152022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216128120101177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067490126679622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224964083978676,0.0,0.0,0.27093197933062463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285042265656075,0.0,0.09033563463034433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950552640029206,0.0,0.0,0.08198748854672057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313046928221574,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautiousmaximus,2018/03/17,"Two year old pooped in the potty for the first time! Never thought I would post about this, but my daughter has FINALLY picked up on potty training! I’ve been trying to introduce her to the potty for what feels like a year now. Usually she cries or fights going on the potty, but this morning was groundbreaking!

I’ve tried pull ups, no diaper, underwear, you name it. Small potty, potty ring, nothing was working so I guess the trick is just patience and waiting until they are “ready.” 

I’m just so happy that a there is a future without diapers within my reach!",4.058743509865002,6.109180336448603,4.7064797507788185,82.49488058151611,72.73831775700937,7.372377985462098,25.907580477673932,8.167268648758528,1.7826353063343725,444,15,79,7,9,142,80,107,0.098,0.7709999999999999,0.131,0.7036,0,0,0,0,1,0,14,0,1,1,2,7,4,2,0,8,0,8,1,1,1,1,15,14,7,0,1,6,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,2,4,2,8,2,13,9,0,21,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,2,12,56,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523852665897339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617572080847967,0.16414364357977068,0.0,0.2516955318765136,0.0,0.19543737447634366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058033209259565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531112521656009,0.0,0.0,0.2445883426067388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225121865695424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720837297796505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22046501811638405,0.0,0.2410989555294633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22005066221625208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824071689988139,0.1339773961500978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119897204638108,0.0,0.22444631008774946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530528874600617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214845614174276,0.0,0.16727112828258828,0.0,0.0,0.1632179483137931,0.0,0.0,0.2959213192628343
parenting,sweetLeche,2018/03/17,"My child loves someone I can't stand My almost 3 yr old daughter is in a dance class she loves. Yesterday as soon as we walked into class the her bestfriend from school ran up to her. All class they played around. Her friend does one thing and my child followed. My baby is not the most independent person. She's very clingy and I'm disappointed and a little sad her friend is now there. 

She has thrived before today, made other little friends, and paid attention to her teachers instructions.

Also I just don't like her bestfriend. She is super aggressive, hits and refuses to give back my kid toys. Her mother is even worse; she just so happen to be a teacher aid at my child school and her child behavior is never corrected only coddled. 

There was an incident with the mom/teacher in the past, early on, and I had my child removed from her class. It was a great solution but then she had her daughter moved to my daughters new class. 

I just can't escape this family. All I can think about is my daughter teenage years and her hanging with the wrong type of people. I can't even control it now, what will I do in the future?

I may be looking to deep into this but does anyone have suggestions? 

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parenting,wojtekwojtek,2018/03/17,"How do you find yourself a parenting mentor? I feel like I could use some help/advice as a dad. We have some of the oldest children of our family and friends and I don't see where to ask for opinion, advice or support.

Or maybe Reddit acts like a place like that for you?
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parenting,2muchmedia,2018/03/17,"My son (14) spends too much time on his computer Hi everyone! I'm a regular lurker here but made a throwaway to post this :)

My husband and I would love to get your input on how best to handle how much our son is using his computer/ipad/phone. 

Our son (14) is obsessed with his computer, a lot of this time is spent playing games (also online with friends). He now completes his homework on his own and is doing alright in school, however he often has problems falling asleep and is tired the next morning, causing him to occasionally stay home from school. We think this may be because he isn't getting enough physical exercise to tire him out. Additionally, we feel like he should be engaging in a wider variety of activities (real life socializing, play a musical instrument, read books, etc.).

So far we have restricted his internet use to 5 hours/week day and is shut off at 8pm. We would really like for him to get involved in other activities, so we sat down with him and discussed some (more than 10) options. He rejected most of them and said he isn't motivated for the others.

What would you do? Just let him do as he is? Institute some sort of reward system to encourage sports? Put stricter limits on computer usage?

Thanks in advance for your input
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parenting,the_onlyfox,2018/03/17,"Well today we found something out about my nephews old buss driver So my nephew is Mentally disabled and non verbal. This past February he just turned 20 (yay) everything is awesome and great. Today however made everyone in my family absolutely sick and angry. 

He has taken the bus to go to and from school since elementary school and has always been with awesome drivers. Until he got a new driver I think when he just ended elementry.

 This driver was someone no one liked in my family we all had a damn feeling about him but I was the only one to really point out how weird that guy was. He was always leering at my older sister or myself. Though he was very soft spoken and seemed shy or something but it always felt ""off"" 

Today in the news he was arrested for the RAPE 2 disabled kids (that were able to tell someone) we don't know if he has done anything to any other kids because a lot of them are non verbal. (We were always active with his school and went to all events and became friends with other families) 

It's any parents worst nightmare my sister is a mess about it and we have no idea if anything ever happened to my nephew since he's been out of school for a few years and this guy has been doing it for 10 years, the last time he did it was just LAST YEAR. 

I'm sick to my stomach that someone like him was able to be around kids who are so vulnerable and unable to defend themselves or cry out for help. 

It's also such a slap in the face that the jail is keeping him in a separate location to protect that monster from the other inmates. Personally that guy deserves death in my eyes. 

If anyone has friends or family with children with disabilities just keep them as safe as you can and look out for any signs you think is different from how they normally are. I wished we knew what was happening. ",4.708319327731092,5.844303675070031,5.415054341736695,81.6735731092437,69.67226890756302,8.176985994397759,27.44526610644257,8.488131031819089,1.8936804257703082,1440,47,275,22,25,467,185,357,0.132,0.769,0.099,-0.9556,3,0,2,0,0,0,23,6,2,3,0,18,13,2,0,15,1,35,6,3,3,3,65,56,31,1,5,13,6,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,8,20,29,0,4,9,0,0,2,3,5,1,2,24,5,28,8,46,31,5,35,0,0,2,1,44,15,1,9,20,188,48,4,0.17216240096015487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883910492363679,0.28650581848247714,0.0,0.0,0.17561450452978636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601899768632733,0.0,0.14167498680296212,0.07663051870157866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524743008358387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455615666559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993653305210017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809095484557049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624239337140294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786537407596403,0.0,0.08225427598751825,0.0773642324436447,0.0,0.32459877912785523,0.0,0.04352524141340382,0.0,0.08265145179576286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438359321999944,0.13301224391451502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04892192997487154,0.0,0.06884699969123577,0.09490482742261896,0.0,0.2557017664270112,0.15224264259400438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057698414167965735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717519750227332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302585235788352,0.0,0.0,0.04730797656597352,0.14033533499208772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410985285035738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228652829893156,0.0,0.0,0.07318315835530204,0.0,0.08145211325060274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674960356948941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313775982957085,0.0,0.0,0.08434129970105488,0.0,0.0,0.09032773948731508,0.0,0.1166616984885583,0.06546863193255258,0.0,0.0,0.09558298610986496,0.0,0.08217424614909505,0.0,0.07516278395251838,0.0,0.0,0.08137455835656095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05514582126265073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484750821671953,0.0,0.07836509193327391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241451715140235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218808965468147,0.13253902735302794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523876340208326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031471492219948,0.08457434241354911,0.0,0.05019464024661005,0.0,0.24478473853359325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936316272833486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710260055486755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739733716817081,0.07979813525567539,0.0,0.0,0.09898913231530376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630041247845254
parenting,laragobear,2018/03/17,"22 months old toddler I’m losing it I have a super energetic 22 months old boy.  He has been sleeping through the night and was never hard to put him to sleep.  However recently he started resisting naps and bedtime and literally have meltdowns until he cried so much that he can’t even stop anymore. 

He also started hitting me in the face or other toys and also hits his head when he is frustrated or stopped from doing something he is not supposed to be doing.  

I heard and read about temper tantrums and all that jazz during this period but seriously I’m
Losing my mind.  I’ve been really short on him and raising my voice at him a lot. (Which makes me feel like crap afterward when things cools off)

I don’t have much help around, i have not had a single day away from him yet.  And it is starting to get to me.  I also recently stopped nursing which has not been the best timing.  

He is very bright and loving but I am little concerned about his behaviors.  Any good tips that works for your toddler meltdowns and managing your frustration and anger?

Thank you ",3.990826398852221,5.953393482926828,4.596843615494978,83.5835868005739,72.70731707317074,7.555236728837876,27.668579626972733,8.313332769828598,1.9669913916786217,844,32,158,14,17,269,129,205,0.159,0.715,0.125,-0.6084,1,0,1,0,0,0,14,0,3,0,5,11,17,6,0,6,1,21,6,5,1,2,28,34,22,0,0,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,10,12,0,3,1,4,0,1,6,9,0,0,6,6,20,8,18,25,6,31,0,2,1,1,21,8,1,3,23,108,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084769788659665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743904736266499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751715685472914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446377231961102,0.0,0.0,0.12080547164487206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493714478636992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123947705660764,0.08292368870964988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849261086549822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501408848218228,0.091857827893968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717792603552966,0.0,0.0,0.1078470973172814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518273804904255,0.0,0.13196053476517158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618469839991559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281786427670986,0.12887129019780494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28769704464909823,0.0,0.10931441568643277,0.1160487861922003,0.0,0.08582838221952035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982949959200946,0.0,0.20526321764670505,0.0,0.1890427041235941,0.0,0.09916909282246568,0.0,0.0,0.12066394841654107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698468960411245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925876610949355,0.0,0.0,0.1286151458961823,0.0,0.08237186484366026,0.0,0.2539151676008971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25734641883702025,0.0,0.0,0.09898743547254073,0.0,0.0,0.2730295010709887,0.0,0.0,0.3224967907110033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837951117445028,0.0,0.0,0.08542307128445238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497623623333759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609225496117564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093608026350071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Djeff_,2018/03/17,"My son likes to put balloons, balls or clothes in his shirt or pants. Normal? I have always wondered.

Since he was about 2 (almost 4 now) he has been fascinated with balloons and balls. If he gets one, he wants to put them up his shirt.

He used to stuff stuffed animals in his shirt and pants and now its balloons or balls.

I am just wondering if this is a perfectly normal behavior or if its something going on?",2.298055555555557,4.578627246913584,3.2180092592592615,90.0247916666667,79.0,6.519135802469138,24.939814814814817,7.6454224807358475,1.2693814814814814,321,12,66,5,8,102,53,81,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.8875,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,6,3,3,1,1,20,12,10,0,6,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,2,9,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,10,3,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819107564414706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961622061726227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905902828332285,0.0,0.12951068870114196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133171744038596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465522850731205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441885596151642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4581690444554156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188506485811092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543482770494706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608705642046416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968170279867236,0.0,0.0,0.1344108080307706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4942569849091714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,swiftbrook,2018/03/17,"7 Year Old Son Got in Trouble for Playing with His Fingers as Guns at School As my young son was leaving school today him and a friend were pointing their fingers at each other and saying “pew pew”. An adult on campus saw them and reported it to their teacher who then called the principal over. They told my son how disappointed they were in his actions etc. and had a lengthy discussion with him about why he was being dangerous and inappropriate. They told him he had to write a letter to the adult who saw them acting out gun play with their fingers. (Not sure what that is intended to accomplish). I am massively confused as to how this could be punishable?  I am a parent of 7 kids under 15 (including 4 boys) and as far as I know, it is completely normal for boys to play act with fake guns - especially their fingers. Am I crazy or is the school?",5.224,6.1381047333333365,5.707272727272732,80.86090909090913,68.33333333333334,9.151515151515152,30.15151515151515,9.339509955726095,2.5265151515151514,671,25,131,13,11,216,101,165,0.127,0.804,0.069,-0.8823,1,0,0,3,0,0,15,0,0,9,1,3,11,2,1,8,0,15,4,4,3,1,23,21,15,0,2,2,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,8,12,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,6,0,0,11,7,20,5,27,7,2,18,2,1,2,0,35,10,0,2,5,91,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19511140403157973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003410337971644,0.0,0.0,0.15255976743899605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21310182630077307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762593652384007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528220637012515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105011149952303,0.0,0.0,0.2023233926496429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721529672122736,0.0,0.0,0.20050360393087366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216885641419048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806299184655776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195242936743644,0.0,0.5801416341026836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18008820194230352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18111904693520528,0.3651653161659863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241764647640329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304759027652895
parenting,belly_bell,2018/03/18,"Our kids (2 & 4) have gotten old enough that they're starting to play with each other and give the wife more of a break. [Suggestions?] M'wife has been talking about rediscovering herself, what she likes, and who she is now that we have more time to ourselves. I'm trying to help her from (literally) the other side of the world.


Parents that have reached a similar stage, what resources (if any) did you use to help find yourselves again? Not to be basic, but I'd there a great magazine subscription with a ton of different ideas in it that I could buy her?


V/r",5.411769331585845,6.0882173853211015,5.422306684141547,83.92174311926607,67.80733944954129,8.797378768020971,29.332896461336823,8.841846274778883,2.056065792922673,441,15,90,7,7,138,83,109,0.0,0.865,0.135,0.9134,2,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,14,4,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,9,3,13,9,5,10,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,6,61,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730826060442313,0.0,0.1713941930035932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20123149429262194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26332562128530546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26042218775165216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303577765190108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417774068184995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27787231501973325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378709461516574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28451974283892906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313282770865475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26447103654768944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27985789920436743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839349205221994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257825490483355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696513618636026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111696851213562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217679541413663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sharshenka,2018/03/18,"Would taking my 4yo to Coco help prepare him for my father's death?  My dad has terminal cancer, and will probably pass away soon. He was told last Christmas would be his last, but there have been some positive developments, so no one knows for sure. He hasn't put a lot of effort in to getting to know my son, but we spent Christmas with them, and are going up to see them again in April. 

Coco is supposed to be good, and it looks beautiful, so I'm wondering if it would be good timing to take my son. We don't go to church, so while I've told him people go to heaven after they die, he doesn't have a real cemented vision of it. I'm wondering if the movie presents death as not something to be afraid of, and that is a regrettable but necessary process. Or is it too scary for a 4 year old or does it present death as this terrible thing? He's seen Big Hero 6, so he's seen a portrayal of grief, but not really of death.

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.",5.485052535404294,4.871695623115581,6.28957514846962,82.19132023755142,67.64321608040201,10.05043398812243,29.64869803563271,9.573946990214177,2.2988452261306533,755,23,165,14,11,250,120,199,0.19,0.654,0.157,-0.8834,0,0,1,0,0,0,22,2,0,3,2,8,8,0,1,6,0,22,1,0,0,1,31,42,20,6,6,11,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,5,0,1,5,6,3,0,1,8,4,13,5,25,24,2,22,2,1,4,0,20,5,0,9,12,102,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659559485169965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020172044402955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094660074674456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569472466179196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312815312529142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837807502427027,0.0,0.255775608666333,0.25165551792155777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055372584083724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489164821243024,0.2445689540010101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12597711485443686,0.0,0.0,0.12753971400328812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741837766613748,0.0,0.10165590003735188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400340877364797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174449198224047,0.0,0.0,0.15080925931408312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075302601573022,0.09610520275947296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954471230010615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549098196070468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138994028428006,0.0,0.2255893342570933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966511747319096,0.0,0.0,0.11909732481175038,0.08747654795752302,0.0,0.0,0.2866967502021063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32537566955690506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42627318020733507,0.0,0.0,0.0966065031117188
parenting,Soutoul,2018/03/18,"Home work and nagging Hello, my 10y son is a great student. But he hates doing home work. I have to ask him ten times or more for him to stop playing outside, watching tv or playing video games and study. 

I even tried confiscating everything and grounding him. He will just sit at his desk doodling or just wasting time which frustrates the heck out of me and I start the nag engine. 

Parents how do you get them to study without going insane ?",3.276617647058824,5.6256619999999975,3.4078676470588256,89.5541544117647,76.05882352941177,5.191176470588236,27.095588235294123,5.985473137389443,0.9539705882352942,350,14,66,2,8,107,67,85,0.16399999999999998,0.733,0.103,-0.7133,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,2,4,7,4,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,14,10,9,0,0,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,1,0,5,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,1,11,3,8,9,1,9,0,0,1,0,13,3,1,3,4,42,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320399980836967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393835333039358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223072407287345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296778899779441,0.0,0.1410617328438835,0.0,0.0,0.27364904488356706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450529822882074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4979436282082865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756044509686334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17568216074374818,0.0,0.0,0.20751212891936685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894629437677144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851623017353118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392626479886358,0.0,0.3613952397296956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ObviousParticular,2018/03/18,"Where do dispose of wet wipes/baby wipes and diapers? What is your system?  Normal trash can? 

Diaper genie that gets emptied into the normal trash can?

Washing reusable cloth diapers?

what about the wipes?",3.5563809523809518,6.678392685714287,4.2164285714285725,75.22273809523813,93.57142857142858,6.904761904761906,22.97619047619048,7.793537801064563,2.4797619047619053,164,6,22,4,6,52,27,35,0.075,0.925,0.0,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25761905355100645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9662465644169108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,antiquehumidifier,2018/03/18,My 2yo shoplifts - he has sticky fingers So my 2yo has sticky fingers it’s often small things - trinkets he finds at stores. He just plays with them and we later find it in his stroller on in his pockets. I’m curious on what other parents do in this situation. I have heard horror stories of parents going back to the store to return the item and getting arrested so I’m always terrified to do that and often it’s an inexpensive item (under $5). I’ve tried talking to him about it but he doesn’t seem to get it quite yet. ,2.7656813417190764,4.540828943396232,4.142955974842767,86.33715932914049,75.60377358490567,6.5979035639413,26.872117400419288,7.3871296695380915,1.4042444444444442,412,16,83,5,9,136,73,106,0.068,0.901,0.031,-0.597,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,1,8,1,0,0,3,0,6,2,2,0,0,12,13,6,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,0,3,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,1,15,12,2,13,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,3,4,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970718477486655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937936972962293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4606973915119406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633480781554387,0.0,0.14323311495903782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5596937342674144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680624162779241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22943649662675974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832896252582217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257026921770915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743596431510624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111022303704573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Darksecretbox,2018/03/18,"Toddler will not eat anything. What to do. My two year old boy will not eat anything. He has a very small menu and now he’s getting so sick of those five food items he won’t even eat those. 

He just wants to snack, alll day. I try to “starve him” but I swear he can go days without eating if I really wanted to go that far.

I tried to give him a donut this morning and he wouldn’t even eat that!! I know it’s not the best thing but I’m at the point where I’m trying to find anything and he still wouldn’t try that. 

I don’t know what to do. I also don’t have any more meal ideas. 

What would you do and what do you feed your toddlers?",-0.8226861702127657,1.0667935531914914,0.9021941489361716,104.29031250000004,88.64539007092199,3.808687943262412,14.486258865248224,4.557286568694721,-1.4737485815602835,485,8,127,1,16,156,82,141,0.085,0.915,0.0,-0.8752,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,3,0,1,8,1,0,0,4,0,15,10,0,0,0,21,25,9,0,6,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,12,4,9,0,4,0,0,2,9,0,0,2,0,0,13,1,10,19,3,13,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,6,77,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248979667790134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715344223274518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316395178464782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449639500775126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530566449808914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6557002375070509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692974232442105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713625074971087,0.0,0.15497202070104502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695850049428899,0.12294309911595006,0.14567297647978247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467745106783322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086716859169165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448274298015492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115296894068535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210281082408896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234903213220753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514405100566144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480498975820548,0.0,0.12519405306459874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574572222579487,0.15118460625344782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354201735035013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104144538755443,0.0,0.0,0.0825310724249671
parenting,goofyasiankid,2018/03/18,"[Off topic] Toys R Us / Babies R Us Gift cards FYI, looks like due to the impending bankruptcy, Toys R Us and Babies R Us gift cards must be used by April 12 or you will lose the balance. Sorry if this is too far off topic or against sub rules but i figured it would be a good heads up for at least a few people on here.",6.725652173913044,3.7053091014492807,7.232173913043479,84.17695652173914,66.68115942028984,10.359420289855073,30.24637681159421,7.793537801064563,1.6752376811594196,244,5,59,2,3,81,53,69,0.043,0.794,0.163,0.8056,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,6,1,1,1,1,9,8,5,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,9,3,2,8,0,1,1,0,5,6,0,3,3,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291269907590524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710231470651575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906729449079374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309420443696992,0.20395788439270995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263905681863918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20408074632074327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8771843289290236,0.1574570176004242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950755673374714,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeepDishBedPan,2018/03/18,"Self-feeding ain't happening; except at daycare! My daughter is a little over 11 month now. She's familiar with the concept of self-feeding and is capable of pinching food, bringing it to her mouth, chewing, etc. Every weekday we hear from our sitter how great she has done eating anything any everything via self-feeding. At home, however, she seems offended and upset at the idea. We have been careful about making sure time in the high chair is fun. She observes us eating the same food and feeds us sometimes, but would really just prefer puree and formula still. Our best guess is she does better at daycare due to peer pressure and watching other kids, but I don't want to just accept that she'll regress at home. Any thoughts would be appreciated.",6.724812150279777,7.791027892086332,6.393045563549162,76.73586730615509,65.0431654676259,8.767705835331737,34.86890487609912,8.841846274778883,3.1034981614708235,603,27,101,9,9,188,101,139,0.049,0.7709999999999999,0.18,0.9675,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,6,0,0,2,6,10,1,2,5,0,14,7,1,2,2,27,23,8,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,3,8,6,0,5,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,2,15,7,16,16,3,15,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,2,5,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222301960173107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025474789110758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060453951095567,0.11849509257454775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660231207782178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724746416103501,0.1371088325068014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741915274281956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494239613263593,0.0,0.0,0.11288456711422958,0.0,0.12041326611487292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240201286658567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477142586317312,0.14759491000436933,0.0,0.11847874177551715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100605163272904,0.0,0.0,0.14155802682653412,0.2687872486910273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512479675298297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428391747233268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894331963081891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694216274341717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583150431512182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197105007086455,0.4193134519732042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325103954900721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699720636758836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262752787692215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636575601513544,0.07812525740442312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32232471039259963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902532235970372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19035217270159804,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,espressoconpana,2018/03/18,"How late into the morning should I try to keep my two year old quiet out of respect for our neighbor? Hi!

I’m a SAHM to a very active little two year old girl, who also happens to be an early bird.

She wakes up around 4am, but spends a decent chunk of time nursing and playing in bed with us, so she isn’t really up and about until around 6am, when she has breakfast (in her high chair). Around 7am is when she really starts to get active. She doesn’t yell or play with any loud toys, but she does love running back and forth around the house to entertain herself.

Problem is, we live in a bungalow style apartment that was originally two bedrooms, and has been converted to a one bedroom and a  studio, so we share one wall with a neighbor. He’s a late 30s bachelor that works a typical 9-5 schedule, and lately he’s been banging on our shared wall to indicate our daughter is making too much noise.

I feel for him and do my best, especially on weekends, but I feel that during the work week, it is perfectly acceptable for her to be up and about making a normal amount of noise after 7am.

On the weekend we try to keep her quiet or even out of the house until 9am, but he will still hit on the wall at that time occasionally.

I just want to know what time the rest of you feel is appropriate and if you’ve had any of the same problems before and how you resolved them?",9.30956479690522,5.417706790780144,9.262791747259833,74.31409090909092,62.65248226950354,12.240361057382335,37.3384912959381,9.573946990214177,3.2459744680851066,1073,33,228,14,11,355,157,282,0.024,0.8170000000000001,0.159,0.9903,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,7,2,1,5,18,13,0,0,19,0,18,3,1,5,1,51,33,26,0,6,8,1,3,0,2,2,0,4,6,1,7,23,1,2,6,6,1,1,2,2,0,5,4,7,27,11,45,24,5,49,0,0,0,1,33,24,0,3,24,154,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880678890277023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497791961292987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39214269416386016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468025653378855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370929212490492,0.0,0.11557066141319225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963721870520016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273732198827686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670493595879148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057536398569750215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738424234398506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635438546715073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541417172096661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957704679451208,0.0,0.0,0.06052248405842853,0.0,0.37268147932671397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103753919568349,0.09724345957618878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939320264752972,0.0,0.14702019843147274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095543441908161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790030217220713,0.0,0.0,0.23111786087621325,0.0,0.14924873772938696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21075181703781198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109933801980806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794789708458727,0.0,0.08794693224184626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19264643309617085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953693318707054,0.0,0.32273191077367025,0.0,0.13246826915921098,0.0,0.0,0.0908656552359377,0.06495529095481345,0.0,0.0883366016255871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034638254705388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183533509197505
parenting,Gifteducation,2018/03/18,"Reluctant about gifted education I have a 6th grade son who is on the autism spectrum. He is high functioning and very intelligent but has a difficult time relating to his peers. He is social when it comes to speaking to adults though. He was identified as gifted this year and I am thinking about putting him the the Gifted and Talented program next year. I do have some concerns though. 

The gifted program is a combined 7th and 8th grade class and it is in the local high school. It used to be in the middle school but the high school has better lab equipment and things like that. My son is young for his grade (late August born) and very small (well below 3rd percentile for height and weight). I am concerned about him being in class with kids who may be 2 years older than him and being in a school with kids who are much bigger than him. The gifted class is self contained but the kids eat lunch and have gym with the 7-9th grade. A mini bus will transport the kids back to the middle school for after school activities. 

I am also worried that this will be putting him in a bubble. He has difficulty relating to his peers but does well with other gifted kids (especially those on the spectrum). That will be great in class but I think it will further isolate him from everyone else if the majority of his social interactions are limited to gifted kids. He does play an instrument in his school orchestra and will continue to do that, but even there the only kid he interacts with has ASD. He doesn't hang out with any friends outside of school and kinda just hangs out on the weekends. I also think it may be important to note that he doesn't want to be in the Gifted program but he notoriously hates change. 

Are my concerns valid? The general ed teachers say that they can no longer accommodate him in the classroom because he is moving so far ahead and becomes frustrated in class. I don't think we have much of a choice but to move forward with the Gifted program but I can't help but be nervous about it.",5.855891472868215,6.688494981912142,5.81464186046512,80.94605581395352,66.88113695090439,8.775979328165375,29.69188630490956,8.841846274778883,2.2294058708010343,1606,55,305,25,25,504,179,387,0.08199999999999999,0.8420000000000001,0.077,0.2793,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,1,0,1,3,16,12,2,1,28,0,46,3,0,1,0,49,54,31,0,2,12,2,1,1,1,7,0,2,0,9,20,24,3,2,4,4,0,9,5,4,2,0,1,3,25,8,50,37,4,52,0,0,0,0,46,28,0,5,18,209,45,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365619969705887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580635755945976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565449146055008,0.0,0.05204887047650315,0.09429915259566504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551459503117282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032421569761202,0.07355015725300268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494390118980216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736843739622661,0.07132679552052981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639486795174156,0.0,0.0,0.08158740733690527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596692995447498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413539564001372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429833712842222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057230629811021935,0.27063645009161474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631608753333497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04171397014418191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149788221501836,0.1255331076053584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080611395210032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493785128060248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716676099210933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790023149404535,0.0,0.6912997077465205,0.0,0.0,0.08907340894577268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740750545770926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05672487414547616,0.21884069791041214,0.16777732809397564,0.0,0.04978769201677772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374376159876422,0.0,0.14090033804667915,0.0503612857338087,0.0,0.0,0.10397386358849448,0.1535396913660652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671089124439052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495214784011678
parenting,KhalCarlos,2018/03/18,"Father sucks at Fathering, impacting my life goals. Hi there, I couldn't really think of a proper title for this little post but I'll just start with this. My dad's a typical old fashioned European ""come from nothing, made it something"". He left his country and family at the age of 18 to come to Canada to make something for himself. My mom's been having on and off affairs throughout the majority of their 30 year marriage, and I think he took that out on me and my two other brothers as kids. Hes a good man, well received by everyone he comes across, a hard worker, treasured by his grandkids. However , He was also an extremely aggressive and violent person in his past, my older brother was terrified of being left alone with him. But we loved him none the less. ""I love you"" was never said throughout any of our lives and that's probably cause he is emotionally crippled and it in turn made us emotionally crippled. I have a 2 year old boy and a 1 year old girl and to be honest it took a while for me to get used to telling them I love them on a regular basis. So, my wife and I plan to co-own a house with my parents. We aren't really in the best financial position and it would take 15-20 years before we can even think about buying our own house. I'm very keen on setting ourselves up for the future and given how my parents plan to retire in the next 10 or so years, the mortgage would be transferred to my name. I was all fine with the idea, my wife wasn't so fine but after some discussions she is on board and committed. However, last night really kind of threw me off this whole idea. 
It was my mom's birthday and me and my brothers took her out to a restaurant , we came home to our dad watching some sappy movie about Gerard butler and his leukemia stricken son. He had 7 beers. When he drinks he becomes a miserable open faucet of words and it's something we learned to tolerate and not take seriously. But last night really got to us. He started off with something like ""why can't I have one son who is successful and smart and has passion for good stuff. Not just some punks and their loud music and long hair (referring to my younger brother who at the time was scratching a portable dj set) "" we laughed it off. But then he got a little serious , telling him ""you're going to cut your hair, get a job before the summer or the door is right there (said brother is 19 years old and in his 1st year of college)"" 
I got way pissed off because first of all, we just came back from the best dinner weve all had in a long time. And because there's a time and place for these kind of coversatioms and that last night was not one of them. It also didn't need the assistance of alcohol. So I told him ""stop, you're drunk and listen to what the hell you're saying and how you're saying it. "" I bit my tongue before I said more. So we let him go off, pretty much bashing the 3 of us for ""not living up to his expectations"" and to sum it up, being failures.
So this whole thing kind of put me off from wanting to go through with this home buying process (we're 3 months into selling our current house and the markets picking up) my wife and I are aware of what we'd be sacrificing to get this house but we decided that it's more important our little family is set up in the future. But last night really worried me and now I'm having cold feet.  Cold feet because my parents marriage is only getting worse, I don't want the kids being subject to whatever shit they spew as a result of their bitterness. I also don't want nights like last night to be a thing of the household. 
So I humbly ask you sirs and Madam's of Reddit, what advice can you give me ?  Should we go through with this? Am I overreacting? I do plan to talk about my dad with this but knowing him he prefers to pretend those instances never happen. ( I havent been able to properly talk about this with my wife because she's visiting her mom with the kids for the week.)
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parenting,allyc1057,2018/03/18,"9 5 month old, no stranger anxiety? Hi, first time in this sub so please forgive me if this isn't the right place for such a question.

As per title, my son is 9. 5months old. He is a very sociable, incredible alert, laid back but smiley kid with lots of eye contact. So sociable that he shows zero stranger anxiety, he smiles and laughs with literally any random who shows him any attention. My parental anxiety is playing up, I'm worried he's not developing that deeper layer of social understanding, though over the last month or so he has been screaming the house down when set down by himself at play times, so in some ways he is developing as expected.  He's also hyperactive, he'll obsess about an object (eg mobile phone) for about 20 seconds max before getting bored and looking for something new; he ALWAYS is doing something. 

It's odd, but there's nothing online about a lack of  stranger anxiety being any sort of red flag - every single forum post and article I've read is aimed at assuring worried parents that stranger anxiety is normal (in fact ""a positive development stepl"" ). Has anyone here come across this?

Edit : many thanks for all the replies of reassurance, I shall try to chill out :)",6.747155669442666,7.574960515695068,6.91990070467649,73.82086322869958,64.91928251121075,9.958872517616912,34.76265214606022,9.957137785484203,3.5322930172966043,957,42,166,20,14,308,153,223,0.108,0.6970000000000001,0.195,0.98,2,0,2,0,0,0,33,0,0,0,1,14,10,0,1,9,0,14,1,1,0,3,26,21,16,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,8,7,0,0,4,5,0,1,3,3,0,3,1,4,6,7,29,17,5,28,0,0,3,0,23,13,0,7,11,94,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052237551079904,0.10459260584326488,0.0,0.0,0.2564412653108837,0.0,0.4808014059376818,0.0,0.0,0.08789247714577371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665566689083124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696158106921096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108279560789624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590780933573994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692049504428812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567314745954833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504111210314924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024624104072615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555647912763873,0.0,0.0,0.10686578411236687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744023658887788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066534285985327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140200140581997,0.0,0.0,0.12315947177150445,0.12061269723926316,0.0,0.26380235355639536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27915031239403065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313299171689024,0.13798103271127524,0.0,0.0,0.12038601010695113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081295119768714,0.0,0.12573417996715186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073472530008606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813548711527678,0.0,0.1935402543684508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572782240161973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349977263801612,0.0,0.14659355263542076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534215998884462,0.0,0.0,0.13085830348445926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103715799453176,0.0,0.0997749390980663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553092357728754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XBlueYoshiX,2018/03/18,"PSA for parents with/of peanut allergies! I just saw an ad for this pop up on my Facebook feed and figured it would help many of you that suffer (especially if you post in JustNoMIL too). The company Nima is coming out with a [peanut tester will detect even trace amounts of peanuts in food](https://nimasensor.com/peanut/). It's not available yet, and it looks to be about $300 when it does come out.

I know how deadly allergies can be, so if this ends up helping even one of you or your children, then this post is totally worth it!",8.302647058823528,7.1329271078431375,7.405215686274508,78.30547058823531,62.235294117647065,10.512941176470589,36.08627450980392,9.3871,3.015683921568627,423,16,84,6,5,130,77,102,0.034,0.8909999999999999,0.075,0.49,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,4,0,0,9,1,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,1,1,17,12,9,1,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,7,1,0,2,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,1,2,7,0,15,7,2,15,0,1,2,0,8,7,0,3,4,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.412737304667903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964963667873765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121882309189351,0.0,0.0,0.3164679269880672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896894305453566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211579250795334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316616046795495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20117876526125614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428867432244596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233907622560434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26601453380146145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4588843634839284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701839103022613,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CitizenJosh,2018/03/18,"PROTIP: create an email account for each of your children Created a GMail account for each of my children, which I share sparingly and have set the security settings to be very restrictive.

* Scheduling: Everyone involved in their care has access to view or edit their calendar, or is simply invited to events with them.
* Scrap book: they have their own collection of pictures and other files, which are shared with select people
* Journal: write them notes and summaries, or include them on threads. 

When they are big enough to take over the email address they will be able to look back at their life with a great deal of detail.",6.8510135135135135,8.711509630630633,5.7671959459459465,78.42755067567569,65.30630630630631,8.793243243243245,32.79391891891892,9.188382445141503,3.051927027027027,503,21,82,9,8,150,80,111,0.0,0.846,0.154,0.9468,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,1,10,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,0,0,13,12,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,3,8,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,13,5,18,9,4,11,0,0,2,0,20,5,0,3,4,60,16,2,0.3191015763136622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24536941522040245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32534532405700645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289797134761896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297172295601599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049152309653346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35181061441333816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22539088030509474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679649563178404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212248543804108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23992467270670986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263292219479336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BaconCPA,2018/03/18,"How to tell our kids we're moving? We have a 6, 4 and 1 year old. I just accepted a job about 3 hours from home and will be moving everyone once school is out. Any tips on how to share this with the 6 and 4 year old? The oldest is very emotional so I'm more worried about him. ",-0.2341397849462368,1.3463714999999965,2.143225806451614,98.1015053763441,84.0,6.068817204301076,16.78494623655914,7.1686216300943375,-0.27500860215053713,211,4,55,3,6,72,47,62,0.048,0.838,0.114,0.4208,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,10,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,8,4,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,6,30,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904371867418226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24653774798933986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094271746435304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984626950355046,0.0,0.2158391748272712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21749328646834348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4658879343857006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599659542474325,0.23340984141577795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218126383576164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915650153599604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083893499387207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22257867429402697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28227773052350497
parenting,enokeenu,2018/03/18,"Dating at 13? Hi:

My 13 year old girl has had a crush on a boy since she was 11. The boy has had a crush on her and has been giving her valentine cards and gifts in school.  Only her.  The boy is one year older.  We are considering letting her do a very limited form of dating. Hanging out with him in groups or with a parent present.  While I am not that comfortable with the idea, I do believe that kids need to start learning these skills in a very controlled fashion.  She still says that kissing boys is yucky.  What do other parents say about this?
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parenting,newaddiction,2018/03/18,"Just uninstalled utube.... So...just uninstalled utube off our devices. DD (4.5) won't know till tomorrow. And then I'm expecting the whole neighborhood will know.  

My greatest regret as a parent is introducing her to utube...so much structure less nonesense and toy marketing  ( along with good stuff which is why I showed it to her.) It just sucks away her time and attention. 

This is NOT going to be easy.  But I think it might be worth it.  ",2.956666666666667,5.737758000000002,2.9249382716049404,90.12222222222223,80.1111111111111,6.562962962962962,23.814814814814817,7.793537801064563,1.3201703703703702,342,12,66,6,9,103,60,81,0.062,0.7979999999999999,0.14,0.765,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,14,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,4,2,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,9,9,4,7,0,1,0,0,5,2,1,1,4,45,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950794478295335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784934269992025,0.26342732239771194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452097194855506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331790266586274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308778567289336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34873797420359776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595354288907537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012436092057012,0.0,0.0,0.18313695635498176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833996551866761,0.3506483480248027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Darfoz11,2018/03/18,"Question about my child I have a 14 year old boy, and a few months ago he stopped the only sport he used to participate in, so for the last like 2 months he's had absolutely no extracurricular activities or sports, and everytime I ask him to sign up for something he says he is uninterested. So my question is how do I approach this issue, do I approach it at his own pace and wait for him to want to do an activity, or do I force him to do sign up for something?",8.330625000000001,5.138330812500001,9.257500000000004,71.43750000000004,63.79166666666666,12.516666666666667,38.583333333333336,10.686352973137794,3.681133333333333,362,14,81,7,4,126,61,96,0.048,0.91,0.042,-0.1513,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,2,0,14,13,8,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,2,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,11,1,14,12,2,13,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,4,8,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20829774129420214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196768466151811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452606008311841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915420386568027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114800543191702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751214587512635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465745262180247,0.0,0.0,0.1787147225485298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5264681873963487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18686745546913447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618019011707927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645582870142386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294936826381854,0.0,0.0,0.1385987221568775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132097717886914
parenting,richthehusband,2018/03/18,"Timeout = Pee Hey everyone. Long time lurker first time poster. I really need some help. I have a four year old who is potty trained but lately every time my wife or I put her on timeout she just pees on herself. 

This has evolved into her peeing anytime we ask her to do something she doesn’t want to do. It’s like she’s using pee as a weapon against us...and we’re losing. 

Any insights or advice would be appreciated. ",0.06970135746606232,2.432564694117648,1.9529411764705884,92.70669683257921,96.1764705882353,4.027149321266968,19.479638009049765,5.873414542411696,0.0021131221719459248,329,11,67,3,13,108,68,85,0.073,0.797,0.13,0.6036,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,2,0,8,4,4,1,0,12,12,4,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,12,1,7,10,1,12,0,1,0,0,13,3,0,3,9,39,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252655335951744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567643285419276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21550896388326427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422654069815726,0.22027570637307964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608372614292688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451548001448318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260041284666486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262245656602525,0.0,0.0,0.20400662057171956,0.0,0.2578975605764094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093073793453548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418963194529989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317404442121685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767967484143055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746875479530935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032614610142254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772921714699054,0.19909885246994447,0.0,0.0,0.13596911767354605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637577436993563,0.0,0.0,0.1484499960195966
parenting,bandedcello,2018/03/18,"Having a baby changes you 🤱🏻 Before motherhood seeing a crying baby on TV or even real life was just another noise. A fact of life. 

Now.. Seeing a baby cry makes my heart ache a little and then the love for my own baby overwhelms me. 
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parenting,UnreasonableDoubter,2018/03/18,"I've stayed up past my bedtime I've stayed up past my bedtime and it has been great. I've gotten a little drunk, am tending to a piece of a meal that is two days in the making, and managed to get a little bit of homework done towards my degree. 

My three kids and wife went to bed a couple hours ago and this extra time has been great! Everyone should do it once in a while!",3.7026249999999976,3.7379490125,4.662499999999998,90.1325,71.375,6.9,24.75,5.6839178017228535,0.4791999999999996,291,7,66,1,5,95,52,80,0.027000000000000003,0.862,0.111,0.8261,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,9,2,0,1,0,6,14,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,4,2,10,8,3,17,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,7,43,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865781378700734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077193273904748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052381873976425,0.0,0.12270472730897147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19470642770438215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180568333055516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940523900515624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4195341043073775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873720004854557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813896069444101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700289144748164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262526000697745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632575885921484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40559283676587976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094463795354673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858605655001504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637690362582026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burgundyfields4ever,2018/03/18,"I invaded my 12yo daughter's privacy out of concern and read long discussion about desire to self harm and suicide ideation. I realize this will be controversial as I admit I invaded my daughter's privacy.

For backstory, she got a smart phone when she was 10 or 11 and I told her at the time that for safety reasons I will reserve the right to look through it if I need to. She reluctantly agreed. However, when a time came where I actually did read her texts out of concern (over a year ago), she was hurt that I invaded her privacy. I understand. It's just hard as a concerned parent to know where to draw the line between privacy and safety. I haven't looked at her texts since then.

Secondary backstory, she's 12 now, and a month ago she came to me to tell me that her uncle had been sexually assaulting her for the past couple years (ages 10-11). Police report was filed, the uncle is currently under investigation. My daughter has been going to therapy twice a month. She tells me she has depression all the time. I try to validate her and comfort her to the best of my abilities and bring it up at her therapy meetings (I get invited in for 5-10 minutes for updates then she has the rest of the appointment alone.) She says it ""kind of"" helps her feel better but that her life is still so effed up that just talking about it doesn't actually fix it. She has fears about the long uncertain process about the investigation, fears about going to court, fears about him not going to prison, fears about how the aftermath is rippling through the family and tearing everyone apart. Depression about school, she is too preoccupied to keep up, her grades are falling, her teachers are coming down hard on her, she just can't handle all the pressure.

With all that said, the last couple of days she has been locking herself in her room all day and just crying. She has a male friend who they recently admitted they liked each other so for the last couple days they have been texting nonstop, while she has been locked in her room and crying. I have tried to do my thing that she wanted before of staying with her and hugging her and consoling her but since texting this new boy crush she just says ""I just want to be alone"" and looking at her phone so I will leave the room. I relented and left her alone. Then, out of concern, I looked through the texts. (I can see them from my phone from an sms-backup-to-email app. I almost never look for saved sms because it's out of sight, out of mind, but concern drove me to look.)

She's basically telling him over and over that she just wants to cut herself and kill herself. He's trying to remind her how great she is, not to think that way, he thinks she's a ""legendary warrior,"" trying to support her, but she seems to just be stuck in a downward spiral, she sends him youtube links and images of depression and self harm. It's intense and unrelenting. 

I eventually insisted around 1am last night that she put the phone away and just talk to me. I tried to talk to her about her feelings by being vague, only mentioning that she is locked in her room crying for days, but I think she was suspicious that I had read her texts. She said ""Remember when you used to read my texts? I don't like when you invade my privacy without my permission."" I responded ""I know. I just see you locking yourself in your room for two days and crying and I just want you to talk know that you can talk to me."" I didn't admit that I read these texts and I'm not sure if I should. She did end up tearfully talking about her depression and her fears about going to court and the stresses of school and I continued to try my best to comfort her, I held her and let her cry, and tried to answer some of her fears to the best of my ability.

But I don't know how else to address the topic of cutting and suicide ideation since she hasn't said those things to me. She mentioned these topics in her text messages several times. Every time he would try to redirect the conversation to a more positive direction, she would continue to talk about how she just wants to cut herself or kill herself, that she doesn't belong in this world and should never have been born. 

What can I do? I don't think she will want to hear that I read her texts but I do want the topic of self harm and suicide ideation on the table so that we can bring it up to her therapist.

I don't believe she has ever cut yet because I saw her getting dressed after a shower and saw no marks.

Additional backstory, I used to self harm starting at the age of 11 up to about 20. It started as burn marks followed by other cuts that I could pass off as accidental injury. I believe I had undiagnosed depression but it wasn't something that was talked about in my family so there was no diagnosis or counseling or anything. But I feel the thoughts may have a genetic link and she may be following in my footsteps and I want to help her somehow. 

What can I do?",5.5501733607964265,5.950898362512878,5.887720391349128,81.67482809818058,67.4346035015448,9.39815310676279,31.116392035702034,9.343489712594472,2.545673106762787,3894,145,783,71,60,1248,354,971,0.168,0.752,0.08,-0.9986,5,3,1,0,0,3,99,1,6,4,4,49,43,8,9,40,0,74,2,0,7,8,141,139,70,5,17,31,4,5,2,1,10,1,6,7,6,43,48,0,2,23,6,0,16,19,27,0,2,32,22,162,16,135,90,11,117,0,6,11,1,144,48,0,13,53,561,205,10,0.0,0.0,0.08853047637340315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041857192643767,0.0,0.045421920219607066,0.14093918228859634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03732777047187877,0.040380401336642106,0.0,0.0,0.04261761891842259,0.0,0.0,0.055302596498468144,0.0,0.038598386569916425,0.10221134689527887,0.14280892420214228,0.0401176158149239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376049981065873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03907399557112309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036216613838342016,0.1505713652935089,0.24913152225134755,0.14626862991465225,0.0,0.19534436752292128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03789282030607493,0.0,0.040175878949648414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04103110756250722,0.038218120232055855,0.04334383653287845,0.0,0.0,0.08552355638887782,0.3062585808444661,0.06880679184980935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035045357143359636,0.0,0.04739790694130715,0.0,0.1031175150590605,0.0,0.03627888112283525,0.05001003627594082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812680745220692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112450341619986,0.0,0.06080828265468221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04855928048639218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0403184360343223,0.1003691943198658,0.04723590954399975,0.09971562831763092,0.11092441845710506,0.0,0.048030147823772684,0.04928424195241963,0.046384114853025946,0.03203941449896367,0.0443216315380803,0.0,0.0,0.08028510959541947,0.2285480307377792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045801105385747866,0.0,0.07241252791390297,0.0,0.0,0.033634185473592634,0.06996952288415521,0.0438093877613055,0.0,0.04256769251251572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03449865245846123,0.0,0.0,0.05036739154933478,0.0,0.04330166486225437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04559976266732076,0.0,0.0,0.27223624229806104,0.0,0.0,0.04663807873429985,0.044787954150923515,0.0,0.051384526823934455,0.03873756097401716,0.12944447443568546,0.07214487211903946,0.0,0.09181435746591647,0.07229278273511057,0.041294433558144064,0.1892832927429189,0.051244376682438766,0.0,0.11256785396036847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03492067656572706,0.0,0.0,0.06421269429658524,0.04834818497869305,0.03622489948792229,0.0,0.0519602214531694,0.0,0.0,0.14885085051787114,0.05147448054359681,0.04275167022127102,0.0,0.0,0.2916719753326432,0.11894105039587287,0.0,0.10374721409432518,0.052666957559077576,0.060270910733977064,0.1162605326800146,0.0,0.03601111609744164,0.13225016301923626,0.0,0.0,0.04334383653287845,0.0,0.2463740456364127,0.0,0.044310550810998495,0.047221809300933316,0.0,0.07835369825780854,0.0,0.0,0.21403806373382775,0.03600499946616431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04372583763440674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444549869585939,0.0,0.0,0.05842126185156305
parenting,Understated_rye,2018/03/18,"YouTube Kids is getting worse, not better Besides Ryan's Toy Review, it also has chemtrails and David Icke, it seems. 

https://amp.businessinsider.com/youtube-suggested-conspiracy-videos-to-children-using-its-kids-app-2018-3?__twitter_impression=true
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parenting,nightshaded,2018/03/18,"Toddler throws up when upset My 20 month old has in the last 6-8 months, started throwing up when she gets herself worked up over something. We have had times she has taken a hard fall and she was surprised, tears and throw up. 

Most recently we were at the doctors and they wanted to do weight and height. She did not want to get on the scale, refused to let go of me. Got so worked up again and threw up. It probably didn’t help she has been getting the same nurse who gives her vaccinations so maybe she’s scared that’s what is going to happen. 

In the room, while waiting for the doctor she clung to me while I explained no one was trying to hurt her, that this is a normal thing that happens when you go to the doctors. She didn’t do this for her 18 month check up, got weight and height just fine then! We have been practicing deep breathing and I finally got her to do it a few times (as best as a toddler can do). 

When we were leaving and about to walk past the weight scale, she completely stopped walking and clung to my leg. I picked her up and we walked over to the scale and talked about it some more. I asked her if she wanted to touch it and she said “no” so we checked out. I was hoping examining the scale with just me around would help her a bit. 

Has anyone else had a child who throws up when anxious or just gets crying so hard they can’t calm down? And any tips on how to deal with this in the future? I keep hoping she will grow out of it, but this last instance makes me think this is what she’s gonna keep on doing especially if it is something she does not want to do. I have previously talked to her doctor about it and just got a ‘that’s kids, she will eventually grow out of it’ answer.  ",3.70728813559322,4.367293076271189,4.029166666666669,92.44680084745764,71.62711864406779,7.0299435028248585,23.789548022598872,6.816661863887847,0.4743920903954808,1335,32,307,10,24,416,168,354,0.066,0.892,0.042,-0.5227,0,0,2,0,0,0,29,6,1,2,3,19,9,0,2,18,0,35,9,2,3,0,59,67,33,0,10,10,0,6,0,0,4,4,1,1,2,22,26,3,5,4,0,2,14,7,3,0,1,19,7,46,6,50,43,7,64,0,1,0,0,47,27,0,7,23,218,68,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349582219689501,0.0,0.0,0.10548321844348732,0.0,0.06528752415716436,0.09567013641333257,0.0,0.08312043136800225,0.0872897487575368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798762922902554,0.0,0.10193749555819427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789824182517072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256420893027736,0.0,0.09626191710442754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822787490744875,0.08171002932206019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799990751288205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228391485372897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951310210147353,0.0895704513994354,0.15919552647303492,0.0,0.2987108744500952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513621908652878,0.0,0.16728504886333728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516989721986999,0.0,0.0,0.1854779360440038,0.0,0.0,0.0999561224589942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598575964201928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222047009940345,0.0,0.09886693726736703,0.0,0.09547868539156734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06232620163683026,0.0,0.09380422225221297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358472269031324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914842458601969,0.0,0.0,0.09797768301583328,0.0,0.0632709452238969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913366244919423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006702698880748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219309233900357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888176788503512,0.0,0.0934811608077042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376388563388615,0.0,0.0,0.06608882864656616,0.0,0.0,0.07806275533143008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009695053233127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203187602551851,0.059828687355489074,0.0,0.0,0.10889134565061903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339311978493029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202917207088754,0.0,0.0,0.3411039996038508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359511288514847,0.0,0.0,0.06632843500821067,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emergency_Hovercraft,2018/03/18,"bad mom most days i feel just fed up. I have 3 young kids. 6, 3 and 4. I feel like i could do so much more but im so drained even just waking up. I love my babies with everything i have, but sometimes I just don't want to do this. with each child i had i was using some sort of birth control, but all 3 happened. 
I just want to find the motivation some of these moms have. be more involved. play with them more, do good for them. I don't want to be a half ass mom. ",-1.2457051282051277,0.5732391730769244,0.951538461538462,103.67679487179493,89.96153846153845,4.235897435897436,15.397435897435901,5.46131890053228,-1.1678564102564102,350,7,95,2,12,116,63,104,0.141,0.6890000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.7248,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,2,2,7,5,0,0,2,0,13,4,2,3,1,27,22,6,0,4,7,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,2,14,4,11,16,9,5,0,0,0,2,9,2,1,4,4,63,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760367644026127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170630828595974,0.1507065944051885,0.0,0.0,0.12173223692941068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467179573354048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696420455015086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088177446070825,0.1348475814693019,0.0,0.0,0.17251989364770365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831987948274595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691662598097431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038892598110363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922168231602332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035998465509045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6632075033813536,0.0,0.0,0.13875764336006832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866848667629751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302489067855194,0.0,0.0,0.33400017533102344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,westcoaster86,2018/03/18,"Our 15 month old twin boys keep biting each other. How to make it stop? Sometimes they do it out of anger, sometimes because of hunger, sometimes it seems like play. Of course we do our best to talk to them and tell them not to, and why. And what to do instead. But they keep doing it. 

Will they grow out of it, or do we need to try some new tactics? And if so, what should we try?",0.5848750000000003,2.481429737500001,1.4375000000000036,102.5675,82.875,4.0,17.5,3.1291,-1.1323749999999997,289,6,71,0,8,89,50,80,0.086,0.8079999999999999,0.105,0.4098,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,5,1,3,4,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,23,12,9,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,10,1,3,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,3,12,10,3,7,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,4,5,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272816667265439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191212112602686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711795151172143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200843163598794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393746629382534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666610218747913,0.0,0.0,0.1548214896632263,0.0,0.20165895439223636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219098969408932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008237090476185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6195213568214717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745649490361392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782437673966427,0.18249914826346228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28352103836239245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840822763424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tiny09,2018/03/18,"How do you deal with your child not being included in events going on in your social circle?? I have two little girls, a baby and a 2 year old.  I already have anxiety around my babies getting older and having friends and being invited to parties, etc.  We have a lot of friends at church but for some reason we never get invited to birthday parties.  Which is really not a big deal now, but as my girls get older it makes me so sad to think about them having friends and hearing about birthday parties, etc and not being invited.  It kills me to think about their little hearts hurting over something like not being included.  How do you mamas handle it that have older kids?  All I can think is that maybe I need to get them more involved and invite more people to OUR house for play dates and get togethers.  I don't care about them being ""popular"" or anything like that but I do care about them having good friends as they grow up.  ",6.7763333333333335,6.532183966666674,6.770000000000002,78.58500000000002,64.8888888888889,9.2,31.333333333333336,8.548686976883017,2.3789333333333342,734,24,135,9,10,234,100,180,0.103,0.7170000000000001,0.18,0.9329,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,3,4,6,0,10,14,1,0,4,0,19,1,1,4,2,31,33,16,1,1,8,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,4,7,11,0,0,4,1,0,2,6,3,0,1,0,1,23,11,24,28,7,21,1,2,0,0,26,10,0,3,11,105,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431046863568353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004044027914674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076144482424822,0.11641505920977695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266662120662974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696409678083679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916913322993336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40413737276750455,0.0,0.3416156080886177,0.0,0.0743209033578407,0.10968558842126196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473898697204546,0.15496578766894395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089365935898294,0.1399944360601939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468015810657653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277774660227931,0.2621363698712808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117792046102197,0.0,0.0,0.08729151586989026,0.0,0.1313783375265574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696599250557393,0.10085964824286373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722351510697087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066103682821247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377607454888608,0.13445568933355342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330587627333915,0.0,0.10067489414365097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25138080011024944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774552073605458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421306416521558
parenting,NeedinSomeHelpplz,2018/03/19,"My[49F] daughter[17F] refuses to come home due to a major mistake on my behalf   Let me start off by saying calling the police isn't an option in my state. 17 year olds are allowed to leave home as long as it's to a safe place and the parents know where they are. 

  Last weekend was the weekend of my moms birthday. I had a lot going on at work with different coworkers harassing me so I was very stressed. My daughter wanted to go spend Friday and Saturday at her girlfriends house. Previously I had said yes but that was before I remembered that her grandmas birthday was Sunday. She asked again Friday and this time I said no. Rather than letting it go she kept asking me and bugging me to change my mind. Finally in my drunken state(at night) I said yes. 
  
 I wake up the next morning wondering where the hell my daughter is and then I remember what happened. I'm instantly pissed off and made the wrong decision to call her to yell, I ended up hanging up on her.  I was so pissed off that I didn't go to her band competition and blocked her number. She ended up getting a 100(the highest you can get) and got invited to which is best described as nationals, I only know this bc my sister told me. 

  She came home Sunday night after work and apologized. I ignored her once again(I know it's wrong) and went to my room. We didn't talk at all Monday or Tuesday. Wednesday morning I wake up and she's not there and neither is any of her stuff. I check my phone and there's a text from her saying that she's moved in wth her girlfriends parents who have welcomed her in. 
 It's been almost a week and I've heard nothing. How do I get her to forgive me? 

Tldr: I treated my daughter like shit and she refuses to come home. How do I get her to forgive me? 


Edit: I have made some changes to stop this behavior. I've started therapy again and do not drink anymore ",1.7927439024390246,4.224484775067752,3.0375602981029814,89.71552743902441,82.00813008130079,5.749620596205963,26.027168021680218,7.066338657993696,1.281945745257452,1458,62,289,19,40,470,192,369,0.13,0.795,0.075,-0.9751,4,0,1,0,0,0,37,1,1,1,3,11,17,5,1,13,2,24,6,5,5,1,55,56,26,0,3,5,7,0,1,2,0,0,7,5,0,15,21,1,7,9,4,2,10,7,10,0,0,21,7,60,7,43,33,6,62,1,0,0,0,53,23,4,6,29,193,75,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998599168207835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611107214382172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912111563637802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680217480826526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764677951973249,0.0,0.09430690881736646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352274277994,0.1027806775643511,0.0,0.0,0.1901287658604266,0.15482006147907698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938889375883022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880326810964036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918597415098548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844181257868992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878012923780916,0.0,0.2042875291823468,0.0,0.07187259101268358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946659429548071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36056438350769465,0.0,0.0,0.10369119402151776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816100338196755,0.07325129767273103,0.0,0.09515318730830157,0.0,0.18378441744271404,0.0,0.04390309731115477,0.0,0.0,0.07952696813915831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639930909228368,0.0,0.1700633128250785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073720063672716,0.10524783714661616,0.0,0.09551139770576172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955715709511029,0.16866288372824076,0.0,0.08622710078229928,0.0,0.09429733621490652,0.09570241487921813,0.0,0.06834575548899723,0.0,0.0,0.19956706608145375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938889375883022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035971874817448,0.0,0.25644423096918023,0.14292719970931805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224428555930933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272126529860376,0.0,0.0,0.07513047521403712,0.10293911029911756,0.0,0.102872982014536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222942089216468,0.0,0.0,0.10276751730655374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240052385220559,0.0,0.0,0.08586907147164867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414735676149434,0.05300421946518215,0.0,0.0720836216810759,0.0,0.0,0.08330499171391005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745386581683044,0.13084438120498149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19650473927530648,0.0,0.05786958320579728
parenting,UpToYou1234,2018/03/19,"Daughter believes strongly in fairies, leprechauns and unicorns My daughter's (8yr) father and I are not together.  He strongly encourages her believe in these things.  At his house, she has a ""fairy door"" where she leaves notes to her fairy and he writes her back as the fairy.  When they go on hikes, he sprinkles glitter around and says it is fairy dust.  She gets angry when her friends try to open the fairy door or don't believe her that she has a fairy.

Recently, she has been building leprechaun traps.  She watches YouTube videos about people making potions to make fairies (think dragonfly wings, glitter, melted together over a smelly candle).  She told some kids this week she wants to catch one and 2 of her schoolmates told her that they caught one and got 3 wishes.  She is in second grade, where most kids don't believe in this anymore and I worry A - her dad is encouraging this behavior.  Granted, I don't want to ruin her imagination and innocence, but I don't want to keep lying to her...some day she will find out.  B - I am worried it is negatively impacting her friendships.  She has gotten in arguments with kids about what she believes is real versus what they believe. 

I'm sure she will grow out of it at some point, but I'm worried about the impact it is having with her friends/schoolmates and the wanting to make leprechaun traps, fairy building potions, etc.?
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parenting,lanina619,2018/03/19,"Does anyone have experience with all-girl schools? I'm getting way ahead of myself, but after a convo with an awesome backend engineer at my company, she got me thinking about sending my daughter to a (gasp!) Catholic all girls school. I don't love the public school system in San Diego.  Yes, there are some good schools but, no, I can't afford to live in those districts.  I got coffee with a super smart woman I work with, a young engineer from a top 20 CS school.  She was telling me about her experience at an all-girls Catholic high school and how these young women assumed all of the positions of leadership because, well, who else was going to do it?  When she went to college (again, a TOP 20 CS school!!) she found herself raising her hand and signing up for more leadership & involvement than her female peers.  It really got me thinking.  I'm not religious whatsoever, but neither is she, and she still had great things to say about the experience.

Thoughts?  Experiences?  Also, I know not all catholic schools are the same but the one local to me has a great reputation, STEM classes, & college prep.

EDIT:  Here's where I am at with this - I think I should have clarified that this is a College Prep All Girl's Catholic School.  The college prep & the all-girls is the part I like.  And it's only a high school (9-12) so, keeping in mind my daughter will be a pre-teen with opinions of her own, I'll just ask her if she wants to check it out and she can decide if she wants to go.  If she wants to go, I'll help her prepare for the entrance exam, etc.  ",4.326375558867362,5.56515734098361,4.75058867362146,85.69586810730256,70.672131147541,7.64381520119225,29.60134128166915,8.00094639256281,1.8618196721311469,1219,48,246,16,22,386,164,305,0.023,0.8059999999999999,0.17,0.9943,1,0,0,0,0,0,56,0,0,0,5,14,8,0,0,21,1,19,2,1,1,4,45,41,16,0,7,10,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,11,12,0,1,8,0,1,5,6,0,1,1,9,2,34,8,36,29,11,28,0,0,0,1,32,14,0,6,8,159,45,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060742770220219636,0.0,0.24689807136233116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311088716539625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710095237460247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04630267057762953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647046589113059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345231099368358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471211207621315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972020094694388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328290906572444,0.0,0.0,0.03968438753564267,0.0,0.12950430810321048,0.06370911186316769,0.1822492093949498,0.1674856792898924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050912363223833884,0.16050544139471346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751405467749293,0.0,0.0,0.041743970281399916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03710874415503535,0.0,0.0670714057719451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855414086252841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766948978544369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147041607130085,0.05776870676227675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225400841103725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04865998698382742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060404039938443475,0.0,0.7687251986728704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060659343101312324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638974928648403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05046244302844545,0.14601049914568365,0.0,0.06030135839422291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440418601885562,0.0602911159686946,0.0,0.0,0.06829444793737872,0.07041288231760788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055297586772151366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mherdeg,2018/03/19,"How should I explain consent to my child in the context of ""The Pout Pout Fish""? Our infant loves having the book ""The Pout-Pout Fish"" read to him. It's rhythmic, it's lots of fun, and you get to make funny noises.

But the content of the story is a little odd. 

A fish goes around visiting friends who all tell him to smile -- he thanks them politely but says he can't smile because of who he feels he is.

Then a fish no one has ever met before comes up to the protagonist and kisses him -- without saying or doing anything else -- and leaves him. The protagonist responds with shock, then a huge smile and decides he will kiss all his friends, too.

I don't want my kid growing up thinking that if his friends are being quiet or shy or sad, he should run up to them and kiss them. I also don't want him thinking that it's normal for people to do this to him. Is this just a dumb thing to worry about? What are some ways I can help explain this story that help him understand good ways to treat other people? ",5.9180116435288825,5.217440093596063,6.081164352888492,84.3331930138827,66.78325123152709,8.367039856695028,29.29198387819077,6.980632752743323,1.4510433497536943,781,22,164,5,11,249,115,203,0.103,0.653,0.245,0.9872,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,1,3,0,7,14,1,0,13,0,17,4,0,2,3,35,31,15,0,6,8,0,1,0,3,3,0,3,0,3,14,8,0,0,7,2,0,4,5,3,0,1,1,4,20,11,23,26,4,16,0,1,0,4,39,7,1,6,3,111,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422590550634986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812246260554012,0.1494179910321424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231699777788096,0.0,0.1428240727544618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458394980186046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021329400552482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182577336719924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486767728280857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890308183697844,0.0,0.08769229378451089,0.0,0.0,0.1407807579047898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500646679141784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772404332922656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682251850769833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269615662422902,0.15148702635922456,0.0,0.11203810764659204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445285476205232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373638671585032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23272573290285986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789082105780767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669547973391714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670427743105388,0.1545294933113342,0.0,0.0,0.11150902543626516,0.21509710966655612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747329804829307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979991309453491,0.26645573145732365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617969757423416,0.0,0.0,0.17045515081399396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,distrackt,2018/03/19,"Too many hours picking up toys. Share your methods. I must spend close to 10 hours a week picking up toys and other belongings strewn about the house from my 2 & 5 year old. What do you do to cut down on the amount of clutter and time to pick it up?

I do have the kids help pick up some of the toys when we start a new activity. However, they do a lot of pretend play together and drag a bunch of toys from their rooms all over the house. 

Here are some things I’ve done:
* Regularly get rid of “junk” toys (prizes, freebies, etc.)
* Have a spot where every toy belongs to put it away
* Use bags to collect and sort toys by room to put them away

Do you have any advice for reducing clutter or making it easier to deal with?",2.9915970515970507,4.08931137837838,3.769434889434887,92.00160933660936,73.72972972972974,7.273710073710076,23.58968058968059,7.686295010490155,0.7762216216216218,556,15,128,7,11,177,99,148,0.036000000000000004,0.8740000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.8343,1,0,1,0,0,0,19,1,3,3,1,5,4,1,0,10,0,11,0,0,6,2,20,15,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,6,7,0,0,0,9,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,3,27,13,7,24,0,0,0,0,11,13,0,5,9,79,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418705310234214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313736650602195,0.0,0.12121835055938053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33494966958187783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377131611744268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241500508466996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879953878075096,0.0,0.0,0.15018608580961754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312998750148756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947942365113433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510871708167025,0.4113607305234841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154457375218128,0.0,0.0,0.1189854560134726,0.18072085928300116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721581393756661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18704684364871368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583875830244639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616859695266755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184235660513274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394092755448156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539536112529402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298403810140542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478927524783973
parenting,LADadMan,2018/03/19,"Need experienced help monitoring online interaction. I am the father of a generally sweet but somewhat confused 16 year old son. He is on the autism spectrum and I have spent years and a majority of my life savings trying to help him find his way. He is going to a special school and has the best doctors and therapeutic support I can find.

The biggest issue I am dealing with is concern about his online interaction. He tends to have poor judgement about what he posts, who he shows it to, and who he interacts with, as well as having some run-ins with law enforcement in the past. The school is requesting that I make a serious effort to monitor his activities as they have seen some evidence that he his making violent threats or exploring illegal subjects on places like Facebook and Discord. I have used some off the shelf solutions in the past (Spyagnet, Kaspersky, among others) and he has quickly disabled them. He is not adept at coding, but he can google and I suspect he just used easily available tools to clear his computer and phone. He also likes to use anonymizing browsers.

I am seeking advice on more sophisticated software or someone who is adept at monitoring and tracking. The generally available tools for this task seem to be fairly easy to subvert. I realize this may not be cheap, but I really have little choice. I have done some looking for ‘hackers’ but generally they seem geared towards cracking jealous spouses Facebook accounts and I do have access to his devices.

In anticipation of some reactions, here are some more details and thoughts about the situation. Yes, I could just take away his devices, but the school wants him to have a laptop to do his work and I need to text and call him. He also does educationally valuable things with these devices, so I want him to have fairly unrestricted access. Filters and other software nannies have provent too broad and I am not generally concerned about his erotic interests. He does not have admin privileges to the Apple laptop, but he does to the phone, as Andriod does not have admin accounts. Also, he could just go to the library etc. and post using other devices. I want to know what he is involved in and any obvious monitoring would cause him to interact off-site as well. I do feel uncomfortable about invading his privacy and really wish there was another option. 

Have any other parents found a good solution to this issue? It seems strange that there doesn’t seem to be much reliable information out there. 



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parenting,PeaTearGriffin123,2018/03/19,"What is your opinion on ""eat what you're served""? Parents: What is your opinion on whether or not kids should eat what they're served?  

My son is the typical picky eater kid, and I've been conflicted lately about how to handle it. There are a couple of things that I know he absolutely hates, and I would never force him to eat those, but sometimes he'll refuse a meal that he likes all the ingredients of, and I'm like ""Is it really unreasonable of me to expect you to eat this?""  

Lately I've been caving and just making him something I know he likes, but I'm starting to get tired of him refusing nearly every dinner I make. Do you think it's best to make your kids eat what they're served (as long as it's not something that repulses them) or don't eat at all, or do you think that it's best to just make them foods they want and hope it evens out when they get older?",5.441833333333332,4.866226183333339,5.721111111111113,86.105,67.72222222222223,8.977777777777778,26.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.2959333333333336,683,15,153,8,10,218,94,180,0.064,0.787,0.149,0.9596,1,0,2,0,0,0,19,0,6,4,2,7,7,1,0,4,0,12,10,0,5,3,38,29,15,0,5,10,2,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,3,18,6,9,3,4,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,19,6,19,24,4,12,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,6,10,96,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24125329782596397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718336279810724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7056985193159733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591943573794283,0.0,0.09684528744479916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899075533855745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010700406354888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348341473045427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141653392796708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634044569073047,0.0,0.2593237038616486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684675143727091,0.0,0.0,0.1017218333750497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069040817531539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865190798169922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763172240870005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363607727534692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176979031895875,0.1136825667912084,0.0,0.0813579631729482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636369396441473,0.1473029630645941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211123262878535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779695626240037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165292808526234,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aspie1287,2018/03/19,"I'm sure I don't want another child. This weekend I was at the store with my daughter and ran into one of my mom's former acquaintances. Things have always been amicable between us and this exchange rubbed me the wrong way. It's not the first time I've had to shut down this kind of conversation and it's usually from people who hide behind the ""I'm just an old lady."" trope.

In the store minding my own business looking at groceries while trying to keep my kid from grabbing everything in sight. Saw former acquaintance \(FA\) round the aisle and attempt chitchat. After a little while she turns to my daughter and this exchange starts. Not her exact wording, I've slept since then.

* FA: When are mommy and daddy going to give you a sibling?
* Me: We're not having anymore kids.
* FA: Wouldn't you just love to have a sibling? Someone to play with, someone to\-
* Me: While it would be nice for her we decided we're not having more children.
* FA: \(To me\) What about your mom? Doesn't she want more grandbabies?

My partner and I have talked before. We are certain we don't want another child. For some people that might be the case, I'm not judging. That being said I don't take kindly to people ignoring the word no. My parents accept that we stopped after one child. This type of conversation is way too common with all of the ""church ladies"" around town I know from when I used to be religious. This comes up at least once a month \(small town\) and I get sick of it.

* Me: We might get a dog.
* FA: Your poor mom. Don't you want to give her another grandbaby?
* Me: She can have a fur one.
* FA: Well that's not fair.
* Me: That's not anyone else's decision other than my partner and I. Our finances were set back years due to having a child. I got my nuts snipped for a damned reason. 
* FA: You don't have to be rude about it.
* Me: \(To kid\) Say bye bye to the nice lady.
* Kid: Bye bye! \*waves\*

Seriously, what don't people get about parents making choices? It's not your life to live. Even today I'm still a bit irritated and am running out of patience with these kinds of people. Yes, some people want more than 1 child. We do not, I don't care what your opinion is, you want another kid in the world then go have one yourself.",0.4030421948254919,2.8597119887133218,1.8512957110609487,93.9286712971002,93.89841986455984,4.441729466921339,19.2307345025178,6.217724114889497,0.08428400069456465,1733,55,355,19,65,555,217,443,0.107,0.843,0.05,-0.9592,2,0,0,0,0,0,97,8,9,0,2,13,17,2,0,21,1,37,4,1,3,4,65,70,17,0,8,11,7,3,0,2,4,2,2,0,13,24,24,0,3,5,2,6,5,19,5,1,5,9,8,50,12,53,52,9,50,1,0,4,1,56,17,1,5,29,232,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711340673788662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585725518186347,0.0,0.0,0.08478255860165171,0.05977620827950261,0.08759403996704078,0.0,0.07610373163753324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573610692389471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274522183842558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933323333154582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716218763528369,0.0,0.0,0.07364158786239032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141546225658693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056464972725622974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683240155483362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271727898298537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399412105776154,0.16401853271852626,0.09717124438363264,0.0,0.068373719470115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759869474902121,0.0,0.2670723072033453,0.04698276370687531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603837238398182,0.0,0.08568288364296804,0.07548874694066526,0.0,0.07178960346196257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771575626266473,0.0,0.057064868953291575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138158456160405,0.08631997002507225,0.3003726173150965,0.06823686007491922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970679256574084,0.09104346977569604,0.2317194440175218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18985182528509684,0.0,0.0,0.3556057058385455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789738859936877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132003990655177,0.06798463864931095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071775304553643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486986012037426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060509869797107076,0.0,0.06827198190137412,0.07147300470960438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057279100452065,0.0,0.06427742399989755,0.06871317830601377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05679538915189169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498495833735214,0.0,0.08103399866429695,0.0,0.0,0.05804172206973818,0.09298796819198224,0.0,0.0,0.10283327734131947,0.07383543287879045,0.09415454676562217,0.0,0.3025433407685457,0.1357150858476512,0.0,0.0,0.07686527870500769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060729249532571965,0.09346928869857248,0.0,0.05505240025738601
parenting,Ensvey,2018/03/19,"How much hitting is unacceptable for a preschooler? We have 3 boys, aged 3 to 6. They rough house a bit at home, like most siblings, but no one really gets hurt. We give them time outs and talk to them about it when it gets excessive, but it's not really a problem. 

The 4yo though, apparently doesn't know how to leave it at home. we are occasionally (maybe 3 times a month) getting told by his teachers that he shoved this kid or hit that kid. He is not a malicious person in the least - he's more likely to be bullied than be a bully. What he has is a problem with impulse control. If someone wrongs him, his first impulse is to whack them rather than talk it out or tell a grown up. He doesn't hit hard - he's just trying to get his feelings across, in an unacceptable way.

How abnormal and bad is that for a 4yo? We keep on him with punishments and talking to him about better coping strategies, but honestly, he doesn't seem that bad at home, so I don't know whether his teachers are overreacting. We can't decide whether he's really a problem or whether he's being singled out. The school thinks it's a big enough problem that we were brought in to discuss strategies with his teachers and the principal. 

We had him observed and evaluated by the state one day, but he was having a good day that day and they had nothing to say about him. His mother and I think he might have some level of ADHD, but even if so, it doesn't FEEL bad enough to warrant medication or anything... I kind of want to put him in another school to give him a fresh start but my wife likes the current school, academically.",5.5242039267447645,5.606137652037617,5.9020953638013545,82.65136446131004,67.4639498432602,8.972842765220262,31.209536380135287,8.6894789155246,2.208626332288401,1257,46,262,18,19,404,163,319,0.127,0.77,0.103,-0.9242,2,0,0,0,0,0,37,7,0,5,3,13,17,1,0,20,0,25,1,0,4,0,62,46,29,0,8,19,2,4,3,0,1,1,1,3,4,15,20,0,2,10,0,0,3,9,10,0,3,6,5,29,7,39,33,9,31,0,1,0,0,51,15,0,10,14,174,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180996785747215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304312362724273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086662852727831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24615035774795635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691053053783504,0.10728378523639116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021651418950394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012522008641888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030753240597036,0.0,0.06490543836292473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937504448355444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358716282188175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20536500761441134,0.1885362597706312,0.0,0.08242298202999679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802930245263811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957140487169835,0.0,0.0,0.11338869173969846,0.1051984955705646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734558609774562,0.0,0.10233155374549993,0.10801163010259147,0.0,0.0,0.10405218616261493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440271224883223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872394823186477,0.0,0.0,0.09899520726456634,0.0,0.1042473828344785,0.0,0.0,0.07843700442739078,0.0,0.07223867768569155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429130643613866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317860051268196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580429144373564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761188533398781,0.0,0.09878701625987264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886001305568045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814708057896931,0.0,0.2983590010121482,0.0,0.08945998050718126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832626079744975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695549724879709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369535701858836,0.08589102802388036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593301434519136,0.096548333410571,0.0,0.11460234212065222,0.0,0.0,0.0938997931979874,0.0,0.06671788247523386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579613260176526,0.07800098640095977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744121290788562,0.0,0.0
parenting,not_a_muggle,2018/03/19,"I need help telling my daycare provider that we have decided to move our son... while she's in the hospital recovering from major surgery. My 2.5yo son has been with an in-home (her home)  provider for just over a year. He is one of only two kids that she cares for and generally I've been very happy with the care she's provided him. However, there have been several times throughout the year that she has has medical issues pop up and has had to close at the last minute, sometimes for multiple days. Sometimes she is able to get someone to cover for her but usually not. 

My work is flexible so I've been able to accommodate these unexpected closures for the most part. But a week ago she needed major emergency abdominal surgery and spent last week in the ICU, and will be in rehab this week. Between my husband, MIL, and myself we were able to shift things last week and this week but this just isn't sustainable. I can't have this kind of uncertainty anymore and I've found a new daycare center that can start my son as soon as tomorrow, and I intend to move him. 

But I feel absolutely terrible about it. Obviously my current provider did not choose to have these medical issues come up and I will be taking away half of her income. I do not want to introduce any additional stress into her life while she's recovering, but I feel like as a courtesy I really need to let her know ASAP that we won't be back. She is elderly, and I know that even after she returns home she will need ample recovery time that would be greatly hindered by the presence of a two year old boy. 

I am horrible with this type of situation and have been having anxiety all day about how to nicely and gently say ""hey sorry but you keep getting sick and it's pretty inconvenient for us so we need to say goodbye"".  Help?",5.335648457822369,6.148370034188037,6.095072463768116,78.54521739130436,68.03133903133903,9.751071472810603,30.930385234733052,9.867487886160001,2.883141607828564,1426,55,278,32,23,468,185,351,0.08800000000000001,0.823,0.08900000000000001,-0.094,3,0,0,0,0,0,32,6,1,0,1,11,9,0,1,13,0,37,5,0,2,2,56,57,27,0,7,11,4,2,1,0,5,5,2,2,2,17,24,0,1,7,0,1,3,6,2,0,4,10,4,41,7,44,37,5,42,0,0,0,0,37,11,0,1,29,192,58,2,0.2741360909262404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100170139362409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214064745231927,0.0,0.0699044530716989,0.0,0.09062311321126353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858532938111638,0.07026457750374826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633334327468204,0.0,0.0,0.0787146562215285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786339995630915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035476753924419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240762962681133,0.06528095937756236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019202469530034,0.0,0.0,0.09548319530604267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074533601053244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727432211029348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249842880471178,0.0,0.18332056725976156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907512374230568,0.0,0.0812215844692575,0.0,0.09515685116714794,0.10043868419661628,0.223457502561544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344090875349632,0.06454347606285746,0.04464301562591607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841088473524629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424218706082227,0.0,0.3387807297600197,0.0,0.08825411495555646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588657092434208,0.0,0.061920569969805724,0.06949761673159019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989542240353585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929649860585564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05853953316771333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145336015014374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323191767021896,0.0,0.0,0.10271348401768388,0.0,0.0,0.07742487341218797,0.0,0.18075173571183087,0.10229096997986474,0.06467831204276983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046739886489464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870540790635707,0.0,0.07986900883561668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060707945901615865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065673061087576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852741820199095,0.0,0.10991732129921948,0.0,0.10064072483334978,0.07539699495604217,0.05389752301650018,0.0,0.3664923941782197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652477971312938,0.0,0.0,0.06491280454843602,0.0,0.0,0.17653465465170656
parenting,GingerSnap0988,2018/03/19,"Late bloomer in the poop department (5y) My son will be 6 in October, and the regression with potty training has me at an all time low. 

I thought we had it down completely when he was about 3. He was doing great, just needed to be reminded a couple of times a day, but he had it down until his sister was born. Then it was like starting from square one. I finally got him to pee in the toilet just after he turned 4, but pooping was a whole different monster. We learned he was lactose intolerant so we cut dairy. He has a really good diet and rarely eats sugar. I’ve tried charts, timers, keeping a diary of when he usually goes, reminding him to go, all the way down to pleading and begging with the kid. He starts kindergarten this year and we’re *almost* there. He still has an accident 2-3 times a week. Any advice? The fact that he’s almost 6 and knows he has to poop in the toilet is what boggles me. Other than being lactose intolerant (which is probably why it was so difficult to begin with) he doesn’t have any other health issues. Are some kids really just late in the pooping game?",2.5311290322580646,4.6123165253456255,4.0304400921659,85.49137442396314,77.29493087557604,7.289308755760367,24.21405529953917,8.238735603445708,1.5524840552995385,854,29,169,16,20,283,134,217,0.062,0.892,0.046,-0.5267,1,0,0,0,0,0,29,3,0,0,0,10,6,1,0,16,0,23,9,5,0,3,27,33,13,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,10,11,3,1,3,1,0,2,1,3,0,1,11,2,11,3,25,18,4,33,0,1,1,0,23,10,0,3,21,107,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230240916423676,0.0,0.0,0.3121380864015296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197725659049474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341390668807906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245365821299974,0.0,0.1005153679575725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283819717531625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948140880229972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17073456893585576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857756252212033,0.13072610298317786,0.12465369667024975,0.1718337418208151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566952143556982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267501892061692,0.0,0.1385335473446515,0.0,0.0,0.08565535444370062,0.0,0.35162870684019565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614423381708005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556656170239896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561325868700217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680410371325369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996929570536202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206338638207832,0.0,0.12446821657450426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237336600202411,0.27264575745497954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058171951616941,0.16952849824196775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17165531440448592,0.0,0.0,0.12371264336602547,0.12501970202159787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063739543841747,0.1740096343748498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003672939813206
parenting,AshBurntSky,2018/03/19,"Almost 18mo still not walking - advise? Hi all - my almost 18 month old, huge 30+ lb son is still not yet completely walking by himself. For months now he’s done everything but — he walks confidently if one of us is holding his hand or if he holds onto our fingers.. but he just won’t take more than a step by himself. At his 18mo well-child appt at the end of this month, if he’s still not walking we’ll be sent to a specialist (18 months is the latest he’s expected developmentally to be walking). 

Any tips to help and/or encourage my child to walk? Any stories of other late walkers? Thanks so much!",2.4720454545454515,4.516445083333334,4.0045454545454575,85.78227272727275,77.33333333333334,6.696969696969697,25.07575757575757,7.686295010490155,1.326416666666666,470,17,95,7,11,156,81,120,0.0,0.8220000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.9744,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,8,2,2,0,1,16,11,7,0,4,10,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,1,2,2,9,2,14,5,3,25,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,6,13,56,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34850220516207797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366726285076407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824516434104292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807798296791186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412583110294475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639365575701536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663873133729777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962967434458802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5555891414837685,0.0,0.12792120635633486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259969689454333,0.0,0.1179172140480992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41690632933213184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308377861235196,0.0,0.0,0.16020983139776085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931887916332145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15646057775349784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redgreenapple,2018/03/19,"Parents of pre teens and teens, tell us about your experience limiting or prohibiting cell phone/social media for your kids. I have toddlers, but I’m worried about all the recent articles about the mental health of kids growing up in the age of smart phone and social media.

For the parents that are currently limiting or prohibiting smart phones and/or social media, what’s it like? How have your kids responded? Anything you didn’t expect? 

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parenting,makingflags2,2018/03/19,"My child fell and broke her nose at headstart. I feel like they lack proper supervision. I picked up my daughter from headstart Monday. her nose was red, and her eyes were visibly swollen from crying.

as we left my daughter explained to me she fell down at the playground and hit her face on the playground bars.

that same day it became extremely swollen, and i was concerned. When dropping her off the next day I asked her teacher what had happened, and the teacher mentioned she nor did the aide witnessed the incident. She mentioned there was another teacher on the yard and she was just aware she got hurt, but not what actually happened. 

we took her to the pediatrician after picking her up on Tuesday. he suspected she had a septal hematoma and recommended we immediately visit the emergency room of a children's hospital 40 minutes away.

I've made 3 trips there for evaluations and ct-scans. they confirmed her nose was broken in multiple spots. every doctor I've talked to says that it's over what they are use to dealing with. that if it was broken in one spot they could stick something in her nose and pop it back into place, but because of all the areas it's broken in, and how damaged it is, they keep wanting me to see other doctors, and visit other hospitals. she has another appointment with an ears/nose/throat specialist tomorrow about an hour away and they are telling me on the phone about possibly needing surgery.

It's concerning because no-one at the school has any idea what actually happened, and my childs school didn't even inform me of her injury, nor did they even give her ice. It's scary because she obviously hit her face rather hard. If her nose didn't take the impact it could have been something more serious that might not have gotten the medical attention it deserved. I've seen one instance in the past where the director of the headstart take a child who was throwing a tantum to the parking lot to try and catch her mom who had just walked off the grounds and I thought it was a little traumatizing seeing a child hysterically crying while the director was screaming for her moms name in an empty parking lot.


I suspect the supervision or how they handle situations isn't really that great. I do want to complain, but I feel like calling the main office phone number and speaking to the office is just going to result in them blowing the issue off. I really want them to change protocols. because although driving 40+ minutes away. spending multiple hours at an emergency(12 hours yesterday alone), take medication to sit through a CT-Scan, and possibly need facial surgery sucks... but if her nose hadn't taken the impact she may have had some serious brain trauma or possible hemorrhaging and the only way I would have known would be if my 3 year old expressed her injury to me.

What would be the best way to get them to change their protocols? or use them? Not notifying me of any incident or injury seems pretty careless. 

is there someone who oversees these headstart programs that I should contact? or what does reddit suggest?


all and all i'm upset that they didn't make it seem like a big deal, nor did they even tell me. I haven't taken her to school since Tuesday, and I'm probably going to stop taking her altogether but I do want some policy/protocols setup to prevent something more serious from happening in the future.",6.988413691571587,7.80068219298246,6.846188197767145,74.61357379462646,64.3907496012759,9.748153600785178,35.05618942461048,9.725611199111238,3.4491221445221454,2713,119,466,52,39,859,290,627,0.138,0.82,0.042,-0.9964,0,1,3,0,0,0,58,3,0,15,1,17,17,1,1,40,0,47,18,11,9,4,96,90,43,0,18,21,4,3,3,0,6,6,3,2,5,31,26,1,3,12,2,1,12,12,12,0,2,30,17,72,5,62,48,13,71,0,3,5,0,83,35,1,17,23,324,103,10,0.0,0.0,0.14164821984327522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516727608070033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870889933172926,0.15220539439915953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784914916198204,0.0,0.20456378755804025,0.05580678180675371,0.0,0.17696763120710707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616446794979588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101927949136209,0.0741086323144724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355244356226894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589272054326508,0.0,0.15944356375043942,0.09361156471784106,0.1496461901930432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485700682874936,0.0635121081961381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438081091235594,0.0,0.061148758239974135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339363029099083,0.10369720805408196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037918180368847434,0.0696219086892678,0.082493696188707,0.0,0.058045987545360764,0.08001575167071845,0.0,0.0,0.256716329702581,0.0,0.06501421068598291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21441944252387185,0.0,0.0776945512950405,0.08192993636951447,0.0,0.07575091934245913,0.0,0.06450925065667508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885448519943561,0.0,0.0,0.10637150840755112,0.07274063244378817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234037421375908,0.0,0.06867355690867777,0.04844531931582565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622620156427654,0.0,0.0769921051539582,0.0,0.17000123574536302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762898141694036,0.0,0.0,0.07718583870364834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761567368918872,0.0,0.09835931163096903,0.05519763258837435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928239850555154,0.0,0.0,0.07582690459755355,0.0,0.0,0.24545700292429015,0.0,0.07383630382408547,0.07824964849865289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929886173267185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577156767087768,0.0,0.2203536142104449,0.11566800949713946,0.13214168143129493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003595890832411,0.08157892916783839,0.0,0.0,0.06149375930850801,0.1676186057238044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067713111638664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182737216498338,0.05833417171193014,0.12686996798559486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057617565145109365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063506539746304,0.0492746204606272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536543720316,0.0,0.0,0.17122979536856153,0.1152155571450745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466860466238938,0.0,0.0,0.0467368305314906
parenting,BuddyBear17,2018/03/19,"How to kick ass as a working dad? The long version - I'm the dad of an 11 month old boy. Live in New York City, work in the arch/civil engineering/urban planning field. Used to work longer hours in the private sector but took a gov't job just before he came for the better work hours and QOL balance. I get into the office at 9:30, leave at 5:30 most days, and am home by 6:45 to spend time with buddy boy before we put him down to bed at 7:45. He was a surprise baby - his mom and I are in our late 30s/early 40s. I had been an endurance athlete before he arrived (runner and cyclist) but have put those interests away for the time being due to the demands of parenthood. I was also a bike commuter and gave it up after a couple of near-misses from cars after he arrived. 

So, ever since buddy boy arrived, it has been a whole lot more work to get on my A game in the office. I work in an office with a lot of smart, young millennial types who are willing and able to stay late and who aren't operating in a baby-induced mental fog half the time. It is tough to keep up during those periods when our collective workload goes up and everyone has to pitch in. Right now he's been teething a lot, so sleep has not been great and I feel like I'm down a solid 20 IQ points. 

So, long story short, for those of you who have demanding careers, living in high-powered cities with infants and young children, is this just how it is? I've ready these studies about dads who become these kickass productivity machines following the birth of their kids, who get raises and become leaders in the office, and I have not found that to be the case. I want to excel in my career, not just get by - and I want to do it while being able to see my boy before he's down for the night. Thoughts?

TL;DR version - Have an 11 month old, work in a competitive field, feel like I've lost my edge since he arrived. Do you get the edge back eventually, or is this the new normal?",5.209907773386036,4.9904754848484885,5.9045805884936335,83.39571146245063,68.14141414141415,8.200087834870443,27.82345191040843,7.423996415210882,1.4051872200263498,1516,42,316,13,23,496,206,396,0.038,0.875,0.087,0.9588,3,0,0,0,0,0,52,3,2,1,11,14,10,0,0,32,0,28,3,3,3,1,44,49,25,0,3,9,4,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,7,18,19,0,1,4,3,1,7,4,2,0,1,13,3,21,8,57,32,8,64,0,1,1,1,33,27,1,5,31,196,39,13,0.17568094859914693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024599556147965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252901713604394,0.06754390266747902,0.0,0.0,0.1940258051766192,0.2989830954892011,0.0,0.0,0.0776877612375447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046610162935037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719381405995478,0.0,0.05664983906209655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945673796602516,0.0,0.08393533751406995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882956623360952,0.12550650478194392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631254615764276,0.0,0.0,0.22946511169825215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968444330193955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280828387419572,0.08811115779696994,0.0,0.17301034613795294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716811673479098,0.07807664958345907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19817576214334026,0.09301037912001618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858288374980627,0.0,0.15512949623723038,0.15547211115319584,0.0,0.0,0.09588825416133163,0.2240364901332313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852253779392304,0.0,0.0,0.1028777018561778,0.14022685707782273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967375489433836,0.0,0.08243233465323051,0.08606501451496103,0.0,0.0,0.18434760283833185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303764076353648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660787674574024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501528509963827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999748527221418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532509611804464,0.0,0.08790391163959138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362625805634446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973552471766836,0.15366146087539045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759399901703217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586596659199797,0.0,0.0,0.1036211752202025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807075259128932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44764238025562414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mrs-Cam,2018/03/19,"Anyone use silicone plates/bowls/placemats and find they taste and smell soapy? I'm at a loss, wondering if anyone else is experiencing this and has found a solution or alternative. We use the Nuby brand silicone plates for little one's meals and they work well at keeping plates and food on the table but they have a smell of soap and are leaving a soapy taste on food. Yuck! I've tried a number of things: hand washing, putting them in the dishwasher, soaking in vinegar, boiling hot water but the taste and smell still lingers. Little guy is a year old for context. TIA
Edit:has anyone figured out how to get rid of the smell/taste?",4.988585858585856,6.5869570413223135,4.964077134986232,83.41864095500459,69.49586776859505,7.691827364554638,28.320477502295685,8.167268648758528,1.8543987144168963,506,18,95,7,9,157,79,121,0.014,0.8590000000000001,0.128,0.926,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,4,2,3,2,0,0,11,0,5,10,1,3,0,21,12,12,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,9,8,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,9,5,1,13,11,0,13,0,1,0,0,6,9,0,3,3,51,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752981340237869,0.1833164101985368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945795602614778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635222583681931,0.0,0.4326820202409424,0.1961676913881637,0.0,0.0,0.09347409659857954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17715093443886634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902513962241888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944189594206445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35863350179528125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877379692701021,0.0,0.12123535079120737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798559006293493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287929457310758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886113323544928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146945312225725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090449191723049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086330721147207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940223510055056,0.1302500123749158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152134139696531
parenting,PM_ME_VEG_RECIPES,2018/03/19,"5 year old constantly disrespectful. My child has always been very strong willed and stubborn, and my partner and I have always had problems with her attitude in general, but especially when asking her to do something. Basic things that need to happen every, like eating, brushing teeth, going to bed. 

Were past the point of tantrums, but she just obviously has NO respect for us. She gives us dirty looks, she name calls us, she yells at us, and she says no when we ask her to do things. We have NEVER been tolerant of her behavior and let her know every time she does something like this that we aren't okay with being treated like this. 

We have tried so many things; timeouts, talking about our feelings, a sticker board, taking things away. It just  doesn't matter. Nothing works. 

She HATES talking about her feelings, nothing good ever comes out of it, she just gets angrier. The sticker board sometimes helps, but for things that aren't on the sticker board that she doesn't want to do, like not interrupting us, or any little things, like don't poke the cat, ends in her being disrespectful. 

Ignoring her when she acts badly isn't an option because she does it when we ask her to do something, we don't always have time to wait for her to do these things, and can't consistently implement this tactic. 

Her teachers have mentioned that she is disrespectful at daycare also. 

I don't know why it's happening. We have always emphasized treating people nicely, she just cannot handle doing anything she doesn't want to do. 

It's constant, and we're getting a little run down. Does anyone else have kids that are constantly arguing or being disrespectful? Any suggestions? ",7.161227498714213,7.975099801302933,6.6242825304303095,76.34874335676328,64.01628664495114,9.199314246528372,32.44453968798217,9.134995656068208,2.8234078175895765,1337,50,229,21,19,414,154,307,0.132,0.762,0.106,-0.7109,0,0,3,0,0,0,42,13,0,0,2,13,19,4,0,7,1,38,2,1,0,3,46,59,18,0,4,10,0,2,5,1,1,0,2,1,3,22,18,1,3,4,0,0,4,15,7,0,0,4,6,42,12,27,50,0,30,0,0,1,0,54,11,0,3,20,163,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397895119970708,0.26627803774404657,0.0,0.0,0.10881055496712833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05594046576751186,0.08197327223069363,0.06583625017307236,0.0,0.22437805378272369,0.0,0.07516613463447261,0.0,0.06679976989279808,0.04876952912358564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169274973771844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891612638960012,0.0,0.2593668195959124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100354006601509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186378519013171,0.06683284765998675,0.0,0.07085955533949669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236795094415141,0.13481318026415448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090457595091334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359729015743812,0.07674686450398746,0.0454679614723328,0.06710333006039754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149406230428466,0.0,0.0,0.07898711672351039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05362481148538654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793591164291982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180923079295384,0.0,0.19542889818574005,0.16036950342782896,0.0,0.0,0.06718298082992066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111122161774838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059321749496803224,0.06170380597151025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353146663166284,0.0,0.08395045291552689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637260958110549,0.055464510565748255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562938105844681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765527615478009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362217444933743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18477233192854314,0.07912573122595444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06015284576226776,0.128607929791444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37205644684314254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330163262253696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05431727872982181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811731620693725,0.0,0.0,0.06601145305345966,0.09437654146231576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219091940768083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824366575200046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051519776858675134
parenting,ejobit,2018/03/19,"Parenting Is Like the Federal Government I had an epiphany the other day. 

Parenting is exactly like the federal gov't system in the US.

The parents are the USA and all kids are the states.

Kids can make any rules for themselves as long as they don't override the parental rules.

Kids need to make most decisions as they pertain to themselves as long as they don't usurp the parental rules!

This list could go on and on.",4.0662857142857165,6.3056832000000025,3.912142857142858,87.37000000000003,73.25,8.071428571428571,30.17857142857143,8.841846274778883,2.503982142857143,336,15,65,7,7,102,48,80,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.6476,5,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,10,0,9,0,0,2,2,10,13,7,0,2,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,11,11,2,9,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,5,41,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681897949098436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254146507830232,0.0,0.0,0.101302839758236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927150946849298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348154762048394,0.0,0.0,0.2780196135378743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970265519992246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647194970713365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8720871656041046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18894647176913254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,glitterybugs,2018/03/19,"Simplicity Parenting - How to make it my own Hey everyone. This is a shot in the dark, but I have been reading Simplicity Parenting and I love what he says about the child's environment. My oldest son, who is 3 1/2, has so many toys and books, it's just overwhelming. I am also guilty of putting him down in front of the TV and leaving it on all day so I can get the cleaning and all my chores done. He is now to the point where he has to have the TV on, even if he isn't watching it. :/ He cannot play on his own, and when he does try, it's usually negative talk, TBH. This is not at all how I wanted my son's childhood to go, and I want to take it back and redirect.  

  

Have any of you done this? I haven't ever done Waldorf, but I am really interested. What kind of toys should I provide for him? What types of books? He has over 60 books available for just him. I am a big reader, so they just have accumulated. I have a few wooden toys for him, but he has little interest in them. He also has a train table that we gave him for Christmas, but he seems to have little interest in it. It is in his room and not in the playroom though. Could that be the issue? Would you keep a large train table?  

  

He does go to a mainstream daycare, and he loves it there so I don't want to take him out. Please give me ideas for what you felt was great for a preschooler, and what you parted with. His favorite toys right now are this little Lego figurine and his stuffed stingray. He must have them at all times. Also, how do I teach him to start playing independently instead of wanting a screen all the time?  

  

While I am on this subject, I also have a 5-month-old, so what toys should I have for him as he grows? What should I part with? He also has too much, and much of it is plastic and makes noise and flashes.  

  

I am looking to do a complete makeover. Thanks so much for your time!  ",2.55508064516129,3.908826841836735,3.820694535878868,90.1925082290981,75.22448979591837,7.0988808426596455,24.63495720868993,7.717688229018142,1.0204444371296906,1470,47,331,20,31,481,177,392,0.028,0.853,0.119,0.9891,2,0,0,0,0,0,65,1,5,3,0,29,11,0,1,19,0,46,2,0,6,7,54,67,37,0,11,10,4,1,0,0,5,0,1,3,1,25,18,0,1,3,13,0,5,7,1,0,0,7,5,44,10,44,53,13,42,0,1,3,2,49,23,0,2,14,242,69,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690446633475796,0.0,0.40000992292247256,0.0,0.06276432150499371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096978730776332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677040964419716,0.0,0.0,0.07369070085383607,0.0,0.0,0.05952316745818961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615373853936184,0.2833520000965717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06096051762413519,0.08348685182404426,0.0,0.08819260978011242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886184596298629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482207557710995,0.08853855914407686,0.10490768116708113,0.0,0.0,0.10175646567483064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419074474528024,0.0,0.09633285525615552,0.0,0.08203676417573624,0.0,0.09611189205327147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772794527521708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775139712075147,0.0,0.0,0.07750524220277773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666011592423081,0.0,0.12321635100932272,0.09357347350754924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366964173392977,0.0,0.20354413876287625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684893563628566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496716783172225,0.19989475444065755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131309274483577,0.08724938108090807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927827898191293,0.0,0.0,0.09232079501001582,0.0,0.059127064669060994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882012466116893,0.0,0.0733973393149471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402264672906018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532745534342192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878993823729094,0.07418388276725911,0.0,0.08497358929518349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068017301641068,0.0,0.16145530188585533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266280227143052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165080456850333,0.0,0.21775386009784214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556430133102507,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cibman,2018/03/19,"20 month old grabbing glasses I am amazingly fortunate with a great 20 month old daughter. She's smart, funny, and developing at lightning speed.

But I have a problem with some toddler behavior that's she's doing at the moment, namely grabbing glasses and ripping them off your head. This is very unlike her, and she typically only does it when she's tired, which is when we pick her up to go to bed ... so it has been happening a lot.

I think I've got a handle on the tantrums thing (she does this every once and a while when she doesn't get her way, very toddlerish) by just ignoring the behavior as much as possible and not giving her reinforcement for continuing to do it, but this is tough.

What I've been doing is simply taking my glasses off at this point, which makes her swipe at my face where the glasses usually are, also not fun.

Any ideas for things to do other than wait it out? I always explain that glasses and people's eyes are very important and that she shouldn't grab at them, which she understands ... until she's tired.

So, any thoughts? Is this just ""be careful and wait it out?""",5.2729506008010665,6.057742943925233,5.7555407209612826,81.02373831775705,68.1588785046729,8.918024032042723,29.771695594125504,9.04235418022936,2.348808811748999,866,31,168,15,14,279,120,214,0.087,0.852,0.061,-0.6698,0,0,0,0,0,0,31,1,1,2,0,9,9,1,0,9,0,19,5,3,2,0,34,33,20,0,2,6,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,20,13,0,3,5,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,4,24,5,24,27,3,28,0,0,1,0,22,13,0,2,13,121,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775597260312926,0.1225240048853228,0.0,0.0,0.2002704403459979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501314447093429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577193740758209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240646874014338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693217866878847,0.14125585844159624,0.08368571108243908,0.0,0.11776947736961516,0.16234392167474762,0.0,0.0,0.13021291074465974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511212393251582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16622761012763082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251868977648255,0.0,0.0,0.09829068602494476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235067491154384,0.0,0.10824587738817197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090287367382269,0.15681671169120093,0.0,0.1119904513105736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208478357576024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919908277506832,0.16600253335636536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089860372012472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071386330594134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565304766974803,0.09435201519914138,0.0,0.11690025135926232,0.0,0.3384850045006203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329270445217982,0.0,0.0,0.16217534822581825,0.3644906353493742,0.0,0.11688039538668273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunny_in_phila,2018/03/19,"I can’t take my 2 year old anywhere, please help! My 2 year old, O, is impossible to take out in public. I know all toddlers are wild, but this is my third child and I have 6 nieces and a nephew that I’ve watched as toddlers, he is far beyond the normal toddler wildness. For a bit of background: he was born a tad early (5 weeks) via emergency c-section, then taken an hour away to the nearest hospital with an open spot in their NICU because he wasn’t breathing on his own. It took about 4 hours for the ambulance to get there, so a nurse was standing there with a manual ventilator breathing for him the entire time. He was only there for a week, and has been pretty healthy ever since, other than getting ear tubes when we realized he couldn’t hear. He has early intervention for speech, but they don’t see any signs of autism or other issues. He just seems to be delayed in his speech and comprehension. 

I have tried taking him to the same types of programs I took his older brother and sister to- story time at the library, swim lessons at the Y, baby yoga, etc. we end up leaving within minutes because he screams and hits and melts down if I try to get him to cooperate in any way. If he isn’t doing exactly what he wants to at any time, he has huge, disruptive fits and I end up leaving whatever class or program I paid for. He’s the same at restaurants or anywhere else I try to take him. We have a pool and he has been in love with water since he was born, but at swim class he runs from me and jumps in as far from me as he can and, while he can get himself to the surface, it’s still terrifying and will probably end up getting us kicked out of class one of these days. The only time he’s happy and content is when he’s watching shows on the iPad, and eventually I’m so exhausted by fighting with him I just let him go. I limit his screen time, but he screams nonstop for hours for it. I’ve tried taking it away and hiding it for days at a time, it doesn’t help. I don’t know what to do. Has anyone had an excessively difficult kid and found some way to get them to listen?  I would love to take him to organized activities, but even if I could just get him to stop running from me in parking lots and swimming pools so that he doesn’t kill himself, that would be great. ",6.708336120401339,5.1714750491452985,7.045224823485698,80.79349498327763,65.6025641025641,9.934002229654403,33.168338907469355,8.587818076936951,2.3821565217391303,1785,60,383,21,23,583,227,468,0.08800000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.2262,0,0,0,0,2,0,47,4,0,3,2,16,10,2,0,22,0,39,7,3,0,3,64,69,38,1,9,14,3,0,0,0,3,1,7,0,2,15,27,1,3,6,7,1,9,8,6,0,2,13,11,41,4,69,47,8,77,0,0,4,2,55,32,0,9,33,239,56,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363766906282527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595124378334678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993145045331605,0.0,0.0,0.10376722933259844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929204920177804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795517591868389,0.0,0.0,0.10978067161775384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110033205888147,0.0,0.22615247250040196,0.0,0.09492261516885507,0.056215813545576934,0.07698886883777939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332114775129456,0.0,0.0,0.3112733265354015,0.0,0.04837123169089175,0.0,0.0,0.0938365145897058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060353270301287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592764908698223,0.0,0.11409784370114807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25145515384904993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883503684767008,0.0,0.0,0.09416405254323043,0.0,0.09355089206314543,0.0,0.0,0.18024308729323685,0.0,0.08703300365791779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235935929947603,0.15363418929918293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833918970704176,0.0,0.0,0.17862189889481778,0.0,0.05767423781054365,0.12946334559253173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934276504439414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658971835384542,0.09176536031555177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782341372862777,0.0774829615333952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408114031644977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797072272759709,0.0711576205981942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38396274805550623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297777692857602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891255992132326,0.2311424210964657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023795118681949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05020138802612243,0.13511622503399262,0.13654376571725513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092254733124785,0.0,0.0,0.10961894848135836
parenting,giveitaway2202,2018/03/19,"Not telling child about their bio father Using a throwaway for obvious reasons. 

This is a deep secret that I've struggled with and am unsure if I'm doing the right thing.

 I was married fairly young, had a child, and divorced the father a couple of years later. During the long, drawn out divorce I became involved with another man. I got pregnant and left 5 months into the pregnancy due to the severe physical, sexual, emotional, and mental abuse. First child was 2 when that happened. I eventually got back together with my ex-husband (3 months after the divorce, 2 months after baby was born). 2nd child's bio dad never wanted to be in the picture and he hasn't. We have been NC since I left 6 years ago. 2nd baby is spitting image of me (thankfully). When my husband takes her out in public, they always get complimented how much they look alike. Husband has fully accepted 2nd child as his own. 

I know all of her bio dad's family medical history and there's nothing concerning unless she were a male. First child does not have any memory whatsoever of the short, horrific time with 2nd child's bio dad. Hubby and I have agreed that that period of time never happened and family is on board. 

I have caught *a lot* of criticism for not wanting to tell our children that they're half siblings and for also not wanting to ever tell 2nd child about her bio dad, but after I explained what kind of human he was, they agreed with me. It took me years to stop watching over my shoulder and having nightmares. There was absolutely nothing good about that guy except for him giving me my second child. 

Am I wrong to not want to tell my kids? ",4.649711538461538,6.3660935224358965,5.402435897435897,79.48423076923079,70.50641025641026,8.02051282051282,27.102564102564106,8.59863814320734,2.0920294871794867,1297,44,229,22,24,421,176,312,0.079,0.8809999999999999,0.04,-0.8971,0,0,0,0,4,0,37,2,0,4,2,11,7,0,1,14,0,22,3,2,3,5,46,41,18,0,5,9,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,15,10,19,0,1,5,0,0,2,8,2,0,4,12,2,31,5,39,28,4,41,0,0,2,0,49,12,0,2,27,151,41,0,0.0,0.13173129432796615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855524057591616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891139863321948,0.0925114913467071,0.0,0.0,0.07560688669298223,0.1165829635048806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549131957359232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301965225910205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972952347868859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506365074345055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056957192968456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096230876251811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891409889318145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808747916673356,0.10665493784766752,0.0,0.09325334061812224,0.17784319075731564,0.0,0.0,0.11008666131084496,0.19663396698236973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577789352413655,0.06110216522504519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415969448781301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983916787042461,0.0933640311059736,0.0,0.0,0.09452210299631723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200315197579823,0.1120442892567632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662308197586425,0.0,0.08173082130873252,0.0,0.17149926927670214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21336231958258653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431257630045932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949479591507986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560287384164048,0.0,0.09197006497725434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295228714392556,0.0,0.11623051216541247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359426886816555,0.0,0.3887083478458277,0.1023605192199168,0.0,0.0,0.07386371039453751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296610603280811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352617229574366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960246793349534,0.0,0.0,0.2623097172502241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155896058306738,0.0,0.21479073969864415
parenting,MissyMooWho,2018/03/19,"Gender disappointment I can't get over the fact that I have two sons and will most likely never have a daughter. Most people don't know how I feel and the few people who know how I do feel do not understand. Since I've had my second son, I've heard comments like, ""boys don't take care of their mothers,"" ""you might have to have 4 kids, so you can get a girl."" From coworkers, ""I hate baby boys,"" ""baby boys are harder,"" ""I don't even want to hold a baby boy or baby sit a baby boy,"" ""I hope my daughter doesn't have a baby boy."" 

Then every day in the news you hear how girls are being oppressed and mistreated by men. ""The future is female..."" 

There isn't anything good about having only boys, yet you're not allowed to be disappointed. 

I don't really get the argument, ""well, some people can't have kids..."" Would you tell a suicidal person, ""someone with cancer wish they could live?"" I don't think so. ",4.06168498168498,4.604742879120884,5.237087912087912,84.52874542124542,70.75824175824175,7.8249084249084255,23.408424908424905,7.793537801064563,0.9931194139194128,692,15,144,8,12,230,108,182,0.17,0.7859999999999999,0.044,-0.972,1,0,0,0,0,0,44,0,4,2,0,10,9,1,0,11,0,29,1,0,4,2,30,46,10,1,5,3,5,2,2,0,3,1,2,0,13,2,4,0,1,6,0,0,0,12,3,1,2,2,4,17,6,10,38,4,8,0,2,0,0,29,2,0,6,7,92,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14678506090855642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818622697173652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142415627854538,0.0,0.0,0.11503526452086385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781310655463666,0.0,0.15028620877046714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038061216300816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279576220439922,0.0,0.0,0.1496100759716577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610554533061534,0.0,0.0,0.20103834900935333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716376775808945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605731056406345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428722108610487,0.0,0.1575058546510345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892246371289585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375715793959717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566003911734506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.370982317807638,0.15574765975974536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142697510061997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475512653719491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511341230062434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951101542127227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411363961079362,0.0,0.15590509966334232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429365560121968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742436480256447,0.1856916731652005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520850101932867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603779623595843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20511914126937786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671044013304414,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,runner1304,2018/03/19,"2yr old crying dropoff for the last 4 Months Hi all,

I mosty lurk but have really gathered some great advice from this sub so I was hoping you could help me and u/yippy3000 out. 

My daughter (27 months) has been crying at daycare dropoff very often (4 out of 5 days per week) over the last 4 months. We kept thinking it was a variety of short-term causes: her favorite teacher was out sick, 2yr separation anxiety, 2yr molars coming in, coming back from the holidays, starting to get sick, recovering from a cold, doing some test hours in the next classroom up, starting school again after being home due to the flu (twice, ugh). But, its persisted. 

I’ve been doing the quick dropoff technique this whole time. Get her in, dropoff stuff, change shoes, quick hug/goodbye “have a good day”, hand her to teacher while she cries “I want Mommy”. She doesn’t cling but she seems so sad. We’ve been reading her the book “Llama Llama Misses Mama”. She likes it and understands that Mama will come back. We have a mantra that we tell her in the morning. “Mama is going to work, you are going to school. After nap, snack, and playtime Mommy will come and get you”. She’ll tell me back “that after nap, snack, and playtime Mommy comes.”

While I would love to just quit my job and keep her home where she’s happy, I believe it would just be avoiding the problem instead of solving it. Any advice to ease the transition for her?

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parenting,shmeggt,2018/03/19,"Looking for an ABC picture book... When I was a kid, a teach had a picture book where each page represented a letter.  Each page had beautiful pictures where everything in the picture started with that letter.  I want to get the book for my kids, but I don't know what it's called and I can't find it anywhere.  HELP!",2.211428571428573,4.340778000000004,3.301825396825397,90.09178571428572,78.52380952380952,6.104761904761905,26.37301587301588,7.1686216300943375,1.2136158730158733,246,10,51,3,6,79,44,63,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8197,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,10,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,5,0,5,7,4,5,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,2,33,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44505308824937606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917152028839575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3983603530713618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277144071738164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921420570979109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953257278250326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660054679534145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30849791812298866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570764931462814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,samsy2,2018/03/19,"New phase of Separation Anxiety?? Wanting to see if anyone has some advice on my situation.  
  
My son is 18 months old and has been going to the same daycare since he was 5 months old. He has been in the same exact class and same exact teachers the whole time. He loves them and loves going to school.  
Just last week he has started this new phase of not wanting to go to class, when we leave he just cries the whole time. Last week the teachers called us three times in one day thinking there is something really wrong with him. So we picked him up and took him to pediatrician. No fever, no joint pain, no nothing. When he is not as daycare, he is his normal self.  
  
I know some children can peak around the 17 month mark with separation anxiety. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this or tips? Its just bizarre he went from loving class and his teachers to now crying right when we walk in the door!",3.3433333333333337,5.22528988764045,3.688561797752808,89.75325468164795,74.28089887640449,6.319700374531838,22.54082397003745,7.03164865440522,0.5539943071161049,712,19,147,7,15,221,104,178,0.134,0.809,0.056,-0.8891,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,0,11,5,0,0,7,0,13,5,0,2,2,32,27,13,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,11,0,0,2,0,0,6,5,2,0,2,5,1,13,3,21,22,7,34,0,0,1,3,25,8,0,4,20,88,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300553363541792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004879786861184,0.0,0.1801000685854115,0.0,0.0,0.16461517132239065,0.0,0.0,0.10478942360485577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019801595647175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586041520575925,0.07591507222747651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301133830124327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069683452103376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469192275163685,0.19190342326251636,0.0,0.12464094807155993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31872142168706946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818719035978044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273756743384849,0.0,0.0,0.11533363379903447,0.11294868721680833,0.0,0.2470397412619973,0.0,0.07976529683288999,0.0,0.1252548082672063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754098878911872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052616001717952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913172329930635,0.09380192844602944,0.0,0.12280021054769102,0.0,0.0,0.09737331430168084,0.13231421392609902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062112926286307,0.0,0.0,0.08331778537015308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754256632194317,0.0,0.0,0.20591798836618103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078334567244004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159410620386267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886021798782047,0.0,0.18884435090230764,0.0,0.0,0.1091210230580402,0.0,0.2628444630958207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287005601003765,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProtectiveWasKaolai,2018/03/19,"Getting worried, any of your kids ""moans"" or does ""mmmmm"" while eating? My son (almost 4yo) does a lot of ""mmmmmmm"" sounds when eating foods he likes. He does this since he was almost a new born. People say it's cute but he's growing up and i'm sure kids will mock him in school.


Did any of you have the same experience? Does this go away? Should i visit a doctor?",0.3754354354354348,2.689913000000004,2.4463963963963984,92.16782282282284,87.91891891891892,4.910510510510512,14.97897897897898,6.42735559955562,-0.5349741741741747,278,5,61,3,9,93,57,74,0.07,0.8009999999999999,0.129,0.5514,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,4,0,5,4,0,0,1,9,8,5,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,2,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,5,3,6,4,2,10,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,4,5,30,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440568173012077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336537046265742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140755669438606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584000574929642,0.6013577081352913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515794343702568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804899445912488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077358382103043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975607443565073,0.0,0.0976353593917276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839306188006898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460544171317802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592119452672102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910139023647025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661870175165222,0.0,0.17386624926659625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211103866730718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191525500821913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446670105353365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trevmiester,2018/03/19,"[Rant, Venting] I can't believe this is real life. Just need to vent. I am filled with the upmost anger right now. Man assaulted: [name and address redacted] was arrested Saturday night by state police after he allegedly assaulted [name redacted], striking him in the head with a rusty hammer, during an incident at [offender's] home. [offender] was arraigned before District Judge [Judge's name] on charges of aggravated assault, reckless endangerment, resisting arrest, simple assault and harassment. He was placed in [name of city redacted] jail on $150,000 bond.

This is the man that my child's mother is okay to be dating and have in her house with OUR CHILD there. She posted a picture today of them at her home WITH OUR CHILD in between them, cuddling up together. I am so fucking livid. And then she has the gull to call ME childish because I freaked out when I saw it and blew up her facebook and phone, telling me that it's no big deal.

I just can't believe what is happening. The only saving grace is that I am already talking to a family lawyer tomorrow and I saved the picture and all of our texts. I will go to the ends of the earth to protect my child and will go $1,000,000 in debt if I have to to get her away from him. I just can't believe this is real life. How could any parent WANT this person to be in their home with their child.",5.066991452991452,6.213005323076924,5.33794871794872,82.51927350427354,68.84615384615385,8.23931623931624,31.75213675213675,8.515128840125781,2.447726495726496,1064,45,201,16,18,337,147,260,0.174,0.782,0.044,-0.9881,2,0,0,0,0,0,43,3,0,4,0,8,14,9,0,12,1,23,5,1,1,1,32,31,14,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,8,10,15,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,10,0,0,4,1,30,4,37,22,1,32,0,0,1,2,36,17,1,1,10,133,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495441408441016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548884522892148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192704326773744,0.0,0.0,0.0855973213219308,0.0,0.11948511306606563,0.4746079600359198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338216248206104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112112100631612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476447403611134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436839633521757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323733025268682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129813892969583,0.07336244819091675,0.0,0.1596052198141173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417090070229785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410906180454908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225511800736505,0.0,0.0,0.1620231629491238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836233605489306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411793889150478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177249115339038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679398171629503,0.0,0.0,0.15591722890317938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226073119022959,0.146706601052668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448133325454484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196521481458238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991594116246172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128624213595563,0.12273125137847135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309955276656402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282199244051701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hittykiddy,2018/03/19,"I got dumped by my good friend because my kid hit their kid. Throwaway, just in case.

Long story short, after a night of roughhousing, my almost three year old hit my friend's four year old in the face. I immediately intervened, put him on time out, made him apologize, etc. They said it was no big deal. My friend's kid was left with a red mark on her cheek from where he popped her.

The next day, I get a FB message saying that he ""attacked her unprovoked"" and they ""don't want to give her the message that a) it is okay that he hit her and b) that they won't defend her"" - but that they hope we can still be friends, despite them not wanting to be around my child (um?) Then they attached a picture of the red mark on their child's face, which must have been taken right after we left since her kid was in the same outfit/had the same hairstyle. HI. I saw the red mark, I WAS THERE.

I am IRATE. My kid is not yet three. They were friends of mine. I feel like this is a socially tone deaf move on their part to not have the courtesy to say something in person, and that it is otherwise just NUTS in terms of how they expect a preschooler to behave, and the words they used (unprovoked attack!?).

Talk me down. For the love of God. Someone talk me down. What do I do when inevitably see them at the local playgrounds? I have refrained from responding thus far, because I feel so defensive.

EDIT: I am just updating to say thank you for all of the thoughtful responses. It has certainly given me some perspective, and I am slowly digesting all of this. My husband sent them a note apologizing again, and saying we will see them around the playgrounds. I am not responding in type - and haven't decided if/how I will respond in person.",3.9194736842105264,5.143166011695907,4.270930994152047,88.80769473684212,71.63157894736842,7.577263157894738,25.960701754385966,7.976525956113202,1.308085473684211,1344,42,284,18,25,421,180,342,0.06,0.82,0.121,0.9709,0,0,1,0,0,0,55,3,1,15,0,13,16,4,0,21,1,29,6,3,4,4,45,52,12,0,5,8,1,2,1,5,4,2,6,0,9,14,14,1,2,4,0,0,3,8,4,1,3,14,14,54,12,38,29,8,46,0,0,6,1,66,25,0,3,19,191,68,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200241203403308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914183842249436,0.0,0.2544928479076578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363664100862816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213450807957099,0.11531325587916152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474320023606865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311024301691905,0.07990622862412766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4320782247506187,0.0,0.058437422692881526,0.1072974722727606,0.0,0.09381513815709466,0.0894572966534229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109307471914677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24305242698907786,0.0,0.0,0.05464464749121089,0.0,0.0,0.09898443176365412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094970732086507,0.10583592445256462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887969138109356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895458691196616,0.10496439192957688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23473718313329764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112350866905658,0.0,0.0,0.1953275957265432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124409400180916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551996578807083,0.10639571739209283,0.3557929587367491,0.0,0.0,0.17826120075587445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252413152136818,0.0,0.0,0.114017797412952,0.09477081365006516,0.0861082047238821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932418750069313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17980286061247036,0.0,0.10297718225208824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879703551612532,0.06522109667945993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966031725897088,0.0,0.0,0.131944990928271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405648659966555
parenting,Ninja_vandal,2018/03/19,"Need advice Hello everyone and thank you for taking the time to read my post

My ex and I split up a year ago and we have a 3 year old daughter who means the absolute world to me.
When we split up I left my ex everything, house, furniture, etc I decided I would start fresh. I am living at my parents trying to save up some money and my ex is refusing to allow my daughter to visit/sleep over claiming it is not a safe environment which is absolutely absurd. She says the only way I can see my daughter is if I go to her house and play with her or if I spend even more money and take her out to lunch, playgrounds, movies, etc.. 

There is NO court order, but she is claiming to have ""full custody"" because she is the mother and she thinks shes entitled to all the decision making. I am currently paying child support (even though there is no order) my daughter is covered under all my benefits because my ex doesn't have any with her job.
I mentioned I was going to move in with a friend and she still refuses let my daughter sleep over and this time she claimed it was because my daughter now has a certain routine at home and does not want to ruin that. 

I am sick of her thinking she can call all the shots when there is no court order in play so I've decided to get a lawyer. I just want to know is she legally allowed to be doing this ? What my shots are at getting joint custody? I do not have a criminal record, have a good job, I have never had any drug, alcohol problems.. I know my lawyer is the best person to talk to but I don't talk to him for another 2 weeks and I just need some advice a little peace of mind. My ex has always been a control freak is this her thinking shes in control? or because shes the mother is she allowed to deny me access?

Thanks,

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parenting,baking_ninja,2018/03/19,"I can’t smell - how will I know when to change diapers? This is (hopefully) still a ways off, but:

I have no sense of smell (anosmia, no known cure yet). I’ve found work-arounds for most areas of my life by now, but when I have kids and my SO isn’t with me how will I know when my babies need changing??

I think I remember my parents having color-changing diapers for younger sibs; would those work for number 2 as well? Or will I just need to check them constantly? Are there any amazing devices or products out there that could help? Should I start training a service dog?

Sincerely,
Panicking About Poop",3.3100000000000023,5.211203389830512,3.612000000000002,90.18342372881357,74.42372881355931,7.092881355932204,27.0542372881356,7.908726449838941,1.5362650847457633,472,18,97,7,10,146,83,118,0.078,0.772,0.149,0.8594,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,1,1,14,4,0,0,2,0,13,2,1,2,0,23,21,12,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,2,15,4,13,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,4,8,67,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896480171913194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882386241007402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6018563849327837,0.0,0.0,0.20493839328861507,0.0,0.1514157469766117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793546782051625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271147487948746,0.0,0.0,0.1883598354787388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20844737741566105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395155882623944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28123807157489217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21057783725302412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483031370118733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423139330056394,0.0,0.15145038792416093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215165743974553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053102185080908,0.0,0.0,0.1705132318348276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761269918114589,0.0,0.0,0.13471805188456193,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,milleniajc,2018/03/20,"Kindergartner not playing well with others Hey guys, 

I'm having trouble with my little guy who seems to have a tough time discerning how his actions affect others and how to recognize how others feel. He barely went to daycare, and hasn't had very many regular friends that he sees more often than a few times a year. 

An example his teacher gave us was a group of kids playing with a toy, he wants to play too but instead of asking to join he'll try to just take the toy. His teacher gave us some papers on learning how to recognize how others feel, practicing empathy and all, and we're working through those currently. He's also enrolled in soccer for the spring and tball for the summer, but do you guys have any advice on what else we could be doing at home to help him get along with others?",10.742115384615381,6.9952325705128215,9.829487179487183,70.89884615384621,59.83333333333334,12.707692307692303,40.1025641025641,10.125756701596842,3.923225641025641,635,22,119,9,6,202,108,156,0.046,0.888,0.066,0.7297,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,0,1,11,7,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,6,1,31,23,13,0,2,4,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,9,11,0,0,5,6,0,2,2,2,1,0,5,3,9,5,23,15,4,13,0,0,1,0,25,5,0,3,6,83,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342530047291718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192569864681254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068823999359173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659140047728225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169835308800624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825655030029686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947212716437988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711578373287234,0.0,0.09272271261168337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5271807628183843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895691773862567,0.0,0.17802064771037174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787532765730324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17993053309457951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142360602013668,0.16156544212027812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343817771809452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069727487952697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049303071974875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269581536816709,0.0,0.0,0.1464344353513945,0.1046786195439412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595702204899504,0.16451994995341448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920300815499988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142872802333282
parenting,cajacole,2018/03/20,"That mom who ""one ups"" you Ladies: how do you deal with other moms who like to one up you or take subtle jabs at your parenting? 

Examples:
""Oh, you're only breastfeeding for one year?""
""Oh, you're not making all your own baby food?""
""I don't want to step on your toes, but...""

These are real ones I have gotten recently! I have a real problem deflecting these partly because I like criticism because I feel that I can use it to improve myself. However, I am aware that a lot of criticism isn't intended to help someone but rather to make the commenter feel superior (the above comments all came from the same person who I consider to be a narcissist.)

So, how can I respond to these types of comments and still feel good about myself? In other words, how can I talk about things I do well while not coming across as overly reactive or sensitive? I am an introvert and this is super challenging for me.",4.264721485411143,5.710809574712645,5.363333333333337,80.4496153846154,71.06896551724137,9.032007073386383,27.75243147656941,9.466822959209583,2.506241025641026,702,25,133,16,13,232,110,174,0.047,0.8109999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9637,2,0,0,0,0,0,30,0,6,0,2,9,8,0,0,7,0,14,2,1,7,2,31,25,12,0,3,7,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,14,5,1,0,3,0,0,3,4,1,1,4,2,3,21,7,23,22,6,14,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,3,6,105,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882288013142896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765804477523298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329928758248464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916878589125566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23419189644251495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668838522017486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949458000156636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348402135502248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508538134721677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125642413709132,0.0,0.0,0.20611236805072064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616382115534871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184732586430739,0.1174201648813053,0.0,0.0,0.17143125887265298,0.16718877349144973,0.0,0.0,0.13480694836780793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772989202875644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3514580815954261,0.0,0.0,0.1524409965702281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308137146211069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329564686047075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608168314259246,0.1240924246101067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256951752610108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334294983796435,0.0,0.0,0.09106292182268033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388146937455985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942177027702982
parenting,rockafair,2018/03/20,"Does it get easier? My kids are 3 and 8. I am a divorced mom with 80% custody. Working, kids, managing my house, and managing life are killing me. I get no breaks. I'm so tired. I don't get vacation time at my job (I'm a contractor). I hire people to take my kids to and from school because my commute is so bad I wouldn't be able to work if I didn't. I feel relatively well-supported and resourceful and I'm VERY lucky to make enough to take care of myself and my kids, just barely. But, I would really like to have some time away from them more than just a weekend here or there. Not that I'm complaining about what I have. I know I am blessed and lucky compared to others, but I really just want a break... Will it be like this forever?",0.9965376344086041,2.8827196645161317,2.9806451612903224,92.09763440860216,81.38709677419354,7.230107526881722,21.946236559139784,8.238735603445708,1.0722172043010758,568,18,132,12,15,191,93,155,0.064,0.797,0.139,0.8389,1,0,0,0,1,0,25,0,0,1,2,8,9,1,0,4,0,14,2,0,1,0,25,28,13,1,4,8,1,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,4,6,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,21,6,15,22,3,7,1,0,0,0,8,2,0,5,5,83,27,7,0.18415187558086585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301674901727745,0.0,0.15375912408104125,0.1122572741181827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775511023383554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611525472984061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027811437429976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311272143844386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886352632078937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21248653971622325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274232141346214,0.0,0.20373676595995666,0.0,0.10120505483164048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007191574073262,0.17993460907656258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292280691297687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156764510133828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276677236442481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23594481395074496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637152948725824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089733661107094,0.0,0.0,0.2769185849062465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476087912271505,0.21165549114495175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194458329879712,0.10861754742817054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557465189837806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681295173222463,0.0,0.0,0.13081620883721914,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kateydid666,2018/03/20,"Publicly shaming a 7 year old in class Hi there! I’m having an issue with my sons teacher. He is in first grade. Yesterday he asked to go to the bathroom and his teacher refused his request stating that she did not allow students to use the restroom while she was teaching. He started dancing bc it was an emergency and she informed him that if he had to go, then when he was done he should go to kindergarten bc he wasn’t big enough for first grade. I’m furious. I understand she is trying to teach structure, however publicly shaming my son in front of his peers is WRONG. I have a meeting tomorrow afternoon. This happened in Florida. Please help!",2.8582523076923074,5.4411826160000025,3.7360000000000007,85.40338461538464,78.84,6.406153846153848,32.015384615384605,7.61054688173877,2.4434923076923067,517,28,93,8,13,165,83,125,0.113,0.8490000000000001,0.039,-0.8619,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,2,2,4,1,2,6,0,13,0,0,2,0,11,23,6,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,2,1,0,5,2,4,0,2,7,0,12,0,13,15,1,22,0,0,0,0,26,5,0,1,11,59,16,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22147063159167346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24243216579250096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447822550174019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030160592043488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039092138125536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209490938284988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878987274067466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472632915465472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24858794587298916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600463644748865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767988028199154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084035613772915,0.0,0.0,0.24662249161224226,0.0,0.2046065639737423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590142598483801,0.0,0.15255659804503666
parenting,FirefoxMiho,2018/03/20,"Any parents pulling their kids out of school after the recent shooting? I know some coworkers that announced that they are putting their kids into homeschool because of the shooting. I can’t blame them because schools these days aren’t secure enough to keep their kids safe. Stoneman Douglas and Sandy Hook taught us this. That anyone can enter a school unnoticed and shoot up a school if they randomly decided to. It would make sense to pull kids out of their schools before they are next on the chopping block. 

Is any one else doing this?",6.620816326530613,8.365152918367349,4.800612244897959,85.58010204081633,65.73469387755102,7.2326530612244895,32.36734693877551,7.447530270364453,2.101922448979592,438,18,76,4,7,124,68,98,0.08,0.867,0.053,-0.4137,2,0,0,3,0,0,7,1,0,8,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,15,12,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,7,5,0,4,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,11,2,12,10,2,13,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,4,49,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133595138968917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969000743473588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19125797180121032,0.0,0.1334882916458683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117080667774114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13104816801446847,0.0,0.0,0.1620928644458004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943689429365067,0.0,0.0,0.08621389426734101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047146695969868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683736863673726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063019396371218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741901061175315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770178390466522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489423308123526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7938247434570684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870020833983628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143884874039348,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TreeBeardsBeardTree,2018/03/20,"Keeping the oldest kids happy while caring for younger ones? I wanted to know how you all have best dealt with having multiple kids, especially with an age gap.  Our youngest daughter needs more attention than the oldest son ATM, so we often can't give as much attention to him as we used to.  I don't want him to feel unloved or ignored, but there are just so many little things that keep my husband and I busy during the evenings.  Any advice is appreciated.  ",7.030344827586209,7.16711801149426,6.6580689655172405,78.31882758620691,64.28735632183907,9.258850574712644,32.342528735632186,8.841846274778883,2.5285328735632184,365,13,68,5,5,114,71,87,0.052000000000000005,0.8220000000000001,0.126,0.8311,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,1,0,1,7,5,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,2,1,22,16,9,0,3,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,3,4,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,10,3,10,16,4,5,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,4,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24486078065486766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17040083874790704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629649263500897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554797808074853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655036346219839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266991755050252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403761305454645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667436976569422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4454484040777048,0.0,0.0,0.1377104739934665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25114381506410777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540455785692325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420280362973904,0.18579954625361986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979734668357652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16647211325301076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641792983249036,0.0,0.0,0.2955934160645272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tercerero,2018/03/20,"Good media to illustrate and talk with preschoolers about blending families and remarriage My 4 year old will be facing big changes in the coming year - later this spring, we are moving in with my SO and his two kids and creating a new blended family.  She will be going from only child to the youngest of three.  She'll be sharing a living space with four new people (including SO's elderly yet wonderfully helpful mom) and learning how to live in a family.

We have taken our relationship slowly and made all our decisions with the children at the forefront of our minds.  We've read our books and had our talks.  We know the challenges that await us, and we are tuned in to the solutions.  We're engaged and set a date for a year from now.  His children are a little older and have seen their mom re-marry and have a large extended family full of half- and step-siblings.  They are excited about our addition to their family.

I realize how new my girl is to all of this.  To be honest, I'll be learning how to live in a family as well.  I haven't lived in multi-generational household, and I've been on my own most of my adult life.  I don't have any family to help support her through this and her dad, though having 50/50 custody, is pretty much emotionally absent and unable to help her process these changes.  She starts seeing a counselor this week in an attempt to get ahead of any potential issues and have some support in place when the changes start.

She's aware of the moving in and has happily watched me transform her new room in his house as we ready ourselves to move.  She knows her school, teachers, and friends will not change.  She knows her relationship with her dad will remain intact and our custody schedule will not change.  I'm trying to focus on the positive but also give her space to feel conflicted and ambivalent.  

I'd like to ask for suggestions on shows or books that are worth introducing as a way to normalize this and help her feel her feelings.  ",8.105641490995396,7.194442021220159,7.735688957140868,74.94247801200616,62.47480106100796,11.22596677369817,35.22672064777328,10.426177893888326,3.4876928381962866,1570,58,293,31,19,498,199,377,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.9882,0,0,0,0,0,0,35,13,0,3,3,13,11,0,0,20,0,29,2,1,4,2,59,50,34,0,1,4,4,3,1,1,6,1,0,1,6,8,33,0,1,11,4,1,5,4,0,1,4,5,6,44,11,53,34,7,48,0,0,3,0,58,21,0,4,21,200,52,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060509735961895884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291037642015048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073710199706455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002207469187008,0.06517919617554534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511359174693635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993154148451643,0.0,0.11477637028507585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845903841933185,0.0,0.03953214189747251,0.07258531782654391,0.04300249209819978,0.06346469749784202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028681698053242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873079187831018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897520564489874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124751469709292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344483594405909,0.03696637974458546,0.0758367879341129,0.2672563690552672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159660009815294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764006646712296,0.17723722258974112,0.0,0.2412616066131337,0.055622906549268214,0.0,0.0,0.2923131497035785,0.0,0.0,0.07413620181806893,0.0,0.0,0.079398296541994,0.0,0.0,0.05754708223501428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245698509675754,0.0,0.07905442516063732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697909582066166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756860548961114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247302897710678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657760525295837,0.060295669781082674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711297212744077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172880409828814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163425202134215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434104691325884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051371961129073176,0.0,0.07391427576684674,0.0,0.09101637473826414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600598144419065,0.06069436316855609,0.0,0.0680324423363003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205609243991797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617845569880955
parenting,xxmeiamiaxx,2018/03/20,"First Fieldtrip as a mom I have social anxiety so i try to avoid going to the field trips but will go to of course the xmas parties and so on. My daughter is in kindergarten and her dad was supposed to take her today. Apprently he came down w the flu from work and hes 100% unable to go. I have school and a quiz but our daughter was really looking foward to having one of us going. So I pmd my professor and told her i cannot come today bc hubby is sick and daughter has field trip. 

So im dreading the drive but hey anything to keep a promise. I do not do interstates and almost got off the wrong exit but eventually i got there

My daughter looked so sad seeing other parents w their kids and she finally saw me and her face glowed like a xmas tree❤️ (insert feels here)

Her classmates are so amazing and being anle to talk w parents who go through the same stuff as you just made me feel at ease.

Looking foward to more... sry for the long post",1.3247448979591852,3.469520964285717,2.8615918367346938,92.00126530612246,81.70408163265307,5.348571428571429,22.044897959183675,6.508806274219699,0.4234579591836729,743,24,157,7,20,243,125,196,0.122,0.784,0.094,-0.6991,4,1,0,0,0,0,13,2,1,1,2,9,7,0,2,11,0,15,3,1,1,0,25,35,22,0,0,6,8,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,12,0,2,2,0,0,10,2,4,0,2,8,8,23,3,21,25,2,22,0,1,6,0,26,6,0,1,6,100,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422313378234391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865929099621033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688582751483492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245454430312894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235384671802076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363816719359807,0.0,0.0,0.15559655941003395,0.0,0.1208181282438055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036196083567314,0.0,0.2272028030471057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342627483665278,0.0,0.0,0.1262506091416851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693929816011775,0.0,0.0,0.1256998657239586,0.35783044851013146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440054416055466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663541224646859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624916490083063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31543455001915544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603390446178726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099369052682124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437508457440742,0.11318653145530698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479066626527956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260044018304812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679549846492699,0.11416540476656074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692723429605273,0.1357241575579758,0.0,0.09643501955228202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17085518412290138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340593595509033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552971269934857,0.0,0.0
parenting,KrakenWarg,2018/03/20,"Introducing technology to toddlers So my son is 15 months old and he is our first/only child. Since he was born, it has always been important to us that doesn't end up becoming someone who is reliant on technology. I see kids nowadays who are just glued to their screens, totally unaware of their surroundings and what not. We do let him watch tv but limit the time that he does and rarely ever just put him in front of it while we're doing something else. For the most part, he spends most of his time with his toys and all of the books we got him. He loves books, which does make me feel better and we don't let him play with our phones so he really doesn't even know what that's really like yet. 

The problem I am having though is the thought of him ending up being less versed in technology than his peers when he is older. I see parents who let their kids play games on tablets and clearly notice how these kids are really savvy with it all. I feel bad sometimes and really don't want him to fall behind but I don't want to just throw him a screen. 

What are your thoughts on this? How do you all deal with introducing technology to your little ones? The last thing I want is for him to lose interest in books for a screen instead. ",5.3506024096385545,5.487570405622492,5.5273734939759045,85.00045783132533,67.83534136546184,9.049638554216868,27.041767068273096,8.841846274778883,1.6626485140562255,977,26,210,15,15,309,136,249,0.091,0.8220000000000001,0.086,0.3385,1,0,1,0,0,0,17,6,3,3,3,13,9,0,0,8,0,26,1,0,3,6,41,39,16,0,4,6,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,16,14,0,1,5,8,1,4,6,3,0,1,5,8,31,6,29,30,8,27,0,1,6,1,43,10,0,2,14,143,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842285494678594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879788394005398,0.0,0.14390985163435518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524275529559815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433706863023784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22805874113037955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885175824353384,0.0,0.2308202465440399,0.0,0.0,0.08606415706271431,0.11786687200325482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177061356128647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108359929610826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421552065618256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161133282676706,0.1062146503714816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997321193465591,0.0,0.06365965217385318,0.1305982239868924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577615782296974,0.0,0.0,0.1176038926069051,0.0,0.08697852150259959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400691897065843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835126779624724,0.13673148347181946,0.0,0.08829694614976373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468648899714226,0.14110586829550004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468274186474745,0.0,0.1309908922516902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33390274089934113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20766985527791385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778830682887117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040563550467723,0.10031391204269267,0.12887337989949324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656777921701296,0.0,0.12802241445975898,0.2068926657797556,0.15196190366785606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567389286696824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305689380627885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pnwtico,2018/03/20,"Waking in the middle of the night (6.5 mo) I'm looking for some advice on middle-of-the-night wakings. After struggling with various sleep options, my wife and I started sleep training our 6 month old daughter about 10 days ago. Using the 30 seconds, 2 mins, 4 mins, etc., method. It's working ok - after it took an hour to get her to sleep the first night, we have her down to 15-20 mins each night, which is honestly pretty bearable compared to what we were dealing with before. (The only way to get her to sleep was either to nurse her to sleep, or to spend anywhere from 45 mins to 2 hours rocking/bouncing her. We tried the pick up/put down method for a few nights and it was a complete nightmare that did not work for her at all.)

The first couple of nights she slept through the night, which was amazing. But since then her sleep time has got worse and worse. She'll wake up moaning and crying after anywhere from 2-4 hours of sleep. Last night she woke up around 2 am and we couldn't get her back to sleep until 5 am (the worst it's been so far). Before we started sleep training, she would wake up 3-4 times throughout the night, but could be got back to sleep quite easily (either she would feed and then fall asleep immediately, or sometimes just picking her up would make her go straight back to sleep).

So I guess my question is, should we be using the same method that we use at bedtime to get her back to sleep during the night? We tried leaving her to cry it out at one point last night but she was screaming her head off the whole time and flailing around in her crib - not like at bedtime when she cries and rolls but it's more of a cry for attention than a genuine ""I'm terrified"" scream (I hope that makes sense).

We don't think it's teething (she has 2 teeth already so we have an idea of what that looks like), but she does seem to be going through some separation anxiety. She cries for big chunk of her bedtime routine as if she recognizes what's coming, and she's no longer happy being left on the floor to play if she can't see and interact with someone.

I realize this is a lot of information, but I'd appreciate any advice. I know she's going through a lot of developmental and neurological changes but if there's anything we can do to make this easier for her I'd love to try it.",5.5255020753512145,5.401338023706899,5.531618773946363,86.01229565772672,67.46982758620689,8.25338441890166,29.46966794380588,7.526774132740827,1.53860003192848,1809,57,386,16,27,567,223,464,0.098,0.82,0.08199999999999999,-0.6652,0,0,3,0,0,0,59,12,0,0,5,13,13,0,1,22,1,31,24,21,8,1,78,63,31,0,10,17,2,0,2,0,5,1,2,0,0,19,30,1,0,8,1,1,6,6,4,0,4,12,5,49,9,67,40,15,73,0,0,3,1,49,25,0,14,43,244,68,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778142054459127,0.044350366405633085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055211577491597816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034023488837612983,0.0,0.03827435786872575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041172088931088015,0.08907820927358885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538861383903489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514712689043848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05292724247660325,0.04309815454312203,0.05245762040267767,0.0,0.0,0.039946496318563535,0.05535947780049366,0.27478911973586045,0.0322665134431821,0.05158081506423701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043783357304035216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05579892695632845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511442022190797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455866048603628,0.0,0.08530304877630346,0.0,0.08003035279243471,0.0,0.055115909987636366,0.0,0.0,0.05326001495310162,0.0,0.0,0.05134728610395757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04969308427134008,0.14781438266798974,0.0,0.0,0.05648005994204178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027496289391337574,0.08156554693036977,0.0,0.05297668445168568,0.0543599354291719,0.0,0.0,0.04888623489129891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402859075702401,0.0,0.0,0.08507086740026842,0.04515585085519535,0.0,0.10019028428858777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03993508052191536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.516468270008392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052500188029495284,0.0,0.033902991158932465,0.038051605254391545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047296430075464656,0.0,0.0,0.05090055052740021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029599839588123,0.0560473120516441,0.05321521115511347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03986904176460431,0.04554727135647325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413870034333605,0.0,0.6008178226634905,0.0,0.0423919676458868,0.0,0.049482946465028516,0.0,0.07082584163646967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05230432975382666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03205849780315249,0.0,0.0,0.08752221851151172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05558741442857733,0.10190537087759027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296348023992133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03971308817121757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585896287191874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284781194888702,0.0,0.10197380417095753,0.10662393319927196,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momonomicon,2018/03/20,"Potty training - pees just a little in undies My 2 year old girl is potty trained, but she pees a drop or two in her undies every time she needs to go. Is this going to create some weird habit? Anyone have any ideas to help her stop?

Details: 
She's 26 months, so I know she's a bit on the young side. Potty training her has been sort of a strange experience. Around 18 months she would take her diaper off and use the potty flawlessly for hours at a time. When we tried to switch her to undies, though, it was like she couldn't tell the difference between the undies and a diaper. She would just pee through them. 

She was in pull ups for a while, and has been exclusively using the potty for maybe a month now. She won't pee in diapers anymore (that I can tell, anyway), but still has a problem with undies. It's like the only way she can tell that she has to pee is if a drop or two comes out. That makes me think that maybe she's not entirely physically ready, but she definitely *wants* to be.",3.8315134370579926,4.6783185445544575,4.349024045261668,89.58108910891089,71.47524752475249,7.751626591230551,22.844413012729845,7.957251820313856,0.7863680339462524,774,17,173,10,14,245,116,202,0.095,0.8170000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.1272,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,1,0,1,0,9,5,0,0,16,0,19,5,5,3,0,32,30,13,0,7,9,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,3,0,0,4,3,2,0,2,4,0,24,3,24,21,2,33,0,0,0,0,25,12,0,5,16,112,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693596485840003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413670323333263,0.09967126857206528,0.0,0.0,0.12689589543574298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562298660439486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279049965138948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892991835898192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010090113484988,0.0,0.0,0.1394370480657594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620240138209621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554537872279256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403788019531392,0.0,0.0,0.16091674583617446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833938944052435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928125860636772,0.1428682406163208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515036237960194,0.0,0.2864126324284282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413358559934226,0.0,0.0,0.10569583118656324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957773455203344,0.0,0.0,0.10841242905306328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639698474937295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383718104402425,0.11917458890590475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717662720690073,0.0,0.3737736771911741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913375295311869,0.1400504276011818,0.0,0.16623908928434142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967791741113456,0.0,0.2784928745772697,0.0,0.0,0.2462274363802407,0.0,0.0,0.08407714774924299,0.11314614258864375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025207524719002,0.0,0.0,0.09179475797350482
parenting,RunningHybrid,2018/03/20,"Dyslexic son feeling stupid and I don't know how to help My almost 11 year old was diagnosed with dyslexia back in second grade. He has had a 504 plan ever since. 

He still struggles a lot with reading and it is really starting to affect him mentally. When my younger son passed my dyslexic son in reading it lead to some negative feelings but they are only a year apart so it wasn't as big of a deal. Now my 7 year old daughter has passed her dyslexic brother and I think that was a gut punch for him. His younger siblings often read things for him to help him out. He appreciates it but I know it also makes me feel stupid since he can't do it himself. He can read but he as to take a step back and take his time. 

We had him in dyslexia tutoring but had to make a choice between that and one of his sports. His inclusion teacher recommended keeping him in his sport. He is a talented athlete and sports give him a sense of purpose. It gives him something to feel good about and his teacher didn't think taking him out of that to force something he is bad at would be a positive in the long run. I was still not sure about it and my wife was completely against him playing a sport instead of tutoring, but we ultimately made the decision to continue with the sport. I don't know if we made the right decision but he was happy. 

Now he is really struggling with feeling dumb. He has a project due tomorrow and asked me to help him with it last weekend. I told him to read the instructions first and then I would help him. He got really upset with me and told me he couldn't read it. I told him that he needed to try and sat with him. He sat there staring at the paper and eventually started crying. He kept saying, ""I can't do it. I don't know what it says."" I told him to take a break. He came back and I told him I would help him read it but he was still very emotional about it and l said ""I'm sorry I'm stupid.""

I'm heartbroken about this. I don't want my son to feel stupid. He often says that he isn't good at school like his siblings. I also have an older daughter who is very intelligent and does great academically. He often feels like his teachers are comparing him to her even though there is no evidence of that. My wife is a college professor and whenever she talks to the kids about college he says that he will never get into a good school. He is such a confident kid until it comes to reading. I'm thinking about dyslexia tutoring this summer even if it interferes with athletics. It's expensive and he is going to hate it but I want him to be able to read better. Not only for obvious reasons but I know seeing some improvement will help his confidence. 

Is there anything we can do in addition to tutoring that will help?",2.8020105230816483,4.5822942797833965,4.044566402949538,87.05940510023814,75.5162454873646,7.530778093555572,26.22766725554958,8.332992426153591,1.6866017052000926,2157,80,448,39,47,706,222,554,0.093,0.75,0.158,0.9916,0,0,2,0,0,0,41,4,0,1,4,31,21,6,3,24,0,48,2,1,8,4,95,100,39,0,9,13,9,7,2,0,6,1,5,0,2,31,36,0,3,18,16,1,8,15,10,0,3,24,14,66,11,61,67,3,54,0,0,2,0,97,15,1,9,32,296,97,24,0.060531234050272366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061328718270492,0.0,0.0,0.0968136120013406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04981204802797862,0.0,0.05658853272104486,0.0,0.0,0.13963434784369694,0.05054105204064202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053534957498906965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923160604876408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214229833255411,0.06346584724678918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649071827644543,0.0,0.06240504438826296,0.0,0.06143792838855959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052971290830181296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680894910251912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996061841308041,0.05475396667702175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142448748713,0.04324352570022702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05148783676076642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03162507145671512,0.11613415073366375,0.03440129525360587,0.15231218170926264,0.048412357503468124,0.06673589923445368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443662422023846,0.0,0.05976206180455133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840096716817163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05380294206608593,0.0,0.0,0.16633191602750094,0.04934103474715968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591450068124604,0.0,0.0,0.05356823732764017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05146149057212762,0.0,0.11455223448475517,0.08081013752258473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100124682448412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04488314305979528,0.0466854193317813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703469537240308,0.0,0.04101753075311476,0.09207346227420804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5449285319567967,0.0,0.11633357557030882,0.06223619006647479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169334314188877,0.05757906509493065,0.1925474674504498,0.0,0.1225216809344584,0.04823555653277549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014412463779697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319980252085776,0.0,0.06775976075415645,0.08568863802666925,0.0,0.14502096511179036,0.0,0.0,0.12656077713859126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704997173465184,0.0,0.1820478192031175,0.04865271304721512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04021426222646523,0.11635791190592472,0.05947163012053072,0.0,0.03529624935400343,0.0,0.0,0.2892009407204126,0.0,0.0410967345455775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998892148702746,0.0714057803060931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899895583009388,0.0,0.0,0.11694039040173235
parenting,LadyGlugmore,2018/03/20,"2 year old spitting out food So my 2 year old son constantly spits out food while eating. Usually it’s because he takes too big of a bite and can’t chew it. Sometimes it’s because he’s done eating. He’s very independent and refuses to eat food that’s been cut into small pieces to prevent big mouthfuls. We tell him each time he does this that food goes in our bellies and we shouldn’t spit it out. We’ll also take his food away and not offer him more. He definitely doesn’t let himself starve and he eats more than he spits, but I don’t know what else to do to try and teach him that spitting out his food is not acceptable behavior. It’s especially annoying in public or at dinner with family.",4.794514374514378,5.157460230769232,5.624848484848485,83.03505050505049,69.06993006993007,9.152758352758351,28.47630147630148,9.150863307647796,2.091901942501942,555,18,117,10,9,182,89,143,0.07400000000000001,0.904,0.023,-0.7841,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,10,18,6,1,0,25,13,11,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,15,12,2,2,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,12,1,16,8,4,20,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,1,8,66,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837963448719484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844874325714813,0.0,0.0,0.1277516497238618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132351138181782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916978607234835,0.10723120296998598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42888392808457204,0.08753423190401217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878175809732102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7602369784952961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057586970718371426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071495294731647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21990798450906665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363481954179847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575702168918076,0.0,0.09158650991720096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110084361925061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114198241140805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540562324987208,0.08645841142815518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349559162324978
parenting,LonelyOperation,2018/03/20,"Am I fudging up sleeping and eating with pacifier use? I’m a first time mom to a three-month-old. She’s always been a pretty great sleeper, averaging about 7 hours of sleep between her last night feed before bedtime (8:45pm) and first morning feed (usually around 4am). But she typically doesn’t sleep soundly between this time, and every time I hear her start to make noises I just stick her pacifier in her mouth and she usually falls asleep quickly. So here’s my question: should I really not be using the pacifier in this way? Should I just get up to feed her? And what about when she moves into her own crib, where I won’t be able to easily reach over and find her pacifier for her without me getting out of bed and walking into her room? Thanks!",5.800952380952381,6.187126782312928,6.111972789115652,80.33421768707484,66.89115646258503,9.254421768707482,30.619047619047624,9.150863307647796,2.4669537414965985,595,21,115,10,9,191,96,147,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.9319,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,2,10,2,0,0,4,0,8,9,5,3,0,24,17,10,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,3,12,4,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,1,2,21,2,22,11,1,28,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,1,13,77,24,0,0.14908771777361327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405292435570595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271967725021064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686266699607213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255395507195152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125612832324811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626347309334386,0.2536278731534791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557843583361698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643697351712881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803269329614773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468213705732206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152638845811685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951720929898818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17460973317634107,0.11900039394710303,0.15845664975965387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990872365155874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564424805498621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167580697780286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701236423353966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550940961497148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475861614211596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552505399043564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725993995935198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608027414963829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575278402371989,0.328398116347039,0.0,0.0,0.11833889090664255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371523972614772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PatientEmu,2018/03/20,"How do you handle friendships with other parents as you get older? I'm finding it hard to navigate friendships as I get older. Most (but certainly not all) of my current connections have been made through our kids in one way or another. 

I am part of a little 'group' of moms who have been close for a number of years. 

When our kids were younger we got together regularly for coffee mornings/playdates and would rotate houses. 

Now, all of our kids are in school and a few have returned to work, so we try to get together as a group for dinner and/or a movie every other month or so, and regularly keep in touch via a group chat.

Friendships were hard enough for me to manage as a young person, but now that I am getting into the over-30 and over-40 crowd I am just as baffled as I ever was. I feel like so many different things can be misconstrued and hurt people's feelings, and it makes me so stressed. 

I reached out to coordinate a dinner get-together with this group of ladies. We usually do something super casual--think, cheap chain restaurant or family owned place in a strip mall, type of affair. One of our friends is recently divorced so myself and one other lady ended up sort of co-coordinating everyone's schedules trying to be inclusive of our recently divorced friend's custody situation, and we settled on a day. 

A while later we were chatting and this friend had mentioned that her husband got a job and they would soon be moving. It was also mentioned that one person was officially making arrangements for a formal going-away party (making reservations and invitations). 

So the day comes, and basically everyone cancels. That's fine, I get it. I wasn't disappointed or anything. I reached out to the recently-divorced friend and asked her to tell me what her custody schedule is like for next week, when one of the girls interjects with: ""Maybe we should ask Sally when suits her, as she is trying to pack and leave the state"". 

I know it sounds innocuous, and maybe it was. But really, I'm just trying to include people and take initiative and really I am not signing up to deal with bullshit. I'm not trying to exclude anyone, for fuck's sake it's a casual get together at a shitty restaurant just to catch up for a couple hours! Like, why don't YOU fucking organize it then, I'm just trying to be nice. I don't know. Maybe I'm being sensitive because this friend is consistently rude to the wait staff and getting upset about stupid things (she once unfriended people for 'not inviting' her to a get-together when the pictures were put on Facebook--that she had actually declined weeks prior). 

We don't see each other often as it is, but seriously goddamn. I'm just trying to make the effort to have friends and be nice to people. Is it supposed to be this hard? Does everyone get offended by these things? Maybe I'm being juvenile for caring that she interjected with her opinions when I'm making the effort to coordinate 6 peoples' schedules. 

I won't be reaching out to this particular friend in the future for anything one-on-one. ",6.9436090686274525,7.299178315972222,7.283031045751637,73.02095588235295,64.4513888888889,10.179248366013073,34.302287581699346,9.987195323819016,3.453988316993464,2434,100,423,49,34,794,262,576,0.085,0.78,0.135,0.9856,4,0,1,0,3,0,71,12,3,1,4,24,27,5,2,27,0,47,4,0,7,4,81,85,50,0,3,17,3,6,3,7,4,0,1,0,6,30,38,2,2,5,4,1,4,9,10,0,5,16,8,45,17,75,56,8,58,0,2,1,2,59,18,2,8,37,293,75,6,0.0,0.0,0.06419101617120519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052603607174281315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897523275641051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045994350191754914,0.0,0.1082613633700161,0.0,0.12298935590939787,0.0,0.06180172924027302,0.0,0.0,0.04009839336196428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706628434562938,0.0,0.0,0.05666296137390017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278344016215559,0.0,0.08484429202517843,0.06781547290371352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872526975092902,0.0,0.0,0.05756382634100837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058260852104124475,0.06796750356080193,0.0,0.0,0.059501057646147076,0.055421817985065874,0.1885645503635816,0.0,0.0,0.06201078110121554,0.0,0.06651988587057578,0.04699267782167205,0.0,0.0,0.060121002480576675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557459590161266,0.12162363176214525,0.3436692013401137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052192799689384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767757443384574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647792675766272,0.0759003718965566,0.07041800036897887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527571193472108,0.05846758055521796,0.0,0.0,0.0723010625500476,0.0,0.0,0.06965068125596154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640919206608396,0.06592804510595586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062241875075260925,0.21954065353324667,0.06668979030443445,0.26433621451764244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703981091276339,0.05250433456060837,0.06991288580130409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995693169876642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005270745772134,0.26744215368797203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304002368197107,0.07123246982772509,0.0,0.22801509490263056,0.1148717306986963,0.06872526975092902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612627024472854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427968731498013,0.0,0.1298980602815709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657206813148997,0.05241751062129208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393858344617844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506400463651734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534985808710354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945777649615414,0.0,0.05749392527215892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110234455059214,0.04214865907791381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126183405089644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244650205705593,0.0,0.0,0.052212471854972006,0.10552822242762458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05935550200280915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788804530485022,0.0,0.0,0.09345532111448353,0.0,0.0,0.042359651928660924
parenting,MikeClasses,2018/03/20,"Kid (5 y/o) wants to have a sleepover with a new friend he made. When his friend sleeps over, what should I do to make sure his friend feels comfortable in our house? As far as getting medical records and such, I’ve got info from parents. Allergies, medical issues, etc. But what can I do so the friend that sleeps over doesn’t feel uncomfortable.

Will it be weird if I hire an experienced nanny to take care of this? Is that bad that i pass on this responsibility to someone else? I’ll be there but just don’t know what to do. I’m thinking the nanny can do it better.",3.1435845410628005,4.5850075130434815,4.168985507246377,87.93164251207732,73.86956521739131,7.545893719806764,24.082125603864736,8.167268648758528,1.118835748792271,444,13,98,7,9,144,80,115,0.047,0.792,0.161,0.906,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,0,1,5,10,0,0,5,0,14,4,2,2,1,16,26,8,0,3,4,1,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,10,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,3,7,8,14,20,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,2,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497262290113466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535603809607347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702592256797978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504441013448516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936417781310417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558366741578413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5365800817941274,0.0,0.09071377372257716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886664730408418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034408480117813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812231412389871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542173407584563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642915731066152,0.11589843424934855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34982508211052465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676915773190093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279400525684035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34750797150763746,0.0,0.14711494362333968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364289433780072,0.0,0.13054709378667412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125419174585892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241064286663593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MyButtsAsleep,2018/03/20,"Changing Preschools We will be moving our almost 4 year old to a new preschool soon (like next couple weeks). His birthday is at the end of May, and I'd like to be able to invite some of his current classmates to his birthday party. Is there etiquette for giving parents my phone number so we can exchange contact info? Should I leave a note in his classmate's cubby? If I do it for one, do I need to do it for all? What should the note say?",4.072666666666667,4.7008078222222185,4.551111111111112,89.15000000000002,70.77777777777777,6.0,28.333333333333336,3.1291,0.7826666666666671,344,12,71,0,6,109,65,90,0.014,0.857,0.129,0.8504,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,0,1,12,14,3,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,11,2,12,8,2,11,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,10,50,14,0,0.2472814934727305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24761669597521355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615910317382216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736122691584008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901800618102815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23721494107287536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618353969586222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241618494080152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26282109343676313,0.0,0.183356094117603,0.0,0.2388260073044809,0.262986673655628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594803301750946,0.0,0.16756433967247414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745768347096987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966481687619127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983542982740737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924117435420887
parenting,DabbyGreen,2018/03/20,"Single Dad tips Hello, so my ex is 13 weeks pregnant and she told me that she doesn’t want me around often for the baby.... I’m 19 but I don’t want to miss anything in my baby’s life. Is there any tips to deal for how I can still be a good dad if I can’t be there often. 

She broke up with me, all I ever been doing is to be supportive and caring. She lives in another province (state) and I flown to go to her first ultrasound not long ago ",0.1630158730158726,1.641485959183676,2.624013605442176,95.64400226757373,82.26530612244899,5.580045351473924,17.011337868480727,6.42735559955562,-0.4374390022675736,336,6,83,3,9,116,67,98,0.056,0.807,0.13699999999999998,0.7876,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,1,2,15,20,7,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,0,15,3,12,15,2,12,0,2,0,0,11,4,0,3,6,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257141844823083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731571722764691,0.26700181926667904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209538843298784,0.2266747378977544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596123161335065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625124108484991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303274669027673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165881987576131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471213091603213,0.21357161328886254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985274151695765,0.0,0.0,0.2248430078107513,0.2253395901506353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20334789464675745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889511743177027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433099340361916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003748129725918,0.0,0.20424887489441526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tryingvegan,2018/03/20,"From balance bike to normal bike, how and when? Our daughter is 3 years old and 3 months. She has a balance bike and she really loves it. She has been asking for a pedal bike. Can a 3 year old use a pedal bike? She is really good with her balance bike, but we are not sure if it's too soon for pedals. My husband thinks she is ready, and I think maybe we should use training wheels, but then what is the point of the balance bike training?",2.6160439560439563,3.827311703296701,3.484395604395605,93.2356043956044,74.82417582417581,6.079120879120879,21.791208791208792,6.18269132825596,0.13310549450549436,339,8,76,2,7,108,56,91,0.028,0.878,0.094,0.7131,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,3,1,19,16,10,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,11,3,6,14,0,9,0,0,0,1,13,1,0,1,8,49,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21384796649679494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918624897131204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206453484617368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298075371160595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258401460895105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22412391170969853,0.0,0.0,0.4800638923409536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162402571120619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29308291951006216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21559174372474632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931442308233053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39512866625451215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946116876367509
parenting,-CantPlaySteelDrums-,2018/03/20,"(Advice) How do I discipline my spoilt child. My son is six and it seems that against all my efforts I have spoilt him. Always thought I was tough on teaching him how to accept disappointment well and understand that he can't always get his way, but still he behaves like a law unto himself and I am often lost in how to deal with it. For example this morning I took him to the park but come time to go he plain refuses to cooperate and plants his feet like a tree, then starts acting up until we're arguing. It's embarrassing. Then when we do get home and it's time for an afternoon nap, he won't settle down, refuses to get into bed and basically pushes me until I want to smack him. But I so don't want to smack him, I just don't know what the Hell else I should do.",3.593539772727276,4.324758956250001,5.053977272727273,84.73511363636366,71.9375,8.568181818181818,25.79545454545455,8.841846274778883,1.6486875000000003,603,18,132,11,11,203,99,160,0.124,0.7979999999999999,0.078,-0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,2,10,10,2,1,5,0,12,1,1,3,1,31,26,18,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,10,0,3,5,1,0,5,4,6,1,1,4,0,22,4,20,20,1,21,1,2,0,0,19,5,1,2,12,89,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21041672965186625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583414835189501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548662276508693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22199445166875972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17987951226601742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375011010330715,0.0,0.12237627184439083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159922594891112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183390312610178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103974684255917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23505673052777004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19602717632895653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241077383602486,0.0,0.17196179115567994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094694845725805,0.251119812448351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23923812701269234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22416478786111851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25401291194358033,0.1709179124382447,0.0,0.0,0.1936063760810147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,milkandtea8989,2018/03/20,"Fever 13 month, visitors? Hi all, 
My younger son is 13 months old, yesterday was 39c fever, fussy and crying all day. Ive talked with my husband to tell him that how my day went with sick toddler and also active older toddler. I told him to tell his mom to not coming to visit tomorrow as we schedule every week. He was unhappy about me changing the schedule and suggested they are still coming. We went to an argument and I dont know what to do. I just want to have some peace at home so my son can rest. My son very clingy to me and cried for everything (speak loud, laughing or even drop subjects). I explained to husband that hes gonna cry alot so what the point of visiting to hear the screaming and his mom still coming back next week (she just saw the grandson 2 days ago). His mom working at the restaurant where to seeing a lot of people and Im afraid that might make my son worse since the fever made his immune system weaker. And also my family will not come tomorrow either. Whats your opinion?",3.38662313432836,4.983104761194029,4.103404850746268,88.01839085820896,73.52736318407959,7.015049751243781,25.000310945273643,7.6454224807358475,1.1983355721393036,791,25,160,10,16,252,127,201,0.132,0.8079999999999999,0.06,-0.9388,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,1,1,1,13,3,0,1,9,0,12,5,0,3,2,35,28,15,0,1,6,10,0,0,0,3,5,4,1,0,6,16,0,0,2,0,0,8,3,2,0,0,7,6,26,1,20,18,7,33,0,0,2,0,34,4,0,6,19,100,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019411500371292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18077981135738191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691295414755328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195705616280238,0.389460724021698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724738471755249,0.21868464822543704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247010644825175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465512965540483,0.0,0.09523249771853932,0.0,0.1015839134056528,0.0,0.10655445426452173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273928211377864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337812467242953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220916008867788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062118232716587715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609391040662854,0.0,0.10695154799324018,0.07544828209123458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199067763509659,0.0,0.3971374749361384,0.1804386468377457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020849514885985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860578172079515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836064493935775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684971372963177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007013198301844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934994345646374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805315194411016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908490872810178,0.19758608816427248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080048361527708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326143838448657,0.06666791594028854,0.0,0.18133140641991016,0.0,0.0,0.2095595498255604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228705464819543,0.0,0.1151870423011128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GuyInHotDogCostume,2018/03/20,"Question on babysitter Wife and I had our first kid recently. While we were in the hospital we made friends with the nursing student and exchanged contact information. We are considering having her babysit our kid, but have never done this before. She certainly seems trustworthy but we don’t even know her last name.  What can/should we do before we leave her at home with our newborn for a night?",5.568750000000001,7.947925041666673,4.9872222222222256,80.68000000000002,69.41666666666666,8.133333333333335,32.83333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.948066666666667,321,15,55,6,6,97,56,72,0.017,0.8490000000000001,0.133,0.8674,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,2,20,11,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,10,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,14,2,6,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,22,3,0,2,6,41,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4512520740839208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713440152900913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513133791881802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22553936969010865,0.0,0.0,0.20485688008366704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26597050673224043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572138920692235,0.2161354326933368,0.0,0.2807591942318026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508945839221215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045026692174362,0.0,0.0,0.24882852940556074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970325216337184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618070209744462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413857216218029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yeetmywayover,2018/03/20,"My Daughter (17) is distraught over her weight and it’s affecting her health My daughter is a 17 year old high school senior and wanted to loose some weight before her graduation in May. She stepped on the scale and it read that she was 248.8 pounds. She’s 5’5” and carries her weight on her stomach like the rest of our family. I recently lost 30 pounds and I think she took it very hard that she couldn’t do it at the same pace. 

In January she started working out three to four times a week and eating better than she was before Christmas and was drinking plenty of water. She stayed true to this regime and now towards the end of March, she’s only down 9 pounds. She’s so discouraged over this and has been on tumblr a lot recently. I took a peek (she is comfortable with me being on her laptop and I tell her that if there is anything she doesn’t want me to see delete it or sign out) and it’s covered in proED blogs and I’ve noticed she’s been eating less and less. She was ill the past few days and has been weak but still goes to the gym despite not being in her best health. I’ve tried to talk her out of going but she’s relentless about losing weight.

I love my daughter and of course I want her to be healthy but I also can’t begin to explain why she isn’t losing the weight to her. She thinks it’s just not worth it anymore and I’m trying I encourage her but I believe there is an underlying issue with her hormones possibly. Has anyone else been through a similar issue? I’m scared of her developing and eating disorder as she idolizes skinny people and has started to follow restricting meal plans and long fasts.

EDIT: A big reason I believe she has an underlying illness (not the ED, something possibly systemic) is that she lost a lot of her hair in 2015 and it will not grow back on top of having incredibly weak nails. She’s usually very pale but somehow throughout the winter her skin has gotten dark like she’s gone down in foundation shades. She also just went through a massive out break of cystic acne and dryness on top of being cold all the time. She was working in a dinner theatre this past summer and washing the dishes in a hot steamy kitchen she would have to wear a long sleeve on because she was still cold. She’s been taking efforts to loose weight since she was 11 and has had no significant luck. She’s had her thyroid checked by this doctor before and nothing came up so I believe this is why the doctor won’t take her weight seriously now as well and projects it towards the pill but also tells her not to come off it. When I mentioned the hair loss to the doctor she blamed it on stress but the only real stress has been this last year and the hair loss happened in 2015.  

Definitely going to change doctors and fight for the blood work/referrals as well as teach her about portion control. Thanks everyone! ",5.556455120101132,5.979420989380532,5.65934260429836,83.24008849557524,67.42477876106193,8.297850821744628,29.417193426042985,8.052868069273773,1.8433600505689007,2269,75,448,26,35,716,264,565,0.119,0.785,0.096,-0.9186,0,0,2,0,1,0,34,1,0,0,15,20,27,1,4,31,0,45,38,8,3,2,75,74,46,0,6,16,3,13,2,0,4,13,0,1,0,22,35,17,3,4,4,2,11,11,15,2,2,23,16,68,12,70,42,11,80,0,7,1,1,62,36,0,8,32,308,90,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306992472460698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327552115106241,0.044612604216055035,0.06537380588716411,0.0525045069207528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04906063809178751,0.0,0.038893771632796836,0.0,0.16287519151325844,0.21565270183303265,0.0669574069058086,0.056428648445146674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297373793746566,0.0,0.0,0.06749520952314095,0.05496071276025069,0.0,0.0,0.07156059103035323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0411477149294438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312386909571847,0.261220665859746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250273837939357,0.0,0.1958594694309748,0.05329929489107835,0.0,0.05651060022318475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06096658697917546,0.0,0.0,0.06014787518169741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252153309220627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056420862017285,0.0,0.05715503668233784,0.0,0.0,0.13563940279073794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741146790832507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331876993677789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200803425918639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062341934179629736,0.0,0.0,0.11292745425451428,0.0,0.14275867563868944,0.13929721999695674,0.10848621146349503,0.057584780012191465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06122078589777074,0.07264024116217913,0.06695061040864743,0.0,0.0,0.09705025046307064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181453827536473,0.04423302923845118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385679538929058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382035629740475,0.07262188500711472,0.0,0.06560020319243066,0.12599570876889632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387802390441633,0.06457213364277113,0.05084280233526962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277857559846364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04911873603069505,0.0,0.0,0.09032031137876724,0.06800560496191507,0.10190646062293264,0.0,0.14617244868385887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594396698856146,0.05128250714498011,0.11153342627086717,0.05874131330974355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176488798476313,0.0,0.0,0.07440819006048377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417751618314532,0.08663622030383629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702700899052692,0.10528846295416464,0.1128981471758759,0.0,0.05117899047556703,0.5438648271169003,0.11473328120074612,0.059146103900779436,0.11514473007475065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393482288341216,0.0,0.0,0.04532388473130537,0.0,0.0,0.08217419654129472
parenting,sparrowsong7,2018/03/20,"Ex is refusing to allow us to take one child on spring break Hello! To be brief- we are a blended family. DH and I have our own kiddos (2), and I have 2 with my ex- 16 and 12. 16 year old lives with me fulltime, 12 has split time with me/her dad (my ex)

Anyway- I made spring break plans for us, and informed my ex. My ex is throwing a wrench in those plans and refusing me to allow me to take the 12 year old (her school moved the spring break week- so she has off the week after Easter- the rest of the kids have off the week before). We have a court order stating no vacation plans may take the children away from school.

No matter how much begging, offering of exchanging time, there is nothing I can do. I even offered to buy him a ticket down so he could take her part of the time. No go. And in fairness- thats how the order is written. I cant change that the school really messed this up for us.

Im torn in half over this. If I cancel our trip, Ill have 3 really upset kiddos. If I go, Ill have one alienated little lady.  We work really hard at being blended and everyone being together. Sure- we have occasional overnights, but never something like this (And of course- its Florida). Im devastated and trying to find a solution.

Any advice is helpful. My DH says that we should go, because our kids didnt do anything wrong and dont deserve to miss out on their spring break- but my DD shouldnt miss out because my ex is not willing to negotiate.  Thoughts?

****Edit***** So it seems the general consensus is I should take my planned vacation, and then make plans with just the 12 year old this summer. Any ideas for what type of make up trip that should be? The 12 year olds reaction to this whole this is ""I dont want to be left out, but i dont want you all not to go.""  No idea how to make this up to her.",-0.08245730550284591,2.239734758064518,1.846103731815308,94.81856736242884,92.54838709677419,5.175711574952561,18.584440227703983,6.794906146795322,0.19385066413662289,1398,42,308,21,51,460,179,372,0.093,0.856,0.051,-0.8959,0,0,1,0,0,0,64,11,1,1,6,10,7,0,1,18,0,38,2,0,9,3,61,58,23,0,9,8,7,1,1,0,6,2,1,0,4,15,23,0,2,6,1,2,9,13,5,0,3,4,2,40,2,45,42,6,57,0,2,0,0,38,19,0,4,23,199,55,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384794658157117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670109346688798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061045123130033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061690436348097,0.0,0.0,0.1046122295453244,0.0,0.07301399087189535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077063055888628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850855041346843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30168951944671063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056673591735378274,0.0,0.0,0.08199064173918302,0.0,0.0,0.08088960084119746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842449016871296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506051864672735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686469537506006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057513484231294536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372748002917864,0.18536889762069034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322771006306443,0.0,0.0,0.041920135634258865,0.08599945296861768,0.07576765237308185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119105002447458,0.17182711313118915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119745511499217,0.06307676875657697,0.0,0.06617833747947828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233250001758972,0.0,0.3601529155050148,0.0,0.11628778456346085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929187787828781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649072180239649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823581893522926,0.0,0.2605186351163541,0.0,0.07811392295926599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605711239748137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087048026320963,0.0,0.3225745368968305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811982405696344,0.15010128225959307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582561666359566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096396347434116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122037875464036,0.0,0.2064835091107487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579855373139563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246728070481576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381462616195144,0.0,0.22102320115521185
parenting,theneuf,2018/03/20,"Teaching 6 year old to read is excruciating My son is 6 years old and in grade 1. He's a very bright kid and can actually read most of the words in his learning to read books. However whenever we try to read with him he's constantly fidgeting, looking everywhere but the book and reverting to the language and attention span of a 3 year old. We're lucky if we can get passed the second page.

I realize this is probably not unusual but my wife and I are losing our patience.  If he could just look at the words he'd be reading whole books no problem. His teacher seems to be no help as she spends the whole day dealing with the out of control kids so that the quiet ones aren't getting much attention. This has been an ongoing issue all year.

Are there any strategies out there that we can use to get him to focus better? 
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parenting,karjoncar,2018/03/20,"Is it normal for a 2.6 year old boy to hit during tantrums? How can I handle it? I have a 2.6 year old, boy, who is the most sweetest, loving, energetic and restless toddler i know. He is very intense, and feels everything very strongly. Lately, when we say no to something he starts to throw the biggest tantrums and start hitting us with a closed fist (his mom and dad) Its really embarassing when he does it in front of other people. He goes to daycare and they say that he is very well behaved, it Seems that he only does this to his parents or people he is very clase to. I want to be a loving and understanding mom but i loose patience. I dont know what to do and im beggining to think that if i dont do something he is gonna get worse. Is this normal? Can someone recommend something? ",2.066270833333334,4.099563918750004,3.4675000000000047,89.20083333333338,78.5625,6.016666666666668,25.041666666666664,7.03164865440522,1.023904166666667,617,23,127,7,15,202,92,160,0.085,0.8079999999999999,0.108,0.4002,1,0,3,0,0,0,21,2,0,1,1,4,7,2,1,6,0,15,2,0,1,0,24,30,13,0,4,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,13,10,0,0,6,0,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,3,12,4,13,26,1,14,0,0,0,2,24,3,0,4,9,75,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219159219990632,0.0,0.2935104510162204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253837201124754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331426882091917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654215319655064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352575377282176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763369706431464,0.0,0.14125199536758032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22602928740062256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29330893967760585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453752144076019,0.0,0.0,0.2627916397093029,0.0,0.0,0.09523436118699947,0.0,0.0,0.13904039772660515,0.0,0.0,0.17362157285694804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802182190929468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915765746059955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399427862360782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609728370789424,0.28919810670510826,0.0,0.0,0.17726068949488885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023500029727912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130356942152554,0.15062251584462094,0.0,0.0,0.41327372003502094,0.07385715389150653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258652800900483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760841537570253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612733007143141
parenting,darkmaiden48,2018/03/20,"Am I doing something inappropriate or spoiling my son? I live alone with my 18 year old son. We argue a lot but we have a pretty good relationship overall. When him and I were watching TV a couple months ago, he asked me to scratch his back. I agreed to do it and I’ve been giving him back-scratches almost every night since. He asked me one time what I could do to improve and he said I should grow out my nails. I’ve started doing that and they have gotten long (close to what they used to be before I started keeping them shorter). I like scratching his back, I like that he wants his mommy to do that, I like being nurturing. However I worry I might be spoiling him by doing it every night and growing out my nails for him. I also worry it might be too intimate for a mother and a son his age, I know backscratches are often things women do for their partners. I used to give his dad back-scratches a lot when we were together. I think I might be overthinking this and we enjoy it but I worry a little and want some other moms’ input. ",2.958470588235293,4.53945910476191,4.28669467787115,86.33105042016805,74.61904761904762,6.2745098039215685,23.78151260504201,6.794906146795322,0.7951260504201683,812,24,162,7,17,268,112,210,0.068,0.754,0.179,0.9754,1,1,1,0,0,0,20,4,0,4,0,7,7,1,0,7,0,24,0,0,2,0,36,39,14,0,4,3,6,2,3,1,4,0,1,0,2,12,16,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,4,41,6,14,24,3,21,0,0,1,0,36,4,0,9,18,120,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031699635448028,0.0,0.11654466725617688,0.1205417268708344,0.0,0.09307456104925056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761207890309767,0.0,0.0,0.3579773646642581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903667871518952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292546833176428,0.1287798899855498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961219641999557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22329783754403415,0.0,0.09761980890901313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345002345103836,0.0,0.0,0.0639631958883058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058227970820236,0.11665024869382197,0.1027717640889212,0.1029987430978848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197895958922578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704043219837476,0.0,0.1363109294057776,0.09289891235445273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844244081926276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212847207526928,0.0,0.07886677485222694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184073180882509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495597290251813,0.0,0.0,0.11071059324308004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627644552911964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960032096917896,0.0,0.0,0.16475849224858846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773222840729438,0.07457602535685681,0.0,0.0,0.06786613674249181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104182402674686,0.0,0.0,0.1372960169749024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.354589636346594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494934703616209
parenting,WinosaurusRex89,2018/03/20,"Nanny pricing Apologies if this isn't the place to ask.

I was wondering what you good folks pay for in home nannying or daycare.  I'm going to nanny for my sister in-law, starting in a few weeks, and I want to charge a fair price while still being kind to their pockets. I'm aiming to discuss this with her in the next week or two and would love your insight.

I will be commuting there (35-45 minutes.)  Three days a week, two of which will be about 6 hours, one being anywhere from 8-10. Should I go hourly, or just do a flat rate for the week? 

Edit: I live in Western NY (near Buffalo) I'll just be watching her only child, who is 9 weeks now, will be 12 weeks when I officially start. 

Thanks for your responses.
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parenting,sojuslayer,2018/03/20,"Meat eaters forcing kids to be vegetarian. Is this a thing? 
Is it wrong that meat eating parents force their kid to be vegetarian? Vegetarian parents that make your kids be vegetarian I understand. However if you are meat eating people that force your child to be vegetarian isn’t that just wrong? I’m trying to understand why.  ",3.93937046004843,7.098341000000001,6.0971428571428605,66.3613559322034,79.67796610169492,8.795157384987894,27.072639225181604,9.23628265651192,3.137477481840193,265,11,44,8,7,92,34,59,0.113,0.887,0.0,-0.7744,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,1,0,5,12,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,0,27,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4478716706981704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608254099651372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4860089501506405,0.0,0.0,0.15172144162308082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539268934421334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858322465790413,0.0,0.0,0.4556563533785673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974760121906291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785512154387098,0.0,0.0
parenting,KatiexS,2018/03/21,"Thinking of hiring a nanny for my toddler when we go to Disney World. What expenses of the nanny’s would be appropriate to pay? My husband and I are in the midst of planning a trip to Disney world with our 2 children (7 years old and 19 months old). Last time we took them to Disney was this past December and it was a nightmare with the younger one. He cried a lot because his schedule was thrown off and it caused a lot of stress. We had to cut back on a lot of things we wanted to do because he needed to go to bed at a decent time in order for him to be semi-ok for the following day. We also had to switch off on rides with our oldest so someone could stay back with the baby, which also wasn’t fun because the other person had to keep the baby occupied for however long it took to stand on line then go on the ride (sometimes upwards of 2-3 hours without the fast pass). Anyway, so this time around we are considering hiring a nanny to come along to help out with our little one. Aside from paying the nanny for their main job of taking care of our child, what other things would be expected of us to pay? Airfare? Park tickets? A hotel room? Food and drink? 

Any advice is welcomed! ",4.193987603305787,4.7905400000000045,5.180650826446282,84.85915805785125,70.48760330578513,7.372314049586778,25.868801652892564,7.1686216300943375,1.133197520661156,928,26,189,8,16,305,137,242,0.043,0.904,0.053,0.6759,2,0,1,0,0,0,23,11,0,2,1,9,5,1,1,19,0,17,2,0,1,0,33,30,11,0,6,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,12,20,2,1,1,3,4,11,2,2,0,2,9,0,18,3,48,15,4,48,0,0,0,0,23,15,0,3,19,134,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390698267253565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028029939698949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622799338323818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287841873732735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950019438956811,0.0,0.2318873551840227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928051886886366,0.1302579927376948,0.0,0.10922652296215336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012390656549231,0.0,0.13928327286750986,0.08177517364424612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421521566823213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332643247653685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618919683867388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499101748605555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487194431544632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582891673206534,0.11270520239695155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335849851525053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708638867456906,0.0,0.1122135481484244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32340114617466664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012101338413004,0.0,0.0,0.09402020648893412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266109445015027,0.0,0.1718452161844499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104444969717625,0.0,0.11071641356749497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743678648354707,0.0,0.12540792629275105,0.0,0.0,0.13515137266014354,0.0,0.0,0.14524837398168478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533742729165792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847987821598207,0.08124798575597013,0.0,0.0,0.2218133864729914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817577718978548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525241599866629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747896175624132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222301722310566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18014942265880968,0.0,0.0,0.0816547067408637
parenting,CommittedIndecisive,2018/03/21,"My daughter started saying she isn't smart So my daughter is in middle school. She's always been good at math & science and said she enjoyed them in school.  She has pretty severe dyslexia - she really struggles with writing and reading out loud.  She does ok reading to herself but is a little bit slower.  Despite the dyslexia she's always been an A student except for Writing and Reading, but even in those she's an A/B student without having to take advantage of any accommodations.    So she's plenty bright and she doesn't (and we wouldn't let her) blame the dyslexia when she doesn't do well.

She started this thing this year where she she says she isn't smart.  Usually in response to questions about whether she's going to take advanced math or if she's ready for a science or math test or whether she's going to do something STEM related. 

I'm an engineer and her older brother is an uber geek that is planning on going into engineering.  I've tried to treat them the same and have the same expectations of them - especially knowing how few females got the STEM route in high school/college.  I've never told her she should be an engineer or anything, but I want her to believe she can do anything she wants.

Some of the girls she hangs out with though are of the ""Math is for boys"" opinion and talk about how hard it is.  They'll say things like ""I'm so dumb"" or ""I can't do math/science"" and stuff like that.  I don't know if my daughter is saying the same thing just to fit in or what.  And she's still pulling in the A's, but it really concerns me that if she hears it enough she'll start to believe it and let it affect her goals.

How do I get her to stop saying that she isn't smart or math & science are to hard?

tl;dr - My daughters friends don't think girls are smart and doesn't believe they can do math & science.  My daughter has stated parroting them and I'm worried she'll start to believe it.",4.300329861111108,5.362626359375,4.706666666666667,86.64944444444444,70.5625,6.938888888888887,29.586805555555557,6.937597516519254,1.5031638888888892,1518,59,305,12,27,480,165,384,0.083,0.812,0.106,0.8809999999999999,1,0,1,0,0,0,42,1,0,6,4,15,17,1,1,18,1,41,0,0,4,1,60,63,37,0,8,19,6,2,2,1,5,0,8,0,3,18,19,0,1,4,3,0,6,12,3,1,0,5,11,51,14,37,50,7,35,0,0,1,0,63,17,1,13,13,211,69,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477569343422731,0.2886042612213418,0.0,0.06037867096451417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612940033026228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40013326914361946,0.0,0.0,0.09693315702203498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769870212309389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917414138166647,0.0,0.05864342905644696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068597145757434,0.0,0.04638790122397432,0.0,0.15138026376179467,0.07447089829776032,0.07101162319789038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907265349335126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000701747244712,0.0,0.0,0.09380906476937756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759078017121472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18158284844333328,0.0,0.08675435682929139,0.08898858647616142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847853683197452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032899614953603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946252804828724,0.0,0.2664351388542585,0.0,0.11375933005080745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445742131676005,0.3530376568967928,0.0,0.2695736343597798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030481247928057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835309825858853,0.0,0.0,0.2513775238255791,0.0,0.07090596052585077,0.07423048093029146,0.0,0.09282016701163537,0.10164065790769136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351457982936854,0.07136417858222302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695977950685413,0.05689156393430421,0.08723345044250115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484043863983354,0.0,0.06028101044253446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778709201582744,0.0,0.10473855492132103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798307924550832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558816066000996,0.0,0.0,0.09016820472854163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717635859967591
parenting,Driftedwarrior,2018/03/21,"Almost 17 year old daughter attendance in school problems, help, suggestions please My daughter who will turn 17 in a week or two in the past 6 months has had shity and horrible attendance and I am at a Crossroads of what I am supposed to do to get her to go to school. As I go to work every morning at 5 a.m. and I cannot leave work to come home to make sure she is up I will get terminated for my job. I will fill in some of the history, my wife, her mother passed away a couple years ago. Since then she has had her issues and her grades have dropped drastically since her mother passed away. She goes to counseling and I have talked with the school about her attendance and if she don't go daily they will drop her out of school in which I will be a very pissed off parent. Her doctor gave me a prescription for a low-dose antidepressant medication to help with her depression and anxiety, I did not start to give it to her yet because I am unsure of if I should. I did my research and it sounds like a good idea, but the other side of me thinks we'll what if this, what if that, what if that happens and I don't know what I am to do. She has depression anxiety and insomnia I don't want my kid all medicated, but if that's the only thing to help her????? I have seriously tried everything I have taken everything away from her, I have got over-the-counter sleep stuff I just lost. Suggestions are needed, please!!  As I said when my wife passed away everything changed as she used to be an all A and B student and was great with school. ",2.6984615384615367,4.3324158280254785,3.813630573248407,89.23106320431164,75.43312101910828,7.760705536501715,23.541891229789318,8.502166056373571,1.2784972072513467,1206,36,266,23,26,391,158,314,0.094,0.828,0.079,-0.5646,2,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,0,1,3,4,10,1,0,14,0,34,6,2,2,3,42,55,26,0,10,11,7,0,1,0,7,4,2,1,1,16,17,0,0,3,0,0,11,5,6,0,1,10,2,48,4,43,36,3,39,0,3,0,0,38,15,1,9,12,184,64,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386961631685358,0.0,0.09474226984975333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447589262223662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555719293593594,0.0,0.0,0.057675825851459535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008908333749368,0.08150159690759623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468860888687173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629818263253169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684145430257422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971638897407839,0.0,0.25509892994156963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098863836404001,0.09076238527053672,0.16131397666689226,0.07935774751503177,0.07567147158395746,0.10431228642786176,0.0,0.0,0.08366686169757187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902533412232241,0.0,0.09490557219502037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680770737195708,0.0,0.09875245099417186,0.09388981149175364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05199738870918884,0.0,0.0,0.10018258153866262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622362897759573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328237484896237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315559023125347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062733402294502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552000473507436,0.0,0.0,0.07015509386017174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928149378349163,0.0,0.0,0.07195822248090472,0.0,0.0,0.10505766772351004,0.0,0.09031978387281783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077155545685559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053283521132044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999959541011304,0.0,0.0,0.4787721759153329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156531383155354,0.0,0.0946823449030064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696828735347797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831041187726438,0.0,0.0,0.08917259017338745,0.0,0.0,0.07604716197865459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628573479637256,0.06062484097320981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423670609588326,0.10291288008348114,0.09242414547491233,0.0,0.0,0.08171613164058855,0.0,0.07806647180999518,0.055805797878937725,0.0,0.07589365643915177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377602606886116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218566482558048
parenting,jonny_3000,2018/03/21,"How old does a child need to be to play with other kids. My kid is 1. He seemed to have fun at his party running around and playing with his cousins. He wasn't interacting much with them, but he did seem to have fun playing near them. We don't have any other children and don't live near any family that has kids, so I'm wondering if he needs more interaction like that? I don't want him to be lonely or anything.",3.360689655172415,4.056070068965521,4.442011494252878,89.0416379310345,72.44827586206897,7.639080459770115,24.84482758620689,7.793537801064563,0.9994,324,9,74,4,6,106,59,87,0.049,0.763,0.187,0.8964,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,12,0,0,1,0,17,19,7,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,7,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,8,6,12,15,2,6,0,1,0,0,18,4,0,5,2,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550710821193292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148371414767045,0.23240632604569406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284628147771649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461121592749588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754488822736365,0.0,0.23052827971474485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19191539576570624,0.3871579883662014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739474876323262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4753339378367029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539849728449032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28311766559062385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SecretlyFallingApart,2018/03/21,"Feel like I'm not enough for her. My little girl is 4 years old now and I've been fortunate to be able to be a stay at home mum since she's been born.

I've been finding it particularly challenging recently because she's at that stage where she has her own mind and knows exactly what she wants.

What she wants is my undivided attention, pretty much all the time which is sweet, but it's getting exhausting. I really have no problem playing with her, but I want to encourage her to have her independence too and set her up with activities that she can do on her own as well as with me, but she won't play unless I join in.  Or if she does play on her own, she gets bored easily and quickly loses interest. 

She goes to nursery a couple of days a week so she socialises with other children and I take her out and about to play centres etc. She is a little shy, but she plays well with other children from what I've seen. 

I just feel like whatever I do doesn't seem to be enough for her, she craves my attention constantly. Even when my husband (her father) gets home from work, I'm always the 'go to' parent. I just can't ever switch off. I feel bad for feeling this way because I love her to pieces, I just am struggling with this at the moment. ",5.116391076115484,5.022209877952758,5.9730551181102385,82.39884776902889,68.33070866141733,9.607979002624672,28.744356955380567,9.3871,2.1687336482939625,975,30,209,18,15,322,139,254,0.131,0.715,0.154,0.5467,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,0,3,14,20,0,1,7,0,20,2,0,1,3,42,38,17,0,5,11,4,4,2,0,1,1,0,2,3,12,13,0,0,9,5,0,1,5,6,2,0,4,6,41,14,34,30,9,30,0,1,1,1,35,12,0,3,15,150,53,2,0.13388006059079313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139893531958303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178425841944548,0.16322408461270269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446767837357727,0.0,0.0,0.1481357406042628,0.0,0.08634156345998911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715934322481053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766677819726754,0.1493116571544894,0.08842651736729568,0.12110217958249204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27077512512172897,0.1912878840731272,0.0,0.0,0.12236394993818575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20984041788889307,0.0,0.07608712370095477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26858523337095763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357698003463832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081407012318202,0.2683659845317421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977754260786258,0.0,0.0,0.1208319817097398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518069628151547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841724897143787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048460253978376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865796364909326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620415237142808,0.0,0.12810513708826668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576699500933921,0.0,0.1321904084225536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187937897843255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074696959907654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269833128090811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399605078070949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066114398515827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806653996541907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368977853476356,0.1062677604930956,0.10739050908516827,0.0,0.2407485056400652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974662786139234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621436959026439
parenting,Locobot,2018/03/21,"Full-bore tantrum and crying jag over losing her Snapchat streaks, she's 14... Edit: Her mom and I are 100% on the decision to cut off her wireless while she was sick. **Daughter does not get quality/adequate sleep when she has her phone and wireless access.** This was explained calmly to her yesterday morning, neither of us raised our voices or presented this as a punishment. After her crying died down she slept half of the day. She did get wi-if access later in the evening after she calmed down, so she had ample opportunity to keep up her streaks or whatever. Did not expect so much support for a tantrumy teen's wrongheaded desires... /edit


I have an MAC filter on the wireless that I use when daughter is resistant to chores, which include unloading the dishwasher, seeing to her cat, and keeping her room vaguely tidy, that's it. She stayed home sick yesterday with a lingering cough after attending on Monday and going to Track practice against her mother's instruction. As soon as I turned on the wireless filter (her room is a pit, she needs rest) she started to flip out and then got dressed and tried to leave for school. Her mom and I rode out the tantrum and crying with no concessions given and sent her back to bed after one more attempt to walk out with her phone (presumably to go to Starbucks for the WiFi).  

In the past, the few times I've taken her smartphone away from her I've had to pry it from her hands and she acts like she's being tortured. Her mom usually undermines me and gives it back within a day. 

For about six months now we've started to leave medicines and liquor outside of the lockbox we had to buy after a series of incidents. I thought we were building trust and maturity with her but yesterday has me seriously questioning. We have no resources for counseling and daughter has soured on the idea since she discovered it wasn't an easy road to scoring pills (adderall, etc.). Her smartphone was a gift from grandma and it was something she worked up to after a series of keyboard/dumber phones. We want her to be comfortable with technology and able to communicate with us and her friends. So taking a hardline and selling her phone to pay for counseling isn't really an option. In any case I have been her step-dad for the past 6 years and ultimately I have no rights/custody (her mother is staunchly anti-marriage so we are technically just living together). 

Is there a middle road between caving to her petulance and being the wicked step-parent? How are you dealing with smartphone addiction in 2018? She is a beautiful and brilliant (straight-As) young person with limitless potential, how do we challenge her out of living her life in easy mode? I welcome r/parenting's constructive criticism of me as well your advice and support. Thanks for reading.  ",5.385289575289576,7.306793465250966,5.406445945945947,79.3664256756757,68.98069498069498,8.423243243243244,32.2550193050193,8.982922981607832,2.926301776061776,2237,100,386,42,40,700,269,518,0.103,0.802,0.095,0.7801,2,0,1,0,0,0,68,9,2,0,5,17,20,5,0,28,0,32,10,3,3,0,64,57,40,1,4,6,8,1,1,1,0,6,1,5,1,10,41,1,3,6,2,3,7,8,7,1,3,18,4,66,13,82,36,6,66,0,1,1,0,74,27,0,4,32,276,76,8,0.10398736819677763,0.0,0.0,0.1133615804465222,0.0,0.10161525269731866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071497625260638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769955547571132,0.15991973477230093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426757232805747,0.13412649965317947,0.10720641054086284,0.0,0.0,0.10792247070010788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100004666750834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597340335878717,0.06868267596574483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034038271701058,0.0,0.10865821592494168,0.09975415900600848,0.11819683547213845,0.0,0.0831681977738321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430780891312172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173890813082024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184857501568508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22021521665945665,0.0,0.0,0.07344935342921477,0.05080297549609075,0.0,0.1836455025093124,0.0,0.0,0.11633526607354586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36536624650973537,0.08300172519730617,0.0,0.07644268056456678,0.07710531589875255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046453190437811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546566630717915,0.0,0.1985354187195903,0.0,0.09079775892965508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648965100759767,0.0,0.10401550865543233,0.0,0.0666169708155979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524076823576928,0.08286446916288566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601942554818713,0.0,0.1040624666304606,0.0,0.0,0.08005455640103372,0.0,0.0,0.14720558885945206,0.11083669853816903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360072662472763,0.0,0.0,0.07818555949632837,0.0,0.0,0.0957375974920647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255435484649791,0.060635870639804273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060059709549191,0.11310839587361972,0.0,0.0,0.25016800062756045,0.08981169858784371,0.11452739484402978,0.0,0.0613344439822676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349713238977683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570404253083197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669644557589364
parenting,direwolfed,2018/03/21,"Co-parenting questions advise needed. So my ex and I co-parent pretty well. Joint custody and we are flexible in times of need to pick up parenting time. We co-parent a very happy 4yo child.

I'll get straight to the situation. As of late my ex is in a new relationship with a guy, going on for a couple months now. She introduced him to our child without first consulting me. I'm pretty good at staying in my hula hoop and I understand that it's her decision. Though I don't agree with the sudden introduction due to my concerns of him possibly developing attachment followed by abandonment issues. Reason being that she has introduced several guys she's dated in the past to our child that didn't work out and she never told our child as to why they were no longer around (I asked if she talked to our child about it). I know that my role in this situation is to be the constant loving presence for our child as a father and whatever she decides is on her.

With this new relationship she asked that I watch our child on one of her parenting days so she could go out of town on a date. Her new BF scheduled a get away for them and I was happy to oblige as I adore the time I spend with my child. I did mention that it was her parenting day with child and asked if her BF was aware of her parenting time schedule with child in this situation. She replied yes that he was.

Well they have planned another date next month which is also on one of her parenting days and she asked if I can watch child for that night too. I don't want to set the president that I am a back-up sitter for her so I declined and mentioned again that this is her parenting time and added that if she want's to go out she needs to find a sitter for our child.

She flips and mentions a bunch of times that she watched him for me in the past. All situations to where she did pick up extra parenting time involved me being out of state. We've been flexible and I have picked up additional parenting days to make up for that. If she were to ever be out of state in a similar fashion I would watch our child no questions asked.

I don't do well with conflict and she kept saying that I'm being unfair and she is giving me plenty of notice. I also have an issue with people pleasing and struggle with always wanting to be liked. It's a flaw that I deal with personally and I try my best to accept it and manage it with setting and maintaining boundaries. So with the conflict and my personal insecurities arising I said that I would talk with my wife and get back to her. So I dragged my wife into this situation and she'll have my back no matter what. Though I see that I should not have brought my wife into this situation because this is between the ex and I.

My personal feelings is that she is starting to put this relationship before her parenting time and I don't want to co-sign it. Nor do I want to call her out on her decisions. It's not my job and I don't see my child in danger.

Well I need to contact her soon and I'm not going to change my mind on the matter but am feeling uncertain. So what best to do then give it to reddit and see if I can get some help or insight. Here are my questions/

**Questions**

*     Am I being unfair?
*     How I can navigate this without being cruel?
*     Do I have to let go of that (being cruel) and just be brutally honest stating that she is putting a date before her parenting time?
*     Is there another way to navigate this with a little more tact?

I can answer questions if I have left anything not well explained. Any suggestions, advise or input is appreciated. Thanks for your time.

TLDR: Ex says I'm being unfair for not watching our child on her parenting days. What do?

edit: originaly posted in r/relationships.  Mods asked I put here.
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parenting,ChickenHuggs,2018/03/21,"My 3 year old is obsessed with ABCs...is this normal? My 3 year old has been obsessed with Abcs for a year now.  He plays with the same two ABC puzzle toys over and over again for hours.  He sings it all day long and can even sing it backwards. Every where we go,  he identifies letters on cars,  billboards, wherever.  Wondering if it's normal?  
  
On another note,  he also has very specific ways of organizing everything and keeping everything clean.  His toys are always in rainbow color order (I never taught him this?) And trains have to be a certain way... etc.   If a chair is out of place or if my cat is sleeping anywhere he doesn't normally sleep, or a blanket is not folded in a certain way,  my 3 year old has a complete screaming meltdown. 
  
Is this typical toddler behavior or should I look into getting him tested?",3.8024999999999984,5.742980916666667,4.823333333333334,81.855,73.16666666666666,7.620512820512822,29.948717948717945,8.384062270229773,2.392233333333332,637,28,116,11,13,208,103,156,0.04,0.8959999999999999,0.065,0.594,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,1,0,0,0,5,6,0,2,7,0,15,2,2,0,4,29,21,11,0,7,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,10,0,1,1,5,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,3,10,3,16,17,3,30,0,0,2,0,10,11,0,8,13,75,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008612378129977,0.1145435978304492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443478198350361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433319801761665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877888547714549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352655175237775,0.09092269521077016,0.0,0.1159839304303752,0.0,0.2474386754006731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192132302486932,0.0,0.07823497479823513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556671969805753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223579456988594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218241832587546,0.11559917449339492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617136877961328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404630773558096,0.0,0.0,0.43335095892587183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438247101123319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27551751015179604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447317166279155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113583371648954,0.0,0.327802727701398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149285681151195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545924042890545
parenting,dharmabum57,2018/03/21,"What to tell kids about grandparents What should a parent tell their kids about grandparents who are not in the parent's life?

(My father sexually abused my brothers and my mother stayed with him. We no longer have any kind of communication)",7.2055038759689936,8.936148465116283,6.1906976744186055,76.20759689922484,64.34883720930233,9.454263565891472,25.96124031007752,9.725611199111238,2.244091472868217,196,5,34,4,3,59,35,43,0.124,0.8759999999999999,0.0,-0.6705,4,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,6,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,0,0,23,9,0,0.0,0.33414459585230993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178155598152768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29367780554814865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919728511501525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6262940700915102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005931081638752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4929914127769602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TurnedOnPowerTripper,2018/03/21,"14yr old son has online friend and i saw msg saying 'not as cute as you' etc. Worried it may be a predator or just a bad situation. I know my son told me the kids dad abused him. Not sure how to handle this. spyware? frank talks? My son is 14, he makes minecraft music videos. Someone commented on his videos and he became friends with him. They play minecraft together and talk. They have each other's # and discord and snapchat. 

I personally am pretty creeped out by online only relationships no matter the age but especially because my boy is a cute 14 year old curly headed blue eyed boy, who is very naive and sheltered. My son also told me that this kids dad had abused him. Seems like a lot to share with just a Minecraft friend, and maybe sharing that is innocent or maybe he's a predator who is trying to build trust and then kidnap my kid or something. 

The messages that I saw that made me think twice were the following.

SnapChat:
My Son: this dog i cute af
OnlineFriend: not as cute as u
My Son: Hell Ye

Online Friend: i'm all up in 6 ft up in UR MOM (paraphrase but it was some bullshit about being at mcdonalds ronald mcdonald and then all of sudden he's 6 ft up in my son's mom, my son btw does not know his mother)
My Son: lol
OnlineF: just kidding I'm gay
No i'm not
jk
My Son: my friends looking at this convo
My Son: no he's not
OnlineF: ok so i can say i'm gay now,
just kidding
i would though

then in addition to this they send each other snaps, that I can't see. I tried to talking to him and he was trying to act like he didn't really snap with this kid, he was like i do have him on snap...

But he snapped him just this morning at 7am. 

I just bought mSpy and I'm going to install it tonight and monitor those photos. 

I'm also seeking advice on how to talk to my son about this without arousing suspicion. We've read a book about sex etc, and he is well educated about online predators but for all i know this person is just a craft online predator who maybe has pics of a younger kid to pose as. Or maybe the pics are even from some other kid and now that my kid has sent him pics maybe he pretends to be my son sometimes to prey on other kids. Or he could just be an 8th grade kid on the east coast (we're on the west coast) like my kid says, i say his picture, he has a bit of stubble on the lip and pimples. 

My son said.. to the pics oh a mustache, pimples hot... 

After some prodding (msgs i didn't see) my son sent a pic of himself  saying fine here is a pic of my face...

This other kid also sent my son his address, i have no idea what for, my son would never send anything in the mail, the only reason i can think is to encourage my kid to send his address. he already has my sons number and maybe he can find where we live from that. 

I accidentally deleted the address on the snapchat which was unfortunate. but i can easily grab his number next time i have my sons phone and maybe its worth doing a background chat under the number. 

To be clear, there are no issues with me if my son turns out to be gay(his mother was catholic so wouldn't surprise me), i would fully support and love him and I believe he knows that. This is 100% about safety in online relationships with someone who we don't really know there identity.

Other things that make me paranoid, the kid sent him a picture of him in his soccer uniform, which seems innocent but then I think oh, he probably wants to see my son in his uniform so he knows what school he goes to. This kid has also befriended other friends of my kids. They talk online while playing games or at least i think, maybe they just chat? i try to ask if he has ever heard his voice. 

tldr: Son has an online friend, they've sent some gay curious sounding msgs to each other, i'm curious what there snapchat photos are and if he is who he says he is. Son told me kids dad has been abusive to him. ",1.6233347713546138,3.6299138726355618,2.9131378177473937,92.76130027543638,79.88272383354352,5.586042344195925,22.287930576757148,6.5966054737557815,0.3975571248423706,3003,94,653,28,76,970,302,793,0.08900000000000001,0.777,0.134,0.9894,0,0,1,0,2,0,87,2,2,5,0,34,30,1,0,32,2,59,10,5,6,7,104,105,55,0,9,31,30,2,4,7,5,0,10,3,22,45,33,0,0,15,11,2,11,18,2,1,1,24,20,89,28,78,69,15,58,1,0,8,6,156,29,1,17,22,399,134,4,0.0,0.2140897161794254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05885650231468795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646580342837018,0.19266508838424773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956453146163993,0.0,0.05630734373428827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028991304605143,0.03671592556169001,0.0,0.0,0.06785909598785449,0.0,0.0,0.06575605593448497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04808911631560989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270807595466664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434575424539216,0.03978164664903197,0.0544818936673413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504954355265721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257372940656965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034230354872395424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061813822024652326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799285099763,0.0,0.06286494534251565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986064932818496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177022293605968,0.0,0.05318459412642186,0.0,0.05057841171509055,0.0,0.0,0.05120577790924074,0.054360336055222495,0.05699151164123702,0.08040859113859118,0.0,0.4840766904488889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410823589477168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04645343901479868,0.0,0.06405577085321698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264034586967539,0.0,0.0,0.09161594831653608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518181801958433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127602469364073,0.06493861617309295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060246752957230386,0.0,0.07717034191086941,0.061926937813714514,0.0,0.1293299333996546,0.0,0.0,0.05729295414287175,0.2873860457297339,0.0,0.06095643473641175,0.14398762070547294,0.10966308597644003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770155356203797,0.0,0.0,0.10206613599917988,0.04636834588360069,0.05956945883862245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834880514218572,0.05676648985280774,0.0,0.0,0.2420547861401283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04001443715405409,0.15437297103256564,0.05917611499387442,0.0,0.035120861936890416,0.0,0.0,0.17265833900691874,0.0,0.1635700978374408,0.06551343806009158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049696432179774666,0.03552548213372388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415441129991692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806000807762765,0.0,0.0,0.06116694942984537,0.0,0.12835795872452604,0.0,0.0,0.038786437476247694
parenting,DSJ13,2018/03/21,"Car seat expiration? So since TRU/BRU is going out of business I was forced to spend money. I bought a Nautilus toddler seat but cant use it until the baby is 2 (shes not even here yet)

Will this be an issue in terms of expiration? It's just going to sit in the box until shes big enough for it. ",1.6636923076923082,2.638418753846153,4.1846153846153875,88.21538461538464,76.84615384615384,6.430769230769231,20.69230769230769,6.742157984588678,0.22536923076923104,229,5,53,2,5,81,51,65,0.041,0.959,0.0,-0.3313,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,5,12,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,10,8,2,12,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4481692439595082,0.0,0.2864811012826005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930087408222805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.452711747522211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587941124342893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746119957868101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Boop-D-Boop,2018/03/21,"Help with teenager My son turned 16 yesterday.   I love my son very much, but he can be incredibly difficult and just plain spoiled sometimes.  At times he can be incredibly sweet.  Ok, on with my post.  His birthday was yesterday,  I am divorced from his father and his father has a live in girlfriend and we all get along great.  I even have a key to their house so I can let the dogs out.  Anyway, I got my son a lot of his presents early ordering things and shopping trips.  I told him this was a birthday present.  Well he was reaching his limit and I told him he wouldn't have anything to open on his birthday because I have spent enough money on him.  I'm going to add that he's into anything basketball related and expensive as hell.  

I didn't order two jerseys he wanted.  I got him two gifts to open and a hundred dollars in his card.  He opened them and asked me a few minutes later if I had ordered the jerseys and I told him no he can order it with his birthday money.  We sang him happy birthday very uncomfortably, and he stomped to his room.  His dad had about six gifts for him to open and he wouldn't com out of his room.  I didn't get upset and cry this time because I knew somehow every thing I did wouldn't be good enough.  He was already mad we wouldn't get him a corgi puppy when they have 4 dogs now, 2 Dalmations and 2 schnauzers.  

I'll give a little background, his father and I have been divorced for 4 years.  We get along great now that we're divorced and I have a good relationship with his girlfriend.  This behavior isn't new from my son, but has gotten worse since becoming a teenager.  He told me about a year ago he was having dark thoughts about hurting himself,  his school had also called us last May to tell us some students overheard him saying he didn't want to live anymore.  He's been in therapy for about a year.  He had a major meltdown before Christmas one night and my 12 year old son FaceTimed me and told me to come over.  He was threatening to hurt himself.  By the time I got there, things had calmed down, it stemmed from a fight with his little brother.  My 12 year old came home with me because he was to scared to sleep there that night.  I'm not sure where I'm going with this post and I apologize for it being all over the place, I guess some support and feedback from other parents of teenagers would be nice.  Thanks",3.808571428571426,5.108005768577495,4.214124355474674,88.81803821656051,71.99363057324841,6.826593873218077,27.68219593569912,7.110495986334442,1.2663294024871092,1851,67,382,17,35,581,217,471,0.119,0.7759999999999999,0.105,-0.8515,2,0,0,0,4,1,39,6,0,3,1,17,22,3,2,18,1,45,2,1,0,3,66,77,26,0,8,5,11,0,0,2,6,0,2,3,0,14,42,0,1,2,2,6,5,10,8,1,4,31,3,67,14,51,34,10,58,1,2,0,1,84,23,1,7,24,245,81,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289864581075081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075120587282458,0.06576535676465511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155757371258716,0.0,0.0,0.13534902962582526,0.0,0.0768810287366686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039378210711585,0.09082493740032528,0.06997811684596078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397375591257482,0.09405787424032848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084038662501342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033411146622766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994679111148525,0.0,0.054317140827117034,0.0,0.06928870144319021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186294894397958,0.07888977280853722,0.0934750148765568,0.13795394762703314,0.19731869706438732,0.18133442731599134,0.09059395730754556,0.0,0.0,0.08754342479227653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055122111141921434,0.0,0.08249099014324647,0.0,0.0,0.09489111687358816,0.1760740438037378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703459743324665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409348932505244,0.0,0.0,0.16484730382935756,0.1452345658028821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991544302819826,0.07422261966606601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060454077932239586,0.0,0.0,0.07942555967093312,0.0,0.15434878113923214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258899631881694,0.0,0.055726307237590776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913150917508218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592075955823003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575217231770747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882923759743571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539861817589404,0.08233415621755596,0.08322881350556703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802776953097886,0.0,0.082296963176027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813350617001507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332222235611316,0.07750793854258667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187926285733108,0.07571330750158743,0.09404583086892633,0.0,0.16390496631698395,0.0,0.0,0.06528744628886406,0.14386016903417184,0.0,0.0,0.3929076221820635,0.0,0.0,0.08945086342385468,0.16066831687610866,0.0,0.19784334738650344,0.0,0.0,0.1357092193356847,0.09701170155336776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394145372961286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380711180876864,0.05841921176894449,0.0,0.0,0.2647915011118301
parenting,julesthemodest,2018/03/21,"Scribblenauts educational? Hi guys, I have a 5 yr old that loves games (usually Mario games). I bought us a Scribblenauts Android game the other day. She knows all letters and some words, I'm hoping this game helps her learn new words. Anyone have any good (or bad) experiences with this game?",4.3984905660377365,7.035218283018872,4.3515471698113215,82.74392452830193,73.71698113207547,8.013584905660379,23.807547169811322,8.841846274778883,1.7827916981132073,231,7,43,5,5,71,43,53,0.0,0.777,0.223,0.9074,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,10,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,1,6,2,4,0,0,0,1,13,0,0,3,4,19,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19670796109812425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20225859462496013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415215424901708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654994793293705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829535711190671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426190959702929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28641468572155954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938861047946744,0.0,0.0,0.2873022615154704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589707348869712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610700917760333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793708743499589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30353162763053954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479463611757058,0.0,0.31858103507202384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pepipew,2018/03/21,"Is it cool to prank your kids? Just read this article in my local newspaper about Easter pranks to play on your kids since Easter is on April 1 this year. Some of it seems fun, but is that cool?",3.0169166666666705,4.176587525000002,3.4750000000000014,93.89666666666668,73.75,7.333333333333335,18.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,0.10908333333333342,151,2,35,2,3,47,30,40,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.7789,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,7,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,2,21,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5845367475195931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5319963355131877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4834040219906677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37632066289668703
parenting,qread,2018/03/21,"Parents ""babysitting"" their own children? This question came up in context of a father saying he had to ""babysit"" on a snow day. In my experience, parents don't usually say they are babysitting their children. That's just parenting, isn't it? I'm curious about what you all think!",4.264705882352942,7.0084190000000035,4.584078431372549,80.36435294117645,74.68627450980392,7.217254901960787,35.69019607843137,8.238735603445708,3.281812549019608,223,13,37,4,5,70,44,51,0.056,0.944,0.0,-0.3847,3,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,7,5,2,7,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,2,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261118666802668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723703030753302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233248735156957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7605128823987747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557524474323822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36311260756740105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628782316281275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514443238181305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peppermintmochaa,2018/03/21,"Where are your kids putting their stickers? Aside from all over the furniture, obviously.  When I was a kid we had these blank books with shiny pages to stick them in... do they not make them anymore? I'm Canadian which might be part of the problem but I've looked at all the major retailers and amazon and I can't find anything with decent reviews.  Any suggestions? Thanks !!",2.4427460317460294,5.342484957142858,2.446190476190477,91.37769841269842,85.14285714285714,5.968253968253968,23.49206349206349,7.3871296695380915,1.1830158730158735,297,11,57,5,9,89,61,70,0.026,0.875,0.099,0.733,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,1,4,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,3,14,11,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,2,8,1,8,7,5,6,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,1,1,38,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244309187853367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272999139057467,0.0,0.0,0.27158560344054217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30164036789989146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771410938755308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22029680400670507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35010843026117616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573890573796504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31579301502355306,0.0,0.33177012460681515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038462021211934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lesleykc,2018/03/21,"Paying grandma for helping with grandkids? My husband and I work full time and our 3 and 1 year old kids go to a dayhome. My 3 year old is in preschool and unfortunately, it wasn't going to be possible for my dayhome to do pickups and dropoffs, so my mom has been doing that twice weekly to help out. My mom is retired and lives quite close to us and she says she loves the time with her granddaughter. On the days my daughter has preschool my mom will also drop by my house and do dishes or fold my laundry! My mom also helps me if I need to stay late at work or if my girls are sick and can't go to dayhome- she's the one picking up the slack. I couldn't be more grateful to her and that's where the title of the post comes in. I want to offer my mom a weekly/monthly amount of money for all that she does for us. When I brought it up, she just laughed and said that she loves to help out and if she couldn't help out, she'd say so. She says that since she's retired, this has given her something to do. Has anyone else paid their parent (grandparent) for helping out with childcare? How much did you offer? ",3.4215948275862083,4.132102625000002,4.052068965517243,91.83732758620691,72.31896551724137,6.4896551724137925,26.13793103448276,5.985473137389443,0.6439689655172409,867,27,195,4,16,275,123,232,0.044,0.8390000000000001,0.117,0.9445,2,0,1,0,0,0,21,3,1,1,3,8,3,0,0,8,0,21,4,0,2,1,34,33,23,0,7,6,9,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,8,21,1,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,2,7,4,36,3,32,20,5,31,0,0,0,2,43,13,0,5,10,135,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090523316079086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034433605630867,0.10308021805531824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666104380676304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488096218118372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803883798633977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404135058390122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715259348160054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045946033872659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608298074069323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348517790805412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888347711590245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159724983947148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.589128265316094,0.08030078779994124,0.0,0.07395517932045574,0.07459625201180893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21113298900699534,0.0,0.06817156402984377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170832830607882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341537819491512,0.09635038431555627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700425097054196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569700688527023,0.2400119247503549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322028995418998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744952205145815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722999056468316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732546931373028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24202734925058245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059338575907182466,0.0,0.0806980934715373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464811542269813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957076589081368
parenting,Jiperly,2018/03/21,"Ex(25f) states her place is unsafe for our son(5m) to visit, but she has a 2 year. Should i contact protect services, or just look the other way? So imma try to keep this brief and drama free; my ex is bailing on her son. This will be 3 months shes gone without seeing or contacting him.(last year she went 6 months consecutively- not sure how much total)- her excuse this time is someone just moved into her apartment, and she doesnt believe her house is safe because of the clutter.

A little more detail- our son was recently diagnosed with epilepsy, so i take clean houses pretty seriously, since he could have an attack at anytime, and needs as little clutter as possible. Also, 3 months into her pregnancy with our son, my ex became epileptic(just cant catch a break with that shit), and 2 years after we broke up, she had another child.

Now, im pretty pissed shes bailing on him yet again, but i got a nagging feeling....if its unsafe for our son at 5.....how could it remotely be safe for her son at 2? Or should i just back off and not create drama?",3.9160922330097097,5.50618773300971,4.725424757281555,84.1154186893204,72.15533980582525,6.897572815533981,26.95266990291262,7.413659706084162,1.456777669902913,827,29,157,9,16,267,132,206,0.107,0.759,0.134,0.8016,0,0,0,0,0,0,42,5,0,0,0,11,10,4,0,7,0,19,3,2,1,2,33,27,16,0,5,11,7,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,7,11,0,4,0,2,1,6,5,6,0,0,5,2,25,5,22,15,3,35,0,1,2,0,32,13,2,3,13,104,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414613715689237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967141611709026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238310410749124,0.0,0.10975537489885996,0.0,0.08701070048868434,0.0,0.0,0.16081488852872347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227926581312659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487430136123314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415922793176772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32939696443476296,0.0,0.0,0.15417965663186034,0.0,0.0,0.12687054800588865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634910428988632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861184653827132,0.0,0.0,0.1198625110387259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34179216764910664,0.15170605744336654,0.10492757601910456,0.1058371296727339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912901393137495,0.0,0.0,0.16091368889414406,0.0,0.29042818614485644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093483889982916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374232069252795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465167217738109,0.1180729109270772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093997160088454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452723772624514,0.0,0.10731990528142084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323066223022774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969085524476647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329740095412845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231794489284535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759266301825787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757524188187886
parenting,ScytheXero,2018/03/21,"Teenager with sugar addiction help My son is 14, obese and only getting bigger. When me and his mom married in 2015 we bought our house. Then we noticed sweets disappearing as fast as we bought them. This started to stress me out to where wife and me would fight because he was not eating right. So we get the brilliant idea to start putting the sweets in our room only to have that backfire because now he will sneak in our room when we're not here and take sweets. The other night after bedtime I heard wrappers being opened in his bed room. We do not tolerate eating in the bed rooms because we don't want bugs or messes. I investigate this the next day and look under his bed to find a lot of junk food wrappers from things he got out of our room. In the past few weeks he's been busted taking jars of peanut butter and the big bag of chips to school. We told him not too...again he does it. The wife thinks this is typical teenage behavior but I think he's addicted and I have been trying to break it and teach him about healthier eating choices but it always backfires. It's to the point I'm embarrassed by him and angry that he's not following rules. For now he has his ps4 taken away for 2 weeks for coming in our room. He was going to lose more privileges but was honest when he had been caught. I just don't know what to do anymore.",3.8026383763837615,5.0577058228782334,4.194130996309962,89.1267684501845,71.9520295202952,7.043616236162362,24.251107011070108,7.365786028017652,0.8851725461254611,1062,29,222,11,20,333,156,271,0.058,0.8740000000000001,0.068,0.4173,0,0,0,0,1,0,19,12,0,1,1,10,10,1,2,10,0,19,8,0,0,0,39,41,20,0,2,10,4,0,0,0,2,3,1,9,0,12,21,6,0,5,0,2,6,7,5,0,0,14,7,29,5,35,24,3,46,0,1,1,0,38,23,0,2,16,136,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902776371559661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078052483083373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203598057127708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508645346584776,0.0,0.0,0.2434769646570707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468560780197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586225431483893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650895490200162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40869670656287627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216846692083522,0.0,0.16098960786998825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911701853501496,0.0,0.07566474017259835,0.0,0.10648170147776334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923882436021084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362204996510587,0.0,0.1502952985298644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316853110239868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180142289004608,0.14894608041244686,0.0,0.11318818911699302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559282699888822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415925507121389,0.12493991508083985,0.0,0.0,0.1515771865060542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20251314807802914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709418837204706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585735717850313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338393072090157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369814271961175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474160035360974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846989580580284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250781221067772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002046846993097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845020747523417,0.17061743569989649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721796592811355,0.0,0.09039118202991003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785275637712486,0.0,0.2135887012595892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457659857925893,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EepeesJ1,2018/03/21,"Building up a child's confidence My homeschooled 9yo dude is not shy.  But he's timid and afraid a lot.  He's not good at handling conflict, or solving unexpected problems.  He gets flustered easily and just freezes.  Sometimes he overthinks to the point where he doesn't say anything at all even though I know there's a lot going through his mind.  He's incredibly sweet and thoughtful, but gets his feelings hurt VERY easily.  He doesn't lash out when frustrated, but I can see him get overly sad at pretty minor things when he hangs out with his friends or misunderstands a situation with me or his mom.  100% okay with him having feelings, but I want to raise this kid to be able to handle a world full of assholes.  He's the type to get along with anyone, but also the type to take the blame for stuff others do because he's too nervous to speak up for himself.

When he speaks, he often swallows the ends of his sentences, skips words because he's nervous, and just looks tense almost all the time.  His grammar is really bad for his age too, but that might just be my opinion.  He's my first 9yo. 

Before we go to the obvious and point out that it's me and his mom's fault that he's this way, I wanna be clear that I take full responsibility for him being who he is.  I could really use some other points of view on how to help him out.  Apart from this bashful and timid thing, he's a really great kid. How do I get him to speak with some oomph?  Or do I just chalk this up to awkward pre-teen years and let it be?  He's a Pisces if that helps. lol.",3.9518152773743833,4.925135150159747,4.510713040952659,88.06332776648273,71.30031948881789,7.352250943944234,25.728870171362185,7.520522993642371,1.0829373801916926,1214,36,260,13,22,386,163,313,0.163,0.7,0.13699999999999998,-0.8463,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,0,0,1,17,17,1,6,14,2,18,1,0,3,4,62,35,26,0,5,17,2,3,0,1,1,0,4,0,3,17,19,1,1,4,0,0,3,4,12,0,1,1,11,28,5,39,26,8,32,0,2,3,0,46,20,0,13,8,163,45,3,0.12523585591914746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540561942111908,0.0,0.0,0.10015106873207368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756782233735562,0.0,0.1030584386349796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456670858729168,0.1526852307422463,0.0,0.10656648933055712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099990640417096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092179637297027,0.0,0.0,0.08271710170710958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266460233383178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652555506806016,0.0,0.0,0.0967569116221607,0.0,0.3271528289921008,0.0,0.14234884596056738,0.1050418941700418,0.0,0.13807297327227014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788590872812026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406757395102814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882635121258399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806214766616414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051665775157905,0.0,0.0,0.21294209245174114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328554522720118,0.12645251374890795,0.29334944169389243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35516509094869514,0.0,0.0,0.12740988857268873,0.0,0.11983380064284263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406878884475161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995925792260994,0.0,0.0,0.09979676282663498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077034922979226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386146377658085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336509261140776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883235557132512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640227575422287,0.0,0.12304359258339133,0.09942328061894888,0.07302603470652992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081635696647012,0.0,0.103332696893152,0.07386735257025487,0.09940639317935153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064778519310732
parenting,firestormflare,2018/03/21,"12 year old daughter forces 17 year old son out of the closet. Edit:  The names used are not my children's real names.

This is a bit of a dozy, any advise will be appreciated. My husband and I are at a loss on how to handle this situation.  

 
Let me begin with our family dynamic, my husband and I have six kids with the most of them being adopted.  Our oldest are a set of 17-year-old twins that I adopted when I married their father.  After a year into our marriage, my husband and I adopted a little girl close to the twins age.  And for a few years it was just the three kids, until I got pregnant with my husband’s and I only biological child.  Once we had her we adopted two other children later.

The problem is between one of the twins Carson and his half-sister Kylie, who, is 12.

Ever since Kylie was born, Carson has never liked her, despite loving his other siblings. When they were younger they would antagonize each other day in and day out.  Now that they are older they mostly ignore each other.

Within our small town, Carson is fairly popular, because he is good at sports and plans to join the military after graduation. Obviously for this reason, people have expectations of him.  One of them is that people assume he is straight.  

A few days ago, Kylie went on to social media and outed her brother as gay and provided multiple pics of him and his secret boyfriend.

The outcome was not good.  The minute he found out what she did; he tried to harm her.  So now Kylie is currently staying with my sister for her safety.

The biggest effect of her actions is that Carson and his boyfriend broke up, because his boyfriend didn’t like being out in such a malicious manner and doesn’t feel safe around Carson anymore.

My husband and I have stated to Carson that we will support him no matter what his sexuality and his other siblings have shown their support, but he has not been responding to anyone.

In the aftermath of all of this, we are going to have Carson speak with a therapist that focuses with the LGBT community and for Kylie we will be setting up individual counseling.   

The biggest problem we are facing right now is that Kylie has not shown any remorse about what she did and just laughs about the whole thing and says he'll eventually get over it.  She doesn't even care that she cannot be near the house, because of her actions.

Edit 2: Kylie was punished in terms of we took away all electronics, banned all social and we are making therapy mandatory.  Also we have cancelled a trip that she had planned with a friend's family to go to Disney this summer.  This has had some effect, because she is a Disney fanatic.  

As for Carson, we are showing as much support as we can, but he is grieving and not receptive.  With the attempted violent act, we explained what would possibly have happened, which he did show some remorse for.  Despite his dislike of her, he doesn't want her hurt. ",6.05930515945035,6.810272669691473,6.461511018926629,76.77650816696915,66.40471869328493,8.692787140264455,31.16935442053409,8.676224119757912,2.501506984703137,2295,85,407,33,35,743,256,551,0.079,0.845,0.076,-0.7925,1,0,0,0,0,0,60,16,0,8,6,16,24,2,0,30,0,60,3,1,6,6,93,80,32,1,6,9,10,1,2,1,6,0,2,1,6,29,50,0,3,8,3,0,8,12,10,0,5,17,3,66,14,69,51,15,71,0,4,0,2,89,29,0,5,32,314,95,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873108169478219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876726600510038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396140084424565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768162782631601,0.06887073740557023,0.0,0.0,0.08768237845875207,0.0,0.0,0.0925402934919602,0.0,0.0,0.24016914321899965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753219055251123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042330065928716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19056543680037896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505572068097427,0.08909532800043972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570664456530125,0.0,0.049802568934457725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799584918955284,0.07609781395307247,0.0,0.0514601276487214,0.0,0.11195516490483794,0.16522764908092394,0.07877629937734143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709974323332499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365123238136185,0.10544207259844428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007188977422741,0.0,0.09624040231875723,0.09871893098228446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889654241143648,0.0,0.06574688689501673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240593941612987,0.0,0.07596623588458105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100651479299133,0.1048950925441018,0.13348696279024225,0.07491069432325999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656953656330004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103951174068864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884948602373544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121100832401661,0.0,0.10127035727253156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411509963895784,0.0,0.07832802264968677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814769611538102,0.11071370164882648,0.0,0.20080866467820088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498369785266826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353164952248079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263883207130425,0.11436152074040005,0.06543640763959897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943275014656442,0.06687236133381072,0.0,0.0962163415250696,0.0,0.0,0.08506897401797019,0.0,0.0,0.058095529909512215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130683720201248,0.0,0.10996733685577448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993755434733013,0.0,0.0,0.3171411762974677
parenting,ScheisskopfFTW,2018/03/21,"How to make the most of a short time Hey everyone. First time /r/parenting poster. 


My wife gave birth to our first girly last month. Unfortunately she was diagnosed with Zellweger Syndrome. (More info on the syndrome: https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/zellweger-spectrum-disorder)


My wife and I are trying to find ways to make the most of our time with Lily. Realistically we have roughly six months before Lily dies. I would hate to have her pass and then think of something i wish i had done with her. Below are some ideas that we are thinking about doing: 


* a photoshoot of her ""firsts"" - first day of school, first car, diploma, marriage, dance etc 


* take her to the ocean",4.322133160956689,7.401596378151265,3.647226890756304,85.21779573367812,76.81512605042016,6.686748545572076,25.120232708468,7.882392219407189,1.5793045895281188,535,19,95,9,13,158,80,119,0.054000000000000006,0.923,0.024,-0.5267,1,0,1,1,0,0,32,4,0,0,5,2,1,1,0,6,0,10,1,0,3,0,20,18,4,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,5,1,0,3,0,1,0,6,4,1,15,0,17,13,5,21,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,3,14,64,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689352675976506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617263286675913,0.0,0.0,0.15135770457709544,0.15476715160021706,0.0,0.170909004993307,0.0,0.0,0.15260561022446134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631266114263074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249435714088712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629661963423886,0.6342239224329831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722906082256118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683428263380057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155595015439105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990828343791524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380586823737015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558453643672374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092143301026492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480292830985503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212267714979164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110525498278505,0.0,0.0,0.2608661826265721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124539628180436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836767723358595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714852219396334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593339955410397,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tolstoy2Tinkerbelles,2018/03/21,"Middle schooler avoiding homework I've commented before, but never posted. On mobile but will do my best with formatting.

Some background:  So, The Kiddo has had a rough 12 months. She had surgery on her ankles last spring and was in casts/a wheelchair for awhile for the end if 5th grade. Some boys mercilessly teased her and her primary teacher was all ""boys will be boys she should ignore them and get over it"" so I ended up speaking to a different teacher on her ""team"" to resolve it. She switched school districts over the summer and started middle school in a completely new school without her regular friends, though at least she was out of casts by then. We've seen some acting out all year (mostly, she has a short fuse with her peers but sometimes she's been disrespectful to teachers, too), and she had some trouble the 1st quarter adjusting to the homework load. 

It's mostly been better since then- she's been building relationships with new kids, seeing the school counselor, and most of her grades are back up now. But she's still lieing to us about her math homework and not completing it. She was always top of the class before, but now complains she's ""not good at it"", which I realize is a common belief in girls her age. I think she's just reached a level of instruction where it's actually a challenge and isn't used to it. We're staying more on top of her and have arranged for her to go to tutoring at school a little early once a week. She's pretty pissed, and we've basically said ""if you did your homework you wouldn't need to go to the tutoring"".

I'm curious if anyone else has run into something similar, how they handled it, what was helpful if so? Also, any thoughts on how the more general social issues might be impacting her mind set and motivation here? I have lots of book knowledge, but not so much personal experience.",5.639839015151516,6.820461639204545,5.718068181818182,80.18981060606063,67.55113636363636,8.593939393939394,31.14393939393939,8.841846274778883,2.5254484848484853,1475,58,270,24,24,465,196,352,0.07400000000000001,0.831,0.095,0.7888,1,1,1,0,0,0,44,1,3,2,8,17,12,2,1,18,0,28,1,1,4,3,62,40,31,0,7,15,0,1,0,1,5,0,2,4,6,10,17,0,2,8,2,0,4,7,6,0,1,15,5,36,6,43,18,15,54,1,0,2,0,47,26,1,13,21,194,46,20,0.0,0.0,0.10990729034808416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006743111279444,0.0937143324939023,0.0,0.0,0.07658993293947301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875111974258307,0.11539923539356405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660288393618318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916738394952036,0.0,0.11819464166125887,0.09960905283840486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23617364156751705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767079923801035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408505125222028,0.0,0.19950743172709534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017040142154376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701501224644254,0.0,0.058842736800801286,0.0,0.128016555787719,0.09446582734356598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549121896857157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755288270502355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180569046555696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288141593234782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575108626259383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194789975479956,0.11372073423987356,0.0,0.08989745742137531,0.0,0.08279349139904342,0.08351117806879951,0.08686455763222449,0.2175508953705416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994362634313513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834118083608076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786512572106058,0.1145817164748278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209187919304228,0.0,0.0,0.10713366378490173,0.0,0.0,0.5699205323129204,0.08974879824012559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316586645936713,0.0,0.0,0.1148086095281317,0.0,0.08670543965612157,0.1113905622522266,0.0,0.07971766927267772,0.12004494320901468,0.08994372805714056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216656141886578,0.11065503782613384,0.08941291981727406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547590204388066,0.09727319920820283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034224471019447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856799894147436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252782151243686
parenting,albertparsons,2018/03/21,"roped into coaching my 3 year old's soccer team. anyone have any wisdom about getting some of the kids involved? for some context: this is my 3 year old's first year in soccer, and i've never coached youth sports (or anything) before, and the last sport i played was like 15 years ago. but now i am coach, we are two practices in, and our first game is this saturday. i've found some great resources online about various warm-ups and drills, and so far i've been able to keep most of my team, including the more reluctant and shy kids, engaged in practice by giving them some one-on-one attention and catching them being good. 

there are two kids on my team, though, that just want absolutely NOTHING to do with soccer. they completely shut down. i don't want to overstep any bounds by trying to get these kids involved, or make them feel even more nervous by coming on too strongly. right now i mostly just try to get on their level and ask if they want to show me how far they can kick or how fast they can run or something, or if they want to help me take the ball back to the playing area, or even if they would just like to give me a high five or something. 

i understand it's totally normal and okay for kids in this age group (3-5) to have more interest in picking dandelions than in actually playing soccer, and these kids could be way more into the idea of soccer than the actual game, so honestly, i'm cool with them not wanting to play. but their parents paid $75 for them to join soccer, and i don't want them to think i'm not doing enough to get their kids involved, and if there's something different i should try, i'm on board with trying it! i suggested to my husband that i could ask these two boys to ""help me coach"" until they are more comfortable at practice, but he thinks that will lead to the rest of the kids wanting to do the same, and it'll cause more problems. anyone have any wisdom here? i definitely don't want to make these kids any more uncomfortable than they are, but i also don't want to seem like i don't care. thanks in advance! ",8.545942028985507,5.9777152850241615,7.9447342995169095,79.06826086956524,62.81642512077296,11.035748792270534,34.594202898550726,8.998388855275968,2.6769043478260865,1624,48,340,19,18,511,196,414,0.057,0.754,0.188,0.9949,2,0,3,0,0,0,48,2,0,17,8,20,22,0,1,11,2,30,0,0,7,2,81,64,35,0,19,20,2,1,3,0,4,0,0,0,10,13,20,0,2,8,23,1,5,8,2,0,6,4,2,40,20,54,52,18,47,0,0,0,0,48,22,0,18,22,220,53,4,0.08812827931377326,0.0,0.1720009759062357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812040225555933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047615312735414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23972100792333176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324268396149415,0.0,0.07252206485919209,0.0,0.16477608943029307,0.0,0.0,0.06776520695825536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499067474154338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985265420231757,0.09053201890704138,0.0,0.07591470921767449,0.0924008241498116,0.0,0.0,0.1407265199373884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207529473479244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106007070513238,0.0,0.11641579465829982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044560305979557284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992373872788636,0.0,0.09662810950057264,0.0,0.0,0.18417355432342367,0.1690813517071872,0.0,0.07391781947050133,0.0,0.09716173906359174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814105591924437,0.09311236567328958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948610033422388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833246390392147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183630996547832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291650772241297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765262153849534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796996194286807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634700232208634,0.0845614608344023,0.0,0.18495160873510832,0.0,0.059718002840808075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785602489923724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432686131918563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526106900922504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022867562056649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035363649217484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626149834427278,0.0,0.0,0.08113667918438316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293808584062305,0.08658558697406832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393332670474676,0.0,0.258265570049195,0.09174464677633663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678230821782238,0.06995212608552351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626038011006455,0.0,0.0,0.22700688991574014
parenting,tchin2121,2018/03/21,"14 year old son vaps and needs help with peer pressure Hi, 

My son has admitted that he vaps at school and on the bus with his friends. He wants to stop but has told me the peer pressure and impulse gets to him. Wonder if anyone has any good ways around it. ",2.9685849056603786,4.154310716981133,2.9359905660377343,97.61266509433963,73.90566037735849,6.054716981132076,22.683962264150942,5.985473137389443,0.02926792452830185,200,5,47,1,4,60,41,53,0.098,0.755,0.147,0.4497,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,13,9,5,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,7,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,3,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865098613854516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145386235915624,0.0,0.0,0.2731385998816631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370516256806993,0.0,0.1603029874733107,0.0,0.0,0.25734959250069045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20565780224721109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275062660182368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219603979208429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105224838926818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565187805598861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931836839706501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097287023677397,0.2435427786103807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327377705113921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975847334010535
parenting,Dufusbroth,2018/03/21,"At some point I just had to point out... ""I am not putting a necklace on my baby. The risk is death. Jewlery is not for babies. There is zero evidence that the acid that has analgesic properties absorbs into the skin. In fact the studies have indicated that you have to heat amber up to like 3000° to even begin to extract that acid...and I dont think she'd like that...the high temperature and all...
There are two reported cases of death because of those necklaces and others of near strangulation and choking. I am not putting a Baltic Amber necklace on my baby for teething...""

I actaully had to say this today after my inlaws suggest and repeat it 100× - like ""you know how to solve it, c'mon"" tone... 
I get it. 
You put it on all your kids. Great. I didn't say a thing about it to you even though I was aware it's dangerous. Now leave me be and quit trying to pressure my husband into it too. It's my job as a parent to #1 keep the kid alive, right? Teething is uncomfortable. That's sucks but the risk outweighs the benefit as it pertains to this matter. I said nothing to them about the necklaces, did not comment or anything when they fastened a rope with small beads around their children's necks. Not a word. It alarmed me but I held my tongue. Live your life but man- don't try and shell out ""medical advice"" against the orders of like...every legit pediatrician, safety advisor, baby book, and baby class teacher. I'm just not down.

The response was something to the effect of someone making money off of not using natural remedies...YOU GOT SOLD A NECKLACE- It's the necklace people who want to make money <--- I did not say this to them. The person that wants the money are the necklace vendors. My Dr makes no money off of my baby teething. Your favorite holistic baby store on etsy does. 

I'm not putting a necklace on my baby. EVER  dangit.  

Edit: hey everybody, I appreciate the feedback but maybe the name calling isn't so cool. We are all climbing the same Mountain we're just at different steps. The original idea of this post was that I didn't appreciate being so judged for something that I didn't judge somebody else for back. Let's all try to be kind to each other, even though we don't agree with each other's choices. have a great day",2.5598636363636342,4.946958168181818,3.5963636363636367,87.08954545454546,78.68181818181819,5.636363636363638,25.22727272727273,6.7829847944221076,1.0664772727272729,1774,67,336,18,44,570,229,440,0.069,0.8220000000000001,0.109,0.9659,3,0,2,0,0,0,76,2,7,4,3,21,14,2,4,28,1,32,8,5,7,6,60,50,20,2,2,17,2,1,3,0,0,3,4,0,5,29,18,0,2,4,1,6,6,17,6,0,2,14,7,39,8,55,31,8,41,0,0,0,0,31,23,1,2,13,232,68,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457963742599427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806912618988633,0.0952713386296172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229250745242554,0.0,0.06523898009554517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928035947576782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901966156955383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181411845779243,0.0,0.0,0.09365475785986704,0.0,0.12542776078706386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940227425960258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120589919115808,0.09680657976493848,0.0901697693408413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591403122636552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559443329308626,0.23598195873309266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307351353331466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081363018945987,0.0,0.0,0.10620178302882506,0.09512514104105486,0.0,0.1114458545403499,0.058815917361211965,0.0,0.0,0.11331973745384608,0.0,0.10943617613794543,0.07559206464487471,0.2091401287312072,0.0,0.09450146290806397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431195305103135,0.0,0.10751693267220884,0.0,0.0,0.10781235176431407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268949152903464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883410410368712,0.0,0.0,0.07419485416064993,0.09344656885557028,0.0,0.0,0.2023387871146891,0.0,0.1024964904032318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4303424717640267,0.0,0.11382995782131396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913953097809386,0.10180143460258577,0.25532207387224803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067850684700547,0.1647799175908526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109996627053894,0.06857470586954308,0.2102950874399456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144335055773646,0.0,0.0,0.21798060774295772,0.0,0.10454392109641532,0.0,0.0,0.09243174253482143,0.0,0.0,0.1262474627209141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Marshmallow4u,2018/03/21,"Pregnant with my second child and my 2yo is already having behavioral changes - aka loosing her s@&t My up until now star of a child has begun having strong tantrums, triggered by simple things as not getting something she wants as fast as she wants it. She is 22 months, it could be the dreaded “terrible twos”, but the clinggyness and always wanting to be on arms makes me believe she’s sensing something... I am interested to hear if this is normal? How has it been for other parents? Is the first child freak out a thing???",5.707653061224492,7.22518180612245,5.402653061224491,81.26377551020407,67.6734693877551,7.2326530612244895,33.38775510204081,7.447530270364453,2.367738775510204,419,19,72,4,7,129,74,98,0.105,0.841,0.054000000000000006,-0.644,1,0,2,1,0,0,16,0,0,0,2,2,6,1,1,5,0,13,1,1,3,0,15,19,9,0,6,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,1,1,10,2,13,15,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,6,57,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25370342684615194,0.0,0.1912975242224711,0.2490995584401605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590216969746603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432066497624511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355865684256265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955551812263256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011470997992968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591171339404895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346188616915316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835061999691784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22525590451146835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25527982220335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539807733020167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305474373457143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068078361860479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhoAmI_ElishaOtis,2018/03/21,"How seriously should I take my child’s “career interest” My 5 year old has recently been telling me he wants to be an animator when he grows up. He has told me he wants to be a million things before but this is something that I think he would actually be good at. He’s very creative and has always liked drawing. But with how much kids change i don’t know if I should overly encourage him or just see if it sticks. 
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parenting,calsmomma,2018/03/21,"Standing Howler Monkey Please help. My son is 8 months old and has discovered how to stand in his crib. He wakes up, and latches on to the crib rails and screams like a howler monkey. Before he learned how to stand, we would usually let him cry it out and he would soothe himself and fall back asleep within 10 minutes. However, with standing, we are afraid of letting him cry because we do not want him to fall and hit his head. This is happening many times a night and before, he was a good sleeper. Does anyone have any advice on how to get my sleeping angel baby back? 

Sincerely, 

One Tired Momma ",4.13866858237548,5.777853767241383,4.1866666666666665,88.00277777777781,71.67241379310343,6.879693486590037,26.68199233716475,7.3871296695380915,1.3095911877394637,471,16,92,5,9,145,81,116,0.097,0.78,0.124,0.5389,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,4,0,11,5,4,3,0,20,15,10,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,12,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,1,11,3,13,9,0,19,1,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,8,55,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176356397251674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195318224869214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229047278727321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27031752482917193,0.0,0.1071497282544378,0.0,0.29914014125111443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861572743274105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382033624258282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183425680077914,0.0,0.0,0.1474302440509356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543568492430335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18039404239397885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781708951493305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35948006903885826,0.0,0.0858739204990162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820646438278007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030051352844738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495126717100406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444443443243008,0.0,0.11910848826605798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929462205149975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759001692143669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249478271428923,0.20202546817469694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935893774677123,0.0,0.10367560393760604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249728515827438,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goldenhoneybrown,2018/03/22,"My teen son won’t follow my rules or consequences to his breaking them I’m a single parent of a 14 year old son. For the last year or so, I’ve had the most issues with him following rules and dealing with the consequences that come with him breaking them. First he lost his PS3 because he was making purchases and lying about it. Then he lost his cell phone because he refused to follow the rules that went along with having one. I no longer trust him with the internet, because he won’t stop using the app Kik. He was engaging in a lot of inappropriate behavior via the app. After I gave him another chance at the beginning of the school year, I had to take it after his grades fell. I told him once he gets his grades up, he could have it back. He went from honor roll to failing, and had hundreds of text and internet usage during school hours. 
Months later, he still hasn’t gotten his grades up, and I still have his phone. But now things have  gotten worse.  He’s resulted to breaking in to my bedroom to get to the computer while I’m at work, on more than one occasion. He’s even found where I hid the cell phone and taken it on several occasions. He doesn’t care about getting in trouble, and he doesn’t respect my rules. He just tries again the next time I’m at work or when I’m asleep at night. The fact that he doesn’t care is scaring me, and I’m worried about his future if he continues this kind of behavior. ",5.391664275466283,5.392399344947741,5.7955113752818175,83.5809448657512,67.74564459930313,9.261651977864316,28.72904283664685,9.007467420416297,2.031701537200246,1120,34,234,18,17,360,146,287,0.102,0.8290000000000001,0.069,-0.7783,1,0,0,0,1,0,26,0,0,2,7,13,12,0,1,16,0,17,1,1,3,1,31,45,17,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,15,0,2,1,0,1,7,7,5,0,3,15,0,26,7,38,27,4,48,0,3,0,0,44,12,0,6,26,139,35,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697633656577454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044596063878866,0.0,0.23889144575817764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663707991877441,0.0,0.0,0.11252567853413276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104296962386408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467319600980834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862794998559091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111331784434808,0.0,0.14322841645675338,0.0,0.0,0.20474544111928036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286436653196474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634317579846328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603043904073195,0.0,0.1064804121040056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851948857805248,0.11105646145619157,0.0,0.0,0.08719615214475733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426715669571286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892587003395862,0.12258686150701935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707360196311,0.13911606892230138,0.1770357512954996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504851186173026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078283781760794,0.2644078938439291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757406231349418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864164696387885,0.10921204424394178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821706674128536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678438213294784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617106524415515,0.0,0.0,0.12482200872590453,0.0,0.08868880137934115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282187722612246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421895619555705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901995469683888,0.13266051682270333,0.13312253887301306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523631907070322
parenting,throwawayreddit99999,2018/03/22,"12 year old planned to sneak out to meet someone she met online claiming to be a 14 year old Ill try to explain the scenario as efficiently as possible.   We got her a phone but we monitor it very closely.  She had stolen a broken phone from a relative and was using snapchat on it.  Someone claiming to be a 9th grader (she is in 7th) started to message her and she had planned to sneak out to meet up with this person.  She has allegeldy never even seen a picture of this person.  The first thought is that its a pedophile/child molester obviously.  The only reason we know if because a teacher overheard her talking, in turn the guidance conseler called us and we ended up calling the police

She has lied to us several times in the past (she had the broken phone before, her mom took it and hid it in our room, which she obviously went through).  She regularly lies about doing homework/eating lunch among other things.  We regualry tell her how wrong that is/ground her but she always goes back to it after a few months.

Now this person has several pictures of her and she left the GPS on when comminicatiing, meaning he also know where our house is, etc.  She continues to lie to us saying she ""cant remember"" the password to the account and that one of her friends set it up

Im at my wits end.  Shes 12 years old and already lying extensively and planning to sneak out.  I dont know what to do at this point.  We try to give her freedom but everytime we do she lies or goes behind our backs

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parenting,dverbern,2018/03/22,"Being a mentally unwell parent I'm a 38 year male living in Melbourne, Australia and I have anxiety and clinical depression.  I've got a boy almost 3 years old and a 7 month old daughter.  My mental health has been a constant extra 'layer' of challenge to add to the ordinary challenges of raising young children.

There is no doubt, I've added to my wifes strain.  I'm often in tears (of stress or happiness or relief) or have outbursts and arguments.  We try to keep as much of this from the children as possible, as we're aware of the harm that can be caused.

I'm the architect of my own problems sometimes.  I sometimes abuse medications for other than their intended purposes as a 'crutch' and I probably appear to be a walking example of bad life choices at times to my peers.  It's hard because I have significant awareness of my issues but I do often feel like I'm slave to my impulses.

I love my wife and my children, no argument.  I do worry that I'm imparting onto their young minds a future of mental illness genetically.  I am seeking help and counselling.

Are there other parents out there willing to admit challenges of a similar kind?",6.0167234600262125,6.843427605504588,7.046159895150722,72.27954128440369,66.52293577981652,9.89829619921363,35.75491480996068,9.957137785484203,3.8115703800786367,910,44,154,20,14,306,134,218,0.163,0.7190000000000001,0.118,-0.6249,2,0,0,0,1,0,19,1,0,2,3,5,15,0,3,13,0,15,6,0,2,0,26,26,15,0,1,4,5,2,1,0,1,5,0,0,5,6,10,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,7,0,0,2,2,19,8,30,20,3,17,0,1,0,1,16,5,0,8,11,104,25,3,0.0,0.16591855551475748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022480691346342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071263782824834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692336108153747,0.08536402554447045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385450138850214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132806769070636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120611925189856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080589470770911,0.10004101944337287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199876790523924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490698427591057,0.12544383860247876,0.0,0.0,0.1488506380145145,0.0,0.0,0.093862496926224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616013944830628,0.0,0.12446952662131595,0.0,0.14582488505913033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989108494316418,0.06841401898542132,0.0,0.12365345506412433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638703899285322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107051239212712,0.4233669771939642,0.0,0.14139541278942527,0.0,0.11177458698079963,0.0,0.10294182473314373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938863153257369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109845519781232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578684020708587,0.0,0.0,0.15098139581170095,0.13399456606821908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769963566587199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040959926890802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165552439873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507456094662674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422123221388924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18035587494251432
parenting,Throwawayforobv284,2018/03/22,"cutting line So apparently it’s a rule in my sons kindergarten class not to “tell”. My son has been having a couple of issues with not listening to the teacher (we’re dealing with that atm) and every time I pick him up, I ask the teacher how they did. She usually tells me that he whines or cries or screams. I asked him why he does this and he tells me it’s because they keep cutting him in line. He said 4-5 students keep cutting him in the line. I told him not to yell or scream or cry but to communicate with them and tell them to stop cutting. He usually gets distracted too so I guess the kids just cut him to keep following the line. I told him to stand up for himself and to say “please go back to your spot” and that if they don’t listen to talk to the teacher. If the teacher says “don’t tattle”, I’ll deal with it but please do not cry or whine or anything like that. It doesn’t help the problem and you end up getting in trouble”. I understand that the cutting isn’t a big deal. I want him to learn that while it isn’t a big deal, doesn’t mean that he can’t stand up for himself. Does that seem like an enough solution? We’re working on the paying attention part (he gets pretty distracted). He’s a sweet boy and the trouble that he gets to in school is because he doesn’t express himself the right way. We’ve been dealing with the whining and the crying about little things.",2.9152359835286674,4.18037379094077,3.764626227431105,91.30745248653787,74.15679442508709,6.751282863477986,26.285872663921445,7.1686216300943375,1.0306250871080145,1086,38,240,11,22,347,135,287,0.151,0.747,0.102,-0.8416,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,2,5,1,7,19,6,2,20,0,15,0,0,2,0,42,36,22,0,4,15,2,0,2,0,0,0,8,0,2,16,13,0,4,5,0,2,2,12,16,0,0,6,9,31,3,32,30,2,26,0,3,0,0,54,14,0,10,9,145,47,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611229953928701,0.0,0.1729333975801875,0.0,0.0,0.07111995142944096,0.0,0.1127634395727647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233964965299946,0.4063885478626868,0.0,0.4767713454156806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618791804097221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191966715969434,0.09556803699721493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792774596924144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329114195929886,0.0,0.0525648270356443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188938087112268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06199483876715254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653668478907362,0.0,0.2466310343430593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037296503517876,0.0927003865634653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074992920266278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015885467691446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305491980503587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409670602189968,0.0,0.08850149730837756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898689921748735,0.08798022211887177,0.1471052797295962,0.0,0.09360593720320956,0.0,0.08420042923941749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077326706148696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434084755496621,0.3233652136485776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144698107198795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393230774081651,0.0,0.0,0.17675843093054106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628650328868213,0.0,0.0,0.2037317725731646,0.0,0.054553650719613135,0.07341513488851661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345883715323266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733462677975445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Solarbg,2018/03/22,"What will be the appearance of my child (South Korean mother and 1/2 black, 1/2 white father)? I know the most important thing for our child is that they are healthy and happy. 

The mother is South Korean (with a darker skin tone from the norm in South Korea) and the father (myself) is 1/2 black 1/2 white.  To be more realistic I am multi racial since i have many different ethnicities in my genetics. I have light brown skin and  curly hair (to give you an Idea it's similar to Corbin Bleu the actor from high school music). to some people I look white, while other I look black. However, most of the time people think i look Algerian, Moroccan or South American.

But on a side note we tried looking online for pictures of what our child might look like but with no luck. 

Does anyone know or have a child that might look like our future child?

Thank you,",4.750685071574644,6.225776742331291,4.982346625766873,83.53503323108389,69.920245398773,8.62351738241309,22.172290388548056,9.075114841892004,1.425335787321064,671,14,131,13,12,211,97,163,0.017,0.872,0.111,0.9268,2,0,0,0,0,0,26,4,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,11,0,13,3,3,0,0,22,25,9,0,0,4,4,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,5,7,7,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,17,17,5,16,20,4,13,0,0,13,0,17,9,0,9,5,78,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030941317241722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404439856075314,0.0,0.0,0.12902655805780092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143878228461876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569536197004328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15577944561594612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664428719482481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205936675388485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406438913829342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7428795216780093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494819689296378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128230697353405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044339631366756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921810032069358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196466717367832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357438060032864,0.0,0.0,0.09795320745626028,0.0944741993931816,0.0,0.0,0.0859739963879101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010271833530172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,revolga,2018/03/22,Non cartoon movie recommendations Can anyone recommend non-cartoon movies that are great to watch as a family with younger children? Preferably something as equally entertaining for parents ,10.319166666666668,14.838273535714285,7.857142857142858,55.35452380952384,63.64285714285714,9.447619047619048,48.61904761904761,9.725611199111238,6.676604761904763,161,11,16,4,3,47,25,28,0.0,0.708,0.292,0.8591,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33263377672968164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484655230405349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.524481862606046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5282296375200172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36623171772156987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bovata,2018/03/22,"Help needed! 4yo son refuses to stay in his bed overnight. It's killing our sleep and we need a gentle way of helping him cope with ""fear of the dark"" and his general preference for sleeping in our bed with us.

To be fair, we moved in November for the first time in his life, so we are cognizant that it's probably the reason he's regressed. Prior to the move, he slept the entire night in his own bed in his own room every night.

Any advice from parents that have been there? 

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Edit: Here's our current routine and set-up: He has a nightlight in his room that stays on all night and is pretty bright, and he can reach and operate the switch on the reading light above his bed. At bedtime, we change the kids (him and his 1yo sister) into PJs and have a group story in his room, then she goes to bed with one parent and he brushes his teeth with the other. He goes back to his room with a parent and gets three stories and then lights out with a 10-15 min cuddle. He usually falls asleep within that cuddle time or shortly thereafter. 

He'll usually come into our room hours after we have been in bed and fallen asleep, and crawl in without waking us. Usually we wake up within an hour of him coming in and put him back in his room, which is usually successful without a big fuss, but he is back 3-4 times through the night. ",5.7454636591478705,5.3870032706766935,5.876375939849628,84.51686967418547,67.04511278195488,8.747468671679199,29.01152882205514,8.021203637495839,1.7099381453634082,1034,30,215,11,15,328,143,266,0.025,0.919,0.056,0.6476,4,0,0,0,0,0,62,12,0,0,2,6,4,1,1,17,0,12,11,8,1,1,42,19,19,1,3,4,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,12,1,8,31,0,1,2,1,0,7,2,2,0,3,3,4,29,2,42,14,3,62,0,0,1,2,48,29,0,1,23,138,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772852401573898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06801016650089589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23070433658476475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579722116233206,0.17229935944245234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426266035542503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253895020625376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506837612314218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522510488467654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406906559026605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969792266054279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064614480997936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063995522334539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21258940846474292,0.0,0.14831215819534574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754100928582832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776930151408789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331475002962489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174603001114868,0.1078275952636282,0.0,0.0,0.10053757983370468,0.0,0.0,0.1000369714763299,0.0,0.0,0.10282684140811502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016426666821366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131945090404425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749497437463063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405992093541787,0.0,0.4405871347213655,0.0,0.0,0.07938320939631055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281196369538345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShameThrowaway88,2018/03/22,"Not my ""real"" baby TL;DR: Pregnant with a mostly-unwanted 2nd, and husband and I are not at all on the same page.

I have a 2-year-old who is my everything, and I was very ambivalent about having any more children after her. My husband has always wanted more than 1, and I was open to the idea until I had our daughter. After that, I just can't imagine loving anybody else as much as I love her, and I don't really want to split my attention from her for more children. We are also kind of squeaking by financially-speaking; not broke but aaaaaalmost paycheck-to-paycheck. 

I was not on birth control but we were using condoms--except the one time we didn't, and we all know how that story ends. I'm pro-choice politically, but abortion wasn't an option for me personally. I waited a little bit to see if it stuck, and sure enough, it definitely did. I'm about 20 weeks right now.

The problem is, I (mostly) feel nothing for this baby. Except maybe a little resentment at taking time/attention/money away from my ""real"" child. I know it's horrible, and I've tried to talk to my husband about it, but he mostly seems baffled and just kind of ends any conversations I try to start about it. Let me just say, I don't know wtf I'd expect him to do; it's done and we have to move forward, and he's totally not any kind of therapist or anything. But I feel incredibly unsupported and frustrated, and just...alone. He has this idea that it'll all just work itself out, but he has no concept of how I struggle to make sure all of our financial obligations are met every month, and it really feels like he wants to keep it that way.

Again, I have no idea what I'd want him to do, but I'm so angry about feeling like this. He snapped at me this morning ""why are you mad?"" and I snapped back that there was absolutely no point in even trying to talk to him about it anyway, and so now we haven't spoken all day. I spent my lunch break at work curled up in my office, crying, and I'm pretending that my allergies are really acting up today. A few days ago I briefly felt excited as we went through baby stuff and got a couple of things set up, and then the next day I found out we unexpectedly owe $500 bucks for something and I'm right back down in the dumps.

I've mentioned feeling like this to my ob, and she just kind of shrugged it off the first time and told me once I felt the baby move, I'd bond with it. Nope. The next time around, I specifically mentioned that I'm worried it means I'm going to have ppd afterward, and she just told me that it's good to stay aware of feeling like that. I'm sure ""therapy"" is going to be an answer here at some point, but we can't afford it in either time or money. I'm so frustrated and disappointed in myself for feeling like this. I 100% did NOT feel like this when I was pregnant with my first.",5.891997540112933,5.099760084922012,6.70022809861911,80.1768720299659,66.8682842287695,9.66353217420473,30.397998546430372,8.933256019334266,2.209139811035948,2207,68,464,32,31,735,257,577,0.11,0.787,0.103,-0.8439,2,1,1,0,0,1,84,11,1,0,5,29,26,5,1,17,0,38,3,0,5,9,116,86,47,0,7,25,4,10,6,0,1,0,1,0,4,36,40,1,3,22,1,4,7,17,9,0,3,22,12,62,17,72,61,19,69,0,2,1,2,46,29,0,8,37,312,98,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143485945560739,0.0,0.0,0.07177926398733303,0.0,0.0554233265234211,0.05766746076314123,0.0,0.0,0.14138969467427176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057032257047010385,0.0616963027681439,0.0,0.0,0.06511449695925745,0.10658280923442894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566330546987192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773165127022537,0.0,0.07668486224224685,0.07612848469616462,0.13408832073950455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092326025421053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057895583920832765,0.0,0.12276763526887363,0.07161077624109867,0.0,0.045775417027736416,0.0,0.058392602327273474,0.0,0.06228702596749922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803422466973433,0.2970698019044405,0.1330876804860512,0.0,0.0,0.117901899527808,0.0,0.07598955145173067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877546060951897,0.05812989589556351,0.0554296827112732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347113333527883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061601627382895235,0.0,0.28868271540538465,0.11426494150178955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07086924099012981,0.0,0.20315405801107184,0.13892399275404435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510125961597207,0.0,0.04626174507624774,0.0,0.06962636744966028,0.07549365732654602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531873258437429,0.14732087421772008,0.05094728084424514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741368801084967,0.0,0.0,0.06650018832119695,0.0,0.0727241268648311,0.07380775364730549,0.046962982851685514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060514608986140535,0.0,0.0,0.13103159093941905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631569633409043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577689328352543,0.13319601678286788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837248819930322,0.0,0.05511425996385872,0.0,0.0,0.05522725460791475,0.06309283194593718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335451265840943,0.0,0.0,0.04905456233399872,0.07387009935507792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724528207491416,0.07933784871651499,0.0,0.0,0.1959579327475833,0.0,0.05210886939344541,0.11140975512529268,0.0,0.0,0.07925651207318092,0.0804686543938159,0.04604328131554475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020620357571139,0.0,0.06569320595102271,0.13244813688559434,0.0,0.14116100147576535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05985742254536412,0.0,0.05718403081424892,0.1635119605912222,0.05501122511666585,0.0555924340859839,0.0,0.0,0.06424659517495898,0.06253714422214833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090999131317112,0.07038277332177174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044630262949124734
parenting,TheSilverHook,2018/03/22,"Help me figure out how to buy outdoor active Easter gifts I view Easter like the reopening of the great outdoors. My son is almost 5 and I would for his Easter gifts to reflect this. I am thinking of getting him a bike, but I have no idea how to buy one. What size? Bell? Training wheels? He had a balance bike last year and really liked it. We tried out a neighbours bike, but it was really heavy and hard for him to use.

I'm also open to other ideas. So far I am thinking about bubble guns, skipping rope, the ball toss where the ball sticks to the mitt with velcro. What are the best Nerf guns?

Thank in advance from a clueless Mom :)",1.6339362980769252,3.840851492187504,2.6312500000000014,93.73490384615386,80.953125,4.87596153846154,20.002403846153847,5.873414542411696,-0.08926995192307707,493,13,103,3,13,156,89,128,0.057,0.758,0.185,0.959,0,0,0,2,0,0,17,1,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,3,0,21,14,9,0,1,2,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,6,5,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,11,5,16,11,1,9,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,1,4,64,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223095284640468,0.0,0.0,0.17754018494364346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329843127601611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599032241878122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447652483475401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887608492587971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488076745579276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5012413382081851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809666275895205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216924360756871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26001377114994784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043876259339936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844487683766611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20439567696150807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845082734736102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507292559583588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19174413618899075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770852880546474,0.0,0.0,0.14296624968410396
parenting,CrummyDunks,2018/03/22,"My daughter wrote her first song while listening to music with me. I was cleaning Opeth while cleaning my room, and in comes my 3 kids. When it gets heavy, we all start thrashing out lightly. Out of nowhere, the middle (Tesla) starts screaming into the mirror ""I AM THE BALL!!"". She kept gowling these words over and over. A solid two minutes of her projecting her voice while still thrashing out to Opeth.

I finally asked her where she heard it, to which she responsed ""Umm, nowhere, I am like a ball."" and she proceeded to do a perfect tumble roll on my bed. She gave me a huge smile, because of all the kids, she looks up to me the most, always craving my love and attention. It lit me up so much after being in a pretty dire situation. When things can be beyond stressful, they can still light up the world.",3.6146352357320097,5.5405623741935495,3.8290322580645184,88.84662531017372,73.64516129032258,6.317617866004963,26.1166253101737,7.010146845296331,1.1135707196029778,628,22,123,6,13,194,98,155,0.067,0.8240000000000001,0.11,0.7949,0,0,0,0,0,0,29,1,0,1,2,7,5,0,1,11,0,8,1,0,0,3,19,20,10,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,2,6,11,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,2,1,2,5,9,25,3,23,13,4,32,0,0,2,1,21,18,0,1,14,92,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20339114652581336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285155771800992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490065125612021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056081198813809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677687606131628,0.0,0.20791796799434706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277082318588821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941956010501002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052654978801354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206139154420608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968930357181173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24868028256219274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27475740395826115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460275012424702,0.0,0.390415371598322,0.0,0.2800017315953326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239306625695604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23877940870988645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frantheman61390,2018/03/22,"Fear of Children Dying I don't mean to be a downer, but every now and then (not constantly or to the point of a phobia) I experience huge fear of my children dying. Whether it is after reading about a tragedy, watching medical dramas or SVU or even just in my own mind - It leaves me breathless and the fear is all encompassing. 

There is fear, but then there is the helplessness. I am mostly helpless to keep them completely safe. I can get them vaccinated, feed them well, put them in their car seats, teach them to swim, teach them to stay out of the street, teach them to make wise choices and keep an eye on them when I can - but after all that I know they are still mortal and could be taken from me by those things that are outside of my control. 

I know for a fact that I am not alone, but this is not something I was expecting when I decided to have kids! It is not talked about how being the parent, loving this child and being responsible for them can result in fear and helplessness. Being a mom has been a lesson in accepting I cannot control everything my child does or everything that my child experiences - I can create a safe, loving and nurturing environment, but they are separate from me now and outside of my control. 

Any one else experience this? I would love to hear your insights. ",6.7495845190665875,6.536827490039843,6.916087080250431,77.41040836653391,64.93625498007968,10.199317017643713,31.872794536141143,9.784248007369934,2.8164420034149122,1024,35,198,19,14,330,129,251,0.128,0.7020000000000001,0.17,0.9106,1,1,1,0,0,0,27,0,1,12,4,13,17,0,5,13,0,28,6,1,6,3,49,40,23,3,3,15,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,6,12,9,1,7,7,3,0,3,6,8,1,1,3,3,35,9,29,30,4,24,0,3,2,3,26,10,0,5,10,157,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629154271733267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979048421706249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760338971265188,0.11090428947759487,0.34531771458130345,0.08194001897200044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21302309318910811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898103578231296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573243287298242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778475320206671,0.0,0.08646842332823168,0.0,0.1844706594519664,0.3011693064546999,0.0,0.5774245404965207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05361883652816972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566909039471085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824407675615539,0.0,0.0,0.11280320839246183,0.0,0.0,0.10866811683375448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778770317875465,0.0,0.06850491325486552,0.0,0.0,0.1117918582172744,0.0,0.1033868018130383,0.0,0.0,0.10362491261603214,0.12019654398429835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954331405228947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395612625588315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701652797746113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316937510384418,0.0,0.0,0.10265566220676084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900796339169186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938767528348416,0.08195876523819844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248841021912247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818140965698732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227479790249976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729039082638944,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chocobean,2018/03/22,"How do you guys balance cost/time/whines when deciding on extracurricular? I want to hear **your thought processes**, thus keeping the question as generic as possible. 

Low cost, low time commitment, and something the kiddos enjoy, that's a no brainer. 

High cost, high time commitment, and the kid just doesn't want to do it, that's also a no brainer. 

But what happens when it's a mix of factors, and your kid's enthusiasm fluctuates wildly?",2.450708333333332,5.411953987500002,3.5300000000000047,81.62833333333334,90.375,6.666666666666668,29.16666666666667,7.793537801064563,2.6812916666666675,349,18,59,8,12,112,53,80,0.105,0.721,0.174,0.6868,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,3,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,2,2,15,9,10,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,3,0,1,3,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,4,1,6,8,0,9,0,2,0,0,8,5,0,1,4,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322982385832915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23924970815045035,0.21367084192044047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723323163625476,0.0,0.0,0.5105864954226269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477006804261603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27239926410012505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706786585438137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18601703884870072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19182564144983671,0.4226856887917356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850369088764472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dockfox,2018/03/22,"Not cut out to be a SAHD? I am a SAHD of 4 kids- ages 2 (twins), 1, and 11. My wife and I made this decision because my meager teacher salary wouldn't even pay for daycare for three of them in our area. Ten months in, I feel like I am losing my sanity. The days of isolation, lack of adult contact, and constant screaming have taken its toll. I'm sure most stay-at-home parents can identify with these feelings at some point. My question is, have any of you decided that being a stay-at-home parent wasn't for you, and gone back to work? Did you feel guilt about putting your kids in daycare? I want to do what's best for them, but I found myself losing patience with them to easily these days. Any experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated.",4.460927152317883,5.136146913907286,5.1466821192052965,85.0581688741722,69.9271523178808,8.159205298013246,27.68278145695364,8.238735603445708,1.6432299337748346,588,19,123,8,10,190,102,151,0.08,0.78,0.14,0.8395,3,1,0,0,0,0,25,1,5,3,4,3,10,1,1,4,0,15,0,0,1,1,24,24,5,0,4,2,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,6,7,0,0,7,0,1,2,3,5,0,2,6,4,20,5,21,13,4,15,0,2,0,0,18,7,0,3,7,80,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297259682456401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298795455326153,0.0,0.10296452676106904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725814251944166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252914826894434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21786290283233672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156190013816726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522407819952012,0.0,0.0,0.25621432660794663,0.12066764843834188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519850393641096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622126426193292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251973877435066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37792887809779135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159824488577262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482046305790085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751038803547226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967231117164016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979882612158362,0.1892152079124169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600661307991677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591934473709707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962609957119987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229667702098924,0.0,0.0,0.1199871379508204,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weiserca,2018/03/22,"Help installing ABCMouse on Kindle Fire! So I have kids mode set, and all I want on there is ABCMouse, so I've set that as the only content. It shows up under the kids App tab, but when I click it, it shows the install spinning wheel, but that never goes away and it's not installing. What am I doing wrong?

Thanks kindly in advance",3.477313432835821,4.720763298507464,3.9016716417910473,90.95638805970152,72.73134328358209,5.36,25.34029850746269,3.1291,0.3274202985074628,259,8,53,0,5,81,48,67,0.081,0.7609999999999999,0.158,0.68,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,2,8,6,8,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,7,6,1,11,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,2,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841846367769045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740839185482715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.425817096579828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31537679036172483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109946684120652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764696158471909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411858576889733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4470791623787192,0.0,0.0
parenting,teleosaur,2018/03/22,"Make sure you know what your kids are up to on the internet! Imgur album in comments because I can't directly post a link here, but a friends 10 year old daughter came into contact with this wonderful human on ""Movie Star Planet"".

Fwiw, she is on the autism spectrum, and has a few other disabilities to her name, so she doesn't always understand right and wrong. Even if she's been told to not talk to people on the internet like this, it doesn't always stick. Parents thought they were watching her well enough, and since their school allows this website... the parents were lulled into a false sense of security. 

Yes, friend is going to the local authorities tomorrow. She's just unnerved and thought something like this would never happen in her family. I'm not sharing to shame her, or get advice, just a helpful reminder to other parents to be diligent with your internet security talks.

Just keep an eye on those kids.",8.397368421052633,8.018169789473685,7.760350877192984,73.26578947368424,61.631578947368425,10.40701754385965,36.54385964912281,9.725611199111238,3.5065368421052625,738,30,127,12,9,231,116,171,0.037000000000000005,0.745,0.218,0.9884,3,0,1,0,0,0,23,0,3,2,0,7,11,0,1,11,1,12,1,1,2,2,30,25,8,0,2,8,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,9,9,0,3,6,0,0,2,6,2,1,0,7,2,14,9,21,16,2,19,0,0,2,0,30,12,0,3,6,86,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762882716598788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514131505814589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209397119803596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278965339938987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156100950450257,0.0,0.09978367056417352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242014728999364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334404759078425,0.0,0.07893049789842763,0.0,0.08585945383346699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359520106830436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012624467199737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428247937680773,0.0,0.0,0.08302691721294074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476153134484741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008437941180314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165184210729093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852789091469055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5032530188841811,0.0,0.0,0.10473644364314573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468817294922054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290172993856488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289605420726504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497087366398853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163049833274674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423864822019604,0.0,0.0,0.2428568656473729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398734886727269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435872042217246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572744941840032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583464717841587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383448811551035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731940770455396,0.16517689217148354,0.0,0.09728740324986
parenting,jasm4collection,2018/03/22,"Having a baby My girlfriend told me back in January that she was pregnant and she was all excited. Me, not so much. I wanted kids when I was younger, before I saw how hard it was with my brother and sister having their kids. Now I pretty much don't want them, or at least not yet. I'm 27, I still live with my parents, I'm not financially set, my job isn't secure. She's 39, has two kids that she practically raised on her own and her job and salary aren't that great. This is a formula for disaster and she just has baby fever. I wanted an abortion, but apparently that makes you a terrible person and I got vetoed by her. We just had the first trimester ultrasound last week and she had a moment and couldn't understand my lack of enthusiasm in the doctor's office. Basically what I'm trying to ask is, will I ever overcome my feelings right now and Dad-Mode kicks in down the road? Or will I have the same pessimistic attitude after my child is born? I'd like to be happy but I'm very pragmatic and keep seeing the negative aspects right now. I won't do adoption, sign my rights away or abandon the baby. I wasn't raised that way. I'll be there, I just can't get passed this feeling of misery.",3.1076133190118123,4.4880999632653085,4.5622126745435025,85.3207196562836,73.85714285714286,7.60687432867884,24.73147153598281,8.20500826718156,1.3849183673469387,941,29,196,15,19,314,145,245,0.123,0.795,0.08199999999999999,-0.8722,5,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,1,2,1,14,7,0,0,11,0,26,2,0,2,2,41,44,18,0,5,11,3,3,1,1,3,2,0,0,5,9,13,0,4,3,0,0,1,11,2,0,2,10,5,35,5,16,28,7,28,0,1,2,0,24,11,0,3,15,139,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944713995386327,0.0,0.15019334983696905,0.12292215943839545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602873938909862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636230672201068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460215396196166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616596268824808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597648810297425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352003935746087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785431993762558,0.1762457655865187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017350927735214,0.14320279566338792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31727195853542645,0.14209055132277118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030690443374782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809932229773812,0.0,0.1411589493425293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670751962735878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23503038900446055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750515986886195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958323049611784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263467659602002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095576567760646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738739849364095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766407743269415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275269170058942,0.0,0.10853417015697957,0.0,0.15615959380940975,0.1664194740172084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190090603858134,0.28286798923178913,0.1268891040358868,0.12822972288627568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mauicormac,2018/03/22,"How do you pay a nanny? Technically a nanny is a employee if they make over $2k a year from you.

Couple of questions...

1) Do any of you use a nanny payment service? If so which one

2) Do any of you manage it yourself? If so, any guides on how to do it? Navigating tax laws for each state is pretty daunting

3) Insurance for the Nanny if they get injured? Worth it? Will homeowners usually cover it?

4) Any other advice or general counsel? 

Thanks!",0.3774344569288388,2.804383438202251,3.4777808988764067,83.33854400749065,91.02247191011236,6.112734082397004,23.14700374531835,7.492282038375204,1.53899925093633,342,14,65,7,12,122,60,89,0.045,0.8540000000000001,0.101,0.7312,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,4,2,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,7,1,0,4,0,13,11,9,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,9,10,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,6,2,45,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24228216759747495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6744254341075916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743387077804079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295373843136839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550055633916985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800922179849728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522421058110814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27774733024443765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22826802104251506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141388465990405,0.2730687050964309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596639585357095
parenting,pantiko,2018/03/22,"Son's friend saying he was going to invite him to his party and didn't. Son is going to be crushed. My son who's 7 doesn't get invited to many birthday parties. This one boy who I know they play together at school with, told my son he's going to invite him to his birthday. My son doesn't get many invites so he's really excited. The birthday is coming up and we didn't hear anything so we txt our sons best friends mom, who knows the kid well. They got an invite.

I don't know if it's a case of the boy telling too many people they were coming or what, but my son is going to be crushed. He is really looking forward to it.

How should I handle it? I feel so bad for my son. Though not close I do know the boys dad, but I obviously don't want to make things awkward. I almost want to talk to him and say I'll pay whatever cost there is. I was happy he finally got invited to a party and now he's not.",1.0762496267542545,2.5090035583756354,3.36494475962974,91.5775097043894,79.40609137055837,6.462705285159749,21.74051955807704,7.285733465282438,0.5576798447297704,699,20,163,9,17,241,102,197,0.09,0.768,0.141,0.7332,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,3,1,9,9,0,1,7,0,18,0,0,2,1,28,39,13,0,4,6,10,1,0,2,1,0,3,0,4,9,10,0,0,5,1,2,7,8,2,1,1,8,5,24,7,17,28,1,12,0,0,1,0,42,4,0,3,3,96,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413553329536338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616592601013752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786602527424694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481428858705547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24320053520769874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137674882066238,0.0,0.0,0.1546382379468882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21812587858582894,0.0,0.14750470443787378,0.0,0.3209069674741052,0.0,0.2258034576922181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027167960062318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910206278259886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103201223852056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185421885315867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422805152525422,0.4293543516346741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532954501486852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565636490008476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978653281988482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808665181377357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245185225542712,0.0,0.1428654822029764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346225838497395,0.12338353889690158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937830744828622,0.0,0.13869289173581867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488823050567875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652434340934194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692336940696175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,no_tread_on_snek,2018/03/23,"Got a warning at work Hi all, I got a warning at work for taking off too much time. I am a fairly new parent with number 2 on the way. I am trying to juggle work and family and I am leaning towards family.  I work in a corporate job and while they act like they are into parents they don't like when I need to take time off for doctor appointments and kid stuff. I'm just stressing out and wondering if any veterans could chime in. Thanks. ",1.3786324786324755,3.435496802197804,3.524761904761906,87.80079365079365,80.97802197802199,6.681807081807082,21.1001221001221,7.793537801064563,0.9653579975579972,343,10,71,6,9,117,61,91,0.083,0.8109999999999999,0.105,0.2263,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,4,3,4,0,1,5,0,6,1,0,0,1,14,14,8,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,9,3,15,11,2,17,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,2,7,48,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495673045791342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496906892612814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302522274958884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31872208784018385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704022429422641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775156532160576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651741758266894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426788625015472,0.1253450893482902,0.0,0.16326518825752845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754100243603925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19364103839285815,0.0,0.19351664301333427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542023419936962,0.0,0.0,0.15563437581127448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714357005002806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477079171295168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341804420569322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833226236105431,0.4922685220569812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoldBreadfruit,2018/03/23,"Moving out of the country when kids head to college. I'll try to make this as short as possible. Using a throwaway for privacy. 

My wife and I have 3 kids. We currently live in the US. I am American and my wife is from Australia. Our main reason for waiting to raise our children here instead of Australia was because we had more rights as a same-sex couple here. 

Our kids are now all teenagers. We have one who is a senior and two sophomores in high school. Our younger two will graduate in 2020. Depending on how things progress in the country by that point and who wins the next election, we have been strongly considering moving to Australia. They legalized gay marriage recently and we thought about how great it would be to go back, but pulling three teens out of high school didn't strike us as a positive. 

The senior got into his dream college and wants to remain in the US. The other two think they want to stay stateside as well for college. One has a real potential for an athletic scholarship depending on his next two years at school. If they decide to stay, would it be wrong to move out of the country? They will still have family here to stay with on college breaks and we would be more than happy to pay for their plane ride out to Australia. I have discussed this with them but it's hard to get a great idea for how they will feel when the time comes. I know they will be adults but it can be a challenging time period and having their parents in another country could be more challenging than they think. We are a very close nit family and I think that's why this concerns me more than it would otherwise. They are independent but they like being around us as well. 

It will be a dream for us to move to my wife's country but I don't want it to negatively impact my kids. This is something that we will talk about more as the time comes but high school flies by and we want to start thinking about this now. We aren't making any permanent decisions yet but this is something we will very likely do regardless of what happens with the next election. I'm open to any thoughts and feelings. I do ask that you leave out any discriminatory comments though. ",4.640574835652039,6.0745920805687215,4.6228237272588295,86.16529659073538,70.13744075829385,8.004402996483718,28.54181317841309,8.460557738077197,1.9097977985017585,1726,63,344,27,31,533,194,422,0.02,0.8690000000000001,0.111,0.9882,2,0,2,0,0,0,30,20,1,12,5,21,12,0,0,21,0,44,2,1,10,1,79,70,32,0,11,8,4,3,2,0,11,0,0,0,6,22,36,0,1,13,2,2,9,4,1,2,7,7,3,47,11,66,43,7,58,0,0,0,1,52,25,0,3,22,251,69,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426899454934736,0.07415244678583642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295270378988872,0.06611040880067431,0.0,0.0,0.05437664590732718,0.0,0.04310813985175349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183205652511653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646139433411389,0.07824649454354687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333305002969686,0.0,0.0715128039456938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03694646780577224,0.0,0.0401898332246878,0.0,0.05655846850343243,0.15593044625557412,0.0,0.0,0.06253439325351201,0.07527906033427087,0.06334812004852472,0.0,0.07257556070955981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22414768721634784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983035385559151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03886395506801359,0.0,0.0,0.07487859379423306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909704830421035,0.0,0.06244399089731159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440766476827188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006419166331058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22562349329416576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583870072935084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785223369733424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684997772497216,0.07972226135350355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049089208270083,0.0,0.07270836987015529,0.06982404130935928,0.0,0.0,0.06039152957420418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862756118258749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888207819717187,0.0,0.0,0.0500535233652504,0.22612323307796356,0.056474311591656376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056839267500871565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04698091976540019,0.18124918609014126,0.06947863092143075,0.11228205019192873,0.1237061306445172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0480118813925444,0.0,0.2763190941780337,0.0,0.4253163878378639,0.06107637608829568,0.0,0.11669708529827945,0.1668417645687206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716530498373427,0.0,0.06381066837793098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009399736357085,0.0773174234466954,0.0,0.045539126291888485
parenting,Dalani,2018/03/23,"Easiest way for non religious parents to baptize baby and relieve fears of religious family members My MIL is Catholic and very upset that we haven't baptized our 5 month old son. She has been super respectful and not bringing it up to us. However friends have told us she is freaking out. Since this is only because she genuinely cares about our son in the context of her world view we are considering getting the baptism done for her sake. 

I don't really want to deal with the Catholic church, what are my other options? The requirements? Anyone had this issue before?",6.704285714285714,7.9860579047619025,6.667619047619053,73.97571428571432,65.19047619047619,9.80952380952381,36.904761904761905,9.957137785484203,3.981190476190477,460,23,75,10,7,146,80,105,0.083,0.76,0.157,0.8723,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,2,1,8,0,2,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,11,17,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,1,14,5,12,13,0,8,3,0,1,0,17,4,0,1,2,52,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957838409997046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040412266032606,0.0,0.18203082876564347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181064934755116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22054293215628895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891523084575112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166547402510224,0.24072035233357975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527466487849962,0.0,0.1117647789066856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223277717177689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074952660659348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447387448922354,0.0,0.0,0.16269639371937092,0.0,0.0,0.2375337116716412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704313017216374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695748078017967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044104737816123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146407207528774,0.0,0.0,0.1765070480618333,0.12617601923038954,0.169800358899992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shatrocious,2018/03/23,"PARENTING PRO-TIP! (Easter related) For those of you who may be colouring easter eggs for the first time, it's helpful to teach your child that the easter bunny takes the eggs, and leaves the presents (similar to toothfairy deal).

That way, you don't have to deal with upset children when you throw our their beautiful masterpieces.  ",7.179915254237287,8.702437457627124,5.762500000000002,80.01968220338985,64.2542372881356,9.289830508474578,31.69915254237288,9.516144504307137,2.935267796610169,266,10,45,5,4,78,46,59,0.04,0.799,0.161,0.8356,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,4,1,1,1,1,0,1,4,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,6,0,7,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,13,0,0,1,4,29,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6756274908994571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787162344287992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196305302725838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469555914121354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36383914925693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463673259862572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910672175861159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26008947399894605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sighpsi,2018/03/23,"Need help choosing Daycare So for our 3 month old daughter we are between either the YMCA daycare for $1400/month or an in-house grandma type unlicensed daycare who have great references but we just don’t know them are are uncertain about leaving our precious daughter there...they seemed great and loving but we just can’t decide....the grandmother type place is $800/month. I’d rather spend more and have peace of mind but would the in home place give her more love? This feels like the biggest decision I’ve ever had to make.... any help or insight appreciated!
The ymca is licensed and clean but feels more “factory”.... what do you guys think??",3.6583608815427016,6.2907324049586775,3.555723140495868,87.52934228650145,76.19008264462809,6.347382920110194,26.61225895316805,7.492282038375204,1.5068011019283751,515,20,95,7,12,156,84,121,0.019,0.659,0.322,0.9938,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,5,1,1,0,6,7,0,1,5,0,12,2,0,1,1,31,22,10,0,3,10,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,6,0,0,9,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,8,6,7,20,4,7,0,0,0,2,17,4,0,4,4,53,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733189483958342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607068289469636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448099957548047,0.12326132692119847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551436646876733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804479565307493,0.0,0.17083994769703714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312974414622421,0.0,0.17306988582762448,0.0,0.0,0.19908592119999188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482248427670407,0.0,0.0,0.18269304475804807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429345089719313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114449296614465,0.0,0.11517059049218585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421440023270068,0.0,0.4131550433206312,0.0,0.0,0.12793489153256765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810498203266348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605313991538523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707230021395488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105555138953352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256618927029322,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tiredmomwithra,2018/03/23,"20month old acts like I torture him when he gets back from grandma’s I’m 26 weeks pregnant and have severe HG, to the point where i couldn’t care for my 20 month old yesterday i was vomiting so much. My husband’s mom was kind enough to take him for the day, and the night, so i could rest up and feel better. Today, MIL brings him home right before lunch (she comes in too) and he screams and cries at me trying to hold him or feed him, literally thrashing in his high chair. After me ignoring him for a couple minutes (she went out for a smoke break) he begins to eat his lunch but does a few fake cries in grandma’s direction. 
Then, as we do every day, i wipe him up and tell him it’s time for bed. He begins crying hysterically at his grandma’s departure, throws a tantrum on the stairs after she’s gone, and basically wants nothing to do with me as i lay him down for a nap (usually there’s kissing and cuddles). Now, i know i am currently emotionally unstable bc of pregnancy but what the actual fuck?! Why is my kid so unhappy to see me? I feel like this happens every time he’s with my in-laws for more than a few hours...like he forgets who i am or something? Idk. Any words of wisdom are appreciated. Thanks. ",3.1196625636672337,4.432342286290325,4.536010186757217,85.78980475382005,73.71774193548387,7.80169779286927,25.95585738539898,8.371475516178862,1.5526822580645163,949,32,203,16,19,316,151,248,0.135,0.754,0.111,-0.6711,1,0,2,0,0,0,33,1,0,0,1,9,14,3,0,11,0,11,8,0,0,0,27,29,19,0,3,4,2,2,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,4,13,4,2,3,1,0,6,1,6,0,0,4,4,34,8,33,23,6,43,0,0,1,3,27,15,1,2,23,121,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.13014149222645927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069032755424684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254668740239943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348073186809968,0.0,0.0,0.1179473239181736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597083896514925,0.0,0.0,0.11487904051092918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064782289983759,0.1475618564257462,0.4394737188087274,0.17201414511969218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670546293118356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364620095167498,0.0,0.15001362901120774,0.0,0.1377979795913842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472546859961234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348630653679206,0.09527341332497892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329046860164228,0.06967582905275907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793104870417374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090364487307927,0.13377236135956613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887537956538096,0.07329193967521751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030729083504514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561912639969826,0.10644779995148253,0.0,0.09803597635047924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515064305878235,0.0,0.12796386345897978,0.0,0.2798807183930473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606963254598882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388990993584222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062717722501378,0.0,0.0,0.15066042616869738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266812388206216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027117841919277,0.0,0.11656374482246835,0.12278126269599042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555282137186069,0.0,0.12641101700188387,0.0,0.0,0.09054363892089376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687874482538346,0.0,0.07866001107374243,0.0,0.10697447367173313,0.0,0.0,0.12362735715820937,0.1203379236417398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheVillageOxymoron,2018/03/23,"Considering switching 3 year old back to 2 naps per day, thoughts? My 3 year old is a sleeper. He always has needed quite a bit of sleep, and I'm wondering if 2 naps per day might help him better than the 1 that he is currently taking. Currently he sleeps 10 to 12 hours per night, and then takes a 3 and a half to 4 hour nap in the day. I try to keep him up until after lunch time, but sometimes he struggles to make it and gets so cranky and clearly tired that he ends up going to sleep before he eats, which then throws his whole eating schedule off. I wouldn't worry too much about this but he is already small for his age so I do want to ensure that he isn't undereating due to his sleeping. Anyways, I've been thinking about changing his schedule around so that I would put him down in the morning, wake him up for lunch and let him play for a bit, then put him down a second time in the afternoon. 

I'm wondering if there are any other parents who have had older toddlers who still utilized two naps a day? I don't know if I've ever heard of a 3 year old taking two naps per day, but I also don't personally know any other kids who sleep as much as mine does. ",7.2198738404452705,4.734233473469388,7.4490166975881245,81.32695732838593,65.28571428571428,10.215213358070502,32.47680890538034,8.00094639256281,2.0948775510204083,911,25,203,8,11,298,132,245,0.031,0.885,0.084,0.8881,3,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,2,13,3,0,1,12,0,16,11,6,1,2,28,34,22,0,7,6,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,12,7,4,1,6,6,0,4,4,1,0,4,4,1,18,2,31,26,5,49,0,0,0,0,26,12,0,6,33,121,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393035139859856,0.07531598696311705,0.07836559072644983,0.0,0.0,0.12809172682079364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384047343304832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241887102716922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014053591976286,0.0,0.0,0.08329486066490051,0.20564108601265735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963031594214672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30369265224018066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241785358716236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274000784681836,0.0,0.0,0.08341583045809975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519151295312506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049205342519575014,0.0,0.05352485980585133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631270992568486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854973350446165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371181695339615,0.0,0.0,0.10351810791981668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630578251637477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286611085282523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991046164536196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846677854133882,0.06983353162174034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838187276665932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964792841444333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457612637079107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223464355847103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18935451674144907,0.0,0.10017238858902794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712417989193492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314676826850474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521254426899537,0.0,0.0,0.09845774415358156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243569309617372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060346961513640586,0.0,0.07476867298300706,0.10983463177290567,0.10824645078555396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394227132479134,0.0,0.1840010220355172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05555000694066077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514899055226716,0.0,0.0,0.2042691309160872,0.0,0.09564471081847603,0.0,0.06690301411624176,0.0,0.0,0.18194716087726867
parenting,FamilyVsBF,2018/03/23,"My little brother thinks I don't smile Hi, so for some background I've been the legal guardian of my little brother for about 3 years now.  I live with my boyfriend of 5 years.  My dad basically dumped my brother off on our doorstep when he was 7 to ""go find himself"", he's 10 now.  I'm 26 and so I've graduated and found a good paying job for myself but it's been an adjustment, to say the least.  it's been stressful and I've probably lost a good 8-10 years of my life from the anxiety of the situation.  My boyfriend has been completely supportive and loving through all this and treats my little brother as his own.  Since my boyfriend works as a 1st-grade teacher he gets home about the same time as my brother so they hang out and play together a lot.

Yesterday my brother went to his first counseling appointment due to some behavioral issues and the crappy situation (we couldn't get him in sooner due to financial issues, the high school counselor offered to stay late and work with him).  One of the things he did was draw a picture of ""his family"".  He drew himself with me and my boyfriend, overall really adorable and relieving to know he thinks of us as his family too.  But, he drew himself and boyfriend smiling, while I was frowning.  When the counselor asked why he said ""because he [me] never smiles, he's always sad or upset.  [my name] tells me not to lie, I'd be lying if I drew him smiling.""  Guys, I felt like I got punched in the gut when the counselor told me that.  I've been stressed financially and (as my first post on this account mentions) lately, my brother's been attached at my hip and will climb into bed with us.  I'm a very very light sleeper and it takes me forever to fall asleep in the first place so I've been going on little sleep for about the past year and a half.  I'd tried to hide the strain from my brother but obviously not very well as he picked up on it.  How do I train myself to smile more when he's around?  Should I take this to heart or is this just one of those things that kids say?  I don't want to be that stick figure that frowns all the time.",4.714039764229788,5.2065572351543965,5.065932963842702,86.51445676079882,69.28503562945369,8.32729831969737,29.36931468285388,8.285830014693849,1.8115589161608163,1640,58,350,22,27,520,209,421,0.113,0.8079999999999999,0.079,-0.8983,1,0,0,0,0,0,47,4,0,1,7,18,17,1,4,23,0,21,7,5,2,4,54,43,37,0,4,9,9,1,1,0,2,1,3,2,2,15,23,0,0,8,1,2,6,6,7,1,6,18,5,48,10,54,20,9,50,0,2,0,1,49,19,0,6,24,215,63,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682714981731475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706332944829837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219455188795469,0.08631742720117608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05628438533258465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680775213753476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740837178571884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865265638743045,0.0,0.08438925818429077,0.2356112124298299,0.0,0.10123665194677893,0.0,0.0,0.09647872711786386,0.0,0.10494816373194207,0.15488645283607946,0.07384588261092771,0.0,0.0,0.0914226362400688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941319415094243,0.0,0.09755322963813301,0.0926159568029624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274005780543133,0.09162470152426724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050742941591049785,0.0,0.20830775902814128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521642257936378,0.045108474936203916,0.3701614138473169,0.08153034803763938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079066746326162,0.07849688360044152,0.08333272427519609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121169414998405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251323388152557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814080151614855,0.0,0.0,0.0964666970526628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884279912506939,0.0,0.09954890254666206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914988106538085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878283376623957,0.14685132486430494,0.0,0.09344434080628486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637751654262133,0.20756880127659613,0.09239811491279472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841302382781317,0.0,0.0,0.21153069196797128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477661741580924,0.0,0.0,0.13884349554228745,0.0,0.08070174321175093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268180443176635,0.11832450978164735,0.0,0.0,0.10767840364787233,0.0,0.0,0.08822664220753779,0.0,0.06268698306476332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221266938787257,0.0,0.0,0.22854930897177256,0.05445947214869365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301704795491202,0.08559216458363235,0.08331475817941493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443676759972936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23783366582147974
parenting,Secondgrader,2018/03/23,"Too old for diapers. Too young for great bladder control. How to handle long car trips? I will be taking a 2.5 hour road trip with my kids this summer. My daughter will be 6 and my sons will be 4 and 3. The youngest potty trained about 8 months ago and refuses a pamper even at bedtime. The other two are obviously too old for diapers as well. 

We plan to stop as often as possible but kids don't have great bladder control and it's possible that we will get stuck in traffic since we are traveling close to a holiday. We can't change travel plans. I am less worried about my daughter but the boys concern me. How do other people manage to avoid accidents? ",2.7542051282051325,4.897007215384619,4.0657692307692335,85.20839743589745,76.84615384615384,7.102564102564102,26.98717948717949,8.07648339933343,1.8557179487179487,518,21,100,9,12,170,87,130,0.09,0.81,0.101,0.5345,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,4,10,4,0,1,6,0,14,2,2,4,1,21,17,11,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,10,0,5,0,3,0,5,2,1,1,1,1,0,11,3,15,9,1,18,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,9,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629052712430707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944093699912184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122381282079113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138152171661633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096014747609427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052247300218294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809811586967894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626349143253286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668729148785992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856814752344798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274063064298235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4143569470807996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520204130578084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364396110606549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817577801806402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952127539391213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16523561503735268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186632229330774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InbredShitkicker,2018/03/23,"Parents of teens in states where weed is legal and illegal. How are you handling it? Parents of teens. My kid's 17. I've caught him with weed multiple times, and frankly, I feel stupid about it not letting him use it every time. I feel like I have to stop him and take it, mostly because I live in an illegal state. He has a job, he makes OK grades, he's not fucking up, he's just smoking weed. *I* smoke weed. Frankly, after 18, I think everyone should be able to smoke. Most of us did when we were that age too.     

It's just stupid, and I feel bad for having to enforce such stupidity. How are you other parents out there dealing with marijuana?

  ",1.2195494505494509,3.4919962076923103,2.554505494505495,93.28692307692309,83.07692307692307,5.560439560439562,23.131868131868128,6.868970318607317,0.6498791208791213,497,18,108,6,14,160,85,130,0.16699999999999998,0.7829999999999999,0.05,-0.9519,4,0,2,0,0,0,23,2,2,0,0,10,7,4,0,2,1,11,1,0,4,0,24,20,7,0,1,4,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,3,15,2,15,14,2,14,0,0,0,1,16,5,1,2,7,67,22,3,0.1881800604119553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712249015760818,0.114712818202955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400537932600173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854981703652696,0.1798141120029476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854484781673634,0.13443587275845487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396943355775718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673967329920246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242686136038967,0.0,0.09193527217527653,0.0,0.16616644096228406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561165156709694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6268550624362748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732695664971733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14148798613231492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057818433417172,0.0,0.0,0.21945861306034026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22635744267586536,0.16252715266318735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,travelingmom1234,2018/03/23,"What do you think about leaving kids for a night out, when you're traveling? Alt account.  

My husband and I are planning a trip to Rome in the summer.  Our daughters will be 11 and 8 at the time.  We will be getting an apartment for about a month (through airBnB or similar).  We are all very excited--my husband and I traveled a bunch before having kids, but this is our first big international trip as a family.  

My husband and I have talked a bit about going out for a date one or two times (in the evening), and leaving the girls in the apartment.  The door will be locked, they will have a cell phone (and we will have one, so they can contact us), and we wouldn't be going far--most likely we'd just go for dinner and a walk, all in the general neighborhood of the apartment.  The girls would have food, their books, and the TV, and are capable of putting themselves to bed.  The girls are well-behaved, and while we haven't chosen the apartment yet, we will definitely be choosing one in a calm neighborhood (i.e. not seedy).  We wouldn't do this the first few days (or maybe not even the first week), but after we're a bit more settled in and the girls are used to the place.

My husband sees no problem with it at all, and I'm inclined to agree that it would be fine, but when I told my mom she was aghast at the idea (it should be noted that she has almost never left the US and was a pretty overprotective parent herself).

What do you guys think?  Is there something we're not taking into consideration?  For you, when would you feel comfortable leaving your kids in an aparment/hotel room for a few hours, while on vacation?

**TL;DR: Husband and I are taking a trip to Rome and want to leave our daughters (11 and 8) in the apartment for a few hours in the evening on a few days, so we can go on some evening dates.  No problem, or crazy idea?**",4.610327868852458,5.248299991803282,4.8012158469945385,87.80215163934429,69.57377049180327,7.630054644808744,28.364754098360656,7.492282038375204,1.3998819672131146,1431,48,304,14,24,448,169,366,0.057,0.86,0.083,0.8862,1,0,1,0,0,0,64,14,5,3,4,15,6,0,0,38,0,42,2,0,1,4,64,57,32,0,9,11,9,1,1,0,12,0,0,3,8,9,29,2,0,7,4,1,11,9,2,0,7,3,2,34,4,40,34,12,61,0,0,1,0,47,27,0,6,24,223,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010330348336682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585529004470371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030517867264104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013948780492854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26656412548948605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511601898334968,0.0,0.05101618311264842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574669340707712,0.12200416397928042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052714134055663615,0.0,0.2293666899275244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990316511107512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872499378741684,0.0,0.0,0.2277992038089908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273383049139121,0.10962408700150764,0.0,0.0,0.04929281854908128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136385944328166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181684859813584,0.08053443601401558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781741952642565,0.0,0.0,0.0946843096815928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510976087861627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203336187201307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541512211554864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264777423642643,0.0,0.1930881982878711,0.0,0.10142861393133494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040126001923592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767487404368664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172286897673834,0.08109659582122647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930050503424473,0.0,0.0,0.11766684686582705,0.0,0.0,0.09641070489927894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856098997889004,0.0,0.242731567222272,0.08714197778466773,0.0,0.08324998523076185,0.0595112311533672,0.0,0.08093289771113958,0.0,0.0907178592738793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502143512862495,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaysalajko,2018/03/23,"Gaming My 18 year old is spending too much time on DND and video games. He is doing badly in his College and get's upset when subject comes up.

What are the obvious steps one can take to cure/treat this addiction?",2.456395348837209,4.556072720930231,3.4211046511627927,89.68188953488372,77.6046511627907,6.16046511627907,22.377906976744185,7.1686216300943375,0.7449581395348841,169,5,34,2,4,54,41,43,0.128,0.872,0.0,-0.6908,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,4,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,20,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335940893730884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320953525451368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426168282634603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20780214955235693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29238384237477405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173600493242359,0.0,0.2695181597136695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990501397246174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23192474037368546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25613079934835425
parenting,Anthonyd1971,2018/03/23,Lost relatioship My daughter  is now 11 going on 12 and I have not spoken to her in over 3 months.She was originally born in Florida and I was an active part of her life up until about 3 years ago. I take complete responsibility for my actions . I had back child support issues which are now complete and up to date. that which suspended my drivers licence and I was not able to drive and see her. She lived in Ct i lived in long island and I eventually got back on track with child support and my X for no reason decided to have my visitations limited and I had to go to court in NY and CT and the damage was already done because then I made several attempts to see her and planned on getting back on track with her. I eventually moved south for health reasons .My daughter wont even face time me or talk to me and I have been a horrible father and I guess i was so ashamed and afraid I actually threw in the towel. I used to live with her and her mother until she was 6 and stayed close with her till about 10 .I need help and I want her to make sure she knows I love her and I am frustrated because she wont even talk to me.I even told her i would move back up north and she said no.My original agreement was to see her either every Saturday or Sunday from 10-8 and I ONLY AGREED because at the time I was living only 5 miles from her and I actually saw he a lot more and she slept over many times . Then when I moved to Ny 60 miles away I still drove to see her with same agreement.this went on for  about 3 years and my licence was suspended and I had friends and family members drive my car with me and it was ok. I have not seen her since December of 2016 and I am  completely heart broken. Please give me some advice. Thank you ,1.4025833333333324,3.5022372027777777,3.158333333333335,90.23000000000002,81.1388888888889,6.4444444444444455,21.94444444444445,7.594959193182576,0.8127777777777778,1363,43,299,22,36,453,179,360,0.083,0.8140000000000001,0.103,0.6401,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,1,0,4,15,13,1,2,6,1,26,6,3,7,1,58,56,36,0,3,6,4,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,2,4,34,0,1,4,0,0,13,6,5,0,0,26,7,62,8,52,27,6,63,0,2,6,1,38,23,0,5,26,203,66,0,0.09180570873391096,0.0,0.17917825718320182,0.0,0.0,0.08971147605543382,0.08138022155311693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101309882481436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625448541463973,0.28237169275268,0.0,0.16789172380323295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887696167924101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394911429605647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191041433546395,0.0,0.07735026915607005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654625169549031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709288628339126,0.0,0.04796469367257589,0.08806840124438926,0.1043505998737392,0.0,0.07342541188560761,0.0,0.10113433843752416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758517535566512,0.0,0.10879020687693794,0.061535431383055214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582130804626203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05045401659345613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484508709612223,0.0,0.0,0.32426449108239075,0.08124516327233583,0.0,0.0,0.10021677595360144,0.07804993056235893,0.08285823646653244,0.08686878137319907,0.06128102346289702,0.09307657918042117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927248183557776,0.0,0.0680727697602835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964475683162866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994166361578192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077509945291586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18878311759531685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732825230171097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29262905494299324,0.0,0.0,0.1037143194132564,0.0,0.07594263095870832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978526703721189,0.07331615758516978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836006064874554,0.08652579400577633,0.0,0.06902646760647815,0.14757990228375606,0.0,0.08452236211622151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605979411340889,0.0,0.0,0.08772428894246799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929065601362999,0.0,0.0,0.05414938561515518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851048117583731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521614145010678,0.0,0.0,0.11823973291248828
parenting,sexysadie511,2018/03/23,"My in-laws are being offensively judgmental about our ideas for baby names Hello, /r/parenting! I posted this on [/r/relationships](https://reddit.com/r/relationships) and it was removed by the mods, who recommended I post here. I have copied and pasted the exact post from there. I'm just looking for a bit of insight if possible! Thank you!



My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for almost a year. We finally found out in January that we are having a baby! Yay!

A little background on my in-laws before we get into the issue. They are a super conservative, Irish Catholic family. Very kind, very supportive, great sense of humor. I really enjoy their company, and I especially enjoy their son. The problem is with that first bit up there: super. conservative.

We have a few problems with them here and there - most prominently facebook political posts. But the most recent and offensive problem we have had with them has been baby names...

MIL and FIL are really fond of simple, traditional names. My husband and I are not. We have no qualms with traditional names, we just don't like the idea of our kids having to use their last name initial in class because there are 4 other kids with the same name. We like abstract, but not too weird. So, when we started talking to them about our ideas for names, we were met with stares, sighs, even laughter. One of the names we had in mind is literally straight out of the bible. My FIL's response to that one was, ""Next!""

So we are met with a dilemma. We have finally narrowed down a boy name and a girl name that we absolutely love. The thing is, we haven't told my in-laws. But we have told pretty much everyone else - my family, all our friends, coworkers, etc. But when his family asked if we had narrowed down names, we just kind of avoided answering. 

I'm not usually one to get worked up about other people's opinions, but this has really been hitting me hard. Maybe it's the pregnancy hormones. I think we have sort of agreed that we are not revealing the name to them until the kid is literally in my arms, and they have no opportunity to change our minds/guilt us out of the names we've picked. But I can't help but feel like this is really harsh to do to them. Even worse, I'm worried they're going to find out that everyone else already knows the names, and we're just hiding the information from them. I really don't want to get to the point where I have to explain our logic to them, but I'm worried we may have to. I just don't want any hard feelings, but I also don't want to feel stupid for the names that we find to be beautiful.

Are we overreacting? Should we just tell them and ignore their judgment?


tl;dr: In-laws are very judgmental of any baby names we have presented to them; is it wrong of us to hide our decision from them until our baby is born?

Edit: Since some of you are asking, I'd like to share our baby names. I feel comfortable with you guys because you are strangers on the internet, and internet strangers are always kind!

The boy name we have chosen is Ronan David, and the girl name is Keira Rose. Yes, we have Irish roots... Now don't steal them!
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parenting,kingofthering16,2018/03/23,"In Laws Boundaries My wife and I are expecting our first child and I have a feeling my mother in law is going to wanna be ""too"" involved. Our son isn't even here yet and shes already talking about taking family pictures with her and my son (not even a month after he is born). I'm sure if I explain to my wife how I feel, she may think I'm being mean but clearly I'm not. I will do my best to not hurt anyone feelings but if she oversteps her boundaries, I wont go to my wife about her mom, Ill talk to her myself. Anyone else dealing with this as a soon to be new dad?",0.05213399503722371,1.9612911612903257,2.309032258064516,95.49700992555832,84.96774193548387,4.460545905707196,20.02233250620348,5.369823440869387,-0.2717821339950377,440,13,101,2,13,149,77,124,0.03,0.84,0.13,0.9045,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,3,0,13,1,0,1,2,27,25,10,0,4,7,8,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,6,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,3,22,2,15,19,1,11,0,1,0,0,24,2,0,3,7,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264009371012337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28690753439287875,0.21021231320783315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21530445108798216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115126101724925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138619848351092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27101461552262296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340810596684554,0.0,0.3112076216479057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451035973388634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331961405919061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962974559386525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22348113729202493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402827967665999,0.16375803887782026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814636033033609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19336238841186745,0.0,0.15425599722473485,0.3298022597200556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145927492827225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sepsycani,2018/03/23,"Sister raising her teen brother needs advice Tl:dr:  brother moved in with me after suicide attempt, making friends but telling them lies about himself and parents using me as the buffer

My teen brother attempted suicide a while back and after a stay in a psych hospital he tried to go back to school but couldn’t do it.  He does not have a good relationship with our dad so he moved in with me (3 hr from our Mom), changed schools, and seemed to be doing great here.

I take his phone every night-every other night to check messages and make sure he’s not expressing suicidal thoughts to anyone. Last night I found a long message to a new friend at new school and it is almost completely fabricated.

He starts with his birth. He said he was born one month early (not true he was born the day after his due date) and was messed up when he was born.  He said he was a born with a physical disability and is legally disabled (not true-he was born with some delays but had physical therapy and was doing fine).  He said his whole childhood he was pushed to the back-attention-wise.  He said our uncle killed him self and that caused our dad to become an abusive alcoholic (not true-uncle died from DT’s withdrawing from alcohol and while Dad did drink a lot he was never abusive).  He said he moved out of state with our mom and kids immediately started bullying him, beating him unconscious, shoving his arm into metal on a locker and cutting him until he was faint from blood loss (Mom says while he was bullied it was never physical).  He said he began dating a girl and all they ever did was drop acid, smoke weed, have sex, and he would get drunk every day (Mom says there is no way any of that is true).  

Now the suicide part:  In his message he says that his suicide attempt involved him cutting his arm and drinking a bleach/detergent mixture so he would bleed out while he died, then our mom walked in and found him covered in blood and unconscious and took him to the hospital.  This is NOT true. While he did cut his arm it was a week prior and he drank 1/2 cup of detergent and immediately started throwing up and called 911 himself. My mom was at work and she met them at the hospital.  

Why is he lying?  If he moved away to get a fresh start then why is he telling this new friend all his skeletons?  He has always been a very VERY quiet kid and I’m trying hard to get him to talk to me and I’ve bought a book on depression and I’m having him do some exercises in it but he does go to counseling bi-weekly.

My parents are the worst communicators ever (with each other). They hardly speak to each other and instead they will tell me, “well he’s been raised like this for a long time so now you have to change that”, or ask me if I’ve talked to him about all this.
I don’t mind to talk to him about things but I am so stressed with trying to raise him, since I have 2 small kids, husband, and full-time job of my own.",4.566876296394369,5.368206616179002,5.0055421686746975,85.70928328699415,69.75731497418244,7.955532018182621,27.46197978728099,8.055295364500962,1.5491559292113508,2288,73,473,29,39,728,262,581,0.165,0.7709999999999999,0.064,-0.9972,3,0,5,0,0,4,61,6,1,5,6,19,21,4,1,25,0,46,15,5,4,11,84,78,49,8,6,14,16,2,1,3,3,5,11,0,5,17,41,6,1,4,5,2,10,11,9,1,1,35,14,53,12,64,38,12,84,0,2,0,1,121,19,0,8,52,284,70,8,0.0,0.13587419253069666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603080710673,0.0,0.12255546856814994,0.057416520873836335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047710470965424204,0.0,0.0,0.038992347002954716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04009261883413219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536040333929411,0.0,0.05387168561769758,0.1322699827103218,0.0,0.0,0.06332619447633298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854932081471256,0.0,0.0,0.05890273742266939,0.12131368504900378,0.0,0.06011863590629905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739575588357169,0.0,0.04938582033185207,0.0,0.1190172336881671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035513225004518,0.0,0.0,0.1123403804807565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373244602822296,0.14493122400726227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573805887186484,0.13289943293177875,0.0,0.0898714618442189,0.0,0.06517391743040997,0.048093061037309724,0.0,0.0632162241899096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272859611863497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056899906767125724,0.0,0.06343688149790162,0.0,0.0,0.04673877103806588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028012839066083463,0.0,0.0,0.10148605890408384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048747393269183856,0.0,0.0,0.07654818214853358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05789583775215215,0.4029270240064489,0.0457672793267461,0.2437682602615284,0.0,0.04251599014269327,0.08844642744707856,0.16613449726732502,0.0,0.1614257253246337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038854251602962485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733589307854612,0.062092327633944074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156040765638472,0.0,0.0,0.3272539484242704,0.13679433418718587,0.0,0.1740897659039546,0.0,0.05219908570357963,0.05981686857522454,0.0,0.0,0.047431243955853235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233877760428386,0.0611155265699871,0.0,0.0,0.0656813962344824,0.0,0.0,0.31359667771738164,0.0,0.054041135948968234,0.0,0.04311163812896893,0.13826025500764808,0.15034990308187662,0.0,0.06557190949710051,0.0,0.038093347743901884,0.0,0.0,0.04552059862511881,0.03343471261826775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370551129371496,0.11678783447778165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04952230916054231,0.0,0.0946210221759219,0.0,0.04551286677041707,0.09198744585792012,0.0,0.051554463044721804,0.0,0.10347868847308092,0.0640167172132906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041743325845772936,0.0,0.0,0.08146367003432718,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aphenomenaldancer,2018/03/23,"How to get a two year old to listen? My LO just turned two and is, for the most part, a lively, happy, chatty little nuisance 😀

The main issue I have with him is that of not listening.  I have tried getting down on his level to talk to him but feel more and more like I'm just repeating myself the sake of it.  Im also finding that when I tell him not to do something he'll do it anyway but look me straight in the eye when he does.

I'm starting to get really frustrated and caught myself earlier just on the verge of properly yelling at him.  Any advice/techniques you'd like to share?",3.8381967213114727,4.284389991803277,5.059139344262295,85.95297131147542,71.21311475409836,8.067213114754097,25.90573770491803,8.07648339933343,1.3817672131147545,457,13,98,6,8,152,81,122,0.04,0.816,0.145,0.9044,0,0,1,0,1,0,11,0,1,0,0,8,5,1,0,7,0,7,1,1,1,0,15,20,9,0,0,7,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,6,13,4,17,17,5,16,0,0,2,0,13,9,0,1,8,69,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384358018810766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932637651733498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792930923118993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035941909708814,0.14636731187311822,0.0,0.0,0.1872578862943796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32112622331048984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810005823010525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22130706797388788,0.21384294995272413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018940448723968,0.20534498535765924,0.18091402828820566,0.0,0.17204877386195097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21498856274086686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22186658879777266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125227003037024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577277100004337,0.0,0.0,0.14501610822595798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467590717325986,0.1790753726155803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910102066834285,0.22285212816116706,0.40027871138877175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193690319600607
parenting,fireflyserenity85,2018/03/23,"Toddlers and trust Why do kids trust you to fix their boo boos and fight the monsters but still shake the sippy cup to test if you filled it up? The concentration on their face as they shake it next to their ear and once straight for weight is so funny. 

They even do it if the can actually see the juice inside! Any one else kiddo do this?",3.6956521739130466,4.807657115942033,3.6441739130434776,93.51495652173914,72.04347826086956,6.679420289855073,21.046376811594204,6.742157984588678,0.04221507246376799,267,5,61,2,5,81,50,69,0.073,0.772,0.155,0.8183,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,5,0,3,5,1,2,5,0,5,3,2,0,0,6,6,8,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,3,7,2,7,6,0,8,0,0,1,0,9,3,0,2,2,38,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.3281585800307309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286804047162508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28091691391230217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22210828553113934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35763520721256403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35812483393815103,0.22787050958587346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26796983254402984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26855184936706944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094957115858608,0.0,0.0,0.3034383690437745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mommy-bean,2018/03/23,"Infantino eurorider I got a baby carrier from my aunt and me and my husband were scared to use it at first. But I'm starting to open up to it, since my baby is getting to the stage where he gets upset unless you hold him. Which is okay until I need to do something lol. 

Does anyone else have experience with carriers for newborns? My baby is a little over 2 weeks and I'm just worried about him not being able to support his head.

[It opens up so you can put him in easily](https://i.imgur.com/YO2icSE.jpg)",3.1954545454545453,5.385201878787882,4.314141414141417,83.72454545454549,75.66666666666666,6.824242424242425,25.141414141414145,7.793537801064563,1.427735353535354,402,14,77,6,9,131,74,99,0.077,0.8490000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.0772,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,2,3,2,8,1,1,1,0,13,17,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,2,0,13,2,17,14,0,17,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,0,4,54,17,0,0.2389008688112013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704504219466673,0.2447821720956002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20906376022122736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19957102080183087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336908911799748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320895696824245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496316873682363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19107084879801786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24518121430261325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394414320589859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714196712158867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24016135801798474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391814462735419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976212674140854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839175604512984,0.0,0.0,0.16909526456059193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711018748235711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063336460390435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19163186668208185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426154288019109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mataresea,2018/03/23,"Positively positive My son will be one on April 19 and I just took my second (positive!) pregnancy test this morning. Are there any other parents who had babies close together? Any tips? I should know what I’m doing, but I’m still figuring everything out! I don’t know how I’m going to juggle everything. ",3.0554022988505736,5.67161431034483,5.066206896551726,75.95781609195404,78.3103448275862,9.383908045977012,26.90804597701149,9.725611199111238,3.278508045977012,242,10,42,8,6,83,46,58,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.6645,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,10,14,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,5,0,3,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,27,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263538617073756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5634706429635549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815772526431473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445604658761617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124219428676318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480820848247585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25034527595046463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482874568958368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,websterella,2018/03/23,"Explaining the N word. My daughter is a typical white 7 year old in Toronto.  She and her friends have discovered swearing and swap knowledge about what the F word is, what the S word is, what the B word is and so on.  I’m pretty loose on swearing and the rule is not in front of others and not outside of the house. 


So we are in the car listening to the CBC and the speaker mentions the N word.  Immediately my daughters ears perk up and she asks what the N word is.  Now I should say that I’m pretty open with her.  I try to explain most things to her, of course in an age appropriate way.  She knows the  difference between sex and gender, and understands gender like a thermometer...just as an example. Also thanks Drag Queen Storytime.  We talk most thing through.  This one threw me.  


I told her it was a very bad, very mean word used specifically to make people feel like they are not good enough.   I told her that when she is older we can talk about what that word actually is, but not quite yet.  

Guys she wouldn’t let it go.  ‘Just tell me, come on’.  ‘I can understand it.’  ‘It’s nerd right?  I know it’s nerd’.  I stuck firm, mostly because I wasn’t sure what to say at all.


It’s been about a month since that and she asks about it from time to time.  I googled the topic and nothing seems to fit.  Most articles are about what to do if your kids says the n word, what to do if your kids get called the n word, or academic pieces about the n word itself.  I was hoping that she would just let it go and I could avoid it, the privilege of that is not lost on me.  Also I don’t want some kid to tell her about it without and good explanation.  I also don’t want her to be the kid who tells other kids.

I ask my mommy friends and I get either ‘yeah that’s a tough one’ or a local anti racism Facebook group says ‘ I don’t want to do those emotional labour for you’ and refuses to post the question to the group.  

So I turn here.  Any ideas?  Resources?  Experiences?",1.3999533218236486,3.4040630473815483,2.721246882793018,93.86604961954089,80.6209476309227,6.207583605089841,20.755866743397924,7.321109707123232,0.4107674531619669,1506,42,344,21,39,486,194,401,0.086,0.8240000000000001,0.09,-0.3973,0,1,0,0,0,0,45,3,3,1,3,19,16,0,1,28,1,32,2,1,2,2,77,65,28,0,10,14,2,1,2,2,3,0,7,0,6,32,21,0,2,12,0,0,6,11,6,0,2,9,9,43,10,42,49,9,32,0,1,1,1,55,14,0,12,12,225,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.09624098200387446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23660426863610926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706643694299995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765951630328172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234536726102837,0.06011914102808987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070423132461973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495424081349877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874175365228883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303914541046898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093663306765313,0.0,0.10190303374536216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647137680303333,0.0,0.0,0.04986631713303245,0.07045567635955524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239044109184094,0.0,0.10305199510549763,0.0,0.11209846956233888,0.16543914349193534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765142372612033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097954037538404,0.0,0.11379670803623508,0.0,0.11133239147574596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084002976550712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169563954483966,0.0,0.09636359179289866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765771564766732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583104411202635,0.0,0.0,0.10742842228391686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871925105681095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463060296613122,0.0,0.10348734566230956,0.0,0.13365782854261515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837217403322432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445274822524276,0.20066834289704008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047936728289814,0.10489678528785573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422276850403132,0.0,0.3137131358017292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978189206092398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815812531534003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295019959108704,0.0,0.0,0.15853748041875793,0.2586002913254424,0.09079801600073667,0.0,0.0,0.13104033487497282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150147255998958,0.0,0.0,0.18847536182434205,0.0,0.06695795917867449,0.10727256801281043,0.0,0.2053382512007742,0.0,0.08517786385968464,0.0,0.1627471877177025,0.17450967974916487,0.07828166406915782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506822340202684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005833848740307,0.0,0.0,0.06350942456002719
parenting,SpookyCurves,2018/03/23,"How do you deal with life when your kid is always sick and/or waking through the night? My situation may be different than the situation of many others here, and I am not necessarily looking for advice for my specific case. However, I would love to hear how other people deal with life (going to work, going to school, cleaning, parenting, exercising, cooking etc) when their kid wakes through the night due to illnesses or just kid reasons.


My daughter is two and has been ill all of her life. She has been seeing different specialists who have been trying to figure out what's wrong, but are mostly just trying to manage symptoms. Anyway, she often wakes every 2-3 hours, which means I'm often surviving off of a total of maybe five hours of broken up sleep per night. There's no one I can ask for help from.


I know plenty of parents lack sleep due to their kids being sick or just getting up in the middle of the night. I can't imagine what I would do if I actually had to go to work and function. How does everyone else manage **their own situation** without having a meltdown and actually function? ",4.861057692307694,6.629932990384617,5.705000000000003,77.31500000000003,70.05769230769229,8.276923076923078,27.903846153846153,8.841846274778883,2.2990326923076925,874,31,154,16,16,286,132,208,0.107,0.852,0.042,-0.9179,5,0,0,0,0,0,28,0,2,3,3,13,2,0,0,7,0,21,16,5,4,2,33,33,13,0,4,9,3,0,0,0,3,9,1,1,4,6,7,1,0,5,2,0,3,4,1,0,3,4,3,18,1,31,24,6,19,0,0,2,1,22,6,0,7,10,115,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.2107159031453161,0.0,0.0,0.10550183374198137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983526091204963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100932399709131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22261368447603455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22560021866375435,0.0,0.0,0.09448061722215592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019063468991498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040915507139575,0.0,0.0,0.09096489763872216,0.10316487649164273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640708814335312,0.0,0.18407644355253752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168403866667507,0.0,0.07236644782217877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126469198757477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593345634728921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22877593476130345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066313786654136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744233705890963,0.0,0.0,0.10945923769995064,0.1084650304248589,0.11760518520125154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052701460570288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315965991666926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397639961774864,0.0,0.0,0.074849113659499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110056704090294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926601802941246,0.086033870080323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640704646252906,0.21608529746867491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122166393114552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466018586607273,0.0,0.1054658024613434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407409680094654,0.0,0.1571991427797625,0.0,0.0,0.15339001909435104,0.11804242674297905,0.0,0.0
parenting,darthk8er,2018/03/23,"Self doubting in life and school Hello all.
First time poster to this sub. I just received my sons 2nd term report card (5th grade, loves his teacher) and how marks are mostly pretty good, however, his teacher made some notes about how my son self doubts himself to the point he isn’t even trying in some subjects, mainly math. She also said he often doesn’t listen to the discussion/is easily distracted. (He does not have ADD/ADHD per his doctor). We see his at home too. He won’t try new things because “it’s too hard” or he “isn’t good at them”. But he doesn’t know if he isn’t because he won’t try. 
I am very similar in this way and have a lot of anxiety and was also terrible at math, even now as an adult I am embarrassed by my poor math skills. I am worried he is going to grow into an adult who consistently self doubts and becomes riddled with anxiety.  I understand math is hard and he does really well in other subjects, he loves to read and write, he loves art and gym, he loves science and does well in social studies. So I feel it’s mainly not understanding math with a touch of distraction.
How can I encourage my son to try harder, to pay attention more, to try new things? He is afraid of things most kids love and I just want him to be adventurous and smart and always willing to give it a go. He’s a wonderful, kind, smart and loving boy and I want him to live up to his potential without being a crazy pushy mom or coming off as disappointed in him. If anyone has any tactics, please let me know!


TLDR: looking for ways to encourage my son to try new things and try harder in school without coming off as a disappointed/pushy parent",4.227094861660081,5.211012984848487,5.2026218708827425,83.31741106719367,70.66666666666667,8.405797101449275,26.16600790513834,8.716276077567194,1.750592885375494,1295,39,262,22,23,425,174,330,0.091,0.718,0.191,0.9902,2,0,0,0,0,0,37,1,0,1,2,17,25,0,7,10,0,23,8,0,4,1,56,47,29,0,4,11,6,4,0,0,3,2,2,1,7,11,21,0,0,7,3,2,6,11,9,2,1,3,8,27,16,41,38,10,30,0,1,2,6,56,15,0,14,7,160,38,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815270555469743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062458447989064,0.06795683850745113,0.0,0.0,0.05553910021610557,0.0,0.1249562270068118,0.0,0.0,0.05710628229653005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957180225044804,0.09019923476417396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070471936161338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359375869446442,0.21441260307362756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788588855479424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041295326110934255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946933539211844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834629278835167,0.0928310555753271,0.13700356823599374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463223999945517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192270095452002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504780863888509,0.08976852311443775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351416034933372,0.05768666295441149,0.0,0.0,0.07211701473014237,0.0,0.06858309483407897,0.0,0.0,0.06943378811862633,0.4422677529561945,0.0772791021917814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565212187396492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366351656745127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068601238931286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965026429404395,0.0772055206437657,0.0,0.0,0.08308879757419256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169313015968563,0.0,0.05232055236792228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768785088466429,0.0,0.0,0.16531088274673353,0.06508123598531605,0.0,0.2556020845445339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325332880619847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21703441013747715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047623033685608836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38814487278870097,0.0,0.0,0.17004484256905167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738715205807763,0.09634337764215027,0.12965332240672306,0.0,0.0,0.1468641264097975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745591468888614,0.08856874690179979,0.0,0.08294089417218248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,A_lunch_lady,2018/03/23,10 yr old zoning out in class My 10 yr old is having a hard time this year with school. He’s always been a very good boy but fourth grade is definitely presenting a challenge.  No matter how much I talk to him and the teacher calls on him he is bored and would rather zone out than focus on the lesson.  It’s starting to effect his grade in math.  I really don’t think he has ADD he’s never had any problems until this year.  Behaviorally he’s ok it’s just the paying attention during lessons.  Does anyone have any ideas for me?,2.112222222222222,4.107948,3.4812592592592613,89.3396666666667,78.25925925925927,6.171851851851853,19.133333333333333,7.1686216300943375,0.2732600000000001,416,9,87,5,10,136,79,108,0.061,0.81,0.128,0.7418,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,6,1,10,0,0,2,1,20,12,5,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,6,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,7,3,12,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,9,48,11,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489959048326174,0.0,0.0,0.3022258572149672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537697813137988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269050215320425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446069678681435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638229954446264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905981820029928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508522070297756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335262970964087,0.0,0.1713848960590212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4663517726500842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21262848983673105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423557793322915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489211677310547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728399285944106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860694597874127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238555936789782,0.0,0.0,0.1295745890985523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833495655923676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578542291012651,0.0,0.0,0.2861966604129683
parenting,getrealforonce,2018/03/23,"When you are the bad cop Our family has recently relocated across continents and we are working on settling down. I have taken a break grom my career till kids are settled in new environment. My husband is in the state of transition as well. Our present arrangement is such that we see him only on weekends.

Today my 5.5y old told me she loves dad much much more than me coz i yell at her all the time. I will admit that i have been losing my temper more than normal. Its been very stressful for me - the move, new country, leaving my kickass career and in many ways single parenting.

What she said broke my heart because i realized the price i am paying for being the omnipresent parent. I cant help jealousy, irritability and annoyance kick in towards my otherwise amazing husbanf.

Help me? ",5.3784213759213735,7.068965601351351,5.922137592137593,76.56782555282558,68.66216216216216,8.625061425061427,31.697788697788692,9.095868883498916,2.923451351351351,631,27,108,12,11,204,106,148,0.122,0.767,0.111,-0.4124,2,0,0,0,1,0,15,4,1,0,2,3,9,2,1,7,0,14,2,1,1,1,10,20,6,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,4,5,0,0,2,1,2,1,1,6,1,0,5,3,27,3,17,13,6,24,0,2,1,1,20,10,0,0,10,81,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624690680543573,0.10677271481815363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651203175749058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075592317014894,0.23480508451894866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546359849138347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595337147675568,0.0,0.0,0.15808400769554515,0.0,0.0,0.17757943310048446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861617883388211,0.2575178015560277,0.0,0.0,0.3383311136883312,0.0,0.0,0.1716144740745687,0.0,0.0,0.18379545443815765,0.0,0.0,0.13321308632081705,0.0,0.0,0.3889772614333122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294419280937592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661228500172456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395756648532861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20063918363258187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213414801309284,0.0,0.16602623038306505,0.16736787746947435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452101913365334,0.0,0.1390296942073967,0.0,0.0,0.15748516278462776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751474998955215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rylo151,2018/03/23,"6 year old just wont eat at school, what can I do? My grade 1 son just wont eat at school no matter what I pack for him. Most days his lunchbox will come home and hes maybe had a few nibbles of his sandwich and thats it. No matter what else I put in there he just wont touch it, be it biscuits, jelly, muesli bars etc. All stuff that he would normally eat at home and enjoy but just never eats at school.

Its affecting his performance at school as well since the teacher has mentioned how he lacks energy towards the end of the day and performs slowly most of the time. 

Other than at school there isnt really anything wrong with his diet. He eats breakfast each day and heads off to school full of energy and ready to learn but he just burns out during the day it seems. I cant think of anything else I can do to get him to eat at school, Ive put as much effort into making him lunches he should find delicious but it just never get touched and I dont know what to do.",2.8418211382113796,3.8040628731707287,3.8424390243902415,91.8560162601626,73.92682926829268,6.8325203252032525,21.959349593495933,7.03164865440522,0.4027495934959345,759,17,172,7,15,245,113,205,0.016,0.866,0.119,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,3,10,3,0,0,6,0,19,12,1,3,3,40,26,13,0,4,9,1,2,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,14,12,11,0,5,1,0,3,10,1,1,0,1,2,16,2,27,18,9,26,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,3,10,113,30,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449783881315564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588030070036855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272387547519133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323887253435246,0.0,0.0,0.5408181476927855,0.1471730012343528,0.0,0.0780201187782779,0.0,0.09824177858863348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051114230565237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204503861725492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904040451620208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767195645126674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04841104518921956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05879964760801044,0.0,0.08849657235191212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475506177491851,0.0,0.13587830880123153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630786534383357,0.0,0.0,0.09243388949561757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710621360764445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643164301097967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6240506845928421,0.0,0.08019231178802373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286758096494321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084006858841787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056443448196171815,0.0,0.0,0.05136501650723799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920199211962374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257542578319006,0.0963107659485905,0.0,0.05672599962963242
parenting,steffertini,2018/03/23,"Preschool had a mock shooter drill, wet his pants in front of everyone. Advice please! My 4 year old son attends preschool through our park district community center. Yesterday as he was being dropped off, his teacher informed the parents that the community center library was going to hold a mock shooter drill. The students shouldn’t be effected by it or even hear it. 

I guess sometime after school began they decided that the mock shootings might scare the children so they send around 50+ of these preschoolers into the gym and had them behind firesafe doors to avoid the noise. 

The time they move the children to the gym is the exact time his classroom goes on there bathroom break. My son will always wait to go during this time like clockwork. Sure enough they didn’t get him to the restroom and he wet himself in front of not only his classroom but in a gymnasium filled with 5-6 other classrooms of children. 

He was forced to sit/stand soaked to his shoes in his own pee for about an hour in front of everyone. 

My mom was the one to pick him up and I expected to come home from work with an upset child instead he was all laughs so I thought it would be best not to bring it up. 

He had a day off and it’s time to go back. He says he doesn’t want to go back because they give him homework but obviously it’s not. 

We haven’t talked about what happed but I know I should say something to make him feel better before going to school tomorrow. I want him to feel comfortable taking about his feelings to me but as I child I was raised to do the opposite so it doesn’t come naturally. After having a day to collect my thoughts, I’m filled with so much anger that this happens and I’m so hurt for my child. 

If anyone had any advice on what I can say to help my child, or even to his teacher, heck the school for allowing this. I’d appreciate any advice, even if it’s to say I’m overreacting. ",3.8850132625994718,5.411462541114062,4.284774535809023,87.49729442970825,72.12997347480106,7.00371352785146,27.323607427055702,7.503015589744147,1.3834275862068963,1506,54,305,17,29,473,194,377,0.073,0.84,0.087,0.6625,1,1,1,3,0,0,27,2,0,6,4,16,14,4,3,22,0,26,2,2,4,4,51,54,20,0,8,11,4,5,1,0,5,0,5,3,7,18,13,0,3,9,2,0,16,8,8,0,1,14,10,38,6,56,32,5,49,0,1,0,0,50,15,1,6,17,194,56,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023878612706816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582818405578352,0.0,0.0,0.14028963737381211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212413960591628,0.0,0.0,0.09182442853336342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863034104671292,0.0,0.06287863854482062,0.0,0.08777215361344784,0.0,0.10824845238661834,0.09122685818834757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777073627338005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304507047663575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658043205410164,0.0,0.20438671302125147,0.0,0.0,0.19712647167097466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15646561529069306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05389106564690956,0.0989498656090316,0.2931096082088282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136301903458124,0.0,0.0912142700550163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625635592642465,0.0,0.06913856252085668,0.0,0.10346680055018324,0.0,0.1015809315445707,0.0,0.11042307736075258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668796175264276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503933635245656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885272073022773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942472852823354,0.0,0.12080679592863568,0.0,0.10963100282455247,0.07582634191926188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823746465078232,0.0,0.06989639361023095,0.07844941957758017,0.0,0.0,0.11453469486785492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322656488257875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281127197679441,0.1032700868911431,0.3131767129496838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940909608386151,0.10201694260249236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721665850192526,0.0,0.07755516844428158,0.08290721354784454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637774785311808,0.2405879137544076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167983870997298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509365934341683,0.0,0.0,0.07327404995260753,0.0,0.0,0.0664245377230797
parenting,throwawayasjdjs,2018/03/23,"Is it too late? Please share your advice on how to be a better parent I am a young parent (23F) to my 3 year old son. My son was a surprise at a time in my life I didn't even want children, but I quickly became optimistic and excited for parenthood. Although it has been hard, I have to say I find myself having so much fun and not really sweating the small stuff when it comes to raising my son. I think this is the problem.

Ever since my sons third birthday I began to experience a lot of stress when it came to the idea of me being a parent. I think my issue is the fact that I've always been too lax of a parent. When taking care of a baby you don't quite have to deal with the bigger picture: discipline, making mistakes, nurturing your child's personality, etc. Well maybe you do, I was just too lax to notice. 

Now that my son is older and becoming a more emotionally and mentally developed individual, I find my parenting reflecting more and more poorly. I first noticed this when it came to his potty training. He still has no desire to use the bathroom and doesn't feel uncomfortable when having a dirty diaper. This has to be due to my bad parenting. My son is also quite picky about food, again because I didn't expose him to enough variety of foods when he was a baby. He is a very talkative and outgoing child, which I love. But he is also very loud, can't sit still for long periods of time, and is quite hyper and compulsive. His vocabulary is a bit behind and I have to admit, he has a bratty streak in him sometimes.

Being a mother never came naturally to me. I've always looked at being a parent as a fun and rewarding experience. I thought there was no harm in my approach of parenting. I'm not opposed to disciple and being strict. In fact, I find myself being short a lot of the time. I now laugh at the idea of once describing myself as patient. These days I feel like I'm failing my son. I feel like all the stubborn habits and unlikeable qualities in my son are all my fault and I so desperately want to reverse the clock and start from day 1 again. I love my son so much. His humor, his compassion, how his mind works and all the things that make him, him. But I wanted to reach out and ask what are some things that can push me in the right direction into reversing my mistakes as a parent as well as improve my parenting. How do I instill patience in my child? How can I teach him to communicate his frustration quietly? How can I make him interested in vegetables? Am I supposed to entertain my child all day? Is it my responsibility to ensure my child is creative? How can I create stability for my child when I'm financially unstable? I just want to be the best parent I can be capable of. Sorry if this post is all over the place. I have a lot of learning to do parenting wise and I just don't know where to start.",3.9930841441982072,5.1423046168717095,5.645637618414849,79.30449226284883,71.3725834797891,8.995859231000043,27.23481503707832,9.374367535131368,2.3039862060096867,2233,76,442,49,41,763,252,569,0.099,0.711,0.19,0.9959,13,0,0,0,0,0,56,0,4,0,9,39,31,2,1,34,0,55,7,1,10,9,84,87,46,0,9,9,22,4,2,0,0,1,3,0,8,20,25,3,3,15,1,1,6,11,10,2,2,13,8,75,21,62,65,18,64,0,1,1,2,58,21,0,5,37,330,95,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447068916027952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915412680577481,0.09276404777456836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211148636717439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04654245688577623,0.03397996295820795,0.06156294426480651,0.0,0.0,0.05849806050998875,0.049299497154730934,0.06085610837121444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912628789602486,0.05683294682751081,0.0,0.0,0.04801701931563816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784743446724893,0.057467820130852686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270253729317013,0.0,0.057596653125475274,0.0621673522185996,0.036817235542091084,0.05042206346122868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905324840761607,0.0,0.0,0.08455488119420974,0.07964456018340554,0.0,0.0,0.15284224124835974,0.047414335986770535,0.1348075187264684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049934114070417784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585244811222318,0.0,0.05818043482301155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03063448708670836,0.0,0.0628796947311222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03937240516031152,0.05446570299653207,0.0,0.0,0.04933014402359185,0.04680945748394909,0.0,0.0,0.14217022259281434,0.10061912792848428,0.0,0.1116251697299682,0.0,0.056000590202838985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056175085117422516,0.0,0.0562837900204487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195394650080776,0.0,0.04299186559663497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692585986619803,0.058492122676960814,0.05936368529900976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7427421672812167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867198940929998,0.05823879523922702,0.06118825995020007,0.0,0.0,0.053385674364427364,0.0,0.0,0.053337812533539385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786625777891685,0.0,0.0,0.03570991769222453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04760358356862633,0.0,0.044328480712429404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461105716553982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05513051826450302,0.06239889389233176,0.07890931391277936,0.0,0.08903167812733723,0.0,0.06385256794689143,0.0,0.06381154893310564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0419112406366079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406535836901355,0.07143477601594797,0.0,0.044253126202083035,0.09751127632645797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0481434133840838,0.0,0.0919864009303819,0.1315129114692378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023796823004744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040581027546687784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03589618642486104
parenting,gingimini,2018/03/23,"What are your kids’ favorite Alexa games? We just got this over the weekend and it’s turning out to be a good alternative to screen time.  So far, we like these games.

“Would you rather?”  There’s regular edition, Harry Potter edition, and Disney.  It asks questions like, “Would you rather give up your favorite food or your favorite drink?”

Silly things - “Alexa, ask silly things to give me something silly to do.”  This keeps my son really active - it tells him to act like a cowboy, a superhero, a magician, etc.

He can also ask it to tell him a story (I think they are getting the stories from Highlights magazine) or play any song he likes (it links to Spotify).

Magic door - “Alexa, open the magic door.” - this one tells a long choose your own adventure story where you make decisions during the story.

I never even considered this to be a product for kids, but my son is using it way more than we are.  He even asks it what the forecast is each morning before he gets dressed.  I know there’s a lot more games out there - which ones do your kids like? 


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parenting,pfafulous,2018/03/23,"Tips for Moving Day with a toddler (almost 3)? How do you handle the day of the move? Do you let the kid see the strange people haul everything away? We’re planning on one parent taking her to a fun activity during the load-up. I assume we should never show her the empty old house?

We’ve been slowly taking things off the walls and emptying shelves. She has a little meltdown about something being missing, then we explain that it’s safely in a box so we can take it to the new place. She’s okay going forward, but it’s the same thing with every change. Should we let her help pack some boxes, now that she’s used to the idea? I fear she’ll just want to put it all back on the shelves immediately after. 

We’re moving to a city about a five hour’s journey. She’s been to the new city a couple of times, has visited the new house three times. We get the same hotel room every time. That part of it I think will be fine. 

We’ve been slowly talking more and more about the new city, and the things we’re going to do there. We have printed photos of her in the new (empty) that she looks through. We’ve talked a lot about how the whole family is going to a new house, and we’re bringing all her stuffies and books and toys with us. A few times she’s brought it up. 

Anyway, any tips to do or things to avoid, throw them at me. I really don’t want to traumatize this budding creative wonderful little girl.",3.039621212121212,4.315156194444448,3.93767676767677,90.1477272727273,73.8611111111111,6.486363636363637,22.118686868686872,6.7829847944221076,0.409806944444445,1096,26,236,9,22,352,153,288,0.062,0.853,0.086,0.7789,1,1,1,0,0,0,33,7,2,1,1,12,7,0,2,28,1,21,0,0,3,3,40,39,12,0,4,3,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,15,15,0,2,5,4,0,13,2,3,0,3,4,2,27,4,33,27,11,45,0,1,2,0,31,14,0,6,20,155,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165820263447418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062246342836477016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599932217170739,0.07038409092719043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683096569878788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128076667459204,0.0,0.11806387449024568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542428938099516,0.0,0.08226496807075319,0.0,0.08629022533187453,0.10300133696781066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04782280161067421,0.0,0.1560628554134788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135339354291899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014267352796468,0.3168542668267678,0.0,0.10333088388897146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719968586374985,0.0,0.0,0.18348247730010947,0.0,0.0,0.07686561030368894,0.0,0.0,0.07781903853051618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918588620686421,0.0,0.0,0.07059675896292232,0.5304253613194422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604966494355377,0.0,0.06202589102290945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163781184235382,0.09912253584336587,0.0,0.06345823603189887,0.0,0.09563367703951207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920170760381247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058639103395901324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294084548724637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046744024293107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20646680798782774,0.14714332247834255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24324481758190905,0.05865137036950256,0.0,0.0,0.21349713410357904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010428030232973,0.07905609359261022,0.0,0.0,0.10797839524592097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219458004470287,0.0,0.0,0.09926485237958313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iAmStrongerNow,2018/03/23,"14 months - not one night of sleep. This is hell! My son is 14 months, and I am writing this from my guest bed. I put him to sleep at 8PM, and he’s woken up screaming and gassy at 9PM, 10PM, 11PM. My wife is having “lady issues,” and has a huge headache. Now she’s reluctantly sleeping with the baby in our bed and I’m in the guest room...where I end up every night. 

This is EVERY NIGHT. I am sick and tired of it. My wife and I are at each others throats. We fight consnatantly. I can’t help think one night of sleep would ease a lot of the tension in the house...but every night she explains it away “he’s gassy tonight,” “the babysitter doesn’t play with him enough.” “We tried a new food.”

I swear, I thought by 1 year this type of stuff is sorted out. My wife and I yell and scream. She is always “I hate you! I wish I married someone else.” And I’m like “f you you bitch!” We were NEVER like this, we were so happy right up until my second kid was born. After 14 months of no sleep...we are zombies who constantly fight. She does way more of the night stuff than I do, but I’m a damn doctor, I can’t be up all night and treat patients the next day. I’m a recovering addict and alcoholic...who is keeping sobriety together and being tested hard core. I feel like I’m in living hell.",-0.13780436802974094,2.0131053531598546,1.594013708178441,98.60674546933089,88.40520446096654,4.403392193308551,16.58468866171004,5.800992412223965,-0.7011106877323421,976,22,230,7,32,317,145,269,0.139,0.778,0.083,-0.917,0,0,1,0,2,0,45,5,3,0,0,2,16,7,1,12,0,23,10,5,0,2,35,36,16,0,2,2,4,2,3,2,1,4,3,2,1,11,21,1,1,4,1,0,1,6,10,0,3,5,5,35,6,28,28,5,39,2,0,0,0,29,15,4,2,25,136,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034375329715504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658966610494931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864802700639946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946905262309888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936207107732895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421300648300084,0.08055009639832689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689264244979244,0.0,0.08152545707151274,0.09510814884583152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326582368667493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04654123570190313,0.06575769835256044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130241829019802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798470475568756,0.08245515834310617,0.09087639292672496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169651002993291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607213535493987,0.0,0.0818147359072387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490711455842805,0.0,0.0812783260666504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825423850205017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204107759515344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099156861453487,0.08889862411572264,0.09789199138161554,0.6046527109060239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474553685228455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925316779868076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860680206151359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4605624955972778,0.0,0.07799029792711276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074135265434468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05897937589613505,0.0,0.07307426187685016,0.0,0.10579336473901156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062493208630977765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306184992287035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584838565868714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538685493310774,0.0,0.0,0.05927462198291107
parenting,pen15alwayswins,2018/03/23,"Please hug your kids a little tighter tonight... 8 weeks pregnant with our first baby on Monday, first ultrasound yesterday. Ectopic in my left tube, rushed in for emergency surgery (first time ever being under). Whirlwind of emotions, still can’t talk about it without hysterically crying. My husband has been amazing, as have my friends. Feeling empty. I wanted that baby so bad I can’t even put it into words. All I’m asking is no matter how difficult your situation, please just let your kids know you love them.",5.361413043478262,7.893984271739132,5.312391304347828,77.45815217391308,70.41304347826087,7.208695652173913,31.06521739130435,8.07648339933343,2.537039130434783,411,18,65,6,8,128,77,92,0.125,0.654,0.221,0.8542,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,4,1,3,7,6,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,1,2,12,14,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,3,1,1,11,4,11,11,1,19,0,0,0,2,13,7,0,0,10,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777964583600749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879577756354432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089083009387352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139315118046336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561480284538284,0.17203240459209904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616279417722387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48531148898024895,0.0,0.0,0.14693576209164008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045202063383311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066355785950292,0.19447612523951466,0.0,0.0,0.19061442902550452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164857343459644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175300560689448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118754736360988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21377489418800796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188126607405594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286277366557127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089787677428263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217550830876644,0.0,0.15255421142694342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18333068342333195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mommypowers2377,2018/03/23,"6 y.o throws tantrums after telling him play time is over I’ve been having more than a couple of issues with my 6 year old son. He’s been getting in trouble a lot in school and it’s just turned me into a mess. The beginning of the school year was amazing. Compared to pre k, he was doing so great! Hardly any complaints from his teacher and he loved it! But these past couple of months have been crazy. Last week he got in trouble for hitting someone in the hand. We took tablet and Nintendo switch away (he usually plays 30 mins each or sometimes in the morning he’ll watch some Hulu or Netflix on tv while he eats his cereal. But since that day I feel like we’ve been getting complaints every single fucking day. So much that sometimes, I don’t even want to pick him up. I know what awaits me. A couple of months back I even stopped asking the teacher because it was just ruining the day. Ignorance is bliss. But that didn’t last. Obviously the only way to fix it is to know what’s going on. My son has anger issues. He’s super picky but we have a rule at the table that he eats what we eat (unless it’s spicy). He’s usually pretty good with that. But the worst offender is probably the whining. He will whine about everything. Just tonight, since he got mostly everything taken away, I thought why not play some game of life (kids edition) and that way we can spend some one on one time before bed. Played 3 rounds. He was pretty ok (didn’t whine much about losing). But after the third round when I won and told him that that was that and it was time for bed, he went nuts. He started making noises (like he does when he’s about to whine big time) and I started to yell. I just can’t take this anymore. I keep telling him please stop whining in school. Please stop whining at home. It’s not the end of the world. We’ll play again tomorrow! But he doesn’t listen to reason. I want to pull my hair out. Every day this week after picking him up (my husband is home) I will ask my husband to deal with him and I just go to our room and cry. Cry because I lose my patience and scream at him. Cry because I hate dealing with this. Cry because I don’t want to deal with a 6 year old who doesn’t respect or listen to no. He will literally sit there and try to convince us even though we already said no and when we talk over him, it’s like you did the worst thing to him. I am losing my sanity. We’re taking him to a place called ‘social butterflies’ where they teach him how to deal with his emotions and things like his stutter that he’s developed. But it’s only once a week. I’m losing hope. It feels like every day is gonna suck. And I’m falling into this pit of depression. I wanted to call my mom and just ask him to pick him up and take him. I regret thinking about that so much because I know the best place for him is with me. But I’m so frustrated. I have no more patience left in me. I’m always yelling. My head hurts. My heart hurts. I just want this to be over.",1.4733741163675944,3.5181162544861384,2.600699021207177,94.61385984230564,80.58238172920066,5.32647090810223,20.983387710712346,6.343841902548323,0.11420545948885286,2316,66,509,19,60,738,264,613,0.193,0.6809999999999999,0.125,-0.9941,0,0,0,0,1,0,69,9,1,1,7,27,51,7,0,23,1,38,10,4,6,1,86,88,39,0,7,22,5,7,5,0,6,1,6,5,1,33,33,3,5,8,9,1,7,12,30,0,3,22,14,65,21,70,58,15,84,0,15,3,2,76,31,2,9,48,303,98,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458618051995836,0.0,0.048699288716923465,0.0,0.0,0.03980047830220521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058043219678564226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641449924369596,0.0,0.10997639379686062,0.04500377622388569,0.0,0.17838807882915653,0.0,0.04980230558471687,0.0,0.061420647470646836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952555574652825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942775803095336,0.25715736442968457,0.1887258937953878,0.2413557434480026,0.05040936033949272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05121751536692817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796636993817668,0.0,0.06583518162865037,0.051837695261191225,0.0,0.0,0.11596991893543615,0.0,0.14793497903514188,0.0,0.10520088177173713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059186185028763334,0.08362363489203838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410741975226874,0.06115605483382418,0.0,0.06652467178654786,0.04908980811432125,0.0936190387480732,0.06452640460516983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524288427742745,0.05778345724378569,0.06006575504974181,0.0,0.0,0.06935497078920247,0.0,0.0,0.11741503442120592,0.05813067941829226,0.0,0.0,0.12530907847024644,0.0,0.0,0.12217430614961852,0.0,0.05202163226284117,0.0,0.0,0.09649499566616446,0.09541489987413766,0.0,0.0,0.06358993461500119,0.0,0.041339466579580715,0.14296707932819944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619077020743975,0.0,0.04975770163186628,0.052823050297916084,0.0,0.0390673362447905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854630677111065,0.0934316473772195,0.0,0.12907259863756118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282882596211832,0.06232951922715975,0.07931904164450257,0.08902509066720041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587080024422012,0.0,0.0,0.1222968584024406,0.1284905007440993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908633276881915,0.06310218143066106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601756719753666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055672735270266296,0.0,0.0,0.17769784286058188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968285492416493,0.0,0.0,0.05966107289899133,0.049589875880473484,0.0,0.1157697228823475,0.0,0.08285165541787226,0.0,0.0,0.14679398859398665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320154299350994,0.04704191721751852,0.10231064153683693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776569387960344,0.03750184327966707,0.05750264118274132,0.04646403043512989,0.136510639280369,0.0,0.0,0.05592521304781319,0.06502583237126655,0.0397361023326129,0.06366074761425541,0.0,0.0,0.07040097167901048,0.0,0.1289188043340364,0.0,0.17260418770232475,0.09291227666956678,0.14084088126316158,0.0,0.0,0.05425526711424777,0.052811661926908664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306872361514635
parenting,Impairedmilkman13,2018/03/23,"My son and his great-grandma. My son has never met his great-grandma, because she passed six years before he was born. Since he could talk, he's seemed to have a connection with her, though. I think it's adorable and special. He has been known to sing songs about her (with accompanying grating instrumentals), cry about missing her, and generally talk about her like he knew her. Tonight, he was telling me that he could bring a toy for show and tell at school tomorrow, and decided he wanted to bring Oma's picture for it. I told him that it might make people sad, but he responded, ""No, she's waiting for me. I know it. She wants me to tell my friends about her."" I asked him if she had told him this somehow, and he denied it, saying that ""he just knew"". While I don't believe in the supernatural, it's so comforting knowing that maybe, maybe, he carries a part of her with him. I was never particularly close with my Oma, but I respected the hell out of her and felt close to her tonight. If you read this, thanks, it's really just fluff and I felt like talking about it. ",4.264755134281201,5.3923061232227525,4.6040568720379165,87.10804423380726,70.70616113744077,7.901548183254343,27.810742496050548,8.238735603445708,1.58595140600316,836,29,179,12,15,263,111,211,0.078,0.802,0.12,0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,39,0,1,0,0,10,11,1,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,2,42,32,15,0,6,6,2,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,14,15,0,1,10,5,0,3,4,3,0,1,12,4,35,8,22,17,1,16,1,2,0,0,47,5,1,5,10,111,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853703811724432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381422405047688,0.0,0.1169960914962647,0.1549070978867912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21955333592197465,0.0,0.1510291852180156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264028950879362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622645595397633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031721944788097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112469472169351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434389671444244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917773904671091,0.0,0.2762596310062148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585794040356853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21208556700877496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889110723007087,0.0,0.09532006970228224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752982591128807,0.0,0.0880812920826692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933964874588972,0.0,0.1391498702581181,0.0,0.12516811598079985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373531479638001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315340757615125,0.3605238262892371,0.12658473035848564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809971819804559,0.13508579954493946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627601781029972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219341735260304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854073841314332
parenting,OneFuckedDad,2018/03/23,"My wife thinks I am sexually abusing our kids. Where to begin…. Throwaway because jail, obviously. 

My wife is convinced I am sexually abusing our children. At 3yo my daughter told her that I (M40) had touched her private parts and she just took her word for it. I was not there when my daughter told this story, but I’m personally convinced that something happened at pre-school and some transference occurred. Alas, we never really got to the truth because my wife took my her word over mine and it has become our ’reality’ and she has never let it go. 

With the seed planted, she has since ’seen me do things’ that never happened, she has stated that rashes and bruises were evidence of sexual abuse, and she is keeping a list of all her horrible delusions 'in case it ever comes to court'. She has even gone so far as recently accusing me of sodomizing our 2yo boy. 

At this point our relationship is at an all time low. This kind of psychological abuse is abhorrent, and for clear reasons, I cannot reach out to anyone without risking everything. My wife is not crazy, but in order for things to have gone this far, there is a point where this story begins to show cracks in reality. My wife is a strong woman. If she truly, 100% believed that I was abusing our kids – I would be posting this from a jail cell. My wife does however have a fierce temper and will use some pretty cruel tactics when we fight.

I can’t turn to anyone for help without the threat of losing my kids to CPS. I am leaning towards a divorce but clearly this will play out in court as she has said she would use it as ‘ammunition’. I feel so trapped and really have nowhere to turn. I can’t believe how truly fucked up this situation has gotten.  

So I’m airing my horrible situation to strangers since I am truly trapped in this twisted reality. I’m at a total loss.
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parenting,KindOutlandishness,2018/03/23,"What career possibilities do i have? I am currently working in the food industry as a waitress while being a full time single mother, I do not wish to be doing this 10-20years down the line. And it just seems like a dead-end unless there is a grand plan to run my own restaurant (which is NOT whats going to happen) What skillets from this career carry over into different fields?where do i go from here? (providing stability for my child in my highest priority and waitress wages are not)

I am 32 and daughter is 4. (I've been in the industry for 14 years)

thanks in advance for those that can help.",3.501538461538459,5.491303470085473,4.807188034188034,81.43642307692309,74.12820512820514,7.4150427350427375,27.084615384615393,8.238735603445708,1.9122656410256416,474,18,89,8,10,157,82,117,0.02,0.877,0.103,0.8549,3,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,0,0,11,21,6,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,8,3,17,18,3,16,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,5,69,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060416778936659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594424001256094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35420306218784475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329492260199257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590304084739609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963397841179686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310714244900286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302261179563956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26666565198435216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26968369211123194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708054713810513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368464306875595,0.0,0.0,0.2132510761945192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886324927966369
parenting,Orchidsarenice81,2018/03/24,"Does this seem neglectful or am I overreacting here? Today I had some work to do upstairs for about 2 hrs. My 2 yo had been put down for a nap and my 4 yo was watching a movie with my husband. When I’m finished with my work, I look at my phone and see a text from my husband. It said he had to leave because he was going to snap if he didn’t get out of the house. I called trying to figure out what the hell happened. He said the 2 yo pooped so he changed him & put him back down for his nap (he hadn’t fallen asleep yet). My husband went back down and apparently said 2 yo kept crying. He went up, snuggled with him, then left the room. He continued to cry. Husband sat on couch and my 4 yo jumped on him (likely trying to get his attention) and that’s when my husband said he had to leave. I understand he needed space but he didn’t even tell me he was leaving & I wouldn’t have been able to hear if something were wrong. I said why didn’t you come get me and tell me? His response was, “well what else would’ve happened? I needed to leave.” Ughh you could’ve told me & sent the 4 yo upstairs with me. This kind of bs supports why I feel like a single parent. Does anyone else think this is borderline neglect on his part or should I take a deep breath and let it go??! ",2.1591337199086307,3.299565763837638,3.2893516078017946,94.46434194341946,75.86346863468634,6.195115094008084,22.49885784572132,6.42735559955562,0.2153699174134598,986,26,233,7,21,318,138,271,0.091,0.8740000000000001,0.035,-0.8859999999999999,2,0,1,0,1,0,34,0,2,0,2,10,9,1,0,10,0,22,3,3,0,0,33,53,16,0,6,5,6,1,2,0,2,0,6,2,0,8,14,0,3,6,2,0,10,5,4,1,0,26,10,34,5,30,24,3,33,1,2,3,0,40,14,1,6,11,129,42,2,0.0919177393172865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987784964423622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427102052453725,0.09418058626644722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135813558310115,0.0,0.05603220073820643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385828886230096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972367803403997,0.07917899346898127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338883543033264,0.0,0.20193464103102812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087566619854385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357095314579575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06071079992222193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04647637081786683,0.06566605133430221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440696750854934,0.0,0.10447793899829544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256510663056128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103597972588393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606073006023424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571818081613828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38931045625272304,0.09986889271590724,0.09399211606929753,0.0,0.08981272897214967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718775095231882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631167803664418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020637717807822,0.09953795436231423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480543172765224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4371740952062329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324653760605009,0.08367845768560063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076276642088583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430716130276484,0.0,0.0,0.06911070066279842,0.0,0.16068031120333334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889717587887424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712726921363183,0.0878313389658485,0.0,0.12481222271512965,0.0,0.0,0.09568960828247876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264508652295753,0.17041733046309726,0.16588292568814764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338344179159525,0.0,0.0,0.0652957247622223,0.10049761845499636,0.0,0.0
parenting,-_stormy_-,2018/03/24,"What to expect when your baby is 3 weeks old? Hi everyone! My baby will be 3 weeks old in 2 days. This is my first baby and I'm kind of at a loss at what to expect during each stage. I've had people tell me it gets easier at the 3 week mark, and I've had people tell me it gets harder D:

I was hoping maybe you guys could give me a general rundown of what it's like at the 3 week period with a newborn, if you still remember or if you're at that stage yourself.

Here's how things have been the past few days;

Baby is more active during the day. This is not a bad thing, but I can't seem to get anything done. When he's fed and changed he will cry if you put him down because he constantly wants to be held. I like holding him but I've got to get things done sometimes (and poop. I'm surprised to go from third trimester constipation to pooping sometimes more than once a day again, oh my.)

And it's not always red faced crying, it's sometimes whining. But it makes me feel so bad to see it either way.

Baby is also way hungrier, he used to eat 3oz every 3 hours. Now he wants 4oz every 2 hours or less and sometimes more. 

I also have trouble sleeping because any noise he makes at night, even just sleep noises makes my body stay wide awake and alert in case he needs something. My husband is getting pissed at me for sleeping on the couch.

So, is any of this likely to change any time soon, or should I buckle in and ride this out, if it's likely to get even more difficult?",3.2823490034991636,3.7610369488817916,4.4356366955728,89.80826411075616,72.48242811501598,7.112064506313707,24.169937623611744,6.868970318607317,0.6693126122014306,1147,29,259,9,21,377,164,313,0.084,0.841,0.075,-0.8305,0,0,1,0,0,0,31,0,4,0,2,15,14,1,0,10,0,22,10,8,5,0,44,46,25,0,12,14,1,1,4,0,3,0,0,1,2,19,11,2,2,3,0,0,3,3,7,0,2,9,3,21,7,31,31,8,46,0,2,2,0,20,14,1,9,28,148,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844435794985324,0.07202503964262799,0.0,0.0,0.1765917595331759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712316880327248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445483409870074,0.10553261690639276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614889402974353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313847669162486,0.0,0.0,0.09354084986578083,0.0,0.06911129451135949,0.0,0.1901646805880891,0.2232967312720444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771623221759377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857271780382342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434442170506813,0.0,0.14586144219986952,0.0827120024320065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0437674495388595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362808137426434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27134486292377114,0.08303645325282834,0.049194169451738365,0.0,0.06923011767512192,0.0,0.0,0.08570822964384521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597383246996837,0.17048876664284435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013915189804923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915581032091628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333886279852884,0.0,0.08696137838167578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418330847524548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812309054356404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816607858608148,0.09218381236196688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263152724563083,0.12001991921232096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701693210238491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805585863182292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897729065662257,0.07880117594801933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598682069550738,0.0,0.0,0.06663828853361344,0.34244109512505017,0.0,0.0,0.0922616804007956,0.06912710581748867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131490021111146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252029748542766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050473962068322206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476024043165358,0.0,0.0,0.10211092432176218,0.1374149517729369,0.277733558293408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dsahhar,2018/03/24,"I’m a brand new Dad and I have the hardest time waking up in the night. Any advice on how I can better break through my sleepiness? Me and my wife had our first child this week on Tuesday (he’s an angel), and we just had our first night at home. So far I’ve had a really hard time waking up and helping my wife in the night. Half the time I get up okay, but the other half of the time my wife stops trying to even get me up because I’m so sleepy. I want to wake up and help her but I don’t know what I can do.",0.8091858237547882,1.6214073706896563,2.6608045977011483,98.94243295019159,78.74137931034483,5.5003831417624545,18.061302681992334,5.033348758259628,-0.7858398467432948,389,6,103,1,9,130,68,116,0.03,0.875,0.095,0.7328,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,9,1,8,3,3,1,0,13,14,10,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,16,2,14,11,0,25,1,0,0,0,12,11,0,0,13,66,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546232608382712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906491532168418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569530453209327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678554018322705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253556775006172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32287357393080035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983167382714208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001615160742206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544268524535529,0.0,0.19037662512495407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430459612449564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330207908227952,0.0,0.5343201723196229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158547104066028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867442231689155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4426764413595905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885615704995956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194410630353824,0.0,0.15223951394116927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChangingDiapers,2018/03/24,"Struggles with 2 under 2 New to life with 2 under 2,  but already seeing how it’s going to be rough for a few months.  Getting back into the groove of short sleep cycles because the tiny one is up every few hours and then the toddler is up at 5:30 ready to go 100 miles an hour.  

Any strategies?
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parenting,atrienne,2018/03/24,"Opinions on the parenting advice “if they hit you, hit them back” As an elementary school teacher, I am often confronted with situations where small school aged children tell me their parents have given them advice like “if they do it to you, you have my permission to do it back” whether this be name calling or a full on brawl. 

To me, this seems crazy. Doing the behavior back causes you TOO to get in trouble. Wouldn’t this translate to jail time as an adult vs walking away? Why do parents teach this mentality? 

Yes I live in a low income area which may contribute to this thinking. 

Can anyone defend telling a small child this? What are your opinions? ",6.270409836065571,7.3207064918032785,5.929631147540983,79.71198770491806,66.04918032786885,8.722950819672132,32.463114754098356,8.841846274778883,2.656685245901639,520,21,94,8,8,161,85,122,0.08,0.879,0.042,-0.5803,4,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,5,5,0,6,4,1,0,7,1,12,0,0,1,0,15,18,6,0,3,5,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,10,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,15,1,14,12,1,17,0,1,0,0,20,11,0,8,6,69,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32206479210197697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522608379567363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482708642405818,0.38014359137988535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827059799427227,0.0,0.0,0.16928631641994288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609678368432941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050882769561837,0.0,0.1455139583284367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607112364980314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5489445456319644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33355569407937663,0.0,0.15002003855676554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852326074046813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880701574664083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559177165324082,0.0,0.0,0.0960912783915472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869874275853984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Illegalgrounding,2018/03/24,"Sons seemingly favor abusive ex-husband over me Tl;dr now that my boys are grown, they seem to favor my abusive ex-husband over me, and I don’t understand why. 

Sorry for the length, but I think the background info is very important. 

My ex-husband and I met in college. I got pregnant with my son, so we got married and went on to have four more kids together. My kids are now M25, M21, M19, F13, and M11. He was always somewhat verbally and emotionally abusive to me, but as the years went on, it got worse. He was occasionally physically abusive, which my kids witnessed. I thought I could handle it, as long as he was a good dad and didn’t do it to the kids. Once the oldest three boys hit the ages of 10-11, he started on them. We endured daily name calling of the worst kind. I overcompensated by being extra warm, loving, and protective over them. My oldest son was a superstar athlete and student, so the pressure and abuse he endured was a little different. My ex basically just berated him whenever he had a bad game. My other two older boys were different. He called them idiots, retards, morons, etc. This has left my 19yo with anxiety issues. When he started becoming physically abusive with them (throwing things, hitting them with plastic hangers), that was the last straw. Then my ex was diagnosed with a serious, terminal illness.  I felt a tremendous amount of guilt for wanting to leave him at that point. I also worried about what people would think. “What terrible woman would leave her husband when he is sick?” I thought maybe the illness would be a wake-up call for him and that he would be grateful for his loving family. I was wrong...the abuse got worse as he spiraled into a depression. Attempts at getting counseling and mental health care failed miserably.  

My then-15yo (now 21) came to me and begged me to please leave their dad and take them with me. We spent the summer with my parents in another state putting a plan in place. A few months later, we executed the plan by moving out in the middle of the day when he was at work. I was legitimately afraid that he might kill me, himself, or all of us. I left almost everything behind for him, taking only the heirlooms that belonged to my family. My wonderful friends helped me get what I need. 

Fast forward six years...he didn’t kill anyone and we have mended our relationship in order to be decent co-parents. He has received mental health care and his terminal illness has stabilized, allowing him to lead a more normal life. I met a wonderful guy a few years ago, and I moved about 25 minutes away from the old neighborhood so that I could have a nicer home for the kids. My oldest son has moved to another state for grad school, and my 19 and 21yo chose to get jobs near their dad’s house, which is where their friends are. So they are now living with their dad full-time. I understand why. They don’t have a car, they can drive his, they are close to their friends and work, etc. my youngest two still live with me and will continue to. My ex-husband is no longer abusive to any of my kids, and I’m so grateful for that. 

Okay, so here’s my concern: my kids, specifically my oldest son, seem to dote on their dad. My oldest son specifically is home for spring break and staying at his dad’s house (which is like an episode of Hoarders and he has to sleep on the couch) rather than staying at my clean house in the guest bedroom. Sometimes it feels like they blame me for “breaking up the family” even though they fully witnessed the abuse that we all received. Have they so quickly forgotten about the time they had to pull their dad off me before he choked me out in my closet? Or the time he punched my shoulder so hard that I had a fist print on my shoulder for two weeks? Or all the names he called all of us? Are they upset that I now have a successful relationship and their dad will most likely never date again because of his medical issues? Is it because of his medical issues? 

If anyone has some insight or suggestions, I would appreciate them. I know boys will always seek approval from their dad, but still...",4.96651204159825,6.308406275862076,5.249753466520708,82.32818247126437,69.25542784163474,8.24930669585842,29.818669038496623,8.634040054169528,2.2418308885239915,3226,124,613,52,56,1021,338,783,0.165,0.726,0.109,-0.9949,5,0,0,0,3,1,113,9,0,26,9,30,32,4,5,42,1,60,15,3,2,5,94,100,50,2,12,10,19,4,3,4,9,10,0,6,13,25,44,0,1,16,1,1,16,6,15,0,6,29,4,110,17,89,54,16,99,0,3,0,2,119,37,0,15,44,409,135,10,0.0,0.5429723653246574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04513630262239842,0.0,0.050987663362090235,0.0,0.0,0.040719618478313374,0.08473677594562654,0.0,0.0,0.03462642167143947,0.10678526865994424,0.03895262067601223,0.0,0.0,0.0712069948268443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047839738967450834,0.0,0.04251493801427484,0.06207906138006504,0.05623563805017755,0.043328012801563336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797450032469175,0.05823735994701922,0.10382989524898184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130878243703522,0.0,0.0,0.03283831078239239,0.0,0.04385615052284685,0.0516813483633984,0.0,0.10639828385933248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727661719490305,0.0,0.0,0.11357548797098806,0.03363128188033671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045762390903648864,0.0,0.14400468809779107,0.0,0.025745994613037684,0.0363762870069552,0.048889880069410564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801884621723968,0.0,0.07980866434664204,0.0,0.0,0.04270813990299101,0.1628971535242079,0.0,0.0,0.0504174595950408,0.0,0.0,0.04561310052263982,0.0,0.0,0.10824826775479372,0.0,0.0,0.034129691464314195,0.0,0.10215109631509106,0.0,0.0,0.17625982429780634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943749507343868,0.050528893904098385,0.0,0.11266786316304725,0.05302392859630714,0.027983553227258626,0.04150548809606908,0.0,0.16174646492022332,0.11064650396004397,0.0,0.035965341687304045,0.07462882736780704,0.05103385467162568,0.08992418501613325,0.04506139460031816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191212224632768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05115461839669486,0.0,0.0,0.10259034695061146,0.10262802703239804,0.05401663105315999,0.0,0.0,0.04064277312166864,0.1623553700670275,0.0,0.0377555268049934,0.03927159465270002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988945672088212,0.0,0.0,0.05343054785520643,0.054226690416887435,0.0,0.03872592064565483,0.0,0.0,0.05653912455324828,0.0,0.0,0.03530057412591644,0.0,0.05319914192966625,0.055893376780010655,0.048134573710627404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051187297609424455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933512843503168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051532382687092634,0.0,0.13906325405075962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050955413416880264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05035983752345699,0.056999249362844485,0.07208095176376546,0.10854499184283913,0.08132738428871797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656896163173076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03382808225822292,0.06525321776276452,0.05002730584533606,0.08084742591207814,0.05938213760232531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922033924700048,0.10601620117968842,0.12249771035045165,0.0,0.0,0.04201321111291175,0.030033133472699192,0.0,0.040843862111117415,0.0,0.0,0.09440417990607093,0.09189230647759948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043818733827393,0.07413875356589854,0.05171035116228625,0.10378088971172347,0.1808557067171328,0.0556715401360637,0.0,0.06557987020527134
parenting,damsonplum,2018/03/24,"Non-candy easter egg stuffer ideas? My son is almost 9 and I think this may be his last year of believing in “holiday magic”. He’s a really awesome kid and I want to put some effort into making things special while we still can.
He’s also slightly overweight, so we’re cutting down on candy and treats this year.

Anyone have ideas for non-candy egg stuffer ideas? 
I’ve been searching but it all seems like disposable junk, and I don’t love contributing to that sort of consumerism. ",4.660599078341012,6.250290881720427,4.944116743471586,83.27903225806456,70.29032258064517,7.464823348694317,27.264208909370197,7.957251820313856,1.7384144393241172,384,13,70,5,7,121,73,93,0.032,0.785,0.182,0.9321,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,1,19,12,8,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,6,3,0,5,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,9,9,2,10,0,0,0,1,7,4,0,5,6,39,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20980665341384808,0.0,0.0,0.16755517546574994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465030979963007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360602604352631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7095766550047751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078891209239308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236217603623292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910235834619712,0.0,0.13985798579460682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21062811865814726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342255650783987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907415377325863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732504691717634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919752861793358,0.13425364431849746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358187863386967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698514148681798
parenting,gautboat,2018/03/24,"Flying with 18 mo old. My husband and I will be flying with our daughter in July. She will be 18 months when we fly and we're looking for any advice people have. 
I've seen that you can have a child fly on your lap or buy them their own seat. If we buy her a seat does she have to have a car seat to strapped into the plane seat?
So yea just any advice for flying and getting through an airport with a toddler is appreciated!
Thank you much!",1.7537903225806453,3.3399557096774197,3.027620967741939,94.06143145161293,77.92473118279571,5.08010752688172,21.302419354838708,5.148860815047168,-0.2106548387096776,343,9,78,1,8,111,64,93,0.0,0.929,0.071,0.7494,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,3,2,0,3,1,0,0,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,14,7,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,9,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,13,1,11,9,2,7,0,0,2,0,14,3,0,2,3,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5887269942897219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4097004565296382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26361290521201586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738293014170324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25296165363144874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24044301863730425,0.0,0.22144249199615607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160956112736661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20883852037005854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27733684912397866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,miss_nephthys,2018/03/24,"Encouraging Independent Play in 5 y/o Looking for advice for encouraging independent play in my 5 year old son.

He is driving us bananas. He non-stop tries to rely on his for his entertainment, which includes relentless badgering and climbing all over us. Don't get me wrong, we play with our kid but we can't do this 24/7 (obviously). 

He will occasionally do things for a while (draw, play Hot Wheels, build legos) without us but not nearly enough. It does help (briefly) when I give him a task like, ""Draw me a Minion."" or ""Find all the Hot Wheels that are the same."" It also sometimes help to include him in whatever chore we're doing (laundry, cooking).

I hate to rely on screen time to get a break, so I am looking for suggestions. He is an only child w/ a good amount/variety of toys.

TIA!",2.3143872549019626,4.778226954248368,3.949832516339871,83.77612132352941,80.1111111111111,6.962254901960787,25.24877450980393,8.07648339933343,1.689928431372548,616,24,121,12,16,205,106,153,0.031,0.742,0.228,0.9806,0,0,0,0,0,0,35,6,0,0,1,3,11,1,0,8,0,10,1,0,2,3,16,16,8,0,0,5,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,4,1,0,1,7,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,5,16,9,19,15,4,15,0,0,3,0,23,7,0,1,6,72,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018249579046174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392718913944819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240443386048586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994892903280066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917474442885768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197786142722852,0.1670655860659888,0.0,0.1460731618936346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719422550010537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23346518757176854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850834587722728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924930976281808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827466399765296,0.0,0.0,0.13245291620758728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224399648896632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456015880863749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570101033387595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155132744340227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823998365478335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6284619717552222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787944732827315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041142774269326,0.0,0.11215027181255506
parenting,MazysMomsGotItGoinOn,2018/03/24,"How Do I Avoid Raising a Girl with Daddy Issues? I’ll make this short and sweet, I have an 8 month old little girl and she is the best baby in the world. Her dad and I were together for four years, he found out I was pregnant, graduated from university here in the states, and left to go back to his life in England. He’s not even on the birth certificate. 

I have a long time before I have to start answering questions about this to her, but my parents were not great parents. Narcissistic mom, abusive dad. I don’t know what it means to be a great parent, and I’m already one step behind being the only one caring for her. I don’t want her to have the same daddy issues I do, but it seems inevitable. I can only hope I end up meeting someone who wants to be a part of her life in that way, but if I don’t, how can I be the best mom and Dad for this baby? ",5.7872100122100125,4.090932214285715,6.690073260073262,83.11603785103789,67.51648351648353,9.407570207570208,29.562881562881564,7.793537801064563,1.6425291819291818,661,17,151,6,9,222,105,182,0.08800000000000001,0.802,0.11,0.4728,3,1,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,1,12,0,19,2,0,3,0,28,31,12,0,4,6,8,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,8,8,0,1,6,0,0,2,5,1,0,3,4,1,21,7,22,23,4,24,0,0,0,0,22,11,0,4,9,106,29,2,0.0,0.15431117544680972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372128335374104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001452698176306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108232630415239,0.0,0.2733542751044465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278670135936407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535254181405408,0.0,0.0,0.0860212171584687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279965386755955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401746880584255,0.0,0.0,0.2871765323602614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293560910548059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718700491547096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157560385573628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150437350021428,0.0,0.1839824291247702,0.0,0.13053306474494966,0.0,0.11525686187548345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693512539541381,0.0,0.0,0.14186776904815382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050672171350628,0.10395502690206797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366632641688248,0.0,0.17650578448456128,0.19810430309343588,0.0,0.0,0.4338429021334693,0.14103546648503806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589678438033649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856412350488668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035055093081343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218339084905998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594304273323396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363593368796485,0.10337715850948573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838692422760449
parenting,Fourmoonslightshow,2018/03/24,"Chicken pox and sleeping at night Out of nowhere I was hit with shingles about 3 weeks ago. Now my 10 month old has chicken pox. I saw the doctor and there really isn't much we can do other than treat the symptoms. Oatmeal baths every 4 hours, calemine lotion, Tylenol, and lots and lots of distractions....which worked until last night.

She was up every 1.5 hours writhing around and whining. Walking is a great way to get her mind off of it and go to sleep, but that isn't possible when the temperature dips below 30 degrees at night. Bouncing and keeping music on throughout the night seemed to help along with nursing like she was a newborn again, but is there anything that can help her stay asleep?

Thanks.",5.873772802653399,7.003899694029852,4.922636815920399,86.28844941956885,66.98507462686567,7.149585406301824,31.30679933665009,6.937597516519254,1.7347207296849092,565,22,106,4,9,167,96,134,0.011,0.855,0.135,0.9528,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,6,0,11,6,3,0,0,20,18,11,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,4,13,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,1,8,4,20,13,3,27,0,1,1,0,8,8,0,3,16,66,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293187968571166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005143217906422,0.12986912829635416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493201102648392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458298479147848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621921345236367,0.0,0.08291015783351284,0.0,0.0,0.16083940729266571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195568107303477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873358918086109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296698390488352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891624860046668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127234329020338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480534685818674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730288542375228,0.0,0.1164445073182129,0.0,0.10724271399497848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5476150743624446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308241399070827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644641129688312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345806159105984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328087862470423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919819468401899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554946565673704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163101422377862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431187538924386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579721201875233,0.11702064192973125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620646635409772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrCubeIsIn,2018/03/24,"Programming or STEM video series for 6-year-old? Are there any video series out there that teaches kids the fundamentals of programming? My daughter is turning 6 in a few weeks and she has started showing interest in STEM subjects, and I would like to have some videos to show her when I need to keep her occupied. It could be free, or it could be paid if the quality is good enough. Thanks!",5.76472972972973,6.911321148648652,5.330648648648651,83.20489189189192,67.24324324324324,9.163243243243244,31.016216216216225,9.3871,2.620370810810812,311,12,60,6,5,95,57,74,0.0,0.8079999999999999,0.192,0.9355,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,12,16,6,0,5,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,6,8,10,3,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,4,4,41,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000309096230059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4697069153014538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039337925578617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467176121796112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614524966910529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370598617946592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181072142469711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086591271412823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20819965869719945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708122059328709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31994884975677684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359479985580561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089544906973677,0.0,0.0,0.1894218411390032
parenting,18wx,2018/03/24,"Parents with kids that used to be high maintenance, and now play independently - any tips? I’ve specified parents who turned kids around from being unable to play by themselves and demand a lot of attention and now don’t, purely because I know we all want to help and feel we have something positive to add, but I need examples that have been tested in the field with difficult kids!! Please don’t take offence. 

So, newly four year old girl. Only child (and will stay that way for better or worse). Super verbal from early on and will not stop talking from morning til she passes out. Loves to interact with adults, has gotten a lot of attention (again for better or worse!!) because she’s an only child but also because shes been so interactive from very early - adults around her get sucked into her vortex of non stop games and bossiness! She’s lovely but damn! She’s non stop intense and demands interaction and playing and conversation. Even when she’s on the toilet she’s yelling to us in the kitchen about what she’s doing or what are we doing or what she wants for lunch. 

We have instituted quiet time in the middle of the day in her room by herself with some success. But if we are around we feel like we are constantly saying “no I’m busy” or “I’ll be there when I’m finished in ten minutes” about a million times a day. Obviously this is a long game and consistency will win out eventually. But how do we not lose our minds (any more). 

We are so jealous of the parents that say their kids will often play in their room by themselves for 30 mins or even 10 minutes and often from much earlier age!!",5.2539580462410065,6.269027006430867,5.628158015617824,81.08886387995716,68.32475884244373,8.23892206400245,28.635890369009342,8.418075326091056,1.9698662073189404,1273,43,242,18,21,407,169,311,0.065,0.747,0.188,0.9914,3,0,1,0,1,0,32,11,0,2,6,20,17,3,0,12,0,24,4,0,3,3,69,40,32,0,4,14,3,2,1,0,4,0,4,3,9,9,32,2,3,5,6,0,1,5,5,0,3,3,6,28,12,44,30,6,43,0,1,0,2,51,18,2,12,23,167,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273698136639842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772003478075533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30969968273740484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207313477824066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20512282326408066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531671466369332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957536091614493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318726832992974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727053994674685,0.08284525190577115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06058680389596036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772873812785615,0.12252314204524335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06373120257951376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566545269957152,0.0,0.0,0.10262516859334586,0.0,0.1297349103661178,0.0,0.1971781940005876,0.20932545752223555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709135568626405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524744598873615,0.08598640450568032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168551440342412,0.0,0.0,0.17639286002767432,0.0,0.0,0.3862954469693433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729448935562895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18443967260360364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892753422897714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236030108104562,0.0,0.2908552104682444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719107193830967,0.0932080861361074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523997508121666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613636514178445,0.0,0.0,0.1394913349721891,0.10015632455558758,0.0,0.09568307665249133,0.1367980469029004,0.09204743342915617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23635600712983384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467750716372848
parenting,uglymomfeels,2018/03/24,"What to tell a less than attractive girl? I'm ugly. That's just the truth. 

Being ugly as a woman means you don't get to live a normal life. You don't have relationships. You go through K-12 and college watching all the normal/pretty girls get approached and form relationships while you age quietly alone. That's just life. 

I struggled all through high school. When prom rolled around I was stupid enough to try to get a male friend to go with me ""as a friend"" so I wouldn't be the odd one out in group pictures. This earned me a public humiliation. I tried to date in college with little success. I miraculously found someone that would touch me one night in a bar a few years after graduation and that gave me a daughter. I've never had a boyfriend or anything close to that.

I've built a nice little life for two. I'm still very lonely but having a little family, my job, and the occasional meet-up with old friends keeps me occupied. Having a child also gives me some comfort that someone may care about me as I get old.

I was so happy to have the chance to raise a child that I didn't even consider what she would look like. Unfortunately for her, she looks like me. It's as if I cloned myself. 

She's 12 now. She's recently started to notice that she never gets the kind of attention that the other girls do. This is only going to get worse as she gets older.

What the hell do I tell her? I can't tell her the truth, that normal milestones (e.g. having a child) won't come for her unless she steals them, that drinking far too much is the best form of comfort there is. I can't tell her these things but I can't lie because she sees my life. That I'm alone and have been alone. There's no pictures that don't highlight that.",2.7588761904761867,4.577762754285717,3.5920000000000023,90.08933333333336,75.74285714285716,6.266666666666668,21.952380952380953,7.03164865440522,0.4836380952380952,1364,36,289,14,30,434,176,350,0.117,0.738,0.146,0.9103,1,5,1,0,0,0,41,0,4,1,3,14,21,2,1,25,0,29,6,0,0,6,36,53,20,0,6,7,1,1,2,3,5,4,1,0,8,23,12,2,1,3,2,0,5,12,5,0,3,7,6,42,16,35,39,10,32,1,1,4,0,40,11,1,4,18,192,65,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795051757605174,0.0,0.07193863408748566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402700141346644,0.08008086175615338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483699317435303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440439204846976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171722526865697,0.0,0.0,0.07749004799395735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812367877943214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294969739054232,0.0,0.059415794437542614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480351692118465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986332809534288,0.20850182076167895,0.0,0.3289919831600951,0.08629501577292928,0.15337402294320607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576097071036588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504458041412417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926850852859172,0.07995797454739627,0.0,0.09367644245493684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541573474567119,0.087896958190642,0.2704818415171016,0.07943373837031736,0.0,0.1510825602546718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798961792820936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612879493723113,0.0,0.1387608717040054,0.0,0.0,0.08441861364760482,0.2644164782962117,0.0,0.10241671716493624,0.18878961910199094,0.0,0.12191447359611594,0.06841640317707029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151867742598173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882175129464165,0.1931604492214236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104135451950313,0.07168413572606949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244066212400256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636720751248307,0.0,0.07183983001651083,0.0,0.0,0.09404265834307336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145057667778535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976347820527179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221498872957614,0.0,0.08787498331807453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422400145280618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167393665809488,0.12780583899710782,0.0,0.0,0.05792940187681773
parenting,misssjennybabyy,2018/03/24,"Ocd My 2 year old child is extremely ocd. Especially when it comes time to clothes.. all buttons must be buttoned and zippers must be zipped. Bedtime is always fun for me because it's the same routine. She wants her 3 minnie mouse stuffed animals in the bed, then her pink sheet, her purple blanket, and her minnie blanket on top. We recite it every night lol. Then she wants a kiss and hug, I say goodnight and she says it back. Then she wants another kiss and hug.. and finally it's night night time 😂😂",1.8624242424242432,4.371732010101013,2.8189898989899014,90.8818181818182,82.43434343434345,5.62020202020202,25.161616161616163,6.980632752743323,1.0938404040404042,395,16,79,5,11,125,66,99,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.9393,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,1,6,4,0,0,3,15,10,10,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,5,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,12,5,4,6,2,17,0,0,2,4,12,3,0,0,13,43,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793017934638394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22422757760346812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442806837131105,0.0,0.1303535377850335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420232974897335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180167568800508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342488570081995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6020168670929155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22438679915206527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401048019156249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24938108101571504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783812234178159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377045319097812
parenting,WebbieE1122,2018/03/24,"Toddler Emotionally Abused by Aunt As many of us do, I’ve had to rely on my parents and in-laws to help with babysitting at time because of work and other professional commitments.

Within the pass month, my 2 year old has stayed at grandmas where his two teenage aunts (my partner’s siblings) help take care of him. Sometimes he’s stayed overnight, picked up from his daycare, or just stayed for the evening.

He had been doing well with this arrangement , but within the last two weeks he was being extremely negative, grumpy, and aggressive. It’s out of character to what he sees within his classroom and home.

Well today one of my partner’s sisters told me that the other sister has been emotionally abusing my son telling him expletives, complaining about him, and telling him to leave the common area. In addition, she had been modeling aggressive behavior and language towards other relatives that he had been copying.

I will no longer be allowing him to spend time at my in-laws house unsupervised, and will be letting her know that this behavior is unacceptable and we will leave anytime this behavior is present. My son loves my in-laws to pieces so this is difficult.

My question is what can I do to reverse any negative behavioral effects this has had on my son? He is only two, and I feel devastated that this negativity and aggression has been learned. Any advice or suggestions are appreciated. I want my loving son back. ",8.787683397683399,8.775436474903481,8.16322393822394,69.48684362934364,60.698841698841704,11.87876447876448,40.50772200772201,11.35114627814755,4.789860231660232,1153,57,194,29,14,363,147,259,0.16399999999999998,0.743,0.093,-0.9731,1,0,0,0,1,0,30,2,0,0,2,8,10,3,0,5,0,32,2,0,3,1,29,41,15,0,1,4,9,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,16,15,0,0,6,0,1,1,4,5,2,4,12,2,28,5,31,22,1,29,0,0,1,2,39,14,0,3,11,141,44,4,0.0,0.2828417995764701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116636235466196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233642887753394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177970504169147,0.0,0.07276013984446206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169445752570192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685256242135857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883549520120849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035149781053041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600076462875955,0.0,0.1197268110683434,0.0,0.0,0.13772426300447682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559658605966354,0.09729351736469433,0.0,0.2527678983394341,0.0,0.12205266649139128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21545231900660186,0.0,0.0,0.12101129401736208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527121674391063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524719438362647,0.0,0.08088074887433896,0.09077789963777427,0.0,0.0,0.13253404667290392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337093989695474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511367123056616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804910510221635,0.0,0.0,0.38166244513019215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974311518600064,0.0,0.2086500576343496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919838799610898,0.0,0.1131383777315627,0.11405264154695142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497892046008396,0.0,0.14357418326861845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040103193772543,0.0,0.09574259187968784,0.0,0.21463615469837566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689477510497819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686328402912163
parenting,toddlersarenutz,2018/03/24,"How to deal with stubborn toddler My toddler, 19-months, is very independent and strong-willed.  It's getting harder for me to take her places and get stuff done.  She refuses to get in the stroller. She planks and will not put her butt down.  If i do manage to wrestle her in she will try to stand up, throw herself off the stroller seat, hang her head off to the side and scream, writhe in fury. I'm afraid that she will hurt herself. Sometime she pulls so hard against the straps that they dig in.  I have tried giving her a toy, food, and even my cell phone in desperation and she throws it all to the ground.  I have tried to abandon the stroller and use a carrier and she also will not tolerate that.  She will scream, arch her back and scratch my neck and face and hit me. I tried a back carry and she grabs my hair and pulls! She is also very heavy and I can't carry her like that for long periods of time. When we walk she will refuse to hold my hand and when I try to hold on to her wrists she will fall to the ground and make herself limp and bang her head to the ground in frustration.  The only way she likes to travel is by herself. No hand holding whatsoever. I tried getting one of those toddler leashes and she absolutely was appalled.  She just pulled on it kept on falling over and got really angry, fell to the ground and started banging her head.  She is totally happy and ""normal"" and fairly well-behaved in every other way. It's just when it comes to going somewhere she totally wants to do it by herself.  Her tiny toddler legs don't move very fast or reliably.  We live in a big city and we walk to most places.  There are lots of people around and cars so it's not very safe for her to walk the way she wants.  Recently we've gotten snow so it's also slippery outside.  It's getting frustrating for us to actually go anywhere.  Please tell me that this phase will end soon!",2.616796692151663,4.6291477533156495,3.1635894835387752,92.13057380246529,76.77188328912467,6.1329068497425485,23.82033078483383,7.048011613610866,0.7279715088157275,1481,48,314,16,34,461,186,377,0.119,0.836,0.045,-0.9782,0,0,0,0,1,0,39,4,0,1,0,18,12,3,1,15,0,21,13,12,4,3,58,41,36,0,4,7,0,7,2,0,8,0,2,0,0,18,30,1,9,0,2,0,20,6,8,0,1,5,9,55,4,48,27,5,62,0,2,0,1,47,25,1,4,15,210,73,1,0.0,0.0,0.09946597460918367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244532772697979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073657205047513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675102584000028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780101972938892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508218296404497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430663144102656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027700107819384,0.0,0.0,0.06732177195263572,0.0,0.08587782947374803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325044099017822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662630543445748,0.09777759310482977,0.11585483953984466,0.0,0.08152027225954507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850310583498303,0.09130650334304366,0.0,0.3138192895767716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911488015782933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959269299783677,0.0,0.09000334120808921,0.09020212021487116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665462577444874,0.0,0.0,0.06803701319131654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135709823238815,0.10833218943629487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986674430533153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690683215368853,0.07752001864332568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066329524868728,0.0,0.21298388291044446,0.11188515438201756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246471094365757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529699745041723,0.0,0.10064054081406483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080833402036284,0.0,0.07214440136470603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166819420841015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663636182472336,0.0,0.08908862411603563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05943440901164596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.415210144091049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260553954315355,0.08803213628463205,0.0,0.33640154753602497,0.12023828112566033,0.2427145436968017,0.0,0.0,0.09164454553444083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AmberLee1,2018/03/24,"As anyone else had experience with Spica Cast? My son is three-years-old, and he has Hip Dysplasia. He is currently having to be in a Spica Cast from the chest down. I was wondering if anyone else is going through the same thing. ",3.035,5.088619555555557,4.530833333333334,82.61625000000002,75.66666666666667,8.055555555555555,22.36111111111111,8.841846274778883,1.6237777777777789,180,5,35,4,4,60,37,45,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,2,2,0,0,5,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,7,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,1,24,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886858221623161,0.5695670973627588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643683241417921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27187977259534873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579603578951774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916524770099507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465174659716133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014153156447372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TimeToMakeTheDonuts3,2018/03/24,"Underwear is THE WORST I'm the father of a four year old boy. 

About 3 months ago, he decided all forms of underwear and socks are the worst things that have ever happened.  Hour-long battles trying to get him to wear these things ensued.  The adults lost.

We've reached an uneasy truce of going commando everyday and only wearing flip flops and Crocs.  

I'd love any advice on how to overcome this, or brands of underwear/socks that work well for similarly minded little fellows!  Thanks!",4.500333333333334,6.9179065333333325,4.530833333333334,82.61625000000002,72.55555555555556,7.611111111111112,25.69444444444445,8.472884824447931,1.9137777777777785,388,13,68,7,8,120,73,90,0.189,0.711,0.1,-0.8778,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,2,4,7,1,0,6,0,3,3,2,1,2,9,10,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,1,0,1,3,10,9,4,9,0,1,0,1,7,2,0,1,6,38,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347604759819521,0.2129589255171916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633719450913924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731150827410414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551587391054206,0.0,0.13653435197200414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124440977671426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365887414251735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24078434041863064,0.0,0.21260549976080464,0.0,0.0,0.2622511529038552,0.0,0.2168266523659556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425746679354291,0.0,0.1917578709633712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520922494744436,0.0,0.0,0.18271391255406408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118140102011194,0.0,0.0,0.3192105525472712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16310769632308408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21600528188570636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489812391880238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154707163447866
parenting,RedSkattles,2018/03/24,My child doesn't eat!! Hello all I am new here. I have a Year Ina half year old who is a very picky eater. We try everything and she takes it smells it then licks it just to give a yucky face and spit it out. She sometimes eats pbnj and Mac n cheese but other than that it is very hard to get her to like something and eat it. Does anyone have some advice for first time parents?,2.357407407407408,3.2766362839506202,2.9317901234567887,98.08805555555556,75.04938271604938,5.893827160493827,18.438271604938272,5.46131890053228,-0.6450839506172845,293,4,72,1,6,91,61,81,0.057,0.901,0.041,0.225,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,6,5,2,0,1,10,9,6,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,7,1,6,9,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,8,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916996106798396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371698859700201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716737699798969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6022069672930458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630913809053356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16686606851185246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249316484023713,0.1881886128070539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573396581738174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584103139503396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946671239848306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585230915689165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21782874805131086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102484014814022,0.19402175832189866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749893267378625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439102385059872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318971923717055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237292848325578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25266010284131657
parenting,surfdreams,2018/03/25,"Single child households, what tips do you have to get playdates on weekends? Our energetic 6-year old boy is desperate for more playtime with other kids.  We just moved to a new neighborhood full of kids and thought it would be easy. But despite putting in the effort we're not having much luck lining up play dates. The neighborhood families we are friendly with always seem to have plans weeks in advance or aren't available. We definitely don't want to come across as desperate, but our son needs time with other kids and he is wearing us out! Any strategies or tips are much appreciated!!",7.086785714285719,8.250843842592595,6.269735449735452,77.59166666666668,64.27777777777777,9.134391534391536,33.94708994708995,9.23628265651192,3.0267867724867723,477,20,83,8,7,145,81,108,0.068,0.8190000000000001,0.113,0.8045,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,6,1,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,12,1,1,0,0,22,18,7,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,4,10,0,0,2,2,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,7,3,16,15,5,17,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,4,6,55,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100150007793472,0.0,0.0,0.17163900545330324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174181612579508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23793797003002576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500173963188172,0.0,0.1318673151290203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682586774604784,0.3710825163659221,0.18714960305932196,0.0,0.2437671498314562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648487961508589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537292746241377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297732720488775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003754807337538,0.14717505517125254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036032047198292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488706285856914,0.0,0.2024581095368096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929599498343146,0.0,0.0,0.16253576252543736
parenting,twylap,2018/03/25,"Parents (or siblings/family members) of special needs children what did you wish you knew when you first found out about your child's disability? My 6 month old was recently diagnosed with a lifelong cognitive/intellectual disability and my husband and I are having a hard time navigating our lives through all of the doctors, therapists, early intervention appointments, etc. not to mention the mental and emotional roller coaster we're on.  Going from talking with your friends about how your kids will grow up playing sports with each and having sleepovers to finding out it's possible they might not even learn to read or ride a bike is pretty soul crushing. I wish I could find local support groups or knew what other kinds of support to apply for or seek out.  Even just knowing a single other family in my area with a special needs child would help. ",8.550299707602342,9.332162611842108,7.765087719298247,69.47172514619885,61.03947368421053,10.439766081871348,38.599415204678365,10.25414643259724,4.223493274853801,695,33,108,14,9,216,108,152,0.025,0.794,0.182,0.9709,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,6,1,1,7,7,0,0,7,0,10,2,0,1,1,35,21,10,0,6,7,2,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,5,12,0,0,7,5,0,3,2,0,0,1,5,1,14,7,22,12,4,18,1,0,0,0,19,8,0,5,7,78,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901958786222545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130205121787738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257859349016534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768273163993985,0.0,0.0,0.1662515089317212,0.19691753774695728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810582590451816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724930082990149,0.1267981443873979,0.0,0.1634466307243435,0.11517045691530928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471943428013798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335366798667021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991791022312364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523258224302244,0.081924507346009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316307921318929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022664359742852,0.15813881287993894,0.0,0.0,0.11898557478129465,0.0,0.0,0.2210657744546284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564229987062997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16552365195308935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680530706271572,0.0,0.15165691872997303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910949205110033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718780358730524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383238138754445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981613759504915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308077476869102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692342120950873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342844335615616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589444845111884,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Overweightson,2018/03/25,"Son is overweight and ex-wife doesn't do anything about it and told me not to mention anything about his weight to him. My son is 15. He's about 5'3 and 160 pounds. He needs to lose about 20 pounds to be a normal BMI range. He gained weight pretty fast. He used to play sports but had to stop due to a medical issues and now plays more video games and has gained a lot of weight. 

His mom never made the healtiest meals but now that's he's overweight it is becoming an issue. In addition to that he spends many afternoons and Fridays with friends and is usually eating pizza and drinking sodas. 

I only get him on weekends but encouraged his mom to take him to his doctor. She told me that his doctor said not to diet and told me to not mention his weight around him because it could lead to him try to lose weight in an unhealthy way. 

This morning I tried to get him to come on a walk with me but said he wanted to stay home instead. I kind of forced it and he didn't mind it that much but he told his mom and now she's mad at me. She told me that he is now talking about his weight and seems more worried even though O didn't mention his weight. 

What can I do to help my son if my ex-wife isn't on board?",2.381235294117648,3.645602839215692,3.1260294117647085,95.3596323529412,75.50980392156862,6.041176470588236,22.161764705882355,6.2581,0.12444705882353002,944,24,219,6,20,297,123,255,0.11,0.807,0.083,-0.853,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,5,13,8,1,0,7,0,16,18,0,3,1,38,32,19,0,5,9,6,7,0,1,0,5,3,1,0,12,17,15,1,1,7,1,3,8,3,0,0,11,10,31,5,34,19,4,23,0,2,0,0,49,7,0,3,11,133,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310426305413257,0.07087958839457728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0485362347476952,0.08793516103213282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858645856250041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357090561102624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299097550656033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779982875149585,0.0,0.08147218082123235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258893275516277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061515002507125924,0.0,0.08319739337795537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053368291335355485,0.0,0.07986637491390643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620731728081878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291303986828083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815111011827695,0.0,0.06769094388933214,0.0,0.0753393342351509,0.0,0.0807232172189962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802098010464017,0.0,0.0,0.0803945327510314,0.279753528798,0.0,0.0,0.05853061097734991,0.059037977420790026,0.061408639067853876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801169441061476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055537353474561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100320156546309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147564601061694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248398620873796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486541335598366,0.0,0.06656673787388864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059865098046381876,0.06399635984750403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822724784571902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804064832441979,0.0,0.10811489217400064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876699708116622,0.08769130470514193,0.0,0.046962540477710535,0.06319945958518595,0.0,0.6786986659247355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085901065844531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sigbyrue,2018/03/25,"Apartment dwellers, do you acknowledge your own kid's noises to neighbors? We live in a six unit apartment building in a large city so it's not a quiet environment by any means. We moved in right before this winter hit so we haven't had a ton of contact with our neighbors but I do know that we are the only family in the building with a child. It's an old and sturdy building so I don't hear much of our neighbors unless they're having a high volume get-together or drop something heavy. 

LO is nineteen months old and while he isn't excessively loud there are the inevitable tantrums, toy dropping, and randomly pterodactyl screeching when excited because why the hell not? When we wake up (6am) we usually watch TV or read books for a couple hours before hitting the ground and the kid is in bed no later than 8. 

I feel like I should bake muffins for everyone with a ""sorry my toddler is cutting canines and current favorite move is to sprint down the hallway"" note but I'm not sure anyone cares. I've always been friends with our neighbors so I want to be neighborly to our new ones but don't want to draw attention to a problem that may not even be a problem, I guess? 
It's also not something I can fix in the near future seeing as I do like my child and have no plans to sell. 


I tend to overthink as far as people pleasing goes. 
Has anyone ever given ""sorry I gave birth"" gifts? ",4.224673913043482,5.46807516304348,4.841275362318843,84.93234782608697,70.92028985507247,7.114202898550726,29.379710144927536,7.365786028017652,1.7006571014492755,1099,43,213,11,20,352,168,276,0.131,0.7759999999999999,0.093,-0.8338,1,0,2,0,0,0,22,10,2,0,1,10,11,3,0,19,0,23,2,1,0,2,42,38,23,0,5,11,0,1,2,6,2,0,3,7,4,6,16,1,0,5,4,1,2,11,5,0,2,4,6,24,6,31,28,3,34,1,0,2,0,26,15,1,5,17,137,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959872899983483,0.11403646804955428,0.0,0.0,0.09319860909363052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916569069299198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354432677680229,0.0,0.2332386849679839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973147314156453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164307093198442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052014450192246,0.12396945081271832,0.0,0.13095702091179034,0.0,0.0,0.1291984173340686,0.0,0.06929653056372158,0.09790845225671256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588438715624067,0.0,0.07160289890097142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097587946650534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446516041332908,0.0,0.0,0.14480070887977411,0.0,0.0,0.13496651224727635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531902265342165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391128456693616,0.0,0.12101754329259153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928748253755642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939189618232484,0.2913246385993001,0.1007474212896132,0.0,0.0,0.13236361540903532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28762156196597205,0.0,0.09286853665145284,0.10423259943785293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501312148161238,0.0,0.0,0.15043959849134084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622764271604633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708695448364064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703983745642893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921099996803488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21101536629333015,0.0,0.30683221098643043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916787758125922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094106606855007,0.0,0.1616711246075784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366618808292612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AfterReview,2018/03/25,"I just can't help it sometimes...(a short conversation my 8 year old and I just had) I don't go into these things *intending* to be such an antagonist, it just kind of happens.

""Shower time is in 6 minutes""

*disapproving look from 8 year old*

""Shower time is in *6 minutes*""

""But I want to clean the table first"" (project she has been avoiding)

""This is not bargaining time. Shower time is in *5 minutes*, and then know what we're going to do?"" (this is what I mean by it just happens) ""...*clean the table.*

Stop counting down by one minute!""

""I can't make it stop, I'm not a God, I'm but a man!""

""What's that mean (bargaining)""

""That's where you tell me what you'd like, and I take it into consideration. This is ""daddy says it's time to do this"" time, and it's shower time in 5 minutes.""

""I'd rather do it in reverse order.""

""This is not bargaining time (now as I head out of the room she is in), shower time is in *4 minutes*.""

""STOP COUNTING DOWN BY ONE MINUTE!""

Note: she was never actually frustrated",-0.17107995452823133,2.0753500295566525,2.2195320197044346,93.0560051155741,90.57635467980295,5.093520272830618,19.13774156877605,6.67199483983844,0.14694861690034067,748,23,168,10,26,254,98,203,0.055,0.88,0.064,0.4115,5,1,0,0,0,0,71,0,2,0,1,8,4,1,1,6,0,21,1,1,2,1,29,34,8,0,2,10,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,21,7,0,4,4,0,3,2,7,2,0,3,3,2,15,2,23,29,0,38,0,0,1,0,10,15,0,0,21,107,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.1257751341354776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963122883018818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649892127053862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279487228207657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227526094863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639024910678557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421599210309268,0.07083293257202739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296768502964938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823263129260413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603308311146833,0.0,0.0,0.2807914869816773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940561134034367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27049048151810257,0.0,0.17467435351529687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249612720580753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232659463096729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690699483951584,0.0,0.1126529317403879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562680550887407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6763954925859812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602090059550318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659980234321142
parenting,blancheduboix,2018/03/25,"I hate the park Does anyone else hate the park? 

I have a 2 year old and a 3 month old. My 2 year old is in daycare full time when I'm working, but only goes 1 day a week while i'm on mat leave until 2019. I rarely take her to the park. Whenever I do, it's the same thing: she's still small enough that I have to watch her while she's playing on the play structures, and she really only wants to play with me while we're there. But, there's always some other kid, usually around 4 years old, who hangs on to us and will NOT leave us alone. Every time. This kid is always talking my ear off, trying to play with us when my kid is not interested, often playing too rough, etc. They are just dragging my attention away from my kid and it drives me nuts. I find it so awkward. This other kid's parents is always just sitting there on their phone or whatever, but usually close enough to watch us, so they're just sitting there watching me interact with their kid when all I want is for their kid to disappear. I've tried super gently telling a kid that mine is too small to play with him or whatever, and then that kid started yelling at me, ""you don't want to play with me! I have no friends and you won't let me play with you!"" It was so embarrassing. I find every park interaction so painfully, excruciatingly awkward I just can't wait to get the hell out of there. I ended up taking my kid home before she's ready because I can't stand being there any longer.

ALSO - toys. If I bring my 2 year old to the park and she sees another kid playing with a toy she's interested in, she'll go over and maybe touch it, and that kid will melt down, ""no that's MINE!"" so I have to tell my kid, 'that's not yours...' and usually the other kid's parent comes over and half-heartedly tries to encourage their kid to share, but the kid is already upset and I just want to get the hell out of there asap. If WE bring toys, inevitably another kid will take the toy away from my kid. Sometimes a parent will say 'that's not yours,' sometimes they'll just ignore it. I always tell my kid, 'it's good to share..,' so the message i'm sending my kid is that other kids toys she can't touch, but other kids should feel free to take her toys. Then, what the hell do we do if we want to leave the park and other kids are playing with my kid's toys? Do I walk over to some kid I don't know and take the toy away? One time some other parent had brought some sand toys, and they were leaving, and my daughter and some other kids were playing with them. I saw they were leaving, and said, 'oh, time to give these back, these people are leaving!' and the other parent said, 'oh don't worry about it - keep playing. We're always at this park. I'm sure they'll be here when we come back.' So later I just walked away leaving some random toys behind. Is this what I'm supposed to do? Every toy we bring to the park should be considered gone if another kid plays with it?

This whole rant is just to say I can't do it. I hate the park. It's just constant social awkwardness and embarrassment. My kid really likes it though. What else can we do to fill our time? Does anyone else avoid parks to avoid having to navigate this minefield of embarrassment? 
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parenting,bifronz,2018/03/25,"16m not wanting to eat 1 my daughter is 16m. She is low on the growth chart so the doctor put her pn pediasure.  However pediasure made her vomit and bad diarrhea, as in running out of her diaper. I have read this isnt too rare but its to the point where she only nibbles throughout the day. 

So my big questions are any tips to get her to eat?

Also i read that some people move them back to formula.  Is this something that we can try? Obvious we will talk to the doctor asap but there advice has usually been get her to eat. 

Any replies are much appreciated.",1.8068181818181799,3.8837118508771935,3.8746251993620433,85.74222488038279,79.6140350877193,7.303349282296653,24.39872408293461,8.296473431620573,1.6242035087719295,437,16,90,9,11,149,79,114,0.033,0.909,0.058,0.5873,1,0,1,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,5,0,11,6,0,1,1,12,15,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,4,3,0,1,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,2,0,14,0,12,12,2,14,0,1,0,0,13,7,0,2,3,60,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783202440555164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373483410673784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23359165686705236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206507938912196,0.14340400094743078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107644835085748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515866213389248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272291063789253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17946447863785822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251391768984505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825429737589736,0.1262559457324136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062354598976444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906976234325145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623591795355632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265609730899026,0.192399206142182,0.0,0.34359277615957795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322214717478967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380460719794167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660691500784685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189158261347065,0.0,0.1013025468725179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,makwos,2018/03/25,"Is this normal for a 3.5 year old? My first child was extremely calm and compliant. This second one I have no clue what I'm doing with. 

He never sits still for more than a minute. He has no personal boundaries whatsoever and is always touching other people inappropriately. He will grab their head in his hands and try to get on top of it, jump headfirst in to someone's lap, or attempt to climb on to people's shoulders. He does this constantly. He jumps constantly even though he knows that's against the rules(we're in an apartment). He licks absolutely everything, people included. He also bites things like blankets and pillows and his clothes, but luckily not people anymore. If we are in a store he tries to touch or lick everything on the shelves. He constantly asks for food even after he's had a huge meal. And he always complains about how bored he is. Any kind of attempt at discipline leads to shrieking, sometimes happily sometimes not. There's yet to be any kind of discipline I've tried(time outs, distraction, ignoring) that seems to work at all. 

Kind of worried he might have some kind of sensory processing disorder, hypostimulation thing. Does that sound like it could be the case or does this all seem like no reason to worry? Also, any discipline tips or similar stories are much appreciated! ",5.711519239274657,7.90123165126051,5.755767359575413,76.10734409553298,68.62184873949579,9.212206988058382,32.27421494913755,9.682069395223575,3.3538957983193267,1055,47,179,25,19,332,148,238,0.098,0.792,0.11,0.6368,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,0,1,7,10,12,0,1,8,0,16,5,3,3,3,34,22,16,0,3,8,0,4,3,0,2,0,1,1,2,13,9,2,4,4,0,1,4,6,4,0,3,2,7,6,8,32,15,5,28,0,0,0,0,22,13,0,9,13,110,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719714029194493,0.17396708448058695,0.0,0.0,0.2132671755664068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367307169557316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772841492728153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33890357461230064,0.0,0.08346465666993216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980898751224014,0.0,0.2744443109174545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809201473091776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790305945737645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891951129867377,0.12640711332421675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05461650897828254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728559449675684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4354387177310333,0.05745105491713912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321516980671138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089772667078664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684706239356354,0.0,0.0806257347933267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242451680745394,0.0,0.0,0.10969448068847,0.0,0.0708372893231453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28989245307690914,0.09127807913236917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074819210508998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903339574867116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857425184202107,0.0,0.206780444762108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348375174327591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890008861816386,0.0,0.10270752510003807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194814859841393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610451696415862,0.2123257329248097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731869777265934
parenting,notonrexmanningday,2018/03/25,"Bedtime music Last week we moved our son into his own room, and since then I've been incorporating some soothing music into our bedtime routine. For my own sanity, I've been trying to avoid typical children's music. So far we've been listening to Nick Drake, Elliot Smith and Joni Mitchell. I tried a few of the bedtime playlists on Spotify, but I haven't found any that really do it for me. Anyone got a good recommendation or two?",5.121124497991972,6.571542578313255,6.1543975903614445,75.57729919678718,69.0,8.90682730923695,29.49598393574297,9.2995712137729,2.658656224899598,346,13,62,7,6,115,64,83,0.02,0.909,0.07,0.5994,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,8,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,1,8,1,8,3,4,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,3,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169307479103774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22305202066228336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497667266580001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675618294875263,0.2551332164913314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600273473389844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390462172701334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043593884685608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638798640380154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331597390667239,0.0,0.3116163730252635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558823328435685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oneeyedman99,2018/03/25,"The Ultimate Threat!! My daughter said this when she thought she saw a spider on the ceiling:

*Daddy I want you to kill the spider right now or I'M GOING TO FRIENDZONE YOU!!*

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parenting,mustardcorndog69,2018/03/25,"Lost the beloved stuffed animal Finally had a day off with SO and our almost 2 year old daughter. We went thrifting at a nearby town. 

While perusing this giant antique mall, somewhere along the way she dropped NaeNae from the stroller. This is her beloved  stuffed lamb, she's had for almost 2 years. She had a sippy cup and snack, so we didn't even notice his disappearance until we hit up the Goodwill nearby the antique mall..

How could we have been so negligent? I'm absolutely gutted. She's even asking for him on the way home while SO stayed back and searched every aisle.

Please tell me toddlers move on fast to other stuffed animals? 

The kicker: we have searched previously online for a back up ""NaeNae"" just in case and have never seen another one like him.",4.619941724941723,6.79822921678322,4.570786713286714,83.51720571095572,71.5174825174825,7.284149184149183,28.69988344988345,8.07648339933343,1.9966974358974363,610,24,110,9,12,188,96,143,0.016,0.901,0.083,0.8577,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,0,1,10,2,0,0,11,0,10,2,1,1,1,17,16,12,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,11,1,0,0,2,1,3,2,1,0,1,8,1,15,1,15,6,0,28,0,1,1,0,17,9,0,2,13,72,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770093410534692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973960028615284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598786028578278,0.0,0.0,0.28950447399594864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030189886696285,0.0,0.0,0.12140534683320753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486740239584384,0.0,0.15860831351169902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20621811350106253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888295862675082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919691914157194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549655473736825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007941480138489,0.0,0.0,0.14518961103384848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432329079425266,0.19753617160258344,0.0,0.12756272559727316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664140852503304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006489077500518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453835070949882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988473639542345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17450916217874454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424529976680992
parenting,knotshure,2018/03/25,"8 year daughter has some social issues, need advice on attitude adjustment My daughter K is a great kid, very smart, but dumb as rocks when it comes to social interactions.  She acts very selfishly and bossy when she interacts with others.  For example, she will see two friends playing house.  K will approach and try to declare herself as the mother and then assign the others.  Sometimes they allow it, but if they don't then K will get upset and tell me that they aren't letting her play.  When I talk with her about it and explain why they don't want her to play she just stares blankly at me and says 'Ok', just pure avoidance.  To be honest I'm not really sure that she understands why her friends get upset even after I explain it.

She hates playing by herself, but this behavior of hers is preventing her from having good friendships.  So now I'm asking Reddit for advice.

How can I help my daughter be a better friend?  How can I help her not be so narcissistic?  Should I be trying to have these higher-level discussions with her (treating her like an adult), or should I try a different way?",5.075279106858054,6.467242014354067,5.313856459330147,81.7816618819777,69.04784688995214,8.061371610845296,28.7658692185008,8.447377352677275,2.0943184051036683,867,31,159,13,15,274,126,209,0.133,0.6629999999999999,0.204,0.9606,1,1,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,4,1,12,22,2,3,6,1,20,0,0,3,2,35,33,22,0,5,9,4,0,1,3,5,0,1,0,2,10,10,0,2,4,5,0,3,5,6,0,1,0,3,31,16,19,23,1,14,0,0,2,0,43,2,1,3,9,114,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28870538793529305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810057408352616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306485255693287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724983291680678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433854639648967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756930225912636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423900557764861,0.0,0.15435779348209447,0.0,0.0,0.12390260430591316,0.0,0.16286455140461606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584536206846044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198030523745178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045190381823372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418388554252124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105624031455758,0.0,0.07216974007118268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095343442422501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463480083880547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174748421394712,0.0,0.0,0.11771568775695372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30116892250444155,0.0,0.0,0.14610130611523026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922668549902786,0.0,0.0,0.1187337306599352,0.12911595524168107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008815935383954,0.0,0.14430339423281996,0.1537843073313417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24377302706078915,0.08713054376020518,0.117255225611611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266593115834912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951284313357302
parenting,Threestarssky789,2018/03/25,"[Xposted] Inappropriate interaction daughter/stepfather Not sure how to cross post...originally posted in r/AskParents

I have been with my husband for six years (married for less). I have two children from my previous marriage (one boy, one girl), and one with this relationship (boy).

Yesterday I woke up from my mid-afrernoon nap hearing my daughter laughing. I went into her closed door room and she and my husband were on her bed. She had no pants/underwear on.

I took my husband to another room right away, and he said he was tickling her. He was trying to lighten the mood bc she had peed her pants. He didn't realize it was inappropriate bc she's ""a child"" and he sees her as his own. I told him it was inappropriate, not bc he is not her biological father/her age but bc she had no pants and underwear on.

I spoke with my daughter privately and she said he only tickled her on her belly and gave her a raspberry (on her stomach). She said he sometimes tickles her belly and feet to wake her up in the morning. She denied him ever touching her anywhere else. I had a talk about good and bad touch with her. She seemed her regular self and was not at all upset and has not been acting differently since - very happy go lucky attitude.

I want to believe my husband. He's never done anything else to make me question his appropriateness with her. I also believe my daughter's account of what happened, and her personality is not secretive so I doubt she would lie to me/keep it from me if something else was going on. She tells me secrets other ppl tell her, and she tells her dad everything we do at our house (even my mistakes...like if I slip up and say a bad word).

But it looks so so bad.

I don't know what to do.

Edit: my daughter is 8 years old.",2.6469059011164258,4.932457204678364,4.2196544391281225,83.26854066985645,77.83040935672514,6.952472089314195,27.322700691121746,8.00094639256281,1.8623906432748536,1372,58,267,24,33,457,176,342,0.08199999999999999,0.861,0.057,-0.8619,2,0,1,0,0,0,55,2,0,0,0,8,11,0,2,6,0,25,3,3,2,4,50,44,25,0,4,10,9,2,0,0,1,0,6,4,7,8,23,0,0,6,1,1,6,11,5,0,5,24,10,64,5,36,19,3,33,0,0,2,0,80,19,0,6,7,182,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085741275404426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913462838380122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349498927360878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674449004787072,0.0,0.2845898917323728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560090961986196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870289008328833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626700046696414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28473081434629915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504125464428782,0.10277074984510368,0.0,0.0,0.10210931718722148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913938928700774,0.09529438732806733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046885874151143,0.12094466557397698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280517115833948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109578958612778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098571912826906,0.0,0.0,0.06243951542050686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540750051149777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583850935650342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762644686295881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921922457944115,0.0,0.2309642194778879,0.08640888809546539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920373155479772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762242196365025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727415526216765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121979370926925,0.0,0.09702609617362476,0.3242200001741277,0.09035074904884847,0.0,0.0,0.0905359851517312,0.10343030333105524,0.11852462122004305,0.0,0.0,0.0939830244840238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746593326272895,0.1123675691247503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708024878629764,0.0,0.0,0.09131896929687301,0.297912039491658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856344969146926,0.12622980399285133,0.0771367351400797,0.0,0.11098478211826313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374379736002704,0.06701273013350095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532170806071132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070842610116485,0.0,0.0,0.14632792639671574
parenting,beebeebaby,2018/03/25,"How many times a day does your 4ish year old ask for you to help/play with/look at them? If I had to estimate how often my kid asks for, essentially, my one-to-one attention on something within the span of, say, a weekend day, I’d estimate it’s about 20-30 times a day. I know it’s a fairly normal 4-yo thing, I was just curious what other people say.

The “will you play with me” I try to indulge 1-3 times each day. I feel guilty when I don’t.

The “will you look at this” I try to indulge if I’m not actively doing something. 

The “will you help me” I almost always say ‘let me see you try’ first. I try to let her struggle. But it’s silly stuff often, such as “will you push me up to the table,” “will you pick that up for me,” “will you help me put my clothes on.” Stuff she can do. 

She’s never really been able to go play by herself for very long. I have a two-year-old who goes off by himself and plays as long as we’ll let him.

She seems desperate for adult interaction all the time. Peer interaction, she could take it or leave it. Anyone else have a similar kid? I’m particularly nervous because I’m pregnant with number three. Actually, that’s why I made this post.",1.5366203971467132,3.0130163076923075,3.567993059572008,90.43107962213226,78.23076923076924,6.810025062656642,21.478503952188163,7.62386473244151,0.6165702332754961,896,24,208,13,21,305,138,247,0.057,0.867,0.076,0.5114,0,0,2,0,0,0,37,1,9,1,1,9,6,0,2,12,0,20,0,0,4,2,25,33,11,0,4,6,0,1,0,0,7,0,3,0,3,15,4,0,0,4,4,0,3,3,2,0,2,4,6,39,4,29,18,2,29,0,0,2,0,32,9,0,7,16,132,54,0,0.1085329108690107,0.0,0.1059124649475416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868003268882076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030807623323144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588873479548366,0.11120479301132187,0.0,0.0,0.20292724159300773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616065509969071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665469792557039,0.0,0.0,0.27997899522726866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497788169185101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906653203921166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0548775007844649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231803854111728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168175438877125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21824196713977292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596468494327791,0.0,0.0,0.11492068169507398,0.0,0.33294676407974755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19209642157509005,0.18228062083576324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026964644802579,0.0,0.11003533670722226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837072717039016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633920893272923,0.0,0.0,0.22777406551259485,0.0,0.07354470925865221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752430548286546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394452734493363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910555241448487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952896184670265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25892918074531696,0.0,0.0,0.0864866781592617,0.09880428584408836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167107874450482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346216346165545,0.24848843334718526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160324188608221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210444337320324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531456525050769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29474688877072297,0.0,0.1060208834702724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895510179528728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793407084488956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978327241676786
parenting,ABearinDaWoods,2018/03/25,"Will be a first time father in August, a little freaked out & excited, would love some quick pointers for the first few months our baby girl comes home. My wife and I are expecting, she is due Aug 25th and we are having a baby girl.  The military has been my life for the past 10 years, my wife and I have been married 8 years, its about time that this happens! To keep things short, I would love any quick pointers you all might have from the day I get to bring her home, to the first few months.  Maybe some must buy items? Help with getting baby to sleep? Clothing? lessons learned? 

Im just an active duty guy who is a little nervous but also super excited.  I want to be a great dad - how can I make our baby girl have the best experience when we bring her home?",3.1538095238095245,4.573118948051949,3.5903246753246765,92.17929653679657,73.80519480519482,6.432034632034633,22.573593073593074,6.816661863887847,0.4231359307359313,594,15,129,5,12,185,99,154,0.017,0.782,0.201,0.9853,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,4,1,0,6,7,9,0,1,12,0,19,4,1,2,2,25,30,7,0,5,2,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,4,5,8,0,2,2,0,1,3,0,2,0,3,2,0,17,7,12,21,7,24,0,0,0,2,20,5,0,3,16,85,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521268987140325,0.0,0.15609973457245566,0.0,0.09797250884147367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511925279308408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241035082316226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291320148511474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092805951234935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676374868929883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054120901317192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883763249494012,0.0,0.14265190474515566,0.12740058420169284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656705305770297,0.0,0.4335417307277498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562027245468968,0.0,0.0,0.12805599440589407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176086890758226,0.0,0.2887918841555813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600575160454517,0.0,0.09616781277333276,0.0,0.1447376327449447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528354536214581,0.0,0.0,0.22999052496891506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753107260029535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417399923319058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571367551581217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680166970896698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497619137810436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046863229877448,0.0,0.0,0.1855526532447944
parenting,dkwitrader,2018/03/25,"What fishing pole for kids do you recommend? (Ages 5 & 7) I have a 5 & 7 year old, the kids have had the theme based fishing poles since they were 3.  I really want to teach them how to fish with a  longer pole 5-6 foot range but not sure yet.  

Found this guide online that recommends Zebco rods.
[https://www.tackle.org/best-kids-fishing-pole/](https://www.tackle.org/best-kids-fishing-pole/)

Any suggestions ill take!!  Thank you",6.910326086956522,10.764548347826093,3.849112318840578,82.82845108695652,72.76811594202898,6.928260869565218,17.320652173913047,8.07648339933343,0.5340565217391307,352,6,60,6,8,94,56,69,0.087,0.782,0.131,0.2703,0,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,5,2,1,1,1,7,9,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,6,2,4,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,4,26,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5413202246534586,0.0,0.16987376897592632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5243030900059498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738947460980231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26212493536688314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600294097502127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20663860468278186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23543521098373515,0.0,0.18781984206129604,0.0,0.0,0.22998390695320076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733955548668656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086414915218092
parenting,cliiiip_cliiiip,2018/03/25,"April Fool’s Easter Pranks? I know this April Fool’s has a lot of potential, given it falls on Easter this year.  Any prank ideas, besides wrapping grapes in candy foil to make them look like chocolate eggs? ",2.396923076923077,5.28224766666667,1.9750769230769265,94.79492307692308,85.15384615384616,4.1456410256410265,18.056410256410253,5.6839178017228535,-0.343660512820513,165,4,31,1,5,48,34,39,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,4,4,1,6,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,4,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182549436432707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5283132009070045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571996679236833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286403667260357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930007669618565,0.0,0.0,0.3978754830137528,0.0,0.0,0.3123925496691737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301375609850072
parenting,-mlc-,2018/03/25,"1st birthday gift ideas? First post here so I hope I'm doing this right. My nephew is turning one next month and I'm in desperate need of gift ideas. Looking to spend around $50-75, but could go up to $100 if it's a really great gift. He is extremely spoiled and has more clothes and toys than I can count. I asked my sister what she would like for him and of course she said don't buy anything because I spoil him all the time with stuff, but it's his first birthday so obviously I'm going to get him something. 

He was born three months early so he is just now learning to talk and stand up. Any ideas? I can provide more information if needed. ",1.4858632478632463,3.4757120592592585,2.532592592592593,95.40128205128208,80.25925925925927,5.635327635327637,21.49572649572649,6.67199483983844,0.2093076923076924,508,15,116,5,13,161,94,135,0.012,0.84,0.147,0.9594,0,0,1,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,0,2,24,24,12,0,7,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,0,5,1,2,2,1,0,0,4,2,2,13,3,13,20,3,18,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,3,10,66,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215226777152243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571633304717476,0.14681509040329427,0.1541793292479471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005346088164298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167638900984574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805642682179155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616467100588758,0.0,0.18745736538558566,0.0,0.0,0.1818265236076733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638042506514204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5585288595714669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057230891338467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849251403970067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26327751780821684,0.0,0.0,0.24457438844055315,0.0,0.0,0.1753958743146175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175506900129267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579491977442715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056529287707038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408420503052976,0.15687810247391012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696461940038142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887956475364732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255764556911392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616704637306693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793872213986356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715549380303375,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Linzeelu,2018/03/25,"Facebook's BS options to resolve privacy issues are a JOKE I have many reasons why I choose to not post pictures of my children on Facebook. I ask others to please do the same. If my kid is one of many in the picture, or far in the distance, I don't care. I made this decision about a year ago, and no one has had a problem with it. 
Recently a picture of my children, with  identifying factors (car license plate, caption of where they were and when they'd return) was posted. Only 3 ppl in pic, 2 of them were my 4 and 6 year old kids. Long story short, the person won't remove the pic. Contacted FB almost 3 weeks ago about this. Completed a form Facebook has specifically for the purpose of having photos of kids under age 13 removed. To date, have submitted about 30 of the same form. Picture is still there. Fb has asked me to resend them the URL like 5 times. Then they said the pic was removed (it was not). They asked me for tons of documentation to prove the kids were mine which I sent right away...still there. And it takes them 3 or 4 days to respond to anything I email. I'd hate to think how long it'd take for a photo with serious privacy concerns to get  removed, if one so simple takes weeks! If a photo you posted (or someone else posts), not only of your kids- of anything- gets into the wrong hands and you want it removed, just know this is most likely gonna be the experience. Especially if we didn't post it ourselves, soc media platforms should have efficient and REAL actions in place in situations regarding privacy issues. Until they do, I choose to avoid them altogether! It's naive to think that a time will NEVER come when you may want something removed, for whatever reason. To have no control or consent over what is posted about us on social media is a scary thing....",4.219372814685318,5.583288275568184,5.177500000000002,82.05596153846156,71.07386363636364,7.574475524475522,28.595279720279716,8.012643519586192,1.8870114510489515,1411,53,269,19,26,462,192,352,0.076,0.873,0.051,-0.8511,0,1,1,0,0,0,49,2,4,9,2,13,10,1,1,21,0,32,1,1,5,2,50,52,20,0,8,12,0,1,2,0,5,0,1,0,8,15,12,0,2,10,1,0,10,9,5,0,3,11,2,30,5,46,33,6,54,0,0,0,0,32,16,0,12,24,181,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695113432005995,0.0,0.09429713711647833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498692584642262,0.0,0.2641072713874824,0.0,0.08847533163059833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601206667927452,0.0,0.0,0.08111867354450507,0.098734914046232,0.0,0.10561908554143327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060731527791938425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866652168944635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921158266654859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983993390915516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297287110267798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965769540196418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051753086564053516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201290800049187,0.0,0.0,0.16667406290460546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910544423739904,0.0,0.1909461559116022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262931269177889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881503416877524,0.0,0.1914350417894572,0.14324027454061658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222516257623601,0.09838706954260153,0.10336981666915088,0.0,0.0,0.5411300183696562,0.0,0.0,0.0901074798925946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718549098473984,0.0,0.19364383029139265,0.092981006380111,0.0,0.0,0.08042022620496854,0.0895767454408007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585044740842604,0.0,0.09599393156908988,0.07978949959296346,0.07249627075204794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520387287741141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241120099716085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625620218843538,0.12068000800448085,0.0,0.0,0.1098219687376256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327429644441785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110872049578273,0.0,0.15107416233245807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497331366542167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102959549576047,0.0,0.12128412257120952
parenting,santosomartin,2018/03/25,"List of basic behaviors in elementary school in Japan The year of Japan will soon be over, a lot of high school kids will soon take off the uniform and enter the adult world at However, although this is the end of some young teens to study informally, some children will start his new life as an elementary school student.
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But you know what? Elementary school in Japan is not based on his knowledge, but Japan is more concerned about the child's behavior above all.
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An old student uploaded a paper that contains his child's primary entry requirements on his personal Twitter account. Parents need to make sure that his child can behave like the list listed before entering formal education at school.
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Not just his son, his parents need to follow the list.

The list contains 18 points divided into 2 Categories, starting with
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. "" basic behavior and attitude,"" which includes:
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● listening to full attention when someone speaks.
● can greet others and respond to questions with clear and easy sound.
● can sit properly in the chair.
*● can differentiate between own property and someone else's property.*
● can take off and tidy up shoes.
● wearing clothes neatly.
● can keep your tables and your surroundings neat and tidy.
● responsible for sleep early and wake up early in the morning.
● eating breakfast on time.
● Always Brush your teeth.
● don't lie.
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II. "" relationship with friends,"" the criteria is:
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● don't let anyone feel abandoned.
● helping other people who have problems, help them.
● don't talk bad about friends.
● able to hang out, play, and learn with anyone.
● not only play alone, but also be friendly when playing with everyone.
● playing outside, good to exercise and also relax in the environment.
● to apologize for when you make a mistake.
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Some believe that this list of behavior is not only useful for children, sometimes the old parents are still difficult to complete the list of such good behavior.
From this list we learn to be a good personal, understanding of basic behavior and attitude needs to be formed since early.",4.882504892367908,7.700570205479451,5.223444227005874,76.18753424657534,72.97260273972603,8.335812133072407,31.52446183953033,9.081645337920577,3.2810407045009784,1635,77,261,38,35,518,196,365,0.042,0.7709999999999999,0.18600000000000005,0.9953,5,1,0,0,0,0,59,1,5,1,1,12,20,0,0,20,0,24,9,5,3,3,59,40,22,0,5,8,4,1,1,3,3,2,3,0,9,11,20,2,7,9,6,1,4,7,5,0,0,0,5,14,15,49,32,9,46,0,1,0,0,41,23,0,5,19,157,25,11,0.09695929102177918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042058410635886,0.0,0.15507661999937966,0.0806778973769795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355923813964687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095695801089399,0.0,0.0,0.08250521527031021,0.10923991814253696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165997190862702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992135606288199,0.08099704610421657,0.0,0.08587715280301789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926487576704431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049025530841337775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473152317651796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24397455931999226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997953791552194,0.10244281439898524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618187287047517,0.0,0.0,0.05328629064104811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914744426271974,0.06848521467557858,0.047369411990276916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243132192965785,0.0,0.0,0.12944215931654274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156822571778012,0.0,0.09364388746041906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034849312380816,0.0,0.0,0.14748381995010024,0.0,0.0,0.3229854549636063,0.0,0.0,0.06721936408122535,0.1693222260520405,0.0,0.0,0.0916578700280627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277694686956507,0.0,0.0,0.10861659612057724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040979925556824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4906398946176893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020572748288282,0.0,0.09702931386217807,0.0,0.16430658527592296,0.0,0.0958952180631914,0.0,0.13725657046389486,0.0,0.07743181505741498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138298432195098,0.0,0.14580264023145162,0.07793220537063902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056537742320763175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100938041406726,0.0,0.08374169643432612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243860448279881
parenting,Kipod13,2018/03/25,"Suddenly sensitive toddler So my 23 month old is increasingly sensitive in the past few weeks. She started by being more needy and clingy but also showing a lot of resistance to any attempt to help her out. Any question, even the simplest 'Do you want  something to eat?' is answered by 'Don't want to'. She became fearful and over causious in the playground, refuses to climb up, scared of slides and won't go near the swings. All of this appeared suddenly, and beforehand she was a happy and independent toddler who loved trying anything. No major changes in home life, but two major issues in her life:
- Potty training - been at it for 3 weeks now. She is very good at holding it in, not so good at letting it out. But she gets all her pees at home in the toilet. No poop yet but we're hopeful. In daycare there is very little support of the process, they only try because we told them to and she has trouble succeeding there. We don't want to go back to diapers now that she has no accidents at home, but daycare situation is very stressful
- Day care as whole: she's not a big fan, especially her group leader. She's been with her since September and still cries when left with her. We don't suspect abuse, she's just cold and not well suited to work with children. Unfortunately, this situation won't change until next year
So I'm completely at a loss. I want to help her and I just don't know what to do. All of those things are probably connected and I just need to do something to boost her confidence and show her we love her no matter what. Any ideas?",4.00230198019802,5.724351148514852,4.716588283828383,83.7334962871287,72.16831683168317,7.822277227722773,29.126650165016503,8.472884824447931,2.137946204620463,1230,50,239,21,24,395,167,303,0.129,0.6779999999999999,0.193,0.9794,0,0,2,0,1,0,34,4,1,2,5,17,15,0,3,10,0,22,7,2,1,3,51,40,23,0,6,11,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,1,11,20,1,2,5,2,0,6,13,5,1,1,4,1,31,10,44,32,10,45,0,1,0,2,37,21,0,4,18,166,42,2,0.0,0.12513463809596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445901748201043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154622510654259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691084958490204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121020437674696,0.0,0.0643809633574799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767992512822164,0.0,0.22344999873710056,0.0,0.1107336662958706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601138768015334,0.06811192167546679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080688997688436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975667087319508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884446493579212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055178655311311914,0.0,0.12004508610577895,0.17716705949059633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242745434233976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415809045251905,0.0,0.3178166281473531,0.10489796084296396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922470104407515,0.0,0.11023297603559534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05804237612119448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474929483022707,0.10799688216463836,0.14919577028612227,0.0,0.10585239707441743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978875680873176,0.19064047821925487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429962789137059,0.0,0.0,0.07831101610551074,0.0,0.0,0.11232107520228524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082352300966823,0.0,0.0,0.08032376851861374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008199641726368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386913456126176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831120630074345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573746241854824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736451619414021,0.23742782852081826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626127480982746,0.0,0.0,0.07475372550921773,0.0,0.08434301729847055,0.0,0.1209798210294051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984886264117507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016486641081314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091815315301307,0.0,0.14340916528929462,0.0,0.10316896958686797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26142640804092704,0.24917413667431,0.0,0.16943343739396327,0.0,0.09495915236258487,0.0,0.0,0.1179136168741795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688783094629881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680115827593629
parenting,whatim,2018/03/25,"Almost 4 year old obsessed with death So a couple months ago, my husband let our 3 1/2 year old watch 'The Good Dinosaur.'  She freaked out when  the dad dinosaur, well, you know.

In general she's pretty resilient to  fantasy peril (Nemo's family, the king and queen in Frozen) but maybe that's because it usually happens off screen and isn't anyone fault, which was not the case in that movie.

Anyway, a few nights later, at bedtime, she asked me where my parents were.  I had to awkwardly explain that my parents were dead (My Mom died when my daughter was 20 months. She has no memory of ever meeting her Nana.)  Well, she lost her shit.  Sobbing, asking me what 'dead' meant (""You mean your nose doesn't breathe? Your eyes never see? When will you die? Do children die?""). 

 I tried to answer gently but honestly.  Even so, she  had a breakdown at daycare, because she was so sad that I can't see my mommy anymore. Luckily, we warned them it might come up, so her favorite teacher was able to help her calm down.

But wait, it gets better.  My husband's grandfather died.  I wanted to stay home with our daughter, but my husband wanted us to travel to the funeral.  His sister has a daughter a few months older than ours and since she was attending the (open casket) wake and funeral, he insisted that we could.

You see where this is going. Every week since, we have the ""what happens when you die/I don't want you to die/why do children die"" talk. It's been six months. My heart breaks that she has this angst.

 Do I get her into therapy? Who even does therapy for preschool kids pondering mortality?  Will it just get better on it's own?  

TL; DR - Due to Pixar and great-grandfathers demise, my daughter brings up her own and our death on a weekly basis.  Should I get a therapist? ",2.4057394218684536,4.8369690879765415,3.227896103896107,89.27327272727274,79.52785923753666,6.125881860075411,23.81910347716799,7.33818517376401,1.0878766820276504,1373,48,268,19,35,434,192,341,0.184,0.7090000000000001,0.107,-0.9868,2,1,0,0,0,0,65,8,8,1,5,17,15,1,2,14,0,28,7,6,0,2,38,51,18,13,5,6,12,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,18,15,0,1,6,2,0,5,7,8,2,1,12,7,51,7,27,33,4,45,0,3,6,0,56,16,2,2,22,173,69,0,0.0824922864469557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312443463547623,0.0,0.08260410889053707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181018181677371,0.05768052472490695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423830437556904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005730643046868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591544739556028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105980040782467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586337826945385,0.09127614592519194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992977863567714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218955577543941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897075438986313,0.07461899586379937,0.06950330919470074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776638603670599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239525969988365,0.0,0.0468822674232921,0.06919061605168518,0.0,0.09094803703112267,0.0,0.0,0.1458953129401665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097753756624516,0.055292840742625235,0.0,0.08274648931621095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533560327158027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843539519154146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005007534679797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287458945287163,0.08985828338318409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875112797722895,0.0,0.096613968881604,0.263378224078561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362313679603925,0.0,0.0,0.07741342264972974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312355585975175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319584359084845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392431182886187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720701595768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467714659179043,0.13647694360137716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792580140449062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630417509378944,0.0,0.0,0.18867423765228994,0.095779902657338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600684756158586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992280635883542,0.0,0.09085359909887657,0.0,0.14596826354357426,0.0,0.13234067265947028,0.0,0.14834094488229224,0.0,0.0744364576640118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624465571197818
parenting,solopadre,2018/03/25,"Single parents: How much time do you actually get to spend with your kids? I recently started a job that *on paper* requires 50 hours a week. Now, that I've started, I realize that this number will be closer to 60 hours.

When I chart out my days, this gives me only about 3.5 hours per day that I will be able to spend with my kid, who is set to arrive in a couple of months.

This has sent me into a panic. But I'm wondering whether it is really all that unusual, given how much people have to work in 2018. How much actual time do you get to spend?

I'm lucky enough to have good child care lined up (a mix between live-in nanny and center-based care). But there's no substitute for one-on-one time.",3.360689655172415,4.056070068965521,4.713275862068965,87.09681034482759,72.44827586206897,8.006896551724138,22.77586206896552,8.238735603445708,1.0067103448275865,540,12,119,8,10,180,95,145,0.04,0.884,0.076,0.6292,2,0,0,0,1,0,24,0,3,0,2,7,5,0,1,5,0,11,0,0,3,1,16,23,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,10,5,0,1,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,11,4,19,17,6,24,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,15,73,21,4,0.14980756843083134,0.0,0.2923811535738919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054776003325825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575922508322424,0.0,0.19322697673393185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479126427631815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653654285148227,0.14370907025239754,0.0,0.12565148082783836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4425908354031234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866089598058216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228282752630885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957497187391862,0.0,0.33037739962921914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151348541907552,0.1139354063792206,0.0,0.17576690370980494,0.16634357621198356,0.0,0.0,0.10385770541796964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959705643788149,0.0,0.1479169009057283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120691359813312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26206199361771143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016659514198427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245991760021028,0.10906169401717404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angelaamariee,2018/03/25,"Getting ready for bed has become disastrous Hello!
My daughter is almost 5 and for the past couple of weeks, we've had some really rough evenings. I was going to post this morning after having a rough night last night and decided against it, but after it happened yet again tonight, I just don't know what to do.
When it's time to start the routine, bath, pajamas, teeth my daughter wants nothing to do with it. We do pajamas first, she knows when it's evening time and i ask her to go to my room that it's time to start getting ready for bed. So she runs from me. I grab her, put her in my room and she gets on my bed and jumps around, and runs away and kicks at me when I try to grab her (all while laughing). When I do get ahold of her, she stiffens up, wiggles around, and doesn't allow me to get her undressed to get pajamas on. She laughs during this. I attempt to do the pajamas thing for a while (way too long) and then i just try putting her in bed. She jumps up, runs around, yells, etc. I have recently resorted to spanking, she laughs, yells. I recognize that spanking does nothing positive even if it were to do whatever I'm expecting it to do, but it's like last resort ""maybe this will work"". All it does is give her a reason to hit me. It ends after 30 minutes or so of her fighting everything i try to do, until she finally realizes that it isn't fun anymore and starts crying. That is when i reassure her that i love her, that no matter what, i love her, but that she cannot act that way, we cuddle, i leave, and she doesn't get up.
I don't know what to do.
4 days ago, i started marking faces on her calendar at bedtime after she's been good. Happy faces or sad faces. If she gets 5 happy faces in a row, she gets $5 to spend or save. It was fine for 2 nights, she got happy faces, and the most recent 2 she got sad faces.
Last night, she also got her tablet taken away for a day.
I've TRIED to just stand there and just watch her be obnoxious, in attempts to wait for her to stop, but that hasn't worked out. I just don't know what to do. It's like she's this kid that i don't know. Because any other time of the day, she's generally a really good, kind kid. but bedtime, she just.. isn't like that. I really don't know what to do. What has worked for you?

tldr; my kid fights getting ready for bed, and I don't know what to do.",3.488830971659919,3.7547794898785414,4.547629048582998,89.95419660931175,71.91497975708502,7.956376518218622,25.558957489878544,7.8658589789855275,1.100481983805667,1804,50,420,22,32,591,196,494,0.081,0.772,0.147,0.9903,0,0,0,0,4,0,76,2,1,0,6,24,22,2,0,11,0,38,10,7,2,2,60,74,36,0,4,16,2,4,3,0,1,0,2,8,3,38,21,0,2,10,1,1,10,13,4,0,1,9,7,69,18,63,62,5,78,0,2,1,3,51,20,0,8,47,274,107,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668209908729858,0.0,0.07532660459551084,0.0,0.0,0.0601571124884399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051155330560631936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460262328796728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20089761794660585,0.07032487804315203,0.0,0.14135203943599156,0.0,0.0,0.045856238567243336,0.08307969795555525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323462652711608,0.08263072797527496,0.1455409969068467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165916797257626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662669771083166,0.0,0.08389535144391141,0.14905548353430784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760705036558562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240490939943926,0.0,0.0639860350992992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39301766389011855,0.07216232330364562,0.0855037859052525,0.12618970768031992,0.180492034702292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652089525440788,0.24023406449530305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833488024564553,0.289390440175784,0.1839543499858144,0.0,0.07965202563636922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025286902519832,0.0,0.0,0.06657143375007375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578633797780598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557325555081315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28237289193682585,0.0,0.1443601299409607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181042482652171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204440519076584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124306834600493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457247998697922,0.0773434522126704,0.1485505014608415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129775319892072,0.0,0.0,0.06289116221017002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049975904139669736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545635568514126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429035395821213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044369438030459896,0.11941962581663836,0.060340663770938927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429328802743307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rchllnn,2018/03/25,"New baby, new grandma, fuck cancer My daughter, and my mom's first grandchild, is almost three months old. My mom recently found out she has pretty advanced cancer and will leave us within a couple years (more likely--a couple months). She's wanted to be a grandma for so long, and now that she is, I'm devastated knowing that her only grandchild won't even remember her. Any thoughts or ideas for things we can do together now, any milestone-type activities we should do, to create memories for the rest of us, and photos for my daughter? Her grandma loves her SO much and I want to do everything I can to ensure my daughter grows up knowing that.",8.464146341463415,7.279195048780494,8.23426829268293,72.53969512195124,61.92682926829268,10.476422764227642,36.76016260162602,9.2995712137729,3.3700796747967483,513,20,90,7,6,165,77,123,0.129,0.754,0.117,-0.5685,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,0,2,5,2,1,0,3,0,12,4,0,0,0,19,21,8,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,2,0,18,1,12,15,3,16,0,0,0,2,17,3,1,2,11,65,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528468011686574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20760071905282268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377862703211703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081720784312018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718289096285524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983541255988287,0.0,0.16736176096380698,0.0,0.1411131188094481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172311856554112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677737834638436,0.0,0.0,0.1616236041767437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350814994589093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776346029242573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575399889932852,0.24367140804845366,0.0,0.11220788220899944,0.0,0.0,0.29484111407436225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016988788760955,0.0,0.0,0.1160895146530785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528964328301045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071347687987216,0.0,0.17291124013760142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140716051490813,0.0,0.0,0.12117902271404048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672139875206021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006192391183215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829508474185301
parenting,Teavovo,2018/03/25,"7yo girl says she wants to marry a girl So she's been saying this for probably over a year.  She knows that girls can marry girls and that you can marry who you love and I've always reinforced that idea. She imagines having two kids (who she says she will adopt) and having a wife.

I probed a little and she hasn't shared this with anyone else.  When she was talking about weddings with family, she didn't mention the part about wanting to marry a girl. Her friends, she says, talk about marrying boys, but she doesn't tell them she wants to marry a girl. I asked her how she felt about that and she says sometimes she feels left out about that. I asked if her friends know she wants to marry a girl and she says she doesn't need to tell them.  She says it's not a big deal.  

I know people will say it's too early to be concerned about orientation, but I also remember being very much aware of my boy crushes at a young age.  I also don't want to be dismissive nor do I want to really overthink because she is still young. 

I would love to hear from parents who have experience with this.",2.9430656565656577,4.576204468181821,3.5512121212121213,91.37126262626265,74.77272727272728,6.525252525252526,21.313131313131315,7.1686216300943375,0.4191919191919182,853,20,183,9,18,268,114,220,0.039,0.892,0.07,0.8613,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,2,2,0,13,5,0,0,10,0,20,2,0,1,0,31,37,15,0,9,4,2,2,0,2,3,0,9,0,10,13,10,0,0,8,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,11,36,5,24,27,2,13,0,0,0,2,65,6,0,1,7,124,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308903275888073,0.08484631821537293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129904666322945,0.10447921878598608,0.0,0.0,0.19065436927591725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215931320946742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512548925884406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518195654197258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997451797198245,0.09612723208233197,0.0,0.051558554767549364,0.0,0.0979061635420818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756188455072476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492639484347104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511051012632555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811837142166047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078954066456836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219965593225597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840618806872288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495889615243279,0.07560866945754616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322442941519772,0.11042241425327276,0.0,0.07069241688861898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993975285494263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532390754060874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551091989171595,0.0,0.0,0.6487182861482557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084987898363017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143251911557567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639175266357342,0.1782506783438255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960882782135444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413504619583614,0.3608635005794207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243580215057732,0.0,0.0,0.06566464765581499
parenting,thisisallme,2018/03/26,"The 4-day saga of a 4yo not pooping (and its aftermath)... Dude. 

So kiddo got a bit of the crud a few days ago. Not pooping, bit of a fever and threw up Saturday night (better within a couple hours), and just a big crab. Miralax, fruit juice, prune baby food because she hates whole prunes, Pedialyte (she hates it), everything. Yes, please jump up and down constantly! Maybe that'll help. Nope. OK, just keep with the miralax water and juice.

So it started to get so that she didn't really want to eat last night/this morning. I work and my husband is a SAHD, and he texted saying that she just still wouldn't go poopy. She'd try and mayyyyybe a tiny hard nugget would come out, but that's it. We agreed that I'd meet them at the children's urgent care when it opened. Turns out it wasn't needed! 

I got a text around 1:30pm saying she was going poopy for the third time. That it, and her farts, smelled like death warmed over. She's gone poopy more since I got home. 

My husband is currently trying to teach her to ""not trust her farts"". We've gone through a lot of underwear this evening. She runs to the bathroom and we yell, ""Have to go poopy?"" So that we can help a bit. She says:

""No! Not poop. I have to go pee-poop."" Which is apparently her way of describing lose stools. I did laugh when I heard that.

Welp, looks like it all worked at once! But she's happier, eating, not being a little terror, and, in general, is better. But our house still smells so bad that if you lit a candle, I bet the air would burst into flames.",1.9428174109666472,3.9993078131147577,2.478281514980214,96.02688524590164,79.0655737704918,5.7806670435274174,19.041831543244765,6.8039241337230125,-0.05855002826455592,1173,26,262,12,29,361,176,305,0.083,0.7759999999999999,0.14,0.9603,2,0,0,0,0,0,68,4,1,1,5,14,14,2,1,20,2,17,9,3,0,1,43,39,22,1,6,12,2,2,2,0,4,1,5,1,1,19,21,5,1,0,0,1,10,10,5,0,1,11,12,29,9,27,22,8,42,0,1,2,0,31,16,0,3,17,151,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711199266067194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752526423438776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147205483247428,0.06678240133619891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378118856158225,0.3588100191284015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111696433242782,0.0,0.0,0.09437008094590572,0.0,0.11838771292114697,0.0,0.0,0.12121814626490525,0.0,0.1413050520494361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419983361388676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235862508400341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984590387641681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324717426826023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723684319122089,0.0,0.2490456402225695,0.0,0.2628582691491396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813783641611257,0.21632151977729955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468619339391233,0.0,0.10989044227459573,0.0,0.10788749081580196,0.12640928158410114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737560790899064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893001956558773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704397886031257,0.10980073759646736,0.0,0.0,0.09199680352411102,0.1225616181009292,0.0,0.09313791655126613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006056406211087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123205111990835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561585931362028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667021124508485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025613265334273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018236182122484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26136247351438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062325070570827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754207203475501,0.0,0.1749780971700237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388114860952691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487583896261512,0.11916204335070177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646171101292294,0.08695795411796321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231184614884097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951156106858644,0.0,0.0,0.15564640471582847,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MAC_Addy,2018/03/26,"4 year old behavior is terrible. My 4 year old boy is becoming quite the nightmare. He struggles to listen to me at all. He takes toys away from his younger brother. He also struggles to just play by himself. Whenever I ask him to do a task, he just does not do it. When trying to explain the issue, he still doesn't listen. I always explain in a calm voice, so it doesn't frustrate him or scare him. One of the tasks is that he needs to clean up all his toys before dinner. It's as though he struggles to understand the reason to do so. 

Has anyone ever had this problem with their child?",2.1462337662337667,4.143662630252102,3.5030404889228417,89.21588999236059,78.15966386554622,6.007944996180291,24.26355996944233,6.980632752743323,0.9351445378151256,459,16,93,5,11,150,78,119,0.133,0.787,0.08,-0.7771,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,1,1,9,9,1,4,6,0,10,1,0,1,3,14,18,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,5,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,3,7,0,1,1,3,11,2,17,17,2,11,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,1,7,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937380950542486,0.14501716506798173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218625137381376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16293079488750398,0.0,0.1637443304924334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19248154570003506,0.14830173828052592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251596226613084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15764867694852536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18190585518560567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922841120180534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657607451557085,0.0,0.11809846568865465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676500325510593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537110071660626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919163884822645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448738316010734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918238663590446,0.0,0.0,0.5465943459540058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310388980949393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123186452915656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832651077559254,0.0,0.0,0.18143443357132746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244646850571023
parenting,juniorjames_25,2018/03/26,"Black out the window Evening all

So it's that time of year again for us in the UK where the sun is up crazy early and every year I am faced with the same conundrum. Keeping the child's room dark like its night time. 

I've bought the suction cup type blackout blinds where you stick the black material to the windows. I've tried taking said material and stapling Velcro to it and sticking its opposite to the pvc frame of the window and that is short lived. Just what do you parents do? Looking for any home made or shop bought tips that you have! If I can do it home made that would likely be better than shop bought alternatives maybe?! Help! :)",3.871259842519685,5.527787031496064,3.8574881889763795,90.02638976377955,72.38582677165354,6.654803149606299,23.723622047244092,7.1686216300943375,0.7107234645669291,511,14,106,5,10,156,84,127,0.018000000000000002,0.888,0.094,0.8731,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,3,0,1,6,3,0,0,10,0,10,2,1,2,1,15,19,7,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,6,1,10,6,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,6,3,12,11,2,14,0,0,4,0,8,7,0,2,9,62,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968680845691853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181669707106406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567230465670962,0.0,0.17306797943192195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768294395264302,0.0,0.4120888020144408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825791068725202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007072867228007,0.0,0.18138204587212434,0.0,0.17249385737604295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38873050170357776,0.0,0.0,0.20636337908285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276470133769716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280850714732005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539329776194012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444382296682296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23955410003743435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946086962107365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470846448486527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459183781809848,0.0,0.0,0.2645564377086411
parenting,KateMS007,2018/03/26,"Stepson acting like different person at our home vs. his moms We have an almost 8 year old who has been struggling at school, worst this year than in the past. He even got suspended as a second grader - very defiant, saying no and refusing to participate. Schools cant/don't discipline anymore, but he behaves great at our house. He is with his mom 80% of the time. Anyone have any experience with this? We get calls and emails from the teacher and the kid they describe is not the same kid that we know and love.",5.164035346097201,6.613924814432992,5.142120765832106,82.87721649484537,68.89690721649485,8.429455081001473,28.290132547864513,8.841846274778883,2.1144916053019145,405,14,77,7,7,126,76,97,0.106,0.774,0.12,0.7595,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,7,0,6,1,0,0,0,17,10,6,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,9,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,2,1,8,3,11,8,2,10,0,0,0,1,22,4,0,1,6,47,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578891596749506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617180160786226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400325600005685,0.12973207150358113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894544406252132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938471045304324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254570990579447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814911894779002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969356393034262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839121648176518,0.20455565027370665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18610915070274286,0.0,0.0,0.21408526118926746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196650868446354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906442069991588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674547569982727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43459834593983004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469030175147886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711645248483518,0.0,0.16200411048980168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754679589507952,0.0,0.3755475299452734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396398612820864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081883562168828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308779485637133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23896001878339276
parenting,Kidnevermarry,2018/03/26,"How do you come to terms with the idea of your child never making you a grandparent? First off, I do realize that this is my son's life to live and I am not going to pressure him to have kids when he is older. I am posting here because I can't say this to anyone in my personal life and I don't want my son to have any inclination of how I feel. 

I have a lot of doubts that my son is going to ever get married or have kids. He is 16 and has absolutely zero interest in either boys or girls. He doesn't expand his social circle much beyond his 3 friends and isn't friends with any girls. My husband and I joke that we will have to convert our basement into an apartment because our son won't want to ever live on his own. We have been working on dependency issues and I finally think that he won't have to live with us forever but I think he is asexual. 

He's my only child. We are infertile and he's all we got. It's kind of sad that we may never be grandparents. Is there any kind of therapy that deals with these issues? I want to get help but I don't know where to turn. I realize that my son may change but if he doesnt, how do I manage my emotions on this?",2.176299014468441,3.1832067011952248,4.276846299014469,87.92910463409521,75.61354581673307,7.515286223526946,23.967498427343262,8.032893268588372,1.1245171314741036,906,27,206,14,19,313,122,251,0.048,0.895,0.057,0.485,2,0,0,0,0,0,16,8,3,0,2,10,9,0,2,4,0,33,2,0,5,5,50,48,17,0,4,8,6,1,0,2,5,2,1,0,8,12,18,0,0,7,1,0,3,11,3,0,2,2,2,37,6,29,40,6,23,0,1,0,0,43,10,0,8,9,147,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674577538136024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166825973200472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15983484589807564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868655520017245,0.11293115434291667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515847833633995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474700016300538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23717514798649164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066288165284487,0.0,0.0,0.1436137852409124,0.0,0.11151370434284792,0.0,0.0,0.20257527179965484,0.0,0.13698881483919126,0.0,0.14901445115071554,0.0,0.1048527508791309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787365424792466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479960901859501,0.0,0.2736689514834454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730412241323884,0.07204920335982687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519979904553951,0.0,0.0,0.34729145226362584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145664307798883,0.0,0.0,0.08751035536285225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637368076155907,0.0,0.20222500598250584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970755712242477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144715775051938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555768594712302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425608603930972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336400735900176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992442513599205,0.0,0.0,0.1680073405364705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425992960329157,0.0,0.0,0.1576973154995134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319787616176833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544245666612224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,troyzein,2018/03/26,"Daycare providers want to talk about my sons behavior. What should I expect? My 2.5yo (only son) started a new daycare a month ago.  Before this, he was in an in-home daycare with 3 other kids, one of them his age (sitters daughter), and two kids one year younger than them.  He only had one other kid to really socialize with up until a month ago

It seems hitting and kicking are something we're always working on with him.  The sitter would give us incident reports and keep us posted on his behavior, but it sounded more or less like normal childhood behavior (doesn't like sharing, takes toys that aren't his, etc.). 

We thought maybe his behavior would change if we moved him to a more social setting.  Our thinking was that he needed to learn how to socialize.  So a month ago, we put him in a daycare that has around 15 kids with him.  We told them that he is known to be rough and that we are trying to find ways to stop this behavior.

The transition went more or less smoothly.  He didn't really seem to phased, which I was kind of proud of him for.  The thing is, his behavior hasn't really changed.  He still has a hard time sharing and has pushed and hit other kids.

Since he started a month ago, they've sent home 3 incident reports related to hitting.  Keep in mind he is my only son, and I don't know if this is a normal thing or not.  It's hard to gauge the seriousness of these two sentence reports.  

Last week, they mentioned we might want to consider getting him ""evaluated"" for ADD.  Hearing this made my stomach sink, but my wife and I agreed that if the daycare suggests it, it is probably a good idea.  No reason not to.

I just got a call from the daycare saying they want to meet today about his behavior.  As I mentioned before, I'm having a hard time understanding the seriousness of what is going on.  He's my only son, and I don't know how the parent/daycare relationship really is.  Should I be worried? I'm not really sure what they are going to say.

When I drop him off or pick him up, I look at the other kids, and they are totally obedient.  They are sitting and playing quitely by themselves.  I can't really imagine my son acting this way.

Basically, his biggest issue is that he isn't very obedient.  I think this is becoming an issue at his daycare.

Please let me know your thoughts.  Am I being blind?  Does this sound normal?  How often do daycares have these kind of meetings?



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parenting,doctor_biteme,2018/03/26,"How would you react? I am of middle eastern background, raised in Canada from a very young age (I am Canadian). I married a person of Dutch background (also Canadian). It was important for me (and my husband) to chose a middle eastern name to honour my background. We chose a beautiful name for our daughter, one that could be pronounced easily here in Canada by non-Arabic speakers. 
I was very iffy about posting my child's pictures on social media but I figured since my instagram is private and contains family, friends and coworkers I should be ok. I posted some pictures of my child with her name in the title. 5 months later, my coworker (also on my instagram list and NOT of middle eastern background) decided to post a picture of her newborn baby with the SAME name. I know that she saw my baby's name prior to naming hers because she ""liked"" all my pictures. I couldn't help but feel weirded out, annoyed and irritated at her thought process to name her child. My daughter's name was very important to me and my husband and I thought long and hard about it.  
My question is, am I justified to feel annoyed? I feel like there's a social etiquette to these things and since she CLEARLY ripped off my child's name, it just rubs me the wrong way. How would you react?",4.925274319963116,6.533465983402492,5.397641770401108,80.21125288151225,69.66390041493776,7.679207007837714,32.47602581834947,8.167268648758528,2.5888089442139237,1006,46,175,14,18,322,124,241,0.078,0.805,0.117,0.8226,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,2,2,0,1,9,9,2,0,9,1,15,0,0,4,2,49,22,15,0,5,4,4,5,2,1,3,0,1,0,6,7,13,0,1,9,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,6,7,40,5,29,9,3,21,0,0,1,0,36,11,0,2,8,123,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24576609534476065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367062541469973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268620583607258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448583886085245,0.0,0.23308761734285785,0.10977580776697432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187184953093818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376505236411731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299606577813566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844483429307967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014249631793905,0.0,0.0,0.13598559386807385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226511449194357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412501057947376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417129658893576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414957290022726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213604938191154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542207647785066,0.0,0.0,0.3132771005798344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208587408588583,0.0,0.0,0.2439801369414657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803604957748285,0.0,0.1219693479724758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831344458376656,0.16800473030409668,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pollymath,2018/03/26,"First Flights with 2-Month Old - Wish me luck! Just bought our tickets for a 4 hour flight on mostly full planes next month with our 66 day old baby girl. 

Flying American, which in our experience without baby has always been pretty smooth. We'll be on full flights, and picked seats next to one another. I've still gotta call American to discuss the details of the lap-child. 

We'll be taking a Bob Revolution stroller and car seat. 

Any pointers?",4.475357142857142,6.582959630952384,4.401904761904763,84.87642857142858,71.73809523809524,7.180952380952381,28.66666666666667,7.957251820313856,1.8755666666666675,355,14,66,5,7,109,67,84,0.0,0.888,0.112,0.8478,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,10,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,6,1,10,3,3,15,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,9,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430177976302172,0.0,0.0,0.1424516535306833,0.2196550691501894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21389960349199405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350954399646978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20490886008531387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781811671017166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062928087432982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344053445770578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4455626767971863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396220876211635,0.0,0.1419471463751539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131135822918435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728873227476604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750075617204334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24088839844360724,0.2019285090894729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beelzebubish,2018/03/26,"What parenting books would you recomend? This is my first post on this subreddit so please let me know if I'm doing it wrong or should post elsewhere.

Im not a parent so this may be a biased but i always found it odd that new parents don't do any research.  Raising a child is the most important thing most people will do in their lives and so many just assume that their momma bear instincts and own childhood will guide them right.   

I'm uncomfortable with that.  

If you where to suggest any books, classes, or other educational material on parenting what would they be and why?

*I'm looking for recommendations for friend who is going to be a new mother soon.",4.464645669291336,6.2685556614173255,5.065362204724412,81.36654724409449,71.1259842519685,7.599685039370079,26.87322834645669,8.238735603445708,1.756550236220472,527,18,99,8,10,169,87,127,0.08,0.851,0.069,-0.0963,4,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,4,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,17,0,0,0,0,20,24,11,0,5,7,6,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,13,4,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,9,1,8,13,3,13,0,0,1,0,16,5,0,8,5,71,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248370948340014,0.0,0.0,0.20405127939884588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761556012424066,0.0,0.16450030425192932,0.1159129137103734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852655857962471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205829609894656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245264111217139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153415982622097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324793619706829,0.0,0.12598753123090742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521070134207559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28980008749847663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6663628607455473,0.0,0.0,0.10401200826143002,0.0,0.0,0.1646880401056583,0.0,0.0,0.2873748032041457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812491949115076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967335825077807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353788653184094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21315421323279485,0.16403440555680945,0.0,0.0
parenting,poca_loca,2018/03/26,"Feeling super guilty over screen time I'm currently 35 weeks pregnant and I also have a 20 month old son. I've been feeling so guilty lately because this pregnancy has been extremely difficult. I'm in basically constant pain and the only thing my ob can suggest is Tylenol (thanks 😑) and lots and lots of rest. This has led to lots and lots of screen time for my 1 year old. I feel like a total piece of shit because we really aren't TV people for the most part, I just have no other way of being able to rest as my son is in this phase where he needs me to participate almost constantly in his playtime. He used to be very independent but I think the stress of me being in pain and the impending baby has made him clingier than usual.

I try so hard to make sure that we watch quality TV at least. Lots of PBS and of course some good Disney and interesting animation. I talk to him about what's happening on the screen to try and keep him engaged instead of just totally zoned. I have the small amount of family we have in the area come over regularly to take him out of the house so he gets out at least once a day, and when I do have the energy I sit with him and play Legos or draw or watch him run around in the back yard but I still feel like a shit parent when we have the TV on for longer than a movie. 

I'm not really sure what I'm expecting to accomplish with this post, I'm just feeling like a total failure sitting here watching Moana for the hundredth time. Sometimes I just feel like my son is so smart and so sweet and deserves better than being raised by the TV.  I'm sure my hormones aren't making it any easier. ",6.514337794998242,5.314839038922159,6.981334977104613,80.00341493483623,65.79640718562874,10.49355406833392,30.72490313490665,9.627879704456738,2.438760690383938,1285,37,274,22,17,422,175,334,0.085,0.741,0.174,0.9857,2,0,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,0,3,19,22,2,1,19,0,22,5,2,6,6,62,46,26,0,2,9,4,7,4,0,0,3,0,1,0,10,23,0,1,7,6,0,3,4,6,0,0,3,14,29,16,46,39,17,43,0,0,6,0,20,18,2,10,22,178,39,1,0.09716368123693013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729539149410987,0.0,0.0,0.07770176078090188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607463512571371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649627619754245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471287331508675,0.0,0.11846015648269735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593338013126123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369790792531191,0.0,0.2099988427739569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266253624702557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159727132399548,0.0,0.2947732600521415,0.2776550131595375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507640131632436,0.0,0.0,0.08149628592190462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592152242983228,0.0,0.087039573496323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211384270185848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636354428486445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960486458731868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898770669010045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130254359075796,0.0,0.09193862450591116,0.1297150234280013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775551233677269,0.0,0.0,0.07204563848064914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039138775354136,0.10347614943782098,0.0,0.07389735794384825,0.20677801476996516,0.0,0.10788876946717604,0.10521879824798017,0.0,0.06736106252128289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305594810274494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449108443725786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994742450201817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609736521221997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759504134725613,0.0,0.11130066857509216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747268590426157,0.0,0.07305499612084321,0.07809648648341361,0.0,0.0894552633306932,0.0,0.0,0.06455123239194901,0.062258563639131126,0.0,0.0,0.1699707716966408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319355231366627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391822395604112,0.10701206770099002,0.08017021282435685,0.0,0.0771240075687839,0.07793884426536114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625702250801596
parenting,Regretfilled,2018/03/26,"At what age should children bathe themselves? Serious question. What is the appropriate age to expect your child to bathe themselves by themselves? My oldest started at age 7 and my youngest at age 5 with supervision...but the middle child refuses to wash,dry or dress herself. She throws a fit for mom and her sister to help her. She is a third grader. Do I have an unrealistic expectation?",4.3388933601609665,7.120358704225353,4.9854325955734415,77.38507042253524,74.63380281690141,7.437424547283702,29.86116700201207,8.418075326091056,2.572575855130784,312,14,53,6,7,100,51,71,0.019,0.897,0.084,0.6641,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,6,3,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,2,3,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,0,10,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,6,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35440908528891873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6192640471637959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5923195157580677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3742510272626063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,franticshouting,2018/03/26,"How do you handle or think about kids and school grades/performance? My daughter is in kindergarten, so this year has been the first that I’ve had to start thinking about how to talk to my daughter about school, grades, and why any of it matters. I’ve been reflecting a lot on the next 11-12 years of her schooling and thinking a lot about how to fit the whole concept of public schooling in with my ultimate goal to just raise a kid that is confident in herself.

First thing I think about is the type of school my kid is in. The schools aren’t great where I live, but she got into a coveted laboratory school on a lottery, which I’m grateful for. It’s a teaching school attached to the local university, so they’re always on top of new trends in education and there’s a lot of wiggle room for teachers to try new things. There are also college students from the school of education all over the place, and since it’s a K-12 school, the kids get to interact with other kids from all age ranges, which I think is pretty good.

The other thing I think about is how my parents  pressured me in school so hard that the idea of not going to college was shameful. Kids who didn’t go to college were pathetic and underachieving. I definitely don’t believe that now, and have a pretty liberal view of the whole thing.

I do want my daughter to get good grades, of course. And I’ve had to reflect on that a lot as well. Why do I care so much? Because I don’t want my daughter to be “one of those kids” who is okay with D’s and C’s? What does that even mean? That feels wrong to me.

I want to straddle this line where I encourage her to perform well in school without tying it to her self worth in the end. I feel like that mostly comes down to giving her the chance to want to make that choice on her own. I want her to know about college, the pros and cons of it, and know that getting into a college community requires good grades. But I also want her to know that there are tons of people who succeed without college and that there is no right path to travel down. I want her to respect all kinds of kids, all types of values. I don’t ever want her to snub her nose at a kid who doesn’t get good grades. I would love if it she grew up knowing that grades were just about the choices we make. Deciding to follow rules and perform well in school is an example of planning long term for the future. (Which, of course, adolescents don’t necessarily have the capacity yet to internalize much beyond shorter term goals.) I used to be a teacher and I had plenty of students with poor grades who were actually pretty brilliant, good kids and went on to do some cool stuff. 

I also don’t feel like it’s right to punish her later down the line (middle and high school) for not getting a good grade on something. That feels wrong to me. Again, there’s a line I want to straddle here, where I don’t want to look at getting a failing grade as something bad. Unless she’s getting a poor grade because she’s doing something that’s objectively wrong, like disrupting class, hanging out with unsavory characters, refusing to do work and being disrespectful to teachers and just making generally poor decisions, which I don’t really foresee at this point.

I don’t know, how do you guys approach it? I know there’s no right or wrong way. Just curious to see how other parents look at school and why.

Homeschooling isn’t an option because of my own full-time work, but if I could devote myself to something like that I might. 

And of course, in the end, my kid is only 6! Haha. We’ll cross all these roads when we get there. Just thinking. ",5.628966624501317,5.796577185495122,5.790568583568491,83.24602996983558,67.24267782426779,8.566559631539683,30.203009957510297,8.20894155585173,1.9400060264019985,2850,97,580,34,43,904,279,717,0.093,0.725,0.183,0.9959,3,0,4,0,0,0,73,3,2,0,13,47,33,1,2,39,3,50,2,1,10,6,111,104,44,0,14,17,6,5,4,0,3,0,1,1,13,47,31,0,2,23,1,4,10,18,9,3,3,12,12,60,24,111,85,20,77,0,1,4,1,52,45,0,12,25,396,107,43,0.0,0.0,0.04331323172414933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648369645631953,0.036931768459826486,0.0,0.0,0.030183234457315307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037059513518300516,0.08116981660582932,0.0,0.0,0.0500065506734655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525333431382871,0.0,0.0,0.038233636458074816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03543770804593584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03884149991623313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862364356102255,0.0,0.0,0.029315788842585982,0.040148657107808926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976929803671374,0.06341712174799365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550749758549878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551410639017085,0.04257801287545071,0.050449890337575916,0.2233675449619532,0.03549863615640287,0.0489344772215343,0.0,0.04394800069550692,0.0,0.0,0.039760126543352856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046895053351202615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050105117071629235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622001325624565,0.14635658677439026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867368244627663,0.0,0.03919265446310434,0.03927921432657999,0.07454422643257039,0.0,0.0,0.15093772120105886,0.04005907918458914,0.0,0.08888173859714266,0.0,0.0,0.04834813663846173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04708533429016168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525597468304145,0.0,0.0,0.08573437042381502,0.047203814086656914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030076337433775618,0.033756694628001266,0.0,0.0,0.0985682938072476,0.0,0.0,0.030770881133212982,0.0,0.04637274359526269,0.0,0.041958049768946716,0.0,0.0,0.13546611206519038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02843408504841594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371331254239392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.673797889172973,0.03536899584028592,0.0,0.046303100671821716,0.0,0.0,0.036715624140633375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667856928056107,0.0,0.0,0.031415840303052084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081005856897155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03567487822424758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794934489386925,0.1990802331037008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030134414064533387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038334277958365394,0.0,0.0,0.2617934702279733,0.035230644835304636,0.0,0.0,0.11972198892889835,0.04114522030160817,0.12015132797527485,0.09910824730247626,0.0,0.08557086397246892,0.0,0.06462542975089954,0.0,0.0,0.03152973905639926,0.19411155613721787,0.0,0.057164803711688986
parenting,Cherry_bomb_pompom,2018/03/26,"Dealing with the loss of a pet - how do I tell the kids? Looking for advice on how to handle letting my kids know that we have to put our dog down. I have a four year old boy and two year old girl, and they are quite attached to our little dog.  I’m taking him to the vet today and I’m pretty sure he needs to be put down quite soon.  He’s very old and having daily seizures, which has been traumatic for everyone.  We plan to have it done at home, after the kids are in bed.  I’d like to plan to properly address their grief, before I have to manage my own.  Should I tell them beforehand that he’s going away and they should say goodbye? Do I just tell them afterward and hold a little funeral? My 4 year old has been interested in death lately, since we lost a couple of our pet fish.  He bluntly asks questions about past relatives and is clearly trying to sort out what death means and so far seems to have a healthy understanding.  I want to handle this as delicately as possible but at the same time address it honestly.  Would appreciate any advice on how others have handled this type of thing.  

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parenting,Burkeski,2018/03/26,"Our dog nipped our 8-month-old because she had food in her hand - advice? Yesterday, our daughter was on the floor with a piece of bread in her hand. Our 5 year old bulldog tried to get the bread and nipped her index finger in the process. There was no skin breakage or damage other than a redness for an hour. I immediately disciplined our dog in the same manner as we always use (details below). 

Our bulldog has had an issue with this... when we give him treats, he would put my whole hand in his mouth. We've trained him using a beep/vibrate collar not to bite us and use the word ""gentle"" while giving him treats. There have been no issues with us and we've been consistent about this for 2 years.


I'm torn on what to do. On one hand, I want to find him a new home as I am terrified he could injure our daughter and leave lifelong damage. On the other, our dog has never been aggressive and has a really nice relationship with our daughter. I generally love him, but my daughter comes first no matter how I feel about him. 


A simple solution is to separate them while she has food. I see this working well, but as she gets older, there is always that small chance she finds food near him. If there is a 1% chance, that still scares me. I need to make sure this will never happen again. 


Has anyone else had this issue? What worked best for you? 



EDIT: Thank you for all the advice. I'll be consulting a specialist, our vet and a trainer. In the meantime, they will be separated to ensure it can't happen again. ",3.4389141414141413,5.12973390572391,4.17497053872054,87.17134469696974,73.57912457912458,6.835521885521885,22.812710437710447,7.492282038375204,0.8505983164983162,1178,31,237,14,24,376,166,297,0.06,0.795,0.145,0.9761,0,0,0,0,0,0,44,14,2,2,4,12,12,1,1,19,0,26,14,7,5,4,39,44,17,0,5,5,4,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,12,13,5,1,3,0,0,2,7,4,1,2,8,9,43,8,34,30,5,32,0,2,2,1,44,14,0,2,16,169,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20975258392157112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786052188405976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504380920859327,0.1099666675470704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654240394413877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263047645923704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245058240433884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568990688380526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965587611492103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054266508854208716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961853584525928,0.09129019332660508,0.3893317555850514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112145278142707,0.20591094400718504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18981346097190047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765525775886836,0.0,0.10569304656823424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33605678740079503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364118448526105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968645816690196,0.0,0.07163995946716183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566541866476382,0.0,0.0,0.07957978164964552,0.16555059308995915,0.10365470318841506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22523808785398336,0.0,0.0727258814471132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789079935324007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875484433041351,0.0,0.0,0.11522638384090865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745058090062934,0.0,0.08552375780621002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570951105067119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011521026438283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881001089580414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286631324578674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581963984404314,0.2780818136815393,0.0,0.0,0.06330279051214206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964976447307029,0.0,0.0,0.11982400881792216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626707716261504,0.0,0.0,0.07624026927225007,0.0,0.0,0.1382269615387108
parenting,ticklemesphinx09,2018/03/26,"Special needs (14M) has spontaneous periods of acting out and temper Edit: 14 year old Male. 

Some background: We don't have the best medical access so I'd like some input. Our son is almost 15 years, he has a developmental and cognitive delay. He does understand basic speech and basic concepts, but no understanding in complex ideas or ordinance or logic. He walks and passes motor and follows a free will, but he is highly dependent on a scale of 3.5/5. He is usually calm but will have spontaneous periods where he loses temper and will act out, and has very free will. We do home therapy since he is not equipped for public schooling, and he attends sensory and motor therapy three days. Husband doesn't help, does not have a good understanding. Husband is negative but he works and does things usually all day and does not have a part in son's daily life and has little impact on him.

It's another one of his bad days. Sometimes it lasts a few days and I just pull him out of therapy and try getting him to sleep. This morning has been a lot, technically since last night. I sometimes have to carry him around. Last night, I had to hoist him into his room at bedtime, had to hoist him back into his room after he decided to get out of bed and play in the sink, had to roll him because he didn't want to get changed after a wet nappy (he wet because he didn't want to go to the bathroom before bed). I tried soothing him so he would get tired, and he sobbed whenever I stopped talking to him or stopped touching him, and in the end he cried himself to sleep. This morning, I dressed him in his day clothes while he was still asleep to avoid any trouble, and bridal carried him to the couch, and he threw a fit upon waking up. He threw a little fit because he ran in and tried to eat a piece of candy  (with the wrapper on it) for breakfast, and I got in his way. I buckled him into his eating seat and made him cry by just quietly setting a sippy cup of juice in front of him. I calmed him down and he stopped crying by running my fingers through his hair, but then I made him cry again by walking away from the table to wetten the cloth I use to wash his hands. I sat at the table to feed him his malt meal and to make sure he wouldn't choke on bananas. I got up to wet the cloth and he threw banana everywhere. I let him out of his eating seat  (because he can't be restrained too long for his circulation and he's going to have to be in his carseat later). He put his sippy cup in the trash can, then went for the bathroom and grabbed my pot plant and started pouring the soil in the toilet. He's probably going to get dismissed from therapy early today. I'm glad it's not motor therapy or gym today because he'd absolutely lose it. 

Today has been very bad, it's usually not this intense. I don'tfreaking know how to handle him or help this. I just tough through it and tolerate him. He does not understand negotiation and has a bad communication block. I don't know if I can reason with him or do anything to control him. I don't know if I should stick by and comfort him and do what keeps him calm or if I should try controlling him or if I should not give in to it and let him cry it out.  I feel like I abandon him when he cries himself to sleep or when he loses his temper and I just watch him do it and I don't do anything about it. I don't even know what the deal is, or what he's wanting, or really why he's doing it. My husband left for work this morning laughing about it. Last night husband woke up when I was in son's room and son was hysterically whining and sobbing, and husband told me to physically punish him for acting out. I do not physically punish. If son misbehaves, I move son from the situation or remove objects from him, because he does not understand punishment. ",5.837516741750883,5.483832965968587,6.583543163277732,79.50759101424573,66.85340314136126,9.462997686594424,32.427127724339464,8.973190933345348,2.5558995251430656,2982,112,603,45,43,987,305,764,0.157,0.7709999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.9968,0,1,0,0,0,0,73,3,0,0,8,19,34,6,1,29,0,59,18,8,9,2,135,100,69,0,14,35,11,9,2,0,9,4,2,7,1,22,53,6,11,15,2,2,22,21,19,0,2,22,12,85,17,94,64,8,113,0,7,1,0,103,46,2,22,45,388,107,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054468436272214996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03699026230623342,0.05703758730332496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952440924123424,0.048422816697694916,0.0,0.0,0.05110561264051567,0.04182616788302082,0.13625191109872234,0.1989510310331101,0.0,0.04628588463299448,0.0,0.057083883357050925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05754238172632176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201656605623225,0.0,0.0,0.3585001526366071,0.17540041258958813,0.0560785488020312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856070191484975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697807791600333,0.0,0.0,0.048177560342429725,0.0,0.0,0.035927187344184326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027503595465559003,0.038859585633243585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420949324239786,0.05218035419525393,0.09274128719770244,0.045623694894410316,0.08700882370945741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291924367322679,0.05747098863042417,0.054562320695718765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061404997068327874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834850999502414,0.0,0.0,0.11957562164045694,0.17735576680603846,0.0,0.0,0.05910000235637365,0.11124453531247036,0.03842058632480643,0.05314900715867193,0.10903556184430607,0.0,0.04813759914225542,0.0,0.18256127211952405,0.0,0.04624443005791852,0.0,0.10293916357093827,0.0363088856452399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054796939166842515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578129593502337,0.0,0.040332981943053736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531372277303469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570780890697702,0.0,0.03685925749473516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058904161019343926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058646688250637326,0.0,0.0,0.05468169894325476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03484663864855417,0.05592681258554975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505034193102967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999171839053492,0.06114192355521453,0.16330195416360016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759550134101573,0.0,0.03850084970263982,0.0,0.043439678897008935,0.13642921830838772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126636244614047,0.0,0.0,0.043720400645730816,0.0,0.0,0.3110254086570562,0.0,0.036137422686116326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251870761143384,0.1546794505015034,0.05197646833445161,0.0,0.1477217270757518,0.0,0.0,0.28313401306361885,0.0,0.046979557442901165,0.17972423669055893,0.08976265085315477,0.09625021282082817,0.04317598220027148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050424433264652214,0.04908275756566057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919998108617092,0.0,0.0,0.03864043529836593,0.0,0.0,0.070056808754876
parenting,DayDreamingofU,2018/03/26,"6 year old Obsessed with germs I have a 6 year old daughter who has become obsessed with germs. We had to put the hand sanitizer up so she couldn't keep using it, her hands have become red and dry. 

I think its partly because she had the flu about a month ago and I had to tell explain that we had to be careful about spreading germs. The other thing that I think is causing this is her dad tells her that he doesn't like her coming over with my new husbands ""germs""....Im not really sure what that means, she won't tell me because  her dad told her its a secret. He is on the manipulative side of things and if I ask him about it she will get in trouble next time she is over there for telling me and I don't want her to feel like she can't tell me things anymore than she already does. 

Any thoughts on how to help her with her anxieties about germs? ",3.6673728813559343,4.317463830508476,4.029166666666669,92.44680084745764,71.71186440677965,6.803954802259887,24.91949152542373,6.42735559955562,0.5208610169491523,666,18,153,4,12,208,102,177,0.103,0.853,0.043,-0.7522,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,0,7,7,0,2,7,0,18,3,2,4,1,28,32,7,0,3,2,4,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,15,11,0,1,7,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,6,4,29,4,22,22,1,18,0,0,1,0,36,7,0,1,11,101,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405951031854115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419921863781036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875010240198058,0.0,0.098433335957941,0.0,0.12760754081187795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029047169483766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568738893232063,0.2842150980825349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311891572909589,0.13218106213669956,0.0,0.1108390933653469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260128605308857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506017036427862,0.09192293657569313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722554164222841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624578597651465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389872869343345,0.0,0.0,0.1143691304314843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572477895719295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016097152535525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270435394379594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427172469514765,0.13684358699410232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27003816309012474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393386823145497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935038451650094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824302498899233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127135446270874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623227587003956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564508570629047,0.16489498767753888,0.0,0.10215078854808696,0.07502937926985158,0.0,0.0,0.12295112066375155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111308524989404,0.0,0.0,0.07589377725253811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657204389323387
parenting,mumblestheword,2018/03/26,"How to handle when relatives want to hold my toddler? On the one hand, I understand they want to get to know my son, on the other hand seeing my son squirm because he's clearly uncomfortable makes me feel uncomfortable because I don't want to offend that person and tell them they can't hold my son. On the other hand, I don't want to send the message to my kid that his boundaries aren't respected and that he should just go along with it. How can I properly navigate this if it happens again?",9.689848484848486,6.404369474747478,9.31906565656566,72.33193181818183,61.32323232323232,12.728282828282829,38.891414141414145,10.686352973137794,3.856129292929293,394,14,79,7,4,128,59,99,0.073,0.7390000000000001,0.187,0.8399,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,0,5,2,1,0,4,0,6,3,3,3,1,20,18,6,0,6,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,2,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,5,14,1,12,17,0,7,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,1,2,53,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363568296506705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394969725980017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413979379157346,0.0,0.15679318261160488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24396634059384026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162051481828706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184156999846095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694846058088846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408942598118497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984656008041206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24113777145819054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28720854123495704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.650902209845361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bluebird1989,2018/03/26,"Kid lunch ideas for school. Hi everyone. I have a 6 yr old who is slightly picky, and Im struggling to find some (easy) lunch ideas for him to bring to school. Im just at my wits end, and Ive spent way too much time on Pinterest without much luck. Help, please.",1.197272727272729,2.890719636363638,2.001818181818184,100.3027272727273,79.9090909090909,5.854545454545455,20.090909090909093,6.742157984588678,-0.1257999999999999,200,5,50,2,5,62,43,55,0.13699999999999998,0.821,0.042,-0.6414,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,9,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,8,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,3,23,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966089370326047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19382755552864192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539710021219685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359630541001056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4579757286475125,0.4382158687225749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29822954521137657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128522162654624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22266343130948305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41058092438476784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120581454322956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828083467802168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100930585696885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195535810857224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cyndistorm09,2018/03/26,"How to be a Stepford family or get dad to lower expectations? I feel my hubby overreacts about my kids and their level of responsibility and cleaning up after themselves. If children 11 and 13 forget to put something away, he calls disrespect/disobedience and starts a tirade about how nobody listens or respects him; how in the 'real world' they wouldn't be able to keep a job, drive safely, that they are dangerous and careless and could get themselves or someone else hurt, etc. 
He says the behaviour would not have been tolerated when he was growing up, and decides to ground them for a month over anything out of place. He then asks me how I had fun with them before they cleaned up after themselves, and accuses me of just wanting to be the fun parent.
Yes, the kids know they are to clean up after themselves, but I see them trying their best and most times it is a completely different item he is getting angry about. 
I don't see it as disobedience but a lack of good habits which still need coaching. And they are always quick to do anything that is asked for when prompted. But I think he's looking for perfection and needs to lower expectations. 
I'm about at the end of my patience trying to buffer between them, and need some tips about how to explain that their behaviour is based on their maturity and undeveloped skills rather than disobedience or defiance. 
I go out in public and people feel the need to compliment these kids on their behaviour and helpfulness, but he only seems to focus on the imperfection. 
Any advice? ",9.941774106175515,8.372511644366199,9.175774647887325,68.18721018418205,59.3169014084507,12.118743228602385,38.74756229685807,10.891193690592663,4.152500866738893,1233,48,213,24,13,391,159,284,0.076,0.805,0.119,0.9443,5,0,1,0,0,0,24,0,0,14,3,16,11,1,0,13,1,19,0,0,5,1,60,43,33,0,13,12,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,3,4,7,18,0,2,7,1,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,7,26,8,47,34,6,34,0,1,3,0,36,18,0,8,12,155,33,1,0.13682907717290502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370779061313445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385275335669295,0.0,0.0,0.09304846454656077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251973438407067,0.0,0.2558334331779403,0.0,0.1285554221417335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643146673641246,0.0,0.14359367480974805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397177862014863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434626841336575,0.0,0.0,0.10924688423922232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295726306114204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430313645426475,0.0,0.1211899493534258,0.0,0.15260059018087224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899027648259656,0.0,0.13836978534476396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21446263623284104,0.0,0.07776311778468277,0.1147657381210368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171364619583798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464783570798808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578174602114393,0.12161997070761332,0.0,0.0,0.07519768242472064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490196354156365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921566397387096,0.0,0.0,0.4058281078750704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406467894435308,0.0,0.0,0.1519324975709453,0.0,0.0,0.0948600537241718,0.0,0.14295726306114204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755101500347391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574144552001626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881197408491654,0.0,0.0,0.2180701183729283,0.12456405291747027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593483306146407,0.1053377084715868,0.0,0.0,0.0968483250783774,0.0,0.1092718777796064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767454773641345,0.0,0.0,0.07978613524981165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579592340777384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070533483572646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719945060562038,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dressinbrass,2018/03/26,"My mom stormed out because I wouldn't accept hotel reward points, otherwise a good weekend! My oldest and my parents don't get along so well, but we were due for some grandparents time. Surprisingly, it went OK. We set the boundaries before hand, and also ensured that one of us was present at all times. My son at nearly 9 is also good about setting his own boundaries with them.

However, at dinner tonight, I mentioned to my mom that my wife and I were going away for her 40th and my wife's parents coming down, but we weren't having any party. She offered points to pay for the hotel (I don't need them), and I declined. Mostly because my mom has a tendency to brag about anything she does for us and take credit for it.

She sulked, only looked at her phone and left before the check came. My kids were confused thinking they did something wrong.

I don't expect much from them, but pouting worse than my four year old is something else.

I guess, the question is: should I have just taken the hotel reward points anyhow?

/vent over.",5.513544646308464,6.347155422110558,5.322713567839198,84.16603401623506,67.64321608040201,7.128102048705064,28.87553150367221,6.67199483983844,1.4326873598763057,815,27,152,5,13,252,124,199,0.111,0.7859999999999999,0.103,-0.1398,4,0,2,0,0,0,28,5,0,4,2,7,11,0,1,7,1,17,2,1,0,1,32,28,13,0,4,4,8,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,15,1,0,3,4,3,4,5,2,1,2,9,2,33,9,24,17,5,28,0,0,1,0,28,13,0,6,9,107,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055219572858116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527099658521349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318709734340167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117810100530709,0.0,0.0,0.1528758438045303,0.0,0.2133990550166256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434152731198945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801427820690812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973156012837336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474909398847314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551224966825604,0.0,0.07126327751228143,0.2103460580700179,0.0,0.0,0.13813364628118488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623899331655218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052978680361163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4405734910691654,0.0,0.0,0.09217769557188377,0.09297672822823022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131578021747056,0.0,0.08496900059660888,0.0953664192756769,0.0,0.0,0.2784664001644483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35560848095618314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046796251190793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193066084929972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427932992593906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803462593077059,0.0,0.0,0.14623440160110712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016627574198775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127426477279212,0.11623982660963485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778536540953098,0.0,0.13709668743367198,0.0,0.08074846632138248
parenting,thereal_charlie,2018/03/26,"I want to write children's books for difficult life issues Hi r/parenting!

My day job is a technical writer. I write those dense instruction manuals that you throw away. I love finding ways to make difficult content easier to digest. But I've also always loved children's books. 

I want to write a new series of illustrated children's books, which I'll publish for free. I want them to tackle difficult life issues and subjects that are hard to explain to a child, such as death, loss, same-sex parents, etc. 

Do you have any suggestions for topics that would be good for a series like this? Or is there even an interest in something like this?",4.588842975206614,6.682590735537193,5.1223884297520685,79.88903719008266,71.39669421487605,8.476363636363638,28.62892561983471,9.120678840339163,2.618781157024794,513,20,90,11,10,164,82,121,0.114,0.6629999999999999,0.223,0.9267,3,0,1,0,0,0,16,0,2,1,1,4,11,0,0,5,0,7,5,0,1,0,13,14,5,1,4,2,1,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,4,7,1,1,0,2,3,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,9,8,15,12,1,6,0,1,0,2,16,2,0,1,4,51,16,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641051557987628,0.1523387929258604,0.0,0.0,0.12450195849211312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720114556368332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180726684603609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418469490234228,0.1209238569446489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733352412881392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535603970843835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640054060986142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821798390849925,0.1816805187435621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586322964813157,0.17888912028750076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304770945555981,0.0,0.1222085784651698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17682162332450518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065815292785522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094537799945414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32395931400184824,0.14532187685645478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005611671003595,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway4152013,2018/03/26,"Found 5 year old son naked with his 6 year old male cousin Title explains most of it. 

My sons 6 year old cousin and best friend was visiting and they were playing in the play room. I heard the boys saying our 2 year old son took off his shirt and pants so I went upstairs to see what was going on. Turns out the 2 year old pooped so I took him to change his diaper. He’s been taking his clothes off a lot lately which is a sign that he’s ready to be potty trained. When I went back to the room to check on the boys, the door was locked, something my son has NEVER done. I knocked and asked why the door was locked and my sons cousin took a few seconds but unlocked the door. I found my son hiding under his comforter on his bed. His mom and I have told him MANY times that no one should see his private areas unless it’s mom or dad and only in the bathroom. He doesn’t even say butt because butt is a “bathroom word”. He was obviously scared and knew what he was doing is wrong. I asked his cousin to leave the room and asked my son to put his clothes on. After putting his clothes on I asked him why he took his clothes off and he kept saying I don’t know why. I told him that he’s not supposed to show anyone his privates and sent him out and asked him to send his cousin in. His cousin admitted to locking the door but kept saying I don’t know why, but then said that his cousin asked him to do it (which I don’t believe because he seemed scared so I think he was saying that to get himself out of trouble. I am worried about this behavior as this is VERY unlike my son...I am also worried that someone has played this “game” with my nephew. What should I do? We’ve talked to our son and reexplained that he’s not supposed to show his privates to anyone and he said he agrees and that he won’t do it against. ",4.332766175967136,4.234896456692916,4.435789113317359,92.76461143444028,69.99737532808399,7.256008216364258,26.014036288942147,6.046907544983943,0.5840744265662443,1414,36,331,6,23,438,161,381,0.075,0.871,0.054000000000000006,-0.8909999999999999,0,0,1,0,0,0,25,2,0,1,1,8,10,0,2,15,0,31,4,4,0,2,46,66,27,0,2,7,19,0,0,1,3,0,8,8,3,20,20,0,2,9,6,1,12,9,4,0,2,27,10,51,6,39,35,4,48,0,0,2,2,88,19,2,4,17,193,71,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983053819091212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046265407844277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.419658636608324,0.0,0.0,0.05752908782640837,0.0,0.09121459855362092,0.0,0.0,0.08429230782080907,0.07851505182843575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914568557494146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765630123170314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941543585489315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406434061014974,0.05780285891437965,0.0,0.03908840929424507,0.0,0.042519806191286605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223412264889514,0.0,0.08439600300812139,0.07921961950444492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360611102898034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585194742508455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752478051083277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770291401275704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39253541087508464,0.0,0.05069743581485553,0.056901139076292614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042201665722027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233479701641796,0.29748447472185074,0.14980826138051107,0.0,0.11923774963603932,0.06810991559156931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339157653428862,0.057597214160674384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625251849529984,0.0601344779083872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04793924014187742,0.0,0.0,0.0436259643931355,0.0,0.0,0.14298029023754025,0.33249448249513225,0.0,0.08137860970545695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173125205857866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871085001103547,0.2700401603756257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195909272717695,0.0,0.0,0.08179983832686495,0.0,0.24089610091516675
parenting,TwoThingsCanBeTrue,2018/03/26,"Parenting Marriage I’ve looked into this a bit lately, for reasons. Does anyone here have a “parenting marriage” in which they co-parent with a very good friend, likely in the same house, but have dissolved their romantic relationship?",7.609166666666668,9.909442250000003,6.720000000000002,70.63166666666669,64.0,9.333333333333334,33.333333333333336,9.725611199111238,3.6760833333333336,190,8,27,4,3,58,34,40,0.0,0.802,0.198,0.7836,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,5,3,2,4,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,2,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983765735062718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807917842503134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22507424573118606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870925020352076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157240829677948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29677003842887245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901286682508005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565313765674405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215980144614774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711721851504575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644406680838026,0.0,0.2761326104507005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122139119252655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mepbjz27,2018/03/27,"How to stop toddler son from putting his hand down his pants My son will be 2 in June and he is always putting his hand in his pants. I totally get that he's exploring and what not, but the problem is that he winds up pointing his private part upwards and that causes him to wind up soaking wet. 

He wakes up almost every morning (and after nap) wet because of it. We've tried everything we can think of....onesies, double(even triple) diapers, one diaper forward and one backwards, etc. 

Has anyone else experienced this?  Do you have any ideas on how to help him stop waking up soaking we?

Thank you!!",6.033850931677016,6.4289265217391325,6.003229813664597,81.28347826086956,66.3913043478261,8.6583850931677,33.81987577639751,8.418075326091056,2.6063788819875766,470,20,89,6,7,148,81,115,0.036000000000000004,0.843,0.121,0.8868,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,4,4,3,1,20,11,8,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,3,1,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,5,13,1,14,9,4,18,0,0,0,0,18,11,0,1,5,57,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275486288509206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847990528777929,0.0,0.0,0.1376936089096019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415789969629274,0.20746508812464604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343016671272597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800313686599628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914638457251285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22581915871621014,0.13373638830775414,0.0,0.17059846193009498,0.0,0.18197631899841066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057876469825764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357183376695503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285757149117805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27441190571514884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21926653137517704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914094164979308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374638816422346,0.0,0.4070974358857848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338565345911451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18641673950263635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974125845250334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747089400871768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,happy_go_lucky,2018/03/27,"Baby monitoring Dear parents,
We have a baby daughter and we‘d like to monitor her during her sleep to make sure she’s alright and for me to get some more peaceful sleep. 
We‘ve had some problems with the angel care movement sensor mat and will now have to send it back as it has quit on us right while our daughter has her first really bad cold with fever and everything. So we‘d love to find an alternative. 

I‘ve heard good things about the owlet and I‘d love to be able to monitor our daughter’s heart rate. Unfortunately, they only ship to the US, Canada and Australia a d we‘re in Europe. 

Can anyone recommend other monitoring devices for babies that might be available in Europe? 

Thanks so much! ",6.054037319762513,7.391491740458019,6.030178117048348,77.7542408821035,66.70992366412213,8.570313825275656,29.05937234944869,8.841846274778883,2.2980018659881254,562,19,99,9,9,177,93,131,0.058,0.725,0.218,0.9743,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,2,5,11,0,0,6,1,12,6,3,1,1,16,19,10,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,9,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,2,2,13,9,17,11,4,10,1,0,0,2,20,4,0,3,5,67,18,0,0.1791977302895446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529921957321058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779199337689518,0.1496226196975751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182704028932858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161051365247891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378347904403534,0.1524254978410837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936234179627222,0.0,0.0,0.1503025541881423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21235017319654206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754695939248631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234658958656341,0.0,0.11961587646145133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901004734547073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173095051792585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362879488441873,0.0,0.0,0.19897787286492385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17146802670499414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905988440475506,0.0,0.0,0.11479865464361183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530338825475075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586542894945171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889174007986849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498119407625916,0.0,0.0,0.11905100943863403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4311056110074856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MetalandIron2pt0,2018/03/27,"Parents of only children, how old is your child and how do you keep them entertained at home? I have an 8 year old son that finds himself bored a lot. He plays outside, likes to read and has toys he likes, but sometimes he's just bored. I would like to find activities and projects for him to do but I kind of don't know where to start. Your ideas with any age of child are welcome! ",2.9201687763713053,4.131751924050634,3.1374050632911414,96.02020042194091,74.0632911392405,6.279324894514768,24.55907172995781,6.42735559955562,0.3964666666666665,298,9,70,2,6,91,59,79,0.051,0.772,0.177,0.8588,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,3,1,0,4,9,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,16,11,7,0,1,3,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,4,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,7,10,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,8,40,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492991214957271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4013229743819423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22022300029124686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24784123026357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951429813642624,0.0,0.22862385356470244,0.120656992882538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32177793218119377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665054939484327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607541565519268,0.0,0.0,0.16697497611421974,0.0,0.0,0.24378036246523155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21960587257660105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171370629128921,0.0,0.1553961145194286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595950622081306,0.0,0.0,0.14138072224665704
parenting,Hopefulhomeowner,2018/03/27,"Should I override child's request regarding transferring school due to in-town move? I am in the process of house hunting, with the hope of moving into a place by the beginning of summer.  I had gotten all of the info about doing a parental choice school ""transfer"", in which my daughter would remain at her current school even if we move out of the school zone.  We'd be living less than a mile away, but it's a weird and very specific zone.  However, I found out a few days ago that the campus will be closed next year, meaning if we move out of the school zone there will not even be the option to apply for the lottery to remain.  I talked to my 2nd grader about it, and as excited as she was about the idea of living in a house, she said she wants to stay at her school.  
This means no house, period.  The homes in her school zone are $250k and up on average and out of my budget.  It would mean living in our current apartment for another 3 years. Feels like at this point, only one of us can be happy.  I hate our apartment- I am not buying because I think renting is throwing away money, but rather I am tired of dealing with the office, devil spawn upstairs neighbors, no yard, dangerous parking lot.  I've weighed the pros and cons, and a house work better for our life.  Renting one is also out of our budget in that neighborhood.  
The schools in the other zones are excellent schools, but she is a bit anxious in general and doesn't want to deal with a new place. 

I'm conflicted because my brother and I were moved around a lot and I know how tough it can be adjusting.  They'll also be testing next year, so I don't know if that could make the transition harder. 

TL;DR:  Trying to decide if I should go for my desire to buy a house and have my 2nd grader change schools next year, or go for her request to stay in our apartment so she can stay at her current school.

Edit:  So sorry for the confusion!!  By ""closed campus"", I mean that only children who reside within the school attendance boundaries will be admitted.  If we move, we will not have the option for her to stay at her current school because we'll be outside of the boundary.",6.066613475177308,5.845284080378256,6.180203900709222,82.14562500000002,66.35224586288416,8.941252955082744,30.8637706855792,8.344100000000001,2.1373373522458627,1678,56,332,20,24,534,201,423,0.087,0.8490000000000001,0.064,-0.8503,8,0,0,0,0,0,50,12,0,1,3,14,12,2,1,31,0,39,3,0,2,1,72,60,27,0,15,13,3,1,1,1,10,2,1,5,2,13,26,1,1,14,1,7,10,7,6,0,2,6,2,45,6,66,34,6,67,1,0,0,0,39,35,0,12,19,232,58,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046200502790404684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335936874891353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05465149797459985,0.0,0.058879831143363974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639711449583397,0.0,0.0,0.09793535869112792,0.0,0.0,0.0953140935969844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609517371428104,0.05690063892826234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055135175014431284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041612919220398496,0.0,0.0,0.03361255532218156,0.10746515907043104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884844535699006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026353020226586418,0.03723394810224029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057145983811099005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059241054996396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055481829551361564,0.0,0.05145689375882362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052279780754641306,0.05176609946226419,0.0,0.3006926439541822,0.0,0.05883620313502293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057286669658220275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036813313728484,0.025462795626655363,0.0,0.13806655572296753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861971535389718,0.0,0.0,0.03478995315401658,0.0,0.0,0.22709223765658645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323666003646761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050337022730609284,0.1662879975141087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063460190229134,0.07927796035126349,0.0,0.0,0.05787217450091136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890688702308587,0.0,0.04926946554831948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04957726935546581,0.0,0.0,0.685716021771508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583431478929396,0.0,0.2222084179323533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04189141757753777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03339586202432382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059903323123236325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035385497747089226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269294869154589,0.0,0.0,0.04300377666053496,0.0614824780141154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03794337918696376,0.0,0.0,0.07404793124281396,0.0,0.0,0.1342521562636589
parenting,IrwinElGrande,2018/03/27,"I want to share a beautiful moment and lesson from my 4yo daughter I was waiting for a flight inside an airport lounge (very big, international airport) with my wife and daughter seating on a table and just hanging out. A lady and her partner/husband walked past us slowly with their luggage. The lady was a person of size of African descent, she was wearing a very traditional African dress (like a maxi) and a ethnic traditional hat. My daughter kept staring at her and I noticed she kept her eyes on her for a full 30 seconds while she walked next to us. I got a little nervous thinking that my daughter might ask out loud an uncomfortable question regarding the woman's weight, ethnicity or clothing.  
  
But as soon as the woman left, my daughter turn back to us and with a  beautiful brightness in her eyes and a smile she said ""That was a beautiful lady!"".  
  
Gosh, I almost started to cry and I felt so ashamed of myself think about all the ways she might ""make me"" uncomfortable with an ""umpolite"" comment. She noticed the beauty of a person in her uniqueness and rawness, something that adults some times forget how to do or to appreciate.  
  
I will forever remember that moment and will take it as a lesson to make sure I don't contaminate her mind with idiotic crap, so she can always appreciate the real beauty everyone has.  
  
Also, she refers to people as ""humans"", which I find it quite amusing, but now that I think about it, it might influence on how she see's everyone as being uniquely different. ",9.44066170388751,7.962735795698925,9.232329749103947,67.09669975186108,60.21863799283153,11.451998897160188,41.174800110283975,10.214889679676881,4.313190019299697,1193,55,200,20,13,389,150,279,0.055,0.848,0.096,0.8431,1,0,1,0,0,0,35,3,0,1,3,11,9,2,2,24,0,14,5,4,5,2,52,31,26,0,1,5,6,2,1,0,5,0,2,0,6,10,18,1,3,10,1,0,3,1,4,0,1,9,9,37,5,35,16,3,26,0,0,5,0,37,12,1,8,11,149,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906131540367206,0.0,0.0,0.0950843992268194,0.09893444160704268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111555808254165,0.0,0.0,0.09142686860991407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060622098033015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242253399908116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272283587878173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141627807035314,0.0,0.10867257416093452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509530391878217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291853503145156,0.0,0.0,0.058088602664169424,0.11916917675112094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873353382714875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784027776204657,0.12005524706583008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645164808357506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707371955538726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113503637731359,0.08243038634834476,0.20763803260569366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319536869230816,0.12646493489845154,0.0,0.13533439019541002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346906807434358,0.0,0.11310126126721927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474801775243616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153513692507682,0.0,0.0,0.0841581312679194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206197509129777,0.0,0.08939810818772764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22855922674817314,0.0,0.0,0.06933162796857444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932920959304553,0.0,0.0,0.4290666869166629,0.0,0.0,0.1962101359269029,0.07013038333528038,0.09437739701060832,0.0,0.14478833898031646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UtopianBharath,2018/03/27,"Hand Mouth and Foot (HMF) disease Our son suddenly fell sick and diagnosed with Hand, Mouth and Foot disease by the Doctor after physically examining him. This is his second bout of HMF within 4 months. Got two questions
1. How do Children contract HMF??
2. Is it common for Children to contract it for a second time within 4 months of occurance of first??",3.574549450549452,6.431921707692307,4.55142857142857,78.97,78.07692307692307,6.791208791208793,27.747252747252745,7.957251820313856,2.246340659340659,281,12,46,5,7,91,46,65,0.047,0.847,0.106,0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,9,6,1,0,7,4,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,3,0,11,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,7,30,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473468793208007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502774607044053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910928133631739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27370521338287673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5463147095733639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833655849154788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955168389311886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33429996707377296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pallwall_andthebeat,2018/03/27,"A post discussing penises Howdy, soon to be First time dad, also First time reddit user. 

My wife and I are having a boy in 25 (ish) days, and we’ve hit a weird wall. It’s about the kids penis. Honestly, just out here looking for different opinions. 

We had planned on circumcising, but at my wife’s last appointment, her midwife/OB said the procedure was going to be $500, no big deal, but we were curious about the price, and she informed us that the procedure isn’t necessary, the risks out weigh the benefits, etc. etc. etc. 


So my wife goes home, watches a video of how it’s done, does some research and has turned anti-foreskin snipping. She’s adamant that it is not happening, she shed several tears, and as her husband and the father of our child, I realized I need to respect her and relieve this fear, so I agreed we didn’t need to do it. 

Yay, “compromise” with the Queen Lord...but here’s the thing, I’m circumcised. Is this gonna be a weird thing that I am and he’s not? 

Edited to add: I did not have a father growing up, and only a sister, so I’m a little unaware of how the father son relationship goes, do they even notice each other’s penis, is this weird? Probably, but hey, i think sometimes. ",3.9510153771052003,4.948394240663903,5.0193214547229665,84.32638027825242,71.32365145228215,8.326189895045156,28.28435440566268,8.671277953709913,2.0046004881620694,936,34,192,16,17,308,146,241,0.093,0.805,0.101,0.7196,1,0,0,0,0,0,47,5,0,1,4,13,10,0,2,18,1,20,2,1,2,0,33,32,19,0,2,7,10,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,13,17,1,0,3,1,1,2,6,5,0,2,7,3,22,5,19,20,5,19,0,0,2,1,32,9,0,2,7,126,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349820267889347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959504809202152,0.1592113063592819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134724876836012,0.0,0.0,0.1351433765536556,0.15803625871898935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5166932730570227,0.10200004374355463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377751074396866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26271740794841386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776654534049293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656258860644258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490661833326222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588166030840114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478016649586934,0.0,0.0,0.12968292270386175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290168658674821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582041492142372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174515325916168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790195516514004,0.0,0.1665024514630685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580081488955636,0.0,0.0,0.14689899290311534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446277315618386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273594531983062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20519383604683208,0.09895297910278526,0.0,0.0,0.18009960650843682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797629336146666,0.0,0.0,0.18576115918936628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,klmpatty,2018/03/27,"Consequence for 9 year old girl who smashed kid’s lunch I walked up behind my daughter when she didn’t see me, and saw her smashing a kid’s lunch under her foot. When I said her name, she just looked at me with her foot still on the lunch, and when I asked why she was standing on someone’s lunchbox, she said it was an accident. I told her we’d talk about it later.... WTF!?!? No one else was around, just seems very evil and nasty. Not sure how to proceed. 

Edited for more info ",0.25045454545454504,2.5286673030303035,1.2153787878787874,101.0430681818182,88.0909090909091,4.108080808080809,17.340909090909093,5.46131890053228,-0.7662060606060606,369,9,86,2,12,114,71,99,0.206,0.794,0.0,-0.9694,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,0,9,2,1,0,3,0,5,5,2,1,1,13,13,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,5,3,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,8,5,17,1,12,4,1,16,0,0,3,0,21,6,0,1,8,53,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22665850510541485,0.2380276863195742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269550872466045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21380980738629085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26717228003474824,0.0,0.17253156203633085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4843883022219996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20289265983324786,0.2317890429427349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21573177308903704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033333323528861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399686318699367,0.0,0.0,0.20464734042294752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24329250995237006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008142074523165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22974756974047936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639616675333967
parenting,iatentded,2018/03/27,"Do I make my kid participate in his class program? My son is 7, and his elementary school is having a spring concert. Each grade will stand in the bleachers and sing a little song or two. Costumes not required but you can dress up to fit the theme if you want. Very short and sweet, not super formal. 

He does not want to do it. Border line panicking about it. He is ok being in front of crowds for other things (T-ball, class trivia show where he was even the host) but singing has always made him uncomfortable. He doesn't even like to sing to himself at home. Do I make him do it? On the one hand I don't want him to get the idea that avoiding anything that makes you uncomfortable is okay, on the other he is really genuinely freaking out and I'm not sure this is a battle worth fighting. Thoughts?",2.3606458333333333,4.467054606250001,3.24625,90.78708333333336,77.9375,6.016666666666668,21.916666666666664,7.03164865440522,0.5164041666666668,627,18,132,7,15,199,104,160,0.182,0.6920000000000001,0.126,-0.9272,0,1,0,0,2,0,19,0,3,0,2,4,10,2,1,9,2,18,1,1,4,1,26,28,8,0,4,8,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,9,6,0,2,2,6,1,1,6,4,0,2,3,4,14,6,16,23,1,15,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,2,2,84,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807062912516669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871582199548205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005056322037267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868829572904562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346453046616588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178433809452088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24516318216913344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610032038313466,0.21766555319271635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054954329107616,0.4348962969201189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716282536005054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912732231663774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21979183538258626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20468406734954045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428085602318175,0.0,0.0,0.17241201745969414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21214758907784276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791914190518466,0.3842848234868117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cameron919,2018/03/27,"Having a tough time getting your young children to pick up their toys? We used to until we came up with a solution... I just thought I'd pass this along to any parent who has had trouble getting their kids to clean up their toys after playing with them. It was such a tooth-pulling exercise before when we phrased it as some sort of chore for the kids, but a few changes of words has made all the difference.

Now, we tell our kids that if they want to donate any toys to less fortunate kids to go ahead and just leave them out, and mommy and daddy will collect them later for donation. And any toys they want to keep playing with to put away. We phrase this in a very positive way and with a smile, not as a punishment, but rather as a choice for them. We even encourage them from time to time to leave some toys out for donation (they have way too many), although surprise surprise they haven't wanted to do that yet.

Even though we haven't donated any toys yet, when that time comes we will have those toys left out bagged, in the car, and ready to go. We'll bring the kids along to the donation station and treat the whole exercise as a positive experience.

Of course this probably won't work for everyone but if it helps just one parent then that's great",6.930176088971269,6.103040991967872,6.286425702811247,84.10709916589437,64.78313253012048,10.231819586036456,31.6036453506333,9.466822959209583,2.414671671300587,993,31,211,16,13,304,130,249,0.021,0.777,0.202,0.9943,2,0,0,0,0,0,24,10,1,12,2,14,10,1,0,15,0,14,2,0,3,1,49,28,22,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,6,12,26,0,1,1,11,5,8,4,3,0,1,5,0,24,7,45,19,6,35,0,0,0,0,35,10,0,5,15,145,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717958947843272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841796594248409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630697391748668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563286812945378,0.0,0.0,0.14459225190702352,0.11774010749155628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280440788235535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18055536691158056,0.0,0.0,0.1306062484239277,0.0,0.1337019808061514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282221658100794,0.0,0.15535994118155388,0.0,0.0,0.15069324139293955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161558258237573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148993014885835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28945464547196764,0.14850623439713334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933254606090525,0.0,0.13857488010942967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261978536329292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035400914807204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736714864150066,0.0,0.0,0.1374039403845253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946676942962532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429013194682424,0.10851085532028752,0.3188032998840444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118050032002015,0.0,0.11277760352127154,0.2418571251444691,0.21698484863997575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526014364797472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950668770288963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NotYourMom119,2018/03/27,"It seems like no employers have kids at home . It seems impossible to work and keep up with my children. Employers are not understanding when you call out with a sick child. But I do not have family or friends in this area to help me out when my child can’t go to school or day care. What am I supposed to do other than call out? Do these employers not have children? It’s been a problem with every job I’ve had when I have to call out for my kids. I don’t expect to get paid if I call out without PTO, but I don’t want write-ups and threats of being fired .  ",3.1851470588235284,3.654297630252106,4.291922268907567,90.78561449579833,72.69747899159664,7.966806722689077,24.959033613445378,8.07648339933343,1.0378142857142851,434,12,104,6,8,142,72,119,0.123,0.8,0.077,-0.8105,4,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,0,1,3,5,1,0,2,0,15,1,0,0,0,26,24,10,0,4,9,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,6,7,10,0,1,3,0,1,1,8,2,0,0,3,1,11,3,21,20,0,14,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,5,5,70,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7159719614595036,0.0,0.17872213575099138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304900237856162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769128443805282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524993662808604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543036074683076,0.0,0.09158296788712036,0.0,0.09962262766104693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749470297350467,0.0,0.17583242339751204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395051423331312,0.1558078097061399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563894103769566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773101351249553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740511963513556,0.0,0.31915896937435817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182485418612868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339191317999566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897547770909538,0.0,0.12761484876239193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dq66,2018/03/27,"1 year old absolutely loves his 8 year old brother. He keeps going up to him and rubbing his face on the older brothers.

Also laughs like a madman when the 8 year old makes him, by making faces/noises, but doesn't do that as much with us.

Is there some science behind it? Is he doing it to get the older brother to like him more? not that the older one doesn't like him, they have a very healthy relationship.
",3.6457028112449814,4.729661542168677,4.590542168674698,86.78934738955826,72.13253012048195,6.497188755020081,23.471887550200805,6.42735559955562,0.5540779116465862,320,8,66,2,6,104,57,83,0.0,0.8009999999999999,0.199,0.9451,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,6,0,7,2,1,2,0,8,13,5,0,0,2,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,8,5,9,13,3,13,0,0,0,1,15,2,0,1,13,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160932524472184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514022730753808,0.0,0.11437001834409595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887243563655025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29494887318495994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18162805074629196,0.0,0.26866014325080323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793544587752055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6335063985078652,0.0,0.13636625336575184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21605774918926665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420683997722113,0.0,0.0,0.16604507552507305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887782275875205
parenting,magdejup,2018/03/27,"How to cope with anxiety thoughts? Hi all, I have a nearly four year old daughter and am pregnant with #2.

Since my daughter was born, I have recurrent anxiety thoughts about her- they’re not invasive to the point where they impact my life but they’re awful enough to distract me. For example, I read about something horrific happening to someone in the news and I immediately picture -in graphic detail- the same thing happening to my daughter.

Is this just a regular, instinctive and protective parenting thing where we worry about our kids? What’s your experience and response to these kind of thoughts when you get them?",5.086265356265353,8.070768306306306,5.035544635544635,76.93326781326782,73.14414414414415,9.081408681408682,35.31613431613432,9.573946990214177,4.1087765765765765,506,28,82,14,11,157,80,111,0.172,0.828,0.0,-0.9638,2,0,1,0,0,0,14,2,2,2,0,8,2,0,1,5,1,5,1,0,1,1,17,11,7,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,15,1,16,7,3,10,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,4,61,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093804476635877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089371560885199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978003438399807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564646603355264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35762756469801554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21057077137957309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282702060203384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121855542383856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453045984096345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911539673614384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20226488735503745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727033923840198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133201780429272,0.15567126519903746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686788989038337,0.0,0.0,0.4815968551096239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535423950668125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021671744875213
parenting,insywinsy1923,2018/03/27,"Having another child after a child with disabilities I have two daughters. My eldest is normal at 8 years old. She'll be entering 3rd grade next school year. My second is turning 5 years old this May and she has multiple disabilities (deaf but she has a cochlear implant, autism, and cerebral palsy but she can walk now so it's only affecting most of her fine motor skills). My husband and I want to have another child and I want it soon because we're getting older and I don't want to still be sending my child to elementary school at 50. For parents who have disabled children, how was it raising a younger child after the disabled one? Are there possible complications that might affect the whole family in the long run?",3.5139075630252137,6.229281735294119,4.336806722689079,81.27205882352945,77.23529411764707,7.121008403361344,28.096638655462183,8.192908349453996,2.270037394957982,580,25,101,11,14,186,95,136,0.0,0.942,0.058,0.6492,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,6,0,17,1,0,3,0,18,22,9,0,4,2,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,6,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,1,1,13,1,11,16,2,20,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,3,13,70,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658548174765809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063438990945786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445716886150638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114360902024217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438391927671907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506527110575685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855309467984008,0.0,0.17092524382504692,0.0,0.0,0.3661146069780461,0.0,0.11821272217691195,0.13267808197914033,0.0,0.0,0.19370753431904253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666763971082715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531080775225245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393170411433238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18975292982047925,0.17041358064989034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086877067255737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947686570814212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370227711908246
parenting,textarface,2018/03/27,"I hate Pink, Glitter & Frills - Soon to be parent... Help Myself and my wife are having a baby in the upcoming months and it is a little girl.

We have bought a few items and been given a few items but lately after looking online and locally i am started to feel annoyed and frustrated.

I look at boys clothing (jeans, tops, shirts all are fine).

I look at girls clothing ( frills here, glitter there, extra material added when not required everything floral) and that really frustrates me.

Same with toys, most boys toys are figures or cars etc, but then girls have tea sets, and cooking sets, and hair brush glitter etc, and i don't want my girl to have any of that.

 


Let me explain.

I am happy with white, purple, pink if not vibrant over the top, but i do not see the point in glitter on clothes, extra frills, bow tie frills, floral patterns, toys marketed just as pink junk.

 


I am more than happy playing with anything she wants to do etc, but i don't want her to be obsessed with meaningless things or for us to dress her in a vibrant pink shirt with a love heart on it made of glitter with pink frills, where a normal tshirt pattern or a dress would be perfect.


I do not want people to think i am against her being a child, or hate women or anything silly like that.

I just hate how i guess marketing is so pushing one spectrum of girls must do this and wear this, i think its wrong that a boy gets a cool toy and a girl gets a stove.

Is anyone else the same?",5.806967859308674,5.78807673539519,5.764920153628463,84.21935112189206,66.86941580756013,8.359086314938347,30.176066302809787,7.724431198458867,1.8051805538710333,1154,38,232,11,17,362,159,291,0.14300000000000002,0.735,0.122,-0.6928,1,0,0,0,0,0,48,2,0,0,4,10,17,6,1,17,1,28,8,5,2,3,55,51,26,0,8,16,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,11,10,18,2,1,5,6,1,2,6,8,0,1,4,15,25,9,29,40,14,25,0,0,11,1,22,14,0,8,8,159,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770475910283842,0.0,0.07888183057423975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110768930918517,0.11885247297325242,0.1909110355466691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690047748587792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881014251713889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425048248376208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865148886308531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120712518480832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277835995697025,0.0,0.0,0.2469615915030769,0.0,0.3435686010873077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745681681850785,0.07775023839265774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308494907620721,0.0,0.0,0.11861463044220652,0.0,0.05667019799928421,0.11625930960916984,0.0,0.0,0.2922243993461397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469167913954176,0.10975901702227664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092587572977403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365227714948838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860246247299557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880076625139086,0.0,0.0,0.08041760519744093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965450961791864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743105475489909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924344652790595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210316212589062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706314786623042,0.14865218580272613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952991916526444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27367177223063033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240082877181802,0.12682433774097238,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaffyD82,2018/03/27,"Parents raising bilingual kids: when did you start to remind them to use the right language with the right person? As the speaker of the minority language (English) in the household, I've noticed that if I remind our 2,5-year-old to use English with me (""In English, please""), she will, but I'm worried that I'm turning it into a chore for her. What's your experience? Or do you know any literature on this specific question? Thanks a bunch!",6.758780487804878,7.348607560975612,6.779170731707321,75.66948780487809,64.85365853658537,8.511219512195122,39.57073170731707,8.238735603445708,3.4235434146341466,348,19,60,4,5,111,61,82,0.035,0.906,0.059,0.4371,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,2,0,10,11,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,9,1,12,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,3,2,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158307676541753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22771687613958155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793731142146128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650371330712451,0.2442777936331601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584898181700398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032664509425203,0.0,0.2555375399767208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607821846152818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39760903967864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477255583778475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432513195675024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532126615464652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021179694360921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236413269131178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991148924679884
parenting,whitewolf2247,2018/03/27,"Child's crush found out... My 11 year old daughter's crush found out that she liked him. He is very oblivious about it (Doesent realize she actually does like him) and when his friend asked her if she liked him she accidently blushed. Said crushes friend told crush in front of her and he said the f word.

The crush told her it wasnt her fault.

Does this crush like my daughter back? Will their friendship be ruined? I need advice.",2.013975903614458,4.720600096385546,1.8638674698795192,96.48278915662651,84.18072289156626,5.247710843373494,20.34819277108434,6.742157984588678,0.1713142168674704,340,10,72,4,10,100,56,83,0.141,0.633,0.226,0.889,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,0,3,8,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,12,4,0,2,1,2,0,4,2,1,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,7,2,16,6,5,3,0,8,0,1,0,0,25,3,0,1,8,36,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.18619343797239776,0.0,0.0,0.1864477131872187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783723983252194,0.0,0.0,0.14671354964110042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33394102067779075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.418405065852482,0.2948234686536942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728612920962552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414759048695438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021267732625173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629892997910221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646354688042677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743011849296332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286905075432465
parenting,DogMadeMe,2018/03/27,"Feeling sad and broken that my teenage son hates me and hurt me I (F/41) raised my son (M/17) alone. His father and I never married, only dated a few months. I was married to an abusive man for a few years, and I worry my son saw and heard things that shaped him. Starting in around 4th grade, he began refusing to go to school, started getting periodically violent. In 5th gradehe was diagnosed with ADD, but then had bad reactions to three different meds. Tried Zoloft, another bad reaction. Ended up being prescribed a bipolar med that didn’t seem to help much. 

Over last few years, his father (who lives within 10 mi of us) has seen him 2 days a month. Not because of a parenting plan, but because he didn’t want him more. Five years ago, my son wasn’t getting along with his half-brother there and his stepmother said she didn’t want him there much.

Also over the last few years, my son has been getting more and more violent. He used to just break stuff at home or kick walls. I would put him outside or sit on him (although twice he told teachers I held him down and CPS came to my house, and that was horrible. Everything was “unfounded” but what a nightmare.) I just started trying to push him outside when he’d have a blowup, and he’s throw plant pots against the door, threaten to break windows, threaten to kill himself.

I had him in counseling constantly. It didn’t seem to help much. I tried to get him to eat well and sleep well. He wouldn’t eat lunches I packed, and he spent lunch money on oreos and coke. He wouldn’t have dinner with me. He would sleep in his room from the time he got home and would constantly tell me how unhappy he was. 

Whenever he would have a giant rager, I’d text his father to tell him. He would call or text my son, and often blame me. I became the bad guy in everything. When my son was failing two classes because he wasn’t doing homework, I made him have his computer at the dining table, not in his room. His father called me to tell me I was keepibg him from succeeding in school since I wouldn’t let him have his computer. 

About a year ago, he was having a major rager, throwing stuff, and I pointed at thr door and told him to leave. He hit me, closed fist, in the face. I called the police and he went to juvie for one night, until his father got him out. He had fun community service for a few hours and that was it.

The last six months were hell. He kept saying he wanted to live with his father. I said “okay, see if your father okays it”. Finally his father said he could. But he wanted him to switch schools midyear and move right away. I said no, wait until school year is over. 

Since then it has been horrible. My son would fight woth me over everything. His father would reward him for being awful to me. 

A month ago, my son was refusing to get to school and then had a blowup when I told him he wasn’t staying home. He wrecked a bunch of my stuff (broke my glasses, damaged a bunch of stiff in the garage). Then he hit me with a chair, kicked the back gate into me so hard I bled and now have a acar, and then shoved me onto the concrete.

I called his father, who told me not to pick fights with him. I then filed a police report. My son was taken back to juvie where his father got him out an hour later. 

Since then, I haven’t seen my son or talked with him. He moved in with his father. I texted him and he only says I wrecked his life and he hates me. His father says I made the whole thing up, and he is now trying to force me into agreeing with a parenting plan and a lot of child support. 

This all feels surreal. I am an educated woman and I have tried so hard to be a good mom. My son blames me for everything, he and his father seem to be egging each other on, and neither of them even seems to remember that for years, his father didn’t want time with him. 

I don’t have anything I can do, really. I love my son. I know he has a great heart and also a mood disorder. I wanted to help him find a way to cope with his depression, anxiety, and rage. 

He says (via text) that he is happy now and doesn’t want to see me again. 

TL;DR: my 17 yr old son who I raised alone hurt me, went to live with his father, and won’t see me. I feel like a bad mother and I feel broken.

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parenting,Hormone_imbalance,2018/03/27,"Why does the green triangle go on the tv stand? I have a darling (almost) two year old girl. She has a big thing of wooden coloured blocks that she loves to build with, but for some unfathomable reason whenever we put the blocks away she will pick up the only green triangle and March it over to its (clearly) rightful place-not in the block container- on the tv stand beside the tv. Now if I move it and she finds it she puts it right back. If I put it into the container and we dump them out when she sees it she will stop everything until it is back on the tv stand. Now I even ask her where does this go and she will point. 

Why child? Why? Why does the green triangle go on the tv stand?

The sad thing is she will clearly never remember this by the time her vocabulary is in a place to explain it. I will forever have to wonder.",2.1623725490196084,3.9665748058823533,3.198235294117648,92.3187254901961,77.41176470588233,7.121568627450981,21.333333333333336,8.021203637495839,0.7798745098039213,647,17,145,11,15,207,91,170,0.106,0.848,0.046,-0.8924,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,1,0,7,3,1,0,16,0,11,1,0,2,3,29,19,9,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,14,9,0,6,5,5,0,7,1,2,0,1,0,5,19,1,20,14,1,40,0,1,5,1,19,17,0,5,12,97,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944018113499034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084528435978648,0.0,0.1214486812902586,0.19879354420616885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393619022514928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853782843014017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617500738703612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181458279383599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039276019543774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166666696174946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373881910772132,0.0,0.0,0.09969710298756117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356418266003898,0.0,0.0,0.0983118239287624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701087327222741,0.0,0.12219716553223388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898409519566739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290590380082212,0.0,0.0,0.14643199643406413,0.22078313223931287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300743392994943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807129130521864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175578585973558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537543535622031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262730790648299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665660675957247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018233069212124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324239353642238
parenting,randykates,2018/03/27,"Religious experience When my kids were teenagers and studying for their Bar Mitzvah I took them to a 3 day weekend retreat that our Temple held in Northern Arizona.  Most everyone stayed in huge community cabins with a bunch of bunk beds but I reserved one of the few private cabins for us because I have a difficult time sleeping around strangers and also I heard the community cabins were not very nice but these private cabins were very nice.  I also wanted to make sure we all got a good nights sleep.  The whole trip was fairly expensive but I knew it was for a good cause.

We arrived at the camp and I went to check in. They told me that the room I had reserved was given away to someone else.  They apologized and said they put me in one of the community cabins because one of the other fathers who I was mildly acquainted with requested that we be with him and his kids.   So they stuck me in one of the larger cabins with a bunch of other families and we went to check it out.  The cabins had outhouses and the thin bunk mattress were soiled and overall the place was pretty gross.  I tried to make the best of it and shrug it off.  We made our beds as best we could given we didn’t have ample sheets and blankets.  We ate dinner which was reminiscent of the putrid school food they served us when I was a kid.  The salad bar was literally the most unappetizing and unhealthy salad bar  I had ever seen. All of the other food was fried and because I eat healthy I couldn’t deal with that.  My kids, however were in heaven eating chicken nuggets and cold fries.  After dinner we sat around and sang songs for what seemed like 5 hours and I had to restrain myself from poking my eardrums out. 

Then it was time for sleep.  Because we had planned on staying In the furnished cabin we didn’t have enough sheets and blankets so I was forced to lay on nothing more than a thin sheet that barely covered the grossly stained 3 inch mattress.  I wondered if someone had died in my mattress or it was used to give child birth.  The dad who so kindly invited me to join him was very sick.  He was coughing and hacking so loud while everyone tried to sleep.   Then one of the other dads began to snore so louder I was afraid he was going to wake the dead.  I lay there for a few hours, my mind racing with anger and frustration. The coughing guy was finally asleep and snoring louder than a bear and he was soon joined in accompaniment by not one, but now two, of the other parents in our cabin.  

I grabbed all of my stuff and some of the kids stuff and snuck out of the cabin and put it in the back of my vehicle.  I returned to the cabin quietly and carried my children out one at a time while they were still asleep and put them in back of the SUV.  They never woke up completely.  I drove all the way home which was about a  2 1/2 hours drive.  

Because this was a retreat I didn’t have a phone number to reach anyone and let them know that I had left.  Next week at family Sunday school I was the bombarded by people who had heard various rumors of what happened to us. I guess the people in my cabin told everyone we all went to sleep and when they woke up there was no sign of us.  They thought we got abducted or something.  That was the last retreat we ever went on.  

Edit: fixed at least one small typo. ",4.424494314381271,5.561409481538465,4.861484949832779,85.37599331103682,70.33846153846154,7.498327759197322,27.20735785953177,7.7425588080867325,1.4758548494983283,2593,85,517,30,46,823,281,650,0.08800000000000001,0.826,0.086,-0.7389,2,0,1,0,0,0,40,21,0,13,3,22,15,2,1,46,0,48,23,8,5,9,92,85,49,2,4,9,4,3,1,0,0,3,7,7,8,30,53,12,2,5,6,3,12,8,5,0,9,66,12,77,10,85,15,19,86,2,0,1,0,66,38,0,9,34,375,107,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385289167495967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045402269204647405,0.0,0.0,0.11560726953871875,0.0,0.0,0.061006161334628585,0.09985807092577227,0.0,0.197911052390529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362851717357763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670349852721412,0.0,0.0,0.06808042405327328,0.0,0.0,0.051843266772953096,0.0,0.0,0.041876049677242885,0.06694249063587858,0.0,0.0,0.0673896173539839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328841854395988,0.05424271856767685,0.0,0.0,0.06709256421647511,0.0,0.0,0.11747021214339885,0.0,0.18613717646554212,0.0,0.06351638224415335,0.12242504418086345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113031007754385,0.0,0.0,0.1570331193952447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062289109592045866,0.036902599909210736,0.1089244937141676,0.1038648019757279,0.0,0.0715303991152597,0.064293320585003,0.0574195389639497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513252786086111,0.0,0.19183611029172565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761714031807366,0.035685168852192715,0.052928601988904624,0.0,0.0,0.07054928201313664,0.0663978154083222,0.0,0.03172270850468913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061440641213268275,0.0866858108574172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556325049073579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05007989782052978,0.0,0.06905638263127152,0.06093469280938218,0.0,0.06230442385271848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519991943297039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209978625846836,0.0,0.0,0.09003195112732143,0.0,0.06784057575299852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605963133382207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582509877628165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176561628509927,0.0,0.0,0.13143018419500851,0.0,0.05911205130189101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248966485684546,0.0,0.11003408510071484,0.04998816176382433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841867508799746,0.051855127493657005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866420919355486,0.0,0.0,0.0611980527545679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154910138658398,0.11358787731139272,0.0,0.0,0.1240914509770281,0.0721423258865439,0.08816972392058535,0.0,0.06342955519820219,0.0,0.3124229037222301,0.0560807768992271,0.0,0.1607281806293275,0.0382988332621655,0.05154034556671418,0.05208488372345579,0.0,0.0,0.2407720758648591,0.0,0.07249474624095148,0.0,0.0,0.07041645731853459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ckmoll2,2018/03/27,"Egg allergy? Almost 10 month old son had a tiny bit of eggs tonight.  He started rubbing his eyes and face, eye got red and puffy slightly.

Immediately gave him a bath, which seemed to help. He also then had a blow out and then puked up eggs (def puke not spit up).

Could this be an egg allergy? I know they won’t test him until he’s 4 and say to just avoid the things he’s having some form of reaction to. He’s also too young to have benedryl. Any advice? ",1.2995672514619905,3.1825858105263194,2.6866666666666674,94.60111111111117,80.36842105263158,5.906432748538013,20.029239766081872,6.937597516519254,0.11083625730994127,352,9,82,4,9,114,72,95,0.095,0.8759999999999999,0.029,-0.7383,0,1,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,1,5,0,7,8,4,0,0,13,12,9,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,5,4,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,5,5,0,10,5,3,11,0,0,3,0,13,3,0,3,8,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781743756147185,0.0,0.0,0.28505398491985073,0.0,0.0,0.4552979582229428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19358407171679934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31078384007024284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272843165812796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276750868853337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19080702888654485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644614468796494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22721936391262204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29871128775635264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22637950123680545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591511495737201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014895484733443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18912083853351225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thesliperyslope,2018/03/27,"Kindergarten field trip to zoo requires each child provides their own chaperone. My oldest child so I’ve never experienced field trips before but this seems really odd to me. No siblings are allowed to join either. 




I’m a stay at home mom, my son is 4, and luckily my husband has a flexible job and we can make it work. But what about for the other families? Do they just not get to go? 



Or is this completely normal? 


Edit: I also don’t understand, if I’m only going to be responsible for my own child on the field trip, then why can’t I bring my son too? ",1.912159090909089,4.077725053571431,3.9737662337662334,84.70759740259741,79.71428571428572,7.287012987012987,22.68181818181818,8.296473431620573,1.4634714285714288,434,14,87,9,11,148,83,112,0.053,0.831,0.116,0.8085,2,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,1,18,18,9,0,2,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,4,0,1,2,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,1,11,0,10,17,4,12,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,3,3,57,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020759569097559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150204244309689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26494046753065537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23821347247601066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202000100702002,0.0,0.2872188946823383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25346849146249273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25075565461646604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686724163091773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959472619199905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488996619756924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475823714298633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921819939410717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187956850377638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23003932079453765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26933372553681023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630590130987162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280132582037225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396119770749475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OsmanthusJelly,2018/03/27,"Cancun with extended family with 1 month old and toddler? Yay or nay? Some background. My family (brother/sister/mother) do not see each other very often as we all live in different places and have different lives. I haven’t seen my mother and my brother in over 1 year, and my brother and my mother have not seen each other in possibly 5 years. There are some issues, so my mother cannot come into America for another few years, and my brother cannot go visit her for maybe another 10 years (long story.) My sister has taken the initiative to put everyone on notice that she and her husband are going on a vacation to Cancun late August to an all-inclusive resort, and we’re all welcomed to join her. My brother and mother plan to fly in, and they have said that they really would like to see my family there too and we can fly in from Los Angeles.

However, we have some issues of our own. I’m expecting and my due date is late July. I have a toddler who’ll be about 2 years old by August. My husband will have a lot of work stuff going on in August but he said he’ll try to see if he can spare a few days late August. 

I’m seriously considering the possibility of going on this trip, but it also just feels like a terrible idea. These are the pros and cons so far:

Pro: 

- If we don’t go in August, we will probably have to plan a trip to Taiwan to visit my family so my mother can see my kids. Going to Cancun for a few days is a lot cheaper (and less miserable) than flying to Taiwan for a week. 

- It’ll be a rare chance for everyone to get together and see my kids at the same time. 

- Will be on maternity leave so I don’t have to take time off from work.

Con:

- Baby will only be 1 month old.

- Have to rush process a passport which may or may not arrive on time.

- Have to deal with a toddler AND a baby, which sounds horrible. 

- Mom is queasy about me breastfeeding in public and it is absolutely not something I will compromise on. Arguments may ensue. By arguments, I mean a narcissist incessantly screaming at me for breastfeeding in public. Husband may get pissed.

- Have to drag two car seats abroad. 

- May not have fun at all because of baby and toddler. 

What would you do? I will not leave my toddler with in-laws. He has a small circle of trust and is only okay with people if he sees one of his three approved caretakers in the room. 
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parenting,throwaway_jonesy808,2018/03/28,"New dad, relationship failing Posting from throw away because I’m pretty sure my girlfriend knows my reddit and I don’t want her to think I’m exploiting relationship 

My girlfriend (23) and I (27) have been together for almost 2.5 years now. We met and hit it off immediately, connected with her like I have never connected with anyone before. Well, last year, we got pregnant (unplanned, but exciting) and honestly pregnancy changed her. She turned into a woman full of rage, I dealt with it because my mom and sister constantly reminded me about the hormone surge and what not, but it was bad. 

Now here we are, 6.5 month old beautiful baby girl, but she’s still...angry? She’s not affectionate. She shows little to no concern about our relationship. Some days, she’s fine and dandy, other days she’s just grumpy. She breastfeeds and wakes up a lot with the baby and I do what I can, but in the middle of the night, she’s like her normal angry self, but in steroids. She calls me names. She tells me she hates me and wants me out. I don’t know what to do. 

I love this woman to death, but something happened over the course of her pregnancy + becoming a mother, and I lost the woman I fell in love with and I want her back. 

Is there something that happens to women that causes this? Is this normal, first couple years of parenting territory? 

Please just give me any advice. I grew up in a severely broken home, I don’t want that for my daughter. 

TL;DR  girlfriend of 2.5 years changed immensely after pregnancy and 6.5 months of motherhood, taking toll on me and relationship, have no idea what to do, help ",4.502510964912278,6.330501246710527,5.109210526315792,80.99280701754388,71.07236842105263,8.224561403508767,27.14035087719298,8.841846274778883,2.130695614035087,1265,44,234,24,24,406,164,304,0.139,0.731,0.13,-0.7854,1,0,2,0,0,0,53,4,0,0,3,10,15,2,0,10,0,15,3,1,1,2,51,36,20,1,6,10,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,6,14,24,0,0,4,1,0,3,8,5,1,1,5,0,46,10,35,30,3,38,0,2,0,2,48,15,0,3,21,157,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010274964787944,0.0,0.0,0.10352603612075036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030595136773925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228981906998848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713444817386804,0.07949736881392751,0.08632290084133883,0.12604615954127585,0.11418159437336994,0.08797377880371834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105568554298653,0.0,0.0,0.10620578936556704,0.2187371291256253,0.0,0.0,0.11172342003294457,0.0,0.0,0.11439452234193655,0.0,0.133350694032001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793998636317703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991771676024238,0.0,0.0,0.08268714178934686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828476045581085,0.0,0.0,0.10207216365579068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929738368735885,0.0,0.10370447858916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671008715433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136363642169208,0.08427330017711307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010182485759644,0.10361982357567788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285791322296886,0.087894987706885,0.1866196067867438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108430641701168,0.16504326422495785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973757294313906,0.0998507380990708,0.0,0.0970206554747416,0.2025924452294384,0.0,0.0,0.10848610158751194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479779744304075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113486662496096,0.0,0.0,0.0990151054083446,0.10518061939651516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44399102485829023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078540322977098,0.1167966295956254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591830202697571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256410637695485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743997907070426,0.0,0.07773332375835654,0.0,0.09036382595297247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662455046344196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245416177709043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439187094049655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295633246537996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26630849754581565
parenting,cheesegirl96,2018/03/28,"When did your LO start teething? Hello all! I’m a first time mommy and my LO is inching towards 4 months. She has started crying more than usual and even after I’ve fed and changed her, the crying doesn’t stop. It seems to help her when she chews on my thumb or something hard. 

Just curious when your little ones started teething and what are some things I could do to help her? 

Thank you! ",1.983076923076922,4.307093653846156,2.1304487179487204,97.15413461538462,80.41025641025641,4.412820512820511,21.28846153846154,5.148860815047168,-0.2251846153846149,307,9,65,1,8,92,60,78,0.115,0.753,0.131,0.3278,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,3,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,0,7,4,2,0,1,11,14,8,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,11,1,6,11,3,16,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,12,44,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22597822573239895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705556144604594,0.0,0.4692959982256963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109186669067764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170232158317207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135867378434707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28636564585380386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410012992250346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705068735597216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447522566947163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446869110246728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445263148088954,0.0,0.0,0.4535971632025347,0.0,0.0,0.17859319088794293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966696281515458,0.0,0.0,0.14191749482998536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456166066172668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352687005646609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boogerbikes,2018/03/28,"Therapy for a 3 year old? My 3 year old has some social issues. I think mostly centered around anxiety. He has multiple food allergies, we tried to not traumatized but also make sure he understands he can’t eat things and why not (they will make him sick). Anyway, I think we failed at not traumatizing him. Yesterday, a kid at day care asked him if he wanted to come to his house to play and he broke down in tears. Today he asked again and my son screamed. When I asked why he said it was because of allergens. The thing is it’s not like we don’t go to other people’s houses ever, we have different friends with kids that we visit once month or so. Anyway, there’s that and the fact hat he’s really bad at answering people when they talk to him. Like good morning stuff and so on. Also, he’s terrible at sharing. I try to tow the line between prompting him and letting them work it out on their own, but clearly I’m doing a terrible job. 
Should I hire some outside help? I feel like a failure. He seems like a normal well adjusted kid most of the time, but sometimes I feel like he’s just overly sensitive and I don’t know how to help him with that. 

Edit: a few spelling issues and some clarification ",2.4428925619834705,4.4457215537190145,3.864462809917357,86.94851239669424,77.26446280991735,7.209917355371902,23.396694214876035,8.150884317080207,1.3234561983471078,944,30,193,17,22,311,143,242,0.156,0.685,0.159,0.1883,2,0,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,4,2,15,18,0,0,10,0,12,3,0,3,4,53,30,20,0,4,10,1,2,5,1,2,1,2,0,3,10,18,2,0,10,1,0,3,7,6,1,0,2,4,26,12,25,25,7,28,0,2,0,0,42,12,0,8,18,121,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193309879689828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701912309936473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126241287751576,0.31902519392108225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949772457005527,0.06934148961447915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597661825137913,0.0,0.0,0.09798632359572076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335991670793901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884547432283653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639556322511645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289419662221397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503174038953352,0.1625273238113804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754803339871122,0.0,0.08788365907771792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464725485119675,0.0954088536038324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248965390949615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625065200039909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374527613233455,0.11288021094363035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251451688692225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631799669467592,0.0,0.2778647068659513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185921101139954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079487890662008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114517252090396,0.0,0.0,0.23872485806542634,0.12114099043313332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772109563005912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287173590609124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820314955715113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355454235452258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595471216370105,0.0,0.0,0.11250254346600087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302175597740007,0.0,0.0,0.10720887207283357,0.0,0.0,0.09142866035649576,0.0,0.0,0.1300840615838366,0.0,0.151142079950298,0.14577396053417405,0.0,0.0,0.06632906146289579,0.0,0.1078225476372458,0.0,0.0,0.1544587813996016,0.0,0.0,0.11841869302857358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670932248810124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227571527298236,0.0,0.20528497930264056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281200611179082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650369344076414
parenting,MissPenguinni,2018/03/28,"3.5 yo daughter responding to “No” with violence I’m getting to my wits end.  My older daughter is 3.5 years old (4 in June).  I have a younger daughter who is 14 months.  Lately if she asks for something and we say “No” she responds immediately with violence.  If we ask her to do something and she doesn’t want to do it, she throws a tantrum.

For example, this afternoon she wanted a bath.  I told her, “Not right now, we need to wait for Daddy to come home from work.”  Without missing a beat, she grabbed a toy off the floor she was playing with and threw it at my face.  I told her that I was mad at her then took her upstairs to her room for timeout.  She screamed for the full three minutes she was in timeout.  Then she asked for a bath again.  I told her no and that she had to help me clean up her toys.  She begrudgingly agreed, throwing most of them angrily in the bin.  When I would try to redirect her into placing the toys in the bin softly, she would throw a tantrum.  It took us about 45 minutes to clean up the living room (usually 5-10 minute chore).

Then later on she asked to go outside in the backyard.  It was thundering and lightning, so I asked if she wanted to color with me instead without saying the word no.  She walked over to her little sister and gave her a cold-clock push to the floor.  She went back to time out, but this time she was laughing when I let her out.  When we tried to sit down and talk about why she made Mommy sad, she basically reverted back to baby talk and started mimicking what I was saying while laughing in between.

She does go to MDO twice a week and I think she’s learned some inappropriate play from there.  But the backtalk and violence has been escalating for about two months ever since her sister started walking.

I’m at my wits end.  She’s not responding to positive reinforcement, she’s not responding to timeouts, she’s not responding to sitting and talking quietly.  She’s obviously figured out that the violence/backtalk makes us mad and uses that to remove herself from a situation at her whim.",4.1473166666666685,5.587751765,4.8615,83.95616666666669,71.35,7.9333333333333345,30.083333333333336,8.447377352677275,2.176733333333334,1606,67,319,26,30,517,195,400,0.096,0.848,0.056,-0.9457,0,0,2,0,0,0,46,6,0,1,2,15,11,4,0,21,0,18,1,1,3,2,54,49,25,0,9,11,5,2,0,0,2,0,6,9,0,12,25,0,1,3,7,0,14,11,7,0,3,17,9,64,4,63,29,3,73,0,2,1,0,75,28,0,5,29,224,76,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4683957166751728,0.0,0.0,0.1541045562549589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631865157897804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769100218208893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750566054201056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064212210243217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05235353276570382,0.0,0.11389883122998508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716601267499532,0.0,0.10051485283771143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303680524627133,0.0,0.0,0.10246748995786324,0.0,0.0,0.10043280154795142,0.08848379067383982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481740096129962,0.06688832606086248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996704907169942,0.0,0.0,0.07430152700286853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514940805213784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469400946337086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855754314310963,0.0,0.2390636530240937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289149192427167,0.11263581478947635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542870479110585,0.0,0.0,0.14185273619754007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416255163385803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420799988656065,0.0,0.0,0.11686192390682493,0.0,0.0,0.28725356614484904,0.2226652490855837,0.13606667997826594,0.0,0.09788676435111872,0.0,0.2410711147113403,0.08654586613147018,0.11036282286614088,0.0,0.17731239899484458,0.0,0.08037926047821066,0.0,0.0,0.09289202556626612,0.090420387012031,0.0,0.0,0.1931901403271228,0.0,0.07295120828915405,0.0,0.0,0.14236702611167032,0.0,0.0,0.06452942005112132
parenting,pastoralclinic,2018/03/28,"Encouraging computer skills in younger sibling (10F) when parents are tech illiterate I am giving my old 2011 Macbook Pro to my 10 year old little sister. I realize that this is a ridiculously nice piece of hardware for an elementary school kid to own, but if it were left up to my mother, she probably wouldn't buy my sister a laptop until college. I want my little sister to have computer skills and a general interest in technology. If she could learn to program or use Adobe software or give the laptop some kind of function beyond a $2000 YouTube machine, I'd be thrilled. 

The problem is, my mother and my sister's father (we're stepsisters) are technologically illiterate and don't have an interest in exposing their daughter to technology. My mother didn't even have internet in the house until 2016. 

I figured I should sit down and show my sister how to download software and eject disk images, explain the difference between primary and secondary storage, how to troubleshoot using the task manager, etc. I can show her the basics of how not to destroy the computer, but I want to instill some kind of curiosity for tech in her mind that her parents aren't going to do. I'm in college, so I'm not able to regularly use the computer with her.

People of r/Parenting, do you have suggestions on how to encourage my little sister to take full advantage of her new laptop?",11.737070312500002,8.46920481640625,11.58696875,57.58615625,57.4765625,14.771250000000002,47.084375,12.857556352371635,6.0973903125,1107,55,179,29,10,373,144,256,0.03,0.841,0.129,0.9738,3,0,0,1,0,0,26,0,1,1,3,8,12,2,0,14,0,20,0,0,7,0,36,32,20,0,8,8,13,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,4,2,1,1,6,3,0,0,2,0,26,9,36,26,6,24,0,0,0,0,29,15,0,6,7,127,30,13,0.13555096256056276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822641372239956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162190532407268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117515453377098,0.08953013235967673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600656696512662,0.07703673579632585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640761137428258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28231093672543034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727651743881506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40757302500383386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686783095037405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309159643125028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28447586616218384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4515399076458176,0.0,0.0,0.09397396998161152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614686396780235,0.1297039646130961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718481083179948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191745432010917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512175297025721,0.0,0.0,0.1599029394451185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729037567612304
parenting,kozdrasm,2018/03/28,"Need advice about my nine year old daughter. Hello, I hope this is the appropriate subreddit for this kind of question. I have a wonderful 9 year old daughter, she's super sweet and loving and we have a great relationship. Currently, her mother and I are separated going through a divorce. It's a particularly stressful and her mother and I are not on good terms. That be said my daughters grandmother isn't a huge fan of me right now. Usually when I get my daughter for my time sharing its her grandmother making the exchange. Today, when I went to pick up my daughter they were sitting outside of a restaurant waiting for me. As I walked up, my daughter saw me, waved excitedly and ran up to greet me. She ran up to me with open arms and a big smile jumping up to me. Naturally, I scooped her up and gave her a big hug and kiss and asked her if she was ready to go. As we started walking off, her grandmother shouted at my daughter ""Get down  you're too old for that! That's something romantic partners do!"" she continued to shout ""get down"" until we got in the car and left. I assured my daughter that she didn't do anything wrong and it was okay to hug me like that if she wants. I hate to admit this, but, it really made me wonder if I had done something wrong and maybe this kind of affection from her wasn't okay at her age. Am I doing something wrong? Is this acceptable at her age?

Update: Thankyou to everyone here who took the time to share their advice and opinion on this matter. I think it's safe to say that I've done nothing wrong here and it's the MIL that's out of line. Unfortunately, tonight during the child exchange as I was saying my goodbyes, my MIL threatened to call CPS on me if I ever held my daughter like that again. I picked my daughter up in front of her and gave her a big hug right after she said that and she put her hands on me trying to take my daughter away from me. She was being violent pulling and scratching me and I ended up calling the police. I locked myself in the car until the police came but she had fled the scene. Luckily, there was a witness who saw what happened and reported it all to the police when they came. They took pictures of my arms where she scratched me with her nails and they are currently looking for her to arrest her. I can't believe all of this happened right in front of my daughter. I can't imagine how traumatized she must be right now. I hope I made the right choice tonight, I can't have my child be around someone like that. ",3.417469879518073,5.070552263052207,4.264295180722893,86.66451506024097,73.5582329317269,6.988032128514056,27.911847389558233,7.6454224807358475,1.5766199196787152,1969,77,397,25,40,633,215,498,0.048,0.7809999999999999,0.171,0.9949,2,0,3,0,1,0,48,3,0,5,1,15,31,2,1,22,2,33,8,3,7,5,66,74,36,0,9,7,14,3,3,1,1,0,6,0,3,27,31,0,3,7,0,2,19,7,7,0,1,30,13,89,24,66,39,3,87,0,0,3,5,72,37,0,10,33,281,116,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669739290527449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030645922144013,0.0760560570328947,0.07987102569881466,0.0,0.08026983258644496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625699313966696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447919536800627,0.19543179934172886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486115973997282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567084128924675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728165529808946,0.0,0.08163765575003565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339101814583771,0.0,0.09711037219565258,0.07165957244089517,0.06833088727288543,0.09419337216365514,0.0,0.0,0.15110135366641672,0.0,0.0,0.08435025516097767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697142357172225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779366678566967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282634626404407,0.0,0.0,0.12521898338559806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174463141015168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710922785758999,0.16168301287278167,0.05702912109957192,0.0,0.08583183653071204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334963110713948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197804226068944,0.0,0.2689517892807176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858866686638189,0.09570775157475388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054732419904546165,0.0,0.0,0.09172617414644206,0.0,0.3648089232933912,0.1625381951704371,0.13588410037761264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238955374843033,0.1973181702456351,0.0,0.0,0.0604719638487753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786652523183456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642371578958519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474386962173519,0.0,0.0,0.099636710961299,0.0,0.08098323553132733,0.0,0.18984483844331326,0.0580053622738034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409556436495156,0.0,0.05039230246511479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919992750876763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18530316009510747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736429422904524,0.0,0.1100358261987904
parenting,ShitStain101010,2018/03/28,"Birthday party or mini vacation? My son is turning four this summer. My husband’s work is having a shut down the same month so we have a rare week off together (without pay). We basically have a choice between a birthday party or going on a mini vacation for a couple of days. We want to take him to a big aquarium and couple of other fun places about three hours away from home so we’d need a hotel room. 

My problem is, if we do the vacation I won’t be able to afford to give him a birthday party. He has been to a couple of his friend’s parties this year and I know he’d love to have his own but he’s also never been on a “vacation”. I’ve been babysitting to save up for his party but now we have this opportunity to take him somewhere fun instead and I don’t know what to do. So what’s more important, family mini vacation or a party with his friends (if they even show up)?

Sorry if this is hard to read, I’m on mobile. 

Also, please no “don’t have kids in poverty” shaming. I promise you can’t possibly make me feel any worse about the things I can’t give him than I already do. ",2.338596491228067,3.629122333333335,4.5140350877193,85.25991228070178,75.66666666666667,7.171929824561403,24.947368421052627,7.793537801064563,1.3012,844,28,178,12,18,293,123,228,0.068,0.7340000000000001,0.197,0.9829,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,6,1,1,2,10,10,0,1,15,0,25,1,0,1,1,28,39,16,0,6,9,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,8,9,0,0,3,3,1,1,8,2,0,2,3,2,27,8,31,32,3,22,0,0,0,1,27,13,0,6,8,130,35,3,0.14573710943470347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082452424399474,0.23309182752312996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099106231954026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692481168618367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4837660188761286,0.0,0.0939883790551344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625798630220753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738797650445134,0.0,0.07368906144036869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22519225846544225,0.0,0.0,0.2796086301581382,0.08282575780474685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055182436791254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618620344059086,0.0,0.1435216962880471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018660798127074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153343122146338,0.0,0.09728065221486573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632597033765338,0.0,0.0,0.1080622200176242,0.1124014432038532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226426079670258,0.15997558212671148,0.0,0.16429669348455747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394507315024648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577654796626374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314076233926364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191523381756866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682125974941784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852012560048892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595952306289269,0.0,0.1169015184615922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404853728541761,0.0,0.10609835138906028,0.0,0.1485185651835459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384992029712598
parenting,PuzzleheadedChard,2018/03/28,"I feel like my son is being used by his ""friend"" My son likes to dress in girls' clothes for years now. He is often bullied and mistreated by his classmates due to this. My husband and I have been supportive but worried for him. Recently he's begun to hang around a girl in one of his classes. I don't like or trust her, and have told my son not to bring her around the house. I find it odd that she is so ""open minded"" about his crossdressing. My son has been buying her things and doing her favors like picking up from places with his car. He seems to have a crush on her and I don't approve. I know this might seem cold. It's just that he has been used and abused before, and I fear this girl is just going to hurt him. Is there any way I discourage him from this toxic friendship?",2.50688034188034,3.9287924135802506,3.1095061728395064,94.96431623931628,75.48148148148148,6.219183285849953,21.103513770180435,6.67199483983844,0.12091490978157625,609,14,139,5,13,190,96,162,0.17,0.73,0.1,-0.9403,0,0,0,1,1,0,17,0,0,0,1,9,11,0,1,3,0,18,0,0,3,0,28,28,10,0,0,5,5,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,3,9,11,0,1,5,0,1,4,3,3,0,1,4,2,27,8,21,22,0,18,0,2,0,0,28,8,0,5,9,95,36,1,0.0,0.20999754720510755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052763041872015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155580410031157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081612426708793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944154963936792,0.08961664456486608,0.12661856076210964,0.0,0.0,0.16199193488299454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693331270061035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072819972079894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20450836803385475,0.1897364924020957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740513741734838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3463573109543929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880210610791935,0.17895942849618174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201007694418334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517554536628786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750007256562108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32270086791130576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20112710255867325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774877100731793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693581006271863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061527214830718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068293926973927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999336324293014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413518893186855
parenting,thefakeharambe,2018/03/28,"Just found out my daughter isn't mine So my ex wife just told me thst my daughter isn't mine and we went through a DNA test which confirmed it. My daughter is seven and has been living with her mom across the country for a a couple years now. Ive only seen her occasionally in that time because I can't afford to take off work. I'm not sure how strong I feel about her now. I'm considering dissolving my rights as a parent but not sure how to start. I'm already over the phase of feeling like I lived a lie for the last 7 years.

EDIT: My ex and I live halfway across the country. How should I go about finding an attorney, over the phone where my ex lives?",2.4540316205533617,3.8263194492753674,3.5824374176548126,91.72310276679843,75.52173913043478,6.177602108036891,24.13965744400527,6.574015621080383,0.5385420289855078,516,16,116,4,11,167,88,138,0.046,0.914,0.04,0.058,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,11,4,0,0,11,0,8,0,0,3,2,21,20,9,0,1,5,9,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,5,3,20,4,17,14,0,18,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,0,8,74,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923354879281436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624674785209637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19285071461371575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762544817555024,0.12451419552759385,0.0,0.0,0.1592996740170684,0.0,0.0,0.19110211418712725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990541250799881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420711921278285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515023721445661,0.0,0.6156118986864981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412861160631274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255687295234914,0.0,0.0,0.19353057139218452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884436297039375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336473098549752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285361783243705,0.0,0.1310458466821429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016310308257779,0.0,0.0,0.1665434161370264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157037293552187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268866068699005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447658772463785
parenting,Quittingorchestra,2018/03/28,"Son wants to quit orchestra, his only extracurricular. My son is starting high school next year. He wants to quit orchestra. He has been playing since he was 7 but doesn't want to play anymore. It's his only extracurricular activity though and my wife is worried about him not having anything in high school. 

He doesn't like sports. He has tried various sports and none of them have stuck. He isn't interested in any clubs or activities. My wife is certain that he just wants to come home and play video games. He leans on the reclusive side and I can see that. It will also look terrible on college applications. She wants to tell him that if he quits then he has to pick something else. I think that's micromanaging but see her point. I'm looking for different perspectives. Thank you. ",3.5526576576576585,6.229580662162168,3.96475675675676,84.21087387387391,76.83783783783784,7.46018018018018,25.40720720720721,8.447377352677275,1.8165309909909912,630,23,121,13,15,197,95,148,0.13699999999999998,0.8170000000000001,0.047,-0.9208,1,0,1,0,0,0,16,0,1,1,3,4,8,0,0,1,0,15,0,0,1,1,19,30,11,0,6,6,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,0,1,10,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,4,13,7,13,26,2,13,0,0,4,0,24,8,0,2,5,63,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269889731157196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583487483545756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976125238258674,0.0,0.0,0.1159705287208274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139572946185492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723823202293262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772603480107162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977932384728491,0.1413608027787665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884958541942843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366855884837075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498769663386615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143619570731063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332211249140118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44967814365540604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852503496694765,0.22460040153768934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657588417170164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849212994564746,0.0,0.0,0.09974852521360672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317600119738854,0.1297462172641438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903000318115953,0.13845960288750875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567986506543807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156106014336921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431177347274893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075206662245994
parenting,throwahaybale,2018/03/28,"Questions about counseling/therapy for kindergarten age children For those who are either professionals in the field or have experienced taking kindergarten-age children to counseling/therapy, I have some questions.  We are considering doing so with our 5 year old, and want to be able to navigate the experience effectively.  

Our child is adopted (at birth), may be experiencing anxiety, and may be experiencing bullying in school. We are not totally convinced that he is experiencing either of them, but we have enough info to be mildly concerned.  Given there can be increased mental health risks for adopted kids we want to be cautious and caring (but not pathologizing).  So, a set of unbiased trained eyes evaluating the situation and sharing insight and advice might be helpful.  

Some questions:

1. Will child psychologists feel this is an appropriate reason for us to be seen?  Our main goal would be more insight about our child, how to address the school situation, any parenting techniques that might need adjustment, etc.

2. Any advice on evaluating different child psychologists?  From reviewing, many say they offer child counseling but don't talk about play-based therapy so I am thinking their expertise is perhaps older kids.  Obviously we will want someone very attuned to adoption issues.

3. What has your experience been like, overall?  Was it helpful?  Was it intimidating to your child?  How did you explain what you'd be doing to your child?  Were you included in initial sessions, or was it only child and therapist while you waited outside?

4. Anything else we should know/think about?

I have been in therapy various times as a teen and adult so I am comfortable it overall, just want to be sure I set up things as best I can for my child if we decide to go this route.  

Cost is not an issue in the decision for us, we have great coverage and access to a good selection of in-network providers.",6.986656626506026,9.156693846385544,7.182573493975905,67.22025783132531,65.35542168674698,10.492722891566267,36.773975903614456,10.621296500359557,4.584150939759036,1535,78,235,43,25,495,187,332,0.042,0.8109999999999999,0.147,0.991,2,0,0,0,0,0,48,14,7,3,3,12,10,0,1,10,0,48,3,1,4,3,62,62,23,0,8,12,1,1,1,0,8,2,1,1,14,13,17,0,1,14,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,9,8,31,9,38,33,12,19,0,0,2,0,51,8,0,12,8,176,44,6,0.09953631560729616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19453147124284825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537621571732394,0.0,0.07614500899670508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190990670107386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445722232719114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148390750932727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399426458477072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831498194688437,0.0,0.0,0.10284762175666592,0.11100930313890002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473123237088574,0.0,0.0,0.05032855190270021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656878197491971,0.08348633906289239,0.0,0.10973913935110674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580244896259876,0.0,0.0,0.13343418843217228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20778010629471166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470255595823301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048628416032220734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009142011833061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030919494087376,0.2111846025316335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738049168027346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044466194193454,0.0,0.0,0.07570185329751106,0.0,0.0,0.11052329915312033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345103603084167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233991019425502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915527326609707,0.0,0.2014721307697149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22376597830148465,0.0,0.0,0.08433679720650915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381179949596748,0.0,0.07483892188936779,0.08000352011652123,0.0,0.0,0.4553138062914581,0.11556933418092605,0.06612750524074275,0.12755770388176949,0.0,0.0,0.05804042608046087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23945986418456874,0.0,0.0,0.08212788466228152,0.23483639136878146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070774277101277,0.0,0.0,0.06409812382480183
parenting,Darbab2,2018/03/28,"Parents of older special needs kids: lets talk day programs How did you/will you decide/help your child decide on a day program? What questions should you ask and what will you be looking for? I've been googling and calling places and no one has any answers. 

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parenting,CrazytownUSA00,2018/03/28,"Daughter (14) decided she no longer wants to live in our home. At this point she keeps running away and threatening suicide just to go back to the behavioral hospital  About a month my wife catches my daughter having a secret online life, trading pictures with boys and all that. When my wife walked in on her slammed the computer shut but didn't have a chance to close anything. Knowing that she got caught she runs away. We look for her can't find her have to call the cops. They find her because someone called the cops because she knocked on their door in the middle of the night to ask to use the bathroom. No shoes, no jacket 27F outside. So they bring her back and we sit down and talk about what happened, she understands she just ran because she panicked. Next few days are kinda rough but things get a little better. Then she starts taking about being depressed and she's been having suicidal thoughts, she feels worthless because her birth family didn't keep her. (We adopted her and her little brother from foster care 3 years ago.) But she never says she hates us or doesn't want to live with us just that she wants to get better. We notice that she's writing more about suicide and we talk to her about it and my wife takes her to place to evaluate her and they want to put her in a short term in-patient hospital. So we ask her if she's ok with that and we bring her. 

The next day we go for a visit and she's sad to be there but sees how good she has it compared to the other kids and she just wants to come home. We felt the same but also felt that we should listen to the doctors there and do what they recommend. The rest of the visits were fine she wants to come home and ready to do everything she needs to do. Also during this time they put her on 20mg of lexapro for her minor depression. The last visit she was very different, talking wierd and nothing seemed genuine. Take her home the next day and my wife can tell that something isn't right. We do everything that she wanted to do and this and that, she made a comment about all of earth being trash and why should we have to pick up after ourselfs. This upset my wife, she tried not to say anything but my daughter later asked if she was mad at her to which my wife said yes and why and the rest of the night is me trying to play ref and fix it, which by the end of the night it was for the most part. Next day they do a bunch of stuff have a great day, then they're on the way back from somewhere and my daughter says, a whole bowl full of pills sounds real good right now. My wife left it alone, we talked about it for about 3 hours that night and decided not to address it until the morning. My wife goes to address it and she immediately starts threatening to kill herself. Take her to the ER and the consular there asks her some questions and pretty much thinks she's just doing it for attention. Nothing more we can do so they take her to another in-patient hospital. 

She gets there on a Friday and by Monday the doctors sees her, says she not suicidal she just says she doesn't want to live with you anymore, mind you she still claims she loves us and doesn't have anything bad to say. I pick her up yesterday and she's breaking her neck not to look at me the whole ride home,  I'm just pissed the whole drive knowing that it's going to be bullshit as soon as we get home. She gets home, and is talking with my wife nicely and says a consular told her all she has to do is talk to a therapist and cps and she could get transferred to another home. Which isn't really possible as she is legally our daughter and no judge is going to terminate our rights just because she wants to go somewhere else. My wife called her old caseworker and the caseworker told her what she didn't want to hear and she ran off. Called the cops to report the runaway and she ends up walking 10 miles to the first hospital she went to. My wife had to go and they had a bed so they took her in. The only thing we hope is that the medicine was causing her to have manic episodes and maybe if she stops taking it she'll come to her senses, at this point who knows. I honestly think that the reason she doesn't want to be home is because she can't deal with the fact that she has to deal with the consequences of her actions. We haven't had her home long enough to even try to make a plan to where she could earn some of her stuff back. ",4.7077423356370725,5.179093425364762,4.6504235335814315,89.56288676236046,69.2918069584736,7.734113060428848,26.854923504046308,7.475848149327749,1.1620792368125703,3466,100,749,33,57,1068,339,891,0.101,0.8240000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.9778,1,1,1,0,0,2,59,23,2,10,5,37,23,4,1,51,2,61,8,3,8,5,149,139,64,5,20,22,17,4,0,0,3,4,11,14,2,42,68,0,3,19,1,1,29,21,10,1,1,25,19,138,13,112,104,21,114,0,4,4,1,177,37,1,11,45,514,180,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03780430605418266,0.0,0.0,0.0441697968900201,0.0,0.06821014704025892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943893814854388,0.0,0.0,0.04229471540076956,0.0,0.0,0.10528541545328812,0.0,0.1594780757747795,0.0,0.08013718574193741,0.131172730795436,0.03560875914033488,0.15598458665976994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543623767996367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741908664410354,0.0,0.04348181961650519,0.04381058022805159,0.0,0.11021075743660867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810088371344088,0.0,0.0,0.13752007574761807,0.08793509850078438,0.07346420687552127,0.0,0.0,0.044557407817692816,0.0,0.08730274771630209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03562639180952838,0.0,0.07554579433206716,0.044066116953556264,0.0,0.028168175046039638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665738356841767,0.0,0.04020412975655418,0.0,0.021563783550529902,0.0,0.08189629551885838,0.0,0.07795781771811419,0.036275817456207456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336888933050879,0.0,0.14542484424140642,0.07154115415276921,0.03410898483811778,0.0470188582529382,0.0,0.0,0.03771291422460439,0.0,0.0,0.04210543268503443,0.0,0.0,0.048066667380815324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277877323240959,0.04235844523556005,0.041999052953942115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581385537966367,0.04718297837905936,0.0,0.07031361116595923,0.034763285509641806,0.0,0.0,0.046336474816338936,0.0,0.030123087304350593,0.0,0.08548770497534823,0.11297518453591293,0.03774156618343325,0.07162607256107639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03849090197482582,0.040353957447053904,0.02846743990236995,0.0,0.04284499920456299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04306167006314273,0.0,0.034040711017827414,0.0,0.031350712197135915,0.03162247254750933,0.032892268467504905,0.0,0.18142377886173552,0.16008661056408974,0.0,0.08184257257956018,0.04855429510035805,0.04475122387978939,0.0,0.0,0.03243523441797885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046182928338852264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044557407817692816,0.0,0.08063106859094696,0.048078483659827004,0.0,0.043387690935058884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574473993148657,0.047774796693573984,0.0,0.0,0.0485420254526305,0.02732098696775532,0.043848582734429584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092618216742694,0.04056739972176099,0.2374042130250742,0.0,0.0,0.06796883900218037,0.03882454928431709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036134964578794615,0.032832016607245135,0.0,0.0,0.060372033215718664,0.0,0.03405823192871717,0.035655097497513916,0.0,0.0,0.0976420338920729,0.18659713296245184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19239301570575384,0.20566996575721894,0.03727566708251314,0.0,0.0,0.049516864943269706,0.056666013856496576,0.05465340473190705,0.0,0.0338572352552019,0.02486801503049882,0.0,0.0,0.08150274856162744,0.04738277940251054,0.08686426159338567,0.0,0.0,0.04439739946831487,0.1538985471993569,0.03683362087211446,0.0,0.035188533374537784,0.2766996572521822,0.03385148446915113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03953452434750608,0.07696520707879212,0.14284274287377888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02746349767474501
parenting,throwaway4parenthelp,2018/03/28,"Need help: My son is sleepwalking and inappropriately touching his sister. Throwaway for obvious reasons.

I just found out that my 12-year-old son, who is a chronic sleepwalker, has been touching his sister in appropriately at night. She says he does not seem awake, that he doesn't respond to speaking. She says it first started a few months ago. I don't know the extent of the touching - I'm leaving it to the counselor to tell us how to find out more.

He says he has no memory of any of it. I can attest to his being completely out of it when he sleepwalks - he has fallen down the stairs, he has walked into the bathroom and fallen asleep in the tub, and we have found him asleep a few steps down, just leaning against the wall. I had even taken to sleeping out in the hall to make sure he didn't fall again - I could't imagine locking him up in his room and I thought it would pass.

But now, this is serious. We have an appointment for later today with a counselor, but I have to believe that this is a sleep issue rather than a molestation issue! He's a totally sweet kid, has his ups and down, but nothing like this. I'm just heartbroken that my daughter had to go through this - we talked to her and told her it wasn't her fault and that we were not aware of it and that we would make sure it would never happen again (and she's going to the counselor, too) - but I'm also terrified about what this means for my son. I can't think of any time he's been alone with anyone that would make him a possible victim of abuse. 

Does anyone have any advice or insight as to what could be going on?

EDIT: Heading to therapist now. Thank you for anyone who read and contributed. I'll will try to post an update as we progress, if for any other reason, to help me process it and hopefully help someone else. Thank you.",3.8150000000000013,5.172895611111117,4.392777777777777,87.31666666666668,72.05555555555556,7.222222222222222,26.66666666666667,7.662118739084242,1.3541666666666674,1420,48,291,17,27,451,182,360,0.094,0.815,0.091,-0.2097,0,1,0,0,1,0,43,7,2,0,2,14,11,2,0,19,0,32,6,5,6,5,64,56,22,0,9,12,6,3,1,0,5,1,4,1,1,26,24,0,0,12,1,0,9,9,4,0,1,12,8,36,7,51,36,5,45,0,0,0,0,53,20,0,4,16,203,62,2,0.0,0.11832690587829403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758957040064913,0.08852669925496437,0.0,0.0,0.10343282904945814,0.0,0.07986417161732044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716538696780138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094894746459924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251671038526004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470939388742216,0.0,0.0,0.15947248027397828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747898120604781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834266569723927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596168058971813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127727769706363,0.08494742312082088,0.0,0.2189995786593435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170271363160423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831268614757284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249308230982984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20081766270505735,0.0,0.0,0.09919116983398298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20847188561884272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054884681657674864,0.0,0.0,0.105745485146293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048790318600162516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998741576030465,0.0,0.0,0.10878521342811467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971345333997859,0.0,0.0,0.07405064155653236,0.07702413461215192,0.0,0.0,0.0937190806243208,0.0,0.09582576120586804,0.0,0.10479436210308048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258583764209357,0.0956456602089864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989473563506172,0.0,0.0,0.20536127767687426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382564341995144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091581242825143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998796665604613,0.0,0.08461758661224822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068687916448776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824826960557672,0.0,0.0,0.08026988238796894,0.0872887804001025,0.18388953946256129,0.0,0.1159541086298165,0.0,0.06399119609584893,0.0,0.07928380641998899,0.058233664824257,0.0,0.0946629118688382,0.09542787665546752,0.0,0.06780361961113518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012855876053513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837726233986491,0.0,0.0,0.06431153095779606
parenting,mrsannabellee,2018/03/28,"Baby Classes for Shy Temperaments?? I have an 8 month old girl who seems to have a slow-to-warm-up temperament. While other babies are out in the world smiling at everything and waving/giggling, my girl likes to cautiously take everything in and observe.

 Anyway, yesterday I took her to our first baby class. I think these are important for her because I stay at home, so she doesn't get much interaction with other babies. She seemed to have fun for the first 30-40mins of the class, and then it was clear that she became overwhelmed with it all. She started crying and had had enough. I can understand why, it was very loud and there was a lot going on (bubbles blown in her face, giant rainbow parachutes waving above her head, creepy clown toy giving her a ""kiss."" 

I am torn between wanting to help socialize her and give her more exposure to things like this so hopefully she won't be afraid of loud noises/new people/unfamiliar places in the future, but I also don't want to pay for classes that scare her and leave her upset. 

My plan is to do a couple more drop-in classes to see how she does, but I was hoping to see if any of you had similar experiences to share. Thanks!",5.966015037593987,6.417613596491232,6.184235588972433,79.73131578947371,66.54385964912281,9.145864661654135,29.00501253132832,9.04235418022936,2.2177959899749373,932,29,178,15,14,298,143,228,0.067,0.8009999999999999,0.132,0.8936,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,1,0,3,6,12,0,4,9,0,20,3,2,1,2,25,38,16,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,2,11,10,0,0,4,1,1,2,3,4,0,2,8,4,27,8,29,28,6,23,0,1,2,1,26,11,0,6,11,122,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584225972814688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985078712084576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830361163500437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028174933400194,0.15911884489929734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267655219887901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496762222879202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603766425594003,0.14169814879971326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464309402606956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756819142655119,0.2779204736708005,0.08232569155043394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866529034026432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709473543216668,0.0,0.1453035941035402,0.2877517922230596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338287128416306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415398330701096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315242110316968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562364422790385,0.0,0.1064867179617566,0.0,0.0,0.13990399756180674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520032758989734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134495476702725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450273392902494,0.0,0.2308648857321475,0.2637451298480605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766368485995324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253067989963158,0.1543985136297939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891459537104266,0.0,0.0,0.13336505820021205,0.0,0.0,0.09623669468193137,0.09281865207304607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609416920021428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15080146587067955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952237018987362,0.1708810729671958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307111023113578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,izfiz,2018/03/28,"Ear piercing: piercing shop or kids' store? My 7-year-old wants to get her ears pierced, and she's saved up her allowance to do it. I'm wondering if I should take her to a piercing shop or somewhere kid-oriented like Sweet n Sassy where they use the guns.

The pros of the piercing shop: more professional job. 

Pros of glitzy kids place: they have the whole experience package where they are like rah, rah, you got your ears pierced, and possibly have more girly jewelry.

I had my own ears done 3x before, had one bad experience with a mall kiosk (thanks Dad) where the holes were angled and I couldn't change them. Then had two decent experiences with Claire's and the gun. I had my navel done at the piercing shop and my husband had his ear done there, and I remember seeing big needles, so that's one thing I'm not sure about - if kids get freaked out over seeing needles at the piercing shop.

Anyone have good or bad experiences at either place?  

ETA, she has a decent pain tolerance (had to get a big shard or wood dug out of her foot this winter, with no anesthesia, and was able to hold still for that with me helping her deal) but she also has a high freak-out tolerance. Handles actual pain better than the thought of it. lol.

Update: thanks all! I will definitely go with a piercing shop. There is one close by that has a 2-for-1 special so I can take her Thursday after work and let her decide if she's ready to go through with it. ",4.217807151330284,5.653924117437725,4.284087442806303,88.18073546856466,71.17081850533808,7.487612269106933,26.548212167429252,7.957251820313856,1.3799464836468398,1131,37,234,15,21,349,155,281,0.06,0.809,0.131,0.9651,1,0,0,2,0,0,40,0,2,4,2,10,15,0,0,16,1,25,8,6,2,2,40,43,20,0,6,10,2,0,2,0,2,2,5,0,3,8,17,0,1,4,7,7,2,3,5,0,4,13,8,30,10,29,26,6,24,0,0,2,0,25,16,0,8,8,146,38,3,0.1140918490242732,0.0,0.11133718670060848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123921044446157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977567360539321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905238566311013,0.0,0.0,0.0970837602579106,0.0,0.0,0.10090496888620253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069404822836978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176236865877465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502667201872132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464148834205233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788248464433127,0.0,0.12968205409637398,0.09569482991044724,0.09124967415347073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647336144800952,0.12054430257132664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321855549548512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666664558658807,0.0,0.11147902886272776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972020323619635,0.0,0.2319347688573249,0.0,0.24280354287057446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23840339803628954,0.0,0.0,0.12862141715954611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292438240677434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18183286430171347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111389800923407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753021748380599,0.0,0.17156574312090048,0.0,0.0,0.21008089171641828,0.0,0.0,0.07579755487479213,0.0,0.0,0.0905761839420683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145115830265796,0.0,0.0,0.09853872574703088,0.0,0.0,0.06729432857239541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737947498077845,0.0,0.0,0.12372774343438553,0.08306022491703456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347141012342638
parenting,Texas1911,2018/03/28,"Emotional Intelligence Improvement Methods My son is 2 years (26 mos.) old and has started to show aggressive behavior at times. I know this is natural, and his behavior is triggered by frustration, negative actions of others, and at times jealousy, being tired, etc. Overall he's a pretty normal kid. 

My concern is that I am going to raise him to be a clone of me/us which I feel is going to reduce his ""emotional intelligence."" I have a lot of patience for most things, but when my buttons are being pressed I react in a defensive / aggressive way by simply getting mad.

I'd like to know how I can help him cope with stress and his emotions in a more productive way.

I know that he learns from my behavior, so I try to act accordingly.

tl:dr - my kid is average, what methods or insight do you have for teaching my son to handle stressers / aggression in a more positive manner?",5.0643775100401625,6.500701000000002,6.36765060240964,74.04838353413656,69.12048192771084,10.11164658634538,34.91767068273092,10.317481424215053,4.003776706827311,690,35,121,19,12,233,106,166,0.127,0.737,0.13699999999999998,0.1997,0,0,2,0,0,0,26,0,1,0,0,3,8,6,1,6,0,16,1,0,3,0,20,24,9,0,1,2,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,7,5,0,1,6,1,0,4,1,7,0,0,0,2,20,1,21,21,5,17,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,3,7,85,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6016886246578795,0.0,0.0,0.1988510102344537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015355566160743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315409991074876,0.0,0.2026633646978284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951035822804836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939661327598121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871081015796404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158381035986973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469559754882313,0.0,0.0,0.18709527219644653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139463330155384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262012634323617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424140950472472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184542272547422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079356780772985,0.2049289807798809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105361788997188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447227645473171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830515973383215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481899549217592
parenting,redditnamehere,2018/03/28,"5 yo daughter sleepwalking (humor) About an hour after she went to sleep I catch her wake up and pull down her pants in the hallway.  She decided that she would pee right there.   Not wanting to wake or startle her, we let it happen and whisked her back to bed. She refused to get dressed so she went to bed with no underwear.

Morning came and she woke up, put on underwear and proceeded to act normal.  She then says, “daddy can I tell you a secret? I lost my underwear last night.”   I didn’t laugh but oh it was a humorous moment. 

Not wanting her to feel embarrassed, I said no big deal, and eventually talked to her about not making it to the bathroom last night, and she was very tired she may not remember it.  

And that’s how she acts when she thinks she has lost her underwear overnight!   Glad I could give her a logical explanation in the end. ",2.150485471296953,4.511473403614461,3.1459461374911406,89.89972714386961,80.02409638554218,7.038412473423105,24.222537207654142,8.124751697461798,1.4494660524450746,659,24,137,13,17,210,103,166,0.116,0.828,0.056,-0.8117,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,1,0,2,7,8,0,2,7,0,9,5,4,2,0,31,24,13,0,5,6,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,2,0,6,10,0,1,6,0,0,8,7,4,0,0,10,3,29,4,19,10,0,28,0,2,0,0,31,8,0,2,12,91,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869233073788086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914194511750512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362627121119647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725445938512827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823453458783348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462409977490308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744060938514445,0.1605504816720588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799913979227725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481950114633273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27284745597430915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17114069081411068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3653944303206384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117165486747344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141189317091962,0.16398086097344652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682467135262292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959041140850086,0.14292765888825704,0.15920117513785356,0.13309430709490636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748453706573446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452057753961966,0.14628322358063853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723988126279926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923599173545523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380925546874271,0.19743085646880829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102955958630438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889034857749077,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nerdywithchildren,2018/03/28,"Suggestions for progressive parenting books for little kids (4 yo) Hey guys, I'm divorced and looking for progressive parenting books to help me raise my son. He just turned 4. It doesn't have to be about divorce. My wife and I still try to co-parent, but obviously I'm on my own when he's with me. He's a good kid, I just want to further my education. Any recommendations?",2.5684169884169883,4.760888351351352,4.478803088803087,81.78067567567571,77.64864864864866,8.552895752895754,26.787644787644787,9.23628265651192,2.4363266409266413,294,12,60,8,7,100,52,74,0.0,0.897,0.103,0.7311,3,0,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,8,8,4,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,1,10,7,1,5,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,0,2,31,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19740712359215115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24348144120172224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874326943719321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457523751624128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909467964128412,0.0,0.0,0.24377045046756435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6446652821582833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23182593272338425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970878240377795,0.315752111741827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122053637424656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,custardy_cream,2018/03/28,"Recommendation for Baby Monitor through Internet? Sorry if i'm in wrong sub ...

Our Office garage conversion has metal in the walls and door to help retain heat and consequently when the door is closed the main house wifi signal and phone reception is blocked off. Our Angelcare monitor will not reach this room with the door closed (and it's often too cold to leave the door open so that's not really an option!)

We have a couple of webcams which work in the office on our mobile phones via a second router set up in the office but the sound isn't great and I'm not sure if these would come on only if the baby makes a noise.

So can someone recommend a baby monitor - preferably with a standalone receiver unit - which we can take into this room to keep an ear/eye on our baby? It needs to be an internet one as the normal signal wouldn't pass through the walls/door.

Thanks in advance!",7.43107881136951,6.751576436046512,7.436589147286824,75.7848966408269,63.70930232558139,10.900258397932815,30.739018087855296,10.25414643259724,2.855959173126615,705,20,134,14,9,227,105,172,0.085,0.862,0.054000000000000006,-0.3334,0,1,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,19,0,11,0,0,1,1,33,19,13,0,8,7,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,6,0,8,14,0,3,1,0,0,4,5,1,0,2,0,2,6,3,22,15,1,23,0,0,0,0,11,17,0,5,1,86,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21029203548154732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701196232941537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26914862862772604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363181377643338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816874253114013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21698948001509705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584930822330658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295530548716125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101556346167108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23919062673316355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165425389910636,0.1856680316620044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639269961787738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684628515594092,0.0,0.0,0.27327790428136745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300848843242199,0.0,0.18355158709651115,0.0,0.0,0.22475746260152646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772587733171538,0.0,0.0,0.17341936625993926,0.26691231878602223,0.0,0.0
parenting,muffinmannequin,2018/03/28,"Those moments that make it all worth it Long time lurker, first time poster. 

My son is seven weeks old and gave me his first smile on Saturday but nothing since then. Tonight, I was in the middle of a rare night of sleep since my husband has a night off his overnight job and is taking care of the baby, and I woke up from a crappy dream and walked out to get some family love before going back to bed. My husband was holding baby and as soon as he realized I was there, he leaned towards me wanting to be handed off. And then he BEAMED at me, repeatedly and hugely, and started making little happy noises. He was SO excited to see me. Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done, but I'll be damned if it isn't the most rewarding, too. 

What are some of your ""this is all so worth it"" moments/stories?",4.777134146341464,4.874767810975612,5.556000000000001,84.43900000000002,69.0609756097561,8.023414634146341,27.37560975609756,7.554174236665415,1.4064702439024392,627,18,130,6,10,205,106,164,0.068,0.782,0.151,0.9338,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,1,0,3,7,6,1,0,8,0,15,3,2,2,3,23,27,17,0,2,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,9,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,1,0,3,7,2,13,5,19,17,5,32,0,0,1,1,13,11,1,4,19,92,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980637618803465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471323639532614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537498133283964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860623504822967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644642693129538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140128607440536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093076160605462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499209983778864,0.0,0.10333103208169653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354802880103109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804257384981446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222882406670304,0.0,0.16090269883899574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640973238470232,0.0,0.2427290848008771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21294236961510896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412466716743729,0.0,0.17445872203573326,0.0,0.19078680157600197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488494700048465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30080250407597536,0.0,0.18194873043665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869130856406566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670407544108729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079141757980978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203840422141065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072406274419869,0.0,0.14584297052892795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twistedpants,2018/03/28,"18 month old steals food. How do I stop her? Ok, I've not really raised this with my real life mummy friends because I tend to get a lot of ""well at least your child eats"" type comments. 

And eat she does. We did blw and she eats pretty much anything. She doesn't like rice, and isn't into bread really unless it's toast but otherwise most food is game including stuff like steak, most veggies and fruit. 

However recently she's started begging for food constantly from anyone. As an example. Yesterday we went to a play group, a friend of mine was giving her daughter raisins as a snack. My daughter was there, palm out, desperate look on her face till she got given some too. It was less than an hour after she ate breakfast, I had snacks for her and offered her them, she ate them all ( tangerine pieces)  and then returned for more raisins. 


Another example, out with a friend and her two boys for dinner, she still had her food in front of her but every chance she got she would take food from their plates too. It's not unknown for her to attempt to take food off strangers plates/ out of their hands while we're wandering about. 

It isn't the type of food, sometimes she has the exact same snacks as someone else, she'll still try and take them off others, she is really good for her age at sharing toys. 

I've tried distracting her, I've tried firmly saying no like I would if she stole a toy or similar, I've carried around so many snacks I'm like a vending machine. At the moment she's big for her age but it's mostly height. I'm worried that she's going to start putting on weight and getting unhealthy ( currently she's fine). 

She still eats all her meals as usual and I give her plenty. I'm at a loss? Has anyone experienced the same thing? What did you do? ",4.275428571428569,5.437227114285713,4.434571428571432,88.20442857142858,70.71428571428571,7.771428571428572,26.57142857142857,8.109356740369918,1.4559999999999995,1390,44,288,19,25,432,193,350,0.08900000000000001,0.818,0.093,0.5187,2,0,0,0,0,0,43,2,2,5,2,11,16,0,1,14,1,19,27,3,1,3,42,40,25,0,3,8,2,2,4,3,3,1,1,0,2,11,19,23,1,0,4,0,4,6,3,1,1,13,6,49,13,44,24,14,42,0,1,1,0,56,16,0,7,26,180,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328258110592064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106967087118493,0.0,0.06535886444444759,0.07070385248865214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04841589602428024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582870763342386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950413712908571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250807283273621,0.06634823549583163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691781769956902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6722754189852248,0.0,0.18408745429885914,0.0,0.08299111721824501,0.15238072947551104,0.045138268395046484,0.06661675659927516,0.12704463425105675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821625807317313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609924521730584,0.15520945778620687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669582981250452,0.0,0.0,0.06752311377608293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805230754288351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339516847878797,0.0,0.05838549261284705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334171915520333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080236559374866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984266590788415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040145725098103,0.15264239671026958,0.0,0.07842123403270615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316084322183972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729536778030333,0.0,0.07855198204134918,0.0,0.11243288117904117,0.0,0.1902833947927739,0.06640169507031553,0.0,0.0,0.0909210325536049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915001303029188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276551793487198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177025490490635,0.0,0.07758532715198334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747388652844022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671656123672807,0.07141136459565799,0.07362648301988531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806585321876736,0.0,0.11284050882413972,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TasslehofBurrfoot,2018/03/28,"She turned 12 today. I can't believe next year she will be a teenager. Every year she wants to sit on my lap a little less, i get fewer hug attacks. It makes me sad but it also makes me proud to see her growing into such an amazing person. I know a lot of parents say this about their children. She's my only one. Her teachers and other parents tell me how great of a kid she is. I cannon't believe how blessed I am.",1.3043181818181822,3.0243526136363665,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,79.68181818181819,4.4,24.63636363636364,3.1291,0.2060181818181821,322,12,68,0,8,108,65,88,0.085,0.7170000000000001,0.197,0.9144,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,1,5,7,1,0,5,0,5,1,0,4,0,10,12,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,18,5,7,10,2,9,1,1,1,1,15,3,0,1,4,48,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389188454020364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21892498976327374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4336214413246781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213656196824233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054044559612342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216258927583448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575840106575336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287253575202587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636031463278734,0.0,0.0,0.2569065257710121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20465904591115255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040036367396732,0.14635709103925404,0.0,0.0,0.4273572667379801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802865874814088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530337109464676,0.0,0.0,0.1533474589621047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819851308736908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824078758790924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931631216275293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350439128555873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478463745716603
parenting,senshi_vhenan,2018/03/28,"3rd shift, single parent Hi all, I'm not sure if I'm looking for support or advice so here we go. I am a single mother to a 4 year old girl. I work 3 days a week 6pm-2am and 2 days 8pm-4am. She stays with my Mom 3 off those night and the other 2 with her Dad. So the only time I see her is on my days off and about 4 hours a day. Besides the days her Dad has her. I just started this shift 3 months ago and with it am finally able to afford our own place. My trouble is I miss her an awful lot. I miss her being home and sleeping in her bed. I just miss her. I've been having a hard time dealing with this and it just sucks. I also just broke up with my long term boyfriend. Today while getting ready for work my daughter kept hurrying me along because she wanted to go to Nana's. I understand, she loves it there. But then she said ""I like Nana more than you."" After all this I just broke down. I know she has a lot of fun there but she also said she likes her Daddy and Papa more than me also. Again I broke down even more. Like I said I don't know what I'm looking for here, maybe I just needed to vent. It's just been very difficult. I'd like to add I can transfer within my company and have been looking everyday for a new position. It will be difficult finding a day shift though, I work in a casino so we're open 24/7.",0.07629500580720361,1.9829931045296159,2.1612090592334496,96.60706329849016,84.85365853658539,4.941649245063879,18.277468060394884,6.079149491110277,-0.3521780720092913,1019,25,241,8,30,341,151,287,0.1,0.825,0.075,-0.3758,2,0,0,0,1,0,32,2,1,0,3,21,18,1,0,13,1,16,2,1,0,3,41,42,21,0,3,12,6,1,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,11,17,0,1,4,1,1,2,2,10,0,0,7,8,45,8,30,32,11,40,0,6,4,1,32,11,1,4,30,160,56,4,0.11061769394546583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809433028243028,0.09805591139292323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26538278964935097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743151951284086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42803556852798,0.11404198525113372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306194359066195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117627676709405,0.10110256825766163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057793179509557015,0.0,0.12573316930993114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909172624575972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095856624277352,0.0,0.10893614629867793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158518337962244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161688709848399,0.0,0.0,0.09789317820591034,0.2786730094082074,0.0,0.0,0.1880864153325312,0.09983678758890037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111303415968318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295541062190601,0.08829398795291167,0.0,0.0,0.08202161842885235,0.0,0.10683525811501136,0.0,0.10380721231972614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607466189677612,0.0,0.0,0.08412974086972141,0.0,0.0,0.12282785840494638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557194639700664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156682744174998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814798035342164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069758072110963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829577312074687,0.1179037435933586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255276482103346,0.1042558674369666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868132266471142,0.0,0.1290041338070632,0.0,0.10485263967284278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515692053973405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127118232709476,0.06524518189466054,0.0,0.08873084172661218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24159299592802655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123416815732295
parenting,Jiateen,2018/03/28,"Teenage with medical needs wants a TV in his room. Husband and I are hesitant. My 14 year old has juvenile arthritis. Part of his treatment is to remain active and he currently plays baseball. It's wonderful for him but has been causing more and more pain flare ups lately. As a result my son has been spending more time in his room when he is home and wants a TV in there for bad days. His joints were bad after a game last weekend and he couldn't get out of bed after laying down. 

I don't like the idea of TV's in bedrooms. They aren't conductive to sleep hygiene and teens aren't super reliable about sleep anyway. I don't want to give him another reason to stay awake. He often flares up at nights and spikes a temperature so getting to bed on time isn't always easy anyway. I also think TV's in bedrooms can alienate teens during a crucial time in their lives. Right now watching TV is done as a family or group activity. 

He says that he will work to save up and buy his own TV so this isn't about the cost for us. It's mainly about the concerns I addressed above. He doesn't watch a lot of TV but he also doesn't have a TV in his room. His TV habits could change if he has it more available to him. 

Another issue is that he shares a room with his little brother so the TV would affect more than just my 14 year old.

I understand his point but I think my concerns also have some merit to them. I am more willing to consider it than my husband is which is why I am here now. 

Opinion? ",3.1881197063805757,4.363734740259744,4.267673630717109,88.31685206098253,73.35064935064935,7.174703557312252,25.079616036137786,7.586124646067393,1.1053247882552228,1172,36,250,14,23,382,159,308,0.09,0.856,0.054000000000000006,-0.9203,1,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,3,2,18,9,0,0,14,0,33,4,2,4,0,38,44,22,0,8,6,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,10,0,8,11,0,0,6,13,3,0,9,3,0,0,4,3,30,6,41,35,11,40,0,0,2,0,35,21,0,7,19,165,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058723549732523,0.106085789356194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26737858246276863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212905469123258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309721591147775,0.13487246905882488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179412976437556,0.0,0.0,0.08222352294143223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047132556583307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019064007225905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322141907798238,0.12230451704536655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788756198537368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392597801294865,0.0,0.13307132453480303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392518285356968,0.14381955531389384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622874619407369,0.12778316607662074,0.11258014059645484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839141994146123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284374796554098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453569171045127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964512294635417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675684450676116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566333138988676,0.0,0.0,0.1380643170507384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052368503357876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108576798017466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887976236944172,0.0,0.10138888891021716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551735155828732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358923680043971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633868892731168,0.0,0.0,0.22302952422604932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327264609867752,0.15336040522939906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22559900131218055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504412056806113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826254478180566,0.09281764742818993,0.0,0.0,0.09056856455794668,0.0,0.0,0.16420479110668906
parenting,Momtastic27,2018/03/28,"I have a 3 year old and just discovered my mom has weapons in her house where he could access them. As a little background, my mom just got remarried and this guy moved in with her within the past few months. For whatever reason, this guy feels it's necessary to have a weapon near their bed. They live in a safe, affluent area of an affluent state (US), so I'm not sure why... This guy is just a wanna-be redneck I guess.

ANYWAYS, we lost power a couple of weeks ago during a snow storm, and since I have a 3 year old and an infant, we went to her house to sleep over. The bedroom my husband, the baby, and I slept in was one that they had been recently sleeping in because they were remodeling the master. My 3yo slept across the hall. The next morning, we discovered a large knife strapped to the bedpost. I had no idea it was there, and all I could think about was that my toddler had been in that room and what if I had turned my back for a minute not knowing that there was a knife in the room and he had he had found it. Then it also got me thinking about what other weapons are in the house that I don't know about. It hasn't been sitting well with me since.

So now I have to have an awkward weapons conversation with my mother. Anyone else have to have this conversation?  How did it go?

Edit: I do know that she owns guns as well... Makes me wonder where the guns are. I will most certainly have to ask. ",3.645104166666666,4.4593749687500015,4.2023888888888905,90.5815,71.88194444444444,7.426666666666668,24.816666666666666,7.554174236665415,0.9082008333333332,1093,30,245,12,20,346,150,288,0.078,0.902,0.02,-0.9154,1,1,0,2,0,0,37,4,0,5,3,19,11,4,1,24,0,33,4,4,3,3,40,53,16,0,3,6,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,4,19,14,0,1,10,0,0,3,5,6,2,1,22,1,34,5,31,28,4,37,0,1,0,0,27,19,0,4,13,175,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994013506769609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967471504381294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840774556402491,0.11489606645083625,0.0,0.0,0.10483155088639633,0.0,0.0,0.0862252741418138,0.0,0.06835675710480389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790621368292969,0.12407579265097965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367481737498863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056699075696726116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295078264314332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372918611821785,0.0,0.17936999865938638,0.0,0.12352989029342044,0.33309531066648923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881679177813607,0.0,0.12658732496608166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184880206790562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238922529941524,0.09901769672969286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240913947102446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485131383062928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626634735425128,0.08950548247933725,0.11918228518723695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925737135558084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23533467810373784,0.0,0.07598591367576428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070460186188449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529396526485194,0.11072027343962323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551928090612252,0.0,0.22443295634177005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568637721091627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370379505604236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197121832186662,0.0,0.0,0.13488519391514794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994833038659039,0.0,0.20164655433578973,0.1039507275409572,0.1011848429091517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160616122655225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442316487812862
parenting,NaturalBornHeathen,2018/03/28,"[Advice]How to find community donations for kids school Hello all, regular lurker here. I'm a WFH dad with 2 elementary aged kids. I've recently found myself on the PTO board & been put in charge of organizing an event at the school with food/drinks for the kids. PTO has money to fund the event but they try not to spend it. Instead, they get donations from local restaurants. Being in charge, I'll do the same. But in addition to local, I'm wondering if you guys know of any restaurant chains(state side) or companies who provide donations for local school events like these. Any other ideas for fundraising also appreciated.

Mods - Sidebar indicated ""fundraising"" as a no-no but this is a post for finding avenues I can pursue. If it indeed breaks the rules, apologies, plz delete the post.",5.307083333333331,7.621266652777781,5.560833333333335,76.56750000000002,69.97222222222223,8.688888888888886,29.36111111111111,9.2995712137729,2.834594444444445,634,25,107,14,12,201,100,144,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.8462,0,0,1,0,0,0,27,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,0,11,0,6,0,0,0,1,18,12,8,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,6,0,6,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,20,9,2,18,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,4,6,60,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455035963091691,0.0,0.19714037393407485,0.0,0.2474614973711257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782395835707414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33259400047049714,0.0,0.22001201163630585,0.1994963801653989,0.0,0.0,0.095060220052998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015693569814892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20539692845105006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999375692195428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889050844238854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485114100589789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290780134606724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965151003745813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5524226862301573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235306182535983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973146363851957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sciencefreek,2018/03/28,"Public transport and toddlar I will be traveling to San Fransisco and was wondering how to get around on public transport with a toddlar. First off, can toddalars ride all public transport? Then if they can, how do you contain them once on?",5.085232558139534,7.837850023255818,4.793197674418604,79.84468023255816,72.02325581395348,7.090697674418602,34.00581395348837,8.07648339933343,3.007283720930233,193,10,30,3,4,59,33,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,1,10,8,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,7,5,1,11,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,2,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396892451476833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42012401780116815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25805030701481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.526003569601035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5356299666603762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LDawg618,2018/03/28,"Do you fear CPS being called on you for letting your kids be unsupervised? I've heard way too many stories about good parents having to deal with CPS because they let their older kids, who were completely responsible and confident as to where they were going, do something unsupervised such as going to the corner store or the park or whatnot. I've even heard of CPS being called on parents for letting their kids play outside on their own property without being supervised! So what's the answer here? Just play it safe and hold your kid's hand until they turn 18?",9.569714285714284,8.381629399999998,8.558095238095241,71.10857142857145,59.76190476190475,11.066666666666668,37.19047619047619,9.888512548439397,3.596961904761905,457,17,78,7,5,142,71,105,0.027000000000000003,0.7959999999999999,0.177,0.9476,2,0,1,0,0,0,7,0,4,6,0,8,5,0,1,3,0,12,1,1,0,0,10,17,8,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,3,0,2,1,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,4,3,10,4,15,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,2,2,55,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298803936187425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785274858633469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433663607440965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191088387323196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242236001673874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20857101823012827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106780981018589,0.15546333611226798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5686008100821698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879164729602388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116199368027002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269199018389456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016082886383491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471227231444701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17867141785663251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fillimilli,2018/03/29,"What is considered “screen time” and should I stop watching tv around my ten week old? So, I’ve always been one of those people to have the tv going while I’m busy around the house. Half the time I’m not even watching it and just turn it on something I’ve already seen for background noise.

My son loves his playmat, so I will put him on it while I take care of things around the house. He’s happy as can be when I do this, but recently I noticed that he’s started to stare at the tv while he’s there. He seems to get pretty absorbed. Jumped out of his skin when I got in front of his face lol.

I’ve heard you should avoid screen time until a certain age. But would you consider this screen time? Could it have negative effects on him?

If this seems like a silly concern, it’s one of many. I’m a first time mom and have no idea what I’m doing.

EDIT: Thank you to everyone for responding. I will try to limit his exposure to television from now on.",2.360530303030305,3.7835053939393966,3.300896464646467,93.43801136363639,75.86868686868685,6.566161616161617,22.476010101010104,7.1686216300943375,0.5114737373737368,740,20,168,8,16,236,116,198,0.061,0.812,0.127,0.9079,0,1,1,0,0,0,19,0,3,0,3,11,8,0,1,8,1,15,3,2,1,1,24,32,15,0,5,5,2,1,1,0,5,0,1,0,0,13,7,0,3,4,3,0,4,3,1,0,5,4,9,18,7,26,21,0,33,0,0,7,1,18,10,0,3,20,105,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542170284293744,0.0,0.11628276408491575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732200026545172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248391066880114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115785898229645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923032148231346,0.0,0.0,0.13353661884136736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887083796065462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730133363748131,0.0,0.07942285112362818,0.0,0.11177042707828803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876592217314089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225042781050544,0.0,0.15776015476283312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827453786467004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612936364928196,0.0,0.0,0.1416840401547811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367290424895686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910571146015146,0.1466435729195439,0.0,0.18939573143671126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688469468746368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421754639948382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048682843162344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379857539283527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544453594983992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075859787516249,0.0,0.0,0.09891540261504053,0.0,0.0,0.11683682448272605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507421839323652,0.0,0.0,0.12866254704997512,0.0,0.0,0.09284334610989133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074452338203214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948807248511534,0.1520073062940924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209860486623874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927402237297178,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,semamamama,2018/03/29,20 year old parent Hi Guys! Do you guys have any tips for young parents? I have a 1 year old boy and I just want to give my best to him and just make his life good now and for the future.,-0.501046511627905,0.8640732558139561,1.2257558139534908,105.42142441860467,83.88372093023256,4.3,13.075581395348838,3.1291,-1.8178325581395351,142,1,40,0,4,46,33,43,0.0,0.8059999999999999,0.194,0.8268,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,7,6,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,4,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,7,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544078644080932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23828434760241216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178156237077916,0.0,0.1904462649313301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496480946728995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037844324019418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515636046347907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765203212021002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5042441613290346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339252448608537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924370240343964
parenting,A_Dubbs,2018/03/29,"Am I A Bad Mom For Leaving My 3 yo For 6 Weeks My son (3) and I are pretty inseparable, and I'm definitely his favorite over his dad.  I breastfed him for 19 months, took a gap year between my post-bac and starting medical school, and although now he's finally in daycare, he still spends a lot of time with me while I study.  I usually pick him up around 1 on school days.  Needless to say, medical school is competitive, so I applied for, and got, a 6 week summer clerkship about 7 hours from where I live.  It's paid, which is nice because I'd have to pay for his daycare all summer anyway to keep his spot.  It's also near all my friends, whom I haven't seen in years.  Aside from being in the hospital for a week and visiting my dad after his heart attack, I've never been away from my son.  1 week is the longest I've spent away from him, and now I'm freaking out over being away from him for 6 weeks.  I also feel incredibly guilty because the clerkship is optional, though I've tried to find programs closer to me and haven't had much luck.  I don't do a lot of extracurriculars during the year because I'm a mom, so I don't want to not do anything over the summer to make up for it.  I plan on video calling as much as possible, and driving home at least a couple of weekends, but I'm worried my son will be devastated (which I'm sure is not the case, but I still worry).  His dad has a long commute so he'll be in daycare way longer than he usually is, but he likes his school, so I'm not sure how bad that will be.  I know this sounds stupid, but am I making a mistake by going?  This clerkship is in the specialty I want to go into, and also provides different electives to rotate in, which I'm really excited about.  I just can't get over this guilt.  Any advice appreciated!  Sorry for any formatting errors, I'm on mobile!  ",5.276111111111111,4.659342537037041,6.538994708994711,80.2411904761905,68.07407407407408,9.422222222222222,31.22751322751323,8.841846274778883,2.3040179894179897,1421,50,303,21,21,484,187,378,0.105,0.8059999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.5816,1,0,0,0,0,0,45,0,0,0,1,19,14,2,1,17,0,28,3,1,4,5,42,53,27,0,3,8,8,1,1,1,3,2,2,1,0,11,14,0,1,3,2,4,5,9,7,0,0,7,4,37,7,58,38,7,59,0,0,1,0,29,25,0,4,29,194,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861342786326525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21755515414453927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333377678404768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462358211110523,0.08072623027658231,0.0,0.10316389768558157,0.2555962500199089,0.0,0.15143141052213194,0.16583676704732928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259648904530116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033793874747364,0.0,0.058482405869581186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474341816365296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045851557848190436,0.0,0.0,0.09933772874103547,0.08288173038940007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070060709582714,0.0,0.047377616662021,0.0,0.10307337211446944,0.0,0.07252670143823513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745863933129804,0.0,0.0,0.09096146745046736,0.0,0.08930353068951892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060235272463516,0.0,0.0,0.049836470832935416,0.0,0.0,0.0960191737847295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430265816266439,0.0,0.08007389174878987,0.08025074083524979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418923410304394,0.0,0.0,0.1210619151703853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270520516188704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241138949354296,0.07238152927894198,0.0,0.13332344859801956,0.0,0.06993957006023419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223036090193292,0.08684831561987305,0.09225622285377527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058093228931103164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211398806320611,0.0,0.367100212882944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151110565914692,0.06418520587810703,0.0,0.14483756877148649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093347568386594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909463170612777,0.0,0.0528774195432214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075106929594783,0.06156714422056354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997468838976164,0.0,0.10697321874592096,0.07197917261353058,0.3636982634539699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418400169066634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751887579556423
parenting,naturaldisaster101,2018/03/29,"Head lice!!! The worst. ADVICE! Okay so there’s gotta be somebody out there that’s good at this. My child, 6. Is always fighting head lice weather it be for weeks days whatever. It seems like once we finally get rid of it, it comes back. It’s ridiculous. Our insurance doesn’t cover the doctor prescribed stuff so we’ve used everything we can on her hair that’s over the counter. Help pleasseeeee",0.5270129870129878,2.7972647532467536,1.1134415584415578,96.87587662337664,102.76623376623377,4.277922077922079,19.785714285714285,6.18269132825596,0.2271974025974033,314,11,63,4,14,95,60,77,0.109,0.757,0.134,-0.3111,0,0,0,0,2,0,13,3,0,0,0,5,6,2,0,3,1,5,4,3,1,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,3,6,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,5,34,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237058066804339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185595384774524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865382517027615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20897150280544344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564517524240461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24830316223641316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802602147943032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657476468737969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674429244545293,0.0,0.0,0.20347463591753864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.497938700896764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260428481440148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851818343536202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583525322023335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220846619651108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777097676396441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20952157356796114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945926465400508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nikkuhlee,2018/03/29,"Grandma re-marrying abusive ex, how do I explain things to my son who adores her? Apologies in advance for what I'm sure will be essay-length. My boyfriend had a stepfather that was abusive from the age of 9 until his brother got him out at 16. Physically to his mother and occasionally to him, but mentally and emotionally it was pretty severe. He spent a year locked in his room from the time he got home from school until he left again in the morning, without books or TV or anything, for staying out past curfew when he was 15. He remembers ""Greg"" telling his mom, ""I cut the brake lines on your car, I hope you die in a horrible crash."" and stuff like that. Eventually, they stopped letting him go to school so his older brother took their mom to court and was awarded guardianship. She and Greg divorced two years later, a few months after he and I started dating. His extended family still barely speaks to him, although they are civil enough now, because he ""took the problem outside the family"" even though they knew about the abuse and hated Greg themselves. 

The divorce was 13 years ago. Two-ish years ago they decided to get remarried, but he kept moving the goalpost on my MIL (""after you buy your house"", ""after my daughter has her baby"", etc.) He has MS and is now wheelchair-bound, and I think he's looking for someone to take care of him in his last years. At the time, she insisted my boyfriend get together and talk it out with him. She's VERY good at emotional manipulation and playing victim, so he eventually agreed. Before they could though, my boyfriend made some innocuous comment on Facebook that Greg decided was an insult. Greg proceeded to call off the wedding and MIL blamed my boyfriend for the entire fiasco. (I personally just think Greg wasn't all that interested in getting married... hence all the stipulations he kept adding before he'd agree to set a date.)

Fast forward to today and they are now getting married again. We shut down the whole ""you should talk it over with him!"" when she came at my boyfriend again asking but she and my 5 year old are really close. He just adores her, and for all her faults as a parent and person she is a fantastic grandmother (albeit one who doesn't seem to understand why ""we're cutting her out of [our son]'s life so much, because that's a *real shame*."") He generally attends church and spends one night a week at her house. Clearly, we can't let him stay there unsupervised with Greg back in the picture, and even now before he's moved in I don't trust that she won't have him around anyway, she's still stuck in that mindset of ""well I was really good at pushing his buttons so I started a lot of it"" which makes me think they'll slip back into their old dynamic pretty quickly. We've been picking him up right after church and just dropping him off again for his evening club, but obviously he's noticed something is up, and he mentioned ""Grandma's friend Greg waved to me at church!"" and we immediately asked whether Greg had ever talked to him, or been to Grandma's while he was visiting, etc. He said no, and asked why.

How do we explain he can't spend as much time at Grandma's; and how do we, or **do** we, explain what Greg did? I'm at a loss here. He's a sensitive kid and I know this is going to be really tough on him.

**tl:dr** My MIL is remarrying her abusive ex, and I don't know how to talk with my five year old who absolutely worships her about WHY he can't talk to the ex and why he can't spend so much time with Grandma anymore. ",4.311335909546301,5.74751196642336,4.841811936453414,84.27193788464292,70.94160583941607,7.766709603549451,28.759839702304287,8.251243910053105,1.905776585086589,2767,105,547,41,51,882,313,685,0.116,0.7829999999999999,0.101,-0.9114,1,0,1,0,3,0,106,7,5,9,3,41,26,5,1,29,0,46,1,0,8,7,99,87,54,1,4,13,11,0,1,1,4,1,2,2,3,20,45,0,4,14,4,5,13,11,10,1,4,26,3,84,16,82,51,13,111,4,1,1,0,124,40,0,8,57,351,104,4,0.0,0.3004128842106877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237748868456858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286286401547585,0.0,0.0,0.05216209394592202,0.05642786219130825,0.17777484425448994,0.0,0.0,0.09748136924905372,0.0,0.0772802446419812,0.0,0.1618129859594311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472520648301539,0.07249783298840284,0.06462726342516259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060935570373732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578569075021752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260366992303192,0.0,0.06549570771413818,0.14138650457348706,0.12559953228467102,0.05733716373425316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951123055438866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048972633205015166,0.0,0.13246834962056572,0.0,0.07204857723866648,0.10633200394898264,0.10139273690658344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258153209239779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358232178597216,0.06295758601325267,0.0,0.14628015780171186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967166678357352,0.05166885907651745,0.0,0.0,0.06887015287217269,0.1296349889626933,0.044772107413335226,0.0309676827587062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053229109319028835,0.0,0.0,0.053889354324735884,0.0,0.059978304983092326,0.04231130973442729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387917970949251,0.0,0.0,0.14847615915099796,0.050594892705315586,0.13474068323836216,0.13979019877275367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948439855446872,0.0,0.0,0.07216651114303413,0.19954195752054613,0.0,0.0859053332387362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038375388068563,0.0,0.06051005677559446,0.0,0.11069415388677016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897471891471687,0.0,0.0606527912689261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214827469932462,0.12182199163051992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180510600214034,0.054132145296082665,0.06029554538920275,0.0,0.0,0.12830204105893794,0.0,0.057705137367534035,0.0,0.07160925919010692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370759308808283,0.04879840367237801,0.0,0.0,0.08973127915428553,0.13512420029872033,0.10124186825967052,0.05299436405248795,0.0,0.0,0.07256294126334491,0.0,0.0,0.0597414903230564,0.0,0.04765912978818646,0.25474031777084977,0.055403025382493434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04211150127865855,0.12184747611218552,0.12455479669182902,0.0,0.14784586039972386,0.0,0.06008345728981939,0.0,0.14085056206341626,0.0,0.0,0.12383976245996893,0.06598809470571956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052300907275696036,0.0,0.0,0.05084522197824498,0.0,0.05699251877319982,0.0,0.2287876062373984,0.0707693135007954,0.0,0.06110279884699631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857340148409638
parenting,scientifictamale,2018/03/29,"2yo son and being rough with the family dog Hello all, 

I'm new to this subreddit (and most of Reddit in general) but saw there is a plethora of people with good advice here who might be going through the same situation as my wife and I.

Our almost 2yo son, since able to walk, has always been a little...rough with the dog. She never do much as growls at him, but there have been a few times where he's made her yelp. Granted, our dog is a bit of a drama queen (she's a rescued, runty GSP who is very vocal) but that's besides the point. I don't know exactly what prompted her to yelp, due to me not being in the room when it has happened, but he did show a look of shock and worry the couple times she let out a yip.

However, he continues to be really rough (grabbing her skin/fur tightly, pulling on her ears, biting, hitting with sticks and his hands, chasing her around with his toy push cars, etc). He periodically does show signs of loving towards her, but most of the time it's terrorizing her. 

We give him warnings, tell him it makes her sad, makes us sad, timeouts, etc etc but nothing seems to really stick. Is this just a phase? Anyone else experience this? Is this something we should be more proactive at in disciplining? Is this a sign of a potential behavioral issue? We still have to discipline with hitting and pushing of people as well, but it just seems more elevated towards the dog at times. Thank you in advance.

EDIT: I meant to say she has never so much as growled at him. She is completely non aggressive towards him.",3.897237258854016,5.3679155794702,4.808353008926002,83.97582061618198,72.01324503311257,7.768730204434206,26.37546789519148,8.321376580360154,1.6569980996256837,1203,40,240,19,23,391,170,302,0.085,0.836,0.08,-0.3995,1,0,1,0,0,0,47,6,1,0,2,13,9,1,1,19,0,25,3,2,3,4,50,42,19,0,1,10,3,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,13,17,0,3,4,4,0,7,4,5,1,0,6,9,32,4,41,26,13,36,0,2,2,1,41,17,0,6,12,168,45,1,0.1255051057318703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264213677967566,0.0,0.0,0.12567523421550614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044303019733136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775608806678144,0.12859481232951775,0.0,0.11172615272896393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137019069921805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158971552530518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886901234705193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098303637899423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484341137555833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4199141060023615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227680759474181,0.11831504401563858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039593356715855,0.07132744385371848,0.10526772813848292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109837505117161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099472313392285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897432386816556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833747384190622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539267954617958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327325796949335,0.11875596562999947,0.16755126527828226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314108377411565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845213870309459,0.0,0.19359454936952672,0.12121361318765547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204255338411494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17401887549586714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186428917518187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080356894747566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998066974840728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228510269232352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381912039538004,0.14107299730041767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661996201708907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022853955902583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969699427111357,0.11554823921516612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29273214575031303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096718915935362,0.0,0.0,0.10355485618676988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284416261021635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745652703352242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,concernedparent12332,2018/03/29,"15 year old daughter depressed, anxious and suicidal. Doctors refuse to do anything about it. My 15 year old daughter is incredibly depressed (doesn’t want to leave her bed, doesn’t want to do anything at all, she just seems to have lost her will to live). 
She is also anxious (especially when it comes to PE which she hates, she literally starts crying if it’s even mentioned) and very self-conscious, on the rare occasion i do manage to get her to come out she will often change her clothes over and over while crying and berating herself, it’s heartbreaking. 
She has said that she wants to kill herself many times, however she has never attempted to do so and I doubt she will simply because she doesn’t even seem to have enough energy to even get the things she would need to do it. I do keep a very close eye on her and make sure she doesn’t have access to anything dangerous like that. 
She is an incredibly clever girl (predicted 9’s at GCSE) but she isn’t even nearing her full academic potential because of this. 
I took her to the GP and explained everything but all he said was that she should lose weight, go outside more and have a look at a website! I don’t know how he expects me to do any of this when she doesn’t even have the motivation to brush her teeth, 
nevermind starting to exercise every day!

I am at wits end and really don’t know what to do, I would love some advice please.  ",6.730812121212125,6.297179850909092,6.6640000000000015,79.9386666666667,65.03636363636363,10.242424242424242,33.24242424242424,9.725611199111238,2.8796424242424234,1109,41,223,20,15,352,145,275,0.118,0.8059999999999999,0.076,-0.7822,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,0,0,4,13,13,3,1,8,0,34,6,2,3,4,42,59,18,2,9,4,2,1,1,0,6,2,2,1,1,13,13,1,2,6,1,0,4,9,9,0,0,5,6,35,4,32,48,6,29,0,5,2,1,37,12,0,6,14,154,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425329190563994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531754737970698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255081167118822,0.0,0.0,0.2410518629724426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26338290741482456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300707977753336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286068925860213,0.18380279039327246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343812978192707,0.06880428257299215,0.0,0.18377869636069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919865500756053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449300678767858,0.11023617992806116,0.0,0.35232875361959404,0.0,0.08988839046996318,0.0,0.09588338741950936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147909789204223,0.0,0.06063267503503881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533131517597302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482829870715603,0.11803334747233835,0.0,0.1172647592261076,0.0,0.0,0.1129661180533967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052121874359210035,0.0,0.09420656679017672,0.0,0.08959020181770258,0.11935545236513195,0.11646145238851073,0.0,0.09628917383762886,0.0,0.07121439428112951,0.1081638627022358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910705127913678,0.08228358375319343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22390009869999614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171102775479122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834641768785647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296751718128048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942476576750636,0.11129779816620114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102720131218084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669825109045125,0.0,0.10055122551185684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087809558843645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622100418388365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853317144353576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605587987561866,0.18878025264770684,0.0,0.0,0.12991601221052834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515747534319088,0.0,0.0,0.13740584741414366
parenting,PigmyTrex,2018/03/29,Tackling the N-word for a 6 year old. My son is 6 years old in the first grade. He came home today and asked me what the N word meant. We are a Caucasian family and I dont know the correct way of explaining him the meaning of the word and why its not appropriate to say it in a way that will make sense to his young mind. Experienced advice needed please.,3.4656000000000016,3.9429603600000007,4.734666666666667,87.83400000000002,72.06666666666666,8.133333333333333,24.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.0851333333333333,277,7,64,4,5,92,57,75,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,4,0,0,1,1,16,12,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,6,0,7,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,7,35,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480305033068544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959327397870668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397082518442572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456308765032419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975771341781426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782720356432657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022983136547654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518188033591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989894141115772,0.0,0.0,0.22829840780613106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162008518822525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540387366661845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4398462853777767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300602851811539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666696016956344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866111741582126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33271603338213984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911695313559207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26993043739242306
parenting,Notmyrealaccount135,2018/03/29,"Daughter touched at school, what now? My googling is apparently awful, so I was wondering if anyone could help point me in the right direction. 

Long story short, daughter was touched at school inappropriately, she reported it to the principal, and they reported it to the police.  It was after all this that we got the call from the school about the incident.  I have the officers name and report number, but he left for the day before I could talk to him.  

I am having trouble figuring out what to do next.  Weren't my wife and I supposed to be informed before the police talked to our daughter?  And what about pressing charges (the boy is older but still a child, 11-12 years old).  I presume we need a lawyer, but all I'm getting for results are child abuse by adults when I try to search for resources.  And do we need to be expecting a visit from CPS?  

If this doesn't belong in this sub, please delete and I will try to find somewhere more appropriate.  None of the linked subs seem any more so though.

Thank you in advance",4.063673469387755,5.9632951122449,4.3589285714285735,85.62982142857145,72.36734693877553,7.348979591836735,27.04591836734694,8.07648339933343,1.6575877551020408,806,29,157,12,16,252,123,196,0.07400000000000001,0.8759999999999999,0.051,-0.7599,1,0,0,0,1,0,24,4,1,1,1,8,2,0,0,14,1,18,0,0,1,2,31,26,15,0,7,5,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,10,10,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,5,3,19,1,25,16,5,22,0,0,0,0,24,10,0,4,10,108,29,7,0.0,0.1892493873543556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861926969907107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168424864901476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27183040469351305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630982733044715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550566920322574,0.0,0.0,0.10301016285135282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598682146992115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345032895444217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774760571384045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706108176826563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735429460331488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135263006819238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23686985548637554,0.0,0.0,0.16987058893089374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760574172874174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533136471526686,0.15099285433923107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640527250190604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4849542201995916,0.0,0.14540870206280218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755752199573184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567636828187519,0.0,0.1470543931908399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693014650758672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21688716317848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321621288789998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285841367391166
parenting,fappydabear,2018/03/29,"Learning to Discipline a Toddler Hello all, I lurk around from time to time and have a question about how best to instill a sense of right and wrong in my son. He's 3 (Turned 3 last month) and my fiance and I are just starting to have problems with him. I want to get some ideas on how to best to handle the difficulties we are having as I want him to have a good moral compass as he matures into a young person.


He's always been a good kid. He's extremely intelligent for his age. Seriously, sleeping through the night, no crying, quiet, happy, all things my fiance and I have been extremely fortunate with being our first child. As he's gotten older and especially in the last 6 months he has been acting out. I know it's normal for a kid his age, but I want to make sure to foster a healthy respectfulness between myself and him. I want to be a good role model and the like.


Lately, he has begun to test limits to what he can get away with. I will have to ask him several times to stop doing something (such as climbing on the fridge, hanging from the cabinets, walking in the table, you know, just hyper normal boy stuff) and it's frustrating to me that he doesn't listen. I have to physically drag him off the table for instance (sometimes, not always). This isnt the only example but it's the one Im most worried about.

Here's what I have been doing: 

1. Verbal warning

2. Verbal threat of punishment

3. Time out (in the corner for between 2 and 5 minutes depending on how bad the infraction was.)


However, this doesn't work all the time. I'd say 50 50. Sometimes he will be good for awhile sometimes not. I try to be consistent. My main question is he too young to start instituting a strict policy of reward/punishment?? Will he eventually learn that there are consequences to these actions? Or am I wasting my time and should I wait til he's a bit older to understand?


I get frustrated with him sometimes. I'm sure we all get frustrated. I have yelled at him after several minutes of time out and he deliberately disobeys me again. I hate doing that. I lose my cool sometimes and I hate it. I don't strike him. But I know the yelling can be just as detrimental. Just looking for a bit of advice. 



I should also add, he is in daycare 5 days a week. Im sure they have rules there that he has to follow. My fiance is super supportive of me and doesn't contradict my attempts to discipline our child. I'm really lucky. I just want to know that I'm doing the right thing. Even when it makes me feel guilty. He's a good kid. Just rambunctious. I just don't want to screw him up. He deserves a good plan of action. Thanks to everyone who read this. I appreciate you all.",2.0759941944847604,4.324229022514071,3.7407058656943626,86.15550214166873,79.60037523452158,6.799376969096251,23.37742928953237,7.902280558234669,1.3129557081666603,2091,71,418,37,53,696,239,533,0.125,0.72,0.155,0.8855,1,0,1,1,1,0,70,4,2,1,10,22,32,8,0,30,1,47,2,1,6,8,83,81,29,0,11,13,1,1,1,0,5,0,5,0,7,20,26,0,5,11,1,0,7,9,13,0,2,6,8,56,19,74,65,12,57,1,1,1,1,52,20,1,7,31,279,76,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735577352990757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019728923479036,0.12526944998610876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670105967183636,0.0703718454701177,0.0,0.07072322165970826,0.0,0.06285137523593254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799267153905733,0.0,0.16436133193504415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268591403160795,0.04854606614751094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04971834408924082,0.0,0.0,0.07192836757409307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03806123785722118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402876904372931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731205843446325,0.0,0.0,0.3788219555823398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013150269500288,0.0,0.14863670698150086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497616982355129,0.1626195614772645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547640772573494,0.12271813760145565,0.08491333618175279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036775500968128566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321193537621833,0.08421332900952605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004931253155364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016737191248801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064036962899338,0.1475067875497389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05100820249135974,0.057249933400814676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657271161544146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202788795693804,0.0,0.0,0.16865017182847944,0.0,0.07529524406602099,0.0,0.048223011561819434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856866154657906,0.0,0.059861600811777424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700783620907108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532923622965415,0.0,0.0,0.05795027530731664,0.3722438738996452,0.0,0.10655988596635024,0.0,0.0,0.06293316492883924,0.0,0.0,0.08617172093479193,0.0,0.08542103453202217,0.21283703262511666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930299012754974,0.0,0.0,0.10001856245490402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30725368905061906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110669801290491,0.081877446770295,0.0,0.07836379814543595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26639442458126217,0.0,0.06038096310451165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054801004511991415,0.07644528808654147,0.0,0.0,0.08230125745165573,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnderpaidSE,2018/03/29,"[Humour] I never thought this day would come Everyone in my household got a full night of sleep! 11 month old son went to bed at 7pm, and didn't wake up until 730 the next morning (didn't wake up once in the middle of the night as well). Wife went to bed at 10pm. I skipped doing HW that night, and went to bed with her. Everyone woke up happy and refreshed! I'm not holding my breath on it happening again :)",1.9646013289036544,3.327592569767444,3.1967774086378737,94.0254651162791,76.79069767441861,6.309634551495018,22.75083056478405,6.868970318607317,0.4357993355481735,315,9,73,3,7,102,61,86,0.0,0.914,0.086,0.8065,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,4,4,4,0,1,10,13,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,8,0,5,3,16,4,1,24,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,0,10,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580327562823476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664602674623176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34565759715179856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446580630531253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994252393355532,0.19253921374752397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443685100615216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949790263518191,0.0,0.1923570326592387,0.5092020280326918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897923786483565,0.1926203824138075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100037348686324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359037935594454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262362819628468,0.5030042151338715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848468206986371,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PhDandanxiety,2018/03/29,"Parenting Level Up I've struggled with depression and anxiety for more than half my life (in my mid 30s now) and by far having a child, being a single parent (while working) and completing grad school has been the longest and most challenging experience I could have imagined. I've had issues with being short-tempered, overwhelmed and yelling on many occasions when my daughter was younger. However, I knew at that time it was wrong and wanted to be better. 

I took a parenting class, kept up with posts here, meditation, eating better and, most of all, just effort, and incrementally I realized I was getting better. Last night, I had the most challenging night of my life with my 10 year old, who is already going through puberty. She lost it about something fairly inconsequential - screaming, stomping etc. Whereas before, this would have triggered me to lose my f*cking mind, I didn't raise my voice, but clearly expressed that this behaviour absolutely crossed a line, there would be consequences to pay and she was sent her to bed immediately (mostly for my own sanity). 

When I went to see her this morning, she had written a note to me during the night, apologizing and expressing some of her own anxieties about life and telling me she loves me. It honestly just felt so reaffirming. We had a lovely affectionate morning chatting about our weekend plans. If I had hurt her by raising my voice or screaming last night, we never would have had this opportunity. So to the parents who are struggling with frustration and temper, know that it can get better. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and try your best to get better. I see a lot of times people ask for help with their temper and some not-so-helpful people harshly criticize and repeat words like child abuse. While I don't disagree, you are making the assumption that people who post on here for help haven't already realized they have a problem. So shout out to the overwhelmed parents trying their best. Don't give up!",8.161808453718564,8.814109808988768,7.4950240770465495,71.52102996254682,61.86516853932585,10.264098448368113,36.896201177100046,10.07000556051586,3.8521066345639374,1596,71,259,31,21,497,201,356,0.13699999999999998,0.688,0.175,0.9617,6,0,1,0,3,0,49,3,3,3,15,14,32,3,4,14,0,33,6,0,2,3,58,54,25,0,8,5,6,1,1,0,3,3,6,1,2,15,24,1,1,7,2,1,5,5,16,0,1,20,9,41,16,39,26,15,37,0,6,2,2,41,11,0,9,20,190,56,7,0.0,0.09824021144248334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829965875714996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268588437367702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751393368542392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055419519954376,0.0,0.1740274591727425,0.3666560119060144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869343529196568,0.0,0.0,0.06620054021139911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141420075877251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484230845424481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247166705853856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110636305485182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961099341198075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299583276232018,0.07953921426941729,0.047122262952561285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667276727900068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876176593496736,0.0,0.0,0.0865412729716498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045567681255429975,0.13517288791406268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569504625881074,0.04050787249145299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276019914875014,0.09051105167497887,0.07049100543434828,0.1496672797774319,0.0,0.0553461217302964,0.08406236368878739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837200830632524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394883069329185,0.0,0.0,0.3112388422020712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700489727649778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4603341086066685,0.0,0.07915134249517762,0.1724475762788277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588184836363645,0.0,0.0,0.07933804909189206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391397509630392,0.13214436037040406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383168960846476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733606300530236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247099194736588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669630931260843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212114210919284,0.11258710565819903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048905163760714056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686264042676623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036279709959998,0.0,0.0,0.17670040248250138,0.0906540701002874,0.0,0.05339426694704668
parenting,jmsteveCT,2018/03/29,"At wit's end re: practicing music (long rant) My kid is nine. I get it. It makes complete sense that practice is not anywhere on her list of priorities. I truly, truly get that. 

That said: her father and I are ready to light the cello on fire. (We won't. We'll just return it to the shop. But FIRE!)

The whole saga:

At six, she begged to start piano. My mother-in-law is a music educator, my husband and his brothers all played instruments (whether they wanted to or not). We were all for it. 

While her piano teacher said she was a good student, she hated to practice. (Part of this is on us, I will admit. Her lessons took place during the school day and neither of us play and couldn't answer questions.) Practice times were filled with tears and shouts. 

After a year and a half, she begged to switch to drums. We made the switch. The fights continued.

Two months of drums, and she asked to go back to piano. The fights continued.

We took advantage of a cross-country move to give everyone a break. No more music lessons. 

After a few months, she expressed interest in picking up the violin, and we groaned inwardly. We had no interest in picking up a new instrument, let alone resuming those battles.

My husband made a deal with her: she had to go back to the piano for a year to show commitment to an instrument. If she could do that, we would let her try violin. And I would do it with her! (I made a go at learning violin 20 years ago and had one gathering dust in a closet that I had been meaning to go back to.) 

She agreed and we found a teacher. The teacher thinks she has a talent for music, but not willing to work at it. The fights resume. Finally, after eight months, we've all had enough. The teacher is frustrated that she doesn't practice. We are frustrated at the constant arguments. We call it quits early. 

And then... we took her to an ""instrument petting zoo"" event. (I was checking out the school because I decided I would resume learning violin regardless.)

She tried the clarinet (interested), the violin (more awkward than she expected), and the cello. Man, when she sat down at the cello, there was a palpable physical change. She was engaged. She peppered the young woman with questions about it. This. This was magic.

So, she began to beg for cello lessons. We said she had to wait for the new year because we all needed the break. She kept asking and we had a small hope that this would be an instrument she'd stick with.

Finally, we rented the cello and arranged for her to start lessons in January. We made a deal: she would practice four times a week, for 20 minutes each time. She agreed enthusiastically.

The honeymoon lasted the first week. And the fights resumed. 

We let the teacher renegotiate the deal with her: practice three times a week for 15 minutes. No ""helpful notes"" from parents. (Especially since we don't play.)

The fights continue. MY GOD, THE FIGHTS.

She throws herself on the ground every time. EVERY TIME. She throws herself on the ground and sobs that she doesn't want to practice. She leaves her music on the floor--""I can see it fine!""--rather than using a music stand. Two bow strokes = sobbing and tears. I wish I was exaggerating. 

Fifteen minutes of practice means about two minutes of playing and thirteen minutes of crying about how much she hates the cello and how much it hurts to play. 

When we tell her that *she doesn't have to do this* and we'll just return the cello, the sobbing escalates. She doesn't want to give it up!

We think she has musical talent, but if she's not into it, we aren't either. *None of us needs this stress in our lives.* And, quite frankly, if we didn't have to spend the money on the instrument rental and lessons, bonus for us. But as long as we're spending the money and driving her to lessons, we need her to actually put in the work of practicing. 

We're at a loss here. Does she want this or not? Why are we still fighting with her over something she clearly doesn't want to do?

In lessons, she's a delight! She's happy and funny and engaged with her teacher. But the moment we tell her that it's time for cello practice, all hell breaks loose and we are so, so over it. ",2.630947326132976,5.079730186483109,3.3799406665739578,88.39931009440815,78.79974968710889,6.2485576105934895,24.757814552140797,7.434181149491111,1.2334803102643734,3245,119,632,46,81,1024,307,799,0.124,0.784,0.092,-0.9782,3,1,1,0,8,0,153,33,0,1,15,18,37,13,2,65,0,59,1,0,10,7,140,106,49,0,22,19,5,3,0,0,10,1,4,3,3,32,64,0,2,19,9,8,13,20,20,0,11,31,9,106,17,97,58,17,102,1,5,1,0,123,33,4,8,52,447,138,7,0.0,0.0,0.06150836158312777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587244983509576,0.0,0.0,0.06528025557265774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784941609235172,0.0,0.0,0.14539894894373373,0.0,0.07684522305214919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436085900511998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667757089394337,0.0,0.06608594250632473,0.06811323061191045,0.0,0.05032446837605599,0.0,0.06923569093996,0.0406492504981572,0.19494403783080508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055158133581306126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055826029421374365,0.06512702297421566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621128698532403,0.06022803624414268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809295836827576,0.0,0.05361343726675272,0.0,0.06910933693184718,0.0,0.0,0.0658613331330772,0.1209285803522308,0.14328601091119386,0.05286672291797303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067096796596153,0.0,0.12445850333069683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042247799740710405,0.0,0.0,0.06260318872470433,0.0,0.0,0.06747510924431993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051378007652270505,0.0,0.06673985773611453,0.0,0.19335788250318506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05565680200157251,0.1115594482945687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385627139804251,0.04207313329860185,0.0,0.0,0.13731668369464656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093026037578516,0.06699110429592367,0.09266886645232834,0.14020823515766614,0.0,0.12174987749043095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0427108798935775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998755362726553,0.06825554060302226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585312079284958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336273801163013,0.14121644914300868,0.13408070582931922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986839932830287,0.0,0.0,0.1275798104534485,0.05022689137655602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213921463480098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852371045362376,0.0,0.0,0.08922616890397259,0.0,0.05033598162553147,0.0,0.07220085602162407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018230760022203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077438611950953,0.0,0.0,0.2572738259522576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100865410479824,0.08558670699898759,0.0,0.18471397599183728,0.0,0.3032701740648696,0.05443783656477028,0.0,0.0,0.18588416040433692,0.0,0.15167702077634518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687493199047615,0.0703709428769308,0.07248159414553776,0.0,0.0,0.0917734406404749,0.0,0.0,0.22387415038132444,0.0,0.0,0.16235747260422867
parenting,sleepiestever,2018/03/29,"Oh the Places You'll Go VS Trouble Getting To Solla Sollew Solla Sollew - HS graduation gift We all likely know the plot to OTPYG and the popularity of it as a signed by every teacher (only favs middle school to high school ) as a graduation gift.

My daughter is about  to graduate Kindergarten and I'm  thinking of changing it to the Dr Seuss book to Solla Sollew. 

It's more of a deep cut so here's the plot :

* The book is a first-person narrative told by a young narrator who experiences troubles in his life (mostly aggressive small animals that bite and sting) and wishes to escape them. He sets out for the city of Solla Sollew (""where they never have troubles / at least very few"") and learns that he must face his problems instead of running away from them. He then goes back home to deal with his ""troubles"", arming himself with a big bat and resolving that ""Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!""


I like the idea of this book more because it's 

1) less popular, more unique

2) longer and slightly less childish for an 18 year old - more of an 'odyssey'

3) it deals more with the troubles of life and not running from them. And adulthood is filled with troubles and roadblocks as we all know , or at least I do. 

4) I love the last part, armed with a bat, 'now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!'


Honestly I'm pretty set on the change, just wanted to get outside opinions on it. Thanks!

Edit: sorry title is a mess!",4.266241863651935,5.779697244604317,4.726094552929086,84.75732613908876,71.15827338129496,7.021856800274065,27.98629667694416,7.447530270364453,1.5457836245289482,1126,41,216,12,21,357,158,278,0.131,0.7609999999999999,0.108,-0.7053,0,0,0,0,0,0,40,2,1,4,1,9,22,2,0,21,0,12,7,3,0,4,40,27,16,0,4,4,1,0,2,0,2,3,0,1,0,11,20,0,0,6,3,0,6,2,14,0,0,1,0,19,8,43,24,14,31,0,0,0,1,20,14,0,3,11,141,30,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239345109918247,0.1165385186361211,0.0,0.09238816914239176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206559082311712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124986741759397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769390154768756,0.0,0.0,0.1482525153397261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891490488990726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836528918167975,0.0,0.2584012060740268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601290344904356,0.15202473353551693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710901992076415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658430016761214,0.12353975621765885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21409937568015971,0.14808687658346573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678674431531834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168906439178284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903431472314886,0.0,0.0,0.11526646270958332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164122223338671,0.0,0.0,0.13233434055162538,0.15834554239592347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541886700978722,0.0,0.14502025361518234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067689737676629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696564404826807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395339706558708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711205655708477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481988023801648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505097751884334,0.0893926600521309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742838790404383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759819182456783
parenting,iwannacry17,2018/03/29,"Advice Needed Please - Eight year old Destroys her belongings! Hi Reddit. Long time lurker here, and I really need some advice..

My SO's eight year old daughter lives with us 100% of the time, for over a year now. Recently, she has been completely destroying her things. In the past week:

She's painted some of her dolls and play sets with nail polish, and blamed the 2 year old (who wasn't in the room, lol)

She pulled all the fur off a fuzzy animal doll, and tried to hide it.

She destroyed her new headband, broke it into about a dozen pieces. And claimed it was ok because ""she didn't really like it anyway""

Plus ruined some other things, she ripped up a whole roll of toilet paper while in the bathroom, snapped limbs off of dolls, ripped up her coat, etc...

I'm really at a loss on how to handle this. We've  thrown away the ruined toys, and made her clean up the messes. She still does it. We've tried asking her why she rips things up, and she says she doesn't know. We've told her she won't be getting any new toys, it doesn't phase her.

Can anyone offer me any advice? What can I do?",2.82662100456621,4.454461091324204,3.2718949771689516,93.27487442922377,75.0730593607306,6.327853881278537,18.55936073059361,6.937597516519254,-0.05214885844748896,845,14,184,8,18,262,131,219,0.133,0.8240000000000001,0.043,-0.9659,0,0,0,0,0,0,39,1,0,0,1,7,11,3,0,13,2,12,0,0,2,1,20,20,11,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,13,11,0,0,1,3,0,1,5,8,0,3,6,1,25,3,25,12,7,35,0,4,0,0,28,15,0,3,19,112,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716728755846147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724336840716399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864967744985394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852506542301268,0.0,0.11911687718496218,0.0,0.0,0.07728578886266614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329296473215523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109487277597104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139664789002104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623892656648826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967666515149958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193980886947763,0.0,0.11195178248999682,0.11219903624560328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996521586438474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880160948429853,0.0,0.2448957775656493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991125460231375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102879574700695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391697496904656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24366146270896366,0.0,0.12518299636057512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082299398493123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012491315293818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526871345910012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785646712180667,0.0,0.0,0.12114666619209274,0.0,0.1721547782374386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525044349550235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169773940781077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440200993135125,0.14154878123165535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265765873163298
parenting,12345678s,2018/03/29,"Need advice, 11 y/o daughters ""best friend"" brought a knife to school with a list of names. Best friend is suspended and daughter is questioning how to handle best friends return. My 11 year old daughter is in 5th grade, she is actually in middle school in because the elementary school building doesn't have room for 5th graders.  Her best friend since 2nd grade (also 11 and in 5th grade and in the same classes) brought a knife to school and supposedly a list (didn't see the list, nor did my daughter).  This best friend has spent the night at my house, my daughter has spent the night there gone on many outings together.  I have not noticed any signs of violence or strange convo's between the girls.  The best friend told my daughter about the list and said that one point in time my daughter was on it because she upset the best friend, but was removed after they worked it out. Now a specific young man was on the list because he was annoying and she wanted to hurt him. The best friend showed the knife to my daughter and a few other friends of theirs. Then I'm assuming she was scared of getting caught, the best friend then took the knife and put it in another young ladies backpack and tried to make like she had never seen it before.  My daughter went to the teacher of the class she was in and explained the situation.  The best friend told the principal that she was bringing the knife to protect herself from a potential school shooting, the knife was a kitchen knife a little bigger than a steak knife.  The best friend was then suspended and will be returning the second week in April.  Now my daughter is concerned, because she doesn't want to be friends with the best friend but is worried that she'll end up on a list of some sort again because it's happened once already.  I feel my daughters conflict... I am wanting to teach compassion and being polite but then again, I want to tell my daughter to stay the hell away from said best friend.  My daughter is concerned on what her actions will cause.  How would you handle this situation, what would you encourage your child to do.  I appreciate your time, thanks! ",7.184498536268023,7.341241271820454,6.069914344573353,82.59754852000434,63.96259351620946,8.968925512306189,34.39238859373306,8.456263369488248,2.5706442806028407,1694,68,323,20,23,505,184,401,0.075,0.6709999999999999,0.253,0.9983,1,0,0,1,0,0,39,0,4,2,14,9,36,2,2,36,0,35,1,0,4,1,42,62,24,0,7,5,13,1,1,15,5,0,2,2,3,13,15,1,2,4,1,2,10,6,5,0,2,25,5,36,31,46,29,16,57,1,1,2,0,60,23,1,5,24,214,49,12,0.0,0.0,0.04796462574808449,0.0,0.0,0.048030128676913315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0542397350459335,0.03930631545673322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03342460229779241,0.05153947425017268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617930966676097,0.0,0.0,0.1498110285071985,0.0,0.04182417721321847,0.0,0.6705569990110375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05049197403928593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043533505677580624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02485239852004945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5696131462681935,0.0,0.02567955082601734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043464374953776516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056714056721722965,0.05261753489955903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02401286603612117,0.04926256349293488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032808906639292895,0.04983175254055765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03644510195061353,0.037908549873326855,0.0,0.0,0.0922504215027921,0.0,0.0,0.05595913578276155,0.051576071866717886,0.0523445817852141,0.0333062256372763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646391123858255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941068070874178,0.05506075888124301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350837550793097,0.0,0.04920907414419285,0.2487189425920992,0.03916726092777344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04065850320817647,0.11049634964122362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052388797464979216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042960444824746,0.04525195779869115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05732109288635009,0.0,0.0,0.09393243922090737,0.054608956444929864,0.03337053909873185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596295471783945,0.0,0.03942624682168664,0.0,0.0,0.04556379227617848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03578276693312129,0.04991558003535263,0.0,0.06983141518538605,0.0,0.0,0.03165185679812864
parenting,Bibberbear,2018/03/29,"Boyfriends mother thinks 13 month old is autistic I’d like to start off this tangent by saying if my daughter is autistic, it wouldn’t change anything she’s still my beautiful little butter muffin and I will forever feel blessed that I’ve produced somebody so cute and special.

It all started about 2/3 weeks ago when my boyfriend mentioned via FaceTime that his mother is worried about DD because she’s not a cuddle baby. Which is true, since DD became mobile at about 7/8 months she has become independent in the sense that she’s more than happy just toddling around and playing with toys alone and doesn’t seek a huge amount of interaction while playing except when she wants a nap, peppa pig, food or wants you to play peekaboo.  She’ll play happily by herself for an hour at a time before she comes back to inspect what you’re doing then she’ll sit and chatter to you for a while then go back to playing but during that hour she doesn’t really like being picked up or snuggled by anybody, not even me who she is normally very close too. 

My boyfriends mother is a very nice woman, she’s bought a lot of clothes and toys for DD and loves her granddaughter dearly but she’s a hypochondriac and is constantly diagnosing people as narcissist/autistic/special. She is very busy with college and works a manual labor job 6 days a week, so she doesn’t have much free time and is understandably very tired when she does have free time this means she doesn’t spend a lot of quality time with DD, so DD isn’t very close with her and will always look for me whenever she picks her up. 

DD is like that with most people, the only people she’s close to and will happily be held and snuggled by are me and my dad (her primary caregivers) 

She also made a point that DD isn’t good at keeping eye contact and that she likes to flap her hands , which I can see her point but I don’t see them as a problem because DD can hold her gaze when playing with her otherwise she’s more interested in your mouth and only she flaps her hands when excited.

It’s agitating as when it was first brought up I thought that it was just his mother being a hypochondriac but due to my anxiety I can’t stop looking for signs. I told my dad of her suspicions and he thinks that it’s ridiculous and he can see it’s really eating away at me. He said that I should bring her to the health nurse to give myself peace of mind but i feel like I’ll just be told that she’s too young to make any sort diagnosis.


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parenting,crx00,2018/03/29,"Wife's parents try to one up my parents for daughter's attention/affection We Have a 1 year old daughter. My wife's parents live overseas while my parents are a 30 minute drive away. My wife's parents come visit us once a year for approximately a month and we do the same visiting them. My parents visit our daughter once a week.

What I notice is to compensate for the distance, my wife's parents try to one up my parents by giving our daughter extravagant gifts and parties for her. When they visit us they expect to have exclusive access to our daughter shutting out my parents. I addressed this to my wife and she said just let them have the time since they live far away. My parents kind of understand and visit maybe once when theyre in town. 

My wife's parents have good intentions but as our daughter gets older I want her to love all her grandparents equally.  Kids can be influenced quite easily by the gifts and attention they receive. 

Should I just let this be or take action? ",5.057142857142857,6.646921248677253,5.408333333333335,80.33250000000005,69.31746031746032,8.151322751322754,32.54761904761905,8.634040054169528,2.7268031746031736,792,36,142,13,14,252,97,189,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.9386,12,0,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,6,1,4,3,0,0,9,0,13,1,0,2,1,22,21,11,0,3,4,23,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,3,9,0,0,2,0,0,9,0,0,0,2,1,1,33,3,21,15,3,28,0,0,0,1,51,9,0,1,10,96,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434394584343778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061586673283435325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03735322388261525,0.0685845870531752,0.0,0.05996667371142138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445111475833137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621710860333914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626291554435728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452709316525165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718264086704474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057066683776217174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139761249458494,0.07502205052089513,0.22841975263258985,0.09689382118425698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8732549733813779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604380878628647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800818497394855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914146175517768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375539591541395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04168935099929254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708092065034116,0.0,0.0,0.07442889058979534,0.17199953553742306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216964540201831,0.0,0.05734903364780195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920809636656982
parenting,PimpHand420,2018/03/29,"Fifteen year old daughter. Phone privileges. What am I doing wrong? We provided our daughter with a phone under a few regulatory conditions, one of which was she was not allowed to be online chatting/texting/video with people whom she did not know in real life.  (no strangers online).

Today I overheard strangers voices over what I assume was a live chat or video conference, (didn't see the screen) and told her she was not allowed to do that.  She had a meltdown over what she deems helicopter parenting, threw a god awful fit when I told her if she isn't willing to follow the rules of having the phone then she was going to have to give it up and be grounded from it.  All hell broke lose when she refused to give it to me.  She gets wicked pissed and starts screaming  about how I don't ever let her make her own decisions, (hyperbole) and that I treat her like a child.

There was really no great resolution to this fiasco save that mom decided to take her to work with her, (at home child care) so that we wouldn't be at home fighting all day while she was at work.  I gave her a hug at the car before they drove off and told her I love her because I never like us being separated or go to bed angry at each other, (what if that's the last time we see each other kind of thing, you know).

ugh.  I feel so lost.",5.7118829516539416,5.486059450381682,6.0395572519083975,82.87198218829518,67.09160305343511,9.12407124681934,28.535368956743003,8.648137234880735,1.856571704834606,1024,29,213,14,15,329,152,262,0.16,0.737,0.103,-0.9467,3,0,0,0,2,0,32,5,1,1,4,8,19,3,0,12,1,24,4,1,4,4,38,47,16,0,3,7,4,1,2,0,2,1,2,3,2,18,13,0,1,6,2,0,6,10,9,0,1,17,6,38,10,30,23,6,32,1,3,3,2,47,13,2,5,15,153,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648854108988438,0.0,0.12072916478516263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465579797705622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150066152054837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283383008058824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173863339707988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412628125302058,0.27220785041218737,0.16126699292535684,0.0,0.0,0.15642285719724303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28463379099547964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774586229879627,0.15594673239785312,0.11565088236998786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508159389930175,0.10021381970614034,0.1386304981379366,0.0,0.12528236409901178,0.0,0.0,0.15872707975565392,0.1548784397815306,0.0,0.12805195801676056,0.0,0.09470579363422224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616777613852654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942636219934973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488788661071478,0.0,0.09614134864710973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754060349501314,0.0,0.0,0.09836151152782248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149014666827358,0.0908917613429686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22611948465243895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042317360842598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667586843415623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425856053042138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273118719660805,0.0,0.13448535492368072,0.4067163667880507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066379580384525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065802056793376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15512316647691074,0.0,0.09136586753773424
parenting,BrighterColours,2018/03/29,"Basic human rights as something to be grateful for? So my mum shared a post today that said '""How much allowance did you get as a teenager per week?"" Me: I was allowed to live there'. The post featured endless comments such as - ""nothing"", ""Nothing, you did what you needed to do to help out where ever you could its called respect something these kids today are lacking"", ""3 meals and a bed"", and ""Lol i worked full time, paid the bills and bought the groceries"".

Reasons this annoys the absolute crap out of me:

1. What you're listing there are basic human rights. You are owed those by virtue of your parents bringing you into the world. This has nothing to do with allowance, and anything resembling 'you should be grateful you have a roof over your head' amounts to saying 'you should be grateful an incompetent person didn't birth you.' The fact that this is something anyone should be grateful for says a lot about the state of people having children. Also, I'm sorry, you worked full time as a teen, paid the bills and bought the groceries? I'm sorry your parent sucked and had you without being able to provide for you. Isn't saying 'I was lucky to have 3 meals and a bed' the same as saying 'either my parent wasn't really equipped to have me, or I'm lucky that they didn't abuse me'?

2. It reeks of martyrdom and jealousy of 'how easy' kids have it these days. Maybe kids do have it easier. So what? They're your kids, shouldn't you be happy they have a full and rich life? An easier life does not equal a spoiled life. They can have an easier life while being taught to be good, responsible people. 

3. There is a difference between teaching a kid about responsibility/helping family, which of course you should do, and paying them to clean your house. That is not allowance. That is paying. Your child. To clean the house. You are teaching them to do a job. Not the value and importance of caring for family and home. That is not allowance's fault, that is the parent's fault.

4. Giving them an allowance as teenagers is an excellent thing to do - it's a predefined amount of money for them to spend throughout the week. Do this instead of giving them money or items whenever they ask for them (THIS is spoiling them!), and teach them to manage their money, which gives them Independence and teaches the value of managing what money you have. This is what my allowance taught me. Maybe if the parent of the full time employed teenager had been taught this themselves, they wouldn't have had a kid they couldn't afford.

Am I the only one? I certainly was on on that post's comment thread.

Also, I say this as someone who grew up in a house where LOSING the house to the bank was a possibility like every five years. My mother is currently declaring personal insolvency because my father screwed us financially and bailed, and she can't afford the mortgage. I am not someone who had loads of money growing up or an easy life.

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parenting,HardAtWorkPainting,2018/03/29,"5yo daughter only has attention for one particular girl from her class and ignores other kids. So our 5yo daughter is almost obsessed with this one girl, She's always talking about her and more bad than good. It's been like this for 2 years and the teachers also try to separate them on assignments. 

There are some other kids that try to get her attention, but she just straight up ignores them and asks where the other kid is so she can go play with her. 

I don't know if this is normal behavior or not, but my wife and I are a bit worried. Plus I think our daughter is a jerk for cold-shouldering the kids that try to play with her.",7.733727034120733,5.996689472440945,7.438228346456692,79.4342979002625,63.7244094488189,10.671391076115487,34.55249343832021,9.2995712137729,2.81469658792651,501,17,103,7,6,159,80,127,0.104,0.8029999999999999,0.094,-0.0819,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,2,0,7,9,1,1,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,24,15,13,0,2,6,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,9,9,0,2,4,2,0,1,2,5,0,2,1,0,16,4,15,14,3,6,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,4,2,75,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431211376576819,0.0,0.0,0.19416069136431344,0.2020224110197415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22697776499151795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027211959895664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650660041982762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684881002883344,0.0,0.13798430059970287,0.2036424279089175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343214510539414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861591749407432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23788463081684766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32904431368479353,0.18465427249237146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19514702956989216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557132345569608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.494519534633694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24656708258964005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635010118548673
parenting,green_meeples,2018/03/29,"Help getting my baby to fall asleep by herself? My daughter is almost 6 months now and she always fights sleep. She will only sleep if I nurse her, and sometimes walking her around for an hour works.

I've tried putting her in her crib when she's awake, drowsy, and asleep already but no matter what she wakes up and screams until I pick her up.

I don't like the Cry it Out method and she doesn't seem to respond well to it either.

Her naps are generally shorter, and she sleeps around 10 to 12 hours a night. She sleeps next to me and when she gets hungry she just moves towards me with her mouth open and doesnt actually wake up all night.

When she naps, any small noise can wake her. Once she's asleep at night she sleeps really well unless I move her or pick her up.

Any advice for me? Id love for her to fall asleep more easily.

Thanks!",1.6746956224350211,3.802905587209304,2.1454172366621087,97.701634746922,80.33720930232559,4.977291381668947,17.67578659370725,5.900188976854957,-0.5857712722298225,659,13,149,4,17,201,105,172,0.055,0.8029999999999999,0.141,0.9499,0,0,1,0,1,0,17,0,0,0,1,9,7,1,0,3,0,7,14,13,2,1,26,12,16,0,1,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,13,0,0,1,2,0,6,4,2,2,0,0,1,33,5,23,11,3,30,0,0,0,1,29,12,0,4,13,91,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.1194146510927735,0.0,0.0,0.11957772980483793,0.0,0.0,0.12253504052346192,0.0,0.135037414237164,0.0,0.1018209463786183,0.0,0.0,0.16643045407124835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21786899762125028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441677950710254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786567409964492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202147050618536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410179522653634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05978339192098118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104429471897008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767389841112684,0.2601181088202392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014099306433105,0.3445055097930315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303191648634539,0.0,0.09306726260281704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301480737242007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839281923878479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140029010170192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6122876825700464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102623114672552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266108444537208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308062913243854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200491469077832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908620805038507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bookned,2018/03/29,"I’m worried about my son’s social life I thought my son would grow out of his shyness, but he’s 16 now and he’s still very shy. The only friends he has are other guys he’s known since he was in kindergarten because he’s too shy to make other friends. He has a girlfriend, but she’s a girl he’s known since 4th grade and she asked him out. They’ve been dating since they were 13, and I’m afraid if she ever left him he’d be a mess because she’s the only girl he can talk to without feeling embarrassed (he blushes and gets nervous when he tries to talk to girls at our church or who are cashiers, waitresses, etc) so he would have a really hard time finding another girlfriend. He also relies on her a lot to speak up for him or hold his hand to comfor him in situations where he feels shy. Plus he’s extremely introverted and spends most of his free time in his room reading books or with his girlfriend. He talks to his friends outside of school sometimes, but he mostly talks to his girlfriend. I’m really concerned about his shyness and introvertedness and I’m wondering what I can do. He’s very nerdy, so joining a sports team won’t help him",4.2394230769230745,5.092476478632482,4.687254273504276,87.50600961538464,70.53846153846155,7.559401709401709,28.727564102564106,7.6454224807358475,1.5292743589743596,912,33,193,10,16,289,128,234,0.107,0.779,0.113,0.8205,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,1,1,11,8,0,3,8,0,16,2,1,1,1,34,27,19,0,3,8,2,4,0,7,3,1,1,1,4,4,11,0,1,7,4,2,1,2,4,0,0,4,5,25,5,25,18,4,19,1,0,0,0,62,11,0,8,7,104,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073758563313386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079404589755992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552454213508796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369977482672898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497468018472409,0.0,0.12145511231212773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578212773036072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272055989359346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112105454171133,0.0,0.07015065462401171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294864000141302,0.0,0.0,0.1202797548595486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999850647561637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588500036052734,0.0,0.09483903597918532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415175002855585,0.0,0.0,0.08962642274539473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042371243611361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430656782122294,0.0,0.17203389810894815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588864352370555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33320917122853105,0.15092536690793992,0.0,0.13687159287195685,0.0,0.0,0.1327966931141112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722838103013893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43168530691450896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659556638671897,0.15658810455778038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116067406289904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157400727518145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943171257900646,0.1456103394417061,0.0,0.13635793862366022,0.0,0.19076344137658455,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parent24601,2018/03/29,"My 9yo is still ‘toe walking’. How bad is this? My 9 year old son started walking on his toes by habit when he was about 5, after a virus that made his calf muscles sore. 

I kept waiting for him to grow out of it but he never has. If he’s barefoot he’ll walk round the house on his toes until I remind him. If he’s in shoes he’s a little better but still puts most weight on the balls of his feet. 

First question is, has anyone experienced this?

Second question, how serious a problem is this? Most online articles say they grow out of it but he hasn’t yet. 

Third question, what kind of doctor would we see for this problem? Where I am, you don’t just see a Pediatrician. You see a general practitioner or a specialist such as physiotherapist or podiatrist. Which kind of doctor would deal with this?",2.3312083333333327,4.4303055375000016,3.8362500000000033,86.55708333333338,78.0,6.5166666666666675,23.166666666666664,7.554174236665415,0.9817166666666668,626,20,129,9,15,207,101,160,0.087,0.8909999999999999,0.022,-0.8442,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,2,1,2,10,7,0,0,8,0,12,9,5,3,1,28,20,12,0,6,8,1,2,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,10,4,1,2,3,1,0,6,3,4,0,3,3,7,15,3,20,14,2,25,0,0,4,0,23,8,0,9,11,87,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254707921581308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245377654279638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970758340225436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119854162352273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30022251318257104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474770118170213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922429422170926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30544465578537583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469904115578983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877188105220173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311212718848013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389349422134474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806648816710685,0.0,0.14743236603542742,0.4928734743861747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662877799861893,0.0,0.0,0.3506036670743714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380568774801692,0.0,0.23424344025050706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859062314367302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836407466376536,0.0,0.0,0.09444330801006412
parenting,SpouseOfGamer,2018/03/29,"Anybody else here sick of being the ""primary parent""? I know I'm not alone here. I see people complain about their spouse not doing their share of the work ALL THE TIME. Usually it's the spouse playing videogames or staring at his/her phone all day. 

The responses to posts like these are never camaraderie though, even though I know this is a common problem. The responses are always things like ""I would never put up with that. You better lay down the law."" While I agree with that, it just seems like there's nowhere for people to *really* discuss this problem in detail.

Today, on my ""day off"", I busted my ass caring for two kids all day. Cooked, dishes, laundry, all that shit. Tomorrow, I work a 14 hour shift at my ""real job"". What did hubby do today? Played videogames. Stopped for 1.5 hours to eat dinner, bathe older kid, and help get them ready for bed. Then I put the kids to bed when hubby rushed back to get back to his game.  

Now I'm too exhausted to have any evening time to myself. I'm going to bed since I have to be up in 6 hours. 

When is MY time for videogames? When is MY time to watch Netflix and wind down? NEVER. That's when. Because even when hubby takes over child care to ""give me a break"" during the day, there's so much other shit that needs to be done around the house, that I have to use that as my opportunity to get it done. 

I even made a subreddit about this, r/spousesofgamers, which hasn't really taken off yet...But I know I am not the only one here. I think this is a **real phenomena** that our generation is dealing with and not voicing, because we're embarrassed. 

Embarrassed that we don't ""stand up for ourselves"" enough. 
Embarrassed that we picked a life partner who does this. 
Embarrassed that the games are apparently more interesting than we are. 
Who knows why? But anyway, that's my rant, thanks for reading lol.",2.51418910554008,4.899036153203344,3.123122098421544,90.4329716032188,78.83286908077993,6.105880532342927,21.11428350355927,7.279313950308263,0.601854162797895,1445,40,292,19,36,451,193,359,0.108,0.779,0.114,0.3193,3,1,0,0,0,0,70,4,1,3,4,26,22,2,4,18,1,24,10,3,3,7,41,47,16,0,4,7,3,0,3,1,1,3,1,4,5,27,10,4,1,6,8,0,4,9,10,0,2,5,4,32,12,45,38,7,52,0,0,3,1,28,14,3,2,34,192,59,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721451415345607,0.0,0.0,0.07810214077343541,0.0,0.0,0.06383055360988585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355861798371286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443508255902985,0.0,0.11443691447736322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830148394601206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914006523078148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213735704402664,0.09676938179131128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214078071048515,0.19211036460359715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604602661691193,0.07841110022370294,0.0,0.0,0.0969863221453314,0.0,0.2479844277761634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471197710363915,0.09004264063522778,0.053344919583743176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291487816364963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773105933442905,0.10830613946449677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931452664037204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063402001415494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629872680615018,0.1375712284493096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881612874862375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900064001195387,0.06959876480056244,0.21718048012097693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360449115122402,0.07138759463278654,0.0,0.0,0.10422456166843357,0.0,0.0,0.13014658058430484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898955048755081,0.0,0.0,0.1796298218104998,0.0,0.18871794349449006,0.0,0.0,0.09388912863059057,0.2136749431812941,0.1202630150587514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479723845712749,0.08545001248929399,0.0,0.0,0.1926995354015537,0.07764504557466738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847427935757817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057384180010053,0.0,0.0,0.08641710954366154,0.0,0.0,0.062358889942246885,0.06014408670560364,0.1844412719292187,0.0,0.21893077798571567,0.0,0.17794367746202042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169122310095422,0.0,0.0,0.08106812368893321,0.10337763517417524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469741474604175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666782346041573,0.0,0.0,0.06667809912788965,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chinora,2018/03/29,"How do you find time with your S/O? My S/O and I have a 5 month old and she tends to take up a lot of our time, as babies do. I'm curious though, how do you keep the spark/light/connection or whatever you want to call it, alive in your relationship? 

My girlfriend and I spend Monday to Friday apart because I work full time and go to school full time. So the only time I get to see the family at all, and her is the weekend. Which typically were balancing the baby back and forth and her son who is 8. So by the time we get to actually sit down and look at each other, it's 8pm on Sunday haha. So this tends to put a bit of a stresser on our relationship. 

TL:DR; How do you make time for your S/O with the hustle of having a baby/or kids? ",1.1364086833412017,2.1844801963190186,3.778527607361962,90.30478055686643,78.32515337423312,7.223973572439831,19.90042472864559,7.882392219407189,0.4561546956111369,564,12,139,9,13,200,97,163,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.8290000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,3,7,0,1,8,1,0,0,12,1,9,0,0,4,1,22,21,17,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,12,0,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,19,1,22,20,6,26,0,0,2,0,20,10,0,2,13,90,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.15703168829712658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237351683662539,0.0,0.09809345268561312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567958489196345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16431415322562673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516981383029662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707513737530906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814488419446974,0.0,0.09145278635139796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430303402698376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351296735840567,0.0,0.0,0.13680579954686334,0.0,0.0,0.10741328469464227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844233960994647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885522433765862,0.0,0.0,0.12238455866155272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617659366791546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455290724308944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628565004211388,0.12822994057673784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098948740582327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810004371309744,0.0,0.6568235960787838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491296072498176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714942451469106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rdm08,2018/03/29,"Need Relationship Book Recommendation I bought the book “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” to help with communication and discipline in our house. My 7 year starting reading it and wants a book for himself to help him with his friends. Does anyone know of any self-help or relationship help books written for kids? If so, I would love some recommendations.",3.975108695652175,7.100293376811596,4.191141304347827,80.37627717391305,79.0,6.928260869565218,24.56702898550725,8.07648339933343,1.6634768115942036,309,11,56,6,8,96,50,69,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.9401,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,13,12,8,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,3,1,4,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,7,2,9,7,1,3,0,0,0,1,18,1,0,3,2,31,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178967485458476,0.0,0.13675802320808902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406170112452024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598798944139646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537291400496972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5391846933131353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320477059464229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105218280425087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815047518703866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911651166339726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20115902034509275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4318221551697479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20979595560702924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423428699578992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32328051727106755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861670268570625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285893686171808,0.0,0.0,0.12950476801524965
parenting,cougarcait,2018/03/29,"Any relatable working mom's out there? I've been back at work after baby #2 for about 8 weeks and am so totally overwhelmed with everything that needs to happen in the day to day.  From getting two kiddos ready for their day at daycare, remembering everything they need, commuting, working a full 40 (barely), pumping multiple times, and then trying to make dinner, get everything ready for the next day.  Add in Dr appointments, grocery shopping,general errands and the housework and there is simply not enough time in the day (or week).  

I look to some of the mom blogs out there for advice when I'm feeling so defeated but end up so frustrated - I can't seem to find the ones completely overwhelmed like me that work outside the home and don't end their day feeling like a failure for feeding the toddler dino nuggets for dinner for the 14th day in the row.  Then I remember that oh yeah, they're out there, they're just equally in survival mode and don't have time for a blog on top of it all.  

Does anyone have any lifesaving tips or tricks to doing it all? By the time I get home I hardly have the energy to do anything over the bear minimum to get through the next day.  It's survival at best around here and I'm quickly burning out. 

This isn't to say I want to quit working.  I love what I do and it's the only ""me time"" I have, but am I really in a ""can't have your cake and eat it too"" pickle?

Any and all advice or commiseration is appreciated and welcome. Please tell me I'm not alone. 
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parenting,Oversharingonreddit,2018/03/29,"Oversharing about your kids on ""anonymous"" sits like Reddit. What are your thoughts? Something that I have been thinking about lately as my daughter saw me using reddit and told me not to post any embarrassing stories about her. It made me wonder if this is something other people think about when answering questions. 

If your kids are old enough to have an opinion, do you ask them before posting something about them on Reddit or do you just assume that it will be okay since the site is ""anonymous""? 

I also realized that if someone I knew used Reddit and saw some of my responses it wouldn't be that difficult for them to recognize that it was me. I don't share my kids names or post pictures that would be identifying but linking up a few of my comments wouldn't make it hard to identify me and my kids. 

I'm wondering how others manage this. We always talk about consent but then share our kids stories.



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parenting,threenagerprobs425,2018/03/29,"Three year old drama My daughter's been going to daycare for about a year now. Since about a month after she started she's had a ""boyfriend."" I consistently try to reiterate that she is three and he is more her friend that is a boy than her boyfriend, but she is three. Lol, and consistently reiterates he's her boyfriend. Recently, he broke up with her to be her best friends boyfriend. She's been sad, and asked last night if she could ""look really cute to make (bf) want to be her boyfriend again."" She said her best friend kissed her boyfriend and that's why she's his girlfriend now.

First of all, I am not prepared for this kind of drama at three. I thought I'd have at least another few years before this happened.

Second: how do I teach her, at her age, that she doesn't need to look cute or even worry about boys at this age?

Any and all advice is welcomed",3.2790199335548174,4.968481220930234,3.2653820598006646,93.53360465116279,74.0,6.542192691029903,24.495016611295682,7.1686216300943375,0.6984737541528245,678,21,150,7,14,205,96,172,0.069,0.7120000000000001,0.218,0.9856,0,0,0,0,0,0,24,0,0,0,3,8,12,0,0,4,1,15,1,0,2,2,18,26,9,0,4,4,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,2,7,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,0,6,5,3,25,10,21,18,7,22,0,2,2,1,34,5,0,2,16,99,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640753848082847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418154885581724,0.17606363554213186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696904721485894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287527765561095,0.0,0.3524130844194913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405893918716613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090004885693376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428203964808944,0.0,0.0,0.3891702926489757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542460776522953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847834562267842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484781855297374,0.0,0.13686545383737414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819967901175928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207827524660753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402062820298302,0.0,0.0,0.12449985647859345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756800807898438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618865640264453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756461093384573,0.0,0.16578649921930724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971665199427218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889322688442046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884443032380546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332982714650696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399686394169806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903505852973472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150866556621545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051626193468578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243770562629749
parenting,nomoretalkietalkie,2018/03/29,"How to better support middle schooler having academic difficulties? My 13yo son is in middle school this year and has been having trouble academically (e.g., turning assignments in on time, getting higher than a C on tests and quizzes). We had him tested and the report unsurprisingly showed super cognitive abilities and average processing speed. Nothing that would allow for accommodations. Our observation at home is that he spends little effort on homework and minimal time studying/preparing for quizzes and tests, and his teachers report that they feel he doesn’t put in enough time to get a better grade. We have tied his grades to weekend PlayStation time - 2 hours for every A and 1 hour for every B (the current term grade). This was initially fairly effective. He at least began to show some awareness of what his grades even were. But it’s no longer working and he’s basically indicated that he’s passive aggressively doing poorly because of this rule/strategy. I don’t believe this to be completely true as I think he’d be doing equally as poorly regardless. Tonight he asked for no restrictions on PlayStation so we asked that he propose something else that may help raise his grades. He’s thinking on it. Do you have any helpful strategies that may eliminate this power struggle? 

Tl;dr: How do I not engage in a power struggle with my 13 year old who needs to improve academically and says restricted video game time is having adverse effect?",7.483259548611112,9.336119417968753,7.241822916666668,68.47366319444447,63.8046875,9.595138888888886,36.09722222222222,9.861636050157227,3.994439930555557,1185,56,175,25,18,375,161,256,0.092,0.792,0.116,0.853,4,0,1,0,0,0,28,4,1,1,9,4,11,1,2,6,0,25,0,0,5,1,33,36,16,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,16,14,0,2,5,5,3,1,5,5,0,0,5,2,17,6,28,25,5,31,0,0,0,0,28,14,0,3,16,113,33,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967406335827746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659849202015141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671943909071249,0.0,0.0,0.16027657348259125,0.0,0.2516321013045573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491552926338802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883869223388095,0.0,0.0,0.14699102111107668,0.0,0.09396037361805186,0.0,0.23971778248908066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193015364733257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864835158825854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907056991087068,0.0,0.14269683816113082,0.0,0.28019186196526963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258035329063412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548284830075692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650083267497987,0.0,0.14927632722877746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300904809376186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131296401898161,0.0,0.1439731601054029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095175154943013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974388678161529,0.0,0.0,0.16143321879471448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230695881842696,0.0,0.0,0.4147602710480739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547363579852996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356585588105983,0.0,0.0,0.10105633103467347,0.0,0.0,0.18321957302238132
parenting,Gentle_Spider,2018/03/30,"Cats and babies So, I have a cat that likes to cuddle and I am unsure if I should be worried about her being near my baby. She is a very good cat and I am not worried about her hurting the baby but should I be worried about her trying to get in the cradle or anything? ",1.2610344827586208,2.7349306206896564,3.3788275862069,91.49893103448278,79.0,4.64,20.220689655172414,3.1291,-0.3544455172413792,208,5,45,0,5,71,38,58,0.163,0.767,0.07,-0.5193,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,0,0,9,10,7,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,2,7,5,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,2,0,2,1,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22428365442511145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239500037788716,0.0,0.0,0.2286002020235967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29176810578459056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315311048288808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850420967161122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22488051621744884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8303567012700941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,musicalpigs,2018/03/30,"Today my toddler showed a level of empathy and compassion that most adults never reach I just want to share something that happened today... my daughter is almost 1.5 years old. Today at the park there was a group of what appeared to be foster children playing. Their (assumed) foster mom called to them that it was time to go, and began loading them into her van. 1 of them, a boy about 7 years old, sat on a park bench and began very loudly screaming and sobbing. My daughter was concerned for him (she always does this for children who are upset) and walked over to his bench.
I squatted down next to her and quietly said “this boy is sad and angry. It’s okay to be sad and angry. Sometimes people are happy, and other times they are sad or angry. I think he is sad because he doesn’t want to leave the park”. The boy then said “No! I just want to go home to my daddy, I miss him” (cue my heart breaking for him).
So we all sat there for another moment, the boy visibly calming down at this point. My daughter motioned that she wanted help sitting on the bench. I asked the boy “can she sit next to you?” He sniffled and said, “sure, she can sit right here” (motions to his right). I picked up my girl and sat her next to him as she had requested. 
We sat there in silence together for a minute while the foster mom finished putting children in their seats. Then, without any trouble or being asked, the boy got up and went to the van to leave. 

It’s amazing to me how this small gesture of understanding and compassion brought peace to this boy in that moment. I’m so proud of my toddler for learning empathy at such a young age. ❤️❤️❤️",4.049073086156312,5.072026929447857,4.633531608428914,87.08774206455055,71.11656441717791,6.8965590824219785,27.97759402507335,6.8959733430537185,1.300890530808215,1273,45,257,10,23,406,163,326,0.113,0.7809999999999999,0.106,0.4869,1,0,1,0,0,0,42,2,1,6,1,11,17,0,1,15,1,16,1,1,2,3,37,42,22,0,4,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,12,16,16,0,0,4,2,0,9,4,9,0,0,16,6,39,8,45,23,2,55,0,6,0,0,54,19,1,6,23,163,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387160283237165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946220306984125,0.0,0.0,0.07733176764887821,0.11924266478775528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21262093585038686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693211039254358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611823399345217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951490954038827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925649843836587,0.0,0.09095023553493567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055996822290277,0.12105434339748893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347557294573562,0.07622241175510201,0.0,0.11406787741848125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408207266679073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26636901336527685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770591029301918,0.0,0.3628194044199413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386546753977263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883736362019204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749974991317944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431744934160948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422816721975306,0.3245140168121446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754525113215432,0.11246946886837636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717735376047953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286555224003864,0.0,0.0,0.1326191227938637,0.0,0.3233725467316489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838387914346063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382880826657176,0.26829400063526343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541721831454384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961956677623276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464606228526532
parenting,Jnadine14,2018/03/30,"Sports are ruining my life My kids all play sports. Which was my husbands idea since he has played all his life. They are good for my kids and my kids love them, which is fine no problems with that. 
My problem is how my husband acts and talks about my kids playing sports. It’s to the point where I can’t stand listening to him. He’s that dad who thinks his kids are going to actually be professionals at some point. My kids are good better then most other kids but I attribute that to them practicing a lot.
It’s so hard listening every day for hours about how great they are and how much better they are than everyone else...my kids are still in elementary school so I’m terrified of how this is going to play out through middle school and high school. 
It’s embarrassing and I don’t know how to tell him that it’s not only annoying but gives my kids unrealistic expectations and makes him look arrogant. 
Any ideas on how to tone this down without a fight? 
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parenting,belzner,2018/03/30,"6 yo son is holding poop, sometimes going a little in his underwear. Need advice, wife and I are out of ideas. My 6 yo son has been potty trained since he was 3.5, and had no issues making it to the toilet consistently for two years. About three or four months ago, he started pooping less frequently, about once every two sometimes three days, and we’d find streaks or sometimes more in his underwear. When he does go it’s HUGE and has clogged the toilet on a few occasions. He says he just doesn’t want to stop what he’s doing (playing with his toys, eating, playing with friends, watching TV, etc) so he holds it in. His diet has fruits, vegetables and fiber, so it’s not dietary. He’s done this in movie theaters, at school, on the couch, wherever, and he’ll sit with major streaks in his underwear (not a pleasant smell for him or us when we discover it), and still not go, and we only find out when we notice the smell or help him change his clothes for a shower. 

We’ve tried taking privileges away, talking through why he does it, rewarding him for going consistently, taking a disciplinary tone, an understanding tone, a disappointed tone, I’ve tried empathizing with him, every approach I can think of. Other than this one issue he’s a fantastic kid with literally no other behavioral problems. He’s not angry and he’s objectively one of the kindest people I’ve ever known. He has a healthy social life and doesn’t stress too much about school or home life. There haven’t been any life changes that triggered it and my wife and I don’t create a stressful environment at home (no yelling, putting crazy pressure on him, etc).

We’re at our wits end with it, and we feel terrible that there may be something wrong we’re not addressing. For his sake, I do not want this to happen at school out of fear this becomes an opening for bullying and emotional harm, plus I know he’s embarrassed by it whenever we find out (he’s tries to hide it from us when it happens). Please help, any advise would be amazing. ",6.322035726322881,6.5831127932816615,6.278633861363892,80.01698685540953,65.77002583979328,9.521132457027301,32.84675879114706,9.318704503766252,2.7806214807325023,1589,62,306,27,23,502,202,387,0.109,0.7829999999999999,0.108,-0.2651,1,0,1,0,1,0,56,9,0,0,1,15,17,0,5,16,0,23,9,2,2,1,64,41,26,0,5,12,4,1,0,1,3,3,2,5,1,20,31,4,3,9,4,0,6,13,10,0,7,5,7,28,7,45,30,7,41,0,1,1,0,49,20,0,6,14,184,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819229239630831,0.08000212024216408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274763279966575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847938428020131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967520633718352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094731159477304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058204468136005924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579586235480644,0.09235817002110452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234936672407087,0.0,0.10152029629509668,0.07993565221487707,0.0,0.2013075798704981,0.0,0.08163725175044349,0.152080822973642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015575350443756,0.04563364824136543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474635044733711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972774594100747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20516703147562493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961743057285446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209867677110561,0.0,0.18105834584274028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188246260337427,0.0,0.18839731968719087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049599622920358334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19124098052220934,0.0,0.09045527304299994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060243284106097285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203753593767341,0.0,0.06634491434065745,0.06692001825068472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275143126089968,0.0,0.09611443461285248,0.1223129094564342,0.0686399988475076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256872210967393,0.0,0.0,0.0990685632206838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635807681624796,0.0,0.0907272439322149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177126621202136,0.0,0.27401667637163657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465661038412565,0.0,0.0,0.0919995912239291,0.0,0.06947967611522772,0.2677818214729991,0.0,0.06388016557777113,0.0,0.07207461398951613,0.07545392826822155,0.2067645711644048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571513215261827,0.07254038427583802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05782923578519075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838236387881524,0.0,0.17632434543705794,0.09395453749667593,0.21712182840566635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646482834150094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143754500288379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411176438756687,0.09867536748173207,0.0,0.05811872436161946
parenting,KingLazarus2009,2018/03/30,"I worry she's never going to forgive me My daughter is 12 and I haven't seen her since she was six I was a mess when I was with her mom. I got out of the army but I was a real mess and started drinking. It got so bad her mom kicked me out. I was homeless when I met my second wife who helped me get my life together but I was too ashamed to ever really go back and my ex telling to never come back also has been replaying in my mind over the last few years.

Long story short I had a few more kids with my second wife and a few months ago my ex was arrested the main details are that she lost her job and her home and she became a prostitute which really shocked me and I'm not judging her. I'm the last person that should judge my ex. I lied to my wife in the beginning about my daughter I told her she was niece and I did it because I was a coward. I was afraid to tell her how I ended up on the street where she found me. She knew my alcoholism was why I ended up homeless she just didn't know everything.

I eventually came clean and my wife was not happy. My daughter has been living with me for months and her views of me have not changed. She does not trust me and when she's not angry with me well it's like she's afraid of me no matter what.

I don't even know how to discipline her because if I get mad she gets scared and I feel like I'm at a loss. I want to be a dad to her but part of me feels I don't deserve to be and part of me feels like I don't have the right to be. I feel like there is nothing I can do to get her to see I've changed and I won't blame her if she never forgives me.",-0.0899761904761931,1.5428091611111157,2.122539682539685,98.16500000000002,83.7777777777778,5.336507936507937,18.34126984126984,6.3317336037704965,-0.3713396825396829,1238,29,314,11,35,418,157,360,0.16399999999999998,0.7609999999999999,0.075,-0.9883,1,0,2,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,2,17,20,1,4,15,0,35,3,0,2,4,55,64,26,0,4,11,13,4,4,0,2,2,0,2,2,8,22,2,1,10,1,0,4,15,11,1,3,26,7,79,9,32,33,7,37,0,2,3,0,49,13,0,2,24,223,87,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458058504780233,0.11402680384333458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532567168430452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408704345966396,0.08908766285756296,0.13008318367732946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203311426521628,0.0,0.0,0.22574287267977186,0.0919101464436006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337139430367032,0.0,0.0,0.1045225862087222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900400963813807,0.0,0.0,0.0704724607764245,0.09651367999847407,0.0,0.0,0.09589251784893643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215797138149308,0.22867339417012536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698791691740028,0.0,0.0,0.2229794268244824,0.0,0.12127689747938968,0.0,0.17067091440599896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358109937236592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151685004420273,0.0,0.10702594022357174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588045696273764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727592568191615,0.173944834589653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536335190515384,0.2085073505149697,0.0,0.094215537545516,0.0944236194980896,0.0,0.0,0.1164725423499798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773370477612194,0.24992482324585605,0.17032929311781786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468742574520923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237879231664394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310852300925175,0.0,0.0,0.09316383519985023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144471479346572,0.13670585185667142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111878245236467,0.0,0.0,0.10682245983951004,0.0,0.08502381380354491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826098441444799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552079138662393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18651602257468933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195369848760624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293274303901512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593355096317063,0.0,0.09627758149302178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835613423792784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870946589559082
parenting,AlexaSkyes,2018/03/30,"19 month old not walking yet Hi guys and gals!

So, my 19 month old isn’t walking or even standing independently yet. The most she can stand alone is about ten seconds. She’s perfectly content on crawling everywhere, and even then, she was a late crawler. Mostly I’m wondering if anyone had a late walker and if there was anything you did to help them start. ",4.856086956521743,6.256316057971016,5.0122898550724635,83.70626086956524,69.57971014492753,7.838840579710146,31.19130434782609,8.238735603445708,2.2032295652173914,284,12,55,4,5,89,54,69,0.028,0.8690000000000001,0.102,0.7345,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,1,7,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,1,12,10,8,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,4,0,6,1,3,6,2,15,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,6,10,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23677677848596726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598533186198799,0.0,0.18813113068082973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30199684910650004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22636535223117346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323619420564152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5157766302108127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649575257156804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4797871563658892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618152735800272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24792382814801425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,micra_phone,2018/03/30,"Leaving Kids (1.5 and 4) with the grandparents for a few days. My husband and I are traveling out of state for an anniversary trip. We will be gone for 3 day, 4 nights. My in laws will be staying at our house to take care of our kids (1.5 and 4). I know that they are in great hands! But, I’m starting to stress. 

Any advice of things or documents to leave with the grandparents? In case of emergency stuff? I want to make sure I don’t forget anything important.",1.7663440860215085,3.8437275698924713,2.9045161290322596,92.64344086021505,79.75268817204302,7.1440860215053785,23.23655913978495,8.167268648758528,1.2049913978494629,356,12,79,7,9,114,65,93,0.08800000000000001,0.774,0.138,0.7052,2,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,4,0,7,1,1,1,1,15,15,5,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,10,3,18,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,4,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187239329571547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221196930950498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18419288999718728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22820944334081605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28870346467872304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24677319309679316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582695878991677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123011028555447,0.0,0.0,0.4740069724398693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940815887548484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21004914585773987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842791556361924,0.2385728320970317,0.0,0.0,0.25639632995394945,0.0,0.25623162045312325,0.0,0.0,0.2109569789654319,0.0,0.16829218665067394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487026025197129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202064116793608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SephirothValentine,2018/03/30,"Different behaviour w/ SO My 22mo will be calm, kind, sweet and intelligable when around me.
But act like a baby in pain around my SO for no apparent reason.
Recently we have had to eat in different rooms just so our son won't put on a show.
As long as it's just me he is completely co operative.
Why?",0.2974193548387092,2.668014467741937,3.4195967741935505,84.34939516129033,89.80645161290323,8.261290322580646,20.65322580645161,8.841846274778883,1.901283870967741,235,8,51,8,8,84,52,62,0.093,0.746,0.161,0.5755,3,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,1,0,8,6,8,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,6,4,9,2,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,4,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43466457664393393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25597134866112065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5101391159330488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498114886600295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25422947698272136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927223709380624,0.0,0.0,0.21605216898524496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25977730545298805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24542353318401985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25101187800894514,0.24105427986538636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202942485872604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weevilsandwheat,2018/03/30,"OMG stop whining! OMG my 6 year old will NOT stop whining. That’s her communication mode with me. She does not do this with my husband or mother in law. Only me. 

I am attentive, I speak in a calm manner (until I have just had enough, but still I don’t yell or scream.)

How can I fix this? She has been like for 3 fucking years and I’m losing my mind. ",-0.4957333333333338,1.5809919600000022,1.8200000000000005,96.85666666666668,89.4,4.4,16.333333333333336,5.82211442006289,-0.7184666666666666,267,6,64,2,9,90,57,75,0.13699999999999998,0.795,0.068,-0.4389,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,3,7,1,0,1,0,9,1,0,1,0,15,11,6,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,3,13,2,6,8,1,9,0,3,0,1,6,2,1,2,8,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25293934558468745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986538068169879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26721123126273344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120950314110375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32335990086442096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29184626605083297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30329705214336555,0.0,0.0,0.2198266356016879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308263428267961,0.4832978867317251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722623501279553
parenting,Unemotionalhusband,2018/03/30,"My husband doesn't ""deal with"" crying and I am worried about how this is going to affect my kids. My husband has never been an emotional man. I have never seen him shed a tear. We have a 6 year old and a 4 year old. Anytime they cry about anything my husband tells them to go to me instead. My son was helping him on the car yesterday and hurt his hand. He started to cry and my husband told him to go in the house and come back out after he cleaned his face up. He didn't comfort him or even inspect the cut. My daughter was crying because she wasn't invited to a birthday party and my husband told her to stop crying and that she needed to talk about it with me when I got home if she couldn't talk to him without crying. 

I get being annoyed by whining but when my kids are genuinely hurt or upset they should be allowed to cry, right? They are still so little and don't have that kind of emotional control yet. 

My husband has always been like this and I got used to it. I don't expect him to comfort me. He didn't when I lost my mom of when our son was diagnosed with Type 1. I'm not worried about me but I am worried about my kids. I have always heard how kids change men but my husband hasn't changed at all. Should I let this go and be the emotional support they need?

I also want to note that my husband is a very great dad and husband in every other aspect. He coaches the sports teams, volunteers for scouts, goes to all of the school plays and assemblies, taught our daughter how to ride a bike, takes our son to work on the car everyday. He is available and loving. I don't want people to think that he is abusive. Those are the comments I got when I posted this in a different sub last week. ",3.1310394421442567,4.2068227762039685,4.179220963172806,89.28161854434519,73.36260623229461,6.677228154281979,26.891370668991065,6.8449194561589275,1.0940983656570058,1332,47,284,11,26,433,170,353,0.126,0.769,0.104,-0.7386,2,0,0,0,0,0,29,4,0,5,4,20,15,2,1,16,0,35,4,2,7,4,48,61,29,0,9,8,16,1,1,0,2,1,1,2,6,12,19,0,2,1,5,0,8,13,7,0,0,17,3,53,8,40,37,2,40,0,4,1,1,62,10,0,3,22,195,65,5,0.0,0.0954554942639947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644272232010951,0.13407186464916496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629753544073552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061948956068564986,0.0,0.04911123548195873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704526452250758,0.06939899097748849,0.0,0.0,0.09035968716277208,0.0,0.0,0.6194725268584867,0.0,0.08305823201020933,0.0,0.08177104527920755,0.0,0.08417252222131606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718719038724561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321194513149445,0.0,0.06787887807207378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04209150955888626,0.0,0.18314614086954206,0.0,0.193303835984797,0.0888223997973426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0540005366437058,0.0,0.08081253862967845,0.0,0.0,0.09296035887851427,0.17249144957363785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389529691916478,0.0,0.06567063851691078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238243161809865,0.0,0.039359636278046436,0.08074657053803679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794542527066325,0.0,0.0727124054220236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435590750653844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947478112231046,0.12427227408822407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907731265986867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585312567573507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715830733244658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688014523529429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153534943442049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05702380991492829,0.0,0.06433873567259782,0.06735534299239407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142338679733092,0.0,0.0,0.06057430994780697,0.12950902824649724,0.0704167291027048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05162233565167515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396523833861453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958166830608331,0.0,0.06647396588963354,0.09503779583319996,0.0,0.06462380343836438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776610880745437,0.0,0.05865175316395766,0.24545080189643406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376150595477952
parenting,mseetee,2018/03/30,Any advice on how to help my kids get through a recent loss of a pet. We recently lost a pet and looking for any advice from fellow parents on helping my kids get through a death. Should we do a ceremony or something? What type of closure do they need? Do I educate them on life and death?,2.511694915254239,4.214618474576273,4.0120000000000005,87.31562711864406,76.11864406779661,6.753898305084746,28.749152542372883,7.554174236665415,1.675248135593221,226,10,47,3,5,75,40,59,0.2,0.725,0.076,-0.8418,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,1,0,8,9,4,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,0,10,7,0,5,0,2,1,0,10,3,0,1,2,31,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708436720099345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.327664383063145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517389467727903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32296390322694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016718631001107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023100605693016,0.0,0.2629899588199481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863730643565387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675104222644942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4757540209538444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547009576045534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EatATaco,2018/03/30,"Wetting the bed and traveling Hey y'all

My 5 year old son has long since potty trained, but is not yet sleeping through the night without wetting the bed.

But he is old enough to realize that bit boys don't sleep with pull ups and so we haven't been putting a pull up on him and he wets the bed most nights.

This really hasn't been an issue, just run a load of laundry every day, but we are traveling for a week and staying in a hotel. I'm not sure what to do in this case.

Do we just let him go without it and tell the hotel staff to change the bed every day? Do we try to convince him to wear a pull up during this trip?

Any advice would be appreciated.",2.7615000000000016,3.547275007142858,4.030000000000001,91.105,73.92857142857143,7.028571428571429,24.714285714285715,7.1686216300943375,0.7670142857142852,511,15,119,5,10,168,89,140,0.018000000000000002,0.928,0.054000000000000006,0.7066,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,4,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,12,0,15,3,3,0,1,23,17,9,0,1,9,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,6,10,0,0,1,4,0,9,7,0,0,0,2,3,9,2,17,12,3,26,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,10,75,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492233283668462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477094767268473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842556338953299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853870911751868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176883354697874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438689584205658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843958743222985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591718429340304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761544269842043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725811057450669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935816963140208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167627307798766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541962649331906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169662771139966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081198534844725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961018601150288,0.0,0.33778835955968783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988881001241194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590658901784363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751442428686234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458530942529092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537895441768685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253809383874826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989099566161188,0.0,0.0,0.10868382420697527
parenting,SeatbeltStriker,2018/03/30,"Shingles at 4 years old. Note: I'm not posting this to debate vaccinations, just looking for advice on how to help my child.

My son (4) came to me the other day and said he had an ouch. I asked him to show me. I was expecting to see he scratched his self, but instead his ouch was very alarming as it was all blistery. The next morning I tried to reach the pediatrician, but due to phone problems on there end, I couldn't. So, I took him to the Urgent Care.

In urgent care, the doctors kept saying ""this shouldn't be happening"" and were in complete disbelief that a 4 year old could have shingles. They asked a bunch of questions, about vaccinations, laundry detergent, family history, etc. Yes hes vaccinated, no changes in anything laundry wise, and answered the family history questions. 

They gave him an antiviral medication and told us to get to the pediatrician as soon as we could for a second opinion, because they would be more versed in children with shingles. 

Later that afternoon, I was able to contract the pediatrician and they got him in right away. Unfortunately, with no new answers. They were also in disbelief. I'm in disbelief. I never realized children of that age could get shingles, let alone a child who has been vaccinated for chicken pox. 

Anyway, if you've had shingles, or your child has, what is the best way to help soothe the pain. His are in his waste/groin/thigh/butt area and I just feel terrible that he hurts basically every time he moves. 

TLDR: 4 year old, complete vaccinated, has shingles. Looking for advice on soothing his pain and improving his comfort level.",5.4716640986132505,7.206285338983051,5.9995454545454585,75.93189137134055,68.49152542372882,8.889060092449922,33.07010785824345,9.339509955726095,3.16164406779661,1265,58,222,26,22,409,167,295,0.104,0.755,0.141,0.9014,0,1,0,0,0,0,50,2,1,5,1,10,11,0,1,16,1,25,4,0,1,2,37,45,17,0,9,7,1,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,6,10,11,0,1,6,1,0,3,6,6,0,1,16,7,31,5,37,20,5,38,0,1,3,0,42,16,0,5,17,148,41,1,0.10712334573098456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20935938729861125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109474794665789,0.0,0.08566650087846954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815338603600717,0.0,0.20029173533951256,0.0,0.10064590959916657,0.0,0.0,0.0653013972746606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124193423594412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252056953132127,0.21843878073895764,0.0,0.11332229573463296,0.0,0.2246335797839913,0.0,0.0,0.2565878245806471,0.0,0.0,0.06908569590320472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096452835604825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487948842410447,0.0,0.11947084726765173,0.0,0.0,0.09025603897037106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20197271324309865,0.0,0.05416478229798533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193505358278884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567632548493709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947288208496275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436050411605266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146777571827538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954087883865754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991326141998246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791550087641044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138551634505012,0.0,0.0,0.08262012817252147,0.1034603948348034,0.1139268934727628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33722379377495143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22797358523042985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259455358249717,0.0,0.0,0.10250257454070268,0.0,0.0,0.24000532709616765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148275194224388,0.10189883278950546,0.08518878414154529,0.0,0.0,0.0853634372412685,0.0,0.11175301233101784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246448435886363,0.0,0.0,0.10236094751608432,0.11901797868618373,0.07272971999024673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885619516470154,0.0,0.0,0.08838797909239787,0.0,0.0850295256599413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609735128835236,0.0,0.0,0.20695176742171045
parenting,GetReady72,2018/03/30,"I think the Spirit Riding Free theme musicians owe some money to Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros Every time my kids put on Netflix's [Spirit: Riding Free](https://youtu.be/_Wcpp0IbkLY) I started singing Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zero's [Home](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjFaenf1T-Y). I can't be the only one.

That said, it's in my Top 5 least annoying kid shows. High praise!",5.965115384615384,9.685561876923078,4.824903846153845,74.94197115384618,76.38461538461539,7.5576923076923075,25.04807692307693,8.472884824447931,2.4984230769230766,322,11,45,7,8,95,52,65,0.0,0.7879999999999999,0.212,0.899,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,3,3,3,1,1,0,3,1,3,5,3,3,4,2,9,3,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,2,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37812255556928376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940329341992435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36871933029731496,0.350058052346476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364796754430693,0.2654170311540631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508239529953512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319624164584939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24701171593766194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22361399087597697,0.0,0.0,0.20349458971170611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,californiaastrodad,2018/03/30,"Napping and Pushing Boundaries for 2 yr old Hi everyone.  My son is 2 yrs, 4 months old and while he sleeps happily in his crib at night, my wife and I have decided to co-sleep with him for this nap each day.   Normally this has gone well and he will fall asleep quickly and nap with me soundly.   However, for the last two weeks when I nap with him he has been wanting to crawl around the bed, pretend to nap with his feet hanging off the edge of the bed (I'm awake with him then so he's safe and won't fall), put the covers over his head, try to grab things off the nightstand, etc.   He does none of these things when he's napping with my wife.

I feel like he's trying to push his boundaries and see what he can get away with.   I try to be as boring as possible (not interacting, etc.) but I do have to often move him back to the center of the bed when he's getting near the edge and I know this might seem like a game to him.

Any advice on how I can get him to stop exploring and playing and focus on napping instead?    

Thanks!",3.576990033222593,3.9049644697674415,4.339750830564785,91.3014534883721,71.74418604651162,7.631229235880399,26.054817275747514,7.447530270364453,0.9864817275747506,791,23,185,8,14,254,123,215,0.027000000000000003,0.8909999999999999,0.08199999999999999,0.8917,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,0,10,0,13,4,4,1,0,33,24,20,0,2,2,3,2,2,0,3,0,1,3,0,7,19,0,2,5,10,0,9,3,1,1,1,2,4,21,6,35,18,4,35,0,0,1,0,25,11,0,3,17,115,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147226655793698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245636547510872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341224823938917,0.0,0.0,0.14155334404437697,0.11585095308512824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716551144183336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318466686082574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360593195273017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396545749508222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618000666148274,0.107634054467896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361464248303861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546242461004225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280073476691358,0.12281088406836943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721317889033786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598301939897388,0.0,0.0,0.12025819059178862,0.16013148658821436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138751474908567,0.14761826849019669,0.0,0.0,0.3161920564898349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985049014692072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145845913036068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120059325299435,0.1371584173147416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015446706860432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259614556282114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871073424838065,0.0,0.0,0.2001883066091851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30687193698279763,0.0,0.14717637453540952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886525233936107,0.0,0.12085319423355904,0.0,0.13546460558485346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amazing_Asparagus,2018/03/30,"My 4 y/o called 911 this morning I woke up to someone saying his name, I unintentionally hung up on them when I grabbed my phone off my chest (why it was there, I don't know) I immediately received a call back, the lady just confirming that everything was okay. I thought I was adamant enough that 911 was just for emergencies, but apparently my child takes after me too much. I did the exact same thing when I was his age, the only difference is I didn't converse with the operator, I got nervous and just sat silently on the end of the line. My son conversed, at least enough for her to know his name and for him to know where she was. Not sure how to get it in his head that 911 is for emergencies.  ",3.84661971830986,4.8068407042253565,4.822647887323948,85.77833802816902,71.53521126760563,8.215211267605634,27.580281690140843,8.548686976883017,1.6746625352112678,548,19,121,9,10,179,90,142,0.039,0.949,0.011,-0.5637,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,1,7,1,11,2,2,1,2,18,20,6,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,12,2,25,2,18,8,5,15,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,0,6,87,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631647700518422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333494087625048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216984934778216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879416870538215,0.4385080829653513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070708198066927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086307040766387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971163546156506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21777317223170575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498502814674209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598765736102665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138377338931653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687458909776154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797920391098735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999911697221154,0.0,0.15954414700295838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097285410744026,0.0,0.0,0.16845903783527405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914728806643168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LPLY,2018/03/30,"Wish me luck for tonight My wife just informed me that our 2.5 year-old boy has been napping for almost three hours now. He usually naps between one and two hours max after lunch. 

Bedtime is going to be fun tonight.. 

update: fell asleep at 11pm, was expecting worse.",3.064117647058822,5.509633450980395,2.9644705882352973,91.97611764705884,77.23529411764707,5.648627450980393,25.88627450980392,6.742157984588678,0.9949498039215684,210,8,41,2,5,63,47,51,0.054000000000000006,0.7879999999999999,0.158,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,7,7,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,4,2,6,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,8,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926471582119025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609297668397965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5756167256908484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306668259741374,0.0,0.1980368392756204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854867586167188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32187318459960484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33607422385131075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978287339346873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882000604262571
parenting,DudeWoody,2018/03/30,"4 yo girl and the potty use cycle Hey all, so my 4 year old daughter has been going through this cycle for the past couple of weeks and I'm really at my wits end at how to deal with it. 

She holds her pee/poop for LOOOONG periods of time, to the point where she'll leak a little pee/poop but won't say anything and unless someone catches it, will just endure it all day.  She's always been one to hold her poop, she's on daily miralax, otherwise, she would end up in the hospital with an impacted bowel (she's already been there once for this). 

She goes to daycare, and the daycare lady has the kids go potty at regular intervals through the day, but I'm somewhat suspicious that my daughter may just be going into the bathroom and faking it, or won't fully eliminate, because by wednesday or thursday, her vulva and anus are very angry red. So I put A&D ointment on her. And then she's home on the weekend, and I make her go potty before she can watch tv in the morning or afternoon, or go outside to play, or before we go to the park, or have a snack.  No I don't force her to go potty, but if she wants to do 'fun' things, I do make her go, and I don't stand over her, but I help her onto the toilet and wait outside the door.  Sometimes I'll walk away a little bit, because sometimes she'll say she's done before she's even started, so I'll pretend that I'm busy and say I'll be right there, just to get her to chill for another 30 seconds or so to make sure she's *actually* done. Anyway, by sunday, her redness is all cleared up, and then on monday morning, it's like it starts all over again.  

Oh, her pooping is pretty inconsistent. I don't know whether to up the miralax dose to try and get her to poop daily, otherwise she'll hold it for a couple days, and then start having really messy panties, at which point we switch to pull-ups (which may contribute to the redness), and then have a poop as big as her arm on the third or fourth day of not pooping. 

ARRRRRRGH!!! I know I can't force her to do anything, and she gripes about her bum and her vulva hurting, but everything I'm telling her about good pee and poop ""procedures"" seems to just bounce off of her. 
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parenting,earthgoddess425,2018/03/30,"Is my daughter on the autistic spectrum? It might be OCD or something else. Perhaps it's even completely normal?

She is 5 and a half and is very healthy, strong, and at the top of her class with speech, memorization, vocabulary, reading, writing and math. One of the brightest children according to her teacher.

The issue is that for years now she repeats her replies to things. Example..
Me : do you want to go to the park today? 
Her : yes
Me : okay put your shoes on
Her : ok.. Ok... Ok.. Ok
Or in other contexts it's ""oh ok.. Oh ok.. Ok.. Ok.. Oh ok..
And it will go on until I make a big moment of recognizing her. I've asked her why she repeats and she says because the first time wasn't good and she wants to make it really good.

Now she recently started doing weird head turns. Looking at the TV, looking at me, TV, me, TV, me and so on. This only started in the past month.

Her home life was hard, as we adopted her from my sister who abandoned her at age 3. Perhaps that plays a part?

She has some behavior problems when switching activities such as sitting on the floor with her head down and refusing to move in a sad defeated way. She also has an issue with testing her teachers in this way.

She is such a sweet, loving angelic child and I am definitely going to start some sort of therapy for her but I would never want her to take any meds. I would hate for her to have ocd because I had it and it was hard to overcome.

Thanks for your help. ",0.9266089965397946,3.3221957958477546,2.6689446366782015,91.06701557093427,85.85121107266437,5.4761245674740495,23.72491349480969,6.923569853693429,0.9001446366782009,1111,44,232,15,34,366,159,289,0.07400000000000001,0.821,0.105,0.8146,0,0,1,0,0,0,56,1,3,0,4,8,23,1,0,15,11,20,5,3,2,1,36,39,20,0,7,3,2,2,0,0,4,1,2,1,2,14,15,0,2,1,5,0,5,2,6,0,3,4,7,40,17,39,30,3,44,1,3,2,1,39,17,0,6,19,157,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982289103205824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353014581651805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483157772797255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975480569239652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878728287791413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261058795368376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112954627876115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448105375314534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20942520436061432,0.20605173630121684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006714837312905,0.12127142223535856,0.2521226624357525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233187164812869,0.0,0.12321076736546915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25640992377581845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676005461919606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20629631700001666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086090625231823,0.0,0.16398296866746365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643894527636646,0.0,0.0,0.1303056120323605,0.0,0.0,0.09804353442737683,0.13055124845101926,0.0,0.0,0.09473580778613712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034953060250507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323431522963218,0.09341946531768153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301536275714154,0.11725728660468587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753387962549612,0.0,0.1234803432430731,0.0,0.0,0.12286549562190265,0.0,0.07868948815317643,0.0,0.1212820336820406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768113967477836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456227130117363,0.0,0.0,0.260823907905574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923545694499706,0.0,0.0,0.11308743780198227,0.1404693890661489,0.0,0.0816042925409526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162447595487521,0.0,0.11643061578607387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360622178032164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134947479647513,0.21734894024906246,0.19499705404102072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083700522571148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451302011136754,0.0,0.0,0.07909994530842493
parenting,twinkle_little_star,2018/03/30,"No rest for the wicked I lay in bed.
Silent.
Unmoving.
Terrified.
Afraid to breathe.
My four year old is in the room next to me. I'm worried any sound, any movement I make will rouse him.
I'm exhausted.
He doesn't sleep. Never has. From day one, he has been restless. I have tried everything. Letting him cry it out, sticking to a strick routine, skipping nap, putting him to bed late, putting him to bed early... Nothing works. Even on New Year's Eve when he was up past midnight. No matter what I try, he finds every excuse imaginable to not sleep. It takes him two hours every night to finally fall asleep. And then he is up promptly at sunrise. Whether it's at 7:00, 6:41, or 5:51. If the sun's up, he's up.
I'm so tired. I haven't had a solid night of sleep in 4 years.
But he's up again, so I must get up too.",-0.6020069033530575,1.6032951183431976,1.050924556213019,100.06995685404344,94.85798816568048,4.236785009861933,19.467702169625248,5.985473137389443,-0.2046155818540432,621,21,145,6,24,199,111,169,0.161,0.825,0.014,-0.9735,0,0,0,0,0,0,39,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,2,5,0,13,7,5,1,2,13,19,9,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,4,0,4,2,0,0,2,1,0,4,6,3,0,3,3,1,13,0,23,13,1,37,0,0,0,0,13,14,0,2,19,78,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20008690728066947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159925686851842,0.09487720254660102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716827287515163,0.0,0.2479019825592748,0.0,0.13221775198955313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611576280103886,0.13446072548903162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686167600973863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487894339112906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659524743229241,0.0,0.0,0.15043536889704964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820060987157822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134643942218267,0.14208488034984987,0.1564587981087261,0.27611549973551874,0.0,0.14116110490326572,0.0,0.15437276736391733,0.0,0.09968913947848088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043820708987162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957830343518477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4416646561056993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061240222825168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908740399832556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19976327326398466,0.0,0.14371027836589534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710169571809862,0.14940273552714906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842123032611135
parenting,cirejabroni,2018/03/30,"Feel guilty that my toddler will miss us while on vacation Hi,

My wife and I are taking a 7 night vacation outside the country without our 3 year old. We’ve done this one other time when he was 2 years old. But last time I feel he wasn’t able to notice as much as this time around. He is older now and he notices us leaving for work now and doesn’t like it. My parents do a great job of taking care of him and he is in good hands. Yet this time the guilt of us leaving him is setting in and it sucks. I almost wish we could stay but at this point we can’t anymore. I guess I’m just here for advice on how to deal with these feelings. 😭",2.2252517985611533,2.9250502661870534,3.4986258992805763,94.73657194244608,75.11510791366906,6.135539568345324,23.25251798561151,5.6839178017228535,0.1410224460431655,493,13,119,2,10,161,92,139,0.049,0.8740000000000001,0.076,0.5504,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,1,8,7,1,1,4,0,12,1,1,1,0,21,23,12,0,2,4,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,3,4,15,4,17,18,1,25,0,1,0,0,17,7,1,2,17,74,24,2,0.12886021313513782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592070890359486,0.0,0.0,0.1290348896356183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277947056578753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471290964194868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138157537428424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288439473743352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284922150935596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186873734765325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954667867319396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808183304635112,0.0,0.1420688398980045,0.14195405259724034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787387807955267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503827244867857,0.0,0.2728887195283156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295459115704691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947270835004802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209265807970924,0.0,0.0,0.2934164134681929,0.2704342341286121,0.0,0.0873190153488975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308401710848254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181455271445725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734784180513634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19377368685245897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005577061819303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4650089107860172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818288565997156,0.1242166470748437,0.0,0.09381176988011168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596350482197222
parenting,questionforparenting,2018/03/30,"Expecting a girl - afraid my sister will influence my parenting I am expecting my first girl and i have a boy who is 3.

My sister has a girl who is 1 she doesn't know the sex of my second baby and i am a bit concerned.
Let me explain,

 

She has said in the past that if i ever have a girl we can have all her old clothes etc, which is fine but now that i know i am having a girl i sort of feel i want to experience this like i did with my boy.

To learn how a girl is to parent, to see a lot of things for myself and i feel my sister will feel that since she had a girl a year ago she will try and enforce a certain style of how she parents which could influence myself with my first girl.

She talks that i hope she has a girl for them to play together etc.

She is a girly girl parent and i am more of a tom boy parent.


 

She is a nice person, she isnt rude or mean etc, but i feel that she will tell me a certain way to connect with the baby, or how to dress her, or how to look after her.

 

Am i being silly?

Any advice?

Is this normal?",2.6902718168812565,2.709883806866958,4.648257510729613,89.40343061516451,73.59227467811158,7.9300715307582275,23.258655221745357,7.793537801064563,0.7898557367668095,809,18,197,10,15,280,105,233,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.9753,5,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,0,1,2,6,10,1,1,19,0,31,1,0,6,4,42,44,15,0,7,6,8,4,1,0,4,0,1,0,14,12,9,0,0,9,1,0,0,2,2,0,3,3,7,42,8,20,34,7,11,0,0,2,1,44,1,0,7,10,150,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848726380573344,0.0984123542761314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608697212169845,0.0,0.07549727112901347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120486788099168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864027665154385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37144927175776654,0.0,0.10042376523366313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085986675701582,0.0,0.0,0.22453978689803455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888667705758126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026771164992284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202715748096515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352526746872225,0.0,0.05423866652359407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932286710697161,0.0,0.0,0.09438506397671673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209331089263653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877583240552736,0.0,0.0,0.1164966047104848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6163717487612109,0.0,0.10598096138958027,0.0,0.09693820725233314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560525321526608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846840693270505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183672592598956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923351000037665,0.09703619872153538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073756622103697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537515676662816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654823545487067,0.08812234980788583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149311136554205
parenting,confused_parent123,2018/03/30,"What is going on with my kid? My 3.5 freaks out when she sees movies/shows she isn't familiar with. I mean FREAKS OUT. She screams and screams until I give in and turn it off. And usually it involves princesses or really any other type of show. We rented Coco and she started screaming 10 minutes into it. I'm fed up of having to change the movie or show so I told her to stop screaming or go into the bedroom. She chose to sit in the room by herself. She has a little sister and I don't want what she watches limited because of her antics. Now I'm not sure if I should be more sensitive because she is a little different. I'm not sure if she's on the spectrum or not, but she's definitely more high needs and very smart. I just don't want life to be like this forever where my child rules the house. I know it's just TV/movies but this matters to me. She's ruined our whole family pallet night.",1.4962091503267985,3.487132171123001,3.1643404634581103,90.87958259061202,80.22994652406419,6.080689245395128,22.153594771241828,7.1686216300943375,0.6787067142008318,704,22,151,9,18,233,110,187,0.13699999999999998,0.816,0.046,-0.8240000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,0,1,6,11,0,0,7,0,10,2,0,0,2,37,26,17,0,6,13,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,3,2,9,13,1,2,2,2,1,2,6,7,0,0,2,6,27,4,22,21,3,25,0,1,2,0,22,15,0,6,8,101,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455293950520988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233014329340608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937556627960567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913599265141548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17266397873183373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570074106629602,0.2081845187316442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19351526926002807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113384151296948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065821543236206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936910056628328,0.08948118586713137,0.36714256378825066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19951150518464256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580848436350085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188029742879335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733496885265066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595229697748532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963936195456446,0.0,0.0,0.153127328791107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452463292930077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501422029830999,0.0,0.0,0.19922205924885736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172139534830105,0.15112358394463493,0.21606131248972854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20448808341249394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,naturallyfiltered,2018/03/31,"Ideas for allowance? My oldest is turning seven soon and we wanted to start giving an allowance.  

How does it work in your house?  What kinds of chores do your kids do to earn their allowance?",1.9258333333333368,4.7525599166666685,1.6402222222222242,96.12700000000002,88.72222222222223,2.8800000000000003,18.31111111111111,3.1291,-0.7733822222222217,151,4,28,0,5,44,31,36,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.4479,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,8,7,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,5,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,20,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105984095383045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34047766200937624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095373134992912,0.0,0.400668607178954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696011389155819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512186721285517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38605791041114784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20934473605726736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25839058403573445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sofia72311,2018/03/31,"Easter feels Happy Easter from Australia! 
So despite good intentions I’m pretty sure I’ll end up eating my weight in chocolate today - so my breastfed baby will be getting a taste of chocolate milk right?! 
I’ll have some bloody kale or something tomorrow to balance it out ok! ;) xxx! ",4.240384615384617,6.909002269230772,4.577538461538462,80.76746153846155,74.38461538461539,5.6984615384615385,29.63076923076923,6.742157984588678,1.90138,226,10,35,2,5,71,45,52,0.09,0.677,0.233,0.8353,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,1,1,6,6,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,6,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,3,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32647442652369,0.0,0.0,0.2825893359249962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132454036526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669383964897638,0.0,0.0,0.2676094337492108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339641550533447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32459513801029266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27247248640710464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24562526219097805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007069518666782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024282320633777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38852483230943263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DanceInFireRain,2018/03/31,"Everyone thinks My husband is the “greatest” man ever but he’s not. Throwaway. I don’t want my husband to find this. I’m not sure if this is the best place to post this. 

My husband has put be through hell since we got together. We have the most amazing little boy(1). I’m been slowly planning our escape. I’m tired of being threaten, torn down and isolated. 

What’s great is my whole family loves him.  no one knows what happens behind closed doors. My mother met him for the first time today and pulled me aside to tell how much she liked him and how well I did. There’s no one in my family that doesn’t love this man. He brings me to tears multiple a week but he’s a great father. 

No one sees the man I see and I’m starting to wondering if my postpartum depression is just making crazy. Theres no way he’s abusive if no one else can see it. Every time I hear how great he is I abandon my plans to leave because I must be crazy. 
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parenting,364daystilpretzelday,2018/03/31,"What I put in my son’s eggs There was a thread a few days ago about not wanting to spend too much money on Easter a few days ago which I totally agreed with. Last night as I was thinking of things to put in my 5 year old’s eggs I came up with making homemade “passes”. Some of them were an eat dessert before dinner pass, stay up 5 minutes past bedtime pass, get donuts for bfast pass and skip shower pass. We did his egg hunt today and he loved them! ",5.472210526315791,4.366472852631581,5.483157894736844,89.5921052631579,67.84210526315789,8.021052631578947,26.36842105263158,5.6839178017228535,0.6730631578947373,351,7,81,1,5,110,71,95,0.0,0.926,0.07400000000000001,0.7639,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,4,7,0,1,1,12,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,6,0,1,0,2,8,1,0,0,0,5,0,10,1,14,5,5,24,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,10,45,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849684952908104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847727762694675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24835384741270136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28007865853673786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221915909304101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344830228905277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17700060007490828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598011658245126,0.0,0.14494469873736013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159625155974677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037740803148701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22785514558491174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072876496844234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365775616039134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314456421622968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442602203648315,0.1391365242361992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058262594713743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807662048193166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398330306621183
parenting,littlemermaiddd,2018/03/31,"How can I be sure to teach proper grammar to my daughter when her father refuses to use it himself? After having our daughter I have begun to notice that my SO has awful grammar when speaking. I know my grammar isn’t absolutely perfect, but I feel as if my SO’s is to the point that he sounds uneducated. He says phrases such as, “I seen that yesterday,” or “I ain’t done nothing to nobody.” The main things I notice are incorrect verb tenses and double negatives.

I have discussed his grammar with him before and he states he “knows” how to speak correctly, he just doesn’t want to sound “uppity” (whatever that means). I have politely asked him to mind his grammar when speaking around the baby. I also attempt to occasionally correct him at home but he gets extremely defensive and has made it clear that he is not okay with me correcting him.

When I really begin to teach language and speech to our daughter, how do I go about teaching her proper grammar when she will be continuously hearing bad grammar? What about the inevitable question, “well daddy says it this way?” when I end up having to correct something?

Her father does manual labor so using proper grammar on a daily basis is not important to him. It is, however, important to me that our daughter learns to speak correctly. Any advice?",5.452950668510836,7.192204477178429,6.474820193637623,72.48843130474876,68.5435684647303,8.841032733978793,32.47602581834947,9.2995712137729,3.2593898570769952,1033,46,167,21,18,344,134,241,0.068,0.877,0.055,-0.6232,1,0,1,1,0,0,24,3,0,0,2,19,6,1,0,5,2,21,0,0,6,8,38,35,23,0,2,7,6,1,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,13,7,0,2,6,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,3,12,34,4,27,29,2,20,0,0,1,0,39,5,0,3,12,129,47,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699363145209822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907042454639593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182602230159469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548108270852872,0.16257613175024094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452020107299839,0.0,0.0,0.14797891925913434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521839698413879,0.17796347733836376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402672690698554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793074530183269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085730865479076,0.0,0.09883326604524656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19600168389125386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443921214519106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19114543667466705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455152899689976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18943170021608488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559278193092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668649285844649,0.3959801716405831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643948507243974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481152136709612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114069217411222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27658980478175543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387927416690615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390182383419508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553364046735848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003932707690878,0.0,0.0,0.10257268556509944,0.1380363632370409,0.0,0.0,0.1563599722959532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElMerroMerr0,2018/03/31,"Struggle to show love to my first born SO, 
I don't even know how to clearly put this in words but I feel l need help as I am still struggling to this day on how to emotionally connect with my first son. 

Quick summary. I am a father of four, ages are 16, 10, 2 years, and 11 months. The first three are boys and my last is my little girl. My wife and I had our first when we were 19 and 20. I love all of my kids, but I have always felt disconnected from my first son. I feel like I am harder on him, and internally I struggle to show any emotion with him beyond anger and frustration when he makes mistakes. I am well aware that I need to help guide him in these situations, but there is some underlying issue that I can’t for the life of me put my finger on. 

He came to our lives in a time of struggle, confusion, and just overall into the arms of a couple that were not quite ready to have a baby. Now at 37 I am at different place in my life. I have a great career. Money is not a concern, we live in a beautiful neighbourhood and me and his mom are still together after 18 years happier than we were in our first few years together. Yet, I struggle to connect with him. His younger brother and I had a strong bond as he came around when I was just laid off from my firm, and I spent first two years at home with him as a stay at home dad. While I am stern with him, I am much more forgiving with him than his older brother. 

My son is 16, soon to be 17 and we have good talks, we hug occasionally but not as often as I hug my others. I want to be a constant supporter, but I struggle to make the emotional connection with just him. Any advice?
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parenting,umyong,2018/03/31,Need advice on helping kids develop on pace I have a 4 year old and 2 year old and they are a little behind on certain things like fine  motor control. Is there a place or service that helps with dining people who can do in home help? ,4.625,4.889419833333335,5.399999999999999,84.845,69.41666666666666,7.233333333333332,26.416666666666664,6.42735559955562,1.0337416666666668,184,5,37,1,3,60,41,48,0.0,0.725,0.275,0.8919,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,1,7,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,6,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,5,23,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360865248019237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27097241969602864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858136367671368,0.0,0.2423422415663769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803245690089037,0.24214441514647495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914167008484294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5070323942646666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749345960745812,0.0,0.2524182269150746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050680958063135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111620593508917
parenting,boredbird1280,2018/03/31,"Shared a video of my daughter at work, coworker called me a terrible parent for subjecting my daughter to “such adult things” This is half rant, half seeking input. I truly don’t feel there was anything wrong with happened but maybe I am in the minority. Also, throwaway due to possible backlash if I am in the wrong. I’ve seen the nasty side of Reddit before

Backstory. I (27f) have been with my SO (27m) for over two years now. One of which he has lived with me and my daughter (6 1/2f). The half is very important to her. He is not her biological father, but he is very much a father to her. 

As long as she has known him, he has had facial hair. Usually a beard, at the very least a goatee. He’s joked with her multiple times about shaving it off, and she always yells at him “you better not!”  Well a week or two ago, he got offered a job, and at dinner he was talking about it and told her he was going to have to shave so he could look presentable for the interview. She was so upset that she actually broke down in tears. He consoled her and said to make it up to her, after dinner, she could use the clippers to help him shave. 

So we go upstairs after dinner, he notched lines in his face to show her where she can and can’t use the clippers, showed her how to use them and she did a good job for the most part. She had fun and it made her feel better. I had fun watching him panic the entire time and took some pictures and video of it. 

At work yesterday, the topic of shaving came up between me and two female coworkers, and I remembered I had those videos. I showed them a couple videos, they thought it was funny and adorable. A male coworker overheard us and was interested in seeing what we were talking about. When I showed him, he immediately stepped back and told me I’m a terrible for “subjecting her to such adult things”. How it was grossly inappropriate for my SO to have his shirt off in front of her. How it was a sexual situation between them. How it was terrible to be teaching such a young child to be a servant to a man. All this crazy stuff, making me feel bad, like I did something wrong. I asked some other coworkers with children about this, one said maybe the shirt off wasn’t mandatory but otherwise it’s not that big of a deal. 

I couldn’t stop thinking about this the rest of my time at work yesterday. I talked to my SO about it, he said that my male coworker who said those terrible things was “a jackwagon who needs to step out of his fantasy world”. I personally don’t think there’s anything inappropriate with the nature of what happened. He sat on the floor to be at her height, he took his shirt off because that’s how he has always shaved and planned on showering afterwards. He still had pants and shoes on. They talked, he coached her through what she was doing, there was nothing inappropriate to the situation in any way. Or am I missing something bigger here?",4.8015155690272815,5.571734453752185,5.385728391659779,83.30683177183799,69.20942408376963,8.684284008450446,28.866032883255247,8.841846274778883,2.052552530541012,2274,79,467,38,38,733,248,573,0.107,0.812,0.081,-0.9493,7,0,2,0,0,0,64,3,1,5,6,31,23,0,2,33,0,47,10,7,11,1,64,81,38,0,5,9,6,4,1,0,0,0,5,1,8,32,27,3,1,8,11,0,8,8,12,1,8,36,13,69,11,81,39,8,63,0,2,4,0,92,33,0,6,22,329,101,8,0.0,0.0,0.07966696954973834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236721390580582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528592661288578,0.1358588106306801,0.0,0.0,0.05551667988521072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436233375724574,0.0,0.07632056521774776,0.0,0.0,0.06277462846743448,0.0681643695809574,0.04976580327753146,0.0,0.06946797562829732,0.0,0.0,0.1444044585982063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336158633694432,0.09337219133460786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303626949745245,0.09033095995331376,0.0,0.0,0.08416525453362074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383596735645196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279358102181044,0.06847413093923026,0.0652934138865606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438453263983653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472027036418203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202635400477347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039884232128674736,0.0,0.07208790213510381,0.07224711357542446,0.06855540883135318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724790573674963,0.10898807716839694,0.0,0.16403280715095386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060013367059768424,0.060533586618313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783339197918061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064012372774834,0.0,0.0,0.095784672811765,0.09064940375868344,0.08840606276713946,0.0,0.0,0.07128320454758554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203464563774318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248000691973997,0.0,0.31062595769480544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505496363232224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835291985484981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569793321269562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651962596987368,0.0682530731747018,0.0,0.0,0.09345604628660803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624703190269809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271009736556466,0.10462074413549258,0.0,0.064811500109557,0.14281142686859016,0.0,0.0,0.15601732857143222,0.18140577571023608,0.0,0.0,0.2392455647004164,0.0,0.09820053363767886,0.21152721465834806,0.08991278869882655,0.20207984652042188,0.0,0.06480049161852251,0.06548512692459016,0.0,0.07340241974382468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783004386590176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26777520661337434,0.0,0.052572233649293
parenting,phyllis_the_cat,2018/03/31,"Stop touching my stuff! For heavens sake, stop touching my stuff. I love my kids more than anything, I would die for them, do anything for them. But for the love of God I wish they would stop hiding my jewelry and chapstick and moving and TOUCHING things. They're 2 and 4, and a blast to be around. But geez Louise. 

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parenting,littlewootiewoo,2018/03/31,"There needs to be a word like “mansplaining,” but for non-parents who give unsolicited advice Kidsplaining? Childfreesplaining? 

It’s never anyone I know, but for some reason my husband has like a dozen friends, relatives, and acquaintances who love to do this. From his 60 something uncle who always thinks what my toddler needs is a good spanking... to his sister’s 20 something roommate who gave us a lecture on the evils of screen time today (even though our kid doesn’t watch tv?)... there’s always someone who knows how they’d do it better.

Anybody else’s lives just rotten with child rearing experts who have clearly never spent more than fifteen minutes around an actual child?",10.062424242424242,9.458653603305788,8.073347107438018,73.09971763085402,58.42148760330578,10.050137741046832,38.34848484848485,8.841846274778883,3.4633955922865023,550,22,87,6,6,162,95,121,0.07,0.732,0.199,0.9563,1,0,2,0,0,0,19,2,0,1,1,7,8,1,0,6,0,8,1,0,2,3,18,17,5,0,2,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,10,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,3,2,0,1,2,3,8,6,11,13,2,6,0,0,2,1,20,2,0,1,6,56,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.18907644946829472,0.0,0.0,0.18933466187002965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32243854245010345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354776563540281,0.0,0.0,0.17248258962561774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136011620282526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185702861450302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797302457179488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969425152682175,0.0,0.0,0.1858669782753014,0.0,0.16251208790279995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21296481992569502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931733046406246,0.0,0.17108877948236326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487100730394975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28733302386320503,0.2988708408644953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19921190302672767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416756507600527,0.2983233710492931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415006466086186,0.19036281944248604,0.0,0.11297981119998865,0.0,0.1836566175743682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330628156316653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,19202936339,2018/03/31,"Am I being crazy and over protective? Hey, I'm looking for some advice or even just opinions on my situation because I'm not sure if I'm over reacting or if I'm in the right here...

My girlfriends sisters boyfriend is way too hands on with my two year old son. He calls him the same nick name as I do, he acts like a second dad when I'm in front of him, if we're out for dinner he'll be the one running to grab the babyseat before me, he's even wiped my sons face right in front of me as if I'm not capable of doing these things. He is nothing to my son, he is just my sisters boyfriend and I feel like he is stepping over boundaries and it's really starting to offend me. Incidents like this have been happening since he was pretty much born and it's gone beyond him trying to be helpful. 

I've said it to my girlfriend a million times but she doesn't see it and last night I found out he put my son to bed. He was staying in his granny's and my sisters girlfriend and boyfriend were there and he ended up putting him to bed. When I found this out I went crazy because I do not want someone who is in no way related to my son, who I know nothing really about putting my son to bed yet I'm in the wrong for having this opinion. 

The whole family adore this guy so approaching him about it would most likely not end well because I seem to be the only person who feels this way and I feel a total loss of control.

Should I approach him about it? How should I go about doing it? 


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parenting,prixetoile,2018/03/31,"The Evil Loose Tooth This is my daughter’s first loose tooth. It’s so loose that it has turned sideways, the gum has receded and if you blew on it, I bet it would come out. 

Instead, my five year old is crying on the couch about how it hurts and how she’s scared and I get it. I really do but jeez kid, just let me pull it out!!

I am so frustrated I feel like knocking her upside the head and just yanking the tooth out then. I tried when she was asleep but her jaw clench rivals that of the most secure locking system. And the way it’s loose means it just kinda moves around the food we’ve used to try to pull it out. 

I just needed to rant. Y’all are awesome. Thanks for listening ",1.4937062937062962,3.260780188811193,2.315384615384616,98.05461538461542,79.27972027972028,5.51888111888112,17.993006993006993,6.297961479604792,-0.4459398601398599,529,10,125,4,13,165,90,143,0.165,0.731,0.104,-0.6906,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,2,0,1,12,7,2,1,8,0,10,7,6,3,0,28,19,14,0,3,7,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,13,11,1,1,2,0,1,4,0,4,0,2,1,2,16,3,13,16,1,18,0,1,0,0,9,7,1,4,6,82,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426433317543929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797940195894813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23970722152889185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033987688903267,0.1558982315639499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18561998745663505,0.2638755706928915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401227428501633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22395929098029874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23361175052532399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22314733988736968,0.0,0.1066125138803372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377083284006613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319360327010171,0.0,0.16180925391143866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289878546572668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979895186041733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847883931658105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009100026489254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963175705479068,0.2373634675391577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884742157090768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321490081203078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501903666011013,0.0,0.0,0.1405281659070972
parenting,colsieb,2018/03/31,"Fortnite game cost Wow the makers of this game has really hit the bullseye with this game. Seems like all my kids are totally hooked.
Seriously though, 8 freaking £'s and all you get is some different ""skin""; basically for a different looking character.
Getting seriously p##### off having to constantly deny requests for vbucks!!!
Back in my day you bought the game and that was it, this in-game purchase nonsense is getting out of hand. ",4.974120879120882,7.550960551282053,5.548021978021982,75.13269230769235,71.69230769230771,9.072527472527472,32.93772893772893,9.606745405546679,3.6579575091575096,345,17,57,9,7,111,59,78,0.142,0.75,0.108,-0.2393,2,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,6,2,2,1,3,10,13,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,4,2,9,10,4,6,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,2,4,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22063266669517986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100710936970749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850471258916616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5995648423709891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.449729709194332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018027200597644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409502538861923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838157115396379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612117256351381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819088114528198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stepdadthrowaway844,2018/03/31,"Stepdad Advice Just searching for advice, I will try to keep it short and not long winded. My fiancé and I have been together for a couple of years now. There is a little bit of distance between us and with our work schedules we only see each other about once a week. This all changes at the end of the school year where her and her 9 year old son will move in with us right after we get married.

I never saw myself becoming a step dad but we fell in love and the idea of it does excite me even though it was unexpected. Overall, he is a very sweet kid with a lovable personality. The big challenge for me is that he hasn’t had a lot of male interaction or bonding for the majority of his life. He has been coddled by mom and grandma for a lot of it and not a lot of interaction with grandpa and his dad hasn’t been around since day 1. He looks up to me and enjoys spending time with me which makes this all easier. All I have is my experience as a young boy and a man to go off of, but there is a certain degree of male toughness that isn’t there yet with him. He will cry and seek attention with the smallest bit of pain. We had a guys day the other day where I took him to a trampoline park, he went into the dodgeball court with some other kids and I found him on the ground of the court crying and refusing to get up because he said the other kids were throwing balls too hard at him, while the other kids just watched. Sometimes I worry that the shows he watches like puffin rock may be a bit too old for, but I try not to criticize what he likes, and figure maybe it’s a transitional phase into bigger kid shows.

He is extremely tall for his age, but not very athletic (IMO more from a lack of practice than ability). And I have been trying to do things like throw a baseball around the yard or other things like this which he will hold interest in for a few minutes but then immediately want to go do something else instead (like most other activities we do). I would love to get him into some type of sport that he enjoys because I think the experience is invaluable, but I just am afraid we are getting too far in age where the other kids who have been playing for years would just make it not fun for him. He is quick to give up on something if he feels he isn’t good at it immediately. Although, he has taken a bit of an interest in hitting golf balls around the yard.

Another thing that I struggle with is that I am more of an introvert. He is the complete opposite of me and my fiancé, just a non stop chatterbox. It doesn’t matter if it’s 6am, or 9pm, it’s non stop loud talking about things he finds interesting (iPad games, numbers, tv shows, roller coasters). Some days I can find this particularly draining. Most days he comes home from school on a color like yellow for excessive talking. We have been working on him not interrupting which he has a tendency to do. Also since I have known him, he has gotten increasingly bad with back-talking his mother and trying to be the boss telling us what are are doing for the night or not doing for the night when it comes to errands or for dinner etc. I have spoken with my fiancé about how this behavior is not acceptable and she’s 100% on board, but he does not seem to respond with punishment such as time outs or taking electronics away.

Don’t take this post as me not being excited about being a stepdad. This is just all new to me and these are the challenges in front of me. I know that in a few years we will have a well behaved young man and it will all be worth it I just need some helpful advice on getting there. I honestly don’t enjoy confrontation, so disciplining him is hard for me, but I can do it. Part of it is, if it were my own biological son I think it would be easier. But in this case, I’m the new dad it’s a little bit tough. Anyways thanks for reading.",6.305378690629013,5.406580000000003,6.831296534017973,79.92663671373558,66.07317073170732,9.859306803594352,31.32349165596919,9.047159751262416,2.3359591784338885,3016,96,633,44,41,991,324,779,0.07,0.797,0.133,0.9951,0,0,2,0,0,0,63,12,0,0,4,37,35,2,2,52,0,75,5,0,4,7,132,111,49,0,9,35,8,3,6,0,10,2,2,3,13,52,50,1,6,13,15,2,13,18,8,1,0,18,13,65,27,104,76,30,91,0,0,7,2,85,41,0,20,42,453,117,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18982784923948987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05178300600214074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789923892463673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729318799658806,0.0,0.0,0.06083764000420867,0.0497911132055483,0.05406610800016083,0.07894573987138992,0.07151467748248845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35346790305273945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850016120686105,0.11155807088295287,0.0678923610218349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164803938799177,0.14225641177598647,0.2088018635599975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333169434737912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409288033988741,0.0,0.05735199953498112,0.0,0.07221678879960544,0.04276879147079125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266818535309517,0.0,0.0,0.03274109737270887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183662641990275,0.0,0.0,0.0709983980709294,0.0,0.0,0.16915403022444114,0.062117044289304625,0.07360132286250085,0.05431180221186723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411571891846529,0.0,0.0,0.11601206231330785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0434026173130539,0.0,0.06495260799689004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730983332961905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755550308157864,0.0,0.0,0.035586593364083485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04573700771421985,0.1898104726879036,0.12979917305367794,0.0,0.0573044285347577,0.05437626960620473,0.0,0.0,0.16515223139109989,0.11688434606738535,0.0,0.08644635294276345,0.0,0.06505316136210984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583801197667428,0.0,0.06882226485118169,0.0,0.048013580289270434,0.04994155882618269,0.1250778353679896,0.0,0.12153273780233677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358949068620264,0.06895990532989442,0.0,0.04924762697126902,0.0689018310031376,0.0,0.0,0.07012126374557494,0.0,0.0,0.05653988233676824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062015540841176386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477059224703469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529876724669835,0.06159499706233789,0.0,0.0,0.13106712595608105,0.051599812501959434,0.05894876219614637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712881587614692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970015235603608,0.06404244111798027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827293051463084,0.0,0.06769396727097135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737249875917377,0.15613819253285285,0.056597036541449174,0.05961592622126163,0.0,0.0,0.1720762474777514,0.08298230419000213,0.06361956166754512,0.0,0.07551607069989734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194304239661407,0.1758523337906291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336699080458333,0.0,0.0,0.10685612707239828,0.03819303787701631,0.0,0.051941006224727464,0.0,0.05822078569404737,0.06002674383242072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428201108855712,0.06575988490745767,0.0,0.13799616739693882,0.0,0.0,0.20849426758920836
parenting,mollyShoe,2018/03/31,"Pacifier question My little girl just turned 4 months old on the 22. I bought her some MAM pacifiers the other day that are for 6 month+. I didn't think anything of it until my husband mentioned it. Does it matter that she isn't 6 months yet? 
There is an obvious size and shape difference in the 6+ from the 0-6 month pacififiers, but my husband's concern was it might be harmful to her in some way.
Has anyone done the same thing or heard advice against giving a pacifier labeled for older use?",4.386277056277058,5.507785232323233,5.063088023088024,83.9527272727273,70.41414141414141,7.6773448773448765,29.294372294372288,7.957251820313856,1.921806926406926,394,15,76,5,7,127,76,99,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.5439,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,1,13,15,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,8,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,5,1,8,0,10,8,3,15,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,5,9,51,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976135769791685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414016007869287,0.0,0.16641533166653874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304194826101111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112838450109664,0.0,0.0,0.17696993561392876,0.20694811128284785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193994264211934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268426612984636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145305561232387,0.0,0.0,0.6456616453255926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122028886634202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22654016996086065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435042426650345,0.12957869476994846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199645634060566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465892709419056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051813039113205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,platetone,2018/03/31,"fuck Diaper Genie and their fucking shit-ass shit can Seriously.  We had twins and I estimate we spent about $15/month minimum on refills for nearly three years.  That's over $500.  Stupid fucking plastic bucket broke all the time -- I could maybe have a part time job just in Diaper Genie repair.  Always stinking to high hell, even with the deodorizing inserts.  Taking the bags out and pinching off a shit sausage is always a stinky mess, too.

We just had a third baby and got a new solution for him.  I don't want to name product names, but it's basically a fucking trash can with a lid.  It works 15000 times better than the fucking Diaper Genie and all I have to do is open the fucking lid and take the bag out.  Also, the bags are just on a roll like normal trash bags and we're still on the first roll after three months in.

In summary, fuck Diaper Genie and their fucking shit-ass shit can scam.",5.428844375963017,5.84662298870057,5.952121212121212,81.04848998459168,67.70056497175142,8.922239342578326,27.39034411915768,8.841846274778883,1.9155129943502824,707,20,139,11,11,229,103,177,0.201,0.752,0.047,-0.9769,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,2,3,8,19,13,0,16,0,13,11,3,0,2,27,26,10,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,16,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,17,0,4,4,1,10,2,21,21,3,22,1,1,0,8,8,13,12,0,10,86,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846098201376939,0.1632758582184534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677303223376241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833529825127616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480275359452249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345492230903334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7256315752281387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846998026003177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366183913514304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736207714953372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047933087298224805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098567760306544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566258236229446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475820881008082,0.0,0.0,0.0961299715649004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624688750778367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5035582525237161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835321982820696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475376279519863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163155026255825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786962730197444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142747927703802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318159659798282
parenting,M0506,2018/03/31,"What do I do with my 3.5 year old while breastfeeding my new baby in public? I had my second child on March 21, and it occurred to me this morning that not only do I have to get used to breastfeeding in public again, but that I'll have to keep my three-and-a-half-year-old corralled at the same time. Any suggestions on how to keep her occupied? We don't let her watch videos on iPhones or iPads, and I'm not sure I have room in the diaper bag for books. I'm thinking notebook and crayons, but I'm worried she'll get bored with that after a while.",5.655545977011492,4.414130474137932,5.987931034482759,86.5668390804598,67.53448275862068,9.457471264367816,29.67816091954023,8.344100000000001,1.7425333333333335,429,12,99,5,6,138,72,116,0.078,0.922,0.0,-0.8049,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,2,1,18,19,9,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,6,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,1,13,1,16,16,1,17,0,0,1,0,8,8,0,1,9,61,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615555621295386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255308949544482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43435072202432295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24984815581289185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359793816080549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5127750410876117,0.0,0.0,0.1858270815792904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302819833158608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565594157394551,0.0,0.0,0.14247316970911175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21102620016425894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24813312333753645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146862795619966
parenting,Recycle_m,2018/03/31,"Any suggestions on educational/ entertaining youtubers video's for toddlers I made my own playlist because I am so tired of the creepy video's that pop up on the side. Here are some of my suggestions: Baby Einstein; Debbie Doo, Dance Patrol, Super Simple Songs, Tiny Adventures Tv, Pocoyo.
Since It is a todler I don't mind if it is another language other than English. ",7.823656716417908,8.497205358208959,7.497723880597018,71.14121268656717,62.58208955223882,10.282089552238807,36.15298507462686,10.125756701596842,3.7835104477611945,297,13,49,6,4,94,56,67,0.054000000000000006,0.812,0.133,0.6661,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,0,4,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,3,7,5,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810698395680585,0.4333990762210171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519543022405695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910906869303017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.417332504437926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419002228353911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4750472698158427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,earthcetera,2018/03/31,"Christmas: If your child is on the naughty list, do you actually bring him coal to teach him a lesson? Has anyone been in this situation? To keep the “Santa Claus” tale alive, if your child has been misbehaving throughout the year, did you actually give him coal as a gift? If not, what did you do on Christmas day? 

*Edit: don’t hate; it’s a hypothetical question. One of my acquaintances did this to their kid and I feel weird about it, that’s why I ask.",3.6083788121990352,5.193313337078654,4.615762439807384,84.61539325842698,72.93258426966294,7.782343499197433,25.07383627608347,8.418075326091056,1.402738683788122,353,11,75,6,7,115,61,89,0.1,0.8390000000000001,0.061,-0.5514,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,5,1,1,1,2,1,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,9,17,5,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,5,1,12,0,9,12,0,6,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,4,2,50,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.546906993026906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593576531417364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26196710547206564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807181884425519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416872365010518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688117702585373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766584252176371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490716815085769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988376775863694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139096115507867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314978097817977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528542236609788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045196387125026
parenting,ataraxiary,2018/03/31,"Pet passed away while daughter is out of town. What do? My daughter is an older teenager and sadly we've dealt with pet loss before - so most of the advice I've found online isn't too relevant. 

Complicating things, she is actually out of the country on a spring break trip and won't be back for a few more days.

This was a family pet, but it was *her* pet. 

Her dad and I are conflicted about what to do. We hate the idea of ruining the rest of her trip by telling her over the phone and not being there to comfort her - she's with classmates, not family or even good friends. But we're also worried she will feel betrayed if we keep it from her until she gets back. 

I suppose there's no right answer in a crap situation, but I'd like to do the least wrong thing. Has anyone dealt with something similar before? 


edit: thanks so much for all of your replies - I'm sorry I've not been around to respond to everyone - I'm grieving too and had a night full of eating my feelings =/   Anyway, It seems that most people agree that waiting is best - with the exceptions of people who've had extremely bad experiences. Based on what I know of my daughter and the timeline (days, not weeks or months) - I think waiting is the right choice for us. I will emphasize the desire to tell her in person and also plan some kind of memorial so she has a chance to properly say goodbye. ",3.574499299719889,5.045180154411766,4.47172268907563,86.07215686274509,72.82352941176471,7.533893557422969,25.82002801120448,8.11559375814309,1.4769983893557428,1070,35,218,16,21,346,157,272,0.132,0.745,0.123,-0.142,0,0,1,0,0,0,32,3,1,0,3,15,15,2,0,17,0,22,2,1,0,1,44,36,20,1,2,11,4,2,1,1,3,0,1,4,1,11,16,1,4,8,0,0,3,7,8,0,0,6,3,24,7,38,25,11,28,0,4,0,0,27,13,1,7,12,155,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.13360280861892046,0.0,0.0,0.13378526339945518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897112964299795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572950753468754,0.0,0.0,0.12187746531442753,0.0,0.0,0.12862990954971687,0.21054815366165835,0.11431276067389867,0.0,0.0,0.23299785859726405,0.0,0.14367687566165452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658913016137232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14009142994529847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904266795697204,0.0,0.0,0.13082180361680862,0.0,0.13392264525834272,0.25813003170658233,0.0,0.13844995937773616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501129485201376,0.10577505815415754,0.0,0.07152896662735349,0.0,0.0,0.11483223552904588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516865978470113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455287219349034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216904395857524,0.0,0.14256898734238774,0.07524125336367334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688650845031961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927894556546054,0.0,0.10064339636839616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847922001710274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983003481516114,0.11954309783264135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23383798019323496,0.0,0.10887502177105927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463622765172225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389073117906352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053987431034696,0.0,0.1532576984780969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393278796023317,0.1260468222803019,0.0,0.0,0.18191165984731364,0.08772534800370829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646838981829171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981962699647417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903708373731968,0.0,0.0,0.1496877977755589,0.0,0.0
parenting,SilverAspirator,2018/03/31,"Afraid I’m raising “that kid” My daughter is 21 months old. She is really cute with dimples so I think she gets away with more than she should from other people. She barely listens to me or anyone else for that matter. If you pick her up and she doesn’t want picked up she will not only go limp noodle, she will thrash her entire body around and freak out to the point where you physically can’t hold onto her without getting head-butted or kicked. I feel like I’m saying no all day long and so does my husband when he’s home. We went to a get together tonight for Good Friday and she was the worst behaved kid there. She would barely sit and eat and only wanted to go up and down the garage steps the entire time and was in everyone’s way. When my husband and I would take her off the steps she would throw a fit. She is also like my husband. Very energetic, doing 5 different things at once, can’t sit still to save her life. I don’t want to raise a bad kid. I also don’t want the kid that I can’t take anywhere because she’s incapable of sitting the hell down long enough to eat half a meal. 

What the hell do I do before I lose my fucking mind? I cry sometimes out of frustration with her and I absolutely hate feeling like that. ",3.5698039215686244,4.477174156862748,4.326372549019609,89.27700980392159,72.13725490196079,7.0784313725490176,23.970588235294123,7.1686216300943375,0.7424117647058819,970,25,211,9,18,311,144,255,0.139,0.753,0.108,-0.9361,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,2,0,1,10,16,5,1,12,0,20,6,1,2,1,40,40,19,0,9,5,4,3,3,0,6,1,2,1,4,7,17,3,1,3,0,0,6,9,10,0,1,3,5,37,6,30,31,4,36,2,1,0,1,32,16,3,3,13,135,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19917796163880586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707635664360049,0.12759875682244098,0.0,0.11086075662398716,0.0,0.0,0.11700283608924528,0.0,0.10397983833509376,0.0759141500350559,0.0,0.10596839550782708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832806919879367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367936332549922,0.08031347111935727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011046083508573,0.0,0.0,0.10897965187773163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548566608306975,0.10403132684905547,0.0,0.0,0.12867586030808886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189966011719907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593523512799198,0.17793277463766696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512873528441532,0.19519002976594468,0.0,0.14154992722000834,0.10445235698602058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295053771362276,0.1278067674348914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491673487833177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796132815850863,0.18252157399916072,0.0,0.0,0.2204155407269676,0.0,0.1393205527039039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257428115919071,0.0,0.09940103822477796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067641604638985,0.1326235616550106,0.0,0.18942588916680755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863354896464005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772392073297157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977901720379031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099033625780236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316630362985515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945220039739457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18726660848664908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273417976559802,0.07979570652953535,0.0,0.0,0.07261618334959008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275275240885802,0.2938111176019147,0.09884848468415824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544332208004734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200453508065862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653939724448734,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wheredidigowrong18,2018/03/31,"Help me calm down So my little monkey was jumping on the bed today, he fell off, hit is head. I took him to the doctor and the doctor said......... Your 3 year old has a mass on his brain not related to the fall.

Now I'm freaking out. They sent us home and told us to wait for a call from a neurologist, but I'm taking him to a children's hospital for a second opinion as our hospital is very incompetent. I can't breathe. 

Please tell me that this can't possibly be cancer or require brain surgery.",2.521383495145632,3.7650668058252457,4.3244538834951465,86.99017597087378,75.11650485436894,7.480097087378643,25.496359223300967,8.07648339933343,1.3750786407766986,383,13,84,6,8,130,77,103,0.08800000000000001,0.83,0.08199999999999999,-0.1676,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,9,0,7,7,4,0,0,9,16,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,5,1,13,1,13,9,0,16,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,2,4,52,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41126567644419065,0.1880931118525608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770816651123765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904668064524371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234682110368023,0.0,0.18477185957950787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846210284439907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329135059121028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022009266344984,0.0,0.20766258965226608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752204029828552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849865480765075,0.0,0.16100261422841766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17460406952070734,0.1760150335629986,0.2046576748398807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4431500111534501,0.0,0.0,0.15198777936350588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862148333126235
parenting,Valentine21469,2018/04/01,"Discipline vs Positive Parenting -- help! Most days with our high-energy boys (ages 6 and 8) I take the lead and try to motivate with a combination of positive reinforcement and rewards for good behavior, and I do my best not to reinforce bad behavior by giving it a lot of attention. My kids need lots of physical activity and limited screen time, otherwise they become wild men, but if they listen well, act kindly, help out, etc. they can earn the use of screens on the weekends, which is a big reward for them.  Today I am bedridden with the flu so my husband is in charge. He lets the kids watch TV, play videogames for hours, forgets to feed them lunch, and finally gets them out of doors to the park, but once they're outside, they refuse to do as he asks and misbehave. Within minutes he is back indoors with them, shouting, taking away their favorite toys, and shutting them in their room for the rest of the day as punishment.  He contends that their bad behavior is a product of my general permissiveness.  And yet, I'm the one who is able to motivate them to behave well by rewarding the good and setting them up for success. When I tried to talk to my husband about it, he insists that punishing/yelling is the only thing that will work.  So now my kids are shut up in their rooms, laughing their asses off with each other, playing, and generally in fine spirits, while he is convinced he has 'taught' them something.  Every time he tries to do something with them, they act up and he goes from 0 to 100 in minutes, starts yelling and punishes them by taking away something major, i.e. a long-awaited sleepover next week or a birthday party later in the month. How do I get him to consider a different way? He won't even consider doing things differently.",8.721363293051358,7.496344374622357,8.342173338368577,72.10002737915406,61.44712990936556,12.021223564954688,39.418617824773406,11.080906280650957,4.316306495468279,1392,62,254,31,16,445,194,331,0.052000000000000005,0.731,0.21600000000000005,0.9957,3,0,3,0,2,0,47,1,0,20,11,11,19,2,0,19,0,19,4,1,5,0,44,32,24,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,2,1,3,3,5,10,22,2,3,3,5,0,3,2,4,2,1,1,6,33,15,53,28,8,45,1,0,3,1,48,21,1,5,19,171,43,7,0.12264016558740035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465199961879413,0.0,0.2304489452734883,0.09430271721106932,0.2047988311646809,0.0,0.1354464275428258,0.0,0.0,0.1287032874870403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581855220722285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25626574082035497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677620309364433,0.08100267272352918,0.0,0.10332962893435414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434630679706205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281488494664998,0.11764762192440838,0.0,0.205729504542932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440623569898796,0.12957606835541746,0.0,0.0,0.12077585912349195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277108600821327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540787843855225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108532687283903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20852856625716773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978902101164338,0.0,0.0,0.09093612881516176,0.0,0.0,0.1304292074245442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306077738085698,0.08310415015445477,0.09327337230673333,0.0,0.0,0.13617739039971946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28324317337669364,0.0,0.0,0.08680534042823007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276630425294398,0.09857351957224617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629533531179229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302493360019894,0.0,0.11624853703868547,0.0,0.0,0.2497938663658411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592172662410124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734605501345056,0.09837454329346172,0.0,0.22053647470971666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928350118495003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GHMariner,2018/04/01,"I hate Easter with ever fiber of my being. Always have. Of all the religious holidays, it's the most ridiculous, completely unbelievable, ludicrous premise. And then we layer on an even more preposterous story about a giant rabbit hiding eggs around the yard....eggs.  Um...hello....rabbits are MAMMALS. THEY DON'T LAY EGGS!!! And the whole celebration is just annoying and lame. First my wife makes us all get dressed up in the morning and drags our asses to church, where no matter how hard we try, we never manage to get there early enough to get a seat, meaning we stand in the entryway freezing our asses off in a standing-room-only crowd with two small children who can't stand still to save their life and usually end up leaving five minutes in because they're making a scene.  Then we have to stay in our uncomfortable clothes all goddamned day and play host to a bunch of people at our house or drive across town to someone else's, wasting the entire day for ""brunch"" which I believe is French for ""shitty food that no one would eat at a real meal"". There's never any alcohol and everyone is just being polite and playing along pretending to enjoy themselves when in reality all they want to do is go home and watch basketball or whatever.  Sorry for the rant, but I just hate it so much. I realize now why my family didn't celebrate it when I was a kid.",5.848512245365073,6.8596470350194565,6.192263675898378,77.59331197070269,66.97665369649806,9.159899290455485,30.29274433508812,9.325443323948027,2.6710363469901583,1076,39,193,20,17,346,172,257,0.151,0.795,0.055,-0.9678,0,0,1,0,0,0,39,10,0,3,1,16,9,4,0,16,0,15,10,2,3,7,42,25,18,0,2,6,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,6,18,7,0,2,4,0,2,7,5,0,4,2,3,21,4,33,20,10,38,1,1,1,2,18,18,2,3,15,137,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650563263252534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185433304409855,0.0,0.0,0.09958791732138704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036748498390852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927177764381189,0.0,0.0,0.16499385581222406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535452518838478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889038031142047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149850239686647,0.12233636909813238,0.0,0.12970718770273515,0.1513172812215555,0.0,0.09672582835995944,0.13246827970910674,0.0,0.13993488849298552,0.0,0.0,0.1380557223830782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456641181586492,0.1770824007557714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22953508571864245,0.0,0.08322831529067412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311863445412704,0.2891690958507498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468967112837309,0.0,0.0,0.1689783693293618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550645701361244,0.0,0.0,0.10343874132812676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19550692945805412,0.0,0.0,0.15952201017433695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765424462132504,0.0,0.2258954943980228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992352164881736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152682511658202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668696550279571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408274146013995,0.0,0.0,0.16393367431351166,0.0,0.1560913480443663,0.11695151320227108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994268371281149,0.0,0.14305591020066685,0.0,0.1761558264119189,0.0,0.16128895650079084,0.0,0.08637731156749387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321442265504286,0.16350109780621053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403063497896864,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hidefromtheliving,2018/04/01,"I really regret parenthood... I've been needing to get this ""out"" for awhile. Even on a throwaway account with a bunch of strangers.

First, I should note and emphasize that I love my son and would NEVER do anything to harm him in any way. Including showing him any sort of resentment. He's an incredible little human, and I strive every day to be the best mother I can be despite my feelings about motherhood.

I loathe motherhood, and I massively regret it. My husband and I had several fun years of partying and travelling together. We had careers, owned our home, stable finances, hobbies, and a happy marriage. We were in our late 20s. We were on the fence about having kids, but we made the decision together. Neither of us pressured, and it was a planned wanted pregnancy.

I regretted it the moment my son came wailing into the world. Immediately. I had no sense of bonding, and I was irritated that I was now completely at his service. It didn't help that he was a colicky miserable high needs baby, but it never really did get better. Easier in some ways, but never better. One phase to the next. He's 2.5 now. He's still a spirited high needs child, but he's very advanced. He's well behaved.

I enjoy brief moments. The first steps, his developing personality, and so on. It was cute watching him look for Easter eggs this morning. But I could and would EASILY trade all those moments for the opportunity to travel back in time and not have kids. In an instant. It's just not worth it for me. The special moments are so far outweighed by frustration, tantrums, or just the never ending grind of the routine with a toddler. It's so. Damn. Boring. And unfulfilling.

I'm pregnant again, and this one my husband did pressure for. I fucking hate being pregnant. I want a beer. I want to do what I want to do without my body being an incubator. And the dread of starting all the way over with a screaming newborn and no sleep. To go through all the frustrating phases all over again. On top of dealing with whatever developmental magic my son is going through. The thought of it makes me want to change my identity and leave the country.

My husband is very helpful. He actually enjoys spending time with our son. Sitting on the floor and playing toy cars for more than 10 seconds is fun for him. But just the nature of motherhood, my life has changed much more than his has. And I resent that too.

We haven't let kids slow us down all that much. I work full time. My husband just went on a motorcycle trip through Mexico, and I'm conditioning my two horses for endurance riding. I refuse to give up riding, despite the pregnancy. We go out, we have date nights, we travel. But the logistics of life with a toddler and soon to be baby and toddler is just harder. And I hate it. He's at daycare all day, and any time somebody else wants to watch him for the evening, I'm thrilled. I never crave to spend quality time with him.

I was diagnosed with PPD (are you surprised?), and I tried three different medications as well as talk therapy for 18mos with two separate therapists. None of it helped. I'm not depressed. I actually feel quite vibrant and eager to live my life. I just really dislike life as a parent. Short of medicating me into a coma, that feeling isn't going away.

I'm clinging to hope that parenthood will get better??? As kids get older, perhaps??? When I'm not having to plan my life around nap time to avoid tantrums and I'm not in world peace negotiations about if underwear is worn over or under pants?

And I know how selfish and bitter this sounds. I HATE that I feel this way. I wouldn't have made a child had I known I'd be like this. I wish I could love motherhood. Everyone talks about how special and magical and precious it is, and I'm just not feeling it.",3.1703132756826022,5.540403741712712,4.409356233485468,82.1384462326848,76.5,7.4015213387781245,28.172311634238127,8.366724835079683,2.233932604692129,2975,128,551,58,69,976,328,724,0.134,0.705,0.161,0.9677,4,1,1,0,0,0,109,13,1,0,13,30,49,12,5,38,0,51,16,2,5,11,129,100,52,0,21,24,10,5,1,0,5,9,2,1,9,30,55,2,3,9,8,6,16,20,25,2,8,22,11,74,24,90,64,17,93,1,5,3,3,61,36,2,6,37,388,104,5,0.0,0.0,0.1345745834207137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066935351021936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05674169356199527,0.06138197726757527,0.0,0.0,0.06478275671012276,0.053019899734737766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236096265201808,0.1829475562750128,0.0,0.07659022595188343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886281995506943,0.0,0.0,0.1458843333752354,0.0,0.07229495270114167,0.0,0.0,0.11010526363027588,0.0,0.0,0.08893678536308637,0.07108657534845034,0.05938833260560121,0.06998491818182975,0.0,0.07204025655661937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057600622025546784,0.0,0.061071084158700564,0.0,0.0,0.09108440802261793,0.0,0.05809510826146209,0.0658866752356029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432123808319205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730122214643655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374509454271224,0.1440984809510513,0.06614512606780208,0.15674824310130167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340078014099241,0.0,0.20422773596714208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865139399455434,0.14570333401632551,0.0691645665620726,0.06848498176991268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03789426446995652,0.0,0.0777809589299477,0.07301030560094615,0.0,0.07050818192095261,0.2435144955651088,0.033686507432797635,0.0691081068276961,0.060885957218744464,0.0,0.057902388134370625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446390349759442,0.1304882662588963,0.04602605435369478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892394964425714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137543724065556,0.1533812993294895,0.26590050624391903,0.0,0.07333132813821956,0.06470686391532662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344743903545943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656313411384785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06020630388667994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733390333741448,0.0,0.0,0.13251742012844014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789623333332844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900188466110638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04880464298439434,0.0,0.05506522677549863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108421534137349,0.0,0.0,0.07885272219091931,0.08005868898361178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474025607733073,0.24123910307093335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0468139418133146,0.0,0.13471234225333847,0.0,0.1658817447264858,0.0,0.0,0.11378538816821715,0.24401836895409676,0.21892383290858486,0.0,0.0,0.1239924163668658,0.06391927664399141,0.0,0.0,0.07929149864138663,0.06646735254821101,0.0,0.05019794148876057,0.0,0.0,0.09796317037486243,0.0,0.0,0.04440288417418075
parenting,Gothymommy,2018/04/01,"My kid pranked ME on April Fools. My 5 year old has been begging for a new dog since our Dexter passed back in November. We surprised her a few days ago with an 8 week old Boston Terrier. Of course this means going out for potty training every hour and we’ve gotten her into the fold, watching him, watching for potty signs, and even taking him out. I was mindlessly redditing with the puppy walking between me and my husband on the couch when my daughter screamed “Mom the puppy is peeing on you!!!” I snapped so fast, heart pounding that I’m cleaning a couch and myself while cooking easter dinner. She burst into laughter, followed by my husband, with an “April Fools Mom.” She definitely picked up her Dad’s genes. She is too smart I swear.",4.553984526112188,6.327796042553196,4.723984526112186,84.02454545454547,70.84397163120568,6.545712443584787,29.130238555770468,6.980632752743323,1.6349375886524826,586,23,105,5,11,183,100,141,0.069,0.852,0.079,0.3561,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,9,0,5,4,2,1,0,15,11,7,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,2,12,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,3,3,22,2,18,8,1,27,0,0,2,0,18,9,0,0,14,67,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984407220655504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213655090672156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437288223597586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478591615302638,0.0,0.1886139281800384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722629646198738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652783046582074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045960537681794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438520410724509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5243704335508879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21620793138568856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698123630305323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18518148802491805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16831684421654436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956910553975794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441601996664343
parenting,Dudemanguybloke,2018/04/01,"Parenting plan/schedule interpretation My 11 yr old step sons father has been in the military his whole life. This parenting plan was written when he was 3 and now the father is out of the military and wants to enforce it. My wife and I are confused by this part.. “ When the father is home he shall be entitled to 3 visits per week with no more than 2 consecutive with the first visit up to 6 hours, second visit up to 8 hours. Third visit father has the option of an overnight from 12pm-12pm. Parents shall alternate weekends.” 

Does that mean alternate weekends in addition to the 3 visits per week? Or every other weekend is off limits for the 3 visits? 12pm-12pm overnight wouldn’t make sense on a school night so my wife and I are thinking it means the 3 visits are to be done during the week with an optional overnight every other weekend. 

There is additional info about school night visits not going past 10pm / overnights not interfering with his school schedule. Special occasions and holiday overnights are from 10am-10am. ",6.053381458966566,7.923528760638297,5.903525835866263,76.65500000000003,67.24468085106382,8.5629179331307,32.04559270516717,9.04235418022936,2.9458422492401217,829,35,137,15,14,259,109,188,0.025,0.932,0.043,0.5204,3,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,1,13,0,19,1,0,1,0,27,26,9,0,2,3,10,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,7,12,0,1,5,5,0,10,4,1,0,3,5,0,7,1,25,16,3,35,0,0,0,0,22,7,0,4,18,91,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242720923823955,0.14316601084579686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357431372482467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899865126079084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950824882825021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033085052854866,0.0,0.2755461354817477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881532691458014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338416583772848,0.0,0.0,0.304783669697686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625728664148729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468012482528735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4660263309689848,0.15149779023537233,0.1335501361751681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247580311778224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964210741437288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251649402295587,0.0,0.33665740940719296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619306870104216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bacperia,2018/04/01,"Separating from partner with 2 kids, I need your best advice. We’ve been together 12 years and have two kids (12 and 8). We are amiable and putting our kids first but I anticipate we’ll fuck something up. I’m looking for your best advice to make our separation as non-traumatic as possible for our kids. ",3.788983050847456,5.809154338983056,5.0120000000000005,80.14613559322035,73.40677966101694,8.787796610169492,30.444067796610174,9.3871,2.8789769491525417,242,11,47,6,5,80,42,59,0.076,0.7879999999999999,0.135,0.5647,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,5,2,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,8,9,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,9,2,8,7,2,4,0,0,1,1,12,1,1,0,2,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4925080784569034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5289223951335515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435329594822525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329723572479708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21161872847976632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682137026311682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685674622698248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840950848073391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253332232095468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400392509102765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461699378618596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228142210591753
parenting,hltp03,2018/04/01,"owning it Not surprisingly, my middle school aged kids make mistakes...and then they endure the consequences accordingly (eg, loss of TV time,
electronics time, early bed time, etc). 

The pattern I’d like to address is how poorly they handle the consequences immediately after receiving the punishment. They consistently react with excuses and blame...which then further increases the severity of their punishment.

My issue is not how to prevent mistakes. My concern is how to help these kids learn the concept of accountability. And to acknowledge that their mistake might actually be their own fault. Curious to hear how you’ve eventually handled this successfully. I know this is a gradual process, but just wanted to try to get a sense of whether or not I could be taking a more effective approach.",8.712888888888887,10.49354991851852,8.528148148148151,60.63666666666669,60.925925925925924,12.222222222222225,40.18518518518519,11.855464076750405,5.681074074074076,649,34,92,21,9,209,92,135,0.098,0.8140000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.3784,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,6,3,5,9,2,0,9,0,8,0,0,7,0,26,14,11,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,5,3,0,1,4,1,2,3,3,6,0,0,0,1,11,3,13,10,5,13,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,2,9,65,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.2539881043499783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20780615832174992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902722821245795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598147245253006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29334566446353444,0.0,0.17445495690205448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271656536564271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303878420149815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715584098491506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373370214281736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761076540122353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26340934286314605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940334814707726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569228915335388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4553004061140154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670772646781718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351527601975845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,well_shi,2018/04/01,"Facing divorce with an 8 year old, how do I find a nanny? I’ve never used a nanny before. But I’m facing divorce and our 8 year old will be staying with me. I don’t have parents in th area to help. How do I go about finding a part time nanny?  It would be for after school, taking her to dance class, and other ad hoc on occasion. 

Is there a website or other service that is popular and trustworthy?  I live in San Jose,CA. ",1.1509999999999998,2.7366791555555565,3.744166666666669,88.25625000000002,79.66666666666667,5.833333333333334,22.36111111111111,6.6274283507984215,0.5851111111111109,324,10,69,3,8,114,64,90,0.0,0.883,0.117,0.8638,1,0,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,10,2,2,3,1,14,14,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,10,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,7,46,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522939384586369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193926532566012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039126598858047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537831658063947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025923068891536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695179454734766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48149974098271997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254756641290232,0.2484520657213089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23219702877929296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24454355960812826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250401068740712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378341146718065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815523880441288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629816264948904,0.0,0.0,0.2954928574107969
parenting,Porkchop-Sammies,2018/04/01,"4mo old sleep patterns Hello all,

My 4mo old is sleeping 10-12 hours at night and I'm wondering if this is normal. She will also nap during the day for maybe 1-2 hours total.

I feel like this is a kot, maybe too much but some people I've mentioned this to congratulate me and my wife and say we're lucky.

Am I correct or should I just enjoy it while it lasts?",1.1972727272727255,2.8907196363636416,2.9519480519480545,93.49077922077923,79.9090909090909,5.43896103896104,18.79220779220779,6.18269132825596,-0.2404753246753244,280,6,64,2,7,93,61,77,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.9331,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,6,2,2,0,3,16,9,8,0,3,4,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,3,3,7,4,9,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,5,9,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419397010992798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324141242122953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038157337401108,0.14668032768310846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043967969337294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736283704311894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003087611335288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41254216998545856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093349376254173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926784891289398,0.2011695657215392,0.0,0.0,0.43089665892460105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234272396193873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327834723728574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4109356590345346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22266029383935254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Baczuch,2018/04/01,"Teaching your child to blame the objects when he accidentally hits himself (?!) I have an almost 2-year old toddler and whenever he hits himself by accident (e.g. his head against the table) I always explain he should be careful - table is obviously a passive object that doesn't do anything out of itself.
I noticed however that my child has been saying ""naughty table!"" recently everytime something like this happens, means his nanny must have taught him that. I'm going to ask her about in few days but I wanted to ask you about your opinion and experiences - would it make any sense to be teaching your child to react in that way? In my eyes that's not right but maybe there's a science behind it?",4.318488372093022,6.8806649767441845,4.793197674418604,79.84468023255816,73.65116279069767,6.78062015503876,30.12984496124031,7.793537801064563,2.2785240310077515,558,25,93,8,12,177,92,129,0.053,0.912,0.036000000000000004,-0.4809,1,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,12,2,2,2,2,17,25,5,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,3,9,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,16,2,15,16,1,11,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,2,5,65,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848726874449986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815528062847044,0.0,0.0,0.14837770155619906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955301271481414,0.0,0.4079591961152602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224607751278561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071546644678098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343315387638384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400325721615245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929460221474088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239274264205146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659734522710827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564451999573147,0.0,0.2192026878696098,0.2376745076504332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24841246799414585,0.22895527464170845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154377826339684,0.0,0.0,0.1863343481322717,0.0,0.17351463772337306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797447595054069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869499937053125,0.1731902560806679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499698080638907,0.0,0.0,0.1405081717906473
parenting,theJaidenMan,2018/04/01,"My best friend and his wife lost their newborn last year. She wants to try for another, but he's not sure whether he can. Can anyone provide some insight or advice on moving forward from here? Late last year, I received a phone call in the middle of the night from my best friend's mother. ""Jaiden, do you know what's happened?""

""No? What's up?""

""You should sit down for this."" She paused. Then laboriously, and choking back the pressure of an incoming cry, she said: ""[Brand new baby] died."" 

A week later, by some miracle, my family and his scraped together the cash to fly me last minute to him across the country, so I could be there to support him at the funeral. It was a dark time, and leaving the funeral home without baby in arms felt like we were forgetting something. 

Some time has passed since then. My friend said that it still hurts, but dealing with the pain has since become somewhat easier. He says that even when he's preoccupied, baby never really leaves his thoughts, and that he still tears up thinking about her at least once or twice a day. 

His spouse wishes to have another baby with him. He says he's not ready; he doesn't know if he could. He feels like it wouldn't be fair to his daughter. Like he wouldn't be able to deliver the love that he should as a parent... Not after what happened. 

I told him maybe that's not the case. That maybe giving love to a second child would be the closest thing to a catharsis he could achieve. That I've never heard anyone saying they don't love their current child due to the loss of a different one. He acknowledged that it's possible that a lot of people feel like that before trying again, and that another baby could bring him happiness, but he is leaning toward skepticism. 

I asked him to find some interviews or books or articles about the subject to help him get some perspective on how this kind of thing usually goes. He said he would, but he's practically my brother-- I already know he won't. 

Maybe stewing over it and decrypting his feelings would be good for him. After all, only you can know for sure how you feel. 

But also, maybe outside, experienced perspective would provide valuable insight for him. That's why I decided to post to this sub. 

With hundreds of thousands of subscribers here, some of you are bound to have experienced this before. I don't mean to ask you to dig up unpleasant experiences or reopen your wounds, but I'd like to ask for your input. From one grieving parent to another, what did you decide? What difference has it made in your life, and/or the life of the other parent?

If you respond, I can't thank you enough.

Jaiden",4.44637552354684,6.169609051792833,4.661872509960162,84.56534732863419,71.03187250996015,7.857881295331495,27.015221166615596,8.463088693708992,1.836088405352947,2072,71,397,34,39,648,245,502,0.1,0.754,0.146,0.9862,5,0,1,0,0,0,75,1,12,3,5,15,28,1,1,25,0,36,9,1,3,5,80,70,29,4,16,19,8,5,5,3,9,5,7,1,3,30,11,0,1,18,1,1,5,15,7,0,5,12,14,49,21,61,40,13,50,0,4,0,3,90,17,0,15,33,262,79,3,0.06905865102769275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748331452946993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620793866120187,0.05522617827664248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896560677489685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657482898435417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368154943476948,0.0,0.0,0.0531018399041651,0.0,0.0,0.07626985439742959,0.11752765122915745,0.0,0.14494558734675198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051660391933766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205508539681405,0.0,0.07585768540948848,0.044537116833205416,0.07119643685436043,0.0,0.0,0.07167197681185375,0.14430318387864458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135604705265088,0.0,0.04561258769614146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755261202127416,0.06510235012636033,0.0,0.13967251575958184,0.09867102818550924,0.06630713482924491,0.0,0.06311835593636084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006362742981425,0.0,0.036080294871260916,0.06624735075822782,0.0,0.057923120016522923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221366740681826,0.07351421815937685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04628855808997477,0.0,0.06927145767900826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392871423013844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719139580138058,0.15181131426028147,0.1688760531688201,0.07790116634234995,0.14624628031257764,0.0,0.0,0.0975563350556071,0.1686928430246432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538567539148935,0.05871119554301357,0.18698438634672954,0.0653449653707295,0.0,0.0,0.27751478828359605,0.07522511620643581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339841700029037,0.0,0.0,0.10652457800669866,0.0666972754942381,0.0,0.06480686582817179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354520951394161,0.0935918583766016,0.05252221600855796,0.07348327369038908,0.0,0.23004437827770505,0.0,0.0,0.047876573327522084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785325278073668,0.06613909811021057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044240740196162864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707177419788927,0.16475463332553866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425205952503245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05316472346154685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030065583482322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836693880418581,0.13017392263607186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357992754392149,0.0,0.0,0.09175899830910826,0.044249995112433015,0.0,0.054824854989812884,0.0805373095384161,0.0,0.0,0.065988500500434,0.0,0.09377258183778897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605834757427506,0.0,0.04073258162408463,0.0,0.055394684300799565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231469116645295,0.0,0.07941404053349367,0.06657007522698699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196229137202314,0.0,0.0,0.08894301417004344
parenting,H8MyBoss666,2018/04/01,"Pre-teen body odour PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

My wife has two kids with two different fathers.

Her youngest, an 11 year old girl, has RANK body odor. I can smell it every day when I come home from work. It's especially bad when the kid stays home all day (she's quite often sick with a cold, and stays home all day), doing nothing but sit around flipping around on her phone.

I AM NOT trying to cause more tension in the relationship than there already is, but I can GENUINELY smell bad body odor from her kid. She thinks I am just trying to make things up to make her youngest look bad. That's the last thing I want to do!!!

Is it possible that me, as a male, can detect/sense/smell body odor more intensely than her mother can? She claims she can't smell it. She also claims that she makes the child bathe, AND put on deodorant, but I can NEVER smell deodorant on the kid.

Am I a fucking wingnut? Why can I smell her kid's BO and she can't?? ",2.081024767801857,3.926293436842109,2.6182972136222915,96.19719814241488,77.78947368421052,6.154798761609907,20.123839009287924,7.048011613610866,0.09475851393188872,723,17,167,8,17,223,103,190,0.11,0.86,0.03,-0.9578,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,0,0,0,3,8,5,1,1,9,0,17,6,4,4,3,23,25,10,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,8,9,8,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,5,0,2,0,11,25,0,18,25,4,21,0,0,1,1,27,7,1,1,9,98,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257591779719442,0.09113484637708044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028995164132767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854588885742322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.506341453937807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706969335274085,0.0,0.09816760784050522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22048691910239976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906535002862947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601734822620553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535542705030422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638588731262252,0.0,0.34293756245104345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289370634588696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569882785320168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282102480195509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789401471339703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934898402639416,0.0,0.11958326115508275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509533479679927,0.0,0.12847429341547045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456262800146988,0.0,0.1212119181251242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235183562502885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429352613376532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142170752293754,0.07302182828145742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547445451930457,0.0,0.22264734955467747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672173538834729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283238825692577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296521639090082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338736977323751
parenting,ALPMC,2018/04/01,"Living in old house with baby and toddler Hi parents!

I'm the mom of a 5 year old, 3 year old, 2 year old, and 6 month old.

We are going to be living in an old house for one year. A very old house (1800s). It is beautiful and freshly painted, but I know there will most likely be lead.

I've never lived in an older home before. I feel I'm putting the youngest two children at risk of lead poisoning, and need tips on keeping them safe and healthy. It's only for one year. It's a stepping stone to building up our life. The landlord is awesome, the area is wonderful, the rent is amazing, and it's the only way we've seen possible to get where we want. It's our ticket to move to the area we want to live in and be able to save up money to buy a home for ourselves.

In the meantime what can I do to minimize damage to my two little ones? They still put things in their mouth, play on the floor, eat random things. Any other parents lived in a very old house or a house with lead? What were your experiences?

Please advise! Thanks a million! :)",2.0798611111111107,3.5924798564814817,3.3483333333333363,92.43,76.82407407407408,5.911111111111111,23.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.4152888888888889,803,24,178,6,18,261,122,216,0.051,0.748,0.202,0.9892,3,0,0,0,0,0,31,5,1,3,3,3,9,1,1,18,0,12,4,1,3,1,29,25,9,0,3,2,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,4,1,10,12,1,2,3,2,3,8,1,3,0,6,2,2,13,6,29,19,1,43,0,1,1,0,15,17,0,4,18,102,23,4,0.07439423478328733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05059063073964792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330401440627707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612387472437711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277183675249804,0.0,0.0,0.03761596040307815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03886791716546074,0.0,0.042279958043155534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492469664455555,0.0,0.0,0.42920479289377145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661250140839974,0.0,0.0,0.040885125859575176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525468481263379,0.03634526531716653,0.07456256731958581,0.32845736139603365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712962864649161,0.0593807684416196,0.07906929813690661,0.0,0.05516238244588142,0.057377420123968736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.624513879582167,0.0,0.15123437648125387,0.11316033577059975,0.0,0.0,0.165211987525446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816625296226279,0.0,0.08386832177897882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495735075654557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05941133199688396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684922162077877,0.0,0.0,0.09884844783529988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534471495633786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276606978152313,0.08775929432668526,0.059050680804376414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067737417688547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953724044819835
parenting,ballofsnowyoperas,2018/04/01,"Care package for a mama? Hi! Please feel free to remove if this isn’t welcome here, but I wanted to pick your brains for a second!

I don’t have any kids yet (hopefully in the next five years!) but a lot of my coworkers at my restaurant are parents.

One of my coworkers has had a kiddo with a high fever for the past two days, and medicine isn’t touching it. I know this must be crazy hard on her, they don’t have a lot of money and they have a lot of other stresses on their plate.

I was hoping to put together a little care package for this mama as a way of letting her know that she’s doing a great job of taking care of her little ones with so much on her plate. 

My question is: what would you like to see in this type of care package? She doesn’t really drink so alcohol wasn’t likely going to be an option. But what other types of things? Candy? Snacks? Spa/self-care items?

Thanks for your help!

EDIT: thanks for the comments! Food is apparently the best idea. I’m going to make some epic Mac and cheese for her (I also know the sick little LOVES Mac n cheese). Thank you r/parenting!!",1.3932363636363618,3.414457271111111,2.8208585858585877,93.0543181818182,80.73333333333333,5.513131313131313,18.671717171717173,6.574015621080383,-0.0558888888888891,846,19,184,8,22,275,131,225,0.052000000000000005,0.7090000000000001,0.239,0.994,4,0,2,0,0,0,32,0,4,3,1,5,17,0,1,16,0,21,8,1,2,1,27,42,11,0,6,4,1,3,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,11,5,4,0,6,1,2,4,6,1,0,5,3,4,23,17,31,34,7,20,0,0,1,1,22,10,0,9,7,126,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613733158955085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690496875731275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390069470166183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404457209387805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131390541633083,0.0,0.0,0.44319343549318907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008445754732777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645719992115137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054947834510375285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314066283066971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352161756693107,0.0,0.0,0.11981127690765345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734877741930087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284055895520275,0.11481794721590677,0.0,0.21587165661038665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267747397774573,0.0,0.0,0.10784020357204308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916988737716485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112449505352304,0.0,0.10618331168383112,0.32675371564433475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27716717543687364,0.0980807336946133,0.0,0.07253941188122523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798864328031291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557391764972284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727793560898006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413348177848339,0.0,0.10373973197595658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928923561487975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924538750006868,0.1217375242305666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696180736115508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659752377412386,0.0,0.1133686090312062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448342261458516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170782864688891,0.0,0.0,0.30015176439252034,0.0,0.0,0.0721968560028718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615676509119497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640975682893293,0.08625878488266253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719747939291184,0.0,0.0,0.06998121279467591
parenting,jilliandaphne,2018/04/01,Deciding on school My husband and I have been discussing schools.  Our public school in our area is really poor.  Proficiency levels are really low.  We live pretty much next to a catholic school that is affordable but we are not religious.  I was not indoctrinated into a religion and do not want to do that to my daughter.  I’m still leaning towards the better education despite religion because I could still educate her and tell her it’s her choice what she wants to believe in.  Just looking for advice if anyone has been through something similar. ,5.8811363636363625,8.178545535353539,6.399886363636366,71.21982954545456,68.39393939393939,9.798484848484847,35.607323232323225,10.125756701596842,4.240665656565657,444,23,70,12,8,144,72,99,0.053,0.872,0.075,0.4885,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,16,16,5,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,1,13,1,11,12,1,11,0,1,1,0,13,8,0,1,3,55,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267751377200544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235587009785386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771986938558643,0.0,0.0,0.1990899819249768,0.0,0.15628431969788048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108736874090486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603685444338525,0.0,0.14839064575740435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990108940904402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879315083071538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977608559469815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264079966365764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7153537967588209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603884651674988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28223929351693816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445102911919367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084545186733719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eemiatera,2018/04/01,"Easter Bunny & Grandparents MIL goes waaay overboard for every holiday and gets tons of gifts, giant bunnies, huge filled baskets for my kids (2&5).  She says it’s “from the Easter Bunny” and won’t stop telling my kids about the Easter bunny bringing their stuff to her house.

When I was a kid we got what I thought was a good amount of treats filling an
average basket and some extra goodies and this is what we want our kids to have.

Why would the Easter bunny bring a ton more shit to their grandparents house than their house where they live? I feel like it undermines our ability to create the magic of holidays the way we wish (she does the same for Christmas).

I asked her to just give them whatever she wants but say that it’s a gift from her & husband. I really want to ask her not to get so much but I know they will think I’m an awful person if I do.

Am I just being insecure? Should I try to get her to stop or just leave it alone? Am I a dick for asking her not to be the Easter bunny?",4.0492436974789925,4.881062019607847,4.72717086834734,87.12441176470591,70.9607843137255,7.789355742296919,24.375350140056014,7.957251820313856,1.1365879551820737,788,20,165,10,14,253,123,204,0.121,0.782,0.097,-0.8737,2,1,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,6,0,7,5,1,1,14,1,13,2,2,0,0,30,32,10,0,7,9,1,1,1,0,4,0,2,0,5,9,7,0,2,4,2,0,4,3,2,0,0,4,3,32,3,21,22,8,11,0,0,0,1,33,3,2,3,4,112,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488084215798596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233182186019863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652473864629237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396670316384858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972588656090028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584909803072164,0.09303760546511043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412218060520024,0.12493018460018343,0.0,0.1092322333415581,0.1041582466764476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508099463046771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071571977210643,0.0,0.0,0.1378966448275014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362466658240208,0.0,0.11499704251980072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573533865078204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371336190285075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342980928741417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713106782904034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336810446708907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21775918914294956,0.0,0.0,0.14908422370804575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382831079366094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344726233851517,0.0,0.10338948163455336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841882600094612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304422237250107,0.10337192051994082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751391990209513,0.0,0.14976011312367254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251291581488293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stepawayslowly,2018/04/01,"A simple, helpful thing: developing long-distance ""Ok?"" ""Yes/No"" hand signals. We did this with our kid when he was about 7 or 8, and I'm realizing today (at 10) how truly helpful it's been. When we're apart but in sight of each other, an adult sends an ""ok?"" hand signal. Kid HAS to respond, thumbs up or thumbs down. It took one fun event of ""if you don't respond, we're out of here"" to establish with our (admittedly compliant) kid. But now it gives us so much ease of mind and freedom at large events, parks, whatever.

It only comes up sporadically, and just happened to remind me how helpful it is, so I figured I'd share. What types of things like this have your families developed? Got something so simple, but so useful? Please share",2.7522115384615375,4.802532319444449,4.053611111111113,85.72942307692307,76.5,6.930769230769231,24.96581196581197,7.882392219407189,1.3763670940170938,570,20,115,9,13,187,103,144,0.0,0.7090000000000001,0.29100000000000004,0.9939,0,0,1,0,0,0,36,4,2,0,0,12,6,0,0,3,2,7,2,2,3,0,23,15,17,0,1,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,11,9,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,3,8,6,18,10,2,17,0,0,1,0,21,8,0,3,7,70,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19494993636538036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334920619270484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21710152812002287,0.0,0.0,0.18100441132083195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012919970544146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4550815956013695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105658523228194,0.0,0.0,0.2002812455949811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285131696901348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636722648484867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335658890955264,0.17212240527658634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24842540319271625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422798909655618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007066474910445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451972101086406,0.0,0.25144378037635945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27222852542771103,0.1954630984889696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Casterward,2018/04/01,"2 year old running around We live in an apartment on the 2nd floor and hVe a 2 year old. Lately he has been running around the apartment and since its all wooden frames it makes a lot of noise. Our neighbors downstairs complained about us to the leasing office and now whenever my son runs they start banging something against their roof (our floor). That scares my son quite a lot and usually us as well. We have explained to the leasing office our situation and since our lease runs till Sep-18, we cant move out either.

The guy downstairs doesnt look that friendly and my wife is sort of afraid if he was to come up one day and be aggressive with us.

Any suggestions what we could do?",5.330091896407686,6.379594323308276,4.634987468671678,88.15284878863828,68.17293233082708,7.414870509607352,29.815371762740185,7.3871296695380915,1.5937391812865502,547,20,109,5,9,163,91,133,0.07,0.914,0.016,-0.7374,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,11,0,2,1,5,6,1,2,9,0,10,0,0,1,1,25,15,10,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,16,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,4,1,1,2,1,16,2,16,11,4,26,0,0,1,0,24,10,0,4,10,71,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036769758551004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271440691933502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131329457401998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172566881903955,0.0,0.0,0.098323089414594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778902236192193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509578376509514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197977526172895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346236068972306,0.0,0.12802670262056073,0.0,0.0,0.25922944902933304,0.0,0.0,0.10176720103260203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203920753641213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31995899966054664,0.0,0.10330979320129373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215833092206314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263750773891144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25223041506148564,0.17136968858693796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736996533000794,0.0,0.0,0.10791087751623712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501662406305277,0.0,0.16791144647459855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707845849610592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635648997657126
parenting,mamacardinal16,2018/04/02,"NICU parents--did your baby have phobias when they were older due to NICU and did they outgrow it? My son is 2, was born at 26 weeks. We think he might claustrophobic. He is fine with a blanket or bucket over his head, but if we are in a confined space that has moving room, like a car wash or an elevator, he covers his eyes, ducks down, and starts trembling and crying. My theory is that the isolette he spent months in started the fear. If your child went through something similar, did it pass? Am I just over paranoid?",3.738823529411764,5.3403834215686325,4.190343137254903,87.72904411764708,72.62745098039215,6.6686274509803924,26.47549019607843,7.1686216300943375,1.1669960784313729,407,14,82,4,8,128,78,102,0.15,0.8079999999999999,0.042,-0.92,1,0,1,0,0,0,16,2,2,2,0,2,4,0,2,6,0,12,3,2,0,0,15,17,9,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,6,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,6,1,11,2,9,10,0,20,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,5,9,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287118192402524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.336739186185614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071165962558116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619832130154814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31745671455144786,0.0,0.0,0.2388583103742089,0.3180551456491218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23037709197312345,0.0,0.0,0.4236210530446944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19174716861267088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24004011399058134,0.0,0.0,0.2774075336483973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,conservativelyliving,2018/04/02,"Correct terms VS kid terms This probably seems like such a weird post. I've noticed recently that the majority of parents nowadays teach their kids the correct words for their parts. When I was a kid (and probably the majority of us) that wasn't a thing. So why has this change occurred? You do you, it's really the least problematic parenting thing ever. But what is the reasoning? 


I don't teach mine the correct terms. My reasoning is simple: hearing the words 'penis' and 'vagina' come out my 2 and 4 year olds mouths would make my skin crawl. Those words were commonly associated with adults up until the past decade or so. They'll learn the scientific definitions later, right now they need to keep their innocence.

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parenting,gamerturnedmom,2018/04/02,"Husband won't get a job unless he takes the modem with him. I'm a mom of 2.5 kids, ages 3 and below (one due in 3 months). When I tell him to get out of the house and get a job, usually out of frustration from having no money, or him getting on my nerves, he says he will. But not before he strips the house of every ""distraction"" to make sure I'm ""as productive as he is."" This included the internet. And he has made mention of installing cameras in every inch of the house. 

We've been married 4 years, and he has worked from home that whole time. So we've always been together. This, ofc, has been great when having babies, it's great for them. He rarely leaves the house, bc he just likes being home. I usually go visit family alone, including camping last summer with just my mom. He can't have fun outside of the internet apparently. We play mmos and watch crunchyroll together, our only shared activities.  And they're increasingly diminishing as my attentions are required on children.

This threat of taking the internet with him in order to monetarily provide for us...doesn't make me feel good. Makes me feel isolated and trapped. Thoughts?",3.2702468326780263,5.704574775229361,4.372332896461337,82.20475535168198,76.4770642201835,7.822105723023154,25.977282656181732,8.704169506293173,2.1387686325906508,903,34,168,20,21,294,135,218,0.09,0.818,0.092,0.3607,3,2,0,0,0,0,38,2,0,1,2,5,11,2,1,11,0,15,0,0,4,1,29,31,16,0,0,6,3,2,1,0,2,0,1,2,2,5,13,0,1,4,1,1,3,4,3,0,1,5,4,14,8,30,23,2,24,0,0,1,0,27,9,0,1,12,93,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970428909699506,0.0,0.0,0.09617042598679844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983486426474753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19475944895014016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895695950911297,0.0,0.11687974869274902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415396199820483,0.0,0.06568582614761061,0.09694161624015424,0.0,0.2548510248002539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23186896924057016,0.0,0.0,0.5334474812669391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293873089774872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421176169247376,0.0,0.12238075900061797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056465731978148435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093630065919866,0.23144829017956625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27072787696419265,0.09225351710109307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831886486224555,0.08790252505271996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191252377908107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893120440561456,0.0,0.1738010344461407,0.0,0.1010205512114698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175628058931327,0.06739465132455343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902649534801434,0.0,0.25458639452786325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290390733962823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414239783134833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744286525350792
parenting,lala1812,2018/04/02,"Advice please! Ok y’all. I need some help! I have two girls, my oldest just turned 2, and my youngest is brand new to the world! February 12th I had her so she’s almost 2 months old...the problem is my youngest, Audriana, hardly ever stops crying😔 I’ve tried everything I swear. She has bad gas a lot and I’ve tried gas drops, gripe water, a heating pad, warm baths etc. And when she doesn’t have gas she is just downright FUSSY. My first born, Isabella, was not like this at all, so this is new to me. I feel awful that she’s so unhappy all of the time and to be honest I’m feeling very overwhelmed because nothing I do seems to help, not for long anyway. She’s not a great sleeper either, so the struggle is REAL. She is breastfed so usually that’s the only way she’s content is when she’s latched onto me, until the milk runs out. And I also don’t like to have her feeding constantly because she spits up a lot sooooo...but anyways the crying is really getting to my oldest, she gets very stressed out, and acts out so much more because Audriana is getting so much of my attention. She is content if she’s on me, but that’s not always practical. I’ve tried warm baths, singing to her, rocking her, walking around with her, I’ve laid her on the floor with toys that light up and play music etc. I’ve tried it all, and it only works for so long and then she’s screaming again. So if anyone has advice on what I should do or try I would greatly appreciate it!! ",1.7937428571428562,3.7419513266666686,3.1419047619047618,91.62000000000002,79.06666666666666,5.885714285714287,23.380952380952376,6.868970318607317,0.6845952380952376,1138,38,243,12,28,370,152,300,0.09,0.8320000000000001,0.078,-0.374,0,0,0,0,0,0,44,0,1,0,2,19,15,0,3,11,2,24,4,1,0,4,44,33,27,0,6,11,0,5,2,0,2,0,1,2,1,10,15,3,1,4,6,0,3,6,6,0,2,2,7,39,9,25,28,12,37,0,1,0,0,24,13,0,8,21,159,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22147122994367574,0.0,0.0,0.11347424884307893,0.0,0.0,0.09062247248299757,0.09429184792731073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923642424019015,0.0,0.0,0.10087939231771123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946179985052393,0.2072376255691633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245935072440295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447739863891215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527649304689705,0.0,0.1025050039131824,0.0,0.0,0.10184528159640736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459663796260855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639047595904213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761606711787467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24987280474231804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151303232810503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519128685955272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072547840265846,0.0,0.0,0.2005703955398146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268230641956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045145132714633,0.0,0.16660741409810867,0.08402581646949439,0.0,0.2188915547583304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108734207494838,0.0,0.1189109459691698,0.0,0.0,0.17237090175384007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439202989895334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843254534148762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898369397308593,0.07259610181553842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316285191721387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474112671066266,0.12980840683554526,0.11846733436110166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607817474658224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38468636987184013,0.12326031223729735,0.11069779623563064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248066718581391,0.1870027868767947,0.0,0.08994864702472054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249877339258004,0.0,0.0,0.0804997292108485,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,morekidsyesno,2018/04/02,"Has anyone found going from 0-1 kids harder than going from 1-2? Hi! Throwaway because several people know my main, and I like to be kind of private about family planning.

So, title is pretty self-explanatory. I see so many posts about how hard having a second kid is. My first is just over a year old, and we're beginning to talk about TTC #2 (which, in theory, I really want!), but I also had a really hard time adjusting to kid #1, and that scares me for kid #2. I know having 2 kids will certainly be harder than having 1, but did anyone find it to be an easier transition than the initial adjustment to having 1 kid?

I think I was really naive about how hard/tiring/consuming having a child is, and fought the adjustment a LOT. I finally feel like we've hit our stride though...and I'm nervous to mess it up. Hoping to be either reassured or realize I may be about to get my butt kicked again!",4.937651515151514,5.093842472222224,6.656262626262627,76.48590909090913,68.72222222222221,10.545454545454547,26.363636363636363,10.436869588844218,2.6041666666666665,695,18,137,18,11,242,109,180,0.098,0.777,0.124,0.7703,0,0,0,0,0,0,33,1,0,0,2,12,10,1,2,8,0,20,1,1,2,1,26,35,12,0,2,5,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,7,4,4,0,0,10,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,5,4,14,6,23,22,3,13,0,0,1,1,12,3,1,4,9,88,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022952574373278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22773428417250904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927065901228467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351864724892908,0.0,0.08234086648042374,0.116338678559984,0.0,0.1783920774473089,0.1488401663091891,0.1385184670691244,0.0,0.1785544799959981,0.0,0.0,0.08508138416243866,0.0,0.18510059786986086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376395951692108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174485684697396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958118303206282,0.17899405748859273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911866168550567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384475875392596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510236141261628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088163316454447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289833251625295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596341533656072,0.16567501050110398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31297388996051984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303930586270804,0.0,0.12976881083956213,0.0,0.16988603067782942,0.18397194222446173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089109300450455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043464541179725,0.15999738106447606,0.0,0.094958006810876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605199839558627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486880420695173
parenting,lil_cheeks,2018/04/02,"Advice on how/when to introduce a baby into a shared bedroom with a sibling My wife and I have 3 kids (4y, 2y, 7m).  Our 4 year old is a boy, and the 2 year old is a girl.  They each have their own bedroom and life is great...then came baby #3.  Now baby #3 is 7 months, we're trying to get him into his brothers room (the 4 year old).  Our 4 year old is very open to it, so no resistance, but over the last week, he has woke us up 3 times because our 7 month old was either crying, or up making noise and not sleeping. We tried a couple months ago but ran into issues with the baby being sick and not sleeping well so we decided to postpone.

Parents that have successfully pulled this off, when did you do it, and how did you go about it?  I don't really want to tell the 4 year old to deal with the crying, he needs sleep too, but should we be pulling the 7 month old out when he's having a rough night?  ",3.235446735395186,3.0697675103092834,4.765515463917527,89.69078178694159,72.35051546391753,7.497594501718215,23.38316151202749,6.816661863887847,0.5152831615120275,683,14,163,5,12,231,114,194,0.114,0.8540000000000001,0.032,-0.9357,1,0,0,0,0,0,30,7,2,2,1,9,3,0,0,14,0,18,5,3,2,0,32,26,15,0,3,7,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,3,3,5,19,0,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,1,0,6,1,16,3,19,17,3,40,0,0,0,0,25,11,0,1,24,96,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380418177724613,0.08509284911246051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585170239490958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979151137250223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062154853093546,0.2108897039503108,0.0,0.09896555246500442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015287945292608,0.0,0.05455557677521916,0.0,0.0,0.10583367421222037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019274894720262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824788542039779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780336925420118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407671032920316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064858359964926,0.0,0.0,0.07117830125466415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008382390442103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7051065545337999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065899268446663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149618560167925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28818984188531904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390294772432845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05597484708974079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034718839413742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154689083715536,0.0,0.0,0.07920506612756714,0.056619721742528974,0.0,0.07700056038854115,0.0,0.08631009390358284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30908479848672266
parenting,zeebopbiddlywop,2018/04/02,"I am at my wit's end with my daughter [5] and daycare Please reddit, I am losing it over here.

My daughter has been acting up at daycare nearly daily for the past several weeks. I had to pick her up and leave work and lose 6 hours pay to get her. I thought we had this rectified but it's still going on. Hitting, saying dirty words, not listening, etc. She says a little girl gets her I trouble by starting it. I said we don't blame others for our behavior. I have tried everything to stop her bad behavior. She really is a great kid - super smart, great reader, helpful, hilarious, and kind. I don't know where this defiance streak comes from but it is ugly and rotten. ",3.030492139439509,4.741018857142858,4.474326725905673,84.51911825017089,74.71428571428572,7.54313055365687,24.87286397812713,8.296473431620573,1.5814120300751884,520,17,103,9,11,173,94,133,0.18,0.597,0.224,0.906,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,0,4,3,10,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,1,0,17,21,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,7,9,0,1,2,0,1,3,3,5,0,0,5,5,20,5,15,15,1,19,0,2,0,0,18,9,0,0,7,68,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799617189666595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268500032224278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699070444965862,0.0,0.1976803710187505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930068316940382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521140034001154,0.0,0.1007351410438891,0.0,0.0,0.3908370410191929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880679875475456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174555340049132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457838156886844,0.09741184974350264,0.0,0.0,0.18768193599760186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765085594139746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39659435515291575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920498190190394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456704358929466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355075496260217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860514119465145,0.28191229644516985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200241811872796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545831448847136,0.0,0.1415519121897585,0.1481887621368215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071653519369434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203409732212942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217909093248754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903995900522336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Publicschooltran,2018/04/02,"When is the best time to transition from homeschooling to public schooling? I am a homeschooling mother of three. My kids are 6, 4, and almost 2. I am doing the kindergarten curriculum with my oldest and the preschool curriculum with my middle. I am homeschooling because public schools in Texas are largely terrible. Overcrowded and unfunded to say the least. 

I used to teach and knew I could give my kids what they needed for elementary school but the plan was never to homeschool forever. I wanted to enroll them in public school in middle school but I have began to question that decision lately. People I have spoken to say that middle school is the hardest year to transition because kids are already settled in their friend groups. My oldest does football and little league with kids from the public school but I think it will be different to be in school with them all day. I also heard that sex and drugs come up a lot in middle school which can be a shock to kids who have been taught differently at home. I want to be able to give them a good start to education and instill our values but I don't want to delay starting school too much that it becomes a problem. What do you think? ",5.320572408335533,7.1505583139013495,5.294492218412029,80.46767343708784,69.0,8.117013980480085,27.91585333685043,8.671277953709913,2.1771046689527824,956,33,167,16,17,298,121,223,0.04,0.871,0.08900000000000001,0.8751,2,0,1,0,0,0,15,1,1,5,2,3,6,0,0,12,0,23,2,0,1,2,33,39,13,0,6,4,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,5,10,12,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,6,3,24,3,31,27,5,26,0,0,0,1,26,13,0,3,12,121,34,12,0.08377190585621275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388546288826729,0.0,0.09244438123273216,0.06699236284725736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021331525344571,0.0925194883938061,0.0,0.0,0.08791344688022097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216207922365378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668850502441666,0.0,0.0,0.05402594900039831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504762335693494,0.0,0.0,0.07330935934368328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714881497331476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472196665931265,0.0,0.0,0.1607232909521019,0.0,0.07026390010103832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403005191748507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944983586531916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396145733724368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121987864724952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061581989723342875,0.062115806722416914,0.06461005817049258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058076891654065724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015840026138672,0.0,0.0,0.09384370666026673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323756378991825,0.0,0.8478164109509183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858837227332107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735530942271462,0.0,0.0,0.04884807198057912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235202976432807,0.0,0.0,0.14823252158770073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053946360801580315
parenting,Bellemc6,2018/04/02,"Parenting never changes - A funny little story Kids are like boomerangs they keep coming home. Daughter recently went through a relationship break up and moved back in the with me. Only 3 weeks later and she is out on a date. I woke up to be poked in the leg @ 3.30 am: ""Mum, wake up!"" Very drowsy I opened my eyes as missy nearly jumped on top of me wanting to tell all about her exciting first date. I promptly told her I had only been in bed for an hour of which she was happy to say: ""Your a mum your use to no sleep"" (Palm to the forehead time). So Miss 24 yr old mouth ran for about 30 mins, I said glad you had a good time (she was very very nervous before she left). Now go to bed!!
In the morning (9am ash) eldest daughter rings to tell me the night of hell she had with her 3yr old daughter who kept her up all night! Well says I, ""wait until she is 24 and wanting to tell you all about her dates!"" Reply: ""NOOOOOO!!""",1.909710526315792,3.4321376947368454,2.890723684210528,95.4881907894737,77.31578947368422,5.592105263157895,20.82236842105263,5.985473137389443,-0.10976315789473644,702,17,162,4,16,223,120,190,0.069,0.8290000000000001,0.102,0.7648,1,0,0,0,0,0,36,0,4,1,2,7,9,1,1,11,0,11,7,7,1,4,18,25,6,0,2,0,6,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,1,2,8,0,3,0,0,0,6,2,3,1,1,12,5,26,6,33,12,3,42,1,1,1,0,32,16,1,0,20,96,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795302720969044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946352286408335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851645786879974,0.12093555140825828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194176346000104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978819008167293,0.11775441608989155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494502338823076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082494258528225,0.0,0.13825815407895414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478714353268815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15253666509238878,0.0,0.0,0.06858859544597798,0.14070998576205376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921481669713405,0.0,0.0,0.10827921112349202,0.0,0.0,0.2634973614002644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29463624397335136,0.0,0.0,0.21354936944248404,0.0,0.0,0.15588905564897093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862047769930794,0.15072880996719304,0.0,0.0,0.1335452446383628,0.2232912135927629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049370839266034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36812722385966334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372778012375336,0.0,0.0,0.13415087693583425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125388721043975,0.0,0.3475150980983692,0.16561405406372162,0.0,0.11261424975836624,0.0,0.1262295549861033,0.13014508600157887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,woolsey1977,2018/04/02,"is it me or do dress codes tend to target girls? i suspect it so they dont have to deal with the boys will be boys mentality. 
Guidelines for Proper Student Attire
Students are encouraged to dress in an appropriate manner for all school activities. The
following are general standards in effect for all members of our crew...
● School attire should adhere to accepted standards of decency.
● Clothing and personal grooming must not be disruptive or distracting to classroom
activity or student behavior.
● Clothing must cover the midsection and chest -- no strapless tops.
● Shorts/skirts should be longer than an extended arm with a closed fist.
● No visible undergarments.
● Shoes must be worn at all times on campus.
● Clothing should not make any references to violence, drugs, alcohol, weapons, sexual or
racial innuendos, or profanity.
● Continued violations of the dress code policy will be considered as open and persistent
defiance, and will be handled appropriately.
● Students who are not appropriately dressed will be asked to change, contact a parent to
bring an appropriate change of clothes, or borrow school  approved attire.",7.722216404886563,10.320521256544506,7.786471204188484,61.91694938917979,64.18324607329842,11.794904013961606,39.434904013961614,11.4731,5.7505578359511365,924,51,129,32,15,298,118,191,0.108,0.8290000000000001,0.064,-0.8289,1,0,2,0,0,0,26,1,0,1,4,1,5,2,1,9,0,24,5,3,2,6,34,30,12,0,6,9,1,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,4,3,8,1,0,4,0,1,2,6,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,23,12,3,11,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,6,2,82,7,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21928732300846945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395372640975303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19182636438060172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341308233650239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154343836801154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404829232237771,0.0,0.23795700927971075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696692722595522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067847819753199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22784089067849084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916531318589252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6229942926948349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964882042844785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Waywocket,2018/04/02,"Losing It I'm losing my temper a lot lately. I am a stay at home mother with 2 children, a 3 year old girl and a 3 month boy. 

Before having my boy I felt like a really good parent. My daughter and I went everywhere and did everything and it was fine. She was so easy going. She would just sit in the stroller and go running with me. We would take trips on the train and even drive 9 hours to see family just me and her. 

I love my little boy but I feel trapped and like I betrayed my daughter. He has trouble with being away from me. I can't put him down for longer than 3 minutes. He cries in the car. I love him and he is so cute but my arms are tired. (I do us a mobi for some relief).

I gained more weight this pregnancy than the last and I am do frustrated. That and not being able to exercise without some interruption is hard. I am so frustrated all the time and trying to find ways to cope.

Mostly I feel trapped with a 3 year old who is ised to doing everything and a 3 month old that can't be out down. ",1.2407383040935684,2.8021849305555557,3.15664717348928,92.6793859649123,79.32407407407408,6.399220272904482,20.164717348927873,7.273561745256523,0.3223740740740744,779,19,181,10,19,262,123,216,0.177,0.693,0.129,-0.9234,1,2,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,0,3,6,14,3,0,13,0,22,6,1,0,1,36,33,18,0,2,6,4,5,2,0,2,2,0,1,5,6,19,1,0,4,1,0,8,4,6,0,0,5,6,29,8,23,23,6,31,0,2,1,2,22,9,0,4,13,121,35,0,0.1319874632849389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400656651780607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231160991946604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449820307646953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717647469628925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23724364279948176,0.0,0.12442603380162352,0.0,0.13347365443281214,0.0,0.12672866315177506,0.0,0.12063415028792612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500230340742316,0.11070482210062588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182348421234605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239418727475494,0.0,0.12998106448583074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075873987092839,0.14888760755465272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896481523346628,0.13228611256225292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953204206605076,0.0,0.11221102136850228,0.23824767749854825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070226792037453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154959201092732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465564583147328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268385578333902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455454871248526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517691976361836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068107437095184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923814634779676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769629512565111,0.15170017290582885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961082368584034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876466714406134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476550484486184,0.0,0.16072517265142222,0.0,0.12235370079094847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272312046230701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18752021402459595,0.0,0.0,0.16999119795306872
parenting,christonacrkr,2018/04/02,"2-year old doesn't acknowledge me coming/going My daughter just turned 2 in March. She's always been the ""observer"" type -- when she enters a new situation, she freezes and just watches for a long time before interacting.  Her development is otherwise normal, and she's talkative and silly at home and on playdates with established friends.  But one thing that is killing me as a parent is that she completely ignores me or is tepid at best at daycare drop off and pick up, or when she leaves or comes back from an outing with her grandparents. Like this morning, she made eye contact when I said goodbye, but didn't respond at all.  She'll walk over when I pick her up, but walk right past me to the door.

I know this really isn't a huge deal on its own, but she doesn't do it to anyone else.  Grandparents get big fanfare when they come and go, and she always acknowledges her dad.  So I'm feeling like she isn't all that attached to me or something?  She does prefer me to do bedtime, etc., so I don't think she outright detests me, but it makes me feel guilty somehow.  Ugh!",5.077108680792894,5.9898762631579014,5.306784005468219,83.60498803827753,68.66507177033493,8.459466848940535,30.23957621326043,8.634040054169528,2.197612166780588,845,32,167,13,14,267,126,209,0.084,0.852,0.064,-0.647,3,0,1,0,0,0,29,0,0,1,1,11,8,1,0,7,0,14,1,1,4,2,38,27,24,1,2,11,3,3,2,1,1,0,1,2,0,9,11,0,1,7,0,0,6,6,3,0,1,4,6,31,5,20,22,5,33,0,0,2,0,27,14,0,5,14,113,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725664558591447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145231099232961,0.16781830357765998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259414676149041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936998141538684,0.0,0.1718834980831087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821745943555445,0.1717267005385613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885636660749104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333039567191455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682234236055765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266489303646252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563043438771527,0.11700888446786095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654080151558528,0.0,0.08557152249838866,0.0,0.1861669286532208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429089951803594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120514858436654,0.0,0.09001260480330184,0.0,0.0,0.17342592280255445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003531527341894,0.0,0.0,0.14494562113338272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497844999132052,0.10932855140859188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15818571968164638,0.0,0.0,0.16047568781557894,0.0,0.0,0.1718660510856702,0.0,0.11098575889298827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186517748499506,0.0,0.15635244794950426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492562515215983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987250848547256,0.15579817016226352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841025361653536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609060835126645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881226464825534,0.10494757500813127,0.0,0.0,0.09550504256848134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781523386863265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547293426070037
parenting,weeklongcape,2018/04/02,"Bedtime issue with toddler I have a son who will be three on the 14th and a daughter that is less than a month old. My son is potty trained but sleeps in a diaper. For about the last week after he is put to bed he will pee in his diaper (while still awake) 2-3 times and then knock on his door for us to come in and change him. 

He has a bathroom in his room.  We’ve talked about how he should go potty in the bathroom not his diaper. During the day he has no problem going on his own. We think he’s doing this to get us to keep going in there and procrastinating going to bed but we don’t know how to stop it. 

Any suggestions? ",1.59258585858586,2.868735288888889,3.3563636363636355,92.85818181818182,77.59259259259258,6.390572390572393,18.93939393939394,6.980632752743323,-0.02722222222222204,484,9,115,5,11,162,85,135,0.07,0.93,0.0,-0.8462,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,9,0,12,2,2,2,0,19,21,10,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,4,8,0,2,2,0,0,6,3,1,0,1,0,0,12,0,22,17,2,27,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,0,11,76,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639897000313367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121834534186258,0.1727789856229849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935531744695344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479299803196836,0.0,0.4559692294441045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20934986500818206,0.0,0.17828170316586808,0.0,0.0,0.11023165701162296,0.1634967043230661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009833313036625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21047140716144155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192472328019985,0.0,0.20163488845075087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20072145981746176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601807364804874,0.16769102366760713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121587802844795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852139006284535,0.0,0.0,0.1169578318313827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.482537920842261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089045457161835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Unretract,2018/04/02,"Teenager can't retract foreskin. Getting differing opinions from doctors and don't know what to do. My son is uncircumcised. We live in Alabama and most doctors here aren't familiar with uncircumcised wieners. My son still can't retract and his pediatrician recommended a circumcision. I read online and saw that some people still can't retract until puberty and went to get a second opinion from a urologist. He said that a circumcision wasn't necessary and told us that it will retract on its own during puberty. We went to get one more opinion to be be sure and the next urologist recommended circumcision. 

I don't know what to do. My son isn't in any pain. He still hasn't started puberty yet and now I am questioning if that's normal. I hate living somewhere where doctors are so uneducated about foreskin. What do I do if everyone is telling me something different? 

My son is 13. He will be 14 in September. ",4.357147058823529,6.974568994117651,5.906691176470589,71.63886029411766,73.76470588235293,9.426470588235297,34.742647058823536,9.827888789773867,4.1485,739,41,124,22,16,250,93,170,0.032,0.914,0.054000000000000006,0.3616,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,0,9,3,1,0,5,0,23,4,0,0,1,23,35,12,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,9,11,0,0,3,1,0,2,9,2,0,2,6,2,14,1,14,24,4,15,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,8,8,89,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190078543919523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131154815107901,0.0,0.4601228487121024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318479019662286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348658968848581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794243510906932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470347876512978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646344797066221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593634949216085,0.0,0.14681779345354126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153989334609596,0.0,0.15944728318610868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388472317520524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786241843324426,0.0,0.14988709028174635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253837374799072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153591870852254,0.0,0.0,0.106062152041411,0.0,0.35900292045934257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122859028744542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097248043390966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318479019662286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802469371172412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778184870632001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aloeicious,2018/04/02,"New sleeping issue for my 8 year old. Hi r/parenting, I have an increasingly difficult problem on my hands. My child has their own room that is just down the hall from the room my wife and I sleep in. 

Each night, my wife puts her to bed. This requires her to lay in bed with my kid until they fall asleep. I sometimes don't get to fall asleep with my wife due to this, but that's not here nor there. My wife eventually sneaks out of the bed and sleeps beside me in our bed. 

Increasingly, the kid will wake up during the night and come wake up my wife (and me in the process) and either tries to crawl in our bed or takes my wife to her room to repeat the bedtime routine. However, now it isn't as easy to sneak out of the bed. The kid will complain, cry, anything to stop my wife from leaving. It's the middle of the night and no one is in good spirits. My wife will degrade quickly to yelling at her and berating her for her inability to fall asleep on her own. 

In the end, I end up leaving my own bed and letting her sleep comfortably until morning. 

This problem is unique to my wife. She travels often and my daughter and I do not have this night time issue. 

If you have any suggestions, I'm open. Thank you in advance. 

tl;dr My child wakes up in the night and can't fall asleep on their own. ",2.7340476190476197,4.1227940338345865,3.5454887218045097,92.20389724310779,74.82706766917293,6.5704260651629065,24.32080200501253,7.07126945348624,0.7035809523809524,1007,31,226,10,21,320,126,266,0.109,0.853,0.038,-0.9575,2,0,0,0,1,0,31,2,2,3,2,6,8,0,0,14,0,15,12,12,0,0,30,20,18,0,3,7,10,1,0,0,3,0,1,10,5,8,18,0,2,0,1,0,10,7,5,0,1,0,2,39,3,44,16,8,54,1,0,0,0,34,26,0,3,18,151,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256667467563587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991457633032057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458866585569976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336917893354358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21507611481786554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343456535332563,0.0,0.0,0.10183752531034228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534523859985415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571228771624719,0.0,0.12415553153619024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726380552942943,0.0,0.5697009102045759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740509846388715,0.0,0.0822742563207085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348174971046392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23235639079860554,0.0,0.12205607005381927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4860125695314659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008299214315833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150875917075897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128931376863728,0.0,0.0,0.1117830406690256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079832971882152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243312578464271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818757392675116
parenting,MostAwesomeRedditor,2018/04/02,"How can I tell if my daughter is smart/genius or progressing at a normal rate? Is there a site with a list of things children should know/say/do by the month...like for example ""at x months, they should know all their colors""

My gf and I like to believe our daughter is smart but for all we know, she could be progressing at a normal rate or even a slower rate.

Thanks!!",4.030799999999998,4.648542480000003,4.419999999999998,90.09000000000003,70.86666666666667,7.6,24.333333333333336,7.554174236665415,0.8707333333333334,286,7,63,3,5,90,52,75,0.0,0.882,0.118,0.7926,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,1,2,17,11,6,0,6,4,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,3,9,7,2,5,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,3,2,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29717119678630216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210593731612093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421333680806073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.434872646318936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886154705687775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42106709746312937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5168645523421356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097553612279026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305409680810695,0.242838038596488,0.0,0.0,0.17523278205664308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justgivemesnacks,2018/04/02,"Lo's first words!!! Besides mama and da, which she uses all the time though sometimes to mean us and sometimes her own foot.. baby girl doesn't use words much. She babbles all the time and uses some ASL, but no words. So imagine how excited I was when she started saying a word with intent!!!!


AOOO - Guh

or 

OWWW - Guh

.....😂

Not sure what kiddo is trying to say, but she's saying it distinctly over and over and repeats it back when you say it to her. 
We don't have a dog either.. and her dog toy is named Violet so we don't call that a dog either. She was saying it before her nap yesterday and then in car. Then later while reading books. 

First words and mama has no idea what she means! Haha

Any similar stories? Or ideas? 
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parenting,mieum,2018/04/02,"Need advice about changing our two year old’s sleeping habits For the past few nights, bedtime has been gruesome with my 23-month old. She is a pretty good sleeper, and had recently gotten into a really nice bedtime routine, but she is in the habit of laying on top of us to fall asleep. I mean, she basically hugs us and rests her face next to ours. She mostly does this just to fall asleep, and maybe once a few hours before waking up. But she is getting way too big to be doing that! My wife who is rather short and petite has an especially hard time with it. 

The thing is, if we don’t allow her to lay on top of us at bedtime, she goes into the most hellish of tantrums. She cries frantically and can’t be consoled except by being embraced one way or another. It’s been a very shocking and disorienting couple of nights. We want her to just lay next to us to fall asleep, but she won’t have it. Even though we are still snuggling her. There was a time in the past when this was her preferred position to fall asleep in. I don’t know what happened. 

I know it’s kind of an odd habit we have, but I’m positive many of you will have insight we could benefit from. Thank you!",2.746512605042017,4.466411004201683,3.627470588235294,90.25061764705885,75.51260504201679,6.440672268907564,23.664705882352944,7.1686216300943375,0.7606463865546216,921,28,196,10,20,294,139,238,0.098,0.782,0.12,0.4246,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,11,2,0,2,10,10,2,1,12,0,26,8,7,1,0,36,36,14,0,6,10,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,15,0,0,5,0,0,4,4,4,0,2,6,1,31,6,32,24,5,34,1,0,0,1,28,13,0,4,15,139,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115295783618654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371992819214285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039846693813548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481487509851942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420322532066586,0.1305506575416684,0.1296034633711553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325144514590484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792947157337135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164347289962323,0.0,0.0,0.09896211468726757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043357431644656,0.0,0.10569340869015967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619368304596354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286557351447047,0.12968542344028794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196205614376396,0.11853405987842115,0.12852271381895106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417630418957874,0.0,0.0,0.0874860572771583,0.0,0.0,0.25096157621909954,0.22144609913210572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476155607179776,0.12565257977370115,0.07995121999486299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22526437783426145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003545923126024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558565912701838,0.0,0.11649818382701267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807246763620535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422477716750123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862681567593196,0.0,0.0,0.07838549193883589,0.0,0.11592188256867712,0.0,0.13759863869334335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152564074809264,0.0,0.5676965790673587,0.0,0.0,0.09735184501081903,0.06959194209568283,0.18730558812158715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597992620577312
parenting,hi_sigh_bye,2018/04/02,"Our kid (2yr) is very autonomous in the nursery, but at home he wants us to do everything with him, how can we change that? We love him very much and he gets lots of love and attention from us, but sometimes we just wish he'll play by himself for a couple of hours so we get a bit of free time. He wants us to play with him all the time.  
How can we teach him how to play by himself when mommy and daddy are around?",4.298988764044943,3.5458950786516894,5.008179775280901,90.86013483146068,70.12359550561797,8.468314606741574,25.665168539325844,7.554174236665415,0.8709352808988761,318,7,79,3,5,103,56,89,0.0,0.73,0.27,0.9852,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,4,0,5,2,0,3,1,23,13,10,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,11,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,7,15,12,4,7,0,0,0,2,22,3,0,1,4,54,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537537656906949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856102584164866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827105170785028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110685425554474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522591089724094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18047385456444584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324812648061932,0.0,0.17009036698411514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468368787386836,0.3117656795560301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696605679828096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082043787166648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014240562682506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.623267872258148,0.0,0.0,0.28501740560062466,0.2037446212202357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986147570683071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlackWidow4G,2018/04/02,"My 8 year old daughter watched porn, apparently a lot of it. Help. I opened up my laptop tonight (one I don't use very often b/c I have a work laptop) and a porn video was playing. I had found the laptop with dead batteries under her comforter on her bed. My in-laws were watching the kids all week during spring break and I was at work. No, I didn't have any parental controls on my computer and I am beating myself up for it. She would take my computer from time to time to play a game on it, but she is never allowed to take it into another room by herself. 

I wish it was a situation where she ""accidentally"" came across something while watching youtube, but it seems that she did a lot of searches (I honestly didn't even know she knew how to do a google search). Many things she searched for were normal, like ""naked woman doing sex with a man"" but some things involved kids such as ""8 year old girl kissing 8 year old boy."" Still normal curiosity, but then she also searched for ""sexey 8 year old"" and I am terrified if she came across something involving kids. 

I never imagined having THE TALK with her under these circumstances. The worst part is that is wasn't just one or two sites, this was for over an hour during 2 days. Apparently she wasn't being supervised much (but still, my goddamn fault for controlling access).

Anyone been through something similar or have any advice? 

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parenting,furmom214,2018/04/02,"Are there any negative effects to very young kids playing with toy guns? Do you let your kids? Just trying to gather your thoughts. My boyfriend's son just turned 3. His friends at daycare got him into toy guns with the yellow rounds. Now, when he is not playing with it (e.g., sitting at the table or in the car, etc.) he pretends and imitates playing with the gun. He makes the shooting noises too. 

Is this a cause for concern? (Not trying to be an alarmist. I really don't know.)

What are your thoughts about very young kids playing with toy guns?

ETA: at what age should they start playing with toy guns? Does it matter? 3 seems like such a young age. When we were at the store the toy gun boxes with actual rounds stated 5-7 years old at the youngest. ",2.00375,4.498215782312926,2.121016156462588,96.21989158163271,81.65306122448979,4.76343537414966,22.11267006802721,5.985473137389443,0.15019761904761886,588,19,122,4,16,176,93,147,0.064,0.821,0.115,0.7251,0,0,0,7,0,0,27,1,4,1,1,9,7,0,0,11,0,10,0,0,3,0,24,18,4,0,1,5,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,5,10,0,0,5,11,1,1,4,0,0,0,4,3,10,7,19,11,1,21,0,0,3,0,17,7,0,2,12,69,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.2222724310503365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489264210338766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23398439252266576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932464672704214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540257780161857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759759361607146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18216992460194925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517743057423694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329121087525846,0.0,0.11127780165256188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520394525148649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390082002943612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459164545526085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735490221699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121806015585805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616507511403814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092842166596766,0.24775032403825684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758711965258512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667757848726953
parenting,jeshest,2018/04/02,"Warning...graphic parenting Tonight, around midnight, my 8yo vomited it the doorway to my bedroom, effectively cutting me off from all cleaning supplies. This is our conversation after I figured out how to get to the cleaning supplies.
Me: Why did you originally come into my bedroom and wake me up?
8yo: Because felt like I was going to throw up.
Me: Why didn't you go to the bathroom instead? Every time you do that, I end up cleaning vomit off of the floor.
8yo: At least it was on the wood floor and not the rug in my bedroom. Should I go to the bathroom first and THEN come tell you?
Me: Yes, dear, yes.
8yo: Ok!
She was happy with her new found knowledge. Nobody warns you about this stuff before you have kids.",1.4905920519059208,4.174569109489056,2.623588807785885,89.80899229521492,87.83211678832117,4.504298459042984,25.859286293592863,6.139981653823899,0.9643660989456608,556,25,105,5,18,177,87,137,0.02,0.841,0.139,0.9534,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,6,0,2,4,5,1,0,7,3,9,3,1,3,1,19,17,5,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,7,1,6,9,0,0,5,0,0,6,2,1,0,1,7,1,22,4,22,9,2,27,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,0,9,76,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19160043388207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120228047729288,0.0,0.18314497551149972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708033727807334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906299983046744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18134065477883984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665466309475625,0.0,0.0,0.18307462596212756,0.0,0.2359887120525017,0.0,0.0,0.11244885184951964,0.0,0.3669607031907196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291164597222189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515056254965384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787058635688116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389875720626789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463869884469516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881206072573874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550241095532047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884234039676048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anxiety_worry_help,2018/04/02,"Complex febrile seizure. My 3 yr old recently had a complex febrile seizure that lasted at least 17 minutes. It happened so fast, I didn't even know she was sick. She had said her ""swallows"" were hurting so I gave her a sore throat lollipop and the next thing I know I was begging God for everything to be okay and trying to cool her down. After a 911 call and an ambulance trip to the urgent care, she was okay and we were sent home that night. She did not have any symptoms indicating a cold or flu. This was Tuesday. 

Today is Sunday night. I do not know how to move passed this. 

She seems to be catching a cold now. We were exposed to some sick kids while camping this weekend but for only 10 minutes or so. I keep staring at her watching her sleep. I also have a son with a heart condition so he should not be getting sick either. 

How do I get passed the fear? Hubby doesn't understand I think because he did not witness it. ",1.8489303904923595,4.127225602150542,2.7558517260894178,92.7406196943973,80.61290322580646,5.206112054329371,25.918505942275036,6.339386263674448,0.8408322580645162,726,30,150,6,19,229,113,186,0.108,0.8390000000000001,0.053,-0.9028,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,11,3,22,10,3,2,0,28,36,15,0,1,8,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,1,1,8,7,1,1,8,1,0,6,6,2,0,0,15,6,22,4,13,17,3,23,0,1,2,0,20,3,0,4,14,100,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312964745548953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171203247195887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910409406744076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827578328555456,0.0,0.18248128123108506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821411149941033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085501587516016,0.0,0.0,0.20140142373689507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870185497589583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827076620435485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120912817351611,0.0,0.0,0.1795307882189217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916009967518008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908498755072528,0.0,0.0,0.2950869574160623,0.14589198279994414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902266257936192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903464706885664,0.3359198173089796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18780862305825125,0.0,0.0,0.1361217903442259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767204244345358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025025959655324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629359939189918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910851404934092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860279783412776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890586573873264,0.1146826812571308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696514084916452,0.0,0.0,0.12151516724732668,0.0,0.0,0.1863237189648587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NDgal,2018/04/02,"Should we stay or should we go? Hey all — i am mostly a lurker here — but i am desperate for some advice. My husband and i have the opportunity to move onto my parents ranch this fall. They are older and decided to move into assisted living. Currently we live 1-1/2 hours away. We have two boys —one moving into middle school and the other into high school this coming fall. We figure if we move at all this would be the time to do it due to a natural transition. 

Pros include: get ahead financially, our jobs are OK with  us working virtually, closer to my parents, a better school system, fresh start for our kids —one of which has been bullied badly in the past.

Con: the kids are dead set against moving, our eldest has autism with intense social anxiety and he just finally got into a comfort zone and made a couple friends. 

We are very torn. We thought about trying it out for the summer —but even that suggestion has created a lot of stress with the kids. We would rather have this be something we all are on board with. Yet we are not miserable where we are at either. Thoughts and suggestions?",4.5107857142857135,6.136314019047616,5.20589285714286,81.11598214285716,70.71428571428571,8.107142857142858,26.458333333333336,8.660442795831766,1.939547619047619,864,28,160,15,16,279,132,210,0.113,0.752,0.135,0.5286,4,0,1,0,0,0,23,16,0,1,4,7,8,0,2,13,1,23,0,0,1,3,50,31,9,1,6,7,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,9,28,0,0,4,0,0,9,1,3,0,1,5,0,23,5,28,20,7,38,0,1,0,0,30,15,0,5,11,120,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222598967976496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785672507624134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790141256839214,0.0,0.09589144853233993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157178005632647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892949028629898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707469680259284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585456985547319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580796375132966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872958263976753,0.0,0.060002192069222436,0.0,0.06526951656258148,0.0,0.09185268015671648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134089651844945,0.0,0.0,0.11309998219449564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396673864546288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282189653885666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763779492810072,0.0,0.10866987581230313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6103145678468778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556449769178968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550453466657295,0.0,0.10963331419674008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486902523905143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707083345609295,0.0,0.08841391013652067,0.0,0.0,0.08128845058996008,0.12241034545606165,0.0,0.0,0.13155547950474208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823494786283634,0.06696751139236994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797276167412405,0.0,0.11218766194662894,0.0,0.13814536061955224,0.0,0.0,0.09475981523857398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360911251274998,0.0,0.0,0.16316632696604633,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eirinngobrachhh,2018/04/02,"I am beyond done with cosleeping and I desperately need help (x-posted from beyondthebump) My son is almost 9 months old and I have never been able to put him in a crib or bassinet. The second his head hits the hard surface he wakes up and cries. He’ll sleep on me or my husband, or in our bed, but never the crib. He also does that thing where he leaves me maybe two inches of space in the bed and it’s seriously irritating my sciatica that never went away after my pregnancy.

He also nurses a few times at night, but he doesn’t really wake up for it, I guess that’s what you’d call dream feeding. I’m scared to cut out those feedings because he’s still not eating solids, he’s completely uninterested (that’s a separate issue and I promise I’ve tried everything, he’s just not ready yet). So I’m worried he’s legitimately hungry at night and I can’t not feed him.

I’ve tried Ferber and cry it out; but generally, if he sees me, the crying cycle starts all over. The longest I’ve let him cry is an hour, before he finally fell asleep in his crib... face down. I made sure his nose was clear, but you can imagine how terrifying it was to look at the video monitor and see my baby face down in his crib. Plus his feedings in the night turn into bigger ordeals because he’s all the way awake and I have to physically take him out of the crib and feed him, rather than just pop my boob out when I’m already in the bed with him.

I have to be laying in the bed with him for naps too, and as he naps 3 hours a day, that seriously impedes me from getting anything done or leaving the house, which is in turn exacerbating my PPD. On top of all this, my husband is in the military and works crazy long hours, and we’re stationed clear across the country from any family members or friends that could help. I had friends out here, and all but one ghosted me after my son was born. My husband also can’t sleep in the bed with us because he’s an insanely loud snorer, so I have no help at night.

This kind of turned into a laundry list of all my issues, so I’m sorry for the rant. But if anyone has any adivce on how to stop this cosleeping madness, I’d appreciate it. Otherwise, thanks for letting me vent. I’m kind of going crazy here.",5.017536267120511,4.902660846827132,6.012861658157064,82.10026177161845,68.54048140043764,8.871026825512601,28.742118486100978,8.515128840125781,1.8419732393224744,1745,54,372,24,27,581,225,457,0.131,0.782,0.087,-0.9629,0,0,0,0,0,0,49,2,2,0,2,19,12,2,1,24,0,26,16,10,3,11,66,48,38,1,5,19,5,1,0,2,1,0,1,5,0,18,26,6,1,1,4,0,4,10,5,0,3,9,6,44,7,61,32,6,68,0,0,3,1,42,39,1,9,24,233,62,1,0.08291722576892481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302962423913124,0.0,0.0915012205034432,0.19892662647072185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277311375139153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057977652179159116,0.0,0.06823381180231937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790346307806817,0.0,0.0,0.15163671365661474,0.0,0.07055645198710657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466775821168132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693713365248061,0.0,0.0,0.06620265774041885,0.0,0.3643227160567822,0.05347475105001708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256142303971014,0.16970622041500968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484502226971642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452065598752781,0.0,0.07816698101082731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083176786788097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812328588799926,0.0,0.04332082818197605,0.0,0.04712377023269766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134267235516172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742775476860222,0.0,0.08509699525913034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673300583841394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24497029493754904,0.09567534585750563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730880822623791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17269106198372075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559473957405805,0.0,0.16957696232529582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337913555257015,0.06962958640895674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845828387720208,0.0,0.0,0.0833014981175165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618373853227838,0.0,0.0,0.06148207226730496,0.1918526285934601,0.0,0.0,0.3112487976688745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700768026579445,0.0,0.056186858095693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794117818484214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335471378919965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311889804448359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301460802168231,0.0,0.13214858721684644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595421519546616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281904571505163,0.058689239171863875,0.0,0.06621780360761033,0.06932251353041696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814850400215194,0.0,0.062343434602162136,0.0,0.0,0.0763390412074105,0.0,0.0,0.05508652041346511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048349701148526325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125907069349064,0.2705703940674731,0.08099808123210964,0.0,0.09973921327128434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581583433619982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768650989999307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036472789916994,0.08420646766626293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RatchetyAnn007,2018/04/02,"Help! 2 year old hitting head against objects. My 2 year old grandson hits his head when he gets upset and I don’t know how to stop him. He will bend over and slam his head on concrete, against a wall, the door etc. He will then say ouch and cry but he will just do it again.  I am really concerned he’s going to badly hurt himself and get a concussion or something. Telling him NO! Doesn’t work.  How do you stop this? I had 3 girls and they never did anything like this. ",0.14761904761904887,2.4157103265306152,1.321530612244899,100.13358843537416,88.59183673469389,4.082993197278912,20.41156462585034,5.46131890053228,-0.3293292517006803,364,12,84,2,12,114,70,98,0.248,0.735,0.018000000000000002,-0.9723,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,0,1,1,1,5,4,0,1,3,0,10,3,3,2,1,14,16,11,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,1,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,1,11,1,6,9,1,15,0,1,0,0,17,4,0,1,11,49,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521873464401075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544146225836043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314454791550196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062535773179339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324383945317447,0.0,0.10510392658033817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5693959734815772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395933458934925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797882243817175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163650735382697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035084882390948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263477144237816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38812042387203904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847534126677335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470692798988497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423734939228413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30923113055202345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164303960759185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346362970922508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381866557921043
parenting,picklejuicedrinker,2018/04/02,"Do I tell my friend I think her son is on the autism spectrum? I have two kids, 6 and 3. I’m no expert but I have known a handful of people, as kids and adults, who have Aspergers or are on the spectrum. My friend’s son is 3. He has some unusual behavior that I think may indicate he is on the spectrum—unusual arm flapping and ear hitting, an odd gait, no eye contact, poor language skills, and unusually intense interest/focus on thinks like window cranks. I don’t think my friend has any idea the behavior is abnormal. 

She is a homebody and rarely takes her son and baby out in public. They don’t do library story time or play dates with friends. Maybe he’s just not sufficiently socialized?

I think I’m one of her few female friends and maybe the only one with kids. She regularly asks me parenting advice since I have an older daughter and have been through the feeding, sleeping, potty training stages before. However, I wouldn’t consider her a close friend or someone that I know very well. 

Do I tell her I think there is cause to be concerned about her son? Or do I just mind my own business and assume, if there is a problem, they will eventually figure it out on their own? If I say something, what do I say?",3.0850357142857163,5.080714241666667,4.157976190476192,85.60750000000002,75.33333333333334,7.238095238095237,27.67857142857143,8.11559375814309,1.8583571428571428,958,39,189,16,21,311,136,240,0.062,0.81,0.129,0.9534,2,0,1,0,0,0,29,0,0,3,1,6,10,0,0,12,0,27,6,5,1,0,41,39,17,0,4,10,6,1,1,6,3,0,3,1,4,5,14,1,0,11,1,1,0,6,1,1,3,1,5,31,9,16,33,4,13,0,0,1,0,39,9,0,9,4,122,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099543835849876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420182328022406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575495433803028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536167183598144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719721351498067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5739779944467386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977767091418347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804821549140515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06049218131037301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487875980415587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250228691978411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780722775728776,0.09417066416825197,0.0,0.0,0.13748741984442192,0.0,0.0,0.08584117447782758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184789858191306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19693321447740356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242515592173283,0.0,0.12390938793533572,0.12621886296957122,0.1049122559199124,0.09532265961283024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309720532547926,0.0,0.21644821685205173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4760330099362991,0.0,0.0,0.07220041827939021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095411565878085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216443995083706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132902018618067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mburke57,2018/04/02,"Easter Egg Hunt Anarchy We took my 4-year-old son to a local farm for an Easter egg hunt (our first public Easter egg hunt) and the parents blew my mind. 

https://imgur.com/a/RWQXD

The hunt was for ages 4 and under. Parents were to stay in the grass (where I took the photo from) and the kids were to go into the cornfield by themselves... as you can see this did not happen.

My son came out with half a bucket of eggs, we turned them in for a few pieces of candy and then we left immediately. While we were in line for candy I heard parents (who I know were in the field) complaining about how bad of an experience it was (eye rolls galore).

Do you all have similar experiences with oblivious parents?",5.224,6.138104733333333,5.5562962962962965,81.94333333333336,68.33333333333334,8.37037037037037,25.37037037037037,8.515128840125781,1.5087037037037034,549,14,108,8,9,175,87,135,0.041,0.959,0.0,-0.6486,4,0,0,0,0,0,26,5,2,1,1,3,2,0,0,12,0,10,5,1,1,1,18,19,8,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,13,4,0,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,2,11,3,14,0,23,8,3,19,0,0,2,0,19,10,0,0,4,76,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319240831469226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18244820732488584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120820378175984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568749957095486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065880465424424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106287305166776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766793559217959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331877949688165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106957052782958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738924431734803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7085116446104672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711666420860362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002693111292022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35446483694600434,0.0,0.17351178524028366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272555080137054
parenting,FluentLisp,2018/04/02,"Trash or tickle - game at gas station A simple productive game when fueling up with kids in the car: Declare Trash or Tickle as you get out and once you get the pump flowing open each door and each kid at the door has to present you with at least one piece of trash from the car, else they get a quick tickle.

This makes everyone look to clean the car but makes it a silly game at a time when they’re normally bored, so are ready for a little game.

Has worked for me for years and thought I’d share.
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parenting,Ecjg2010,2018/04/03,"Poll: how many of you have temp dyed yourkids hairas young as 7.5. Apparently it is the rage and she has been good that we did it. Grandparents are pissed. Tbh They called me a bad mom because my kid cooked egghead alone. Which she had been doing for a really looking time with my overseeing, so I saw no problem with her doing it alone. Think of chopped junior l, but only eggs with her.

Tbh, this is my passive aggressive moveto pisss them off. Wrong, yes. But calling me a bad mom...unacceptable. Plus She had wanted it and lots of kids have it in her class. 

Thoughts?",2.581272727272726,4.973684763636367,2.791818181818183,92.85772727272727,78.63636363636363,6.181818181818183,22.72727272727273,7.348242739294969,0.7385454545454544,444,14,93,6,11,135,82,110,0.198,0.74,0.062,-0.9322,2,2,0,0,0,0,20,1,1,2,0,2,8,3,0,4,1,13,3,1,1,0,15,18,8,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,7,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,7,0,0,7,2,16,1,11,11,1,4,0,0,2,0,15,2,1,1,2,60,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41348451358799226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333424984786396,0.12168422671045412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076610645345537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742865832073273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676273939343523,0.0,0.0,0.1697066162072916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237956891248168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467576330663239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518171699976815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19100581364827948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787929538406628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790604701991634,0.0,0.15847302270586705,0.11639785354217876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773884917309065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182490572710984,0.0,0.0
parenting,walkingwomb,2018/04/03,"My (30f) sister (33f) is pressuring me to be her surrogate. I said no, now my family is shunning me. I posted this in relationships a little bit ago but it was inexplicably locked. I think this sub is an even better fit though. I would appreciate any advice, especially from people who may have been in a similar situation. 

I'm a 30f with one young kid. I didn't have any trouble getting pregnant and my pregnancy and baby were healthy.

My sister is 33 and has been trying for the last five years to get pregnant without any luck. She's recently exhausted her options including IVF and has been told that her only chance at having a biological child is a surrogate. She wants me to be her surrogate and is willing to pay me a substantial amount to go through the process.

The problem is I just don't want to. I didn't enjoy being pregnant and I just got my body back after years of hard work. I know it's selfish but I don't want to ruin the progress I've made and I don't want to take on any possible health risks or complications for a kid that won't be mine. I'm also concerned I would become emotionally attached to the baby and would become resentful at best or totally unable at worst about giving the baby up.

When I rejected my sister's proposal, she completely lost it. She basically feels like I'm punishing her by not giving her something she's wanted for so long. She accused me of being controlling and holding this over her head because I've always been jealous of her (she is definitely the prettier sister) and using this as an opportunity to punish her. I admit we didn't get along well when we were young but I'm not that petty. I don't have anything against her now.

The issue is she's poisoned my family's opinion of me as well. My parents think I should view this as a precious gift that only I can give. That's total BS in my opinion, she can absolutely find a surrogate, the surrogate just won't be related to her. She would also have to pay more for a stranger than she was planning to pay me. It's not about money for me, I care much more about my body and my health - but if it were about money I would definitely ask for the going rate and not what she's offering me (still a lot - 5 figures)

I'm willing to burn bridges with my sister, because honestly I think she's being unreasonable and if she can't see that then fine. But I don't want to lose my whole family over this. I don't know how to persuade my parents to see my side of things. They're so focused on my sister's pain. Every conversation I've had with them recently circles back to them trying to convince me to consider surrogacy. It's like what I would be going through is just some trivial thing in comparison to years of infertility in their minds.

What do I do? Should I just stop talking to everyone and wait for this to die down? I don't want to permanently damage my relationship with my parents by being the daughter who bailed when my sister needed help - but at the same time nothing is going to make me change my mind about this. I just want the same amount of compassion my sister is receiving.

tl;dr - infertile sister wants me to be her surrogate - I said no. Everyone in my family is on her side, wants me to change my mind. What do I do?",4.467853340202649,5.49717045131376,5.957364245234415,77.9596390176885,70.14374034003092,9.213244032285765,29.524609307916883,9.50193526645192,2.641267381075047,2570,98,500,56,45,874,264,647,0.14300000000000002,0.71,0.146,0.8828,3,1,1,0,0,0,58,2,0,3,9,28,32,5,2,26,0,70,8,3,5,2,93,117,37,1,22,21,13,2,2,0,13,5,2,0,3,28,21,0,4,9,0,5,5,20,18,2,2,19,7,98,14,80,75,15,49,0,5,3,0,65,21,0,11,24,370,126,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635999194558412,0.060197324626090475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086137742692816,0.05650581586224005,0.0,0.0,0.18472208177381064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588340759692518,0.0,0.06348584658847678,0.0,0.0,0.10443582070341954,0.0,0.08279352080833326,0.15000054335784144,0.0,0.0,0.07126641656492726,0.060060085241126514,0.0741391549034821,0.1508634144003224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923785896337788,0.0,0.14367765838900565,0.0,0.07120140509349053,0.0,0.07616583624834393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047893004546626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638860337343871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044853323717692815,0.0,0.05721635028069154,0.1297801209748721,0.0,0.0,0.25607464364467425,0.0,0.0343368841818584,0.0485142785391304,0.0,0.0,0.062067692151165574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643911433865287,0.1954338058252524,0.15437723848974122,0.0,0.05431311528437383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083321982162709,0.0,0.0696943340219188,0.14436840715024926,0.0,0.0,0.045518041955126785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087946280402481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746421368141411,0.055354984691270204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663539174532063,0.06806276407461155,0.0,0.06009742139387433,0.0,0.07597291857968876,0.07413081065552914,0.05773389304475528,0.0,0.06425723759896868,0.04532985524507692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570651353980915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04992100626540456,0.05035374125618797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516061824736319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046016967389259616,0.10329586967071916,0.07226007620150128,0.0,0.2262150754757145,0.0,0.0,0.04707962320091882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655731292230873,0.06503815125982149,0.0,0.0,0.06497984263987945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410409813433896,0.1458179300706125,0.0,0.0,0.12919422072116205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822952972628484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763326798636351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052279747153746815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054232299375240926,0.05677505296768385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051059195944648236,0.05458276665088357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023158437287744,0.13054023826752853,0.06672035136183213,0.0,0.039598345528466805,0.0,0.0,0.06489006048743605,0.0,0.09221164992947754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058651663374408,0.0,0.0,0.40054549889020336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211688280305825,0.0,0.0,0.07581809111842057,0.0,0.06546195436133517,0.0,0.0494386375986125,0.0,0.0,0.2894440808449298,0.0,0.0,0.1311937123663927
parenting,Breakng_good,2018/04/03,"Not into my sons sport Hi need some advice please!  
 I have a 7 year old boy who is really into Football (soccer). He is in a local team and plays twice a week and loves it, but he doesn’t know any players or have a favourite team, he’s only ever been to one match with his grandad.  With his friends at school he’ll play football and is pretty good but i am worried he’s missing out on the classroom chat/banter and cameraderie that goes with the sport as he’s not connected to the game besides playing it. He’s oblivious to the premier league, fa cup, word cup even. 

I feel this is my fault.  I utterly hate football, always have done. My parents weren’t into it, I don’t have a team, I’ve never been to a game. I’m a programmer who isn’t into sport at all, and as much as I have tried for my boys sake I just can’t get into the sport, I can’t stand it. 

Don’t get me wrong, I take him to every match and training session, I make sure he’s got quality boots and gloves etc and support him from the side but once we come home the sport just doesn’t feature in our house at all, ever.   My wife wouldn’t have married me if I was into football as she resents her own father for missing out on so many family events due to going to matches when she was young. 

Anyway the question is, am I a bad parent for not getting into the sport for my sons sake? I feel selfish for wishing he’d picked something I’m into.  I feel like a failure because I can’t teach him anyskills and haven’t taken him to a match - and wouldn’t know how to act if I went.  Should I put more effort in?",4.150855855855856,3.963978642642644,5.113109609609609,88.05957432432432,70.38138138138137,7.620960960960961,27.761111111111113,6.742157984588678,1.1340451651651642,1220,37,273,8,20,401,171,333,0.115,0.779,0.106,-0.8015,3,0,1,0,0,0,32,2,0,0,4,9,17,2,0,19,0,32,1,0,3,6,58,57,23,0,7,11,6,3,1,1,4,0,0,1,2,8,25,0,0,6,15,0,5,16,8,0,2,9,3,37,9,40,43,7,36,0,2,0,1,39,20,0,5,11,173,45,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365811189530192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629940467965305,0.0,0.0,0.0950480398064494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670167824712264,0.08520217816885009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039903162636878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303270572955054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558799174245517,0.09231642383483044,0.25285899457562205,0.11776181573609674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317622272813304,0.0,0.2120149472033136,0.09985134497162647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107985554110546,0.0,0.21907135475035194,0.0,0.07943421689643923,0.11723200913096685,0.11178642193698668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799342567089964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402001852943067,0.0,0.0,0.1612752149702491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362730265970345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828430826292659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614741333739762,0.0,0.09329721372521924,0.14170431578816076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274665043028763,0.10363729895989847,0.10779884006586128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666455828471808,0.14884993541124572,0.09471141741553367,0.10630098836073533,0.0,0.0,0.31039493552933106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342491787088772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421958099532143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050693273853648,0.15657380618297884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953990836746767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414541764505794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076013747966528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860875040635847,0.13173108149848092,0.0,0.10508925499388304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948943027163087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112114646688678,0.0,0.0,0.1295677089412979,0.0,0.0,0.16072800502275786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194269226878906,0.0,0.0,0.1528159858141921,0.0,0.09000696307747139
parenting,FantasticTour,2018/04/03,"I'm (42M) becoming absurdly over protective of my daughter (14 F). How do I stop? She has respiratory disorder and some problems related to joints, and I've always felt over protective of her. I think most parents will do this anyway, but I guess I have a justifiable reason to be a bit more vigilant.

For a few years and much in te recent months I've been trying to stop having this image of her as a frail little girl who needs me at all times. I still hold her hand in the street and put her on the side farthest from the traffic, hold her hand when crossing, etc.

When she plays sports I can't stop feeling like she will get hurt in one of the clashes (soccer) with other players. I don't actually say anything but it's a bit like slowly dying on the inside thinking ""This next hit will be it, she will get hurt"" the whole time.

And... boys. I get irrationally irritated just thinking about boys looking at her or trying to get close to her. My mind always goes to them taking advantage of her kind demeanor.

I don't know how to stop any of this. I show it very little but my wife has made a few reamarks about me being too worried about the curfew for the night or whether or not her friend's mother will get here on time, or the way I direct her when in the street.

I don't know how to stop being so overprotective.",5.153974719101125,5.196834404494382,5.944342228464421,82.16685042134833,68.250936329588,8.772378277153559,28.29798689138577,8.472884824447931,1.8024908239700368,1034,31,215,14,16,340,145,267,0.152,0.774,0.07400000000000001,-0.9589,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,0,0,1,1,15,9,0,0,16,0,20,2,2,5,1,43,39,21,1,2,10,4,4,2,1,5,0,1,0,3,9,7,0,9,8,4,0,2,5,3,0,1,3,6,32,6,33,26,11,38,0,2,1,0,25,18,0,7,19,146,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.10871287531067142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539178813282414,0.0,0.0,0.07575759354390046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167485420091674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230354279894076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432455896526206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561831881759185,0.0,0.12767704014580994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424335578043832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056328505838266624,0.07958604535744446,0.10696397386517686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606937853298599,0.0,0.29101632332598376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272253226510972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385175917241095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600867305364986,0.12244791976604108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885137413340287,0.2233093593023746,0.0,0.0,0.0935501331891628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541184121641216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248487668564268,0.0,0.08892049879898369,0.0,0.08189373496965892,0.08260362219546735,0.0,0.0,0.11847793735810495,0.10454380091343077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548929024884359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236994124855202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659725052874602,0.0,0.1119903905665179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454043502005652,0.1099966356103828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859182519137257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896626658964217,0.4656878424990787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376089693032994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414687874522306,0.0,0.0,0.19487926966283234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512701162370771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191881855904566,0.0,0.08842620480243663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243770333263547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313475595418025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173962702260017
parenting,BWButterfly,2018/04/03,"I (36F)got laid off from my p/t work from home job and now that my kids are all in school, I’m going to work full time. My sister basically just told me it’s the biggest mistake ever. Need to vent. So I worked all the way up until my second child was born. I have three kids. I was a stay at home Mom for 5 years and then 2 years ago got a work from home data entry job part time.  Basically just grocery or spending money. My husband is self employed and now that all three kids (ages 12, 10, and 7) are in school we’ve talked about me working full time. With my husband being self employed, we do not have a retirement fund set up. We are stupid. I recognize this. We also have to pay privately for insurance. So we’ve talked about me working full time for 1) insurance and 2) retirement. We’d put all of my paycheck toward saving and paying off debt. My husband’s income pays all other bills. My children are old enough to be home alone (maybe not the youngest) and my husband can work from home. Childcare isn’t really an issue as I have neighbors and friends and family who’d help us and have offered.  I am trying to find a company that will do tuition reimbursement so I can consider going back to get my college degree. 

Anyway, I told my sister I applied for a full time job at a company with amazing benefits, 401k, bonuses, vacation time etc. She basically tore me apart saying it was the biggest mistake of my life. I’d miss out on everything. I’d spend all of the money I am making. I’d never pay debt off. I’d never save. And my kids would struggle without me home. My husband won’t help, she says. She said he will try but it won’t be the same. My house will always be a mess and I’ll always be exhausted. My kids won’t be able to do any extra curriculars etc etc. She said I will talk about going back to school but it’s really hard with 3 Kids and a full time job. And she says she knows because she always worked and she regrets it. She said she’d rather be poor. 

It was awful. She basically made me question something I felt very positively about. Am I crazy?? I know not to listen to her, but the Mom guilt is creeping in. My middle school aged child is struggling a bit with kids at school. I think that’s pretty normal. But I worry it is a bad idea not being here all the time in case the school calls. Basically, I’ve always been here with my babies and it scares me to not be here. I know logically that people do this every day and I know I technically don’t have to work, but i feel like that is a false security. We need retirement. We need to pay down debt, right??

Any stay at home Mom’s who went back to work full time have any advice for me?",1.8027315013596663,3.7418585875912416,3.501318162301416,89.09806855588953,79.0,6.341834836124233,21.876484900529555,7.362008331298528,0.7105584943466439,2078,61,443,28,51,692,229,548,0.118,0.831,0.051,-0.9845,10,1,1,0,0,0,68,7,0,0,11,21,20,1,4,21,1,52,2,0,2,10,77,78,30,0,9,15,10,3,1,2,8,2,7,8,12,19,28,0,1,11,0,18,5,13,12,0,3,14,10,67,8,55,44,21,64,0,2,0,0,63,28,0,2,28,282,86,28,0.05530129072862115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054039781266921785,0.049021257541974214,0.0,0.0,0.05727545919819371,0.0,0.0442244222158723,0.18406041592098826,0.0,0.0,0.11282032217257636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756983707605338,0.04617426782194175,0.033711153540144416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037468656692944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646880088889285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035664757558325384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057141016289493175,0.18502667219528726,0.0,0.05002318352268237,0.046593722563974815,0.0,0.04970123425907375,0.0,0.05213313521010754,0.0,0.02796199421025896,0.03950725314624731,0.05309791149994411,0.0,0.05054437785860556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04272564003614979,0.0,0.02889264192910258,0.0,0.09428699381946104,0.0,0.08845898812945771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0495390942123533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413457894843235,0.0,0.3883019251471092,0.0,0.0,0.06381026460740821,0.0,0.06242842593637075,0.0,0.05772017979428499,0.2195119916760499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156857252301854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039060937095089614,0.02701741727391261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052327418416691966,0.03691404098291473,0.0,0.05555757953557739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19430460998325425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301561906548635,0.08530352925269039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418352333826105,0.0,0.0,0.05802940194128984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059885908787656025,0.0,0.0383389519093522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05626129384390007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559307150125495,0.0619501019109973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085484582246808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04722700012112347,0.15781257405321153,0.13193341805604322,0.05536623940751882,0.3358071516742201,0.0,0.0,0.11538261398662165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04257363537950904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788763569169285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562583253413734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334724813601168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035434834130649816,0.0,0.0,0.29021964610552675,0.0,0.0,0.10568550635189508,0.0,0.07509189266534452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665206436781968,0.0,0.0,0.04562935647080128,0.0,0.043895590517175946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126485054535532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053308470831229096,0.0,0.4025999828562996,0.05616114512344745,0.0,0.03928445026206809,0.0,0.0,0.07122443621038937
parenting,boomlewende,2018/04/03,"One year old who doesn't like shoes or layers and winter is coming! My kid has spent most of the summer butt naked, partly because it was hot but partly because he panics when he realises he's wearing clothes. He starts tugging at socks, tshirts or jumpers, hyperventilating and screeching. 
He has never allowed us to put blankets on him at night , will kick them off instantly or panic if he can't get them off (sleeping sack) or wake up if he feels us putting them on, When he ends up in bed with us he does the same with out blanket. He pulls his socks off in the night. We had a cold burst in spring and I was layering him up before bed in woollen overalls and three jumpers and it worked okay sometimes but other times he would freak. Also winter will obviously be a lot colder and you can only wear so many layers.

As for shoes, he has been a barefoot kid the entire time (we live in the bush on a small island in NZ so it's totally doable), which has been fine in the warm season or last winter he wasn't walking, but now that the temperature is rapidly dropping I'm not sure what to do about the cold, the wet, and the mud! He thinks he can't walk when I put shoes on him! He will panic and tug at them and make his legs go limp as though we're torturing him. I've got some very soft soled shoes which after a few attempts he will wear for a little while but they won't do anything against the cold and the mud and he just won't wear gumboots! 
Has anyone gone through this?? Help!!

TLDR;
1 year old won't keep blankets on at night or gumboots on in the day and has panic attacks about jumpers and socks. I'm worried he's going to freeze or be sick all winter! 
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parenting,KindridH,2018/04/03,"Flying with sensitive child, help! Hello all, not really sure where the best place to post this would be but I figured you could help me. We're taking our sons (6&8) on a vacation this summer and neither of them have flown before. My 6yo is sensitive to sound and commotion and I'm concerned about how the flights will impact his behavior. A particular concern is the noise in the airports as well as the noise and pressure on the airplane itself. 
Has anyone taken a sensitive child on a plane? If so we're thinking about getting noise canceling headphones or something like that for him. Anyone with experience or recommendations please, we're looking for any guidance you can offer. Price isn't an issue on any gear we need for him to be happy and comfortable so all ideas are welcome!",6.4197945205479465,7.826540431506848,6.430027397260279,74.96668493150689,65.91780821917807,9.127671232876713,33.09315068493151,9.3871,3.1809830136986315,637,27,106,12,10,202,101,146,0.027000000000000003,0.78,0.193,0.9809,0,0,1,0,0,0,16,2,2,1,1,7,8,0,1,11,0,12,0,0,1,3,23,19,14,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,4,8,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,11,7,18,13,4,9,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,3,2,75,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266464571449064,0.0,0.2844991644263334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925270581201422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799678458351373,0.0,0.21952151870189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670132195823962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461819162129816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928792342471667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267601397097786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28041790733851185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23613877367121064,0.0,0.21832958733568572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219478846587744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565852793928854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510432943979854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854859232641544,0.2296168391548702,0.0,0.0,0.2003366301589184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400607295652245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103699394069604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714968710355274,0.0,0.15727733731714966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403410628009266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880779535733025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859547986501287,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bbvictoriarose,2018/04/03,"Tips on installing carseats on the uber with two kids. We are taking a trip in a couple days with my two kids (5 year old and 1 year old), normally I would get picked up by a family member at the airport. This time, we fly to a new city where we are having a family reunion. Unfortunately, I fly in way before anyone arrives. I am wondering if anyone has any tips as to, how i can make catching an Uber a bit easier? It is my understanding that the Uber drivers cannot help install the car seats...am I right? I will have a stroller. Help!",3.214545454545455,4.230468045454551,4.897954545454546,84.43693181818183,73.0909090909091,8.045454545454545,25.56818181818182,8.472884824447931,1.5424545454545455,415,13,89,7,8,141,75,110,0.049,0.888,0.063,0.363,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,12,0,11,0,0,3,0,14,16,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,11,0,12,14,1,19,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,2,7,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266141743651771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603738539481468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843221167374258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20326899298873596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601339881547,0.0,0.1200758093548296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510428127442657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727550673413793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24959568430697335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428188640654705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17982145918259426,0.0,0.0,0.18242463608221665,0.0,0.0,0.3907458164033161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590034715270557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999014901093432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856767695922874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637570991601911,0.1938281972804951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778730935821818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191286354829704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322625606682762,0.0,0.0,0.23979783992131826
parenting,HeroesHogans,2018/04/03,"Boost confidence in child - any ideas? My daughter(3rd grade) has friends in school and is not unpopular, but not very popular either (from what I can tell, at least). Luckily, she has 1 very good friend/best friend and one or two other friends she is close-ish with.

 

I am a bit concerned that she might lack a little bit in confidence. Though, not frightfully shy, she is a bit on the shy side. I have tried to be active with her with home projects to help build confidence, but I don't think these projects really directly build confidence/counter shyness as they are mostly science and computing related projects (I want to give her a bit of a STEM background early as I think it will be most useful in our future society).

 

So, if you have any ideas of activities, products, exercises that can help build confidence in a child, I am open to ideas! I know maybe she is so young that I need not worry so much, but let's just say I am slightly concerned.

 
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parenting,DavidTsa4,2018/04/03,"I feel like I'm failing as a parent. My 16-year-old daughter is battling depresstion. We take a very good care of her because she is being bullied at school too. Last Friday, I picked her up from school and asked general questions like how was school today? What did you have for lunch? Then she mentioned that she watched the series called ""13 Reasons Why"" in her class. It's mostly about bullying and stuffs. She said she would come back home and continued watching it til the end. It was her homework. I didn't notice anything. I let her watch it alone because I knew it was just her homework. I allowed her to sleep late that night because it was weekend. And I guess she watched the entire story. 
On Saturday morning, it was very late and she still didn't get up. I went upstairs and knocked on her bedroom door. She opened the door and what I could see was her disappointed face. This usually happens when I try to get her out of bed. I told her to go downstairs to have breakfast with us when she was ready. I tried to get her out of the room because if I didn't do that, she would spend her time all day long in there. She angrily went downstairs and acted like she didn't want to eat or do anything. My wife started asking her directly why she acted like that. Then we got the reaction which we haven't seen from her before. She freaked out and started crying. She started speaking in an unpleasant manner. We tried our best to be calm. It's probably the feeling that she's been keeping inside for so long. And then it was so heartbreaking to hear that she wanted to kill herself. Just like Hannah, a young woman in the series ""13 Reasons Why"" who takes her own life after being bullied. I felt like a failure as a parent. We tried to calm her down. And now we're looking for a psychiatrist and some good treatment options for our daughter. She's getting better, but we don't believe her much. What should we do now? We're afraid she would be out of control again. Has anyone ever experienced this? How do you raise a teen in today's world? ",2.669293915040181,4.9798306940298485,3.1946766169154266,90.51746842709532,77.88059701492537,5.51611174894757,25.73057787983161,6.551861593081955,0.9359585916570996,1617,62,318,14,39,503,200,402,0.081,0.8490000000000001,0.07,-0.7288,3,1,0,0,0,0,47,10,2,0,4,17,20,2,1,16,0,35,6,2,7,2,58,68,27,1,8,5,5,3,6,0,4,1,3,8,1,23,26,3,2,7,1,1,6,6,7,0,0,22,14,66,13,41,36,6,56,0,3,7,0,66,18,0,7,38,221,89,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893444845568474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060318467242095275,0.0,0.14197742707080374,0.0,0.16129218924974145,0.0,0.0,0.06633243101622853,0.0,0.21034528079041084,0.0,0.07340512900990813,0.09719107159484393,0.09052975557096488,0.07629434870626499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808617127805562,0.0,0.08795287809231997,0.0,0.0,0.07430962640460127,0.0,0.0,0.09675349022409137,0.06887555277187522,0.0,0.09475801014723377,0.055633764015182254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827059227262693,0.0,0.0,0.07640515159988405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803159695780468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723631359295762,0.06162770614189456,0.0828278917431572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802795289136773,0.0,0.049026365923226393,0.14470991474777006,0.06899397062447234,0.0,0.09503058132182847,0.0,0.07628382106722305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972268818033594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653079057484787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667626192655039,0.09543939931692123,0.0,0.0,0.0703174577210526,0.1946212693124542,0.0,0.0,0.08821176835019551,0.0609314938705595,0.2528682183455401,0.0,0.0,0.15268355367008127,0.07244084175590387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341467289780653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809538231572274,0.0,0.0,0.0982132310810492,0.0905205663676314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915740632253832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300821948584163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663650018639698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738949684149688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205773340948412,0.0,0.0,0.2619142412548519,0.06874200601032457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632726159747488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317635247693348,0.0,0.0688913101449268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875274286285617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297210313446248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05030179310953222,0.0,0.16353819469691724,0.08242986806500603,0.0,0.23427298666842986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376612784984242,0.0,0.09500866830196618,0.14235525621671338,0.10176261935815016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599369681876958,0.23352213184455656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18384046198311085,0.0,0.0,0.05555180726748308
parenting,TeamWheeler14,2018/04/03,"Parenting with ADHD/BiPolar, need advice! This is more of a mental health post but my main issue is parenting, so that is why I am posting here. Feel free to redirect me!

In summary, my husband has diagnosed BiPolar I, and a probable diagnosis of ADHD. He receives treatment and is medicated. He takes his medication religiously. He does not fight the meds or the illness; rather, he accepts them and does everything he can to manage them.

Also, he is a GREAT dad! Patient, kind, understanding, gentle...all of it. He solves problems I can’t solve and he steps in to take over when I am fed up. Everything would be great except...

It’s just not enough. Because of his mental illness (and now the lack of sleep from being a new parent) he is doing things that are making me really scared. He doesn’t seem to be able to make appropriate decisions about safety, and he also makes absent-minded mistakes that could cause huge issues. So far we’ve gotten off lucky. Unfortunately, today I had a full-on panic attack and can feel myself sinking into PPD because of these incidents with my husband. I receive treatment and I work hard to take care of myself, but I can only do so much. It is starting to feel like it would be easier to parent alone, but maybe that is just because I am “in the trenches,” so to speak.

Examples: 
My husband offered to take the baby at Wal-Mart so I could try on bras alone. When I was done, I found them in the paint section. My baby was sitting on the floor alone with a can of spray pain in his hands, playing. My husband was 10 feet away and saw no issue with the situation. It took the entire drive home to get him to understand that our son could have poisoned himself, and my husband still refused to agree that he had done something dangerous. These arguments get increasingly more ridiculous the more manic my husband gets, but with meds it is usually just something like this, where it COULD have been bad but it wasn’t, so my husband uses that as reassurance that he was doing ok, after all. He wasn’t angry or defensive, he just genuinely did not see how a 9-month old with a can of spray paint on the floor of wal-mart could be bad. “I was right there,” he kept saying.

My husband’s cat takes medication that we dissolve in broth. The cat has his own chicken bouillon jar in the fridge. Twice a day my husband dissolves broth base and half a pill in hot water, then stirs it. BUT he has never made a consistent habit of this in the three years the cat has been medicated. Sometimes my husband forgets and the cat will start acting weird and I will find extra pills (meaning they got skipped). Or I will take over giving the cat his pill, and my husband will forget EVEN WHEN I TELL HIM TEN MINUTES AGO and then he will give the cat a second dose. We also had an issue where my husband was cross-contaminating the broth base, which is why the cat has his own. Today I discovered that for who knows how long, my husband has been using the same spoon I use to stir my coffee to stir the cat pill! I had to Nancy Drew that mystery to figure out why my coffee was tasting weird until I saw him absent-mindedly take my spoon from next to my cup, stir the cat’s medication with it, and put it back again. When I pointed it out, he hadn’t even realized he had done it. He felt so bad he started crying, but he couldn’t explain to me why he wasn’t just using a clean spoon. “It was there,” is all he can say. Like with the child.

So there’s two examples. Something like that happens every day. Each month it is a new issue (like the coffee spoon) and none of the old issues get resolved. I am really worried that instead of the cat pill, it will be baby meds, and one night the baby will get a double-dose of Tylenol. Or that the baby will actually eat spray paint next time. Or that the baby will get forgotten in the car (because my husband has forgotten his dog all kinds of places) or that he will get hurt in his sleep (because my husband has fallen asleep with the baby on the couch and dropped him). I don’t know how to help him be a more attentive person!

He LOVES his son. So much. I sent him a text about our son whining when my husband left for work and my husband said he started tearing up. He would never ever do anything to hurt him. But, his mental illness(es) make him do really stupid things and mistakes don’t seem to help him learn. He still falls asleep with the baby on the couch. He did that yesterday. I can’t help him understand how to prevent that situation in the first place and then I always get that over-simplistic, one-sentence answer: “I was just really tired.” What can I do? What can we do?

TL;DR: my husband has bipolar and adhd, so he makes terrible parenting decisions that put our son in danger. Otherwise, he is a grade-A father and I have no idea how to keep my son safe without devastating our family. Help!",4.3006982320358125,5.5439388209424125,5.141648076485319,82.85110478792019,70.73821989528795,7.8398968055239395,27.453145155171107,8.229470617394643,1.7749983306775934,3814,130,743,55,69,1241,364,955,0.136,0.7559999999999999,0.107,-0.9862,5,3,3,0,1,0,131,7,0,4,4,47,42,8,2,55,1,102,32,6,16,6,138,162,66,0,15,26,30,7,5,0,13,21,4,4,2,47,41,4,6,25,1,1,13,19,23,0,8,38,15,91,20,88,98,20,98,0,3,3,1,118,40,0,9,46,503,138,4,0.04655797243810267,0.0,0.04543386503132223,0.0,0.1678609058560762,0.04549591182479031,0.04127083341906791,0.0,0.0,0.14466005488814376,0.0,0.1116971812134557,0.03873996274991081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0383132443202129,0.0,0.0,0.05296641497547367,0.043742747700330833,0.035800206952771974,0.1166218867740234,0.14190653931395358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04746895582685078,0.047827862677685073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858637626756391,0.0,0.05114174652929394,0.06005208115523233,0.0,0.0,0.04725536198705357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148639085844657,0.1429349111608438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04764042901474038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04810683125908536,0.0,0.061502203393342066,0.04211435156448955,0.03922709980798725,0.0,0.08368660710394726,0.0,0.043890712861207486,0.0,0.07062332932575746,0.033261024812503315,0.04470295480564187,0.0,0.042553143339637896,0.03960218757169889,0.0,0.051048413674979386,0.0,0.0,0.19459695191568885,0.08932529914208892,0.0,0.0,0.03723666371047495,0.10266065795417932,0.0,0.0,0.04117106126694897,0.0,0.04170679838678015,0.0,0.0,0.04948894755275991,0.0,0.0,0.1248273101012852,0.0,0.046701442460455406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968254485975732,0.052558283826735434,0.0,0.29156656250634194,0.0,0.04138286511260037,0.0,0.0969659275209131,0.051174088111625764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058537328078736,0.0,0.0,0.11372936799615503,0.0,0.0,0.04120234051376972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042020387869993736,0.04405427924561129,0.15538904065507225,0.0,0.046773741130898966,0.0507152809224128,0.15514623490548676,0.2345112954213264,0.14075845699686929,0.0,0.09402055995291568,0.0,0.07432425882225381,0.0,0.06845093354194676,0.03452214662892645,0.07181675710444431,0.08993195980361812,0.09902986375320706,0.04369150320961094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770952035967123,0.0,0.06309777410771136,0.035409436021765495,0.049540965255269236,0.05462574918055715,0.2584855931397345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04065262570823837,0.09728634367703286,0.0,0.044012332820618366,0.0,0.08917933556684571,0.0,0.05019736884190689,0.04454969183174277,0.0,0.0936072433971356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930491731547095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039760254073700194,0.04428729345704524,0.07404953676592173,0.04661265251450175,0.0,0.03710067615215586,0.08476925902498675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10466622344600768,0.0931831920979821,0.0,0.0,0.10752780539875308,0.0460470252255562,0.0,0.1318158900970324,0.0,0.0743625138609071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450406074360429,0.0,0.040693720036604784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061862096213119486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027148328137954047,0.053511540363174265,0.08826302798098827,0.0,0.05172762046870306,0.03160980713989607,0.0,0.04548037393403812,0.14540547378945287,0.0,0.16084455871829964,0.05127702897976865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804531398409084,0.0,0.0,0.04488022400521008,0.0,0.06778951687542849,0.04728188098865636,0.0,0.09922034341962192,0.0,0.0,0.029981807787051187
parenting,ObviousThrowaway3497,2018/04/03,"In a Box?! TL;DR: Kid w/ anxiety randomly skips the bathroom at night. Is this just a lower-case problem or a ‘Problem’?

Alright- so this is gross but I’m at my wit’s end here. 
6 months ago my 8YO daughter slept over at a friend’s house (which I completely regret, had bad vibes and didn’t listen to them) where they were allowed unsupervised access to Youtube.

Watched some inappropriate, super scary videos. (Scary to 8 year olds, I’ve watched them, they’re bad acting and lots of fake blood). 

Anyway, for awhile she couldn’t fall asleep without us lying down with her, wouldn’t go to the bathroom alone at night, etc. we worked through it (so I thought). She was seeing a therapist at the time for anxiety, so we adapted her anxiety exercises to include nighttime fears. 

Randomly, I notice a smell in her room. It’s a Bucket. A Bucket of Pee. She’d hidden it in the closet and then told me she’d used it because she was too afraid to go into the bathroom at night. Ooooookayyyy. So, we work through that. We discuss real fear vs. anxiety, facing our fears, practice going into the bathroom at night with us, then without, etc.  

Then, today I notice her bathroom smells like vomit. I then find a box. It’s a box of feces AND urine, but...it’s in the bathroom. 

Ask her again, same answer: didn’t want to go into the bathroom, used the box, then put it in the bathroom trash can. But this time...she wasn’t even saying she was scared just “I didn’t want to go into the bathroom at night”. 

How would you move forward with this? I don’t want to make the situation worse by shaming her, but seriously: a box of pee and poop. And she didn’t seem scared, just like, “Yeah, I did it. Dunno why.” That she let SIT THERE until it smelled so bad it attracted attention. 

May not be relevant, but she’s in several gifted programs. I know gifted kids can have quirks—is this a quirk or a psychological problem? 
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parenting,noble_neckbeard,2018/04/03,"I am considering giving up our dog for my mental health and to better care for our newborn. Edit: thanks for the responses everyone. After talking it over with my wife we will be sending the dog to live with my sister in law.

My wife gave birth 9 days ago.  About us: 30's, my wife works in education and has six months of maternity leave.  I telecommute a full time position as a high performer, and I'm a veteran with mild PTSD (this will come into play).

Last summer we adopted a 10-month-old pit mix.  She's sweet, but she's a handful.  After months of training (from a pro trainer, who regularly comes over to help us work with her), we've made plenty of progress training her.  She knows a ton of commands, has pretty good manners at mealtime, is crate and house trained, etc.  She's still terrible at going for walks and barks at literally every person walking through the neighborhood, or whoever comes to the front door (visiting or delivery).  Her barking triggers my auditory related PTSD and makes me extremely upset.  I'm normally a very calm collected person, but when the dog starts barking I will sometimes yell at her at the top of my lungs.  This obviously upsets my wife and doesn't make for a peaceful household.  I've come to regret getting the dog, I now know that dogs are great at other people's houses and to be friends with, but I really don't think I'm cut out to be a dog owner, especially a loud barking one.

Enter the baby, I'm now at the point where I feel overwhelmed, my wife feels overwhelmed, and neither of us wants to deal with the dog anymore.  I don't have it in me to care for a newborn and train the dog at the same time, so the dog is being neglected.  When she does require my attention to be split between her and the baby (because she's barking, or doing something she shouldn't be, etc) I find myself resenting her.  I hate that I feel this way and it makes me feel like a terrible person.

My wife's sister loves the dog and offered to adopt her from us if she was causing too much stress.  This seems like a simple solution but I still feel like a fool for adopting a dog before knowing how I would react to one, and I have guilt from feeling like a bad dog owner.  We have tried our best with this dog but I feel like it's not working out and I wish that I had not taken responsibility for her life.  As first-time dog owners we also spent a ton of money on this dog (initial costs to get crate, medications, adoptions, everything probably totals $2k), so I am feeling some sunk-cost guilt as well, that we had poor stewardship over our money if we give up this dog.  

I did not know that her barking would trigger the PTSD response in me that it does.  For anyone wondering, the baby crying loudly does not trigger the PTSD response.

Help me work my way through this, please.

edit: changed ""vet"" to ""veteran"" for clarity.",5.948954056695997,6.074188297491041,6.484115347018572,78.69162756598244,66.56272401433691,9.272596937113068,32.500488758553274,9.0124134603493,2.6623612903225813,2242,87,431,35,33,732,265,558,0.101,0.733,0.166,0.9872,0,0,1,0,0,0,76,14,0,0,10,14,34,3,7,36,0,30,6,2,10,2,90,73,34,0,9,14,8,9,5,1,6,3,3,1,5,21,35,0,2,17,1,5,11,9,16,1,3,8,13,67,18,71,53,11,57,0,4,0,1,60,26,0,8,23,281,88,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622930704097279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619755969262967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969226417338356,0.049136748965926284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05867529844755617,0.04283797206286016,0.0,0.05979743123270378,0.0,0.07374752835782845,0.062151053090459166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432966946692235,0.07219007154702431,0.07433986930419194,0.2421370187501352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771919574552104,0.04532048676687552,0.07244872150998871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449000405336846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674668632439298,0.0,0.0,0.05920831463460089,0.067149181993437,0.06315714121572444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28425847258522485,0.2008131349814423,0.0,0.0,0.06422855403221889,0.059774461875618835,0.0,0.0,0.05429300341374683,0.0,0.073429833025869,0.13482517041338254,0.03993795507787736,0.058941938339568886,0.0,0.07747659865882492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693803684459039,0.0,0.0746972677557581,0.0,0.0,0.0942054687657906,0.07424763548871502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217198437429428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448154591510155,0.05728214634655353,0.0,0.0744093138811958,0.0,0.0,0.04963613392926389,0.1716600063851665,0.0,0.06205264125874176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342442745583678,0.06649432762917677,0.14072398808337566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079299072651059,0.07081899205860254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827451390258585,0.0,0.051658986134867316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885294673371818,0.0,0.0,0.0737400426308523,0.0,0.09523805941298924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048718681455275206,0.18407989365295446,0.0,0.0771390178837303,0.06643101483927044,0.0,0.0,0.07149324424734689,0.07576653952927638,0.0,0.32858306678756555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045018897117338884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397420385729664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054099845643964584,0.06950212406442051,0.0,0.0497398273955237,0.0,0.11224075038042863,0.0,0.08049786649900077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564830438439048,0.0,0.06469824429103739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04502831481969983,0.0,0.0,0.08195389218491644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04771098082292948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381206723877491,0.0,0.0,0.05798286004704005,0.041449033025385947,0.11155940291501974,0.0,0.0,0.06318416662133841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081086583536896,0.0,0.0762084329030965,0.2046392959833704,0.0,0.0,0.09984032025645616,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BrothasMotha,2018/04/03,"Need some guidance: how do I discuss congenital heart problem with child? I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter. Looking at her, you'd never know she was born with complete congenital heart block (heart arrhythmia, her atria and ventricle beat out of sync to each other). It literally breaks my heart to even type this out. Most days I am as to ignore this and put it out of my mind.



She is asymptomatic. Not on any medications. She has as much energy as any 4 year old. It is something that they will monitor annually. When/if she develops symptoms, they would place a pacemaker. This procedure has less risks the bigger the child is.



How do I go about discussing this with her as she ages? She is to the point where she has her own personality and understands basic things. She knows what her heart is and what it does. She has her annual appointment coming up. Obviously I don't think we will tell her much at this moment. But I certainly don't want her to feel negative about it... I dont want her to feel like something is wrong with her. Telling her she has a ""heart problem"" or ""heart block""



I have a medical background, although not in cardiology. But I understand things well enough... But I don't know how to discuss it with her. I feel like i need to have a plan with how to discuss this with her as she ages. 



When do we tell her she has an ""issue"" with her heart? What do I say to her if at some point she needs a pacemaker?",3.213881969157772,5.12879831672598,4.2616592526690384,85.36242956702255,74.72953736654804,8.242052194543298,25.587336892052196,8.959647251330699,1.8928468564650056,1121,39,233,25,24,364,130,281,0.092,0.852,0.056,-0.8485,0,0,2,0,0,0,42,2,1,2,2,10,9,0,1,10,0,29,11,8,4,3,57,46,20,0,9,7,1,3,2,0,3,3,1,0,3,19,19,0,3,9,0,0,3,8,5,1,0,1,5,49,4,36,41,9,31,0,0,1,0,46,14,0,5,15,173,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108176366247139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851445736038833,0.08339348713204413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05129506548266121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960374519286003,0.0,0.09321728122981864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218343185207368,0.0,0.05253372555456483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064955061270635,0.11364311863680494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04520295714168333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7540179456322468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301641746412723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113508225880716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771594611130178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679141322298708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025119561089565,0.0,0.0,0.08031013558105596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693833255527465,0.17692800028248715,0.0613441730504268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692231638643412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944902017153534,0.0830996906931889,0.0,0.15037716932690134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221316669006169,0.0,0.07995709036786837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325136055734737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246360632372108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266984910426667,0.0,0.0,0.20855767132681807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568227495543407,0.05096437664342466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560254934461996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938264795860108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715137059533479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650111164635512,0.08696169896568423,0.0,0.1024390005568594
parenting,buniboo,2018/04/03,"Child’s first concert Hello fellow parents,

My daughter is 5 going on 6. One of her favorite bands is touring this summer. I am thinking about taking her to her first concert. 

How young is too young? I plan on getting sound canceling headphones in case the sounds is too much for her ears. 

What are your thoughts? When did you take your kiddo to their first concert?

Thank you!",2.84257042253521,5.627044014084512,2.6627992957746507,91.77898767605636,80.69014084507042,4.113380281690141,25.77640845070423,5.148860815047168,0.5865056338028172,299,12,54,1,8,89,54,71,0.0,0.911,0.08900000000000001,0.7455,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,4,1,4,5,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,1,1,0,3,14,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,6,12,1,8,12,1,11,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,7,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6947722363690519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224862286993445,0.0,0.15473599424005027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014806880884767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844956230736627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023210326276934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094228152742977,0.0,0.0,0.2506674950291773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445813259577025,0.0,0.21615012153231306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thismoustacheisonlyt,2018/04/03,"My 2.5 year old just discovered finger sucking and she is a million miles away all the time now. Should I do any thing? This started 2 weeks ago. She really took to it quickly. Her fingers are getting chewed up. I can’t imagine telling her to stop is going to accomplish anything. But it feels like she’s is completely checked out when in her thumb sucking state. There’s addiction in my family and it this behavior feels very similar to other compulsive self soothing behavior I’ve seen in my family. 

She does have a molar coming in which seems have have triggered this. 

What is the current scientific/psychology view on this behavior?

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parenting,AmazingMarch2,2018/04/03,"Discipline for Strong-Willed Kid. So my wife and i have realized our daughter is very strong-will and independent. My daughter is 4 1/2 years old, her attitude has changed a lot in the last 6 months. More defiance and independent, pouring her own drinks, pulling shoes on, picking outfits, etc. That part has been fun and great to watch her grow into that even if it takes an extra 10mins or makes a mess its worth it to avoid a argument. Lately her temper has been getting worst as well, full on melt downs to the point we are afraid we might get kicked out of our Apt. or the cops called (she is very destructive and screams bloody murder). She hasn't hurt herself or really attempt to hurt one of us. Once she has cooled down 30-45mins its like nothing has happened and shes back to being her sweet self, I can tell that she feels bad by the way she acts and talks but she will still do it next week (meltdowns seem to happened 1 a week or so over the smallest of things 99% of the time from her not getting her way.) At PreK and when she has spend the night for others like a friend and my dads, they all say she is great, she helps clean and cook very soft spoken and polite, i have tuned in on the PreK webcam and watch for a bit and shes is always helping and picking up etc. So i am happy she is respectful for others and behaves well for them. My wife and I are just looking for something to help with the meltdowns that still enforce our rules and boundaries without disrespecting our neighbors by letting her carry on for an hour. Nothing we have tried seems to work at all, spanking makes it worst, timeouts she just refuses or screams louder, ignoring her can last for an hour, taking toys and privileges away does nothing has she just says ""i don't care"". She is very quick witted and to be blunt a smartass which cause a lot of the power struggles, most time when she refuses to do something she has a well though out idea as to why she shouldn't do it. I can understand why this makes sense in her mind but shes not always capable of seeing the bigger picture or listening to reason most times. I was thinking of doing a behavior chart with rewards for good behavior and doing choirs(that isnt an issue) since she is so competitive and spin it has a game. Any ideas or suggestions from others in the same boat? Thanks",6.330814578434669,6.180191879912666,5.914061135371183,84.0366073228082,65.79039301310043,9.054887470607996,30.934161907961034,8.502166056373571,2.0920608666442737,1843,61,375,23,26,568,238,458,0.081,0.7709999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.9881,1,1,3,0,0,0,45,8,0,2,4,18,33,3,3,27,1,46,3,1,9,2,77,66,40,1,2,16,5,2,2,2,3,0,5,2,2,18,29,2,5,9,4,2,3,7,15,3,1,3,13,53,18,55,57,17,47,0,2,4,0,63,21,0,15,23,264,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181114706780798,0.0,0.0,0.0579490135337616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080062147546798,0.06552495217937705,0.07115083220996969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303253513879893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701387951915862,0.0,0.0868822089398152,0.08753911447862373,0.0901460019347194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457208098424575,0.0,0.0,0.08347810184872914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900741448823452,0.05628359832655976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043087183666502465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583677421802199,0.0,0.13356371080496734,0.0,0.0,0.07147416503858815,0.0,0.18789932449343374,0.0,0.0,0.15071040367168334,0.09071278204466944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171353133569672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678389049125099,0.0,0.18244849795619586,0.192394364586784,0.0,0.08894215374479436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892293660758734,0.09612605153630097,0.0,0.0,0.0871379476713393,0.0,0.08326333318876887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155900393169855,0.0,0.0,0.14489321979400085,0.0,0.0,0.1706447027787561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039947915061727,0.08604269666541743,0.0,0.0680176725168168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062694938215557,0.07996835499391396,0.0,0.2452978125251989,0.0,0.08941864019785496,0.09075102378976707,0.05774378115309741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922793679008223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055556793787047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054590808735921766,0.08761504832243455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553252253242495,0.0,0.0,0.06790519490291202,0.15515278029596427,0.08889766308117482,0.0,0.0,0.07049059646788143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120509454040294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610536305285018,0.0,0.0,0.08908505318913902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281419095500428,0.06849246073861964,0.0744815264033837,0.07845437595763878,0.0,0.0,0.0566129534031481,0.0546022288288436,0.08372314791857882,0.0,0.1490683759456651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057855282903068475,0.0,0.0,0.08871165399725753,0.10250296063378976,0.0,0.0,0.28124467061371583,0.0,0.13527914758449042,0.13670840959003674,0.0,0.2298551259157093,0.0,0.15378627806959325,0.0,0.0,0.08214406513405419,0.0,0.062037418629804775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05487556326390705
parenting,5d5dla,2018/04/03,"4yo's outbursts to my significant other - how do I manage? 44M with a 4yo daughter and am with a 42yo woman with an 8yo of her own.  I split custody of my 4yo with her daughter's mother 50/50 with a 2-2-3/2-2-3 schedule.

My girlfriend is very nice, kind, caring, and compassionate with my daughter.  She's very nurturing and generous with her.  It has only been recently (January) that I've been introducing her to my daughter and they've been hanging out more together.

The other day, we were at an Easter event at one of our city's attractions.  It was loud in there, as I was hanging up our jackets my daughter started to wander away and I raised my voice a little bit to tell her to ""stop and come back to Daddy.""  She had had a little scowl on her face but wandered back.  The girlfriend approached her to take her and she in turn, raised her voice and told her ""Stop it, Auntie.  Don't come here!""  apparently with an ever bigger scowl and look of disrespect.

I think she's starting to test her boundaries with the girlfriend, but the GF is sort of worried that this is her typical behaviour.  There has been other times she's shown a snappy and disrespectful attitude towards her and it's worrisome.  She's warm one moment, and the next she can be super cold the next.  GF's been great so far too, but she feels that she's in a dilemma because she wants to show me that she cares for my daughter.  She's making the excuse that my daughter has her own real mother and that subconsciously her little brain is telling her to be loyal to her mother and not accepting of another person in a similar role.  She's never seen kids with so strong negative emotions.  She's given her attention to my daughter over her own about how mine is younger and needs more attention but her own is feeling left out.  

She's now suggesting that a little girl with such strong emotions is hard for her to deal with and is adding tension to our relationship.

I've talked with my daughter and said she has to be respectful to everybody and have disciplined her for it.  I've told her to be nice to others, not to be bossy and tell people what to do.  Aside from that, I can't really reason with her yet.  Am I doing enough?

How can I manage the GF's expectations and also keep my daughter's attitude in check?  ",5.189554022988503,5.837996848888893,5.8803908045977025,80.54100000000003,68.28888888888889,8.962452107279693,29.73946360153257,9.035553425615538,2.346504980842912,1802,64,351,31,29,588,200,450,0.063,0.805,0.132,0.9862,1,0,0,0,0,0,50,4,0,0,3,17,17,0,1,20,0,37,2,2,5,2,67,58,31,0,3,6,13,4,0,6,0,0,4,0,4,19,39,0,4,7,1,1,5,6,1,0,2,15,11,66,16,60,38,8,44,0,0,2,0,80,21,0,1,18,255,85,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706535383886695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11416238103517727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022893621407197,0.16743257002472695,0.0,0.06636770734871551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886064725055485,0.0,0.0,0.1215377929672048,0.0,0.0,0.2220056794913157,0.0,0.0,0.1875681553636372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021379999575325,0.1122428377306918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24493397183588356,0.0,0.11249446691858957,0.0,0.0,0.09848147144330112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009848395861177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003239132369575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752843678548967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677094143519747,0.0,0.1133740265180283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829036442771998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4364756626698576,0.0,0.0,0.09142553743415596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267328500328976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807276301569546,0.08396923674702138,0.0,0.2315744238472088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475497403636626,0.08280249446702276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754785307879282,0.095063327560689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392081839653855,0.06974655533789507,0.111939133303808,0.10749852708700633,0.11688839434097135,0.0,0.0,0.10356274438209936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412112895156194,0.0,0.0,0.1820446848148923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185862228905387,0.08750764668542657,0.2854782713372516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976114592853441,0.0,0.0,0.06348447032734685,0.0,0.0,0.20806481001045385,0.0,0.0,0.11842209117879647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796625424376614,0.06421586179848662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056537829484593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dothrakipoe,2018/04/03,"Just watched Bitch on Netflix I really recommend it. It's under the thriller section but it's really a somewhat indie style film about a woman under so much emotional labor she has a mental break down. I won't give too much away but it reminded me so much of my first marriage, I related to it so hard. 

It's a seemingly ridiculous plotline with an equally bad title. But it almost gave me a sense of catharsis watching her husband have  to learn absolutely everything she had to do just to hold the household together. Anyone else seen this film? Thoughts?",2.996142857142857,5.849158257142861,4.230119047619052,80.31946428571432,80.71428571428572,7.30952380952381,29.702380952380953,8.344100000000001,2.8126666666666664,447,22,75,10,12,146,74,105,0.125,0.823,0.052000000000000005,-0.8640000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,7,3,2,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,10,6,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,4,9,0,13,5,6,8,0,0,3,0,8,6,1,3,1,59,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339627090727052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633707088742694,0.2393979279459177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21951809893052945,0.0,0.1950846424014302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518124399742068,0.2628202910628625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099859503940776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19873915988967086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22413452383472374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093009144525141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354602039788623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5152700593052086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993592083146404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127025343308964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548881769318631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crich2984,2018/04/03,"Why now? At the beginning of the school year, the elementary school my daughter attends asks parents to pay for all field trips and activity fees up front. All except the last major field trip, at the end of the year, for which they collect a non-refundable deposit. Two or three weeks ago, the school sent home a permission form and notice for parents that the rest of the funds for that trip are due, if your child is to attend. All together, for my daughter and I(chaperone) the total came to $120.

Here’s where it gets interesting.

This past Friday, a letter was sent home in each child’s daily folder. It basically said that between now and the day before the field trip, any student with a certain amount of behavior infractions will not be able to attend the field trip. There was no mention of whether parents would be able to bring their child separately, or a full refund. Now, my daughter has basically had an excellent year and I’m not worried that she won’t be able to attend the field trip for behavioral issues. However, I’m well aware that certain students have had behavioral issues all year long. They’ve also been able to attend field trips, activities, and other school functions ALL YEAR. 

What’s really going on here? It seems to me that they’re trying to make sure they weed out their least favorite students(headaches). It also would’ve made sense to start this practice of excluding children with bad behavior records from field trips way back at the beginning of the school year. I know that some other parents read that letter, and are just as pissed as I am, even though I know she won’t be among the students who’ll potentially be excluded. 

I sincerely hope that the parents of any student who’s denied the opportunity to attend this trip receive a full refund.",7.693197526949903,7.955785057228919,7.112086239695628,75.19499365884595,62.88554216867471,10.242485732403297,33.43753963221306,9.93914555978268,3.1890096385542166,1437,53,254,27,19,447,173,332,0.057,0.866,0.077,0.7156,6,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,1,4,2,14,11,1,0,26,0,21,1,1,2,9,37,40,16,0,3,8,8,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,4,22,12,0,0,3,1,6,22,5,2,1,2,10,1,15,9,40,20,15,55,0,0,0,0,29,11,1,6,21,166,37,12,0.3543669505900433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853123010494195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169356117880236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049083908087588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828213156949149,0.0,0.0,0.06812157780932387,0.07397040045631786,0.0,0.0,0.07538504364823483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132534676055123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057134341771050035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846598413483898,0.0,0.0,0.058514007187603925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046285526431696505,0.0,0.050348726102475656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772947237844078,0.08799158500393395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849335144959265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973754042739518,0.07221409036443424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840089999864362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382764422067744,0.05913567280583044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086228049377463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918532026612839,0.0,0.08457083794861195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886157118298913,0.0,0.05675413565808676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842710298065713,0.0,0.0,0.44829784093212,0.0,0.08065059068132346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270568788607941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349666429262965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704093243385902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060147974548270686,0.0,0.0865412547986635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031999773863462,0.07106294816959564,0.0,0.07965461158508648,0.0,0.07994026366356757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996920992632848,0.0,0.12586605720732694,0.0,0.0,0.3423010467047021
parenting,vanquishthefoe,2018/04/03,"Thoughts on Utah’s free-range parenting bill? The bill changes the definition of child neglect, and includes various activities that children can do without supervision, permitting “a child, whose basic needs are met and who is of sufficient age and maturity to avoid harm or unreasonable risk of harm, to engage in independent activities” (including letting children walk, run or bike to and from school, travel to commercial or recreational facilities, play outside and remain at home unattended.)
Under the law, state child-welfare authorities can no longer take children away from their parents if their kids are caught doing those various activities alone, as long as their kids are adequately fed, clothed and cared for.
What are your general thoughts on this? Should this be more wide-spread in the United States, or could this be dangerous to kids?",15.952765957446804,12.21564810638298,13.233531914893618,50.41200000000002,50.20567375886525,17.52113475177305,53.73191489361702,15.112257680678324,7.805146382978723,697,36,102,22,5,213,99,141,0.141,0.792,0.066,-0.8943,2,2,0,0,0,0,21,0,1,3,0,0,9,1,2,5,0,14,1,0,2,0,23,22,13,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,8,8,6,1,2,2,3,2,4,2,6,0,0,5,0,4,3,21,12,3,15,0,1,0,0,17,7,0,5,2,67,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24338822300005064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078941502176186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395972713123591,0.0,0.24859791603870504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762768043758515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357232845123361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24030252849895414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079668319394086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424887461832927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5218774393584195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23783166199761194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766900971073002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373126113528502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22653077195882285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jellyjellyoh,2018/04/03,"My 15 month old hits people and objects My daughter is 15 months old. When we hold her up she will sometimes grab peoples faces and start hitting their face. She does this while she’s smiling. When we firmly tell her no that’s not nice, she thinks it’s funny and starts laughing.

Sometimes she will start playing with a puzzle and get so frustrated that she couldn’t solve it so she starts hitting it and crying. She does this with other things as well. She would play with a sticker and put it in her mouth so we tell her no eating stickers and take it away. She will have a meltdown and start hitting the ground and objects around her. 

I don’t think she understands the concept of a no. She has a big temper problem as well. It worries me that she wants to hit things when she’s mad. She doesn’t listen when she’s crying and i always ends up picking her up to console her. What can I do?",1.728175438596491,4.072844800000007,2.1991812865497096,96.16921052631581,81.55555555555556,4.23391812865497,21.695906432748536,4.9825596385082,-0.16127777777777785,704,22,147,2,19,215,95,180,0.159,0.742,0.099,-0.9135,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,0,10,10,3,0,7,0,12,4,3,1,0,28,29,20,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,15,17,1,1,3,2,0,1,7,4,2,0,0,2,33,6,14,19,0,24,0,0,0,0,31,8,0,1,15,105,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447792870262295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247574032289145,0.0,0.0,0.12926133111748606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30225125670373065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407951009955163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077911409773813,0.0,0.0,0.12185541387910925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188008972467089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963075331942225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28873500931096485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907618770174317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164587891220456,0.0,0.13830631956003925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721411016716189,0.0,0.4869006381670953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344335187045256,0.0,0.2405026980055972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182804632141692,0.17631195256840626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143226066657988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114849483086728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24740263616398775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971959228994787,0.0,0.09773318122139386,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OldManSaxon,2018/04/03,"How do yall deal with other parents trying to tell you how to parent your kids? My mom always told me to never tell other people how to raise their kids. I mean she told me this when i was super young too, like 10 years old. I have a 16 month old and people do like to chime in a lot on what is good or bad for my child. Also i live in LA so if everything isnt organic then apparently it is murdering your baby from the inside. #swag. How do you deal with it friends?

On the other hand, have you ever felt like you had to tell somebody to change their parenting because their child was legit at risk?",2.9895238095238104,3.8319344603174628,4.385873015873018,88.55357142857143,73.44444444444444,7.187301587301588,21.142857142857142,7.3871296695380915,0.4869904761904755,466,9,103,5,9,155,82,126,0.071,0.777,0.152,0.8818,4,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,7,3,1,9,9,1,1,4,0,11,1,1,4,2,14,15,11,1,1,2,4,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,7,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,6,2,19,6,16,9,1,14,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,3,12,72,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115562585847936,0.12024180616904677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065771629739047,0.08809042334119388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286976116716902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29796174940205866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071529599661533,0.0,0.0,0.1298740122092808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874985016437638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164612666920247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120602472180847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21179717766796274,0.0,0.1276027592973044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285509855828745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574110181222504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924542328092945,0.11534449814338145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145308325653963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032725995066985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813753919451654,0.0,0.0,0.20036659381179045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37891774149551705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761661948019768,0.0,0.09811109854939354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305808433015404
parenting,oohcarrots,2018/04/03,"Is a bounce house appropriate (and more importantly, safe) for a 2 year olds birthday party? Our son is turning two in a few weeks and we are having his birthday at home. We have had 4 birthdays in his group of daycare friends in the last two months, and half of them have been at an indoor trampoline / bouncing gym. We wanted to do it at our house to mix it up, but I have been trying to figure out something to keep a bunch of toddlers active. 

There is a local bounce house rental place, but their FAQ doesn’t list any age restrictions, just says that all kids should be roughly the same size / age and that they need to always be supervised. 

Anyone have experience in this scenario?",8.802500000000002,6.86371121969697,7.918787878787877,77.47318181818183,61.8030303030303,10.618181818181819,34.878787878787875,8.841846274778883,2.727415151515153,539,17,106,6,6,167,93,132,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.8228,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,0,1,20,21,6,0,3,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,5,8,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,2,11,2,18,15,5,18,0,0,0,0,15,11,0,0,7,75,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15421447929136198,0.0,0.0,0.12603490109679524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959130798380655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129426563059786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319020844532773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590721621721776,0.0,0.0,0.6415589151401052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647352382892786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107365516423032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793350405346836,0.0,0.0,0.13742436720366222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447905643778812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936367741131688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473867028195513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268078182349986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583104377380105,0.2015924524421148,0.36209287187454864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931603163547844,0.0,0.14866543734814475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935036969297153
parenting,Kwarren333,2018/04/03,"Ignoring stalling at bedtime? My 2 1/2 year old is good about going to bed usually. We give him plenty of warning and have a bedtime routine down pat of brushing teeth, reading a few books together, drink of water, then tuck him in. He goes through phases of stalling by asking for more water and we always give it to him cuz it’s water and he usually just stops and goes to bed. But tonight and some other times he keeps asking even after I’ve given him lots of sips and told him that this is the last sip and then it’s time to sleep. I tell him goodnight, sweet dreams I’ll see you in the morning, and close the door. He keeps yelling “I want more water mommy!” And I am torn because I told him that he had his last sip and I want to stick to that, but I also feel bad for just not responding and keeping the door closed. It feels dumb kinda cuz I know he’s not in pain or distress it’s the most fake cry you can imagine but part of me still feels bad for it. He stops within a minute literally. I just want to see if any one else does this and just what you guys think. I know I’m probably not scarring him for life because this is not every night just sometimes but still wanna see how normal this is. Thanks! 

Edit to add he’s still in a crib, he doesn’t try to climb out so I’m not gonna worry about a bed for now. It’s nice to know he doesn’t have free reign of the house at night for now. ",0.9448310693138248,2.84985851851852,2.270131197027748,97.0278787878788,81.65993265993265,5.039312666898874,19.332288401253926,5.935793293072707,-0.3130454197143853,1088,27,253,7,29,349,153,297,0.126,0.784,0.09,-0.9206,0,0,1,0,1,0,23,2,3,0,1,16,12,1,1,11,0,11,9,2,3,0,60,39,25,0,6,16,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,5,1,16,18,5,6,8,4,1,2,7,7,0,1,4,9,25,6,38,34,7,34,0,0,3,0,33,11,1,6,21,150,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883615276075946,0.09243319870947532,0.0,0.0,0.07554290045229031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077025093225265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855058406336413,0.13543508475997015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202374198985852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721289365919827,0.0,0.0,0.1088228695080489,0.0,0.0,0.09279884950952948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337184890995335,0.0,0.09359550329863067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16850662132109262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21312935117375767,0.06313324453332042,0.09317442015255216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099934947764761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281793662944385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962174191142615,0.0,0.0,0.1831513630666433,0.1811012980328396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846396178608282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444210877492328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20849505840575155,0.108841574750215,0.0,0.0,0.11656701336443345,0.0,0.07527535751485846,0.0,0.11820429243211025,0.0,0.0,0.12029628595956512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977046541861965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111696039864047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26556562739875195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116712433591357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986778330507968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661424224107119,0.18574724292087644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709484582248101,0.10227389133313776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117999919856026,0.0,0.0,0.12955132794552435,0.0,0.0,0.21229658447647348,0.0,0.07542071228596968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446930493720928,0.0,0.1965657930576584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128141379225332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153632063975532
parenting,leslietypegirl,2018/04/03,"Random babysitter please? So my babysitter from time to time has been sick or had to call in. 
While it’s annoying I figure it comes with the kids territory or depending on another human to watch my kids.
But whenever I have to let my work know I can’t be there they always volunteer some random coworker (different ones) or a friend of theirs I’ve never met.
It makes me feel like I’m either a bad employee for not letting some rando watch my baby or like I’m not trusting enough. I haven’t worked there THAT long, 6 months and it’s just frustrating.
Anyone else have this issue?",1.5990559006211171,4.218928539130438,3.1074844720496912,87.41402173913046,85.34782608695653,6.763975155279502,20.388198757763973,7.957251820313856,1.200863354037267,462,14,90,10,14,151,82,115,0.128,0.7829999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.6724,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,2,4,7,2,0,3,0,10,1,0,2,1,22,17,8,0,0,9,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,3,3,11,4,10,11,4,9,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,9,8,59,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926290306971686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330507771572466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223697478171576,0.2084292666333745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984837461228985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771599636986174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522952654827495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253207012764472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16993247976717013,0.0,0.0,0.21018868729853224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285597350119548,0.1453242909700825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716287137229687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21231909422351009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117950831759538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160243336395981,0.0,0.19876284461690835,0.0,0.0,0.18002154038322427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578536611554354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236902314508112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689112654837215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784360728035328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22329561422598346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372333119566545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961864082859761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OppositeEar,2018/04/04,Son needs ear tubes; calm my nerves. Allow me to preface. I have severe hearing loss so my somewhat nervous about my 4 year old having hearing problems. He will get them because I know it works and will help... I just need that reassurance for other parents out there.,2.0176285714285704,4.869948019999999,2.5357142857142847,89.605,88.8,3.6571428571428566,25.142857142857146,5.288315135182226,0.6210857142857145,211,9,37,1,7,65,44,50,0.199,0.6809999999999999,0.12,-0.5221,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,4,5,0,1,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,9,10,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,8,2,4,8,1,3,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,1,2,24,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207222848513445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890639662319396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5993108984739185,0.0,0.17820743516936466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611550921195424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942793096984869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789864333501576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29521779837625284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254402223759486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003580609993444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355693756339454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121192672135507
parenting,Moringotho,2018/04/04,"Four year old daughter seems to prefer staying at her grandparents house. My wife and I are on vacation for a week for our honeymoon and we left her with her grand parents. We’ve been checking in almost every day and she keeps saying that she likes it there and doesn’t want us to take her home in a couple of days. Is this normal? We feel bad about it. The situation isn’t exactly normal to begin with. I’m her step father technically though the biological father has been out of the picture entirely. She doesn’t even know he exists yet. I met her when she was 1.5 years old, so she was living at my wife’s parents house until she was around 2.25 or so. That could be part of the problem. These are the same grand parents she is staying with this week. Any thoughts? Any insight would be greatly appreciated! ",2.9469811320754715,5.223188729559752,3.9062641509433966,85.9363773584906,76.79874213836476,6.504150943396226,23.807547169811322,7.554174236665415,1.1143011320754717,644,21,126,9,15,207,101,159,0.038,0.8740000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.7989,4,0,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,0,1,28,27,10,0,7,1,8,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,7,11,0,1,6,0,1,1,3,2,0,1,7,2,21,4,20,16,2,23,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,3,13,87,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320565976456939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936289420060858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739922896924848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011248002113876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529371674768828,0.14592031121678925,0.0,0.17010058152925206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710406335040323,0.0,0.11111276013559547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668139364334935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539577382040508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228421676583668,0.0,0.0,0.30433862054171884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721907526907735,0.0,0.0,0.0724766068016469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328564883028208,0.0,0.0,0.06442884663095383,0.0,0.1164505405450848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584245473719902,0.0,0.0,0.2767671979787205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4393041726198844,0.14281083915303566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261892734065246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487454409194563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200566240050924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823620707344382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811284410593808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991557162224067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956929899689335,0.10469626661004604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586327925383595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778496133228315,0.0,0.21156888193916729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368222710762378,0.0,0.0,0.16984999826042865
parenting,parentingMI,2018/04/04,"Parenting Mental Illness - a new Discord chat Hi all. I run a peer support Discord for people living with mental illness. This new Discord is a project that my mother came up with, because she knows how difficult it can be to wade through the muddy waters of your child's battle with mental illness, with little to no guidance. What I'd like to create is a space for people to bounce ideas off of each other, offer suggestions and support, and generally find compatriots to chat with. I hope some of you will join us and help make ""Parenting Mental Illness"" a supportive place to hang out.

You will be directed to Discord or to download Discord when you click on this link: https://discord.gg/z8bBZS7

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parenting,firefly_1102,2018/04/04,"Full-time Student (29F) Single mom. Staring to work soon. I've been a full-time student for about a year now. This past semester I started taking my classes online instead of in a classroom to allow more flexibility and time for my kids (ages 5 and 8). I'll be done with my Bachelor's degree in the fall. 

Well, my ex-husband decided to sue me for custody a few months ago. I ended up having to take out a loan to pay for two lawyers. One where I live and one in the state he was suing me out of. He didn't win. His claims were completely baseless and honestly, out of the blue. I honestly had no idea it was coming. To say that I'm bitter and mad as hell is an understatement. My ex-husband obviously did all of this just to do it. I'm a great mother and there's literally no reason why any judge at all would have ever granted him custody and I'm sure he knew this. He was emotionally abusive while we were married and this was clearly just another attempt to disrupt our progress and happiness. 

Moving on, having to take out the loan put me in a financial bind that I was not experiencing before. So I started looking for employment to be able to cover the new expense. I was fortunate enough to have found that will be paying me close to what I was asking. 

Here's my dilemma, my whole reason for starting school online was to have more flexibility with my schedule. Clearly, that's now gone out the window. I will now be adjusting to a new schedule as a full-time employee and allocating my nights to my online schooling while of course, still being a mom. I know I'm not the first person on the planet to have ever done this. I know it's possible. It's just new to me. I'm scared that I'm going to fail somewhere. I'm very persistent and goal oriented so nothing will distract me from what I am seeking to accomplish. I'm just worried that I may burn out along the way. 

I guess I'm just looking for any type of advice or words of encouragement, personal experiences...

Thanks for reading.
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parenting,gravepact_,2018/04/04,"2 year old taking off diaper! My daughter will be 2 at the end of the month. For the past few weeks she has been pulling off her pants and taking off her diaper. Sometimes she will bring it to me, other times I just see her running in the house naked, but mostly I catch her trying to take it off. Its not just poo diapers but also wet ones. Today I was nursing her younger sister, and honestly I was a little oblivious to the fact she was pooping and taking off her diaper even though she was practically in front of me, let's just say it was messy... I'm wondering if this is a sign I should start potty training? I feel clueless! How should I go about the potty training? Thanks in advance!",2.247880464858884,4.316928021582736,3.6058992805755374,88.25425013835087,78.13669064748201,6.579081350304373,22.203099059214168,7.61054688173877,0.9316027670171554,541,16,110,8,13,177,88,139,0.024,0.909,0.067,0.7805,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,8,0,14,1,1,1,1,18,26,9,0,3,7,2,2,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,6,4,20,2,16,14,2,26,0,0,1,0,13,10,0,3,9,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544327016534293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216038709437115,0.0,0.0,0.12838421946699236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828288539690776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104689665347873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22428503762636964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19876372034410966,0.0,0.0,0.1948168857113747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514992032611885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20396603395885132,0.0,0.13171493104261814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555490456996412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545764453150369,0.0,0.0,0.1548933562275534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224388936282935,0.0,0.13758108839793504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5845894551069917,0.0,0.0,0.1789562878096653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909744813130409,0.0,0.11334283084245828,0.0,0.18424673149774,0.0,0.0,0.13196926917246155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591755841513508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079363747154056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251724581746174
parenting,somersetredstreak,2018/04/04,"My passive child keeps getting steamrolled by other kids. How can I help him learn to stick up for himself? My son is 2.5. He's the kind of kid who doesn't need much more than a stern look from a parent or teacher to stop misbehaving and fall into line. While that's nice from a discipline standpoint, it also means that he gets his feelings hurt very easily, and he doesn't bounce back quickly from setbacks.

I'm concerned about his social development. This is the age when kids are learning to interact and play together, and my kid just doesn't seem to have the resilience or the confidence to deal with other kids. For the last 8 or 9 months, I've been watching him get repeatedly steamrolled by the other kids. Kids are constantly coming and ripping toys out of his hands, or shoving him out of the way. I realize this is all developmentally normal behavior at this age, but my son doesn't stand up for himself at all. He basically crumples and lets the other kid snatch away the toy he's playing with or elbow him out of the way. He doesn't say a word, sometimes he cries, sometimes he just sits there looking sad.

He is very verbal, does a lot of imaginary play, and is great at carrying on conversations with adults (though he's basically mute with other children), so I've tried to talk to him about this. He is able to tell me in a simple way what happened and that it makes him feel sad. I tell him that just because another kid tries to take something from him, that doesn't mean he has to give it away. He can hold onto the toy and say no, I'm playing with this right now, you can have it when I'm done. Or he can offer to play with the toy together (though I think that might be too advanced right now). If someone shoves their way in front of him on the playground, he can tell them that it's his turn now and the other kid needs to wait their turn. These scripts don't seem to be working, though. I don't think I have ever once seen him stick up for himself! There were a handful of occasions when he was the aggressor back when he first turned 2, and I kept reinforcing that we don't take toys from other kids and we have to wait our turn, and for whatever reason now he's become super passive.

If I happen to be right there when a kid comes to take something from him, I will sometimes tell the other kid that we don't grab toys that other kids are playing with. If another parent happens to be there, I will usually narrate the situation out loud for my son, e.g., ""She wants to play with this truck, too. Let's ask her to play with us! Oh, we don't grab things away from other kids - you don't have to give it up if she takes it."" Usually by this point the other kid has run off with the truck in question. Maybe 50% of the time, the other parent will back me up and we help the kids resolve it in a friendly way. The other 50% of the time, the other parent says nothing, even if they're right there, and I'm left consoling my kid who is now super sad that the toy he was playing with his been taken away yet again.

It's not like my son is lacking exposure to other kids. He's been going to preschool three mornings a week since August, and we go to the playground nearly every day the weather is nice enough. We're members of a local children's museum with awesome play areas where I usually take him once a week, and we do occasional playdates with my friends' kids. I've tried to enlist the help of my son's teachers, and they tell me they do try to give my son and the other kids some words to help them work through their conflicts, and enforce rules about sharing and waiting our turn. I know they can't be everywhere at once, though, and I feel like he hasn't gotten even a little bit better since the school year started.

I realize this probably sounds like I'm a helicopter parent worrying over nothing. I wouldn't be as concerned if my kid occasionally stood up for himself, or even if he was occasionally the aggressor, because then I would know that he has it in him to be assertive and I'd at least have a starting point. The thing is, he NEVER stands up for himself anymore. This has been going on for the better part of a year, and it's now a pattern. I don't want him to learn that this is how the world works - other kids take your stuff, and too bad for you. I want to stand up for him and help him learn to stand up for himself, but I also don't want to hover over him constantly. These kids are 2 and 3, I don't want to be micromanaging every interaction. Any ideas on how I can help my son overcome this passivity?",7.860663561076606,5.741544393478264,7.715683229813668,78.75971014492755,63.76086956521739,10.674948240165634,34.404761904761905,8.976282227363876,2.6612914078674947,3582,115,752,44,42,1151,326,920,0.057,0.831,0.113,0.9954,5,0,2,0,0,0,95,10,4,8,10,46,30,0,0,52,0,75,3,3,5,4,128,138,61,0,18,20,12,7,3,2,6,0,5,0,28,60,54,0,9,21,18,0,9,21,5,0,2,14,16,89,25,122,108,11,111,0,4,4,0,148,49,0,20,46,501,149,8,0.05159637599519823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252320648420564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0350873049918582,0.10820659800372666,0.0,0.0,0.05116974062742278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823564655672952,0.0,0.19390597478530044,0.11902328485826184,0.04308081877392542,0.06290534381285019,0.05698414356531165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912656032654643,0.056329879242534735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889141852901493,0.0,0.11151470500485056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05667619625155885,0.033275394055216234,0.05319359806178218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04515233633524002,0.05280100652220825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05331284898373199,0.0,0.10223675918345096,0.04667187603592987,0.08694434421880763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826603400242461,0.03686046132041301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04388785106349472,0.0,0.0,0.0797264642070912,0.0,0.08087093068681668,0.1484878361019516,0.08797022855106773,0.0,0.0,0.056885186685914614,0.0,0.0,0.13687951467871592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750377934792166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05523498764449043,0.058246028166107564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04586122969480657,0.0,0.05372968573474307,0.0567120377703125,0.04205793291265531,0.0,0.0,0.056059613487741536,0.10552158043303267,0.0,0.07562214923290178,0.05171312360151992,0.0,0.0,0.08665592191322691,0.0,0.0,0.043865393767251286,0.0,0.0,0.034440981629220546,0.0,0.05183549471146775,0.11240715890941197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05473560122321795,0.0,0.0,0.041183735061226766,0.0,0.037929273111582035,0.0765161180502663,0.03979430598318103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05055349352738736,0.09901622865869712,0.0,0.0,0.1648453695340192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864583476162021,0.055873847172664144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755050547604867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055629620043699333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577997494999944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053049667887350896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762520927283619,0.0,0.12309452735482312,0.0,0.05221828710618846,0.0,0.09394280576333897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536211081093131,0.057996488422013014,0.0,0.05259600764226013,0.04371744194416274,0.0794428220239261,0.1530904055255072,0.0,0.07304036098898226,0.0,0.0,0.043136880664766494,0.0,0.0,0.059065506189698636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327643210010103,0.041471212588954365,0.2254875341106625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855667910166659,0.06612174873474523,0.2027727097846903,0.0,0.06017252353972915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012220970267356,0.2806102040521618,0.0,0.0,0.0620640874280083,0.0,0.17047835603284944,0.08514482761133539,0.1521643968898699,0.2047740082568538,0.08277500115585014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126883287031297,0.052398624370815626,0.0,0.03665258513464117,0.0,0.0,0.06645274897454262
parenting,apryljsh,2018/04/04,"How do you feel about your babydaddy/babymama? Background: I parent 100% alone, no child support or contact from my son's father. We worked together and were casually dating when I got pregnant. After I told him he quit our mutual job and dipped. I contacted him to say I was keeping the baby, when I found out it was a boy, and when I gave birth. I haven't reached out since. 

While we were casually dating for 6-7 months, I had strong feelings for him although I'm not sure you could call it love. I cared about him a great deal and I still do. I would do anything within my power to help him out if he needed it because I feel he is 50% of my son, who I love dearly, and I appreciate him for that. 

My ex-boyfriend brought up that I was still in love with him which is the reason I wont pursue child support. I'm not, I just don't need the money nor do I feel men should go to jail for not being able to pay when they have their own bills. I tried to explain this to him but he insisted I was still in love with him and would get back with him if the opportunity presented itself. I'm 100% sure I wouldn't. My interest is raising my son to be the best man he can and while I would never stop him from having a relationship with our son (he's never tried) I wouldn't actively pursue having him in our lives because well... He is not an ideal man to have as my son's role model. 

I guess what I'm asking is does everyone really hate or dislike their babymama/babydaddy as that seems to be the norm? Am I being illogical to say that I still care for him as he's half of my son? ",4.234578313253014,4.094352698795183,5.634,84.23600000000002,70.20481927710844,8.929156626506026,26.84096385542169,8.697196308434329,1.6275681927710846,1224,34,275,19,20,415,162,332,0.077,0.77,0.153,0.9732,3,1,0,0,0,0,36,5,3,3,7,14,21,1,0,10,0,36,4,0,2,4,52,67,24,0,12,10,8,4,0,0,7,0,2,0,6,12,16,0,2,8,2,3,2,13,1,1,1,12,6,59,20,37,43,2,30,0,0,0,4,64,8,0,6,20,192,71,3,0.10921361912422443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311237230850345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987350293580798,0.0,0.10209999112626876,0.0,0.0,0.0839785317521397,0.0,0.13315121706792685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461295532602628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151931594047586,0.0,0.22270112680661167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719818807762374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259444576315235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557357407320054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043582933200234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088674932518226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974709627673492,0.0,0.0,0.05705960836650952,0.0,0.06206861657713712,0.0,0.08734810806761947,0.12040840064240275,0.12031111431762533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078258383197668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732035867746799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083776650429086,0.09707408274029372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643762657294734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.394278220975956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717326882625198,0.0,0.0,0.16196102947973864,0.16846455174931058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126879947701022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616212730871382,0.0,0.0,0.06996504098552364,0.11228978996228206,0.0,0.11725455488344012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370210688256082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942397707402086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034263432195803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488725492383548,0.09130747584999706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24786864148445856,0.20586508706897916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043582933200234,0.0,0.14829775683021496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819615962105578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950881545036137,0.0,0.0,0.23274666460210944,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dolphone,2018/04/04,"Toddler (3) suddenly feels everything is a tragedy So my 3yo suddenly acts like every little thing is the worst thing in the world. If she drops something while she's playing, she starts crying, very emotionally - something that rarely happened before. Last night we video chatted with her (she was staying with her grandma and grandpa) and afterwards she apparently started sobbing and asking for us to go get her. Mind you, she's been asking us to go visit them for a long time, and she's had many extended stays with them before, no issues.

I can't think of a reason why this is happening. Has anyone gone through this?",5.3959649122807,7.445867719298249,5.290350877192985,79.69412280701756,69.17543859649122,7.873684210526315,31.08771929824561,8.515128840125781,2.5804982456140344,496,21,84,8,9,154,83,114,0.13699999999999998,0.8270000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.9201,1,0,2,0,0,0,16,3,1,2,0,1,4,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,13,20,7,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,3,3,0,5,2,2,0,0,4,1,18,2,10,16,1,21,0,1,0,0,21,3,1,1,11,55,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075064285258472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874732732474589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616619292947456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888849652392499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294942912953276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295420348182696,0.0,0.13818168338148465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777412369788685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032866705665319,0.0,0.17476072403673645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719233936872516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047632876642565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532776591066822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511508024265355,0.15409911520617234,0.0,0.1360649922006768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558796057532445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552449035318926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442851053926122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808186228344165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23673040286061206,0.0,0.0,0.21765181096913636,0.3277566883918447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429095856684631,0.09851757413092728,0.0,0.0,0.08965357332352583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698875756348048,0.0,0.0,0.12686085934773453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873656236205895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CatRollz2004,2018/04/04,"Found pills and son denies it? Hi, everyone, this is a really difficult situation for me because my son is not a teenager. He's a twenty-one year old adult with a part-time job, however, he still lives under our roof.

So, I have three other older children who have no drug issues, never have, and two of them are parents to my beautiful young grandchildren. I'm puzzled as to why my son is resorting to drugs. He had the same upbringing as his brothers and sister, and it's honestly breaking my heart because I lost a nephew due to drugs and he was only slightly older than my son. I'm worried that he's going in the same path.

Anyway, I'm going slightly off topic but my son smokes weed and I am happy with him just smoking weed as long as it's not in the house or it interferes with his life and others around him. Personally, I've never liked the stuff and think smoking is disgusting but he is an adult, what can I do? 

So, me and my husband went away to Orlando for a week, and we trusted our son to man the house until we get back. We did this before and it was fine, we came back to a tidy house and no problems. He said he was going to have some friends come over and again, I had no problem with this. We came back on Sunday and just today, I found these mysterious pills under our couch which looked like prescription drugs. 

I confronted my son about it and he freaked out and said that they weren't his. His friend apparently lost it and they searched everywhere and couldn't find them. But here's the thing, my son always had a problem with lying when we caught him with cannabis last year and I hope he isn't lying about this. He promised us one day that he never does other drugs, and he's currently denying that he has a drug problem. 

I'm in tears writing this because I'm not sure what to believe or what to do. Even if his story is true, I'm angry and disappointed enough that he allowed his friends to bring drugs into my house in the first place. Should I go to the police or maybe confront him again? Please help.",4.2604285714285695,5.110020168292683,4.913885017421606,85.91298780487806,70.48780487804878,7.905923344947735,27.081881533101047,8.07648339933343,1.5298222996515682,1599,51,332,21,28,514,200,410,0.16899999999999998,0.733,0.098,-0.9806,6,0,8,0,0,0,42,10,0,4,3,17,25,3,0,18,0,27,11,1,1,5,75,53,36,0,8,12,13,0,2,3,1,10,2,1,5,28,39,0,2,4,0,0,10,12,12,0,4,18,3,45,13,42,33,4,51,0,3,1,0,66,14,0,7,28,219,73,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067187913090904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491061986841147,0.0,0.0,0.0685068986374911,0.16820350420484936,0.0,0.13334658770927607,0.0,0.06204606975761645,0.08215126230725943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679275434675814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281060091781833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04702473041766391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380920509518383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5919151525015081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534162772340257,0.0,0.04816027153477352,0.0,0.0,0.06967427771133189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664382167865407,0.062022236654712175,0.0,0.15989706568936354,0.16900395590826753,0.0,0.03809555400869343,0.0,0.16575917029581647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762034313439466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640570562148549,0.04887399814755314,0.0,0.0,0.07242195211443855,0.0,0.33654068570475554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610526694444716,0.07235779056628625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059436199428922386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05150266432497134,0.07124606198763861,0.0,0.06438608530191463,0.06452828671260784,0.06123100090568032,0.0,0.15919266062572227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325383317259034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871173707922818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651298282694807,0.0,0.049409708377962734,0.055455836038746785,0.0,0.0,0.0809644901586355,0.07896082601853986,0.0,0.0,0.0636673609948167,0.0761816076433192,0.08003977405019949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279082717304984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046711799710649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871945788936688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196053903045522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823074072070306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347127312585596,0.0,0.0,0.06872238320114163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048442091290287724,0.046721571558796963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911575780235993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122824995903898,0.0,0.08770886304388947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584887455910607,0.0,0.0,0.0675937800181238,0.06579526834071289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404964705167118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391091209483957
parenting,Redditshukla,2018/04/04,"2.5 year old son is scared easily My son was always the quiet types - not much of a trouble maker and very easy to take care of. Not a cry baby. Understands things we say and can sit quietly with either of us parents for a long time watching TV or reading picture books. Basically, bringing him up has been a breeze. He can speak A to Z and can count 1 to 20 very quickly. Identifies letters and know at least 3-4 words beginning with each letter. We play him rhymes on our TV and he picked up pretty fast, I believe. Has decent vocabulary but cannot form sentences yet. 

The problem is he is not very outgoing and physically active. When we bring him to the play area, he is very hesitant to go on the slides or jump or climb. Basically anything that requires some physical effort and risk. I support him, encourage him by helping him with these games but he gets scared too easily. It took me 2-3 days to make him jump from our bed to the floor and make him confident. Other kids his age are super active and when I see them in the play area I feel a little bad as they are simply jumping and playing around with sheer energy. He, on the other hand, will explore things slowly. He can also get intimidated by other children's presence if they playing around him freely and he doesn't. It is  not that he doesn't like going out. Whenever I ask him to go out, he joins me. Doesn't seem to have social anxiety. 

Can I bring about a change in my son or am I just expecting too much? Sometimes I think he has a quiet and patient personality. ",3.5479699453551947,5.1205257901639385,4.841659836065574,82.98522199453555,73.06557377049181,7.837431693989072,26.150956284153004,8.472884824447931,1.7632431693989066,1206,41,239,21,24,400,177,305,0.092,0.718,0.189,0.9855,1,0,0,0,0,0,32,6,0,3,4,11,16,0,3,15,0,24,1,1,4,0,52,46,23,0,3,13,4,2,1,0,1,0,5,1,3,10,24,0,1,6,10,0,13,8,6,0,0,3,9,32,10,34,42,7,42,0,0,2,0,47,16,0,7,13,153,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594707780883984,0.11023695861937972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134958253151664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090227049511352,0.2358769637232812,0.1238542712196628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061826250251623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926363635375806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350758479808234,0.0,0.14015006987043885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455270009490539,0.08544095444867482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698768300066986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843441380075025,0.0,0.22588042918437046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880095669578009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728095154603468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472478930625307,0.13278336030234106,0.0,0.11724380675220142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686764806853356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19478136251793035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901923992729334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710734658471675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156795592938076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478343815120233,0.0,0.12676890183569556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325194403785198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105356267027747,0.26527836795054666,0.0,0.10557226727704144,0.12060808317832546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350503343608052,0.0,0.0,0.13102965656173374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034080615785164,0.0,0.0,0.09961117071933656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603241862614954,0.08489013401820973,0.0,0.0,0.07725224582297442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471941414579839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792008784861415,0.1593614446168749,0.0,0.0,0.43725134106052616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531508730898217
parenting,acl754,2018/04/04,"9 year old still soiling himself at home!! I have completely lost patience with this problem. He was completely toilet trained and aside from one or two incidents, everything was fine until about a year ago. He started having 'accidents' after school, and it slowly got worse. There's not been any sudden stressful event that I know of which could have triggered it. I've taken him to the doctor twice, which is unbelievably embarrassing - they say there is no medical reason and it is behavioral, but they don't offer any help.

The worst part is that he is fine when he's at school or staying with grandparents or at friend's houses. It's only when he is at home with me. I have tried talking to him about it, he has no answer and doesn't seem at all worried or embarrassed by it. I tried reward charts, punishing and taking away games and so on - nothing works.

I spent most of this weekend quietly asking him if he needed to go to the toilet and took him there to try, but it still went in his pants. Even his younger sister is aware, she comes to tell me that he smells.

I'm totally lost on what to do, surely I can't be this much of a failure.",5.529447619047621,5.982144373333334,5.781857142857145,82.23450000000003,67.48888888888891,8.91746031746032,28.960317460317462,8.841846274778883,2.100898412698413,904,29,178,14,14,288,136,225,0.174,0.775,0.051,-0.9814,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,0,2,4,11,13,1,3,5,0,21,2,0,2,3,31,37,18,0,4,8,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,16,11,0,0,4,2,1,4,6,8,0,3,10,3,18,5,28,25,6,28,0,2,0,0,27,9,0,7,14,123,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158164042341354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776976587130106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221433430357228,0.0,0.12275322134960005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125463822025488,0.2739753225103314,0.0,0.0,0.1043161520483072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372934693961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629537447385753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742290031943002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094253484525363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425336910125807,0.0,0.10449550298226874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757425649339316,0.0,0.2621121353860692,0.0,0.0,0.1507565446221131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180372170908256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852473589619893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161960996619246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604532223518507,0.0968778810063618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536551333399207,0.0,0.13709882221897166,0.0,0.0885341621058292,0.09936783961587778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14148495913514691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501771082014193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433351152607007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390087106249374,0.0,0.2644565424140336,0.0,0.11894199797441027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247718756332944,0.1392591984995999,0.2086800350681124,0.0,0.14966309069552353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231393346442506,0.0,0.09823513775946624,0.10501429766060306,0.1141968780153749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516079531132847,0.26611535785845136,0.0,0.1276294403551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111706128060087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511727094968232,0.13268492511233088,0.1331470321703602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682730821098932
parenting,GoldenFalcon,2018/04/04,Too Early Wake Up (4 1/2) I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried earlier and later bed times. The end result is always 6a or so. Earlier bed time can some times result in earlier than 6a wake ups. He basically wakes up because of something and just won't go back to sleep. Because he wants to play instead of sleep. What can I do to change this?,0.6820890410958889,2.8652402739726064,2.8399828767123303,90.95394691780822,84.61643835616441,5.8417808219178085,21.453767123287676,7.1686216300943375,0.6671383561643833,272,9,59,4,8,92,50,73,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.34,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,7,5,5,2,0,9,10,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,11,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,7,33,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21665842320560647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25822866790586674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021744571346609,0.0,0.3174525205282638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27544930058462924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306208902389887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479809138211833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309896618673354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5211394651963214,0.0,0.0,0.20045454456463715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4554919687204189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678207428784815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357986587296785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bidude101,2018/04/04,"The kid is giving up too easy on anything Dear fellow parents,

I am a father of 10 years old kid whom I love with all my soul and heart. Just as you do love your kids too. I have tried to search the discussions but I coudn't find a similar topic and that's why I am initiating that discussion.

My issue is that the kid is giving up too easy on anything that would require a bit more of efforts that he is willing to invest. Here are few examples to make myself clear:

- At the age of 6 he started attending individual swimming lessons. The instructor was a young guy and they fit very well with each other. At the beginning the kid enjoyed the 2 per week training sessions and was eager to attend them. It has all been joy and fun. At some point, however, his instructor started being more demanding with the purpose to provide better progress. Once the kid felt that it is not just jumping and swirling in the water and he has to be more strict on following the instructor's guiding he lost interest and subsequently we quit bringing him to the swimming pool.

- Another example is the guitar lessons he was taking. He rarely did his home assignments, actually doesn't play at home at all and  after more than 3 years of regular attendance the progress was fairly modest and his motivation faded out by itself, despite the fact that the guitar school and his teacher in particular are very supportive and often organize concerts where the students (including my kid) perform (mostly in front of the parents). He doesn't want to attend it anymore.

- Last year he expressed interest into skateboarding. We took him to a skatepark and he enjoyed it so much. He got hooked by the older guys, by the atmosphere and the culture, and everything. Everyone is super friendly with him and he enjoyed it so much. We got him enrolled into a skate club which he attended twice per week with an instructor. Him (and us, the parents) became close and into the skate subculture (e.g. attending events, concerts, competitions - as observers, since he is not that good enough to compete, and other social gathering organized by the skate scene pushers. It was basically fun for us all. He got so hooked, that we built a real miniramp in his room. (We had to rennovate it anyway and since he was still sleeping with us, the miniramp was a good motivation to make him move to his own room). BUT he is having struggles with the ""ollie"" (skater moms and dads will relate, but its basically the basic trick that skaters should be able to do in order to progress further) + he is afraid of falling and hurting himself to an extend that he gave up and he doesn't want to practice that anymore. And there is nothing that can make him go back to the skatepark, despite multiple talks with us and with his fellow skatebros.

- Before that we had the same issue with soccer - he said the doesn't feel good enough and that was it. And nothing is able to change his mind.

The only activity that he feels good about is gaming. He can play on the XBOX forever which we and his mom are trying to limit.

So I would like to ask for advice on what should me and his mom do in order to make him more motivated, more willing to invest efforts and not giving up that easy.

Thanks for all thoughts and comments.",6.348996983408751,7.197415232026143,6.456143790849676,76.72495475113125,65.79738562091504,9.348818501759679,33.829562594268474,9.40045753921074,3.140028355957768,2590,111,458,47,39,826,282,612,0.052000000000000005,0.775,0.174,0.9982,4,0,0,0,0,0,70,11,2,2,18,18,30,1,2,43,0,53,5,2,7,7,97,85,40,0,6,8,8,3,1,3,7,0,3,4,9,33,54,1,2,10,13,2,16,7,5,1,1,21,6,45,25,75,54,22,67,1,2,0,2,94,31,0,3,19,325,78,8,0.15182341867424007,0.0,0.07407887791730965,0.0,0.0,0.07418004379512598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960004610383811,0.0,0.0,0.1505680351552689,0.0,0.0,0.12493773737525715,0.0,0.0709672009027005,0.0,0.0,0.058371418730070436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459527348430667,0.0,0.0,0.06713773800905706,0.08287592563579115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030452294522028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687417644849608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253689139645372,0.06822454953692887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676648226500937,0.0,0.07288714550935005,0.0,0.06938192707755808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864919832672213,0.0,0.0,0.2184642862382095,0.043142373802313484,0.2546845607412852,0.18214058587055085,0.0,0.0,0.15032905413137868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995574106511726,0.0,0.0,0.15229126785516864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126505488870361,0.0,0.0,0.1584642041333895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618781749106315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037086626733568766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286659807771829,0.0,0.13702656293552296,0.0,0.2026866217864444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664918643469454,0.26672062951104714,0.0,0.08068213343606237,0.11160768175201358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567866491817846,0.0,0.0796565692253226,0.08084349295385385,0.0,0.057734275663511934,0.0,0.0,0.2528729090212447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176110215643927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074144703702707,0.0,0.08640414441382717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220941918612385,0.0,0.0,0.07682670258190546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558990082725002,0.0,0.07596653186574318,0.0773824278822173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746139716847453,0.0,0.06062318913577655,0.0,0.0,0.07935940079831842,0.0,0.0,0.08614370816130873,0.0,0.0,0.05707615809272211,0.06101495648073415,0.0,0.06988930289782076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026541779345669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434070222756182,0.10307813532886737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652497582812431,0.0,0.0,0.12527022064093035,0.08954938594320629,0.0,0.1217835886130345,0.0,0.0682537433238637,0.0,0.06849851036567838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785100059949422,0.0,0.0,0.14665395584985114
parenting,Hardcorepickles,2018/04/04,"Dad told everyone I was pregnant at my engagement party even though I told him not to Hi everyone. We just had our engagement party over the weekend and my dad broke our trust. I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant and I told him not to tell anyone about the baby. Only a handful of close family knew. During the speeches the first thing my dad said was "" we are excited for the engagement and the baby"". Everyone my fiancé and I love and care for now know thanks to him. I called him a few days later to ask why he did that and all he said was ""because I felt like it"". He turned nasty and basically said that us wanting to wait until 12 weeks was an EXCUSE and that we ""shouldn't be afraid of what people think"" so he took it upon himself apparently to do it for us. We are PROUD of this baby. We didn't want to tell people because of the chance of miscarriage.  He called me a sook and told me to grow up. I have EVERY right to be upset. This is my baby and it was ours to tell everyone about, he stole that from us. And thanks to him, if I lose this baby EVERYONE I love will know about it. Am I taking this too far or did he definitely step over the line?

Edit : Also on our phone call I poured my heart out explaining how I felt and his response was ""have a listen to it"" and made my mum take the phone back. 

Edit part 2 : He also said that he believed everyone had the right to know (sorry for the edits guys, parts of the phone call keep coming back to me and they all build a bigger picture)",2.685865906623235,4.007447416938113,4.196795602605864,87.75699579261673,74.83061889250814,7.331650380021715,21.912187839305105,7.9370924344782425,0.8659816503800215,1155,28,249,17,24,385,150,307,0.04,0.8059999999999999,0.155,0.9888,2,0,0,0,0,0,31,12,0,1,3,14,16,0,2,18,0,22,4,2,2,2,44,56,22,0,4,5,4,3,1,0,2,0,6,0,1,17,22,0,2,8,1,0,4,4,4,0,1,24,9,42,12,36,28,5,27,0,2,0,2,59,12,0,2,12,170,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289723871171044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05638397684855843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538566114428688,0.0,0.0,0.1240113161269948,0.0,0.09831237417462983,0.0,0.0,0.09085143209451196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32936172745144937,0.0,0.08221583320772037,0.0,0.0,0.06946251200325627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200485034939748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326065012403459,0.0,0.06794100773566647,0.4623184890245474,0.0,0.0,0.07601834641418066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485028529378306,0.0,0.0,0.06859065659527189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984431533679126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555643913891623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167477515548422,0.0,0.0,0.13294963685601258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03939566222647902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021331531287262,0.0,0.0,0.14555791844441415,0.0763016420195777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061328846089725664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464622993421813,0.0,0.11180849629149847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772885290098824,0.3068208827147786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026765879602172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125950745316673,0.0,0.2114435449982255,0.1484813051338779,0.0,0.0,0.053572315796136236,0.05166958567169616,0.0792264428919781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082123260163649,0.08959180463543172,0.0,0.08771100738300024,0.0,0.0,0.2909928195058773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512478410483048,0.0,0.12936590745215795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276326846250117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lefayof2day,2018/04/04,"4 year old boy does NOT listen My son lately has seemingly devolved into a blubbering ball of crying for hours on end because he's not getting his way. There have been no major changes to his lifestyle or routine.

We ask him to leave the animals alone (we have a dog and 2 cats), but any time I catch him alone with one of them, he's doing something he knows he's not supposed to. One of the cats loves to be in our room, but we can't let our son stay in the room (we have to share the room for now) when the cat is there because he WILL NOT leave the cat alone.  We've come back after being gone for a minute or two and the cat can't get out of the room fast enough.

What urged me to post this is another post about one user's question about a very huggy child. My son is very huggy as well. He asks for a hug every 10 seconds. We've mostly gotten him to ask before he does it, but he's not quite grasping the concept of consent. He'll ask, I'll say no, then he'll melt down. Or he'll ask and won't wait for an answer, just giving a hug anyways. I feel like I constantly have to peel him off of me.

This morning he was given instructions to count from 0 to 10 before he could get up (long story as to why). For an hour he cried that he didn't know how to count. When he finally figured it out and counted so I could hear him, he asked if he could get up. I asked him what Poppa said. Commence another 45 minutes of crying because ""I don't know.""  We've been trying to get him to understand that ""I don't know"" isn't a proper answer, especially when we know he's capable of completing the task requested. He tends to answer ""I don't know"" or ""I don't know how to do it"" when he doesn't want to do something. I'm at an utter loss with how to fix this or change the behavior.",4.156032841504043,3.5980325471204218,5.3603522132317964,87.55802950975729,70.38743455497381,8.41142313184198,26.787720133269872,7.686295010490155,1.2203989528795811,1371,36,320,14,22,459,181,382,0.071,0.846,0.08199999999999999,0.8782,0,3,2,0,0,0,43,7,0,1,2,17,7,0,0,21,0,31,3,0,3,0,55,69,24,0,5,15,3,1,1,0,5,0,4,4,2,10,15,0,1,16,1,0,3,17,1,1,5,8,5,30,6,51,50,3,41,0,1,0,3,59,15,0,9,20,186,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24725266205005875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411494513826904,0.1668864028151822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5207548876758805,0.0,0.0,0.06118963854852906,0.0,0.14552781540757745,0.0,0.1354279721973562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836338193365538,0.06854835727732253,0.08343474896780173,0.08599423844105496,0.0,0.19060677172724586,0.0,0.26223409733325737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927636814586733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048141516928065,0.08222409497078591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704687662069399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04023641539500681,0.056849673766289466,0.0,0.08717248236699886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078779384933926,0.07633730686185944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968882435942384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673421474407034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306133253798265,0.0,0.08976608380425151,0.16852065855992274,0.0,0.0813726579650681,0.0,0.03887719939282944,0.0,0.0,0.07042295388730355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182115871078297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350245351159194,0.0,0.1617698745133363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524251330874151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914421537714808,0.08463971011099884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569574898000438,0.06328265637360972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244371976128969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252419946335576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481826875362647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04640186544591035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402741598758248,0.0,0.07773495962598775,0.08284224349030221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313183693094684,0.04693645175429599,0.0631643508963396,0.0,0.0,0.07154908985310968,0.0,0.07180567444781502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05124484291225828
parenting,Prime60902,2018/04/04,"Got teeth? My 10-month old twins are big for their age, and especially for twins. They seem to be basically hitting developmental milestones, though are a bit slow to crawl or “walk” compared to their peers (but our ped said that’s normal for kids in the 95%ile for size?). But one thing they do NOT have is any teeth! I’m sure I’m just being an anxious first time mom but is that “normal”? Anything to worry or look out for? TIA!",2.5478571428571435,4.7607673571428615,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,77.80952380952381,5.628571428571429,21.214285714285715,6.6274283507984215,0.19738571428571472,334,9,71,3,8,104,64,84,0.059,0.8440000000000001,0.097,0.659,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,4,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,8,2,2,0,1,13,15,7,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,2,6,1,11,10,1,9,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,3,5,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816867971000234,0.0,0.0,0.2627596716683516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914011516636067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25392724320329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197840314599054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18602288698728844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953164080462808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724057424300515,0.1856505366163717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4557762032627144,0.0,0.0,0.24406331357683075,0.0,0.15760850909269786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212456585742742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21174053634624293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21921263478777875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452197627217434,0.0,0.22851777726521125,0.0,0.13562467401395542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23620569426108395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Icomewithknives,2018/04/04,"Walking baby starting to crawl again? So my little girl just turned 11 months, been walking since 8 months toddling around since 9.5 months and very rarely crawling since then. The last week she'll just get down and crawl sometimes mid walk or if she's already on the floor will crawl over to something. Usually only for a minute / short distance then she'll get back up again, but..is that normal!? She's nearly running and very rarely falls usually only if really tired. ",6.338275862068966,7.773217252873565,4.848908045977012,86.12439655172415,66.12643678160919,7.179310344827586,28.29310344827586,7.1686216300943375,1.4497448275862066,379,12,68,3,6,109,62,87,0.046,0.954,0.0,-0.5920000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,10,8,9,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,9,4,0,28,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,3,13,34,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999920822337812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327210343259892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323918178898665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990848665995066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034546773668502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256441335461972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122849241532068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869477892694462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618934360664905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029960600110736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272744000625634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13254859717458012,0.17028531108979805,0.0,0.12186623208448892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19788964114407345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18727677568545956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792525049689581,0.28412453558497625,0.0,0.0,0.13810826459598569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Off2Oblivion,2018/04/04,"Red Flags from boyfriend? I'm looking for some feedback and objective opinions since I'm the parent here and could be over analyzing or misconstruing things. I'm a bit of a worry wart but am usually good with intuition. Just not sure in this case. 

I have been dating a man that I get along with wonderfully, for about 4 months now. I have a 2 year old daughter that met him for the first time around the 2nd month we were dating. We just went out to get pizza for about a half hour that first meeting. Since then, she's been in his presence two or three more times briefly. So a total of maybe four times. The last two times, he picked her up and flew her around like a plane and she loved it. He has also purchased her a couple of toys. He's very affectionate with me, isn't afraid to be emotionally vulnerable and we seem to enjoy spending a lot of time together. He always tells me ""she comes first"", which I appreciate. 

The problem is this - The last couple times she's been around us, he takes A LOT of photos and videos of her. This makes me a bit uncomfortable because it feels too fast for him to already ""love her as his own"" and so the documentation seems unnecessary. He's spent a total of maybe 3.5 hours with us as a trio. He does always send me the pictures, but still. He also has saved photos off of my Instagram stories, which I thought was strange. He just told his mom recently that I have a daughter and so it's possible he's sharing photos with her as he has expressed loving me like no other woman he's been with. 

Secondly, he has called me on Facetime before while I'm bathing her (unknowingly) and he said one day ""awww, let me see her"" and I just allowed her face to be in the frame to say hi. I was NOT going to violate my child's privacy. I've also asked for privacy in changing her since we weren't near a public bathroom once and he was respectful in that. He's offered to watch her while I run to the bathroom or into a store at one of our outings and I've said ""no"". It's too early for that anyway. Today, he offered to drive all the way up to see me and aid in taking my daughter to the playground. I told him not to because the drive is too much for such a short visit. I was later complaining about her restlessness and how she has been going to bed late and he said ""I'll come take over ;)"" and I was like...""take over putting her to sleep?"" and he responded ""Yeah"". I quickly said she'll only fall asleep for me. He said ""sure"" and let it go. 

Lastly, is he mentioned one time when we were first dating, that there was a traumatizing incident with him and his aunt when he was a kid because his cousin accused him of touching her inappropriately. He denied that it happened and apparently his aunt later apologized. Recently, he's been having some issues sexually performing and I asked him if he was abused as a child and he said ""yes, but I'm not ready to talk about it.""

Am I overreacting and reading way into this behavior that is potentially innocent? Or am I on to something assuming it's a little strange? He really does seem to care a lot about me. He's never requested her presence during our hang outs but has said it's fine if I ever needed to bring her along. He has a great step-father that has accepted him as a son and he really loves this man and sings his praises. Maybe he's just acting by example. I'm not sure. I don't want my feelings for him to blind my judgement as a parent in protecting my daughter. But on the same token, I don't want to ruin our relationship with accusations and unfounded worries. When my sirens go off, my mama shield goes up. It's instinctual. 
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parenting,parentingthrowawayye,2018/04/04,"12 Year Old Son Selling Weed And Hanging out With Gang Members? I live in one of the worst parts of Trenton Nj, and  to make it worse, I am a single father. The local gang is called 801st. I often see my son hanging out with grown men in this gang, but I  never said anything. However, he was caught selling weed today. Im not sure if he is in the gang. I went through his phone and basically the squad is my son, three other kids his age, a 14 year old, and 7 grown men. (The gang is huge in Trenton, but even in the gang there a smaller subsets and squads). I dont know what to do.",1.6453658536585394,2.9229467479674827,3.1175691056910573,94.61879268292685,77.45528455284554,5.5704065040650415,22.86910569105691,5.6839178017228535,0.10212910569105738,442,13,104,2,10,145,75,123,0.06,0.915,0.025,-0.4754,3,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,1,2,18,14,8,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,9,0,0,1,0,2,6,3,1,0,2,4,2,10,1,14,10,3,22,0,0,1,0,14,9,0,2,7,63,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852260415586112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22983727989029415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26379832112852514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866673240291692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431307726804597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237010065248809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19875446314997894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502462003038703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359967645724253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4723783641904816,0.0,0.1525236394946188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437454694069915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410768531719807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936385980203542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121402522840423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21335456679493947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865634860053328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293811727754898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898951354133602
parenting,alittlebitmental,2018/04/04,"[Help Needed] Urgently need a GPS tracker for a low-functioning autistic teenager [UK]. As a bit of background, my brother-in-law has autism, and although you'd probably describe him as low functioning, and not very communicative, he is also quite intelligent. He does, however, need full-time care (which he gets).

Recently, he has started going off on little adventures by himself. Normally, this is at night, when people have switched off a little and aren't watching him 100% of the time. He never goes to the same place twice, but it's always somewhere he's been before. Luckily, he's never come to any harm, but the family has had to call the police out before to help track him down.

This is a major concern for a few of reasons:

1. We're in a mid-size UK town. If you're from the UK, you'll know that this means that there is a lot of traffic, and some people can be a bit reckless in the way that they drive. My BIL doesn't have the awareness to cross roads safely.

2. He probably knows the town well enough to find his way back (eventually), but that is obviously something we don't want to put to the test.

3. We don't want anyone to take advantage of him or hurt him (physically or emotionally).

I was thinking that it might be worth getting some kind of GPS tracker to help us find him quickly and easily, should he ever go wandering off again. I'm struggling to find something suitable, which is why I thought I'd post here in case anyone has any experience with these.

There are a few requirements, which are the main reason why I'm finding it hard to locate the best product:

1. It can't be something he has to wear (e.g. a watch) or carry himself (e.g. a phone). He doesn't like putting things on his wrist, and if he is able to find it, he is likely to cut it up with scissors. Ideally, it would be something that could be sewn into his coat or attached to his shoes.

2. It has to have a reasonably battery life (e.g. days not hours).

3. Ideally it would be small enough so that we can conceal it, so that he won't find it and try and take it apart to see what it looks like!

Thanks in advance.",4.532429253324242,5.292349231503582,5.2565726218888535,84.02858890214797,69.81145584725536,8.372349130583023,29.28409478349813,8.527137837955566,2.0087946812137742,1644,60,337,25,28,533,217,419,0.07,0.8170000000000001,0.114,0.969,1,0,4,0,0,0,78,4,2,1,7,12,18,1,1,24,0,44,4,3,3,4,64,68,24,0,14,11,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,30,16,0,2,14,0,1,8,11,5,1,1,4,5,23,13,46,50,13,47,0,2,4,0,38,23,0,10,16,210,53,2,0.08359728910646498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685272189557136,0.06955964137578229,0.0,0.0,0.11369804653117717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690633655405475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428115517016958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422702715966433,0.0,0.08773019737435803,0.0,0.1825331763924148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536217891494922,0.0,0.08523300771129919,0.0,0.0,0.07201166235536974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674563297818725,0.0,0.0,0.053913335642494266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315655104925749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403569835727392,0.0,0.1727566932219084,0.0,0.0,0.07561853403192167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177418980823656,0.07880808420137309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584384465043326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735226641452326,0.0,0.095020531798975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488675085840554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810050219851372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232649037833267,0.0,0.08949262698872901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705371230694255,0.09188576766986092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904723756144896,0.12252423838572422,0.16757289096106054,0.0,0.0,0.07020066833416222,0.0,0.0,0.07107142573096803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106195522201964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868351297190652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859589918451192,0.12895076593661187,0.0,0.0,0.07845039279074616,0.08190759393923533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591166877217968,0.0,0.08734137434026172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800630945389153,0.0,0.18026403366425287,0.0,0.0,0.16807673055636346,0.0,0.0889160071584387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578558089308566,0.08254223774053067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661621604034561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574291093927081,0.0,0.0,0.05917059150244159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739403749150966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570951519413145,0.0,0.0,0.07696515215922656,0.0,0.0,0.055538324276636505,0.05356576734883426,0.0,0.06636690964272562,0.048746251549570484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056757071833113085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055724573235493,0.0,0.0,0.06897651852920197,0.09861569409213668,0.13271127391839282,0.0,0.0,0.07516400253752945,0.0,0.1508671013840998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877023131566725,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MultinameDriver,2018/04/04,"2.5 year old toddler biting his 1 year old brother. I'm not really sure how to handle this situation anymore. 2 year old bites his brother at least 2 times a day, usually on his head, shoulder or back. It always leaves a mark for a few days and I've had it. 

I've put him in time out, I've spanked his butt, I've BIT him back, and tried explaining to him it hurts. He just won't stop biting. 

Usually he bites because he wants a toy, but it's only his brother. He doesn't bite anyone but his brother. He doesn't go to daycare. I was thinking about sending him until this issue popped up. 

I've been separating them for now, but the 2 year old will ask to play with his brother. Usually, playing together ends with the baby crying and/or being bit. 

I just want more options and opinions on how to stop this behavior.",3.000157553290088,4.409741759036148,4.4598795180722925,85.83085727525491,74.18072289156626,7.2763670064874875,27.22706209453197,7.882392219407189,1.6037503243744209,636,24,131,9,13,212,98,166,0.05,0.883,0.067,0.1868,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,0,6,0,8,3,3,2,1,24,15,10,0,2,7,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,2,2,3,0,3,4,1,0,0,3,0,14,3,17,9,5,31,0,1,0,1,25,6,1,3,22,70,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346950118946928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332219105871227,0.08694869675785635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625084566720655,0.0,0.0,0.1912355765438424,0.0,0.07580285470652598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715168787288786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659308444628018,0.16039145217132975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101375525762712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067120267975559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276193939852322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311968393619236,0.0,0.0,0.1297895189902184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166912758315985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5219393419835311,0.0,0.0,0.09457408893819692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250065061309998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966205571603882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977506898053071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20792501872351746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117198788173864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967872057409252,0.0,0.0,0.14501944613091325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442576464449235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108632198692683,0.0,0.14669018521879812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203103437668508
parenting,Momintrouble778,2018/04/04,"Should modesty be an equal partner decision? So I'm posting this on a throwaway.

I'm (39F) a wife (Hubby is 40M), and a mother to 3, and we're a very close, loving family. But, my husband and I have recently gotten into a tiff about swimsuits. My oldest (16F), just turned 16 right before spring break, so I took her shopping as part of her birthday presents. One thing she really wanted was some new bathing suits for our spring break vacation and for the summer. She grabbed some suits and tried them on, and they were cute, but I noticed that a lot of them had very little coverage in the bum. It took some convincing, but I eventually let her get some (definitely not thong-style, but some that were kinda cheeky).  I didn't tell my husband about it because I feel like clothing and modesty should be up to me because I understand clothing and teenage girls a little better. So we went on our spring break trip to the beach, and my husband was very upset that our daughter was in ""skimpy swimsuits."" I tried to reason with him, but he freaked out because he thinks it was too immodest, but he was equally upset that I didn't at least consult him about it, since our marriage is 50/50. So that put a real damper on our vacation, and it's been a point of tension in our household since we got home.

So I'm taking to Reddit! Are those sort of swimsuits inappropriate for a teenager, and am I in the wrong for not consulting my husband?

TLDR: I let my daughter get cheeky swimsuits, and my husband's upset because of the suits, and that I didn't consult him.",5.966567656765674,6.135588841584159,6.085231023102312,81.41649339933996,66.52475247524752,8.58151815181518,33.0049504950495,8.167268648758528,2.384120792079208,1221,49,236,14,18,388,154,303,0.075,0.875,0.05,-0.8508,0,0,0,0,0,0,46,8,0,3,1,10,11,0,4,16,0,23,1,0,1,0,45,40,25,0,3,9,9,2,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,14,19,0,0,5,3,1,5,5,6,0,1,17,2,39,5,31,17,10,34,0,0,0,1,39,17,0,8,9,162,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274015750750158,0.0,0.1142547851138872,0.0,0.0,0.118751843834532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265788084132322,0.0,0.06789148386583244,0.09592327426266807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030217720675045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738883500618752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468482401998838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746025181975277,0.0,0.06559805910679048,0.26914975887514303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141524562158906,0.12118487668371206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967982937763914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528684952108889,0.0,0.0,0.09098554727668272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454024766501162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692955481350546,0.0,0.1285945624400204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497950426921876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528298654134425,0.0860174811889353,0.13805301561659342,0.13257647616786064,0.0,0.0,0.11466675418946187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22214082172711885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095512916428076,0.0,0.11735882733150475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892037280114703,0.08603547556657552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983601830157297,0.18232247603690652,0.1460483596785173,0.0,0.13978091194548029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323630670278683,0.07919655182284585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447062064004585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680432920698366,0.0,0.0
parenting,fastforpeacemom,2018/04/04,"Non-violent parenting - how far is too far? My husband and I are trying to raise our almost-7-year-old son as best we can. We use timeouts instead of spanking, let him learn things on his own and deal with natural consequences, encourage him to ""use his words,"" etc. This wasn't what I thought my parenting style would be ten years ago; I was spanked for misbehaving as a kid and planned to do the same. But it just seems better this way, more natural.

Recently I was reading an article about Arun Gandhi, grandson of the famous Gandhi, and he said ""Parents should teach children through 'penance' — instead of punishment — to embrace non-violence as a way of life."" (Linking is discouraged in posts, so I didn't.) He told two stories that have had me thinking about how far to take the non-violent parenting thing.

The first was when he was 16 and lied to his dad about why he was late picking him up, his dad refused to get in the car with him and walked 18 miles home! I've got a few years before Little Guy will be driving, but I can see the appeal of it as a lesson; Arun Gandhi said he decided then to never lie again.

But the second story was that when he or his sisters misbehaved, his parents would fast as penance instead of punishing them. Does that seem like psychological punishment? I know fasting, like walking, is good for your health (still not linking) but I feel like there's something faintly wrong with this. 

I'm having trouble putting my finger on why, though. If Little Guy doesn't share, for example, and it upsets his friend, I don't punish him, but ask him to think about how he made his friend feel. When he refused to put on his shoes and jacket last week, I canceled our play date at the park, and let him know I was sad that I wouldn't get to go. This feel like natural consequences, and an appropriate way to encourage him to think about how his actions impact others. 

TL;DR: What's the line between nonviolent parenting and coercion? And is that line also the same line where punishment is the best option? ",7.2936655592469535,6.948726421188635,6.9645847176079725,77.9532558139535,63.8578811369509,10.368844592100405,35.4828349944629,9.842372674337009,3.29951295681063,1603,66,304,29,21,504,203,387,0.107,0.7559999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.931,6,0,1,0,0,0,58,4,1,1,6,24,24,5,1,17,0,32,5,2,8,1,62,57,35,0,5,9,12,4,4,2,5,3,2,1,4,17,17,0,3,16,2,0,8,7,10,0,4,16,7,40,14,44,32,8,44,0,2,1,0,60,14,0,5,22,203,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590519042096427,0.0,0.08574535510799511,0.0,0.0,0.06847770452805321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005181798803505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286421065053299,0.0,0.17972529356017286,0.07573213984581577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828002803201565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749347602460799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549928262526446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989021099237982,0.1223471499280666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283622208917435,0.0,0.0,0.1323139391120123,0.0,0.08947552948903588,0.0,0.04866509332853158,0.07182177767155039,0.06848555784868485,0.0,0.0,0.16957290024920038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101992076539447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589314993713627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411922612004972,0.06979929224162447,0.09659355794022688,0.0,0.0,0.17512348135937725,0.06048249304264337,0.16733656423261126,0.17164606898232124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102449546006726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660425798538684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985352529148702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5704870934624484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200918041903425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721621553578406,0.0,0.0,0.08565245281079463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454858391419985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290610896813176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823544994792405,0.15590736156936527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592160345187653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838365386856815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438256209878272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377657788532487,0.16460335579432414,0.08413033314238873,0.06798008368385716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182244689977364,0.0,0.05813666047788664,0.0,0.08364736444321097,0.0,0.0,0.1479124098817901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039056109889055,0.068686643587273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545342133970556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165716781834685,0.09362217571093832,0.0,0.16542734716300295
parenting,CivFTW,2018/04/04,"Anyone have experience with this weird sleep quirk? Background: My daughter is about to turn one and from the second month on she has been a champion sleeper.  Before this she slept 11 hours straight for months like clockwork.  She can roll over, crawl, stand/walk while holding something, but can't lie herself down on her back.

Randomly a couple nights ago, my daughter refused to lie down in her crib.  The second I put her down for the night she cries, flips over and sits up, and cries at her closed bedroom door.  When we don't answer (tough love) she sits there simply waiting for me to help her lie down again.  I help her, rinse, and repeat all night.  

We are able to get 4 hours of sleep in a row if I stay for 5-10 minutes and rub her tummy but it's hit or miss.  The longest she has remained sitting in silence is 2 hours, just sort of bobbing back and forth, catching herself from falling down.  

During the days since, she doesn't need a different amount of naptime than usual.  She has been crankier and very clingy with either my wife or myself depending on her mood.
WTF is going on?",4.2939395734597126,5.837280488151662,3.9815610189573465,90.00513773696684,71.13270142180096,6.222867298578199,26.45764218009479,6.322622252153567,0.8750210900473929,857,28,170,5,16,258,136,211,0.1,0.8420000000000001,0.058,-0.8764,1,0,1,0,0,0,29,2,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,9,0,14,4,3,1,1,28,23,14,0,2,7,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,12,0,3,1,0,0,4,3,3,0,3,3,1,28,2,33,19,3,43,0,1,0,1,27,18,0,6,18,111,31,0,0.14427260480943274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788895925270585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008787597879016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218734553640567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276536051338198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963489311283732,0.3169533637270948,0.09304389472727956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073416516721494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411262912460026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753764813807592,0.0,0.08199344607668317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934057717355479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262383627024415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048430721913321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021165861907846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23031403343590284,0.0,0.0,0.10697630839465667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4061701989581191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977628508232314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450338161943128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934378957032392,0.0,0.2887535935184185,0.0,0.0,0.11106809970404352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377540064597015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692716511128404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889589151751024,0.11904000841726435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blightnow,2018/04/04,"Is my son The Terminator? (9month standing in crib) Hi everyone,

My son has found a new trick: pulling himself up and standing in the crib.

He’ll walk around the perimeter by holding onto the bars and/or the top part of the crib. Around and around (and, you guessed it: around some more). 

He cannot walk unassisted. More importantly, he cannot sit down gracefully on his own - although now we are practicing like crazy during the day. 

My ultimate question and/or dilemma: 

What do we do here? I’ve read two different schools of thought (and open to others!). Either, (a) consistently go in there, put him down, and then leave the room, or (b) let him explore and inevitably tire himself out. 

Our biggest fear is that he’ll come tumbling down and seriously hurt himself. ",3.4560238095238103,6.2704906499999975,3.390000000000001,87.38166666666667,78.21428571428572,6.590476190476192,29.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,2.045676190476191,601,28,112,10,15,182,97,140,0.123,0.83,0.047,-0.8532,1,0,0,0,0,0,34,3,1,0,1,7,6,1,1,10,0,9,2,0,0,0,25,16,10,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,16,1,1,4,2,0,7,2,4,0,1,2,0,13,2,18,11,6,32,0,1,0,0,18,18,0,4,5,74,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.622701027576303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063877765109884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277949591276396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270648723613295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709994610449266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19678227420073635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19174071075166385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938512939277827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19264382425837606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720662039212912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516669853752413,0.0,0.17882088232235466,0.0,0.08543477958692551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889474765880433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18937189168619525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757970335253323,0.1958993063065332,0.0,0.1749216845828767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698218952694073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388307090554983,0.0,0.20099235302350504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082684055348238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mental-hygiene,2018/04/04,"Children’s Books about Skip Generation Families Hello all. I’m posting this for my parents, who don’t use Reddit. They’re raising my nephew (2 y/o), because his parents aren’t capable. 

Can anyone recommend any children’s books about kids being raised by grandparents? He brought me the Dr. Seuss book, “Are You My Mommy?” so I thought I’d ask about less sad alternatives for him to read.",2.56240487062405,5.4401335205479455,3.5760730593607306,83.87071537290716,83.65753424657535,6.5321156773211575,28.659056316590558,7.793537801064563,2.2729585996955852,309,15,55,6,9,99,60,73,0.041,0.8809999999999999,0.079,0.3925,4,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,1,3,10,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,7,7,2,2,0,1,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,26,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20219601050006286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790150380398803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779653581238269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812508763646074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28029822335252197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6603041764065543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28476194267100285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974125425020984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23604845937784186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256799452011791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jonw72,2018/04/05,"Daughter may not graduate high school. Let me start off by saying that I am a single-parent 45 and I have an 18-year-old daughter who is a senior in high school. My daughter is very close to not graduating she’s not motivated at all and I am scared that she’s not going to graduate. Me and her mom are divorced and we’ve been divorced for 16 years. I have given more motivational speeches to my daughter that would make Vince Lombardi proud but I can’t do it anymore. She’s just not getting it. Her mom is constantly blaming me calling me a bad father because she is not working hard to graduate. My daughter knows that I love her tremendously and I would do anything for her but I let her know that if you want to graduate you have to work and if you don’t you won’t. I cannot do the work for her. I am at a point to where I just can’t do anymore she has to do the work herself I cannot help her. If she fails she fails, am I a bad parent for thinking that way? Thank you for reading.",1.3192788461538465,3.2623639086538496,3.159269230769233,90.93573076923077,80.58653846153845,6.083076923076924,24.823076923076925,7.1686216300943375,0.9765242307692308,775,30,171,10,20,259,97,208,0.134,0.7979999999999999,0.068,-0.9411,2,0,0,0,2,0,16,0,5,0,9,3,8,0,1,8,0,30,1,0,3,1,31,41,11,0,6,13,9,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,9,7,0,0,5,1,0,1,12,5,0,0,2,3,40,3,18,33,2,15,0,2,0,1,36,9,0,4,4,127,49,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26999580215335583,0.0,0.0,0.11201801427199352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273148169145837,0.08297960158792071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899727858104846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710110829418482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111889283896378,0.0,0.07736210284967605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193988840732906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912406900835292,0.2876438316294742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961979425532745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783909338230845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228567429266848,0.0,0.09086347075352318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31885231701147115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283867942220865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114900017044858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868067462098862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616030321657374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825084397647057,0.13628333667034953,0.2755284303073805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634889005193788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532419898006256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722242076332049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231611567819644,0.08028914724544163,0.10804847150199792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3963980186787323,0.0,0.0,0.1933964097351344,0.0,0.0,0.17531809859381825
parenting,Wolfgeng,2018/04/05,"Need help with an oppositional 7year old. I am the single father of a great little boy.
I like to think that I am a good father but my son is having problems in school, mostly with opposition. He does not care much about concequences and things seem to be getting worst. He is starting to be rude to his teachers and has been sent twice to the principals office this week. His teacher has recomended that maybe he should be medicated but I am adamantly opposed to it. I apply consequences adequately when He deserves one ( no tv, no tablet/computer, no toys etc...) But since He doesn't seem to care about any of these I am left feeling hopeless and very concerned for the future. There has been no lifestyle changes or anything different that should trigger a rise in bad behavior.
Does anyone have any advice on how to manage this?
Thank you all for taking the time to read this. ",5.398272727272726,6.956580781818182,5.434318181818185,80.5914772727273,68.45454545454545,8.166666666666668,29.50757575757576,8.59863814320734,2.240848484848485,699,26,127,11,12,219,110,165,0.21,0.7190000000000001,0.071,-0.9842,1,0,0,0,0,1,19,0,1,0,0,5,11,1,0,8,0,19,1,0,2,1,23,31,9,0,4,5,3,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,9,5,0,1,4,3,0,2,6,5,0,2,3,1,10,6,20,23,6,13,0,1,0,0,14,5,0,4,7,89,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128478959058118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447909665249527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540668297854477,0.0,0.13582195192648053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378097189804785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33655861573243706,0.0,0.17460084173262322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244194962411366,0.0,0.0,0.28887244758855835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18407419616955945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345415630864478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623172716473787,0.0,0.0,0.13843597175736208,0.0,0.1819680269420202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062942601511866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932712981712834,0.0,0.0,0.08063501291355503,0.16542329588781055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581474453602998,0.0,0.0,0.16627034571503535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213306203874794,0.12238236210550454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731920385824558,0.0,0.11184204044297284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793040264977656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509450089761327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703924569096756,0.0,0.3005103438358766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653092997335142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682312347573788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409693601755845,0.0,0.0,0.15195571390654872,0.0,0.0,0.10965177717274216,0.1057572705320564,0.0,0.0,0.09624188670684268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361834001732259,0.0,0.0,0.1323930228410686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frog_milk,2018/04/05,"As a kids content creator and educator, How can I improve in teaching your kids? Hi /r/Parenting!

About 2 years ago my kids (3 and 5) were exposed to some inappropriate videos that were targeting children on YouTube (see more at /r/ElsaGate) and it not only made me mad but it broke my heart. Not just for my kids but for every child that is being targeted.

So after much thought and a few thousand dollars later, I've decided to be the change I want to see and create educational content for kids 2-7 years old! I'm an indie musician, artist, and video editor so I'm definitely not out of my comfort zone... However, I need your advice!

- What do you look for when it comes to kids educational TV or videos?
- Who are some of your favorites and why?
- What/Who do your kiddos like?
- What topics are you looking/hoping to see?
- What can I do to better teach our children?

Thank you so much for taking your time to help :)",1.7797486033519547,4.2813653407821235,3.589885474860335,85.26583379888271,82.74301675977654,6.261564245810058,24.03379888268157,7.554174236665415,1.3174735195530731,712,27,140,12,20,238,112,179,0.036000000000000004,0.7759999999999999,0.189,0.9845,2,0,0,0,0,0,37,1,8,0,1,7,6,1,0,4,0,12,1,1,2,0,24,25,16,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,9,9,0,0,2,5,1,1,3,2,0,1,4,4,18,4,21,19,6,13,0,1,4,0,21,4,0,3,9,90,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19416212468546767,0.17613082984348255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572928231772364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21019260705695808,0.1711578582006618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740882286960973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23545413185650546,0.1331808440359189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707217569046124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668534740530715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800969398648187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921268782213133,0.14732957466572344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20849662435707392,0.0,0.0,0.15111624443042598,0.0,0.0,0.22062690888743608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4750017630185112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939365841807067,0.0,0.0,0.1829313498507088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774136769387798,0.11586045562122807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719526000168193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929102801720792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559056965058195
parenting,hardwoodfan,2018/04/05,"How do I give my children the best possible education? I had a very poor childhood, growing up in abject poverty with absent parents- I often feel disadvantaged due to my upbringing. I’m now a parent of two young boys and I’m coming into a career where I may have the opportunity to make a lot of money- My boys are still toddlers, but my oldest son is getting to the age where I need to start thinking about school. I want to give them the very best education possible, but being someone who dropped out in middle school, I don’t understand how to do that. I want them to have the opportunity to pursue an ‘Ivy League’ type education in the future if that’s what they want.. I’m not precisely sure where or what to look for. Advice? 🤔",4.72496551724138,5.759199324137933,6.178103448275862,76.59474137931036,69.55172413793103,8.83448275862069,28.98275862068965,9.120678840339163,2.3925034482758614,582,21,111,11,10,198,90,145,0.06,0.809,0.131,0.8779,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,3,4,9,5,0,0,11,0,10,0,0,3,2,25,27,7,0,5,5,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,3,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,1,2,15,5,20,24,3,22,0,0,1,0,12,10,0,5,9,79,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873962706553954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409525545780824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993220677885942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213720390578698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487094316888534,0.3116645892918821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364131047117484,0.0,0.0,0.13810515014048388,0.0,0.0,0.1084334718189674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204511012435987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.360752472132745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662652434434415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288065493789342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763934083190646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497959045143012,0.0,0.12972899371042346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531027341868677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408836274234998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868541386517798,0.16911124360298285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680687027076911,0.28744326778437346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bobbybox,2018/04/05,"My son is exactly like me. He's four and for a while I was terrified that he would be exactly like me. I have adhd and possible asd, and didn't get much/any support through out my life. So, as an adult I feel like I'm just a disorganized, unmotivated mess and I'm always afraid that he will turn out just like me, either by example or nature.

So far he's nothing I cant handle. Hes just a happy kid with a curious outlook.

The other night he was reprimanded for coloring on grandma's leather chair (with washable ink) and made to clean it up. My mom gives me this stern look as if foreshadowing a destructive, unruly kid. Because well, I did the exact same thing at his age. I colored on EVERYYYYTHING. It was just an impulse and I didn't learn my lesson until my mom destroyed my favorite doll by writing all over her face.

Last night, I discovered my son had found an ink stamper, and stamped all over his bedroom wall and then some. My gut reflex was worry about what my mom would think. But that was immediately erased by a welling of love and admiration for him.  He needs to leave his mark, just like I had.
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parenting,sinkflorida_sink,2018/04/05,"Sick Baby - Support My daughter was diagnosed with Group B Strep at 6 days old. She developed pneumonia and sepsis. She is home now and okay, but she is suspected to have PPHN from the infection. I'm a little traumatized still and looking for support. Has anyone been through anything similar, or does anyone know of a subreddit for this type of things?

Thanks so much, all.",3.9987605042016803,6.834560514705885,4.510336134453784,80.02794117647062,76.20588235294117,8.591596638655464,30.302521008403357,9.23628265651192,3.2915815126050427,297,14,50,8,7,94,58,68,0.102,0.754,0.14400000000000002,0.4748,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,1,6,3,0,0,1,9,12,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,4,9,10,2,6,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,1,4,34,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34342256930157106,0.0,0.2020867530991166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837512996913064,0.0,0.0,0.24925278033551845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490375511819226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463310805266258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496123198095544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461299979771859,0.0,0.0,0.2062205916003384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052539208742432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25768895412937803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611598084517504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5573496894681031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260918533614865,0.0,0.0,0.16314867593996812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tryingmybest2123,2018/04/05,"Am I the reason for my daughter's bullying? Hi
I am a mother of a 16 year old high school junior, Allison* and I've heard / noticed that she's been getting bullied a lot at school and other activities and I feel like my parenting style is to blame. 

I wouldn't say I'm a mean mom but compared to a lot of other parents, I admit that I can be strict. When she was about nine she was invited to a sleep over (I knew the parents) but I said she couldn't stay past eight because I don't want her sleeping under the same roof as a man. I remember when she was leaving one of the other girls made a snarky comment of ""how lame"" Allison is and the other girls laughed.

Over time, I have have always been much more active in my daughter's life than other parents, (chaperoning field trips, volunteering at school dances, etc). Yet, because of this I have noticed that Allison has received a lot of comments about having a ""helicopter mom"". It only worsened when she became a teenage and she was ""the only high schooler without a cellphone"" and she's going to be ""the only sixteen year old without a license"" (because I won't allow her to drive until she's 18).

I know I sound strict and mean but I'm not. Other mom's have called me abusive but I tell them that it's my job to keep her safe and lead her on the right path and I can't do that if she's texting some boy I don't know or saying she's driving to the mall but she's hooking up with a stranger. Am I in the wrong and if so, what could I do better?",3.0000125418060217,4.048677983974365,4.412614269788187,87.58745819397997,73.6474358974359,6.8363433667781495,27.34726867335563,7.079830092131019,1.2531363991081392,1169,43,249,11,23,389,156,312,0.095,0.838,0.067,-0.8049,5,0,0,0,0,0,35,0,0,1,2,8,6,0,0,24,0,29,3,2,5,0,46,45,25,0,6,11,10,1,1,0,2,1,5,0,4,15,11,0,2,9,2,0,7,9,2,0,3,10,6,42,4,31,29,8,31,0,1,0,0,43,12,0,7,12,177,57,6,0.0,0.11316142024942738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947034760109775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746624602447461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446910779414893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752439627614196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625540541499351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651672083689374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482917391746646,0.06823096915405426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04989901355445128,0.0,0.054279425123191866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018189946493347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477700131131647,0.08489194211306421,0.0,0.0,0.10497745175063357,0.0,0.0,0.10112923341735376,0.0,0.0,0.06746015938383887,0.046660408351210464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24359258309713125,0.0,0.09037202507306533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080725285984301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355736173603673,0.0,0.0,0.07020940517309447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174730931890259,0.20043926208828086,0.0,0.06471872564212665,0.21791452463503064,0.0,0.0,0.4242015423566802,0.0,0.09117323955117032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819818102086912,0.0,0.0,0.10819200112155243,0.08156335183755932,0.09085002554245644,0.1519036676539297,0.0,0.2899777329845941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911540471634437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179887228237124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347824434854892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569151131713048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056333121717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841327016824449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442305827024548,0.0,0.12300810415992168
parenting,Unstructional,2018/04/05,"What big and little things do you want to teach your kids? I was thinking as I drifted off to sleep last night that I'm doing everything wrong (well, I always think that with parenting).  I am assuming I have time, lots of time. But I started thinking about what I would be doing if I only had X amount of time left. What skills would I be teaching them? What big concepts?

I think I don't do enough ""meta"" parenting, I'm just surviving in the moment.  I wanted to compile a list of big things (morals, ethics, etc) and little things (life skills, habits, etc) that I should work at teaching my kids.  In a nice way, not in a manic ""OHMYGOD we are going to learn to fix the car, clean the toilet, how to be a good person, and scoop the cat litter in the next 2 hours"" kind of way. 

What kind of big and little things are you teaching your kids? What do you still want to teach them?  ",3.8536440677966075,4.5500003107344655,4.229166666666668,91.01290254237291,71.31638418079095,7.0299435028248585,23.224576271186447,6.816661863887847,0.5027254237288137,673,15,148,5,12,211,97,177,0.019,0.8859999999999999,0.095,0.8645,2,0,0,0,0,0,32,1,5,2,4,5,6,0,0,9,0,18,2,1,1,0,24,29,8,0,7,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,13,6,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,2,0,22,5,21,21,5,29,1,0,0,0,14,14,0,3,10,98,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458056185549416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986691480941545,0.2803455338598089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129581931610265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143007358002568,0.1054191929540452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377508637292248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617646084597632,0.0,0.10245061171453408,0.0,0.0,0.13655786902858658,0.0,0.08877551922429995,0.0,0.3779102380743135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685347836487563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366815629949558,0.1179475050987951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558963022366186,0.0,0.0,0.2791181678373331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974389585540996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577645786608102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896097769132118,0.0,0.1003727537215887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339999483887768,0.3221372586036436,0.0,0.0,0.2198650082680649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239802761941435,0.199526899742988,0.0,0.0,0.11300652880334396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150067862108537,0.0,0.0,0.17856701496773347,0.13741757063134358,0.0,0.0
parenting,JulianneW,2018/04/05,"Hug your kids, even if you have to chase them... I am missing my 17 year old today. He has been living in substance abuse programs since September. We started with a stint of wilderness therapy for 3 months last fall, then he tried life back at home (and failed within 6 weeks - ultimately OD-ed on Xanax). He's currently at a therapeutic boarding school, and we have only seen him for a few hours over one parent weekend since January (when he went back to wilderness to detox for a few weeks, and then transferred to the school to start there). Although I am aware that many kids around this age ""fly the coop"", those kids can also call, text, and come back home. I'm missing my son a lot today, so I just wanted to remind you all to coax your kids out of their rooms (food usually works) and let them know that you love them and simply just like having them around.


Thankfully, we have 3 other teens living at home (15, 15, and 13), but there's still a hole where 17 should be.",7.897812681791737,6.170512172774867,7.081431064572428,82.09130308318791,63.39790575916231,10.164281559045957,31.169866201279806,8.515128840125781,2.051889586969168,759,19,159,8,9,233,126,191,0.043,0.911,0.045,0.09,2,0,0,0,1,0,34,3,5,5,2,15,7,0,0,8,0,12,6,0,0,1,24,24,15,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,4,5,15,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,1,3,1,19,4,23,18,4,37,0,3,1,2,26,12,0,2,23,97,24,6,0.0,0.15516186317461667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472574751330464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23315783557201786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020920540855653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372107735862748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280730172246548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649543552635969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15835294085487872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940796962500641,0.0,0.12896562773443204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197018634552772,0.10674690552615028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391174265325834,0.09249834437373987,0.06397865880707602,0.0,0.2312737163869747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133440756740524,0.11819322070646765,0.0,0.0,0.13276918668330567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045281109018066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741666236784592,0.0,0.08873941340418996,0.09959820694088936,0.0,0.0,0.14541153144006608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26506963963435404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21665689555335693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18538316018238546,0.0,0.10458191200236604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056701453294424,0.14976000166019596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248262619056582,0.0,0.0,0.08891076691946702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422992053592001,0.0,0.07724144946913929,0.0,0.2100905730831044,0.0,0.0,0.12139785045271467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533778405891148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433159722174546
parenting,LisaPizza18,2018/04/05,"Bio dad and new girlfriend take my adoptive daughter to church without asking. Need help. Hey there. I wasn’t really sure wether to post this here or in a step-parenting subreddit, so I apologize if this is misplaced. 

A little back ground:

My wife and I are a married lesbian couple. We met when my wife was 5 month pregnant. Her ex (babies bio dad) was basically a ghost. When things started to get more serious, I wanted to meet him. I just wanted to know who he was because they were going to coparent. I also wanted him to meet me so he could know who I was. I wanted him to know that I had good intentions and that I also wanted this baby in my life. We asked if he would meet up for lunch or dinner and he always canceled because of his job taking him from place to place. It was frustrating but we just rolled with it. The first time I met him was when Sarah was born. He held her for a few minutes, said thank you and left. He came back the next day to sign her birth certificate, held her again briefly and then left. A month later they drew up a parenting plan that made my wife Sarah’s sole caretaker. They came to an agreement about times he would get her and see her and they figured out child support. During this time I let them hash everything out. After all it wasn’t my place to try and sway them one way or the other. So I supported my wife’s choices. 

Soon after Sarah’s birth my wife and I got engaged, then married a year after that. I love Sarah with all my heart. She is the best little girl. So smart and independent. I quit my job when she was born so that I could be a stay at home mom while my wife worked. I raised her. When she cried I held her, when she was sick I stayed up with her, when she learned to walk I was there cheering her on. Everything a mom would do, I did and I loved it. She is my daughter. 

Just before Sarah’s first birthday, he posted on Facebook how he is paying way too much money for a child he barley sees. This was frustrating to my wife because they decided the parenting plan together. They agreed with the days that he would get her. He never mentioned wanting more time or anything. If he did they would have worked it out. I think he was just mad because his child support was too high for him. Anyways, my wife called him and asked what was up and he just ranted that child support was too high. So my wife just said, ‘if it’s too high then let OP adopt her.’ He just said, ‘ok’. That was really surprising, but I went with it. I absolutely wanted to adopt her. She makes me so happy and I love her. 

So we set the adoption in motion. We got a lawyer, an amicus attorney, the whole 9 yards. We paid out the nose for the whole thing but it was so worth it. Every piece of paper we sent him, he signed, got notarized and sent back. He never fought us once during the entire process. The adoption was officially declared June of last year. She is legally my daughter. We got her last name changed and everything. We are over the moon  ow that it’s done because it was a long process. 

Sorry for the length, I just wanted to clear up some of the back story. 

Anyways, today Sarah is 3 years old. She has been with bio dad a few times a year since she was born. My wife and I want Sarah to know her bio dad and we let him take her out every once an a while for a fun weekend. He is always super respectful and nice so that’s a bonus. The down side is that he is always with a different chick. Every woman he has ever been with since my knowing him has had a child about Sarah’s age from a previous relationship. He basically dates women with small children. Which is no big deal. It’s not my business. It’s just a pattern I’ve seen. Recently he has been dating and is now engaged to Mary. Mary has a 3 year old daughter from a previous relationship. Now that he is with her and they live two hours from us, they want to take Sarah once a month for a weekend at their place. Ughhhh.... ok... so my wife and I agree to it after talking it out some. My one condition was that I wanted to set some basic boundaries. 

Here’s the boundaries we sent them:

No telling Sarah about he circumstances surrounding her birth. We will tell her when it is age appropriate. 

They can have her on a weekend but not during the week because she has a schedule at day care and it’s important to us that she keep her schedule. 

No large gifts. For example, no cell phones, tablets or otherwise expensive things. 

Don’t give her any medications without letting us know. ( had to add this because last time they had her Mary gave her children’s Claritin without asking. She just told us she did it after the fact. Which is rough because we had never given Sarah any allergy meds before.)

No parenting decisions. We are her parents and we get to decide how to punish her if she’s bad, when to take her to a doctor, what she can and can’t do. 

Those were the very basic things we outlined for them. He agreed to all the boundaries. No problems. 
Well this last time Sarah was with them, they took her to church. Which is really not a huge deal or anything, but the way they went about it was bad. We found out when we read a Facebook post he had made that day. I was upset because they didn’t tell us about it before hand. They just made that choice for Sarah and took her. Now I know, she is 3 years old and she has no idea what’s going on. She probably had fun! I don’t doubt that. I grew up going to church and so did my wife. But we aren’t religious anymore. We don’t go to church and we have different beliefs. I have heard anti gay services in churches before. I don’t want my child exposed to that. I don’t want her to go one day and come back saying her family is a sin. That would be awful. So I brought it up to the bio dad and asked if they could please not take her to church again. We want our child to decide what she wants to believe when she is older. He was very respectful and agreed not to take her anymore. Two days later I see a post from Mary of Facebook saying: 

‘ I do not understand some parents! How could you have a child and not believe in the ultimate power! Babies are a kiss blown from the hand of God! How can you deny your child the right to know God! You say you want your child to be able to choose for herself then give her the experience of a lifetime! The experience of finding God!’ 

Followed my a bunch of likes from her friends. 

I feel upset. This is not her child to parent. She is always making these choices for Sarah without letting us know. This is supposed to be time for Sarah to get to know her bio dad and go out and have some fun. This is for her to be able to say she knows where she comes from and have a full life. Not for some other girl who has no business budding in to control what my daughter does when she is with them. 

She is basically a stranger to my wife and I. We don’t talk to her and she doesn’t talk to us. We don’t even know if she is a permanent fixture in bio dads life. Maybe she thinks that bio dad should be making decisions for Sarah and she pushes them on him. I have no idea. We never bad mouth her or her parenting styles online. We are very respectful and keep away from drama. But this seems blatant. How do I get this woman to understand that she can’t make these decisions for my daughter? 

She also posts pictures of Sarah and her daughter on Facebook. Makes it look and sound like she is playing ‘house’. Pictures are always captioned with ‘my beautiful family’ or ‘they are so sweet together’ (referring to the two girls in pictures and pictures with bio dad) 

I want this to work for Sarah’s sake but I don’t want this to turn into drama. What do I do? 

My wife says not to bring it up and pretend like we didn’t see the post. After all we aren’t friends with her on Facebook. Her posts are public and sometime linked to bio dads page. My wife says that Mary can have whatever opinion she wants, as long as they don’t break the boundaries then there’s no problem. Which makes sense. But these ‘small’ things keep happening and I want them to stop before they escalate. First it’s giving Sarah meds without our consent, then it’s bringing her to church without giving us a heads up, what next? When bio dad wasn’t with Mary everything was fine. He never took her anywhere without letting us know. Heck, bio dad is Jewish. So I am thinking Mary is trying to play house with bio dad and Sarah. 

Do I bring it up to Mary that I saw her post? Do I just ignore it? I am so stuck. ",1.9884023366034247,4.033640391481914,2.931745537836555,92.88799804082576,78.86581096849473,5.9590532578475015,21.78211389140989,6.9901309983695255,0.4674886958526017,6597,192,1423,74,162,2091,484,1714,0.066,0.8079999999999999,0.125,0.9988,17,0,0,0,0,0,187,40,7,28,14,81,57,5,3,75,3,153,20,6,17,14,280,290,119,1,41,53,45,4,3,4,8,6,11,2,20,89,107,2,9,36,10,6,27,51,16,1,9,84,24,256,41,176,182,22,211,10,0,7,6,323,61,1,24,110,959,345,15,0.056590951654590826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788364538864289,0.11772051295809145,0.0,0.0,0.03848378771154239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056123017599025236,0.0,0.0,0.046569531350151135,0.0,0.1322622514502689,0.0,0.02658453096985064,0.1087873716785092,0.07087662123893035,0.1552379349168701,0.0,0.12038682934379548,0.06375862345122922,0.029694356188615087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0288928444435218,0.06472497269131186,0.028849123400536688,0.0,0.029932861579074745,0.04874809394512162,0.0,0.0,0.031735782153457064,0.09036654009708907,0.031308405814350765,0.031081251543098282,0.10948944649376817,0.058342786255534684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059125499708973524,0.0,0.02896161849120831,0.024761561576312947,0.02895609575069868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01868889492294044,0.025594877832351683,0.07152047627508586,0.0,0.10172059668303747,0.05535680967043904,0.05334891275422863,0.0,0.01430704276220216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0258615522903821,0.07220435185184085,0.0,0.031024528765347142,0.0437220288684117,0.0,0.08869930960238992,0.10857439490094382,0.09648582589288984,0.023732902654177625,0.090521907439989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025021595826833373,0.03012106017039102,0.0,0.0,0.0290393214437789,0.0,0.0,0.03353027509274944,0.018965861004004027,0.08968717122288444,0.028382669326858137,0.0,0.02786534400032395,0.0652983601627868,0.0,0.06388429614372307,0.0,0.0,0.056157787390091966,0.07545095704164616,0.0,0.0,0.20215589581278395,0.09225835738438694,0.0,0.0,0.061486234555602724,0.17360424666329782,0.059957794120360064,0.041471220688577684,0.05671900053433684,0.024985423552650262,0.05008121140091794,0.023761073297239917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661331498980363,0.0803215901513117,0.11332469899614207,0.0,0.028426608638962018,0.0,0.06285978977142062,0.028504715060964917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662786386173536,0.06775553655228399,0.0,0.02080043045223824,0.020980736795267185,0.10911607659381793,0.027327946874272,0.06018511909500626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907402620816454,0.09040127487491573,0.057521240139736564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21993144153685884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825099941794705,0.031059935486451938,0.0,0.0,0.21679395400482185,0.0,0.030507308679481895,0.05414989795848195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030095721501292794,0.02830313298490445,0.0,0.054380419086098336,0.0,0.027938368787815582,0.06075750350459275,0.0,0.024164181752656992,0.08074643133157212,0.1350101884506344,0.0,0.0,0.09019132322699763,0.025759138489418756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046812620003435945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027984949106638637,0.03167446860393105,0.02002768342657452,0.060318424798083775,0.0,0.023656284779156177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843748260902355,0.02666815110402436,0.0,0.14892273484697507,0.06822849496921603,0.07419447913991256,0.02605067252470381,0.0,0.0,0.0939912842183618,0.05439179516667805,0.0,0.0,0.13199455600867951,0.0,0.02682080258112855,0.02703753972895818,0.0943119443091031,0.03842154144583915,0.03077735244967323,0.08292170516947292,0.05891317645953121,0.34035973490188354,0.0,0.0,0.07004019269841702,0.3337880950687693,0.06737889499715362,0.02269692395186513,0.0,0.025441030918776048,0.05246037914428912,0.0,0.06318177654295681,0.0,0.1909308027977224,0.0,0.06179833019928506,0.0,0.0,0.12060176514509195,0.0,0.0,0.10932815237497437
parenting,lilesthobo,2018/04/05,"When did it get better? My son is ten months and still not sleeping despite sleep training with two sleep trainers and allowing him to cry himself to sleep every night and nap (it’s brutal) for months. 
I literally feel like I’m dying. He still sleeps like a newborn. I’m out $1000 in sleep coaches. 
Please tell me it eventually got better.  Some days sleep deprivation causes me to throw up. My child sleeps like a newborn at 10 months. And he screams a lot when he’s awake.",1.7892082111436949,4.408701860215054,2.679315738025416,90.91170087976542,84.16129032258064,5.102248289345064,22.43304007820137,6.574015621080383,0.546772043010753,375,13,75,4,11,118,63,93,0.08199999999999999,0.76,0.158,0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,2,4,8,1,0,3,0,2,8,8,2,0,12,7,6,1,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,3,0,2,2,2,7,5,9,5,2,14,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,2,12,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882120579885683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930661072171913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688021723192192,0.06862202375736366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043094940203536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965028099518701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0538012526192468,0.07601531174174789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055591897901716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510130448867996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559514190164671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046120049630377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547928876002707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985330445066913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680005876958015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.851849807556928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699493537827485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300211980693662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394162002571723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hometownfervor,2018/04/05,"Do toddlers >3 treat step fathers differently then biological? Im a young step father and have been in my 3 year old step sons life a year now

Hes had minimal time with his biological father up to when he was two. His father physicaly abused his mother, and When i came into the picture his father disowned him

At the beginning of my step sons relationship i treated him as a freind and play mate, was always with his mother, he called me by my name, and i never displined him.

When we started living together, and i got the authority to watch over him along with disciplining him he on his own started calling me pa and dad.

(I of course welcomed this, with no children of my own. But i wonder if young children in this situation can tell if you're not actually their biological father and if it impedes proper behaviour lessons children pick up on from fathers)

He has a bad habit of hitting and yellin at his mother just like his bio father did. Even with much displine, correction and leading by example how to treat her he still continues.  
 
Im worried that this will lead into undermining his mother and i's parantal authority.


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parenting,HowProductiveIsThis,2018/04/05,"Should I buy a house with a pool or not? We are thinking of purchasing a house that has a pool.  I love the house and see it as a place my son could have friends over. I am prepared to learn how to clean and maintain it myself. I just worry if he will use it as a teen up until college.  Anyone who has grown up with a pool, or parents who own one have any recommendations?",2.204725738396622,3.2386100000000013,3.5855063291139264,92.80754219409285,75.58227848101266,6.279324894514768,23.29324894514768,6.42735559955562,0.31507426160337504,286,8,68,2,6,94,55,79,0.037000000000000005,0.8059999999999999,0.157,0.8541,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,8,0,9,1,0,2,0,16,13,9,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,2,11,10,1,6,0,0,1,1,8,4,0,3,1,51,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986754200132116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409644966003086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595735826508366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026684189546087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7628748610453473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19890365761564768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933677071543378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244708497577469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23025262942935396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561618444619398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412120987634228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033957477752206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22380895427924347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ibs2pid,2018/04/05,"Lucas the Spider, helping my little one get over her fear of spiders My daughter has a little (huuuuge) bit of a fear bugs that we are working on. I am trying to help her get over it to a manageable degree to where she doesn't scream like she broke a bone or something every time she sees one. Watching movies like Bugs life have helped. Being a kid, putting a friendly personality on them makes her think of them as ""not just bugs"". One of her biggest freak outs comes with spiders. I mean to the point of screaming and crying until we smash them (I put bugs back outside, especially spiders, since the mosquito is our state bird here in Florida). Even the one in bugs life didn't help because we have Black Widows here and I had to explain to her how we still can't touch them. I found this online a couple of days ago and have now watched all the shorts with her about 20 times lol. We saw one of these little spiders outside yesterday and she yelled, but not like usual. It went from meltdown freakout to ""DAD!!! LUCAS IS HERE!!!"". 

This is the intro video to how he was made but there are 5 or 6 little 20 second shorts so far. I hope this might be help out some other parents out there!

[Lucas the Spider](https://youtu.be/ZoYVZmKSYFg)",4.7547255722372626,6.007695631799162,4.704656657642137,86.37282549840019,69.6694560669456,6.9624415456559205,26.61112478464189,7.048011613610866,1.1381039133645086,972,30,191,8,17,300,142,239,0.092,0.831,0.077,-0.4208,1,0,1,0,0,0,40,6,0,4,1,15,11,0,2,14,1,18,3,1,4,1,34,31,13,0,1,7,3,1,3,1,1,2,3,0,2,8,15,0,0,4,1,0,4,5,6,0,6,7,9,28,5,30,21,3,34,0,1,5,0,33,19,0,5,13,130,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068416509553564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733804599210936,0.0,0.06923892855442564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400283498829097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784139476199367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256770406694903,0.12476520642421672,0.07325141210463677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502026839774825,0.0,0.0956982805067774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556241158147327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453751195492348,0.08775367281283518,0.0,0.11868449223462355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806602768064864,0.0,0.0,0.11281319877092345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16045356796083327,0.16647223496454044,0.4553586138594971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747464873536187,0.07581730014748775,0.0,0.0,0.12372480258417815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204932412023075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848327123003072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261200900414783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917598796258402,0.0,0.0,0.10737231639968377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283638678345848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051066560564812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395674092930838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744147229591852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070725015976336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277917517086174,0.0,0.0,0.13246191200232246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711516286562105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509524096555533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529225349812693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268952118712014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,linnyanne,2018/04/05,"Possible PTSD from dog bite? Have any of you ever dealt with a traumatic experience with your kid? My son was violently bit by our dog in February (dog is now gone). While I didn’t see it, I heard it. Now every night it replays in my head. The sounds, what I saw, the whole ordeal in the ER. It keeps me up at night. My son is amazing and is healing incredibly, but my brain can’t leave it alone. Any ideas on how I can make it stop?",0.7057753357753356,2.5955180879120867,2.8764102564102565,92.44914529914531,82.4065934065934,6.681807081807082,20.001221001221,7.793537801064563,0.5353579975579974,330,9,79,6,9,112,66,91,0.129,0.845,0.026,-0.8171,0,1,0,0,0,0,15,1,2,0,0,4,2,1,0,4,0,8,3,2,2,1,10,14,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,7,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,5,4,12,1,11,9,2,14,0,0,2,0,7,6,0,0,7,50,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22456689450459366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29489895255875115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367184141135813,0.0,0.0,0.24205011727232706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961320107107305,0.1826857038962058,0.0,0.0,0.2120979529246076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225265751120125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24477076111827895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272538320046265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295879888949925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473339303074306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069540219491776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24443933475312585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534586114083581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727826724651643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18127668864341853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24207907837682385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsjdvs,2018/04/05,Two under 4. It's 8:18am. We've been awake for about seven mins. I'm in the bathroom escaping already. How are they already fighting? Holy shit. Y'all help me. I swear all they do is fight all day long....SOS..   ,-1.1538095238095245,0.2584969523809555,0.2776190476190479,101.38404761904762,115.1904761904762,2.8190476190476192,16.571428571428573,5.033348758259628,-0.8149714285714279,160,5,35,1,9,50,38,42,0.221,0.6920000000000001,0.087,-0.7184,0,0,0,0,3,0,14,0,1,2,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,4,1,1,1,2,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,5,0,4,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,2,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7557969439684262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22084980506655885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295348185484969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30305457182175216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515166379065709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345206868592051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Szyz,2018/04/05,"Life for you (or your child) after ADHD diagnosis and proper supports and strategies It feels like the vast majority of people who are asked to have their child assessed for ADHD are very defensive and refuse to do so. I was wondering if anyone who has ADHD or has a child with ADHD would share how much better it is to have help figuring out strategies for impulsivity, executive function, etc rather than just thinking you/they are ""bad"" or having trouble in so many situations.

My contribution: graphic organisers! Best invention ever!",7.030455927051673,9.143285085106386,7.598206686930093,64.50500000000002,65.17021276595744,10.052279635258358,33.641337386018236,10.290406445055957,4.0298316109422485,434,19,64,11,7,143,72,94,0.049,0.773,0.179,0.9155,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,2,1,2,6,8,1,0,2,0,12,1,0,1,1,20,17,10,0,3,6,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,4,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,5,12,15,4,5,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,5,3,51,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7753581662244166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127778956043569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078461466864726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467062477946404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926417048848688,0.14264812232484486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988126807982066,0.0,0.14589626855450008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155319852383043,0.1152257895034194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810945723327382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392407614024724,0.07879827089486241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163523001792038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856689479772055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181835361055352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129700300716406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303026857491664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033482819853972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308135102226026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749124000058891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145759686176657,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imigawakalong,2018/04/05,Daughter with adhd- medication thoughts? Does anyone have experience with this? Daughter is 13yo. Will be seeing a psychiatrist to talk about medication to help her focus. She is not the hyperactive version but more of the impulsive version. If youve had a child who has been on medication: pros? Cons? Alternatives?,4.632688679245284,8.133981207547173,5.6956367924528335,66.02760613207548,85.98113207547169,8.687735849056605,31.15330188679245,8.841846274778883,4.051945283018869,256,13,37,8,8,84,44,53,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.4234,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,8,3,0,0,0,6,10,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,7,5,3,1,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,1,0,27,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308764005944543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796421645927079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22482957848138532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25131387909284475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17220588135870313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7764497871595475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472938592049467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064999511046224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039632009174336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kingofflowers1755,2018/04/05,"HELP! What should I name my 3rd son!? We have 2 boys already, Zaizal and Atlas. We like different names. 
We stay away from names ending in ie or y because of our last name. 
We would also like to stay away from z names and a names so i can forever use the initial system/so the boys each have their own letter. 
Open to any and all suggestions as i have a small list of maybes but...no actual decision yet and only a few more weeks before his arrival! 
HELP! ",0.2214516129032269,2.573178161290325,2.0238978494623647,94.35584677419355,89.96774193548387,5.250537634408602,16.352150537634408,6.816661863887847,-0.09543655913978544,351,8,76,5,12,115,67,93,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.9191,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,22,7,8,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,10,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,10,5,5,11,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,1,6,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.21185785600394968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395747657326956,0.17361444168906018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763514715587636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079443708839178,0.0,0.0,0.1323418782499274,0.0,0.18473573754248615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268228355178499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228577380396486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910345209522319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696511932371714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212776022237007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181056906878703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511400015623862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462798495201389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18750431718976665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741441737874634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422130030367606,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blue-veins,2018/04/05,"Growing up on Porn. Mom of a teenage girl here. The boys she knows have been watching porn since 6th grade according to her. Does anyone else have concerns about the possible effects of this? Boys may think this is how sex should be. Girls may think they should act like the girls in porn. This seems like a lose, lose situation. Porn is so bad now. Looks mostly like abusive, debasing of very young women while they pretend to enjoy it. Just thinking out loud...",2.805348837209305,5.64562581395349,2.3081860465116293,93.83158139534883,81.55813953488372,5.300465116279072,22.55348837209302,6.742157984588678,0.5730362790697674,364,12,71,4,10,106,64,86,0.152,0.726,0.122,-0.6238,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,2,3,6,7,0,0,5,0,10,5,0,2,0,14,16,3,0,2,1,1,0,3,0,4,0,1,0,6,4,1,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,3,4,4,10,10,1,9,0,2,2,5,11,4,0,4,6,40,8,1,0.0,0.2467330458698105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456078417482839,0.21336882142100053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387360276540906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822342196670447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395970112415726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444450927265537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30520997302739905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748710652770845,0.4659396826494205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438908376558448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23476187801115694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957594768195307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226016320910692,0.2340730440290771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002997273795215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182168717952634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,makeshift01,2018/04/05,"3 year old wants to be held all the time! I’m fairly certain this is very common behavior for a toddler, but, what can I or my girlfriend do to curb this? It seems to be getting worse. To the point that grocery shopping with my toddler is a pain. It’s damn difficult to push the cart, grab my groceries off the shelves (and sometimes putting chicken in the plastic bags) all while holding a 35 lbs toddler. It’s just not possible! The other day I had to put her in the cart and she kept screaming and trying to climb out towards me, and this can go on for the entire duration of the shopping trip. 

Then there’s the times when I’m trying to get the groceries out of the car to put them away and my LO wants to be continuously held. If I or my girlfriend don’t hold her, she has meltdowns that can last for very long periods. Any suggestions on how to approach this? She’s getting way too heavy to be held all the time. Thanks!",3.9893862520458256,4.8595001808510645,4.548936170212767,88.20653846153849,71.12765957446808,7.273977086743042,30.4189852700491,7.321109707123232,1.6545117839607206,726,30,154,7,13,231,108,188,0.104,0.868,0.028,-0.9488,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,1,1,6,6,1,0,16,0,13,1,0,1,4,29,27,13,0,3,6,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,11,8,0,7,1,2,2,9,2,4,0,0,5,2,15,2,27,18,3,34,0,0,0,0,9,10,1,4,14,102,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179541559694114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296503534920534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186299492774857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27186648771792865,0.0,0.09857747753862547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138754685438326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350066539705956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820100048178649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456648424025834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396938352043253,0.1955424742363925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5231052642255656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579053216795116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154969653522165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596924457186608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034259497128056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355267379737907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862341886441995,0.20461443827508516,0.13767911393602475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676367728458994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116982042217006
parenting,unstablehumanoid,2018/04/05,"Is it okay to take photos of a 4-year-old in the bathtub? I was sent a video by my mother of my little sister playing in the bathtub last night. She's going to be 5 years old in a few months. She was fully undressed and the video did show her full body. The video was sent to me, my two older siblings and my husband in a family group on the app Marco Polo. I haven't spoken to any of my siblings or my mother about the video yet, but I did ask my husband for his thoughts on it. He agreed that it was inappropriate of my mother to take and send that to all of us, let alone take it in the first place.

Now, I'm questioning if it could be considered unlawful. Noting that there have been so many ""hacks"" in recent years, I fear that some creep  could somehow obtain that video and do God knows what with it. I am concerned about my baby sister's privacy, safety and future well-being. Perhaps I am being too paranoid, but I did find it pretty odd that my mother even thought it was a good idea to video my sister (her daughter!) naked in the tub, especially at her age! I am totally disturbed after all of this and the thought of my mother sending that or similar content to other people. She is a single mom and she has terrible taste in men... I don't even want to think about it.

At what point does taking photos/videos of kids in the tub cross the line in your opinion? 

 Am I over-reacting? 

Should I be reporting this to CPS or the police?",4.695544217687072,4.807161751700684,5.630340136054425,83.78727891156463,69.23809523809524,8.165986394557821,26.877551020408163,7.793537801064563,1.4217836734693874,1121,31,233,12,18,370,155,294,0.083,0.85,0.067,-0.7055,0,1,0,0,1,0,37,1,1,0,2,11,6,0,2,18,1,28,2,1,0,3,32,43,14,0,5,6,12,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,21,8,1,0,8,8,0,6,2,3,0,2,14,1,34,3,39,21,7,38,0,0,0,0,32,18,0,8,14,170,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067388029228234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236575151044944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697816902263018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087110877822238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689064106762448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886149360929155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942244535763055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804385201750285,0.15284104193246972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241417154897922,0.1155327930315256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719255604033827,0.11392368160891715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333004815587045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464594373320227,0.11071561584324867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388904060817586,0.0,0.0,0.13613247086134175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377053713753642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907676008578636,0.10841432933706777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746269100446242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850512682534437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416404873796053,0.0,0.14190836034604354,0.0,0.12839865801335046,0.0,0.0,0.1381829954064396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215523964925562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411093774892072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40849440063990144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703126407809085,0.0,0.32348996336865976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268142370177172,0.0,0.1633809173553922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011318552467031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212311104234334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26240080708933705
parenting,cgvandam,2018/04/05,"12 month old crying to be held I have an almost 13 month old boy who lately will become suddenly very desperate to be picked up. He can be playing fine one minute then clutching desperately and shrieking seconds later. This started after a reaction to his 1-year vaccines where he had a fever and was quite clingy for a few days. The fever is gone but the desperation to be held remains. The worst part is that the holding has stipulations. Sitting or crouching causes him to scream and try to climb. He's very heavy and wants to be held for 30+ minutes at a time. 

Has anyone else experienced this? I'm ready to try a cry-it-out method like with his other tantrums but his shrieks seem more scared than angry. ",4.913211678832121,6.3743983138686175,4.912124087591241,84.24628832116791,69.51094890510949,7.523795620437956,28.2985401459854,7.908726449838941,1.6960779562043795,567,20,109,7,10,176,99,137,0.203,0.736,0.061,-0.9748,0,0,1,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,2,1,7,1,1,10,0,14,2,0,2,0,17,22,8,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,5,5,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,2,6,2,5,3,15,10,4,18,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,13,64,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501526447033926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617461570733422,0.1995456900677124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508747614364235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006320030692087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392512454272045,0.1255984573466227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268969558725035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21968791457122275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514563292751996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108972102857033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4087173929419716,0.0,0.13196850029973886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089664631056373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20714194733888466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194979995231872,0.0,0.0,0.17729424125090373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378459508102886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356103129391193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26444665613053703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32138038639850325,0.11486934448159282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541343227664264
parenting,HappierMomma,2018/04/05,"Need to store baby clothes? We had to store our baby clothes from baby #1 for baby #2. Our solution has worked SO WELL for us! Hope this gives you an idea! 

We got extra large space bags, filled gallon size ziplock baggies with like-size clothes and labeled them individually. We then squeezed the air out of the bags and loaded them into the space bag. Vacuumed the air out and slid them under the bed. As our next daughter grows, all we have to do is pull out the next sized ziplock bags, reseal, and slip back under the bed. SO EASY, and SO PAINLESS to pull out new clothes! 

Also: to make this easier as our baby #1 was growing I kept gallon zip locks labeled with her current size in a drawer. When she would outgrow a onesie or other article, I would roll it up and put it in the baggie. Once it was full I tucked it in the closet. Neat, labeled, and ready for the space bag. It was so convenient and now that I need these clothes again I am thanking my previous self over and over!!",3.571846153846156,5.020512235897441,4.184615384615384,88.21538461538464,72.7948717948718,6.635897435897437,25.30769230769231,7.03164865440522,0.956753846153847,766,24,157,7,15,243,113,195,0.0,0.8590000000000001,0.141,0.9823,1,0,0,0,0,0,28,9,1,3,1,10,4,0,0,13,0,11,0,0,1,1,30,19,19,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,10,20,0,1,1,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,6,1,21,4,27,11,3,35,0,0,0,0,18,19,0,2,9,106,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943500671803702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291749459527036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203248181768896,0.0,0.0,0.1694544382606559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104379997543977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391791738124536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035105954570604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414270773601035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142027443726705,0.0,0.2046285597535293,0.4506593303794926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256381567026608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21299119290496427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103006660595104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950644746151639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548575005341335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19049954756957327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424629058343306,0.0,0.0,0.3010174360934433,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thankyou_universe,2018/04/05,"Kindergarten teacher makes recommendation to see doctor We are now 8 weeks into my sons first year of school and we attended our first parent/teacher interview this week. The meeting starts well, and confirms that our son is doing well academically. However, we are then informed our son finds it hard to sit still and stay on task, which means he is slow to complete activities. We are assured he is not disruptive to the class and is a good member of the group, however he is constantly wriggling. The teacher then suggests this could be ADD / ADHD and recommends we seek advice from our GP. I am all for helping my son reach his full potential and quite prepared to make any adjustments where necessary, however I was quite taken back by such a hasty recommendations. There had been no prior warning of issues and I found it quite strange it was dropped into a 10 minute meeting with no option to explore. We do agree, my son is a wriggle worm,  but he is also 5 years old, and we would like the opportunity to manage this at home before escalating to specialist (which the GP will no doubt refer us to a specialist, because thats just what GP's do). I am just seeking others opinions on these hasty recommendations, or is this just standard procedure? How often are these recommendations thrown about?. Should we just comply, or push back and seek more clarification from the school. ",9.816428571428574,8.689621595238094,9.176190476190474,66.67714285714288,59.23809523809523,12.05079365079365,39.253968253968246,11.038039088145766,4.31731111111111,1110,46,189,23,12,354,154,252,0.054000000000000006,0.856,0.09,0.7462,4,0,0,0,0,0,27,13,0,0,6,18,7,0,1,12,0,26,1,0,3,2,50,33,16,0,3,8,5,1,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,15,21,0,0,8,0,0,3,4,1,2,2,6,2,21,6,23,22,3,30,0,0,1,0,30,7,0,6,18,136,36,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658945673961473,0.135453919948405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085113977432004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426361179266796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317424674956306,0.0,0.08449900769287877,0.0,0.11795197948054464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533620549044393,0.14979461751465833,0.0,0.1106735714089247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418793172234344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669248379234746,0.23581334365940446,0.0,0.15198525454447448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626449762561153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417268065191092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291136165679068,0.0,0.1390431182668735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446790573530383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772076035165771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18505447043074946,0.0,0.0,0.15099342614960407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454541410222297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391662871074654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423054346130131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805735205595309,0.1104589800705457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981130958199752,0.1477461787735219,0.11069889134729843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673794253897606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22237873717868226,0.0,0.2492648052326191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846880679867666,0.0,0.0,0.1785282777729849
parenting,JohnDalrymple,2018/04/05,"Maths picture books like Spinderella I recently borrowed [Spinderella by Julia Donaldson](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2462225.Spinderella) from the library. My 3.5 year old loves it and it's sparked some great, fun conversations around maths concepts (counting, greater than, less than, equality). I can't seem to find other similar books. I'm looking for fun picture books suitable for a three year old with a good story that can spark some conversations around similar topics. Maybe something with some addition as part of the story. There are lots and lots of counting books (1 puppy on this page, 2 on the next, etc) but struggling to find stories which go beyond this. Does anyone have any recommendations?",8.889272030651341,11.708393137931035,6.5263218390804605,71.22863984674332,61.58620689655172,9.293486590038317,35.30268199233717,9.725611199111238,3.82088429118774,588,26,84,12,9,168,84,116,0.032,0.83,0.138,0.8126,1,0,1,0,0,0,31,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,1,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,16,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,3,4,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,6,18,9,11,12,0,0,1,1,3,5,0,6,7,52,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578281456025944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933210816129315,0.0,0.0,0.32931684142965434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618644677764744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628531411071274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33811004887192386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512009920425816,0.15514020168195494,0.0,0.2039250062038237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036475135206827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532435105929313,0.0,0.0,0.31450193687541605,0.16693849480100095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185822605083086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967128010152641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388180145005732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20029950317695505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263101785586186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838555311304845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239540131534612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193365996107112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23822330621357016
parenting,KalaiProvenheim,2018/04/05,"How can I help my 7 y/o sister? My sister is just 7 and can barely talk comprehensively, I can't even communicate with her some basic ideas, that one time I was playing pursuit-evasion with her (don't ask why) and I got tired of being the chaser, so I asked her to chase me instead (it did not turn out good, however, it was very unfair) and for 7 times straight she probably thought that I wanted another way of playing it, she finally got it and decided to chase me. I've been wanting to play Kirby Star Allies with her for a few weeks but I fear that even a game with basic controls and concepts as simple as a Kirby game would be hard for her to grasp with her communication skills, and I fear that that will greatly affect her social life negatively, I don't want her to get bullied because she can't talk or understand properly, what could/should I do to help her out?",7.981818181818181,5.8391917272727305,8.410454545454545,73.94818181818181,63.54545454545455,11.3,35.63636363636364,9.827888789773867,3.1988545454545445,688,24,139,11,8,230,105,176,0.124,0.81,0.066,-0.916,1,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,2,6,7,0,2,4,0,16,2,0,3,0,30,27,12,0,4,4,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,10,13,0,1,5,5,0,0,6,2,0,1,7,1,26,5,20,16,2,8,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,2,4,95,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633178754232462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912112000800681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949439987377638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468731828338027,0.12435402155661422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20574334169436648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505250042998343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061695111632516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137315608558747,0.0,0.0,0.1306360467087839,0.24913564726599136,0.17171536678897056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952176666890426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20879242123004668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582324456044035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100111142098928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554050247086086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679252748677397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876791956037484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25037254497255496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364842078963402,0.1816386224992561,0.17901217397236047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694117112758847,0.0,0.16214166012212194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851039220623986,0.2755968653326366,0.12362741861364072,0.12493357684588335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140540511345764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064061606951343,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AveryLargeShadow,2018/04/05,"Toddler fell 3 times today Today is a bad day for the baby. She fell down thrice on different occasions and hit her head. I know I sound like a bad parent but it just happened too quickly and I couldn't do anything to save her. All the three times she cried. But by and large she is okay. She is playing as usual and doing everything that she usually does -- copying me, asking me to carry her, playing in the garden etc. 

This is a silly questions but is it true that if the baby falls too many times on her head, she may grow up dumb? 

I obviously have to be more careful with her but this scary thought has been nagging me. Oh and she turns 1 day after.",2.101741854636593,3.9880452330827083,3.4603195488721816,89.99443922305767,77.87218045112782,5.937092731829575,23.11340852130325,6.816661863887847,0.659712280701755,508,16,106,5,12,166,86,133,0.139,0.728,0.132,-0.6169,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,4,12,2,0,7,1,13,2,2,0,3,21,20,11,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,6,0,0,3,3,0,4,1,4,0,1,2,1,19,8,13,14,3,20,0,0,0,0,15,5,1,3,12,76,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004263698496291,0.0,0.15909418823562013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28418434832433337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350860953865482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18693340047426976,0.21950247102871814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780060593784436,0.0,0.0,0.14892459848648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18979432607790853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294571560177628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048853443745544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493050527533453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935258077410069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314075656815217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17253457380334158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896339753098468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063918249979148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510294333964132,0.2976978480650129,0.0,0.3226191727181427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851056461814216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748557702430177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,davidmekala92,2018/04/05,Pubic hair Can you say pubic hair in public? My friends say no because it’s socially awkward but I said it’s part of human anatomy and its nothing to be ashamed of. Doesn’t the kids learn to talk to their parents regarding this. ,1.907608695652172,4.374768456521739,3.1327826086956527,88.98830434782612,81.82608695652175,5.419130434782609,28.76521739130435,6.742157984588678,1.5541095652173915,183,9,35,2,5,59,38,46,0.063,0.821,0.116,0.5394,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,5,4,1,6,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,12,1,0,0,0,22,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19867396303733015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518001117695343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31272297964319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618885882595569,0.3529327708933906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100185567855373,0.5183593018858702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33222796808225785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619570821049413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jefstrongman69,2018/04/05,Son of mine does vaping Hello people. I am a Croatia man. I am have a son. I know that he does the vaping stuff yesterday. What do I do about this? Is vaping the bad? Should I be the concerned?,-1.7292334494773556,0.08571517073171009,2.2357491289198634,89.46560975609758,104.60975609756098,7.220905923344947,13.174216027874564,7.957251820313856,0.7811435540069684,146,3,33,5,7,54,28,41,0.109,0.8909999999999999,0.0,-0.6174,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34510833933904883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7234053694153151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271521030989753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28654687230684905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4731571807006738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ssommers24,2018/04/05,"I need help with my son Recently, my son has had a bunch of cartoon girls on his computer. All he does is draw on his desk with this wierd electronic pen thingy with a bunch of circles and cartoon girls on the screen. All he does is watch loud japenese television shows on his phone at max volume, I can even hear young chinese girls singing when he is in the bathtub. He also has recently bought all these japanese posters with a bunch of cartoon characters on them.

He used to do things but now all he does is drain his life away on this stuff. Please help me, I think something is wrong with him.",7.283248587570617,6.26399127966102,6.280000000000001,85.06655367231639,64.16949152542372,10.239548022598873,34.07344632768362,9.2995712137729,2.6308090395480237,473,17,101,7,6,142,73,118,0.034,0.8959999999999999,0.069,0.4939,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,1,4,14,15,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,5,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,12,0,18,13,7,14,0,0,2,0,21,9,0,0,5,63,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675965653353862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969020397810538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501998874536751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842190918297884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362055708628923,0.0,0.2809465942526892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802859071766553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539675594738278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300497480917071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.413858857146286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613406056187196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399125382769541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923191351560785,0.13428680796635906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100498576520124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291366977984967,0.0,0.0
parenting,Collectingmoonlight,2018/04/05,"Please help. Toddler won’t sleep. I don’t know what to do. I feel so defeated.

My husband and I had to move into his parents house temporarily with our two kids (first son turns 3 years old this month, second son is 8 months old). We moved here about 2 months ago, and I don’t know how long we will be here while we try to find a new home.

Before we moved in, my son had a hard time going to sleep. He would crawl out of his crib every night, and lay in my lap while I rubbed his back in order for him to fall asleep. I was starting to get him into a bedtime routine, but then our world turned upside down, and for reasons I don’t feel like going into, we had to move into my in-laws house. They have a finished basement, with one room down there. My husband and I sleep in the room, and we set up a blow up mattress for my 3 year old, and my 8 month old sleeps in a pack n play in the open area. 

Disclosure- my 3 year old is just starting to talk, so his communication is not perfect. He can say a lot of words, and he understands a lot, but there are things he doesn’t understand. So, just telling him things don’t get my point across to him.

Anyways, since we moved in, it is impossible for him to fall asleep unless he is in our bed, with one of us there. It takes anywhere from 30 minuets, to 2 hours of us laying with him in the dark, trying to get him to sleep. It ruins our whole night. It’s hard to have date nights, so we always looked forward to our nights after the kids fell asleep. Now we don’t get anytime together, and it is taking it’s toll on us, and our son.

I don’t know what to do. Is there anything that worked for you guys? ",2.885904966571154,3.4431991318051587,3.8084706303724936,93.65801635625596,73.44126074498567,6.733572110792742,22.564589302769818,6.42735559955562,0.19212597898758327,1263,28,304,8,24,406,166,349,0.04,0.93,0.03,-0.5094,1,0,0,0,0,0,47,18,1,1,4,17,5,0,0,12,0,28,8,8,2,1,50,48,21,0,1,6,7,5,1,0,3,0,1,5,3,12,29,0,0,9,1,0,11,9,2,0,5,4,7,49,3,53,40,3,71,0,2,1,0,50,27,0,2,34,194,61,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526861503506948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126611715160187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059127444528874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056616979406495925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265376700076568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062036510150213275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445915209986409,0.05260133717474615,0.0,0.0,0.06729655064062147,0.0626297004695236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538746917540425,0.0,0.08369133189680772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290534603341486,0.0,0.0,0.1319161617412033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493526842924125,0.0,0.07385696427747965,0.0,0.07251078792874857,0.16991843150415914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139548368746735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035971933314500236,0.0,0.0,0.06516029551016074,0.061830715127564335,0.0,0.0,0.12519530603792994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23508327964102985,0.39128556291783895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111238103880603,0.0,0.27638733381856706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863118661101596,0.0,0.09978728284908472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175747991051814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082370686371379,0.06960421609361267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570397568533689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058553587464836375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090755530272255,0.0,0.36841622696503096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423148593690963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072129948668984,0.059181061720166316,0.06435592711309092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783309442767524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042934286305524434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997996951490992,0.1601767468910961,0.07192588014421503,0.153303000473145,0.2657037274329215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220534438431233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360356835332858,0.0,0.0,0.05230468963028556,0.0,0.0,0.14224605429976953
parenting,ClabberGirlDeb,2018/04/05,"9-year-old girl can’t refuse boys’ advances My daughter, 9, started a new school in January since we moved, and she is having the same problem here she experienced this past fall at her old school.

We moved far from friends and family to a new place, quite different, with a much smaller school in January this year.

At her old school, she had an issue with an older boy (11) who was wanting to be her boyfriend.  We talked about what that meant; about how a boyfriend was a special designation for a boy who means more to you than your other friends who are boys; and that usually, it was reserved for older people who had started to experience puberty and were starting to have romantic feelings for boys or girls.  

We’ve always been really open in talking about puberty, about relationships, feelings, even sex, in age appropriate ways (and with the help of good books).  We have been talking about crushes, and how that’s even different than picking someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend.

During that experience at her old school, the boy was pushing my girl to more and more uncomfortable levels, asking for kisses in private and acting very possessive at school.  I’m thankful we had an open line of communication so that I could help her through what was becoming a very stressful situation.  She wanted to stay friends with this boy and not hurt his feelings, but she didn’t know how to do that. 

I helped her role play some ways of talking with him to let him know that she didn’t want to be his girl friend; that she really liked him as a friend but that she was too young for anything more than that.  (Remember, she was 8 at the time).  It ended quite badly, as she went to talk to him at school, and another of her friends, also an older boy, jumped in and said, “she doesn’t like you, she doesn’t like you, she doesn’t like you!” 

Fast forward to our new school and she has a very similar issue; another very sweet little boy has decided he wants them to be boyfriend/girlfriend.  She was sobbing tonight, telling me that she kissed him, but that she really didn’t want to and didn’t like him that way. But she didn’t want to hurt his feelings.  And she said he’s always “doing this: [she cuddled up next to me and put her arm around me and started kind of making lovey/moaning noises.]”

I really struggle with this.  We have discussed boundaries; telling people no when you are uncomfortable with something; how to take the pressure off even by blaming it on your parents (“my mom says I’m too young”).  Should I say something to the other parent? To the teacher? 

How do I build her self esteem so she is not so concerned with pleasing everyone at her own expense? 

I have no issue with crushes; kids have crushes on other kids!  If I felt like she was as into all of this as he is, I would chalk it up to early puberty and I’d try to help talk her through what’s appropriate and what isn’t. 

I don’t think that’s what’s going on.  Just like with the last boy, I asked her if she liked kissing him.  She put her face in the pillow and started sobbing, saying she doesn’t like it and doesn’t like him and doesn’t want him touching her.

I was the same way, always more worried about not upsetting others, and then feeling horrible later that I had not stood up for myself.

Seriously.  I need some ideas.

Help!!! ",6.176943256578944,6.393656807812505,6.0049835526315825,82.00745065789476,66.078125,8.986842105263158,31.842105263157894,8.6894789155246,2.34871875,2607,96,514,36,38,815,251,640,0.086,0.754,0.16,0.9937,4,0,2,0,0,0,84,7,8,1,3,25,36,0,4,23,0,55,7,2,7,1,94,91,45,0,14,13,4,7,10,7,2,0,5,1,17,39,42,0,1,14,2,1,12,20,11,0,0,28,14,87,25,85,55,12,76,0,4,0,5,126,30,2,6,41,355,126,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04258327202062673,0.13292250695442814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167261170592532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04381945776489705,0.04740297286797803,0.09956140804146517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04446075965486153,0.0,0.05880942803085434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042515059442738194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126791540355024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047162881911953815,0.0,0.0,0.10551155032128916,0.0,0.0,0.05088178024862018,0.0,0.10417564072589172,0.05019849591485125,0.0,0.13462168028814808,0.0,0.05112746975171953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24684065420238654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030262680698782508,0.0446628039983389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784586877181802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140084882364073,0.060111732618949025,0.0,0.16673462268845873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055450725212992207,0.058528606294024337,0.04340510928129408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445079457117664,0.0,0.2601481198451667,0.053369569680530624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035544176041080164,0.0,0.0,0.05800386132380155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236468182964816,0.0,0.11319069522971807,0.03914420254051253,0.03948351994199952,0.0,0.15428488702469528,0.05663100331479645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350381841039396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182536089792358,0.0,0.050832274486116116,0.07383241821328876,0.0,0.05563395770177512,0.05845150216331695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095218048737105,0.0,0.10706007077467013,0.0,0.11327390755249453,0.0,0.0,0.1364509030286361,0.0,0.0,0.05716958667035086,0.06032083016120428,0.0,0.10130414271071113,0.12703742294851686,0.0,0.4311273144180785,0.0,0.0,0.055550406219664006,0.0,0.0,0.04404819128801645,0.059854199756244036,0.0,0.0,0.04511777478521856,0.08198749041528218,0.0,0.0,0.18844987325316145,0.05675643690745824,0.0,0.0,0.06099664407058961,0.05566750262308075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04003668309462972,0.2567975727465722,0.09308409027109188,0.04902460090742219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034119861949257736,0.0,0.0,0.031049968211672264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03615263164212036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864634137764632,0.17574427896312084,0.21985381937863846,0.16906657252635196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936243293838092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054077028030076336,0.0,0.03782662040274278,0.0,0.0,0.0685813265543183
parenting,BubbaDawgg,2018/04/05,"16 mo old hitting and throwing First, please forgive any errors. I am on my phone. 

My 16 month old is a very busy child. He is so smart, loves to wrestle and play catch. We have a sports play area that he loves and will keep dunking the ball until he falls over. The only problem with my otherwise amazing toddler is that he hits and throws things at my face. I’m Mom. He only does it to me, does not hit anyone else (aside from the occasional super frustrated moment). He even actively seeks me out when Dad tells him no to take his frustrations out on me. We have started time outs for hitting. We have tried to precorrect when we see him lifting his hand (use nice hands) but when he does hit we follow this. 1st offense. Hold hand and say “we don’t hit, use nice hands”. 2nd offense. Time out for 1 minute. 

I do think it’s helping but I do not know how to handle the throwing things. Today he threw a metal pot (for his kitchen set) hard and the edge hit my forehead. It hurt so bad but I don’t know if it’s a timeout offense or an accident (that keeps happening). 

Do I put him in timeout when he throws anything except balls? Do I put him in timeout if he only throws something at me? 

Any help is appreciated! ",1.3525588697017241,3.618749714285713,2.582142857142858,93.33343406593409,82.46938775510205,5.238618524332812,22.48430141287284,6.490185161304077,0.4226609105180529,940,32,201,9,26,301,137,245,0.121,0.721,0.158,0.8095,0,0,1,0,0,0,33,6,0,0,2,8,18,5,0,10,0,15,9,6,3,0,37,38,20,0,3,9,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,10,17,1,3,4,5,0,11,5,8,0,1,1,7,28,10,23,29,0,38,0,1,1,2,34,12,0,3,14,110,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822367208758924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368950511116504,0.1372894415923289,0.11026303790041454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187674784128487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35176883984943724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193214673000647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849968077672568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139725331705685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848765014355375,0.0,0.12002946690683525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962246044305136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434399568203954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23819441581098874,0.0,0.0,0.1472757141058523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241863914294246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692844291054742,0.10695020368080453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28120167680411895,0.0,0.0,0.30571819656946275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708169674187485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821113027757147,0.0,0.26939558916461753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655488753038596,0.0,0.0,0.10677334517813124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031526886015242,0.0,0.0,0.09483940047057073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074443022904016,0.0,0.11711389297141304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803510980007714,0.08585591477313337,0.0,0.0,0.1562622632210168,0.0,0.12700764151078006,0.0,0.0,0.09097097947542823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314501158633905,0.0,0.11055646897812058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellolove92,2018/04/05,My son (7) sweats so much while he is playing Anyone else have any sweaty kids? I mean he is like dripping sweat and he is the only one during his kickboxing and grappling classes. We live in a hot dry area but we’re inside an air conditioned room and he is soaked in sweat. ,2.253035714285716,4.131902517857147,3.1065714285714314,92.73842857142859,77.39285714285714,5.908571428571428,21.91428571428571,6.742157984588678,0.3922828571428569,215,6,46,2,5,68,45,56,0.0,0.942,0.058,0.2846,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,5,3,3,0,0,6,6,6,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,2,2,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,2,22,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26710129020325685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27463825702547795,0.4024456410798678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281141217105823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189061525945356,0.0,0.3468285875190041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.427848436631901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887357061742443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661553235625141,0.29872400523831955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xTacoMumx,2018/04/06,"How do I talk to my little girl about me not having a mum with out giving her the same fear of abandonment that I had growing up? A bit of context.. my mother was abusive and had issues with drugs and alcohol. My dad fought really hard once they separated to get custody of us, he eventually got joint custody and while fighting for full custody she just disappeared one day and my dad was awarded full custody. I struggled with the fact I didn't have a mother and abandonment basically my whole life and this was nearly 30 years ago and my dad doesn't talk about it much as she was the love of his life and it still breaks his heart.

Fast forward 30 years and I'm happy married with two step kids (M9 and F7) and two daughters of my own (4 & 2mths) my step kids are older and understand a little more the idea of separation, (we share joint custody and try really hard to support each other) so they sorta get it, but I'm really struggling with how to explain this to my four year old, I mean she's a smart kid and is putting together the idea of family based on our family and she keeps bringing up the question, where is my mummy, Iv done my best to scoot around it or simply say I don't have one but she continues to bring it up, especially since the birth of her baby sister, almost every day it's wheres your mummy whose tummy did you come from ect... She's too little to understand what happened but I also don't want to lie to her or imprint the wrong idea on her and then give her fears that I will leave her because my mummy left me. 

So looking to the internet for any thoughtful and helpful suggestions on how to talk to her about this or hear from anyone with similar experiences from either perspective. 

Thank you so much. ",5.495449430492658,5.707732729106631,6.122873610539317,80.59532180595583,67.53025936599424,9.260820639494993,29.20392479758474,9.107695989026183,2.2328818169342664,1375,44,274,23,21,449,186,347,0.091,0.818,0.091,0.6329,0,0,2,0,2,0,28,3,3,2,2,16,17,2,4,14,0,20,7,1,3,1,57,44,33,0,1,9,8,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,4,14,28,1,3,9,0,0,9,5,9,0,5,12,5,45,8,45,31,12,41,0,2,1,1,52,18,0,6,15,192,59,1,0.0,0.11176914020080096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362048333047235,0.10081325300736398,0.09446083986758874,0.0,0.0,0.0754380394573858,0.0,0.10220973010098276,0.0,0.06414965222990286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595980372765818,0.0,0.0,0.08397634019010465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057504500985943376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899662876059327,0.0,0.10298716770636926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125949807462056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167391921097505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653537672883293,0.0,0.0,0.10939629273719854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947959306489469,0.0,0.0,0.09227574259408217,0.1778574513340196,0.21230162752077467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857016339236613,0.18098555490884488,0.0,0.0,0.07544669101946376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341833098965601,0.1004191972583314,0.1690076187149548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632010947927786,0.11178501983720886,0.06322939918321115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194713117604174,0.0,0.09845910885062736,0.0,0.08384747521760948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988499122147536,0.10249304442777436,0.0,0.13326032839674998,0.0,0.283639244638133,0.0,0.0,0.07921593373564947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513918552949233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275625548704076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386911693563009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898658012912097,0.10046153093235068,0.12784491930143707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483068656041728,0.10567451191422436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129634217077256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501736143645588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803320493555058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533442913034392,0.0,0.0,0.19723459753585587,0.0,0.0,0.10704793281278133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227463796300495,0.0,0.08684912178296897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488983853362527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404589226928246,0.0,0.18429920286794035,0.19640789051044047,0.11347094413198384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564002789341113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053193885923676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313829054352587,0.0,0.18224201334758236
parenting,worriednanny05,2018/04/06,"Discipline as a nanny/teacher Okay I'll try to keep this short. 

I was hired as a ""teacher"" for two gorgeous 20 month old twins. Basically the parents want me to come and teach their children English (we're in a non-english speaking country) every day for 1 hour and 15 minutes. 

Of course at this age we mostly play games but there are certain activities that are learning activities. I usually have two 10-15 minute activities we do then we do free play for another 30 minutes and we finish each session with a story time in which I allow each one of the babies to pick a book and we read together (aka I read to them lol). The babies are very well behaved but, like any baby, sometimes get a little too wild and/or want to truly test the limits with me. 

Recently I have had a couple of incidents with them and I want your opinion as to how I handled it all. All of this has happened in two months time.

1) One of the children (William, we'll call him) loves to sneak away with small toys to places where I can't really see him. My issue with this is that he can, of course, swallow something or get hurt when not under my watchful eye. So I've taken to explaining he has to stay with us (Me and his brother) or he will lose the toy he's holding. More than once this has required me to physically remove the toy from him. I do this by counting down to three (if he returns to where me and his brother are then we resume playing without any ill feelings) and then getting up, grabbing his arm then removing the toy from his hand. I have never left a mark or even a little pinkness! Even if I am frustrated (which can happen but I try to not let that show) I always try to be as gentle as possible buuuut he does try to run away and hide and one time I did grab his hand to get him to stop running and he fell. He didn't get hurt and even laughed but I felt HORRIBLE. If you were a parent and saw this would you think I was being too harsh on your child? 

2) Sometimes William loves to just get up and go off on his own and not pay any attention. I don't mind him playing off on his own during play time but he does this whenever we're not doing something of his liking (aka flashcards or any other learning activity). He will, again, move far away and start bringing out the toys from the cupboard. Recently I, again, count down to three and give him the opportunity to come back on his own but if he doesn't I go get him. One time he kept running away and I simply gently picked him up and sat him down on my lap. Of course he was wiggly and whiny (no crying or anything) and calmed down in less than 30 seconds but I did have to hold him in my lap for that time. Again, I wonder if I was too harsh to hold him until he calmed down? How would you feel? If he had continued to be wiggly to the point I felt I was constricting him then I would have let go. He was mostly just annoyed I wasn't letting him climb behind a big piece of furniture and was quickly giggling again and playing along. I've had to do this twice as I was noticing he was considerably falling behind when compared to his brother. 

3) with Peter I had one incident where I had to physically remove him from the situation. He's a good baby but gets very excited and hurts his brother by throwing things. He threw a couple of things and I said a firm no but he was screaming (not upset, just excited) and when the third time came I went to grab his hand to get his attention and he hit me once. I calmly told him we don't hit people but he does it again and I say ""no"" and then he... does it again and yells very loudly. I picked him up and put him on the bed and told him he needs to calm down because we don't throw things or hit people. He sat there for 30-45 seconds (the bed is secured for him not to fall!)  and then I went up to him and told him again that we don't hit or throw things and he calmed down. He gave me a hug and we went back to playing. Now whenever he gets excited and seems to be about to throw something I say ""no throwing"" and he puts things down on the ground. But was that time out too much?? 

I'm not going to lie sometimes I do get a bit frustrated! I try my best to not show it but I'm not perfect. Yet I do feel I have been harsh lately with them. Am I being too hard on myself or do you agree I should just let them be much more ""free"" and not take things away/chase them down or use very small time outs? Should I just play with them? How would you feel as a parent with my behavior? 

TIA!!

Edit: my original post stated the twins were 18 months old. They were indeed when I met them two months ago, they are indeed 20 months old now!",2.227374739039668,3.7870896263048017,3.479206158663885,91.4471808455115,76.5365344467641,6.376638830897704,22.93533402922755,7.066338657993696,0.5958630062630474,3594,105,797,38,80,1169,346,958,0.07400000000000001,0.779,0.147,0.997,3,0,3,0,1,0,103,12,7,10,7,41,43,3,1,35,2,77,10,5,9,5,164,141,89,0,16,43,7,13,2,0,9,1,7,2,3,28,68,1,11,15,19,3,30,24,9,1,15,42,25,123,36,123,76,17,142,0,4,5,3,117,52,0,20,59,544,151,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04570294215121077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04290027920010977,0.0,0.0,0.14024448212272622,0.054062923551751935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04242773512741535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422015866972501,0.07928964122192733,0.0,0.03142919984817992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410680514162397,0.0,0.05628784217139311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264635119087919,0.05896846968092283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888250818896535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140956080631543,0.05663390073582366,0.03325056176148554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18047456273533347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216046337069802,0.0,0.04343973030735812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427683563439566,0.0,0.09900728375049044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963054580364132,0.04945900822836702,0.1172061058192335,0.04324429636386768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118491077129404,0.0,0.04618572575523902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050774117763425615,0.0,0.1655813029610193,0.0,0.0,0.053813022561425165,0.0,0.045827005020419774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815952461536202,0.0,0.05601777810673157,0.21088566654002425,0.0,0.050377143331644655,0.1033490637158737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057680070077421035,0.0,0.0,0.09306598374175193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05205875259314786,0.0,0.20576500520920424,0.05479785785872514,0.07580193557270354,0.03822950833816903,0.03976460884741327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869897828527824,0.16230393912607816,0.10981490069790438,0.1746847398641669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174674410226867,0.0,0.0,0.07148747254192164,0.0,0.05386700205477291,0.0,0.0487388534274476,0.05812375326434259,0.04937818886656994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365980222577767,0.0,0.0,0.103143647337189,0.0,0.033029292618457,0.0,0.1018143559924522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049043342312682266,0.08200177739985436,0.0,0.0,0.04108494826686443,0.046936349722828896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057953207617180036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907530482569186,0.15297615936778924,0.0,0.03649292672710878,0.05495383089414997,0.0,0.04310468907931102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03876510281877535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551655275814554,0.033036202162381685,0.0,0.0,0.2705742847528669,0.0,0.0,0.14779726669250468,0.0,0.17502205158499884,0.0,0.2014581947320145,0.0,0.06201777111251758,0.044529447029794784,0.0567837112798788,0.1701625738504481,0.0912305050685226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04635671821879787,0.14338398990633994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04969994815989889,0.05591231219613695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650093023273422,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Partimegamer83,2018/04/06,"Rules for Children I have 2 boys 6 and 9 and my wife, their stepmom, thinks they are out of control. She believes they should be these perfectly well behaved children which is something I've never even heard of. They may not be the best behaved children but they are nowhere near what she makes them out to be. Today she sent me an email containing a list of rules that they must abide by effective immediately and I'm worried it might be too much of a shock for them to follow all at once. Some of the rules on the list are things they already do like flush the toilet, brush teeth, take vitamins and other things along those lines. They are brothers that are close in age and they fight with each other and according to this, they will never get out of time out. I'm just looking for some advice on what to do or if I'm completely wrong and the list is fine and should be implemented.

 House Rules

No yelling - 15 minutes
No talking back - 15 minutes
No nagging, no means NO - If we say you cannot have something or cannot do something, that is the final answer. You are not allowed to keep asking. - 15 minutes
No cursing - 20 minutes
No telling someone to “shutup” - 10 minutes
No hitting - 15 minutes
No smacking or slapping - 15 minutes
No punching - 15 minutes
No kicking - 15 minutes
No throwing things - 15 minutes
No destroying things - 20 minutes
No whining - 10 minutes
No electronics (tv, video games, alexa, tablet, computer, etc.) before 10am and after 7pm UNLESS you need to use the internet for schoolwork. You may then use it at 9am and until 8pm. No earlier and no later. No excuses. - 20 minutes
You must make your bed. - 10 minutes
You must brush your teeth twice a day. - 10 minutes
You must take your vitamins. - 10 minutes
You must take a shower or bath. - 10 minutes
You must flush the toilet. - 5 minutes
You must wash your hands with soap and water. - 10 minutes
Cover your sneezes and coughs with the inside of your elbow, NOT your hand. - 5 minutes
If you pick your nose, you will wash your hands with soap and water. - 5 minutes
You must eat what is given to you without complaining or arguing - this house is not a restaurant,  you cannot place orders. You will eat the meal provided (all of it) or you will not eat, and you will not be allowed to leave the table. - 15 minutes
You must eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. - 15 minutes
No electronics at the kitchen table. -10 minutes
You must ask to be excused from the table. - 10 minutes
You must say please, thank you, excuse me, I'm sorry, and you're welcome. - 10 minutes
If you burp or fart, you must say excuse me. - 10 minutes
You must clean off your dishes in the trash, then place them in the sink or dishwasher. -15 minutes
You must get changed out of pajamas and get dressed in clean clothes. - 10 minutes
Do not interrupt when adults are speaking. If it is urgent, you must say, “Excuse me.” - 10 minutes
You must clean up after yourselves. - If you spill something it is your responsibility to clean up the mess, if you break something it is your responsibility to clean it up and dispose of it, if you miss the toilet bowl while going to the bathroom, it is your responsibility to clean up the pee. - 20 minutes 
Bedtime is 9pm, NO excuses, that means no books, no games, no journaling, no electronics. Lights out at 9pm with your heads on the pillow. This means by 8:30pm you will be cleaning up any toys you were playing with, use the bathroom, and brush your teeth. - 15 minutes 

CONSEQUENCES WILL BE STRICTLY ENFORCED
 By breaking these rules, you are accepting the punishments. 
There will be NO exceptions!
If you break multiple rules at one time, punishments will be added up. Example:  hitting, cursing, and throwing things are 15, 20, and 15 minutes. You will be in your room for 50 minutes without toys, or electronics. You will not be allowed to leave your room until the full time is completed. If you have to use the bathroom, you must ask “may I use the bathroom” before leaving your room. Once finished in the bathroom you will go back to your room to complete the time. Time in the bathroom does not count as punishment time, you will have to make up that time. 
Once your punishment time is finished you will do what you will complete the task you were supposed to do. If you do not, you will be punished again for the same amount of time.",3.541123807631158,5.806449677696083,3.822060148383677,87.30065580286168,74.89460784313725,6.322575516693162,28.67408585055644,7.2763611118338964,1.6256674483306837,3371,144,638,39,74,1045,283,816,0.136,0.7859999999999999,0.078,-0.9942,4,0,5,0,2,0,136,1,66,13,4,9,24,9,0,36,0,90,28,10,14,22,128,128,51,0,31,36,2,3,1,0,39,6,7,16,5,32,38,12,3,7,9,0,6,42,15,1,2,5,16,90,9,87,68,11,77,0,2,1,0,115,38,0,26,30,439,122,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650094047778808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509855774245293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046278607805763615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086207131961014,0.0,0.0,0.10465764224387017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581676735026585,0.07667281482404112,0.07141778633631747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071991414769536,0.0,0.28541054712241704,0.0,0.07632761238044611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04388877719223303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955394024298472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785422432192468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589746803801158,0.04494859211597201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074549112312862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106665190872047,0.0,0.07735256776665966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698423646921361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704884472308578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06048893931946276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161759966143373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03324742654159836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057147669580203925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627840738700714,0.0,0.0,0.222390127551942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219384397319106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050027038414489536,0.05046069253380198,0.10497386903471358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742377213158065,0.046114707365106984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422025208568905,0.0747021360591649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21647500354944413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766137782524521,0.2619539463262757,0.0,0.07618014738906002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350293682116942,0.05469870037265647,0.05948162253337801,0.06265437622116178,0.0,0.0,0.2260580903369343,0.04360583518507023,0.0,0.0,0.3571420712422826,0.0,0.06450661317392001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938811971363053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061188129447622634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120199092587487,0.0,0.0,0.0691114745741001,0.0,0.0,0.07440564885238443,0.0,0.0
parenting,iliketothinkicansing,2018/04/06,"Separation anxiety in my own house Hi everyone. So I have a 1 yo son, almost 13 months now. He's generally a really good kid, and I love him a lot. I'm a sahm, so I'm head of childcare. On a typical day, I have to do some work around the house to keep it neat and orderly, make my kiddo lunch, or take care of some sort of needed housework. I have a gate in my living room, and it's baby proofed. So I'm not worried about him hurting himself. 

But every time I leave the room, it's a freak out. I tell him I have to do something, and say I'll be right back. And it's a meltdown about 95% of the time. I've tried comforting him and giving him a hug before I go, not telling him, ignoring him, distracting him with toys (and occasionally a video, which I hate doing but I'm just so over it). But I swear to god I'm gonna put my head through a wall the next time I hear him wailing >10 feet away. Like, this kid can see me from his gate if I go in the kitchen and that's not good enough for him. He wants me in the same room or it's just a fucking disaster. 

What can I do?",0.7753813559322041,2.0470462838983075,3.112000000000002,93.76816949152544,79.8050847457627,6.753898305084746,21.969491525423727,7.554174236665415,0.5465193220338986,817,24,206,12,20,282,130,236,0.079,0.795,0.126,0.8531,0,0,1,0,0,0,34,0,0,0,1,11,14,2,1,18,0,11,8,3,1,1,35,31,18,0,3,11,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,6,2,10,11,2,2,0,2,0,3,3,6,0,0,0,3,31,8,23,29,6,26,0,1,1,3,24,14,1,8,9,124,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447936778286074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061682055694916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872258137611173,0.0,0.0,0.13585426934092365,0.11118668153043132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304196570042925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742695987944582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093253533861617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494080448668459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182977208670615,0.1381692687683497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367821443472286,0.0,0.13871125942685292,0.16435637443067727,0.2425633277547107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276026141295597,0.2967978484461457,0.0,0.16297208134317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336925905947521,0.1547947946793447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285250515496036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531080525973389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064311687766159,0.0,0.12768239036334136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293176682565204,0.1305050412152558,0.0,0.09652006648691737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541647938735483,0.0,0.0,0.10721733893999448,0.0,0.0,0.15378126078510398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453605949019942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926329690221428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348561875895075,0.0,0.11498986964977598,0.0,0.0,0.11522562060424126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131834954948157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871945124689596,0.0,0.2527694711914604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529481898308933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817232521416604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852874512281102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526882475670248,0.14684595121421326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonden456,2018/04/06,"Any side husslers? Parents, who here has a side hussle? What do you do? Regardless of whether you stay at home or work full time- what do you do to earn a bit of extra cash on the side?",-0.3807692307692321,1.8146432307692355,1.0673846153846152,101.30261538461541,91.05128205128204,4.1456410256410265,18.056410256410253,5.6839178017228535,-0.5951989743589747,142,4,34,1,5,45,29,39,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,5,3,8,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,1,1,24,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799762761982793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4494796574625268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129777518919995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571541842276392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4388270740836753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400708614414229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997290962132974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chelsealrp,2018/04/06,"Is my kid spoiled or am I too hard on her? So I think my toddler is a brat/is spoiled. Warning, this may be long.

TL; DR: my daughter (3yo) won't show affection to anyone but me, and she clings to me constantly. Also being defiant about normal everyday things. Normal, or am I raising a spoiled brat?

I'm trying to have an open mind about all this. And I don't like to think of myself as a permissive parent, but maybe I am?

My DD (3.5 yrs) and I just got home from a trip to [mayor S. Ca city] to visit my family. The whole time she was there she was defiant, she wouldn't mind me, she fought me almost every step of the way. She was also ""afraid"" of hugging her grandpa (my dad) and being affectionate at all to people she doesn't know well.

Now she **is** only 3, almost 4. And when its me and her she is usually pretty good. But I'm afraid that my family thinks she's spoiled. She won't eat most foods, she clings to me like nobody's business, and she's just plain defiant. I ask her to get dressed in the morning and she goes completely limp, starts kicking and hitting if I try to dress her anyway. I've swatted her butt a few times because of her fighting me for literally everything. She also says she ""needs to be carried"" eeeeeverywhere.

I feel completely touched out, I'm so tired of the whining, and I don't know what to do. I've always told my DD that if she doesn't want to give affection she doesn't have to, but my dad too offense. He kept saying she was being ""mean"" to him, and I feel a little torn. I want my dad's approval, he's always been a sarcastic and snarky person, but I don't want DD to feel pressured into anything she isn't comfortable with.

How do I deal with this? Is this a 3-4yo thing? An only child thing? Should I handle it with timeouts more often (preferred choice of punishment) or start spanking? For the record, I am against spanking, but my normal avenues just aren't working anymore.",1.8023771341674149,3.8059699897698254,3.349254164650585,89.87209027441764,79.28132992327366,6.273062832653626,23.611045828437128,7.329194593529364,0.9557336144328468,1490,51,313,20,37,491,192,391,0.14,0.81,0.051,-0.9771,1,0,0,0,2,0,71,0,0,0,2,19,15,4,3,15,0,36,6,1,3,2,64,62,31,0,12,14,6,6,2,0,5,2,2,1,3,12,18,2,1,10,1,0,3,11,8,1,0,9,8,63,7,37,42,6,21,0,1,0,2,48,7,1,10,12,209,75,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443784841024896,0.0,0.0,0.25688059028807914,0.17818792543954484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618841848465202,0.07486847678227397,0.0,0.08811259791793266,0.0,0.1000995306921441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652711826541878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245296429826075,0.11570871785796664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038836590587964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956320825587308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021427796560423,0.0,0.0962310095855795,0.0,0.20187926150804875,0.0,0.16241916159585698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947404016854186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0559416309047614,0.1027149267421032,0.0,0.08980840684308082,0.0856366834900324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591707572412184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740373191352616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768989887441313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462168110800303,0.10731605716218597,0.0,0.0947569261591409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757000401581936,0.11663473651209523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622798961923326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793938513730546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147287123634809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286886971044415,0.0,0.0,0.1188927617068645,0.0,0.0,0.07423147742083255,0.09349269493861323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893252829432552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029873545902252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515747456185365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21340518559706145,0.20582566491902235,0.0,0.0,0.12487116472679595,0.12306555927716326,0.0,0.10231358563242622,0.0,0.14539213664616032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792664174192362,0.0,0.1894646694387985,0.08499018293598716,0.0,0.0,0.0962721875429194,0.0,0.0,0.1195440518911762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795098730837982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemup0420,2018/04/06,"Overreaction, or justified to bring up to pre k director? We have a 3 year old daughter.

She is very strong willed. And to be blunt, doesn't really put up with shit from other kids. She isn't am instigator, but she definitely will let it be known if there is a problem. I'm explaining this because in the very beginning of her attendance at this program, she was actively being shunned by her classmates. They would not play with her and she was very much an outcast. She learned boundaries and other kids learned they couldn't pick on her and to my knowledge there hasn't been any further problems.

She goes to a private pre school (basically it's a puffed up Montessori School) and they are very involved in sharing pictures on social media and through this app that they use so parents can follow along with what their child is doing and see how much fun they have.

Our child is never pictured. We never receive updates. My husband is quite upset about this, because obviously we pay a good amount of money for her to be in a stimulating environment and to have fun with friends. Even when they post group photos of kids either involved in an activity or playing outside, or posing as a group...our daughter has been pictured a maximum of 4 times (ever) out of dozens of photos posted each day. And again, no updates received through their app, whereas we know that other parents receive updates on their children.

My husband plans to speak with the owner of the pre school. I do feel as if something should be said but I don't want us to be blowing this out of proportion.

If you were in our position, would you say something?",5.808807197145962,7.054549644951145,5.755076779897628,79.83966340933769,67.20846905537461,8.192895920583219,34.1630215604157,8.418075326091056,2.756894338451993,1299,60,233,18,21,407,171,307,0.07,0.8140000000000001,0.116,0.9594,2,0,2,0,0,0,33,7,2,9,3,9,12,1,1,13,0,36,1,1,4,4,54,47,22,0,10,10,6,1,0,1,5,0,3,0,6,13,22,0,0,7,2,2,7,9,4,0,1,6,5,35,8,45,28,5,37,0,0,1,0,56,15,1,6,13,176,48,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850208877051424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866862170110915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393183458324728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595859897630627,0.11772230773998672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658044981473686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054859748066296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915824987008894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152350119608236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308061535156732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913409933707501,0.0,0.20074948483514046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656378167539682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890180606993529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249283125482096,0.0,0.0,0.2490596358111853,0.0,0.1308302313169309,0.0,0.13842370381443608,0.0,0.0,0.08337330191109979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379633534990585,0.10349538852346518,0.0,0.3951367152867796,0.10370757362030432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359050191211133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266497778641262,0.0,0.2003817531318846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588776084533556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654668764925436,0.11240225680990808,0.0,0.4295282919766625,0.07676204806487097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849005128212358,0.0,0.0,0.08380819059991028
parenting,PapayaCakes,2018/04/06,"Finally potty-trained our 2 year old, but now his pee smells really bad! So ever since potty training our toddler, I've noticed that his pee has had a really strong odor. The smell goes through his pull ups (when he has accidents/overnight) and even makes his pants stink. He doesn't have a fever and nothing seems to be irritating him. He drinks a lot of milk and juice also (not so much water). Any ideas what could be causing this?",4.690357142857142,5.955213988095237,4.620000000000001,86.875,69.83333333333333,7.980952380952381,27.095238095238088,8.344100000000001,1.6299666666666672,341,11,69,5,6,105,68,84,0.145,0.8009999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.8459,0,0,1,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,4,0,8,6,2,2,1,12,10,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,2,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,4,7,1,4,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,6,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524359664379876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602776152328638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20385184633829612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25080536037337403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949308431044077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23917029024286396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125623666035724,0.2208441801425279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674501854680051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756112980545272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20756433522620785,0.0,0.0,0.16296945820977074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794755200601071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342648260175017,0.27796202234553324,0.2561903260330156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128125647519585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22226149537166326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196022721223947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722212295689736
parenting,joshm1301,2018/04/06,"Whats your opinion on what to tell kids about drugs? Last night me and my friend had a conversation about how to go about telling kids about drugs. We talked about if something happened to her and i had to take care of her kid, how id go about explaining recreational drugs, specifically pot. I was curious on peoples input if they would be more open to them at least trying it or if they want their kids to have nothing to do with it. For the sake of the discussion lets say the child is 14-16.",3.2361000000000004,4.822431009999999,3.5630000000000024,91.78150000000002,73.9,7.4,24.5,8.07648339933343,1.0874999999999997,391,12,87,6,8,121,69,100,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.8402,0,0,4,0,0,0,8,1,1,4,0,8,2,0,0,4,0,9,3,0,2,0,15,16,8,0,5,4,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,5,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,12,2,20,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,5,2,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19764123722467167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6744073740329589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976669757953456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203368855655912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17141939073472964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801221795032902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982229963664047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819134758736088,0.0,0.1860026494398851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438998716616302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415592999048205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923387383663597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574977922894594,0.1558079018262566,0.33886387577792904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316102552234461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143367359283968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377042538625387,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agoatnameddockeyjoe,2018/04/06,"Curious about your family food philosophies My LO is still under 1 so this is definitely really early to be wondering about, but one thing I’ve been thinking about for when he gets older / we have more kids all eating food is what actions, behaviors, habits, etc can we practice that promote healthy relationship to food as the kids grow up.

I feel like when I was growing up it was perfectly normal for everyone to eat snacks all the time, binging, no focus on trying different foods (didn’t know what an avocado or hummus or a million other things were until I got to college), soda or juice often, food used to calm emotions, etc, and most people in my family don’t have a healthy relationship with food and are not physically healthy because of it. I don’t want my LO to struggle like I’ve done my whole life to develop healthy habits as adult and break all the bad habits I acquired as a kid.

The baseline is eating well myself to be an example. Next is cooking and offering healthy whole food options. Third would be trying new things. And understanding that food is to fuel your body and can be for fun and bonding in moderation. 

Are there any things you do or don’t do regarding food as a family? Any specific actions you take or foods you eat or ways you try to promote a healthy relationship with food? Any mindsets you don’t want to promote or do want to promote?

Any helpful books or blogs or something you’d recommend? 

Any UNHELPFUL things you feel happened when you were growing up that you want to change for your own family? 

Thanks all!",5.727,6.888652911864407,6.0825,77.72544491525427,67.33898305084746,9.42542372881356,32.71610169491525,9.642632912329526,3.121674576271186,1239,53,226,26,20,398,151,295,0.031,0.725,0.244,0.9968,1,0,1,0,0,0,26,2,12,0,6,11,9,0,1,11,0,32,20,1,1,5,43,48,26,0,6,11,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,14,11,18,0,6,3,0,5,7,2,1,3,8,2,24,7,35,34,11,24,0,0,0,0,24,7,0,13,12,156,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052362066155646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924129546920999,0.035950345297935435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550744294439073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06238726630120161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161586465414996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035145192749631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413827976500152,0.0,0.06633844390938742,0.0,0.0,0.13154445054962444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056352720796297925,0.0,0.0,0.2223838718583693,0.0,0.059638620546200075,0.04213143850711591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7844350122200707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030811774289596014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04716734424665958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052151009952919485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03952940543163895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03241087667302129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041655476860415715,0.057623983640840024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695799897401582,0.06272011518896273,0.0,0.05778254876830548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03996268913451518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040885535342503984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037780614215949984,0.0,0.0,0.18994982525762166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04540149866598703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047097160980855,0.0,0.0,0.06165301641211191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04434153076046729,0.0,0.0,0.05429585273130876,0.0,0.0,0.19590039071380105,0.03778851770987105,0.0,0.0,0.03438854106158644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011956816517218,0.0,0.0,0.0613945983534005,0.0,0.05093508598310542,0.0,0.0,0.13913889736344953,0.046811261865306535,0.0,0.0,0.05302521333330693,0.0,0.0,0.13168598358547925,0.0,0.0,0.06395539624192803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041893836414678434,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dresslover47,2018/04/06,"My son keeps lying to me about how he's doing in college. What should I do? My son is in his third year of school. Semester after semester he keeps making the same mistakes. He's getting C's and D's in his classes. He even failed a few classes. However, during the semester I ask him how he is doing in his classes, and he tells me ""I'm doing well, I learned from my mistakes."" But towards the end of the semester he comes up to me and tells me he hasn't been doing well in some of his classes and is going to end up with a poor grade. He keeps lying to me and he keeps repeating the same mistakes.

He started screwing up during his first semester of his freshman year in his first Biology class and his English class. Once he knew he was on the verge of failing them, he stepped his game up and worked hard to pass those classes with a C. He did pretty well during his second semester and seemed to learn from his mistakes. He lost his scholarship after his first year, but appealed it and got it back for his Sophomore year.

His second year he started screwing up again, and lost his scholarship again. He was not able to appeal again. He was lying to me again about how he was doing and then came up to me at the end of the semesters to tell me the truth. I was upset with him. He's now in his third year, without his scholarship and just relying on financial aid. He's still messing up. This is starting to get ridiculous and he's starting to make me mad. He's wasting a lot of money to not take his classes seriously.

He's taking out loans, and I took out a loan for him to be able to go to school. I feel like I'm wasting my money. I want him to earn his degree and have an education beyond high school. He's studying Biology and is undecided on whether he wants to be a Nurse or a PA.

His overall GPA is a 2.96. He has been doing poorly. My son used to be a great student. He maintained a 3.9 GPA in high school, and graduated number seven in his class. Ever since he started college, everything has been going downhill from there. I'm very upset with him for lying to me, wasting his and my money, and doing poorly. I don't know what to do with him. How can I help my son do better with his studies?",2.966461684011353,4.2903843532008885,4.409590665405236,86.50064900662254,74.12141280353202,6.9431472721538965,26.62939135919268,7.447530270364453,1.3342554273099971,1724,62,358,20,35,574,172,453,0.135,0.804,0.061,-0.9857,1,0,0,0,0,0,49,0,0,1,10,21,23,4,2,20,0,35,2,0,7,2,67,70,28,0,7,8,5,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,29,0,4,6,1,11,8,5,16,3,8,15,2,57,7,69,51,5,64,0,4,0,2,72,27,2,4,30,244,63,31,0.17760566545076592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301866109698447,0.0,0.0,0.06828389689408602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853888905994524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156678329326653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649577725273526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359588551524852,0.0,0.0,0.05865343349565338,0.08032724625822951,0.0,0.0,0.07981026001386507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044901380452529366,0.06344076144265856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266069324537879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279162979451333,0.0,0.15140608889975513,0.0,0.07102373762364382,0.09790543658127417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954989546798748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595226668924485,0.1876501367764149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31572815188006903,0.0,0.0,0.048803714471161205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04338457846528015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387756413011736,0.07549699276377067,0.0,0.0,0.11855316081898047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457211864159988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034440607636153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594928307002357,0.0,0.08084276371204159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345862089358951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142755103434886,0.0,0.07091805692578626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353735712119078,0.0,0.23285276983583214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866321463786516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669713528460992,0.0,0.07327163718343951,0.10475642308698148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953323423477965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560276181079343,0.0,0.06464951986071203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431166765594561
parenting,asleefing,2018/04/06,"Should I get my baby circumcised? Special case. My husband always had problems with a tight foreskin and was off and on in pain from it.   He got circumcised at the recommendation of his urologist about eight years ago and he’s really happy he had it done.

We have a five year old who we chose not to circumcise.  We didn’t consider that he would inherit the same issue.  He had a physical yesterday and his pediatrician said that his foreskin feels unusually tight.  For now, she said hopefully it will loosen more in the next few years.  

I’m expecting a second son soon.  I’m wondering if we should go ahead and get the baby circumcised.  I would generally be against the idea, but if my son inherited phimosis and will have to get circumcised if it doesn’t get better, I’m wondering if we should get it done now with the baby.  Does anyone have experience with needing to get an older child circumcised and how they coped with it?",4.659123376623377,6.567763159090912,5.806038961038965,75.82727272727277,70.81818181818181,10.255844155844157,29.048701298701296,10.451354775682146,3.347340584415585,740,29,137,23,14,246,100,176,0.023,0.916,0.06,0.7511,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,11,0,19,1,0,1,0,40,37,13,0,13,6,3,3,0,0,7,1,2,0,1,9,16,0,2,4,0,2,1,3,2,0,3,10,5,15,4,18,19,3,18,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,7,12,95,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343957570158395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615414299179606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060113192548888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408935816590414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326775385743694,0.3103054303813834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483065845376568,0.0,0.0,0.0766600770358151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4752691398327942,0.0,0.08616514920602969,0.0,0.12125874845554654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139483409967667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058589636026987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115259754080814,0.0,0.15824455853465416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241910195743188,0.0,0.0,0.16124212190174247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590923161528098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132689788864665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507314397443669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712715585067888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288437321820222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288356140943416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540301888016847,0.0,0.0,0.2929013606288695
parenting,Portapottyhorse,2018/04/06,"Please help 3 year old won't potty train We've been attempting to potty train for the last 10 months but nothing is working. We've tried reward charts, putting him in underwear, pull ups, even giving him chocolate as a reward. Every attempt just leads to him holding in his urine and him in tears trying to put his own diaper on. ",5.9251562500000015,6.512503703125002,5.7687500000000025,82.20125,66.65625,8.275,28.5,8.07648339933343,1.8248875000000004,263,8,49,3,4,82,51,64,0.033,0.736,0.232,0.9366,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,5,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,10,2,1,13,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,4,26,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731850839408614,0.0,0.2261932237481831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25753595695476195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994633698279888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883469281813125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21428609033029786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575992741670838,0.0,0.28170871042246426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29469379832157955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5397626705471533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645400355381659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544561582988712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728825681823827
parenting,riesenarethebest,2018/04/06,"How to teach child to observe, remember, and judge? I learned how to judge people and situations based on current and historical observations late in life (ie: fundamental shift from the Perceiving personality type late in college). It's led to a seriously improved interaction with the world around me.

How have you taught your children this skill early in life? Does it do anything negative to their interactions with the world?",8.665833333333332,10.727132805555557,8.21766666666667,61.79400000000001,61.222222222222214,11.871111111111116,39.4,11.602472056035307,5.324346666666666,350,18,53,11,5,111,54,72,0.079,0.88,0.041,-0.4291,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,1,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,4,0,13,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,13,2,0,13,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,5,34,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272692959444547,0.2458551707139037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416834570921935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6230770590088167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901425176806459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914656474669193,0.24114620901813086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128535427132558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104333675442571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noobtralevil,2018/04/06,"Any tips for language development in an unusually hyperactive 16 month old? She has been hyper and fussy since birth. I'm unable to sit down and read with her. When I manage to, she gets extremely frustrated and smacks/throws the book/has a tantrum. I've been trying little word games, like pointing to her eyes, nose, mouth and trying to get her to mimic, but she just wants to run around and throw things at me. Destruction is her only form of playtime lol.   
If anyone has any tips on how to improve her language skills, it would be appreciated. She can sign for bath, more, and wave hello, but as for words, she only says ""nom nom, ba ba, da da, and no"".   
Edit: As for physical things, she seems advanced. I can do a goofy dance and she will mimic it without flaw. She's also fairly toilet trained. We're just having an issue with communication/verbalization.",3.8382383873794894,5.934888042944786,4.587524101665206,82.90952453987731,73.47852760736197,7.111130587204207,23.299298860648555,7.957251820313856,1.2027900087642416,673,19,128,10,14,216,112,163,0.055,0.85,0.095,0.7796,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,0,0,0,2,6,4,3,0,5,1,12,3,3,1,0,24,17,16,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,4,11,0,0,1,4,0,4,2,3,0,0,2,3,16,1,22,12,2,16,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,2,5,78,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758634229330054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990951912923313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376747517527753,0.0,0.0,0.19576816600013605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22978972489123925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22953083120865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743781925305276,0.22040944152749312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755315365362002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307604880926566,0.0,0.0,0.3345057353424837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788777524230428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21997135619146171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488272569795588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019948430667536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191335062665184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921993161777172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29861141462026114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970970385505126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198717093333788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15621906505426633,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heathn,2018/04/06,"Wife wants to give up 8 day trip to Europe for 8th grade promotion 
My wife is an amazing mom and her kids always come first.  But that creates unforeseen consequences. 

We had managed to find a round trip ticket to Germany for the 4 of us for than $550 round trip, $2200 total which is a killer deal.

The thing was we had to leave the last day of school, but it was only a 1/2 day so we didn't think there was a problem. Now we found out that the 8th grade promotion ceremony is that day, and to change the flights will cost more than $8000.  Now she wants to give up the trip to Europe so our son can have his ceremony since he might be getting some awards as he is probably in the top 5 of his class.

I don't understand how 90 minutes in a gym with his name getting called a couple of times can be anywhere near as memorable or rewarding as a week in Europe. He told her he wanted to be at the awards (he's kind of a homebody and was lukewarm on the trip).

She wants to make sure he's recognized for his hard work, I want him to have memories of something fantastic. Any suggestions?",4.3781142857142905,4.544847462222221,5.152523809523808,86.74650000000004,69.93333333333334,8.91746031746032,28.07142857142857,8.841846274778883,1.8112095238095245,849,27,190,14,14,276,130,225,0.039,0.8390000000000001,0.123,0.9645,0,0,1,0,0,0,20,6,0,0,8,6,7,0,0,18,0,21,0,0,2,2,31,36,12,0,6,3,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,10,0,0,5,2,1,6,2,1,0,1,9,3,18,6,36,22,3,26,0,0,2,0,33,10,0,3,10,115,24,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072847385194825,0.0,0.0,0.09866778613407166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815553072513055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534884875055636,0.12498422826447195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054194624728008,0.0,0.3742902984345916,0.1495838611281082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261179640678686,0.12341549468167225,0.0,0.1590862932762468,0.0,0.0,0.1516095483408548,0.2783716420021071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997426329477965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109137456857025,0.0,0.11826964569749478,0.0,0.15363186875158344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685028275691053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392007441624506,0.0,0.16993042860989138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103492844962994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564341135480496,0.13883380167765627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684122321952364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002190671811767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116991939843018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674784038650042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639292264303348,0.0929693312792838,0.0,0.0,0.08460452698124088,0.0,0.0,0.13864197607389786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510462727566813,0.17452825477402795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42789619131573453,0.0,0.1163843463210998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562897244332296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IncomingSignal13,2018/04/06,"Stomach Flu Relapse? Monday my 3 year old son’s school called around 10 saying he’d thrown up. My first thought was too much Easter junk the day before, but when we got home and the vomiting continued, I knew we were dealing with a virus.

He stopped around 3pm Monday and spent the day in and out of sleep on the couch. The next day he seemed a little better and spent a lazy day at home with my SO relaxing and watching movies. By 6:30 that night he was asking to go to bed. 

Wednesday I stayed home and he seemed a little better. By mid day he had his first bout of diarrhea and immediately seemed like a whole new kid; he was being goofy and playing and running around and even fought us at bedtime because he wanted to stay up.

Yesterday he went back to school. The diarrhea continued (it was nasty; loud and forceful) but it didn’t seem to phase him. That evening he was eating dinner and threw up everywhere. His energy immediately dropped and fell asleep about 20 mins later.

Today he’s home again and just wants to lay around. He’s been smiley and cheerful here and there, but mainly just wants to laze around. 

I’m pushing pedialite and not pushing food unless he requests it. Has anyone ever had the vomiting come back? It was just once but it’s obviously also sapped his energy.",4.4034273684210525,5.9873936080000005,4.692778947368421,84.85333684210528,70.92,7.663157894736841,25.55789473684211,8.20500826718156,1.4913599999999998,1022,31,199,15,19,321,146,250,0.057,0.823,0.12,0.9573,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,0,0,4,23,7,1,0,12,0,14,9,3,0,2,49,33,25,0,3,9,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,6,1,7,28,3,1,6,2,2,8,2,1,0,2,19,3,13,6,28,12,3,54,0,0,1,0,28,16,0,4,28,115,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641674821380688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681554491531909,0.0,0.0,0.4253291105112316,0.08933272021031459,0.0,0.0,0.14695458046434162,0.0,0.058250545807009536,0.0,0.08131180911297205,0.0,0.0,0.16902447014472208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757418917535098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231373255473239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30813119334127403,0.09851487751997724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777847469203446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262287465156872,0.08643660738961388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625611513292819,0.1155476766464312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054307138495922,0.0,0.07642551201845668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834050955576625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04668423169284392,0.191546059052524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024525189421038,0.0,0.0,0.09228936470054012,0.10162575387128203,0.08967359507858468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027080004572253,0.10176488638424444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599061245211806,0.0,0.19341719101589236,0.0,0.3479653319525149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562582221348602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037016951900362,0.0,0.07988977377216673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586143510833772,0.0,0.0,0.09057668482593977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494307950851455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690856509284738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885821222767011,0.0,0.10668576832038916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061535454120712686
parenting,shrimpdOut,2018/04/06,"Balancing religion and beliefs with co-parents I find myself in situations I wish I was not in. I am agnostic, I always wanted to avoid discussions of religion and afterlife until my kids were older and could approach the topics with more intelligence and logic. My ex, their mother, is barely religious (abrahamic y-religion) so this usually isn't a conflict, she is fully aware I will not promote [abrahamic y-religion] at home. 

Then I have my wife's ex, very religious (abrahamic x-religion), and I find constant exposure to half of the kids (bios) via my other two kids (steps). We even get the occassional [x-religion] is better than [y-religion] or only [x-religion] worships the right god crap that the other parents pump into their heads( me SMH at the bullshit!)

This morning for instance, heaven and hell was mentioned by step-son and immeidately I said to bio-son, who was engaged with the conversation, ""hell is not real."" I wish that I never had to even mention hell, at least not the place, the goddess is much nicer IMO, but in those moments I feel faced with a dilemma. Do I do nothing and let bio-son hear this lore, which IMO is encouraging through inaction a belief in the place 'hell' and the teachings of what I view as a fictitious religion or immediately share what I would want bio-son to hear to counter what I perceive as basically lies, which is what I did. 

Maybe this is just a rant, but I never wanted to expose my kids to religion so early, the kids are (5,6,7,8). I especially never wanted them buying into any abrahamic religions, which I view with most disdain, as sexist and oppressive. I want kids to learn of religion after maturity if they choose, most importantly I never wanted religion or beliefs told to them since I view that of forcing them, if they chose to become [religion] in adulthood that would 100% acceptable to me, I would never be the reason they became [z/x or y-religion] though.

I love all these kids, it sucks that I cannot control how they are all exposed. I do tell them, that afterlife isn't something they should worry about yet, that they should learn to live, grow, enjoy life and just be kids for now. I tell them when they are older we can talk more about that and for the time being to approach those things as simply stories, which I have no problem exposing them to in that context. The difference is when I expose them, I always make sure to expose them to multiple beliefs such as allowing them to watch a show on Aztec beliefs one day then a few days later on Norse, then on Hindu, and so on. Our next lessons will be on ancient egyptian gods. I tell them the possibility of any of the thousands of gods existing is the same, that humanity has not yet validated or invalidated the existence of any single diety which has ever been mentioned, the same as answering the question ""are unicorns real"".

I want them to have ample knowledge prior to committing to a set of beliefs.

any of you have thoughts on this?",9.110892141969343,7.572591538599646,9.225682226211852,67.07585519955808,60.90305206463196,12.518961469410305,39.555931501173866,11.437924896087663,4.562450131197346,2345,101,410,55,26,777,258,557,0.096,0.804,0.1,-0.5609,2,1,1,0,0,0,96,3,1,20,4,18,18,6,1,29,0,48,5,3,6,10,98,67,39,0,18,16,5,1,0,0,7,1,3,1,9,32,22,0,3,21,1,1,4,14,8,0,4,10,8,66,10,70,44,12,54,14,0,4,1,57,20,6,10,29,313,98,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413563319949847,0.0,0.0,0.2519409250682317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229225247847416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819154553154867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009003948918394,0.10388195638949227,0.07395006787639953,0.0,0.0,0.11946533884871527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967688861830282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223501571799904,0.08378069807506243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046831793371249424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930722767148787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048390476966653315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950555278334136,0.0,0.2087804516816903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290608320201353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471090966921304,0.06542071789191127,0.0,0.0,0.08178574793962247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835937702553021,0.0,0.061825016013179614,0.0,0.0930499114423792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808684905491451,0.0,0.35717385049155703,0.0,0.09850313262946914,0.0,0.0,0.08887203025007312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276216260425678,0.07044219270015327,0.0,0.0,0.10284429241386568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935377723660564,0.0,0.0,0.1044158881990206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862547188876692,0.0,0.0,0.10375634692604424,0.0,0.0,0.21084519796746504,0.0,0.0952294740590864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909754556793976,0.08810346648706302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661677481525488,0.10410951302145824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130391631454444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729388475698459,0.0,0.0,0.07444498562789964,0.24286364234176905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061533057171560025,0.0,0.09099933739140363,0.07353046564754788,0.054007857143085945,0.0,0.0,0.08850301875092872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047693566108386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200858195719187,0.07642175224825848,0.38241049357659984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130183976032788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406078565559096,0.0,0.1973851983026277,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tempest8008,2018/04/06,"My daughter did a self portrait. She's 9 and becoming very self-conscious. Suggestions on how to respond? I think I could market and sell the shirt... I had a co-worker suggest I get the shirt made up for everyone in the family and we all wear them together. 

https://i.redditmedia.com/cN-Rsa3rlIhJF4u6lgms9LN6TtNC-oOy4teuwXw_rGY.jpg?fit=crop&crop=faces%2Centropy&arh=2&w=960&s=dd62c827195d92c6461b60b5843e1763

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parenting,CJae91,2018/04/06,"Coparenting, well at least an attempt BACKSTORY: 

My ""wife"" and I have a rocky relationship due to previous issues (not enough attention on my part and not enough of attempt at being a wife and mother on her part).

The relationship became worse after every time she left to ""find herself"", she's done this about (from what I can count) at least 6-7 times throughout our marriage/relationship (6 years). We are young so I cant say I'm surprised but its not an excuse (she's 24 and I'm 26).

This last time that she went to ""find herself"" she basically led me on that we were working our issues out but found herself with a previous coworker (physically and apparently emotionally now as the affair as turned into a ""relationship""). Of course, this is leaving me emotionally damaged at the moment. We argued about it and I gave her an ultimatum, she couldn't give me a flat answer of what she wanted, I made one last attempt the other day (predictable) to get her to realize her family wasn't worth throwing out, Im fully convinced she's totally smitten with lust and ""new love"" cause she's getting the attention she wanted from me, from him (for now). I asked was it worth it, no response, realized I have to 180 on her and told her ""remember that energy you're giving me now"".

I gave the backstory to set the tone.

She's never really been an active parent. By active parent I mean, going to appointments, school functions, getting them dressed for daycare/school, getting up at night, financially supporting. Even when she had an apartment during a previous separation, she had the kids every weekend (by my permission, I'll explain soon), her roommate informed me she was feeding and bathing our kids, not their mother. She's there but NOT there. As stated above, its on if I feel like its sincere is when I'll allow her to see them (I have LEGAL custody on our first from before marriage but no legal custody agreement in plan for the second but she never tries to keep her so I keep the same mindset for her as I do for our first).

Mind you, she lives 5 minutes driving distance away from the kids and only tries to see them if she 1. isn't doing anything or 2. if she thinks I'm not mad at her (makes me believe its not even for the kids). For example, we got into it about her affair and she says ""all I want right now is to be cuddled up with my kids and I cant get that right now"".. so you want to cuddle with your kids because you had an affair and I wanna leave? Makes sense. 

I stuck around a lot due to her previous issues (childhood) where everyone abandoned her, never had someone stick around and she says she has mental health issues which I believe due to previous self harming.

I'm at the point where I'm done and need to do a 180. Realized she does not have the kids best interest at heart and I truly feel like she only uses them as a temporary feel good or a way to spend time with me. She shows me daily that she isn't worth being the mother to my kids (I caught her and him hanging out the day she was supposed to her have them). 

So why do so many people tell me I'm wrong if I tell her no, she cant pick them up when she clearly chooses when she WANTS to be a mom, why cant I choose when and where without arguments? Why am I petty when I nitpick through her shortcomings as a parent? It's fair for her to have an affair then run back to us when it all fails and I'm stuck being a father full-time with no breaks but if I speak on it, I'm being childish.

I don't believe coparenting will work in this case. I believe I need to kind of become a dictator but I need opinions or how this could even work as a coparenting relationship when its so much tension and ZERO true attempt from her about anything.",4.123807751147375,5.265789754054055,5.211228964813873,82.56897756246816,71.05405405405405,7.963284038755738,27.881183069862317,8.334251077139745,1.865598674145844,2918,103,577,44,53,963,299,740,0.079,0.807,0.115,0.9863,7,0,0,0,0,0,97,10,4,7,12,37,22,2,1,38,0,45,7,1,9,8,115,96,58,0,16,24,10,3,2,0,1,1,4,1,9,26,37,1,3,19,3,4,8,25,8,1,5,22,9,120,14,92,65,13,88,0,3,2,4,121,36,0,10,42,421,146,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039801415954335,0.11248354229534427,0.059062856055497576,0.0,0.05935776492378823,0.048579944796415614,0.0,0.03851269270714909,0.06977508355538478,0.05375978326804666,0.28471966550581257,0.06630136210437544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490115913792457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05044245326485474,0.0,0.0,0.08148910399539383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055287450918715564,0.1293059581626564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213338335303308,0.0,0.1305594244178465,0.0,0.12518532293603718,0.0,0.10646029760160106,0.060369239884998475,0.0,0.0,0.05955854977837478,0.0,0.0958340113650859,0.09026868204394607,0.0,0.0,0.11548700581986475,0.1074782661780934,0.0,0.0692713626361612,0.0,0.0,0.16503935986470133,0.12121209542086166,0.03590548565205632,0.05299066808075191,0.050529179058767984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715520788238437,0.0,0.07486617646339294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824302877930301,0.2637654679803841,0.0,0.11231093190828484,0.0,0.06579011417885754,0.0,0.10299692509316537,0.0,0.1337926564708144,0.06864302892797804,0.0,0.0,0.061731111513104314,0.0,0.0557872884588954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0537116349180859,0.057020567667143286,0.05978050508537532,0.08434354613591859,0.06405252643202355,0.0,0.06881931020107575,0.0,0.0,0.06366851528314127,0.0,0.06379172078902004,0.0739932529744325,0.0,0.0,0.04644306354314817,0.14053695106004052,0.14618019248578765,0.0610176590383503,0.0,0.059288227489728784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04281101484934263,0.09609935772041037,0.0,0.0,0.2104549148885535,0.13683112919175866,0.0,0.04379963657549533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059723584883398524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04047341335744528,0.0,0.0,0.3391473799624194,0.07156830300100878,0.10790725039885593,0.0,0.15072492791875142,0.0,0.12787891922170874,0.10068929499536708,0.0,0.0659083817900603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053530473104074563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169359042628608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104406282090491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040481880169938235,0.0,0.0,0.14735828583300029,0.0,0.0,0.060369239884998475,0.0,0.08578736362654434,0.06871946899330778,0.0,0.0,0.07599529650058892,0.05456546517766575,0.0,0.0,0.1863199627625629,0.05014771703892286,0.0,0.0,0.056804565572669226,0.05856659379454554,0.17102482300059774,0.0,0.0,0.060901290528854214,0.0,0.137982902945021,0.0,0.06438372980338948,0.0,0.06907517188983933,0.0,0.04068452925741855
parenting,MrsMatMan,2018/04/06,"Children Close in Age Does anyone have children close in age? What are your trials/challenges? I just got a positive pregnancy test and I have an almost 8 month old. We are excited/scared, always wanted our children to be close. My brother and I are 4 years apart and we were never close growing up. ",2.225112781954884,5.013471912280703,3.1120300751879704,87.2542105263158,84.26315789473685,5.3624060150375925,23.932330827067666,6.868970318607317,1.1433278195488723,237,9,42,3,7,75,42,57,0.029,0.8959999999999999,0.075,0.5334,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,13,9,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,4,6,0,15,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,1,6,27,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38728829463583136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32181864479516803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704343930882622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384597972461269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30933051560629204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30871134807219325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982962528144046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058437746666092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22812343767571194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490633461066052
parenting,iareagenius,2018/04/06,"I should patent that .... Last weekend, the last ski trip of the year, we're sitting in a long chair lift to the top of the mountains, with blowing cold and snow around us, and my 6 year old daughter shares this:


""You know what would be really nice? Instead of chairs these should be hot tubs.""

:)",2.8621052631578934,4.8137587192982485,2.3121403508771934,98.79031578947372,75.84210526315789,5.261754385964913,21.92631578947368,5.6839178017228535,-0.1326042105263161,225,6,50,1,5,65,47,57,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.8439,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,6,2,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,7,1,0,12,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864616191789405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176847551038291,0.5246041390689987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28477431785445245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376648226938954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061471267259729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870741486498053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285906193861686,0.0,0.0,0.4144448472652867
parenting,vetter81,2018/04/06,"Son (9) in first fight at school. I have no idea what to do. Yesterday afternoon I got a message from the school saying that my son received a “disciple referral” that day, but I didn’t get the message until after the school closed. He has been mouthing off a lot lately, so I figured it had something to do with that. Also, he is at his father’s house this weekend, (started after school yesterday, and ends Monday after school).  My ex and I are not on good terms, I decided to just call the school in the morning. 

Then last night at 9:00, I get this text from my ex: “I have spoken with A about the altercation he was involved in today.  He was pretty upset when discussing the incident and had questions about what to expect tomorrow in ISS and how to do the work without help.  
In regard to the incident, he said he was defending himself against the other student who took off running with the ball a group of kids were playing with.  After A tried to get the ball back, the student pushed him and then held the football to his throat.  A then pushed back.”

Cue freak out. 

First of all, my ex is the type that will take the side of his child against anyone else, sometimes defying all logic. Second, my son does not like being in trouble and I’m certain that the thought of ISS is horrifying to him, so I have no doubt he was extremely upset about it. Unfortunately, my son also is the type that wants to blame someone else anytime he’s in trouble, so I never know if I’m getting the real story when he’s in trouble and I wasn’t around. Meanwhile, my ex would believe every word he said...

At this point, I’m hoping a teacher witnessed the whole thing, so that they have a real account of what happened. If it really was self defense, we’re going to have a problem, and that’s a post for another day. Otherwise, I don’t know what to do. 

Right now, I plan to call in the morning, get the story from the school. His father doesn’t like him to talk to me during his visits, and when he does talk to me, my ex watches him the whole time,  making the conversations tense. I can’t wait until Monday afternoon to speak with him, so I’m going to go pick him up for “lunch,” bring him home, and get his story.

...but then what?

Do I punish him more for fighting next week when he gets home? What if it was self defense? What if it wasn’t? I can’t tell him I don’t know who to believe, can I? I’ve been lying awake for 3 hours and I’m still lost. Advice? 

Edit: a couple more thoughts: my son has not shown any inclination of wanting to become violent with anyone. I have no doubt that he did not start the fight, but I don’t know what he would do if he was attacked. Would he just get the person away, aka self defense, or would he fight back? I don’t know...",3.5752297297297315,4.622099745945949,4.5765653153153165,86.96376689189192,72.26126126126127,7.135585585585583,26.12725225225225,7.365786028017652,1.1850441441441435,2129,68,444,22,40,694,231,555,0.171,0.7959999999999999,0.033,-0.9978,0,0,1,0,5,0,81,0,0,1,5,25,26,10,4,39,0,49,3,2,3,4,75,88,38,0,14,16,12,0,2,0,5,0,4,2,6,29,20,1,5,12,4,1,10,19,20,0,3,24,5,49,6,71,58,8,79,0,1,1,0,77,24,0,11,46,298,78,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005937754648514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146686911071374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875495644565581,0.07517830129769804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026141206130901,0.07345984621662355,0.0,0.06382361659204162,0.0,0.08156324195328109,0.06735967152082123,0.16538674231691455,0.0,0.0,0.07918132892407798,0.0,0.16155108913394753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641691540279586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932898774429971,0.0,0.09247449402286988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548129256179988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119783694800056,0.0,0.06350035684275998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06040600320497257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196720538044348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996607997694372,0.0,0.12223750620108688,0.060134238547749436,0.057340920905384875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339951898093303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04805554661799782,0.0,0.14383156015876056,0.07120916290692389,0.07060498531289505,0.08272623083705866,0.0,0.08093475879751867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19700807258334413,0.058440871643651124,0.08087491348260402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005296441799573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826339785878048,0.06095239754350301,0.0,0.0,0.0478568690205167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529548808166647,0.0,0.07624828621725173,0.06728075987846646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260117752376855,0.0,0.0,0.06777480696850442,0.0,0.06866384790663692,0.07293943710087221,0.0,0.06860228874276478,0.0,0.0,0.0803146400128465,0.0,0.0,0.16320887034760911,0.045929556690422986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612270100711708,0.13639644039966062,0.057014622252270386,0.0,0.5079131098509307,0.0,0.0,0.22438009349985494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607468136523375,0.05519419813797702,0.07090803977275018,0.0,0.10149196752555192,0.0,0.057255599733339727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05390560458234223,0.11525120917620656,0.06266445888137998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047630872539742776,0.0,0.0,0.11383540483878395,0.04180584352496499,0.0,0.06795833463597736,0.0,0.0796556162222794,0.04867609690105968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457496002803948,0.0,0.05750928401424734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600894790606648,0.0,0.06911127685627674,0.0,0.052194704600706826,0.0,0.0,0.20371985734154088,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eatfortunecookie,2018/04/06,"I don't know that this is the right subreddit for this...but I'm single but really want to get pregnant... I am in my late twenties and going through a lot of life changes (good ones though). Moved to a new city, friends, good job, I have family nearby.

Lately I have really had this desire to so badly want to get pregnant and have a baby. I need to wait until I'm stable enough financially and mentally prepared. But I was wondering if anyone here had experience with this same thing - of getting older and suddenly have this ""biological urge"" to have a baby. 

Once I'm stable financially (I have a good job and am on my way there) , and I'm currently working with a therapist to manage my anxiety with moving to a new city...I feel like in a few months when I'm more settled here I'd be ready. I have an apartment, good job, income, healthcare,etc.  I have a supportive,loving family and support system.

However, I'd be a single parent. I don't have a boyfriend, I'm about 25 lbs. Overweight so not super attractive (average), and I'd basically just need to find someone to date or something and use them as a ""donor"".  But that's not right....?

If anyone has advice or input I'd really appreciate it! I'm going to start dating I think, and go from there. I've just always wanted a baby and I just turned 28 and the biological clock is ticking...my mom was 40 when she had me and died young at 52 -I didn't get much time with her. I will have a child. And the younger I am,  the better.

Thanks redditors if you read this long post! :-)",2.217093997208007,4.177371061889254,4.368156119125178,83.27367671009775,77.79478827361564,7.512750116333178,23.34213587715217,8.418075326091056,1.53063899488134,1184,38,239,24,28,408,163,307,0.07200000000000001,0.747,0.181,0.9866,7,0,1,0,1,0,63,0,1,1,3,13,12,0,0,19,0,27,2,0,1,0,46,56,29,1,9,13,2,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,9,18,1,1,5,1,0,5,5,1,0,1,6,1,23,11,27,47,8,33,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,7,19,150,32,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018065875693773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668874305282455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796998395875657,0.0,0.0,0.14569458913728492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698859488803705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214154716201553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021197924901753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812568165097926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076490641208487,0.11619177368907566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019111310586368,0.19642924048187307,0.0,0.052678140907347605,0.0744284771841026,0.0,0.0,0.09522152958364358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049165840092871,0.0,0.217725624471862,0.0,0.17762908856942305,0.3495355989177737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101571603248067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725634539080116,0.0,0.23504630643255314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358765375586977,0.050898634174868986,0.0,0.0,0.09219882664913996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857280517456521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049921308209634,0.0,0.0,0.1220180690818987,0.08315801201498088,0.22146044307087265,0.07658661713036176,0.15450100032705005,0.0,0.20124150882594088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095167546074756,0.07059721200740117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568308060182107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977867759557543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421136305240933,0.0,0.2002272186385198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779437151946127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827406152094215,0.08020529389270073,0.0,0.0,0.07374138367574523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182258262437342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959178651239517,0.0,0.1209646898309533,0.06921466855747781,0.06675636835222612,0.10235943517214352,0.0,0.06075004401676363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332137158227346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998080813983056,0.0,0.0,0.1843497981813677,0.08269575070674512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298220328243976,0.07584658828953912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,birdorubo,2018/04/06,"Bad experience with staff when dropping off my kid First of, I'm not US based (living in Europe). Not sure if that matters, but I have found that there are sometimes cultural differences in child care, so I figured I might as well say it.

Anyway, my son 14 months old and recently started in day care. The process has been pretty smooth. At first, he cried when we dropped him off and picked him up, but otherwise everything was fine. Lately he has even been totally fine when dropping him off. In general I'm happy about the staff and the work they do.

To the issue. When I was going to drop him off today, the staff barely looked at me or my son. After standing around for a while awkwardly one of them turned to me and quickly took him from me, without connecting with my son, and of course, he started crying. I believe you should treat children with respect and especially when taking them from their parents, you should look them in the eyes and get some kind of contact before taking over. I understand that crying can completely natural when dropping off kids at day care, and that was not the thing I got upset about. It was how the staff handled the takeover.

I got pretty upset. Just after leaving I met one of the two people who I handed him off to and told her how I felt. I also told her I'm normally pleased with how everything is going and the work they do, but today, I didn't approve of how they handled the dropping off. Her response was telling me to go check in and see that now everything is fine, which I told her I understood. She then started talking in general terms about how difficult the dropping off can be, and seemingly didn't understand my point at all. Finally, after reiterating my point, she said that she understood and that they would consider it in the future, but in that kind of way that you feel like she didn't care at all about what I had to say.

I am still pretty upset. I feel good about standing up for my kid, but I feel really bad about her not taking the criticism well. What would you do in my situation? Would you talk to them again later today about it? Wait for a similar situation to appear and then talk about it again? I want to have a good relationship with them, and I don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill. ",5.543987423411803,6.1272524401805875,5.896384230893261,80.9681235891648,67.48758465011286,9.217961947758786,30.26838116736537,9.23628265651192,2.4583338277974844,1793,64,350,32,28,575,194,443,0.08,0.7559999999999999,0.163,0.9913,1,0,0,0,0,0,48,2,5,10,5,33,25,0,4,20,0,32,2,2,7,4,73,76,39,0,9,13,4,6,1,0,6,0,3,0,5,19,23,0,1,11,0,1,5,9,7,2,5,23,13,65,18,69,46,5,80,0,0,4,0,59,30,0,6,36,267,84,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061619997687496264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685943315274218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867362121867182,0.0,0.0,0.06556721669821322,0.08681338945035477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31424645633861786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078957658408586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539203623377547,0.09938681697373884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050495375905106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05089339215684422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20775330371714792,0.0753735262230844,0.0,0.0,0.11688234230602634,0.055047340938178736,0.07398385371472742,0.08440881080533179,0.0,0.13108406210848447,0.0,0.0844856539376209,0.0,0.0,0.0402574966421603,0.0,0.13137456749024407,0.1292583565566147,0.12325412907303325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820253382424401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042428068555277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604796154574259,0.0,0.0,0.08692018603610499,0.0815889831224968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037644656651797004,0.0,0.06804002934967618,0.0,0.1294117845244631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143409469320258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174203995439608,0.0,0.0,0.06150370949827206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549648849014792,0.0,0.0,0.08085513465782969,0.0,0.1044274703899588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555926736100716,0.0,0.0,0.053419491078108935,0.0,0.0,0.08458207312931759,0.14568173433732692,0.0,0.0,0.2351746358358809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049362718798408485,0.0,0.0760814571864007,0.08272708111099936,0.0,0.0,0.07329592987293344,0.12255275114480478,0.0,0.0,0.06140200371748476,0.07014700131655431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732236850554921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620830419594447,0.0,0.16361749865220246,0.0,0.0615353657410851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726224144247876,0.0,0.17380489116790473,0.18579908362999414,0.06734852860143081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05119120533101983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21911433972168387,0.2208849883402776,0.08560974822372297,0.0,0.08381254612587784,0.07527049043304654,0.1604317111912225,0.09268638693825837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089680524003993,0.061161820791157465,0.0,0.0,0.1385614685900275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427723607806341,0.0,0.11219235331778947,0.0,0.0,0.16421069714514416,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bpo35,2018/04/06,"The Power of One Word Fear, shame, self-doubt. These are all things one word is capable of manifesting. I remember one day when I was 16, I purchased a new camera. Excited, I proceeded to show my father my new gadget and he laughed while saying “you’re not creative”. He told me so many times growing up that I was a numbers guy, and right brained. I never felt like I was a numbers guy, and I think it is important for parents to not tell their children who they are. That discredits their own authenticity.  I understand that he never would have wanted to hurt me, but that one sentence mixed with his own assumptions of who I was still affects me deeply. This is not a post begging for sympathy, but a post to warn others to be careful with the words they use on those close to them. Especially family and children. Thanks for reading my short post.
With Love,
~Ben
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parenting,wandering-knitter,2018/04/06,"Sick child Is home. She is 8 (practically) not sure if that's a tween but all day we've been cuddling on the couch and watching Justin Bieber ( God help me) and JoJo Siwa who talks far too loudly and far too fast and much.
I want to just put some tape on her mouth.
I mean I have nothing but respect for the girl but holy moly take a breath and learn about your inside voice.



I need a drink",1.7737282229965174,3.328513585365858,2.3614982578397243,98.99621951219515,77.78048780487805,5.173519163763067,17.811846689895468,5.288315135182226,-0.8006397212543557,302,5,73,1,7,93,66,82,0.086,0.8190000000000001,0.095,0.1749,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,4,5,2,0,2,18,8,9,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,2,5,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,2,5,7,3,7,0,0,1,1,8,4,0,2,2,40,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20938677094691505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180552452801281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176209956865084,0.0,0.32567278426472634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536633104374754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386714942584684,0.2407403929965888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115318237220985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326385331783966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30599979590437826,0.0,0.24411316003840905,0.2609592925284376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915001316888094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ladyblue42,2018/04/06,"My 3yo doesn't speak for 8-10 hours/day My children just started daycare in August. My 4yo is doing fine, he's an outgoing kid and he also had a chance to do one of those 2 hour nursery school programs. Maybe he had a better chance of adjusting. My 3yo son started in the 2 year old room. I assumed he hated it bc he turned 3 in January and the rest of the kids had just turned 2. We got notes home that he wouldn't eat lunch or snack at school. It broke my heart. I sent in his favorite snacks and made sure he had breakfast before getting to daycare and pleaded that he go into the 3yo classroom early. He started the 3yo class in January and today, I just found out from the teacher that he hardly speaks 1 word all day at school. My heart is breaking. How terribly lonely to not say one word for 8-10 hours of the day. His only reprieve is at the end of the day when the 4yo class and 3yo class merge, so he gets to see his brother. 

This is not his normal temperament at home. He is very silly and loves to make us laugh. He loves puzzles and playing pretend with transformers. He makes up funny stories. He tries any new food I set in front of him. He loves going to the zoo, museum, or aquarium. We have playdates with friends, etc. 

My boys go to daycare 2 days a week, but next year, I planned to send them full-time due to my work schedule. I feel like I can't send them in good conscience knowing that my littlest is not interacting with anyone. 

What do I do? Has anyone experienced something like this before? Do I make an appointment with the pediatrician? 

I'm angry that his teacher didn't make this a known issue earlier. I'm sad that my son doesn't feel comfortable or happy to be at school. I feel guilty for sending him to daycare. 

tl;dr my son goes to daycare 2 days a week and doesn't talk the whole time he's there which is extremely contradictory of his normal behavior. Help!",2.6596360471556286,4.478460221932117,3.817303584144317,88.3660756388955,76.02349869451697,6.5223198037819445,25.183084104755125,7.348242739294969,1.1062121845082675,1487,52,308,18,33,483,194,383,0.07400000000000001,0.805,0.121,0.9115,0,2,1,0,0,0,42,3,0,2,3,8,20,1,0,20,0,25,11,2,6,2,49,54,17,0,3,10,4,4,2,1,1,0,3,3,4,14,17,6,0,8,3,0,8,9,5,0,2,9,9,34,15,42,43,4,51,0,3,1,3,52,16,0,5,27,165,48,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298077103578939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206008421070775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762254607990162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553114640988464,0.0,0.0,0.08071225512347052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531317821685749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338199596981517,0.0,0.0,0.08082947417795949,0.0,0.10177927731939858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843173940419964,0.06519632482805912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035222945441958,0.1000621291337958,0.07050742545861206,0.0,0.09535940458211783,0.0,0.1555958713039175,0.07654474909396916,0.07298914078765005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714820925122196,0.0817512385890386,0.09010058108614437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162876182003372,0.06116980687345625,0.0,0.18308289836254185,0.0,0.17974588241497552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525196745700937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015423442471748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917027494089581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470977553232185,0.08635263392976404,0.2436676422660377,0.0,0.09168316482681843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813969648909567,0.09705628737130008,0.0,0.1788312933229345,0.0,0.0,0.0957622572376106,0.0,0.12368058410237052,0.06940751542885645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257379590035233,0.0,0.3694408899060158,0.07272258589119923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702565817734527,0.0,0.0,0.19378337641528312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601168448724399,0.0,0.0,0.07335151406435703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053214572605575015,0.0,0.08650402498111558,0.0,0.0,0.06195970405789378,0.1985298431772064,0.0,0.0,0.10977481722054996,0.0,0.0,0.07529924530954732,0.0,0.0,0.14640689968823506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188878501847623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643853259275145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753718897333673
parenting,kmo11,2018/04/06,"How do I show more interest in my toddlers activities Hey parents

I’ve been realizing lately that I’m finding it difficult to want to dedicate my time and be interested in my daughter.

She’s 3 and I love her so much, I’ve always wanted a family and I’m a great mum. We have a perfect little family and I have never regretted having a child.  She loves me ALOT and I know I’m not doing anything wrong I just don’t want to look back and wish I appreciated her more when she was little. 
I’ll be happy to spend time with her when I haven’t seen her all day or after she wakes up or when she’s being sweet but other then that i just feel as though I’m struggling. It’s mostly when her dad is at work. I get cranky with her a lot, or impatient and very often just wish I had some time to do things by myself. I always make the effort to take her places and get her outside and keep her happy but I guess I’m just not enjoying it. It seems more like I’m just waiting for time to pass until nap time or bed time. She’s very smart with her communication skills and requires a lot of attention when playing, and I find myself just replying with very short answers, the occasional question and sometimes I’m busy I’ll play later. 

Please note she is an extremely loved child, I kiss her and hug her MANY times a day, I tell her how beautiful she is and how much her mummy and daddy love her. Sometimes I just feel like a shitty mum because I struggle to show interest when she’s just being a kid. 

Has anyone else experienced similar feelings? Does this sound normal? 
Any tips would be appreciated",3.286830769230772,4.664705867692311,4.910769230769231,83.00923076923078,73.4,7.907692307692307,24.69230769230769,8.488131031819089,1.5290615384615391,1257,38,258,22,25,425,166,325,0.056,0.691,0.254,0.9967,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,5,21,25,0,2,13,0,21,7,1,4,3,72,51,35,0,8,16,5,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,9,20,0,3,11,5,1,1,5,5,0,0,4,8,48,20,22,41,11,31,0,1,2,6,40,8,0,13,24,169,57,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161236461793625,0.0,0.0,0.06588687913332336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774605106644904,0.09927277884500003,0.07973022578654969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450057112610124,0.0,0.05906177156665567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496895197499353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478697715305987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093714359309408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18267398172336494,0.0,0.146967819949663,0.06921650894476337,0.0,0.0,0.1771069919342132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123952688487704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681890274904528,0.1067325963251598,0.0,0.0,0.20627726830733767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611813584738008,0.0,0.0,0.05324688201108777,0.0,0.10929341420878466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466875854323006,0.19421362370980494,0.0,0.0,0.08136116830016359,0.0,0.0,0.16474071735912266,0.3497793070732443,0.0,0.06467321426835207,0.09822880246680604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244704366422592,0.0,0.07472567725326118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492926055674868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758219550062227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122690318900407,0.10635347178525743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853626718057086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820281709026452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164859479653398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025758774526453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284740491326945,0.0,0.08468401839051336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643678052617846,0.0,0.09519155877190104,0.0,0.3954715032360569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398272095972087,0.17144042089190314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228318787391988,0.0,0.0,0.07053531464558832,0.0,0.0,0.06882615941151128,0.10593136278751683,0.0,0.0
parenting,ERhyne,2018/04/06,"How The Nintendo Switch Made A Dad of 3 A Gamer Again Hi all! Like many of you I'm a pretty hardcore gamer that had (and still has) difficulties with juggling gaming and parent duties.

I recently started a YouTube channel that had the goal of showing you how ""gaming can make you a better parent"". I finished my first video essay (the impact of the Nintendo switch on families) and would love some thoughts from a parental POV!

https://youtu.be/qDzXnSmsERc",5.696084656084652,8.283076950617286,4.947548500881833,80.20111111111113,69.61728395061728,7.591534391534393,30.08994708994709,8.418075326091056,2.4727058201058187,367,15,60,6,7,110,56,81,0.027000000000000003,0.809,0.16399999999999998,0.9039,3,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,3,0,3,4,3,0,0,10,0,5,1,0,4,1,13,11,5,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,6,3,7,6,2,7,0,0,0,1,11,1,0,1,7,40,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19209903711284526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204760334070724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18475337100937325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061147649079416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603483509710776,0.20552340911165967,0.14498516793781036,0.2202104779095397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.723537071331657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209742666789516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144624672198503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537379090734347,0.0,0.17345916923983265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243548967593458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542952889180211,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eripie,2018/04/06,"11 yr old sons friend soft drink consumption When my sons friend has a sleepover he always asks for Diet Coke to drink. We don’t drink a lot of soft drinks in our house so don’t have it and my kids always just help themselves to water. He has told me he drinks 2-3 cans a day at home and hates water. He told me this morning that he “has a headache from drinking to much water”  (he has had about 500mls to a litre of water in the 22 something hours he has been here. 

This is not the first time this has happened and I was told that the last time he slept over the first thing he did when he got home was down a can of Diet Coke. 

Anyway is this something I should bring up with his parents. ",4.004878234398781,4.001897828767124,4.072283105022834,94.7598554033486,70.7123287671233,6.7628614916286125,23.07153729071537,5.033348758259628,-0.008603348554033108,537,10,128,1,9,165,86,146,0.02,0.916,0.064,0.7351,1,0,8,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,2,7,3,1,0,10,0,19,15,1,0,0,9,28,6,0,1,2,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,8,5,14,0,0,6,0,1,3,1,0,2,10,2,9,2,17,17,2,17,0,0,0,0,24,6,0,1,10,77,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19931637910527975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119687316549688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724170678006699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.70397370047848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037525095828159,0.0,0.0,0.1850679261882486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579096692277957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591216760616004,0.0,0.0,0.11824802552007065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027927008944193,0.0,0.24027804234873634,0.0,0.11794927088545805,0.1381984369388586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762849138388482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182412498376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804469113737326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567841074039313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299035109581006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440951155591875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956983013032068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396776372282764,0.0,0.0,0.3433359477848343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tomhanksmegafan,2018/04/06,"Need parent advice. My friend makes very unintelligent and immature decisions. How can I help her? Now I'm not talking like ""your mom"" jokes immature. She's developmentally delayed. She'll play really childish games online meant for 9-10 year olds when we're 16 in high school. She will find someone else on these online games and start dating them without ever meeting them in real life. She'll say sexual things and is very desperate when it comes to a sex life. She likes to read teen novels but centers her interests around the sex scenes and sexual tension that builds up throughout the novel. Today I saw a video of her on someone's Snapchat story giving another girl a raspberry on the stomach. She did this while laying in the schools floor. No one in the right mind would do this. She has impaired judgement. She acts like a sex crazed 10 year old. She doesn't know how to be appropriate in public. Whenever she does/says something embarrassing at school I just want to shove my head in a box. There are more people at our school with similar issues that sprout from sheltered lifestyles or just neglectful parenting. I do know her parents are absent in her life. She's very unaware about other people around her and their opinions. That may sound like a good thing but she embarrasses herself on a daily basis because of how unaware she is. She also has a strong victim mentality. I want to continue being her friend but it's hard to deal with her unintelligent way of acting around others. I'm conflicted with how I should act. I think it would benefit her to grow up and I want to help her get there. How would I push her to make better, more grown up decisions?",4.067129720853856,6.525319561904768,4.566841817186647,81.66714285714286,74.01587301587301,7.519430760810073,25.46524356869185,8.433251757073789,1.86907443897099,1342,46,241,25,29,425,185,315,0.136,0.73,0.134,0.2185,3,0,1,0,0,0,30,1,1,3,2,19,18,1,3,13,0,21,8,2,7,1,51,38,19,0,8,8,4,1,4,2,8,3,2,0,1,13,13,0,3,7,8,0,7,4,5,0,1,3,4,42,13,38,25,2,45,0,1,1,3,48,23,0,3,18,155,55,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514881129475143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778667327177569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021009071753237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600397604404381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059355832157725184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611582897178012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387561053902856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038416729154452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134011870970742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807671566716431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899439187446982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045560015008766,0.0,0.050871792414188606,0.09340615113561374,0.0,0.08166931417763408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722437094336173,0.0,0.09992968416275104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053008168073288,0.10287672310232804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016289549363378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702398210339643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632587580060024,0.1902802030355811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299904269508951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812603173748438,0.0,0.09831591628758468,0.11403853627558075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219860166195495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434681582394856,0.0,0.06598041407340395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243534982059172,0.0,0.0,0.13500815935738866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739632330850333,0.11082834696918674,0.062377698395750227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315342544312898,0.0,0.1548650223197701,0.0,0.3941744465157093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500252532585255,0.07496016275210213,0.0,0.0,0.0689189684822304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826229647931665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937656775729411,0.0623907474625881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229534981086318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24102127691246214,0.17229399961403452,0.07728775285304483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386117990520322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750650671627785,0.0,0.0,0.1254061412107456
parenting,98usglwsk,2018/04/06,"HELP My daughter is going through her first breakup I'm new to reddit in general, so I'm sorry if I mess something up here. I don't know any other forums I can go to to talk about this. My daughter recently broke up with her boyfriend and she was really upset today. She told me about how he was acting a bit off these days, how he would do things she was uncomfortable with and how he would be talking to the people who bullied her. She's extremely kind, and there's nothing wrong with that, but I feel like this makes her her an ""easy target"" to getting hurt by people, you know? From what she's told me, it sounds like she put in everything she had into this relationship while he was only putting in partial effort, if that makes sense. I'm not sure what to do. She has self harmed before, and I'm scared she might resort to it again. I've talked to her about it already, but I am still worried about her because I don't know if words are really enough in this kind of situation. Has anybody gone through anything like this?",4.98472686733556,5.377575328502417,5.270241545893722,85.6382943143813,68.66183574879227,8.108361204013377,28.000371609067262,7.882392219407189,1.5253577852099598,811,25,169,9,13,257,121,207,0.131,0.759,0.111,-0.3526,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,1,0,2,12,13,0,2,3,0,19,0,0,5,1,29,35,14,0,5,6,2,1,3,0,3,0,1,0,1,16,8,0,0,4,0,0,6,3,7,0,1,8,2,27,6,28,23,2,22,0,2,0,0,32,8,0,4,11,114,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535017690425198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957034640423879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838977405711596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029190952827774,0.0,0.11207930038131446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379807163398708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494492731644311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609624199914508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837645958395145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066598786264812,0.09409683330924268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203624854080528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881536667209788,0.0,0.14971272081469522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828542308343379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100304876931632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27432067322175685,0.21716046029564887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930470893730882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584084361834798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972822259633644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721064186262626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638357238691886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001747786695329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262843805976212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648188150584844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875930583754514,0.0,0.13005213463140786,0.14141203242140568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186914770316766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740690291594113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805256657342436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140022281085014,0.0,0.14744354928313694,0.0,0.0,0.10518733428495627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413931550878048,0.0,0.0,0.3176012701680924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750523154863868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248499028234091,0.2517176134109894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376242310683628,0.0,0.18713234019440708,0.14400908018045902,0.0,0.0
parenting,The_Advocating_Nanny,2018/04/07,"Infant & Toddler Sleep Coach “I couldn’t be more thankful for finding Ashley. My 3 month old wouldn’t sleep anywhere but being held and I was falling apart. He now sleeps only in his crib and can put himself to sleep. Ashley always made herself available and went above and beyond.”

https://www.lunababysleep.com",6.386111111111113,9.443368351851852,4.573851851851857,81.50633333333336,69.18518518518519,5.060740740740742,27.46666666666667,5.6839178017228535,1.1496488888888896,257,9,38,1,5,73,46,54,0.037000000000000005,0.914,0.049,0.1522,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,4,1,0,10,10,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,6,1,4,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757856791701256,0.21821373508010491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18407335255479296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19056685919535907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075328899168026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21133243724878886,0.0,0.0,0.15317161293063458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202459768694374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8061704130446885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854194432757468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669718192005266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ri1357,2018/04/07,"Water Any ideas on how to get my son over his fear of water? Mainly with his eyes, he freaks out like it's going to melt his eyes out. He's 5 and has always been like this. My daughter, who is 3 could care less. ",0.5792553191489347,1.8227468723404283,2.2988829787234053,99.50875,80.27659574468085,4.7,13.877659574468085,3.1291,-1.4869957446808508,161,1,41,0,4,53,37,47,0.091,0.748,0.161,0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,4,4,2,1,0,7,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,3,8,5,2,5,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,0,2,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31623889441067776,0.0,0.0,0.2584526301496397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38749469653393387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034455722066383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276711728782854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856473961647955,0.0,0.2159958513880748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290394824793084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713545088239609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IBelongInAKitchen,2018/04/07,"5 year old consistently acting out at daycare. End of my rope. So my daughter turned five in February. I got her into a real daycare in September of 2017, she is in a 'Pre-K' class. Prior she was in a private, in home daycare for about three years. 

In the last two months or so, her behaviour has become troublesome. I'm getting phone calls at work from her teachers, behaviour reports, ""write ups"" and the like. I was even told a few weeks back that if it continues, and the school can't curb/redirect her behaviour onto a better path, that I may ""have to look into other options."" Ive already had multiple talks with the school avout things I feel they are handling innapropriately, and most of those have been resolved. 

She has been throwing tantrums over not wanting to nap, friends not sharing toys, not wanting to go inside from recess, etc. It seems she has these outbursts when things don't go her way.

A few weeks ago she refused to go to sleep at nap time, ended up kicking off her shoes, screaming, and throwing things, and ended up hitting another sleeping kid with a toy she had thrown. Ive had to stop letting her wear boots, because she will kick them off and throw them if she throws a tantrum.  Yesterday when I picked her up, she was in the office. She had prevented parents from going through the gate to pick up other children, and began to scream, throw herself on the floor, and cause a huge distraction to other children. The teacher said she wasn't crying or anything, literally just screaming. The last couple konths there's at least two days a week she's causing a fucking ruckus.

I'm at my fucking wits end, I don't know what to do anymore, and I'm at the point I'm just angry when I pick her up and find out she's had a bad day, and wondering why I ever decided to have a child. I have already taken her tablet (that my uncle sent as a gift without my permission, that I haven tentatively let her use) away. She will not be getting it back for the foreseeable future. And I explained to her that she will not get it back until she is mature enough to handle having it, and until her behaviour improves. I have explained, and enforced, that throwing tantrums will not get her what she wants. Ive explained that this will not fly when she goes into kindergarten. That no one will want to be her friend if she keeps being mean to the ones she has. 

I dont know what to do, and I need some advice. I'm starting to think I may need to have her evaluated or something. 
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parenting,mommik,2018/04/07,"Parents of 2 or more: in your opinion what's the best/worst age difference? Hello.
My question is for the parents who have more than one kid. What's your kids' age difference and what are some pros and cons about it?

Backstory - I obviously know that I can't plan the age difference entirely but what I can do is avoid getting pregnant too early. Our LO is 10 months right now and when hubby did some research on papers on children's psychology we found out that particularly vulnerable age for children is from 1 to 2 and they need the most attention then in regards to their mental development and sense of security. I know-I know - the amazing parents of twins and other multiples make it all happen (they're superparents in my eyes TBH :) ) and I also acknowledge that every family is different and a lot is depending on children's personalities and traits. 

Our plan right now is to start trying again when LO is at least 1.5yo. Seen several moms burning out whose kids' age difference is very small but I've heard about some parents that have had 3 in a row and doing just fine.

I guess what I'm mostly interested in is your opinion based on your experience  :) ",5.334045454545457,6.876400995454552,6.185227272727275,75.20784090909092,68.5909090909091,9.681818181818182,31.022727272727273,9.978442167317967,3.175272727272727,929,38,169,23,16,306,131,220,0.025,0.873,0.102,0.9573,6,1,0,0,0,0,21,3,4,2,2,10,5,0,1,7,0,19,1,1,2,2,38,31,17,0,1,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,14,13,0,2,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,3,17,4,24,26,10,29,0,0,2,0,26,15,0,12,14,114,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520424521059706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493563442711154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6219095785441513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030476297920113,0.0,0.0,0.11645374784533627,0.11222974861973313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053218461718713,0.0,0.0,0.062198713497562064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311470012543337,0.0,0.10527552539437604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628030636367166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121205615722356,0.0,0.0,0.07946680212794555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997440320168873,0.0,0.0,0.13942992587593336,0.09502457741284503,0.0,0.0,0.08827406951055371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067136376853021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5287637634254077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039498715456082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333632503861019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333610592559104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344926183166289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426420559890016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082713808834646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822872124915613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sillyavocado,2018/04/07,"My kids are driving me crazy and I don't know what to do anymore To start, like everyone else here looking for advice, I love my kids. I love them so much that the fact that I'm having this problem, hurts. 
I work long hours, I get up early, I come home late. I have mountains of school work. And three beautiful little girls to tend to. I have a live in nanny, so the mornings that I work aren't really a problem. It's the off days and as soon as I come home. Even nights that i come home at 10 and 11 they are still awake. And as soon as I walk through the door, the two youngest are crying and fussing. The oldest is trying to talk over the others so she's pretty much yelling at me. The middle one wants to be seen and heard so she cries louder. Then the smallest starts trying to out cry the other two. My boyfriend is pulling on me for a kiss. I have school work that I need to do. A shower to take. Depending on when I get home, dinner to cook. Baths to give. Teeth to brush. It may not seem like much being written out, but it really is so much more difficult. I also have very bad anxiety, and when I have panic attacks, I legit feel like I'm dying. My heart feels like it's about to stop because it beats so slow. So I call the Ambulance out, and they get iffy because it's ""not a real emergency"" and ""it's all in my head."" I know that. But I don't know if one of these times that i freak out will be my last. I can't take it anymore. Then on my days off, i have to clean. and study. and cook. and try to keep up with my girls. They don't understand that what I am doing is to be able to provide for them and give them a good life. It's not their fault. I made them with their dad. Who is not around anymore. He calls but doesn't see them or even help out financially. It's all on me. 

But this is my thing.....how do I deal? Who else has difficult kids that do NOT listen, no matter how many time outs and spankings they get. I repeat myself so much, it turns into yelling because I have become so frustrated. I cry all of the time. I'm losing sleep, but so anxious that I can't focus on my school work, so I keep trying to sleep, but I can't because my thoughts are racing. They get into everything, constantly break stuff, fight about everything, they are loud and yell and cry and scream and moan all day long when I'm with them. I can't get anything done, and by the time they actually do fall asleep, I'm so drained that I go to sleep and then there goes all of my time for things i need to do. i have to force myself awake to get anything done. my grades have fallen, and i usually keep 97s and up. Always. now this semester i have 70s. missed assignments, and i never miss an assignment. i'm so tired at work that my performance is slacking. I'm a terrible mom. terrible student. terrible employee. terrible friend. terrible girlfriend. terrible everything. 
I try taking them out, but then they fuss and fight and act crazy, so I still end up getting mad and then it's a waste of time that i could have spent at home cleaning or studying. I feel like i'm losing my mind. How do I do this? how do i balance this?",0.9574731934731916,2.995627430769236,2.429062937062937,95.18863403263408,82.38461538461539,5.785547785547784,19.848484848484848,6.980632752743323,0.18978974358974326,2410,65,551,30,66,781,261,650,0.193,0.735,0.07200000000000001,-0.9982,2,0,0,0,4,1,94,0,0,17,10,33,35,5,1,22,0,54,15,7,5,7,93,110,67,1,7,15,2,3,5,2,2,2,7,10,5,39,43,3,4,9,3,1,10,16,25,0,5,8,14,86,10,70,95,11,80,0,5,3,3,44,30,0,6,44,366,125,13,0.057241488725159474,0.0,0.05585943581173768,0.0,0.0,0.05593572029413127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04577599785272976,0.047629504139387865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043789582197902494,0.06466658911744337,0.1703045267055118,0.0,0.0,0.09420973585975688,0.05095706086574306,0.0,0.06512045707448871,0.0,0.0,0.04779425210692679,0.13957552092226974,0.06321872706157146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689991994099805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792542208678305,0.0,0.0618577139004752,0.0,0.0457026709647104,0.0,0.3143854375567435,0.11074807427255123,0.05901346141030405,0.0,0.0,0.059407628031142065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715583357247154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563583752493196,0.0,0.05069896883650441,0.0,0.0,0.07561492689126048,0.0,0.0,0.054696695506998405,0.1543348773410201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682904984120722,0.12267999294793253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04422463219540607,0.0,0.2392505224285974,0.10982250377228303,0.03253165717313345,0.04801144493862596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05874628160191062,0.0,0.0,0.0678314397463366,0.0383677632936773,0.0,0.2870894018852362,0.0,0.05637133597444417,0.0,0.061278197576912476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263659579937516,0.0,0.0,0.0943752756272729,0.04665945323073311,0.06457089254573263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04043135631851615,0.13982650005917474,0.05737100958126715,0.05054528325700427,0.10131383247432683,0.048068433891809606,0.12807716815538478,0.0,0.0,0.10332535686277387,0.0541632806730415,0.0,0.05803388516039532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779758589823725,0.06704053977198657,0.0,0.0,0.21039540251549566,0.08488767717087146,0.044148164930688,0.0,0.0,0.053717259523772605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757662836308014,0.0,0.0,0.06716055365124222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823517272015012,0.0,0.10954474815613142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515334592594457,0.07334072685885111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379432770128272,0.04561405543342358,0.052110501495419535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184848353122506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103164067998693,0.0,0.09142625367551538,0.04785644767842952,0.0,0.0,0.06552780968411659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911542719045516,0.0460085403682275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760574032214517,0.0,0.0,0.04544334811143973,0.200267834396994,0.06579067072641151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19431606707190216,0.06226230242570278,0.11183323394172154,0.059590408492415176,0.0,0.0,0.06304341281414952,0.04723022301191733,0.03376251312593263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500349132085388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reservoirpuppies,2018/04/07,"Is it normal that I think stay at home mum’s are lazy? Women started the feminist movement so they had equal rights to men and the main issue they fought for was the right to work for a living, I feel that stay at home mum’s are hypocrites as their ancestors fought so they could work in the future yet they aren’t taking on the responsibilities which comes with having equal rights, it’s also lazy in my opinion because for 5 days a week at least 6 hours a day the school looks after and feeds their children, so they basically have 6 hours to put their feet up and watch crap on the lower class ITV channel watching chavtastic shows like Loose Women, Judge Rinder and Jeremy Kyle, also lazy stay at home mum’s use ridiculous excuses like I cook, clean and iron clothes and act as if mother’s who work don’t feed their children or look after them. I think it should be illegal to be a stay at home mum, they could work for at least four hours of the six hours their offspring and being educated at the tax payers expense (I think education should be privatised) or they could do volunteer work such as picking up litter. My parents paid a lot of money for my education which is why I work Monday to Saturday from 9:30AM to 19:00PM as a solicitor. Do you see my point?",8.106566265060241,6.694142598393576,7.6197690763052215,77.39061746987953,62.77510040160642,10.548995983935743,32.798192771084345,9.2995712137729,2.605363855421686,1013,30,201,14,12,319,136,249,0.103,0.866,0.031,-0.9429,3,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,1,13,6,7,6,4,0,15,0,21,5,2,2,0,26,35,19,0,7,3,6,1,2,0,2,0,0,5,5,8,9,3,0,4,3,4,4,2,4,0,2,5,6,24,2,34,21,6,39,0,0,5,0,29,17,1,5,16,127,32,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545444536865227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924948720347304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372533469179687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328081429117789,0.0,0.0,0.12536613996614462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04914497559899364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38998012788159137,0.0,0.3828720368604526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014468712864164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949696436305762,0.0,0.08582542536809451,0.0,0.16323951592341718,0.0,0.0,0.08263215584419528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523097359591652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792412327899613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188118330759017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770834375610796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490133304993043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836705583837464,0.07745224594809101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879548972228525,0.414389970609871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307893533711314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868368949950918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394572291735719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796438385810317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770383951859373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4245569794096212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Transitsphere,2018/04/07,"Do we need a new subreddit for the minority of parents here who actually love their children, enjoy being with them, and work to shape them into healthy adults? ...because sometimes this place flabbergasts me. I know, I know - if you post on r/parenting then above all else you are *incapable* of being a bad parent, no matter the transgression. Now the person you are posting *about* may be a bad parent, but you, no you are a brave special soul who just needs a little counseling and words of encouragement. And don't worry - it's perfectly fine to hate your kids! All parents do! Or something. ",3.2479969418960266,6.0795923853211065,4.191032110091744,81.19339831804281,79.27522935779818,7.303058103975537,26.5145259938838,8.344100000000001,2.249788379204894,466,19,81,10,12,150,80,109,0.145,0.657,0.198,0.7042,5,0,1,0,0,0,23,1,6,3,2,4,10,1,0,8,0,10,1,0,0,3,20,16,7,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,13,7,10,12,2,10,1,0,0,1,22,5,0,3,3,59,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.1360837801142637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328710413891444,0.08500786045590883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649317698668528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767870875340302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327693009013124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397662496825638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585971321775274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20680187378663248,0.0,0.1346823678188425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7742175708644298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176298393573792,0.1456963147636566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671104710912944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735597199699216,0.13792032113910124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152178008813692,0.1416189683931419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wittybologna,2018/04/07,"My 17 month old might have autism For a few months my husband and I have expressed mild concerns to each other regarding our youngest child, 17 months old. My husband has been much more concerned, but not me. Figured she was just a ""in her own time"" kid. I'm in a local mom's Facebook group and a few weeks ago someone linked an assessment form for a clinical study of autism diagnosis before 18 months (at our local, renowned hospital) and I filled it out for the fun of it. Got a call from the coordinator asking me to bring my daughter in for an assessment based on my responses. I said sure, but told her I was afraid we'd be wasting their time. They assured me that it was no problem.

My daughter had a 2 hour assessment this morning. Despite usually being the parent to handle things like this, I asked my husband to bring her because I was SURE they'd say she was fine.  Apparently she isn't fine. They did the Mullen Scales of Early Learning and she scored less than the 10%tile in fine motor, receptive (1% here), and expressive language. They didn't give her an autism diagnosis but said she was at high risk for a diagnosis and recommended we enroll in an intensive, in-home, 12 week therapy program and then follow up with early intervention.

I'm beside myself. On one hand, she's young, and this was only a 2 hour assessment in a new environment with people who don't know her. It could be wrong. But on the other hand, she DOES have shitty communication skills, is delayed in speech, and tends to get fixated on certain toys. Despite autism being so commonplace and therapies at our disposal I'm freaking out. Don't know exactly what I'm looking for in this post. Maybe just need to write this all out.",4.879759371833842,6.328748550151977,5.5015387537993945,80.03532738095241,69.5775075987842,8.766008105369808,30.42565856129685,9.188382445141503,2.6188874366767987,1359,55,257,27,24,439,180,329,0.08,0.809,0.111,0.8537,2,0,0,0,0,0,42,5,0,5,1,4,14,0,2,20,0,27,3,2,0,6,41,47,16,0,3,7,7,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,2,15,17,0,1,5,1,0,4,6,5,0,1,15,7,39,9,38,24,9,47,0,0,1,0,44,22,0,1,21,168,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117112357804436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356278263533519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682207292069697,0.0,0.1072357630722639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286829397417369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061861559454624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028303365785166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584149197107529,0.12089214981796605,0.0,0.0,0.1007916093479244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314956318038562,0.0,0.0,0.248213317306697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851720814161675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061568169047487326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582705933590718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660641889032387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336898296284097,0.0,0.14759588790285375,0.4023594443655425,0.0,0.092640949343695,0.09344399766662498,0.0,0.12171319953497388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644785763364361,0.0,0.08539602591731364,0.09584569848915146,0.0,0.0,0.13993293882812435,0.0,0.0,0.08736805033313409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069460387548675,0.0,0.0,0.12058639760501152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397522837119103,0.10021805444409336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067783532964252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375492027620109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28823514811620743,0.0,0.08372366927709544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469693260065176,0.0,0.0,0.12041978430013825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879584684696553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20217510276150816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377856887930838,0.0,0.0
parenting,rocking_moose,2018/04/07,"Bubble gum conundrum We’ve just learned that our son (6) gets one or two large pieces of Bubblegum from his best friends grandparents every day after school. He already gets more sugar than I’d like (and we’re not anti-sugar parents) so I’d like to reach out and ask them to stop. I should also note that these grandparents also give my son all kinds of other small gifts and toys, all of which are causing drama with my other two kids - and yes we’ve had lots of discussions about how everything doesn’t need to be fair. 

Unfortunately, the parents don’t know this is happening and they’d be unhappy with the grandparents if they knew. We’ve already mentioned to the grandparents that our son doesn’t need gifts and candy and asked them to tone it down but then they’ve made a big deal of it which resulted in teasing.  I really don’t want to start a family feud, but not sure what more I can do. They’re very generous, which is wonderful, and my son continues to accept the gifts with a thank you, but it’s causing problems...  Any thoughts or suggestions on how to handle it? ",6.491856240126381,6.398176791469197,6.422950236966827,80.331044628752,65.44549763033174,10.25608214849921,30.85347551342812,9.928628108626363,2.7104783570300146,857,28,170,17,12,271,126,211,0.057,0.799,0.145,0.9582,6,0,0,0,0,0,22,2,1,4,1,7,11,2,0,7,1,14,1,0,6,3,43,30,20,0,6,9,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,15,12,1,1,6,2,0,0,6,3,0,3,4,1,14,8,24,22,7,12,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,5,8,106,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203214372118339,0.23212973750590735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869716949387584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713643458772864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231083425191272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981884347006828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360044060965243,0.14962840734308508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228298354474285,0.0,0.13043849850612274,0.0,0.13682090556899254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121313870190459,0.0,0.1516546978073949,0.13922727066987006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834291171331547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113636972247205,0.07976271767607179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418118240023048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123389077746684,0.0,0.1373307924989575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21523238316459256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834762333554056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223117659697421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388751465147861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297756724500507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688495267434368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272770864129116,0.0,0.0,0.12133984138694835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678856402238965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362134002360646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152214365969198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835527400499964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975205112266107,0.08560472384104602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739334254270498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theorymeltfool,2018/04/07,"Why is it okay to joke about child abuse? http://archive.is/DS0E6

This thread received thousands of upvotes. But unfortunately, many parents still beat their children, and an overwhelming majority of them are black parents.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2017/04/it_s_time_for_black_america_to_stop_spanking_its_kids_says_author_stacey.html

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/03/10/opinion/sunday/stop-beating-black-children.html

Black children are twice as likely to get hit by their parents than white or latino kids. Why is this form of abuse still acceptable and joked about?",22.920476190476194,30.19345620634921,10.23198412698413,40.406071428571465,34.55555555555556,8.009523809523811,34.3095238095238,8.841846274778883,3.4239333333333337,523,15,46,6,6,116,47,63,0.147,0.738,0.115,-0.6662,3,0,0,0,2,0,39,0,0,3,1,4,6,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,6,5,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,3,5,10,5,2,3,0,1,3,0,11,0,0,1,3,30,6,0,0.0,0.4762420761354649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500049292375256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818562588525613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037558450871277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6694727191028935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32099580321597504,0.1680230595045671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626951116788534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KaterTot95,2018/04/07,"8 year old isn't taking responsibility for his actions. I've noticed this at home, and just received an email from his teacher telling me that she's noticed the same behavior. I'll be going in discuss this issue with her and would like to have some strategies to break this habit that he seems to be forming.

He's technically my girlfriend's son, but her and I have been together for almost four years and I've known her son and been actively involved in his life since he was two. He's always been very sweet, even a little overly sensitive at times, but usually very empathetic and interested in sharing and making others happy. 

This last year, however, he's become much more interested in being a ""cool boy"" in his class rather than being a nice boy. At our last parent-teacher conference his teacher mentioned that he'd been using ""unkind words"" with his classmates. Just recently we've caught him multiple times berating his friends or blatantly telling them ""no"" when they ask to do something besides what he wants to do and then bullying them if they get upset. The other day when I picked him up from school he seemed like he was in a strange mood and I finally got him to admit that something had happened at school, and he told me that someone tattled on him for making another kid cry but he says he didn't, he just went over to make sure that kid was okay and then the kid ""blamed him for no reason.""

Between the bullying and the lying, I don't know what to do. This behavior used to be so out of character for him, but it's been pretty consistent for the last year or so. His mom and I have sat down and tried to talk with him about how completely unacceptable bullying is and how to deal with his emotions appropriately, but he usually just pouts and puts his head down and nods and acts like he's being punished and never really owns up to anything. We've taken away privileges when we catch him in the act of bullying, but then he just sobs for an hour and doesn't actually care much about whose feelings he hurt but instead just wails about how much he wants his Xbox back.

We're at our wits end. It doesn't feel like we can communicate with him like we used to. He's very distant and doesn't really engage in the ""big boy"" conversations we attempt to have with him. Seems like it's time to try some new strategies, and any advice would be much appreciated. ",7.514155844155844,6.779765101731602,7.420963203463208,76.14430194805199,63.56709956709956,10.816883116883119,33.96861471861472,10.125756701596842,3.1557212121212133,1895,68,368,36,24,607,224,462,0.131,0.727,0.142,0.3092,2,0,2,0,0,0,41,6,0,4,1,21,25,1,1,14,2,34,2,1,11,3,82,61,43,0,6,17,3,2,6,2,2,1,1,1,6,19,33,0,0,10,1,0,9,9,5,0,2,16,5,44,19,59,35,10,61,0,2,0,0,81,24,1,9,33,237,63,3,0.0,0.0,0.08554823863432114,0.0,0.0,0.08566506765360979,0.0,0.0,0.08778367471528542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294417007510384,0.0,0.0,0.059615097773237966,0.0919242290224125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214069429710668,0.0,0.08195479209081573,0.0,0.08236400350727326,0.06740885120476596,0.0,0.0,0.096818928981823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938014756168983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191491749076117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629571099108138,0.0565365698649425,0.09037860132316547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861114632618403,0.07764502848107745,0.0,0.0,0.05790180043897824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865195489671246,0.06262777965115819,0.0,0.0960325478694688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677296383966107,0.0,0.045801260988136513,0.0,0.04982194915818235,0.0,0.07011358137489652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752172903769146,0.0933208529550677,0.0,0.0,0.08996941777745718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793498289039986,0.0,0.08633220926774743,0.0,0.09384702500502594,0.0,0.0,0.09149931756075737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048178303768004686,0.21437563671333806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192026948326045,0.25697167801220056,0.08786320067555813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17555088551617531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102672001806765,0.0,0.0,0.2577749787895648,0.0,0.06761252944778669,0.08466724933954184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19961400415618774,0.09198950341129444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734143106780503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918665898389662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881273780088756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232068336818353,0.09013405671014288,0.08655845414150125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971459986559339,0.0,0.17744299780839762,0.0,0.2394203353024675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251726205966069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427813496938207,0.13497735444307435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262307480825554,0.0,0.06591305011796755,0.07046167820067502,0.15324586936241152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335422063261067,0.0,0.0,0.08376751200122691,0.0,0.11903734461175335,0.0,0.08563581108067622,0.0,0.0,0.2271428264375981,0.1931008734826357,0.21699802353499734,0.10341398862409436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126618552596172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454917509056845,0.0,0.0,0.22581313260377564
parenting,msira,2018/04/07,"RIE parenting: do you practice it or plan to with your future kids? Have you read the books by Magda Gerber
and/or Janet Lansbury? What are your thoughts about this type of parenting style? If you implement this parenting style, how do you think it has helped you and your child? I just started reading up on it and I’m intrigued and want to learn more. ",3.109594882729212,5.768258253731343,2.7607675906183395,92.31701492537312,78.40298507462687,6.216631130063965,24.49680170575693,7.447530270364453,1.132059275053305,281,10,55,4,7,83,50,67,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.3094,3,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,12,10,6,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,8,9,1,4,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,2,37,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051336832774632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7977176119947874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790746076517212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16949986746831974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344430799025574,0.0,0.19011441500056267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124708452697993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2dayistmrsyesterday,2018/04/07,"How to educate someone on vaccinations Not looking for reasons to vaccinate based on what the diseases could do. Articles & studies about the SAFETY OF VACCINES ONLY PLEASE. 

What articles would you send to an anti-vaxxer to help educate them about vaccines?


Any studies from medical journals would be great. 

Thanks!",6.092327044025158,9.694244679245283,5.666320754716983,70.1710534591195,73.90566037735849,8.816352201257864,39.02201257861636,9.2995712137729,4.9753295597484275,260,16,34,7,6,80,41,53,0.0,0.7390000000000001,0.261,0.9482,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,2,0,6,7,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,11,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31170010022933753,0.0,0.1956315999463304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968829047336026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31716713743598945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19282518448464436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415779247315035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28980634937440425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187928596027271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157851778515003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957819475685613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437495018520782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648561926328879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40871784673817424,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sknabcv2,2018/04/07,"So can O the Owl fly or not? Just watched an episode with my little girl where O and Katarina were wearing fake wings. Can O the Owl fly already? Why would they have him put on fake wings? Come on PBS, would it kill you to be consistent?",1.0604081632653075,3.1395293265306137,1.7177142857142869,100.20228571428574,82.26530612244899,5.5526530612244915,22.044897959183675,6.742157984588678,0.20519265306122408,183,6,44,2,5,56,39,49,0.21600000000000005,0.784,0.0,-0.9163,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,7,1,1,0,0,8,8,3,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,4,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,0,25,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893852932184328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039541398088251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3903828067348419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35365434057049744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35471766924381826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183975937144537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5013174576681173,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsMcFeely5,2018/04/07,"SAHM returning to work? I am currently a stay at home mom for my 4-year-old son and have been since he was 6 months old. I wasn’t planning on doing that, but my husband and I changed our minds after he was born. 

So, I had an interview yesterday and it went really well. The manager called me a couple of hours later and wanted to know when I could start and what hours I would prefer (not an offer yet, but they plan to decide by Monday and I feel pretty sure of an offer). 

I’m incredibly torn, so I can use all the advice I can get! On one hand, I could cry when I think about being away from my son. He’s in preschool 9 hours a week right now (with a 3 hour, 5 day a week preschool planned for the next school year). I enjoy the “me” time, but 40 hours plus commute is a huge difference. 

I think the job is well suited for me; the type of work I’d enjoy. It’s a fairly typical corporate type job (so medical, 401k, 2 weeks vacation plus sick time). I’m guessing they’ll offer about 40k (in the Kansas City area) which is not bad, not amazing. 

My husband was the one who suggested I start job hunting, but now that I might get a job, he is panicking and said it might be better to wait until our son enters kindergarten (which would be fall of 2019). Not that I fault him; it’s one thing to make logical plans, but the reality of change is way harder! 

Are you still reading? What a kind Redditor! Well, more pros and cons: 

Pros:
*talking to adults and doing something more mentally challenging than legos. 
*we could use the money (we’re doing fine; I have no problem buying clothes at thrift stores, budget groceries, and old cars, but we should start saving at some point, plus deferred maintaince on the house). 
*I have fears about my resume getting too dusty and how hard it would be to find a good job (turning down a bird in the hand!) Plus, what if the economy tanks again!?
*Maybe if I had less time with my son, it would be more quality time? I enjoy him, but sometimes I am super excited to pass him off to dad and get away! 

Cons: 
*My baby! I would miss him so much. Could another caregiver be good enough?
*Finding time to take care of all the stuff I do now. How do working parents do it all? I don’t even do it all now. :)
*My husbands feelings. I clearly am more interested in going back to work than he is; and I really care about making him happy too.

My husband also suggested part time work, but I’m not that interested because it doesn’t seem like enough money to make it worth my while.

Anyway, any feedback would be appreciated. ",2.6623571069584706,4.387357736738707,3.8634467949010833,88.446951615114,75.75834970530451,7.013862109928267,23.42856490153973,7.82057824672937,1.0567747155845937,1964,59,413,29,43,640,254,509,0.052000000000000005,0.741,0.208,0.9983,9,0,1,0,0,0,88,4,1,2,12,28,28,0,1,28,0,52,4,2,7,6,80,84,38,0,16,15,11,5,1,0,10,2,1,1,1,22,21,0,1,11,1,7,6,9,5,3,3,9,6,51,23,51,54,14,68,0,1,0,0,39,18,0,7,43,274,73,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487920231861455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05309505643990643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04515002550763656,0.06961963395445292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475822394554045,0.05105269411638766,0.05543600646968895,0.04047301265195319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05871987484307676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779544016775271,0.0,0.13538570238152706,0.0,0.14047156417573053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21204002168407712,0.07346341954263523,0.07293041477615572,0.04281847496461442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936733566928102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372049800951554,0.0,0.043852444504947685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471142527416197,0.06714134798727535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136536604245085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875197251288274,0.0,0.03773309714073672,0.11137585190295488,0.0,0.0,0.07314019892831687,0.0,0.0,0.0706773795346718,0.05947575731679596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659834284961025,0.0,0.3269223398237246,0.07660947121565184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294277517743668,0.0,0.0,0.06913887179433875,0.03648826765854228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03243663168772952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295502741759568,0.0,0.06670144398285359,0.0,0.0,0.06688471632455625,0.06690928219899075,0.14086654942450366,0.0670387589415322,0.07775955544228849,0.052994856371716456,0.0,0.04880704428201083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061050442040202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090072102835291,0.0,0.134970366171158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372240019430454,0.07189795926592117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276355239521038,0.0,0.0,0.06754631089226347,0.0,0.06352985034599623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641171528088388,0.0,0.08506707039882143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056699898184731076,0.0631556585437605,0.0,0.0,0.06719401776102721,0.0,0.06044237477711554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492159459658656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051113151061490766,0.0656651146433634,0.0,0.14098151008625887,0.07076690160093367,0.05302213306859914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600495711212862,0.0,0.0,0.06257532193106198,0.0,0.04991983583474585,0.053364779844402216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04410905612268248,0.08508486595582153,0.0,0.0,0.23228837096277824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221733258566368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468576239466255,0.0,0.0,0.03916075288498764,0.052700266938388717,0.15977117996588067,0.0,0.17908785957346793,0.06154766974235574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416771971391482,0.0,0.0,0.28298528270561746,0.0,0.0,0.0855107940592582
parenting,throwawaycdjfeehuwi,2018/04/07,"I'm a regretful parent also guilty of leaving the kids at daycare because I don't want them around. I hate myself. I wish I wasn't like this. So I read the thread about the father leaving the kids at Daycare until the last possible second and am now feeling terrible because I'm also guilty of leaving my kids at daycare for as long as possible simply to avoid having them around and so they are someone else's problem. Firstly, the centre charges by half day blocks rather than by the hour, so it makes no difference whether I pick them up when I finish at 2pm or at closing time 6:30pm because I am into the second block and pay for it in full whether I use it all or whether I use 1/3 of it. I figure since I am paying for that time and childcare, I might as well let the diapers and the tantrums and the supervision be someone else's problem. I don't play video games but use the time to read and just enjoy the silence or get things done around the home or go shopping or run errands without having to take the kids with me.

I love my kids dearly, but to be completely honest, if I had my time over again, I would not have children. It took having kids to realise that I am an introvert and that I can't stand having anyone, but let alone small children around me all the time, and my kids are so clingy. I knew there would be sacrifices, but I didn't realise just how much of myself I would have to give up, just how much having them would impact my career, just how much of my social life would be lost, and just how much I would find myself wishing I didn't become a parent. I love them and there are nice moments but I'd take it all back in a heartbeat if I could. 

They are 2.5 (twins) and I really don't enjoy having them around. They are very demanding and old enough to get into stuff and cause trouble, but still a bit too young to understand rules and reason. They need to be supervised every second. They are loud and never quiet. One of them always needs to be the centre of attention and it wears me down. I like having them around for about half an hour when I come home and then I just want them to go away. I love the, but I find them so suffocating. So I let them stay at daycare even though I am finished with work. 

I don't want to feel this way, but I do. I never thought I'd be this parent. I thought I'd be that parent who is a pinterest parent and loves spending their weekends at the park and taking their kids to do things, but I found myself being the parent who fantasises for their old life back. I thought I'd be the parent who relished family holidays at the beach, but I am the parent who spends 90% of my time dreaming of my old relaxing holidays to the Greek Islands or Japan, without the demands of children. I dream constantly of being free again. I don't want to feel this way, but I do and I know I am not alone. Those few hours where I can leave them at childcare are what keeps me sane.

I don't know where I am going with this but I wish I wasn't a regretful parent. But I am. I've tried all sorts of therapy and they have all had the same conclusion - it is not PPD, it is just good old fashioned regret and wishing I made a different decision but being unable to take it back and coping as best as I can. Yeah.",5.135045677875019,4.943740435628745,5.698682634730543,84.71304544756643,68.29640718562874,8.527928757868878,28.50545063718717,7.969615865706242,1.6321293106095496,2553,76,540,28,39,827,256,668,0.087,0.7859999999999999,0.128,0.9934,10,3,0,0,0,0,57,0,0,21,5,45,28,2,1,35,1,71,7,1,12,7,140,118,71,0,25,38,10,3,2,0,7,2,2,2,11,28,37,0,4,18,13,6,6,19,11,1,7,15,5,91,18,73,80,15,75,1,4,0,4,53,29,0,10,38,412,119,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487537082986492,0.0,0.08097800950974117,0.042128436517671744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03540185861097444,0.0,0.0,0.27043002138260536,0.0,0.0,0.04756880076262236,0.11679464606089512,0.0,0.09259121912208056,0.05591715004941597,0.0,0.0,0.05313333964449137,0.0,0.05527513642913992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201122906597055,0.0,0.043613490323807576,0.05308486973735791,0.05471332990488618,0.0,0.04042414690671997,0.0,0.0,0.032652332489763444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579570197557073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05181233970952921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845901796120451,0.0,0.0,0.0523145982314965,0.0,0.03344081263164498,0.0,0.042658182061286805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04772970801302578,0.0,0.07680054999984863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255029022016542,0.0430660776791554,0.0,0.05551347245007784,0.0,0.0,0.05290444771614677,0.04856916381957796,0.08632303939311768,0.042466264278110365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04998690482763607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157256818650527,0.0,0.14958183747194298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045002505992847684,0.0,0.0,0.05565013927034118,0.04127042363547639,0.0,0.21444056147779805,0.0,0.15531862928928625,0.07152330719224928,0.049470780245724176,0.0,0.0,0.04480619142355367,0.0,0.0,0.05526891529747747,0.0,0.1827831641715299,0.047907581081367764,0.033796095143608235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371071029848399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887628193725666,0.07508340016221786,0.07809836349382136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21251178542519591,0.0,0.03430837799281609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059702599332309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415603325767665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968926519796272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128793285417058,0.0,0.032435044322432036,0.05205634504147278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0418818785376582,0.0,0.0,0.051611179309235,0.08579771873439089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396512608759762,0.04043339515718716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057959540421427126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522706335391511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790012067986205,0.0,0.06727299687892721,0.0,0.049743978454119264,0.1205843252405431,0.17713748862962214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625208751990842,0.03437462658458608,0.0,0.0,0.05270789160197847,0.0,0.13118487925996547,0.0,0.041775271185903434,0.1194521687011787,0.08037589567557603,0.0,0.0,0.045522688827704084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328892250090056,0.09761153773472503,0.0,0.03685943603878016,0.0,0.0,0.215797726291038,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poohbear1025,2018/04/07,"My baby is sick for the first time and I’m a first time mom. My baby is 5 months old and she’s sick for the first time 😭 puffy eyes, chest congestion and coughing/sneezing. We were up all night off and on and had a couple steam showers at 1 and 4 A.M. The nose suckers for boogers are awesome. I need advice and support please, I have no idea what I’m doing and I’m so tired and working 9 hrs of overtime while she’s at Grammys today. ",0.8283924349881815,2.6339174893617034,2.4173758865248267,96.33388888888894,81.55319148936171,4.6033096926713934,22.14657210401891,5.033348758259628,-0.11847612293144215,340,11,78,1,9,111,64,94,0.165,0.74,0.095,-0.7745,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,5,0,7,7,3,0,1,13,12,11,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,10,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,2,7,1,9,10,1,16,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,11,45,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461413563852576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316867895037905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5343227811710277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363765750484845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452358175787085,0.16713363207727766,0.0,0.0,0.15526052582630676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964989557393846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197202809017578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229848072678054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23761404664042185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662921440527126,0.2406637682142433,0.19847786817329235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243889884256634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,desparatedad,2018/04/07,"I hate my kid I hate my daughter. There, I've said it. I love her but just can't stand her. She's 8 and her sister is 9. She has monumental tantrums several times a day every day. The first comes when it is time to get up. NOT when it is time to wake up. That she does fine and enjoys reading. When she has to get up, she makes the choice of having a tantrum. A major, great big, f*** **f tantrum. This morning was the wirst for a long time. I can't stand it and I can't stand her. We have tried talking to her about it, we have tried being nice and supportive and we have tried to understand what is behind it all. It appears, though, that she just makes that choice. I can't stand it, and I can't stand her anymore.

Injust neede to get that off my chest. I don't like my own daughter.",-1.040504658385096,1.0430269940476222,0.7444099378882001,102.73537267080744,94.53571428571428,3.8741200828157347,15.63768115942029,5.511479884284512,-1.0123439958592133,597,14,149,4,23,192,83,168,0.103,0.774,0.123,0.6581,0,0,0,0,0,0,30,3,0,0,1,8,12,5,0,7,0,18,3,2,2,1,20,32,11,0,1,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,14,10,0,0,1,1,0,2,7,5,0,1,2,1,27,7,14,29,3,23,0,0,0,1,22,5,0,1,12,98,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698773267407011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475543589310787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094053708429973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990027501950867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443223337661295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570233742918284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684816719345737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888519137845708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382341400346221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368545157452588,0.0,0.0,0.15158953806631428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459925594398985,0.0,0.2286797555648373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270121113335202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134005887615122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16293953871666972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935131291202795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438206579349326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767939108003466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682951948349857,0.0,0.3995309460956296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488915437534974,0.0,0.0,0.17832278724303993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Virusrl1,2018/04/07,"Daughter (7) admits she doesn't have many people to play with at school. What can I do help? My daughter has always been very shy, top of the class and, I assumed, plenty of social interaction with friends. Over the past year or so she speaks less of her friends she met in nursery and more of a few others but last week she said she didn't have anyone to play with. We do have kids on our street and young family members she happily plays with. 

I know she struggles with new people or just playing with anyone like other kids would but didn't know she felt like this. We moved house not long ago and she begged us not to swap her school but now she said she wouldn't mind it...which seems unlike her.

Few things I have considered, but wanted other people opinion on:

Talking to the teacher, see what she thinks.

Too much technology? We have an iPad and Nintendo, PC the works. While we're usually pretty cautious about her playing games she will always prefer go out. I work in the video game industry so it's hard to avoid but would reducing time sat behind a screen help her socially? 

Letting her play out on her own? We don't let her play out often, when she does she doesn't go out of sight. She still seems young to me but I was out at a younger age when I was a kid.

As I said she is a clever kid more into books and crafts sort of thing than imaginary play or sports. I think this might have something to do with it as her hobbies aren't what the stereotypical kids are. I also feel like a lot of the other kids are quite old for their age.

Thanks",2.6998148148148147,4.51907342356688,3.1506510969568318,93.18761382401512,75.9108280254777,6.180514272234018,20.865298419438545,6.937597516519254,0.2471173861759848,1221,29,265,12,27,378,167,314,0.034,0.7829999999999999,0.183,0.9936,0,1,1,0,0,0,31,6,0,1,4,11,17,0,2,14,0,30,0,0,0,0,57,49,23,0,5,12,2,3,3,2,5,0,4,0,6,13,23,0,1,11,14,0,3,9,2,0,0,11,10,45,15,41,31,8,38,0,0,3,0,57,16,0,11,22,179,58,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004406143098634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061228449836492,0.18856249484627666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15845503260203606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915650445690537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068166013880576,0.0,0.057291877373861176,0.08094718443945813,0.10879335041657454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508280069471893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879097838385878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150162000194536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189579020505353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074210042358092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454211414843905,0.09236105926698476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317300035777225,0.0,0.1660695455885124,0.0,0.0,0.10027392347970346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633032231804313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487642343957324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020177308976795,0.11440867577761495,0.0,0.0,0.12042836297026267,0.08329434185669084,0.0,0.0,0.10943347323575024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188975777299572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816520898637937,0.23566028748698015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527486643341385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205168960761914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233452726126663,0.0,0.0,0.22934728248538666,0.09029172408987893,0.2063025082291613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23100626410442746,0.0,0.08722995503043987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048783311417713,0.0,0.0,0.1184540159937158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107259578726433,0.0,0.10431868839694576,0.0,0.0,0.1505534643085462,0.14520625077817004,0.0,0.0,0.06607074608776918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362954491651856,0.0,0.12479264080800212,0.09349088179891783,0.06683193350779906,0.0,0.0908887605515172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649789973853808,0.0,0.0,0.16098135849611206,0.0,0.0,0.07296657088733148
parenting,redditingonthereddit,2018/04/07,"Would you say that most bad behavior seen in children or teenagers is due to bad parenting? Would you say that most bad behavior seen in children or teenagers is due to bad parenting? 

Or is at least a result of the parent not doing something preventative prior to that point in the kid’s life?",7.752619047619048,7.39353521428572,7.282857142857143,76.09547619047622,62.92857142857143,11.038095238095238,36.52380952380953,10.504223727775694,3.720530952380953,236,10,44,5,3,74,32,56,0.239,0.7609999999999999,0.0,-0.9494,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,1,0,10,8,3,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,2,0,8,4,3,8,0,0,2,0,10,5,0,5,3,29,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6225102520798351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165251418444834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6208909089706003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761984552599915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964490440452423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349185023492295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26481170345528343,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jintoku,2018/04/07,"My 9-year old always chews his clothes - does this mean he has psychological problems? He can't stop chewing. He has been doing this for years. He does it all the time, and it seems to have nothing to do with teeth falling out or growing in. Our other kids don't do it either. We have bought him chewing toys but he resorts back to his clothes and destroys them, one after another. 

Is this a nervous affliction or ""normal""? If nervous, what kind of psychologist do we need to see for it? What else could we try? 

Thanks!",2.190954545454545,4.757991750000006,2.9414545454545475,90.1657272727273,81.5,5.236363636363637,25.09090909090909,6.574015621080383,0.8782000000000001,405,16,80,4,11,127,71,100,0.139,0.8009999999999999,0.06,-0.8684,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,0,1,6,1,2,2,0,13,4,1,0,1,20,19,6,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,7,3,1,2,1,1,2,2,4,0,1,2,1,9,2,11,16,2,10,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,4,6,55,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887723872300291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378909258817285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444752266364555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113567329084101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39706750954848535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951914029475575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23624815718413256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471258093501253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821978052786205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22228251518215114,0.2176860075771272,0.0,0.2380598496243873,0.0,0.15373165849573792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21708207960162715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180784458939801,0.20653214734833836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18967184386736774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20886961489824427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228858130271573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402851035763418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921911652817249
parenting,coo_coo_mf,2018/04/07,"Weight gain related to puberty? My son is 10 years old and overweight. He is on the 85th percentile for weight and the 30th percentile for height.

He came to me tonight and said his arms are too skinny for his body. He has a great attitude and wants to eat healthier, more veggies, more exercise, everything. I didn't prompt him or push him - this was of his own accord.

I have no brothers and only one son so I am not as familiar with boys' growth spurts. His dad is a stocky man (built like a fridge) and had chest hair by the time he was 11. I too had an early puberty and my 1st period around 11. I recall gaining quite a bit of weight right before beginning puberty but not sure if the same applies to boys.

Wondering if my son's weight is just chubbiness, or if some of it can be related to puberty?",3.10497849976111,4.708711136645967,4.1915527950310585,87.06958432871477,74.27950310559007,8.680554228380316,26.04921165790731,9.265573868473778,2.069496512183469,627,22,133,15,13,204,105,161,0.037000000000000005,0.897,0.067,0.5813,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,9,0,15,12,5,0,1,24,20,15,0,4,9,5,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,10,7,0,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,7,6,15,3,16,12,6,14,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,7,8,83,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013211621266958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394798995048465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718556645928135,0.17485182005555028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004004339300386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107414517398666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147383829823226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354984059707027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690468415173342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16517984611793338,0.0,0.1066680153492768,0.11972068170364546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742950301047674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443096691761985,0.149737063313512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483611311781741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178955433778364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284704283593463,0.0,0.0,0.7667529234614311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707091123182449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136965934072127
parenting,nerdylady86,2018/04/07,"Educational tablet for 6 year old? My son (who we affectionately call Wreck It Ralph) seems to be outgrowing his Leappad 2.  He’s only allowed to use it in the car (we take many 3-4 hour trips a year) and it’s held up great despite being thrown, stepped on, etc.  

I love that it’s durable, educational, and none of the games require a wifi signal, they’re all cartridges.

Any recommendations for a next step? ",4.112573839662447,5.620321797468356,5.22854430379747,81.02779535864978,71.53164556962025,7.79831223628692,28.356540084388186,8.344100000000001,1.78937805907173,318,12,66,5,6,105,65,79,0.036000000000000004,0.815,0.149,0.8738,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,0,2,1,0,2,1,10,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,8,4,3,12,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,1,5,31,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586762053533254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790912520081391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30482511159561665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013373154613202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691660822765275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466828311394405,0.0,0.0,0.27710454680355906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906799341497584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868043625177048,0.0,0.0,0.20787290098141828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24882113028767014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20550334135579396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23606154731818546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520194649545205
parenting,Cricket518,2018/04/07,3.5 won't stop touching themself My 3.5 year old boy won't stop touching his junk. We are constantly asking him to stop touching himself. Does anyone have any experience with this? Is this normal boy behavior? How do we get him to stop?,2.1020000000000003,4.949599533333334,3.068333333333332,86.4225,87.0,5.666666666666668,25.277777777777786,7.1686216300943375,1.5041111111111107,189,8,34,3,6,60,32,45,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.7263,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,8,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,3,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,7,19,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15747582243070773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619194177726061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164870774133412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502453506735769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026488298462871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265202998034925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098598361618587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268898386985856,0.0,0.0,0.2429941951917591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7744129406753444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912375430338326
parenting,detoxified-meatbag,2018/04/07,"To cut or not to cut...that is the penis. First time poster.  My husband (28) and I (29F) are expecting our first baby this June.  It's a boy! He wants to circumcise him for mainly aesthetic reasons and I don't think it needs to happen.  BUT I've never had a penis and never been with a guy with an uncut penis. 

Is there an uncut man out there that can lend an ear and advice?  Is it really that much harder to clean? Do you think it looks uglier?  Were you ever self conscious about it?  Any other experiences you feel are important for expectant moms to know? 

Thank you!! ",0.7377443609022549,3.1566768596491244,2.8015037593984964,89.4805263157895,87.42105263157896,5.713283208020051,16.037593984962403,7.1686216300943375,0.14569624060150366,438,9,89,7,14,147,77,114,0.05,0.857,0.093,0.7172,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,4,0,2,4,2,1,0,7,0,11,1,1,1,3,23,20,6,0,4,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,9,7,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,3,9,1,12,17,2,8,0,0,1,0,13,1,0,1,7,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22023789739428715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326555089669064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038683447956092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22046405602321756,0.0,0.0,0.1139584703609488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834147805013393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231607930200642,0.19930203843026306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386248692166295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926172320121468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26396133708337216,0.0,0.0,0.1656796080493098,0.1671157843010674,0.3476525900452584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438365495095615,0.2317273035226841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23511960730145376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20749884110448394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888277184136788,0.0,0.0,0.13142039508734954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329344623167851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fuzzheadmama,2018/04/07,"17 month old not talking, how concerned should I be As in the title, my 17 month old isn't really talking yet. She can make some animal sounds (she meows to our cats a lot), and she says ""mama"" while pointing at me. At 15 months old she had a few words then completely stopped after her 15 month appointment.

She is super affectionate and seems to understand everything we say, and can complete basic requests. 

I brought it up to the pediatrician when we went in for an unrelated reason, and she didn't seem too concerned. However I was just reading that someone's 15 month old was in speech language therapy for not talking yet and I'm worried I should be more on the ball.",6.04223076923077,6.531059030769232,6.6321153846153855,76.45663461538463,66.38461538461539,9.884615384615383,33.94230769230769,9.827888789773867,3.2586153846153856,534,23,100,11,8,175,87,130,0.035,0.912,0.053,0.5279,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,3,0,22,19,10,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,7,0,1,4,2,0,2,4,0,0,0,6,4,16,2,14,9,4,26,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,4,16,69,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692878815919921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541391314984065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091764813746784,0.0,0.0,0.08572008288172395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5125105348089369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390127996321541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139661849049052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284528576790338,0.0,0.08226792698318879,0.1320352008867688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042464642991821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23381404115795976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880824440994298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736328672773963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096528274311455,0.0,0.0,0.14685729586361013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368777716608524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904487074988518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041482012068564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nhughes1387,2018/04/07,"Stayed with my ex for 2 years to be able to see my kid everyday... We broke up about 7 months ago and I stopped loving her / having feelings for her I guess 2 years and seven months ago, I kind of regret leaving just for my child, I know you shouldn’t stay in a relationship if you don’t love the person... but my kid means more than anything to me, so she was worth it, my ex got a boyfriend (now husband) and my daughter called me by his name for the first time yesterday, I’m just venting... I have her 4/7 days out of the week, I could get full custody but I don’t want to divide her mother and I.

Was just wondering if anybody has or is in the same boat? How do you cope with not seeing your kid everyday? I’ll be watching a movie and there’s a father / daughter on and I’ll just start tearing up 😭",2.77556862745098,3.4856698705882363,3.886764705882353,92.42877450980394,73.82352941176471,6.843137254901961,24.75490196078432,6.816661863887847,0.6469607843137251,618,18,145,5,12,201,108,170,0.035,0.904,0.062,0.638,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,4,0,1,9,5,0,0,8,0,13,2,0,1,0,33,27,13,0,6,10,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,10,0,1,4,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,3,4,27,3,21,20,3,25,0,2,3,2,28,7,0,5,16,95,28,0,0.17178144796458786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045477778422647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413614949469093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540806468912376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371535082160847,0.0,0.0,0.11078482281254104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685786154589217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611721188408505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897487165436971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738931647119815,0.0,0.1892366317446812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888394361370233,0.09440659132836493,0.0,0.0,0.18189175011147715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100789271670994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871203562905399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742286257494476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999293444334968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442898770170768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737751468174677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158779302359572,0.3661923345626358,0.0,0.14361698236245968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016714373796212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132114871336192,0.0,0.13779271585998276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862896526116246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22124324082638228
parenting,sambooka,2018/04/08,Kid friendly/safe headphones? I am looking for headphones for my very small 7 yo (she wears 5-6 clothes). Not worried about a good fit so much as headphones that are lightweight and cant get loud enough to cause hearing damage (as a teen when the sony walkman came out I can confirm that my hearing is shot :/  ),5.145499999999998,6.040107216666666,4.420000000000002,90.09000000000002,68.5,6.0,35.0,3.1291,1.6110000000000002,243,12,48,0,4,72,51,60,0.133,0.795,0.073,-0.56,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,1,0,5,10,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,5,1,7,9,2,5,0,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,1,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32419238814884993,0.0,0.2911822179721628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292880614800474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809142855517404,0.0,0.0,0.23774521855286326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6389396691676036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380274189979251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083690712391864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23387672890542485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878582107871681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tronny8616,2018/04/08,Almost 1 year old won’t eat solids My almost 1 year old daughter has one tooth. She doesn’t want anything to do with chunks or solid foods. She will eat yogurt melts and puffs but won’t eat anything else that’s chunky. I tried 3rd foods and she hated all of them. She would spit the chunks out right away. Anyone else have this happen? Any tips on how to help her eat solids? ,0.9537518037518068,3.3440060779220815,1.0791341991342025,102.56409812409812,85.62337662337663,3.4222222222222225,12.451659451659452,3.1291,-1.7845111111111114,296,3,67,0,9,87,57,77,0.07400000000000001,0.8440000000000001,0.081,-0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,8,8,2,1,1,12,11,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,8,0,7,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,4,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960331298557945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052007983095892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335651879415683,0.15145515747297758,0.2432802635798512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388781788002896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6050114697098994,0.2469629231885346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574798537694749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071337098436947,0.0,0.0,0.145937887754789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907807809747153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31021645763917866,0.0,0.10016407764851896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623422086378255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003574918953698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718582020675962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500438220034493,0.0,0.0,0.19037756343662512
parenting,CodenamePeaches,2018/04/08,"2 month old Baby stays awake for 5-6 hours at a time. Help. My baby is a Premie who is now 2 months old.
He’s very healthy, he eats just as much as he supposed to but he just won’t sleep he fights it at all costs from what I’ve read and been told by his doctors he should be getting around 17 hours asleep a day. 
He’s getting more like around 12. Also the longest he should be awake straight is 1 hour 45 minutes but theirs been times where he reaches 6 straight hours awake. 
He’s extremely alert and always wants to look around and see everything that’s going on around him this is the problem we can’t get him to just relax stop looking around and sleep. If we try and lay him in the crib he instantly just lets out blood curdling screams and won’t stop until you pick him back up. He always has to be held and never sleeps in his own crib. When he does sleep he sleeps on my chest or my wife’s chest nowhere else. Any ideas? Thanks so much",3.2153840631730084,4.011998366834169,3.2952799712849945,96.75423366834171,72.86934673366835,6.28872936109117,23.25951184493897,5.773587663045528,0.07444264178032968,741,18,176,3,14,225,122,199,0.075,0.8079999999999999,0.118,0.7891,0,0,0,0,1,0,13,2,1,1,0,15,6,1,0,6,0,16,11,9,1,2,34,27,17,0,5,8,1,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,0,5,15,1,3,1,2,1,1,4,3,0,0,4,4,13,3,23,15,5,36,0,0,3,0,29,16,0,2,19,90,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036431169622074,0.16723665222585396,0.0,0.0,0.06833876760437653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4473009125560397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727300615161417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480974876272608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285896650051836,0.08794220645685448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282954981735187,0.08394910670117083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031673635409423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751052237948818,0.0,0.057112555917781874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735841998113924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958619213114509,0.0,0.0,0.11344450032982692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276102373968116,0.0,0.049095862291408464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877782179466816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042529912641998,0.0,0.14774801206173005,0.0,0.07750648928987569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090124919625736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615834387516654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052031478964983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008000569149241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5028284742678623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711229480413068,0.0,0.16803349608134618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252056314973883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719669274413122,0.0,0.0,0.09602548262561947,0.0,0.06822823188689417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291734842838379,0.059273445818251926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spinachleaves,2018/04/08,"Tantrum tips? Hey everyone!

I have a 2.5 year old daughter and just gave birth to a son on March 8.  Since he was born, my daughter has been throwing TERRIBLE tantrums. Sometimes I think they’re related to him, other times it’s likely the terrible twos. 

She repeats herself and is completely inconsolable. She doesn’t listen to any reasoning and doesn’t seem to know what she wants. I think this is normal for her age? She also will throw herself around the room/house and sometimes hit. These have been happening anywhere between once to six times daily and can last anywhere from 20 minutes to two hours..

Anyway, my husband and I have conflicting parenting views. I’m pretty laid back and try to be respectful of my daughters feelings. I respond to every question she asks while she’s in these tantrums and let her know that I’m there for her, ask her if she needs a hug, etc. my husband prefers the hands off approach where he lets her freak out on her own & ignores her, but if she exceeds a certain amount of time or becomes a danger to herself he will yell at her and try to knock some sense into her toddler brain. 

I don’t really know what I’m getting at.. I guess I’m looking for advice on how to react properly when a toddler is having a meltdown. Any advice? Solidarity? Something? I’m going crazy over here. ",4.390472440944883,6.175959582677168,4.693708661417325,84.03111417322836,71.28346456692913,7.2847244094488195,31.20393700787401,7.908726449838941,2.2173770078740147,1050,47,194,14,20,330,158,254,0.097,0.856,0.047,-0.8902,1,0,1,0,0,0,32,0,0,0,0,10,12,4,0,10,0,20,3,2,3,1,37,44,17,0,6,5,7,2,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,8,12,0,2,10,0,0,4,3,8,0,2,4,6,32,4,29,34,4,31,0,0,2,1,38,12,0,7,16,127,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624117662010941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737468278756228,0.0,0.14548015068173795,0.0,0.1826147288201796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952766740003208,0.2510463404774793,0.0,0.0,0.10324439229859178,0.0,0.0,0.14828930188061254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498883469847949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077824543667491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974516521836234,0.0,0.0,0.11312722539997115,0.12829955883182587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789032186285146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014988792592006,0.0,0.07630803332254671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791218214139762,0.0,0.11873342537940584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222768705207136,0.15492812743524784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213718052868812,0.10944696401396528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745978182126908,0.0,0.0655969363571334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275194607079828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955858786649882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155488165247706,0.0,0.0,0.1408924823343799,0.142991852569386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908957379413454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659960440451951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041174554821227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601600894876811,0.1380506527574166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223324079079127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106850982765372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336665500510382,0.265590483476374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720680060368478,0.0,0.0,0.2348795897372989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823193554796792,0.0,0.131161073301251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919519632692705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864646824268598
parenting,joemoe112,2018/04/08,"Teenage Tattoos Let me give a little background info. I have 2 sons one is 19 and the other just turned 17. My 19 year old is in the marines and is currently living and training in Texas and my 17 year old is a junior in high school. My 19 year old will soon be deploying to Europe, so my 17 year old and his cousin (19) will be flying from our home in California to stay the weekend  2 weeks from now. My 19 year old got his first tattoo when he first moved to Texas at 18, my younger son has been asking for my permission to get one on the upcoming trip. In all fairness he has had the he same idea for a tattoo since he was 14 years old. My father in law got a tattoo of a flying pig on his inner forearm when he was 18 and in his 60s decided to cover it with a different tattoo he felt was more meaningful. My 17 year old wants to replicate his grandpas old tattoo in the same spot as he liked the tattoo and knows it will remind him of his grandfather when he grows older. The boys have been talking over the phone and my 19 year old asked the same artist who did his tattoo if his underage brother could come in to get it done. The tattoo artist agreed as long as they bring in a form of consent with a legal gardians signature on it. When he first asked me I told him absolutely not but I’ve thought on it and I do trust his judgment and don’t think he will regret the tattoo later in life. My only major concern is the location of the tattoo being on the forearm and the negative effect it might have when applying for jobs in the future.  I would love to hear other parents opinions, thoughts or other things to consider.",6.468622151563331,5.289963327327328,6.8614237767178965,80.75834658187603,65.87687687687688,9.757216039568982,30.99964670552906,8.671277953709913,2.197870658894188,1280,38,266,16,17,418,164,333,0.026,0.92,0.054000000000000006,0.7541,4,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,1,4,9,4,0,0,25,0,31,4,2,1,1,40,51,23,0,5,5,7,1,1,0,6,1,1,1,1,11,14,0,0,10,3,0,5,3,1,0,5,14,2,30,3,42,26,7,62,0,1,0,1,41,22,0,4,35,175,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21728928102508294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673886015933952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185841737127565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094610758259484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928502095863857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438927298922872,0.0,0.0,0.1977035716128955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095620212280137,0.07432220187251179,0.0,0.0,0.12392954130258207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732127427303614,0.0,0.0,0.08185782723551767,0.0777149154297764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746116538450703,0.0,0.0,0.07688314385593191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042578876799773915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792246328931512,0.05472371004243302,0.037850943140298535,0.07765147595924464,0.06841287745032197,0.06856397232800246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992526820575473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218997280556048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234490742621678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7316838667327147,0.0,0.1049997156456162,0.058924118418348936,0.0,0.0,0.08602811798663304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841002019340311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408908835735644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825792885802421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062272410619908174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051471724664416185,0.049643601320849,0.0,0.12301484945578706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403180050710904,0.0,0.0,0.0842718250082064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04569745234495722,0.0,0.06214671020269823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055036848196559233,0.0,0.0,0.39913690607316177
parenting,maybeex,2018/04/08,"Transporting breastmilk! We are traveling to Europe for 2 weeks. My wife will leave me with the baby for 4 days and join a company meeting in UK and then we will take a week together for holidays. 

Our 10 month old is still on breastmilk (food+breastmilk) we are planning to bring frozen breastmilk with us but until we leave from home and arrive to my inlaws is almost 22 hours. I am planning to put the frozen milks into a freezer bag but I am not sure if it will defreeze in 22 hours. Does anybody has any experience? 

Thanks.",2.6537803780378013,5.311251821782182,3.295859585958599,87.78674167416744,80.2871287128713,6.0489648964896485,25.023402340234018,7.348242739294969,1.339011881188119,418,16,78,6,11,131,71,101,0.048,0.877,0.075,0.5717,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,0,1,16,13,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,10,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,15,10,0,18,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,10,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20378823644384306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839538706984664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312486393937045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780950422289047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990741441231485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460879598150768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413949567588266,0.0,0.4008373705483888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4309804197541868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244162827846315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135519928088445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458613751471816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252523773339975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918079957275956,0.0,0.15301597120126406,0.0,0.0,0.18736684312416954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448003175145292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264906873676706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankpidge89,2018/04/08,"Worries about spotting early on in pregnancy [TLDR: wife 7 weeks prego, has light spotting and mild pressure, wondering if anyone had similar during pregnancy, but still had healthy baby in the end] 
Hi everyone, hopefully im allowed to post here. At this point, most of you have had a successful pregnancy that resulted in birth. 

My wife is 7 weeks pregnant and she had had some pink spotting and light cramps/pressure. Its on and off. Nothing this morning but now she has a bit of spotting again. We saw a clinic doctor on Saturday morning but he said we shouldn't worry too much about it, that everything should be fine. But then i made the mistake of reading up online and on Reddit, and of course, most of what we find, is horror stories of how the spotting ended up in miscarriage. Im pretty worried. I guess im wondering if any of you guys on this subreddit have had spotting like this early on, and then everything ended up A-ok. Any tips or comments would be great. Thanks",4.518666666666668,6.495601551351356,5.102162162162164,80.44963963963964,71.32432432432431,8.176576576576577,31.25225225225225,8.841846274778883,2.8059441441441444,777,35,136,15,15,249,109,185,0.07,0.763,0.16699999999999998,0.9726,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,2,0,1,8,8,0,1,6,0,17,2,0,4,0,33,25,17,0,7,7,2,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,9,10,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,9,5,10,6,25,11,5,31,0,0,2,0,14,16,0,10,15,93,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949942606405248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228223771175166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440860304979053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508529711327594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506805801634623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261108417890059,0.237227022199037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062569900978748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550644975494018,0.14538888496998706,0.13067918404606493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108414819877626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276773645974559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447789016657066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488097967193447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701917482883762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663665832547782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247620738417506,0.0,0.12639864937966652,0.13426929333466978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320139318064356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554150671946876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539797428127264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150781003722315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21172992914921945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862494922356553,0.0,0.40209085607842104,0.0,0.0937535384515647,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashwst8,2018/04/08,"Best place to get crib bedding? cribs? #newauntie Were looking for crib bedding that doesn't cost and arm and a leg? What are your favorite stores? Suggestions on cribs that they can grow with into a toddler bed, etc?",2.8230000000000004,5.784145300000002,1.9850000000000032,95.08,83.5,4.2,25.5,5.6839178017228535,0.6000999999999999,172,7,32,1,5,49,34,40,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.189,0.8466,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,5,5,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994576409245857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5307861288209319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486530192485673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399660108456088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4972440287230971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bgb3,2018/04/08,Best small animal for pet? My kids keep asking for a cat. I would be fine with one but husband hates cats plus I am allergic to them. We already have a dog but he is older (12) and we will definitely get another one when that time comes. Until then I am thinking of a small furry hamster type pet they can take care of.   Any suggestions? My kids are 7 years old (triplets),0.7602666666666664,3.1489522266666685,2.449333333333332,92.34466666666668,86.73333333333332,6.0,20.333333333333336,7.3871296695380915,0.6615333333333333,287,9,62,5,9,94,61,75,0.08199999999999999,0.767,0.151,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,2,1,1,4,1,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,11,17,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,1,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,9,3,8,14,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,7,38,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976269245120584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834091109867335,0.2828099215281357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521384031886438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830394716185292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749829156786469,0.0,0.0,0.23232756192787404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409100860969571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662785216386573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397268005916859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830107417579469,0.0,0.3655190975815952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278510605726766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281650949170746,0.0,0.0,0.15726755091066272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19159117682221527,0.0,0.0,0.17368161525762082
parenting,WhitestTrash,2018/04/08,"Toy Purge My 2 and 5 year old have wayyyyy to many toys. How do I decide what to throw away, what to donate, and what to keep? They barely play with most of it. 

They are not gonna be happy I’m getting rid of anything but it’s out of control, their bedrooms are over run, the family room, the den. What is a normal or good amount of toys for them to have?

(We didn’t buy half of the stuff. They are the first great grand children, and grand children so they get a ton every holiday. Easter they ended up with 6 baskets full of toys. We always ask for other stuff like books or clothes but that normally just means they get toys/clothes/books.)",1.0538311688311701,3.2442253787878776,1.943203463203464,97.92409090909092,83.0909090909091,4.680519480519481,18.51948051948052,5.773587663045528,-0.4542246753246753,498,12,112,3,14,155,90,132,0.014,0.799,0.187,0.9781,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,8,2,3,7,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,2,0,22,17,9,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,10,8,0,2,2,7,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,12,7,19,14,4,12,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,5,72,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060912189961496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884002179142442,0.0,0.1804487895279229,0.0,0.18134979486119174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164897168889658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095951371270285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262870709249433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196323258475253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418375547377226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025368703883724,0.0,0.0,0.16189704579241354,0.0,0.21280658210874795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20547468334487284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156613366749449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430042071014992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569322638247352,0.0,0.21025670025611387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782396366428324,0.0,0.0,0.20254330608817475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4419262456552759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429934052149845
parenting,deejayv2,2018/04/08,"What age can I start leaving my child with parents for over a week so I can go on vacation? Just had first child who is around ~3 months and what a ride it's been so far. 

At what age can I start going on a vacation with my spouse without my child? My child will be staying with my parents so it's not bad. I assume anytime within first year will be difficult but should get a bit easier after 1/2 years old?",0.8185917312661495,2.9129977325581438,2.406434108527133,94.82913436692509,83.30232558139534,5.682687338501292,20.020671834625325,6.937597516519254,0.2423400516795864,319,9,72,4,9,104,55,86,0.022,0.901,0.078,0.6754,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,16,5,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,2,0,9,0,12,9,1,23,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,12,51,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192872991732512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809017285311685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23653618508044946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36858111544110106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131957064692872,0.0,0.24626530409711397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22941124895952245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293563752912788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273478197270053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.481149724733809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30670558107973195,0.2309303219632849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737912743353642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088521372100705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790433770125682
parenting,superdupercooper112,2018/04/08,"Cloth vs Disposable? I have barley 1 week old twins, and we’ve gone through probably close to 200 diapers since they were born, which will obviously increase.  I may be exaggerating only a little. 

I’m thinking about cloth diapers but am wondering if it’s really worth it? I’m taking out probably 4 bags of diapers a day, but if that’s just going to turn into four loads of dirty diapers in the laundry every day... then are you even saving any money? ",5.147241379310344,6.286358379310348,6.883390804597702,71.53818965517243,68.65517241379311,10.857471264367817,30.59195402298851,10.864195022040775,3.6775609195402312,357,14,64,11,6,124,70,87,0.07,0.8759999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.3183,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,15,15,6,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,9,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,4,6,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999661137844524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224359484424253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511102447199172,0.0,0.21062096246987452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207076471427488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505480480217275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623144882155348,0.0,0.0,0.1901228877976122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390466382011231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014513330945265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678803318375305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795566197498031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601786347787608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719090783299015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052081096861976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710952606138008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ComeWatchTVSummer,2018/04/08,"Son (4.5 yo) withholds poop, we have tried everything, help? Hi,

So my son is 4.5 yo and is a very high functioning autistic boy.  It's been over maybe 1.5 years we have been trying to potty train him.

Most likely, at the start he had a bad experience with poop - probably with hurting - and it has exacerbated over time. 

Basically when he has to poop, he runs off and hides, where he withholds it. Then it builds up over time and he won't poop for like 5 days. Then we try to sit him on the potty and have to hold him down so he lets it out. He screams out of fear and maybe pain. If we didn't do this, he'd get very sick - I need to clarify why we do it.

We have tried everything, a list too long to type. We are seeing 3 doctors , he's taking laxatives , we have changed his diet , he has a rewards system.

He holds it in so much that I can feel it when I touch his stomach, all compacted.  He will with hold and the poop will now seep out. Then he doesn't tell us about the little bit and we can't smell it, and he won't let us check. So he will get these awful butt rashes. 

I'm well past the end of my rope and so is my wife I'm sure. Every time we mention pooping or he gets anxiety, but how can we address this without intervening?! It's insane. It's driving us mad and more to the point my son is suffering.

He's only getting better at holding it in. I wish I could type more but I'm just to tired. 
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parenting,miha222,2018/04/08,"Teaching a newborn to sleep on their own during naps. Anyone been successful? She sleeps at night but soooo hard to get her down for naps!! Help (going back to work soon and need to fix this) My LO (little one) is 10 weeks and does not fall asleep on her own. We always have to hold/rock her to sleep and as she is getting bigger and I am soon going to work we need to break this habit. I have tried putting her down while drowsy (when I see her yawn) but she doesn’t go to sleep. She will just lay in her bed and eventually cry to get picked up. She DOES sleep at night, but that’s because when she wakes up to eat she is still half asleep so when I put her down it’s just a continuation of her sleep. The only way I get her to sleep in her bed is at night. During the day no matter how much of a deep sleep she is in as soon as we put her down she will wake up within 5 minutes. I have tried white noise (makes no difference) and swaddling (she will wake up trying to bust out). I can’t keep holding her to keep her asleep and need to start doing something different. What can I do? How can I teach her to fall asleep on her own? Does anyone have any success stories to share? I read an interesting view on why babies like to be held to sleep: “They are hard-wired to know that only your arms provide that safe place. After all, babies who were put down in a jungle to sleep were often eaten by wild animals. The babies who protested until they were held by their parents were more likely to survive and pass their genes on to us.” (Just thought I would share that)",2.9871852425180583,4.082058362229105,3.504570433436534,93.90729940660476,73.73684210526315,6.250206398348813,20.57907636738906,6.21433560688645,-0.0962836945304444,1213,23,278,7,24,379,161,323,0.04,0.87,0.091,0.9574,2,0,1,0,0,0,36,4,1,5,5,15,9,1,0,8,0,27,21,18,4,1,38,47,22,0,4,7,1,1,2,0,4,1,0,2,1,10,12,2,6,2,3,0,10,5,1,0,2,9,4,47,8,56,33,6,57,0,0,3,0,42,27,0,1,20,186,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613529717257419,0.0,0.0,0.05014195657230665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311368804236196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056697243080188135,0.0,0.044947838233256536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099383443067595,0.04755262235244933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407361982895934,0.0,0.0,0.1935765503949485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544875335096468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409283387638648,0.0,0.12571496672905128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210317411578984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049422649659505664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107713962318698,0.0,0.0,0.040522527102977504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720458586302658,0.07390129274526577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04921832000379378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05420330702575812,0.16401948807046673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20758436798553134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04996437368536934,0.11215674837337558,0.0,0.0,0.08187338428687706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703680991447967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964939638452451,0.0,0.0,0.07375440669337482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05875681269142071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7378770324340379,0.0,0.0,0.0567643843382887,0.0,0.0,0.052189625415588116,0.0,0.058884429494886724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058536919545600814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018256080135206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869346839938719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852697681702771,0.05914533068573333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653387526510386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073591200644467,0.0,0.0,0.05237883993969921,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cnstarz,2018/04/08,"Need a new list of things for my kids to memorize before they can watch TV/play xbox Quick Backstory:  My wife and I make our kids (9yo & 10yo boys) memorize lists before they can have any electronic time (we're believers in them earning their rewards).  When we first started this, we started with the presidents starting from George Washington and going to Donald Trump.  We started with them memorizing the first five presidents, and then every day after that they want to watch TV or play video games we have them add the next president onto that last.  So, anyways, they can say all the presidents from George Washing to Donald Trump.  Right now, we're working on the 50 states -- in the order that they joined the union -- and their capitals.  They're up to Washington state now (state #42 that joined the Union) and they can tell us each of their capitals.  I also reward them $50 at the end of each list that they memorize.



Anyways, I'm looking for ideas for a new list for them to memorize after they finish up this list of states.  I was thinking of the period table of elements, but I want to see if there are better ideas than that.",9.014372093023256,7.409025065116283,8.107558139534884,75.22924418604654,61.139534883720934,11.948837209302326,34.988372093023266,10.793553405168565,3.5036604651162797,899,29,170,18,10,279,114,215,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.8176,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,6,0,16,7,9,4,0,0,12,0,8,1,0,1,1,30,21,12,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,9,14,0,0,8,5,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,5,28,4,31,20,3,36,0,0,4,0,29,8,0,2,22,112,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126423553982785,0.0,0.17128914568739334,0.0,0.10750580317301704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690438452070748,0.17811193832343378,0.0,0.13981669414907166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195419581625742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400197510536874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319662993158204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689405002301305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984550659078283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569260187460152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886346952611658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275477394375873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552549969214356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722083996739052,0.0,0.30536629084532524,0.16812922927105015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135006969002638,0.0,0.12571855673112067,0.0,0.0,0.1259763035207607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475842572685312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381765767743911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502717224092416,0.1012969178821612,0.0,0.0,0.09218284894760263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901613580380892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18648973702345173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509052716992695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,luckeeyou,2018/04/08,"3 year old pushing me to the limit I have a 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. After making it out of the tantruming twos, I thought I had survived the worst... nope. I’m really not sure how to discipline this kid. She’s defiant, sneaky, and just plain mean. I don’t like the personality she is developing, but can’t make any headway to getting her to become a better person. I am so tired of yelling. My throat is sore. The ONLY time she responds is if I’m using scary mom voice, which is really effecting everyone in the house. Spanking seems to get her to realize that she’s messed up or that I’m serious. I don’t want to b come that either. We try to positively reinforce but before we can get the praise out of our mouth she’s acting out again. I’m at the end of my rope. I love my daughter but I don’t like being around her and these issues are causing major disruption in my relationship. I really need some advice other than “yeah, 3 year olds are assholes.”",2.3434069871603462,4.0908924060913705,4.383218871304866,84.2770020901762,76.71573604060914,7.680979396834878,23.77097641086891,8.4952907291091,1.5265630934607346,752,24,156,15,17,258,123,197,0.14300000000000002,0.713,0.14400000000000002,0.333,0,0,0,0,1,0,24,3,0,0,5,6,10,1,0,11,1,15,5,2,6,1,34,32,10,0,3,8,2,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,3,8,10,0,2,5,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,2,2,25,6,22,29,4,23,1,0,0,1,20,8,0,4,14,98,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802680089247534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890950122593894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663154512392528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469629316701113,0.1114845151589638,0.0,0.0,0.11587253628746827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458897748285456,0.0,0.1128582264359551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604081889986807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519089605583478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053505267116436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511742618171808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674611171167192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801508151452815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824657679077236,0.0,0.1749076870505068,0.0,0.0,0.14271425524703446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344373491535634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714631085675082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499147860388904,0.0,0.0,0.0996431686594581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287953096686373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517955946261238,0.0,0.0,0.14066158352619784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192715632207759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234805298978234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040116485486852,0.07639617411047345,0.1505830095220285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895090399625531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131553004859504,0.0,0.0,0.07727631865423347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374786684774361
parenting,littleredteacupwolf,2018/04/08,"Parents of reddit, what’s some of your favorite learning books for toddlers? My LO doesn’t really like sitting still for books very long, but his pediatrician is concerned that he’s not as verbal as he should be and recommended more reading and interacting. 
We do a lot of playing all day, I talk to him constantly and he has a great understanding of what I’m saying because he’ll either as I ask or signal in baby sign that he wants something. Food, milk, diaper change, time to play with trucks, he knows how to communicate, he just doesn’t use words.
Any suggestions?",6.170952380952379,7.107539481481485,6.597513227513229,75.24166666666669,66.22222222222223,9.504761904761905,31.16931216931217,9.606745405546679,2.8456756613756613,456,17,83,9,7,148,83,108,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9469,1,0,1,0,0,0,13,1,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,2,1,22,14,9,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,5,2,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,7,4,14,11,5,7,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,3,6,48,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262282371256306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22356282559965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577700737957902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529775139740957,0.0,0.0,0.2584244674472771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422496947722733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891680116953184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26365175918829703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314246238467419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683131022574472,0.0,0.0,0.2116306241477462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330755523540944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26553572795739905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392038663354778,0.0,0.15319866420531594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017305192148293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841010024027676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19097683560379053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19221099185488008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944396257011007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489522908071743,0.0,0.2065394461083261,0.0,0.19731484498293275,0.1410504676634003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_lindseyg,2018/04/08,"Grandparents who try to parent grandchild... This is a long one- sorry everyone. 

TL;DR- my parents think I’m crazy for choosing to not discipline my young child with physical force. 

So due to some unforeseen circumstances my husband, almost 2 year old and I are living with my parents. Long story short we tried to buy a house, told our landlord we would be out on 12/1 for new tenants, staying in my parents house for a few days until we close. 12/3 rolls around and we lost our financing. Shit. We’ve been here since then. Obviously we’re miserable and while I of course love my parents to the moon and back, they’re making me insane. We’re moving into a rental unit a family member owns on 5/1 and it can’t come soon enough... 

Now, on to the point of this post...

I am a pretty relaxed parent. My son is very free spirited and wild. I allow him to test his own boundaries and let him learn for himself if he should or shouldn’t do something. He’s very high energy and loves to play, explore, and is always into things. Very strong-willed and if he wants it he wants it NOW. It’s exhausting but I wouldn’t change him for anything. My parents think he’s bad. He’s not even two. How can he be bad- he doesn’t know any better yet. We’re working on that obviously. 

We (my parents and I) got into an argument the other day because my son hit my husband and my husband gently smacked the back of his hand in return and told him not to hit people. My husband and I have since discussed this and agreed that it’s stupid to do that- “here let me hit you to tell you not to hit me”... makes no sense. My dad was PISSED about this. Said it’s bull shit and is completely different. “You have to show the child who’s boss...” “instill a sense of fear into them...” I argued and said “how is it different...” “why would I hit my kid to tell him not to hit me...” etc etc. I don’t want my kid to fear me?? That’s fucking stupid. I’ll go on record to say that I don’t have problems with a parent who chooses to spank- I personally wouldn’t do it but I also won’t talk down to someone for the way they choose to parent their child. What I don’t condone is child abuse, obviously. 

My question is- what are your opinions on this argument I had with my dad? Mostly just trying to spark a discussion but also curious if I’m in the wrong here- which I don’t think I am. 
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parenting,helpmeraisethiskid,2018/04/08,"Please help, my kids school is screwing him up Throwaway because I don't want people recognizing this story somehow. 

My kid (7 yo) is in 2nd grade and he has a horrible class. It's starting to influence his behaviour as well and I feel like all our parenting efforts is one step forward two steps back, with the two steps back being caused by school. 

My kid has always been a very gentle kid. Always very empathic, even as a little toddler, never violent, just very sweet natured. A bit shy. Don't get me wrong, he's far from perfect and has many issues that need work, but being violent and disrespecting adults has never been one of them. 

He has a new class, and there are 4-5 kids that have huge behavioural issues. Like throwing chairs through the classroom, biting the teachers, using foul language, hurting each other to the point where doctors need to be visited, big issues. Because of this the days in school are mostly spend getting these kids under control, there's hardly any time left for learning. School results of all kids are suffering. 

We've already had many talks at school about this, as did some of the other parents, and things are changing. More help for those kids, more help within the classroom, and many other things were agreed upon and I'm hopeful things will change long term. 

However, at home my kid is starting to copy the behaviour of those kids. Like yesterday he kicked a three  year old in the playground because he was irritated with him, today he told his little brother he'll 'stab him with a knife' because he didn't listen to him. Similar incidents occured over the last months. He seems so angry and volatile all the time. Maybe I have an overly positive image of my kid but it just doesn't seem like him.  

There are clear consequences for him (in the playground we made him apologize and then left,  today he lost the right to use knifes) and we've had many talks with him on how we notice his behaviour changing and how sad that makes us, also because we know he can do much better. Sometimes that helps for a little while, but it keeps on being an uphill battle. Behaving this way seems to be his new 'normal'. How do I stop this? I feel so lost on what to do, everything I try seems to fail..",6.727375886524823,7.040270276595745,6.267901654846338,80.26120000000002,64.91016548463357,8.942940898345155,31.57721040189125,8.608573733854374,2.3947805011820336,1769,62,325,23,25,547,223,423,0.096,0.7659999999999999,0.138,0.9438,3,0,0,0,0,0,52,5,0,1,8,18,20,4,0,23,0,37,2,0,11,7,61,63,26,0,5,5,3,3,4,0,2,1,1,1,12,22,20,0,3,8,0,1,6,6,11,1,5,12,5,30,9,45,44,11,56,0,6,0,1,54,27,1,8,28,207,52,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848185266112513,0.05687403258357768,0.11835381411359686,0.0,0.0,0.048363523726112266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937261520537797,0.0,0.21676815080967204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289919060371632,0.07764379315731228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305905280998765,0.22570418567231965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976627792721683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0458660279054951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279355834436534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04697358897182336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06391738942108942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192005186877536,0.05080760109785873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431373780217111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637088720942769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067891664482606,0.0,0.0713383990000649,0.0706374549550535,0.0,0.0,0.07613462008768426,0.0,0.0,0.22269003563184545,0.0,0.0632140505224935,0.0,0.0,0.03908527578417797,0.057971674848337235,0.0,0.0,0.15454253027527756,0.0,0.0,0.1389810781798418,0.2138404942329285,0.0,0.06293829167689441,0.0,0.0,0.15527010893541904,0.0,0.0,0.0672947469051912,0.047472646661290106,0.2884149974126323,0.07144883823122238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056766700897254614,0.0,0.0522808263693051,0.1054680344247802,0.1097030884548322,0.13737481528029333,0.0,0.0,0.06968175766753806,0.0,0.08096972903402577,0.07462768152638362,0.0,0.09638447868335892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793900494431112,0.0,0.0,0.04930512804597205,0.0,0.0,0.0780675716273111,0.0672306719934729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060735444560525924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.359882351748461,0.0,0.2589771495124559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033874940989884,0.0,0.10067713187074764,0.0,0.0,0.05945887129219559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432590644747152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174539382917664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294040452947367,0.0,0.13482545239139568,0.06795748401787262,0.0,0.04828529731111473,0.0,0.1389463319093774,0.0,0.08554769212284895,0.12284838221593915,0.0,0.17604246997420125,0.041947971900152765,0.05645114441886905,0.0,0.0,0.06394474014250649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05177565561252039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775772725775272,0.0,0.045798460475112567
parenting,theguerrilla_gorilla,2018/04/08,"Anyone dealt with lactose intolerance in baby? Obviously going to see our family doctor tomorrow morning, just wanting to read others experiences. 

Pretty sure my lady twin is lactose intolerant.
We switched nearly 4 weeks ago from nan comfort formula to aptimal allepro for my lady twin on the GPs recommendation and it's helped her a lot. But she's gone from being constipated to pooping 8+ times day, mucuousy/watery/very loose stools, lots of flatulence and gas, and just screaming/unsettled after drinking. If her poop sits in her nappy it burns her skin. You can hear her gut gurgling at times. Has anyone elses baby been lactose intolerant? How did you figure it out? 

**Out of desperation we bought a lactose free formula and within the first 18 hours she's only done one poop. She still screams at every feed but she isn't constantly pooping anymore...which makes me think I may be right on the intolerance",4.86128048780488,7.736108847560978,5.81969512195122,71.59466463414637,73.32926829268294,8.490243902439023,30.371951219512194,9.188382445141503,3.2993487804878043,737,33,114,18,16,242,119,164,0.033,0.915,0.052000000000000005,0.4479,0,0,1,1,0,0,23,3,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,5,0,10,9,6,2,2,24,18,8,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,9,2,0,2,2,2,2,1,1,0,2,5,4,18,4,21,10,2,25,0,0,1,0,16,11,0,4,11,73,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703980880678385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635218684411967,0.1930780300457986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036356209940011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215275695157748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287530719300847,0.0,0.1928385274711616,0.0,0.18459848612134613,0.0,0.0,0.15741660930926596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587679896220231,0.0,0.0,0.184329506198902,0.17764352394546645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028612199652484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070942295260622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123844547698643,0.0,0.1263066934065728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18557446248153747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204082080314721,0.0,0.0,0.125784499567196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276911471118504,0.14331635523257955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917102138569266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848999998550367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609258812668297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016149027403106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504876333800757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760153280175567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074410602820025,0.0,0.0,0.2197605992367717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548191464351968,0.11114620785661768,0.0,0.15115440391845647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway1222222333,2018/04/08,"How to help my 14 year old drug addicted son My son is 14 and he was always a very kind boy, but has always had problems with self esteem. He would have feelings of inferiorty compared to other kids, and never had many friends. I thought it would work itself out, as he was making friends but at the end of last summer I caught him smoking weed. He said it was because it made him feel older, so we punished him severly to deter this behavior. One morning I walked past his room and the door was open, and I noticed several deep gashes on his legs, dark red and around 4 inches long and half a inch wide.      


     He then admitted it was because he was depressed, and used a hachet to harm himself.   I also found out he was drinking, using DXM and amphetmines, and other perscripton pills. He now thinks he is a lost cause. Whenever I try and tell him how smart he is, he says drugs destroyed his brain. He always asks me to give up on him and focus on his younger brother. He belives his life is worthless, and cannot see the value others see in him. He says he will never stop using drugs until he dies, and I have found a suicide note he has been working on. Im heartbroken. I take him to rehab and therapy, but he always lies to make his problem seem insignificant to avoid ""wasting their resouces."" Please help me I dont know what to do. ",5.353551886792452,5.5106239660377385,5.875412735849057,82.43840212264153,67.83018867924528,8.43632075471698,30.524764150943398,8.07648339933343,2.0270801886792453,1041,37,207,12,16,337,159,265,0.21600000000000005,0.725,0.059,-0.9949,0,1,4,0,0,1,30,1,0,1,3,6,13,2,1,8,0,24,10,2,9,2,49,47,24,2,4,3,3,2,0,2,3,7,3,2,3,10,20,1,2,9,1,0,2,4,9,0,2,17,8,29,4,24,27,0,32,0,3,3,0,51,16,0,1,14,122,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027556128587307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808948495326524,0.33668138338055786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005076819127554,0.09456771098839102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332817735370542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292415457023815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391563276926123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712598079759808,0.0,0.10498451931363932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855471303176787,0.09909489977883892,0.35192841850316325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959467074173426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022955733929278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218258526270088,0.15630658576111972,0.0,0.0,0.09703857190114974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560619469320262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926642315619746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533897137844787,0.0555929896276823,0.08245608234514762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144985667619645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952035584188017,0.0,0.0,0.11042431430188507,0.0,0.0,0.09571676524314647,0.1350455536254947,0.10255685573363099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603632151069566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516739273378808,0.10614677373502583,0.0,0.06854629033835066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656536477434194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103950561076306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935862970741141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962230353934262,0.1608874835398326,0.0,0.0,0.16121733327287036,0.09208911602768348,0.10552833400027913,0.22855619721388495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457139801886257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064883781376887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605712997248659,0.0,0.0884152757533096,0.0,0.11568132085924933,0.0,0.0,0.06481702714444097,0.0,0.08030699449876966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867865145454577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262100319159302,0.0,0.08346474054447793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728633367343316,0.0,0.0,0.14371740923649207,0.0,0.0,0.06514149605124242
parenting,mrs-pootin,2018/04/08,"URGENT. Need atheist advice Hello atheist. I present myself in enemy ground with hope. I am a young christmas mother of three beautiful children struggling to rear them. My 11 year old Colton is a great footballer in the team and my 5 year old Nevaeh (heaven spelt background) is my angel and soul the problem child is Ashleigh who is 19 and self exclaimed atheist women.  
I know she is just going threw a phase but how can I speed this up so she returns to church. You are further into the phase so how can I do this. I enlisted her in a conversion therapy church camp to NO use. She is 19 so I can’t force her my family is suffering and my husband has broken almost 4 dishes this week. 
I received lots of prayers from Facebook folk but we need something FAST. THATS wear you come in atheist. Give me ideas and I’ll give an upvote to the person who restores my family. 
Also, the ASSholes at the atheist page banned me for asking a God given question",2.5839345661450928,5.0613021189189205,3.579260312944527,86.74345661450926,79.16216216216216,5.6244665718349935,25.412517780938835,6.8360192770164,1.2013243243243248,752,29,137,8,19,241,121,185,0.14,0.787,0.07200000000000001,-0.9454,0,0,1,0,0,0,15,1,2,1,1,7,6,0,1,12,0,14,2,1,3,0,25,26,13,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,9,1,1,3,1,0,4,2,3,0,1,2,0,26,3,16,24,2,23,5,1,0,0,26,9,0,4,10,91,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026305966848607,0.0,0.0,0.17447388364185573,0.0,0.0,0.1393378222860134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288872510204494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009034676952482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328511585461101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342893488167813,0.0990232977649721,0.0,0.0,0.19209767460176666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305734617639065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966931501390109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957564808370588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813065806930506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583900871797604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656663033647097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213763520771728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672194345223776,0.0,0.0,0.1951860953330196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176791642507228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13413669061911465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821510705857415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925598997734947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048542605251644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397629696197744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244067268230558
parenting,Cardtastic,2018/04/08,"How can I get my 7yo daughter to better handle scenes in movies that really aren't scary? An example: I saw that the 2017 My Little Pony movie was recommended for 5+, but she couldn't handle some of the scenes.  

We do our research and let her know that things will work out, but she still is sniveling through the scenes. 

My 2yo sees her reaction and thinks she needs to freak out, too. ",6.790324675324676,5.8761516363636375,6.1694480519480575,85.11702922077924,65.1038961038961,9.777922077922078,28.34090909090909,8.841846274778883,1.7250285714285716,304,7,66,4,4,93,59,77,0.05,0.8809999999999999,0.069,-0.1398,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,13,14,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,12,1,8,9,1,5,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,1,1,44,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33374814172531986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715732156553267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20738960289610325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385880661731956,0.0,0.0,0.378218261585744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798109177784293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24174929479580615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007105657687152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013636937961561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507041364366737,0.2417998674008707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27472577439283985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Markerperson12,2018/04/08,"Interesting story When I was 10, my mom and me would go and have time together
But then she told me that she had a new boyfriend and they were going to the movies
So I stayed with my grandma, mom said that she would come back in 3 hours, it was 11:00pm
I was mad, so mad I wanted to say bad things about her, so when my grandma was asleep, I went outside and a lady was outside, I told her my mom was drinking and left me outside
5 minutes later, guess who arrived!
So the woman came to my mom and punched her in the face, telling her that she was a bad parent

Should I feel bad after those years?",1.6599781818181825,3.3274446560000013,2.6242181818181827,96.48810909090912,78.44,5.1854545454545455,22.56363636363637,5.565023196281405,-0.011880000000000113,462,14,107,2,11,146,72,125,0.135,0.843,0.021,-0.9381,1,0,1,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,0,8,6,2,0,6,0,13,3,2,0,0,16,24,14,0,4,1,5,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,7,9,1,0,1,1,0,5,0,5,0,0,14,3,24,1,8,7,0,19,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,1,10,73,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830015504330627,0.3527959610884793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108773632196324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132442513466099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797326166967727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121483520792697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008950521943865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515527673773344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387027294164473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530271536267923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6598180218501101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360277777573867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639032394658647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339746654027381,0.11200460828639687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012070465553334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123103651190261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357033354615878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212712709693774,0.0,0.0,0.2691644902764188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307329676643624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056357340232327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20010272733843568,0.0,0.0,0.09069876149318844
parenting,rabocsepthrowaway,2018/04/08,"Why do posts talking about hating your kids and not wanting to be around them usually get more upvotes than posts asking how to be a better parent, etc.? This is totally random of me to ask, I know. I've just noticed in this sub that aside from the occasional really poignant kind of post, the ones that skyrocket in upvotes are often ones where a parent is ranting about hating, not caring about, or not wanting to be around their kids. Why do people who hate their kids tend to get more support than people who are asking how to do better?",10.99875,7.315609067307693,9.980769230769235,69.81423076923079,59.28846153846154,12.323076923076925,38.5,9.516144504307137,3.5712384615384622,429,13,78,5,4,136,63,104,0.115,0.8079999999999999,0.076,-0.67,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,3,2,10,8,3,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,1,16,24,4,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,6,5,18,21,4,9,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,1,60,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24195644677508715,0.3811394581632444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403818549187853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855728726826105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156243272414768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200241662393262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025140564642023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151707827485902,0.07468610488334221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472101843167874,0.0,0.0,0.18417629502784907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017977704334526,0.0,0.0,0.1884294221108581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904587725165003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705987636052727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542156838424048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922983743248273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967268419656118,0.0,0.16031257634091134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24525400272875045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Strange_Vagrant,2018/04/08,"Need ideas for a tradition I'm not one for tradition, ritual, or things like that so I am a bit at a loss here. My daughter was born on a Friday the 13th so every occurance of that, I want to do something special. Like a birthday party that is out of sync with everyone else's calander.

I'll make it a special day for my daughter. But I need gift ideas. Not a gift card. Not whatever the latest toy is.

My uncle is my sister's godfather. Every year, he'd buy her this porcelain thing. It was a train and every car was a link with a number. So when she was 13, it had 13 links and so on. The actual train was dumb and infantile bit I like the idea.

I'm not feeling very creative. What can I shamelessly steal and use as a ritual gift?",0.4407754010695229,2.5816100064935092,2.9611229946524102,89.96756684491982,85.29870129870129,6.740412528647823,20.747135217723454,7.928766900206844,1.0304145148968678,567,18,124,12,17,196,90,154,0.097,0.732,0.171,0.866,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,1,6,8,1,0,15,0,13,0,0,2,0,24,21,12,0,3,6,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,6,1,1,1,4,3,0,1,6,1,12,5,13,14,2,10,2,1,0,0,6,4,1,1,8,79,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.1634158386793038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656437374554736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799720868623523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989051598736704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232743181540704,0.16001426150073028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467230764347952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5671225213947577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24543604257413945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178019031713476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24833746988008504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347455986300482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891812812952186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225046521610557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463081911385275,0.0,0.1381712219671437,0.09877166351966507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783811285403344
parenting,Kethlak,2018/04/08,"When does this kind of thing stop? Husband was giving two sons a bath, ages 2 and 4. After the bath, the 2-year-old (not potty trained) was wandering around naked and urinated a small amount on the (thankfully hardwood) floor. I looked at him walking past it, and said, ""Did you just pee on the floor?"" Wasn't going to punish him or anything, he's 2. He doesn't really know better. The 4-year-old (potty-trained for quite some time now) thought this was hilarious, and ran after him, then deliberately urinated a rather large amount on the floor. He definitely knows better, so he got instructed to go to the toilet and finish, then sit in time out.

I understand that it's a ""hey, look, the young one is getting attention (albeit negative), so I should do the same thing"" feeling on his part. But when does it stop? This is the most recent, and probably most egregious, example, but he does it a whole lot. If he hears me saying ""Don't do that"" to his younger brother, I immediately hear, ""What did he do?"" with a mischievous-sounding voice. I dare not tell him for fear he'll do the same thing.

How old does my eldest need to get before he realizes that positive attention is better than negative attention? Or at least until he stops mimicking his toddler brother?",5.082857142857144,6.445201571428572,5.537226890756305,80.29894957983194,69.0,9.129411764705884,29.12605042016807,9.478462496947786,2.5657159663865543,986,36,187,21,17,316,138,238,0.094,0.8490000000000001,0.056,-0.8751,0,0,0,0,0,0,55,0,1,0,4,9,7,1,1,17,0,16,3,3,1,0,39,36,19,0,4,9,4,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,14,9,0,3,9,2,0,4,7,2,0,2,10,8,15,5,22,24,11,37,0,0,2,0,29,13,0,7,19,120,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508754655099803,0.10286371897669573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832427260892383,0.0,0.0,0.3065829230966629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4044732374667405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300255220825008,0.05842539339419839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073988415934915,0.11084578833061882,0.13133909940842153,0.0,0.0924156399907292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604657892518318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203272172665002,0.12700617167395364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406526952267847,0.0,0.0,0.09823621140035074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567862844459273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637498754226213,0.0,0.07829945804884557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512905028798668,0.11030525052192032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458210551420924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229013149272658,0.0,0.0,0.0740240880163002,0.0,0.11409137544012425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991421251143732,0.09188974856137028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898141357595233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099551909449042,0.1063826267759742,0.0,0.0,0.23029823202562835,0.0,0.0,0.0917335440874653,0.13475590289478934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287525372337395,0.12029129876662707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900709850462486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882041937285165
parenting,SingleMommingIt,2018/04/08,"6 yo getting sick EVERY time he goes to dad's My 6 yo visits his dad every weekend, and EVERY Saturday for the last month he gets a headache, then vomits several times.  He's fine once he gets home.  He does get migraines at my house, but not too often.  Not sure if that is related or not.   Obviously he will be visiting the doctor, just wondering if anyone has any insight.  Is there anything that could cause this if he's exposed to it?  Dad is fine, but his landlord is a known slumlord and that worries me.  Just wondering what we could look for.
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parenting,Saltybuddha,2018/04/08,"Any NYC parents here willing to share thoughts on activities for 16 month old? It’s been a long winter. 

We’ve got him in a few “classes” at MyGym, go to JCC open play, Children’s Museum, taken him to the Art Farm, the museums, and lots and lots of parks with swings when the weather has allowed. 

We’ve tried play-dates and walking around stores, subway trips for errands and other playgrounds. 

We’ve used KidPass and have friends that do music classes, explored our apartment building a thousand times...

Tried many many indoor activities, from reading to sensory boxes to crafts to hide and seek. 

It’s never enough! We’re still stuck looking for things that might interest him. He’s been fairly satisfied with many of these things but of course his attention span is mosquito-like. 

Any advice/ideas for alternative indoor activities especially. Not necessarily at home either. 

The most luck as been playgrounds and open plays at various places. 

We’re in lower Harlem. Thanks in advance. ",6.130998376623374,8.405216596590915,5.6719480519480525,76.78863636363641,67.69318181818181,8.21038961038961,31.88961038961039,8.841846274778883,2.8749542207792205,795,34,129,14,14,244,121,176,0.032,0.852,0.116,0.9285,3,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,2,1,26,17,10,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,8,12,0,0,3,6,1,5,2,0,0,1,7,1,5,7,25,8,7,26,0,0,1,0,10,13,0,5,8,75,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23063687077289155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095982321925422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521876736399206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101506532617174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637473457946458,0.0,0.13562652424471835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009994148171995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914322241947331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007064752307409,0.14240229242915878,0.0,0.0,0.2883372534894636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.515774549926764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989480510009506,0.0,0.0,0.13535504911912202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078853175912966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779429373028506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18829561551194865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17717227236017602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962327288666326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354247169868952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612407067781908,0.0,0.0,0.22531935613548384,0.0,0.0,0.1346254999963279,0.09888193563834267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026382319122676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464604120568798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,keepfacingforward,2018/04/09,"What would YOU do?/ Daydream with me... As I sit here feeding my 4 month old , I am thinking about next month. Our household has been under a lot of pressure lately with my husband working two jobs and finishing a master's degree, me working part time and trying to keep up with a 3 year old and now 4 month old preemie, a ""new to us"" house that has had a slew of unforseen issues and expenses since we moved in ...and my husband will be out of town 9 days this month , while I stay behind with the kiddos 😭.

But there is a rainbow on the horizon. The baby is starting to sleep a little more at night as time goes on...the 3 year old is now in 5 day/week care and hasn't had as many potty training accidents lately, and by the end of the month my husband will be done with school and only working one job! 

...Also next month is a milestone birthday for me 😀. So I have decided that i am going to request, no, Demand a night off! I will stay at a hotel or bunk with a friend, but I will be child free for 24 hours. So, what should I do with that time?? Beach? Bars? Pedis/massage?? Just Sleep and watch R rated movies on full volume while eating food that I don't have to share?? 

If you have ideas or just want to daydream with me, post away! I want to make the most of it.",3.2090151515151497,3.785879446969698,4.164848484848489,91.32560606060608,72.71212121212122,6.472727272727273,24.51515151515152,5.82211442006289,0.4475696969696967,970,26,218,4,18,314,150,264,0.035,0.91,0.055,0.7878,2,0,0,0,0,0,45,3,2,0,4,10,5,0,1,17,0,28,6,2,1,0,37,36,22,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,8,19,4,1,3,3,2,2,3,1,0,2,4,1,23,5,39,23,5,51,0,0,1,0,12,14,0,5,31,148,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730192722305472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908187296008525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985550860500921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468018145015262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892052762794604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891109882714552,0.0,0.0,0.08561534828562288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688613163601815,0.0,0.07468213604942263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054936209218931636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519427462798592,0.11153693329644873,0.0,0.10912155312797243,0.0,0.10089179042248894,0.1918476167116512,0.08591913938550733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808173149415044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688242344016586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218002234936636,0.0,0.0,0.06452377140488663,0.09800182142555902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629362662129472,0.10273821702494264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335840532735623,0.20560588649404288,0.18142467149215802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057291768576696,0.0,0.06550182586107378,0.07351710087830365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467736899292736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257710579035933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782882661903664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996121283503302,0.0,0.19346702188136494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841906549761352,0.2060612887208408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193819685778521,0.0,0.0,0.16909614520562571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562830819499722,0.0,0.0944263906501198,0.0,0.1162745311027982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402951131397948,0.0,0.07753779073602111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111169780094337,0.0,0.0,0.06866712017927043,0.0,0.0,0.12449650913613468
parenting,DaMeLaVaca,2018/04/09,"Child not being allowed to go to school nurse...how to handle this? My son is 6.5, and in 1st grade.  When I picked him up from school today, he was not acting like himself, and once we got home I discovered the poor boy was running a 101 fever.  He told me that “it all makes sense now” because he had been feeling tired all day, and he said he was coughing all day in his classroom.  I asked him why he didn’t go to the nurse, and he said he asked his teacher to go because he didn’t feel good.  He said she told him it was almost snack time and to sit and eat his snack.  

This doesn’t feel right to me.  His teacher is a nice enough lady, but seems to struggle with home/parent communication.  I know some kids like to go to the nurse to try and get out of school, but I feel like if she had let him go at snack time (usually around 1:00) the nurse would have discovered the fever and sent him home.  Instead the poor boy had to struggle through gym class and G/T while feeling like crap.  

I’m on the fence about whether to say anything to the school when I call him in tomorrow.",4.085900064061498,4.252712865470855,4.221245996156313,93.16884529147984,70.5695067264574,7.268289557975656,25.79404228058937,6.5431188927421005,0.6275844971172324,831,22,196,5,14,257,118,223,0.118,0.851,0.03,-0.9645,2,0,0,0,0,0,27,1,0,0,0,6,9,1,2,10,0,17,9,1,3,3,36,41,16,0,2,6,1,5,4,0,1,4,4,2,4,5,13,4,1,7,1,2,8,5,3,0,0,17,9,23,6,27,21,5,29,0,0,0,0,39,9,1,4,15,107,28,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703737087672288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796339724701838,0.09515696327068376,0.19986006520234875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032131850068882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914916597603114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378736038644752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937768536169484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044849851323403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702402299175346,0.15272800778615486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584690518948055,0.0,0.3037472780184841,0.08965633466644142,0.08549167527402805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216655969531569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05874530754554282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930479557684357,0.0,0.2088890513596168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135155559647607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138369948893392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128558768076253,0.30503765915501835,0.08500518468312097,0.0,0.4327235565723657,0.0,0.09731089259408446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22349444273160984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465972093787897,0.12285717291193887,0.10132156556134253,0.20428067698410898,0.0,0.0725729723932934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772695708294953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645383059927966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593334574906856,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alleycatadventures,2018/04/09,"Parenting mistakes --> Wisdom What are some parenting mistakes have you learnt from? Before I had kids, I thought parenting calls were pretty straightforward. Here is some recent ""wisdom"" I've picked up. 

Don't shout/call across the playground at your child. (""Hey, don't pull that kid! Let someone else have a turn!"") No matter how well-meaning your intentions, it stresses out everyone at the playground. 

Don't sleep train your kid or let her cry it out when you have guests or when you're at someone else's home.

If your kid is being super obnoxious or rude to you in front of others, don't grit your teeth and try to ignore it (in the spirit of harmony). Take your kid out for a talk before it escalates. It kills harmony for everyone to witness your child taking advantage of you. ",4.217315541601256,6.542001333333339,4.312517006802722,84.2842229199372,73.08163265306123,7.788383045525903,26.273678702250127,8.617729084823388,2.0226529565672418,624,22,113,12,13,193,90,147,0.16,0.7290000000000001,0.111,-0.8353,3,0,0,0,0,0,29,0,11,0,2,4,10,2,1,5,0,15,2,2,3,0,18,19,8,1,3,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,8,4,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,3,0,14,4,19,13,2,15,1,0,0,0,26,10,0,6,3,73,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581223836767301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487345915691686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660391297974764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25340398837451306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28985704838453163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521387825746948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678019341470934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101885688644266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652146205977015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052394279257164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430434252345593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497572115417246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178093711147306,0.0,0.2570213731717089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373907836236138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280760368880951,0.1219077275875713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041015120015194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029749258763642,0.1649749316613665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637080525632908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sammies4787,2018/04/09,"Mourning the choice to not have more children I absolutely love my daughter.  She's my only child and will be my only.  I am peaceful with this decision, but I still feel mourning.  I have read before that parents usually mourn the decision to not have more children.  Even if it is completely their choice and nothing is holding them back.  We generally go through a mourning period.  Having children is beautiful.  Holding them as an infant, watching them grow and learn.  Laughing with them and holding their little hands and feet.  There is just so much beauty about being a parent that by letting go of the possible future like this can feel heartbreaking.  Even if I feel peaceful, I feel mourning and heartbreak.  Are there any other parents who can relate in this? When you decided to stop having children, did you mourn your decision? What are your thoughts? ",5.3175187969924815,8.088114210526317,5.102180451127823,77.82026315789476,71.36842105263158,7.5007518796992505,33.22556390977444,8.418075326091056,3.0887353383458644,688,34,106,12,14,212,93,152,0.177,0.675,0.14800000000000002,-0.6699,3,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,4,6,0,10,11,0,0,6,0,19,3,2,0,0,30,27,12,6,2,6,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,6,9,9,0,4,10,1,0,3,2,8,0,0,2,6,21,3,11,21,3,12,0,8,1,1,24,2,0,2,8,89,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761348396205287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329896307514105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716965521584732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181337179304703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22846670496817897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497994858654681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19658553746110294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768554283492392,0.0,0.08449574984498147,0.17334362484512136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560961888916908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713982894487125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595238112523794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630760111449952,0.0,0.0,0.5761291318493496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949777137438564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729990874259759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811991747917746,0.1445958537828931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730479460322714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904825064012876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,I_iz_narwhal,2018/04/09,"6 month sleep regression? My little guy has started waking up screaming for a little over a month now (starting at 5 1/2 months). He went from sleeping big chunks at a time and waking up peacefully to waking up screaming. He’s not even fully awake always. He won’t nurse (or latches, then unlatches and screams) and nothing seems to calm him down. Ideas? (We’ve had him checked for ear infections and nothing. He is teething but I feel like a month is a long time for that to be this bad) ",3.496236842105265,5.412719084210528,3.698092105263161,89.69976973684211,73.94736842105263,6.434210526315789,27.66447368421053,7.1686216300943375,1.3571315789473686,383,15,76,4,8,118,68,95,0.057,0.879,0.065,0.4076,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,5,0,6,8,7,0,0,10,11,7,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,4,0,0,2,5,4,2,14,7,0,22,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,2,12,41,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452411457754819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574352731402382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528986935572487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825867434763962,0.1246998967092666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283380248905328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19704782403296472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527723076409517,0.34989367688959866,0.0,0.15447291943679653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5573025756346379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33497446976993783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890547426192386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493558750868678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470974356983869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035652078500916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181133991161886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsmacbow,2018/04/09,"Climbing toddler How do you keep a climber safe? My two older children like to climb, but they didn’t start as early. My 1.5 year old is constantly climbing on things, in and out of his pack n play, on top of the couches, just everywhere and it’s freaking me out a little. He’s not very steady either. I’m not a helicopter parent by nature, but this is getting to me a little. ",2.0536363636363646,3.9597834545454593,3.564935064935068,89.09597402597406,78.0909090909091,5.9584415584415575,25.285714285714285,6.868970318607317,1.0229012987012984,294,11,60,3,7,97,61,77,0.049,0.8320000000000001,0.119,0.5106,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,1,4,2,4,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,1,0,13,8,6,0,0,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,2,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,0,7,3,11,7,1,17,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,7,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31440480253082576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15200511891812374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586025020716204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213950166478306,0.5832003739230927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052945509267708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230565160412205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059301530907724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328885059769574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842079315314019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400575126885615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18735702540810936
parenting,tabatha_hazel,2018/04/09,"Feeling unappreciated... I have three kids; 4, 7, and 8 years old. I feel like they are not happy no matter what. My 7 year old might be the worse with everything. I am venting a little because our day started out crappy but this has been a thing for a while.

Everyone complains about everything. It can be what I am making for dinner, going to the store, taking a walk, helping me with chores, or even going outside! It doesn’t matter, they will literally complain about everything.

Before I had my kids I was a busy, carefree kinda  lady. I loved being busy with my work and my now husband. Now that I have kids I have had to slow down a lot and I get not wanting to do things sometimes but this is just ridiculous. 

I haven’t read any books and when I talk to my mom about it she says that’s just how kids are... so I don’t really know what to do. I have tried time outs, sending them to there rooms, taking electronics away, etc.. nothing seems to work. 

Summer vacation is right around the corner and I feel awful but I am dreading it! I stay home with them and the older two come home around 3:30 Monday through Friday and I have my 4 year old with me all the time. Just the thought of having to deal with them all summer long is really bumming me out. 

Is this normal behavior or are my kids jerks? ",1.6813532763532777,3.967630423076927,3.006324786324788,90.66015669515673,81.30769230769229,5.544159544159545,20.398860398860396,6.775458762138228,0.33449715099715105,1010,28,208,11,27,327,144,260,0.117,0.8220000000000001,0.061,-0.9261,0,0,0,0,0,0,37,1,0,5,2,15,8,2,1,12,1,32,2,0,2,2,46,48,16,0,2,10,2,3,1,0,2,0,1,4,5,14,19,1,0,6,2,1,5,6,5,0,2,5,4,35,3,28,38,4,37,0,0,0,1,22,11,0,6,21,153,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184195089393716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142735703526514,0.0,0.0,0.11307254340353322,0.0,0.0,0.07336408510844808,0.0,0.10240876547062544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367064543475464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761562670245965,0.12407529850053757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422177430686466,0.07948986892922141,0.0,0.0,0.1149993350642347,0.32448776122438033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825573355655556,0.08597787906518117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287777245505424,0.0,0.1367950626183373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811453726001584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066789457345361,0.0,0.2414412060163068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614107027271031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05879680438503585,0.12062205756041328,0.0,0.1065057336586825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231704610757772,0.10862034008044798,0.0,0.08033438669318507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767205656006386,0.0,0.1409521621857283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791719357600887,0.11547882240411958,0.0,0.3788604247324333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038230941599197,0.0,0.1541982517173527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277802129128646,0.0,0.09570694458127156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956188424710768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902897125003682,0.0,0.08518416616384238,0.12827681093469376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097605514440548,0.09673256310237588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599100405628748,0.0,0.0,0.0955442512105591,0.14035380368613445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170957421991533,0.0,0.11756420952098885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098539543550605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523208971034676,0.0,0.12264666791315733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325038622774099
parenting,msCrowleyxx,2018/04/09,"Help me brainstorm “summer camp” at home ideas! I wanted to send my kids to summer camp this year but with a few visits and trips planned it’s not going to happen. Instead, I am trying to think of some new activities/skills to do together this summer. I have two girls aged 6 and 8. So far I have cooking/baking, tie-dye, ice skating, and drawing lessons (from YouTube). What other activities do your kids like to do indoors or out? What other skills do you think would be fun for them to learn?",3.326829896907217,5.096560896907217,3.979987113402064,88.12400128865983,74.05154639175258,6.087113402061857,24.496134020618552,6.6274283507984215,0.7595164948453608,385,12,77,3,8,122,72,97,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.8807,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,2,1,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,16,14,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,7,5,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,9,2,13,12,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,7,50,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605113127895115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894909900126638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194282857292299,0.0,0.3283774184307923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695593251705303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993577197948836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161746537030403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4195291869828589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22226180432185905,0.0,0.3197915737693234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930904942367301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23255327538359424,0.0,0.0,0.2108146584409395
parenting,cautiouspeace,2018/04/09,"Authoritarian grandmother issues My MIL thinks we're too easy on our daughter (7yo) and makes it very clear by creating strict rules in her house. Now for the most part, I'm fine with her having stricter rules at her house than at ours. That's her prerogative. 

However, there are certain rules that I feel encroach on our overall parenting and I also feel like her approach to these rules is unnecessarily unkind. 

The biggest point of contention for me is that she tries to have a Clean Plate rule. My husband and I are adamantly opposed to this for most kids, but our daughter in particular. Our daughter is a good eater, not picky at all, but her appetite can vacillate from meal to meal. Sometimes she eats a little, sometimes a lot, and there's no real consistency. Our pediatrician said this is normal and that we should expect her to finish about 40-60% of her meal on average, without it being a concern. However, my MIL believes meals should be finished 100% every time and anything else is ""insubordination."" She also insists on plating for our daughter, and she always gives her nearly an adult sized plate. My husband has gotten her to sort of accept that our daughter won't always finish the whole plate, but she guilts her the whole time (""Won't you please take another bite? Your grandmother worked so hard to make this just for you! It would make your grandmother cry boo-hoo if you don't finish!"") and still sometimes snaps, saying things like, ""In my house, children eat what they are given."" (She *reeeeallllyyy* leans into the whole 'My house, my rules' thing ever since the one time I told her that at my place...)

Similarly, she has rules about what my daughter can wear and how she can present herself at her house. She insists on no jeans, no shorts, and that dresses be below the knee. One time my daughter asked why she couldn't wear shorts when her boy cousin could, and my MIL said, ""I do not have to explain why to you. You are the child and you must respect what I tell you is the rule. Never ask me why again."" This is in direct response to my husband and I often having conversations with our kids about why we are doing what we're doing for them, even if the rule isn't negotiable. She thinks that's ridiculous and soft.


There are a lot of examples like this. Overall, I don't doubt that she loves our daughter and my ultimate goal is to find peace. But she's so diametrically opposed to my parenting (and my husband's, though he downplays our style in front of her because he says she'll ""never understand"" so I become the bad guy). My daughter is getting increasingly upset to be at her grandmother's when she feels like things are harder there and if she sniffs out unfairness. And I'm frankly getting increasingly fed up with how she treats my daughter. 

My husband says that it is how he was raised and that it's cultural, so it won't change. So when I said that I would prefer her to come visit at our house then, my husband said MIL wouldn't be comfortable with that and we all just need to suck it up, essentially. Wondering how others would approach this and if I'm being reasonable?",5.470058189922,6.730555291032151,5.445582105567252,81.69450167141267,68.00169204737733,8.134719986793776,29.30465106681524,8.407314429234152,2.022859485782675,2471,88,468,35,41,772,250,591,0.068,0.856,0.076,0.4658,4,0,0,0,0,0,83,15,9,2,2,31,19,2,3,18,0,52,11,3,8,8,92,84,45,0,17,13,19,5,4,0,11,0,7,1,7,35,31,7,2,12,0,0,7,16,7,0,2,9,13,93,12,60,56,12,55,0,0,0,1,107,29,1,12,23,334,128,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556891437967423,0.12024839094803055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576849950929829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05946193096836391,0.0,0.1351023922714353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06033216192639044,0.04404762371008125,0.07980295348750174,0.0,0.08140968475265956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643906637229918,0.06224361106856476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057691894392293074,0.0,0.07937169132195128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478753340595194,0.060362037077298786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04772552987176603,0.06536122716665753,0.06088022933732847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960699381202613,0.10324183171795256,0.0,0.0,0.06604222943379237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550333263842235,0.06931617075969193,0.0,0.060606331152054015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154648408952012,0.0,0.0,0.06472870701993351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5002541110177255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541826645087295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120585085080464,0.07242119893818487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228618264485014,0.06521539606269396,0.0,0.14469772903775102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05357816953773323,0.11145918674037512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707972049798894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792737615464103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604672511378288,0.07824804845890837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549391802401281,0.07931725685151213,0.06830688296881156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224508268601036,0.0,0.0742929508818446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749344810696903,0.17238667156248655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977231675713495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143941410215703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057705093164069216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054328798387875896,0.0,0.06315641534919418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440144169404951,0.09259963401473807,0.07099282412192305,0.0,0.16853618557109387,0.0,0.0,0.06904532960959207,0.0,0.04905823569433893,0.0,0.0,0.07522281479331051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05962017056359696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608053438692325,0.2420194272736889,0.0,0.06965384500822877,0.07836039416443016,0.05260446673657041,0.0,0.0,0.1539893923303787,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,go_fire_up,2018/04/09,"Kids are a hot mess every time after visiting Grandma's house I have two kids (6 and 2) and about once a month, they'll stay at with my mother in law, either at her house or ours. This is usually on a weekend when I have to be out of town for work or have multiple events I need to attend (usually also work related). My husband is deployed, so this has been mostly happening over the past 8 months or so-otherwise, he would be with them.  

Now, I do want to say that my mother in law is a lovely person, we get along very well and my kids absolutely LOVE going to her house. BUT, without fail, every single time, they are a complete disaster for at least a day or two when they get home. Talking back, throwing fits, attitude, just overall general fussiness. Since I am usually not there with them, I'm not sure exactly what is happening while they are there.  But, I do know that often my 2 year old does not nap. And based on how things go when I am there visiting with them, I'd be willing to guess that they are going to bed later than normal and waking up early.  I also know that her general style is to cater to their every demand: make whatever they want to eat for all meals, pick up after them, let them watch movies/play on tablet when they want, etc. I'm assuming the general lack of normal structure, rules and schedule is the cause of the issues after the visit, but I'm not sure how to approach this. I've mentioned to her before that getting to sleep at a normal time is really important for their behavior, and when I've been there with them I've also said things along the lines of ""No, they can eat what we've made for dinner, we aren't going to make them a separate dish"" or ""No, they can pick up the puzzles themselves, please don't do it for them"".  

I know that part of the fun of grandma's is that rules are a little more lax, and I'm okay with that to an extent. And I also know that some people might jump to the ""you shouldn't be sending them away for the weekend"" solution, but unfortunately my current work situation is non-negotiable at this point. Any other tips on how to approach this with my mother in law, or to ease the situation for all of us would be appreciated. I'd even settle for some commiseration as we start day one of re-adjustment.  I'm hoping I don't pull all my hair out over the next two days!",6.616915081042991,5.409329312896407,7.239167547568713,78.26402263918253,65.59619450317125,10.504897815362927,30.913407329105002,9.621722640351123,2.521565257223397,1827,53,379,31,24,607,219,473,0.031,0.883,0.086,0.9761,1,0,0,0,0,0,60,5,1,20,4,24,10,0,0,22,1,42,10,3,9,6,85,73,34,0,12,17,4,2,0,0,6,0,2,2,4,20,23,5,0,5,3,0,14,11,2,1,4,4,5,49,8,70,57,14,73,0,1,1,2,49,24,0,15,34,268,69,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26398395487255355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612048981242017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753586578558101,0.06345737721833049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022352249086618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477690443209497,0.0,0.0,0.08652690984875545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966727112669574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221903283528901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888934071356804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203827175815002,0.05450762513242406,0.0,0.2085950681497784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293492402104855,0.0,0.18760564317462988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909116604627552,0.0,0.14595488616824798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827802770738958,0.08196690947562255,0.0,0.2856716691001007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613567218398571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141646037898546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438839604604334,0.0,0.0,0.08271270269748429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489658206414523,0.07808806859296565,0.11017345214178899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875470131301645,0.0,0.0,0.1317428844693145,0.0,0.0,0.061191961373527184,0.0,0.0,0.08776730576386453,0.0,0.24257378722683204,0.0,0.0,0.08659712357899807,0.08788746512644435,0.05592173333623731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936758385295858,0.07878037676104485,0.057213116891027566,0.07205849418374766,0.0,0.0905887334223626,0.07801371678496499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052868249840545764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850109611349654,0.06562796401703329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826633551997187,0.1855252968786848,0.08258556967520482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584123066124462,0.08796170402340113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555950090646598,0.0,0.0,0.06633124898441703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965317547161894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436467100063294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418476447834767,0.0,0.09926858124409724,0.0,0.27267209166391404,0.06809256840402833,0.14602786655947309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742007583659137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955209052559041,0.0,0.18023966800613844,0.0,0.0,0.11724816318180027,0.0,0.0,0.053144019221460725
parenting,picturethatt,2018/04/09,"How can I make things easier for my wife with our 9 month old while i'm gone for a week? I'm on a business trip for a full week and my wife will be home with our 9 month old.  We usually split taking care of him and that makes things easier...

However, i'll be out of town for a week. 

What can i do now and the days leading up to the trip to make things easier for her when i'm gone?",3.0782758620689634,2.2334499310344853,4.759218390804596,91.93262068965521,72.67816091954023,9.258850574712644,21.997701149425286,8.841846274778883,0.7733604597701147,292,4,79,5,5,100,50,87,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.8466,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,5,0,12,16,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,9,1,14,11,1,22,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,12,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405212100857284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907124579905732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007528546230498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40077725884022336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194934961365291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200183999169289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047746110994853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.398884651740639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204216701227996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4816113898970877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImWilliamsDad,2018/04/09,"Special needs son turning 18, anxiety elevated about the future I’m the single-father of a cognitively impaired teenager. I’ve raised him alone since he was 5, when his mother gave up custody to me. We’ve had our ups and downs as we worked through medical diagnosis, speech therapy, physical therapy and occupational therapy. A short while ago, his mother came back into his life, but there is no doubt I’m still the sole custodial parent. Wednesday he turns 18, and that opens a new chapter is our lives. I lose almost all of my sleep worrying about his future, as he and I move into his adulthood together. 

He’s been my world and my sole focus for the past 13 years. I’ve made my profession “work at home” to be available for him. I’ve not even dated in the past 13 years. I’m not a helicopter Dad, but I didn’t want to confuse him by bringing a woman into my life. I’m pretty frightened for what the future will hold for me as I age into retirement, and what he’ll do as I age and begin to depend on him.

When I get a vote of confidence, it energizes me and helps to inspire me. I know the glass can be half-full…I guess I just need to be shown that occasionally. There's go to be an upside to focus on.",3.2229602577873284,4.632096314285717,5.092008592910852,81.52235230934481,73.61224489795919,8.259935553168638,26.364124597207304,8.841846274778883,1.965979591836735,947,33,192,19,19,325,143,245,0.08800000000000001,0.812,0.1,0.7096,1,1,0,0,0,0,27,3,0,0,3,10,6,0,2,14,0,13,4,1,2,1,33,32,17,0,3,5,5,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,1,5,15,0,1,2,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,7,1,29,3,34,19,1,37,0,1,0,0,25,14,0,5,19,118,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606317169205314,0.0,0.1424056953526833,0.14728969448531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879249346619654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109352956114843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16265369291125314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393029148561302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430038034064658,0.0,0.08082287893174266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566635630512548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532232161009067,0.0,0.14265115267671993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815650086702118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20089838026919216,0.0,0.0,0.12557661257494454,0.0,0.0,0.1590998792445784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345653021327956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326455391989104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114982621350087,0.0,0.21089815431979608,0.0,0.1373501229573956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579106163280988,0.0,0.2715166450394303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446816646714485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763999584401726,0.0,0.14231562305734985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357142048855592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4878985991535175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093736359130222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388086399306505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20706539695997936,0.14442412200579274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831609138743936
parenting,reuben515,2018/04/09,"I only want one child. My wife wants more. Any advice? My wife (33) and I (38) have an amazing 8 month old son.  I love him, and I love and admire my incredible wife. But I'm good with just one kid.  

Before meeting my wife, I honestly never had any interest in having any children. This was a point of contention between us before we got married.  She was willing to marry me if I decided that I didn't want kids, but she made it clear that it would be fairly heartbreaking for her.  

The longer I knew my wife, the more obvious it became that she was going to be a wonderful mom.  we talked about it before we were engaged, and I told her that I had changed my mind about having children, mainly because of how much she wanted one, and how awesome she would be at being a mom.  I figured that having one incredible parent and one shitty parent is a pretty good deal for a kid.  

I eventually became really excited to have a child and be a dad, but it was a VERY long road.  Seriously, for the first 8 weeks after my son was born, I was convinced that I made a huge mistake, and I was having daydreams of changing my name and moving to Alaska. 

6 months later and now I truly love my kid, and much to my surprise I'm pretty good at being a dad so far. As stated: I'm good with just having one, for a bunch of reasons (financial, quality of life, desire to be more involved with my sons life that my dad was in mine, desire to retire before I'm 70, etc). 
 
My wife wants another kid eventually.  we had a rough night with the baby last night, I flat out told her: ""I love you and I love our son, but I don't want another kid.""  She is obviously upset with me, and we are going to have to have a long talk about it, which is warranted.  

I don't really know what to tell her.  There isn't any compromise that I can see when it comes to having kids or not.  Her reasons for wanting another kid are valid, but my reasons for sticking with one are practical.  Any advice? ",4.3415617128463495,4.59651099496222,5.851058942065498,81.39740453400505,70.03274559193953,8.669380352644836,27.215012594458447,8.608573733854374,1.8179193753148617,1503,45,310,23,25,513,173,397,0.047,0.731,0.222,0.9974,2,0,0,0,0,0,55,7,1,0,1,11,21,0,1,18,0,43,7,0,7,4,66,71,25,0,13,10,17,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,12,18,26,0,0,8,0,0,4,6,4,0,8,19,2,59,17,39,42,8,30,0,1,1,5,63,9,0,3,16,223,77,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452188044202843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25264770872048586,0.2337439343981297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529527412914399,0.0,0.2529102951866591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572084109825291,0.06400666343989846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660457633908471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286905033086069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320328685506524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445780863554311,0.2492920300593353,0.059428018559778376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040835756416355916,0.06056800535902052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496679393402647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151411607639885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33531312171833977,0.14061724460612018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502626477665393,0.17404883645343622,0.11861813042848285,0.07897382069510628,0.10924457090447222,0.0,0.05730813597171721,0.0,0.0,0.1394592965596411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796997113584216,0.0,0.3524541032913825,0.05651184642787443,0.0,0.0,0.16501249140880708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024167772009804,0.0,0.0,0.15118858062718538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520260589970828,0.2291919036226692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05921098861309676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944612834631504,0.06494532293239459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200208177349627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937904741417298,0.0,0.0,0.061308913894630265,0.30678663251437155,0.0,0.05960250975734336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805799549575541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556743135556756,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmbharathram,2018/04/09,"Busy fathers - How has being a father impacted your health/fitness? How are you dealing with this challenge? Hi, I am a busy father who lives in San Francisco Bay Area. Before I became a father, I used to exercise pretty regularly (3x-4x / week). Now I am finding it really difficult to find time to work out.  My diet is also messed up. My wife and I either eat outside, or make something really quick and eat all the time (usually it is not healthy). How do you deal with this, Young, Busy Fathers?",3.0831796690307307,5.448739776595744,4.676950354609931,80.13388888888889,76.76595744680851,7.582033096926714,26.401891252955078,8.515128840125781,2.222268557919622,385,15,68,8,9,129,68,94,0.063,0.887,0.05,-0.2865,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,3,0,2,6,3,0,0,4,0,8,4,0,5,1,16,10,7,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,10,1,8,9,2,11,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,7,47,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580876577068027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643005004454113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4275144031498017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4243187151137288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790078191852294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220391451884496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18308396158476165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840026094877209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109381021957268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26565309270402965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596195401307884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418018466924028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17907415481939362,0.22835439879028804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631468120358334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094511790533152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trulymadlybigly,2018/04/09,"Weekly meals for toddler I’d be interested to hear what your toddlers eat regularly? I nannied for five years and they were very unpicky eaters. I always assumed (😑) I would feed my child the same basic things. But he doesn’t like bread, sandwiches, quesadillas, Mac and cheese, chicken, lunch meat, rice or really anything easy. He would exist solely on fruit if I let him. It’s maddening to me. I seriously get anxiety before meals because I hate how he doesn’t like anything simple or easy. I mean what kind of kid doesn’t like a chicken nugget?? Not that I would feed it to him all the time but it’s just so confusing. He’ll eat an entire plank of salmon by himself but that’s expensive and not a quick cook thing for lunch.

I guess I’m just wondering what your day to day meals look like for your family? Looking for some good ideas of new things to try. ",2.7748594674556237,5.021813449704143,3.6110318047337313,87.98625184911245,77.22485207100591,7.0652366863905325,23.58025147928994,8.07648339933343,1.3025884615384618,679,22,137,12,16,216,108,169,0.063,0.821,0.117,0.8382,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,3,1,0,5,10,1,1,5,0,9,13,0,1,1,26,19,11,0,4,10,0,0,4,0,4,0,1,0,2,11,3,13,0,4,1,1,0,5,3,0,1,1,4,18,7,15,12,3,8,0,0,2,0,14,1,0,8,11,78,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985211697052884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938335391886573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568436069546912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513103902982392,0.0,0.13279320870124647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20128800631102492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193710123514503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471168678495059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153346172978244,0.0,0.0,0.1308934005663719,0.0,0.0,0.1719146330601366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407420614696046,0.0,0.0,0.17588784027533294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616961749028054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250959046973293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595790910312601,0.0,0.30496671958839283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620975386198767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999207338023414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072104533496491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099974257709137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110324681530545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099822588063858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595261540758948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876355851069904,0.0,0.0,0.12517969680093086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16923740914410934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325757363979512,0.0,0.0,0.10049573968062338
parenting,shazbot-,2018/04/09,"Question about children with unconventional names. Do any parents have experience with having a child with a unconventional first name? Were there any social issues? Do you/they feel like they're treated differently because of their name?

Ex: If I were to name my child 'Apple' or 'North' or 'Blue Ivy' are there any indicators towards what they can expect as they grow up?",5.5802051282051295,8.424917815384617,5.518076923076925,74.79608974358976,70.84615384615384,7.410256410256411,27.756410256410252,8.344100000000001,2.154641025641025,298,11,49,5,6,93,49,65,0.0,0.945,0.055,0.5362,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,13,9,4,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,5,2,9,7,0,5,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,4,2,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.567425422586816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954893564428353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905925988842533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720700758091422,0.0,0.0,0.14063376238951195,0.19870019319270107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365820766410088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29030139943635336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588304942441135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088367696661454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115756282132697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835243104755796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momentarily_insane,2018/04/09,"It Takes a Village... True story. This just happened. 

Lady in line at the liquor store with her kid. I felt so sorry for her. And I’m telling you, the emotion comes from experience (have three of my own). Her 2 year old was being quite the little 2 year old. They were a couple spots ahead of me, and this is how it went...

Common scenario: kid won’t stand, lady’s dragging kid, frustrations and empty threats, etcetera etcetera. Finally mom lets go and says Ok, you can just sit there while I go ahead. Kid thinks this is kinda funny and gets comfortable. 

Now, as all parents know, you never let the enemy get the upper hand. So I saw an opportunity and I took it. Stepping quietly up behind the kid I loom over and peer down, clear my throat deeply of as much phlegm as I can, and generally try to look like a menacing stranger. 

Fckn worked like a charm. 

Kid jumped like I put fire under her ass. She ran for her mommy like hell was on her heels. I would have felt bad, but I was too damn pleased with myself. 

Raise a toast with me parents. 🥃 

The kid learned a valuable lesson. ",1.5981812614819333,3.971630704225351,2.5362931210451154,93.37324556031844,82.33333333333333,5.394488671157379,20.528475199020207,6.7026698264267655,0.23510753214941804,832,24,177,9,23,262,141,213,0.094,0.76,0.146,0.8587,2,0,0,0,0,0,38,0,3,1,6,8,15,4,0,14,1,15,5,4,1,4,29,32,16,0,1,3,3,4,4,0,2,0,2,0,7,6,12,1,0,6,1,1,9,2,5,0,1,10,8,25,10,23,17,3,31,1,0,2,1,23,9,3,1,15,106,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217708911000899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256288477504591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16136995845575094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640511556827455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426601873268663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28005988200334403,0.15976135607463005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523914907545442,0.0,0.16576925920181804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896644763758386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015023358345125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982639895274532,0.0,0.28500159347227955,0.1461706931702401,0.0,0.0,0.12246945544196725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708068629173649,0.0,0.0,0.10720969371110174,0.0,0.11248133712849713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30607055911077324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238776721987159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008929131708302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661018300937614,0.0,0.15511953426045685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597837670480447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325672131097405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965405483331364,0.0,0.1274711982829634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344883051990004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203438170658008,0.09901626073977646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519578820596728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617376513330687,0.0,0.0,0.10360104751928527,0.0,0.0,0.18783325593566286
parenting,23cricket,2018/04/09,"Evening activities with a 10yr old? Looking for some fresh idea for how to spend the time after dinner but before bedtime with my 10yr daughter. 

Bedtime for her 7yr old brother typically starts at 7:30-ish, and depending on how my wife is doing, dictates how involved I need to be. Often during this time my daughter will be watching TV - homework is done, but I feel better use could be made of this time. 

She is a smart kid, so this adds to the challenge. For example, chess is no longer an option. Look for some reading suggestions - fiction and non-fiction, board games, and other activities. A limiting factor is me, and my energy, some evening I have the time and energy to engage with her, some evening I don't due to work or my son needing my time. For the record she is currently independently researching how to start a candle making business.

Thoughts?",6.11213463751438,7.556652664556964,6.1434637514384365,76.60021288837748,66.65822784810125,8.78342922899885,33.98388952819332,9.095868883498916,3.119511392405064,683,31,117,12,11,216,97,158,0.017,0.8640000000000001,0.119,0.9378,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,0,0,4,9,4,0,0,9,0,15,1,0,9,0,34,26,13,0,3,3,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,9,1,1,3,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,15,4,19,18,4,14,0,0,3,0,13,2,0,8,12,84,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852492268660789,0.0,0.0,0.154370851136214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935996419350144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862011592633514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458559406362825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825518670575339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19704003746411164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931476469361193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165158681010701,0.11651012994687265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25884578299891314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663111911290473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745922149991554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470876713622115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856921777138834,0.5088929093485132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150750821603267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707082473280712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JustTellMeTheFacts,2018/04/09,"6yo says he'll kill himself when he gets frustrated or upset about not getting his way, anyone else deal with this? Like the title says, my son has been saying ""I'll just kill myself""  whenever he gets frustrated.  I'm not convinced he completely understands what he's saying, but it wasn't a one-off type thing, and I am wondering if this is the beginning of something else?  Any thoughts?  It's putting me in tears to type this out, and to think that he's that young but would say something so...morbid?",5.8169727891156455,6.2071262755102055,5.710612244897959,83.21176870748302,66.85714285714286,9.390476190476187,30.619047619047624,9.2995712137729,2.4549129251700683,397,14,79,7,6,124,71,98,0.172,0.8079999999999999,0.02,-0.917,0,0,2,0,0,1,16,0,0,0,0,3,7,4,1,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,16,16,7,2,2,7,1,0,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,9,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,5,6,2,7,11,0,7,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,3,4,41,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087902444040668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186004785589894,0.16391594222219266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773345531085299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492986666305104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672814905997389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25074505769664124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539829927070346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781569677819106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840495258474916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082166012279986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6361029874310052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24631712313434065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628199966814407,0.10250717755248537,0.0,0.12700433368298758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665423090287451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698276149184362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734888679239819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364348717474144,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ashley777,2018/04/09,"Books on consent and bodies? I'm looking for books for my almost 4 year old that will teach about consent, boundaries and that kind of thing. I want something that teaches the proper words for the body parts. I've taught her about her own body, but she doesn't know much about male parts and I want something so she can see and learn about them. I would prefer drawings, but everything I've seen so far is more cartoony than informative. Thank you in advance!",4.498555194805191,6.3673136931818215,3.6605844155844167,91.20909090909092,71.1590909090909,5.9376623376623385,26.20779220779221,6.18269132825596,0.7598974025974026,367,12,72,2,7,107,61,88,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.722,0,0,2,0,0,0,9,0,1,1,1,6,2,0,0,2,0,5,3,3,0,0,15,14,8,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,10,2,11,10,5,6,0,0,3,0,8,3,0,1,2,45,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894272641357894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6303784517061082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001454739414376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969923127561448,0.10396334287754527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885585629495108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906232893855458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850296785738414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4097071563554391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507446623135464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912658994438995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416308763509786,0.0,0.0,0.12567669609860915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22315571775694654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438153258163632,0.0,0.0,0.12181981460049646
parenting,oyp,2018/04/09,"Why don't more public restrooms have step stools? My daughter is very independent at 6 yrs old.  She insists on using the restroom alone, but she is adorably short and has trouble reaching most bathroom sinks to wash her hands.  As a Dad, I rarely can assist her in a women's room by lifting her.  Sometimes, I will find a nearby chair, and slide it in the door for her to use.  Is it unreasonable for me to request a business owner/manager to place a small step stool in their public restrooms for kids to use?",5.897878787878788,6.222393686868688,5.863181818181817,82.41477272727275,66.67676767676768,7.8121212121212125,32.66161616161617,7.1686216300943375,2.02299191919192,401,16,77,3,6,126,73,99,0.053,0.877,0.07,0.3939,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,8,2,1,4,0,9,11,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,11,1,15,10,2,13,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,1,1,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841277595715607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507367211183686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878678616229449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28662111548939123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713237898821933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7108106610515181,0.0,0.22635465531369714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24754417488842206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,towaaanda,2018/04/09,"4 year old daughter doesn't love me anymore I am getting drained and don't know what to do. Everyday, multiple times a day, my daughter tells me she ""doesn't love me"", that I'm ""not nice"", that I'm not her ""friend anymore"", that I ""scream"" at her. This is usually the result of me telling her ""no"" or that she cannot do something anymore that she is doing naughty. I do not scream at her, I tell her calmly, ""no, we are not playing the iPad right now"", or ""No, you cannot have donuts"". This happens everyday, 1-3 times a day. She demands that I say sorry to her for being so awful by saying no. It always has to go through the same routine, she gets mad, cries, says she doesn't love me anymore, says she's going to hit me, hits me, she goes to her room for timeout, screaming, until she is ready to apologize. She cries, says she is sorry, says she loves me know, and half of the time, asks again for the thing she wants, expecting me to say yes, in which I don't. I know she really doesn't mean it, but I am getting worn out, physically and emotionally, dealing with this on a constant basis. Does anyone have tips? Or dealt with this before? I am also a bit paranoid because I have recently come to the realization that my husband may have been dealing his entire life with undiagnosed Autism or Aspergers, or at the very least, OCD/ADD. Daughter is starting to exhibit some of his self-regulating behaviors.    ",6.220430107526879,5.516718713261653,6.678336917562723,80.31083870967745,66.168458781362,9.733906810035844,33.65376344086022,9.029198982220553,2.6716941935483858,1087,42,224,16,15,355,145,279,0.115,0.846,0.039,-0.939,0,0,1,0,1,0,60,1,1,0,0,4,12,1,0,11,2,29,5,0,1,0,29,52,12,0,2,10,4,0,0,1,1,1,10,1,0,16,9,0,0,4,1,0,3,16,4,0,1,2,10,46,8,27,46,4,27,0,0,0,4,48,8,0,7,16,154,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543084379969495,0.07848509820700379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741761259145223,0.06595351215151975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818017806165428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05749901591889029,0.0,0.08026275019071054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297734427497184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125174713707657,0.0,0.10193070110769234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20722090130758172,0.12166231334371175,0.19448774023631765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254354076623628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610176928117936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287446434183423,0.0,0.1478411419154139,0.0,0.10721297037222408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341037413182592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551395946182445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662380867990042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405242581117807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274645408120632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989771382937854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042634973948679,0.0,0.09313353989698522,0.0,0.0,0.0805521540083816,0.0,0.5250714413359779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840047078898492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261519946199188,0.0,0.21117592138926503,0.06676299062479754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473299187791757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626646536539194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500319428429444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388452568271477,0.07782715269470078,0.05563472066913131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060741543397473736
parenting,sloopbrianb,2018/04/09,"Do you think social media (Facebook in particular) has more of a negative impact on children/young adults? I may regret posting this but I’m not trying to stir a ruckus, believe me.. 

But.. I personally believe Facebook especially, though I’m not excluding others such as Instagram and the like, are a literal CANCER to today’s society. I honestly believe a lot of these school shootings and random acts of violence is fueled by social media more so than anything else these days. Call me crazy. 

But not just the violence, I think it also has lead people to criticize others more quickly than usual, and develops tensions and unfulfilled expectations of actual reality. People try to “one up” the last person, no matter what the subject may be. It’s a competition.

It seems people are quick to dismiss another’s success because it transpires to jealousy quicker than it can develop appreciation or excitement for another’s success. It’s turned people cold an callous and downright petty.

These are just random thoughts. But if I could have it my way, I would take the shit down for a brief period of time, like a 1/4 of a year and see how it pans out. I can honestly say I feel it would do more good than harm. 

Thoughts/Opinions??",6.1577833333333345,7.7574946755555585,7.096152777777778,69.2335625,66.68888888888888,10.069444444444443,34.951388888888886,10.270032843473604,4.082872222222223,982,47,155,25,16,328,137,225,0.18600000000000005,0.65,0.16399999999999998,-0.7171,0,0,0,1,0,0,31,0,1,0,3,9,12,1,1,14,0,17,2,1,2,0,36,27,17,0,6,11,0,1,2,0,4,1,1,0,3,16,7,0,0,5,0,0,3,5,4,0,1,1,4,12,8,25,20,5,19,0,1,1,0,8,5,1,8,11,116,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.12886078466562814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559954493696072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769297993906028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866508325419648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804958503643629,0.0,0.0,0.4463220430590592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483680234182366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543038890826203,0.0,0.0,0.08516068678212138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031000301499366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676794667254049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107564438812667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763756683195916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902495166904376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226334549152288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947982607872815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661846257911825,0.23060020290460556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646644908132598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501067216276473,0.0,0.13364064705499418,0.10522596387730278,0.1202124585477488,0.0,0.0,0.1355464103327782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692146710797816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928442120488756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692233463604336,0.12973748107446567,0.1048321632751423,0.07699883916556373,0.0,0.12516702062165988,0.0,0.0,0.17930521862351195,0.14363140316535036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454333278733792,0.0,0.0,0.10481435711531588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760765490720988,0.0,0.0,0.08503523251807796
parenting,workacct20910,2018/04/09,"Schools, Fundraising and Children So my five year old (Pre-K) was in the living room this morning when he took a box out of his bookbag and told his seven year old brother (2nd grade) that he ""needed money for his teacher"" and that he needed to open their banks.

I intervened and asked for the box.  These are photos of the box. 

https://imgur.com/Pcgpyja   https://imgur.com/BAhBBl7 https://imgur.com/rYxUqw3

So I know that my school system allows schools to raise funds for use by the school by contracting out school photos but this was new to me.  My wife said this is the first for the 5 year old but the second grader has had two or three of these a year. 

This raised numerous issues which i sent off in an angry email to the teacher, principals, school board and local education reporter:

How much instructional time is being devoted to private fundraisers?

How are the charities vetted?

Is there a school board policy on this?

Is it appropriate for a five year old to be given a mission to search their homes for change? 

I'm outraged.  Especially regarding ""How many times can you fill the box?""

Does anyone else have this kind of thing going on at their schools?     I'm furious right now.  I recall the March of Dimes but it wasn't mandatory or gamified like this.  ",5.0235217391304365,7.472168873913048,4.5941304347826115,82.60771739130438,71.13043478260869,7.730434782608696,25.41304347826087,8.548686976883017,1.8075391304347823,1011,32,180,18,20,306,136,230,0.07,0.883,0.047,-0.7538,0,0,0,0,0,0,42,0,1,3,1,8,5,2,0,17,0,15,0,0,5,0,21,28,16,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,16,8,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,2,0,7,9,1,15,3,28,17,1,33,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,2,17,117,31,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490365403330556,0.09510762607787908,0.0,0.0,0.08677651246775964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819390292887012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812296000290017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754129257006591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895477570753533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052753168936140786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310854123923948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968825796337095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666035550215428,0.05101282147073235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045348387511366745,0.0,0.08196397288927305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410745144625683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823522179161233,0.13765342326581004,0.0,0.08964855416608425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896064201262379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926991247087177,0.08829545881181734,0.0,0.0,0.7515306484860268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061667148089507524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825109875993542,0.0,0.0,0.08869588176750776,0.10312921892500797,0.0,0.0,0.09067410017579416,0.0,0.0,0.08016884190039235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988732509848461
parenting,party_atthemoontower,2018/04/09,"Tweens and sexuality My daughter (12) has a friend who is the same age. There has been an issue with them for some time. First it started off with aggressive hugging. Anytime her friend would see her, she would hug her as tight as she could. My daughter didn't like that and she told her to stop. The girl didn't.  Then the other girl tried to kiss my daughter while they were out. Again, my daughter told her that she doesn't feel the same way.  Now she is sending my daughter texts about how she thinks she is gay and has a big crush on my daughter. I asked how she feels about it and basically my daughter says she doesn't know if she is gay and feels like her friend is being pushy about it. I am a little lost as to how to handle the situation. ",2.125874060150373,4.103741493421055,2.61796992481203,95.63078947368422,78.14473684210526,5.395488721804512,20.72556390977444,6.18269132825596,-0.11027781954887184,585,15,132,4,14,180,82,152,0.085,0.802,0.113,0.8212,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,2,2,9,10,1,0,9,0,19,5,0,3,0,25,30,14,0,4,1,7,4,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,7,8,0,2,5,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,7,6,27,8,16,19,3,16,0,1,1,5,36,5,0,2,11,96,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826272639866036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559722614815047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29632673496217826,0.1395591368784481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616586972771438,0.0,0.0,0.4527842083035871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20389619199137896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736006493575373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908777318167092,0.1957935043835137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324921781204645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553513383240094,0.0,0.0,0.15566983791357225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195832492653772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827078354100236,0.0,0.0,0.16332258516443265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517334091535542,0.0,0.0,0.1139110193983406,0.0,0.0,0.3733334229143497,0.0,0.13263083221896932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506091255369298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775441740291841,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chevey0,2018/04/09,"Questions about Chicken pox on holiday! I’ve taken my family on holiday to Sweden for a week of skiing. It’s a huge family gathering, me my wife and our two kids with my two siblings. Mum her bf, two uncles each with two teenagers and my Gran. 

We were worried our 1yo daughter had caught chicken pox from a family friend but hasn’t presented in spots but our 5yo has. 

We’re here in the mountains and all I want to do is ski and I’m wondering how much activity should let me son do. He’s normally bouncing off the walls with energy and I want him to encourage him to ski. Today he’s covered in spots so we’re having a day inside playing board games and what not. 

What do I do is the question? Will he be fine to do every thing he wants? Should I take any precautions with his rental gear?",2.4107142857142847,4.181699401234571,4.07347442680776,86.46777777777778,76.5925925925926,7.838447971781306,24.53439153439153,8.634040054169528,1.669742857142857,621,21,130,13,14,208,102,162,0.01,0.848,0.142,0.9523,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,1,1,26,25,10,0,6,3,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,4,12,0,0,3,7,0,1,2,0,0,4,4,0,18,4,19,16,3,13,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,3,4,84,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063279176159298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083713635349388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173726325537935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421975437617625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080079846525744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988531911455892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494016504192092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319636820852375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350310575547644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175607794759681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387644376271166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820786917416745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6109511050502406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766696979492392,0.0,0.1254199133504271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956217128612772,0.0,0.15878781845972365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pregnancyinsomnia,2018/04/09,"Toddler's crying is driving me crazy I don't know what it is, but the sound of my toddler's cry drives me insane. I feel an instant cortisol spike when I hear it and it makes nights where he doesn't go to sleep unbearable.

It never happened with my eldest and he used to have huge tantrums. Yet as soon as I hear the youngest cry, I can't stand it. I can track the number of times he cries throughout the day by the heart rate spikes on my fitness tracker. 

I always encourage calmness in my kids and when they're upset, they're always helped in calming down and sometimes then expressing themselves with words. I try to stay as calm as possible because I believe it has a huge impact on them.

Even his brother (who is only a year older) hates when he cries. He covers his ears, asks me to make it stop and even tries hard to console him. He cries more when his brother or I am around yet can happily play by himself for extended times.

I'm so ashamed to admit but there have been times where I've snapped and yelled at him for crying (mainly in the evening when he should have been asleep hrs ago but is still carrying on). It's like my own version of a toddler tantrum and I'm so disappointed to lose my calm but it drives me mad everytime I hear it. 

Does anyone have any tips or suggestions on how to deal with it? ",2.984249233912152,4.664083191011238,3.5506724548859374,91.222208886619,74.76779026217228,6.502485529451822,25.994041538985357,7.1686216300943375,1.0543498127340825,1040,37,220,11,22,326,150,267,0.214,0.657,0.129,-0.9833,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,1,1,19,15,4,2,10,0,18,4,4,4,1,28,33,26,0,1,6,2,2,1,0,1,0,6,0,1,13,11,0,1,3,1,0,4,4,8,0,0,2,8,28,7,32,30,4,41,0,2,0,0,28,15,0,2,21,137,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571596190689475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091912356738022,0.0,0.0,0.06575720359266474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761271638866362,0.0,0.0,0.08608073632351705,0.09039854248682504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05894552889040651,0.0,0.0,0.108944286214661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7435189803393173,0.0623614969010226,0.09969025145666348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462010330430941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916021589529435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04889285487046369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054955073069572286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550874375107133,0.0,0.08662142354818785,0.09546816330740243,0.0,0.0,0.3269532807426974,0.11458628460995697,0.06481388956297669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05314208393438419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047241217912258986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081790899409801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909185481469165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457860559458858,0.0,0.0,0.09074348430869568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735423449865197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109011218669653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676672703855807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956357004008556,0.0,0.0,0.10306602275136252,0.0772222642159864,0.08084293293211721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691542089940163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313016869407729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351506939558942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226962920955624
parenting,craftycreation,2018/04/09,"Going back to work I took 12 weeks off when I had my twins I have to start work back in two weeks. Every time I think about it, it breaks my heart! I need some advice on how to get through being away from them for so long.",1.0358163265306146,2.1833908979591854,1.9507653061224524,102.89512755102041,78.79591836734693,4.9,14.290816326530615,3.1291,-1.5651673469387752,170,1,45,0,4,53,38,49,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,4,9,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,8,0,11,6,1,15,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,8,31,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24144920248892984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321450680578381,0.3799871711978936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20818028663910235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909203531232954,0.0,0.1404244486133927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29279764244221623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866299319461704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832108520840401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748884694402077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583224846694547,0.0,0.0,0.14407760862251912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27452120878282804,0.0,0.0,0.24136674208358785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39639435139817386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597625397577686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ohnoaduck,2018/04/09,"Theres poop on everything. Help? My son is about to turn five, he’s been fully potty trained since he was two. 

Recently, he’s been...well playing with his own shit. Every time I go in the bathroom theres poop to clean up somewhere. 

It started with dirty toilet paper in the sink that he’d been wetting and...building with? Now it’s escalated to painting. I just went to take a shower and my towel was crusted with shit on the back (where I can’t see it). He fully confessed to playing with it and putting his fingers in his butt to get it out. Oh god this is so gross. 

I don’t even know how to handle this. It’s totally out of the realms of “things I know how to deal with”. 

Can anyone help me get some perspective and tell me how you dealt with a similar issue? ",1.1252848101265829,3.1966356265822817,2.675174050632915,93.4713686708861,81.9746835443038,5.468987341772152,21.900316455696203,6.6274283507984215,0.380087341772152,591,19,130,6,16,193,96,158,0.092,0.821,0.087,-0.5902,2,0,0,0,0,0,23,0,1,0,0,12,5,2,0,6,0,10,6,6,3,1,21,20,7,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,10,12,0,0,3,2,0,3,2,3,0,2,5,3,14,2,26,14,3,17,1,0,1,1,15,9,3,1,5,84,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664801681959244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126934095174852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622230925213007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852461553377546,0.0,0.17670647942979947,0.0,0.18849170330140372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191504243820602,0.0,0.11919433074544837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28115505113379097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890351751781234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305241272614931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108364690584157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708296616416905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671275699555462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43056944009616105,0.1734907337978765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844789690015014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576907774374391,0.0,0.18331316966507308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933522087378564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229518652016227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281258968396884,0.20487562935759795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442171090593766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FakeGenius,2018/04/09,"Please replace the bathtub toys of your kids regularly to avoid mold from forming. I was emptying the bathtub toys of our son and some black flakes were coming out. So I cut them open and was disgusted that I saw mold forming inside them. https://imgur.com/gallery/GHhcC

After a google search I found this article: https://www.care.com/c/stories/4296/mold-in-your-kids-toys-how-dangerous-is-it/ 

You should replace the toys regularly to avoid mold forming inside them.",13.10820895522388,16.743742208955233,8.304656716417913,59.389223880597065,52.28358208955224,9.53910447761194,34.295522388059695,9.888512548439397,3.705778507462688,396,14,49,7,5,106,45,67,0.168,0.799,0.033,-0.8173,0,2,0,0,0,0,29,1,2,3,0,1,4,2,2,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,7,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,4,0,0,5,2,10,0,7,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,1,1,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981688103322587,0.0,0.0,0.4208928574612191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5357338721031781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5363452779987976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Marty_here,2018/04/09,"Not sure this counts as parenting, but my 8year old cousin is watching youtube videos of girls dancing and grinding against men in clubs. Let me first say, I am a teenager (girl) and my 8 year old cousin is staying over at my house (in another province than his) for around 20 days. 

Our schools don't have the same schedules and holydays so while me and my older cousin Nam (turning 19 this month and she lives with me and my parents) go to school he is left at the care of the rest of the family ( his parents are in their home province running a shrimp farm).

So yeah I saw in my youtube history a few videos of revealingly dressed girls dancing suggestively in clubs (titles are in his language which I can't read but can speak a little), our ipad which he uses is logged into my account so I assume it was him because just trust me on this one it was him.

I am pretty sure he really respects him and likes me as a cousin since he always says something along this line to the rest of the family, but I'm not sure what to do because my level of thai is not good enough and he won't understand.

He always tries to be cool (definitely took it from Nam) and I never know what to do about it. I mean, he swears when with other cousins and we let it slide because we are more friendly and he knows to not be disrespectful to adults amd always apologizes if sometimes he takes things too far.

Thing is I don't even know wether to bring the videos up to the rest of the family if at all. A few days ago he drew a backwards swastika while giggling lime it was a cool thing. I really, really wanted to explain why it was not okay to him since he probably doesn't know anything about the Holocaust, but couldn't find the words. I even asked Nam to say something to him but that lazy ass didn't want to and said : ""he just thinks is a cool thing, let him"" , like that excused his behaviour! That day before at Holocaust survivor came to talk at my school, I was very frustrated when I couldn't explain it to him.

Still though, what am I to do?",6.210271171371418,5.5089331222493865,6.02818070682374,84.95593631918206,66.1882640586797,9.196754834407647,31.30484552122693,8.296473431620573,1.9996591687041567,1593,52,342,18,22,498,200,409,0.06,0.82,0.12,0.9812,3,0,2,0,0,0,39,4,0,1,1,15,16,1,0,20,5,36,1,1,1,5,58,59,29,2,6,14,8,0,2,1,1,0,5,1,5,25,20,0,0,12,8,1,8,14,1,0,2,10,10,44,15,51,41,9,47,0,0,2,1,55,21,1,3,19,226,69,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783244295115102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917846267207128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920695520912475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225474156402023,0.0781636681201882,0.08208435447082185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057246792276691,0.0,0.07471425191329115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042373283479114,0.0895214486906166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987784568652672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072441454025704,0.0,0.1159866748600904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483197785347099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025074433908344,0.0746855527150789,0.0,0.0,0.06783671222260364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04990071270750995,0.0736453512898016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880739993576304,0.0,0.0,0.10131336952140413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301787550939373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539868361903517,0.26935486815957194,0.0,0.08579264156406866,0.08800210366224212,0.07753203733532829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564367574223903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008386014318951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771941813617212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426985934489998,0.0,0.059497876547775976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29248595458381504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932765422661462,0.09466694813292782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782719086863783,0.0,0.16874737680590374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835211687259939,0.20947443515509206,0.0,0.26658527632520285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452638092855522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519074022372762,0.08683983741124214,0.0,0.0,0.09358677377628774,0.07011993262909429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482610810304323,0.0,0.06601725209846045,0.070573071110034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23333078958961245,0.05626089260553537,0.08626642418589846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755284145216693,0.0596127654106485,0.09550491846505076,0.0,0.09140646719832483,0.0,0.0758339722227486,0.0,0.07244702528021578,0.10357747586077988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922893863728041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056542530180160824
parenting,Tootski,2018/04/09,"Being abused by a baby that I’ve never met It’s currently 1:30am. The baby has been screaming/crying nonstop since 11:30pm..... I’m not sure what to do.

Oh, and it’s NOT MY KID. I’ve never even laid eyes on him/her. 

I’m a guy in my early 20s, so I’m about as far removed from babies as possible- I’m a single dude, you know? Im not even thinking about babies. Go figure, I share a wall in my condo with a baby in the next unit. I have been living here for about a year, and this baby typically screams bloody murder every night/early morning without fail for about 15 minutes. I found that annoying because it’s not my kid, but hey, I get it. Kids wake up. Figured I’d live with it. 

The parents are seemingly harmless people, but they’ve been doing this thing lately where they just leave their baby to scream/cry all night without tending to it. Like for hours at a time until the baby taps out. What the fuck? That’s fucked up because 1). TEND TO YOUR SCREAMING INFANT and 2). YOU HAVE FUCKING NEIGHBORS. 

TL;DR I am being abused by a baby that I’ve never even met, nor am I related to. I am never having one, because holy shit  this is insane. 

EDIT: I figured this sub could appreciate this/ give feedback better than any other ",1.460750695088045,3.7082246224899613,3.3096586345381525,88.39153151065806,81.89156626506025,4.955267222737104,21.223509422304602,6.093298490706669,0.3250165585418596,957,29,187,7,26,320,147,249,0.16399999999999998,0.77,0.066,-0.9779,2,0,0,0,2,0,46,0,3,2,2,11,14,6,0,13,0,17,6,3,0,6,29,35,10,1,1,9,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,5,19,6,0,0,7,0,0,2,11,9,0,1,6,3,17,5,31,26,2,26,0,1,1,3,17,11,4,1,14,121,36,3,0.0,0.29107314237752685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353039498844395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246328786205092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863547216567117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980718535897253,0.0,0.26985173471908525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24338936486896645,0.0,0.10349178166139368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467962984956006,0.0,0.3406703388885247,0.06417497520276322,0.11783224353702325,0.06980860969325399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162360737844607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096538980427915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268030981408074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750559663463736,0.0,0.13856054769299414,0.13006201094037834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600098145351536,0.0,0.2169269110358888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789443615390161,0.0,0.130633886875033,0.2305401894486447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832345635190901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363910903369221,0.0,0.0,0.08515667394210599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847532522905978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182220568885584,0.0,0.0,0.12608592120755546,0.10160841413638017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576829245747765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160453596802356,0.0787061843367784,0.0,0.0,0.07162468961197398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23681252839986405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910018126498307
parenting,longorange,2018/04/09,"Baby formula. Love it? Hate it? I'm looking at starting my own baby formula business. Designed for parents, by parents. So I was wondering, what are biggest pain points with your current formula brand, and what would you love to see changed for the better?

Are the tins poorly designed? Packaging too confusing? Scoops too small?

I'd love to hear what everyone thinks, so that I can put an end to these issues once and for all!",2.6120253164556964,5.536373050632914,3.4732784810126605,84.23168987341775,84.31645569620251,6.704303797468356,29.418987341772148,7.908726449838941,2.5506901265822792,337,17,58,7,10,107,57,79,0.095,0.726,0.179,0.8706,3,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,2,0,1,4,7,1,1,3,0,5,4,0,0,1,8,16,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,7,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,3,5,4,9,14,2,8,0,0,2,3,8,4,0,2,3,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927097618404466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20246772372786356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695168097783404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288358798113455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889603170159265,0.0,0.0,0.215713083252704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19976388331900616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072136675319482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5182171925745708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20382660149468704,0.0,0.0,0.2036549496833873,0.0,0.4250370996487929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092762988864405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924021700608327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251491964386604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546848717449433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263648685661817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075568343498218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595963086691704,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leahv123,2018/04/09,"I don’t like being a mom. i’m 21 years old, I have a three month old, and I don’t like being a mom. every day is the same. he’s beautiful but between  fighting nap time and wanting to be constantly held it’s too much. I wasn’t ready for this but I thought I was strong enough. i’m not. it’s not ppd, i’m on meds for that. it’s just something i’m going to have to accept and deal with. i’m barely making ends meet by waitressing. i’m sharing a room with my son until his father and I can afford to move in together. (which will be at least a year from now) my life literally fucking sucks. I used to be in a sorority in college. I completed 81 college credits. now I can barely handle a class at a time. I hate staying home with him. I was never meant to be a stahm. no one understands what i’m going through and every day I fantasize about killing myself but I know i can’t yet because he’s so young. I just need help. I don’t know where to turn. ",-0.9410144927536236,1.132502144927539,1.8222222222222229,95.65333333333336,92.76811594202898,4.8057971014492775,18.777777777777786,6.42735559955562,-0.01202222222222149,732,23,171,9,27,253,117,207,0.105,0.7559999999999999,0.139,0.5662,1,0,1,0,2,1,24,0,0,0,1,9,11,5,0,10,0,19,2,0,2,1,28,42,10,1,2,7,4,0,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,7,8,0,1,6,1,1,3,9,5,0,2,6,0,22,6,24,29,4,29,0,0,0,1,13,8,2,0,19,108,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324461703545348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037843747938482,0.1652982931455617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729652123758795,0.1576977846195476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547951394385147,0.1580513160009646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577552744708235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141151322137047,0.0,0.0,0.17386440800471348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101895757399286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102527645856131,0.0,0.15343401855478267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692305186208054,0.0,0.1681285538769353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804204952940233,0.14945965726109262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210376250056301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990703092557818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582960344669768,0.1220933348778298,0.16257509879609425,0.11244515430182322,0.11341987329189612,0.11797423228884328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210171585714768,0.0,0.10365145628430836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775812779714055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303784191479592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143526496511645,0.17838751283870088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637944840380486,0.0,0.1592395222929075,0.0,0.13211062499684278,0.0,0.0,0.09022133926579552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970058743345925
parenting,obamapastry,2018/04/09,"Starting school - which simple things saved your sanity? My daughter will be starting in primary school this Autumn, and I'm looking for your best tips. 
Is there anything you wish someone had told you earlier? 
Things which made the transition easier for your kid? 
Something you bought that isn't on the lists of things they need, but you found super helpful?",6.476190476190478,8.823649000000003,5.057333333333336,81.24600000000002,66.93650793650794,8.214603174603175,30.06031746031745,8.841846274778883,2.592513650793651,289,11,47,5,5,84,50,63,0.0,0.7509999999999999,0.249,0.9536,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,7,1,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,15,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,9,3,5,8,1,5,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,0,3,32,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878056737949852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395028856949426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502315295010592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297110371060035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164738193852116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21594735042862293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922229175654374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619417942716522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933701265572535,0.17569496138923912,0.0,0.0,0.3230706834646538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548578253217431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807405912575048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26244182000471344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,User0728,2018/04/09,"I’m hurting for my child. Junior high sucks and I don’t know what to do. To make a very long story short my daughter was set to tryout for cheerleading again this year but quit halfway through because she couldn’t take the bullying anymore. She made the squad last year. I really thought that when she made it that the other girls would accept her. Nope. Just made fun of her more. 

So after an already sad week she got invited to a bonfire birthday on Friday night. She was so excited. Friday rolls around and she said that due to the weather they had postponed it to next week. She found out this morning that they only invited her as a joke. 

Have you ever had your child look at you with tears streaming down their face and have them ask you why people just don’t like them?  It broke my heart. ",2.7033333333333367,4.966692369426756,2.9225732484076445,92.75146072186837,77.53503184713375,5.715329087048832,22.568577494692143,6.742157984588678,0.5181476857749471,630,19,128,6,15,192,106,157,0.142,0.7709999999999999,0.087,-0.8651,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,4,5,1,8,9,1,0,8,0,11,2,2,4,1,20,25,8,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,11,6,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,11,2,24,5,18,12,1,21,0,3,1,0,25,7,1,0,14,85,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18731236470984966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833651790270246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511046304164557,0.15868403241023604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347195828126336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353959194517666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611120233212386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357566230777935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20114277510021794,0.0,0.17933968093768413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817102328927834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328469173737317,0.13836079467847887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292641394500894,0.0,0.0,0.15021460178445706,0.14253889087238686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4818364149654935,0.11330280063031732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052046756282691,0.15928953729710235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290949558956271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767637757597953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805394356195528,0.0,0.0,0.10873982170674122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146165649347416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762339229153147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347546386036115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400533168799841,0.0,0.0,0.27231045717868024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316399267068428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057846059104807,0.0,0.0,0.21861405256844085
parenting,boxcarhero,2018/04/09,Proud Parent I just want to brag on my little guy for a moment. He’s not even two yet and he already has such a desire to help out around the house whether it’s helping me put away groceries or put dishes away. Daycare workers at my church always tell me how good he is with others with sharing and being kind. He’s so happy go lucky and I just feel incredible blessed to have him as my son. ,2.175801393728225,3.830452085365856,3.3688153310104525,91.77426829268295,76.92682926829268,5.173519163763067,22.68989547038328,5.288315135182226,0.11118954703832752,309,9,66,1,7,100,64,82,0.0,0.6659999999999999,0.334,0.9835,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,0,17,7,8,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,8,7,13,6,0,12,2,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,2,44,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23200349198473585,0.0,0.17493533366642836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18715690214035946,0.0,0.0,0.3950521178269013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388605939206744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630293890567287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948342535016568,0.17633813939289586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20816923982407765,0.0,0.2238028691384385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818369661868263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24258708478050697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893112023171335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107142806800552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23344505401708576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226956660486254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18375777846477329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537253586913187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400415678940345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShroudedSciuridae,2018/04/09,"Toddler keeps unfortunately mispronouncing a word My two year old loves her some Sesame Street, and was particularly fond of Abby's Flying Fairy School segment so I got her the only toy made of that segment, a playset (complete with flapping roof) and two figures, Abby and Blögg.

Unfortunately she's two, so pronunciation isn't perfect. She calls them Ab, and F\*ck. I'm sure you can imagine where this is going. Blögg has since been ""lost"" in a kitchen cabinet but that doesn't stop her from wandering around the house asking ""where F\*uck?"" and then calling for him for the next five minutes. Efforts to tell her ""No, that's Blögg, *Blögg*"" result in a very forceful rebuttal ""No, F\*ck.""

We're doing out best to keep a straight face, but we need to nip this in the butt quite before we become *those* parents. Ideas?",3.2661647058823533,6.1685292400000025,3.5058431372549035,85.64311764705883,79.93333333333334,5.662745098039216,24.823529411764717,7.048011613610866,1.1350941176470588,646,24,118,8,17,199,106,150,0.037000000000000005,0.851,0.113,0.9083,1,0,0,0,0,0,38,2,1,1,5,5,6,0,0,9,0,8,4,2,2,2,25,18,10,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,10,1,3,3,1,0,1,4,1,0,4,5,0,13,5,14,13,4,17,0,1,0,2,17,11,1,1,5,70,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240237455982013,0.14954527176080634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766682908564111,0.13611806024192033,0.0,0.16787293869930556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32668340564834586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771979971343687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091154692037116,0.0,0.1279382732032741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457762719528975,0.0,0.1805805194472493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28436770511321285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174620215702411,0.0,0.14437426256065186,0.1513623362641061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861169575545592,0.0,0.0,0.17012412635368213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678558987928332,0.0,0.0,0.1216602576146505,0.0,0.0,0.17762171547564728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014200202242302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618926767571089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232433864324175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373753649884454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507647065008987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981607783610664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4687863996894436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198751642303566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301193322829193
parenting,yeyourma,2018/04/10,"My 22 month old can read numbers My son can read numbers. He's been counting to 10 for months. He doesn't know it as a rhyme. If you ask him what numbers comes after 5, he will say 6. We always counted out loud a lot, but I've never really shown him actual numbers printed that much. He watches kids educational TV programs a fair bit.
He now says numbers out as he see's them. He counts down when a count down timer comes on  TV as the numbers come up and knows it's going backwards.
Honestly I'm a little taken aback by how amazing this is. I would understand if I showed him numbers and drilled it into his head on purpose.
I looked it up and it says he not supposed to understand print at his age.
It's my first kid. Has anyone else ever experienced this? Is his normal for his age?
I'm delighted he's coming along so well obviously",2.294437984496124,4.078573366279073,4.043627906976745,86.49517054263569,76.96511627906978,6.6796899224806205,25.420155038759688,7.554174236665415,1.2789127131782947,657,24,136,9,15,221,112,172,0.0,0.879,0.121,0.9704,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,1,1,1,6,3,0,0,6,0,9,1,1,1,3,27,24,12,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,10,12,0,0,4,5,0,5,3,0,1,1,2,8,16,3,20,20,3,28,0,0,3,0,26,12,0,3,11,78,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.1430906466666957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220086892873159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252776329945272,0.15024072711656253,0.0,0.0,0.1370801361304086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600830105116287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052382883870553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224913359497092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263608093119347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472420352403504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833337428922755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048564851266985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116906090694286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696272423109058,0.0,0.0,0.12313306050952008,0.0,0.0,0.1246603824820065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23407883636065935,0.0,0.10779061322103774,0.0,0.11309082122438226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366718950168555,0.0,0.0,0.1538645066198888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29334124286751445,0.0,0.09393553551639464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498204288992438,0.0,0.0,0.11684587561995363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052959616366376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183882564387814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416241345244366,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GonnaThrowThisOut2,2018/04/10,"4.5 year old doesn't seem to have friends Hey all here's the deal. I have an awesome, very active and boisterous 4.5 year old boy. He's in a Pre-K program but he's been at this school since he's been 3 months old. The entire time he's been there, he's never seemed to develop a ""best friend"". He doesn't seem depressed about it, but he has been less excited to go to school since about Sept. 

Often when I pick him up, he appears to be playing alone. I ask him who his friends are and he says he doesn't have any. He says the kids don't like him. I've asked his teachers about this now several times, and they're not concerned. 

Am I over thinking this? I have theories as to what the issue could be (though is this even an issue?)

Looking for a little guidance. Thx",1.0370263975155292,3.025250136645962,2.186548913043481,97.30851902173914,81.79503105590062,5.2672360248447205,20.62150621118013,6.322622252153567,-0.024972360248447067,596,17,138,5,16,189,97,161,0.032,0.7929999999999999,0.175,0.9719,0,1,0,0,0,0,24,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,0,9,0,19,0,0,1,2,16,28,8,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,7,3,0,0,4,1,0,2,6,1,0,0,4,3,10,7,15,21,3,18,0,1,1,0,28,5,0,5,12,77,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923892984138905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142357037133793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25136584462154793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108611569059196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073391190039053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386013732554972,0.11579267131863577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879611918436635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31160321429301696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640514978648684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28064012675998823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568042091605766,0.13474384526831884,0.0,0.0,0.11289544433471604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730844393430293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368814402462978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232153843244526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21382360726691352,0.0,0.272120201140049,0.0,0.3671664174084535,0.0,0.1518785348500449,0.0,0.22241973119850675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614349762584546,0.1320862709938053,0.0,0.15678567908056584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092678877284314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731494503112365
parenting,stiffasabored89,2018/04/10,"Husband says my strict diet is setting a bad example for our children. We have two young kiddos, a 6 yr old picky eater girl and 3 yr old boy with several food allergies.  My husband has gout so he can’t eat a lot of animal products.  He eats a lot of pasta, rice and bread, but I am an endurance athlete so I eat completely opposite from him and our kiddos.  My diet consists of mainly chicken and veggies and I exclude all starches from my diet unless the night before a long run.  
I’ve been batch cooking chicken and veggies each week for myself but will cook  nightly for the family to meet everyone’s individual needs.  Because we have so many different dietary requirements from each family member, I almost always eat a completely different meal from everyone else.  It’s just easier for me. And since I’m the one cooking, I feel like it’s no big deal.  My husband will cook spaghetti every so often and I’ll often decline his offer to eat bc I genuinely don’t want to eat spaghetti.  I don’t eat pasta as a side dish, let alone an entire plate of it.   
However, my husband says I’m setting a bad example bc I won’t eat spaghetti or what they are eating and rarely eat the things he eats.  He eats like a frat boy to be honest and i would be obese if I ate what he did.   
I think he’s just being unreasonable but I could see how the inconsistencies could be viewed as problematic for our kiddos.   
My solution is to feed everyone what I’m eating bc that is what is best for them health wise, but I also know it’s not very loving to give your family grilled chicken and kale 5 nights a week. I try to very the options from day to day, even cooking pasta or tater tots for him and our kids to eat as a compromise. I just won’t partake.  
I’m not hardcore with my diet every day btw.  I eat pizza and cheeseburgers now and then, but 90% of the time I’m pretty health conscience and prefer to eat salads and veggies in place of his pasta and sandwiches.   I don’t think I have to eat his spaghetti to prove anything to my kids  or him.   
But I want genuine feedback as to what would be a good solution ",3.974565560821482,5.030040421800951,5.470881516587678,80.89335229067932,71.32227488151659,8.375481832543446,28.758609794628754,8.745826893841286,2.2171125434439185,1646,62,322,29,30,557,199,422,0.055,0.845,0.1,0.9613,3,1,0,0,0,0,31,6,1,2,2,13,9,0,0,21,0,30,43,0,1,2,61,46,39,0,9,16,4,1,2,0,6,3,2,0,6,11,23,40,1,6,5,0,1,9,2,0,2,3,5,45,7,40,29,7,22,0,0,2,1,38,4,0,10,17,200,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050237544323734826,0.05196050998388455,0.0,0.04012056060742726,0.0417450737758645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04128525422352635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377893561213832,0.03058288409403412,0.0,0.042690580819914135,0.0,0.05264983385953437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520361004323514,0.0,0.0,0.08011258591282137,0.0,0.0,0.09706560281444053,0.05172258970265098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048329762317904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8727113400995403,0.041910210543147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03313650602360477,0.0,0.08453999742172688,0.14381742769482814,0.0,0.0,0.14188612350722582,0.0,0.025367225329505576,0.03584112725203916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066520327415548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048127191381285635,0.0,0.0420798273520417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665574358016686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02757186548452897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051301750665314685,0.0,0.049020603227016415,0.0,0.0,0.044398461495411934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530469254339994,0.04527996588554719,0.0,0.0,0.05086403609054845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03720007598430291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124213567044494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105288979298985,0.0,0.03399617666417745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524164881158952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104045539584998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979365894896505,0.0,0.0,0.039978625511449886,0.0,0.0,0.0566772966109633,0.0,0.04150075943817537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03333041111858382,0.06429322709580264,0.0,0.0,0.02925426047325972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03406182240324554,0.0,0.049008347723171135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279024439612237,0.05918258553252976,0.0,0.08048595279168556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127799929076707,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snizzator,2018/04/10,"My daughter is saying negative things about her mom I am a father of an almost 3-year-old girl. I am undergoing a divorce right now and I get to see my child every other weekend. That is soon to increase to being 50-50 timesharing.

My daughter and I have a great relationship, especially given the limited time I see her. But over the last 6 months, my daughter has been voluntarily saying a lot of negative things about her Mom.

She'll say things like ""Mommy NOT nice!""  Or ""Mommy sad"". ""Mommy doesn't like me.""  I never badmouth her mother, ever. I've asked my ex about these things and she says that ""kids simply say random things.""  But these are pretty much the most consistent sentences out of her mouth, repeating them 10 times a day every time I see her.

Is this normal? Is she just favoring one parent and I'm reading too much into this?
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parenting,yowhywouldyoudothat,2018/04/10,"Car seat laws across the US for toddlers According to IIHS, if you don’t have the option, a carseat can be put on the front seat of a vehicle. 

http://www.iihs.org/iihs/topics/laws/safetybeltuse?topicName=child-safety

I have to do a roadtrip with my son in a van that I need to load up and wondering if it will be OK to put him in the front next to me. He is 2.5.",7.226029411764706,7.621071308823531,6.4841176470588255,78.85352941176474,63.852941176470594,9.15294117647059,27.294117647058826,8.841846274778883,1.507400000000001,291,7,61,4,4,89,49,68,0.0,0.953,0.047,0.4466,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,8,11,3,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,13,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,4,1,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566615822372104,0.0,0.0,0.3681283466065839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6959411724136928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163689242289188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753786836037738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yamski,2018/04/10,"Three year old cries most mornings for mommy I have a three year old daughter that cries almost every morning for my wife when she wakes up. My wife often leaves for work before she gets up, and I’m in charge of getting her ready for daycare.  It’s hard to get her out the door when she crying for mommy.

Today she cried for 45 mins straight. When I try to hold or comfort her, she usually pushes me aside or tries to kick me out of the way. This morning I alternated between trying to soothe her and giving her some time to herself. This was total ugly face crying. I thought she could vomit at any moment. The crying didn’t stop until the fourth attempt. I picked her up and she saw a piece of chocolate on her bookshelf. She asked, “What’s that?” in between her cries. When I told her it was a piece of her chocolate bunny, the cries slowly transformed into a laugh, and within 2 minutes she was back to her normal self. I was relieved. I almost called in to worked with an excuse of why I had to be late.

My daughter does favor my wife, often telling me things like only girls are allowed her room, I don’t love you, I love mommy. I take it to mean that she wants to hang out with my wife instead. My feelings aren’t hurt, I just want to let her know that I’m available to help, would do anything in the world for her, and that I want to get to work by 9:30. I am a huge softy around her, so I don’t know where this comes from.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make this easier?

While I’m on the subject of my mornings, sometimes it takes 45 mins for her to settle on her outfit. Even after picking them out the night before, she will change her mind and frustrate herself. She’s currently obsessed with ballet and wants everything to fit like her leotard. We often go through 4 changes for the right fit. We go through crazy things like too many creases in her leggings, the seams of at the foot of her tights aren’t running parallel to her toes, and the top part of her dress isn’t hugging her torso enough.

I am tired. Please help.",3.540719542749766,4.850155885922335,3.884973379267148,90.88075947384905,72.66504854368931,5.995740682743503,24.698089570936432,5.843745405466311,0.5125060131537742,1603,47,333,7,31,499,207,412,0.097,0.758,0.14400000000000002,0.9494,4,0,0,0,0,0,44,2,1,1,5,17,13,1,1,18,0,22,10,5,5,1,52,50,18,0,7,3,6,3,3,0,2,2,0,2,2,16,20,0,3,5,1,0,6,6,3,0,2,9,4,69,10,68,36,7,59,0,1,1,3,61,30,0,9,25,228,85,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469886696915716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505812281938542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05401130731253352,0.0,0.0635658264838364,0.06876418152663044,0.07221339001962747,0.0,0.0,0.059396425012349124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314591422012598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788755000651482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342935220832827,0.06653949033402287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061673626953275835,0.0,0.6787976207478483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351947576877328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798144490961037,0.0,0.05101941193756195,0.0,0.06508201182386304,0.0,0.06942257749996962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03905725358844602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614287213107433,0.07410017823637095,0.08779991393574806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919610063018759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355102099975648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269207505718433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490336078524195,0.0,0.08713541363874656,0.081791009855759,0.0,0.07898796416397343,0.0,0.113213611644149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943275916826264,0.0,0.05156145333565025,0.07831402647768973,0.0,0.08414214991165217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799515162341862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248894112511632,0.07568342927992996,0.0,0.0,0.1621106885413255,0.0,0.0,0.05874809366803173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364850905504741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847915112087358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596657255853168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058309397188601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639700754969315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458004836757636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615683901138105,0.0,0.06751529380308721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026359250849184,0.0,0.0,0.06132368283457381,0.04504201996887563,0.08878144751145005,0.0732189667192653,0.07381064439057153,0.0,0.1573322921219271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507415084697041,0.0,0.1822437591134816,0.06131326676317375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970134910044057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870523797641065,0.0,0.0,0.05487243593682435,0.0,0.0,0.09948613985989063
parenting,singthrowinitallaway,2018/04/10,"Should I intervene in my tween's toxic friendship? My tween has a friend who has monopolized her to the point of diminishing my daughter's other friendships.

This all started YEARS ago, and back then it seemed far more innocent. The girl would find where my daughter was sitting for lunch and run and sit next to her. I'd call it best friend status if it weren't for this pesky pattern that my daughter's other friends seem to fall by the wayside when this girl's in the picture.

The girl was out of the picture for awhile (not our doing) and my daughter nearly instantly began socializing with a larger group. She was having frequent playdates with other kids, attending other kids' birthday parties. Now, as though a switch has been flipped, the girl's back and my daughter doesn't have many playdate invites from other kids.

And, when our daughter is in contact with this girl, she seems to spend her free time at home in her room, away from the rest of the family. When they weren't in contact, my daughter would choose to hang out with us.

We've NEVER told our daughter to stop hanging out with this girl, though through the years we're discussed qualities of a good friend, and have encouraged other friendships through playdates and inviting other families for dinner.

Though I'm not at school to see what happens there, I can confirm that there are some aspects to this girl's behavior that I don't like when she comes over. Separately, they seem so tiny, but together it seems to add up.

A few examples that I have observed, the girl once snuck some items to our house for a sleepover. Her parents were apologetic. She's also very cold to us. When other kids come over, they say hello to us, meet our eyes to say hi. This girl practically scoots through the front door, no hello, and the girls leave to play elsewhere. We have known this girl since preschool and DON'T treat her differently than the other kids we know.

Another example, this girl usually tries to trick our younger daughter so the girls can avoid playing with her. This results in tears every time. In comparison, my daughter's other friends include the younger daughter for a few minutes (without me asking!) before leaving to play without her for the remainder of the playdate. Everything is such trickery and avoidance-based.

Again, hanging out without parents and siblings seems perfectly NORMAL so I don't say anything. But, if you look at the rest of the behavior, it seems to fit right in with the monopolizing of my daughter's attention.

I'm asking for help because I feel like I've left it in my daughter's hands for years with no change. The girls will likely stay in the same school clear through high school.

Again, what would you do in this situation?",7.43,7.927823706114397,6.361946745562133,79.55132248520711,63.4181459566075,9.047968441814595,35.63767258382643,8.745826893841286,2.9530271400394486,2197,95,393,29,30,660,235,507,0.057,0.8340000000000001,0.109,0.9803,3,2,0,0,0,0,58,11,2,3,2,21,19,1,1,30,0,31,4,2,1,4,66,52,30,0,7,9,15,2,3,5,5,0,3,3,19,34,29,2,2,13,3,4,9,14,2,0,0,9,9,46,18,76,38,11,67,0,0,3,0,86,31,0,11,27,271,80,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798198112811075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06132979827999645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041724395916877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311019275733916,0.0,0.14339154277993896,0.0,0.07205375812162995,0.11794135430865113,0.0,0.0467501471542349,0.0,0.06525842786096384,0.0,0.08048251672442495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831012807186254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112895317028042,0.13212508334248113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012581564223129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461551022677008,0.0,0.06892496314585754,0.0,0.14459497743272487,0.0,0.038777294953694745,0.0547880954606681,0.0,0.0,0.0700942226701074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29625654259654205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432480713342867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781763483314772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05140438862362362,0.08102829610743405,0.07692736775544218,0.0,0.0,0.08849116529918133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04214739083322575,0.0,0.0,0.16240947953778084,0.08332504112078558,0.0,0.0,0.11240210737185337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440115983281025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777526790730413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914885915413521,0.0,0.08156179280934363,0.0,0.07514093774281963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167345640605017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031265190390055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249782307117225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065493730515225,0.0,0.18296338336023585,0.0,0.2328462853921524,0.061112830952687165,0.4887165078707433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343962213575778,0.08620394401545645,0.0,0.07817685900632915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054282313988971806,0.08174244630472924,0.0,0.06411714479622779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260456770453439,0.0,0.08943832620939753,0.0,0.0,0.07328157679530647,0.0,0.05206818313135407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767496410688061,0.0,0.08446434752145478,0.06327814107644629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217822822015947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343734679128136,0.0,0.0,0.14815954917626598
parenting,Sludgeycore,2018/04/10,"A Cautionary Tale for Gaming Parents I got a Switch earlier this year in anticipation of all the games coming out this year. I'd already played Breath of the Wild on the Wii U, so the first game I picked up was Mario Odyssey.

I set up our computer room with optimum toddler comfort in mind - wa-wa, snackies, toy trucks, coloring book and colored pencils, etc. I was hoping to keep him occupied with independent play while I got maybe 45 minutes of game time in before bedtime routine.

I was surprised and delighted to find that my toddler abandoned all his toys and opted to sit in my lap, oohing and ahhing over Mario instead. He alternated from sitting fascinated in my lap to hopping and jumping around the room, imitating the noises and motions our favorite plumber makes. Hearing my son shout “WEEHOOO!” as he tried to do the lunge-jump is one of my most cherished memories. 

He adored when I controlled ""froggies"", one of his favorite animals. The first stage with a T-rex had him roaring in delight. All the water levels captivated him (playing in water being his second favorite activity, next to playing with cars). Jumping on the moon blew his little toddler brain. The different costumes I had Mario wear expanded his vocabulary (clowns, doctor, cowboy, astronaut). 

When I would die in a level, he would either giggle and shout ""OHHH DANGIT!"", or pat my arm and say ""sorry mama!"".

We had a wonderful time playing through Mario together until I finally beat the game and got fatigued with collecting all the Moons. It was then I got a great idea - My son, like most 2.5 year olds, loves car. And trucks, and airplanes, and boats, and construction vehicles, and motorcycles - you know, the works.

What if I combined his new love for Mario with his longstanding obsession with cars, and bought Mario Kart?

You can only imagine his sheer delight when I started the menu for Mario Kart 8 Deluxe and it was MARIO on a cart!!! Without any prompting of the title, he dubbed the game ""Mario Cars!"" 

Now, you may be asking yourself why I call this a Cautionary Tale. We had a lot of fun together. But when I eventually got tired of Mario Kart after unlocking almost all the content, my son did not. If he so much as sees the Switch, he looks at me with his beautiful brown eyes, wide and eager, and asks ""Mario Cars, Mama?!"" And I give in. All the different CCs, the Mirror Mode, Battle – I’ve beaten everything. 

There are no other Switch games. Only Mario Cars.",5.397618236604218,7.206735438752787,5.591474518537924,78.49561738503866,68.7772828507795,8.489479889951525,31.69140573824184,9.007467420416297,2.842288562819337,1928,83,335,36,34,610,250,449,0.048,0.785,0.16699999999999998,0.9953,3,0,0,0,0,0,85,4,3,0,6,10,22,2,1,30,0,19,12,5,4,6,65,40,34,1,5,7,4,0,1,0,3,3,4,2,0,8,32,2,3,5,15,1,10,3,5,0,5,16,10,44,17,50,19,12,59,0,2,6,2,45,24,0,10,22,204,52,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11121830730427827,0.0,0.12256602331908802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755298782560998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887384468149643,0.20766670525874995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451047419895778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398834062193767,0.11341259023924535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956750314831311,0.0,0.0,0.12457192521586367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152707885237564,0.2320843170803809,0.0,0.11368254783738392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386989999606908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982053145594236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166929050077267,0.10151391077445647,0.18894834177300235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106546305811504,0.0,0.0,0.4441551270693697,0.12245258579875612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518142571319782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031533606380588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538196984089545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872211890675403,0.0,0.0,0.061039930388512124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0542620920999875,0.1113190634268371,0.0,0.0,0.09326893635454296,0.0,0.0,0.09442582870542963,0.20048596038587715,0.0,0.07413858516860213,0.0,0.11158248277576026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214676502093082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164757541580668,0.0,0.0,0.10726992446140386,0.1181218115053494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654691937137407,0.0,0.15052476287622532,0.1689440566210315,0.0,0.0,0.12332759170825923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832553224268554,0.0,0.0,0.08850661626855046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433125218409975,0.07861432467611201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129528995697237,0.12765603919019966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540771115275481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002213683351816,0.0,0.0,0.10706534694368088,0.12044823637327072,0.08085864436159791,0.0,0.0,0.15779868494506286,0.0,0.0,0.21457196731104167
parenting,Chisesi,2018/04/10,"Gâteau au yaourt (Yogurt Cake) This is one of the first cakes children in France learn to make. The yogurt containers are used to measure the ingredients. If you enjoy baking this is a really easy recipe to make with kids. Adding berries and/or sprinkles to the cupcakes before baking is fun too. 

2 six-ounce containers plain whole-milk yogurt (use the empty containers to measure the other ingredients)

2 eggs

2 containers sugar (or just one, depending on how sweet you like it)

1 teaspoon vanilla

Just under 1 container vegetable oil

4 containers flour

1 1⁄2 teaspoons baking powder

Crème fraîche (optional)

Preheat oven to 375°F.

Use vegetable oil to grease a 9-inch round cake pan or a loaf pan.

Gently combine the yogurt, eggs, sugar, vanilla, and oil. In a separate bowl, mix the flour and baking powder. Add the dry ingredients to the wet ingredients; mix gently until ingredients are just combined (don’t overmix). You can add 2 containers frozen berries, a container of chocolate chips, or any flavoring you like. Bake for 35 minutes, then five minutes more if the cake doesn’t pass the knife test. It should be almost crispy on the outside, but springy on the [riniveinside. Let it cool. The cake is delicious served with tea and a dollop of crème fraîche.

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parenting,anon59055905,2018/04/10,"So very confused - 13 year old daughter Ok so I found 2 post-it notes from what I thought was my daughter's best friend just lying folded up on top of her bureau. I wish I had never read them. Her best friend was talking about holding her kissing her on the lips and how she couldn't wait for a sleepover so they could do this all night long and how special and warm it made her feel inside. And that she loves her and needs her.

I am in total shock. And I don't know what to do. Her father (we are divorced) is also at a loss. She has never shown any sign of being interested in girls but she also hasn't been particularly interested in boys either. Earlier this school year (and just a couple months ago she went to a dance hoping he would be there - he was not) she had a crush on a boy and when I asked her about it recently she just shrugged and said she didn't like him anymore. When I asked why she said she didn't know. Knowing this information I think it is because she may have feelings for her best friend. 

I don't feel comfortable now with them being unsupervised. What do I do? Tell the girl's parents? Tell my daughter I found these notes and encourage her to discuss with me? She will be furious I read the notes.

She only just turned 13! Even if she has feelings she is way too young in my opinion to be having such a relationship, with physical intimacy. If it were a boy I would have zero issue telling her to stop. The major problem here is this is her best friend. How do I deal with this being her best friend but also feeling a physical relationship is completely inappropriate??

I found these notes last night and I have been an anxious mess since. This one never crossed my mind to have to address and I am in shock as I write this. ",2.3181732337539707,4.40297585552408,3.3903167653875883,89.80817065842565,77.98016997167139,6.205133487853034,22.878272813117015,7.229369725052465,0.7296523135033057,1379,43,291,17,33,443,172,353,0.094,0.727,0.179,0.9871,1,0,0,0,1,0,32,1,0,3,7,23,28,1,1,14,1,46,3,1,4,5,67,71,28,0,10,10,5,6,1,5,4,0,2,1,5,17,17,0,3,14,3,0,3,10,7,0,2,18,8,58,21,29,41,9,33,0,1,0,2,68,11,0,6,19,215,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626993054399286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20642026214023704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851065821588035,0.0,0.0,0.09720155324108462,0.08532930088364196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087296702654735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244964058425392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514722768236148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021208591654828,0.0,0.0,0.06869653503709801,0.09520244969744114,0.0,0.0,0.08870423180657691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05682910172278587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175239338221691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28301771319981456,0.33237433731831084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545787539222001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980418546234635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418572326718239,0.07013469226233884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042035162749445895,0.0,0.0,0.07614335328113983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765513314774357,0.08141383490152754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687662670271018,0.0,0.06867690313576268,0.0,0.0,0.06379812345638898,0.19907978428611348,0.0,0.0,0.1614868244274447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902852900454862,0.0,0.058303436712914165,0.06543786500648302,0.0,0.0,0.09553806696950196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240325147517183,0.0,0.0,0.08232937453096012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212806108704953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495485732880735,0.1847511242008616,0.0,0.0,0.16368890648036527,0.0,0.0,0.08707782915210717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117379478708144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193391688706334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691562930283041,0.2256102150339348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055131436309410704,0.0,0.06830674203157795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358762518235207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709926269397566,0.0,0.0682951398598032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976063419210605,0.0776383911106607,0.0,0.09894261245952347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224175564575734,0.0,0.0,0.11081483983045687
parenting,ifiwazatreeyouwldknw,2018/04/10,"My 3 year old is going to go on a plane for the first time.... Hi All,

As the title says my three year old boy is going on a plane for the first time next month and I'm beginning to prep him. So far but I haven't been able to find that many resources on how to prep young children for flight.

We have watched a couple of videos of planes going into the sky and a short video of kids going on their first trip.  We've talked about that it will be very loud and feel like he's being pushed down.  I have said I will be going with him and that we will have my phone, snacks and toys to play with.

I'm wondering what books or other resources you would recommend so I can make this as easy for him as possible. Also, particularly for parents that have done this before, what are things you wished you had known your first time flying with your kids?  I am a nervous flyer and one of my main goals is not to convey that to my son. 

Any help is appreciated and thank you in advance!",3.383891625615764,4.085034852216754,4.015738916256159,92.09779556650247,72.39901477832512,6.982266009852218,20.903940886699512,6.868970318607317,0.11683842364532016,757,13,176,6,14,240,119,203,0.013,0.866,0.121,0.973,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,6,1,6,6,4,0,1,9,0,22,1,0,2,1,25,37,16,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,4,0,3,0,4,12,13,1,0,4,5,0,9,2,1,0,6,4,5,22,3,30,26,2,34,0,0,1,0,25,10,0,2,16,117,34,2,0.137263480246994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097695555615916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933438735332574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680111175716396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187943010017868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046819715510694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940453991899331,0.09806105771499272,0.0,0.0,0.12545633420813812,0.4670249847080469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4680599943750618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200481741957603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670600030024826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162443893326068,0.1391636246153214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956240036316173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598126846290985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28806986463303885,0.0,0.09301328662215344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241485077658326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474394976159606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305690027355858,0.1091574288450948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032718597431322,0.0,0.12637377068125386,0.0,0.0,0.09119175703877808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401183175270698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325674659834548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578462281247283,0.0,0.14885638905981532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975080380858201,0.0,0.0,0.17678636183817384
parenting,MehmoodH,2018/04/10,"Need Advice I live in Asian country and here, child starts his/her school at the age of 3 (which is quite early i guess) If I got the admission delay for my child than none of the school we give her admission when she will be at 5 -- or I have to make sure that she is same as others kids who start their school at the age of 3.

Looking for some recommendation what to do -- and if I go for a delay how can I make sure that my child has the same experience like other children? ",8.355699999999999,4.594757970000003,8.32,79.94000000000003,64.3,11.6,32.0,8.841846274778883,2.1419999999999995,367,7,87,4,4,120,66,100,0.047,0.8809999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,3,2,18,18,8,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,7,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,13,3,14,15,4,13,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,5,9,60,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955530812826574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957538914850306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19197150670373567,0.1137317221622472,0.0,0.16005271755651965,0.0,0.2204526374387198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776759032603416,0.0,0.17670793963564904,0.0,0.16804879441163326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671607577813003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838502790705166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21285022153557384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6075905720481001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28328922793943384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772178626913403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rehtsefox,2018/04/10,"Ideas for presents for overworked mother? I'm a nanny for the loveliest family.

The mum is super time poor, stressed and exhausted due to work at the moment. Over the last week she's lost all colour in her face.

I was thinking about offering to cook bulk dinners with their girls for her and the dad, as well as going to Lush and getting her some hair treatments etc (lifes always better when your hair feels like a cloud!).

Any ideas?",4.019535283993116,6.073386168674703,3.5354905335628253,90.83373493975904,72.855421686747,6.1886402753872645,23.9053356282272,6.868970318607317,0.7299239242685029,344,10,67,3,7,102,65,83,0.112,0.758,0.131,0.4122,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,1,4,3,7,0,1,7,0,2,7,3,0,1,10,8,6,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,4,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,2,4,7,4,14,6,3,11,0,1,1,0,11,3,0,1,8,38,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20082379441163392,0.0,0.0,0.16412730622221905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21345580143847245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691707371675605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275247282275583,0.0,0.12203457758198012,0.17242157025258878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260962049606542,0.0,0.1371656276934541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.544912965145942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673369715430386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17047371237229836,0.11791215889631942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26346368867495856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764673445295025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464830520688874,0.0,0.0,0.14073400905912362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935976269109756,0.0,0.2170039967745964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570677710946409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Drunk_monk37,2018/04/10,"Bad Parent or Good Dog Trainer? A little anecdote from me recently that may give a dew parents a smile:

I just threw a toy and told my child to fetch.  

He crawled over and picked it up with his mouth and returned it to me.

I'm either a bad parent or  good dog owner.",1.4119642857142836,3.0819291249999985,2.8958571428571425,94.24914285714287,79.17857142857143,5.194285714285715,21.91428571428571,5.6839178017228535,0.04674714285714288,205,6,46,1,5,67,41,56,0.118,0.742,0.14,0.0772,3,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,10,5,5,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,2,6,2,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,2,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687156522430997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181038683676232,0.0,0.370391217673506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212984646174248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7355130159159083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21801223781847304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109827737683364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omegawolf59,2018/04/10,"Child not eating dinner For the last few months my 22 month old daughter will not eat all her dinner. She eats all her breakfast, lunch and snacks but doesn't have much dinner.
I give her a variety of meals for new flavours and sometimes food she's eaten before but she will not finish it. 
It worries me because she's going to bed with not alot of food in her tummy and will be absolutely starving in the morning. 
I also make sure she has nothing about an hour and a half before hand so she's some what hungry but it never seems to work.
Anyone else had this problem? Is there anything I can do or do kids go through stages like this? ",2.4121614583333333,4.5313654765625015,3.0434375,92.24114583333336,77.828125,4.891666666666667,21.604166666666664,5.46131890053228,0.02362291666666616,503,14,102,2,12,157,91,128,0.091,0.8320000000000001,0.077,-0.438,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,12,14,1,1,4,22,18,10,0,1,8,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,6,5,13,0,1,0,0,2,6,1,0,1,2,2,15,2,11,12,6,13,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,4,9,72,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899324578781654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278619162901553,0.16527308207787364,0.13273789959161106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983282742094022,0.0,0.2745124445498597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4951570086475577,0.13474722206674494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900943236203097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473568995379894,0.1833434221628332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588500947621711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314827551827616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880406735342284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767041654693854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25749962395025955,0.0,0.11857561666540277,0.0,0.12440613765114683,0.1557865910639114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477373292321736,0.0,0.16925943929791493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543443429581697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684339048491515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953191955758386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202533763648918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742986327612115,0.16381013100119254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littlewing52,2018/04/10,"Child waking/pain A hand full of times, our 3 year old son has woken up indicating he is feeling pain and when we ask, he points to his groin, almost under near his scrotum.  When doing this, he kicks/flexs his legs and butt and is fairly inconsolable.  I feel like he would do this as an infant as well.  He just wasn't  able to communicate at that point.  I'm wondering if he maybe has pain in his stomach or testicles.  Any insight?  Like I mentioned this is only happened handful of times, so I'm not sure if we need to have a doctor look at this.",2.7704504504504506,4.313170369369374,3.996576576576576,88.37612612612612,75.03603603603604,6.7351351351351365,23.144144144144143,7.3871296695380915,0.809565765765766,425,12,90,5,9,139,78,111,0.078,0.818,0.104,0.244,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,10,8,5,0,1,18,20,11,0,4,5,1,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,5,9,4,13,17,1,15,0,0,1,1,18,9,1,5,8,53,14,1,0.1810205356337181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126591807497205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310017168959506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922976484143948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852821887179777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305884374985573,0.1293211068263415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007586183139735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687498002039026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15201165874543046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185945885776747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422443346952356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995060121589533,0.0,0.0,0.13767427444718588,0.5778558384330097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422458343635931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17060971254473686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21110906011321376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275920122708254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963090490757028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859179478129756,0.0,0.0,0.11657128995672307
parenting,sn76477,2018/04/10,"How do I tell my helicopter parenting wife to chill the fuck out? My wife and I have been together for 10 years. Our daughter is 8 and I would say that we have a good life.  My wife and I get along well and agree on most things, but the further along into parenting my wife gets the more scared she is of everything.  Of course, she wants to protect our daughter, I understand that as Im the father I have as much experience parenting as she does..

    


Today my wife crossed a line. My daughter and I were playing in the yard, she was swinging on a tree, pulled an old table over to stand on and started swinging a bit higher... there was some risk, a bit of danger, but she wasn't going to break a bone being 12 inches off of the ground. Scrapes, or bruises probably ... but this is how I parent. My daughter has to understand risk, she has to be able to assess risk.

My wife was not happy about the swining, she immediately called out my daughter and said she never wanted to see the daughter do that again! Right in front of me... my daughter looks at me with a very confused look and as my daughter and I proceeded with some house hold chores she said to me something about her mom never seeing the good side of things. 

The rest of the night went on as normal, but my wife and I didnt speak. 


My wife was undermining me in front of our daughter, something that I would never do.  In addition, she is undermining me for the child doing something of little to no risk something that was fun! But my wife sees it as something that could be a disaster. 

She always sees the worst in things, she wants to protect our daughter from anything and everything... where I just watch my daughter scrape a knee when she makes a mistake. . . mistakes are how you learn!  I try to focus on growth and some swinging off low hanging branches is barely risky. 

My wife isnt a bad parent, she has just become the helicopter parent. Always minimizing risk ... 9 layers of bug spray, dont go outside it is too hot, dont go outside it is too old. Always trying to protect our daughter but she doesnt see the cost of this... 

Has anyone in /r/Parenting had to deal with a helicopter spouse? what happened? How did it work out? Do you have advice for me? ",3.2927115188583116,5.059839229357799,4.099847094801223,87.23992864424056,74.13761467889908,6.771049949031602,25.87257900101937,7.492282038375204,1.271835575942916,1728,60,346,21,36,553,192,436,0.13699999999999998,0.792,0.07,-0.9866,7,0,5,0,0,0,64,6,2,0,1,15,20,2,7,28,0,42,6,2,5,3,59,66,30,0,9,10,31,1,0,0,2,3,4,2,1,16,23,0,4,3,2,1,10,11,14,1,0,14,13,59,6,61,46,10,51,0,1,8,1,63,27,1,6,12,251,75,2,0.07482753719571196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312060332627886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867875157675732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052321153834140564,0.0,0.061576687392703014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247786801010277,0.0,0.0826411359316393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338458091099262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640728169702589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974369967865866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714390518264665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654820820538423,0.0,0.17539463261391386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450033104810907,0.07319568965606355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917685238256509,0.07818859958411012,0.0,0.12757864136878344,0.12552357606261413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616974402043155,0.07965530475723571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634093138639681,0.0,0.0,0.08082658064121974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285290243450814,0.0,0.07499685016946342,0.0,0.0,0.12567257089517586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994796212348657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763710719501308,0.0,0.0,0.055006849605626434,0.0,0.1731348289700311,0.0,0.0,0.07022057470179137,0.07331509906133336,0.0,0.0,0.1570378258805986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5816098736968607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067674100581458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390230791442092,0.14235624641344508,0.059505860935458024,0.07491541850231431,0.0,0.2981392959554147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880294693798299,0.0,0.0,0.05296331596234525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540256566626003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913627236063606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092775590726211,0.0,0.0,0.10160597189469213,0.0,0.0,0.15579621031114074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06174055476011154,0.13240566045800722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727894236489802,0.06936587664544074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054475338270145085,0.0,0.0,0.1063106710338184,0.0,0.0,0.04818648063686351
parenting,opto16,2018/04/10,"Learning activities/toys for a Toddler Anyone have recommendations for any early education material for a toddler (currently 2.5 year old girl)? 

We like to sit down and she enjoys things like puzzles but they are almost boring for her now. I am looking for something to possibly promote interest in science. 

Thanks ",5.19477088948787,8.803172358490569,6.287385444743941,63.470754716981155,80.13207547169812,8.311590296495956,35.873315363881396,8.841846274778883,4.581320215633424,257,15,33,7,7,85,45,53,0.041,0.684,0.275,0.9244,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,1,1,6,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,5,9,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,7,23,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479459194690728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362948472620284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24296252910931734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339517368779796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917914020126029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646164557334592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917257404216417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675031539265276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31990820297825073,0.0,0.0,0.2308468835221061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237624430363792
parenting,Type_O_Negative92,2018/04/10,"Help with autistic 4 year old. Hey guys, hows everyone's evening? 

Alright. So here goes. I married into a family with a now 5 year old little girl, and a 4 year old little boy who is autistic, and together we have an almost-two-year-old little boy. 

Let's call my 4 year old B. A is our daughter, and C is my youngest boy. 

B was recently diagnosed with high-functioning autism (asperger's for those who don't know), and he also has moderate speech delay, as well as sleep problems. 

Here's some backstory, for those who don't mind: 

I came into this relationship with my wife three years ago this september, and we got pregnant shortly after. We had a pretty solid foundation (or so I thought), so we decided to just see what happened. B and A's father has hardly been in the picture since I came along, even before, and B was abused by his father constantly during his first year or so of life. One instance being his father trying to roll on top of him to suffocate him. CPS didn't see any evidence, so they didn't do anything about it. 

Anyway, like I said, B was diagnosed with autism. He has some sensory issues, for example, getting dressed might be super easy one day, but then the next, he complains and cries because he ""can't do it"". Or he wears his shoes inside, or snow boots, or three layers of clothes, whatever. 

He is also on Trazadone for sleep. I tried pulling him off for a few days a couple weeks ago, and his behavior issues worsened tenfold. With this, he has also started wetting the bed, so he now wears a Pull-Up to bed. 

His speech issues include echolalia (repeating the end of statements back to us), examples include the following. 

Me: Hey B, you can't run in the house, do you understand me? 

B: Tan me. 

As indicated above, he also has issues with first and end consonant deletion. He has been in speech therapy for the last year and a half, and started pre-k last September, and initially got better before plateauing. We try to work with words, sounding out every consonant, which he does, but when he goes to put it all together, he deletes consonants again, and I guess I don't understand where the disconnect is. How do we work with him to fix this? He's in aggressive speech therapy, but whether he's there or home, every time we try an exercise like this, he either neglects to pay attention, or just whines and says he can't do it. 

I'm frustrated. I don't know where to turn from here, and I can hardly ever understand him. He has about a 50/50 ratio of good to bad days. And his good days are awesome. But his bad days he really tests me. 

Sorry for the rant. I love this little boy and I want him to succeed. 

Edit: He is potty trained, by the way. We stopped pushing him and he did it himself. 

Thanks",3.2487995846313567,5.09806577196262,4.3756386292834915,84.86684319833854,74.45794392523366,7.895742471443407,27.40290758047768,8.648137234880735,2.0830652128764275,2128,83,419,42,45,695,257,535,0.09,0.815,0.095,-0.1484,0,0,0,0,1,0,96,10,2,1,8,33,19,2,0,23,1,41,10,5,2,2,81,65,48,0,2,15,5,3,2,0,1,4,7,3,6,18,42,0,3,9,1,1,7,9,8,1,7,15,12,48,11,53,46,5,68,0,2,2,1,73,18,0,11,44,257,66,6,0.0,0.07831694051392786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171862001796372,0.0,0.06618896739757328,0.0,0.0,0.2114385576575845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04494983578340578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543941465011154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05082633267713069,0.11038041991266986,0.04029356023414198,0.0,0.1124913846848912,0.0,0.0,0.05845951805657368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749484342791276,0.15120013213706027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142993282849892,0.0,0.0,0.07313769167130096,0.07260705018315887,0.21314311526022886,0.0,0.0,0.1341789309933724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057844000956388635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708883856562473,0.0,0.0,0.08731601619427291,0.059790661152383275,0.11138313403774296,0.06316077720382328,0.0,0.0,0.062312599931700165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244817455478123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03453419078369525,0.0,0.0,0.11088202491553384,0.10573140317494713,0.0,0.07281590417789273,0.06544876484545419,0.05845145139482085,0.0,0.11842409807859346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0443050119708039,0.06983760968929978,0.06630305389374831,0.0,0.0,0.07626979413366365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759622613918496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265296623121609,0.10775961153197902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759108049436813,0.04668793726588929,0.0645856232122683,0.2649957201642785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059657258851041374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012098213472204,0.06674151723425989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029742602789205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468008295367546,0.0,0.08958128265056478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06724681876134453,0.0,0.06324816671285995,0.0,0.06644811998109935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234494667512096,0.0,0.0652651500149442,0.07096598249662492,0.0,0.0,0.06287563403158497,0.05256486918102496,0.0,0.0,0.10534527418478824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054678078922941034,0.0,0.13229420510716625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399282902947292,0.09357094347306716,0.0,0.0,0.055262030028797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085541583431555,0.15118077214873302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247551353619128,0.03854307209418855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950852358722474,0.07189712971241037,0.06456947634132991,0.2064353145680993,0.07950939915685354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03898711886745228,0.052466600361533736,0.05302092465907626,0.0,0.05943126859191895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962422519310524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405265983756465
parenting,MJAT,2018/04/10,"Helmet/DocBand at 9 months My little boy has a small flat spot on the back right of his head. We went to see a cranial specialist and they said he falls into the moderate category of plagiocephaly. Our pediatrician doesn't think he needs it and that it's strictly for aesthetics. We notice the flat spot but family and friends only do if we point it out.  
  
Has anyone got the docband/helmet at 9 months? How were the results?  
  
Anyone have it recommended by the specialist and decide against it? How is your child's head shape now?",3.2994059405940597,5.837060574257428,4.121277227722775,83.50429207920793,76.92079207920794,7.604356435643562,24.951485148514852,8.548686976883017,1.8741160396039604,422,15,80,9,10,135,71,101,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.8079,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,4,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,8,0,7,2,2,3,0,17,13,8,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,6,9,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,2,8,1,11,9,0,16,0,0,1,0,13,10,0,1,4,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183606503277536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505116460759232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21461106110217348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758842031554982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820749627849624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467275471381936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22816819051975776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634210294536929,0.0,0.0,0.16880187257352516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591845378983029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314042407311114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21520574245590107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19441448452733245,0.2165502089750825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141002862725486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587089999689634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103668383730695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,private_thoughts88,2018/04/10,"I don't know what do to regarding absent dad in jail A very very, almost 13 long story short - my son's dad is constantly in and out of prison, on and off of drugs. Son is now 12, almost 13. I usually try to facilitate a relationship between them even though my initial thought is ""hell no"". 

My ex is back in jail, going to prison until the end of this year. Dad and son has spoken on the phone briefly earlier this year... Dad was in jail then, he's still in jail but for whatever excuse, he had stopped calling and today, he called again, wanting to talk to son. Kiddo hasn't asked or talked about him in a while and the selfish part of me says, don't allow contact bc if you do, he'll have hope and dad will disappear again. Only time he seems to remember he has a child is when he's behind bars, and even that's kinda sparingly. Imo, he wants something (in this case, a time filler) and once he has something else to fill his needs, he wipes his hand of ds and I'm left picking up the pieces. Son has been in therapy for years (on and off) bc of this, has been on anti depressants and has spent time in a mental facility. I'm not blaming that all on dad, but a lot of his self esteem is based off, why doesn't he want me, what did I do wrong? 

Idk what to do, allow contact, don't allow it. I'm just sick of seeing my son as a last option for someone who's supposed to put him first. ",3.4978947368421065,3.8268341340206216,4.737797069994574,88.37400976668478,71.92096219931274,7.913257370229697,25.281425212515828,7.85451343220497,1.1009202749140896,1067,29,244,13,19,354,156,291,0.133,0.8240000000000001,0.043,-0.9712,0,0,3,0,0,0,42,0,1,1,1,11,5,1,0,12,0,28,4,1,4,1,38,44,21,0,6,6,13,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,11,12,1,1,4,1,1,4,7,4,0,1,7,3,16,1,44,35,4,48,1,1,1,0,45,21,1,9,23,145,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584679566751529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206527735376386,0.0,0.0,0.09923842952134627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635674033428355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946696488501525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115835543177824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966750396913636,0.0,0.10781226101645704,0.0,0.11430799589205196,0.0,0.0,0.17048454733541982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977754696808743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334722223838769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818473951566736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092746898201267,0.10520033662664464,0.0,0.0,0.1402230162456565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421318235909388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972137409032284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130061149577942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095695637169914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744365739781972,0.0,0.09815520970792913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397583552999886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973997383323613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385611017253897,0.14619872507249118,0.0,0.0,0.10263292255722943,0.0,0.0,0.10284333943591722,0.11749049591285302,0.13463671744685626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935129927885352,0.1987118966793749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306670992923364,0.1078991299068656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746552303146454,0.0,0.0,0.1475902510728983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679984399344774,0.10245845563437483,0.22576607884654665,0.0,0.1223328721700827,0.0,0.0,0.08762261129311816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214029078619034,0.21297443565123125,0.2283670832132777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645570282737888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110579182400546,0.0,0.2493293563573201
parenting,chboyd21,2018/04/10,"Hypothetically Legal Question. A 17 year old In Wisconsin was arrested and charged with sexually assaulting a 8 year old. The case is set for trial later on this month. Is it illegal to post flyers outside the 17 year old school about the incident. 
The flyer has several pictures of the 17 year old on it along with a brief statement",5.129354838709677,7.229255161290323,6.565354838709678,70.07803225806455,69.96774193548387,10.121290322580649,33.36774193548387,10.355215969177356,4.041183225806451,268,13,45,8,5,91,44,62,0.17800000000000002,0.799,0.023,-0.8834,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,3,0,16,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,10,26,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730266825309365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7745989420294148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767438288681752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20673349109914305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677016571984886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848418459481985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4753656860967373
parenting,behrytov,2018/04/10,"Circle with Disney. Worth it? Hi Everyone! I'm debating on getting Circle as a gift for someone with kids. It's not super expensive but she would have to get the monthly package as well to get all the features (looks like $10/month). Is it worth it? I know there are other parental monitoring apps out there but I am drawn to this because it seems to have more features the Disney part could be cool. Anyone with experience: is the Disney feature worth it? Do your kids even use it? Seems like its stuff you can maybe find online on your own.

Thanks in advance!",1.5621231979030163,4.242060422018351,2.49413499344692,91.04809633027523,86.9816513761468,4.949148099606815,21.547182175622535,6.5431188927421005,0.5192484927916121,442,15,86,5,14,139,76,109,0.017,0.769,0.214,0.9702,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,3,0,2,4,6,0,0,5,1,11,0,0,1,1,15,21,4,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,11,4,0,0,4,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,6,6,14,18,4,6,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,2,3,58,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494513249456387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263648016427666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550778855316609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691606056290753,0.0,0.0,0.1980787757791951,0.0,0.20277379525805286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946341526562824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249084575488147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392363461081162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254724126555046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740751694532363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20825518502074344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309209804116561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301760078325273,0.2244797400995893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774262501884387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563995504225466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373026048723759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084892241106566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790358891846863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638264832781765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725606345982364,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bannonyoung,2018/04/11,"How to involve 3 year old in the kitchen? My son and I have about 2 hours together before my husband gets home, but I’m cooking dinner and cleaning the kitchen for half of it. I feel bad because he always wants to help but there’s always knives, raw meat, or hot pans around. I always hear parents saying to let them help, and I would LOVE to keep him with me in there, but I don’t know what to have him do to make him feel like he’s helping or spending time with me in the kitchen.

He’s sad and keeps trying to pull me out of the kitchen to play and it breaks my heart he just wants to be around me, but I’m not doing anything he can be involved with until I’m done dinner and can play with him :(

I got a little play kitchen toy (small little briefcase thing, not the giant ones) but he loses interest because I’m not doing it with him. I’ve tried to get him to bring his toys in the kitchen with me (we have a small kitchen so he’s right by me) but he still wants me to be doing whatever he is doing too. Sometimes that works, most of the time he has no interest and walks out, and tries to literally push me out of the kitchen with him to play in the living room. 

Anything else I can try? He likes to help!",2.9177993947254635,3.610126151750976,3.752652399481197,93.58819174232599,73.47470817120623,6.4893212278426295,24.783614353653263,6.139981653823899,0.4520888024210983,939,27,220,5,18,300,124,257,0.065,0.7659999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9847,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,1,0,1,2,11,12,0,0,11,0,20,13,1,2,0,45,39,19,0,4,12,3,3,2,0,1,0,2,11,0,6,21,11,2,3,7,1,4,5,3,0,2,2,5,28,9,40,32,1,29,0,2,0,1,33,17,0,3,9,135,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116258953080323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054622361671255,0.22226474957037226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042345976687878,0.1522002921522413,0.0,0.1062280269735464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775271751985634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042862123339315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624378702712472,0.08918436243706236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044550781754918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984443146362763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070160984754868,0.14793374766982306,0.3347053835193817,0.0,0.12522279136634326,0.0,0.12294038019891244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219236756348424,0.0,0.0,0.06860775407944958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765541364860172,0.0,0.12197917811954215,0.25024114147353155,0.11023432802257796,0.0,0.0,0.13966189975488072,0.0,0.0,0.11267125780606428,0.0,0.08333040006223652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099658423682514,0.0,0.08459352630768342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386179346745035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661105392536108,0.0,0.0992762664779044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346807141434793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969586663801704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293688545208776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14558819819078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33902749688823675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22089823463052266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088362244597584,0.0,0.0,0.08868140331962876,0.0,0.0,0.0803916423884074
parenting,alaska_2025,2018/04/11,"Getting kids between the ages of 7 and 14 interested in STEM Hi everybody! 

I have three kids (7, 11 and 14 yrs old). Recently I've been getting very concerned with the stuff they've been learning in school. It seems like none of them are enjoying their STEM classes. In fact, it seems like they are starting to not like those fields whatsoever, especially the older one. I'm looking to nurture their creativity and interest for STEM fields before it is too late or the school system kills. So, I have a question for all of you smart people here: when it comes to getting your kids to excel in STEM fields, what is your single challenge or frustration? 

I'm finding it very hard to keep them engaged in these topics. So far, I've tried to watch a couple of shows like Cosmos on Netflix with them, and to show them a couple of silly things that happen in nature (like two objects falling at the same time despite of their weight, etc.). I'm thinking of enrolling them in an after school STEM program. Any suggestions? ",5.677740384615383,6.817766645833338,5.596041666666667,81.2473557692308,67.4375,7.991025641025642,30.915064102564106,8.139509932561175,2.1927487179487177,804,31,147,10,13,251,114,192,0.048,0.7809999999999999,0.171,0.9707,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,3,9,2,5,16,2,0,9,0,8,1,0,0,2,20,22,9,1,0,3,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,3,11,7,1,1,6,3,0,2,2,2,0,3,2,4,14,14,29,20,5,22,0,0,2,0,18,10,0,5,14,91,25,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781527988629064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239617882887972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390434353568346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183096737232834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041822411680914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146600820786414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225449424560574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719612826828244,0.0,0.12885126382503406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785048665230636,0.15913626123507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225637093734552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513617291940564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078832013051025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509345679009516,0.0,0.0974688570305383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997196756580052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113231483613086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202340907971192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4367174711474474,0.0,0.2618907847489769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180980492504106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466095133015896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556007159797814,0.0921660606387536,0.0,0.0,0.08387352965508156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765706687598937,0.0,0.1405095544925228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23736405932588184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515684254060748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sad-Crow,2018/04/11,"Baby is Stressed Our son is just over a year old. We are starting daycare (two days a week) while simultaneously starting the process of weaning (no more nursing during the day, only at bedtime and if he is up at night). Needless to say he seems a bit stressed.

The daycare is private, and thus far has only one other kid (the daughter of the woman running it). We met them at a play group my wife takes kiddo to twice a week, so this other kid isn't new to our son.

We are a little worried because he's starting to want to go to bed VERY early (~6pm as opposed to ~9pm previously). He has also had a few soupy diapers lately, though the majority are sticky, but otherwise normal. His appetite is also a bit variable - he sometimes has a good appetite, but he'll often only want a little bit to eat. That is assuming he even stays awake until supper at all. He is also pretty clingy with mom, and prone to more sudden tantrums than before (this we think is likely him wanting to nurse, though).

Has anyone else experienced this? It seems like it could all be related to having big, stressful days, but I'm not sure if that's normal. I'm worried there's something else going on. And I know, ""just go to the doc if you're worried,"" but I'd be interested to hear if anyone else had similar experiences in this situation.",5.417732558139537,5.815359562015509,6.432083333333335,77.66812500000002,67.72093023255815,8.31046511627907,31.62887596899225,8.07648339933343,2.28578992248062,1029,40,193,12,16,344,150,258,0.068,0.858,0.07400000000000001,0.35600000000000004,0,0,1,0,0,0,41,6,0,1,0,11,10,1,3,17,0,22,2,0,1,3,37,41,21,0,10,11,5,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,3,11,9,2,1,5,1,0,4,3,4,0,3,3,3,11,6,27,34,9,34,0,0,0,0,29,12,0,8,19,122,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286543569194217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332837439604867,0.1953095040896904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05809913578299659,0.0,0.08110045619258703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121563706086873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609602797049393,0.0,0.0,0.18439816272510065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752432014299177,0.23885389673061586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295032073888193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322993516213487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624979355857415,0.07994019123684408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074195301444244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052379021927779934,0.0,0.10751206311407677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312577173211747,0.19104817541900726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162408415003294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204947793670197,0.0,0.08944050745689681,0.18676405575276603,0.0,0.0,0.1000101672219028,0.0,0.06458346041013455,0.21745907285601693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696293977218252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579309086160363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353043468351426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071306713080614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337308762645464,0.0942624766947438,0.0,0.20237939705232624,0.10158610777041296,0.0,0.0,0.3275264619742636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982706962789054,0.0,0.07166007989987948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610697951095911,0.18728010189271546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310248961850756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863943825389727,0.16864614839484698,0.0,0.1529013511443214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903710185149991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613755056694667
parenting,Dejonda,2018/04/11,"1yo has started screaming - shrill, high pitched screaming. Advice needed. A few days ago my son started screaming, a loud, shrill high pitched scream, for no apparent reason. The frequency has steadily increased and has almost overtaken any commands as well as his usual happy baby chatter. 
Please tell me other parents have experienced this, my throbbing headache will really appreciate any advice.
Note: He is not experiencing any discomfort, he is almost smiling while doing it.",7.987012987012986,11.366868480519486,7.089610389610388,63.82584415584418,65.49350649350649,8.555844155844158,39.57142857142857,9.23628265651192,4.726797402597404,391,22,46,8,7,120,60,77,0.135,0.6709999999999999,0.194,0.6738,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,3,0,8,1,0,1,0,6,11,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,0,7,4,2,3,10,2,9,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,6,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690979073068611,0.1674104071861652,0.0,0.3782261722378124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385287873482503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179719338947548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010418743441882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990757497750397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003513244825586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097034385512911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073083620524105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098668195216837,0.19417653321254225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26734802773034705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506941287258545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207999393024948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980519650456855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,octohan,2018/04/11,"Any tips on how to put a stubborn 18 month old down for a nap? I’ve tried other things like singing her to sleep, reading her to sleep, and simply just bouncing her and rubbing her back. All of these things worked great when I first started doing them but after a while she started catching on and would find anything to stimulate herself so she wouldn’t fall asleep (like playing with the blanket, and moving her arms and legs around a lot) when she does this it can take an hour or more for her to fall asleep. Is there any tips you guys have on putting her to sleep? I’m the nanny and I’d really like her to be well rested when her parents come home from work. ",4.432653399668325,5.20484080597015,4.0420398009950285,92.60188225538971,70.04477611940298,6.552570480928693,26.08291873963516,5.82211442006289,0.5975565505804314,524,15,113,2,9,157,90,134,0.014,0.8740000000000001,0.112,0.9054,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,1,1,3,10,7,1,0,7,0,7,7,7,2,1,20,12,14,0,2,3,1,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,9,0,1,1,4,0,7,1,1,1,1,0,1,16,6,18,9,4,24,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,2,15,77,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212885074439914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880694362025275,0.13934065744029553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035825522941394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483264285337684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369763007460116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306124245713095,0.13314029736435926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256964028684152,0.0,0.15498460598679908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570075876559161,0.0,0.15414584126352934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294109917032416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307216982957687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249369609073336,0.16636156906614066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642469190933316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380276618668955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147022168608435,0.0,0.0,0.1565676075737993,0.0,0.1002740829635606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4699148708448478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157875462173252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768750790529126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797684144305467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627036990359033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073499733362718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22790449185768585,0.0,0.0,0.1111910464000293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KidPreschoolPickup,2018/04/11,"4 year old son throws a tantrum every time I pick him up from preschool My son hates it when I pick him up from preschool. Every time (4 days a week) I pick him up, he throws a huge tantrum and screams and kicks and says he doesn't want to leave. I've tried different tactics to get him to come with me. Having a snack waiting on him. Giving him time to finish his game/play time with his friends. Being more stern with him. Discussing it with him afterwards or doing a ""time out"" in the car. I've even tried extending the time out or punishment to when we get home (about a 15 minute drive), but I don't like waiting to give punishments because I think he's too young. 

I've given each of those a few weeks to see if they would work, and none of them do. Same ole weird bullshit. He'll hide under a table and refuse to come with me or run away from me on the playground. 

When my husband picks him up, he's super excited and ready to go. 

Honestly, this is a reflection of how things are most of the time. He never seems that interested in playing with me and only wants to spend time with dad. I get that Daddy is a superhero to him right now, but he's constantly disrespectful to me. He only throws a tantrum with me and never with his father. His father can ask him once to do something and he does it. With me, it's constant backtalk. 

My husband has made an effort to be kind and respectful to me, but I would say there was no need for an ""effort."" He's always had a calm and kind tone of voice even when we're in an argument. 

I just don't know what else to do. It's been like this all year and I'm at my wits end. I dread going to pick him up because he's just going to throw a fit and act like he doesn't want to be around me. 

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parenting,foxfirek,2018/04/11,"Anyone else kids show elevated lead levels? If so did you find the source? My 2 year old has elevated lead levels. After the prick test came up high we got his blood drawn (which was a nightmare) and it again came up a little high (5). Our house is old but it was completely renovated before we bought it so I doubt lead paint is a factor. None of us work in construction or anything like that. I'm going to test our soil but if its soil I don't know if I will be able to do anything about it. Anyone else have this problem? Should I even worry at this level?
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parenting,lauradarr,2018/04/11,"“Goofball” a bad word? Had the kids at the park this morning and my 5 year old son hurt himself while goofing off around a girl a couple years younger. She seemed upset that it was her fault so I told her, “Don’t worry. It was his fault. He was being a goofball!” The kid laughed and said, “He’s a goofball!” 

I am thinking “mission accomplished” but then her (likely) Grandma, who was standing right there, mostly ignored me and said to the child, “Now don’t go home and call your Dad that.” 

I instinctively apologized but later was like, wait what? Is “goofball” a bad word in some circles? I am admittedly potty-mouthed but I have not gotten the memo on this one.  Or did I misread this somehow? ",2.1605650319829413,4.58351215671642,2.9368869936034123,91.05432835820896,80.41791044776119,5.0226012793176995,25.989339019189767,6.18269132825596,0.8456413646055436,535,22,106,4,14,168,94,134,0.172,0.754,0.07400000000000001,-0.9126,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,1,0,1,5,10,0,1,11,0,14,0,0,0,0,20,23,11,0,0,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,4,9,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,7,0,1,11,2,15,3,6,11,2,15,0,1,0,0,22,6,0,5,9,73,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989112897221956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373130481482998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22815988058209855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24723499085669945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698758082137535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22413114973417275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239199928425806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21832553912314845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344654253102713,0.0,0.15141049089011968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908187625426581,0.4250901675916013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341375433394807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317299812338993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350898309273245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269168100440411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28777942163610115
parenting,jocietimes,2018/04/11,"Working/breastfeeding/EXHAUSTED I’m a mom of 2 (9yo & 8mo- yup huge gap)- my little one is a high needs baby (needs to be held constantly, doesn’t sleep well,etc) and I also exclusively breastfeed. She has started solids but breast milk is her main food supply until she’s about a year old. 
I also work full time, pump during work and try to feed her from the breast when I’m with her to keep my supply up. I went back to work when she was 9 weeks old and this has been my life... I’m just exhausted. My husband wants to help but we figure it’s best to keep her on the breast as much as possible while I’m home. So anytime she wakes up at night (which is still 2-5 times a night), I’m on duty. For all night-night times, I’m on duty. 
I’m wondering what other moms do... how they let their partners help more, etc. I read something recently about switching off days to be a “primary parent” but I’m worried that my supply will drop. Anyone have some advice? 
oh, also thought I should mention that I’ve tried to let the baby “cry it out” at night. She has cried for almost 3 hours straight and I physically couldn’t let her cry any longer. I’ve also tried comforting her every 10 minutes, etc. She also does not take a pacifier. I’ve tried it all.... ",1.4687159533073917,3.4906108599221817,2.9281494163424107,92.37901011673151,80.47859922178988,5.979704280155642,20.007626459143967,7.087006719466742,0.3115591906614781,969,25,212,12,25,316,149,257,0.081,0.8390000000000001,0.08,-0.0945,1,0,1,0,0,0,46,1,0,2,4,14,3,0,0,9,1,19,10,5,1,2,30,38,20,0,5,5,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,9,7,3,5,3,1,0,1,3,1,0,1,5,0,26,2,27,25,10,37,0,0,0,3,23,14,0,3,21,122,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527870854479436,0.0,0.0,0.08738776044987351,0.0,0.0,0.34894678737511925,0.0,0.09455642594572783,0.0,0.05934622696418487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102083715911389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671048296894494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158391659022433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430728570629246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875842194485026,0.05628158356367878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637009456087199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29198555732892034,0.0,0.0,0.0735282858922747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552658022458564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698976204228682,0.09220497835027487,0.08753838620806709,0.0,0.08594284127507126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513821577098375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267716813678824,0.06164100209002265,0.0,0.08746692773910351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044178790167747,0.0,0.0,0.06415309614656425,0.1294184010223403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094823928845975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18314924076900746,0.0,0.05913604620871438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969024102441684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838320627024476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729307866002295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616806575894866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733248726611301,0.0,0.0,0.0671842956818893,0.0,0.0,0.06176977459232009,0.0,0.06969350532663772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561577483411606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928220497594448,0.15266257581588938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370009455461908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514737899407776,0.0,0.07000229864755413,0.0,0.07846572725250157,0.08089966587125721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464000920280352,0.1905996237950572,0.0886263751303519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056198672482145995
parenting,Perloe,2018/04/11,"5 Year old daughter getting bit by something My 5 year old girl keeps getting bitten at night by something while she sleeps.  She has new bug bites every morning.  I've tried cleaning everything, scrubbing the bedframe, vacuuming the whole area, bleaching all the sheets but nothing works.  The bites look like little mosquito bites or something - they are itchy and raised.

Does anyone have any advice on what to try next?  I feel like a horrible parent!",6.7954852320675085,8.96960401265823,5.3779113924050685,79.95690928270044,65.83544303797468,7.2919831223628675,33.41983122362869,7.793537801064563,2.5736818565400847,363,16,57,4,6,106,64,79,0.091,0.831,0.077,-0.2942,1,0,3,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,5,0,3,1,1,0,1,6,8,4,0,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,5,8,3,12,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,1,10,25,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732566050704713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057084333254695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397306742975407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19356690537129964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515740726276794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938384278714764,0.0,0.15934681661656214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964877492639042,0.1266639574643934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526503752587106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759338432671213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324074542528367,0.1777023035950556,0.0,0.0,0.14888828861694486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123852911129975,0.18856175540065745,0.16638509292164694,0.0,0.17012520904295256,0.0,0.3720954059735181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19687191455569386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742916742388376,0.0,0.0,0.4094851991495857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24075164788791345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19795037167685076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907732895249316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283522199121833
parenting,meatsword81,2018/04/11,"I Need advice on potty training my 3 year old son PLEASE HELP!! My son is 3 and still in diapers, he’s stubborn the more we try to coax him into sitting down and using the potty he won’t do it, his grandmother had him “water the flowers” I think it’s just confusing him, we have a newborn also so it doesn’t help that we cant give him 100% undivided attention, I’m worn out is there anything that works?",4.524705882352944,4.248803823529413,6.171764705882352,81.09294117647059,69.58823529411765,9.15294117647059,29.94117647058824,8.841846274778883,2.206576470588235,315,11,67,5,5,109,63,85,0.08,0.802,0.118,0.6386,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,5,2,1,1,4,0,8,1,0,1,0,14,14,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,12,0,6,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,1,3,43,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940364301583615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24062997534986014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476154259988269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28865112302525703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033744481240743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311386559884236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157443977569504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302983274255741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402994822641251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19280485388284835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429164899921567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259881371528835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21905910602444406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937700197184547
parenting,outsourced_bob,2018/04/11,"Buying from grocery distributors? Greetings All,

The better half has stated she would like to stay with xyz brand of milk (we have tried all the brands at several grocery stores)...now I have to say it does taste better, but is quite costly...currently we go through almost 2qts (one container) a day with our two toddlers.  Remembering in my teen years, I could easily drink a gallon a day...multiplying that by two - nevermind the logistics of keeping the fridge stocked (4 containers a day...28 containers a week....112 containers a month), this will get quite costly...

I was thinking if I jumped through the hoops of registering an entity as a grocery store and got a license, I could probably order by the box (16 containers)..or perhaps half pallet at a lower price that would be worth the hassle?  Has anyone considered or done this before?  If so, can you chime in with details on how you went about this?  Do some distributors sell to you without a license? etc?

Thanks in advance!",4.586601123595506,7.074074331460675,5.122907303370791,78.14874297752813,72.53932584269663,8.49494382022472,29.664325842696627,9.188382445141503,2.9030775280898884,773,33,133,18,16,247,122,178,0.035,0.8809999999999999,0.084,0.7463,2,0,1,0,0,0,44,3,3,0,5,3,4,0,0,18,0,15,3,0,1,2,27,22,8,0,6,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,6,6,3,5,2,1,6,4,1,0,0,5,4,2,13,4,23,12,4,16,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,5,4,91,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594649873797003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135068546651293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550926947803446,0.0,0.0,0.2816858058268082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542949237171923,0.0,0.0,0.30810751871275044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935997561491,0.16296713699916965,0.0,0.15600350807530214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760486127123473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320109096749607,0.0,0.09050494319712288,0.0,0.1273660667015415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154793241451558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780107467601953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711112601684088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791132320832536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169748283226766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387620769883451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18039820601757608,0.0,0.0,0.12664128978200476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990617396704145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973837015658866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661519131602796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204040409861903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811969718625243,0.0,0.3111264953881586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774003605213555,0.0,0.0,0.14762552708490514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535104661543482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262520075445329,0.0,0.0,0.10255121028375426
parenting,jedrekk,2018/04/11,"High quality AP/NVC books for 3-4 year olds? Hi there. A friend of ours is coming from the US and has agreed to bring over a large stack of books for our daughter to help us save on shipping fees. My daughter loves to look at books and to be read to (she's 2 1/4), but most of the books we have are in Polish. I'd like to read her some books in English, instead of translating her books as I read.

That said, we're a AP/NVC household, so I'm looking for books where children aren't lied to, ignored, or otherwise treated poorly by adults. Books where kids don't stuff their face with sugar also a bonus. Otherwise, books that are well written, any and all sorts of subject matter is cool. Any suggestions?",3.185384615384617,4.538062923076929,3.590489510489512,92.47496503496508,73.61538461538461,6.598601398601399,24.88811188811189,6.980632752743323,0.7730055944055945,550,17,120,5,11,171,98,143,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.9783,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,1,1,7,9,0,0,6,1,9,3,1,0,1,15,17,8,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,3,6,1,1,0,12,3,2,2,1,1,0,2,5,11,8,24,14,3,12,0,0,2,1,20,8,0,4,3,68,14,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953578700292666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543191419385011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610752755964089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446796335343348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533541481979732,0.1975651374657029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135383917782404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31404890899964344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16876572090838385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621448633613933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5611216246835256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787025266124712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140587436939519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498517473356757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812641213467194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204153902856167
parenting,socopithy,2018/04/11,My wife is going into early labor at the hospital right now (24 weeks) what do I do for her? I’m waiting for her to get here in the ambulance and I don’t know what else to say to her as we’re about to go through this other than I love her and it’s ok. ,-1.1060451977401122,0.4244089322033915,2.0450000000000017,97.91518361581923,86.79661016949154,5.289265536723164,16.612994350282484,6.42735559955562,-0.5222225988700564,193,4,51,2,6,69,44,59,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,5,11,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,13,11,0,9,0,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,3,36,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600030078133567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22515332621193904,0.0,0.4898370625312024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23683857410443754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889487478403669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36802851710047385,0.0,0.3427083382996478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34568169327019216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notouching70,2018/04/11,"School bags: a global comparison Simple background.  I live in Germany and my daughter is about to start school at the end of August.  And while I understand that it is a rite of passage everywhere, it just seems a little crazy here, with extended family attending the send-off, and presents and whatnot.  

But the bit that really gets me is the school bag situation.  Kids are expected to turn up with special school bags that fit all their (heavy) stuff, are ergonomically designed for kids, and look super cool all at once.  It is a key part of the starting school experience, and apparently it's important not only to have a bag that is functional but that meets the needs of building status and self-esteem. Stores hold special events to build up the anticipation and advise you on what is the perfect bag for your little genius. So the bags that are being sold to 6 year olds with all the coolest characters and designs with matching pencil cases and sports bags etc cost well in excess of 200 euro (that's about US$250, folks).  For an effing kid's backpack! Sure, there are some cheaper options, but there isn't much in that price range and you kind of get the feeling your kid is going to be the loser kid from day 1 if you go that route.

Seriously, it can't be like this in sane countries, can it?  I feel like I'm losing my mind with the stress of buying a bloody school bag! 

So, what's it like where you live?",7.678403361344537,6.887472470588237,7.344495798319329,77.01058823529414,63.264705882352935,10.271428571428572,32.296218487394945,9.424239791934726,2.6550012605042017,1120,35,216,17,14,354,159,272,0.098,0.807,0.095,-0.6183,1,0,0,0,0,0,33,0,6,1,4,10,15,0,1,20,1,18,0,0,0,5,37,33,18,0,3,6,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,20,16,0,1,4,1,6,3,3,4,1,0,1,5,13,11,33,29,8,27,1,2,1,0,15,14,0,4,13,136,33,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230356949023387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268009954548686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981589637818064,0.0,0.12568669908692046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102390750764388,0.10624049386827948,0.0,0.1139657556549151,0.08051060172614917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775883170410555,0.0,0.1280963536704496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735635350460093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651738616519668,0.2259035589438708,0.1990266418339559,0.0,0.09463691129259476,0.12607886943653018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379162096041585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284509992168229,0.0835632339544873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825631234870075,0.1200183920433238,0.0,0.08571097905029827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203962987665845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219644265400281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6843309441219351,0.0,0.10259491537699003,0.11756731917568525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266759018632812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953472102264574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909378004789776,0.0,0.1290108499526219,0.0,0.0,0.10621538087937424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225817342998132,0.0,0.11732132182794268,0.13556034963800315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013279390258875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257303102897278
parenting,DrHamiltonStubbs,2018/04/11,How to Stop Teen Substance Abuse 9 out of 10 people with drug problems started abusing drugs before their 18 th birthday.  There is lots of information on google but has anyone done something that actually worked that parents can do to help a teen stop experimenting with drugs without the help of a trained professional or incurring huge medical bills?,16.211803278688524,11.18251124590164,13.521393442622953,52.4447131147541,51.295081967213115,16.134426229508193,55.09016393442622,13.023866798666859,6.958534426229509,290,15,44,6,2,89,51,61,0.153,0.705,0.142,0.29600000000000004,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,4,0,1,0,12,6,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,10,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,3,26,3,2,0.0,0.4100224688787388,0.1688514788057922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098599632502867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723505212733753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770688824723176,0.0,0.0,0.6019766004333003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925569852318426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23195556763023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471031854347028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430865281328936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921283809843035,0.0,0.0,0.11995661779731373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556551684401508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320628376948893,0.0,0.0,0.12247091435893387,0.0,0.0,0.28932021397884833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679391434540247,0.0,0.1259672731348649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curlysass,2018/04/11,"My son likes wearing my high-heeled shoes Hello, my son is 10.  This weekend his sister told me she caught him wearing my high heeled shoes.  We talked with him and he told us he does it a lot. Then I remembered that sometimes I see him really intrigued by my make-up.  Should we be worried about this, he is past the age of playing with mom's stuff?",1.6190342052313866,3.7249517887323975,2.3262776659959776,96.4498591549296,80.40845070422536,5.183903420523139,21.410462776659962,6.18269132825596,0.0639843058350098,271,8,60,2,7,84,52,71,0.032,0.901,0.067,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,5,5,0,0,8,8,2,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,16,2,5,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,19,1,0,1,5,35,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415741424662775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4688295930519341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083930692299045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862349371083495,0.0,0.0,0.14809802725592502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598480926591103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21179727344431395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213376006012224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513321996545732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679937159119952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194322575182874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539847742941631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832838908181325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4240070873709944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668788308788778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253168328297051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,garfieldtherat,2018/04/11,"Ex husband is angry with me because I gave condoms to our 23 year old daughter My daughter and her partner of 3 years are on holiday to a few countries. They left on Saturday. My daughter was late to the airport (she's never been the most punctual) and was finishing up her packing in a hurry. I heard her asking her sister if she had any condoms. Big sister said no, and so I got some and gave them to her. She just responded with a sheepish laugh.

My ex MIL was at the house to see my daughter off. Even when I was married to her son, we didn't have the best relationship. At times, my ex would act like he was 15 again, consistently submitting to her will. Anyway, ex MIL saw me giving condoms to my daughter and she wasn't happy. Promptly called my ex later that day. 

He in turn called me and went on a rant. He said I'm encouraging ""promiscuity and debauchery"" in our daughter. I asked whether he would prefer our daughter have unprotected sex, and he said she shouldn't be sexually active until she is married. I told him he was being ridiculous - she's a grown ass woman. He also shouted at me for being okay with my daughter and her partner sleeping in the same room when they visit. I cut the line soon after.

Now he's going round, telling anyone who will listen that i'm a ""bad mother without morals.""

I cannot believe I was once married to this man.

  

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parenting,Momtogrief,2018/04/11,"My five year old is beside herself after her father’s suicide. What do I do to help? The father of my five year old daughter recently committed suicide. He was down on his luck, and thought the world would be better off without him. 

He was here the night before he died, and I knew he was upset, but I had no idea it was that bad. Part of me wonders what he was saying to her while he was here because he’d whisper to her, and I’d ask what they were talking about, and our baby would say “nothing, mommy.” And giggle. 

When he died, I took shirts from his house, and she wants to sleep in them every night. That was something they did when she spent the night, but I think it’s hurting her even more. She cries for him every night, and our once vivacious little girl just sobs and doesn’t want to get out of bed.

We’ve watched the Sesame Street episode about Mr. Hooper, and I think that helped her understand he’s gone, but she’s devastated... 

I’m told most of his suicide note addressed me, but his mom blames me and won’t let me read it. That and his family really won’t help with her. I don’t care about myself, but my little baby is so sad. I tried to show her his picture the other day, and she covered it with her hands and started screaming and crying “no, no, no.” So I put it away.

She was his little shadow and now she’s so upset. The closest child therapist is 2.5 hours away. What can I do to help her?",2.9068322399250235,4.087569487972509,3.76107622617932,91.65674086223056,74.05154639175258,6.390565448297408,22.84926585442049,6.574015621080383,0.4083869415807553,1095,28,241,8,22,350,150,291,0.215,0.7140000000000001,0.071,-0.9946,0,0,1,0,0,3,40,2,0,3,1,13,11,0,2,7,0,27,3,3,0,1,39,44,26,5,4,7,4,1,0,0,4,0,4,2,3,14,18,0,0,7,2,1,3,9,7,0,2,17,6,50,4,27,20,3,33,0,3,1,0,56,13,1,3,17,164,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930130610679486,0.0,0.186954975848966,0.0,0.08307297846134729,0.060650359259553074,0.0,0.08466170344712058,0.0,0.0,0.08799398096540582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144032961739853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857803841585785,0.06416512434798245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065172436563996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657145672971379,0.0,0.1676552544771157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379368688925416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05198128598212872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26675378173717995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798112896014284,0.11480222616167032,0.10650992876859476,0.1123161346745498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173892033623846,0.0,0.0,0.2991560972177839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652567141453787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734719173709362,0.0,0.09546676763332893,0.0,0.20880353863685416,0.10595740921743108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774184509085194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000185222044671,0.0,0.0,0.09952049839893437,0.0,0.06373813119885488,0.0,0.0982379013552879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582425668883543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995654270940783,0.0,0.0,0.07659501410052846,0.0,0.0,0.07042206378537083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264894645678701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996916605153573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155197079093445,0.0,0.12750292972130542,0.0,0.07898678423563019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507037368414467,0.11054102158490743,0.06754960583311788,0.0,0.0,0.1035763193891644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736777549888958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590825492344156,0.10789653691817984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135476075425132,0.0,0.0,0.1281411992940284
parenting,binkikids,2018/04/11,"How To Stop Being Paranoid About Your Baby's Health Great Article to read especially if you are always worried about your kids health 
https://www.binkikids.com/songs/how-to-stop-being-paranoid-about-your-baby-s-health
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parenting,TheDevilsCodpiece,2018/04/11,"How to get 6yo to stop coming to the bed every night? My (29M) girlfriend's (35F) 6yo son comes to our bed almost every night, whenever he wakes up. When it's bedtime he needs someone to stay with him until he falls asleep, nearly having an emotional meltdown if we suggest otherwise (as though the world is about to end). He comes in either for an escort to the bathroom, wanting to sleep with us, or us with him. The only time he will be alone all night is if he sleeps straight through or if he knows we are upset with him.

He's fine in his room alone during the day, but can be VERY clingy. Not physically, but needs make contact with one of us every few minutes, which also gets old fast.
He does have some issues: hemophilia (basically medication through needles 3 times a week (no longer an issue but 2 years ago you'd think we were murdering him)), separation anxiety from being separated from his mother when he was 2yo, and ADHD (if he were not on meds his kindergarten teacher would have murdered him long ago).

How can we get this child to sleep on his own? We even got him a bunkbed for his birthday, which he loves, but it's like he could care less in the middle of the night. He is a very good, loving kid, but the lack of sleep is catching up to me.",6.688547349065278,5.7176770517928315,6.748764940239044,81.06637756665647,65.33466135458167,9.476064970885687,31.25988354275207,8.384062270229773,2.093764082133006,984,30,204,11,13,315,152,251,0.085,0.816,0.099,0.6924,0,2,0,0,0,0,37,9,1,0,0,8,9,2,1,14,0,20,9,6,3,1,43,36,20,2,10,14,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,2,5,14,0,1,2,0,0,5,3,3,0,1,4,0,23,6,35,25,7,37,0,0,0,2,44,12,0,8,20,126,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879413501814555,0.0,0.17524269629641145,0.0,0.09898036709139348,0.20475006976131416,0.0,0.07904741106064524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561720697619034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078046795184464,0.0,0.0,0.2554422010336601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892078791902171,0.0,0.0,0.06374773507112949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650112962644856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118886848068173,0.08754854985058551,0.0,0.0,0.06528709901118701,0.0,0.24984700460631204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549294549547406,0.0,0.0,0.08290765033432873,0.07905647656113826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063398706000799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432338311496334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04829134632043768,0.0,0.0,0.08747593211941185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784254268622675,0.0,0.06598072343924709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979604025681584,0.09957732450978377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658667044019622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710425108186953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372264371178656,0.0,0.06698086244502939,0.07517712302754859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956710461100654,0.0,0.08375221349503749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535708473478167,0.0,0.0826399962641883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333676640745252,0.09711606240905768,0.0,0.11527623332745025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567000585682214,0.0,0.0,0.16311722422393202,0.05830215350175871,0.0,0.07928860039102073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021762936775358,0.0,0.0,0.0636538252461859
parenting,BeaverDelightTonight,2018/04/11,"10 week old preemie cluster feeding like a maniac So, my wife was part Holstein 16 years ago with her first. Not so much now. We tallied it up, and this kid is eating every hour and a half for 40 minutes, and by the time we burp her, or wipe up the yogurt she spews .. I mean, between feeding ourselves, building a new bedroom for the teenager (which is woefully late due to a lengthy hospital stay), we have ZERO time for anything. 

tl;dr, this is normal, right? This will actually *end*, right?  Because this part sucks. [meIRL](https://youtu.be/GzBxEZOBTGg)",3.178066666666666,6.1672757400000044,3.4720000000000013,85.01266666666669,81.6,5.7333333333333325,28.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.8535333333333333,434,20,74,6,12,134,77,100,0.085,0.8909999999999999,0.024,-0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,32,3,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,7,0,6,4,0,0,0,11,8,6,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,6,7,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,8,1,9,6,3,18,0,0,0,0,8,4,1,1,14,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.19749241984999985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793965086513961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16654042811208533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233681784384005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207083936229658,0.0,0.0,0.17924746095120847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051278510943374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214322069004018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993022555632576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22829199105608286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887201134258476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044973602476609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487716320950338,0.0,0.0,0.19545861166802628,0.0,0.0,0.19828815907042946,0.0,0.0,0.2123624041770491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383128256031595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34566061176844337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21570876918191054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360172974564277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233598759454962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303252489582436
parenting,KidGiftIssues,2018/04/11,"Relatives Bought Kids Gifts I Don’t Approve Of So this weekend DD is turning 18 and DS is turning 12.

My husband’s ex decided to send DS a shirt with Sheldon Cooper and the text “I’m not crazy, my mother had me tested.” DD was recently advised to do testing for bipolar disorder so I am not sure if it was an attack on her. They do not get along well at all and tbh she fits the stereotype of evil stepmother sometimes in how she treats our kids. 

More complicated is that my sister (conservative and believes every adult should bear arms) wants to get DD a firearm for her birthday. I’m strongly anti gun and liberal and so is DD but she has suddenly expressed an interest in learning marksmanship as a sport. She’s very excited about it and has been staying up very late researching it, also telling everyone at her school about it and posting on Instagram. I want to share my views on this but also want to respect her agency and independence as a young adult. Btw my sister gets along well with our kids especially my daughter. She respects my views even though we are diametrically opposed on the political compass.",4.299624413145541,6.432883586854459,5.256924882629113,78.44951877934274,72.28638497652581,8.301408450704226,32.490610328638496,8.998388855275968,3.052500469483568,896,44,160,19,18,293,133,213,0.075,0.82,0.105,0.8613,0,0,0,2,0,0,14,3,0,1,2,12,12,2,0,9,0,16,3,2,2,2,32,27,21,0,5,6,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,7,14,0,2,2,2,1,1,4,2,2,0,5,2,24,10,26,21,2,18,0,0,2,0,29,10,0,1,5,109,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755452323188143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19599388669828127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19410107483122874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744832501499787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378961450525785,0.0,0.14515371219345147,0.16462135592363245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27002827850857386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433985518773444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499705142409493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701061634398165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435701622572194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038977338809125,0.0,0.0,0.1836280404389594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237228826034045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505807096417435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926467052704655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747833229499218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28429883307310805,0.3048464247425691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30980163490676804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaniellexoTx,2018/04/11,"Single moms, how do you bring in extra income? I tried the Etsy thing but now I’m left with too much product. Is there a sub where I can sell them accepting PayPal and selling them for basically 75% off. Stone and crystal bracelets, barefoot sandals. I have over 200 hand made bracelets. The extra money would help and I can also donate some to someone in need cause I know what’s it like. Please let me know. If there’s a board for something like this. Thank you ",1.2534249084249112,3.881594406593411,1.8905769230769245,95.01483974358976,88.45054945054945,3.9124542124542128,19.671245421245423,5.46131890053228,-0.2371765567765567,365,11,73,2,12,112,71,91,0.0,0.7509999999999999,0.249,0.9764,1,0,1,0,1,0,11,0,2,2,0,7,4,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,3,0,15,14,7,0,3,2,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,4,8,11,5,8,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,3,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088594884156339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682960166680856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750583665909472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870670615054832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837645964730856,0.2670664925056022,0.0,0.2551913023350189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471276569148397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30588197956781604,0.0,0.0,0.19199177820551794,0.193656038736056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866888864961397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212905423408524,0.20106328720257768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24045247298857336,0.0,0.0,0.17351134953038164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731892809915142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18552939243330985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cadem1999,2018/04/11,"How do I trust coaches/instructors? Hello Parents just a quick question, and any response would be very appreciated! If you have ever hired a tutor, sports coach, or any other form of instructor for your child, what allows you to trust these instructors with your child? And if this was a high school student, does that change how you feel about the lesson, and if so what would allow you to trust these students more? Things like background checks, meeting them beforehand?",8.433855421686747,9.33662949397591,6.522554216867473,77.86551807228919,61.28915662650604,9.049638554216868,32.26265060240964,8.841846274778883,2.615580240963856,380,13,63,5,5,110,63,83,0.0,0.785,0.215,0.9622,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,6,1,1,7,4,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,4,1,19,7,10,0,5,5,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,4,6,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,5,3,47,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799082534158456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954943325091113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444437559217826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25267017390713475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123775102583824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29512771134076354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646663487592187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101631503032604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129137715978989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28269709308655305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185574584764692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230476683466582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39685634462117386,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaybreakup3118,2018/04/11,"Very angry 6 year old and hitting? I’m sorry for this long and unorganized post as I’m on mobile and very emotional tonight. 

Some relevant background: My oldest child is a 6 year old girl. The last year has been very traumatic for us but her father was abusive and has had very little to do with them since I left him in early 2017. She witnessed far more than she should have and it has been a hard year. She was also molested in his care last summer (he did not molest her), and I have a protective order against him. He only has visits with the children at a supervised visitation center. I don’t have any close family or any friends, so it’s pretty much just my kids and I all the time. They get very little attention outside of me and school and are dying for it.

The current situation: she has recently become violent towards me at home, including kicking, screaming, throwing things, biting, pulling hair, etc. when she does not get her way. I have tried to get her into therapy but have not had any luck with local therapists willing to take her on due to the divorce and dealing with molestation. She is in counseling at her school but it is not enough. 

Whenever she gets violent towards me, it’s like a switch has flipped and she gets a sort of distant look in her eyes while freaking out and complaining of a headache or stomach ache. I know she’s exhausted as she has trouble sleeping well. She can only tell me that she’s angry and sad.

Their dad didn’t show up for his latest scheduled visit with them and it broke their hearts so I understand that she is very angry right now and doesn’t have anywhere to release this anger. tonight she was exhausted and began hitting me again when I told her it was time for bed then she screamed/cried until she calmed down. She was calm and sweet again like nothing happened when she finally fell asleep. 95% of the time she’s an amazing, sweet, helpful, caring child. When she’s angry I’ve tried encouraging deep breaths, talking about our feelings, discussing real life consequences, etc but all she can tell me is she’s just really angry and doesn’t know how to control it. Her friends all have dads and she feels like she’s not good enough.

I take away iPad or TV when she does this as those are the most effective punishments but family and acquaintances say I should be spanking her mercilessly until she fears me. First, it is not in my nature to do that. I was abused as a child and adult, and I really can’t do that to her. But secondly I feel like that wouldn’t really solve my problem as she mostly needs therapy and anger management.

So my questions are: has anyone dealt with this before? Are there any tips to dealing with this until I can get her into proper therapy? Is my approach completely wrong? Is my child really doomed (as I’m being told)? How can I help her?",5.110435074913557,6.278517640510947,5.387130234344988,82.12500384172111,68.76277372262774,8.761121782558588,29.384556281213985,9.063066167217693,2.3647766423357663,2249,82,429,41,38,713,255,548,0.195,0.6829999999999999,0.122,-0.9948,1,0,0,0,2,0,57,2,0,5,3,19,37,8,1,16,0,56,10,7,4,3,77,83,54,1,5,17,3,5,4,2,4,3,2,2,8,21,34,0,2,9,2,0,7,12,20,1,2,15,11,80,17,55,60,12,75,1,3,2,0,84,27,0,9,42,300,101,4,0.0,0.17469522289292194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895484699057661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005318780241632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154760336115592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692635293819681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141931483054968,0.06273134328314844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032742977961389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729531490902236,0.0,0.08268463649550938,0.0,0.0,0.08097931770642121,0.0,0.15200671753882047,0.0,0.0,0.07651100543819632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902790346231185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829264695753899,0.0,0.15234749052409616,0.1644373342735459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899564337769196,0.08295688790671676,0.11182701825953233,0.10533293359428217,0.0,0.08075801221093916,0.0,0.06270724695334656,0.0,0.0,0.11391369043151132,0.0,0.2310978231578684,0.0,0.0,0.061833876330986325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519144684933822,0.0,0.0660397484694067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736002138634577,0.09882758303277572,0.0,0.07394841207050147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810305283014539,0.12018529600301428,0.0,0.0,0.0800983402445279,0.0,0.052071490239233735,0.14406589134746592,0.14777609446942128,0.0,0.06524097531165743,0.06190727232829269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05419359203365632,0.054663363484666834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073751564991224,0.0,0.15471607500959328,0.0,0.0,0.11213664624336916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060456708863642,0.07500100179643636,0.0,0.07054126801280483,0.0,0.0,0.0825846578930016,0.0,0.0,0.08391090790299645,0.18891084991972049,0.0,0.07279082823066248,0.0,0.0,0.0629575340153454,0.0,0.058626087010404664,0.0,0.14921965626939365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060982969470706264,0.08286575974395592,0.07377447809177459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252488972984617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108583917511448,0.059254338188214274,0.1288712219326653,0.0,0.2529199798377285,0.0855960387964128,0.04897711442410296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896233930272308,0.0,0.0,0.14088760336277215,0.0,0.10010376214094012,0.0,0.0,0.07674640815212277,0.08867757165078896,0.0,0.0,0.3649664498792375,0.0,0.058516486882949525,0.0,0.0,0.06628424607335112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806026002478235,0.0,0.1898962396061127
parenting,lilyrobinson899997,2018/04/11,"Are my friends bad people? Two of my friends ( 18M) invited an unpopular sophomore (16F) She's bullied a lot and doesn't have many friends They got her very drunk everything after that is very blurry. 

She said yes but was clearly intoxicated then told her to take off her clothes. She did. They took her to another house and told her to start doing sexual things and she did. When they penetrated her she was squirming a lot and said it hurt and i think she started to bleed and have a tear in her vagina now. 

The next day they called her ugly, fat, gross, slt and disgusting. She had a crush on one of my friends but they this was her fault and she wanted. Are they bad people I don't know this girl but shes very quiet and nice. She wants to see one of the guys again because she said shes lonley. Are they bad? 

TL;DR:Friends invited unpopular girl to party and did stuff to her",1.38262711864407,3.8106730677966136,2.5281666666666682,92.69970762711864,83.85875706214689,5.799887005649718,20.71440677966102,7.1686216300943375,0.4840420338983051,691,21,149,10,20,220,98,177,0.197,0.691,0.112,-0.9626,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,7,0,3,12,1,0,7,1,18,5,2,0,1,20,33,15,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,0,3,4,0,3,6,10,2,0,2,1,0,1,2,7,0,3,14,5,34,5,14,19,2,13,0,1,1,1,42,3,0,2,9,99,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300480315027906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106599290859054,0.07560274775097976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664047536431405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799840226787556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146310588649792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790960033903302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919183806472698,0.0,0.0,0.12280142113208901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310490245586802,0.13276827006426264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815932679342754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087838323239189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573898780529366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189895697096007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680812287642243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719626773843872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539203787218328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882959143682056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556702349228692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197568265516775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324921741901704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239480150030394,0.0794683819759272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23701694657650876,0.13779316516914147,0.0,0.0,0.1211516134062054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069937719449585,0.14630294747575678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TeenyMom,2018/04/11,"I have a torn relationship with my MIL Hello all! I'd like some oppinions on my situation from outside sources. 

My husband and i moved a city over from his mothers city almost two years ago. We only moved 30 mins away (45 mins with terrible traffic). Since having our son, my MIL has only visited six times while we have gone out there over ten times. She's not old, she can handle the drive out here. I hate going over to her house because it's not baby proofed so I have no time to relax, and because our son hates car rides so the entire trip there and back has to be strategically planned during his nap times in hopes that he'll sleep during the trip. My husband has invited his mother out here numerous times, all of which she's turned down and offered for us to go and visit her instead. She's also offered for us to go out there and drop our son off for her to watch while we go out on a date... which isn't practical. There's no nice restaurants in her town, no movie theater, we would have to drive another town over after dropping our son off in order to have a date. 
She requests one on one alone time with our son, but isn't willing to come to our house to visit him. Isn't willing to come to our house to watch him while we go on a date. She just isn't willing to make the effort to have a connection with her grandson, but complains on every phone call that she has no relationship with him. 
Yesterday morning, my husband finally blew up at her. She had called to complain about how we weren't going to her house on my husbands day off. He responded that we had previous plans, but that she was welcome to come out here. She starts yelling, eventually the phone call ends in her abruptly hanging up on my husband. 

Are we being unreasonable? Should we really be the ones to always go out to her house for visits? I don't feel like it's so unreasonable to ask for someone to make an effort and make the trip at least half the time, since she so badly wants a relationship with her grandson. ",5.8454960425024405,5.669662683291772,6.099340778488562,82.38657595142578,66.80548628428927,9.068676135747587,30.65174021468069,8.587818076936951,2.117427322996855,1580,53,325,21,23,506,179,401,0.08,0.884,0.037000000000000005,-0.9368,0,1,0,0,1,0,37,18,0,0,5,17,12,2,0,16,0,30,1,1,4,3,52,53,19,0,4,6,14,1,2,0,6,0,1,0,0,8,32,0,0,1,2,0,25,12,6,0,7,5,4,58,6,70,39,4,87,0,0,2,0,82,33,0,3,28,228,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739601681641488,0.0,0.08354818488579202,0.08641358476677406,0.0,0.0667230068761004,0.0694246740927815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748896086610397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800054103554004,0.0,0.07839000833900457,0.06415642978789507,0.06966481041501499,0.10172250610672973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555896494206188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21561581217301412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05380872704639949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389871996176611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029765715974509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042187285632665175,0.05960604098942447,0.0,0.09139905672067952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319265687153423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474974451566995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286986483242938,0.0,0.4813644261289876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152433556926178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708070022746524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735658106462035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755108581961389,0.0,0.16961331758448425,0.12691228287904982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345065156465517,0.0,0.0,0.2687341679142412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803672807324366,0.09378453069470306,0.08349534025226125,0.0,0.07069427628225222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905578219907715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405616808968103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075341287452182,0.08150395389824426,0.0,0.2007242669617048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04921217452656132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059269890111058224,0.0,0.0,0.05372945884758857
parenting,VersatileNinja,2018/04/12,"Looking for high quality, accurate , and reliable thermometer recommendation for 3 month old baby? Hey guys, I had bought like a $20 digital thermometer from Walmart when my daughter was first born which can do forehead or ear temperature readings, but I don't really trust it. One reading for ear says 98.6 and then next reading is 100? The forehead readings are not that much better. It's just not consistent.

I am hoping there are parents here who can link me a quality thermometer that I can trust and use a long time. Thanks!",5.269097938144331,7.521241721649487,5.804729381443297,75.0415270618557,69.9278350515464,9.798453608247424,33.774484536082475,10.125756701596842,3.9268360824742254,425,21,72,12,8,137,73,97,0.145,0.799,0.056,-0.8725,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,4,0,11,4,4,1,0,11,16,7,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,4,6,6,4,13,1,10,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,2,10,46,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039883687231565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542653532445077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957564661722486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161757976290425,0.0,0.18013213692676255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860369693688022,0.0,0.0,0.16049854827715285,0.1522973451734088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447604128066522,0.0,0.1333210119219652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287920504373032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903075890232884,0.0,0.12289473143428525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137963975916107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7256392772782013,0.0,0.11618433438908367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422534015457458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669726032937709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575290626602188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663744978236704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RegularSoil,2018/04/12,"19 year old son quit college so he could spend more time with his girlfriend. I had a feeling this happened quite awhile ago but I never had an actual proof of him dropping out until a letter came in the mail today from one of his scholarship partners informing me of his leaving school.

He was on an athletic scholarship, he was a damn good baseball player and got into his college  based on that, the nearby double A team had their eye on him as well. So he had a future, not to mention he was also studying to get a degree in accounting and marketing.

But instead, he threw it all away for a 16 year old girl he met last summer.

Now I find out he's completely out of school, has no job and is living out of his car. I want to be mad but at the same time I feel bad that he got so wrapped around this girl's finger that he dropped everything he wanted to do, all his dreams just to be with her.

He came to me asking for a place to bathe and sleep, I told him fine as long as he paid some type of rent or fee for the water/food he ate.

He got pissed and said ""You hate me don't you? That's why you treat me like I'm a guest in your house, you're my father, not my landlord.""

So I told him that he should of thought of that before he dropped out of school for a girl who still has 2 years of high school. He then stormed off.

He has come back but instead of coming in, he stays out in his car, and uses the hose to ""shower"" and then sleeps in his backseat.

I've also asked him why he doesn't get a job, and he said ""Because I won't have enough time to spend with her."" I brought up the fact she is in school til 3pm, and he said ""I have more important things to do."" Those ""important things"" were sleeping. I even offered him a job at a car repair shop I own. He turned me down.

So has anyone dealt with this and how to I fix this before it gets to the point of him setting up a tent or something on my front lawn when he tires of his car.",4.555579710144926,3.7598484227053177,5.168164251207731,90.06934782608695,69.60386473429952,8.26280193236715,26.69565217391305,7.079830092131019,0.9567739130434784,1493,36,357,11,23,482,206,414,0.064,0.871,0.065,-0.6394,5,0,1,0,0,0,43,0,4,1,3,18,10,4,0,23,0,25,8,6,2,5,53,57,32,0,4,9,2,3,1,3,2,1,3,5,4,16,26,1,0,5,4,9,11,7,5,1,1,24,7,45,5,65,28,9,68,0,0,1,0,72,29,2,3,24,223,61,15,0.0,0.0,0.08392701852112293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623692147600432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755394997389686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060135653096920774,0.0,0.0,0.07656135671464398,0.1608033423832807,0.0,0.0808031276643433,0.06613138965645879,0.07180933755400351,0.05242694076350317,0.0,0.14636530321493008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673020514744072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816881527487766,0.090173042785708,0.0,0.0,0.06866680367928184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886461487021531,0.0,0.05680450650329221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729440825187174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697191642196088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860564904032895,0.0,0.10399578433089814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479985119296034,0.0,0.0,0.0721356628479092,0.20635458788764915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605261888028624,0.0,0.0,0.08491065966722072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086742906235376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992365022066736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560356360419631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701043384805964,0.0,0.09106529798791564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04201697023851518,0.0,0.07594267400700476,0.07611039899486467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633120800394599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804924304648689,0.0,0.05827820341202225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985536187605575,0.0,0.08130111469159254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18295063617089247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454270946786544,0.0,0.0,0.4352007125233298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581968587860564,0.0,0.0,0.06620970289463851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166829734553407,0.06868251329464302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114273819562889,0.0,0.0,0.06827717937332306,0.1504480129665924,0.09884838184155788,0.08152127030117225,0.16436007668718608,0.0,0.0,0.09354712114281123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427941827789795,0.0,0.0,0.10145419563454974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732748309811223,0.0,0.15520957956589967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615031996766244
parenting,eileenm212,2018/04/12,"My 21 yo son lives in Vietnam Equally proud, amazed, and sad. He moved there to teach English, he’s SO good at it, so happy and finding his place on the world. I really could not be prouder of the man he has become. He GETS it!! Meeting the most amazing people, really truly successful. 
He loves his job. He’s really good at it.
But damn, I miss him. So much. It really hurts.
Like physical pain in my heart. This is what we work for from the time they are born, right???
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parenting,HailtbeWhale,2018/04/12,"Explaining break ups I need some tips for explaining my upcoming break-up to my 5 year old daughter. They are close and essentially as long as my kid has been able to remember things her step mom has been present. I deploy in about 2 months and the break up is going into effect at that point. She won't see me or her step mom until I come back but at that point we will be moving into a new place and I don't know what kind of contact those two will have. 

Their relationship and it's future is the hardest part of this break up and I don't know what to do about it.",2.075499999999998,3.587035550000003,3.3483333333333327,92.43,76.83333333333334,6.8000000000000025,20.333333333333336,7.554174236665415,0.37298333333333344,446,10,103,6,10,145,80,120,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,15,0,0,1,0,20,23,10,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,10,0,0,6,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,2,1,15,1,19,17,2,29,0,0,1,0,14,12,0,2,9,72,24,0,0.19503458216344494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996955491739794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800502299169012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084264761719548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030985045931144,0.2143718115241227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725994678342684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4568442908681456,0.15567474274441087,0.20729089517502267,0.0,0.1446156713999772,0.0,0.1883656147908615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046559856324759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21120344650172487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376962736602205,0.0,0.36874144178507057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20939415158873725,0.2209361618716101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541731077178933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957231012068826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905204471404992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559587645330342
parenting,DahliaSinger,2018/04/12,"Giving myself permission to let this go already- Finding the ""perfect"" school My daughter has been at her current charter school for the past few years, before that attending a public school. I love her current school and was planning on her continuing to attend for another couple years when the school decided (fairly last minute, but I won't get into that) her current grade level will be the highest they will teach going forward. So this leaves us trying to find THE PERFECT SCHOOL last minute. Most of the application deadlines came and went months ago. The applications were lengthy and included her having to create portfolios and perform for interviews and it's been incredibly stressful for all involved. Not to mention the rejections. My daughter was a willing participant because these schools lean towards the arts and her friends were applying as well. But let me be clear- we're talking about middle school here. 

I'd been going along with this because it seemed that's what DD wanted, pressure from her current school, other parents and pressure from her (not all that involved) father. But now I just want it to be OKAY for me to send her to a REGULAR SCHOOL like I went to and like most effing people attend. 

It sounds ridiculous when I type it out. But our school district is terrible and who doesn't want the best for their kids? We can't afford a private education, so that's out. I'm feeling this horrible mix of embarrassment for trying so hard and guilt for failing. 

I'm done with this. I just want to send her to the school that's two blocks away, best or not, and not feel like a total failure but I'm an anxious mess in general so why should this be any different? 

Please forgive any typos- I'm on mobile. ",5.444018691588788,7.429196915887854,5.297973831775703,79.94819439252338,68.93769470404986,7.752822429906543,31.53158878504673,8.364918446050245,2.53754893457944,1394,60,238,21,25,432,176,321,0.16899999999999998,0.7020000000000001,0.129,-0.969,7,0,0,0,0,0,33,3,0,2,7,12,22,1,5,17,1,24,1,0,0,6,53,44,24,0,5,12,4,3,3,1,5,0,1,0,1,21,19,0,1,7,1,1,12,7,10,1,1,11,4,26,12,37,22,8,38,0,2,0,1,33,12,0,4,19,166,47,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061028885664964866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597459329420783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363690893566816,0.07219228839222981,0.0,0.07777773543120617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468420739091503,0.0,0.0,0.0839372238981813,0.0,0.05858389335693074,0.0,0.1445017703131492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874285165467508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761781133950084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193066692814812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045458522076417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962242231999577,0.04918445091162078,0.0,0.0,0.12585018059556669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05319117320676592,0.0,0.035969818590234376,0.06604450427469037,0.11738234500765522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167356506599068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223930806536944,0.0,0.07289924030706993,0.0,0.14080184585348499,0.0,0.10090578776118374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06213728278456564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495317537858225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764466641590867,0.0,0.06572243924944343,0.04772997735904701,0.0,0.0,0.0755735472945749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8361244607997117,0.0,0.06267590194276898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886423094139118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533676863390815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348545430347532,0.0,0.06725370705835743,0.0,0.08281470041686421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243144097996506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190189783882566,0.12764408174902986,0.062123886314165815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867067456018554
parenting,iNeedHelpImSoDumb,2018/04/12,"Toys “R” Us The Toys R us / Babies R us where I live officially closes May 15 everything on sale, I’m barely 10 weeks pregnant. Should I start buying stuff even though I don’t know the gender of my baby? Or if it’s only one or more! I haven’t had my first check up because of personal reasons. Should I start buy neutral colored items or wait. ",1.3536820925553317,3.3936925774647904,3.3234607645875265,89.30056338028173,80.97183098591547,5.74728370221328,21.410462776659962,6.868970318607317,0.5207448692152914,267,8,56,3,7,90,53,71,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,11,5,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,2,4,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,10,0,4,7,2,8,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,5,4,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238571745763596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419905064535176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826058678459649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728255471307706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166289438932857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941243367053644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376806181875167,0.15452820991199384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740970161329214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20890377759605505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28762493593699057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325934894607195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962417652340586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7332047211470417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297944097118472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MealReplacemetShake,2018/04/12,"How can I explain white male privilege in a way that a toddler can understand? I'm posting this question here because from looking around there are some like minded people here and good moderation, so hopefully I don't receive the same disgusting abuse as from other poorly moderated subs.

My son has just started going to primary school and there is a black boy and girl in his class.
How do I explain to him that he is privileged in comparison to those two? He doesn't understand the concept of whiteness so I'm thinking there must be a visual way to do this, like with picture cards.
The reason I'm doing this now is, as an intersectional feminist and a male ally, I know my son being a white male like myself is probably going to become part of the problem. If I can educate him about his privilege at an early age, perhaps he will put oppressed people of colour and other minorities before himself and be a better ally than I ever could.

So I'm reaching out to the Reddit community. I'd like to ask if there are any techniques for teaching such a young child this relatively complicated concept, and also how best to reach my goals of raising an aware feminist ally despite my child being born a white male.

Thank you in advance.",9.11398839458414,7.609716259574473,9.362243713733076,65.9909090909091,60.872340425531924,11.949709864603484,40.087040618955506,10.832165505486646,4.448446808510637,991,44,167,20,11,331,135,235,0.055,0.795,0.151,0.9614,0,0,0,0,1,0,16,0,1,0,4,19,14,1,0,17,0,22,0,0,4,2,32,39,18,0,6,3,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,8,9,10,0,0,8,0,1,5,2,2,0,1,0,7,17,12,27,32,4,23,0,0,7,0,24,8,0,5,11,123,26,4,0.0,0.1905570352167956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861554733033606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936979131410718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317263590141407,0.15035416937934376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980403642706392,0.17762389819900495,0.13685432942297293,0.0,0.1687809715560577,0.14224090430450734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840952281357987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547977804143114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280658376236364,0.1348964208004356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597402983112801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838786189728899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31429330094349595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505654107632947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239226872977064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416302011820506,0.0,0.22299829084586734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540305081544507,0.0,0.1734017456306283,0.15389241526304032,0.0,0.16167838856111055,0.18016620376768566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535983904915433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276836208734738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383617295095347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480704882261087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305325333651294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710736267738504,0.3348590249653396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553184469973085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrSmus,2018/04/12,"Parents with only boys or only girls Do you ever miss or wishing having at least one of each sex? I got a daughter, and we will know the gender of our next baby in a week, I'm really excited, but can't help thinking, if it's a girl again, will there be something I'm missing out on, if it was a boy.",5.9836363636363625,3.344709484848486,7.650606060606062,79.39590909090909,67.78787878787878,10.012121212121212,32.60606060606061,7.793537801064563,2.1890060606060606,230,7,52,2,3,82,54,66,0.112,0.835,0.053,-0.5705,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,2,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,1,14,15,6,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,4,1,7,10,2,8,0,2,0,1,10,4,0,4,4,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27620169218884594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442119882233269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20466606394593007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780941896978074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32473746988579777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690941845812866,0.4644566892446631,0.0,0.0,0.3390490679753509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561158384763333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350692080426946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565250470071927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24492903791331366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35113124643977345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,propertyofmyhuskies,2018/04/12,"In about 3 hours I’m going to be meeting my 10 year old son for the first time. I’m extremely nervous and honestly a bit scared. Any suggestions for what we should do or what to say would be appreciated. The story isn’t terribly interesting. I had a girlfriend when I was 20 and she moved across the country for school. We broke up and stopped taking my calls. 

And I got that, probably just wanted a clean break.

About 2 weeks ago she friends and messages me on Facebook. We exchanged numbers and over the course of a few hours she explained that I have a son, told me his name, and based on photos I’m not feeling any particular need for a paternity test. 

I know people say this a lot but this kid looks like an identical twin to myself at that age. 

This isn’t bad news to me. I mean I would have liked to have been in his life the whole time but it’s not going to do anyone any good to be angry about that. 

My point is that I’ve always wanted to be a father. I’m excited to meet him and get to know him. But I’m also terrified. What if he just doesn’t like me? What if he doesn’t want me in his life after he meets me?

His mother told me he’s sorely missed the presence of his father. So what if he’s built up this amazing image of what his father should be and I fall well short of that? 

His mother and her family are very successful people with white collar jobs and I’m a retail manager/CFII trying to get hired by an airline. 

I’m suddenly feeling a lot of pressure and envisioning all the ways that this could go wrong. 

And I have to be honest I feel some anger right now. It’s like I have a son. He looks just like me. I want to hug him when I see him but I know I can’t because he’s almost certainly not going to be comfortable with that. So I keep thinking that I can’t even hug my own son.

At this point I’m rambling but any advice or suggestions will be appreciated.",1.9014081996434944,3.5152898181818233,3.642756981580512,89.6905080213904,77.58585858585859,6.780035650623888,21.748068924539513,7.618777277803332,0.7001407605466423,1472,40,328,21,34,493,187,396,0.098,0.7240000000000001,0.179,0.9886,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,3,0,0,2,14,27,1,3,20,0,32,5,0,0,2,63,69,28,0,13,16,9,3,5,2,5,3,2,1,1,23,18,0,2,9,0,2,6,9,9,1,1,6,9,48,18,41,49,8,39,0,2,4,2,50,15,0,9,21,209,71,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452586445722993,0.09481883903352868,0.0,0.10711092322893692,0.0,0.0,0.08554061200586513,0.08900421890805739,0.0,0.0,0.2909619895309755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479306221681266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931207985333575,0.06520543538526276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677908675410295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922416948026503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540358764436805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064998499722988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008379548722874,0.0,0.16225555775321485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098516161783228,0.0,0.0,0.08264160872909795,0.0,0.11177056247417637,0.0,0.2431648020526008,0.08971794337610604,0.08555042217484989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067978001727566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614717598196499,0.09507622940429836,0.0,0.0,0.17635702582281815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110639312942167,0.2612907407978368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964887478793273,0.0,0.0,0.1818772095069813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651725104491607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368785069674105,0.0,0.07931387842504052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122427452451989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831340900197815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223474814929265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532735934352098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134831595633736,0.0,0.17012719456911493,0.10709155181868307,0.10825522728121934,0.08523799372757597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942830336565576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804250639298125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853944598905863,0.0,0.0,0.12474538275511372,0.0,0.0,0.20442105154844095,0.0,0.07262284201156756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882580909456238,0.25236509709213106,0.08490457283691655,0.08580161338026529,0.0,0.0961752131486002,0.0,0.0,0.11942363588814894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519710489976829,0.11695044778192687,0.0,0.06888254902991994
parenting,Dantheman82904,2018/04/12,"How to Discipline? Hey Parents of Reddit. I'm a very happy father, 2 boys. My wife and I decided to raise our boys and discipline through methods NOT including spanking. I'm not looking for a debate on this. I work and my wife stays at home with the boys.

Here's the issue:
Boy 1 is ~ 3.5 yrs. potty trained and (scary) intelligent. He used to take 1 nap / day but he's at the point where he is phasing them out. In lieu of a nap, we tell him needs to have some quiet time for a while, probably 45 minutes. He doesn't like to do this. He wants to come out of his room and make noise and do whatever out in the play room rather than do so in his room. Boy 2 is 22 months old and still needs his nap. Boy 1 is making all this noise outside Boy 2's room and wakes him up, resulting in a cranky day usually. Boy 2 takes one nap only. 

Today, with nice weather, they played outside for a long time this morning and had a nice time. Lunch comes and goes, then wind down to prep for nap; maybe 45 - 60 minutes wind down time. Boy 1 said he did not need to potty, then hit Boy 2. Mommy takes Boy 2 into our room and leaves Boy 1 in the baby-proof play room. Comes back out and sets Boy 2 down for nap. Boy 1 has now peed on the carpet in the playroom. He is fully potty-trained and does not have accidents. This was a choice. Mommy takes away toys and puts him in his room for quiet time/ nap. After a short time, he comes out and sneaks into the room of Boy 2 and wakes him up. Thankfully, early enough that Boy 2 goes back to sleep.  Boy 1 gets the consequence/ punishment of toys being removed from accessibility and time out. Boy 1 does not seem to understand the link between consequences and his actions. He sometimes laughs during discussions re: bad choices and consequences, and about hurting people / people's feelings. It seems like a game to him. 

We do not know what to do. We feel like we cannot get through to him. He hits, he swipes toys from #2 (very jealous of toys/ attention), he does not listen well. Yes, I know he's 3, but we have got to figure something out. We don't want to spank him, but we also don't feel like T/O really works for much of this. We need him to be quiet during a nap time and I think he knows he can get a new reaction from being loud then.

On the flip side, we're trying a ""Gem Jar"" now, and put Gems (large glass gemstones) into the jar for good choices like sharing, listening, trying new foods.... And after a bit we are going to do a new toy or something as a prize. He is sometimes extremely helpful (get this or that please, find this please) and sometimes goes out of his way to share, hug, play well. Things that give us hope. 

Parents of Reddit, ***please*** let me know your suggestions. What works for you guys? Why do you choose to discipline the way you do? My wife and I are struggling with 3.5 y/o. We want to reward the good and punish the bad and be even-handed and consistent, but feel like we're drowning in the ""bad"" right now. HELP",1.7665950811955788,3.661882920922572,2.9256245587197007,93.39325679571665,78.9341021416804,6.0490586020240045,20.723964462226405,7.021680442328713,0.3061424099788179,2291,60,509,26,56,735,263,607,0.086,0.792,0.122,0.98,2,0,3,0,0,0,109,13,4,2,5,15,33,3,1,32,1,33,6,3,5,1,106,80,42,1,9,14,6,4,6,0,0,0,7,10,19,15,56,2,3,18,18,0,9,11,8,2,1,5,12,42,25,82,68,5,87,0,1,1,1,87,43,0,6,37,268,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056025438713041414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582189283026486,0.10774071173991832,0.17548676606899558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648530229662542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413954053937936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036335982168253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392495104402803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238874688969764,0.0,0.04627271551749248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169392515966256,0.15014856581244088,0.0,0.0,0.06403183585267462,0.0,0.08471453480690395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464098666348045,0.06720611502781132,0.03981563375310178,0.1175228238426329,0.05603186395373506,0.0,0.0,0.06936853531949395,0.0,0.07457815211101225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391693777520622,0.0,0.07027398831252724,0.06958350276312736,0.0,0.0,0.0749986469729403,0.0,0.0,0.07312245663234065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400840232743251,0.0,0.0,0.0741814142345604,0.0,0.07163915569114049,0.0,0.20536109866294625,0.0,0.0,0.061999215509567066,0.058831160943810364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352865394798672,0.0,0.07038277972568464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591970847832975,0.0,0.05150076582518301,0.20778877918203573,0.0,0.20298765388821252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351419281740983,0.0,0.04747318291021105,0.05328234337202235,0.0,0.0,0.15558246250436042,0.0,0.0,0.09713893332669678,0.0,0.0,0.2307082732310849,0.0662275509982831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553448299381256,0.0,0.0,0.140855485010517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04488101396521981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982923616212162,0.06664129797337982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755652939473305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010869694188156,0.0,0.0,0.10786829901827392,0.20786776223886866,0.0,0.0,0.0746726150115743,0.05594849061007538,0.0,0.0,0.0732399392655121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106998949169642,0.0,0.06123386892529259,0.06450008755174262,0.0,0.0,0.046543489849915035,0.04489040282319383,0.0,0.0,0.3268115405020632,0.0,0.06640688884520324,0.0,0.0,0.0951297048004986,0.0,0.0,0.07293295472482683,0.08427127046121817,0.060507706207760074,0.07715910141911801,0.11561054215663187,0.12396625078632093,0.11121772057477156,0.0,0.0,0.12598129434942895,0.0,0.06321654005062295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530093975357247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrtoast1993,2018/04/12,"How to discuss a fair distribution parenting ""work?"" Hey guys. As the title says, im just looking for a bit of advice regarding the splitting of parenting ""work"" or duties. I've seen several posts like this lately, but none that fit my situation.
So, my wife and i have two sons, 8 and 2. I work full time at an office, so my job is not too stressful or hard. She works about every other weekend, for a few hours a day. Otherwise she is a SAHM. While she is gone on weekends, I take care of the kids and try to accomplish as much cleaning as possible. It helps me de-stress, and the cleaning seems to never end.
Anyway.. I wanted to break down a typical day and see if im crazy for feeling like i take on too much of the parenting duties. So, every morning i wake up at 7 and get our 8 yr old ready and on the bus. I get myself ready and go to work for 8. Sometimes my wife and toddlwr are up. Other times they sleep in, no big deal. She is home mostly, chilling with our two year old. Granted, he does require a lot of attention. He's very adventurous, and without keeping a close eye on him, he can start climbing on things or getting himself into trouble. Hes two, i understand that. Usually i am home by about 5. Some days, things are picked up, but not usually. Yesterday, i came home from work and spent the first hour or two cleaning up. Just picking up trash, dirty dishes, vacuuming, etc. I understand some days these things will not get done, but sometimes its hard not to feel like these things are just left for me to pick up. I cleaned those things, did a little laundry, and took the kids outside. Didnt feel loike doing dishes since i had done several loads over the weekend. Wife cooks dinner while we are outside. Then, i get the two year old ready for bed, feed and walk animals, and the the 8 year olds homework done and get him to bed. Probably half the time, my wife is asleep by this point, and i get ready for bed and get prepared for the next day.
My wife does do a lot, and i know being a stay at home mom is a full time job in itself. I don't expect to come home to a spotless home with dinner on the table or whatever. Just feeling like we put forth the same amount of effort would be nice. I try to address this, but it is difficult sometimes. Somerimes, i end up just expressing anger and not being calm about it. I blew up a bit about it yesterday and in response she says ""im not your maid."" Obviously neither of us are each others maid. I just wish there was a better way for me to express how im feeling! I dont want to deal with a messy dirty house, so i clean up. That doesn't make me someone's maid. Am i being unfair? Any suggestions? Obviously having a discussion about this is important. I will continue to try that. Im just looking for advice or insight. Sorry for the long winded post. We are honestly happy together as a family, but it gets hard wearing so many hats, and being expected to take care of finances, cleaning, and tending to many of the kids needs. I see posts about how someones husband comes home and doesn't help at all. That blows my mind.
Anyway, i look forward to any responses i get. Thanks in advance.",2.7715559331127606,4.479621134281203,4.036960863215004,87.39207368326927,75.41390205371248,7.178622313630807,25.687472055798978,7.966352962830772,1.4470543324689258,2450,87,507,38,53,803,288,633,0.075,0.789,0.136,0.992,5,0,0,0,0,0,97,6,1,1,13,26,17,1,1,37,0,41,11,5,7,4,101,87,50,0,8,26,11,8,4,0,3,0,2,22,4,27,35,6,4,11,4,2,11,16,4,0,7,12,17,57,13,80,67,19,88,0,0,7,0,47,35,0,13,42,330,84,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899431400550056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889104123860286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044798128836669115,0.11059909088952416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05793310674441795,0.10328745001822283,0.0,0.0,0.0872654993175063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333375736755748,0.10444126040897816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865290352770272,0.15550565875344025,0.05936449696121787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972637903587673,0.0,0.056491064105228035,0.0,0.0,0.08535403908095862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04775078503361396,0.0,0.1280574407489658,0.10855873206082974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04308509528147653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646390492820915,0.0,0.028787052963492044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015406040313432,0.0,0.053920659107223816,0.13612440316281255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679027710237873,0.0,0.35566097609727515,0.0,0.09976526099994087,0.05844632623620968,0.0,0.0,0.2735676245819556,0.0,0.10052982507746146,0.0450223787049345,0.0,0.0,0.02783735694196509,0.0,0.05713836506149676,0.0,0.055034223139968926,0.0,0.0,0.09898525221709092,0.050767235207091976,0.0,0.04482597744484787,0.1276063384921952,0.0,0.0,0.08612609750644806,0.0,0.0,0.033811019202916286,0.10270761903695548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05114470983017177,0.059323739914211825,0.0,0.0,0.07447101219904342,0.03755827816671777,0.039066425523206286,0.0,0.05386963924396575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126056287664419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687312306546405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788310114695645,0.057103221780549926,0.1455336335807176,0.0,0.05461209473636662,0.0,0.0,0.05091987650303604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805619977768332,0.0,0.0,0.08072716509050494,0.04611224563566502,0.0,0.11444609267735716,0.0,0.041900373208020925,0.05693567055808602,0.05068920375806224,0.0,0.08583560625475221,0.0,0.15029021811078708,0.05670146450136911,0.035852187294963395,0.05398895661413848,0.0,0.0,0.11604481710874855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425340618691653,0.0,0.0,0.04663412990022392,0.0,0.0,0.16825676011133178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181438073276983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05627692794856684,0.10316941835491857,0.0,0.24740126297790174,0.10546233388958656,0.06092886882351488,0.0,0.1115734162586105,0.0417937187793943,0.05975245886578993,0.04020569448320521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824801671222812,0.0488273210669896,0.0,0.22125427705541792,0.0,0.0,0.03598217011249348,0.0,0.0,0.097855885577833
parenting,KCKO_KCKO,2018/04/12,"Advice on witnessing a weird adult-kid interaction Hi guys,

Writing here since you guys always have great advice, and I find myself much more aware of such things (or alternatively, more paranoid) since having a 2 year old girl myself.  Would love advice on how to deal with a weird situation.

I take a commuter train into work every day, and get on at the last car, so I stand in basically the same spot waiting to get on every day.  When I take the late train (which is relatively infrequently), there is always a group of what look like early high schoolers waiting for the same train in the same spot.

I have noticed an adult man, mostly bald, likely at least 30 years old, that has been chatting with them more than once while waiting for the train. I always assumed that they happened to be waiting in the same place and struck up a conversation, but this morning, he passed me on his way to them, and was walking extremely purposefully up to be with them.  They knew him by name, and included him in the group conversation.  At one point, one of them was saying that they were not excited about Spring Break and wanted to stay in school, and he made a joke that they could go to school at his place, which they all took as a joke. A little while later, he separated from them and waited for the train at a different spot by himself.

I don't know if I'm just being paranoid, but some of the other folks  around me were also looking around uncomfortably at him.  It could be that he just likes interacting with kids, and enjoys chatting with them.  The more sinister explanation in my head is that he is building a relationship with them purposefully, making sure to check in with them, and then giving them space so he's not too intrusive, for the purposes of building trust that he might then leverage later.  Then again, maybe this is crazy.  

I just don't know what degree of paranoia is right here, and what (if anything) to do about it.  I don't know these kids, and I have no idea if approaching them when he's not there would be counterproductive.

Any advice, reassurance that I'm overly paranoid, or anything else is welcome.",9.478830845771142,7.5200365348258735,8.647860696517416,72.83980099502492,60.51741293532338,11.520398009950249,35.2686567164179,9.994966539143718,3.1853522388059705,1685,52,320,26,18,529,199,402,0.071,0.8370000000000001,0.092,0.898,1,0,0,0,0,0,50,0,1,15,1,20,15,0,0,24,0,31,3,2,3,2,66,56,31,0,8,13,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,7,20,22,0,5,7,4,1,6,7,2,0,2,8,3,37,13,57,38,13,61,0,0,2,1,55,31,0,9,23,228,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38687596105037214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791517167795043,0.2470698968125875,0.0,0.0,0.06730762280312479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289895754175704,0.17622068502088314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158049853108769,0.0,0.0,0.12766370470536514,0.10204074193541683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340969715058117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268242180211367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678445742420153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904630084601702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342259305597806,0.09494757211591208,0.056250800325966833,0.0,0.0,0.10912227911004647,0.0,0.1960052000356593,0.0875248635330986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157875876704997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457443077410693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173276757773948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318519394093564,0.08067930794402724,0.1116501493953748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506520513076904,0.0992007627302851,0.0,0.0,0.16623117982831495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933043260853557,0.09365424791992223,0.06606778722409253,0.0,0.09943550599461616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499875102660318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727593415448539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126857507562243,0.2077190184609128,0.1054070691760842,0.13413849189389573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20681939430116236,0.0,0.0935650747237444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062640496564251,0.0,0.08452565235756011,0.0,0.0787103295455901,0.0,0.20033962555882653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16374927505757195,0.11125407800685903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549610695338066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328446923263974,0.0,0.14883648206093206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575579256771906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099668743795456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058379085155185875,0.07856318238653273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205629428673037,0.0,0.0,0.14062056778508916,0.0,0.0,0.1274756372211298
parenting,PapaBurgundy972018,2018/04/12,How Do I Tell a Friend They Can’t Be Around My Kids Anymore? I’m a younger parent with a 3 yr old and 1 yr old. I’ve had the same (quiet) friends since the beginning of high school (about 8 years ago) and one of them just starting doing acid. I really don’t want him around my kids even if he doesn’t do it around them. It sucks because he loves my kids but he is definitely changing for the worse because of who he’s been hanging out with at his new job. All they do is party and do acid. How do I politely tell him he can’t be around them anymore? Or is there no nice way to do it? Any advice is really appreciated.,1.4622523744911788,2.744783298507464,3.3385210312075984,92.82418588873814,77.95522388059702,6.663772048846678,21.883310719131615,7.348242739294969,0.4557552238805971,478,13,116,6,11,161,82,134,0.062,0.7659999999999999,0.172,0.9362,2,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,5,0,10,5,1,0,6,0,19,1,0,2,1,19,25,8,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,4,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,2,3,14,4,14,21,2,16,0,0,0,1,23,7,1,2,7,72,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14811109535661132,0.1343564311342728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307185499098462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30063067466138266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5397128032886402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847896405021887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033949627147834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010964003220056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23420307030146845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601405623259228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040846191836854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679659171801029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463859118306836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180915274975198,0.0,0.10270681543484188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829900884838855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941974704570699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339552917317462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537912372110507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728104506875738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26495529848783705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939909551139738,0.12030811081028164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446136647762726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976052180075632
parenting,CoffeeBean_9313,2018/04/12,"I just caught a poop I just finished bathing my 1 year old son and I took him into his room to get changed and take a nap. He likes to run around naked sometimes so I let him do that while I gathered his outfit for the day. 
I turn around and he’s red faced over a toy he was playing with and I instantly knew what that meant.
Poop.
With no diaper.
I quickly grab his diaper and hold it under his butt while he releases this adult sized log all the while I’m laughing and rubbing his back telling him he’s doing a great job. I love being a parent because of funny situations like this.",1.3737431693989066,3.4107062377049218,2.689754098360656,93.88632513661207,80.88524590163935,5.706010928961749,21.642076502732237,6.816661863887847,0.37232568306010894,459,14,102,5,12,148,82,122,0.018000000000000002,0.802,0.18,0.9601,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,7,0,5,5,4,0,1,17,14,10,0,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,11,0,1,2,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,3,18,6,11,7,1,18,0,0,1,2,19,6,1,0,11,63,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40120484238356297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327431815645114,0.0,0.13736657374078706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23838227271052895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532714056340204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773205041452944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24844067985374785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22361746058056994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23042776783675306,0.0,0.22018172933910413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033802225346916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364588358392856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25021595525209883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532941852199753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22286929540985154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942936443330645,0.0,0.1969591014346425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503635852830233,0.0,0.2451077123242708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511305223046547
parenting,MAMegaphone,2018/04/12,"Advice for procrastinating tween Every morning before school, my 12 yo daughter stands around for 30-45 min literally staring into space when she's supposed to be getting ready to go.  She leaves herself so little time to get ready, she rushes everything for the last 10-15 min and usually skips something  (brushing hair or teeth, eating breakfast, making her lunch...)

Her bedtime has been adjusted to 30 min earlier than normal, I wake her up with about an hour to get ready (cuz she does not get up to her own alarm clock) and her clothes are set out the night before.... any other tips to get my girl to move in the morning? ",10.156666666666665,7.7608198803418835,9.067623931623933,71.73015384615384,59.5982905982906,11.41128205128205,38.784615384615385,9.3871,3.537736410256411,494,18,89,6,5,154,86,117,0.02,0.917,0.063,0.6249,0,0,1,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,0,4,6,3,2,0,12,11,6,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,3,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,3,13,0,20,9,1,23,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,1,10,50,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919031801778528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354716412012216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17482249233998845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33421491204110243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185607365309113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009488208121668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654611348662971,0.0,0.1764963641501429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5130100215013866,0.0,0.1116089760738268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19339768197290974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007834373551325,0.0,0.20794122574484192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682734272064706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108716748587312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087240340903056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429212815790935,0.1924136293315809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19875006529740585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511852163262005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451249787561055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21628811329653735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautyandtheniffler,2018/04/12,"Help! What age should someone be able to have a smartphone? My 8 year old son wants a smartphone and has been angry for days now because we said not till he’s older (13-15). I didn’t get a cellphone until I was 15, but had things like MSN on the family computer that allowed for some freedom before that. I don’t know how to make any comparison with how I was raised, I would be so grateful for any advice or opinions. ",3.6456201550387632,4.4920750348837215,4.68139534883721,87.02852713178301,71.90697674418605,7.128682170542637,27.124031007751928,7.1686216300943375,1.2318821705426355,327,11,69,3,6,107,69,86,0.025,0.785,0.19,0.9463,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,4,0,16,17,8,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,1,7,1,9,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,9,45,11,1,0.2846021213048989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781098990779768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870784038198397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349081156608062,0.0,0.2421754432937556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18354482369560804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682975510261054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869286186243932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19076280275543053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640988288069468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904222066114633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997412594271024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986420510796184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707217905909584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24114245381284904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890770032353566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786570493233016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20217318134122575,0.0,0.0,0.1832744350732778
parenting,Atiouss,2018/04/12,"17-month-old coughing a lot when sleeping Okay, so my son has been doing this for a while now. Whenever he is laying down, he coughs A LOT. We do breathing treatments with him. We give him children's Claritin(and children's Benadryl on nights that are really bad). It gets pretty frustrating because it wakes him up and it's obvious that it's causing his sleep to be not very restful. The doctor says he may have allergies, but we already do the allergy medicine and the breathing treatments.




Has anyone else gone through something similar? What did you do to make it better that we haven't tried?",5.104234234234237,7.226610054054056,4.953333333333333,81.51666666666667,70.08108108108108,7.816216216216216,33.954954954954964,8.515128840125781,2.9703765765765766,480,24,82,8,9,148,81,111,0.033,0.895,0.07200000000000001,0.6306,0,0,1,0,0,0,15,4,1,0,1,3,4,1,0,6,1,14,8,5,2,1,15,18,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,10,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,1,10,2,8,13,3,8,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,3,4,59,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332922684565911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782030143690025,0.2166108852448544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651555070182565,0.1288714063616343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697182039502225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171726530835894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21638345400064804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660295729470266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045114177041067,0.20280032512537585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594603982905349,0.0,0.0,0.14111544329962575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874260706229713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19839062709503927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22183550110775996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150763560420573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543238171610655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811888989730184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231182394056339,0.0,0.0,0.162751009358111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353109872991882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443245698388846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lutherized,2018/04/12,"Frying pan + 5 YO nose = same height. Yesterday I was putting dishes away and turned around with a frying pan. My son had walked up behind me and I caught him right on the bridge of the nose. He stepped back and covered his face, knowing it was bad I asked him to let me see it. When he pulled his hands away, the top half of his nose was flat. I freaked out. Hour later his nose was back to normal, outside of a small cut. 

The thing never bled, Dr looked and no airways or bones are broken. How is it possible that no bones were broken? 

Anyways, he is old me yesterday, “Welp this proves I amthe toughest kid on the earth.” 

It doesn’t hurt him at all, but it was my worst day as a dad. 

Thanks for reading, had to get it off my chest. ",0.33999999999999986,2.471174111111111,1.4167320261437908,100.93529411764708,85.66666666666667,4.3843137254901965,17.49673202614379,5.5289334501034215,-0.7526836601307187,561,13,134,3,17,175,102,153,0.139,0.8270000000000001,0.034,-0.9091,0,0,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,8,0,13,11,9,1,3,16,21,9,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,9,7,1,0,2,1,0,5,4,5,0,1,9,7,18,1,19,11,3,28,0,1,2,0,14,13,0,1,10,85,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860613279034785,0.19539415639318355,0.0,0.3927395719492621,0.32142832111619546,0.1745128518420241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479279359141585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919799226144172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20583066308970227,0.0,0.22374726130166092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486526633820555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21372472084248811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551398154054915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119976411409948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478334853239408,0.0,0.0,0.21931861404956252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23562498380384905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101106505414118,0.0,0.0,0.2090644432644069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849158987994732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655222222032118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242637735353768,0.0,0.0,0.1388555501420917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273405583217658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madwomanking,2018/04/12,"I feel like I'm failing my kid Today is my son's 4th birthday. This morning started off really bad. Every morning I wake him up the same way, gentle back rub, soft voice letting him know it's time to wake up, and 85% of the time I am met with the same grouchiness and defiance. I can admit that I have issues with my temper. And when we're on a schedule and his refusal to cooperate with anything makes me late I get stressed and when I'm stressed I have an even harder time keeping myself in check. I used consequences, took three toys away which only made it worse, and then had to use spanking, TWICE. I hate this so much. Usually I can talk to him afterward and we hug and say we're sorry, but this morning I had to walk away because I was already 20 minutes late for work. It's his birthday. I wish I was more calm under pressure, and I wish I could stop crying at my desk.",2.8854459352801918,4.1956372486187865,4.120651144435676,88.54675414364641,74.30386740331491,6.718389897395422,26.740726124704018,7.1686216300943375,1.2068228887134964,686,25,145,7,14,225,115,181,0.15,0.753,0.096,-0.7847,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,0,2,5,10,2,3,5,0,12,3,2,4,0,29,29,14,0,3,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,8,13,0,3,3,1,1,2,0,7,0,2,7,5,28,3,19,20,4,27,0,1,0,1,13,9,0,0,16,94,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570486603303564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711350596011633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26742013809631315,0.1094318120202868,0.11882747314600778,0.08675418974611042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362732268746772,0.0,0.15632686146104852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939980258976203,0.0,0.11990692171002408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195897786492816,0.101670200389781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435395935647515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405070632190222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854037623156213,0.0,0.12649652896803498,0.0,0.0,0.07821286058386061,0.0,0.32107609855787594,0.0,0.0,0.14552721050904927,0.0,0.069528150137007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466233900420724,0.09499668149634496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461824566904444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823732811349523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117093444449756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131749740755371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593105174170046,0.1007316223437944,0.0,0.0,0.11898210560235435,0.32604378069829243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438778418085607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489558855380541,0.0,0.13489842529540114,0.0,0.1581177239242064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458297453052025,0.15674038431329124,0.0,0.0,0.1129633960525794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273115346329487,0.0,0.0,0.10360735731841288,0.0,0.14503162254579804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sorejectedandtired,2018/04/12,"Please someone tell me how much better it gets. He’s 2 and it’s still just as hard. Everyone said once I was out of the newborn stage it’d be easier, then past 6 months and he’d have loads of personality. He did, he hated all things that parents love to offer; hates hugs, hates soothing, screams super loud, enough to make my ears ring, all the rough stuff.

So I waited until 1 year, still hates cuddles, screams loud enough to make my eyes water, and although by 2 he’s saying cute things and more engaged, it’s just so one sided. Everyone says how it’s all worth it but it seems like my plate is really unbalanced. He’s indifferent to me the majority of the time except as a playmate to fetch him things or show things to or fix things. I get that this is toddlerhood but isn’t there supposed to be some things that are traditionally for the parent? The sweet cuddles or the cute moments he wants me to be a part of? 

I see all these parents with toddlers running up for hugs or looking them in the eyes with big smiles when mine only does that if he’s just seen me for the first time or wants something.

He hasn’t hugged me in three months and kicks and punches to get away when I try and rock him or soothe him when he’s sick. But then screams and kicks if I put him down, lose/lose.

It wouldn’t be so hard if I wasn’t so besotted with him. I love him so much. He’s the most adorable toddler I’ve ever seen on earth, and I just want so much for him to not be so frustrated and unhappy all the time.

He’s been evaluated for any delays and disorders and he’s super healthy and normal, he just seems to detest I guess... me? 

Please Reddit, give a girl a break and tell me this gets easier and he’ll start to want me to be there for him soon? He’s my first so I’m really aware that I might just be ignorant of what a toddler is all about, please tell me your stories and how things unfolded? ",3.3612159214830966,4.279031096692108,4.176040530716104,90.12157442748092,72.63867684478372,7.548127953471464,24.213831334060345,7.83500028581142,0.9316442021083242,1483,40,336,19,28,476,180,393,0.087,0.728,0.185,0.9918,4,0,1,0,0,0,38,0,1,1,5,27,23,5,0,16,0,22,12,3,5,7,67,51,48,0,9,20,3,3,1,0,3,1,10,0,3,25,20,1,3,2,2,1,2,5,9,0,4,7,20,36,14,40,32,16,35,0,0,6,7,42,9,0,15,23,214,61,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577721266535698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981776127277182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513555105173132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973654757101314,0.0,0.0743444529031046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755618828214649,0.0,0.0,0.0768464130868164,0.0,0.1623557619983237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452489245221722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754135106947155,0.08149631398770432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358720816756412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522054947207839,0.3355008133341111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041504587716384635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713405731391237,0.09504260740849667,0.0,0.0,0.1533499134793067,0.0,0.11341587809142395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012353861491516,0.0,0.0,0.13562010297321794,0.0,0.18735449507352805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323759352627247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047401017912073,0.0575675207359516,0.06461189705207727,0.0,0.0,0.28299650731161696,0.0919976890852798,0.08109889844631699,0.0,0.07417918956807955,0.0,0.27976433196623485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540296391598541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884834526389413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081139851543646,0.13511881531614392,0.0,0.0,0.06769791720580001,0.154679183083759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198186334214945,0.06540229830629979,0.0,0.0,0.06013139206412545,0.0,0.13568990726543176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972528356122049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227625242086587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950810135247023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861335111696938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576786821316097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004339931225951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470805795893988
parenting,honeymarshmellow,2018/04/12,"The kids vs. sex debate. Now it's a common fact that parents love sex more than their children, but how many of you have stories of actually loving your kids more than sex for once? :)",6.41,6.074862222222228,6.18,82.81500000000003,65.66666666666667,8.311111111111114,29.11111111111111,7.1686216300943375,1.4790444444444444,144,4,29,1,2,45,30,36,0.0,0.728,0.272,0.9178,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,1,1,4,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,5,3,2,2,0,0,0,5,9,0,0,0,2,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.3538501623153632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6545303182153281,0.0,0.0,0.3676245451709696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861624785379986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026299282511917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,batoutheartist,2018/04/12,"well a Police officer knocked on my door... In the community I live in (somewhere, CO), there is a tip line where one can give a tip anonymously if there is a concern about child welfare...

Today I get a knock at my door and it's a sheriff's deputy. He proceeds to tell me that someone at the preschool called in to inform them that I ""smelled of booze"" and that I was ""acting drunk"".

Not a fucking chance on this planet! My kids are my life, full time dad here, and to think that some shit would go down like that is gross.  

I brush my teeth and use listerine, deodorant, and if I'm feeling the mood, some cologne...    I DID NOTHING WRONG!

I'm embarrassed to the nth degree by this! The neighbors saw this happen, others from the neighborhood walked by to see this, everyone is suspect but I have an idea of who this was, i feel that there is a teacher who has it out for me and wants my family out of the school. However this is a great preschool and I'm wondering if I should dig my heals in and fight or take my little man (3) elsewhere (his sister--5-- is going to public school kindergarten  next year) 

I'm so frustrated and so MAD!

TL;DR: cops called for welfare check when none was needed.
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parenting,murphyrag,2018/04/12,"Parents whose kids have allergies, I need advice Hey!

So my son is 6.5 months old and he had a reaction to peanutbutter which resulted in hives on his face (see below):

https://imgur.com/a/4Pumu

So I made an appointment with the GP to get it checked out (side note, I’m in Australia where you need a referral to see a pediatrician  and GPs are unable to prescribe epi pens)

In the mean time he had another accidental exposure and reacted again, more strongly:

https://imgur.com/a/QHcWa

So yesterday I bring him in and the pediatrician makes a point to say that she is not an allergy specialist but has an interest.

She did a scratch test on his legs (much bigger scratches than I anticipated as you can see in the below photo):

https://imgur.com/a/kw9Cp


During the test the histamine control came up as positive, with the ‘wheel’ and red surrounding it. The peanut also came up with the wheel but wasn’t bigger than the histamine scratch. So she said he wasn’t allergic. I tried to argue that he’s broken out in hives twice now but she said it was just a skin rash and I must have gotten some one his face. But I don’t understand why having a smaller wheel but still larger than 3mm means no reaction as the negative control (saline water) had no wheel.

So I went home and gave him peanut butter again and this happened:

https://imgur.com/a/ESdgm

Am I insane for thinking my son is allergic to peanut or does she have no idea what she’s talking about?

If you have an experience please let me know because I feel entirely disregarded by her and I’m worried that my fears that he could have a serious reaction are being absolutely disregarded as apparently, he’s not allergic.

Side note she did say he was allergic to milk.

Thank you for reading!

Edit: for reference this is him without hives! :
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parenting,jettonx,2018/04/12,"6 year old wants to play first person shooters. My 6 year old son won't stop trying to get me to let him play thing like Battlefield 1 and other 18+ rated titles. I've explained to him a few times he can't because he's gotta be older and he can't because of the trash talking that he'd experience. I offered him a little military kids game called Tiny Troopers on the PS4 but his hunger for more adult games won't subside.
Any advice on what to do? ",2.9424553571428578,3.9074860729166687,4.38565476190476,88.04625000000004,73.6875,6.735714285714287,25.17261904761905,6.868970318607317,0.8860494047619052,357,11,77,3,7,119,72,96,0.05,0.873,0.077,0.0757,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,0,0,6,12,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,2,1,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,8,3,9,6,2,11,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,9,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306497901203076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605112815062318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28776839233830154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410172056218331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23088664054847574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20077048432163166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233180749576396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413608583759741,0.0,0.1153143383952797,0.2365681759227793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4953561640989919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20609587128519574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19733507595666652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18971526823775894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681056753964784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763338146185627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602516597675429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921902722413915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303996442587735
parenting,shthrump,2018/04/12,"15 year old son gets angry when he can't dominate the conversation Hi r/parenting, I want to share something our family is struggling with at the moment.

My son is a talker, always has been. Whenever we sit down to eat, he tries to dominate all conversation. If one of his sisters interrupts, he gets extremely angry and criticises them for interrupting. However, he talks so much that it's impossible to get a word in without interrupting him.

When I try to keep conversations on track and encourage everyone to speak, he claims that I always pick on him for interrupting but never his sisters. He gets so angry about this there are tears in his eyes. 

I'm starting to dread family dinners, because it seems to be the same cycle. He drives every conversation and lectures the table, then gets upset when anyone tries to join in, even if they're agreeing with him. He gets so angry so quickly that attempts to reason with him at that stage only make him angrier.",7.009167517875383,7.7730462191011265,7.757987742594488,68.26326353421865,64.33707865168539,11.19182839632278,33.59754851889684,11.022393298168332,4.00245393258427,769,31,129,21,11,257,112,178,0.19,0.7440000000000001,0.067,-0.976,2,0,1,0,0,0,20,2,0,1,1,11,5,0,3,6,0,7,3,1,3,2,21,19,14,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,7,2,1,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,1,2,15,2,26,17,3,21,0,0,1,0,33,8,0,3,10,83,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757598426604917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586486192475025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101229370387256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695576902615037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944665874169313,0.0,0.13961369737123552,0.15833832851710805,0.0,0.0,0.3124240503533077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194444673537262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472863105981859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060944399670633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181231810512308,0.0,0.12780199201116885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387963260804304,0.0,0.11228606731307322,0.1260261989549962,0.0,0.0,0.18399590870639435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037244560565698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085170371795614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275678850881032,0.0,0.0,0.11728692586763655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732309536928862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331874862254692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375086664266204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773716392452064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973380756894054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067086544637085
parenting,musiono,2018/04/12,"What tips do you have for a potential new mother and how do we raise biracial kids? What tips do you have for a woman who wants to be a mom someday?

What is the best way to raise kids to be confident, but not mean?

And what is the best way to raise biracial kids? I am Lebanese American and my boyfriend is White. How do I teach them to be proud of their half Lebanese ethnicity, especially if their mom married a White man and dated/slept around with guys of other races before?

Also, how do I find time for myself? How can I find a babysitter if I go out with my friends \(to bars or concerts\) or dates with my boyfriend \(aka future husband\) once we have kids?

Also, a dumb question, but will my kids have any traits or looks from any of my exes/ex FWBs?

Thanks!",3.8288961038961027,4.8797866948051976,4.198571428571427,89.89642857142857,71.66233766233766,7.15844155844156,25.688311688311693,7.348242739294969,0.9965142857142856,597,18,129,6,11,187,86,154,0.027000000000000003,0.825,0.147,0.9659,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,2,2,3,3,7,6,1,0,8,0,18,1,0,4,0,28,23,17,0,3,8,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,8,6,11,1,0,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,4,18,5,18,19,2,9,0,0,3,0,22,2,1,6,4,89,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29042814017501506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469690930996303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164982862454705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451611097656953,0.0,0.3811261133155097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319321976921045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029271103775562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319937448442662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17979845550781756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248630844965208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978001309890094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253421049377759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753766626716311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193382912637192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341761384511856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671797749297921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588411942418642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710398849573537,0.28826865512359257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Norman449,2018/04/12,"English Learning Materials for Kids? There are quite a lot of Nursery Rhymes on YouTube. Some of these are quite good, such as this alphabet song using a new melody.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AABx3-zEzlw

Are there any other useful materials for kids' English Learning?",9.887195121951217,14.01034009756098,5.963597560975611,70.56295731707318,62.65853658536585,8.002439024390245,34.640243902439025,8.841846274778883,3.57709268292683,228,10,29,4,4,61,30,41,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.7672,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,19,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21157828393078065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609601141085766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645106182813579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30049017764827873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6618476493666345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5374308547101891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jackoff_thebatman,2018/04/12,"Why is soccer so popular, in America, for our kids to play. But isn't very popular for american adults to watch/play?? Is it availability? Is it that kids don't have to be 100% involved?  What is it?  


I was watching chopped and they made the comment, ""octopus is like soccer in america, it goes over well every where else, but not here"". And it got me thinking.

I know like 50 kids who play soccer (in a town of 1000) but only one adult who actually watches soccer. 

Sincerely,
A hockey mom",1.912105263157894,4.294683631578948,3.8897368421052647,84.09565789473685,81.10526315789474,7.589473684210527,25.28947368421053,8.548686976883017,2.047294736842106,375,15,74,9,10,127,64,95,0.0,0.7909999999999999,0.209,0.9588,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,1,0,4,8,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,1,0,9,14,6,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,9,2,0,0,2,7,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,2,5,8,10,10,0,6,0,0,2,0,12,6,0,0,2,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.3044339145001601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606076481182296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628448964401586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495077909064264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144841137836328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048217594415924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295189869318373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3653709289469933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21139630487759087,0.2372642787690944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989528191606906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25740470639003843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28049499187294963,0.0,0.2815008843861089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,backstage_betty,2018/04/12,"First friend drama :( tl;dr - my kid’s friend was mean to her and it made me irrationally angry and sad


So, I know in my rational mind that this is no big deal in the grand scheme, but I really can’t believe I have so many feelings over this incident. 

My little girl is 5 and has had the same best friend (BF) for almost 3 years. BF has had some issues with other kids but never mine. BF is an outgoing, boisterous, life of the party type. My daughter is quiet, reserved, and not super interested in pleasing anyone; very content to do her own thing or whatever makes her happy. 

Today when we were snuggling before bed she says, “Mom, I have bad news. BF said she wasn’t my best friend anymore. Maybe she’ll be my best friend again on Friday or Monday. “

I asked how it made her feel and she said, “really sad, and some tears came out of the corners of my eyes.” 

I could tell she was getting a little emotional rehashing the story. On the outside, I was asking about her feelings and being all calm and soothing. Inside, I was fucking fuming. And I kept thinking about how this is the first time I have to do this, and it sucks and it’s only going to get worse.  I felt so sad that she was sad. 

Maybe it hit me so hard because it’s the first. Maybe because I had similar things happen to me as a kid, like most people. Maybe because I don’t always have a lot of confidence that I’m saying the right things to her. 

What do you guys say to your kids when this stuff happens?

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parenting,RainbowJuggler,2018/04/12,"Just need to vent. My 4 year old killed our pet chinchilla today. He doesn't understand what he did so I can't even be angry at him.
He knew he wasn't supposed to open her cage, much less chase her around.

It's nobodys fault and I am just really frustrated with him constantly breaking rules. I am so sad that she died in terror and I just needed to tell someone.

Rest in peace my sweet chilla.",0.6459259259259262,3.049578839506175,1.8455432098765456,96.25794444444449,87.76543209876543,5.215308641975309,17.976543209876542,6.742157984588678,-0.029321975308642226,310,8,68,4,10,98,62,81,0.233,0.67,0.098,-0.9285,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,7,6,2,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,11,4,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,1,12,1,8,7,3,10,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,0,4,41,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24855447197459035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017248474474724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897740051265429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441436679768794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089024783175152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052501352693857,0.4140586489465256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929820125629064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788679069095342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365721812351561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440402521905503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646567036413306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29066555774490743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17980091097346235
parenting,Jseiden12,2018/04/12,Any intact Jews want to comment on circumcision? Any intact Jews out there that regret not being circumcised? Husband and I very against but don't want him to feel insecure with his peers. Could really use some input. Thanks!,4.0005000000000015,7.254108050000003,4.050000000000004,80.27500000000002,81.0,7.2,23.0,8.238735603445708,1.97235,182,6,29,4,5,56,35,40,0.12,0.667,0.213,0.3187,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,12,8,2,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,3,1,6,6,1,2,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5208252611599604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057467809494768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936261923827148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24532145141914294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525601072007287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33073758806861864,0.0,0.3159659675157703,0.4517363859538607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,concerneddad1992,2018/04/12,"Kind of lost with my teen Hey guys
I have a 16 year old daughter and she is a great kid. She is smart, stays out trouble, has good friends, etc. Well recently, one of the fathers of my daughter's friends told us that she had been showing us some explicit messages and pictures that she had reportedly received from a guy a couple weeks ago. So I asked her for her phone and in her pictures were screenshots of a chat from some chatting app. In it were some shirtless but not nude pictures of a guy who at least looked 20 and some explicit messages as well. My daughter was not innocent either as she also played along sending one explicit picture and explicit messages as well which I didn't think she was capable of. The picture was a nude picture of her midsection and luckily she didn't include her face or her lower body.

I confronted her today about it and she told that she had this chat with some guy she met on an app about 3 months ago. She said the chat lasted for maybe an hour. I asked her why she would send such pictures and get involved in such disgusting things. Her response to me was everyone my age does it!!

First of all I am a little confused. Is there any way I can take action against this guy she chatted with? I am pretty sure the pictures he used were fake because there is no way a 20+ individual who looked that good would be on an app like that. Like what evidence would authorities need to make an arrest or facilitate an investigation into this?

I am not taking away my daughter's phone in retaliation because I don't want her to start rebelling against us, but I am putting some parental controls on her phone. We have already substantially talked with her. She told us she has exchanged nudes plenty of time but she never does it with her face which is still pretty disturbing. 

How do you think I should go about this? Do all kids display this type of behavior or is my daughter more of a deviant?
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parenting,fakesantos,2018/04/12,"3.5 year old doesn't potty train Hi all.  Another ""at my wit's end"" potty training question. 

Our daughter is three and a half years old.

She's been potty trained since three (6 months ago) but not really.

I don't know how to get her to go when she needs to go.  I don't know what to do to get beyond this point.

We tried rewards a long time ago (marshmallow for potty), we remind her every 30-45 minutes. The tough part is that she never tells us. At all. If we ask her, she always says she doesn't have to go. Always. Then she'll be wet 5 minutes later.   If we tell her to go, she says ""no."" Eventually I am firm and she'll go and it's a normal amount of pee and she is totally happy about it and I'm over the moon happy with her. 

But we wet ourselves 4-5 times a day. 

I'm embarrassed about how many wet clothes she bring home everyday from daycare and I'm frsutrated that she knows what to do but doesn't do it.  My wife's theory, which I agree with, is that she just doesn't want to stop what she is doing.  But it just feels like she's totally content going in her pants regardless or whether potty results in a treat or praise or she ends up walking around in her urine. 

Here's how it goes: every 45 minutes (yes, 10-20 times a day) we encourage her to go.  She says no.  I tell her either we go or we won't leave, or we'll turn off the show, or we'll stop playing with the toys, etc.  And she acquiesces and then happily goes.

About 25-50% of the time she goes, she pees on the potty fine, but her underpants are already wet. It's enough pee that i have to change them. It's not a drop or two, or something ignorable.

She has had some days where she goes the full day without an accident. But that's becoming rare now. Never had a full week of no accidents. Maybe 2-3 days max. So, by definition, she is not trained.

There are situations where she refuses to urinate on herself.  1) when she is nude [maybe, we haven't been brave enough to explore this long term] and 2) when she is in the hot tub. She'll get out and find a potty.

She never has #2 accidents. 

At day care they are giving us three pairs of soiled pants every day and I feel such shame as a parent. This behavior has been going on for about 6 months now and I'm finding myself getting frustrated and angry with her which I know doesn't help at all.

We don't believe she has a UTI or anything like that. My wife is a physician and has checked her.

I read all these articles about potty training and they talk about ""ask more frequently. Like every two hours."" Or ""you may have to do this for up to a week!"" And I just want to punch those articles in the face. 

Any advice or words of encouragement would be helpful. 

Thanks in advance.",1.2443374925727897,3.172701636363641,2.8277985739750453,93.29241681521096,80.76470588235293,6.2232917409388,20.905822935234703,7.315561048560121,0.4692771241830069,2082,59,473,29,54,683,244,561,0.07,0.792,0.138,0.9921,1,0,1,0,0,0,86,15,1,3,3,25,20,1,2,23,1,50,8,7,4,9,96,83,46,0,8,28,4,7,3,0,8,1,3,1,0,24,32,0,4,10,4,1,13,20,5,0,6,5,10,74,15,58,68,17,81,1,0,0,1,82,25,0,16,45,309,98,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213619682556413,0.1308742189468877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146237186577855,0.0,0.12284855785305357,0.0,0.0,0.05020023382383136,0.07740686442473801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06074769407748961,0.06571558483442215,0.13802375168759126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815285566073886,0.0,0.08317003070301582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526456341433045,0.0,0.0780919311554796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33325523113779115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076548493921647,0.15255189792541654,0.08232898141915228,0.0,0.0,0.2487866429443133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465137240372924,0.052737130354366064,0.0,0.0,0.13494056060755566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427192754268604,0.07081501504169292,0.3775832350610188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571658460346205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896018179995604,0.0,0.07404763000110935,0.0,0.07269797842576729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227849687265875,0.0,0.0,0.0781648807204609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819439038231164,0.0,0.0,0.1306570206317172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484204619997878,0.148324526804978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784507988242708,0.0,0.0,0.054736706314528316,0.1708039530830022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232807410758024,0.0,0.0,0.15492366038383482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196854123996454,0.07994002940253217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978390311918968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269546323184092,0.0,0.07384012740321044,0.0,0.047291078761482384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611424009567028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061064791430959275,0.08297694224226577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056830358475116735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343390273516162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059333840812408126,0.1935661961955933,0.06796367664277281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218049389460546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050119036590430495,0.08029512588692854,0.14422312134068987,0.0,0.17759310392586108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708207490209077,0.0,0.11842814413235232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115999092145163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052439716998322485,0.0,0.0,0.09507551342380086
parenting,nanuq905,2018/04/12,"I give up. How do I style my one-year-olds hair? My little girl was gifted with a full head of hair at birth. She just had her 1st birthday and has already had three hair cuts. She has curly hair and I can't figure out what to do with it. I put in those flexible clips, and they just slide out (yes, they're tiny ones, too). Elastic head bands slowly fall off the back. I've Googled, Google Image Searched, Youtube'd. I can't find anything on how to style baby hair (her hair is not thick enough for a lot of the toddler styles I see). Any resources would be very much appreciated. Thank you.

Edit: [Picture of Rapunzel herself.](https://imgur.com/a/XCSrD)",2.40587522713507,4.828874905511814,2.4357480314960647,94.9995457298607,79.47244094488188,5.167534827377348,20.792852816474863,6.297961479604792,0.01684058146577838,511,14,108,4,13,153,93,127,0.019,0.911,0.07,0.722,0,0,0,0,0,0,34,0,1,1,0,6,2,1,0,4,1,12,8,8,2,0,16,15,5,0,1,3,0,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,1,0,3,3,1,0,2,3,8,14,1,15,10,4,15,0,0,1,0,9,10,0,1,2,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25129600678303954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485822485366604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873951444490628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510354636508024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352968732545304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20813305123017595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845092516553669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4674152974178087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282364668482761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360042080404455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740128389491385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389550925107807,0.0,0.30861955710419464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289227029598016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814643131911235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20965508559906346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18789383884602132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617666067988257,0.0,0.0,0.1466449866302336
parenting,AllThingsEqual_,2018/04/13,"Teaching my daughter to say “Please” My 14 month old was asking me for her pacifier. I told her if she wanted it she had to say please. 

Normally, I would’ve just given it to her. She’s a bit of a smarty pants and I know she is capable of repeating what I say. 

But, that being said, she is also incredibly stubborn (genetics from her mother). After 23 minutes of an intense fit (screaming, head throwing, feet kicking etc) I took my dog outside and when I came back she said “Soo Soo?” I asked her again to say please, and this time she said it right away. I was thrilled, and it led me to this question:

How did you teach your child/children to be respectful and to have manners? Did it work? Looking back, would you have done anything differently?

TL;DR: I asked my daughter to say please, she had a fit forever but eventually did it. How did you teach your kid(s)?",1.634409841170978,4.113883266272191,2.9606041731547816,89.67903145437559,83.20118343195267,5.92475864216755,24.279352226720647,7.273561745256523,1.140424852071006,668,26,135,10,19,216,97,169,0.012,0.868,0.119,0.8889,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,0,5,0,1,8,4,1,0,4,0,16,2,2,3,0,19,29,12,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,10,6,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,16,10,33,2,15,10,2,17,0,0,1,0,34,4,0,2,9,95,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931695968864757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587429575073124,0.0,0.32675141478724395,0.0,0.10946097633811223,0.1791714426813319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719409158429373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325152721865854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172369961995562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922582028646367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993469518970832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956849947953685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402850692286041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783547751536432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299376884169673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415088709746656,0.0,0.0,0.12225317405035095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5115532588784898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051309057130348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949526399608664,0.33247091022203873,0.4632501967704139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793543296104873,0.0,0.0,0.1113262257614654,0.1294421621371703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871810305343032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481756511396765,0.0,0.0,0.16552466765795576,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,officialjosephsmith,2018/04/13,"4yr old hits and pinches when he gets angry. So this is mostly pointed towards me (dad), that he gets into shit moods and thinks it’s fine to hit me and I feel stuck because Mom doesn’t believe in discipline other than time out. Time out doesn’t work because he still does it constantly and I’m supposed to just take it according to her. I believe in spanking if you do it in a loving manner but she’s certain that spanning is going to raise him to be a sociopath or something? The way I see it, he’s already turning into one because he’s allowed to get away with it without any consequences. Sorry, but I don’t have many other people to bring this up to and I’m loosing my mind because I feel like it’s me against everyone. ",3.5189017693715705,4.705600328859063,4.739707138499084,85.20716900549117,72.55704697986577,6.760463697376449,30.995118974984752,6.980632752743323,1.8224174496644288,575,26,113,5,11,190,93,149,0.042,0.879,0.079,0.6289,1,0,1,0,1,0,11,0,1,0,1,4,6,1,0,3,0,8,2,1,1,1,24,25,11,0,1,6,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,1,3,13,4,22,21,1,21,0,0,1,1,12,12,1,3,7,74,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791740013491085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041388259227994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254742091800585,0.0,0.0,0.3959051997747183,0.0,0.0,0.36585988971547934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754590663001249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208685346575264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514687689236525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641934158486922,0.11599370910572232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25448729812832793,0.0,0.09227586719382312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932342014407581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654090409353324,0.0,0.0,0.16461279704572812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639425354842942,0.19016012346616626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037493200147666,0.0,0.11002284049163076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125635644353597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348756567295965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938401812565462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666551262778634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249966394652505,0.0,0.18175451355368327,0.0,0.0,0.1296650336208194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220784004197574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403704421426058,0.0,0.0,0.18935287138577692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766066794334908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288779135979199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651422880701646,0.0,0.11820377672052412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coffee_talks,2018/04/13,"Do you let your children play video games/watch tv whenever they want to, and if not, what are your guidelines for them? The title pretty much says it all. There's mixed research regarding the way screen time affects children (and adults) and as a result, I'm sure many people have different approaches. 

I'm curious how you guys approach your children's screen time, and if you don't mind elaborating further, how you approach your own screen time as an adult as well. Thanks!",6.34901515151515,7.705780113636365,5.416363636363638,82.35287878787881,66.04545454545455,8.593939393939394,31.71212121212121,8.841846274778883,2.5434030303030304,382,15,69,6,6,114,63,88,0.0,0.815,0.185,0.9299,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,8,2,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,4,2,15,9,11,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,4,10,4,5,8,3,8,0,0,3,0,17,1,0,2,3,40,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749831374049373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606047901629746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691350920176605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668387892437898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657522893680845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934788763996383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824665262115244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26776430592402506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093035175715265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24805851605379595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423149300255112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604140004350317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523944501478304,0.2089122294373112,0.0,0.0,0.2366442409889445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stacyblankspace,2018/04/13,"Need a little extra help in the kitchen? Your kid can help! My son loves to help out in the kitchen and, as I’ve found out, he’s not alone. Many kids love the kitchen because it’s full of learning and fun. They get to make a mess and spend time with you, which is any kids’ two favorite things. But I needed help on ideas and also jobs a 4 year old can do to help. 

I searched google, pinterest, and reddit but I wasn’t getting the results I was looking for. So I made r/kidkitchen to help others share their successes and failures, tips, tricks and anything else realated to kids being in the kitchen. ",3.5483379247015603,4.788986074380169,3.5987878787878778,93.20707070707071,72.55371900826447,6.369513314967861,27.49403122130395,6.42735559955562,0.9183656565656576,469,17,102,3,9,143,83,121,0.058,0.7070000000000001,0.234,0.9562,1,1,0,0,0,0,16,0,2,2,1,2,7,1,0,8,0,7,6,0,3,0,21,17,12,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,4,10,4,0,3,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,4,1,10,5,15,12,2,11,0,0,1,2,19,8,0,0,3,59,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692739605178349,0.0,0.13070245450480322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114441815278298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449672637103546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963116059216227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653267311993472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792029009168748,0.0,0.0,0.1707807147294627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6573000355963453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450322450626586,0.0,0.0,0.1621884168732025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380924767198798,0.0,0.0,0.13724795937980264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950209364741117,0.15465034210230627,0.10909708980722947,0.1657019309402388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423765353873683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715021901281107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858189608762904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530284698639163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596565761211607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052496354613489
parenting,SaeInsanity45,2018/04/13,"My three year old is a nightmare And I say that in the most loving way possible.
I'm sitting in my vehicle with her and her five year old sister while my husband and 7 month old go shopping. Which I was very excited to be a part of. We had been having a nice day.

Now she's kicking my seat and screaming like a banshee that she's hungry, even though we bought her a wrap from Wendy's, that she asked for. So my husband threw it away, because She wanted nothing to do with it. She didn't like it and has been screaming that she's hungry, she wants her toy, she wants to go home.

This is an everyday thing with her. And it's exhausting and it's incredibly stressful. I've tried everything.  I've tried Discipline, time out, sending her to her room, speaking to her calmly, using ""if you want ____, then I need you to ____"", I've tried ""do you want to ____ or ____."", I've tried so. Many. Things.
And I'm at my wits end. So is my husband.

What am I supposed to do when NOTHING works with this kid and EVERYTHING results in a fucking screaming meltdown. I'm so tired of this. And I hate it because i love her to death but her behavior and reactions to fucking everything are horrible.",2.420822784810128,4.080546219409285,3.71926371308017,89.50345253164558,76.25738396624473,6.93409282700422,27.03987341772152,7.7348632917899725,1.474927594936708,902,36,193,13,20,295,122,237,0.093,0.8370000000000001,0.07,-0.8109999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,35,2,3,0,1,8,15,3,1,8,0,16,6,0,2,0,31,36,22,1,7,3,4,0,2,0,0,2,5,2,1,17,18,0,1,0,2,2,4,1,8,0,2,7,5,36,7,24,28,2,27,0,0,0,4,34,7,2,3,16,129,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340288742917945,0.0,0.11396912346018352,0.0,0.0,0.14789161403097725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782310601303387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074393601599022,0.0,0.0,0.08012016368551199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32706070463383924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22428723070329729,0.0,0.0,0.13787974437484582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976260986948704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167782641381815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852603746796092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189632350399376,0.0,0.0,0.12298324073085855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682371450269016,0.0,0.0,0.08994539662246502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327889648796997,0.0,0.3818645023877569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136043680278633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675206058896386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646582852614108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895334943864868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611780066748172,0.0,0.11918058750585354,0.0,0.0707333517887048,0.13942113083465665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294298782654807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476772913333693,0.0,0.10008852363396027,0.3577412806302162,0.0962854878682416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883107740625936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623162845877125
parenting,yrmwonderwall,2018/04/13,"Relocate and need to find daycare before we arrive We will move 600 miles away in July because my husband got a job offer there. I will look for job there too and it should not be a problem for me to land a job for my profession. 

We will need to use daycare for our three years old son. I know many daycares have LONG waiting lists so we have to check it out asap. But recently we are caught up in work and don't have time to go there and do daycare tours and hunting in person. The soonest for us to have spare 3 days to go daycare hunting should be middle of May. But we worry we may be losing time.

If we could, we hope the daycare is either closed to 1) my husband’s office 2) my office 3) our home. But right now the only thing we know for sure is the location of my husband’s work. We don’t know which area we will live (lots of apartments are available so I guess it is not a problem to find a place to live), we also don’t know where I will work. 

We heard some daycare suggestions from my husband’s future colleagues. We read some reviews from internet about few daycares. But, is putting our son on waiting list of all the daycares we found (more than 10 daycares) the only choice for us? Many of them ask for a fee to put name in waiting list. We are also worried a little bit cause we didn’t even have tours of them.
	
Anybody has experiences on finding daycare before relocation? Any advice? Thanks!
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parenting,geropsychic,2018/04/13,"Questions about ENTs slight rant My daughter has been having problems with recurring strep throat (5 cases since this February). She missed a ton of school. Our pediatrician finally recommended finding an ENT to discuss tonsilectomy. 

Well there are no local ENTS, so we had to do some traveling for this appointment today. I'll admit my impression of the place was already negative because they didn't tell us that we had book an appointment at a different office until after we had set it up. The website's information is outdated and we called for an appointment with someone who is listed as staff but no longer works there. When we tried to sign in the receptionists were annoyed that we hadn't already filled out the new patient info.  They said they'd emailed it, we never received it. Then we found out that they spelled our last name wrong, so they couldn't pull up anything. And then they yelled throughout the waiting room about or 'weird last name' and details of our insurance policy. Once that was sorted out we were called back. Doctor asked about the reason for our visit we explained again that we're here because our daughter has had strep throat 5 times since February and our doctor told us to find a specialist. 

This guy then goes on to say she needs to have an allergy test and probably a CT of her sinuses because she must have a chronic sinus infection. We asked for clarification because were here about her throat (yes I know everything is connected but my understanding is that a sinus infection would not cause strep throat. And at that with as many antibiotics as this girl has taken in the last 3 months I'm not convinced this is the issue. 

I have no problem getting the tests done, it doesn't hurt to have that information. But the professionalism in this office is nonexistent.

I guess my question is how do I navigate this? What do need to say? Do I seek a different opinion?",6.8117168338907454,7.991058381766379,6.565727734423389,75.17085841694538,64.8974358974359,10.092951814690947,33.49448779883562,10.176274734539398,3.4835689582559155,1536,64,267,35,23,482,190,351,0.08900000000000001,0.884,0.027000000000000003,-0.9675,2,0,0,0,0,0,27,19,0,6,1,15,10,1,0,21,1,38,12,4,3,2,61,55,21,0,7,6,2,0,0,0,2,8,4,1,2,21,23,0,1,14,2,0,5,11,7,1,0,17,4,39,3,39,34,2,38,0,2,0,0,56,14,0,7,18,190,60,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357199792370191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788993530802218,0.0,0.1996931536416635,0.0,0.0,0.08212507003571473,0.0,0.2604249633541737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21811602181799816,0.0,0.0,0.10971630910528306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22317322909711015,0.0,0.2186352064803123,0.0,0.10929675727963037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959878315582036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169976876705866,0.19523238408190155,0.0,0.0,0.11710419869361148,0.0,0.0,0.05580026508609032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765576848345068,0.10575196189794002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433503706759965,0.0,0.0,0.11147479490595467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869624686423346,0.2611765942361746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828168375322088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524929715046753,0.0,0.0,0.15838644248196315,0.08237321385768875,0.10315119835849658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374192481888035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158661454855508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515191622184215,0.20439248111486674,0.0,0.0,0.23928805937694536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098114800597612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015943031181409,0.16986838654413658,0.0,0.10809054272483667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766974253086469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904940067581434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335070639196877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06227780617646425,0.0,0.10123694765319867,0.1020550367921408,0.0,0.07251236364650115,0.0,0.0,0.111185900259258,0.2569422041811897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960289054578756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775400332777639,0.0,0.0,0.07586993061291218,0.11677253551759173,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamawritescode,2018/04/13,"Parents of 2+, what's on your reading list? I'm due with my 2nd child this fall! I have lots of great resources that I've read with my first baby -- but siblings are a whole new adventure. What books/websites did you find most helpful? My kids will be just under 3 years apart.",1.1684210526315797,3.3662861052631605,1.9851754385964924,97.75039473684211,82.6842105263158,4.5017543859649125,21.780701754385966,5.46131890053228,-0.10800350877193043,216,7,48,1,6,67,50,57,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.8831,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,2,6,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,4,28,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663467210717742,0.24787623144084106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32128448668205123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532837139857798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477493938348457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814490391705117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32358027996926264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5829848558155747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32535284086494115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18766078294495325
parenting,90percentbanana,2018/04/13,Toddler advice? My 18 month old is throwing his food all the time. He thinks it’s absolutely hilarious and when I try to tell him no or catch him hand and put it back on his plate he thinks it’s even more hilarious. This is why wild animals eat their young. How did you get your kid to stop throwing food?,1.0128571428571431,3.311152825396828,2.5295238095238126,92.95714285714287,84.23809523809524,6.139682539682537,20.11111111111111,7.447530270364453,0.44472063492063496,240,7,55,4,7,78,50,63,0.064,0.7979999999999999,0.138,0.7308,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,1,1,8,6,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,3,1,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,9,0,3,5,2,12,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,7,30,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396949195312696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861316062406505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509932945865513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201198197911754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5932122000195592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815409907073655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578844035733853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25739099053828324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465845806105436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050737402685614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21439460290775156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314344341017863,0.0,0.0,0.14303079260166884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665360660969951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133641462195944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,annafirtree,2018/04/13,"What do you call those squeezable packets of toddler food? [Like these](https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Organic-Flavor-Variety-Packaging/dp/B00XCLFKAY). In our house, we call them ""squeeze-packs"", but I've heard other parents call them ""pouches"". Since they're a comparatively new packaging method, I feel like society hasn't settled on a single name for them. ""Squeezies"" is kinda cute and short, but I'm curious to hear what others have settled on.",7.713828828828831,10.484365337837843,6.60108108108108,69.70315315315315,64.54054054054055,9.257657657657658,36.65765765765766,9.725611199111238,4.136052252252252,361,18,52,8,6,109,61,74,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8677,1,0,1,0,0,0,32,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,7,8,3,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,7,3,6,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,3,28,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7216612201879351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911643564244452,0.16829855343715666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848645323908036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655160249683075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718279397485543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301851879185605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275248406812141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26158395091548353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948743891583644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tackycardiahhhh,2018/04/13,"My kid won't sleep - I've tried everything, including a specialist. HELP. My 3 year old daughter has always been a bad sleeper. She has never slept through the night. She wakes multiple times per night, no matter what. We have tried the following and more:

- consistent bedtime routine
- letting her cry (she went 5 hours the other night straight, it was insane)
- going in to soothe her, gradually lengthening the amount of time before we went in again
- talking to her about how great her room/bed are, etc
- going in and laying her down again without speaking to her
- putting her in our bed (she still wakes multiple times)
- sleeping on the floor next to her bed
- we even paid a sleep specialist $450 for a sleep plan, that did not work
- pediatrician has no answers for us

She wakes at least 3x every night, crying. It takes her at least an hour to fall asleep initially, then she's up multiple times. We have tried an earlier bedtime, a later bedtime, an earlier nap, no nap....absolutley nothing makes a difference. 

She's not really old enough to understand that this is ridiculous and disruptive and if she wakes up, she just needs to go back to sleep. Honestly, I'm just to the point where if she wakes multiple times and just lays there and thinks until she falls asleep again, whatever. I am a light sleeper and wake multiple times a night, so I understand if she is like me. But for heaven sake, she doesn't need to scream incessantly and disturb us all night long. 

I'm desperate. ",5.372220216606497,6.877175129963902,5.402835740072202,80.99530054151627,68.45848375451263,9.438916967509023,30.09548736462093,9.766711354998122,2.8367488808664265,1169,45,220,27,20,366,157,277,0.091,0.825,0.084,-0.2521,0,0,0,0,0,0,50,7,0,0,2,14,8,1,1,17,0,15,14,14,2,2,33,32,16,0,5,10,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,7,12,0,0,4,1,1,9,9,4,0,0,7,3,34,4,28,23,7,51,1,0,0,0,34,14,0,3,29,139,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740572329830276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843745008887864,0.07431339308454378,0.0,0.0,0.07573459582167617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19553019512841865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929886983406238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196340310465276,0.09926134526555144,0.05878533021667361,0.0,0.07498846832874864,0.0,0.07998973308086603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174656285802485,0.0,0.0,0.09812560111871904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059656518299290286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752991234007666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101111479302262,0.0,0.04348213939737528,0.0,0.0,0.0787644363669737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940987843014035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198849325060508,0.06864423628003592,0.0,0.09465519803920852,0.5011370589271368,0.0,0.08540032584659675,0.0,0.18678636220301248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413615694120903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947212311370388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057017298356030414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44533402186340293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107753367952703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669188244130057,0.07153686049906134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05702922605705656,0.0,0.0,0.31138853823757623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128062231396253,0.0,0.0,0.18530954058902765,0.21411816473008136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501246991888616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579526074768783,0.0,0.0647949002617723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05731470984811706
parenting,ELT129,2018/04/13,to post a pic asking reddit community thoughts on race/ethnicity based on appearance? am i terrible? pondering ethnicity of adopted son - know his biomom is white & no info about dad. thoughts are based on eye shape alone. am i terrible for wondering? part of me wants to know in case he wants to search later - we live in a predominately White area so it could help narrow options. tried researching online but couldn’t find a lot of info. ,4.1006481481481485,6.828940592592595,5.111836419753086,76.4470138888889,75.17283950617283,8.988271604938271,27.40895061728395,9.516144504307137,2.9455543209876542,352,14,62,10,8,115,61,81,0.098,0.877,0.025,-0.5801,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,6,1,1,0,0,18,15,2,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,9,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,3,5,0,13,11,2,11,0,0,3,0,7,8,0,4,1,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639814658865752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27616514966139616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23828078904585526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035029859386471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23295804426934105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708424087528607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801535808671171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22506597209291251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669203970086606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276012976744737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24410703854560944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404696567466184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304852880708255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006726779371545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27640926615024003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LalasBananas,2018/04/13,"Mothering Makes me Want to Die I'm a SAHM. I knew I didn't want this BEFORE my 2 kids (4, 2), unfortunately BC fails, here we are. I asked hubs for divorce PRIOR to the first born, he refused. Now my divorce talk is unbearably loud, he still refusing. 8yrs into this marriage, I'm 31, no longer have a job, money, and my family has never wanted to help (something about women belonging in the kitchen). Husband graduated from school (primarily thanks to me) so his career wheels are turning. Now he wants to pursue a second career (also at my expense). We have talked, argued, silenced, fought about this. He remains the same, he ""understands"" how I feel and ""believes (I'm) right,"" but isn't convinced enough to change, and feels I ""should be happy."" I remain the same: Give me a fucking divorce..... Most days I fantasize about suicide. Well, more like every morning, every night, every afternoon. The only thing stopping me is: if I don't succeed, then DCF gets involved and takes the girls away. And if I succeed, previous counselor said the girls have an increased 40% chance of committing suicide themselves. I feel stuck. Ever since I got pregnant, all I want is to die or disappear. I don't even know what its like to pee alone anymore, much less enjoy an hour without another body in the same room. ",4.008805588351045,6.195875673553723,4.702632821723731,81.87221763085401,73.25619834710744,7.088862652499016,28.87918142463597,7.957251820313856,2.083433844942936,1011,42,179,15,21,324,159,242,0.208,0.703,0.08900000000000001,-0.9815,1,1,1,0,3,3,62,2,0,0,4,13,13,3,0,14,0,15,4,2,2,4,38,41,13,4,8,5,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,2,4,6,8,1,3,6,0,2,2,7,4,1,2,6,5,24,9,20,33,10,23,0,1,0,1,29,7,1,4,16,112,30,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284957605875729,0.0,0.09921615380699872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009482941655434,0.0,0.0,0.12304090140574665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598568527916968,0.0,0.11656481757090062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557168615322393,0.13978076798858854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781021631640952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124619551486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001280500904191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25752344619595313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281941419877237,0.0,0.08194493368210523,0.112225499432775,0.31359482245686376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169591122343862,0.0,0.18819566515352426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553113401398777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469773275717993,0.06481976839709944,0.1190161540639224,0.0,0.0,0.09922753234652563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207138722084727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315934294699381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218078038058387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311712871171768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818385399511306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122551718739305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281553459129759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120335370261297,0.0,0.0956879440651818,0.0,0.0,0.1164282622554184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435837177952026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595234653351393,0.1180159124409639,0.0,0.0,0.1255621982177147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262931696829296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955126634626884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907988544401207,0.10372537784529157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27141782633924866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328277324285296,0.1994403456717812,0.0,0.11422401598452699,0.0,0.0,0.08242445135175216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494902271099302,0.0,0.12915788648510645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36588898684308935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155092904313267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959594215589026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alphadeeto,2018/04/13,"Hey Diddle Diddle I just bought a book for my son titled ""Hey Diddle Diddle"", and found out that it was a nursery rhyme. The melody is quite catchy, and the lyrics are funny.

It goes [like this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lsbr7a5MVOk) in case some of you are not familiar with it:

>Hey diddle diddle

>The cat and the fiddle

>The cow jumped over the moon

>The little dog laughed to see such fun

>And the dish ran away with the spoon

It goes over and over inside my head, and it got me thinking, what the song is all about. The title says ""Hey, Diddle Diddle"", so it might be just playing around. But is it, actually?

My focus was on the part where the cow jumped over the moon. How could a cow jumped that high? Is it just a metaphor? Or maybe the cow was abducted by some alien, so it floats high in the sky, over the moon, and was described as such in the lyrics.

Which might explains about the cat and the fiddle. It's not about a cat playing a fiddle, but it's the sound that the alien made while abducting the cow, which resembles the sound produced by a fiddle. Seeing such a sight, the dog barks and barks all night long, alerting the cow's owner to be cautious, but the owner mistaken it as a dog's laugh.

When the abduction is over, the dish ran away with the spoon. The dish represents the flying saucer, the alien's spaceship used to abduct the cow, and the spoon represents the alien with an oval-shaped head, so basically it's a scene where the alien is getting away with its spaceship into the outer space.

That might be the reason why it was titled with the word ""Diddle"", since people will thought of it as a playful rhymes; a joke, while it actually represents something more than that. Something that was kept as a secret since someone didn't want the whole world to know such conspiracy.

...

What the hell am I smoking",5.684337972656731,6.540372960339942,4.903300899125512,87.24449193250402,67.27195467422096,7.838847148663629,25.54612637024264,7.7425588080867325,1.1311848503510284,1457,36,292,15,23,434,159,353,0.071,0.872,0.057,-0.8474,0,0,2,0,0,0,71,0,1,0,2,18,9,1,0,53,0,24,5,2,5,2,49,40,24,0,2,9,1,0,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,27,18,3,1,7,6,1,5,3,1,0,0,15,7,7,8,39,17,7,35,1,0,3,0,10,25,1,6,6,188,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.2602186057071521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186905590499344,0.0,0.0,0.37579931209459866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645189252905672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618772826070606,0.0,0.0,0.06965859533886848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663491544518404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27366684369047445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817375871495795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327381154762977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651375302266548,0.13363010120227514,0.0,0.11799145409457185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261585726068359,0.0,0.0,0.1339463161718556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42432114450408176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511968812928928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438168364720708,0.0,0.09243313724384136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418111839801751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708381924787524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602810919346453,0.0,0.0,0.21249097369222045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205812898559721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296873567953172,0.20528545961860176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854314665188366,0.0,0.10584787075256114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151529447703913,0.0,0.0,0.07864055520010726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030815909678315,0.14885641696848298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FitterFlop,2018/04/13,"<teenager> Getting teen to sleep on normal schedule? Worth it? My son is a junior in a very rigorous year of school and getting good grades. His sleep schedule is whacked where he comes home and naps (will nap for 4-5hrs if I don't wake him) and then up till 1-2 in the morning and then repeat the cycle after school.

I've been making him get up after 1hr or so- but that is like waking a bear. I've also in the past shut on the net at midnight as that tends to lessen the distractions. I've sort of thought to just let him do his own thing as long as he's getting up to school etc. After all in just 1.5yrs he's going to be at college- but it annoys me that he won't set a responsible sleep schedule. 

Thoughts on should i put my foot down or just let him do his own thing IF he makes his obligations?",2.151546218487397,3.6218072470588254,3.0974789915966423,94.48294117647062,76.52941176470588,5.798319327731093,22.142857142857146,6.18269132825596,0.1376974789915968,632,17,144,4,14,201,100,170,0.066,0.894,0.04,-0.6404,0,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,1,9,0,13,6,6,2,1,22,24,18,0,4,9,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,0,2,2,1,3,2,2,0,0,3,0,13,2,28,15,4,32,0,0,0,0,14,15,0,5,14,92,20,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265784721414573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321231990018153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105912790215466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205386600240049,0.0,0.0871693293940335,0.12864777949261408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385254126640466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136826704141052,0.0,0.07493366954413312,0.0,0.0,0.1357363811521422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20476454285089685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027973219655175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464184657873499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418915903707775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465685929172987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604719946197451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037975747433145,0.0,0.0,0.2435330090448184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655447723331986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877162410357217
parenting,Snake0530,2018/04/13,"Need help with periodic fever syndrome (PFAPA). Reaching out to you guys to see if anyone has experienced a child having this syndrome or someone close to you with it. My godson, Wyatt, is two years old this Saturday and constantly (every two weeks) will run a 102ish fever for three-four days. The fever can be somewhat controlled with Tylenol and Motrin. He’s undergone a slew of tests and nothing has been diagnosed but this is what they are leaning towards. 

1. When did your loved one grow out of PFAPA?

2. At what age did it peek with the fevers coming most frequently, or did it just stay consistent throughout their childhood?

3. Was it always a manageable temperature or were there times you had to go to the doctor or ER in order to manage it?

Thank you for any information related to this! 
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parenting,ilovenogibjj,2018/04/13,"Is my son too competitive? A year ago, my wife [30F] challenged our five year old son to a swim race in order to motivate him to do better in his swimming classes. She won on that occasion but our son improved in leaps and bounds and within a few months managed to beat his mother. They regularly challenge each other to races even now and even bet on the outcome. My son usually wants my wife to cosleep in the event of his win. Unfortunately, my son wins every time and and this happens every week, much to my dismay as I think he is too old for his mother to cosleep with him.

This week, he announced after an easy win that he took great pleasure in ""routing"" his mother. My wife just laughed and didn't seem to mind . Is my son growing too arrogant?My wife admits that this habitual losing embarrasses her a bit but she supposedly enjoys the contests. Should she stop these weekly contests? Why does my son compete with his mother despite winning every time? I am worried.",4.831845559845561,6.496617902702706,5.381949806949809,80.0127702702703,69.97297297297297,7.447876447876448,29.97104247104248,7.957251820313856,2.0791312741312744,772,31,140,10,14,248,110,185,0.103,0.654,0.243,0.9883,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,1,12,7,15,0,1,8,0,7,0,0,1,0,22,14,9,0,2,3,15,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,9,0,2,4,2,1,4,1,3,0,1,3,0,26,12,23,10,4,29,0,1,0,0,34,8,0,2,16,91,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145929239118139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559654594366273,0.17972676578450178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440635677951006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746519277056384,0.0,0.41610844901034416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814985361514328,0.0,0.0,0.14557645549256848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18417214171530089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16622330637320368,0.0,0.13140130255935215,0.0,0.12101757853147065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34549038096471674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986750260790024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376330315662439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548440905530762,0.0,0.0,0.19198715122970114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290331624129808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813100730793384,0.0,0.09709949777387457,0.0,0.3961543175379948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485475502642574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718365841289706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21202491131323936
parenting,newpoewhodis,2018/04/13,"How do I tell my child (ex partner) that he is going to have a sibling (new partner)? I'm looking for input from other parents that have experienced this. 


To attempt to make a long story short, I have a child already that is 5 1/2, he was a product of a relationship with a woman that lived around 100 miles away from my normal home town. When that relationship ended, I moved back to my home town (work reasons, family reasons, financial reasons) and as a result I now live 100 miles away from my Son. I Skype him, and we sit there and talk for 30 minutes at a time on Skype a couple of times a week, and he visits during school holidays (Roughly every 6-8 weeks) for a week. I do my part financially and all that jazz. However it's been a difficult process, with my Son seeming to think that one day Daddy is going to move back in with his Mum (ex partner). I've received voice messages from my ex where he breaks down and cries apologizing to her that he made Daddy leave and it kills me. It's safe to say that he feels a lot of the time like Daddy doesn't love him (which isn't the case) and that he's a burden on me. I understand that the time I spend with my Son doesn't match up to what most Dads do and I'm not going to pretend otherwise - for what it's worth I am making attempts to better my financial situation so I can move closer and make it so it's easier for me to visit him (I don't drive, and public transport turns a 100 mile trip into a 3 1/2 hour - 4 hour train journey). 

To the main point (I wanted to highlight initially that my relationship with my Son isn't the greatest and he already feels left out/unloved). That relationship ended 2 years ago, in that time I have found a new partner, and due to contraception not quite hitting the mark we've found ourselves expecting a child. How can I tell my Son this? He has yet to even meet my new partner - primarily because I didn't want to do that at all for many years and it's a process that needs to be accelerated given the pregnancy. My partner is just over 20 weeks pregnant, and is clearly showing. I've tried to discuss this with my ex and I'm kind of leaving it up to her to decide how she thinks it's best to tell him, when and those kind of things (She works in child development and is the main parent so I trust her judgement). She has come to the conclusion he needs to be told soon - like within the next week, so he has time to process the information before it's a reality (initially she didn't want to tell him until after the birth), so we're going to Skype at some point and do it together as parents (not ideal, in person would be better, however he won't be visiting for 6 weeks and he's going to meet my new partner then, who he would work out is pregnant). Now my concerns are I don't want my Son to think that I've ran away from him and I'm setting up a new family else-where. 

How can I tell this to him? How can I re-assure him that I still love him and it doesn't change anything. The whole process can be done however he wants, if when he visits he wants to be alone with Daddy we can do that, if he wants to see his new sibling we can do that, it's very much something that can be done to a level he is comfortable with. It's just a very difficult situation and I'm at a loss as to how I explain this to him - I already know he is going to think I've run away to start a family without him. Any advice? ",5.276160365058669,4.577305081920905,6.306666666666668,82.18088005215125,68.09604519774011,9.351933941764448,30.15949587136028,8.69343788997812,2.049871099521948,2650,85,580,37,39,889,269,708,0.052000000000000005,0.883,0.065,0.9202,6,1,1,0,0,0,77,3,0,0,12,27,18,1,0,38,0,56,2,0,14,3,96,103,44,1,16,8,15,3,2,7,3,0,2,2,13,47,38,0,1,18,4,2,21,14,5,0,1,12,8,66,13,91,80,12,103,0,1,2,2,99,35,0,6,46,366,113,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553315060338716,0.050193023433498136,0.0,0.0,0.058644527085779996,0.18745522714447188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03850569704196999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046596044001604685,0.05040662578286397,0.0,0.0,0.21279732716557184,0.08707944461690252,0.0,0.034516958651293284,0.0,0.04818214686456333,0.0,0.05942252315835433,0.1001571842154322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989980550783375,0.048775846881136266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265246020951637,0.062197893023136525,0.03651726009562837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589032335923265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030264329616352,0.0,0.0,0.037399069517064114,0.0,0.047707462553465016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013785499211855,0.0,0.0572607518051176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241687657631517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930815131048844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359531182681623,0.0,0.11152483244001833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264514777888218,0.11792863553027795,0.03111861320673012,0.0,0.0,0.11991152180311007,0.06152123948390462,0.0,0.0,0.0553264410722614,0.0,0.09999859234179248,0.050109723298369976,0.04754920158241843,0.0,0.0,0.04813899395865357,0.10220924262066483,0.05357821219813831,0.11338921624934298,0.05740700665042355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805444048552764,0.04162454482598808,0.08397072562725576,0.0,0.32812206043975,0.0602193832810308,0.0,0.05547868400352962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03836932516277565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861998693280632,0.06131737482542963,0.0,0.0,0.049441167666463885,0.0,0.0,0.10705439505893599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060225710788894535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465414687632386,0.0,0.24316837422659335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04502901718013736,0.0,0.0573056706358061,0.04512133517137591,0.051547607016770636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729363017161638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043591282341608494,0.0,0.0,0.040078170904412465,0.0,0.04521933641240528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551155890382447,0.24745573013432584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037617917880909985,0.1451273630309402,0.0,0.0,0.198104553388406,0.0,0.0,0.054105865117389976,0.0,0.038443415338642636,0.06158974880872259,0.0,0.05894671651175441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344009001129078,0.2337846875388408,0.0,0.272518147338088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321774676578566,0.0,0.05458271492412792,0.0,0.12366702561554715,0.0,0.0,0.08044695021900355,0.0,0.0,0.07292692956080772
parenting,nliskiewicz,2018/04/13,"Advice needed re: Grandma’s casual racism and homophobia My son will be 3 soon, and spends every Friday night at his grandparents to give me and my partner some alone time. They adore him, however, unfortunately my mother is a racist, and my son recently said ‘Nanny (blabbering) black man are naughty’ — I was mortified, spoke to my mother about it and she only echoed the sentiment. I’ve also witnessed her recently faux gag when two men were kissing on the television. 

I’ve asked her repeatedly to be mindful of her words/actions when around my son - she’s ignored me. 
I don’t want to prevent her from seeing my son, but we’re so disgusted and disheartened by her behaviour. Weve never had the best of relationships, for obvious reasons, but part of me is like ‘this woman raised me, im not a racist or a homophobe’, but the mother in me is instinctly wanting to remove my child from contact with such views. 
Do I give her an ultimatum? Or is there a way I could talk to my son about Nanny being wrong? 
Thank you",4.079458762886599,6.036124716494848,5.3789561855670085,78.09410438144333,72.45360824742268,8.973711340206185,28.10438144329897,9.516144504307137,2.7418876288659795,801,31,147,20,16,267,128,194,0.17600000000000002,0.754,0.07,-0.978,2,1,0,0,0,0,23,1,1,1,1,10,10,1,0,9,0,16,1,0,1,2,25,26,15,0,4,6,8,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,5,2,8,0,2,1,1,1,1,3,4,0,1,6,5,31,6,20,15,3,15,0,1,3,1,34,4,0,3,10,101,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746891042985394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809501259944664,0.0,0.1452348592285068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167297074209638,0.1697824802482299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059033805171155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145002212847025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530157410418868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34843709855990684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19617186603564066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872633259833149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833761063753074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466281918976508,0.14007018567969926,0.0,0.0,0.17043033447737385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812392757219585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666783864560816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18672713715294284,0.3586394073042537,0.1949830644342798,0.0,0.0,0.17275437287590276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447210597358835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459726537297127,0.0,0.16720370872567805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589927800962493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740830075237812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21423864344021196,0.1441549621246641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985639501755538,0.0,0.0
parenting,fullmetalbri,2018/04/13,"Advice Heavily Needed I need serious advice. I've heard of child grooming so I'll throw a TW in here. 

My husband and I just had a serious talk about a conversation I overheard. My grandmother (children's great grandmother) had a conversation with my son earlier today she thought wasn't on speaker phone about ""showering"". My son is 4 1/2 and absolutely HATES showering. He hates the noise,  the feeling, everything, so he just bathes instead. 

Well my grandmother was talking to him on the phone and I overheard it (thanks to speaker phone, my son can't hold a phone up to his ear to save his life) and the subject of showering somehow came up. At this point, I started paying close attention. 

She asked him if he likes to shower and he said no.  I thought ""OK,  no big deal.  He said no, etc. "" thinking she would drop it. She then asked him if he likes to shower alone to which he replied ""showers are gross"" and went on about hoe she showers alone sometimes. Now here's the thing;  she asked him he would shower at her house to which he kept responding no, but she just continually tried to talk him into it. 

I feel as though it's child grooming behavior. I didn't say anything until she brought it up to me. I said he thought showers were scary, so I don't want to scare him permanently from showers by forcing him to do so. She responded that he should try it at her house. I responded with a ""we'll see"".

Is this normal behavior? I just want the best for my child and don't want to put him in a situation that would endanger him. Are we looking too much into this or is this normal great-grandparent behavior? My parents won't force him to shower at their house. My in-laws wouldn't either. 

She also follows him to the bathroom whenever she's around (he has issues with poop so he needs to be accompanied, but she even does it just when he says he has to pee). I feel very uncomfortable with her actions towards him, and I'm not sure I should allow her with him unsupervised by my husband or I. Is this normal or should I never allow her to be around him without my husband or I present? 

Sorry about formatting, I'm on my phone and a little tipsy. This has honestly gotten to me and I'm not sure if it should or not. Any help is appreciated. ",2.7256511422580267,4.8809587398190075,3.9917658095133,85.64484107714381,76.9864253393665,7.2986204613177375,26.61759187727624,8.25429008570747,1.8146921311113569,1761,70,353,33,41,576,191,442,0.106,0.828,0.066,-0.7859,13,2,0,0,0,0,60,2,0,1,1,27,17,2,1,15,1,32,4,3,2,3,76,67,31,0,20,20,7,3,2,0,10,1,9,12,4,19,22,0,2,8,1,1,7,16,6,1,0,18,14,67,11,55,37,4,39,0,0,2,0,86,22,0,9,11,241,86,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776986786719998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833853841079407,0.0,0.07271144709095509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06183106132619781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482224905787688,0.16188228804843433,0.2550034453529567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541854727514476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399220019116426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373808061583436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956772050783496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140367706085103,0.06005407870767428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171613068325814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792087905540548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20048684088704788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795361584025127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06094406941606721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31474034796069233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490045519885346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422191898967046,0.08884120620308729,0.09112917955701587,0.0,0.0,0.07635279516819887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668391947561811,0.20225574985196607,0.07012576697613274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672570172548803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095972696089743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595204573122345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140317667364356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594670558395489,0.14461194766524066,0.09103023138785288,0.0,0.07245421473763654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220176309231258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992561321629576,0.10178135402908838,0.06435608321364861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138854405172615,0.0,0.0,0.21924246585376966,0.0,0.08371009332745855,0.0,0.0,0.06040549752737107,0.058260073008772825,0.08933182426582624,0.21654918014924898,0.0,0.0,0.08618479561533465,0.0,0.0,0.1234621032207912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502136540362159,0.16088701297425895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175109761707447,0.08428694556729552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764695754359632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376822241687344,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoyousTongueFlower,2018/04/13,"My 3 yo daughter’s daycare had a scabies outbreak Like the title says my daughters daycare informed me today that a child was diagnosed with scabies 2 days ago. It can take 4-6 weeks to show symptoms of scabies so now I get to freak out for a couple weeks. On top of that we are going to Disney next week and now I will be checking her everyday for rashes and burrows. 

I don’t know what kid had it. I don’t know if it is a kid that my child plays with frequently. I don’t know that daycare cleaned “nap time Cots” properly to kill the mites. (I plan on asking about the cleaning tomorrow). I already emailed our pediatrician to ask if we need to treat her just in case. 

I’m sick of daycare and all the germs. Has anyone had to deal with a scabies scare from school? How did it play out? ",2.2362698412698414,3.963927141975308,3.563597883597886,90.12333333333336,76.96296296296295,6.110052910052911,27.00352733686067,6.868970318607317,1.1336934744268072,615,25,131,6,14,201,104,162,0.09,0.838,0.071,-0.7236,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,2,6,7,1,1,9,0,14,4,1,1,1,20,24,7,1,3,3,2,0,1,0,1,3,1,2,4,9,10,0,0,4,4,1,1,3,3,0,0,5,1,16,4,22,17,1,20,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,2,14,81,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899623774989392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103826784874466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133304164586592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564566794441709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109462498351293,0.0,0.12295094311806087,0.1965477264878231,0.0,0.1935017475472577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960470272498304,0.0,0.10834855477811768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109216294161656,0.0,0.3143222820338303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314003968789962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136164492000014,0.0,0.0,0.20275425782223708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160940649651958,0.19086997411722825,0.19294400051467187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815426336151426,0.1433421181219793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116725630246396,0.0,0.18071018229436947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458774332250844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,das_rennur,2018/04/13,"This Little caca head So today wasn’t the worst day or best day, but rather just another day. Another day of being a father to this little butthead 2yo boy. We’re leaving for Germany and the stress of moving is tough, but the stress of moving to another country is worse. This little guy has been all over and back with his emotions. No matter how good or bad his day has been, I’ll always take a peek at him sleeping and think, “You are the biggest jerk and greatest thing to ever enter my life.” From hot wheels doing loops to kicking and screaming; I’ll take very experience this kid has to give me and always cherish it.",7.69829268292683,6.323121715447158,7.466788617886182,78.04213414634148,63.552845528455286,9.500813008130079,32.69512195121951,7.793537801064563,2.264551219512194,493,15,94,4,6,157,84,123,0.2,0.688,0.112,-0.9201,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,1,6,10,1,2,6,0,11,3,2,1,2,18,15,12,0,1,6,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,6,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,7,0,0,3,2,6,3,13,11,4,17,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,8,63,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21608593792497635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084671857782473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998442015450286,0.10841668394997472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626624296097628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187023347358875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606021304931704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745389659591078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701512078899152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456091639886653,0.0,0.10890936508949436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285687816513071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326031405244004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748905040853812,0.0,0.0,0.09171465995213447,0.0,0.3904219235242571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760132738635384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994060934778562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29747822275398805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952573213400388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862644678346253,0.08320060921327424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307961747726635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713723796146077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232501851637735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YoureSoStupidRose,2018/04/13,"My Child Talks In Her Sleep She's three and she talks in her sleep a lot. Our house has thin walls and I just heard her say in that soft, dreamy voice, ""I love climbing on the rocks."" We just had an outdoor adventure today and she had a ball playing outside. (Fields of flowers, and hidden trails, walls of giant rocks to climb around on, fish, and hidden little paths for them to find if they just look for it.) Just a little joy in her dreams and I'm glad I get to share it with her once in awhile.",1.897562028047464,3.5919835242718428,2.1626537216828505,99.94121898597628,77.83495145631069,4.966127292340885,17.269687162891046,5.033348758259628,-0.9071199568500541,385,6,91,1,9,116,67,103,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.181,0.9566,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,2,2,5,6,0,0,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,16,8,7,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,9,0,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,6,16,6,16,5,1,17,0,0,1,1,19,14,0,2,1,56,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20559759347466186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21108732877397324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066367941254187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26648934807385144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629521916971454,0.0,0.0,0.1939427855992341,0.0,0.0,0.1963484196070726,0.20844456445267914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24595795613042734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836635050448608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4622406140387943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712633742323463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189169276791646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iosx324,2018/04/14,"I need help with my daughters hair. Brushing it is a nightmare! So my daughter is 4 and has beautiful dirty blonde long, thick hair. She only wants to wear it down and from all her running around and playing, it gets knots like you wouldn’t believe. Brushing it after bath every night is a war. It’s screaming and crying for 20 minutes every single time. We have tried a wet brush, detangler, brushing it with conditioner in etc. any tips to make this easier? She doesn’t want to cut it and I won’t make her if she doesn’t want to but I just don’t know what to do with it. It’s like mid back length. Thanks in advance!",1.54591575091575,3.779299928571433,2.5185714285714305,94.26873626373629,81.46031746031746,5.146764346764347,21.597069597069602,6.297961479604792,0.20483956043956075,485,15,104,4,13,153,83,126,0.077,0.769,0.154,0.8298,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,1,0,1,4,7,2,0,3,0,11,3,3,2,1,22,20,8,1,6,3,2,4,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,11,10,0,0,1,2,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,10,12,4,15,18,3,13,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,1,7,65,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306449560204513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003720317553401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307531471335874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535920219702301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24724365105557086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25102759597845464,0.0,0.0,0.3792851060060168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759683658916807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508687226941376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370000286273478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199288533058252,0.0,0.0,0.19919181083939272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004899625285675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689656013062604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112256132563398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711861412246692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20722664203305016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124799648830282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281691879556256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982802326472531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,caustic386,2018/04/14,"Any snowbirds with young children? I work from home full time and own houses in Chicago and Nashville.  I’m wondering if anyone out there has experience with moving south for the winter with elementary age kids?  

Moving is of course very hard on kids, but I’m thinking the change isn’t quite as drastic because it’s part of the routine - start school in IL, move on Xmas break, back to IL for summer break.  My family is in IL and my wife’s in TN, so there’s rhat conneftion plus a few friends we made during the brief time we lived in Nashville.  

I’m sure the schools would recommend against it, but I’m curious if anyone out there has actually done itnlong or short term?  Pluses, minuses, etc appreciated!  
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parenting,DuskChicadee,2018/04/14,"An idea about online photo albums, in the form of social media. I’ve heard a few people mention opening up email accounts or Facebook accounts for their children, so that they can save their pictures, memories, what have you online, and give them the account to do as they please when they get older. How do you guys feel about this sort of thing? ",6.6943846153846165,7.345192246153848,5.8151923076923095,82.3135576923077,65.0,7.115384615384617,30.09615384615385,5.985473137389443,1.520769230769231,276,9,48,1,4,83,55,65,0.0,0.917,0.083,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,6,0,5,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,8,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,8,1,9,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,2,2,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929140059553664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933468461745826,0.3660001897781604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777765919226447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4307031051617417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264506198712026,0.0,0.0,0.4188074837685328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889237519514457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25347285899441385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,80PercentAshamedOfU,2018/04/14,"Paternal Grandmother (60F) is spoiling my 4yo niece and making her rotten. Starting to affect her maternal grandmother (50F). This issue has been ongoing for almost my niece’s entire life, but lately it’s starting to take a toll on us. Here’s the situation.

My 4yo niece lives (mostly) with her parents, and paternal grandmother and paternal uncle in Alabama. I say mostly, since it’s usually like 8 months out of 12.

The remaining months, she spends with her maternal grandmother and myself (28m) in Georgia.

While with her paternal family and her mother, she is spoiled ROTTEN. I’m talking new, expensive clothes, toys, junk food EVERYDAY. She stays up late, She’s always at Chuck e Cheese or a theme park or whatever while she’s there.

While she’s here, her maternal grandmother and myself spend months cleaning up the mess.  
We feed her healthy foods and tell her “no” when She makes demands. We buy her things sporadically. Her doctors are all based here as well, so we get to take her to all those appointments.

Let me note here that there are complex reasons why her doctors are in GA, and her mother has given the maternal grandma full control over healthcare.

Last week, my mom (maternal grandma) took my niece to the dentist. They found 4 cavities due to all the candy and junk food. Mind you, we’ve had her for a few weeks. She’s been in AL since November.

My mom has subsequently put a stop to candy.
Of course, My niece reacts like you’d expect a spoiled 4yo to act when she’s denied sweets.
She pitches a fit, throwing things and screaming that her paternal grandmother lets her eat candy, (or stay up late or eat McDonald’s every day or eat dessert before dinner or blah blah blah.)

One day, my mom tried to make her go to bed. she told my mom that she doesn’t love her and that she wants to go home to her other grandma because she lets her stay up.

Today, my mom denied my niece a second banana. You can’t eat too many for potassium poisoning reasons (we all know this). She told my mom she hates her. She only likes her other, “nice” grandma and wants to go home.

My mom is very emotionally sensitive and it’s beginning to hurt her feelings. She cried because it really got to her. She feels like my niece thinks her other grandmother is better, and that she’s “losing her”.

She’s usually good at straightening out bad apples (my sister and myself included), so she’s fine with being the bad guy if it’s the right parenting move.

The issue is that everything she does to put my niece on track is undone as soon as she goes home to be spoiled again. Then, when my niece comes back, she has to start over from scratch.

My sister (her mother) isn’t much help, so it’s pretty much just my mom and myself left being the bad guys.

We know it’s not our responsibility to be her parents, but I’ll be damned if we help spoil her. I don’t eat McDonald’s for health reasons, why would I feed it to my niece everyday?

I personally don’t give a damn if her paternal grandmother and uncle are the “fun” or “cool” ones. I’m more concerned with making sure she turns out to be a decent human being. Even if I’m the “bad guy” that always says no.

My mom, on the other hand is at the end of her rope. She’s not supposed to be the bad guy, she wants to spoil her grandchild like every other grandmother does, but realizes how important a role she’s left to play in order to balance her out.

I don’t know how to comfort her maternal grandmother. 

I don’t know how to get her paternal grandmother to be sensible.

We’ve mentioned this to everyone involved and no changes have happened. Everyone just does what they want or makes excuses.

The whole thing is irritating me.

Any advice?

TL;DR My niece is spoiled by her paternal grandma, making her dislike her more sensible maternal grandmother. Don’t know how to handle the situation.
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parenting,Impalasdonteatcheese,2018/04/14,"Looking for toddler sleep advice! My son (2y 6m) moved into a proper bed about 4 weeks ago. To begin with everything was fine. 
However, over the past week or so he wants either me or his dad to lie with him until he falls asleep. If we don’t, he’ll hysterically scream and cry until we go back to him. This generally continues for around an hour (us going up and down the stairs, calming him, and putting him back into bed) Once he’s asleep it’s fine, he doesn’t wake during the night.  
I can’t understand why this has started all of a sudden. He’s always been a great sleeper and he’s never needed one of us to stay with him till he fell asleep. 

Nothing has changed in his bed time routine apart from the type of bed he’s in. This isn’t an issue at nap time either. 

I don’t want to create a rod for our own backs and allow him to develop sleep issues where he’s never had them before. Also I’m concerned he’s now not getting as much sleep as he needs. 

Is this a phase that will pass? Has anyone got any advice how to deal with this or ideas why it’s started? I’ve looked online and all I can see is help for if your toddler keeps getting up through the night or has always had sleep issues. That’s not been the case for us. 

Thanks in advance!

Tl;dr 2 1/2 year old not wanting to fall asleep himself now he’s in a proper bed",2.3774577922077893,3.650929310714286,3.7443506493506495,90.88610389610392,75.53571428571429,6.090909090909091,21.65584415584416,6.351523495107088,0.22039285714285706,1037,25,229,7,22,341,157,280,0.026,0.8909999999999999,0.083,0.9223,1,0,0,0,0,0,28,6,1,1,1,11,6,0,0,14,0,18,9,9,2,4,41,39,20,0,7,11,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,9,15,0,1,2,1,0,9,10,1,0,1,6,4,22,5,40,31,6,51,0,0,3,0,34,15,0,6,26,136,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943292362350304,0.08814121110482434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951640431052683,0.16547217257576952,0.0,0.0,0.06761773927030701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952575198370904,0.0,0.0,0.0885163064563304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22937314349189655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461002122934178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518675786484567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922230310535176,0.0,0.10251088949196067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936382297513219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389910742165634,0.0,0.11301994608583155,0.0,0.07952552359720312,0.10962505449088948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666477350939648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792131582340037,0.0,0.0,0.11224757065214093,0.0,0.3113461469996146,0.0,0.0883804747283574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669970815802558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568137039488372,0.07309457653035313,0.14745637835392314,0.15337746840562064,0.0,0.0,0.18662196465875985,0.0,0.0954084894027409,0.0,0.10433803666530632,0.10589272691509738,0.06737826410482399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491989455633658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995746532944552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792350979601988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980185872541624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075814847301982,0.1059821749294486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154439764583007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596017445312318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351309063664182,0.35881638239788505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594419151046642,0.0,0.1595180492646671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944534030423706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403148738551519
parenting,minimumliterature,2018/04/14,"My husband is really sad that our 9mo baby is going through a Mama phase. What would have helped you? Question for parents whose babies have gone through a phase of being clearly, obviously attached to the other parent...

I feel like everything I say (""It's developmentally normal"" ""She lights up when she sees you!"") falls flat and I'm not sure how to help him feel better about this time. Our baby loves him and *does* get very excited to see him when he comes home from work. But within 15 minutes, she wants to be back with me and there's a clear difference in how she interacts with me versus my husband. As an example: She likes when my husband plays with her, but she's all snuggles and sloppy kisses with me. My husband will kind of half-joke that our baby ""won't even look at"" him when they play (she's obsessed with cruising along the furniture right now) but will freak if I don't hold eye contact with her while she smiles ""adoringly"" up at me. 

He's not wrong, she's a total mama's girl right now, but it's a normal phase. I'm also a SAHM and spend about 23/7 with her most days. And on top of that, he's been feeling down about his [temporary but intense] work commitments right, so I think our baby's seeming lack of interest makes him feel like ""Cat's in the Cradle"" is playing underneath all his interactions with her. He's an extremely devoted father so it's inaccurate, but doesn't stop him from feeling that way.

Since reminding him that it's a normal phase tends to make him more churlish about the whole thing, does anyone else have experience or ideas for how to help him feel better about it? Or is it just a phase for him too, in a way?",5.523841463414633,5.806939310975611,5.879780487804879,82.11765853658541,67.47560975609754,8.999024390243902,28.59512195121951,8.841846274778883,1.9967141463414635,1306,40,264,20,20,419,173,328,0.037000000000000005,0.778,0.185,0.9926,2,0,0,0,0,0,48,4,2,1,5,22,20,0,1,15,0,16,3,1,5,8,61,38,27,0,7,13,7,6,3,0,4,0,1,1,1,16,16,0,2,10,4,1,5,5,4,0,0,2,12,44,16,43,30,7,33,0,1,4,2,54,15,0,6,14,176,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131802661049224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984458709889522,0.117001565585931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780537384180291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019842694603343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836492386212116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736433652851438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930467032680897,0.0,0.0,0.1998575880241154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953914318166814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542168636302905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262697408436644,0.111700128719137,0.0,0.0,0.3464286025821843,0.16315529806160547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059659774222720674,0.0,0.06489703938245135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296182668071423,0.0,0.11454228797060703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890706933560792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891173600089623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736299351902756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589118164892604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306129991845417,0.0,0.15244596573016506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33564705957499563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535898652015719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279193886856657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315329824678007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925539489974369,0.0,0.09080879430559616,0.0,0.0,0.18198993897556068,0.10395465714486976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445948404891832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954682927206108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762310648879887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586303190643925,0.07316860150904822,0.0,0.0,0.0665853441707107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421904413088736,0.06735246016897377,0.18127805868731486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748951058718144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626395148090972,0.0,0.0,0.08111758830672909,0.12484928330798856,0.0,0.0
parenting,theo_sontag,2018/04/14,"Petechiae in 2.5yo after day care. My wife picked up my son (2.5, 36"", 30#) from day care the other day, and he had a red pin prick rash on his face, which turns out to be petechiae (broken blood vessels under the skin). We brought him to the doc to rule out underlying illness (strep, meningitis, etc), and the doc said it was likely caused by straining of the face, which break sthe blood vessels underneath. My understanding is that this could be caused by a variety of things... pushing if constipated, hanging upside down, extreme bouts of crying or anger, holding breath, etc. In adults, it can be caused from childbirth and weightlifting, in other words... it takes no small effort to do this.

Parents who have children who have had this, what caused it in your kiddo? How often has it happened? Is there reason to be concerned about my sons care and safety? 

I spoke with our day care, who did not observe anything amiss, and actually said he had a good day that day. Trying to understand more about what may or may not have happened. Don't want to overreact, but my wife and I are considering having him removed from day care. Thanks!

Edit: Want to add a [link](https://coachmhurley.wordpress.com/2014/05/12/the-trauma-of-being-upside-down/) with a pic of what petechiae looks like. Our son's looked about 1/3 as intense as the picture shows. ",7.3061707988980675,8.168586752066119,6.207785123966942,79.29107162534439,63.710743801652896,8.767382920110192,30.596143250688705,8.648137234880735,2.263898292011019,1062,35,189,14,15,318,146,242,0.057,0.828,0.115,0.9392,1,0,0,0,0,0,69,3,1,0,1,7,12,2,1,11,0,23,9,8,7,0,35,43,13,0,4,6,6,2,2,0,2,1,3,0,2,21,12,0,1,3,2,0,4,4,3,0,0,9,8,14,9,37,27,3,26,0,0,3,0,23,13,1,6,10,125,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.10041566230952337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467802158122488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5245675923904564,0.4228270259919739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215736352409203,0.0,0.11303093729455856,0.4645344005707504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22952164263152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630772888931124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198845210534048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005435905882477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17282035005492646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425839300575588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579844945588407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957631340111412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736807546358011,0.0,0.0,0.09473659477765532,0.0,0.0,0.06836225972425343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986241908410648,0.11192576946291027,0.0,0.2142452836877219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138630000491715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dancing_queen_05,2018/04/14,Help with high calorie diet I have an 11 year old boy who has always been thin. The doctors say he is healthy and all is well. He has become thinner over the school year. Just growing taller I guess. Since I will have more control over his diet when school ends in about 6 weeks I am hoping for some help coming up with ways to add calories for him without having a huge impact on how the rest of the family (who are within healthy weights) eats. ,4.562059925093635,5.393623202247195,4.3815168539325855,90.06905430711613,69.78651685393258,6.382771535580527,26.069288389513112,5.46131890053228,0.6344591760299627,351,10,72,1,6,107,70,89,0.021,0.795,0.184,0.9251,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,6,0,11,5,0,2,1,13,14,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,5,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,3,6,2,14,12,4,19,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,3,6,48,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16490275956949454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188757312781422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071568525540878,0.0,0.0,0.22227723625637144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20284700987071635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278899756101065,0.0,0.0,0.17552985317673378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868277395362773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831910070767432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656735634753077,0.20938947768460894,0.0,0.19683879794315806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079579896286632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760176431211662,0.0,0.4011402141495527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393766105982027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730713142193764,0.15896912523367746,0.24133149450795485,0.17818883469750646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910397497368078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552445841460333
parenting,suedaisy,2018/04/14,"Advice needed: How to help 13yr old daughter develop confidence I’m not sure if what she needs is confidence or if she’s very introverted. The problem developing is that she doesn’t want to speak up for herself. If she’s in an uncomfortable situation, she won’t get out of it by saying so. 

She has no problem telling me that she doesn’t want to do something, but any other adult - she clams up. 

Her dad says it’s lack of confidence. I want to help her develop that but I don’t know how. 

She really doesn’t like talking to people. She tries to either solve things on her own or she just bears it. She doesn’t like being the primary focus on any aspect of her life. Top of the class? Nope. Lead in a play? Nope. Being called out in class to answer a question? Big nope. 

I feel like a failure. She’s 13 now and I don’t know if I missed her confidence window. 

She’s such an awesome kid and so many of my friends love her and she has really good friends too. I just want her to be the best version of herself and I feel lost as to how I can help. ",0.4952752293577979,2.7342274816513807,2.47960733944954,92.81631009174316,86.11009174311926,5.873321100917432,20.187889908256878,7.24861992348623,0.4942684036697256,813,25,182,13,25,271,111,218,0.078,0.626,0.29600000000000004,0.9959,0,0,1,0,0,0,23,0,0,0,4,10,14,0,0,9,0,16,2,0,4,1,38,31,18,0,13,12,2,2,3,2,1,1,3,1,2,9,6,0,0,6,1,0,1,12,4,0,0,1,5,34,10,27,26,5,14,0,2,0,1,41,11,0,7,5,126,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574877054138058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20285578343992575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652492248259262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522999929043007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083059858812006,0.10655360622374016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304676058958864,0.0,0.07792531613070522,0.0,0.0,0.1251009021591898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999186011588497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639391348956684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534986308851514,0.21860314338207107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281609137534292,0.0,0.1346147296334962,0.0,0.0,0.15121584860961798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118736500951475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650903445406122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340262254269286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854350007305879,0.0,0.0,0.16708341478739308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191100082631997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23722195049866096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676521337039424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148238365990321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405731869651342,0.0,0.0,0.11988203884407996,0.13036467291679846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908939182159493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126383542838774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306531318779512,0.35189283360373186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Waspy1,2018/04/14,"Going rate for in-home day care? Obligatory apologies if in my searching I missed the correct place to post a question like this. I'm new to r/parenting and happy to post elsewhere if there is a more appropriate r/

My wife has been asked to consider caring for an 8 week old baby in our home for about 13 hours a day, 2-3 days a week. We have an infant of our own, and my wife has several years of experience working in a day care with multiple children. Despite her experience in the field, neither of us has any idea what the going rate would be for in-home care for 25-40 hours a week. The inquiring family lives on our street, so it would be very convenient for all parties. We are taking into consideration the myriad other factors in our decision, and my question to you at this point is specifically about hourly/daily/weekly rates. We are in the US in northern New England. Thanks all!",4.863152380952382,5.8913528342857155,6.010642857142859,77.94377380952379,69.22857142857143,9.261904761904765,30.011904761904763,9.516144504307137,2.7004190476190484,706,27,135,15,12,236,107,175,0.012,0.847,0.141,0.9709,1,0,0,0,0,0,22,9,1,0,1,4,8,0,0,14,0,13,0,0,0,3,21,24,6,0,4,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,8,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,16,7,27,19,5,30,0,1,0,0,19,13,0,4,14,87,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695058918927504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578644963833088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4614841054430974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919074210627864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137837115764075,0.10667427800548457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861937614740593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204576506081292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350562183935108,0.0,0.2228735544285975,0.0,0.0,0.12774039460588732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528275768668449,0.0,0.09991963774103098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857532622005574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873915754786593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564737378586302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822490220605872,0.0,0.1069698694988886,0.0,0.21674610901592856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253523305939236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783511620083066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507992490648451,0.0,0.0,0.10417969325569147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722276958112416,0.0,0.0,0.09336631372275317,0.0,0.0,0.36307063825868735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237958895648706,0.0,0.0,0.1607668655130491,0.0,0.0,0.0728693495841961
parenting,OrangeDak,2018/04/14,"6 month old trouble adjusting to the crib We did the cosleeper for a while and now moved him to the crib. At first he kept turning onto his belly, and now he gets on his hands and knees and tries to climb up onto the ledge. Leaving him alone kills us because he'll keep climbing up and then falling and hitting his head. For some reason I don't remember his older sister having this hard of a time.",4.9866666666666655,5.238907913580249,5.2959012345679035,85.94755555555555,68.62962962962963,7.467654320987655,28.54567901234568,6.742157984588678,1.3289486419753085,315,10,64,2,5,100,59,81,0.139,0.861,0.0,-0.8519,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,2,2,1,0,6,0,3,3,3,1,0,13,9,8,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,2,3,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,2,2,9,0,12,5,1,19,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,9,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583525512333115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206098116082598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121800562321044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032610927525493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345611112887384,0.0,0.2560052697180775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217205458849974,0.2759768823336017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641290596033656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910674615845186,0.265123390724558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26175336257362225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564737448445094,0.0,0.0,0.2825755772804876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545493933863513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935859021136904,0.2713274285813205,0.0,0.0,0.300054827050364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tramselbiso,2018/04/14,"How do you raise children so that they will look after you when you're old? First off, I don't have any children, but I am curious about how to raise children in a way that will make it more likely that they will look after you when you're old.

I know of a couple who has a child. That child is now an adult but this adult has effectively abandoned his parents and doesn't look after them. The parents try to interact with this child but the child doesn't really interact back. He just keeps to himself and the parents are feeling like when they get old they will receive no help at all. They feel as if the way they raised the child made him that way e.g. they tried to teach the child about the importance of money, and this may have backfired because the child (an adult now) is so frugal that he doesn't want to have children nor does he care about ""luxury"" thoughts e.g. caring for families. He only works and saves for himself.",7.687777777777778,6.279218810810814,6.778018018018018,83.07921921921924,63.59459459459461,9.951951951951953,31.90690690690691,8.515128840125781,2.1488618618618616,740,21,154,8,9,225,95,185,0.059,0.825,0.117,0.9067,3,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,3,8,3,14,6,0,0,13,0,19,0,0,5,1,25,33,17,0,2,5,3,2,2,0,5,0,0,0,14,11,5,0,2,5,0,1,1,6,1,0,1,2,5,18,5,20,26,2,20,0,1,3,0,41,3,0,2,15,105,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412939466276374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643535942778172,0.0,0.08437869388273919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822539758922347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315754827724967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113104975807862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048873726028756,0.0,0.13997720647611273,0.0988862755884445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773879055729405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231800554959289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277906992661067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303281174384342,0.0,0.0,0.07607124267096066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524867245749764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487102874755639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097502626239546,0.0923954904231648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357411089571589,0.0,0.0,0.10527358277798547,0.0,0.0,0.4610924241140583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867449965251327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988890699357948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795428690208715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164287665747817,0.3296107257771689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077038945040567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lil_larry,2018/04/14,"WTF is wrong with parents at kids sporting events? Is this common? I'm amazed at what kind of assholes exist at my son's soccer and basketball games.  Tonight at a soccer we had a father stand behind our goalie and heckle him the first half before the ref told him he had to leave.  On the way past the bench he told our coach she was better suited to coach girls.  
And at a recent basketball game one of the fathers ran out on the court during the game to berate the teenage refs because he didn't think they knew how to call a game.  
Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you people that act like this?  
How do you justify this in your minds?
Edit, my son is 9.  Nine!! And parent act like this.  ",3.168064935064937,4.6379043000000015,3.702207792207794,91.1882467532468,73.85714285714286,6.233766233766234,20.584415584415584,6.574015621080383,0.1388571428571428,542,11,115,4,11,170,91,140,0.146,0.7829999999999999,0.071,-0.913,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,3,1,2,2,9,1,0,13,0,9,1,0,2,0,13,16,6,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,0,2,9,0,3,1,4,0,4,8,0,12,5,18,8,0,20,0,0,0,1,28,9,1,0,8,69,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975613975654187,0.0,0.16716733278778256,0.0,0.0,0.17374702492908664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060083684414967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671031205619296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161795800055164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20457593469540966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080157337809776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195436875588007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983618826190794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331218753360646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43627639665864015,0.0,0.18753695331750705,0.13619601825574468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939739844531949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258793753036848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754391926650227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593552639517114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42958180054811856,0.0,0.0
parenting,imustbbored,2018/04/14,"Lice and plan cancellation Let me preface this by saying I have a really big bug phobia, it brings me to terrible anxiety, I had a few bad experiences. My friend is a teacher and we planned to meet for coffee so I could meet her newish baby. I just cancelled because she told me she got lice, school breakout, and asked to borrow my steam cleaner. I know adults are less likely to pass lice to eachothet but she will have her baby that i will of course want to snuggle and hold and , I don't know, I am worried that the likiehood of getting them will be greater and I don't want to deal with am out break with my kid, long haired dog and home. Am I being over the top?",3.4480882352941187,4.591912338235296,4.203705882352942,89.14717647058825,72.67647058823529,7.2047058823529415,26.1,7.554174236665415,1.1568611764705878,522,17,113,6,10,167,89,136,0.069,0.8240000000000001,0.107,0.6187,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,3,2,4,0,0,5,0,17,1,1,0,0,19,26,9,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,3,0,1,1,2,4,11,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,3,2,23,2,15,16,3,8,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,0,2,77,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902066722625904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230992732283654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630709336304354,0.1506217733132644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972786431423301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547355624608145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24169822787813494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089858970638826,0.0,0.12909261493779084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761782464206426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478481299624471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715848027978932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526629154897787,0.0,0.12071409230464755,0.0,0.0,0.21866397499522147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829008213719475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649327991913385,0.0,0.2500649555851751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361019530416892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29147630271771824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509285616620584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pugle77,2018/04/15,"It’s a fight to get him to eat My son is 13 months old and it took FOREVER to get him to eat real food. He was good for like 2 or 3 weeks and now it’s a fight to get him to eat anything. I would be okay with this if he didn’t like food but once we get it in him he likes it. He will eat cookies and crackers but screams when we try to get him to eat actual food (us feeding him or him feeding himself). Has anybody been through this and knows ways to get him to eat?
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parenting,H4CKtehPL4N3T,2018/04/15,"Small vs large backyards for children Moving closer to my work and the houses we are looking at (in our price range) all have small backyards.  The upside is the houses are large and the school districts are some of the best in the state.  

I have a newborn and one of the concerns we have with the area is the lack of backyard space to them to play in once they’re older.

Any advise on whether a smaller yard is okay or if we should hold out and keeping looking?
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parenting,amystarfish,2018/04/15,"3 year old - glasses. Tips? My 3 year old son was diagnosed with an astigmatism and was prescribed glasses. We received his first pair last week and he started wearing them this weekend.

Things I did not anticipate:

1) how often he would try to take them off/randomly take them off when we aren’t looking
2) how often he would touch the lenses and they would need to be cleaned 

I am a little nervous because tomorrow is his first day at daycare with his glasses. 

Any tips or tricks from parents who also have toddlers in glasses? Does it gradually get better over time? We have been using an incentive to encourage him to leave his glasses on (he can have 30 minutes on his beloved pad if he leaves them on for a long period of time) 

Any insight would be helpful and/or encouraging! ",4.499572072072073,6.4717643175675725,4.92675675675676,81.70720720720722,71.36486486486487,7.636036036036036,32.6036036036036,8.344100000000001,2.649025225225225,621,30,112,10,12,197,102,148,0.029,0.848,0.123,0.9479,2,0,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,5,3,6,5,1,1,5,0,17,2,1,3,0,22,24,9,0,6,3,2,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,4,8,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,2,4,2,17,3,16,14,0,26,0,0,1,0,26,8,0,4,17,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273263264690325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165469734221685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097057623960536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081510513040707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026822361215706,0.0,0.0,0.16160260041685992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933247051326494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708609658110812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318466979309545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672025917892683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297836650996915,0.0,0.3371770818303486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595779499838211,0.0,0.1409026423733737,0.1337027567646716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805789719132988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341443576272459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767923988525141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269509808103599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394237709105469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577715623061956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856822269297416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809835789390668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375129607456015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771482434654902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524147055948951,0.0,0.0,0.2050619400572296
parenting,bigmama95,2018/04/15,"Baby blues Everyone tells you to prepare for the baby blues. Nobody tells you exactly what they are, what are defined as normal thoughts, what is post-natal depression? 

Do you just assume you have it because you get worried and have a few depressing days? Do you go to see a doctor who will prescribe you the first thing they think of because they need you in and out in 10 minutes? Do you suck up your pride and speak to your close friends and family about it? 

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to any of this. I don’t think people can tell you how to think or tell you if you’re normal. But I do think there needs to be better support for new mothers who ‘might’ be going through this. 

My issue is separation and anxiety with my daughter. My daughter is 4 months old, and has never spent more than 15 minutes with anyone else (even my partner, her father). I find it difficult to bathe, clean, sleep, see friends, I find it difficult to live a normal life. I don’t mean leaving her in a different house, or with strangers. I mean I find it too difficult leaving her when she is ten foot away from me. I rush every bath, most baths I actually have her in with me. She sleeps with me every night. I cook and clean one handed, or my partner does the housework while I hold her. I get too nervous putting her in a crib because of all of the horror stories about children getting injured or even worse, dying. 

For the first month, family and friends considered it normal. A new mother wanting to hold her baby all of the time, of course that’s normal. 

But four months down the line, and I still find it too hard to put her down, or leave her at all. It’s mostly worry. Worry that she will hurt herself and I won’t be there, worry that someone else might hurt her (be it accidental or otherwise). I have such morbid thoughts when it comes to anyone else wanting to hold her or do anything with her. I resent them, I don’t trust them, I envy them, I envy them holding her for five minutes and maybe seeing a smile that I would’ve missed out on. 

I start having small anxiety attacks, sweating, going dizzy, my heart racing, feeling sick. I’m in pain most days from trying to do too much, and holding her constantly, I’m sleep-deprived, I’m very isolated, rarely see my friends or family. I don’t want to see them because they’ll want to pick her up, and I won’t be able to relax. 

My family and partner put pressure on me without realising, trying to encourage me to take some time to myself, to have a long bath, even to go to mother and baby groups or playcentre’s, but the thought of being the odd one out in a room full of normal mothers was beyond anywhere I wanted to venture. I tried today, thinking my thoughts were just silly. I tried to go to Tesco’s for one hour, me and my partner, whilst she stayed with my parents who live less than one mile from Tesco’s. I felt ok, for the first ten minutes. Then the sweats and dizziness started, by the time we were half way around the store I was crying and couldn’t get my words out. I just kept repeating myself to my partner, ‘I need to leave’, ‘I need to get out of here’. 

Four months from now I’m expected to return to work, 10 hours a day away from her, 50 hours a week. The thought of that instantly makes me want to cry. Nobody can look after her like I can, nobody will love her as much as I do, nobody will pay her as much attention or see to her needs like I can, nobody is able to tell what cries or noises mean what like I can tell. 

If anyone can offer advice on how they dealt with anything similar, I would appreciate it. Nothing medical, nobody who knows me personally, just another mother who has felt even remotely similar to how I feel. ",4.723711711711712,5.3067889162162185,5.284121621621623,84.63681306306306,69.29729729729729,8.058558558558559,28.119369369369373,8.007285818006526,1.662666666666667,2898,94,589,35,48,932,297,740,0.1,0.8270000000000001,0.073,-0.8822,2,0,0,0,0,0,92,1,13,10,6,28,31,3,2,26,1,54,15,7,5,5,126,116,46,1,22,22,9,6,3,9,10,6,1,7,7,29,35,1,6,26,6,3,10,10,15,0,13,13,16,108,16,99,86,14,79,0,5,9,1,85,30,1,21,40,404,137,3,0.09577051214574134,0.0,0.046729102395889684,0.0,0.0,0.046792918031282084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032563616184950774,0.05021186618479599,0.07326417965607299,0.0,0.0,0.10044745330143462,0.09812820732882764,0.07881097131946399,0.04262803016869239,0.0,0.05447639172290915,0.0899795487334017,0.0,0.0,0.11676163058857594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04235061764239503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041248908056437286,0.0,0.05174695026589517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779911583294567,0.09264608615581814,0.0,0.08248700177722086,0.0,0.04969733569669945,0.05002990073892775,0.0,0.04901258866261855,0.04190471028241534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000596084109084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265110400781008,0.0,0.0806907870311061,0.0457564142551947,0.0,0.0,0.1805678309873932,0.0,0.048424448522804385,0.0,0.09195471048177628,0.0,0.1750650261441815,0.12219352306016815,0.0,0.0,0.1479841202295453,0.0,0.12509034953507794,0.0,0.1360714727118582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04289578381845754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056744259004870526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147199444445788,0.055253156310544664,0.10252431402486176,0.0,0.0,0.04997976635997383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02631648443001557,0.0,0.0,0.20281428838406826,0.0,0.0,0.033822772499532486,0.07018295201847788,0.0,0.0845671168218097,0.04237694476335919,0.04021155489129438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043218313170984776,0.0,0.031963780263748416,0.0,0.0481071759410693,0.1564832457216178,0.0,0.04823935770897358,0.0,0.10159737889809346,0.0,0.0,0.15288621818149686,0.0,0.10560351888522064,0.17753155313078525,0.03693206151579584,0.09249575741419164,0.0,0.044937068988181464,0.2815043036932407,0.04594719467441746,0.0,0.050247521081385166,0.0,0.12979315518057974,0.0,0.05095328862311667,0.0,0.053170910030928574,0.0,0.0,0.03319760724490017,0.0418115585824014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045860838610446326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441372504912833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040893747045637495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289500961904468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437595146963796,0.0,0.04057302207701394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778686142487653,0.051039311637625054,0.038241227355701436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05433962112553587,0.0,0.0,0.036003753173150944,0.0,0.251122946614718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03181283637628388,0.18409763141759908,0.0,0.1900777224342564,0.08376683369735853,0.0,0.045389623681052316,0.0,0.0,0.1300437824108702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03951035120982783,0.169463788175901,0.03800908739544084,0.03841066402753681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04615967806489947,0.0,0.034861036731697145,0.19451920779057635,0.048799166890131335,0.0680326240381039,0.052355010362250265,0.0,0.0
parenting,NakedLight,2018/04/15,Mummy present from 1 month old son So we had our first baby last month. It's my partners birthday on the 28th April and i want to get her a suprise gift from our baby boy. I'm struggling for ideas and would love some help!!,0.8072340425531905,2.9446752553191518,1.382382978723406,101.89400000000002,83.68085106382979,3.76,20.038297872340426,3.1291,-0.7760859574468082,175,5,41,0,5,53,41,47,0.054000000000000006,0.7190000000000001,0.227,0.8353,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,6,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,1,5,4,1,8,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,7,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717960057578215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694366367884875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141773370069341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607157202548391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26046338335299396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288392492530401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5100990101171957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335297858359342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340469893084209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846981244709526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269882438737184,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kas1290,2018/04/15,"Feeling guilty for being a working mom My daughter is 5 weeks old today. In a week, I will be returning to work and I feel incredibly guilty about it. I fear I’m somehow less of a mother due to the time I’ll be away for my job (despite never looking at my friends who are also working moms this way.) 

We are fortunate that my income is enough to provide for us. However, I feel like this is part of the reason I feel so bad. My husband is going to stay at home and be able to do all those things I wish I could. Logically, it makes sense that I would work and he would stay home (big difference in salaries). But in my heart, I feel terrible.

I know someone has to work and provide for the family. I enjoy my job and just got promoted to an exciting new position a couple of months before I left to give birth. I just never expected to feel this bad. Any tips on how to deal with these feelings?",2.4682246376811565,3.9644535760869566,4.200521739130437,86.79520289855074,75.73913043478261,7.51536231884058,25.8536231884058,8.238735603445708,1.5699540579710147,694,25,148,12,15,234,112,184,0.108,0.778,0.114,-0.2459,4,0,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,0,6,7,8,0,1,8,0,16,1,1,3,3,31,31,9,0,5,3,5,7,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,11,7,0,0,10,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,8,22,4,26,22,4,25,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,1,13,101,33,8,0.11013360697539712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807380570804882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489462938557596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034741491300328,0.0,0.18391392308123994,0.0,0.0,0.09371558781261953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793272351669232,0.1218607413435934,0.0,0.0,0.1135429128411804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506617854594428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379745657445918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382416301639147,0.12393092681265724,0.3898080258197333,0.0786794708289589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508895155096749,0.0,0.0,0.10565019129380612,0.06259146687408691,0.0,0.0880839063946919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050885453848848,0.0,0.0,0.22094597508351127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21858122205748656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060526550151029423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966048622535387,0.0,0.0,0.05380571730481175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248449200163024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351503785755127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579742988208202,0.08790759435186192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698836544418633,0.10636772390278217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556669405388235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926396391270334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132356906970478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331584779319077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23477554258617245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316787474011778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421979189836025,0.0,0.10439378182802134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247716879803878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874189309196285,0.1766850727177979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664821276246496,0.0,0.0,0.4008928878150876,0.0,0.0,0.1564715090155372,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsCharles88,2018/04/15,"11 month old waking every hour at night - help! So he’s never been a great sleeper, but I’m just so over waking up every hour (or less!)
He’s still breastfed, and he sleeps in bed with me which was allowing him to sleep better but he seems to be getting worse. 
He will wake up and cry instantly and I’ve been nursing him back to sleep. I know he’s getting some teeth at the moment so he just wants to be attached and nursing all night. 
I’m not really keen on letting him cry it out but I really thought he’d be starting to improve by now. Any suggestions greatly appreciated! ",1.1501564537157734,3.4623994915254244,2.95,90.07955019556715,83.74576271186443,5.664667535853977,22.63624511082138,7.010146845296331,0.7802886571056059,452,16,94,6,13,150,76,118,0.14,0.7509999999999999,0.109,-0.6154,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,2,0,9,7,7,1,2,21,18,11,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,7,4,15,8,3,20,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,3,12,55,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054013105854475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918090429151787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707969588692528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34050750636439603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611784470417737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195605190411524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417631095340342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388928559669247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052759566769544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518071006521284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584919798666523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371482082378253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954101363552642,0.0,0.0,0.29090294753025164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264024688067374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858639296192174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110081765794902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465318138257906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970562965236752,0.0,0.12377849741239025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304801127662487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914195425402896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795224082253118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Frustrated98765,2018/04/15,"Wits End Just venting, no votes or comments expected. 

Just had our 3rd kid and life is miserable. The kid never stops crying. Never. The other two (4 and 2) are behavioral monsters and we're about to begin physical discipline as we're out of ideas in how to control them. They don't listen, they don't eat, they break everything and literally do the worst thing in every possible situation. 

My wife has been out of work in maternity leave (unpaid of course) and our savings are gone and our credit cards are maxed. We'll have trouble breaking even for years, never mind ever saving anything so being comfortable or retirement are completely out of the question. 

This kid was a huge mistake for us and we're absolutely ruined for it. Dare I say I hate my life and family now. There is no peace and the endless stress and struggle is killing me. I want to leave them all but they'd be even more fucked than we are now. There is no help available, no support network, and I don't know what else to do. I lock myself in the bathroom and turn on the fan to drown out the endless screaming just so I have a few minutes to cry. 

And the worst part is, we don't even have any *real* problems either. People out there are dealing with truly terrible situations and been dealt awful hands and here we are just not wanting to lie in the bed we've made. So I feel guilty for being miserable on top of it all. Nice huh? Well, pit party over, I got a screaming baby to deal with for the next 10 hours. ",3.0124652139669195,5.052972075085329,4.108754266211605,85.67659425045944,75.68941979522184,6.965030191651353,25.262404830664217,7.882392219407189,1.4571334733525858,1170,41,229,18,26,380,171,293,0.225,0.665,0.11,-0.9913,0,0,0,0,0,1,34,8,0,6,3,20,23,3,4,14,2,31,5,1,3,6,58,44,23,2,5,9,1,2,0,0,1,2,4,1,3,6,25,1,3,4,0,1,1,12,16,1,1,7,6,26,7,36,32,8,30,0,3,0,1,25,15,1,3,12,165,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263801249598579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000090278254348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741178634078873,0.0,0.1362954177912524,0.0,0.0,0.26696882049778786,0.0,0.2505643122124098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434566675180594,0.10151466834695914,0.0,0.10763097056851388,0.0,0.0,0.2407891567879485,0.10992212357042633,0.10238614515529663,0.0,0.10921466466346276,0.0,0.11455858118427675,0.0,0.061444345729454175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234361546267628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719093367650307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997619791188915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145253634563296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967307703514105,0.0,0.0,0.13718169590252782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444427455297112,0.0,0.06678441229703155,0.0,0.0,0.2573450319929883,0.0,0.0,0.17166684931982326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498550368576348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227009229084202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811719813650788,0.0,0.12923828239375207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159470873938134,0.0,0.08424691738040872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699594810066293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162785736604418,0.0,0.0,0.13613061540502286,0.0,0.0,0.1383167748521617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663786842654114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273187954221832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015964630010769,0.13920116279144853,0.1270394660706446,0.0,0.0,0.13789986542325275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073272805650693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132179257166343,0.11870773496182475,0.0,0.1461740317079874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335171463920718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926139842238072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846827000707579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825512819273432
parenting,dontknowwhattodo981,2018/04/15,"My son thinks he’s ugly and his actions are beginning to disturb me. I have a 19 year old son who’s very self conscious of his appearance. While I honestly don’t see a problem with him at all, he’s got nice clear skin, excellent teeth, he’s fit, and his has a great face, I can understand him being a little hard on himself about his looks. It’s normal for teenagers to worry about their looks, and god certainly knows I was worried about what other people thought of me when I was his age.

I respect my son’s privacy so I don’t often go into his room. He usually has it locked so I can’t really get in there unless he lets me in anyways. However, yesterday he went out with his girlfriend (another reason I can’t believe he thinks he’s ugly) and I decided to go into his room to put his backpack and laundry basket away. He broke his mirror. From what I can tell he must’ve thrown a coffee mug at it recently because the room was still a mess. He’s never been that...emotional/rash before.

I got worried so I went looking around and I found that he has literally BURNED himself out of almost all the photos I have of him!!! It seems like the only ones that he hasn’t burned are the ones on display on the hallway! I knew the photos were missing but I just thought maybe we put them in a photo album somewhere. All his old school ids and old drivers licenses have burns where his photo should’ve been. Photos of him and his girlfriend going out on dates (she uses one of those Polaroid type cameras that print out the picture immediately) have only him burned out of it. Even his PROM PICTURES!! Even pictures as a CHILD!! 

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get any of those pictures back!! I’m so angry at him those were my memories too! What if he gets in a car crash and dies and I don’t have anything to look back at anymore?! What am I supposed to look at when he moves out of the house and I’m feeling nostalgic?! At least with the prom pictures maybe I could ask his girlfriend to scan her copy but I’m just in shock. Maybe I can get some of the childhood ones back from out old laptop but I can’t believe he’s done that. I don’t know how long he’s been doing this. I’m ashamed I never knew it was this bad. He’s made comments on how he thought he was ugly but I never knew it was THIS bad. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to say to him. Please help me reddit",2.5877103647526205,3.9061952796780695,3.957867203219319,89.38436103802303,75.0764587525151,6.707093845122015,25.017231594696387,7.2200825789825185,0.9747624103595932,1862,61,403,20,39,614,220,497,0.108,0.8340000000000001,0.058,-0.9817,1,0,0,0,0,0,50,1,0,2,1,26,16,0,2,19,0,43,3,3,5,9,73,87,27,1,4,8,3,3,1,3,0,0,1,3,2,25,25,0,0,20,0,0,11,14,9,0,4,24,11,64,7,59,59,5,68,0,2,7,0,63,33,0,6,25,261,89,6,0.08067981021155142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078917575242946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054865037572433176,0.08459981560905327,0.0,0.0,0.0800126924181455,0.0,0.0,0.06639260943876159,0.07182213620135318,0.07542473157398852,0.0,0.07580133751069958,0.1861133819556176,0.13472854305744308,0.049181663462037166,0.0,0.06865257614122433,0.1817970360630133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644162634780171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373290530028281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256345727822244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657650747063507,0.07297950734265345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040794136200018524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884612475849033,0.0,0.0,0.16860748359668026,0.0,0.13755658623054184,0.0,0.12905402893420811,0.08894977558298628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227326281981854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05407797612739308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309366870545978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735805493180234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250057216569176,0.0,0.03941607997473785,0.08086236517862049,0.0,0.07139909319165627,0.3387536042413528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634118717837042,0.0,0.0,0.2431611403831325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574987007836407,0.0,0.0,0.18667573016303945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904908406164185,0.0,0.0,0.3386395560485559,0.0,0.2186829096369882,0.12272126247474252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593322186520792,0.0,0.0,0.08856220391998611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719968232608419,0.0,0.16221098635143158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051685552346130516,0.08295228210089063,0.07966157929907994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415982333069281,0.0,0.0816522752235867,0.06429136308836539,0.073447869094839,0.08416663766344464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443100065330444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051771023147839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508909402682478,0.0,0.19215227185715766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399052775655226,0.0,0.06968145191570325,0.08885741259029255,0.06656929289779095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958198472507664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458027906830437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051955152584756345
parenting,lukamu,2018/04/15,"What to tell my 2.5 yo when she says ""I feel mad/sad""... ... specifically after I've told her something like ""it's your little brother's turn,"" or ""it's time to turn off the screen."" 

I've been working with her on expressing her emotions in words instead of crying/tantrums, and she's gotten pretty good at it, even with identifying emotions of other people. However, I'm stuck at trying to figure out the next step beyond identifying the emotion and talking about why she feels that way. How do I get her to develop a coping mechanism besides crying or growling? Ideally, I'd like her to say something like, ""Okay, I'm still feeling sad, but I will go and find something else to do.""

P.S. - I prefer research-based articles or book chapters. If you can point me in that direction, I'd be very grateful! If you want to offer anecdotal answers, I'd enjoy reading those too. Thanks!",3.540738522954093,5.765233652694612,4.650203592814371,81.55263073852295,74.74850299401197,7.088063872255487,29.097405189620762,8.021203637495839,2.182541237524951,688,30,123,11,15,225,113,167,0.033,0.8059999999999999,0.161,0.9611,1,0,3,0,0,0,40,0,3,0,2,8,9,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,1,0,23,20,11,0,5,6,1,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,8,6,0,0,7,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,6,17,8,21,14,0,18,0,1,1,0,19,10,0,5,8,71,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618413208691768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230800509380414,0.4971984113185916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731382392114664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223492032985469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466213793221993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697680924211088,0.0,0.08373425957448924,0.12357817407338605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21594230608731446,0.1476690530323088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669316207389716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214400589985552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927983617342132,0.0,0.0,0.14989334982115152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737554633735614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23433448509786156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402786028421985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766246054491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118422834758573,0.12877787421734202,0.13564689456221832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591261705776126,0.0,0.0,0.14078555159594594,0.0,0.10003125210067683,0.32051781225118475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156736228940085,0.08690239857527796,0.11694820107146275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294753027980075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726212631317192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YehudiKhazar,2018/04/15,"Difficulty potty training. My daughter is now 2 years and 3 and a half months old. She is exceptionally intelligent and blows the doctor away in her development.

And yet we have had zero success in any way, shape or form with potty training. She is perfectly comfortable sitting on the potty but will not use it. She pees and poops in her pull ups and gets rashes. We put her in underwear and she either pees in her underwear without giving us any indication beforehand, holds it in until we put her in pull ups for a nap and then pees and poops and refuses to sleep, or does it in her sleep. We have no progress what-so-ever, but plenty of messes and aggravation.

Is it time to give up and try again when she's older? We have been trying for close to 6 months.",4.309170225747408,5.692152510067114,5.531653447223917,79.52931665649788,70.87919463087249,8.639658328248933,26.297132397803537,9.095868883498916,2.034363758389262,600,19,117,12,11,200,90,149,0.046,0.8690000000000001,0.085,0.7089,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,4,0,10,9,8,1,1,31,14,19,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,19,0,2,0,1,0,4,3,1,0,2,2,0,18,3,23,11,2,33,0,0,0,0,21,15,0,2,12,86,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639633669733243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182345416641608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986500493984208,0.16984152428531574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139927227863896,0.3723602138641438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098270834371952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20365528157826693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39020986781299066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884421733976494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317014741167893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635364148759969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23345545474959295,0.16762360400260193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405240357059366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870870847268891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249817517192023
parenting,mrsuns10,2018/04/15,"Is my mother overreacting with my brother? My brother is 15 and is in a youth group in church and spends his Saturday Nights at church or goes places with his young group and minister. Last night he went with his friend who is 17 to go get coffee and they came right back to church. 

Last night my mom threw a huge fit and was telling my brother how wrong of him he was to go with his friend because he didn't text my parents about going anywhere. This Morning she's throwing a fit again about it and throwing a fit about his low grades (which I get that part) 

I don't see the big deal at all and I think my mom is freaking out over nothing. 

She also told him that after 18, he still has to tell her where he is going and what he is doing. She also threatened to put him in special education which is laughable because i work in special Ed and actually know the process. ",5.674576271186439,5.316173322033901,5.579666666666667,86.58475423728817,67.19209039548022,8.20994350282486,30.694350282485875,7.1686216300943375,1.5821801129943502,686,23,148,5,10,214,101,177,0.059,0.8190000000000001,0.122,0.8689,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,10,7,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,1,1,20,27,13,0,0,1,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,15,0,0,2,0,1,10,2,3,0,0,7,1,24,4,22,20,2,39,3,1,1,0,35,17,0,1,12,93,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.14178088504434389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323747597889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117180988902314,0.0,0.17713337594009926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661716518247304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978634615076075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22449949242443676,0.0,0.15181477544622984,0.0,0.3302838332639835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984691043565817,0.23685948411775476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34032091175276435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090310161620089,0.0,0.13940849689457518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132598950715854,0.15733358370792974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179584545304212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605534666990844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407581895730994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577634209570035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602780241184853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539775842781152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930951797298326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882964955320376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346841488730101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057719576872968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885046630637967,0.0,0.0
parenting,flawlessgoldfish,2018/04/15,"Day care put my child in a bathroom as a time-out place Hi I am new to this thread and hoping that you can help us with this. We have a 4yrs toddler boy and he has some trouble with going to pre-school. We are seeking help with Kennedy Krieger to cope with his anxiety. The pre-school also got some help from the county, someone came to the day care and observed my son's behavior, one of the suggestion was to putting my son into a quiet place for time out and have family photos with him. 

The other day, I found out (from my MIL-who usually picks him from daycare) that they had put my son into a bathroom for time out because he has been crying non-stop. 

I can understand that they put him into a quiet place... but in a bathroom? It is just not so clean and not very sanitary. Is this a typical thing to do as a daycare? should I have a chat with the school administration?  

Edit: The teacher did not allow my son to get out of his cot after his nap until he puts his shoes back on. Is this acceptable? ",3.783987517337032,4.4804664417475735,4.812649098474342,86.76601941747576,71.47572815533981,7.827461858529817,26.36477115117892,7.957251820313856,1.36882080443828,781,24,168,10,14,256,112,206,0.055,0.865,0.08,0.6166,0,0,0,0,0,0,25,3,1,2,0,4,5,0,0,17,0,18,1,1,2,0,35,27,11,0,2,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,10,21,0,0,3,2,0,7,3,1,0,1,7,2,23,4,34,19,2,30,0,0,0,0,28,13,0,3,10,118,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173066649805617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775008190117417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820214106219118,0.0,0.06992395666722577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119356326662096,0.2339016388055059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599959401056882,0.2219284153909829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813498514719072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257696468040387,0.0,0.0,0.0599293595766876,0.0,0.06519029043077093,0.0,0.0917411865693805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23065584568740066,0.0,0.0,0.11392933696466005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078415573214798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772802514662157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595313214144167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5765580697235143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482670015170311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097190360335687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589968646658148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620583511975937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20065867254779127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194134075566569,0.13797767556340565,0.0,0.12633289380952667,0.09464479288192401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anonymousparent2018,2018/04/15,"Am I giving my 15 year old too much freedom? I let him catch buses from Oxford to Swindon where he switches to many different places such as Chippenham, Cheltenham and Trowbridge, am I a bad parent for letting him do this, he is very safe crossing the road, street smart and knows which bus he takes as well as researching the area, crime and bus times/stops online first. He's always on his own, he doesn't travel with anyone else. ",11.867550200803215,7.428437602409643,9.9855421686747,72.7485140562249,58.518072289156635,12.512449799196787,39.714859437751,8.841846274778883,3.4520714859437738,343,10,65,3,3,104,68,83,0.077,0.762,0.161,0.7645,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,10,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,7,3,9,8,2,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,3,38,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085130685972612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603783937800197,0.23501309030726866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19151145156363214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396391802210616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916062837946257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19509903252501548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22002925231185072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605383304712955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690855841451617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23254163622185176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861077289341064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24068156406943375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546843608167556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396391802210616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176066906687228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245506722706824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925138835628827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20622803437985576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477045095555495
parenting,niki16712,2018/04/15,"Motherhood- an inexplicable journey. One day you will wake up and realise -
- you dont have to feed your baby.
- You dont have to bathe and massage your baby.
- You dont have to deal with dirty diapers any more.
- You dont have to sing a lullaby.
- You dont have to entertain your baby with toys.
- You dont have to clean the mess around.
- You dont have to wash and dry a heap of soiled clothes.
- You dont have to cuddle and soothe your crying baby.
- You dont have to walk tippy toes while your baby is asleep.
- You dont have to swaddle your baby.
- You dont have to sterilize everything !
- You dont have to keep a track of all the medicines to be given.
- You dont have to buy nursing clothes or a feeding pillow.
- You dont have to baby talk.
- You dont have to safeguard your crawling baby with pillows all around.
- You dont have to assist your baby to walk around. 
- You dont have to get up from the dinner table in between and run to your crying baby.

So many things that had become a part of your routine since the day your baby was born will suddenly come to an end some day when he or she will grow up. Your baby will no longer be dependent on you for every little thing. That will be a time of joy as well as sorrow. Joy for the only reason that your baby has become capable of handling his or her life. Sorrow for the only reason that you will surely miss their tiny hands in yours. Their cute mumblings and toothless face! 
We can’t wait for our babies to grow up and once they really do we will surely miss cuddling them as we used to.
So enjoy this motherhood phase while it lasts. Though tiring , always remember your child will be a baby for only once. Hug, cuddle, kiss your tiny version as much as you can and savour each memory till your last breathe !

Regards,
Shraddha Nikam Bhimani",2.5802260745241696,4.363480249307479,3.6934411580734503,89.32374854794033,76.14681440443212,6.2093110535251546,21.340452149048343,6.968188349444268,0.4802704137253149,1394,35,287,14,31,451,165,361,0.086,0.8240000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.6445,0,0,0,0,0,0,51,4,38,4,0,8,15,0,0,15,0,53,17,6,4,4,34,61,23,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,4,1,8,19,3,2,3,4,1,7,19,5,1,1,3,2,49,10,54,46,8,31,0,4,0,5,53,11,0,5,13,206,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038892354202341696,0.0,0.0,0.0317855627943506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482851308933872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324378426885723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040263334077503765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268584579618673,0.09043246218205676,0.048188039857793616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9312641093482068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139875670156735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039381407512230064,0.0,0.042007902621001035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0244203047814574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041545652954214266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620049860802902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03301463366527975,0.0,0.046846879174947835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047388156945551714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03436009954346786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955552957396488,0.031672990960505056,0.1066461785278948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506160754803132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02994355681411353,0.09611530724540468,0.0,0.0,0.052948574613022624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866473549434436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810590037341445,0.0,0.0,0.03756873981087886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210544323833981,0.0,0.045922910731798036,0.0,0.02725512155907117,0.053722038793707134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040369318303009084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04202587811174478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grizzythekid,2018/04/15,"Our 15 month old girl is crying louder than ever before, I think it's her teething? Our sweet daughter is crying and screaming louder and harder than we have experienced before. It's with some frequency, and she is almost inconsolable. Her gums around her molars are defo pretty puffy. She is drooling a lot, and eating/drinking a lot less than usual. It breaks my heart that her mum and I can't make her feel better. We give her the Tylenol bum pills and have the dental paste for her wee gums, but it doesn't seem to help much. Any advice?",3.063714285714287,5.404751038095242,3.451666666666668,89.01750000000001,76.71428571428572,5.342857142857143,19.07142857142857,6.2581,0.022600000000000176,429,9,81,3,10,133,72,105,0.08800000000000001,0.8540000000000001,0.058,-0.4761,0,0,1,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,9,5,3,1,1,20,14,7,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,5,10,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,16,2,7,14,5,7,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,5,5,54,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968764614498565,0.0,0.0,0.1943788650705387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200535388630108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280415590006634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303563803000833,0.0,0.0,0.1716795898046307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264540320125771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015951617326649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755887924162345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815074633750208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862134976073496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002807637855666,0.1301116829953331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300605064396708,0.0,0.0,0.1295737580646851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494132485747786,0.0,0.14269739784535648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20369180635788928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853054303053558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748548473221228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671567141932348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243815226523739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137910537091507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Errar,2018/04/15,Bug Spray My wife and i live in an area west nile is still prevelant. Therefore we have to pur bugspray on our 2 yeat old quite often.  Because of how often we must use it we want to make sure what we use isnt harmful in frequent use but will keep awau mosquitos. Any recommendations?,1.8294736842105264,4.1915283508771966,3.0202631578947354,90.32934210526315,81.28070175438596,5.905263157894738,23.535087719298247,7.1686216300943375,0.7984877192982456,224,8,48,3,6,72,48,57,0.0,0.949,0.051,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,6,2,18,11,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,6,9,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,3,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839329153602476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487962358353092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404114445874117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388352118557807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805447913540588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283819001846482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876844575224901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21600243641671726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549203740857146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7008131132947556,0.0,0.0,0.15953371819512516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bad-decisions-101,2018/04/15,My 7 year old step daughter lost her father last night. So her biological father died unexpectedly and we are not sure where to go from here. She was close to him and we shared 50/50 custody. Me and her mother sat down and told her and she was crushed as any one would expect. She has asked a few questions and we answered what we could. Has any one dealt with something like this? What helped? ,2.406006493506492,4.87368198701299,2.568944805194807,93.78770292207794,79.77922077922078,4.888961038961039,20.01461038961039,5.985473137389443,-0.21842727272727247,311,8,66,2,8,94,57,77,0.13,0.813,0.058,-0.7288,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,1,19,12,8,1,3,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,12,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,5,0,14,3,6,5,1,9,0,1,0,0,21,3,0,1,5,44,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433370345866675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359982314686325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155357455554013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261993873285617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434680216944728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920586207122795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057730847442801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233299074633009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755691410314497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368987510752722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648943346068971,0.0,0.3421210712305812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827916620809885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434139312794427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23792262826610205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24121816653394226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932682337647698,0.0,0.0,0.16256370914171034
parenting,faco_fuesday,2018/04/15,"Did a brain death exam on a two month old today. Her caregiver rolled over on her when they were cosleeping. She's now brain dead from hypoxia. 

Please, I understand that having a newborn is stressful. Sleep becomes elusive and you try to do whatever you can to make things work. 

But you don't get do-overs. These things can't be undone. I've seen this too often. Once is too often for something preventable like this. 

Please understand the risks of co-sleeping. Use a side crib bassinet. This is the absolute least favorite part of my job. This child was perfect and healthy before this happened, and now she's dead. These risks are real. ",2.794714285714285,5.638715900000001,2.601190476190478,91.68000000000004,81.66666666666666,5.428571428571429,24.404761904761905,6.868970318607317,0.9904761904761904,508,19,95,6,14,151,86,120,0.17,0.727,0.102,-0.8744,1,0,1,0,0,0,18,0,3,1,2,7,5,0,3,6,0,13,3,3,2,1,13,20,5,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,4,1,10,2,9,15,2,10,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,7,62,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18558789749640325,0.14299037189485567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751782876220595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779439949256336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485979534548672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675459739806114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209626282094863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121685607322215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341285895137096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633058648113642,0.17895800264022652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819718464299672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368916745332232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912672565120664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363243796988969,0.0,0.0,0.12936604279840744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19249020618697424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232777249557374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592830609668237,0.0,0.0,0.11408869496066047,0.0,0.16415147632799856,0.3498728663830277,0.0,0.14513332614210364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233572761299573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SpicedNice,2018/04/15,"Teenage daughter had a miscarriage Hey guys. I decided to sign up for reddit for some advice on a new issue in my family. I turned here for the anonymity, for my childs sake. 

My 17 y/o daughter recently had a miscarriage. About a week ago, she cried out to me from the bathroom that her period had been extremely heavy, to the point that there was something off, she also hadn't been due for it. 

We decided to go to the ER, they took her blood as well as urine. Once back in the room the doctor informed us that she was indeed pregnant, and that they would perform an ultrasound on her.

After the ultrasound the doctor informed us that no child was visible and that my daughter had a miscarriage. It was all within maybe 20 minutes. Such an intense flurry of different emotions at once, we were due back on the 5 day mark for them to draw blood and make sure her HCG levels had gone down and they did. 

Ever since then she's been super depressed and guilty and I feel her pain. All she wants to do is sit in her room, she graduated from HS a semester early and is ready to go to college this fall, she hasn't left the house and she hasn't had a phone for a few months since she broke it. Im just worried about her she struggled with her mental health in the past, and has been suicidal, she hasn't even asked to see her boyfriend. She was about 7 weeks and has told me she had no idea. My father told her it was a blessing in disguise and she let him have it, she didn't want a child, but she didn't want to lose one either. I have tried to make her feel better, I myself had a miscarriage as a teen and knowing that its only been a week I am aware it will take time Im just so worried about her. I don't know the usual age of the children we talk about on this sub but maybe some other mom has been through this and has advice to offer?

And before anybody judges me, my daughter hadn't ever made me aware that she was sexually active although it is something that I commonly ask, she is on the pill and I've purchased condoms for her.
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parenting,NotAFungiSpore,2018/04/15,Alternatives to Spanking Would you consider locking a child in a room with nothing to do for a few hours (like 1-4 depending on the offence) a better punishment and more humane than hitting them?,17.11083333333334,9.020010638888888,15.494444444444444,48.09500000000003,53.72222222222222,18.844444444444445,61.0,14.554592549557764,8.265866666666666,157,9,25,4,1,52,32,36,0.091,0.826,0.083,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,7,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,2,19,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785170667531433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5328278356402779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643309763865141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5191545730640847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843482516963808,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RaveNNevarAve,2018/04/15,"I need advice to have a good conversation with my 8 year old boy about his behavior. for a few months my son says no to almost everything what I ask him to do, whether he is going to bathe, to do his homework and other small things. 
but today he did something that goes beyond what I consider a relatively normal behavior.... let me explain.
His best friend in school is a bit revelrous and advanced for his age, but I have never denied him going to his house or inviting him because I think that I should not deny or choose her friends, and also his is like all kids a good kid.
His friend's mother is accustomed to leaving him alone at home for a few hours during the day since they are alone in this city and she must work. On one occasion He  invite my son and they were  left home alone, when I went to pick him up and I found out I told the mother that I didn’t  liked to leave my son alone. After that occasion it happened again and she told me that it was only for a small moment, but that she could return if they needed because she was close.
From that day I invented excuses so that he would not go to his friend's house because I did not feel confident leaving him and instead invited his friend with us.
This friend had dyed his hair and my son was asking me for some days to dye his hair too, but I said No. maybe is not a big deal, but I thought is not appropriate. 
The friend’s mother called me to invite my son again and told me this time she would be there. I said yes. 
this morning I saw a message the mother sent me in the night asking me if she can dye my sons hair, I haven’t answered since i didn’t saw the message that night, when went to pick up my son he had his  bangs bleached. 
He knew i didn’t allowed it and he didn’t said anything. I tried to talk to him and he seems to understand that he made a poor decision  considering he didn’t have permission to do it. 
I’m not sure what to say to the mother, and will appreciate some words or books regarding this type of defiant behavior. I am being to dramatic? is this a normal behavior? should i limit my kid from seeing this kid? he is not bad or bully or anything but i don’t know... 
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parenting,x_Omni,2018/04/15,"Homeschooling Parents, how do you deal with other non-homeschooling family members? My wife and I made the decision to homeschool our kids several years ago. There are several reasons, among them that our neighborhood public school is horrible, we feel we can give them a better education at home, and we feel it just fits better into our particular lifestyle.

We have explained these reasons to family members who we thought were curious, but as we go along, it seems to have turned from curiosity to something else. Even after explaining, my MIL and her mom keep asking, ""Why don't you put that kid in school?"" or ""When is he going to go to school?"" Not out of curiousity or even a question anymore, since we've already answered, but more like a demand or a judgement on our decision to homeschool. 

When we answer that he is in school, they say, ""I mean *real* school"". When asked, they cannot produce any reason why he should go to pubclic school, except for that's what kids are supposed to do. He reads at a 5th grade level (he's in 2nd), his math is fine, and he loves to learn about science. To me, it seems to be more about conformity than anything else. I'm happy to explain, but they're upsetting my wife, because it seems like they don't think we're capable of homeschooling for whatever reason, and they just have this weird idea that people should do things because that's what you're supposed to do. 

They believe what they believe, that's fine, but I'm not okay with constantly having those beliefs being imposed on my family. We are otherwise on good terms, so I feel like this is a delicate situation, and maybe I should just support my wife in the background and let it go. Thoughts?",8.412292319749216,7.524847931034483,7.869637539184956,74.15204251567403,61.85266457680251,11.235188087774295,37.17887931034483,10.411451182825502,3.7604308777429463,1346,55,245,26,16,424,166,319,0.051,0.8270000000000001,0.122,0.9768,1,0,1,0,0,0,50,12,2,8,3,13,14,0,1,8,1,27,1,0,7,0,66,55,20,0,3,13,5,3,3,0,3,0,1,1,3,22,20,0,1,25,1,0,6,5,2,0,0,4,4,34,12,40,45,3,28,1,0,0,1,50,14,0,7,11,160,56,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423695661112227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241726314474752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695105743875136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305484956096172,0.0,0.0,0.06891691833189079,0.0,0.15658490033845884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210319229480116,0.0,0.0,0.1887091288208929,0.0,0.148135418635311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050111388535458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633982174730638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992029898309327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062864562096522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368485932830679,0.0,0.12703550184346302,0.059829110567620726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033807179700685,0.237977693084649,0.07024328854412512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915059197073366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400540213011168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454054383592164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443847645656347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563732081537681,0.0,0.1227441482212491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558523665882652,0.07924375026988667,0.0,0.0,0.0841354511942113,0.09122539569599676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808386282431933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929915011294582,0.0,0.0,0.05805985509395524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418919962189683,0.0938161780873012,0.0,0.0837699950120273,0.09532279820658736,0.0,0.3444248207333409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665992396148901,0.0,0.5085406249971871,0.0,0.2287212766081713,0.0,0.1892212943954341,0.0,0.06927665828159903,0.09413550981286176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447278753998015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503547966980984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05563800597160491,0.05366190864497815,0.0,0.1329720535544598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109304834088976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511378817610163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393053591163935
parenting,lildookiesquirt,2018/04/15,"Fiancé won’t even hold baby Sorry this is kind of a rant/question.

My fiancé only holds our 2 month old when we are around family. He rarely holds her when it’s just us. I just asked him to hold the baby while I go take a bath and he made it a big deal and had an attitude. So I once again will not be able to wash my body. If I want to shower I have to do it right when I put her to sleep and rush the whole time and I’m so paranoid that I think I hear her every 10 seconds. He has gone days without holding her or changing her diaper. He has never given her a bath. He has never watched her for over 30 mins. I love my baby but dang I didn’t make her by myself. Do you have any suggestions on how to make him help out more? ",-0.4710348583877994,1.310882709876548,1.893137254901962,98.46264705882356,86.09876543209877,4.799419026870008,15.084967320261438,5.900188976854957,-0.8890897603485843,557,9,139,4,17,189,107,162,0.02,0.93,0.05,0.6533,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,3,1,0,0,11,2,0,0,7,0,14,4,2,4,2,27,27,14,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,0,5,7,0,5,1,2,0,4,6,0,0,1,5,2,28,2,14,19,2,22,0,0,1,1,25,6,1,2,12,92,33,0,0.18040554384748492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268195618598952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605991822206605,0.1686548305391002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038988969593968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084514446918294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634665120335815,0.18599019412590947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191561602660576,0.0,0.1519994515188107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007029105717256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252862801591513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333015939167048,0.0,0.12092203325531416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878646123641098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628230468250479,0.17070408761205402,0.2408442027804049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399798392977822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782797541283564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930527078899725,0.19212601639755986,0.0,0.1372065454811643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135739991228372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406534872660738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18053583057370565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20194923631784206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564251722635767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559658804087905,0.0,0.0,0.10519592340042136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21700565649978404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064078639077142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141634705232464,0.0,0.17390450648213038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheAlwaysLateWizard,2018/04/15,"My 2 year old son used to go to sleep no problem but the last couple weeks has been screaming bloody murder. Why? Since my son was 8 months old he's been going to sleep with no problems. Usual ritual consists of bed time stories, rocking, then being put into his bed where he usually falls asleep on his own. For the past couple weeks he's been asking me to pat him on the back which I guess his daycare had started, and I will for a minute or two, but now he screams everytime I leave the room. I tried the go in, then leave, and decrease the time each time method but nothing is working. I have a sound machine for him which he likes, and I got a night light for him which he likes. But none of that is working anymore. Some background, my wife and I are going through a divorce and I've been the sole care taker for him and my 4 year old daughter. Mom usually comes and goes and they're used to it, its been going on for years, and the worst of our relationship has surpassed so far. I guess I'm just looking for advice on what I should do. Thanks in adavance!",3.8185407066052255,4.643744986175118,4.1902488479262665,90.78727803379421,71.48847926267281,6.708325652841783,26.448233486943174,6.42735559955562,0.8312460215053767,830,26,180,5,15,260,127,217,0.151,0.782,0.067,-0.9545,0,0,1,0,1,0,22,1,0,0,2,5,10,1,0,12,0,17,3,3,2,0,27,34,17,1,3,6,5,0,2,0,2,0,3,3,0,7,13,0,0,0,1,0,8,3,6,0,1,8,5,22,4,24,23,5,41,1,0,1,0,22,10,0,4,25,111,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625889718110676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107840279863627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165667365710664,0.0,0.0,0.08361389753670408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086708001204204,0.0,0.0,0.09366937699999227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406361874000328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089955753241354,0.0,0.08696884317467009,0.0,0.2395774485501005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08863713593568075,0.0,0.2302786780881549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624917040384113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131372131633247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273542878350103,0.08679476308410307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204457413925988,0.0,0.10433840076836626,0.0,0.3423111702046237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038040750996902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20809786787127285,0.0,0.10931314542995106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167454364012027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995036721631726,0.0,0.21763588927019897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769663171418435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011264311449107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902204808660148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382692448780945,0.0,0.10622260734605067,0.0,0.0,0.18783188138758736,0.3592833068890129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444839823118174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981204080993524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832717742560068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100738530013622
parenting,disrespectfulgkid,2018/04/15,"What should I do about my granddaughter? (Xpost r/family) My 21 year old granddaughter got into a shouting match with me today, for the first time since she was 12. She said she was planning on buying some temporary tattoos with some of her extra money. I told her she is too old for those stupid things and she is not 10 years old anymore. She said she is an adult and she can make the choice to put whatever she wants on HER body. I told her if she has those stupid things on her, people will think she's mentally challenged and she won't be able to get a job. She made rude gestures and refused to listen to me.

I have noticed since she has met her fiance, she has gotten much ruder. She used to be much more polite when she was little.

We have also always had issues with her clothing. She would never wear what the other girls were wearing and only wore the same types of clothes every day. She dressed like a boy and I tried everything, including throwing her boy clothes away, but she only bought more. And her mother told me to stop parenting ""her child"".",4.000576923076924,5.555729442307693,4.116538461538465,88.70346153846155,71.88461538461539,6.930769230769231,23.57692307692308,7.413659706084162,0.8822538461538459,836,22,167,9,16,258,126,208,0.069,0.923,0.009000000000000001,-0.8519,2,0,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,0,3,4,5,3,0,8,0,21,3,3,3,1,28,38,11,0,4,3,2,0,1,0,4,0,4,0,5,7,12,0,2,1,0,3,2,3,3,0,1,16,4,41,2,19,16,8,20,0,0,0,0,46,6,0,3,13,119,48,3,0.13248780318515416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595044834064288,0.11024046562667604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139230022496715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447665232424067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716408210146328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544367261193339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162668833558864,0.0,0.11907149463995136,0.0,0.12489770973043568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126940577078665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692194089318233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059625991983216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828284511339856,0.1314737014578666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472684841883376,0.13278758458627668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536316279485785,0.08843663741074244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335165441467635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19478755916620594,0.0,0.1021827614303793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083824204954502,0.41707098778640944,0.0,0.0,0.20152588890274087,0.0,0.0,0.1471120265626867,0.0,0.0,0.09185036095843747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318683557786307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520524804614661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21919055977188184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076573587390977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603801880765166,0.08489283465802339,0.0,0.0,0.07725470347595352,0.0,0.12558294602731493,0.3797933207504636,0.0,0.08995052163491286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144269236982127,0.0,0.0,0.07814473895922043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411553412195783,0.0,0.0,0.17063560293596994
parenting,Onegodoneloveoneway,2018/04/15,"[Proud Parent] This happened a few months ago, but I wanted to share. I've always taught my kids to be good sports when playing games and my eldest (8) showed a great example.

It was the school holidays and I took my three boys (2, 4, 8) bowing. The two and four year old used the ramp to bowl and the bumpers so they didn't get gutter balls. My eight year old bowled himself and said he didn't want the bumpers, so I stopped offering after the 2nd frame. Even though he only scored lowest at 36 and had mostly gutter balls he had a good time and said it was fun. I couldn't be prouder.

My four year old ended up scoring highest. 

tldr: 8 year old is a good sport coming last at bowling against his two little brothers and dad. ",2.358948194662481,4.222060122448983,2.9478911564625854,94.06789638932496,77.02721088435374,5.339403453689169,21.511773940345375,5.873414542411696,0.042380847723705095,566,15,121,3,13,176,96,147,0.069,0.728,0.204,0.9763,3,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,1,1,5,8,0,0,10,0,10,0,0,1,0,16,20,13,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,9,0,1,0,8,0,2,3,0,0,6,10,2,12,8,8,7,2,22,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,1,16,65,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035112722373545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129707786177919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695306940843415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025113609869885,0.0,0.0,0.08967421895716267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093375810814051,0.0,0.0,0.3416300724909159,0.0,0.149685926873086,0.0,0.0,0.12006017862933405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066994831460593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607631949132118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083696110337591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5698673829224816,0.0,0.0,0.10325852876058704,0.0,0.0,0.1507555332822038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25829503538841475,0.0,0.0,0.13740559116685025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350905817310245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333924646159427,0.0,0.07916806187231137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084448062378347,0.0,0.0,0.2652533916114022,0.0,0.0,0.11726092221709282,0.0,0.0,0.16016028152499046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497234307567781
parenting,tracie3600,2018/04/15,"Baby won't fall asleep with Dad First time mom here, with a first time post.  My husband and I have a 3 month old daughter who, thankfully, is wonderful.  She's a happy little girl, rarely cries, etc.  Unfortunately though, we're having trouble with her falling asleep with my husband.  More times than not, when she's tired for a nap, I have to be the one to put her to sleep.  She just doesn't get comfy enough with him.  At night, if she's not 90% asleep already from him feeding her, she screams and works herself up until I take her.  Then she calms right down and passes out for the night.  We try putting her down together, he has tried it without me nearby, but she just screams and screams.  I'm hoping it's just an ""I want Mommy phase"" because I know it bums him out that he can't comfort her, and that bums me out.  I also worry about not being home when there's a nap or bedtime because I don't want her or him to go through the stress. Wondering if anyone else has had this challenge?",3.8699071428571408,4.794912005000004,4.141428571428573,90.815,71.45,6.7142857142857135,26.285714285714285,6.5431188927421005,0.8232714285714287,771,24,167,5,14,240,122,200,0.103,0.7909999999999999,0.106,-0.5322,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,1,0,0,4,10,11,0,1,9,0,13,6,4,0,0,32,24,16,0,5,12,5,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,1,7,14,1,0,3,2,0,6,8,5,0,3,1,3,31,6,24,20,3,29,0,0,0,0,29,9,0,7,13,113,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715886253546102,0.11388949120803893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958011290800613,0.14592133962731332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736301316038527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643655717455449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896973728470735,0.0,0.0,0.1471531101198872,0.1588307432891295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422768208257761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744061340790236,0.0,0.08093791631855332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516037713272166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428541919156874,0.14145056082034804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826774312590683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427375785957313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679511803342453,0.11367456093862514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26729428710368663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494409362758913,0.0,0.09650431610831013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363945228112279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863334922529601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162191715749142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251818472794658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313628401388053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707860741880497,0.0,0.0,0.13111690551442273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992234264838996,0.0,0.24913057972202465,0.1636854763794036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193381326900306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800050778523454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728329994706553,0.3088867095499142,0.10368005936641213,0.1446296847598986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Average-Youngster,2018/04/15,"My Husband Risked The Life Of Our 7 Month Old Is the title too dramatic? I am trying to convince my husband that it really isn't.

Today I left home to attend a Saturday class. Leaving my husband and son home for the day. My son's carseat stays in my car, we have an extra that floats around between my husband's car and extended family members.

While I was gone my husband decided he had to run to the store, about a 10 minute drive from our house. He realized that while he had the carrier, my MIL had the base. Instead of waiting for me to get home, he strapped our son into his carrier and than stretched the seatbelt around the carrier to ""secure"" it into the car.

He knew it wasn't smart. He told me as soon as I got home. He claimed the items he bought were necessary (wipes and vicks for my sons cold) and couldn't wait. He also had to go to the bank. 

I was livid. So livid, I couldn't even fight. I looked at him and just asked him if he would have thought wipes and vicks were still necessary if he had killed our son. If he had been pulled over, arrested, and potentially had our son taken by the state. The whole thing just made me sick. He has his excuses for himself that made it ""okay"" in his eyes. 

I just don't know were to go from here. He has never had this horrible of a lack of judgement before. What would you do? What would you say? I am currently just not talking to him. He won't listen if I'm ""hysterical"" about it, but how can I get this to really hit home?
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parenting,boymomma12,2018/04/15,No 2nd child :( I have a wonderful 5.5 year old son and for the past 2 years I've yearned for a second child.  My husband is in his 40's (I'm in my 30's) and has a grown son from a previous relationship. We've gone back and forth on the issue and even tried for a month or two last year. Today he told me is 100% sure he doesn't want another child and to schedule his vasectomy. I knew this would be the outcome and I'm trying to be okay with it but I don't know how to let go of the child I never had and never will have. Any advice? Thanks. ,0.26305785123966885,1.7244681983471075,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,81.89256198347105,6.052892561983472,18.438016528925623,6.980632752743323,-0.13613057851239674,416,9,106,5,11,143,81,121,0.042,0.8740000000000001,0.084,0.6847,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,9,1,13,0,0,1,3,20,23,10,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,8,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,1,0,2,4,0,9,3,12,14,0,18,0,1,0,0,13,3,0,2,12,62,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944417464069692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353137753900105,0.2086487306647088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300396194795873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142494958373302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308538087996235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076842707169663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093546503862657,0.16219591926002122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034713614628932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882458561834994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069325377289023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20879688984461134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994970004387274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136309254198601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187537060312517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319479762171315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861054340314504,0.1901346928428996,0.0,0.2701898195837381,0.0,0.1943753401191917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736403823485475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21578620248099492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135025968859447,0.0,0.0,0.38441135693706935
parenting,TyrantTortuga,2018/04/15,"19 month old terror New to this sub, and I’m so glad I found it. Today my wife, my daughter, friends (with 2 daughters), and I traveled to a nearby town for a day out. We’ve done this plenty of times before, but this particular time my daughter decided to throw a tantrum nearly all day. Throwing her body, throwing things off the table, and screaming without remorse. I felt like the parent who couldn’t control his child. How do you cope or deal with these situations?",2.8810000000000002,5.347857099999999,3.518888888888892,87.64500000000002,78.0,5.333333333333334,26.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,1.0966666666666671,369,15,69,3,9,116,72,90,0.131,0.7959999999999999,0.073,-0.74,1,0,0,0,0,0,15,0,1,0,1,2,6,1,1,5,0,3,1,1,2,1,16,6,7,0,1,3,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,6,0,1,3,1,0,4,2,3,0,0,3,2,9,3,11,2,1,16,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,9,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965347110371186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565507100303262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25904755566137355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979074046216918,0.2381153881270244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363579945641288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22176319269676492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532418549934393,0.17844344677171106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283812383260865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435453543177752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22306801215084834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423595407287879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564599617631985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596150073279969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344327934005406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26935579316525515,0.0,0.21892837920053476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22264259281324414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Temporary501,2018/04/15,"Vivid memories of my children’s voices make me feel a longing for them. Does anyone experience this? My two teenage boys are ages 15 and 16 now. I have vivid memories of their voices from when they were toddlers. When those memories come to mind, I feel a longing for them. Some characteristics from when they were that age are still part of their personalities now but the toddler versions don’t exist anymore and I can never see them again. It’s sad. I don’t go around thinking about it all the time but when I do the emotions are strong. I tried googling to see if anyone else feels similar but I can’t seem to find anything. If anyone else feels similar abouttheir kids, I would love it if you shared your experience. I don’t know if it’s something many people feel or not. If not, maybe my anxiety when they were young combined with my introversion and love for them all contributed to my strong feelings of loss that carry with me. I don’t know. By the way, I’m a male in my 40s. Adding that fact for perspective. ",3.2928029034059207,5.485568467336683,3.8422696817420414,87.20657593523171,75.3819095477387,7.035287548855388,25.62841987716359,7.984000788550335,1.4492175321049694,811,29,163,13,18,255,110,199,0.046,0.828,0.126,0.9647,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,2,9,3,11,7,0,0,7,0,15,2,0,1,4,37,33,17,0,6,11,0,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,5,9,7,0,0,11,0,0,2,8,2,0,1,3,12,29,5,20,29,5,21,0,2,4,2,19,2,0,8,16,109,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468247387941518,0.0,0.13570883205221854,0.2870458102675171,0.2804181674798116,0.11260792771160527,0.12181690085422713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787582309507146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974989033265684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22862506471046495,0.1539269471309042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26771219039521904,0.0,0.0,0.4151434786884995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506957774295047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776951003756674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504077275894147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421987625660694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24700747136579615,0.0,0.09134197934801694,0.13873461135043808,0.13747449879338075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816971919808105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553969437968808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818473670360502,0.0,0.09486785137258492,0.11948369338759288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808804408607854,0.12457429228221265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053463674000088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928086010304934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768175472472084,0.0,0.0,0.07979269379797281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290559806519202,0.0,0.13367311359636075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861748038760244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720744055620564,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anp5585,2018/04/16,"Pregnant on IUD?!!? I’ve had the ParaGard IUD for about two years. Well, it must have shifted or something because I just got a positive pregnancy test. To say I am freaking out is an understatement. My husband and I have three boys, our family was complete. I haven’t even told him yet. I think I’m pretty early along. Based on a quick internet search, it seems there is a good chance of miscarriage due to the IUD. Has anyone else gotten pregnant while using this IUD? ",1.9719090909090904,4.690361988888888,2.940909090909092,88.55045454545456,84.66666666666666,5.9393939393939394,23.73737373737373,7.348242739294969,1.2572222222222225,369,14,70,6,11,117,71,90,0.031,0.805,0.16399999999999998,0.9027,0,0,1,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,1,1,9,17,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,1,8,2,9,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,6,47,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888315537821287,0.27670739153761226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462547880639616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831517560979063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255996673279205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783714431030757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545876199526152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265127024848418,0.21599087759188715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747471226782506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476178096542134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458515992729811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790463608830206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304292267058585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25805297741233296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26380843234504664,0.0,0.0,0.2332442942765069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24281550181127926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390916184294924
parenting,ianoble,2018/04/16,"My wife sucks at mom'ing... 3 [m] & 6 [f] year olds

Maybe my title was too harsh, but more often than not I'll get text messages from her around 2 or 3pm saying how she has had it. She's at her limit and doesn't want anything to do with them. Every little thing sets her off. Then I'll spend a day with them and, all-in-all, it goes really smoothly. 

Talking to her (or more like listening) doesn't seem to solve anything. She'll just vent about how crazy they are, how they don't listen to her, how the older one just wants to fight with the younger one, etc. I don't even know what to say because it will sound like I'm telling her how to do her job.

So, what I'm supposed to do to help her not be so overwhelmed with these kids. Sure, it'd be great if we could afford a nanny but that's just not going to happen.",2.0622685788787467,2.8547436666666712,3.120000000000001,96.94419817470666,75.61016949152544,5.898131247283789,20.39504563233377,5.369823440869387,-0.3641009126466757,627,12,155,2,13,201,111,177,0.075,0.805,0.12,0.9008,2,0,0,0,1,0,30,1,0,4,1,15,7,2,1,4,0,17,0,0,5,1,32,29,15,0,4,11,1,1,2,0,2,0,5,0,1,9,8,0,1,2,0,1,1,7,3,0,2,2,6,19,4,21,21,3,12,0,1,0,0,27,5,1,5,7,97,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20327081337386949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087671880234697,0.16700894286422938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143627585800542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978797117043444,0.0,0.0,0.12099022519659106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20923006602688346,0.123911866091899,0.0,0.15806598366871094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980162909508007,0.0,0.10662070342756054,0.0,0.0,0.20683606439215185,0.0,0.0,0.16589919544651066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257482177911438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616981527775556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031032451456734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330944181270029,0.18803030430788334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884752489455209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197216536068664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968607356272694,0.0,0.2542531000369988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018508380872164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983833351537892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078928060243714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681625276110638,0.0,0.0,0.1507904411886816,0.16397574427399686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463696191662073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22130953119363966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081198873288893
parenting,potaatoes,2018/04/16,"Sleep Question for 2.5 yr old & 10 Yr old I am at a loss of what do to do for my kids when it comes to sleep. We have a routine to have settle down time between 7-8pm and then bed at 8pm. Is there more I should be doing for a routine?

My 2.5 yr old daughter fights us to sleep and will wake up throughout the night and come into our bedroom. She will either come into our bed or lay in the toddler bed in our room. I don't know how to get her to stay in her room all night. 

My 10 yr old is a bit more of a challenge. He was recently diagnosed with a Mood Disorder, bipolar, so he has a hard time going to sleep and staying asleep all night. He will usually get up in the middle of the night and get into the kitchen to get food or go to the bathroom. I am not sure how to keep him asleep through the night. If he doesn't get a full 8 or more hours of sleep he becomes extremely emotional the next day.

Any advice any of you have a greatly appreciated. I would prefer to stay away from medication.",2.6488527131782966,3.247734474418607,4.16,90.7666666666667,74.02325581395348,7.22170542635659,25.496124031007753,7.3011,0.9060449612403101,772,24,183,8,15,258,115,215,0.055,0.911,0.034,-0.5042,0,0,0,0,1,0,20,5,1,0,2,5,6,1,0,17,0,20,13,8,2,3,30,32,14,0,4,6,1,1,0,0,5,3,0,7,1,2,13,2,1,3,0,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,1,18,3,36,25,8,43,0,1,0,0,19,17,0,5,18,116,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060570040219518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046295665747323,0.0,0.1261066578533651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711425123576483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240284765850896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012271077845398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23961229791957375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597972505159739,0.0,0.0,0.0941096682947071,0.0,0.0,0.1062660788457315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429842904549164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211836899798676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24221397617486026,0.0,0.1053907438007948,0.0,0.0,0.10222501807975884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305963168559434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131131862992846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241451435497205,0.0,0.0,0.05095693118157295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340645926914913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860963113178182,0.43506098582845615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38917956242945856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386852503914676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915506119125972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639388489599132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964841330827914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738826417152205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813249749387946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153171553188997,0.0,0.1021188704415424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586620166593116,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scurlie,2018/04/16,"My brother is an addict and I'm having trouble explaining to my 7 year old son I'll try to keep this brief.  My brother has been into drugs for a while now, but over the last 6 months it has progressed to IV opioids, we think heroin.  My dad found needles around October and kicked him out of the house (brother had been staying there), but didn't cut him off at that point.  I live about 30 minutes away with my husband and son, to whom my brother has been the ""cool uncle"" until the discovery of the needles and my worries that it was no longer safe to allow my son around him.

We (me/husband/son, brother, 29 year old sister and her boyfriend, our parents, and various uncles/aunts/cousins/etc.) always have Christmas at my parents' house and this year we decided my brother would not be welcome.  Obviously this created some questions with my son and I chose to explain that Uncle was not feeling well for Christmas, but we all hoped he'd be feeling better soon.  My son asked if we could go visit him, and I said no, but that if he wanted to write Uncle a Christmas card I would make sure it got delivered (which it did, through my mom).  He has asked about his uncle since then a few times, and I've always made some kind of excuse about him being busy or having appointments.

Early Thursday morning I got the call that my brother had OD'd, was in the hospital but expected to be okay.  I couldn't hide my feelings from my son and he knew something was up so I told him that Uncle was in the hospital for that same sickness he had at Christmas, and that we all hoped he'd be okay, etc.  Since then he has been asking to see or call his uncle at least once a day and I can't help but feel I handled this so incredibly badly.  Does anyone have any better language I could be using?  I don't want to scare my son and he is relatively sheltered so I don't know how I would even begin to explain the concept of IV drugs and overdoses to him.  

tl;dr my brother OD'd on Thursday and now my son is asking nonstop about his uncle.  Advice please, especially from anyone who has been in a similar situation?",6.6381031468531475,5.8712029326923085,6.8749300699300715,79.45188811188814,65.34615384615384,9.294405594405594,33.81293706293707,8.296473431620573,2.517922115384615,1644,62,323,18,22,532,198,416,0.077,0.818,0.106,0.9068,2,0,4,0,0,0,47,7,0,0,3,16,16,1,1,15,3,45,6,0,5,4,79,76,34,0,13,12,22,4,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,19,28,0,2,13,0,0,3,9,4,1,0,22,7,52,12,45,40,9,41,0,0,1,0,67,17,0,9,20,226,71,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103888953148213,0.0,0.09312416239288088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859124204874547,0.0,0.0,0.06480594947465203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326924025754935,0.0,0.0,0.1696709575266969,0.3563632914363696,0.0,0.08953566544712724,0.0,0.07956990043656798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685667815002536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946199507408944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521754946687486,0.0,0.0,0.061459365613627776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339597549264766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210309915456222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256505811796805,0.06294347059553601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274225236428505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448940518601536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416008428192635,0.0,0.15243713025019015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387628157506522,0.0,0.0,0.189304954815094,0.0,0.21992233515091228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470529540917149,0.0,0.09923826580076954,0.05237332213460474,0.07768063907952763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414993391464885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901733296470432,0.06361219580240213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161193741323623,0.07606600319330972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999985685822984,0.10148932490569748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21163443822790745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460865364441448,0.09008747081849867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675563844568182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065027916613386,0.0,0.09540998406714304,0.0,0.07594021643492953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766308189091538,0.10711901353655856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336510329592108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157505334857662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981729480393302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06106314960174149,0.0,0.0,0.05556906580860032,0.0,0.0,0.09106138131347337,0.0,0.06470112797474181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230692717940287,0.0,0.0,0.11241853107810967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568440178827612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967798069502434,0.0,0.2030910251644103,0.0,0.0,0.18410648068419255
parenting,royal_fish,2018/04/16,"My wife has taken my daughter overseas, and she's not coming back. My wife went to visit her dying father in Kenya and insisted that our 1 year old daughter needed to go and see her Grandpa before he died.  I was supposed to pick them up from the airport tonight, but instead received an email addressed to my entire family that she is keeping my daughter with her family in England (much of her family is there) and not coming back.  She is a conservative Muslim and we went through a rough patch when I left Islam.  Her main tone was that I'm unfit to be a father because I'm not Muslim and not a father figure.  She also accused me of cheating on her, which is completely false.

I have no idea what to do.  I am currently student teaching all week and work part time on the weekends.  I have no extra money anywhere.  Anyone who can help me in any way is greatly appreciated.  I feel like I'm about to throw up, but it never happens.",4.974275362318842,5.661171934782607,6.10195652173913,78.62492753623191,68.78260869565217,7.872463768115942,30.55072463768116,7.793537801064563,2.122320289855073,732,28,134,8,12,245,116,184,0.087,0.85,0.064,-0.5116,1,0,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,1,1,7,3,1,0,7,0,14,0,0,1,2,26,28,11,2,1,6,9,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,11,0,2,3,1,1,8,7,1,0,0,5,3,26,2,20,22,5,28,1,0,1,0,28,8,0,0,12,101,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127997633054527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884434041180167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191567032505677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461481141978013,0.0,0.09756934391621228,0.0,0.1361968331434638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275750098797988,0.16781686086201802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322280727919294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4526628665513997,0.0,0.08092969664876694,0.11434484924465005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909641583543131,0.0,0.0,0.17646355641926076,0.0,0.0,0.14153799590810678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728292374939896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068502322473332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422661357936626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739025455283513,0.0,0.0,0.0781958313763149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117660410655284,0.11868033754637655,0.12344592974267544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795303870333145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332627978095289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754481394987302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333060257998138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704590373851735,0.128388179221591,0.0,0.0,0.296749135428818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652350057137555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307154727847434
parenting,SparklesProbs,2018/04/16,"Birth Mom is Methy So I have found myself in a very unique situation and am in need of some parenting guidance. 

I currently live with my fiancee and his eight year old daughter. We've all lived together for the last two months and are set to be married this August. His daughter adores me and has since the beginning, and I have ZERO issues with becoming overnight step mom. He is amazing and supportive, and has been a single dad for the vast majority of his daughters life. 
And there lies our issue. Birth mom. I'm pretty sure she's an agent of satan. 

A little back story: birth mom got hooked on pills while she was pregnant with daughter and hid it from my fiancee. Birth mom had daughter taken away from her at the hospital because daughter tested positive for drugs. Birth mom swore she would stop. A few weeks after daughter was born, birth mom was kicked out of the house for refusing treatment and being found naked in a hotel room with meth and condoms everywhere. Birth mom then did not show for the divorce and child custody hearing, and has zero custody of daughter, is only legally allowed supervised visitation, and pays nothing in child support. She stole and wrote bad checks from my fiancee, and has four felonies, all for theft of property. Birth mom was not allowed to see daughter up until 3 years ago when she completed rehab for the FOURTH time. She has been clean (allegedly) since then. 

Dad is a working professional with a clean history. Make no mistake, this is not a trailer trash story. We belong to a very nice country club, I'm working on my law degree, we live very comfortably and raise our daughter in the most upstanding way possible. He has NOTHING to do with his ex and her lifestyle, and the same goes for me. He has evolved far beyond her. 

Cut to the scenario now. Dad allows her every other weekend and Tuesday afternoons to spend with daughter. She smokes. She does things to the English language that are downright confusing. She is missing about 8 teeth from excessive meth use and looks like an after picture on a D.A.R.E poster. The house she lives in is dilapidated and smells. She is, for lack of a better word choice, extremely unintelligent and emotionally underdeveloped. Daughter comes back from spending time with her smelling like cigs and acting very odd. I do not like this scenario at all, but I understand that she IS her mother, even if she looks like she belongs in an episode of cops. 

His daughter has alluded to me several times that she wishes I was ""her first mom"", which I assume to her means birth mom. And has asked if she can call me mom. And introduces me to everyone as her mom. And truth be told, I feel like her mom. Her dad and I have even spoken at great lengths about me adopting her. 

Now for the issue I need help with. Birth mom has absolutely lost her goddamn mind and behaving in a way that is detrimental to her daughters well being. She has began trying to play the victim and acting like I am ""being mean"" to her because I have my shit together. My fiancee and I have an incredibly loving and expressive relationship that is obvious to anyone who sees us. It really that once in a lifetime love, which I know she hates. And. I'm not trying to toot my own horn, but I'm pretty dang attractive (fit and slim, blonde hair, well proportioned face), as well as educated and successful in my career field. I'm not anything really really earth shattering, but compared to his previous endeavors, I'm Linda Evangelista and Mark Cuban rolled in one. And ten years younger than his ex (he is 12 years older than me). So naturally, she hates my fucking guts. Despite not really owing her anything, especially not kindness and understanding, I have tried FOR MONTHS to be a coparent with her. I tried to include her on things with daughter. I tried to be kind to this woman even though deep down I think she's a garbage human. But as the wedding has been getting closer, she has started to lash out. She told daughter that I didn't believe in god and am going to hell because I am not Christian (universalist Unitarian). She told daughter she is NOT allowed to call me mom because THATS HER. She told daughter that my fiancee left her because he didn't love her anymore (not because she was a cheating meth head). She cries when she talks to her on the phone and tells daughter to ""dream about her"" and accuses my fiancee of rubbing our relationship in her face to make her feel bad. And claims that I'm ""trying to take her daughter away"". Her mother died recently as well and we think perhaps she has relapsed, because this (more) erratic behavior started not long after her mother died. And since we've gotten engaged (February) she's gotten even worse. I really honestly never had to deal with anyone like this in my entire life. She is so vastly unaware of her own issues. I don't even know if I have a specific question to posture, perhaps just someone who has gone though something similar? 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parenting,Wrong_Gecko,2018/04/16,"Is there a sub or any interest for one for parents to trade items? Like the title says, I was wondering if there is a community (I didn’t see one) or any interest in one where people would trade baby/child related items? I know other communities do this, and I have to say it seems like a really good idea to me. I have a small circle of parents I trade stuff with that I know personally but obviously one could reach a larger audience this way. I would prefer to give things to someone who needs them, then say sell them. Baby gear gets expensive fast, but I was lucky to have been given a lot of things either used or new and I’d like to pass it on that way! Thanks!",2.8299064171122987,4.3743588088235335,4.415641711229945,85.42561497326204,74.88235294117645,8.180748663101605,21.922459893048128,8.841846274778883,1.3041117647058815,522,13,112,11,11,175,84,136,0.0,0.83,0.17,0.9612,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,2,0,3,8,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,1,24,24,9,0,6,7,2,0,3,0,2,0,3,0,1,11,3,0,0,6,0,5,1,1,0,0,4,5,4,12,8,14,16,4,10,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,8,6,77,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064276788213467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118190687973356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929742922535339,0.1455987160543443,0.0,0.1273036854718299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133821474294436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682578386785013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22245231911159494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903572129662308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254102192517898,0.0,0.1465875625989142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113931880085269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370616910653726,0.0,0.0,0.1052233413983445,0.13252617487330398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972324915054074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620984507553824,0.0,0.0,0.12094694032671108,0.13817244827004085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286005018999689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737488151908024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973624169527235,0.0,0.0,0.20166832616441827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310869454602106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409476773278219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459612028204992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21563662623565544,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NonUniversal,2018/04/16,"He told me “You’re doomed.” [I’m not a parent yet] My youngest brother (4.5) says some weird things sometimes. Some sentences aren’t even in English, but in his own language. We’ve generally accepted him as a little weirdo. Today, I unzipped his jacket and tried sending him out my room with the usual “Bye, (name)!” But instead of him saying bye and leaving, he looked at me with a straight face and said in his little voice, “You’re doomed.”

I cried laughing, but I desperately want to know who he learned it off of.",3.787803030303032,5.565278424242425,4.016047979797978,88.31073863636368,72.83838383838383,6.162121212121212,28.536616161616163,6.6274283507984215,1.2672313131313135,400,16,79,3,8,124,72,99,0.185,0.7070000000000001,0.109,-0.8821,2,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,18,7,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,5,13,2,12,5,3,14,2,2,1,0,20,10,0,2,5,46,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610213707880825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694995307817886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305932191822535,0.0,0.0,0.2516119780994027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4763280284474281,0.0,0.0,0.1995462735740086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638559236988794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22603706035010965,0.3779399982320129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350185212818939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578683780785969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524198054428965,0.2270621462267669,0.0,0.16133268317843855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617118362700592,0.0,0.14015816899583575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sillywarp,2018/04/16,"Did your mom belly ever go away? Wasn't sure where this question would be a good fit. I know it's not a parenting question but it seemed more long term than beyondthebump.

I've recently lost some weight and I'm also mom to a 1.5 yr old. I'm really unhappy with how my stomach is regarding the loose skin. I'm tempted to get a tummy tuck but I'm also willing to wait it out if there is any hope of it getting better. I don't have people to ask in person regarding this so I'm hoping some moms of Reddit can give me some personal stories. Did you have loose skin? How long ago did you give birth? Did it get better? If so, did you do anything specific? I lotion up after showers and try to drink plenty of water. Thanks so much!",0.7030882352941177,2.939533565789475,2.957585139318887,89.7833900928793,85.05263157894737,5.944891640866874,20.125386996904027,7.285733465282438,0.6562147058823542,570,17,119,9,17,194,98,152,0.08900000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.15,0.9,2,0,1,0,0,0,15,0,4,0,3,10,8,0,0,5,0,16,6,3,2,2,24,35,13,0,5,5,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,7,4,3,1,4,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,7,3,9,7,15,25,6,16,0,1,0,0,15,6,0,10,9,74,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735907928776998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21175048268985527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003229618488158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894878308588128,0.0,0.12377029294419875,0.0,0.12438829484010905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341830421742237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129695481118376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975773482021372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075108243859715,0.25400831521800044,0.07524242432981844,0.11104560378016096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629937513351999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276014762276217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23432862128551635,0.0,0.0,0.1445234275680455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4651739117357129,0.0,0.0,0.09732464638283328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892497918109178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700760177048772,0.0,0.0,0.09178516265289716,0.2312022476165897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966226199249545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481483223560389,0.0,0.130722865040264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205263059514878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477955116567545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189038574578966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988667189570808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121993153581785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940487279245108,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bran_Solo,2018/04/16,"Cat went crazy at me and baby Deleted: Getting hate mail on PM.

There are some heartless fucking people in this sub, holy shit. Who knew that a *parenting* sub would have such vicious posters.",3.265285714285717,6.1851497428571465,2.6567857142857183,91.5994642857143,80.14285714285714,4.642857142857143,28.75,5.985473137389443,1.2122857142857146,151,7,27,1,4,44,34,35,0.34700000000000003,0.653,0.0,-0.9371,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,5,1,4,0,0,0,1,3,3,2,1,0,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702795293491808,0.2092581322894408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954361795546595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4447363592217767,0.0,0.0,0.2776740697570027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4111338461218539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712913102076982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845219454153647,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MisterSlippers,2018/04/16,"Dealing with a tantrum from someone else's child in your home So my wife had a bunch of her family over my house for a BBQ. My sister-in-law has three pretty wild boys (ages 10, 8, 5) but for the most part their chaos is pretty self contained. We're about 5 hours into the BBQ and it starts to rain. Their three boys and mine (ages 9 and 5) are all playing pretty nicely together on the xbox with just 3 controllers. To keep the peace, I let them know that the winner of each round on their game gets to keep playing and the other two need to trade with the others. They all equally suck at the game so turnover is pretty fair. The middle one decided at some point he didn't want to give up his controller after a random round. His dad tried handling it, and the kid throws the controller at the floor. I picked up the controller and calmly said he was done with the xbox and no one made a big deal out of it. 

Five or so minutes goes by, the middle one comes back out starts hitting his older brother, his parents send him to the other room. Next he broke one of his younger brothers toys in half, and his mom put him in the other room to cool down again. He came back after a few minutes and took the controller out of my son's hands and threw it down. His mom tells her husband he's going to only get worse if we don't give him a turn. The kid is kicking the back of the couch ignoring his parents when I had enough. I didn't yell at the kid, but I turned around and told him sternly:

Stand up *the kid immediately jumps to his feet*
Do not kick my couch, do you understand? *he said yes*
This isn't your parents house, this is my house, and I make the rules. You have a terrible attitude, so you're not getting another turn. Do you understand? *he said yes*

The couple with the boys ended up leaving shortly after. I asked the other adults if I was being an asshole. My wife's only critique was my command voice (I'm retired Army) probably gave the kid an anxiety attack; the other adults said it's my house. I'm not trying to change anyone's parenting style; but I think it's flat out disrespectful for a kid to act that way, and just as disrespectful for their parent to passively hope their child stops. This kid gets pretty destructive when he's having a tantrum, and I know that they're not looking to repair a hole kicked into our couch or replace our TV when he throws a controller at it. I could have talked with his parents (who were right there in the room seeing everything happen), but I'm fairly positive that would have been far more embarrassing for them to not be able to control the situation than for me to put an end to the situation right then and there. I would have no issue with another adult doing the same if the roles were reversed - e.g. not being verbally abusive, swearing, physical contact.

So I ask all of you to get an honest answer, did I handle that like an asshole?",4.4858091707489285,5.267004361445782,4.903993115318418,86.43733836444682,69.92943201376937,7.680144754843551,26.6013945893464,7.702957570686157,1.3155758947879428,2278,68,471,25,39,723,271,581,0.095,0.7959999999999999,0.109,0.9104,6,0,0,0,0,0,66,3,6,8,7,18,17,5,1,51,3,36,2,2,10,3,85,81,34,0,9,17,15,3,1,0,2,0,6,7,16,22,33,0,12,7,8,1,12,12,9,0,9,22,12,58,8,71,51,13,72,0,1,4,0,93,37,1,9,22,309,80,1,0.058634010912671175,0.0694717150270978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296574567105226,0.044854857859848114,0.0,0.0,0.040998263738798384,0.0,0.0,0.052196700844476585,0.10962977038737128,0.06670465209381342,0.0,0.135257805391037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706168820535917,0.0,0.0,0.06202700895320841,0.050508008591127966,0.0,0.0,0.4603412029279426,0.04681448662087683,0.0648774178381593,0.0,0.0,0.12089818128036912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000295045743718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04898119236558768,0.0,0.10386466034431373,0.06058460713187772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052696468265459914,0.0,0.0552749271951292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531692533615789,0.1124941721127987,0.033323059622982765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518498622082804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05881469367044065,0.05823680280289499,0.057742689826909374,0.27062310496089903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119867379854613,0.0,0.1042332059384969,0.0,0.0,0.0644474379714921,0.0,0.0,0.062084951473687484,0.0,0.059957248733986175,0.0,0.02864561601364057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04923780181364467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055480918836643,0.039138657584764466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734288985584298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043476376142891085,0.0,0.0,0.062357935793976665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589276930182219,0.08918761489761899,0.0,0.0,0.3906367815069168,0.06349491997577114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055428092499670255,0.0,0.0,0.2982593420280633,0.06321738079072788,0.0,0.0,0.11788675157943335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014624989725696,0.22309748572538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04672371532641503,0.0,0.061168060984539536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181416986919348,0.0,0.0,0.049680407171749055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300290942317322,0.0,0.0,0.0490206585802053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712779695474645,0.05124870993631926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037570306655246105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056027310132393184,0.06514454354902853,0.07961728914428765,0.1913309000787096,0.057276908806672036,0.12208014639909495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03458385879113285,0.04654094867391918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975306636370445,0.08330383812080765,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QweenElizabeth,2018/04/16,"Friend doesn’t celebrate any holidays with her toddler... She believes that her 4yr old son is too young to care about Christmas, Easter, Halloween etc so she and her husband don’t celebrate the holidays at all. They say it’s a waste of money so they’re going to wait till he’s older. 
I understand that my child (5yrs) might not have understood what those events were all about when we started celebrating them as a family when he was born but we still felt it was important to introduce him to holidays at a young age. We did it because they were important to us personally and we hoped they would be fun and memorable and maybe, one day, they would mean something to him too. 
How do you feel about this? Celebrate or don’t celebrate?",4.553984526112188,6.327796042553196,5.058736299161829,81.62454545454548,70.84397163120568,9.66627981947131,29.130238555770468,10.018931242160765,2.958980141843972,586,23,113,16,11,187,94,141,0.012,0.726,0.263,0.9899,1,0,1,0,0,0,15,5,1,5,0,11,4,0,0,4,0,15,0,0,1,2,26,25,13,0,3,3,2,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,2,8,9,0,1,6,3,1,1,4,0,0,1,7,3,20,4,15,14,3,16,0,0,0,0,26,2,0,3,13,81,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723551822663916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198364618854425,0.0,0.0,0.2439347715880704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207483143863358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963226554596453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414680036523201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041081526349008,0.0,0.10947492337152256,0.0,0.20788538002456136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727655880998182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304870372382888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21504517217182967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175153072642124,0.2358449344891529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968491348700645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271928204779909,0.0,0.14671406852316193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890498420316232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721789550394949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668144037841606,0.0,0.0,0.1532482389879906,0.0,0.17290668503645926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225396526231094,0.2604371603304008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30760768704790203,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MLWLove,2018/04/16,"10 yr old boy can’t/won’t sleep The last two yrs (approx) my son won’t/can’t sleep through the night. I honestly am not sure which it is.

He goes to sleep amazingly with or without me. Sometimes I’ll lay with him for 5 min and sometimes not.

He wakes *every* night and can’t/won’t go back to sleep. The only way he can is if I lay with him. My husband and I have done it all...melatonin, essential oils, calming shower and massages, reading, electronics off by 7 (we still do this). We won’t go to bed with him when he wakes (then he’ll stay up all night or come in every hour). We’ll lay until he falls asleep again, only for him to wake up shortly after............😐

We did a sleep study last week but the lady said he did very well and nothing stood out but of course we’re waiting for the doc to tell us officially. We’ve done therapy.

WHAT are we doing wrong!?!? Help!!
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parenting,Svargas05,2018/04/16,"4 yo cries for almost everything So, we have a 4yo boy who will be starting school this year.

For the past couple months or so, we've noticed that he cries for almost ANYTHING. He cries when he wakes up in the morning. He cries when we tell him it's time to eat. He cries when it's time to go to bed. He cries when we take the tablet away to leave for errands.

His triggers seems to be very simple and he'll quickly start crying.

Is this a normal phase? Should we address the crying by reacting to it (acknowledging his sadness even if it's for something ridiculous)? Or should we ignore it when he's just crying to be whiny and unreasonable so he knows that we won't budge?

At the moment if it's something ridiculous we just reiterate ""this is what needs to happen, we know you don't like it, but that's what we have to do for reason a and reason b""

Insight? ",2.133920454545453,4.060008187500003,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,77.92045454545455,5.536363636363636,21.795454545454547,6.322622252153567,0.23863181818181856,675,19,144,5,16,216,93,176,0.151,0.8490000000000001,0.0,-0.9539,0,0,2,0,0,0,19,9,1,0,0,12,5,2,0,8,0,13,2,1,4,0,35,23,16,0,6,7,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,1,16,12,1,1,7,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,13,1,20,15,0,19,0,1,0,0,25,4,0,7,15,90,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762681569050291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242865636943956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269277368846817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738666894251304,0.8701208279545573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900610826262216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813292550103466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910200005508715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05002082209483815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783117044190896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674123161898204,0.0,0.0,0.09319493310542544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299957082653697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025254970786034,0.0,0.0,0.06526183672737912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623578729949667,0.0,0.10020539900831156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402005704829342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809876848081387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907564612906073,0.0,0.08012534100869198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355161399244472,0.0,0.0,0.12459461443771462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617615347025275,0.0,0.07692878839212454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264424037153604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262140290626616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566786262054367
parenting,GraySweatshirtGuy,2018/04/16,"Should I get help? This is yet another ‘I hate parenting but love my child’ post. She is 7 months. 

Not surprisingly, the worst part for me is the grating, obnoxious crying in the middle of the night. It becomes an hour long ordeal of calming her back to sleep. This happens a minimum of once per night going on 4 months now. Prior to this she had a solid month where she was actually sleeping through the night and it was amazing. But, she had a regression, an extended illness, and a new developmental stage that has made life hell for me since.

I’m so tired and frustrated, I start to think I never should have married, let alone had a kid. I resent the pressure my wife put on me to marry. I’m angry at myself for not having the spine to break it off. I hate what my life has become. I don’t even know if any of this is how I truly feel or if it’s just the irrationality of sleep deprivation, stress, and frustration. I know I’m a lucky and really have a great life. I love my wife and we’ve been happy together.

I become faux-suicidal. I don’t think I truly am, but I guess the thought gives me a warped sense of control.

The stress, anger, anxiety, and depressed moods are taking a toll. I know I should probably seek counseling. But, I just....can’t. I feel like if I could just get sleep or some adult leisure time by myself while the baby sleeps, I would be in such a better place mentally. I don’t know that this warrants professional help. I recognize these middle-of-the-night thoughts as irrational and they aren’t really a factor throughout the day.

Any experience with this?",3.3194230769230764,5.139919275641033,4.4829487179487195,84.29538461538462,74.19230769230771,8.005128205128205,24.820512820512814,8.730908602173464,1.714028205128206,1242,40,251,25,26,407,174,312,0.228,0.606,0.166,-0.97,2,1,0,0,0,0,47,0,0,1,2,10,24,7,3,25,0,28,13,6,3,1,44,54,21,0,8,13,3,2,1,0,4,5,0,0,3,14,9,0,1,10,0,0,2,7,13,0,0,9,2,37,10,24,38,3,32,1,2,0,2,17,9,1,8,19,162,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.08718653632307721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253310000743907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151352197039784,0.09368463057307262,0.06834766487325597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869976925162992,0.0,0.0,0.2960192005069023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901721783785462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020652568965403,0.07133365248363424,0.0,0.09813982892117888,0.05761927750707005,0.0,0.07695157415717868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901065302727612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739525535427646,0.0,0.0,0.09034969052668627,0.06382713744381828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335676265303837,0.08570659168939768,0.050776067974164917,0.0,0.0,0.09850171427747204,0.09842212788885456,0.0,0.07900631447788628,0.09510800065266736,0.0,0.1764167593164141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977036070731352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798552044243024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640378333952924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913599582902973,0.1893182341548927,0.04364880543163782,0.0,0.0,0.07906633862919311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127230517638322,0.08453914310364131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003740796486884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139398008630185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890734804947349,0.08628867557952823,0.0,0.3353719371194539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951480952880178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920557513534416,0.09675049077667297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334512186988103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556654132667796,0.0,0.0963275899781061,0.0,0.0,0.08981506769147941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447168868283618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390600909553008,0.0,0.4470409768654984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323791120335381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046857498416393,0.0,0.0,0.09772747658602664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717532271867785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449563552209258,0.0,0.14185779226677192,0.052097013883339115,0.10268740848618772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346718150715155,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ilPavimento,2018/04/16,"13 months old is terrified of baths and has always been Please, if someone has gone through this, help! 
Every time I watch the video of my son's first bath at the hospital, it breaks my heart to see this tiny baby obviously so scared and defensless, not even able to fully cry yet. 
It hasn't changed at all. He's 13 months old and he has not taken a bath or shower that didn't look like torture. 

Strangely, he loves playing with water in the sink (also putting his hand in a glass full of water during lunch or dinner). So what I do is wash him with a cloth while he stands over the sink splashing water around. 

About once a month we give him a bath, mostly to see if the situation has improved, but it's always the same. 
We tried a few things. I showered with him, and the first time it went well, because he seemed scared, but not screaming or trembling. But the next day, he was already terrified as soon as he heard the shower noise. We bought a new tub, and filled it with dry toys at first. He loved the toys in the tub, but when water was in it, he started yelling and grabbed his dad's legs, trying to escape. Another time, we started going to the pool every week. This went pretty well, he cried the first 10 minutes but then seemed to start to enjoy himself. However, the showers after the swim, in a room full of steam and strangers, were even more tragic than at home, so we stopped going.
Yesterday I filled the bathtub with water and toys and lied there splashing water around, while his dad held him outside. I was hoping he would eventually want to come to me, since he likes splashing water so much, and he usually prefers me over his father. But instead he watched, while crying and shaking for about ten minutes, while I tried to show him what a great time I was having. Eventually we gave up.

I don't know what to do anymore. I don't think this can be a phase, since it's lasted his whole life. I don't want him to be so scared of water forever, and I know that as soon as summer comes and he plays more outside he will need to be washed more often. I would also love to take him to the beach, but it doesn't seem possible.
I would also like to understand what he's so afraid of.
What else can I do? Will it just fix itself or will it get worse if I don't do anything?",5.334021852655255,5.220448980477227,5.40294528802121,86.7369189362899,67.87201735357917,8.131148067807503,27.92006105888969,7.3871296695380915,1.3135812806298701,1784,50,381,15,27,560,216,461,0.105,0.765,0.13,0.8541,5,0,0,0,1,0,57,6,0,0,4,25,22,1,6,27,0,35,19,3,0,2,68,70,46,0,11,18,4,2,3,0,6,3,3,10,0,23,28,10,2,8,14,1,12,10,9,2,5,15,10,38,13,51,46,11,66,0,1,5,3,47,17,0,13,38,246,61,0,0.08273266957831478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129755815782464,0.19848385791386428,0.1376804173302701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675241764721017,0.0,0.0,0.08204857729020767,0.0,0.0,0.06808193778265385,0.14729923253846508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050433067478064336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752019445335232,0.14253373838102687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726338581147045,0.05335572757502632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911252940839327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928829597217388,0.0,0.13941168470102042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28148946591724283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04322440518965817,0.0793647153420555,0.0940377653929498,0.0,0.0,0.09121306028207307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803861179257614,0.055453964488516284,0.0,0.08298761319660662,0.08217220839224848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093542310802644,0.06743816788864132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058436531218879234,0.1212570101022196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947460569050867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22400839318052299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981092826251067,0.0,0.060818031483029174,0.06134522619047063,0.0,0.0799037278186317,0.08798713267821047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736280391788842,0.08810759299866605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081562704259427,0.0,0.093268654137522,0.0,0.08416886789274974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316918384287468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484895052363817,0.0,0.13185445243815516,0.2259501454870037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368746384219991,0.09299498696899762,0.0,0.0,0.07009912245604566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567582805073378,0.0,0.0,0.06916821629118781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062204671315124714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054963909481090166,0.05301175406700201,0.0,0.0,0.1929683397984802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851015578584655,0.0,0.0,0.08612762675532691,0.0,0.0,0.0911183471569956,0.0,0.09759574409369168,0.0,0.06636315717802442,0.0,0.14877321149018288,0.1533880271244917,0.0,0.0923680710302266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431165835000293,0.17631274425654567,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nrossj,2018/04/16,"I'm tempted to contact CPS about something my son told me, but I feel like it may be an overreaction. I'm in a co-parenting situation for my 4-year-old son. I get him every other weekend. This weekend, he told me something that concerned me.

We were changing his clothes, and I noticed that he had fecal matter in his undies. He told me that it was because his sister (8-years-old, not mine) didn't wipe him well enough. After a few questions, I found out that she had to wipe him because it was in the morning before mom got up and she didn't come when he yelled for her. I fully believe this to be true because we were together, she'd frequently sleep past when the kids got up. He also said that this was the first time.

My initial reaction was that this is highly inappropriate, but then I remembered hearing stories about my older sisters changing my diapers, so now I'm not sure.

I texted his mother about it and she said that she doesn't think it inappropriate and she's sorry that I do. She didn't deny its occurrence. I'm tempted to contact child protective services and see what they think, but I'm worried that I'd be overreacting and I don't want to start an unwarranted investigation, causing his mother to become angry with me. Things have recently started becoming much less toxic between us and I don't want to ruin it.

So the question I have for parents here is: Do you think it is inappropriate for an 8-year-old girl to wipe her 4-year-old brother's butt?",4.912058823529414,6.016910958477514,5.8060536332179975,79.17309429065746,69.17301038062284,8.271349480968858,31.751038062283737,8.548686976883017,2.4782718339100347,1173,50,222,18,20,386,148,289,0.066,0.8809999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.0818,2,0,2,0,0,0,37,3,1,1,1,11,5,0,0,9,0,26,2,2,1,2,32,51,16,0,2,5,9,1,1,0,1,0,4,0,3,24,12,0,1,8,2,0,1,8,1,1,1,19,6,44,4,24,27,4,23,0,1,1,1,49,7,1,3,16,152,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362757246136314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19124152182294094,0.23098693316377095,0.08898454026771843,0.11781878106673893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074260247652983,0.2212502763823718,0.09008100703953288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805261529342217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810787602703782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052875618941232654,0.07470749214336675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895035957402783,0.0,0.1146596950951804,0.0,0.0,0.054635456733204184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727432646932486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178621915883826,0.0,0.0,0.110487885076827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05108944125407034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224754862945358,0.0,0.0,0.07687372245170201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905788238277895,0.4389301451624685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116116749423794,0.0,0.0998274560936619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342930162552298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325394048355964,0.0,0.11846164833909928,0.0,0.1989471248492281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833317219711419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175452516849252,0.10464924984718013,0.0,0.0,0.1610119295743215,0.0,0.11706172686449055,0.1480356457641839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985595010150484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694741381672117,0.2010198671077552,0.0,0.0,0.06097778172816011,0.0,0.0,0.29977403539893704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578931890213266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336058831531438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940243402282432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619969686429503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202615664924373
parenting,Harry-le-Roy,2018/04/16,"A Quiet Place [no spoilers] I encourage parents everywhere to see A Quiet Place. Aside from dealing from start to finish with family dynamics, we also see an unusually positive treatment of a father as a competent and caring parent. We need much more of that.",4.467391304347828,7.570339652173914,6.467565217391307,65.07960869565218,76.3913043478261,9.76695652173913,30.93913043478261,9.888512548439397,4.436935652173913,208,10,28,7,5,72,36,46,0.0,0.7090000000000001,0.29100000000000004,0.9299,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,8,5,2,4,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,0,2,22,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361475135170436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468466073940706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24960409807162856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228239138130946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797822201335253,0.17952100750635988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5376675396823919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059054589287004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858595952096111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136623665037964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,janlevinsonnogould,2018/04/16,"Having trouble letting go I know I don’t have to get rid of everything, but even though we have no plans on having another baby (we have 2, we’re good) getting rid of the baby stuff is heartbreaking to me.  Help?",2.018255813953488,4.0091098372093015,3.9699418604651164,85.7470058139535,78.53488372093022,7.090697674418602,24.703488372093023,8.07648339933343,1.5726325581395355,165,6,33,3,4,56,33,43,0.183,0.742,0.075,-0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,12,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,11,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35893304017457844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260869575319149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076385778456258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576768829095741,0.0,0.1945378696013821,0.2871063150929155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294375258167385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18811998997226329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35002654521631205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918534007582192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363095528839644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elainehorne,2018/04/16,"Parenting Advice What could be going on in your child’s mind may not be your intention as a parent for your child to think or feel. Negative beliefs that may form can become undetected or unresolved, which may spiral into even more traumatic feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem. [Check this out](https://blog.mindvalley.com/parenting-advice/)..",8.729285714285716,12.216697642857143,7.742285714285718,59.50271428571432,63.64285714285714,10.90857142857143,32.628571428571426,10.793553405168565,4.7262114285714265,292,12,37,9,5,90,48,56,0.16899999999999998,0.831,0.0,-0.8687,3,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,16,11,4,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,7,5,2,5,1,1,0,0,7,4,0,6,0,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5061575672503102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860304374904388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677978785915693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105825777265465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26190289140928136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147188097040577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615027152359919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5751481121939883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270179587283962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594820536835256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grissa,2018/04/16,Suicidal friends. My daughter 12 seems to gravitate to kids with home problems and try’s to fix them. She has multiple friends that are drama and the big attention getter is “I tried to hurt/kill my self  xyz. These are not real threats based on the conversations I have read. All the negativeness is getting to her. How do you handle your kids school friends choices? ,3.790966386554622,6.575155323529412,3.816218487394959,85.00441176470592,76.64705882352942,7.4151260504201675,30.302521008403357,8.418075326091056,2.5301109243697484,294,14,54,6,7,90,54,68,0.094,0.755,0.151,0.5318,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,1,0,1,5,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,1,10,9,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,9,3,7,9,1,2,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,0,34,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623028991894616,0.0,0.12674993523195466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433503607874073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597112848962772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321380884413201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426684236064028,0.2761350668723645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455269570569671,0.0,0.22085645197018344,0.2530876007390469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653680563816788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294227144451702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whiskeywishes,2018/04/16,"Best handheld/ portable gaming & music system for 5 year old. Help and thanks! So- I’ve always been against in car television sets (unless it’s a 12+ hour road trip) etc. but 

We do have a lot of car time for multiple reasons. My son has always been okay with books, but at this point- I think he would be okay to have and maybe even benefit from a road gaming type system.

I want to just jump on getting him a Nintendo ds, but at the same time I don’t know much anymore about the different handheld systems etc

I really want- no YouTube access. I’m willing to put music on it but if it is either capable of playing music from out amazon or Apple accounts that would be great (this is a huge part of me wanting something for my son. He is SUPER into music. But as much as I love Led Zeppelin. I can’t listen to the immigrant song for 3 hours straight while he tries to learn it- he is 4 going on 5 btw). 

So I want it to be able to play music for sure. But if
It can play from amazon or Apple awesome. 

I want it to be able to play games. 

I want YouTube and internet browsers to be completely blocked or not even on it in the first place. 

I really want to get him the Nintendo ds 2(?) but I want to make sure that he can easily listen to the songs he loves and also- no YouTube or other random internet access I’m not okay with. 

He LOVES lego games (chase McCain, Star Wars, etc) though we restrict his playing time pretty hard core- he caught on and loves it so much we do allow it to be a weekly win/ earned time. 

We just started with the wii. He likes the wii fit games. 

But I do think he would enjoy a handheld game and many of the Nintendo games. 

But I also want him to be able to plug head phones in and listen to his songs (Led Zeppelin and Ryan Bingham. Over. And over. And over. Again lol) 

But a super extra benefit would be other games/ things
That are more educational in nature. 

Thank you everyone for your advice and input. I need all the suggestions or recommendations I can get! There are just so many options and paths and I don’t even know
Where to begin!",1.8401241134751767,3.850420976359338,3.3470159574468106,89.90137500000002,79.18912529550828,6.215815602836879,21.213297872340426,7.268377926160553,0.6051967375886518,1615,45,340,21,40,531,202,423,0.039,0.685,0.275,0.9988,1,0,1,0,0,0,54,4,2,0,6,17,26,1,0,18,4,33,5,1,5,3,79,66,41,1,16,24,2,1,1,0,5,0,6,0,0,18,22,0,2,6,20,1,9,7,1,0,1,3,7,30,25,55,50,14,51,0,0,0,4,41,24,0,10,15,220,48,4,0.2561636685486059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834400573929369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656932879262385,0.14209912871738312,0.0925177426161214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468184198971085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960932203311067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952757758515582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921217065856686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856902042393908,0.16919368713925734,0.0,0.0,0.0815917876503466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726308952020578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383494405112814,0.0,0.04852790537674366,0.0,0.0,0.09414044963734353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649077711576611,0.0,0.08763260905034502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723370244324789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681797421858766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385390198375132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041716209708718616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725937301668498,0.3082636162166342,0.0,0.0569970792998933,0.17313983562044347,0.0857836119314347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18830977095269386,0.0633140381302443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960022625818513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246676335695753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921217065856686,0.0,0.0807191553977908,0.0,0.0,0.0868701811383796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583841325711912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094033370119005,0.08779297175557225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573576902441358,0.0,0.0,0.060437987688623164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095415068971247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722739288352053,0.0,0.0,0.056727919624389965,0.10942622358023617,0.08389316791167349,0.0,0.1991614601924607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05797277197322665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4532759060452931,0.0,0.06849301445179982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426284272563009,0.0,0.0,0.054987001296507895
parenting,achy_breaky_heart,2018/04/16,"How the hell do you get a splinter out of a three year old’s leg? 3yo sat on a wooden bench today and somehow got a splinter on her back upper leg. 

So far I’ve tried a warm compress to loosen things up, tape (it’s too far in for that), and trying to massage it out. She won’t let me come near her with tweezers. Currently she’s in a warm bath and I’m hoping it helps open up the area more. 

Any help would be appreciated, she gets upset when I try to touch it and tries to run off/hide it/etc. ",2.7326867627785028,2.743714981651376,4.231480996068154,92.45935779816514,73.49541284403671,6.962516382699869,22.910878112712968,6.18269132825596,0.1855153342070768,379,8,95,2,7,127,78,109,0.066,0.7909999999999999,0.142,0.7414,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,1,0,0,6,5,1,1,8,0,5,2,2,1,0,13,12,7,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,2,3,8,3,16,6,1,22,1,0,0,0,8,14,1,2,6,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546498875726563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486797220181355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19589774542211236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536276576942739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376297323018374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818844199197411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048627431346253,0.0,0.0,0.2258742462414811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23254707869761185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386336161778047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108431265792016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21556267459275516,0.0,0.0,0.6175989857864262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154897538111776,0.0,0.0,0.14644769896393672
parenting,DocterSparkles,2018/04/16,"Baby Morgan Blankets Hello fellow parents and past children, I was wondering if anyone has been able to find WHY the Baby Morgan blankets have stopped being made? I have one that is now close to 26 years old, and have been searching for a blanket that is similar to replace mine and keep the tradition of a blanket alive with my daughters. If anyone has any insight on this I would love it, thank you in advance.",6.236538461538463,7.1034854743589815,6.227333333333334,78.20100000000002,66.05128205128204,7.778461538461538,34.83076923076923,7.554174236665415,2.6660123076923083,329,15,55,3,5,104,58,78,0.024,0.86,0.116,0.8126,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,1,0,14,17,5,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,6,2,8,11,0,9,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,3,5,41,10,0,0.2589411778086184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608888038120185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621153844121078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23666754540210894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23015881646474484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337045227108385,0.2450164033782661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27171520751559075,0.0,0.17546524353347415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875235343340901,0.0,0.24718865402332102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21648641926642231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383982466817625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23365413724851225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808106616423244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839443833299048,0.0,0.0,0.16674962878875355
parenting,ThatsMommy2U,2018/04/16,"Bedroom Placement https://imgur.com/a/XPIcw  For more visual people, there is a badly drawn layout.  My picture makes it look like bedroom size is a bigger factor, but the bedrooms are very close in size.  The gray area is the hallway/stairway.  The red rectangles are doors.

We're moving to a new house in the next few weeks.  I have 3 kids:  8F, 5M, and 2F.  We're moving to a house where they will each have their own bedrooms.  Our question is about placing.  The three kids' rooms are upstairs.  There is also a full bathroom upstairs.  It's almost Jack-and-Jill style, except that one side opens with direct access to a bedroom, and one side has access to the hallway.  There are two vanities on the outsides of the toilet/shower room. 

I'm leaning in two directions: the oldest gets the room with direct access to the bathroom and her own vanity because she's older, and she'll start with the goo hoarding and girl stuff earlier.  

The other direction is for my middle child (the only boy) to have his own vanity so that his boy stuff is on one side, and the girl stuff is together, especially during preteen and teen years.  

What are your thoughts?  ",5.643800623052961,7.018522196261685,5.468392523364488,81.26741744548285,67.69158878504672,7.575825545171338,28.285358255451712,7.793537801064563,1.8032371339563864,906,30,159,10,15,281,126,214,0.034,0.957,0.009000000000000001,-0.6124,1,0,0,0,0,0,38,1,1,2,0,7,2,0,0,22,0,19,0,0,1,0,19,25,10,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,9,7,9,13,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,1,3,12,1,19,22,7,28,0,0,3,0,17,19,0,2,8,107,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539618912067696,0.0,0.0,0.12295659492410675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837772570066636,0.09372668861623357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032984247081715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35482172357323594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511617936868761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911419153955128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263163556988478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268312133411686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849606004613009,0.1635185603245876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125619926376461,0.1169364428212126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659329717689668,0.0,0.1606396520645145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722390752556581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882749788632708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5280328160741612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206308126170674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30038959913148305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686271564706567,0.0,0.0,0.12333175988393374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990121940889442
parenting,leucas22,2018/04/16,FDA approved omega 3 Im looking for a liquid or desolving omega 3 for my little guy. Something i can hide in a smoothie. Unfortunately the only FDA approved omega 3 supplements i can find are in pill form. If anyone knows of one id be very appreciative. Thank you.,2.7911538461538465,5.0998173461538485,5.031384615384617,77.51361538461539,77.46153846153845,7.236923076923077,27.707692307692305,8.238735603445708,2.144649230769231,210,9,39,4,5,73,39,52,0.077,0.693,0.23,0.847,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,5,6,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,2,0,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378545273370258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109088957323544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368214330817724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674415934256529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694834242803504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34093935323696184,0.0,0.0,0.2856568305456209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23050775725802136,0.25871434606283644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618792143447351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131825087990949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28067558518576985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wwwhere8,2018/04/16,"Is there such a thing as a quiet keyboard? Not really sure where to post it, feel free to recommend me a more suitable subreddit.

My son likes to play computer games and unfortunately for me he plays at night time in the weekends. The walls aren't too thick, so I can hear the noise from keyboard pretty loud and it disturbs me. Is there such a thing as a silent keyboard?
",4.839041095890412,5.8531657808219215,5.136876712328768,84.23791780821921,69.27397260273972,8.579726027397259,28.298630136986297,8.841846274778883,1.980503561643836,294,10,60,5,5,93,54,73,0.092,0.703,0.204,0.8435,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,8,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,6,5,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,5,6,9,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,41,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787480203245744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39843757556680737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270977941276505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317502776327367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33857005550333297,0.35965227729739835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22647103289439915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33318410343712723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4697198788328942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20613768663033125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wendt9222,2018/04/16,"My 16 year old son and our relationship Ever since I caught my son using marijuana, our relationship has gone downhill. But not just for that reason it seems like we just argue more, disagree about everything, and he generally doesn't like being around me or his father. The strange thing is that it wasn't like this while he was using it, just after I caught him and put it to a stop. I'm between a rock and a hard place here because I don't know what to do, and obviously don't to allow him to use marijuana. Any Advice?",7.596,5.917691838095237,8.220952380952383,73.52571428571429,63.95238095238096,11.066666666666668,32.42857142857143,9.888512548439397,2.7924857142857142,413,12,84,7,5,139,70,105,0.118,0.8109999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.4327,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,4,0,9,0,0,5,2,24,18,8,0,0,6,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,3,1,0,4,5,1,0,0,5,1,12,3,9,12,1,12,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,9,58,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191228755963226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307782619047515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17420809646605756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929252492206333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701535665204562,0.0,0.0,0.17587608562392915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530232609531413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107547654444486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28681687676216466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20534669242481493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044573427302179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19672533185967905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120480852586095,0.0,0.4202016990508611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815139093926047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187912050220407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360795760281754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000961213471354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5070472867805238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601975814280286
parenting,Tmbgkc,2018/04/16,"So they are teaching my 7th grade son an ""abstinence only"" curriculum at his public school, which is proven to be the least effective at getting positive outcomes.... https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/posteverything/wp/2017/08/21/abstinence-only-education-doesnt-work-were-still-funding-it/?utm_term=.a52364912648

Any body have any experience introducing ideas that are more effective/positive to a kid whose school is taking that ineffective approach?   I went to Catholic school growing up and would like for my kids to avoid the weird hang-ups, if possible, and have accurate info, I'm not sure how to help.  Advice welcome.",13.250735294117653,18.077111176470584,8.821985294117649,50.73768382352944,54.88235294117647,9.897058823529411,32.97794117647059,10.125756701596842,4.147264705882353,530,19,62,12,8,146,67,85,0.106,0.746,0.14800000000000002,0.7135,0,1,0,0,0,0,39,0,0,1,2,2,6,0,1,4,0,8,1,1,2,1,11,12,5,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,5,3,9,9,2,6,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,1,38,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20700727548997272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881164821583214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353061194743229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721984781361608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067748512727396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419916665827155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391412041877753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349416317996417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111361622404316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388174003980571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6431791721618123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917543550082104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965638360107524,0.0,0.15927706938056135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196377498039402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422180402940694,0.0,0.0,0.15048482483125494,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MarchSadness01,2018/04/16,"Inspired by the failure thread. How much do you push kids to try new things? I read the earlier thread on teaching kids to be okay with failing and a lot of the comments talked about making sure they aren't afraid to try. I was wondering how much parents push when it comes to making their kids try. If your child has performance anxiety do you still push them to try out for the sport or school play? Do you model the behavior you want to see and hope the kids pick up on it?

My son is 15 months and I'll have a newborn next month. I want to make sure I am on top of this as they grow up. ",2.9314695340501804,3.8640826129032284,3.486559139784948,94.605394265233,73.67741935483872,7.124014336917562,23.455197132616487,7.3871296695380915,0.5896121863799286,460,12,109,5,9,144,81,124,0.063,0.7859999999999999,0.151,0.8243,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,5,4,3,8,8,0,1,8,1,10,0,0,6,2,22,19,9,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,6,0,0,2,3,0,5,1,2,0,0,1,1,14,6,20,17,3,18,0,1,1,0,19,7,0,5,6,68,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330154207565387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501018117904817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307056558818734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814197339461194,0.0,0.0,0.3489416972708977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781709798892025,0.0,0.2561890768831027,0.0,0.0,0.16829270670398208,0.18531792092540694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19348512012175692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742981600537532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635132013729826,0.1388554908361508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391570778874648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284590205576215,0.0,0.0,0.14005635751483525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576462513240135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4732199777325388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055555151769364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896778215101834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,buckito420,2018/04/17,"When can a child wipe themselves? My daughter will be four in September. She is fully potty trained and wipes herself after going number 1. 

Now she starts school in September aswell.

How do you teach a child to wipe after going #2? I'm concerned for when she starts school. ",2.8605882352941165,5.736529078431374,2.995588235294118,88.72514705882355,81.74509803921569,4.968627450980391,22.225490196078432,6.42735559955562,0.6487490196078429,217,7,38,2,6,66,39,51,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.168,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,2,10,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,6,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,7,25,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180392981792965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7444323990129416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5206376364397775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway718490,2018/04/17,"[HELP] My stepson is addicted to screen time at 4 years old My wife and I are at our wits end with his addiction to screen time. While screen time is earned at our house his father substitutes parenting and attention with video games / TV / and movies to occupy the kid when he has him, which unfortunately right now is 3 of 4 weekends a month and the 5th when applicable. He throws fits daily when screen time is up and when it's time to do the things that earn him screen time (feed the dogs, do homework, put his clothes in the hamper, etc) at which point he'll scream and cry for ""daddy, I just wanna go to daddy's so I can have my games!"" unfortunately there is no line of communication or continuity between the households, any time any issues are brought up to the father he takes it as a personal attack rather than an attempt to Co-parent. We work so hard from Monday at 6pm to Saturday at 10am and it all seems to come undone over the weekend, we can't help but feel we're fighting a losing battle.

We'll be going back to court soon for custody as he's in contempt of court for just about every section of the custody order but any advice is welcome in the mean time!

Thanks in advance!",5.6895218170950415,5.6656293598326375,6.126434548714883,81.54515690376572,67.11715481171548,9.00430364614465,28.78690974297669,8.634040054169528,1.8970416019127319,943,28,194,13,14,305,142,239,0.124,0.8440000000000001,0.032,-0.9537,2,0,0,0,3,0,23,5,0,0,6,14,8,4,0,14,0,16,3,0,0,1,24,26,19,0,2,6,4,2,0,0,2,2,1,1,2,7,12,1,0,4,6,0,7,2,6,0,0,1,8,16,2,39,22,3,50,0,1,5,0,27,17,0,2,25,119,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28826964081787865,0.0,0.12919982361437116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697339882412831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041464601634733,0.0,0.10166584728467393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389226980062075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452329311776819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710402220017754,0.0,0.14745565119584653,0.0,0.0,0.11139757777826764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685231944273022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028265825667814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843945486451342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772430291039319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255936902005712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799902356333502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791574549939265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402184914906285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553345064370867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387383205388973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681008337242496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544580293703464,0.0,0.0,0.12498673857070453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329134734403487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291163551063355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036436763952807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940988412641223,0.0,0.0,0.12172661466564272,0.0,0.0,0.08783835292641849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6167691234072586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625473225966236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514268914193471
parenting,hellodarling92,2018/04/17,"My (25F) boyfriend (26M) I’d almost 2 years told me that my son (7) annoys him I’m not sure if this is the right place for this but he it goes.

I will try to be as neutral as I can with this. My sons dad and I split when he was 6 months and things were rocky at the beginning but now we co-parent very well. 

Flash forward to now and I have been with my bf who has no children for almost two years. He asks me today if it made him a bad person that my son annoyed him. I told him I don’t think it makes you a bad persons but I wasn’t sure how this relationship would work if that’s the case. We’re supposed to be moving in together with my son over the summer. I’ve given notice at my job and we’re supposed to sign a lease next week since we’ll be moving to the town my bf lives in about an hour away. 

I’m basically wondering if this is a giant red flag? I will admit my son talks a lot but to constantly be annoyed with him? I don’t see how that could honestly work with us living together. Has anyone dealt with anything similar? Am I overreacting? I feel like he’s just put me in a really terrible position. I don’t want my son to end up hating me because I made him move in with someone who finds him annoying. ",1.3532178387650085,2.6662878226415105,3.490368782161237,91.49263722126932,78.32075471698113,6.931389365351629,21.47941680960549,7.686295010490155,0.6207735849056601,943,25,224,14,22,323,146,265,0.145,0.802,0.053,-0.9787,2,0,0,0,0,0,22,3,1,0,2,8,13,5,0,12,0,23,0,0,5,2,41,40,17,0,7,10,7,1,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,15,12,0,0,5,0,0,5,6,8,1,1,9,3,38,5,28,22,1,32,0,0,2,0,35,14,0,8,16,138,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24208603827582295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452152019960245,0.0,0.09947325022275942,0.0,0.11300569837918653,0.0,0.11356995119127683,0.0,0.20185810121023065,0.07368681480192807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062743031547466,0.0,0.09651217431473673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070630581242031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061120135993279034,0.08635609702449668,0.0,0.0,0.11048136356741788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934314614755633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190416246814344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995391568382215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059055452395554014,0.0,0.2134770281699509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276714030393096,0.0,0.2287575704190669,0.08068777884624022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648459333874164,0.385426255496488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855635944476185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762172638385442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21109404233639206,0.12629299579750494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151694420972844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743828605155773,0.0,0.0,0.12977898153151424,0.0,0.1032301433242783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632504132180617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999249140327937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242052114801416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22785435806112006,0.0,0.0,0.09715809107554443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030674359604661,0.07745448570939195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457931093477385,0.23101043767387866,0.0,0.08206901584320273,0.0,0.11808137621429445,0.0,0.14540274765095848,0.0,0.0,0.09973796760740238,0.07129766123799773,0.0,0.09696197192001564,0.0,0.10868488306142922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310882941292226,0.1760029382599672,0.0,0.0,0.08586908803370973,0.0,0.0,0.1556844334667113
parenting,blackwings5,2018/04/17,"I want to care for my own family..i don't need this extra stress.. I'm a 23yrF stay at home mom with me 1and half old. And my in-laws have this 5yr old girl in the care cause if the parents well arnt being parents.. I watch her 4 days a week for 12 hrs. (6am -6pm...) i originally only has her twice a week which was fine but now it's full time..  And my pay.... 122...(which I agreed to for the twice a week).. I have to baby her more than my old child and my child  gets little to no attention cause the one is so demanding. I feel traped cause i can leave and I can't get other shit done incuding small pile of dishes..  she doesnt listen to me and compared me to the 3 other groups of people. Going I miss__ cause she got in trouble..  I been having crippling depression and I cause even take care of myself right now and I'm on my way to a mental break down one a few weeks or even days. And that slowly going to cause another massive one. I can't do this i just want to focus on my child. I feel traped and forced into this. My family even r like u need to get out if this. But i can we tried to memtion I can't anymore and they ignore it or they lose there shit and make me feel like shit. I always been a people pleaser and making myself suffer and cant say no..... I even made a really shitry comment to myself.""I'm ready to shoot myself"" which I dont want to but I hated that i said that.. (I lost my dad to that..)   I'm just stress. This isnt all of it just the key points cause i dont want to ramble on... i dont know what to do and the father in law is a very angry person and my axienty cant deal with it... ether way i suffer.. I just want to focus on my baby....my family...",-1.1753804347826105,0.7926630923913079,1.5104347826086983,98.48239130434784,91.9891304347826,4.395652173913044,12.619565217391305,5.922688038783598,-1.1322369565217392,1270,17,312,11,46,436,171,368,0.129,0.747,0.124,-0.8735,2,0,0,1,0,0,70,1,0,2,2,13,21,4,2,16,0,26,4,3,11,1,57,58,23,0,9,11,5,3,2,0,0,0,3,1,5,19,20,1,1,5,0,1,2,13,14,1,6,8,7,52,7,39,49,6,35,0,6,1,0,24,16,3,4,15,201,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062094286597497765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825120796212688,0.0,0.0,0.07400831537216705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282566170719836,0.5366256860230323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962543810922424,0.07693548047861094,0.0642747224977281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636766367678684,0.2623811362979139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715741434947934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070031615497994,0.0,0.11319848911401308,0.053312379791558256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696602854193593,0.0,0.08482263590603291,0.0,0.05968472616505545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367710390076014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485533146680026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04101215215515674,0.0,0.0,0.07901749259639165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291637337386751,0.07479422630354464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348670146514972,0.08146240758246062,0.0,0.0,0.07061233019201812,0.09962602893384044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520482166532531,0.0,0.0,0.0874003323248996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066753370806147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23492031986523154,0.0,0.15170424766802687,0.05675595722136645,0.0,0.0,0.16572528585386753,0.0,0.0,0.10347167176798877,0.06515999532482694,0.0,0.0,0.07054509643260372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780692340943643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372965889460881,0.07098581664370819,0.05934509008227786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298056121113111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795407160231965,0.0,0.0,0.17096622017684154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610899157981111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04351465381945707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506657282173266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061573746289339815,0.2200798857949631,0.11846829159008207,0.23943988440662906,0.0,0.06709717047226385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quintessentialdamsel,2018/04/17,"16 year old autistic boy playing with my 6 year old son I have almost no experience with older kids with autism so I don’t know what to expect really so I thought I’d come here and ask. 

My 6 year old has been playing with three girls in our neighborhood, all between 6-8 years old. Yesterday, one of the girls was outside with her brother. I learn from my neighbor that he’s 16 and on the spectrum but that’s all the information she had. 

The girl, her brother, my son, and another girl all went to the park behind my house. The two girls left my son and the other boy there to play, but I became uncomfortable because he’s 16 playing with a 6 year old. 

Is this normal behavior or should I keep them in my line of site while playing? My first thought is no 16 year old should be playing with a 6 year old, but I’m not sure if the “rules” are different since he has autism. ",3.889499999999998,4.472146950000003,4.747777777777782,87.74000000000002,71.16666666666666,8.0,27.777777777777786,8.07648339933343,1.5146111111111114,681,23,151,9,12,221,99,180,0.056,0.872,0.07200000000000001,0.2127,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,1,1,4,7,0,0,10,0,13,0,0,0,4,33,21,12,0,5,6,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,8,5,12,0,1,5,6,0,2,4,0,0,4,6,0,19,7,18,12,3,25,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,3,18,89,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412933837353616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904088009127838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721509500070384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339034937186921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895767789375666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864572106072867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172058641144263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845246026704576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199886251936812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924296473643456,0.0,0.0,0.05714929241220317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298367576568133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188653053717138,0.0,0.0,0.763828161787151,0.0,0.07046521542650659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661761701550095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602025995635322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800781457457876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511031128536618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158153412731576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639826719951547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46875573730666203
parenting,firexcracker,2018/04/17,"What are your rules on screen time? Just curious about other parents' rules on screen time for their kids.

How old are your kids and how much time do you let them on tablets/tvs/computers?  What about on vacations, weekends, and summer breaks from school? ",3.853043478260865,6.803402565217392,2.363217391304349,94.50569565217394,77.69565217391305,6.288695652173913,22.243478260869566,7.554174236665415,0.844544347826087,202,6,39,3,5,56,32,46,0.0,0.938,0.062,0.4291,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,5,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,8,3,1,11,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,0,6,26,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36143132309744336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598298340223104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708911937905895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3924695561470969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577149720696132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6183067399434511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OtherPickle,2018/04/17,"Suggestions for getting a partially toilet trained four year old to poo in the toilet (rather than in his nappy)? My son will be four next month. He is completely toilet trained where wees are concerned. He will urinate in toilets at home, at relatives’ houses, and in public. He can do it sitting down or standing up. He will pull his pants down and up and wash his hands in the sink with soap. He never has an accident and is totally confident. 

However, he totally refuses to poo in the toilet. He typically has a bowel movement first thing in the morning so just goes in his night-time nappy (he drinks water in the night and is never dry so a nappy is essential). This worked well when we spent hours persuading him to wee in the toilet since we could focus on the urine.

But it doesn’t work so well now since he isn’t actually toilet trained if he refuses to poo in the toilet. And the bigger he gets and the more he eats, the more likely he will have more than one bowel movement per day. Right now, if he does have to go in the evening, he demands a nappy, does his business, we clean him, then put pants back on. If I refuse to provide a nappy then he just holds it.

I have removed the nappy first thing in the morning and put pants on. Result: he holds it in for days. The second a nappy is on, there is a large deposit. 

I have attempted the same tactics as for the wees: reward charts, stickers on said chart, and a big toy once the chart is filled with stickers. He says: “I hate my chart for poo poos!”

I have told him that if he does one poo (just one!) on the toilet he will get a big present. He asked for a specific train set and I told him “yes.” That has not made him use the toilet. I show him a picture of the train set that he selected. It does not incite him to perform. 

We have read “Liam Goes Poo in the Toilet” (which I saw recommended on this subreddit) multiple times and now he is bored of it.

I have told him that he can do the poo on his own if he wants privacy. He prefers to poo on his own away from people. He tells us to “go away” when he is about to have a bowel movement. The promise of privacy does not make him want to use the toilet.

I have told him that I will clean him just like I do when he does a poo in his nappy. He refuses to use the toilet. 

He is almost four and will start school in September. He does need to be properly (rather than partially) toilet trained in the near future.

I welcome any suggestions you may have, personal experiences, etc!",2.616827926389675,4.282716450199203,3.833181559476383,88.86907038512621,75.73306772908366,7.1713906279643345,23.904572187440714,7.957251820313856,1.1592946689432748,1926,60,410,30,42,628,200,502,0.018000000000000002,0.916,0.065,0.9694,4,0,1,0,0,0,63,5,1,0,7,22,9,1,0,41,1,42,10,6,6,4,58,65,28,0,12,16,1,1,2,0,8,1,2,3,1,16,18,3,6,1,4,2,10,7,2,2,9,8,4,40,7,65,46,9,80,0,0,1,0,75,41,0,8,27,269,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.08679699621275877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906506321391244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060485306281584335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831510957125671,0.0,0.1671325608712266,0.06839282603743957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325661022015433,0.0,0.0,0.07101494136114025,0.0,0.0,0.11472368148748915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5448514855272808,0.0,0.0,0.0871317430655479,0.0,0.09101242286818242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919662275804583,0.05874699974708356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700478270967159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131228313100778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940948194807007,0.0,0.10109841187683104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781427406126327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921858005203817,0.0,0.0875924105566038,0.1026300047109648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690757448380296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416143126280402,0.05937114072925271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099464691220797,0.0,0.0,0.06595121564369427,0.1371989547908745,0.0,0.09459347893043413,0.1669367656042436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933322848800351,0.09472298378458864,0.180813274079309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061662913314630835,0.07766290182893511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882756716882198,0.0,0.0,0.08896856412119243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595811229958327,0.08460658233268127,0.0707322319793536,0.0,0.09001657693146889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715160991816845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295537098619026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774140856088774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818153984966374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518642500026847,0.0,0.0,0.3399611044244577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698927541004348,0.2304584566648218,0.0,0.0,0.10492353463079604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994356467982426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295053026073155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727733828390541
parenting,Lewenhart87,2018/04/17,"Dealing with an extreme fit! Hey everyone I got a question for ya. My 4 year old son has been having an issue with getting bad reports from school (they have a smiley face calendar system to let us know how they behave) well today he went so far that the teacher felt the need to escort him to my car at pick up and tell me in person how bad he was. So after a talk with him in the car I told him he was grounded to his room for the day alone. Which is like hell for him because any alone playtime just wrecks his world. He immediately took it to fitville and would not stop screaming and crying. I do not like spanking even though I was spanked quiet often as a child. He would not stop screaming and crying and after numerous warning I shit the door to his room. It’s been almost an hour he is still throwing his tantrum. Am I wrong for shutting him in his room and riding it out? I’m on a kick that “fits don’t win” so I can’t in good conscience let his fit be the victor, but I feel awful having him shut in his room screaming and crying. Any advice?",3.1854357798165154,4.25241042201835,4.121915137614678,89.77810206422018,73.22018348623853,6.1839449541284415,24.634174311926607,5.985473137389443,0.5460357798165139,824,24,176,4,16,266,129,218,0.136,0.76,0.104,-0.8866,0,2,0,0,0,0,15,1,1,2,2,11,14,3,0,14,1,20,2,2,3,0,30,30,15,0,3,5,1,2,2,0,2,0,4,5,2,6,11,0,2,4,0,0,6,5,9,1,0,10,6,28,5,26,15,0,38,1,0,0,0,32,21,2,3,12,116,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990857317732565,0.0,0.0,0.13312137891067974,0.27537391928963684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18080910932944935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220006487675346,0.0810397036015125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4380888999655284,0.08573605700275631,0.13705650932454538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878063892955899,0.0,0.0,0.12703098545017413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672190502234854,0.0,0.12764437160806744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945627462468243,0.0,0.0,0.11150474643683138,0.10632519842971616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130920273950741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875604276740594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306099057684601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27188270768529704,0.0,0.12989668154481565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857419341002352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949939529346095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160791022720304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892453593948446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345435619032334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646220106869578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616699046226956,0.22228954244439733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685307709955266,0.11619644260767024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061402500489938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601268519991246,0.12703098545017413,0.1477025319291622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991185945753314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953007784281115,0.12323779690374945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888751864628552,0.14535030045138814,0.0,0.08560975513343504
parenting,Gonzathaway,2018/04/17,"Transitioning from crib to bed (20 month old) My family is expecting Baby #2 in 3 months, and I'd like to use our existing nursery for the new little one. We've set up a room for my 20-month old son, and decorated it with cars, trucks, and trains, which are his favorite. He loves playing on his bed so far, but I haven't been able to get him to nap in it. He is a great sleeper in his crib, so I think the fact that he can get out of his new bed is keeping him from napping, which leads to a very crabby guy later in the day. I've been hesitant to try sleeping overnight in his new bed since napping hasn't been successful, but now I'm doubting myself. Any tips, tricks, or advice is welcome! ",6.387380952380951,4.647037500000003,6.937023809523812,81.96750000000002,66.3611111111111,10.173015873015874,33.07142857142857,8.841846274778883,2.401417857142857,536,18,120,7,7,177,95,144,0.076,0.8079999999999999,0.116,0.7170000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,0,2,3,8,1,1,6,0,11,2,1,2,1,15,18,8,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,5,0,1,1,4,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,0,13,6,20,15,0,24,0,0,0,1,15,11,0,2,11,65,18,2,0.1745167811168713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053577872608428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186773955948938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254888640729817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451888964121186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235563043810546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19240536727970986,0.0,0.17279905079494434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15511853361840686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526008407059373,0.17491166188253313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750820854802192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.417892889100828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5056481840567093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662520097994656,0.0,0.11825708741458672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436208474653142,0.0,0.17464281504907414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118233066609193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848543879598045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072646626203234,0.0,0.14399462129727886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whyisparentingsohard,2018/04/17,"My ten (almost 11) year old daughter will not shower It's been over two weeks.  I've tried everything including bribery and taking rewards away. I've tried talking to her and explaining she needs to at least shower twice a week.  Nothing works.  She has a doctor appointment coming up in early June so I plan to discuss with her doctor, but what can I do in the meantime?  She is old enough I can't give her a shower anymore.",2.710993975903616,5.008497132530124,3.6682981927710863,87.2417243975904,77.67469879518072,6.077710843373494,24.832831325301214,7.1686216300943375,1.1853626506024098,334,12,63,4,8,107,63,83,0.0,0.972,0.028,0.2617,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,4,0,7,2,0,0,0,9,12,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,10,1,10,10,2,14,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,1,7,43,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20440147377636853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243692423848494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917819430276957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17583541696287067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41786070807642894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109154558597402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345418337391028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195815081717768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135593226422894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19586322437424028,0.0,0.4283892222604987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347642518845542,0.16406775993015418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27717464268821634,0.0,0.19940024212585136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32747315957367035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860526540700275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314496609192222
parenting,helplesslyhopin,2018/04/17,"Does anyone have a good sign to serve as a reminder to put shoes away, dishes in dishwasher, etc? I am at my wits and with reminding these kids every day about the jackets and shoes and the dishes etc. Does anyone have a good printable sign that I could write in to remind them? Or maybe just a good method that I haven’t tried because clearly pestering them every day is not working! Thanks so much in advance",5.7632499999999975,6.310383825000002,5.400000000000002,84.845,67.0,7.9,28.5,7.554174236665415,1.5719500000000002,326,10,63,3,5,100,54,80,0.03,0.823,0.14800000000000002,0.8640000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,3,4,0,0,6,0,6,4,2,0,1,12,7,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,11,6,3,9,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,42,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26853735971003223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041425877859535,0.0,0.0,0.11705694978995987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331671986701734,0.0,0.0,0.2476810963946683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360855817285196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283183378497212,0.0,0.0,0.3235794963944835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831855840383937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19291540381148065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411608219295723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303864436565854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767912617889893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037269547737101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979683585294092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,qrave,2018/04/17,"Are we doing something wrong? 3 year old boy Hey Reddit parents 
I need your help...

For a few weeks now our three year old has been real trouble. He doesn’t listen to us at all. We’ve tried to take him out of the chaos of his two sisters and sit with him to talk about his behaviour but he just seems wired.

I’ve thought about his diet and we don’t really feed him much sugar at all or sweets.

I’ve often wondered if we’re not giving him enough activity or attention (he has a 1 and 1/2 year old demanding little sister).

Today my partner broke down, he came home from his school which he attends 9-12 and was just running around wild, hitting my partner and not calming down. Eventually she started crying and he made a joke of it and said to his older sister (8) he made mummy cry in a proud way.

This isn’t the type of behaviour that happens in our house and I can only assume he’s learned something from school.

I need some help understanding the best methods of teaching him the right ways to behave other than trying to set an example to him.

What do we do when he’s going nuts and hitting kicking and screaming?

What do we do when he’s not listening? (even when we do the 1,2,3,4,5 counting thing)

Thanks in advance 

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parenting,ragingpenguin,2018/04/17,"Toddler help with transitioning bed routine to different parent I have a 3 yr old son who is very attached to his mum at the moment. For the first part of his life I was the parent that put him to sleep and we had a great routine that included bath, books and bedtime. It allowed my wife some downtime after a full day of work, and I just loved the time to connect.

Then something changed in the past 6 months or so and he started showing a strong preference for mum. Whenever I try to get the ball rolling, he indicates that he wants mummy, and any type of attempt to be firm goes out the window and devolves into him becoming extremely upset and tellibg me he doesn't like me, throwing things etc. So mum obliges.

The result is that mum is a wreck by the end of it. Has nothing in the tank left for anything else. Mum gets a frustrated with son and our relationship is borderline roommates at this stage because she doesn't want to be touched or interact after an hour long bed routine. I get invigorated by it, but she just gets drained by it.

I contribute as much as I can around the house with cleaning, cooking etc, but the balance overall is definitely more on mum. On top of that I take him away on weekends for 4 to 5 hour stretches each day to give her time on her own, bit still doesn't feel like enough based on vibe from mum.

I think it started around the time his mum started to travel for work. She is gone for a week every month. During that time we go back to our great routine from before. But then out the window when mum is back.

Has anyone got any advice or had experience with something similar? I really need to figure something out to get things back on track with mum and son.",5.781964285714286,5.9224532678571435,5.957833333333332,82.27050000000003,66.91666666666667,8.862857142857143,32.573809523809516,8.548686976883017,2.3984838095238104,1342,53,269,18,20,427,181,336,0.044,0.8909999999999999,0.065,0.8451,4,0,3,0,0,0,27,4,0,0,6,11,9,1,1,22,0,19,4,1,2,0,41,38,22,0,4,8,16,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,15,23,1,0,4,7,0,5,3,2,0,1,5,2,28,7,55,31,11,57,0,0,0,1,41,21,0,4,32,176,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021567618253664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948199651672896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170892431975445,0.0,0.08439412536852837,0.1825915992171788,0.0,0.0,0.09635391100090247,0.2365756704292624,0.0,0.0625166491742783,0.11326407252038778,0.08726685344517161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196362932573713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848971847061728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227913625111545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714827249168372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856716430435404,0.0,0.09083339620891086,0.1059668535097142,0.2287521356938495,0.0,0.0,0.08640711163404434,0.0,0.0,0.10031858599138843,0.0,0.0,0.051854950029350776,0.07326539810754766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723333254841835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26790408655829273,0.09838021587748516,0.058284437990621385,0.0,0.08202269792719269,0.22613476335727015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687405350618288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199226977987425,0.11833483898522555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142643778199496,0.0,0.07243771406054972,0.10020650259249746,0.0,0.0,0.09075805383991964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255999967780162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371703645204078,0.0,0.07538981322816565,0.07604332189261462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840440341654044,0.0,0.10761434664751783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277506480116529,0.11105720086684057,0.09790046624413792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030962213567028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569943584555604,0.0,0.0,0.11010581852953867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262918392436814,0.0,0.0,0.2368558249356489,0.0,0.0,0.21776712502021472,0.0,0.08190065118272201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710868698003295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626612927205534,0.06571317980135448,0.0,0.0,0.2392028604282613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962819447874334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846187143117544,0.12097933359024267,0.0,0.08226353110884135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493226973430344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dawnrite1,2018/04/17,"Concerned stepparent I have a 15 year old soon to be stepson, who 4/5 months ago was the ideal kid in school,sports, social things, and all. Life got a little difficult and him and his mother moved to a different town, which includes a change in school. He started skipping school, was hanging out with the wrong kids, started smoking pot, started stealing, and ect... He ended up getting into trouble, and was sent to a hospital to help him. They put him on meds., and released him after a few weeks but with his father, since he can control him better. Now the problem is the kid has turned into a zombie, and doesn't want to leave his room much less his school. There is days he refuses, hes not feeling well. and wants to be home schooled, but we can't afford that. his father Is under so much stress, I don't know what to do! And it has put a lot of stress on are relationship as well. Oh and please note, we have took him off the medication, and he is just receiving therapy now. He's just not the same kid... Does ayone have any advice?",3.990601626016257,5.2381728731707335,4.533170731707318,86.9038211382114,71.4878048780488,7.222764227642276,26.349593495934965,7.554174236665415,1.2885544715447153,809,26,164,9,15,257,127,205,0.128,0.815,0.057,-0.9215,3,0,0,0,0,0,37,2,0,1,3,9,11,0,2,14,0,21,2,0,1,1,35,33,15,0,4,6,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,6,18,0,2,2,0,0,7,5,7,2,0,6,1,17,4,22,25,7,34,0,0,0,0,35,13,0,1,14,110,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105877633430657,0.10074505761023532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728681002759777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051537647688816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022805051231855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746964434770602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329571363590658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874146323761332,0.0,0.0,0.09945705552061226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066135576310932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746553350243076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059378135560210585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089736067679058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617809906932034,0.0,0.11400156288062502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245980548305381,0.0,0.0,0.12034036152644828,0.0,0.0,0.08027530412872598,0.0,0.11390850225321593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662230700425703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126241020422774,0.11449177062926408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071541711859997,0.12079339068871077,0.16709362694797655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192579655194889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475504497655612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874898562221766,0.0,0.2285019794250797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122019008791647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5751061297638886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940135647826198,0.0,0.0,0.115853231013345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24132901509873186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603744572101367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997021472098658,0.0,0.07550490177406018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627082305907975,0.0,0.12362002460671932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406901257443712,0.0,0.09116425144152364,0.0,0.20437241139192228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124259901507197,0.0,0.07318773822895316
parenting,Momicorn,2018/04/17,"How to deal with incredibly fussy 11 month old? Hello! I have a wonderful 11 month old boy, and he's honestly the light of my life. He's generally a great kid, sleeps well, active, healthy, sweet.

The problem is the whining. Sooooooo much whining. It's a relatively recent issue, but boy is it an obnoxious one.

Nothing is good enough. If I'm not actively sitting on the floor with him, 24/7 he's upset, and often he's upset even then. If I take a second to run to the restroom, or glance at my phone it is just the end of the world. I play with him a TON all day, and while there aren't really any chances to get him around kids his own age, I try to get him out and around other people as much as possible. I read to him, I take him for walks, I hold him, I play with his toys with him about as much as you can with an 11 month old, nothing keeps him happy for more than maybe 5\-10min. He whines to be picked up and 30 seconds later he's begging to be put down only to start crying like I've severely wronged him when I do put him down. It's just never ending.

I've tried to see if maybe he was sick or something, but he's eating well, his stomach's doing good, he's getting enough sleep, he's active. Doctor was even commenting on how well he's doing, and that he's honestly ahead in a lot of developmental ways. Generally he's in perfect health. He's just miserable whenever we're home. He's honestly fine outside. If we go the the store or the park, or head to a restaurant with a grandma, he's an angel. Happy, and chatty, and generally perfect. He's also way better when his dad is home. That effect has been wearing off the past few days as my husband's on vacation and home way more often, but he's still really only this bad for me.

The constant agitation and whining is honestly starting to drive me completely nuts. The whining is just about one of the worst sounds imaginable, and it is so miserable listening to it all day, especially when I'm doing everything I can to keep him happy. My best guess would be that he's bored, but even doing my best to keep him entertained it doesn't seem to be enough. Heck I even finally broke my ""no tv"" clause but he's still at an age he could not care less about anything I play for him. The best I can get is dog videos will entertain him maybe 5 min tops.

Does anyone have any advice? Is this just a normal phase? If it's something I'm gonna have to just wait out are there any tips for keeping myself sane through it? Any thing is appreciated :,D",3.6508733246865535,4.52527805836576,4.923469520103762,85.19402831820149,71.91828793774319,8.201383484651966,26.3400345871163,8.515128840125781,1.6094039775183735,1958,62,420,32,36,651,236,514,0.163,0.6659999999999999,0.171,0.7675,0,0,2,0,0,0,66,1,1,0,9,31,43,0,4,28,0,36,10,5,4,5,74,60,39,0,9,22,2,0,1,0,3,4,2,3,4,16,23,1,6,4,9,1,6,6,15,3,4,3,6,43,28,59,49,19,58,1,8,2,0,53,18,1,15,31,262,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087573690023707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058002427842093814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729227330528476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050714848685235736,0.0,0.05968622927465478,0.12913462882531968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055974285951143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283481195003942,0.06414712652838347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394944049191739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604660438282716,0.07837945113795566,0.0,0.05790951588537555,0.0,0.07967109189036582,0.14032806466197958,0.07477551987344018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423780103922951,0.06347172490656812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421656973634512,0.0,0.0,0.12848057582790845,0.22482946128569534,0.0,0.1916222276532632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518552666902411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945336159865955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515762824875311,0.0,0.04122062186036834,0.1216698925758643,0.0,0.07996487476926371,0.07990026558306006,0.0,0.0,0.23162945185873715,0.0,0.0,0.0744369783170756,0.07709628152364674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182613128913184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570275417525114,0.0,0.25787293339182843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123027213884907,0.03543462452172922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166263879329473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859920401201927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736789000035213,0.0,0.15995427374810034,0.0,0.05593981280301866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106426144624539,0.13918949354134816,0.0,0.2283249410737247,0.0,0.09829677123235353,0.11032507188467566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923834625724147,0.050283354315154696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176697750234951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940166952611228,0.0,0.14582590146828894,0.0,0.0,0.07254989412825898,0.0,0.09292949180928772,0.0,0.07161488796146143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779723180200747,0.06602883049163613,0.0,0.0819385561216153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516529379815918,0.0,0.0,0.11167468517833196,0.0,0.0,0.10267459174977084,0.0,0.11584552888934598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906746767172727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818588615372165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984865797587445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727134484062163,0.0,0.0,0.19564026010711236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865597998556195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515234202613083,0.0793004603252858,0.0,0.0
parenting,vododelnordo,2018/04/17,"5 year old daughter scratching sister and other kids My 5 year old daughter has a problem with scratching her sister and other kids when she gets ""frustrated"".  We've been lecturing her about self-control and trying some incentives (money, candy, clothes), but it doesn't seem to be working too well.  She is well-behaved at school but kinda turns into a bully at home.  We've been avoiding physical punishment and mainly resorting to time outs.  Any other suggestions? My wife was a beast when she was this age, so I've been jokingly blaming it on her genetics",6.496596638655461,7.936278715686277,6.520308123249304,74.26852941176473,65.76470588235293,9.357983193277313,34.179271708683466,9.606745405546679,3.5356565826330533,447,20,71,9,7,142,71,102,0.165,0.794,0.041,-0.9343,0,1,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,1,6,6,2,1,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,12,9,0,1,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,7,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,4,1,0,5,2,8,2,9,6,2,13,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,8,48,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739442791218594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25959166565566416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092344959837716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321639457532774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48573719759448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22146708308866006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342404874794445,0.0,0.210704044853507,0.24145358083170654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349607774202929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571398475820618,0.2517519230579855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162039908307668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684988823614421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29809335343558746
parenting,wildflower2,2018/04/17,"Puffin Rock Theory Okay, this is so random but I have no one/no where else to discuss this.

My daughter is almost a year old and I found Puffin Rock when she was three months old and shes been watching it ever since.

Since I have seen every single episode a million times, I have come up with a theory about the show. Bare with me.

The narrator is a scientist that is assigned to observe the puffins/other creatures in their natural habitat on Puffin Rock.

I have a few details that back up my theory:

1. He ALWAYS knows the exact name of the animals. Example: When Chloe (the Arctic Turn). He knew what kind of bird she was, and knew about her migration patterns. 

2. One time he didn't know what species the Hummingbird Moth was and you can hear him flipping through a book looking it up. Why would he have a book?? Its obviously some kind of species identification book.

Okay that is all I can think of, but I'd love to hear your thoughts.

I knows its crazy, trust me. hahaha",2.209659685863876,4.651240057591625,3.2088455497382213,89.06635732984293,80.36125654450261,6.5425130890052365,23.686125654450265,7.7348632917899725,1.2356867015706805,765,27,154,13,20,244,116,191,0.031,0.852,0.117,0.9563,0,0,0,0,0,0,27,0,2,1,0,8,6,0,0,14,2,19,1,0,0,4,27,34,9,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,11,7,0,0,9,7,0,1,2,0,0,3,10,5,19,6,17,23,4,17,0,0,3,1,18,6,0,3,10,99,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914838565247414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055447839226642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988859713329587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455091118977922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111048919999428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279727435951096,0.14232188574744345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521141084101556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807688965294657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518071365351437,0.2785010652241528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184975835617153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245635978112254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482985900235206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545050044774177,0.0,0.2289283235679632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27946375790516226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823673527474714,0.0,0.13410314059766915,0.19699652915443264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373580827832375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242349099414726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119995500127136,0.0,0.0,0.10877855980323246
parenting,foolhardywaffle,2018/04/17,"Battling ""I can't do it"" as the default response from a 3-year-old I have a strong-willed, bright, capable, tender-hearted girl who is a little over 3 and a half. I'm a little worried that I'm doing something developmentally inappropriate or at least looking for advice from parents who went through a similar stage.

EVERY task she's faced with results in her saying she can't do it. Sometimes in a whiny voice, but often just matter-of-fact. She'll try, but if she doesn't immediately succeed, she quits trying. Some of the types of things she says this to are:

*Putting on her clothes
*Building anything out of duplo blocks
*Putting together a puzzle
*Using a spoon to get the last of the cereal out of the bowl

Really, she CAN do all of these things. But she defaults to not wanting to try. Now not all of these matter much... I just leave her be if she can't, for instance, get the last bit of cereal out. I shrug and say ok and clear the dishes. But clothing and shoes and jackets are NOT optional, and I know she CAN put these things on with minimal effort, but she never wants to. When she says she can't get her shirt on by herself, if we don't have to go anywhere, I just leave her topless. But more often than not we need to leave the house so I just do it for her. I try really hard not to enable the lack of trying, but sometimes things just have to get done, you know? 

Is this even something to be concerned with tackling? Is it just part of being a 3 year old? I am naturally the kind of person who does things for others, so I do not mind helping at ALL, but I'm getting concerned that perhaps my help is hindering her development...",3.0731093099178217,4.7543079331307005,4.2619182708544425,86.20989417989418,74.53191489361703,6.819362827873468,25.559045367556013,7.526774132740827,1.2339131149386469,1286,44,262,16,27,421,162,329,0.066,0.887,0.047,-0.4417,1,0,2,0,0,0,51,2,1,0,4,13,5,1,0,20,1,29,4,3,2,5,59,46,22,0,7,24,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,20,14,1,1,2,0,0,5,13,1,0,1,2,8,35,4,45,40,10,26,0,0,2,0,36,13,0,9,7,196,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544495634232808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037658296768345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663365373555964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547432841801451,0.09995342298065303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451211639015841,0.0,0.0822937419746229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551506392963232,0.0,0.055509834901671565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749585163903585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574301307255387,0.13093634883976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270156497421735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171143238725004,0.1073570879177578,0.15923311448021052,0.0,0.3102649137121041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957880751693419,0.0,0.0,0.08202074720988636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862191876213304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180091684570628,0.07242331553944012,0.07533146354862467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049828332021043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084543430950631,0.10577037537450518,0.0,0.0,0.0852843240260016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945651235798634,0.0,0.10388729223117273,0.0,0.0,0.12514369058535368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106940610844914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503869436502956,0.1932022520736696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32444811168114784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33156788615157023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435813938563637,0.0,0.0,0.11522016966500087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905438791106366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991917050508803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579646040811546
parenting,jjaksha,2018/04/17,"Anyone else experience real grief/depression after family vacation? Happily married father of 2 here (7 and 2.5). We've taken many trips before, but just did our first Disney trip with the 7 y/o. What a dream! Perfect weather and the magic was real; felt like time slowed down a bit, and we were able to all enjoy each other and a sense of adventure.

Being back now, life feels too fast and monotonous. I find myself deeply sad not about the trip being over, but about how time has passed and how fast my kids are growing up. 

People have said the best treatment for this is to plan another trip, but that feels like escapism. 

Others assure ""the best is yet to come,"" but I just can't shake it. It's selfish to want them to stay young forever, but I just love their company and innocence at this age. These feel like the last years that my 7 y/o will truly believe she's a ""princess"" like she did at Disney. 

Has anyone else experienced this? Did you resolve it? I don't want to just stuff it away, or worse - plan it away.  

I'm aware of how selfish and absurd a post like this sounds, when so many parents have lost young children and would give anything to have them right now. But that awareness doesn't seem to cure this feeling, which I sense is something deeper.",5.185956477732791,5.873430255060729,5.33588815789474,84.30277960526318,68.31174089068826,8.118319838056681,26.77353238866397,8.07648339933343,1.5084576923076929,991,28,197,12,16,312,153,247,0.069,0.677,0.254,0.9946,2,0,1,0,0,0,38,2,1,3,8,17,18,0,1,11,0,21,2,0,3,3,44,36,21,0,3,12,2,5,5,0,2,1,2,0,2,19,13,0,0,8,1,0,8,4,5,0,1,9,8,16,13,23,23,5,35,0,2,0,1,15,8,0,2,22,127,35,0,0.12165208914835725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756282251310502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701239385689826,0.24929388302254896,0.10010930393933777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22859228459355144,0.09354294741976388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351696776550964,0.13706024580408802,0.255332724447473,0.0,0.13281257373515476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479250298918318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477876612492766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032494208566449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899908639282605,0.11468276289039693,0.0,0.2460438060388169,0.17381655358964634,0.11680508317755572,0.0,0.11118780556818024,0.10347720488359413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669976896957755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916268934395953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592646824517787,0.29716532936756035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13279762588407718,0.0,0.1097957600710618,0.0,0.0,0.2466722486920529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508024844512512,0.0,0.0,0.08433824118895722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650907366071815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27693342096509865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389021943697478,0.11571899482819238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107474930277282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365372160974196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966494070664214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392625370675408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187262296518646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350710815329504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239738718709108,0.08641815376204097,0.0,0.0,0.07833995689112744
parenting,_inapickle,2018/04/17,"Eliminating paci as a sleep prop at 8 weeks? My 8 week old son has developed quite a vicious sleep association with the paci and will only fall asleep with it, leaving my husband and me having to reinsert it about 4-5 times during naps and nighttime sleep. Ideally I'd like to stop using it during nap/sleep in his crib, but still have it available for fussy periods in the car, stroller, etc. 

Our pediatrician recommended that we let him fuss for 10-15 minutes without reinserting which we've tried, but 1. he doesn't fall asleep and 2. it just leads to him being atrociously overtired which snowballs through the rest of the day. After two cycles of this I just give in and go back to the routine of wake-cry-reinsert paci.

Has anyone here had success with ""weaning"" a baby this young from the pacifier? I'm not averse to letting him fuss a little, but just want to reassurance that if I keep it going with it it will actually lead somewhere.
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parenting,bcbisou,2018/04/17,"I'm afraid of letting anyone help me, even my husband. We have an awesome 5.5mo old baby girl. She's the dream kid - sleeps through the night, laughs all the time, breastfeeds like a champ, is just a general delight. But she is very very attached to me specifically. My husband works full time and I am a SAHM for now. We're at a point now where if I leave her sight she becomes upset ans won't let me put her down for more than a few minutes at a time. I know these are all signs that she is just growing up and is able to understand more about her surroundings, which is incredible.

My problem is that I REALLY struggle with letting anyone else, even my husband help me with this. Instead of letting him try to entertain her or console her or dream feed her, I immediately say 'no, I'll do it'. But I'm getting really burnt out. I am exhausted and cranky all the time. I don't know where this anxiety is coming from or what exactly I am afraid of. 
Maybe it's because feel like it is just easier for everyone if I take care of it all because I know what to do, when to do it and how. But I am also aware that I am preventing my husband from bonding with our baby or even just being a dad and I really hate that. He's an amazing dad and I just feel like an asshole for being this way but also am terrified to relinquish control. 

How can I get past this? 
Has anyone else experienced this? ",3.686130742049471,4.6303369328621935,5.0641890459363985,83.95755565371027,71.89752650176678,8.345512367491166,28.637632508833928,8.697196308434329,2.0461096819787983,1084,41,227,19,20,363,141,283,0.069,0.8190000000000001,0.111,0.7726,0,0,0,0,0,0,28,2,0,0,3,19,15,1,4,15,0,29,3,1,3,5,45,43,21,0,3,15,6,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,2,18,12,1,2,6,3,0,3,3,7,0,0,0,5,37,8,27,36,8,24,0,0,1,0,25,10,0,6,13,169,55,2,0.11156593287070797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843847241808766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534763327670475,0.0,0.0,0.23402848290103365,0.22862496495603676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601911432086594,0.12321580756551585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137489040413388,0.0,0.0,0.09610417244529952,0.0,0.0,0.1251306803583246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186398042171304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210647393731903,0.0,0.0,0.1066060299109794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282217568127488,0.15940544946952245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657719042175535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014826114340016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956058618860427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839411570136021,0.0,0.0,0.11813221406106653,0.0,0.4563349007340494,0.0,0.16351643816305525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120829750492117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469707031559944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706967913786147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650230687352892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546586785918184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675353044891936,0.0,0.11215457725248873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21441598021787087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872170774744455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116465044531632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663293659750835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388369696711315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260219970585503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574594503904017,0.0,0.0,0.11614407070235296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18410715749606693,0.0,0.08855584454604361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812213278737229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pmags3000,2018/04/17,"9 year and defiant episodes I'm looking for some insight in some bad behavior here.

Some background:  He's 9.  Youngest of three.  Adopted (at age 2).  ADHD (medicated).  We've had our ups and downs over the years and right now were in kind of a ""middle"" spot.  

What I am looking for in terms of insight now is what to make of his behavior:  He will occasionally (maybe once a day) either start a fight with one of his brothers or knowingly break a house rule and, when he gets caught, smile to himself about it even though he knows he is in trouble for breaking the rules.  What is with the smiling?  Was he expecting this whole thing?  I'd like to break this cycle of behavior but I'm not sure how to read this behavior.",1.80936170212766,4.195707382978725,2.8887659574468074,91.09400000000002,81.55319148936171,6.313191489361702,25.002836879432625,7.554174236665415,1.2420700709219852,555,22,117,9,15,177,93,141,0.07400000000000001,0.8859999999999999,0.04,-0.5651,0,0,0,0,1,0,22,1,0,0,0,8,6,1,0,7,0,8,1,0,2,1,21,18,9,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,3,0,2,4,2,5,3,24,13,6,23,0,0,2,0,12,10,0,4,10,73,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595261095015216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18030657229468103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926783228832676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263083614713712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282329913412345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491736335256207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22487537936872906,0.2373574465209683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550070701065706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626818777795899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414617736530547,0.0,0.21694760314724176,0.0,0.0,0.21754369961654446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299763126238341,0.14633115211251627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160052555202332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844174020135478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284826871791535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035273196274535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346546988342634,0.0,0.21216665152096795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410969095481875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27812534042205017
parenting,Aleforge,2018/04/17,"Dealing with a therapist for my ASD teen (a bit of a vent). Sorry if this comes off more ""venty"" than anything, but I wasn't sure where to post and wanted to see if we are crappy parents.

**WARNING!!! This is VERY long. I needed to talk / vent to other parents as my wife and I are extremely upset today, apologies.** 

My 15 year old daughter is on the spectrum. You could put her into the aspie category (even though they don't use that term anymore). She has extreme social struggles, to the extent of being so overwhelmed at school that she has complete breakdowns (and has for many years). Her school has been fighting against her IEP and being a pain about honoring it. They also are not communicating with us often as well as disregarding her issues.

This year especially has been a nightmare (freshman). And her behavior, grades and emotions on a downward spiral (at school). However considering she doesn't show emotion, it's hard to know how bad things are. 

Back many months ago for instance she wrote a three page letter to her case manager. Near the end she mentioned having suicidal idealizations. Her case manager decided to not share it with us, until after we raised some issues many days later. Which infuriated us.

My wife and I have advocated for my daughter year after year. As parents of a special needs child we feel it's imperative for good communication and to make sure she is doing OK at school. This includes keeping an eye on her grades.

Fast forward to last week, my daughter attempted suicide at school. Luckily she was OK, and ended up staying in a psychiatric hospital the remainder of the week. During this time we found out that she had been being bullied, and the school was not staying on top of her IEP. In fact one of the agreements last fall was to make sure the main bullies would not be in any classes with her. Come to find out when one of them returned (from back issues) she personally (the bully) requested to be put into my daughters classes. Which they complied with. In turn she quickly sat next to her in class and constantly harassed my daughter. Of course we didn't know, again my daughter does not communicate well, or advocate for herself. 

Yesterday we met with her newer therapist for the first time since last weeks incident. She spoke with my daughter first in private. And my daughter was insistent that she didn't like us calling her school. She also insisted that we wont allow her to hang out with friends, won't let her order her own food, or even get a job. 

Long story short, this is all untrue. She doesn't like us calling the school because it causes anxiety. She refuses to go out to dinner 90% of the time, and we push her to hangout with friends. Her grades are not good (and she is only 15) so we don't think it's a good idea to have a job. Somehow she twisted this around and deflected the situation on my wife and I. This triggered the therapist to flip out on us and blame everything on us advocating for her. Telling us we won't allow her to handle life herself. Also telling us we should not be contacting the school without her consent. 

W....T....F....

My wife was devastated, and still a emotional mess today. We have been through so much and this was horrific. I am not so much questioning if it's our fault or not. But I feel that considering my daughter will not advocate, ask for help or even show emotion that we need as parents to look out for her. I also don't see why we would ask permission from her to talk to the school and her teachers about how she is doing. Checking on whats going on with her grades etc. 

What do you guys think? Are we wrong? 
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parenting,starla_dear,2018/04/17,"Just How Bad is Musical.ly? My 14 year old stepdaughter is on the app. I’ve been hesitant from the beginning, but now I’ve seen the Medium article and a few news articles about the porn, the pedophiles, the self-harm...I am very uncomfortable with my SD being on this app. The problem is, I am one of 4 parents (dad, mom and stepdad) and the other parents don’t seem to care, are ignorant about the situation, or don’t think it’s that bad. I need to know if the bad press lately is exaggerating the dangers before I get into what will be an epic fight with my husband (our biggest fights are over my SD’s phone use.) 

I learned yesterday that she has a public profile when she announced that she has 700 followers. Any insight or advice around this app?",5.600397897897898,5.879644790540542,6.45036036036036,78.10605105105108,67.31081081081078,9.82102102102102,32.66066066066066,9.725611199111238,2.961605705705705,591,24,117,12,9,196,100,148,0.228,0.746,0.027000000000000003,-0.9857,3,0,0,0,2,0,23,1,0,0,0,7,9,3,0,14,0,16,1,0,2,0,23,26,9,0,3,5,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,8,0,1,2,2,12,1,13,21,1,14,0,0,1,1,13,6,0,4,7,76,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885601186337816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312206972618034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17177698600372635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4833453363918077,0.0,0.0,0.16419634996471555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967374997692768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081461956489676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604680440810374,0.0,0.2176694086478037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259946250125404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430787910991204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248103633599854,0.0,0.1307559656909068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42852267074241773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463846178624302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566525097689842,0.20130132720310048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689724107447386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364218305105475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665711190887106,0.0,0.15921376192882378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426112603157315
parenting,Letitbemesickgirl,2018/04/17,"Night shift parents...how do you make your schedule work for you? I am a night shift worker [10pm-630am] with a 6 month old. My commute adds about an hour to the start & end of my shift. I work (mostly) 6 days a week, with some overtime thrown in (so 2 or occasionally 3 times a week i will work either 10pm-2pm or 2pm-630am). 

I enjoy my job & it provides greatly for my family (great pay, great benefits, etc.) Plus right now my boyfriend isn't working, i am the sole breadwinner, although he has applied for jobs.

I guess i am just feeling some serious mom-guilt about not being around for the baby. Like right now i am about to finish work and i seriously just want to sleep. I feel like i dont contribute enough around the house and that i should be doing more to help out. 

Do any other graveyard shift parents have any tips or tricks on how i can make this work? How do i find a better balance with family life and chores? I work a safety sensitive job (i drive almost constantly at work) so i still need to be able to get rest hours during the day.


Thanks! ",2.913954713006845,4.7487011563981065,3.6897235387045813,89.48765534491841,75.35071090047394,6.584623486045286,23.57056345444971,7.3871296695380915,0.8731546076882566,828,25,172,10,18,263,130,211,0.04,0.812,0.14800000000000002,0.972,5,0,0,0,0,0,39,0,3,0,10,14,12,1,0,12,0,18,2,1,4,0,33,28,12,0,3,7,1,2,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,11,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,2,25,9,24,23,8,28,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,8,21,108,29,13,0.09648832094950544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661911572184546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20909011087278886,0.0,0.13123073394234774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17179012471407742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533607883960571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426959684241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445396946559845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130835935453033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854600131103069,0.099698228494838,0.1076099833944626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192120350107568,0.0,0.09757478844345774,0.06893127576560483,0.0,0.0,0.08818857731452823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05041116528753211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31913614344157826,0.10629276371537062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467408764593895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190043120086214,0.1113345676057783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28724931045066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815255458529189,0.09427863960516243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288134069557722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300595533435795,0.07701605722961749,0.0,0.0,0.07154486738498286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109550582598724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124826175388316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713886179149246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480099777529775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655800366095067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829493019072241,0.0,0.07705569774932032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883348231554877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05626311588417937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056911311622211885,0.0,0.15479422195978726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619571745727693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mr_Wilson13,2018/04/17,"Am I the bad guy? Okay So a little background before I start, oldest [6, almost 7] has a knack for complaining about everything under the sun if it's not EXACTLY what he wants.  You could give him ice cream for breakfast but if it's not the flavour he wants then it's a complaint. Now I, [27 y/o dad] am told by my wife that I am a bully because of what I did this morning. 

Son got up and ready for school and everything on his own. This is great. It's still winterish here so I ask him to grab his heavy jacket. Son proceeds to moan and groan about it and wines that ""he will look stupid. All his classmates wear light jackets why does HE have to wear a heavy jacket.  He wants to wear his light turtle hoodie. He wishes he didn't have a heavy jacket."" That was my breaking point. I told him fine. Don't have a heavy jacket. I made his wish come true.  I let him wear his hoodie. After that everything is gravy but am I the bad guy? 

I was raised with a bit of tough love and that is what I am doing. In my mind, If he wants to complain and wish he didn't have things I can make that happen.  I want him to learn that the things he says carry weight and has consequences. 

Tl;Dr kid wants to wear hoodie on cold day. I say wear heavy jacket. Kid throws a fit and gets his wish. Wife calls me a bully.  Did I fuck up and do a bad thing?

Be honest.  I'm trying to do my best and be a better parent to him.",0.504545454545454,2.4136809191919184,2.057531986531988,97.9440757575758,83.24242424242425,4.902760942760943,15.960606060606061,5.888618617440367,-0.7741644444444447,1071,18,254,7,30,347,147,297,0.124,0.7120000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9342,1,0,1,0,0,0,39,0,1,0,2,7,16,2,0,17,1,30,11,6,2,3,38,55,18,0,14,7,6,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,20,12,3,0,1,1,0,2,5,8,0,0,10,10,35,8,25,40,4,20,0,0,2,2,44,9,1,4,8,153,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637268794349868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930948496774046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266089555950829,0.06475602320812301,0.0,0.09039279074670016,0.0,0.1114804559579424,0.09395064337847987,0.11597421606636862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847136917286153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150660996931058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481496474764134,0.0,0.0,0.06850871671919376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296144214153368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864144896721162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820671179953576,0.055500105894535336,0.10190423873843406,0.0,0.0,0.08496078725779645,0.1171175053169014,0.0,0.21036620793235625,0.09393767939781787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862603234168187,0.0,0.0,0.1064690542688198,0.0,0.0,0.08920534489452883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587553981932967,0.1005161546126657,0.07090847519497223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726069411223144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795438849572595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042044782975523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895463537293384,0.0,0.10750910516591168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518921326308722,0.0,0.08483436874493938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117208634700672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301213050854952,0.0,0.07212230721188934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37593860053985134,0.0,0.0,0.12935792577120894,0.0,0.0,0.0958548695586794,0.0,0.4886310020301439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OtherWrap1,2018/04/17,"[Advice] Disagreeing about how and when to help an adult child ""launch"" I'm a stepparent of 14 years to a now 20 year old. 20 year old has been living ""full time"" with my partner and I for the past four years but there is another coparent in the picture. Stepchild has always had challenges with anxiety. 

Stepchild graduated high school almost 2 years ago. After high school, they went to college and after worked as a baker. Full time work in that field turned out to be hard on the body and stressful. They left that job and now are currently looking for a new job. When I last talked to them about ideal work, they wanted a cafe/ barista position with the possibility of baking in the back, ideally 15 to 30 hours a week. 

I'm starting to feel desperate about moving stepchild towards more responsibility and independence. Having them around after high school for the past 2 years has felt like having a teenager on extended summer holidays. Who knows when they are home, doesn't help with chores around the house, gross smelly bedroom upstairs, for weeks ++ at a time there are loads of their dirty laundry downstairs just waiting around. 

I don't want to live like this with an adult child of 25 or 30. While that's 5-10 years away, it feels like an all too real possibility. We live in an expensive city in terms of rent. 

Edited to add:
Partner has conversations with stepchild about next steps, reminding and coaching about laundry, possible chores, etc. It feels like these often happen after my prompting. As a result, child is now paying for own cell phone and transportation which is a win, but feels leagues beyond the goal. I feel like I'm going nuts.  

Are my expectations out of line? How should or could I be handling this better?",5.539042827657379,7.2677361486068115,5.075468266253871,82.64476070691434,68.31888544891639,8.1077915376677,28.009416924664606,8.59863814320734,1.978638906088752,1388,47,257,22,24,422,182,323,0.07200000000000001,0.7979999999999999,0.13,0.9716,6,0,0,0,0,0,43,1,0,7,9,23,12,0,1,22,0,21,2,1,5,1,50,40,20,0,7,5,4,7,5,2,1,0,0,6,7,10,21,1,1,7,2,3,5,2,2,0,1,4,8,16,10,53,32,7,64,0,0,1,0,26,22,0,4,42,156,26,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373863287438707,0.07596205965513123,0.0,0.08580959673167488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130380265319945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985703831454936,0.06555524319899889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288559755603229,0.0,0.0,0.08051180300993616,0.06589296195206147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578887942806267,0.0,0.09518608804989294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841923488548207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557083202835892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166458776029376,0.18365822119532368,0.08227913609658079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0487015538995796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577842153728122,0.0,0.07676448582735397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487700624095545,0.2716194568263943,0.08595750229077669,0.0,0.08439077181773551,0.09887871853485798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007502298809088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047094870782719116,0.06985158685116519,0.0,0.0,0.0931061678307885,0.0,0.0,0.2093274189193588,0.0,0.22700661916572826,0.0,0.07196090293191967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107855975367672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276325348386424,0.09113594026168964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984168962787173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360816018677454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898194167612786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753788967660863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260178993432137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065425433363553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981615402305323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887713701946628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499055931785144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320984975833067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108841637159638,0.0,0.13747620916964656,0.0,0.0,0.07943867274321333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871575237866904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3862863378585166
parenting,SmartassChibi,2018/04/17,"6mo old sleeping Hey, folks! First time mom, need some advice. We've transitioned my son to sleeping in his crib in his room this week, and so far so good! Only thing is,he seems to be an active sleeper (unless this is common in all infants?). He'll let you lay him down on his back, but he only actually falls asleep on his side, and tonight he actually rolled onto his stomach to sleep. I'm not worried about the side sleeping, but the stomach sleeping makes me nervous only because he falls asleep with the binki and it presses up against his nose.

Is this really something to worry about? Any tips on getting him to stay on his back, or any experience with those weighted blanket-suit things? Appreciate anything and everything!",5.360145985401458,6.932340379562043,5.42891240875912,80.54117883211681,68.56204379562044,7.523795620437956,31.94817518248175,7.908726449838941,2.3126472992700733,580,25,103,7,10,182,92,137,0.048,0.871,0.081,0.5842,0,0,1,0,0,0,21,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,4,0,4,11,10,1,1,16,10,10,0,1,5,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,6,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,3,12,1,21,7,2,25,0,0,0,0,18,14,0,3,8,63,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.25286603995366713,0.0,0.0,0.12660568332987734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621208730908414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661780989082208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992490965808932,0.0,0.07897929136143435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644123233267065,0.12673569259756226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020467153580396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769036788974893,0.0,0.0,0.10866976883727153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248508220118907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648309215066574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174048540010854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606797157514932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595266142385706,0.0,0.0,0.2956113415943296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300020801599428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179476301690244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6482737259920073,0.0,0.0,0.09974252435324138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380949767280635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214937890338042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554816460006736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392616171339457,0.15777061041193674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631513299368131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mybawselife777,2018/04/17,"Stranger Danger: Updated tactics? I have a very smart and friendly 4 year old. I want to teach him to not go with strangers, but I understand that this teaching/logic may be antiquated, since some strangers may be police man/woman, managers at stores, etc. hat he should trust to ask for help if lost or in danger.

Saw a news report on how predators don't just use candy, but things like puppies, toys, lies about knowing parents, and even other children. (True horror)

 Any tips how to equip him or have this conversation? Any resources you'd recommend?",5.2614108910891115,7.296192504950497,4.755532178217823,83.45428836633664,69.4950495049505,7.030198019801983,30.446782178217827,7.6454224807358475,2.0123356435643567,437,18,77,5,8,132,83,101,0.118,0.703,0.179,0.7157,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,0,1,0,1,5,8,2,0,2,0,9,0,0,3,1,22,17,9,0,3,7,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,1,6,5,10,9,2,7,0,1,1,0,10,3,0,6,4,45,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604414090832833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477551983115426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955641021040753,0.1750412841564885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047515412390613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061531582283585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763536468918234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564645824650194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947396042404488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892974526118973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780908483666282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942701084691793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21922487000750696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606557430963385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758921301589635,0.0,0.22888967024133286,0.0,0.21866684864728386,0.15631394215092742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066231278948216
parenting,doeslike,2018/04/17,"Newborn did a great 3 am nursing! She ate well, didn't fall asleep while nursing, seemed satisfied... Thought I was getting back to bed after like 30 mins. But then she pooped. Then she anointed her brand new fresh diaper with new poops. Then she spit up on me. Then I guess all that freed up enough room for her to want to nurse some more. Not sure how it always takes an hour but it always does for one reason or another! Good thing she's adorable as hell. ",1.1840559440559453,3.6898193736263742,1.3814185814185826,99.89312687312687,86.03296703296705,4.627772227772229,18.162837162837164,6.11248444174946,-0.409931868131868,357,9,79,3,11,106,72,91,0.078,0.733,0.188,0.8028,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,2,0,4,5,4,2,2,14,11,10,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,1,1,5,0,10,7,11,6,4,16,1,0,0,0,8,4,1,4,12,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660771731591583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306651914108567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914882758649247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925034608898216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272951694695569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492896644377912,0.0,0.0,0.18450637225807426,0.0,0.2425255523678308,0.2423295990993827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21663315305926373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746970979290872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4249105482380385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490621901671762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22617311741187426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025890909468586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073258331158057,0.0,0.16539541841822195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614302454027786,0.0,0.0,0.17463726230320184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297482053111423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778584986959427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chart_man,2018/04/17,"2 yr old Head Injury So at about a year and a half my little boy was dancing and lost balance and fell face down onto the tv stand. His forehead was left with a gash that the doctor had to glue. 

After about 3-4 weeks the glue started to come off and the wound closed and has healed. He’s 2 now and I feel his forehead every so often and the bump still seems to be protruding. 

Will his scar and the bump ever go down to where his forehead is flat again? I can run my finger across his forehead and there is an indention at the wound. Will this be permanent or will the indention go away in time?

Thank you. ",1.978463203463204,3.688953484126984,2.9248917748917767,94.49435064935066,77.65079365079364,5.851659451659452,20.184704184704184,6.574015621080383,0.035834920634920664,473,11,106,4,11,150,82,126,0.045,0.935,0.02,-0.4515,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,1,0,1,11,2,0,0,12,0,12,11,7,0,1,17,20,12,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,2,12,0,0,2,2,0,6,0,1,0,1,4,2,10,1,17,11,0,30,0,1,0,0,8,13,0,3,10,73,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23870006418172546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21885233120407174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600437149144449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22981405947069425,0.2140585979183628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846162414756845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28877912571762265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26074140259555323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27603962904893514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546373506311589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773392100968941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665958359634863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312889408379416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17982673174698016,0.0,0.20289462556073865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23390659818960305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814587582268324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379359749405374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360790803727102
parenting,Cosmicwolftits,2018/04/17,"SAHMs. Do you find yourself resenting your spouse or children because you can't identify as a real worthy person anymore? My husband is very good at what he does and makes decent money doing it. The hours are terrible and it seems like, on top of said hours, he always has additional meetings or gatherings that he needs to attend. We have two littles and another arriving soon. I know that he enjoys his job and has friends within the workplace, but he also goes out semi-regularly. I, however, am stuck as mom. I have career goals that are constantly being pushed back. We do not have a support group in family or other parenting friends, I have nobody who is in the same place in life as me and I am so dang lonely... when my husband does go out it's like he forgets that we exist and he stays out as long as he can, which I GET. I feel so resentful, despite knowing that he deserves time away too. I know I am responsible for my own happiness,  but what do I do to make myself happy? I'm a SAHM, when my husband is gone I'm stuck at home, my son is a runner so I don't keep the car while hubs is gone for outings... I can't make my own money and I feel like I've become a placeholder for everyone else to come back to. I keep everyone alive and that's just who I am, nothing more. I love my babies and I love my husband, but I feel like running away sometimes so I can feel like a human again. I feel so lost and the depression is taking a toll on my parenting ability and patience. I don't want to resent anyone, does this pass?",2.834807692307692,4.330157839743592,4.632328205128207,84.07933846153847,74.76923076923076,7.6843076923076925,26.26205128205128,8.364918446050245,1.7652457435897442,1194,43,242,21,25,406,164,312,0.111,0.7390000000000001,0.15,0.8740000000000001,4,2,0,0,0,0,37,3,3,0,3,15,21,3,0,12,0,30,3,0,3,0,47,61,31,0,2,8,9,5,5,2,0,1,1,1,3,16,19,0,2,10,1,2,10,5,7,0,1,6,6,39,14,27,54,4,39,0,3,0,2,38,16,1,4,17,162,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264829903816093,0.08599479390522356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083706226493479,0.0,0.0,0.10249461224921716,0.0722641471357613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941999065730543,0.1589382745947563,0.0,0.06300069868877217,0.11414104561535095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902616431801468,0.0,0.11168374423450407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901449420517701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713246822095385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863349754160979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975091339878705,0.0,0.0,0.09742840568068364,0.0,0.26128224444765913,0.22149801683800027,0.0,0.0,0.09445927491295852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969463465538133,0.0,0.05399567909565455,0.0,0.05873571863800959,0.086684385806461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200342401227682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366765051865637,0.0,0.20355624132041375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255811055001827,0.18372299320674632,0.0,0.0,0.17039401362578002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299857969850658,0.25245593613337164,0.10358302556830022,0.0,0.0914607689162692,0.0,0.0,0.11281783453744228,0.0,0.18655333346731148,0.0,0.20695913332483687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104130633221034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663210477731483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916632211063184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295140597116048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902405144799526,0.10797789260030266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763398877176193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830873349168437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094085208682461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221497810370128,0.0,0.0,0.11015647101039944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117279420649916,0.0,0.0,0.07770571869860599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026373587827249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095712813247644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527389414177884,0.06095802193300553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mothraaaa,2018/04/17,"2yo is deliberately doing two-handed pushes on other kids; he's sending kids flying. And he's also headbutting his mum and I. Hi all.

So my wife and I have a 2yo boy and his behaviour is becoming more aggressive. I've read enough to understand the reasons *why* he's changing, but I'm not sure how best to deal with two things he's doing; 

- He's deliberately pushing kids. He'll go up close to them, maybe stand behind them, he'll look at me to check to see he has an audience, then he'll push them to the floor with a huge amount of force and with no warning. When he's scolded he's smiling. He takes great delight in going up to the child and hugging them and saying ""sorry"". At a recent play group after doing one of these pushes he had several other mother's going ""awwww that's so sweet!"" because of how well he apologizes with the hugs and the little kisses. So he's getting positive attention for apologizing for something he did that's really shitty. 

- He's started headbutting his mother and I. Luckily I've always avoided then, but he managed to slightly bust his mum's lip and give her a bleeding nose within the last week. He's doing this when he's upset. This headbutting is never about having an audience. 

One thing I *should* mention but I ask you to please don't get too attached to this fact; at the start of January his mum and I separated. If anything his home situation has become better because he's not seeing us argue any more, but there is less frequent help for his mother who is having to do earlier mornings now with me not around. I believe he'd be showing some signs of this behaviour even if my ex-wife and I were still together and living together. 

Anyway. Yes. Any advice on how to deal with this new aggression and these deliberate, pre-meditated attacks in child would be appreciated. 

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parenting,amandachio,2018/04/17,"Please help me and my Pup Vader Hey everyone! My pup Vader was in a hit & run couple days ago. I made a gofundme page for his medical bills. Please share with others! Thank you! 
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parenting,ThisWhit3Girl,2018/04/17,"Early Intervention Referral My son has had problems essentially since birth. He will be a year old next month and has only put on 7lbs since birth. He eats a ton though, and his doctor doesn't seem too concerned about him weight wise because of how often he eats. He's the size of a 4/5 month old to be completely honest. Well, today we had an early childhood specialist come to the house to do a screening on him. He scored nothing in gross motor, not a single point. He just started crawling about a month ago, doesn't sit up, and isn't even attempting to put weight on his feet. Due to the results of this screening, the specialist gave him a referral to an early intervention response group to try to get him caught up or figure out what the problem is. 

I'm panicking, and I thought I was doing everything right. Hopefully it just turns out to be physical therapy and we are all good but I'm terrified it'll be something else. Not that I won't love my son regardless, but as a mom obviously I worry. I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever been through anything like this and what your experiences were? Hearing from others who have been in the same shoes might stop the panic. ",5.0685,6.248339534782609,5.6640760869565225,80.05741847826089,68.86956521739131,9.054347826086957,30.02717391304348,9.354420925462401,2.612152173913044,943,36,179,19,16,305,141,230,0.095,0.826,0.079,-0.7756,0,0,1,0,0,0,22,2,1,0,1,12,11,0,1,17,0,25,8,2,2,3,37,40,13,0,5,9,3,2,1,0,4,1,1,0,0,9,11,4,1,4,0,0,4,6,4,1,0,9,5,15,7,26,23,4,35,0,0,2,1,23,11,0,7,20,117,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074847347011024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478391564164227,0.12423949107897518,0.09978206302453703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739155741083958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444995346388407,0.12713296121307344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410904545523052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24814710290440845,0.20258503179592227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800874063790097,0.10968157243286293,0.0,0.0,0.1089756617132826,0.11861009787368458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335043424588717,0.0,0.0,0.1017024616627012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666255330777205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043300681065185,0.0,0.1399113304398964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923878891741969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943685571798917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863178685165674,0.0,0.142011721053659,0.2903523837372429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895546020257925,0.0,0.0,0.11634689429772595,0.0,0.2544722508263905,0.0,0.0,0.09221945673034776,0.0,0.14226594599876516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462462773080652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23204822441692705,0.0,0.2437883824753126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355061932879693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038547761553187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006058323587312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334758293603147,0.0,0.0,0.08582450851309452,0.0,0.0,0.10137413155447172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866500630112574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913186025849826,0.0962624718967842,0.0,0.0,0.11493502021295945,0.0,0.0,0.08232379753239971,0.13188999901119755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953104553106885,0.10902229320107892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149525522981634,0.0,0.12313975786800585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808387640560094
parenting,HourWestern,2018/04/17,"We went to the beach today. I threw a blob of wet sand at my 4-year-old brother's face, and my mom said ""that's it we're going home"", and we did. Why did she do that? I am 11, my little brother is 4. We went to the beach today. Right as we got there, I threw a blob of wet sand at my little brother's face, and my mom said ""that's it we're going home"", and we did. Why did she do that?",-1.5150000000000006,-0.14000383333333133,1.2900000000000027,103.625,87.33333333333331,4.0,13.333333333333336,3.1291,-1.713666666666667,285,3,81,0,9,99,41,90,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,8,2,2,0,0,9,17,5,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,6,9,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,6,15,0,7,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,2,45,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20215602223376894,0.0,0.14224536529383205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568023061457901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565110448189106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41659878488766816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866269025108275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188556925678773,0.33835803790877195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371678718242305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.329743197237835,0.3209695054777346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114531560453383
parenting,Vdbwwad0,2018/04/17,"How to be a better parent I’ve been a bad mom. To be perfectly honest I didn’t want my 2 kids. My ex “forced” them on me. Which I know sounds stupid but I didn’t know I had a choice.
I want them now and I love them with all my heart but I’ve been abused by my family and their father and I’m not exactly sure how to be a good mom. How not to panic or hit or just breakdown.


They don’t have many toys because their father didn’t want to waste the money. They’ve never been in daycare or school (they’re 3 & 4)
After he left us it’s like I suddenly realized I’m an awful person and parent.

I have no car, car seats, or people to give us rides. 
 I am working on that.
I have no way to get them into activities or school right this second.
But once I do have more abilities.
What should I do?

How can I make up for all this? I see now that I’ve really messed up by letting him control us to the point of me not even questioning anything and being afraid to make even simple choices.
I couldn’t even buy a gallon of milk without his help.


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parenting,Darm8801,2018/04/17,"Listening and lies I have an 8 year old son, every time I ask him to do something or give him directions (lately I have even been getting him to repeat what I asked him to do and he can recite what I said without an issue) but there doesn't seem to be any follow through. 

It's almost like he instantly forgets what I said or doesn't care enough to do what I asked. He will lie about things when asked (eg: I have asked him if he has been wearing his raincoat at school when the weather is bad and he said yes but then the coat was in his bedroom on a rainy day). 

I do realize that kids his age will forget occasionally but it seems he is always lying or 'forgetting' things. This has become a daily issue and I'm at my limit for constantly having to repeat myself. What can I do to try and help him with mindfulness and focus? I already punish when necessary, he does extra chores if he lies or doesn't do his chores and I get him to try and articulate and write out the reason why he thinks its ok to ignore me. 

I am at a loss of what to do, is this normal for the age? Help me please.

TL:DR   My 8 year old son lies and doesn't follow through with directions.",2.2143801652892563,3.718368330578514,3.757099173553719,89.67746694214877,76.43801652892563,6.658181818181817,21.19090909090909,7.365786028017652,0.5313018181818188,904,22,198,11,20,300,125,242,0.145,0.78,0.075,-0.9574,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,2,6,7,1,0,9,2,29,1,1,1,0,37,48,23,0,3,10,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,3,1,14,13,0,2,5,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,6,4,29,3,25,39,2,24,0,1,0,0,36,6,0,9,17,133,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808817045347655,0.0,0.13013682553099318,0.0,0.09812580320149608,0.0,0.0,0.08019529656601371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5512352660838375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846521523050357,0.0,0.13024255621344755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023577430148134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743861122150427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605400572167774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319986114331677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185147123786168,0.0,0.0778905383259224,0.0,0.09935968965104036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322535214191604,0.11312758328028548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808972435316854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461730394298489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302827331447714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761381679308367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907397823782764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554470788844072,0.0,0.0,0.24749185298965595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944987413025286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124994638208415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365304920513583,0.0,0.0,0.11934974833837356,0.0,0.21471501359772596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907869765678518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669266173092938,0.07556370103769419,0.0,0.0,0.06876494748618854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013116660282947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641195963059152,0.0,0.0,0.11367868515527788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188393388654153
parenting,tpmxx,2018/04/17,"Daughter’s self image... My daughter is 10 going on 11, going on 19. 
She recently got a haircut from somewhere other than the salon she normally goes to. The gal at the new place messed her hair up ( so my child says ) and my daughter decided to “fix” her bangs with kitchen scissors. Yup. And her cowlick too. Yup. She has since decided to wear a cute little beanie everywhere ( including school, the school is lax ). She hates her hair. I have said a few things & have shown emotional support but was wondering if there’s something else I can do. Single father. So I cannot first hand relate although I have sort of tried to fix my own hair as an adult. Thx ",2.0940607424071978,4.642202236220476,2.9069122609673816,90.3786811023622,81.75590551181102,6.148256467941509,24.032058492688407,7.447530270364453,1.2004830146231722,512,19,101,8,14,161,90,127,0.059,0.875,0.066,-0.0226,0,0,1,0,0,0,22,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,8,2,10,6,5,0,0,10,17,8,0,2,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,2,3,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,3,6,16,2,13,14,3,11,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,3,3,62,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22545309255451634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382298287291684,0.2340604354006407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699156372902644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23651174429916003,0.0,0.16641947685937197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054345537880161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085494365696704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20096362310845312,0.0,0.0,0.2038728635501577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739786553082655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20545252964559235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793041250808,0.16547246641214125,0.0,0.4211733345888553,0.0,0.0,0.2170713758359848,0.0,0.0,0.1721247806571702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018908372523294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23612514660165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382381860155131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127172103142344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22565238206451024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wy_70707070,2018/04/17,"Father/daughter relationship after divorce First time poster here... thanks all.

I’m going through a divorce and have 3 kids- 14, 12, 9.  I will have joint custody and live in the same small town. 

 My STBX and I fought a LOT before this divorce process, which is not a good environment for kids, so if I imagine this will be a better situation for everyone.

My 14 yo daughter has totally reclused herself from me.  We had a very good relationship before all of this.  My daughter won’t speak to me much and is hurt.  She won’t visit with me and doesn’t want me to have any custody at this time.  Before the divorce, my daughter was going through a rough time and hurting herself (cutting) and has had a suicide attempt- with anxiety, girls in school, and self-worth issues.  My marriage and arguing has not helped and likely caused some of this.  She has been going through treatment and therapy for these issues and is doing really well now, 6 months later.

In the child custody agreement, I wrote in that I’d like to take steps towards recoperation with my daughter.  Starting game with joint/guided therapy sessions, leading towards spending time together, then eventually custody.  Her mother thinks she is “not ready” for this and thinks it would stress her out too much to be “forced” to spend time with her dad.  She is a teenager, freshman in hs and is spending most of her time with her boyfriend and friends.

I have a great relationship with my boys and used to with her, before the cutting and now divorce.  I miss her and love her, and I feel that I am losing out on her life.

Does anyone have any advice? How can I build a better relationship with her and repair this?  I am lost and losing time.",5.289735586752077,6.765004463949842,5.392171187133709,81.10660760528826,68.62382445141066,7.6794875289627935,31.424424151560586,8.04050195162591,2.2508565081095817,1340,56,244,17,23,421,160,319,0.124,0.7879999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.8311,0,0,0,0,5,1,44,1,0,0,8,7,23,4,1,14,0,31,2,0,4,3,55,48,25,1,3,4,6,2,2,1,5,1,1,0,5,12,33,0,0,4,1,3,6,6,11,1,1,7,3,38,12,38,34,9,34,0,6,0,1,47,13,0,4,17,176,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524080289886436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255787761181392,0.0,0.07455977942544921,0.0,0.0,0.06814917373592924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33173912526168203,0.0,0.0,0.1723981746480536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012249144278687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529150180105112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931311363938545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04928078383745383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290292445188098,0.0,0.0,0.07530053168260277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661733038838639,0.16349654711674866,0.0,0.1074545283028492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532814027080286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20867469683885395,0.0,0.0,0.2034544233227481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884178513867396,0.09523208470113244,0.0,0.08606259711743965,0.0,0.0,0.21807482345787416,0.10639359227417904,0.08286050324672399,0.0879651669423014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779492487539655,0.0,0.14329467436147733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243800629091165,0.0,0.0,0.4185599283485068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986388853878474,0.0,0.0,0.10167632565328426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955374623306227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898560059647563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164481177247187,0.0,0.0,0.10660992020096176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328088317319839,0.0,0.0,0.08973186023472975,0.22291741385125988,0.0,0.0,0.12490213594765015,0.0,0.0,0.3978247552054077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417770025820884,0.0,0.08041810022457828,0.057486858863863524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763194226430078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923570926239223,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bluebrother1,2018/04/17,"Can you sue someone for a paternity test? My brother passed away in February, and we have been hearing his ex is pregnant. She won’t return our texts or calls, but we want to know if the baby is his.

I was wondering, can you sue someone for paternity if it’s not your child?",3.568928571428572,4.555249464285719,5.252142857142856,82.34285714285716,72.21428571428571,8.457142857142857,30.07142857142857,8.841846274778883,2.3047285714285706,214,9,45,4,4,73,46,56,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.2047,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,12,5,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,11,0,5,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,4,1,33,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33441253991058073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634493121792218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011644825067425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956125035886485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6031649438395378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20993961637023514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859961982238284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Light_Forged,2018/04/17,"Being an involved parent as an married male is extremely frustrating. In my marriage I have had to take on more of the (mother) role. And my gosh the judgement that I get from women sometimes is absolutely sickening. 

I'm treated as if I'm an idiot who is incapable of using Google or reading a book. I constantly get things like ""Oh, is your wife not able to come buy this?"", ""Oh, is your wife sick?"", or even interactions with friends. It's as if they just look right past me. For instance at our Jack & Jill shower literally everything was only addressed to my wife. ""Congratulations M! You are soon to be a proud parent!"" Oh, and another one. I was trying to be a good husband while my wife could not go to the store. I go into a maternity store with a list my wife gave me and I kid you not. The what are you doing in here looks said it all. 

Even the manufacturers of baby products do this. Nearly everything says (mom) vs just saying (parent). And I know this is the result of men traditionally being disconnected from raising young children. But many modern families don't have one parent who devotes themselves to the child. 

Is there anyone else speaking up about making things more accommodating for men? ",3.6233853191931793,5.955375576419216,4.9458265751715516,79.02605531295491,74.89519650655022,7.506009565398212,26.188604699521733,8.418075326091056,1.9812019546683304,953,35,173,18,21,316,143,229,0.054000000000000006,0.8640000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.7534,5,0,0,0,0,0,39,1,5,1,1,8,9,2,1,15,0,22,1,0,3,1,25,37,13,0,3,11,12,0,1,1,0,1,4,2,7,11,8,0,0,1,2,3,3,4,3,0,2,5,6,21,6,28,27,3,17,0,0,2,0,38,8,0,4,7,122,32,2,0.13298328175942986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408733022651396,0.0,0.0,0.13944456595069873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298500262150428,0.13625708739970968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455332209125994,0.0,0.1437076844055854,0.0,0.10617632953678327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109046786799524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566840681380558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23903359766773485,0.0,0.12536480283379892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274255360804213,0.0,0.13895655207351665,0.0,0.15115492724962945,0.11154006739074132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730841338417136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496891422263534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233449279651395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876737320652563,0.13482417515264836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574841235538664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802258267091449,0.10113977823422672,0.0,0.0,0.5906487875339353,0.0,0.12694758981135454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301926892409227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135669960142462,0.12649755381832106,0.2115072864263916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315238660337859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998687790947566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17669636670444056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028691906277823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148548581016046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dpy87,2018/04/17,"Creeps staring at kids. Am I imagining things or should I be worried? I have a 9 year old son who plays little league. One of his friend's sister always comes to our practice. I see a few of the male parents staring in her direction. They always turn their heads and look anytime she moves or is near them. 

If I'm right I just think this is so creepy and that I might be surrounded by pedophiles. Maybe I'm over thinking it but it sickens me that this might be the case especially since these are 9 year old kids! I feel like I'm in denial  but my two senses says I'm not mistaken.",1.507249999999999,3.6329005583333327,2.666666666666668,93.755,80.91666666666666,5.666666666666668,21.666666666666664,6.816661863887847,0.3914166666666672,457,14,100,5,12,146,87,120,0.05,0.882,0.069,0.2748,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,0,2,4,0,1,4,0,11,1,1,0,0,17,22,8,0,2,7,3,1,1,1,3,0,1,0,3,9,3,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,6,16,3,9,16,1,14,0,0,4,0,16,8,0,5,5,62,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027990832341798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673647040226724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920009462099709,0.1299873193693055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057650113203396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186736357368092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889308590292254,0.18236479068297834,0.0,0.0,0.1527947642741278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18279632875875268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3860469360503195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338733257913635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818583071330908,0.0,0.12329611851508784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203736678124448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538693932665434,0.0,0.14469639524039304,0.0,0.0,0.14499305018390676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051347110886135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088154382853875,0.2331763782153336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791270594985397,0.1777417239825061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847821887359159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234343640705834
parenting,A-Life-Not-Lived,2018/04/17,"Almost 4 year old not potty trained, mother doesn't want to? [Advice needed] Hi!

I'm a mother of 2, with an added son. (Married into him).

I was looking for advice on how to address potty training for my step-son with his mother, preferably without losing the good relationship we all have.

He's almost 4, and from what I understand by talking to the pediatrician, he will be considered developmentally delayed if he's not potty trained by 4.

He's a good kid, and he wants to be potty trained, so at our house, he uses the bathroom, for the most part. But, at home, he doesn't. His mother doesn't do anything for that, he's in diapers 24/7 and doesn't even have a potty seat there.

We've tried giving her a potty seat, we've tried talking about it nicely, gently encouraging her to work with him, but she won't.

He's a smart kid, no one wants to see him fall behind his peers, but he is.

How would you prefer to be addressed if this was a problem you had?

Side note:
This isn't a ""kid won't potty train"" thing, she openly admits that she isn't doing anything for it. She just doesn't want to.",3.1119793322734486,4.419960590090092,4.598436671966084,85.35326709062005,73.72972972972974,6.484790673025968,23.869634340222568,6.794906146795322,0.7577596184419715,849,24,174,7,17,284,117,222,0.08199999999999999,0.8590000000000001,0.058,-0.6055,0,0,0,0,0,0,41,2,2,0,2,7,7,0,0,12,0,22,0,0,3,1,37,34,11,0,11,9,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,8,9,0,1,4,0,0,1,13,2,0,1,3,2,19,5,28,24,3,11,0,1,2,0,41,7,0,5,3,110,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104378621813181,0.0,0.0,0.3181153889147148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26142748178785924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491389102386517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237608057602994,0.0,0.26645889690182256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933185397009494,0.0,0.0,0.18328277488859268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333875900525681,0.17770398802107865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777960884338555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667835305748438,0.0,0.10763570459821156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201081372811705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199070134414758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053726632436006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657680798344742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25534296937432943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552781628167937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156870927274426,0.0,0.0,0.16536051490551507,0.0,0.13718881254732546,0.0,0.0,0.37475739443666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311838180155327,0.0,0.11563914126041035,0.0,0.0,0.11283706623540345,0.0,0.0,0.102289282052281
parenting,Towellswife,2018/04/18,"Is being the ""squeaky wheel "" really necessary? So, last year we moved to a different city which of course meant transferring my 3 elementary school children to a different school. I had them all attend a school that was assigned to us through the district. I was hesitant to even send them there because it had a bad reputation and poor testing scores.  Well a few months in my oldest daughter a 4th grader was being bullied terribly. Long story short, i made the decision to check into other schools.  I found a parent choice school, it was exactly what I was looking for.  My kids were excited to start there,  however, they were put on a waiting list and I was told i could be waiting for up to a year.  Well that wasn't so, my oldest got in first then 2 months later my son a (2nd grader) got in!! Because of them in the school it put my youngest, a kindergartener, on the siblings waiting list, so her chances of getting in to this school just went up significantly.  She was spot 51 and it moved her to #1. So the end of last year I called the school to see where my daughter was on the list and she was pushed back to #3. And it was explained to me that, that happens when someone was waiting on the list longer then me and they had a sibling get in for a grade where they had an opening in. Since all of this, I decided to homeschool my Kinder until she gets a spot in this school.  The school she was in she was falling behind because the teacher was out on medical leave for most of the year leaving all the kids to bounce from substitute to substitute and it really affected her learning.  
So in February I called the new school to see where she was at and she was still #3 but that I should be receiving a call in March with a spot for her. I was so happy with that!! So March came and went. I decided to call again 2 weeks ago and again asked where my daughter was on the list,  she was pushed back to #5 and now it could be that my daughter probably wouldn't get in to this school until she's in 2nd grade. The school has always said that they like the same family to all attend the same school.  
I understand that there are rules for student to teacher ratio.  I get that. Now here's my question, is calling the school weekly or biweekly to be a ""squeaky wheel "" really necessary?  The homeschool is going great,  but I want my Kinder to have all the same great experiences my older 2 have with attending school.  Has anyone been in a similar situation? 

tl;dr: My kid is on a waiting list for school would calling the school weekly or biweekly make a difference? ",5.29127988047809,5.8794096494023895,5.595455677290835,82.88708789840639,68.04382470119522,9.143525896414344,30.4285358565737,9.188382445141503,2.4093643426294817,2012,74,405,36,32,641,200,502,0.03,0.894,0.076,0.9817,4,0,0,0,0,0,54,2,0,7,1,29,9,0,0,43,0,47,1,0,3,6,57,78,27,0,6,5,6,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,4,24,19,0,5,9,0,2,16,2,2,2,1,37,4,54,7,70,30,10,85,0,0,3,0,45,32,0,4,38,293,78,25,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04067039922812685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038176349266397236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03208079460639962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042892184031877854,0.0,0.0,0.07055872579234589,0.03830839926488743,0.0839051959291989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28109544200718434,0.05247520380329146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326387963435302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380644061436454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040636609108596455,0.0,0.0,0.030303715217209818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04488004781725042,0.043252163006906034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039026029896067294,0.0,0.05030572906154973,0.0,0.0,0.11985364522786535,0.0,0.02607501230375397,0.0,0.07338984234463382,0.101167085763032,0.0,0.0,0.04057207862438902,0.04884077058636261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479765390387652,0.0,0.09716189880942658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02241495224193436,0.0,0.0,0.04060290280094095,0.03852816345876898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04341334972408365,0.030625668519684342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046219895350521116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324294249020671,0.09752767113271976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04431178638242789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050944996244515366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04946706576704739,0.0,0.0,0.09224538600781004,0.0513967919893949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881768954329573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04364297389737373,0.0,0.0,0.8358054203662517,0.07312182409403363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03795292099947197,0.05157173650972036,0.0,0.0,0.0388744984078659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032474537286544806,0.0,0.03664032048517949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04384089629155203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776334099292942,0.0551887338464896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02706157698881076,0.0,0.11040799189786014,0.0,0.08250437053380573,0.08506358435479215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032592274366845184,0.0,0.0,0.11818245392805285
parenting,gtchuckd,2018/04/18,"Dad voice My kids are almost 4 and almost 2. And they act that way. Generally not listening or, in the case of the 3 year old, questioning everything. But I do like that when I need full attention and immediate compliance I can unleash Dad voice and get instant reaction. Not to be used often but it works. Which is nice. ",2.1424423963133634,4.7574458709677465,4.0417050691244265,81.86112903225808,82.2258064516129,8.704147465437789,24.98617511520737,9.23628265651192,2.610269124423963,252,10,49,8,7,85,50,62,0.02,0.89,0.09,0.6428,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,17,9,8,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,3,8,1,7,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,5,4,31,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6163876097540598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766097609280079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080056955785832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036409949245536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282124477549424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32295976623246525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447802279867574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658201621101524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24429873784337786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22406502910371887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198198038399732
parenting,kiddoesntdonaps,2018/04/18,"Special needs child - is integration in mainstream schools better than segregation? My daughter has autism and global developmental delay. I live in Canada and here, it's very much all about integration, so she would be attending a mainstream school. Is this a good thing though? She is so far behind her peers, I just don't understand how she will ever fit in and it worries me a lot.

I have a friend in another country who has a special needs kid and they segregate from mainstream schools. So he will attend a special needs school with experienced special needs teachers and with peers who have difficulties just like him. This seems better to me, but everyone keeps telling me integration is better. But no one really says why its better? Anyone been through this before that can tell me how integration works?
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parenting,Drewbeethegamer,2018/04/18,Would you let your child have a YouYube Channel? About a year ago my son asked my to start a YouTube channel with him and I did.  We launched the channel 10.5 weeks ago and it's doing well.  We have a lot of cool adventures together.  I have gotten some lip from a friend.... about letting my son be on youtube... same friend who's wife posts naked pics of there kid on Facebook for the world to see.  A little hypocritical or is it just me?,1.1142045454545482,3.4877947386363637,1.787454545454544,97.92118181818184,84.56818181818181,4.883636363636365,22.43636363636364,6.2581,0.16340545454545466,339,12,77,3,10,104,63,88,0.031,0.8320000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.7994,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,2,0,0,5,5,0,0,8,1,10,1,1,1,0,12,14,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,11,5,11,8,3,10,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,3,5,52,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333259095467057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22849904366323798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776754770882228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4998705715787182,0.0,0.0,0.2449723416454874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077965413802442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340861178212855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947705305001544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730012327622847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605841274554675,0.0,0.21976229691405946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362845216972597,0.0,0.0,0.15739801032435607
parenting,dmakproductions,2018/04/18,Anyone know of communities online with parents of children about to go to college My son is about to go to college and I'd like to discuss what I should be expecting as a parent during this time. Does anyone know of any good communities to meet other parents of high school age / about to go to college students? Thanks!,3.4198907103825142,5.965067737704921,4.430737704918034,81.4043579234973,76.54098360655738,6.033879781420765,28.19945355191257,7.1686216300943375,1.7566699453551908,256,11,44,3,6,83,40,61,0.0,0.865,0.135,0.8221,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,9,2,0,2,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,17,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,3,27,5,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283828046180636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29373767796250466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838124097150063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581214396768965,0.1761763696910439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22192481698153468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308712498288529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261772041445642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6996926861197797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257746471664435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933818623152976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247933826004707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stone500,2018/04/18,"How do I get my 15-month old to to stop throwing food on the floor? So my daughter generally eats pretty well.  We put her in her high chair and we'll put the food on her tray.  Corn, peanut butter sandwich, cheese quesadilla, whatever.  Everything is fine, but once she stops getting hungry, she decides to start pushing all her food onto the floor or into her lap.  She can't really see the floor, so it's not like she's watching our dogs eat it or anything.  

We've tried mostly ignoring it and saying ""Food stays on the tray"" while we pick the food back up, but we don't give it to her.  We've started trying to sternly tell her ""No no!"" when she does it, which will often make her cry, but we stand our ground.  However it still happens.  She's doing it at daycare too, which is getting embarrassing.

Any tips?",2.8004732142857165,4.7254732437500016,3.76464285714286,88.42750000000004,75.9375,6.571428571428572,24.55357142857143,7.447530270364453,1.0896696428571429,629,21,128,8,14,202,101,160,0.126,0.843,0.03,-0.9521,1,0,0,0,0,0,27,7,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,6,0,8,8,0,3,1,24,17,12,0,0,6,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,9,7,8,3,1,0,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,4,24,3,13,15,2,28,0,0,2,0,25,13,0,4,10,81,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808018101630476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777890003297167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136539906509633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051840975944845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398035727807334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24316545512188026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678793371980833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7183892842596736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623595031255435,0.11398316235283867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050723099883384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554006442975826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05804954762467004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931340580529178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948411496122222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468181164284148,0.12653963457187753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088285950154648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388942376686649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611926235046752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449059171821507,0.0,0.0,0.09468431528058976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168203097508962,0.12664652311256322,0.09488996478914866,0.19867801435928467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385409155574232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134223176515566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683362906269278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MoreYogurt,2018/04/18,"Where to find nice kids clothes online? Does anyone know the best places to shop online for kids?  I have two little ones and it's a pain to drag them out.  In addition to Amazon (which has junk) I found a couple...  www.melijoe.com and www.miniruby.com, but haven't tried yet...  Lots more out there but seem kinda dodgy. Free shipping and returns are key in case smthing doesn't fit. 
Thanks!",2.5874999999999986,5.490152750000004,1.788333333333334,96.49,84.0,4.866666666666667,17.722222222222218,6.42735559955562,-0.19517777777777745,306,7,60,3,9,87,57,72,0.153,0.72,0.127,-0.2626,0,0,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,1,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,0,0,14,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,4,1,2,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,3,5,9,8,3,10,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,3,2,35,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085780679472966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28645142006988983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020216114024948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23886641729590136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494776560143757,0.0,0.0,0.2992831454362411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500099704605061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27357451605963545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320581901822773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496265550203594,0.0,0.2904453800258172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851818582359241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484897046833429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25130203500886544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18531981361250136,0.0,0.2666392231746632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FranniPants,2018/04/18,"Pros & Cons of large age differences between kids? We have a boy who is 7 1/2 right now, and we are planning on conceiving in another 5-6 months. This would mean son would be 8 1/2 by the time baby is born.

He is dying for a sibling - he so badly wants to be a big brother. 

However, I am starting to feel sad about the huge age difference. Is it even worth it at this point? I haven't had to change a diaper in over 5 years. I haven't had to wake for a night time feeding in 7 years. It seems somewhat daunting to start all over from my fully independent boy.

I do absolutely miss my baby though. I just am concerned because ...well, will they ever be friends? Will he ever have anything in common with this new child? They'll never be interested in the same books, toys, tv shows, etc. He'll be in 8th grade by the time the new one starts kindergarten. Would it be more like two only children, rather than siblings (if that makes sense)?? Example: Son would not need to go to daycare during the summer by the time the baby is in kindergarten. So, would I send the younger one to daycare and my son is home alone? Or do I have him watch younger sibling and then that's more of a parental role which isn't fun for him?

I'd like to hear insight from parents with kids that have large age gaps, or those of you who have siblings that are much younger or older than you.",3.2230720302561444,4.499083660649824,3.8250438370293978,91.13258724428404,73.4043321299639,6.720233797490116,25.82585525184804,7.07126945348624,0.9290396768093521,1062,35,232,10,21,335,154,277,0.062,0.89,0.048,-0.6147,3,1,0,0,0,0,41,2,2,2,1,11,9,0,0,15,0,36,2,1,2,4,33,49,11,1,9,7,6,1,2,1,9,0,1,1,6,15,7,1,0,4,4,1,2,5,3,1,3,2,3,18,6,37,32,7,42,0,2,1,0,30,15,0,6,27,150,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683539468052513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268929936679622,0.0,0.0,0.1284138010428655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077713855292897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022520214637572,0.0746526963599594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295502896930171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709792053992328,0.2558968709124899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365793268929014,0.08088607716015538,0.22155074142036216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061921294414076074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946151020493958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959890699988035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802541912074573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284101283941601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965909417949155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174542854592645,0.0,0.0,0.13339880197961554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774930656580333,0.0,0.09002486393451642,0.09080523499630684,0.09445150638572199,0.2365522871860856,0.0,0.11492382727342562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659690594325244,0.09313911425047144,0.0,0.0,0.2719627522646121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157677205728328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458327674357276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114862955795588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260041177446921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031990142743952,0.0,0.2856381259047364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962917854418105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223222594005002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101095168234938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349732698392755,0.0,0.0,0.15772513401215155
parenting,Dreamer_until,2018/04/18,My 2 year old refuses to talk! He will say one or two words occasionally but he isn’t talking much. When I drop him off at daycare and I hear other kids his age holding full blown conversations I can’t help to think I’m doing something wrong. I should point out he’s an only child and just started daycare a month ago. ,2.125,4.0488721060606085,3.718181818181818,87.99727272727274,77.93939393939394,6.218181818181819,24.63636363636364,7.1686216300943375,0.9369272727272728,253,9,54,3,6,84,56,66,0.111,0.833,0.056,-0.5487,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,9,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,7,0,5,7,2,13,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,7,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23690851102942845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30121972303935085,0.0,0.17913772101244435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133231635057164,0.0,0.19646572894872272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28044280989870224,0.0,0.18110125813721367,0.2032621119890564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526456427372973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212534664850362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20574862972931987,0.0,0.0,0.18916692289571416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296244743582181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124843819600108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610726941316501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922051854952997,0.0,0.17210569432114073
parenting,OoklaIsMyHomeboy,2018/04/18,"How can I get my toddler to sleep in later than 6:30am?? We just can't get our 3 year old toddler boy to sleep later than 6:30am on a regular basis. His usual bedtime is somewhere between 8:30 and 9pm, but it seems no matter when we put him in bed he does not fall asleep until sometime around 9:30 or even as late as 10. We have tried putting him in bed as early as 8pm, but he'll just hang out in his bed for an hour and a half until he finally falls asleep at the regular 9:30ish time. And there have been late nights where we've been out or doing something and he doesn't get to bed until after 10pm. But no matter what, it seems he always wakes up no later than 6:30am. 

There have been times when he's woken up earlier due to a bad dream or something, say around 4:30 or 5. I go in to calm him down and talk to him and he asks if he can get up, but I tell him it's early and he needs to go back to sleep, and he does. On those days, he will tend to sleep at least until 7am or so since he woke up mid-sleep. But if I go in at 6:15am when he wakes up and tell him it's too early and he needs to go back to sleep, he just doesn't and he is up and ready to go for the day.

I work 2nd shift and don't usually get in to bed until midnight and don't actually fall asleep until a bit later, so getting 5 1/2 to 6 hours of sleep a night is really catching up with me and I'm exhausted. Does anybody have any tricks or advice or anything I can try to get him to sleep in later? ",2.695065856129684,2.6488542310030425,4.2209118541033455,92.70476190476192,73.55927051671733,7.239311043566363,22.353596757852078,6.655083550727371,0.249603444782168,1138,22,285,8,21,382,148,329,0.059,0.907,0.035,-0.8654,0,0,2,0,0,0,32,4,0,0,1,18,4,1,0,8,0,20,13,12,1,0,48,42,45,0,4,18,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,5,1,6,23,0,0,2,1,0,12,9,3,0,1,5,1,21,1,60,35,2,74,0,0,0,0,35,26,0,11,36,166,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.08002590215432002,0.0,0.0,0.080135189590457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823545534479795,0.0,0.0,0.05576680545948005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674838457848605,0.1460052257118144,0.07666442088856812,0.0,0.0,0.12611490819598278,0.06847147822148485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952917352881241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577400728242756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21529167518274464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416410542705975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983342500226509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29991278630924684,0.0,0.2330291360826828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151853134367833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501239240214826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161263085933666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391391238306587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605136840612118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648771042452689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253506185878671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521436135487327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931013295371354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783610522820721,0.0,0.6565207699692199,0.0,0.0,0.1262642543218524,0.08110590487200349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591321405715288,0.14335349439012293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563656755697578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113532089576942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806357659015028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970125192762836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052809093277054235
parenting,ashenfield,2018/04/18,"Proud of my little Wonder Woman Last week a boy in my 6yo daughters SK class was bullying another little girl.   He had the girl pinned on the ground hitting her repeatedly.  The girl called to my daughter for help and she responded by pushing the bully off of his victim.

The bully proceeded to get up from the ground and punch my daughter in the face.  As the story goes, my wonder woman took the punch in stride and pushed the kid to the ground a second time and yelled a warning to stay away.  This time he does / staff intervened.

F#$% yeah.  Parenting win.  Everytime I think of this I get weepy with how proud I am.  I'm over the moon that she came to the aid of her classmate when she saw the bullying.  I'm impressed, but not surprised that she stood her ground in the face of a punch to the face and continued to protect the victim.

She obviously wasn't too hurt, and we didn't notice any battle scars over the weekend.  In fact we didn't hear about it until this morning as we were on vacation for a few days and she never mentioned it to us.  Her teacher let us know today.

I'm so happy that we seem to be successfully raising a strong woman who won't take this kind of behaviour lying down.  She's my hero.

I just wanted to share what I consider a win.  It makes all the days of arguing with this little hard headed beast a little easier to swallow.  :\)",3.40680808080808,5.1335667851851845,4.4052525252525285,85.33818181818181,73.74074074074073,7.427609427609428,24.494949494949488,8.150884317080207,1.4130000000000007,1072,33,212,17,22,348,149,270,0.094,0.731,0.17600000000000002,0.9833,1,0,0,0,0,0,31,6,0,0,7,8,17,4,0,27,1,10,5,4,2,4,29,29,14,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,8,13,14,1,1,5,1,0,4,6,5,0,1,10,4,29,12,41,15,2,40,0,1,1,0,40,21,0,3,14,138,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478779343459114,0.0,0.09087282186135748,0.14012245891922834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554956207527398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645092971950806,0.15283685060955446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236028569579798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694030696767592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963207262133825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422513685843981,0.11970602095904435,0.0,0.137142690023921,0.0,0.15061045591275646,0.0,0.08956921399642809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305342612938707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391548356755527,0.0734394235592053,0.10892609296483458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664548735568272,0.0,0.0,0.5357285171974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919890510395953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306351198945274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213837197513236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483800388754073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165151833788508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243154838914038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004729520782176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562455702038414,0.0,0.0,0.1558411799892575,0.0,0.1266653913280226,0.0,0.14846758465043866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32148030532078936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881829701895124,0.0,0.1071897362358646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28983155752879697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bjjmomma,2018/04/18,"Toddler going to bed at the same time at two places but wake up at different times? Dad claims the toddler goes to bed at his place at the same time as she does at mine. But then naturally gets up and is cheerful a half hour to an hour earlier at his place.

She sleeps in later at my place and is not cheerful about getting up for daycare. Once when he went away on a business trip I shifted her to sleep earlier and then I had a happy morning toddler.

If he's not lying, what might be reasons why things are the way they are?

How can I compensate on my time for her not getting enough sleep at his place?

How as she grows older can she learn sleep habits and set her own bedtime regardless of what Dad is doing? 

There were times when we were together that I would want to go to bed and my ex wouldn't leave and I'd physically shove him out of bed and tell him to get lost, he told me at one exchange that he can't control when the toddler goes to bed, at another he believed in giving her whatever she wants, he's told me late bedtimes for her before, when we were together he was terrible at sticking to her bedtime. I don't expect things to have suddenly changed for him and I know he likes to misrepresent things to make himself look better. 

I've notified him of the problem of her grumpiness especially when she spends more time with him. He responded civilly. He'll either examine what he's doing and make changes or he won't but that is out of my hands. He *hates* being told what to do so I don't do it. I just tell him what I'm doing if I detect that there might be a problem.

But what else can I do on my time to help my kiddo?",3.4820686274509782,4.367647520588236,4.546176470588237,87.70112745098042,72.32352941176471,7.784313725490197,27.401960784313715,8.07648339933343,1.5321372549019605,1287,45,281,18,24,421,160,340,0.041,0.857,0.103,0.9714,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,2,0,1,3,12,10,1,0,11,0,32,6,6,6,0,47,53,28,0,10,12,3,1,1,0,6,0,0,5,0,14,14,0,1,4,0,2,5,8,5,0,3,10,2,45,5,50,34,6,55,0,1,1,0,50,28,0,5,21,193,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381396549378823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405720521275904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612983979699436,0.10079868818451296,0.0,0.07912630388048204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18928847691244655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034486431548817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347398808691558,0.0,0.0,0.0782931873114104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473821047240797,0.0,0.0,0.0924433420365572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697128988116526,0.08582491264741553,0.10169233223635528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952393005857363,0.0,0.08833015442232536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05996785394702744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621397508315825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04916873141398713,0.0,0.10092268928404803,0.09473265035641848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04370906413955287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512975935090294,0.0,0.09766381494942172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943985382572005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18982072809496786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527945057313812,0.060625164461263314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673699404345779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121570021709706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198699163371647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581265060996975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639622821232066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783137270628624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36518254947680057,0.0,0.0,0.25646869918705195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873962731174646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553992634510304,0.07101475177686142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293681878893483,0.08073006489768599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355480017883824,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdmirableA7,2018/04/18,"Officially adopting my sister's child, I'm freaking out. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this question, but I am totally beside myself and any advice would be appreciated. 

To make a long story very short, my husband and I have two great kids of our own a boy and a girl (she's 3 he's 6) recently we learned devastating news that my sister (who has long had drug and alcohol problems) has cirrhosis of the liver and will likely pass soon ( as she is being denied a transplant). She has one son who is five and is currently staying with his father's mother. His father passed away a few years ago also from drug-related issues.  The situation is a total mess and I can't believe it has come to this. 

 We've lived in the same city as my sister and although we've never really gotten along (because of her mental issues and addiction) our kids have grown up regularly seeing their cousin. We love him so much and will want to adopt him when his mother passes. His fathers family is unfit to care for him and I want him to be able to grow up with my children. 

My questions are many but I wanted to see what you all think. 

1. My husband and I are white but my nephew is biracial ( black and white) I hate to admit this, but raising a black child is something that gives me anxiety because of how he may feel out of place, I want the world for him and while I know my children will love him I fear we will be judged in public by people who don't know the full story. 

2. Would my children call him their cousin or brother? since when the adoption goes through, we would be his parents and not his aunt/ uncle anymore.

3. Has anyone done an intra-family adoption before that can speak on this? We have the legal bit worked out, but I need some advice on how to transition my kids for this. 

Sorry for the rambling, gives you some insight into my current state of mind, haha. Any advice would be appreciated. 


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parenting,jmeres,2018/04/18,"Does anyone actually ""have it all""? Apologies in advance for this ""first world problems"" type rant, but lately I have been feeling deceived about the idea I have had my whole life that anyone can really have it all (being a good mother and wife, thriving career, social life, etc.). I mean this especially for women but perhaps it applies to some men too.

For some background, I just turned 30 and I'm a first time mom to my 5 month old baby. I decided to quit my job to be with my baby for at least his first year since I did not expect to have an overwhelming opposition to putting him in a daycare so young. My ""mother instincts"" kicked in and made my job feel pretty meaningless compared to caring for my son. My husband and I want 2 more kids, and because of my age we will probably have them as soon as we can - which means it doesn't make sense for me to return to my career in a meaningful way. 

My problem is that I have spent practically my entire life getting educated (with student loans and working to pay for classes), climbing the corporate ladder at a top wall street firm, building my resume and network, and now I spend every single day changing diapers, trying to cook, doing laundry, and other mindless tasks. I feel that society made me think that I can (and should) just continue my job, pump milk at work (which is actually nearly impossible at my office), and generally go about my life as if I didn't just create this helpless little human that literally needs all of my time. The emotions and demands of motherhood I feel are severely underestimated by our society.

I know there is a big push lately for men and women to be ""equal"" but we are just not equal in all respects. I am the only one who can breastfeed my child. I am the only one who has to go through the difficulty of pregnancy and childbirth and postpartum healing, which for each kid is basically a year-long ordeal. And now I have to go through the feeling of giving up my career and all that I have worked toward for over the past 12 years. 

So I have to know, does anyone out there really have it all? Does it get easier as kids get older? I follow some moms on social media who seem to have it all but I recently found out that most of them use multiple nannies. I just wish someone would have told me when I started in my career that if I want kids it would throw my career path way off course or even end it. I feel that if I chose to put my kid in daycare at 16 weeks and go back to work, it would feel totally unnatural, I would be consumed with guilt, and I would have to take more maternity leaves in the near future anyway for the additional kids. Has anyone else been deceived by this idea, or did you figure out how to have it all? 












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parenting,medic3166,2018/04/18,"Our 3 year old experienced Roman Catholic Church for the first time this weekend. My Brother in law got married and we were in the wedding, groomsman and ring bearer. They're religious and had a full catholic mass with the ceremony. We're sitting in the front row, and he's behaving much better than my wife and I expected. At one point the priest says ""Something something something"" which requires the crowd to say ""Amen"" (I'm not religious, if you can't tell). Our son has been watching Muppet Babies lately and apparently thought the appropriate response to the priest was ""Wocka Wocka!"" 

He only said it in a normal speaking voice, but in a quiet church he may as well have used a megaphone. ",6.955468750000001,7.798721109375002,6.5984374999999975,76.2528125,64.46875,8.9,35.53125,8.841846274778883,3.115825,554,25,95,8,8,173,94,128,0.0,0.959,0.041,0.5983,1,0,3,0,0,0,19,3,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,12,0,8,0,0,1,0,18,13,9,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,3,8,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,2,7,9,7,2,12,5,2,17,5,0,1,0,17,9,0,2,6,56,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957065203128871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882229078279045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697994861284208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249616465976136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626682078038442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21681001283971968,0.0,0.0,0.2321989159218837,0.0,0.1499468495082456,0.1682954256124426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20918362776773566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21049047200286225,0.3519456875496334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5110625812744242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341078827418492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567370544966338,0.12903169188672725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19111716048162072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19895967603853928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249877063985625
parenting,amc528,2018/04/18,"Help! Problems at the sitter. So my soon to be 4 year old daughter has gone from being one of the sitters best kids to one of her worst over the last probably 2 months. She used to have no problem with going to the sitter, my wife barely got a hug and kiss from her before she was off to play with her friends. But over the last 2 months or so drop offs have been terrible with her crying and begging to be picked up early, crying all day while at the sitters, not playing with her friends at all. The crying has seemed to calm down some but the sitter tells us she flat out refuses play with her friends, she would rather just stand there and watch them all play and have fun. What 4 year old would doesn't want to play?! Our sitter has been running her day care for probably 10+ years and she said she's never had a kid go from being one of her happiest most playful kids to just being anti-social and sad. When she's at home she's her normal happy go lucky self. But she does a complete 180 when she's at the sitter. We have no clue what to do for her.",3.5872424242424223,4.2580493,4.075454545454543,91.96651515151515,71.9090909090909,6.775757575757575,22.84848484848485,6.42735559955562,0.3284484848484848,826,18,185,5,15,260,116,220,0.107,0.6829999999999999,0.21,0.9858,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,1,1,9,22,0,0,12,0,20,2,0,2,4,38,30,15,0,7,8,2,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,4,2,13,0,1,1,6,0,5,5,5,0,3,7,2,26,17,35,16,7,36,0,1,1,2,37,12,0,5,17,129,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616029035345673,0.0,0.13092634352217902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271996003772783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080690838495065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4111240456721347,0.16091781653323553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917699971312758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28916431129631825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21270938331905992,0.0,0.099780765362366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280773780954522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362298940686146,0.0,0.12514294267775314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338964945014285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991620808979419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962214424665113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223683637007145,0.0,0.0,0.26182610774377896,0.0,0.2536187549755441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690215171351917,0.23875406143748426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867389815937175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357544825282555,0.13015031910885733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090444235892175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006910838486884,0.10775128310413858,0.0,0.0,0.07358579273616782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17724971071350568,0.0,0.0,0.2410211412493771
parenting,SearchingSense,2018/04/18,"Does anyone know of an employment program where an 18-year-old can go to learn some responsibility and maturity? I know...the obvious answer here is the military, and I agree. But this daughter of mine will not do that. My other daughter joined the Air Force last summer and it did wonders for her attitude and confidence. Now, I'm looking for something like that for my youngest who has always tended to be shy and has a bit of a pampered princess attitude. 

She's smart, salutatorian of her high school class, but so shy she wouldn't leave home for college. She went to a local community college for the fall semester, but dropped out because she said it was too stressful. She majored in illustration.

Now she says she wants to do online college. She goes into crying fits at the slightest word or action I do that offends her, and since January she has lived mostly in her bedroom with the door locked. She doesn't go out with friends.

I keep suggesting that she would be happier if she got a job or joined a club. She has had a couple of local job interviews, but the competition is tough for few jobs around here and she hasn't been hired. 

She needs to get out into the world and meet real people, not TV characters and YouTubers. I'm picturing some kind of Peace Corps situation, something with a stipend to sustain her that's out of the house where she can meet challenges and grow but still have a structure to support her - like the military but maybe shorter term and not so athletic. Any suggestions?

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parenting,FrostyhulknutZ,2018/04/18,Help! Picky eater. My two year old has never liked meat of any kind. I have tried everything. The only protein he will eat are eggs. He won't even eat it if I blend n hide it. I have tried dipping sauces n forzen things like chicken nuggets even though they aren't healthy. I have tried everything it makes it super hard and expensive to have to plan two meals. He picks it out of everything. What do I do? Is he too young to tell him he has to eat what he's givin? I feel like it's cruel. Idk any advice is very welcome. ,-0.33941896024465024,1.9207611743119275,0.8843669724770677,101.66483792048929,93.22018348623851,4.374556574923548,16.44097859327217,6.079149491110277,-0.6400133333333331,404,10,96,4,15,126,69,109,0.11,0.728,0.162,0.8424,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,2,4,7,1,0,1,0,14,5,0,2,1,7,16,3,0,1,1,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,2,5,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,2,0,2,9,6,7,14,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,7,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536557585130348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138608727705736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4826956508314842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771465684698304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239588319977125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950663990833666,0.11233422502153846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408585845240493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053964754603706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637440876064311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304625396491366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496073140997203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127527336221965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499977539332786,0.0,0.0,0.11959016826383237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374370612247952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446507098747464,0.0,0.15449016638165405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202724397240187,0.0,0.3072065631392934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974170536242058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125915125853392
parenting,JustFishingAround,2018/04/18,"Recommendations where to begin teaching self & 3yo unable to talk My son isn't able to talk and is in treatment but it's not progressing as I'd hoped so I'd like to teach him ASL so we can communicate. I'd love to finally ""hear"" my sweet boy's thoughts :) I don't know ASL myself. Should I teach myself first and then teach him or is learning together ok?

Does anyone have any recommendations for good, online sites that starts at square 1? Like ASL For Dummies? I researched myself but they each started in different places and used different methods, some have $100 package that ships like a million books and other materials to your home. YouTube has videos for learning ASL but not knowing ASL myself, I've no idea if the videos are good, bad, or in between. They'd seem to be a good option because one can watch the hand movements over and over and over if needed to do so in order to learn how to sign hello.

I don't mind paying for site access or even that $100 package if it's highly recommended. Free is *always* a good thing, too :)

Any suggestions or advice I didn't know to ask for above would be wonderful. Basically I know my son and I need to learn ASL and that's all I know :( There are no local options available, such as an ASL teacher. Yeah I'd  have paid someone to teach us locally, one on one. Seems that would've been best route but again, I'm ASL ignorant and would appreciate guidance.

Thanks so much!",3.285,5.200533617021278,4.1400177304964565,86.30875,74.53191489361703,6.969503546099293,25.22517730496454,7.793537801064563,1.3029687943262416,1128,38,227,16,24,362,157,282,0.051,0.696,0.253,0.9971,2,0,1,0,0,0,37,2,1,2,3,11,16,0,0,6,2,23,2,1,2,1,53,45,28,0,9,13,2,1,3,0,3,0,1,1,2,9,11,0,1,14,3,3,1,8,2,0,5,4,5,22,15,30,35,5,25,0,0,2,1,18,16,0,14,10,135,31,12,0.11732956002965453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465308813968055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762759301975893,0.12712652927235826,0.0,0.15957624844443133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203955642088635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096873003013562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796528176576502,0.07152301078047359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313013459251212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451688358142169,0.0,0.0,0.102675888651903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749506783815194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285287979889004,0.0,0.0998004638233906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936418731584116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223894140610584,0.0,0.0,0.12396512201118133,0.11769111517732488,0.1165347269279303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245079187034886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32240628879609495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196388945647986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058945087786283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846940873212672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625072673399935,0.1739967641690638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385166391669224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258441790710844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136248497218027,0.12240031973716035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941295546431278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609293296184155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861011197418653,0.0,0.108021295151772,0.0,0.0,0.07794854620062204,0.0,0.0,0.09314656482451228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113301430797998,0.10133506851416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723890290821682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25004265928660097,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,captain_cacti,2018/04/18,"So baby brain is a real thing proven by science...any funny baby brain stories? I once sat in the car for 5 minutes before realising I didn't have the keys. Literally just sat there, baby strapped in, my seatbelt on... any one else suffer?

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parenting,TooTwo_kids,2018/04/18,"Why is parenting education important Education is important for every child considering that civilization is contained within a framework of knowledge. Parenting education in particular is crucial to the development of a child as the tenure a growing child spends with parents since the inception of life is when children develop cognitive abilities and sense awareness towards their varying environments. Humans are the only species in the world that require the care of adults for a significantly longer period before self-sufficiency is attained. Parenting education plays a vital role in the development of a child into a more stable psychological and physiological aptitude that can contend with their environments. In a fast paced world of the 21st century, parenting education has become more important, also a reflection of the social nature of mankind. It is important that a child learns how to interact with their surroundings, peers and external stimuli of an environment prior to entering a school environment. The most basic elements of social behavior and perception are developed under the care of parents, making parenting education a driving force in shaping the future of a child.",16.990634920634925,14.213693566137572,15.91777777777778,29.03,47.20105820105821,20.112169312169314,59.8042328042328,17.451712890111914,10.512997883597883,1000,62,109,44,7,336,106,189,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.9595,7,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,3,2,3,4,0,0,26,0,11,1,0,2,0,17,14,8,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,5,8,0,2,4,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,30,14,3,21,0,0,0,0,23,13,0,1,5,85,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910419604941095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257330723875036,0.0968738749816398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23214552529267396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591948603051348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041222730995268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599255100360101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658440008217291,0.0,0.0,0.8848813067054804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152174142118816,0.0,0.0,0.11876536603464018,0.0,0.0,0.09417392090344942,0.0,0.0,0.2321016767971081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272758007914344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jiu-Jitsu,2018/04/18,"My 5-Year-Old Daughter Wakes Several Times During Night, Spins Head Side-to-Side Very Fast? I'm trying to figure out my daughter's odd behavior. She's had this issue since she was two, and is now five. She will wake up about eight or nine times during the night to sit up and spin her head from side-to-side very rapidly. She can do it for ten minutes or for over an hour. She closes her eyes and keeps herself awake all the time. I had to place a video camera in her bedroom to try to catch her when she does it. Me and the girlfriend stay up all night till morning in shifts to use the camera to speak to her when she starts spinning her head. We have to keep our attention to her at all times. It will never end if we don't catch her. It used to be even more violent to where she would shake the bed and smack it against the wall because she'd shake with so much force, but I think she's calmed it down since we've been onto her since she was three. She doesn't seem to have any developmental issues, and talks exceptionally well. She's incredibly smart and doesn't seem any other issues are there, aside from her having an insane amount of energy to the point where she never seems tired or wants to lay in bed. It doesn't seem to matter how many hours she plays, with who, or where, but she will never run out of energy. Personally, I think the shaking may have something to do with that energy. Doctors simply say to keep an eye on it in case it gets worse or if any other developments occur, and articles I've read seem to suggest that it could be so many different things, from self-comfort, to pent-up energy, to ADHD, to Autism. Basically, it's all up in the air. I've tried talking to her about it many times. I've tried telling her to use alternative methods of comfort, but nothing works. Anyone have any experience with this or can help direct me as to what I should do next? What would you do? Thank you.",5.322798072613178,5.313081873711344,5.495831465710445,85.70672120125506,67.89175257731961,8.603496190049306,25.890183774092336,8.18289091462,1.2573438816674145,1509,35,327,18,23,477,194,388,0.045,0.861,0.094,0.9701,1,0,2,0,0,0,46,3,2,0,1,14,10,1,3,13,0,33,9,7,4,7,59,51,26,0,7,12,2,0,0,1,7,2,2,3,1,22,17,0,3,9,3,0,6,7,4,1,6,5,4,42,6,59,35,7,53,0,0,2,0,46,24,0,14,21,214,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894808906020176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239566521757964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756904483315744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018934272510539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573608327144967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602030725441832,0.0,0.0842711633207855,0.0720500340928321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292246966892793,0.0,0.0,0.054380072605894086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053732822409987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04301551729123261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534917792170027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05518597555840735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216255013192798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578023219288801,0.0,0.2195436669223543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504177694832241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06052411995950153,0.0,0.19050051462460235,0.0,0.08756192272672596,0.23179141419734955,0.0,0.07900059254558241,0.0,0.08639447886872323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718898711155301,0.08602030725441832,0.0,0.07783115798414142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235513298349796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547438894196712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747636837532925,0.08589112133165355,0.09301268826032642,0.0,0.2043197592866382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338385230785246,0.0,0.0,0.058275616795732316,0.087755866077631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323520563241909,0.07196254209110357,0.07580102885520826,0.0,0.0,0.05469828880937983,0.10551113491103796,0.0,0.0,0.2400447421092557,0.09462950234780264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235944096288352,0.0,0.08042723350441608,0.0,0.0,0.2133274492319493,0.0,0.13586645188583718,0.0485620496012904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402712221542983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993929723180221,0.0,0.08390421063503196,0.1169737924050786,0.0,0.0,0.05301965764993406
parenting,coinxion,2018/04/18,"Capturing the Moments My son, my first child is almost 16 months old. He is growing up so fast that it’s hard to stop and take time to appreciate each and every little stage he is going through. One day he’s starting to walk, the next day he’s saying a new word, and before you know it the funny habit or gesture we had fallen in love with is replaced with a new habit or gesture. Now he’s yelling deer as we pass a group of deer in the field as I pull him in his wagon. And then I blink and all of a sudden he’s pulling the wagon himself and no longer wants to have any part of being in the wagon. Yet I still look at the wagon and imagine him sitting there intently, happy with being along for the ride. It’s so hard not to be emotional and to feel like every moment is slipping away right as it approaches. I find myself laying next to my boy as he naps and just watching him breath, in awe of how much I love him. As a parent, how do you cope with the constant change and growth of your precious little children? ",4.408563134978227,4.4620580566037775,5.186037735849059,86.92703193033384,69.84905660377359,7.466473149492017,26.685050798258338,6.67199483983844,1.0163631349782292,796,22,171,5,13,259,124,212,0.051,0.821,0.128,0.9641,1,0,0,0,1,0,15,2,3,0,1,9,5,0,0,14,0,11,3,1,3,1,34,20,22,0,1,4,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,18,0,1,4,1,0,10,2,0,0,2,1,7,20,5,32,16,4,44,0,0,2,2,27,11,0,3,22,112,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501229731685445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195057056427374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085453962459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757066463437153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585952162236263,0.0,0.0,0.16200998914264425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337167163266228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686395394366809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25262770972295817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580392988481714,0.10710269893200572,0.0,0.0,0.13702393493307127,0.12752166225936734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520284849018785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959236099055535,0.2685972964584061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239197353412638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732432168213925,0.3005179484750479,0.0,0.0,0.12589483124846232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706168541959201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966451365912087,0.0,0.11020826580186907,0.0,0.0,0.28958685637345,0.3188827085944205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731555778670148,0.0,0.10158950215204292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646813991070347,0.16234847903525085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803064684629795,0.0,0.11922220206687167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611397026325023,0.0,0.11972610553595885,0.12533962346656213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127209938113195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741941150212425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842655248723491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MatNisInd,2018/04/18,"[Advice request] How to manage your family while living in two different cities? Hi Parents of Reddit, 

I'm a father of a 9 month old boy, and will soon be moving away from my wife and son to another nearby city (commute time ~3 hrs) for a job. My wife can't move as her job is in the city we currently live in (just for clarification: we have a great relationship and are not separating). I wanted to know if anyone who has been in such a situation: 

1. How did you manage to remain close to you child, given you'll see him/her for 2-3 days a week? (I plan to visit back every weekend). 

2. My wife is working, and our son is in the day care. I was taking care of him when he was sick and needed to be at home. What arrangements do you think can be made so that there can be support at home when our son is sick and my wife needs to be at the office? A full time nanny would be overkill as we would need support once in a while. 

3. Any thing else to keep in mind? What else can go wrong?


While I'm super excited about my new job and the new city I'm moving to, I'm freaking out that I'm leaving behind my wife with our young son. Any helpful advice will be appreciated!",2.596747967479672,3.4981194065040677,4.466016260162603,87.38528455284555,74.4471544715447,7.255284552845527,22.203252032520318,7.594959193182576,0.6840910569105692,898,21,203,11,18,307,139,246,0.049,0.835,0.116,0.952,6,0,0,0,0,0,34,6,5,0,3,11,9,0,0,12,0,28,2,0,3,0,30,49,18,0,7,3,11,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,2,6,13,0,1,3,1,0,5,2,2,0,1,6,1,22,7,34,31,1,38,0,0,1,0,33,14,0,1,19,125,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611810090518385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039854714322562,0.115954439467835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732121925571292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389504443582682,0.08503041733114332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22549060286469674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263195542331136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553422602266028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18475345875302465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316975937496093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424648205171573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284606625771615,0.0,0.0,0.12191659395781408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412050917916888,0.0,0.2218447031670819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292054967752606,0.09828999858925017,0.0,0.0,0.0607727502024303,0.0,0.0,0.11708993766080847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952911407911996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463497472008353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165588317758576,0.0,0.08826517055922796,0.3525921911694692,0.0,0.2459845446338057,0.0,0.2136007784423481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603677744613415,0.11776578493255413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278776984588308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872324423512358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811921061370137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429834095413834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509733569876333,0.0,0.0,0.0831435940374413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346549511459742,0.07085621812919721,0.0,0.0,0.12896202943510154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802214582416764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522388717079296,0.0,0.08870188175258441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050471493360954,0.0,0.0,0.1571079783577725,0.12090360986673793,0.0,0.0
parenting,sluiss,2018/04/18,"How will (or do) you measure if you've been a successful parent? My Wife and I recently asked ourselves, ""How will we know if we have been successful parents?""  I'm curious as to how you will decide. What do you hope your parenting will lead to in the years/decades to come?
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parenting,Wrigm92,2018/04/18,"Daughter Won't Go to Bed My 3 year old daughter fights going to sleep every night. She uses all the usual excuses - bathroom, food, etc. It'll be eleven at night and she'll still be awake. I'll put her back in her room, and she'll sit there crying and sitting awake for hours. And she'll periodically come out again. I've asked her questions to make sure nothing is wrong and she just says she doesn't want to. She lies about having to go to the bathroom. She even told my brother that I don't give her dinner. I give her multiple chances to eat before bed and she refuses, then wants to eat to stall. And no, she's not underweight or anything. The pediatrician says she's in perfect health. It's starting to drive me crazy because I start her routine early and it's a struggle for the rest of the night.

On top of that, I have my own parents telling me it is my fault because it is easy to put a child to bed. They say it was no problem for my brother and I. For those of you who have the same problem, how did you make the process easier?",2.1039877600979224,3.9005917953488414,3.202692778457777,92.25552019583843,77.55813953488372,5.8286413708690334,24.339045287637703,6.5966054737557815,0.5984418604651154,816,28,180,7,19,262,121,215,0.129,0.79,0.08,-0.8388,1,0,0,0,1,0,23,0,2,1,2,8,8,1,1,9,0,17,6,1,4,3,28,32,12,0,4,3,5,0,0,0,5,1,3,4,1,10,11,4,1,1,0,0,7,6,6,0,1,3,3,32,2,25,22,5,31,0,0,0,0,39,7,0,2,15,116,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375536201926264,0.0,0.11787035327905107,0.0,0.0,0.09694985372955592,0.0,0.1537177508264658,0.0,0.10728713559086446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860912679141026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384959827754617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580282639530802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140615597045133,0.08327646863740029,0.0,0.10623015653613667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245976429267902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419001291696111,0.21496720076423625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402006957108492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416611336740528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683224321307317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549603652557844,0.0,0.1209798010962046,0.0,0.1323026389114451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399999753026812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412883317955139,0.0,0.253495980270487,0.1412415377285848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007981951473725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261738075406988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848404174028112,0.0,0.1006898486828272,0.0,0.0,0.1318090679796792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188315017120509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020188264455984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047747277487468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088950160365393,0.13886233858460553,0.0,0.14873374774241885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785169660295638,0.0,0.08119315855734761
parenting,adeedah,2018/04/18,"Need help parenting preschooler My son is 4 1/2 and is literally driving me up the wall.  I think I must be failing as a parent in some way.  Literally every single moment of every single day is some sort of struggle.  I have to constantly follow him around and remind him to do things like get dressed for school or get into his carseat.  Even when simply walking up to his preschool, he just will not follow me and gets distracted and gets himself into dangerous situations like walking off into the middle of the road.  He is always having behavioral problems like this in school and in after school activities.  He is always being accused of ""not listening"".  I feel like I must be doing something wrong to this kid.  I love him so much but its really difficult for me to spend quality time with him because I am so darn exhausted from getting him through the basic things you need to do as a person (getting dressed, personal hygiene, eating, walking safely outside, etc.) that I cannot muster enough energy to do anything.  

Is this just how 4 year old boys behave or what????? I mean if I am expecting too much out of him, at least let me know that.  I don't have any friends or family that have any experience raising young boys so I don't have anyone to talk to about it.  Thank you to anyone who replies.  ",5.881693548387097,6.710688137096777,6.442096774193548,76.48314516129034,66.8225806451613,9.264516129032256,32.03225806451613,9.354420925462401,2.9171645161290325,1030,41,184,19,16,336,146,248,0.106,0.82,0.07400000000000001,-0.7944,2,0,1,0,1,0,29,0,2,0,1,11,16,1,2,6,0,27,3,0,1,2,35,44,17,0,7,9,3,1,4,1,3,1,1,0,5,12,11,1,1,4,0,1,6,5,8,0,0,0,2,28,8,36,37,9,31,0,1,0,1,28,15,1,7,13,139,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982369456485082,0.0,0.0,0.16201315176985445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658477981674127,0.0,0.09802668862841828,0.10604322139999353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261524514814582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287278178725447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682339051859956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189083916050544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230841567297482,0.13285174934171892,0.07867850202939028,0.0,0.2007296832675059,0.0,0.0,0.11652349911417202,0.11229696987720383,0.0,0.060231313710194974,0.08510028791890205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203282888679104,0.0,0.37341580865708796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984450336124457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546595687949958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180961055329576,0.0,0.232786620757862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751163340151068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297580285849438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513573876856378,0.17665388449461214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499777685593247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645402361843103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802426695703904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398300632500365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631216168864678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616713769863423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338973438258443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170540445165612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453145759201555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574519702800256,0.0,0.1096708981217499,0.0,0.0,0.15827781100191152,0.07632812576754082,0.0,0.0,0.06946059401597968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455295151889666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024045289619265,0.0,0.07671021832280116
parenting,UnidentifiedNerd,2018/04/18,"12 year old daughter wanting more independence than I think she needs Hey reddit parents,

So my daughter turned 12 in January and is in 6th grade. She is a good kid, plays sports and is trying out for the 7th grade athletics team. She is in pre AP classes and has always makes straight A’s. She doesn’t even try! She is also in band and play saxophone. She doesn’t beg for things and accepts when being told no. She gets moody from time to time and pushy when she wants her way but she’s 12. She is also extremely social and has lots of friends. 

She went to a good elementary but the public middle school not so good. It’s title one and kind of ghetto. She likes it though. 

She is wanting me to drop her off places like he mall, movies or a park that isn’t in our neighborhood. She tells me all her friends get dropped off. The most recent request is to not ride the bus home so she can go to the Mexican grocery store across the street from the school with her friends. 

Now I’m not completely a stick in the mud, I’d drop her at the movies by the house with a friend or something like that. But I see no reason for a bunch or 12-13 year olds to loiter in a grocery store? Like do people really let their kids do that? It seems crazy to me

Her newer friend seems like a nice girl but also a potential bad influence. This is the one she wants to go to the grocery store etc with. Recently this girl was put in an alternative school for two weeks for bringing a vape pen she ordered online to school? Lol wtf, she’s been to the house and seems nice enough and kids make mistakes so I don’t want to assume she’s completely bad. Also I appreciate My daughter was honest about it so I let her still see the girl and I don’t want her to not tell me things. My radar is on the friendship though. 

Anyways I’m rambling, but mostly when is a good age to drop the kid off like that? I trust her judgement but I don’t trust her to not go along with her peers if something is happening that she knows is wrong. 

She just recently got a cell phone but it’s limited use. Just looking for advice from those who have been through this stage. Letting go is hard and choosing the right amount of freedom to give ",2.277711581291761,4.152986144766151,2.9530061247216075,93.88394125835191,77.30734966592428,6.182650334075724,22.13814031180401,7.066338657993696,0.4540248997772824,1725,49,382,19,40,539,211,449,0.087,0.7120000000000001,0.201,0.9962,1,0,2,0,0,0,34,1,0,1,2,21,29,0,0,31,1,34,0,0,6,1,63,67,37,0,9,18,4,1,6,5,0,0,0,1,7,17,18,0,1,9,6,3,8,13,5,0,3,7,4,49,24,52,56,9,52,0,0,3,0,64,20,0,11,23,244,66,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452197023389119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24394555260715625,0.06345577514808305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735053072114216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991771051869202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879863713783053,0.08505186262509434,0.05037007927490288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945976834427767,0.0,0.07968709537086939,0.07315709276732205,0.17336493923863971,0.2558585069997056,0.060993382335715385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674378967070504,0.0,0.06831543018414614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649662058254351,0.0,0.0,0.17599133557562102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941473941926475,0.041911390694703114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339480130565763,0.0,0.22354544581943525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404055191993369,0.0,0.0,0.06483490025881795,0.0,0.0,0.1018104440413516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056547023244604276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600474784603301,0.0,0.10335369168966707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467950154305005,0.0,0.0,0.052870203505730726,0.0,0.07967715907732954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766639894259345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04885514511270789,0.07840964438822906,0.2258974417357894,0.0,0.0,0.06512700486107673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087233142535811,0.12154127142305884,0.2082771378053875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777391154309851,0.0,0.11741983827911337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090262643598945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331203053816978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132966035177274,0.04886536533676787,0.14985330445062184,0.0,0.08893752516436554,0.0,0.0,0.07287124386762223,0.0,0.1035532649988484,0.08295074102314848,0.07449651928268064,0.0,0.0,0.06586555217999379,0.0,0.0,0.26988646807032474,0.06053292247358489,0.06117246971882564,0.0,0.0,0.07069528367473839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833801072461943,0.0,0.09821996297466992
parenting,lostindakotas,2018/04/18,"How long for permanent teeth to come out? Once they cut through the gums, how long until they are fully out?

Likewise, what if they are coming in sideways? 

Sideways, like, the side of the tooth is facing down.",3.1303846153846173,5.7393650512820535,2.7355769230769242,92.81567307692309,77.97435897435899,4.925641025641027,22.570512820512814,5.985473137389443,0.31494358974358994,163,5,31,1,4,48,30,39,0.05,0.878,0.07200000000000001,0.2359,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,3,0,3,3,3,2,0,7,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,9,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,4,22,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6301947503325745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17870746972005955,0.0,0.0,0.6474287292275307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38955648818925215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mojoriv,2018/04/18,"Can someone recommend finger foods for an 11 month old? Do you have any easy, go-to meals for your kids? I want to diversify my son's 'menu' in his finger foods and I've run out of ideas!

All recipes/ideas are welcome! Healthy if possible!",0.8212499999999991,3.2852086250000028,2.0341666666666685,94.7275,87.75,5.7,22.583333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.7703083333333329,186,7,41,3,6,59,42,48,0.0,0.736,0.264,0.9124,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,2,0,1,6,5,2,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,6,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,2,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710458592158072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6082908891752483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294764950286026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5678829956243018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007651300348741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26393353760267896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835570331885738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311660789540945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835616479591315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lifegoeson0,2018/04/19,"Rewards 

My son's behavior has been really up and down lately. So I've really been trying to redirect him and work on his behavior. He just reacts so horribly and dosnt know how to deal with his emotions. I am seeking out therapy and he starts next week.

But I've realized how he expects rewards if he is good. One example is earlier he was throwing a fit. I grounded him for some poor behavior at school. He was very upset and is a huge victim to it all. Then suddenly he will change and be nice, then ask for and expect ice cream. It's frustrating.

In my head he should want to just do and be good. Not throw fits, not act out in school, etc. But to him he thinks he should only be good to get something in return. Did I go wrong by doing a reward system? Really hoping done therapy will help but though I'd try here seeing how our appointment isn't until next week. ",1.9441978609625683,4.058939863636368,3.935147058823532,85.28926470588237,79.3409090909091,7.777540106951872,22.28475935828877,8.671277953709913,1.6172617647058822,680,21,137,16,17,231,109,176,0.068,0.807,0.125,0.7519,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,1,0,0,4,9,12,2,1,3,0,21,1,1,4,1,34,30,21,0,7,8,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,11,0,0,3,0,1,4,3,4,0,1,6,2,11,8,20,17,3,29,0,0,2,0,20,13,0,3,11,86,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714965817900793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519476225736495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124672959249774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013046394043045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650237242538487,0.0,0.0,0.16361519697595298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664746781041988,0.0,0.0833760067292315,0.3691483530930223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056196934853078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833347479147424,0.0,0.0,0.1457114717951724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062539999008476,0.0,0.1654899762023692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31204551642033196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941131271008442,0.1115759966821795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819495285884317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969472055851561,0.1169051355891424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294091261473045,0.0,0.0,0.10383877130297003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355406078400232,0.0,0.0,0.09400283695278226,0.14413721915333974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992065467745639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104724240475663,0.0865305910056222,0.0,0.23535629611474534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106803210665797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603992228964666,0.0,0.0
parenting,conhollow,2018/04/19,"Question, what app so you recommend for children's phones? Need to be able to find child's phone when lost.  ( Kinda just happened and I feel foolish for not yet having one installed.) What apps do you feel are best for this and future occasions?",3.033913043478257,5.780819782608695,2.8762608695652183,90.82743478260872,79.43478260869566,5.419130434782609,24.417391304347824,6.742157984588678,0.9191095652173908,194,7,36,2,5,58,38,46,0.087,0.769,0.145,0.6044,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,9,4,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,3,1,5,7,1,3,0,1,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,24,6,0,0.3492825745325918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665505129495695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532155289015689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192379453354227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088694271357543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812831903284481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589886032724851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366829120073626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912764205489112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bella-Lugosi,2018/04/19,"Is “vacation” over yet? The kids lost it on the car ride home, tried bribing the 4yo with Chinese food but she was too terrible for me to reward her behavior (she grew a book at me while I was driving). They’re now in bed, under the threat of no Chinese food tomorrow. 
Hoping they’ll actually go to sleep so I can start season 2 of legion. ",1.4511801242236049,3.609193869565221,3.4745755693581764,87.70826086956524,81.31884057971014,6.8414078674948255,22.900621118012424,7.957251820313856,1.2605055900621125,263,9,55,5,7,89,57,69,0.16699999999999998,0.722,0.111,-0.5346,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,4,5,1,0,5,0,5,3,1,0,0,3,9,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,3,0,0,3,0,8,2,11,5,0,16,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,6,36,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.2785696762749829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6903634249256687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223459968251688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863416022126875,0.2835281182584173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31161543005938475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856680984449473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20205143127771671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380991989136148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lightmedium_,2018/04/19,"Please help, glitter is plaguing my life. My daughter recently came into possession of some very glittery princess dresses. She loves to wear them all the time, but the glitter fallout is incredible. It’s everywhere. Even on the dogs. I’ve taken the dresses out in the yard and shaken them out and sprayed the glittery parts with hair spray, but alas- glitter covers everything in my home. Any ideas to minimize the glitter fallout, without having to burn my house to the ground? ",6.030369747899157,8.464037482352943,5.249243697478993,79.05588235294121,68.29411764705883,7.680672268907562,36.84873949579832,8.418075326091056,3.3788151260504216,386,21,61,6,7,116,60,85,0.047,0.887,0.067,0.1901,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,8,0,3,4,2,0,1,13,6,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,1,13,4,3,10,0,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,2,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378080918140388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309096597887267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784990738120132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24288531197796964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811443981691269,0.0,0.271085059231512,0.0,0.0,0.3118348318228662,0.0,0.30508191468264684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088716877811995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439132226871539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29265686970980154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966558343793317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668415105872352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758627043576828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22298642371725874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26051354180500536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovemysterytheysaid,2018/04/19,"Preverbal power struggles: how do y'all contain your frustration??? For reasons beyond my comprehension, my 15-month-old hates like 90% of the caretaking tasks required to keep him alive. We enjoy each other's company when we're just hanging out together (reading a book, playing with toys, dancing around to music), but the moment I have to change his diaper or put him in a carseat or put pants on him or don't immediately hand him a still-steaming fresh-out-of-the-oven muffin, he screams and fights with every ounce of his scrappy little being.

He was never a huge fan of these kinds of activities, but he's big enough now to put up a pretty fierce fight (e.g. clipping his toenails is now a two-person job). And while he doesn't say very many words yet, I swear this kid understands just about everything I say... yet patiently explaining in my best Mom Voice about how the muffins are hot-hot-hot and empathizing about how hard it is to be patient does DIDDLY SQUAT and my kid keeps on screaming his head off until he is finally in possession of the muffin. (Which makes me worry that unless I wait until he's stopped throwing a fit to give him the gd muffin, I am teaching him that if you scream long enough you will get the muffin/stop having your diaper changed/whatever but that's a different post entirely.) 

THIS IS DRIVING ME BONKERS. MY TODDLER'S IRRATIONAL RAGE FILLS ME WITH IRRATIONAL RAGE.

Intellectually, of course, I get that he's a toddler and there's no way he can understand that these things are necessary (that if I don't change his diaper he'll get diaper rash, that if I give him his dinner before it has cooled down he will burn his mouth, etc.) I know that my frustration is stupid (expecting my toddler to be rational is ridiculous--his behavior is 100% developmentally appropriate)... but holy crimony does it make me crazy to have to fight against this kid all the time just to keep him alive!!!

I'm not saying that I'm unsafe to be around my kid--I've never hit him or totally lost control (though sometimes I have said things like, ""OMG DUDE I AM PUTTING FREAKING PANTS ON YOU SO THAT YOUR CUTE LITTLE BUTT DOES NOT DIE OF EXPOSURE WHEN WE GO TO THE PARK WHY DOES THAT MERIT SCREAMING YOU RIDICULOUSLY SMALL HUMAN?!""). But I hate that I feel this way. How do y'all manage/contain your frustration??",6.1553458306399484,6.908519095022626,6.237469295410474,78.45910633484164,66.1945701357466,9.753199741435036,31.396574014221073,9.784248007369934,2.8929008403361363,1848,69,346,38,28,587,234,442,0.219,0.688,0.092,-0.9964,3,0,0,0,3,0,75,2,10,0,5,22,28,12,1,17,1,29,7,6,8,4,58,54,29,1,4,18,1,3,2,0,3,0,9,0,4,25,14,1,8,6,5,0,10,8,19,0,0,3,13,53,9,43,43,7,48,0,1,0,1,53,19,1,7,18,213,78,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16457750441806515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865729321610618,0.0,0.09700719315903182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19557271196990325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036762383349368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593527372508794,0.09657725418360344,0.0,0.0,0.3235698489632321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102478291917674,0.10309197078124492,0.0,0.0,0.07788237168452522,0.0,0.08307664180362552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046739052092989744,0.0,0.0,0.10126049138393184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488394705406654,0.17734847038574708,0.0525342205886297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280562135948116,0.1825252982207139,0.09486728880769373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172970941230847,0.24648743071853566,0.0,0.09625917343984723,0.05080109631396658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032034438517593,0.18529282149350607,0.0,0.08180405928231267,0.0,0.0,0.10090618014650657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340516713433874,0.09371686503413852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826139246515101,0.07378253272745115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425866147985461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969973464647916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071264306713374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852933550012107,0.09404191718286947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37169987882382793,0.0,0.0,0.09246226693828996,0.0,0.0,0.09504089056662382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792899466967294,0.2205294391007776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142280594634376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382050893718606,0.15456336365201365,0.0,0.0966354861794084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282240578675202,0.0,0.09081913086368087,0.0,0.05390090506316431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090297763648607,0.19246087883235605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762704137988815,0.0,0.14674477624218296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341024233001564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387451652370747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,suestash,2018/04/19,"Am I the only one? My 15 year old daughter takes care of two of our neighbors dogs after school every day.  If I’m not home I’ll text or call her to see how her day was.  Today I was home, I texted her right after she got off the bus.  No reply.  I call, no answer.  I text and call a second time, no reply or answer again.  I look down the street for her, I can usually spot her with the dogs, but today no sign of her, but I did see a bunch of trucks in the neighbors driveway and recalled the neighbors telling me about having their kitchen redone.  I tried calling again and no answer.  At this point all I can picture in my mind is these construction guys hurting my daughter so I jumped in my car and drive there, I was about to pull in their driveway when she picks up her phone.  She was fine, she was inside the other neighbors house, but I lost my mind.  I was overwhelmed with anger immediately for not answering her phone and I screamed at her pretty good, I’m still trembling while I write this.
Is this normal?  Am I projecting shit on my kid?  I’ve never been sexually abused but I’m super paranoid about it happening to my kids, I don’t even date (divorced 10 years) because of this reason.  I have such a hard time trusting men around my kids.  Am I overreacting??  ",1.8492578125,3.9793949726562516,2.9231312500000013,92.34374375000002,79.7421875,5.346,21.568125,6.360717304075467,0.2414248750000003,987,29,209,8,25,315,142,256,0.141,0.762,0.097,-0.8722,0,0,0,0,2,0,31,1,0,2,2,13,12,2,2,10,0,18,2,1,3,2,31,29,16,0,2,9,2,1,0,4,0,0,1,9,5,7,8,1,0,5,0,0,4,9,7,0,3,10,5,45,5,28,19,2,37,0,3,3,0,36,14,1,3,19,143,52,2,0.0,0.1496087629404037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240666564610496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697274257058803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5157412924377694,0.0,0.1287402164346743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162866820864514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833998435203573,0.0,0.1063875375267526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590890343188183,0.1009892899872907,0.0,0.0,0.12502670150609918,0.11165974153057093,0.0,0.11311271035109301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25331729781886764,0.0,0.0,0.14569810152411938,0.13517415936865018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603461590621223,0.0,0.13783812427415768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549924898664168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973868572861336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237173444248016,0.0,0.0,0.13249864653349827,0.0,0.08556351149584435,0.09603367880894616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936553384046145,0.0,0.0,0.12846152186924475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982612230518026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783350140704777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779152063327975,0.20124095820113092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961387328273127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083902165448974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493898331505783,0.0,0.11036514778530583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725757411090012,0.0,0.23937752848198676,0.0,0.0,0.08572873242656519,0.0,0.12334699767054964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906806446432082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262689399308186
parenting,banana-rama-,2018/04/19,"Too late to start breastfeeding? My bubs is almost 7 weeks old and I stopped breastfeeding in the first few days. I feel bad about it, so I wanted to try again just because breast milk is better than formula.

I want to do half breast milk and half formula, but I'm not sure if my supply is too dried out or if it would even make a difference at this point?",5.6962328767123305,5.050282424657535,5.752157534246577,86.3276883561644,67.21917808219177,10.03972602739726,27.839041095890412,9.516144504307137,1.9233863013698629,279,7,63,5,4,88,55,73,0.092,0.8640000000000001,0.044,-0.5272,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,2,0,5,4,2,1,1,17,11,7,0,5,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,6,2,8,10,1,12,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,4,8,41,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622625627024152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21868185089352865,0.159656401707177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23163593001493535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890869227421526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27363762871348435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298745601004178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324283185637835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227784145113184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954431060906064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17482531260121878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748278992035381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24758727550012455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853795005013868,0.0,0.0,0.2189664257554423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24684475112082915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778180234333077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30895969852935323,0.0,0.2100864256487984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860515975645101,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,c0smicturtle,2018/04/19,"Advice on how to help my son's 8yo cousin. My son's nana just got temporary custody of her. Cousin's dad is a drug addict who only cares about himself and how he can get his next fix. Her mom loves babies until they can talk and walk then she pretty much neglects them. This is her second child (she has 4 in total) that she ""given"" to her mother. The 2 youngest (their ages are about 4 and 2) are currently with their mom couch-surfing at her coworker's house. She's been evicted, her car was repossessed, etc, etc. Bad choice after bad choice. She doesn't know how to put her kids first.

I've known my son's cousin all her life. Even though I am not ""true family"" (I never married her Uncle aka my son's bio-dad) and we don't share the same blood, I love her and I want to help as much as I can. What can I do for her? Y'all got any ideas? She is really upset and doesn't know how to communicate properly since ya know...she's been neglected for most of her life. She has self esteem issues and doesn't like herself. I'm having her come over to our house after school today so her and my son can play. My son's nana only lives a few houses down from us until we move next month. I want to help my son's cousin as much as I can and show her how awesome she is and show her what real motherly love really feels like.",2.487285029119562,3.5588902122302173,3.6649434737923934,92.36523980815348,74.93525179856115,6.877971908187735,19.3532031517643,7.2636822038024595,0.12121527920520725,1021,17,236,11,21,332,149,278,0.087,0.7879999999999999,0.125,0.8985,2,0,1,0,0,0,37,4,2,4,1,11,14,0,1,4,0,24,8,1,5,4,37,39,24,0,2,2,16,1,2,0,0,4,0,0,3,5,14,0,2,5,3,0,5,6,5,0,2,6,1,52,9,28,33,10,23,0,2,0,3,66,5,0,1,15,147,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895245512353228,0.0,0.10662681076545467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420256497939352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822144650425249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125094908913112,0.0,0.0,0.0939937003004399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653982115514614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433861808245928,0.0720700337662769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286477502936492,0.0,0.055172285960139913,0.07795243256593921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928139428519969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700856278954266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745399327431541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194142963403252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37771535245012666,0.0,0.12317858811869645,0.0,0.1138886676441912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990176227877497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414359756148185,0.10661705030994108,0.0,0.09635135338547447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29544412449362845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555904853032364,0.08709528354155212,0.11597295086263405,0.2406382610465301,0.0,0.08415692160489521,0.0,0.23209203022914984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597514293347895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101011498329637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969163412330657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241978015166595,0.13980490039385607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043113294134974,0.0,0.0,0.11383169822992703,0.0,0.0,0.09026181372003506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770324046318721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072058339714149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034291302739292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125301248791216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287187893215601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rosewoods,2018/04/19,"2 1/2 year old daughters behavior at daycare had to be brought up to me by her teacher. Need advice on correcting the behavior. My wife picked up our daughter from daycare yesterday and was told by the teacher that our daughter was not obeying to instructions like, stand in line or put down the toy. This comes as a surprise because she’s usually praised about how well she behaves. At home she has been having trouble listening as well. We usually need to repeat ourselves a couple times before she obeys and sometimes it takes us threatening timeout. 

What can I do to teach her to become more obedient? ",7.205598455598456,8.183487243243249,6.752844272844275,74.89135135135137,63.95495495495496,9.946460746460748,40.18146718146719,9.957137785484203,4.3176656370656366,488,27,80,10,7,152,85,111,0.052000000000000005,0.845,0.102,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,4,1,13,16,6,0,2,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,2,0,6,1,13,5,19,9,1,18,1,0,0,0,17,7,0,1,8,58,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142350718445004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565222541797602,0.2276494815391559,0.17539766582886065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755891442166746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280740065417659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067607385732635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070253459201693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056789751269592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162940964008925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721311549410187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20386344496316988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498076506131148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019346900442512,0.0,0.0,0.19696180155519485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479436636437876,0.0,0.4540363562721621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706632580786688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327380996221134
parenting,JadedorTraded,2018/04/19,"7yo CANNOT STOP speaking for her sister, ideas? My stepdaughters are 7 and 4, and 7 CANNOT STOP answering for her sister. It's constant. Some examples:

-4 is giving me a picture she made at daycare and explaining what it is, 7 stands directly behind her and says, ""She says it's a picture of an elephant."" 4 can speak just fine, and no, that's definitely not what she said. 

-I asked 4 if she'd stepped outside yet to see if she needs a jacket. 7, yelling from a different room, ""No, she hasn't!""

-Ask 4 what she wants for dinner, 7 pipes up, ""She wants macaroni and hot dogs.""

-Told 4 she can take a stuffed animal to daycare, and as she's picking which one she wants, 7 starts in with, ""But can she take a blanket? What about a pillow? How many stuffed animals?""

It's driving me crazy. In the whopping 2 hours between when they got home last night and 4's bedtime, 7 spoke on 4's behalf 17 times (mind you, 4 does not need anyone to speak for her, she can do that just fine, and 7 doing this is in no way an assistance. 4 was explaining Paw Patrol to me and 7 starts telling me ""Oh, she actually means [completely different thing]"", which is most certainly not what she meant). Verbally correcting 7 has made no difference at all, so I'm looking for ideas on discipline, because I don't want 4 to feel constantly invalidated. I had told 7 every time she does it she will have to pick up/clean up 10 of her sister's toys (like mega blocks, for example), which was such a non-deterrent she immediately spoke for her sister twice, then went and cleaned their room. Obviously that's not going to work. Compounding the issue is the fact that their bio-mom encourages 7 to be completely responsible for 4 at her house, which we've explained to 7 many times that she is not 4's mother, she's a kid and she is not responsible for her sister.

Thoughts? Ideas? I can expound on anything if need be.",3.5379781824905265,5.039920257372657,4.706099657945828,84.23093833780163,72.96782841823057,8.469224369048721,27.87547379125451,9.035553425615538,2.1746264028843485,1468,56,303,31,29,483,189,373,0.035,0.89,0.075,0.9256,3,0,0,0,1,0,72,0,1,3,1,8,5,0,0,14,0,28,1,0,5,5,60,62,21,0,10,12,6,2,1,0,1,0,9,5,1,21,13,1,4,11,1,0,4,14,0,0,2,14,13,42,5,37,44,3,34,0,0,2,0,58,13,0,5,16,180,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.10114392882755087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247196819344208,0.0,0.0852921505578414,0.0,0.1937907732675313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318187943129902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734254313790247,0.22400986051026275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32486526341019395,0.0,0.0,0.18140331472391252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732655670731587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240673075002982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942706495142532,0.05890463392525513,0.0,0.08289548911392973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396578343286056,0.0,0.10207081956447303,0.119594022201095,0.0,0.3510124869414949,0.0,0.108179906575211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448564415521795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506363924542859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703686648019122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19614544707985127,0.0,0.21016235001127154,0.0,0.1129013074399338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465331111108676,0.12138940332500768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305574623160425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726511904622333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023347858615486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985914549487731,0.1648475442536554,0.0,0.0,0.08259275642960767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672290148684394,0.0,0.0,0.1733060517918579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558583778313791,0.0,0.09059151626816486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885805832487822,0.0,0.0,0.08228365897858314,0.18131113655502548,0.0,0.0,0.1980771412051958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445333129505772,0.08226968277188187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960812451096661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754558088484824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,haylirel,2018/04/19,"Android Parental Control Apps Hello, we are *considering* getting our almost-8-year-old daughter a phone. I am looking for recommendations on apps that will place blockers on downloading new apps, adult content, and things of that nature. We will already be doing things like taking it away at bedtime, etc.; I more just want to ensure that when she is using it with our permission she is not accessing things that she shouldn't. And, yes, I do plan to monitor as closely as I am able to, but I'd like a little help in that department so that I can relax knowing that she's not going to accidentally come across porn or chat rooms and whatnot. 

Please no responses of ""don't get your 8yo a cell phone"" and answers of that nature. I'd really appreciate sincere responses with app recommendations. 

Thank you. ",5.886103896103897,7.744529088435375,6.157872603586887,74.71580705009278,67.63945578231292,8.88286951144094,32.41125541125541,9.339509955726095,3.1164068027210887,644,28,109,13,11,206,99,147,0.028,0.7659999999999999,0.205,0.9793,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,4,2,0,2,3,5,0,0,3,1,13,1,0,2,0,22,23,10,0,2,5,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,13,10,0,2,2,2,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,15,5,18,19,2,15,0,0,1,1,19,10,0,1,4,76,28,0,0.1998197758757196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000906416327097,0.0,0.22050609151235115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18773725710003134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212704366480674,0.0,0.0,0.22411486966503466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285187007372864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087951712759108,0.0,0.11356218347871352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393498374939233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981572308270064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524369841226727,0.20027190996613312,0.0,0.0,0.16779828583907047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929871846966057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096772414772839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187621403381302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20876913631878447,0.2193421091590233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800966510377187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023960358060293,0.0,0.0,0.18396720299280567,0.0,0.0,0.3982541405859645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258012962575126,0.0,0.0,0.11785888096337425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286773843152697
parenting,gresh88,2018/04/19,"Any advice on how to get a 2 week old to sleep in their crib/bassinet? First of all she has her sleep schedule backwards and secondly she does NOT want to sleep in her crib. It’s next to the bed, I try to hand over into it to comfort her, have given her a passy (she hates it), and I’ve warmed her spot before laying her down. I’m kind of at a loss now because the only way she’ll sleep is if she’s laying on my chest (tummy time position) and I’m absolutely terrified she’s going to suffocate. She will sleep for longer periods in her swing, but same thing, I’m scared she’ll suffocate. Any advice??",2.3642857142857165,3.690445746031749,3.839873015873014,89.97457142857145,75.66666666666666,7.262222222222222,22.123809523809523,7.908726449838941,0.8169580952380953,468,12,105,7,10,155,78,126,0.098,0.857,0.045,-0.7467,0,0,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,1,2,2,6,1,1,5,0,6,7,7,1,1,11,14,6,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,1,2,18,3,19,10,2,20,0,1,0,0,16,10,0,1,8,62,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993575078560195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20832560562668795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337275868015464,0.0,0.1303388290181261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340426090673177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028876333730946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800265015928807,0.0,0.08705167079789437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512264957485261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950597122548024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629010829074523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072915859628994,0.0,0.0,0.11649486840581352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533527621672651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7664174384488562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176124738650684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931633115886925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399432289268457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034532616357284,0.12158149306882475,0.12286603552583818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DarkOceanDemon,2018/04/19,"What to do with stuff my baby no longer uses? So my boyfriend and I had our first baby a month ago and she's already in size 3-6 for clothes. We have a good amount of 0-3 which she was wearing for the first month that I'm reluctant to get rid of. My boyfriend says he just wants the one kid, however I want to have at least one more (two preferably) so I don't want to get rid of her things in case we do end up having another child. I'm not going to force him to have another baby with me, but just in case we decide to have another baby down the road or have another surprise baby I don't want to have to start from scratch again (baby stuff costs a lot of money). Is it worth it to keep all her clothes? Should I only keep the sentimental stuff? How long should I hold onto her things before I get rid of them? Any advice would be appreciated :)",3.261499999999998,3.6881668166666657,4.551111111111112,89.15000000000002,72.5,7.777777777777778,24.44444444444445,7.793537801064563,0.9384444444444447,657,17,153,8,12,218,103,180,0.017,0.8540000000000001,0.129,0.9581,1,0,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,2,6,2,0,0,7,0,18,1,1,2,1,28,32,7,0,8,5,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,10,7,0,3,2,0,3,1,4,0,0,5,2,2,22,2,27,26,5,18,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,2,9,105,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512309858315454,0.11350326548877306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129971961825416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707429947860354,0.5370611235216659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895599892748764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134089637612084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178282936157021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006930894057343,0.0,0.0727703465002923,0.10739721821023336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276227512959028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331489593647402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885841572964386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044069717637673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353183381533807,0.09738321920412876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182571485193062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063019043861788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4397391799692699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013346590005218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508036619339946,0.0,0.0,0.11058889013247378,0.0,0.0,0.3020946354892544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095877199515112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adoptionquestionsc,2018/04/19,"Small update, I'm (legally) a mother now! I posted here a good while ago asking for advice on asking our now-adult former-foster son if we could adopt him, and I recently got asked about an update. We decided not to overwhelm him and asked him privately to make sure this was something he really wanted and he said yes. We went through the proper legal channels and he is now officially, legally, MY baby. 

I didn't expect the rush of feelings and emotions that I experienced. I have always been his mom, but now there's no looming what-if that can take that away from us. I'm so happy and proud. 

My son is doing well too. He injured his wrist so we've postponed the bigger party until summer when he can sign again. I'm just so happy that he's happy. 

Thanks for all of the advice posted and shared here too. This is a wonderful community for parents of all different backgrounds and lifestyles. ",3.5618965517241388,5.607271626436781,4.735149425287356,81.77479310344829,74.11494252873564,6.708965517241379,24.243678160919533,7.554174236665415,1.3185429885057465,709,22,127,9,15,233,110,174,0.054000000000000006,0.68,0.267,0.9921,2,0,1,0,0,0,22,5,0,0,1,16,10,0,1,8,1,11,2,1,1,3,26,27,16,0,4,4,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,11,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,1,0,6,3,17,9,14,20,2,20,0,1,0,0,27,4,0,2,12,86,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723415561843205,0.1235249778228246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594999768841255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5210921143499425,0.0,0.13092349952633475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125928536237238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455906320469041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674950001899074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045932495197034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687980024649013,0.11145057363700503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4450205961605926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301691393496116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16320452148405834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473119641607902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669167190372101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927089693043752,0.0,0.13759088008385084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255334309742636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727809994649687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133531196753598,0.0,0.10477352749295338,0.0,0.0,0.12829435342744072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762036404458908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219198141241033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529199041432468,0.1291784389921713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111865448836734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Higgs-Bosun,2018/04/19,"My [40M] 7 year old 2nd grade stepson has starting telling his teachers/principals “Shut the Fuck up, Bitch” when he gets mad. We have never heard this kind of language from him, we don’t use this type of language, but I don’t really care where he heard it, that’s not the problem right now. 

The problem is that he gets angry and says these things in front of the class and he’s going to get suspended or expelled because it’s happening all the time now. He’s getting the reaction he wants and he’s escalating it, how do we talk to him about this?

On a side note, everyone in our neighborhood knows now and thinks we are horrible people. ",6.2216852678571435,5.687118601562503,6.383616071428572,81.86406250000002,66.109375,10.126785714285717,33.129464285714285,9.606745405546679,2.785730803571428,503,19,105,9,7,161,88,128,0.162,0.762,0.076,-0.9019,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,0,7,7,3,0,7,0,7,1,0,2,2,20,22,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,10,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,2,3,10,2,11,20,1,19,0,0,0,1,20,8,2,1,9,60,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920344190262284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21609830336231786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025283881731544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594540482602205,0.4429428709349468,0.0,0.12045671188734515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874276847349807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071448651257344,0.11648279833006965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346977822583073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22240705745761527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694022676289048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056172145547029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135781321526729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810051073784347,0.0,0.1685520460809226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002010108493807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035829014175793,0.18525463019427155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081091316664085,0.1358097262224056,0.0,0.0,0.12359040866908735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305772498383194,0.0,0.0,0.12501426824213185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364895789608256
parenting,doseofrose,2018/04/19,"3 year old locking himself for privacy. Help. I’m a first time mom of a now three year old boy. So here are the actions that will lead up to me question. 1. Once my son started being curious about everything I stopped taking baths with him or letting me see while I change clothes. He’ll still ask things like, “why can’t I see” and I simply say he has to respect my privacy (which he might not fully understand.) 2. My grandma babysits while I work and go to school and recently she’s been telling me he locks himself in the bathroom and will undress himself and be there for long periods of time. She’s found him touching his penis and it getting hard. I understand he’s a child and this can happen if he needs to pee or it simply being touched. When I give him a bath and I have to teach him to wash his penis it will get a little hard so it’s not that I am worried about a three year old getting aroused. However she says he’ll pick up her underclothes and put them on. And on a few occasions her bra.

So I told him he’s not suppose to be doing that and then I asked him if he wanted me to buy him his own bra and he said yes. Now I am all for buying pink stuff or Barbie dolls if my son wants them. But I’m not so sure about the bra. Not because he’s a boy but because he’s three... 

Moms: if you had a 3 year old whether boy or girl who kept putting on your bras and locking themselves in the room how would you handle the situation?",1.5522612085769971,3.233987315789477,2.9688742690058483,93.83119395711502,78.80263157894737,6.082651072124758,24.74610136452241,6.937597516519254,0.7669231481481482,1120,41,256,12,27,365,161,304,0.02,0.941,0.038,0.6133,1,0,0,0,0,0,25,0,3,2,3,14,3,0,0,14,1,20,3,2,3,2,46,45,33,0,8,16,4,4,1,0,7,1,3,3,5,12,14,0,2,4,2,2,5,6,0,0,4,6,10,43,3,24,27,3,37,0,0,3,1,55,9,0,10,24,163,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422568008340006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316797366808714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554806730186636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816651108070346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290873939359187,0.0,0.11976216601666555,0.0,0.0,0.17120036733692798,0.10478083974807753,0.062076427688544066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658939660550858,0.0,0.195692526088008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321279918190303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169237931778457,0.0,0.05336297240359435,0.10947451304852372,0.0,0.09666277930402832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587297136608952,0.0,0.2558515354571983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099070584541196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584629749017734,0.11632357708073347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21960733776111213,0.12235964471217058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078488439359784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390023527863483,0.1737239666658668,0.0,0.11054392299385238,0.17408013361413546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277613275593373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731168990846075,0.0,0.0872291133974218,0.09131896656632812,0.0,0.0,0.12503919851965342,0.0,0.0,0.10294549722363693,0.0,0.08212538366149841,0.0,0.09546952988371267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256580668681813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738270780493074,0.0,0.0,0.1043714264346361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274190745355079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885025767309252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856070611626848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951882134785941,0.11092568941704677,0.0,0.07759198497664271,0.0,0.0,0.28135536312913884
parenting,mandatedreporter,2018/04/19,"Don’t know what to do. I have a step daughter that is 21. She is pregnant and will be 22 when she has the baby. In my opinion her mom has never made her have any responsibility. She and the babies father currently live with her mom and step dad. Neither one of them have full time jobs and in no way can afford this kid.
Besides all that, she was addicted to Oxy pills before she got pregnant. She says she has quit but I don’t believe her. She used to ask me for a specific amount of money when she wanted pills and she asked me for that amount the other day. I don’t know how any of her blood work came back or if she even did it. I fell like telling her OB/ GYN to test her and the baby. 

To top it off I am a mandated reporter. But I have no proof. What should I do?",0.6537045454545485,2.4619545636363647,2.4488446969696973,95.87326704545455,82.15151515151516,5.337121212121213,18.797348484848484,6.322622252153567,-0.27808333333333346,593,14,142,5,16,196,97,165,0.028,0.938,0.035,0.2617,3,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,7,0,21,4,1,3,3,23,30,13,0,3,4,5,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,9,8,0,0,2,0,1,4,7,0,0,1,5,1,29,1,14,22,5,17,0,0,0,0,29,5,0,3,8,102,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717726366561748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584744359153573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35533311941901097,0.0,0.0,0.1461329884681978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16171442395179347,0.2141158031899408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21736102136596613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256339878880727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255230282761273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519964662711444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18859048551443672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088876870949964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284646004310712,0.0,0.16781334798135247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798253146822999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451571622384798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657453449378066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877951108236804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20213640863056756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113153000156002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166107836434638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108168544374101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641379900077205,0.0,0.0,0.11209355253028444,0.15084899306629232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835513159030302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lep2170,2018/04/19,Talking about divorce with 4 year old I found out my wife was cheating on me and we will be getting divorced. We have a little girl and I know she’s going to be scared and confused when she finds out daddy doesn’t live with her anymore. Regardless of what happened in the marriage I would never badmouth her mother but I’m just at a loss for what to say to her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!,3.021269841269841,4.943902308641976,4.07347442680776,86.46777777777778,75.2962962962963,5.616225749559083,27.62081128747796,6.18269132825596,1.1161626102292763,321,13,62,2,7,104,63,81,0.113,0.8270000000000001,0.06,-0.3077,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,1,3,5,1,2,3,0,9,0,0,0,1,19,15,5,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,9,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,1,12,1,13,7,0,11,0,1,0,0,15,6,0,1,4,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24798138935361366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257249865296895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516719365465017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319414466813033,0.0,0.0,0.2782460234266938,0.0,0.0,0.13258450200391514,0.0,0.1442235033597215,0.0,0.0,0.27978263947621,0.0,0.0,0.22440822844609096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946551415099248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543444973939986,0.22408381444690095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572329129501065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26628922951560324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018083193817756,0.2540683298428788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397094562563314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605422645166635,0.0,0.0,0.16341974591032854
parenting,wstefanko,2018/04/19,Proper bedtime topics for 9 year olds Just throwing this out there. To preface our kiddos have the periodic table of elements as place mats at our kitchen bar. We got started on the topic of a sodium and water reaction. After showing them a few YouTube videos I started talking about the reaction and how Hydrogen gas was the energy byproduct. Then they were asking about other elements and I mentioned Uranium. Long story short we went from chemical reactions to WW2 and they do not want to be concreted into airplanes. Or turned into dust from a nuclear bomb. Lets just say my wife does not know what to think. Should I have taken a different approach?,4.837662337662341,7.503577487394956,5.585393430099312,74.28647822765474,72.44537815126051,8.69702062643239,31.826585179526358,9.339509955726095,3.5466571428571427,527,25,81,13,11,171,92,119,0.039,0.943,0.018000000000000002,-0.32299999999999995,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,8,0,8,3,0,1,0,19,18,8,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,9,3,0,2,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,1,11,0,18,10,1,18,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,1,8,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481523032498193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773302429963374,0.0,0.0,0.2322899568791437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122981007381996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145879902098362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271432281893658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23490768950337626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785365756406815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773302429963374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110900178676098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757622236554326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133521090135811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700844231883078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288724515671412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656448397113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460672597674063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093585234646536
parenting,PM-me-happy-puppies,2018/04/19,"CPS investigating us from a tip they got..... Just at point of mental exhaustion over this.... 

My wife has pretty bad PPD since our kid was born, exacerbated by a very clingy child.  It's been a rough couple years but we've been figuring it out.  I finally convinced my wife to go back to therapy, she's too good of a mom to be stuck unhappy she deserves better.   The therapist prescribed new meds (a few, the key one being antidepressants), and warned her sometimes intrusive thoughts can happen.  The two of them developed a plan should things get too bad (I don't pry into what they talk about, it was difficult enough to get her to get help I don't want to be intruding if she's not ready, the key was they had a plan in place).

Shortly into the new meds, had a rough night with the kid.  She talked to someone we know, and told them of some scary thoughts that had happened a week or so prior, passing pretty fast, but a scary experience for her.  This friend called CPS.

Police showed up at work/daycare, interviewed her.... Then called me and asked a series of questions primarily centered around if I felt Mom was at risk of hurting kid.... That was *not* the call I was expecting and my head's been in a perpetual state of spinning since.  They said they didn't feel there was any immediate danger but a follow-up investigation by CPS would take place.  Nobody has called us since.  Wife has emergency session with therapist tomorrow, and I have a pretty strong feeling whatever the therapist determines will have a strong impact on whatever's happening (of which we have NO IDEA BECAUSE AGAIN NOBODY HAS CONTACTED US).  So we've been in a perpetual state of high alert stress for days now, I haven't gotten anything done at work, can't eat, can't sleep, falling behind on everything, this is just.... Very stressful.  

I scheduled an appointment with an attorney, he stressed the importance of establishing a contingency plan to discuss this week.  It hasn't been said but given the nature of the allegations the contingency plan would likely be separating mom and daughter depending on what CPS says, and just thinking about that kills me, even if it's just a contingency and temporary.

Beyond worrying about my daughter now I'm stressing about Mom. It took so long to convince her to seek help, she does, and establishes plans and contingencies, and in a moment of emotion confided in a friend of nearly a decade and next thing I know we're murderers according to them.  After so much time to convince her to open up it really hurts that she does and this happens (for her).  They didn't even call me, I have a hard time thinking they thought there was a serious risk if they didn't think to tell ME, considering.... It's my kid and I live here.  That or they wanted to hide behind anonymity (which wouldn't make sense it took 3 seconds to figure out who it was and they admitted it).

 I'm just falling apart, on one hand I can tell myself that all the concerns have been and are being addressed actively (before the call) by a professional, so it should blow over.... On the other it terrifies me to think of a caseworker making a determination to separate Mom and Kid, or remove her entirely.  That would do so much damage at this point....  But it's hard not to go to worse case scenario when we have nothing to go off, no idea besides the initial check and interview being ""no immediate danger but there will be a standard follow-up investigation"" and the out of context comments that we're reported.

Anyways there's no real point to this post, and likely nothing to gain from it, maybe I'll delete. I'm just .... Falling apart I guess. What day is it? It's all running together into one big blob of anxiety, I can't tell if I'm actually getting sick right now or just really exhausted.  
We'll see what happens....",4.900916666666667,6.528527925000006,5.589166666666667,78.73916666666669,69.75,9.111111111111112,29.722222222222214,9.53975657930432,2.7595972222222223,3006,118,561,68,54,975,315,720,0.172,0.733,0.095,-0.9959,1,0,0,0,0,0,118,8,0,13,10,35,30,4,6,46,0,61,7,3,3,2,95,107,43,2,14,25,10,8,2,2,9,3,3,1,6,42,34,1,0,18,1,1,11,18,19,0,5,35,12,60,11,86,56,7,83,0,3,1,0,80,42,0,13,29,378,102,6,0.0,0.0,0.05513264662194473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038419705318701966,0.0,0.04321983432085183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649198474728699,0.05029405665808041,0.052816804453822634,0.0,0.0,0.04344248849528761,0.09434479864251108,0.03443987466153558,0.0,0.048074545492352856,0.0,0.0,0.049966755554556576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461367922491473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251254343266838,0.0,0.07287141798218741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888131658178803,0.05781575733972232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057810246519348026,0.0,0.06355120304259823,0.0,0.058376211798846625,0.0,0.07463109827478875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05077560684382281,0.05526463067677336,0.0,0.0,0.057132875903586,0.0,0.05424570875837049,0.06188939258614145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729844773342525,0.0,0.11806881250669392,0.0,0.09632515972757508,0.04738676624897116,0.045185586133041834,0.0,0.062237503925704214,0.0,0.2497993039240971,0.0,0.1012199237553674,0.0,0.05798193155453995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573711780670164,0.05969188402276573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096180935388967,0.1275558347183367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250524733230631,0.0,0.062098236945359375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520288491367778,0.0,0.04988763670307159,0.049997817222388184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542399539597155,0.0,0.05675854649782426,0.0,0.12551023394660255,0.0,0.05693540316464064,0.0,0.0,0.33084136412067955,0.0,0.0,0.08306317605399959,0.0,0.0,0.10912976381062076,0.060084900102169526,0.05301834226906276,0.0,0.10842024851207842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485091396407132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805409034404628,0.0,0.16022297843692535,0.0,0.054108238319556905,0.1724324181881533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328925358615786,0.0,0.0,0.06430563332717415,0.07238648794329497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048247888132185536,0.10748263209948536,0.04492845744269994,0.0,0.0,0.045020569267480916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402040058433972,0.0,0.05653751884746189,0.0,0.047869485478350016,0.0,0.055876698317481516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588671964843249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04247850052719294,0.0908198430883528,0.14814186411152375,0.0,0.0646089203061384,0.19679113083118493,0.07506781752904736,0.14480326158624302,0.0,0.13455624907437214,0.06588738072688949,0.0,0.0,0.053985034774407734,0.12553986406082718,0.0,0.0,0.05518908379488703,0.0,0.2038757850235183,0.0,0.0,0.09323141765941433,0.06664645563246728,0.0,0.09063651804836312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226056656172161,0.05737515913231948,0.05757498187757976,0.12040094162560876,0.0,0.0,0.036382033812685705
parenting,rufthless,2018/04/19,"Stay at Home Parents or SO, how do you cope with loneliness? I’m a SAHM and I have an 8 month old boy. I don’t really have any friends, just my husband and family. I’m just feeling really lonely when my husband is at work and find it out hard to go outside. I love my son to pieces, I really do but I just feel a little lonely and everyday is the same ol routine. 
I get nervous and stressed about going outside because I know he has his sleep schedule and feeding schedule. I worry about him crying in stores because I dont want people to think I’m a bad mother( I know logically babies cry of course but I don’t know why I feel like this. I worry people think bad things about me.) 

I’ve talked to my husband about it and he helps as much as he can but I just feel really down in the dumps as of lately. I think I’m just so fixated on making sure my son is hitting all his milestones that I feel like that’s all that matters and I have to put my plans on hold temporarily. I know this isn’t healthy and we need our own times as parents but I don’t know how to work through this. Any tips are really appreciated from other Stay at home Parents or their SO. Thank you. ",2.1548380566801626,3.5374889676113384,3.940670040485831,88.80663259109312,76.32793522267207,6.88331983805668,24.090890688259112,7.554174236665415,0.9785434817813764,913,29,202,12,20,308,125,247,0.168,0.7070000000000001,0.125,-0.9111,3,4,0,0,0,0,18,2,2,1,3,15,13,1,2,6,0,16,3,1,3,3,49,42,25,0,2,11,9,6,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,10,12,1,1,15,0,1,3,5,7,0,0,0,6,34,6,28,41,6,23,0,2,0,1,25,10,0,2,10,126,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320106079821224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582481612404224,0.12836711120969088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313113368813643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233986130236497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992576530680928,0.0,0.2661878965487388,0.15043780546324234,0.0,0.0,0.09623277598427238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134647453541521,0.0,0.055009464081943134,0.0,0.11967699856208425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431878989859788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057339145206433,0.0,0.2112280831791372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28932202012314395,0.0,0.11877124139759605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287834866490024,0.10552782778051907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502796398353572,0.0,0.07028161760187282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404114465001933,0.0,0.07739996198260322,0.07807089541004875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104837110299236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507348819978784,0.0,0.0,0.1459890862989947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584511715672544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372560309530459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536562691846536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244493832443657,0.0,0.0,0.12060886736021367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923419067395757,0.0,0.0,0.08462778256558154,0.0,0.09693650656236076,0.0,0.0,0.06994972379924412,0.20239594982100054,0.0,0.0,0.061395205500921785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062102526983493965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500747645576478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533041481680275,0.2138533750599827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shnookumsshnookums,2018/04/20,"Anyone else feel guilty for enjoying time while the kids are in school? I am a stay at home mother of two grade schoolers.
I don't volunteer unless it's an out-of-the-school field trip. 
I feel a little guilty about this when I run into the moms running the pta and volunteering 5 days a week and just being the stereotypical overachieving super mom. 
I enjoy my time away from the kids. I can work in peace (i work from home), clean the house, craft, and go to lunch dates with friends and just pretty much do anything I want and or need to do without children.",4.220202702702704,5.427268531531531,4.385213963963967,88.3356587837838,70.8918918918919,7.351801801801803,23.78490990990991,7.6454224807358475,0.8915666666666673,441,11,92,5,8,137,78,111,0.049,0.74,0.211,0.9565,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,10,0,7,1,0,0,0,16,12,9,0,2,5,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,7,1,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,2,9,4,15,11,1,18,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,7,55,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241595634794457,0.1819392376789175,0.14612320384646346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683083232520005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145165679877044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483351466188789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956727202276654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718847391620034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091589641328416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562300461708896,0.0,0.0,0.20488944844998352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796962599280428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159306198952425,0.0,0.0,0.13053279476718335,0.1316643045656878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065033166185684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594162711145955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926369295402773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708247275734198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345797959142673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047341135785302,0.0,0.1424342117754768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116906274440535,0.0,0.25854300696262383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ahohimnn,2018/04/20,"Son (5) seems to act out when dad is home My partner and I have been together 6 years, and have a 5 year old. For the 1.5 years, my partner has worked a job that requires frequent travel. I stay home, and dad goes to work. Sometimes for weeks at a time. 

I first noticed this behavior in my son with his uncle, my youngest brother. My brother is young so I figured that my son's behavior was probably related to my brothers age and the fact that my brother hasn't been around any other kids. 

However, I've finally noticed that my son has the same attitude around his father. And it's not just in front of his dad, it's whenever he's working locally and staying at home.

People often tell me how well behaved my son is and how amazed/charmed they are by him/his excellent behavior.. Which is something I'm proud of because I work hard to raise a respectful and well-behaved young man -not a sloppy, rude one.

And this is how my son behaves when his dad is in town! He's disrespectful, defiant, qnd disobedient.

I don't want to spank/punish him for this behavior because I feel like there's something going on here that he just isn't able to express clearly, and I want to figure it out.

I'm a permissive style parent for sure, I let as much stuff as I can just slide but I'm firm on the few rules and boundaries that I do have.

My partner has never been very helpful as a parent, for the record. He works hard and is a good provider but he doesn't spend any time with our son and when my son comes around his dad literally tells him to just go away. I feel like this is the crux of the issue. 

I think my son is acting badly (without even realizing it) because he's got feelings about his dad
1) being gone often
2) not spending any time with him
or
3) pushing him away when he's around.

I don't know how to deal with this issue because I don't think that my spouse will make any change to his own behavior. He works and that's it. That's just how he is and that's how he has been since day 1. 

I'd like to hear what other parents think about this and if any of you have dealt with these kind of things before, please share with me how you resolved them!

TL;DR
5 y.o. son acts out when dad is home, maybe because dad travels for work and isn't an involved or interested parent when he's around.
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parenting,Banana_Surprise,2018/04/20,"Tips for a slow eater? Our first daughter just turned 1 in early April. For the most part she's been ahead of the curve on pretty much everything, walking at 10 mo, saying words, good weight, etc, according to the doctor all on track...except the eating. She knows what to do with finger food, it goes in her mouth, chewing ensues, but probably 85 to 90% of it gets slowly pushed out of her mouth and ends up in her bib. I'm pretty sure she likes the food we try but it seems she's just a bad chewer. Because we want to make sure she is getting enough food we supplement with baby food still. She also has a VERY sensitive gag reflex. If the baby food is any bit too thick or too many chunks, the chunks end up on me. Did anyone have any tips on how to help her learn the finger food better? Am I being a paranoid new parent or is this normal? When should we start worrying? ",3.986694915254237,4.71609779661017,4.5625,88.62307203389831,71.03389830508475,7.255932203389831,21.529661016949152,7.1686216300943375,0.4661152542372875,678,12,144,6,12,216,119,177,0.076,0.7829999999999999,0.141,0.8967,1,0,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,0,3,9,6,0,0,12,0,11,14,4,2,3,28,20,9,0,4,7,2,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,8,9,0,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,5,17,5,24,16,7,25,0,0,0,0,19,12,0,5,12,90,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271414528918132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067395422681936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723217202888383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636099480514893,0.0630508916131106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914767698689606,0.11292042600600626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058665385149937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583626169492268,0.0,0.0,0.1832192446288413,0.10687240412706413,0.11535348026805832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295757650579804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797879394060236,0.7504187920077002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807739536524076,0.0,0.0,0.08675344762495922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693279643559948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05684325575348275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053141377007737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904133951524546,0.10486332213436067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603406461102287,0.0,0.0,0.09989480184538242,0.0,0.0,0.10134092424778267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148484572690968,0.1120062515697276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21045407039784814,0.11151666714640246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822528922768623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094160166767991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320935877562182,0.0,0.08260054159923866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949659579166756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022320935751772,0.11250378736574976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534183221557459,0.06100658744809319,0.0,0.0,0.12595172082886946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503972431052833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,i_wanna_throwaway_,2018/04/20,"17 year old isn't gping to graduate from high school Writing on behalf of my husband who isn't on reddit..

My husband and I just found out that his 17 year old son (from his first marriage) won't have enough credits to graduate and get his high school diploma. This is due to him failing a couple courses. The son lives with his mother who unfortunately has never been interested in her son's schooling and wouldn't take him to a tutor or any other help, even if my husband paid for it. My husband sees his son two weekends per month, so has had limited influence over schoolwork over the years, but has tried to help as much as possible. The kid is almost 18 and doesn't have his driver's license, has never worked and has no plans for upgrading. My husband has tried different tactics to motivate him, and has resorted to stop paying him allowance and has cut off his phone plan. Child support payments will stop when he's 18, so not sure what will happen to him after that. We're kind of at our wits end here as it looks like sitting in his mom's basement playing computer games is his future...",7.489424947145878,6.587706204651166,7.290401691331925,77.60659619450318,63.69767441860465,10.050739957716704,35.35940803382664,9.095868883498916,2.984116279069767,874,34,167,12,11,278,133,215,0.1,0.8220000000000001,0.079,-0.1843,1,0,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,0,7,6,9,1,0,5,0,22,0,0,3,3,27,30,16,0,2,5,11,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,9,9,0,3,2,3,3,0,9,2,0,2,4,2,22,7,28,22,2,29,0,1,2,0,38,11,0,3,18,110,31,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997782229090988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506085942543112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467313073550193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604905469342214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381097093221133,0.144438714913778,0.0,0.09232887502668803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890388393748742,0.0,0.1532706910145622,0.0,0.0,0.07303363401100142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361436048464425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18739434489117596,0.2953880957106197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556803675255736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682935181195017,0.0,0.12343565835184002,0.0,0.11738699243623706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371840515645245,0.111577713083918,0.0,0.10276050840056088,0.0,0.21562675890197666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933686793791304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759034094489358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42441976531312653,0.111393202287411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23373861001159785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863014278595428,0.13174884874835058,0.0,0.10510342892330694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18981420319995354,0.0,0.13655288849626568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176757069468766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700573083413628
parenting,miammi5,2018/04/20,"Preschool peer rejection 
I have a four-year-old who is in preschool. I know that kids are fickle at this age, so I try not to feel pain whenever my daughter is rejected by a classmate. I often see her go up to another child in her class only to have them tell her to go away because they do not want to play with her. This morning, when I dropped her off at school, she wanted to walk next to another little girl. I was holding my daughter's hand and the other child was holding her mom's hand. However, the little girl said that she did not want to walk with my daughter because she was waiting for her friend to come. Fortunately, another little girl was there and she greeted my daughter and we all walked together to the classroom. My daughter is not very affected by these rebukes and doesn't dwell on them all day like I did as a kid. If she were to get upset, I would deal with it by encouraging her to focus on the kids that were nice to her and to focus on the positive things that happened to her that day. I am looking for advice on how to handle these situations. These things devastated me as a kid and I would like my kids to have a tough skin. Thanks!",4.782354609929077,5.254575434042554,5.433191489361705,84.01333333333334,69.12765957446808,8.649645390070921,30.13475177304965,8.648137234880735,2.115998581560284,917,34,191,14,15,297,120,235,0.083,0.78,0.13699999999999998,0.9361,1,1,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,3,0,5,13,0,2,10,0,20,4,3,2,2,31,35,12,0,6,5,6,4,2,1,2,1,1,0,10,15,11,0,3,2,1,0,6,5,6,0,0,9,7,36,7,38,24,2,26,0,2,2,0,41,14,0,2,7,137,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803566819327842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4443639417026473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327165269415498,0.0,0.0,0.17221911323051142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168124633746892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821994288318164,0.14563078003349209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142428160034513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913556889219744,0.0,0.07380146701285831,0.0,0.16056033646175386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249139697231664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763169440227527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802303261889498,0.4247328326602815,0.0,0.0,0.11862113076170623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543964491389848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022946970385576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14822649322463735,0.0,0.0,0.10743306300651488,0.15030845558797848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343686915949227,0.0,0.0,0.14296062233757245,0.1125643254015355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877989374381818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123465705185893,0.1300513740825938,0.0,0.0,0.1876910571547641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590489947359852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655263145063277,0.2499528584623275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069123946841114,0.0,0.0,0.0909655110873717
parenting,lila_liechtenstein,2018/04/20,"My daughter is 12, and all my favourite t-shirts look SO MUCH BETTER on her than on me!!! /end rant. But seriously, it's so great to watch her grow. Even if she steals my clothes, and rocks them. She's just such a beautiful human.

Good thing? She's my shoe size *now*. So her feet will be too big once she's old enough to raid my expensive stilettoes and all. Ha.",-0.909399999999998,1.1814808933333367,0.3781666666666671,103.48325,100.06666666666666,4.1000000000000005,15.583333333333336,5.985473137389443,-0.8102666666666671,277,7,68,3,12,86,56,75,0.085,0.6970000000000001,0.218,0.9284,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,1,1,8,6,0,0,1,1,3,2,2,0,2,8,4,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,14,4,5,2,4,7,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,1,3,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29626203696217746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29669230069103203,0.3461232418578489,0.0,0.22125071910534602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809648082642124,0.0,0.36931594549422303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812983097933767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462483851631806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515045063467759,0.35674210373925835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254541329162336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lesbrarian,2018/04/20,"8yo daughter doesn’t have a “thing” and I’m tired of people acting like that’s insane. I recently noticed that a lot of parents have linked some hobby or sport or something like that to their kids’ identities. My daughter is really well-rounded and tries out different activities (birding club, opera, gymnastics, tae kwon do, soccer, sewing, dance, art, etc...) and sticks with it through the season but doesn’t get obsessed. 

My frame of mind is that I’m happy for her to be exposed to different things and maybe she’ll find something she loves to pieces, and maybe she won’t, and either way that’s ok. 

The issue is when other parents (coworkers, her classmates’, etc...) get all weird and preachy. Like she has to have a *thing* at 8 (or any age) I’m okay with how she is, and she is too. I was similar, and now I have lots of varied interests and little projects that I do in all sorts of realms. Jack of all trades, master of none? Maybe, but I’m happy and handy! 

Any other parents in my boat? It feels weird to push kids to be into something after interest is lost. ",3.1827536231884075,5.1741981207729495,3.7732608695652203,88.49293478260874,75.03864734299516,6.725603864734301,24.54347826086957,7.594959193182576,1.1612782608695644,829,27,165,11,18,261,119,207,0.065,0.779,0.156,0.9746,5,0,3,0,0,0,42,0,0,1,2,5,14,0,1,5,2,20,2,0,1,3,33,29,18,0,0,6,5,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,13,15,0,0,3,6,1,3,4,4,0,0,2,1,16,10,24,23,11,16,0,1,0,1,17,6,0,7,9,108,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009501076197112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26132959116933296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278957843695638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323589067816378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143058227045167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068109038959289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662649577140232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053385791976962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329920594640406,0.1253465365546993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652164283949272,0.21264912271404304,0.11287474035715735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769294492486011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627853800105207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238568522665845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166048295696185,0.0,0.0,0.0867033214235374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011891517386603,0.0,0.12348517186654408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888401019312392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492600045581061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374215781377891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490994382761083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926962799309848,0.0,0.0,0.11244715463979506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Normguy85,2018/04/20,"Whole brained child? Anyone here read the Whole Brained Child or No Drama Discipline? 

I have a hard time knowing good disciplining strategies as my parents main method was spanking. I have read enough studies and articles that I am trying to get away from this style, but having a hard time knowing what to replace it with. 

I saw these books and thought they could be good because they are based on actual science... ",7.045200000000001,8.411647120000005,5.5213333333333345,82.19400000000003,64.46666666666667,8.133333333333333,35.0,8.238735603445708,2.7302000000000004,334,15,58,4,5,97,59,75,0.059,0.858,0.083,0.5803,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,8,2,2,0,0,11,13,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,7,2,7,8,4,4,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,1,2,40,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.1794788434036441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860074926219006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279836877492946,0.0,0.0,0.11211558395889758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106298432156851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684470772044414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19003794698607526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609031675938276,0.0,0.0,0.3085258016842211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295113867758226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021546293756613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042207734747692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36793842378170544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601149189760598,0.21448980980083684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486922743133598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106789747506453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mhpilla,2018/04/20,"Bully at the playground My son is 2 and loves playing with other kids at the playground. He is very friendly and an easy going little guy. There is a little boy who is also 2 and is always at the playground and I’ve become friendly with his mother. My son does what he always does and approached the little boy to play. At first things were going well until all of a sudden the little boy started to hit my son. My son just stared at him blankly and walked away. The little boy now proceeds to hit my son almost every time he sees him. His mother corrects him, but he seems to just brush her off. I don’t like correcting other people’s children, but I also don’t want my son getting hurt. I also want my son to learn from this situation and stand up for himself. So far the advice I told him was to tell this boy to stop and he’s hurting him. How should I approach this situation when is happens again because we frequent this playground a lot? Not to mention this boy is twice the size of my son.",3.630363036303631,4.881144940594067,4.499623762376238,86.78811551155117,72.36633663366338,5.980726072607262,25.34785478547855,5.6839178017228535,0.6958345874587466,786,24,155,3,15,254,106,202,0.064,0.8420000000000001,0.095,0.1056,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,1,12,9,0,0,12,0,12,1,0,1,3,28,25,17,0,3,5,10,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,9,10,11,0,1,2,2,0,5,3,2,1,2,3,3,23,7,23,19,2,31,0,2,2,1,41,14,0,3,12,107,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834570380291347,0.0,0.0,0.12127254493738447,0.0,0.0,0.2905509746549388,0.20154374197809485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378530631071235,0.0,0.0,0.07382654219140072,0.13375468677768929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196551271772648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203903051337028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301472313285806,0.0,0.0,0.1871360624327007,0.0,0.06327412812675848,0.0,0.13765736255061733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991633330885977,0.10709573732062252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592980436071928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05916743530890885,0.6069120475320948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029620107739986,0.10930503812512032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396129925780488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965076960694828,0.11025251739978473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27226177872450785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572113218665384,0.0,0.0,0.10125202557917656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585405907760176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804590239147154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061926823077623,0.0,0.0,0.11572424367526266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992709405943524,0.1428657164700111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889097495217162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raspberrypeach,2018/04/20,"Is it easier for a toddler to go without a parent for one longer period of time or many short periods? My family is moving to another city (4 hrs away) in one week. I have a 2.5 year-old daughter who will be starting daycare in the new city almost as soon as we move. I still have about a month's work to do in our current city, so will have to travel back and forth. Has anyone been in this situation? Is it easier for me to stay away for the whole month, or try to come back when I can (e.g. every weekend)?",4.741993769470405,4.081232560747665,6.252850467289723,81.99584890965734,69.18691588785046,9.750155763239873,27.17912772585669,9.2995712137729,1.925985669781932,392,10,87,7,6,135,75,107,0.0,0.94,0.06,0.7303,2,0,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,7,16,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,7,0,21,12,1,28,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,3,15,63,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17577870726668748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406978514460612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274217598599199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298526316829259,0.2699600070636601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121281522288985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790065536801578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654841991510222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976385523773236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797077127710312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802299084908414,0.37314407952003337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953835305939294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420049108432107,0.0,0.2379019144538783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491723229955807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973151611810938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242486484388263,0.18710308620058733,0.14018707205830572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235922470444216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191806484530189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080820355868795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959849817430684,0.0,0.16921502165404445,0.0,0.12779575882532573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304248956788415
parenting,mtothedubs,2018/04/20,"My soon to be 4yo sleeps on a mattress on the floor in our room every night. How do we kick this habit? He falls asleep in his own room but wakes up around 10-11pm and wants to be in our room. It's getting a little old as he wakes up frequently and asks to be re-covered, to find his stuffed animals, to give midnight hugs, etc. We just need peaceful sleep.  Any ideas parents of Reddit? ",2.8402916666666687,3.956093112500003,3.327500000000001,94.95416666666668,74.125,6.333333333333334,24.583333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.4768333333333339,299,9,69,2,6,93,61,80,0.0,0.8909999999999999,0.109,0.8738,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,6,5,1,0,12,9,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,15,6,2,18,0,0,0,1,11,13,0,0,4,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673711352928089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910041452728596,0.2300904822315604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744906554814213,0.0,0.0,0.2073680723350981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249506935086517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285883834089413,0.2361022760351934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778413406991639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466785126054037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249605589889775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309684591098669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582632285454662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732889223937328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4925987140006508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451689029095439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lillyOfTheValley,2018/04/20,"So overwhelmed! 2 kids and a 8-2 job.  I feel like I never chill or enjoy myself anymore. Always busy. Always have something on my mind: groceries, sleep schedules, cake sales, etc etc.

Any tips to get less stressed and busy, although I am not signed up for much? The only 'extra' thing I do is be part of the executive committee at the school. (Currently I'm supposed to make a poster of the committee, I have zero motivation, zero time and zero talent with graphic design)

Rant over. Happy weekend everyone!",2.684854932301743,5.507290851063836,4.061876208897484,81.16136363636362,81.97872340425532,5.9713733075435185,25.56673114119923,7.348242739294969,1.7006085106382978,396,16,66,6,11,130,73,94,0.07400000000000001,0.787,0.139,0.7463,2,0,1,0,0,0,19,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,2,6,0,6,1,1,2,1,12,10,6,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,2,0,3,0,1,7,4,10,9,6,9,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,6,47,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503479946381225,0.0,0.0,0.14316449096278094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087846265571664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695829408970517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116604120136006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644796762658992,0.15039938755098825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999083218418572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22410820259565845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089139745173064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285207620393418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405273390005301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257063956736255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476039208106654,0.0,0.1623701666634484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011405304617904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22797849223423786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130629438265645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106774385423366,0.0,0.0,0.1620727379652172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411561339696182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986372090940447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275905351679528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oniroku,2018/04/20,"Teens with Food Allergies - any experiences to share? Hi /parenting - I'm the father of a 14 year old boy who's got a growing interest in all things teenager. 

His food allergies include tree nuts, dairy, coconut and fish.  He carries Benadryl and a prescribed epi-pen which thankfully was only needed once in his life so far.  He's outgrown his peanut and egg allergies and is blood-tested twice a year, so this is a bid beyond a ""food sensitivity"".  

Although he's hyper-aware about his allergies and generally risk averse while eating out at restaurants, etc. I know the years of experimentation are here already.   I don't really know if I have a specific question, more of a gnawing sense of fear.  

I'm hoping there are other parents on this sub that might have something to offer along the lines of ""it's all going to be ok"".  ",7.054272401433692,7.290402670967745,7.418279569892473,72.55186379928318,64.2258064516129,10.243727598566313,34.641577060931894,9.994966539143718,3.4395232974910392,654,27,116,13,9,214,109,155,0.052000000000000005,0.862,0.086,0.5994,2,0,1,0,0,0,24,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,11,1,10,6,0,1,2,19,19,10,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,8,8,5,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,2,0,7,5,17,15,4,14,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,4,5,70,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511898717213334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791502753588036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238006755233098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698193056286288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552298252100636,0.0,0.17857100688331595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5756677918670037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018750645595824,0.0,0.1269193433765996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761553975487952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442437140781514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208784076363427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834561430600525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766704493618425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651905581706838,0.1690002751380113,0.0,0.12069132734772785,0.0,0.0,0.3524141905804218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777697534850924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166124095470117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216775167299625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461009536744969,0.0,0.0,0.105426961613917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065745675146649
parenting,immaturesonsparent,2018/04/20,"Immaturity in teenager I am super concerned for my 14 year old son. He acts mostly like an 8 year old, alienating him from his peers, etc. Temper tantrums and being rude are the hobbies of choice. He does have RAD and PTSD, and has a very difficult time following norms. I am desperate for suggestions. ",4.271607142857143,6.6518386607142865,5.0030000000000046,79.14200000000002,73.10714285714286,8.765714285714285,29.057142857142853,9.3871,2.8760328571428566,239,10,43,6,5,77,48,56,0.207,0.695,0.099,-0.7178,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,5,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,6,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675439458214032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34096665970200724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936287421207692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6416185658966005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573787534025933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827199747010414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522569704509481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937566051804133
parenting,Throwaway0483828,2018/04/20,"Should I put my 7 Year old in the hospital for constipation per doctor's order? My daugter is 7. She's had trouble with constipation for a while because she is afraid to push and holds it in. I was instructed by her pediatrician to , in addition to high fiber diet and lots of water, to use suppositories and enemas until I could see the gastroenterologist. She's not in pain and the suppositories have worked. I've taken her to the ER once and after an xray they sent her home with instrucitons to use an enema. she had moderate constipation. I took her to the Gastroenterologist on Friday who felt her stomach \(did not take and xray\) and said she needs a barium enema xray and the only way to clean her out is put her in the Hospital to have two pedialax fleet enemas administerd and have a tube inserted through her nose down into her stomach to admister liquid laxative. No sedation of any kind. This seems pretty extreme and will be very traumatic. I asked the gastro if I could try a clean out at home first before such extreme measures and she said nothing would work and the hospital is the only option. I asked the dr. if the enamas were peresciption and she said they were the over the counter pedilax enemas. I asked why I couldn't try the enemas at home with laxative by mouth like Phillips milk of magnesia and her response was a firm, the hospital is the only option. I'm having a hard time believing that the over the counter pedialax enema sitting in my medicine cabinet at home will only work in the hospital. Also, a tube will be up the nose is really going scare her and she will not be cooperative. All this is done before they do a barium enema which is tramatic in and of itself. I get the feeling that the Hosipal may be more convenient for the Dr. and is the reason she's pushing the hospital. The hospital appointment is Tuesday morning. I asked the dr. what do do in the mean time and she said pedia lax enema eveyday for 3 days. The enemas are working and she's not in any pain and the what's coming out isn't hard so she's not complaining when she goes.

I've asked a Dr. on justanswers.com who's been practicing for 30 years. I checked him out and his is a legitimate Dr. He told me that an oil retention enema and soap suds enema to tolerance administered at home the night before the barium enema will get the job done and there's no need to submit my little girl the trauma of the hospital procedure. Please, give me some advice. I'm freaking out here!!",5.100431698666995,6.397317449064452,6.535668949492479,73.4025544209368,68.8960498960499,10.731588602176835,28.90797358444417,10.781019540027769,3.370637715543598,1987,71,366,61,34,677,217,481,0.048,0.892,0.06,0.6845,1,0,0,0,0,0,40,0,0,3,5,8,10,0,2,49,0,45,32,5,3,1,62,75,30,0,9,7,0,4,1,0,8,24,4,7,1,12,34,3,1,5,0,1,8,9,8,1,2,19,12,47,2,56,41,4,52,0,0,1,0,46,28,0,8,14,254,59,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014317777706502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558660395437471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115447290220262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833603154774301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049995001976284335,0.0,0.2093637407673412,0.09240174627550622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064783968520304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096308636954432,0.0,0.0,0.05289227562292848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394485259236087,0.0,0.16785769001000853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041468766535621766,0.0,0.07874634687938076,0.0,0.0,0.06976110669332578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569790936554057,0.07867534732245078,0.04661047306621545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693695426948772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665234380249763,0.41133388203841104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138628691979798,0.0,0.0,0.08540500954848547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04006792079644668,0.08219962120705185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972541012123762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933734069626938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162475367821513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696462755950477,0.0,0.0786946902667519,0.0,0.08605994634038723,0.08734228367151921,0.0,0.2495015145102912,0.1745374573869745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002679552352827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343777063471107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489353983471258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254029875757908,0.08432409999252068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120565598475624,0.0,0.08211036876273196,0.0,0.06535457726316814,0.07466250838353099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061664356757328426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564610098108196,0.0,0.0,0.0783679367814503,0.09112062418208107,0.11136430907759286,0.0,0.08011580705536965,0.0,0.0,0.1416676086576453,0.0,0.0676701781865077,0.0,0.0650989332667902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400492117344093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388288127202011,0.0,0.0,0.05826042606790384,0.0,0.0,0.10562871498472312
parenting,eviloars,2018/04/20,"A Guy Pretends to Trip Over an Invisible Dog and Laughs Loudly A Guy Pretends to Trip Over an Invisible Dog and Laughs Loudly

[I am holding my two year old daughter]

“Why he did that, daddy?”
“Because he was joking.”
“Why he was joking?”
“Because it’s fun to joke.”
“Why it’s-”
“Because it feels good and we like to feel good.”
“Why we like to feel that?”
“Because life is suffering and we’re dumped into a world that is enormous and painful and infinitely complex and we are mostly powerless to affect things in a big and meaningful way and as we stare into the void of death that is ever closer we feel so small and so helpless like a little flailing fish lying on a cold, dry kitchen floor and so we find little ways to be funny to force a feeling of comfort to overtake our anxiety by reminding us that ultimately nothing really matters unless we let it matter, so we can decide what we want to really matter to us most, and see those things, really see them, and hold them really close, feel their warmth and use our warmth to keep them warm back.”

[pats me on the back and hugs me]

“Okay daddy.”

[beat]

“But why?”",4.609999999999999,5.663927777777778,5.4861851851851835,81.37733333333334,69.83333333333333,8.167407407407408,27.36296296296297,8.447377352677275,1.865504074074074,864,28,166,13,15,283,120,216,0.111,0.672,0.21600000000000005,0.9685,1,0,0,0,0,0,23,13,0,4,2,7,19,1,0,11,1,11,4,0,2,1,51,22,22,1,1,2,1,7,3,0,0,2,2,1,2,13,27,1,3,10,5,0,2,0,4,0,2,3,13,21,15,24,17,2,26,0,2,3,1,23,16,0,2,9,107,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545348904702353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178743385494488,0.0,0.2723756347904843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104294080300652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388863235111876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209571283235308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18738454574207689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22120965195734485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928792049494696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422522202585575,0.07890005546767052,0.1637192458784774,0.2239141226199836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718329517325943,0.0,0.11721487942743407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886125830399324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862425574653588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780277404225653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842275598237364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911887659195199,0.0,0.2687330548766925,0.0964766559457286,0.0,0.0,0.06588609438125832,0.17733135885399526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.503978812517036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193391128805933
parenting,Artist_X,2018/04/20,"My son is turning One-Year Old tomorrow (only child) - Proud parent and proud father. I love him with my whole heart Hello all,

Been lurking for a while, but wanted to share something about my first born son.

We were told, my wife and I, that we wouldn't be able to have children. She had a history of health issues that prevented it, and I had never gotten my fertility checked, because I didn't want her to think it was her fault or add to the fire anything else in case I was infertile, too.

But, for the longest time, our doctor said it simply wouldn't happen. We tried for about 3-4 years, and eventually just gave up. We did what every responsible couple does. We got another dog.

We got our dog at 8 weeks old, wonderful dog. A week later, my wife takes a pregnancy test because she said she was a little late (usually has irregular cycles, anyway).

It was a VERY faint positive line, and had happened before. So, we didn't think much of it. 

She decided to get an official check at a hospital, and sure enough, she was pregnant. Like....10 weeks pregnant, from what we were told. 

Well, the pregnancy went great, we did everything right, we followed all the instructions, she dropped alcohol and quit energy drinks, she stopped eating sushi (huge bummer for her).

7~ months later, our first son was born. We named him Soren. *proud Swedish Norse father*

He is the light of my life. My only child (at the moment), and I couldn't be a happier father. He's happy, incredibly healthy, strong, HUGE, and he loves people, animals, and life.

The hardest part about being a parent is being away 50 hours a week, and knowing that your son is making leaps and strides, while I'm sitting at a desk. But, I know it's for the family, so I do what I need do.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I just wanted to share that my son is going to be one-year old tomorrow, and after 4 years of being told it would never happen, I get to smile seeing my bright, beautiful boy. My wife is an absolutely amazing mother, and she puts up with a lot from me. I can't wait to see him grow up, but it's bittersweet in that I look at pictures of him growing. He's no longer the little potato we took home from the hospital.

Having him in my life has completely changed me. 

[Anyway, here's some pictures of the little guy. I love him so much](https://imgur.com/gallery/l6zR04N).

Thanks for being a great sub!",3.4877350034474865,5.32795068777293,4.4144564467938405,84.8801815674558,73.7816593886463,7.615812456906457,24.934727648816363,8.371475516178862,1.5926672489082971,1837,59,360,32,38,594,227,458,0.046,0.752,0.202,0.998,3,0,3,0,0,0,102,15,1,0,7,14,18,0,0,26,0,40,13,1,1,5,62,80,24,0,8,7,14,1,0,0,3,7,2,1,5,16,29,3,3,6,1,2,7,9,1,1,2,27,8,61,17,42,42,8,56,0,0,4,3,69,18,0,4,29,230,77,4,0.08192130470271737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754896086755927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590163083093956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741425362280498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696776245264955,0.0,0.0,0.09987693396143334,0.0,0.06970899651281659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666187799811349,0.0,0.08589292936275332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064436548543857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384992666613551,0.07168988580327837,0.0,0.0,0.08025169084223542,0.0,0.08382594638701947,0.06843473816689853,0.0,0.0,0.08464660670301181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902223244893925,0.0,0.07362558635058164,0.0,0.07722811526431203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139364439861227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856010010600176,0.0,0.046557765339762,0.0,0.1310399020487392,0.1806370552847146,0.0,0.08111497130486815,0.2173282175980484,0.08720675217651377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707851608607682,0.0,0.09707714050842366,0.0,0.0,0.08217374807173414,0.0,0.08067598334199037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550455828648522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004361327481904,0.0,0.09241079994553633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359032063700425,0.04002261147281254,0.2463200064332225,0.0,0.0,0.06879326354247248,0.0,0.0,0.06964656372467126,0.2218115277464439,0.0,0.054683107018420114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538880383887281,0.0,0.12044316988525193,0.06074360941598216,0.12636552094994932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578878859162964,0.0,0.11102399241318213,0.12460968748357465,0.0,0.0,0.1819278282791626,0.0887127898201777,0.0,0.05679391782664781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235353804241692,0.0,0.0871333914440551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996034660571639,0.15585184112459669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056134692198204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306702267298253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848987892467423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720986018349313,0.0,0.06159462590428011,0.0,0.0,0.07542213089586182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498372843239394,0.0,0.0,0.04776897156583571,0.0,0.0,0.2348379519115007,0.09101758380043053,0.055619188437474085,0.08910685522172407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022474337529124,0.06759365587282418,0.1449579240644383,0.0,0.2628493168623801,0.0,0.07365709128092505,0.07594187019385022,0.0,0.09146221112213226,0.0,0.0,0.08884016042120152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819454442375304,0.0,0.0,0.21101853733228576
parenting,Porkedyamom,2018/04/20,"Morning vomiting The past 2 days my 3 year old son has been vomiting in the morning, seems to be fine when he wakes up and throughout the day. Anyone have any ideas what could be causing it?",3.4954385964912262,5.073296263157896,3.9447368421052635,89.3414912280702,73.21052631578948,7.171929824561403,28.456140350877188,7.793537801064563,1.6415508771929828,150,6,31,2,3,47,33,38,0.0,0.951,0.049,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,6,3,1,1,0,5,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,6,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228746118367684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23520079293528776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34554915470067865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26856757750130433,0.0,0.0,0.4338673049441701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797257400197465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35296833557070145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211074145622389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062226091733105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661407717571893
parenting,girlboss93,2018/04/20,"Bidet for my toddler? So my son is two and we're going to be starting potty training soon and I was wondering if a bidet would be helpful for him to clean his butt? Obviously for a while we're going to be wiping for him,  but once he starts doing it himself I want to make it really easy on him to get really clean without needing flushable wipes. I wanted to get the kind that you install on the toilet. Have other parents had success with this?",4.491333333333333,5.223461244444447,5.731111111111113,80.69000000000003,69.8888888888889,7.777777777777778,29.44444444444445,7.793537801064563,1.932111111111112,352,13,67,4,6,118,63,90,0.0,0.7659999999999999,0.234,0.9727,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,9,1,1,1,1,13,20,6,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,11,2,14,14,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,2,1,2,4,51,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622042122085626,0.0,0.2852219490878208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819506258968614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613080460552043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674996883135565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18606359804665296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672353952638695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27863133784677896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215081382247356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552232579104065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451250238182971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960135030512525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418904029725696,0.2721260731447652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825556344566454,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gretasaur,2018/04/20,"Babies & bike trailer Q TL:DR after almost 2 years of looking, still can’t find discontinued bike arm for kid trailer. HALP!

I have a 3 year old & 1 year old, got a great deal on a barely used Joovy Cocoon, has two back wheels, two front wheels. Very, VERY awesome for taking kids on walks. My main goal though was to use it as a bike trailer with the kiddos.

Problem: did not realize how long it’d been discontinued when I bought it. NO WHERE (not even at Joovy headquarters or on eBay) have I been able to find the metal arm that attaches its hitch to the bike. Bought this while pregnant so I have spent a year and a half looking. (BUYBUYBABY’s web site says they have some but I have called store upon store and none can find any)

I even tried looking up forums to see if any other brands arms would work and I just can’t find the information. 
Help me, please help. 😭",3.133725649350648,4.663493232954547,3.6605844155844167,91.20909090909092,74.05681818181819,6.619480519480518,21.662337662337666,7.1686216300943375,0.4072837662337663,683,16,149,7,14,214,119,176,0.023,0.88,0.097,0.9228,0,0,0,0,0,0,26,0,0,1,2,10,2,0,0,10,0,15,3,3,3,0,23,26,12,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,7,4,0,0,6,4,5,2,6,1,0,3,8,5,10,1,16,16,3,22,0,0,4,0,9,8,0,4,12,83,17,2,0.12427073495999601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443919019196263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269294578818782,0.0,0.1690167223957568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555652440955467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689431469527218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811767103409513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415929683172525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543248015969968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939065909519468,0.13700892400762935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659210825803525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997568986762436,0.3130683569460843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608024635056437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641194918475352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189103102273673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882507630226334,0.0,0.0,0.0990276863768231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924276946610527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343612700612904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220953661412118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843716716925548,0.0,0.24278890162377045,0.0,0.0,0.21466003006051326,0.0,0.20507274205241705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047057510818717,0.0,0.0,0.08827836461401037,0.0,0.0,0.32010511575258954
parenting,Nekurahn,2018/04/20,"What resources are available to help children with word pronunciation? I have encountered several children in the foster care system who pronounce ""draw"" as ""drawl"".

They have no accent and it's definitely not a regional issue. It's just mispronounced.

Speech therapy has yielded no success.

Any ideas? Thanks!",5.4334000000000024,9.099680240000003,5.255500000000001,68.51525000000001,86.6,8.1,34.25,8.472884824447931,4.4178,252,14,32,7,8,78,45,50,0.07400000000000001,0.6579999999999999,0.268,0.9091,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,21,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443280257689504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663178592737049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408230401253768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4055921956391348,0.0,0.3750031192410784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058929488956596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307839361147553,0.4108769136700807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ih8YourCat,2018/04/20,"Adopted Chinese 11yo brother-in-law is having trouble with his identity. Not sure how to go about discussing it with him. I'm not 100% sure what I expect to gain from posting this. Any advice would certainly be helpful. 

First, a little background - my wife's parents split when she was a teenager. Shortly afterwards, her dad remarried a woman who survived ovarian cancer. As a result, she was unable to have children. They decided to adopt my BIL when he was 2 years old from China (about 9 years ago). My BIL is now 11yo and has recently been asking questions regarding his heritage and background, which I'm well aware is totally normal. 

We had my BIL over for dinner this past weekend. My FIL dropped him off and mentioned this to my wife and I. One of the things he mentioned was that my BIL is upset over the fact that he is different. Specifically, he has been saying things like ""why is my skin darker?"" (he gets **really** tan), ""I want to be white"", ""why are my eyes different?"", ""how come I don't look like everyone else in our family?"" etc.

My FIL has never had a way with words. He didn't directly ask us, but I'm pretty sure that him bringing this up was his way of asking for help with discussing the subject with my BIL. 

We tried explaining the concept of family to him and how all families are different, but I'm not sure how much it helped. Has anyone else experienced something like this? Any parents that were adopted or have adopted have any advice? ",3.150645161290324,5.571855820788535,4.08874551971326,84.1531182795699,76.8136200716846,7.1440860215053785,26.82078853046595,8.167268648758528,1.9745971326164875,1150,46,211,21,27,370,156,279,0.05,0.853,0.097,0.9074,5,0,1,0,0,0,51,4,0,1,3,10,11,0,1,9,0,31,4,2,5,9,41,45,15,0,4,6,5,1,3,0,1,1,1,0,2,16,13,1,0,3,1,0,3,6,2,1,2,11,6,30,9,27,31,4,27,0,0,3,0,42,7,0,2,16,139,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243718428559335,0.09181870387223942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113168097220799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242655680434068,0.10613143412727942,0.0,0.0,0.2905040141331783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922624569190286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246617008017815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305801698394307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552069499793585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897651241406252,0.0,0.0,0.2929421118801131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810632672270431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411703139405183,0.0,0.05886772391276705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20828538349911327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518139901210419,0.10381582268166532,0.0,0.0,0.08698232863461558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614428248694544,0.0,0.07988839826276578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148782657993816,0.0,0.0,0.10869130536213223,0.0,0.07018946984865919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002987984993756,0.0,0.09888021256580427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920239459172288,0.10537957078108172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603492744653562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635692791964606,0.0,0.10227418370445188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237212487506182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974205917358862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904971554761012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762982286866274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032500390204784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459572825216285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061095021711343636,0.16443626414694149,0.0,0.0,0.09313216135053322,0.0,0.18693229144597207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358128873597403,0.0,0.0,0.13340611287397786
parenting,darla-day,2018/04/20,"Help choosing Montessori playgroup / preschool Hi fellow parents ! 

Having a really tough time choosing between two Montessori places for my son to start at playgroup at 18 months.. I'd like him to stay at the same place till elementary school so this will be an important decision! Could you folks give your thoughts? 

School A is bigger, has better facilities, lovely outdoor playground, with slides, water play, even an area with bunnies and turtles and vegetables and fruit plants to teach kids about biology. The lead teacher in the playgroup is AMI certified and the other teachers have early childhood education degrees and underwent formal training in Montessori principles but no certification. I spoke with one of them though and she seems like she really understands the methodology and she is good with my son. They have a strong bilingual program and it's important to me that my son be bilingual. They do not have true mixed age classes, one is 18m-3y and the other is 3-6y.However the school gives me a rather impersonal feeling. Can't quite put my finger on it but it just feels like even though it ticks off all the checkboxes everyone there is just doing a job and I don't really feel any real warmth for the students. 

School B is much smaller, only 17 kids, 4 teachers. They don't have an outdoor play area but what they do have is lovingly maintained. The principal is a brilliant woman who is very passionate and she frequently visits the school and knows all the students by name. I can see that the students are fond of her too. All of the teachers are AMS or AMI certified and the principal also tests them herself to see if their teaching style is appropriate before hiring them too. My son also enjoyed visiting and spent his time with a new teacher there who was very good with him. However they do not have a strong bilingual program. Only half an hour every day which is not nearly enough to establish fluency. They have true mixed age classes 18m-6yo. This is more true to Montessori principles.

I'm inclined to send my son to school B even though school A ticks all the boxes, but I worry I'm being irrational. I don't know. I want him somewhere where he is loved. He's so little. I think that kids will do more for people who care for them more. 

At the same time I'm aware that a brief visit isn't really a good way to judge how passionate the teachers are with the kids. 

What do you guys think? ",5.335828318023442,7.2737752594235054,5.2646968641114995,80.26819512195122,69.1330376940133,8.347190370605006,30.402343997465948,8.922882184376627,2.6162763509661078,1946,79,342,36,35,605,223,451,0.049,0.7709999999999999,0.179,0.9968,4,0,1,0,0,0,42,0,3,11,5,20,23,0,0,34,0,46,9,1,2,7,61,71,29,0,4,12,6,4,3,1,2,0,1,0,6,18,21,3,0,13,2,1,8,9,1,0,4,4,8,39,22,37,61,11,40,0,0,2,5,55,16,0,3,17,232,57,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543243343990075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758330656728448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205394388648444,0.0,0.0,0.07488998105016716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633390919949781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760774460195322,0.0,0.0,0.05460970050202868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749404172585895,0.0,0.16778520458816568,0.0,0.07134407770281655,0.08091256249034816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844580200197506,0.06049331075491261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245990945073432,0.0,0.2130693090052269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384360531829169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056757250439696864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338985019877533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402891918183393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930725987003305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410680739274713,0.08486866262852563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292730662200704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758842385206659,0.0,0.06224738440200224,0.0,0.0,0.08178163514001978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147587387507735,0.12880144427273538,0.0,0.0,0.09402385765090328,0.0,0.0,0.0587044136752492,0.0,0.17693901656486705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851238363167482,0.0,0.09006447964854451,0.0,0.09638103590762163,0.2169851794536681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5998839594224475,0.13495331213282752,0.07708681794336239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059934861050024324,0.09025448255869058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085152857719138,0.24958435352302455,0.06722412953387742,0.1481276292402359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271718653140106,0.08815180892145476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973489021456076,0.04994472568792919,0.06721271124814072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599366783937393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnobjectionableDryad,2018/04/20,"Can 6 month old be eating too much? So we started DS on solids about a month ago and it seems to be going pretty well. He's now eating the solids 3 times a day. He'll eat anywhere from 3 to 6 containers of it in one day. 

Typically right after he eats, I try and get him to take a nap, where he'll drink anywhere from 4 to 8 oz of breastmilk. We do that at least 3 times a day, sometimes more if he's tired. 

Then overnight he wakes up 3 or 4 times to eat again and eats around 6 to 8 oz each time. 

I exclusively pump his milk and I get out around 40 oz a day. My supply hasn't changed but I can barely keep up with him all of a sudden. Its to the point now where we're probably going to have to start supplementing with formula. 

I'm just not sure if he's eating too much. He is crawling and when he's awake he does play pretty hard so I'm sure that factors into it. But I researched it and it seems like he's eating a lot more than he should be and now I'm starting to get a little concerned. Plus I'm really not wanting to have to use formula if I absolutely don't have to. Any input would be greatly appreciated!",1.3866393442622922,2.6426606147540994,3.531114754098361,91.47577049180329,78.09836065573771,6.519344262295082,21.626229508196722,7.1686216300943375,0.4063154098360653,866,23,207,10,20,297,128,244,0.038,0.8740000000000001,0.087,0.9172,0,0,1,0,0,0,18,2,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,10,0,15,12,1,1,3,38,35,18,0,6,9,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,17,10,2,2,3,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,1,12,6,33,27,8,39,0,0,0,0,17,14,0,7,24,116,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909396548156486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606771233200628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886111841795222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438987383308664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301750093466055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808276756046227,0.0,0.0,0.08740806394312588,0.0,0.7304084043581047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985159120744298,0.0,0.10141902524813168,0.0,0.0,0.0983726019546661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992947558036195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930866991486578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04359159222780352,0.08942845792126762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585723405420379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243958444062366,0.0,0.13118358235640162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936282695345026,0.0,0.0604622290585138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434794368045873,0.0,0.0,0.18155098650528825,0.09620132741522992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716082176069565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619899824437605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245702574357068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824735344540427,0.0,0.18946506402096594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681899614856909,0.0,0.06708727184550202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20811490834914464,0.10255280971367063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057898006117676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706310317254822,0.0,0.0,0.05262813930652159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022539683561909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338399112527401,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluebledthesea,2018/04/20,"Am I really unknowingly delegitimizing my son's emotions? My son is 1 years old and he loves feeding our dogs. It's not something we encourage but it's often hard to stop him from reaching out or to stop the dogs from snatching something from his hand. The dogs are in no way agressive, but occasionally he's gotten his finger bit when they take something from him and he ends up crying as I'm sure it hurts and is surprising, despite no blood or broken bones.

Now, my reaction, mostly as a figure of speech and just what comes out of me naturally, is to say something like, ""Oh buddy, you're okay..."" (EDIT: Felt I should add I say this while hugging him and kissing his finger.) However, my wife has gotten upset with me more than once and says we have to say something like, ""Yes, I know it hurts, you can cry, I understand how much it hurts."" I don't know if she got this out of a parenting book or what, and I have no problem with her saying whatever she wants to him, but I'm getting tired of being chastised and made to feel like I'm going to ruin him for not legitimizing his emotions, as she explained it.

I'm just wondering, is she being overzealous? Am I going to ruin him with this manner of speech? It also makes me wonder about when he's older when, yes, I probably would tell him to toughen up a bit so as not to raise a crybaby, but that would be way down the line. I know I am going to be told to talk with her, but in general this sort of thing ends up being a fight with no resolution and it's nice to hear outside perspectives. Thanks.",5.517575434859779,5.284461888178917,6.422337593184242,79.98911164359252,67.49840255591054,9.383670571529997,29.848952786652468,8.998388855275968,2.2321666311679094,1213,39,248,19,18,404,160,313,0.193,0.684,0.124,-0.9803,2,0,5,0,1,0,42,3,1,1,0,11,20,1,1,8,3,21,10,5,3,1,61,50,29,0,6,14,4,6,3,0,3,1,8,0,0,16,21,1,2,10,1,0,4,8,8,0,0,6,14,40,12,44,36,5,27,0,5,0,3,43,9,0,10,15,168,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938208745833608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21674307584760333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855079032988904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218075615784908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22331925520888415,0.17583843791564013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05019130513618361,0.07091484902132754,0.09530985015403473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05186180199987425,0.0,0.16924355400337526,0.0,0.07939119134097228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892183351036267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187873240040293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187953163788598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16366014363796108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548741669029772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959042838926756,0.09392682814365756,0.06626007719089295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297110724729261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416179181658408,0.1057138559277526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102219003474714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070243281064978,0.09498308269224176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359162297780557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946970778453415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.382094765491651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597976639531994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355597321734103,0.0,0.07463483495162396,0.07978534923675566,0.08676187906955858,0.09138976344884768,0.0,0.0,0.06594717447562065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140903753610944,0.0,0.09485184529209784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033382392633258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854899719277621,0.15758368027786968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152970527141857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410298432496834,0.0,0.0,0.06392332721528003
parenting,qheeee,2018/04/20,My daughter just told a boy she liked him and got rejected. My daughter is 14 and for the first time she got up the nerve to tell a boy that she liked him and she got rejected. What should I do or say to be the most supportive mom I can be? ,3.8438993710691847,3.0484525094339645,4.881132075471701,91.53352201257864,71.0754716981132,9.330817610062894,27.10062893081761,8.841846274778883,1.4362251572327054,185,5,48,3,3,61,34,53,0.112,0.75,0.138,0.1263,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,11,4,0,1,2,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,1,10,3,4,4,1,3,0,2,0,0,14,1,0,2,4,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382706396613718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6721146652633998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737057816482123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280741371028411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276333169601648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178778046565361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24483795713981696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633407119103151,0.0,0.0,0.2676674627302693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Penumbrala,2018/04/20,"2 year old suddenly wont eat, screams/tantrums for cereal every night. Hi everyone,

My son was 2 in December, and we have always had difficulty with feeding. He was a reflux baby, then wouldn't take to solids when it was time, he was still eating exclusively purees at 18 months because he would gag until vomiting on anything else. We were consistently seeing a speech therapist and occupational therapist for this and other issues \(sensory stuff\) for a while until he was able to handle whole foods.

In the last three weeks he has very suddenly developed aversions to most foods \(we have a new referral to the speech and OT but we are on the wait list now\). 

He will suddenly not eat: 

* ANY veggies, even if pureed into sauce \(like bolognese\)  
* Nothing with sauce \(curry, stir fry etc\)
* Nothing where the food is mixed up \(fried rice, quiche etc.\)
* Most meat
* Nothing for dinner. I home cook his dinners and every night he will have a full blown, tears running down his face tantrum if it comes anywhere near him. He ends up screaming for Wheetbix \(breakfast cereal\) for dinner every night. My partner and I are torn over whether to give in so he at least has something in his tummy.

Even though this feeding behavior is really strange and sudden, he is a VERY happy and normal child otherwise. I am at a total loss as to what to do. Please help!!!",4.129668674698795,6.779536590361445,4.379141566265062,82.1453388554217,74.66265060240964,7.523493975903612,27.644076305220885,8.472884824447931,2.2625112449799203,1077,43,188,21,24,336,163,249,0.091,0.8590000000000001,0.051,-0.7513,0,0,1,0,0,0,56,4,0,0,1,8,5,1,0,11,0,24,15,1,0,3,30,29,20,0,5,5,1,0,1,1,5,1,3,1,2,7,16,13,1,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,7,4,13,2,33,17,8,41,0,1,1,0,24,17,0,4,23,120,20,0,0.10848801191419316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027071670604296,0.0,0.0,0.07377556831409815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927639002769333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613328511357099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345281607900892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330309607502563,0.0906278130766746,0.0,0.09608817760804447,0.0,0.2419856215902869,0.1433106173890319,0.0,0.2742174872618825,0.10366494453562464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3935524039132489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407158656285258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548750600904302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271722755693948,0.0,0.10882232152174803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132332983680414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884322094121323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053001762680124714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659409607390157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477839793831947,0.0,0.30542595000598216,0.1062952174899588,0.3122915201085898,0.0,0.11383991885603358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908725874324168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695001984265431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864508995053594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351937181625799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663866645435266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419281811230735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815694834598033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519258870903321,0.0,0.0,0.10658892088197228,0.0,0.06326023218464727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790279432258988,0.0,0.0,0.08702253926156506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112299097193455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706677099071815,0.0,0.0,0.06986272275355149
parenting,lamintak,2018/04/20,"Keep child in dual immersion? My son has been in a dual immersion program (Mandarin Chinese) at school since kindergarten. He finishes second grade in June, so he's just about done with his third year of it. He does well with it and his only complaints about it are that speaking Mandarin makes his throat dry and he thinks it's boring. He wants to be done with it. That's what he *says*, but his actions seem to suggest that he has some amount of liking for it. He enjoys saying what certain words are in Mandarin, sings some Mandarin songs, and even tries teaching little Mandarin phrases to his younger brother.

My wife and I are torn because on the one hand, we don't want to force him to do something he has said he doesn't want to continue doing, but on the other hand, there are great benefits of being fluent (or semi-fluent) in a second language and our son may come to us as an adult and say ""Why did you guys let me drop the dual immersion program? You should have made me stay!"".

One other downside of keeping our son in dual immersion is we will be moving to a new neighborhood, but would keep him at the same school, so he would be at a different school than the other kids in the neighborhood.

Any suggestions on how best to handle this?",7.0275118708452045,6.474498246913582,6.7049382716049415,80.28452991452994,64.47325102880659,9.287622665400443,32.6840772396328,8.384062270229773,2.4111357391579618,986,34,188,11,13,309,136,243,0.052000000000000005,0.8109999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9829,1,0,1,0,0,0,30,5,2,0,1,9,8,0,0,11,0,27,3,3,3,1,37,39,14,0,6,5,5,2,1,0,5,0,6,0,4,15,12,0,3,2,2,0,3,2,1,1,5,6,8,19,7,34,23,5,24,0,0,0,0,41,14,0,5,6,132,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158303071448592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209610336066529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133219709312372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116009843379052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070580828591805,0.0,0.0,0.11785424404583456,0.2756367981639661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895099674578555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847871048130562,0.0,0.1333485681671658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35911368018018264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771342860447675,0.0,0.065794980240473,0.13497886452775373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743192385326846,0.08989603160225232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313729348644127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006911984392006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251736001799698,0.1024257491458635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281059434889691,0.32129483532969577,0.0,0.4088922468978688,0.0,0.12260227549002785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114038370582313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036787295454998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435447101085496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629374850355229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143489816302056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199640372792284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23830288425827875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210882220589544,0.0,0.12152246059985512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19133728457800148,0.0,0.0,0.08672572817732463
parenting,Clugo13,2018/04/20,"Bilingual but dropped the ball on teaching kids Spanish Hi fellow parents,

My wife and I grew up the US and are English/Spanish speakers. Out of habit since we use it more, we generally stick to English when speaking to each other and as a result, we pretty much dropped the ball on passing Spanish on to our daughters \(6 & 3\). Do you guys have any advice on introducing Spanish now that the kids are older? Since their Spanish is limited, the problem that we've come across with switching languages at home is that of course, they don't understand and we end up going back to English if we want to communicate. We've also tried Spanish versions of their favorite cartoons as an aid but they just get bored.

If we forge on ahead, do they eventually get it or is there a different way to ease them into it? 

Thanks!",6.891858974358975,7.029308057692307,6.676410256410258,78.06858974358975,64.57692307692308,8.728205128205127,37.20512820512821,8.167268648758528,2.995312820512821,651,31,118,7,9,205,101,156,0.051,0.8440000000000001,0.105,0.8736,2,0,0,0,0,0,20,8,1,6,2,6,3,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,2,0,28,17,13,0,4,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,7,15,0,1,1,2,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,17,1,24,17,4,24,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,3,6,83,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20897565555476347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101896801624472,0.0,0.2317107216573828,0.0,0.14542805462430236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444052700302605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18421628666648826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22343191542933388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189411170408592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234597789365621,0.0,0.12153815751884865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211749083909927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145130004452156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720729771668665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23745956113975236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21756640178306755,0.0,0.204629398156788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3538044804734498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968880327123393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519282951089352,0.0,0.0,0.22262955789245747,0.2572400330769852,0.18470119485690864,0.0,0.0,0.1261366310573521,0.16974735258422002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eNdblu,2018/04/20,"Bedtimes for my wife are BRUTAL Hey all. New to this Reddit and thought I'd post asking for some advice.

We've got two boys (4 and 2) that share a room. We moved them into the same room back in January so that they could have a dedicated play space and we could free ourselves a bit so that one of us could exercise/do errands while the other does bedtime.

I have always found my bedtimes to go smoother with the boys. I've always found that I could wrap up bedtime a lot quicker than she could and I know it would bug her a bit how I was consistently able to do this.

Lately the issue is that the boys freak out whenever she's doing bedtime. My 4yo cries himself to sleep asking for me while she's in there giving cuddles to each of them. This then causes me 2yo to also start to cry and lose it... It's not sobbing.. it's like freaking the eff out ccrying. When this happens, bedtime can take over an hour (getting into PJs, teeth, stories, and cuddles) for her. 

Needless to say, my wife loathes bedtime. 

We alternate nights and I really want to maintain a 1 parent bedtime. When it works it's great. I don't want to always feel guilty that my kids are freaking out while she's doing bedtime. I don't want them to freak out. I want them to be happy and excited that their mom is doing bedtime. The kids always know who's going to be doing bedtime.

I don't know what to do. I don't know what to suggest to her to see how things could go a bit better for her. She gets frustrated because of this, and I get annoyed at the kids because of it. I don't want to, but I can't help it. Their causing distress on my life partner.

For those that have kids sharing a room ever experienced this type of thing? What did you do to try and make things better?",2.3027131014597195,4.0561539189944185,3.4825860515408174,90.66310776716529,76.84916201117319,5.736673274463867,24.397549107947373,6.3737218528115,0.6414489817985219,1365,46,287,10,31,442,172,358,0.095,0.815,0.09,-0.5975,1,0,0,0,0,0,41,4,1,7,4,10,20,3,1,17,0,32,5,2,5,2,53,60,22,0,12,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,8,31,21,0,0,8,1,1,4,7,10,0,2,6,4,43,11,44,45,8,34,0,2,1,2,44,16,1,2,14,200,74,2,0.09074493497293533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867490021314257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256869171261437,0.30202822129063106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966852906782706,0.0,0.0,0.06977725364363634,0.0,0.11063454019093263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051304134928038,0.2972098987750317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644009011995036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4347146795599576,0.0,0.19935810002778734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794115041141412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208398892859264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045883365702535185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899427474278933,0.0,0.0,0.14223144949286556,0.08705081039410899,0.1547173132888987,0.0,0.07257701420542814,0.10004661116542386,0.0,0.0,0.08024544630681672,0.09659967067389896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060824417091224464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936548177318873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471413583747873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948417230421756,0.0,0.10236423922062446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409583121793805,0.04433339152406051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152037057930062,0.0,0.07714809864440611,0.0,0.0,0.060572948740402525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627937109339143,0.0,0.09644750481929984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764202366434208,0.0,0.08515797424161868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149111643503701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076151134841692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690856348718587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813352900052229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721640145254722,0.0,0.0,0.07231196438709253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081046987971583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422973203546069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822889775314787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086070776424576,0.0,0.0,0.0720413420609122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061609854192649416,0.0,0.08864461571379502,0.0,0.10915498364329547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676185688361564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606339342725627,0.0,0.0,0.06446259820539572,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ddaonma,2018/04/20,"Should Dad’s priorities be different? Are all men like this? Or am I just asking too much? I’ve got a 7 month old baby and am still on maternity leave for another few months. My husband gets home from work between 3 and 4 each day, and as soon as he gets home he either starts watching tv or playing video games. With that said, he is still very helpful with the baby whenever I ask him to do anything! 
Once or twice a week, he waits until the baby goes to bed (8 o’clock) and then goes to meet up with some friends, sometimes it’s casual, but mostly it’s to drink and party. I have absolutely NO problem with this what so ever and I’m happy he’s maintaining a social life and also waiting until the baby is asleep to do so!
My issue is that he never wants to do anything that we can do as a family between the time he comes home and the time the baby goes to bed. Obviously the things we can do with a baby are limited and not as fun as drinking with friends, but that’s what we signed up for when agreeing to have a baby. ANYTHING just to get out of the house and have fun as a family would be good enough for me. It just makes me mad that he doesn’t put any effort into family time but will drop everything it seems to go hang out with friends.
 I try my best to get out of the house and do activities during the day, But am I just being crazy or too hard on him? Am I deep down jealous that I can’t do any of that? Is this just a guy thing? Hheelllppp!!",3.6275081433224763,3.971592035830618,5.079236156351794,85.98699755700326,71.6384364820847,8.09439739413681,25.44771986970684,8.07648339933343,1.2624646254071656,1133,31,252,15,20,382,157,307,0.104,0.768,0.128,0.8486,1,0,2,0,0,0,26,3,0,0,4,15,14,2,0,18,0,30,4,1,1,4,58,47,32,0,4,15,2,1,1,3,3,1,1,5,2,18,27,2,3,1,7,0,4,5,3,0,1,2,3,17,11,44,39,9,35,0,0,1,0,27,10,0,7,21,175,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549349255779243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454008575766406,0.11210131519678904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639260659323042,0.0,0.1998872349056061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219230516948027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209091784280664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378923469030118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169506529308848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20945632820140733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046351328332722,0.0,0.0,0.09670350575385524,0.0,0.0,0.09608112188554928,0.0,0.3023472269695408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477882585301363,0.0,0.22341798888254585,0.0,0.060757714105364624,0.08966852287425355,0.08550329732291419,0.0,0.0,0.10585474195852433,0.0,0.11380449379671825,0.09576767700186148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165751134819956,0.0,0.3217093253428603,0.0,0.0,0.2467126582545276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158313697326416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319908119367625,0.0,0.0,0.07551157861460764,0.052229362124012566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136125538612911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066430144751926,0.0,0.07858894889422764,0.0,0.08245327217300387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218091711371728,0.11385247030393852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229556482156492,0.0,0.10747106703751462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169304236081876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732412139030652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897822756787284,0.0,0.0,0.1057337606641947,0.0,0.075669327752372,0.0,0.17075214315024276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204852633027726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870150014497565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258283822678263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820947459327619,0.06305652088569735,0.0,0.08575435016141028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782957224422271,0.0,0.0,0.07594366840391834,0.0,0.0,0.0